We all have times in our lives when we are apprehensive for what will come or even what's happening here and now, maybe we even dread it. In this episode, Katelin talks about the lessons she learned from a meaningful experience she had that can help us all as we encounter welcome and not-so-welcome events in our lives.  Related episodes  223 // The Power of Being Present NOW  Staying Open to The Present Remember to sign up ⁠here⁠ for our weekly newsletter where we send our favorite books, resources & parenting tips each week!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

273 // When Things Don’t Go as Planned We all like to plan for life and set expectations for how things should go, but what happens when life doesn’t go as planned? Or people or circumstances don’t meet expectations? We try to have a baby and are unable, we lose jobs, marriages end, we lose faith. In this episode we talk about the disappointment, regrets, discouragement, and frustration associated with these situations and tools we can use to view and navigate them with greater understanding and peace. Main Ideas The language we use to define our emotions matters! Disappointment vs. Regret - we feel disappointment when things don’t go how we wanted them to, and we feel the outcome is out of our control. We feel regret when things don’t go how we wanted, and we feel the outcome was caused by our own decisions, actions, or failure to act.  Regret can be one of our greatest (and most uncomfortable) teachers Tools we talk about - Involving God, “TFT”s from Brené Brown, Fear Setting from Tim Ferris Related Episodes 263 // HOW TO Move Through the Stress Cycle and Stay Out of Overwhelm 216 // What Resentment Reveals & Understanding Envy 214 // Compassion: Where Love Meets Suffering and Remains Love Subscribe to our email for all the links, goodies, books and resources we share in each episode! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

One of our most frequently asked questions we receive from listeners is "How can I implement quiet time with my kid?" Transitioning from nap time to quiet time can seem like a daunting change in your daily rhythm as a caregiver. We all need a little recharging time to refill our own cup and that can be difficult without any breaks. In this episode, Katelin shares tips for how you can implement quiet time successfully and how you and your kid(s) can make the most out of it. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

We all agree that we want to keep our kids safe from sexual abuse but we oftentimes don’t know where to start and how to go about doing this. In this episode Katelin interviews Feather Berkower, Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Educator & Author, to understand what we can do to protect our kids and therefore create safer communities for all children. You can learn more from Feather Berkower below: www.ParentingSafeChildren.com Off Limits: A Parent's Guide to Keeping Kids Safe from Sexual Abuse (Must-Read Parenting Book!) feather@parentingsafechildren.com www.Facebook.com/ParentingSafeChildren www.instagram.com/parentingsafechildren/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/feather-berkower-8985a319/ http://blog.parentingsafechildren.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

In this episode we answer a question about how to respond when other adults in our lives want to parent our kids in a way that differs from our desires. Listen in for ideas on how to navigate these situations in a way that honors ourselves, our kids, and the other loving (and often well-meaning) adults in our lives. Related Episodes When We Find Our Kids Sneaking Screens and Food, Agreeing to Disagree On Others’ Parenting Decisions, and Talking to Our Kids About Santa --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Do you ever feel parent guilt? We get so many questions from listeners about the torn feeling that comes while trying to balance being a whole person ourselves while still serving our families with love. In this episode, we answer this question as we discuss how we can set boundaries for ourselves, protect our own personal time (shower time, bathroom, etc.) and learn to coexist with more ease without young children. We also address questions about reinventing ourselves as our children grow, how to handle kids being sneaky and hiding things, and how to deal with our children being bossy and having public meltdowns. Related Episodes ⁠How to: Create Pockets of Peace⁠ ⁠Running a Household Without Resentment⁠ Books and Links We Mentioned ⁠Fairplay⁠ // Eve Rodsky ⁠Raising Lions⁠ // Joe Newman ⁠No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame⁠  // Janet Lansbury Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: ⁠Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  ⁠ Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

