Do you sometimes feel like your life has been hijacked by Autism? If so, this is the podcast for you. The Autism Mom Coach is a podcast for moms who feel overwhelmed, afraid, and sometimes powerless as they raise their child with Autism. Join your host, Lisa Candera, Certified Life Coach, lawyer, and (more importantly) full-time single mom to a teenage boy with Autism as she shares cognitive-based tools and trauma-informed strategies you can use to feel better now and transform your relationship with Autism and special needs parenting. The truth is, Autism is not in charge of your life, YOU are, and you have more power than you think. Visit theautismmomcoach.com for more information
103. Coaching v Therapy with Allison
Allison is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, but she decided to turn to coaching with me when she found herself in a cycle of meltdowns and feeling guilt and shame about her reactions to her teenage daughter with Autism. This conversation is packed with fantastic insights into the differences between therapy and coaching and serves as the perfect real-world example of why coaching with someone who understands your lived experience is undeniably powerful.Discover why you might consider coaching over therapy, and learn how coaching and therapy can work in tandem on your journey as an Autism parent.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/103
2/21/2024 • 41 minutes, 24 seconds
102. Someone Who Understands: The Power of Coaching for Autism Moms
Discover my five favorite things about working with a coach who truly gets your lived experience as an Autism parent. I’m sharing the progress coaching allowed me to make in my life, and you’ll learn why you should consider coaching as a way to achieve your personal development goals as the parent of a child with Autism.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/102
2/14/2024 • 18 minutes, 36 seconds
101. Resilient Autism Mom Program
In a webinar last week, I introduced my new 1:1 program called the Resilient Autism Mom Program, created to empower you to take control of your Autism parenting experience in only 90 days. Today, I dive into the details of my new program, go over its components, and discuss the creative process behind its development. I am so excited to tell you more about this program so you can become an even more Resilient Autism Mom!Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/101
2/7/2024 • 12 minutes, 27 seconds
100. Lessons from Rock Bottom
Find out why being at rock bottom is an amazing opportunity, despite how it feels, and how to see it as such. I share what I’ve learned about rock bottom, how I was able to evaluate some of the darkest times in my life to find a way forward, and how you can too.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/100
1/31/2024 • 9 minutes, 44 seconds
99. Life Out Loud with Carrie Cariello
In part two of my conversation with author Carrie Cariello, we’re exploring her upcoming book coming out in 2025, Life Out Loud, which is a collaboration with two other Autism moms, Kate Swenson and Adrian Wood. Carrie shares the impact finding a community of other Autism moms has had on her life, and how Life Out Loud came to be. She is giving us a sneak peek into what you can expect from this book, and what she hopes Autism moms gain from reading three very different parenting experiences. Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/99
1/24/2024 • 13 minutes, 44 seconds
98. Parenting and Puberty with Carrie Cariello
Carrie Cariello is a wife and mother of five children, whose second eldest child, Jack, is on the Autism spectrum. Hear Carrie’s insights on parenting and puberty as an Autism mom, and how she's navigating the untethering of the mom-child relationship. We discuss what it was like for her to be a young mother of a child with Autism, why letting your child fly on their own feels hard, and explore what she has found to be the most rewarding and challenging aspects of this particular stage of life she's currently in.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/98
1/17/2024 • 46 minutes, 32 seconds
97. What’s New and What to Expect in 2024
The Autism parent experience is filled with making hard decisions, managing feelings of uncertainty, anxiety, grief, and resentment, and generally being hyper-focused on our child and making everything right for them. What I’ve learned is that we need to shift from this state to one of focusing on ourselves. We’ve all heard the oxygen mask analogy, but none of us really believe it. Autism moms everywhere have sacrificed our mental, emotional, and physical health to help our kids get through the day, and I’m sharing the work I’m doing this year to guide you in 2024.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/97
1/10/2024 • 14 minutes, 48 seconds
96. How We Make Parenting Harder on Ourselves (MVP)
Discover how we make parenting difficult for ourselves. I’m discussing why Autism isn’t a problem that needs solving, how to identify the thoughts that are making your job as a parent even harder, and I’m giving you a simple tool to make parenting a happier, more confident, and peaceful experience for you and your child.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/96
1/3/2024 • 15 minutes, 21 seconds
95. How to Not Lose Your Mind over Winter Break
Tune in this week for my tips for dealing with the added stress of having your child home for winter break. I’m giving you five ways to bring some much-needed structure to winter break, tips for grounding yourself during stressful moments, and showing you how to lighten your load where possible.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/95
12/27/2023 • 9 minutes, 40 seconds
94. The Most Triggering Time of the Year
Discover how to deal with the most triggering time of the year. I’m sharing some simple strategies to help you bring more ease to the Holiday Season. Learn why bracing yourself isn’t enough, and how you can properly prepare for the difficult emotions that come up at this time of year.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/94
12/20/2023 • 12 minutes, 3 seconds
93. Subscribe, Unsubscribe
Discover how to start being more discerning about what you let into your field of vision. I’m sharing how your brain reacts to social media, why it makes you feel good one minute and terrible the next, and most importantly, learn how to be ruthless in curating not only your social media experience, but your experience of real life too.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/93
