We all grapple with an inner critic, incessantly whispering that we're not good enough or worthy of success and love, fostering a cycle of self-criticism. What if we could tame this relentless voice, breaking free from its grip and embracing our authentic selves? The good news is, we can. In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Neal Allen, the author of Better Days: Tame Your Inner Critic. Neal takes us on an enlightening journey exploring the human psyche and the often-ignored superego. He shares his expertise on how the inner critic develops, its intentions, its impact on our lives, and fantastic strategies for recognizing and dealing with it. Taming the inner critic isn't just about finding peace; it's a path towards something more profound, something spiritual.  We unpack: How to recognize and address the inner critic's impact on our lives The role of compassion in understanding the inner critic  The paradox of perfection and productivity The "Peter Pan Kid" analogy The connection between releasing the inner critic and experiencing moments of grace and divine presence Make sure to visit Neal Allen's website to learn more about the great work he does. You can connect with him on social media too, like Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter(X) for updates. If you want to improve yourself and conquer that negative voice inside you, you should definitely read his amazing book "Better Days: Tame Your Inner Critic.  Make sure to visit my website to check out my books on love, sex and relationships and explore my available courses. Tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever found yourself caught in the complicated dance of self-sabotage, where the haunting echoes of past trauma manifest as destructive behavior, over using substances and withdrawal from the world? In this Language of Love Session, Pamela opens up about her struggles with self-sabotaging behavior and past trauma, including excessive drinking and withdrawing from people due to past abuse. In this episode, we’re diving into: Maintaining self-love and overcoming self-sabotaging behavior The impact of past trauma on self-perception and behavior The importance of acknowledging and speaking about past trauma  The role of somatic experiencing therapy in healing trauma  The physical symptoms and coping mechanisms associated with unresolved trauma  Finding peace, love, and happiness within oneself Remember, the journey toward self-love and healing is a continuous process, but with the right tools and support, it is indeed possible. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you tired of hearing the same old advice about love and dating? Are you finding it difficult to navigate the dating world, or finding love in a world of swipes, catfishing and ghosting?  If you are looking for love and want some advice that will change your whole dating game for the better, tune into this episode of Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Damona Hoffman, a celebrity dating coach and author of "F the Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story". In our conversation, we debunk the common myths about love and dating and how these misconceptions can hinder the process of finding love.  We talk about: The common myths and misconceptions about finding love Understanding the concept of "butterflies" in relationships The importance of curiosity and attraction in dating Mindful dating and finding partners on a similar level of awareness Exploring different avenues for dating, including online dating, setups, and communities For more insights and advice from Damona, check out her podcast, Dates and Mates, and her book, F the Fairy Tale, which offers hope and actionable advice for navigating the challenges of modern dating. You can find more information about her book and testimonials from satisfied readers on her website, damonahoffman.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let’s dive into a topic that many couples can relate to: bringing back that spark when sex starts to feel predictable. We all know that at the beginning of a relationship, everything is new and exciting. But as time goes on, it's natural for things to become a bit routine. So, how can we inject some much-needed excitement back into the bedroom?  It's all about shifting our mindset and energy during intimate moments. It's about being fully present, letting go of any distractions or worries, and truly immersing ourselves in the experience. When we approach sex with this kind of intention and focus, it can lead to mind-blowing connections and experiences. And with a little effort and creativity, you can reignite that fire and create a passionate and fulfilling sex life with your partner. Listen in for some of my tips that you can try out with your partner! Check out my Seven Days to Better Sex program! It’s a fantastic resource that provides you with practical tools and exercises to help you reconnect on a deeper level, perfect for couples who want to reignite their passion and take their sex life to the next level.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every one of us has experienced loss at some point, whether it is the loss of a loved one, a relationship you thought would last forever, a pet, or even a job. Loss is inevitable, and with loss comes grief. Grieving is one of the hardest and quite honestly, most misunderstood parts of life. But here’s the thing, when you find the strength to work through the process, a new more powerful version of yourself emerges.  