In the episode: Charles shares some of the realizations he's having after celebrating his 4-year anniversary with his wife. - The conversation centers around recognizing and giving credit to the will for growth that many of us miss out, and why this is so important no matter what you're committed to in life . - - CP brings us home as he encourages us to "embrace the sting" in life. T&F family, welcome to the Conversation.

Today we are talking about what keeps us from trusting the process and how we can overcome the obstacles that get in the way.P.S. Don't allow your pride mess up Grandma's pudding. Welcome to the Conversation.

We live in a world where we can be so quick to judge others, making it hard to navigate relationships with the people that frustrate us, but we believe that as we extend grace not only can we change things for others, but we too, will be changed.We need more grace.

We didn't title this episode the way we normally do because sometimes you have to do things different to get a point across. You won't remember what episode number this was. You won't remember that this was part 3 of our series on Standards and Expectations. You may not even remember what we talked about in this episode.Our hope is that you remember one thing, you matter.T&F Family, welcome to the Conversation.

In part 2 of our series we are getting practical and doing our best to walk through what setting standards and expectations actually looks like. We are answering the following questions:- Where do standards come from? - How do I implement standards and expectations?- How standards can change us (Coach Carter)Welcome to the Conversation.

Standards and expectations aren't the same thing, but for many of us we've never distinguished the difference between them in our lives. In this episode we're walking through why knowing the difference between them matters and bringing some clarity to how they are defined. This is part 1 of a 3-part series walking through standards and expectations so we're excited to dive in!For our T&F family this is going to be a game-changer. So lock in with us, and welcome to the Conversation.

Best friends are something we have all become familiar with one way or another. Whether we have them, used to have them, or just know people who have them we are aware of their importance. The question is, what makes these relationships so special? In this conversation, we talk about some important dynamics in best friendship and also shed some perspective on the unique approaches men and women take towards them. We're learning with you in this one, so we're glad you're here.Welcome to the Conversation.

In a culture and society that prioritizes productivity, its almost impossible not to get caught up with a desire to hurry. While this may give us temporary relief, hurrying almost never solves the problem we are facing. In fact, it often creates a mess we know we'll have to clean up later. This episode isn't a conversation on how to be more productive, but on why presence should be a top priority no matter where we are in our lives. Being present allows us to do things right, which we believe leads to true productivity bearing fruit to the progress we're looking for.Welcome to the conversation.

Monty Williams, coach of the Phoenix Suns was talking to his team after they had lost 3 straight games in the NBA finals. He knew they put themselves in a tough spot, but he affirmed the fact that this is exactly what each of them had signed up for.We all encounter "hard" moments that ignite a thought in us that we have a choice whether we deal with them, or walk away. It's human nature for us to look for comfort but this mindset is what causes many of us to live stagnated lives, while harming those that we refuse to work the situations with.In this episode, we want to talk through what we feel about approaching life with a "I don't have to deal with this" attitude, and redirect our thoughts to why we have every reason to deal with hard things. Welcome to the conversation and let's get to the other side of hard, together.

In part 3 of "We Are Not The Same" join us as we walk through the practical steps on how to navigate this dynamic, specifaclly as Thinkers and Feelers. Then we bring the series home as we get to the heart of all this as we pose the question, "What are you faithful to?" --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------There are few people who believe in the power of friendships and community more than we do. Having people to walk with and grow with, people that are there to celebrate our milestones, and endure life's biggest challenges. So what happens when someone you've grown with seems to have "fallen behind" and appears to have given up on that vision ya'll have established together? How do you deal with it?In this conversation we go deep into the dynamics of the friendships in our life that can frustrate us the most.Welcome to the Conversation, T&F Family.

In part 2 of "We Are Not The Same" join us as we have a story time walking through an example of two people who would't normally choose friendship come together for a purpose.--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------There are few people who believe in the power of friendships and community more than we do. Having people to walk with and grow with, people that are there to celebrate our milestones, and endure life's biggest challenges. So what happens when someone you've grown with seems to have "fallen behind" and appears to have given up on that vision ya'll have established together? How do you deal with it?In this conversation we go deep into the dynamics of the friendships in our life that can frustrate us the most.Welcome to the Conversation, T&F Family.

There are few people who believe in the power of friendships and community more than we do. Having people to walk with and grow with, people that are there to celebrate our milestones, and endure life's biggest challenges. So what happens when someone you've grown with seems to have "fallen behind" and appears to have given up on that vision ya'll have established together? How do you deal with it?In this conversation we go deep into the dynamics of the friendships in our life that can frustrate us the most.Welcome to the Conversation, T&F Family.