So often in parenting, we find ourselves...losing our cool, to put it nicely. We respond with anger; we use bribing or coercion to make our kids behave, and we hurt our relationship with our kids and ourselves in the process. In this episode, we take a deep dive into individual steps we can take anytime we find ourselves triggered by our kids’ behavior. We start with ourselves, pause, attune to our child, and then respond, not react, by setting limits and allowing logical consequences by looking at the need being expressed by our child’s behavior. This conversation will help you reframe difficult parenting situations and allow you to focus on the priority of your relationship. Take a pause to connect to your intuition when making decisions. Pay attention to what you fear and ask yourself why? Parenting helps us see ourselves more clearly. Don’t parent from a place of lack. The Pause - Give your self time and space with your children Use breath to bring yourself into the present moment and pause Sometimes bad behavior is a cry for connection. Time Stamps 8:00- How do we live from a place of authenticity when parenting 12:31 - Take a pause to connect to your intuition when making decisions 18:15 - Parenting from a place of lack vs. wholeness 21:00 - Meditation practice to give your child self love and acceptance 24:33 - Journal out your fears with your kids to process them 29:00 - The Pause - Give your self time and space with your children 37:30 - Zone of zero reactivity 46:50 - Come to each situation with a response vs. a reaction 52:31 - Natural consequences vs. Cultivating consequences You can listen to this episode on most other platforms here :) Are you feeling lost, unanchored or listless in your days? We use our daily planner and journal to align our core values with the tasks we do each day! You can learn more about it HERE Related Episodes Authoritative Parenting / Arguably the most EFFECTIVE Parenting Style  Holding Boundaries / Discipline Pt. 1 Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections Parenting with Unconditional Love  How to Embrace Childhood  Books and links we mentioned; The Awakened Family // Shefali Tsabary The Conscious Parent // Shefali Tsabary --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Original Post date 10/25/22 Fear is a powerful emotion. All of us face it at some point of another, and often, it really puts a damper on the way we live our lives. It can interfere with us loving wholeheartedly and doing things that inspire (and scare) us. In this episode, Taralyn dives deep into the concept of facing and processing our fears so they don’t hold us back in life. She addresses 3 different kinds of fear, and walks you through steps to free yourself from the fears that don’t serve you. Books Taralyn Mentioned: Gift of Fear // Gavin De Becker Fear: Essential Wisdom for Getting Through the Storm // Thich Nhat Hanh Related Episodes: Escaping the Trance of Unworthiness and Finding Self Acceptance Within Staying Open to the Present  Tapping Into the Abundance Inside Us --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

The holiday season can feel overwhelming because we feel the need to do everything to make them exciting and special. However, the beauty of having our own families is that we can intentionally choose the holiday activities that serve us and let go of the ones that don’t. The magic of family traditions is that they help our children feel a sense of belonging and gives them roots, which helps them identify with the connection of the family instead of peer groups and can help with their behavior. In this episode, we share the traditions that serve us with simplicity and joy and give you many options to try with your own family. We talk about how sometimes all it takes is to recognize the traditions we already have and capitalize on naming them and making them reoccurring and special.  From Halloween fun, ways to be grateful in November and loads of Christmas and winter traditions we hope that this episode inspires you to create new memories with your family and recognize your current traditions to turn them into magical ones that repeat every year!  You can listen to this episode on iTunes here and many other platforms here. Books we mentioned: Hold on to Your Kids // Gabor Mate The Entitlement Trap // Linda and Richard Eyre Food Nanny Rescues Dinner //  Liz Edmunds   Related Episodes: Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

There is nothing quite like parenting--it’s something we want to desperately do well at, and it is simultaneously one of the most difficult things that many of us will ever do. We face fears, failure, triggers of our own emotions, often while experiencing physical and emotional fatigue. However, because of this, children have the capacity to be our greatest teachers. They allow us the opportunity to truly look inside of ourselves when we are triggered, and wake up to our own nature.  In this episode, Felica had the incredible opportunity of discussing this topic with parenting expert and author, Susan Stiffelman, MFT. She explains how we can use the practice of being present to truly use this journey we have as parents to truly evolve ourselves as we face the daunting task of raising humans to do the same. Her books and her words are unbelievably inspiring and will help you as you navigate your own parenting experience.  You can learn more about Susan Stiffelman and her work and sign up for her newsletter on her website:  https://susanstiffelman.com. She is offering a webinar you can join her in about coparenting with a narcissist here. You can listen to this episode on iTunes here or on many other platforms here. Books we mentioned: Parenting with Presence // Susan Stiffelman   Parenting without Power Struggles // Susan Stiffelman  Loving What Is // Byron Katie  Playful Parenting // Lawrence Cohen  Related Episodes: Finding Joy and Enthusiasm in Every Day The Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of Parenting Staying Open to the Present  Tapping Into the Abundance Inside Us Janet Lansbury’s episode: The Best Way to Deal With Intense Tantrums  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