On this episode of The Language of Love, I sat down with Barri Leiner Grant. Barri is the Founder of The Memory Circle, an organization that helps those who have lost a loved one through the power of writing. We discuss the healing power of writing and the role it plays in helping us move to the next phase of life. If you’ve lost someone and find yourself mired in the muck of grief, unsure of how to move forward, pick up a pen and pad and listen as Barri shows us how to write your way through it!  In this episode, we’ll discuss: Grief is not just limited to the loss of a loved one or family member.  Embracing the ways that loss can define and redfine you.  Make time for and be willing to tend to your grief garden. The power of words to help heal us.  Resources and Links Dr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Barri Leiner Grant The Memory Circle - Website The Memory Circle - Instagram The Memory Circle - Facebook About Barri Leiner Grant  Barri Leiner Grant is a certified grief coach (ICF) and founder of The Memory Circle. Born from a desire to make the grief cycle a shared experience, The Memory Circle is a place to gather, remember, and celebrate those we lost and love. As a coach, Barri helps facilitate and explore ways to remember and reflect on loss in both one-on-one sessions and grief support groups. Her passion for helping others share their grief stories became a personal mission when her mother, Ellen Jane died of a brain aneurism in 1993 at just 50 years old. Barri also works with firms of all sizes to develop best practices and policies around bereavement leave and employee grief support. 1. CONNECTING Automatic writing prompt:  Get quiet and ask... What would you have me know?  Allow the words to pass through you to the page.  2. DELIGHTS  Create a journal of delights. Prompted by The Book of Delights by Ross Gay  At the end of the day, write down 10 things that have delighted you.  The Book of Delights, by Ross Gay https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-book-of-delights-essays-ross-gay/12566058?ean=9781616207922 3. Adapted from Julia Cameron’s morning pages.  MOURNING PAGES Three long hand pages upon waking.  The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron  https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-artist-s-way-30th-anniversary-edition-julia-cameron/6665657?ean=9780143129257 4. The Quad Exercise as share by memoirist Dani Shapiro Divide the paper in four with a big plus sign... Upper left quadrant.  Seven things you saw. Upper right quadrant: Seven things you did. Lower left One thing you heard. Lower right And a doodle that represents the day.  Dani Shapiro’s Slow Motion https://bookshop.org/p/books/slow-motion-a-memoir-of-a-life-rescued-by-tragedy-dani-shapiro/9024419?ean=9780061826696 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trust is an essential part of loving someone. Once it’s gone, once that trust has been breached, it can be hard to regain. In some instances, losing trust in a partner can spill over into your future relationships. When this happens, finding love, the kind of love where you and your partner can flourish and grow becomes difficult to attain.  On this Language of Love Bite, we’ll discuss the issue of trust, how it can conjure up old wounds and the importance of getting to the root of a betrayal. Falling in love is a wonderful thing, but trusting the one you love makes it all the more incredible. If you’ve been betrayed and find yourself looking to put the pieces together and want to start down the path of trusting and loving again, this episode is for you! In this episode, we’ll discuss: Why we tend not to want to lose whoever it is we fall in love with A past that is filled with abandonment and the role it plays in love and trust How to rebuild trust once it’s been broken The importance of understanding and healing the why behind the breach Why rebuilding trust is a team effort Resources and Links Dr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if I told you that living inside of each one of us is the ability to create pure magic? I’m not talking about pulling rabbits out of hats or making people dissapear; I’m talking about the kind of magic that allows you to heal from past traumas and live the abundant life you’ve always hoped for! This week on the Language of Love, I welcome David Lion. David is a hypnotist and magician who has mastered the art of healing and manifestation. Today, David and I will dig deep to help you unlock the door that leads to your magic. We’ll also spend time discussing some personal challenges I have been facing as he offers valuable insights that can help you too deal with your past and help lay a foundation for your incredible future! In this episode you’ll learn: How to build a two-way co-creative relationship with spirit The value of parents who support magic in their children  The balance of not losing who you truly are as you try to become who you think want to be The multiple ways authenticity can the door to connection The two stations each of us has in our consciousness and how to access them in service to magic  Resources and Links Dr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  David Lion  David Lion – Living Magic David Lion – Instagram David Lion – Facebook David Lion – Linkedin About David Lion  David Lion is a renowned hypnotist who is passionate about helping others find the clarity they need to live life to the fullest. He offers direction and guidance that speaks to the heart and resonates deeply within your soul. From energy healing to spiritual guidance, he truly believes that there is magic living inside of each of us and that impossible is simply a mindset waiting to be changed.