We are wrapping up our series on Interdependence and how it supports our overall drive far more than our independence. There is a place for both, but our focus on being independent is limiting us. This is my Big Idea, Big Takeaway & Big Action episode where I pull out the key highlights from our series. My expert for the series is Interdependence Expert & International Trauma Facilitator, Thomas Hübl, whose new book is titled, Attuned: Practicing Interdependence to Heal Our Trauma—and Our World. In part three I broadened the discussion with a friend and collaborator of Thomas’, William Ury who is one of the world’s best-known experts on negotiation and co-founder of Harvard’s Program on Negotiation. William’s new book is called POSSIBLE: How We Survive (and Thrive) in an Age of Conflict, and we have a series with him coming up shortly. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Use promo code KEVIN today at shipstation.com to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/WHAT and use code WHAT to get 25% off your first month  Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are continuing our series with part three on Interdependence and this is a candid conversation getting to the heart of understanding each other’s traumas in order to resolve conflict. We began with Interdependence Expert & International Trauma Facilitator, Thomas Hübl, whose new book is titled, Attuned: Practicing Interdependence to Heal Our Trauma—and Our World. Here I continue the discussion with a friend and often collaborator with Thomas, William Ury. I often bring on past guests for this part three segment, but William is actually a future guest. We spent three hours together recently and I discovered he and Thomas were more than well acquainted and had done much together. William Ury is one of the world’s best-known experts on negotiation, and the co-author of Getting to Yes, the world’s all-time bestselling book on the topic with more than 15 million copies sold. He’s a co-founder of Harvard’s Program on Negotiation and has devoted his life to helping people, organizations, and nations transform conflicts around the world, having served as a negotiator in many of the toughest disputes of our times and consulted with the White House, the State Department, and the Pentagon. His upcoming book you can preorder now is titled, POSSIBLE: How We Survive (and Thrive) in an Age of Conflict, and we’ll be digging into it here on the show in the coming weeks. But these two men, Thomas Hübl and William Ury are called on by countries and organizations around the globe to bring peace to relationships, whether nation to nation, or person to person. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Use promo code KEVIN today at shipstation.com to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/WHAT and use code WHAT to get 25% off your first month  Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue our series on interdependence, and we’re back with Thomas Hübl, this time to understand what drives him personally as he walks out interdependence in his own life. Thomas is renowned as a teacher, author and facilitator who seeks to integrate core insights from the wisdom of the ages with the discoveries of science. He has worked internationally to help individuals, organizations and even countries heal from their collective trauma. He’s currently a visiting scholar at the Wyss Institute at Harvard University and our muse for this series is his new book, Attuned: Practicing Interdependence to Heal Our Trauma—and Our World. You can find the book on Amazon and connect with Thomas at thomashuebl.com You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Use promo code KEVIN today at shipstation.com to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/WHAT and use code WHAT to get 25% off your first month  Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We begin a series on interdependence and the hope and opportunity to heal ourselves and our world from within it. Many of us were raised to value independence, but from it it seems we have grown more isolated and in truth, fearful. To help us understand what is happening and what the hope is, I bring you Thomas Hübl. Thomas is renowned as a teacher, author and facilitator who skillfully integrates core insights from the wisdom of the ages with the discoveries of science. He has worked internationally to help individuals, organizations and even countries heal from their collective trauma. He’s currently a visiting scholar at the Wyss Institute at Harvard University and my muse for this series is his new book, Attuned: Practicing Interdependence to Heal Our Trauma—and Our World. You can find the book on Amazon and connect with Thomas at thomashuebl.com You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Head to factormeals.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Use promo code KEVIN today at shipstation.com to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/WHAT and use code WHAT to get 25% off your first month  Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

High blood pressure medications have become one of the most common prescriptions in our culture. Current stats put about 50% of Americans on high blood pressure, with people needing it at younger ages all the time. Like many ailments we accept this as a norm and taking blood pressure meds is like having your morning coffee or tea, just a norm. But at the core, there is a reason our blood pressure is high! High blood pressure is a symptom of the body not doing what it’s supposed to do. Or in truth, the body is trying, but it can’t overcome…something we are doing to it or not doing for it. There are little side effects to the medication itself, but what else is going on? Being overweight is the primary correlation but then you have seemingly fit people like actor Will Smith who was on them too. How does that happen? I’m joined by Randy James, medical doctor and Functional Medicine expert.  You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Head to factormeals.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/WHAT and use code WHAT to get 25% off your first month.  Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I wrap up our series on Misbelief with The Big Idea, The Big Takeaway & The Big Action where I distill it all down to what most stood out to me. What I see are the foundational fundamentals of the issue so we can better understand, embrace, and take action on how to better serve ourselves and humanity with our beliefs. Or as you’ll soon hear, our letting go of beliefs, as we tend to understand them in our culture. Our catalyst again has been Duke University professor of psychology and behavioral economics Dan Arielly and the message from his book, MISBELIEF: WHAT MAKES RATIONAL PEOPLE BELIEVE IRRATIONAL THINGS.  Most of you are aware that my father had a surprise cancer diagnosis recently. Six weeks later he took his last breath here on earth. This has shaken me, in a beneficial way, on various fronts. I find myself questioning my quote, beliefs, regarding spirituality, money, health & wellness, and relationships. You will hear more from me on this in coming episodes. But it goes to further showcase to me how we limit ourselves and cause harm to ourselves and others when we wrap ourselves up in the concepts of beliefs You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Head to factormeals.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/WHAT and use code WHAT to get 25% off your first month.  Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue our discussion on misbelief and strive to get to the heart of how our beliefs primarily exist to serve and protect us. However they are seldom if ever, fact. I want you to hear that. Few if any of your beliefs are fact. They are not right and other’s are wrong. And a dramatic amount of your current problems and stresses and relational issues are due to your unhealthy relationship with your so called beliefs. Duke University professor of psychology and behavioral economics Dan Arielly claims they are mostly in truth, “misbeliefs.” His book, MISBELIEF: WHAT MAKES RATIONAL PEOPLE BELIEVE IRRATIONAL THINGS, is our muse for this series. My co host this discussion is my brother, Jared Angaza. Who every once in a while I’ll remind you that while our last names are different and we look nothing alike, we have the same parents. Supposedly. But through a lifetime of pursuing wisdom, we’ve seen the early beliefs of our upbringing…change. Evolve. Get rejected. So we’re going to try and get to some root issues of what our beliefs are actually useful for, and when they are not. And ultimately I hope we can showcase the great freedom there is in trading in the word belief, for the term of…faith. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Head to factormeals.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/WHAT and use code WHAT to get 25% off your first month.  Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue our series on belief…by looking at misbelief. We’re back with our expert, Dan are-ee-elly, to see what drives him. And we’ll give special attention to the beliefs that drive him. Dan again is an Israeli-American professor and author who serves as a James B. Duke Professor of psychology and behavioral economics at Duke University. Ariely is the co-founder of several companies implementing insights from behavioral science. His latest book, and our muse for this series is MISBELIEF: WHAT MAKES RATIONAL PEOPLE BELIEVE IRRATIONAL THINGS. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Head to factormeals.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/WHAT and use code WHAT to get 25% off your first month.  Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You’ve heard me talk often as of late about what I’ve grown to believe are the dangers of our individual and cultural beliefs. We all want to know what is and what is not and be able to count on it. That’s human nature. But the more I’ve learned in my lifetime, the more of my past beliefs I no longer believe. I just assume then, that many of my current beliefs, I may also change as I continue to learn more. So then what value are beliefs? And how much trust do we put in our beliefs? This is a controversial topic, as we want to believe, our beliefs, are truth and fact. But…they are not. If you can’t accept that, either run from this episode, or take a deep breath and open yourself to…freedom. Our guide for this series is Dan Arielly. Dan is an Israeli-American professor and author. He serves as a James B. Duke Professor of psychology and behavioral economics at Duke University. Ariely is the co-founder of several companies implementing insights from behavioral science. His latest book, and our muse for this conversation, is MISBELIEF: WHAT MAKES RATIONAL PEOPLE BELIEVE IRRATIONAL THINGS. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Head to factormeals.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/WHAT and use code WHAT to get 25% off your first month.  Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The culture talks about “life span”, which is how long we live from the day we are born until the day our heart stops beating. Health span however, is how long you are well and able. Do you care more about living to be 100, in a nursing home, in a wheelchair, hooked up to oxygen, wearing diapers, and completely devoid of any conscious thought, or being active and able in body, mind, and spirit, well into your sixties, seventies, or eighties? Dr Randy James and I recorded this segment following our weekly, Friday guys gathering where we share our lives together. One of the guys had just spent time with his family and witnessing his elderly mother who could not get around much and was not able to join the family in much of any activity other than eating. While we want to be sensitive, he was just aware she has peers who are fully capable in body and mind and he’s aware of her lifestyle choices that have not helped the disability she finds herself in. Randy and I have a candid and I hope compassionate discussion on this and it brings to light what our goals are, and how our daily actions are supporting these goals. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Head to factormeals.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/WHAT and use code WHAT to get 25% off your first month.  Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We wrap up our series on Happierness featuring Atlantic columnist and Harvard Professor Arthur Brooks, and Oprah Winfrey, who just co authored the book, “Build The Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier.” In the last episode I also talked with my brother, Jared Angaza, and we discussed further aspects of this grand, cultural pursuit of happiness and what is at the root of it. This is my Big Idea, The Big Takeaway & The Big Action episode to distill it all down, and I found six primary issues around happiness that stood out from our conversations. Let’s walk through them together You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Head to factormeals.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/WHAT and use code WHAT to get 25% off your first month.  Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue our series on Happierness which we kicked off with Atlantic columnist and Harvard Professor, Arthur Brooks. Arthur’s new book with Oprah Winfrey is called Build The Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier. This issue of happiness is significant to me for two reasons: 1) happiness is such a hot topic because we as a culture are not finding ourselves…happy, and 2) I feel we are mostly dealing with the symptoms regarding happiness and not the root issues. To dig further into what I feel are root issues, I have with me…Jared Angaza. Jared is a strategist, activist, and storyteller behind many influential brands and campaigns. And he’s my brother and business partner and someone who I ponder the topics of drive and motive and meaning with…a lot You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Head to factormeals.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/WHAT and use code WHAT to get 25% off your first month.  Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue our series on Happierness with happiness researcher and evangelist Arthur Brooks. This is part two where we go behind the scenes to find out What Drives Arthur in his personal life as he strives to practice what he preaches. I appreciate that Arthur is up front with the fact that he’s not naturally prone to be in a so-called, happy state. He must proactively work at it. Me too. Arthur again is a Harvard Professor, a columnist at The Atlantic, a very in demand speaker, and author of 12 books. I had him on the show in 2023 for his book, From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life. The message in that book continues to influence me. This time he’s back with his new book co authored with Oprah Winfrey, titled, Build The Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier. Arthur is a very intentional person and deeply considers all areas of his life. When I asked him about his values regarding his career he spoke to his efforts to stay aware of the why of what he does as opposed to just the what. In his pursuit of health I found it interesting that he cited he’s not necessarily happy to be exercising, but it helps him be less unhappy overall. This episode is quite an interesting journey through the lifestyle of one of our cultures leading experts on happiness. Find Arthur and Oprah’s new book, Build The Life You Want, anywhere, and you can also find Arthur's new online workshop, The Art and Science of Happiness at scienceofhappier.com You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Head to factormeals.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/WHAT and use code WHAT to get 25% off your first month.  Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode we begin a series on happierness. As you're about to hear, we can't live a meaningful life and just be in a state of happy all the time. We'd actually miss out on some of the most rich aspects of our existence. And probably die early. But amongst the necessary challenges of life, we can absolutely be happier, which improves...literally everything.  My expert guest on the topic, who is back with us for the second time, is Arthur Brooks. His book Strength To Strength has been pivotal for me, and so many others, and was the focus of our first series together.  Arthur is a professor of management practice at Harvard Business School where he teaches renowned courses on happiness. His incredibly popular, How to Build a Life column at the Atlantic was found and followed by Oprah Winfrey and now Arthur and Oprah have written a book together titled, Build The Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier. I encourage you to look at Arthur's new online workshop, The Art and Science of Happiness at scienceofhappier.com The more happiness you experience, the more your drive is fueled. And this is our focus today.  You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Head to factormeals.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/WHAT and use code WHAT to get 25% off your first month.  Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier! Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the previous episode I shared “What My Dad’s Pending Death Can Teach Us About Living.” (visit his tribute page https://murial.life/dan-miller) Today I highlight a message my mom feels burdened with during this acute time of life. Death gets us serious about what is really important, and this is a message she wants to communicate to everyone, and it’s a message I feel is worthy of communicating. More than worthy. I believe it’s the key, literally, to how you can most tangibly change the world and impact it for the better. My mom is Joanne Miller. She prides herself most on being Mom to myself, my brother Jared, and sister Ashley. And then grandmother to her 16 grandkids and 4, soon to be 5, great grandkids. She is well known as wife and partner to my Dad, Dan Miller, of 48 Days To The Work & Life You Love fame. She is also mother figure and friend to countless people. Those roles are top of the list. Further down, yet quite impressive, she is author of two books, Be Your Finest Art and Creating A Haven Of Peace. She has co-produced a lot of material with my Dad at 48days.com, like the Living, Loving & Working audio that any entrepreneurial couple should hear. And she is an accomplished artists who has participated in many galleries and has a lot of paid-for paintings hanging on people’s walls. Including mine, though she didn’t make me pay. She is a tremendous human who I cherish deeply. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m going to tell a story about the mortal death of my Dad. it’s a story that is happening right now. I’m sitting out by the pool at his Florida home right now as I write this episode out. He’s asleep about 30 feet away in my parent’s bedroom, in a hospice bed, on morphine. (visit his tribute page at murial.life/dan-miller) But before the story, is the reason for the story. And the reason is…you. And me. We don’t have a terminal illness diagnosis. I assume. If you do, please let me know, I’d love to talk. Email me now at kmiller@kevinmiller.co. But assuming you don’t, let’s talk about it. Being given a life ending diagnosis with a timeline is life changing. I’m experiencing it for the first time. What is profound to me however is, we all have a life ending diagnosis. We will all…die. We just live with the assumption it will be a long time in the future. So we live with an expectation of more time. My question is, what if we are missing the point? What if the best thing to happen to us would be a life ending diagnosis so we could see, and live, clearly? Let’s talk… You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a What Drives Your Health episode. Your health comes from what you do and don’t eat, and what exercise you do and don’t do. And good sleep. Basically your lifestyle. Add to that your genetics and we have it pretty much covered, right? But what about your thinking? Not your mental state, but your actual thinking? Can you think yourself healthy? Or unhealthy? I’m with my great friend, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert and he and I have been studying this concept for a long time. A book we read cites a study where people worked out their biceps, with dumbbells. But half of the test subjects were tasked with just thinking about growing their bicep. The first group using dumbbells, grew their biceps. They measured bigger. The second group who just thought about it, also, got bigger biceps. Not as much as the actual dumbbell lifters, but take the measuring tape, and sure enough...they got bigger biceps just from thinking about it. Now take that to your health. As you’ll hear in this show, I talk about an injury I have. The only mental input I give it is...negative. I think about the pain and the lack. According to this study I could be helping heal it with my thoughts, but currently I’m making it worse. Let’s talk about how to use some thinking exercises to increase our health. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I bring you a special What Drives You episode with renowned author of “The Millennial Whisperer”, Chris Tuff. Chris was one of the first advertisers to work directly with Mark Zuckerberg in 2006 and filmed one of the first ever, “viral” videos, which landed him on the front page of The Wall Street Journal. Tuff’s natural ability to connect with his nearly 80% millennial and Gen Z workforce led him to publish the national bestselling The Millennial Whisperer in 2019. A global movement soon followed, as the Atlanta resident shared lessons on empathy and genuine connection at work on some of the largest stages in the world including such Fortune 100 companies as Nike. I of course wanted to dig into Chris’s personal drives, and you’ll be interested to hear that his initial drive was simply to…beat his older brothers. In anything and everything. While that may not sound dramatic, the thread you’ll keep hearing in these shows is how often seemingly innocuous events in our youth direct the trajectory of our lives and we don’t even realize it. Chris went on to find himself just 7 years ago, burned out. A wife, two kids, great success in work, and totally spent. He took a month-long sabbatical and reinvented his life. In this episode you’ll hear how his story unfolded, and through it I believe you’ll find aspects that reveal similar issues in your life, that you can reinvent. Find Chris at themillennialwhisperer.com You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I bring you a special What Drives You episode with Maya Shankar. Maya is a cognitive scientist and the creator, host, and executive producer of the podcast, A Slight Change of Plans, made in collaboration with Malcolm Gladwell's production company, Pushkin Industries. A Slight Change of Plans was named the Apple Podcast of the Year in 2021. Maya actually founded the Behavioral Science Team at the White House, called “the Nudge Unit, which used insights from behavioral economics to write better public policy. Maya’s focus is around what happens to and in us, when change happens. Change we’ve pursued, and change that has fallen upon us. As you’re about to hear, there are often great and terrible consequences. Like the girl who lost 100 lbs and realized she was no longer who she was, and who she liked, and she was disappointed at people’s new behavior to her just because she lost weight. And the health nut who got cancer and from it realized if he’d understood what dealing with cancer did for his mindset, he wouldn’t have feared it so much. Join me as I have a very candid discussion with Maya on the ins and outs of what happens to us when change...happens. And find her new podcast, A Slight Change of Plans, wherever you get your podcasts. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a What Drives Your Health episode and we’re talking about your thyroid. Your thyroid regulates much of your body, such as metabolism, growth and development. We as a culture are having more and more thyroid dysregulation. In this episode we dig into what problems thyroid dysregulation causes within us so you can hopefully ascertain if you are being negatively affected. We cover how traditional medicine treats it, and then of course how my co host, Dr Randy James, would treat it from a Functional Medicine perspective, even down to nutritional supplements and recommended dosages. Here in America many people suffer from hypo and hyper - thyroidism, though hypo is most common and the result is feeling the brakes are on in your physical health and you are pushing forward and feeling like you’re in quicksand. Let’s see if we can shed some light on the issue. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, What Drives Your New Year. You can get a fresh start any time. Any day. But I do appreciate the magic of January 1. Party because I enjoy the indulgences and challenges of the holiday season. I usually come to the New Year with lots of joy and memories, and a bit strung out from all the busyness, socializing, and celebrating, and I'm ready for a reboot. The most popular concepts people turn to are New Years Resolutions and Goals. Which are fine terminologies, though for some people, goals especially are not motivating. I'm going to give you some concepts that may resonate with you more, and regardless I want to share how to fuel your drive toward new things and avoid what most commonly derails people. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Matthew Del Negro is a celebrated actor credited for roles in some of TV's most-renowned and award-winning shows such as SOPRANOS, SCANDAL, Goliath & WEST WING, and films HOT PURSUIT and WIND RIVER. He appears in all three seasons of Showtime's City on a Hill opposite Kevin Bacon as Detective Caysen. In this episode with me he referenced talking with Kevin Bacon on set the day before, and I was admittedly honored he chose to spend time with me, a little bit lesser known Kevin. I had him on the show of course to talk about what drives him. Matt said being a professional actor is a career of being told no for a living, and three years ago he decided to give voice to this journey of overcoming rejection by starting a podcast called 10,000 NOs. From the success of that podcast he was offered a book deal and his book is also titled, 10,000 NOs. That’s why he’s here. I was intrigued by his personal story of starting out as the peacekeeper in his family, being shattered by a breakup with his girlfriend and finally finding himself and taking up acting later in life. What were his motives? What drove him, good and bad? As you’ll hear, we really resonated as we got to the heart of...motives and drive. You can find Matt's book 10,000 NOs on Amazon and find him on any podcast player at 10,000 NOs and you can see him in City on a Hill, on Showtime. Instagram: @mattydel Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I bring you Silicon Valley legend and all around wise guy, Guy Kawasaki. I’ve read Guys books, had him on my shows twice before, hung out with him face to face in San Diego and I think our relationship was solidified after he butt dialed my cell phone one afternoon and we talked a while about him starting a podcast, which he did...called Guy Kawasaki’s Remarkable People which has now become a top ranked podcast. Guy was the original Chief Evangelist of Apple and has many stories about him with Steve Jobs and the early foundations of Apple. Today he’s an evangelist for Canva and Mercedes but much more than that just a big influence and all around fun guy. I brought back to talk about his early and current drives, both personally and professionally. Honestly, this is just a fun romp through Guy admitting he never had huge visions, but he did have clear motives and he went forth and accomplished them. As you'll hear some of his early motives included simply avoiding robbery and getting a nice car. This will be a good showcase that you don’t need giant killing, uber altruistic goals to get you driven and achieving great things. You just need clear goals you have faith in. You can connect with Guy Kawasaki...everywhere, he’s a social media giant. His website is guykawasaki.com and I really encourage you to check out his podcast, Guy Kawasaki’s Remarkable People. You can watch this full episode on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Everything in our lives is speeding up. Technology and artificial intelligence and deliveries and...boom. We can fill every second with something new and interesting and the marketplace is focused on delivering us instantaneous gratification in any way possible. Compared to our grandparents and especially great-grandparents, the speed and convenience of life and survival is supersonic. We can do in one hour, maybe even 20 minutes, what it took them all day to achieve. So how is it working for us? Are we awash in free time and leisure? Are we happier and healthier and more at peace than ever? Exuding so much joy as a result of all the privilege we have? You know the answer. We as a culture are sicker, sadder, and more anxious than ever. But the speed and convenience is not bad, only our management of it. I can have a burger for a dollar in a minute at a drive-through, or have one that costs $10 and an hour over my grill. Which will serve me better? Dr Randy James and I talk through this issue, not with certainty, but with grappling. You can watch this full episode on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I wrap up our series on perfectionism and how it is hurting our drive. This is the Big Idea, The Big Takeaway & The Big Action episode to distill it all down. Being a perfectionist is not something to be proud of, and it in fact points toward our inability to be authentic and a propensity to people please and perform. It points to our insecurity, not strength. My catalyst and expert for the series was Thomas Curran, a professor in the Department of Psychological and Behavioral Science at the London School of Economics. Thomas studies the personality characteristic of perfectionism, how it develops, and how it impacts our mental health. His TED talk on our dangerous obsession with perfectionism has received more than three million views. In part three I brought on my brother, Jared Angaza, to discuss our journeys as seeking perfectionists who thought we were being valiant but ultimately realize we were attempting to fill our self-identity voids. Come with me as I boil down the highlights of what I’ve found out, and am striving to learn. You can watch these full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue our talk on perfectionism and how we’re letting it diminish our success and joy. We kicked off the series with Thomas Curran who is a professor in the Department of Psychological and Behavioral Science at the London School of Economics where he studies the personality characteristic of perfectionism, how it develops, and how it impacts our mental health. Check out his TED talk on our dangerous obsession with perfectionism that’s gotten more than three million views. Thomas’s new book is The Perfection Trap: Embracing the Power of Good Enough. Here I’m joined by my brother, Jared Angaza, and for my part will say we’ve both spent much of our lives with an unhealthy pursuit of perfectionism. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode I'm back with Thomas Curran in our series on Perfectionism and how we don’t understand what it actually says about us and how it is sabotaging our drive…for the purpose of…getting out of the Perfection Trap. This is part 2 in our series and it’s the What Drives You episode where we go behind the scenes to hear what drives the expert on perfection, in the key areas of life. Thomas again has a PhD in psychology and is a professor in the Department of Psychological and Behavioral Science at the London School of Economics where he studies the personality characteristic of perfectionism, how it develops, and how it impacts our mental health. I encourage you to check out his TED talk on our dangerous obsession with perfectionism that has received more than three million views. Thomas’s new book and our muse for this series is The Perfection Trap: Embracing the Power of Good Enough which you can get. I’m interested in hearing how Thomas deals with perfectionism and good enough in his daily life! You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm with Thomas Curran to begin a series on Perfectionism and how we don’t understand what it actually says about us and how it is sabotaging our drive…for the purpose of…getting out of the Perfection Trap. Thomas Curran has a PhD in psychology and is a professor in the Department of Psychological and Behavioral Science at the London School of Economics. Thomas studies the personality characteristic of perfectionism, how it develops, and how it impacts our mental health. His TED talk on our dangerous obsession with perfectionism has received more than three million views and his research has been featured in media ranging from the Harvard Business Review to New Scientist to CNN. Thomas’s new book He is the author of The Perfection Trap: Embracing the Power of Good Enough You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I ask, What Drives Christmas, and give Ideas On How To Actually Enjoy The Holiday Season & Fuel Your New Year. Sometimes we have an extraordinary experience from a spontaneous event. But for the most part the epic and fulfilling moments in our lives come from intentionality. While there is often much planning around the time from Thanksgiving to Christmas and the holiday season overall, there is seldom intentionality and it feels like every year finds more and more people performing a tradition of obligation more than celebrating a time of actual joy. The season is rife with expectations and “shoulds” and it can often leave you wondering if anyone actually enjoyed it. I surely won’t be so arrogant as to offer a die hard solution. But I’ll offer some ideas and insights that have worked for me and others. And sometimes it helps to simply get honest about what is driving you, even if you don’t decide to change a thing. I’m going to follow along my seven key areas of life, with an addition, and what tends to drive us during the holidays, and help reveal what drives you, so you can course correct the circumstances and/or your mind. You can make this a quick and simple exercise to write down or simply consider what is driving you, or what you want to be driving you…and why. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is our What Drives Your Health show where we give specific focus to our health and wellness. The vehicle that drives all we do. In this episode we continue talking through stories of people who made big health changes, and why. In this episode we cover breast implant illness, having the consummate dad bod, weight loss after a child called her fat, aching knees and hips from being heavy, quitting tobacco, afib, and type 2 diabetes. I’m with my health guru and best friend Randy James, medical doctor and functional medicine expert. He’ll be speaking from his daily experience with patients. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult-themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode I wrap up our series on Physical Transformation with my Big ideas, Big Takeaways and Big Actions. I began our series with a conversation with celebrity trainer Don Saladino who regularly trains the likes of Ryan Reynolds, Blake Lively, and Hugh Jackman. Instead of mere tips and tricks and hacks he gave the hardcore lesson on mindset and how it’s more about how we think than merely how we train. I just watched the new Christmas movie starring Ryan Reynolds, Spirited, with my kids and had fun showing off pics of Ryan with Don, and me…with Don. And I’m actually starting Don’s program, The Long Game, to help me get back in shape after 10 weeks out due to injury. You can get 20% off any of Don’s ePrograms at donsaladino.com and use code Drive. In part 3 I continued the conversation on Physical Transformation with my pal, medical doctor and Functional Medicine guru Randy James, and he shared from his perspective on sitting with patients every day, who are looking for physical transformation, though instead of getting shredded to play Deadpool like Ryan, they are mostly trying to alleviate chronic pains and illness and gain back their physical capacity. From these conversations and my own life experience with physical transformations, I’ve pulled out some primary highlights for achievable and sustainable physical transformation.  You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult-themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue our series on Physical Transformation. I kicked us off with celebrity coach Don Saladino who is well known as trainer of the biggest names in Hollywood such as Ryan Reynolds, Blake Lively, Emily Blunt, Jake Gyllenhaal, Hugh Jackman and more. I appreciate he gets paid big bucks for results. Period. So he can’t sugarcoat or minimize what it takes to transform a body. Which is…hard, and it takes far more than just giving direction on how to lift weights, run, and eat. So I asked my friend, medical doctor and functional medicine expert, Randy James, to join me in this discussion. He, like Don, is paid out of pocket for transformation. While Don often has people coming to him to change their physical appearance, Randy generally has people coming to him to change how they feel physically. But I think the psychology is the same. It means different goals, different habits, and ultimately different beliefs about yourself. Find Don at donsaladino.com and Dr James at truelifemedicine.com Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with fitness trainer and leader Don Saladino for this series on physical transformation. In our previous episode we dove deep into the myriad of complexities and information overload on diet and nutrition and exercise and what it really takes to transform our physical selves, whether you’re Ryan Reynolds getting shredded to play Deadpool or a civilian like me striving to simply look and feel well. This is my What Drives You episode where we go behind the scenes with Don personally to find out what drives him in the key areas of life…what his values are and how he strives to walk them out day to day. Find Don at donsaladino.com and use code “drive” to get 10% off his e-programs You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re talking about physical transformation, and my intent is to sift through the dramatic amount of information and gimmicks and one-size-fits-all information and take it all to task to help us each get some clarity on what it takes to get our physical selves to the place we desire. Most of us come to a time of desiring to transform our bodies. We want to lose weight, gain muscle, trim and firm, or just feel better. But knowing what will really help us is like finding a needle in a haystack. So, I’ve brought on an expert who gets paid for results. Period. Don Saladino is a coach, keynote Speaker, and health entrepreneur that has coached actors, athletes, & musicians for over 20 years. I recently had renowned doctor and strength evangelist Gabrielle Lyon on the show and after our conversation she said I had to have Don on the show because one, he’s such a quality human, and two, he’s a true fitness guru. Don has worked with thousands of people to help them transform, but as you’ll see on social media, he’s developed a massive reputation for training some of the biggest names in Hollywood for the big screen, such as Ryan Reynolds, Blake Lively, Emily Blunt, Sebastian Stan, Anne Hathaway, Jake Gyllenhaal, Hugh Jackman and more. What I appreciate about that is he’s being paid big dollars to make sure not one move and not one minute is wasted, so there is no fluff or just going through the motions. Every effort has to produce results. He also works with…all of us. He has online programs to accommodate everyone at donsaladino.com and DRIVE for 20% off all e-programs You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is our What Drives Your Health show where we give specific focus to our health and wellness. The vehicle that drives all we do. In this episode I wanted to hear from people who have made significant health improvements and what their catalyst was. I asked listeners to share their health accomplishments. I asked to hear from people who were out of shape and possibly ill...and got fit and healthy, and what was the catalyst for them. What triggered them to finally make change and commit to it? My cohost is Randy James, medical doctor and Functional Medicine expert, and my dear friend. Dr James and I talked through comments that included, chronic back pain and back injury, weight gain due to health problems and medication, committing to health due to responsibility to family, and not wanting to be a future burden to family, spinal surgery recovery, and family history of heart attacks. The discussion was rich on what caused these folks to take big action on their health and we didn’t get to half the responses and will continue in the next What Drives Your Health episode. This should give many of you some significant inspiration and equipping to make any big changes you may be looking for in your own health and wellness journey. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I wrap up our series on self-coaching with - The Big Idea, The Big Takeaway & The Big Action episode to distill it all down. Following are the highlights I got from my initial talk with Ajit Nawalkha, co-founder of Mindvalley and founder of Evercoach and the Dharma Coaching Institute, and author of Live Big The Entrepreneurs Guide To Passion, Practicality & Purpose. Then in part three I talked with Dan Miller, author of 48 Days To The Work & Life You Love, and…my father, who has been a coach for 30 years. The punchline of the series is to self coach, and to know what outside coaching you may need, you must first know yourself. The best you can for now. And I end this episode with a list of powerful resources.  You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue our series on self coaching, which I started with Ajit Nawalkha, co-founder of Mindvalley and founder of Evercoach and the Dharma Coaching Institute, and author of Live Big The Entrepreneurs Guide To Passion, Practicality & Purpose. A primary platform of Ajit’s is our need to self coach, and we unpacked this in part 1. This is part 3 where I bring another expert in the field to discuss the issue, and I have with me one of the most prolific business and personal coaches I know. Dan Miller, author of 48 Days To The Work & Life You Love. Find him at 48days.com. Dan has been coaching people, and coaching coaches for as long as I can remember. Which is a long time. As it still surprises people if they don’t put two and two together…yes, he’s my father!  You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with super coach Ajit Nawalkha in this series on self-coaching. In our first show together we dug deep into what self coaching is, and some of the major issues around personal transformation. This is part two, my What Drives You episode where I get behind the scenes with Ajit on what truly drives him in the key areas of life, which is where the real self coaching comes in. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” The What Drives You podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up today at butcherbox.com/selfhelpful and use code selfhelpful to get free chicken wings for a year. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We kick off a series on self coaching. Self coaching will ultimately drive you more than anything else. My expert guest is Ajit Nawalkha. Ajit founded or co-founded several companies that focus on human transformation, including Mindvalley, Evercoach, and the Dharma Coaching Institute. Ajit leads more than a million people in personal transformation via emails, videos, and podcasts. I learned of Ajit through Mindvalley where he served as CEO. And it was actually after booking him I realized he was married to Neeta Bhushan who I had on the show about a year ago with her book, That Sucked Now What. Ajit has a book called Live Big that I’ll be referencing, but our focus is dealing with the myriad of personal information out there and the necessity and opportunity to lead yourself. First you must come to trust yourself. Listen in. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There is a culprit draining your energy. Anxiety. And here’s the deal, you do have anxiety. You are on the spectrum. We all are. Our effort is to help you understand this so you can work to mitigate it. In our culture today we know pesticides have gotten into all our foods. We can’t escape it, it permeates our entire country at this point. Same with anxiety. We live amongst it and can’t avoid it, even if we don’t feel we worry about much. Even as we’ve normalized anxiety. We’re finding people are so often feeling drained by day’s end and they aren’t aware of the role the anxiety of our culture plays in our lives. I’m with my Peak Wellness co-host, Randy James, medical doctor and Functional Medicine Expert, and we’re going to get anxiety on the table and discuss how to mitigate it. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm wrapping up our series on avoiding burnout, which happens when we are driving and out of alignment. My catalyst for the series was Dr Neha Sangwan who was juggling 18 critically ill patients per day and barely surviving 36-hour shifts fueled by sugar and caffeine in her early 30s. She did it…till she couldn’t. And she realized something had to give. She used her scientific background to climb back out and her new book is Powered by Me: From Burned out to Fully Charged at Work and in Life. I then brought on Heather Monahan. We did a series just a couple months ago on Confidence Heather is a two times best-selling author, first with her book Confidence Creator, and now with her latest book, Overcome Your Villains: Mastering Your Beliefs, Actions, and Knowledge to Conquer Any Adversity. Heather is the host of the Creating Confidence podcast and she knows burnout from many years in the high levels of corporate America. But burnout can happen for anyone, anywhere, at any time, if you are not being authentic to you, and wreck your drive. Let’s hit the highlights You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and shop using the promo code KEVIN23 to save up to $350 off purifiers, 20% off filters and get a free 3 year extended warranty on any purifiers in cart! ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue our series on Avoiding Burnout and my catalyst for the series was Dr Neha Sangwan, a doctor who did just that, burnt out. Her new book is called Powered by Me: From Burned out to Fully Charged at Work and in Life I just saw Neha on the Today show alongside Mel Robbins and saw she’s going to be on Mel’s show, she was just on Gabby Reece’s show as well as Dr Mark Hyman and she’s hit a nerve with her insight. In this episode I brought on another expert on burnout, Heather Monahan. Heather did a series with me on Confidence just a couple months ago that I urge you to check out. Heath is a two times best-selling author, first with her book Confidence Creator, and now with her latest book, Overcome Your Villains: Mastering Your Beliefs, Actions, and Knowledge to Conquer Any Adversity. You can find that on Amazon. Heather is the host of the Creating Confidence podcast which you’ll generally find in the top 200 podcast overall in Apple Podcasts and I encourage you to search for and subscribe to right now. Find her at heathermonahan.com Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and shop using the promo code KEVIN23 to save up to $350 off purifiers, 20% off filters and get a free 3 year extended warranty on any purifiers in cart! ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with Dr Neha Sangwan, our expert for this series on Burnout, and now we’re digging into what drives her in the 7 key areas of life. Neha is an MD, engineer, CEO, communication specialist, and author of POWERED BY ME: From Burned out to Fully Charged at Work and in Life and connect with her as intuitiveintelligenceinc.com. I’m eager to hear how Neha has crafted her life to avoid…burnout. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and shop using the promo code KEVIN23 to save up to $350 off purifiers, 20% off filters and get a free 3 year extended warranty on any purifiers in cart! ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are taking on the very real and present danger of…burnout. Something that happens when your drive is out of alignment. What you want and why is not resonating. My expert is Dr Neha Sangwan who comes from her own story as a doctor juggling 18 critically ill patients per day and barely surviving 36-hour shifts fueled by sugar and caffeine in her early 30s. She did it…till she couldn’t. And she realized something had to give. She used her scientific background to jumpstart her journey of renewal and catalyze her mission to heal humanity. And that is what happens. We keep going and keep doing…until we can’t. That is the risk. If you are on the path to burnout, there will be an end. So we’re here to help you avoid this. Neha’s new book is titled, Powered by Me: From Burned out to Fully Charged at Work and in Life and connect with her as intuitiveintelligenceinc.com You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and shop using the promo code KEVIN23 to save up to $350 off purifiers, 20% off filters and get a free 3 year extended warranty on any purifiers in cart! ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is our Peak Wellness show where we give specific focus to our health and wellness. The vehicle that drives all we do. In this episode, we’re talking about snacking at night. Specifically with ice cream. I have on the show, Sean Folkson, the founder of Nightfood, a better, healthier, and more sleep friendly ice cream. I’m not advocating eating ice cream late at night, but as you’ll hear in the show, the concept is, if you’re going to anyway, at least make it a better option. Randy and I often talk about all of us being creatures of our appetites, and we won’t squelch that. Trying to leads to failure. But let’s upgrade our appetites. That’s why I have Sean on the show and he simply felt like if he was going to indulge anyway, could he make it less harmful? More than ice cream we simply discuss the realities of our own humanity and our efforts to make better decisions, even if it’s a less offensive ice cream than Ben & Jerry’s or Haagen Daz. I generally try not to eat after dinner, but if I do, I strive for the healthiest thing I can to appease my appetite. I think you’ll find some comfort in this show...about comfort food. We’re seeking health, we’re not seeking to deprive ourselves of every pleasure! Find Sean and his tasty treats at nightfood.com Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and shop using the promo code KEVIN23 to save up to $350 off purifiers, 20% off filters and get a free 3 year extended warranty on any purifiers in cart! ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Head to FACTORMEALS.com/whatdrivesyou50 and use code whatdrivesyou50 to get 50% off. Go to ShipStation.com and use code KEVIN today and sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by another self-help guide and curator and I bring him to you because I wanted to dig into his interest in personal development and why he’s making such a huge effort to influence the culture with it, and doing it in a big way, I might add. And I want you to hear another angle on helping you take all the info and actually applying it to your life. My guest is Lee Rankinen, who is the Co-Founder (along with Justin Malik) and producer of the Optimal Living Daily podcast network. Justin earned his MBA at Pepperdine University in 2010, where he met Justin Malik, and both eventually launched a six-figure app business. After feeling unfulfilled with the app business, Justin & Lee launched Optimal Living Daily to spread motivational & inspirational messages, which has garnered over 400M downloads since launching in December 2015. For context I’m at just about 65 million downloads in the same amount of time. If you like this podcast, you will absolutely want to check out the Optimal Living Daily podcasts, which are bite size messages of hope, inspiration, and equipping. Let’s talk about how to best apply all this self help and personal development to your life! You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and shop using the promo code KEVIN23 to save up to $350 off purifiers, 20% off filters and get a free 3 year extended warranty on any purifiers in cart! ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I wrap up our series on Human Design with my Big Idea, Big Takeaway & Big Action. Human design is another take on personality profiles. Think of Myers Briggs, DISC, or the Enneagram. The purpose of these is to understand your natural propensities and predispositions, so you can better understand and leverage yourself and others. I’ll speak more to the benefit in a moment. The difference with Human Design is all the others are self reporting, while Human Design is based on your birth date, time and location. That’s it. Yes, this is the concept of astrology and according to my good, Christian upbringing is blasphemy. I’m doing a series on it because one, I found the results for me to be incredibly revealing and useful, and two, I don’t see any problem in the concept being designed by God. Drive with me a moment and let me unpack my experience and thoughts, so you may consider utilizing this tool for your own benefit.  You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems Get your Blueprint guide, a personalized guide to your unique human design here: https://humandesignblueprint.com/guide/ and use discount code DRIVE for 10% off!Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and shop using the promo code KEVIN23 to save up to $350 off purifiers, 20% off filters and get a free 3 year extended warranty on any purifiers in cart! ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue our series on human design, which we kicked off with expert Erin Claire Jones, one of the most influential people in the human design arena. Erin runs Human Design Blueprint, and if you go to humandesignblueprint.com you can get a free profile, and if you want to upgrade to the paid one like I did, use code “drive” to get 10% off. This is part three where I bring in another expert to discuss the issue, and with me is Renée Marino. Many of you know Renée as she’s been a guest on the show and this must be the 5th or so time she’s joined me to co-host. She’s a personal development expert and connoisseur, but you may know her as a broadway and big screen star, you can watch her anytime in Clint Eastwood’s movie Jersey Boys where she plays the main female lead. Today you’ll find her on stage and camera as a communications expert, and I highly recommend you go check her out at reneemarino.com You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Get your Blueprint guide, a personalized guide to your unique human design here: https://humandesignblueprint.com/guide/ and use discount code DRIVE for 10% off! Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and shop using the promo code KEVIN23 to save up to $350 off purifiers, 20% off filters and get a free 3 year extended warranty on any purifiers in cart! ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with Erin Claire Jones, my expert in our series on Human Design. This is the What Drives You episode to talk with her through what drives her in all the key areas of life, and how she walks that out. Erin is an expert in Human Design and one of the most well known leaders in the space. She looks at how human design reveals our energetic blueprint and specifically, how it looks at how people are designed to cultivate relationships, parent, make decisions, build businesses, market, communicate, work within teams and so much more. Erin’s intent is to give people permission and tools to be themselves as individuals, in family, in business and in relationships. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Get your Blueprint guide, a personalized guide to your unique human design here: https://humandesignblueprint.com/guide/ and use discount code DRIVE for 10% off! Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and shop using the promo code KEVIN23 to save up to $350 off purifiers, 20% off filters and get a free 3 year extended warranty on any purifiers in cart! ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We kick off a series on Human Design. I first experienced it like a personality profile, which I’ve grown up taking, from Myers Briggs, to the Disc profile, to most recently the Enneagram. I greatly appreciate them all in regards to getting insight into my personality predispositions and propensities. But I’ve always struggled with the aspect that they are self-reporting. We choose the answers and I struggle to answer naturally. The Human Design concept however, simply goes off your birthdate, birth time, and city of birth. I read a review that said it’s like astrology on steroids. I was raised in the bible belt. I grew up in church. Astrology was blasphemy. But here is the deal. I had a Human Design Blueprint done, and the profile I got back addressed issues about me that nothing else has every uncovered. So regardless of my skepticism, I just can’t deny it. So with me today is Erin Claire Jones. Erin is an expert in Human Design and one of the most well known leaders in the space. She looks at how human design reveals our energetic blueprint and specifically, how it looks at how people are designed to cultivate relationships, parent, make decisions, build businesses, market, communicate, work within teams and so much more. Erin’s intent is to give people permission and tools to be themselves as individuals, in family, in business and in relationships. I had a meeting with Erin weeks ago just to connect with her and admit this was a new world for me, and I just immediately was attracted to her spirit and relatability and grace for my pondering. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and shop using the promo code KEVIN23 to save up to $350 off purifiers, 20% off filters and get a free 3 year extended warranty on any purifiers in cart! ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is our Peak Wellness show where we give specific focus to our health and wellness. The vehicle that drives all we do. In this episode…we address how to run. Specifically, how to run without injury and keep running into old age. We’re advocating running simply because it’s one of the easiest exercises that can be done nearly anywhere and anytime with little to no equipment required. So many people who would run however, do not. Even those who used to at an elite level. The reason? Aches and pains. We’ve gotten to where it’s the norm to stop running earlier in life and try to find an exercise with less impact. I had that as my own story. I did a 2 hour run on Father’s Day about xis years ago. It was glorious. Except for the pain in my hip and back. Then my co host Dr Randy James and I got a hold of some new information. Today we both run pain free. It’s not a guarantee for you, but it sure is a great hope and opportunity for all those who would like to continue, or start running. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and shop using the promo code KEVIN23 to save up to $350 off purifiers, 20% off filters and get a free 3 year extended warranty on any purifiers in cart! ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode… I wrap up our series on mindset, specifically looking at what a growth mindset really is and the understanding that most of us are in fact not walking out a growth mindset, but are stuck in performance. This is our The Big Idea, The Big Takeaway & The Big Action episode to distill it all down. I kicked off by talking with Stanford-trained mindset expert Eduardo Briceño, the author of The Performance Paradox: Turning The Power of Mindset Into Action. It’s Eduardo’s research on how we miss the growth mindset that was my catalyst. He is also co-founder of Mindset Works with renowned Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck. I then brought on Tom Ziglar, son of famed growth mindset expert Zig Ziglar, and CEO of Ziglar. Ziglar as a company is one of the most premier growth oriented companies in existence. From these talks I’m made greatly aware of how I too get stuck in performance and am not actually growing. So in reviewing all the notes for the actions I want to take toward growth, I came up with the key points, and I want to share them with you. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue our series on mindset, and specifically, a growth mindset vs a fix mindset, and how those of us who believe we have a growth mindset are often sabotaging it with a fixed mindset. I kicked off the series with Stanford-trained mindset expert Eduardo Briceño, author of The Performance Paradox: Turning The Power of Mindset Into Action. He is co-founder of Mindset Works with renowned Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck. Here I’m with Tom Ziglar, CEO of Ziglar, Inc where this very podcast started. Tom is son of Zig Ziglar and as Ziglar is one of the premier purveyors of a growth mindset on planet earth, there is no one more insightful on the opportunity, and challenges, of a growth mindset, than Tom Ziglar. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with Eduardo Briceño to find out what drives him in the key areas of life. In the previous episode Eduardo and I kicked off this series on mindset, as he is a Stanford-trained mindset expert and author of The Performance Paradox: Turning The Power of Mindset Into Action. He is co-founder of Mindset Works with renowned Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck. You can find Eduardo at briceno.com You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We kick off a series on mindset, and specifically, a growth mindset. We’ll define it, but I think most of you are aware of a growth mindset vs a fixed mindset. And we all probably think we understand and have a growth mindset. And yet what you’re about to hear is how we often sabotage our intent to be growth minded and lose the benefit. You’re going to have your eyes opened, and be able to make immediate shifts that will give you the benefits you desire. My expert on the topic is Stanford-trained mindset expert Eduardo Briceño. Eduardo is the author of The Performance Paradox: Turning The Power of Mindset Into Action. He is co-founder of Mindset Works with renowned Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck. You can find Eduardo at briceno.com You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a brief message about What Drives You, and an announcement that the show name is changing to just that. As of now, the Self Helpful podcast is evolving to “What Drives You.” I’ll explain a little, but first, the point is, you… You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is our Peak Wellness show where we give specific focus to our health and wellness. The vehicle that drives all we do. In this episode, How To Upgrade Your Personal OS. When your phone or computer is always on, always running multiple programs, it gets bogged down. We often power it down and reboot. As humans we get this. We go through a day and by the end, we need relief and rest. We kick off the shoes, get some food, maybe watch a show, then sleep. But now think about upgrading the operating system on your phone. That’s different. You shut down every program, power the phone completely down, then allow the operating system to be updated and upgraded. It may take a while and require some input along the way to set things up correctly. When we keep running the same programs of our life without ever taking a break to allow new information to come in and take root, we miss the possibility of a real upgrade. In this episode Dr Randy James and I talk about the primary roles in our lives and the concept of backing off from them for a time. A day. A week. Taking in new information and taking time to consider our true desires. Our authentic drive. Then coming back to the world with an upgrade. Think about this in terms of your job. The work you do. Being a spouse. A parent. Being a homeowner and parent who is continually keeping up with everything. How can you take a step back, so you can resume with an upgraded you?  You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I wrap the series on Heal Thy Self. I began with Dr. Bradley Nelson, veteran holistic physician and one of the world’s foremost experts on natural methods of achieving wellness. He’s author of the best-selling book "The Emotion Code" which provides step-by-step instructions for working with the body's energy and healing power. His new book is, “The Body Code: Unlocking Your Body's Ability to Heal Itself,” and it is was our muse for this series. The concept of tapping into your subconscious to guide you in how to heal yourself, is initially a stretch for me. But there is just so much of it that makes sense and I have too many people I respect who attest to finding healing through these methods, so I wanted to being the concepts to us all. I invited my close friend Randy James to discuss this topic with me in part three. Randy is a medical doctor and functional medicine expert, and he too felt that while some of the concept is hard to embrace, there is just so much that lines up about the power of our own psyche and the lack of addressing emotional damage in any other way. Here I strive to address some highlights and bring in some issues we didn’t even address in the previous three episodes. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Receive a free LMNT Sample Pack with any order at DrinkLMNT.com/Kevin. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue this series on Heal Thy Self that we kicked off with veteran holistic physician Dr. Bradley Nelson. His best-selling book "The Emotion Code" provides step-by-step instructions for working with the body's energy healing power. His new book is, “The Body Code: Unlocking Your Body's Ability to Heal Itself,” and it is our muse for this discussion. The methods he talks about have some basis in science but require…some faith and mind expanding. I found enough people testifying to Dr Nelson and his concepts that I wanted to discuss it more, and when I find people who are influencing lots of people, and people I respect, I want to know more. This is an exploration of possibility. It doesn’t mean I understand and follow it all. To help, I have here with me today Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, and my dear friend. We’re going to talk about the concept, respectfully, candidly and with as little bias as possible.  You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of Self Helpful, host Kevin Miller engages in a thought-provoking conversation with Dr. Bradley Nelson, acclaimed author of "The Emotion Code" and "The Body Code." Driven by a deep belief in divine purpose, Dr. Nelson shares his personal experiences and insights, delving into the profound concepts of unconditional love, transformative consciousness, and the healing power of emotional release. Drawing from his own journey and the wisdom of ancient writings, Dr. Nelson sheds light on how we can navigate the challenges of our world and cultivate a life of acceptance, growth, and profound connection. Join us as we explore the fascinating depths of Dr. Bradley Nelson's driving forces on this enlightening episode of Self Helpful. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We kick off a series on Healing. Your body's ability to heal itself. Physically and psychologically. Every day we are exposed to things that compromise our very beings. Just going through the day, taxes us and at the end, we sleep, and while we sleep, we expect to, hope to, recharge so we can do it again. This is an aspect of healing. But now we are going to go deeper into the acute issues of our lives and why we are or are not, healing sufficiently. And of course what we can do to greatly increase our healing. My expert for the series is veteran holistic physician Dr. Bradley Nelson who is one of the world’s foremost experts on natural methods of achieving wellness. He is the creator of The Emotion Code and The Body Code system, and is the CEO of Discover Healing, a holistic education platform that provides training and certifies practitioners worldwide. His best-selling book "The Emotion Code" provides step-by-step instructions for working with the body's energy healing power. His new book is, “The Body Code: Unlocking Your Body's Ability to Heal Itself,” and it is our muse for this discussion. To connect with, go to discoverhealing.com You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is our Peak Wellness show where we give specific focus to our health and wellness. The vehicle that drives all we do. In this episode we’re talking about trauma. Which is at the core a distressing or disturbing experience. The reality is our past traumas, especially in our early upbringing, latch on and often negatively affect our health. Tana Amen is a New York Times bestselling author, a neurosurgical ICU trauma nurse, a world-renowned health and fitness expert, and she and her husband Daniel Amen run the revolutionary Amen Clinics. You can connect with Tana at https://tanaamen.com/. We brought Tana on because she had significant trauma from birth into young adulthood. Significant trauma. We talk about her personal experience in mitigating the negative effects to her health, combined with her’s and Daniel’s studies, research, and testing on the brain’s ability to change and grow. Trauma is a primary culprit in our fight for wellness that generally goes untended to. We’re going to tend to it, right here. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue a special, short series on What Drives You with some interesting people. People who got clear on what they wanted, and why, which is what creates authentic drive, knowing what you want and why. This is the focus of my book, What Drives You. Here I bring you Jordan Harbinger. Jordan is podcasting royalty. He wasn’t a celebrity. He didn’t have a NY Time bestselling book. He didn’t grow a multimillion dollar business. He had a lonely childhood and ended up going to law school because his parents wanted him to. He got a job on Wall Street and realized progress and success was won by people skills. But instead of using that to become a Wall Street tycoon he started burning CDs of his learning and then progressed to early podcasting. Today The Jordan Harbinger Show is one of the top podcasts on planet earth. He is an incredibly insightful interviewer and doles out great guidance you can use to get ahead in life. In this conversation I of course quiz him on what motivated him all along the way, up until now. You’ll hear some top rate business counsel on keeping it simple, why he’s bailed on social media, and doing what gets the most impact. You’ll do yourself well to subscribe to The Jordan Harbinger Show wherever you get your podcasts. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue a special, short series on What Drives You with some interesting people. People who got clear on what they wanted, and why, which is what creates authentic drive, knowing what you want and why. This is the focus of my book, What Drives You. Here I bring you Kara Goldin. Kara is well known as the founder and CEO of Hint, Inc. Hint is the unsweetened, flavored water that’s become one of the most successful beverage businesses of our time. Kara’s book is called Undaunted: Overcoming Doubts and Doubters, and she’s host of the podcast, The Kara Goldin Show. I of course want to know what drives her. Kara was the youngest of five children and at age eight realized both her parents had dreams they didn’t pursue. In this story you’ll hear her career trajectory and willingness to believe in herself and have faith in overcoming the obstacles that will present themselves with any endeavor of worth. If you’ve ever seen or had Hint water, maybe from Starbucks or Whole Foods or today possibly from any grocery chain, Kara started it out of her home kitchen. I think you’ll enjoy this story of…drive. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m kicking off a series of What Drives You episodes with some incredibly interesting people. People who got clear on what they wanted, and why. That’s what creates authentic drive, knowing what you want and why. Here I bring you Shawn Askinosie, founder of Askinosie Chocolate. If you are a Seth Godin follower you have likely heard of Shawn and Askinosie Chocolate, as Seth is a big fan of Shawn, the company, and the chocolate! As you’re about to hear, Shawn's dad died at 14 and tore his world apart, setting him on a maniacal pace to accomplish big achievements and prove to God he didn't need him. He ultimately pursued law school and withstood 11 law school rejections, yer went on to have an exemplary, 20 year career. But he never overcame his dad's sickness and death. This led him to volunteering for palliative care at a hospital and starting a five year journey to a completely different vocation. A significant statement from him in this episode is this, “It’s a funny paradox, but the first step in sorting myself out was actually not to think about myself, and instead to focus on other people.” Shawn has a book called, Meaningful Work - A Quest To Do Great Business, Find Your Calling, and Feed Your Soul. I highly recommend it and you can find it wherever you buy books, and at his website, shawnaskinosie. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is our Peak Wellness show where we give specific focus to our health and wellness. The foundation for all we do. In this episode…we talk about breathing. How to breathe. Isn’t that odd. I, like you, figured I knew how. For over 52 years I’ve been breathing air in and continuing to live. I was a pro cyclist and seemed to breathe pretty proficiently. What more do I need to know? Turns out there is a lot to know if we want to be fully functioning. In this show, my great friend and Peak Wellness CoHost, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert and owner of truelifemedicine.com and I discuss the message of the book, Breath, by James Nestor. Here is a big hook of the message that may intrigue you as it did me, our nose is not simply for smelling. It is for breathing through. Our mouth is for food. When we use our mouth for breathing instead of our nose, especially at night, there are negative consequences. James Nestor is a journalist who just went to study breathing. When he and another guy spent weeks only breathing through their mouth alone, you’ll be amazed at the negative results. I’ve talked to so many people who have had radical improvements in their lives by working on more breathing through their nose. You’ll learn much in this show and even the simple awareness of correct breathing will benefit you tremendously.  You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I wrap up our series on Strong Body Strong Mind and I’m going to give you a paradigm shifting analogy that I believe will forever change how you view your brain’s ability in regards to the overall health of your body. I kicked off the series with Dr. Gabrielle Lyon whose focus is Muscle Centric Medicine. Her new book is called Forever Strong: A New, Science-Based Strategy for Aging Well. The focus was on how muscle, built by protein and resistance training, is key for our brain health and long term cognitive ability. This concept is a cultural shift. Then I brought on Randy James, my close friend, medical doctor and Functional Medicine expert, to talk about his experience with patients and his own growing understanding of the importance of skeletal muscle as it relates to overall health. Here now, I give you some highlights from the conversations, and again, an analogy I believe will greatly alter how you view and care for the future health of your brain.  You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue our series on Strong Body Strong Mind and How To Remain Fully Capable As You Age. My catalyst for this series is Dr Gabrielle Lyon whose expertise is Muscle-Centric Medicine, and that is our muse, how in our search for long term health often misses the vital role of skeletal muscle. Gabrielle’s new book is Forever Strong: A New, Science-Based Strategy for Aging Well and her podcast is The Dr Gabrielle Lyon Show. Here, I’m with my great friend, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. He works directly, hand in hand with patients every day who are seeking to live long and live well. You can find him at truelifemedicine.com. He listened to my conversation with Gabrielle and I’ve brought him on to get his take on these topics of muscle, protein, and aging well. We actually bring back the question he always gets asked, “Dr James, what exercise is best?” And his answer has always been, “Whatever one you’ll do!” Which is true if you’re coming from a sedentary place. But based on Dr Lyon’s research we’re now saying, you’ll serve your health best to give resistance training precedent over cardio. Both are best, but this is a strong case for resistance training taking a lead in the discussion. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with Dr Gabrielle Lyon to find out what drives her, to dig into her values and how she walks them out in her life. We start off talking about spirituality and Gabrielle shares the gravity she faces as she deals with actual life and death with patients. We talk about her navy seal husband who never complains. We of course talk at length about health and wellness and her own habits and get into how and why she is so driven. Dr. Lyon again, is board certified in family medicine and is a subject-matter expert and educator in the practical application of protein types and levels for health, performance, aging, and disease prevention. Which we dove deep into in my part one conversation. Her new book, over my left shoulder, is Forever Strong: A New, Science-Based Strategy for Aging Well, which I’ve been studying and is the catalyst for our conversation here. And you can find her podcast, right now, just search for The Dr Gabrielle Lyon Show. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are talking about aging well. Specifically, maintaining our mental and physical strength and capacity, as long as possible. The media talks about lifespan, but what I care about is health span. I want to be healthy and able to the end, whether my end is 60 years old or 100. As opposed to lingering for the last 5 or 20 years as is getting to be the norm. A tragic norm. My expert on the topic is Dr Gabrielle Lyon. I’ve known of Dr Lyons for a long, long time through Functional Medicine circles. Her focus and expertise is Muscle-Centric Medicine, and today we are talking about just that…muscle, and how we are missing this necessity in our culture that is obsessed with so many of the wrong things for aging well.  Dr. Lyon is board certified in family medicine and is a subject-matter expert and educator in the practical application of protein types and levels for health, performance, aging, and disease prevention. And we’re going to get into this topic of protein, in relation to muscle. Her new book is, Forever Strong: A New, Science-Based Strategy for Aging Well, which I’ve been studying and is the catalyst for our conversation here. You can find her podcast, right now, just search for The Dr Gabrielle Lyon Show. Watch this full episode on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Food is like money. We can’t do without it. Food is not good or bad. So we either have a good and healthy relationship with it and invest wisely, or we have a poor relationship with it and it’s a thorn in our side. We are losing the war with food in America and in this show we highlight a reality of our true and real addiction with food. All of us are on the spectrum. But again, we can’t stop eating forever, so what do we do? First we get aware of our individual issues around food, then work to manage them. This is not a call to abstain from food or from all the foods you like. It’s not a quest to take away your joy and pleasure from food. Food truly is life. The issue is whether we are in control of our food or it is in control of us. The difference is everything and this episode is meant to empower you to be in control, and get even more joy from your food. What we are realizing is to have the health, wellness, and physical and mental capacity we desire we must start by establishing a healthy relationship…with our food.  You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our catalyst for this series is Dr Benjamin Hardy and the concept of his new book with renowned business coach, Dan Sullivan, 10x is easier than 2x: How World-Class Entrepreneurs Achieve More By Doing Less. While I’ll testify that the entrepreneurial mindset is key for embracing this 10x concept, you don’t have to be that actual entrepreneur. You can harness other methodologies, which we covered some in part two and I’ll review again here. If you’ve ever heard the concept of 10x, you haven’t heard it this way. It’s not just thinking big, but requires thinking completely differently. And as Ben & Dan showcase, it’s actually easier this way. That is THE point. In part two I dissected the issue more with my Dad, Dan Miller, renowned author of 48 Days To The Work & Life You Love and host of the 48 Days podcast. We really dug into the self image issues around being able to consider a 10x mentality. I feel this is the crux of whether you will be able to actually leverage the concept in your own life and work. From the two conversations, I’ve pulled out six primary highlights. Join me to walk and talk through them. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue our talk on Thinking Big. Part 1 and 2 was with Dr Benjamin Hardy who recently co-authored a book with famed business coach, Dan Sullivan, called 10x Is Easier Than 2x. Ben sent me an early copy of the book and I didn’t pick it up until my Dad texted me saying he’d read the book and it was revolutionizing his business. So fittingly I brought on my Dad to discuss this 10x concept further. My Dad of course is…Dan Miller, author of 48 Days To The Work – and Life – You Love, host of the 48 Days To The Work You Love podcast and one of the most well known influencers in business and personal development. He’s also a lifelong learner and for him to say, after a lifetime of successfully running businesses and today mentoring so many others in their businesses, that this concept is revolutionary to him, you’re going to want to hear why. What we uncovered was the need to consider who you are, to entertain the 10x of impossible progress. It may or may not fit you, but there is a workaround to doing it anyway that fits exactly who you are.  You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with Dr Benjamin Hardy to discuss what drives him. I just had Ben on the show for the 5th time to talk about his latest book, 10x Is Easier Than 2x, which is a psychological paradigm shifter for how we look at making progress. But this is a special episode. I had Ben on a show with me in 2019 where he made a reference to his childhood where he was 19 years old, barely made it out of high school, his very religious parents had divorced and walked away from their faith, his dad became a meth addict, and Ben was spending 14 hours per day playing World of Warcraft. To hear that rocked my world a good bit. Here I was trying to raise kids with work ethic, morals, experience and desire, and Ben had none of it at age 19. Yet he went on and in a fairly short amount of time, turned his life around and was getting six figure deals for his books and living a life of all around great success. I had him come back to talk with me in December of 2020 to unpack the story and understand what took him from zero to hero. What he shared became the lead story in my book, What Drives You, and right here and now you’re going to go hear the initial, raw discussion. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re talking about how the impossible goal is actually easily and more attainable than the possible goal. Why doubling your income in a year, for instance, can be easier than increasing it by 5 or 10%. This is not some motivational hype, and to prove the point I have with me, Dr Benjamin Hardy. This is the fourth time I’ve had Ben on the show, first with his book Willpower Doesn’t Work which is one of my top shelf go to books you’ve heard me reference many times. Then his book, Personality Isn’t Permanent which is another Hallmark book for me. However, it was in a show about what drives Ben that I heard his personal story, which became the lead off story in my new book, What Drives You. Ben is just a brilliant mind. His blog is read by millions every month and he is just a master and distilling out paradigm shifting concepts that radically change our lives. Lately he’s also been co authoring books with renowned business coach, Dan Sullivan. Their latest is called 10x is easier than 2x: How World-Class Entrepreneurs Achieve More By Doing Less. This is our muse today. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We look at a key way to give your body a break. If you’ve ever driven a car that was overheating, you know the only way to give it a break is to turn it off and let it cool down. Our bodies in today’s culture, are almost always overheated as they try to digest food. Constant food, too much food, and food our bodies don’t like and struggle with. Even in our sleep our bodies are generally toiling away trying to deal with the foods we’ve put in them. We never give them a break. The term for this that nobody likes is…fasting. I grew up with it as a religious practice, but here we are primarily talking about it from a physiological and psychological standpoint as we truly believe it can be a profound tactic to use for your healing. We includes my co host in this show, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. If you have a chronic illness or disease, fasting may be the best medicine possible. And I’ll preface it by saying...I don’t enjoy it. I’ve broken bones, and I don’t like wearing a cast to heal. But I do. I’ve dealt with psychological things and seen therapists. Not a great joy. But I want the help. The topic today is...not eating food. For a prolonged period. In order to enable the body to heal. Eating throughout the day, from morning till night, is something humans have done only for a very short amount of time. A time where we’ve seen a massive rise in chronic illness and disease. Our bodies were created for and intended to get a break from food. In this episode we discuss just this, prolonged fasting. And you’ll hear me address that I do not, at all, like to not eat. I love to eat. But I also love to feel great. To perform at a top notch level. I don’t want aches and pains, now at 52 or in the future at 92. I want to think clearly and creatively. I want to be fully mobile and spry. I have no reason to give these up. And taking times to not eat and let my body heal is paramount for all this. You don’t have to abstain from food for 30 days. But mere intermittent fasting is not enough to get the full benefits of fasting. So...here you go. The episode your taste buds and belly don’t want to hear, but the rest of your body is starving for. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I wrap up our series on Emotional Power with the Big Idea, The Big Takeaway & The Big Action, after incredible discussions with Dr Julia Digangi, author of Energy Rising - The Neuroscience of Leading With Emotional Power and Britt Frank, author of The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia To Find Your Path Forward. Here I’m taking the opportunity to pull out some of the primary issues I see us blind to as a culture regarding emotions. For context, I’m now focused on a goal of emotional mastery. Or you could say, spending the rest of my life endeavoring to better master my emotions. I’d ask you to think about it like mastering a team of majestic horses; you do so by gently, yet firmly, joining with them and nurturing them along with yourself to make progress in the desired direction. You don’t let them run loose by venting and emoting, and you also don’t stuff and deny them. And the heart of your emotional mastery is not leading the horses, but first, leading yourself. And again, most all of us hearing this right now are existing on the side of 1) Unfettered emotions: negative feelings running amok and overwhelming you, or 2) Imprisoned emotions: walled off, rejected, and ignored. Both sides are controlling you. Leading you. This is your chance to start understanding, leading, and mastering your emotions, and from that, your life. Here we go with 7 keys for emotional mastery and then the big action. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier ButcherBox is giving us a special deal! Sign up today using code SELFHELPFUL to receive Ground Beef for Life + 20 dollars off your first order. That’s 2 pounds of Ground Beef free in every box for the lifetime of your membership plus 20 dollars off your first order when you sign up at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue our series on Emotional Power. In the last episode my guest expert was Dr. Julia DiGangi, a neuropsychologist who completed her residency at Harvard Medical School. Dr DiGangi is author of the new book, Energy Rising: The Neuroscience of Leading with Emotional Power, and we discussed How To Discover & Correct Your Self-Limiting Patterns. Today I brought Britt Frank back onto the show to go deeper with the discussion. I did a series on anxiety with Britt you can find starting back in episode 1197. Britt is a licensed neuropsychotherapist and trauma expert who is trained in IFS (Internal Family Systems) and SE (Somatic Experiencing). She is a speaker and an award-winning adjunct instructor at the University of Kansas, where she’s taught classes on ethics, addiction, and clinical social work. Her book which was the muse for our series together, is, The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia To Find Your Path Forward You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL to get $20 off your first order.​  Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We begin a series on Emotional Power. Everyday life happens around us. We judge it all by how we feel about it, and we naturally trust and believe our experience. My guest today however says it’s our emotions that are the final judge of all our experiences. Not fact. Not our logic. But our emotions. To take it further she cites, “The very meaning in your life is determined by the emotions you have about it.” And what you’re about to learn is you have perceptions and resulting patterns programmed into your mind that are influencing how you perceive life overall, good and bad. Of course it’s the bad patterns that are sabotaging you, and this is our focus today, as we can correct these patterns. My expert guest on the topic is Dr. Julia DiGangi. Dr DiGangi is a neuropsychologist, who completed her residency at Harvard Medical School, Boston University School of Medicine, and the US Department of Veterans Affairs, and she is the author of a new book called Energy Rising: The Neuroscience of Leading with Emotional Power. Dr DiGangi has nearly two decades of experience studying the connection between our brains and our behavior and has worked with leaders around the world including the White House Press Office and the US Special Forces. Dr DiGangi shows people—at work and at home—how to harness the power of the brain to lead more satisfying and emotionally intelligent lives. We live in a world where science and emotions are viewed as radically disparate things and I have Dr DiGangi, here to dispel that. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL to get $20 off your first order.​  Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode we’re talking specifically in regards to glucose. You don’t care a bit about glucose, in and of itself. What you care about is your body's reaction to your food and lifestyle choices and resulting energy levels and clarity. And that’s the point, your body does react to what you eat and how you live, but it’s incredibly complex to understand the correlations. Unless, you are wearing a CGM…continual glucose monitor. This is new technology. If you’re aware of them, you probably associate them with diabetics. Not anymore, and you’re about to be schooled in some new hope. My expert on this topic and tech is Kara Collier. Kara is a Registered Dietitian Nutritionist (RDN), Licensed Dietitian/Nutritionist (LDN), and Certified Nutrition Support Clinician (CNSC) specializing in glucose control and metabolism. And she’s the the co-founder and VP of Health at Nutrisense, one of America’s fastest-growing health-tech startups. I’ve been wearing a CGM from Nutrisense. And folks, this is not an ad. No money has exchanged between us…not that I’d be against it, but my motive here is helping myself, and you, with new opportunities to monitor, understand, and increase our health and wellness. You can check them out at nutrisense.io. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL to get $20 off your first order.​  Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I wrap up our series on…men. Manhood. I called it “The Place Of Man” because that seems to be the question these days…what is…the place of men? How should we view ourselves? We grew up with expectations that seem to have changed. Maybe for better. Maybe for worse. I think both. But I find more and more men who feel numb, ashamed, or just dissatisfied. And I could say floundering with who they are, but it may be just as much, who they feel they should be. I talked in depth with Connor Beaton, founder of ManTalks, an international organization focused on men’s wellness, success, and fulfillment, author of Mens Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom and host of the Man Talks podcast. Then part three was with my great friend Dr Randy James. We got deep on the issues we are experiencing as men, and what we see in the culture. Here then are four main highlights I found from our conversations and my own pondering within them. I’ll also share about an event I just returned from with 39 guys who did 40 miles of the Grand Teton Trail in one day. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL to get $20 off your first order.​  Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Get 50% off up to $20 and zero delivery fees on your first order when you download the DoorDash app and enter code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue our talk on A Man’s Place and I titled the show, Are We Having Fun Yet? How To Enjoy Life & Not Merely Survive It. My catalyst was Connor Beaton, founder of ManTalks, an international organization focused on men’s wellness, success, and fulfillment, author of Mens Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom and host of the Man Talks podcast. Now I’m with Dr Randy James. Randy is truly my best friend and we’ve walked through life together for a good decade and a half. Randy and I started off discussing what the point is. When do we leave childhood and school and say, “Ok, I’m done having any fun and enjoying and experiencing this life, now I’ll just be responsible and devote the rest of my days to the grind of life.?” That sounds exaggerated, but are we living lives that our kids or young people would be inspired to pursue? No wonder kids aren’t leaving home soon these days. The point isn’t just to have fun. I’d argue that pursuing great purpose and fulfillment eclipses mere fun. But should we truly enjoy our lives? Solomon in the Bible said, and I paraphrase, “I tried it all, all variations of life, and t’s all vanity. Ultimately nothing is better for a man than that he should eat and drink, and that his soul should enjoy good in his labor. This also, I saw, was from the hand of God.” So Randy and I have a candid talk about work and family and responsibility and finding true joy and tending to our hearts and souls, as men, but the message is relevant to all. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL to get $20 off your first order.​  Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with Connor Beaton. In the previous episode we talked about How To Embrace Manhood & Also Be Human, and in this episode we talk about what drives Connor personally. I start off with something he disclosed in his book, where he shared that an overall driving force for him is the reality that he has been abused, and he has abused. He has been hurt, and he has hurt and from this he discusses dark motivation and light motivation. So we dive deep quickly. Connor is founder of ManTalks, an international organization focused on men’s wellness, success, and fulfillment. He is a coach, facilitator, teacher, podcast host and speaker helping men from all over the world find purpose, a joy-filled life, and a confident self identity, as a man. His new book is called Mens Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom. His popular podcast, which I was recently a guest on, is called Man Talks. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL to get $20 off your first order.​  Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are talking about men. For those who grew up as boys and now live as men, you were raised in a social construct that had certain expectations. Times have changed and evolved, and some of those expectations have changed, but our programming never did. The result is we find ourselves in a culture where men are often confused, frustrated, ashamed, and dissatisfied. And that’s not helping men, or anyone who comes into contact with them. This is not a call to masculinity. This is also not a call to immasculinity. It’s a call to be an authentic and confident human. My expert is Connor Beaton. Connor is the founder of ManTalks, an international organization focused on men’s wellness, success, and fulfillment. He is a coach, facilitator, teacher, podcast host and speaker helping men from all over the world find purpose, a joy-filled life, and a confident self identity, as a man. Connor has a no-BS approach coupled with compassionate understanding of our own human limitations. He has coached thousands of men through private coaching, group work, workshops, retreats and masterminds, and has shared the stage with world class speakers like Gary Vaynerchuk, Lewis Howes, Danielle LaPorte, and many more. I came to Connor through his wife, Vienna Pharaeon, a renowned therapist and recent guest here on the show as well. My muse for this series is Connor’s new book, Mens Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom. His popular podcast, which I was recently a guest on, is called Man Talks. I brought Connor on because I am his target audience and I needed his insight and guidance.  You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL to get $20 off your first order.​  Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The fight against cancer began around 1970, the year I was born. Culturally we’ve treated cancer like an insidious evil that is hunting us as a predator and we are its prey. It gets you or it doesn’t, you catch it or you don’t. Yet the science does not back this up. Do genetics contribute? 5-10% possibly. The main issue is what we are doing to our cells that is much the causation and reason for the continued growth. Now I realize that even the hint at us having any responsibility regarding cancer is a highly volatile premise. I’ve had family members with cancer. Who died from cancer. And I can’t guarantee I won’t get cancer. Regardless, this is not our opinion. Our very own National Center for Biotechnology Information (NCBI) as a division of the National Library of Medicine (NLM) at the National Institutes of Health (NIH) published "Cancer is a Preventable Disease that Requires Major Lifestyle Changes” and cites the highest percentage of causation is diet and specifically, inflammation. We have more and more doctors and experts coming forth with this message. It's not popular to the masses, but for those of us who want and accept control over our health, this...is glorious news. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL to get $20 off your first order.​ Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I was offered the opportunity to do a back to school special for Apple Podcasts. I’ve already been asked about creating a version of my book, What Drives You, for a high school and college perspective. Which is fitting, as the impetus to write my book came from my desires for my adult kids. I realized what I most wanted for them was to know…what they want. To understand what they value and why, for themselves. And to commit to it. I want them to spend their days working at something they care about and to understand their core abilities and desires that they can fulfill in many roles. I want them to have joy and fulfillment. So this episode, is dedicated to them. If you’re a parent, share the show, or share the concepts. You can get my book, What Drives You, in any form, on Amazon or wherever you buy books. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL to get $20 off your first order.​ Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at SHOPIFY.COM/selfhelpful Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I wrap up our series on Confidence and have 7 key takeaways after my discussion with Heather Monahan, host of the Creating Confidence podcast, and author of Confidence Creator, and her brand new book Overcome Your Villains. Tom Ziglar, CEO of Ziglar Inc. also brought me to great insight on confidence. Walk with me as we discuss the knowledge given and the learning we have ahead of us You can watch these full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult-themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2-Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL to get $20 off your first order.​  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode we continue our series on confidence, continuing from my talks with Heather Monahan, host of Creating Confidence, ranked top 200 overall in Apple Podcast. Here I bring on my great friend, Tom Ziglar. Tom is CEO of Ziglar Inc. Ziglar, founded by one of the greatest self help influencers of all time, Zig Ziglar, is renowned for building confidence in people. The right kind of confidence, which is confidence paired with humility. In our culture, we aren’t taught how to have true, healthy confidence, with true and healthy humility, and we are seldom fortunate enough to be exposed to a good example. Zig Ziglar is my guru on holding true confidence and humility together, and his son Tom has been one of my greatest influences with this. In this episode Tom does a masterful job of helping us understand true confidence and the significant difference between short term and long term confidence.  You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL to get two 100% grass-fed filet mignons and two wild-caught lobster tails for FREE in your first box plus $20 off your first order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What Drives Heather Monahan. Heather is my resident expert in this series on Confidence, and her story is one of a long journey to understand and embrace confidence. In this episode I walk with Heather through the 7 key areas of life to see what drives her, and we dig further into her journey of confidence. Heather is a two times best-selling author, she was a Top 50 Keynote Speaker in the World in 2022, her podcast, Creating Confidence, is in the top 200 overall in Apple Podcast. Heather successfully climbed the corporate ladder for nearly 20 years and is one of the few women to break the glass ceiling and claim her spot in the C-suite. Her new book is, Overcome Your Villains: Mastering Your Beliefs, Actions, and Knowledge to Conquer Any Adversity. Heather is also…very down to earth and we resonated and laughed a lot in this show. I’m confident…anyone listening, will get a boost to their confidence. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL to get two 100% grass-fed filet mignons and two wild-caught lobster tails for FREE in your first box plus $20 off your first order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we kick off a series on confidence. Confidence is something I feel has gone by the cultural wayside. If you’re confident, you are arrogant or narcissistic. Yet we only pay and follow people who are confident. My expert is Heather Monahan. Heather is a two times best-selling author, she was a Top 50 Keynote Speaker in the World in 2022, and she’s host of top ranked podcast, Creating Confidence. Her first book,Confidence Creator, shot to #1 on Amazon’s Business Biographies and Business Motivation lists the first week it debuted on Amazon. Her brand new book is called, Overcome Your Villains: Mastering Your Beliefs, Actions, and Knowledge to Conquer Any Adversity. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL to get two 100% grass-fed filet mignons and two wild-caught lobster tails for FREE in your first box plus $20 off your first order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dominate Your Day Before Breakfast. The point is looking at the immense power of starting your day intentionally, which I spent most of my life, especially with little kids, not doing. My daily domination expert is Jeff Sanders. Jeff has a popular and just really inspirational podcast called The 5am Miracle Podcast. His book is also titled, The 5am Miracle, and I’ve been studying it and am talking through the concepts with Jeff in this episode. For the record, as you’re about to hear, this is not saying 5am is the holy grail. I for one, don’t wake up at 5 am. But I do follow the concept. Jeff self described plant-based marathon runner and personal development junkie, which makes us kindred spirits. . Every week you can find Jeff writing and speaking at JeffSanders.com. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL to get two 100% grass-fed filet mignons and two wild-caught lobster tails for FREE in your first box plus $20 off your first order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Big Idea, The Big Takeaway & The Big Action. This is part four of my series on Boundaries, and this is my second series on boundaries in two years. Because it’s such a struggle for me, and according to the research, it is for you too. We don’t do boundaries because it rubs against our desire to serve and put other people first. Which is great. It really is. And the culmination of this series and concept of boundaries is, your heart is in the right place. Mine too. But our methodology is backwards. We’re doing it wrong. Good intent. Glorious intent. But ineffective execution. So sit with me a moment while I discuss three aspects of what I see as The Big Idea, The Big Takeaway & The Big Action regarding boundaries. Which is the new title of all my part four episodes in these series. If I don’t help you, and me, come to a big idea, a big takeaway, and a big action, then I’m not doing my job. For either of us The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Self Helpful, “Find Peace By First Creating Boundaries Within Yourself” - This is part three in my series on boundaries, instigated by psychotherapist Terri Cole and the message in her new book, Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free. In this episode my chosen co-host is Broadway and screen star, Renée Marino. Renée is author of Becoming A Master Communicator and one of my favorite connoisseurs and practitioners of personal development. Renée listened to my conversation with Terri Cole and at the top of the show, said, “I always thought of boundaries as my boundaries to create for another person, right? Like, so here are my boundaries in my exterior relationships for you. But it's so much about the boundaries we create within ourselves.” This steered the conversation to a new paradigm that is helping me tremendously. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What Drives Terri Cole. Terri is my expert on Boundaries from the previous episode and the message of her new book, Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, is our muse for this series. This is where I walk through the seven key areas of life and ask her about her values and motives and her daily habits around them. As you can imagine, we came back over and over to the topic of boundaries and how Terri works to integrate what she preaches and teaches into the everyday practices of her life. Along with her book, Boundary Boss, check out her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show.  The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is part one on a series about boundaries. I’ve spent most of my life with zero boundaries, thinking I was doing the world and everyone in it a favor. Instead, I found myself serving others…with a bitter heart. Or just a worn out heart. To the point where some of those closest with me told me to just go take care of myself, so that…I could take care of them better. But I still grapple with the concept a lot and I need more help. I bet you do too. So, I invited Terri Cole to the show is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of a new book, Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free. The message in her book is the muse for our show together here. Terri reaches over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. Let’s get into it. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Along with every illness, disease, and malady in America, Parkinson’s Disease is on a drastic rise. It’s no longer just an old person’s issue but is being rapidly experienced in the 30-50 year old range of men and women. As we discuss in all our discussion of illness and disease, there are lifestyle issues at work. But different than most other issues we cover, my co host, Dr Randy James reveals that with Parkinsons there are some significant environmental toxin issues that come into play, which makes it relevant for everyone to be aware of. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is part four and my wrap up on this series on Emotional Intelligence. It’s rocked my world because I, like so many others, considered myself fairly emotionally intelligent because I can read other people fairly well, sense their emotions, and perform. Think of “How To Win Friends & Influence People.” A great and valuable skill for getting along with people at a face value level. But in long term relationships with ourselves and others, this skill doesn’t get us far and we find ourselves in hard places. I know this well, as it’s my story. My expert for this series was Scott Allender, author of, The Enneagram of Emotional Intelligence: A Journey to Personal and Professional Success, then I also brought on Ian Morgan Cron, author of The Story Of You. From my conversations I found seven key highlights that stood out to me on how to become emotionally intelligent. And I end with a special resource I’m avidly studying for my own life and progress, from another expert who is no longer alive. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifier Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How To Interrupt The Loop of Your Natural Self Unawareness. This is part three in our series on Emotional Intelligence. A primary point is the foundation of emotional intelligence is not being in tune with others emotions, but your own. My muse has been Scott Allender, author of book is The Enneagram of Emotional Intelligence: A Journey to Personal and Professional Success and host of the Evolving Leader podcast. In this show I brought on a mentor of Scott’s who introduced us, Ian Morgan Cron. Ian is a renowned executive coach and Enneagram expert, and just a guy with radical insightful into the human psyche. He is his own guinea pig for self-awareness and we go down the rabbit hole of discussing the loop of self UNawareness we all fall into, every day, him too. He’s just gotten really good at pulling himself out interrupt the loop and bring himself back to the present, which is again, a precept of emotional intelligence. Upon our conclusion he exclamed, “Holy moly, we really covered a lot of ground.” I encourage you to listen to my series with Ian, and check out his latest book, The Story Of You and his top ranked podcast, Typology.  A note, Ian recently uprooted and moved from his stylish home in Tennessee, to the middle of Mexico. Just to shake things up. He spoke with me from his new home where you’ll hear cars driving by on the cobblestone streets. I hope you find intrigue in the background noise, as I did.  You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I’m back with emotional intelligence expert, Scott Allender, to walk through the seven key areas of life and what drives him. As you can expect, much of his drive, values, and habits come back to his quest for emotional intelligence. Spiritually he discusses his tendency to want to control the circumstances of life and his self-deception around the idea that without him things won't get done or get done right. Relationally he really wants deep connection and struggles greatly if he doesn't feel he has them. Regarding money he gets into three types of survival relating to enneagram types; self preservation, social instinct, and sexual, and how we must create balance within your natural instincts. This and more coming up. Scott's book is The Enneagram of Emotional Intelligence: A Journey to Personal and Professional Success, and you can tune into him at the Evolving Leader podcast. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Go to AquaTru.com and use code “KEVIN” to receive 20% OFF any AquaTru purifie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our world applauds people with a high IQ. And yet someone having a high IQ has zero value to me personally. It may have no value for that person or anyone. It merely says they have the possibility of capacity. It doesn’t mean they can or will do anything worthwhile with it, and even if they are brilliant and figure out how to live on Mars, they may be miserable and make everyone else miserable. So what is a better measuring stick for overall potential than IQ? I submit to you it is EQ. Emotional quotient. Or emotional intelligence. My guest today is an expert and cites that emotional intelligence as the single biggest predictor of our personal and professional success. Scott Allender is an expert in global leadership and organizational development. Along with co-hosting The Evolving Leader podcast, he regularly teaches Enneagram workshops and conducts typing interviews and emotional intelligence assessments for individuals and teams who seek to become more radically self-aware and cognizant of the impact they have on the world. His new book is titled, The Enneagram of Emotional Intelligence: A Journey to Personal and Professional Success. Let me candidly offer to you that my inspiration for this show is my own journey of becoming more…much more…emotionally intelligent. In the past I thought I was, as most emotionally unintelligent people believe. I let some things I was good at, like controlling my emotional expression and my social awareness trick me into thinking I was emotionally intelligent. And the truth that finally reared its ugly head was that I was very emotionally unintelligent. Join me as we change some paradigms and give some hope to what you can become. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Everyone has heard of “the placebo effect” and it’s usually thought of negatively. We don’t want mind games to fix us, we want a literal ingredient or treatment. But here is the deal, your attitude and expectations can cause a placebo to heal you, or cause a literally beneficial treatment to fail you. What you expect has a dramatic effect on your reality. That’s not conjecture, it’s clinical. Do you expect your exercise to enhance your health? Do you expect your nutritional supplements to enhance your health? Do you expect your efforts to eat healthy to enhance your health? The bigger issue is your awareness of how you feel and what you expect from all your efforts. If you have doubt or bitterness in regards to any of your efforts you are likely sabotaging them. But you’ll be incredibly well served to increase your positive expectations of improvement. I’m joined of course by Randy James, Medical Doctor, Functional Medicine and owner of truelifemedicine.com, and you’re about to hear how he and I have great faith that our expectations are incredibly powerful placebos in our overall levels of health and wellness. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is part four in my series on The Art of Trying. My muse has been Hala Taha, host of the top ranked business podcast, Young and Profiting and founder and CEO of YAP Media. Talking with Hala about her trajectory of trying and trying different things on the way to what worked, for her overall goal, has been eye opening. When we understand our goal is bigger than any one role or face-value achievement, it takes the pressure off and greatly broadens the different methods we can…try. And if one method doesn’t work, it’s ok. We know the bigger, greater goal, and can attempt it through another means and method and quite literally make failure impossible. Let’s talk through it briefly. And find Hala Taha wherever you listen to podcasts at Young & Profiting, and on social media at yapwithhala. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is part 3 in our series on the Art of Trying. The previous two episodes have featured Hala Taha, host of the top ranked business podcast, Young and Profiting and founder and CEO of YAP Media, a business podcast network with an award-winning social media and podcast marketing agency for top podcasters, celebrities and CEOs. Hala is a rockstar at trying and failing until she figures out what works. Then succeeding. In this episode I brought on a fellow rock star of the art of trying. Broadway and movie star, Renée Marino who you can see as the lead female role in Clint Eastwood’s movie, Jersey Boys. Renée is a frequent co-host with me because she’s an expert in personal development and a master communicator…her book is called, “Becoming A Master Communicator”. As an actress, Renée Marino’s job was trying and failing. You do audition after audition and get told no, until you get told yes. And it’s only one “Yes!” to a movie like Jersey Boys and boom, you’ve made it to the big screen. Renée brought us to looking at whatever we do and go after, any achievement, there is something deeper we are trying to fulfill that gives us space to try and fail or quit many things, on the way to what works, for the ultimate goal we are striving for. If her only goal was to be the lead in one show or movie, that is narrow and limiting. If her goal was to perform, and bigger to entertain, and bigger to communicate, and at the core to communicate, she can do that in so many ways. You’ll gain some incredibly liberating perspectives in this episode. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with Hala Taha in my series on the art of trying. This is part two, my “What Drives You” episode and I walk through the key areas of life and what drives Hala. Before even diving into specifics like spirituality, relationships, and health & wellness, we simply talk about Hala’s overall drive, as she shared in the previous episode how her initial drive was fueled by her father who immigrated to the US, and an expectation to become a doctor like the rest of her siblings. This is where she shared her commitment to consistently define her values so they would see her through in challenging times when you can’t think logically. This was significant to me and we dug in deeper to this. We then start off with spirituality and get on the topic of how we are all brainwashed in our upbringing and need to re-brainwash ourselves toward what we truly…value. Find Hala on your podcast app at Young and Profiting The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This kicks off a 4-part series where my primary muse is…the art of trying. In the personal development world we give a lot of pithy lipservice to trying, quitting and failure…I could add rejection as well. But as a culture, even amongst aspiring people like us, I feel we often fail to grasp a healthy and productive perspective on these concepts. My guest expert on the topic is Hala Taha. Hala is host of the Young and Profiting (YAP) Podcast, frequently ranked as a #1 Business and Entrepreneurship podcast across all apps. Hala is also the founder and CEO of YAP Media, a business podcast network with an award-winning social media and podcast marketing agency for top podcasters, celebrities and CEOs. I met Hala at a podcasting convention and discovered she has quite a story. Her pedigree of success runs parallel to an impressive rap sheet of failures. Things she’s tried that didn’t work out. Things she quit until she found what worked. Overall you see a committment to succeed that kept her persevering until she did just that. Found what worked. I invited her onto the show to help us find more willingness and comfort in trying things. And try. And try different methods until we find what works to achieve the overall goal of success…in whatever way success looks like to you. We also ended with a brief masterclass on branding you won’t want to miss. Find Hala on your podcast app at Young and Profiting, and I encourage you to whether you consider yourself young or not. She’s recently had Lewis Howes and Seth Godin on. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I really want life to be only what we make it. And deny any genetic limitations. And yet realize we do in fact have some genetic set points that can help, and hinder us. I’ve suffered by denying any genetic hindering. But our culture by far and large I see suffering by blaming too much on genetics. The big question is…how much of an impact do they have on your health? We are not here to discount the role of genetics, and yet the goal is to take as much agency as possible. The goal is to give you hope that you are not a victim to your genetics. So let’s discuss wow much of a role they play in your health and wellness and what can you do to compensate for and negate them? I’m of course joined by my Peak Wellness co host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, who walks with patients every day as they pursue their best wellness amongst all varieties of genetic challenges. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is my wrap up from what I’m working to learn from this series on focus and our expert, Dandapani, world renowned, leading expert on leveraging the human mind and the power of focus, and author of, The Power of Unwavering Focus. I was fortunate to have two, long conversations with Dandapani from his Siva Ashram in Costa Rica, with the second discussion being a deep dive into a controversial view on spirituality that was profound for me. I think we’ll have some follow up discussions that I’ll be eager to share with you. As I reviewed my notes from the series on focus, I found six key lessons bubble to the surface, and I’ll talk through the concepts with you now.  You can now watch full episodes on YouTube! Just search for “Self helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue this series on Focus, highlighting that it’s not about gritting your teeth, but in changing your paradigm on what focus is and how to harness the focus that you do have within you. Our expert is Dandapani, a world renowned, leading expert on leveraging the human mind and the power of focus, and author of, The Power of Unwavering Focus. Listen to my previous talk with him in part one, or just type “dandapani focus” in your search engine and you’ll see his TED talk with 6.7 million views. Today I bring in a long time devotee of Dandapani’s who has been studying his work and teaching on focus for many years. My brother, Jared Angaza. We kick off discussing Dandapani’s statement that “most people surrender their decision-making process to their environment. And it takes discipline to take ownership. This led into an organic discussion on discipline and how we as a culture misperceive what discipline really is. If you feel you are undisciplined, overall or in certain areas, I invite you to listen in, as the conversation brought some revelations to me. We continues on then, digging further into how to have more focus in our lives, and for disclosure, Jared and I both struggle with ADHD, so this is an acutely relevant topic to us. You can now watch full episodes on YouTube! Just search for “Self helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is part 2 in my series on focus with Dandapani, a sought-after international speaker and leading expert on leveraging the human mind and the power of focus, and author of, The Power of Unwavering Focus. Search for him and find his TED talk that went viral. Normally this would be my “What Drives You” episode where I walk through the key areas of life and ask, what drives my guests. However, the first category is spirituality, and as Dandapani is a former monk and current Hindu priest, I pressed in on a controversial statement he had written in his book. This is the quote, “In taking charge of your life, you should not leave it up to the environment or, God forbid, the Universe, such as claiming, “The Universe is going to guide me.” I can assure you Jupiter, Pluto and Uranus are not sitting around figuring out how to solve the complexities of your life." I asked Dandapani to unpack this, and what followed was a fairly blunt and irreverent discussion on spirituality in our current culture. It was unique enough that Dandapani and I spoke afterwards about more candid talks on spirituality and possibly even an event in America. Dandapani is a coach to high performing entrepreneurs and athletes, because, as he said, “They actually follow through on what I coach them to do.” And a crux of what you’ll hear is Dandapani stating that to achieve success in any area of life we need a clear strategy that we adopt and adhere to, depending on our specific goals. And most high performers do this, except in the area of spirituality, where we pick and choose from a menu of spiritual concepts. And it doesn’t work. So in this episode, he really takes it to task. You can now watch full episodes on YouTube! Just search for “Self helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all know we’re in an age of distraction. It feels like we all have ADHD. We are all consumed with multi-tasking and dealing with what is urgent and can’t ever get any of the big, important things done. Meanwhile we all follow and applaud the people who can manage to focus and achieve great things. We think focus comes from gritting our teeth and making ourselves, and we are missing the concept. My guest today and expert on this topic is Dandapani. Dandapani grew up in his family home, went to school and actually graduated from university with a degree in electrical engineering. He left it all behind to become an ordained Hindu monk under the guidance of one of Hinduism’s foremost spiritual leaders of our time. For 10 years he lived a life of serious personal discipline and training at his guru’s cloistered monastery in Hawaii. Here he learned to control his mind. He learned to focus. And he believes this is the key to finding one’s purpose. As you may think, “Yeah, it’s not so hard to focus when you live in a monastery in Hawaii,” Dandapani agrees. Yet he believed the teachings would work in the outside world as well, and now he’s proved it. He left the monastery and moved to New York where he started a business, got married, and became a father. Today he is a highly sought-after international speaker and leading expert on leveraging the human mind and the power of focus to create a life of purpose and joy. His TEDx talk has over 6.2 million views and he has other videos with tens of millions of views. He sat down with me from his thirty-three-acre spiritual sanctuary and garden in Costa Rica to discuss the message in his book, The Power of Unwavering Focus. One concept from his message has changed my life. That of the mind being a vast space with many different areas and our awareness is a glowing orb of our focus that can only light up one room at a time. You’re about to hear of this, and more. You can now watch full episodes on YouTube! Just search for “Self helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to the Peak Wellness episode where we seek to strengthen our bodies, our foundations, and build our lives on top of them. In this episode of Self Helpful, “How To Greatly Influence Your Possibility For Dementia” - An issue that used to be a rarity has now become one of the greatest fears of everyone over 50. It’s getting to the point now of expecting that mental impairment is a given for aging. It is not. Does genetics play a part? Yes, but it should be minimal. Does lifestyle play a part? Yes. The biggest. If hearing you have massive power to control whether you get dementia or any cognitive decline is good news to you, you will want to tune in to this episode. Please know, you won’t hear any shaming. As I record this right now, I may have dementia in my future. The research absolutely shows however, I have great control over delaying and mitigating it. And you do too.  The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is the wrap up to my series on perception, which continues to be a prominent issue for me amongst the whole concept of personal development. As long as we perceive our reality to be factual reality, we are greatly limited and handicapped. I brought on an expert on perception, Lynda-Ross Vega. She and clinical psychologist Gary Jordan developed the Perception Style Theory to help individuals identify their strengths, appreciate human differences, and navigate challenges. Their book is Unlock the Power of Your Perception. After talking in depth with Lynda-Ross, then talking further in part two of the series with my brother, Jared Angaza, I’ve pulled out 5 aspects of perspective style I’m working to learn from. You can now watch full episodes on YouTube!  Self helpful with Kevin miller - on YouTube  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve been looking at the idea of an inherent perception style. Meaning, that you have a hard wired perception style. You will naturally experience life a certain way. The expert I brought in to discuss this is Lynda-Ross Vega. Lynda-Ross spent her life in the high end business world and partnered with clinical psychologist Gary Jordan to research and create the Perception Style Theory to help individuals identify their strengths, appreciate human differences, and navigate challenges. Their book, and my muse, is Unlock the Power of Your Perception. I discussed the concept with Lynda-Ross in the previous episode. Here I bring my brother, Jared Angaza, in to discuss this further. We accept the concept of an inherent perception style. Jared actually has twins and testifies to them having a different perception style, right out of the womb. However, we agree on the ability to understand our inherent perception style, not judge it as right or wrong, and wield it according to what will serve ourselves, others, and the situation best. Listen in to see if you agree and are game to understand and leverage your perception style. You can take a free perception style assessment at https://www.yourtalentadvantage.com/ You can now watch the full episodes on YouTube - just search for “Self Helpful with Kevin Miller”  The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There you are in a situation with some other people. Something happens. People react and respond differently. Later in the retelling of what happened you hear someone telling a story that is incredibly off base. Someone else chimes in with, “That’s not what happened, this is!” And you find yourself wanting to tell what really happened and you're exasperated at everyone else’s misinterpretation of what went down. The issue at hand is…we think what we experience is what really happened. It’s fact. And guess what, that’s how everyone else feels as well. If you’re solving a crime, you need to get down to what really happened. In regular life however, you’ll never prove anything and it seldom matters. Things happen and we all have an inherent Perspective Style we filter the happening through. This is how we experience the world. And it’s not fact, it’s experience. My guest and expert on this subject is Lynda-Ross Vega. Lynda-Ross spent her life in the high end business world and partnered with clinical psychologist Gary Jordan to research and create the Perception Style Theory to help individuals identify their strengths, appreciate human differences, and navigate challenges. When their book, Unlock the Power of Your Perception, came across my desk, I knew I wanted to discuss it on the show. We all naturally believe our perception of the world and events is fact, when in truth, nobody can claim fact, and if you want healthy relationships, you’ll want to hear what Lynda-Ross and I cover in this show.  You can watch this full episodes on YouTube, just search for Self helpful with Kevin miller  The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Sign up for a 2 Day LinkedIn Master Class with Hala Taha yapmedia.io/course Use Promo code KEVIN for 30% off Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to the Peak Wellness episode where we seek to strengthen our bodies, our foundations, and build our lives on top of them. In this episode, Understand & Mitigate Adrenal Fatigue. The Mayo Clinic defines adrenal fatigue as, “a lay term applied to a collection of nonspecific symptoms, such as body aches, fatigue, nervousness, sleep disturbances and digestive problems,” and goes on to say, “Your adrenal glands produce a variety of hormones that are essential to life.” The medical term "adrenal insufficiency" refers to inadequate production of one or more of these hormones as a result of an underlying disease or surgery.” Dr James and I unpack the concepts so you can discern if some of your issues extend beyond a mere lack of energy and into a true adrenal problem. And then of course, what to do about it. The key is...recovery. But sleep alone is not enough! The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is my wrap up on this series on anxiety, though running parallel with it was the topic of trauma. My muse and resident expert was Britt Frank, a survivor of much trauma and trial. Britt is a renowned therapist and author of The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. She turns our perspective on anxiety upside down, and gives us a fresh look at what trauma is and how to come to a reckoning with it. In episode three I brought on past guest, Britt’s friend and associate, and one of New York City’s most in demand relationship therapists, Vienna Pharaon, author of The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love. From both of these experts I’ve come away with 9 points on anxiety, and 9 points on trauma, that I’m now holding and working to learn and engage with in my own life. I’ll share them with you now. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are looking at trauma not necessarily at the tragic level, but defined as, “a lasting, negative, and limiting emotional response that often results from living through a distressing event.” To this degree, nobody is immune. This is my series on anxiety. I had brought Britt Frank in as my expert and we talked through the message in her book, The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward. This is part three in the series where I bring in a peer to discuss the topic, and I have with me Vienna Pharaon. Vienna is one of New York City’s most sought after relationship therapists, she has over 700k followers on Instagram, and I did a series with her around the message in her book, The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love. Vienna is who recommended Britt to me. In this discussion, actually near the latter part, I ask Vienna about giving gravity to the trauma’s in our life and she actually corrects me and says we want to acknowledge them, but not give to much weight to them and distort them. The mic drop happens when she says, ““When we acknowledge something, we fear it gives power to IT, when instead, it gives power to US.” Acknowledge, don’t distort. This was incredibly insightful.  The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a free Flank Steak in every box for 3 months! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get Flank Steak for 3 months, Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with neuropsychotherapist and trauma expert Britt Frank to hear what drives her. Britt is my expert for this series on anxiety, as much of the focus of her new book, The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia To Find Your Path Forward, is that anxiety is a good thing. It’s the body doing what it’s supposed to do. It’s us not understanding the dynamics of anxiety and the body’s natural responses that causes problems. Here more in the previous episode. This is part two with Britt where I walk with her through the key areas of life, and it’s in the mental category where she shares her focus to balance waking up in the morning and putting the gas pedal down, with also knowing when she needs to brake and downshift to manage her output, recovery, and mental state. The concept of shifting gears and the pause between has come up in multiple shows recently, so we expand on this more here.  The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a free Flank Steak in every box for 3 months! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get Flank Steak for 3 months, Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are a culture caught in a plague of anxiety. But my guest states nothing is wrong with anxiety, it’s simply our bodies responding appropriately to a threat. Anxiety is not a mental health problem, it’s simply a physical cue that allows us to know when we are out of alignment with external safety and/or internal truth. Britt Frank is a licensed neuropsychotherapist and trauma expert who is trained in IFS (Internal Family Systems) and SE (Somatic Experiencing). She is a speaker and an award-winning adjunct instructor at the University of Kansas, where she’s taught classes on ethics, addiction, and clinical social work. Her new book is our muse for this series and it’s called, The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia To Find Your Path Forward. I brought her to us to discuss her research on anxiety and body based feeling vs thought based therapy. You’re about to hear some paradigm shifting information that will change how you view your anxiety and get you paying attention to your bodies responses in order to better manage your mental state.  The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a free Flank Steak in every box for 3 months! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get Flank Steak for 3 months, Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our guest today is Dr Daniel O’Neill, orthopedic surgeon, sports medicine doctor, and sports psychologist. Dr O’Neill is leading the charge to help our kids and his book is called Survival Of The Fit: How Physical Education Ensures Academic Achievement and a Healthy Life. Our kids are more and more sedentary. They are getting fatter and out of shape and sicker and the consequences are dire, as their brains grow and function out of the health of their bodies. Schools are doing away with physical education and activity and us parents aren’t fostering play and activity and are letting the kids sit still on screens all day. My co-host is Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, and we struggle with this just as every other parent does. We want smart kids. We want resilient kids. Kids who don’t fall into depression. So what do we do? That’s what this show is about. Find Dr Daniel O’Neill at survivalofthefit.net You can now watch full episodes on YouTube! Just search for “self helpful with Kevin Miller” The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children.  Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a free Flank Steak in every box for 3 months! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get Flank Steak for 3 months, Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m wrapping up my four part series on Authenticity where I brought Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani on as the expert. Our muse was the message in her new book, Becoming Flawesome: The Key to Living An Imperfectly Authentic Life. Kristina again is the cofounder of Mindvalley, a life transformation platform boasting a 20 million strong following, which has afforded her massive exposure to the personal development space and the good and bad of it. Something I have been privy to as well. I’m going to address that in this episode, and I want to also bring attention to what I feel is the number one issue around this topic of authenticity. I feel the key to being the authentic you is to discover, probably for the first time, who that actually is. And further, I’ll claim that becoming the authentic you is an ongoing process you can be evolving towards your entire life. I say can evolve to, as it’s not a given. As Robin Sharma says, and I paraphrase, you don’t live the same day over and over for 75 years and call it a life, or an evolution. We have to choose to evolve and continually discover our authentic selves.  The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is part three of my series on Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani, cofounder of MindValley and author of Becoming Flawesome: The Key to Living An Imperfectly Authentic Life. This is my discussion episode and I brought back my brother, Jared Angaza, as I know him to be someone who has fervently pursued the discovery and continual alignment with his authentic self. The tagline of this Self Helpful podcast is, “elevate your personal experience and the way you show up for others”, and Jared coined it. In this show we dig further into aspects of what it means to be authentic and he brings up the aspect of before we can show up authentically for others, we need to first show up authentically for ourselves. And many of us have never known our authentic selves, and we have work to do to discover who that is. We cover a primary way to start that you can begin today. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a free Flank Steak in every box for 3 months! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get Flank Steak for 3 months, Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back for part two with Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani, cofounder of MindValley and author of Becoming Flawesome: The Key to Living An Imperfectly Authentic Life. This is my What Drives You episode where I walk with Kristina through her personal Values & Habits. It’s in the category of Health & Wellness where she shares her perspective that being happy does more for her than anything else. A point I think we miss as we give all our focus to what we eat, how we sleep, and getting good sleep. She also attests to being European and drinking wine, eating chocolate and having an active lifestyle that includes kickboxing classes. Other highlights; she feels we often hide behind spiritual concepts rather than dealing with emotions. Regarding her mental state she strives to be kind with herself and to replace judgment with curiosity. In her work she wants to make sure that in whatever she’s digging for, that she also enjoys the digging itself. Wise counsel.  Quick note, if you like to watch your podcasts, you can now get this full episode on YouTube, just type in Self helpful with Kevin Miller. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a free Flank Steak in every box for 3 months! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get Flank Steak for 3 months, Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Download Dave today at Dave.com/selfhelpful! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I continue to be enamored with this tension of being self-aware and being true to yourself, while also being sensitive to others and respecting who and how they are. We tend to fall on the side of “just being me” and being raw and unfiltered which is likely to get you ostracized, or just performing for others and being untrue to yourself and in essence being dishonest to those you care about. I’ve fallen on the latter side most of my life and just people pleased to make everyone happy, which is exhausting and leads me to just retreating from everyone. This doesn’t help me or them. My expert guest for this series is Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani You’ll likely know her as the cofounder of Mindvalley, which is billed as “the world’s most powerful life transformation platform with an ever-growing 20 million-strong following.” They boast the teaching and trainings of many of the personalities I’ve had here on my podcast. Kristina is an entrepreneur, writer, international speaker, artist, and philanthropist. She grew up in the former Soviet Union and has a tremendous story of overcoming. Today she’s based in Estonia and my muse is her new book, Becoming Flawesome: The Key to Living An Imperfectly Authentic Life. Like me, Kristina has spent decades in the personal development industry and in this episode we candidly discuss the dark side of personal growth and how it can feed our insecurities. How it can leave you feeling you are never enough and tire you out with a feeling of constant striving. Kristina has a heart for people who, like her, realize they have become a missing person in their own life.” She cites that you won’t find peace being even 95% honest and authentic if you’re still 5% fake or performing. This is a message I really wanted to dig into for myself and I believe you’ll resonate with it. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. #mindvalley Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a free Flank Steak in every box for 3 months! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get Flank Steak for 3 months, Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m continuing on with the question listeners answered about what health issue they’d most like a magic pill for, and we had so many responses about food issues. People shared they’d want help enjoying healthier food. Help not wanting to eat so much. Help losing weight. What we kick off the show with is the stark reality that food is our number one drug. And we can’t quit it. It is so much more powerful and problematic than we understand. Truthfully this episode is possibly top of the list of importance regarding our quests for better health and wellness. We want to be able to enjoy our food, not be scared of or feel guilty about it. Or suffer from it. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a free Flank Steak in every box for 3 months! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get Flank Steak for 3 months, Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is part 4 and the wrap up on my series on Dr Lee Warren, and the message in his book, Hope Is The First Dose: A treatment plan for recovering from trauma, tragedy and other massive things. If you feel you haven’t dealt with any big trauma, then I encourage you to listen in, as this will prepare you for when it comes into your life. Talking with Lee about the journey through the tragic loss of his son, and the deaths and loss he encounters as a brain surgeon, was sobering. Then talking with Richie Norton about the loss of his son as well, has opened my eyes to what I feel are profound truths regarding how we can deal and move forward after significant pain and loss. The key aspect is we don’t simply move on. We don’t get over it. That’s a perspective guaranteed to keep us stuck and handicap. What happened is a part of us now and we are forever different. Forever grieving to a degree. But we can still move forward to beautiful places. We can. If…we deal with it healthfully. Here are nine key things I’m working to learn from this series.  Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a free Flank Steak in every box for 3 months! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get Flank Steak for 3 months, Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I, for one, don’t enjoy talking about pain and loss. I want to just be happy. That is the hope of this show. How to transcend beyond it. Not get over it. Not to ever be the same again. But go forward wiser and stronger and with abiding joy. This is part three of my series on Dr Lee Warren and the message in his new book, Hope Is The First Dose: A treatment plan for recovering from trauma, tragedy and other massive things. My co-host for this segment is Richie Norton. I’ve had Richie on my show multiple times. He’s an influencer to influencers and the author of The Power of Starting Something Stupid and Anti-Time Management. Richie is also one of the most inspiring people I know. And I chose him for this show because, like Lee, Richie also lost a child. This show is not about losing children, but those are tragic muses to look at to see how someone could not only endure such pain and loss, but come out, well. Not unscathed. Not justifying it. As you’ll hear, Richie likens it to forever carrying something on your back. It never goes away. It either weighs you down, or you get stronger. The conversation was deep, contemplative, but with Richie, always some laughs. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a free Flank Steak in every box for 3 months! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get Flank Steak for 3 months, Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with Dr Lee Warren for part two in this series, and this is my Values & Habits show. Lee is a war veteran, author, podcaster, and active brain surgeon. In part one we discussed the message in his new book, “Hope Is The First Dose: A treatment plan for recovering from trauma, tragedy and other massive things,” and we led off with the story of his 19 year old son Mitch who died from multiple stab wounds in the neck, in what will forever be an unsolved mystery. Here we walk through the primary areas of life and it’s in the area of relationships where Lee talks about his values and his intent to never allow discomfort in his relationships to continue, but his commitment to get it sorted out and not end a day with possible regrets. Which sounds valiant. Then he added that he doesn't handle all that perfectly, but it's an ideal. I so appreciate that, as I feel we often have big ideals, but when we fall short, we abandon them or just feel guilty. Join us as Lee walks us through the key areas of life and the values he has and ideals he strives to walk out. With grace.  The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a free Flank Steak in every box for 3 months! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get Flank Steak for 3 months, Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all have trauma, pain, and disappointment that affects us. From massive, life threatening events to emotional scars to the loss of a dream. We tend to judge and minimize our pains, but a point of this episode is, if you have a pain, regardless, it just is. And you’ll never fully get over it. But it will either hamper you, or you can look at it as, “Well, that was a bummer, but how can I use it to help me?” Which is the point. Though we get on a soapbox about not justifying anything. We can find some redemption, but we aren’t going to sugarcoat that it makes up for it with a tidy little bow. My guest on this topic is Dr Lee Warren. Lee is a war veteran, author, podcaster, and active brain surgeon. He forever impacted how I view my personal faith, the first time I had him on the show for his book, I’ve Seen The End Of You, where Lee grapples with having faith in miracles while looking at someone’s brain scan and knowing the person will die. This time we’re talking about his new book, Hope Is The First Dose: A treatment plan for recovering from trauma, tragedy and other massive things. Lee is an expert here because on August 20, 2013, his nineteen-year-old son Mitch died of multiple stab wounds to the neck. Mitch’s best friend died along with him with one stab wound. Whether the knife used to kill Mitch was in his hand or someone else’s, whether he was at fault or a victim, they will never know. An unsolved murder. This could have been the end of Lee. Or, as you’ll hear, he has moved on. Not without scars. Not getting over it. But finding some redemption and he lays out how you can too. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a free Flank Steak in every box for 3 months! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get Flank Steak for 3 months, Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hello Self Helpful listeners…in this episode, What To Do About The Threat Of Diabetes. These episodes were formerly called “Functional Friday” but they will now land on random days, so we’ve renamed it simply…”Peak Wellness,” and my premise is that our health and wellness is our foundation that we build everything else on. All this self-help happens from us, from our bodies, so the more we strengthen them, the more and better we can apply new information and take action on it.  In this episode…and we continue on with major health issues brought to us by listeners, and we now hit diabetes. There are some people with legit, type 1 diabetes. There are significant things they can do to minimize the symptoms. I’m joined by my Health Check co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, and as you’ll hear him say, we are all on the spectrum of diabetes. Over half of America is now struggling with type one diabetes, and the most prevalent, type two and pre diabetes. Around minute 13 we get into the relevance of a ketogenic diet, and around minute 30 we discuss how the average family pursuing health is still missing it and at risk. This is info that as an individual, and as a parent, I wish I’d known long ago, but am so grateful I do now.  The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a free Flank Steak in every box for 3 months! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get Flank Steak for 3 months, Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I wrap up our series on Jake Eagle and the concept of Awe. This is part four. As I looked through my show notes on the previous three episodes, seven key issues stood out to me. The highlights of understanding awe and microdosing it into our lives throughout the day so we can benefit from what Jake’s research showed, that it will help us avoid Burnout, minimize and relieve Anxiety, Ease Chronic Pain, and help us Find Clarity & Purpose. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a free Flank Steak in every box for 3 months! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get Flank Steak for 3 months, Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we continue the discussion on Jake Eagle and the concept of AWE, and I bring on my brother, Jared Angaza, because of all the people in my life, he is one who recognizes awe. We discuss microdosing mindfulness and get deep into how we invest so much into altering our environment and circumstance, in order to alter our mental state. It would be great if we could just snap our fingers and be present, and realize a positively altered state. But most of us can’t, so we must all look at what we need to do to facilitate it. We start by discussing space and the overview effect, made famous now by William Shatner. Captain Kirk himself. He literally went into space, Jared was involved in the project, and it forever changed his view of earth and life. Most of us can’t do that, but what can we do? That’s our show.  The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a free Flank Steak in every box for 3 months! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get Flank Steak for 3 months, Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode I’m back with Jake Eagle, co-author of THE POWER OF AWE: Overcome Burnout & Anxiety, Ease Chronic Pain, Find Clarity & Purpose—In Less Than 1 Minute Per Day, and this is part 2 where I walk with him through his Values & Habits in the key areas of life. In truth, I veered away from my normal format here and we spent the majority of our time around two statements he sent me when we first connected. Here is what Jake wrote, “I am 67, semi-retired, and wrestling with the reality that my old values no longer fit this stage of my life. I find semi-retirement to be quite a challenge and have not yet sorted myself out. I imagine a conversation with me may be potentially unsettling and raise more questions than it answers. Also, after having been a therapist for thirty years, I’m rather skeptical about many forms of therapy, because when I look at how people are doing—overall—I don’t think the trajectory is very positive.” So I dive in right there, asking about his values that no longer fit, then what he sees is not working in traditional therapy. Join us for the ride. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a free Flank Steak in every box for 3 months! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get Flank Steak for 3 months, Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I start with an analogy; The going thought is an adult should drink about a half gallon of water per day. But if you drink it all at once first thing in the morning, you’ll feel bloated, you’ll pee most of it out, and if you don’t have anymore the rest of the day you’ll be completely dehydrated by evening. You need to be drinking water throughout the day to stay well and hydrated. Now think of meditating, which at the core is an attempt to be present, center yourself, and bring about positive feelings. If you do your 5 minutes or 55 minutes in the morning, and then go about the grind for the rest of the day, you’ll end up depleted. Instead, or in addition to this, new research shows the vast benefit of taking just 5 or 15 seconds here and there throughout the day, to “microdose mindfulness.” This is more than just thinking of something you’re grateful for, but to stop and focus on something positive and really feel it, whether it’s something you can actually see like a mountain or a flower, or it’s something you close your eyes to envision. My guest is Jake Eagle, who along with Michael Amster recently released their book, THE POWER OF AWE: Overcome Burnout & Anxiety, Ease Chronic Pain, Find Clarity & Purpose—In Less Than 1 Minute Per Day, where they explain the why and how of this method for a five to fifteen-second, three-step process for “micro-dosing mindfulness,” where they discovered a clinically proven way to reduce inflammation, stress, loneliness, and burnout while improving overall well-being. Just hours before our recording, Jake sent me a scientific report that published earlier that morning. But along with this focus on awe and microdosing mindfulness, I also wanted Jake on the show because this was his response to my request to have him on the show - “I am 67, semi-retired, and wrestling with the reality that my old values no longer fit this stage of my life. I find semi-retirement to be quite a challenge and have not yet sorted myself out. I imagine a conversation with me may be potentially unsettling and raise more questions than it answers. Also, after having been a therapist for thirty years, I’m rather skeptical about many forms of therapy, because when I look at how people are doing—overall—I don’t think the trajectory is very positive.” Stay tuned for a very deep and candid conversation. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a Tomahawk for Fathers Day! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get a free Tomahawk. Log on to www.ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re continuing our series from the question I asked Self Helpful listeners; “If you could have a magic pill to fix one health issue for yourself, what would it be?” Kent, Kristy, and Susie cited knee issues, while Tanya and Sheamus cited back issues. As with all maladies, musculoskeletal problems are on the rise. Anyone past the age of 30 is now prone to accept the norm of bodily aches and pains when they move. Younger and younger people have left physical activities they used to enjoy due to physical limitations and inability. Should this be normal? What is causing our cultural aches and pains? And what can help alleviate them? My Functional Friday co host is Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. We give most of the show to causation and around minute 40 get into treatments. Surprisingly, your best prescription may be in regards to what you are eating. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a Tomahawk for Fathers Day! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get a free Tomahawk. Log on to www.ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome everyone, in this episode I’m wrapping up my series on Jordan Grumet and his book, Taking Stock: A Hospice Doctor's Advice on Financial Independence, Building Wealth, and Living a Regret-Free Life. After two discussions with Jordan and another with Tom Ziglar, discussions with some friends and some folks in my private community, I’ve been given a lot to consider. As I went through my notes I came to 8 big points. Lessons if you will, though they are only, truly lessons, if I am working to apply them. Walk with me if you will and I’ll talk them through with you. ⁣ ⁣ The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance.⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a Tomahawk for Fathers Day! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get a free Tomahawk. Log on to www.ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of the Self Helpful show we continue the discussion on Jordan Grumet and his book, Taking Stock: A Hospice Doctor's Advice on Financial Independence, Building Wealth, and Living a Regret-Free Life. Here I bring in Tom Ziglar to get his take on it. Tom is Zig Ziglar’s son, CEO of Ziglar, Inc, author and in demand speaker. ⁣ ⁣ ⁣We began discussing the change Jordan cites when people get an end of life diagnosis and the immediate shift he sees from their protective selves and stories and the transition to possibility and meaning. If you were told you just had months to live, you'd likely seek to repair relationships. We don't today, in having faith we have plenty of time, because we don't want to be that vulnerable. Which again, points back to how we primarily live to protect ourselves. Tom and I then get into Jordan's perspective on flattening or flipping Maslow's hierarchy of need and when we start with self-actualization, everything else becomes far easier, as we know what we want and why, which is much the focus of my book, What Drives You. This lands us on the necessity, if you want an abundant and inspired life, of finding meaning in what you do. ⁣ ⁣ The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance.⁣ ⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When we think of deathbed regrets, we generally envision ourselves as some shriveled up old person in a hospital bed with some regrets, and in truth, I don’t think we care. That’s that person's problem and doesn’t relate to my life right now and today I want to achieve great things and have great things and enjoy my life. And we miss two profound truths that matter most. One is, you could have an accident or get a diagnosis tomorrow that make the regret right here and now. And two, and more relevant, the death bed regrets are more focused on realizing the depth and fulfillment and happiness that we missed. That we ARE missing, right now. ⁣ ⁣ I’m back for round two with Jordan Grumet, talking through his Values & Habits.. Jordan was an internal medicine physician who left clinical practice to devote himself to hospice care and deep conversations about life. He covers this in his book, Taking Stock: A Hospice Doctor's Advice on Financial Independence, Building Wealth, and Living a Regret-Free Life, which was our topic in our first show together. It was in the category of the mind and mental health where Jordan ruminated on how he's altered by his end of life patients and realizing how influenced their lives were, not by true, objective realities, but by the stories they wrote around those. ⁣ ⁣ This is personal intent to have control over how he interprets his life. And also how so often his patients have significant regret that they didn't live lives more authentically. They lived for the expectations of others and cultural pressures. As for other categories, he shares how seeing people literally die right before him and sensing something significant changed right there in the room, has impacted his spiritual perspective. How many of his patients regret not taking care of themselves better has influenced his own health and wellness pursuits. How he sees money as a tool and how it hurts people when they see money as a goal in and of itself. And as of late he's thinking about taking up an old hobby of collecting baseball cards because he realizes the nostalgic feeling he has around them and is giving it more value to his own inspiration.⁣ ⁣ The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance.⁣ ⁣ Following these sponsors who help make the show possible and provide great resources for your life, I bring you Jordan Grumet and a walk through his personal values and habits. ⁣ ⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE.⁣ ⁣ InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful.⁣ ⁣ If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP.⁣ ⁣ This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. ⁣ ⁣ Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off!⁣ ⁣ ButcherBox is giving new members a Tomahawk for Fathers Day! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get a free Tomahawk. Log on to www.ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Autoimmune disease is a condition arising from an abnormal immune response to a functioning body part. While it’s not the leading cause of death in America, it is one of the most costly of all maladies and is growing at an alarming rate.  Symptoms can be redness, heat, pain, and swelling in one or more parts of the body. Feeling tired all the time, joint pain and stiffness, muscle aches or weakness. Skin problems such as rashes, sores, and dry or scaly skin. Shortness of breath or trouble breathing. Fever that comes and goes and more. But it can manifest into Celiac’s disease, Addison's disease, and rheumatoid arthritis.  I’m with my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert and he shares more about what autoimmune issues are and how to go about dealing with it. For many of you this may be revealing that some of your issues may be attributed to autoimmune, and if you know you have it, you’ll find wise counsel here. At the end of the show Randy shares about his youngest son who has a significant autoimmune issue they have yet to resolve. June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a Tomahawk for Fathers Day! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get a free Tomahawk. Log on to www.ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all want to feel well. We want our body to feel well and not have aches and pains that bother or limit us. Then, we want to feel well mentally. We want hope and happiness and a sharp mind that can think critically, make decisions, be creative, and just be at peace.  We tend to think of what we eat only in regards to our physical wellness, and miss that what we eat is likely a primary culprit in our mental state. Why we feel anxious or doubtful and fearful. We think our mental state comes only from what we are thinking.  But consider this, have you ever had a thought or seen something that made you feel nauseous? If the thought or feeling is in your brain, in your mind, then wouldn’t it make more sense that the pain and fear or disgust…whatever the negative feeling is…gave you a headache? It ached…where it happened? Then why does the feeling manifest in your gut? In your belly? Maybe to the point of you actually throwing up? Why do you have a thought and feel butterflies in your stomach instead of up in your head?  This is my wrap up on Dr Will Cole and the message in his philosophical book on wellness, Gut Feelings: Healing the Shame-Fueled Relationship Between What You Eat and How You Feel. And I’m grappling with the misconceptions and realities of this whole gut/brain connection.  June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a Tomahawk for Fathers Day! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get a free Tomahawk. Log on to www.ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nobody wants to consider their death, but if it gave you a massive paradigm shift that catapulted your success and joy, wouldn’t you? I think you would. This is not a “live every day like your last” message, as that’s impossible. If this is your last day, you’d put off anything that wasn’t vitally important, and you just can’t do that every day, it’s not sustainable. This is different.  My guest is Jordan Grumet. Jordan was an internal medicine physician who left clinical practice to devote himself to hospice care and deep conversations about life. Jordan walks with people who are given an end of life diagnosis and watches a phenomenon happen right before his eyes. Jordan says, “We are all living versions of stories, but when a person is diagnosed with a terminal illness and death becomes a near future certainty…something remarkable happens: the self-protective stories about identity, work and money crumble, leaving them with clarity about who they are, what they love and what really matters.” He then cites they become free, as there is no reason to hold up pretense and no need to protect. Their focus shifts from fear of loss toward the possibility of what can still be gained, and people focus on true desires, generally for the first time. The tragedy is they didn’t achieve this perspective, long ago in their lives.   Which is why Jordan has taken his experience and written a book, Taking Stock: A Hospice Doctor's Advice on Financial Independence, Building Wealth, and Living a Regret-Free Life. He’s striving to help us leave our lives of self-protection and move to considering what is truly possible, now. Not when death is imminent and we have a short time to do what really matters.  June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, is the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a Tomahawk for Father's Day! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get a free Tomahawk. Log on to www.ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do you think and feel the way you do? Regardless of the circumstances, some days you feel joyful, faithful, and hopeful, and some days you feel sad, worried, and hopeless. It can be frustrating and feel out of control. You may not feel you have any mental health crisis, you are just dealing with ebbing and flowing moods. So you look to inspiration and positive thoughts, which is great. However, what we so often miss - is looking at what we eat. ⁣ ⁣ Much of Functional Medicine looks at what we are putting in our bodies that our bodies don’t want, and what we aren’t putting in our bodies that our bodies need. Your gut isn’t just a repository for food to be digested, it is literally connected to your brain. It’s showcased when you have emotional responses and you feel it in your stomach. You really do. So think to what you are eating. If you kept a food journal, you’d very likely see a correlation between what you eat and how you feel. ⁣ ⁣ This is part 3 in my series on renowned doctor, Will Cole. He’s Pepper Pott’s doctor, for goodness sakes. I mean…Gwyneth Paltrow. Today I bring on my frequent co-host, Randy James, medical doctor and Functional Medicine expert, to discuss the concept in Will’s new book, Gut Feelings: Healing the Shame-Fueled Relationship Between What You Eat and How You Feel. ⁣ ⁣ Rest assured, this is not a soapbox on eating nothing but raw veggies and never digging into a pint, or half gallon of ice cream. But we do discuss further the connection between what we do and don’t eat, and how we feel. If you have a big day tomorrow, if you want to rock your critical thinking skills or creativity, maybe delay the ice cream or whatever, till after. As I write this, I’ve had a good, long, productive week, and I’m about to grab a burger and fries. Maybe some ice cream. And my favorite hard cider. But I’m managing my life to moderate the impact it has on me. This episode is about opportunity much more than abstinence. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a Tomahawk for Fathers Day! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get a free Tomahawk. Log on to www.ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For all my health and wellness advocacy, the honest admission is if I could, I’d take a pill for my ailments. I have some skin issues due to the many years and untold miles of bike riding as a pro cyclist in the sun with no sun protection. I have digestive issues that I work to manage, but are always there. I occasionally have shin splint pain from running. Instead of making the effort to cure these things naturally, I’d happily take a pill that allowed me to just go on my merry way. ⁣ ⁣ Some of you listening have far more critical and acute issues you are dealing with. Significant chronic pain and mind numbing maladies. So I asked the Self Helpful audience, “If you could have a magic pill to fix one health issue for yourself, what would it be?” I wanted to get a pulse on the primary ailments that even our relatively healthy audience is dealing with right now. ⁣ ⁣ It’s just honest that in some aspects of our life, we would all like a magic pill to alleviate a problem or give us the desire we want, as you’ll hear at the top of the show as I pose the question to Randy James, my Functional Friday co host…Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. We received so many responses. We grouped some together, but they were all so relevant we are going to go ahead and run a series to address all the issues I believe affect so many of us. In this episode, we address chronic headaches, irritable bowel syndrome, and allergies.⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a Tomahawk for Fathers Day! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get a free Tomahawk. Log on to www.ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are areas of your life where you feel driven. You are doing the work and getting the results. And it feels good. Then there are other areas of your life where you feel you're working hard as well, but you're not getting the results you want. I'm talking about the areas where you aren't as interested or inspired. ⁣ ⁣ So many overall driven people experience this. And they go along day after day hoping they'll get a break and find success in those challenging areas. I'm not going to tell you I can make you love the challenging categories of life as much as the ones you find great joy in. But you can significantly increase your success and find peace. Walk with me for a moment as I cover a primary topic from my new book, What Drives You: How To Discover Your Unique Motivators and Accelerate Growth In Work and Life⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a Tomahawk for Father's Day! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get a free Tomahawk. Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s world where you can get alerted every second about something new, FOMO, or the fear of missing out, is something causing anxiety amongst the culture. Fear of missing out on the news because you want to be in the know, fear of missing out on a social media post or the next new show or episode on Netflix, or a new podcast posting and on and on. We want to belong, we want to be in the know, and we might miss out on something beneficial for us It’s a real thing.  I’m back with Dr Will Cole, renowned Functional Medicine expert and celebrated health coach to actress Gwyneth Paltrow. His new book is called Gut Feelings: Healing the Shame-Fueled Relationship Between What You Eat and How You Feel, which was the topic of our first talk together. This is my Values & Habits episode where we walk through the key areas of life fulfillment so see how Will structures his personal life for success. It's in the category of mental health where Will brings up FOMO and ascribes to JOMO, the JOY of missing out. I'll let you hear how he breaks it down, but it is a worthy paradigm shift and something he puts great value in.  In other categories, Will shares his spirituality is the lens from which he sees the world through. He's pretty introverted so is very intentional about nurturing relationships. He follows intermittent fasting, which he got flack for from a talk with Gwyneth Paltrow recently, you can hear us unpack it further. He has a weakness for organic peanut butter and Zevia soda. We end with Will sharing his love of history and how he gets lost in it for personal joy. You can ask him anything about the Mayflower and he’ll fill you in…Find Dr Will Cole at…drwillcole.com Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Receive two pounds of ground beef for a year and get $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I just want an easy, step-by-step formula to look, feel, and perform great; Eat whole and healthy foods, exercise, and get good sleep. It should be that simple. And yet it’s not and many of you know it, as you do these things and you are not experiencing the level of health and wellness you desire.  Our mental health can sabotage our efforts, and I’m not talking anything severely acute. I am open about my own struggles with anxiety, and am more and more aware how it negatively affects me, especially my gut. You’ve likely heard about the brain/gut connection, but I find few people who really give much attention to this. How can you trust your gut, that intuitive feeling, if your gut is a boiling cauldron of a mess? And most of us have a compromised gut.  My guest today is Dr Will Cole. I became aware of Dr Cole through Gwyneth Paltrow, as he is her doctor and a primary provider in her Goop wellness and lifestyle brand and company. If you remember, I had Terry Real on the show months back, he is Gwyneth’s therapist and relationship expert, also part of the Goop company. Will has become the health and wellness resource for a lot of celebrities, I see his instagram showcasing him working with Leann Rimes and Drew Barrymore, but I’ve paid attention and he’s really got the chops and I respect his work a lot.  He has a new book that as you’ll hear, he says is unlike anything he’s ever written. It’s called Gut Feelings: Healing the Shame-Fueled Relationship Between What You Eat and How You Feel, and it gets more into the philosophy of our wellness than just clinical, prescriptive aspects. Which to me is the foundation. Your health and wellness will ultimately be a result of your own philosophy on health and wellness. Will actually coined the term, “Shameflammation”, which I encourage you to listen into. I find that shame is a reality with most men, and one they are ignorant of and prone to avoid even looking into. You’re going to hear some paradigm shifting information here on your health and wellness.   June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Receive two pounds of ground beef for a year and get $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

