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In this week’s mini episode, I wanted to give you an update on the upcoming tell-all episodes with my Mom and sister, express my appreciation for each and everyone of you, reflect on the past 3 years of Recovering From Reality, and say one last goodbye!        If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today’s episode is icon, influencer, and confidence queen Serena Fucking Kerrigan — otherwise known as SFK. After graduating from Duke University, Serena was hired as a producer at Refinery29. In February 2020, she quit her job to launch her own company that would empower women to live their lives unapologetically and authentically. Since then, she has hosted the first ever Instagram Live reality show, Let’s Fucking Date, launched a hugely successful line of card games, and amassed a huge following on social media—bringing her followers along on her dating escapades and adventures, all for the plot!(bio adapted from letsfuckingdate.com) In this episode, we discuss how Serena manifested her dream life, exactly how you should be approaching dating apps (prompts, banter, getting on the first date, etc), hyping yourself up, making yourself unavailable at the beginning of a relationship, leaning into your devine feminine when dating, and so much more! We answer so many of your questions and give advice on everything from confidence to dating to boundaries and more!    If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week’s episode, I am sitting down with Bekah Martinez—cohost of Chatty Broads and founder of Good Alma! We discuss performative activism in the influencer community, where we go now post-Roe society, how growing up in a Conservative Christina home has impacted Bekah’s political views today, politics and parenting, the adoption process, childhood resilience, how you’re helping to heal net suffering, setting boundaries on the internet, and so much more!       If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week’s episode is my last solo episode on the podcast. I’m choosing to listen to the signals my body is sending me and take a step back and slow down.   In this episode, I dive into the Roe v. Wade reversal, the trauma of Covid, and answer your questions about what I wish I saw in the wellness community, my favorite workouts, getting in the mood when you’re not feeling it, my boyfriend, summer plans, if I regretted opening my marriage, letting go of relationships, and what’s to come in the next few weeks of RFR!        Our lovely sponsor this week:   Right now, you can try Better & Better’s vitamin-infused toothpaste and any of their oral care products and save with this exclusive offer for listeners. Just use code REALITY at checkout for 20% off your first order.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, I had a profound conversation with activist Ashlee Marie Preston. Ashlee is a proud black, transgender woman who is constantly advocating for LGBTQ+ youth and those who are struggling. She is now 8 years sober, and has the humility and kindness to share her story of recovery from childhood abuse, meth, prostitution and homelessness with us. Ashlee is now the messenger she has been waiting for her entire life, and I believe she is a messenger for all of us too. Ashlee grew up unsure of her gender identity in the conservative state of Kentucky. She shares her harrowing story of sexual abuse, being institutionalized as a child, and how her drug addiction began. She moved to California at 19, and found herself struggling to fit in. She was fired from her retail job for being trans and became homeless, without a shelter that would accept her and her trans identity.   On the streets, Ashlee resorted to sex work as a means of survival. She turned to substances to numb out and survive. It was finally Ashlee’s understanding of her relationship with God/universe, that brought her to the breaking point. She began recovery, and found her voice in activism through working with nonprofit organizations, and seeing how poorly people like her were being treated.   Everything that Ashlee thought made her broken and unworthy are now symbols of strength and beauty in her life. Without the work she’s done (in spirituality, sobriety, and service), she would not be helping people like she is today.   Ashlee’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashleemariepreston/    Our lovely sponsor this week:   Right now, you can try Better & Better’s vitamin-infused toothpaste and any of their oral care products and save with this exclusive offer for listeners. Just use code REALITY at checkout for 20% off your first order.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today’s guest is Brandi Jordan! Brandi has been helping new families grow, adjust, and find balance for almost two decades. She is a Board Certified Lactation Consultant, Pediatric Sleep Specialist, Newborn Care Specialist and a Postpartum Doula. (bio via thecradlecompany.com) She’s also the host of the Dear Doula podcast on the Dear Media network! In this episode, we discuss how Brandi became a Doula, the importance of the postpartum period, the cultural differences of parenting between France + the US, how socioeconomic status can impact breastfeeding, our thoughts on the formula shortage, the importance of using your intuition when parenting, and hospital vs. home births.    Dear Doula Podcast: https://dearmedia.com/shows/dear-doula/ Brandi’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brandi_jordan_official/     Our lovely sponsor this week:   Right now, you can try Better & Better’s vitamin-infused toothpaste and any of their oral care products and save with this exclusive offer for listeners. Just use code REALITY at checkout for 20% off your first order.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.     Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today’s guest is Caroline Stanbury—host of Divorced Not Dead and cast member of the brand new Real Housewives of Dubai.We dive into our experiences on reality tv, common misconceptions about being a reality star, being a single and working mother, building the life of your dreams, and going through a public divorce.   Our lovely sponsor this week is:   Coterie Diapers and Wipes: Right now, Coterie is partnering with my podcast to offer you 20% off your first order plus free shipping at Coterie.com/REALITY    If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Happy Pride Month! In this week’s episode I am sitting down with one of my closest friends—Jeff Epstein. We dive into my unhinged 30th birthday in Vegas, Grindr vs. lesbian Tinder, what pride means to us, Jeff’s coming out story, queer terminology, why you shouldn’t go to your family to vent about your partner, our thoughts on AA, first times, one-night stands, and so much more!    Jeff’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itsjeffepstein/   Our lovely sponsors this week are:   Upstart is the fast and easy way to pay off your debt with a personal loan–all online. Use code REALITY at www.upstart.com.    Right now, you can try Better & Better’s vitamin-infused toothpaste and any of their oral care products and save with this exclusive offer for listeners. Just use code REALITY at checkout for 20% off your first order.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.     Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week’s episode I am sitting down with Nicole Sodoma—a Marriage-loving Divorce Attorney and Author. We discuss our shared backgrounds of growing up in divorced households, the importance of dual devotion in a partnership, what you should know about prenups, why you shouldn’t say “I’m sorry” when someone tells you they’re divorced, explaining divorce to kids, and so much more.   Shop Nicoles’ book: https://nicolesodoma.com/    Our lovely sponsors this week are:   Your new favorite shoes are waiting. Discover the versatile styles you can wear absolutely anywhere and get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/ REALITY.   Right now, you can try Better & Better’s vitamin-infused toothpaste and any of their oral care products and save with this exclusive offer for listeners. Just use code REALITY at checkout for 20% off your first order.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week’s episode I am sitting down with Planned Parenthood’s Dr. Meera Shah—a board certified family medicine physician specializing in sexual and reproductive healthcare for all genders. Dr. Shah is the chief medical officer of Planned Parenthood Hudson Peconic in New York and the medical director of Whole Women’s Health Alliance in South Bend, Indiana where she flies monthly to perform abortion care. In this necessary and timely discussion, we discuss the importance of non politicized and compassionate care, what ‘viability’ actually means, a physician's perspective on abortion access, Planned Parenthood’s services, steps you can take to support abortion rights, what a Roe v. Wade reversal would mean for Plan B, and so much more.    Resources mentioned: - https://www.plannedparenthood.org/  - You're the Only One I've Told: The Stories Behind Abortion by Dr. Meera Shah - https://abortionfunds.org/funds/  - https://www.plancpills.org/  - https://www.mahotline.org/  - https://brigidalliance.org/  - https://www.instagram.com/plannedparenthood/    Our lovely sponsor this week is:   Coterie Diapers and Wipes: Right now, Coterie is partnering with my podcast to offer you 20% off your first order plus free shipping at Coterie.com/REALITY    If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week’s episode I am joined by my good friend Ashley Montano. Ashley has two special needs children and as you know, we’ve been on a journey of getting Dakota a diagnosis and professional support. We talk our experiences raising special needs children while sober, our opinions on ABA, navigating daily schedules, the pressure co-parenting can add, the support systems we utilize, financial stress of proper medical care, the importance of community, and the lessons our kids have taught us.   Our lovely sponsors this week are:   Get 35% off with code REALITY when you shop Cozy Earth’s high-quality goods, sustainably sourced luxury bedding, and loungewear!    Upstart is the fast and easy way to pay off your debt with a personal loan–all online. Use code REALITY at www.upstart.com.    If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week’s episode I am joined by Dr. Amanda Hanson—a clinical psychologist and coach working to reimagine Midlife & reclaim the glory of being women. We discuss the benefits of movement, the societal narrative surrounding aging, Amanda’s choice to age naturally, how our lifestyles are impacting the aging process, the intersection of gender norms and aging, and so much more!    Oil mentioned:  https://woodenspoonherbs.com/products/breast-oil      Our lovely sponsors this week are:   Get 35% off with code REALITY when you shop Cozy Earth’s high-quality goods, sustainably sourced luxury bedding, and loungewear!    Get 5% off + a free Pique sampler pack (containing 6 of their best - selling teas) when you buy 2+ cartons of their Daily Radiance with code REALITY at piquelife.com/reality.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.     Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this month’s solo episode we begin with an oracle card reading (answered prayers and divine guidance lie ahead), I address the new man in my life, this new season of monogamy, how to regulate your nervous system, the importance of breath work, and how I’ve been working through abandonment wounds.    Our lovely sponsors this week are:   Get 35% off with code REALITY when you shop Cozy Earth’s high-quality goods, sustainably sourced luxury bedding, and loungewear!    Your new favorite shoes are waiting. Discover the versatile styles you can wear absolutely anywhere and get $20 off your first purchase at rothys.com/ REALITY.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week's episode I am sitting down with Dr. Ghadir from the Fertile Life Podcast. As a founding partner of Southern California Reproductive Center, Dr. Ghadir is board-certified in both Obstetrics and Gynecology and Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility. He is currently an assistant clinical professor in the department of Obstetrics and Gynecology at the David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA and at the Keck School of Medicine at USC. We are sitting down today to talk about reproductive health and fertility which is something near and dear to my heart as a mother who has had multiple pregnancy losses and also suffers from PCOS.    Our lovely sponsors this week are:   Cortierie Diapers and Wipes: Right now, Coterie is partnering with my pod cast to offer you 20% off your first order plus free shipping at Coterie.com/REALITY    Pique: Get 5% off and a sampler pack of tea from Pique when you visit their site using code “REALITY” at check out    Upstart: Upstart-powered personal loans can help you pay downhigh-interest debt—all online, with simpleand easy-to-understand payment terms. Upstart knowsyou’re more than just your credit score so rather than looking at your credit scorealone, Upstart’s model considers other factors like your income,employment, and otherinformation provided in your loan application to find you a smarter rate for your loan. You can check your rate in minutes, for loans betweenone thousand to fifty thousand dollars,without impacting your credit score. Go to upstart.com/Reality to let them know we sent you!   Click here https://bit.ly/cheex-rfr to get a 14-day free trial on CHEEX with code RECOVERING Promo valid for new customers when selectin the yearly subscription option. Cancel anytime during the trial period.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week's episode I am joined by my friend Rachel Slawson. Rachel was the first openly queer Miss USA representing Utah. She joins me on the podcast today to talk about her mental health journey, what it was like growing up in the Mormon church and coming out as Bi while competing for Miss USA. Rachel is also in an open relationship so we dive into their specific dynamic and explore our differences in polyamorous relationships.    Our lovely sponsors this week are:   Click here https://bit.ly/cheex-rfr to get a 14-day free trial on CHEEX with code RECOVERING Promo valid for new customers when selectin the yearly subscription option. Cancel anytime during the trial period.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.     Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week's episode I am joined by my mom, Andrea! We are discussing a new healing modality that we have both been using to heal our inner children, called Internal Family Systems (IFS). Do you ever wonder why you can’t get the voices in your head to stop repeating the same things to you over and over? Us too! Using IFS we have been able to identify what those inner voices are trying to teach us and how to start speaking to our inner wounded being so we can finally heal them. This work is truly transformative and we are excited to share with y’all how it has helped us. We reference the book, No Bad Parts by Dr. Richard Schwartz.   Our lovely sponsors this week are:   Pique Life: If you want glowing healthy skin try their amazing liposomal vitamin C and other teas over at www.piquelife.com/reality   Click here https://bit.ly/cheex-rfr to get a 14-day free trial on CHEEX with code RECOVERING Promo valid for new customers when selecting the yearly subscription option. Cancel anytime during the trial period.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In the last episode I briefly opened up about the struggles that I was facing in my marriage. At the time I wasn't ready to disclose the details about what had transpired or how Evan and I would be moving forward. As always, I feel that it is necessary for me to live authentically and vulnerably, even if it comes with an immense amount of temporary discomfort. I ask that before you listen to this episode  you go into it with an open heart and mind. As always,  I am sending you all so much love and appreciate your kind messages during this major transition in my life.    www.Rothys.com/REALITY for $20 off your first purchase. www.Parade.com/REALITY for 20% off your order. www.Upstart.com/REALITY to check your rates today.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week's episode I am joined by my friend, and fellow podcast host Doug Bopst. I celebrated my 11 years in recovery on March 8th and I thought that doing an episode on recovery was only fitting. This episode will leave you feeling inspired even if you don't deal with substance issues as Doug's story is about so much more than addiction. We talk about the importance of human connection, how childhood trauma effects out psychy's, and answer the age old question, "is weed really a "gateway" drug?"   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   www.Hellofresh.com/reality16 for up to 16 free meals and 3 free gifts. www.TheOuai.com with code REALITY for 15% off your entire purchase. www.NativeDeo.com/rfr for 20% off your first order.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week's episode I am joined by NY Times best selling Author Gabrielle Bernstein. While yes, we are discussing manifestation, we are taking a deeper dive into the bigger systemic issues in the wellness and self help community. I asked her the tough questions like, "Is manifesting under capitalism sustainable?" and "Is there a correlation between the wellness community and conspiracy theorists?" We also discuss the connection between trauma and limiting belief systems and how they block our ability to manifest and why it is important to start manifesting for the greater good, rather than for our own wealth and desires.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   www.Upstart.com/REALITY to find out how Upstart can lower your monthly payments today. www.ThePillClub.com/REALITY to get your first birth control care package and donate to help more women in need of affordable birth control.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week I am doing a solo Q&A on spirituality and manifestation. As we go into March I want to support you all on your path towards reclaiming your power and healing your limiting belief systems. We are talking about clearing out limiting belief systems, healing generational trauma to set us free from subconscious patterns, manifestation tools, and an update on my marriage.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   www.Parade.com/REALITY for 20% off your order. www.Rothys.com/REALITY for $20 off your first purchase. www.TheOuai.com with code REALITY for 15% off your entire purchase.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week I am sitting down with Liz Marz who is a relationship coach. I was introduced to Liz through our mutual friend Angel, who has joined me on the pod a few times. In this episode we are taking a deep dive into the topic of how to cultivate healthy love in your life and looking at the blocks that might be in place that are keeping you stuck.    If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com    Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week I am sitting down with Ali Kolbert (my lesbian wing-woman) for the second half of our swap—listen to me on Ali’s show here. We dive into Ali’s relationship advice, your disastrous dating stories, and discuss everything from titty pics to dating app lines.   Upstart is the fast and easy way to pay off your debt with a personal loan–all online. Use code Reality at www.upstart.com.   Head to pillclub.com/reality to get your first birth control care package and donate to help more women in need of affordable birth control.   For up to 16 FREE meals and 3 FREE gifts go to hellofresh.com/reality16 and use code ‘REALITY16’ at checkout.   Smell and feel fresh all day long with Native! Get 20% off by heading to nativedeo.com/RFR or use code ‘RFR’ at checkout.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today I am sitting down with Sofia Franklyn—one of my most requested guests of all time! Sofia and I discuss everything in this interview including childhood traumas, experiencing a public scandal, growing up with a single mom, abandonment issues, how she healed, current manifestations, and what’s next on her journey.   Sofia with an F: https://sofiafranklyn.com/pages/sofia-with-an-f-podcast Sofia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sofiafranklyn   Your body, your OUAI! Go to theouai.com and use code ‘REALITY’ for 15% off your entire purchase.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It’s February! This month we are talking all things love and relationships. In this solo, I discuss my recent miscarriage and the work that’s brought up, marriage and lifelong relationships, my thoughts on love languages and attachment styles, ghosting, the importance of dating yourself, and manifesting your perfect partner.   Ghia is here for a good time and a long time. For 20% off your first sip, go to drinkghia.com and use code ‘REALITY’ at checkout.   Find your new skincare favorites at oseamalibu.com and use code ‘REALITY' at checkout for 10% off your first order!   Start building your ideal daily routine today and get 25% off Fabulous Premium by going to thefab.co/reality.   Upgrade your top drawer and get 20% off by heading to parade.com/reality.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, I am joined by Morgan—a Queer Polyamory Mentor and the creator of Chillpolyamory.  She’s been consensually non-monogamous since 2012, and coaching others on their journeys since 2018. We discuss the western narrative surrounding monogamy, exploring polyamory, the negative connotations of jealousy, how Evan and I’s communication has improved since opening our relationship, cheating in polyamory relationships, hierarchal constructions of monogamous relationships, and more!   Ghia is here for a good time and a long time. For 20% off your first sip, go to drinkghia.com and use code ‘REALITY’ at checkout.   Upstart is the fast and easy way to pay off your debt with a personal loan–all online. Use code Reality at www.upstart.com.   Head to pillclub.com/reality to get your first birth control care package and and donate to help more women in need of affordable birth control.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, I am joined by Danielle Bayard Jackson a certified friendship coach, PR agency owner, licensed educator, and author. We discuss how lacking friendship education is, making friends in adulthood, losing friends as you grow, how friendships are a need not a want, and working to move past friendship break-ups in a healthy way.   Ghia is here for a good time and a long time. For 20% off your first sip, go to drinkghia.com and use code ‘REALITY’ at checkout.   For up to 16 FREE meals and 3 FREE gifts go to hellofresh.com/reality16 and use code ‘REALITY16’ at checkout.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, I am joined by Tarah Dowling a model, daughter of an addict, former foster child, and creator of the documentary To the Moon and Back. We discuss Tarah’s journey experience during her mom’s active addiction, her time in foster care, how their relationship evolved as showcased in the documentary, and using a compassionate approach to navigating addiction.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   www.Thefab.co/reality for 25% off Fabulous Premium. www.NativeDeo/RFR for 20% off your first order.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Johann Hari—bestselling author Chasing the Scream and Lost Connections—joins me on RFR for the second time to discuss his new book, Stolen Focus. In this phenomenal episode, we discuss the environmental shifts that have caused focus to deteriorate, how to improve your attention, and inspiring collective change.   Shop Stolen Focus: https://stolenfocusbook.com/buy-the-book/   Johann’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johann.hari/   Upstart is the fast and easy way to pay off your debt with a personal loan–all online. Use code Reality at www.upstart.com   This week’s episode is brought to you by Osea Malibu. Use code REALITY at oseamalibu.com for 10% off your first order and FREE samples. FREE shipping for orders in the US over $50.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this month’s solo episode I answer your questions about babysitting Doja Cat, sex kinks, identity development, my wedding day, new tattoos, navigating tough days, and using routine to maintain your mood.   Mentioned in this week’s episode… - Ep. 120 Pecan Pies, Panties, and Parenting with my Mom, Andrea Arlington - Ep. 121 Asexuality, Kinks, and Sensuality with Ev’Yan Whitney   Watch Redeeming Love in theaters on January 21st and learn more by heading to redeeminglovemovie.com.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today I am joined by Scout Sobel. Scout is the founder of Scout’s Agency  a PR agency that gets women as guests on podcasts, the co-host of Okay Sis Podcast  and the host of SCOUT Podcast.    We discuss… - Using your emotions to guide you in balancing mental health and professional goals - Scout’s perspective on how her bipolar originated—the genetic component, recurring dreams, and spiritual traumas - Experiencing the symptoms of sexual trauma without the physical experience - What recurring dreams can tell us about our pasts, futures, and spirits - Being addicted to emotions and the ways they enable us to stay in our suffering - Receiving mental health treatment and support as a human and not just a pathologized patient - Accepting worthiness as is and letting go of the stories and identities we obsess over   Mentioned in this week’s episode… - The Emotional Entrepreneur by Scout Sobel - Alexis on Okay Sis - Ep. 67 How Stress Effects Our Brains with Holistic Psychologist Dr. Meredith Sagan - Surviving Dear Documentary on Netflix - DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets - The DBT Therapy Skills Workbook - The DBT Therapy Skills Workbook for Bipolar - Meet Your Soul by Elisa Romeo   For a 30 day free trial of Dipsea’s wellness sessions, sensual bedtime stories, and audio soundscapes head to dipseastories.com/reality.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today I am joined by the sober queen herself—Vanderpump Rules star Lala Kent! We discuss… - Lala’s upbringing—family dynamics, childhood insecurities, bullying, and how this impacted her addiction - The addiction cycle and Lala’s experience navigating it in Hollywood - Navigating the guilt of getting sober without facing the huge consequences many face in active addiction - Turning to a higher power for support when challenges arise - What it’s like to be vulnerable on such a huge scale - Lala and Alexis’ varying opinions on ‘California Sober’ - The Mocktail recipes you need in your life - Where Lala wants to be 1 year from now   For 20% off your first order of plant-based meals and wellness essentials, visit sakara.com/reality!   Upstart is the fast and easy way to pay off your debt with a personal loan–all online. Use code Reality at www.upstart.com   Send your loved ones unique, thought-provoking questions to strengthen your relationships by going to storyworth.com/reality and save $10 on your first purchase.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Producer by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today’s solo episode I reflect on my younger self and how she helped me become the woman I am today. I discuss coming home to my true self in the past year, going to jail 11 years ago, my time in active addiction, and subconscious belief systems.     Watch Redeeming Love in theaters on January 21st and learn more by heading to redeeminglovemovie.com.   For a 30 day free trial of Dipsea’s wellness sessions, sensual bedtime stories, and audio soundscapes head to dipseastories.com/reality.     Follow "Harsh Reality: The Story of Miriam Rivera" on Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, or listen early and ad free by joining Wondery Plus in Apple Podcasts or the Wondery App.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today’s episode I’m joined by my husband, Evan Haines. Evan is not only the co-founder of Oro House but now an author of Can America Recover: Reimagining the Drug Problem.   We discuss… - How Evan’s early sobriety journey led him to found Oro House - Why non-traditional 12 step treatment can be extremely effective for addiction and what makes Oro’s method unique - What causes mental health treatment providers to have negative feelings towards their patients struggling with addiction - Where our cultural and social norms about work and addiction originated from   Mentioned in this week’s episode… - Can America Recover: Reimagining the Drug Problem by Evan Haines - Ep. 4 I Love You, Mom w/ Bob Forrest - Ep. 26 Call In w/ Bob Forrest - Ep. 105 The Social Causes of Addiction and Mental Health with Bob Forrest and Evan Haines   Get $10 off your first purchase when you sign up for Poshmark using code alexishaines. Follow “Harsh Reality: The Story of Miriam Rivera” on Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, or you can listen early and ad free by joining Wondery Plus in Apple Podcasts or the Wondery App.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today’s episode I’m joined by Ev’Yan Whitney—a sexuality doula, writer, facilitator, and sensualist.   We discuss… - What led Ev’Yan to the work they are doing now—origins in purity culture, childhood sexual exploration, and their journey to sexual healing and liberation - How the same messaging can be received in both a toxically sex positive household and in homes where sexuality isn’t explored and encouraged - Unpacking asexuality as an identity and common pieces of misinformation - What happens when you take away the pressure of what sexuality and sex ’should’ look and feel like - Balancing different sexual wants, needs, and libidos in relationships - How to be intimate with partners without sexual intercourse - The importance of not saying yes to sex that you’d rather say no to   Today’s episode is brought to you by Sakara. For 20% off your first order of plant-based meals and wellness essentials, visit sakara.com/reality!   Upstart is the fast and easy way to pay off your debt with a personal loan–all online. Use code Reality at www.upstart.com   Get support today with the help of a licensed therapist online with Better Help. Visit www.betterhelp.com/recovering to speak with a licensed therapist about your mental health needs.     If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today’s episode I’m joined by my Mom—Andrea Arlington to dive into challenging family dynamics during the holiday season.   We discuss… - Setting boundaries with parents in active addiction - Relapsing during the holidays—common causes and supporting a loved one using again - Having a loved one come home for the holidays while in early recovery or rehab - Being codependent vs. loving someone through their journey   Mentioned in the episode… - Ep. 110 with Andrea Arlington - Communication Training Downloadable   Get support today with the help of a licensed therapist online with Better Help. Visit www.betterhelp.com/recovering to speak with a licensed therapist about your mental health needs and get 10% off your first month..   For a 30 day free trial of Dipsea’s wellness sessions, sensual bedtime stories, and audio soundscapes head to dipseastories.com/reality.   This week’s episode is brought to you by Dipsea.     If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today’s episode I’m joined by Tara Bixby, LPC a therapist, activist, and anxiety coach working to change the mental health narrative.   We discuss… - Tara’s journey from cosmetologist, to 911 dispatcher, to clinician in an all male prison, to an anxiety coach and therapist - The prevalence of suicide in the United States and why we need to normalize mental health challenges - How everyone is susceptible to mental health challenges - The impact of the nervous system on our mental health - Why it’s important to move away from identifying as your mental illness diagnosis - The first steps you should take if you’re struggling with severe depression and suicidality - Healing after a suicide attempt   This week’s episode is brought to you by Storyworth. Send your loved ones unique, thought-provoking questions to strengthen your relationships by going to storyworth.com/reality and save $10 on your first purchase.   This week’s episode is brought to yo buy Redeeming Love. Watch Redeeming Love in theaters on January 21st and learn more by heading to redeeminglovemovie.com.     If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In honor of the upcoming holiday season and November being Suicide Survivor’s Month I answer your questions on natural remedies for depression, spiritual bypassing, pharmaceutical medications for mental health, Evan’s advice on supporting someone through suicidal depression, if depression is connected to living truthfully, and the physical component of mental health.   Mentioned in this week’s episode… - Lost Connections by Johann Hari - Ep. 103 Our Brains Aren’t Broken, Our Society Is with Johann Hari - Dr. Joe Dispenza’s meditations - Alpha-Stim device - Mad in America by Robert Whitaker - Suicide Hotline: 1800-273-TALK   Upstart is the fast and easy way to pay off your debt with a personal loan–all online. Use code Reality at www.upstart.com   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week's episode I am joined by my girlfriend, Kris! Y'all have been asking for this podcast to happen and I finally begged enough to make it happen. I will preface this episode by saying that Kris is a very introverted and private person with an avoidant attachment style, so to say that doing this was a challenge for her would be an understatement. While she is completely fine being pictured on social media, Kris coming on the podcast felt super daunting to her. I asked her multiple times if she wanted to skip it all together, but she decided to do it! I am proud of her for overcoming her fears and diving into the experience. In this episode we cover how we met, the status of our relationship, the truth behind her previous relationship with Braunwhyn Windham-Burke from the RHOC, and where we see our relationship heading. We also answered a bunch of your Q&A from Instagram.     If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   www.Betterhelp.com/Recovering for 10% off your first month   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today I am joined by Angelika Alana a love, sex, and relationship coach specializing in body based healing for spiritual women and gender non-conforming people. We dive into sexual exploration, sitting in discomfort rather diving into desires, how to establish safety in your nervous system, communicating our sexual needs in an effective way, and being on the same team as your partner.   Connect with Angelika on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/angelikaalana/   Today’s episode is brought to you by Sakara. For 20% off your first order of plant-based meals and wellness essentials, visit sakara.com/reality!   www.Betterhelp.com/recovering for 10% off your first month of therapy.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.alorecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week's episode of Recovering From Reality, I am joined by my wonderful partner, Evan Haines. We take a deep dive into our relationships and how we came to the decision to open up our marriage after 10 years of monogamy. We are answering your questions from the ask me anything I posted a few weeks ago and we cover a range of topics like how did we decide to become ethically non-monogamous, how we told our children, what our sex life looks like now and how we handle feelings of jealousy.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.ororecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Upstart is the fast and easy way to pay off your debt with a personal loan–all online. Use code Reality at www.upstart.com   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hi family. Welcome home to Recovering From Reality. In the first episode of this new season, I dive into why I took a step back from the podcast, stepping into my sexuality, navigating this new season in my marriage, and what’s coming on the podcast.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.alorecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

After immense contemplation and reflection, I’ve decided to take a step back from the podcast for the time reason. Listen to hear my thought process on this decision...   This episode is brought to you by Beekeeper’s Naturals. Head to beekeepersnaturals.com/reality for 15% off your first order!   This episode is brought to you by Pipette Baby. Visit pipettebaby.com and get 30% off your order with code “REALITY”!   This episode is brought to you by Athletic Greens. Go to athleticgreens.com/REALITY for a FREE year supply of Vitamin D and get 5 free travel packs!   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.alorecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today I am sitting down with my husband Evan Haines. Evan Haines is a Co-Founder of Alo House, and specializes in admissions, and marketing and business development. An active participant in the recovery world, it felt natural for Evan to transition into the sober living business, and help others obtain and maintain sobriety. In 2010, he and Jared founded Alo House, which, in less than three years, became one of the most successful sober living residences in the area. Evan has a Master’s Degree in Community Development Planning from the University of British Columbia. (Bio via alorecovery.com)   In this episode, we dissect the recent Britney Spears Documentary       This episode is brought to you by Organifi. Head to organifi.com/reality for 15% off any item in store!   This episode is brought to you by Beekeeper’s Naturals. Head to beekeepersnaturals.com/reality for 15% off your first order!   This episode is brought to you by Upstart. Find out how Upstart can lower your monthly payments today at www.Upstart.com/REALITY   And download Best Fiends FREE today on the Apple App Store or Google Play.   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.alorecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today I am sitting down with Dr. Will Cole. Dr. Cole is a leading functional-medicine expert, consulting with people around the world via webcam and locally in Pittsburgh. He specializes in clinically investigating underlying factors of chronic disease and customizing health programs for thyroid issues, autoimmune conditions, hormonal dysfunctions, digestive disorders, and brain problems. Dr. Cole was named one of the top 50 functional-medicine and integrative doctors in the nation and is a health expert and course instructor for the world’s largest wellness brands such as mindbodygreen and goop. (Bio adapted from drwillcole.com)   We dive into the following topics… - The importance of using a western and functional approach to medical treatments - How functional medicine helped me recover from my postpartum suicidal depression - Widespread inflammation in the United States and the indicators to be aware of - The importance of healing your physical health so your mental health can thrive - The relationship of food to inflammation and overall health - Dr. Will’s expertise on the Ketotarian diet             This episode is brought to you by Organifi. Head to organifi.com/reality for 15% off any item in store!   This episode is brought to you by Sakara! For 20% off your first order, visit sakara.com/reality!   This episode is brought to you by Beekeeper’s Naturals. Head to beekeepersnaturals.com/reality for 15% off your first order!   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.alorecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today I am sitting down with my Mom, Andrea Arlington. Andrea's journey led her through decades of living with loved ones who suffered with addictive patterns from heroin and alcohol to sex and other substance use disorders, she also suffered with multiple forms of both addictive and co-addictive patterns herself.   When her 3rd marriage failed, she took a hard look at her life, came to understand she would never find inner peace and happiness unless she took a deep dive into her own recovery. She became educated, mentored and coached by the best of the best in the mental health, relationship, recovery and treatment world. She learned proven tools and strategies, acquired numerous certifications, in communication, complimentary masculine/feminine relationship strategies, in the recovery and treatment field and as a licensed minister. Now Andrea uses her training and experiences with it all, to create a very fulfilling career as a family recovery and relationship coach for parents, couples and families. (Bio via andreaarlington.com)   We dive into the following topics… - How the boundaries I set with my Mom changed our relationship for the better - Why we use an approach of connection not control - Family systems and how ego states can impact these relationships - How to communicate and set boundaries so you can live your best life! - How unmet needs can fuel unhealthy behaviors and relationships - Why people become narcissistic and how parenting impacts this - The 4-types of child archetypes and how these present in adults - and so much more!       This episode is brought to you by Organifi. To purchase high-quality, plant-based nutrition, head to organifi.com/reality for 15% off any item in store!   This episode is brought to you by Athletic Greens. Visit athleticgreens.com/reality to get a FREE year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs!   This episode is brought to you by minted. Get 20% off your first order of unique save the dates and invitations by going to minted.com/reality!   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.alorecovery.com   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today I am sitting down for a solo episode where I answer your questions. In this Q+A, I dive into the following topics… - Why I decided to get the Pfizer COVID vaccination and taking a balanced, holistic approach to medical care - How to navigate relationships when you are at different places of self-awareness and growth - My current struggle with my relationship with food and exercise - An update on our adoption journey! - How to deal with comparing yourself to others on social media - Dealing with shaming from family members - How trauma induced ADD/ADHD develops and why our society’s schooling system doesn’t support these children   Mentioned in episode… - Celebrating Body Diversity with Sarah Landry (The Birds Papaya) - Call-In Show W/ Sarah Nicole Landry (The Birds Papaya) - Ep. 57 Navigating the body positivity space with Katie Willcox - Scattered Minds by Dr. Gabor Mate         Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   www.Upstart.com/REALITY to find out how Upstart can lower your monthly payments today www.Organifi.com/REALITY with code REALITY for 15% off any item in the store And Download Best Fiends FREE today on the Apple App Store or Google Play   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, I am joined by Marianne Williamson. Marianne is a bestselling author, political activist and spiritual thought leader.   For over three decades Marianne has been a leader in spiritual and religiously progressive circles. She is the author of 14 books, four of which have been #1 New York Times best sellers. A quote from the mega best seller A Return to Love, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure…” is considered an anthem for a contemporary generation of seekers.   Williamson founded Project Angel Food  a non-profit that has delivered more than 13 million meals to ill and dying homebound patients since 1989. The group was created to help people suffering from the ravages of HIV/AIDS. They have since expanded their service to any person battling critical illness. She has also worked throughout her career on poverty, anti-hunger and racial reconciliation issues. She has advocated for reparations for slavery since the 1990’s and was the first candidate in the 2020 presidential primary season to make it a pillar of her campaign. In 2004, she co-founded The Peace Alliance and supports the creation of a U.S. Department of Peace. In addition, she advocates for a cabinet level Department of Children and Youth to adequately address the chronic trauma of millions of American children. (Bio via Marianne.com)   We dive into the following topics… - The connection between spirituality and politics - Our purpose as humans to love others above all else - The widespread prevalence of childhood traumas in America - How ineffective and classist the American economy is and how we can shift this - So much more!   Read Lost Connections by Johann Hari   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   And for your FREE year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs, visit www.AthleticGreens.com/REALITY    Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, I am joined by Dr. Will Bulsiewicz (@theguthealthmd). Dr. Bulsiewicz, MD MSCI, is a graduate of Georgetown University School of Medicine. He trained in internal medicine at Northwestern Memorial Hospital and gastroenterology at The University of North Carolina Hospitals. He also earned a Master of Science in Clinical Investigation (MSCI) from Northwestern University and a certificate in nutrition from Cornell University. Dr. Bulsiewicz is board-certified in internal medicine and gastroenterology.   Dr. B. is a respected clinician and the recipient of numerous awards. At Northwestern, he received the highest award in his residency program (Rambach Award), was elected into the Alpha Omega Alpha honor society, and was Chief Medical Resident. At UNC, he once again received the highest clinical award and was Chief Gastroenterology Fellow.   Dr. B also has an accomplished background in research, with more than 20 scientific articles published and more than 40 presentations at national meetings. He also did advanced training at the UNC - Gillings School of Public Health and received a prestigious grant from the National Institutes of Health. (Bio via Lowcounty Gastroenterology)   We dive into the following topics… - What is the microbiome and what you need to know about it - Alexis’ daily diet + paleo lifestyle to support her autoimmune health - How trauma can influence gut health and the microbiome - Dr. B’s career path + what led him to help others heal their guts - Navigating physical health post-eating disorder recovery   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   www.Sakara.com/REALITY for 20% off your first order!   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, I am joined by AJ McLean. AJ is a close personal friend as well as a songwriter, actor, dancer, model, and member of the Backstreet Boys.   We dive into the following topics… - AJ’s family life, parental relationships, and - His first stint of sobriety from 2001-2007 and perspective on recently reaching 1 year of sobriety - The causes of his alcoholism and how his fame and fast-paced lifestyle impacted his addiction - How not having a father figure in childhood impacted AJ’s adult life - Dealing with insecurity and his recent boost in confidence   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   www.Upstart.com/Reality to find out how you can lower your monthly payments today. And download Best Fiends on the Apple App Store or Google Play   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, I am joined by Bob Forrest and Evan Haines. Bob and Evan are co-founders of Alo House Recovery Centers, a holistic, non-12-step rehab facility. Both former addicts, Bob and Evan have extensive experience in the recovery field and are experts in the compassionate care model.   We dive into the following topics… - Calling things into existence, manifestation, and the law of attraction - If therapists without addiction experience have a place in drug treatment and how they can utilize empathy and evidence based practices to increase effectiveness in modern treatment - Navigating weed addiction and getting sober without hitting a “rock-bottom” - Setting healthy boundaries with family members - How profoundly divorce can impact children and their mental health - Coparenting with a spouse in active addiction and how gender differences impact this - Evan and Bob’s upcoming book—America is Addiction           Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, I am joined by Kat Von D  Kat is a tattoo artist, model, entrepreneur, and television personality. She appeared on LA Ink as a tattoo artist beginning in 2007. Since then she founded and ran Kat Von D Beauty. (Bio adapted from Wikipedia)   We dive into the following topics… - Kat’s childhood and what lead to her addiction and now 14 years of sobriety - Navigating the feeling of not belonging - How parenting changes across generations - The importance of self-accountability - The impact of the pandemic and lockdowns on mental health and using service to combat this - Parenting and being in a relationship while sober - Motherhood and birth - Navigating public criticism and backlash on parenting and lifestyle choices       Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, I am joined by Johann Hari. Johann is the author of two New York Times best-selling books. His first, ‘Chasing the Scream: the First and Last Days of the War on Drugs’, is currently being adapted into a major Hollywood film by Oscar-winning director Lee Daniels, and into a non-fiction documentary series. His most recent book, ‘Lost Connections: Uncovering The Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions’ is being translated into 28 languages and has been praised by a very broad range of people, from Oprah to Hillary Clinton to Tucker Carlson, from Elton John to Naomi Klein to Glenn Greenwald. It was described by the British Journal of General Practice as “one of the most important texts of recent years”, and shortlisted for an award by the British Medical Association.   We dive into the following topics… - Johann’s profound work with depression and addiction research - The influence of our environment on our mental health and functioning - How we as a society can move towards a place of improved mental health - Stepping away from your ego when pursuing happiness - Sitting in the discomfort of pain to work towards acceptance and understanding - So much more!           Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   This episode is brought to you by Kin Euphorics. Head to kineuphorics.com/reality or 15% off PLUS free shipping on your order of non-alcoholic beverages.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, I am joined by Sadie Sutton. Sadie is a 17-year-old high school senior from the Bay Area. After receiving a year and a half of intensive treatment for severe depression and anxiety, she was inspired to share her story with fellow teens going through their own personal growth. She is the host of She Persisted, a podcast offering impactful and inspirational interviews with subject matter experts, fellow teenagers, and social media personalities to break down the stigma surrounding mental health and inspire teens to create their life worth living. Sadie hopes to major in psychology in college and pursue a career in clinical psychology to further her impact in the mental health field.   We dive into the following topics… - Overcoming severe depression and teenage behavioral modification programs - Experiencing mental health issues without having gone through extreme trauma - Putting on a front to mask mental health issues and the further suffering that develop as a result - Self-harming as a call for help - Residential treatment and depression recovery - The importance of family work when a loved one goes to rehab or mental health treatment - and more!   Mentioned in this week’s episode… - The Dark Side of Teen Behavioral Modification Programs with Sydney Montana - 3East McLean Hospital - Hold On to Your Kids by Gabor Maté MD         Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   This episode is brought to you by Kin Euphorics. Head to kineuphorics.com/reality or 15% off PLUS free shipping on your order of non-alcoholic beverages.   This episode is brought to you by Osea Malibu. Head to oseamalibu.com/alexishaines for $10 off your first purchase of skincare products and receive free shipping for orders over $75.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today I am sitting down for a solo episode where I answer your questions. In this Q+A, I dive into the following topics… - Breaking the cycle of generational family trauma by creating holiday traditions - Maintaining your mental health during a pandemic and accepting our current reality - The importance of creating space in our lives to feel good - How I spend my very limited free time - My holiday gift guide (reiki training, Cured products, Sophie and Lili mugs, crystal kits for the girls, Osea Malibu products, RFR Merch, Vintage Boho Bags, and Saxx boxers) - How to raise your vibration while doing shadow work - If I would do the Real Housewives - The first steps to take in your healing journey - Navigating postpartum anxiety and prescription anxiety medications   Visit www.KinEuphorics.com/REALITY for 15% off your order PLUS Free Shipping!   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, I am joined by Laura Day. Bestselling author Laura Day has spent three decades helping individuals, organizations, and companies use their innate intuitive abilities to create profound changes in their lives. Her work has helped demystify intuition and demonstrate its practical, verifiable uses in the fields of business, science, medicine and personal growth. She has trained thousands of people to use their brains and perceptions in effective ways including scientists, celebrities, business executives, and other professionals to realize their goals while creating supportive and inspiring communities. Laura has been featured in many publications including Newsweek, New York Magazine, The Independent, Bottom Line, Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, and People magazines. She speaks regularly both here and abroad, and has appeared on numerous shows including CNN, Fox News, Good Morning America, The View, and The Oprah Winfrey Show.   We dive into the following topics… - Laura’s career path as an intuit for Fortune 500 companies - Navigating being an empath and coping with painful challenges - Generational addiction and suicidal tendencies - Utilizing intuition as a tool to navigate the world - The importance of sitting in your discomfort - The measurable benefits of spiritual and energetic healing - Relying on intuition over objective research         Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   This week’s episode is brought to you by Osea Malibu. Visit www.oseamalibu.com/recovering to receive $10 off your first purchase of $50 dollars or more. FREE shipping for orders in the US over $75   This episode is brought to you by Nurish. Nurish is convenient, monthly subscription that delivers personalized nutritional supplements you need to be at your best. Head to nurish.naturemade.com to start your subscription today!   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, I am joined by Selin Esendagli who was diagnosed with breast cancer at age 23, during the COVID-19 lockdown.   We dive into the following topics… - Navigating health anxiety before and after receiving a diagnosis - The prevalence of breast cancer in the United States - How Selin shifted her mindset from avoidance to facing her recovery head-on - Moving on and coping with life after dramatic life changes and traumas - Sitting in the discomfort of waiting for treatment results - Finding virtual support via social media - Experiencing cancer treatment during a pandemic - Selin’s cancer treatment plan - Body dysmorphia as a result of a breast cancer diagnosis - The impact of a cancer diagnosis on a family system         Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   This episode is brought to you by Osea Malibu. Visit www.oseamalibu.com/recovering to receive $10 off your first purchase of $50 dollars or more. FREE shipping for orders in the US over $75   This episode is brought to you by Nurish. Nurish is convenient, monthly subscription that delivers personalized nutritional supplements you need to be at your best. Head to nurish.naturemade.com to start your subscription today!   This episode is brought to you by Himalaya Ashwagandha .For 20% off your first order of Himalaya Ashwagandha, use code “REALITY20” at checkout on amazon.com!   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, I am joined by Ryland Engelhart. Ryland is the Co-Founder and Executive Director of Kiss the Ground and is the producer of Kiss The Ground the Movie on Netflix. He has spent the last 15 years as an entrepreneur and love-activist, working in hospitality and building a family business of organic plant-based restaurants called Cafe Gratitude and Gracias Madre in Southern CA. He is also a co-creator of the award-winning, transformational documentary film, “May I Be Frank.” He is a catalyst of possibility with an infectious passion for life. He is a public speaker and community organizer and works to inspire more "love & gratitude" in his organizational culture and culture at large. He speaks on sacred commerce, gratitude, love as an inside job, 10 tools for building community, and regeneration, and is the host of Kiss the Ground's "We Can Do This Podcast.”   We dive into the following topics… - Rylands work on the Kiss The Ground the Movie - The benefits of nature on wellbeing and livelihood - The effects of climate change on wildfires and other natural disasters - How carbon actually functions in the natural world and its connection to global warming - The benefits of regenerative agriculture - The United States’ cultural approach to the agricultural industry and the harmful effects of these practices - The connection between soil health, plant health, and civilization health - How you can support the regenerative agricultural and soil health movements         Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   This episode is brought to you by Osea Malibu. Visit www.oseamalibu.com/recovering to receive $10 off your first purchase of $50 dollars or more. FREE shipping for orders in the US over $75   This episode is brought to you by Himalaya Ashwagandha .For 20% off your first order of Himalaya Ashwagandha, use code “REALITY20” at checkout on amazon.com!   This episode is brought to you by Nurish. Nurish is convenient, monthly subscription that delivers personalized nutritional supplements you need to be at your best. Head to nurish.naturemade.com to start your subscription today!   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, I am joined by Lindsey Metselaar. Lindsey is a native New Yorker, CEO of Lindsey's Lunchbox  and host of the popular dating podcast, We Met At Acme  After many dating experiences, Lindsey felt it was imperative to create this podcast and shed a light on this touchy subject. Since creating We Met At Acme, Lindsey has learned more about dating than she had ever hoped. On WMAA, she talks with experts, friends, celebrities, and people of all walks of life to learn about what their dating experience has been.   We dive into the following topics… - Lindsey’s experience with weed addiction and her path to sobriety - The impact of the 12 step program and recovery community on Lindsey and Alexis’ wellbeing - Navigating romantic relationships and sobriety - Lindsey’s perspective on dating during quarantine - The culture of motherhood and alcohol - Lindsey’s best tips for men and women navigating the dating world   Mentioned in this week's episode... - Getting to “I Do” by Dr. Pat Allen - We Met at Acme         Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   To improve your energy levels, sleep, and decrease the effects of blue light, head to blublox.com and use code “REALITY” for 15% off.   Go to woomoreplay.com and use code REALITY for 20% off your order of natural, convenient products to improve your sex life!   Improve your sleep with guided meditations, soundscapes, and more by going to calm.com/reality and receive 40% off your subscription!   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, I am doing a solo Q+A where I dive into the following topics… - Self-sabotaging in relationships with family member and friends - My crystal recommendations (smokey quartz, clear quartz, rose quartz, amethyst, selenite, black turmaline, obsidian, red jasper, lapis lazuli, moldavite, and tiger’s eye to name a few) and how to cleanse your crystals - Connecting with your spirituality and my tips for embarking on your own religious journey - Navigating your recovery and a career - Working through shame surrounding addiction recovery - Emotional sensitivity and sitting in the discomfort of our current reality   Mentioned in this week's episode... - Sign up for the Sacred Sunday Newsletter on recoveringfromreality.com - RFR Merch - Loving Thyself Rocks on Etsy and Instagram - Neville Goddard: The Complete Reader - Agape International Spiritual Center - Science of Mind 365 by Ernest Holmes - How to Know God by Deepak Chopra - The Medicine Bag by Don Jose Ruiz - The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz - The Places that Scare You       Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   This week’s episode is brought to you by Osea Malibu. Visit www.oseamalibu.com/recovering to receive $10 off your first purchase of $50 dollars or more. FREE shipping for orders in the US over $75   Recent podcast discount codes… - https://www.curednutrition.com and enter code “ALEXIS25” for 25% off your order - thrivemarket.com/reality to start your membership and get a free gift today! - woomoreplay.com and use code REALITY for 20% off your order - calm.com/reality and receive 40% off your subscription - sakara.com/reality for 20% off your first order! - blublox.com and use code “REALITY” for 15% off. - hellorory.com/reality to get a free doctor’s consultation and your order for just $5!   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, I am joined by my sister Gabrielle Hames to discuss the profoundly spiritual experience of her recent birth where I was her doula.   In this episode, we dive into the following topics… - Gabrielle's birth story from contractions to postpartum recovery - The contrasts between midwifery care and OB/GYN care - Navigating family relationships during the birthing process - Coping with birth complications as a mother and doula - Eating your placenta post-birth and the associated health benefits - Connecting with your newborn and dealing with the anxiety when you don’t - How you can help support a new mother post-birth   Mentioned in this week's episode... - The Business of Being Born - PUSH Midwifery - Birth, Babies and Circumcision with Robyn Pool from PUSH Midwifery     Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   To improve your energy levels, sleep, and decrease the effects of blue light, head to blublox.com and use code “REALITY” for 15% off.   Visit www.Thrivemarket.com/REALITY to receive a FREE gift of your choosing, up to $24 in value when you start your risk-free membership today.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, I am joined by Vanessa Fitzgerald. Vanessa is a health coach, natural foods chef, yoga teacher, and overall wellness wizard. Learning to eat the right foods for her body has changed her life, and she’s passionate about helping her clients achieve this change. Vanessa can personally attest to the power of proper nutrition to heal. She’s been an advocate of its healing capabilities since the age of 14, when she eliminated her acne by changing her diet. At 19, she was diagnosed with Celiac disease and Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS). Doctors prescribed several kinds of medication for symptoms like weight gain, depression, lethargy, and acne. But again, she found a solution through nutrition. By learning to manage her sugar intake, she erased her symptoms, making most of her prescriptions unnecessary. After attending NYU as an undergrad, Vanessa studied yoga at the Bikram Yoga College of India and received her teaching certification. Still, her pursuit of wellness and nutrition remained a pastime. She started a career in real estate, but found herself more interested in what was in homeowners’ refrigerators. Before long, they were asking for her advice on nutrition. It was clear that the passion she’d discovered as a teen was her true calling. Vanessa enrolled in the Institute for Integrative Nutrition. Upon graduation, she began working as a private health coach in New York City. Her practice is characterized by a focus on the individual; as she says, “it’s not one-size-fits-all.” She works with each client to create a wellness plan designed to enhance every aspect of life. After all, her theory is that everything must be done with moderation—even including moderation itself. (Bio via vfwellness.com) In this episode we dive into topics like: - Alexis’ experience with and Vanessa’s expertise on nutritional response testing - Understanding that healing is a lifelong process and not a short-term journey - Why kombucha and probiotics may not be helping your gut health - The short-term and long-term effects of antibiotics on your body - Vanessa’s experiences with ADD/Adderall and its impacts on the body - The inflammatory effects of of food dies and other additives - A holistic approach to healthcare   Mentioned in this week’s episode: - Grain Brain by David Perlmutter M.D. - SOTO-USA.COM - PUR water filter - Alive Water - Mountain Valley Water - Bellicon Trampolines - Higher Dose   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings, and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve.     Go to hellorory.com/reality to try out nightly defense and get a free doctor’s consultation and your order for just $5!   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week's episode, I am joined by Caroline Calloway  Caroline is a 27-year-old Instagram influencer known for her lengthy captions and unique posts. She came into the public eye during her time at Cambridge University and again when the I Was Caroline Calloway article was released in The Cut by her former friend Natalie Beach. In this episode we dive into topics like: - Dealing with online shaming and hate on the internet - Caroline’s childhood trauma and her experiences growing up with a mentally ill parent, verbal abuse, and the recent suicide of her father - Caroline’s struggle with her Adderall addiction and the enabling lifestyle she was living - The impact of privilege (racial, economic, etc) on addiction - The complexity of Caroline’s relationship with Natalie and their writing careers - Pop-culture scandals in Caroline and Alexis’ lives   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings, and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve.   To improve your energy levels, sleep, and decrease the effects of blue light, head to blublox.com and use code “REALITY” for 15% off.   Go to woomoreplay.com and use code REALITY for 20% off your order of natural, convenient products to improve your sex life!   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, I am joined by Susan Burton. Susan is an activist and the founder of A New Way of Life (@anewwayoflifela on Instagram.) She is based in Los Angeles and works with formerly incarcerated people who have been through similar experiences to her own. In 2010, she was named a CNN Hero and two years later, a Purpose Prize winner. (Bio abbreviated from Wikipedia) In this episode we dive into topics like: - Susan’s life story and her experiences with poverty, losing her son in an accident involving a policeman, drug and alcohol addiction, imprisonment, and more - Processing through grief and resulting addiction - A New Way of Life: Susan’s organization which works to provide housing and support to formerly incarcerated woman - The racial bias that underlies the criminal justice system - Alexis’ experience during her imprisonment and her reflection on her white privilege in that environment - The challenge women face to regain custody of their kids after imprisonment   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings, and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve.   10% of all Recovering From Reality merchandise sales will be going to support A New Way of Life. Get your merch at recoveringfromreality.com/merch   Visit curednutrition.com and use code ALEXIS25 for 25% off your order today! Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week’s episode I am joined by Arielle Lorre  Arielle is a lifestyle, wellness, and health influencer in the digital space.  Six years ago, that was far from the case. After nearly losing her battle against addiction, Arielle decided to turn her life around by relentlessly pursuing health and happiness. She is now the host of The Blonde Files. (bio abbreviated from theblondefiles.com)   In this episode we dive into topics like: - our favorite skincare products and recommendations - the foods and supplements we recommend for balancing your hormones - our perspective on taking ADHD stimulants while going through recovery - the best pieces of advice we’ve been giving and the advice we’d give our younger selves - likes and dislikes when dating older men - navigating dating and sobriety   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings, and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve.   Improve your sleep with guided meditations, soundscapes, and more by going to calm.com/reality and receive 40% off your subscription!   Go to woomoreplay.com and use code REALITY for 20% off your order of natural, convenient products to improve your sex life!   To support local communities, enjoy clean, organic products, and easily order diet-friendly groceries, go to thrivemarket.com/reality to start your membership and get a free gift today!   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this weeks episode I am joined by Zara Barrie (@zarabarrie). Zara Barrie is a writer who has been pouring her heart out and offering up heaps of advice to girls across the great expanse of the internet for over a decade. She was a wildly popular teen blogger notorious for her angst-ridden detailed accounts of her hard-partying weekends, her melodramatic adolescent depression, and her screwy relationship with food. For college, she attended California Institute of The Arts where she studied theatre. She haphazardly fell into a professional writing career when she scored a job as Senior Writer at the ever-popular digital publication, Elite Daily. At Elite Daily, Zara starred in, produced and wrote a popular original web-series “Lez Get You Laid: Sex and Dating Advice To Men From A Lesbian” and hosted a weekly live advice show for the publication. Zara has recently launched her own bad girl wellness site: "The Dirty Beauty." She writes a weekly column for GO Magazine and is the cohost of DNR's popular weekly radio show AnxieTEA Radio. Her bevy of viral essays and videos are regularly discussed in mainstream media outlets such as; The View, The Real, The Talk, Huffington Post, Cosmo, Refinery29, Bustle, and Elite Daily. She's on the squad of influencers for Samsung, and hosts events with celebrities and artists in their exclusive meatpacking district space. She's a founding board member of The Stonewall Inn Gives Back Initiative, a powerful non-profit that focuses on empowering the underserved LGBTQ youth in rural America. She identifies as a mascara lesbian and lives beyond her means in New York. (Bio via zarabarrie.com)   In this episode we dive into topics like: - The millennial perspective on the evolution of self-exploration and mental health - Zara’s new book, Girl, Stop Passing Out in Your Makeup - The male attention that accompanies puberty - Identifying as lesbian and processing sexual trauma caused by men - Zara’s story of sexual abuse, her career path, self-medicating, eating struggles, OCD, and more - Working through trauma in therapy and the lifelong journey to recovery - The importance of creative expression - The effects of sharing your mental health story publicly - Zara and Alexis' perspective on sexuality and the empowerment it gives you   Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings, and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve.   Go to hellorory.com/reality to try out nightly defense and get a free doctor’s consultation and your order for just $5!   Visit curednutrition.com and use code ALEXIS for 15% off your order today!   Head over to sakara.com/reality for 20% off your first order!   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, I’m joined by Kara Lowentheil, the host of UnF*ck Your Brain. Kara attended Yale University where she received her BA in English and Literature before graduating from Harvard Law School to practice as a women’s rights lawyer. She now works as a Master Certified Coach and uses a combination of evolutionary psychology, cognitive science, and feminist theory to teach women how to literally rewire their brains to create confidence, self-love, and the courage to create the lives they truly want to live. You can find Kara on Instagram at @karalowentheil.   In this episode, we dive into the following topics... - Kara’s career path from prestigious lawyer to life coach - Navigating the discomfort that comes with taking a risk - Reworking the sexist messages projected on us by society - Imposter syndrome in thew workplace - A breakdown of subconscious belief systems - The judgments and attachments we place on neutral events and interactions     Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings, and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve.   To enjoy refreshing, low-calorie drinks that support sobriety in America, go to cleancause.com and use code "REALITY" at checkout for 20% off your order.   To improve your energy levels, sleep, and decrease the effects of blue light, head to blublox.com and use code “REALITY” for 15% off.   For 20% off your first order of Himalaya Ashwagandha, use code “REALITY20” at checkout on amazon.com!   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, I am joined by Dr. Kyl Myers, a sociologist, award-winning educator, and a globally-recognized advocate for Gender Creative Parenting. Since 2016, Kyl has been speaking and writing about Gender Creative Parenting and using their own parenting story to help the world learn about and embrace a new type of childhood. Kyl is genderqueer, uses they/them and she/her pronouns, and lives in Salt Lake City, Utah. You can find Kyl’s musings and bite-size gender studies lessons on Instagram @kyl_myers (bio abbreviated from kylmyers.com)   In this episode, we dive into the following topics... - Kyl’s experience identifying as queer in a heterosexual appearing marriage - Kyl’s perspective as a gender-creative parent - Alexis’ experience coming to terms with her bisexuality while in a heterosexual relationship - how gender disparity affects all genders - Sex (anatomical and physiological characteristics regarding sexual reproduction) vs. gender (identity and expression) - Navigating parenting decision and gender identity with extended family members - Gender terminology   Mentioned in this week's episode... - Kyl’s TedX Talk - Bethany Meyers’ Instagram @bethanycmeyers - Ashlee Marie Preston’s Instagram @ashleemariepreston - Raising Them: Our Adventure in Gender Creative Parenting by Kyl Myers     Follow Alexis (@itsalexishaines), join our Facebook group, and follow @recoveringfromreality on Instagram to stay up to date on all things RFR! You can also enroll in Alexis’ Life Reset Course at liferesetcourse.com to learn the exact, tools to recover from limiting and self- sabotaging beliefs, thoughts, emotions, feelings and behaviors and replace them with new ones that will set you up for the life you deserve and are fully capable of as you integrate the learnings and tools in your life.   Go to hellorory.com/reality to try out nightly defense and get a free doctor’s consultation and your order for just $5!   To enjoy refreshing, low-calorie drinks that support sobriety in America, go to cleancause.com and use code "REALITY" at checkout for 20% off your order.   Visit curednutrition.com and use code ALEXIS25 for 25% off your order today!   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, I am joined by Syd Wilder. Syd Wilder is an actress, model, writer, and digital influencer. She grew up in Marietta, GA as your average fat kid with high cholesterol and a boy’s haircut. Luckily, puberty hit her like a freight train and a few years later she grew out her hair and traded coasts in favor of Los Angeles.  Syd has carved her own path in the comedy world with her ditzy, dark and devilish sense of humor. She’s written, produced, and starred in original sketches that have amassed over 60 million views across multiple digital platforms such as: Funny or Die, College Humor, and Huffington Post.  She has appeared on Tosh.0 (Comedy Central), Men at Work (TBS), and recently the feature film Laid In America released by Universal.  Syd’s modeling has been featured in Maxim, FHM, and Sports Illustrated. She was named Ask Men’s Top 99 Crush List of 2016 and Playboy’s Top 10 Hottest YouTuber’s of 2015. She’s also frequently asked by her family members to post photos wearing more clothing, which she’s actively working on. She won a Hollywood Comedy Shorts award for her original web series, Fab Life Teresa XO. The same series was also screened at the prestigious Holly Shorts Festival. Syd describes herself as a glamorous goofball who loves to push the envelope with her cynically optimistic comedy. She continues to create online content and original characters for her social platforms. Syd enjoys dancing when she has free time and she will always have a special place in her heart for the awkward fat kid.   In this episode, we dive into the following topics... - Eating disorders and Syd's experience with bulimia - Abusive relationships and recovering from that trauma - Alexis and Syd's marriages and Syd's divorce - Narcissism and being in a relationship with a narcissist - Getting cheated on and the emotional recovery that follows - Parenting an addict - Alternatives to chemical intervention for mental health issues   Mentioned in this week's episode... - The Power of Vulnerability by Brené Brown - Syd's Podcast: Girl Insta-rupted - How to Spot a Dangerous Man by Sandra L. Brown - Alo Recovery - Alexis' episode on Syd's podcast   For delicious, healthy meals designed to improve your wellness, head to sakara.com/reality for 20% off!   To enjoy refreshing, low-calorie drinks that support sobriety in America, go to cleancause.com and use code "REALITY" at checkout for 20% off your order.   Improve your sleep with guided meditations, soundscapes, and more by going to calm.com/reality and receive 40% off your subscription!   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week's episode I am joined by Ruthie Lindsey. At seventeen years old, Ruthie was hit by an ambulance outside of a gas station in rural Louisiana. She broke her neck, punctured her lungs, and ruptured her spleen. Doctors performed a spinal cord fusion using wire and miraculously, she walked out of the hospital within a month. Only a few years later, newly married and settling into adulthood, a simple turn of her head left her body riddled with chronic pain. Her case confounded medical professionals and in the months that followed, she became addicted to narcotic painkillers, depressed, and bedridden. After dozens of visits to specialists and surgeons, a doctor discovered that the wire holding her neck together was piercing her brain stem. Without another surgery, she would be paralyzed. As she prepared for the procedure, her father passed away suddenly, her marriage began to collapse, and she surrendered her spirit to dependency and suffering. The surgery repaired her spine but she still felt broken, inside and out, until she chose to change her narrative. Ruthie went home to the same town where she almost lost her life. She decided to learn joy again, to retrain her spirit to soothe her physical pain, to salvage strength from her suffering. She traded fentanyl for sunsets and morphine for picking wildflowers on the side of the road. Ruthie stopped using her body as a hiding place and started using it as her bridge to connect with the world. Now a speaker, author, podcast host, and social media figure, Ruthie travels the globe sharing her story, empowering others to find purpose in their pain and to look for beauty in the midst of their brokenness. Her new memoir, There I Am: The Journey from Hopelessness to Healing is available now.   In this episode, we dive into topics like:   - Near-death experiences  - How physical pain turns into emotional pain - Addiction to prescribed medication - Divorce  - The tragic loss of her father  - The brain's way of coping with trauma  - Owning our recovery journeys  - The importance of joy  - How we always have been and always will be perfect, whole and worthy    To support local communities, enjoy clean, organic products, and easily order diet-friendly groceries, go to thrivemarket.com/reality to start your membership and get a free gift today!   For amazingly comfortable sheets head to brooklinen.com and use code REALITY for 10% off your first order AND free shipping!   Go to woomoreplay.com and use code REALITY for 20% off your order of natural, convenient products to improve your sex life!   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week I am joined by Jess and Bekah from the Chatty Broads Podcast. We dive into so many great topics like motherhood in quarantine, living with bi-polar disorder, mental health, our birth stories and the importance of making informed decisions and maintaining bodily autonomy in the birthing process. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week's episode, I am joined by Ziwe Fumudoh, an American comedian and comic writer based in Brooklyn who is notable for her saucy and sarcastic commentary on politics, race, and young adulthood. (NY Times) She attended Phillips Academy in Andover and Northwestern University, where she studied poetry, film, and African-American studies. Her comedy career began as an intern for Comedy Central, and a year later she wrote for The Onion and The Rundown with Robin Thede. Currently, She is a writer on the show Desus and Mero. She has a show on YouTube entitled Baited With Ziwe in which she has her white friends as guests on the show and she baits them into making unwitting racial faux pas. Every month she appears in a show that she created at Brooklyn's Union Hall entitled Pop Show in which she performs original pop songs. A reviewer in Forbes magazine wrote that she has the "confidence of an old comedy pro”. (via ZiweFumudoh.com) In this episode, we dive into topics like: - Cancel culture - Shame vs. guilt and how you. deal with them - Beauty standards - Allyship - Politics Mentioned in this week's episode - Ziwe's IG Live show feat. Alexis - Vulture's recap of Ziwe interviewing Alexis - Ziwe's website, Instagram (@ziwef), and Twitter (@ziwe) - Listen to Ziwe's music on every platform   www.sakara.com/REALITY for 20% off your first order!   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this part q+a, part call-in episode, I answer questions about...   Sexuality and identifying as bisexual Romantic relationships  Discussing addiction with children Spirituality (Christianity, prayer, mindfulness, etc) Making amends and reconciling past relationships  Reparenting addiction shame Confidence and self-esteem Setting priorities Financial crisis and recovery Helping a friend who’s in active addiction Mentioned in this week’s episode Ep. 25 Wake Up B*tch It’s 2019 with Laganja Estranja How to Know God by Deepak Chopra M.D. Neville Goddard: The Complete Reader The Places That Scare You by Pema Chödrön Science of Mind 365 by Ernest Holmes The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle A New Earth by Ekhart Tolle Agape Spiritual Center’s Facebook Dirty Genes by Ben Lynch Lost Connections by Johann Hari I thought it was just me (but it isn’t) by Brené Brown The Power of Vulnerability by Brené Brown Ep. 77 Having a Money Mentality Makeover with Amanda Frances Beyond Addiction by Jeffery Foote In the Realm Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Maté Chasing the Scream by Yohann Hari   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jess and Kate met working in a bar together... eventually the two got sober and joined forces to start the Seltzer Squad podcast to create a community for those seeking and maintaining sobriety. Today we are diving in to discuss our individual paths towards sobriety and what has and has not worked out for us. Thrive Market: visit www.thrivemarket.com/REALITY for $20 off Osea Malibu: visit www.oseamalibu.com/recovering for $10 off Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Shaman Durek is a 6th generation shaman, author of best seller "Spirit Hacking: Shamanic Keys to Reclaim Your Personal Power, Transform Yourself, and Light Up the World," and a visionary for the Now Age. His focus is on the evolution of humanity and simplifying our lives through common sense. He’s redefining what wellness means by putting the power back in peoples’ hands so that they can consciously live their lives authentically and in alignment. Through his powerful ancient teachings he helps demystify spirituality making it attainable and understandable for the mainstream audience. Durek’s teachings have impacted thousands of people from diverse public figures like Nina Dobrev and Gwyneth Paltrow to tech giants like Dave Asprey of Bulletproof Coffee.  Durek’s online Shaman School and widely popular show Ancient Wisdom Today are instrumental in helping people tap into their personal power and unblocking any negative patterns that keep them from reaching optimal human performance. In this weeks episode we are diving into Durek’s path in shamanhood, he challenges me on a few limiting belief systems, we talk about healing from abuse and about the great shift that is happening on the planet right now. www.OseaMalibu.com/Recovering  Use code “reality” for $10 off your first purchase of $50 or more www.ThriveMarket.com/Reality  use code reality for $20 off your first order Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week’s episode, I am joined by Marlee Liss, who confronted her rapist through restorative justice. Marlee is a leader in personal healing, a public speaker, and advocate for healing restorative justice. Marlee chose to sit down and confront her rapist through restorative justice, rather than go through with a trial. She is the first to tell you that this method isn’t for everyone, but there is so much to learn from her journey.    In this episode, she shares her extremely profound story and we discuss: overcoming internalized objectification culture holding people accountable and having empathy for them the difference between shame and guilt what it meant for her to hear her rapist take ownership and apologize what it means to reclaim your sexuality how to heal from sexual trauma, and the role of forgiveness in healing teaching our children about sexual abuse creating consent culture through integration   You can follow Marlee Liss on Instagram at: @marleeliss and visit www.marleeliss.com to learn more.   Books mentioned: Until We Reckon by Danielle Sered Kids books: This is My Body, Red Flag Feelings   Another episode that ties in with today’s topics: Episode 57 with Katie Wilcox   You can follow along with us on Instagram: @recoveringfromreality @itsalexishaines @liferesetcourse     This week's episode is brought to you by: Green Chef:      If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.alorecovery.com   Produced  by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jeff Epstein (yes, that’s his real name) is a podcast host, pop culture fanatic and one of my dear friends who is known for his viral instagram account where he makes the best memes. Jeff is also a recovering heroin addict having used from the age of 17 until finally getting sober at 26. Now 2 1/2 years sober, he is here to share his story which includes arrests, several stints in jail and multiple overdoses, having sex with lots of girls despite being totally gay, along with his take on all things pop culture. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Biet Simkin is a global meditation leader. She is called the “Lady Gaga of Meditation” as she combines modern principles, pop culture, and spirituality into her meditation practice and teachings. Biet has overcome so much in her life - from the death of her parents and daughter, to the ups and downs of the music industry, as well as overcoming addiction. I learned so much from her book, Don't Just Sit There!: 44 Insights to Get Your Meditation Practice Off the Cushion and Into the Real World, and I’m so grateful to have her on the podcast this week.   This episode is filled with riffs on mortality, getting sober, incorporating meditation into our daily lives, facing our mortality without fear, and what it means to be on the path to enlightenment.    In this podcast we discuss: Overcoming adversity Sobriety Finding and choosing peace no matter what is going on in our lives or the world around us Hidden childhood trauma and how it affects our path to enlightenment Divided attention versus fascinated attention What it means to walk the spiritual path Coming to terms with and facing our mortality without fear A mini Q&A about meditation: best times, lengths, and the meaning of boredom   You can follow Biet on Instagram at: @guidedbybiet   You can follow along with us on Instagram: @recoveringfromreality @itsalexishaines @liferesetcourse     This week's episode is brought to you by: Osea Malibu: Visit www.oseamalibu.com/recovering to receive $10 off your first purchase of $50 dollars or more. FREE shipping for orders in the US over $75     If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.alorecovery.com   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today I am joined by Amanda Frances, a self-made multimillionaire. Amanda has created courses and been a life coach over the past nine years, empowering others to remove their limiting beliefs surrounding money in order to receive the abundance they deserve. My mom and I have taken two of her courses, including Money Mentality Makeover, and I’m so excited for you to hear some of what she has to share. In this episode, we talk about what it means to be an energetic match for what we want, removing judgement and the ideas surrounding whether money is good or bad, and how spirituality plays a role in what we receive. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week’s episode, I am joined with Taylor Nolan. Taylor is a psychotherapist, the host of “Let’s Talk about It” podcast, contestant on season 21 of The Bachelor, and winner of season 4 of Bachelor in Paradise.  We have a profound conversation about racism and current affairs in the US, substance use disorder, sexuality, and why finding a good sex therapist is important. This weeks episode is brought to you by Thrive Market. Visit Thrivemarket.com or download the app and use code “Reality” for $20 off your first order Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jessica Kent is a fellow ex-con who went Youtube viral when she shared a video about being pregnant and giving birth in prison. For months I have had requests to sit down with Jessica and have her share her story. I think as a society we have evolved in so many ways in regards to openly speaking about our addictions or mental health. But, when it comes to being a felon, I find most people instantly change their views about you when they find out that you’ve been to prison. I haven’t shared much about my experience in jail on the podcast before and I plan on doing it more now. In this podcast we discuss: - Giving birth in prison -Addiction -Childhood trauma -How poverty plays a role in the privilege debate -Bail reform -Systemic Racism -Mass incarceration -How difficult it is to rebuild your life as a felon   You can follow Jessica on Youtube: Jessica Kent Or on Instagram at: @JesKen12   You can follow along with us on Instagram: @recoveringfromreality @itsalexishaines @liferesetcourse   If you or someone you know needs addiction treatment please visit www.alorecovery.com   Cured Nutrition: Visit curednutrition.com and use code ALEXIS25 at checkout for 25% off   Sakara Visit www.sakara.com and use code “reality’ for 20% off your order   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this weeks episode I am solo diving into topics like manifestation, clearing old subconscious programming, how the brain works, getting on the path to finding out who you truly are and my journey towards finding my worth. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today I am joined by Dr. Carder Stout, one of the therapists I met in treatment ten years ago. Carder worked at Sober Recovery Center, and he was one of my favorite therapists. I just passed nine years of sobriety, and it’s crazy to think I haven’t seen him for a decade. Dr. Carder introduced me to cognitive behavioral therapy, which changed my life. He has also written a book called Lost in Ghost Town, where he details his own struggle with addiction, finding supportive community, and dealing with his childhood trauma. In this episode, we talk about finding community in recovery, breaking generational trauma, our parenting styles and how we can move from shame and guilt to self-compassion. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Right now many of us are in a state of grief. We may have lost our jobs. We might be grieving the loss of any sense of normality. We may have lost a love one. Maybe we had to cancel major events, like a wedding, birthday party or funeral. Maybe we still haven’t grieved our past experiences. Now that the majority of us are stuck at home, we may feel old, unresolved issues bubbling up to the surface. And we are not alone- our children are grieving too. In this weeks episode grief expert and therapist Claire Bidwell Smith joins me on the podcast, where we discuss what grief is, the stages of healing, and how we can best move forward after covid.   If you enjoyed this episode you can learn more about Claire at www.clairebidwellsmith.com   you can always follow along with us on Instagram @recoveringfromreality or visit our website at www.recoveringfromreality.com   This weeks podcast sponsor is the amazing Cured Nutrition. To get some of the best CBD out there visit www.curednutrition.com and use code “ALEXIS25” at check out   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today I am sitting down with Laurise McMillian, a journalist and editor at Refinery29. Laurise runs Refinery29’s Unbothered Instagram account, a page that empowers strong millennial Black women just like her. I found out about Laurise from her killer Instagram posts called, “That’s Not It Sis,” where she teaches women how to best communicate in the workplace. In this episode, we dive into her background in journalism, how she got the job at Refinery29, what it’s like being a Black woman in the workforce, and how we can all become better allies to people of color. You can follow along with Laurise on Instagram @lauriseirl   Were so grateful for our sponsors visit www.sakara.com and use code “reality” at check out for 20% off and you can visit www.foursigmatic.com and use code “reality” for 15% off   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this weeks episode I am joined by Rising Woman founder Sheleana Aiyana. She is a spiritual psychologist who focuses on conscious relationship, shadow work, breath work and tantric practice. She had grown her community to over 1.6 million and if you follow her account you know why people love her work. Her writings hit deep. Her profound transformation from severe early childhood abuse to healing, will leave you feeling so inspired. Here is my favorite post of hers from last week, " Life isn't trying to break you down, it's trying to break you open."   You can follow along with Sheleana on instagram @sheleanaaiyana or @rising woman   You can follow along with Alexis @itsalexishaines or @recoveringfromreality   This weeks sponsor is the amazing Talk Space which is giving our listeners $100 of their first month with code ALEXIS25 at checkout   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Alyson Stoner is an actress, singer and dancer who has been featured in music videos like Missy Eliot’s ‘Work It’, on Disney shows such as Suite Life of Zach and Cody and movies such as Cheaper By the Dozen. As with many young child actors behind the scenes Alyson began to struggle with the pressure of her life. She began to become addicted to perfection. This quickly turned into an addiction and eventually she made the decision to get into treatment. Now, she lives life in a much different way. Her recovery is inspiring. She lives a minimalist lifestyle and creates her own content. In this weeks episode we are diving into topics like societal pressure, transactional love, overcoming eating disorders, regulating your trauma response, learning to manage depression and anxiety and the importance of compensating content creators.   You can follow along with Alyson on her new podcast, Simplexity. Or on Instagram @alysonstoner And you can always follow along with us on instagram @recoveringfromreality or online at www.recoveringfromreality.com   This weeks episode was brought to you by Thrive Market. Head over to www.thrivemarket.com/reality to receive up to $20 off your purchase today with a no-risk membership. And also, Four Sigmatic! Head over to www.foursigmatic.com and use code REALITY at checkout for  15% off your order of any of their delicious products.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, I have the ladies from the That’s So Retrograde Podcast joining me! Stephanie and Elizabeth are the OG podcasters, especially in the wellness world, and we have a conversation about how That’s So Retrograde began, tips for starting your own podcast, and what’s happening in the wellness world right now. We also talk about being your own health guru, modern vs. natural medicine, and how diet is for our health, not the look of our bodies.   Episode Highlights:  Astrology Tips for having a podcast and being authentic Healing yourself Privilege and appropriation in the wellness world Debunking misinformation about diet  Mental health and nutritional deficiencies Social media “influencers”    Where to Find Stephanie and Elizabeth:  Instagram: @ssimbari  @elizabethkott and @soretrograde And you can always follow along with us on instagram @recoveringfromreality or online at www.recoveringfromreality.com   Cured Nutrition: Visit www.curednutrition.com and use code “ALEXIS25” for 25% off your order of $50 or more. Sakara: Visit www.sakara.com and use “REALITY” for 20% off at checkout   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Sagan works at my treatment facility, Alo House Recovery Centers, and practices the mind-body connection modality when it comes to healing addiction and mental illness. The typical approach to psychiatry is failing many people. But thought leaders like Dr. Sagan are changing the community for the better. In this episode, we talk about medication vs. natural healing, chemical imbalances vs. environmental factors causing mental illness, learning to self-regulate our thoughts, repressed memories, and the flight or fight response.Dr. Sagan explains the difference between early childhood trauma and trauma later in life, and how that affects our nervous systems. She explains how our limbic systems are trained to react a certain way, and we need to learn to undo these responses. Having a supportive community really helps. We also talk about how to navigate repressed memories. Our brains are protecting us, but sometimes we need to work through these hard moments. I still have triggers, and have been through my own journey with psychiatric medication and TMS therapy. But thank God psychiatry and medication is an option.    Episode Highlights:  Self-regulation and mindfulness Chemical imbalances vs. environmental factors Psychiatric medication Early childhood trauma vs. stable childhood and addiction Flight or fight response Reparenting Book: Your Body Keeps The Score Healing from repressed memories Dr. Segan’s Mind Align Method  Visit Foursigmatic.com/Reality for 15% off your order! Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Kaley Patel is a Reiki Master, yoga instructor, and meditation teacher who specializes in EFT (emotional freedom technique). I can now add author to her resume, as her book titled, Burning Bright, comes out at the end of this month! When I sat down with Kelsey the whole “interview” went out the window as we instantly connected and began talking about our stories of how our emotional pain turned into physical pain and the deep and transformative experiences we’ve had as a result. You can find Kelsey on her website www.kelseyjpatel.com on Instagram @kelseyjpatel   You can follow along with me on www.recoveringfromreality.com or on Instagram @itsalexishaines and @recoveringfromreality   My Life Rest: How to Recover From Reality course is now available on my website for just $39 dollars a month   We are so grateful for this weeks sponsors which are: Talk Space- visit www.talkspace.com and enter code “ALEXIS25” at check out for $100 off your first month Four Sigmatic- visit www.foursigmatic.com/reality or use code REALITY at check out for 15% off your order   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, Evan and I recorded a Q&A for the podcast and over on Instagram live! You guys sent in a bunch of good questions, and we get deep into topics like addiction treatment, our personal recovery, relationships, and more.   We share our thoughts on medication assisted treatment, or using drugs like Suboxone to reduce the chance of overdose. We also talk about harm reduction, and ways we can support those who are active addicts. Make sure to educate yourself on this topic before forming an opinion.   We also answer a question about 12 Steps and how its community aspect is so beneficial. I dive into the reasons behind why people have addiction, and how we can do the work to get to the root of our traumas. Evan shares his past drugs of choice and if either of us get triggered to use.    As far as relationship questions, we talk about how to navigate marital conflict, our favorite things about each other, and our favorite memories. We also talk about our age difference and whether it affects us. Evan also answers if my past scared him!    Koparibeauty.com/Reality for 15% off your order   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, I have podcast host and reality TV enthusiast Danny Pellegrino joining me! Danny hosts Everything Iconic, where he talks about pop culture, and more recently, his mental health. Danny and I just met, but we have so much in common, and I am grateful for his time on this episode. I dish out details about Pretty Wild, my book, and the Nancy Jo meme, along with Danny’s perspective as a viewer. We also talk about Danny’s recovery from anxiety and depression, and ways we can cope with those emotions. I also touch on some LGBTQ+ matters and how we can fight stigma from loved ones. And of course, we have to get into reality TV, and whether or not Danny thinks I’d be a good Real Housewife of Orange County.   https://www.curednutrition.com/ with code: ALEXIS25 for 25% off your order of $50 or more. LaurelSprings.com/Reality for your waived registration fee.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, my husband Evan and I are bringing an episode to you guys while quarantined, or social distancing, in our home. We have made every effort possible to stay home, and hope you all stay safe and healthy during this global pandemic. Evan is forever calm, cool and collected, so I thought he'd be a great guest for these times. We talk about Evan’s addiction story, our relationship, marriage, and first impressions of each other, and his almost 15-year sobriety. We also talk about our treatment center, Alo House, and what’s happening in the treatment world. We know during this time of isolation, people can really struggle with mental health, so we are discussing how to handle that as well. Evan and I are highly sensitive and empathic people, as most who struggle with addiction are. We believe these empaths are truly the mystics, truth-tellers, and way-showers of our planet, and need to be properly cared for. They are not the crazy ones! Our mission with addiction treatment is to help show people their own power, and remove the stigma around suffering.  TheOuai.com with code: REALITY for 3 Free Samples with your order. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, I had a profound conversation with activist Ashlee Marie Preston. Ashlee is a proud black, transgender woman who is constantly advocating for LGBTQ+ youth and those who are struggling. She is now 8 years sober, and has the humility and kindness to share her story of recovery from childhood abuse, meth, prostitution and homelessness with us. Ashlee is now the messenger she has been waiting for her entire life, and I believe she is a messenger for all of us too. Ashlee grew up unsure of her gender identity in the conservative state of Kentucky. She shares her harrowing story of sexual abuse, being institutionalized as a child, and how her drug addiction began. She moved to California at 19, and found herself struggling to fit in. She was fired from her retail job for being trans and became homeless, without a shelter that would accept her and her trans identity.   On the streets, Ashlee resorted to sex work as a means of survival. She turned to substances to numb out and survive. It was finally Ashlee’s understanding of her relationship with God/universe, that brought her to the breaking point. She began recovery, and found her voice in activism through working with nonprofit organizations, and seeing how poorly people like her were being treated.   Everything that Ashlee thought made her broken and unworthy are now symbols of strength and beauty in her life. Without the work she’s done (in spirituality, sobriety, and service), she would not be helping people like she is today.    Koparibeauty.com/reality for 15% off your order TalkSpace.com with code ALEXIS25 for $100 dollars off   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I have an incredible conversation with Khalil Rafati about his miraculous turnover from a homeless, strung out addict to a sober millionaire helping thousands of lives every day. Khalil is the owner of SunLife Organics, a health food chain in California, and the author of I Forgot to Die, which details his childhood trauma, his battle with drug addiction, and how he came out the other side. Khalil has also known Evan and I for about a decade (which is insane), but it’s been amazing seeing how much we’ve all evolved. TheOuai.com with code REALITY to receive 3 Free Samples with your order! OseaMalibu.com/Recovering for a $10 off your first purchase of $50 or more, Free shipping on US orders of $75+ and free samples with every order! LaurelSprings.com/Reality for your Waived Registration Fee   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Tara Schuster is an author, playwright, and accomplished entertainment executive, currently serving as the Vice President of Talent and Development at Comedy Central. Tara’s first book, Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies: and Other Rituals to Fix Your Life from Someone Who has Been There, is being published by Penguin Random House and will release on February 18, 2020.  By the time Tara was in her late twenties, she was a rising TV executive who had worked for The Daily Show with Jon Stewart and helped launch Key & Peele to viral superstardom. By all appearances, she had mastered being a grown-up. But beneath that veneer of success, she was a chronically anxious, self-medicating mess. No one knew that her road to adulthood had been paved with depression, anxiety, and shame, owing in large part to her minimally parented upbringing. After drunk dialing her therapist on her 25th birthday, she knew she needed a wake-up call. We are diving in deep into what self care actually is…SURPRISE it isn’t a face mask! And giving you a break down of simple things that you can start implementing into your routine to make your life so much better.   You can follow along with Tara on instagram @taraschuster or visit her website www.taraschuster.com   Cured : visit www.curednutrition.com and use promo code “alexis25” at checkout for 25% off your purchase of $50.00 or more   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, I am joined by fashion stylist turned health and wellness enthusiast, Luke Storey. Luke and I met years ago on the set of a Marilyn Manson music video, where he was a stylist and I made a cameo, and I’ve been wanting him to come on the podcast for forever. Back then, I was still doing drugs, but Luke was 12 years sober. Luke has now been sober for over 20 years, and hosts a podcast called The Life Stylist, where he talks with all kinds of health and wellness experts to learn and help others heal. In this episode, we talk about Luke’s addiction and sobriety, biohacking, recovering with AA or other healing modalities, and how trauma physically manifests in our bodies. We also talk about Luke’s spiritual practice, how The Life Stylist was born, and his plans for 2020! I hope you guys enjoy this insightful conversation with Luke.   Cured Use code ‘ALEXIS25’ for 25% off orders $50.00 or more Oaui Use code ‘Reality' for three free travel size products Laurel Springs Use code ‘Reality’ to waive your registration fee   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Tana Mongeau is one of the biggest Youtubers in the world with nearly 6 million subscribers. She also has her own reality show on MTV, Tana Turns 21. But with all this fame at such a young age, Tana has dealt with her fair share of scandals. I really empathize with Tana. We have basically lived very parallel lives.  Growing up in a household with lots of chaos, leaving home at 16, and trying to make it big in Los Angeles, eventually takes its toll. Today, Tana is coming on the podcast to talk about her challenges, toxic relationship with her parents, her marriage and shortly there after, divorce and what it is really like to live with cameras in your face every single day. I really appreciate Tanas transparency and authenticity. You can find Tana on instagram: @tanamongeau Or on youtube: Tana Mongeau She’s also on twitter: @tanamongeau   This weeks awesome sponsors are: Kopari Beauty: Head to www.kopairbeauty.com/reality for 15% off your order Cured Nutrition: Talkspace: Go to www.talkspace.com and use code “ALEXIS25” for $100 dollars off your first month. Ouaii: Visit www.theouai.com *Use code: REALITY for 3 Free Samples with your order   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Katie Willcox is an author, public speaker and CEO of two companies. One of which is her blog, Healthy is the New Skinny and the other is her agency for curve models, Natural Models LA. Katie is coming on the podcast today to talk about the science behind why we are always so focused on our bodies, how corporations take advantage of us in order to sell their products, eating disorders, the body positivity movement and how we can start to navigate this space in a more thought provoking way. DailyHarvest.com Promo Code REALITY for $25 off your first box LiveHuman.com/Reality for 20% off your first purchase Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I recorded this episode on December 18, 2019, the day President Donald Trump was impeached. It was quite fitting that my guest was none other than host of the epic podcast, Mueller She Wrote. Thats right, none other than AG. AG is a government worker who must remain anonymous. Her position is unknown but it is said to be high up in a security department. She is also a comedian who started this podcast with two other female comedians. Each week they dish out the real deal news about what the f*ck is happening in our country. She is joining me today to discuss the impeachment, but more importantly what we need to do as citizens to heal our country.   Welcome to RFR Fam! Here is a special discount code for you: Cured Nutrition: Curednutrition.com Promo Code: ALEXIS25 for 25% off   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Venus Nicolino is the author of the best selling book.- Bad Advice: How to Survive & Thrive in an Age of Bullshit. She is also a TV doctor and bad ass mom to two boys. She is coming on the podcast today and were talking about all the bad advice that we’ve gotten over the years….Including yours! You submitted the bad advice you’ve gotten over the years and were diving in deep to pick apart the bad advice. CuredNutrition.com Promo Code: ALEXIS25 for 25% off your order of $50 or more Talkspace.com Promo Code: ALEXIS25 for $100 off your first month Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Zahara comes on the podcast today to discuss how we can transition away from our limiting beliefs and move into our authentic selves. We discuss how we both walked away from Alcoholics Anonymous, we discussed plant medicine, buddhism and spirituality, and the tools that are necessary for l one term recovery. DailyHarvest.com w/ Promo Code: REALITY for $25 off your first box KopariBeauty.com/reality for 15% off your order Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this weeks episode we are sitting down with Hunter Moreno. Hunter started working in LA after college shooting videos for YouTube starts like Tana Mongeau, Bella Thorne, and Mod Sun. A few years in, after struggling with his own mental health issues, he started on a new endeavor called ‘Make Sure Your Friends Are Okay’. We’re discussing mental health, addiction, ending stigmas and so much more in this episode.  Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this weeks episode I am sitting down to do a Q&A episode where I am answering live call in questions along with questions that you all submitted on the Recovering from Reality Instagram page. We are covering topics like: what to do when your loved one is in treatment, how to set boundaries, how to find a good therapist, how to overcome shame, manifestation, and how to deal with a quarter life crisis. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jackie Schimmel- Has from the Bitch Bible podcast joins me on the podcast today for a light hearted episode where we discuss resolutions, pop culture, podcasting and more! Visit DailyHarvest.com Promo Code: REALITY for $25 off your first box! Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Angelika Alana is a life coach who saw a need to create an online space for people to receive life tools who otherwise wouldn’t be able to afford a one on one coach. She is coming on the podcast today to share about how she developed her business. We are talking all things spirituality, tools, Karma, and how to heal in this crazy world that we live in. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this weeks episode i am sitting down with Kim Goldman who hosts the wildly popular podcast, Confronting OJ. Kims brother was brutally murdered 25 years ago and justice was never really served. Her brothers killer OJ Simpson was acquitted in his wildly popular trial and later found responsible for the death of Ron Goldman and his ex-wife, Nicole Brown Simpson in a civil case. Kim joins me on the podcast today to discuss what her healing journey has looked like in the last 25 years. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week's episodes I am sitting down With Amy Dresner who is the author of a memoir called, “My Fair Junkie”. Amy and I dive into topics ranging from what it was like to write a book to the ongoing debate around choice and addiction. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this weeks episode I am sitting down with Cathy Heller who is the host of the Podcast ‘Don’t Keep Your Day Job’. Cathy is a self made millionaire who after many “failed” attempts in the music industry finally found her way in, in a very unexpected way.  Cathy comes on to talk about her story, how she did it and then how she developed her podcast where she inspires people to take major risks in order to find real “success”. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week’s episode, I am joined by psychotherapist, Staci Sprout.  Staci works with people healing from sex and love addictions, and came to this work through her own recovery.  She works with people of all genders who are struggling with harmful sexual behaviors and relationships, and supports them in healing.  During this chat, we dive into her journey healing from sex addiction and joining a 12 step recovery program, how to navigate sexual abuse and trauma, and ways we can foster our own healing.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week’s episode, I am joined by my mother, Andrea Arlington, to take some of your calls and questions.  We had amazing discussions with our callers, ranging from topics like manifestation, setting healthy boundaries in family relationships, and how to cultivate open communication with our loved ones suffering from addiction.  Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Michele Kambolis is coming on the podcast today to talk about anxiety. Why are women more prone to anxiety? What is an anxiety disorder and what is “normal” anxiety? What are some simple actions that we can take to reduce the anxiety in our lives? Michele is answering it all.  Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week’s episode, I have the lovely Rebecca Black joining me for some real candid conversation. We talk about her rise to fame from her viral music video, “Friday”, reinventing herself as a singer and artist, and finding her way out in Los Angeles at just 18 years old. Rebecca may still be young (22 now), but she is surely an old soul, and I relate to her on so many levels. I appreciate how much work she’s done on herself, and how she uses her growth to help other young people watching her YouTube channel.   Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week, we have my comedian of a sister, Gabby, joining us!  She is asking me 73 questions in that stream of consciousness style everyone’s doing right now.  Except, we don’t play by those rules.  Gabby and I put our own spin on this fun game. I definitely wanted a funny episode to break up the serious stuff we discuss on Recovering From Reality, so I hope you guys laugh along with us.   Some of my favorite questions ranged from my who I find more annoying, Gabby or our mom, my dream person (besides Evan, duh), and the craziest place I’ve ever had sex.  We also learned which Kardashian Gabby thinks I am, which is so not Kim guys. Everyone knows I’m Kendall or Kourtney!   See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week’s episode, I have comedian and seriously funny lady, Ali Weiss joining me.  Ali creates videos on Instagram that are truly hysterical, and after seeing her Kim Kardashian parody video, I knew I had to have her on the podcast!  We discuss how she started theater and comedy, her mental health journey, and the highs and lows of life in the digital age.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week’s episode, I am joined by the wonderful Dr. James Mellon.  Dr. James is a minister at the Global Truth Center in LA, which follows Ernest Holmes philosophy, Science of the Mind. No this is not scientology. It's the philosophy that brought you The Secret! In this episode, we touch on our core beliefs like eternal life, universal truth, and the collective consciousness.  Dr. James explains the power our minds have in affirming and manifesting our own goals, health, and dreams. In religious science, we believe that God is the energy all around us, that it is in everything, including us.  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week’s episode, I am sitting down with Zach Skow, the founder of the Pawsitive Change Program.  Pawsitive Change is a non-profit that runs in the California prison system, and brings rescue dogs into the prison population.  Zach and other trainers help inmates become dog trainers themselves. This is an incredible program, and helps bring hope and healing to not only those incarcerated, but to the dogs being rescued.  I hope you guys enjoy listening to Zach’s story of redemption, and how Pawsitive Change came to be.  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week I have the witty and truly hilarious Heather McDonald joining us.  Heather is a comedian and the host of a podcast called Juicy Scoop.  In this episode, we discuss being a comedian in an easily “triggered” culture, her background and upbringing with wild brothers, and her time working with Chelsea Handler.  We also discuss the importance of having open conversations with our kids, especially around tough topics like drug abuse. Heather shares some pretty funny stories with us throughout the show, and she definitely had me laughing.  I hope you guys enjoy!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Joining me for this week’s episode is the lovely Jamie Elizabeth!  Jamie is a holistic sex and intimacy coach. She helps people in all areas of communication that are intimate and sensitive, so people can be fully met and seen.  In her sessions with clients, she helps people discover what they really want out of their sex lives, and owning their sexuality. Jamie gives us some great tips this episode, from scheduling conversations about sex, sex dates, skin time, and drop-ins.  She also gives us three approaches to have these uncomfortable conversations, through vulnerability, responsibility, and curiosity.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this Episode I am sitting down with Joseph Sheehey, founder and CEO of Cured Nutrition, and his girlfriend, Lo Bondi. Joseph comes on the podcast to talk about how his attempted suicide turned his life and focus towards starting up a company that uses cannabinoids to help people heal. Lo is also in recovery for an eating disorder. Together, they explore the benefits of using plant medicine as a way to heal. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week’s episode, I had the honor of interviewing the amazing Bree Olson. You may remember Bree from being one of Charlie Sheen's "goddesses" during the time period where he was publicly dealing with many troubles. She got wrapped up even more when it turned out that he was HIV positive and she had no idea. Bree is a powerful woman and her story is one of survival. We discuss her early childhood trauma, her time in juvenile detention and how she entered the porn industry. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I sat down with Danielle and Adam of the Marriage and Martinis podcast.  I wanted to have them on because marriage can often be messy, with lots of highs and lows, and people are rarely talking about it.  However, these two are so authentic and real about their experience. It’s truly refreshing to hear! I hope you guys enjoy our dialogue about marriage, mental illness, loss, and much more.  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today, I am sitting down with Sarah Nicole from @thebirdspapaya to do another call-in show! I love that these episodes allow us to connect in a deeper way, because sometimes social media isn’t enough.  Our questions ranged from topics like accepting our past, re-branding mental health, staying authentic, and finding the balance in body positivity. We also answer some questions relating to addictions, eating disorders, and dealing with divorce and separation. Keep in mind we are totally not professionals in any of these areas!  We are simply speaking from experience, and hope you will relate to our stories.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Kevin started using drugs at 12 years-old, and when we met at 15, we started using together.  Because we each had so much family chaos and trauma, we truly relied on each other to get by.  Our relationship involved drugs, cheating, abortion, violence, and pure chaos. It was toxic. We eventually parted ways and I got sober. Two years later while I was working for VICE, I got a call that Kevin needed help. We ended up doing a mini doc on him and it now has over 1.2 million downloads on YouTube. Now, six years later were catching up with Kevin. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when you have depression, but don't respond to drugs? What if the side effects are intolerable? What if they actually make your depression worse?  That was my experience. For the last 6 years I have battled with depression and I have finally won.   In todays episode I am diving into my personal experience with depression and anxiety. I am sharing the steps that I took that made a remarkable difference in my mental health and healed my depression. And also sharing my experience with TMS.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I am sitting down with Dr. Judy Ho to answer you questions in a LIVE podcast episode. Dr. Judy is a Licensed and triple board certified Clinical and Forensicand Neuropsychologist, with a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and extensive experience working with clients of all ages, facing a variety of challenges and issues. She regularly appears on the hit day time talkshow The Doctors! Dr. Judy is the author of Stop Self-Sabotage, which details a six-step program for getting out of your own way and reaching your most-desired goals in love, work, health, and all aspects of life.   See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I am joined by spiritual healer and overall beautiful human, Heather Auble!  We get into Heather’s experience as a psychic, and how she learned to harness these abilities.  She also teaches me how to protect my own energy, and different rituals I can use to refresh from a total energy overload.   Plus, she gives me a profound reading at the end, so you’ll want to stick around for that.  This episode was truly all over the place! Heather and I’s energies were so wild together, but I absolutely loved it, and I hope you guys do too. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

At 15 years old,  Sydney was sent to a behavior modification program for troubled teens. This program was traumatizing, and caused her a great deal of pain.  Her and I discuss being an addict in rehab at 13, why she was sent to this program, and how she is doing today, 10 years later. Sydney’s growth and recovery is incredibly inspiring to me, and my heart hurts for all children that suffered these reform “school” experiences.  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week’s episode, I hop on a call with Triana Browne!  Triana competes in pageant circuits, and was crowned Miss Oklahoma 2017, Miss America 2018, and Miss USA runner up.  She is also a college graduate with a degree in Human Development and Family Sciences, and a Division 1 athlete.  Seriously, what can’t this girl do!   I chat with Triana about being multiracial and embracing her race despite adversity in society, school, and the pageant industry. Triana is half African American and half Native American, and works hard to give Native Americans recognition. She speaks up for Native rights and gives her people the support they deserve.  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This episode is a bit different because we are doing a call-in show with my friend Bob Forrest!  If you haven’t heard my previous episode with Bob, the co-founder of Alo House Recovery Center, be sure to check that out next.     So, we gave out a number and had you guys phone in with all your questions regarding sobriety, addiction, codependency, recovery, and my supposed debt to Orlando Bloom. It gets real on this episode, so I hope you enjoy!  I look forward to more connection with you guys in the future. It is really great to connect and interact beyond Instagram comments and DMs.       Some stand-out questions were:    Our opinion on needle exchange systems and clean injection sites How to recover from being a “weekend warrior” Enabling and its destructive outcomes Finding mental health care and support in difficult financial circumstances  Overcoming insecurity and anxiety   And that just scratches the surface.  We get deep into each topic, and Bob offered some stellar advice.  Many questions were about being a loved one to an addict. My heart truly goes out to those in this situation.  I see your pain, and I believe acknowledging your own pain is really important to the healing process. You can’t bring negative energy and shame to your loved one, and you definitely can’t force them to recover.  But you can heal yourself first.     We are all on this earth to process something on a spiritual level.  Sometimes, addiction and healing are part of this process. Don’t let negative feelings and energy have power over you.  Reach out and get help, no matter the scale. Just start with the next indicative action, and take baby steps from there.     Hearing my listeners’ stories is why I do this work.  All I do is for the collective. And the message I share is that you can recover, despite the trauma and pain.  Trust me, you can do this thing.      If I can make a living amends, pay off my court fees 8 years later, and thank Orlando Bloom for kind of saving my life, then you can recover too!  You’ll just have to listen to the episode to understand!   #ANDSOITIS   If you or someone you love needs help, go to alorecovery.com    Resources we discussed in this episode:  Families United for Recovery Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA) Brené Brown Alo House  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week’s episode, I’m having a conversation with the most iconic of queens, Langanja Estranja!  If you haven’t heard of Langanja, seriously, where have you been?! She is a talented drag queen who was on Season Six of RuPaul’s Drag Race, was recently on So You Think You Can Dance, has a huge Instagram following, is a dancer and choreographer, and is overall just fabulous.  In this episode, we talk about her upbringing, how her drag queen name and character were formed, and her journey after filming Drag Race.  We also get into some hot topics regarding sexism, gender, healing, and more.  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode I’m owning my story. Last week over Twitter I (half jokingly) invited Nancy Jo onto the podcast. Well… not only did she decline the invitation, but we got into it over Instagram DMs.  And let me tell you, shade was thrown guys!  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, I chat with my good friend and fellow mama, Ali Levine.  Ali is truly such a light in my life, so I’m excited to share her with you all!  She is the host of two podcasts, Things We Are Too Lazy to Blog About and Striptd Down with Ali Levine.  She is also a stylist and personality on Bravo’s TV show, Stripped.  Now, she has struck a balance between work life and mama life, which is so inspiring to me.   Ali and I’s friendship really blossomed when she asked me to be her doula.  Her birth experience is definitely one I’ll never forget! We share all the details here, from the birthing center, to the hospital, and once her baby was born.  We also talk about misconceptions toward pregnancy and motherhood. It’s not always this beautiful, magical time we see in the movies. Ali describes her struggle with postpartum depression and feeling like a “failure” as a mom.  No one can fully prepare you for these challenges, so it’s nice to have mom friends to lean on. Episode highlights:  Symptoms with pregnancy Castor oil to induce labor The difference between a birth plan vs. birth preferences Doulas and midwives Family boundaries during birth and early motherhood Nursing and lactation consultants How to navigate postpartum depression: therapy, meditation, mindfulness, and social media breaks  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

“You’re literally pretty wild if you’re going on a reality show.”   In this episode, I’m joined by Dan Levy to discuss my experience with reality TV.  Dan is a comedian, writer, and producer and one of the creators of Pretty Wild. He was just ballsy enough to take on the project, and to work with a family as crazy as mine! Dan and I talk all about Pretty Wild behind-the-scenes, what he thought of the show and working with us, and what Dan is creating in the present day.  A lot has changed in both of our lives since filming, so it was cool to share who we are today. Living as a happy, sober person is a side Dan never saw from me, and I’m grateful we got to talk about it.  Dan is also an incredibly funny and talented guy, so I know you all will enjoy hearing his take on life.  I was definitely living a double life while filming Pretty Wild.  On camera, Tess and I were just these little party girls, but in reality, we had debilitating addictions. We were a chaotic bunch, but that’s what made the show a pop culture phenomenon. I’m now so far removed from that Alexis, and truly believe going to jail was the best thing that ever happened to me. Here are some episode highlights:  Dan’s career prior to Pretty Wild The difference between working on sitcoms and reality TV Tess and I: then vs. now How Bustle named me “most meme-able person of all time” Dan’s time producing on The Goldbergs Dan’s new show called Indebted, coming to NBC around Christmas time So sure, my life may not be reality TV-worthy anymore, but it’s crazy and exciting in new and special ways. Just a little less wild.   Where to find Dan’s work:  IMDb: Dan Levy Instagram: @danlevyshow   If you or someone you love needs help please visit alorecovery.com    See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

“It’s important to use our platforms as a way to connect with others and to be able to share.” In this episode, I sit down with my childhood friend and true inspiration, Josi Pellicano!  I met Josi in middle school, and have always admired how resilient she is. She has a really interesting story to share that I know you guys will learn a lot from her strength. We talk about her dad’s incarceration for most of Josi’s life, her shifting family dynamic now that he’s out, and how she has adapted to all this trauma and adversity. Josi also shares her experience getting her Master’s degree, and how that guided her to where she is today.  Shoutout to one of my favorite sponsors Cured Nutrition CBT capsules and tinctures. This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition, a wholistic supplement company based in Boulder, Colorado. If you’re in tune with the wellness industry, I’m sure you’ve noticed how selecting the right CBD products can get confusing. Cured Nutrition has made it easy. In addition to their 100% locally-sourced Colorado hemp extracts, Cured also guarantees a rigorous quality control system. Fully aligned with complete transparency, they’ve even published the details directly onto their website: https://www.curednutrition.com/ www.curednutrition.com. You guys are going to love this brand. Use code ALEXIS25 at checkout for 25% off your purchase! I love that Josi is using her platform to open up about this story.  When a family member goes to prison, the entire family goes along too. Josie is creating a safe space to discuss this issue and reminding us to embrace when we’re not okay and talk about our shame.  The tough times shouldn't be kept a secret.  Here are some more points we covered:  Shifting family dynamics and how we cope  How our families were different from the “norm” in our cushy California neighborhood. Josi’s current relationship with her father. US mass incarceration rates. Shame culture and why it needs to change! To keep up with Josi and her killer Instagram feed, follow her @averagejoblog.  #ANDSOITIS If you or someone you love needs help, go to alorecovery.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today’s episode, I spend some precious time with my spiritual mentor and reiki master, Ute Fleishman. A few episodes back, I talked about my profound reiki experience, and that all happened in a session with Ute! She has had such an impact on my life and spiritual journey, so I am very grateful to have her on the podcast, sharing with us. We talk about how Ute started energy work and how reiki has completely transformed both of our lives. We also give you guys some tips and tricks to help you move from an existence of pain to one of peace. Read more about this episode on the blog! Connect w/ Alexis here Connect w/ Ute here If you or someone you love needs help, go to alorecovery.com #ANDSOITIS  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, we are sitting down with Alexis’ mom, Andrea Arlington to talk all things early childhood, manifestation, and family recovery.  Alexis asks Andrea some juicy questions, and she dishes on dating as a single parent, if she regrets Pretty Wild, and what her spiritual practice/recovery looks like today.  They also serve some hard truths about family dynamics. So if you’ve ever wondered what Alexis was like as a child and in early recovery, this is the episode for you! Read more about this episode on our blog Connect w/ Alexis here Connect w/ Andrea here or her website: Families United for Recovery If you or someone you love needs help, go to alorecovery.com #ANDSOITISSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

With the 2020 election right around the corner, it’s time to start getting informed! We get political on today’s podcast with Alexis, Evan, and author, Molly Jong-Fast. Molly is an author of two novels, Normal Girl and The Social Climber’s Handbook and has a fantastic Twitter feed that makes you wonder if she ever sleeps. Today, we discuss everything scarily wrong with our political climate, from “Trumpism”, to looming racism/sexism, to climate change and of course, how we look after our collective mental health. Read more about this episode on our blog! Connect w/ Alexis here Connect w/ Molly here If you or someone you love needs help, go to alorecovery.com #ANDSOITISSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

For this week's episode, Alexis is solo and does a little Q&A for you guys! Alexis addresses questions from our listeners and covers topics like; surgery, shame, relapse, tattoos, spirituality, adventures with Tess, porn, and The Bling Ring—just to name a few. Read more about this episode on our blog! Connect w/ Alexis here If you or someone you love needs help, go to alorecovery.com #ANDSOITISSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We have the lovely and inspiring Lauren Sundstrom on the podcast this week. Lauren is a proud trans woman and advocates for the LGBTQ community. She shares her story and insight with us, and we are so grateful to have her on! All women, trans and cis, deserve to speak up about their rights. Lauren’s strength and activism is amazing. People can relate and learn from her story and knowledge. Read more about this episode on our blog Connect w/ Alexis here Connect w/ Lauren Sundstrom here If you or someone you love needs help, go to alorecovery.com #ANDSOITISSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Our special guest on this week’s episode is Vanessa Fitzgerald! Vanessa is an amazing holistic health coach who helps people become their best selves. She joins us to talk about her practice, and some health/lifestyle tips to clean up our guts and minds. Her Instagram feed shares gut health info and clean eating tips, but what really drew Alexis in was her Adderall detox. Her open discussion and work detoxing clients is inspiring. So stay tuned! Read more about this episode on our blog   Connect w/ Alexis here If you are interested in contacting Vanessa for a session, go to veeshoney.com or email her at info@veeshoney.com. She offers phone sessions as well! If you or someone you love needs help, go to alorecovery.com #ANDSOITISSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, we have the lovely Sarah Landry joining us from The Bird’s Papaya! Sarah is all about body confidence & loving yourself on & offline. We sit down to talk about her journey, the dangers of diet culture, & how we can benefit from body neutrality. Sarah believes creating awareness is key. Thank goodness for recovery, body confidence, & for Sarah’s amazing work! We are all worthy of the self-love message she is spreading. Read more about this episode on our blog.  If you or someone you love needs help, go to alorecovery.com #ANDSOITIS Connect w/ Alexis here Connect w/ Sarah Landry hereSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Given the current events taking place in the Unites States, individual states stripping away a woman’s right to make her own reproductive health care choices, we felt the need to address this topic. Abortion access is a human right period. This is an issue that effects 1/4 women, across party lines and religious affiliations. Alexis opens this episode with her perspective. Later we dive into reproductive health care with Robyn Pool, a licensed midwife here in the Los Angeles area. We discuss an array of topics such as VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean), circumcision, body autonomy, informed consent and much more. At the end we’re wrapping this episode with a little something new, so stick around and we hope you enjoy it. Read more about this episode on our blog Important links: PUSH Midwifery, ICAN (International Children Assistance Network, Hospital Cesarean Rates, Yellow Hammer Fund, Planned Parenthood, Leap Frog Group - Compare Hospitals, ACLU (American Civil Liberties Union), Connect w/ Alexis here Connect w/ Robyn Pool here If you or someone you love needs help, go to alorecovery.com #ANDSOITISSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week’s episode features special guest Lauryn Evarts Bosstick from The Skinny Confidential.  She joins us to talk about her goals with her brand, being her authentic self, and dealing with a family member’s addiction. The Skinny Confidential has become a multi-platform brand full of blog posts, social media content, podcast episodes, and even YouTube videos.  From wellness, to business tips, to life advice, Lauryn has it all covered. Talk about total lady boss! Lauryn’s goal is to stay as authentic as possible with her followers and show them that it’s okay to have a balance of health and fun.  Or as she calls it, “holding kale in one hand and champagne in the other.” Hilarious! Having this balance between healthy living and doing whatever the F you want is really important, especially in our age of social media. Lauryn has no shame in sharing her experience getting plastic surgery, while still sharing the message of health and self-love. We need to be more accepting of those choosing to enhance their appearance. There is no shame in the botox game! Just remember not to compare yourself to others no matter your body type. You do you, and don’t care about what others think. This mantra has even helped Lauryn get through pushback she’s had online.  She is a self-proclaimed over-sharer (perfect influencer personality!), and totally accepts hat not everyone is going to be on board with her and her journey. #ANDSOITIS Not only does Lauryn stay true to her authentic self, she also wants her followers to be informed, which is why she brings incredible experts onto her podcast. (Seriously, listen to this episode with Khalil Rafati owner of Sun Life Organics) This brings the perfect mix between authenticity and relying on authoritative perspective to her audience. “You have to be your own guru.”  Lauryn always tells her audience to go out and do research on their own.  If you are unsure about something, gain knowledge and form your own opinion.  Don’t just blindly follow everyone else. This is what makes The Skinny Confidential’s brand so relatable and popular.  Authenticity is really important to followers nowadays.  We are stepping away from that perfectly curated feed, and leaning toward a more realistic image. We want the in-between scenes, not just the highlight reel, of an influencer’s life.  Sharing your struggles and being real is highly valued. Lauryn has helped pave the way, and has done so by sharing her story on her podcast.  A big part of her journey was handling her sister’s addictions and recovery. As a family member of an addict, she found it really difficult to relinquish control and allow growth to occur naturally. “It’s hard to watch someone you love and care about kill themselves in front of you and there’s nothing you can do about it.” The best thing you can do is stop trying to control your loved one’s situation, and allow them to see reality and the bottom for themselves.  Her family’s experience has given her a lot of empathy for family members of addicts, even for her own parents. Once her family broke that cycle of co-dependence, things started to look up. There are plenty of ways you can support a family member going through recovery.  One way is to join a support group yourself, so you can gain some perspective. You can join groups like Families United for Recovery, which was started by Alexis’ mom.  Or you can go to free groups hosted by recovery centers, like the weekly groups at Alo. Remember: recovery is not linear.  There will always be highs and many lows, so as long as you stay in tune with your loved one’s journey and come from a place of love and respect, healing will take place. Speaking of love, there is an aspect of love that tends to go unnoticed for many women, especially moms.  And that is self-love! We need to find ways to wind down after a hard day, that doesn’t necessarily involve opening a bottle of wine. Alexis explains a few ways she winds down, this includes spending time with her daughters, long showers, body scrubs, essential oils, and acknowledging her feelings, instead of suppressing them. Learning to talk yourself in a way that is nourishing can be more beneficial than you think. Lauryn loves to practice grounding/earthing, whether that is sticking your toes in the sand at the beach, or walking barefoot on the grass. Getting in touch with nature is a great way to unwind. From eucalyptus leaves to salt lamps, Lauryn is a wealth of information when it comes to self-care! And this is only a fraction of what you can find on her blog. Lastly, we can’t talk about self-care without addressing our love/hate relationship with social media.  It can be hard to disconnect, especially when you are trying to build a brand that requires a lot of content and engagement.  Just thinking about all we “should” be and do puts a weight on our shoulders, and leaves an open door for anxiety and depression to enter. As someone who produces lots of content each day, Lauryn knows that a healthy balance is important to keeping your sanity.  She tries to put more energy into creating content than consuming content. And when she does, she is careful about who and what she is looking at.  If we are feeding ourselves with negativity from certain accounts, we need to take a step back. Instead, we can start following people that make us do and feel better. Try limiting your scrolling time on Instagram and narrowing down the stories you watch to about 5 accounts, some of her favorite business accounts being Ed Mylett and Gary Vaynerchuk.  She also recently spoke to the author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, and his biggest advice was becoming more disciplined about the type of content you are consuming online.   This way, if certain accounts are making you depressed, just unfollow. We’ve all been there and could use a good cleanse once in a while! Ultimately, learning to be your own guru, finding what works for you, and living as your authentic self is going to bring you joy.  If you want more info on how to reach these goals, check out Lauryn’s podcast, The Skinny Confidential, and stay tuned for a special round table episode she has in store!   #ANDSOITIS If you or someone you love needs help, visit Alo House Recovery.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week’s episode, we have the lovely Arielle Lorre on to chat about her journey to sobriety, spirituality, and her new podcast, Over the Influence! Arielle is a blogger and health and fitness guru that spends time posting delicious recipes, fitness tips, and curating her beautiful Instagram account. We are seriously jealous of her aesthetic! But what some people might not know about Arielle is that she is sober, and uses her recovery journey to help others. Much like Alexis and Evan, Arielle and her husband met in recovery, and have a significant age gap between them. Part of recovery is joining a community of people from all different walks of life and age ranges. So instead of seeing someone’s age, we just the amazing, strong person and the struggles they’ve been through. Likewise, Arielle just sees the man that she loves, and not a number. If you know your truth and rise above the judgment of others, you will never care what people think of age difference in a relationship.  This shared understanding among people that are sober is not just for spouses, but for everyone. “You can go anywhere in the world and walk into a room of sober people and not know them and still have that bond. We are all kindred souls and have this shared camaraderie.”  There are also no age limits in the recovery world, which is why recovered people have friends of all ages. Everyone is on the same journey of healing and growth. As far as Arielle’s backstory goes, she does not have the “conventional” traumatic history that most addicts do. She lived a relatively stable life growing up, and didn’t have much trauma. It wasn’t until she began drinking alcohol at age 17 that everything changed.  For the first time in her life, Arielle felt at ease. She realized that up until her first drink, she had felt nothing but unease her entire life.   Once she knew the feeling of relief, there was no turning back. She began partying and using cocaine, and at age 19, was sent to her first recovery program at an outpatient center.  For 10 years, Arielle was in and out of treatment, swinging back and forth between recovery and relapse. It wasn’t until a completely traumatic experience that she finally chose to gain control of her life.  She was living in California at the time, and remembered her parents flying in to host an intervention. At this point she was abusing alcohol, cocaine, Xanax, and Adderall. Seizures from overuse would completely overtake her body, and she was once found unresponsive in her apartment by the police and rushed the hospital. Arielle knew she needed to surrender, but the idea of facing life sober seemed too overwhelming. This is a common experience for those in recovery. For so long, you are used to numbing out any emotion with the high of a substance. Without anything to fall back on, you are left to feel those raw emotions. And it is so hard.  Unfortunately, there is no way to wean into life. But Arielle truly believes that her community of support is what got her through to the other side. Then, you must surrender to the process of healing and be humbled by it. We have to be strong enough to admit that we don’t know everything, and that we must re-learn how to live life. Learning to be okay with suffering is difficult, but that is where a spiritual foundation can be a real game changer. We can choose to believe in something greater than us, and rely on that to guide us through life. It is then our connection to something bigger that keeps us going.  “With faith, it makes the waves of life less turbulent. Life becomes calmer.” All the joy, suffering, and pain that we feel on this earth are the essence of life. Without the pain and suffering, we can’t experience the pure joy. Like the voice that called Arielle said, “There is something beautiful on the other side of this.” We need to hold out hope and remember the lessons we’ve learned from our painful experiences.  These principles are what Arielle is communicating on her new podcast. The community she’s cultivated with Over the Influence is really important, and she believes it is a true part of recovery. Her online presence has allowed her to be open about her struggles, and help those that are struggling as well. She calls on her experiences with sobriety and health to create her amazing content and change people’s lives. With a world that places a lot of value on numbers, we need to ask ourselves what really matters to the followers, and that is community. Even though engagement in the comment section might be low, there are a ton of DMs waiting to be answered, where people want to have a real connection. Social media can be a great tool for fostering genuine connection between like-minded souls. Then, our relationships blossom into something empowering and real. To wrap up and end on a light note, Alexis and Arielle play a fun game of Would You Rather. Because let’s be real…who wouldn’t love to choose between sex with Jason Bateman or a complete unattractive stranger?! You’ll just have to listen to find out! #ANDSOITIS If you or someone you love needs help, please go to alorecovery.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this week’s episode of Recovering from Reality, we get to hear from Dave, the host of the Dopey podcast. Dave and Alexis talk about his recovery journey, if AA is still “anonymous”, and what Dopey is all about. Dave is an awesome guy that has a way of turning the darkest experiences into the funniest stories.   His show Dopey is the perfect mix of discussion and debauchery, and has become one of the best recovery podcasts out there. At least we think so! I mean, he had Jaime Lee Curtis as a guest, how much better can you get? Recently, the show’s shift from silly to serious came with Chris’ tragic death. Dave has had to find a happy medium between laughter and mourning the loss of his friend. But it’s this vulnerability about his struggles that resonates with listeners the most. Back in the early days of Dave’s AA experience, he found himself shying away from the identity of “former addict”. There is still such a stigma around addiction, that he knew it would be hard to find work if he came out about it. This stigma is one that ordinary people face every day. And it is where the “anonymous” in Alcoholics Anonymous comes into play. Anonymity helps protect the people that are trying to get their lives back on track. Yet unfortunately as a public figure, Alexis didn’t have much of a choice in this department. She was recovering in the public eye, and everyone watched her struggle. Now after much growth, Alexis embraces her sobriety and her ability to speak out. She is out and proud about sobriety! And without people like her and Dave, the stigma will never end. Dave had a slightly different experience with anonymity. He attributes the program to his sobriety now, and took his anonymity very seriously in the beginning. An old sponsor told him that if he opened up and then relapsed while recording Dopey, he would be giving the 12-step fellowship a bad name. An old boss of his even said, “Once a junkie, always a junkie.” Sure, Dave was afraid of relapse and the risk of coming out about his issue, but after Chris’ death, he truly realized being vulnerable is really important to helping others. Chris was someone who knew all too well how important sobriety is, yet he couldn’t defeat his demons. He was 4 years sober when he relapsed, and died quickly after. Dave was in shock, and soon began to realize that not everyone recovers. This is what motivated him to continue with Dopey. The message of death is the strongest he could send to his listeners. And fighting through the mourning and grief and coming out with joy on the other side is truly inspirational. Remember, Alcoholics Anonymous is not the only method of healing. While AA helped Alexis in early recovery, she discovered her spiritual practice and holistic approach to be most helpful. But both Dave and Alexis agree that whatever works for you is what’s most important. Now that the whole world knows their story, Dave and Alexis have to share it with those most important to them: their children. While Dave’s 9-year old is too young to know all the details, she does know that her dad is sober and that he goes to meetings. Likewise, Alexis’ 6-year old daughter knows that her mom and dad don’t drink and they help other people stop drinking at Alo Recovery Center. Keeping things light and matter of fact with children is key. When Dave got clean, he realized he was doing the best he could do on drugs for 41 years. Now, he wants to see what his best is without them, in the next chapter of his life. If it weren’t for his desire to be a good father, he wouldn’t have gotten clean. He knew getting sober was the only way. Finally, Dave appreciates the adventure of sober living. He sincerely enjoys his life, and showing his genuine self to the world. “We spend so much time here on earth, frustrated about the highs and lows of living and expect life to be a certain way. But if everything was on a straight path, wouldn’t it be so boring?” It would feel more like death than life. “If you were happy all the time, there would be no happiness. Because you can’t compare the feeling to anything else.” We have to feel the lows to know the highs, and being sober allows you to check in with those emotions instead of check out from them. Instead of just living “bleh” life on drugs, you can live a beautiful life full of all the feels! With Dopey, Dave uses his voice to help others, because so many people helped him along the way. He spreads the message that if you are addicted to something, there IS joy on the other side. …And that looking back and laughing at our old, crazy selves can bring the greatest healing of all! #ANDSOITIS If you or someone you love needs help, please go to alorecovery.com  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Romantic relationships in sobriety get a pretty bad wrap, so on this episode of Recovering from Reality, I sit down with my husband (and best friend) Evan Haines as we share some lessons we've learned along our path to recovery. This week we're celebrating our 7 year wedding anniversary and it feels like the perfect time to reflect on the story of how we met. When I first met Evan (yes, we met in AA) I would listen to him talk and feel almost envious of the things he would say. He seemed so... enlightened. I looked up to him in a way and he inspired me from our very first date. On our second date he asked to meet my mom and later that night he broke up with me. Here's just one example of the wisdom Evan drops throughout the episode, "In recovery, we learn to accept ourselves, and in finding that compassion for ourselves we can find it for others." #andsoitisSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's episode # 7 of Recovering from Reality and I'm sitting down with my wonderful, hilarious sister Gabby! We talk about everything from our upcoming Vegas trip to the different perceptions we each held of our childhood. Gabby and I spent quite a few years working through our own sh*t before we could get close to one another and have a real sister relationship. Sisters have such complex, chaotic, and sometimes telepathic bond. Throw in traumatic upbringing into the mix things are bound to be a little messy. We examine the different dynamics and roles we each played within the structure of our family unit and talk about how we don't want to extend those roles into our own families. This episode covers themes of forgiveness, resentment, and emotional oppression. We also play a pretty hilarious inappropriate game of 'would you rather' which gives y'all a shining example of the women we've become today. #goals #mauture #andsoitisSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

On this episode of Recovering from Reality, I cover a lot of ground. It all started with a video I posted of my two-year-old having a meltdown over powdered greens which triggered a bunch of people (mostly other women) to start mom shaming me OVER A BOTTLE. Luckily, LaLa Kent provided some comedic relief on this topic 😂. Anyways, those of you who weren't shaming had a few questions about what supplements I take daily. So, I decided to talk about some of the practices, supplements, and practitioners I use to counter the years I spent living as an addict. In my first two years of sobriety, I smoked a pack of cigarettes every day, lived on Redbull, and enjoyed copious amounts of fast food. Why? Because that's worked FOR ME. When I got pregnant with Harper I found out I had Hyperglycemia, so I started re-thinking some of my lifestyle choices. After giving birth to my first baby I was suffering from severe postpartum depression. This was really scary you guys, I didn't know I could get so low in sobriety, so turned to holistic and alternative medicine—which is ultimately where I find myself today. In this episode, I talk about balancing hormones, genetic testing, the gut-brain connection, and why I became a birth doula. I touch on heavy metal testing, EMF blockers, GMO's and MTHFR. Fair warning, I also talk about vaccinations. America currently has the highest maternal death rate of any westernized country, so I'm going to keep sharing my opinions and letting women know that we have the right to ask questions and get multiple opinions when it comes to our own health and the health of our children.  P.S. Kristin Cavallari, I owe you an apology. #andsoitisSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Being a woman means accepting responsibility for your actions and owning up to your shit, right? On this episode of Recovering from Reality, Alexis sits down with NYC based satire writer Millie Moore to talk about the mastermind that is Kris Jenner, the conspiracy that is Kim K's sex tape, and the chaos that is Jordan Woods's life. Trumps presidency is briefly discussed while Alexis and Millie muse about the responsibility for comedians like John Oliver and Bill Maher to "report" vs "entertain". Millie talks candidly about her experience with psychosis and how—at fourteen—her doctor prescribed her the same amount of Adderall as Lebron James—which probably had a lot to do with the voices she started hearing. We're reminded that there's an almost universal synchronicity connecting the need many people feel to detach. P.S. here's the article in reference #andsoitis See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Bob Forrest has been to rehab 24 times and thinks Alexis's husband—Evan—(Bob's business partner at Alo House Recovery Centers) is altogether too nice. It's safe to say that this episode of Recovering from Reality covers A LOT of ground. Suboxone in the '90s, "best friend parenting" styles (think: Lindsay and Dina Lohan), and why we should all stop confusing lust with love. Alexis and Bob talk about how to collectively change the direction our society is heading by steering each other towards a more connected reality. We examine how the disintegration of the family unit is plaguing American families and leaving both parents and children without a solid support system. For more on this topic, we encourage you to check out Bob and Dr. Drews pod, This Life. This episode doesn't shy away from heavy topics (trigger warning: divorce and sexual abuse are covered throughout) and Alexis opens up to her listeners about being an empathetic person dealing with internet trolls and frequent online criticisms, resulting in slumps of depression and frequent panic attacks. Bob shares his opinions about parents who talk about childhood molestation as the two briefly discuss the Michael Jackson documentary. A massive shoutout to Alo House Recovery Centers for being brave enough to approach treatment from an entirely new paradigm—something else we cover throughout this episode. Also, shout out to Brene Brown for getting us through the week with her book Rising Strong. 🙏 P.S Remember when Gwyneth Paltrow tried to make conscious uncoupling a thing? Yeah... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Being married to a Backstreet Boy isn't always easy. Rochelle McLean joins us today on the third episode of Recovering from Reality to talk about what it's like being married to a pop star, online bullying, body shaming, and more. "We're all reactive human beings, so how do we process this reactivity in a way that's healthy?" Alexis sits down with her dear friend Rochelle to talk about online "hate mail", raising body positive daughters, and... cream cheese pretzels! Rochelle is a private soul who's life got just a little crazy when she married Backstreet Boy, AJ McLean. During this open-hearted episode, Rochelle shares her reality aka how she met AJ, her personal insecurities, and how she committed to a partner who's in recovery. This episode deals with relevant topics such as social media personas, the effects of online bullying, and woman on woman 'trolling'. We hear from some of our listeners and ask the question, "how to explain to your kids that people on the Internet are being mean?". Thank you to everyone who helped make this episode a reality and a special shoutout to Ragamuffin Coffee Roasters for keeping our crew caffeinated... #andsoitis!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

For the second episode of Recovering from Reality, Alexis is joined by family therapist Michele Kambolis for a healing conversation with the ladies from Pretty Wild—you know, her 2009 reality TV show that aired on E!. Pretty Wild followed Alexis, her mother Andrea Arlington, and her two sisters, Tess Taylor and Gabby Neiers, as the girls coped with the chaos of addiction, trauma, and serious legal troubles. In this episode, "The Reunion”, Alexis lays the groundwork for her family to share their honest experiences with the show — 10 years later. Deep forgiveness, personal healing, and the process of setting boundaries are just some of the themes covered during this heartfelt episode.  Thank you to everyone who helped make this episode a reality... and so it is! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In the very first episode of Recovering from Reality, Alexis Haines focuses on telling her "official" recovery story. Alexis got sober at nineteen years old after facing up to six years in the correctional system due to addiction. As the former star of the E! reality series Pretty Wild who faced a burglary conviction as a member of the notorious "Bling Ring”, Alexis understands the power of storytelling and media firsthand. As a survivor of the entertainment industry, IV heroin use, eating disorders, rape, physical violence, and childhood sexual trauma, Alexis is continuing her life-long journey of personal recovery by connecting with others and sharing her experiences with the world. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.