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Loss in life comes in a lot of different shapes, sizes, and forms and each one of us will experience multiple losses over a lifetime. And how we process those losses makes all the difference.  In this Language of Love Session, I get into the loss of the empty nest, when our children leave home. I spend time with Charisse, who is facing the loss of her youngest as he prepares to go to college. She’s struggling as it is, but also feeling pulled deeper into grief because this loss is triggering old losses that are now coming to the surface. We get into the complexities of the “empty nest,” how to navigate the complexities of that loss, and what to do when old losses are triggering and complicating new ones.  In this episode you’ll learn: Understanding loss in whatever way it manifests How new losses can trigger old ones How to transition as our children leave home, remaining their parent, but also learning how to become their friend. Dr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Charise Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Men and women aren’t alike. This statement sounds simple enough, but for far too long, women have been asked to live, work, and grow in a world that is set up for men. The truth is throughout the month a woman’s hormonal cycle is changing in very subtle ways that impact her energy, focus and mood. This isn’t a bad thing at all. But when we learn to work with our hormonal cycles, life gets so much easier and much more productive.  In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Kayla Osterhoff, a renowned Neuropsychophysiologist who understands the importance of recognizing the unique needs of a woman and her body. She has dedicated her life to helping women to get in touch with themselves, manage the various physiological phases, and unleash the power each stage offers. If you’re a woman or someone who loves one, this episode will inspire you to make some small changes that make a huge difference! In this episode, we’ll discuss: The importance of understanding your body’s biorhythm The four phases of physiological shifting.  Why PMS is actually a symptom of being out of alignment with your biorhythm. How to hack your biorhythm for more consistent peace, power, and productivity.  Resources and Links Dr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Kayla Osterhoff Her Biorhythm – Website Kayla Osterhoff – Instagram Kayla Osterhoff – Facebook Kayla Osterhoff - Linkedin About Kayla Osterhoff Kayla Osterhoff is a globally recognized women’s health expert, lauded for her groundbreaking research and insights. She is dedicated to helping women the world over to get in touch with their bodies and teach them how to manage the various phases. Her innovative, forward-thinking approach has been throughout the world and resonates with females of all generations and stages of life Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Friends with benefits…it’s common in our dating vernacular now. A friendship where sex happens and no commitment beyond friendship. It can seem modern and cool and a great idea.  But I find in most cases, one person is benefiting while the other person is (probably secretly) hoping it’ll turn into more.   On this Language of Love Bite I discuss the hidden costs of being a friend with benefits and why it may not be as beneficial as it appears to be on the surface. Intimacy is one of life’s most pleasurable experiences and one we all deserve. But when the clothes come off, the lines can often become blurred. There are so many things to consider before embarking on this kind of relationship journey … So let's talk about it! Resources and Links Dr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fathers play such an important role in the life of all children, but especially their daughters. Whether he knows it or not, how a father treats his daughter determines if she’s fortified and ready to take on the world, or carrying unhealed wounds affecting all areas of her life as an adult. If your relationship with your father was lacking, less than ideal or has left you wounded, it’s time to start healing. In this Language of Love Bite, I discuss the father wound and how it can impact a woman, her relationships and life choices. It doesn’t have to have been an abusive relationship. A fathers’ neglect, criticism, indifference or abandonment can also create trauma that all too often goes unaddressed. I’ll also cover the signs of a father wound, and how you can recognize them. Lastly, I’ll help you begin walking down the path toward healing, leading to you becoming the best version of yourself! In this episode you’ll learn: Why parent (in particular father) relationships are the foundation for life relationships How healing begins with recognition but doesn’t always lead to rejection or confrontation How to learn to stand by your truth and not be afraid to re-parent yourself Resources and Links Dr. Laura Berman Language of Love Podcast Laura Berman Instagram – Dr Laura Berman Facebook – Dr Laura Berman Youtube.com – Dr Laura Berman  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sex … it gets easy with marriage, right? In a perfect world, this is how things work, but our world is far from perfect, and those imperfections often follow us into the bedroom. As much as we’d like to think otherwise, when you “put a ring on it” you won’t necessarily spontaneously release any predisposed inhibitions you have around sex. This week, our Language of Love Session dives into this topic with a listener who is ready, willing, but unable to enjoy sex with her husband due to core inhibitions she didn’t realize she was still carrying. I help her get to the root of her aversion to being sexual and share insights and tools that will get her and her sex life back on track.  