"The LORD had said to Abram, “Leave your native country, your relatives, and your father’s family, and go to the land that I will show you."  - Genesis 12:1One thing we've learned in our own development process is that we can't control the duration of it. True submission shows up when we're confronted with adversity that comes from the results not matching our expectation. In this episode we're talking about how showing our work can play a major role in moving forward.Welcome to the conversation, T&F Family.

Are you a filter or a vessel? So many of us are spending our time and energy trying to identify which things to not do or say, but we fail to realize that is just a product of who we are. As a feeler or thinker it is actually one of our greatest gifts. In this episode we help to identify the differences between the two but we hope you are much more like a vessel by the end.Stop questioning if what you have is a good enough and start to open up and let people receive the goodness you have in you.Welcome to the Conversation.

How we see ourselves is one of the most important things in how we conduct ourselves. So many of us are hoping to see a change in behavior without having a change in belief. Our hope for the T&F family is that we all find the sweet spot where we can be ourselves in every environment.This is one of those episodes you might want to run back a few times.Welcome to the Conversation.

Drake said, "Proof is in the progress" but we don't believe that's the only thing you'll find when you make progress. We also believe peace is something we can experience along the way. This conversation is less about productivity and much more about alignment. Our hope is that wherever you find yourself on your journey you will also find peace.Welcome to the Conversation.

As vaccines continue to roll out and the summer approaches, we wanted to talk about some of the things we've learned as a result of COVID19 as well as what we want to take with us moving forward. We also wanted to try something new and do a rapid fire Q&A where we give our perspective on different topics.Welcome to the conversation.

Many of us heard heard the Bible verse that talks about comparison being the thief of joy. Wait..but its actually not in the Bible? Nevertheless, that just shows how much truth there to the quote by the one and only Teddy Roosevelt. This episode is all about comparison. Charles and CP talk about how comparison can steal our joy but it can also be used as inspiration to fuel us forward. Welcome to the Conversation.

When we are met with life's storms, the survivor in us seems to find a way to make it through, holding onto whatever we can in the process. While we are grateful to have survived, it is common for us to become emotionally attached to the things that held us together. In today's episode we refer to these as our "anchors", because while they keep us safe in the storm, they can keep us stuck when we try to move forward.We will go through the following:1. Defining an "anchor"2. How anchors get attached and why they are hard to let go3. Why our goal is not to live anchor-less4. How to let go so you can move forward 5. The power of communityWelcome to the conversation.

How does a light coming on your dashboard make you feel about the health of your car? In the same way our emotions can make us feel stressed or anxious as well. In this episode Charles and CP talk about how we can stop allowing our emotions to be in the driver's seat. They aren't something to ignore, but they shouldn't be our primary influence.Welcome to the Conversation.

Even good things need restraint to be great.Join us as we talk through some of the things NOT to do as a feeler and thinker. As gifted as we may be, and as much as we desire to help others, we have to be sure not to make it about ourselves, even when we intend the opposite.Welcome to the Conversation.

Why do we lie to ourselves? Unfortunately there are many reasons and motivations, most of which are rooted in our insecurities and the desire to present ourselves as different than we are. We want to protect ourselves from fully realizing the truth. We have to see how much harm this can do as we drag the weight of our lies around, keeping us bound to the false self.It's time to get free.

Today's conversation is all about defining what a feeler, thinker, and doer is and how they all tie together.

About a month ago, there was a viral video from the I am athlete podcast where they were talking what type of woman does a man need to be successful. They all mentioned things like her being independent, willing to challenge you, and someone who is strong on their own who can make you stronger together.So Charles and I saw it and immediately thought of his wife Lindsay. Lindsay is someone embodies all of those traits and more so we knew she was the perfect guest. Topics like these are never one size fits all so I encourage you to approach it with an open mind. Whether you’re single, dating, or married I believe this will better inform your approach to relationships.Thank yall for being here and welcome to the conversation.

People pleasing is a gift and a curse. Who knew it could feel so good to put other people before ourselves. Wait..what's the difference between serving and people pleasing? Why do we people please? How can I learn to put myself first?In this episode, we're getting into all of that. Learning what people pleasing is, can be the first step to overcoming it. We've both struggled with this in the past, but it always ended with us making a fool of ourselves. Take this journey with us so you can find freedom and see how self-love actually better equips you to care for others.Welcome to the Conversation.

There's something about eating a salad with no dressing that just makes sense. You won't catch us doing that, but it truly is the best way to get the most benefit. The reason for that is because of something called "empty calories". Empty calories come in the form of a whole bunch of things that taste good, but have no nutritional value. In this episode we're taking a dive into our personal lives and how we can find the empty calories that weighing us down (no pun intended).Welcome to the conversation.

I'm sure you have either heard or used the phrase, "trust the process". This week we will be clarifying what that means so it can go from a cliché to a personal declaration.

For those who have too many gifts or interests and don't know what to decide, this one's for you.Welcome to the Conversation.

As easy as it is to talk about change, making it happen so much more difficult. When it comes to it, the things we have to give up can look massive relative what we believe will gain. Our challenge in this episode is this, don't be afraid to count the cost. Welcome to the conversation.- CP

What do you think of when you hear accountability? For a lot of us it sounds like someone telling us what to do or not to do. Maybe it sounds like a personal parole officer. Based on that, it's not something any of us would be interesting in.Accountability isn't meant to be a limitation, but a tool that can help us exceed the limits we have on our own. A good accountability relationship can help us reach our potential by keeping us aligned with who we want to be and what we say we want to do.When Charles and I did our 40-day plan, a simple morning phone call was the thing that kept us going, and this podcast is a product of that process. We hope after listening, you'll have a fresh approach and better idea of  how accountability can help you do the very things you haven't been able to do on your own power.Welcome to the Conversation.- CP

We all have an innate desire to enjoy our work and theres nothing wrong with wanting to feel good about what we do. But for a lot of us, the minute we begin to experience dissatisfaction, we either move on to something else or continue with our heart half invested. Either way, we remain stuck, frustrated, and feeling pessimistic about our future.What if feeling good came after getting good? In this conversation, Charles and I walk through our framework to finding the work you enjoy. The truth is, the road isn't a straight line and the destination isn't a single point, but the alignment of several.  We hope that after walking through this you'll have fresh perspective and energy to pursue the path for yourself.Thank you for joining the conversation.- CP

2020 has been a year none of us will never forget. We've lost people too soon, embraced life inside of our homes, and our days as  we once knew them are no more. As hard as it has been to endure, I can't help but be thankful that we've been embraced this together. We will never be same.In this conversation, Charles and CP walk through what finding purpose looks like in one of the hardest years yet and encourage us all that there is meaning in 2020. If you have been tempted to look to 2021, we hope this is an opportunity to see it from a different light.Welcome to the conversation.

Finding your purpose, and truly living in it can be a lifelong pursuit for most of us. CP and Charles go into some practical steps on how to find purpose in your life, providing examples with how they have found theirs.Welcome to the conversation.

Sometimes we feel like we’re doing all the right things but we’re just not seeing the results we hope for. In these moments it’s easy to throw in the towel and try something else, but we believe you’re right where you’re supposed to be. In this episode we talk about how we can kill these false expectations and turn our growth into success.We know it can be hard, but don’t give up. Thanks for joining the conversation.

This is one of our favorite things to talk about. Finding our purpose in life is such a challenge but it is absolutely not something we should go at alone. Thanks for joining the conversation!

Often times the natural place to process the world around us is our own heads. In this episode, we talk about the benefits of establishing trust in your friendships to help guide you as we make decisions and continue on our journey of growth.Enjoy!

This one is past due...but is as relevant as ever.We're packing some New Year's energy into the middle of February to get ourselves recharged and refocused on our goals. Take a listen! 

Everybody has been asking us the same question, “Where is the podcast?”In this episode we answer this question and talk about the importance of remember why we start things. We felt our motivation for doing the podcast had changed and that led us to to quit altogether.Are you tired of starting and stopping things? We are too. Follow Charles and Christian on Instagram:@charlesalexandert  @growwithcp

In this episode we talk with Jacob Nunn, an aspiring filmmaker who lets us in on his creative process and his fight to put out content. If you've ever doubted yourself, this is a must-listen.

Sometimes the worst decision we can make is no decision. Join the conversation as we talk about how commitment unlocks growth in our relationships, careers, and chasing our dreams.

"Am I good enough?" is a question we ask ourselves daily. We tackle this head on as we discuss achieving your goals, defining your "win", and being undeniable.Welcome to the conversation.

How do you want to be remembered?That's a question we all have to live with. Or is it? Join the conversation as John Lewis sits at the table and we talk about our definitions of legacy and share some stories that have shaped them.

We all have days, weeks, and sometimes years where we feel like we're in a funk. We go through the motions and don't know how to stop each day from running into the next. Carlos Mendez sits at the table and we talk about the routines and rhythms in our lives that allow us to stop the bleeding, and get back on a track.We also cover some common struggles such as knowing when and how to adjust your relationship with certain people rather than simply cutting them off because they don't serve you how you like.Welcome to the conversation, we hope you enjoy!

In this episode, Debbie Ortega joins Charles and CP in the conversation and it gets DEEP. They talk about some personal topics such as setting personal boundaries, taking care of your mental health, and some of Debbie's faith journey.On the practical side, Charles and CP give their best tips on how to establish connections with people you want to work with, even if you're broke!