More than two-thirds of Americans are overweight or actually obese. My guest has coached and trained over 20,000 people and says around 75% of those people just need to get on a healthy eating and exercise routine and stick to it. But for the rest, they likely have a metabolic issue and unless corrected, the weight will not come off and stay off. ⁣ ⁣ Angelo Poli founded Metpro where he and his team specialize in this area by utilizing an algorithm based transformation engine. Angelo and Metpro work with regular folks like us, but he’s well known for working with high-profile clientele that range from Olympic Athletes, NFL MVPs, physique models, and business leaders. I had worked with Angelo and his team for quite a while so in this episode I introduced him and his research to Randy James, Medical Doctor, Functional Medicine expert and my Functional Friday co-host. ⁣ ⁣ As you’ll hear they get into the nuances of why we are having metabolic problems, how to figure out who does, and what to do about it. You’ll hear my story in this episode as well, as I’m one who had really slowed my metabolism down. For some of you who have trouble losing weight this could be revolutionary, as it was for me. You can take the info and apply it to yourself immediately, as this is not an ad for Metpro. But if you want to check them out, go to http://metpro.co/ziglar and you can take their assessment and speak with a coach on their team for no cost or commitment.⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Receive two pounds of ground beef for a year and get $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The self-help industry is guilty of telling people they are limitless and perpetuating the concept that you can do and be anything. It’s a well meaning concept to try and help people see they are capable of more, which I agree with, but the sentiment is often a great disservice. Sure, you can go do anything and everything, but you won’t do many of those things well. You are designed for some specific things. ⁣ ⁣ The great news is they will fit your innate desires and abilities. Imagine taking all the animals in Africa and dumping them on the open savannah. How will they fare? The monkeys and crocodiles and hippos and pythons and parrots will soon die. Or dump them all into the trees. How will the elephants and lions and gazelles do? You get the point. Yet we as humans are expected to just be ok in all the normal structures of our environment. It doesn’t work, and most all of us spend a lot of our days in environments and circumstances that are greatly limiting us and don’t cater to our unique makeup.⁣ ⁣ This is my wrap up on my series with Andre Sólo and the message in his book, "Sensitive: The Hidden Power of the Highly Sensitive Person in a Loud, Fast, Too-Much World." Some of you are HSPs, as I’ve realized I am. But all of you have sensitivities. All of you. And chances are you are blind to them or are just trying to grit your teeth and plow through your life. You can. But you won’t be at your best. You’ll be doing yourself a disservice. Further, you’ll be limiting the service you can bring to others. ⁣ ⁣ Walk with me a minute in looking at how to better curate and design your world for your success.⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We've been unpacking issues of sensitivity. I want to again highlight that the only people who do not have sensitivities are psychopaths. So if you are not a psychopath, this show is for you. You do have some sensitivities and if you are unaware and if you don't work to manage them, they will erode you, like termites. The point here is not being a victim. Not being fragile. It's about being self-aware of your unique propensities so you can manage and leverage them. ⁣ ⁣ This is part 3 on the message from Andre Sólo in his new book, "Sensitive: The Hidden Power of the Highly Sensitive Person in a Loud, Fast, Too-Much World." Andre is the force behind Sensitive Refuge (sensitiverefuge.com), the world’s largest website for sensitive people. In this show I invited Broadway and big screen star Renée Marino to join me and discuss this topic.⁣ ⁣ Because, right after posting my first episode with Andre, Renée texted me saying, “I'm Listening to your podcast about HSP... man.. this is me 100%!!!!” I had no idea. This episode is us unpacking our realizations of not just being sensitive, but in our case, tipping over into being HSPs, highly sensitive people. But again, this isn't a handicap, unless it goes unchecked. It can be a superpower if properly leveraged. Again though, you have sensitivities, and I believe you'll hear in this episode how you can better manage them to be more at peace and get more, valuable productivity out of yourself and in the areas you are more attune to in your sensitivities. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Receive two pounds of ground beef for a year and get $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode I want sensitive people to hear how an HSP…highly sensitive person…curates their life to find more peace and wholeness. I was highly interested in this, as I’m new to understanding, I’m an HSP, and I’m working to reorient my life, with grace, to help me be more at peace, and from this, be more at peace with others and the world around me. ⁣ ⁣ I’m back with Andre Sólo, the force behind Sensitive Refuge, the world’s largest website for sensitive people, and the co-author of "Sensitive: The Hidden Power of the Highly Sensitive Person in a Loud, Fast, Too-Much World." Andre is an author, researcher, and speaker, and a recognized expert and passionate advocate for sensitive people.⁣ ⁣ Here we walk through his Values & Habits and as you’ll hear, most are configured to support Andre’s sensitivities. Remember from our first talk together in the May 17 episode, Sensitive does not mean fragile, or delicate. Sensitive means; quick to detect or respond to slight changes, signals, or influences. And that means externally and internally. ⁣ ⁣ Spiritually Andre finds more sensitive people crave meaning from life and may be more prone to pursuits of spirituality. Similarly, they seek out deep, meaningful relationships, and Andre attests to this for himself. And while we didn't discuss it, I'm betting more sensitive people have fewer, but deeper relationships than the norm. I'll have to ask him about that. Regarding health and wellness Andre said he doesn't live up to his own values here, but seeks out Whole Foods and practices yoga. He admits he's an emotional eater. Regarding mental health he of course guards against overstimulation. This is a big aspect I'm getting from this topic, as I've always struggled with overstimulation but just gritted my teeth and figured it's my problem. While I'm not taking the concept to opt out of everything, I am more in mind to budget how much and giving myself recovery time. This and more in the episode. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Receive two pounds of ground beef for a year and get $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Adi Arezzini was 23 years old and as you’ll hear, bloated, constipated, and only going to the bathroom once per week. This is critical digestive illness. She started researching the colon and herbs and from it found healing agents in tea, from which she started a business, Teami Blends which is sold online and also across the country in stores like Target. But this isn’t an ad for Teami Blends and it is of course not a stand alone magic bullet. Adi made other significant lifestyle changes which led her away from that harsh reality to more optimal health.  I’m joined by my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, and we asked Adi about her personal health journey, the benefits of tea, and much more. In the latter part of the conversation I asked her and she provided, her top three list of what causes and helps alleviate digestive problems which may be the greatest benefit you get from this episode. Adi is offering us 20% off all her products at teamiblends.com when you use code TRUELIFE.  Again, this isn’t an ad, but of interest to us. Of note, Randy is a complete tea snob and buys high end, loose leaf tea…probably consuming 5 or 6 mugs a day. After a decade of friendship, I finally wanted to test reducing my coffee intake, and started trying tea. Initially I only liked black tea, but have now developed a broader pallet. I still adore coffee but find it bothers my gut a bit, so I’m only doing it once or twice a week these days…but drinking a lot of tea. June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Receive two pounds of ground beef for a year and get $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My hope for you in this episode of the Self Helpful podcast, is for those of you nearing midlife, or already past it, to divest yourself of frustration you have from lacking strength in some areas of life you’ve relied on, and find great hope and inspiration and start shifting to a new strength. I’m wrapping up the series with Arthur Brooks and the message in his book, From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life.  It was a gift to talk with Arthur, then also have a discussion on the Strength To Strength message with his colleague at Harvard, Robert Waldinger. These guys are some of the top researchers on happiness and their research is profound and paradigm shifting. In this episode I give four highlights from the three episodes that I’m pondering and focused on for my own life and discussing with my friends and peers. June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Receive two pounds of ground beef for a year and get $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Here is my hope for this show…that a lot of you, especially those of you who like me, were unaware of your sensitivities, will find comfort and understanding in areas of your life you struggle. Introvert, extrovert, macho man, whatever you think you are. You’ll find some grace for yourself, and some equipping of how to better manage your life to find more peace and success. ⁣ ⁣ Sensitive does not mean fragile, or delicate. Sensitive means; quick to detect or respond to slight changes, signals, or influences. Think of it this way; a military fighter jet is incredibly sensitive to every nuance, detecting the slightest problem or change and alerting the pilot and ground crews. They cost from $60 to $130 million. A tank on the other hand does not require such sensitivity and only costs around $10 million. They both have different, valuable uses. ⁣ Speaking of the military, the special forces personnel are actually trained to become highly sensitive to everything. ⁣ ⁣ This is my preface to informing you that while every human is on the scale of being more or less sensitive to the outside world, and to their own inner world, about 30% of you listening will tip over into being a "highly sensitive person," thought to have an increased or deeper central nervous system sensitivity to physical, emotional, or social stimuli. And friends, the kicker here is that I...am an HSP. I have been all my life, but I've masked it, grit my teeth, and just negatively judged myself for being intolerant. I’m thrilled about this message. ⁣ ⁣ My guest to break down the walls on this issue is Andre Sólo, the force behind Sensitive Refuge (sensitiverefuge.com), the world’s largest website for sensitive people, and Andre is the co-author of "Sensitive: The Hidden Power of the Highly Sensitive Person in a Loud, Fast, Too-Much World." I really encourage everyone to listen to this message, as I think you’ll find relevance for yourself, and others in your life. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Receive two pounds of ground beef for a year and get $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We live in a world construct based on achievements. It’s what you do that matters. What you’ve done. And we miss the daily, primary engagement of simply…what we are doing. I recently hiked four, thirteen thousand foot peaks in one day with a group of guys. I honestly don’t remember much about the peaks themselves. We’d stop, look around, grab a drink or bite to eat and adjust our packs…then move on. ⁣ ⁣ What we remember is the mountain goat that came up to us along the way. The clouds boiling up a mountain pass while we sat in a saddle of the mountain. The dip in a lake above tree line that was the coldest thing I’ve ever immersed myself in. Then tailgating at the end with food and drinks to recount it all. It was the journey we most enjoyed. Getting to the top is often a bit anticlimactic. This is what my guest brought to light in this episode when he cited that his focus in the second half of life has moved from, “I want to get to this place, to, I want to be on this path.”So simple and so profound. ⁣ ⁣ This is part 3 of my series on Arthur Brooks and his new book, From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life. For this discussion I brought on a co host who not only knows the message well, but is colleagues with Arthur. Arthur actually cites him in his book. ⁣ ⁣ It’s Robert Waldinger who I did a series on in January of 2023. Bob is a professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development at Massachusetts General Hospital. His TED titled, “What makes a good life?” has over 43 million views and his book that culminates the project is, The Good Life: Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness. I experience Bob as an incredibly insightful person, an expert in the area of happiness and fulfillment, and just a complete joy of a human. It was great to talk with him again, but the insight you’re about to hear I feel is…life changing. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Receive two pounds of ground beef for a year and get $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Without making a case that there is more negativity in our world today than ever, it’s simply more easily delivered to us through our constant devices. The media want our attention and if it bleeds it leads. Negativity gets more views. And on social media, I don’t know the exact stats, but I tend to see more sharing of and discussions around criticism and debate, than joy and peace. ⁣ ⁣ We can’t get rid of it either, all the negativity is impossible to avoid. Not long ago we went through a covid pandemic, high racial tensions, and presidential campaigns and scandals that really upped all the volatility, and just about everyone in the country, if not the planet, is citing more anxiety, uncertainty, confusion and fear than ever. We can’t live in a bubble or a cave, so we just have to learn to deal with it. ⁣ ⁣ This is my Functional Friday episode and I’m with my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, and we talk about what he is seeing with patients in his clinic and how very real this issue is, and how we can minimize it...but in truth, again, the bigger issue is combating it. Interestingly what we landed on was seeking ways to lift ourselves emotionally. I think you’ll find some tangible actions you can take from this show. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’ve had three guests on this show recently who really have me grappling with the realities of what we as humans say and think we want, and what our behavior proves we want. What you’re about to hear may shock you and make you take a step back, as it did me. ⁣ ⁣ I usually give you the punchline of the episode right here in the beginning, but in this case I’m not going to…just hold tight a moment and I’ll unpack it. But you and I, right now, think we want to be happy, authentic, and healthy. But our actions show that in each case, we actually want something else…more. ⁣ ⁣ And it’s not the same things. For each of those three issues, there is a counterfeit desire that is winning out. And to realize it is to get at the issue of significant cognitive dissonance we live in, and are suffering from. Getting aware, I believe, can give us a new lease on life. And further, if you are in business and involved with trying to offer happiness, authenticity and health to anyone, you’re about to find out what your real competition is. Come ponder and explore with me… ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Receive two pounds of ground beef for a year and get $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How many times have you been asked, “So, what do you do?” Meaning, what work do you do. A primary way we establish hierarchy in our culture. But have you ever had anyone follow and ask why you do what you do? Have you asked yourself recently? And the answer must go deeper than just for the money. If there is no meaning for you in your work beyond money, then ask what that money is for? It’s supporting something you care about, even if it’s merely food and shelter.  This was brought back to my attention by Arthur Brooks who is back with me to walk and talk through his personal Values & Habits. When I asked him about his values regarding his career he spoke to his efforts to stay aware of the why of what he does as opposed to just the what. Arthur is a Harvard Professor, a columnist at The Atlantic, ridiculously in demand speaker, and author of 12 books, the most recent being the focus of my series with him, From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life.  You’ll find that Arthur is a very intentional person and deeply considers all areas of his life. Spiritually he seeks where he can lift the world and not just himself. In his pursuit of health I found it interesting that he cited he’s not necessarily happy to be exercising, but it helps him be less unhappy. Interesting way to look at it. Regarding money, as his stage of life he’s eager to simplify the stuff he owns, and puts his focus on binging experiences. It’s quite an interesting journey through one of our cultures leading experts on happiness.  June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Get free chicken thighs for a year and $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Many of you listening to this show are at or nearing the midpoint of life. The rest of you will be there before you know it. This show is geared to blow away a myth and massive problem we live within our culture. We churn and grind away to achieve and provide...and as we age we just try to buckle down and keep it going as long as we can, or as long as we feel we have to. ⁣ ⁣ This is a message to say..."Whoa! Stop! You've totally got it wrong! You don't want to keep doing what you've been doing. Rather you want to evolve, graduate if you will, to a new and well earned second half of life. One where you move from learning and innovating and amassing, to...leveraging all you've learned. The former leads to burnout and grave dissatisfaction, the latter to the greatest joy and fulfillment life has to offer. ⁣ ⁣ My guest, researcher and expert on this topic is Arthur Brooks. Arthur went from being a professional French horn, to earning degrees online that landed him as a think tank president amongst Ivy League scholars, which you'll hear was an embarrassment to him for a while, to today being...OK, this is long...the William Henry Bloomberg Professor of the Practice of Public Leadership at the Harvard Kennedy School, and Professor of Management Practice at the Harvard Business School, where he teaches courses on leadership, happiness, and social entrepreneurship. He is also a columnist at The Atlantic, where he writes the popular weekly “How to Build a Life” column. ⁣ ⁣ Brooks is the author of 12 books, including the 2022 #1 New York Times bestseller From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life, which is my focus for this series. A recent Harvard Magazine article labeled Arthur as, "The Happiness Revolutionary." Somehow between his content and his personality Arthur has become a massively influential guy who is now called on and cited by people such as Oprah, the Dalai Lama and The White House. ⁣ You're about to hear him school us in how our first half of life is spent leveraging fluid knowledge, and that our brain is created for this. But around the midpoint of our life, our brain has less ability for fluid knowledge and transitions to great ability in crystallized knowledge. If you are aware of and embrace this, you will find great peace and continue progress instead of feeling you are in a race for time to keep up the initiatives and pace from the first half of life.⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Get free chicken thighs for a year and $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I staunchly believe perception is everything, and regarding our health and wellness and concerning the concept of exercise, there is a paradigm shift we can enact with ourselves that works wonders. The word exercise does not create positive feelings in most people. It sounds like a chore. The point is movement and we have to “exercise” because for most of us, our daily life does not require much of any utilization of our lungs and muscles and joints. But I want you to consider the term…athlete, and why you may want to strive to adopt it. ⁣ ⁣ This is our Functional Friday episode where we tend to our physical and mental capacity to support us in our desired goals and achievements. Here is my setup; If you join a painting class, you might share with others that you paint. But if you do it daily or weekly and keep it up for years and get proficient, when do you refer to yourself as an artist? You don’t have to do it for money to be an artist. The literal word artist is defined as, a person who produces paintings or drawings as a profession or hobby. There you go. If you produce paintings as a hobby, you are an artist. My home contains many pieces of furniture I made out of raw aspens on our land and when people see it, they often say, “I didn’t know you were an artist!” ⁣ ⁣⁣ So with exercise. The definition is, a person who is proficient in sports and other forms of physical exercise. I find a lot of people who engage daily in some fitness activity call themselves athletes. And I think it’s great. I was a professional athlete, as a pro cyclist. I got paid. Not much. But today I don’t have pro status or a racing license. But I ride my bike or run almost daily. I do push ups, or dips or pull ups most days. I call myself an athlete. It’s not what I do, it’s another role I’ve embraced. If you engage in a physical activity and become proficient in it…proficient, defined as competent in doing something, you can adopt the label of athlete. It’s not a chore you try to do, it’s a role you fulfill. Regarding this idea, I asked our audience on Facebook this question, “Do you think of yourself as athletic?” Over 80 comments came in that brought up some interesting issues. I truly hope it inspires you to further embrace your athletic self and from that, your long term fitness and wellness.⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Get free chicken thighs for a year and $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m wrapping up my series on Laura Tremaine, host of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast and author of The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs. Our focus is on friendships, but vastly elevating them from mere peripheral benefits, “if we have time.” A point I’m expounding on in this series is we don’t need friendships to survive. We need them to thrive. So if thriving is your goal, this is a vital topic. Normally on this part four episode, I briefly discuss lessons I’m learning or grappling with from the series we’ve done. ⁣ ⁣ Here, I take a detour. Instead of my solo commentary, I brought two dear friends into the studio with me to talk candidly about how we’d been doing friendships, the value we had been receiving, and…how we could do them better. Main focal points that surfaced were the need to protect and enhance friendships, just like we do our health and money. ⁣ ⁣ My friends and co-hosts are…two guys at the top of their field in just those areas, health and money. Randy James. Who you hear often as my co-host on the Functional Friday episodes. Randy is a medical doctor and functional medicine expert. People pay him out of pocket to get to the root issues of their problems and not simply prescribe a medication to a symptom. Randy and I have lived in the same town and been friends for over a decade, growing our kids together, adventuring together, and we partnered together in a business six years ago and have shared offices ever since. Some weeks we are together 5 days in a row, sharing lunch on the back deck of the office. Find him at truelifemedicine.com. ⁣ ⁣ My other dear friend featured in this episode is Patrick Johnson. Randy and I met Patrick together four or five years ago and found a kindred spirit in health and wellness, adventuring, family, and spiritually. Patrick is a personal, fiduciary financial counselor who works with very high net worth individuals. But Patrick goes way beyond that. He’s become a unicorn in his profession because he goes deep with clients into maximizing the overall wealth of their life, no different than Randy. Or me. Patrick was a professional river and mountain guide; seminarian; organic farmer, and he’s an author. He leads a large group of men in Colorado on epic adventures. You can find him at WellthPartner.com. We all spend a lot of time together. We live within a two mile radius of each other. We go on big adventures together. So coming together to discuss the topic of friendships just felt too legitimate to me. ⁣ ⁣ You’re about to hear a different start to an episode, as again, we are literally sitting side by side in my studio together, and we start off sharing a beverage together, just as we do when tailgating in the mountains after a big adventure. Props to Patrick for this tradition. He knows how to instigate inspiring environments. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Get free chicken thighs for a year and $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Friends, when I first started writing my new book, What Drives You, I sat down with some influential people to get their stories. I wanted to know what took them from, wherever they started, to realize the significant achievements that landed them on my show. ⁣ ⁣ Dr Benjamin Hardy is a favorite guest of mine, he's a prolific writer of best-selling non-fiction in the self-help space because he's a great writer, of great research. His books, Willpower Doesn't Work and Personality Isn't Permanent are foundational messages I come back to time and time again. ⁣ ⁣ Not long after I signed my book deal, I had Ben on my podcast, which was called The Ziglar Show at the time. He had shared a tidbit of personal story that grabbed my attention...so I brought him on to dig in. What he shared violated much of what I'd previously thought about drive and was a great depiction of what I'd learned and was writing in my book. ⁣ ⁣ Ultimately the story here is what I used as the lead off story in chapter one of my new book, What Drives You, which is just now coming out. Ben's story is an incredible depiction of a primary myth I bust, of some people being driven and some people not. Even some having more drive than others. It's just not true. Listen in to hear more. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Get free chicken thighs for a year and $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are two options for gaining the valuable relationships you want and need to have a rich, fulfilling existence. Before I tell you though, there is a foundational assumption that must be met regardless, and we actually didn’t address it in this episode, so I want to cover it here. ⁣ ⁣ You must have exposure. I find many people who lack friendships also don’t get much exposure to people, and especially new people. I won’t belabor this but I’ve found the absolute number one way to achieve this is get in groups of kindred spirits. Take an interest you have and get around other people with that same interest. ⁣ ⁣ And coworkers may not fit. Working at the same place is not the same interest. Neither is family for that matter. I’m talking to literally know what you are interested in, curious about, inspired by, and find other people who are as well. After that…the two options for accumulating valuable relationships are either instigating them, or, making friends with an instigator. ⁣ ⁣ This is Part 3 of my discussion on Laura Tremaine host of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast and author of her most recent book, The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs. My focus is on the friends everyone needs, women and men. ⁣ ⁣ To round out our discussion I invited Brianna Brown Keen on to co-host the discussion. Brianna Brown Keen is an accomplished actress, appearing in more than 20 feature films and 30 television shows. Along with being a present day, working actress, Brianna has produced an initiative and book called Manifesting Your Mission where she guides entrepreneurs, including a lot of people in show business, in making true progress toward your goals. ⁣ ⁣ Brianna is a relationship instigator, and we talk about what this looks like. But if you hear Brianna and feel you are not a fit for being an instigator, then I want you to hear your focus is to befriend…an instigator. Find a Brianna in your life, even if it’s as a paid part of a community or mastermind as Brianna leads. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Get free chicken thighs for a year and $20 off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When we look back on who we were five years ago, even more so 10 years ago, we recognize ourselves as very different people today. Yet today we think who we are is really…who we are. But in five years you’ll look back to yourself, right now, and realize how much you’ve changed. ⁣ ⁣ So think to what was normal for you five or ten years ago? What was normal, that you don’t do at all now? If you are growing and evolving, things will have changed. So…how about today? What is normal to you right now, that doesn’t have to be? That for your best wellness, probably shouldn’t be? ⁣ ⁣ The power is in realizing we as people have such a hard time shifting from what is normal to us right now. What is normal is comfortable. It’s secure. To change it requires decision-making, discipline, and to a great degree it’s simply a hassle. And we live lives with little margin and a hassle, even a seemingly little hassle, feels like a big obstacle. ⁣ ⁣ This is our Functional Friday episode and I’m with Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert and we discuss some of the normal maladies that have been normalized in our culture. Not because they are ok, but we’ve just made peace with them. If you want long-term wellness, this is not a good peace. But changing them for the better is not ultimately that hard, it’s just that initial shift to create a new normal, that once we do…is fairly easy. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Friends, many of you have listened to this podcast for many years. You’ve listened to me dig into the stories and messages of over 200 of our world’s most profound and important influencers in the self-help space. You listened as I hosted The Ziglar Show and went from 50,000 listeners to over 300,000, then as we transitioned to the Self-Helpful show and grew to over 600,000 listeners. We’ve had over 60 million downloads and are ranked in the top 1.5% of all podcasts on the planet. ⁣ ⁣ So first…thank you. Along the way of this journey, you’ve heard some of my own story and much of my own perspective on self-help. With the size of my audience I had been approached about writing a book, but it wasn’t until a couple years ago I felt driven…to actually write one. What Drives You: How to Discover Your Unique Motivators and Accelerate Growth in Work and Life, published by McGraw Hill, releases May 10, 2023 on Amazon, and you can pre-order now. ⁣ ⁣ While it’s popular to offer bonuses and incentives to pre-order, because it helps with Amazon rankings, I’m going to refrain for now. At the end of the day, the bonus is you find something in the book that elevates your experience of…everything. Of life at large. ⁣ ⁣ In this episode I’m going to briefly tell you what the book is intended to offer you. I give big focus to two primary myths we have about drive. Then I lead you through the key areas of life, the same ones I lead every guest through, and guide you to creating healthy and strong drive in each area. A great premise to the book is the endorsement on the back cover from Jordan Harbinger, host of the Jordan Harbinger Show which often ranks in the top 50 of all podcasts in America, ⁣"Everyone is enamored with habits, but having good habits assumes you have the core motives and drive to create, implement, and sustain them. What Drives You is really the prequel to habits, as it helps you establish your why, which is what actually drives what you will and won't ever do.⁣ This book should be required reading for anyone desiring to actually improve themselves." You can go find What Drives You by me, Kevin Miller, on Amazon right now, and for insight on the book, stay tuned and I’ll give you a tutorial on what you can expect to gain from it. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In my experience with myself, and with others, when we seek out another human we do so like a heat-seeking missile. We seldom, if ever…stop. And ask what we are wanting from the interaction. Often it’s merely transactional. Sometimes this is ok, in the workplace especially. But even then, whenever we want the best and most from someone we will serve them and ourselves well if we connect. And we can connect best with them when we again, pause for a moment, and connect with ourselves. How are we feeling about us? How are we feeling about the person we are about to approach? What are we wanting from the interaction?  I’m back with Laura Tremaine, host of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast and author of her most recent book, The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs. As you heard us cover in part one, friendships are, or can be, our life source. Here we continue the conversation as I walk with her through her Values, Motives, and Habits in the key areas of life fulfillment.  It’s on the topic of relationships where Laura cites she works to connect with herself before she can connect with others. We dig into that, and cover other subjects. Spiritually Laura talks about coming to Christianity, and today fully embracing Jesus, but not the religion of Christianity, which I sure can relate to.  Her health and wellness is a challenge and she shares how she came to a place and realized she’d lived her entire life from the neck up, and really has to work at caring for her body, as she cares for her mind.  Regarding mindset I asked Laura where she needs to watch out most, and she said she can tend to “Catastrophize” everything. On an interesting note, her husband Jeff is a television and film director, producer, and screenwriter and is best known for co-creating the reality stunt show Jackass with Spike Jonze and Johnny Knoxville.  June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all know relationships are ultimately what we desire most. This is where we get the most happiness and fulfillment. Yet we generally don’t make friendships a priority, and as you’re about to hear, there is a high chance you have been doing friendships…wrong. This episode is intended to give you a new perspective on how to look at friendships, and go about them, and get clear on what you are hoping to get from them. ⁣ ⁣ My guest is Laura Tremaine, host of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast and author of Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First. Laura worked in film and television production for many years at MTV, VH1, Fox, and Paramount Pictures before pursuing writing full time. She writes primarily to women about friendship, anxiety, motherhood, and marriage. But her new book, The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, got my attention. ⁣ ⁣ I appreciate Laura’s focus on women, but I recognized the need for this message on Friends is relevant to everyone. To me. My primary interest that you’ll hear us dive into is how we tend to put way too much pressure on one or two friendships, like our spouse or a best friend, and a main point of Laura’s book is how our relational needs are meant to be filled by multiple friendships. ⁣ ⁣ But another significant topic we cover is what friendship is really supposed to be about. It’s not just for fun and support, but literal guidance and counsel, and few of us are allowing friendships to be this for us. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all spend a lot of time listening to wise counsel. Getting guidance. Gleaning great information and trying to apply it to our lives. Sometimes however, what is most inspiring is simply to hear from others on the same journey we are. The good, the bad and the ugly. Which is ultimately, hopeful. ⁣ ⁣ I asked the Self-Helpful audience this question, “What area of your health do you feel good about and what area do you not?” What followed were many personal testimonies of strengths and weaknesses in everyone’s personal wellness pursuit. ⁣ ⁣ Some of the deficits and struggles cited and discussed were on the topics of hydration, weight, exercise, alcohol, and more. We also delved into more complex issues of cholesterol, biotoxin illness, chronic fatigue, mental health and the all encompassing reality that the answers for our individual health are just that…very, very individual. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to z i g l a r . c o m / c o a c h s u m m i t⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In our series on stoicism, I kept coming back to the aspect of control. Controlling our emotions. Controlling our reactions. Controlling our internal world so as to not be controlled by the outer world. ⁣ ⁣ It’s a valid perspective, but then I was reminded that I don’t actually want control any more than I want money. I just want what money can hopefully buy. Likewise, I just want what control can hopefully afford me. And the word that surfaced was…harmony. ⁣ ⁣ I often find myself saying I want peace, but I struggle with that sounding like I just want life to be easy and stress free, which is not the case. I want the trials and challenges that are so fulfilling to overcome. I want the hero story. But within the ups and down, I want to feel a balance and a rhythm I understand, which is what harmony is. ⁣ ⁣ A definition of harmony I greatly appreciate is, an interweaving of different accounts into a single narrative. Our daily life in this world is made up of different accounts of so many things. The stoic way of life is a life devoted to a commitment to a single narrative amongst all those accounts. ⁣ ⁣ But don’t get caught up in the word stoic. It is an example of a clarified and committed mindset and way of life. You don’t have to give it a name, but to find success you will want to decide upon your own way of life and have it clearly defined. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit, alongside Tom Ziglar. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What’s the difference between a hero and a villain? Virtue. Which is defined as, “Behavior showing high moral standards.” Having a purpose for good as opposed to evil, or even just others as opposed to self alone. We love the character who is resolute upon doing the right thing and seeing it through no matter what. ⁣ ⁣ We spend billions of dollars on superhero stories that depict this. People didn’t tear up at the end of The Avengers: Endgame when Ironman dies just because a battle is won. It’s because it was a battle for good. ⁣ ⁣ We’ve been studying stoicism which is based on virtue, and from this, a decided way of life. In truth it’s the rare individual who actually outlines and commits to a clarified way of life. I feel most people want to be good, and at heart, they are. But without intention we go about our days being swayed by the culture and circumstances. ⁣ ⁣ This is part three of my series on Tanner Campbell and his rapidly growing podcast, Practical Stoicism. People are flocking to it and I believe this is why; they are longing for meaning, purpose, and to know what they are about. Stoicism is just that, knowing what you are about. ⁣ ⁣ I invited Tom Ziglar to discuss this with me. Tom is son of Zig Ziglar, CEO of Ziglar Inc., and renowned author, speaker and coach. And my dear friend. The Ziglar way is just that, a decided way of life. One of virtue, honor, trust, and faith. ⁣ ⁣ Right at the beginning Tom quips that after hearing my initial talk with Tanner, he now feels, “He’s a stoic and he didn’t know it.” We talk about living out virtue, faith, religion, self-control, and integrity. Tom also discusses five aspects of trust, which we both believe is our greatest asset. ⁣ The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance.⁣ Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Each of us is waking up every day and engaging in a “way of life.” It’s either one we’ve chosen, or one we’ve allowed ourselves to fall into. Though in truth, none of us ever lives a perfect day, so we are all then on the spectrum of living how we intentionally want and living at the mercy of our appetites and ignorance. The more aware, decided, and convicted we are to a way of life we uphold and are dedicated to, the more we will fall on the healthier side of the spectrum. ⁣ ⁣ As Tanner Campbell and I discussed at the outset of our initial talk together in episode 1143, stoicism can be said to be a state of mind, but in this episode as we are discussing Tanner’s personal efforts to live a stoic life, we unwrap the pursuit of an aspiring way of life. This is my values, motives and habits episode, part 2 of this series on Tanner Campbell and stoicism. ⁣ ⁣ Tanner Campbell is an American philosopher of Stoicism whose goal is to clear up contemporary miscommunications about Stoicism, with a focus to uphold what virtue is. He shares this daily in his Practical Stoicism podcast which has quickly catapulted to the top podcast rankings. Here Tanner talks through his pursuit of Hierocles concept of “circles of concern” which radiates outward, from family to friends, community, non-human animals, and the environment. ⁣ ⁣ In Tanner’s desire for personal awareness his mantra is asking, “What does this action or thought say about my character,” and “Who can I walk alongside and be helpful to in a meaningful way?” In discussing health and wellness, Tanner cites this area is not his strong suit, but his motive is in asking himself, “If I don’t care about my health, what does it say about my character?” This and more coming up. ⁣ ⁣ The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. ⁣ ⁣ June 15-16 of 2023 I’ll be in Dallas to attend and speak at the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit⁣ Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ah. The vacation. Or a holiday, depending on where you’re from. It’s supposed to be a term that makes us all smile and feel warm, nostalgic, and hopeful. However, many of you will feel a bit, or a lot, of anxiety at hearing the term. And rightly so. ⁣ ⁣ Vacation has been part of life for a long time to give us a rest from the toil of everyday life. Even if you love your work it is beneficial to get away to rest and recreate. But a listener wrote in recently asking for ideas, as he recently got back from vacation and felt he wasted it. Many of us struggle with needing a vacation from our vacations because they were exciting, but exhausting. ⁣ ⁣ This is my Functional Friday episode and I’m with Randy James, medical doctor and functional medicine expert, and he and I ultimately zeroed in on three different types of vacations that all have benefits, but the value is in understanding what you are getting into and what to expect, and thus what you can do to prepare and get the most out of your vacations, so you do in fact, look forward to and benefit from them. ⁣ Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are many personality profiles you can use. Knowing your type does not by proxy…help you. You need to know how to utilize it. This is part 4 of our series on Ian Morgan Cron and his insight and guidance into the Enneagram personality assessment.  In this episode, I’m going to cover 7 aspects of our discussion that have really stuck out to me and seem to be resonating with other listeners. I want to quote something I read this morning by dandapani in his book, “The Power Of Unwavering Focus”, which I’m studying in preparation for having him on the show tomorrow, he cited a mentor of his, Michael Lutzenkirchen, who said, “While I appear as a teacher to you, I'm a student of the subject. And I hope it always stays that way.”  I greatly appreciate this, and in truth, I feel the best teachers are those who are, and understand they are, still students. Always students. It’s from this the greatest teaching comes. I of course recommend Ian Cron’s books. His recent book is The Story Of You and was the impetus for this series. His initial book is called “The Road Back To You” and seven years after initial publication the book is still in the top 1,000 rankings in Amazon. That is rock star status.  You can read the books and get a great understanding of what Enneagram number you are. Or…go take the assessment. Ian has it at  typologyinstitute.com, just click on iEQ9 at the top of the page. And you can use the discount code SELFHELP to receive 20% off a monthly or annual subscription which provides access to all 3 of his courses on how to harness the Enneagram.  The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar. Join me June 15-16 of 2023 in Dallas for the Ziglar coach summit. If you are looking to influence people for the better, professionally or personally, I invite you to join us. First 10 people who register and say you heard about it from me, I’m taking to dinner! Go to ziglar.com/coachsummit Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is reality? Is there a reality? We would say a tree falling on your house, or inheriting twenty million dollars are objective realities. They actually did happen. Those would be facts. But it’s our perception and interpretation of them that matter. That becomes our reality. Are those events good or bad? Why did they happen? ⁣ ⁣ Stoicism is interested in our impression and assent, which I paraphrase to say our interpretation and ensuing belief. Then Stoicism would ask what our role and responsibility are. The topic and concept of stoicism has gained popularity as of late but I haven’t given it a focus here on the show. Now…we hit it. Or to be fair, we hit one tangent of it. There are others and I’ll be looking to have more discussion around the topic in coming episodes. ⁣ ⁣ For this series, I’ve brought on Tanner Campbell. Tanner is an American philosopher of Stoicism whose goal is to clear up contemporary miscommunications about Stoicism, with a focus to uphold what virtue is, against some traditional interpretations of Stoicism, and as Tanner says, “Challenge the watered down Silicon Valley take.” ⁣ ⁣ Of relevance, it was only 15 months ago when Tanner launched his podcast, called, Practical Stoicism. The show has “gone viral” as they say, and has already eclipsed 500,000 downloads per month and is growing rapidly. Which is to say the show has done in 15 months what it took me many, many years to achieve. At this rate it will likely become the top one or two podcasts on stoicism on planet Earth in the next year. ⁣ ⁣ A note, stoicism, like AA, has a primary spiritual component to it. I wasn’t shy in pressing in on this with Tanner. Not to advocate it, as it doesn’t line up with my personal faith either, but to do an honest unpacking of it. You are free to adopt what feels useful to you. The core principles of stoicism I feel we would all do well to engage with, and that’s the focus of our show. ⁣ ⁣ The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance.⁣ Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