In today’s episode you will learn: How to find the missing piece of your sex life.  How to come back to your body and stay there for true intimacy and pleasure. When and how outside help can make all the difference Ways to make intimacy feel safe. How to build a better sex life without making sex feel like work.  Sex is one of the most pleasurable experiences life has to offer. If you find yourself stranded at a bedroom impasse, the good news is that help is available.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever found yourself bending over backward to please others and losing sight of your own needs and desires? Anna Kloots, bestselling author and content creator, is joining me today during Language of Love’s conversation to discuss how you can cultivate your inner relationship with a fear of the unknown, the beautiful process, and finding your own magic. She talks about how to thrive in unknown scenarios and create new comfort zones. Anna's journey of self-discovery and self-love is a true testament to the power of resilience and hope. She sheds light on the idea that the problems we experience in love aren’t about giving away too much of ourselves to someone, but about not knowing our true worth and thus giving it to the wrong people who can’t or won’t reciprocate.  Listen in as Anna shares the lessons she’s learned through her own journey of heartbreak that woke her up, led her back to her own magic, and allowed her to manifest the beautiful life and love of her dreams.  If you’ve been struggling to claim your worth or take that big leap your soul is calling you to make, this episode will inspire you to go for it all.  Visit Anna’s website, and check out her upcoming book My Own Magic: A Reappearing Act releasing May 16th, and follow her to check out the amazing journeys she’s on. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week on Language of Love Conversation, I am joined by my friend and Clairvoyant Healer, Bobbi Vogel and our conversation goes deep! I am very excited to share her wisdom on the Language of Love. Listen in as Bobbi tells of the near death experience that was the catalyst of her awakening. She shares the secrets she’s discovered for building Faith as a path to healing the body and mind. And we even take some of your questions live, on the topic of faith, connecting with our deepest selves and unlocking our fullest potential.    Learn more about Bobbi on her Instagram page or website, Etheric Medicine. Visit my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of the biggest bedroom complaints I get from couples is around closing what I call the Orgasm Gap. It takes the average man seven and a half minutes to get there and the average woman 20! On this week's Language of Love bite, we are packing into 10 minutes everything you need to know about sex, orgasms, and how to close the gap so you can both get the pleasure you deserve. Whether you are a man or woman, young or mature, single or in a relationship, you are going to love this one.  From practical tips that you can implement immediately to specific products that you can use that actually work, we are closing the orgasm gap today and it’s all happening on this week’s Language of Love Bite. Be sure to listen in and share with someone you love! Visit my website and check out my books on love, sex and relationships. Be sure to tune in regularly to The Language of Love for great discussions and thought-provoking conversations with accomplished individuals and experts offering invaluable advice on how to love and be loved better.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you been experiencing mysterious and unexplained physical, mental, and emotional symptoms over the past few years? Have you gone to doctors and specialists who, perhaps along with family and friends, are telling you it’s all in your head? Have you heard of Ascension Syndrome? In this Language of Love Bite, I’m giving you some answers that will help it all make sense. Ascension Syndrome is impacting all of us.  I am so fascinated by Ascension Syndrome and want to help as many people as possible understand what’s happening in the world right now. So, In this Love Bite, I share what I learned through my research for my new eBook, You're Not Crazy, You’re Just Ascending, a guidebook where I share advice from renowned experts, guided meditations, and other tools to help you stay centered in this mass awakening. In this episode you’ll learn:  -what ascension is, how it’s impacting you and why this is actually a magical time -why spending time in nature is so beneficial and helps keep your mood and body healthy - simple ways you can keep your own energetic frequency at a higher level to create more ease in the chaos. .   