12/13/2023 • 13 minutes, 20 seconds
92. Letting Your Heart Break
Discover why the most powerful thing you can do as an Autism mom is let your heart break. I’m discussing why heartbreak is inevitable when you’re the parent of a child with Autism and showing you how to set your heart break instead of adding resistance to your long list of challenges.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/92
12/6/2023 • 7 minutes, 54 seconds
91. Processing an Autism Diagnosis
Join us on this episode to hear my former client and friend Julia’s experience of advocating for her children and the grief she’s feeling about her role as an Autism mom. She’s offering her journey of working with doctors, the news she’s processing right now, and how coaching has given her the tools she needs to support herself on this journey.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/91
11/29/2023 • 39 minutes, 14 seconds
90. Gratitude Masking
Tune in this week to learn what gratitude masking is and how to stop it. I'm showing you where gratitude masking might be coming up for you as the parent of a child with Autism, and you'll learn how to stop weaponizing gratitude against yourself.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/90
11/22/2023 • 19 minutes, 21 seconds
89. The R Word
Join me this week to discover how to navigate resentment as it relates to your child with Autism. Hear how you’re not alone or wrong for experiencing this, how you might be unconsciously choosing to stay resentful, and the antidotes that will help you acknowledge and validate your experience. Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/89
11/15/2023 • 10 minutes, 38 seconds
88. The Second Arrow
Join me on this episode to learn about the parable of the second arrow and what it means for you as an Autism mom. Hear how we unwittingly amplify the original pain life throws our way, what happens when we do so, and three simple steps to help you stop shooting the second arrow. Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/88
11/8/2023 • 8 minutes, 35 seconds
87. Talking Back to Fear
Discover how to start talking back to fear. I’m sharing why thought errors occur when we’re scared, giving you six examples of cognitive distortions that commonly come up for my clients when fear is taking over, and I’m sharing three simple, practical steps to start talking back to your fear instead of leaving it to run the show.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/87
11/1/2023 • 13 minutes, 13 seconds
86. Processing Fear
This week, I'm joined by my former client, Anna, who is walking us through what it's like to process fear. Hear what’s bringing up fear for Anna right now and how I’m coaching her through it. I’m sharing why speed accelerates fear, how to find ventral vagal safety when you’re experiencing fear, and my favorite tool that you can lean on the next time fear comes up for you.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/86
10/25/2023 • 27 minutes, 33 seconds
85. Fear
Discover how fear and grief are interwoven in your experience as an Autism parent, and a few ways fear shows up in our everyday lives. Hear why fear is a normal reaction to the loss of certainty and control that the Autism diagnosis brings, and how to begin experiencing the emotion of fear without letting it run your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/85
10/18/2023 • 18 minutes, 34 seconds
84. When Things Suck (MVP)
Tune in this week to rediscover what to do when things suck. Taking deep breaths and drinking water won't make your kid stop screaming or the school stop calling, but when things feel out of control, you can be there to support yourself and bring some calm into your body, and I'm showing you how.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/84
10/11/2023 • 18 minutes, 17 seconds
83. Self-Regulation and Resourcing
Learn what resourcing involves, and how it creates internal safety so you can feel, process, and integrate your emotions in a healthy way. I’m sharing five easily accessible ways to resource yourself, why they’re worth practicing right now, and the power of the tools I’m offering today in understanding and shifting your emotional experience. Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/83
10/4/2023 • 13 minutes, 21 seconds
82. Creating Internal Safety: Nervous System 101
Join me this week to learn the basics of polyvagal theory and your nervous system. Hear why creating internal safety is so important, the power that comes with being able to recognize your somatic experience, and how to get familiar with different nervous system responses so you can intentionally shift your experience of Autism parenting.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/82
9/27/2023 • 20 minutes, 36 seconds
81. The Grief Spectrum
Tune in this week to bring curiosity and compassion to the emotions that rise from your experience of grief. I’m discussing why grieving a continuing loss means you’ll encounter a whole spectrum of emotions, where these emotions are coming from, and I’m sharing an experience of my own to demonstrate exactly how the grief spectrum shows up.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/81
9/20/2023 • 17 minutes, 58 seconds
80. Ambiguous Loss
I recently discovered a framework that gives a voice to the nuance of our experience in grieving the loss of a child we expected to have, and it’s called ambiguous loss. Join me today to learn what the theory of ambiguous loss entails and how naming it for yourself will help you move towards acceptance in any given moment.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/80
9/13/2023 • 20 minutes, 27 seconds
79. Grief Myths
Ignoring or resisting grief never feels good long-term. To address your grief intentionally and directly, tune in this week. I’m shining a light on the most important misconceptions about grief, and how to spot where these myths are getting in the way of understanding your own experience of grief in a validating way.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/79
9/6/2023 • 13 minutes, 37 seconds
78. Grieving the Life Not Lived