𝗗𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗹 𝗬𝗲𝘁 𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘁𝗹𝘆 𝗙𝗹𝘂𝗶𝗱 𝗣𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗦𝘁𝘆𝗹𝗲 | 𝗜𝗮𝗻 𝗖𝗿𝗼𝗻 𝗣𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝟯 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗝𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝗔𝗻𝗴𝗮𝘇𝗮⁣ ⁣ We all want to know who and what we are. We want to understand ourselves so we can understand this world we live in. Our tendency is to label ourselves as this personality style or that personality style, just as we seek out genetic testing to know where we came from. We want clarity. ⁣ ⁣ We’ve been talking about the Enneagram after having expert Ian Morgan Cron on the show and discussing his book, The Story of You: An Enneagram Journey to Becoming Your True Self. This is part three where I bring on a co-host who has experience in the topic, and I invited Jared Angaza on the show. ⁣ ⁣ Most of you have heard Jared on here before and every time I have him on I get feedback on how people are touched by his heart and insight. Jared is the brand architect behind many influencers and as of late, many of the leading space industry organizations like Space for Humanity. And he’s now partner here with me on the Self-Helpful podcast. ⁣ ⁣ He’s also…my brother. Full blood brother, the last name is different because…he changed it. He did so to adopt an identity he wanted to embrace, which is much the reason for this episode. Becoming aware of, understanding, and harnessing the beauty of your personality in order to, as the slogan of this show says, elevate your personal experience of life, and the way you show up for others. A slogan Jared wrote, by the way. ⁣ ⁣ In here we get into the Enneagram and Jared shares how we can be our authentic selves, and in this case, know our primary Enneagram type, and also understand how to fluidly flow into other types, as in essence, all the types live within us, even as we have a type or two that are our natural design. Listen in and you’ll find inspiration in knowing who and how you are and how to wield your authentic self in broader and deeper ways. ⁣ ⁣ The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance.⁣ Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We want our sleep to be like plugging our phone in overnight. You plug it in when the battery is low and wake to find it fully charged, energy-filled and ready for a quality day. ⁣ ⁣ Don’t you want to be the same? Go to bed and wake up fully charged? But is that happening for you? Do you ever sleep through the night only to wake unrested and not...fully charged? ⁣ ⁣ There is a lot of content out about sleep, but I hear most of it focused on actually getting to sleep, staying asleep, and getting enough sleep. But we find people going to sleep fairly quickly, getting 8 hours of sleep, but waking up…tired. ⁣ ⁣ And they fight exhaustion during the day. Other symptoms are anxiety, depression, and hopelessness. Struggles with making decisions, critical and creative thinking . ⁣ ⁣ The question is...how is your sleep? Is it actually recharging you? Let’s talk about it and look at how to know and how to get what you need. ⁣ ⁣ The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance.⁣ Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As this Self-Helpful podcast grows and as I continually read, review and critique the latest and greatest knowledge being shared about self-help, I’m frequently exposed to misconceptions around what self-help is, and isn’t. ⁣ ⁣ I admit my own constructive criticism of the category, yet and surprised by often incredibly wise people who sometimes give unconstructive criticism to the concept of self-help. I find myself wanting to ask them, if self-help is not the foundation of our personal evolution, then whose help is? ⁣ ⁣ Who else is responsible for helping us as adults? While achieving the best and fullness of what life has to offer will only come from us getting guidance from others, it requires us to step up for the getting. This is a brief episode about stepping up with inspired intention. ⁣ ⁣ The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance.⁣ Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, very few if any of us will have one job. One thing we do from young adulthood till the end of our lives. Which is fine. ⁣ ⁣ The marketplace today is full of opportunity to try our hand at many different endeavors. While we can do many different things to earn a buck, long-term vocational fulfillment will come from working in roles and doing tasks that fit our skills, and more so, our values. ⁣ ⁣ When we are self-aware and know our values we not only can find work and pursuits that fit and fulfill us, as our guest shares, we will often fall into them and they, in essence, find us. ⁣ ⁣ Ian Morgan Cron has been an author, speaker, consultant, coach, therapist, spiritual director and even award-winning songwriter. But all along the way he found he was doing the same thing amongst all these careers. He had the same motivation. He wanted to help people enter into a deeper conversation with the mystery of who they are and with the meaning of their lives.⁣ ⁣ This is part two with Ian where I walk through the Values, Motives, and Habits of his life, and this was the conversation around his work and career that was entirely relevant to our previous discuss on the Enneagram, the personality tool he is an expert in and advocate of. ⁣ ⁣ In this talk we cover his time as an Episcopal priest. He goes to AA meetings five times per week. He loves rigorous, hot yoga sessions. He talks about the first half of life being about addition and the second part being about subtraction, as while he can afford whatever he wants he is selling off his large home, cars, and more to simplify. He'd rather spend time getting himself into environments where he will bump into God. ⁣ ⁣ Find Ian’s book, The Story of You: An Enneagram Journey to Becoming Your True Self and you can visit his website, typologyinstitute.com and take the Enneagram test and find his online courses. Use the discount code SELFHELP to receive 20% off a monthly or annual subscription which provides access to all 3 of his courses⁣ ⁣ The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance.⁣ Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We were all kids living in a life we didn’t choose, for better or worse. To make sense of it, our minds crafted a story. It’s impossible for it to be a perfectly reasonable story. It has flaws and fractures in it that are hurting our progress, achievement, peace, and fulfillment today, to some degree.  How do you become aware and course correct? Whether you’ve heard of the Enneagram or not, this is going to be a new perspective. At face value, it’s a personality profile, but we’re going to take you on an eye-opening and really hope-filled journey.  My guest is Ian Morgan Cron. Ian is a bestselling author, psychotherapist, Enneagram teacher, Episcopal priest, and the host of the popular podcast "Typology," which has over 20 million downloads.  His books include the Enneagram primer The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery, which has sold over 1 million copies.  Not long ago I had renowned author and influencer Michael Hyatt on the show, for the fourth time, and after our three-hour conversation he said, “You’ve got to have Ian Cron on the show.” I didn’t need more than that, but then I got into Ian’s new book, The Story of You: An Enneagram Journey to Becoming Your True Self, and I agreed.  Ian takes us through the Enneagram’s nine personality types and brilliantly showcases our propensities and especially where we tend to fall when we are unaware of ourselves. Many, if not most of you, will want to take the Enneagram as you hear this conversation. And if you’ve taken it before, you’ll likely want to do it again.  You can go to Ian’s website, typologyinstitute.com and take the test and find his online courses. Use the discount code SELFHELP to receive 20% off a monthly or annual subscription which provides access to all 3 of his courses  The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Low energy is an ongoing national pandemic. Not many years ago coffee was a little pick me up for the mornings that people enjoyed. Now there isn’t a checkout counter in America that doesn’t offer some type of energy drink.  The “energy drink” industry that didn’t exist in the recent past was estimated at $86.35 billion in 2021, $91.94 billion in 2022 and is forecasted at $177.5 billion in 2030. Billions off our increased lack of energy.  What is happening to us? Our voracious appetite for any resource claiming to give us more energy but it’s generally like tying helium balloons to a sinking ship. The problem is the sinking ship. How can we get it riding high on the water on its own?  Energy is simply a symptom of a deeper issue and there is no one way to increase consistent energy. But there is much you can address to help yourself. In this episode I’m joined by my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, medical doctor and Functional Medicine expert, to discuss some of the key issues that zap our energy and the primary initiatives you can take to give you more energy. Not in the moment, but long term, every day.  The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Understanding and becoming our authentic selves may be our greatest life quest. And I’d pose that it is just that, a lifelong quest. To expect less is to minimize and miss it.  Honestly friends, it’s not something I really gave gravity and focus to till…recent years. I’ve been pursuing personal performance most of my life, but I missed personal understanding and awareness. I see a lot of high performers who this is the case for.  And it catches up to you, unless you want to settle for achievements only and miss true peace and fulfillment. I don’t want to settle, which is a big reason why I’m here, studying the best of the best in self-help and bringing my findings to you so we can learn and grow together.  This aspect of authenticity was brought to me by Vienna Pharaon, renowned NY therapist and author of The Origins of You. She has been my muse and this is part four and my wrap-up of the series. It’s left me with five key takeaways that I’ll be grappling with and striving to apply to my own life.  The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve been talking about authenticity. The authentic you. Who and where is it? First off, it’s not a totally unfiltered you. It’s not just a raw you. It’s a you who has become self-aware and at peace by resolving your hurts, wounds, angers and voids.  And in that, it’s a journey to becoming authentic, to the greatest degree you can. Our muse is Vienna Pharaon, who I’ve been talking with. Vienna is a licensed marriage and family therapist and one of New York City’s most sought after relationship therapists. Her new book is called, The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love. Vienna has nearly 700k followers tuning in on Instagram at her @mindfulmft account to get help discovering and becoming their authentic selves.  This is part 3 where I bring a peer on to co-host with me. Someone who has experience in this topic. I chose Broadway and film star Renée Marino. I brought Renée on the show a few months ago to talk about her book, “Becoming A Master Communicator,” and we just hit it off.  This is the second time I’ve asked her to co-host with me because it’s a topic she is close to. As you’ll hear in a moment, when hardship hit Renée’s life she realized she was repeating negative patterns and she started therapy with a counselor on “inner child work.”  And right there. If the phrase, “inner child work” rubs you wrong in any way, I feel you. At face value I have no desire to waste my time looking backward and trying to uncover feelings from my past. I struggle to even remember how I felt as a kid.  But please listen, the point is to figure out how you may have reacted unhealthfully to events in your early years, and brought them forward into your adult life. And…you did. So did I.  This is an audit. If you’ve ever bought a used car in recent years, you’ve likely gotten a CarFax so you can know the history of the car. How it’s been maintained, any wrecks or recalls, how many owners and more.  What occurs to me as I continue looking into the origins of me, is how unaware I’ve been about some wrecks along the way that have not been resolved and are impeding my progress.  The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Even if we are being authentic, we often put on different faces for the roles we have in life. I’d like to think I’m the same guy all the time, but how I interact with my 10 year old daughter is different from how I interact with a podcast guest. I’m still me, but I have different expectations and engage from different orientations based on who I’m in front of. Sometimes we can struggle to switch gears.  This is my part two session, Values, Motives, and Habits with Vienna Pharaon, licensed marriage and family therapist, one of New York City’s most sought after relationship therapists, and now author of her first book, The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love. Vienna has nearly 700k followers tuning in on Instagram to find their authentic selves.  It is in the beginning topic of Spirituality where Vienna discusses her efforts to “de-role” in her life, a concept I’ve not heard defined quite like this before.  You’re also going to hear a special insert in this episode, as at the end of the show, Vienna asked to share something else that greatly altered her spiritual life. The death of her dog and holding him as he took his last breath. She shares how it shifted her relationship with death and made it less scary. I was really honored Vienna was moved to share this.  Honestly her candor and relatability touched me as well. She really engaged in our conversation much more like a patient than a counselor and I felt I was just talking with a friend. I’d say this is why she has such a massive following of people who feel the same.  Other highlights you’ll hear, regarding Relationships, Vienna works to accept limitations and strengths in her relationships. With Health & Wellness she says for her, “Movement is salve.” Mind & Mental Health are her profession and she shares she learned to like alone time because she was a single child, yet also shares she’s an introvert and I press in as to which she gives more credit to regarding wanting alone time…it’s a bit of nature vs nurture discussion.  With Work/Career Vienna said she loves being in meaningful conversations with people, and with Money & Finances she shares how her relationship with money has changed throughout her life and makes a quip that I found really interesting and asked her to explain, when she said, “Wounds and gifts are neighbors.” The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are at an all-time high of mental health being a mainstream topic. My experience is people are either fairly tuned in to it, or they just don’t have much thought towards it. Similar to spirituality. And in neglecting to audit and tend to our individual mental health we are missing out on key aspects of our performance. I know I have and it’s a constant challenge to make it a priority. Culturally we stay very busy and have very little margin and downtime, if any, in our day to day lives. We think getting a brain-break with entertainment or exercise or sleep is enough. But we’re seeing that this is more like being on a long road trip and stopping for 5-10 minutes at a rest area. It’s a little break for the engine, but not hardly enough for it to cool down. What most of us need is a daily tune-up. Not just to let the engine cool off, but to get fresh fluids, check for leaks and make sure the tires are rotated and balanced. This is what meditation offers. And let me start by admitting this is possibly my least favorite health and wellness effort. I’d honestly rather fast from food. So we’ve brought in a guest. Ariel Garten. Ariel is a neuroscientist, innovator, and entrepreneur on a mission to help people understand how the mind works and empower them to live their best lives through meditation. She is the co-founder and visionary of a highly successful tech start-up called Muse, which tracks your brain during meditation to give you real-time feedback, guiding you into true rest and letting you know when you are actively allowing your mind to recover. Muse is a multi-sensor meditation device, a headband, that syncs with an app on your phone and provides real-time feedback on your brain activity, heart rate, breathing, and body movements to help you build a consistent meditation practice. I use the “desert” mode and as I try to rest, it tells me how I’m doing by the level of the wind. As I slow down and settle my mind I hear the tell tale birds chirping. The app monitors my progress day to day so I can see my accumulative results and progress. It’s really ingenious and takes the guesswork out of wondering if you really have your mind at rest. This episode is about the benefits of resting your mind and being present, not the Muse app and technology, though you can check it out at choosemuse.com. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You know this quote, “It's not how many times you get knocked down that counts, it's how many times you get back up.” The quote is attributed both to legendary army officer George Custer and legendary football coach Vince Lombardy. As I said in a previous episode in this series, I get this concept if you’re in the middle of a battle or football game. But otherwise, I feel it’s fairly misleading and has us all missing out on available growth from our challenges. If you are alive, you will encounter something you desired to achieve, not working out, or something negative you didn’t choose, happening to you. And there you are. How you deal with it has to do with your ultimate life success and achievement, and your general well-being…right down to your health and wellness. Just “getting back up again” or persevering may or may not positively serve you any more than being overcome and defeated. This is my wrap-up on the message and discussions with Dr Neeta Bhushan and the message in her new book, That Sucked. Now What?: How to Embrace the Joy in Chaos and Find Magic in the Mess. It brought me to grappling with how we as a society tend to polarize and view someone as an overcomer or a quitter. Like it’s simply two ends of a rope instead of a multifaceted spectrum with a lot of nuances. Walk with me a moment through some aspects I’m pondering and seeking to apply to my life. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Being authentic is a big buzzword in our culture today. We want authenticity from others and we want to claim our own authenticity. Yet you’re about to get schooled in a stark, yet hopeful reality, and it starts with understanding and accepting that nobody comes into adulthood being authentically who they are, and discovering your true authenticity is a massive undertaking. The hope in this is in realizing that most of your personal struggles in your relationship with yourself and others and even the world, can only get better from this point as you start stepping into your authentic self. Two big points you are about to hear; You come into this world with an already installed operating system based on your genetics and it is further programmed and hardwired in during your upbringing. So you leave home with a solid OS. You don’t wake up on your own free and authentic. This is realization number one. Two, from the moment you come into this world your natural desire is to attach to others and this is far more important than being the authentic you, to the point you never really experience the authentic you. Right now, whether you are a navy seal, executive, stay at home parent or student you have spent your life with a priority of belonging and being attached to others far superseding being who you really are. And it’s diminished your entire life. My guest, expert, and guide on this subject is Vienna Pharaon. Her new book is called The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love. Vienna has been posting her insights, driven from thousands of patient encounters, on Instagram has nearly 700k followers tuning in to find their authentic selves. Vienna Pharaon is a licensed marriage and family therapist and one of New York City’s most sought after relationship therapists. She has practiced therapy for over fifteen years and is the founder and owner of the group practice, Mindful Marriage and Family Therapy. Pharaon has been featured in The Economist, Netflix, Vice, and Motherly, and has led workshops for Peloton and Netflix, amongst others. The Origins of You is her first book and is endorsed by renowned therapists such as Nedra Glover Tawwab and Whitney Goodman who I’ve had on this show. As of this recording The Origins of You is at the top of the charts in Amazon. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a crux of the show we came to. When bad things happen, hard things happen, we want to know why. We want to figure it out so it doesn’t happen again. This is wisdom. But sometimes challenges and traumas happen that we submit - can’t be reconciled. That may ruffle the feathers of some people’s faith structure, which we’re going to do more of in this episode. This is part 3 on Neeta Bhushan and the message in her new book, That Sucked. Now What?: How to Embrace the Joy in Chaos and Find Magic in the Mess. To discuss recovery from challenge, trauma and even tragedy I brought on a co-host who has been through more than his fair share. Richie Norton was my guest for the second time in October, 2022 where we talked about the message in his book, Anti-Time Management. He has a powerful story which you’ll hear in just a moment, and we use it to tackle some weighty subjects. Richie shares times of literally asking, “Does God hate me?” It was from this we got into grappling with our staunch desire to reconcile everything when sometimes we simply can’t. And how to move past this. We discuss the futility of blame and Richie shares his quest to "Be better, not bitter." We discuss the mental difference of dealing with hard things that happen to us vs when we are the hard thing, meaning, we and maybe others suffer from our personal mistakes and failures. And we dig into Richie sharing how, through his family’s journey they sometimes took considerable time to grieve and recover and didn’t try to rush the recovery process. I think this will be a very hopeful episode for many of you who have endured hard things, and a greatly equipping episode for those of you who will. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/HELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My great friend. My doctor. My co-host here on the Functional Friday episodes. Randy James. Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. For the first years of knowing each other I pestered him with what the core pillars of health were and he’d always push back with the answer that…”It depends! What is core for one person may not be for another. It’s very personal to each person’s makeup and pathology.” So in this episode, I tried to hit him up again, but this time, I succeeded. I posed the question of what aspect of health is #1. I really expected some lively discourse. Instead, we actually came into an answer. At face value it’s an unfair question, which is why I wanted to spar with Randy on it, as again the entire point of Functional Medicine and our show is how individualized and unique our personal health is and there is no one size fits all solution. So to ask what aspect of health is number one is not a fair question. But as we talked about the concept of, “If you can only pick one area of health, which is most important?” we found ourselves coming to an actual agreement and bit of a revelation. To be candid, we recorded this show about a year ago and since then it’s forever altered my outlook on my health and wellness and some specific routines. I’ll give you the answer. It is…sleep. Your recovery. But I implore you to listen in and find out why, as if I had simply been told this without the grappling behind it, I don’t think I would have accepted it to the level I have. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m betting you would benefit from a getaway. It might be a couple hours. Or an afternoon. Maybe a day, and maybe a few days. But here is the thing. Everyone who knows you will benefit too. Your family. Your co-workers. Your employees. Chances are they desperately need you to get out and fill up some so they get more than the dregs. This is a quick message that I may be more qualified to offer than nearly anyone you know. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of the gravest dangers of our lives is, we don’t know what we don’t know. I don’t think I’m dumb, but I will always have areas of ignorance to address. Ignorance is merely - lacking knowledge, information, or awareness about a particular thing. It’s our job to continually pursue our own self-awareness. I’m back with Dr Neeta Bhushan, author of That Sucked. Now What?: How to Embrace the Joy in Chaos and Find Magic in the Mess. This is Part 2 where I walk with Neeta through her personal Values, Motives, and Habits. It was in discussing her spirituality where she talked about RSA; radical self-awareness, and taking responsibility for our blind spots. As time goes on this is where I put the greatest value for myself, and others. I’ve found people with exceptional success in some areas who suffer greatly, especially relationally and with personal peace, because they are forward-thinking and achieving, but not internally focused and aware. I have been one of those people. Neeta and I get more into this shortly. Another topic, relationships, Neeta talked about her desire for authentic relationships. Deep relationships. And I said, yes, we all want that. But many people struggle with how to find and have these and she surprised me with a resource she has on just that, how to create authentic relationships. Sign up at thatsuckednowwhat.com/resources and she’ll send it to you. We cover her personal health values, money and more, and I was intrigued in the work and career section where we ended up, in alignment with radical self-awareness, discussing in our work the need for and opportunity in RPA; radical purpose awareness. This was a rich discussion. Dr Neeta Bhushan founded the Global GRIT Institute and is cofounder of Dharma Coaching Institute. She has over 165,000 followers on Instagram and a popular podcast, The Brave Table where people tune in to hear her guidance on bouncing back. Check out the new book, That Sucked. Now What?: How to Embrace the Joy in Chaos and Find Magic in the Mess. The Self-Helpful podcast was founded by the Zig Ziglar corporation. If you are a coach or consultant and want to add credibility, clients, and impact to your business, go to Ziglar.com Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I kick off a series on bouncing back. Being resilient is the latest buzzword. But it's all another way of discussing how to recover from a setback. I have a few issues with the concept that I feel cause us all to miss what bouncing back really entails and how to effectively do it in our lives. And not just simply bounce back, but bounce back...better. A common phrase in the self-help world is, “It's not how many times you get knocked down that count, it's how many times you get back up.” The quote is attributed both to legendary army officer George Custer and legendary football coach Vince Lombardy. If you're talking about getting knocked down on the battlefield or football field, it makes sense. But in our lives, if we keep getting knocked down, just getting back up only to get knocked down again may showcase we haven't learned anything. If we are pursuing growth and evolution we will likely continue to face setbacks, but hopefully, they are at higher and higher levels and the setbacks aren't as severe. So just getting back up isn't the point, we want to learn from the knockdown and be wiser for it. Next, there are two different knockdown realities. One is when we get knocked down by someone or something. We are victimized in essence. Getting back up from this takes one perspective. But often we are knocked down by ourselves. By our own mistakes and failures. Getting back up from these takes a different type of mental power. Then also, some people have never been up to a point they want to bounce back to, as they were raised in a knocked-down level of existence. To take on this topic and these issues I've brought to you, Dr Neeta Bhushan. You'll want to hear the full story and details that make what I'm about to tell you even more profound, but when Neeta was 16 her mom died. When she was 17 her brother died. Then when she was 19 her Dad died and she became caregiver for her younger brother. She went on to have some great success or I wouldn't be talking to her now. But how the story goes will impact you. She started a successful cosmetic dentist business. She married and then divorced from an abusive marriage. She founded the Global GRIT Institute and is cofounder of Dharma Coaching Institute. She has over 165,000 followers on Instagram and a popular podcast, The Brave Table where people tune in to hear her guidance on bouncing back. And now she has a new book titled, That Sucked. Now What?: How to Embrace the Joy in Chaos and Find Magic in the Mess. If you go to thatsuckednowwhat.com Neeta has a free 44 page guide you can have. We cover deep territory in regards to what resilience and bouncing back really is and how it differs, depending on...a lot. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Take all the self-help organizations in the world and you’ll be hardpressed to find any with as great a success record as AA, Alcoholics Anonymous. It’s free. Volunteer based. Informal. And yet it fulfills a primary human need; accountability. You have the group to commune with and receive support from, and you get a sponsor. It’s not someone following you around and slapping your hand every time you reach for a drink, but it’s someone who you know understands, cares, and will be there when you need it for support and encouragement. Another winner is Weight Watchers, founded in 1963, and to date is one of the most successful weight loss organizations of all time. Same reason. Social accountability. The support and encouragement from others. In recent times Peloton is a shining example of harnessing social accountability and support to the tune of an $8 billion dollar valuation and possibly claiming the top slot of top “unicorn investments” of all time. Social accountability is powerful because it works. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and today we talk about the value of accountability. As powerful as social accountability is, our ultimate goal is to create personal accountability. The definition of accountability is, the fact or condition of being accountable; responsibility. Where social accountability helps by being responsible to others, personal accountability is far stronger and enduring, when you are responsible for and to yourself. In this episode we cover some key aspects to harnessing and developing both social and personal accountability in order to achieve the health and wellness you desire. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Imagine you're on stage with nine other people who have the same skillset you do. The same degree and/or experience. Whatever you do or make, they all can as well. And the question is put to you...why choose you? Can you really stand there and explain why you are literally the best? Better than everyone standing next to you? Here's the thing, even if you actually were, there is little chance you could prove it and even less chance anyone would believe it. In today's marketplace there are too many options to choose from. Specializing gives you a great leg up, but even here it's hard to take the approach of being the best. And there is seldom opportunity in being the cheapest. Which basically leaves you with who you can best connect with and how. This is encapsulated in your creativity and your point of view, which is ultimately, your art. I'm wrapping up my series with Miriam Schulman, artist and guide to artists and author of Artpreneur: The Step-by-Step Guide to Making a Sustainable Living from Your Creativity. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m a 6’ tall, slim white man. I have an automobile, house, job and good income. No felonies. Imagine if myself and nine other identical men all created profiles on a dating app and that’s all we put. How many inquiries would we get? Probably zero. This is our world and marketplace today. No matter who you are or what you do, everyone is looking to know your story before they spend a minute or a dollar on you. They are looking for context on connecting points to determine if they find resonance with you or not. This is Part 3 of my series on Miriam Schulman. Her new book is called Artpreneur: The Step-by-Step Guide to Making a Sustainable Living from Your Creativity. If you are involved, or want to be, in the fine arts, and make a living at it, she is your guru. On a bigger scale she brings the message of how creativity and art in your work is a necessity in today’s overcrowded marketplace. I continue this discussion today with my frequent co-host Jared Angaza. Jared is a brand architect who has recently devoted himself to helping the space community tell their story. His expertise is in doing that, helping us all tell our story so we have the chance to connect with others, whether personally or professionally. He’s also my blood brother and who is helping me tell my story as a podcast host and author so you know if I’m someone you care to listen to or not! In this show we really hone in on not only the opportunity, but the absolute necessity to tell your story or get left behind. Looking at our work, what you do is no longer enough. You can’t be the best, nobody will believe that. But you can be unique. You are unique, even if you don’t realize it. Just as you must put on clothes to go to work, if you want opportunity in the marketplace, or trying to get a date, you’ve got to communicate who you are. Your identity. This is the only way people can know if they want to connect with you or not. If you try to play it safe and remain storyless, you’ll get just that. Less. And in today’s culture, letting your identity be known shows confidence, while remaining hidden makes you suspect. Be authentic, this isn’t about performing and being a show pony. It’s again, just like a personal profile in a dating app, merely sharing who you are and what you’re about as a service to people who might be interested. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It is from our creativity where our most valuable work and life events happen. Creativity is not just for the fine arts. We harness and rely on our creativity to generate our important ideas, critical thinking, and ultimately our ability to grasp onto hope in our lives, especially when things are challenging. And as life happens we can easily be at risk of depleting our creative juices, so to say. In this episode I’m back with artist and guide to artists, Miriam Schulman. You may have run across Miriam’s art and story featured on NBC’s “Parenthood” and the Amazon series “Hunters” with Al Pacino. In our first show together we discussed the concepts in her book, Artpreneur: The Step-by-Step Guide to Making a Sustainable Living from Your Creativity, and the opportunity and really, necessity, for us all to find our unique art and showcase a point of view in our work, no matter what we do. Here we get more personal and get into Miriam’s Values, Motives, and Habits in the key areas of life. In the category of mental health she discusses the need for us to restore ourselves. Restore our hearts. In order to foster our creativity. When we are consumed and overwhelmed with busyness and worn out or even just stagnant and bored, we will find it extremely difficult to think with much creativity. So what do we do to restore it? This is a key topic of this show. You can find Miriam’s book Artpreneur everywhere and get a free chapter at schulmanart.com/believe. And right now I encourage you to find her podcast and check it out, The Inspiration Place. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you believe it? That Alzheimer’s can be prevented, stopped, and even reversed? It’s true. Does that mean it will be eradicated from our culture? We know how to stop obesity in an individual too, but it’s not happening here in America. This show is about you however, you and those close to you. Can you do something about preventing, stopping, and reversing Alzheimer’s? Absolutely. There are never any guarantees when it comes to one’s health, but there are probabilities you can count on. In this show we bring you quite possibly the world’s leading authority on prevention, stopping, and reversing Alzheimer’s. Dr Dale Bredesen, author of, The End of Alzheimers and The End of Alzheimer’s program. You need to realize most of the traditional leaders in the arena of Alzheimer’s aren’t of the belief you can do anything but manage Alzheimer’s and its inevitable decline. Alzheimer’s disease has become the third leading cause of death in the United States, after cardiovascular disease and cancer, destined to rob 45 million of the Americans currently living of their most fundamental reasoning capabilities if we do not do something to prevent and reverse the process. Dr Bredesen profoundly cites, “You know cancer survivors. Hardly anyone knows an Alzheimer’s survivor.” But he knows many. Dr Bredesen’s credentials and bio are long enough for a show in and of itself. If you are concerned about Alzheimer’s, and everyone should be, type B R E D E S E N and Alzheimer’s in your search engine and you’ll find all you want. Better yet, go to wherever you buy books and get his book, End of Alzheimer's Program. And visit drbredesen.com. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Wrapping up my series on Japanese self-help celebrity Ken Honda and his focus on Happy Money, and I’m going to bring it home to what I’m grappling…with striving to implement in my life as a result of Ken’s message. I’ve talked about this topic with Ken, with Tom Ziglar in part three, and I’ve been discussing it with people in my life. The truth is I’ve historically not had happy money. I’ve not felt fairly compensated for what I’ve offered the world and I’ve looked at money as an irritant in relation to just wanting to do what I cared about and trying to serve people and provide for my family. From what I’ve heard, many of you can relate to this. So, let’s consider it together for a moment. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

People doing mundane tasks are replaced by robots. Now people producing basic content will likely be replaced by AI. What can’t ever be replaced? Your point of view. Your story and perspective. Your flavor and vibe. You buy many products and services today, not because they are proven to be the best, but because you want to associate yourself with the story behind them. With what they represent. This is the essence of art and creativity. I believe it’s a myth that some people are creative and others aren’t, but we limit our scope of where and how you can be creative. We’re about to blow that myth up. I’m with Miriam Schulman, an artist and founder of The Inspiration Place, where she helps other artists learn how to profit from their passion or become better artists. She’s helped thousands of artists around the world develop their skill sets and create more time and freedom to do what they love. Miriam’s art and story have been featured in major publications such as Forbes, The New York Times, Art of Man and been featured on NBC’s “Parenthood” and the Amazon series “Hunters” with Al Pacino. She has a very popular podcast called The Inspiration Place where she helps artists profit from their work, so they can keep doing it and do more of it. While we do talk about the aspects of profiting from your art, my initial focus is that if we don’t have art and creativity in our work, no matter what work it is, we will likely find ourselves phased out or left behind. Our core product or service is no longer enough to flourish. There are too many other providers and options. To stand out and succeed at a high level we must add a creative, unique aspect to what we do and include our point of view. As you’ll hear from this talk with Miriam, our point of view is we connect with others. And this is the point. AI can inform us of anything and everything. But it can’t connect. And this is your greatest opportunity. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Get free chicken nuggets for a Year and 10% off your first box when you sign up today at butcherbox.com/SELFHELPFUL and use code SELFHELPFUL. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve been looking at how we view and feel about money and it keeps drawing me back to how influential our work is. We make money from the work we provide. From our efforts to help deliver a product or service. If we are not proud of the work we do. If we are not proud of the end product or service we help provide. If we are just doing it for the money…then the money we earn as a result, we have negative feelings about. The money itself becomes a focus of our frustration along with the work. This is far more than about money and about our personal self-approval. If you have any negative feelings about money, we’d have you consider how you feel about how you earn it. This is part three on my series about Ken Honda, Japan’s number one self-help guru, and his focus on the energy we have around money, which is the topic of his super best-selling book, Happy Money: The Japanese Art of Making Peace With Your Money. My co-host for a peer discussion is Tom Ziglar. Tom is son to the inspirational legend, Zig Ziglar and The Ziglar Show is where this podcast evolved from. Tom is an expert in the workplace and in this episode we dig further into how our feelings about our work and how we earn money are foundational to our overall feelings of money and ourselves as a whole. We also discuss how we feel about spending money on undesired and unexpected expenses and how to better handle it when you are the one taking money for such expenses. A reminder to check out Ken Honda’s book, Happy Money, anywhere, and connect directly with him at Kenhonda.com The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We wrap up our Functional Medicine questions from listeners for Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert who addresses questions from his experience with thousands of patients striving to get past the mere symptoms of their health and discern the root cause issues so they can have true…wellness. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. In this episode, we spend the first 25 minutes on Joe’s questions about food allergies and sensitivities with a bit of focus on children. Then Timothy asks how to address a short temper and I think you'll have your mind greatly opened to new possibilities in addressing behavioral issues overall. Last Jennifer asked about epigenetics and how to rewrite her diabetes and metabolism. She said, "I'm several years older than my family members were when they had their first heart attacks, strokes, and cancer surgeries and I'd like to add more years to that." Powerful topics you’ll gain much from. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The only reason you would be here and listening to this, right now, is because you already know the power of self-help. You are a believer. I’m here today to support and affirm you, and actually give you even more power for your self-help endeavors by dispelling some of the criticism self-help gets. The term self-help, in truth, can cause some feelings of anxiety, or fear for some people. None of us truly want to feel alone in our life and we can often doubt ourselves, so the idea of having to rely on self can be troubling. And there are plenty of people who, with vim and vigor, and I’d also say some wounding, who preach about how you can “only rely on yourself,” and that has a lot of danger in it as well. And yet here I am with a podcast named Self-Helpful as a massive advocate of self-help, but also an admitted critic to when it’s abused. In this episode, my new short form and direct, just me to you, I want to offer some perspectives so the concept of self-help is even more inspiring and equipping for you and you can use self-help resources in all forms, as powerful tools in your life to get…where you want to go. With peace, joy and ultimate fulfillment. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You have some giftings. Some inherent skills and talents. Or think of it this way, you have some things that come to you easier than they do to others. I can look at each of my kids and tell you what abilities seem to come more naturally for some than others, right out of the womb. That doesn’t make them an expert but it showcases the areas they will more likely be able to achieve mastery in. The thing is, what comes fairly easy to us we generally devalue. It doesn’t seem so impressive to us. One because it is just easier, and two, we often end up around other people who can do what we do well. When I was a pro cyclist it wasn’t that impressive to me, cause I was always around other pro cyclists and was focused on all the guys who were better than I was. You have some natural giftings and talents. Once you become aware of them, you most start honing them. Then you’ll serve yourself well to figure out how to work at them. Not all of them. I think I have a lot of giftings and some I don’t care to monetize, they are just for my enjoyment or even just for my family. But finding a gift you can monetize is…glory. In this episode I’m back with Japan’s #1 self-help guru, Ken Honda, author of Happy Money which was the focus of our first show together. This is my Values, Motives, & Habits episode where we go behind the curtain of Ken’s life. When we talked about the category of career this was Ken’s primary focus, helping people find their gifts and monetize their gifts. He finds it to be a primary source of, happy money. When you work at something you enjoy and find great value in, you are happier with the money you get as a result, and even happier to spend it, manage it, save it, and invest it. This focus stood out to me, but you’ll also hear Ken Discuss topics such as he he sees money as spiritual. His focus on relationships of what he can do for another person, which sounds pithy, but belies the fact we generally are in front of another person thinking about our own needs. Health and wellness is a challenge for Ken as he says he loves American food, hamburgers and fries, and in his culture is teases as a chubby guy. Mentally he struggles with the world's suffering which he has a sensitive heart for, and works to bolster himself so he can better handle it. As a celebrity in Japan he is often noticed out in public and takes great delight in striking up conversations with fans and getting to know them. I've already gotten feedback on our first discussion together, with people attesting to the joy in hearing Ken Honda's happy demeanor and desire to serve others. You can find Ken Honda’s book, Happy Money, anywhere, and connect directly with him at Kenhonda.com The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance.   Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There was a time before money when we gathered, harvested, and produced what we needed. Or we took what we gathered, harvested, and produced and traded with someone else for something they had. It was an exchange. Today we gather, harvest, and produce a product or service that is sold for money. And we are given money. And we pay money for most all the product and services we need. Money is simply a unit of exchange. And yet it is anything. Anything but simple. And today many of us, most of us, have some negative feelings toward money. From irritation towards suicide, and most of us have negative feelings that keep a level of anxiety going and it's eating away at us, little buy little and eroding our mental and physical health and our overall wellness and success. My guest today is a self-help legend and celebrity in Japan where he's sold nearly $9 million books about this topic. Ken Honda is the author of Happy Money: The Japanese Art of Making Peace with Your Money. But it's not money Ken is concerned about, it's your happy soul. This is why he has most of his own country following him, and now is claiming hearts around the world, including now, America. He joined me via Zoom from near Tokyo and we just had a super sweet time together. So much so that he requested my book and will be endorsing it for the Japanese market. I think you'll find a significant paradigm shift in your perspective on money and a new hope for feeling better about it. I did. Truly. There are products and services we don't want to spend money on. Such as, we don't want to give $1,000 to a car mechanic to fix something that went wrong on our car. So we give the mechanic money with sad feelings. Sad energy. And the mechanics is on the receiving end of getting sad money. Would you like to change this perspective, as the customer and the mechanic? Listen in to Ken Honda. He's going to help. We start off addressing the common negative feelings many people have towards money, and turn it on its head. It's not money we are upset with. It's really the work we don't like and aren't proud of, that we are doing to earn money. It's more about how we are earning our money than the money itself. I think you will be so stoked with this episode you'll want to share it with everyone you know. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Other sponsors include Peloton! Try Peloton risk free with a 30 day home trial (new members only; not available in remote locations). See additional terms at onepeloton.com/home-trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue on with our Functional Medicine questions from listeners for Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert who addresses questions from his experience with thousands of patients striving to get past the mere symptoms of their health and discern the root cause issues so they can have true…wellness. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. In this episode, Ted asks how to maintain muscle tone after 65. Beth feels most successful people have coaches and asks how to find a coach you can trust? Wayne wants to know about testing options like food allergies. Mark shares about finding a functional medicine provider in his area, and Don asks how to kick chronic ear infections. Again, there should be a topic or three that is highly relevant to you or someone you love. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hi Self-Helpful listeners. This is a new format of episode and it’s just you and me. While I may be your guide here on the podcast, digging into self-help messages with today’s more important influencers in the world of personal growth and development, you know I’m also a fellow traveler on my own journey to grow and progress in my life. With that in mind, I’m here now to share a short episode with you on how a recent message is influencing my own life, and see if you relate. I’m like you and living in my own story and these podcast guests and messages change my story.  So I’m calling this part 4 of my series on Michael Hyatt and Megan Hyatt Miller’s book, Mind Your Mindset: The Science That Shows Success Starts with Your Thinking. There are some significant points from the message I’m really pondering and grappling with regarding my own story and life experience.. This concept of, “It’s all in your head” is dramatically hurtful and hopeful to me. Walk with me a minute as I explain. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In minding our mindset and thinking about our thinking, we bring into question how much of our perspectives and even beliefs are based on the fictional stories our brains write to protect us. This sounds minimizing of our so called realities, but I just want you to think about occurrences which have happened in your life, things you’ve experienced with other people, and how they later recount the reality that happened, and you’re standing there thinking, “That is not at all what happened!” As you had a very different experience. And that’s the issue. Something happens, and we all experience it differently. The thing DID happen. But we all perceive it differently. It means different things to you. What excites one person may terrify another. And this type of natural reaction in our minds is normal. The opportunity we are hitting on here is in accepting that a good percentage of our reality and therefore beliefs are made up in our mind from how we’ve experienced things. Our mind and experiences and memories are not made up of facts. They are made up of stories. And as such, we can evolve to consider a bigger story and more context and possibility, and this can radically alter our lives. This is part 3 on Michael Hyatt’s book, Mind Your Mindset, and today I asked a special guest to co-host with me, Broadway and film star Renée Marino who I did a series with here on the podcast just recently regarding her book and message, “Becoming A Master Communicator.” I asked Renée to come discuss this topic with me because what and how we communicate, her specialty, is ultimately a reflexion of our mindset, and also because we just had such resonance and energy in our previous shows, and I got such good feedback about it, I wanted to bring her back on. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve been talking about the need to mind our mindset, which is the title of Michael Hyatt and Megan Hyatt Miller’s new book, with their research showcasing a majority of what we think and believe is not fact, but the stories our brain creates to help us make sense of things and ultimately protect us. I’m back for part two with Michael to walk and talk through his personal Values, Motives, and Habits. We begin on spirituality and he shares his appreciation of his faith community helping him not be left alone with his own stories and benefitting from their input and correction. It struck me how important relationships are as an overall antidote to getting lost and isolated in my own stories and beliefs that again, per Michael and Megan’s research, is not fact but the story my brain has written. I need input from friends and guides and coaches and therapists to balance me out. This is acute to me as in my own introversion and self-protection can drive me to isolate and be left alone to get lost in my own stories and i have to proactively seek out and share my stories with others to keep me from getting lost. Michael also shares about his desire for loyalty in relationships, dialing up his energy to live longer and better for his family, how he starts his day, getting bored with his work and liking to change things up, how a financial advisor my dad recommended to him gave him a new lease on his outlook on money, and how he feels his non-productive time leads him to his greatest productivity. Again, Michael Hyatt’s new book is called Mind Your Mindset: The Science That Shows Success Starts with Your Thinking. You can get the book and his MIND YOUR MINDSET COURSE for free at mindyourmindsetbook.com/selfhelpful. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue the question and answer session from our last Functional Friday episode and here we address listener inquiries about balancing exercise in regards to our effort and always killing ourselves. Losing momentum is a big topic, as anyone with a new health & wellness initiative will…lose momentum. We address the faith you have in doing what you set out to do, how to stop nervous eating, and end with a biggie…how to kick the sugar habit. Which nobody really wants to do, including me. I’m with my fun Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, and just as with the last Functional Friday episode, much of what we discuss are examples Randy shares from first hand experiences with thousands of patients who pay cash to have him get to the root problems of their issues. Not everyone can get in to work with Dr James, but you can inquire at truelifemedicine.com or just email them directly at info@truelifemedicine.com  The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Just think positive. It’s all in your head. Look on the bright side. Just write a better story.” Who here has had one of these cliches spoken to them and it just pissed you off or deflated you? It feels so affirming and even offensive to an honest experience and feeling we’ve had. The events we experience in life are…our truth. They happened and we were there and what we experienced is just, true. And yet right there is the problem, and opportunity. What we experience is just how our brain processed the event. As you’ll hear in this episode, two people are in the woods and a bear walks past their camp. One is ecstatic about experiencing a bear in the wild while the other is terrified of the possible danger because they had a friend who was hurt by a bear. What is true? They saw a bear. The rest of the experience is just what they thought based upon their personal perceptions. This is our life. A bit of fact and the rest we make up around it. With that in mind, we have the opportunity to question what we think and feel and work to consider a bigger and more reasonable reality than our negative propensities often manufactures. This isn’t just an idea, this is brain science, and my guest is Michael Hyatt and this is my fourth time having him on the show. Michael was CEO of Thomas Nelson publishing and today is a prolific author of wisdom and leader and mentor to a lot of the celebrity guests I’ve had on this show. Michael has had several New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and USA Today bestselling books, including Platform, Living Forward, Your Best Year Ever, Free to Focus, The Vision Driven Leader, and Win at Work & Succeed at Life. But this new book written by him and his daughter Megan, is top shelf for me. The book is called Mind Your Mindset: The Science That Shows Success Starts with Your Thinking. But I ask you to wait right there. This again is not just another pithy swipe at just trying to put a silver lining on things. You’re going to hear Michael site scientific research on how our brain literally takes any incident, let’s call it an objective reality, then your neurons go to work concocting a story around it so you can make sense of it, but what is really mind blowing to realize is the primary story your brain goes to work creating is a story that will protect you. This makes sense evolutionary when you are literally often in survival mode. But if you truly grasp that life is happening and your imperfect brain, and we’ll get into that, goes to work doing what it can with what it has, which is not everything needed, to create a story that protects you in the moment. This is why you hear a friend or your spouse tell a story of something you both experienced it and you are sitting there wondering what on earth they are talking about. You were there and that is not at all what happened, right? Well. It’s not right. Or wrong. It’s the story your brain wrote. And if this is the case, much of the trauma and limitations and negative beliefs we have about ourselves in reference to what we have experienced, or what we think we have experienced…are in question. And maybe, we are capable of more. This is the episode. Get Michael’s book you also get his MIND YOUR MINDSET COURSE for free, it’s normally $479. mindyourmindsetbook.com/selfhelpful. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If we are really honest, we begin most relationships with an agenda in mind. A transaction. We are wanting something for ourselves out of it. I know many people will reject that, and I reject their rejection. We either are hoping for something from the other person, or what we are doing for them makes us feel good about ourselves. Which is ok! Our focus today, is before you seek to get anything from anyone in a relationship, you need to earn the right. And in a relationship, this usually takes a while. But most people start relationships by talking about themselves or trying to solidify an opportunity, whether it’s a job, a date, a new friendship or a work opportunity. And they do it prematurely, before they’ve actually made any true, meaningful connection and in truth, provided some value to the other person. This is part three on Renée Marino and her message on becoming a master communicator. This is my peer discussion my co-host is Dan Miller. One, because he’s a professional communicator. Two, because he and my mom met Renée at an event put on by a big publisher and they texted me saying I just had to have her on the show, which I’ll be forever grateful for. Three, because as most of you know, Dan is my Dad, and we have great conversations together and as you’ll hear at the top of the show, I credit him with schooling me as a kid in how to communicate and win friends and influence people. I cite it as the best education I ever received and it’s very much why I find myself now with a top ranked podcast. We got overwhelming feedback about my first two episodes with Renée Marino, so I really encourage you to check them out if you haven’t yet. You can find Renée’s new book, "Becoming a Master Communicator,” anywhere and when you do, go to FreeGiftfromRenee.com for two gifts she has for you. You can find Dan Miller at 48days.com The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I asked the Self-Helpful audience this question, “If you could get insight and help into an area of your personal health and wellness, where would it be? What would you ask?” The responses were very candid and covered a wide range of issues. So many, we are doing two parts to this Q&A. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. In this Q&A episode we go deep regarding hormones, nutrition, and screen time. We, is myself and my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. Much of what we discuss are examples Randy shares from first hand experiences with thousands of patients who pay cash to have him get to the root problems of their issues. On that note, while not everyone can get in to see him, I frequently hear about new patients working with him who heard him here on the Self-Helpful podcast. You can connect with him at truelifemedicine.com or just email them directly at info@truelifemedicine.com. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When we think of great relationships we inherently think of being such a great and attractive person that others are just drawn to us. I think we are errantly programmed in grade school where it literally is a popularity contest. If you’re big or strong or pretty or a star quarterback, you are voted homecoming and prom royalty. This doesn’t work in the real world where we grow up and actually want to feel connected to people and if someone can’t do that we don’t care what their skills and looks. Think of the people in your life you feel cared for by. What is the common denominator? They listen to you. They care about your life and opinions. You matter to them. So do you want more or better relationships? They don’t come from telling people how great you are. They come from listening to others and helping them feel great about themselves. I’m with Renée Marino for part 2 to walk and talk through her personal Values, Motives, and Habits. In part 1 we hit on the key message from her book, Becoming a Master Communicator. Renée is a Broadway star and played the lead female role in Clint Eastwood's, Jersey Boys. She knows…communication. I discuss her personal relationship values she led off with just this...listening. Her goal is to be what she calls, a "complete listener." Listen in to hear how she defines this. She shares her recent efforts with inner child work. Her health and wellness goals center around being a powerful communicator with herself and giving focus to her self-worth, and the dangers in her career if she tied her identity and worth to the casting directors opinion of her. At the end in asking Renee about the things she does just to give herself joy and inspiration, she cites dancing, and singing, and you get a treat, as she gives us a stanza from "Someone to Watch Over Me." You can get Renee’s book, "Becoming a Master Communicator" anywhere and when you do, go to FreeGiftfromRenee.com for two gifts she has for you. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