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode of “The Language of Love,” I sit down with Stephanie Arnold. Stephanie has an incredibly powerful story which she shared in her international bestseller, “37 Seconds: Dying Revealed Heaven’s Help—A Mother’s Journey.” The title of the book comes from Stephanie’s real-life experience in which she died for 37 seconds. That’s right: She died and came back to life, and what she learned in those 37 seconds is so unforgettably powerful. I am so honored to speak with her today and learn what dying taught her, and I think you will find it to be so uplifting and informative. You will learn about: • The truth about your ‘sixth sense’ and how it can save your life • What scientists, medical experts, and philosophers have learned from studying clinical death (a.k.a. ‘near-death experiences’) • Stephanie’s premonition that she was going to die, and how she learned to advocate for herself after her fears were not taken seriously by her medical team • What Stephanie saw and heard when she died • How you can key into your sixth sense and tap into your divine intuition Stephanie’s story is so important for all of us to hear, especially those of us who have trusting our own truths and advocating for own safety. Learning how to apply this wisdom may end up literally saving your own life, but also help you learn how to deeply connect with the powerful source within you and make your days more meaningful and magical. Listen now and share your thoughts with me--I love to hear from my listeners! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I am so excited about today’s episode! I finally got to sit down and interview Cheryl Strayed, one of my favorite authors and a true inspiration for so many. Cheryl, of course, is the NYT best-selling author of “Wild,” which was later made into a beautiful Oscar-nominated movie. Cheryl and I have known each other for years, and I have always been a massive fan of her work. Cheryl has a hilarious anecdote about the first time we met, which you will have to listen to the episode to hear, but let me just say, it ends with Cheryl asking me: “Laura, do I make you sick?” HA! Not at all, girl. This led us to talking about your “ITS”! This is Cheryl’s name for your “inner terrible someone,” that voice in your head that always offers up the cruelest self-criticism and narrates the worst possible version of scenarios. Sadly, we all have that “inner terrible someone” who is quick to heap on the shame, doubt, fear and self-loathing that keeps us from accessing our true worthiness and our true mission here. On this episode you will learn: • How Cheryl silences her inner critic when she’s writing and creating, and how other creative folks can use her wisdom to welcome their inner critics without fear • How to access the wise, true, loving voice inside of yourself (yes, I promise, it is there! And it is longing to be heard and listened to by you) • How we can heal from our negative thoughts while realizing that our “inner terrible someone” can also be a catalyst for growth and curiosity about ourselves • How you can learn to love fear instead of repelling it, and how our “ITS” are a valuable way to connect with other people Take a listen to this very special episode and let me know what you think! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman sits down for an intimate talk with Justin Baldoni, best known for his role as Rafael Solano on “Jane the Virgin.” Baldoni is also a director (“Five Feet Apart” and “Clouds”) and a podcaster (listen to “The Man Enough” podcast here). Solano is also the author of “Man Enough: Undefining My Masculinity,” an engaging and daring exploration into what it means to be a ‘man’ in today’s society, and how we are failing boys and men in many ways. On this episode, you will learn: • Why the term ‘toxic masculinity’ can be harmful • How the definition of manhood has shifted in the last few decades, leaving many men struggling to find role models or clear examples of the kind of man they want to be • How dangerous gender roles can be when it comes to young boys who are encouraged to never cry or ask for help • How we can create gender equality without demonizing men or masculinity • How you can find your own definition for masculinity • Why women seem to be attracted to a certain type of masculinity, and how we can reconfigure our desires so that we don’t always go for the ‘bad boys’ Check out Justin Baldoni’s Man Enough book here, and keep an eye out for his new guide for middle-schoolers which will be published soon! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of “The Language of Love,” Dr. Laura Berman talks about how Covid has changed the way we date and the way we connect the people around us. Now that Covid sanctions are lifting in many places and we are almost entering a ‘post-pandemic’ lifestyle, Dr. Berman has great advice for anyone looking to heal and to find love after a long, lonely 2 years of isolation. On this episode you will learn: • How the pandemic has changed us on a deep level, even if we are not fully aware of it • How the hidden blessing of the pandemic was that it led people to find what wasn’t working in their life (whether it was their job, their marriage, etc.) and led them to branch out in new and exciting ways • How many people are dealing with emotional and physical changes related to the pandemic, and how we can lean into that discomfort and learn from our experiences • How the pandemic also led many of us to fear human touch and companionship, leaving many people “touch-starved” and longing for cuddling and affection • How you date again in a post-Covid world without forgetting all the important lessons you learned during the pandemic Listen now for Dr. Berman’s timely advice about love in the time of Covid. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices