Enough with the dating content. Single people deserve more than constant suggestions that they're lacking something, or failing at something. Let's stop approaching single status like it's something that’s wrong with us, because while we're so focused on trying to "find someone," we're missing out on enjoying this time in our lives. A Single Serving Podcast is changing the way being single is seen, discussed, and experienced. Relationships are amazing, and we deserve to have them. We just don't deserve to be miserable in the meantime.
SUMMERTIME SPECIAL
Twice a year I like to give this audience a peek behind the Patreon curtain. This episode is a preview of an hour-long solo episode that was very popular among my Patreon listeners, and it's one of my personal favorites as well. If you are single and struggling to find dignity in it, both within yourself and within a couple-centric society, I hope you enjoy, and I hope you'll consider joining us on Patreon, where your $5/month membership gives you access to new episodes EVERY MONDAY, as well as access to the private, Patrons-only Facebook group for this podcast. You will also have access to the full, four-year archive of Patreon episodes, as a reminder this podcast stopped publishing to free-access platforms in January of 2021, but I haven't slowed down a bit. ;) Link to join my Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shanisilver Link to this full episode: https://www.patreon.com/posts/podcast-episode-78082880Link to To Be Magnetic & 15% off: https://login.tobemagnetic.com/a/2147524106/FpPofgPdShani's book: A Single Revolution: Don't Look For A Match. Light One. https://amzn.to/3FZwBzjShani's website: https://www.shanisilver.com/Shani on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shanisilverShani on Instagram: https://instagram.com/shanisilverBook link & TBM links are affiliate links. Support the show
6/2/2023 • 35 minutes, 35 seconds
The Vilification Of Single Women - Happy Holidays From Shani Silver
A Single Serving Podcast publishes ONLY on Patreon every Monday morning, but once a year I like to gift subscribers who have found me throughout the year with one Patreon-only episode as a way to show you what you can expect from the podcast. I hope you enjoy one of my absolute favorite 2022 episodes, The Vilification Of Single Women. This episode does not hold back, it does not mince words, and it is DONE with the BS narrative that single women are a threat to married women's relationships. NOPE! We are done being vilified, and we are done moving through the world on eggshells so that we don't upset a married. It's an intense one and you know what—it should be. Because single people are not villains, and partnered people are not superior. Period. Shani's Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shanisilverShani's book: A Single Revolution: Don't Look For A Match. Light One. https://amzn.to/3FZwBzjShani's website: https://www.shanisilver.com/Shani on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shanisilverShani on Instagram: https://instagram.com/shanisilverBook link is affiliate link. Support the show
12/6/2022 • 51 minutes, 36 seconds
MIDSUMMER
This is a mid-year reminder that A Single Serving Podcast publishes EVERY MONDAY MORNING on Patreon and only on Patreon. Your $5 per month membership gets you every single podcast episode AND access to the podcast's private Facebook Group. If you're looking for more content and community that treats singlehood with the respect and validity it deserves, as opposed to more and more baseless, future-predicting dating advice, join us. Shani's Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shanisilverShani's book: A Single Revolution: Don't Look For A Match. Light One. https://amzn.to/3FZwBzjShani's website: https://www.shanisilver.com/Shani on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shanisilver Shani on Instagram: https://instagram.com/shanisilverBook link is affiliate link. Support the show
7/19/2022 • 6 minutes, 1 second
The New Girl
Popping into the public forum today for a super-quick podcast episode and to remind you, especially those of you who are new followers from TikTok (hi!) that this podcast publishes NEW EPISODES EVERY WEEK ON PATREON and only on Patreon! If you're looking for help shedding the shame-filled singlehood narratives we've all been fed our entire lives, my podcast and its community can help. New episodes publish every Monday morning, and your $5/month Patreon membership comes with access to the only Facebook community that I manage. Check out more details via the link below! Shani's Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shanisilverShani's book: A Single Revolution: Don't Look For A Match. Light One. https://amzn.to/3jN4pWnShani's website: https://www.shanisilver.com/Shani on Instagram: https://instagram.com/shanisilverBook link is affiliate link. Podcast P.O. Box3436 Magazine Street #8110 New Orleans, LA 70115 *Book link is affiliate link Support the show
4/19/2022 • 11 minutes, 43 seconds
See You On Patreon!
A Single Serving Podcast is now exclusively on Patreon! As of January 2022, new episodes will publish every Monday morning only on Shani Silver's Patreon at the $5 per month tier. This tier also comes with access to the Patrons-only Facebook group for this podcast. You are welcome to listen to the back catalog on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, etc, and if you'd like new episodes I hope you'll join our Patreon community where we're reframing the negative, lack-filled narratives of singlehood and replacing them with new ways of thinking about and experiencing single life that feel MUCH BETTER. See you there! https://www.patreon.com/shanisilverShani's book: A Single Revolution: Don't Look For A Match. Light One. https://amzn.to/3FZwBzjShani's website: https://www.shanisilver.com/Shani on Instagram: https://instagram.com/shanisilverBook link is affiliate link. Support the show
1/3/2022 • 1 minute, 47 seconds
Breaking Up With The Bare Minimum
What is a "bare minimum" mindset, and how is it harmful to singles? This solo episode explores a deep dive into where the bare minimum comes from, how to move past it, and why we're so vulnerable to it. You'll also hear advice on how to reframe your comparison thoughts around the holiday season. ANNOUNCEMENT: This is the last episode of A Single Serving Podcast that will publish for free on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, etc. From now on, listen to a new episode of A Single Serving Podcast every Monday morning over on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/shanisilverShani's book: A Single Revolution: Don't Look For A Match. Light One. https://amzn.to/3FZwBzjShani's website: https://www.shanisilver.com/Shani on Instagram: https://instagram.com/shanisilverPodcast P.O. Box3436 Magazine Street #8110 New Orleans, LA 70115Transcript of podcast via OtterAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersSupport the show
12/6/2021 • 48 minutes, 3 seconds
A Wedding Ring Is Not A Diploma
This one's different, friends! This month's public episode of A Single Serving podcast is actually not for my audience, it's for friends and family members who know and love a member of my audience. This episode is designed to be shared with someone you love to help them reframe singlehood for themselves in the same way that we've reframed it for ourselves, so that maybe this year at the holidays no one asks us "how are you still single?" Hey, we can try! If you're someone who loves a single person, listen to this episode if you'd like to be kinder to and more respectful of them moving forward. This episode is presented with love and in the hopes that we all have a very happy holiday season together. This podcast publishes publicly and for free once a month. If you'd like to hear a new episode of this podcast every week, join my Patreon! Your membership also comes with access to the private, Patrons-only Facebook group, and instant access to EVERY episode I've ever published. Join here!“Single People Shouldn’t Have Costco Memberships”https://shanisilver.medium.com/single-people-shouldnt-have-costco-memberships-d9f046f7b9e2Shani's book: A Single Revolution: Don't Look For A Match. Light One. https://amzn.to/3FZwBzjShani's website: https://www.shanisilver.com/Shani on Instagram: https://instagram.com/shanisilverPodcast P.O. Box3436 Magazine Street #8110 New Orleans, LA 70115Transcript of podcast via OtterAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersSupport the show
11/8/2021 • 46 minutes, 27 seconds
Bonus Episode: IT'S BOOK DAY
In this solo episode, your host Shani Silver becomes a PUBLISHED AUTHOR! This bonus episode is being released in celebration of A Single Revolution: Don't look for a match—light one. The book publishes TODAY and is available via the link below. This episode features a deep dive into "waiting" or the mindset singles can often have regarding our lives not being "real" until we have a partner. After that, you'll hear a FULL READING of the book's Introduction! As always, if you'd like to hear a new episode of this podcast every week, join my Patreon! Buy Shani's book: A Single Revolution: Don't Look For A Match. Light One.Shani's websiteShani on InstagramPodcast P.O. Box3436 Magazine Street #8110 New Orleans, LA 70115Podcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & Readers*Book link is affiliate link. Support the show
10/26/2021 • 32 minutes, 14 seconds
Transactional Love
Tonya Carter is a Relationship Transformation Coach joining the podcast to discuss life post-divorce and post-relationship. We explore authenticity, moving through our stories as opposed to becoming stuck inside them, and how transactional ideas of love aren't serving us in singlehood or in relationships. This episode also begins with a listener-inspired deep dive into "you're too picky," both how to respond to it and how to process and reframe it in our own minds. I loved this conversation with Tonya and I can't wait to have her back as a guest again. Tonya Carter's WebsiteTonya Carter on Instagram Order Tonya's book, Divorce Your StoryMy first book, A Single Revolution: Don't look for a match. Light one. publishes 10/26/21.Join my Patreon for access to a FULL READING of the book's introduction in an episode published September 6th, 2021 titled Shani's (Extremely) Special Announcement. You'll also have access to every podcast episode I've ever published, NEW episodes of this podcast every week, and access to the private Facebook group for Patrons only. Shani's websiteShani on InstagramPodcast P.O. Box3436 Magazine Street #8110 New Orleans, LA 70115Podcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show
10/4/2021 • 1 hour, 15 minutes, 43 seconds
The Announcement Episode: I Did It
Bonus Episode!! In this very special episode recorded while evacuated from an actual hurricane, I am thrilled to share the news that I've been keeping to myself for months now. I WROTE A BOOK!A Single Revolution: Don't look for a match. Light one. Publishing THIS OCTOBER, A Single Revolution is all the support I've ever wanted to give the single community. It challenges every negative, false narrative about singlehood and replaces them with a complete reframing of how we're allowed and able to view and experience being single. It is not a book about dating. It is a book about living. Visit shanisilver.com to join my email list and be first to know when it goes on sale! Join my Patreon for access to a FULL READING of the book's introduction in an episode published September 6th, 2021 titled Shani's (Extremely) Special Announcement. You'll also have access to every podcast episode I've ever published, new episodes of the podcast every week, and access to the private Facebook group for Patrons only. For $5 per month, that's a steal. Single women deserve a book that doesn’t assume we’re a negative. A Single Revolution doesn’t assume you’re unfinished, flawed, or doing something wrong in the dating space just because you’re single. If it makes any assumption, the book assumes you’re going to feel a LOT better by the time you’re done reading it. Shani's websiteShani on InstagramPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show
9/7/2021 • 1 hour, 7 minutes, 38 seconds
Poisoned Gruel
It’s a wild one! Things that happened in this episode featuring Lane Moore: a phone call from my movers saying they were FINALLY arriving later that day after being a month late, a dog cameo, and a very chatty UPS delivery man, and after all that we get into some good shit! Comedian, Creator of Tinder Live and author of How To Be Alone Lane Moore is one of my most-requested guests EVER, and I’m so thrilled she took time out of her tour schedule to chat with us about singlehood, online dating, attachment styles, and the things we have to learn from each other. Listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts or below.Lane’s website & tour infoLane’s InstagramLane’s TwitterLane's Book, How To Be AloneAttachedShani’s Podcast P.O Box!3436 Magazine Street #8110New Orleans, LA 70115Shani's websiteShani on InstagramThis podcast publishes once a month on Apple Podcasts and other free-access platforms, and once a week on Patreon! Join the Patreon for A Single Serving Podcast to get full access to all weekly podcast episodes and instant access to all existing Patreon-only episodes. You'll also get access to the private podcast Facebook group! Anti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via Otter*Book links are affiliate linksSupport the show
8/2/2021 • 1 hour, 14 minutes, 6 seconds
Don't F*ck Up
In this very special episode of A Single Serving Podcast, I am joined by podcast listener Christine Po, a Dermatology Physician Assistant based in Atlanta, Georgia. Christine reached out as a listener and her email was one I wished I could have shared with you all—so I made it a podcast episode instead. This is for anyone who has ever felt entirely alone in never having been in a relationship before, anyone who's ever experienced racism in dating, and anyone who has ever felt like there was just simply something wrong with you for being single. The episode also begins with my own deep dive and reframe into expectations around our least favorite question: "How's dating going?"Connect with Christine on InstagramJune Patreon Podcast EpisodesJesus Was Single with Kat HarrisFilter Of Fabulosity with Shani SilverEmpathy & Actual Answers with Jennifer Michelle Mason Unique Is Normal with Laura Behnke (mentioned in this week's episode) Nothing Personal by Nancy Jo SalesShe I Dare Not Name by Donna Ward Panel discussion with Donna Ward, Jody Day, and Civilla Morgan Join the Patreon for A Single Serving Podcast to get full access to all weekly podcast episodes and instant access to all existing Patreon-only episodes!Anti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterBook links are affiliate links.Support the show
6/28/2021 • 1 hour, 11 minutes, 36 seconds
The Corporate Takeover Of Dating
Nancy Jo Sales is a New York Times bestselling author and award winning journalist whose work you might know from The Bling Ring, American Girls: Social Media and the Secret Lives of Teenagers, or her documentary filme Swiped. Her newest book, Nothing Personal: My Secret Life in the Dating App Inferno addresses a topic very close to this community: Big Dating and the corporate takeover of our search for love. It’s not just you—maybe the gamification of dating is actually that bad. This episode hits home, hard. CW: This podcast episode includes a brief discussion of rape and sexual assault at the very beginning of the interview. Nancy Jo Sales’ websiteNancy Jo Sales’ TwitterNothing Personal: My Secret Life in the Dating App InfernoBooks mentioned in the episode:Brotopia, by Emily ChangMen Who Hate Women by Laura BatesJoin the Patreon for A Single Serving Podcast to get full access to all weekly podcast episodes in 2021. May Patreon EpisodesWords, Wine, & Walks, featuring Sara K Runnels $100 Cashmere Onesie, featuring Melanie NotkinRaw, featuring your host, Shani Silver & 3 Subtle Ways Single Women Are BulliedAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show
5/31/2021 • 1 hour, 10 minutes, 20 seconds
Spreadsheets & Serendipity
Alex Kruger is a writer who recently published an essay with The New York Times’ Modern Love column. What’s the “right” approach to dating? An organized and thoughtful effort, or a hands-off attitude that lets what will be, be? Or…are both Alex and Shani 100% right? This episode is FULL of explorations into modern singlehood, and all the little idiosyncrasies and anxieties that come with it. A must listen for anyone who feels like dating is happening to them, rather than the other way around, as well as anyone who feels a little out of control. Modern Love: My Ridiculous Dating System by Alex KrugerAlex Kruger on Substack What’s Right With You? podcast episode featuring Sara Eckel April Patreon Episodes: Representation Changes Attitudes with Rowan EllisUnique Is Normal with Laura BehnkeSexuality Is An Energy with August McLaughlin (August’s book, Girl Boner)Join the Patreon for A Single Serving Podcast to get full access to all weekly podcast episodes in 2021. Anti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show
5/3/2021 • 1 hour, 12 minutes, 34 seconds
Never Marry Your Rock Bottom
It's the 2nd Anniversary of A Single Serving Podcast! We've come a long way since your host was too scared to push the "record" button. In this solo episode, host Shani Silver digs into some very fundamental things about not being miserable anymore. It's possible! If you've seen the empowered singlehood memes and Instagram quotes but really can't get a handle on how the hell to stop hating being single already, this is the episode for you. Bonus: You can actually stop hating singlehood AND still be open to a relationship at the same time! This episode will teach you how, and it's easier than you think. THANK YOU for two incredible years of this podcast, there's LOTS more to come! Shani's writing she references in the episode: You Never Have To Settle When Single Isn't Bad"Take A Break" Isn't Enough Mental Health Support For Online DatersMarch Patreon Podcast Episodes:Keturah Kendrick takes us through the benefits of taking the life path that's right for YOU, not the path everyone tells you or expects you to take. Judith Duportail's VERY popular episode digs into the bullshit of dating with a raw honesty rarely seen! Alexandra Collier is a single mom by choice to an 18 month old little boy, she takes us through her decision-making process in this essential episode for anyone considering solo parenthood. Chloe, host of the Stripper Stories podcast chats about all things sex work + singlehood. shanisilver.comShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show
4/5/2021 • 52 minutes, 51 seconds
What Do You Want & Why Do You Want It
Damona Hoffman has been a dating coach for over 15 years. Is this a podcast about dating? Nope. But it is a podcast about real discussions that are relevant to singles, and it's a genuinely joy to have Damona's wisdom on the podcast this week. We get into our own experiences in dating as well as explore some of the common misconceptions that surround the singlehood space. We'll also get into the disruptions to singlehood and dating that have resulted from the rapid, continuous evolution of technology. This episode also begins with your host Shani Silver answering a Patron question that's vital to understand as we move toward more positive singlehood mindsets, and Shani welcomes back her first guest ever, Jessie Jolles, for a brief chat on her newly launched TV pilot, Forgotten Animals. It's a long one, but a GREAT one. Thank you for listening. A Single Serving Podcast publishes once a month to free-access platforms like Apple Podcasts and Spotify, but new episodes are released every week on Patreon. Join the Patreon for A Single Serving Podcast to hear new episodes every Monday. Damona Hoffman's WebsiteDamona Hoffman's Podcast, Dates & MatesDamona on InstagramLeslie Kaz on A Single Serving Podcast, episode: What The F*ck Am I DOINGAndres Romero on A Single Serving Podcast, episode: Someone Gets Us Shani Silver's solo episode: She Met Him In Collegeshanisilver.comShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show
3/1/2021 • 1 hour, 36 minutes, 56 seconds
Stop Watching The Bachelor
So much of society’s opinion of singlehood (and our own thoughts on singlehood) comes from the messages we receive about it. Dr. Jessica Moorman is an Assistant Professor of Communication at Wayne State University studying media and the messages communicated to singles, specifically single Black women. Our discussion covers a range of messages single women receive, and the effects they can have on the single community, as well as personal strategies to employ once we’re aware of the messages we’re taking in about our single status. Dr. Moorman’s research and insight are both fascinating, both new and longtime listeners of this podcast will enjoy what she has to share very much. Dr. Moorman’s websiteDr. Moorman on InstagramDr. Moorman on TwitterTherapy For Black Girls: Reimagining Single LifeTherapy For Black Girls Single Life During The Pandemi***Important Changes To A Single Serving Podcast For 2021***shanisilver.comShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show
2/1/2021 • 1 hour, 12 minutes, 23 seconds
Looking For This Week's Episode?
Welcome to A Single Serving Podcast! Starting in 2021, this podcast publishes once a month to all free access platforms like Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, etc., and all other weekly episodes publish every Monday morning via Patreon, at the $5 per month tier. With your Patreon membership you'll get full access to every episode of this podcast in 2021 and beyond, and you'll also get access to the new Patrons-only Facebook group for this podcast, as well as over a year's worth of solo bonus episodes that have already been published. Join the Patreon and get access to all future episodes of A Single Serving Podcast here. Support the show
1/11/2021 • 1 minute, 9 seconds
The Beyonce Of Childlessness
What is social infertility? This week's guest Jody Day, founder of Gateway Women, takes us through the realities of being childless or child-free not by choice, in a warm and welcoming discussion that's a beautiful way to kick of 2021. If you are single and desire parenthood in addition to partnership, it can feel like a lot, especially when the questions from other people come in. Jody offers some brilliant strategies and a lot of compassionate perspective on being childless—and all of those things are so welcome in this community. Gateway WomenWorld Childress WeekFull Stop Podcast Attached (book mentioned in the episode) ***Important Changes To A Single Serving Podcast For 2021***shanisilver.comShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via Otter*Some links above are affiliate links. Support the show
1/4/2021 • 1 hour, 15 minutes, 10 seconds
Whatever The F*ck We Want
In this solo episode of A Single Serving Podcast, your host Shani Silver will explore the difficult (and triumphant!) parts of being single at this time of year, right as we prepare to celebrate New Year's Eve and all the resolutions and intentions that come along with it. This episode includes LOTS of crowd-sourced answers and ideas from Patreon Patrons. If you find the holidays tough to experience as a single person, or would like to start 2021 off on a positive, pressure-free note, this is a great listen for you. Join the Patreon for A Single Serving Podcast to get full access to all podcast episodes in 2021! ***Important Changes To A Single Serving Podcast For 2021***shanisilver.comShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show
12/28/2020 • 47 minutes, 18 seconds
Look What She Got
It's a podcast within a podcast! The episode you're abut to hear is actually an episode of Thriving Solo by Jennifer Fields, who was kind enough to invite me (your host, Shani Silver, hi) on as a guest! In this episode we get into so, SO many tired and nonsensical narratives about single life that are ripe for reframing. This is a great listen and reminder as we celebrate the holiday season, and prepare for a new year ahead. Please check out lots more from Jennifer Fields and Thriving Solo here! Jennifer's Instagram***Important Changes To A Single Serving Podcast For 2021***shanisilver.comShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show
12/21/2020 • 57 minutes, 6 seconds
A Good Cry
Suzanne Falter is a writer and podcaster who hosts Self-Care for Extremely Busy Women. She is also the author of The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-Care. She's a leading voice in self care and reinvention after loss and an incredibly insightful voice that we're lucky to have with us this week. This episode walks through so many aspects of self care and self healing, as well as allowing ourselves to identify and prioritize our own needs. Suzanne's websiteSuzanne's PodcastBuy The Extremely Busy Woman’s Guide to Self-CareBuy the Oaktown Girls series (Suzanne's fiction series) The Pomodoro Technique ***Important Changes To A Single Serving Podcast For 2021***shanisilver.comShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via Otter*Some links above are affiliate links. Support the show
12/14/2020 • 1 hour, 4 minutes, 7 seconds
Single Is Not A Bad Word
*Please scroll down for VERY IMPORTANT INFO about the podcast in 2021Debra DiGiovanni, oh my god. This Canadian comedian and all around ray of light has been admired by your host since the release of her Netflix special, Single Award Female. Her warmth, authenticity, and of course humor are a welcome addition to the podcast this week, as we discuss the themes that have impacted us so much during this dumpster blaze of a year. From work upheavals to discovering what it's like to be alone, no for real this time, this is an episode for anyone who's spent 2020 single, and wants to wrap up the year with feelings of gratitude and love. Also if you enjoy laughing, press play. Debra DiGiovanni Twitter Debra's Ho-Ho-Ho Holiday Show on December 18thDebra on InstagramDebra on the Social Distancing Social ClubBeginning January 1st 2021, the following changes are happening to the A Single Serving Podcast community:A Single Serving Podcast will publish on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify, etc for free 1x per month. All other weekly podcast episodes will still be published, but they will only be available via Patreon, at the $5 per month tier. They will always remain ad-free. The original podcast Facebook group will be shut down on January 1st, 2021. A NEW Facebook group for Patreon Patrons will take its place, and patrons at the $5 tier & up will be given access to it. If you are already a Patron at the $5 tier and up, you don’t need to make any changes! You will be emailed soon with a link to the new Facebook group, should you want to join it. We will still have all the community and support, just in a new spot! Joining this new community is VERY EASY: You can get full access to all podcast episodes and the new Facebook group by becoming a Patron at the $5 tier here. I set the new Facebook group and podcast episode access at $5 per month because I wanted this new community to be an affordable investment in the way we feel about our own singleness each month. I believe all women (especially single ones!) should be fairly compensated for their work, and I include myself in that belief. These changes will ensure that I’m able to devote much more of my time to creating content for you and to changing the negative narratives around being single. There are SO many things I want to do and create, but I am currently maxed out at what I’m able to manage without a paid community structure in place.How To Feel Better About Being SingleCouple's Don't Need To Be Miserable For Single People To Be HappyAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show
12/7/2020 • 1 hour, 2 minutes, 35 seconds
Where's My Duct Tape?