At the end of the day, at the end of our life, what matters is meaningful relationships. What purpose in living would you find if you woke up tomorrow as the only person left on earth? Now, what makes up healthy relationships? Think about it. It's communication. A car will go nowhere if it doesn't have wheels. The wheels of any relationship, is communication. And like any skill, we aren't just naturally an expert. Communicating well is a learned skill. Would you like to increase the health and success of your relationships? There is no better way to do it quickly and effectively than learning how to communicate better. So in this show I'm with Renée Marino. Renée is a bonafide Broadway star, singing, acting, and dancing in West Side Story, Pretty Woman, and Jersey Boys. Her lead role in the latter caught the eye of Clint Eastwood who took her from the stage and cast her for the lead female role in his film, Jersey Boys. Renée's livelihood is communicating. She must connect with and move the audience, and she's a master. Following the film, Renée turned her attention to the professional and personal world and is showing us the heart and skill of real communication. The kind that does just what Renée does on stage, on film, and in her personal life...truly connects us with others in a meaningful way that moves them to engage with us. We start talking about her growing up in New Jersey in an Italian American family where communication was their love language, taking her first steps on stage, and even into her marriage to an introvert and how they honor each other's styles of communication. As you'll quickly hear, I don't know that I've ever connected and resonated more with a guest on the show, which attests to Renée's skill of connecting through communication. You're going to enjoy this. Renée has culminated her methodology of communicating in her book, "Becoming a Master Communicator" which you can get anywhere and when you do, go to FreeGiftfromRenee.com for two gifts she has for you. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We tend to think of our brain as a static tool we use for our life, not as a muscle we can grow and increase the capacity and ability of. We’re talking about increasing the power of our brains, something we can all do. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. We will address behavioral problems like ADHD, cognitive decline like dementia and alzheimers, and even traumatic brain injury. The first part of the show is relevant for us all, then we get into those specific pathologies. Pathologies that are primarily treated symptomatically with the perception that wherever the brain is, is where it will remain and decline and the best we can do is use pharmaceuticals to try and slow things down or mask them. We have far better news and testimonials to the true possibilities. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Imagine yourself stepping onto a tennis court, golf course, or dance floor for the first time and immediately having correct form and performing perfectly. It’s a dumb concept as we all know it’s impossible. To even be decent requires a good bit of training and practice. Now think of all the relationships in your life. Did you have training in how to relate well? Did you practice specific relational tactics and techniques in order to be a great listener, conversationalist and expertly hone your personal relationship skills? It’s doubtful. To make matters more challenging, we actually, all, had some poor relationship skills taught to us so we come into all relationships with some poor and unhealthy form. To start improving we must first audit ourselves. This is part three of my series on Nedra Glover Tawwab and her brand new book, Drama Free. In this episode I’m joined by my frequent co-host, and brother, Jared Angaza. Yep, full blood brother and different last name. I asked Jared to join me because he’s done so much work in his own relational journey and he understands the challenges, and the benefits. We really give focus to the need and opportunity of getting clear on your relational dysfunctions. Even in the absolute best of families with great love, acceptance, and support, there are no perfect people. And as you are imperfect, you will likely adopt unhealthy perspectives around some relational concepts regardless. So getting your learned and adopted dysfunctions on the table is the first step in you having drama free relationships, as Nedra is leading us. Nedra Glover Tawwab is a New York Times best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert. You can find her on Instagram where 1.6M people are following her relational guidance. And find her new book, Drama Free, anywhere. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As a renowned and prolific therapist, Nedra Glover Tawwab habitually sits with patients who are suffering today from decisions they made yesterday, last week and decades ago. So when I asked her where she’s most at risk for jeopardizing her own mental health, she shared it was in not caring for her future self. I think we can all relate to that. I’m back with Nedra to talk about her Values, Motives, and Habits. Nedra Glover Tawwab is a New York Times best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert who celebrities and 1.6M people on Instagram turn to for relational guidance. Her new book is called Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships. In this episode we start off with spirituality and Nedra talks about her efforts to find peace in her busy, taxing days. Nedra said she finds kindness very spiritually fulfilling. Relationships is her area of expertise, you can catch her on Red Table Talk talking with Jada Pinkett Smith and her family on how to set boundaries. In addition of course to having healthy boundaries, Nedra gives focus to each relationship and really considering what she wants the relationship to be like and being aware of her expectations. Regarding health and wellness she tries to eat clean and exercise but unashamedly loves candy. In her work and increasing success she is looking at how to better scale her business. With money she questions what is enough and is keen on having more conversations around money. And last with personal interests she shares how she is a very aesthetic person and finds great joy in deciding how she'll dress and present herself on any given day and she finds great joy in creating beautiful and calming environments, whether it's her office, home or yard. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you don’t really like your job or a person you’re in relationship with, the negative thoughts unconsciously affect your actions and behaviors and you end up sabotaging things and you make everything worse. Friends, this is a primary culprit in your efforts to be fit and well. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and I want you to think about these words; Food. Dieting. Exercise. When you read or hear those words, what feelings arise? Excitement or dread? Pride or shame? Guilt? We find so many people desiring to improve their health, get fit, and lose weight, but there are often negative feelings about these very things that sabotage their efforts. This show is about being aware and getting them on the table, so to speak. Not to eradicate them however. As you’ll hear in the show, often these feelings have roots back in childhood our young adulthood and they run deep. Maybe you can truly overcome and erase them. But we believe more immediate overcoming can be had by figuring out how to manage the negative feelings and move beyond them even as they still exist. Thus awareness and management is our primary objective. As Functional Medicine is a root issue methodology, this topic is foundational to your journey to wellness. I’m joined by my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our recent episode series was regarding the longest scientific study ever on happiness, which showcased that our greatest source of happiness comes from relationships. Yet our greatest struggles are often in relationships, so that is where we are going now. If you are in relationship with anyone, you likely have some, or a lot of unhealth in the relationship. So I’ve brought an expert. A year and a half ago I had Nedra Glover Tawwab on the show for her book, Set Boundaries, Find Peace. This was a look internally at ourselves and shoring ourselves up for good relationships. Now Nedra has a brand new book, Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships. We dig deep into the relational issues that we all tend to just settle for and expect we have to endure long-term. Or we allow to actually destroy a relationship. Nedra Glover Tawwab is a New York Times best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert. She has practiced relationship therapy for 15 years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Kaleidoscope Counseling. Her expertise is in helping people create healthy relationships by teaching them how to implement boundaries. Her philosophy is that a lack of boundaries and assertiveness underlie most relationship issues, and her gift is helping people create healthy relationships with themselves and others. This is why I had her on the show, boundaries and relational assertiveness have never really existed in me. Nedra has appeared as an expert on Red Table Talk, The Breakfast Club, Good Morning America, and CBS Morning Show and her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, The Guardian, and Vice. When I had her on the show 1.5 years ago she had 500k followers on Instagram. Today she has ove 1.6M who are tuning in for her relational counsel. I’m honored to have had her back for a long journey into the hard relational issues we seldom reconcile. This is a hopeful episode. A note, after the 1 hour mark we get into some sensitive topics I don’t think you’ll want to miss. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The results of the longest scientific study on happiness showed us the primary source for our happiness, today and over our life, is relationships. Obviously not the bad and toxic relationships, but the good, healthy and fulfilling ones. Which of course then begs the big question of what makes a good, healthy, and fulfilling relationship? This is part three on Robert Waldinger and a peer discussion on the study he shares in his book, The Good Life. My co-host is Tom Ziglar. Tom is CEO of Ziglar and son of Zig Ziglar, the legend who inspired us that all we do is second to the relationships we have. Opening this discussion on the topic of what makes good relationships and Tom said, trust. I’d ask you to think of your best relationships and consider the level of trust, but in truth, the concept may be more apparent when I ask you to think of your most strained relationships and ask if trust is at the root of the issue? I suspect you’ll find it is. So for us then, a key understanding is what does and does not create trust in relationships? What you’ll find out is there are many thing we unknowingly do and don’t do that erode our trust with others and create relational downfalls. Listen in to get informed. Find Robert Waldinger’s book, The Good Life, anywhere you get books. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stress is depicted as the devil of our time. Everyone is stressed out and suffering from too much stress and the thing we want most as a culture is less stress. Our levels of anxiety are at an all time high as if it was a wartime scenario and the pathological manifestations continue to skyrocket. The thing is, however, stress itself isn’t a bad thing. It’s the body’s appropriate response to pressure and tension. The stress of working out and exercise is desperately needed by our bodies. It’s what makes us stronger and/or helps us maintain our strength so we don’t atrophy. But we stress our muscles and lungs, then recover. We can’t stay in a constant state of stress. Mentally is no different. When we are stressed mentally it’s not necessarily a bad thing. In a moment of crisis or challenge it’s the body’s way of dealing with the issue. And then, we need to recover. And there are often times when we are in a state of stress that in health, we should actually be a good bit more calm about. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and I’m with Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, to discuss the good and bad of stress. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My recent show with Dr Robert Waldinger focused on the world’s longest scientific study of happiness. If you heard part 1 in episode 1095, you heard the results are…relationships. So it’s no surprise when I ask Bob what his relational values are, that he cites as a priority…his own social fitness. This is my Values, Motives & Habits show and I walk with Bob through the key aspects of his life. Bob is professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development at Massachusetts General Hospital. His TED titled, “What makes a good life?” has over 43 million views and I highly recommend you check it out. We talk about the role spirituality played in people's happiness, including his own. He's been married for 36 years and we discuss quantity vs quality time together. For health and wellness Bob strives to follow Neal Maxwell's guidance of "Never giving up what you want most for what you want today," though we share a strong inclination toward dark chocolate that he moderates to keep his weight where he wants it. He does share that taking care of one's health is one of the two predictors of happiness. He addresses his mental state by meditating and is actual a Zen master and teaches meditation all over the world. He admittedly enjoys his work and is involved in a lot and works a bit more than he should. Regarding finances he views money as neutral after basic needs are met, but regarding the study on happiness cites that having money often gives people a feeling of freedom. I asked Bob about his personal interests and pursuits and he framed the question around what he does to create energy for himself, which I love and am adopting for the show from now on. He shared that he loves talking about interesting ideas and brainstorming, we discussed the concept of flow, and he recently started taking singing and Spanish lessons. Bob’s co-authored book, The Good Life: Lessons From the World’s Longest Scientific Study on Happiness, has just been released. Find it wherever you get your books, and connect with Bob at robertwaldinger.com. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nothing sells more these days than the hope and promise of happiness. We are desperate for happiness because apparently we’re not finding it enough. We look for it in our money, possessions, entertainment and experiences. Now I bring you, literally the world’s longest study on…happiness. And the solution to our need is not surprising. The root of our happiness is…relationships. That’s it. After 80 years of studying generations of people, what gives us the most happiness is relationships. Which is a simple answer, but not an easy one. Many of our relationships bring us more trauma, and stress, and sadness than happiness. So what’s the real story? My guest is Robert Waldinger, a professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School who is director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development at Massachusetts General Hospital which conducted this study. If you aren’t aware of Bob, you may have come across his TED talk, titled, “What makes a good life?” which has over over 43 million views. Bob is also cofounder of the Lifespan Research Foundation. He received his AB from Harvard College and his MD from Harvard Medical School and is a practicing psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, and he directs a psychotherapy teaching program for Harvard psychiatry residents. Bob is also a Zen master (Roshi) and teaches meditation in New England and around the world. From this study, Robert has now co-authored the book, The Good Life: Lessons From the World’s Longest Scientific Study on Happiness, which is being released the day after this episode goes live. Find The Good Life wherever you get your books, and you’re about to hear us discuss the highlights on what provides happiness that were most profound to me. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The focus of this show is increasing fertility. Fertility is a growing issue just as so many others. When there are systemic pathologies within us, they can manifest in many ways. Fertility is one. And a quick note, if pregnancy is not a current area of interest for you, please consider passing this on to anyone you know who is trying to get or stay pregnant. They need to hear this. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. I’m with my co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, and we began the show talking about infertility, but getting pregnant is step one, then just as important of course is staying pregnant and avoiding miscarriage and premature birth. Nearly 20% of couples are not able to conceive and another 10-20% miscarry. Then about 10% have premature births. Folks, that’s nearly 50% of all couples who will experience significant difficulty ending up with a full term, healthy baby. This show is paramount regarding pregnancy. As you’ll hear, we stumble into an issue that astounds me regarding what causes our bodies to say “No!” to getting and staying pregnant. This is news you will seldom hear regarding the subject. The Self-Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

With every guest I have on this Self-Helpful podcast, I ask them about their personal Values, Motives, and Habits in the key areas of life, following the seven spokes in the Ziglar Wheel of Life. In this show I bring my key co-hosts back to talk through our highlights in each spoke for the year. Tom Ziglar, CEO of Ziglar Inc and son of legendary motivator Zig Ziglar, and Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, are with me and we all share our highlight learnings, ponderings, and resources in the seven spokes, which include Spiritual, Relational, Health & Wellness, Mindset, Career, Money & Personal Interests. For the three of us, our daily vocations are almost exclusively investigating and leading others in self-help. Tom works with many executives and coaches, Randy works with patients, and I work with you, my Self-Helpful audience, and select individuals I coach. But here I turn the tables on us. What did we most pursue and grapple with, and what resources did we utilize, which include people, books, and more. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To ring in the new year I have a special show for you where we take to task…leadership. I don’t find that people are as interested in the traditional concept of leadership as they are just being able to be a positive influence in other’s lives and helping and serving them. This is actually what true leadership is. My guests today are my most frequent co-hosts. Randy James, medical doctor and functional medicine expert, and Tom Ziglar, CEO of Ziglar and son of Zig Ziglar. These two men are two of my closest and dearest friends, and two of the greatest experts and students of self-help and personal growth. My initial intent was to have us audit our own year of self-help and offer insight and resources, but Tom got on to this topic of leadership and we just couldn’t let it go, as it hit to the core of our work and personal lives and we did a lot of discussion on parenting and influencing people. I stuck with the topic and my original intent you’ll hear in the next episode of Self-Helpful. We dig deep into the purpose we all find in solving problems and bringing solutions to others. The power and inspiration of being curious. And the necessity of personal and social awareness for ultimate success and fulfillment. The Self-Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hormone issues affect more and more people everyday. Testosterone and estrogen get major focus but those aren’t the only ones. Could your hormones be off and causing you problems like fatigue, mood swings, menstrual suffering, infertility, low energy and low muscle mass, weight gain and low libido? In this show we cover the primary symptoms of hormone dysregulation in women, men, and children. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and today we talk about hormones. When you have physical and mental struggles, we’d all like to find a specific culprit that can be addressed and fixed and all of the sudden we feel great. Seldom is there any one such thing, but if there was…hormones issues are surprisingly common. I’m with my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, medical doctor and functional medicine expert, and with a lot of his patients showcasing various maladies, he is working with them on hormone treatments. Listen in and see if you find issues you relate to, and some direction to get help. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the workplace and in life, great opportunity comes to those who set themselves apart. We’re not talking about attention seeking or being better than others, but simply being clear and communicating what you can uniquely offer, which is the point. Whatever you do, you can do uniquely. Again, not better or brand new, but something coming from you in a new way, perspective, flavor or application. This is part 3 on Matt McWilliams and the message in his new book, “Turning Passions Into Profits.” In this episode I bring on Dan Miller, famed author of “48 Days To The Work You Love” and one of the premier experts and voices regarding turning passions into profits. Matt cites Dan as a teacher and mentor, so no more fitting person to continue this discussion. Dan is also…my father. We really land on the necessity and opportunity of standing out with what you can uniquely offer, and this isn’t simply a discussion for work and business. Think about your personal life and those you are most drawn to and feel cared by. You will likely be very clear on what about them most stands out to you, and you can audit yourself for what you want people to feel from you. You can still  preorder Matt’s book, “Turning Passions Into Profits” now at passionsintoprofitsbook.com/self and get over $700 of bonuses. You can find Dan Miller at 48days.com. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My guest has ADHD, but he doesn’t see it as a problem and instead works to leverage it as a benefit. He also has low empathy, but here too he finds times where it’s actually a benefit. I’m back for part 2 with Matt McWilliams after talking about the message in his new book, Turn Your Passions Into Profits. This is my Values, Motives & Habits episode where we go behind the curtain to find out what drives Matt and how he lives from within his passions. He does admit that ADHD makes it hard to practice quiet time, which he knows is important and works to achieve. He shares his journey of losing 88 pounds which he cites was holding him back. In his work and with his team a primary objective is to "ruthlessly protect our downtime." And regarding work and money we discuss a line I pulled from his social media where he says, “I vacillate between wanting to change the world and wanting to be independently wealthy by the end of next Tuesday." You can preorder Matt’s book, “Turning Passions Into Profits” now at passionsintoprofitsbook.com/self and get over $700 of bonuses. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We tend to think of diabetes as something you have or not, like a broken leg. But diabetes in simple terms is an issue of your body being able to deal with sugar, and in our culture we all take in more sugar than our body is equipped to deal well with. In America more than one out of three Americans have diabetes or prediabetes. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and today we are breaking down diabetes. I’m with my co host Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert and he showcases that we are all on the diabetes spectrum and it’s not simply an issue of whether we tip over the edge into a full on diabetes diagnosis or not. The causes and symptoms of prediabetes need to be on your radar for yourself and if you have kids…for them. What are the chief culprits, and it’s not just high sugar foods and drinks. Who is more at risk and why? This show is relevant for everyone, us included. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Work at what you love. Work at what you’re passionate about. We hear this message a lot, yet few people are really doing it, and I’m submitting here that we tend to view it wrong. Let’s drop the baggage you may think of around words like love and passion and just think on something you care about. Wouldn’t you rather have a surgeon working on you who knows more than how to do the surgery, but really, inherently cares about helping people? If she/he does care, they will likely do a better job and help you and themselves far more. What do you care about that is a good fit for you and the marketplace. Then, how do you best make money with it? This is our focus today, to take an age old issue and breath new, paradigm shifting light into it. My guest is Matt McWilliams. Matt has been helping people make money about what they care about for a long time, including names you’ll likely know such as Shark Tank’s Kevin Harrington, Tony Robbins, Michael Hyatt, Claire Diaz-Ortiz, Lewis Howes, Brian Tracy and more. I’ve know Matt a long time and know first hand from scores of people how he’s helped them hone in on something they care about, and then, his specialty, how to make money from it. Not simply so you can make money, but so you can…in order to keep doing what you care about. I want you doing what you care about. It makes you happy and fulfilled and from that you will give happiness and fulfillment to others! Matt is just now releasing his new book titled, “Turn Your Passions Into Profits” and it was my muse for this discussion. He really turns the tables on many of our misconceptions around this concept, so you’ll hear some paradigm shifting info right off the bat. Of interest, my publisher wants me to get 250 or more pre-orders of my book on Amazon before publication date, as it helps take it to the top of the rankings. Matt has over 1,200 already. You can pre-order now at passionsintoprofitsbook.com/self and get a truckload of add on bonuses. passionsintoprofitsbook.com/self The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you break it down and really look at it, nearly all our attempts to love others are action based. They are things we do. One of the bestselling self-help books of all time is The 5 Love Languages and it cites words of affirmation, receiving gifts, quality time, physical touch and acts of service. But all of those are…acts. Things we do. And yet where we feel the most love from people is not in any act, but in them connecting with us. Being love, in essence, not doing love. This is part 3 on the message from Humble The Poet and his new book, How To Be Loved. Today I’m talking about Humble and his message with again, my brother, Jared Angaza. I just keep having guests that are right in Jared’s wheelhouse of experience, so I brought him back on. I’ve gotten a lot of positive feedback about Jared and his insight, and as you hear me mention in this show, he’s the brand and culture architect behind my new look, which you can see at kevinmiller.co. You can connect with him at jaredangaza.com. Here we also take aim at the idea of you not being able to love others beyond the extent to which you love yourself. What we came to is…you can loathe yourself and still do…a lot of loving. You can do a lot of acts of love. But it’s pretty impossible to be the love they need, if you can’t be the love you need for yourself. It’s a big distinction. What this episode will do is help you see why so many of your efforts to love others don’t end up being the love they really need and you’re killing yourself for nothing. You can make a shift, and quit wearing yourself out, and finally connect in a way that matters to you and those you…love. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Happiness” is a dramatically popular topic today, as many are not feeling so happy. A very real issue however is whether you have the mental and physical ability to even adequately receive and retain happiness, and further, joy and hope. If you keep scrambling for happy moments but it doesn’t last, maybe you have a leak. Imagine I had a pitcher of your favorite beverage, wine, coffee, or tea. You hold your mug or glass out and I pour in the glorious elixir. But alas, before your container reaches your lips, the liquid drains out through multiple cracks. You get nothing. So you go back for a refill only to never get it to your lips. Are you pursuing happiness but some of it is falling through the cracks of your compromised body and mind which don’t have the capacity to contain it? This is my Functional Friday episode and I’m with Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert and we talk through this very real and present issue, a growing issue, in our culture today. What is causing the leaks and what to do about it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is about relationships, but to explain it I’m going to use the analogy of digestive problems and foods. If you struggle with IBS or gas and bloating and such, and you want to get better, you’ve got to become aware of your sensitivities. What foods help and hurt you. With relationships it’s no different. Some relationships are glorious, and some cause you discomfort, if not flat out pain. To have peace you must know your personal and relational priorities and values so you can create a sustainable menu that produces good results. This is one of the things I got from talking again with Humble The Poet in this Values, Motives & Habits episode, as he discussed how a priority in his relational health is having clarity of his own priorities and values when it comes to the relationships he invests in. Some other aspects of his values we covered...spiritually his focus is minimizing lust, greed, anger, attachment and ego. He doesn't want to arrive at death safely but to live life on the edges. He views movement as medicine and of great intrigue to me was he labeled his life as a writer where he sits still for such long periods of time, as not as healthy of that as a bartender who is always on the move, lifting, bending and reaching. I now have to deal with this concept as a writer, which I'm not sure I appreciate. Humble consistently sees a therapist so he's getting counsel from someone who is not a stakeholder in his life. Great way to put it. He doesn't participate in social media much himself, he has a team do it for him. And as a full time artist he discusses his pursuit of slow art that is better for the soul and ultimately more lucrative. Find Humble’s new book, “How To Be Loved” anywhere and find him and all his social media at HumbleThePoet.com. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

