Yin Q, writer of the piece "We All Deserve To Heal" from We Too, discusses Spike Lee, Body of Workers, Kink Out Spaces at MOMA PS1, disassociation, complicity, power play, control, and forgiveness. // Yin Q is a mother, kink educator, writer, and activist based in New York City. Their media work includes Mercy Mistress, a web pilot, and Fly in Power, a short documentary. They founded a production team called Kink Out and organize with Red Canary Song, an APIA and Asian migrant sex and massage worker collective. Yin has been recognized by Spike Lee as an impact activist in his tribute to Jackie Robinson.// ABOUT WE TOO: This collection of narrative essays by sex workers presents a crystal-clear rejoinder: there’s never been a better time to fight for justice. Responding to the resurgence of the #MeToo movement in 2017, sex workers from across the industry—hookers and prostitutes, strippers and dancers, porn stars, cam models, Dommes and subs alike—complicate narratives of sexual harassment and violence, and expand conversations often limited to normative workplaces.Writing across topics such as homelessness, motherhood, and toxic masculinity, We Too: Essays on Sex Work and Survival gives voice to the fight for agency and accountability across sex industries. With contributions by leading voices in the movement such as Melissa Gira Grant, Ceyenne Doroshow, Audacia Ray, femi babylon, April Flores, and Yin Q, this anthology explores sex work as work, and sex workers as laboring subjects in need of respect—not rescue.A portion of this book's net proceeds will be donated to SWOP Behind Bars (SBB). Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“They have no stakes. We have all of the stakes.”In the latest episode of my special series on WE TOO: Essays on Sex Work and Survival, I interviewed Selena the Stripper, who wrote the book's introduction.Discussed: FKA Twigs' pole dance appropriation; who gets to use the word Heaux: sugar dating; the status value of a Birkin bag; Strippers United //Selena The Stripper is a sex worker, writer, podcaster, and community organizer. After graduating from MICA in 2015, fae felt out of place in the elitist world of institutional art. Through stripping fae found financial stability and a community of incredibly strong, radically free thinking artists. Faer Instagram (@prettyboygirl) highlights faer writing and photography, but weekly exclusive content can be found on Patreon (@therealprettyboygirl). Fae is a resident author with Berlinable, a Berlin-based erotica publication. Faer podcast, Heaux in the Kneaux, is available on all platforms. // ABOUT WE TOOThis collection of narrative essays by sex workers presents a crystal-clear rejoinder: there’s never been a better time to fight for justice. Responding to the resurgence of the #MeToo movement in 2017, sex workers from across the industry—hookers and prostitutes, strippers and dancers, porn stars, cam models, Dommes and subs alike—complicate narratives of sexual harassment and violence, and expand conversations often limited to normative workplaces.Writing across topics such as homelessness, motherhood, and toxic masculinity, We Too: Essays on Sex Work and Survival gives voice to the fight for agency and accountability across sex industries. With contributions by leading voices in the movement such as Melissa Gira Grant, Ceyenne Doroshow, Audacia Ray, femi babylon, April Flores, and Yin Q, this anthology explores sex work as work, and sex workers as laboring subjects in need of respect—not rescue.A portion of this book's net proceeds will be donated to SWOP Behind Bars (SBB) Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For the first episode of a special series celebrating the release of We Too: Essays on Sex Work and Survival, I chatted with the book's editor Natalie West. (I associate edited and contributed to the anthology!) //"You have to be ok with ambiguity to grapple with what the book presents and what sex work is."//Natalie reflects on her choice to market herself as the Lesbian Dominatrix of Los Angeles. Then we get into the long history of how we came to co-edit this anthology of sex workers responding to the Me Too movement. Stay tuned for more episodes featuring other contributors to the book. And snag your copy, out 2.9.21 from Feminist Press! //Natalie West is a Los Angeles based writer and educator. She worked as a professional Dominatrix while obtaining her PhD in Gender Studies. These days, she is a professor who moonlights as a sex work, BDSM, and queer community authenticity consultant for film and television. //We Too is a collection of narrative essays by sex workers presents a crystal-clear rejoinder: there’s never been a better time to fight for justice. Responding to the resurgence of the #MeToo movement in 2017, sex workers from across the industry—hookers and prostitutes, strippers and dancers, porn stars, cam models, Dommes and subs alike—complicate narratives of sexual harassment and violence, and expand conversations often limited to normative workplaces.Writing across topics such as homelessness, motherhood, and toxic masculinity, We Too: Essays on Sex Work and Survival gives voice to the fight for agency and accountability across sex industries. With contributions by leading voices in the movement such as Melissa Gira Grant, Ceyenne Doroshow, Audacia Ray, femi babylon, April Flores, and Yin Q, this anthology explores sex work as work, and sex workers as laboring subjects in need of respect—not rescue.A portion of this book's net proceeds will be donated to SWOP Behind Bars (SBB). Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey YAPIT fans! I'm focusing my energy on SfSx Volume 2, the hustle, and work/life balance in these turbulent times. Listen for a few words on my hiatus, and what to expect in 2021. xoxoxo TH Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“No amount of assimilation or pride has shaken this sense of myself as an inverted dark predatory lesbian.” //Certified lesbian vampire Annie Rose Malamet joins me to explain the appeal of darkness, finesse, predation, the night, immortal codependency, two little wounds in the neck, ejaculating blood, obsession, morbidity, the shadow self, and performance; with nods to Octavia Butler, Anne Rice, Countess Elizabeth Báthory, Phantom of the motherfuckin Opera, Xenomorphs, Ovi positors, slutty Halloween werewolves, tentacles, and evil computers. //Annie Rose Malamet is a writer, teaching artist, and podcast producer. As the creator of the podcast "Girls, Guts, & Giallo," she examines subversive and controversial films from a femme leather dyke perspective. In her writing, she blends personal narrative and film theory. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"How can brands do more for social justice movements? Give people pleasure! Give people a reason to have a wet a$s p#ssy! Uplifting difficult conversations about Black Lives Matter: that’s what makes p#ssy wet! Loving relationships and care starts with pleasure and understanding your needs. And guess what? Social and political justice are needs like orgasms are needs.” — SX Noir /Who better than thot leader SX Noir to weave together BLM, COVID, and pleasure principles? In this special episode, sponsored by LELO, SX and Tina explore: privacy and persona in digital space, the Black Sex Worker Liberation March, mutual aid, sex tech, remote control vibrators, why we need to stop and erotically appreciate the flowers, the importance of masturbation during quarantine, and W.A.P. /Don’t forget! You can get 15% off your self-love routine with the code SEXTECH on https://lelo.to/WhyArePeopleIntoThat . This applies to every pleasure product on the site (except for already discounted products). Offer valid now through Dec 31, 2020 Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Kink is an arena where I find tidiness.” //In Part 2 of my talk with Juno Mac, co-author of Revolting Prostitutes, we discuss: great books about sex work, rational thoughts in an irrational world, whether there's such a thing as the sex worker gaze, what the Hustlers of prostitution will look like, why it’s imperative that sex work activism centers mutual aid and the experience of migrants, and how Juno is trying not to be the movement’s mother so she can be a @FeralMommy in her personal life. //“Our fangs are so fucking sharp." //Juno Mac is a professional leg spreader and opinion haver; a sex worker, activist, author, and photographer based in London, UK. She is an organizer with Sex Workers’ Advocacy and Resistance Movement, a collective of sex workers based in different cities around the UK. She is one of the co-authors of the book Revolution Prostitutes: The Fight For Sex Workers’ Rights released in 2018, and is currently working on a part documentary/part memoir photographic project about the intimate spaces in sex working lives. Her 2016 TED Talk is called: The laws that sex workers really want.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Is it ok for 'Juno Mac' to be an anxious hooker and an advocate for sex worker rights? Am I allowed to be a messy, complicated person?” //The co-author of the indispensable book Revolting Prostitutes join me over the phone from her quarantine in England to discuss: the unfair pressure of compartmentalizing our own sex lives and whoreientations, why doing sex work digitally feels like Buffy losing her super-strength and not being able to open a jar of pickles, dinner party Decrim talking points, and “calling in” the analogy "sex is to rape as sex work is to trafficking." // Juno Mac is a professional leg spreader and opinion haver; a sex worker, activist, author, and photographer based in London, UK. She is an organizer with Sex Workers’ Advocacy and Resistance Movement, a collective of sex workers based in different cities around the UK. She is one of the co-authors of the book Revolution Prostitutes: The Fight For Sex Workers’ Rights released in 2018, and is currently working on a part documentary/part memoir photographic project about the intimate spaces in sex working lives. Her 2016 TED Talk is called: The laws that sex workers really want.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“The push and pull between clarity and imagination is something I think about a lot in visual storytelling.” //I called up SfSx series artist Jen Hickman to celebrate the release of our SfSx: Volume 1: Protection trade paperback on July 22nd!Jen and I discuss our collaborative process, and Jen gives some insight into how they think about formatting sequential art, color as music, and an art school game that’s like exquisite corpse but with dicks. We also touch on Jen’s talent for “character acting” and one of my favorite examples of this from SfSx, how they made an air duct scene sex charged and hilarious, the role of time in comics especially smutty comics, and what kind of sex robot we'd want to fuck. // Jen Hickman is a visual storyteller and a graduate of the Savannah College of Art and Design's Sequential Art program. Past work includes TEST, Moth & Whisper, Jem and the Holograms, the Femme Magnifique anthology, and more. They get really excited about dystopian fiction, good coffee, and drawing hands. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“The funny thing about Crash Pad is: you know that I know that you know that I know that there’s cameras in there." //In Part 2 of my interview with Shine, we focus in on Why Are People Into Voyeurism. //Shine tells a legendary tale of how seeing herself in the mirrors at the Lusty Lady inspired Crash Pad Series. We discuss how the voyeurism themes of CPS means she’s both removed her queer woman of color gaze and inserted that gaze into every single scene; how CPS has changed over 15 years of queer p*rn production; why you should pay for your porn; why asking first is necessary. We also explore: Why is voyeurism considered so creepy? Is the voyeur a top? When is looking like touching? There's also some nerdy camera talk and Shine's conspiracy theory about P*rn Hub. //Shine Louise Houston is the founding producer and director of Pink and White Productions (CrashPadSeries.com, PinkLabel.tv). During a five-year position at the women-owned sx toy purveyor Good Vibrations, Shine recognized an underserved demand for an alternative to mainstream p*rnography. In 2005, she quit her day job to form a p*rn company, kickstarting a renaissance in queer-made p*rn. A graduate from the San Francisco Arts Institute with a Bachelors in Fine Art Film, Shine has always had a unique vision for adult cinema. Her work has been recognized for its craft and cultural contribution to LGBTQ communities around the world.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On May 11th, I recorded an episode remotely with Shine, about 15 years of Crash Pad Series, and a second part about voyeurism. On June 24th, I called her back to get her perspective on the Movement for Black Lives. This is part one, including our talks about BLM and CPS. Voyeurism coming soon. //“If you tell professionals what to do they won’t riff. If you tell amateurs what to do they ignore you. What I found was that the more I took myself out, the more organic the scene could be… The only thing I needed to control was the cameras…” //In which I call Crash Pad Series the Law and Order of Queer P*rn, Shine explains the origin story of the CPS themes and production values, and her take on the narratives of a sex scene. //Shine Louise Houston is the founding producer and director of Pink and White Productions (CrashPadSeries.com, PinkLabel.tv). During a five-year position at the women-owned sx toy purveyor Good Vibrations, Shine recognized an underserved demand for an alternative to mainstream p*rnography. In 2005, she quit her day job to form a p*rn company, kickstarting a renaissance in queer-made p*rn. A graduate from the San Francisco Arts Institute with a Bachelors in Fine Art Film, Shine has always had a unique vision for adult cinema. Her work has been recognized for its craft and cultural contribution to LGBTQ communities around the world. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What is the Whorearchy? How can understanding it help us to combat whorephobia? This portmanteau meaning Whore-Hierarchy is a term originating from and used within the sex worker rights movement describing social stratification within the industry. In honor of International Whores Day on June 2nd, here's my lecture from a 10.26.17 Stigma Unbound event at Catland Books in Brooklyn. Check out patreon.com/TinaHorn for a video and my slideshow from the lecture. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“There’s a part of me that’s going to enact a sadism on you from the inside.” // It’s YAPIT: COVID-19 Lightning Round Edition, recorded live on Instagram May 2nd 2020. //In which I really try my best to game-ify YAPIT even though I don’t have a game brain and cannot follow my own rules. //We cover: masks, medical fetishism, nano-objects, virtual reality, bug-chasing, spit, and breath play. //Death ethics, Zoom fart trolls, Thomas the Tank Engine lead recalls, how the crisis will change porn, the question “if you had a clone how would you fuck it?”, ovipositors, and sourdough starters also come up because how could they not? //“You’re a femme fatale, the fluids from your body have the power to destroy me.” //Empress Wu is an NYC-based dominatrix and cultural activist, primarily operating via performance, curation, writing, and production to explore the semiotics of sex work, and its effect on the body politic. In her spare time, she can be found loudly preaching conspiracy theories about slime videos. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"That’s the sex appeal of fascism: the desire to be violated. To be cut through like butter and spread... Fascism is sexy because it’s dangerous, confident, and... leather! It’s scary and comforting at the same time, because you don’t have to make any decisions. We’re afraid of it because our power is taken away, and we want it because we want our power to be taken away." // CW: two Jewish anti-fascist leftist queers in Brooklyn talking about the history, aesthetics, and complicated erotic allegories of fascism. In Part Two: The empty symbolism of punk / Derek Jarman’s Jubilee, / Adam Ant’s "Deutscher Girls" / Are people jerking off to Mel Brook’s "Hitler Rap"? / Are gay skinheads fascist? / Yukio Mishima / Forced breeding and medical experiments / Adrienne Rich’s response to Susan Sontag’s NYRB essay / Slave Play // "Unless you contend with desire, you’re never gonna get anywhere.” // JB Brager is a writer and cartoonist living in Brooklyn NY, Lenape-ho-king. They are a founding editor of Pinko Magazine and founding host of the Bluestockings bookstore comics reading series In The Gutter. They hold a PhD in Women’s & Gender Studies from Rutgers University New Brunswick. They are on all social media as well as Patreon at @jbbrager Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“What does our desire endorse?” // Content Warning: This episode features two Jewish leftist queers in Brooklyn talking about the history, aesthetics, and complicated erotic allegories of fascism. Some graphic references to torture from fictional films including Salò and The Night Porter. //In the first YAPIT recorded during the COVID-19 quarantine, JB Brager joins me remotely from their home to discuss the spectacle of fascism. Discussed: shiny shiny shiny boots of leather, Nazisploitation, the fashion inspirations of Night Porter, why Salò isn’t actually a BDSM film but could spark scene material, Cate Blanchett's Soviet jodhpurs, why the Borg don't understand dating, the gender politics of Ilsa, She Wolf of the SS, and this entire fucking 1975 Sontag quote: “Fascist aesthetics… flow from (and justify) a preoccupation with situations of control, submissive behavior, extravagant effort, and the endurance of pain... They endorse two seemingly opposite states, egomania and servitude. The relations of domination and enslavement take the form of a characteristic pageantry: the massing of groups of people; the turning of people into things; the multiplication or replication of things; and the groupings of people/ things around an all-powerful, hypnotic leader-figure or force... Fascist art glorifies surrender, it exalts mindlessness, it glamorizes death. Never before was the relation of masters and slaves so consciously aestheticized... Now there is a master scenario available to everyone. The color is black, the material is leather, the seduction is beauty, the justification is honesty, the aim is ecstasy, the fantasy is death.” // JB Brager is a writer and cartoonist living in Brooklyn NY, Lenape-ho-king. They are a founding editor of Pinko Magazine and founding host of the Bluestockings bookstore comics reading series In The Gutter. They hold a PhD in Women’s & Gender Studies from Rutgers University New Brunswick. They are on all social media as well as Patreon at @jbbrager Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I really like people to cry at my titty show!” //In part 2, Fancy and I get to the bottom of that age old debate: is burlesque stripping? Fancy recounts the plastic bag routine that won her Miss Coney Island 2016, as well as some of her favorite acts by Tiger Bay, Julie Atlas Muz & Mat Fraser, and Darlinda Just Darlinda (including an apocalyptic one that’s almost too prescient...) //Fancy Feast is a burlesque performer, sex educator, and writer. She holds the title of Miss Coney Island 2016 and is the recipient of the Revolutionary Award at the 2017 New York Burlesque Festival. She is a 2018 New Jewish Culture fellow. She has performed nationwide at venues including the Whitney, the Brooklyn Museum, the Metropolitan Opera, and the Burlesque Hall of Fame in Las Vegas. She is the subject of the 2016 documentary “Fancy Feast: the Fat Burlesque Performer”, by Leon Chase.