Tiana Madera is the host of Torch, a personal development podcast about how we lead—both others AND ourselves. She's a remarkable voice to listen to if you're in a space of growth and self work, and it's a pleasure to have her on the podcast today. A quick Content Warning: Tiana and I both discuss body and weight as we've experienced anxieties and concerns around them, our experiences come from our perspectives as individuals, we're not giving prescriptive advice on body image, we are instead discussing our own process. In addition to that, expect to hear us talk about our perspectives on singlehood happiness, jealousy, finance a little bit (!), and the self work we've both done and continue to do that we've found productive and positive as we move through our lives and careers. Torch PodcastHow We Lie To OurselvesTiana on Instagram Couple's Don't Have To Be Miserable For Single People To be Happyshanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show
11/30/2020 • 1 hour, 22 seconds
Astrology Needs Feminism
Jessica Lanyadoo is an astrologer, podcaster, writer, and co-founder of Zodiac the Vote. She's also one of your host's favorite voices in the astrology space, so pardon her while she fangirls. This episode is a discussion of astrology that's unlike what you're probably used to hearing on podcasts. We're not talking horoscopes, we're talking narratives, specifically the narratives we've picked up around astrology and singlehood. In exploring the origins of those narratives, we can get more clarity on how we choose to consume and interact with astrology, and we can discover diverse voices in the space that give us a more comprehensive look at astrology overall. Jessica Lanyadoo's websiteGhost Of A PodcastAstrology For Real RelationshipsShani's essay about solo Thanksgiving. shanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show
11/23/2020 • 1 hour, 5 minutes, 51 seconds
Too Pretty To Be Single
Niccole Thurman is an actress, writer, and all-around hilarious person your host is very lucky to be speaking with this week. Niccole's honesty and humor are such a welcome addition to the podcast, and in this episode we'll get into some very real talk around the things that are often said to and about single women. If you need to relax for an hour and feel like you're having a conversation with girlfriends on a chaise lounge somewhere, you've come to the right podcast. Follow Niccole on Instagram and Twitter (you must) More info on Niccole and her work here Support this podcast on Patreon.shanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show
11/16/2020 • 1 hour, 17 minutes, 6 seconds
You Are Not Wrong!
Solo episode! In this episode, your host Shani Silver will get into changing narratives around a few specific singlehood moments including window shopping (those people who don't want to date you but view every single one of your Instagram stories) and wrongness (the feeling of always being somehow wrong and in need of change or fixing in order to be worthy of love). Lots of reframing advice and some VERY real words for anyone currently settling from scraps (I said it) of attention. Whitney Houston's Star Spangled BannerSupport this podcast on Patreon.shanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show
11/9/2020 • 44 minutes, 9 seconds
Is Anything Real?
"The human experience is both profoundly simple and incredibly complicated." - Leisse Wilcox is a Transformational Mindset + Success Coach, changing the conversation on emotional health & self-love. She joins the podcast this week to discuss neurolinguistic programming, or NLP, and its role in our story. This is such a good listen for anyone who has no idea why patterns keep repeating, why moving forward and moving on can be so hard, why changing our thoughts can be challenging—basically if you're human and you're alive, press play. Leisse Wilcox's WebsiteLeisse on InstagramWhat It Feels Like To Get DivorcedUntamed by Glennon DoyleClementine Ford on InstagramNikki NovoSupport this podcast on Patreon. shanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupShani on InstagramSupport the podcast on JemiSupport the podcast on PatreonAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show
11/2/2020 • 1 hour, 6 minutes, 50 seconds
Buy Me A F*cking Birkin
Jessica Noah Morgan is a brilliant writer based in the UK who gets it. She gets that a lot of the single programming we've picked up over the years is total bullsh*t, and neither she nor your host are in the mood to participate in it any longer. Join us for a chat that feels like meeting friends for wine, back when that was a thing that was totally okay to do. Other topics include: the singles tables at weddings (no thanks), egg freezing money (what else can we spend it on?), heart shaped pizzas (why?), and so much more. Jessica on InstagramJessica on TwitterJessica's article she references in the episodeShani's new publication, Atta GirlHow to submit your writing to Atta Girlshanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupShani on InstagramSupport the podcast on JemiSupport the podcast on PatreonAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show
10/26/2020 • 1 hour, 16 minutes, 27 seconds
Woo Woo As Sh*t
What is Human Design, actually? Whether you're familiar or totally new to it, Sara Bacon is walking us through the essentials of Human Design, and letting us know how the single audience can benefit from exploring their own design. Essentially, it's a shedding of the societal "shoulds," for a much more personalized understanding of how we best interact with the world, in order to build the best possible versions of our lives for ourselves. It's a fun an interesting listen, especially for anyone who feels stuck in a career, relationship, or situation that doesn't seem to "fit."Work with Sara via High Def Humans, and use code "SINGLE" and it's for 10% off a reading or a guide now through the end of 2020! High Def Humans on InstagramSara Bacon on InstagramShani's new publication, Atta GirlHow to submit your writing to Atta Girlshanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupShani on InstagramSupport the podcast on JemiSupport the podcast on PatreonAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show (https://www.patreon.com/shanisilver)Support the show
10/19/2020 • 1 hour, 16 minutes, 21 seconds
Grieving The Narrative
Life coach and podcaster Katie Bryan is about to become a single mother by choice, and she's graciously shared her story with us in a must-listen episode for anyone considering following a similar path. Katie's circumstances and goals are unique to her, but there are so many insights to gain from this perspective and process. From fertility preservation to the experience of making the decision to become a single mother, this episode is full of information and relatable moments, shared through Katie's honest and generous voice. The Single Greatest ChoiceToo Scary, Didn't Watch Podcastshanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupShani on InstagramSupport the podcast on JemiSupport the podcast on PatreonAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSome links above are affiliate links. Support the show
10/12/2020 • 1 hour, 11 minutes
Reaching For The Same Avocado
Sutanya Dacres is an American expat living and cooking solo in Paris. Obviously she and your host were destined to be friends. Sutanya joins the podcast this week to cover singlehood and solo living themes filed under: highly relatable. From the sound one solitary fork makes as it hits a plate, to why people will follow you on Instagram but not ask to meet you for coffee in real life. There are more than a few realities of singlehood that need exploring, and we're up to the task. Dinner For One InstagramDinner For One Podcast Things we talk about in the episode: Som Cordials Spiced Apple CakeThe Pasta QueenZadie Smith's IntimationsZadie Smith's White Teethshanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupShani on InstagramSupport the podcast on JemiSupport the podcast on PatreonAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSome links above are affiliate links. Support the show
10/5/2020 • 1 hour, 15 minutes
Supporting Female Ambition
Stefanie O'Connell Rodriguez is the Founder of Statement cards and a personal finance author. She's on the podcast this week discussing female ambition, and financial strategies for single women. This is an episode for anyone seeking financial advice and discussion for the way life actually IS now (meaning, it doesn't matter how many cups of coffee we deny ourselves, they'll never add up to a downpayment). You will also love this episode if your ambition has ever been referred to as a negative. Stefanie and Statement cards are changing the narrative around female ambition, milestones, and celebrations, and cheers to that. Statement CardsStefanie O'Connell RodriguezWhy I Returned My Engagement Ring (But Kept The Proposal)Stefanie's book: The Broke and Beautiful Life: Small Town Budget, Big City Dreamsshanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupShani on InstagramSupport the podcast on JemiSupport the podcast on PatreonAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSome links above are affiliate links. Support the show
9/28/2020 • 1 hour, 7 minutes, 11 seconds
Gray Is F*cking Gorgeous
Gray is The New Blonde Producer/Director Victoria Marie joins the podcast this week to change the narrative around gray hair. Her documentary, five years in the making, features women with a wide variety of stories to tell about gray hair—why they transitioned, how they transitioned, and all of the feedback they received along the way. Victoria and the cast of her film are generating positive change for an entire world of women who have received nothing but negative messaging about graying hair. It is a joy to welcome Victoria to the podcast, and as you'll hear, our follicular future is bright. Gray Is The New Blonde shanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupShani on InstagramSupport the podcast on JemiSupport the podcast on PatreonAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show
9/21/2020 • 1 hour, 4 minutes, 57 seconds
A Sober Soul In The World
Millie Gooch is the founder of Sober Girl Society, "An empowering #sober & #sobercurious space for huns against hangovers." She's a guest today following an incredible discussion in this podcast's Facebook group around sobriety. Knowing that it's a topic that interests you, there will be many more guests speaking to it in the future. For now though, you're going to want to listen to what Millie has to say. She's dispelling myths and rumors about sobriety left and right, changing the narrative into one that's more honest, more tailored to her needs as a sober person, and just creating a more positive discussion in general. Sound familiar? This is a brilliant listen for those sober, not sober, sober curious, and anything in between. Millie on InstagramSober Girl Society Books discussed in the episode:Sober LushThe Unexpected Joy of Being Sober Pre-Order Millie's Book hereHow To Make New Friends As A Single PersonJoin the Patreon Group Zoomshanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show
9/14/2020 • 1 hour, 10 minutes, 7 seconds
Blanche Meets A Man Everywhere
Francesca Hogi is a life coach and podcaster who wants a bigger picture for us. Or simply a clearer one. What do we really want in relationships, career, and just life in general? Also...why do we want these things? Asking ourselves how we want to feel can help us get clarity around what we actually want, and clarity is a huge step toward getting it. This is an episode packed with Francesca-isms and wisdom that will benefit any single person who feels stuck in lack, or frustrated by limiting beliefs. Other topics include risk taking, switching careers, and the Golden Girls. Francesca's InstagramFrancesca's PodcastFrancesca's Website Support this podcast on Patreon! (New discounts available for annual memberships!)shanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via OtterSupport the show
9/7/2020 • 1 hour, 44 minutes, 34 seconds
A Van Down By The River
Jessie Jolles and Claire Burns are two funnyladies that your host admires very much and wanted to check in with regarding this whole...2020 thing. Claire is an Actor / Producer / Art Director and Jessie is a Writer / Director /Comedian. You might also recognize Jessie as the VERY FIRST guest on this podcast way back in April 2019 when the world made sense! Both of them have delightful Instagrams you must follow immediately. Join all three of us for the longest episode of this podcast EVER, wherein we discuss gross girl things, how to do hobbies, Claire's haunted lobby, and living in vans. We do not live in vans. Jessie on InstagramClaire on Instagram Nicole Byer's book about bikinis Support this podcast on Patreon! (New discounts available for annual memberships!) shanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via Otter*Some links above are affiliate linksSupport the show
8/31/2020 • 1 hour, 40 minutes, 30 seconds
An Iron In The Fire
Dr. Karin Anderson Abrell is a psychologist, author, and podcast host working in the single, dating, and relationships space as a clear, empowering voice that doesn't want you to settle for less in any area of life. This is a conversation packed with honest takes on the realities of dating and being single, and how we as single people can work past the old narratives that aren't serving us. Dr. Karin is a wise voice and supportive soul everyone, single or otherwise, needs to hear. Dr. Karin's websiteDr. Karin's InstagramDr. Karin's podcast Purchase Dr. Karin's book at a listener-exclusive discount! Discussed in the episode: Singled Out by Dr. Bella DePauloDr. Kris Marsh on this podcastshanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutTranscript of podcast via Otter*Some links above are affiliate linksSupport the show
8/24/2020 • 1 hour, 15 minutes, 54 seconds
Gemini Problems
August is a lot. Let's welcome travel journalist Nneka Okona back to the podcast to make things better. Nneka is back this week to discuss her new project, Self Care Studio, a series of conversations that explore what self care looks like and means to Black women. We'll also delve into such topics as birth order and how annoying it is, astrology because obviously, and how Daria Morgendorffer lives within us all. Nneka on ContentlyNneka on TwitterChani Nicholas' book You Were Born For ThisNneka's essay about invoicing her exes Zora astrologer Ashleigh D. JayInsight Timer AppDr. Joy's Therapy for Black Girls shanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on Buzzsprout*Some links above are affiliate linksSupport the show
8/17/2020 • 1 hour, 13 minutes, 48 seconds
Pacey's Creek
Shahroo Izadi is a Behaviour Change Specialist and, incidentally, your host's new friend. If you'd like to hear two people discuss the behaviors and habits of singles in a way that's leveled-up beyond the standard "ugh dating sucks why am I single" diatribe, you're in the right place. This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in implementing change in their lives from a place of compassion and kindness, rather than restriction and rigid rules. Press play and hang out with two Dawson's Creek-generation women who preferred Pacey right from the start. Apologies for the sound of wind in the background, this episode was recorded during a hurricane Isaias-related storm. Books By ShahrooThe Last Diet The Kindness MethodShahroo's WebsiteShahroo on Deliciously Ella shanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on Buzzsprout*Some links above are affiliate links Support the show
8/10/2020 • 1 hour, 13 minutes, 54 seconds
Wow, We're Really Doing This
Laura Bogart is the brilliant writer behind the recent Buzzfeed piece entitled: Quitting Sex Was The Best Thing I Ever Did For Myself. In it, she discusses her experiences with dating and sex as a fat woman, and this week she joins the podcast to discuss these experiences and to answer questions inspired by this piece that came in from the podcast audience. Anyone who has ever experienced the unique exhaustion that comes along with constantly worrying about how "f*ckable" you are will appreciate this discussion. Laura on TwitterLaura's website Books mentioned in the episodeDon't You Know I Love You, by Laura BogartWow, No Thank You, by Samantha Irby Fat Girls Deserve Fairy Tales Too, by Evette Dionne Fat!So? by Marilyn Wannshanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on Buzzsprout*Some links above are affiliate links Support the show
8/3/2020 • 1 hour, 4 minutes, 52 seconds
Self Love Isn't Selfish
Femi Olafioye-Omogbehin is a Self Love Activist, blogger, speaker, and now one of your host's favorite people to talk about life with. Femi's uplifting, welcoming, calming, and honest content centers on self love, but it is also her space to be the representation she herself didn't have. In this episode, we get into Femi-recommended self love resources, the realities of how we're living right now, and the benefits of the kindness we show ourselves in times of stress. An absolute must-listen for anyone single, partnered, or otherwise who has ever felt overwhelmed, exhausted, or lacking direction in the self love space. Give yourself the grace and compassion that Femi champions. Press play. “grieve. so that you can be free to feel something else.”― Nayyirah Waheed, nejmaFemi's PodcastFemi's InstagramFemi's WebsiteResources Mentioned In This Episode: The Art Of Loving, Erich FrommIt's Not Always Depression, Hilary Jacobs HendelNisolo Sandalsshanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on Buzzsprout*Some links above are affiliate links Support the show
7/27/2020 • 1 hour, 13 minutes, 47 seconds
Diamond In The Dumpster Fire
Angelica Malin is the Editor in Chief of About Time Magazine and the creator of a WhatsApp group of 40 people. In these socially distant days, digital communities have become more important than ever. But the social media and online dating spaces can often seem cold, and void of real connection. In this episode we discuss how to create real connection and support when we need it most, among other things we're thinking about while the world is upside down. Angelica on Twitter About Time MagazineEverything Is Fine podcastFrancesca Specter of Alonement shanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutSupport the show
7/20/2020 • 58 minutes, 21 seconds
A Husband & Five Million Cats
Anthony (Anto) Finucane is partly responsible for your host's sanity during quarantine. Part of a WhatsApp group of friends that have been plying each other with Golden Girls memes and discussions of inclement weather for the last four months straight, he's a guest on this podcast discussing friendship, singlehood, loneliness, living and dating abroad, solo furniture assembly, Spotify's new offensive membership offering — we get into a LOT. An excellent listen for anyone who's really leaned into supportive friendships during COVID. Get in here. Anto on TwitterAnto on InstagramMentioned in the episode:Unladylike PodcastClarity On Fire Podcast Support this podcast on PatreonHeather McMahan's Live ShowDHM DetoxSugababes Hole In The HeadThe Little Paris KitchenShani yelling at SpotifyIt's Mad, Isn't It? shanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutSome links above are affiliate links.Support the show
7/13/2020 • 1 hour, 20 minutes, 53 seconds
Enjoying The Zebras & Giraffes
What is Alonement? Francesca Specter is a journalist, podcaster and founder of Alonement, a UK-based platform dedicated to the time you spend alone and why it matters. This is an amazing listen for anyone, single or partnered, who struggles to settle into downtime or alone time. Takeaway smart practices to baby step your way into an increased level of comfort with (if not excitement for) your time spent alone. Alonement by Francesca SpecterFrancesca on Twitter Books & comedy mentioned in the episode:Cooking Solo by Klancy MillerGoing Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone by Eric KlinenbergDouglas by Hannah Gadsby Live Shows by Daniel SlossSarah Powell Instagramshanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupThe Single Girl SyllabusShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutSome links above are affiliate links.Support the show
7/6/2020 • 1 hour, 6 minutes, 4 seconds
Okay We're Breaking Up
Julia Moser might be the first person to be broken up with during a pandemic via Zoom. She's certainly the first person to tweet about it. One viral tweet later, we're discussing her experience on the podcast this week because there are so many relatable emotions around her story. We all know what it's like to be excited about someone, and then suddenly lose that excitement. This is a great listen for a quarantine summer, and hopefully inspires a good rom-com marathon or two. Julia on Twitter Julia's story on Buzzfeed Julia's websiteBooks & movies mentioned in the episode:Julie & JuliaHeartburn by Nora EphronWallflower at the Orgy by Nora Ephron https://jessicafontenot.com/ (Artist mentioned in intro)shanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupShani's baking storyThe Single Girl SyllabusShani on InstagramAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & ReadersPodcast logo by Johanna PendleyPodcast hosted on BuzzsproutSome links above are affiliate links.Support the show
6/29/2020 • 52 minutes, 59 seconds
Nothing To Be Ashamed Of
Andrea Barrica is CEO/co-founder of O.school, a judgment-free resource to learn about sexuality and pleasure. She joins the podcast this week to discuss sex and sexual wellness particularly as they relate to single people. She's answering listener questions that came in via the Facebook group, and in general addressing a lot of the limitations and things we may have missed in our sexual educations that spaces like O.school can help us safely explore. O.schoolAndrea on Instagram Mating in Captivity by Esther PerelAnti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & Readersshanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupThe Single Girl SyllabusShani on InstagramPodcast logo by Johanna Pendley Podcast hosted on BuzzsproutSome links above are affiliate links. Support the show
6/22/2020 • 1 hour, 25 minutes, 25 seconds
What Do You Mean By That?