At the end of the day, and our lives, there is nothing we desire more than love. To be chosen by others and given their affection, devotion, and commitment. Yet relational statistics showcase we are pretty poor at achieving peaceful, enduring, and fulfilling love. Bottom line, most of us are doing it wrong. We define love incorrectly and we pursue it errantly. That may sound like a big claim, but I think in a few moments you will agree with me, and find a new lease on your ability to arrive at love, immediately. My guest is Humble The Poet. He’s a Canadian-born rapper, spoken-word artist, poet, internationally bestselling author, and former elementary school teacher. What began as reciting spoken word poetry in coffee shops to impress girls evolved into a creative adventure that has spanned the last 10 years; crossing genres, mediums and oceans. His first two books, UNLEARN & THINGS NOBODY CAN TEACH US, have become international bestsellers. What caught my eye was his huge social media following, and him using his platform to help people learn and grow and in this case…love. His new book is How To Be Loved. Friends, I read the book and it just resonated. Hugely. Which is why I ultimately invited him on the show. I have so many high profile doctors and professors and researchers, and yet Humble speaks from the research in his own life. He headlines the concept of his book with, “Love doesn’t have to be earned or found, it has to be realized.” This show will change your paradigm on what love is and how to finally, with peace, realize it. Find Humble’s new book, “How To Be Loved” anywhere and find him and all his social media at HumbleThePoet.com The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our bodies are like a wood burning stove. To a degree you can throw anything in them and they’ll burn it for energy to keep your heart beating. So putting in 10 twinkies or a salad, what’s the difference? Most of our culture’s focus just goes to weight gain or loss, so the idea is the salad has less calories and the twinkies will make you fat. But let’s put weight on the backburner and just focus on overall wellness and ability. Let’s make brain function, energy, resilience and longevity the muse. How do we eat for those goals? How do you eat so you feel more hopeful and joyful? How does food factor into mental health? Depression? Food is far more than just fuel to burn. The nutritional value in the food is either burning and building us, or burning and depleting us. It is our most powerful medicine, or poison. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. My cohost is Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. We spend the bulk of this episode discussing the psychology and concept of what and how we eat, then around the 60 minute mark talk about the literal foods we eat and advocate. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When will you be enough? The question bothers me. I’m a fan of growing and striving and achieving and to a fair degree I feel it is a responsibility to do so. There are aspects of myself I’m not satisfied with. And yet a primary tenet of emotional health is to be ok with yourself, right now. Can you come to a place of being enough right now, even though you’re not content to just stop and coast from here on in your life? Still be an aspiring person? This is part 3 of my series on Peter Moo - tar -bar - ze who lived a horrifically abused and neglected life in Africa from his birth in a small town outside of Uganda up living on the streets till age 15, when thanks to the opportunity afforded to him by one family, he went on to attend and graduate from universities and ultimately move to America where he’s an entrepreneur, foster father, and now author of the book, “Now I am Known”. I invited my brother, Jared Angaza, to cohost with me again, as Jared spent a decade in Africa working amongst street kids like Peter. We talk a bit about his experience, but our primary discussion landed on what Jared cited as the epidemic of enoughness that seems to span all of humanity, whether you lived on the streets and slept in a sewer in Africa, or you lived in a million dollar home in Beverly Hills. Find Peter’s book, Know I Am Known, a self-help classic in my opinion, anywhere and visit Nowiamknownfoundation.org to connect with Peter and his incredible story. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As you are here, right now, listening to this show, you have survived. No matter what has happened to you, you’ve made it to be in existence at this precise moment with the ability to be listening to a podcast. There are so many, many others who have not made it. Why…have you survived? What is the purpose for you having come this far? This is what propels my guest, Peter Mutabazi who is back for Part 2 as we walk through his personal values, motives, and habits. Here he shares again some of the dramatic abuse and hardship on all levels he endured. You name the abuse, Peter had some of the worst of it. And yet he made it while his list of family and friends who did not only make it but who are no longer even alive, is vast. It is from the fact he survived that he feels his greatest purpose. As you’ll hear him share, he just can’t believe there is not a purpose for why he survived, and he wants to fully use himself to help others not only survive, but thrive. His book that propelled me to have him on the show is called Now I Am Known: How a Street Kid Turned Foster Dad Found Acceptance and True Worth, that to me is one of the best self-help resources I’ve come across in a long, long time, as it blatantly showcases so many of our emotional and relational dysfunctions that Peter endured and is still working through in order to function healthfully and help others do the same. I am also encouraging everyone to visit Peter’s website at Nowiamknownfoundation.org and consider booking him to speak, and helping in his efforts to foster and adopt more children. Nowiamknownfoundation.org. The Self-Helpful podcast with Kevin Miller is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have a 1984 Jeep CJ7 that barely runs. It only has 90,000 miles and it was driven gently by my mother in law for most of its life. The reason it’s in such bad shape? It just sat still for years on end without being driven. The hoses dry rotted, the lubes dried up, and now it is so decrepit it’s nearly beyond reviving. Our bodies are the same. They were made to move. To have our lungs and muscles stretched. If you’ve ever worn a cast you know how fast muscles and strength atrophies when not used. Our entire body is this way. But today we don’t need to move in order to live. I do most of my work from a home office and to make a good living the most strenuous thing I need to do is walk down the stairs. So, we have to create artificial movement. This is caused…exercise. But what exercises are good? How much is enough? This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and today we talk about exercise. I asked this question on Facebook, “How often do you exercise, for how long, what exercises do you do, and why? You are going to hear a lot of ideas and perspectives and I’m joined by my Functional Friday co-host, Randy James, medical doctor and functional medicine expert. We’ll walk and talk you through the responses and offer some counsel and guidance. This is a great show to share with those who struggle with exercise, as we hit on some of the goofiness of it, though of course uphold the necessity. The Self-Helpful with Kevin Miller podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What you are about to hear is more than a story of an abused kid in Africa who ran away from home and then lived on the streets and slept in the sewer in a nearby city. A kid who literally never had anything provided for him, only taken, until he got one big break at age 15 when he had never had shoes. He only ate every few days. He’d never slept in a bed or ridden in a car. But with one man’s help he went to school, attended universities and immigrated to America where today he fosters and adopts children. What I want you to hear however is this is a story relevant to us all because this boy endured such tremendous hardship and difficulty that his escape provides a uniquely stark depiction of the emotional overcoming we all must do if we want to be at peace with the world around us. My guest, Peter Mutabazi was that kid. Today at 48 he’s an entrepreneur, an international advocate for children, and the founder of Now I Am Known, a corporation that supplies resources that encourage and affirm children. Peter is a single father of an adopted white son and foster dad to many. Peter has worked for World Vision and the International Committee of the Red Cross, and has appeared on BBC and the TODAY show. He currently lives in Charlotte, North Carolina where he fosters children and flips homes and has over 200k followers on Instagram at fosterdadflipper. Peter tells his story and lessons in his new book, “Now I am Known” and while I shamelessly promote every guests book, this one is dear to me. He walks through a life of difficulty that will shock you, but ends each chapter with the lessons learned and grace he’s found that will equip and convict you to alter your circumstances or perspective and likely both. Right now Peter is striving to be a full-time, single dad to many kids. If you have an organization, he’s a powerful speaker. Visit Nowiamknownfoundation.org and consider booking him to speak, and helping in his efforts. Right now his growing family needs a new van, a babysitter, and they raise money to provide support for new foster families and kids aging out of foster care. Nowiamknownfoundation.org. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As you listen right now, you are likely thinking of hearing or learning something of interest, and something that will help equip or direct you toward more of what you want from life. We are all here striving to grow and better ourselves for an end result. Otherwise you’d just be listening to music or listening to a crime or comedy show. And I’m a full out believer in this concept of learning and growing which is the point of this Self-Helpful podcast. And, I’m ever more interested in seeing a challenge or commitment catapulting our learning curve from zero to hero almost overnight and in some aspects, bypassing all this stuff. Meaning, you can listen to a year of my shows. This summer my book, “What Drives You” comes out, but you can skip that. And instead just make a big commitment to something you care about, and it will do more to shape you than any amount of content, teaching and guidance. This is the message we got from legendary visionary and humanitarian Lynne Twist in her book, "Living a Committed Life: Finding Freedom and Fulfillment in a Purpose Larger Than Yourself.” This is part 3 on Lynne and her message and I invited a special guest to co-host the discussion with me. Jared Angaza is an activist and philanthropist. He spent over a decade in Rwanda and Kenya working to pull women and children out of sex slavery. As of late he has devoted himself to the space industry, specifically Space For Humanity, and advocating the overview effect recently made famous by Star Trek celebrity William Shatner. Those are mere bookends of a life dedicated to big efforts. Jared cites Lynne Twist as a primary inspiration to his life and has lived what Lynne talks about and experienced the devotion to a cause as the most profound tool for shaping him into the kind of person who can make a world impact. Jared is also my full on blood brother. While in Africa he changed his last name from Miller to Angaza to fully embrace his purpose, passion and vision. Following is our discussion on how this message of commitment from Lynne Twist has played out in Jared’s life and the lives of others we’ve walked with. You’ll also hear some brotherly riffing on some past adventures. You can find Jared at Jaredangaza.com, and of course find Lynne Twist’s book, Living a Committed Life, anywhere. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re in an age when prescription drugs and surgeries are prescribed with little hesitation, especially in the American “healthcare” system. Yet most health minded people, like you who listen to this Self-Helpful podcast, are not so eager to just accept a pill or to go under the knife. I’ve been prone to boycott such things. But my dear friend Randy James, our resident Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine Expert, has taught me there are times when these methodologies are helpful and even necessary. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and today we talk about prescription drugs and surgeries. In a perfect world with perfect health, we’d not need such things. But it’s not a perfect world and none of us can be in perfect health. Sometimes we get injured or sick and relatively broken and then, pharmaceuticals and surgeries are life savers. We’d just like to see those times as very few and very far between. And when they are needed, what can you do to prepare yourself for the best outcomes? The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How often do we see a movie depict someone bumbling along, not doing so well, lacking in a lot of personal areas…then a big incident happens, and they quickly rise to the occasion, going from hero to zero. I wonder what percentage of movies depict this, the hero story. So we all tune in to all the self-help info, like this podcast, to try and become the hero. But isn’t it interesting that they don’t show this in the movie. They don’t show the person bumbling along and then years of personal development happen to create them into better people. They incident happens. A purpose. And they just get up and forget about themselves to a big degree, and become what’s needed to overcome whatever the incident is. The purpose is what refines them. This is the message of Lynne Twist who I’m back with to discuss her personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment. You’ll hear, over and over again, how it’s her purpose that directs every area of her life and drives her. You will not…hear any pithy claims or directives, just her humble recount of what she values and how she practices that value…and she comes back over and over to her purpose. Lynne talks about her "unrelenting stand for the possibility of life." Her efforts to have appreciation for her life. Her belief in the omnipotence we all have for the conversations in our life. She sees her body as an instrument she must take care of and in her 70s she's doing parcourse. We really get into her mentioning how you can pick up on someone's mood long before we pick up on their attitude, and I've continued to talk about and ponder this. This and so much more... It’s an incredibly intriguing and for me, convicting conversation. Find Lynne Twist’s brand new book, “Living a Committed LIfe” anywhere, and connect with her at Soulofmoney.org.  The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We as people tend to think of learning and training and preparing, so that…we can commit to something truly big and worthy. A grand purpose. My guest today argues, in the most compassionate way possible, we have it backwards, and that the greatest people ever known simply committed to something they believed in, and the journey within it is what made them great. It crafted and honed them. The challenge and trials and triumphs along the way is what refined them. Then the charge is not to prepare to commit, but to commit now, and become what the commitment requires, along the way. My guest is Lynne Twist, a recognized global visionary and legendary humanitarian. Lynne wowed the world with her first book, The Soul of Money, but I have her on the show for her brand new book releasing currently, "Living a Committed Life: Finding Freedom and Fulfillment in a Purpose Larger Than Yourself.” That’s what caught me, this 180 look at making big commitments. That again, the greats, like Ghandi, didn’t prepare to change the world. They just committed to it and the effort formed them into the people big enough to do it.  Lynne’s story is the same, as her journey began when she heard about the The Hunger Project where their goal was to end world hunger, and knew she was supposed to devote her life to it. She spent a decade there and has influenced more people through more humanitarian efforts than nearly anyone. Lynne has been an advisor to the Desmond Tutu Foundation. The United Nations honored her with a “Woman of Distinction” award. From working with Mother Teresa in Calcutta to the refugee camps in Ethiopia and the threatened rainforests of the Amazon, Lynne’s on-the-ground work has brought her a deep understanding of the social tapestry of the world and the historical landscape of the times we are living in. Over the past 40 years Lynne has worked with over 100,000 people in 50 countries in the arenas of fundraising with integrity, conscious philanthropy, strategic visioning and having a healthy relationship with money. Find Lynne Twist’s brand new book, “Living a Committed LIfe” anywhere, and connect with her at Soulofmoney.org. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Here we are striving to motivate and instigate our own good health, and then we have our kids. The cultural norm is to just let them eat, and what they want to eat is what the food industry pumps out to their taste buds. Which I get. As a kid I was eating Lucky Charms and Captain Crunch for breakfast and in my teenage years thought Cheerios and Life cereal were health food. Inspiring kids to eat and live healthy is a massive level of effort. But then, what is our goal? This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and today we talk about what we want for our kids. What responsibility do we take for their well being? Are you hoping your kid will someday move out, get a great education, land a job or start a business, make money and raise a family? Then how do we equip them for that? There are no easy answers and in this show Dr James and I discuss the challenges and consequences of fostering wellness in our kids. For context, my cohost Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, has three kids in his home between 16 and 12, I have five at home between 17 and 10. And please let me tell you it is always a struggle, so rest assured you won’t hear us brag about our kids happily eating raw carrots and hummus for every meal. But friends I’ve seen the battles with kids and spouses completely sabotage someone's efforts at wellness. This is a big show. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Going without close relationships is like going without water. It dehydrates our life and ultimately we’ll die. A slow death of the soul. Yet when we rely on those relationships for our self worth we endure a similar death of the soul. It’s like needing water for life, but drowning in it. This is part 3 of my focus on Melody Beattie, legendary author of Codependent No More. Here I’m with my frequent co-host and dear friend, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert and we get real with how to grapple with this tension in our actual lives. A common perspective in close relationships, especially marriages and significant others, is a literal joining of lives. Where “two become one.” But how do we translate this? Is it two separate lives joining to live a new life together, or do the individuals disappear and all that exists are the lives in union? That’s one issue. Another is our self-worth, and the health and necessity to have it in and of ourselves. We naturally look to others to tell us of our worth, starting with our parents and early caregivers, then on to schoolmates, teachers and authority figures, but ultimately most of us land with a significant otherwise devote to and unfortunately, often rely on to give us all the affirmations, acceptance and approval we desire. And this is a recipe for failure. Then there is the issue of loving others. We all valiantly strive to serve and love others, yet generally miss loving ourselves. Can we truly love others more and beyond loving ourselves? It doesn’t generally pan out. This is our discussion and grappling today. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you could choose right now what tomorrow would look like, if you had complete freedom, would you rather be consumed with something you are interested in, or be entertained? Really think about it. And you can take it further if you feel exhausted and would just love a day of entertainment. For how long? Two days? A week? A month? I ask because I’m back for part 2 with Melodie Beattie, legendary self-help pioneer and famed author of Codependent No More and we’re talking through her personal Values, Motives & Habits. In regards to spirituality and her overall ethos and purpose of life she said, “My job is to make life interesting, not have life entertained.” Now, I like some good entertainment as much as anyone. I love getting into a great story in a fiction book or movie. Yet I’m aware that when I’m highly interested in something I have little time for entertainment, and when I do read or watch something entertaining, it’s generally about people who are completely interested in something…a cause or mission or purpose. So would you rather voyeuristically watch people interested in something, or be the person interested in something? On a similar note, Melody shared how she keeps a barometer on herself regarding service to others and said, “If I get too selfish my life stops working well” and it showcases her primary interest in…people. I also appreciated her quip to me, saying, “You want the truth or want me to make something up?” She’s as real as they come. Which is why at age 74 one of her personal joys is listening to the Rolling Stones. You can get her newly revised and updated Codependent No More book…anywhere, as it’s currently at the top of the bestseller charts. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We as humans are driven by our appetites. Yet much of the health and wellness culture is around curbing and suppressing our appetites, and for the most part, it’s just a recipe for failure. Today my cohost Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert discuss our personal belief. And it is that we will seldom succeed in squelching our appetites, and we…don’t. I love feeding my appetites and one of the things that adds joy to my life is great food and drink. Our goal is to strive to upgrade and elevate our appetites. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others. Regarding appetites, our goal is to try to evolve and grow our appetites to crave more life giving food and less life taking foods. As a pro cyclist my evenings often consisted of walking down to the 7 Eleven in Ft Collins to get a pint of Ben & Jerry’s, and a 4-pack of Reese's Cups for the walk home. I still have that appetite, but today I fill it with some dark chocolate and sea salt covered almonds and a glass of red wine. Would I be better to not snack after dinner at all? Probably. But I’m just not going to. I love feeding my appetites. I’d also like a big bowl of popped corn, but my body doesn’t like corn and eating it disrupts my sleep. So I do some salty nuts or some bean or cauliflower chips to get my salt fix. You get the idea. How can you imbibe your appetites and still have the health and wellness you desire. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You are codependent. So am I. So is everyone, to a degree. We are humans and we innately look for the A’s from other people; approval, affirmation, attention, and acceptance. How codependent we are relates to how much we need those A’s to feel ok about ourselves. It’s nice to get them, but are we ok without them? Can we be at peace without desperately needing positive feedback from other people? The answer is yes and this show will discuss how. With me is…Melody Beattie. Yes, the famed author of Codependent No More. Melody is literally cited as one of the pioneers of the self-help movement. Her breakthrough book still remains the resource on codependency and after 7 million sales she’s revised and updated it. Newsweek name Codependent No More one of the four essential self-help books of all time. Melody actually added a chapter on trauma to this revised edition and it’s at the top of the best seller charts, once again. I could not be more honored to have her on the show and as usual, I dig into the questions I have for myself regarding codependency. When I asked her about her own life regrets, she flatly stated, “I regret that I've spent much of my life ragging on myself for not being enough.” This is a thoughtful, pondering discussion with Melody where her compassion for herself and others will pour through.  The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When we look at jobs and businesses our natural inclination is to look to something we’ve learned to do, that people will pay us for. Generally it’s something we’ve done enough to get good at, and we work to get better and hope to make more. What we are significantly missing in the culture is the most important thing for our ultimate success potential; doing something we enjoy enough to gain a level of mastery and sustainability with. We have a majority of people in the workplace and business world engaged in things they have gotten good at. And quite possibly find satisfaction in. But it’s activities that drain them. Not many people, not nearly enough, spend a majority of their time doing the things they truly enjoy and get energy from. Hard work, but inspiring work. This is part 3 of my series on business management guru Patrick Lencioni and his new book, The 6 Types of Working Genius. You can get the book, but you can take the assessment right now at workinggenius.com for only $25. It gives you 6 types of working genius and showcases the two areas of your working genius, that’s the great stuff, the two areas of your working competency, this is often where people are working at what they are good at but it’s not their genius, then the two areas of working frustration…where you’ll see why certain tasks and roles just totally drain and frustrate you. I am with my co host Tom Ziglar, CEO of Ziglar and son of Zig Ziglar, to discuss this further. We both share our assessments and I share one from my oldest son that showcases why I often missed giving him what he needed from me as a father, so you parents will be interested. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I asked the Self-Helpful audience this question, “For all my health, wellness, and fitness minded friends, what is the primary motive (reason) that drives you to stick with your healthy lifestyle plan?” This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…We received a wealth of responses to this question and I’m joined by my co-host Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. And close friend. We spent a good while talking through many of the responses. There were definite threads and recurring themes of motive for health and wellness and I believe you'll find yourself inspired and equipped to further commit to your pursuit of being as well as possible. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode…I’m back with heralded business leader, best selling author, renowned speaker and top podcast host, Patrick Lencioni, who I find to be masterfully insightful regarding human behavior and performance, which is what he’s famous for and why he’s one of the most influential people in the business world today. This is my values, motives, and habits episode and you’re about to hear Patrick’s insight into his own behavior and performance and what drives him. A key perspective we land on is how as he strives for success in his life, he continues to work on being, as he says, “peacefully detached from the outcome.” He shares a story and we dig into this very attractive, yet seemingly impossible endeavor. Also in the discussion he shares his desire to conduct himself like the very earliest followers of Jesus. How he went awry in his closest relationships thinking his job was to fix and serve at the sake of his own well being. In sharing about his health and wellness routine he divulges his early participation in running sports was due to childhood wounds he was trying to address, as he was terrified that if he was simply mediocre, he'd go unnoticed by his family. He talks through this further and how it caused him to initially lead his life in a defensive posture, and how he worked out of this perspective. In discussing work values Patrick shares that in his experience the most successful businesses, organizations, and families are quite messy. You can hear him explain this further. We then get more into this concept of being detached from the big outcomes of our life. And we end with Patrick admitting he is trying to discover and engage with things that just give him personal pleasure as he continues to work out of the obligatory feeling of his life being all about service to others and forgetting about himself. If you missed part one of our discussion together where we talked about his new book and assessment, The 6 Types Of Working Genius, find the book anywhere and take the assessment right away at workinggenius.com The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To be your best self, you need to be doing your best work. The great news is, the product or service of your work focus is not what makes your work great, but the specific tasks and roles you are fulfilling, day in and day out. If they fit you, you’ll flourish in your work and have great joy and satisfaction in your life. If it doesn’t fit you, your work success will suffer, and your mental health will suffer far worse. So how do you know which tasks and roles you should be engaged in? We have a quick and simple test for you to take. My guest today is Patrick Lencioni. Patrick is one of the foremost influencers in business management and his expertise is teams. He’s author of 11 best selling books and most anyone in business in America has read The Five Dysfunctions of a Team. He’s a prolific speaker who stands in front of thousands of leaders each year at business’s greatest conferences. This is the second time I’ve had Patrick on the show and I experience him as one of the more insightful people I know regarding human behavior and performance. He’s just come out with a new book, The 6 Types of Working Genius, which right now is sitting in the top 400 books overall in Amazon, and climbing. Along with the book is an online assessment that takes about 10 minutes, and it spits out…your working genius. Take it right now at workinggenius.com. I have my whole family taking it because I want them working not just at what they are good at and can make money from, but what gives them inspiration and energy for their life. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you were on your own, you’d likely make all the positive health changes you desire. Eat cleaner. Exercise. Meditate. Go to sleep earlier. Do less screens. But you’re not alone. You may have a spouse. Kids. Co-workers. Friends and family. People who are living out the cultural norms. There are the office donuts, birthday cakes, and pizza. Beers after work. A spouse and kids who want their meat and potatoes, and chips while watching a show. The church potlucks. BBQ parties. Someone who labels you a health nut if you abstain from imbibing in it all, or go for a walk or run during your lunch break. And on and on. We as humans most long to fit in and the pressure isn’t just about being weak and folding, it’s often about being kind and not wanting to offend. It’s a very real and present danger we don’t give enough gravity to. This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and today we we tackle this issue. I’m with my co host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. Cultural pressure is not a conspiracy theory, it’s merely humanity and our very nature. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We generally talk about negative things in our life in a way that brings us and those listening to us, further down. When something hard happens to you and you blame, accuse, and criticize, this is what we call venting. This wraps up my series with Whitney Goodman, author of Toxic Positivity, and she is probably the fifth or six therapist I’ve had on the show who cites from much research, that venting only pours gas on the fire. It does not help. But neither does stuffing it. What does? Sharing how you feel. This is at the root issue we are circumventing. When something bad happens to you, the blaming, accusing, and criticizing is just victim response to the truth, which is…you are hurting in some capacity. In Brene’ Brown’s book, Atlas of the Heart, which we discuss in this show, she gives us 87 different emotions we can choose from and from them discuss the issue really at hand. When we discuss how we feel, we can then address the pain and gain ground in reconciling it. And in sharing our emotions, not our criticism, with someone else, instead of also dragging them in and down with venting, we instead evoke their connection and compassion which also helps us instead of further hurting ourselves. Join me and my co host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, as we drill down on this issue and walking it out in our roles as spouses, parents, and co workers. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back for Part 2 with Whitney Goodman, author of Toxic Positivity, to walk through her personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment so we can hear what has driven and does drive her to guide us in working through our emotions instead of just slapping a happy face on things, and what she does to design a life that fulfills her. Along the discussion I press in on some of the areas and her perspective as a full time therapist and what she is seeing in the culture. We walk through her spiritual values and discuss what she calls an interfaith marriage with her husband and how she feels much of America’s toxic positivity was born in the Christian church she was raised in. In mental health Whitney talks about the toll it’s taking on us all as we gravitate toward strong identification with certain groups and are more disconnected from individuals in our culture and her own striving for awareness as to how her beliefs are affecting her. She decompresses by reading fiction and we discovered we’re both reading some of Colleen Hoover’s books. As for achievements, her leading goal right now with a relatively young marriage and first child is having a strong marriage and kids who like her. Her new book, bestselling book again is TOXIC POSITIVITY: KEEPING IT REAL IN A WORLD OBSESSED WITH BEING HAPPY, and you can find her and over half a million followers on instagram at sitwithwhit. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This show is about figuring out root issues to your health, especially when you are doing so many of the right things. So I have a daughter who eats clean. Cleaner than I do. She works out pretty vigorously near daily. She loves where she lives and her work. She works with a counselor every week on her mental health. She has hope and inspiration. And yet, she has been dealing with increasing discomfort in her guts. Bloating and more. And having skin rashes. And she’s frustrated. Really frustrated. She’s doing the work and not getting the results she wanted. So where do we turn? Advanced diagnostics. Labs. Tests. And not just the basic ones you get from a traditional doctor. I’ve talked with countless people who feel bad, go to a regular doc for lab test and are simply told, “Well, everything looks ok, but we can give you a med for the symptoms.” This is like going to a car mechanic saying your car pulls violently to the left and the mechanic saying, “Well, it all looks ok, but we can rig a bungee cord to your steering wheel to pull it to the right more for you.” Basic lab tests do little more than tell you you aren’t dying. Just yet. Advanced diagnostics go deep and wide and can help detect the deficiencies and errors in our body that are manifesting into us not feeling and performing well. I’m joined by Randy James, medical doctor and Functional Medicine expert who specializes in using advanced labs. And in this actual case, he’s used them to get to root issues for my daughter, that he’s now treating. We’ll talk through advanced labs and diagnostics to help you navigate what might help you get insight into your health. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode we challenge the cultural concept of positivity. Meaning our propensity to take a hard circumstance, event, and feeling, and simply spray painting positivity over it. We aren’t making a case for being negative at all, but rather, to accept the hard feelings we encounter, consider them with understanding, and then yes, ultimately move past with greater insight and wisdom to ultimately seek a beneficial outcome. My guest is Whitney Goodman, a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist who has taken on our concept of positivity and has an instagram following of well over half a million followers who are finding great help from her guidance and encouragement that life is well worth living, but treating it as a continual self-improvement project and bypassing our true feelings doesn’t leave room for a full, quality life. I brought Whitney on the show because I’m a staunch believer in positivity. Zig Ziglar’s famous quote, “Positive thinking won't let you do anything, but it will let you do everything better than negative thinking will,” and I believe this. But to jump from a negative experience and right to positive thinking robs us from the growth, learning, and peace we find in between. Whitney has taken her years of work as a therapist studying cultural positivity and now written the book, “TOXIC POSITIVITY: KEEPING IT REAL IN A WORLD OBSESSED WITH BEING HAPPY.” The book is a great dive into how we’ve distorted the concept of positivity, and how we can better handle the hard things in life and ultimately acknowledge them, but not be overwhelmed and controlled by them. Find Whitney Goodman at www.sitwithwhit.com. The Self-Help(ful) podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches to help leaders and top performers excel professionally and personally . Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your...true coaching performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We continue our talk spawned by Richie Norton and his new book, Anti-Time management, but digging more into clarifying what our values are and how we craft our day to day activities and tasks to support them. It can get a bit mind boggling to realize how much we do that does not have much to do with what we truly value, and in the same respects how we can miss the value in many worthwhile activities. I have with me, Tom Ziglar, CEO of Ziglar and proud son of Zig Ziglar, a patron saint of the self-help movement. As a business coach Tom shares the focus they give to the point of our businesses being to serve our life goals. But we can take this further to claim the point of all we do should be to support our life goals. Our schooling, our relationships, our efforts to make money and even our hobbies and interests. Also of profound interest as we discuss goals, Tom asks the question, “What is worse than not setting goals?” The answer, “Setting the wrong goals and achieving them,” and it got us into discussing how not intentionally setting goals sets us up to achieve the wrong goals. But the heart is digging further into asking ourselves, what we truly value. A quick note of apology, you’ll hear some audio degradation on Tom’s side, just some slight pauses, as we had some lagging internet. I don’t think it will be a deterrent but I’m sensitive to the audio quality we deliver. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others…and we are talking about how to best guard yourself against illness and disease. We recently got asked about this and we actually addressed it in a show we posted in March 2020 at the beginning of COVID. So I’m reposting it. Forgive the references to the beginning pandemic, but it is still so highly relevant. Everyday we are all exposed to so many opportunities for illness, and genetically or from our lifestyle choices, any one of us could be at the tipping point of a disease propensity already within us, just waiting for an open door. I’m with my co-host, Randy James, medical doctor and functional medicine expert. I actually got COVID in March of 2020. For the first time. I came down with it two more times since then. Randy, never has. Yet most of my biometric markers are stronger than his. We can’t fairly state why I got it and he didn’t. I did, however, recover each time. Many people didn’t. So what constitutes your best chances for defense from coming down with an illness or disease, or if you get it, recovering quicker and more fully? That is the essence of this show. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode I’m back with Richie Norton, author of Anti-Time Management, to walk through his personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment so we can hear what has driven and does drive him to help us get the most out of our time and design a life that fulfills him and his adventure seeking family. Some highlights from Richie's values, motives, and habits; spiritually he's constantly seeking after knowledge and has expanded his scope of resources. He feels the most valuable concept of the future will be discernment. Relationally his filter for relationships is between transactional and transformational. He wants to create experiences, smile and laugh a lot and hug hard. In health and wellness he has to guard against his propensity to "eat his emotions." He walks a lot, does a lot of push ups and as a true Hawaii resident, he surfs a lot. Regarding mental health he got into talking about burnout not being from working too much, but working at what doesn't inspire and interest you. That stood out as great insight to me. While money is not his primary motive for his work, Richie cites that the lack of it shouldn't keep you from the experiences you desire. I like that way of looking at it. Again, you can find Richie’s book, “Anti-Time Management: Reclaim Your Time and Revolutionize Your Results with the Power of Time Tipping” everywhere, find his podcast at The Richie Norton Show, and his website is richienorton.com. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode we’re charged to stop attempting time management and my guest takes the very concept to task as something never intended to benefit us at all. Instead he masterfully guides us in how to tip time to our advantage. It’s not a hack or a secret but a reawakening as to how we are viewing and budgeting our time, and I’d ask you to consider if your so called time management is working for you? Do you feel efficient? Do you have margin? Are you getting things done that are not just urgent, but important and valuable to you? My guest is Richie Norton and this is his second appearance on my show. Once in a while I find someone who every influencer seems to be influenced by. A recent look at Richie’s social media finds him in pictures with Pat Flynn, Tom & Lisa Bilyeu, Ben Hardy, Chris Ducker, and Chalene Johnson. He doesn’t just know these people, but he does business with them and they look to him for guidance. He’s also just an incredibly inspirational guy who elevates the energy of any place he goes. Richie is an executive coach to CEOs and is featured in Forbes, Bloomberg Businessweek, Inc., Entrepreneur, and Huffington Post. He’s also CEO and Cofounder of PROUDUCT—an INC. 5000 company—a global entrepreneurship solution helping businesses go from idea to market with full-service sourcing, product strategy, and end-to-end supply chain. He is the author of several books and it was his book, The Power of Starting Something Stupid, that got me to invite him on this show the first time. This time it’s his brand new book, “Anti-Time Management: Reclaim Your Time and Revolutionize Your Results with the Power of Time Tipping.” What you’re about to hear is a very thoughtful conversation that begins with Richie observing we as a culture have ever increasing full calendars, but emptier lives. The rest of the conversation is Richie’s guidance in how you can change that, right away. You can find Richie’s book, “Anti-Time Management: Reclaim Your Time and Revolutionize Your Results with the Power of Time Tipping” everywhere, find his podcast at The Richie Norton Show, and his website is richienorton.com. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the physical and mental capacity to help ourselves and others, and today we discuss How To Accelerate Your Wellness By Clarifying The End Result. I’m joined by my co-host Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. Most people look at dealing with their health and wellness as a problem or desire and miss the true end result. We don’t want to lose weight because doing so is fun, we want to look better, feel better, and fit in our clothes. Many people don’t want to exercise, but they want to have more muscle or mobility and capacity. Most people don’t want to sleep or meditate or fast from food, but they may desire to do so for and end result. And there is your power. What is the end result you are gunning for? The why? Randy will ask patients at the beginning of treatment if their goal is to be in the next Olympics, or slide into a nursing home in the next few years.The question sounds facetious and few will choose either side, but the point is to consider and decide on where you want to be on that polarized spectrum. It also brings to the surface that most people are just looking at the face-value problems and not giving focus to the most powerful ally in their wellness journey, which is the clarity of and then commitment to a clear, envisioned end result that transcends the mere problem or lack. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I continue the discussion brought forth by Wendy Smith and the message in her book with Marianne Lewis, "Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems.” Here I bring in my frequent co-host, Randy James, medical doctor and functional medicine expert to further unwrap this concept. Randy and I have been best friends for over a decade and as we grapple, ponder, and consider life as business owners, spouses, parents, friends, and followers of God we so often come to, as Randy says, “the bother.” The issues are so seldom black and white or right or wrong, so here we take the concept head on and talk about how it plays out in our own lives in all those roles. You’ll hear us talk about how being flexible and considerate of seemingly opposing sides runs the risk of setting double standards, if not coming off outright hypocritical. And it often leads us with just what Wendy and Marianne uncovered, a true dilemma instead of an easy answer. Instead of conclusive beliefs to paint over our lives we have to be present in the moment and what is at stake in any particular circumstance. And ultimately the issue calls us to get very clear on our overall values, while being, again, flexible, in how we may achieve them. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with Wendy K Smith, expert on organizational paradoxes and co-author of Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems, and we are walking through her personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment so we can hear what has driven and does drive her to help us avoid the pitfalls and anxiety of either/or thinking, and what she does to design a life that fulfills her. Which of course includes holding the tensions of…both/and thinking. Some highlights…she shares her Jewish upbringing and rabbis who advocated ongoing conversations where Wendy cites, they rarely came up with conclusive answers. Which of course is highly relatable to her topic of holding the tensions of paradox where it’s just not black and white, right and wrong. She discusses the obvious tensions most of us have with work and family. Her health and wellness goals center around what will help her, “Show up in the world in the most productive way.” For her career, a perspective she strives for is, “It’s not about making the right decision, but about making the decision right.” And even though she’s just had her book come out and is a more than ever sought after speaker, she cites a favorite achievement as of late, witnessing the emotional intelligence and empathy from her 10 year old child. That and more is coming up. Again, you can get Wendy K Smith and Marriane W Lewis’ book, Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems at Amazon or anywhere.  Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are talking about possibly the number one, easiest way to make an immediate positive impact in your health and wellness, whether it’s losing weight or getting more energy. You ready? Track it. What you track, you just can’t help but improve. I am not a big believer in “hacks”, but if there are any, this may be the one, most true health and wellness hack. The simple act of tracking certain aspects of your daily life will literally result in bettering your health and wellness. It’s simple psychology. If you write down or take a picture of everything you eat every day, for a week, you will almost inadvertently make better food choices. If you track your physical activity every day for a week, you will end the week having done more physical activity, even without being very intentional about it. Awareness changes our behavior and action. In this episode Dr Randy James and I discuss how the simple act of tracking key areas of our lives like Sleep, Heart Rate, Food, Activity and a few others will by proxy elevate your health and wellness. Of course you can go further than mere awareness and take solid action to utilize the data you receive and improve it. Tracking is an incredibly powerful tool and as you will hear in this episode, making it possible to ascertain and improve areas of our lives we would otherwise be ignorant and impotent to address. I can say it is also an absolute propensity of our world’s most successful, influential, and healthy people to track their health and wellness, just as they track and budget their time and money. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We can better solve tough problems and make decisions we feel confident about, by not taking an either-or, black and white, or right and wrong approach to them. We are in a culture and media that is radically doing just that. And yet most truths and daily decisions we must make are not a result of right or wrong issues that we will live or die from, but rather, choices we make where one may prove more beneficial than another. When we hold things as right/wrong, good/bad, and either or we cause ourselves undo anxiety. And further, we are pressured to make one sided decisions without the wisdom we’d benefit from if we didn’t view different perspectives as opposing forces. This show is meant to equip you to make smarter decisions, and with less anxiety and more confidence. With me is Wendy K. Smith, a Harvard educated, award-winning academic and the Dana J. Johnson Professor of Management and faculty director of the Women’s Leadership Initiative at University of Delaware. She is an expert on organizational paradoxes, exploring how leaders and individuals effectively respond to contradictory, yet interdependent demands. She spends her time continually working to better manage the paradoxes of life that we all face. Wendy’s research focuses on strategic paradoxes – how leaders and senior teams effectively respond to contradictory agendas. Not with us, but a co-author of their new book,"Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems" is Marianne W. Lewis who is dean and professor of management at the Lindner College of Business, University of Cincinnati. Marianne too is  thought leader in organizational paradoxes exploring tensions and competing demands surrounding leadership and innovation. Again, the book containing the message in the following discussion is Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems which you can find at Amazon or anywhere. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Wrapping up my series on Dr Benjamin Hardy and the message from his latest book, Be Your Future Self Now. Tom Ziglar joins me today and the conversation veers into Tom calling us to not fall in love with success, but with the habits that create success, and I absolutely agree with the concept. Think about it. The healthiest people I know, and the ones most at peace in their health, are not those that love looking in the mirror at themselves or love the scale, they are the ones who enjoy the daily activities of moving their bodies and procuring and eating whole and healthy foods. They enjoy slowing down to be present. They are in love with the daily habits of health. You can say the same about financial health and success and relational health and so forth. If you want to achieve success in any certain area, you’ll be best served to find habits leading to it, that you truly enjoy and look forward to. For one person with exercise, they may love running indoors on a treadmill with the TV on or a book, while another only enjoys it outside, while another loathes running and looks forward to classes at the gym with friends, while another would far rather chop wood and mow their lawn for physical activity. The point again, is finding habits of growth you enjoy. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is my Functional Friday episode and I’m of course with my dear friend and frequent co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. We’re going to talk about nutritional supplements. Are they really necessary for you to spend time and money on, and if so, why? We seldom feel much difference in our immediate health from these expensive pills, powders, and tinctures and they are generally just a hassle to maintain. The compliance rate for taking nutritional supplements is horrific. We heard from a rep it was about 6% after 90 days. My experience says this is true. Traditional medical practitioners downplay the validity of nutritional supplements while the health industry generally way overdoes it and everyone’s supplement is promoted as the magic pill for…everything. Which is a stupid and impossible claim. If you’re not taking any nutritional supplements, we’ll give you some key ones to consider. Conversely if you’re taking a handful a day, or more…you might want to question if you’re really able to assimilate that much. And just because some supplement changed your friend’s life, it doesn’t mean it will do a thing for you. In this episode I believe you’ll hear information that will take some of the doubt, frustration, and confusion away. For most of you, it should help save you money, hassle, and increase the efficacy of any supplements you choose to partake of. I will say, my co host Dr James is a believer in supplements, but quite a minimalist. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with Dr Benjamin Hardy to walk through his personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment. His books have sold hundreds of thousands of copies, and his blogs have been read by hundreds of millions. His latest book is Be Your Future Self Now and was our topic in part one of our discussion, in episode 1047. I actually walked through Dr Benjamin Hardy’s habits for success in March 2018 when I had him on the show, so here we really looked at how his values and habits have changed since then. He is not his future self, four years later. And attesting to the power of really looking at who is is becoming, he shares a lot of his own evolution. Some highlights...spiritually he recognizes his past self was a lot more human doing, than human being, and his continued desire to slow down and...be. This is the top of my list as well. Relationally, even though four years ago he says he was a devoted father, in some ways he had not truly embraced being a parent like he's striving to today, making it more of a priority and sacred role. He is also growing to be much more relationally oriented and collaborative in his life. We get into an interesting discussion he credits Dan Sullivan for bringing to him, of relationally being a buyer more than a seller, and our propensity to all generally be trying to sell ourselves to others. In health and wellness he culminates by admitting he's overall just striving to be better to himself, and what this looks like. Mentally he is working to be less reactive and with money he talks about his chosen perspective of everything happening for you, not to you. You'll hear more in the episode. Ben’s new book, Be Your Future Self Now, can be found everywhere, and check this out, if you’ll go to futureself.com/free, those of you in America can get free Kindle codes and get the book…free! No catch. He just bought a ton of codes and offered them to me to share with you. You can connect with him at benjaminhardy.com. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are talking about your future self. Who are you becoming? Who do you want to become? And the question is, can you conceptualize and connect with that person right now, and from this connection, drastically accelerate your personal growth and success? I’m with Dr Benjamin Hardy, who you hear me refer to often. His first book, Willpower Doesn’t Work, is at the top of my book referral list. His second book, “Personality Isn’t Permanent” is up there too. His recent book with Dan Sullivan, The Gap And The Gain, is a runaway best seller. His books have sold hundreds of thousands of copies, and his blogs have been read by hundreds of millions. Ben is also the intro story in my forthcoming book which you’ll see…sometime in 2023. This is my third time having Ben on the show, and the occasion is his brand new book, Be Your Future Self Now: The Science of Intentional Transformation. When I talked to him about a year ago he shared his research and piqued my interest with the “End of history illusion”, which we start this episode off talking about, and I think you’ll want to hear about it. As we talked in this episode, what intrigued me as much or more than just trying to become your future self now, was Ben’s concept of how powerful it is for our progress and ultimate success if we’ll connect with our future self. This is something we do pretty well as kids, but after entering into adulthood, we basically lose any perspective on who we are expecting to become. And we so often lose our way. Ben is an organizational psychologist and has devoted significant research to the issue and become a leading expert on the application of the Future Self science. Ben’s new book, Be Your Future Self Now, can be found everywhere, and check this out, if you’ll go to futureself.com/free, those of you in America can get free Kindle codes and get the book…free! No catch. He just bought a ton of codes and offered them to me to share with you. You can connect with him at benjaminhardy.com. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the ability and capacity to pursue all we desire, and the topic of this episodes is Having The Courage To Live Better. People who live with different health habits than the norm often get labeled as extremist.  If you don’t partake of the office pizza or the church donuts or the family potlock and you go for a run during your lunch break or play tennis on your date instead of seeing a movie, you’re a “health nut.” Like you’ve joined a new religion. In truth, this reality and social pressure is enough to deter many people from practicing the healthier habits they would otherwise adopt. A core longing of humanity is to belong, and conforming to our surroundings is a natural desire and reaction. When you join a gang, the entire point is to conform to its ways. We all belong to numerous “gangs” of sorts and we generally accept their subsequent social pressures. Most people have three primary gangs; their immediate family, their workplace, and friends and extended family. Bucking the norms is difficult. But for you to adopt a healthy lifestyle that does not include the norms of our current times, requires seemingly “extreme” choices. We live in a time when characteristics such as kindness, compassion, ethics, and justice seem extreme as well. It may simply come down to the courage to do what is best for yourself and humanity. Which often is not in fact, the norm. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Wrapping up my series on Kindra Hall and the message from her new book, Choose Your Story, Change Your Life. In this episode I’m joined by my co-host, Randy James, Medical Doctor, Functional Medicine expert, and my dear friend to discuss how we create and accept our stories and the conversation veers towards…striving and aspiring, and the tension between being ok and at peace and in essence, content, with the here and now. With who and how you are and what you have, right now. There is a big piece of all of us who can feel tired of the constant striving and just want to be at peace and have joy, now. And to that, we agree and desire as well. And yet, is that enough? Do we just find a good place of comfort and leave it at that. Coast from there on? Or is there a responsibility, to God, to others, to ourselves, to take what we have, and grow and give? Continually? As you’ll hear, we feel there is. The issue is often simply the spirit of our striving. Like the old religious perspective, do we carry our belief like a song in our heart, or a burden on our back? If your striving gets to feeling like a burden, I’d say…stop. Maybe you need a time of rest. Or recalibration. If you are giving and serving and striving in bitterness, acting as a martyr, and wearing yourself out, you’re likely not helping anyone too much. The goal is to give from a full heart. To grow and strive in joy. This is where you’ll find us discussing and grappling with you in this episode. Find Kindra Hall’s book, Choose Your Story, Change Your Life, which was the muse and catalyst of our discussion, anywhere, and connect with her at kindrahall.com. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with best-selling author and the former Chief Storytelling Officer of SUCCESS Magazine, Kindra Hall, to walk through her personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment so we can hear what has driven and does drive her to lead us in the stories we write about our lives, and design a life that fulfills her. In episode 1042, the longest show I’ve ever published, Kindra and I talked about…story. Specifically the message in her new book, Choose Your Story, Change Your Life. Here we go behind the scenes into the ever evolving story she is writing in her current life. The Cliff Notes I think you’ll want to hear more about, regarding her spirituality she pondered that her purpose is easy when she understands it, but hard when she doesn’t. A key for her health and wellness is to consider the most essential uses of her time. On mental health, Kindra said she is consistently paying attention to what is working, and what isn’t. And being aware that what did work might not anymore. In work and career we got to talking about our propensity to feel we need to put in a solid week, 40 hours or whatever, when so often, as she said, "I can create magic in only 10." We ended on achievements and I think you'll be curious to hear how Kindra views her own story regarding what she wants to achieve, as she admits that she's currently aware the big achievements so often did not provide as much fulfillment as the achievements she wasn't even looking for, like yesterday's testimonial from a teacher about her child's character. Kindra is the 191st guest I’ve had on my show and is one of the most thoughtful and interesting conversationalist I’ve experienced. Find her book anywhere and connect with Kindra at kindrahall.com. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cost is one of the primary deterrents many people cite for healthy living. Buying whole foods, nutritional supplements, exercising, and seeking alternative health care simply costs more money and can often lead us to minimizing or abandoning the effort altogether. Then there is the time expense of working out every day and grocery shopping for fresh food and cooking and cleaning. It is not convenient and time is...money. It can all be overwhelming and demoralizing in an already busy life. When it comes to fast food and processed foods, many people who would be willing to eat healthier simply fail due to convenience and time savings. So what do you do? In this episode we talk with empathy, but also with some helpful perspectives and solutions to help you on your journey and desire for health amidst the increased cost of money and time. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all wake up every day and participate in what we feel is simply our reality. Yet it’s truly a storyline we’ve created, or accepted, or feel we are forced to live and in that case, agreed with and submitted to. For you, which is it? This is not some hoodoo guro motivation that life is make-believe and we simply decide to have it be something else better. That is offensive. But it is interesting how we live our daily lives and we let things like marriage, children, getting hired or fired from a job, an injury or even a windfall of money, totally change our story. If that’s the case, can’t we not only do things to change our stories for the better, but can we also change our perspective of our stories right away and make things better? And I have with me, Kindra Hall. Kindra is the best-selling author and the former Chief Storytelling Officer of SUCCESS Magazine, whose work and research teaches individuals and brands to harness and leverage the power of their stories. Her first book, Stories that Stick debuted at #2 on the Wall Street Journal Bestseller List and Forbes said it “may be the most valuable business book you read." Inc.com said her newest book, Choose Your Story, Change Your Life is "the business book you need to read in 2022." I however read this new book, Choose Your Story, Change Your Life and felt it was a must-have conversation for…all of us. As humans. And what follows is my longest interview to date because the topics are so profoundly important. Find her book anywhere and connect with Kindra at kindrahall.com. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Wrapping up my series on Elliott Bisnow, co-founder of the Summit Series events, part festival, part personal development conference. His book, Make No Small Plans, gives focus to the entrepreneurial journey, and the power of hosting and attending events. One of the masters in both categories who I know personally, is Dan Miller, author of 48 Days To The Work You Love and host of the 48 Days podcast. I know him personally as…my Dad. I asked him to listen to my show with Elliot, episode 1038, then join me to discuss it. You’re about to hear our conversation. As this is the Self-Help(ful) show and my focus is just that, this episode addresses some of why we want self-help, and it’s to grow ourselves and live out our values, which we do, or want to do, in our work. And being an entrepreneur is a great way to, help ourselves. So here talked about what evidence you look for in being an entrepreneur. We then discussed what makes for great events in this day and age and how Dan has done it with so many events where it was more family gathering than seminar. A week prior to this recording we attended a podcast convention together and we share what we learned and the opportunities in both podcasting and events. Then we dwelled a good bit on just that, opportunity. In podcasting, event hosting, and so many areas of business endeavors, things are evolving at a more rapid pace than ever. The good news is it leaves the door open for innovation and entry for anyone who comes in savvy. A reminder you can find Elliott Bisnow’s book, No Small Plans, anywhere, and connect with him and his events at summit.co. Dan Miller you can find at 48days.com or his podcast, 48 Days. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is my Functional Friday episode where we focus on our health and wellness so we have the ability and capacity to pursue all we desire, and today we discuss the sensitive and actually volatile topic of your health being your fault. Your genetics matter. Heck, you could be born with a severe deformity. You could have been dealt a bad hand. Which means you must do harder and work more than someone else to be at your best capacity. And your best capacity may be less than someone else’s and even less than the norm. The good news here however is simply how much power and control you do however, have over your health and wellness. Why did we get to the place culturally of not wanting control and responsibility for our health? Would you rather know you have significant power to help yourself feel and be better? Also, the biggest area of blame most of us have regarding our health and wellness is simply ignorance. What we don’t know. But again, this is great news, as we are highly capable of learning. I encourage you to brave up and listen to this episode and you may very well find a new level of hope and confidence in helping you feel and perform better, so you can do what you want to do. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with Elliott Bisnow to walk through his personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment so we can hear what has driven and does drive him to produce the massive Summit Series personal development events, and design a life that fulfills him. Elliotts life is spent with the elite of self-help and business success and he has some incredible insight he puts in place for his own success. Such as using meditation as a tuner for the brain. His exercise is being a sparring partner for elite tennis players. On the health and wellness front, he battled bad asthma until doing a dietary cleanse, basically an elimination diet, and his asthma disappeared. His daily decision making process is focused on making decisions that will create less stress in the future. In business he talks about how we do business being more important than what we do in business. And regarding money and his own success he places more value on not wanting things, than what more he wants. It’s a quality discussion. You can get the book, Make No Small Plans, which we discussed in episode 1038, anywhere, and find Elliott and his pals at Summit.co and info on their November 2022 event I’m looking to attend. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We take a bit of a detour from pure self-help in this episode. I started off with the story of a guy who wanted to be an entrepreneur, yet had no idea how to be, and was as he said, “socially uncalibrated,” which in his case meant he was the guy always trying to sell you something that everyone avoided. His first two attempts at being an entrepreneur, completely failed. Completely. Meaning he created a business and didn’t make one sale. It’s a great story for anyone who feels out of their depth or who is meeting literally zero success in some endeavors. My guest, is Elliot Bisnow. Elliott’s somewhat ridiculous story takes him from literally zero, to now being co-founder of Summit Group, which began and still includes the Summit Series events that are as much festival as self-help conference. They’ve held 250 of the events, loaded with celebrities, thought-leaders, billionaires and politicians. And lots of people like you and me. The event has hosted luminaries like Jeff Bezos (bay-zos), Richard Branson, Jessica Alba, Shonda Rhimes, Brené Brown, and Al Gore in some of the most beautiful places on earth like Playa del Carmen, Mexico, Squaw Valley, California, and Washington, D.C. In this talk though, we really got into discussing the nuances of what makes the events so successful, as opposed to all the events you are used to attending. How they focus on who is attending and where the event takes place, even more than who is speaking. So if you have any interest in holding events, whether paid for as a business, or even just socially, you’ll want to hear this. We even talk about what to look for in events as an attendee. Just really intriguing. A little more on Elliott, he’s a startup investor, having made almost 50 early stage investments, including Uber, Coinbase, Warby Parker & Allbirds. At the start of the show in a moment, you’ll hear he’s talking to me from Powder Mountain ski resort in Utah, America’s largest ski resort which he is co-owner of. Elliott and his three biz partners recently published the book, MAKE NO SMALL PLANS, which entails the again, fairly ridiculous story of how four, very average guys, created such a successful company after doing so many things wrong. I think you’ll find great comfort and come away feeling you can be as clueless, and successful, as they have been. The story really inspired me to think bigger than I have as of late. You can get the book, Make No Small Plans, anywhere, and find Elliott and his pals at Summit.co. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The title “How To Feast On Fasting” is meant to help us change our paradigm. Look, I adore food and eating. I’m generally always looking toward my next meal. I enjoy it so much I won’t waste the effort or calories on just any food. I want quality food and excellent tastes. I also don’t like to deprive myself, and in my perspective, I literally don’t. I do however, often delay. I look at fasting this way. I grew up with fasting being a spiritual discipline, which is surely can be. I also know of some radical puritans who abstain from many pleasures as a lifelong discipline. Great for them. That’s not me either. I look at it more mechanically. Most of us are running on too much anxiety and cortisol, we eat on the run and thoughtlessly, and we are very, very often eating foods that our body struggles to deal with and a lot of inflammatory ingredients like gluten, dairy, sugar, and chemicals. So think of it like your car overheating and realize most of us have some overheating going on internally in our gut and digestion. What do you do when a car is overheating on the highway? You pull over and let it cool down. You have to. Or it will blow. Think of fasting this way. Whether you do some intermittent fasting and eat less often, or go an entire day. Or two. Or five. You are simply letting your body recover from digesting. Mentally as well though, we can fast from all varieties of things for the same reason, or just to increase our gratitude. I’m joined by my co host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert at truelifemedicine.com. While we don’t expect to get you excited about fasting, I think you’ll find yourself better able to consider the benefits and find ways to do it that you can handle. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Series wrap up on Andy Norman and his book, Mental Immunity. Here I bring on my frequent co-host, Tom Ziglar, CEO of Ziglar and son to Zig Ziglar, to talk about this concept of how we view our beliefs. What came out on the discussion was a question of what is more important. Our beliefs, or relationships? In our culture now that is arguing and polarizing about beliefs, what we most have is just a fight from two warring sides. And how similar is it often in our personal relationships? No one is considering the other, they are just arguing their side. Without putting the relationship first, it’s hard to find validity for even making an effort. We lead off discussing a Facebook post Tom made after listening to my initial talk with Andy in episodes 1033, where Tom said, "To reject unconditional love is to embrace hate." Think about that? As you’re about to hear, this was from talking about how we view and fight for our beliefs. You’ll want to hear more and see how you feel about the statement. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with Andy Norman to walk through his personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment so we can hear what has driven and does drive him to help us create mental immunity and consider our beliefs, and design a life that fulfills him. Previously in episode 1033 we talked about the message in Andy’s book,  Mental Immunity: Infectious Ideas, Mind-Parasites, and the Search for a Better Way to Think. Andy is striving to help people develop immunity to bad ideas, and my focus with him was looking at how we define and embrace our beliefs. Here we cover Andy’s personal values and habits. The very things from which his own beliefs are derived from. He discusses how he sifts his own ideas through a filter of asking if it’s actually useful or true. Relationally he talks about “emotional dislocation” and we banter a bit about the issue of “objective reality.” Spiritually he cites his upbringing simply expected a devotion to serve a greater good and this still guides him today. You can find Andy’s book Mental Immunity anywhere and connect with him at andynorman.org. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have a story for you. A case study of health turnaround and success for you. Dan Miller is the bestselling author of “48 Days To The Work You Love” and a prolific writer, speaker and coach. However at the end of 2018 at age 71 he found himself barely able to work. He shares the incredible amount of resources he sought for help, including his Primary Care Physician simply stating, “Hey, you’re getting old, make peace with it.” Today he is back to more energy, vitality and overall wellness than he’s experienced in many years. He said, “I didn’t simply get back to where I was before my decline, I’ve far surpassed it.” As you’ll hear in the show, he’s now excitedly finalizing two new books for his publisher and planning out the next 20 years of his productive life. It’s no miracle. It’s just the basics. It’s the things you can do too. Now at age 72, I’d pit his cognitive abilities and much of his physical abilities as well, against the average 50 year old. I believe you’ll relate to much of what you’ll hear in this candid conversation between Dan, Dr Randy James, and myself, as you found out…how Dan did it. What the story is.. And for disclosure, Dan is my Dad! Many of you will know him from his top ranked “48 Days” podcast. You can find him at 48days.com. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I grew up with very strong beliefs and I viewed being resolute and concrete in them as a strength. In our culture today we see this played out every moment of every day as the media pits one side against the other and everyone’s belief as right or wrong, even to the point of the other side as being flat out evil. Social media isn’t a place of consideration, but of unabashed opinionating. In this episode I’m with Andy Norman, a PhD who is the award-winning author of Mental Immunity: Infectious Ideas, Mind-Parasites, and the Search for a Better Way to Think. His work has appeared in Scientific American, Psychology Today, Skeptic, Free Inquiry, and The Humanist. He has appeared on The Joe Rogan Experience, public radio, and The BBC’s Naked Scientist. His research is on the emerging science of mental immunity as the antidote to disinformation, propaganda, hate, and division. Bottom line, Andy is striving to help people develop immunity to bad ideas. My focus is really on the harm we do to ourselves and others when we are so rigid in our beliefs we won’t consider anyone who differs. Andy showcases how many, if not most of our beliefs, are more tied to our self-image than truth, and how this hurts us and everyone else. It’s ok to have strong beliefs, but if you feel strong in them and it’s not just to support your personal bias, then wouldn’t you be strong enough to allow someone to explain their differing beliefs and actually seek to understand them? Even if you don’t change your belief, you are showcasing it by being willing to understand another side. And in doing so, you’ll help your own peace of mind and build better relationships. Andy directs the Humanism Initiative at Carnegie Mellon University and is the founder of CIRCE, the Cognitive Immunology Research Collaborative. You can find him at andynorman.org. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Wrapping up my series on Terry Real and the message of his book, US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. I’m with my co-host Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert and you’re about to hear a very candid discussion on this concept of being we, without losing me. Randy listened to my conversation with Terry in episode 1029 and came into the discussion with his own insights, questions, and grapplings. We hit on some big issues, like the wedding tradition of each person having a candle, lighting one candle in the middle, then blowing out their individual candle. Is that really the intended idea of marriage? And do you come into union with anyone so they “complete you” as the Jerry Maguire movie celebrated? Are you not to be complete on your own? Randy and I have been best friends for nearly a decade and partnered in multiple business endeavors and much of this US concept is relevant for our relationship, and we also bring in parenting to this US concept. I’m eager for you to hear this conversation and would be honored to hear your feedback. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your personal relationships are likely to make or break you. This is our Functional Friday episode and we are finishing out the four foundational pillars of Functional Medicine with the third episode on Relationships. In episode 1025 we talked about the vital relationship between your body and mind. In episode 1028, the relationship you have with yourself and the world through hope and purpose, faith in essence. Here then we land on your relationship with - other people. I think we all realize to a great degree the positive and negative affect relational health or lack thereof has in our lives. But from a medical standpoint and literal pathologies of body and mind, nothing could be less mainstream. If a stressful marriage and your anxiety, anger, or despair is eating away at you and causing you physical and mental abilities, chances are 99.9% that any traditional medical doctor will never ask, address or uncover the root issue but will treat the symptom with a pharmaceutical. And that is exactly what medical school trains them to do. It’s what they trained my co-host Dr. James to do. So you’re left taking a drug to mask and manage a symptom that you have no idea is being caused by relational strife. We have dramatically impacting relationships in our family, friends, co-workers, employees, business partners and more. Great exercise and good nutrition and solid sleep will help you withstand challenging relationships, but ultimately negative relationships will take down even the mightiest of men. And women. So how does it really affect you and what can you do about it? This is our show, right here. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with internationally renowned family therapist Terry Real to walk through his personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment so we can hear what has driven and does drive him to devote his life and livelihood to helping us have better relationships, with ourselves and others, and what he does to design a life that fulfills him. If you listened to our first discussion together, you heard some of Terry's traumatic childhood. In this talk he discusses relational practices and struggles with his wife, enduring two bouts with cancer, how even into his 50s he loathed himself. And now what he does to help him hold himself tenderly and his testimony that today it's really pleasant to live in his skin. For some reason Terry delivers his insights in a way that is so incredibly humble and real, and I can relate to. He has such understanding and compassionate counsel. And he's a great storyteller, and you'll hear some great ones here. His new book again that I am wholeheartedly endorsing it US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. Get it anywhere, and find him at terryreal.com where he has courses and classes and incredibly valuable resources to take advantage of and benefit from, immediately. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’ve been fairly candid about my own, ongoing work with counselors, historically, and today. My current counselor really got deep with me into my relationship with myself and recommended a book called “​​I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression,” by a therapist named Terry Real. I got it and read it and it opened up a whole new level of understanding myself. Terry just recently put out a book called US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. My therapist got it and right away said, “Kevin, I want you to get this book.” I did. It revealed aspects of how I behave unhealthfully in relationships that are nothing less than revolutionary for my life. As an individual, spouse, parent, and more. And bigger picture, how we culturally live as “you and me” and individuals when the bedrock of our being is relational and us. It will either wow you as it did me, or you’ll have to fully dismiss it. And I don’t think you will. I then went to find out who this guy is and found this book US was was published by Goop press, which is founded and owned by famed actress and client of Terry’s, Gwynyth Paltrow. Same with actor Bradley Cooper who emphatically endorses Terry. But then people like famed psychotherapists Esther Perel and Lori Gottliev I find are touting Terry and this book us. And interestingly, the forward is from one of Terry’s patients. The forward alone rocked my world. It’s by a singer you may have heard of. Bruce Springsteen. But it’s not the celebrity component that impresses me, it’s the humble and heartfelt words they shared about their life changes. Bruce said, “At age thirty two I hit an emotional wall and realized I was lost in a deep dark forest, largely of my own making without a map. So began forty years of trying to find my way through the shadowed trees, down to the river of a sustaining life. Terry Real has been a guide and this book is a map through those trees. I agree. I wanted to share Terry with you, so this episode is part one of my discussion with him. Find him at terryreal.com. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The fourth pillar of Functional Medicine - The Mind/Body connection. Which we view as a relationship, and as such, are covering different aspects of relationships. I’m joined by my Functional Friday co host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, and appropriate to be following my last episode where he and I talked about “what’s your Everest” from rock star explorer Colin O’Brady, this is about purpose and hope. Randy is often treating people with physical ailments, often chronic and long term issues. Where most doctors are looking at the lab results, tests, and symptoms, Randy is looking at the person’s life. If he sees a significant lack of purpose and hope, it’s often a root issue to whatever physical symptom they are manifesting. Randy and I candidly cover his experiences around this subject with patients, and the dire need for help in our culture that seems to be losing touch with hope and purpose, and how you can clarify and leverage it in your life, for your overall health. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Wrapping up my series on 10-time record breaking explorer Colin O’Brady and the message from his new book, “The 12-Hour Walk: Invest One Day, Conquer Your Mind, and Unlock Your Best Life.” With me is my frequent co host, Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. We give focus to Colin’s two main topics. First, his concept of “What is your Everest?” We really bring it down from some epic, exotic adventure, to really, just what gives you purpose? That is the best Everest ever. Can you do this in the day to day of your life? Then we hit the primary concept of the 12-Hour Walk, which is rebooting your brain. Something we in our culture today, rarely do. Sleep is like recharging your phone. Needed. But it’s not an operating system upgrade. That’s the concept in this 12-Hour Walk idea. I encourage you to listen to the discussion, even if you have zero intent to go on a 12-Hour walk. Plenty of other ways to achieve it. The goal would be just to do…anything. Though Randy and I are both planning what we decided to name, a 12-Hour meander. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We walk with 10-time record breaking explorer Colin O’Brady through his personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment so we can hear what has driven and does drive [him] to set world records, but ultimately, and design a life that fulfills him. You’ll hear us hit on something he says in his new book, The 12-Hour Walk, about so often being asked if he’s ever afraid of dying during his epic quests up Mt Everest and across Antarctica. And he says…yes. But he’s more afraid of not truly living. Experiencing life. It’s not a pithy answer and I dig in on what this looks like for us. I’m not interested in death defying feats, but I sure want to get all I can out of my life. Colin’s feats include the world’s first solo, unsupported, and fully human-powered crossing of Antarctica, speed records for the Explorers Grand Slam and the Seven Summits, and the first human-powered ocean row across Drake Passage. Colin’s expeditions have been followed by millions and his work has been featured by The New York Times, The Tonight Show, The Today Show, and Joe Rogan, that guy with a podcast almost as popular as this one. Colin’s TEDx talk has nearly 3 million views and he is author of The New York Times bestseller The Impossible First and now his new book, The 12-Hour Walk: Invest One Day, Conquer Your Mind, and Unlock Your Best Life. Find him at colinobrady.com. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are talking about How your body gets derailed by your mind (and vice versa). I’m with Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert. The fourth pillar of getting you well in Functional Medicine is dealing with Relationships, and your foundational relationship is between your body and your mind. We hear plenty about “body and mind” connection but very little that we actually understand how to apply to our everyday lives. We continue to see people pursuing health in their bodies but being derailed by issues of the mind. There is a very real truth to the “physical manifestation of emotional pain.” This is a bad response to...stress. Relationships, trauma, financial issues, and even exciting events can build up to ongoing anxiety that will manifest poorly if not managed well. On the other side we have depression and hopelessness which is almost always treated with a mind focus, while we often find the body in disarray is often a primary culprit. Ultimately if our mind is in bad straits it will often play itself out in physical ailments and we can say the same in reverse. When we are properly tending to your mind but your body is in disarray, your mind is compromised. You may have seen much on the gut/brain connection, or come across Dr Bessel Van Der Kolk’s book, The Body Keeps The Score. In this show we aim to simplify the concepts and give you a viable understanding of the “chicken and egg” of mind and body connection. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you literally increase our minds and bodies' ability and capacity? As you’ll hear shortly, think about not just recharging your smartphone or computer, but when you get a new operating system and the thing reboots and boom, more capability. Wouldn’t you like to do that for yourself? Ten-time world record breaking explorer, speaker, entrepreneur, and expert on mindset, Colin O’Brady is my guest today. His feats include the world’s first solo, unsupported, and fully human-powered crossing of Antarctica, speed records for the Explorers Grand Slam and the Seven Summits (that’s Mt Everest and all the other biggest mountains on planet earth), and the first human-powered ocean row across Drake Passage. Colin’s highly publicized expeditions have been followed by millions and his work has been featured by The New York Times, The Tonight Show, The Today Show, and Joe Rogan, that guy with a podcast almost as popular as this one. Colin’s TEDx talk has nearly 3 million views and he is author of The New York Times bestseller The Impossible First and now, The 12-Hour Walk: Invest One Day, Conquer Your Mind, and Unlock Your Best Life. We really get in depth in this talk, just looking at why we go from kids with big ideas and goals, and then relegate ourselves to working to pay bills and just exist and hope to get some entertainment, but, watching the exploits of guys like Colin. I think you’ll find much to resonate with. Find him at Colinobrady.com. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do we one, handle them with health, and two, allow them to make the good things in life even better? This ends my series on Susan Cain and her book and message, Bittersweet, How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole. Susan was my guest in episodes 1020 and 1021 and now I talk with Tom Ziglar about it, and it’s such an interesting discussion. Tom is of course son to Zig Ziglar. Zig is one of the most renowned names in inspiration and motivation worldwide and known for positivity. I’m concerned people think he was just Mr lemonade out of lemons with books like See You At The Top and don’t realize he also wrote Confessions of A Grieving Christian after his 46 year old daughter Suzan dies of a lung disease. This was at the height of Zig Ziglar’s success, influencing over 250 million people to embrace positive perspectives. As you’ll hear Tom share, following Suzan’s death, Zig walked his dog and cried, near daily, for two years. He didn’t deny the sadness and the pain, and even after he made some recovery, he never forgot. But he also let it refine and strengthen him and he stayed true to his faith and purpose. As you’ll hear, this is much of our discussion, how our faith and purpose ultimately influences how we weather the daily disappointments and let downs, and the big traumas of life. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The hard work of true relaxation and renewal. In our last Functional Friday episode we talked about us only being as strong as our level of recovery. Daily there are things we do, with sleep being paramount. But there are other important aspects as well. We often pursue relief, but not renewal. Kicking the shoes off at the end of the day. Watching a game or binge watching a show. Reading a novel. Eating out. But do we ever finish these things and feel renewed and refreshed? Do we stand up, stretch our our arms and say, “Man, do I feel great now!” Not usually. We might feel some relief, but not renewal. How about vacation? Do you generally feel refreshed when you return, especially those of us with kids? Or do you feel inspired by some good experiences, but fairly exhausted, needing a vacation from your vacation? So when do we find actual renewal that truly strengthens us for the long haul? Or as you’ll hear my co-host Dr Randy James talk about, how do you go about The HARD work of true relaxation? This is a significant part of the self-care you need understanding of and permission for if you are going to get closer to functioning at your full capacity. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1021: I’m back with Susan Cain to walk through her personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment so we can hear what has driven and does drive her to write bestselling books and design a life that fulfills her. Susan Cain’s book, QUIET: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, was beyond a best seller. It has spent seven years on the New York Times best seller list and as of this recording is still in the top 500 books on Amazon. Her record-smashing TED Talk has been viewed over 30 million times on TED.com and YouTube combined. Her new book is called Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole, and it was an instant New York Times best seller as well. It was the topic of our first episode together. Here we walk through her values and habits in the key areas of life and as she shares about her personal life she also shares how the research on Bittersweet evolved some of her perspectives, starting off with her spirituality and faith. She shares her focus on connecting with others, how her goal is to be a millionaire. Of time. And her love of tennis. Find Susan’s book, BITTERSWEET: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole, anywhere, and connect with her at https://susancain.net/ Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1020: In 2013 Susan Cain published her book, QUIET: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. It was beyond a best seller. It has spent seven years on the New York Times best seller list and as of this recording is still in the top 500 books on Amazon. Her record-smashing TED Talk has been viewed over 30 million times on TED.com and YouTube combined. When they told me Susan was publishing another book, I didn’t hesitate. The book is called Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole, and it was an instant New York Times best seller as well. The most beautiful and joyful experiences of my life have also held an ache and a longing, and this is what Susan is speaking to. She gives focus to the four Hippocratic temperaments of sanguine, melancholic, choleric, and phlegmatic. Most of our world’s greatest creativity and art comes from a melancholic temperament, but Susan writes, “We’ve organized American culture around a sanguine-choleric outlook (forward leaning and combat ready), while Freud labeled melancholic as narcissistic and the main stream culture often views sorrow and longing as clinically depressed.” Susan asks, “How did a nation founded on so much heartache turn into a culture of normative sunshine and enforced positivity?” What you’ll hear is a candid discussion that gives us permission to feel the feels and allow sorrow and longing in, in order to more fully experience joy and beauty. Find Susan’s book, BITTERSWEET: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole, anywhere, and connect with her at https://susancain.net/ Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1019: Our very existence is only as good as our ability to recover. We love to hear about putting in big efforts, whether it’s only sports field, or in the office, or even at home. But those big efforts deplete us. It’s our recovery that allows us to come back for another big performance. A great example is working out to gain muscle. When you work out, you are tearing your muscles down. Your will power as well. It’s when you are in recovery mode that you actually grow stronger. If you don’t recover, you just stay torn down. So if you have times of feeling torn down and just worn down, and it continues…than you are not recovering. I’m joined by my cohost Randy James, medical doctor and functional medicine expert. You’ll hear Dr James change your paradigm by stating that our evening and our sleep is actually how we are starting our next day. How we prepare for sleep, how long and how well are bottom line what are fueling our performance for the next day. All our output, the topic of our previous Functional Friday episode, is subject to our rest and recovery. Many of us are not recovering and every day is a dip lower in our ability...or we’ve stagnated at a mediocre performance level. If we are taking out more than we are depositing, ultimately we’ll end up bankrupt and that’s when we are forced to rest via sickness, disease and disability. I believe you’ll find different information and perspectives on recovery and sleep than you ever have and get clarity on what you can do to best support all the “doing” you desire in your life! Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1018: I’m back with Tyler Merritt for part 2 to talk through his personal Values, Motives, and Habits. To see what drives him. In part 1 together our focus was stereotypes and marginalization. I’m a 6’ tall, white, American male who has never experienced a negative stereotype or marginalization. Tyler is a 6’4” dreadlocked Black man in America who absolutely knows what it’s like to be negatively stereotyped and marginalized. I encourage you to listen to that episode if you haven’t, but now…we go behind the scenes. Tyler Merritt is a Nashville-based actor, activist, cancer survivor, founder of The Tyler Merritt Project, and author of "I TAKE MY COFFEE BLACK: REFLECTIONS ON TUPAC, MUSICAL THEATER, FAITH AND BEING BLACK IN AMERICA." Over the course of his career, Tyler has gained recognition through notable acting projects including "Kevin Probably Saves The World," "Outer Banks," and "The Outsider," as well as serving as the face of the worldwide teaching curriculum for The Gospel Project for Kids. Most recently, Tyler Merritt made headlines with his 2018 viral video "Before You Call The Cops," which has been viewed by over 100 million people worldwide and appeared on Jimmy Kimmel, MSNBC, and the New York Times. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1017: Tyler Merritt is a 6’4” dreadlocked Black man in America who absolutely knows what it’s like to be stereotyped and marginalized. While Tyler is a steadfast activist in the face of racism, I invited him on to talk about stereotypes and marginalization overall. To a great degree, if you are not a white, American man, you have experienced marginalization, and that is our focus. How can you flourish amongst it with strength and compassion? And if you’re a white, American male, I’d encourage you to tune in so you can increase your own strength and compassion. Tyler Merritt is a Nashville-based actor, activist, cancer survivor, founder of The Tyler Merritt Project, and author of "I TAKE MY COFFEE BLACK: REFLECTIONS ON TUPAC, MUSICAL THEATER, FAITH AND BEING BLACK IN AMERICA." Over the course of his career, Tyler has gained recognition through notable acting projects including "Kevin Probably Saves The World," "Outer Banks," and "The Outsider," as well as serving as the face of the worldwide teaching curriculum for The Gospel Project for Kids. Most recently, Tyler Merritt made headlines with his 2018 viral video "Before You Call The Cops," which has been viewed by over 100 million people worldwide and appeared on Jimmy Kimmel, MSNBC, and the New York Times. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1016: Your daily output is in essence, your work. All of it. The daily tasks and duties in which you exert yourself to fulfill. Personal maintenance, parenting, your job or schooling, relationships, home and life maintenance...everything. Your capacity for daily output is finite, even though we like to think of ourselves as needing to be limitless. How often do you feel spent and you’re only halfway through the day? Or maybe you make it strong through the day but by evening you have nothing left for your family and relationships or a new venture you desire to put effort into? Everyone wants more energy. We’ve created billion dollar companies around energy drinks to give us more energy. But imagine your car being overheated and bogging down and you just keep shoving more gas in the tank! The question is…what is zapping it’s energy? For you, what daily activities, exertions, environments, and mental activities will more quickly deplete, OR… help to better sustain and further your daily output and capacity? This is what Dr Randy James and I address in this episode. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1015: Habits and goals; what to do when our plans are disrupted. This wraps up my series on Michelle Segar and her book, The Joy Choice: How To Finally Achieve Lasting Changes In Eating And Exercise. Her focus is just that, the habits we intend to fulfill, and how we so often fail. We look at them as all or nothing and when life happens, we let them fall. And the key is being prepared for this, expecting it even, and having a plan. In this episode I bring Tom Ziglar on to discuss this, and how it also relates to our overall goals. Tom is CEO of Ziglar, son of Zig Ziglar, and of course my frequent co-host. He’s grown up in a goals culture and knows well what derails us. We discuss strategies for making consistent deposits and how to pick up when we lose momentum Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1014: I’m back with unhabitor and author of the Joy Choice, Michelle Segar, to walk through their personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment so we can hear what has driven and does drive her to guide us in making habits actually sustain, especially regarding eating and exercise, and design a life that fulfills her. Michelle is an award-winning, National Institute of Health funded sustainable behavior change researcher at the University of Michigan and a lifestyle coach. For nearly three decades, she has pioneered methods to create sustainable healthy behavior changes that are being used to boost patient health, employee well-being, and even gym membership retention. I’m pulling info from her new book, The Joy Choice: How To Finally Achieve Lasting Changes In Eating and Exercise. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1013: Movement. Exercise. My co host Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, have been covering aspects of input, and now we move to output. Our bodies were created to move. To elevate our heart rate and stress our muscles. If we don’t, we decline. Simple as that. For the greatest span of history we had to move in order to live, so there was no need for exercise. Life was exercise. Today we can run our lives with near zero movement, and it’s showing. Our sedentary lifestyle is eroding our health. If exercise isn’t your favorite word, just think about movement. What can you do, that you don’t hate, near every day, to get your heart rate going and stress your muscles a bit? Randy and I talk through this with a compassionate and real-world look at how to get consistent movement into your routine, and if it already is, how to make it sustainable and help you get the most out of it. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1012: How do you make effective, lasting change in your life, especially regarding eating and exercise. In all our areas of life where we seek to develop new habits and get new results, there is new information that the areas of diet and exercise don’t work like the others and are the areas we most fail, because, life happens. This new information is brought to us by Dr Michelle Segar who I have with me today. Michelle takes our cultural concept of habits to task. We’re going to talk about her groundbreaking, decision-making framework—and the science behind it—to give hope to the millions of what she calls, and labels herself as, “unhabiters” who are frustrated with their failure to keep up all the good habits they intend to engage with, and discuss a behavior-change solution designed for them. We are enamored with creating habits in our lives that will give us the success we want, but what you’re about to find out is the normal framework and perspective of habits we have doesn’t work for…a lot of us. But there is a solution that will, and it’s why I have Michelle on the show. Michelle is an award-winning, National Institute of Health funded sustainable behavior change researcher at the University of Michigan and a lifestyle coach. For nearly three decades, she has pioneered methods to create sustainable healthy behavior changes that are being used to boost patient health, employee well-being, and even gym membership retention. I’m pulling info from her new book, The Joy Choice: How To Finally Achieve Lasting Changes In Eating and Exercise. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1011: We wrap up my series on Tim Schurrer’s book, “The Secret Society of Success” by discussing the concept of finding your fortune without having to seek attention and fame, with Tom Ziglar. Tim spent a decade as COO for author and leader Donald Miller, leading the team outside of the spotlight, and this is the focus. We’re in a culture where everyone is trying to get attention. To be in the spotlight and on the stage, to get likes and followers. And for everyone in the spotlight there are scores of people supporting the effort. People making lots of money, having lots of fulfillment, and we debate, possibly experiencing more joy and peace than the person grinding it out to be up on stage. Tom Ziglar spent a lifetime watching his father, Zig Ziglar, on stage and in the spotlight. He helped support his dad. Today Tom is in the spotlight, so he’s experienced both sides. Further, he grew up amongst his Dad’s peers on stage and got to see the good and bad of the spotlight, and rub shoulders with thousands of people supporting those people, so he is a veritable expert on both sides. This may be the only podcast series not trying to push everyone to push for the spotlight, the stage, and for attention for everything they do. It’s honestly not where the most opportunity is. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1010: What are you coming into contact with on a daily basis? Dr. Randy James, MD and I are going to open your understanding to what you need to know. To take an extreme, what if you let a daily dose of radiation wash over you every day. Just a mere second, not too much. But every day, over time, what would happen? Enough would be catastrophic. As our world is increasingly filled with pollution and toxins, the very air is truly suspect. What is touching our skin, what are we smelling in through our nose, irritating our eyes? Allergies, mold, toxins and chemicals. Should we all walk through life wearing surgical masks and radiation suits? Environmentally it wouldn’t hurt, but it might cramp your social life. What DO we need to be on the lookout for? What is most threatening to us? How much of our physiological and psychological maladies are related to what we come into contact with via our skin and the very air we breath? Let’s find out. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1009: I’m back with Tim Schurrer to walk through his personal Values, Motives, and Habits, and we land on two really profound perspectives. One is coming back to asking, in our work and life, “Who am I here for?” And then Tim comes out with a quip about how we make our best decisions when we are grateful. We get into his personal quest to be a musician and his love for golf and basketball, and how he practices “prehab” to avoid the need for rehab. It’s a thoughtful show I believe you’ll be inspired and equipped by. Tim Schurrer recently authored the book, The Secret Society of Success: Stop Chasing The Spotlight And Learn To Enjoy Your Work [And Life] Again. He spent a decade working as COO with Donald Miller and launching Storybrand and then Business Made Simple, and while Don had the spotlight, Tim ran the business and built and led the team that made it all possible. Before that Tim worked at TOMS as well as Apple Inc. He is the host of the Build a Winning Team podcast, where he offers listeners actionable advice as he interviews some of the top leaders in business. We talk about the far greater opportunity for success and fulfillment, outside the spotlight and off the stage. Find Tim at secretsocietyfree.com and get the first two chapters of his book free. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1008: Everyone is chasing the spotlight. Everyone wants to be, or feels they need to be, the superstar, in order to succeed. To have a platform and followers and an audience. Write a book, star in social media, start a podcast, and get enough attention to pay your bills and pad your ego. But one, not everyone can be in the spotlight, and two, does being on stage really give you the best odds for success and fulfillment? With me today is Tim Schurrer who recently authored the book, The Secret Society of Success: Stop Chasing The Spotlight And Learn To Enjoy Your Work [And Life] Again. He spent a decade working as COO with Donald Miller and launching Storybrand and then Business Made Simple, and while Don had the spotlight, Tim ran the business and built and led the team that made it all possible. Before that Tim worked at TOMS as well as Apple Inc. He is the host of the Build a Winning Team podcast, where he offers listeners actionable advice as he interviews some of the top leaders in business. We talk about the far greater opportunity for success and fulfillment, outside the spotlight and off the stage. Find Tim at secretsocietyfree.com and get first two chapters of his book free. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1007: You are listening to messages that program who you are and how you feel nearly 24 hours a day, and you have control over the vast majority of these messages. All day long you are listening to two things; the auditory messages from every direction you tune into or expose yourself, and often from them, you then continue to listen to those messages as they play inside your head as thoughts. The social media and news headline fighting, the snarky memes, the negative bent of most media, the complaint of friends, family, and co-workers, the music, videos and on and on. If you build a house would you build with wood and steel and brick, or garbage? Every day you are building your mind and attitude. What are the ingredients you are giving it? This is our Functional Friday episode and Randy James, medical doctor and Functional Medicine expert, joins me to discuss the effects of our audio input and how it impacts more than just our mind, but our physical aches and pains as well. And the main point is how you can help yourself, be well, by safeguarding what you hear and listen to and ultimately…think. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1006: We continue the discussion on aging from my conversation with Becca Levy, author of Breaking The Age Code who I featured in episodes 1003 and 1005, but here I bring on my favorite medical doctor and dear friend Randy James to discuss positive and high performing aging through a Functional Medicine lens and just real world walking out this concept of not accepting the demise we currently do in our culture, where you hit your mid 20s and 30s and start saying, “Well, I just can’t do what I used to do,” and meanwhile this March, 2022, Kenichi Horie at age 83 set a world record sailing solo across the Pacific without stopping, the same thing he did at age 23. That’s 60 years later. He says he hopes to continue such voyages till he’s 100. We quickly just write him off as an anomaly. But is he? Or is he simply living out what could be attainable for us all if we didn’t expect and accept an earlier and earlier demise. Join Randy and me as we talk about our personal views and expectations on aging, how Randy approaches it with patients, and how you might change the trajectory of your own aging to something with more capacity. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1005: I’m back with Dr Becca Levy to talk about Values & Habits in the key areas of life fulfillment, and look at how we have positive and negative perspectives and expectations around aging. And “aging” these days seems to be expected at earlier and earlier ages. To a great degree, we will age as we expect to age. So in this episode we talk to an expert around just that, the expectations we have and will likely manifest in our lives. Every day older we become, we should be adding to our ability. Yes, at some point late in life we may find some lessening strengths, but that is not a given. Animals are not hobbling around. They are full tilt till the end. Why can’t that be you and me? Dr. Becca Levy is an award-winning Yale Professor of Psychology and Global Health. She received her Ph.D. in psychology from Harvard University. She has given testimony before the United States Senate on the effects of ageism and contributed to briefs submitted to the United States Supreme Court in age-discrimination cases. She is credited with creating a field of study that focuses on how positive and negative age stereotypes affect the health of older individuals. And she is the author of Breaking the Age Code: How Your Beliefs About Aging Determine How Long & Well You Love, which just came out. Find it anywhere you get books and connect with Becca at becca-levy.com. I encourage you to listen to our previous episode, 1003, where Becca and I dig into ageism and how we can age better by viewing it more positively, and of course, taking more positive actions. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1004: We are talking about how to control your direction by controlling your visual input. What you look at is where you go. As we continue with the first pillar of overall physiological and psychological health and wellness, following the structure of Functional Medicine, Dr Randy James and I are talking about INPUT. The good and bad we do and do not put into our bodies. In episode #3 we covered the huge aspect of what we do and don’t put into our mouths. In this show we address visual input. This is not an area we give much thought or weight to unless we’re thinking of…looking at naughty pictures. In all truth, I expected it to be a 20-30 minute discussion, but as you will hear, some of our points really expanded. Just like the food we eat, everyday we choose or allow a steady and full diet of visionary input into our minds. We discuss the effect screens have on us, not just what we watch but the very real issue of blue screens themselves. Ultimately, we address what cumulative visual input is harming us and taking away life, and what is helping us and giving us life? We have control over the majority of this if we’ll take it. Videos, news, pornography, social media, ads and consumerism…there is a virtual-visual onslaught and reality in our home and work environment. I think you’ll find your eyes opened, pun intended, and your mind convicted. You can take immediate and significant action right away. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1003: How will you age? Whether you are no in your late twenties or late fifties or further, everyone feels they are getting older. Of course we are chronologically getting older, so is a child, but we view children as growing older and better. Earlier and earlier these days however we view every day getting older as a negative and we are less capable. Should this be the case? And how is the negative view of aging hurting us all, no matter what age you’re at as you hear this. This is a big topic of interest for me. I’m 51 and feel more capable than ever, and want to maintain this as long as possible. So I brought on an expert. Dr. Becca Levy, Ph.D., is an award-winning Yale Professor of Psychology and Global Health. She received her Ph.D. in psychology from Harvard University and held a National Institute on Aging postdoctoral fellowship at the Division of Aging and Department of Social Medicine at Harvard Medical School. She has given invited testimony before the United States Senate on the effects of ageism, contributed to briefs submitted to the United States Supreme Court in age-discrimination cases, and participated in United Nations discussions of ageism. She is credited with creating a field of study that focuses on how positive and negative age stereotypes affect the health of older individuals. She is the author of Breaking the Age Code: How Your Beliefs About Aging Determine How Long & Well You Love, which just came out. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1002: We are talking about changing the idea we have of ourselves. Can we really? This continues the topic I discussed with actor Josh Peck, who grew up poor and extremely overweight. He found success as an actor and lost over 100lbs, yet testified his mindset about himself and life didn’t immediately change. I have Tom Ziglar with me to discuss this issue, how so often we pursue positive growth in our lives and yet we can often realize the tangible result of an achievement, yet not find fulfillment because we still retain our old mindset and mental image. And to something Josh shared, how much can we really erase the old image?Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1001: To be fully well, or as well as one can possibly be, takes four key pillars. The first is the input into your body, which comes through your senses. In this show we focus on what you put in your mouth. As you’ll hear the good doctor Randy James say, so much of our lack of wellness can be tracked to, “What are we putting in our body that it doesn’t want, and what are we not putting in our body that it needs.” The struggle is, there are no one-size-fits-all answers. Just because one style of diet helps your friend lose weight and be fit and trim doesn’t mean it will work for you. But we can give you a framework and a structure that makes sense, and from it you can start discovering a healthy diet of what does and doesn’t go in your mouth for your best results. You will hear us address most of the main dietary trends right now and discuss the relevance of them. You will also hear much...compassion. Food is our primary drug and we can’t abstain from it, not for long. Our culture is built around food and two primary aspects; taste and convenience. But the truth is, food can be our greatest medicine. We are either eating to enhance our life or eating to enhance our death. So listen in for some truly beneficial guidance and some counsel you can take with you and take action on and quit some of the frustration and get results. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1000: A Values, Motives, and Habits roundtable with myself, Tom Ziglar, and Dr. Randy James to commemorate episode 1000. Thank you for listening, truly. With over 56 million downloads now that means on average, 56,000 people have listened to every episode. I’m truly honored. Values, Motives, and Habits. These are the priorities of our lives and how we strive to practice them. Tom Ziglar is CEO of Ziglar and proud son of Zig Ziglar. Most of you know him well. Randy James is a medical doctor and functional medicine expert. Both guys…I am so grateful to call my dearest friends. More than doing some work together, we do life together and I have spent time with both of them every week for many years talking about the things in our lives that matter, personally and professionally. In this 1000th episode we are having a chat over coffee to discuss what our Values, Motives, and Habits are in the seven spokes of the Ziglar Wheel of Life. I do this with every guest, but now I share the three of us discussing them together. We got so deep, we only made it through three topics and will continue with a Part 2. If you want more from either of them, find Tom Ziglar at Ziglar.com and Randy James at truelifemedicine.com. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#999: Self-esteem is generally defined as your overall opinion of yourself and your abilities, or lack thereof. In this episode I’m back with actor Josh Peck to walk and talk through his personal Values, Motives, and Habits. Twice in the show he speaks of building self-esteem by doing esteemable acts. It struck me that we often encourage people to just think better of themselves, when they often don’t because they aren’t proud of who they are and what they do. So here Josh is saying, go be the person you would approve of. Can you imagine if someone said, “I’d like to think of myself as a runner,” but they didn’t ever run? I think you’ll enjoy Josh’s introspective and lessons learned. You can find Josh Peck’s book, Happy People Are Annoying, everywhere, and find him on Instagram along with his 13.3 million followers. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#998: What is the best, overall health plan for your wellness. There is one, but it is personal and it must be comprehensive. Nobody can easily or quickly tell you the exacts and specifics but we can absolutely help you with the framework. If you were building a car, you can be provided with the necessary ingredients you will need, like a frame, suspension, body, engine, wheels and tires, interior, etc… If you know that, you can choose the specifics that line up with the kind of car you want. For you to be as fully functioning as possible there is a framework of ingredients you will need. There is no magic bullet and one-size-fits-all solution. This episode is an intro to the framework that we’ll continue with in ensuing shows. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#997: Josh Peck is an actor, comedian, podcaster, and social media star who has held lead roles in iconic television shows like 'Drake and Josh' on Nickelodeon, as well as 'Grandfathered' with John Stamos on FOX, and now 'Turner and Hooch' the series on Disney+. Josh has a new book out that I don’t think anyone but me would say is gritty, and I’ll say why at the top of the show. The book is titled Happy People Are Annoying, and I’d add that people who write as wittily as he does are also kind of annoying to me, but the laughs and the heart overcompensate for my envy. Through the recounting of a difficult life, Josh showcases insight that is almost easy to brush over, but we’re going to dig in today and help us all question our perspectives during challenges that help or hurt us. That’s why he’s here, his self-awareness that we can learn from.. You can find Happy People Are Annoying…everywhere. Which is kind of annoying. You can also find Josh on Instagram along with 13.3 million other people. A few more than I have. Also annoying…  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#996: I’m with co host Dr. Randy James to further discuss my previous conversations with Sarah Fay on mental pathologies. We are all on the spectrum of mental health or un health, but when does one dip over into a real disorder, and in either case, what can you do about it? In our growing mental health crisis how much is a result of clinically broken minds and how much is caused by lifestyle? Medical doctors like Randy are the front lines of most mental health issues, so how do they and the system generally diagnose and treat? How much control and responsibility do you have in your mental health. Don’t expect any easy answers as we strive to balance compassion and control. But the point is helping equip you to be more informed about the options and opportunities for yourself and those you love in regards to mental health. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#995: All the self-help info in the world is moot if we can’t get the necessary performance out of our body and mind. In these Functional Friday episodes I’ll be joined by Randy James, medical doctor, functional medicine expert, and my dear friend. We share offices and a lot of life together. In this episode we give a good overview perspective of health and wellness from, a functional standpoint. And that’s the point, we want to be as fully functional as possible. So what does that look like? That’s what you’re about to hear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#994: I’m back with Sarah Fay to walk through her personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment so we can hear what has driven and does drive her to recover from mental illness diagnoses, create a movement to question the pat treatment that’s become the norm in our culture, and design a life that fulfills her. Sarah Fay is a writer and activist on mental health and her new book is, Pathological: The True Story of Six Misdiagnoses. Sarah journeyed through six major mental health diagnoses over 30 years and her book is a profound journey through the ordeals of the current psychological treatment structure we have normalized. Sarah Fay writes for many publications, including The New York Times, The Atlantic, Time, and The Paris Review and is an incredibly accomplished writer, teacher and is currently on the faculty at Northwestern University. She’s the founder of Pathological: The Movement, and you can Find Sarah at sarahfay.org. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#993: We’re taking on mental health and specifically the unprecedented increase in mental illness diagnoses. Here is my take; we are all theoretically on the spectrum of…everything. It’s human nature for instance to feel sadness. To have the feeling here and there of depression or anxiety. Brene Brown’s bestselling book right now is Atlas of the Heart and she outlines 87 different emotions that are normal and healthy. But when do we go over the line from normal to abnormal? From feeling depressed to being clinically depressed? “Having depression or an anxiety disorder?” Do we need or want an official diagnosis so we can get needed help? Or do we want to deny and boycott any such limiting label? Are we all accepting clinical diagnosis and it’s causing us to limit ourselves? This is a big issue and a big question that is affecting all of us. I’ve brought on an expert to discuss it. Sarah Fay is a writer and activist on the issue and has recently come out with her book, Pathological: The True Story of Six Misdiagnoses. Sarah from a young age displayed some unhealthy behaviors and was diagnosed, labeled, and treated. Over the next 30 years she went on to have clinical diagnoses and labels for Anorexia, Major depressive disorder, Anxiety disorder, Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, Obsessive compulsive disorder, Bipolar disorder, and has also dealt with alcoholism, being a compulsive exerciser, and many bouts being suicidal. You name the drug, she’s been prescribed it and taken it. Today…she is well, though still accepting of a couple diagnoses and medications, but has much to educate and warn us about regarding our current culture which has nearly half of all Americans being given an official, clinical diagnosis during their lifetime. The book is a memoir style writing of her personal experiences and her research into the medical system and how it handles and mishandles us and what the consequences are. Sarah Fay (PhD, Iowa MFA) writes for many publications, including The New York Times, The Atlantic, Time, and The Paris Review. She’s an incredibly accomplished writer, teacher and is currently on the faculty at Northwestern University. She’s the founder of Pathological: The Movement, and you can Find Sarah at sarahfay.org. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ziglar listeners, this is a special announcement. As of May 16, 2022 The Ziglar Show will have a new name and format change. It will be called Self-Help(ful), presented by Ziglar, still hosted by me, Kevin Miller and we will be increasing to three episodes per week. Our aim is to become the #1 show in the self-improvement category and help people go beyond exposure to great messages and into actual engagement and taking action on improving ourselves.  There is the you, you used to be. Then there is the you you are now. You probably feel you have changed a lot. Now you are becoming the you you'll be in the future. The you, you want to be. And in truth, more than developing ourselves and improving ourselves, we really just want better results in our lives that come from our growing and changing. We want more success. More money. More health and wellness. More achievements. But even those things are not the real end result we want either. What we really want is...more fulfillment. More contentment. More satisfaction. More peace. One of Zig Ziglars most known quotes is one we don't really do justice to and take to heart, and it speaks directly to this. Zig said,  You have to “Be” the right kind of person first, then you must “Do” the right things before you can expect to “Have” the things in life that really matter.  That's what the Self-Help(ful) podcast, presented by Ziglar, is about. Helping you become the person who does the things that get you the things in life that really matter. To you.I'll be your guide and fellow student as I bring on the best and brightest experts and influencers in personal development and self-help and giving you more than a one shot episode with them. I'll conduct an initial episode with them to get into the heart of their story and their message. Then we'll have a part two where I expand on my past Habits episode with a Values, Motives, & Habits show to really get into what is driving these influential people, so we can gain insight into what drives us. Then I'll have a peer discussion on the topic with some cohosts, ranging from Tom Ziglar to Dr Randy James, sometimes pulling in past guests, and I may even have some listeners join me from time to time. Instead of a one episode exposure to a profound message you will get three. Soon we'll open up the Self-Help(ful) community where you can join and go even deeper. Every week we'll also be publishing a Functional Friday episode where Dr Randy James and I will give focus specifically to health and wellness from a Functional Medicine standpoint to help you get your mind and body to full capacity, as all our efforts are limited or elevated by the health and capability of our body, mind, and soul.  Thanks for tuning in to The Ziglar Show for all these years, and thanks for being with us as we walk together in this expansion to the Self-Help(ful) podcast, presented by Ziglar and journey together to better, help ourselves, become and achieve what really matters to us. Kevin Miller Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#992: Respect is generally seen as something earned or demanded. In civilian life we tend to give respect to those we deem have earned it from us or we begrudgingly give it to those we feel beholden to, such as a boss. We depict the military as those in authority demanding respect regardless of anything. Is it possible and relevant to give everyone respect no matter what, and is this possible or feasible? Tom Ziglar showcases respect as the third virtue in his book, 10 Leadership Virtues for Disruptive Times, and once again we look at a virtue as not only the seemingly right thing to do, but the most profitable. In this episode we unpack what giving respect to anyone and everyone looks like, and what it doesn’t. I think you’ll find it frees you to healthfully and proudly give everyone respect in a way that benefits you both. It is not a zero-sum game, but a win-win you can use to elevate your social credit and personal success. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#991: Zoe Chance is back with us to walk through her habits for success. If you didn’t catch her with me in episode 989, Zoe teaches “Mastering Influence and Persuasion,” and it is the most popular class at the Yale School of Management. Her research on behavioral economics, neuroscience, and psychology have been published in all the top academic journals and her TEDx talk, How to Make a Behavior Addictive, has more than half a million views. Before coming to Yale, she earned a doctorate in marketing at Harvard and managed a $200 million segment of the Barbie brand at Mattel. From Zoe’s Yale course she has written a book titled, INFLUENCE IS YOUR SUPERPOWER: The Science of Winning Hearts, Sparking Change, and Making Good Things Happen, which you can find anywhere you buy books and connect with Zoe at zoechance.com. This podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, the most known and trusted brand in personal and professional development. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#990: How to be selfless for personal gain sounds like click bait, which is why we take on this topic that Tom Ziglar lists as the 2nd virtue in his book, 10 Leadership Virtues for Disruptive Times. I wanted to confront this issue as I feel we can miss the value of it in our lives because the concept is a bit preposterous. The Bible talks about dying to self. Does anyone feel they have accomplished this? When something feels unreachable we tend to just abandon it. Selfless is the opposite of selfish, but it doesn’t mean it’s without self interest. If I have food and you don’t and I keep mine for myself, that’s pure selfishness. If I give some or even all of my food to you we’d say this is selfless. But look at the word. Selfless is less self. Not zero self. Giving my food to you makes me feel good about myself. I still get benefit. Maybe even more. And more often than not our selfless acts get noticed and what goes around comes around. The point is understanding how being selfless serves others, and us. And it’s ok that you aren’t in fact totally dead to yourself. If you read the Bible contextually you’ll see testimony that dying to self may speak more to dying to your lower, base, selfish self, and being born again to your higher, best self. There is still a self there and that is ok. This podcast is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted name in personal and professional development. Visit Ziglar.com and see how they can inspire your true performance! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#989: If you want to care, serve, love, help and have a positive impact on anyone, you need influence. You have a product or service or insight and wisdom that you know could help others, whether it’s your employer, employee, a prospect, your kid, or an audience. Without influence what good you have to offer is meaningless. So what is true influence and how can you have it and masterfully use and benefit yourself and others with it? In this episode I bring on Zoe Chance. Zoe teaches a course titled, “Mastering Influence and Persuasion,” and it is the most popular class at the Yale School of Management. Her research on behavioral economics, neuroscience, and psychology has been published in top academic journals and covered by the Harvard Business Review, The Economist, BBC, Time, Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and The New York Times. Her framework for behavior change is the foundation for Google’s food program, and her TEDx talk, How to Make a Behavior Addictive, has more than half a million views. Before coming to Yale, she earned a doctorate in marketing at Harvard and managed a $200 million segment of the Barbie brand at Mattel. From Zoe’s Yale course, “Mastering Influence and Persuasion,” she has now written a book titled, INFLUENCE IS YOUR SUPERPOWER: The Science of Winning Hearts, Sparking Change, and Making Good Things Happen. What you’re about to hear is an indepth dive into what is influence vs manipulation, and how to deftly wield influence so you can have the positive impact on the world you desire. Find the book, Influence Is Your Superpower anywhere you buy books and connect with Zoe at zoechance.com. This podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, the most known and trusted brand in personal and professional development. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#988: We often talk of being either an employee or an entrepreneur. One side or the other. Today I have a guest with us who is imploring us to live the corporate life no matter what, for our benefit, and our kid’s. The concepts you’re about to hear may be fairly revelatory for you, as they were for me, regarding money, parenting, and self-employment, again…whether you are a parent OR self employed. Tom Ziglar met Loral Langemeier and wanted to get her on the show. Loral is a money expert, sought-after speaker, entrepreneurial thought leader, and Five Time New York Times best-selling author who is on a mission to change the conversation about money and empower people around the world to become millionaires, and a primary focus is Financial Literacy for parents and children. She has a new book titled, Make Your Kids Millionaires: The Step-by-Step Guide to Lead Children to Financial Freedom. You can get it and $1,500 worth of bonuses at makeyourkidsmillionaires.com/ziglar when you preorder. I was incredibly curious and again, you’re going to hear some contrarian thinking to the normal ideas of employment vs self-employment, how Loral instructs us to all start living the corporate life, even if you have a traditional job, how to help your kids develop radical self-employed pedigrees and even credit before they’re 18, and how to leverage credit and even debt. That right there will lift some eyebrows, and if so…great. It did mine as well. And here I have Loral on the show. Without further ado, here Tom Ziglar and I sit down with Loral Langemeier to get schooled living a corporate life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#987: I’m back with Dr Thema Bryant, president elect of the American Psychological Association and author of her new book, Homecoming: Overcoming Fear And Trauma To Reclaim Your Whole, Authentic Self, which was our focus previously in episode 985. This is my habits episode and we take a walk through Thema’s personal habits. As you heard in the intro, she of course weighs heavily on self-care and boundaries which for me, is strong medicine. It’s of note Thema has crafted her personal habits after the needs she sees as a therapist, so, I think you’ll want to take note. Find Dr Bryant’s book “home coming” wherever you get your books and connect with her at her website drthema.com, and find her on instagram at dr thema where she has over 300k people following her guidance to…coming home to themselves. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#986: The power of…kindness. As you’ll hear right at the top of the show, set aside your altruistic thoughts about “kindness” and hear Tom Ziglar and I present it as a primary tool you can use to gain trust, attract people to you, and be the biggest person in the room. The spirit of today’s media polluting our culture today is one of massive unkindness and I’m concerned we may grow to think strength is standing up for your rights and correcting injustice by calling out wrongs and giving others their due lashings. Yet strength comes from giving kindness and respect, even in confrontation. Strength and glory doesn’t go to the one crying foul and blaming and ranting but to the one confident enough to wield kindness and consideration in any circumstance. So here we go in learning how to do just that. Wield kindness to gain trust and attract others and…succeed. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#985: Think about the idea of going home to your happy place. Your comfort. Where you feel safe and you just get to be you. Now imagine it’s not a place, but it’s just finally being your healthy and authentic self, totally at peace and joyful. If you’ve ever known a place or time, you can relate. If you’ve never known it, this is about your hope to find it. You’re about to hear my conversation with Dr Thema Bryant. Thema is a clinical psychologist and professor of psychology at Pepperdine University. She’s an ordained minister in the African Methodist Episcopal Church. She earned her doctorate from Duke University and completed her postdoctoral training at Harvard Medical School. In the world of academia and clout she is royalty. Now add she’s president-elect of the American Psychological Association. Even our other top psychologist look to her for guidance. Many such people we expect up in ivory towers dispensing wisdom to the masses below. But go check Thema out on instagram and you’ll see why over 300k people follow her as she offers…love. Understanding. You’ll find her dancing and see her efforts in play to decolonize traditional psychology and bring alongside the science, the power of spirituality and faith and our very humanity. Her new book is called Homecoming and here we take a very base look at the real world issues and hope for today’s mental health realities. Find Dr Thema Bryant’s book Homecoming anywhere and everywhere, and connect with her at drthema.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#984: Before I started recording this episode with my buddy Tom Ziglar he starts telling me about his weekend speaking alongside a Navy Seal and I stopped him and said…”Wait, this is good, let’s just record it.” He ultimately got into the preparations of Navy Seals and the power of mental models and rehearsing our performance and I wanted to stick with it and abandoned my intended talk on the power of kindness. Maybe we’ll do that in the next episode. What you’re about to hear is a candid talk through our opportunity to discern what we want out of our days and plan for it. Rehearse even. It sounds basic but as you’ll hear it’s not, and we are missing out on our top performance as a result. The top performance we expect from our military, especially special forces. The top performance we expect from the athletes in our favorite sports. The top performance we expect in our entertainment. They all have a desired outcome, and they plan and rehearse it. Why aren’t we? Listen in. Connect with Tom Ziglar at Ziglar.com, or email him directly at tziglar@ziglar.com. For me, find me at kevinmiller.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#983: I’m back with beloved superstar author and speaker Andy Andrews to talk about his personal habits for success. Though in addition I asked him to discuss some of the top habits he would espouse for us all as he seeks to influence the world with positive cultural literacy. He brings us back to, as you heard, the power we have over what we let into our minds. What we allow to influence us for better or worse. It’s incredibly elementary but the profound common sense that is not so common. How often do we get worked up over news or relational interactions that we did not have to participate in? How often do we choose to partake of input from sources we voluntarily engaged with? And how often do we get to the end of the day and are able to measure an amount of positive, inspiring, and life building input we are proud of and lifted by? The days so often happen to us and we don’t guard or intentionally budget the diet we feed our minds. So listen in to this and other golden nuggets from Andy. Andy is also headlining for Ziglar on May 19-20, 2022 as keynote speaker for the Ziglar Coach Summit in Frisco, TX which you can check out at ziglar.com/coachsummit. If you are or want to be a coach, don’t miss this. And check out more of what Andy is doing at WisdomHarbour.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#982: I recently had Ethan Kross on the show, one of the foremost experts in controlling our minds. His new book is Chatter, The Voice In Your Head, Why It Matters, and How To Harness It. That was episode #977. Today I wanted to discuss the concept in union with self-talk and personal affirmations, made popular by none other than Zig Ziglar. Tom Ziglar and I just pulled out all the issues around these concepts and held them to the fire in an effort to help us all literally just roll up our sleeves and start working out in regards to controlling the voices in our heads and getting them working for us in our self-talk. You can get Zig’s self-talk cards free at ziglar.com/selftalk. But Tom and I hit on big ticket issues such as, how many of the voices in our heads are even our own? Why have we agreed with so many of the thoughts and beliefs floating around? Why do we tell anyone else they have more capacity and ability in them but generally don’t believe it for ourselves? Then we land on the daily exercises needed to get the voices in our heads working for us. We uncovered some aspects of this issue we were not even aware of until we got into the discussion. Join us as we take on our voices and self-talk and aim to master them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#981: In a rare entry into current events, tabloid headlines if you will, I asked Andy Andrews about a public statement he made regarding the culture as it relates to the recent Oscars and Will Smith slapping Chris Rock. My point wasn’t to weigh in on opinion, but as you heard in the intro to hear Andy’s perspective on the symbolism. Andy Andrews is a multiple New York Times best seller with his Traveler’s Gift selling millions. He’s a highly sought for and highly paid speaker, he’s spoken for, by request, four different US Presidents. The New York Times cited Andy as “someone who has quietly become one of the most influential people in America.” I know Andy as someone many big influencers turn to for wisdom. He’s a sage, a jedi, of life changing lessons. He also recently launched a community called Wisdom Harbour, and I wanted to have a frank discussion on what he saw as primary cultural needs and from a business interest, why he created the Wisdom Harbour community in response to it. You’ll hear much of his answer is around cultural literacy, but I’m going to take you behind the scenes on why he crafted it the way he has. If this sounds a bit like a huge plug for his community…it is, but that is not the point. Most of you listening are in the business of influencing others and what I’m giving you is insight into one of our most prolific influencers, and how he’s pursuing his own influence, so you may glean from it. Andy is also headlining for Ziglar on May 19-20, 2022 as keynote speaker for the Ziglar Coach Summit in Frisco, TX which you can check out at ziglar.com/coachsummit. If you are or want to be a coach, don’t miss this. And check out more of what Andy is doing at WisdomHarbour.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#980: “Have you ever paid for personal coaching? What were the biggest turn-ons and turn-offs?” This is the question I posed to our listeners and the responses were very telling. Number one turn off? Having a strategy pushed on them without feeling heard and understood. A top turn on, individualized guidance. This is a show to help anyone interested in getting coaching or consulting to vet a prospective provider. And conversely it’s highly valuable for providers to hear what people really want. Tom Ziglar and I also talk at length about the differences between coaching and consulting which again will help people know which type of provider they want to hire, or which providers are best equipped to offer. Another big value topic we cover is understanding people are not so much choosing which coach or consultant to hire, but whether to hire one at all, as the greatest competition is doing nothing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#979: I’m back with Ethan Kross, author of Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. Ethan is a PhD and one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind which we discussed in episode 977. Here we walk through his personal habits for success and as all of our habits are generally achieved, or not, as a result of the winning voices in our heads, Ethan has some profound perspectives on how to achieve his habits. Perspectives you’ll be able to harness for yourself after listening to this show. Connect with Ethan at Ethankross.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#978: How you perceive people and institutions of power and their so called success influences you to the core. So this episode is not a mere discussion on world views and power and morals, but an audit of your own perspective and how it’s influencing you specifically, for better or worse. I was given a VIP ticket to see Jordan B Peterson and as he’s a significant person of influence as an author, speaker, podcaster, and youtuber, I went, out of interest from a few angles. His talk was based on his premise of, “Do not carelessly denigrate social institutions.” He discussed studies on power and bullying from rats to humans and cited the enforcement of absolute power seldom if ever creates success. In fact it generally results in being ostracized, and he did a deft job of turning our paradigms around. The discussion brings into acute question how we define success, and the influential spirit we carry forth regarding those we view in power. And our spirit is my focal point in this episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#977: It’s no secret we all have an inner voice, whether you speak it out loud, write letters in your head like I do, or it’s just the constant stream of thoughts and feelings running amok at all times. A frequent directive is to shut the voice up or ignore it. One this is impossible, and two, that voice is there for a reason and the opportunity we all have is to harness it for our personal success. Ethan Kross is a PhD and one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. Which I start the show pushing back on a bit…can we really do this? Ethan is an award-winning professor at the University of Michigan and its Ross School of Business and is the director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. Ethan has participated in policy discussion at the White House and has been interviewed on CBS Evening News, Good Morning America, Anderson Cooper Full Circle, and NPR's Morning Edition. I brought him on the show because I got a hold of his new book, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. That tagline is the hook…why it matters and how to harness it. Not shut it up or out. Connect with Ethan at Ethankross.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#976: I asked our audience this question, “If you're having surgery, do you want the absolute best surgeon working on you, or the one with the best moral character? How about an accountant? Car mechanic? Professor?” The responses added up to saying, it depends. Of course everyone would like both, but we have an older culture who generally says character and a younger generation who wants to be given credit for skill alone and I wanted to flesh out where we really put our personal values when it comes down to what we pay for, and what our customers will pay for. The issue was acute when I posed it, as I had a son going into a serious surgery. Do I want the nice doc to work on him, or the absolute best regardless? What it comes down to is not deciding which we’ll choose to lead with in our business and life, character or skill, but how we position ourselves in the public eye. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#975: Anthony Trucks became a player in the NFL because he followed certain successful habits day in and day out to a somewhat severe degree. The reason he lost his marriage and went bankrupt was from following other habits which didn’t produce such success. Today he talks about his habits progression and pulls out his quest to employ active and passive habits and gives us a great perspective on this distinction, and as you heard, how the good habits we associate our identity with are the most powerful. I highly recommend you listen to our first talk together in Ziglar Show episode 973 where we dig into identity, the message from his book, Identity Shift. Find Anthony’s book, courses and more at anthonytrucks.com and check out his podcast, Aww Shift Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#974: If you’ve seen the Matrix you remember the spark of the entire movie, when Neo takes the blue pill and he ends up in the construct of what he’s shown is a made up world. Inside here he sees himself dressed a certain way and is told he’s seeing himself as his residual self-image. And there you go. We all have this image of ourselves we believe is simply who we are. It’s our default mode and this is where we generally live unless something significant happens in our lives. Victor Serebriakoff (Sara bria koff) was labeled a dunce at 16 by a teacher and lived the next decade or more believing this, until a job test showed he was a genius, so be believed that too and went on to have many patents and serve as president of the Mensa society. We tend to be what others have said we are and what we’ve agreed with. Unfortunately most of us will never have someone say we are a dunce or a genius and we’ll just go along being…whatever. It’s up to us to claim what we can be and start seeing ourselves differently. This was the message from my previous episode, #973, with Anthony Trucks, and in this episode Tom Ziglar and I talk through it. I actually asked our listeners this question, “Thinking of a primary goal or two you have...can you actually see yourself there? Can you envision yourself as the person in that new reality? Or are you just going after it anyway? Examples: Making that much money, owning and running a business owner, being at that weight, etc...?” This question got very few responses compared to the boatload we often receive. Why? I believe it’s because we don't’ take the time and give focus to our desires for progress, in regards to envisioning ourselves there. And thus we often don’t make…much progress. Thus, why we give it focus today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#973: The self-help and personal development world gives primary focus to increasing our performance so we can achieve greater successes in our lives. And it’s true we all are capable of more. Nobody is performing at their max capacity. But we won’t outperform the level of ability we believe about ourselves and all we have to go on is the proof of what we have and haven’t done thus far. It brings to mind Roger Banister breaking the four minute mile mark in running, which was deemed humanly impossible, but more importantly the four other runners who then did it within a year. All that changed is once they believed running a sub four minute mile was possible, they did it. Prior, they could not. Most of us are sitting where we are and desiring greater performance from ourselves but unable to see ourselves being at a higher level. If someone came along and ran a diagnostic test on us and said they had proof we could do it we would in short order. But that won’t likely happen, so how can we get ourselves to really see ourselves as a higher performer? To have a performance upgrade we need an upgrade to our identity. I have Anthony Trucks on with me in this episode to talk about it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#972: Have you ever fully considered exactly why you work at the job you have now? Or why you chose the career you’re in? Or even why you have the current business you own? I asked this question to Ziglar listeners, which by the way I invite you to give your feedback, just friend me on facebook at agentkmiller. The responses ranged from the valiant and purposeful intent to save the world to the admission it was just a direction they were pushed or fell into. The latter doesn’t mean they ended up in a bad place, but the exercise itself caused a lot of pondering. It may cause you to feel confirmed, or uncover it’s time to think about why you’re doing what you are and consider if this is where you want to be and remain. So join Tom Ziglar and I as we talk through some of the comments and the realities of why we all end up doing the work we do, and how to pursue the work we actually want to do. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with NYT bestselling author and top TED speaker, Dan Pink to walk through his personal habits for success, and this habits show had a twist. Coming off our talk in episode 969 where we discussed regrets, which is the topic of his brand new book, The Power of Regret, I asked him how his research on regrets changed any of his habits. What you heard in that intro clip was him leading off with his top one, Connection regrets, and now reaching out to people more. We hit on some other habits he’s changed as a result of this regrets focus, such as he realized in the Foundation regrets piece he’s actually been too frugal over his lifetime. I also found the irony in him citing he lived in a busy urban area and prefers running on a treadmill, especially since he fell on a sidewalk while running and now has a bent pinky. Dan Pink with…a bent pinky. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Following up from my conversation with Dan Pink regarding the message in his new book, “The Power of Regrets”, Tom Ziglar and I went through the exercise of listing out some of our regrets and what we learned from them. And are still learning. And finding some regrets where we haven’t fully considered the lessons learned, which is very much the point. As Dan Pink points out in his book, regrets have power when we use them to learn, as opposed to denying them and being a “no regrets” person, or wallowing in them and living in guilt and shame. This episode really helped bring Tom and I to revisiting our past mistakes and what we have learned or can be learning. I think you’ll gain some insight you can benefit from to redeem your past mistakes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#969: “No regrets” is an American slogan along with “No Fear” and “Just Do It.” Yet more often than not we don’t just do it, having no fear is psychopathic, and having no regrets means you have no sorrow for ever hurting anyone or making a mistake. Regret is simply recognizing sadness or disappointment about something we did we wish we hadn’t, or we didn’t do and wish we had, and Dan Pink’s research showcases it’s a massive power if we’ll recognize it and learn from it. Not as he said, reject it or wallow in it. This is my second time having Dan on the show. He’s a multi-best selling author, and when I say best selling, I don’t mean one day on an obscure Amazon book category like Amish Romance, but the actual New York Times bestseller list. You’ll likely recognize his books such as A Whole New Mind, Drive, To Sell Is Human, and When. His books have sold millions of copies, have been translated into forty-two languages. He also has a TED talk titled “The Puzzle of Motivation” which has somewhere north of 30 million views. Dan is an author like Brene’ Brown who leads with research, and he’s now turned his focus to regrets with his new book, The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward. I asked him bak on the show the moment I saw the book title and you’re about to hear me dig in with him on how we can harness regret for our progress, not suffer or run from it. Find The Power of Regret anywhere you get books and connect with Dan at danpink.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#968: Tom Ziglar is a very sought after speaker and as he just returned from one engagement and was preparing for another and talking to me about the topics, I asked him to have a conversation with me about it and to share it with you. He discussed the “perfect start” concept he shared with an association of county fair leaders, the “pre” pre-call planning he will be discussing with a group of sales professionals, and the lessons from the near tragedy of Qantas Flight 32 he just wanted us all to hear, which was a focus in planning the intent and outcome we have for every human engagement we have. We kick off with a little shop talk on public speaking you will want to hear if you are in the business of influencing! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#967: I wanted to talk about calling. I keep seeing people get wrapped up in trying to find…feeling they must find, this elusive, one-thing, holy grail calling on their life and I wanted to relieve the tension and pressure and showcase that our ultimate calling or purpose is not so narrow. It’s something everyone has and it’s something you do in all roles of your life. This frees you up from thinking you have one, special application to apply this…calling. And what is a true calling anyway? So I brought on one of the world’s premier experts on the subject, especially as it relates to your vocation, job, career, business…however you label it. That expert is…Dan Miller. Yes. We’re related. He’s my Dad. Bestselling author and renowned career coach of 48 Days To The Work You Love. Finding your calling and supporting it in your work is what he’s devoted his life to. You can find out more at 48days.com. Dig in more with each episode at kevinmiller.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#966: Anyone listening to this show is interested in giving and serving people. This is where we find our greatest fulfillment of purpose. We serve our families, friends, and everyone we can through our work, and some go further and volunteer in different capacities. But how do we view serving? Is it a zero sum game? Is it like Shel Silverstein’s book, The Giving Tree, and every piece we give away we lose until we are nothing but a stump? In this episode we take aim at this. Not whether to give and serve or not, but the spirit in which we do it. Do we treat it like a privilege and joy? Or a burden. My opinion is…we are all on the spectrum between these two perspectives and higher and lower in some areas we serve. And when we get closer to burden, we are risking bitterness and burnout. Is it more valiant to press on and give out of the scraps we have left in our heart? Or sometimes, stop. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#965: I’m back with actress and personal development leader, Brianna Brown Keen and we walk through her personal habits for success. Brianna is a paid performer, so no matter what, she has to show up ready and able to act and look a certain way. Thus in some aspects, her habits are more tangibly critical for her job. Many of us can show up for a day of work and be a bit…underperforming. But when you’re literally on stage or camera, this is not possible. So it makes her daily habits interesting. Of interest, today we had our live zoom call in my Driven To Live community, and a member who is a pastor said when he first saw my previous show with Brianna, episode 963, and her being an actress and not my usual personal development author, he said he almost skipped the show. But he listened, and felt multiple things she shared were, as he put it, a valid sermon. And he’s going to listen a second time. This is why I had Brianna on the show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#964: What attributes distinguish you as an individual? We all judge ourselves by our intentions, while everyone else judges us by how they experience us. We don’t like that word. Judge. But we all do it. Even in as much grace and acceptance as we can muster, we still experience people in ways that attract or detract us from them, and cause us to trust or distrust them. And everyone is doing the same with us. We’re talking about our character, and after recording this show I’m going to say, our perceived character, as you’ll hear us discuss that we can’t cite what our true character is, only others can. And from it we get more or less opportunity in life and work. More or less relationships. More or less success and love even. This topic is foundational to all we want, as our perceived character is foundational for all we are. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Power and influence is an interesting thing to ponder. Today, who has more power? Politicians or people in the media? Former actor and now literally top podcaster, Joe Rogan, may have more individual influence on the planet than anyone. At least more reach. However, this isn’t an episode about power as much as it is about using your platform, whatever it is, to benefit people. Brianna Brown Keen is an accomplished actress, appearing in more than 20 feature films and 30 television shows. She defines her acting role as being “paid to pretend” and cites being in the business of rejection. But we talk about everyone having the opportunity to have art in what they do, and to express themselves. In doing so, you put yourself out there. At risk. But our most fulfilling success is from just that, self expression. Along with being a present day, working actress, Brianna has produced an initiative and book called Manifesting Your Mission where she guides entrepreneurs in doing just that, making true progress toward your goals. And she brings her unique perspective from Hollywood where self-expression, rejection, and acclaim are in a very heightened and exaggerated form. But it’s a relevant depiction of the real lives we all lead. Connect with Brianna at mym.briannabrownkeen.com. Dig in more with each episode at kevinmiller.co. And if you are a coach or want to become one, let the Ziglar family empower you at www.ziglar.com/CoachLeadershipProgram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#962: Zig Ziglar famously quoted, “Expect the best, prepare for the worst. Capitalize on what comes.” In this episode we dig into the reality this conveys. We all know well the success concepts of committing to something. Never quitting. Being resolute and convicted. Persevering. It’s what success and legendary successes are made of, right? And if there is a so-called failure, it’s not truly failure if we learn something and can redeem it with the experiential wisdom or if it helps lead us on to the thing that does work. But sometimes we have an effort that just flat out does not work. And if we’ve invested a lot, we can find ourselves in dire straits. So, should we prepare for failure? Have a backup plan or a plan B? Or does that defy the faith in success we’re supposed to have? Dig in more with each episode at kevinmiller.co. And if you are a coach or want to become one, let the Ziglar family empower you at www.ziglar.com/CoachLeadershipProgram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#961: I’m back with Niyc Pidgeon, positive psychologist and renowned success coach who I had on the show previously in episode 959. This is my habits show and we walk through her personal habits. Niyc has 30 employees and 5,000 clients and you could readily expect to find her as the hard charging woman on top of success as the result of working 18 hour days who will sleep when she dies. As you heard in the intro clip, I asked her where she saw herself in this perspective and you heard her reply, which is in essence to see how successful can she be, but how easy can she make it. She’s a great example of someone who invests a lot in her self care in order to fuel her capacity for her own high performance and inspiring the high performance of everyone she works with. You’ll be inspired and equipped by this conversation. You can connect with Niyc Pidgeon and get her book, Now Is Your Chance, for free, at https://www.nowisyourchancebook.com. If you want to go beyond merely listening and join our community of people devoted to making positive change in their life and work, come over to kevinmiller.co and join my Driven To Live Community. Go from listening to this podcast episode about Niyc Pidgeon’s habits for success to discussing how you might want to bolster your own habits. And recently I had some testimonies from listeners who really like to watch the episodes, who feel they get more by seeing my guests talk. You can do this at youtube.com/kevinmillerco Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#960 This is a sales class, pure and simple. And if you know Zig Ziglar at all you know his claim was we are all in sales. True sales is figuring out what people really need and helping them get it. This was prompted by Ziglar Show podcast listener Adam Reid who sent this in, “I am a sales rep for DHL Express Canada and I help businesses in the Saskatchewan market set up accounts to help send and receive their products all around the world. It is a great job to have and the Ziglar show has really helped me develop my skills and experience in selling. As a listener to your show and a professional working in sales, one thing that I think would be helpful to listeners like me is to create an episode with Tom Ziglar about uncovering needs. As a sales professional in my industry this is a big part of building trust and helping developing a relationship with customers in my territory. As a frequent listener to your show there is a theme that is often discussed about solving the customer’s problems, yet I haven’t been able to hear your take on it. I think if you were able to do a deeper take on solving the customer’s problems this would be very beneficial to the audience.” So, in this episode, that’s just what we did. We gave our take on it, led by master sales trainer, Tom Ziglar himself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#959: In this episode, where therapy gives much focus to our past, modern day success coaching is focused primarily just on the future. A great fusion I found is what’s termed as “positive psychology.” As my guest, Niyc Pidgeon says, positive psychology looks at what is going right in our world, instead of what’s going wrong, but it also gives great gravity to our emotions and past traumas. The key however is harnessing it for our benefit instead of allowing it to diminish us. Niyc Pidgeon is an author, award winning positive psychologist, high performance coach, and investor and as you’ll experience in our following conversation, she’s an insightful and vivacious thought-leader who has had a profound impact on some big influencers, including Elon Musk. Niyc’s muse and the focus of her new book, Now Is Your Chance, is what perspectives will enable us to continue instead of quit? How will we better respond if we consider our commitments in regards to what will happen if we don’t do them versus if we do? Her perspective flies in the face of today’s negative media influences that are dragging much of the culture down and she gives us a breath of fresh air regarding how to turn our challenges into opportunities. You can connect with Niyc and get her book for free, at https://www.nowisyourchancebook.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#958: Mental health is a top trending issue, so this is what I asked the Ziglar audience, “Mental health problems are spinning out of control, led by anxiety and depression. What do you feel is to blame?” We got well over 100, in depth responses, and it’s of interest that this comes from an audience that is less likely to blame and more likely to take responsibility. Yet there is emotion behind the answers. My interest however was not a mere survey, but to assess how we see the culture regarding mental health, and how our perception is affecting us. I can summarize the results into two categories, lack of a personal foundation, and too much exposure to negativity. Before you brush it off thinking your foundation is 100% and your exposure is moderate or benign…I challenge you. As in talking here with Tom Ziglar and later with my Driven To Live members, I’m convinced I am no unscatched here. I feel this episode will inform you to help yourself and gain some quality insight to help others with… Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#957: We’re back with Ron Friedman, renowned psychologist and author of Decoding Greatness: How the Best in the World Reverse Engineer Success, where he takes aim at the concept greatness is made up only of talent and/or hard work, catch us discussing it in episode 955 of The Ziglar Show. Today we walk through his habits for success, which as you heard in the intro, showcase how he personally decodes his life and gets different perspectives on even this, his habits. It’s an interesting discussion to hear what perspective drove him to work for himself, as he assessed the risk was greater to work for someone else. We’ll be talking about this further over to kevinmiller.co in my Driven To Live Community. Go from listening to this podcast episode to discussing and implementing the principles. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#956: What goals are we actually excited about? It’s the start of a new year and most aspiring people are taking time to think about goals for the new year. In this episode I wanted to address the emotions behind them, as this speaks to our motive and whether we’ll likely see the goals through, abandon them, or achieve them with collateral damage. I did a survey showcasing 12 categories of goals, from money to health to experiences and asked what people were actually excited about. I’ll tip you off by sharing the area of life people were most excited about is…experiences. What should that mean to our priorities? Tom Ziglar and I had a discussion on the results and what it means to our overall joy, fulfillment, and success when we are habitually not engaging in what excites us and instead in what does not bring us inspiration. It is not a call out to abandon anything that doesn’t excite you, but rather to consider how we could attach more joy to everything, and increase time spent in our greatest excitements. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#955: The two primary ingredients we think of in regards to success, is talent and hard work. Greatness comes from having above average talent and putting in your 10,000 hours. Yet if we audit everyone who has achieved relative success, we find many, maybe even most, who do not have either of these. So what did they do? They just figured out what works and modeled it. Ron Friedman is an award-winning psychologist and from his research in neuroscience, human physiology and behavioral economics wrote a book on what he found in regards to this issue, called Decoding Greatness: How the Best in the World Reverse Engineer Success. In this show I dig in and question Ron on how we can all use this reality to better embrace and accelerate our opportunities and success. For those who get the book, if you’ll go to decodinggreatnessbook.com and submit your receipt Ron will give you access to “The Reverse Engineering Success Masterclass” course. You can join like minded people in my Driven To Live private community to discuss how to decode your own greatness, come over to kevinmiller.co and go from listening to participating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#954: In our last show of 2021 Tom Ziglar and I take to task, goals. It’s time for New Year’s resolutions and goal setting for all the aspiring people of the world. Truth is, the idea of setting goals is a downer for many. It comes with guilt and doubt, and at the root is…what drives us. Or not. Our motive. My intent is to free you from some goals, and amp your motive for others. Naming a goal you have or a problem you want to solve is a beginning. It’s a map in front of you. But the journey is getting into something that will actually transport you there. This is your motive. Do you really want to achieve the goal? Why? What does arriving at it look like? Is it really that important to you? Conversely, what if you don’t make it? Is that ok? If so, maybe it’s not necessary. Are you driven by desire? Or is the better, more true motive, pain and fear? Some of my goals are driven by what I deem a healthy fear. The point is knowing why you have a goal and what is actually driving you and discerning which goals really matter and which you can be free of. If you want to join like minded people and get feedback and support on working out this topic I invite you to join our community of people devoted to making positive change in their life and work, come over to kevinmiller.co and join my Driven To Live Community. Go from listening to this podcast episode on goals and motives and engage. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#953: We’re back with Jonathan Fields, host of the top podcast, the Good Life Project. He has a new work focused profile you can take at sparketype.com, just this morning I asked a couple friends to take it, as I wanted them to know if for themselves, and I was curious where they’d land. I really appreciate the profile, and Jonathan uncovers more about it in his new book, Sparked, which I also recommend. In this episode I walk with Jonathan through his personal habits for success, and as you heard in the intro, Jonathan is a deep and intimate thinker, which is what people love about him. I think you’ll be touched and inspired by what he shares. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#952: The sales process is no longer what it used to be. In the past sales people were needed to inform and educate and fully showcase a product or service to people who came in with a desire, but were pretty ignorant. Today nearly all sales happen online with no need for a so-called sales person. With any product or service we can fully research it. Compare it. Get unbiased user reviews. All that’s left is deciding from which person or company we’ll make our purchase from. So how do we all adjust for this new scenario? That’s what Tom Ziglar and I discuss in this episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#951: There are key, intrinsic activities and aspects of work that truly make you come alive and within which are your greatest opportunities for top level success, and your greatest fulfillment and joy. But we don’t tend to realize what they are. We attribute them to a specific job or business and the roles we had, the product or service we were involved with, the people included. But nearly every job or business ends or significantly changes and we lose it and try to recreate it based on those external ingredients. And often can’t recreate it. Why? Because those are not the right ingredients. To showcase what the right ingredients are, I have Jonathan Fields back on the show. Jonathan was with me years ago and we talked about his book, How To Live A Good Life. He has a really big podcast called the Good Life Project, and now he’s put together a work profile you can take for free at sparketype.com, and he goes deep into what sparks us in our work, in his new book, Sparked. If you want to go beyond merely listening and join our community of people devoted to making positive change in their life and work, come over to kevinmiller.co and join my Driven To Live Community. Go from listening to this podcast episode with Jonathan Sparks and join us to talk and grapple with and apply the concepts to your life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#950: You have problems in your life that need solving. You have goals for your life that require decisions. The greatest minds of all time budgeted specific time in their days to simply…think. To really sit and without input or distraction, think. To use the machine of their brain to crunch the data and consider the options and do what nobody or nothing else could do for them. The great art and ideas we all benefit from and applaud came from someone who took the time to think them up. To fertilize the seeds of their mind, nourish and nurture, and come forth to bear fruit. If we want great solutions and ideas and actions, we must take time to sit and…think. Here is the concern. In his book, 2 Chairs, author Bob Beaudine who I recently had breakfast with, calls us to spend time listening to God. Setting a chair in front of us and trusting God knows what our needs are, then sitting to listen for his direction. What is the primary obstacle here? Trusting you’ll actually hear from God. My concern is when it comes down to it, we doubt that our thinking…our listening to ourselves, will actually result in anything. Instead we clamber to hear from others so they’ll tell us what to do. This isn’t a call for self-sufficiency. Just a budget. We take in input. We take in counsel. And…we think on it all. Deeply and with faith and expectation. Next Tom Ziglar and I have a conversation on this issue. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#949: Tuesdays with Morrie is the bestselling memoir of all time, selling over 15 million copies. Best-selling author, screenwriter, playwright and nationally-syndicated columnist Mitch Albom has now sold over 40 million of his combined books. In this episode he comes to us to discuss his latest, The Stranger In The Lifeboat. The moment I saw the request to have Mitch with me for a the show I simply replied with a resounding, “Yes! Of course.” I didn’t need anything new from him. That said, this new book and the message within is just…incredible. It’s an enthralling story with a powerful message, which is indicative of Mitch, who gets billed as writing messages where the spiritual and the earthly collide, and they sure did in The Stranger In The Lifeboat. I start us off simply talking about personal transformation. Mitch had his own radical life change that resulted in the Tuesdays With Morrie book and in the 20+ years since then, this has been his devotion. What does it take to transform a life? Our lives? That’s what this episode is about. We got…deep. Into the very tenets of faith and our cultural views of God, and our personal lives. It was a significant discussion, and it’s coming up next. Get Mitch’s new book, The Stranger In The Lifeboat, wherever you get books. And you’ll hear him mention an orphanage in Haiti he literally took over Havefaithhaiti.org. And when you hear some of the significant issues of our lives we cover in this episode, I invite you to join our community where we go…deeper. Into meaningful conversations and how to apply what we hear, to our lives. To our transformation. Find my Driven To Live community at kevinmiller.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#948: I asked the Ziglar audience, “To make progress in your work/career/business/vocation; if you had a willing angel investor, what investment or action would you put money toward?” Tom Ziglar and I talked through the listener comments and it was really insightful for us all to consider… where we really feel the priority is, for making progress in our work and businesses. The top three areas cited were Marketing, such as ad copy and social media, physical resources like land and tools, and people, staff and team members. Go beyond just listening to this episode of The Ziglar Show and join me and a group of aspiring people like yourself to dig into the topics and actually apply the messages to your life. Come to kevinmiller.co/community, get my Drive Formula for free, and join the Driven To Live Community. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#947: We are back with Jon Acuff, the New York Times bestselling author of seven books, including his most recent, Soundtracks, The Surprising Solution To Overthinking, which we had a deep conversation about in episode 945. In this episode we dig into his habits for success, which as you heard in his intro, include keeping queso out of the house, which I completely understand. I have a friend who calls it liquid love and I’m prone to ODing on it as well. This references my friend Ben Hardy’s book, “Willpower Doesn’t Work” and the reality that our willpower is finite and instead of relying on it to not eat all the queso, we set up our environment for success and just not have it available. Listen in as I ask Jon about his primary habits following the Ziglar Wheel of Life, and you can get Jon's new book Soundtracks wherever you get books and connect further with him at acuff.me. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#946: “What are the top 3 leadership challenges you see in business, as a business owner or as an employee?” This is the question I posed to our audience. The comments were varied and valuable. Tom Ziglar is becoming a go to expert on what began as a topic of disruption, then recently onto the aspect of “the great resignation” but Tom is rising to acclaim as he looks at it as the “great reimagination.” Here however, with all the responses, you’ll hear most of them coming down to...relationships. The primary leadership challenges point to simply relating to one another with actual care. But as we come to again and again, the workplace so often misses the fact that it’s about people and not business. We take this head on in the following episode. To fully grasp and take advantage of this opportunity in your own leadership...pre-order Tom Ziglar’s new book, 10 Leadership Virtues for Disruptive Times, right now at 10leadershipvirtuesbook.com. Go there now and download a chapter for free. 10leadershipvirtuesbook.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#945: Jon Acuff is the New York Times bestselling author of seven books, including his most recent, Soundtracks, The Surprising Solution To Overthinking, which is our muse today. This is the second time I've had Jon on The Ziglar Show and he has a knack for bringing profound personal development messages to us in an entertaining and highly digestible perspective. I admire his way to connect with where people are in the reality of their lives. A reality that as you're about to hear, he says we manufacture, and I sincerely agree. In this episode you'll hear us dig into issues such as; We think our memory is a GoPro recording of “reality”, when in fact we're just filtering it through our own cognitive bias, one that has a quick decline in memory consistency. But we base our beliefs on it. Jon asks, “Why is it so easy to repeat negative soundtracks about myself internally and so hard to repeat positive soundtracks about myself externally?” The premise of his new book and message is we are living from soundtracks in our mind we often need to Retire, Replace, then Repeat with the new ones, over and over. Jon discusses with me how our brain builds on overthinking’s habit of negativity by doing three additional things: Lying about your memories, confusing fake trauma with real trauma, and believing what it already believes. And we start in on his insight into no single good event in our life has as much lasting impact as trauma. So...what do we do with it? That is what you're about to hear about. Find Jon's new book Soundtracks wherever you get books and connect further with him at acuff.me. Come join me in my new Driven To Live community at driventolive.co where we go beyond just listening to these podcasts, and we engage with other driven people...to ask questions and have real conversations on how to actually apply the incredible wisdom we hear, to our own lives as we seek to transform ourselves into our full capacity. My guest in this episode is Jon Acuff and you're about to hear what drives him and a message that is worth digging into. Join us to dig in, at driventolive.co. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#944: I like mind games because I think that’s what life primarily is. In this episode I wanted to get us focused on what counsel we most desire if it was critical. I asked the Ziglar audience this question; “You must spend 2 hours with someone for pure Q&A, you ask questions, they give answers. Who do you choose? And why?” People came back with answer such as Adam Grant, Matthew McConaughey, anyone in congress, Caesar Augustus, Ronald Reagan, any former president, Stephen Curry, Jordan Peterson, Elon Musk, Gary Vaynerchuk, Andy Andrews, C.S. Lewis and many others. But for more important than who is...why. To think, like with a genie in a bottle if you were to get one wish, if you could get two hours of counsel with anyone, and I did ask it to be a mortal, even if deceased, who would it be and why, with the why really helping give you focus on what your top priority for help and growth is in your life today. Whether you could truly meet with that person or not, it sheds light on where you now spend your counsel budget. Even if it’s listening to podcasts or reading books, are you giving this area of focus priority? This is our show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#943: How would Zig Ziglar’s kid build a business? What you’re about to hear is a grassroots story from Julie Ziglar Norman, Zig Ziglar’s eldest daughter. If you were fortunate enough to hear one of Zig’s last talks, he was always accompanied by Julie to keep him on the target of his message after his fall that would find him sometimes repeating himself. Following his death and the death of her husband, Julie started a career in real estate. Especially for you fans of Ziglar with a fondness to hear how he inspired not only hundreds of millions of people, but his own family, you will be comforted and inspired by this. Tom Ziglar and I talk with Julie and her business partner Heather Prichard and hear the story of building a business on the Ziglar principles of integrity and ethics, which along with being the right thing to do, is also...the most profitable. This will be confirming for many of you as you can sometimes get the feeling that doing the right thing will be nice but lose money. You can find Julie and Heather at https://www.ziglarrealty.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#942: Which is good news, as that’s a lot of pressure. As you’ll hear in this show, we are all co-creators standing on the shoulders of everyone who we have gleaned from, whether it’s a parent, mentor, coach, or author. The big opportunity is we don’t have to invent something new. And in truth, nobody does. Everything we know, we got from someone. We get to build on it, or just give a different perspective or insight on it, or somethings simply introduce it to others, and get paid for it. Think of the big awards shows such as the Emmys, Grammys, Oscars, and Tony Awards . What do the winners do? What is the point of them taking the stage? To recognize everyone who helped them get the win. I start us off with a 2.5 minute message from Zig Ziglar telling the story of two of the winningest college football teams who don’t focus on individual accomplishment, but team accomplishment. Then Tom Ziglar and I discuss how we are all part of a team, even if you are a solopreneur, your team is all those who again, you have and are gleaning from, every day. It’s not all on you, and that’s good news. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#941: I’m back with Diana Pavlac Glyer, the award winning writer who spent 40 years studying all things C.S. Lewis and J.R.R Tolkien with a special focus on the power of their infamous writer’s group, The Inklings. We’re back for part two as I focus on taking the essence of what propelled these writers to bring monumental works such as Lord of The Rings and Chronicles of Narnia, and discussing how we can emulate them to get our greatest works out of ourselves, by helping get them out of each other. I am taking Diana’s research and counsel to heart and putting structure into place so I can spur and spar with peers and help each other further our respective efforts. I’m banding together with fellow influencers; authors, speakers, podcasters, coaches, consultants, leaders, agents, to help each other increase our influence and expand our reach. You can review it at drivencounsel.com, where you are welcome to inquire for your own interest with me, or if you are looking for a different makeup of a mastermind group. You can dig into Diana’s research on The Inklings in her new book, Bandersnatch, available wherever you get your books. Coming up next...Diana Pavlac Glyer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#940: We have feelings and emotions we can’t control. We might be able to control our reactions and responses, but our thoughts...they often run amuck. In this episode I pulled out a well known quote from Napoleon Hill, which reads, “You have absolute control over just one thing, your thoughts. This divine gift is the sole means by which you may control your destiny. If you fail to control your mind, you will control nothing else.” But Tom Ziglar and I take the quote to task. Having absolute control over your thoughts is not...something most of us feel we have. Whether it’s even possible is highly debatable. It is however, something we can grow towards, every day. I asked some of my members in my community, which you can find at driventolive.co, their thoughts. Tom and I talk through it, and the point is to have compassion for the reality we do not, have absolute control over our thoughts, but there are methods we can be training in to have more and more every day, and doing so is possibly the most powerful asset of our lives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#939: Mastermind groups are very popular, but so is dissatisfaction with them. The benefit is peers coming together to provide support and counsel to each other and to do so effectively requires trust, structure, and some deft facilitating. Diana Pavlac Glyer has intimately researched one of the most successful and well known mastermind groups of all time, which interestingly did not at all call and maybe didn’t even consider itself as such; The Inklings. The Inklings are an infamous group of authors who came together in the 1930s, headlined by C.S. Lewis and J.R.R. Tolkien. At face value they had informal gatherings over 14 years at Magdalen College in Oxford, and a local pub. But as Diana uncovers in her book, Bandersnatch, what you’ll see is these men were intrinsically involved in each other's work and not only spurred each other on, but actually sparred with each other. Diana greatly dispels what she refers to as, “the myth of the solitary genius.” The charge and takeaway from this conversation is the opportunity and great benefit we can derive from investing in other’s pursuits, but not simply for their reciprocity, but what we directly receive from devoting attention to the endeavors of our peers. I was so convicted by Diana’s research and the benefit, I’ve put together my own, new mastermind, called the Driven Counsel, you can find it at drivencounsel.com, and the point is coming together to help each other on what we are most striving to progress in with our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#938: Tom Ziglar recently quipped during a recording, “Do my core beliefs limit or unleash my potential?” It stopped me, as the question itself flips our paradigm. We inherently think our beliefs are simply based on facts. That’s what a belief is, right? And yet what we find in the following conversation is our beliefs can be held in a way that as Tom said, limits us, or unleashes our potential. And it’s not mere semantics, if you are willing to consider our beliefs are not based on proven fact, but on decided choice. That does not negate an absolute truth like gravity, and for those of you who are thinking spiritually, this is why it’s called having a faith, not having a proof. This show has the potential to jack up your doctrine, but elevate your capability. If this episode sparks questions you want to dig in further on and take the topic from hearing to truly learning and applying, come join my new community at driventolive.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#937: I’m back with neuroscientist Dr Amishi Jha who schooled us on the power of our attention and what we give it to, in episode 935. This time we talk through her personal habits for success. As you heard in the intro from her, we got into meta awareness, which to me brought me back to something comedian Michael Jr said to me in our recent show together, where he referenced “thinking about what he’s thinking about.” Being aware. Being present in the moment but realizing our reality is moment by moment and not to get so hung up on any one point. It speaks to me of holding things lightly, which is a current focal point of mine. You’ll find this and other powerful nuggets in this short episode. Find Amishi’s book, Peak Mind, wherever you get your books. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#936: I asked the Ziglar audience this question, “If I asked you to tell me the positive attributes of someone in your life whom you like and respect, you'd easily do it. However, if I asked you to rattle off the positive attributes of yourself, how does it initially feel? Can you readily conceive of it or does it set you back a bit?” The responses were compelling. Almost everyone said it caused them to pause. Tom Ziglar and I talked through the comments and I feel the episode turns things upside down with how we view humility and egotism. Following the recording of this show we talked about this issue of why we struggle to speak to our own attributes in my Driven To Live community, which you haven’t heard about yet because I haven’t publicly launched it… But what occurred to me is we spend our lives being quote, humble, so as to not seem egotistical. We generally go further and make a habit of minimizing ourselves and we can’t even take a compliment. But when it’s time to get a job or start a business and appeal to a bank or investor, or try to sell ourselves as a coach, we are flush with long lists of our accomplishments and attributes. But aside from that, we diminish and deny what we know we are good at. Why? I’m going to que up a :50 second clip from Zig Ziglar on the issue, then Tom Ziglar and I will walk you through the convicting comments. We’d love your comments as well, just find me on Facebook at agentkmiller. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#935: Dr. Amish Jha is a professor of psychology at the University of Miami. She serves as the Director of Contemplative Neuroscience for the Mindfulness Research and Practice Initiative. Dr. Jha’s work has been featured at NATO, the World Economic Forum, The Dalai Lama's Vision Summit, and The Pentagon. She has received coverage in The New York Times, NPR, TIME, Forbes and more. She is the author of Peak Mind, which we discuss in this show. She has spent the last 25 years researching the science of attention through extensive work with the US Military, medical professionals, elite sports teams, and more to answer this question. Her TED Talk on "How to Tame Your Wandering Mind" has over 5 million views Here’s the deal...think of the world of business and marketing, but then the role of parents and teachers, and you readily hear the phrase of, “How can I get their attention?!” Today we spend everyday tuned in to screens whose sole purpose is to get our attention, to the degree we now must make a focus on, “How do I get my own attention?” Our attention is in many ways, the only power we have. The only thing we have an influence and impact on, the only thing we can help or find success in or enjoy, is what we give out attention to. We all know the concept of budgeting our money, and our time. Now we’re faced with budgeting our attention, and if we can’t control our attention, all hope is lost toward much progress in our lives. Find Amishi’s book, Peak Mind, wherever you get your books. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#943: Zig shares with us that while earthquakes and hurricanes get all the press, much more damage is done overall by termites, who take such small bites we can’t even detect it with the human eye. But take enough over time and they can completely destroy a home. Now take that on a positive spin and it’s the small, consistent, and sometimes seemingly innocuous things we do everyday that lead to our greatest successes. As a past pro cyclist you will benefit far more from spreading your allotted training time over the week and do some every day, than to do one or two monster sessions on the weekends. I asked the Ziglar audience, “What is a tiny step or deposit you take nearly every day that pays great dividends in the long term?” Tom Ziglar and I talked through the comments to shed light on what small, daily steps people like you and me are doing to revolutionize their lives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#933: I bring you the habits of former Chipotle co-CEO, Monty Moran. As you hear in the intro, he provides a significant perspective on the concept of what we’d say is doing the right thing, but relating it to our very tangible self interest. If flies in the face of authoritative leadership and management principles the corporate world was originally based on. Which of course is why his story of taking Chipotle from its humble beginnings to it’s meteoric success is so intriguing. Also in this episode you’ll hear him discuss his habits for mental health. He said he often wakes, feeling the weight of the world on his shoulders, and like a failure. Which is interesting for a guy who seems so successful, don’t you think? Would you feel like a failure if you were worth three or four hundred million dollars? Monty shares how he strives to practice compassion on himself. He says he tries to make friends with his feelings, and when he wakes with foreboding, to, “Hold my own troubles in a kind and accepting way.” Here is an offering from Monty, if you go to loveisfree.com you can buy his book, Love Is Free, Guac Is Extra,” and he’ll write whatever you want in it and send it to you. Coming up next...I bring you Monty Moran.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#932: Look at all the people you follow and let influence you. They are known for something specific, but so often in our business and personal pursuits, we miss this point. It doesn’t mean that thing is all you can offer, but it gives people a needed reference point if you’re to stand out from the crowd at all. Examples from guests on my podcasts: - Dave Ramsey is known for guidance to financial peace and health - James Clear for developing good Habits - Dan Miller, for finding work you love - Pete Vargas, for mastering and leveraging the stage - John O’Leary, for overcoming adversity I asked the Ziglar audience, “Vocationally, what area(s) of expertise would you like to be known for?” It is a powerful exercise and Tom Ziglar and I read through comments and discussed this important topic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#931: In this episode I’m joined by Monty Moran, former Co-CEO of Chipotle. He joined them when they had 8 stores and left after there were over 2,500 and their valuation grew from a few million to $23 billion over his decade with the company. What is interesting is what he cites as the key to the success, and it came from one-on-one conversations with employees, and connecting the company mission, to theirs. He did this 20,000 times. It sounds altruistic, but look at Chipotle’s ridiculous success. In our businesses we are told to have a mission. A “why” as Simon Sinek teaches. Then communicate it to the employees. But do they really care? They care about their personal mission, and that is what Monty connected to. And this is what we discuss in this episode. It’s the crux of his book, with one of my favorite titles ever, “Love Is Free, Guac Is Extra,” which, this is cool, go to Loveisfree.com and buy the book and he’ll write whatever you want in it and send it to you. Monty lives up in Boulder Colorado and a few weeks ago while I was in Leadville on a getaway, he flew over and we had a 3.5 hour breakfast talking about ideas to change the world. He’s just a quality, enthusiastic, insightful guy and I’m so glad to bring his message to you right now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#930: Even with the best intent we often find ourselves “telling and selling” to influence others. Whether it's to get someone interested in our product or service, trying to express our opinion and perspective on social media, or striving to get employees, coworkers, or our kids to do something. We convince and convince and convince and get frustrated with our lack of influence. In this episode I play a clip from Zig Ziglar where he schools us on giving up the convincing and instead, persuading. And how do you best persuade? By asking questions that help the listener lead themselves to the desired conclusion. This gives them ownership. I asked our audience, “What is a primary question you can ask people that lets them, and you, know if they are a relevant candidate for your product or service?” Tom Ziglar and I talk through the comments to further unveil the power of asking relevant questions to serve both you and whoever you are looking to...persuade. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#929: I’m back with Jeff Brown who was with me in episode 927 to talk about the message of his podcast and book, both titled, “Read To Lead”, where our focus was the power of reading and specifically reading to learn, for our daily opportunity to learn and grow and increase our ability and opportunity. This is my habits episode and we talk and walk through Jeff’s daily habits for success. As you heard in the intro clip I lead the show off with, Jeff gave a big testimony to the power of mastermind groups in his life. Which is interesting timing. If you’ll venture to my newly revised website at kevinmiller.co you’ll see some new options to engage, one of which is, the Driven Counsel. A select, small group of people to achieve just what Jeff testified to. Encouragement, shared wisdom, accountability, and more. OK, next I give you Jeff Brown and his successful habits for life and work. Connect with Jeff at readtoleadbook.com and get the first chapter of the book for free. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#928: In this clip from Zig, he surely does not negate making and having money. He was always outspoken about his joy of nice things. A nice house with a big pool, nice cars, nice clothes and vacations. But in this clip he balances those things with... if they came at the cost of his health or relationships, especially being a devoted father to his kids, he would have been a broken hearted man. But we do all need money, and are best served to have an abundance. Do we know what our financial goals are? I asked the Ziglar audience this question, “If your income tripled right now, what would change in your life and/or work?” I was fishing to find how many people felt lack of money was holding them back, and how motivated they are to make more money, and then the question is... at what cost? Again, not to diminish the pursuit of making money, at all. Just to be honest with what we might inadvertently sacrifice for its sake. We got a boat load of responses and categorized them, and next Tom Ziglar and I talk through the results. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#927: Voracious reading is going to benefit you by exposure alone. But ultimately the point, or at least the opportunity, is to learn. We all have the access, every day, to life changing books where we can learn from the life lessons and wisdom of the world’s most successful people. Reading however is not by proxy learning and growing. We can read and not ingest. And are we reading the information relevant for us? Harry S. Truman famously said, “'Not all readers are leaders, but all leaders are readers.” Jeff Brown has made this his focus. To study reading and while it can be the most powerful tool in our life-growth arsenal, it’s not as simple as just exposure to words on a page. So he takes us through the details and nuances of reading to showcase what actually fosters true digestion of the messages and them taking root in a way that incites us to action and the real change we want. Jeff has a podcast called Read to Lead he started in 2013 where he’s interviewed nearly 400 of the world’s most successful and inspiring authors. From the massive insight these interviews provide him, and his own reading of a book a week over the past 10 years, he’s just published his first book, amply titled, Read To Lead. In this episode we break down the root issues around not just reading, but reading to learn, grow, and find the success and fulfillment we desire. Connect with Jeff at readtoleadbook.com and get the first chapter of the book for free. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#926: The only thing that makes us any different throughout our lives is the new information we are exposed to and whether it inspires us to take action on it. In this episode I share a story from Zig Ziglar about a very mediocre guy who literally, accidentally stumbled upon a personal development resource that then led to a radical, fairytale life change. From this I asked Ziglar listeners, “If you’ve gone from, “not much”, to a place you are proud of, what gave you hope and belief you could do it?” Incredible sharings from the audience. If you want to join these discussions just find and friend me on facebook at agentkmiller. Stay tuned and Tom Ziglar and I will read through listener comments and showcase the primary catalysts that result in us actually changing our lives for the better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#925: I’m back with Stephen Scoggins, whose rags to riches story I shared in episode 923, and this time we are talking through his personal habits. He shares a lot of heartfelt lessons that resulted in habits which pulled him from homelessness to $100 million dollar businesses, such as the clip I led off with in the intro. You’ll hear multiple concepts on habits that will give you ideas for yourself. Such as, Steven strives to address all the spokes of his life during a given day, but he gives proactive focus to one specific spoke. That concept alone was worth the episode, but there was far more that grabbed my attention. You can connect with Stepghen at StephenScoggins.com and check out his Transform U event coming up Oct. 21-23. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#924: Whose work is better today than it was pre COVID? And why? This is the question I posed to our audience. Tom Ziglar and I talked through the comments and of interest you’ll hear, what business did well, and why. Of more importance however you’ll hear Tom talk about what the uncertainty of the past 18 months has done for businesses and how we must all respond, across the board, as with things shaping up as they are, the uncertainty of the marketplace looks to continue. Shoring up our businesses to successfully weather uncertain times is simply wise and we spend a lot of this episode discussing ways to do so. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#923: Stephen Scoggins has a great story of rags to riches that you're about to hear. He had a humble beginning in construction. He was given a chance by a mentor and turned it into success and money at age 21. Then he squandered it all. He betrayed trust. He ended up homeless and almost took his life. He asked his mentor for a second chance, and it was given. Stephen credits his mentor for saving his life with two pieces of advice, which he took and built businesses with over $100 million in revenue. This episode is not about how he built his businesses but what he became personally that enabled him too. The key for me that we led off with was this; we don't need to hit rock bottom and react to the pain. We just need an awakening moment. Find him at StephenScoggins.com and check out his Transform U event coming up Oct. 21-23. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#922: Tragedy, trauma, a setback, a challenge. A lack. A break. Those things will never happen to you, right? I often go about life with that perspective, but I know better. I've experienced such things and it's not pessimistic to think something hard will likely happen. So what am I doing now to prepare to weather the storm? I have a clip from Zig Ziglar telling a story of overcoming, made possible by the preparations before tragedy every struck. Then I asked the Ziglar audience, "At any moment you could encounter a life altering, tragic change to your life. What are you doing to beat the odds of it overcoming you?" The answers fell into three categories, but in truth, under one umbrella. You'll find out in just a moment. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#921: “I would like to be measured by what the people who learned from me taught other people.” Seth Godin is one of the premier voices of business in our generation. He’s known for his innovative thinking and insight into what I’d cite as business and vocational reform. He’s a true leader in that he’s attracted a massive following of the business world who look to him daily for commentary on what’s most relevant for successful business practices and ethics we can all benefit most from. He was one of the first people Tom Ziglar and I tapped to join us on the Ziglar Show after I became host and revived the show, because he’s one of Zig Ziglar’s greatest fans. The point is not to glorify Zig, but to hear Seth talk about why the core tenants of morals, values and personal relationships that Zig upheld are still what is most important for our success in today’s marketplace. A marketplace that changes daily, but principles that do not. So coming up is Seth Godin and why he sees his legacy as...you.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#920: Hey everyone, welcome. For the first time, I'm going to repost a blast from the past from Zig Ziglar, the man Seth Godin cites as the grandfather of motivation and speaking on stage that made it possible for everyone else. I’ve been encouraged to share some of our best episodes, and it’s great timing as I’m over a week of my voice being totally shot! Here’s the setup...in July of 2010 I spent a day with Zig and conducted one of his last interviews. Ever. He was 84 years old and passed away just two years later. My premise was self-employment but in a short 7-minutes Zig hits on some specific pillars of his overall message that has touched and influenced over 250 million people worldwide. So coming up next I'm going to queue up my short interview with Zig. I’ll then follow it and draw your attention to some very key things he said and alluded to. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#919: I’m back with Doug Paul, my expert on innovation from episode 917, and we’re talking about his habits. What intrigued me most was what I felt was exceptional wisdom, as I tend to do just what he alludes to, have an all or nothing approach to all of my habits. I either do an awesome 60-minute workout, or things get in the way and I do nothing. I have glorious devotion time in the morning or...life happens and nothing. Doug talks about this and says his “peacetime” plan only happens about 20% of the time, so when it doesn’t he relies on his wartime plan, so instead of 75 minutes of a perfect morning ritual, he may only do 5-10. But at least he makes a deposit. Brilliant. He shares other insights such as his ruthlessness regarding family sabbath and his joy of watching sports and what he calls, “edu-tainment”. You can find Doug at dougpaul.org and check out his book, Ready or Not: Kingdom Innovation for a Brave New World. Stay tuned for...Doug Paul. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#918: I asked listeners, “If you had to spend $3,000 on coaching, consulting, or counseling...today, under penalty of death, what area of your life would you pay to get help with? Health/Wellness, Personal development, or Business/Work/Career?” 40% said business, 33% personal development and 25% health and wellness. Tom Ziglar and I spent the bulk of our time talking through the comments. But here is a curious point of interest. I asked a follow up question, “If you could get a coaching/consulting/counseling package for the 10 people closest to you, and you had to pick the same for all, what area would you choose for all of them? 80% chose personal development and 20% health. Zero business. Why would this be? We’ll discuss it in just a moment. If you find yourself thinking more seriously about getting help for an area of your life I’d be honored to leverage my golden rolodex and recommend providers. Email me at kmiller@kevinmiller.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#917: Innovation is our focus today and what you heard at the top of the show was Doug Paul, author of Ready or Not: Kingdom Innovation for a Brave New World. Doug is a Managing Partner and Innovation Strategist of Catapult, an organization that helps leaders build successful ministries that scale. You heard him talking about churches today as we discussed their necessary need for massive innovation, but so far they seem to be looking at it poorly. In our opinion. The point of the show however, is for you. I take aim at innovation being counterintuitive. We work and strive so hard to find what drives success in our lives and businesses and want to say, “Yes! We got it!” Then reap the rewards. Which we can and do, for a time. But in today’s world, especially for business, things will change. Others will innovate and threaten what we provide and we risk being eclipsed and even being made obsolete. Even in our personal lives what we find produces success will often plateau or wane. This is our discussion. Find Doug at dougpaul.org and check out his book, Ready or Not: Kingdom Innovation for a Brave New World. Next...Doug Paul and drilling in on innovation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#916: If you haven’t heard it, you will want to. This story has reached hundreds of millions of people for a reason. It’s an analogy of our propensity to give up too soon. We may be more at risk for this today than ever. And if you have a business, you need a pump story and icon. Tune in for more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#915: I had Nedra Glover Tawwab on the show a month ago to talk about boundaries but due to the release of her new book, Set Boundaries, Find Peace, and subsequent media rush for her, we couldn’t get our schedules together to record a habits show. A lot of new authors claim bestseller status which can be achieved by selling even 30-50 books in a given day on amazon to get to the top of a sub chart, but Nedra’s book actually landed her on the actual New York Times bestseller list. Here we walk through her personal habits which invariably get us on the topic of...boundaries. And how she works to implement them into her own life. Find Nedra’s book anywhere you buy books and connect with her at nedratawwab.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#914: I want to buy you. Or I don’t. And the product or service you are selling hangs in the balance. Actually, anything you want to offer me is in the balance. Your idea, your message, your influence and taking any of my time. I could be your prospect, coworker, employer or employee, spouse or kid. This is the point. We always think we are offering a thing and we habitually miss the reality we are first and foremost selling ourselves. In this episode I polled our audience, asking, “In your job or business, how much do you feel you are selling your product or service, vs how much you are simply selling yourself?” Tom Ziglar and I talked through a number of comments to give us all a big reminder of how much of our efforts are made or broken by our ability to sell ourselves. Unless you are selling a commodity product in volume and merely competing for price, such as on Amazon, then you are selling a premium product or service. You simply can’t claim you have the best, as nobody believes it. And to a great degree you can’t claim the most unique or exclusive or nearly anything. What you can and must do is attract your prospect to you personally. This is our show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#913: I’m back with Kate Eckman, my guest in Ziglar Show episode 911 where we discussed working out your spirit, mindset and mental health to be fit and resilient just as you workout your body. This is my habits episode and what I did here was have Kate share how her habits changed and evolved since her big wake up call. That wake up call was two very close friends committing suicide with a handful of months of each other that brought Kate’s life to a screeching halt and ultimate redirection into her vocational devotion today. She previously had habits in her life that helped her achieve success as an elite swimmer, model, TV anchor and broadcast journalist. So how did Kate’s habits change from those areas of external success to today where, while she still has success as a sought after executive coach, speaker and author, she is having success internally with inner peace and fulfillment? That is our episode. You can find Kate at kateeckman.tv Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have a book deal with the sixth largest publisher in the world. I truly believe the book will help many people, and be a great boost to my professional life. I have kids ages eight to 27 and believe the best thing I can do with them is invest time into them. These are the great works and opportunities in front of me. Yet the days go by and I find myself dealing with the more urgent demands of daily life and these initiatives often stay on the backburner. Do I need to stop some activities? Delegate some? Or just get more focused and work smarter? This is our discussion today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#911: Kate Eckman looked to be doing it right. She’d succeeded as a competitive swimmer, model, tv anchor and broadcast journalist. Then in a short span of time, two very close relationships in her life committed suicide and Kate found herself in tears at the pharmacy counter grasping for antianxiety meds and knew things were just not right. This began a significantly new trajectory of her life with a focus on our spirit. If you want a fit, strong and resilient body you nourish it, exercise it and allow it time to recover. How about your spirit? Your mindset, emotions and very soul? Are you working it out daily in order to keep it fit and resilient? Kate recently published a book titled, The Full Spirit Workout: A Ten-Step System to Shed Your Self-Doubt, Strengthen Your Spiritual Core, and Create a Fun and Fulfilling Life. In this episode I walk with her through the pitfalls we all encounter in being strong and at peace with our self worth, confidence , self doubt, comparing ourselves to others and the struggle between our external and internal life. As you’ll hear, Kate has much wisdom to offer, but in a very raw, compassionate and raw...spirit. We hit some profound points and laughed...and cried. You can find Kate at kateeckman.tv. and www.thefullspiritworkout.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#910: Do you have an opportunity in your work to open the doors in your mind for significant creativity and innovation that would really catapult your success? The legendary basketball player, Michael Jordan, was known for putting unprecedented time into the basics, practicing such drills as dribbling, free throw shots, and layups for hours per day, his entire career. As Zig Ziglar points out in a short clip I play, this allowed Michael to play much of a game with reflexive movements he didn’t even have to think about. In doing so he freed up his brain to make spontaneous, creative moves that gave him his legendary success. So to us. Are we pursuing mastery in our work and roles in order to free up and allow for creativity that leads to innovation? This is our discussion today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