It can appear like people who are successful at achieving their goals simply possess an incredible amount of self control. That kind of belief lets us off the hook from creating the life we really want--we simply lack the self discipline, right? Well, it turns out that as we create habits that add value to our lives, we actually require LESS self control, not more. As we change our environment and our cues and rewards, we have the power to eliminate negative habits and build positive ones that can transform our life. Habits are the key to making our goals a reality. We discuss the science behind habits and explore the work of experts on the subject. We break down the steps for creating a good habit (or ridding yourself of a bad one), and give you applicable tips that you can use right away in your life. We share what has really worked in our own lives as we have experimented with habits and unlocked the magic of things like habit stacking. Books that inspired us: Atomic Habits // James Clear Deep Work // Cal Newport Essentialism // Greg McKeown Getting Things Done // David Allen The Power of Habit // Charles Duhigg Our Related Episodes: Habits for High Performance Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connection Make Your Morning Routine Happen! We would love for you to share our episode with your friends and family. Also, thank you so much for your kind reviews! We are so honored to have such wonderful listeners. How to leave a review on iTunes: * Open podcast app * Search for Find the Magic * Click on episodes * Scroll to the bottom of the page * Click on write a review * Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) * Hit SEND Thank you! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

We often receive the message that we can have it all; we can do it all. Social media messages, societal expectations, and our own self talk often feeds the lie that we can do EVERYTHING. When we don’t live up to the unrealistic expectation that we can do everything and succeed at everything, there is a cost to our mental health.  In this episode, we discuss this topic with New York Times best selling author, Greg McKeown. He helps identify the lie that we can do everything, and instead offers a path of wisdom, balance, and priorities instead of the wild racing that we often indulge in when we are trying to say yes to everything. He gives us very applicable steps on how to make doing what truly matters to us easy.   BOOKS AND LINKS: Greg’s Website: https://gregmckeown.com Effortless: Make It Easier to Do What Matters Most // Greg McKeown  Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less // Greg McKeown RELATED EPISODES  Essentialism / How to Do Less But Better Discovering YOUR Life Essentials --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

There are lots of decisions that we make as parents that are made out of guilt or a sense of obligation. In this episode we talk about how to navigate parenting questions from a place of wholeness in order to figure out what will be best for parent AND child. We talk about whether or not to do preschool and *spoiler alert* there is no one perfect decision. :) Related Episodes 228 // Making Friendships, Creating Community, and How to Know When You’re Done Having Kids Patience with Aggressive Behavior, Friendships in Motherhood and Making Peace with Your Inner Landscape Guidance for the Changing seasons of Motherhood Time Stamps 1:44 - To preschool or not to preschool? 3:00 - Taralyn’s experience with kids going or not going to preschool 10:30 - Felica’s experience 14:15 - the questioning of our choices because it’s the worth the wrestle 16:09 - What will be the best for you and your child? 18:55 - Eliminating the guilt Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Review of the week from mamaErinE So much wisdom and humility You women are amazing, thank you --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Healing your body and spirit postpartum is a topic that is both under talked about and misunderstood. In this episode Katelin interviews Arielle Martone, doctor of physical therapy, yoga teacher and postnatal coach turned postpartum wellness coach after having 2 kids and overcoming postpartum depression and pelvic pain herself. She has 12+ years of experience and utilizes her knowledge and background to help new moms reconnect to mind/body and actually heal postpartum so they can feel strong and confident not only in their bodies but who they are becoming. You can learn from Arielle at the following links: www.findyourwaymama.com www.instagram.com/ariellemartone Free Resources Pelvic Floor Recovery Guide    Exhausted to Energized without Sleep Training  Related Episodes HOW TO Prepare Children for a New Sibling: a Conversation with UpbringingPrepping Kids for New Babies, Earning vs. Rewarding, Quiet Time Tips, & Our Favorite Life Hacks Time Stamps 1:42 - Intro to Arielle and the importance of postpartum care 11:40 - The signs to be aware of with Postpartum mood disorders 13:50 - Normalize seeking help vs. normalizing the struggle 16:30 - Feeling like something is “off” is a signal 20:20 - Trust yourself 26:50 - Tips to recover if you feel like you have no time 31:27 - Pay attention to when you’re saying “should” 39:50 - Prioritize your sleep and give yourself grace 41:25 - How “bounce back culture” can be a detriment to our overall health 47:09 - Don’t rush back into physical exercise 51:05 - Trust your body 57:15 - Pelvic Floor Therapy exercises 1:03:00 - Exhausted to energized 1:05:16 - How to get back to our true selves after having kids --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

