In this episode we speak with sex educator and pleasure coach, Whitni Miller, about her work, the female orgasm and how we can be more in control of our pleasure. Whitni introduces us to the importance of breathing  during sex, specifically belly breathing, a technique that focuses on relaxing the pelvic and belly area while allowing the rest of the bodies muscles to engage. The results are a deeper longer orgasm.Whitni's education empowers us to take our orgasm experience into our own hands. As she spoke she dispelled popular myths about orgasm, vulva's and sex that have held so many of us back from truly understanding and enjoying our selves. It's through education that we feel confident in advocating for our pleasure with partners. Whitni speaks about various sex toys and sex education books she recommends. All are listed below. She is on a mission to normalize discussing sex openly with a vision of creating small containers for those interested in learning and sharing experiences with others. Curiosity is key to our self exploration which Whitni believes 100% is ours to initiate. From understanding which sex toys to use to how to help our minds reframe oral sex, Whitni candidly breaks down how we can really begin to move from performative sex to truly pleasure based sex, from passive bystander to active participant. All of Whitni's contact information, upcoming events and recommendations are listed below. To learn more from Whitni go here:Tiktok InstagramCoaching and EventsSex Toys mentioned in the episode: Hitachi Magic WandSatisfyer ProBooks mentioned in the episode:Betty Dawson - Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving Sella Reznik - Body to Body Intimacy

In this episode we speak with relationship expert, author and coach Chantal Heide about losing our sense of self worth in relationships.  Chantal was a stripper for 20 years and in that time she became very good at listening to her customers complain about their relationships. She studied what they were missing and began sharing her point of view. Chantal was even able to save a few marriages with her ability to see the big picture that her customers often were missing. She also happened to have met her husband of 17years  while at work one night. She attributes her years of listening to what wasn't working from her customers as part of what helped her understand what she did in fact want to see in her own relationship. As a result she and her partner boast having had minimal fights in their time together. The author of 13 books on relationships and dating, Chantal is passionate about helping all people but women in particular find the partner they're looking for. One dating rule she will die on the hill for? No kissing for 3 months while dating! Her reasoning while fascinating makes complete sense. I look forward to you listening to Chantal and gaining some important insight into the dynamics of dating and relationships. All of Chantals 's contact information listed below. https://www.canadasdatingcoach.com/TikTok

In this episode we speak with Aja Fiyah,is a  Spiritual Leader,  Medicine Woman, Healer, Herbalist that was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. The diagnosis sparked her desire to help individuals with their spiritual wellness journey through herbal medicines and holistic practices. While she doesn't dismiss Western medicine, she feels that knowledge is power. The more people know about alternate modes of healing and medicine the more empowered they feel to advocate for their own health. Through her love for crafting body care products, herbal medicines and helping individuals to awaken to their full potential, it is her goal to get individuals excited about their spiritual  wellness journey.   While Aja is healer for all people she has a deep passion for healing women and men in the Black Community.  I first saw a video with Aja holding a woman who was sobbing deeply into her embrace. This one simple act moved me to tears. Aja, was attentive, motherly and fully present to this woman's pain and as a result she was able to allow herself to be that vulnerable. Aja's work isn't just for women though. She has begun to see more men come to her for healing as well. Many Black men in particular have long been denied the ability to feel vulnerable within their own bodies as it conflicts directly with the image of the masculine bravado or strong Black Male figure. The same for many Black Women who have grown weary of the term 'strong Black woman'. In either case the sentiment being that there leaves no room for Black People to feel safe, accepted and worthy in their vulnerability. Aja Fiyah's purpose is to let the people in her community and beyond know that their vulnerability is a gift and one she is devoted to helping them reconnect to through her healing work and teachings. To learn more about Aja Fiyah go here:https://www.bodispawellnessco.com/aboutTikTokInstagram

WARNING: Gun Violence is discussedAt  21 years old Nurjahan Boulden was shot by a gunmen in nightclub.  The man next to her died and another bullet had shattered her tibia, Nurjahan lived with the  psychological scars long after the physical ones had healed. For years after she almost lost her life, the bullet came dangerously close to an artery, she suffered from survivors guilt, anxiety and fear. The body knows more than we give it credit for and durning this time Nurjahan had all but stopped dancing. Before her traumatic incident she was teaching belly dance, something she had grown up doing with the women in her family as part of her Tanzanian heritage. It wasn't until Nurjahan was at a spiritual retreat for women that she was able to heal the trauma that held her body hostage.  With the gentle hands of the women placed upon her, she was finally able to release the fear and shame she had carried for so long.  Since then Nurjahan returned to dancing and teaching belly dance. She bravely shares her survivor story and the healing power of dance in the company of women.  To follow and learn more about Nurjahan Boulden you can find her here:https://www.nurjahanboulden.com/TikTokInstagram