Tune in this week as I highlight why we often fail to acknowledge parental grief and how you might be grieving the life that was not lived. Hear how this is an experience all parents raising children with Autism go through, whether we realize it or not, and my top tips for getting to radical acceptance, enabling you to live your life with more ease and joy.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/78
8/30/2023 • 13 minutes, 20 seconds
77. Defining Success for Your Child with Autism (MVP)
Discover why it’s important for you to define success for your child with Autism, an exercise that will help you find evidence of all the ways they’re succeeding right now, and a myriad of benefits that come with tailoring uniquely what success means to your neurodivergent child.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/77
8/23/2023 • 16 minutes, 24 seconds
76. Tantrums v Meltdowns
Although tantrums and meltdowns may look similar, they are actually very different. Discover how to think about and respond to the different behaviors your child exhibits, explore some of the thoughts that may come up when your child is having a tantrum or a meltdown, and how to use what I’m teaching you this week to be an ambassador for parents of children with Autism.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/76
8/16/2023 • 19 minutes, 41 seconds
75. Meltdown Mistakes & Solutions
Discover the three biggest mistakes Autism parents make during meltdowns, and what you can start doing right now to either prevent these mistakes from happening or reduce the possibility of these mistakes exacerbating future meltdowns.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/75
8/9/2023 • 11 minutes, 38 seconds
74. Powerful Questions (MVP)
Listen in to hear five powerful questions I ask myself to redirect my brain when it wants to dwell in the negative. I’m sharing the reasons we often default to dead-end questions, how we argue with reality, and why the more you open yourself up to other possibilities, the more they will become your reality.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/74
8/2/2023 • 16 minutes, 27 seconds
73. Potty Talk and All Things Autism with Michelle B. Rogers
Discover how to help your child with Autism live a more independent life from my fellow Autism mom and life coach for parents of children with Autism, Michelle B. Rogers. We're discussing the three most important life skills you can help your child develop, why nobody is coming to save you, and Michelle’s diving into how to better understand your child’s behavior with passion and compassion.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/73
7/26/2023 • 40 minutes, 6 seconds
72. Your Child’s Behavior Is Not Personal (MVP)
When we take our child's behaviors personally, we make them about us, about our child, and about our parenting. However, taking these behaviors personally makes them even harder to handle. Discover how to regulate yourself when your child is melting down and avoid falling into the quicksand of taking your child's behaviors personally.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/72
7/19/2023 • 16 minutes, 39 seconds
71. Being Your Child’s “Person”
I show you how to create separation between where your child ends and you begin. I’m urging you to start identifying where you might be able to pull back from being your child’s “person,” what this looked like for me on my Autism parenting journey, and my top tips for allowing your child to step up. Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/71
7/12/2023 • 9 minutes, 5 seconds
70. I’ll Be OK Once My Child is OK
Discover what’s wrong with the thought, “I will be OK once my child is OK.” I’m discussing how this statement is outsourcing your emotions, why your child is not responsible for your happiness, and how to stop neglecting yourself while telling yourself you’re doing it for your child.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/70
7/5/2023 • 10 minutes, 14 seconds
69. Have I Done Everything?
One question that most, if not all, Autism moms have at some point is this: Have I done everything I can for my child? This week, I offer my answer to this burning question. You’ll hear why the notion of doing everything is frankly absurd and not goal-worthy, and what you can do instead to move forward.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/69
6/28/2023 • 19 minutes, 33 seconds
68. Mental Health Hospitalizations
I’m talking about mental health hospitalizations for children with Autism, specifically ER visits, in-patient hospitalizations, and partial hospitalization programs. The first time my son was hospitalized, I knew absolutely nothing about mental health hospitalizations for children with Autism. However, hearing stories and experiences from other people really helped me, so my hopes are that what I’m sharing today will be useful for you if you ever have to deal with your own child being hospitalized.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/68
6/21/2023 • 22 minutes, 1 second
67. Failing Forward
Failing forward is one of the most important skills we need to develop as parents of children with Autism, but it is not for the faint of heart. This week, hear why the skill of failing forward is a muscle you have to build, three important questions that will help you practice failing forward, and my top tips for beginning to befriend failure.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/67
6/14/2023 • 10 minutes, 32 seconds
66. Managing Summer Break Anxiety (Replay)
Are you experiencing summer break anxiety? I know that many of you are worried about how to keep your child with Autism occupied. You might be lamenting over the fact that you can’t send your child to any old camp or hire any old sitter.I’m offering some of the most common worries I hear from parents of children with Autism about this time of year, and three things you can do to ease your summer break anxiety.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/66
6/7/2023 • 15 minutes, 28 seconds
65. On the Hard Days
Listen in for an interview I did over on Megan Champion’s podcast, On The Hard Days. I'm diving into the early years following my son’s Autism diagnosis, and how, like so many of you, I was constantly pushing down my emotions. You’ll hear the realizations I had about needing to practice real self-care, and how I began resetting the default thought patterns and nervous system responses that weren’t serving me.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/65
5/31/2023 • 33 minutes, 28 seconds
64. Anger
Discover the difference between feeling angry and staying angry, and the power of learning to process difficult emotions. I’m sharing my preferred way of processing anger, and 25 things that get me angry about parenting in Autism to show you how voicing the things we experience that other people might not understand can be extremely cathartic.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/64
5/24/2023 • 18 minutes, 56 seconds
63. Moms Like Us: An Interview with Cindy Decker
Hear my conversation with my former client and now lifelong friend, Cindy Decker. Cindy shares her journey from her child’s diagnosis to where she is today, how she freed up more time and space to advocate for her child and other children through an advocacy program, and all the changes she made in her day-to-day that have enabled her to shift the way she shows up as a mom.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/63
5/17/2023 • 40 minutes, 12 seconds
62. How to Stop Second Guessing Yourself (Part 2)
Discover how to stop second guessing yourself and your decisions. I’m sharing the two types of second guessing we do as the parents of children with Autism, the difference between second guessing and due diligence, and giving you my step-by-step process to stop second guessing the decisions you make and your abilities as a parent.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/62
5/10/2023 • 27 minutes, 53 seconds
61. Stop Second Guessing Yourself (Part 1)
How often do you question whether you’re doing enough or the right things for your child with Autism? Do you have the urge to ruminate on and review every decision, or wonder if there’s anything you could have or should be doing differently?I'm exploring what second guessing is, why we do it, and how this habit might be showing up in your life. You’ll hear how we’re socialized to believe we can’t be trusted, and next week, I’ll give you specific steps to begin unwinding this habit. Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/61
5/3/2023 • 12 minutes, 48 seconds
Mother’s Day Giveaway
For my Mother's Day Giveaway, I am giving away hand-crafted soaps from Trev's Trades Where Autism Meets Potential. Trev is a young adult with autism and other disabilities, and a soap maker.I have 10 lovely soaps to give away. To enter the Mother's Day Giveaway, rate and review the podcast by May 14th, and email me the title of your review. For those of you who have already rated and reviewed the podcast, you can get a soap by sharing the podcast on your social media feeds and tagging me and Trev. I want to support Trev and Tia, and I want to spread the word about this podcast to as many autism moms as possible.To enter the giveaway,Rate & Review the podcastTag The Autism Mom Coach & Trev's TradesEmail lisa@theautismmomcoach.com the title of your review & mailing address. Instagram: The Autism Mom Coach & Trev's TradesFacebook: The Autism Mom Coach & Trev's Trades
4/26/2023 • 3 minutes, 5 seconds
60. Turning Autism Around with Dr. Mary Barbera
While I teach mothers raising kids with autism how to regulate their emotions when their child is dysregulated, I get a ton of questions about how parents can teach self-regulation skills to their kids.That is why, in this week's episode of the podcast, I am interviewing Dr. Mary Barbera. Dr. Barbera is the mother of a young adult with Autism, a registered nurse, board certified behavior analyst and a best selling author.Dr. Barbera's latest book Turn Autism Around, her online courses, weekly podcast and social media posts help parents and professionals start turning things around for young children with early signs of autism and older children with an autism diagnosis who are struggling with talking, tantrums, eating, sleeping, potty training, and more.In this Episode of the podcast, you will learn:How Dr. Barbera went from complete denial of the signs of her son's Autism to a BCBA;What Dr. Barbera means by the phrase, "Turn Autism Around"; andDr. Barbera's 4 Principles for turning autism around.For full show notes, links to Dr. Barbera's work, and more information on working with me here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/60
4/26/2023 • 50 minutes, 32 seconds
59. Parental Burnout Awareness
In this episode, discover why Autism parent burnout is a problem and what you can do to interrupt it.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/59
4/19/2023 • 6 minutes, 27 seconds
58. The IEP Table with Julie Swanson, The Life Skills Lady
Join me this week to continue our discussions about Individualized Education Plans, this time with Julie Swanson, AKA The Life Skills Lady. Julie is an IEP advocate based in Connecticut. She’s one of the OGs of education advocacy, and she’s also a mentor to many other IEP advocates that have followed in her footsteps. Julie shares the problems she’s encountered at the IEP table as an advocate, and why she helps families focus on the development of life skills in creating better outcomes for children with Autism.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/58
4/12/2023 • 50 minutes, 12 seconds
57. The IEP Table with Amanda DeLuca and Kirby Morgan
Amanda DeLuca and Kirby Morgan have created an online community to help support parents of Neurodiverse Children, and the work they’re doing is amazing. They’re certified IEP coaches, and they help their clients better understand their role at the IEP table.Find out how an advocate can help make sure your child is getting the service they need without creating a divide at the table, and what to consider if you’re currently having a difficult time advocating for your child.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/57
4/5/2023 • 1 hour, 1 minute, 24 seconds
Webinar: Overcoming Burnout in 5 Simple Steps
https://us02web.zoom.us/webinar/register/4016803130699/WN_xCv_Z2VKSYS1_0W30Y06mQBehind every child with autism, are parents who are feeling afraid and overwhelmed by the dizzying amount of responsibility and uncertainty that comes with raising a child without a road map. That is why, for Autism Awareness month, I am shining a light on parental burnout with my free webinar for autism parents: “Overcoming Burnout in 5 Simple Steps." In this webinar, you will learn the real reason you are burnt out (spoiler alert: it is not the diagnosis) and how to shift from chronically stressed to resourceful and resilient.Register now using the link below and don't miss out on this opportunity to take care of your child’s most important resource: YOU.