The beginning of the school year is filled with many conflicting emotions for both our kids and us as parents. In this episode we share favorite tips, ideas and traditions that will help you start the year off right and from a place of wholeness.  Related Episodes 207 // We Are All Good Inside: Parenting Without Using Shame and Repairing When We Do, with Dr. Becky Kennedy Part 1  210 // Navigating Tricky Transitions With Kids Ahead of Time and What to Do When Whining Feels Unbearable: Good Inside by Dr. Becky Kennedy Part 2  108 // Using Play to Diffuse Power Struggles and Connect With Your Child (based on Playful Parenting by Larence J. Cohen) 118 // Become a Child Whisperer / Parenting Your Kids True to Their Nature (based on the work of Carol Tuttle) Links Mentioned Weekly Clothes Organizer  Fave Books back to school Kissing hand by Audrey Pen I Love You All Day Long  by Francesca Rusackas Super Manny Stands up by Kelly DiPucchio  Oh the Places You’ll Go by Dr. Seuss Time Stamps 12:25 - How to navigate the logistics of going back to school with systems 15:35 - Weekly Clothes Organizer 20:17 - Special back to school dinner with notes of encouragement from family 22:21 - Helping your kids emotionally return to school by addressing your own anxieties 25:21 - Emotional vaccination with your kids 27:24 - Visualizing mediation the night before 27:55 - Review the child whisperer to help your kids deal with the upcoming 31:42 - Reading a back to school book 34:19 - Making love bracelets 35:00 - First day special events --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Have you ever tried to teach your kid a value? Or help them stop taking toys? Or handle a conflict within a friendship or with a sibling? As parents we have a (sometimes) underutilized tool that can help us in these situations: play. In this episode Katelin walks through how to use role playing specifically to help work through these situations with our children of all ages.  Related Episodes Using Play to Diffuse Power Struggles and Connect With Your Child (based on Playful Parenting by Lawrence J. Cohen) Books & Articles Mentioned 6 Steps To Do A Role Play Playful Parenting // Lawrence Cohen Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) This podcast is my happy place I am SO grateful for the time and effort that goes into this podcast. Every episode is packed with gold. There is so much education and real conversations about life and motherhood. It helps to calm my soul, reassure me, motivate me and so much more. THANK YOU! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Who doesn't want peace and homeostasis in the family environment? So often we can get to a place of chaos; where our homes and families feel out of sorts. In this episode Felica shares her experience of stripping away outside influence with their cross country move and how it affected her family environment. She shares tips on applying her learning to your home. She also explains how she felt the anxious buzzing energy in her home, recognized it, and found some settling. Hint hint, it always starts with us!  Related Episodes Patience with Aggressive Behavior, Friendships in Motherhood and Making Peace with Your Inner Landscape Guidance for the Changing seasons of Motherhood Time Stamps 1:52 - Recognizing something is out of whack 4:00 - Our inner landscapes reflect onto our outer landscape --Focus on yourself 6:45 - Find support from others Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) MaryHag 11/08/2022 The highlight of my week🙏🏻 Updating my review since I have been listening now for a couple of years. Honestly, this podcast is a game changer and life changer for me, and truly a highlight of my week. I eagerly go onto my podcast app each week to refresh and pray for a new episode to be ready on my Tuesday morning walk. This podcast has helped me through so many challenges in parenting and in life, and I feel like I have been growing right alongside you incredible women for the last couple of years. I appreciate your authenticity and being real with us, approaching each new episode and book with such an openness and sense of curiosity and your clear passion for sharing the tools you discover with us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for doing what you do - now please don’t stop because I’m about to have child number 2 and I need y’all!!  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