Dr. Kris Marsh, PhD., is a sociologist, demographer, and author of the forthcoming book, "The Love Jones Cohort: Single and Living Alone in the Black Middle Class." In an episode recorded prior to COVID-19 and lockdown, she discusses the experience and the study of single Black women, as well as the importance of studies that go beyond what exists or what is happening, and dive into why they're happening. Dr. Marsh also answers questions from podcast listeners via the Facebook group. This is an episode for anyone who has ever felt like their single status has made them feel somehow societally lacking. (Spoiler: who you are does not lack anything at all.)Dr. Kris MarshDr. Kris Marsh on Twitter Books and videos discussed in this episode:Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living AloneHappy Singlehood: The Rising Acceptance and Celebration of Solo LivingAkilah Hughes: Meet Your First Black Girlfriend Anti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & Readersshanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupThe Single Girl SyllabusShani on InstagramDr. Marsh's bio: Dr. Kris Marsh received her PhD from the University of Southern California in 2005. She was a Postdoctoral Scholar at the Carolina Population Center at the University of North Carolina before joining the faculty of Maryland where she has been tenured since 2014. Dr. Marsh's general areas of expertise are the Black middle class, demography, racial residential segregation, and education. She has combined these interests to develop a research agenda that is divided into two broad areas: avenues into the Black middle class and consequences of being in the Black middle class. Currently, Dr. Marsh is writing a book for Cambridge University Press that examines the mental and physical health, wealth, residential choices and dating practices of an emerging Black middle class that is single and living alone. Professor Marsh also teaches courses on Research Methods, Race Relations and Racial Residential Segregation. She has been a visiting scholar at the University of Southern California, University of the Witwatersrand in Johannesburg and the University of Johannesburg. Dr. Marsh has served as a contributor to CNN in America, the Associated Press, NBC Washington, and Al Jazeera America and is frequently asked to contribute to the Washington Post. She serves as the Secretary of the District of Columbia Sociological Society and the Managing Editor of Issues in Race & Society. Professor Marsh's most recent research and intellectual endeavors center on improving police community relations. Since late 2015, Dr. Marsh has been the driving force behind a bias free training and research collaboration between Prince George's Count Police Department and the University of Maryland. *Some links above are affiliate links Support the show
6/15/2020 • 1 hour, 4 minutes, 44 seconds
I Don't Want A Komodo Dragon
Aabye-Gayle D. Francis-Favilla is a freelance writer and editor joining the podcast this week to discuss being child-free by choice as a married woman. In this episode, that's basically akin to listeners observing two women becoming friends over Zoom, we cover a lot of ground and debunk a lot of old societal beliefs, and those who are child-free by choice as well as those who would like to become parents will hopefully find this a thoughtful and inviting discussion. Best enjoyed with a cup of coffee or a glass of wine and followed immediately by a phone call to your best friend. Aabye on Twitter Aabye on MediumAabye's BlogAabye's work quoted in this episode on The Body Is Not An Apology Anti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & Readersshanisilver.comThe Single Girl SyllabusShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupSupport the show
6/8/2020 • 1 hour, 3 minutes, 12 seconds
Your Money Is Power
Lindsay Goldwert is a writer and podcaster and she's this week's guest because we're going to talk about money. We're going to talk about dominatrixes, quarantine habits, and bike shorts too, but mostly we're going to talk about money. Lindsay is answering audience questions that came in via the Facebook group, and we're basically just going to spend an hour and fifteen minutes becoming new friends during a scary time. Get in here. Lindsay's Twitter Spent Podcast Books mentioned in the episode: Bow Down by Lindsay GoldwertWow, No Thank You by Samantha IrbyBroke Millennial by Erin Lowry Anti-Racism Resources For My White Friends & Readersshanisilver.comThe Single Girl SyllabusShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupA Single Serving Podcast Instagram*Some links above are affiliate links.Support the show
6/1/2020 • 1 hour, 15 minutes, 37 seconds
Nest Of Vipers
Kara Loewentheil of Unf*ck Your Brain is back on the podcast because quite frankly, your host misses her. Kara is a Master Certified Coach with a B.A. from Yale and J.D. from Harvard Law. In the last three years after pivoting from a legal career, she has grown her life coaching business from 0 to 7 figures. She's the host of the top-rated self-help podcast Unf*ck Your Brain, and she has been featured in Marie Claire, Mind Body Green, MSN.com, and The Huffington Post. She joins the podcast today to discuss what venting actually is, and what it does (and doesn't do) for us. She's also discussing how to process relationships ending without adopting the thought process that makes you feel like you'll be alone forever. Because you won't be. Kara's websiteKara on InstagramUnf*ck Your BrainThe Thought Laddershanisilver.comThe Single Girl Syllabus Shani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupA Single Serving Podcast InstagramSupport the show
5/25/2020 • 59 minutes, 19 seconds
What Makes A Good Girl?
Rachel East is a Certified Life & Career Coach and 1/2 of Clarity On Fire, a podcast and coaching business centered around finding out how we're meant to approach our careers as individuals, not as programmed beings trying to fit ourselves into societal expectations of professional life. Rachel and her best friend Kristen are the creators of The Passion Profile Quiz, a free online resource that's helped over 400,000 people identify where their passions and careers intersect. This is an excellent listen for anyone currently unhappy in their work, or who's noticed a pattern of dissatisfaction throughout their careers. We grow up with a lot of programming around work, and it's possible to adjust that programming to live a life more tailored to what's authentic to us. Listen to Shani on Clarity On Fire Take the Passion Profile Quizshanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupSupport the show
5/11/2020 • 1 hour, 12 minutes, 44 seconds
No Twitter Before Bed!
Kimmy Foskett and Liza Renzulli are the hosts of 51 First Dates and also just two human beings your podcast host enjoys hanging out with. We'll of course use the term "hanging out" loosely because...pandemic. Through the magic of technology and Liza helping your host record three people at the same time, this week's episode covers a lot of quarantined ground. If you're feeling isolated, frustrated, or it's just too quiet in the house, press play and hang out with us. Let's be concerned, freaked out, mildly productive, and somehow optimistic together. 51 First Dates Podcast (Shani's episode)51 First Dates on InstagramBooks/Products mentioned in this episode:Beach Backpack for quarantine groceriesOpen Book, Jessica SimpsonInside Out, Demi MooreMating In Captivity, Esther PerelThree Women, Lisa Taddeoshanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group*Some links above are affiliate links. Support the show
5/4/2020 • 1 hour, 9 minutes, 37 seconds
Underwear Are For The Weak
Jess Wilkins is a friend of the podcast. She's also a friend of your host that's been keeping her company from afar during a global pandemic. Never more than a "hey friend" text away, Jess joins the podcast as its first-ever recurring guest to discuss topics that have been coming up for us during this socially distant time. We dive deep into quarantine beauty, self care, street harassment, and underpants. There's a lot happening, get in here. Post-recording update from Jess re: Static Nails: "Nail review: Press on nails are great for now but they will never be as perfect a fit as professionally done acrylics. There are nail sites that allow you to measure your nail bed and get more of a custom fit, but as kind of a lazy bitch who is in quarantine, I shan't be doing all that mess. With that being said, Static Nails are perfectly fine if you like a more subdued nail design and length. Tres She nails were a better fit, again not perfect, but better and they have more fun tacky bitch long nails which I enjoy. So as a matter of tacky preference, I'm rocking with Tres She."Jess' NewsletterJess' Instagram Jess' most recent work on Stylecaster, Embracing Grown Woman WeightProducts mentioned in this episode: Anastasia Brow PomadeSmall Face RazorsLe TushMegababe Thigh Chafe StickTarget SheetsBoy Smells Candles shanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group*Some links above are affiliate links. Support the show
4/27/2020 • 1 hour, 19 minutes, 11 seconds
Make Me Laugh
Pierre Novellie is a London-based standup comedian and host of one of your hosts favorite podcasts, BudPod, together with his friend and fellow standup Phil Wang. He joins the podcast today to answer listener questions about the single guy perspective and experience, and also to indulge your host in chatting about comedy and British/American linguistics for awhile. An excellent listen for anyone interested in how single men are experiencing social distancing, or even just being a single person in Normal Times. His podcast, linked below, is ideal for anyone in isolation who needs a genuine laugh. So basically...all of us. Pierre Novellie's websitePierre on TwitterBudPodshanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupSupport the show
4/20/2020 • 1 hour, 14 minutes, 46 seconds
Nobody Writes About Normal Girls
TV writer and author Gina Fattore joins the podcast this week, while we're all socially distant and craving entertainment, to discuss her new book, The Spinster Diaries. We'll also get into Dawson's Creek, but you'll have to listen to find out why. In this episode we'll discuss societal structures around single adulthood, eighteenth-century novelist Frances Burney, and how television actually gets made. We'll also discuss who our society choses to tell stories about, and why. This is a great listen for single women of all ages, especially those who are fans of female-led novels, 1970s feminism, and anyone who's ever wondered why our heroes never seem to have anxiety. BetterHelp (link includes a discount code for 10% your first month, or you can check out more information in Shani's blog post)Gina's websiteGina's book, The Spinster Diaries 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single by Sara EckelThe Duchess starring Kiera Knightly shanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group*Some links above are affiliate links Support the show
4/13/2020 • 1 hour, 11 minutes, 25 seconds
The Anniversary Episode
Happy Anniversary! It's been one year of A Single Serving Podcast, and to celebrate it, this week's guest is Swathi Narra, your host's best friend! She'll be interviewing Shani using questions submitted by the podcast audience via the Facebook group. Thank you all for listening to and sharing the podcast over the last year, and for helping to change and expand the way we talk about and experience being single. Looking forward to everything we'll do together in year two!! shanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupLacy PhillipsSupport the show
4/6/2020 • 1 hour, 26 minutes, 45 seconds
There's Always An Upside
Jen Gotch, founder of ban.do, mental health advocate, and champion of optimism, just wrote a book. The Upside Of Being Down was released last week. A book is a big deal, one that usually comes with a big tour, and lots of events, but then Coronavirus happened, and here we are. A longtime professional and personal inspiration to your host, this episode with Jen is a powerful reminder that truly, no matter what happens, it's important—and comforting—to find the upside. The Upside Of Being Down by Jen GotchJen Gotch on InstagramJen's Dad on Instagram Also mentioned in the episode: Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel HellerThe Untethered Soul by Michael Singer A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle ban.do wellness workbookban.do sticker booksshanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupSome links above are affiliate links. Support the show
3/30/2020 • 52 minutes, 33 seconds
Bonus Episode: A Single Serving Sequester
The bonus episode features your host, Shani Silver, on The Sunday Soother by Catherine Andrews, who has graciously offered its republishing here as a bonus for this audience. In this episode we'll discuss Corona Coping, working from home advice, and just generally take a calm, self-care focused approach to the current state of upheaval. If you need a supportive, grounding listen right now, this is for you. The Sunday Soother by Catherine Andrews More information on BetterHelp, the web-based therapy resource mentioned during this episode. shanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupSupport the show
3/26/2020 • 1 hour, 2 minutes, 22 seconds
The Parisian Pause
Host's Note: This episode was recorded prior to self isolation, restricted travel, and the cancellation of essentially everything. It's important to me to publish this anyway, because while life feels completely upturned at the moment, with responsible action on our parts it will return to normal soon. And when it does, I'm going to Paris. xo Meghan Donovan is the creative voice behind Wit & Whimsy, a must-read blog for anyone who loves accessible fashion, beauty, and in your host's case: all things Parisian travel. Meghan joins the podcast this week to discuss the joys of following your heart's desire to the places you want to be, in this case, the City of Lights. We'll talk all things Parisian exploration and share tons of travel tips for those interested in visiting either solo or with friends. We'll also get into the world of blogging and translating our voices and passions into entrepreneurial ventures. More information on BetterHelp, the web-based therapy resource mentioned during this episode. Wit & Whimsy (blog)Meghan on InstagramParis Perfected Travel Itineraries shanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupSupport the show
3/23/2020 • 1 hour, 15 minutes, 37 seconds
A Shouty Woman
Salma El-Wardany is a writer, poet, broadcaster, and your host's new BFF whether she likes it or not. An absolutely necessary voice in the single space, Salma joins the podcast this week to discuss single life put on display as entertainment for others, as well as countless realities of living life the way we do in a society that wants to make us feel wrong for doing just that. This episode is a pure treat. Anyone feeling less than whole or down about single life in any way is about to cheer right up. Salma on InstagramSalma's Ted TalkSalma on Twittershanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupSupport the show
3/16/2020 • 1 hour, 7 minutes, 2 seconds
Drizzle That Honey
Meg Quinn, aka @ainttoproudtomeg is a food stylist and, quite frankly, a cheese board artist. Her instagram is a thing of cheese board dreams, and even goes further than that, sharing inspirational boards that draw from every corner of your kitchen, depending on the occasion or current craving. Members of this podcast's Facebook group will know that we LIVE for a good cheese board, and we also take a great deal of joy in cheese boards we don't have to share with anyone else. Meg was kind and gracious enough to be a guest this week to share her boarding wisdom and help us all level-up our kitchen creativity. @ainttooproudtomeg on InstagramMeg Quinn's website (and her cheese starter kit!) Cheese BagsCheese Knivesshanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group*Amazon links above are affiliate links. Support the show
3/9/2020 • 1 hour, 6 minutes, 24 seconds
Stick Your Face In Ice Water
Dr. Jenny Taitz, PsyD, is a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist based in Los Angeles. She joins the podcast this week to discuss ruminating, among other common themes within the single community, as well as the benefits of connecting with a therapist. She also offers several strategies for rumination and overthinking. This is a beneficial episode for anyone considering therapy or for anyone who has struggled with ruminating as it relates to single life. Jenny's WebsiteBooks by Jenny:How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul MateEnd Emotional Eating: Using Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills to Cope with Difficult Emotions and Develop a Healthy Relationship to Foodshanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group*Amazon links above are affiliate links. Support the show
3/2/2020 • 1 hour, 3 minutes, 42 seconds
His F*cking Gallbladder
Lynn Ruth Miller is a standup comedian who is happily single, funny as hell, and 86 years old. This is an hour of conversation to listen to if you've ever felt uncertain or fearful about the future. Lynn Ruth shows us, as single women and as human beings, that the future never stops being bright. It is also incredibly powerful to hear from her about so many dating themes she encountered that are, perhaps unfortunately, still true today. We are not alone, we never are and we never were, and Lynn Ruth Miller is a beautiful example of how we can do whatever we want, whenever we want, for as long as we want, and that's f*cking fabulous. Two trigger warnings for listeners: Lynn Ruth discusses both domestic violence and eating disorders in this episode. Lynn Ruth's website Freeda En video featuring Lynn Ruth shanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupSupport the show
2/24/2020 • 59 minutes, 28 seconds
What's Right With You?
Sara Eckel is the author of 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Single which is quite frankly one of the most validating and outstanding books your host has ever read. Its author is a guest this week and we're really getting into the feelings and impacts around "reasons" that so often surface in this single life of ours. This episode is for anyone who's ever heard any "advice" they didn't need or deserve to hear about being single. So basically, all of us.If you're enjoying this podcast, please consider supporting your host on Patreon. (Includes bonus episodes!)27 (Wrong) Reasons You're SingleSara's Website Dare Me TV Show The Wisdom Of A Broken HeartI Wish I Was Single In The 90s, by Shani shanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group*Amazon links above are affiliate links. Support the show
2/17/2020 • 1 hour, 4 minutes, 55 seconds
A Grown Up Kid
Nicola Slawson is the creator of The Single Supplement, a newsletter for singles (and whoever else wants to read it) that's focused on the full spectrum of the single experience, not just the one that pertains to dating and ending being single as if it's an inherent flaw. She's the ideal guest for this podcast and it was a pleasure to speak with her about some fo the things we encounter as single women that we really wish we didn't. Hopefully an immensely identifiable conversation for anyone who's single or remembers what it felt like. If you're enjoying this podcast, please consider supporting your host on Patreon. (Includes bonus episodes!)Nicola's Newsletter Nicola on Twitter35 & Single DocumentaryWeekend Loneliness piece from The Guardian shanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupSupport the show
2/10/2020 • 56 minutes, 32 seconds
Tyler Haney Energy
Violet Clair is the Instagram artist whose work you can't stop tagging your friends in. She is Samantha Rothenburg, a Brooklyn-based illustrator and comic artist making major strides in calling out dating culture on its nonsense. Her Instagram comics are hysterical, direct, and real. Where Tinder nightmares simply highlight and give space to the horrible behaviors that exist in the dating space, Samantha’s comics are challenging us to stop accepting them. She’s making the world a better place to date and your host really admires her for it. If you're enjoying this podcast, please consider supporting your host on Patreon. (Includes bonus episodes!)Violet Clair on InstagramSamantha's WebsiteSamantha's Exhibition: February 11-17 at 2 Rivington Street in New York City. Florence Given's French Bops on Spotify Tyler Haney on Instagramshanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupSupport the show
2/3/2020 • 51 minutes, 40 seconds
Don't Hurt Your Own Feelings
Rachel Wilkerson Miller is a writer and editor who wrote something for the New York Times that made your host cheer at her screen. "How To Say No During Wedding Season" (linked below) is an anthem for anyone who simply can't with these wedding costs anymore. We get into that and a LOT more in this episode, including self care and 90s tech nostalgia. Rachel's wisdom is incredibly comforting, inspiring, and thankfully coming out in her second book this spring.If you're enjoying this podcast, please consider supporting your host on Patreon. (Includes bonus episodes!)Just Good Shit (Rachel's website) Dot Journaling The Art Of Showing Up (pre-order) How To Say No During Wedding Seasonshanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group*Amazon links above are affiliate links. Support the show
1/27/2020 • 59 minutes, 53 seconds
Let Magic Come To You
Dr. Jordana Jacobs is a Clinical Psychologist who specializes in love and death. Yep, let's do this. There is a lot of freedom, joy, and inspiration in life that we can potentially overlook when we're consumed by the idea of singleness or the pursuit of partnership, or when we're holding onto something we shouldn't be holding onto because we have to make it "work." This is a conversation for anyone who feels extremely stuck, frustrated, or unclear, and is easily one of the most enjoyable chats your host has ever had. Basically, if you want to feel better about life within the span of an hour, press play. If you're enjoying this podcast, please consider supporting your host on Patreon. (Includes bonus episodes!)Jordana's Website The Missing Piece Meets The Big OThe Art Of LovingEsalen in Big Sur Summit Series shanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group*Amazon links above are affiliate links. Support the show
1/20/2020 • 1 hour, 57 seconds
The Power Move
Harris O'Malley, aka Dr. NerdLove, is a dating coach and blogger helping men find genuine connection and confidence in the dating space. A former pickup artist (yep), Harris had a mid-date epiphany about how men and women interact, and wanted to contribute to that space in a more positive way. This entire episode is full of some really impactful insights and I strongly recommend it to both single women and men alike. If you're enjoying this podcast, please consider supporting your host on Patreon. (Includes bonus episodes!)Harris' WebsiteHarris on Instagramshanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupSupport the show
1/13/2020 • 1 hour, 6 minutes, 31 seconds
Single Suits Me
Bella DePaulo, Ph.D. (!!!) joins A Single Serving Podcast this week so prepare to hear your host completely fangirl. Bella is a leading (if not THE leading) voice in the single space. She's a social scientist looking into all the ways society (and even the law) favors and priorities couples over singles. Her work is extremely powerful and important, and it is a genuine pleasure to welcome her to the podcast in our first episode of the new year. If you're enjoying this podcast, please consider supporting your host on Patreon. (Bonus episodes available!)Bella's Book, Singled OutBella's work on Psychology TodayBella's Facebook group shanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupA Single Serving Podcast Instagram*Amazon link above is an affiliate link.Support the show
1/6/2020 • 52 minutes, 55 seconds
It Wasn't All Sh*tty
In the last episode of 2019 (I'll be back in two weeks), A Single Serving Podcast is so pleased to welcome Emily Morris as a guest. Emily is an author, librarian, and freelance journalist living in Manchester, UK. She's a fierce feminist and a single mother to a 13-year-old son. Her 2017 memoir, My Sh*tty Twenties, tells the story of her experiences through early single motherhood. Emily's story is important to hear, and her warmth and honesty in her discussion of single motherhood are a privilege to share with this audience. Anyone who has made the decision or is considering the decision to become a single mother will hopefully find this a wonderful listen. If you're enjoying this podcast, please consider supporting your host on Patreon. (Bonus episodes available!)Emily's BookEmily on Twittershanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupA Single Serving Podcast Instagram*Amazon link above is an affiliate link.Support the show
12/16/2019 • 58 minutes, 1 second
No D*ck Is That Special
Meredith Jaqueline is a standup comedian who divides her time between Los Angeles and Fort Worth, Texas — your host's hometown. She is a hilarious voice in the single space which you will see (hear?) shortly after pressing play. Meredith is also in the adult work space, maintaining an OnlyFans account for her followers. This is a fun listen for anyone who's just kind of over dating and wants to pour a glass of wine and listen to two single women discuss dating, sex work, and the worst ghost either of us have ever known. If you're enjoying this podcast, please consider supporting your host on Patreon. (Bonus episodes available!)Meredith on InstagramMeredith on TwitterMeredith on OnlyFans shanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupA Single Serving Podcast InstagramSupport the show
12/9/2019 • 49 minutes, 53 seconds
Dream A Bigger Dream
Jocelyn Reid is an Intuitive Transformation Leader and all-around inspiring energetic presence. Yes that sounds super spiritual, but so is Jocelyn. She is a guest this week that will be especially impactful for anyone who's feeling stuck, or feeling like there's nothing that they can do to affect real change in their lives. In her words:“My purpose on the planet, in this life time is to ignite massive transformation in the lives of those who come into my field. I guide souls who know they are here for more but somehow feel stuck in bridging the gap between where they are, where they want to go, and who they desire to become.”Sound good? I thought so, too. Press play. Jocelyn's WebsiteJocelyn on InstagramJocelyn on FacebookLacy Phillips shanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupA Single Serving Podcast Instagram*Lacy Phillips link above is an affiliate link. Support the show
12/2/2019 • 1 hour, 5 minutes, 44 seconds
Do You Want To Keep Feeling This Way?
Laura Warrell is a writer and professor whose work was posted in the Facebook group for this podcast — she is a guest selected by you! (You all have excellent taste by the way, Laura and your host were meant to be friends.) She is, to be blunt, one of us. Laura has made a major shift for herself in the way she views being single. She has taken the pursuit of partnership off the table, and rather than that being a sad thing, she has found a much more satisfying, intentional, and joyful life without it. Listen to this episode to hear how and why she made this change, and how you can do the same. If you're enjoying this podcast, please consider supporting your host on Patreon. (Bonus episodes available!)Laura's WebsiteI Gave Up On Love HuffPo ArticleIt's Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You're Singleshanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupA Single Serving Podcast Instagram*Amazon link above is an affiliate link. Support the show
11/25/2019 • 55 minutes, 49 seconds
Pleasure Is Possible
Danielle Savory is a Master Certified Coach and a sexual mindset maven which is simply a fun phrase to say. Her work centers around empowering women to rewire their brains for maximum pleasure potential. She uses a combination of mindfulness, neuroscience, and biology to help women tap into their sexual pleasure and and unlock more creativity, awareness, and energy in every area of their lives. Basically, she’s a hero. If you're enjoying this podcast, please consider supporting your host on Patreon. (Bonus episodes available!)Danielle's WebsiteDanielle's Podcastshanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupA Single Serving Podcast InstagramThis episode was sponsored by The Self Coach, a career coaching service by Kellyn Bechtold. Below, testimonials from recent clients on the benefits they took from working with Kellyn!"Kellyn and I discussed how to manage stress in a difficult job and how to discover what kind of job I want to do.""Looking for a new job, especially later in a career, can be overwhelming. I felt like I didn't know where to start and that as much as I knew I was an asset to any company, that I didn't know what I wanted to do. Talking with Kellyn eased my anxiety and helped me focus, helped my way of thinking about my skills and my talent.""I was looking for a job and Kellyn helped me get organized and rock my interview. Essentially every question she helped me prepare for was asked in my interview and the questions we hadn't discussed were easier to answer because of all the conversations we had leading up to the interview!"Support the show
11/18/2019 • 48 minutes, 31 seconds
Runaway Wheelchair RomCom
Danielle Perez is a comedian based in Los Angeles California who once won a treadmill on the Price Is Right. Which would be awesome except she uses a wheelchair so... Danielle joins the podcast this week to discuss her experiences being single and dating as a disabled adult and the misconceptions and quite frankly garbage questions that come along with that. She will also indulge your host by discussing life as a standup comic because your host is a nerd. If you're enjoying this podcast, please consider supporting your host on Patreon. (Bonus episodes available!)Danielle on InstagramDanielle's websiteDanielle on Jimmy Kimmel shanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupA Single Serving Podcast InstagramSupport the show
11/11/2019 • 1 hour, 1 minute, 9 seconds
@notengaged? Not A Problem.
Mary McCarthy has the most famous left hand on Instagram. She’s the brains, sense of humor, and phalanges behind @notengaged, the Instagram account bringing laughs with a bare left hand. She's joining the podcast this week to discuss the single space and the positive parts of it that so often go overlooked. Her account is a must-follow for anyone looking for a little genuine joy and positivity along with their levity. If you're enjoying this podcast, please consider supporting your host on Patreon. (Bonus episodes available!)Mary on InstagramThe Good Pie Girlshanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupA Single Serving Podcast InstagramThis episode was sponsored by The Self Coach, a career coaching service by Kellyn Bechtold. Below, testimonials from recent clients on the benefits they took from working with Kellyn! "Kellyn and I discussed how to manage stress in a difficult job and how to discover what kind of job I want to do.""Looking for a new job, especially later in a career, can be overwhelming. I felt like I didn't know where to start and that as much as I knew I was an asset to any company, that I didn't know what I wanted to do. Talking with Kellyn eased my anxiety and helped me focus, helped my way of thinking about my skills and my talent.""I was looking for a job and Kellyn helped me get organized and rock my interview. Essentially every question she helped me prepare for was asked in my interview and the questions we hadn't discussed were easier to answer because of all the conversations we had leading up to the interview!"Support the show
11/4/2019 • 53 minutes, 9 seconds
Full Yenta Mode
Sophy Singer is a matchmaker—a real one. She's a natural connector of human beings who has spent years bringing people together, and this week she's sharing her perspective and insights as a matchmaker with the single community. This is a great listen for anyone looking to develop a positive and practical headspace around dating and singlehood. If you've ever been curious about matchmaking or wanted to pick a matchmaker's brain, you'll love this one. If you're enjoying this podcast, please consider supporting your host on Patreon. (Bonus episodes available!)Sophy's website: sophy.love Sophy on Instagramshanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupA Single Serving Podcast InstagramThis episode was sponsored by The Self Coach, a career coaching service by Kellyn Bechtold. Below, testimonials from recent clients on the benefits they took from working with Kellyn! "Kellyn and I discussed how to manage stress in a difficult job and how to discover what kind of job I want to do.""Looking for a new job, especially later in a career, can be overwhelming. I felt like I didn't know where to start and that as much as I knew I was an asset to any company, that I didn't know what I wanted to do. Talking with Kellyn eased my anxiety and helped me focus, helped my way of thinking about my skills and my talent.""I was looking for a job and Kellyn helped me get organized and rock my interview. Essentially every question she helped me prepare for was asked in my interview and the questions we hadn't discussed were easier to answer because of all the conversations we had leading up to the interview!"Support the show
10/28/2019 • 1 hour, 11 minutes, 5 seconds
The Self Love Philosopher
Melody Godfred is an entrepreneur, writer, and self love philosopher. You're thoroughly encouraged to listen to this episode to find out what that means. Melody is the founder of Fred + Far, a jewelry brand specializing in the Self Love Pinky Ring. The ring was born out of a need to choose yourself. Put yourself first, care for yourself, and acknowledge that you're worthy of love—because you are. A must listen for anyone feeling stuck in a self care rut, or simply seeking inspiration around reconnecting with yourself and your needs. If you're enjoying this podcast, please consider supporting your host on Patreon! (Bonus episodes available!)Melody's Books: Self Love Poetry: For Thinkers & Feelers and The ABC's Of Self Love Fred + FarMelody Godfred on Instagramshanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupA Single Serving Podcast InstagramSupport the show
10/21/2019 • 54 minutes, 32 seconds
Are You Sure You Want This?
Rose Stokes is a London-based writer and journalist who joins the podcast this week to share the story of what happened when she made the decision to terminate her pregnancy. If this topic is triggering for you, please skip this week. Regardless of our opinions and desires surrounding motherhood, this is an important story to hear. Rose's websiteRose on InstagramWhat Happens When An Abortion Doesn't Fully Workshanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupA Single Serving Podcast InstagramSupport the show
10/14/2019 • 51 minutes, 57 seconds
The Crazy Aunt From The City
Britt Stephens is the Celebrity & Entertainment Director at PopSugar. She is also a writer, voice, and positive presence I have followed on Instagram for quite awhile. Britt's perspective on being single (and just life in general) emanates from a beautiful place that I think a lot of women will appreciate, and that's why I'm thrilled to welcome her to the podcast this week. Britt on InstagramBritt on Popsugar shanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupA Single Serving Podcast InstagramThis podcast is hosted on Buzzsprout. Support the show
10/7/2019 • 56 minutes, 59 seconds
A Fertile B*tch
Tara Nolan is a sustainable travel blogger, certified yoga instructor, and co-founder of a platform offering eco-friendly sailing holidays for singles through a yacht-share model. She's busy—and focused on creating the life she wants for herself. Tara joins the podcast this week to discuss her experience with egg freezing, and the seldom discussed side effects that can potentially occur, and that she experienced with severity. I would like to caution listeners that we'll be discussing medical proceeders surrounding women's health in this episode, and if there are any triggers for you in that realm you might want to skip this one. Also a reminder to listeners that neither Tara or I are medical professionals and you should seek out professional resources if you are considering freezing your eggs. Tara on InstagramTara's website shanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupA Single Serving Podcast InstagramThis podcast is hosted on Buzzsprout. Support the show
9/30/2019 • 1 hour, 52 seconds
Unf*ck This Podcast
Kara Lowentheil of Unf*ck Your Brain joins A Single Serving Podcast in this episode and your host tries not to freak out about that. Kara is a Master Certified Coach working with her clients to change thoughts that aren't serving them into new thoughts that inform new feelings, and new actions. If it sounds mind blowing, we have that in common. This incredibly informative and inspiring episode is a must-listen for anyone who feels stuck.Kara's websiteKara on InstagramUnf*ck Your Brainshanisilver.comShani on InstagramA Single Serving Podcast Facebook GroupA Single Serving Podcast InstagramThis podcast is hosted on Buzzsprout. Support the show
9/23/2019 • 45 minutes, 50 seconds
We Ate Brains
Shani Silver, Monica Dimperio, and Kate Jacobsen are in a dinner group called FoodHeaux. They meet once a month, and each month is someone's turn to pick the destination. The group began out of a love of food, and a need for community, and in this episode your host will interview her dinner group to share how it has impacted their lives and brought them joy. And really, really good dinners. FoodHeaux InstagramMonica's Instagram Kate's Instagram shanisilver.com A Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group A Single Serving Podcast InstagramEvery Single Day on Refinery29This podcast is hosted on Buzzsprout. Support the show
9/16/2019 • 43 minutes, 59 seconds
Permission To Play
Your host is not a worker-outer, but we're talking about this stuff anyway. Abbey Griffith is about to open her own gym, so we're discussing fitness, self care, working out, essentially all the physical actions we take to feel good. We're also talking about what motivates us to do them in the first place. Abbey will share her own path to a career in fitness, and answer questions that came in from listeners in the Facebook group. She'll also indulge your host with tons of questions about why everything hurts all the time. **This episode is not affiliated with and was not sponsored by Clarity Fitness in any way.Clarity Fitness (Abbey's gym)Mindbody AppAbbey on InstagramNASM, Abbey's Certification shanisilver.com A Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group A Single Serving Podcast InstagramThis podcast is hosted on Buzzsprout. Support the show
9/9/2019 • 49 minutes, 8 seconds
Budgeting, Investing, and Saving While Single
Katie Prentke English is the Co-Founder and CMO of Harness Wealth, and she's answering this podcast community's questions about money. From budgeting, to investing, to saving for retirement, we'll cover financial basics specifically as they relate to single women. All of the questions answered in this episode came in through the podcast's private Facebook group, which you can join below. **This episode was not sponsored by Harness Wealth in any way. Harness Wealthshanisilver.com A Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group A Single Serving Podcast InstagramThis podcast is hosted on Buzzsprout. Support the show
9/2/2019 • 40 minutes, 43 seconds
A Fight At Arby's
Petty, Single, & Always Late co-hosts Bitsy and Weston are self-proclaimed Queens of Pettiness, and this conversation is a hoot. They are roommates and business partners both currently working full time for tech companies (because we all unfortunately need real jobs). The pair are a beautiful example of genuine friendship and lasting connection that I think many of us as singles need and deserve. Also it's quite interesting to speak to people with a "2" in front of their ages about dating. Let's get into it. PSA Podcast@psapodcast @bitsyfoster @weston_worldwideshanisilver.com A Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group A Single Serving Podcast InstagramThis podcast is hosted on Buzzsprout. Support the show
8/26/2019 • 43 minutes, 37 seconds
Single Girls Get The Couch
Solo episode! Today marks one year since I wrote Single Girls Get The Couch, a Medium essay that's led to me finding purpose in connecting with the single community and hopefully working toward reframing the discussion around us. I share this essay and answer lots of questions from the Facebook group in this episode. And if you've shared or engaged with any of my essays or podcast episodes in the last year, thank you so, so much. I can't wait to see where things go from here. shanisilver.com A Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group A Single Serving Podcast InstagramEvery Single Day on Refinery29This podcast is hosted on Buzzsprout. Support the show
8/19/2019 • 39 minutes, 34 seconds
I Don't Have Nice Mattress Money
V Single is a podcast you should listen to. It's hosted by Alexandra Tweten and Alison Stevenson and I found in the "listeners also liked" section of this podcast right here. We're going to talk about how these two met, the ways we prefer to comfortably sleep, and why therapy is the most attractive trait possible in a man. Also serial killers. V Single PodcastV Single on Instagram Alexandra on Instagram Alison on Instagramshanisilver.com A Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group A Single Serving Podcast InstagramThis podcast is hosted on Buzzsprout. Support the show
8/12/2019 • 37 minutes, 44 seconds
Women Eating Bread
Physical pleasure doesn't always mean sex, especially when you're single and uncomfortable with casual sexual encounters. Sara Bacon, a writer and podcaster herself, joins A Single Serving Podcast to discuss what life is like when sex isn't happening, but we're still genuinely sensual beings at heart. A discussion of coping skills dealing with physical touch, and how we meet our needs when sex isn't happening. Sara Bacon on InstagramHi Friend podcast shanisilver.com A Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group A Single Serving Podcast InstagramThis podcast is hosted on Buzzsprout. Support the show
8/5/2019 • 43 minutes, 48 seconds
Don't Wait. Do It Now.
Founders of Flash Pack, Radha Vyas and Lee Thompson, join the podcast this week to discuss the unique space they've created specifically for solo travelers in their 30s and 40s who crave adventure and travel but find themselves in an awkward spot. When we're single and don't really want to go on a trip with our partnered friends and their families, nor do we want to be 100% on our own, there really aren't a lot of options tailored to us, which is why Flash Pack stands out in a sea of products and services marketed to singles that tend to reiterate to them that they're wrong. This episode is not sponsored by Flash Pack in any way, but is rather a peek into Radha and Lee's story. Oh, right—they're married, and came up with the idea for this company on their first date. Flash Packshanisilver.com A Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group A Single Serving Podcast InstagramThis podcast is hosted on Buzzsprout. Support the show
7/29/2019 • 39 minutes, 3 seconds
Touchy Subjects
Bobby Box is a writer, editor and columnist in Toronto, Ontario, covering relationships, culture, and sexuality for Daily Beast, Playboy, AskMen, and others. He's on the podcast this week offering his thoughts on dating both genders as a bixsexual man, and the societal norms that can make those experiences unique. He's also a very necessary follow on Twitter, just FYI. Bobby on TwitterBobby on Instagramshanisilver.com A Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group A Single Serving Podcast InstagramThis podcast is hosted on Buzzsprout. Support the show
7/22/2019 • 47 minutes, 30 seconds
Where's Your Head At?
Solo episode! Yes, the title of this episode is a Basement Jaxx song. Shani Silver answers questions posed in the Facebook Group for A Single Serving Podcast (which...if you're not yet, GET IN HERE). The theme of this episode is headspace. Where's your head at with being single? Many questions posed to the podcast center around "how to deal" with aspects of being single, but the root of a lot of those questions is often the way we think about being single in the first place. Books discussed in this episode: No One Tells You This by Glynnis MacNicol Everything I Know About Love by Dolly Alderton Life Will Be The Death Of Me by Chelsea Handler shanisilver.com A Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group A Single Serving Podcast InstagramRefinery29 piece about not seeing everywhere we go as a chance to "meet someone"This podcast is hosted on Buzzsprout. Host earns affiliate commission from some links above. Support the show
7/15/2019 • 29 minutes, 41 seconds
I Have Wine!
Julie Lauren, host of her own podcast Hashtag No Filter, joins A Single Serving Podcast as my first married guest! Friendship is a recurring theme within this podcast and in its Facebook group, so we're discussing friendship as it relates to singles and marrieds hanging out, and the dynamics that come along with that. We're talking vulnerability, making the effort, and the fact that for some reason, we're all terrible at making friends. Join us. Julie's podcast, Hashtag No FilterJulie on InstagramThe Idea Of You5 Lesson's Julie's Learned In 5 Years Of Marriage shanisilver.com A Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group A Single Serving Podcast InstagramThis podcast is hosted on Buzzsprout. Host earns affiliate commission from some links above. Support the show
7/8/2019 • 45 minutes, 43 seconds
What's Wrong With You?
Rebecca Perrin is a Toronto-based business owner who specializes in professional marketing, writing resumes, cover letters and LinkedIn profiles for business women applying for competitive jobs. Happy Canada Day, by the way. Rebecca and Shani will discuss being raised by single moms, not wanting kids (for a variety of reasons), and craving a communal Norwegian lifestyle for their elderly years (or maybe even just now) where they garden and have pets and everyone takes care of each other. If you've ever felt like the odd non-mom out, this one's for you. Brand Editor, Rebecca's businessRebecca Perrin on Instagram shanisilver.com A Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group A Single Serving Podcast InstagramThis podcast is hosted on Buzzsprout. Support the show
7/1/2019 • 41 minutes, 33 seconds
I Was So Unhappy Before Cancer
Jennifer Garam just beat cancer. This week's episode will discuss her treatment journey through ovarian cancer as a single woman, delving into how and where she found support through a "Chemo Squad," and how she let go of the dating nonsense that had no place in her fight. She's an absolutely inspiring and relatable soul who openly and honestly shares her experiences. CANCER RESOURCES FROM JENNIFER BooksCrazy Sexy Cancer Tips by Kris CarrAnticancer by David Servan-Schreiber, MD, PhDCancer as a Wake-Up Call by M. Laura Nasi, MDRadical Remission by Kelly A. Turner, PhDDocumentaryThe C WordOrganizations for In-Person & Online Resources TEAL / Tell Every Amazing Lady (ovarian cancer)NOCC / National Ovarian Cancer Coalition (ovarian cancer)SHARE (ovarian cancer & breast cancer)FORCE / Facing Our Risk of Cancer Empowered (hereditary cancer & genetic cancer risk — BRCA etc.)Yoga/FitnessYoga4Cancer (y4c) (free yoga classes for cancer patients & survivors and their caregivers)CHEMO PARTY BAKED GOODS DONATIONS1) Blue Sky Bakery in Park Slope 2) Valentine's Day Chemo Party, Erin McKenna's Bakery, a vegan, gluten-free bakery (Lower East Side location) 3) Chemo Grand Finale Party, Doughnut Plant (Brooklyn location) Jennifer Garam Instagram shanisilver.com A Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group A Single Serving Podcast InstagramThis podcast is hosted on Buzzsprout. Support the show
6/24/2019 • 37 minutes, 19 seconds
Would Rihanna Put Up With This?
Writer Jess Wilkins joins the podcast to discuss the single icons that stand out to us and inspire us as we navigate and try to improve the discussion around single life. Ahem, Tracee Ellis Ross. We'll also get into standup comedy, the lack of celebration around single women, and why we don't shop at Zara anymore. NotCarrieBradshawJess's breast reduction articleJess on TwitterJess on Instagram shanisilver.com A Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group A Single Serving Podcast InstagramThis podcast is hosted on Buzzsprout. Support the show
6/17/2019 • 49 minutes, 58 seconds
Let The Love In
Kellyn Bechtold, to fangirl for a moment, was on Survivor. She's also a single woman from a Midwestern background currently living and working in Denver and graciously sharing her thoughts on single life with this podcast. If you've ever been through divorce or a major, impactful life change, you'll find this discussion truly relatable. Kellyn's business, The Self Coach, helps others teach themselves how to get through life, career, and relationship transitions. Kellyn on InstagramThe Self Coach If The Buddha Dated by Charlotte Kasl"The only seat of power in love, is as the lover" - Author & Speaker Susan Piver Pretty Womanshanisilver.com A Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group A Single Serving Podcast InstagramThis podcast is hosted on Buzzsprout. Host earns affiliate revenue from some links above. Support the show
6/10/2019 • 41 minutes, 8 seconds
What If We Never Get Married?
Writer Shani Silver explores the willingness to participate in dating and the motivations behind it. If you've ever wondered why we're all in the rat race that is modern dating, and maybe doubted if it's really right for you, this will be an interesting listen. What If We Never Get Married - full essay shanisilver.comA Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group A Single Serving Podcast InstagramSupport the show
6/3/2019 • 18 minutes, 56 seconds
It's A Boy
Jake Kilroy is a writer, he lives in Southern California, and he's single. He's also a he. In this episode, we're getting the (heterosexual, cisgender) male perspective on single. Jake on Medium Women of My Family, I Beg You: Let Me Die Alone shanisilver.com A Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group Shani on TwitterThis podcast is (affordably!) hosted on Buzzsprout. Support the show
5/27/2019 • 37 minutes, 38 seconds
Boyfriends Are Good For Engagement
Grace Atwood of The Stripe and Bad On Paper joins A Single Serving Podcast, discussing life as a single influencer. A longtime blogger, Grace hasn't followed the standard dating-wedding-dog-baby path so often touted on social media. This episode will also cover diversifying your income, solo travel, and how having a boyfriend is apparently amazing for engagement rates. Who knew? The StripeBad On Paper Farmacy Green CleanElemis SerumDr. Augustinus Bader Rich Cream Amore Pacific Treatment Enzyme Peel shanisilver.com Shani's Paris Guide A Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group How To Make A New FriendHost & guest earn an affiliate commission from some links included above. Support the show
5/20/2019 • 35 minutes, 44 seconds
Tap Into Your Courage
Writer Nneka Okona joins the podcast to discuss freelancing while single and solo travel. Her thoughts on having patience with yourself professionally and bravery when it comes to exploring the world are hugely expansive for any single woman considering becoming a freelancer, or traveling solo. Nneka on ContentlyNneka on TwitterSearching for My "Forever Home"—and Finding It in (Nigerian) StewShani on Twittershanisilver.com A Single Serving Podcast Facebook Group Support the show
5/13/2019 • 38 minutes, 16 seconds
A Beautiful Community
Amanda Blair joins the podcast to talk about finding lessons in our most difficult moments, and joy in our most overlooked moments. She is a relationship coach with a focus on insecure attachment styles, and her work centers around helping women raise their self worth. If you've ever been brought low by singleness, dating, and relationships (literally all of us) you're going to identify with this conversation. Amanda's websiteAmanda's Instagram Lacy Phillips A Single Serving Podcast Private Facebook Group A Single Serving Podcast Instagram Shani's Website This podcast is (affordably!) hosted on Buzzsprout. Support the show
5/6/2019 • 35 minutes, 37 seconds
Delete Your Dating Apps
In this solo episode, Shani Silver will answer listener questions about online dating, solo travel, making new friends as an adult, and more. shanisilver.com I Deleted All My Dating Apps A Month AgoEmotional Advice For Solo Travel This podcast is (affordably!) hosted on Buzzsprout. Support the show
4/29/2019 • 23 minutes, 12 seconds
Alternate Endings
Glynnis MacNicol, author of No One Tells You This, shares insight on why single women aren't culturally encouraged to be happy with their lives, and how we need more good stories to help change that. Buy Glynnis' book on Amazon. Shani Silver's website A Single Serving Podcast InstagramA Single Serving Podcast private Facebook group Send all questions, ideas, and comments to asingleservingpodcast@gmail.com This podcast is (affordably!) hosted on Buzzsprout. Support the show
4/22/2019 • 39 minutes, 42 seconds
Being Single Is Not An Illness
Marissa Diaz, aka @marissaconqueso joins host Shani Silver to discuss Texas homecoming mums, invasive neighbors, and crying in public. Get comfortable. Homecoming Mum Supplies (flower, ribbon, trinkets) Midcentury Coffee Table similar to Shani's (please get help carrying this up your stairs)No More "You Never Knows" For Single Women on Refinery29Marissa Diaz InstagramMarissa Diaz YouTubeShani Silver's websiteA Single Serving Podcast InstagramA Single Serving Podcast private Facebook group Send all questions, ideas, and comments to asingleservingpodcast@gmail.com This podcast is (affordably!) hosted on Buzzsprout. Support the show
4/15/2019 • 41 minutes, 17 seconds
Is This A Joke?
Comedian Jessie Jolles of Just For Laughs' YouTube series "It's A Date" joins host Shani Silver to find out if there's anything to laugh about when it comes to single life and dating. As it turns out, there's plenty. Jessie Jolles YouTubeJessie Jolles InstagramShani Silver's websiteA Single Serving Podcast InstagramA Single Serving Podcast private Facebook group Send all questions, ideas, and comments to asingleservingpodcast@gmail.com This podcast is (affordably!) hosted on Buzzsprout. Support the show