4/3/2023 • 2 minutes, 7 seconds
56. Medication Shaming
Whether you have been medicating your child for years and facing that decision never gets any easier, or you haven’t yet made that decision and you’re experiencing crippling fear about it, you’re in the right place. All of this is gut-wrenching, so tune in as I normalize this decision and lay out all the BS reasons we’ve bought into that make us shame ourselves.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/56
3/29/2023 • 12 minutes, 34 seconds
55. Words Matter: Autism & Aggression
Words like “aggressive” and “violent” are often improperly used as descriptors for the behaviors of people with Autism. They’re anti-social words that have a broad range of consequences that are very scary for parents raising children with Autism. Discover why words matter, and how the language we use for dysregulated behavior in our children needs to shift. I’m sharing my preferred language for referring to violence or aggression, and how we can start focusing efforts on ways we can better understand and support our children.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/55
3/22/2023 • 13 minutes, 56 seconds
54. Minimum Baseline
Do you ever find yourself making grand plans, not following through with them, and then beating yourself up for not doing enough to make them happen? This perfectionist thinking is making raising your child with Autism even harder than it already is. So this week, I share a simple tool that will set you and your child up for success and you don't want to miss it.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/54
3/15/2023 • 12 minutes, 45 seconds
53. Perfectionism
While it sounds noble and goal-worthy to be a perfectionist, it’s only keeping you in a cycle of doing more and more but feeling like you’ve never done enough. I'm sharing the hallmarks of perfectionistic thinking, how it’s showing up in your parenting and other areas of life, and how B- work can help you relax the unrealistic standards you’re holding yourself to.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/53
3/8/2023 • 13 minutes, 26 seconds
52. External Validation
When you are relying on external validation, you’re outsourcing all of your power to other people. They get to decide whether or not you can think well of yourself, and it creates a vicious cycle of always trying to prove yourself. Discover how to repattern your habit of seeking external validation. I’m sharing why so many moms of children with Autism fall into this trap, and most importantly I’m showing you why you aren’t powerless in getting out of it.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/52
3/1/2023 • 10 minutes, 17 seconds
51. Permission Slips 2.0
The 2.0 version of permission slips is all about taking the time for yourself, but also giving yourself permission to actually enjoy that time without guilt. I’m telling stories from two clients who couldn’t enjoy the time they’d created for themselves, and sharing the coaching I offered them so they could give themselves the permission slips they needed.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/51
2/22/2023 • 9 minutes, 55 seconds
50. Permission Slips
Do you struggle to give yourself permission to put your self-care needs first? This week, I show you how to give yourself a much-needed permission slip for self-care, and share why we focus our time and energy on our children at the exclusion of ourselves. Learn how to give yourself permission to do something for yourself instead of always acting in service of others.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/50
2/15/2023 • 11 minutes, 54 seconds
49. Self-Care is Your Responsibility
If you think you don’t have time for yourself because of all your responsibilities as a Special Needs parent, this episode is for you. I’m sharing seven simple things you can start doing right now to prioritize your self-care, regardless of what’s going on in your life. Learn why self-care is so important for you and your child, and how to make time for it, no matter what.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/49
2/8/2023 • 14 minutes, 38 seconds
48. The Big Mistake Every Autism Parent Makes and How to Stop It
Tune in this week to discover how to correct the biggest mistake Autism Parents make: not making time for themselves. I’m sharing why we make this mistake, how it impacts our children, and most importantly, how to start giving yourself a little attention when you need it so you can show up the way you want to for your child.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/48
2/1/2023 • 9 minutes, 20 seconds
47. Being Willing to Be Wrong
If you’re living with the fear that you aren’t doing enough for your child, catastrophizing about the future, or blaming yourself for your child’s struggles, a willingness to be wrong will change everything. Tune in this week to discover how to open yourself up to vulnerability, questioning what you think is right, and being willing to be wrong about the belief systems that are keeping you spinning in the hamster wheel of pain and self-doubt.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/47
1/25/2023 • 10 minutes, 18 seconds
46. Keeping Your Cool During an Autism Meltdown
Do you find yourself always walking on eggshells, living in fear of your child's next meltdown? If the answer is YES, then my new course is for you! In a little over one hour, you will learn what to do before, during and after a meltdown, so that you can remain regulated, even when your child is melting down. For full show notes and to sign up for the course, go to: https://theautismmomcoach.com/46
1/18/2023 • 9 minutes, 50 seconds
45. Moms Like Us: An Interview with Jamie Gregory
Jamie is the mom of five-year-old twin boys with Autism, and she came to me for coaching at a time when her kids were struggling, dysregulated, and having more frequent and intense meltdowns than ever. This was taking a serious emotional toll on Jamie, however, the work we did together has helped her support herself and her sons in new ways, and she’s here to share all of it with you.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/45
1/11/2023 • 41 minutes, 7 seconds
44. How Coaching Changes Everything
Tune in this week to discover what coaching is, how it works, and how coaching changed my life when I was at a breaking point. I’ve tried therapy and never found it very useful, but when I found a coach who understood Autism and my experience as a working mom, I was able to start building a life I loved. If you’re curious about coaching and how it can change everything for you, listen in.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/44
1/4/2023 • 17 minutes, 2 seconds
43. When Things Suck
Sometimes, things just suck. Maybe you were planning a winter vacation, but then everyone in your house got sick. Maybe your child’s favorite teacher just resigned, or your child was asked to leave their school altogether. Whatever the story is for you, we all hit these points at some time or another. I have 7 tips to help you weather the storm when things just suck, and I’m sharing all of them with you in this episode.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/43
12/28/2022 • 15 minutes, 15 seconds
42. Holiday Stressors
The Holiday season is in full swing and, if you’re raising a child with Autism, I’m sure you are feeling it. So, in this week’s episode, I’m discussing some of the Holiday-themed stressors I’m hearing about from my clients and sharing the coaching I offered them during this challenging time of the year.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/42
12/21/2022 • 19 minutes, 29 seconds
41. Holiday Survival Strategy
The Holiday season of joy and gratitude is here, accompanied by increased stress and mental breakdowns. This is a familiar experience for parents of children with Autism, so I’m devoting this episode to teaching you a powerful strategy that will help you prepare for family time, skip the drama, and actually enjoy The Holidays.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/41
12/14/2022 • 10 minutes, 37 seconds
40. How to Talk to Your Child About Their Autism Diagnosis
Tune in this week because I’m giving you three tips for talking to your child about their Autism diagnosis. This episode is based around a presentation I held recently on this exact topic, and I’m sharing everything you need to consider as you prepare for this conversation, if you decide to have it at all.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/40
12/7/2022 • 22 minutes, 39 seconds
39. The How-To Guide for Other Humans (aka Manuals)
This week, learn how to set your manuals for how others should behave aside so you can truly enjoy the people in your life for who they are. You’ll hear what happens when you stick to your manuals without question, and how this is the perfect opportunity to distance yourself from thoughts about what should be, and instead decide with intention how you want to show up when the world isn’t complying.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/39
11/30/2022 • 14 minutes, 6 seconds
38. When You Stop People Pleasing and Other People Aren’t Pleased
Listen in this week to discover what to do when you stop people pleasing and other people aren’t pleased. I’m showing you why not people pleasing is a foreign concept to so many people, what to expect when you stop, and my top tips for having your back when you start telling others what you really want.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/38
11/23/2022 • 9 minutes, 57 seconds
37. How to Stop People Pleasing
People pleasing is a well-worn habit and stopping isn’t easy. However, small changes can go a long way. Tune in this week to discover how to shift from doing things because you always have and everyone expects you to, to figuring out what you really want and acting in alignment with your own values. I’m giving you a strategy that will help you stop people pleasing, one step at a time.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/37
11/16/2022 • 11 minutes, 1 second
36. Why We People Please
When we are people pleasing, we’re lying to others and to ourselves. We’re trying to manipulate how people view us by acting in ways that are not in alignment with how we really want to show up. With The Holidays fast approaching, the people-pleasing season truly is upon us, which makes now the perfect time to talk about how people pleasing shows up in Special Needs Parenting, and most importantly, how to break this exhausting habit.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/36
11/9/2022 • 17 minutes, 39 seconds
35. Managing Your Transitions
While we might not be as sensitive to changes and transitions as our child with Autism, did you know that we too can benefit from the same support systems we use to help them? Listen in this week to discover how to support yourself through any transition. I’m digging into schedules, previews, social studies, and test runs as just a few ways we try to prepare our kids for transitions, and I’m showing you how to use these systems for your own benefit too. Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/35
11/2/2022 • 13 minutes, 55 seconds
34. When You Wish Your Child Was “Normal” (Part 2)
This week, I'm diving a little further into how “normal” is subjective and the ways in which it can be harmful for those with Autism. I talk about why “aggressive” is an inappropriate way to describe the physical reactions that those with Autism experience, how certain ideas and judgements both reinforce inaccurate biases and rob us of joy, and why we can be the ones that change how language is used.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/34
10/26/2022 • 7 minutes, 48 seconds
33. When You Wish Your Child Was "Normal" (Part 1)
Whether we want to admit it or not, so many of us have had the thought, “I wish my child was normal,” at one point or another. This is something that often comes up with my clients, and they’re riddled with shame and guilt. So, this week, find out why it’s 100% normal if you’ve ever found yourself thinking, saying, or wishing that your child or parenting experience was “normal.” You’ll hear why it’s a natural human desire to want to be "normal," and why you can both love your kid as they are and still wish things were easier.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/33
10/19/2022 • 9 minutes, 26 seconds
32. When You Think Nothing is Working
Tune in this week to discover what to do when you think nothing’s working. This is not about undermining your experience. I’m in the thick of it myself. Rather, I’m sharing how to be there for yourself and your child when it feels like you’re getting nowhere, and how to identify all of the things that are working, even if they differ slightly from what you expected.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/32
10/12/2022 • 12 minutes, 30 seconds
31. The Stories We Tell
Human brains are story-making machines. We create stories as a way of understanding our lives, relating to the world, and relating to one another. Some of the stories we tell are empowering, while some have the opposite effect, and our power lies in our ability to choose the version of the story we want to tell, believe, and live. In this episode, I'm offering two very different diagnosis stories drawn from the same set of facts to show you how there is no ultimate truth, and why this is the best news. Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/31
10/5/2022 • 13 minutes, 17 seconds
30. Autism-Colored Glasses
Do you ever find yourself interpreting all of your child’s behavior through the lens of their Autism diagnosis? Tune in this week to discover how you show up when you look at your child’s behavior through Autism-Colored Glasses. I’m showing you why there’s always more than one way of looking at your child’s behavior, and I’m sharing how to see if you’re missing out on the bigger picture or causing yourself unnecessary stress and anxiety.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/30
9/28/2022 • 16 minutes
29. When Other People Trigger You
Tune in this week as I share a story where I was triggered. Well, actually I was stunned and sickened during a conversation with someone. There was a time when I would have reacted very differently to this conversation, however, with the skills of thought work, I was able to look at this uncomfortable situation in a more helpful way. So, I’m showing how you can do the same when you feel triggered by thoughtless comments or actions by another person.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/29
9/21/2022 • 14 minutes, 46 seconds
28. The Comparison Trap
Have you ever found yourself comparing your life to the lives of your friends, family members, or even strangers on social media? You're not alone. This week, discover why our brains naturally go to a place of comparison, why it served humankind in the distant past, and why using comparison in unhelpful ways isn’t serving us now. I’m showing you how to see where you’re stuck into the Comparison Trap and how you can wriggle free if you fall into it.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/28
9/14/2022 • 12 minutes, 54 seconds
27. Back to School Series: Ask an Autism Expert with Dr. Darren Sush
We all need a little advice from time to time, so in this week’s episode, I’m speaking with Dr. Darren Sush, a licensed clinical psychologist, Autism expert, and a board-certified behavioral analyst, about ways parents can prepare themselves and their children for the school year. Darren deeply understands the struggles parents raising children with Autism face, so he's sharing how to create ease around your experience of sending your child back to school.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/27
9/7/2022 • 52 minutes, 37 seconds
26. Back to School Series: Navigating Grief
Tune in this week to discover why you’re feeling grief around your child’s return to school. I’m sharing my story and the uncomfortable emotions that are coming up for me, and why if you don’t process the feelings of grief in the moment, they can manifest physically and make a hard situation even harder.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/26
8/31/2022 • 12 minutes, 37 seconds
25. Back to School Series: Mental Rehearsal
Tune in this week to discover a new way to cope with intense emotion. We always have the power to improve our ability to cope with the challenges we face in parenting neurodivergent children. Instead of simply catastrophizing about worst-case scenarios, you can be more in control than you ever thought possible, and I’m showing you how in today’s episode.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/25
8/24/2022 • 12 minutes, 37 seconds
24. Back to School Series: Making Decisions Ahead of Time
This week, I’m teaching you the power and the practice of making decisions ahead of time. I’m showing you how to prepare yourself for whatever this school year brings because, once you’ve decided how you want to think, feel, and respond, you can take actions that are aligned with how you want to show up for your child and for yourself.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/24
8/17/2022 • 12 minutes, 53 seconds
23. Back to School Series: Defining Success for Neurodivergent Children
This week, discover how to redefine what success looks like for our neurodivergent children, and why it serves us to do so, even if it flies in the face of everything we’ve been socialized to believe about what success means. I’m showing you the negative consequences of using the standards of success modeled on neurotypical children, and why applying them to your kids isn’t helpful.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/23
8/10/2022 • 17 minutes, 59 seconds
22. How to Stop Worrying
Tune in this week to discover how to stop worrying. Worrying is useless and takes up too much space in our brains, even though it feels totally natural. When you catch yourself in this nasty little brain habit, you can choose not to do it, and I’m showing how with a simple strategy to get control over your worrying.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/22
8/3/2022 • 10 minutes, 6 seconds
21. Worrying is Optional
As moms to special needs kids, we worry about so many things when it comes to our children. Join me this week to discover what worry is, and why so many of us are devoted to this habit. I’m showing you how this is an amazing function we humans have, how you’re using it against yourself, and how to begin curbing this habit.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/21
7/27/2022 • 10 minutes, 4 seconds
20. 5 Powerful Questions for Every Autism Mom
Tune in this week to discover five powerful questions every Autism mom needs to ask themselves. I’m sharing why our brains thrive when we ask them powerful questions, and how to start questioning your brain in a way that will move you forward, instead of feeling stuck as a victim of your circumstances.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/20
7/20/2022 • 14 minutes, 37 seconds
19. What to Do After a Mommy Meltdown
Tune in this week to discover what to do after a mommy meltdown. I’m sharing the story of my own mommy meltdown, how I used the S.O.S. technique I shared last week to calm myself and decide on how I wanted to handle the situation, and I’m giving you a simple step-by-step framework to deal with the aftermath of your mommy meltdowns.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/19
7/13/2022 • 24 minutes, 33 seconds
18. S.O.S. What to Do During a Mommy Meltdown
Tune in this week for my tips on what you can do during difficult moments to support yourself and manage your mommy meltdown. I'm also showing you how to make my S.O.S. technique (stop, observe, self-soothe) part of your daily self-care, so you can catch your meltdown before you and your child break down in line at the grocery store.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/18
7/6/2022 • 14 minutes, 55 seconds
17. Check What’s Triggered
Tune in this week to check on your triggers, and learn how being triggered might have you showing up in ways you don’t actually like. I’m sharing some of the most common triggers I come across in my life and my clients’ lives, and how you can see the ways you get triggered in your own life, how you generally respond, and how you can choose to react instead if you want to.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/17
6/29/2022 • 15 minutes, 4 seconds
16. When People Don’t Understand
If you’ve ever found yourself feeling frustrated because people don’t seem to understand what your life is like and the struggles you encounter raising a child with Autism, this episode is for you. Discover why believing other people don’t understand your reality is creating more disconnection than you might realize.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/16
6/22/2022 • 12 minutes, 58 seconds
15. I Need to Live Forever
Tune in this week to discover what you’re avoiding dealing with when you tell yourself you need to live forever, or your child will suffer. I’m sharing how thoughts like this only serve to mask our pain and avoid dealing with a very real eventuality, and I’m giving you some way more helpful thoughts you can decide to think instead.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/15
6/15/2022 • 13 minutes, 56 seconds
14. School Shootings and Special Needs Children: Would My Child be Safe?
Tune in this week as I share how to move through your difficult emotions after a senseless tragedy. I’m sharing why we’re not here to try and feel positive about things we know are awful, why you can’t action your way out of fear and grief in the long term, and how to acknowledge your own pain and support yourself with compassion through these heartbreaking times.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/14
6/8/2022 • 9 minutes, 45 seconds
13. Managing Summer Break Anxiety
Tune in this week to discover how to manage your anxiety around the summer break. I’m sharing how to reframe your anxious experience at this time of year, and I’m showing you an incredible breathing exercise, so your anxiety can lead to productive action instead of spinning in dread and uncertainty.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/13
6/1/2022 • 13 minutes, 49 seconds
12. Stepping into Your Role as the Expert
Discover how to step into your role as the expert when it comes to parenting your child. I’m sharing how to handle your thoughts if you don’t believe being the expert is empowering, and I’m showing you how to use the Think-Feel-Act cycle to create the kind of emotions that will allow you to parent with confidence and certainty, instead of fear and overwhelm.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/12
5/25/2022 • 22 minutes, 20 seconds
11. You Are the Expert
Tune in this week to discover what an expert is, and why you’re already the expert when it comes to parenting your child with Autism. I’m sharing where your expertise comes from and how to see it, and be sure to come back next week where I’m discussing stepping into your role as the expert.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/11
5/18/2022 • 13 minutes, 45 seconds
10. Catastrophizing
Discover a simple way to reframe your worst-case scenario thoughts and break the cycle of catastrophizing. I’m sharing why your brain loves to catastrophize over things that aren’t even certain, why ignoring it or telling yourself you’re worrying over nothing is never the answer, and how to instead meet yourself with empowering thoughts.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/10
5/11/2022 • 16 minutes, 50 seconds
9. This Should Not Be Happening
Tune in this week to discover why thinking, “This should not be happening” is never helpful. I’m sharing how to get clear on where these thoughts come from and why it’s time to leave them behind so you get to enjoy even the most challenging parts of parenting a child with Autism.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/9
5/4/2022 • 15 minutes, 46 seconds
8. Riding the Wave
Tune in this week to discover the power of riding the waves of emotion. I’m sharing why trying to avoid emotions coming up for you or your child isn’t helping, and how instead you can allow for the full emotional experience without avoidance or distractions, living and learning through all of it.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/8
4/27/2022 • 14 minutes
7. When You Are Rigid
Tune in this week to discover where rigid all-or-nothing thinking is impacting your parenting, and what you can do to manage it. I’m sharing why our brains love this way of processing the world around us, and I’m showing you how to see the thoughts that are leading you down the path of this either-or mindset.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/7
4/20/2022 • 12 minutes, 30 seconds
6. The Self-Coaching Model
Last week I introduced you to the Think-Feel-Act Cycle, which is at the very centre of The Self-Coaching Model. It’s a profoundly simple but effective tool we can use to transform our lives, and as promised, this week, I’m showing you how The Self-Coaching Model works so you can apply it in real time when you feel stressed, or your child is having a meltdown and everything feels like it’s crumbling around you.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/6
4/13/2022 • 20 minutes, 53 seconds
5. Think-Feel-Act Cycle
Whether you know it or not, there is a cycle constantly working in the background of everything you do, including dealing with the challenges of parenting a child with Autism.Tune in this week to discover why the Think-Feel-Act Cycle is always at work, and how it’s driving everything you do or don’t do. I’m sharing how your thoughts interact with your feelings, which drive your actions, and how you can start to influence all of it and use this information to your advantage.Get full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/5
4/6/2022 • 16 minutes, 44 seconds
4. Negativity Bias
Do you ever find yourself fixating on all the things your child can’t do, while paying little attention to the tremendous gains they’ve made? Tune in this week to discover how your negativity bias is impacting your parenting. I’m sharing why this is such a tricky thing to spot in the moment, but I’m also giving you a simple exercise you can to bring a little more balance when your brain is feeding you negative thoughts about your child’s progress.Get the full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/4
3/30/2022 • 14 minutes, 25 seconds
3. Separating Your Child’s Behavior from Your Thoughts
I’m sure you’ve realized by now, no matter how hard we try, we can’t control our children’s behaviors. However, we can choose how we want to think about them. That might not sound particularly powerful, but trust me when I say it’s a real gamechanger.Get the full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/3
3/23/2022 • 10 minutes, 13 seconds
2. Your Child's Behavior Is Not Personal
Your child’s behaviors are not personal. When you are the person who is being yelled at or smacked, it’s not a nice experience. However, the truth is, we can separate the child we love from the behaviors we don’t, and on this episode, I’m giving you an amazing tool to take yourself out of the equation when it comes to your children’s outbursts.Get the full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/2
3/23/2022 • 14 minutes, 6 seconds
1. How We Make Parenting Difficult for Ourselves
Do you fear you’re not doing enough for your child with autism? Do you terrorize yourself with thoughts about their future, and how you’re not able to give them the right kind of support? Do you put caring fo yourself on the backburner because you think, “I’ll be okay once they’re okay?” Being a mom of a child with autism is undoubtedly challenging, but are thoughts like this making it even harder?Get the full show notes and more information here: https://theautismmomcoach.com/1
3/23/2022 • 12 minutes, 16 seconds
Start Here: Introducing The Autism Mom Coach Podcast
Have you ever felt like Autism has hijacked your life? Like you’re in a constant state of stress and anxiety and always walking on eggshells? Ever feel like you’re all alone, completely powerless and the circumstances in your life dictate everything you do?In this podcast, I’ll show you how to radically change your life by transforming your relationship with Autism and special needs parenting. You’ll learn how to shift away from being a victim of your circumstances to being the hero of the story that you get to write. This isn’t your normal podcast about Autism, it’s not about how to handle our kids, it’s about how to handle ourselves. It’s about accepting the fact that Autism is hard and now what... Each week we'll discuss practical strategies and actionable steps to help you accept and understand your own triggers and how to choose how to respond. The truth is Autism is not in charge of your life. YOU are, and you have more power than you think.