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I don’t experience my naked body as inherently erotic. It’s my body, and I like it. It has so much more to do for me with the glamour and the transgression. That’s the part where I’m comfortable and excited. Burlesque was the first time I ever saw an exalted fat body.” Fancy Feast joins me for a talk about the art of burlesque. But first we discuss her Jewish Currents piece about identity fetishism and what kind of Jewish-themed porn she would make. Her act called 50 Shades of Oy Vey is a great segue into a discussion of the money she’s put into big rhinestone, why she’s not body positive, and whether good girls can do burlesque. Pt 2 coming soon! // Fancy Feast is a burlesque performer, sex educator, and writer. She holds the title of Miss Coney Island 2016 and is the recipient of the Revolutionary Award at the 2017 New York Burlesque Festival. She is a 2018 New Jewish Culture fellow. She has performed nationwide at venues including the Whitney, the Brooklyn Museum, the Metropolitan Opera, and the Burlesque Hall of Fame in Las Vegas. She is the subject of the 2016 documentary “Fancy Feast: the Fat Burlesque Performer”, by Leon Chase.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“All subcultures use aesthetics to establish community." // Fetish artist and aesthete Lanee Bird joined me the day after her film Laboratory was screened as part of Kink Out: Spaces at MOMA PS1. We talked fetish as: obsession, reverence, precision, perfectionism, discomfort, fashion... and how being a bottom contributes to Lanee's talents. // Lanee Bird is an indigenous queer photographer, cinematographer and video editor based in Brooklyn, NY. Through her personal work of both photo and film she reveals the intersections of fashion and fetishism. She is also experienced in commercial video production as an editor and colorist primarily working within the beauty industry. @LOVVR @DRESSEDFORPLEASURE Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Riding someone while biting them is like consuming them from both ends.” / “The esophagus is the thinking man’s rectum.” / Worship, biting, vampirism, feeding frenzies, body farms, eating pubes, menstrual blood, ripping into each other, the act of service of giving someone your life force, the Cannibal cop, Der Metzgermeister, eating the placenta of someone you love, what part of her own body Wu would like to eat, what Yu-Gi-Oh! fan fiction has to do with all this, and how Wu would prepare you. /Empress Wu is an NYC-based dominatrix and cultural activist, primarily operating via performance, curation, writing, and production to explore the semiotics of sex work, and its effect on the body politic. In her spare time, she can be found loudly preaching conspiracy theories about slime videos. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“While my mouth is open, he gets lost among my teeth, sliding down my throat, not being able to escape my mouth.” //In truly one of the most deranged episodes in the history of this podcast, Empress Wu and I speculate about the thrall of cannibalism, figurative and in some cases literal. Mukbang videos, a client called Mental Dental, vore, giantess fetishists, vomiting fetishists, eating each other out, drinking cum and piss, the romance of only having so much meat to give, the moment in sex when you're so close you never want to leave, and how cannibalism flips consumption inside out. //Empress Wu is an NYC-based dominatrix and cultural activist, primarily operating via performance, curation, writing, and production to explore the semiotics of sex work, and its effect on the body politic. In her spare time, she can be found loudly preaching conspiracy theories about slime videos. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I’ll chain you to the bed and put a pretty bow on you” // This live show, recorded at the NYC Pleasure Chest in December 2019, is all about balance: silk ties and heavy metal shackles, being juicy and muscular, being a genderqueer parent and glamorous pro-domme. Amazon Maddox aka BrujaPxssy tells their kink origin story, explores topics of fat positivity and exotification, and gives advice for parents navigating biases against sexual identity. And then there's a pretty detailed exploration of Why Are People Into Blackmail?! //BrujaPxssy is an AfroLatin GenderFluid New Yorker and SP. Through their work as a 'Pro-Dominant Life Coach, they strive to make BDSM and alternative lifestyles a more inclusive and well represented community, as well as make meaningful connections with those they encounter on their own journey into The Arts. Parent, Activist, and aspiring model, there is not much they can't handle. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The last pod of the year is footage from my first class of the year: Getting Clean to Get Dirty: Anal Prep, Health, and Pleasure at the West Hollywood Pleasure Chest from January 2019!Anal play is one of the most pleasurable and taboo-busting forms of sexy fun. Yet the most common (and understandable) inhibitor to a wild and fun butt session is: won’t it get messy? Tina Horn, the host of kinky sex podcast Why Are People Into That?! is here to give you all the tips you need to enjoy butt stuff worry-free! We’ll discuss different kinds of anal prep routines, from fleet enemas to showers, from special absorbent sheets to safer sex gear. Tina will provide lots of techniques for great anal communication between partners, and detailed tips from porn stars on how they make anal look so easy! We’ll also dip our toes into some advanced anal experiences, including enema fetishes, ass worship, and all kinds of anal toys! Tina’s experience as a professional dominatrix, pornographer, dirty talk expert, and published author makes her the perfect guide to banishing all of your fears so you can enjoy the anal sex you know you wanna have. You’ll find this class fun and useful whether you’re straight, gay, top, bottom, or just an all-around butt lover like Tina! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“It’s a strengthening of the will. It’s letting them surrender into their purpose of service."Yin Q is a BDSM ritualist/educator, mother to two fierce children and two calm animals, and writer of Mercy Mistress, a web series based on Q’s memoirs of coming-into- kink and sex work (Exec Prod. Margaret Cho). Yin founded Kink Out to bring together intersectional peoples of the leather/kink communities for art, conversation, and activism. Their writing is in BUST, Afro-Asia, Queer Magic, Apogee Journal, and the upcoming #WeToo Anthology published by Feminist Press. They are currently working on a documentary on Red Canary Song, the sex worker organization that advocates for Asian Migrant Massage Parlor Workers.@YinQ13@Kink Out @Red Canary Song IonaPearl is Assistant Manager and Sex Specialist at the Pleasure Chest Upper East Side. They are a Queer, Black Femme, and energetic Libra. IonaPearl is an abortion, contraception, and miscarriage Doula, and aspiring social worker. In their free time, IonaPearl enjoys reading (Sister Outsider), eating (Sour Patch Children), and crystals (Tiger's Eye). @ionathepearl Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

 In Part 2, Christine graces us with some explicit Catholic play stories. We discuss cilices, bloody bibles, corruption, possession, places to store a rosary, lesbian nuns, demon dildos, and mortification of the motherfuckin flesh! She offers a quick take on blood play, the inherent camp of vestments, and the inherent cannibalism of transubstantiation. // Daemonum X is a femme leatherdyke and lifestyle Dominant. She believes in BDSM as a form of spirituality and specializes in rope bondage and blood play. She is the founder and Editrix of FIST, an anthology zine for leatherdykes, as well as Linked, A Polyamory Zine. More of her words on BDSM and power exchange can be found in Them, Autostraddle, and Wussy Mag. DaemonumX lives in Brooklyn where she sometimes teaches and often performs.You can follow her on social media @DaemonumX and buy zines at fistzine.com Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

DaemonumX aka Christine talks about her leather dyke zine FIST, her polyamory zine LINKED, and what it even means to be a zine maker in 2019. We also chat about her notorious rope suspension performances and why they’re more about sadism than beauty. Then we settle into a discussion of Catholicism: how Christine went from an inquisitive young Catholic to a blaspheming dyke confessing about impure thoughts to another femme at a party called Slutpile. Stay tuned for Part 2 where we discuss lesbian nuns, demon dildos, and mortification of the motherfuckin flesh! //Daemonum X is a femme leatherdyke and lifestyle Dominant. She believes in BDSM as a form of spirituality and specializes in rope bondage and blood play. She is the founder and Editrix of FIST, an anthology zine for leatherdykes, as well as Linked, A Polyamory Zine. More of her words on BDSM and power exchange can be found in Them, Autostraddle, and Wussy Mag. DaemonumX lives in Brooklyn where she sometimes teaches and often performs.You can follow her on social media @DaemonumX and buy zines at fistzine.com Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In Part 2 of my conversation with Gothic Queer Culture writer Laura Westengard, we get into BDSM as both haunting and time travel, and take a close look at the contemporary queer performance artists M Lamar, Zackary Drucker and Cassils. Laura also gives us a tease of her upcoming book on historical medical horrors, and how that might connect to SfSx the comic book. //Laura Westengard (she/her/hers) is an Associate Professor of English at the City University of New York where she serves as point person of the Gender & Sexuality Studies concentration and as a board member for CLAGS: The Center for LGBTQ Studies. She is the author of Gothic Queer Culture: Marginalized Communities and the Ghosts of Insidious Trauma and co-editor of The 25 Sitcoms that Changed Television: Turning Points in American Culture. She writes about popular culture, performance art, and contemporary U.S. literature and recently published an illustrated essay on Cold War-era lesbian pulp fiction for Morbid Anatomy. She is currently researching medical archives for an upcoming book on lesser known 19th and early 20th century medical devices that have shaped contemporary understandings of gender and sexuality. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Just in time for the nights to get longer, CUNY professor and author of the new book Gothic Queer Culture Laura Westengard discusses insidious trauma: from Castle of Otranto to True Blood, how vampires create their own erotic holes, and why monster desire is always queer desire. // Laura Westengard (she/her/hers) is an Associate Professor of English at the City University of New York where she serves as point person of the Gender & Sexuality Studies concentration and as a board member for CLAGS: The Center for LGBTQ Studies. She is the author of Gothic Queer Culture: Marginalized Communities and the Ghosts of Insidious Trauma and co-editor of The 25 Sitcoms that Changed Television: Turning Points in American Culture. She writes about popular culture, performance art, and contemporary U.S. literature and recently published an illustrated essay on Cold War-era lesbian pulp fiction for Morbid Anatomy. She is currently researching medical archives for an upcoming book on lesser known 19th and early 20th century medical devices that have shaped contemporary understandings of gender and sexuality. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Molecular biophysicist and queer lit slut Joe Osmundson gets into it with Tina on the great debate of our time: saline vs water enemas. You'll be surprised by their, um, artisanal isotonic douche solutions! Discussed: the inner and outer world of the epithelium, why queer sexual health is under-studied, why you should listen to Frank Ocean while giving yourself an enema, why the douche and cuddle is the new Netflix and chill. //Joseph Osmundson is a scientist and writer based in New York City.  He has a PhD from The Rockefeller University in Molecular Biophysics.  His research has been supported by the American Cancer Society, published in leading biological journals including Cell and PNAS, and he's currently a Clinical Assistant Professor of Biology at NYU.  His writing has appeared in The Village Voice, The Los Angeles Review of Books, Gawker, The Kenyon Review, The Rumpus, The Lambda Literary Review, and The Feminist Wire, and elsewhere, too.  His book, Capsid: A Love Song won the POZ Award for best HIV writing (fiction/poetry) and was a finalist for a Lambda Literary Award.  His second book, INSIDE/OUT is now out from Sibling Rivalry Press (January, 2018).  He is represented by Katie Kotchman at Don Congdon Associates.  With three other queer writers, he co-hosts a podcast, Food 4 Thot, covering dicks drama, and discourse.  He's available for campus visits and readings via the contact form on his site. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I birth what I destroy.” / In Part 2 of our talk about sploshing, crushing, sugar, and fetish labor, Lindsay discusses her very first on cam sit, the many meanings of consumption, and the transformative narrative arc of cake sitting. /Lindsay Dye is a 31 year old artist and sex worker of Puerto Rican descent from Miami, Florida. She holds an MFA in Photography and Sculpture from the Pratt Institute. She is most known on social media for her Cake Sitting Performances. Her work has been featured in a wide range of media including: Time Out New York, Playboy, HuffPost, Paper, iD and most recently her butt and handmade cake graced the cover of UK-based BRICKS magazine. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"The fetish itself is anti-consumption.” Lindsay Dye is a cam model, performance artist, and sculptor who specializes in the fetish known as cake sitting. In this episode, she explains the intersection of WAM (Wet & Messy Play) with crushing fetishism, as well as how Miami, empathy, clowning, power, laughter, tears, and more inform her public sittings. / Lindsay Dye is a 31 year old artist and sex worker of Puerto Rican descent from Miami, Florida. She holds an MFA in Photography and Sculpture from the Pratt Institute. She is most known on social media for her Cake Sitting Performances. Her work has been featured in a wide range of media including: Time Out New York, Playboy, HuffPost, Paper, iD and most recently her butt and handmade cake graced the cover of UK-based BRICKS magazine. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Decriminalized & destigmatized cannabis use is entering a new American era, and that means there's more ways than ever to incorporate this classic aphrodisiac into our love lives. For another live episode at the Pleasure Chest in NYC, Tina sat down with sex and weed journalist Sophie Saint Thomas and pleasure educator Carly to break down the science of the endocannabinoid system, weed lube, stoner porn, rose petal joints, the difference between THC and CBD, how to objectify someone by turning them into a human bong, ashtray, or edible, forced intox, adult baby diaper stoners, how cannabis can help us heal from sexual trauma, and the importance of cannabis-related social equity programs for currently or formerly incarcerated people. /Plus we field some questions about double-sided dildos, erotic hypnosis, and sounding! /Sophie Saint Thomas is a queer Brooklyn-based writer originally from the Virgin Islands. Brooklyn Magazine named her one of their 30 Under 30, and High Times selected her as one of their 100 Women in High Places. She is a regular contributor about sex and cannabis for Allure, Playboy, GQ, Vice, Glamour, High Times, Marie Claire and more. She is currently writing a book for Simon & Schuster called Finding Your Higher Self: Your Guide to Cannabis for Self Care which comes out this November. /Carly S. has been a sex educator since 2010 and runs the blog dildoordildont. If you ever meet her, she loves strong coffee and even stronger vibration. She's called the Queen of Wands, and it's easy to figure out why. Check the Pleasure Chest calendar to see her teach!  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Whether it’s been a few years since you heard it or you’re getting slobbered on by it for the first time, please enjoy this rerun of Why Are People Into Puppy Play! with Rocket/Yandy.Fetch! Speak! Roll over! This episode is all about people who love to role play as dogs. Sometimes their puppy persona becomes a part of their sexual identity, a way to access innocence, playfulness, and carnal passion.DISCUSSED: Puppy-on-puppy Love / Scooby Snack Graham Crackers / Butt Plugs with Tails / Elbow Pads / Halloween Store Finds / Saran Wrap / Love until the Heat Death of the Universe / You Know if You’ve Been a Fucking Goddamn Good Ottoman or Not / Positive Reinforcement DS / Walkies /Rocket/Yandy is a gender-ambivalent, futureshocked nice Jewitch pupper who prefers “it” pronouns and is, at present, exploring the interplay between poetry, time travel, countermemory, and trans identity using a combination of sadomasochism, rhinestones, and strategically applied pyromania. Rocket works on the Transgender Rite of Ancestor Elevation, Mythical Events, and the Agdistine Order and teaches at places like the Queer Porn Film Festival, the New England Leather Alliance, and Columbia University.   Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In Part Two, Stoya and I discuss: The Reunion by Laura Antoniou (and psychological erotica), Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski (and arousal non-concordance), The Guide to Getting It On (how Stoya masturbated to it and why Tina hates it), Mercedes Lachey's book that has a scene where people fuck on some rocks (that Stoya can't remember the name of), Sam Delaney (and a story you've probably heard Tina tell 20 times), House of Holes (two tickets please!), and which one of us has actually been railed in the stacks. /Stoya has been working with sexuality for over a decade, on camera and off. She has written for the Guardian, the New York Times, Playboy, and others. Her first book, Philosophy, Pussycats & Porn, was released through Not A Cult in 2018. She contributes to Slate's How To Do It every week, and runs a sexuality focused book club in Gowanus the third Sunday of the month. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Porn legend, writer, and avowed sapiosexual Stoya joins me for a talk about musty-smelling paperbacks, big fat library shelves, and randomly also necrophilia?! We ask: Is it classist to only want to date someone who knows what "Wherefore" means in "Wherefore art thou Romeo?"?! Would John Waters want to top Stoya? Who is going to make a venn diagram of people who prominently display but have not read Infinite Jest and people who eat pussy? Will Stoya dog ear my page? Where can you see orgasms inspired by Supervert and Bataille? Can you ethically donate your corpse to perverts? Crack open our dust jackets and find out! /Stoya has been working with sexuality for over a decade, on camera and off. She has written for the Guardian, the New York Times, Playboy, and others. Her first book, Philosophy, Pussycats & Porn, was released through Not A Cult in 2018. She contributes to Slate's How To Do It every week, and runs a sexuality focused book club in Gowanus Brooklyn the third Sunday of the month. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I brought you into this world, and I can take you out of it!” / In this hilarious and boundary-pushing live episode, recorded in March 2019 at the 2nd Ave Pleasure Chest in NYC, I'm joined by two other queer sex workers, Ashley Paige and Corey More, to discuss the persistently taboo yet insurgently popular concept of incest fantasies! We deepen our ongoing discussion of leather families, while also exploring power dynamics between siblings, whether twincest is homosexual and/or masturbatory, and ponder that age-old ethical chestnut: if you discover the person you're having really hot sex with is your cousin, how long do you wait to tell them? We also get literal about queer parenthood, since Corey was 7 months pregnant when this was recorded and has some stunning insight into trans and nonbinary birthing bodies. /Ashley Paige is a ProDomme, AlphaFemale, and Kinky Travel Companion based in NYC. She’s been engaging professionally in pleasure and perversion for more than a decade and specializes in the art of catharsis created by her ethereal understanding of visceral connection through Holistic Kink and Companionship. The femme daddy of your leather dreams and filthy fantasies…! /Corey More is a chameleon with tits. A carnal detective and longtime provider of erotic odds and ends, they are a porno newbie and a stripper grandpa. Wielding a cancer sun and virgo rising, they specialize in curating the perfect experience to make you want your mommy in the worst way. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“We are made to feel powerless non-consensually all the time. This is an opportunity to take the power back.” /Content warning: This is conversation between two queer women about erotic fantasies that involve themes of force and violation. Rape scenes are the most fundamental yet thorniest of sexual fantasies. Whether it's force and resistance, psychological control, or emotional humiliation, why are we drawn erotically to things we don't actually want to do or have happen to us? In this episode, we unpack the paradox of consensual non-consent. Andrea brings her training as a therapist to help us understand the difference between abuse and kink play. She also gives some tips for healthy communication within a BDSM power dynamic. /Andrea Glik, LMSW is a psychotherapist, somatic healer, sex educator, and witch. Andrea specializes in treating trauma and PTSD for queer & trans folks, using body based and feminist therapy practices to help clients come home to themselves. Andrea practices at The Gender & Sexuality Therapy Collective in NYC. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Every time she’s stimulated it’s utter chaos!” / In Part2 of my conversation with Katie Skelly we discuss whether erotic comics benefit from stories, Italian class dynamics in Milo Manara’s Click, grotesquery in Lisa Hanawalt, Go Nagai, Gina Wynbrandt's Someone Please Have Sex with Me, Dave Cooper's Ripple, the un-dying allure of the comic book store backroom, and Skelly's newest project including possibly incestuous killer maids! / Katie Skelly is an award-winning cartoonist who lives in Brooklyn, NY. Her comics work includes Nurse Nurse, Operation Margarine, and Twisted Romance #1. Her most recent comics, My Pretty Vampire and The Agency, are available from Fantagraphics. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I get away with a lot!” /Katie Skelly and I discuss puffy bulging vulvas, the “dark whimsy” of her psychedelic erotic comic books, why people think her phantasmagoria is a personal ad, how she got away with showing a certain superhero eating ass on a spaceship, and how she was influenced by looking at Vogue in her parents’ newsstand. / Katie Skelly is an award-winning cartoonist who lives in Brooklyn, NY. Her comics work includes Nurse Nurse, Operation Margarine, and Twisted Romance #1. Her most recent comics, My Pretty Vampire and The Agency, are available from Fantagraphics. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Trauma and shame show up in the body in the same ways.” /In this Interrobang, Andrea Glik, LMSW discusses her therapy practice, how BDSM can help us to heal from trauma, what depression looks like in your nervous system, and which Cate Blanchett character she would want a sex robot to impersonate for her. /Andrea Glik, LMSW is a psychotherapist, somatic healer, sex educator, and witch. Andrea specializes in treating trauma and PTSD for queer & trans folks, using body based and feminist therapy practices to help clients come home to themselves. Andrea practices at The Gender & Sexuality Therapy Collective in NYC. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"I was called a ho long before I became an actual sex worker.” /The brilliant and deviant Ashley Paige joins me again to discuss the Marriott hotel’s classist sex worker profiling, the racial difference between a slut and a ho, and Ashley’s personal history in the sex industry. /Content warning: at about 40 minutes this episode gets extra real: w/r/t abuse and violence. /Ashley Paige is a ProDomme, AlphaFemale, and Kinky Travel Companion based in NYC. She’s been engaging professionally in pleasure and perversion for more than a decade and specializes in the art of catharsis created by her ethereal understanding of visceral connection through Holistic Kink and Companionship. The femme daddy of your leather dreams and filthy fantasies…! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"He called me Daddy and I've never felt my lips quiver so hard in my life." /I figured since we started the year off talking about Leather Mommies, it would only be fair to give some space to masculine nurturing dominants. And who better to embody that queer Daddy vibe than professional dominatrix Ashley Paige? /We discussed what it means for women to claim the title Daddy, whether this is or is not about incest, and how sex work helped Ashley get in touch with her inner vulnerable androgynous top. /Ashley Paige is a ProDomme, AlphaFemale, and Kinky Travel Companion based in NYC. She’s been engaging professionally in pleasure and perversion for more than a decade and specializes in the art of catharsis created by her ethereal understanding of visceral connection through Holistic Kink and Companionship. The femme daddy of your leather dreams and filthy fantasies…! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A storytelling heavy flow celebrating some under-appreciated things many people find mystifying and/or disgusting: menstruation, the full internal structure of the clitoris, body scents, and hair! /Recorded November 2018 at Pleasure Chest on 2nd Ave in NYC. Live engineered by Ben Weber, co-sponsored by Acast. Music by TreZure Empire! /Arielle Egozi is a writer and social influencer who uses her platform to destigmatize and decolonize sex, bodies, and society. She believes our personal liberation is entwined with everyone else’s, and that feminism isn’t a thing unless it’s intersectional. She’s written for and been featured in publications you’ve probably heard about, and just launched a video campaign with a brand helping teens navigate their first periods. She is now Director of Content at RAXO, a WOC-owned and run creative agency. She’s also a witch. /Bahar Baharloo is a sex educator and the Assistant Manager of the Pleasure Chest in the Upper East Side. She is a Queer, Femme-sy, Iranian-American, Power-Slut! Her favorite topics include normalizing sexuality/kink, busting myths and demystifying taboos, and the dogs she just can’t own right now. Her favorite toy in the whole store (besides the nJoy Pure Wand) is the B-Vibe Rimming plug. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Kinky people have the upper hand!" Queer icon Margaret Cho is now executive producing Yin Q’s webseries Mercy Mistress, so I got the honor of interviewing her when I was in Los Angeles. We chatted about the importance of seeing yourself represented in pop culture, how hard it is to be a good dominatrix, and what BDSM can teach us about consent. /An accomplished performer in all formats, Margaret Cho could be called the “Queen of all Media” having conquered the worlds of film, television, books, music and theatre. She has five Grammy Award nominations (two for music albums, Cho Dependent and American Myth) and one Emmy nod for her groundbreaking work on 30 Rock. Never one to shy away from a difficult or 'taboo' topic, her socially aware brand of stand-up comedy has made her both a thought leader as well as a teacher to those with open minds and open hearts. In 2017, Rolling Stone magazine named one of the 50 Best Stand-Up Comics calling her “the sort of funny, sex-positive feminist and LGBT activist younger comics continue to look up to.”Equally as important as her creative side is the causes she is passionate about. Margaret is widely recognized for her charitable work with gay rights and anti-bullying campaigns. In every segment of her life, Margaret is honest, forthright, passionate, uproarious and always entertaining. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Why be ashamed of my fetishes when I can fetishize my shame?" /My conversation w Chingy continues with this deeply personal dive into kinky Mommy lust. Leather Mommies are the new Leather Daddies in this funny and taboo episode. /Chingy is a writer, actress, humorist and all-around funny pervert based out of Los Angeles and Oakland, CA. Her work focuses on kink lifestyles, queer media, and lesbian thirst and has been featured at Autostraddle, VICE, and BuzzFeed. Chingy is currently working on an informational comic about BDSM love languages, regular columns on kinky lesbian sex, and a workplace comedy about queer sex workers that was featured at Lambda LitFest 2018’s main stage. She is also a much better bottom than you.She can be found slinging rampantly homosexual memes and ensnaring femme tops on Instagram and Twitter as @TheGayChingy Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Chingy is one of my favorite queer meme makers, so when I was out in LA I got together with her to discuss comic book fetish art, what makes her the bottom supreme, and why she wants to devote herself utterly to an artificially intelligent house. Tune in next week for our deep dive into Why Are People Into Mommies?!. //Chingy is a writer, actress, humorist and all-around funny pervert based out of Los Angeles and Oakland, CA. Her work focuses on kink lifestyles, queer media, and lesbian thirst and has been featured at Autostraddle, VICE, and BuzzFeed. Chingy is currently working on an informational comic about BDSM love languages, regular columns on kinky lesbian sex, and a workplace comedy about queer sex workers that was featured at Lambda LitFest 2018’s main stage. She is also a much better bottom than you.She can be found slinging rampantly homosexual memes and ensnaring femme tops on Instagram and Twitter as @TheGayChingy Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"People who share their fantasies are the happiest and most sexually satisfied in their relationships." //What’s the different between a fetish and a fantasy? What are the benefits of communicating our deepest desires? What are the most common fantasies among Republicans versus Democrats? These and many more questions are address by social psychologist Dr Justin Lehmiller's new book Tell Me What You Want, for which he surveyed 4200 Americans on their erotic fantasies. //Dr Lehmiller and Tina chatted about why we want what we can't have, or what we've been raised to believe we're not supposed to want in the first place, and much more! //Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 40 pieces of academic writing to date, including a textbook entitled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller's research focuses on topics including casual sex, sexual fantasy, sexual health, and friends with benefits. His studies have appeared in all of the leading journals on human sexuality, including the Journal of Sex Research, Archives of Sexual Behavior, and The Journal of Sexual Medicine.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Miki is an entrepreneur whose work focuses on the taboo bodily fluids we’re usually too ashamed to even discuss. In this Interrobang, Miki discusses the personal and environmental effect of toilet habits, the civic horror of fatbergs, the relationship between anal health and anal pleasure, and why porn star Asa Akira was the perfect spokesperson for her new line of bidets. Miki Agrawal is a successful social entrepreneur and accomplished disrupter who uses innovative products to break taboos. She co-founded and led THINX, a high-tech, period-proof underwear brand now valued at over $150 million. She most recently founded TUSHY, a company revolutionizing the American bathroom and making bidets mainstream in the US. Miki is also founder of the gluten-free pizza chain WILD and the author of “Do Cool Sh*t” and “Disrupt-Her.” She was recently named Fast Company’s Most Creative People of 2018 and Most Impressive Women Entrepreneurs by Inc. Magazine. She is a graduate of Cornell University and proud mama of Hiro Happy. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I'm a very successful hu-cow!” At six months pregnant, sex work activist Maxine Holloway has never felt hotter. She opened up to Tina about the connection between her bovine breeding fetish and the realities of her growing body, everything her escort clients love about her transformation, and dating while being a queer poly slut who just happens to be knocked up.Discussed: a very literal Madonna-Whore complex, ovipositor porn, virility-themed cuckolding, MILF money, milk. /Maxine Holloway advocates for sex worker justice through the ever-intersecting avenues of activism, community organizing, politics, public health, and art. Since 2008 Holloway has been conspiring with Bay Area talent to create and showcase provocative performance, education and advocacy. Her pornography performances earned her AVN nominations, an XBIZ award, and a Feminist Porn Award. In 2014 she founded the Ask First Campaign to raise awareness about consent, and has brought the project to the Folsom Street Fair for the fifth year in a row. Certified in Sex-Education and HIV/STI Prevention, she recently completed her master's degree in public health at San Francisco State University. Her studies focus on the health, safety, and human rights of sex workers. Holloway recently curated We’re Still Working: The Art of Sex Work, a visual art exhibit and event series sharing the history and stories of Bay Area workers. Holloway is the co-founder of Bay Area Workers Support (BAWS) a sex worker resource organization and writes a monthly column for brokeassstuart.com, "Brain Throbs & Blow Jobs" where she interviews Bay Area providers, strippers and porn performers. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Carly from the NYC Pleasure Chest joins us again to discuss why it can be worth investing in luxury sex toys. Think about it in terms of form, function, aesthetics, price per orgasm, or the heirlooms you want to pass on to the next generation!Carly's blog is Dildo or Dil-don't! She's @Makeupandsin Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“You can desire me as C'etait all you want, but sex for me does not include C'etait. That is fully Mathieu." / In Part 2 of Why Are People Into Drag?! Anteus Mathieu, aka drag and burlesque performer C'etait Bontemps, describes some of their drag routines in graphic detail, digs into the complications of folks who are turned on by cross dressing, and concludes we should kill our idols. /Anteus Mathieu, aka C'etait Bontemps, is a Non-binary drag and burlesque performer living in Brooklyn! A Florida transplant, he has been working in nightlife for 6 years. His brand of drag melds the worlds of feminine and masculine performance in both sexy and sometimes uncomfortable ways. His goal is to push the boundaries of drag and burlesque as performance artistry to explore gender identity, sexual agency, and just plain weird shit.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Drag is how you perform gender for people to see and understand. If you’ve confused them, that’s even better!” /In Part 1 of this episode on gender bending performance art, Anteus Mathieu, aka C'etait Bontemps, discusses growing up in Florida watching RuPaul's Drag Race and going to gay clubs, and how burlesque helped him get in touch with his transmasculine identity. He opens up about how his community was affected by the Pulse nightclub massacre, and how his dysphoria relates to the ways his body is perceived sexually onstage.Stay tuned for Part Two later this month when Matthew describes his drag routines and digs into the complex implications of folks who are turned on by cross dressing. /Anteus Mathieu, aka C'etait Bontemps, is a Non-binary drag and burlesque performer living in Brooklyn! A Florida transplant, he has been working in nightlife for 6 years. His brand of drag melds the worlds of feminine and masculine performance in both sexy and sometimes uncomfortable ways. His goal is to push the boundaries of drag and burlesque as performance artistry to explore gender identity, sexual agency, and just plain weird shit.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So this episode is a little unusual for a few reasons. First, it was recorded over a year ago and somehow just kept getting pushed back. Second, it's definitely a first for YAPIT: an interview with a mother-son comedy duo who have their own sex podcast on my network, Acast. We discussed sex parties, virginity, cartoon porn, and much more. And KarenLee came to regret asking me to recount the most extreme fetish story I could think of... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"The more you clean leather, the more it smells like itself." For YAPIT Live at the 2nd Ave NYC Pleasure Chest in July '18 with my guests Erykah Ohms and Santos, we discussed leather as a sensual material, a fetish, a symbol, an aspiration, a fashion statement, a cultural beacon, and an ice cream sundae. //Also: the erotics of bootblacking care, chest harnesses, strap-on harnesses, leather appropriation and "post-fetishism" in fashion, bondage, impact play, protocol, what we think leather smells like, and how leather makes us feel. //Erykah Ohms is a New York-based, black, queer, cis, leather dyke, who is a kink enthusiast with masochistic tendencies. After quitting her job she wandered into a leather shop seeking employment. There she was introduced to the leather community which became an integral part of her journey in kink. Though she has since moved on from her days of slinging dildos and pushing poppers she remains active in the kink community as a queer performer. With her work, she strives to increase the visibility of POC in kink and sex-positive media. //Santos J. Arce is a 37 year old Brooklyn native. He is a latinx, trans masculine queer who seeks to bring an intersectional & inclusive perspective on sex ed. He has worked at Pleasure Chest, as a Sex Specialist for over 2 years, & has spoken about gender & sexuality on Buzzfeed & at SAGE NYC (a center that serves to improve the lives of LGBT older adults). When he isn't working as a sex educator, He is member of the trans/queer punk band Trashy, as well as a member of the Brooklyn Transcore Collective, which promotes trans & queer punk bands in & around New York City. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Any pain can be transformative” / July '18. Euridice Gallery in Brooklyn. At a live kink event curated by Amy Boyajian of Wildflower, Tina hosted a panel featuring Amy as well as kink pros Jin and Alice. "Allijin" had just done a piercing demo, so the panel focused mostly on body mod play, touching on the concepts of harm, aftercare, LARP therapy, suspension, and period sex. /During the Q&A, the panelists fielded questions about the intimacy of pain, as well as how to discuss both interests and boundaries when you're new to a kink scene. (Questions are restated by Tina to protect the privacy of the attendees). /Allijin is a play piercing demonstration duo based out of Brooklyn, NY. They publicly demonstrate needlework as a type of ritualistic and sensual practice. /Jin Hee is pro dominatrix, community events organizer, gender-nonconforming visual artist and gallerist. Jin was born and raised in Hawai and is now based in New York. Jin collectively organizes events and art shows with Brooklyn QTPOC punk collective No Flowers for Yt Powers and Disclaimer Gallery. /Alex "Alice" Maiorano is a professional body piercer, hook suspension practitioner, born and based in Brooklyn. Alice is the Manager of Ahimsa Piercing Studio, the head piercer of Anchors Aweigh Suspension Team and a production member of The Skin Project. /Amy Boyajian is the founder of Wild Flower, a gender neutral sexual wellness brand that focuses on pleasure and education. Previous to Wild Flower, Amy worked as a dominatrix in NYC, giving her a unique insight to sexuality within our culture and helping her shape her unique style of sexual education. Originally from the UK, Amy currently resides in New York City. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In March 2017, Tina gave a lecture at Skidmore College in update New York, based on an article she wrote for Refinery 29. The lecture and the article were called “Why Sex Work Decriminalization Matters to Feminism.” In light of the national conversation about SESTA/FOSTA, Tina decided to release the audio she recorded of this lecture (not the best sound quality, but solid content, promise!). Touching on topics from pop culture representation to trans rights to violence to consent to class to public health to emotional labor to utopian visions, this lecture offers many useful talking points for explaining the connection between the things that matter to sex workers and the things that matter to feminists.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I can make anybody into a clown!” Dear listeners, you may know by now that Tina is and always has been unnerved by clowns, and has even avoided requests for a YAPIT episode on that topic. Until now! The calming, elegant darkness of Domina Dia Dynasty, co-creator of NYC’s La Maison du Rouge, inspired Tina to face her fears. Tina crawled into Dia’s homemade yurt to discuss humiliation, exaggeration, wonder, curiosity, transformation, absurdity, masks, and how Dia likes to live in the place where humor and terror intersect. //Dia Dynasty is a Shamanatrix; a professional dominatrix who incorporates spiritual and healing modalities into her BDSM practice in order to offer her clients transformational and life-altering experiences. Her 10 years as a professional dominatrix in New York City, along with her lifelong engagement with yoga and magick have honed her skills of domination with a mixture of psychomagick, holistic health practices, and ritual work. Dia has been a guest on numerous kink, sex and spirituality forums including Kink Doctor’s Youtube talk show, Witchwave podcast, SexOutLoud Radio with Tristan Taormino, DownForWhatever podcast, Banana Mag print publication and more. Dia enjoys traveling the world, roller skating, archery, and tending to her home in Brooklyn with her cat and her life partner.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“As someone who has done sex work activism full time for years, I’ve found that in order to not burn out in this fight, I have to be having gross pervy sex, just living the ho life. Otherwise WTF are we fighting for?” // Recorded live at the Pleasure Chest in West Hollywood Los Angeles May 2018, this panel features Siouxsie Q and Carly D. Three drama queen sex educators in WeHo discuss the politics of sexual freedom and then exercise it to the extreme! // Discover how to be a high status princess, how to follow the narrative arc of gaping, why the office of POTUS is the ultimate in power bottoming, what Siouxsie and Tina would do if they were stuck in an elevator and both had to pee, how turning housework into a sex game makes invisible labor visible, how to be a valeDICKtorian, and why people are into pigs, tunnel plugs, double penetration, ass to mouth, giant novelty cocks, and more! Also a very special guest appearance by Damien Bathory explaining the appeal of scat. // Writer, advocate, and performer Siouxsie Q has been an outspoken leader in the sex worker rights movement since 2012 when she launched her popular podcast, The WhoreCast, garnering national attention. Her first book, Truth Justice, and the American Whore was released in May of 2016, and her writing and perspectives have been featured in Wired, Alternet, CNN, Rolling Stone, National Public Radio and many more. Her sex column, The Whore Next Door, ran in the SF Weekly from 2014 until last year when she relocated to Los Angeles, to lead adult film performers in a historic win against the noxious California Proposition 60. She currently serves on the Board of Directors of the Adult Performer Advocacy Committee and continues write, perform, and fight for sex workers rights at the local, state, and national levels. // Carly D. Weckstein is a sex educator and theatre director who works as the Junior Buyer at The Pleasure Chest stores. Raised by two Bay-Area gynecologists, she has a passion for empowering people through knowledge of their own bodies. In our culture of so many damaging and contradicting messages around sexuality, she believes that deep healing and joy can be found through re-claiming sex on your own terms. Carly loves teaching about communication, consent, orgasm, kink/BDSM and roleplay. When she's not talking to people about sex, she's busy running a feminist theatre ensemble in Los Angeles. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“The second you make someone laugh, it’s so much easier to get money out of 'em!” / Live from McNally Jackson NYC in January 2018!We discussed colorism at strip clubs, #MeToo issues, Spread Magazine, how being a stripper prepares you to write single panel comics, and a certain portrait of Aya's mom wearing a leopard print fur bikini holding a snake! / From I Was A Teenage Dominatrix to The Happy Hooker, classic sex work books have been limited to pretty one-dimensional points of view. In the 21st century, sex work books are as prismatic as the workers themselves. Join sex work journalist and podcaster Tina Horn for a panel on the exciting and nuanced ways sex work is being written about right now. Learn how strippers around the world represent themselves, on topics ranging from snacks to the male ego, in Jacq the Stripper's crowdfunded self published Striptastic. Learn why Aya de Leon chose escort characters as the protagonists of her Justice Hustlers crime series. Learn how Akynos uses both her blogging and performance art as activism. We'll be discussing everything from stigma to genre to branding to high heels in an effort to create a real and honest portrait of the modern literary sex worker. / Jacq the Stripper is a Canadian writer, comedian, stripper and illustrator. She lives in New York City with her wife and plants.Beaver Show, Striptastic, social media... / Aya de Leon is an author, teacher, and activist in the Oakland Bay Area. Kensington Books publishes her sex worker heist series, Justice Hustlers: Uptown Thief in 2016 (winner of Independent Publisher and International Latino Book Awards), The Boss in 2017, and The Accidental Mistress in 2018. She has received acclaim in the Washington Post, Village Voice, Tits and Sass, The SF Chronicle, and The Establishment. Her work has also appeared in Ebony, Guernica, Writers Digest, Huffington Post, The Toast, The Honest Courtesan, Essence, VICE, Bitch Magazine and on Def Poetry. She is also at work on a black girl spy YA novel called Going Dark, and an adult spy novel about FBI infiltration of an African American political organization. She teaches creative writing in the African American Studies Department at UC Berkeley, and blogs and tweets about race, gender, and culture at @AyadeLeon and ayadeleon.com. kynos is a New York raised stripper and performance artist. For the past decade she has been featured in showcases from New York to Europe. She is a proud sex worker and human rights activist. She has spoken at events such as the 2016 International AIDS conference in South Africa and the AWID conference in Brazil of the same year. Her film Whore Logic has been featured in film festivals such as The Sex Worker Film and Arts festival. She currently has a new bi-weekly variety showcase with her dance troupe Koffee every other Thursdays at Essence bar in Brooklyn. To support her artistic endeavors please support her current gofundme campaign and sign up for her patreon where she will feature writings and a podcast on topics pertaining to her life, sex worker rights and conversations around sex and sexuality. She is currently a grad student at Goddard College in Vermont.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“If the thing you love to do is only seen in 'shame' porn, you may think that’s the only slot you fit into as a desirable person. That’s not cool, and that’s what I’m trying to fix.” / From ASMR to GIFS, comics to fan fiction, public screenings to photo sets of dudes who can suck their own dicks, this YAPIT Live from April 2018 at the Pleasure Chest in NYC explores all personal and political facets of modern pornography. / Special guests Math Magazine EiC Mackenzie Peck and Pleasure Chest sex educator Leon also swerve into an explanation of what FOSTA/SESTA means for sexual freedom, how paying for porn can actually improve your sex life, and the ethics of literally eating people. / MacKenzie Peck was born on Valentine's Day, raised in Connecticut, and graduated from the Maryland Institute College of Art, magna cum laude. Three years ago, she set on a path to becoming a pornographer. Now, with the hotly anticipated seventh issue of Math Magazine coming out soon, she is working to revolutionize social norms and evolve industry methodologies. /Leon is a worker at the pleasure chest and budding sex educator who has been active in the kink community for around eight years. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“When I’m editing my porn I love admiring the way my nails look wrapped around a dick.” / CONTENT WARNING: This episode includes frank, informed discussions of consensual non-consent fantasies, as well as two Jewish women unpacking what it means for trolls to invoke the Holocaust. / Artist, indie porn producer, and sex work organizer Arabelle Raphael is femme for a living. So what does it mean to be a queer lover of opulent extravagant finger adornments? Arabelle and I chatted about our mutual love of creepiness, the way she’s transformed troll hate mail into art, the Tex Avery cartoons that are forever linked to her femme identity, and exactly how to fuck someone when you have long nails (hint: very carefully!). / Arabelle Raphael is an artist, indie porn producer and sex worker living in the Bay Area. Arabelle has been nominated for numerous AVN awards and won her first in 2018. She is active in sex worker's rights and community organizing. She working on publishing her first book Evaluations.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I didn’t how to kiss gently. It was always about grabbing the person, putting my hand around their throat, biting. Leaving as many bruises on a body as possible. I confused a lot of people!”How is being an actress like being a dominatrix? Tina spoke with the creators of the groundbreaking new webseries "Mercy Mistress" about BDSM as healing, sex work as a consent ritual, and the perks of crop tops in winter.Mercy Mistress is an episodic dramatic series that follows Mistress Yin, a queer first generation Chinese-American professional and lifestyle dominatrix living in New York City. Each episode focuses on a different client and explores the roots of their particular kink while the larger story is one that unveils the layers of Mistress Yin's own sexuality and how she broke from a cycle of abuse, self-destruction, and childhood violence through her healing journey with BDSM.Yin Q is a BDSM educator/writer, media producer, sex work activist, and mother of two fierce girls. She has a BA from Barnard College and MFA from The New School. Poppy Liu is a first generation Yellow American New York City based actor, poet and community organizer who was born in Xi'An, China and raised between Minnesota and Shanghai.Poppy is the founding director of the production company Collective Sex which has the mission of decolonizing queer femme stories about body, sex, love and healing.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“The ultimate fantasy is love.” Live from Camp Ravish, a sexy outdoor event in rural Texas, comes this atmospheric YAPIT Live! My special guest was world renowned rope bondage expert JD from 2 Knotty Boys. We discussed bondage, exhibitionism and voyeurism, spanking, age play, and more! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Chivalry is the kind of ritualized flirting that goes on and on and on." In this episode, iconic writer S. Bear Bergman makes a case for chivalry; a modern, bespoke, very queer kind. He compares it to high protocol BDSM, cruising, and good ole fashioned courtesy. Very much the kind of convo you’ll only find on YAPIT.S. Bear Bergman is a writer, storyteller, educator, activist and the founder and publisher of children’s book publisher Flamingo Rampant, which makes feminist, culturally-diverse children’s picture books about LGBT2Q+ kids and families. He writes creative non-fiction for grown ups, fiction for children, resolutely factual features for various news outlets, the advice column Asking Bear and was the co-editor along with Kate Bornstein of Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation. These days he spends most of his time making transgender cultural competency interventions any way he can and trying to avoid stepping on Lego. Learn more about his projects at sbearbergman.com. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Back in the 90s, I touched so many pussies and so many penises while doing erotic awakening massage that eventually I noticed there was no fucking difference: People were responding as erotic beings!”Part 2 of YaPi Tantra begins with Barbara Carrellas guiding us through the first steps to full body blissgasms. She also explains how the 10th anniversary edition of Urban Tantra came to include trans and gender nonconforming erotic awakening massage, and tells a bit of the origins of her tantra practice in a downtown Manhattan strip club. Barbara Carrellas is celebrating the brand new second edition of her bestselling book, Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty First Century—the world’s first LGBTQ- and BDSM-inclusive Tantric sex book. She has also written Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide To Sex, Relationships and Oh So Much More, and Luxurious Loving. Barbara is the founder of Urban Tantra®  — a philosophy, an international community, and an inclusive conscious sexuality practice. She was named Best Tantric Sex Seminar Leader in New York City by Time Out/NY Magazine for her Urban Tantra® workshops, and was awarded a 2016 Sexual Freedom Award for Lifetime Achievement. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“The AIDS crisis was taking away our sexual freedom as well as our lives. I wanted to have sex in a way that was safe from HIV, but ecstatic as gay men in the all night disco palaces of your dreams.”Barbara Carrellas is a queer kinky sex educator whose work has been very influential on Tina’s personal and professional life. To celebrate the tenth anniversary edition of Barbara’s seminal book Urban Tantra, the two of them sat down to discuss breath and energy orgasms, their relative tolerate for “woo,” and the complications of cultural appropriation. This is Part One, with Part Two coming later this month!Barbara Carrellas is celebrating the brand new second edition of her bestselling book, Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty First Century—the world’s first LGBTQ- and BDSM-inclusive Tantric sex book. She has also written Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide To Sex, Relationships and Oh So Much More, and Luxurious Loving. Barbara is the founder of Urban Tantra®  — a philosophy, an international community, and an inclusive conscious sexuality practice. She was named Best Tantric Sex Seminar Leader in New York City by Time Out/NY Magazine for her Urban Tantra® workshops, and was awarded a 2016 Sexual Freedom Award for Lifetime Achievement. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“The part of sex that most people love is the letting go, the freedom of connection with themselves or another person, the expansion, literally the OMG of it. Most people feel that want more of that and they want it to go on longer. Tantra offers practical ways to get you there."Recorded in front of a particularly enthusiastic audience at the Pleasure Chest in NYC, December 2017, this is the Tantra Edition of YAPIT Live! Featuring Barbara Carrellas, author of the kinky queer sex guide Urban Tantra, along with Sloan, a Pleasure Chest educator and curator, this episode covers massage, breath, orgies, and much more! $5+ Patrons get the episode early, as well as NOT ONE BUT TWO EXCLUSIVE EXTRAS including sex advice about asking for what you want when what you want is love, and a whole lot of fascinating audience questions. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Part Two of my conversation with Melissa Dessereau, MFT, in which we discuss attachment theory, and why queers are especially well equipped for non-monogamy. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This February, let's rethink our idea about romance by focusing on self love and solo sex!Tania has been with the Pleasure Chest for 2 years managing the Lincoln Avenue location in Chicago. She loves poetry, cooking and crystals. She finds a lot of joy in helping folks find a way to love themselves and others. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“You can’t really control whether you’re having an emotional connection with someone." By popular demand, here is an entire episode on the topic of open relationships, with a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who also happens to be an out queer polyamorous badass. Is having a customized relationship really worth all that processing? Listen and decide for yourself!Melissa Dessereau is a perceptive and nuanced therapist with a refreshingly frank style. For over 20 years, she has been working with individuals, couples, and families to foster personal growth and satisfying relationships. She has a way of making clients feel comfortable, understood, and at ease — like no matter what you say she gets it and doesn’t judge you. And she’s funny.Melissa can deal with complexity and better yet can make it simple and manageable. She’s well-versed with queer, kinky, and polyamorous relationships and experiences. You can visit her web page at http://www.phiirst.com/bio-melissa.htm.Melissa is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She completed her Master of Science in Family Therapy with a concentration in Sex Therapy at Thomas Jefferson University. She also holds Master of Arts in Child Development from Tufts University. Melissa is a member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT). Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“In summary, life is pain; submit to me!” Mistress Blunt’s professional practice incorporates devotional principles of yoga with classic BDSM training. In this highly intellectual and erotic episode, she talks with Tina about altered states of consciousness, the relationship between chronic pain and S&M, and her specialized femme induction sessions. Danielle Blunt is a New York City based professional and lifestyle domina. She is a classically trained dominatrix, a sex worker’s rights activist, a public health student, a full-spectrum doula, a yoga teacher, a writer, an award winning visual artist, and a plant mom. Her play, work and research all explore the intersections of tenderness and pain. She enjoys long walks on the beach and making men cry.@MistressBlunt  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A freezer filled with vacuum-sealed dirty panties. Breeder gloves for fisting. How to turn a vibrator into a bondage toy. Putting feet in assholes. A mutual love of ruined orgasms. The dominatrix edition of YAPIT Live at the Pleasure Chest in NYC has all this and a whole lot more kinky shit. “I want you to feel like you can’t get away at all. I want a hundred locks. I want to chain you down. I want you to feel like a complete prisoner.”This all-BDSM sex worker panel features NYC-based dominatrix Lucy Sweetkill of La Maison du Rouge, and Ryan, the Outreach Coordinator of the Pleasure Chest NYC. Recording by Justine Mclellan, sponsored by Acast. If you’re in the NYC area, come to the monthly live series to enjoy raunchy talk with my special sexpert guests, wine and refreshments, schmoozing with babes, and discounted sex toy shopping! Updated info is always at TinaHorn.net/live.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cleaning things up so you can get extra dirty. That’s the philosophy of Ask A Clean Person columnist and podcaster Jolie Kerr. Tina had the misconception that a cleaning expert probably wouldn’t share some of her disgusting interests, but Jolie defies expectations with her dirty mouth and filthy mind. In this episode, Jolie gives tips for using ketchup to clean leather strap-on harnesses, and using meat tenderizer to clean up period blood; and Tina tells a very personal story about an anal catastrophe.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

NYC-based Sex educator Carly is sick and tired of shame-y New Years' Resolutions. So we decided to brainstorm body positive ways to start 2018! From watching yourself masturbate to treating your sex toys extra nice, this is the only resolution guide you'll need this January!Carly S. has been a sex educator since 2010 and runs the blog dildoordildont. If you ever meet her, she loves strong coffee and even stronger vibration. She's called the Queen of Wands, and it's easy to figure out why. Check the Pleasure Chest calendar to see her teach!  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“What I love the most about being a porn performer is the vulnerability." This summer while Tina was visiting Austin Texas, she had an extremely personal and poignant conversation on with her old friend Mickey Mod. Mickey opened up about his career as a porn star, how stigma changes when you fall in love, and why the double standard of the “interracial” porn genre is an economic justice issue. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this special holiday guide from the Pleasure Chest, LA sex specialist Tracy walks us through all sort of stocking stuffer ideas from vibrators that double as jewelry, to porn, books, bondage toys, massage oils, gift cards, gift packages, and special deals to give the gift of stress relief to all your loved ones!Tracy is the Supervisor and Sex specialist at the Pleasure Chest in West Hollywood. She has been working for the Pleasure Chest since 2015 and in the adult toy industry for 6 years. Her goal is to help others explore and add a lil spice and everything nice to their lives!  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Theres a tendency for men in tech to trust machines more than they trust women.” For the first time ever, Tina tackles a speculative YAPIT: or as guest Rose Eveleth calls it: why WOULD people BE into that? Rose is the host and producer of Flash Forward, a spectacular podcast about the future. She’s also written extensively about sex robots technology with feminist humor and scientific skepticism. In this episode, Tina and Rose muse on everything from the consent politics of machines, to how sex workers and sex robots might work together, to where the hell you would store a sex robot in a New York apartment. Rose Eveleth is a journalist who covers how humans tangle with sports, science and technology. She’s the host and producer of Flash Forward, a podcast about the future, and has covered everything from fake tumbleweed farms to sexist prosthetics. Before all that she worked at The Atlantic, Smithsonian Magazine, Nautilus Magazine, TED and CBS. Her work has appeared on Vice, BBC Future, Racked, Scientific American, Eater, The New York Times, Fusion, Five Thirty Eight and more. In her spare time she makes paper automata and day dreams about hanging out with a pack of foxes.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Lesbian vampires. Face-hugging aliens. Blue collar werewolves. Shitty boyfriend robots. Abject zombies. Mermaids with strap-ons. The devil’s ice-cold dick. These are just some of the hilarious ways we sexualized monsters on this Halloween edition of YAPIT Live at the Pleasure Chest in NYC. My gore whore guests Katie Skelly (author of the graphic novel My Pretty Vampire), Kristen Sollee (author of Witches Sluts Feminists) and Carly (sex educator at the Pleasure Chest and author of the Dildo Or Dil-Don't blog). Recording by Ben Weber sponsored by Acast. If you’re in the NYC area, come to the monthly live series to enjoy raunchy talk with my special sexpert guests, wine and refreshments, schmoozing with babes, and discounted sex toy shopping! Updated info is always at TinaHorn.net/live.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I’m imagining a sperm-soaked pulsating os right now.”Tina hopped on the phone with Stephanie Berman, creator of the Pop! ejaculating dildo. They discussed the reproductive origin story of this innovative toy, as well as kinky and gender affirming uses.@TheSemenette Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For the latest in my special series from the Pleasure Chest, Mary joins me to chat about Domination and Submission. Mary has worked in various aspects of the adult industry for nearly two decades. Through pleasure education, pro domination, and outfitting premier adult stores, her focus has always been on validating fantasies and relieving humans of sexual oppressions. She currently resides in Los Angeles with her partner, two kids, and often teaches kink oriented workshops at the Pleasure Chest West Hollywood.  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Happy Pub Day Jaclyn Friedman! Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power, and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All is now available everywhere! To celebrate, enjoy this recording from our live crossover podcast at Sex Expo NYC. We discussed Ted Cruz’ “staffing issue,” the reproductive rights actions of the Satanic Temple, psychic dicks, masturbation, our favorite vibrators, adult baby diaper lovers, tentacle porn, and how to start the resistance from your bedroomRecorded live in front of an audience at the Sex Expo in Brooklyn September 23rd by Nora Linde. Educational programming sponsored by the Pleasure Chest. Engineering sponsored by Acast.http://www.jaclynfriedman.com/unscrewed@jaclynf TinaHorn.net/Live@TinaHornsAss@thesexexpo @PleasureChestNY @acast Music by Trezure Empire Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

G spots, 69’ing, custom porn, crystal massage oil: It’s YAPT Live at the Pleasure Chest with Misha Battle and Carly! Recorded on Sept 7th in NYC, this panel also covered NURU, pegging, magic wands, how sword swallowing helps you to improve your oral sex skills, and why Carly wants to be on News12 The Bronx for beating up an intruder with a certain sex toy. Recording engineered by Justine Mclellan and sponsored by Acast.@TinaHornsAss@MyishaBattle @Makeupandsin @PleasureChestNY @acast  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sex coach Ev’yan Whitney joins Tina on the phone from Portland Oregon to discuss the sex appeal of crystals, polyamory, demisexuality, masturbation, self care, and more.Ev’Yan Whitney is a writer, sensualist, and sexuality doula—a person who helps facilitate, educate, and hold space for women who are seeking to come into the full expression of their erotic selves. When she’s not writing or taking sexy selfies on Instagram, she’s helping women step out of sexual shame and into their erotic power via one-on-one coaching.Ev’Yan is also the host of The Sexually Liberated Woman podcast, which is an ongoing sex-positive dialogue that highlights, celebrates, and encourages the sexually liberated woman. You can find more about her work at sexloveliberation.com and see her brazenly celebrating her sexuality on Instagram at @evyan.whitney Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Oct 5th NYC! Sexy Monsters at the Pleasure Chest! Kristen Korvette (Witches Sluts Feminists) & Katie Skelly (My Pretty Vampire) join me to discuss why witches, vampires, werewolves, and other monsters are so erotic. TinaHorn.net/LIVE! See you there! “Magic is shifting perception and consciousness. That happens during sex whether you like it or not,.” In this episode, Kristen Korvette aka Kristen Sollee shares tips for masturbation magic, activist incantation, and the historical connection between powerful sluts and seductive witches. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Halloween is the one time of year you can wear fetish gear or lingerie in public, and the Pleasure Chest is the perfect place to shop for those dark and sexy accessories. But what about when you find yourself wanting to be a dominatrix, or a human puppy, or a stocking lover all year round? The Pleasure Chest has you, ahem, covered for all of your erotic wearable needs. Join Koko of the PC store in WeHo LA for an exploration of collars, schoolgirl skirts, packers, cat eye masks, and more outfits to signal to the world the slut or the stud you know you are inside. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Picking up cash with your pussy. Pulling bills out of your butt. Torturing men until they reveal where they've hidden your money around the room. Tina and Lorelei have witnessed some wild intersections of finances and sex in their time. In Part Two, they continue their discussion of financial domination and cash fetishism. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Money makes the world go round, or so it's been sung. So what about when cash makes your pussy wet and your dick hard? Pornographer, writer, and activist Lorelei Lee understands both sides of the transactional fetish known as financial domination. In this episode, Tina and Lorelei explore the circumstances in which sex work is and is not "findoming," plus all the different ways to fuck on top of a pile of money. “You exist only to prop me up. This is the entire reason you go to work. You’re just a pay piggie. You might as well sign over your check to me. The thing that’s thrilling me is having cash accumulate around me, rubbing it on my body, smelling it. I love to fuck on it. I love to throw it around the room. I feel like I’m receiving power when I receive that money, power that I specifically felt the lack of at many times in my life. I’m owning it, controlling it, stepping on it. Maybe the thing I’m dominating is the money… “ Lorelei Lee has been an adult film performer, a bachelor party dancer, a professional dominatrix, a waitress, an advice columnist, and a writing teacher. She has been nominated for 11 AVN awards. Her fiction, nonfiction, and poetry have appeared in Salon, The Rumpus, WIRED, Denver Quarterly, the Los Angeles Review of Books, Buzzfeed, $pread Magazine, and elsewhere. She cowrote the independent film About Cherry, in distribution through IFC films. She is a member of the Adult Performer Advocacy Committee and was the Free Speech Coalition’s 2015 Woman of the Year. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

NYC! Come out TONIGHT to see sex coach Myisha Battle and Tina Horn in conversation at the East side Pleasure Chest (TinaHorn.net/Live). If you're not in New York, then enjoy this Interrobang interview recorded the last time Myisha was in town...Sex coach Myisha Battle — who also hosts her own sex podcast Down For Whatever — has plenty to say on the subjects of threesomes, dirty talk, and squirting. But she really blew Tina's mind when she started describing dinosaur role plays and her taste for slippery nuru porn! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Pleasure Chest is a Virgo just like Tina Horn! To celebrate the 46th anniversary of this legendary sex toy retailer, Tina interviewed National Head of Business Operations Sarah Tomchesson about why people are into sex shops! Sarah explains why the biggest hurdle is walking through the door, why it's important to get a tactile feel for your sex toys, and why her grandmother got mad at her for working in this industry (but not for the reasons you might expect!).Sarah Tomchesson is Head of Business Operations for Pleasure Chest, the nation’s oldest sex-positive retailer. Sarah discovered sex-positivity and feminism while attending Reed College and after graduating with a B.A. began teaching sexual wellness and pleasure-centered workshops and seminars. Her career has involved a range of entrepreneurial endeavors, which led her to the Pleasure Chest in 2009 where she oversees company operations, brand strategy and leadership development. In addition to seeking out every opportunity to spread the message of pleasure as wellness, Sarah is also a founding member and current board member of Dyke Day LA, a volunteer-operated, free, all ages pride event in Los Angeles. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I’m really interested in stories where the sex worker doesn’t die and end up in a garbage bag.” Antonia Crane was one of the women working at the Lusty Lady when they made their historical unionization. Now she has cowritten a script called The Lusty based on her experience. Tina caught up with her during a trip to LA to talk about Westward and their favorite sex work writers. Antonia Crane is a performer, 2-time Moth Story Slam Winner and writing instructor in Los Angeles. She has written for The New York Times, The Believer, The Toast, Playboy, Cosmopolitan, Salon.com, The Rumpus, Electric Literature, DAME, The Los Angeles Review, Quartz: The Atlantic Media, Medium.com, Buzzfeed and dozens of other places. Her screenplay “The Lusty” (co-written by Transparent director, writer Silas Howard), based on the true story of the exotic dancer’s labor union, is a recipient of the San Francisco Film Society/Kenneth Rainin Foundation Grant in screenwriting, 2015. She is at work on an essay collection and a feature film. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tired of storing your vibrator in a sticky drawer? Entrepreneur Lidia Bonilla certainly was! That’s why in 2013 she left a career in banking to found the House of Plume, creating beautiful storage solutions for all of your sexual accessories. Lidia sat down with Tina to discuss the Women of Sex Tech group, why Facebook won’t allow ads for sexual wellness products, and how the sex toy industry is even whiter than banking. LIDIA BONILLA: Covered by Fast Company, Tech Crunch, and Huffington Post, the Moi Box Deluxe launched Lidia’s reputation as a design innovator, change agent and sought after expert. She speaks on topics ranging from sex in communities of color and dismantling sexual taboos to the nuts and bolts of turning an idea into a real product.Perhaps it’s no coincidence that, in her former career as a compliance and regulatory expert, Lidia worked with various “naughty” financial institutions. Raised in Miami, she calls Brooklyn home. Her spirits animals include Beyoncé, Rihanna, and the entire cast of the Golden Girls. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In Part 2 of Why Are People Into Female Dominance?!, Midori explains the appeal of compassionate sadism and details the unusual ways that graduates from her ForteFemme women’s dominance intensive use their training.Dan Savage calls Midori “The Super Nova of Kink”!  She is an artistic visionary who has touched lives across the globe with her expertise in sexuality, personal fulfillment, and kinky adventures. Using her “head-heart-hands” methodology she facilitates tackling challenging topics and creating space where people are allowed individual self-exploration. Her incredible passion is fully on display in her transformative small group intensives, including Rope Dojo ®, ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Weekend Intensive and Make Hot Play Happen. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I like a long flirtation stroking the crevices of the mind and the back alleys of the imagination.” Midori certainly knows from femme seduction. This sex ed legend joins Tina for the 50th episode to talk about her women's dominance intensive ForteFemme and topping from a feminine space. Tina tells the full origin story of Midori’s inspiration for her power femme name. A truly evocative storyteller, Midori basically had Tina flustered and blushing the entire conversation. Stay tuned for Part two on August 15th!Dan Savage calls Midori “The Super Nova of Kink”!  She is an artistic visionary who has touched lives across the globe with her expertise in sexuality, personal fulfillment, and kinky adventures. Using her “head-heart-hands” methodology she facilitates tackling challenging topics and creating space where people are allowed individual self-exploration. Her incredible passion is fully on display in her transformative small group intensives, including Rope Dojo ®, ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Weekend Intensive and Make Hot Play Happen. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

August is Anal Month at the Pleasure Chest! Tina was stoked to sit down with Brandon B, manager of the flagship West Village Pleasure Chest store (yup, the one from the rabbit vibe episode of Sex and the City) to discuss all things butt-related. This episode includes a butt-load (had to!) of toy recommendations from Brandon, including plugs, vibrators, beads, lube, even electro-stim! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“In the whore economy, you’re constantly aware if you’re common or you’re rare.” If you enjoyed Tina's talk with Jenny Zhang in the Why Are People Into Fluids?! episode a few months back, then you'll love this Interrobang all about exclusion, meaningful cores, and Jenny's short story book Sour Heart (which comes out in August!) Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"The freaks were at the Lusty. They wanted to be seen. They were shoving zucchinis up their asses and tying themselves into pretzels They were wearing santa hats and coming in as a gang of clowns and all jerking off together. Does it come from shame?” When Tina was in LA, she dropped by writer Antonia Crane's place to dig into some questions about erotic shame. Why are people so attached to their own erotic shame? Can sex help you overcome the power that shame holds over you? Do we NEED shame for sex to be fun? Whats the difference between liberation and hedonism in feminist sex positive culture? Should we harness shame and make it our bitch?Antonia Crane is a performer, 2-time Moth Story Slam Winner and writing instructor in Los Angeles. She has written for The New York Times, The Believer, The Toast, Playboy, Cosmopolitan, Salon.com, The Rumpus, Electric Literature, DAME, The Los Angeles Review, Quartz: The Atlantic Media, Medium.com, Buzzfeed and dozens of other places. Her screenplay “The Lusty” (co-written by Transparent director, writer Silas Howard), based on the true story of the exotic dancer’s labor union, is a recipient of the San Francisco Film Society/Kenneth Rainin Foundation Grant in screenwriting, 2015. She is at work on an essay collection and a feature film. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you think Sex Toy, chances are you’re thinking of a vibrator. But with so many different sizes and styles and gizmos, it can be overwhelming to find the vibrator that’s right for you… or to know how to expand your collection. Well, now is the perfect time to get your vibe on, because for the entire month of July at every Pleasure Chest store in NYC, LA, and Chicago as well as on the website pleasurechest dot com, everything that vibrates is buy one get one half off! Victor Tobar, the National Buying and Merchandising Manager for the Pleasure Chest joined me to explain the difference between from bullets and pocket rockets and pebbles and wands and duel-stim rabbits and butt vibes and more! We discuss whether we would get cyborg vibrator attachments, how to release perineum tension, and what Sex and the City tour bus tourists are looking for when they stop at the Pleasure Chest!Victor Tobar is the Pleasure Chest's National Buying and Merchandising Manager. He's been working in sex-positive sex toy retail for over a decade, and has been leading kink and sexuality workshops nationally for the last ten years. Victor stands firm in his belief that sexuality is as expansive as your imagination; let it run wild! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I'm attracted to dark misunderstood women. There's no moral valence to darkness.” Slutist editrix Kristen Sollee is the author of Witches Sluts Feminists, the new book everyone needs (creative directed by Tina Horn). Whether you’re curious about the history of persecution against women or the modern political activism of the Satanic Temple, or just wondering why everyone has crystals now, Kristen is your new favorite guide to the female occult. How does all of this relate to Pizzagate, Marcia Clark, and the Wizard of Oz? Listen now and get yourself a personalized copy of this book from witcheslutsfeminists dot com! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"I like to rub their dicks together in my mouth a little extra." In Part Two of our Gang Bang episode, kinky porn power couple Maitresse Madeline Marlowe and Will Havoc further discuss the technical, romantic, artistic, and queer potential of creating gang bang porn. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Sex that takes up a lot of time doesn’t contribute to capitalist production. Anyone who comes into the Pleasure Chest is already saying; I’m taking back time for myself." In this special Pride episode, Ryan DiMartino talks with Tina about queering sex. From fabulous toys like golden strap-on dildos, to queer porn and literature, to gender affirming gear like gaffs and packers, the Pleasure Chest is the perfect place to find everything you need to queer your sex life all year long! Ryan DiMartino coordinates education at the Pleasure Chest NY. Inspired by sharing the stage with community leader Miss Major at age 17, their work is in pursuit of justice at the intersections of sexuality and gender with a focus on sex workers rights, body autonomy, and education. When they're not working with humans, they can usually be found beneath a pile of dogs. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"I want the feeling of being forced but still be in control. You gave that to me, and it was the best day of my life." CW: This episode contains audio footage from a porno set and is even more explicit than usual. In February 2017, Tina traveled to San Francisco to shack up in the Armory and observe the final week of Kink porn being filmed within that cavernous landmark. The day after the final Hard Core Gang Bang shoot, she snuggled up in her room with director Maitresse Madeline Marlowe and her partner Will Havoc to discuss their queer DS sex work love story, and... what else? Gang Bangs! Part Two is cumming on June 15th. Maitresse Madeline Marlowe has been a porn director, performer and professional dominatrix for over 13 years. Her primary focus has been BDSM and fetish. She's a lifestyle top with a knack for prostate milking, orchestrating gangbangs on and off camera and findomme. She currently directs Hardcoregangbang.com, Tsseduction.com and Divinebitches.com.Will Havoc is a Bay Area native... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Intimacy gets my rocks off.” My friends Joe, Fran, and Dennis (along w Tommy who couldn’t make this taping) host my fave new podcast Food 4 Thot, which is about queer literary sluts. Sound like anyone you know? In this rambling, rosé-fueled episode, the boys answer a litany of why are people into that question: poppers, nipples, virgins, piss, rim jobs, the politics of race play, and much more! Then we play a swipe left swipe right game from F4T, revealing our opinions on Susan Sarandon, spandex, and karaoke. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“I deserve to dance in the fields of Dionysus!” In the first edition of a new bonus segment sponsored by the Pleasure Chest, I speak with Pleasure Chest educators about the subjects the store is celebrating every month. Since it’s Masturbation May, I spoke on the phone with Antoinette Elizabeth, the manager of the Pleasure Chest in the Lakeview area of Chicago. We discussed why people are into: vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, and erotica, and how masturbation can help you to process the depressing and anxiety-provoking news! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hair pulling, face slapping, tit torture, parasympathetic nervous responses, Lola’s kidnapping fantasies, trauma processing, and the surprising shapes that bruises can take. Part Two is an episode that takes a licking and keeps on tickin...Dirty Lola is a storyteller, sex educator, sex toy peddler, and the creator and host of the live sex Q&A / go-go show and podcast Sex Ed A Go-Go. During the last six years, she has shared her distinctive brand of kickass body and sex-positivity and her personal journey into the kink and polyamorous lifestyles with the masses on and off stage. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Biting. Flogging. Tickling. What is the relationship between erotic pain and sensuality? What’s to love about enduring pain to please someone else? What happens when a masochist stubs her toe? What makes someone a classic brat? Sex Ed A Go Go producer and kink educator Dirty Lola sat down with Tina to discuss all the pain that don’t hurt. Dirty Lola is a storyteller, sex educator, sex toy peddler, and the creator and host of the live sex Q&A / go-go show and podcast Sex Ed A Go-Go. During the last six years, she has shared her distinctive brand of kickass body and sex-positivity and her personal journey into the kink and polyamorous lifestyles with the masses on and off stage. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Should you pie a Nazi in the face? What's the best JELL-O for wrestling? What are the class implications of bringing food into your sex life? These are the kinds of questions Tina and Lorelei have been asking each other over the years in dungeons, porn castles, and cocktail bars. They figured the least they could do for their fans was to record it for once! Lorelei Lee has been an adult film performer, a bachelor party dancer, a professional dominatrix, a waitress, an advice columnist, and a writing teacher. She has been nominated for 11 AVN awards. Her fiction, nonfiction, and poetry have appeared in Salon, The Rumpus, WIRED, Denver Quarterly, the Los Angeles Review of Books, Buzzfeed, $pread Magazine, and elsewhere. She cowrote the independent film About Cherry, in distribution through IFC films. She is a member of the Adult Performer Advocacy Committee and was the Free Speech Coalition’s 2015 Woman of the Year. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jenny Zhang’s poetry is disgusting; and, if you know me, you know that nothing makes me wetter than obscenity.Jenny Zhang is the author of Dear Jenny, We Are All Find (Octopus Books), Hags (Guillotine), The Selected Jenny Zhang (Emily Books), and the forthcoming Sour Heart (Lenny). She was born in Shanghai and raised in Queens. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"I feel exposed by how wet I can be." Jenny Zhang's poetry is delightfully obscene, so it's no surprise she describes herself as "a very goopy person." In this episode, Tina and Jenny (the brilliant author of chapbooks, essays, and an upcoming book of short stories called Sour Heart) explore all the fluids the human body can produce, from spit to sweat to piss to cum. Along the way, they investigate the phenomenon of dirty panty sniffing, gushers candy, and the erotic potential of words like drained. Warning: this is one of the most visceral and frankly disgusting episodes of YAPIT!Jenny Zhang is the author of Dear Jenny, We Are All Find (Octopus Books), Hags (Guillotine), The Selected Jenny Zhang (Emily Books), and the forthcoming Sour Heart (Lenny). She was born in Shanghai and raised in Queens. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Andrew Gurza is a writer and podcaster who specializes in queerness and disability. In this episode of Interrobang, he reveals what pisses him off about dating, gives advice on how to talk (and how not to talk) to cute disabled people, and explains how queer cripple can be a term of empowerment Andrew Gurza is a Disability Awareness Consultant and Cripple Content Creator working to make the lived experience of queerness and disability accessible to all. His written work has been featured in Huffington Post, The Advocate, Everyday Feminism, Mashable, and Out.com He has presented all across North America on what it means to be a Queer Cripple. He is also the host of the DisabilityWithDrew and DisabilityAfterDark Podcasts. Andrew resides in Toronto, Canada. You can find out more about his work at www.andrewgurza.com Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In Part Two, Tina dares to ask the AORTA queer experimental filmmakers: Why Are People Into Porn?!Does anyone actually jerk off to high-concept porn? Can porn be rehearsed? What if you have an experimental dance background and a radical queer political agenda? AORTA Films wants to explore these questions and more with their milk-guzzling queer erotic videos. Mere days after the American presidental election opened a hellmouth, Tina got together with Max Capacity, Ginny Wolf, and Parts Authority to drink whiskey and get to the bottom of these issues and many more. Part Two coming soon. AORTA films makes experimental queer/feminist porn - lusty, opulent, ethical, fuckery. Led by creator/director/performer Mahx Capacity, and performer/producers Parts Authority and Ginny Woolf, AORTA films seeks to create porn that disrupts boundaries and glitches desire. Working out of DIY and experimental performance contexts, they are interested in creating content that centers performers across a wide range of bodies... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Queer porn star Chelsea Poe explains how her sexuality is like an everything bagel, how making trans BDSM porn is like being in a blasphemous metal band, and what really turns her on Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The shot of me in my underwear on top of a guitar amp? You know the one on the YAPIT logo? Yeah, Ellen Stagg took that. She also took the ones of me in blue protector light smoking a cigar, and the ones of me lounging on a leather couch in a blazer. She's also taken classic pictures of porn stars, burlesque dancers, pro-dommes, and hundreds of other professionally naked babes. In this episode, Ellen and I compared notes as photographer and model about the stories people project onto nude portraits, the distinction between objectification and exploitation, and the infamous creepy Model Mayhem GWCS (Guys With Cameras). Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In which Ellen Stagg tells the art school tale of somewhat unintentionally exposing her asshole... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Does anyone actually jerk off to high-concept porn? Can porn be rehearsed? What if you have an experimental dance background and a radical queer political agenda? AORTA Films wants to explore these questions and more with their milk-guzzling queer erotic videos. Mere days after the American presidental election opened a hellmouth, Tina got together with Max Capacity, Ginny Wolf, and Parts Authority to drink whiskey and get to the bottom of these issues and many more. Part Two coming soon. AORTA films makes experimental queer/feminist porn - lusty, opulent, ethical, fuckery. Led by creator/director/performer Mahx Capacity, and performer/producers Parts Authority and Ginny Woolf, AORTA films seeks to create porn that disrupts boundaries and glitches desire. Working out of DIY and experimental performance contexts, they are interested in creating content that centers performers across a wide range of bodies, genders, races, and identities. They work collaboratively, prioritizing safe and enthusiastically... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tattoo artist Tamara Santibañez reveals her body mod fetish fantasy in Part Two of Why Are People Into Tattoos?! with Tina Horn Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The intimidatingly tough babe covered in symbols. The buzz of a vibrating machine. The endorphin rush of welcome, purposeful pain. These are just some of the ways that tattoo culture intersects with underground sexualities. Nobody knows that intersection better than Tamara Santibañez, a Brooklyn-based tattoo artist and the indie publisher of Discipline Press. Tune in to Part One as Tina and Tamara discuss the paradoxes of body art that is at once exhibitionist and a big fat FUCK YOU. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

PART TWO: Ever since Jacq the Stripper invited me to an all-sex-worker drinking game screening of Showgirls, I knew I had to have her on the podcast to explore the appeal of strip clubs: the lap dances, the cash hustle, and of course the neon spandex. Jacq just Kickstarted a coffee table book called Striptastic: part sociological study based on a survey of 300 nude and semi-clad dancers from around the world, and part full-colored illustrated comics extravaganza. Listen now to learn about the alluring power of naked entrepreneurs, and how even you can be a feminist strip club patron! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

THIS EPISODE DOESN'T SUCK! Ever since Jacq the Stripper invited me to an all-sex-worker drinking game screening of Showgirls, I knew I had to have her on the podcast to explore the appeal of strip clubs: the lap dances, the cash hustle, and of course the neon spandex. Jacq just Kickstarted a coffee table book called Striptastic: part sociological study based on a survey of 300 nude and semi-clad dancers from around the world, and part full-colored illustrated comics extravaganza. Listen now to learn about the alluring power of naked entrepreneurs, and how even you can be a feminist strip club patron! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Part Two: Struggle as much as you want: this episode has got you right where it wants you! Bondage is often used as short hand for kink, but that doesn’t make it any less profound. Troy Orlean’s professional bondage practice takes people far beyond the world of fuzzy pink handcuffs into a realm of meditation, transcendence, intensity, and even freedom. Tina visited Troy in her decadent Manhattan studio to talk about hemp rope, leather cuffs, latex bodybags, iron cages, and much more. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Struggle as much as you want: this episode has got you right where it wants you! Bondage is often used as short hand for kink, but that doesn't make it any less profound. Troy Orlean's professional bondage practice takes people far beyond the world of fuzzy pink handcuffs into a realm of meditation, transcendence, intensity, and even freedom. Tina visited Troy in her decadent Manhattan studio to talk about hemp rope, leather cuffs, latex bodybags, iron cages, and much more.Troy Orleans is a New York City-based professional dominant who loves putting people into bondage. Her genuine, personable play style emphasizes connection, exploration, and expression of one's fullest self.She can be found on the web, Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, and FetLife as TroyOrleans. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The sleek smooth feel. The synthetic smell. The snap of rubber. The containment. The pretty colors! Tina has never had much of a taste for latex outfits, but in this episode, kinky queer designer Abigail Greydanus may have persuaded her that latex fetishism is all about self love.Abigail Greydanus graduated from the Fashion Institute of Design & Merchandising (FIDM) in 2006 and has been designing latex fashion for over 10 years. Her personal design style leans towards Art Deco, bold lines, vintage styling, unique colors, sexy cut outs and fun appliqué prints – all of which are evident in the custom one of a kind garments she is best known for. She has pushed the boundaries of her designs to the next level and worked with many fabulous individual’s inspired by her design point of view. Some recent customers and collaborations include Katy Perry. Lady Gaga, Rihanna, Carmen Electra, Sofia Vergara, Laura Marano, Elle Magazine, MTV, NBC, and many others. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“You’re still a Madonna to everyone else but maybe you’re a little bit of a whore for him sometimes” In this special episode of Interrobang, my guest is Jacq the Stripper, a writer, comedian, stripper and illustrator. She is kickstarting Striptastic! a full-color coffee-table book of illustrations, interviews, and data collected from a survey she conducted with nearly 300 strippers from around the world. The campaign ends the morning of Sept 7th but you can buy the book and some other excellent stripper swag in perpetuity by visiting jacqthestripper.com/striptastic to pledge that shit! We recorded a full-length conversation about why people are into strip clubs, but in this preview we answer a sex advice question from a fan. To find out what jack and I think about grappling with the Madonna-Whore complex, listen now! Interrobang is the name of the short exclooosive segment that you get when you subscribe to YAPIT on Acast because you just can’t get enough uncensored pervert conversation. But I’m releasing this one on the regular Why Are People Into That feed so you can get… a taste. Download the ACast App to find out more! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this preview of my longer interview with queer pornographer Chelsea Poe, we discuss butt selfies, sexting fails, and the future of trans porn. Subscribe to YAPIT on ACast Plus to hear this and more XXXtra interviews with my guests! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Fire! Fire! It’s not just a toy for teenage dirtbags anymore! It’s also a primal element that can be harnesses for kinky sex. Lamalani sat down with Tina to explain the erotic appeal of a flame to all five senses, describe some really fun fire play scenes, and instruct us on how to play safe with this dangerous force of nature. If you’ve ever wondered what folks mean when they talk about a flame “licking,” this is the episode for you!Lamalani originally hails from the Pacific Northwest, lived in the Bay Area of California and is currently pursuing her PhD in the Midwest. She held the title of Washington State Ms Leather 2008 and International Ms Leather 2009. Professionally, Lamalani has been a purchaser and sex-educator at the women-owned sex toy store Babeland, bondage rope maker with Twisted Monk and craftsperson at Mr S Leathers. She was awarded the Northwest Regional Pantheon XV, Leather Emerald Award 2011 and named in The Advocate magazine's 2010 list of 40 exemplary people under 40. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is a raunchy one, folks. We talk about a whole lot of out-there fetishes on this show. Every so often we like to switch it up and talk about something conventional, familiar, and even vanilla. Which leads us to... cocksucking. Subversive writer and podcaster Merritt K has a lot to say about the job of blow: its versatility, its portability, its theatricality .. and her perspectives are anything but mundane. What makes a great cocksucker? A great cocksuckee? What is the advantage of the mouth over other holes? Do you have to have a cock to get your cock sucked? Does consent have to be hot to be necessary? (hint: Nope) These questions and more on the latest episode of YAPIT?!. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's kinky craft day on Interrobang?! with my guest, International Ms Leather 2009 Lamalani Siverts! Find out how to make a torch for fire play using simple hardware store materials -- and discover whether Lama prefers baths or showers -- by subscribing to YAPIT?! on ACastPlus! Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's all well and good to play a video game or go on a tour of the ocean floor with a virtual reality headset: but if you're jerking off, you need that shit to seem really, really real! Ela Darling is here to make that happen: she's the world's first VR cam girl. Ela and her pioneering company are working tirelessly to assure not only that VR cam models have presence and immersion for the viewer, but that this science-fiction-cum-science-fact industry creates new and sustainable revenue for model-entrepreneurs. Ela not only has a deep understanding of nerdy tech stuff, but intrinsic compassion for the sex workers who put the reality in virtual reality.DISCUSSED: The Uncanny Valley / Presence / Engagement / Immersion / Light Reflected Off Skin / Caligula-style Orgies / Would Artificially Intelligent Sex Workers Pass a Turing Test? / Dragons Fucking While Flying / Combating Loneliness / Inter-pupillary Distance / "Maybe They Get Off on Disappointment" / Teledildonics / The First Martian Ejaculation / Shoot... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is Interrobang! Available exclusively to Acast+ subscribers! Sign up now to get access to this and other bonus content from Tina Horn and Why Are People Into That?! An interrobang is when a question mark and an exclamation point are next to each other. Really. That’s the actual name for that. On this episode of Interrobang, my guest is Merrit K. She’s the host of the Woodland Secrets podcast and the editor of the anthology Video Games for Humans. She is also very funny and prolific on Twitter @merrittkopas. Merritt told me about two related sexual interests that I really didn’t know very much about: pregnancy fetishes and the Omegaverse. What the actual fuck is that? Keep listening and find out! Interrobang is produced and hosted by Tina Horn. Follow @TinaHornsAss on Twitter and Instagram and visit WhyArePeopleIntoThat.com. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Privacy! Boners! Feelings!THIS is a very special episode of YAPIT, in which we investigate the subject of Tina’s new book: Sexting: The grown-ups Guide of Sex Tips to Getting Dirty Digitally. Tina wanted to invite someone with fresh, smart, refreshing ideas about naked selfie pride, choosing your own SMS adventure, and the ethics of digital privacy. After reading Alana Massey’s “feeling journalism” about online dating and technological intimacy, Tina asked Alana to be on the show; whereupon, Alana proclaimed sexting to be her highest art form!DISCUSSED:“You’re not sexting with my butt, you’re sexting with me” / "You are starring in my personalized smut" / Cyber-sex / A/S/L / “I just took a sexy picture of myself; can I send it to you?” / The Gift Dispatch Sext / “Just because you’re on your phone doesn’t mean you can phone it in.” / The power to turn someone on even if you’re not in the same room / Teleportation of arousal / Stopping someone in their tracks / Reciprocity, caution, vulnerability /... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Is blood just another sexual fluid? Or is it dangerous paint? Canadian photographer Maxwell Lander (whose unparalleled new book, Carnal Anomaly, is out now!) is prepared to open veins and find out. Max is infamous for breaking through all kinds of barriers: between art and vulgarity, sex and violence, and sometimes the literal skin between human insides and the outside world. Tina climbed into Max's Times Square hotel bed to giggle and shiver about knives, guns, scalpels, needles, and pushing beyond the limits of desire.DISCUSSED: David Cronenberg's Crash / Canadian health care / Beefhearts Discovered in Garbage Cans / Fake Zombie Blood / Taking Things Too Far / The Taste of Menstrual Blood / Confronting Mortality Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Kink is about exploring the uncontrollable in a controlled way. It's about feeling unsafe in a situation that is actually safe. That's the art of it." Erotic humiliation can be about so many different abstract things, and Princess Kali is here to break it down! This retired dominatrix, producer of Kink Academy, and author of Enough to Make You Blush explains how diminishing someone's ego can be one of the hottest kinds of BDSM. Whether it's objectification, financial domination, gender play, domestic service, or exposure, kinky humiliation is an intense form of power exchange that keeps on giving!Princess Kali has spent over fourteen years exploring not only the how but the why of alternative lifestyles. Her experience working as a professional dominatrix has given her a unique understanding of the motivations behind erotic humiliation play as well as a passion for helping people participate in it more safely and enjoyably. Her engaging style of presenting has been welcomed at more than 150 venues... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this special bonus episode of YAPIT, notorious genderqueer performance artist Johnny Blazes answers sexting advice submitted by Tina's Patreon patrons. Tina may have written the book on sexting, but Blazes knows a thing or two about a thing or too!Johnny Blazes is a performer, educator, and author who is notorious for their exuberant and glittery approach to the stage and classroom. johnnyblazes.com. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Making porn informed how I wanted to have sex for the rest of my life. I just want to have sex with my friends who understand craft and narrative and know how to empathize through art.” Tina was so excited that cam model and writer Milcah Halili wanted to talk about the erotic appeal of narratives and storytelling. They went extra deep in a discussion of the stories we tell ourselves, our partners, and our clients in order to live.DISCUSSED: Spice Girls as ancient arcetypes / Coming Out Like A Porn Star / Tuxedo Mask / Feral Black Street Cat / Messy Punk Girl / Sk8ter Girl / Femme Worship / Storytelling Domination Ring / “I go a little batty if i cant be mean to someone” / Choose Your Own Adventure Porn / Dreams as cCeative Nonfiction / Getting into porn by taking a writing class with Lorelei Lee / Demisexuality / AsexualityLISTEN:Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Happy New Queer! Welcome to Part Two of a very special crossover episode of Why Are People Into That?! with Siouxsie Q of the Whorecast and Sam Solo of the On Your Face podcast! Tina spent New Years Day at the Whorecastle in Oakland. To get pumped about 2016, these three sex workin, indie media makin pals sat down to do a Year in Sex review of 2015. In Part Two, they talk Ashley Madison hack, Magic Mike XL, and Sex Worker Heroes like Zola and Heather.LISTEN:  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Happy New Queer! Welcome to a very special crossover episode of Why Are People Into That?! with Siouxsie Q of the Whorecast and Sam Solo of the On Your Face podcast! Tina spent New Years Day at the Whorecastle in Oakland. To get pumped about 2016, these three sex workin, indie media makin pals sat down to do a Year in Sex review of 2015. In Part One, they talk Jessica Jones, The Force Awakens, and the consent scandals that defined the year. Part Two is coming atcha soon!LISTEN:  Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This month's episode is, if we may say so, the kind of conversation you'll only find on Why Are People Into That?!. Poet Arielle Greenberg tells Tina Horn all about her fetish for hedonism. Arielle gets off on encouraging a partner to have another drink or another doughnut, to fuck a hot stranger, or to be in any way decadent. From an exploration of the seven deadly sins to a brand new way of thinking about certain cartoons, this discussion may inspire you to think about your own indulgences in a new, hornier light!DISCUSSED: Bacchanals / Templeton's awesome night at the fair / The fetish possibilities of Greed, Pride, Envy, Sloth, Rage, Lust, and Gluttony / Feeding and Gaining / Emotional Edge Play / What do Magic Mike, Boogie Nights, and Caligula have in common? / Belly Worship / Cigar and Bootblack parties / Naked DesireLISTEN:Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cooper Beckett has a media empire devoted to swinging – a form of non-monogamy in which couples play with other couples – and has devoted extensive blogging, podcasting, and now a book to the subject. So what is it about swinging as a kind of sexual adventure that is such a turn-on?DISCUSSED: The difference between polyamory and swinging / A case for choosing swinging over cheating / Why the swinging community is welcoming to bi women more than bi men / Beyond “The Ice Storm” and key partiesLISTEN:Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tina was pretty over the moon to talk to legendary comedian/storyteller/perv Kevin Allison about cruising. What do anonymous semi-public BJs have to do with gay male cultural heritage, and – more importantly – where are the best spots in NYC to get/give one? On his podcast, RISK!, Kevin is not shy about his erotic exploits, and this episode pokes around in the tons and tons of tiny little closet sized rooms in the bathhouse of some dirty minds.DISCUSSED: The Secret Spiral Staircase of the Limelight / One Night in Central Park / The Bijou/ The West Side Club / The Guy Who Made Me Tie My Shoes To My Balls / “Abandon Hope All Ye Who Enter Here” / Heart on my Sleeve, Cards on the Table / The Shadow World Where Rules Don't ApplyLISTEN:Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When Tina Horn thinks of bicycles, you know she thinks about sweaty, greasy sex. Luckily, she’s not the only bikesexual around. For this episode, Poppy Cox, the creative director of the Bike Smut film festival, came over to discuss the connection between bikes and civic politics, the history of women’s liberation, and what might be involved in taking a bike slut home from a bar.LISTEN:Poppy Cox is a performer, costumer and sex-positive feminist. She lived and worked in London, UK for seven years where... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Pop quiz: What did Tristan and Tina discover they both love while recording this episode?1. Deep water penetration by enema2. Using butt plugs to be lazy tops3. The gender-bending potential of anal bottoming4. Having a hotel room pajama party at a fancy women’s leather event5. All of the above and more!LISTEN:Tristan Taormino is the author of 8 books, including The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. She is the editor of more than 25 anthologies including The Ultimate Guide to Kink and... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How is being an editor like being a voyeur? What advantages does erotic fiction have over visual porn? How can erotica be a tool for richer fantasies and hotter sex? Why do we associate written erotica with women and visual porn with men? All this and more comes up when Tina sits down with prolific erotica writer and editor Rachel Kramer Bussel.LISTEN:Rachel Kramer Bussel (rachelkramerbussel.com) is the author of Sex & Cupcakes: A Juicy Collection of Essays... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tina Horn and Girl Sex 101 Allison Moon both love to put their strap-ons in the butts of lucky gentlemen. What is it about this specific gender configuration (a cis-woman fucking a cis-man in the ass with a strap-on), this so-called “reversal of roles,” that has the incredible power to queer heterosexual intercourse?Some questions: What's in your pegging kit? / What does the third sphincter do? / What pegging position does the swamp planet Dagobah bring to mind? / How is a strap-on like a pair of boots?LISTEN:Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You'll recall the meme featuring the great Iggy Pop wearing an evening gown alongside his quote: “I'm not ashamed to dress ‘like a woman' because I don't think it's shameful to be a woman.”This month's episode is a discussion between two cisgender queer women who have both made a living for many years facilitating the fantasy of cisgender men to dress up in dresses, lingerie, heels, makeup, and wigs. Beginning with the premise that the very idea of “crossing” from one gender to the other is horribly outmoded (for example, both Tina and guest Morgana Maye were definitely both wearing pants during this conversation), these two professional dominants discuss the erotic possibilities and mind-bending politics of those who enjoy erotically embodying femininity without identifying as a woman per ce.Discussed: “Please explain me to myself” / The difference between erotic degradation, humiliation, and embarrassment /... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Can a size queen ever be satisfied? Maybe not, but why should she? This episode is a tribute to big cocks, giant hands, oversized vibrators, voluminous screams, zaftig bodies, and insatiable appetites. T.Pantherella has sold toys, instructed the sexually curious, and thrown her hip out during a burlesque act, so suffice it to say she knows all about things that take up space.LISTEN: T. Pantherella is a Black queer fat-bodied femme kinkster. She is... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tina wrote an essay for Nikki Silver's upcoming book of photography, Unshaven, which collects erotic images of hairy women from Silver's iconoclastic hardcore website, Naughty Natural. In this episode, Tina snuggles up in Silver's four-poster bed to discuss everything they love about being hairy, and what other people love (and misunderstand) about unshaven women.Porn ideas brainstormed in this episode:1. Hairy Armpit Smell-O-Vision2. “You Could Always Get Caught” – a full-length hiking sex feature3. HairyTorture.com featuring forced waxing4.... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

S-L-U-T: she may be a slut but she looks good to me! That classic Todd Rundgren song may be stuck in your head after listening to Tina and Reid slosh around in a bathtub in Oakland California blowing bubbles and gabbing hard about sexual extroversion. Come for the orgy stories, stay for the cogent perspectives on love and dating from two of the world's sluttiest sex educators. Discussed: The Great Queer Vegas Orgy of 2012 / Dating Your Species / Leaving the Campsite Better / Have You Had The Blueberry Waffles? / Being in Love with Two People at Once / Falling in Love with a Sex Toy / Being Slutty with Yourself / The New Seduction is Being Honest / The Brain Chemistry of... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sex drives technology, no doubt about it. In this week’s episode, journalist Melissa Gira Grant gives Tina a history lesson in cam girls: how they’ve gone from surveillance performance art to social media microcelebs to the future of sex work. From commercial hardcore Skype shows to nonconsensual revenge porn, this episode traces the evolution of naked digital representations.Discussed: Setting Your Watch by a 3 Minute Dildo Show / Stoya’s Instagram Feed / A Man’s Voice Enters the House Through the Telephone / The Vanguard of Personal Boundaries / Sitting On A Cake / Menstruation Porn / The Worst Thing That Could Happen to Fake Julia Roberts / Information OverloadThis episode also features a preview of Rachel Kramer Bussel's new book of essays Sex and Cupcakes!LISTEN:Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why do we get off on the things that scare us? That's the question Tina posed to her old friend Mickey Mod, along with very special guest co-host Quinn Cassidy. As a long-time veteran in front of and behind the sex industry camera, Mickey has a lot to say about the reasons that fear sells porno. This dreamteam threesome ate a lot of nachos, sipped some fine liquor, and talked some serious talks about race, power, and desire.Fear-based Content / Can Porn Heal The World? / The Same Body Over And Over / The Myth of the Black Male Rapist / Race Play versus Interracial Porn / “We are so good at war” / The Social Good of Satire / Watercooler Conversations about Tentacle Hentai /LISTEN:Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Pain, discipline, rosy-red butts – there's a lot to love about spanking, and a lot of loaded questions to ask about it, too. One of the most prominent mainstream journalists to tackle those issues these days is Jillian Keenan, who has written extensively about her own spanking fetish. She reveals a bunch of emotionally honest and nerdily physiological explanations into why spanking is such a turn on for her… and our host… and probably most of our audience, too!Discussed:Kiss me Kate / The Kink Gateway Drug / Shakespearean Cunt Jokes / Down the Rabbit Hole / Playing House / Little House on the Prairie / Commonilliac Artery / Oxytocyn / S2 Spinal Levels Nerves / Fetlife / TrustLISTEN:Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What’s your fantasy? Crack your knuckles and do your carpal tunnel exercises: it’s time to talk about porn! Journalist Anna Breslaw just might be changing women’s magazines from the inside, and in this episode she sits down with Tina to answer some tricky questions about nudie pics and blue movies.Why do people like watching other people have sex? Why do people keep trying to tell us there’s something wrong with that? What is the connection between Linda Tripp, the Duke student who outed Belle Knox, and the 4chan Fappening? What does David Duchonvy keep in his secret sex cave? Did Ludacris really have sex on stage at a Ludacris concert? Find out in Episode 16!LISTEN:Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

International Ms Bootblack 2011 kd diamond is an accomplished artist: and she's also a card-carrying leather fetishist. In this episode, kd opens up her boot care kit and lets us peek inside. We learn how integral bootblacks are to the Leather Scene, and how taking care of leather clothes can represent service, worship, or simply hot kinky sex.Discussed:How To Always Smell The Glove; The Smokiest Batch of Huberd's Grease; Commodity Fetishism; NYC's Submit Play Party; How Is A Bootblack Like A Hairdresser or Bartender or Grillmaster or Massuese: Learning About The World With Your Mouth; Leather for Vegans; Always Tip Your BootblackThis episode also includes a sneak peak at Sinclair Sexsmith's Sweet and Rough: Queer Smut! That entire interview is on our Soundcloud page!Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Conner Habib's personal library gave Tina Horn such a big brain boner she kinda just wanted to roll around reading and smelling his books all afternoon. Because that's the kind of creep she is. Instead, she pulled it together and asked the writer, porn star, and advocate to discuss the Occult. How is magic related to sex? Why are gay sex and BDSM such a threat to those in power? What's the most psychedelic thing you can do while masturbating? Discussed: “What if these crazy things are true?”, Helvetica: the Font of Fascism, “Does this blow-job make me look fat?”, Pernicious myths, Intoxicated with love, Consent, Castro steam room sex, Black magic and white wizards, Evil in David... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cocktease, striptease, tease and denial… For Episode 13, Mitra Kaboli, the producer of that other amazing sexy podcast Audiosmut, came over to talk about how much she loves to be teased. We talked about the delicious tension of long, slow foreplay, and we also dug into more serious social questions of sexual entitlement.Discussed: Sex monsters /  Tickling / Excitement / Boundaries / Dates /  DTF / Intimacy / MakingOut / First Base / Consummation / Horniness / Satisfaction / Play / Silliness / Checking In / Consent / Dirty Talk / Being in charge / Build / Surrender / Coax / Desire / Climax / Yearning / Restraint / Pacing / Inner Thighs /  Arousal / Rubbing One Out / Polyamory / New Relationship Energy / Lust / Habit / New Moves / Flirting / Spank... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dicks! Dicks! Dicks! Episode 12 has more cock talk than any YAPIT episode yet! My guest is Nayland, an interdisciplinary artist who knows a whole lot about the sexual fetish of chastity devices and orgasm control. In his own words, “Cocks are ludicrous” and this episode has lots of ideas for consensually exploiting that wonderful fact.Discussed: ownership, predicament bondage, tease and denial, mini iron maidens, frustration, conditioning, long distance submission, Maid Marion’s Everlast chastity belt, sensory depravation tanks, being locked, being a key holderLISTEN: Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In Side B of Episode 11, Sarah Patterson and I discussed the myriad motivations of people in the sex trades. Whether you work on the street or in a dungeon, on camera or in a private room, with your voice or with your body, every sex worker faces staggering stigma against the legitimacy of the labor they do in exchange for the things they need. What happens when the need to make a living intersects with human sexual desire? How do those needs jive, and how do they clash? Sarah and I speak from our own experiences in the industry, as well as what we've learned from our various communities.LISTEN: Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Last October, I was sharing a modest office studio space in Bushwick with one of my favorite organizations, the Persist Health Project. One day, the Executive Director of Persist, Sarah Patterson, and I got coffee and vegan deli sandwiches and sat in our little white room for almost two hours talking about sex work. We challenged ourselves to ask both: Why Are People Into Hiring Sex Workers, and Why Are People Into Doing Sex Work (the later question being not as much about personal sexual desire so much as it is about examining what motivates people to do sexual labor).This week's episode, Side A, focuses on why people enjoy watching porn, going to strip clubs, and hiring private service providers.Discussed: Is it cheating to go to a strip club? Is there such a thing as porn addiction? If sex work was legalized, would it still turn us on? Why are some kinds of sex work legal and some not? How does whorephobia and sex worker stigma become internalized and... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's our 10th Episode! There are a hell of a lot of sexual desires that Igancio could explain to us, and we'd eat our hats if they didn't have a story to tell about it that made us weak in the knees. We are really glad we settled on “squirting” because the personal anecdotes they shared sort of made us squirmy and giggly and forget our notes, which is pretty much what you wanted out of this podcast, right?But seriously, folks, what does it mean to talk about “female ejaculation” with someone who identifies as gender fluid? Does the g-spot really exist (hint: yes.). Hang on to your Liberator, cuz it's Why Are People Into Squirting?LISTEN:Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I am a blithering fangirl for Siouxsie Q's podcast The Whorecast – in many ways, it continues to inspire me to make YAPIT. When Siouxsie and I met at Catalyst Con, we tumbled into predestined JournHOlist/whorenalist love at first sight. We snuggled up with Siouxsie's prized My Little Pony blanket and Frederick the Bear for a very personal discussion of Age Play.What is the erotic appeal of a consenting adult pretending to be younger than she actually is? Siouxsie was brave enough to open up to me about the Little Girl part of her identity, and how being Little affects her sexuality, her creativity, and her emotional life. I also got to learn what it was like to win San Francisco's Little Ms Little contest!LISTEN:Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

OMG SHOES!!When James Darling stopped by my New York City apartment, he immediately spotted one of my prized possessions: a pair of black leather Jimmy Choo 4 inch stiletto high heels. Boy's got taste. James and I had some fun with those shoes in a porno once… and that strut down memory lane inspired us to talk about high heel worship! We discussed the femme phallus, trampling, and the precautions you might want to talk before inserting the heels into your holes.LISTEN: James Darling is a multiple award winning... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Opinionated “intelligent hedonist”. Savvy business-woman. Frat boy trapped in a the body of a gorgeous lady. Kelly Shibari can come sit on my couch and tweet all about it any day. Sometimes it seems Kelly gets tired of always being asked about big girl sex, so we tried to broaden our conversation to the more general topic of “Why Are People Into Size?!” Listen in as we speculate about the business end of body politics in porn, and invent a machine that shakes big boobs in your face while you work (patent pending).LISTEN:Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In our continued commitment to post-modernity, Episode 6, “Why Are People Into Exhibitionism?!” with very special guest Carol Queen was recorded live in front of an audience at Catalyst Con East last March … which means that Tina and Dr. Queen talked about the love of having sex in front of other people in front of other people.Of course, Exhibitionism is about more than getting off on being watched while you fuck. It's about all kinds of arousal that comes from all kinds of being seen. As Tina and Carol explored, it can be about dressing up and showing off, making money by dancing naked, or sending someone a picture of your genitals in the mail. And of course, where would exhibitionists be without voyeurs like our live audience and listeners like you? Listen in as Tina riffs on all this and more with her hero, a legend in her own time, Dr. Queen.Discussed: The Lusty Lady, consent, talking to yourself while masturbating, putting on a show, getting... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Helloooooooooooo Nurse!For Episode 5, Tina spoke to her friend Zil Goldstein, a badass medical professional and health advocate, about the phenomenon of Naughty Nurses. Why are nurses such pervasive pop culture sex symbols? How do trust, bedside manner, and Mommy issues play into nurse obsessions? Or is it really all about the outfits?This episode also features a spontaneous mock medical play scene, during which we don't really learn much besides the fact that Tina is a very bratty patient and Zil is a consummate professional!Discussed: OLD CARTS, expertise demonstrated by a hat, enemas, white as symbol of purity, pronoun check-ins, pencil skirts, passing, institutionalized intimacy.LISTEN:Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In Episode Four, we're joined by Tina's old friend from San Francisco, Aislinn Emirzian. Badass sex educator Aislinn is the co-author (with the equally esteemed Dr. Charlie Glickman) of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, a one-of-a-kind book that explores that misunderstood erogenous zone: the male g-spot!This episode is for anyone with a prostate (whatever you may call it) who wants to explore its erotic potential, as well as anyone who loves to play with people who have prostates. Butt toys, strap-on play, solo exploration, lube, enemas, masculinity, femme-phobia … we cover a lot of ground in an hour! Aislinn really knows her anatomy, and this may be our nerdiest episode yet!Enjoy, be sure to get a copy of Aislinn and Charlie's book, and remember: stroke it, don't poke it!LISTEN:Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In Episode Three, Tina Horn talks with prolific kinky author Laura Antoniou about erotic service and sex slaves. Why would someone want to be sexually enslaved to another? Why would someone want a slave to submit to them utterly? Could this all just be about getting off and feeling more connected? Laura gives some surprising advice for newbies: get off the internet and volunteer at an event, especially if you're a top!And we learn just how romantic a cup of coffee can be…LISTEN:Laura Antoniou has been writing erotica for over twenty years. Best known for... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tina has been dreaming of chatting with legendary pervert Mollena Williams about role play for a long time, and she finally got her wish! In Part Two of this episode, Tina and Mollena get to the bottom of characters, costumes, scenarios, and dirty talk; and Mollena shares some pretty unforgettable tales of pretty ponies, daddy/girl scenes, and that one time she really upset a slave auction…LISTEN:Mollena Williams, the “Delicate, Trembling Flower of Submission” © is a NYC born and raised writer, actress, BDSM Educator, Storyteller and an... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tina has been dreaming of chatting with legendary pervert Mollena Williams about Role Play for a long time, and she finally got her wish! In this episode (Part One of Two!), Tina and Mollena dig into primal impulses, negotiations, and storytelling.LISTEN:Mollena Williams, the “Delicate, Trembling Flower of Submission” © is a NYC born and raised writer, actress, BDSM Educator, Storyteller and an Award-Winning Executive Pervert. She is extremely proud to have served as International Ms Leather 2010. She is also thrilled to have been named Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In the first episode, old friends Tina & Sinclair Sexsmith snuggle up in bed to talk about POWER: why it gets them hot, how to play with it, and how to be a good feminist while doing so.LISTEN:Sinclair Sexsmith is an educator, coach, and writer specializing in sexualities, genders, and relationships. They produce the award-winning personal online project Sugarbutch... Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.