In our lives there are things that we control, things we influence, and things we have no control over. In today's episode, Katelin explores one thing that is entirely within our control: our thoughts. Our thoughts have power over the way we see and subsequently engage with our world. She discusses tips and tools, including the work by Byron Katie, for how to change our thoughts, which will ultimately change our reality.  Related Episodes Staying Open to The Present The Power of being present NOW Books & Links Mentioned How Your Thinking Creates Your Reality // Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D.  Can You Affect Another Person's Behavior With Your Thoughts? The Power of Now // Eckhart Tolle  Loving What Is // Byron Katie Time Stamps 1:14 - Three buckets in life 2:32 - Our thoughts are within our control 4:30 - How thoughts become belief and how that primes our brains 7:45 - Beware of labeling our children – “terrible twos” “threenager” 10:25 - Experiment on labeling “smart” and “dumb” rats 13:51 - Step 1 is becoming aware of your thoughts are your thoughts 15:12 - Step 2 create what you want to see 16:50 - Step 3 - visualize every step and the end 17:25 - step 4 - invite God into this process 18:30 - Using the work by Byron Katie as a tool to unstick thoughts 21:15 - Example of navigating sharing holiday time with families 28:40 - Turning around your belief statement Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) MaryHag 11/08/2022 The highlight of my week🙏🏻 Updating my review since I have been listening now for a couple of years. Honestly, this podcast is a game changer and life changer for me, and truly a highlight of my week. I eagerly go onto my podcast app each week to refresh and pray for a new episode to be ready on my Tuesday morning walk. This podcast has helped me through so many challenges in parenting and in life, and I feel like I have been growing right alongside you incredible women for the last couple of years. I appreciate your authenticity and being real with us, approaching each new episode and book with such an openness and sense of curiosity and your clear passion for sharing the tools you discover with us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for doing what you do - now please don’t stop because I’m about to have child number 2 and I need y’all!! 😝😘 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

In a few weeks our kids will be home for the summer, and our daily schedules will change drastically. A lot of jokes, angst and dread can surround this time of year. Let’s start as we mean to go on! In this episode, we are sharing some of our favorite tips for designing our summer. We touch on creating and setting boundaries from the start, letting our kids be and resisting screen entertaining. If we have learned anything this year, it is that being fluid and available for change can help us live in the present and create a calm atmosphere in our homes. As we let them be free to work through the B word (boredom!) we will come out the other side with having enjoyed our summer together! Related Episodes How to: Create Pockets of Peace HOW TO Parent Less and Love it More The Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of Parenting Interview with Dr. Mary Wilde: How to Joyfully Ride the Waves of Parenthood Without Drowning in Them Encouraging Independent Play and Letting Go of Guilt Time Stamps 10:00 - Summer bucket list 11:56 - Beware of over scheduling 17:00 - It's not our job as a parent to entertain our kids 20:45 - Importance of completing your essentials during the summer 22:27 - Consider eliminating screens 23:41 - Embrace boredom 27:23 - Give them a chore if they are bored 29:11 - The moment of "reaching" when we slow down 34:20 - Remind them to clean up 35:15 - Take the time to teach them more household skills during the summer 36:00 - Open the buffet 39:00 - Set the expectation & infrastructure at the beginning 45:34 - Verbally state your expectations 46:01 - Let go of control 47:31 - Children can contribute to the family Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

