Black Girls Heal helps women break out of cycles of unhealthy relationships with unavailable partners and feeling not enough by combining coaching, therapeutic support, and practical tools. Every episode, we will talk about intimacy, attachment, healing unresolved trauma, and growing in our self worth.
#230: Dealing with Disappointment from Your Mom as an Adult
In this episode, I talk about managing disappointment from your relationship with your mother as an adult if you have experienced false starts towards intimacy or seen self sabotage on your mother's part.Click here to register for the Cutting Wounds with Your Mother WoundsClick here to see an overview of all Winter WorkshopsReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgOur Sponsors:* Check out NPR - Black Stories, Black Truths: https://www.npr.org/podcasts/510372/black-stories-black-truthsSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
2/1/2024 • 28 minutes, 31 seconds
#229: How to Know You Have a Problem as a Love Addict
In this episode, Shena talks about 3 ways to know that you have a problem as a love addict abd losing yourself versus being a balance and available partner.Apply for the Valentine's Day Scholarship for The Recovery SchoolReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.org Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
1/30/2024 • 46 minutes, 5 seconds
#228: When Your Mom is Competitive WIth You
In this episode, Shena discusses how to cope when you have a mother who is competitive with you, the signs of the jealousy and competition, and potential sources of where it may come from.Click here to register for the Cutting Ties with Mother Wounds WorkshopReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.org Our Sponsors:* Check out eHarmony: https://www.eharmony.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
1/23/2024 • 44 minutes, 5 seconds
#227: Codependency & Boundaries
In this episode, Shena discusses healing from codependency to improve your self love and the questions you need to ask yourself to adjust your boundaries.Click here to register for the Building a Self Romance WorkshopReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgOur Sponsors:* Check out eHarmony: https://www.eharmony.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
1/16/2024 • 48 minutes, 46 seconds
#226: Negging is Not Normal (and how to get away from it)
In this episode, Shena talks about what is negging, how it shows up in relationships and affects our self esteem, why we normalize it, and what to do to change this pattern.Register for the Building Self Love & Feel Fulled WorkshopReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor 75 and use my code bgh50 for a great deal: https://www.factor75.com/* Check out eHarmony: https://www.eharmony.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
1/9/2024 • 1 hour, 1 minute, 11 seconds
#225: Being Detached vs Being Avoidant
In this episode, Shena reviews the differences between being non-attached to others opinions and outcomes versus being avoidant, how this contributes to our self esteem and the trauma that gets in the way of moving in this direction.Get the 2024 Winter GuideRegister for the Building Self Love & Feel Fulled WorkshopReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor 75 and use my code bgh50 for a great deal: https://www.factor75.com/* Check out eHarmony: https://www.eharmony.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
1/2/2024 • 53 minutes, 22 seconds
#224: Getting Ourselves Together in 2024 (Mother Trauma, Men, & Money!)
In today's episode, Shena lays out a Winter series to work through our relationship with ourselves, our mothers, our money, and the men & romantic relationships in our lives.Download the free guide at blackgirlsheal.org/2024Register for the trauma healing workshops at blackgirlsheal.org/2024Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor 75 and use my code bgh50 for a great deal: https://www.factor75.com/* Check out eHarmony: https://www.eharmony.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
12/31/2023 • 30 minutes, 3 seconds
#223: [REWIND] You Can't Practice With Unhealthy People
Someone people hang onto people that they shouldn't so they can "practice" their communication and boundary skills on them. In this episode, we're talking about why you shouldn't do that. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor 75 and use my code bgh50 for a great deal: https://www.factor75.com/* Check out Warner Bros: https://www.warnerbros.com/movies/the-color-purpleSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
12/19/2023 • 21 minutes, 11 seconds
4 Therapy Tasks for Love Addicts
In this episode, I talk about 4 tasks I would work with my therapy clients to help heal from love addiction. In this episode, I talk about why these tasks are important for one's growth and healing and moving towards change.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor 75 and use my code bgh50 for a great deal: https://www.factor75.com/* Check out Warner Bros: https://www.warnerbros.com/movies/the-color-purpleSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
12/12/2023 • 47 minutes, 42 seconds
#221: Online Dating, Vulnerability, & Finding Love with Anwar White
In this episode, we're joined by Dating Coach Anwar White to talk about all things online dating, living in your boundaries, leading with vulnerability, interracial dating, and more.CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:Website: GetYourGuyCoaching.comIG: @getyourguy_coachingTiktok: @datingcoachanwarReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor 75 and use my code bgh50 for a great deal: https://www.factor75.com/* Check out Warner Bros: https://www.warnerbros.com/movies/the-color-purpleSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
12/5/2023 • 57 minutes, 12 seconds
December Check In, ADHD, & Affirmations to Focus On
In this episode, I check in and share about my current experience with ADHD, a life update, birthday celebrations, and affirmations I encourage you to focus on going into the New Year.Join the BGH Members Club at blackgirlsheal.org/clubOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor 75 and use my code bgh50 for a great deal: https://www.factor75.com/* Check out Warner Bros: https://www.warnerbros.com/movies/the-color-purpleSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
12/4/2023 • 31 minutes, 15 seconds
#220: How I Left My Unhealthy Relationship
In this episode, I talk about my experience with love deprivation and how it healing it by taking care of myself helped me heal a previous unhealthy relationship.Dating 101 for Love Addicts: http://blackgirlsheal.org/datingThe Love Deprivation Rehab: http://blackgirlsheal.org/lwfCoupon Code: SCHOLARSHIP50 for 50% offEXPIRES: Tues, 11/28/2023Buy both in a Bundle! (no Code Needed): https://shenatubbs.thrivecart.com/black-fridaybundle/Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help youbecome love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find theupgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor 75 and use my code bgh50 for a great deal: https://www.factor75.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
11/28/2023 • 39 minutes, 42 seconds
#219: 8 Tips for Going Outside for Love Addicts & Love Avoidants (New Intro + Update)
In this epiosde, Shena talks about 8 tips to assist love avoidants and love addicts who would like to meet new friends and potential partnerships outside of online dating apps. This episode has great tips for everyone no matter if they are single and looking, happily single and not looking, or partnered.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help youbecome love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor 75 and use my code bgh50 for a great deal: https://www.factor75.com/* Check out The Honey Pot Company and use my code FALL23 for a great deal: https://thehoneypot.co/* Check out eHarmony: https://www.eharmony.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
11/22/2023 • 43 minutes, 52 seconds
#218: 4 Therapy Tasks for Love Avoidants
In today's episode, Shena talks about 4 tasks that every love avoidant can look to achieve in therapy to becoming more love available and open in relationships.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor 75 and use my code bgh50 for a great deal: https://www.factor75.com/* Check out The Honey Pot Company and use my code FALL23 for a great deal: https://thehoneypot.co/* Check out eHarmony: https://www.eharmony.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
11/15/2023 • 48 minutes, 22 seconds
#217: 12 Promises of Hope for Love Addict
In this episode, Shena reviews 12 promises of hope and healing all love addicts can expect as they heal along their journeyOur Sponsors:* Check out The Honey Pot Company and use my code FALL23 for a great deal: https://thehoneypot.co/* Check out eHarmony: https://www.eharmony.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
11/7/2023 • 1 hour, 5 minutes, 7 seconds
#216: 3 Things to Unlearn After an Unhealthy Relationship
After an unhealthy relationship, we may take some unhealthy beliefs with us. In this episode, I go over 3 things to you may need to unlearn after an unhealthy partnership.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgOur Sponsors:* Check out The Honey Pot Company and use my code FALL23 for a great deal: https://thehoneypot.co/* Check out eHarmony: https://www.eharmony.com/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/31/2023 • 50 minutes, 54 seconds
#215: Can a Love Addict & Love Avoidant Make it Work? (3 Ways to Move Forward)
In this episode, Shena talks about can a love addict and love avoidant make it work in a relationship? And if so, the 3 things it takes for them to move forward.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.org Our Sponsors:* Check out The Honey Pot Company and use my code FALL23 for a great deal: https://thehoneypot.co/Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/24/2023 • 38 minutes, 4 seconds
#214: 7 Tips for Dating Post Divorce
In this episode, Shena reviews 7 tips to keep in mind for those who are interested in starting to date post divorce.Click here to enroll in the Dating 101 for Love Addictions CourseCoupon Code: TRANSITION for $50 offReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/17/2023 • 48 minutes, 5 seconds
Now Introducing The Business of Healing Podcast!
We are so pleased to introduce the newest addition to the Black Girls Heal & Shena Lashey healing network: The Business of Healing Podcast!In this podcast episode, Shena introduces the inspiration behind this podcast, it's purpose to support other healers, business professionals and entrepreneurs, and a sneak peak at the trailer.Listen to the Business of Healing Podcast on your favorite podcast player and follow on Instagram at @thebusinessofhealingReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/black-girls-heal/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/15/2023 • 6 minutes, 59 seconds
#213: Is it compatibility or codependency?
In this episode, Shena discusses how to tell if the connection that you're feeling in a relationship is codependency or compatibility.Register for our upcoming open houseReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.org Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/10/2023 • 33 minutes, 8 seconds
#212: What it Feels Like to be Restored
What does it feel like to reach a place of restoration? Past suffering? Past just going through the motions, but actually feeling restored? This episode talks about that experience and what to look out for.Attend the Reclaiming Me Workshop: blackgirlsheal.org/reclaimGet $50 off using the coupon code RECLAIM50 through 10/8/23Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/3/2023 • 42 minutes, 6 seconds
#211: Feeling Safety in Your Body (Reclaiming Me)
In this episode, Shena talks about what does it feel like to find safety in your body and not feel as if you always have to run and do to avoid feelings of insecurity and anxiety.Register for the Reclaiming Me WorkshopReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.org Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
9/26/2023 • 37 minutes, 19 seconds
#210: Building Positive Self Belief
In this episode, Shena focuses on the importance of focusing on the qualities you do want to cultivate and nurture in yourself versus the things you want to leave behind.Join us at the Reclaiming Me Workshop: Click here to registerJoin us at the Recovery School Open House: Click here to registerReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
9/19/2023 • 39 minutes, 55 seconds
#209: How to Use Coaching In Your Healing Process
In this episode, we talk about what it looks like to use coaching as a tool in your healing process and how it differs from therapy.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
9/12/2023 • 46 minutes, 28 seconds
#208: 4 Gains of Being Love Available
In this episode, we will talk about the gains made from moving from being love avoidant to love available in your self love, friendships, and every day life.Register for our next Open House at blackgirlsheal.org/openhouseWednesday, September 20th at 6:30pm CSTReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.org Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
9/7/2023 • 54 minutes, 48 seconds
#207: For Beautiful Ari & All Others Who Feel Not Enough
In this episode, we look at feelings for low self worth, feeling like an imposter, and learning to soothe and care for ourselves in these hard moments.This episode is dedicated to the incomparable Ari Lennox. We love you <3Mentioned In this Episode:Join the BGH Book ClubJoin the BGH Members Club (includes the Book Club)Article: Imposter Syndrome: Why You May Feel Like a FraudReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
9/5/2023 • 1 hour, 13 seconds
#206: Sisterhood Heals with Dr. Joy Harden Bradford
In this episode, we are joined by special guest, Dr. Joy Harden Bradford of Therapy for Black Girls to talk about the importance of sisterhood and how it helps us heal.Learn more about Dr. JoySisterhoodHeals.comTherapyForBlackGirls.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
8/30/2023 • 41 minutes, 13 seconds
#205: Listen to Your Teachers, but Trust Your Gut
In this episode, Shena talks about the importance of listening to your intuition even when you get guidance from trusted leaders and sources. She shares 3 questions to ask yourself to assess if your feelings are coming from you or outside sources.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
8/22/2023 • 50 minutes, 18 seconds
#204: Recovering as a Married Single Mother with Jasmine Chanelle
In this episode, our special guest, Jasmine Chanelle, joins us to talk about her experience as a Married Single Mother, the signs of abuse in the relationship, and life post exit.This is a must listen for every woman wanting to break generational curses and have relationships that build vs dismantle.Connect with Jasmine here:IG: @_jasminechanelleWebsite: JasmineChanelle.comReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
8/15/2023 • 1 hour, 53 seconds
#203: When you feel love deprived and neglect yourself (Roadmap Episode)
In this week's podcast episode, Shena goes over what it looks like to live in Love Deprivation and self neglect and how to move towards being Love Nourished.Download our free roadmap at blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
8/8/2023 • 52 minutes, 5 seconds
#202: Do I tell them I'm a love addict? [repost]
In this episode, Shena goes what are the things you do and do not disclose to someone when first meeting them about your past and what you bring to the relationship.*reposted to adjust for sound quality*Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
8/3/2023 • 52 minutes, 16 seconds
#201: 3 Regrets as a Recovered Love Addict
Following from last week, in today's episode I reflect on the 3 things I would have done differently as a love addict.Ready to Reclaim Who You Are? Join us at the "Reclaiming Me" Workshop: Learn more at blackgirlsheal.org/reclaimReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
7/25/2023 • 1 hour, 2 minutes, 47 seconds
#200: The 5 Steps to Heal from Love Addiction
In today's episode Shena talks about the roadmap to go from being love Addicted to Love balanced. As she revisits these foundational episodes, it is with the hope and intention for us all to reclaim ourselves & grow together.Ready to Reclaim Who You Are? Join us at the "Reclaiming Me" Workshop: Learn more at blackgirlsheal.org/reclaimReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
7/18/2023 • 39 minutes, 47 seconds
#199: Refocusing and Self Love at BGH
In today's episode Shena shares about the exciting changes that are coming to the Black Girls Heal Podcast in hopes to help all of us go deeper in our self love while also creating healthy relationships with others that are good for usReady to Reclaim Who You Are? Join us at the "Reclaiming Me" Workshop: Learn more at blackgirlsheal.org/reclaimReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
7/11/2023 • 39 minutes, 58 seconds
#198: How to Apologize (and When Not to)
In today's episode, we're talking about how to apologize when it's time to make amends and also when not to. It's important to find a balance between self accountability and not apologizing for your own feelings and experiences.Ready to Reclaim Who You Are? Join us at the "Reclaiming Me" Workshop: Learn more at blackgirlsheal.org/reclaimReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
7/5/2023 • 1 hour, 1 minute, 4 seconds
#197: Therapeutic separation with a neglectful partnership
In this episode, we talk about the place that a therapeutic separation may have when found in a neglectful partnership and in need of a reset to determine one's next steps.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
6/27/2023 • 1 hour, 19 minutes, 44 seconds
#196: Allowing those who want to leave to leave
Sometimes we are the ones who choose to cut ties with others and sometimes others are the ones who choose to cut ties with us. In this episode, I talk about 4 things for you to keep in mind when you are the one where someone is choosing to leave relationship with you and how to copeReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
6/20/2023 • 46 minutes, 41 seconds
#195: (Re)training your body to experience good feelings
Learning how to train your body and mind make way for the positives and to focus on good feelings can take some time. In this episode, Shena reviews 3 things you can do to retrain your body to allow yourself to experience good feelings.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
6/14/2023 • 42 minutes, 21 seconds
#194: 3 Ways to Optimize Community (and how to find it)
Our community is our lifeline when it comes to our healing. In this episode, I go over 3 ways to optimize the community you already have and also how to find it if you are still looking for it.Join this month's Town Hall on June 22nd at 6:30pm CST at blackgirlsheal.org/townhallReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
6/6/2023 • 53 minutes, 17 seconds
#193: Family boundaries, money trauma, explosive fights, sexual assault, situationship problems, queer dating and more! (Listener Q&A)
Shena goes in depth in this listener Q&A. In this episode, Shena answers questions about:Boundaries in the midst of family dramaCoping with money & poverty traumaToxic relationships with siblingsSexual assault healing and unforgivenessSituationship dilemmasCoping with emotionally unavailable fathersExplosive breakups and staying friendsDating as a lesbian and finding non toxic womenAnd moreShe shares a limited time 15% discount for registration for The Recovery School Coaching program (enter RECOVERY15 at checkout) through June 7, 2023 at http://www.therecoveryschool.comYou can register to join Shena at her next live Town Hall Coaching Call on Thursday, June 22nd at 6:30pm CST by clicking here: blackgirlsheal.org/townhallClick here to join us at the Portugal Healed and Loved Woman Weekend Intensive by clicking here: blackgirlsheal.org/retreatCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
5/31/2023 • 1 hour, 31 minutes, 23 seconds
Join me in Portugal for our Fall Intensive!
Click here to join us at our Fall 2023 Healed & Loved Woman Weekend Intensive on Friday, September 29, 2023 through Saturday, September 30, 2023Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
5/31/2023 • 10 minutes, 29 seconds
#192: It’s time to work on what you’ve been avoiding
In this Episode Shena shares the importance of facing it all & how it is all connected for your betterment.Even though it's scary and even though you can't work out in your logical mind how it could ever be better, this episode is designed to help you move forward even when it feels too big.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
5/23/2023 • 39 minutes, 19 seconds
#191: The 4 Seasons of Self Love (in Dating)
In this episode Shena talks about the 4 seasons of self love & what that looks like within our relationshipsReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
5/16/2023 • 40 minutes, 52 seconds
#190: 3 Mistakes I Made Dating as a Love Addict (Throwback)
In this episode, Shena revisitsEpisode #99 where she discusses 3 mistakes she made dating as a love addict.Get 20% off your order at LiquidIV.com by using the promo code BGH at checkout!Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
5/9/2023 • 30 minutes, 43 seconds
#189: Mother Enmeshed Men
In todays episode I talk about men who are emotionally enmeshed with their mothers, what it looks like, how it shows up for you if you are in a relationship with them & shedding light on both perspectives and holding healing space for both partiesReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
5/2/2023 • 58 minutes, 58 seconds
#188: Learning to Live in the Goodness
In this episode, Shena talks about lessons learned in this current stage of relationships, places she's learned to receive, and how it's shown up for her in romantic partnerships.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
4/25/2023 • 54 minutes, 22 seconds
#187: The healing is in the repair
In this episode, Shena goes over how the evidence of healing is not in the absence of ruptures, but in he repairs.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
4/18/2023 • 30 minutes, 40 seconds
#186: 7 Steps to Cope with a Situationship Breakup
Even though situationships don't have an official title, breaking one up can still leave you feeling heartbroken. In this episode Shena shares why and the 7 step process on how to cope after a situationship break upReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance?Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
4/11/2023 • 41 minutes, 3 seconds
#185: No Contact + Surrendering in Relationships
In this episode, Shena will talk about the No Contact process and learning how to surrender in healthy romantic relationships vs projecting your trauma.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
4/3/2023 • 56 minutes, 33 seconds
#184: Emotional Anchors & Your Highest Level Self
In this episode, Shena discussed emotional anchors and how to connect to your highest level version of yourself as an emotional resource.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
3/29/2023 • 50 minutes, 33 seconds
#183: Stop Withholding Love and Be Love Available
In this episode, Shena discusses what does it look like to withhold love as a punishment, the consequences of it, and encouragement to move towards love availability.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
3/21/2023 • 41 minutes, 33 seconds
#182: Situationship Singlehood + Asking for What You Want
In this episode, Shena talks about the reality of situationships without commitment and the importance to be clear and honest with yourself about what you want.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
3/14/2023 • 26 minutes, 12 seconds
#180: Coping with Chronic illness (5 encouragements)
In this episode I open up about my journey living with a chronic illness and share encouragements in hope that it supports those with a similar experienceReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
2/28/2023 • 54 minutes, 18 seconds
#179: 3 Signs of an Expired Friendship
Sometimes our friendships may be giving signs that we have outgrown them and they may be a bit toxic for us. In today's episode, we will review signs of an expired friendship that may need to be retired.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
2/22/2023 • 41 minutes, 23 seconds
#178: When They Undervalue You on Valentine's Day (or your Birthday, Anniversary, Etc...)