909: It’s one thing to hear what a high achiever’s habits are today. But what were their habits before they were a high achiever? I’m revising these habits shows for a while going forward in this manner, and today I bring you my guest from episode 907 where we discussed work and whether it must be so meaningful. Dan Miller. Renowned career coach and author of 48 Days To The Work You Love. And also, my father! He champions successful habits his audience and in this episode walks us through the habits he developed coming from an ultra conservative upbringing on the farm with Amish roots, to the best selling author who drives a tricked out Corvette today. What was his evolution out of the mentality from then to now, as his next birthday will ring him in at 75 years old. I think this format of “habits evolution” will give you more insight into the development of your own habits, then merely hearing what people have grown to today in their relative success! Find Dan’s podcast, just search for 48 Days. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So you’re going along in your life. Today, tomorrow or before long, something is going to change. Something you can’t control is going to happen and force change. What happens to you and in you? And also, as you are listening to this podcast I can assume you are the type of person who is working on proactively making change in your life. Again, what happens to you and in you during this process? This is our focus today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In July, Tom Ziglar sent a message out, charging us all to claim our freedom from, Bad Habits, Negative Self Talk, Limiting Beliefs, Poor Diet & Exercise, Wrong Priorities, and Settling for Second Best. He said these are some of the only things we can control. I agreed, but also realize the tremendous challenge in changing these things in our life, and that is what we address in this episode. A compassionate look at what it really requires from us. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

907 - What began as a discussion on whether our work must really be so important ultimately came to our need to know ourselves and what really fulfills us individually. And while yes, having meaningful work is profound to the joy of our lives, it’s also not meant to be the end all to our purpose and calling, but a tool. I brought in Dan Miller, celebrated career leader and author of the now classic tome on work, 48 Days To The Work You Love. We had a conversation at a high, but deep level, regarding how we all perceive the value and importance of our work. I wanted to speak specifically to those who may be feeling stress and anxiety about finding the ultimate work opportunity. The “holy grail” and culmination of their life’s purpose and calling. That can be so daunting and in this episode I feel we did justice in taking some of the pressure off the work and putting the impetus on us having a bigger view of our overall life focus. Find Dan’s “48 Days” podcast wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#906: We generally have two measurements for our work; do we like it and does it provide for us well. But in looking at the most successful and fulfilled people they have another measurement that eclipses those. Do I feel like the end product or service I help provide is something of worth and value to people? Not by the world’s measurements but by my own? In this episode I play a clip from Zig Ziglar where he shares a story about seeing a play. What struck him was out there on the stage, the people were truly giving it their all. They were fully committed to giving an incredible and near flawless performance to the audience. The point being for us to consider, not necessarily just how hard are we working, but what is our goal in the final delivery? So I polled my audience with this question, “Do you feel your work is necessary? Honorable? Worthy? And please help me by sharing if you do not.” The contribution you make with your work, in your own eyes, matters greatly. Not just to your fulfillment but to your overall level of success. Tom Ziglar and I talk through the comments and come to some significant discoveries. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of The Ziglar Show I’m with Nedra Glover Tawwab, a licensed relationship therapist whose focus is boundaries. Friends, that very term holds no attraction for me. I want to be superman. I want to say yes to everything and be able to handle it. Superheroes don’t have boundaries. If you are really out to serve humanity you don’t have any limits and you don’t protect yourself, right? Jocko Willenk is a famous navy seal who’s Jocko podcast is wildly popular. Everyone wants to be diehard like him. He posted on Twitter, “Smash through the boundaries!” It showed him trying to lift a heavy weight. But he also posted this, “Leaders need to push themselves and their teams while also recognizing their limits, in order to achieve a suitable pace and avoid burnout.” I find people like him have far more boundaries than the normal person. They say no to many good things that would deplete them so when they say yes to great things, they can engage at full power. Join me for a deep discussion with Nedra on the admitted difficulty but massive opportunity in having boundaries and how it doesn’t limit us to doing less but frees us to do far more. Her message on boundaries has caught fire and resulted in over a million followers on Instagram alone. I pursued her for this show because I need this message, and I’ve been making tangible changes in my life due to the message. You’ll hear us discuss specifics from her new book, Set Boundaries, Find Peace, which you can find wherever you get your books. Here are some show sponsors, then I bring you, Nedra Glover Tawwab. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Thinking of attending or hosting a live event now that things are opening back up? You will want to hear this episode. The pandemic but a total stop to live events and everyone pivoted to virtual. There has been question as to whether live events will come back in high demand, or people will have realized they can get what they need virtually without the effort and expense of going to a live event. For those of you who host or want to host live events this is a big question. Tom Ziglar just attended five live events in less than two weeks and I asked him to join me and discuss it. He came out with 5 factors for us to consider in comparing virtual and live events. Ziglar successfully transitioned all their live events to virtual and as a business had great success. So why mess with live events again? There are some very key benefits regarding the psychology of personal change that live events provide that simply can’t be met virtually. Listen in as we cover them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are back with Shaunti Feldhahn, best selling author and social researcher. Back in episode 901 we discussed her latest research on what creates true joy in us and she shared her latest findings of what is most destructive to our joy. In this episode we go behind the scenes to hear Shaunti’s daily habits for success. Just seven months prior to this recording Shaunti was diagnosed with breast cancer and during chemo started gaining a pound per day. Her doctor's response, “You’re not getting the sleep I advised, are you.” Addressing that turned Shaunti’s world upside down maybe more than the cancer itself and required her to ask if she was going to do what was necessary to help her body, or not. She also shares how the pandemic wrecked her exercise routine and how she pampers herself with what she calls, “beach read novels”, that she rereads. Find Shaunti at shaunti.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Here you are striving to do good things, do the right thing, serve your work, family, community and...so many well intentioned efforts. And your body and/or mind is not fully cooperating. Aches, pains, your energy levels are slowing you down or just not adequately supporting you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We look at our workplaces and our relationships with people and our surroundings, and how it affects us. I share a short clip from Zig Ziglar on the importance of healthy relationships and from the message, polled the Ziglar audience with this question, “How are your relationships at your work and how do you feel they affect you, for better or worse?” As Tom and I talked through the comments and people’s testimonies we also got into the literal environment of where you work. Your office, cubicle, even having windows nearby. The point is to bring to light the importance of having a healthy work environment and how it is absolutely affecting your performance. Thanks as always to everyone who commented on my Facebook survey. I invite you to join the conversation, just friend me on Facebook at agentkmiller. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Joy. You can truly, literally, manufacture joy. If you want big biceps, you work them out consistently. Simple math. So is creating joy. Happiness is momentary and based on circumstances. Joy is enduring and provides peace and calm regardless of the environmental pressures. I fear most of the culture has given up on joy and has acquiesced to merely seeking momentary pleasures and happiness like the next social media scroll, netflix show, and food or drink. But you are here because you want more. I bring you an expert. Shaunti Feldhahn. She’s a best selling author and social researcher. Keyword there, researcher. She is my guru on kindness who I refer to constantly. I had her on the show four years ago to talk about the research she did for her book, The Kindness Challenge. There are few people I refer to on shows as much as Shaunti. She has now turned her focus to...joy. She wrote a daily devotional called, Finding Joy. But in just a moment you are about to hear us set aside my intended discussion as Shaunti wanted to share her very latest research, since the book came out, on what she and her research team discovered is the number one destroyer...of joy. I mean, you really, really want to hear it. Because what you’ll find is, you are doing it. You are actively engaging, every day, with the number one inhibitor of joy. And it’s something you can take action on, immediately. Connect more at shaunti.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is not an episode of The Ziglar Show, but instead, I’m calling it a new, Friday Feature. Maybe not every Friday, but taking the chance to showcase something new to you that I feel is fitting. A new podcast, product, or service. Today, it’s a 4 minute preview of another podcast I think you’ll enjoy, it’s called One Hundred Percent, with Marcus Lemonis. Marcus is CEO of Camping World, which was founded in Bowling Green, KY where I grew up, so I’ve always had a fondness for the company. Marcus hosts one of the most successful business shows on TV and when I heard he was launching this podcast I reached out for an interview, which I hope to bring you soon. He’s an incredibly successful businessman worth nearly a billion dollars, but what he’s known for is leading with his values of family, community, character and ethics, and it’s from this foundation, and his own money, that he helps small business owners who want his guidance. So in this new podcast, One Hundred Percent, that’s just what he does. When I listened to the first episode, which you’re about to hear a 4-minute clip from, it reminded me of Oprah Winfrey meets Shark Tank, in that Marcus goes straight to the heart in talking to entrepreneurs, how they got started, who inspires them, and the real why behind their business. Not many business shows have people crying in them, if that gives you an idea. His first show features a company with a product for mental health awareness and he brings on Howie Mandel, who suffers from mental health issues and is an advocate for support, and together they give guidance to the couple. Next episodes will feature guests such as Kirsten Bell, Gayle King, Charles Barkley, Kathy Ireland, and Al Roker, as together they talk to budding entrepreneurs. While you’re listening, follow ONE HUNDRED PERCENT WITH MARCUS LEMONIS on Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, or listen early and ad-free by joining Wondery Plus in the Wondery app. http://wondery.fm/100PercentZiglar | I’d really appreciate hearing from you regarding me sharing this podcast preview with you, and I have another I’ll be sharing soon. Is it a benefit, or an intrusion? Please let us know, email me at kmiller@kevinmiller.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You are not just who you are today, but what you can become, right? This is easy to say and monumentally hard to get any traction with. I play a five minute clip from Zig Ziglar where he tells a personal story of his own journey from a poor to mediocre sales person, to one of the best. It radically changed his life, and the catalyst came from one discussion with a man who simply expressed faith in him. We don’t even know if the faith was legitimate, or a tactic. Either way, it worked. I break this story down to the foundational aspects of understanding we have all simply agreed with expectations for ourselves that are limited. But it’s not a, “You are limitless and capable of anything” message. You aren’t and you can’t. That’s what gives motivation a bad name. Ultimately it’s you literally deciding to have faith you can perform at a higher level. Not with more effort, just...different effort. That’s it. If you were lucky, someone else will come along and say they have faith in you and you’ll believe it and boom...you’ll have more success. But chances are that mystery person won’t show up and it’s up to you to be that person who tells yourself, “Self, I have faith I’m limiting myself with expectations I’ve agreed with and the picture I have of myself, and I’m now choosing to have faith I’m capable of more, so...I’m going to try some new things.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Here’s a story that puts all the positive thinking to the real test of life. I appreciate Mike Tyson famously saying, “Everyone Has a Plan Until They Get Punched in the Mouth.” That’s what we all deal with, our good intentions, then the trials that come and punch us in the mouth. That’s what this show is about. Joy was going along in life achieving her goals and becoming a dolphin trainer and filmmaker and living the perspective she got from Zig Ziglar to be joyful in the face of challenge. Then at age 25 she was diagnosed with cancer. The really bad kind. She approached it with an incredibly positive attitude and decided to utilize her love of and expertise with film to document the entire ordeal and capture her triumphant overcoming. But it’s not a perfect story. Along the way she realized the end might not be the triumph she expected. Living. She did live however and today helps kids with cancer through a unique event involving dolphins. We talk through the realities of having hope, losing it, and persevering anyway. It’s a message truly relevant to us all, even if we haven’t been at death’s door. If you visit Joy’s website at Joyclausensoto.com and sign up for her newsletter so you can get her book for free. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our focus is goals, and more importantly, actually making them happen. We all, me included, have goals and dreams and desires we want to achieve. However, every day, life happens. The urgent duties and demands we must tend to, then trying to rest and recover and have a break now and then. Those very important goals are never going to be as urgent. We listen to a two minute clip from Zig Ziglar on the issue, thenI polled our audience on some of their tactics and Tom Ziglar and I talk through the need for compassion with ourselves, but also some very real strategies we can use. And know this, there is no one best strategy, and your’s can be as goofy as ever, as long as it produces results. So Tom and I share some of our own as well, and I’ll admit mine often fall on the...not so conventional side. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re back with Mark Victor Hansen of Chicken Soup For The Soul Fame, and his wife Crystal Hansen, to discuss their health habits for success. It’s always interesting with high powered couples to hear what habits they share and where they differentiate. The statement that caught my attention here was Crystal talking about her nutritional journey and us sharing our joy of being foodies. She said her personal goal and advocacy is to, "Love foods more than you ever have, but just learn to love the foods that love you back." That is wise and falls in line with our premise on my True Life podcast that we are and will be creatures of appetite, but the goal is to upgrade our appetites to healthier options. Don’t miss episode 895 where we talked about the Hansen’s message and new book, Ask - The Bridge from Your Dreams to Your Destiny. You can get the book at Amazon and then Mark & Crystal invite you to join them at Askthebookclub.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Doing good business isn’t enough to keep customers loyal. I asked our listeners two questions, “How do you create goodwill and customer loyalty in your business?” and then, “What business has your customer loyalty and why?” I was fishing for something Tom Ziglar and I came to in Ziglar Show episode 892 about what some businesses do beyond competing for price and even quality, to wow their customers. We all think we do a great job. A better job to deliver a better service or better product. Yet most every business person I’ve met has some frustration with customer attrition and losing them to competitors. Let’s talk about how you can own your customers for life. This will be significant for all of you with businesses to hear and glean from. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let’s come back to a basic, common sense skill that has become uncommon. Asking. Asking for help, guidance, insight, advice, and direction. Imagine waking up in the middle of New York City with no phone or map and you must make it to a certain destination for your own saving. What would you do? You’d ask the first person you came upon for direction. But today in our increasingly isolated lives we seldom reach out and ask for much of anything. We seek information to apply to our lives and strive to do it autonomously. We mistakenly think all the leaders and influencers we follow are smarter or wiser than we are. What we find is the people we all look to for guidance spend a significant portion of their existence asking others for guidance. Mark Victor Hansen, co-author of the Chicken Soup For The Soul book and many others that has resulted in half a billion book sales, and his best selling author wife Crystal, have written an entire book on this issue and the grand opportunity we can all claim for ourselves if we will learn how and when to ask for guidance and direction in our lives. It’s called Ask - The Bridge from Your Dreams to Your Destiny and we dig into it here in this episode and discuss why we don’t ask anymore, and how we can get comfortable and proficient with asking and get past our fear and pride. You can get the book at Amazon and then Mark & Crystal invite you to join them at Askthebookclub.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The question is, “Who do you work for?” We hear a true and acute story from Zig Ziglar about two men who started with a company at the same time. 20 years later one was still working for the company and one was the president. A stark difference. The reason cited by the one still just working for the company is he merely went to work for the money. So I put this question to the Ziglar audience, “I work for (blank)”, Who do you do your work for? Who are you serving?” Great responses from so many varieties of industries that really pulls our attention to just exactly what we all are...working for, and we hear from an equal amount of employees and business owners. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with Tommy Breedlove to talk about his habits for success in his life. Every guest I have on my podcasts is here in great part because of their intentionality in life. But I must say, Tommy is one of the more intentional people I’ve known. This is one of the more robust Habit’s shows I’ve done. And for you guys, I also questioned him on some of the primary areas of struggle he sees amongst all the high performing, executive clientele he leads and walks with. The answers will surprise you, such as him saying that across the board a primary struggle all the men he works with have are issues of self confidence, self esteem, self respect, and self love. Even if they are worth many millions. That was the number two issue. The number one issue, you’ll hear in just a moment. Another stand out perspective Tommy shared is how we have it backwards. When you ask about priorities most will say family, then work, then themselves. He believes it’s one, a lie, and two is upside down. We need to put ourselves first. Not selfishly, but if we don’t have ourselves worked out, our family and our business will suffer as a result. So strap yourself in, you will get some habits equipping right here. I encourage you to check out Tommy’s book, “Legendary” at Amazon, and you can connect with him at tommybreedlove.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is and isn’t working in businesses today. I polled our Ziglar audience on Facebook, which I invite you to participate in as well, you can find me on Facebook at agentkmiller, I’d be honored to get your perspectives on our weekly questions. I asked, Business Owners: 1) What is your business?, 2) Where are you finding the most success in your business today?, and 3) Where are you finding the most challenge? We got insightful responses from businesses such as property managers, insurance brokers, food trucks, realtors, business and fitness coaches, website building and marketing, and even eye surgery equipment. You’ll gain great insight into the opportunities and challenges in the real life, nitty gritty of businesses, right now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How about your ability to change? Not just a little, but a lot. We all desire to grow as individuals. To increase our capacity and ability, our resilience and wisdom, our character and peace. To be people who deal expertly with the waves of the world and have plenty of depth to draw on for the service of other people. But as you’ll hear in this show, I’ve often looked at incremental changes and sometimes question just how much someone can truly change. So I bring you the incredible story of Tommy Breedlove who joins me in this episode. Tommy is a high end executive life coach who has influenced the lives of many of the leaders I’ve had on my podcasts. His story is one of an abused kid in poverty who was mercilessly bullied, and grew up to be a bully. At 18 he beat someone up so badly he was charged with felony accounts and imprisoned. Later he put his anger toward business and made a lot of money until he came to his end. Ultimately his story is someone who went from a heart of darkness, to a heart so many now turn to for light. It’s a dramatic shift and we discuss it in depth in this episode. If you want more of the story, get his book on Amazon, “Legendary: A simple playbook for building and living a legendary life, and being remembered as a legend,” and visit his website at https://tommybreedlove.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We face a stark reality. The world influencers we all follow and revere speak staunchly to the power in their lives derived from people who have personally inspired them. In this show we hear a two minute clip from Zig Ziglar and a story of someone who changed the trajectory of their life by changing who they associated with. However, I did a survey and from it what we discern is most of us aren’t associating with...anyone. Most have nobody in their lives who is inspiring them. I’m not talking about a mentor or personal yoda even, just anyone they are around at all who raises the bar and gives them inspiration. You’ll hear me lay it on Tom and render him nearly speechless. So what you many find is some compassion for yourself not having someone, which is good. But then we try to do justice to ideas for finding a way to have someone or ones in your life consistently who are calling you up and raising the bar and inspiring you to see more than you can from just between your own two ears. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with comedic thought leader, Michael Jr, and we walk through his daily habits for success. We hit on his eating, exercising, praying and more which is always just so fascinating to hear what high achieving people are really doing. And not doing. But in the talk you’ll hear Michael share his primary relational habit of asking, ““What can I do for this person?”. Of course I revere the sentiment, but with Michael I feel it just has more gravity. If you hear our main talk in episode 887 you hear me dig into the unique attributes of comedians and how the role requires them to be uber aware of other people, as ultimately the job is appealing to people and getting an emotional response. Or in Michael’s case, not getting a laugh but giving a laugh. Join us for a joyful talk through how Michael gets the best out of himself and you’ll invariably find ideas on how to get the best out of yourself as well. Go check out Michael’s podcast, Funny How Life Works. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Zig Ziglar cites a study done by the Thomas Jefferson Center where they compiled the top 15 values common in all the world’s great civilizations and religions. The values were: Wisdom, integrity, love, freedom, justice, courage, humility, patience, industriousness, thriftiness, generosity, objectivity, cooperation, moderation, optimism. I wanted to hear from people first hand so I asked our audience, “If you are hiring someone to do a job for you, which 3-5 of these values would you have as priority?” What came out were eight values people put at the top of the list. Which tells us which values we are best served to emulate in the workplace. I’ll play the 1.5 minute clip from Zig then Tom Ziglar joins me to talk through the survey. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We think of comedians as people who are funny, however I feel the laugh is just a symptom of a deeper reality. They connected with our emotions. It’s one of the most impressive skills I’ve seen and in this episode I am joined by Michael Jr for the second time. He has a new book titled, “Funny How Life Works” but as we talked the headline that came to mind for me was, “Life Lessons From A Very Observant Person.” Michael has shared the stage with the world’s greatest comedians, such as Jerry Seinfeld and Chris Rock. He’s been on all the late night tv show. He is a member of the comedic royalty. But unlike them he keeps getting billed as a “comedic thought leader” because that is his agenda. He is not there to get a laugh but to give a laugh. He is looking to open up your emotions with comedy so he can speak into and inspire your soul towards your purpose. What you’ll hear in this episode is a skill set of observation and connection I think anyone desiring to influence others will want to hear and benefit from. You might laugh a little here, but more so I think you’ll feel some revelation and equipping to be a better influencer and connector. I encourage you to find Michael’s podcast to laugh, be entertained, and learn, search for Funny How Life Works. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

During this time of pandemic I wanted to know where people were literally spending their hard earned dollars toward business growth. I asked the audience, “What have you spent money on to learn about business or grow your business in the last 24 months? Books, Courses, Seminars/Conferences, Coaching/Consulting, or anything else. There were many testimonies to coaching and courses, but books ranked #1. What Tom Ziglar and I got into was a discussion around taking in knowledge, and actually learning it. Making positive change as a result. It’s a convicting message for all of us, as I too am so eager just to jump to the next inspiration message and miss out on actually benefiting from the great knowledge I was just exposed to. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A working mom with two kids and writing a book. She hit burnout and needed a breakthrough. I'm back with Erica Dhawan who was with me in episode 883 to talk about digital body language, the title of her new book. She decided she wanted to be someone who woke up excited, so she made a new plan for her life. She changed her daily habits to allow for peace, clarity, and health. She gave up some shallow pleasures to enable herself to enjoy deeper pleasures she now cherishes. This is yet another story of a normal person like you and me, who made some small changes that produced abnormally great results. Connect with Erica at https://ericadhawan.com/ and find her new book, Digital Body Language wherever you buy books. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“When you sit down in the morning to your work and feel a bit lacking, what do you do? Do you just push forward and slog it out or do you work on motivating yourself?” This is the question I posed to the Ziglar audience. Zig Ziglar was the Grandfather of motivation and in this show I play a three minute clip which includes his classic quote, “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing, that’s why we recommend it daily.” This episode is a real world look at what people do when they are facing a lack of motivation in a moment, as most of us do. Tom Ziglar and I cover what I feel are the tenants of motivation in the nitty gritty of real life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have a wake up call for you. It sure woke me up. We all have a digital personality and we don’t realize it. We look at text, email, and even video such as zoom as communication tools. But as Erica Dhawan tells us in this episode, over 70% of our business communication is electronic instead of face to face. So 70% of our relationships are formed digitally. Erica says our digital body language is either helping or hurting every relationship we have. If you look at the next text or email as simply a method to deliver a message and not as a human interaction, you are missing it. If you think your all caps or exclamation points or brevity or emojis are sufficient, you’re about to be schooled. Ultimately it comes down to this, continue doing it as you have, or realize there is a far greater opportunity for your work and life success if you listen in and hear how you can make some key adjustments and use every text, email, or zoom to solidify and enhance your relationships and significantly increase your success. Connect with Erica at https://ericadhawan.com/ and find her new book, Digital Body Language wherever you buy books. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever heard this? “The hard work of positive thinking.” Zig Ziglar was the royal king of positive thinking and I play a clip where he shares its power in our lives, but also the reality that it won’t enable you to do anything. To take it further, I asked our audience, this question, “Do you feel someone is either inherently positive and hopeful, or they choose to be?” Tom Ziglar and I read through some of the comments and of course, most feel that thinking positive is a choice. But what came out is... due to our upbringing and past and other predispositions, even genetic to a degree, our brains are more or less hardwired to think positively and be able to readily accept our efforts to choose positivity and hope. These are real issues and I believe the episode will enable you to better engage with and benefit your own striving to increase positive thinking and hope in your life.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all have patterns in which we interpret and therefore respond to the world. This positively and negatively influences every relationship in our lives. The relationship with ourselves (self-image), with others, and with our spiritual faith. Beth McCord is a renowned expert in the Enneagram, which is a map for self-discovery and personal growth based on 9 basic personality types. The Enneagram accurately and clearly describes why you think, feel and behave in particular ways based upon your core fears and core desires. My focus in this show was not just to understand your personality type but to understand what difference it actually provides in your life. Much of Beth’s mission is to help us all be more self aware and understand how to use the awareness to benefit us and specifically not let any understanding of our weaknesses cause any shame or contempt. I think you’ll find new insight you can use for your immediate benefit in this episode, and if you want to figure yourself out more, Beth is offering us a free enneagram course at yourenneagramcoach.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“For your business, do you need increased marketing exposure to attract more prospects or better sales conversion with the prospects you are already attracting?” This is the question I posed to our Ziglar audience. People responded with needs for one or the other or both of course, but the discussion Tom Ziglar and I brought up was sequentially we need to ensure our sales conversion is up to par before we adequately market. But then we do go into some key principles for marketing to your specific demographic and giving more focus to qualified prospects who are relevant to buy over just generating big numbers of lame prospects you must filter through. You’ll hear some good counsel on finding the prospects most suited to you  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Should you start or have a podcast? We’re at a time when no communication platform is growing more. It wasn’t long ago when we had a couple hundred thousand podcasts but as you’ll hear in this show we’ve now eclipsed 2 million. It has an incredibly easy entry point and you can get in with little cost and effort. The audience for podcasting continues to grow as well. So the question so many people are asking again is, should I start a podcast? Can you get anyone to listen? If you build it will they come? If you have a podcast, how do you grow it? I bring you my main podcast mentor, Jordan Harbinger. He started early on with nothing and today the Jordan Harbinger Show gets over 6 million downloads per month. I’m around 400-450k for comparison. Warning, right at the outside you’ll hear Jordan flat out state he feels very few people should start or have a podcast. Do not be disheartened, as he qualifies this throughout the show and I strongly encourage you to listen and you’ll get incredible insight into podcasting and whether you will be well served to have a podcast. Or not. This episode will give you the wisdom you need to have a valuable podcast, or save yourself a lot of time and hassle by realizing it’s not a good fit. If you appreciate Jordan, find him at The Jordan Harbinger Show wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How we can we better respond to the things in our work we can not control? I play a clip from Zig Ziglar where he talks about the circumstances and people in our lives we just can’t control, and how we can better respond to them when they, as you’ll hear Zig say, “drop the ball.” But goodness did Tom Ziglar and I get into some interesting branches. One was questioning whether there truly is much that isn’t in our control, or at least that we can’t heavily influence to stack the odds in our favor. We discuss choice and consequences and what a secure person would do. That right there just captured me. Questioning ourselves in the moment, and overall. Are we responding, not reacting, like a secure person? Are we speaking and behaving and thinking, like a secure person? I find it so convicting and just prior to writing this sent a note to my wife and kids about it and admitting to some aspects of my own self where I am not behaving like the secure person I want to be. So in just a moment I’ll queue up a one minute clip from Zig and then Tom and I will dig in with you to help bring clarity to a perspective that can add dramatic peace and confidence to your life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I bring you what I have found, across the board, to literally be THE most effective life-success tactic. You’ll notice I said “life success”, as in success in your life overall. If you only want to succeed in making money, while this tactic does provide the best overall chance, I have seen people make a lot of money without utilizing it well. I’ve seen people rise to the top of sports without it. Not as often as with it, but still, sometimes. If all you want is to write a best selling book, invent something, be a famous explorer...if it’s just one achievement you want to succeed in, it is possible without this tactic. Harder, but possible. However, I doubt there is anyone listening to this right now who wants to settle for only having success in one, solitary area of life. As that has proven NOT to provide fulfillment. Just a win. I won many cycling races but today they are way down in my life fulfillment and I rarely even participate in that aspect of my life. I’m going to reveal this tactic and you’re going to right away think, “Oh, that’s elementary. I do that. And I’m telling you, no you don’t. Just like my recent show on trust where simply being honest does not get you the benefit of trust, you think you do this, but I’m saying you don’t. Not enough. You are not understanding the full breadth of utilization to truly benefit from it. It...is...treating everyone like an awed, revered, and respected person who you proactively go out of your way to serve in an above and beyond fashion. I’m about to be joined by Dan Miller, my father, and we’re going to unpack this in a way that will radically open your eyes to how you are missing out, and how you can pivot and start benefiting, immediately.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“What makes you feel secure about yourself? What keeps your self-image in check even if you are unduly criticized?” If you feel this should be a simple, easy answer...the responses showcase it is not. And as you’ll hear in the show, it sure is not for me as well, or Tom Ziglar who joined me. But becoming acutely aware of what threatens your security, and then what you need to have ready to combat it, is tremendous for our overall confidence! I share a short clip from Zig Ziglar where he shares a profound analogy of how to view criticism, which at the core requires awareness of your own self image. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The success habits of David Horsager, my guest from episode 873 where we talked about trust, his platform and area of mastery. Not how to be trustworthy, but how to ensure people view you as trustworthy. David shares the habits that helped him lose 50lbs in five months and how he’s kept the weight off. Though today he doesn’t deprive himself of certain joys, such as ice cream, which I’d site as...sacred. But the stand out to me was talking about relationships and his foundational pursuit of…”just love em’”. He actually credits his wife with this perspective. When it comes down to it, no matter what, just...love them. Simple. Maybe too simple? But what is the alternative? If you want to connect more with David he has a new book out right now and he’s offered us an assessment to see how we stack up in exuding trust, go to trustedleaderbook.com/ziglar Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tom Ziglar and I tackle the issue of happiness. I asked my audience how in control of their happiness do they feel they are. A majority of course said 100%, but I actually pushed back on that. Even if you believe you have control, are you able to harness that control? If I asked if most everyone felt they could run a 5k in under 25 minutes I think most would say, sure, they could achieve that. But can they do it now? Same here. Saying, “Yes, I believe I can control my happiness” doesn’t mean you do. So is it really possible? We can’t control circumstances but amidst hard realities can we, do we, really maintain control over our happiness? It may not be possible in every moment, but how can we grow that possibility? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trust. In today’s culture more than ever trust is the number one asset of success. But listen closely, we are all doing it wrong, to some degree. We inherently think of trust as something you have and are, or don’t have an are not. Most everyone hearing this will believe themselves to be trustworthy because they are honest, moral people who live with integrity. But you are about to hear eight aspects of trust you must intentionally and proactively engage in if you want to really be viewed as trustworthy and benefit from it in your life and business. To create loyal clients. To get their referrals. It takes more than you just having good character and being honest. David Horsager is with me and this is his devotion and area of mastery. He’s CEO of Trust Edge Leadership Institute, national bestselling author of The Trust Edge, which interestingly was one of the last books Zig Ziglar endorsed. David has a new book out right now and he’s offered us an assessment to see how we stack up in exuding trust, go to trustedleaderbook.com/ziglar Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

An issue that bothers and concerns me with coaching, consulting and being a leader...humility. Or rather, a lack of it. There is a propensity when you have an area of expertise you teach or lead from, to then be the authority on everything. It’s not possible and I think more and more people don’t trust it. So how do you be a humble expert? That’s the show.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with Chandler Bolt. Chandler is a young and extremely successful businessman. As we talked about his habits for success we got into his unique living situation. He got a large house in Los Angeles and created his personal blue zone, the term made famous by Dan Buettner in regards to a community that fosters good health and success. Chandler took inquiries based on qualifications, to live at the house. He brought in other business owners in areas that supported each other. They have weekly mastermind meetings, and together have massively increased their business and life success. It’s a really great story you’ll hear in this episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all have a very real struggle with opportunity. We so fervently talk about goals and desires and going after them, but seldom talk about the obstacles along the way. With any new achievement of any worth, there are relevant obstacles we must take into consideration. Discomforts and risks and what you’ll hear in this show after I polled the Ziglar audience is our biggest issue comes down to... ourselves. Our own fears and limiting beliefs and perceptions. I play a clip from Zig Ziglar, then Tom and I tackle this challenge we all acutely face. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Want a big way to leverage your impact? If you have any desire to make a positive influence in your life, there are few tools more powerful than...a book. But should everyone write a book? Does everyone have a relevant story or area of expertise that’s worthy of cutting down some trees? You won’t hear that. But we will open this topic up and help you see if there is merit in you considering a book, and if so, how best to go about doing it. I bring on Chandler Bolt, founder and CEO of Self Publishing School, and an INC 5000 company the last 3 years in a row as one of the 5,000 fastest-growing private companies in the US. Chandler has written six books himself and is renowned as a tour de force in publishing world, and in business. At only 27 he’s been incredibly successful for a good while, and you’ll hear us talk through this. For those of you in your 20s and those of you like me with kids in their 20s, this is an inspiring and equipping story. For those of you who find yourself literally interested in a book after this show, check out self-publishingschool.com/apply and you can inquire with his team about options! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our focus is visualizing our achievement and realization of what we say we want. No hoodoo guru stuff here but simply, if you have a desire or goal, can you in fact see yourself achieving it? So often we just seek the “how to” without solidifying our actual faith in actually realizing the end result. I share a message from Zig Ziglar where he cites a relevant story and posits that visualization absolutely does...work. So I asked my audience the question, “take any goal or desire you currently have. Can you literally envision yourself achieving it?” Tom Ziglar and I had a conversation, talking through the comments to further clarify the massive value of being able to envision ourselves achieving what we say we want. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of The Ziglar Show our focus is auditing the daily habits and routines of a trauma overcomer and current health, fitness, and brain expert. I’m back with Tana Amen. You’ll hear why she affirms herself with, “I am a warrior.” If you heard her gritty story from childhood abuse to modeling to trauma nurse to today’s health and fitness industry expert and healthy brain advocate in episode 865 you’ll know why this is important to her. She covers her devotion to hydration, establishing her daily mindset, healthy boundaries, and her joy in taking survival trips and challenging herself to do things that scare her. I’ve been doing these twice per month habits shows for years now and recently considered if I should discontinue them...and received overwhelming feedback from listeners that they received massive benefit from hearing the real life habits of others. So...here you go! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of The Ziglar Show we hear a classic message from Zig Ziglar on flea training. He’ll tell you how when you put fleas in a jar they’ll jump up and hit it over and over till they adapt to the lid, then they’ll only jump just high enough before they hit the lid. Take the lid off? They only jump as high as it was, and won’t jump out. Of course the point is...how we are so often like the fleas. We accept a limit that is not really there. So I asked the Ziglar audience, “What limiting conditioning have you overcome?” Tom Ziglar and I talk through the comments here and strive to help us all become aware of where we have accepted limits to our ability and capacity that are not really there.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A world-renowned health and fitness expert. She is the picture of health, beauty, and success. Then she found herself up on stage to speak to a room full of addicts who she was critically judging for who and how they were. Then she realized they were judging her too. Then she realized she needed to drop the facade, come clean, and admit she had come from where they were and maybe worse. Today Tana Amen is Vice President of the renowned Amen Clinics and still every bit the picture of health and beauty, but now an even greater level of success because her gritty story makes her success far more glorious. If you’ve had anything less than a perfect, shiny life, you will gain much from Tana’s message. If you are intrigued by our discussion I encourage you to get Tana’s book, “The Relentless Courage of a Scared Child: How Persistence, Grit, and Faith Created a Reluctant Healer”. I read it and now my wife is reading it. It’s just a powerful journey of someone who had every reason to fail and be overcome. But as you’ll hear, she made a different choice. You can also find more at relentlesscourage.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I play a short clip from Zig Ziglar where he describes the depth of foundations on skyscrapers. For a massive building to stand tall and not fall over amidst high winds and shifting earth, it’s foundational structure, what is built under the surface, is immense. For all of us, life has hardship and challenge. If you have a beating heart and interact with life at all here is heartache and sadness. What keeps you from being knocked over? I posed this question my podcast audience, “What foundational reason(s) keeps you from completely falling down? What keeps you striving and from giving up?” If you expect to hear big, broad statements like God and family, you will not. People were pretty specific and what comes out as Tom Ziglar and I talk through it is a core thread that is incredibly insightful. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ernest Hemingway is famously cited as saying, “Write drunk, edit sober.” Amongst the writing community this is an oft quoted statement and frequently depicted in film and story. Trouble is, Hemmingway didn’t say it. In this episode I’m back with one of my favorite all-time authors, Donald Miller, and we’re talking about his habits. One he shared was stopping the nightly beer. While he appreciates it, his best writing time is in the morning and he feels the alcohol, even a little, slightly compromises his work. That right there is the essence of good habits, when we have a reason big enough for us to make the healthier decision. If you are struggling to keep up a desired habit, obviously your motive isn’t clear. This is an interesting show, as Donald is the open, honest, and introspective guy that made his memoirs sell millions of copies. We cover vices, heroes on a mission, mindset, the benefit of not knowing any better, and him considering if he has an obsessive compulsive disorder in relation to tacos. To help your habits, Don invited us to visit heroonamission.com where he provides a life plan and daily planner course. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The question, “For those of you in business for yourself, whether full time making millions or a side hustle making a buck or two, where are you strongest in your business and where are you weakest?” Tom Ziglar and I talked through comments and what you’ll hear is a full circle of admissions. One is great at sales and poor at admin while another is wonderful at admin and struggles in sales. I believe you’ll find yourself taking comfort in the reality you can’t be strong in everything and yet still succeed in your business. A primary take away from this discussion is the value of spending as much time as possible in your strengths and getting as much help as possible where you are weak. While at the beginning of a business we need to wear many hats, we just can’t be competent at everything. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Donald Miller is back on the show for the third time. Don is one of my all time favorite authors, his memoirs such as A Million Miles In A Thousand Years and Scary Close were literal life changers for me. As you’ll hear in this show, Donald started out as a pure writer. But to get his messages out he had to learn to run a stellar business. Today he pulls in tens of millions and has turned his attention to helping other people get their messages and art out by learning business. Before coming on he said, “I believe everyone deserves access to a life-changing business education." And as you’ll hear he believes his methodology with his new Business Made Simple platform is more valuable than an ivy league MBA. And I’ll tell you, it’s impressive. As he did so brilliantly in his earlier books with a personal message, he has boiled down and refined the essence of business in a way I’ve not seen before. Find Donald at https://www.businessmadesimple.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I asked listeners, “What are the daily small deposits in your life that give you the most payoff?” With most of my guests on the show I do a “Habits” episode with them to hear about their daily habits and routines for success, and I often start by asking them which ones are priority. The most valued. This was in essence the same question, but put to listeners. Some of the topics shared, the favored daily deposits, covered things such as spiritual practices, exercise, healthy food, hugs, alone time, refocusing and reframing, positive input, sleep, and more. Tom Ziglar and I talk through them and share some of our own focal points, one of mine being a striving for light heartedness! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

2020 saw a lot of upheaval for small business, few people were untouched by it. In March I saw nearly $10,000 in monthly ad revenue disappear. I was doing work with Pete Vargas, king of the stage, and his entire business disappeared almost instantaneously. “Pivot” became the new buzzword and now we keep hearing stories from people who took a hit, made a pivot, and actually came out better as a result. But some did not, and it’s not because they weren’t brilliant people. Some industries are difficult to pivot in. So I wanted to hear someone in the trenches of small business tell us what they were seeing. Where are there more and less opportunities? Dan Miller is the renowned author of 48 Days To The Work You Love and one of the more renowned career and business coaches of our time. He’s also...my father! If you hear some of his guidance and desire to connect with him you can find him at 48days.com or email him at askdan@48days.com. Next we’ll dive into what’s happening in small business in 2021! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of The Ziglar Show I wanted to hear from people who started a personal discipline that was drudgery, and succeeded in doing it until it actually became a joy. Or at least not complete misery. To showcase to us all that the beginning is the hardest part! You’ll hear about exercising and eating healthier, then into interesting areas such as finding nice things to say about your spouse! I kick this episode off with a two and a half minute clip from Zig Ziglar where he discusses the benefits of self discipline. From it I asked the Ziglar audience this question, “What is a healthy habit or personal discipline that started as a chore/drudgery/negative and today is a joy/pleasure/positive?” We heard from so many people about disciplines they started in misery, but today they look forward to. You’ll hear about exercising and eating healthier, then into interesting areas such as finding nice things to say about your spouse! For some the task is now an actual joy, for others just something they have peace with and really appreciate the pay off of. Tom Ziglar and I talk through a lot of the comments and share some of our own stories. If you want to join these discussions, find me on Facebook, my personal page is agentkmiller and the biz page is kevinmillerco Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have a double Habits episode for you. What are the habits of one of the top 20 wealthiest people on planet earth, and the CEO that runs multiple foundations for him? As of this recording Charles Koch is worth $50 billion dollars and ranked as the 15th wealthiest person on the planet. Brian Hooks is CEO and President of three of Charle’s philanthropic organizations. I had them on together in episode 855 to discuss their co authored book, Believe In People. This is my habits show and I walk through the seven spokes on the Ziglar Wheel of Life and let them tag team on their answers. It was Brian talking about his spiritual habits who said he strives to emulate the attribute of being entitled to nothing and grateful for everything. Charle’s had lots of insight to share and ended by divulging he’s a big Bob Dillon fan!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of The Ziglar Show we talk about customer service. And here is the crux; delivering your product or service perfectly and expertly, is...not...enough. That will not win you customer loyalty and referrals. You’ll continually be frustrated at losing clients to competitors. You won’t get the referrals from customers that you’d expect. Delivering your product perfectly is simply meeting the initial hopes and expectations the customer had. Even if nobody else on the planet delivers as perfectly as you do, doesn’t matter. The only way to get your customers to come back to you time and time again and refer others to you is if you over deliver. Nobody does it, but it’s not hard. I asked the audience, “What do you do to create customer or client loyalty? What do other businesses do that earn YOUR customer loyalty?” I’m going to give you a 3.5 minute clip from Zig Ziglar where he explains going beyond customer service to customer satisfaction then Tom Ziglar and I talk through many of the comments to the question and lead a class on how to own your customer for life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you succeed in business? The current corporate culture showcases power and control from the top to manage down to the bottom, and it influences even how small businesses structure themselves. It’s not working. Charles Koch is chairman and CEO of Koch Industries, one of the largest privately held American companies and who Forbes cites as the 15th wealthiest man in the U.S.. Koch Industries has over 130,000 employees. It’s safe to say he has more experience than most of us in this area. Charles is an influential philanthropist focused on developing effective solutions to social problems. He founded a non-profit organization called Stand Together for just this purpose and its CEO is Brian Hooks. Brian is also president of the Charles Koch Foundation and Charles Koch Institute. They have written a book together called BELIEVE IN PEOPLE: BOTTOM-UP SOLUTIONS FOR A TOP-DOWN WORLD, a message of inclusion and empowerment. They show how every single one of us has a gift we can use to find fulfillment and build a better society. And they show that by coming together, we can tackle our country’s biggest problems and help every person rise. Find Charles and Brian at standtogether.org and find their book, Believe In People wherever you get your books. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

No one listening to this show is unaware of the concept of personal discipline. We tend to think of ourselves and others as either disciplined, or not. When in truth it’s a fallacy. Nearly everyone is disciplined in various areas of their lives, though maybe not the areas that gain the main spotlight and glory. Tom Ziglar and I talk through a lot of the comments as it helped give different perspectives to the concept of discipline. As you will hear however, I give much focus to the danger of believing yourself to not be disciplined, and again, question whether this is actually true. We also cover at length the errancy in relying on our self discipline when we are far better served to create environments where we do not need to rely on our self discipline.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The mere claim to have a formula for any aspect of success initially strikes me wrong, but to a degree, anything can be boiled down to the core ingredients. The difference in my opinion is this formula is less like a cooking recipe you just easily mix and bake and is more like an intense formulaic math equation you must work out. But Steven Kotler does in fact do a masterful job of deducing peak performance down into its essence and from it you can see where you need to give focus and attention and...work. Steven is a New York Times-bestselling author, an award-winning journalist and the Executive Director of the Flow Research Collective. He is literally one of the world’s leading experts on human performance. He’s authored nine bestsellers out of thirteen books total, The Future is Faster Than You Think, Stealing Fire, The Rise of Superman, and Bold and Abundance. His work has been nominated for two Pulitzer Prizes and translated into over 40 languages. His new book is The Art of Impossible and as of the initial publication of this episode there are eight days to go before it’s available and it’s already in the top 5,000 books in Amazon. You can go preorder now! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I kick us off with a one and a half minute clip from Zig Ziglar where he zeroes in on the myth that we should all just love everything about our work. In truth this is a tremendously frustrating issue for many people and a very real question is...just what I posted to my listeners. I asked, “If you have any frustrations with your work, do you feel you need to change the circumstances or just need to change your attitude?” Zig Ziglar was the king of adjusting your attitude to the positive because it makes everything better. But it does not mean that it’s all you should do. There are times when the circumstances themselves are limiting to you being fulfilled in our work and able to bring all you can to the table. So we talked in and around this issue and I believe it will give you great food for thought in regards to your own challenging work circumstances and whether and attitude change is in order, or you really would be best to change the circumstances. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

At the end of this episode, Matthew thanked me as many of my guests do, for giving focus to this incredibly important, foundational aspect of overall success...the personal habits, and in the last 30 seconds of the show said, "I think personal strategy is so much more important than business strategy, and it's the reason why most people fail in business and life or end up successful and have lost their family along the way.” Which is an understatement to say the least. But it is exactly why I started doing these Habits shows with guests years ago. It reminds me of how so often in the action adventure movies I watch with my kids, a main character ends up hanging by their fingertips on a ledge at a climactic point. And I always point out as I take my parental teaching moment, “To be able to do that, they must be doing their pull ups, every day!” But that is the point. When you see someone respond in a healthy, strong fashion instead of reacting in an unhealthy fashion, it’s not happenstance, but the result of working out that ability...every day. Being Superman and leaping tall buildings in a single bound comes from taking a few steps every day. You can get the first chapter of Matthew Pollard’s new book, The Introvert’s Edge To Networking, at theintrovertsedge.com/networking Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are few leaders and influencers in the personal development, self-help, and health and wellness space who don’t cite journaling as a daily habit for success. From this I know a lot of people who try to journal because they think they should, but aren’t finding much value in it. I wanted to draw this out with the question I posted, then have someone give us insight. I started journaling around age 18 but simply wrote down the day's events every night. I went many years not journaling at all before resuming it and using it as somewhat of a prayer tool, and today do a lot of thoughts and feelings. Which should YOU do? Of course the answer is...it depends. Jess Ekstrom was my recent guest in episodes 845 and 847. She’s the renowned founder of Headbands of Hope but recently launched Bright Pages, an online, guided journaling platform. Of course we talk about Bright Pages and if you go to brightpages.com and sign up using code ZIGLAR she’s giving us all a free month, but the meat of the show is me throwing questions from you listeners to her and letting her address them so you can understand how to get true value from your journaling efforts, or possibly get inspired to start!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Matthew Pollard first wrote "The Introvert's Edge: How the Quiet and Shy Can Outsell Anyone," as it was his life story, an introvert who initially failed miserably at sales. He taught himself to succeed and he did so to a dramatic degree. But it wasn’t by becoming something he was not, but by leveraging his natural strengths. I was sent his second book that is coming out currently, "The Introvert’s Edge To Networking: Work The Room, Leverage Social Media, and Develop Powerful Connections." It caught my attention because I am an absolutely introvert, and I do not...like traditional “networking”. In this discussion you’ll hear why introverts don’t just have a chance to shine with sales and networking, but we actually have an edge, and not by becoming extroverts. I brought Matthew on because I think this is sorely needed information that will empower so, so many of you. And yes, extroverts will do well to listen to this episode. They will actually do well to do just that...listen. More. You can get the first chapter of The Introvert’s Edge To Networking at theintrovertsedge.com/networking Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Of course as the New Year is upon us we have many people making resolutions and thinking of goals, but this was a simple question to discern what is most on our hearts to make better in our life. As Tom Ziglar has shared, far more people relate to solving a problem rather than having a goal, which points to a reality of behavioral psychology, that we react and respond more readily to pain than desire. Hearing the variety of submissions I think will help raise your own awareness of what is most on your heart to make better in your life and open your eyes, ears, and heart to feelings you may not be fully cognizant of. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jess Ekstrom is the renowned founder of Headbands of Hope and was my guest in episode 845 where we talked about the strategy of optimism. This is my habits show she began by citing coffee as her first priority habit of the day which will endear her to many of you as it did me! But then she hit on something very close to home for me, in saying she’s come to realize the value of seeking calm and clarity before she lets her day get rolling. She often wakes with anxiety and angst in the morning with so many thoughts swimming in her head and used to try and address it by doing things, but knows that doesn't calm her. So even unplugging for 10 minutes to focus on breathing, then making sense of her thoughts by writing them down because then they don't seem so scary. She shares how long she went with her goal to get to zero, cross everything off the to do list and be calm, but says, “I've never been at zero." I'll always be getting there, there's never an arrival. I think right there, so many of you will resonate as I did and will want to hear more from Jess. On the note of morning writing, I highly encourage you to visit brightpages.com, her new online, guided journal. Sign up and use code ZIGLAR and she’s giving us all a free month. Her book, Chasing The Bright Side - Embrace Optimism, Activate Your Purpose, and Write Your Own Story was the muse of our first show together and you can find it wherever you get books.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I know a lot of you would love to have great counsel and personal guidance, for your businesses and business ideas, but time and money and who to trust is an issue. Again, I asked, “If you were given $10,000 to spend on business coaching, what are the top one to three issues you would want wise counsel on?” Tom Ziglar joined me to talk through your comments and it was really insightful to hear the areas people wanted help with most. We gave a good bit our guidance and resources and as business coaching is a key service Tom and Ziglar provide, we sourced that, but as you’ll soon hear, the main offering was to help you find the best solution, whether Ziglar provides it or not. Tom even gave out his email address! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Optimism isn’t a mood, it’s a strategy,” quipped Jess Ekstrom in our talk. This is a very candid walk through an amazing amount of mistakes and corrections that led Jess to found the wildly successful company, Headbands of Hope. A favorite part of the discussion for me was Jess sharing how some of her earlier business endeavors were easier to embark on because she didn’t have the “wisdom” to think about it too much, and today as the successful and aware business woman she’s more prone to analyze and question too much, something I believe is a pitfall of aware and intelligent people. This show will massively bolster your confidence in trying things, and will, as the title says, give you a strategy of optimism as a primary methodology. Jess has recently launched an online, guided journal that I’m excited about, at brightpages.com. Sign up and use code ZIGLAR for a free month. Her book, “Chasing The Bright Side” is an inspiring romp through her story of ups and downs and purpose and success. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I listened to a clip from Zig Ziglar about how he works at his goals and it got me to thinking about where we do and don’t generally work at personal growth. We may set goals but do we really work on them daily, like a task? If I want to get faster on my mountain bike, I work out. I go on rides, short, long, slow, hard. I am consistent. I track my progress. Am I this diligent with my goals? With what I say is most important in my life? So I posted this question on Facebook, “If I snooped through your home, office, and car, what evidence would I find of you pursuing personal growth?” And honestly I had it in mind to wonder, is there enough evidence to convict you of? I just posted the question moments ago and I see Facebook notifications dinging my computer. I think it will be an interesting show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

95% of the time I ask an influencer what their most valued daily routine is, they answer with the morning. In this show my guest from episode 841, Jonathan Milligan, does the same. However he goes further than devotions and exercise to further safeguard his morning time for creative work, leaving the afternoon and lesser energy for creativity for admin work. Jonathan is the author of “Your Message Matters” which made for a powerful show. He shares the concept here of Maker Mornings and Manager Afternoons. As with any guidance there are of course exceptions. You may find yourself doing creative work late at night or other times, but by far and large we do find the brain is well prepped for creative thinking earlier in our days. Jonathan shares a lot of behind the scenes info on how he runs his growing business and keeps himself where he needs to be with healthy habits and routines. Find Jonathan and his incredible book, “Your Message Matters,” at yourmessagemattersbook.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you know? I asked The Ziglar Audience and received over 400 comments. Real comments. And they fell into seven categories. To discuss it, Tom Ziglar and I brought in Ziglar’s Spiritual Director, Janie Seltzer. Janie is a very frequent personality on the Ziglar Facebook page which has over 5.5 million followers. Her Facebook lives are extremely popular as she brings true hope and inspiration to everyone. This is a timely show as our current culture is experiencing more fear, anxiety, and uncertainty than possibly ever in most of our lifetimes. I want to give a special call out to you creative minds out there. Those moved by beauty and lyrics and poetry. Janie Seltzer has a new book titled Even If - The Transforming Power of Perfect Love, and it’s far from your normal inspirational book. Take the profound counsel from Zig Ziglar and marry it with art and poetry and you find the messages flowing in from other perspectives of your brain. In this show you’ll hear some tremendous hope and inspiration from Janie, and you can connect with her more and get her book, Even If, at janieseltzer.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Special insert - No intro, outro, or ads. Just a brief, solo message from Kevin Miller about a very important missing piece of personal development he’s learned after hosting The Ziglar Show for the past six years and hearing from over 150 of today’s greatest influencers and leaders. Why are they so successful and fulfilled? Why are you not? It’s the platform for a new podcast, Motive. Kevin’s new platform from this important message is at kevinmiller.co. The punchline, the missing piece is at minute 12. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Who are you to think you have something worthy to offer anyone?” This is perhaps the unspoken yet primary enemy of personal development. We want to be of value to people. We want to help them. We want to take some lessons we’ve learned and lift others up. But the biggest hurdle is our own self doubt. We as humans are far more prone to see our faults than our gifts. Which is why I have a tremendous show for you today. I’ve known Jonathan Milligan for many years and witnessed him help a tremendous amount of people discover the message they have to offer and effectively get it into the market. His success in doing so did not go unnoticed and he was courted to write a book. Which he did, it’s called, “Your Message Matters: How to Rise Above the Noise and Get Paid for What You Know. The book starts off with believing you truly have a message, then leads you into defining it and finally to marketing it. Jonathan Milligan is an author, blogger, speaker, and online business coach and has spent the last decade guiding and directing creative professionals on how to pursue meaningful work. Jonathan has a tremendous story of leaving his high school teaching position and finding his way over seven plus years to 2009 when he started his own portable lifestyle business online. Today he teaches others how to build a business with their passion, story, or message. Find Jonathan and this profound book at yourmessagemattersbook.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I asked the Ziglar audience, “What are you grateful for, right now. First thought. And why?” We got 50 comments in less than three hours and they quickly fell into some specific categories, with two far outstanding. Tom Ziglar and I start off with the miscellaneous one offs that were really interesting and insightful, as we led up to the two main categories which you’ll hear about 20 minutes into the show. My focus however was this, here are the main things we say we are grateful for. Do our daily and ongoing priorities line up with what we say we most value? As I’ll divulge this, the two greatest areas of gratitude are two of the most neglected if we look at the culture. Nobody cited gratitude for their smartphone or TV which undoubtedly gets so much of our attention. Only one person said their work, though we all generally spend more time devoted to our work than anything else. This episode then became a significant audit and exercise for us all to consider. Is what we are most grateful for where we most invest our time and resources? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with John Bevere to talk about the healthy habits and routines he relies on to support his life. His work. His calling. His new book is titled X: Multiply Your God-Given Potential and this was much the focus of our talk, how John personally strives to multiply his own God-given potential through the day to day goings on of life. If you didn’t catch my talk with John in episode 837, just yesterday on Facebook Eric Michael Cap shared the show and tagged me, his post said about the episode with John, “Kevin, I loved It! I’m convicted & Inspired. One of the best Episodes of any Podcast I've listened to all Year. Thank You for the Great Guests & Discussions on TheZiglarShow & Best Wishes re your new Motive podcast. Cheers!” There is my sales pitch to check out episode 837, and to listen now as I’m back with John as he leads off with his morning routine and health and wellness and his quote I titled the show with, a perspective he perceives of God saying to him, “Your Body's My Temple, Take Care Of It”. You can find John at johnbevere.com and his new book, X: Multiply Your God Given Potential wherever you get your books! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You have a product or service that can help someone. You are talking with them about it right now, you know it would benefit them and you know what you have is the best there is. But, they decline. They say no. Zig Ziglar gives us a three and a half minute message at the top of this show with an important reality. They will not change their mind. Hear that. You are not supposed to convince them they are wrong. They made a decision about what you are offering and said no and Zig says it’s hopeless to try and change their mind. However, what he reveals is they said no to one issue regarding your product and as you’ll hear Tom Ziglar discuss in this show, it’s for one of five reasons. Which means you have four other reasons to discuss with them. Four other reasons why they can still say yes. I asked the Ziglar audience this question, “With what you have to sell, what is the most common objection or challenge you deal with?” We used this as a guide to fully unpack the issue.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most everyone had a parent or someone who told them they were special as a child. Someone who told them they were capable of so much. If not, you have undoubtedly read or heard someone claim you have greatness in you. However my experience is, very few of us actually believe it. At least not to a great level. Sure, we may have a knack for some things, but it’s not really that big of a deal. My guest today challenges all of this on the issue. John Bevere’s latest book is titled, X: Multiply Your God Given Potential. The point is our responsibility to multiply our inherent talents, gifts, and abilities, though that assumes we are aware of what those are. We spent a good while talking about just that, discovering and clarifying what talents are within us and the reality that we do in fact have them. Then, how and why do we multiply them. John’s belief is that multiplying our talents is actually one of the key aspects of true faithfulness. But you won’t find simple or pithy discussion here, we get into the nitty gritty of what this really looks and feels like in the real world. John Bevere is an international speaker and best-selling author, he and his wife Lisa Bevere are the founders of Messenger International. They have incredibly large followings due to their fervent and uncompromising messages for us all to multiply our God-given gifts. Find John at johnbevere.com and his new book, X: Multiply Your God Given Potential wherever you get your books! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What you want is often not what you truly want. It is based on a cultural or even personal expectation but in truth is not a core desire you have for yourself. Many of our goals we take on just because. Just because they are the norm. You are expected to buy a home, have a nice car, live a certain style. Work a certain type of job or start a business. In today’s social media culture we get indoctrinated with the expectations of our culture like never before. So when you audit your goals, are they truly yours? Or the cultures? Or your parents or spouse or family’s or friend’s? I play a one minute clip from Zig Ziglar where he asks us this question. Then I posted this question to the Ziglar audience, “Have you ever pursued anything for the wrong reasons?” Tom Ziglar and I talked through the comments, with most who replied being those who had in fact, pursued goals that were not really theirs. This topic right here is a foundation of my new podcast which I officially launch right here and right now. The Motive podcast. The focus is just that, Motives. We discern what we truly want by clarifying our motives for wanting it. Our reasons. Find the Motive podcast in Apple Podcasts, Spotify and Stitcher. You can also find all my shows at kevinmiller.co, including the videos! You can also go to youtube and find me at kevinmiller.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If that sounds elementary as it does when I look at it, I encourage you to really think about it. Do you lead as a spouse, parent, employee, employer or in any capacity? Is this the primary spirit you lead from? Or do you lead from experience, authority, your inherent position and role, seniority, or even simply niceness? You can lead from all these aspects and be leading from or truly providing value to the intended recipient. This is my habits show and I’m back with my guest from episode 833, author and speaker Kary Oberbrunner. I led off with interest about his habits and routines that help him be Unhackable, the title of his new book. Kary shares a lot from his lessons and insight, from being an unfulfilled pastor of 12 years to feeling tied to social media for his business, but it was his line about leading from value that stuck out to me. If you haven’t visited unhackablebook.com where you can check out Kary’s book and free unhackability assessment to find out where you are getting hacked, I encourage you to go now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you vote for a presidential candidate? Did you vote in spite of the candidates with focus on policies and platforms? In this show we reveal that you are voting every day in ways far more powerful than your official ballot. The contents for this show came from two strategic questions I asked the Ziglar audience. First I asked, “If your weekly purchases were audited to discern what you truly value, would you be proud of what was found?” Which I then followed with, “If you had to choose, what political policy are you most concerned about?” Tom Ziglar and I first read through comments citing what purchases people were proud of and which they weren’t. Then tied it into the policies and platforms listeners cited as their greatest values. Ultimately asking if our daily decisions and purchases lined up with what we say we value. The point was not to criticise or critique but bring us all to more awareness that we can make the most powerful votes in our daily decisions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Corporate America’s number one product is you. Your attention is today’s most viable commodity. They can’t get it if you don’t offer it, but the temptation is possibly the most enticing and addictive draw of any drug ever invented. The antidote? Purpose. The consequence of going with the flow? Purpose. Author and speaker Kary Oberbrunner brings us a message from his book and platform, Unhackable, showcasing we are all being hacked and the result is us losing our ideas, dreams, and our very purpose. Conversely the greatest antidote for fighting the pull of social media, news, email, and every outreach calling from our devices is our intentional devotion to a goal. A calling. A purpose. As you will hear in this discussion, I feel Kary has brought a profound insight that provides far more than just pointing out the problem of our beckoning screens, but brilliantly reveals the consequence which doubles as the only viable solution. At unhackablebook.com you can get the book, and a free unhackability assessment to find out where you are getting hacked. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You attempt to sell yourself everyday. To your spouse, your kids, your coworkers or employees, your boss or investors, and for some of you, to an actual customer. What is your process? When do you actually ask for the sale, or do you? I play a four minute clip from Zig Ziglar that is pure sales training. And of course I asked the Ziglar audience a question, “How or when do you ask people to buy your product or service?” and got many responses. Tom Ziglar and I definitely talk business and professional selling here, but we also make this personal. Selling is caring. Selling is influencing. Selling is sometimes convincing somebody of something. And selling is a skill just as much as making somebody feel truly loved is a skill.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are all paid for what we produce, to varying degrees. But with a full time writer it is very tangible and acute. Renowned fiction author Charles Martin was my guest in episode 829 and his livelihood is 100% connected to his thoughts, ideas, and creativity and what he can get from his brain, out his fingers and typed onto a screen. In this Habits episode we walk through how he manages himself, his time and his energy to get the required output from himself. He shares some health issues he’s dealing with that have caused his energy and output to be less, and how he’s managing this to still stay on track with his aggressive writing goals, including getting more of his books on the big movie screens. I think you’ll relate much to the behind the scenes realities of life Charles’ shares. You can find Charle’s books and movie ventures at charlesmartinbooks.com or just search for him wherever you find his books, which I just can’t recommend enough. He has quickly become one of my family's most favored authors. I’m already disappointed at the thought I’ll ultimately read all his books and be left waiting for the next! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Should you keep your goals and aspirations secret? Should you share them with anyone? Everyone? In this episode I play a two minute clip from Zig Ziglar where he gives us two types of goals and who we will be best served to share them with, and why. Then I posted this question to the Ziglar audience, “Do you share your goals and aspirations with anyone? Why and why not? And if you do, who?” Loads of responses that of course ranged from “everybody” to “nobody” and why. This is an important issue, as there is great value in sharing our goals and aspirations and Tom Ziglar and I will address why, but also cause to be judicious in who, and we cover that as well. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A masterful weaver of provocative stories that will move you. You will experience excitement, anticipation, inspiration and you’ll likely cry. And get angry. He’s had readers send hate mail when his stories took a drastic turn and they didn’t stick to read the redemption. Charles Martin has written 14 fiction books, two non-fiction books and has one turned into a major motion picture, “The Mountain Between Us” and another is in the works for a movie. His story of going from full time insurance agent to full time author is humbling, and inspiring. His insight into life, humanity, and faith is why he is on this show. That and the fact I am a fervent fan of his books! My whole family is now reading through all his books. Incredible stories that will entertain you at the highest level, while also hitting the chords of hope and life like nothing else. If you love fiction, look no further. If you haven’t read fiction in a while, I strongly encourage you to try one of Charles books. This is a very in depth and thoughtful conversation with a man devoted to changing the world one story at a time. Find all his books at charlesmartinbooks.com or type charles martin into amazon and you’ll find them all. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the world of personal development, self-help, inspiration, and motivation, the point is to have BHAGs, right? “Big, Hairy, Audacious Goals!” Then why would Zig Ziglar, the king of BHAGs himself talk about negativity in goals and cite that often people are unrealistic? How can that be? It’s a very important question as we balance belief in and not limiting oneself, with some valid questions we need to consider. In this show you’ll hear a three and a half minute message from Zig Ziglar on the issue, then I asked the Ziglar audience this question, SURVEY: For those of you with a really big goal: Do you feel it is realistic? Is it within your field of study and basic interest? Do you believe luck is a determining factor in reaching the goal? Tom Ziglar and I talked through the issue and some of your comments for a show I think you’ll find comfort in and confirmation regarding your own big goals. And maybe some inspiration! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Some people struggle with having ambition in the world and being devoted to God, yet Deborah Smith Pegues holds these both with peace and joy. In episode 825 we heard Deborah’s profound story of having every right to be a victim and be minimized, but instead she went from a difficult upbringing and being a southern maid to being VP of a Fortune 500 Company. This is my Habits show and we get to hear first hand the habits, routines and values that give Deborah such a rich and vibrant life and successful career. She is jointly full of laughter while not pulling any punches about what she believes, what she struggles with, and how she addresses it all in her daily life. I believe you’ll find yourself smiling and convicted as you listen to this episode. You can find Deborah and all she has to offer at https://www.confrontingissues.com/ and you can find her new book, Lead Like a Woman anywhere you buy books. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

First doesn’t mean most, but it is a relevant sequence. Here is a simple and easy analogy that you will get, but it will be an effort to truly...get. Before a busy week of caring for your family and running them around everywhere, you fill up your car with gas. I bet you don’t drive until you run out and end up stranded with your family, right? And you don’t get out and push and have one of the kids steer for a few days, right. You get gas before you are empty, possibly every week or more. You also change the oil, put washer fluid in, get new brakes and tires and more. What about yourself? We often don’t treat ourselves with the wisdom and necessity of our car. We run ourselves to empty and spend untold days, weeks, months, maybe years, running on empty. Slow and sluggish or hectic and frantic, and the people we care about are not getting the best ride. It’s a cultural error. In this episode I play a clip from Zig Ziglar where he talks about balance and having us look at where we are out of balance. I then posted this question to the Ziglar audience; Right now, which area below gets most of your focus and interest, and which gets the least?  1 Health & Wellness 2 Relationships 3 Mental  4 Finances 5 Spiritual 6 Career 7 Personal Tom Ziglar and I talked through the responses. You’ll be interested to hear where people said they were giving the most focus, and this wasn’t where they thought they should be giving more and less focus, but where they actually are. The punchline I’ve made obvious though, the place people most cited giving the least focus to was, themselves. Their own personal care. So of course Tom and I address this in the show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Everything works together for my good; I’m never a victim.” Deborah Smith Pegues had every reason to be a victim but ultimately didn’t see the value in it. She was poor, underprivileged, black, she’d been molested, yet figured out how to get an education and went from southern maid to Fortune 500 V.P. and then on to become an international speaker and award winning author of 17 books including her book, 30 Days to Taming Your Tongue which has sold over one million copies worldwide. But don’t expect some hard charging war horse here, that’s what intrigued me. Deborah was all smiles and laughter as she gave light hearted but profound answers to my inquiries. At one point as I pressed her on the hardships she faced, she just said, “Well what were the options? Let it all take me down, or just go succeed?” It left me feeling silly for minimizing myself or letting any circumstance get me down and handicap me. She has a new book called, “Lead Like A Woman” but I’ll tell you her message spoke to me as much as any I’ve heard in a long time. What we discussed regarding gender and race and opportunity was powerful. As a black person she never tried to be white and as a woman she never tried to be a man. However she recognized how the cards were stacked and simply did what needed to be done. She knew she’d have to work twice as hard to get half the credit, which she again, simply accepted and did it, realizing complaining about it or letting it hold her back gained her nothing, it just diminished her and her opportunity. What she is today is a wildly successful and joyfully fulfilled human and it was a pure delight to hear her wisdom. I think you’ll find the same thing. Find Deborah and all she has to offer at https://www.confrontingissues.com/ and you can find her new book, Lead Like a Woman anywhere you buy books. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We often talk about the things we would do if we had more time. In this episode we kick off with a two minute clip from Zig Ziglar about the power of focusing in on one goal because we can’t address every goal all the time. From this message I asked the Ziglar audience this question, “If you were given time to double your focus on improving one area of your life or progressing toward any one specific goal...where would it be?” Great conversation reading through the comments with Tom Ziglar. Many of the comments talked about business goals but the majority were addressing themselves, which shines light on the reality of how we often shortchange our own care, which leaves us unable to serve others and our goals at full capacity. You’ll get much from this episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Andy Andrews cites George Washington Carver saying he was up before birds and would promptly go outside and get his marching orders for the day. Andy prescribes to this as well as he shares some of his most valued routines here in my Habits show. If you didn’t hear episode 819 where I talked with Andy about his new book, Just Jones, please...go listen to it. You’ll hear some of his personal story of both parents dying while he was a child, ending up living under a pier and ultimately being befriended by an older man named, Jones. To come from this lifestyle and seeming lack to being a renowned, best selling author and influencer to influencers requires some healthy habits and routines that differ from the norm. Here in this episode you’ll hear some. But you’ll also hear us go on a tangent of parenting and some counsel Andy gave me years ago that stuck. As a teaser I’ll just ask you this, “Is your goal to raise good kids, or good adults?” It’s a paradigm shift. So if you want a serious and significant dive into core issues of parenting, you’ll find it here. And check this out...I encourage you to again, listen to episode 819 with Andy and me, and if you bless yourself and buy Andy’s new book, “Just Jones” from Amazon or anywhere and send him a receipt or screenshot to andy@andyandrews.com, you’ll gain access to his 4 hour audio program, “Becoming a Noticer.” And we all want to be noticers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We buy what we buy for the benefit it gives us, in the form of fulfilling a desire or solving a problem. Sometimes we aren’t even aware of why we buy what we do, but there is almost always a specific reason. The exercise of this show is to get us thinking about benefits from the products and services we buy, so as to help us better conceptualize how we need to showcase the products and services we offer. Even if you are an employee, you are paid for a result, not simply to take up space. Are you aware of the specific benefits you provide? I start this show off with a three minute clip from Zig Ziglar, from his direct sales training, not a stage with all his humor. He talks about the three aspects of anything we offer, features, functions and benefits. With the core value being of course, benefits. From this clip I asked the Ziglar audience this question, “Please recommend a few of your favorite products and services and WHY...what is the benefit you get from them?” What came out was a great overview of just what Zig outlined, features, functions and benefits. Tom Ziglar and I had a really interesting conversation dissecting this triad as we talked through many of the comments. This will really help you conceptualize just what benefit you, your product or service is providing.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do you get a mentor? What does a good mentor look like? That’s how we kick off this show. I’m with Mark Timm. Mark is a seriously successful businessman who can I just say...has done very well. But he wanted to do better, in business, and as a dad. So he got a mentor. Not just any mentor mind you, but Kevin Harrington, the original shark on the blockbuster Shark Tank TV show. Inventor of the infomercial and if you’ve ever heard, “Wait, there’s more,” that’s from Kevin. The two met through the Ziglar corporation and family and I’ve been blessed to spend time with both guys. They have now written a book together, Mentor To Millions, which you can get at getmtm.com. But what you’ll find in the book, we cover in this show, and it’s literally, a “Wait, there’s more!” episode. As I said, we start off with what everyone wants to hear most, how do you find a mentor? Here is what’s interesting though, Mark talks so much about the mentoring he got and gets from Kevin, even now as they are business partners. And folks, the book is along with everything else, a complete playbook on the business methods of Kevin Harrington. But Mark not only applies the lessons to his businesses, but his family, as a primary focus for Mark, as you’ll hear, is nurturing and growing his family. So everything he learns and applies to business, he applies to his family. He showcases that not only do you not have to sacrifice your family to be successful in your work or business, but you can actually benefit your family by bringing them into your work. It’s really an intriguing message and show. Again, you can get Mentor To Millions which has just come out and already hit the bestsellers list, at getmtm.com. Show them a receipt from buying the book and they are offering 30 days of mentorship, for your business and family! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You have a product or service to provide. You love for people to experience it. But alas, you also need income from the time and money you spend developing and delivering your product or service. Which means, not just sales, but the ultimate setting of a price and asking to be paid. This is not a fun aspect for many. In fact, it’s often a place of severe dread with multiple negative feelings attached to it. This show is for you and it’s packed with paradigm shifting perspective changers you can take action on right now. I kick the show off with a 3.5 minute clip from Zig Ziglar where he shares a time when he was kindly chastised for selling his books, tapes, and resources from the stage where he was presenting and told it took away his credibility. How did he respond? In a way you need to hear, and you will in just a moment. From Zig’s message I asked the Ziglar audience this question, “For those of you with a product, service, or message you truly believe in, how do you feel about the task of actually selling it and asking others to pay?” I know I always say we get great comments, but friends, this turned into possibly one of the most valuable shows on how we can perceive what we provide and charge for it with peace, joy, and confidence.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Wonderful movies and stories of our time are made from people who achieved something which seemed impossible, either for themselves or for anyone at all. The best stories are the ones which are actually true. History is littered with such feats. How about you? Have you done something you or others once thought was impossible? Or do you dream of achieving something you feel is impossible and unreasonable for you? This show is for you. Andy Andrews is my guest. Andy is author of more than 25 books, several of which are New York Times bestsellers including The Traveler's Gift and The Noticer. ABC's Good Morning America named The Traveler’s Gift one of the “Five Books You Must Read In Your Lifetime.” Andy has spoken at the request of four different presidents of the United States. He's coached our nation’s Special Operations Command for eight years and has been a part of nine College Football National Championship teams in a row. He works as a consultant to Fortune 500 companies, small businesses, and sometimes, entire communities who hire him to create a starting point for extraordinary results. His newest book—Just Jones - Sometimes a thing is impossible until it is actually done—released September 8, 2020. A New York Times reporter recently wrote, “Andy Andrews has quietly become one of the most influential people in America.” To me, Andy is an incredible guy with an incredible story and he writes incredibly intriguing fiction...with a point. Such as the point of this latest book of his, Just Jones, about doing something that seems impossible, until it’s actually done. A key point we discuss in this show together is Andy stating, “What most folks lack...is perspective. A broader view.” I find it true for myself and others, we so often have such a narrow view of what is and what is not possible. This is why Andy is cited by some of the world’s elite as a Professional Noticer. He believes we can all become such. Matter of fact, buy Andy’s new book, “Just Jones” from Amazon or anywhere and send him a receipt or screenshot and send it to andy@andyandrews.com and you’ll gain access to his 4 hour audio program, “Becoming a Noticer.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How many of you are incredible with helping clients, but it’s other areas of your business where you struggle? I asked the Ziglar audience just that, “COACHES/CONSULTANTS/COUNSELORS - What area of your business is the greatest challenge for you?” Tom Ziglar and I read through the comments and gave counsel primarily to the business of coaching, consulting and counseling. Ziglar is in the business of helping grow these kinds of businesses, it’s what Tom Ziglar specializes in with his Choose To Win Coaching program which you can see at ziglarshow.com/ctw. This however is our best counsel to the questions asked, free for the taking. A heads up, the most popular question was in regards to marketing and lead generation which we saved as the last issue to cover. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let me clarify the title of this episode, that it’s from a place of peace and abundance. It’s not from an exasperated place of “Well, what more can I do?!” But it’s brought to us from a place of care and love, and to use that word again, abundance. Wouldn’t you like to be at a place of wholeness and gratitude where you can readily and eagerly ask, “What more can I do?” John O’Leary is not just back for my Habits show, this is in many ways a Part Two from our initial conversation in episode 815 where we discussed the childlike qualities John shares in his new book, IN AWE: Rediscover Your Childlike Wonder to Unleash Inspiration, Meaning + Joy.” This is my Habits episode with John and he shares his gratitude and joy in asking just that, “What more can I do!” You will be inspired, not burdened. I also take us into an issue I meant to in our previous episode. Something deep many of you will want to hear. At age nine John was horrifically burned and had third degree burns on more than 87% of his body. After examining him a doctor bluntly told his parents, “If John were a horse, I’d shoot him.” John was sitting right there. Can you imagine being given this prognosis and devaluation of your life? But what you’ll want to hear is...what happened next. It’s in this episode. You can get John’s new book, IN AWE: Rediscover Your Childlike Wonder to Unleash Inspiration, Meaning + Joy” wherever you buy books, and connect with all John has for you at Johnolearyinspires.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Don’t you wish you could remember important quotes and inspiration and scripture as well as you remember songs on the radio decades ago? In moments of importance when I’d like to pull up wisdom from the ages I’m often at a loss, but ask me to recite lyrics and melodies from the 1980s top 40 and I’m remarkable. Music sticks in our minds and goes in through an open door to our emotions. To our memory. So I have a special show for you. Tom Ziglar brings us Roy Smoothe. Roy is a branding expert who is putting inspirational messages to...music. Jim Rohn said, "Roy created the most powerful communication tool of the 21st Century. His service is outstanding. His creativity is tremendous.” Roy’s “Smoothe Mixes” have now tallied up over 30 million streams in a short time. In this show we announce the release of the “Zig Ziglar Smoothe Mix” which hits Amazon on Sept. 4, 2020. Why do you care? If you know Zig Ziglar you know his paramount quote, You are what you are and you are where you are because of what has gone into your mind. You change what you are and you change where you are by changing what goes into your mind.” This is your chance to put life changing content in your mind and make it stick and take root like never before. Roy has literally put the best of Zig to catchy, motivating music. You can go to Amazon now to find the Zig Ziglar Smoothe Mix. As you’ll hear in this show, I am advocating using the mix to start your morning and end your day. Listen in for the psychology of why. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This show was just convicting for me. When did I leave childlike qualities of questioning the so-called norm and just trying things without worrying what anyone thought? And how have I shortchanged myself in the process? In studying the most successful people of our time John O’Leary cites five key, childlike traits they embody. Traits most of us have left behind. John O’Leary is one of the world’s premier inspirational people. Why? Because his story is just ridiculous and his perspective is infectious. At nine years old he basically blew himself up and got 3rd degree burns over 87% of his body. Nobody should survive that. He did and today is grateful for it. Literally. This is the second time I’ve had John on the show and we cover a good bit of ground talking about his business amidst covid, his faith, and the message of his new book, “In Awe” where he give an incredible look at child like qualities the most successful people have retained, and the freedom and success we can find if we embrace them. Note, it’s not childishness. It’s wize and mature and aware...and childLIKE. Big difference and I now, strongly believe one we need to all understand and consider.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You have a goal you are working towards. If it has any true value there will be challenges on the way and adjustments will be necessary. Or when things don't go as planned you’ll ultimately throw in the towel. It sounds elementary but it gets to the heart of all our pursuits. I start this episode off with a two and a half minute message from Zig Ziglar where he drives this point home in the way only he can, then I asked Ziglar listeners this question, "What goal did you achieve even though you had to make big changes to HOW you achieved it, or the path to it wasn't what you expected?" Tom Ziglar joins me to talk through some of the replies I’ll give you a punchline, he gets us talking on the root issue of knowing clearly WHY you are doing after whatever it is you’re going after. This show I believe will really give you freedom in your desire to go after or stay after a big goal or desire. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m back with Dr Saundra Dalton Smith who in episode #811 led us in eight key areas we need rest, in order to be at our best. This is my Habits show and no surprise Saundra is very clear and specific in her habits and routines, with rest in multiple areas being paramount. One of her morning routines I really admire is asking herself how she wants her life to affect others, today . I also took advantage of Saundra being a practicing doctor to ask what habits she finds herself recommending mpost to patients. She cited a primary issue with patients is them being sedentary and her prescribing...movement. And also the benefit in enjoying food in its natural form. This and much more in this episode. I highly encourage you to take Saundra’s rest quiz, check out her new book, and see all she has to help you with, by going to ichoosemybestlife.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Goals so big they scare you part 2! In episode 810 Tom Ziglar and I responded to comments to the question, “Who has a big goal? Maybe bigger than you honestly feel capable of? Maybe big enough you are not even comfortable sharing publicly?” Since we received feedback from listeners about how great the show was and we had so many more comments we didn’t get to, we decided to continue on. Some highlights, Nicole's parents' home was lost to fire in January and her big goal is to save up $20k to give them this Christmas. Tarz has a big idea he's confident in but is afraid to share it for fear of the idea being stolen. Renee wants to leave regular real estate for flipping homes and wants to find a relationship leading to marriage. Beffry wants to teach business to children from her homeland in Kenya where they are so often oppressed and a good many more. You’ll of course be inspired but I think this show will do more and truly incite you to embrace your big goals with far more confidence. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A drug is “a substance that causes a change in one's physiology or psychology.” I’m taking liberty in calling “rest” a substance, but there is nothing stronger for positively changing your physiology or psychology for the better. If you want an athlete to kill it at a competition you have them rest the day before, you don’t run them ragged. When you want to perform well on a given day, how do you treat yourself the day before? The week before? In the workplace we treat ourselves more like indentured servants who slog out each day rather than highly prized performers. Thus the purpose of this episode. I'm bringing you a doctor. A board certified internal medicine physician. She's a work-life integration researcher, a TEDx speaker, best-selling author and international wellness expert. She's been on the Dr OZ show and a guest with all the big names. Her focus? Getting you rested and recovered physically AND mentally, so that you can actually have top performance and output. This show will make you want to rest, and rest in all the right ways. Dr Saundra Dalton-Smith is my guest and friends, I went after her to get this message on the show. Her new book is Sacred Rest: Recover Your Life, Renew Your Energy, Restore Your Sanity. I just took a weekend following her counsel, to get myself on track for better performance. You are going to greatly appreciate this show. I highly encourage you to take Saundra’s rest quiz, check out her new book, and see all she has to help you with, by going to ichoosemybestlife.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Many of us have dreams, desires, and goals we are uncomfortable with. We may have a hard time admitting we want them. We may be ashamed to share them. Or we may desire to have big goals but can’t tap into what we really want or care about. This show is about these issues. I kick us off with a clip from Zig Ziglar realistic expectations and the need to have big goals, which will seem at odds to many, which is why I encourage you to listen to what Zig has to say. From this I posted this question to the Ziglar Show audience, “Who has a big goal? Maybe bigger than you honestly feel capable of? Maybe big enough you are not even comfortable sharing publicly?” We got so many great responses that Tom Ziglar and I only got through about half. It’s so inspiring and informative to not only hear people admit their goals but to admit their quandary in how to go after these goals. A powerful show, to say the least.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is what Sam Collier believes, that we are literally wired to function off of joy. This is a significant statement from anyone but to me is more intriguing coming from a pastor. I didn’t grow up hearing this message or witnessing such a spirit in the multitude of churches I frequented. Hearing the way Sam puts it is infectious, however. This is my Habit’s episode and Sam shares from the profound, to the interesting, as we get into his love of movies and music which I share and asked him to give us some specifics. But my focus was his focus on the importance of recreation, fun, and laughter and his own medicine of laughing his way out of pain. He says, "The best leaders have fun and enjoy themselves. When they don't have fun they get stuck in a serious world. People who don't have fun have a hard time having hope when things get rough." This struck a cord in me as you'll hear, because it's a tendency of mine to be serious and production oriented and not giving any attention to fun and play and joy. "Every decision you make every day determines your destiny. Choose wisely. Don't underestimate the power of having a good time." You can connect with Sam and all he has to offer you at agreaterstory.org and find his podcast by the same name wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks to FOCL and their “Plant powered wellness” for supporting this episode, connect with them at http://go.thoughtleaders.io/1898420200810  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all need to get paid for our work. But does it provide you with anything beyond the money? Does it provide value to others? It’s a big question that is worth pondering and being very cognizant of. I asked the Ziglar audience this question, “What value does your work provide beyond making money to pay for your life?” Over 60 lengthy comments about people’s work. Some realized they were only focused on the money. Many cited work they cared deeply about that provided great meaning to them and service to others. A couple who didn’t need the money anymore but worked to bless others. We covered some important ground for us all to consider regarding not only what all we get from our work, but what the end user of the product or service we represent gets. This show will give you great gratitude and confirmation for your work, cause you to ponder more breadth in your work, or possibly show you you need to be looking for work elsewhere! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s just a fact. Your story runs and rules your life. You think your story is black and white and truth and today you are either successful because of or in spite of it, or you are overcome and defeated by it. Likely somewhere in between. While you can’t and should not sugarcoat the hard things that happened to you, you can find the redemption, and that makes all the difference. This is the focus of today’s show, but let me also add...around the 27 minute mark we have an incredible discussion on our current racial tension and then an absolutely profound talk about finding one’s purpose. My guest is Sam Collier, pastor, speaker, writer, and host of the “A Greater Story with Sam Collier” TV show and radio podcast and a brand new book by the same name. I brought Sam on to the show to discuss his incredible story of being born to a drug addict and given up for adoption and his focus on how we can and should elevate how we see our story. Normally I would not give any reference to race or color, but part of Sam’s story is being black and growing up in a very black culture in the south, so we got into the current racial tensions of 2020 and shares a message to blacks and whites separately which I really, strongly encourage you to hear. Then, holy moly, we got into both of our perspectives on finding one’s purpose and from it, well, you’ll hear Sam exclaim a couple times that we need to write a book together. I’ll admit, it was significant. Again, such a powerful show. You can connect with Sam and all he has to offer you at agreaterstory.org and find his podcast by the same name wherever you get your podcasts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever get irked by a personality who just seems to want to sell to you and promote themselves, and doesn’t come off as having your best interest truly at heart? This is a sore spot for many people, and we hit it head on in this show. For many of you who are seeking to lead and influence others, and many of you who already are, you will want to tune in and see how you can better serve and care for your audience and how to and not to market and position yourself. I start us off with a short clip from a presentation by Zig Ziglar where he references a story he used in his all-time best selling book, See You At The Top. The story was about a guy named Tom Hartman who lost a lot of weight. In this segment Zig references the story because he realizes he is selling this book he authored that contains that story and...he is quite overweight himself. This doesn't bode well for his credibility. I'll never forget a celebrity author once with another book on relationships and finding out she was twice divorced and currently single. In that circumstance I found her credibility on what it takes to have healthy relationships, questionable. But from Zig's message and point on credibility I asked the Ziglar audience this question, "With all the personalities (authors, speakers, podcasters, etc…) marketing to you, what hurts their credibility most for you?" We got a barrage of responses and a week later they are still coming in. People get really frustrated and disappointed as we all look for people to lead and guide us, but we are so sensitive when we feel taken advantage of. You’ll resonate with many of the responses and if you are seeking to lead, influence, and market to others, this is your filter to gain and retain credibility and success.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How much do you care about the home you live in? Does it matter a little or a lot if it’s clean and safe with nice amenities? Of course. Likewise every day we wake up to live inside our brain. Like your home, you have control over the quality and state of your brain. Much more control than you have over your outside circumstances, actually, yet we don’t tend to function from this perspective, but instead tend to live as if our brain is concrete and hardwired. Dr. Caroline Leaf has made it her life’s work to debunk and disprove this and show us how our brain can be our servant instead of the other way around. As a communication pathologist and cognitive neuroscientist specializing in cognitive and metacognitive neuropsychology she has worked since the early 1980s researching the mind-brain connection, the nature of mental health, and the formation of memory. She was one of the first in her field to study how the brain can change (neuroplasticity) with directed mind input. Dr. Leaf is the bestselling author of Switch on Your Brain, Think Learn Succeed, and coming soon, Cleaning Up The Mental Mess, which is the title of her top ranked health and wellness podcast. In this show we go through what led her into the field, how her faith overlaps with her vocational mission, and key aspects of the control we actually have and can employ regarding our brain. You can connect with Dr Leaf and all she has to offer at drleaf.com, and find her new Switch app at theswitch.app. Thanks to FOCL and their “Plant powered wellness” for supporting this episode, connect with them at http://go.thoughtleaders.io/1898820200727 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The punchline, our survey was exactly 50-50. Some people want a plan to walk out and others just pull the trigger and figure it out along the way. It’s more of a personal style than a right or wrong but the bigger point is either way assumes you are going after something! I play a three minute clip from Zig Ziglar where he cites that people who set goals and make plans of action have better lives and success all around and he gives some great stories. From this I asked the Ziglar audience this question, “For those who set goals and strive for progress in your lives, do you 1) Create a plan of action to walk out, or 2) Pull the trigger and figure it out as you go? The responses were not just cut and dry however and Tom Ziglar and I talked through the nuances and insight brought to us by everyone. What you’re about to hear should feel freeing and confirming to you and your style, and convicting to take action. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Never make a decision, or jump and risk making a bad decision. These two ends of the spectrum get the most focus. My guest today finds middle ground in being decisive and taking action, then working to make it right. It also aligns with his counsel that, “Done beats perfect!” My guest is Nick Unsworth who was with me in episode 801 where his stories of failures and successes I culminated into the show title of, “Declare your vision”. In this show we talk about the business and personal habits Nick most values. As a people pleaser he cites how he’s had to learn to practice self-care, because as he states, “If you don’t take care of you there is nothing left.” You’ll be inspired by Nick’s sharing. If you missed our first show together, Nick is CEO of Life on Fire and his mission is to build the world’s largest Christ centered platform online and to raise up leaders to grow God’s Kingdom. Nick has coached over 3,100 people and has consulted clients including: Daymond John from Shark Tank, Spartan Races, Navy Seals.com, Joe Polish, John Assaraf who I’ve had here on the show, Keller Williams Real Estate, Safeco Insurance, C3 Church, and many more. He’s just an incredible guy I’ve had the fortune to get to know, with a big heart for people, inspirational businesses, and God. You can join Nick for his Life on Fire Challenge at www.lifeonfirechallenge.com where you can get a free 7 day, live group coaching experience designed to clarify your business vision, create a profit plan, and launch into action. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When someone important in your life, someone you respect, or someone in authority states their lack of belief in you and your ability, it either crushes or empowers you. But the point here is not trying to prove people wrong but to recognize how daunting and limiting this can be.  I play a four minute clip from Zig Ziglar on the power of setting goals and he tells the story of legendary Notre Dame coach, Lou Holtz. In Lou’s first coaching job, a new head coach came in and kindly told Lou, “You’re not cut out to be a coach, I encourage you to get into some other field.” And I wondered how many people out there have been told by someone important in their life, someone they respect, like a parent, a teacher, a coach, a spouse, a boss, that they should not or could not do something, that they really desired to do? Again, in my experience when this happens the recipient so often believes and agrees and does not pursue the desire or dream. It’s profound how many top world leaders were told they could not or should not pursue the directions they ultimately did. We have to realize that anyone who ever speaks any counsel to us is merely human. I don’t mean to just readily discount counsel from others, I think we should always consider it. But we must also weigh it against the reality that counsel comes from a human who is not perfect and all knowing, and could very likely be absolutely wrong. I’ve been blessed with a lot of support and encouragement in my life but I absolutely have some examples of desires and pursuits where people very close to me advised against it. Who said it wasn’t wise or they didn’t see me as being adequately equipped. And I went forward and succeeded. It doesn’t mean they weren’t wise and there wasn’t validity in their perspective. But in this case they were merely wrong. Likewise I’ve had times of not feeling someone was well equipped to do something and they proved I was wrong! Not bad or ill-meaning, but I was wrong. So I asked the Ziglar audience, “Who has succeeded at something, that someone told you, you could not do or should not attempt?” As you can imagine, some incredible stories that Tom Ziglar and I talked through. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have an incredible and powerful story to share with you. A personal testimony. Not of some hudu-guru “speak it into life” stuff, but just a floundering, good hearted guy who went through failure after failure, but through it all achieved some incredible things that he chose to believe, put hard deadlines on, and just worked to accomplish. Still, how they happened is, well, the stuff of stories. Nick Unsworth is a renowned business coach who is known for his expertise in Facebook advertising. As CEO of Life on Fire, Nick’s mission is to build the world’s largest Christ centered platform online and to raise up leaders to grow God’s Kingdom. Nick sold a marketing agency by 30 years old, an amazing part of his story you’ll shortly hear about. He’s coached over 3,100 people and has consulted clients including: Daymond John from Shark Tank, Spartan Races, Navy Seals.com, Joe Polish, John Assaraf who I’ve had here on the show, Keller Williams Real Estate, Safeco Insurance, C3 Church, and many more. He’s just an incredible guy I’ve had the fortune to get to know, with a big heart for people, inspirational businesses, and God. Join Nick for his Life on Fire Challenge at www.lifeonfirechallenge.com where you can get a free 7 day, live group coaching experience designed to clarify your business vision, create a profit plan, and launch into action. Thanks to FOCL and their “Plant powered wellness” for supporting this episode, connect with them at http://go.thoughtleaders.io/1898920200713 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Zig Ziglar brings us a two minute message on the three options your prospect has, 1) Do business with you, 2) Decide not to do business at all, and 3) Do business with a competitor. So your competitor is not just other businesses that offer a similar product or service to yours, it’s also just doing nothing. To give us personal testimonies to work with I asked Ziglar listeners this question, “What is your business? Your product or service? And what is the main competition or deterrent for people buying what you have to offer?” Reading through the comments with Tom Ziglar really helped us flesh out this topic very well. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m going to give you five key points and you are going to either be massively educated, or you’ll hear them and say, “Yes! Where did these skills go because I wish everyone had them!” I don’t know how cities of old got...lost. How does that happen? Well in a much bigger mystery, how did the primary skills of success get lost, cause they have been. But you can get them, now. Or if you have them, you can send this show to others who you know need them. Like your kids or a millennial or...you’ll know someone. Give them the gift of awareness for success and security in their work. And I won’t hold out on you, here they are: 1) Do more than expected 2) Be intuitive 3) Take initiative 4) Learn people skills 5) Ask questions. I’ll break them down quickly and concisely.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Everyone claims their personal development and self-help resource is the best. What do the consumers say? First I have a four and a half minute message from Zig Ziglar sharing the life changing power of consuming positive and equipping messages. Then Tom Ziglar joins me to talk through an incredible list of real world testimonies. I asked the Ziglar audience this question, “What personal development resource have you gotten the most out of?” We got a boat load of responses and worked to talk through as many as we could. From this show you will hear the number one resources people have used in their lives to change...their lives.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Consider your personality was not implanted in you and it’s not concrete. It was primarily trained. The concept is controversial and either exciting, or scary. If you are who you are because of how you’ve been shaped, then the truth is you can absolutely reshape yourself. This is a root cause issue of personal development. Ben Hardy joins us today and he takes the “personality profile” industry to task in a massive way. He just came out with his book of research on the topic, Personality Isn’t Permanent - Break Free From Self-Limiting Beliefs And Rewrite Your Story, which as of this writing is ranked in the top 1,000 books on earth in Amazon. Friends, every guest I have on this show has an incredible message to share. But sometimes they bring truly paradigm shifting, revelatory information to divulge. This is one of those shows. Ben was with me over two years ago in episode 552 with his last book and message which was also...massive, “Willpower Doesn’t Work”. I refer to it so often in my life. Ben Hardy has a PhD in Organizational Psychology, his website gets hundreds of thousands of views monthly. From 2015-2018, he was the #1 writer in the world on Medium.com And is always at the top of the rankings. His blogs have been read by over 100 million people and are published everywhere. Connect with Ben at benjaminhardy.com and get his 6-page "Future Self Checklist" and a 23-minute training with the best science from Personality Isn't Permanent, for free. Get the book anywhere you buy books. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It is just a fact that we perform to the level of our belief in ourselves. How to increase that belief is the foundational effort of the entire personal development and self-help industry. I have a two minute message from Zig Ziglar on the reality of the perspective, then I asked the Ziglar audience for their testimonies with this post, “I'm looking for people who have experienced a significant improvement in their self-image. I want to know what the catalyst was for you.” What you will hear are first hand testimonies of where people were, what they did, and how it impacted their self-image. Tom Ziglar joined me to talk through the responses and we read through a good number. Sometimes hearing true stories like this of how people actually did it is more empowering than hearing counsel and guidance on how to do it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What are the habits of a professional sales person? I took the opportunity to ask Pierce Marrs, my guest from episode 793. This is our habits show and while we do cover some of the personal habits I normally get into, we spend a majority of the time talking about the successful and healthy habits of sales. You’ll hear Pierce talk about being respectful of the person’s time, cluing in to the person’s interests, are they all business or do they want to get personal. A big key is simply, awareness and listening. Being aware and a student of the other person instead of focused on your agenda and task. He also talks in depth about becoming an expert communicator, in sales and in the marriage relationship, as Pierce and his wife are marriage mentors. You can find Pierce’s book, “Could You Survive Shark Tank?” and the Surviving Shark Tank Assessment, at SharkTankBook.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most everyone’s lives have been significantly disrupted in 2020 by COVID-19. The concept of a “new normal” is a hot topic as many businesses have reopened. I of course wanted to hear from you, so I posted a question on my personal Facebook page at agentkmiller, where you are welcome to join these weekly discussions. I asked, “What aspects of your “new normal” do you want to retain, even if things were to get back to the way they were?” From the submissions, here are some aspects that were covered, Will you work from home? Will you send kids back to school and all the extracurricular activities and rushing around? Will you eat out as much or keep cooking at home more. Personal time for yourself and with your family, will you keep it up? Will you keep investing in hobbies and personal projects that you began? Will you continue the increased outside time?” These issues and more are what Tom Ziglar and I read and talked through. It brings up the need and opportunity for us all to ask some big questions and ponder some important, and I think exciting, decisions. It’s happening in my own family, right now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you have a business or are thinking of starting one, here is a show you will want to get equipped with. It’s going to give you a powerful filter to structure your business around. Pierce Marrs is a true sales professional who started his sales career at age 19 and now at age 56 has done over $250 million in sales. He’s a student of what Zig calls, “the right way to sell”, with morals and ethics and putting the other’s needs first. As you’ll hear, it’s not just the right thing to do, but the most profitable! We start the show off talking pure sales, including how Pierce’s faith plays a powerful role. But Pierce does more than sell! He’s owned several, successful small businesses, he’s a renowned business coach, for almost 10 years he’s hosted the Shark Tank Fan podcast, and from so closely auditing every episode, he’s just now written a book, Could You Survive Shark Tank? The Shark's Top 7 Questions Every Entrepreneur Must Answer. We spend the second half of the show discussing the focus of the book, which are those seven key questions Pierce realized are almost always asked by the Sharks to every participant. As we say in the show, this is for anyone in business, regardless of whether you need investor or outside money. It’s really an incredibly valuable filter to audit your business or idea against. Pierce has his book, “Could You Survive Shark Tank?” and the Surviving Shark Tank Assessment, at SharkTankBook.com. You can also connect there about his Coaching and Speaking. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Continuing from episode 790 and the question, “If you could have a 1 hour consultation with Zig Ziglar, what area of life or business would you get his advice on?” To just get through the very relevant responses took Tom Ziglar and I nearly two hours, and what came out was very much a “best of” Zig Ziglar. Due to the length we cut it into two shows. In this episode, more regarding Zig Ziglar and issues around faith, sales, relationships, working with family, regrets, and self-image. You’ll get much of the ethos that made Zig Ziglar a near household name who touched over 250 million lives with his message of hope and “inspiring your true performance.” Enjoy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Self care is community care, if you don’t care for yourself you take it out on other people.” This is the phrase that jumped out at me as I asked Adrienne Bankert about her healthy habits. She responded with the statement after I asked her about her habits in the “Personal” spoke. I feel it is a significant paradigm shift on self-care, and I find it to be so true. When I have poured myself out and not filled back up, others suffer. Maybe I don’t take it out on them in a negative way, but I have less to offer them. They aren’t getting my best. At the idea of a listener, I’m expanding on the Habits show to ask some deeper questions, such as in this show we start off with Adrienne talking about the key habits and routines she values most for herself. If you didn’t catch it, Adrienne Bankert is a national correspondent for ABC news and my guest in episode 789 where we discussed the very acute success strategy of kindness, the topic of her new book, “Your Hidden Superpower” - The Kindness That Makes You Unbeatable At Work And Connects You with Anyone. find Adrienne’s new book and get access to the Your Hidden Superpower e-course, at www.yourhiddensuperpower.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you had his attention all to yourself, what area of life or business would you ask Zig Ziglar’s counsel on? Few people on earth have been sought after for their guidance more than Zig. So I asked the question, “If you could have a 1 hour consultation with Zig Ziglar, what area of life or business would you get his advice on?” The responses covered such issues as faith, sales, relationships, working with family, regrets, self-image and much more. The responses were so many and so significant, Tom Ziglar and I spent nearly 1:45 addressing them, enough to turn this into a two part show. This may be some of the “best of” Ziglar you’ll find! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For your success strategy, what tools or weapons will you choose? Grit? Willpower? Talent? Perseverance? This national correspondent for ABC News had all those, but she cites her most beneficial asset has been...kindness. You probably think of being kind as a nice thing to do. That may be the least value it has. Adrienne Bankert credits kindness for her rapid career trajectory that took her from a traffic anchor at a local news station to the coveted role of national correspondent for ABC News. In her new book, “Your Hidden Superpower” - The Kindness That Makes You Unbeatable At Work And Connects You with Anyone, she outlines the continual opportunities and promotions which time and time again were bestowed upon her because of her devotion to being kind to everyone at all times. Not an easy prospect, as you will hear. This show is going to give you a far different perspective on being kind, which is not always, just being nice. Adrienne is an Emmy-award winning journalist known for her compelling interviews. She was the POP News anchor for the weekend edition of Good Morning America and is now a New York based national correspondent for ABC News. Just type her name into your search engine and hit "News" and you'll generally find her national coverage from Adrienne within the past 48 hours. www.yourhiddensuperpower.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sales class is here. I’ve got five minutes of sales expertise from Zig Ziglar where he simply states, “Questions are the answer!” He digs into the three types of questions in his “need analysis” with the goal to establish trust. He also covers the difference between motivating and manipulating your prospect. This is Ziglar Sales 101 and what amazes me is how in today’s world, so few people and companies know and follow successful sales structure. From Zig’s message I asked this question to the Ziglar Show audience, “What question(s) reveal whether someone is a good prospect for your product or service?” Many replies and I did a lot of questioning back to clarify people’s products and services amongst different industries and how they are literally using questions in their businesses. And some of course who are not doing it well. For all the business owners and salespeople in the Ziglar audience, this is a show for you! And if you know Ziglar and our belief that everyone is in sales, as sales is influence...then you know the show is for everyone listening. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Entrepreneurs are notoriously mission driven. They do what they do for personal reasons and to serve others. Finances are often not their primary focus, and as such, can often be neglected until it handicaps the overall effort. Janelle Bruland was a single mom committed to only working part time and here in our habits show she shares she prioritized financial success as the means to sustain the mission. It sounds so elementary but as a lifetime entrepreneur who has lived in a world of entrepreneurs, it’s amazing how often this is missed. And I’m raising myself as a chief violator. Janelle was my guest in show 785 where we discussed the gap between you and your highest potential, a primary message in her new book, “The Success Life.” You can connect with Janelle at Thesuccesslie.com where she has a Companion workbook to her book, and find her “Intentional Leadership podcast” wherever you get your podcasts.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mas·ter·y - comprehensive knowledge or skill in a subject or accomplishment. Being a complete master of anything is questionable to proclaim, but everyone listening to this show likely has some areas of life where they can viably claim a level of mastery and hopefully a growing level of mastery. This is the focus of this episode and what we culminate with is the essential value of knowing your areas of mastery, and the responsibility to be pursuing increased mastery in your life. Tom Ziglar joined me to discuss this issue and we talked through some listener comments to the question I posted, simply, “Where do you have the most “mastery” in your life?” I think you’ll gain much from hearing the responses! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Imagine being nine months pregnant and deciding to start a business. A business you did not know much about. Years later you become a single mom to by then, three daughters. You are a woman, a mom, and a business owner. This is not conventional and it is not easy. This is the story of Janelle Bruland and the fire she lived through gave her significant insight into human potential and unconventional business practices, such as owning a thriving business and never putting in overtime hours. Not even putting in full time hours. That’s right, she’s done it all on part time hours, as a single parent. The primary motive for starting her business was so she could be a devoted mother. Janelle came to me from Tom Ziglar who show said, “We have to have her on the show!” She has a new book titled, “The Success Lie,” - 5 Simple Truths to Overcome Overwhelm and Achieve Peace of Mind. Today Janelle has 500 employees and 250 subcontractors as part of her facility management company team and is on the Inc. 5,000 fastest growing companies. You can connect with Janelle at Thesuccesslie.com where she has a Companion workbook to her book, and find her “Intentional Leadership podcast” wherever you get your podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all want to influence others, as without that ability, we can’t help anyone. We won’t matter. There are a couple interesting factors in this quest. One, we can’t say what our influence is, only others can. So I asked this question to the Ziglar audience, “If everyone in your life had to give an honest testimony of your influence on them, good and bad, how do you feel about what they would share?” Two, how we feel about ourselves is a root issue that greatly impact our influence. So I posted a second question, “What actions, behaviors, and/or thoughts help, and hurt, your approval of yourself?” Tom Ziglar and I read through many of the responses and talked about the convergence of these two important issues. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“If you’re not at your best mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually, you're nothing for your family, you're depleted for your customers, you're unhelpful to your neighbors, and you're empty for society. Build a strong self-relationship because that is the key to every other relationship. It’s not selfish, it’s It’s selfless.” This is our Habits show and we are with Robin Sharma, my guest from episode 781 where our focus was Personal Mastery. In this show, the second spoke of relationships, Robin brought a significant paradigm shift. To strengthen and deepen relationships with others, he shared we must first have a world class relationship with ourselves. I’ve never heard it put quite that way and it’s inspired me to further elevate my expectations of my self image. This and much more in the episode. Find Robin and his new book, “The 5am Club” at RobinSharma.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your primary desire is to matter to other people. If you want a raise or a promotion, you must matter to someone in charge. If you want a relationship you must matter to the person you are pursuing. If you want friends and any companionship, you must matter to them. So how do you matter? In this show I believe we have your best tactic. Give people what they most want. Encouragement. Everyone including yourself wants to hear positive feedback regarding themselves. We all want it and some are desperate for it. When we think of the word “encouragement” we generally don’t give it the gravity it deserves. Using it is literally harnessing a superpower. We’re selfish beings. Be selfish. Encourage people and matter to them. See what opportunities arise. NOTE: This show did not start out with a focus of encouragement. It was a Q&A show with Scott Stearman regarding our influence on others. Scott was my guest in show 777 where we discussed just that...how we are literally influencing others. But briefly into the show we got on the topic of encouragement and I was hit with the reality that Scott is a king of encouragement. His father was a king of encouragement. Zig Ziglar was a king and chief purveyor of encouragement. What could possibly be a more important topic. What followed was I believe and hope, us making a case for the power encouragement can be in elevating our own lives, as we elevate others. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is more important than mastering one’s self? The world acclaims those who have mastered a skill and we glorify people for what they can do. What we fail to recognize is the necessary mastery of self that preceded the act the person is on stage for. Did you get that? The performance, whether on stage or an a sports field or on camera or in the workplace, is the result of a level of mastery of self. It is not the most talented who win. We’ve all seen great talent go to waste because the person couldn’t pull their act together. It’s some talent and skill that is honed through the daily fire called discipline and habit and routine. Mastery of self. In this show I bring you Robin Sharma and mastery of self is his muse. He wrote an intriguing book from decades of his teaching that to boil down is a playbook for self mastery. It’s written in story form and I’ll admit, it had me wanting to go back in again and again to hang out with the incredibly inspiring characters. In this episode Robin and I talk about the root issues of mastering ourselves. Robin Sharma is a globally respected humanitarian, bestselling author. His new book, The 5AM Club, is currently one of the bestselling books in the world and his influence is significant, he has 4.1 million followers on Facebook alone.  Robin is widely considered as one of the world's top leadership experts and if you search for him you’ll see his clients include many Fortune 100 companies, famed billionaires, professional sports superstars, music icons and members of royalty. Robin books have sold over 15,000,000 copies in 92+ languages making him one of the most widely read authors alive. Honestly I find interest in anyone who is positively influencing so many people and I’m incredibly grateful I invited him to join me on the show. You can find Robin, his new book, “The 5AM Club” and all he has to offer at robinsharma.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes it’s just tiring to go against the flow. We want to belong with and trust the society we live in. Sometimes we may even just want to chill out and be average. But then we realize we are answering the call of responsibility to grow and evolve and strive toward our full potential and it requires doing more than the average. In this show we hear a four minute message from Zig Ziglar on this topic, and from it I posted this question on Facebook, “Having more than average means doing more than average. Being counter cultural. Going against the flow. Do you ever feel tired of the effort?.” Tom Ziglar joined me to talk through the comments and what you will hear is lots of commiserating on the struggle, but also the motives for continuing on. I believe you’ll gain great encouragement from this episode for your own above average pursuits. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I want to figure out what is healthiest, best, right, and true and just simply to that over and over again. Simple. Black and white. But alas, the world, humanity, and circumstances don’t often play along with these rules. Often we must discern what is best in one particular moment and the next and one may require an opposite response even though it is a very similar circumstance. In episode 777 I brought you master sculptor Scott Stearman and a very deep discussion on faith and influence. His new book is titled, “What Does Your Jesus Look Like,” we discussed influence overall and what perspective we are all painting with our lives? This is our Habits episode and in the Spiritual spoke Scott shares a perspective of seeking God’s will in specific circumstances and how he has learned to find peace in moment by moment discernment. It’s a big concept friends. Find Scott at scottstearman.com and check out his book, “What Does Your Jesus Look Like?” which was the focal point of our talk in episode 777. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“What would you do if you knew you could not fail?” It’s a pithy quote we often find on placards in gift shops. I have one on a pottery disc hanging by our kitchen sink. In reality we can always fail. So I came at it a different way and asked the Ziglar audience this question, “If you were offered a $50k grant to try something growth oriented in your personal or professional life, what would it be?” The attempt is the same, to remove reasons we have for not going after pursuits we desire. In episode 773 my guest was Jennifer Allwood, author of the new book, “Fear Is Not The Boss Of You.” I’ve mentioned before we received more positive feedback on this episode than any other for quite a while. I had Jennifer come back to talk through some of the wealth of dreams and aspirations people shared, which they would pursue if provided with not only $50k, but just an impetus to help take away some of the real and perceived obstacles, such as money, and fear. This is an incredible, live coaching session with Jennifer. And as you’ll hear us discuss in the show, you can check out her large coaching platform at https://creatorsinnercircle.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tune in for a profound message. You are painting a picture to everyone you have contact with, at every moment of your life, with every action. What does the picture represent? The concept of how and what you are influencing is relevant to all, though we also go deep into Christianity. Scott Stearman is a renowned sculptor whose life size sculptures are the focal point of many military compounds and faith based institutions and universities across America. He has a message he is now delivering on stages across America and in a new book asking, “What Does Your Jesus Look Like?” For those of you who claim Christ, this will hit you in your heart, and right between the eyes. Again however, the message is relevant for anyone who desires to have a positive influence in and on the world. As the saying goes, we judge ourselves by our intentions. Others judge us by our actions. And friends, your actions and behavior bely who you are at the core. What you truly believe. Is who and how you are lifting others up and inspiring them to more? As you will hear in the show, Scott is more than an esteemed guest I wanted for the show. I have closely and intimately done life with him for nearly 17 years. This show is similar to many conversations he and I have had through the years over a cup of coffee. Again, if you care to truly have a positive influence on anyone, and even more so if you claim Christ...I implore you, don’t miss this show. Connect with Scott Stearman and check out his dramatic sculptures and new book, “What Does Your Jesus Look Like,” at scottstearman.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The greatest asset your business and you can have is people’s trust. However, most everyone believes they are trustworthy, yet in truth, few employ the tangible actions to actually gain trust. So many people claim terms like “integrity” and “honesty” or expect their good intent to shine through. To actually gain trust and customer loyalty takes specific methodologies which are fairly simple to put into action, and very, very rare. We kick off the show with a two and a half minute message from Zig Ziglar on gaining trust in your business. Then I asked the Ziglar audience this question, “Do you have an example of a business or business person that has earned your trust. And if you have a business, how do you earn people's trust?” Tom Ziglar joined me for this discussion and here is what happened. In the first 20 minutes, Tom weighs in on how trust is being impacted in the workplace due to the current COVID-19 crisis. Then we dig into some of the comments. At about the hour mark we land on, “exceeding expectations.” Don’t miss this segment, even if you skip forward to it. It’s a massive opportunity for you. And here this. Your good intentions are not enough. Expertly meeting your customers expectations are not enough. Don’t fall for the trap of thinking your heart will shine through you and your work. There is behavioral psychology at work that needs tangible anchors to hold on to. We aim to give you some of those in this episode.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’ve heard that before, consider it again. This is a common thread we’ve had on the show. Busyness and hurry are not producing good works. The faster we run the slower we produce. Or at least, the shallower we produce. If your life is a blur of lots of shallow work, then speed may be your gig. But to do the great work, the deep work, the valuable and profitable work, we are learning speed kills. This is our Habit’s episode with Jennifer Allwood, my guest from show 773 where we discussed, “Showing up for your own life,” a primary message from her new book, “Fear Is Not The Boss Of You.” In this show as we discuss the Career spoke, Jennifer shares her focus right now amongst success with her book, podcast, and coaching organization, is slowing down to speed up. With so many opportunities she knows there is always a danger of imploding. Her rudder is, “If it’s costing me my peace, it’s too expensive.” This and more in the episode. Connect with Jennifer at jenniferallwood.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