We have all been here; there are times in life of discontent, resentment, perhaps even depression and often these coincide with a forgetting of ourselves. In this episode Felica interviews Tessa Brown, an artist and writer who focuses her work on womanhood and feminine energy and happens to be Felica's dear friend. They dive into reclaiming our younger selves and the decisions we made, wrestling with motherhood and its expectations as well as considering how we can build bridges to parts of our lives that we want to include and ask the right questions to determine what things we should leave behind.  Time Stamps 3:30 - What do we say yes to? 6:45 - How did past selves make decisions for our future? 14:35 - What is the right question to ask 18:00 - The power of manifestation 22:30 - Not merge with collective 24:05 - I get to decide who comes onto the island 25:25 - Do I want this life? Related Episodes Living Life Untamed and Releasing Others to do the Same (Untamed by Glennon Doyle) EP 99 HOW TO OWN YOUR OWN DESIRES AND THE ART OF INTIMACY WITH DR. JENNIFER FINLAYSON-FIFE Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Review of the week: she.will.be.katie 11/07/2022 Absolute favorite This is the only podcast that I cannot wait for the new release each week. There’s so much to contemplate in each episode. Yet at the same time its easy enough to digest that, even when my mom brain is at an all time high, I finish each episode inspired. Thank you 💛 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

In today’s episode we talk about how to deal with your children squabbling repeatedly and what to do when you feel like you just can’t get it together.  Time Stamps 13:42 - How to help our kids have a positive sibling relationship 19:17 - Sibling situation is working out a social dynamic for the real world 21:50 - We learn in families how to read people 21:21 - Emotional Preparing 25:00 - Code words 27:30 - Beware of comparison 31:48 - I feel like I’m drowning 37:43 - Life is a balancing act 40:40 - Be kind to yourself and others Books & Related Episodes How to do the work // Nicole Le Pera HOW TO Prepare Children for a New Sibling: a Conversation with Upbringing  Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections (Entitlement Trap by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre) Understanding Praise and How We Can Use It to Give Our Kids Confidence Instead of Insecurity Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Review of the week: Good for dads too! As a father of two grown children and now taking care of my 16 year old nephew along with my wife, I still find lots of great tips and inspiration from these three amazing humans. I love the “high 5” and “facepalm” stories and the podcast is a soothing way to start a day or listen to in the drive home after a busy day at work. I wish I had something like this when my kids were younger as I think back to some situations I could have handled better. Thank you Find the Magic for all the times you made me smile, laugh, think and grow as a parent. Open Find the Magic in the podcast app  Scroll to the bottom of the pageClick on write a reviewTap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

"My kids never help", "It's like pulling teeth", "Our family life feels disconnected", "They don't care about me or what I do for them"; frustration over the lack of help in our homes from our children can send us into a spiral of hard days. The sentiment that "kids will be kids" and we need to cater to their whims can topple the structure of our families. In this episode, with the help of Hunter, Gather, Parent by Michaleen Doucleff, we are going to challenge the Western assumptions we all hold about parenting to bring a breath of fresh air and an ease to our parenting that just may revolutionize the way you think about your home environment!  Time Stamps 8:00 - Intro to Hunter, Gather, Parent 10:13 - The silo parenting present in western culture (WEIRD) 15:51 - The drive to help and belong is naturally present in our kids from the beginning 20:30 - In the long run, forcing your kids is detrimental 21:30 - Example of five year old girl from the Nani Gandi Tribe 23:00 - Never force a kid to stay and work 25:00 - Less praise, more acknowledgement 26:38 - Independence vs. Autonomy 30:01 - “We clean it up” vs. “You clean it up” 34:15 - Example of autonomy the Hadzabe community 41:05 - Chore charts and how they work against intrinsic motivation Related Episodes Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections (Entitlement Trap by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre) How To: Create Pockets of Peace Books Mentioned: How to Raise Kind Kids // Thomas Lickona Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Review of the week: AngelinaEM 04/12/2023 My new best friends. I am a busy mom of 4 (7 yo and under) and Find the Magic is something that I do for myself. I connect with these women SO well and they make me feel like I’m doing the best job, even when I feel like I’m not. Thank you ladies for being here for us mothers. ♥️ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

A healthy understanding and acceptance of our own sexuality is an essential life building block that can be ignored or damaged. How we view our own sexual desires was in some way shaped by experience we had throughout childhood and young adulthood. This episode we are joined by Dr. Jennifer Finlayson Fife a renowned sex and relationship therapist to talk about how to help our children foster a healthy relationship with their sexuality. EPISODE SPONSORS: MamaZen: Mindful Parenting App If you’re experiencing impatience, anger, anxiety, and feel frustrated with your kids, then you need to get this app. MamaZen will teach you how to control your negative emotions so you can deal with your kids’ difficult behavior with more love and patience. You’ll feel calmer, happier, and more connected to your kids. Some of our favorite sessions are Reduce Mom’s Guilt, Patience for Never Ending Bedtime, and Overcome Anxi ety and Overwhelm. Sessions are only 2-15 minutes long, and even 1-2 times a week makes a huge difference. Go to your app store and download MamaZen today. Use PROMO CODE magic to get full, unlimited FREE access for 30 days! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND REVIEW OF THE WEEK  What my mama soul needed. I found this podcast a few months ago and I have been binging it ever since! I was definitely in a funk ever since having my first baby in 2020 and listening to this podcast has truly helped me so much.I listen on walks or at the gym or whenever I can sneak in a moment to myself. They have great tips and advice and every time I listen, I learn something new that helps me be better to myself and to my daughter. Listening to the mamas talk feels like a therapy session with my best friends.I recommend this podcast to all of my mom friends! Thank you guys for helping me find the magic. Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/findthemagic/support --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support

Connection is at the center of so much of our lives and relationships. In this episode, Taralyn, Felica, and Katelin wrestle with the concept of how to maintain connection with others and live wholeheartedly, while still releasing what we cannot control and detaching from the outcome. Detachment is a popular word in some self-help philosophy, and it is a valuable concept because it allows us to not cling onto things we are unable to control. However, each of us values deep connection. We share metaphors we have come up with to help us wrap our minds around these ideas and how to love deeply, give without resentment, and express our needs to others. How can we sacrifice beautifully for those we love, while still staying whole ourselves? How can we follow our dreams without becoming an island with empty relationships? We talk about possibilities of finding a balance on this topic. BOOKS: Nonviolent Communication // Marshall Rosenberg Loving What Is // Byron Katie A New Earth // Eckhart Tolle RELATED EPISODES Finding Joy and Enthusiasm in Every Day Our Daily Meditation  EPISODE SPONSORS MamaZen: Mindful Parenting App If you’re experiencing impatience, anger, anxiety, and feel frustrated with your kids, then you need to get this app. MamaZen will teach you how to control your negative emotions so you can deal with your kids’ difficult behavior with more love and patience. You’ll feel calmer, happier, and more connected to your kids. Some of our favorite sessions are Reduce Mom’s Guilt, Patience for Never Ending Bedtime, and Overcome Anxi​​ety and Overwhelm. Sessions are only 2-15 minutes long, and even 1-2 times a week makes a huge difference. Go to your app store and download MamaZen today. Use PROMO CODE findthemagic to get full, unlimited FREE access for 30 days! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us  on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app   Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) Hit SEND Review of the week! Kjp32611 This podcast saved my motherhood!...They dive into incredible topics, they read and discuss books I’ve read or are on my to-read list… I just cannot say enough good things about this podcast and these women. I listen while doing laundry, walking, making dinner...wherever I can. The mamas are like having coffee with best friends -- they keep it SO REAL. And during the pandemic -- bless you girls. This time is so challenging, sometimes I feel like I am barely getting by -- but they make me laugh because they remind you everyone is going through this thing called life and motherhood -- even now. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/findthemagic/support