Todays episode is a re-share of an old episode. It is totally okay for you if the holidays are important for you in a relationship. You deserve to feel special.This episode is in support of women who may have felt overlooked and forgotten by partners on special holidays like Valentine's Day, Birthdays, Anniversaries, and others habitually.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
2/15/2023 • 43 minutes, 38 seconds
#177: Secure Love vs Love Bombing vs Caretaking in Love Languages
In this episode, we're going to look at the difference between Secure Love vs Love Bombing vs Caretaking in the 5 love languages.This topic is in promotion of our upcoming Healing Intensive Workshop on Saturday, February 18, 2023 from 10am to 1pm CST about "Healing Fear & Distrust towards Healthy Men"Click here to registerReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
2/7/2023 • 54 minutes, 52 seconds
#176: 3 Reasons Your No Contact Process is Not Working
In this episode, we follow up on our No Contact Process shared in Episode #160 to discuss the reasons why your no contact may not be working.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
2/1/2023 • 39 minutes, 44 seconds
#175: Making the right decision for yourself on faith
In this episode we are talking about making the right decision for yourself even when it goes against your internal fears & what you have always done before and how to make that move towards yourself and what you actually wantReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
1/24/2023 • 32 minutes, 24 seconds
#174: Healing our Womb & Pelvic Floor with Dr. Alicia Jeffrey-Thomas
Todays episode is part of a womb work and healing series starting with the topic of the pelvic floor with one of my favourite Pelvic Physical Therapist Dr. Alicia Jefferey. We are covering the misconceptions of is area of our health, how to start getting more connected with our bodies and where to find the right supportCONNECT WITH OUR GUESTInstagram - Alicia JeffreyReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
1/18/2023 • 46 minutes, 27 seconds
#173: Betrayal Trauma Emotional Aftercare Support (Pt 2)
In this episode, Shena provides some aftercare support for Ep. 172 that talked about dealing with betrayal trauma for a partner who is struggling with Sex and Porn addiction.Shena talks about letting go of shame, moving towards self forgiveness, and loving yourself first.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
1/11/2023 • 54 minutes, 50 seconds
#172: Dealing with Betrayal Trauma with a Sex Addicted Partner
Today's episode is about dealing with betrayal trauma when you're with a sex addicted partner. Also, how you can get the support as a sex addict and what healing can look like for both partiesReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
1/10/2023 • 59 minutes, 9 seconds
#171: Going from Love Deprivation To Felt Love Worthiness (Stages Of Change)
This in this episode I’m going to be talking about how to go from love Deprivation to Love Worthiness while I walk you through the stages that you can expect on this journeyReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
1/3/2023 • 47 minutes, 26 seconds
#170: Self Love and Dropping the Cape with Michelle Goodloe
In this episode, Michelle Goodloe joins us to talk about what is self love and how to drop the superwoman cape to feel our feelings.CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTPurchase "I Own My Magic"GMichelle.comFollow on InstagramReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
12/29/2022 • 39 minutes, 50 seconds
#169: The Sadness that is Going Around
Sadness is hitting many super heavy this season. In this episode, I talk about some trends I've noticed with this season of sadness.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
12/24/2022 • 39 minutes, 4 seconds
#168: Take Your Time
This week I am re-sharing one of our most loved episodes all about the importance of taking our time in our healing process.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
12/21/2022 • 25 minutes, 14 seconds
#167: Humiliation as a Red Flag
In your relationship, if a partner is humilating you, that is a red flag to pay attention to. Let's talk about what it looks like and why we may miss it in today's episode.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
12/8/2022 • 56 minutes, 52 seconds
#166: When The Person With all the Answers Falls Short
In this episode, Shena talks about what it looks like when the person who's used to having all the answer falls short practices self acceptance and learns to live in her bliss.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
12/6/2022 • 42 minutes, 1 second
#165: 3 Things Learned from Coaching Women
In this episode, Shena talks about 3 things she has learned while building Black Girls Heal and coaching women.Click here to join the Heal(h)er Business MastermindReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
11/30/2022 • 56 minutes, 49 seconds
#164: The Art of Receiving
In this episode, we will talk about the art of receiving and what gets in the way.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
11/17/2022 • 49 minutes, 2 seconds
#163: How childhood emotional neglect leads to love addiction
In today's episode I talk about the impact of childhood emotional neglect and how it leads to the behaviours of love addictionWhether you are connected to love addition, love avoidance or low self esteem, if you are wondering why you continue in the same type of self doubts or keep being attracted to certain types of people, my hope is that this episode gives you the validation that you didn't even know you needed and supports you with the right steps you can start taking todayMENTIONED IN THIS EPISODEBOOK: Running on Empty - Dr Jonice WebbTherecoveryschool.comReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
11/9/2022 • 34 minutes, 7 seconds
For Healers #1: 3 Beliefs for Healing Professionals to Challenge
Being in the business of healing is hard - learning how to balance healing yourself while healing others.In this episode, I review 3 beliefs for your to challenge as a healing professional.RESOURCES MENTIONEDThe Heal(h)er MastermindThe Recovery SchoolReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
11/7/2022 • 40 minutes, 46 seconds
#162: Dealing with Seasons of Conflict
In today’s episode, we’re talking about how to deal when you are in a season of conflict. Whether it be with people from your past or in the present, my hope is that the 4 things I share in this episode will support you navigate this season.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
11/1/2022 • 43 minutes, 10 seconds
#161: Going from Love Avoidant to Love Available
In today's episode, we review going from Love Avoidant to Love Available using the Healed and Loved Woman framework model.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODENo Contact & Detox Support KitThe Recovery School: Self Healing TrackReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/25/2022 • 39 minutes, 9 seconds
#160: The No Contact Process as a Healing Tool for Love Addiction
Let's talk about using a 90 day no contact period as a reset tool to help you gain clarity.We talk about the why and the process within inside.Click here to get the No Contact & Detox KitReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/19/2022 • 1 hour, 11 minutes, 57 seconds
#159: Don't Text Them (Sit on Your F'ing Hands)
In this episode, we're talking to anyone who is currently in a love addictive cycle and needs to pull back to reset and regain their sense of self.This is not a full no contact episode, but just a challenge to pull back and not initiate for week to gain some clarity.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/11/2022 • 45 minutes, 43 seconds
Bonus Episode: October Catch Up with Shena
In this bonus episode, you can catch up with me about the things I am personally learning and applying in my life for pleasure, fun and healing that I'd like to share. A tiny bit of tea is spilled, and though impromptu lessons may happen, this is not a full teaching episode.Feel free to stay and listen if you'd like to learn more about me or binge our archive. Either way, we hope you enjoy!Things Mentioned:Astro.comCosmic Vibrations (the TikTok astrocartographers I follow)Book: The Art of Receiving and Giving by Dr. Betty MartinReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/6/2022 • 55 minutes, 55 seconds
#158: Heart to Heart: Not Losing Your Self in a New Relationship
In this episode, Shena coaches an audience member on how to not lose herself in her new relationship. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/4/2022 • 59 minutes, 25 seconds
#157: Making Running the Household Fair with Laura Danger
What happens when running the household feels imbalanced, unfair, and it's causing discord with you and your partner?In this episode, Laura Danger joins us to talk about the tool of the Fair Play Method and how to implement it into your relationship.Connect with Our GuestWebsite: thatdarnchat.comTiktok: @thatdarnchatInstagram: @thatdarnchatReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
9/30/2022 • 52 minutes, 48 seconds
#156: It Gets Better...
In this episode, we want to normalize that, even though the healing process can be difficult at first, it does get better and evens out.We hope breaking down what happens and what to expect helps you know that the light is coming soon.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
9/22/2022 • 39 minutes, 26 seconds
#155: Setting Unrealistic Expectations Based on Fantasy
Can we "break our own heart" by creating unrealistic expectations for others based on our fantasies of who we want them to be?Let's talk about it in today's episode.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
9/13/2022 • 38 minutes, 19 seconds
#154: The Healed and Loved Woman: From Love Addicted to Love Balanced
It's time for our annual recap of our Healed and Loved Woman Framework. In this episode, we talk about the characteristics of going from being Love Addicted to Love Balanced.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
9/6/2022 • 47 minutes, 42 seconds
#153: When You Like Someone as a Love Avoidant
What does it look like to be available to others after you've been working on your love avoidance symptoms.In this episode, I share 3 tips for those who are starting this journey building relationships in a different way.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
8/30/2022 • 40 minutes, 21 seconds
#152: When You Like Someone as a Love Addict
What does it look like to be balanced and still available after you've been working on your love addiction symptoms.In this episode, I share 3 tips for those who are starting this journey building relationships in a different way.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
8/23/2022 • 43 minutes, 17 seconds
#151: Grieving Being Let Down at Your Big Events
Sometimes family and loved ones don't rise to the occassion and show up for us as we need them to at our big events (i.e. weddings, graduations, birthday parties, child births, etc). This abandonment is a real form of trauma.In this episode, I discuss what to do to emotionally prepare yourself if you have an event coming that you fear you may be disappointed and also coping with your feelings if something hurtful has happened before. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
8/16/2022 • 47 minutes, 46 seconds
#150: Feeling Whatever You Need to Feel About Your Past Relationship
When relationships do not work out (Friendship, romantic, familial, or otherwise) we can have a variety of emotional responses: neutrality, intense longing and love, hatred and rage, and any combination in between.In this episode, we talk about how you are allowed to have whatever emotions you need to have about this relationship in this season. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
8/9/2022 • 34 minutes, 44 seconds
#149: Enabling vs Empowering
In this episode, we talk about the difference between disempowering helping (enabling) and empowerment.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
8/2/2022 • 38 minutes, 33 seconds
#148: Breaking the Habit of Self Criticism
Pulling from the title of the book, "Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself," we're talking about the importance of doing the actions that you have learned to do to create change.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
7/28/2022 • 26 minutes, 6 seconds
#147: Hurt Feelings, Codependency, and Letting What I Give Be Enough
Even healers can overgive and need to be mindful of triggers. I break down a recent event and how it triggered me and next steps I'm taking to move forward. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
7/19/2022 • 39 minutes, 4 seconds
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7/13/2022 • 6 minutes, 43 seconds
#146: 5 Truths for Love Addicts Healing from Heartbreak
Heartbreak is really hard for love addicts. Especially when we're still holding on. This episode is to give 5 truths for love addicts healing for heartbreak.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
6/28/2022 • 37 minutes, 6 seconds
Now introducing our brother podcast, For the Fellas
I'm sooo excited to share the debut of our brother podcast, For the Fellas Click here to listen now on Apple PodcastsFollow our website: forthefellas.orgFollow us on IG: @forthefellaspodcastRESOURCES MENTIONEDJoin our weekly text inspiration list by texting PODCAST to 832-219-7815Enroll in our Coaching Signature Program for single and partnered women: From Addicted & Avoidant to AvailableCome to our next Healed and Loved Woman RetreatCONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHeal TikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
6/19/2022 • 6 minutes, 5 seconds
#145: The Importance of Bids and Repairs in Your Relationship
Pulling from the work of Dr. John Gottman, we talk about the importance of bids and repairs to the health of a relationships.Click here to learn more about Dr. John & Dr. Julie Gottman's work Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
6/14/2022 • 39 minutes, 8 seconds
#144: How to Let Your Partner Have Their Own Feelings
Your partner is their own person with their own feelings. But sometimes those feelings can be triggering to us even when they don't intend it to be.In this episode, we go over 3 things to keep in mind to help you allow your partner to have their own emotional experience. Ready to let your loved ones in or provide space for those who want to love you? Check out the Let Them Love You Workshop to gain skills and make love easier.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
6/7/2022 • 33 minutes, 31 seconds
#143: 5 Signs You Feel Protected in a Relationship
To feel protected in a relationship is one of the biggest blessings but should ALSO be a standard that you hold for every partnership and friendship you have.In this episode, I will talk about 5 signs that you are in a relationship where you are feeling protected and seen. Ready to let your loved ones in or provide space for those who want to love you? Check out the Let Them Love You Workshop to gain skills and make love easier.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
6/2/2022 • 1 hour, 9 seconds
#142: Just checking in with you and sending love
The last few weeks have been tough. I just wanted to send you all some love.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
5/26/2022 • 7 minutes, 49 seconds
#141: Musings about ADHD, Diagnoses, and What Works for Me
Touching base this week in a mini-epiosde talking about learning to take space to figure out what works for me with my ADHD.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
5/17/2022 • 16 minutes, 38 seconds
#140: Your Trauma and Your (Conflictual) Relationship w/ Your Daughter
If you're a mom and have a conflictual relationship with your daughter, part of it *might* be because your unresolved inner child wounds that resurface when faced with a part of yourself you have not embraced.In this episode we're going to talk about what it may look like along with 9 steps for you to take to work through this.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
5/3/2022 • 57 minutes, 1 second
#139: Grieving The Relationship You Never Had With Your Mother
If you have felt sad or disheartened because you haven't been able to build the relationship you want with your mother, this podcast is for you. Let's talk about how to grieve your relationship with your mother even if she is physically present. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
4/26/2022 • 28 minutes, 41 seconds
#138: Getting unstuck via self-forgiveness
Let's break down was living in self forgiveness looks like so we can move forward!Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
4/19/2022 • 28 minutes, 5 seconds
#137: 4 Ways to Exit Love Deprivation
Let's take a deeper look at love deprivation including it's symptoms, the impact of withdrawal, and ways to exit the cycle.Enroll in The Loved Woman Foundations CourseReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
4/13/2022 • 59 minutes, 53 seconds
#136: On Being Triggered (My Repair Episode)
Let's talk about what it looks like when we're triggered, how we respond, and healthier next steps to take.This episode is a replacement of the episode aired earlier this week. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
3/31/2022 • 53 minutes, 35 seconds
#135: Inspiration for You - Bodywork Healing, Motivation, and the Power Inside
We're drawing from our text inspiration messages for this week's episode. We hope you find it inspirational!Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
3/22/2022 • 39 minutes, 22 seconds
#134: Lessons Learned from Divorcing
Making the right decision for yourself is hard, and it can make you go through a lot of back and forth. In today's episode, I talk about some lessons I learned during this process. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
3/15/2022 • 33 minutes, 45 seconds
#133: Finding Your Voice in Your Recovery Journey
As you're recovering, it takes so much work and inner reflection to find your voice and what's true for YOU and the relationships you want to cultivate.In today's episode, we talk with our amazing student Shandalla about the journey she has taken to find her voice and the lessons learned along the way. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
3/8/2022 • 1 hour, 17 minutes, 41 seconds
#132: Asking for What You Need Emotionally in Friendships
To maintain safety and love with your relationships, it's important for you to know how to ask for what you need emotionalyl when sharing with your friends and how to repair when there's a disruption. Let's talk about what that looks like in today's episode! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
3/2/2022 • 24 minutes, 51 seconds
#131: Fighting Perfectionism with Dr. Marcuetta Sims
In this episode, Dr. Marcuetta Sims breaks down what perfectionism looks like in our lives and how to work through it.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
2/22/2022 • 47 minutes, 1 second
#130: When They Undervalue You on Valentine's Day (or you Birthday, Anniversary, Etc...)
It is totally okay for you if the holidays are important for you in a relationship. You deserve to feel special.This episode is in support of women who may have felt overlooked and forgotten by partners on special holidays like Valentine's Day, Birthdays, Anniversaries, and others habitually. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
2/15/2022 • 45 minutes, 7 seconds
#129: Being a Healed and Loved Woman
We are recapping the Healed and Loved Woman Framework to embody being balanced, available, and worthy in our relationships. Click here to join us at our retreats Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
2/8/2022 • 40 minutes, 12 seconds
#127: Internalized Misogyny & Love Addiction
In a current social trend that is pushing misogyny at length as self help, in this episode, we're looking at some common examples of internalized misogyny love addicts and codependents may face due to trauma, examples of alternative mindsets, and encouragement to be kind with oneself and self-forgive while unlearning these patterns. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
1/25/2022 • 54 minutes, 50 seconds
#126: 5 Things I'm Doing to Cultivate Friendships
Five things I'm currently doing to cultivate my friendships in this season in spite of avoidant tendencies.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
1/11/2022 • 1 hour, 4 minutes, 48 seconds
Checking In - It's Okay to be Tired (Covid related)
It's okay to be over it. Checking in a little bit.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
1/6/2022 • 5 minutes, 6 seconds
#124: Why You Gotta Take a Break!
Rest is SOOO important. It's really about how we treat ourselves and how we feel about ourselves.We talk about how not resting is a fight or flight response and the importance of being aggressive about protecting your peace.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
12/7/2021 • 47 minutes, 4 seconds
#122: The 3 Things You Don't Need to Apologize For
There are three things we never need to apologize for. Our boundaries, our identity, and our voice are so important and valuable to us. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
11/23/2021 • 32 minutes, 41 seconds
#121: When You're Afraid to Try Again in Relationships
Have you been procrastinating putting yourself out there and making yourself available to get to know others? Then this one is for you. It's time to stop living in fear and actually create the life you want for yourself.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
11/16/2021 • 39 minutes, 27 seconds
#120: Why Your Deep Intimacy & Trust Should be Earned
Opening up and building trust to others is super important. But also so is being discriminate with who you allow into your heart.In this episode, I talk about why this is important.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
11/3/2021 • 27 minutes, 18 seconds
#119: When You Realize You Were the Toxic One
What do you do when you realize you were the toxic one in a relationship? Let's talk about what it can look like here and also some steps for you to take. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/27/2021 • 51 minutes, 47 seconds
#118: 3 Things I Learned from The Healed and Loved Woman Retreat (About Fear and Hiding)
In this episode, I recap the things I learned from the Healed and Loved Woman Retreat about fear, hiding, and the importance of sisterhood. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/19/2021 • 31 minutes, 52 seconds
#117: How to Host a Relationship Check-In
In this episode, we talk about how to host a relationship check in with your family, friendship, and romantic partnerships. Grab a pen and paper to get started! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/12/2021 • 49 minutes, 35 seconds
#116: Coping When Family and Loved Ones Think Negatively of You
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/5/2021 • 52 minutes, 57 seconds
#115: Answering Your Questions (Part 1)
We're answering listener questions in today's episode! Today's questions talk about addiction, trauma bonds, family conflict, and dating!Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
9/28/2021 • 1 hour, 8 minutes, 1 second
#114: Financial Complacency and Abandonment as a Red Flag
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
9/21/2021 • 1 hour, 4 minutes, 50 seconds
#113: Why Love Addicts are Actually Avoidant
Love Addiction and Love Avoidance are different sides of the same coin and have the same goal in mind. Let's talk about it today!Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
9/14/2021 • 21 minutes, 44 seconds
#112: What to Keep in Mind When You Miss Red Flags
If you’ve missed red flags in a relationship, it’s completely and totally okay. There is no shame in having missed the signs and suddenly realizing that they are there. Which is why I’m sharing what to keep in mind when you miss red flags. Lately, I’ve seen a lot of chatter about women starting to heal and then suddenly seeing the signs of a bad relationship that they’d previously missed. For so many women this noticing leads to feelings of shame and guilt that they didn’t recognize the signs sooner. Stop right there. Instead of heading down the shame spiral, take a moment and be kind to yourself. So you didn’t recognize those signs right off. You do now and that’s what’s important. Be kind, compassionate, and loving to yourself so that you can finally break the cycle. I also want you to know that there is nothing wrong with you. You are not what is broken. Even if you’ve chosen the same type of relationship over and over again, it’s not your fault that you’re being mistreated. Lastly, no matter how long you’ve been in the relationship or where you’re at in life, you have the right to choose how to respond. It doesn’t matter if you’re 10 minutes, 10 days, or 10 years into it, you can change your future by making a new choice. You’re on the path to healing and growth because you see the red flags. What choice will you make now that you know? In this episode: [00:35] Welcome back loved ones![02:22] Have you ever felt regret or shame for missing red flags in relationships? [03:22] When you do notice those red flags, be kind, compassionate, and loving to yourself. [04:26] Do you know what being kind to yourself means? [07:28] I want you to do something different than you've ever done before. [09:36] There is nothing wrong with you.[13:06] Don’t mistake self-accountability and taking ownership with self-deprecation.[13:38] No matter where you are or how long things have been happening, you get to choose how to respond. [15:27] As soon as you decide that you’re ready to get out, that’s all you need.Links & Resources: Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
9/7/2021 • 17 minutes, 25 seconds
#111: 3 Ways to Know You’ve Grown and are Healthier
It’s time to give yourself a pat on the back. One of the things we as women, but especially Black women, don’t do often enough is recognize when we’ve made progress. This is why I’m sharing three ways to know that you’ve grown and are healthier. The reason I decided it was time for this type of episode was because of a conversation I had with one of my coaching students. We were talking about some things going on in her life and she kept prefacing her comments with, “I’m love avoidant…” or “I’m trying to be less love avoidant…” As she was talking I had to stop her and point out that she isn’t love avoidant anymore. She’d made huge progress and was actually approaching various situations in completely new ways and had really stepped away from being love avoidant. The problem was, she couldn’t see it. She didn’t recognize her growth for what it was and continued to see herself as the person she was when she first started her work. Which is why you need to do the work, but then recognize it when you’ve grown. If you’ve started pausing before you react, been more open to alternative viewpoints, and have started feeling your emotions, then you’ve grown. Listen in to hear more and then take a moment to celebrate your growth and give yourself a pat on the back. Even if you’ve only fully stepped into one of these areas, you are on the path to healing and you need to celebrate your milestones. I’m giving you that permission right now! In this episode: [00:51] It’s so important to give yourself credit and recognize that you’ve grown. Learn why![01:27] Why I’m sharing this topic. [04:54] Learn three signs that you have grown and get ready to celebrate them.[06:06] Do you pause before you react? Then you’ve grown![08:41] Have you been more open to seeing alternative viewpoints in a conversation? [11:39] Asking questions and being curious is very helpful in relationships. [13:19] You have a choice when you ask the phrase, “Is that true?” in a conversation. [16:07] Another alternative is acknowledging when you go into fantasy mode while dating. [19:41] Choose the meaning you attach to your emotions and feelings. [20:16] The third sign you’ve grown is that you’re able to feel your emotions and validate them.[22:01] One bonus sign is that you share your emotions with people who are safe. [25:34] Pat yourself on the back and celebrate your growth. Links & Resources: Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
8/31/2021 • 29 minutes, 41 seconds
#110: 4 Ways to Not be Codependent as a Healer
I’m sharing these tips for anyone who is a professional healer. Those of you who are therapists, coaches, crystal workers, healers of all sorts, listen in. But, if you are the sage of your family, perhaps a priest or pastor, or maybe a teacher who hears the burdens of your students, then this is for you as well. As healers, we need to be sure to avoid codependency. What does that mean exactly? As a whole, it means not making your client or family member or student’s journey about you. You cannot superimpose your issues onto their healing. The first way to avoid codependency is by not arguing with people who aren’t ready for transformation. You cannot push people toward healing. They will walk the path toward healing in their own time and you badgering them into it will not make them go any faster. When people share their feelings with you, stop, take a moment, and then ask them what they need from you. Rather than listening and then immediately trying to fix the problem, see what they’re looking to gain by confiding in you first. Also don’t personalize the other person’s progress. Their wins and losses are not reflective of your involvement in their life. It’s their healing journey, not yours so their progress has nothing to do with you. Listen in to hear all four ways plus a little bonus. We all have our own issues to deal with which is why healers also need to have their own healer to go to. Just make sure that you don’t use your relationship with your clients to work on your own baggage. In this episode: [00:34] Being a healer is a privilege in someone’s life no matter if it’s in a personal or professional capacity. [02:27] If you are a healer, it’s important that you don’t expect more from the relationship than it is. [05:38] You do not argue with people who are not ready for transformation. [07:29] This looks like you, making their journey about you. Learn more. [09:56] When people are sharing their feelings with you, you need to pause and ask them what they need from you. [12:30] Don’t personalize your client’s progress. [15:20] Our emotions are so layered and also so simple. [17:52] Stop over-giving, which is not the same as over-delivering. [20:12] If you truly believe in this person, then step out of the way. [22:59] I personally have struggled with over-giving as a coach even though I perfected it as a therapist. [27:01] No matter how hard someone pushes you, you’ll complete things in your own time and space. The same is true with your clients. [30:54] Are you talking with your therapist or coach about your own personal triggers? [32:37] We all have places where we need to learn and grow. [33:05] Why you need to stay focused on your own life. [36:14] As a healer you cannot be possessive or jealous. You don’t need to be someone’s everything. [38:17] Learn how to just say no. Space is okay.[41:26] If you’re a healer, more is not always better. [43:53] How I’m modeling this. Links & Resources: The Four Agreements by Don Miguel RuizReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
8/24/2021 • 41 minutes, 58 seconds
#109: Being Healed and Loved Woman at All Times
It’s that time again. It’s time for a refresher on what it means to be a healed and loved woman as developed in our three part framework. Listen in to hear the framework again and what you need to do to move from love addiction, avoidance, or anorexia to being a healed and loved woman. I’m starting it all off with love addiction. So many women are stuck in a cycle of love addiction and aren’t sure how to get out of it. Oftentimes we think of sex addiction as something separate but it’s really another facet of being addicted to love. It’s just manifested in the physical. When you’re love avoidant you’re perfectly happy to just relax and keep yourself away from love. Many times wives and mothers hide love avoidance through the actions of taking care of others, but you still need love. Love anorexia is a short-lived stage, but it’s one that is prolonged when you’re not balanced. Love anorexia or love deprivation results in women living in a fantasy world. Usually this disorder is triggered by a bad relationship and then swearing off love, but when you live a balanced life you no longer need dramatic swings. Intimacy disorders are complex, but with the right guidance you can leave them behind and live a balanced and fulfilled life. Listen in to hear more. Which of these do you identify with? In this episode: [00:34] Welcome back! Get ready to refresh your knowledge on the Healed & Loved Woman framework. [03:25] Learn more about the three intimacy disorders that I discuss on this podcast. [06:37] The signs of being a love addict. [08:32] Ways sex is used to create a deeper connection but it doesn’t necessarily work. [11:32] Signs that you may struggle with love avoidance. [14:45] Personal attributes you may have when you’re love avoidant. [17:35] Love avoidant women want nothing more than to just relax. [18:14] Do you have love anorexia? [21:56] Love deprived ladies will often build lives built on fantasies. [23:36] How did the term “love anorexia” come about? [26:57] Join our From Avoidant to Available program.[28:33] The swings that love avoidant and love anorexic women will see in their lives. [30:57] A ring does nothing for your internal beliefs. Neither does losing weight or other measures.[31:57] What it looks like when you become a healed and loved woman.[33:15] Learn about balance in your relationships. [35:48] You can like someone without having to be with them. [37:04] What boundaries really should mean and how they should be presented. [38:11] The benefits of being love available.[41:59] The traits of a love available woman. [44:29] What it looks like when you’re living in your love worthiness. [48:01] When you are active in your love worthiness you show up for opportunities to find love.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
8/17/2021 • 52 minutes, 27 seconds
#108: How to Make Adult Female Friendships with Danielle Bayard Jackson
Why is it so difficult for some women to find and maintain healthy female friendships? Joining me today is Danielle Bayard Jackson, The Friendship Expert, to share more about this topic and to help provide actionable advice to get your friendships back on track, even if they’ve fallen off due to the pandemic. Danielle is a publicist by day and a certified friendship coach by night. She started her career as a high school English teacher for many years and was relied upon by her students to help navigate friendship issues. What she didn’t realize is that those “high school dramas” weren’t limited to high school. So often the way we approach friendship and relationships in general at a young age, follows us throughout our lives and experiences. Friendship like any other relationship requires work and nurturing but after more than a year of limited in-person interaction, it may seem daunting to reconnect. Listen as Danielle shares her tips for re-emerging as we reach the end of this pandemic and what you can be doing right now to start working on building new friendships. Remember that there could be people in your existing circle that you’d click with, you just need to give it a chance. Also, just because someone doesn’t have the capacity to spend time with you right now does not mean that they aren’t interested in friendship. Don’t let the stories you tell yourself obscure what could be an amazing relationship. If you’ve struggled in any way with finding strong female friendships, then you won’t want to miss out on everything Danielle has to share.In this episode: [01:01] Welcome friendship coach and expert Danielle Bayard Jackson to chat all about making and maintaining adult female friendships.[04:22] Listen as Danielle shares more about her background and business. [05:24] How did she become a friendship coach? [07:10] Why is it so difficult for us to keep and maintain female friendships in adulthood. [09:14] Danielle shares how she defines and describes a healthy friendship. [13:31] Ways to deal with the waiting period between finding new acquaintances and making new friends. [15:43] There is a study that has attempted to quantify how long it takes to build a friendship.[18:03] What to do when you realize that you don’t feel like you have the energy for friendships. [23:42] Is there a right and wrong to determine how many coins we have available to give?[27:03] The special thing about woman-to-woman friendships. [30:47] Learn the single greatest determining factor of our overall well-being. [32:37] What is your next step after you self-assess and you’re ready to cultivate new friendships? [39:52] The things you shouldn’t do when you slide into someone’s DMs to make a connection. [42:04] When people tell you they aren’t available is not a sign that someone doesn’t like you. [44:49] If you’re willing to be a friend and put in the time, then it’s never too late. [45:19] Connect with Danielle. Links & Resources: Connect with Danielle: Friend Forward PodcastBetter Female Friendships@friendforward on Instagram@thefriendshipexpert on TikTokReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
8/10/2021 • 47 minutes, 54 seconds
#107: Things I Learned During my Hiatus (Adult ADHD, Connecting, Feminine Energy, & More)
I’m back! It’s been a little over a month since I dropped a podcast episode and I've taken the time to do some deep soul searching. Listen in to hear all the things I’ve learned about myself both professionally and personally and what that means for you and the future of Black Girls Heal.Probably the most important part of my hiatus was self-assessing my ADHD. I’ve spent years wondering whether or not I have ADHD. Every time I hear someone talk about the symptoms or describe their lives, I immediately think that they’re talking about my life. So, when one of my business mentors released a podcast episode describing their journey with ADHD, I decided it was time. I took several self-assessments and they all told the story of my ADHD. I then made an appointment with a psychiatrist to formalize my diagnosis and to be prescribed medication. My doctor agreed that I do indeed have ADHD, specifically inattentive ADHD, but unfortunately I cannot take any medication at this time. Now I’m looking for ways to treat this in a naturopathic way, but my goal is to elevate my overall health so that I can, someday soon, be placed on medications to help me with my activities of daily living. But that’s not all. This hiatus was a necessity for my life and business. Listen in to hear all about my revelations and what I focused on during the hiatus. I’m feeling better than ever and I cannot wait to get back into the swing of things and help women, specifically Black women, to heal. In this episode: [00:34] Welcome back to the Black Girls Heal podcast![02:15] I took this time to go through the Recovery School curriculum. [03:26] It was also a time to self-assess for ADHD and get clear on what I’m manifesting.[05:08] Self-care was a huge focus for me during the hiatus as was personal development. [06:08] I sought clarity around how I help women publicly and privately. [07:57] I’ve suspected for several years that I qualified for the inattention version of ADHD, so I decided it was time to dig deeper. [11:52] How I approached my self-assessment and treatment. [14:09] The things I checked off as it applies to inattentive ADHD. [18:57] After all this work, I’m not able to take ADHD medication. [23:04] Why I want to be able to take medication in addition to natural therapies. [26:54] I do not want to see black people continue to struggle with their mental health when they need more than therapy, yoga, or prayer. [29:00] Stepping into my feminine energy has helped heal broken areas of my life. [32:00] I’m planning to head out to New York because travel is great for my soul, especially because my trips allow me to connect with students. [34:30] I’ve started dropping my excuses around exercise as self-care. [36:55] Be careful about the things that you say you’ll never participate in. [38:15] The last few things I focused on during the hiatus revolved around the business. [40:26] I’ve been wanting to start a YouTube channel for a long time, and I’m ready to do it, but in a different format. [42:30] I am launching a planner. Listen to learn what this planner is built to do for women everywhere. [44:42] I’m revealing the name of the new business and who this planner is for. [46:32] How I used the hiatus to confront and overcome my own impostor syndrome. [48:17] Stay tuned for all of these updates. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