That word, “busy”, means, having a great deal to do. Do you have a great deal to do? Are you enjoying the pace? Are you creating your best from the go-go-go grind? I think we are in a special place in time where busy is losing its luster. Not because we aren’t capable of maintaining it, but rather we’re learning it provides lesser, not greater value. Instead of the busy person seeming more important, I’m starting to see them as poor decision makers and living life at a shallower level. Actually I can own this for myself. When I am increasingly busy, I realize I’m at best just maintaining life, I’m not creating and growing it. In show 767 I talked in depth with pastor and author John Mark Comer and his message, “The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry.” It was from this discussion I asked the Ziglar audience this question, “On a scale from 1-10, how "hurried" is your life? If it's high (10 = espresso squirrel), what feels like the main culprit? If it's low (1 = sedated tree sloth), what has helped?” You can join these weekly discussions by finding and friending me on Facebook at AgentKMiller.com. Tom Ziglar joined me to read through and discuss many of the comments. Really insightful, to say the least. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fear and being stuck. Everyone can relate to those realities and they are not where we want to be. Jennifer Allwood truly provides a breath of fresh air to this issue, and she does it by relating, commiserating, and having compassion. You can not fully eradicate fear from your life. But you can manage it and move forward anyway. Jennifer cites you can have emotions, feel emotions, recognize emotions, but still do big, hard, and scary things in spite of those emotions. Jennifer uses her social media following of 500K people, her podcast, The Jennifer Allwood Show, coaching groups with thousands of members, and now her #1 best selling book, Fear is Not the Boss of You, to help others do for their businesses what she has done with hers. Jennifer is also steadfast in using her business as a way to serve God and my family. Her goal is to use the tools so readily available—social media, email, the Internet—as the way to make this happen. She knows getting unstuck, pushing through the overwhelm, and doing things in spite of fear are key in growing any business. Friends, this was a fun and poignant discussion and I’m proud to bring Jennifer and this message to you. You can connect with Jennifer at Jenniferallwood.com where you’ll find her new book, “Fear Is Not The Boss Of You”. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are in an unprecedented global crisis with the coronavirus. Nearly every American and human is being impacted. I asked this short question on Facebook, “Would you share a positive and a negative regarding how COVID-19 is affecting your life right now?” In just over 24 hours we have in depth comments from 76 people. There was very little sugar coating, but some distinct threads regarding loss of money as the negative and down time and time for relationships as a positive. Really interesting to hear the candid accounts. The question we posed was...what normal do you want to go back to? Is there any current change you desire to retain? I think you’ll find both confirmation for what you are dealing with and inspiration for some benefits you may better take hold of. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you able to concentrate? Focus? Think critically and creatively? In episode #767 I brought you John Mark Comer and we discussed the profound message in his book, “The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry.” An issue we discussed was the scattered attention caused by the massive distractions of today’s world. What with our electronic devices and social media, our attention spans are at an all time low. The consequences are, as John Mark cites, we are chipping away at our capacity for concentration and contemplation. This is our Habits show and I walked through the seven spokes on the Ziglar Wheel of life with John Mark. In the Career spoke he said a priority is fighting for deep work blocks. He is a pastor and writer, so that may not come as a shock to you. My question for us all is, who does NOT need deep work blocks? Or just blocks of deep time in general? Deep time to be at peace. To think critically and creatively. How much would your life benefit to stop and think deeply about any aspect of it? This and more in this show. You can find John Mark’s book at https://johnmarkcomer.com/ or wherever you buy books. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Encouragement. Especially in a time of crisis, it is simply the difference between success and failure. Are you feeling encouraged? Are the “facts”, “reality”, and the latest statistics from the media directing your attitude and anxiety or are you holding fast to faith and truth and inspiration? This is a special edition episode with Tom Ziglar sharing a message straight from the heart of everything Ziglar stands for. Encouragement. Not pollyanna platitudes, but the true belief of those who will overcome. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As of this episode publishing in March, 2020, we are amidst the coronavirus epidemic. Much will be lost in small business during these coming weeks and possibly months. Not all will be salvaged. The greatest value will likely be how to insulate ourselves from future calamity and not taking the status quo for granted. I posted this question on Facebook, “Is your business being negatively impacted by the coronavirus?” Droves of responses from small business owners who are seeing a slight challenge, a decent decline, or full out catastrophe. I brought one of the best and brightest minds in small business on to co-host with me, Dan Miller of 48 Days To The Work You Love fame. Yes, my very own father. Brainstorming alternative solutions for business is an area of mastery for him. This was a very frank and candid conversation. As you will hear, with some businesses, the best bet is hunker down and wait it out right now. With others, we found options to diversify. Others have options to actually maximize offerings. For all of us however, the show and discussion highlighted how we can all prepare ourselves to withstand nearly any downturn.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Being positive instead of negative, we’ve all heard plenty about. But then we go about our days and our lives being...what? Are we really changing ourselves? As I often seek to do, I want to know the root. If we are dealing with any negativity, why? Where is it coming from? I’m not going to tell you, instead, I’m asking. I did ask, actually. I posted this question on Facebook, “Which of these are you most prone to struggle with? 1. Complaining, 2. Criticizing, 3. Gossiping, 4. Sarcasm. And about which? a. Other people, b. Circumstances, c. Yourself. Then, what do you think is the root cause? The responses are still coming in. The question was prompted by my recent show, #763, with Will Bowen, titled “Complaining is poisoning our success.” We’ve gotten great feedback on that show, I really encourage you to listen to it if you haven’t. Actually, it’s a great one to share with those you are closest with, as their complaining helps fuel your own. I had Tom Ziglar join me and we talked through many of your comments with the intent of helping us all understand why we have these feelings, so we can be aware and take steps to curb it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are all busy and we’re all in a hurry. Who just loves it? Who feels they are producing their best work while in such a harried state? Yet, who feels trapped by it? So now I’m going to give you some miracle, “seven steps” formula that sounds nice and shiny, but we all know...nothing is going to change, right?” But alas, there is no formula. It comes down to awareness of what is really driving us, and what we believe. I’m part of a prayer group of about a dozen men, all business owners with big audiences. One of them said we all had to get this book he was reading, titled, “The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry.” I got the book. I read it. I contacted the publisher and said I wanted the author on The Ziglar Show with me. That...is what I bring you today. John Mark Comer. John's story is this...he was pastoring a successful megachurch in Portland, OR with six services each Sunday and a marathon lifestyle which left him feeling burnt out and detached from those around him. In a moment of desperation, he asked a mentor for advice. The response he received was this, “You must ruthlessly eliminate hurry from your life. There is nothing else.” From that was born John's new book, "In The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry: Staying Emotionally Healthy and Spiritually Alive in Our Current Chaos." In this show we unpack the concept and what I found was this; an amazing case for me to change my paradigm and limit the hurry of my life. Why? Personal peace, for sure. But also...better production. I don't want to do a ton of good work. I want to do a smaller amount of truly great work. Just today I got word from someone else that they had read the book and it had significantly disrupted their life with this new perspective. But we go deeper too. I’d tell you we talked about the lifestyle of Jesus, except I’m concerned you’d discount it as I used to, in regards to...Jesus wasn’t married. He didn’t have kids or a mortgage. A 9-5 job. But then...he did have a scant three years to save the world before he was assassinated. It might be worth considering… This is a big show folks. You can connect with John at his website johnmarkcomer.com/ and of course find “The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry” wherever you buy books.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For all of you with a product or service: 1) Who is your specific customer, 2) What problem do you solve for them, and 3) How do you stand out from your competition? I’m sure you’ve heard messages around these topics before. But listen again. There is very little chance you are communicating these things well, as it’s very counterintuitive to how we think as business owners. We think of the benefit there is for people. Fulfilling a desire. I recently attended a business event with Pete Vargas’ Advance Your Reach organization and they pounded on this issue, “Who is your target market and what problem do you solve for them?” We often have products and services we feel can benefit people and we want to lead with a desire; look better, feel better, save time, save money, get a new home or car, and on and on. Yet people are much more led by and prone to respond to problem solving. Tom Ziglar has shared with us a study that 80% of the populace relates more to problem solving than goal setting, yet 95% of our marketing is goal oriented. So what I have for you in this show is a two minute clip from Zig Ziglar on this issue. We’ll listen to that, then I posted this question on Facebook, “For those with a product or service - who is your target customer and what specific problem do you solve for them?” We had a load of responses and Tom and I got through maybe half, and they were wonderful case studies. You’ll gain much from this! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So often in business start ups, and even in well established businesses, we make huge investments in giving people what we think and believe they want. We know we can help solve a problem or fulfill a desire. Over 20 years ago I invested over $50,000 in a business I knew solved a big problem. It legitimately did. It was not till the money was spent and the business fully launched that I found out, it wasn’t a solution people wanted. Today the problem still exists! But human nature and habit triumphs. In today’s show I bring back Will Bowen, my guest from show 763 where we discussed the psychology and power of...not complaining. And how pervasive this poisonous habit is in all of us. In this show we walk through Will’s personal habits, going through the seven spokes on the Ziglar Wheel of Life. In the career spoke Will cited his secret to success is simply finding out what people want and giving it to them! He listens to his fans and followers and gives them what they want. It’s obviously working. Will’s organization has handed out over 11 million purple, Complaint Free World bracelets, and over 3 million copies of his book, A Complaint Free World, have sold. You will enjoy this behind the scenes look at the daily habits Will employes to give him the success in life he’s experienced. I encourage you to take Will’s Complaint Free Challenge. You can engage like I have by going to acomplaintfreeworld.org and also find his book, A Complaint Free World, there or wherever you buy books. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nothing changes till something changes. An oft quoted saying. But if you sit down right now and look at your life and where you want to progress or where you are dissatisfied, and take out pen and paper and ask yourself, “What needs to change?”, it really is profound. It’s always convicting to me to consider the cost if I don’t change something. Am I ok if nothing in my life changes over the next six month? This time next year, am I ok with the status quo? And yes, I do believe it’s healthy to find contentment in our present circumstances, this isn’t an exercise in ingratitude. But I think most people listening and surely for myself, feel the responsibility to be continually growing and refining ourselves. So what I have for you in this show is a two minute clip from Zig Ziglar on just this, making life changes for the better. From his message I posted this question on Facebook, “What is the most recent change you've made in your daily routine that has produced positive results in your life or the lives of others around you?” Many responses which we grouped in categories, I believe you’ll be inspired as you hear Tom Ziglar and I read and talk through them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You want more success and better fruition for your life. What you are about to have revealed is possibly your greatest, most detrimental bad habit. As English is the international business language, complaining is the international language we use in relationships with other humans. In this show I bring you Will Bowen, the founder and purveyor of an initiative called A Complaint Free World. You will hear why his fans include Maya Angelo and Oprah Winfrey and he’s been featured on The Today Show, CBS Sunday Morning, ABC Evening News and much more. 12 million of his purple “Complaint Free World” bracelets have been sent to people in over 106 countries. Your mind will be blown to realize how prevalent this divisive and destructive habit is in our culture, and in your own mouth. Following this revelation we will cover exactly why we and others complain so, so often. It is disheartening, but also convicting and something you can start reversing immediately. Not easily, mind you. But when you understand how your complaining is undermining your life you’ll understand why I now feel it’s quite possibly the number one thing we can address for our overall peace, joy, fulfillment, and life success. Will provides us with a methodology to decrease our complaining with a Complaint Free Challenge. You can engage like I have by going to acomplaintfreeworld.org and find his book, A Complaint Free World, there or wherever you buy books. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I did not intend for this to be a show, it was just an honest question. But 52 comments later, it became a show. I simply asked this question on Facebook (agentkmiller), “I often ponder the spirit of my own industry of self-help and motivation. It seems the most popular style these days is someone who went from zero to hero and is full of self-confidence, trying to fervently appeal to their audience to adopt the self-confidence they have found and believe you should be able to tap into. Does it compel you? Does hearing someone adamantly and boldly appeal to you about how you can and should find your own confidence and power and success, as they have, inspire you?” Many cited other people’s stories of struggle and overcoming in fact, do, inspire them. But the spirit and tactic matters much. They want to hear “Here is where I was”, “Here is what I did”, and “Here is where I am now.” However an often missing part people care about is the struggle amidst it. The real, day-to-day ups and downs. Tom Ziglar joined me and we discussed how important it is to find a voice and guide you really resonate with and relate to. Not every success path is the right path for you. Along with this and just as important, this show will guide you in how you can best be portraying your story to those you desire to influence.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We would all agree to that statement, “Success doesn’t happen by accident.” But the reality is, most people subconsciously feel it will either happen to them or not. Our culture today takes less responsibility than ever for the realities of life. Chronic illness and disease is on a radically high growth curve and while we know most of it is a result of poor lifestyle choices, the average person believes it’s genetics and the luck of the draw. But you know better, which is why you are here listening to The Ziglar Show. In this show I bring you again, Howard Partridge, my guest from show 759 where we discussed why we do and don’t implement. Howard came from a poverty stricken family with seven kids and was kicked out at 18. In this show you will hear him tell more of his story and how he simply worked. He worked hard and he worked a lot. Today he’s a self-acclaimed beach bum and while he still works a lot, it’s out of joy in his work and providing great employment for others, as he no longer needs to work for his personal income. You will gain much by this walk through Howard’s story and habits that have helped him attain a lifestyle he adores and the abundance to bless so many people. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Check this out, I asked Ziglar listeners this question, “Throughout a given day, do you generally behave as you intend to? If/when you don’t, what tends to derail you?” As responses started pouring in, a very common thread was “people”. So I gave a follow up question, “When you get upset with people, does your emotion come from Fear or Pride? Fear = abandonment, rejection, loss. Pride = justice, fairness, enabling. I asked Stephen & Mara Klemich to join me, they were my recent guests in show 753 where we discussed how our behavior is explained by four principles, the message in their new book, “Above The Line.” As we went through many of the responses, what we came out with was this; what derails people most from the behavior they would wish to exemplify is, lack of control. Whether it is people or circumstances, lack of control is the main culprit. Why is this? Listen in as Stephen and Mara deftly guide us in understanding the root issue. And friends, if you have not yet taken their Heartstyles Indicator assessment, normally only available to if you buy their book. But for Ziglar listeners, I asked them to make it available immediately and at no cost. They are doing so until March 15, 2020. Go to heartstyles.com/ziglar and follow the instructions. Use the access code ZIGLAR2020 to get access to the Indicator/assessment. Again, heartstyles.com/ziglar and use the access code ZIGLAR2020. If you hear this after...get the book! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Would you like to know just why you do what you do, and don’t do much of what you’d wish yourself to do? Like implementing the plans that would progress your life? This is the focus my guest in this episode brings us. Howard Partridge’s new book is titled, FTI, Failure to Implement. He walks us through 10 Principles for business and life success. But what jumped out at me is looking at these 10 areas and realizing they were a great business and personal audit. Meaning, we can take each area and audit ourselves. If we are lacking, then we have exceptional insight into why we are or are not getting the results we want in our personal aspirations and goals. Why we are not implementing and taking action toward what we want. I encourage you to be listening as we walk through these principles and thinking about yourself. Do you have any intentional plans for each area? You will likely walk away with a handful of the areas where you realize you have a void. Which is wonderful! Awareness! Now you can tangibly address something and get a step closer toward what you want and believe in. And as you’ll hear us start off with, the issue and necessity of belief itself. Howard is not just a wildly successful businessman and business coach, he is a fellow student, devotee, and purveyor of the Ziglar legacy. Howard has been the exclusive business coach for Ziglar for many years and works with Tom Ziglar on running the overall Ziglar corporation. Howard has authored eight books, one which you’ll hear us reference, The Power of Community, was our focus in past Ziglar Show episode #533. You can get FTI, Failure To Implement at howardpartridge.com or wherever you buy books. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every system is perfectly designed to get the results it gets, said W Edwards Deming. Right now your system, your habits and routines, are designed to produce the results you are getting. Same with me. If we want to change the results, we must change the system. No secret or brilliance in that statement, you’ve heard the concept before. The problem, and opportunity, is us. I believe we are all simply living up to our expectations. What is interesting is how we would reshape our living based upon a change in expectations. Here is a question I posted to the Ziglar audience, “If you were given one million dollars today, to be in top shape mentally and physically in 12 months, at which time you would then get a high paying role or job you loved, how would you start preparing, training, and caring for yourself?” I’m about to read a bunch of replies. And I’m imploring you not to discount this. Your first reaction will likely be to scoff and say, “Well sure, its’ much easier to make the needed changes with a guaranteed payday ahead of you.” But then that implies you are not currently making changes you’d like to make, because you don’t believe they’ll pay off. Isn’t that pretty telling? So we have a crisis of faith. Of belief. Think on that as you hear how people responded. And please know, I’m in this boat with you too. This speaks to me just as much as you and has me looking to make some changes, right away! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this show I am appealing to your logic, not your emotion. Your intellect, not your inspiration. Chances are you are living under a false assumption about your vocational role in life. If not false, at least minimized. You see yourself a certain way and thus expect a level of performance from yourself. I am not vying for you to increase the amount of your performance as much as the caliber. And to a great degree, simply the way you hold, conduct and care for yourself. I’m going to play a two minute clip from Zig to help set the perspective. The story has to do with IQ. Following Zig’s message we will not be talking about your IQ, however. But rather your actual role and viable credibility in your job. Your work. And we all have a job. I can’t stress the strength of the case I’m going to make and the relevance it has in your life. I’m going to share some great products and services with you, then play Zig’s quick, 2-minute message, then hit you with a reality of your life you are very likely missing and not rightfully leveraging. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How we treat people has a direct, immediate, and long term impact on us just as much as what we eat. Live on fast food and you will end up looking and feeling like a milkshake. Treating difficult people like they deserve and how you treat random people you come into contact with in life can be slowly poisoning you, depending on your attitude. Most people will testify to treating all people well, all the time, no matter what. Few of us truly do, and minimizing the issue is a disservice to us. Which is why we bring the issue up here. Now. In this episode I play a 4.5 minute clip from Zig Ziglar about what how we treat people says about us and does to us. Then I posted this question to the Ziglar audience, “Are there people in your life who you struggle to treat as you would want to be treated? Whether close relationships or even people you infrequently encounter and have to interact with?” Most of the responses addressed difficult people in our lives, but I brought Tom Ziglar on the show to talk through the comments with me and we start off discussing the “insignificant” people that Zig references. If you think you treat everyone well and are not affected by this issue...I greatly, greatly encourage you to listen in. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your time, especially your personal time, has three components. The time you give to “I”, yourself, is vitally necessary. “We” time would be working together or parenting or the duties of life, even social engagements. “Us” is intentional, focused time on the relationship, like “date night”. This highlights the Relationship spoke on the Ziglar Wheel of life for Stephen & Mara Klemich, my guests from show 753 where we talked about the four principles of behavior that rule our lives, from their book, “Above The Line”. This is my first time going the Habits show with a couple and it was valuable to hear how they make room to accommodate differing habits to cater to their differing personalities. We also discussed Mara’s three bouts with cancer, the challenge of living up to their own message, and the reality that these authors and speakers are, as they say, “dreadful introverts.” I think you will enjoy and get much value from auditing this couple’s habits. To quickly reference show 753 with the Klemichs where we talked about their revolutionary Heartstyles Indicator assessment, it is only available to those who purchase the Klemich’s new book, “Above The Line”. But for Ziglar listeners, I asked them to make it available immediately and at no cost. They are doing so for a month, from Jan. 25, 2020, to Feb. 25, 2020. Go to heartstyles.com/ziglar and follow the instructions. Use the access code ZIGLAR2020 to get access to the Indicator/assessment. Again, heartstyles.com/ziglar and use the access code ZIGLAR2020 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Recognizing who has helped you is vitally important, as it fosters the reality of how valuable help is. How much you need it and benefit from it. Or what if you haven’t received much positive help from others? How do you get it? In this episode we listen to a clip from Zig Ziglar on the dramatic influence of others investing in you, and you in them. Then I posted this question to the Ziglar audience, “: Name or tag someone who truly made a positive difference in your life, and please explain how they specifically helped you.” Many, many responses and Tom Ziglar and I talked through as many as we could, and really expanded on the value and need in our lives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do we do the things we do? Especially, why do we so often not do the things we want to do, and do what we don’t want to do? Why do we intend to act one way, then get derailed and sabotage ourselves or a situation or a relationship? I generally go to the weakness and appetite of my mind and flesh, but today I bring two guests whose research shows it is deeper than this and we can get to the root and literally change our behaviors. Stephen Klemich is a corporate consultant and his wife Mara Klemich is a clinical psychologist. After years of extensive research and data collection they landed on four principles that explain the why behind our behaviors and that they all boil down to issues of humility, love, pride, and fear. From this they have released their new book, Above the Line, Living and Leading with Heart, with a core message of understanding what motivators are happening in our heart, so we can make effective choices to build our character and become the person we were designed to be.   I took their Heartstyles Indicator, and online assessment, and got my personal report. We very candidly walked through it to showcase where my personal values are, and where my natural behaviors actually lie, and the gulf between the two. They showcased why I often tire of performing to cover the span between what I want to do and what I actually feel. This is literal awareness AND equipping. And here is a great opportunity for the first people who hear this episode. The Heartstyles Indicator is only available to those who purchase the Klemich’s new book,. But for Ziglar listeners, I asked them to make it available immediately and at no cost. They are doing so for a month, from Jan. 25 2020, to Feb. 25, 2020. Go to heartstyles.com/ziglar and follow the instructions. Use the access code ZIGLAR2020 to get access to the Indicator/assessment. Again, heartstyles.com/ziglar and use the access code ZIGLAR2020 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most people listening to this show have an idea what their personality style is, from one of the many personality profiles out there. But what we uncover in this Q&A episode is you can know your personality style and be wholly ignorant of your literal, tangible, working style in the main roles and duties of your life. Along with that you can know your spouse’s personality type, your co-worker’s, kid’s, and more, and completely miss and bang up against their styles, again, in the main roles and actions of life. I posted this question to the Ziglar audience, “How self-aware do you feel you are in regards to “your style” in key areas of your life, such as finances, decision making, work, parenting, spirituality, learning, leadership, and more?” Then I asked Rick McDaniel, my guest from show 749 where we discussed the message in his new book, “You Got Style”, to join me. As always, a brilliant, live-coaching session as Rick talked through the real world applications and realities of being more self aware.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Key word is, "learners". But let us clarify that word. The definition is, "gain or acquire knowledge of or skill in (something) by study, experience, or being taught." We hear a lot of things that we don't actually learn. If you have heard the health value of not eating fast food and eating more home cooked vegetables, but you are still eating fast food and your stove wouldn't recognize a real vegetable, then you heard about it. You didn't learn it. So leaders are gaining knowledge and actually applying it to their life. This was a key habit my guest, Rick McDaniel shared here in our Habits episode. Rick was my guest in episode 749 where he revealed personal styles in 12 categories of life. His book, "You Got Style" I know have my family working through so we can better understand each other. I'm also doing it with my close business associates. Rick is the founder and senior pastor of the Richmond Community Church in Richmond, Virginia, and highimpactchurch.tv. He is a regular contributor for FoxNews.com and is a well known speaker for Fortune 500 companies and faith audiences alike. You can find him at rickmcdaniel.com. I know will gain much by walking through the seven spokes on The Ziglar Wheel of life and hearing Rick's personal habits for success. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Love and affection I think we would all say have value, but how much, in what way, and why? How important is it? What place does it have in our home, our work, and in all our relationships? Zig Ziglar brings us a short message on the issue, then I posted this question to the Ziglar Show audience, “In your home and close relationships, how do you communicate love and affection and how often? And how important do you believe it is?” As responses quickly came in, I posted this follow up question, “Who experienced a LACK of love and affection in their upbringing or marriage and how has it affected you or how are you dealing with it?” Tom Ziglar and I went through as many of your comments as we could and from them, received some incredible insight into this issue. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Who you are is good to know but how you are is even better. Meaning, if you’ve done a personality profile to help understand who you are, the only relevance is utilizing the information to better guide your behavior and performance, but often the profiles do not help to this level. Today I bring you a guest who has done the research to clarify personal styles in 12 key areas of life. It reveals how you behave with finances, decision making, work, parenting, spiritually, learning, leadership, and more. I think it is profoundly valuable and has me feeling it is paramount to clarify and understand the styles of my wife, kids, business partners, employees...everyone I do life with. Rick McDaniel is my guest in this episode and his message is in a new book titled, You Got Style: How Discovering Your Personal Style Impacts Your Faith, Family, Finances & Much More. Rick is the founder and senior pastor of the Richmond Community Church in Richmond, Virginia, and highimpactchurch.tv. He is a regular contributor for FoxNews.com and is a well known speaker for Fortune 500 companies and faith audiences alike. Rick says, “Discovering your individual style can help you understand why you do certain things, why you react in a particular way to something, and why others act the way they do. These styles involve the most important aspects of our lives, including our relationships, our family, our faith, our finances and our work. As you’ll hear in the show, I went through all 12 categories and listed out my style in each area, and what I felt my wife’s style is. I’m going to have her do the same and compare notes and talk about it. But there are some specific areas where we are different that I’m eager to discuss and figure out how we can better honor each other’s styles instead of being at odds. Then again, same with my kids and those who I work closely with in my businesses and initiatives. You are going to get a ton from this show. You can connect more with Rick at rickmcdaniel.com and you can find his new book, You Got Style, wherever you get books. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

That headline itself is rife with controversy, but I think to any sane person it is a fully legitimate question we have all pondered. It is one thing to have faith and a belief. It is another to expect that faith and belief to change some of the hard circumstances of life. This show is going to acutely dig up this subject in real life circumstances. As I do every week, I posted a question on Facebook. You can join these weekly discussions and help me by sharing your personal experience and opinion, just find and friend me at agentkmiller. This week I asked this question, “Everyone has experienced some level of trauma in their life. Amidst it, how much did your personal faith tangibly help, if it did at all?” Oh my, so many intimate responses. I asked Dr. Lee Warren to join me and talk through your comments. Dr. Warren was my guest in show 743, he is a renowned neurosurgeon who deals directly with faith amongst trauma and tragedy, every day. Grappling with faith and real world outcomes was the focus of his new book, “I’ve Seen The End of You.”  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

After a lifetime in personal development and five years investigating and talking with the top leaders in personal development, I believe we are, all of us, so often missing the root issues of our own personal growth and progress. The following show is an overview of a larger initiative I am working on. I am not a patient man and in this episode I talk you through the highlights I believe will help you better address the root issues of you and vastly increase your progress. I’ll give you the punchline right here as well. I’m going to start by explaining what I mean by “symptomatic self help” and walk you in to these five points, 1) What do you want?, 2) What do you want to want?, 3) What do you not actually even want, you just think you should want?, 4) What do you believe and have faith in?, 5) And last, what will you decide to believe and have faith in, because as you'll hear, I staunchly believe they are just that...decisions.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s a New Year and weight loss, exercise, and eating better are the the most searched for New Year’s Resolution topics. This show is about personal development, growth, change, and success, and this special episode is about the engine of you. You are your power source. I don’t mean spiritually, I’m just talking about your physical body which houses your brain and your overall capacity. As you seek to go about your life, you will do so at the mercy and capability of your body. As you look at your health and wellness, who are you going to listen to? What resource or program or so-called "hack" are you going to try? As my friend Angelo Poli of the company Metpro said, and I paraphrase, "Every methodology has worked. Sometimes for some people." So it's a crap shoot at best. Which begs the holy grail question, what should you do to best address your health and wellness needs and goals? In this show I'm going to give you what I claim to be the irrefutable answer. But the caveat is that it's not a final answer, it is a framework. If you wanted to live in a custom home, nobody can just hand you the blueprint. They'd have to know your desires and where you want to build. That said, every home built will have the same aspects of what I'm calling a framework. It will have a foundation and sewage system and electricity and all the necessities of any other house. This is what I will provide for you today, the framework for the house of you to be at its best. The show is about 45 minutes, then at my conclusion, I'm going to give you a Facebook live recording from Tom Ziglar on a physical transformation he experienced in 2019 at the hands of personal trainer Angelo Poli. I interviewed Angelo in episode 683 where we really talked about body metabolism. For disclosure, I became a client and today, after years of plateau, I have put on and have more muscle than ever in my lifetime. Tom as you will hear, wanted to lose weight which he did. In this show I believe you’ll find a comprehensive understanding as to how to address your health and wellness. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a license to invest in ourselves, not an admonishment. If you woke up to a brand new car in your driveway and a notecard that said, "From God", you would be ecstatic and you would take care of that baby. What about your body? After letting his health go, Dr. Lee Warren committed to caring for himself and here in our habits show he stated, "Our body is a gift to us from the Creator." He's lost weight and increased his energy. It was a reminder that self-care is a priority instead of something to left to last after you try to care for everyone else. Dr. Warren was my guest in show 743 where we talked about the massive value and necessity of hope, something he knows well as a renowned neurosurgeon dealing daily with trauma and tragedy. Along with health we walk through the other six spokes on the Ziglar Wheel of Life and you will be inspired by what a top doctor and author does to keep himself as well as possible. I highly encourage you to check out Dr. Warren's new book, "I’ve Seen the End of You", wherever you get books, you can pre-order now, as it comes out January 7, 2019. You can also connect with Dr. Warren at wleewarrenmd.com. And make sure you check out the ‘Dr. Lee Warren’ podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Should your work truly interest you? What are you missing if it does not? Though as you will hear in the show, maybe interest in your work is not the absolute end all. Here is the question I posed to the Ziglar audience, “Do you find your work to be interesting? Yes or no,and how much weight on your work fulfillment does this have?” The question came from a short message we will hear from Zig Ziglar where he cited a survey conducted about the workplace asking what employees wanted. Managers surveyed said, Good wages, Job security, Promotions. The workers however responded..and number one was, Interesting work. There is no commentary I could give that would be as valuable as hearing what you, the audience, responded with. Tom Ziglar joined me and we talked through your comments. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you have hope in? Real hope based on actual expectations? Do have hope that drives you to get out of bed, make progress toward your desires, and withstand the hardships of life? In this show I bring you a guest who is a neurosurgeon. Yes, a brain surgeon, the top guns amongst medical doctors. Dr. Lee Warren brings us stories of terminal patients and brain tumors with a near 100% fatality rate. Yet he cites from his daily experiences walking through the traumas and tragedies of humanity that hopelessness is far more deadly. Which sounds preposterous. How can one even have hope amongst certain death? In this show, you will hear how and why hope is so vital, necessary, and possible for all of us, no matter our circumstances. Let me forewarn you, this is not remotely a formulaic show. This is deep and vulnerable and filled with as much recognition of mystery and heartbreak as it is, hope and help. Dr. Warren is an Iraq war veteran who performed more than 200 surgeries in a tent hospital. From then and till this day he performs surgeries on everything from tumors to head wounds. He’s daily amongst despair and death, and hope and healing. Family tragedies and triumphs. Amongst it all he lost his own 19 year old son and had to deal with his own grief and faith. His new book, “I’ve Seen the End of You” chronicles the stories of patients who rocked his faith. And let me say this, I study the books of each guest I have on the show, but I seldom read them word for word to the end. This one was like a novel that I kept wondering what would happen next and I read it cover to cover. I’ve shared it with my friends and family and now I share it with you. If you have ever, ever pondered your faith, please listen to this show. And if you want a book that will keep you enthralled, and quite possibly give you a new perspective on your personal faith...go check out ‘I’ve Seen the End of You’ wherever you get books, you can pre-order now, as it comes out January 7, 2019. You can also connect with Dr. Warren at wleewarrenmd.com. And make sure you check out the ‘Dr. Lee Warren’ podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Two of my favorite movie scenes ask this. In the Notebook, the character Noah asks Allie over and over, “What do you want? What do you want?” Then in It’s a Good Year, George Bailey gallantly asks, “Mary, what do you want? You want the moon, I’ll lasso it for you.” But the beauty of the scene is when she closes her eyes and thinks on what she really wants and makes a true wish, that later comes to pass. In episode 734 I did a special edition show where I walked through the seven spokes on the Ziglar Wheel of Life and ultimately encouraged everyone just to list something out they wanted, in each spoke. For my recent birthday, I asked my four oldest kids to gift me by going through and doing the exercise. So for this show, I posted a question on Facebook for the Ziglar audience, and a reminder you can join these conversations by finding and friending me on Facebook at agentkmiller. The question was simply, “Do have any tangible ideas of what more you want in the near future in these areas: 1) Health, 2) Relationships, 3) Mental growth, 4) Finances, 5) Spiritual, 6) Career, 7) Personal Incredible responses came back! Tom Ziglar joined me to talk through your candid comments. For some, this show was the impetus for them to actually think through...what they want. I hope it is for you too. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

An FBI special agent whose job was gaining trust and catching and recruiting spies, shares his relational strategy at home to win his family’s hearts. Now that is intriguing. Robin Dreeke was my guest in show 739 and we talked about the specific truths and methodologies he employed as a master in behavioral analysis. Robin’s testimony of family relationships based upon never judging or criticising is one of the most inspiring things I’ve heard, period. It is giving others what we all long for, but you are going to want to hear the details. He shares this and more in this Habits show where I walk Robin through the seven spokes in the Ziglar wheel of life. Robin is a sought after speaker at live events and working with business owners doing internal leadership, customer relations and sales. You can connect with Robin at www.peopleformula.com where he offers training, and find his book The Code of Trust wherever you get books. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How would you rate your communication skills when presenting something to a group of people at the dinner table, a meeting at work or on stage? Do you feel understood and heard? This is the question I posed to the Ziglar audience. Interestingly, many people cited they felt more adept at communicating to groups, whether personally or professionally, than to individuals. Like their family members. I asked my guest from episode 731 and 733 to join me, cognitive neuroscientist and communication expert Jared Cooney Horvath. Jared got his doctorate from the University of Melbourne and you can get a veritable doctorate in communicating...from this show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In any conversation you can become a constant dopamine hit for the other person. How? By making them the topic, not you. But can you do it? Can you resist the temptation to talk about yourself and express your opinion and getting your own dopamine hit? Second, can you skillfully keep the focus on them with authenticity? This was a necessary skill for Robin Dreeke as a Special Agent in the FBI. To catch and recruit spies he became a master in behavioral analysis and applied his expertise in interpersonal communication, relationship building and Trust. These skills are used every day in leadership, sales, human resources, and all aspects of life, both business and personal. This is what we dig into in this episode, from Robin’s role with spies, right into his home and how it impacts his role as husband and father. Robin however is not just skillful of mind however, I asked about very personal and heart level issues and I think this brought out the most valuable issues of our conversation. Issues that are relevant to us all and that we can all apply right away. It’s convicting to hear methodologies verified by the gravity of life and death. I think what you will hear in this conversation will make massive sense to you, you’ll find yourself thinking, “Of course!” And inspired about how you can take advantage of these core, relational strategies. Robin does a lot of speaking at live events and working with business owners doing internal leadership, customer relations and sales. You can connect with Robin at www.peopleformula.com where he offers training, and find his book The Code of Trust wherever you get books. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if you were diagnosed with a small, benign brain tumor that you’d had all your life and it had been limiting your cognitive ability. Once removed, you were 10% smarter! You have a personal story that, if you know and understand it well, will help the entire context of your life. You may not have a very flashy or seemingly monumental story, but it’s your story and along the way there have been events that matter and have influenced who and how you are. It is the foundation of your personal context. Zig Ziglar had the tragic deaths of his father and sister as a young boy and had to go to work at a very early age. But he had a solid upbringing and has written his own story in a way where he sees the positives. He used his story find his own place in the world and he used it very successfully to help others relate to him, and vice versa. In this show I’m going to let you hear, Zig’s story. From birth till he got married. This is his formative life span. I know you’ll appreciate hearing him, and then you’ll have context for clarifying, if you haven’t, your own story. I asked the Ziglar audience this question, “Do you feel your personal story is relevant for how you relate to your own life and the lives of others?” Then had Tom Ziglar join me to talk through the responses and this very necessary ingredient for our success of understanding and leveraging our stories.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’ve always felt to know the true measure of a man, audit how his wife and kids and doing. So it stood out to me when Mark Batterson said a primary goal for his life was to be famous in his home, and to do so, he needed to be at home! Mark was my guest in show 735 where we discussed, “How to position yourself for blessings” from his new book, Double Blessing. He’s a best selling author and pastor of one of our country’s most influential churches, the National Community Church in Washington, D.C.. Mark also aspires to have those who know him best to respect him most. This sharing came from the “Family & Friends” spoke of The Ziglar Wheel of Life, as this is our habits show. Something else that resonated with me came from Mark’s sharing in the “Physical” spoke, that he staunchly believes the physical and spiritual disciplines foster each other. And I almost titled the show “The Holy Spirit plus caffeine equals awesome!”, another of Mark’s quotes. You’ll get great inspiration and ideas as always from this audit of the habits of one of our cultures big influencers. You can connect with Mark at markbatterson.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As a listener of The Ziglar Show I know you are a more “aspiring” person than the norm, as are our other listeners. So how do we all rate ourselves in our endeavors? In show 727 I talked with Neil Pasricha whose latest book, “You Are Awesome” just debuted as the #1 international bestseller. He asks why in our culture today where we have more conveniences and amenities than ever, are we playing it safe. It was from this I asked the Ziglar audience, “In your job or business, on a scale from 1-10, how would you rate yourself for playing it safe (1) or totally going for the gusto (10), and why?” Let me tell you this, we only had two people rate themselves as a 10, and we had plenty of threes and fours. I had Neil join me to co-host this Q&A and as usual, the comments and my guest’s responses were just profound. You’ll come away with a better understanding of your own propensities and why you may be going after things in one area of your life, and not others. He explains the very real role of “cognitive entrenchment” I believe you will very much resonate with. Neil also expounded on the issue of following our passions and made this brilliant comment that flies in the face of having work that is all fun and play, he said the point is finding work “You love so much you’ll endure the pain and punishment.” Absolutely. This was as solid a show as I’ve ever done regarding relevant issues we are all dealing with today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Blessings” is right there with the word “success” as far as having a lot of baggage connected to it, and I don’t bring the term to the show lightly. But right now, do you feel more or less, blessed? And before you think, “Well of course. My family, I have a job, I’m in decent health, of course I’m blessed…” This isn’t a count-your-blessings pitch. I mean right now in your day to day life. Are your relationships all you desire them to be? How are feeling financially? Do you feel purposeful and hopeful? How about just your level of ongoing joy? How is your stress level? How is your self-talk? Do you feel things generally work out for you and fall in your favor? Do you really feel like you are living within a flow of blessing? Then the question is...to have blessings and if I can say, “favor”, are there any requirements from you? I know, this is a slippery slope issue because the idea of “do this and get that” regarding God and blessings has really been misused. So I have someone for you today, and we’ll hit it head on. Back in 2006 I got ahold of a book with a crazy title, “In A Pit With A Lion On A Snowy Day,” by a guy named Mark Batterson. He was pastor of a church in D.C. Today, he is still that pastor, but now a prolific, best selling author and speaker. He has a new book titled, “Double Blessing - How to Get It. How to Give It.” Right off the bat in our talk together he hits on the “prosperity gospel” issue and actually cites, “The blessings of God will complicate your life”. I feel I brought the tough questions up and this show will open up some new perspectives for you on how you tangibly orient your life. If you don’t know Mark, he is the author of 15 books including the USA Today bestseller "Chase the Lion," which inspired the recently published "Chase the Lion Weekly Planner" and the New York Times best-seller "The Circle Maker." Mark is the founder and lead pastor of National Community Church (NCC), one church with 7 campuses throughout Washington D.C. National Community Church, known as one of the most innovative and influential churches in America, also owns and operates Ebenezers Coffeehouse, the Miracle Theatre, and the DC Dream Center. Connect with him at https://www.markbatterson.com/ and find his books...everywhere. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is about how you are arranging your life. Your days are not neutral, they are constantly forming you into the person you will be tomorrow and ongoing. As much as I and my peers in personal development would like to offer you the one, true holy grail of what will establish your life for the better, it doesn’t exist. But there are some fundamental and foundational awarenesses you must have for your greatest, personal success. Hearing them in this show won’t solve anything if you don’t do something about them. However, being aware, is truly, the start. There is very little chance you’ve thought out what you want in the primary areas of your life. Few have and as you’ll hear in the show, I never did really did either. I was brought up on goal planning and planning out your year and investing for the future. I didn’t do it. None of it. I wish I had and the reason for this ‘Special Edition’ show is due to a poignant event in my own life, which I’ll share in this show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A key to a great story plot or comedy routine is to take people along a predictive path and then disrupt it. Our human nature loves this because it ignites pleasurable feelings in our brain, in our mind. A master of communication who led us through some of the ways to leverage prediction is Jared Cooney Harvath, our main guest in episode 731. This is our Habits show and in the mental spoke, Jared shared a common tactic he uses is to break his own predictive patterns so as to foster new programming for his brain. What a simple and effective tactic. We generally want to find a routine we like and take the ease of sticking to it. In some regards this is good, as our mind can be on autopilot and freed up for other thinking and tasks. But if we completely routinize our lives we can become stagnant and complacent. I once had a friend dealing with OCD who was charged by her therapist to drive a different way home each day from work. She about blew a gasket not taking her tried and true, routine path, but it helped do the trick...to wake her mind up to other possibilities. This and the other spokes of Jared’s habits, in this show. You can find Jared’s book, "Stop Talking, Start Influencing: 12 Messages from Brain Science to Make Your Message Stick" on Amazon or wherever you buy books! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Well, this is interesting. In the episode I play a clip from Zig Ziglar on the power of words we speak with and about other people. Then I posted a question on Facebook that went a different direction. I asked, “If you were daily being recorded in secret, what would you be proud of, and what would you be embarrassed by?” I was literally thinking about our spoken words, what we say out loud, to others or in private. Many of the replies addressed this, but the common thread also included thoughts and behaviors and unfolded into what people are proud and ashamed of regarding their personal character. Another testimony to richness of these Q&A episodes being due to audience testimonies than my leading. I had Tom Ziglar co-host with me as we talked through the very candid and vulnerable testimonies that I know you will relate to. I think this show will give you both grace for your shame while increasing your conviction to pursue what you are proud of in your personal character. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Even if they are listening, are they really hearing? Meetings. PowerPoint presentations. On stage talks, whether you are a pastor, presenter, or teacher. Selling. Anytime you are speaking and want people to really listen and be engaged. Chances are, you’re doing it wrong. Or, you could do it better. Jared Cooney Horvath is a cognitive neuroscientist with a master's degree from Harvard University and his doctorate from the University of Melbourne. His muse however, is the workplace. It’s selling and communicating and he walks us through what is normally done and why it’s so ineffective. He brilliantly lays out what the brain does when we talk while showing text, and we can only follow one, not both. He tells us why images add so much, but how many? Truly folks, this will resonate with you right off the bat and give you tremendous tips on what to do and what not to do in your next presentation of any type. It’s why he’s been featured in The New York Times, PBS, BBC, The Economist, New Scientist and ABC’s Catalyst. I shared this Jared’s book with a doctor and she responded that she stayed up late and totally reworked the presentation she was doing at a conference the next day. I’m prepping for a keynote speaking engagement overseas and following along with Jared’s counsel to structure the entire talk. The book is "Stop Talking, Start Influencing: 12 Messages from Brain Science to Make Your Message Stick" and it’s our focus of this episode. Find it on Amazon or wherever you buy books! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We generally approach conversations like we approach walking, you just do it. You don’t think much about it. While we aren’t judged too much on our walking, unless you’re a runway model, we are definitely judged, or maybe I should say responded to according to...how we do conversations. That reality is dramatically maximized when we have an agenda...when we are trying to influence someone to do something. Whether that doing is go on a date with us, getting kids to do homework or chores, or the big one...sell our product, service, or idea. Most everyone listening is at some point trying to sell someone, especially in our work, businesses, and careers. We are directly selling a product or service or idea and we are always along with it, selling ourselves. You may be trying to sell someone on giving you a raise or a promotion. So again, how do you go about it? Do you have any strategy at all? We talked with Phil Jones in episode 723 and some of what we covered was from his book, “Exactly What To Say”. With this topic in mind, I asked the Ziglar audience this question, “If I was really interested in your product or service and you had the chance to pitch me on it, right now, do you have any strategy for what you would say and how you would say it?” Ziglar’s roots are in sales, so I had Tom Ziglar join me in this show where we’ll work to cover this topic and help you understand a strategy you want for yourself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Boom. You wake in the morning and often the first, conscious thought is a worry, concern or anxiety. It sounds negative, but it may just be how our minds work, to first deal with any threat. But it’s not an optimal way to start the day and if we hold on to the worry it will likely taint the whole day. Neil Pasricha’s tactic is to take that thought captive in the first seconds of his day, and “let it go”. He writes it down in his journal to get it out of his head. Then he also writes down something he is grateful for and what he will focus on. He calls it his Two Minute Morning and actually sells a journal by that name that is a bestseller. Neil was my guest in show 727 where the topic was, quit living your fragile life. I encourage you to visit Neil.blog and subscribe to his podcast, 3 books with Neil Pasricha. And you can get his just released new book, “You Are Awesome” at neil.blog or wherever you buy books. This is our habits episode and it was the mental spoke where he shared his waking routine that kick-starts his day. Hear more about it and his habits in the other spokes on the Ziglar Wheel of Life, in this show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You daily, if not hourly, speak a series of words that take away your personal power. That steal your opportunity for power and control of your life. You may think it’s benign, but it absolutely is not. I brought on a special guest to discuss the issue. In this episode I have a dramatic mind hack for you. I’m actually not a fan of the whole “hack” terminology, as I don’t believe they exist...everything is a process. But this is one is hard not to give the “hack” label to, as it’s a very significant mind and life bender. The premise is, in many ways we’ve become a culture of victims. We justify and blame at an alarming rate. If right away you think, “Hey, that’s not me!” I did too, as I am not prone to place blame on others and I take full responsibility for myself. But wait, what about the circumstances? Even there, I thought…”I don’t make excuses!” Then I started listening to what I say and how often I make statements starting with, "I have to _____", "I've got to _____", "I need to _____". It’s just human nature, no different than when we see someone and say, “How are you doing?!” We aren’t actually asking how they are doing, it’s just a cliche’ way to say hi in America. Likewise, we habitually say things like, “Well ok, I’ve got to go to work now!” And, “Hey, I’ve gotta go pick up my kids.” Or, “Oh my gosh, I need to clean the house.” These are all, in truth, victim statements. They place blame on an object or circumstance or task and it takes us away from personal responsibility and the reality that pretty much 100% of all we do are things we want and choose to do. So I asked the question to the Ziglar audience, “Do you think it would be possible for you to replace all of these statements: "I have to _____", "I've got to _____", "I need to _____" - With: "I want to _____" ???? The very first response said, “Yes!” and the second said, “ If you want to lie to yourself”. The discussion went on from there. I brought on a special guest Dan Miller. My Dad. The reason why, I divulge right up front. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We live in a time of more conveniences, automation, safety, knowledge, and creature comforts than ever. In all reality most of us have a buffet of resources that should make our lives today easier than ever. Yet we seem to be sicker and sadder than ever. As a matter of fact, in regards to personal growth, health, and wellness it’s difficult to find any stat where we are improving. This is astounding. In this episode, renowned author, speaker and podcaster Neil Pasricha believes a root issue is our lack of resilience. The official definition of resilience is the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness. But instead of pushing for anything great and invariably failing here and there, and learning and getting tougher on the journey to success (being resilient), more and more we are just striving to play it safe. Get it right the first time. Neil showcases the tragedy of this and schools us on having a “failure budget”. It’s a very needed and freeing message that Neil delivers in a beautiful paradigm. Neil Pasricha thinks, writes, and speaks about intentional living and is the New York Times bestselling author of five books, including his latest, You Are Awesome. His book, The Book of Awesome and The Happiness Equation, have together spent over 200 weeks on bestseller lists and have sold over 1,000,000 copies. He hosts the Apple 'Best of 2018' award-winning podcast 3 Books which features live conversations with guests such as Malcolm Gladwell, Judy Blume, David Sedaris, and Chris Anderson of TED. I encourage you to visit Neil.blog and subscribe to his podcast, 3 books with Neil Pasricha. And you can get his just released new book, “You Are Awesome” at neil.blog or wherever you buy books. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As we continue to breach the hard questions, this one is a doozy that massively affects our relationships. In this episode we hear a six minute message from Zig Ziglar where he shares a story and from it poses the question, “Why don’t we treat everyone like they are a VIP in our lives?” He cites the impact our perspective of another holds in our relationships. From his message I asked The Ziglar Show audience this question, “How much responsibility do you feel you should take for the relationships in your life, from spouse to parent to coworkers and beyond.” And boom...the responses came in. Right away the majority were either 100% or 50%. But differentiations were made between relationships, especially regarding work or parenting and positions of authority. I’ll preface the show by saying this is not a black and white issue. But knowing what our belief is will greatly influence the health of your relationships. It is a foundational topic we would all be best served to make a decision upon. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you do to keep your mental edge sharp? This is the answer from Phil M Jones, our guest in show 723, “In my permanent quest for better, I follow every major activity I do with what I call the four Rs, my process is pretty structured; Reflect, review, refine and reschedule. First, I reflect. Then I review, ‘What did I like best?’ Then I refine, ‘Next time, what would I do different?’ Last I reschedule, ‘When will I utilize what I learned’?” That is a structure worth adopting. I also appreciated a primary ingredient for his mental wellness was great music appropriate to the mood he wanted to foster, as this is key on my personal list. He bookends his days with no devices which is something we discussed in my True Life Show podcast, episode six. Regarding financial, Phil says he knows what a day of his time is worth, even down to a wholesale cost any activity must equate to. And this is interesting, in his career spoke right now his most challenging issue is he's already outperformed any expectation he had for himself. That's surely not the norm. Those and more interesting and inspiring habits from Phil M Jones, in this episode. Look for Phil’s books at Amazon or where you get your books, "Exactly What to Say", "Exactly How to Sell" and "Exactly Where to Start" just type in Phil Jones Exactly and there you’ll have it! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

That show title is a volatile question that will ultimately shape your life trajectory. All of us have made good and bad decisions that have resulted in making our circumstances better or worse. Hopefully we take responsibility for these decisions we know we made. Then there are the circumstances in our lives we did not choose and can not control. They happened to us; a hard childhood, abuse, car wrecks, toxic people, job loss, handicap, and much more. They were not our fault and we are not to blame. But how do we let those issues affect the rest of our lives? That...is a decision we all get to make. So for this episode I posted this question to the Ziglar audience, “Do you honestly believe that your current circumstances are a result of your personal choices?” What followed was 54 of possibly the most lengthy comments we’ve ever had, and some healthy debate. You may receive more freedom and empowerment from this show and topic than anything else we’ve ever covered. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“The worst time to think about the thing you are going to say is in the moment you are saying it,” says Phil M Jones, my guest in this show. Though we all know it is incredibly common to not think at all when we speak, we just blurt out whatever we think. Success comes from intentionality and training. As Zig Ziglar says, we are all in sales. Selling is influence and when it is done from love it is truly caring and connecting and serving someone. A speaker on stage with the most profound message ever will utterly fail the audience if they are not proficient in how to keep a crowd’s attention and adeptly get a point across. Likewise in any conversation you can utterly fail if you do not know some basic strategies of communication. But the great news is you can almost always succeed...if you are aware and prepared. This show will do this. Phil is the author of “Exactly What To Say” and we also get into the message from his new book, “Exactly When To Start.” He’s actually the author of five international best-selling books and has done over 2,000 presentations in over 50 countries across five continents. He’s an incredibly quote worthy individual, some quips I noted down included, “Change your words, change your world,” and “If you do now know why you are doing it, then why are you doing it?” We talked a good bit on that one. And from a literal sales tactic, the chapter on this lead in is incredible, “I’m not sure if it’s for you, but…” As you will hear in the show, I literally edited a promotion of mine after getting this from Phil. Look for Phil’s books at Amazon or where you get your books, "Exactly What to Say", "Exactly How to Sell" and "Exactly Where to Start" just type in Phil Jones Exactly and there you’ll have it! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have a product or service? Are you good at selling it? Between those two things is marketing. Getting interested parties in front of you. Key in on “interested”. Most of today’s marketing casts a very broad blanket out into the digital world and hopes to find the right people. Zig Ziglar referred to that as pursuing “suspects”. He was fond of “prospecting”, where you pursue people you know are interested in what you have to offer, based on three measurements or as Tom Ziglar says, “qualified” people. In this show we listen to a four minute message from Zig on prospecting, then I asked this question, “What type of marketing works best for your business?” (and what is your business?) Tons of responses. Tom Ziglar and I talked through a bunch of them to bring you a great crash course in what you can be doing to appropriately prospect and have more or the RIGHT people to sell to. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all know having a plan is the most secure way to ensure something happens. When was the last time you set out for a long road trip without directions to follow? Probably never. In this show we hear the daily routine of Tom Ziglar. This is a guy who has never known anything but planning for a positive, successful day. It doesn’t mean he’s perfect, but just like his father Zig, he has a tremendously solid plan for his day. This is our habits show and we walk through the seven spokes on the Ziglar Wheel of Life with Tom, I think you’ll appreciate hearing what the master himself does to procure his personal success! And if you haven’t already, go check out Tom’s new book, “Choose To Win”, wherever you buy your books.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Business and making money and keeping up with the demands of work tend to take priority in our lives, and to a great degree those pursuits are have-to issues. Of course we all value the relationships in our lives, but to truly nurture them amongst the former demands is tough, even with the best of intentions. So I polled the Ziglar audience and asked them, “With the demands of your job or business, what do you do to make relationships a priority? What are your main challenges?” I was joined by Brian Dixon, our guest from episode 715 where we talked through the message in his brand new book, “Start With Your People.” Brian’s responses to the candid comments were significant and will give you some strategic and actionable steps you can put in place to nurture the relationships in your life, even as you fulfill demanding work schedule! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it really a choice? Can you really believe that? The reality is, if you are going to win, it will take a whole of of choices. The right choices. So which choices are the right ones? That’s what this show is about. For 53 years Tom Ziglar has been privy to a constant influx of the absolute best in personal development, self help and best business practices. He’s been CEO of Ziglar for 24 years. He’s a featured speaker around the globe. And now he brings us the first Ziglar book in over a decade and it’s the culmination and simplification of all he’s been exposed to, learned and added to in a truly revolutionary way to walk out your personal success. In this show we talk through the core ingredients of Tom’s Choose To Win methodology and expound on these ingredients: We do have a choice, the absolute necessity of having a why, but we get into an interesting discussion about the why not necessarily having to be big, but it must be strong and intense. We discuss desire, hope (the right kind), grit and then...how. Goals. But how goals only resonates with approximately 20% of the populace so if you aren’t thrilled by goals, you’ll want to hear this. Then we discuss the big kahuna of it all, our daily habits. And which one is most paramount? Tom will tell you. We finish by getting into his next book, already titled and in the works. This is a foundational show. You can find Tom’s book, Choose To Win, at Ziglar.com or wherever you get books. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Truthfully, don’t you assume people who are the best at what they do were just naturals at it, to some degree? Yet we have so many stories of people who had no natural ability and performed at a very low level, but trained themselves up into a level of mastery. In a stark example we have James Earl Jones, with one of the most recognizable voices in the world, who was almost mute as a child for eight years, thanks to a severe stutter. Not that drastic, but in this show I bring you a message from Zig Ziglar explaining his desire to enter sales solely due to a financial incentive, and his following two years of languishing as a very poor salesman. It’s an entertaining story of course, but it really puts into perspective the reality that often the masters did not start off with an advantage. They simply applied themselves, learned and trained. Which opens the doors for you to pursue even those things that don’t come naturally.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I discovered a really valuable addition to the Habits show and the Ziglar wheel of life, courtesy of a small revelation and then an answer from Brian Dixon. Brian was our guest in show 715 where we discussed the message from his book, “Start With Your People”. When I got to the personal spoke, Brian offered a couple things he does. But I wanted more, for a reason I can’t explain. And the aspect of self-care occurred to me. So along with what you do for yourself, fun or play, I asked him, “What about in regards to self-care?” He immediately gave three answers for significant things he does for himself, and all three are things I’ve never done myself, such as using salt-water float tanks and seeing movies at the theater in the middle of the day. It was a really interesting and insightful discussion I think you’ll get much from.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You have a daily routine. Everyone does. Every day you generally go about the same tasks and functions. Your world will dramatically change for the better from making slight adjustments in your daily routine. Coming off of show 713 where I got to the root of healthy habits, in this show Tom Ziglar and I talk about the power is making at least a small investment in every spoke on the Ziglar Wheel of Life. Often you can combine a spoke. And doing a five minute workout or a three minute devotional will keep your positive inertia going. “Falling off the wagon” or “losing momentum” is a death knell for most people, as when we fall behind it can feel overwhelming to make up the deficit. Sometimes it unavoidable, but most often we have the ability to at least make a small contribution that can keep us moving forward. This was the main focus of this show, though I also posted this question to the Ziglar audience and Tom and I reviewed a handful of comments, “In the 7 spokes on the Ziglar Wheel of Life, which areas do you have a plan you consistently fulfill?” It was from the comments we were drawn to the power of even small, positive investments in your daily routine. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your day, your life, is full of projects to be done. From home and family to work and business. There are many people, even more so in the world of business and entrepreneurship, who more often than not put priority on the project as opposed to people. Yet our guest today, Brian Dixon, found he was shortchanging himself and in fact putting people first was far more rewarding, and profitable. Brian Dixon is a podcaster, conference speaker, and business coach and specializes in helping authors, speakers, and aspiring messengers create a sustainable business through growing their platform, and creating compelling online courses. He is the co-founder of hope*writers, a membership site of over 2,000 working writers. Brian’s brand new book, Start With Your People, is an instant best seller with the who’s who in the business and personal development world fervently touting the book and it’s message. I think a reason for this is because we are all suffering. Culturally we've grown into "doing the job" as the expectation. Going beyond that to put people first feels like a lost art in the workplace and sadly, often in the home as well. Brian provides acute stories, compelling data and tangible action steps to put people as the first priority, not the exception. The message provides far more than testimony to putting people first as the right thing to do, but undeniably the most profitable to our personal lives and business bottom line. Visit Brian’s website at briandixon.com. I’d encourage you to check out his free Clarity quiz, and of course you can get his book there, “Start With Your People”, or find it at Amazon, the audio at Audible, or wherever you buy books. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I don’t like titles claiming to be the end-all or holy grail for anything. But I believe this claim to be irrefutable. The biggest influence in your life is your inner voice. Your personal thoughts. They were not pre-programmed at birth, you have so far spent a lifetime having your inner voice programmed, either proactively with intention, or you’ve allowed other people and things to program you. Though the truth for everyone is, both. But to what percentages? The danger is we primarily believe our thoughts. We feel they come from our beliefs and what we deem to be true. But brain and personal development research has proven this to be false. How you perceive yourself and what you believe about yourself is often a faulty perspective. More importantly, if you want to become something different, you must start telling yourself something different. Zig Ziglar made this topic one of his primary messages and in this show we hear him deliver a seven minute message about it that will equip you to do something about your own voice. Then I posted this question on Facebook, “The voice inside your head...what is a positive and negative label it gives you?” and had Tom Ziglar join me to talk through the comments. As always the comments were authentic, vulnerable and sometimes hard hitting.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a special episode on habits. For almost two years now I’ve had every single guest on the Ziglar Show, comprised of today’s most successful influencers in personal development, share their personal habits for success. They share exactly what they do in each of the seven spokes of The Ziglar Wheel of Life. It is inspiring and empowering. From this I want to help you with your own habits. It’s one thing to understand the benefit of great habits and to hear what all these successful people are doing. It’s another thing to actually make the decision ahead of time and then in the appropriate moment, to start your own habits. And you may be in a tough place in life where you feel trapped and overwhelmed, or even just desiring, but stalled out. The point of this show is to reveal what is needed before the habit can really happen. And it will likely showcase to many of you WHY you are struggling with your healthy habits, or lack thereof. So this dives down from the Habits shows where you hear what successful people do, to the how and why. I’ll run through five attributes that precede establishing healthy habits, then walk through the seven spokes on the Ziglar Wheel of Life and clarify the background and roots understanding that will help you not just take action but really know why beyond the face value comprehension. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you suffering from a desire you have but you aren’t making progress toward? Are you clear on why you want it? Why you REALLY want it. The truth is, most people are not. They have a list of wants and desires they think they should want and maybe actually do to a degree, but they don’t have a clear picture in mind of what the actual payoff really is. If you press in to clarity on what and why you want something, you will either gain clarity and get true motivation, or you may realize you don’t want it enough, which is not always a bad thing, as you’ll hear in this show. The idea came from Hal Elrod, our guest in show 707, where we talked about his new book, “Miracle Equation”, which was a message geared toward helping people take action on the things that inspired them. From this I posted this question to the Ziglar listening audience, “What is a desire you have...that you are struggling to take action towards? What do you think might help your motivation?” We received responses from people who wanted to find a fitting career they believed in, make more money, write a book, and pursue their physical fitness. A surprising majority shared side businesses and business ideas they really wanted to pursue but were feeling stalled out. I asked Michelle Prince to join me and talk through the comments. This show should be convicting and freeing. Quite possibly both! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Wisdom is defined as the quality of having experience, knowledge, and good judgment I find it actually falls in that sequential order, you have an experience, you gain knowledge from which you utilize good judgement. Or let’s say...you can. If you pay attention. That’s the crux of this show with wise guy...Guy Kawasaki. This is actually my second interview of Guy. His new book is called Wise Guy and it’s a compilation of life lessons. Guy is an unprecedented influencer, which accounts for the half million people who follow him on Facebook and almost 1.5 million on Twitter. He’s chief evangelist of Canva, an online graphic design tool and brand ambassador for Mercedes-Benz. He was the chief evangelist of Apple and his stories of working with Steve Jobs, and lessons learned, are intriguing. He’s a bestselling author of multiple books such as The Art of the Start 2.0 and Enchantment. But in this book he walks through much of his life and career and literally shares a ton of great stories and then what lesson he learned from them. As you’ll hear, it really caused me to consider the many events that have and are always happening in my life, and ask...am I learning lessons from them, or just letting them pass by? Honestly, we hit some really poignant issues in this show, and we laughed a lot. He’s just a total joy to be with and learn from. He’s as humble and authentic as anyone I’ve ever met. You’ll learn and I think thoroughly enjoy this show. Find Guy’s book, Wise Guy, wherever you buy books. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you do when confronted with a negative person? Whether they are just spouting negativity to or around you, or outright attacking you. Unless you live and work alone and are a veritable hermit, negative people are unavoidable. In this episode I play an impacting message from Zig Ziglar that does a profound job of highlighting the consequences of unleashed negativity. From it, I posed this question to the Ziglar audience, “How do you cope when you’re on the receiving end of negativity...so you don’t become negative yourself?” The responses ranged from “Run away, far and fast and avoid at all cost,” to striving to understand the person and help bring them around to a more positive outlook. Many cited the need for compassion on hurting people. But what seemed to bubble to the surface was the necessity for us all to be emotionally confident in order to healthily deal with negative people. Tom Ziglar joined me for the discussion and actually charged us to become “emotional ninjas!” I invite you to join me for these weekly discussions, just find and friend me on Facebook at agentkmiller.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices