The tea is finally being spilled. In this episode, you'll hear about: how I went from a 3 year monogamous relationship to opening up with that partner my experiences of dating new people how to manage jealousy and miscommunications how to set boundaries for an open relationship how to bring up non-monogamy with a partner & so much more! Connect with Alyssa Harper ⁠⁠⁠⁠Tiktok⁠⁠⁠ (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠ (She Said What? Podcast Group)

Do you feel like one week you're hot, funny and gorgeous, but the next week you're depressed, confused and feeling all around yucky? Are you trying to keep daily routines but failing miserably? Are you exhausted and nearing burnout? Trust me, I hear you. Two years ago, I started Cycle Syncing and since then, I've learned all of the tips and tricks. In this episode, you'll hear how to: eat the right foods (without any restrictions) work out less and feel better sync your relationships & sex life to your cycle create a work schedule that makes you love what you do As mentioned in the episode, subscribe to Beducated for 40% off using the code 'alyssa' or click here: ⁠https://beducate.me/pd2336-alyssa⁠ Connect with Alyssa Harper ⁠⁠⁠Tiktok⁠⁠ (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠⁠ (She Said What? Podcast Group)

Why are they sometimes worse than romantic breakups? How do we know if we should move on or try to work it out? How can we heal and make new friendships, without self sabotaging? In this episode, we'll be answering all of these questions, while addressing the impermanence in relationships and what we can do to cope with our ever-changing lives. Spoiler: nothing is wasted and you're going to be okay! As mentioned in the episode, subscribe to Beducated for 40% off using the code 'alyssa' or click here: https://beducate.me/pd2336-alyssa Connect with Alyssa Harper ⁠⁠Tiktok⁠ (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠⁠Instagram⁠ (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠ (She Said What? Podcast Group)

Whether you're exploring your sexuality for the first time or queerness is your whole world, this episode is going to help you navigate: internalized homophobia coming out feeling "queer enough" feeling like you're behind Not only are we exploring internally to break down misconceptions and negative thinking patterns, but we're talking about the practical things that you can start doing TODAY to work towards feeling confident in your sexuality. As mentioned in the episode, subscribe to Beducated for 40% off using the code 'alyssa' or click here! Connect with Alyssa Harper ⁠⁠Tiktok⁠ (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠⁠Instagram⁠ (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠ (She Said What? Podcast Group)

If there's anything I wish I knew before I started dating, it's these 10 tips. Whether you're single at the moment, have a bf/gf/etc. or it's... complicated, I've got you. In this episode, we're answering the questions: Is it worth dating within your friend group? Should a relationship "feel easy" or does it take work? When should I let a problem go and when should I bring it up? & so much more! Connect with Alyssa Harper ⁠⁠Tiktok⁠ (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠⁠Instagram⁠ (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠⁠Facebook Group⁠ (She Said What? Podcast Group)

Have you ever been given an opportunity that felt like it wasn't meant for you? Do you doubt your abilities even when the people around you believe in you? In this episode, we explore: why we get Imposter Syndrome who it's most likely to affect why it's not a bad thing what you can do to cope Connect with Alyssa Harper ⁠Tiktok (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠Instagram (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠Facebook Group (She Said What? Podcast Group) Resources Cognitive Behavioural Therapy Journal

Whether you're feeling stuck sexually in your long term relationship or you're trying to navigate the early stages of a relationship, sex can be hard to talk about. This episode is going to give you the framework to be able to have the conversations that will enhance your sex life. We'll be talking about the must have's like consent, caution and communication; plus, we'll dive into the common issues like pain during sex and inability to orgasm with a partner. Connect with Alyssa Harper ⁠Tiktok (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠Instagram (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠Facebook Group (She Said What? Podcast Group) Resources: VUSH Curiosity Cues The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski Alis App (Sexual Archetype Quiz) Max Black Yes, No, Maybe List

This episode is all about self pleasure and how we can grow in the intimacy that we share with our bodies. I'll be taking you through questions that will help you to unlearn the shameful BS that we are taught about sex. This episode will leave you feeling closer to your sexual self and excited to enjoy the pleasure that is available to you! Connect with Alyssa Harper ⁠Tiktok (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠Instagram (@alyssataylorharper) ⁠Facebook Group (reflection questions found here) Resources Self Pleasure Statistic Come As You Are - Emily Nagoski Alis App - Sexual Archetype Quiz

We've all had friends surprise us! Sometimes they come into our lives unexpectedly with aMAZiNg energy or they completely f*ck us over. This episode is going to help you get better at making the RIGHT friends. Connect with Alyssa Harper ⁠Tiktok ⁠ ⁠Instagram ⁠ ⁠Facebook Group

Some people kinda suck! But how you respond matters. In today's episode, you'll hear about: dealing with difficult humans in the workplace, your family, your friend group, etc. 8 tips to being the bigger person, while standing your ground setting boundaries to avoid the BS Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  Facebook Group

Wellllll sh*t, things didn't work out. Lucky for you, we've all been there and it's going to be okay! In this weeks episode, we'll be talking: the one thing you MUST do to get over your ex how to begin the healing process healthy & unhealthy coping mechanisms the things that ACTUALLY help you move on Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  Facebook Group

Does money make you anxious? Are there habits you wish you didn't have when it comes to money? In this week's episode, we're talking: money mindsets and where they come from "money stories" and what yours says about you healing your relationship with money understanding where your money goes & creating a basic budget Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  Facebook Group Resources: Up Bank

From moving across the world after high school to becoming a completely different person after I left my old beliefs... I've picked up a few things. To celebrate my 23rd birthday, this episode is 23 life lessons that I wish I knew sooner! Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  Facebook Group Resources Better Help

A lot of us are perfectionists! It's super common to feel this way and nothing to be ashamed of. But how might this be holding you back? What can you do to get out of the perfectionist mindset and go for what you want? If you relate with the following, this week's episode is for you: you procrastinate following through on the things you're passionate about (ex. starting a creative project/business, changing career paths, going on a date) you struggle to feel confident in your work, you often second guess yourself you feel like you never quite meet the expectations/goals you have for yourself Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP   This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community! Resources The Anti-Anxiety Notebook (CBT Journal) Signs You May Be A Perfectionist How Perfectionism is Linked to Anxiety and Mental Health The Relationship Between Cognitive Distortions and Adult Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder

Have you ever felt like it's hard to make friends? Have you ever struggled with self doubt in relationships, feeling like you're not good enough? Has social anxiety played a role in your life? If this sounds like you, then this episode is for you! In this episode, you're going to hear about: how to make new friends how to manage social anxiety at a social event why community is so important how important it is for queer people to be in community & more! Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP   This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community!

Are you trying to figure out your sexuality but it's really scary and confusing? Understanding my sexuality was something I struggled with for years. I felt too straight to say I was LGBTQIA+ (because I knew I liked men) but too into women to say I was straight... turned out, I'm bi! This episode is 10 moments in my life that made me realize I'm not straight, since I'm often requested to talk about what it "feels like" to be bisexual. Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP   This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community!

We could all use a little more discipline... but not in a hustle culture kinda way, more in an accountability towards our passions kind of way. Because a lack of direction, crappy time management skills and a dash of imposter syndrome CAN genuinely hold you back from your dreams. You're not lazy! You're not stupid! You're not "not passionate enough" - you just need a little push (and some tips from yours truly)! In this episode, we talk about why discipline IS self love and how to find that healthy balance between 'the soft life' and the potential burnout that comes from hustle culture.  Resources Atomic Habits (book) Calendar App Structured App Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP   This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community!

I recently shared a Tiktok titled, '5 Myths About Sex That I Once Genuinely Believed' and you guys had so much to say about it (thoughts, questions, etc)! I thought, why not really dig into these points, share the stories that come along with them and have a chat about the things we all need to unlearn about sex! This is the sex advice I wish I had 6 months ago AND 6 years ago (theres something in here for everybody)! Resources In The Flo - Alissa Vitti (book) Come As You Are - Emily Nagoski (book) Jen Winston (instagram) Greedy - Jen Winston (book) Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP   This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community!

In this episode, we are joined by Millie Gooch, founder of The Sober Girl Society and author of The Sober Girl Society Handbook! Millie has built a beautiful community for people who are sober and "sober curious" (a new term I'm obsessed with)! This episode is going to help you reflect on your relationship with alcohol, which is something we ALL could use. It's important to ask yourself why you drink; are you looking for confidence on the dance floor, momentarily dampening anxiety or potentially trying to escape? If there is even a part of you that feels this way, this episode is a shame free space for you to explore what changes you can make to heal your relationship with alcohol and more importantly, yourself (and no, this doesn't mean you must fully give it up). I'm so excited to share this idea of mindful drinking with all of you and for you to hear Millie's inspiring story! Connect with Millie Website (shop book & more) Instagram (@sobergirlsociety) Connect with Alyssa Tiktok  Instagram  JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP   This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community!

Today, we have the privilege to hear from Naam Bachmayer (hot, fun, bisexual, etc)! She is a certified Menstrual Cycle Coach, Functional Hormone Specialist and Cookbook Author. Her mission is to empower you to balance period pain, PMS & irregular cycles and help you to connect to the power of your period with Cyclical Living & Mind-Body-Soul Nourishment. As a Thai-German, queer woman, she creates an inclusive space on her Instagram & TikTok for BIPOC & LGBTQIA2S+ and offers intimate 121 Coaching, deep dive Workshops & more. Topics we touch on in today's episode include: how your hormones might change your attraction (super spicy chat) and libido how to EASILY use food to balance your hormones how to create a schedule that actually flows intuitively with your hormones & so much more! Find Naam (@thecyclicalcoach) Instagram Tiktok Website (cookbook & more) Free Cycle Chart (downloadable) Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP   This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community!

This week is a listener led episode where I answer all of the anonymous questions you guys sent in through Instagram (and y'all did not hold back lmao). You guys wanted to know all my secrets and get advice on how to break up with a friend, how to navigate a work crush, how to tell your partner that you want to explore sexually + much more!  Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP   This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. We also have a book club that focuses on sex/relationships, feminism and self love! Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community!

Vibrators? Pleasure rings?? Suction??!? Dual stimulation???? Amazing orgasms???!!?  This weeks episode is a full on HOW TO for all things sex toys! Whether you've never had an orgasm or you're looking to expand your collection, this episode is for you. Let's get spicy! Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP   This group is an opportunity for discussion around the weekly topics from the SSW Podcast. We also have a book club that focuses on sex/relationships, feminism and self love! Please feel free to post in this group if you need advice or are just simply looking for community! RECCS VIBRATORS Zee by Dame (bullet) Majesty 2 by VUSH (wand) Crave Vesper (necklace vibrator) Pom by Dame (palm vibrator) SUCTION Aer by Dame (oval opening) We Vibe Melt (oval opening & my #1 fave) Empress 2 by VUSH (circle opening) Sila by Lelo (wider contact point) Pipedream Fantasy for Her (vibrating pump + tongue attachment) Fin Finger Vibrator by Dame OTHER Womanizer by Lovehoney (suction + penetration) Pure Wand by NJOY (curve edge dildo) Shimmy by Unbound Babes (vibrating butt plug) Hugo Male by Lelo (prostate massager)

If your sex education in school was as bad as mine, this episode is for you. In this episode, we talk all things consent, virginity, orgasms and blue balls??? We also get to hear some tips from the SSW listener community! Educated sex is fun, pleasurable and shame-free, so let’s get up to speed. Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP   This group is an opportunity for community, growth and discussion around the weekly topics from the pod. PS. we have a book club and it's super cute. Resources: The Courage to Be Disliked - Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga (Book) Come As You Are - Emly Nagoski VUSH - Lube & Toys & Other Fun Things MAX BLACK (AUS, stores or online)

THIS IS THE CONFIDENCE BOOST YOU NEED. In this episode, through a mix of encouragement and tough love, you'll learn how to increase your self esteem, have a better relationship with your body and how to put your authentic self out there! Let this episode be your turning point. Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP   This group is an opportunity for community, growth and discussion around the weekly topics from the pod. PS. we have a book club and it's super cute. Resources:  The Courage to Be Disliked - Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga (Book) Imogen Ivy (Insta) Riley Hemson (Insta) May Ridts (Insta) Jamie Zella (Insta)

Do you have questions about bisexuality? Maybe you're bisexual or thinking you might be. Maybe you're in a relationship with somebody who identifies as bi and you simply want to educate yourself. In this episode, we discuss the reality of being bisexual: why it's something to be proud of, coming out, common mental health struggles, intersectionality, threesomes and more! Connect with Alyssa Harper Tiktok  Instagram  JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP   This group is an opportunity for community, growth and discussion around the weekly topics from the pod. PS. we have a book club and it's super cute. Resources Bi by Julia Shaw Greedy by Jen Winston

Joining us is Sex and Relationship Coach, Alyssa Ljub, answering the super juicy anonymous questions sent in by you guys! In this episode, we touch on: exploring your sexual self & sexuality without shame exploring relationships with women for the first time (as a woman) open relationships/non-monogamy religious beliefs and sex ethical porn  how to stop having pain during sex enthusiastic consent & communicating your wants/needs in the bedroom  Find Alyssa Ljub - Guest Instagram  Tiktok  Find Alyssa Harper - Host  Tiktok  Instagram  JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP   This group is an opportunity for community, growth and discussion around the weekly topics from the pod. PLUS, we will be running a Book Club focused around self growth, sexual wellness and feminism (more info soon to come)!

Have you ever not gone for something because you "just can't picture yourself doing it"? So many of our daily choices come back to visualization and the lens we see ourselves through. It's time we wipe the smudge off that lens and see the potential that truly lies within us. In this episode, we discuss the science behind WHY visualization actually works and how you can incorporate it into your life to create the life you've always wanted. We discuss automatic negative thoughts and how to change the narrative because you deserve a live filled with decisions made out of self confidence, not fear.  JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP This space will provide additional resources based on the weekly episodes. PLUS, a Book Club focused around self growth, sexual wellness and feminism (more info to come)! This is a chance for community, growth and discussion around the weekly topics from the pod. Find Alyssa Harper (@alyssataylorharper) on: Tiktok Instagram Sources: The Powerful Connection Between Your Hips and Your Emotions The Anti Anxiety Notebook The Body Keeps The Score

Have you ever wondered... What even is an orgasm? Does it just feel good or are there other benefits? Why do I sometimes feel sad after sex? Well, today you get the answers! In this episode, we also cover how your pelvic floor, your hormones and even your self-confidence can affect your orgasms. Get ready to enhance your sex life! JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP This space will provide additional resources based on the weekly episodes. PLUS, a Book Club focused around self growth, sexual wellness and feminism (more info to come)! This is a chance for community, growth and discussion around the weekly topics from the pod. Find Alyssa Harper (@alyssataylorharper) on: Tiktok Instagram Links  Ways to Give and Donate to Planned Parenthood The Three Biggest Implications For Black Women From Roe V. Wade's Fall

This episode is all the inspiration you need to shift your mindset from "ugh I'm useless on period" to "my period is an opportunity to connect with myself". We talk about how to break out of the mindset of being in constant harvest and how to accept and even appreciate our cyclical ways of being. I share with with you all of the best foods to eat to support your hormones, the best exercise to do on your period, how to journal & reflect in this phase and how to create a work/school schedule that doesn't leave you feeling drained. It's time to shift our patriarchal beliefs around our periods and begin to lean into all the beautiful benefits they give us! Find Alyssa Harper (@alyssataylorharper) on: Tiktok Instagram JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP This space will provide additional resources based on the weekly episodes. PLUS, a Book Club focused around self growth, sexual wellness and feminism (more info to come)! This is a chance for community, growth and discussion around the weekly topics from the pod. Resources: In The Flo - Alissa Vitti Why Does The FDA Recommend 2000 Calories

Being in a healthy long-term relationship is a beautiful thing. But sometimes, after things are comfortable and consistent, we can start to lose the excitement towards the sex life we share with our partner. This is often when people start questioning if the relationship is as good as they thought it was. It can be hurtful to not feel wanted and frustrating to see this spiral. But instead of assuming that a change in the sex life means the relationship has to end, why don't we talk about some alternatives. In this episode I give you an understanding of WHY this can happen and WHAT you can do to spice things up and get that feeling of novelty back. Find Alyssa Harper (@alyssataylorharper) on: Tiktok Instagram Resources: Where Do Kinks Come From? Frenchie - My fave condoms (hyaluronic acid ones are amazing) & lube! Dame - great toy selection (US & Canada) Max Black - all things sexual wellness (Australia) Normal - Australia, US, UK, Canada, New Zealand

In this episode, we have the opportunity to hear from Blue; a queer, non-binary, HILARIOUS friend of mine. Blue teaches breathe work/meditation, AND works with an organization called The Man Cave that helps facilitate conversations with young men to help them deconstruct and reform their ideas around masculinity. Blue has an inspiring story of healing, challenging their beliefs and becoming their most authentic self. Blue challenges me to be a better human on a regular basis so I KNOW this episode is going to fuel you with joy, excitement for life and the permission to explore everything life has to offer.  Find Alyssa: on Tiktok on Instagram Find Blue: on Instagram Resources: Alok on Instagram (gender non-conforming reference mentioned by Blue)

Joining us today, we have Roxanne Nai'a who is a Science Communicator and Social Psychology Doctoral Student who studies processes that impact women's experiences in the world; things like sexism, objectification of women and sexualization. In this episode we get to hear what it's like to be a women  working in science and all about the incredible studies she has done (even Cardi B had something to say about it)! We also hear about her journey with the birth control pill, the IUD and how she travelled to Canada for an IUD that wasn't available to her in the USA (if you are someone who menstruates in the USA, you NEED to hear this)! This episode is packed with empowering knowledge and the kick of feminism that we all need.  Find Alyssa: on Tiktok on Instagram Find Roxanne: on Tiktok on Instagram Resources: Racial Disparities in Postpartum Pain Management Gender Bias in Pain

Don't have time to listen to a bunch of podcasts but still want to get my #1 tips and have your best glow up yet? You're in the right place. I'll be sharing all of my secrets from fitness to mindset, to sex and sexuality, with specific brand recommendations and all of the resources listed below! Basically, here’s everything I would tell myself at the start of my self growth journey that I intentionally began about 2 years ago when I was at my worst and I decided that something needed to change. I tried a whole bunch of things to get to where I am now and THESE are the things that WORKED. This is your cheat sheet from one bestie to another. Let's Connect: Instagram Tiktok Resources: Books Atomic Habits by James Clear How Not to Die by Dr Michael Gregor The End of Mental Illness by Dr Daniel Amen In The Flo by Alissa Vitti Skin Care Dermalogica Aesop Go-To Other Products Vitable Vitamins AIM'N Activewear