8/3/2021 • 1 hour, 6 minutes, 38 seconds
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I'm going on vacation!Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
6/24/2021 • 8 minutes, 23 seconds
#106: When They Break Up With You Because You ‘Deserve Better’
Something I see a lot with the women that I serve is this stressful and conflicting scenario of hearing the phrase “you deserve someone better”. This is a phrase that is commonly used when someone, particularly a romantic partner, seeks to cut ties with us. In today’s episode, I’m sharing helpful and encouraging advice about finding the message within that particular message. I share 3 messages that you should know when you hear phrases such as “you deserve someone better,” or “it’s not you, it’s me”. I discuss why accepting this phrase stems from a low sense of self-worth, and a one-sided negotiation that only happens within yourself. It can be easy to personalize and internalize this message. And my hopes with today’s episode is that I provide a new perspective to this roller coaster of a scenario. This is a common situation many of us find ourselves in at one point or another. So listen to this episode as many times as you need, share it with a friend or family member, and take the messages that resonate with you.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
6/22/2021 • 24 minutes, 40 seconds
#105: Going Thru Transition is Okay
It seems like we're all in a place of transition right now, trying to determine our new normal. Hear some encouragement about why transitioning is totally okay.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls Heal Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
6/15/2021 • 14 minutes, 4 seconds
#104: The 12-Step Experience for Sex and Love Addicts
Personally speaking, my experience with the 12-step philosophy for sex and love addicts was so healing and helpful. You might not be aware, but there are sex and love addicts anonymous programs that provide great transformation and inspiration when done well. In today’s episode, I’m sharing my experience and my story going through the 12-step method for sex and love addicts. I share the transformations I experienced and the inspirations I’ve walked away with, allowing me to infuse a lot of the teachings and filling the gaps that needed to be filled in my work. I hope this episode will give you more insight into my experience with sex and love addicts anonymous. Listen to my story and hear what you can expect if you’re looking to get invested in this yourself. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
6/8/2021 • 48 minutes, 19 seconds
#103: How to Know When You Are Done with Your Healing Process
One of the most common questions I get from my clients as we start working together is “how do I know when this is all going to be over?” The truth is many of my clients are dealing with terrible, horrific, and painful stuff that they don’t want to deal with anymore. In today’s episode, I share the answer that I’ll give to you if you find yourself asking the same question. It’s not the prettiest answer, but it’s the best answer I have for you. I also share some smaller ways of noticing the real impact happening in your life. Healing is not black and white, and the idea of never having any issues or disappointments in your relationships, bank account, and other aspects of your life is unrealistic. It is my hope that the 3 different steps I share with you will help you notice just how far you’ve come and are continuing to go with your healing process. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
6/1/2021 • 16 minutes, 34 seconds
#102: 3 Mistakes Made as a Love Avoidant in Marriage
This week, we’re finishing up our series on mistakes that I’ve made in my intimacy disorders and my relationship history. In this episode, I’m sharing the 3 mistakes that I’ve made as a love avoidant in my committed partnerships, including my marriage. Love avoidance is the persistent act of putting up walls with loved ones, as if we were holding up an invisible shield. Some of us loudly declare our love avoidance by announcing that we have a hard time trusting people. Some of us might hide our voices well, but no one really gets to know the real us. Although I’ve been more of a love addict in my past, where I overcompensated and made myself more emotionally available, what ended up happening was I fueled my love addictive behaviors. From learning how to access my feelings to involving my partner into my every day life, this episode will uncover my mistakes in an attempt to help others identify the core lack of skills of knowing how to be truly intimate with people and partners. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
5/25/2021 • 24 minutes, 35 seconds
#101: 3 Mistakes Made as a Love Addict in Marriage
So many of the teachings that I share on this podcast are targeted situations for single women. This week, I’m talking about how intimacy disorders, particularly love addiction, show up in committed relationships. This episode will define what being a love addict means as I share how my love addiction shows up in the forms of seeking constant verbal affirmation, making myself available to becoming who my committed partners wanted me to be, and my over-commitment to “fixing it,” even if they were red flags. These 3 mistakes that I’ve made as a love addict come from my personal experience, strength, and understanding. And I’m sharing them in the hopes of helping others find resilience, community, and comradery with those who share the same experience. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
5/18/2021 • 29 minutes, 39 seconds
#100: 3 Mistakes I Made Dating as a Love Avoidant
When I was dating, I made a lot of mistakes related to how I presented in my intimacy disorders. This week, I'm talking about how my love avoidance showed up for me in my relationships. For me, my personal experience and how that connected to my religious education really amplified a lot of my avoidance which is also discussed. This episode will not span all of the ways love avoidance can show up in relationships as that as been discussed in previous episodes. But we hope these real experiences will help validate and give solace to the women who need to hear these stories represented. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
5/12/2021 • 41 minutes, 14 seconds
#99: 3 Mistakes I Made Dating as a Love Addict
Our intimacy disorders show up in different ways at different stages of our relationships. In this episode, I recount some ways that my love addiction showed up in hopes of identifying any set backs you may be experiencing as well. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
5/6/2021 • 31 minutes, 47 seconds
#98: The Importance of Self Care f/ Les Alfred
Knowing how to prioritize ourselves and practice self care is SO important for our healing process. In this episode, Les Alfred of Balanced Black Girl joins us to talk about what this looks like for us in our daily life. CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTLes's IG: @balancedlesBalanced Black Girl IG: @balancedblackgirlhealpodcastBalanced Black Girl Website: BalancedBlackGirl.com Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
4/29/2021 • 43 minutes, 9 seconds
#97: Identifying Codependent Patterns in Your Everyday Life
We can be codependent in many other areas outside of our interpersonal relationships. In this episode, we will break down what that may look like. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
4/22/2021 • 37 minutes, 10 seconds
# 96: Grieving Childlessness by Singleness & Circumstance
In this episode, we talking about how women who want to have children biologically can cope with childlessness by circumstance. Our amazing guest Yvonne John talks about coping with the grief of childlessness and infertility. CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTFindingMyPlanB.Wordpress.comGateway-women.comInstagram: @y.vonnejBook: Dreaming of a Life Unlived Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
4/15/2021 • 1 hour, 1 minute, 49 seconds
#95: For the Fellas: Black Men, Trauma, Intimacy, & Connecting
In this episode, we're going to talk about trauma and how it shows up in men, impacts their self worth and their relationships. The episode is created for men to find connection but also for the women who love them who hear and understand their experience as well. We hope this helps continue the healing conversations between the us. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
4/13/2021 • 46 minutes, 52 seconds
#94: Our Relationship With Food, Trauma, and Self Soothing f/ Dr. Ebony Butler
In this episode, we talk about body love, the connection between food and trauma, and the importance of unlearning diet culture.CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTIG: @drebonyonlineWebsite: drebony.comMytherapycards.com Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
4/8/2021 • 59 minutes, 15 seconds
#93: Healing Your Mother Wound
Our mother relationship is our first relationship as we come into this world. As a result, if we have unresolved trauma, it will manifest in how we see ourselves, how we see others, and what we pass down to future generations. We talk about it today, where it comes from, and what to do with it, with our special guest, Jennifer Arnise. CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTWebsite: BlackMotherWound.comInstagram: @blackmotherwound Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
3/23/2021 • 54 minutes, 37 seconds
#92: How to Tell if a Relationship is Safe For Your Healing
How can we tell if a relationship, institution, coach, or influencer is safe for our healing? Let's talk about it in today's episode. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
3/18/2021 • 36 minutes, 3 seconds
#91: Dimming Your Light For Self Protection
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
3/9/2021 • 28 minutes, 45 seconds
#90: 5 Reasons You Need to Apologize
When it comes to embodying a Healed and Loved Woman to have healthy relationships, self accountability, honesty, and apologies are part of the deal. In this episode, we explore 5 reasons you may need to be the one who apologizes FIRST.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
3/2/2021 • 31 minutes, 34 seconds
#89: Coping + When It's Hard to Let Go (Reshare)
As we recover from the 2021 Texas Winter Storm, we're resharing one of our most popular episodes. In support of any listeners who are also recovering, we spend a few minutes at the beginning of the episode validating your emotions and feelings as you rebuild.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
2/23/2021 • 31 minutes, 51 seconds
#88: Self Care While Dating with Francesca Hogi
For single women who are actively dating or considering dating, self care is crucial as the dating experience can be so triggering. Join me and Francesca Hogi as she tells us how to prioritize self care while dating.CONNECT WITH FRANCESCAFrancescahogi.comTrueLoveSociety.comClubhouse / IG: @dearfranny Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
2/17/2021 • 1 hour, 7 minutes, 54 seconds
#87: Connecting to Black Women After Being Rejected for Not Being Black Enough
If you grew up in a mostly white or non-black setting and experienced peer trauma for "not being Black enough," sometimes it shows up as fear of rejection from other black women as an adult. In this episode, we talk about that, some items to keep in mind, and steps to take to heal and work through that.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
2/11/2021 • 42 minutes, 4 seconds
#86: 5 Reasons You Need to Heal in a Group
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
2/5/2021 • 35 minutes, 30 seconds
#85: Healed and Loved Meditation & Affirmations
We're wrapping up the last part of the Healed and Loved Woman series with a short meditation and affirmations for you to use in your daily life to call forth the concepts we teach on here. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
1/28/2021 • 19 minutes, 18 seconds
#84: From Love Deprived to Love Worthy (Re-Uploaded)
For our last component of the Healed and Loved Woman Framework, we are looking at going from love deprivation to feeling love worthy. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
1/23/2021 • 51 minutes, 24 seconds
#83: From Love Avoidant to Love Available
In this week's episode, we're looking at the second component of the Healed and Loved Woman Framework™, how to go from being love avoidant to love available. Listen now to learn more. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
1/17/2021 • 40 minutes, 33 seconds
#82: From Love Addicted to Love Balanced
We're breaking down the Healed and Loved Woman Framework starting with the first diamond - Being Love Balanced vs Love Addicted. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
1/6/2021 • 27 minutes, 28 seconds
#81: Coping with Lack of Closure
To close out the year, we're going to talk about how to gain closure in different types of relationships where closure may not be possible. We hope you find this helpful in case you relate to any of the causes of lack of closure! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
12/29/2020 • 36 minutes, 13 seconds
#80: 8 Lessons I Learned in 2020
In this episode, I review 8 lessons I learned in 2020 and what I'm taking with me and Black Girls Heal into 2021. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
12/22/2020 • 48 minutes, 25 seconds
#79: Lessons Learned Healing from Love Avoidance [Student Highlight]
In this episode, our student, Rolanda, shares her story, inspiration, and hope that she's found healing from love addiction. Sis is a story teller and so gifted at uplifting others. We hope that this episode is uplifting to you as well. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
12/16/2020 • 57 minutes, 16 seconds
#78: Dating After Heartbreak
If you've had your heart broken and you're trying to determine if you even want to date again, we talked about three possible mindset shifts for you to consider to help you get there. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
12/9/2020 • 29 minutes, 34 seconds
#77: Getting Ahead of Her Codependency [Student Highlight]
Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
12/1/2020 • 34 minutes, 45 seconds
#76: 3 Reasons Self Love is the Best Love
When it comes to the "right" type of love, focusing on our self love is the best love we can give ourselves this holiday season. In this episodes, we talk about 3 reasons that's the case. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
11/26/2020 • 25 minutes, 2 seconds
#75: Make Your Family Support Plan (for the Holidays)
Let's do this! It's the holidays and you need support on how to make the most out of this time. If that's you, listen to this episode to learn how to make a holiday support plan for yourself. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
11/24/2020 • 23 minutes, 47 seconds
#74: 3 Mistakes From Not Owning Your Value
It's important that in ALL things you own your value - relationships, dreams, career, and beyond. In this episode, I talk about 3 mistakes that happen when you don't own your value and don't know how to esteem yourself. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
11/17/2020 • 32 minutes, 42 seconds
#73: Processing of Post-Election Disappointment in Supposed Allies
In this episode, I process my post election disappointment in supposed allies and how I'm coping with that. For more tips on coping, look at episode #52: Healing Our Unavailable Relationship with Whiteness. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
11/11/2020 • 39 minutes, 41 seconds
#72: 10 Points of Healing for a Love Addict
Ready for a checklist of items to look out for when healing from love addiction to becoming a healed and loved woman? If so, I GOT YOU!Check out this episode as we dig in to 10 Points of Healing for a Love Addict. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
11/3/2020 • 1 hour, 25 minutes, 54 seconds
#71: How to Be a Good Girlfriend
In this episode, we are pulling lessons from iconic tv shows about life, friendship, and love. Today, we are taking a deep dive into the pilot episode of the hit TV show, Girlfriends. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/27/2020 • 42 minutes, 21 seconds
#70: What if I Can't Get Better [Student Highlight]
You're doing your healing process (or you're thinking about starting) and you have this fear about what if I can't get better? What if this is all I will ever be? What if I try to change but don't actually improve?This can make you feel defeated before you even start. In this episode, we're going to talk about what those pauses mean and how they are actually proof of your improvement. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/20/2020 • 29 minutes, 46 seconds
#69: The 4 Types of Love Addicts
Not all intimacy disorders are created equal. In this podcast episode, we talk about the 4 different types of love addicts!Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/13/2020 • 47 minutes, 4 seconds
#68: Mindfulness & Healing Your Trauma f Valerie Ritchie
When healing the trauma that causes disruption in how we connect to others and ourselves, we have to start with paying attention to our bodies and what is it that we truly need. Mindfulness is a tool that will help us get there.Join me and guest expert Valerie Ritchie as we talk more about the importance of incorporating mindfulness in healing our trauma. Follow Valerie RitchieIG: @vibrantlifecollectivebyvalWebsite: https://www.vibrantlifecollective.com/Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/6/2020 • 45 minutes, 26 seconds
#67: When You're the Friend Who Can't Get it RIght
Are you the friend who constantly has relationship issues and you can't get it right? Feeling some shame about it and as if you're permanently flawed? You don't have to feel that way.This one is for you! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
9/30/2020 • 29 minutes, 36 seconds
#66: Changing and Learning New Lessons
In our life, we are GOING to change, and we have to adjust with those transitions along with learn the lessons that stage is trying to teach us. We dig into this concept more along with practicing humility and owning your power. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
9/22/2020 • 29 minutes, 38 seconds
#65: You're Worth It (Student Highlight)
In this episode, we have a student highlight and then focus on the fact that YOU are worth it and the stories that may get in the way of us believing it. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
9/16/2020 • 34 minutes, 24 seconds
#64: Stop Testing Yourself
In this episode, we talk about walking the fine line of going back to old behaviors (and relationships) to test yourself and see if you've healed.... and basically why you shouldn't do that. Take a listen to dig into this hot topic! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
9/8/2020 • 27 minutes, 53 seconds
#63: Take Your Time
We can be impatient with our healing process, but it's so important for us to take our time. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
8/25/2020 • 20 minutes, 30 seconds
#62: Therapy vs Coaching When Healing From Love Addiction
If you are wanting to do coaching while you do therapy or vice versa to heal from love addiction, this episode is for you. Shena breaks down the different responsibilities and roles of your therapist versus your coach when healing from your intimacy disorder. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
8/11/2020 • 1 hour, 19 minutes, 49 seconds
#61: The Four Communication Styles with Kourtney Dubois
Let's talk about how we communicate and where it comes from! In this podcast episode, we talk with Relationship Coach Kourtney Dubois about how to communicate in a healthy way and the three styles that may keep us stuck. Connect With Our Guest CoachMeKourtney.com/ Take the Communication Style QuizInstagram: @CoachMeKourtney_10% off any service or package with the code: BGH Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
8/4/2020 • 47 minutes, 59 seconds
#60: Grieving Who You Thought They Were
When you have to face the truth of a relationship, you will experience some sadness. We dig into that truth in this week's episode. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
7/28/2020 • 18 minutes, 18 seconds
#59: Why They're Treating You the Way They're Treating You
You were so in love, but things have changed. Y'all were best friends, but now it feels like she betrayed you. And while things change in relationships all of this time, this was one where you didn't expect it to be this way. It's totally blind-sided you. In this episode, we're going to talk about why they're treating you the way they're treating you. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
7/21/2020 • 36 minutes, 8 seconds
#58: Living A life With Regrets
Many of us can relate to having a few regrets. But what happens when you feel frozen by them and ruminate?In this episode, we talk about moving forward, making new meaning, and understanding that everything that is for you is for you! You have not missed your opportunity. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
7/14/2020 • 38 minutes, 42 seconds
#57: Dealing with Feeling Unsatisfied (Student Highlight w/ Tahirah)
Sometimes we deal with feeling empty and unsatisfied. Sometimes we don't even realize it! In this week's episode, we dive into exactly what feeling unsatisfied looks like and haw to heal from it. We speak with a current student of the Black Girls Heal Recovery School program and hear how this feeling presented its self in her life. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
7/7/2020 • 44 minutes, 52 seconds
#56: Starting a Healing Circle
In this episode, we break down how to start creating your own healing circles. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
6/24/2020 • 53 minutes, 38 seconds
#55: Practicing Gratitude (Even When It's Hard)
A new episodeReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
6/18/2020 • 28 minutes, 5 seconds
#54: Building Supportive Friendships for Healing
When it comes to healing intimacy disorders, you HAVE to have a good group of friends to support you. In this podcast episode, I talk about how to discern who would be healthy fits to support your journey.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
6/10/2020 • 26 minutes, 19 seconds
#53: Healing Our Unavailable Relationship with Whiteness
We have a dysfunctional relationship right now with whiteness & white supremacy. In this episode, I talk about it and 5 steps to heal from the impact of racial trauma. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
6/2/2020 • 49 minutes, 36 seconds
#52: Make the Decision to Start (Student Highlight)
Sometimes the hardest decision is to start... especially if everything looks like it is going well. In this episode, we look at how this showed up for one of my students in hopes it will help inspire you to get started as well. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
5/26/2020 • 32 minutes, 13 seconds
#51: Who Do You Want to Be in Your Relationship
Continuing our "Couples Month" focus in May, this week, we're talking about how to focus on who you want to be and how you want to show up in relationships.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
5/19/2020 • 26 minutes, 35 seconds
BONUS: This One is About Racial Trauma
Racial trauma hits different. It goes deep, affects our bodies, and our peace. In this episode, I talk about how it's been affecting me, and some resources I have found. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
5/14/2020 • 43 minutes, 20 seconds
#50: 3 Ways to Maintain a Healthy Relationship
So you have a relationship and you want to make sure you do your part to keep it healthy even though you struggle with an intimacy disorder? Awesome! Let's talk about how. We dig into that and 3 ways to keep ownership of your own healing. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
5/12/2020 • 25 minutes, 34 seconds
#49: The 4 Things Breaking Up Your Relationship
When it comes to improving our relationship health, we have to look at OUR part and what we may be contributing to the relationship. We'll be digging into 4 things to look out for and how it may be connected to your trauma.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
5/5/2020 • 37 minutes, 55 seconds
#48: 3 Ways to Know It's Safe to Reconnect
If there's someone in your life you're wanting to reconnect with (or them with you), this episode is for you to determine if it is safe for you to restart that relationship. Listen to 3 things that you must have in place to make sure both your heart and theirs is protected. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
4/29/2020 • 26 minutes, 25 seconds
#47: You Can't "Practice" With Unhealthy People
Someone people hang onto people that they shouldn't so they can "practice" their communication and boundary skills on them. In this episode, we're talking about why you shouldn't do that. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
4/14/2020 • 27 minutes, 21 seconds
#46: Understanding and Honoring Your Trauma Response
Everyone deals with stress and trauma a little differently... and that's okay.Take a listen to this podcast episode to learn more about your response and finding balance. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
4/7/2020 • 23 minutes, 20 seconds
#45 - Why You Can't Take Everyone's Advice
In this episode, I talk about why it's so important to talk to people who get it. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
4/1/2020 • 43 minutes, 44 seconds
#44: A Reminder in Case You Need It
In case you need a reminder of your worth and encouragement to keep moving, here it is! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
3/25/2020 • 17 minutes, 16 seconds
#43: Looking for Corona Bae, Swiping, and Coping with Current Stressors
In the words of Cardi B, "[Things] are getting real." Some of us are going to have a lot more time with ourselves and some of us are going to be tempted to go to unhealthy coping mechanisms. This episode will focus on showing up as your best self and not using relationships to cope with triggers. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
3/17/2020 • 36 minutes, 2 seconds
#42: Wanting (Needing) to be Loved is Not Being Spoiled
We have an unclear definition of what it means to be spoiled and the words that we speak over each other. We talk about it this episode!Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
3/10/2020 • 30 minutes, 28 seconds
#41: Is Shame Controlling You?
In this episode, we talk about if your shame is controlling you and if you're reacting outwardly or inwardly. We also dig into whether or not you may be projecting your shame.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
3/3/2020 • 24 minutes, 54 seconds
#40: How to Connect Without Losing Yourself
Sometimes, even when you want to connect and let your walls down, fear gets in the way. We talk about it here! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Intellectual trauma can impact how we show up in the world, how we feel about ourselves, and truly block us. In this podcast episode, I help one of my students walk through it! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
2/18/2020 • 49 minutes, 9 seconds
#38: The Label DOES Matter
When working to have clarity in your relationships, first thing we gotta start with is the label. In this episode, we talk about why labels DO matter and how going without them can be connected to retriggering your trauma.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
2/11/2020 • 36 minutes, 36 seconds
#37: Maybe It's You
If you've battled with consistent relationship issues, instead of look at how other people may be the issue, it might be important to look at yourself. Maybe YOU'RE the issue.We dig into it in this podcast episode.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
2/4/2020 • 40 minutes, 55 seconds
#36: Sex as an Attachment Issue
If you've struggled with some issues with regards to your sexuality and sex life, it may be based on your attachment and unresolved trauma.I talk about the ways I've seen it show up in women here. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
1/23/2020 • 44 minutes
#35: Avoiding Our Personal Potholes
How do you learn from your mistakes? How do you avoid falling into your own personal potholes? We talk about it in this episode!Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
1/14/2020 • 20 minutes, 31 seconds
#34: You Can Change Your Mind
Part of healing includes knowing you can change your mind! Let's talk about it today! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
1/7/2020 • 16 minutes, 4 seconds
#33: You Have the Power
YOU have the power to change your life. You are your own superhero.Love you so much and Happy New Year!Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
12/31/2019 • 20 minutes, 36 seconds
#32: Top 5 Episodes of 2019
Whether your a newbie or a Day 1, this episode is going to recap the most popular podcast episodes of 2019 and give you a place to start should you be looking to catch up.I go over YOUR top 5 episodes of 2019 and also my top 5 favorites. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
12/24/2019 • 19 minutes, 45 seconds
#31: Creating Your Own Traditions
If you're a love addict and are feeling the pain this holiday season waiting for when your time will come, this episode is for you!Take a listen as Shena talks about starting your own tradition now. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
12/17/2019 • 17 minutes, 26 seconds
#30: My Top 2 (Conflict) Communication Tips
In time for the holiday season, I'm sharing my top two communication tips to help you share what you're feeling and avoid escalating conflict.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
12/12/2019 • 24 minutes, 44 seconds
#29: 3 Things to Keep in Mind When Making A Mistake
Oof!! Have you ever messed up and battled with shame on how it made you look, what it meant about you, and if you could ever recover?If so, this episode is for you. Join us as Shena talks about 3 things for you to keep in mind whenever you make a mistake. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
12/3/2019 • 30 minutes, 25 seconds
#28: Boundary Hangovers
Ever feel guilt, shame, or self-doubt after setting boundaries with someone? Don't worry! You're normal. We talk about it more in this episode! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
11/26/2019 • 29 minutes
#27: Ask Shena #1: Staying Present in a Healthy Relationship, Managing Fears and Expectations of Motherhood
We are starting a new segment of the podcast called "Ask Shena" where listeners get a chance to have a mini-call with Shena. This episode, being the first, talks about why we are adding this to the podcast, shares the call with listener "Allie", and follows with final thoughts from Shena afterwards. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
11/19/2019 • 38 minutes, 49 seconds
#26: False Intimacy
Do you move quickly too soon in relationships? Ever wonder why? Take a listen to this episode to pause, regroup, and learn how to build intimacy in a healthy way. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
11/15/2019 • 28 minutes, 15 seconds
#25: Trauma Bonds
Trauma bonds! Where do they come from? Why are they so hard to get rid up? What's the difference between a trauma bond and being in love. We did into all of that AND more in this weeks episode. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
11/5/2019 • 26 minutes, 30 seconds
#24: The Importance of Self Forgiveness
Forgiveness isn't just something we do for and with other people. Forgiveness is a critical part of self healing and recovery. We did into different facets of it today. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/29/2019 • 26 minutes, 58 seconds
#23: 3 Traps We Fall Into When Forgiving Others
In this episode, we do a quick breakdown of the importance of forgiveness for our healing process. We also dig into 3 traps we fall into when forgiving others.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/22/2019 • 31 minutes, 37 seconds
Check in!
Just a check in while we get some great things ready for you!Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/16/2019 • 5 minutes, 2 seconds
#22: Building Self Compassion with Sarah Suzuki
In this episode, Sarah Suzuki of Chicago Compass Counseling breaks down what it means to build self compassion. She gives us practical tips on working through our shame cycles and how to practice self love.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
10/9/2019 • 40 minutes, 2 seconds
#21: Manifestation & Mindset
In this episode, we get into how manifestation is connected to your inner healing.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
9/24/2019 • 36 minutes, 33 seconds
#20: When It's Hard to Let Go - Q&A
In this special episode, we take a listen to the Q&A about podcast episode #4 - When It's Hard to Let Go. In this episode, we cover boundaries and how to create healthy space in family, romantic, and friend relationships. Sign up for the Black Girls Heal Retreat!BlackGirlsHeal.org/Retreat Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
9/16/2019 • 34 minutes, 43 seconds
#19: Are You Changing Or Just Thinking About Changing?
Where are you in the stages of change? Are you actually changing or just thinking about it?We dig into it this episode and also how to help you get to the next level. Article referenced: The 6 Stages of Behavior Change Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
9/10/2019 • 43 minutes, 15 seconds
#18: 4 Things That Are Blocking You From Change
Are you ready for change? In this two-part series, we get into 4 mindsets that may be blocking you from change. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
9/2/2019 • 32 minutes, 11 seconds
#17: What is Withdrawal?
Ever wonder what that deep, painful feeling is that happens after you break up as a love addict? Ever feel that it hits you differently than others and you wonder why?Well, you're not imagining it. It's called withdrawal, and you can get through it.Take a listen and learn more about what it is, why it happens, and next steps you can take to recover. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
8/27/2019 • 40 minutes, 54 seconds
#16: Healing Codependency
In this episode, we dig into what is codependency, where does it come from, and what you can do to unlearn it. We also spend time talking about what it looks like when we encourage people to be codependent on us and next steps we can take with them as well. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
8/19/2019 • 35 minutes, 56 seconds
#15: Is it Time to Go Back to Therapy?
So you've been to therapy before and you're wondering if maybe you need to go back? This episode will help you determine if so and give some advice to surpass the mindset blocks keeping you away. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
8/12/2019 • 35 minutes, 16 seconds
#14: 3 Things Avoidants Can Do To Make Their Lives Better
In this episode, we go over what is love avoidance, how it looks in relationships, and 3 things you can do to unlearn it and improve your connection to others and yourself today.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODELisa Palac's WebsiteSign up for the Spending and Debting Money Rehab waitlist Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
8/5/2019 • 57 minutes, 40 seconds
#13: Identifying Your Feelings (With an Intimacy Disorder)
Determining how we feel is vital to showing up for ourselves with self-love, showing up as our own person in relationships, and getting what we need. But it can be hard to get in touch with our feelings if we have spent years suppressing them or self-medicating. In this episode, I talk about how it may look like to shut down your feelings with an intimacy disorder and how to start the process of feeling your emotions again or for the first time. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:The Iceberg Video"Going on a Bear Hunt" Children's SongReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
7/29/2019 • 31 minutes, 42 seconds
#12: When Trauma Shuts You Down in Relationships
Unresolved trauma gets stuck in your body and not only will affect you individually (mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically), but also in your relationships as well.In this episode, we dig into how it may look. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
7/22/2019 • 23 minutes, 15 seconds
#11: When Living in Your Head Soothes You
Fantasy and living in our heads are fancy coping mechanisms that keep us emotionally safe but also keeps us stuck. In this episode, we break down what fantasy may look like in your everyday life, how it keeps you from the life you want, and a practical step you can take to start to undo it.Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
7/18/2019 • 22 minutes, 53 seconds
#10: 3 Ways to Know It's Time to End a Relationship (Summer Reset)
Let's get the second half of your year (or whenever you are listening to this podcast) in gear by knowing if it's time for your relationship to come to a pause or keep it going. Listen for 3 key signs to know whether to keep going or possibly end it. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
7/2/2019 • 47 minutes, 5 seconds
#9: Avoiding a Victim Mentality in Relationships
In this episode, we talk about what is a victim mentality, how might it show up in relationships, and what to do about it! 23 Signs You’re Suffering From a Victim MentalityReady to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
6/19/2019 • 37 minutes, 8 seconds
#8: Letting Others In (The How To's & Roadblocks)
Letting others in is hard. We can be afraid of being hurt, let down, or made to look foolish. It's also hard to determine who are the right people to let in, if any at all.In this episode, we dig into what gets in the way of letting others in, how we may be the main ones who stop it, and next steps we can take to get better. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
5/15/2019 • 20 minutes, 55 seconds
#7: When It's Hard to Let Go of a Relationship
Sometimes, even when you know it's time to end a relationship, it's hard to let go. In this episode, Shena digs into 3 reasons it's hard to let go, how this sets you back, and some next steps you can take to move forward. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
4/29/2019 • 23 minutes, 16 seconds
#6: 3 Ways to Choose People Who Won't Burn You, Disappoint You, or Hurt You
In this episode, I give you three ways to ensure you are not choosing people who may end up hurting you down the road. We talk about learning from previous lessons, paying attention to your inner voice, and not being bogged down by guilt! Take a listen and share with a friend who needs it! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
4/22/2019 • 19 minutes, 47 seconds
#5: What is an Intimacy Disorder? - All About Love Addiction, Love Avoidance
We talk about two of the ways that our unhealthy attachment can play out in relationships - love addiction and love avoidance. These intimacy disorders play out in predictable patterns that are possible to break by doing our own internal work. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilledCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
4/20/2019 • 30 minutes, 30 seconds
#4: Coping with Anger from Your Past
This week, we did into how old anger can negatively affect our self-image, relationships with others, and impact unhealthy coping mechanisms. We talk about the different "faces" of anger, some of the underlying emotions, and the best first steps you can take to resolve it. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilledCan’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacementsCONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
3/6/2019 • 18 minutes, 32 seconds
#3: 3 Blocks to Inner Healing
This week, we're digging all into inner healing! In this episode, Shena discusses 3 blocks that get in the way and gives you one tool to use when you're feeling frustrated and overwhelmed to bring you back to a place of calm. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
2/28/2019 • 24 minutes, 50 seconds
#2: Why You Can't Control Them...
Often times, we're stuck in unhealthy relationship cycles because we think we can control others. This episode, we'll talk about why this may happen and some examples that commonly occur. Have a question for the podcast? Ask it here: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/questions Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
2/19/2019 • 31 minutes, 54 seconds
#1: 5 Reasons Why Intimacy is So Hard
If you have a problem getting close to others or letting others in, this is the episode for you. We discuss 5 reasons why intimacy can be so hard, even when it's what we truly want. Have a question for the podcast? Ask it here: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/questions Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
2/14/2019 • 35 minutes, 7 seconds
[NEW!] Welcome to Black Girls Heal!
Welcome to Black Girls Heal where we help women break the cycle of unhealthy and unfulfilling relationships and feeling not enough to get the love they want, need, and most importantly deserve. We do this by helping you heal on both the inside AND the outside. Have a question for the podcast? Ask it here: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/questions Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast?Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements CONNECT WITH US ELSEWHEREWebsite: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
