Here on UFYR, we’ve been diving deep into the world of attachment styles and how to “heal” them…aka, how to get from anxious, avoidant, or disorganized to secure af. But I see a lot of people struggle with taking the steps toward ACTUALLY making that change. So today, I am thrilled to introduce someone who wrote the book (literally) on shifting your attachment style to secure: Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick! If you’re unfamiliar, Dr. Fedrick is a licensed professional counselor and relationship expert, as well as the founder and CEO of a multi-location group private practice in Arizona. She also hosts a relationship-based podcast, just released her first book: Relationship (Re)Programming, and is committed to providing insights, guidance, and support to individuals working toward a healthier and more evolved way of connecting with others. I cannot f*cking WAIT for you to hear what she has to say.   WORK WITH DR. FEDRICK: Website: www.drelizabethfedrick.com   CONNECT WITH DR. FEDRICK: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drelizabethfedrick/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCP-gtpUSDKtUpVkPYovIcGw Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/relatable-relationships-unfiltered/id1656318412  WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Get instant access to SHADOW HUNTER, a FREE 3 day event all about WTF shadow work actually is, how to do it, and how it's going to completely change the way you do relationships forever: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/shadow-hunter/ Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Sign up for The Connected Woman course: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com  

You hear me talk about shadow work aaall the f*cking time in this space…but how do you know if you actually need to DO it? Shadow work is a very buzzy term these days…and honestly, I think it’s great.  I want people to get more involved in shadow work, because once you start viewing your life through the lens of shadow work, I am so serious: your entire life will transform. Not just your romantic relationships, but your relationship to money, your relationship to yourself, your relationship with your friends, your relationship to your body…I could go on and on and on. But while everyone is talking about it, not everyone is talking about how to tell if you actually NEED it. So today, we’re going to talk about seven signs that you need shadow work in your life…and two places you can go to get started on it.    WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Get instant access to SHADOW HUNTER, a FREE 3 day event all about WTF shadow work actually is, how to do it, and how it's going to completely change the way you do relationships forever: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/shadow-hunter/ Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Sign up for The Connected Woman course: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com  

If you hear the word “addiction” and think gambling, drugs, alcohol, etc…you’re not alone. As my partner Drew Wild says, there is a huge stigma around addiction that often results in people holding a lot of judgment around it…and keeps them from recognizing that they are also addicts. “Michelle, wtf are you talking about? I’m not an addict.” Wanna bet? We all have our vices. We all have our drugs…even you. Don’t believe me? Trust me, by the end of this podcast episode, you’re going to have your mind f*cking blown. Let’s talk addiction, trauma, shadow work, and just how much of an addict you really are.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Sign up for Shadow Hunter, a FREE 3 day event all about WTF shadow work actually is, how to do it, and how it's going to completely change the way you do relationships forever: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/shadow-hunter/ Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Sign up for The Connected Woman course: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   WORK WITH DREW: Sign up for THE ADDICTION COLLECTIVE, a three-day summit focusing on ALL kinds of addiction: https://theaddictioncollective.com/    CONNECT WITH DREW: Follow Drew on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drew_wild/

Last week was for my ANXIOUSLY ATTACHED people out there…this week, we’re going over how to heal AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT. Learning the difference between wanting to leave a relationship because it’s the wrong relationship and wanting to leave because your avoidance gets triggered is fucking hard. But it starts by observing your patterns, clocking them…and when you feel yourself want to run, you choose to lean in instead. It’s hard. It’s terrifying. And you’re not always going to get it right. But coming from someone who used to avoid ALL THE FUCKING TIME…it’s worth doing to work to make it happen. Let’s get started on healing that avoidant attachment.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Sign up for The Connected Woman course: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com  

Hello, loves. Let’s talk about healing anxious attachment. Every time I do an episode about anxious attachment, BOOM! It magically becomes one of my most popular episodes. So I know this message is fucking needed—and I know you’re going to benefit from hearing it. Even if it includes a big dose of tough love. I have been where you are. I used to spend 80% of my time in anxious attachment mode, and it was fucking hell. But to start healing that, I couldn’t just read all the books, listen to all the podcasts, get aware of my patterns, and then magically get cured. Awareness wasn’t enough. I had to CHOOSE not to play into that anymore…and that’s not as easy as it sounds. Healing anxious attachment is absolutely possible. But are YOU ready to commit to what it requires from you? Let’s find out.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Sign up for The Connected Woman course: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com  

WELCOME TO 2024, BITCHES! I fucking LOVE the first day of a new year…no surprise, cause I’m also a Monday girl. Most people are all about the weekend, but not me. I love fresh energy. I love new possibilities. And I’m welcoming 2024 in with open arms…and bold intentions. Intention-setting has changed EVERYTHING for me. But here’s the thing about intention setting… I believe in setting big, bold intentions. But in my experience, a lot of people set safe intentions they KNOW they can accomplish…or even some they’ve already accomplished before. This is called operating in the realm of predictability. And babe, we’re not fucking with that energy in 2024. Leave the predictable behind. Let’s talk about what can happen when you live in the realm of POSSIBILITY instead.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Welcome to my own personal journal. Purchase access to THE YEAR THAT WAS now: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/the-year-that-was-2024/  Every quarter, I do a life audit…and I’m inviting you to do the same. Sign up for 2024 CLEANUP now: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/2024-cleanup/  Want both? Of course you do. You can purchase THE YEAR THAT WAS and 2024 CLEANUP as a BUNDLE right here: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/2024-clean-up-the-year-that-was-bundle/  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Sign up for The Connected Woman course: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

All right, my loves, here’s the deal…we’ve all gone through a breakup. Some were so fucking painful that we didn’t think we’d make it through. Others, we were totally over before they even happened. And some…some we’re still working on unpacking all the way. There’s some pretty cooked things we do when we’re going through breakups, and there’s a reason for it: breakups bring out aaall the shit that we keep buried otherwise. Our wounds. Our shadows. Our insecurities. But there’s a better way to move through a breakup…and I’m going to tell you how.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Sign up for The Connected Woman course: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman  Join my email list to get access to exclusive pre-sale prices for programs: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/644afb566a53602a000e4ae3  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

My loves, you are NOT ready for all the wisdom that is about to drop on this episode of UFYR. Please welcome Gabrielle Stone onto the podcast! If you aren’t familiar, Gabrielle Stone is no stranger to the world of entertainment. Growing up on set with her legendary scream queen mother, Dee Wallace, from Cujo and E. T., she had days of licking off Mommy's fake blood and watching movie magic unfold behind the scenes. Seeing the world with Mom and Dad gave her the travel bug at an early age…until Gabrielle experienced a real-life horror when she lost her father suddenly at age seven. After many years of working in the industry herself, Stone transitioned from meaty acting roles to writing and directing. Her award-winning films It Happened Again Last Night and After Emma gained her awards for writing, directing, and acting, but she had a bigger role in life that would soon present itself. After the rug was vigorously pulled out from under her when her husband's affair came to light, she found herself falling into the arms of another man. After a second failed attempt at love and a massive heartbreak, she decided that instead of falling landing flat on her ass, she'd make a career out of it. And so came the birth of her book, Eat, Pray, FML, where she shared all the mistakes she made, all the lessons she learned, and most importantly, how she became a fearless leader from it all. Long story short? Gabrielle Stone’s a fucking badass, and she has so much wisdom to share that I couldn’t NOT have her come on the show. Let’s jump right in.   CONNECT WITH GABRIELLE: Website: www.eatprayfml.com Instagram: @gabriellestone TikTok: @gabrielle_stone   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Sign up for The Connected Woman course: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman  Join my email list to get access to exclusive pre-sale prices for programs: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/644afb566a53602a000e4ae3  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Here’s my short and sweet (jk) opinion on the idea of “twin flames”: I think it’s all a load of BULLSHIT. Come on. The idea that there’s only ONE person in the world you’re truly meant to be with? BULL. And on top of that, this kind of mentality leaves you open to some pretty serious manipulation from people who don’t actually want to help you–they just want your money in their pockets. By and large, the personal development industry has plenty of wonderful people who work with integrity. But there are some who don’t act that way at all…and some that are just plain dangerous. Let’s discuss.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Sign up for THE PHOENIX masterclass: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/the-phoenix/  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Sign up for The Connected Woman course: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman  Join my email list to get access to exclusive pre-sale prices for programs: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/644afb566a53602a000e4ae3  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

If you’ve ever heard the quote, “One day or day one—you choose.” and wondered what exactly that meant…I’m talking to YOU today, babe. I have seen too many fucking people stop themselves from pursuing their dreams because of “one day” mentality. “One day, when I’m skinnier, I’ll wear a dress like that.” “One day, when I have enough money, I’ll quit this job.” “One day, when I feel fully capable, I’ll start my business.” But here’s the problem: one day never comes, loves. How do I know? Because I was a “one day” person too…until COVID forced “one day” to become “day one” reeeal fucking fast. Let me tell you all about my “one day” story…and how grateful I am I didn’t have the choice to stay in that forever.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Join my email list to get access to exclusive pre-sale prices for programs: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/644afb566a53602a000e4ae3  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

This may be my favorite episode to date…or at least, it was definitely the most fucking fun to record. When my best friend in the whole world, the badass India Vine, told me she’d be coming to see me for the weekend, I figured…what better time to get her on the podcast? Not only that…but what better person to interview me and Drew and ask us the questions other interviewers probably never would? This shit is GOLD, my loves. There’s some truly juicy stuff in here…including the story about how Drew (absolutely, definitely, beyond a doubt) broke up with me. Yeah–we’re going there. Grab some popcorn and a glass of your favorite whatever. This is gonna be FUN.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Sign up for RELATIONSHIP REVIVAL: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/relationshiprevival/  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Join my email list to get access to exclusive pre-sale prices for programs: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/644afb566a53602a000e4ae3  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   CONNECT WITH INDIA: Follow India on Instagram @indiavine!   CONNECT WITH DREW: Follow Drew on Instagram @drew_wild!

As humans, we are hardwired to avoid pain at all costs… But here’s the hard truth, loves: you cannot avoid being hurt in a relationship. Period. I’m not talking about big hurts; I’m not talking about breaches of trust, intentionally crossed boundaries, or abuse of any kind. I’m talking about the little ruptures that happen in our relationships every fucking day: little comments that hurt our feelings, small arguments that turn into huge amounts of resentment, and even things as simple as miscommunications between us and our partners. No matter what you do, you can’t avoid getting hurt…but you can learn how to get over the fear of it. And most importantly, you can learn how to repair when wounds are dealt to you or by you.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Sign up for RELATIONSHIP REVIVAL: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/relationshiprevival/  I’M HIRING! Apply for the business manager position here: https://form.jotform.com/232840601115444 Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Apply to work with me 1:1: https://form.jotform.com/230497122673457 Join my email list to get access to exclusive pre-sale prices for programs: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/644afb566a53602a000e4ae3  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

I was so honored to be a guest recently on the Thriving in Love podcast, hosted by Sana Akhand! Sana is a fucking incredible love coach with so much wisdom to share, and FUCK did our conversation get JUICYYY.  There are plenty of unpopular opinions in this interview of ours, but what do I always say? I’m not here to blow smoke up your ass. And neither is Sana. We’re gonna talk about all kinds of shit: independence, masculine and feminine energy, how our wounds try to hide, where we both started our personal development journeys, why Drew and I sleep in separate beds (and why Sana and her husband sleep in separate APARTMENTS) and sooo much more.  Buckle up. This is a big one.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Sign up for AWAKENING HER, a live program to help you get the f*ck out of your head and into the most sensual, liberated, awakened version of yourself: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/awakening-her/  Join my email list to get access to exclusive pre-sale prices for programs: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/644afb566a53602a000e4ae3  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   WORK WITH SANA: Website: https://sanaakhand.com/    CONNECT WITH SANA: Podcast: https://sanaakhand.com/podcast  Instagram, Sana Akhand: https://www.instagram.com/sanaakhand/  Instagram, Thriving in Love: https://www.instagram.com/thrivinginlovepod/   

Let’s talk about sex, babyyyy…with Dr. Tara, the Internet’s Resident Sexpert! If you’ve ever tuned in to Celebs Go Dating, then you’re familiar with Dr. Tara already. She’s also a podcast host herself, a former TEDx speaker, a tenured professor, and a sex and relationship coach…who also talks about blowjobs on TikTok. (Proof women aren’t one-dimensional, yeah? We contain multitudes.) I am so thrilled to have Dr. Tara here today. We’re going to tackle some pretty heavy topics–including discussions around sexual trauma, so listen safely, loves–but we’re also going to have a shit ton of fun talking about how one can transition from living with the shadow of sexual shame to living their best, most orgasmic life.   WORK WITH DR. TARA: Website: https://www.luvbites.co/    CONNECT WITH DR. TARA: Instagram: @luvbites.co TikTok: @luvbites.co Podcast: https://www.luvbites.co/podcast    WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Sign up for AWAKENING HER, a live program to help you get the f*ck out of your head and into the most sensual, liberated, awakened version of yourself: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/awakening-her/  Join my email list to get access to exclusive pre-sale prices for programs: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/644afb566a53602a000e4ae3  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Let me see if this sounds familiar to you… You’re sitting on the couch at home. Maybe you’re reading a book. Maybe you’re watching TV. Maybe you’re playing a video game. Whatever it is, you’re just trying to relax…and then you hear a car pull into the driveway. Adrenaline rush. You’re on your feet in an instant, searching for something to do, trying to look busy when your partner or parents or roommate or whoever walks inside. Have you ever stopped to wonder where that instant flood of shame comes from? At some point in your life, you were taught that resting = being lazy…and that lazy is the worst thing you can be. So now, you can’t even sit and watch TV without convincing yourself you’re a lazy piece of shit who doesn’t deserve to sit and relax for five fucking minutes. Resting is not laziness–actually, it’s a proactive way of taking care of ourselves. But to get comfortable with it, we first need to decondition ourselves from the beliefs we picked up as children.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Join my email list to get access to exclusive pre-sale prices for programs: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/644afb566a53602a000e4ae3  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com  

If you want to call in a man who leads… Take your hands OFF the fucking steering wheel. If you keep stepping in to plan things, if you keep making decisions, if you keep reaching out again and again and again when your energy isn’t being met…what makes you think he’s going to magically wake up one day and take over? If you step into your masculine, he will step back into his feminine. And that’s fine, if that’s what you want…but if you’re not fulfilled in it, if you’re getting resentful, then it’s time to stop and step back. And if that means you never go on another date again…so fucking be it, babe. You’re not making yourself available for a relationship where you’re leading anymore. Here’s how you finally learn to lean back…and how to preserve that energy moving forward.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience If you’re ready to stop PLAYING the game and start SLAYING the game, join SWIPE RIGHT, my signature dating program that is going to help you attract genuine long-term love: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right  Join my email list to get access to exclusive pre-sale prices for programs: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/644afb566a53602a000e4ae3  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

If you want to kill your relationship stone-cold dead, there’s only ONE thing you have to do: Start expecting things from your partner. I don’t mean the standards you’ve set for each other in the relationship itself. I mean starting to EXPECT things that you once APPRECIATED. Maybe at the beginning of your relationship, your partner got you flowers every week. You absolutely gushed with appreciation and excitement… Until one week, he didn’t get you flowers. And you decided to throw a little tantrum about it. After all, he brings them every week–why not this one? What is he thinking? After that little hissy fit…do you think he wants to bring you flowers next week? I sure don’t. The masculine THRIVES on appreciation. And when you take that away and switch it out for expectation…the masculine will shrivel up in an instant. When the masculine isn’t appreciated, it will stop wanting to show up. It will stop wanting to provide and protect and do all the amazing things that masculine energy brings to a relationship… And notice I said THE MASCULINE…not MEN. This is about you too, boo. Grab a drink, sit down, and settle in. I’ll tell you how to avoid killing your relationship over something as everyday as taking out the trash…but you might not like what you hear.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers Join my email list to get access to exclusive pre-sale prices for programs: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/644afb566a53602a000e4ae3    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Can I be honest with you? I think you’re lying to yourself. If you think you’re all right with a mediocre life, you’re lying to yourself. If you think you’re content with a lukewarm relationship because it’s “better than nothing,” you’re lying to yourself. If you think you’re okay with being unhappy about who and how you are…you’re LYING TO YOURSELF. Not only that…I think you like being lied to. We are conditioned to put on a happy face and say everything is fine, even when it’s not. And we’d rather be fucking MISERABLE than admit that something has to change, because change is uncomfortable. Change takes work. Change is uncertain, and fuuuck, we hate uncertainty. I used to be where you are, until I got sick of pretending. Until I got sick of settling for a less-than life. Getting honest with yourself is scary. But what’s waiting for you on the other side…you can’t even imagine how incredible it is.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers Join my email list to get access to exclusive pre-sale prices for programs: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/644afb566a53602a000e4ae3    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com  

If your man is getting bored with you… Have you considered that maybe you’re just fucking boring? Harsh, I know. But I have worked with wayyy too many clients who don’t understand why their partner is getting bored of them, and the fact is…you’re probably missing the key to sending your magnetism through the fucking roof: Multidimensionality. When we try to identify the feminine and what it looks like, we usually tell ourselves that feminine energy is soft. It’s gentle. It’s nurturing. It’s maternal. It’s innocent. But you know what else the feminine is? Slutty. Wild. Wrathful. Strong. Direct. Sensual.  The feminine is everything. And when we limit ourselves to embodying just one aspect of it… We might as well kiss magnetism goodbye. There are ways to strengthen the aspects of the feminine you don’t know how (or don’t WANT) to embody…but it’s going to take some work, babe.    WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers Join my email list to get access to exclusive pre-sale prices for programs: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/644afb566a53602a000e4ae3    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

What if I told you that taking responsibility can be a bad thing? Okay, well, not really. It’s important we take responsibility for our shit. However, when we get into the personal development space and start learning about shadows and projections and all that good shit, we can actually end up in a place where we start taking responsibility for the ways we feed into certain situations…and also taking responsibility for the bad behaviors of others. It is fucking CRUCIAL that we learn how to separate our shit from someone else’s. Otherwise, we can end up in unhealthy–and even dangerous–situations real fucking fast. So let’s go over where you might not be taking enough responsibility…and where you might be taking too much.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com  

Life in plastic is truly fantastic…just like the Barbie movie. I went and saw Barbie recently, and fuuuuck, I loved it. It was so funny, so lighthearted…it even got a tear or two out of me. I’ll be honest. (Ryan Gosling with a fake tan and platinum blond hair…not quite so fantastic. But I digress.) However, one thing in particular stuck out to me about the Barbie movie…its portrayal of patriarchy and the way it so clearly centered on the conflict between masculine vs. feminine energy. Because here’s the thing: the women being adored and admired for being in positions of power while the men were scorned for just being Kens? That’s actually still the fucking patriarchy at work. Let me tell you why…and what I think we actually need to do in order to reach equilibrium between masculine and feminine energy.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers Join my email list to get access to exclusive pre-sale prices for programs: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/644afb566a53602a000e4ae3    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com  

There is a difference between wisdom and knowledge, and when it comes to human design, my guest on the podcast this week is fucking BURSTING with wisdom. I have never met someone more embodied in their work than Mallory, my wonderful friend and a passionate human design coach. (Like, she doesn’t even need fucking notes to dive deeper into human design and what it can do than anyone else I’ve ever heard.) According to Mallory, human design is the shortcut to all your core dreams and desires. And your first step to mapping out that shortcut is by listening to today’s episode.   WORK WITH MALLORY: Website: https://linktr.ee/verde.humandesign    CONNECT WITH MALLORY: IG / Tik Tok: @verde.humandesign   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

I talk a lot about becoming utterly unfuckwithable, but let me tell you…over the past few months, I feel that I’ve truly UPLEVELED in my ability to be exactly that. I have unfuckwithable confidence. I have an unfuckwithable sense of who I am. I have unfuckwithable integrity and emotional intelligence. I have come leaps and bounds in the past few months, and I want to tell you all about it. Mentorship played a HUUUGE part in this transformation, thanks to receiving some hard truth I needed to hear from one of my mentors, but that’s not all—it required a whole fucking lot of mindset work on my part. And there are some things about mindset work I want to share that are going to flip your world upside down.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join Main Character Energy, a 6-week course on becoming the main character of your life and stepping into delusional confidence: https://michellepanning.com/main-character-energy  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Apply for 1:1 mentorship: https://form.jotform.com/230497122673457  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com  

“Nobody knows you better than you know yourself.” Mmm…I don’t think so, loves. I think that’s fucking false. Here’s why: We have a tendency to engage in distraction mode the SECOND we start noticing anything in ourselves that we don’t want to see. A glass of wine…or a bottle. A binging session on Netflix. Hours of scrolling on TikTok. Whatever your distraction is, it’s keeping you from actually sitting and observing what’s happening for you…and as long as you keep creating that separation within yourself, it’s not only going to disrupt your ability to know yourself deeply; it will also keep you from getting to know OTHERS deeply. It’s time to set down the distractions, take a deep breath, and take a deep dive into the actuality of ourselves.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join Main Character Energy, a 6-week course on becoming the main character of your life and stepping into delusional confidence: https://michellepanning.com/main-character-energy  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Apply for 1:1 mentorship: https://form.jotform.com/230497122673457  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com  

I’m just gonna be honest: the subtle growth we experience every day is fucking boring. That’s just how it is. It’s fucking boring. When we aren’t experiencing huge, life-changing shifts, we feel like nothing is happening at all. But that’s not the case at all. Maybe you can’t name the shifts that have happened to you in the last six months. But I bet if you sat down and took a look at just how far you’ve come in that time, regardless of whether there were any huge “breakthroughs,” you’ll find that you’ve been steadily growing all along. It’s time we let go of our addiction to catharsis and start embracing the progress we make day-to-day. Let me tell you why.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join Main Character Energy, a 6-week course on becoming the main character of your life and stepping into delusional confidence: https://michellepanning.com/main-character-energy  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Apply for 1:1 mentorship: https://form.jotform.com/230497122673457  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

I’ll tell you a secret: I spent wayyy too long trying to decide what I wanted to talk about for this episode. It’s Main Character Energy season, which means a lot of content around CONFIDENCE has been coming out of this space lately. And I kept trying to shove my message into that same box for today, but you know what? It wasn’t working. And I realized why pretty quickly: I was trying to please everyone else instead of doing what felt in alignment to me. So, fuck it. This is my podcast. I can do what I want. And I want to talk about what happens when we try to shrink ourselves into a box to please others instead of focusing on pleasing OURSELVES. I practice what I preach, and I’m demonstrating that shit today. So maybe this lands for you, maybe it doesn’t, but I’m not doing it for you…I’m doing it because it pleases ME. And that’s what you should start doing, too, loves.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join Main Character Energy, a 6-week course on becoming the main character of your life and stepping into delusional confidence: https://michellepanning.com/main-character-energy  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience Apply for 1:1 mentorship: https://form.jotform.com/230497122673457  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

I have a question: why the fuck are we still policing women’s bodies in 2023? Getting Botox? Great. Plastic surgery? Who the fuck cares. Let people LIVE. If you ask me, the WHAT is not important. It’s the WHY we need to examine. If you’re getting your nails done because you love having acrylics…good for you, boo. If you’re getting your nails done because OMG I CAN’T BE CONFIDENT WITHOUT MY NAILS I NEED THESE TO EVEN LOOK PEOPLE IN THE EYE…mm, maybe we need to have a talk, babe. Let’s talk about the difference between wanting a certain aesthetic and NEEDING a certain aesthetic. WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join Main Character Energy, a 6-week course on becoming the main character of your life and stepping into delusional confidence: https://michellepanning.com/main-character-energy  Join The Connected Woman EXPERIENCE: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman-experience  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com  

Get ready for a coaching sesh in communication, loves. I’ve invited Shannon Torres, a client, business owner, and overall badass, to come on and chat about what happens when we can’t communicate effectively…with others or ourselves. Shannon started off as most people do: unable to communicate feelings and navigating relationships through an endless cycle of repeated patterns. After years of personal development, she found herself listening to my podcast and ended up signing up for my Signature Program, "The Connected Woman," and it's been non-stop ever since! She recently started her own business as a Confidence & Communication Coach, helping others live courageously and speak honestly while cultivating connection. I can’t wait for you all to hear the fucking WISDOM this woman has.  CONNECT WITH SHANNON:  Website: www.confidentconvos.com Instagram: @Shan3lise WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join Main Character Energy, a 6-week course on becoming the main character of your life and stepping into delusional confidence: https://michellepanning.com/main-character-energy  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

If your confidence is built on external factors around you then it’s built on shaky ground. If things are going well you’re going to feel on top of the world and your confidence is going to be sky high. But if the external factors contributing to your self-confidence changes then it’s going to totally mess with your energy and sense of self.  In this episode, I’m diving into the ways that confidence can be built from the inside and you can actually be in control. You don’t want your confidence to be easy to shake. So stand strong and listen now!   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman, a 12-week shadow work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman  Join Main Character Energy, a 6-week course on becoming the main character of your life and stepping into delusional confidence: https://michellepanning.com/main-character-energy  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Listen, loves… Self-responsibility? It’s not exactly the sexiest thing in the world. It’s so much sexier to advertise my programs as something that can get your man to finally commit, or to make yourself irresistible to men, or whatever the fuck it might be… But the truth is…at its core, my work is about helping you connect to YOU. It’s messy. It’s emotional. It’s fucking hard. But once you commit to it, once you start doing the work to connect with yourself first and foremost… You’ll be amazed what changes.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman, a 12-week shadow work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman  Join Main Character Energy, a 6-week course on becoming the main character of your life and stepping into delusional confidence: https://michellepanning.com/main-character-energy   Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com  

Throw off your rose-colored glasses, my loves—this week, we’re getting real about red flags. Some red flags are subjective, right? Different things give different women the ICK…but that’s a different episode. This week, I’m talking about the red flags that you should NEVER FUCKING IGNORE…like, across the board. I don’t want excuses. I don’t want “But if I just love them hard enough, maybe…” No. No, they won’t. And we’re not wasting our fucking time trying to CONVINCE people to change for us anymore. We’re better than that. If you catch a glimpse of any of these red flags, do not pass go. Do not collect $200. Take that red flag as a stop sign, and OBEY THAT STOP SIGN.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman, a 12-week shadow work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

When I sit down to discuss what high-caliber men find attractive in women, I’m not going to waste your time talking about wearing makeup, dressing feminine, smelling good, etcetera. We’re not worried about the external today. Instead, we’re going to take a look at the INTERNAL qualities that attract next-level men. You’re not going to be able to attract the kind of man you’re looking for by focusing solely on the external and entirely neglecting the internal. You’re not going to call them in by sitting around and waiting for them to show up and make your entire life fucking mean something.  You have to create a life you love OUTSIDE of a man if you want someone to desire to share it with you. Let’s talk, loves.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman, a 12-week shadow work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Being abandoned is the best feeling in the entire world. If that sentence made you go, “Um, WTF?” then you’re going to looove the rest of this episode. I know it sounds fucking insane, yeah? How could anyone LOVE being abandoned?  It’s more common than you think, actually. A lot of us have an addiction to being abandoned…but the root of that addiction is buried so deep in our subconscious that we don’t usually recognize it. I know, because I used to be addicted to being abandoned. And if you can’t wrap your mind around that, think about it like this… Do you lose interest in a guy when you don’t have to chase him? Do you get major ick when you start to feel safe around someone? Do you only think you’re “in love” when your nervous system is in total overdrive, leaving you “lovesick?” Yeah, I thought that might sound familiar. Let’s talk about where this addiction to abandonment comes from.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman, a 12-week shadow work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com  

Nowadays, inner child work is beyond popular. It’s trending. It’s everywhere. But as recently as five years ago, I had no idea what the fuck an “inner child” even was. Hard to imagine, right? It’s even hard for me to believe. My relationship to my inner child has come leaps and bounds from where it was back then…but it was definitely a journey to get here. I believe we all have multiple “inner children” within us…and for me, some of them are wayyy easier to have compassion for than others. But without doing the inner child work and learning to heal every stage of my inner child, trust me…my ability to have a conscious relationship would still be extremely fucking limited. Let’s talk about why inner child work is so important.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join The Connected Woman, a 12-week shadow work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

IT’S THE BIG 1-0-0, BABES! Welcome to Episode 100 of Unf*ck Your Relationships. And fuuuck, do I have a TREAT for you today. First, I have to say a huge fucking THANK YOU. Thank you for listening, for downloading, for loving, for sharing, and showing up for 100 incredible episodes. I am so fucking grateful to each and every one of you for being here. And to show just how grateful I am, I’m doing something truly wild on today’s episode. Honestly, this could be a paid masterclass. There’s so much fucking wisdom in here; wisdom I have learned through coaching hundreds and hundreds of different women in their relationships with men, their relationships with friends, their relationships with themselves, but also through my own relationship to myself and with my partners in the past and my current partner. This is my own embodied wisdom, which is the best kind of wisdom, isn't it?  Without further ado, here are 100 things I’ve learned about sex, love, and relationships. COUPON CODE: 100TH WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Get on the email list here for the special 100th episode surprise: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/644afb566a53602a000e4ae3 Join the FREE Zoom Party to celebrate 100th episode: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/644b0191b8a6d19950e826d0 Join The Connected Woman, a 12-week shadow work course for women who want to go from feeling anxious AF about their love lives to feeling confident, secure and having unfuckwithable self-worth: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Buckle up, buttercups. This impromptu episode is going to be a fucking trip. One of my very best friends, Kelsie Hockins, is BACK. Remember her from a few episodes ago? The stunning, utterly badass personal stylist that helps you transform your style so that you can stand out in the world and make your mark? Yeah, she’s back, but this time, we are not talking style. (Well, maybe a little.) On this episode, we’re going to be talking about DATING…but not my usual dating content. Nope; today, we’re going deep into the archives to share some of our biggest dating fails. And trust me, there are some major ones…   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Join Swipe Right, a 6-week program for women who want to date with intentionality so they can meet the man of their dreams: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right  In-person dating event in Gold Coast, Australia: https://events.humanitix.com/date-night-gold-coast  https://instagram.com/_datenightevents?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Get on the email list here for the special 100th episode surprise: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/644afb566a53602a000e4ae3 Join the FREE Zoom Party to celebrate 100th episode: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/644b0191b8a6d19950e826d0 Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   WORK WITH KELSIE: Website: www.stylebyyou.com.au    CONNECT WITH KELSIE: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itskelsiehockins/

Let me lead with this: being in your feminine has NOTHING to do with your makeup, your clothes, or whatever TikTok has decided to take too literally today. These external things can all be EXPRESSIONS of your feminine, but the truth is…if you’re really in your feminine energy, it’s going to absolutely ooze out of you, even if you’re just in trackies. Sooo many people get the feminine so fucking twisted. There’s a totally distorted view of feminine energy and why it matters so much to our dating lives, and today, I want to get on here and clear the air. So let’s talk about masculine and feminine…and why we need both in order to be well-rounded human beings.   WORK WITH MICHELLE:  Get on the email list here for the special 100th episode surprise: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/644afb566a53602a000e4ae3 Join the FREE Zoom Party to celebrate 100th episode: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/644b0191b8a6d19950e826d0 Join Understanding Masculine & Feminine Energies here: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/masculine-feminine-energies/ Join Alchemy here: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/alchemy/  Join Swipe Right, a 6-week program for women who want to date with intentionality so they can meet the man of their dreams: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

What’s the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the words “dating app?” If it’s a resounding “ugggghhh,” guess what? You’re going to want to listen to this episode. I get it. Lots of people have told themselves all kinds of stories around why dating apps are the fucking WORST. But here’s the thing: when you engage in this mindset, you’re actually cock-blocking yourself from meeting a whole pool of people you would never connect with otherwise. I met my partner in person, but I FULLY advocate for dating apps. I learned so much from them and grew in so many ways…and you can do the same.   EPISODE RESOURCES:  Join Swipe Right, a 6-week program for women who want to date with intentionality so they can meet the man of their dreams: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

If you’re sick of feeling like you’re dating the same man over and over and over and OVER again…this episode’s for you. This is the most common reason people come to work with me around dating and relationships; they’re tired as fuck of ending up with emotionally unavailable men, and they’re ready to get in a conscious relationship. There are lots of reasons why you might keep getting trapped in the same fucking pattern, but the first step to breaking it is always the same: getting aware of what that pattern actually is. Even if that means admitting the part that we’re playing in it.   EPISODE RESOURCES:  Join Swipe Right, a 6-week program for women who want to date with intentionality so they can meet the man of their dreams: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Listen up, loves! We’re going to be covering a LOT more subjects surrounding dating for the next while, because… IT’S SWIPE RIGHT SEASON! Swipe Right is my program all about dating: setting standards, non-negotiable boundaries, online dating mindset, and everything else that you could possibly need to know. We’re gonna be chatting about allll the things, but today we’re going to start with what NOT to do when you’re starting to date someone new. I could go on about dating mistakes all fucking day. I really could. But for today, I’ve narrowed it down to a handful of the most common things I see that you absolutely should NOT be doing while dating.    EPISODE RESOURCES:  Join Swipe Right, a 6-week program for women who want to date with intentionality so they can meet the man of their dreams: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right  Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

I have heard way, way, wayyy too many people ask why the spark has disappeared from their relationships…and then blame their partner for lack of effort. Here’s the truth: the minute you let your relationship shift into autopilot, you will lose that level of connection you had at the start. Relationships don’t run on their own, regardless of how long it’s been; you always need to be putting effort into it to keep it alive. The good news? Putting effort into your relationship actually doesn’t take that much from you…sometimes, it’s as simple as listening to them talk about how hot it is outside and agreeing that yes, it is in fact hot outside. Sometimes it means taking a look at the bird they pointed out in your tree. Sometimes it means saying “Me, too” when they say they’re tired. These little things are called “bids for connection,” and trust me, while they don’t seem that important…they stack up to something much bigger.   EPISODE RESOURCES: Join Brat School, an emotional intelligence school for bratty bitches: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/brat-school/ Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

You want to know why you’re struggling with setting boundaries? I’ll give you a hint…it’s not because you don’t know how. If you’re in this space, I’m willing to bet you’ve heard HOW to set a boundary or what a boundary is a billion times. What you need to be asking is WHY you aren’t setting boundaries. I’ve said this before, I’ll say it again: EVERYTHING we do, we do it because we benefit in some way. If you’re resisting setting a boundary, there’s a reason…and until you uncover that reason, you’re not going to be able to set and enforce boundaries at all. No more asking “How?” Instead, start asking “Why?”...and listen to my answer.   EPISODE RESOURCES: Join Brat School, an emotional intelligence school for bratty bitches: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/brat-school/ Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Conscious relating isn’t a skill you can just DECIDE to learn. It takes fucking work. It takes doing THE fucking work. But if you’re anything like me, sometimes you don’t learn lessons until you’ve fucked around and found out once, twice…a lot. If you’re NOT like me and CAN learn things without fucking them up first just in case, this episode is going to be great for you. I’m here today to share a few things I had to do before I was able to actually have a truly conscious relationship. People can get trapped in the never-ending loop of “doing the work” without actually DOING anything. Action is a key piece of the process, and if we don’t take it, we’re just going to keep looping the same old patterns over and over and over again. Let’s break the pattern.   EPISODE RESOURCES: Join Brat School, an emotional intelligence school for bratty bitches: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/brat-school/ Ready to do the work? You can find all courses, masterclasses, and more right here: https://michellepanning.com/all-offers   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Something I’ve noticed about this podcast? You guys go fucking FERAL when I talk about anxious attachment. I don’t choose subject matter based on what’s popular; I choose it based on what I want to talk about. Today, these two things just happen to align. I want to come at anxious attachment from a different angle today, because you know what I see wayyy too much? People doing unhealthy shit in their relationships, then trying to excuse themselves from responsibility by saying, “Oh, well, I do that because I have anxious attachment…” NO. No, no, no no no no. Relating REQUIRES responsibility. You cannot keep shoving it off on anything but you…not if you want to actually transcend this shit. Let’s talk about why.   EPISODE RESOURCES: Join Brat School, an emotional intelligence school for bratty bitches: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/brat-school/ Listen to my previous episode on anxious attachment: Listen on Apple Podcasts Listen on Spotify   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Hellooooo, my loves. I am freshly back from a fucking INCREDIBLE business retreat, and I am utterly bursting with all the things I want to say, starting with this… If you think that deep friendships are “unicorn friendships,” you’re absolutely fucking wrong. If you’re sitting around pouting because none of your friends are able to meet you in this place of depth, if you think that they have no interest in doing the work alongside you, let me ask you this: Have you tried fucking asking? If you’re not willing to initiate, if you’re sitting around projecting the idea that your friends can’t meet you at your level, if you’re unwilling to risk rejection by sticking your neck out and being the first to pursue something deeper…that’s just not the vibe, my friend. If you want deep friendships, you absolutely CAN find them…but only if you’re willing to do what it takes to plumb those depths. Let’s unpack all these misconceptions surrounding what it truly takes to form deep friendships.   EPISODE RESOURCES: Join Brat School, an emotional intelligence school for bratty bitches: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/brat-school/   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

When we find ourselves getting avoidant + closed off, we immediately jump into a reparation spiral. “I just need to invest in another coach. I need to join a new program. I need to read a new book. I need to, I need to, I need to–” You know what you actually need to do? Listen. To. Your. Fucking. Body. Your body knows more than you consciously do. And sure, sometimes it’s a trauma response you need to unpack…but other times, there’s a lot of wisdom your body has to impart, if you’d just sit in curiosity and LISTEN for longer than a second or two. We’re talking about two things today: having curiosity, and taking responsibility. It’s a two-headed episode, loves, and both are equally important. Let’s talk it out.   EPISODE RESOURCES: Join Brat School, an emotional intelligence school for bratty bitches: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/brat-school/ Join THE UPLEVEL, my 12-month membership where you get to access all programs, courses and masterclasses I run live for a FULL YEAR: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/the-uplevel-membership/    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

You’ve probably HEARD about emotional intelligence before. But do you even know WTF it is? First off, emotional intelligence is not something we naturally have. It’s something that can absolutely be learned…and something we ABSOLUTELY NEED to learn. You can be book-smart, street-smart, whatever, and that’s great. But if you’re not emotionally intelligent…good fucking luck forming a healthy relationship. Seriously. I’m speaking from experience here. I used to have very, very low emotional intelligence, but you know what I did? I learned it. I developed it. And if you want a healthy relationship, you need to start thinking about doing the same. And if you don’t know how to learn it…well, I can help with that too.   EPISODE RESOURCES: Join Brat School, an emotional intelligence school for bratty bitches: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/brat-school/   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

We’ve all heard about what happens when we get hit with a hundred fucking awful things all at once. A ton of people have talked about how to expand your capacity to hold more when bad things are happening. But here’s the thing… We don’t only hit our capacity for negative shit. We also have a certain capacity to hold good things…and when we reach it, we end up primed to dive straight into self-sabotage. I have had the BEST beginning to my year. My life is so fucking good right now…so good that I actually started getting wayyyy overwhelmed. This doesn’t make us ungrateful. It doesn’t mean anything bad about us. It just means we need to expand our capacity a little wider…and I’m here today to tell you how to handle it when the good becomes TOO good.   EPISODE RESOURCES: Join Relationship Revival, a 2-day workshop all about our monthly relationship check-in: https://courses.michellepanning.com/offers/9i9UX4h2/checkout Join Brat School, an emotional intelligence school for bratty bitches: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/brat-school/   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

He’s baaaaack! You asked for it, you’re getting it: give a big WELCOME BACK to Drew Wild, an addiction coach whose mission is to change the way this planet looks at and approaches addiction and to tear down any stigma with that word…and is also my amazing, hilarious, fucking glorious partner. Today’s episode is going to be a little more lighthearted than the last time I had Drew on: we’re going to chat about what makes our relationship special, the best and hardest parts of it, and give all the juicy details behind one of my favorite stories…the story of how we met. Get ready for a fun, tell-all, slightly distracted behind-the-scenes look at our relationship: the good, the difficult, and the spit-take-worthy moments.   EPISODE RESOURCES: Join Relationship Revival, a 2-day workshop all about our monthly relationship check-in: https://courses.michellepanning.com/offers/9i9UX4h2/checkout Join Line in the Sand, Drew’s trauma-informed addiction recovery platform: https://www.litsrecovery.com/   CONNECT WITH DREW: Follow Drew on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drew_wild/   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

If you don’t know my backstory, here it is: I left a long string of trauma-bonded, unhealthy relationships behind me before I entered my current relationship. This is my first truly conscious relationship, and let me tell you…the lessons I’ve learned from it have fucking changed everything. There are so many things you need to rethink, reprioritize, and revamp in your life if you want to have a truly conscious, healthy relationship, but instead of struggling through these lessons yourself, I’m here to tell you all about what I’ve learned from this almost-year-long relationship of mine.  Life-changing doesn’t begin to describe it, loves. A conscious relationship will transform the way you experience relating and love…but it doesn’t happen on its own. Not. Even. Close.   EPISODE RESOURCES: If you’re curious about how a relationship check-in works, good news…you can experience it in real time when you purchase access to Relationship Revival, a 2-day workshop all about our monthly relationship check-in!   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

When you start to step into your main character energy, you are going to piss people off. It’s just a fact, babe. When you begin to evolve and stop settling for whatever low standards you used to accept, people are going to get pissed off about it. Why? Because they’re going to start projecting their own unhealed wounds onto you. I’ve seen it happen. In fact, just recently I got a SCATHING comment on one of my Instagram posts that got me thinking about why we need to be prepared to hold people in their projections…without letting it halt our own growth. You can have empathy without halting your evolution. You can hold space for people’s wounds without stagnating your own growth to soothe them. And if there’s something you don’t want to make yourself available for, guess what? You. Don’t. Fucking. Have. To. Responding > reacting, loves. Let’s talk about it.   EPISODE RESOURCES: If you want to go from feeling anxious AF about your love life to feeling confident, secure, and having unfuckwithable self-worth, join my program The Connected Woman, starting in early February: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Listen up, ladies: it’s time to stop fucking ignoring your intuition. I don’t care if you think the universe doesn’t speak to you. I don’t care if you think you don’t hear your intuition speaking. You do–you’re just not listening. How do I know? Because I did the same fucking thing for a very, very long time. And not only did I do the same thing…I wrote down the proof in my journal. I hope you’re ready for a front-row seat to Younger Michelle’s deepest thoughts, because today, we’re cracking open my journal and taking a peek at a few times when my intuition told me to get out, I ignored it, and ended up regretting it later on. It’s time to stop shutting out what God is trying to tell us. Because if we don’t, guess what? We’re going to keep getting handed the same fucking lesson until we finally decide it’s time to learn it.   EPISODE RESOURCES: If you want to go from feeling anxious AF about your love life to feeling confident, secure, and having unfuckwithable self-worth, join my program The Connected Woman, starting in early February: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Submit a question for A Minute with Michelle: https://michellepanning.com/ask-michelle   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Tell me if this sounds familiar: “I’m a strong, independent woman, and I don’t need no man!” This saying has become a way for women everywhere to give a big FUCK YOU to the idea that women need a man to be complete. And that’s great, sure, but here’s the thing: When this becomes your whole identity, you actually close yourself off from receiving from others. I am strong, independent, and a woman. But I don’t claim this “strong, independent woman” label for myself. You know why?  You can tell yourself all you like that you don’t need anyone but yourself. But the truth is, people need people—and even if I could do everything alone, I really don’t fucking want to. And I’m willing to bet that deep down, you don’t either. Gather around, my strong, independent ladies. Let’s have a heart-to-heart.   EPISODE RESOURCES: Ready to quit playing a supporting role in your own life? Join my course, Main Character Energy, starting in early January: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/main-character-energy/ If you want to go from feeling anxious AF about your love life to feeling confident, secure, and having unfuckwithable self-worth, join my program The Connected Woman, starting in early February: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Can’t choose? You don’t have to! Get the Main Character Energy and The Connected Woman BUNDLE: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/hot-girl-shit-bundle-tcw-mce/ Join The Hotline, a 4-week group Voxer container for you to plug into my mind and get support over the holidays: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/the-hotline/   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

We love a brag here at UFYR, and we especially love a brag when it doubles as a fucking great lesson. This month, I bought my dream car. Now, when I say that, I need you to understand that I don’t mean it casually. I mean it’s my FUCKING. DREAM. CAR.  If you know me at all, you know I have wanted a Range Rover ever since I was a little kid. My whole life, I have been wanting and wanting and wanting this car. And my moment finally came. But here’s the thing: when I got to go test drive this car, I found myself cycling through some stories that told me I had to pick the best “middle ground.” I had to go for the entry-level Range Rover, not the top-of-the-line option. I wasn’t there yet. I didn’t deserve that. Um. Fucking what? Let me tell you exactly how that story ended, and why we all need to stop believing the lie of the in-between—both in life AND in love.   EPISODE RESOURCES: Ready to quit playing a supporting role in your own life? Join my course, Main Character Energy, starting in early January: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/main-character-energy/ If you want to go from feeling anxious AF about your love life to feeling confident, secure, and having unfuckwithable self-worth, join my program The Connected Woman, starting in early February: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Can’t choose? You don’t have to! Get the Main Character Energy and The Connected Woman BUNDLE: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/hot-girl-shit-bundle-tcw-mce/ Join The Hotline, a 4-week group Voxer container for you to plug into my mind and get support over the holidays: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/the-hotline/   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

News flash: the death of communication is the moment you stop being curious. There’s a better way to tell your partner when something is bothering you. Reacting when you’re in your ego and allowing your emotions to loop a story that may or may not be true? That’s not it. Curiosity is the biggest fucking factor of healthy, calm communication. Because once you start getting curious about what’s triggering you—or getting curious about what’s triggering your partner—you’ll be in a much better place to start asking the right questions and explaining yourself in the right way. Time to remaster the art of curiosity.    EPISODE RESOURCES: Ready to quit playing a supporting role in your own life? Join my course, Main Character Energy, starting in early January: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/main-character-energy/ If you want to go from feeling anxious AF about your love life to feeling confident, secure, and having unfuckwithable self-worth, join my program The Connected Woman, starting in early February: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Can’t choose? You don’t have to! Get the Main Character Energy and The Connected Woman BUNDLE: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/hot-girl-shit-bundle-tcw-mce/ Join The Hotline, a 4-week group Voxer container for you to plug into my mind and get support over the holidays: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/the-hotline/   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

In 2023, we’re taking the role of supporting character and chucking it into the bin. The fact is, we are the main characters of our own fucking lives, and it’s about time we started acting like it. No more putting everyone else before ourselves. No more erasing our boundaries to make other people more comfortable. No more letting everyone and everything else decide what happens to us except ourselves. It’s time to step into delusionally confident, utterly in charge, main character energy. And if you don’t know how to do that, good news—I do, and I’m telling you all about it today.   EPISODE RESOURCES: Ready to quit playing a supporting role in your own life? Join my course, Main Character Energy, starting in early January: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/main-character-energy/ If you want to go from feeling anxious AF about your love life to feeling confident, secure, and having unfuckwithable self-worth, join my program The Connected Woman, starting in early February: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Can’t choose? You don’t have to! Get the Main Character Energy and The Connected Woman BUNDLE: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/hot-girl-shit-bundle-tcw-mce/ Join The Hotline, a 4-week group Voxer container for you to plug into my mind and get support over the holidays: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/the-hotline/   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Contrary to popular fucking belief, fashion isn’t a shallow thing to invest in. It’s actually another facet of self-development work. I recently hired one of my badass best friends, Kelsie Hockins, to help me give my wardrobe a much-needed update. What she does is more than just focusing on the clothes; she’s a style coach, which means she helps women that are looking to upgrade not only their wardrobes, but also their lives. Looking beyond the “aesthetics” and feeling into the essence, Kelsie helps women build a relationship with their clothes that allows them to feel confident, sexy, powerful, and ICONIC AF. We are all about ICONIC here at Unf*ck Your Relationships, so of course I had to have her on the podcast. Get ready for a total overhaul of the way you look at your clothes.   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   CONNECT WITH KELSIE: Website: www.stylebyyou.com.au  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itskelsiehockins/   EPISODE RESOURCES: Ready to quit playing a supporting role in your own life? Join my course, Main Character Energy, starting in early January: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/main-character-energy/ If you want to go from feeling anxious AF about your love life to feeling confident, secure, and having unfuckwithable self-worth, join my program The Connected Woman, starting in early February: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Can’t choose? You don’t have to! Get the Main Character Energy and The Connected Woman BUNDLE: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/hot-girl-shit-bundle-tcw-mce/ Join The Hotline, a 4-week group Voxer container for you to plug into my mind and feel supported over the holidays: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/the-hotline/

When I’m done with something, I am fucking done. Relationships. Friendships. Habits. Identities. Whatever I’m done with, whatever I’m moving on from, I don’t do it halfway. I burn it to the fucking ground. For some people, the cold-turkey method of changing their identity doesn’t work. But for me, it’s the only thing that works. So when my mentor recently asked me what new identity I wanted to step into—and what action I could take to make that a reality—I knew exactly what I wanted to be, and exactly how I was going to start out on that path. I cut the cord on my vibrator…literally and figuratively. Let’s talk about why.   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   EPISODE RESOURCES: Ready to quit playing a supporting role in your own life? Join my course, Main Character Energy, starting in early January: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/main-character-energy/ If you want to go from feeling anxious AF about your love life to feeling confident, secure, and having unfuckwithable self-worth, join my program The Connected Woman, starting in early February: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Can’t choose? You don’t have to! Get the Main Character Energy and The Connected Woman BUNDLE: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/hot-girl-shit-bundle-tcw-mce/ Join The Hotline, a 4-week group Voxer container for you to plug into my mind and feel supported over the holidays: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/the-hotline/

I lost something incredibly dear to me recently: my boobs. Well, not entirely. Just part of them. If you follow me on Instagram or have listened to my recent podcast episodes, you probably know that I had to have explant surgery to remove my breast implants thanks to a rupture. Fucking brilliant. Had the best time. (Not.) While everyone was extremely supportive throughout the experience–my friends, my partner, and my surgical team–it was still an emotionally taxing experience, and it dredged up new insecurities I had no idea were ever there. I want to talk about this so you all know that it’s all right to grieve a part of yourself…but you don’t want to wallow in that feeling forever.    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   EPISODE RESOURCES: Ready to quit playing a supporting role in your own life? Join my course, Main Character Energy, starting in early January: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/main-character-energy/ If you want to go from feeling anxious AF about your love life to feeling confident, secure, and having unfuckwithable self-worth, join my program The Connected Woman, starting in early February: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Can’t choose? You don’t have to! Get the Main Character Energy and The Connected Woman BUNDLE: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/hot-girl-shit-bundle-tcw-mce/

Brace yourselves, love. This is going to get spicy, and maybe not in the fun way.   Let’s talk jealousy.   Contrary to popular opinion, jealousy by itself is not a fucking red flag. It’s just another emotion, and like any other emotion—anger, fear, pleasure, pain, etc.—it’s actually just trying to tell you something.   The issue isn’t feeling jealous. The issue is the controlling, toxic, manipulative behavior that can come out of feeling jealous if you don’t tackle it in a healthy, communicative way.   Shaming yourself for being jealous is not the vibe, friends. There are better ways to tackle this without slapping yourself on the wrist every time you feel a fucking human emotion, and I’m here today to tell you how.   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com EPISODE RESOURCES: Sign up for Swipe Right, a six-week program for women who want to date like motherfucking queens: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right

You guys. I had the absolute pleasure of being a guest on Beatrice Kamau’s podcast, The Self Love Fix, this week, and we had the best fucking time. If you don’t know Beatrice, she’s a self-trust embodiment coach who helps bad bitches magnetize their desires with ease through shadow work and developing self-trust…and happens to be a bad bitch herself!  This week, we got to talk all things friendship: how to cultivate deep and lasting ones, why vulnerability is absolutely key in forming ANY relationship, how ingrained jealousy can threaten even those friendships you consider unbreakable, and even more. Every chance to hang out with Beatrice is a fucking gift, and I can’t wait for you all to hear the tough love we dropped this week.   CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Instagram: @theselflovefix Website: https://beatricekamau.com/ Podcast: https://beatricekamau.com/podcast   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   EPISODE RESOURCES: Sign up for Swipe Right, a six-week program for women who want to date like motherfucking queens: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right

News flash: healing isn’t always good. I can already hear the comments: “Who the fuck are you and what have you done with Michelle?” Take a breath, okay? I promise I’m going somewhere with this. When we uncover our wounds, it’s absolutely crucial to not let them sit untouched. We absolutely should be doing the work to heal ourselves. The healing industry is so beautiful for helping us transcend our shit. And you know what else? It can be shadowy as FUCK if you let it be. Healing work is so important, but when it becomes our entire lives, it can actually do a lot more harm than good. Let’s talk about what happens when healing becomes an addiction, and how we can shift our mindset to something ACTUALLY healthy instead.   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   EPISODE RESOURCES: Sign up for Swipe Right, a six-week program for women who want to date like motherfucking queens: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right

We’re getting into a fucking juicy topic today, friends, so buckle up and get ready. Today, we’re talking emotionally unavailable men. Not just what a relationship with these men looks like, though I will be going over that. No, today I’m coming at this from a different angle. I want to talk about why these men are so fucking addicting to us, even when we claim to want something completely different. When it’s good, it’s so fucking good. But when it’s bad? It’s the worst thing we can make ourselves available for. We say we’re so over dating the emotionally unavailable man, yet we keep coming back for more and more and more, over and over and over again. Why do we do this, and more importantly, how do we stop? I’m here today to give you the answer. If you’re ready to get yourself out of this addictive cycle, this is the episode for you.   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   EPISODE RESOURCES: Sign up for Swipe Right, a six-week program for women who want to date like motherfucking queens: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right

I am so fucking excited to share today’s episode with you all. I have invited the illustrious Victoria Alario onto the podcast to chat with me today! Victoria is a multi-passionate and multifaceted entrepreneur with a focus on helping women unleash their confidence and step into their 2.0 self. Her work helps women build their self-esteem, embrace their purpose, and get everything they want out of life. She's known for telling it like it is, keeping it real, and pushing you out of your comfort zone to raise the bar—which, hello! She fits right in here! I brought Victoria on to chat about her enhanced lingerie line, her commitment to celibacy and how it’s affected her confidence and dating life, her journey to her own 2.0 version of herself, and even more fantastic insight into all things confidence. I loved getting to know her, and I know you will, too!   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   CONNECT WITH VICTORIA: Website: https://vicsenthelabel.com/  Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/for-the-girls/id1579104385  Main Instagram: @victoria.alario For the Girls Podcast Instagram: @forthegirls.podast Vicsen the Label Instagram: @vicsenthelabel   EPISODE RESOURCES: Sign up for Swipe Right, a six-week program for women who want to date like motherfucking queens: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right

If you’ve been following me for a while now, you’ve probably heard me speak on the term duality—the concept of two opposing things being true at the same time. This week, I’m diving into one example of duality that very few people seem to understand: that you can be perfectly happy living your single life, and still desire a relationship. Wild, right? You don’t actually have to choose between one or the other. You don’t have to pick between contentment and desire. You can feel both. You can have both. And nobody, NOBODY should be shaming you for it. This is a controversial topic, but hey, those are my favorite to tackle. If you find yourself riddled with shame for wanting a relationship on top of all the other good things in your life, if you feel ungrateful or unreasonable for wanting more, you need to listen to this episode. It’s time to let go of all that shit.   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   EPISODE RESOURCES: Sign up for Swipe Right, a six-week program for women who want to date like motherfucking queens: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right

So. Your partner refuses to do the work alongside you, and it’s driving you crazy. Have you considered that maybe, just maybe, they’re not doing this to piss you off? I’ve talked about this before, but doing the work fucking sucks. It’s hard. It requires you to delve into places you might’ve kept locked up for years and years…maybe even since childhood. It takes a lot for a person to decide they need to do that work on their own, and it’s even less likely that they’re going to decide to do it because someone else is nagging them to. There are ways to get your partner to do the work, but there are also plenty of ways you can do it all wrong. Let me tell you the best way to get your partner interested in doing the work with you.   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   EPISODE RESOURCES: Sign up for Swipe Right, a six-week program for women who want to date like motherfucking queens: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right

I’m gonna be really honest, all right? There’s one thing that drives me absolutely crazy in my relationship: My partner doesn’t use the dishwasher. It’s such a small thing, but it drives me a bit mental. And for most of us, even if we’re not controlling people, this is how controlling tendencies show up: in the day-to-day. In the loading of the dishwasher. In the way they fold their socks.  Why do we do this to our partners? Does this mean we’re terrible people?  Good news: no. Bad news: you still gotta sit down and work on that shit, babe. We end up being controlling in a relationship because we feel emotionally unsafe. We're feeling turmoil, and we're so afraid that if we lose control, we will lose everything. But we need to start examining the root of these fears if we don’t want to actually lose everything…including our partners.    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   EPISODE RESOURCES: Sign up for Swipe Right, a 2-day live workshop-style intensive for women who want to date like motherfucking queens: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right

Narcissist.   It's such a power word, right? You call someone a narcissist, and suddenly you feel so much better about yourself and what happened with them.   Why is this? As people, when we're in our ego, we like labels. We like to ignore duality. And if we can label someone who hurt us, we're able to understand that and absolve ourselves of any concerns over our role or any doubts about our self-worth.   Here's the thing, babe: someone ghosting you doesn't make them a narcissist. Someone ignoring your feelings or your boundaries doesn't make them a narcissist. It might make them a dick, but it doesn't make them a narcissist.   We need to stop throwing around a fucking serious personality disorder as a name for when someone lacks desire or care for us. Let me tell you what narcissism ACTUALLY looks like, and why we need to stop tossing this word around like it's nothing.   Join Uncensored: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/uncensored/   Self Trust Vibes Masterclass: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/self-trust-vibes/   The Connected Woman: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   3-month private 1:1 mentoring: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman     CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning   Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Today I want to talk about something you probably haven't heard of...it's called the drama triangle.   The drama triangle has three "points," or "roles," to it: the victim, the persecutor, and the rescuer. And when we get into an argument with our partner, we can often end up battling it out for which of us gets to play the role of the victim.   In a healthy relationship, there are no victims, babe. There's room for duality. You are able to accept your part in the problem...without taking responsibility for his part. And once you've mastered that, you're able to stay the fuck out of the drama triangle cycle. But you've got to take yourself out of it, and I'm here to tell you how.   Join Uncensored: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/uncensored/   Self Trust Vibes Masterclass: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/self-trust-vibes/   The Connected Woman: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   3-month private 1:1 mentoring: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman     CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning   Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

When we think about transformation, we tend to think about the beauty at the end of it, not the pain we go through on the way.   This just in: doing the work isn't all pretty self-care rituals and kind affirmations and relying on a program's curriculum to do all the changing for you. It's called doing the work; it requires your active participation. And I'm not going to lie to you, all right? It's gonna feel like you're fucking dying. Why? Because part of you is.   You're a caterpillar in its cocoon, babe. And before you can become the beautiful butterfly you're meant to be, you've gotta go through a phase of dissolving your old identity so you can transform yourself into someone new.   Quantum Love Codes Masterclass: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/quantum-love-codes-masterclass/   Self Trust Vibes Masterclass: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/self-trust-vibes/   The Connected Woman: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   3-month private 1:1 mentoring: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman     CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning   Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

So it happened again, huh, love? You set a standard, you set a boundary, and it got fucking crossed. You're sick of not having your standards met, you don't understand why it keeps happening, and you don't know how to fix it...   Well, I've got good news and bad news for you. Good news? I do know how to fix it. Bad news? It's going to take some hard fucking work on your part.   The truth is, people aren't responding to your words, babe—they're responding to your energy. And if you're setting a boundary that keeps getting crossed, guess what? It's because you keep letting it get crossed. Your words say you won't tolerate it, but your energy says you not only tolerate it...you welcome it.   So how do you change your energy to ensure your boundaries get respected? Listen up; I'm going to tell you exactly how.     EPISODE RESOURCES:   Quantum Love Codes Masterclass: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/quantum-love-codes-masterclass/   Self Trust Vibes Masterclass: https://michellepanning.thrivecart.com/self-trust-vibes/   Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   Or maybe you want some one-on-one action? Try out The Intimate Woman for 3-month private 1:1 mentoring/private coaching realness: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman     CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning   Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

It's been a long time coming, loves, but the time is finally here to talk about trust. Specifically, what happens when either you or your partner breaks it.   I'm not gonna lie to you—this fucking sucks. Especially when you're the one who's had trust broken, but also when you are the trust-breaker...because oftentimes, we actually hurt each other unintentionally.   One of you is left betrayed. One of you is guilty. You agree to try and repair trust...but how do you do that?   It's a hard, hard thing to navigate, but it can be done. Let's dive right in to how you can begin repairing trust.   Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   Or maybe you want some one-on-one action? Try out The Intimate Woman for some private coaching realness: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman     CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning   Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Are you ready, ladies? Grab some wine, get in your favorite seat, and get ready to be seduced...or, rather, get ready to learn what it means to be a Seductress. What is a Seductress archetype? So, so many things—and so many of those things have absolutely nothing to do with the classic idea of seduction. When we think of seduction, we think Femme Fatale. We think manipulative. We think selfish. And while all those things can be true—and can be super, super shadowy—that's not all that the Seductress can be. The Seductress is also creative, sensual, utterly unapologetic, secure in her confidence, and secure in all of her desires. She's a fucking master of manifestation, not just manipulation. She knows what she wants, and she knows how to get it. It's time to get in tune with your inner Seductress, and I'm here to help you figure out how. Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Or maybe you want some one-on-one action? Try out The Intimate Woman for some private coaching realness: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Oooo-kay, ladies, this one might be a bit hard to swallow. Today, we're talking about the stages of falling in love.   The four stages are Honeymoon (we all know that one), Power Struggle (uggghhh), Stability (almost there!), and Commitment (the goal, right?).   Now, I can already hear some of you: "My relationship is perfect!" "The honeymoon stage never ended for us!"   I'm about to give you such a rude awakening, my dear, sweet loves: it will end eventually. And if you're not prepared for it, that fallout is going to be a BITCH. But if you can get past that Power Struggle valley where relationships go to die, you're going to come out the other side that much wiser, that much stronger, and that much more in love.   Let me be your guide through every stage of falling in love.   Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   Or maybe you want some one on one action? Try out The Intimate Woman for some private coaching realness: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning   Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Okay, ladies: it's about time we sat down and had a chat about the Big O: orgasms.   Some of you just got excited...and some of you got worried. I get it, love. Orgasms are a sensitive subject for me—not just for me, but for a lot of women. So many of us have had Hollywood's version of sex hammered so deep into our brains that we can't picture anything else. If we're not cumming in thirty seconds or less, something has to be wrong with us, right? We must be broken.   Wrong. Wrong, wrong, wrong.   You aren't broken, love—none of us are. Let's dive in and talk all about orgasms.   Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   Or maybe you want some one on one action? Try out The Intimate Woman for some private coaching realness: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman     CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning   Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Take a deep breath and grab a glass of wine, babes. You're gonna need both, because today, we're chatting all about shame.   Just about every woman I've met has some kind of shame surrounding her sexuality. That's the bad news. The good news? That means you're not alone. So many of us struggle with having total confidence in our sexuality and our pleasure...including me. Yes, me. I've struggled with so much sexual shame my entire life, and only recently did I start figuring out how to unpack that shit and start taking responsibility for my own pleasure. It starts with identifying the conditioning you've gone through; aka, what you've been taught to think about sex, whether actively or passively.   Get ready, ladies. Let's jump right in.   Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   Or maybe you want some one on one action? Try out The Intimate Woman for some private coaching realness: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman     CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning   Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Welcome back, loves! We're going behind the scenes today to talk about all things stripping. Come along as I spill all the tea about my eleven years working in the sex industry: my favorite stories, my worst moments, everything I learned about emotional intimacy, the truth about the different sides of men, and how my time stripping inspired my career today.   Check your prejudices at the door, because I'm here to dispel all that preconceived shit and get real with you about what stripper life is REALLY like.   Hope you're ready. I'm holding nothing back.   Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship, sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

This just in, loves: No matter how bad you want to hide her, that inner brat of yours is in there, and she wants OUT. You can try and put baby in a corner all you like, but she's gonna break her way out eventually, and when she does? It's not gonna be pretty.   There are better ways to wrangle your inner brat, and if you need someone to teach you, I know just the bad bitch for the job. Put on your big-girl pants, sit down, and listen to episode 57 of the UnF*ck Your Relationships Podcast to hear the object of my obsession, Chelsea Dickinson, talk all about how she made space for her brat, gave her the spanking she desperately needed, and taught her what it feels like to be in a healthy fucking relationship for once.   Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship, sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   Or maybe you want some one-on-one action? Try out The Intimate Woman for some private coaching realness: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman     CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning   Website: http://www.michellepanning.com     CONNECT WITH CHELSEA:   Instagram: Guest Links: https://instagram.com/thesabotagequeen

Breaking news my love: the world doesn’t owe you love. It actually doesn’t owe you a goddamn thing. If you’re sitting there blaming the universe for your problems in life or relationships, and figure that one day, one magical“huh, I guess we’re done fucking with her, time to give her the man of her dreams and a fantastic, fullfilled life to go with it,” …let me know how that goes. After you get back from nowhere, maybe have a listen to episode 56 of the UnF*ck Your Relationships Podcast to hear more about: Healthy expectations in relationships How to stop blaming everyone else Where to start in terms of doing the work  Just where do you get off having all these entitled fantasies of how life is supposed to be, when you aren’t willing to stop and evaluate the part you play in keeping yourself blocked? You do it, don’t deny it; it’s not up to anyone but you. You have all the control, you hold all the emotional cards. So get in the fucking game.   Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   Or maybe you want some one on one action? Try out The Intimate Woman for some private coaching realness: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman     CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning   Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Healthy love: what it is, what it’s not, and how the fuck do you actually find it?   In case you missed it, I’ve recently discovered the gift of a real, loving, trusting relationship, so everyone give a hearty welcome to Drew Wild. I figured it was time to officially introduce him to this sphere of spiritual space I love so much, and show you first hand how self-healing can help you find a truly awakened partner. Together we’re talking about all things healing and finding healthy love, such as:  Different types of trauma Why addiction stems from our trama  How both of these contribute to damaging patterns How to start healing To start attracting relationships that not only allow you to be you, but the BEST version of yourself, you have to put in the work and take responsibility for your own behaviors. You have to identify your patterns and be willing to admit where you’re going wrong in the pursuit of love.    Easy to say, incredibly difficult to do- that’s why we’re here to help on the latest episode of the UnF*ck Your Relationships Podcast.   Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   Or maybe you want some one on one action? Try out The Intimate Woman for some private coaching realness: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman     CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning   Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   Or MAYBE you want to connect with Drew (it’s fine, I’ll allow it). Check him out at:   Instagram: https://instagram.com/drew_wild   Drew Wild is an Addiction Coach whose mission is to change the way this planet looks at and approaches addiction and to tear down any stigma with that word.   Drew works with men and women who struggle to break free of their vices, who want to live a life of freedom without needing to lean on alcohol, porn, social media, pills, food, weed, drugs or anything else that leaves them feeling regretful, empty and unfulfilled.   Podcast episode about Drew's journey: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0g2TbaGJSKMrhwAYFf4R5G?si=3ede67da47704add

The truth of the matter is, there is no such thing as perfect: he’s not perfect but neither are you. You both have weird hang-ups and quirks and flaws. You’re both going to annoy the ever-loving shit out of one another from time to time. You’re going to fight. You’re going to disagree. This doesn’t mean your relationship is bad or doomed or that you need to end it. In this episode we’ll talk more about: Societal expectations vs reality How flaws are inherent in any relationship because people are flawed If you feel safe, heard, seen, emotionally and sexually fulfilled- if you love him, don’t go looking for trouble where there is none. Your relationship is normal. It’s the world’s expectations that aren’t. So stop trying to make problems and make some sweet sweet love instead.  Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Or maybe you want some one on one action? Try out The Intimate Woman for some private coaching realness: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

We saw it all the time right when hashtags were becoming a thing: #friendgoals, #relationshipgoals, usually captioning pictures of girls with their heads squished together surrounded by brunch mimosas. And while brunch is a wonderful activity to incorporate into your friendship routine, it’s not necessarily a building block to a “friend goal” situation. Sorry, friend (get it), but you’re actually going to have to work at your friendships. This is not to say that being someone’s friend has the rigidness of a relationship. That being said, you still want to make sure you’re surrounding yourself with good people, and that you’re one of these “good people” for those in your life. That’s why in this episode my friend Caitlyn and I:  Break down how to be a decent friend and human How triggers get in the way of vulnerability  How to show up for other people as a friend If you want a real, lasting friendship, if you want #friendshipgoals, you have to earn it. You have to show up, and be the friend they need- the friend that you would want.  Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman Or maybe you want some 1 on 1 action? Try out The Intimate Woman for some private coaching realness: https://michellepanning.com/the-intimate-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   CONNECT WITH CAITLIN: Instagram: https://instagram.com/complete_bycaitlin   Ignite: http://completebycaitlin.com/ignite   Shadow Work WTF? Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/2LC3UfnbRuoiSOcAC5yMwd?si=XHw57dwhTYW4gB5frNrTdQ

Today we’re going to talk about The 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse. No, not that apocalypse, don’t get all excited and throw all your predictions about end times at me. Relationship professional John Gottam is an expert on all things lasting connection, and he has defined the 4 most prominent nails in the coffin when it comes to break-ups and divorces- The Four Horsemen of a Relationship Apocalypse, if you will. These are dynamics I’ve encountered in my own relationships, and I’ve seen them countless times with clients. That’s why in the latest episode of The UnF*ck Your Relationship Podcast I’ll go more into: The 4 dynamics to look out for that affect relationships How to flip the script How to “fight better” If you can break these bad habits and patterns, and embrace newer ones that ease rifts and distance instead of perpetuating them, you might just find yourself a love that lasts. It’s not about being right, it’s about being in a loving respectful relationship you both cultivate and care for, even during the harder moments.  Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

I’d like to take this episode to talk about a topic I feel often gets pushed under the dating rug- the almost relationship. We’ve all been there- you go on a few amazing dates, he’s wonderful, you’re communicating and connecting and planning events months in the future. You feel solid, and you just KNOW you're both on the same page. He mentions meeting his parents. This is it. Any day he’ll ask you to be in a real honest to goodness relationship…only he dumps you instead. What gives? That’s why we delve deeper into: How to get over a relationship that never was Ways to be there for yourself in hard times How to tap into your power for future relationships Look, even if you get married and ride off into the sunset, happily ever afters aren’t guaranteed. So better that you learn to grieve connections big and small so that you’re prepared and know how to rely on your greatest resource- yourself. No one can take your own power from you once you’ve found it.  Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

One of the most common things I hear when working with women is “I just want real love.” Dude, I hear you. I know. And sure, to some degree, lots of men are the worst. But, I have news for you- you’re part of the problem.  Look, it’s never fun to identify what we’re doing wrong. But if you feel like you’re in an endless loop of attracting men who are super fun and hot and things go well until they crash and burn- eh, sorry but you’re employing a pattern. You’re doing it to yourself and you’re getting in your own way. That’s why on the latest episode of the podcast I talk more about: How you might be repeating bad dating patterns Things to look out for as you date Qualities to look for in a partner Basically, you’re not asking the right questions. You’re probably so focused on the chemistry in the relationship that you’re neglecting the compatibility. Lucky for you though, I’ve got some great tips on how to combat this, and make sure your next relationship is set up for success. Get ready to find yourself some real love. Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Oh hey, all my Anxious Attachment bitches. How’s it going? By “it” I specifically mean dating- not great? Well, that’s why I’m here so listen up. Before you know it we’ll have you dating appropriate men with confidence and ease. No stalking your phone/ their social media pages. No word vomit to fill weird silences.  If you struggle with Anxious Attachment it can feel like you need to “fix” yourself before you start dating- but this isn’t super realistic. If you struggle with anxiety in your relationships, it’s probably stemming from past trauma that you’ve reacted to and carried throughout your entire life. That doesn’t just disappear no matter how much work you do to overcome it. That’s why in the latest episode of The UnF*ck Your Relationships Podcast I’ll help you: Figure out why you date the way you do How you can date while doing the work How to overcome Anxious Attachment Honestly, you might never overcome Anxious Attachment completely and maybe you shouldn’t. It’s made you who you are up to this point. But it doesn’t define you. Maybe the trick is learning to live with it, identifying where it can lead you astray when dating and accepting that working through it is going to be a lifelong journey of learning and acceptance.  Want to learn more about what Anxious Attachment is? Listen to Episode 31: Attachment Style Series - Anxious Attachment! Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Common belief of the collective “them” would have you believe that you have to be a perfect and flawless version of yourself in order to actually love yourself. I would argue that in subscribing to this school of thought, you’ll be waiting forever to love yourself, and I don’t love that for you. That’s why in this next episode I go more into: What self-love actually is How to accept all parts of yourself Ultimately you’re the one who gets to decide what you believe and how you’re treated by yourself and others. Rejecting who you are, or being nasty to yourself isn’t going to help set the bar all that high, and really the person you’re hurting is you and your inner child.  You and little you deserve love, compassion and respect, but you have to believe that just as much as I do for you to get there. Let’s go.  Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

What gives? Things were going so well, you felt like you really liked this guy. Why then, seemingly out of nowhere do you now loathe the very way he breathes?  This, friends is the dreaded ick; the sudden irritating or off-putting thing you randomly notice after things were going so well.  I got more information about it, but you’re not gonna like it. Because it’s actually not about him or his teeth or gremlin toenails or any other slightly off-putting things that really shouldn’t be automatic dealbreakers if aside from them you genuinely like the person. In this episode we’ll talk more about: What the ick actually is How to avoid it How to discern between the ick and intuition The truth of the matter is, the ick is actually more about you than it is about him. This means that you hold most of the cards in terms of dealing with, and getting past it and in doing so, finding real and meaningful love. It’s gonna take work though, and honestly about yourself and the way you seek connection. Let’s go.  Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

What’s your game plan with your emotions? Do you even have one? Do you go radio silent and withdraw, as you clutch tea and stare out the window, preferably at the rain? OR do you enjoy leaning into intense feelings, embracing them as you throw epic tantrums and verbal barbs? Is there a balance between the two? There is! Especially when we first go from suppressing to expressing, it can be hard to find the balance between validating yourself and your emotions and using it as carte blanche to word vomit every feeling that crosses your mind. On the latest episode of The UnF*ck Your Relationships Podcast we’ll talk more about: Differences between emotional expression and dumping Tools to help you cope better Ways to make sure you’re expressing yourself appropriately  A truly emotionally empowered woman discerns when and what and how to share because she knows that at the end of the day, she’s got this shit. She may turn to others for perspective from time to time, but she doesn’t need to make them feel like overwhelmed shit in order to feel better.   Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Sure, sometimes circumstances in life can get hard, but for the most part, you set the tone for your own life. Are you living in the land of the desperate, constantly in a panic about the world running out of men and yourself running out of time and fun and youth and money? If that’s all you fixate on, and all you look for it literally wires your brain to look for every bad thing out there; it’ll even invent things to worry about so you’re caught up in a never-ending cycle of cynical mania. Lucky for you in this episode of The UnF*ck Your Relationship Podcast, we’ll talk more about: Why perfect isn’t real Why striving to be enough is better than striving to be perfect Here’s the thing; while seeking improvement and growth is great, you’re also great just as you are, right now. And if you start viewing yourself as already enough, you’ll take so much pressure off of yourself and others. You’ll stop holding yourself and others to impossible standards. You’ll be happier and lighter and more open to the good. So train your brain to find it, because while it’s good to check in with yourself sometimes and see where you could improve, it’s never good if it comes at the expense of loving yourself in the present moment.  Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Nothing can take a date from great to…not great quite like unrealistic expectations. Maybe he is just as charming as your text banter. Maybe you both really do have the same chemistry in person as you do over the phone. There is a chance that he is the one. But for the love of god, please just let things unfold naturally. Not sure how to do this? Well lucky for you, on the latest episode of The UnF*ck Your Relationship Podcast we’ll talk more about: How expectations can ruin a relationship Ways to make sure yours are realistic Isn’t dating hard enough without projecting a bunch of bullshit onto some poor sap just because you’re lonely or desperate or don’t have good boundaries? You owe it to him and yourself to make sure that you’re keeping pace with emotions appropriately, in a healthy way. Let me help you figure out how.  Exciting news! The doors are now open for Swipe Right…in this 2-day live workshop, you’ll learn how to date like a mother fucking queen! https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right  Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

Is there anything more exciting or terrifying than a first date? No other event is so full of hopeful potential as well as awkward dread; It’s a weird thing for sure. And then there are the “first date tips” that usually revolve around what to wear and what to eat (or not eat because - patriarchy) and a whole host of other superficial bullshit that doesn’t actually help you establish a connection (if there’s even potential for one). So, what the hell are you supposed to do? Well, lucky for you, on the latest episode of The UnF*ck Your Relationships Podcast I talk more about: Dating tips to foster a true connection Ways to take the pressure off yourself Dating can be a vulnerable and scary experience, but most things that are worth it are vulnerable and scary. If you never try, you’ll never know who you could have met, and how they could have changed your life for the better. This doesn’t have to mean meeting “the one”; genuine connection with any other human is a gift, and can profoundly affect who you become. So get out there, and be brave.  Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

I’ve been thinking a lot about thoughts. Specifically the power we give them over us and over situations in our lives. Don’t get me wrong, honoring your feelings is important, but when they demand you spiral out and assign meaning to things that aren't true, it’s easy to get bowled over by them- and half the time they aren’t even true. In this episode I talk more about: How situations we panic about are inherently neutral  How to stop the panic spiral  Ways to step into reality with a calm openness  I read somewhere that you can’t blame yourself for knee-jerk reactionary thoughts, they just pop up, but if you can learn to take back the power from subsequent racing thoughts and instead embrace a curious acceptance of reality and its various possibilities, you’ll be a lot happier in your general life, as well as your dating one. You have more power than you think you do. Get on the waitlist now! For Swipe Right, my new 2-day program that will get you noticed on dating profiles! We will come up with a plan together to find your dream man and build your dream relationship.  https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that your dating with the right intentions sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   EPISODE RESOURCES: Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

Intention is everything, babes, so you have to figure out yours. WHY do you want to date? I am telling you right now, if you haven’t done *the* work, you shouldn’t get back out there. It’s easy to know when you shouldn’t date, but it’s harder to know if you’re finally ready. We all know that we need to feel complete and in love with ourselves before we can ever expect to enter into a healthy partnership. But if you’re fulfilled but lonely, is that so bad? Well you’re in luck because on this episode of UnF*ck Your Relationships Podcast we talk all about: Signs you’re ready to date How motivations define what you’re looking for You know where you’re at with yourself better than anyone, so you’re going to have to be really honest about your motivations for dating. But no matter what I hope you know that desiring true connection is never a sign of weakness. It’s a sign of you hoping to find what you deserve- a companion to do life with.  Get on the waitlist now! For Swipe Right, my new 2-day program that will get you noticed on dating profiles! We will come up with a plan together to find your dream man and build your dream relationship.  https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that your dating with the right intentions sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   EPISODE RESOURCES: Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

There are so many rules for women and girls in society; cultural expectations about what a woman is and what a woman should be, and it’s all bullshit. We’re taught to shrink ourselves, physically and mentally, to never be too much, or take up space. To sacrifice bits of who we are to appease others. Don’t make waves or make anyone uncomfortable, even if your own skin is crawling. Appease appease appease.  Nope. No more, we’re done with that.  In this episode of UnF*ck Your Relationships I go more into:  Societal norms for women (hint, they suck) Ways to send them all to hell We are complex and wild creatures, and if a man doesn’t want to run with everything that makes you, you, then why the hell are you fighting so hard for him anyway? I know we’ve all been told that our worth is based on how we look (through the male gaze) and how many kids we have, but breaking news, none of that is true. You have worth because YOU find yourself worthy, and because you are a multifaceted person with dreams and desires and a vibrant and diverse personality. Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   EPISODE RESOURCES: Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

Maybe you have a dude in your life, and he’s great. He’s cute and sweet and funny, and the sex is good. But GOD sometimes you just want him to be the man so you can be the woman. But, what if I told you that you might actually be the problem here. It’s not that he isn’t masculine, it’s that you BOTH are, and much like your fav pair of underwear, there can only be one.  In this episode I break down : The differences between masculine and feminine energies  Ways to draw out the masculine from your partner (hint, be more feminine) I’m not saying throw on an apron and pretend like it’s 1956 (if that’s your jam more power to you but for everyone who reads the above and immediately assumes I’m suggesting anything to do with submitting to manly authority, ew) but in order for him to take the lead on some things…you have to actually let him take the lead.  This also means you’re going to have to do some soul searching to make sure the problem isn’t deeper- to make sure it isn’t actually you being unable to accept love and protection and the safety your relationship should provide. Let’s figure it out! Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   EPISODE RESOURCES: Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

This one’s for all my ladies who feel like all they attract is men of the emotionally unavailable kind…girl I hate to be the one to tell you this, but you’re the problem. No, keep reading, just hear me out; like peanut butter cups and bad romance novels, bad boys are kind of addictive. It’s why the second he starts to show interest you feel smothered and sprint your cute butt right outta there to find you a man who will have you stress eating by your phone all night.  Why, tho? Well, in this episode we explore: Why you always seem to end up with emotionally unavailable men What this can mean for your own self-esteem Dating this type of guy is as sucky as it is safe; chances are you’ve dated a string of them and you’re used to the chaotic highs and lows that accompany dating an emotionally constipated male.  It also means you never really have to worry about sharing anything real, or truly risk your heart. But this dynamic is about as refreshing as a birdbath on a 90-degree day. And if you never get a grasp on why you seek these guys out and learn to stop, well, have fun with relationship heat stroke.  Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   EPISODE RESOURCES: Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

We spend so much time identifying and dissecting warning signs in dating, it can feel hopeless. How would we even know if a guy is decent and datable? Would we recognize the signs? Well, lucky for you dear listener, I present the 12 green flags that will help you along your quest of finding out if he’s worth your time. In this episode, we’ll go more into: Learning how to spot a good potential partner Things to look for and reciprocate in your next relationship Sometimes it’s good to shake things up, and view things in a more positive light. There ARE things to actively look for, not just avoid, and there ARE men out there who will help you feel loved, understood, and valued. Learning how to spot them can be tricky, and this is why I want to share some of the green flags you should look for as you traverse the dating world. Keep those standards high, madam. You deserve the green flag guy.  Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to make sure that you are confident to meet others’ needs and have your own met in your next relationship sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   EPISODE RESOURCES: Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

It may seem like a hard answer to find, but friend, if you’re debating whether or not to put that foot out the door…that’s not a good sign. You gotta learn to trust yourself, and what your emotions are trying to tell you. Why would you want to stay in a relationship where you’re the one who is making all the effort? You can’t want it for both of you, or you can’t want it for the both of you and expect to have a healthy relationship. In this episode we’ll explore: Signs it might be time to end your relationship Reasons he’s content to stay Reasons you can’t release your death grip on a dead relationship If he’s not calling or making plans, or he’s doing the hot and cold dance, why are you doing this to yourself? Why are you putting up with his crap? Someone is out there who will respect you and your time, and be grateful for the fact that you let him in your life. So why are you gripping that pile of flesh garbage who does nothing but take you for granted?  These questions can be really hard to confront, but you’re going to have to approach them and be brutally honest with yourself and him. Maybe you’re just not compatible together, and that’s ok. You’re not a failure, and you didn’t waste your time. Now take what you learned from the relationship and find a dude who realizes how lucky he is to have you. Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to go from anxious & insecure in your relationships to setting boundaries, healing yourself and living your dream life, sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   EPISODE RESOURCES: Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

You can’t wait to meet HIM. The ONE. He’ll be attractive and put together and communicative, self-assured but also safe. But here’s the thing; if you’re holding him to high standards, chances are he’s holding you to the same. So are you in a place to accept his healthy affection? Are you in a place where you can meet the same standards you have set for him? Are you prepared to enter into a relationship with confidence? In this episode we’ll look closer at:  How finding something and holding something are very different How standards for him are also standards for you A decent man expects you to be able to communicate with a healthy side of vulnerability as needed. Acting out to test boundaries? Nah. Avoiding conflict because it makes you uncomfortable? He doesn’t dig it. He’s not here to be your father, just like you’re not here to be his mother. You both want equal partners. This is why the relationship is healthy and balanced, but also why you’re expected to communicate in healthy and productive ways. Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to go from anxious & insecure in your relationships to setting boundaries, healing yourself and living your dream life, sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   EPISODE RESOURCES: Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

Well, well, well. If it isn’t the blessed 50% of the population. You lucky, securely attached bastards. You think you’re cooler than the rest of us? I mean, you’re not wrong. But, the truth is, you’re the goal. And we can allll reach that goal. It’s just gonna take a little work. In this episode I go more into: What being securely attached actually means How securely attached people show up in relationships  Basically, because they were actually raised as autonomous persons and their emotions were honored, they grew up feeling heard and learned to trust with discerning inhibition (lucky). If you aren’t blessed enough to fall into this category, it can seem like a daunting task to try and achieve such a confident way to relate to others. But I promise it’s very possible. You can love and be loved the way you want. You can get over your fear of intimacy without sacrificing self-preservation.  You deserve all of that and more, and building off of everything that got you here with more awareness and self-love will go a long way. And to all of you securely attached people, there’s still some work you could be doing too. But you’ll have to go listen to find out what ;)  No matter your attachment style, we all have a little work to do. Strengthen your relationships, enjoy vulnerability, heal yourself and live your dream life, sign up for my program The Connected Woman here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   EPISODE RESOURCES: Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

Oh, you fearful-avoidant unicorns. You are a small percentage of the population. So small, but mightily terrible. I’m so sorry. Let’s break down your particular cross to bear. Yet again, we’re going up against a traumatic childhood, however, this one is mainly fear-based trauma.  You likely had parents who loved to overshare (resulting in parentification of you, the child), when they felt like it. So now, you’re a commitment cretan who can’t decide if you want connection or to run for the hills. In this episode we’ll talk: About more tendencies of the fearful-avoidant  How to overcome  You can love and be loved the way you want. You can get over your fear of intimacy without sacrificing self-preservation.  You deserve all of that and more, and building off of everything that got you here with more awareness and self-love will go a long way.  If you’re ready to go from void of emotion and avoiding connection in your relationships, to enjoying vulnerability, healing yourself and living your dream life, sign up for my program The Connected Woman here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   EPISODE RESOURCES: Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

And we’re back, analyzing new ways our parents meant well but ultimately set us up for failure… Did you have parents who made sure you were physically fine, and then blatantly neglected you for the other stuff? Maybe they thought they were making you independent, maybe they were relating to you the only way they knew how, but now here you are, stuffing down all your feelings and straight-up avoiding real connection.  Yep, we’re going to talk about dismissive avoidant attachment:  How and why you became an avoider How to stop avoiding, heal, and truly enjoy personal connections And no, it’s not going to be an all-out verbal brawl against your parents, they did their best. But their best might have had unintentional fallout that is affecting you and your ability to relate to people (as well as date them).  So we have to acknowledge and process that before we can even start to move forward. Meet yourself where you’re at, and let’s get to work. If you’re ready to go from void of emotion and avoiding connection in your relationships, to enjoying vulnerability, healing yourself and living your dream life, sign up for my program The Connected Woman here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   EPISODE RESOURCES: Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

Oh, mommy (and daddy) issues. They did their best, they really did, but the cold hard fact is that if you were raised with parents who gave you inconsistent support, you probably have anxious attachment issues now. When you’re taught that your own thoughts and feelings are “too much” you begin to censor yourself; you try and make yourself palatable to the world around you. And you also begin to distrust your own intuition. F*ck. Well, we’re going to go more into this on today's episode when we talk about: Signs you’re repeating anxious attachment patterns with partners How to overcome and heal from anxious attachment trauma The journey to self-respect and self-trust may seem perilous, maybe impossible… But if you cultivate a support system of friends (my program, The Connected Woman, is a great place to start!) and learn to slowly share bits of who you really are with people who love you, eventually you’ll come out on top. And by “on top” I mean you’ll no longer assume everyone around you has ill intent and plans on saying they love you to your face before disappearing off the face of the planet, as you dissolve into a needy, weepy, codependent mess. Totally not speaking from experience, not at all. Nope.  And if you’re ready to go from anxious & insecure in your relationships to setting boundaries, healing yourself and living your dream life, sign up for my program The Connected Woman here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   EPISODE RESOURCES: Take the Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.attachedthebook.com/wordpress/compatibility-quiz/

Online dating. So much potential. So much danger. In order to make sure you’re not matching with people who are wildly inappropriate for you (hold onto your butts here, I’m about to blow your mind) you have to actually be honest about what you want and who you are.  Ugh, vulnerability. Why is vulnerability always the answer? Sorry kid, but in order to find “the one” you’re going to have to try and be honest instead of the “cool girl” — not that you’re not cool, but when you try to force it the authenticity just isn’t there. We’re humans, not male-authored characters in a fantasy series. In this episode we’ll take a closer look at: Why honesty is the necessity in your dating profile Why mental games serve no one in a relationship You’re gonna get there, friend, but in order to do so you have to stop standing in your own way. Whether that’s catering your personality to be palatable for men, or playing games to hold the upper hand, you’ve got to stop (Do you want to be a girlfriend or a Bond villain?). And learn to embrace and proudly present the truest, most authentic version of you from the very beginning of your entrance into the dating scene.    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to go from anxious & insecure in your relationships to setting boundaries, healing yourself and living your dream life, sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

Stop. Putting. Him. Up. There. On today’s episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships podcast, we’re talking about pedestals and why you shouldn’t put men up there (but girl, we can understand the urge to do so). No one is perfect, and if all you focus on is the good and build it up to mean more than it does, you’ll never make a genuine connection. On this episode, I’ll explain in detail: Why we pedestal men What happens when we do HINT: Nothing good You can’t genuinely know or love a person if you can’t be yourself around them.  Please stop shrinking your soul so his can shine. And remember, he’s a human with human flaws. He farts. He pees. He gets the stomach flu. He probably wore puka shells in the early years when he believed that they were “the in thing.”  All the good qualities you love in him, are in you. Find someone who wants to enhance them, not overshadow them. And most importantly, make sure you remain true to what you need & desire most in your relationships, while continuing to embody your purest form of what makes you, you!   CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to go from anxious & insecure in your relationships to setting boundaries, healing yourself and living your dream life, sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

On today’s episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships podcast, we’re talking about how to give up the ghost — of a relationship, that is. While it’s probably gone on forever, these days the term for disappearing when dating is termed ghosting, and it can really throw you for a loop. Dating is hard enough without wondering why you and a dude couldn't stop texting one minute and the next he’s nowhere to be found. What gives?! On this episode we’ll get into: Potential reasons for the ghosting (hint: not your fault) How to deal and grow from ghosting Knocking down that pedestal we put men on Dating is like the Wild West. It’s confusing, lawless, thrilling, and frustrating. But I’m here to hopefully make it a bit more bearable when a guy goes radio silent on you.  Confusing? Yes, but it’s actually a commentary on him, not you. Stop internalizing his bad behavior, and remember that as long as your relationship with yourself is strong, you can process and grow from anything he (or the universe) throws your way. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to go from anxious & insecure in your relationships to setting boundaries, healing yourself and living your dream life, sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

On today’s episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships podcast, we’re talking about how to deal when you get your heart broken. Whether you were the initiator, on the receiving end, or the series finale was a mutual decision; breakups are tough to handle. All the questions, self-doubt, and paranoia invade your brain, in between pints of cookie dough ice cream and “Legally Blonde” viewings... tears in your eyes, yearning in vain for the power Elle Woods wielded in the laptop scene (RIP fun Macbooks). But guess what, that can be you! Here are a few things we cover in this episode: How processing the hurt and anger is how you heal How to cultivate a better relationship with yourself How to reframe and see what you can learn from it If this episode finds you going through a breakup in real time, I hope it offers some hope and comfort. And I hope that even if you’re happily committed, it helps you remember that ultimately, your most important relationship is with yourself.  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to go from anxious & insecure in your relationships to setting boundaries, healing yourself and living your dream life, sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m getting vulnerable. Like, really vulnerable. Here’s the deal; I have herpes. And you know what? It’s actually not the clusterfuck your high school health teacher warned you about. I still have fulfilling intimate relationships, and it’s even taught me to be in tune with my body’s needs in a new way. Am I endorsing you going out and intentionally getting yourself some syphilis tomorrow? No. But I am telling you if you have or contract one, STIs are common,  manageable, and in no way life (or love) ending. Here’s what we’ll cover: How to approach STIs with a partner without making them run for the hills.  Remember that you’re not a human biohazard just because you have an STI. Stigma and shame can steal so much from your life if you let it. Let’s remind each other that we are powerful, beautiful women who have nothing to apologize for, even if we’re  living with an STI. Don’t let that shame take a potentially fulfilling relationship from you, because you deserve to have everything you want no matter what!  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   EPISODE RESOURCES: STI Educator - Emily L. Depasse: https://instagram.com/sexelducation Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to go from anxious & insecure in your relationships to setting boundaries, healing yourself and living your dream life, sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

In this episode of The Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m getting into how you can strive to stop being so hard on yourself and focus on accepting all of you! Life will never be “perfect,” and that’s ok. You can be doing the work and still make mistakes.  We’re going to talk about: Focusing on yourself and not comparing yourself to others Accepting all parts of yourself, even the ones you’re not as comfortable with You’re growing, changing and putting in the work to be the best you. Give yourself permission to feel your emotions fully and do what’s best for you. You deserve it.  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com Join my signature 12-week program, The Connected Woman. If you’re ready to go from anxious & insecure in your relationships to setting boundaries, healing yourself and living your dream life, sign up here: https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

In this episode of The Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I'm sharing the moment when I felt like everything shifted for me – and how the lessons I learned can help you become the next-level version of yourself! Here’s what I’ll cover: My BIG life-changing shift that helped shape the rest of my career & life. Key questions to ask yourself in order to receive everything you deserve. I hope this episode helps you trust that everything truly is always working out for you, no matter how challenging things may seem right now.  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

In this episode of The Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I'm excited to talk about how to shift when you’re not getting what you want. I've spoken about letting go of timelines before, but today, we’re talking about THE number one thing that helps me shift, and I repeat this to my clients all the time: Nothing means anything.Here’s what I’ll cover: How the stories you tell yourself about your love life (and beyond!) affect your reality. How to stop the meaning-making machine in your head to get the life you want and deserve. I hope this episode helps you understand how it's not the situation that causes us pain, but it's our thoughts about the situation that make everything harder than it needs to be. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

In this episode of The Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I'm excited to talk about stepping into your feminine energy. Every single person on the planet (regardless of gender) has both masculine and feminine energy, and we can learn to work with these forces to help us have more balanced, fulfilling relationships.Here’s what I’ll cover: Misconceptions around masculine and feminine energies How to tap into your feminine energy to create more attraction in your relationships I hope this episode helps you understand how attraction actually works and empowers you to experiment with masculine and feminine energies in your own relationships. It’s such a powerful way to deepen your connection with not just your partner, but with any relationship in your life! If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

In this episode of The Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I am talking all about the level of truth and trust that I have been dropping into lately. Understanding the fact that you cannot f*ck anything up is so valuable, not only for your relationships but for your entire life. If you’re ready to find your truth and stop questioning every step you take, stay tuned!  Here are a few points I cover:  Why you need to start telling yourself the truth What love is and how to start finding your truth I hope this episode helps you start diving into your truth and asking yourself what you really want. You cannot mess anything up when you're open & honest because deep down, that's what you have wanted all along. Don’t question your boundaries or desires, just let them be.  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

In this episode of The Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m going to be talking all about getting what you want and how you can use the law of attraction to speed up the process. I’m explaining how to manifest your ideal relationship and why the universe will throw you exactly what you want in life when you are clear on what that is. Want the secret to manifesting your dream relationship? Stay tuned!  Here are a few points I cover:  The key to manifestation.  What to do after you decide what you want.  Celebrating yourself when you get what you want.  I hope this episode teaches you how to stop putting so much pressure on yourself when it comes to reaching your desires. Decide what you want, get super clear on it, feel as if it's already done, and take action that aligns with your desires.  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com

In this episode of The Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m going to be talking all about my favorite books that have changed my life. I fully believe that you can get a lot out of reading books, if you actually apply the information learned to your own life . Stay tuned to hear all about my top six must-read books for women!  Here are a few points I cover:  Must-read books for women to change the way you think.  How these books have changed my life.  I hope this episode encourages you all to go out and purchase whichever book speaks to you. Each of these books offers a different perspective about life and changes the way you might view certain circumstances & experiences. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com   Secure your spot in Swipe Right now! The waitlist is now open: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right-waitlist 

In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m going to be talking to you about overcoming vulnerability and why it's so important for your personal life and your relationships. Instead of living behind a mask, it's time to realize that vulnerability is different for everyone and we all have different things to share with others.  Here are a few points I cover:  What is vulnerability?  How to overcome your fear of being vulnerable.  I hope this episode helps you overcome your fear of being vulnerable and realize that vulnerability is healthy. It takes bravery and risk to be vulnerable, but a relationship without vulnerability is a relationship with no connection.  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com Secure your spot in Swipe Right now! The waitlist is now open: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right-waitlist 

In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m going to be talking to you about the importance of making your needs known in a relationship and what happens when you don't. Resentment is the last thing you want towards someone you love, so keep reading to find out how you can avoid resentment & martyrdom in your relationships!  Here are a few points I cover:  Meeting your own needs to avoid rejection.  Why you have to stop playing games to be happy.  I hope this episode helps you get curious about yourself and your partner. Get clear on what it is you need in a relationship, what your boundaries are, and the communication you desire. Letting go of resentment in a relationship truly starts with you.  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning Website: http://www.michellepanning.com Secure your spot in Swipe Right now! The waitlist is now open: https://michellepanning.com/swipe-right-waitlist 

In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m going to be talking all about being picky in a relationship and choosing between what you want and what you need. I see women fall into this “picky” mindset all the time so if this sounds like you, listen up.    Here are a few points I cover:  Breaking down “nice-to-haves” vs. “must-haves”.  What qualifies as a must-have?  Don’t dismiss people right away.  I hope this episode helps you understand the difference between what you need in a relationship and what you want in a relationship. Stop settling for mediocre because you’ve decided that's what you deserve. Be honest with yourself and others, and you won’t find yourself being as picky and unhappy in your relationships.  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.  Secure your spot in Swipe Right now! The waitlist is now open.    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning http://www.michellepanning.com

In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m going to be talking all about trust, especially in men. If someone has done absolutely nothing to break your trust, then the only one stopping you from trusting is you. If you want to break this habit, then this episode is for you!   Here are a few points I cover:  Dealing with the past to move forward.  Trusting yourself before trusting a man.  How to build trust in a relationship.  I hope this episode helps you trust your partner but also yourself because they 100% go hand in hand. Back yourself up so that type of energy filters into your relationships! Building trust is not an easy process however, once you get there, you will see a huge change in the way you view others and yourself.  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.  Secure your spot in The Connected Woman now! The waitlist is now open.    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning http://www.michellepanning.com

In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m going to be talking all about what it means to be emotionally available versus emotionally unavailable. I’m going to help you figure out what role this plays in your relationships and how to step away from being emotionally unavailable so stay tuned for all the details!  Here are a few points I cover:  You are what you attract.  Signs of emotional availability.   Signs of emotional unavailability.  I hope this episode helps you understand the difference between being emotionally unavailable and being emotionally available. Take a second in every situation and lean into your emotions because this is something that needs to be learned and relearned over time. If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.  Secure your spot in The Connected Woman now! The waitlist is now open.    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning http://www.michellepanning.com

In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I am sharing Day five of my Connected AF Week. I’m going to be speaking on how to get super clear on what it is that you want so you can stop fucking around with shit that ain’t it!! Here are a few points I cover:  How to get clear on your values, standards, boundaries and dealbreakers Getting clear on your must haves vs nice to haves A guided meditation to be in the vibe of your desires already being yours! I hope you get as much out of this episode as the women in the group did. It was super fun for me to record! If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.  Secure your spot in The Connected Woman now! The doors are until Sept 12th! https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman  CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning http://www.michellepanning.com https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I am sharing Day three of my Connected AF Week. I’m going to be speaking on how I went from constantly needing external validation and going from man to man to being in a healthy, secure relationship. (hint: it’s not always perfect!) Here are a few points I cover: The REAL work I did to get to where I am now How actions are the key to feeling worthy What a healthy relationship actually looks like. It’s not always Insta-worthy I hope you get as much out of this episode as the women in the group did. It was super fun for me to record! If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men. Secure your spot in The Connected Woman now! The doors are until Sept 12th! https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning http://www.michellepanning.com https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I am sharing Day three of my Connected AF Week. I’m going to be speaking on how WE are attracting exactly what we are getting in our love lifes. Here are a few points I cover:  How you may be getting off on what you say you “hate” How your beliefs create your reality Why wish a man would be “more masculine” won’t work I hope you get as much out of this episode as the women in the group did. It was super fun for me to record! If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.  Secure your spot in The Connected Woman now! The doors are until Sept 12th! https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman  CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning http://www.michellepanning.com https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I am sharing Day two of my Connected AF Week. I’m going to be speaking to whether or not honesty is really the best policy when it comes to dating and relationships. Here are a few points I cover:  Being willing to take risks when connecting with new people Leaning into vulnerability Getting super fucking honest with ourselves How to say what you’re looking for on dating apps I hope you get as much out of this episode as the women in the group did. It was super fun for me to record! If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.  Secure your spot in The Connected Woman now! The doors are until Sept 12th! https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman  CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning http://www.michellepanning.com https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I am sharing Day One of my Connected AF Week. I’m going to be speaking to exactly what it means to truly be a connected woman. Here are a few points I cover:  How we have been taught not to trust ourselves How we are searching for ourselves in other people Learning to connect with your intuition How to step into your full sense of self-worth and become the Queen I hope you get as much out of this episode as the women in the group did. It was super fun for me to record! If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.  Secure your spot in The Connected Woman now! The doors are open!! CONNECT WITH MICHELLE:http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning http://www.michellepanning.com https://michellepanning.com/the-connected-woman

In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m going to be breaking down my program The Connected Woman and showing you exactly why it's a must for anyone struggling personally or in a relationship.  I truly want to help you make a decision that feels good, so stay tuned for all the details! Here are a few points I cover:  Why I created The Connected Woman.  How The Connected Woman helps cultivate your safety.  Getting clear on your thoughts.   I hope this episode helps you decide if The Connected Woman is for you. It's time we break down your patterns and regain your self-worth!  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.  Secure your spot in The Connected Woman now! The waitlist is now open.    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning http://www.michellepanning.com

In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m joined by four of my clients from The Connected Woman Program. We’ll be talking all about what this program did for their confidence and how it has changed the relationships they are in today. If you want to start feeling more worthy and confident in any relationship, this program might be for you. Stay tuned to find out more!  Here are a few points I cover:  What life was like for these women before they started The Connected Woman.  What happened when they joined The Connected Woman.  Why you should join The Connected Woman.  I hope this episode helps you understand what The Connected Woman can do for you and why feeling worthy is so important in any relationship.  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.  Secure your spot in The Connected Woman now! The waitlist is now open.    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning http://www.michellepanning.com

In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m going to be talking all about our feelings and emotions, the one thing everybody hates talking about. It's super important that you understand why you feel the way you feel and why you sometimes act the way you act. Stay tuned to hear all the details and tips!  Here are a few points I cover:  What happens when our emotions are triggered.  Taking a step back when you're triggered.  Balancing your emotions.  I hope this episode helps you understand your emotions, patterns, and triggers more. Know that you are not on your own and whether you explode or shut down, you're perfectly whole and there are ways to change this.  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.  Secure your spot in The Connected Woman now! The waitlist is now open.    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning http://www.michellepanning.com   EPISODE RESOURCES:  Trauma Healing Modalities mentioned in the episode: Somatic Psychotherapy EMDRSomatic Experiencing  *You will need to do your own research to find a practitioner near you*

In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m going to be talking all about people-pleasing and why it's time to put these habits to an end. Saying “Yes” all of the time to the things you don't want to do isn't going to benefit you in any way. If you're ready to step out of this mentality and start doing things for yourself, and not others, stay tuned!  Here are a few points I cover:  Where people-pleasing comes from.  Is people pleasing selfless or selfish?  How to stop people-pleasing.  I hope this episode helps you stop people-pleasing and get connected to the part of you that doesn't want to be abandoned. It's time to get clear on your boundaries to build a healthy relationship!  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.    CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning http://www.michellepanning.com

Water Your Own Lawn and Take Responsibility Before You Judge Someone Else's In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m sharing why you have to water your own lawn before picking at someone else's. It's super important to make sure things on your side are up to your standards before looking at your standards in someone else's life. If you're ready to take responsibility for your actions and stop always looking to men as the problem, stay tuned!  Here are a few points I cover:  Why it's hard to look at ourselves and take responsibility.  What happens when you abandon yourself.  Start acting like you're worthy of love.  I hope that hearing more about this concept was a huge eye-opener for you. Remember to be self-responsible and take responsibility for the way you show up in your life!  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.  CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning http://www.michellepanning.com EPISODE RESOURCES:  Loving What Is by Byron Katie 

You Can't Hate Men And Want a Relationship With One At The Same Time In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m sharing why you have to stop having negative beliefs about men if you want a healthy relationship. I'm going to help you throw away this mentality so that you can build an amazing relationship. If you're ready to change your beliefs around men, stay tuned!  Here are a few points I cover:  Why you can't hate men but want a relationship with one.  Pay attention to your beliefs about men.  Find examples of men who mirror your positive beliefs. I hope that hearing more about this concept was a huge eye-opener for you. Remember to be self-responsible and take responsibility for the way you show up in your life!  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.  CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning http://www.michellepanning.com

You Are Kinky for Your Own Suffering In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m sharing why we get off on our own suffering and the reason we ignore all answers to that pain. We make ourselves suffer a lot more than we have to in relationships, but why? Stay tuned to hear all the details!  Here are a few points I cover:  You attract what you please.  Why do we get addicted to that suffering?  Ways to step out of the victim mentality and deal with the suffering. I hope that hearing more about this suffering opened your eyes to the fact that maybe this is happening to you. Remember, if you didn't want something, you wouldn't have it.  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.  CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning http://www.michellepanning.com EPISODE RESOURCES:  Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power Book

Sharing My Personal Journey, Past Relationships, and How I Finally Reclaimed My Self-Worth In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I’m sharing a little bit about who I am, how I got here, and how you can start to reclaim your self-worth WITHOUT the validation of men. I’ll be talking about my own personal journey to self-worth and why we have to look to ourselves FIRST for validation. So if you’re ready to learn more about reclaiming your power, be sure to tune into the very first episode! Here are a few points I cover:  A little about me and how I got here.  The trip that changed my self-worth.  Why you need to stop blaming men for the way you feel about yourself.  I hope that hearing more about my experience teaches you to never look to a man for validation on how worthy you really are. Always remember, you deserve to feel safe and secure in all your relationships.  To hear more on connecting with yourself and reclaiming your self-worth, be sure to listen to the entire episode on your favorite streaming platform.  If you have enjoyed this episode of the podcast, take a screenshot, head on over to my Instagram and share it on your IG stories and tag me, @michellepanning And if you love what you learned, be sure to hit that follow button so you never miss a future episode, and leave a review to help me reach more passionate women just like you who want to heal their relationship patterns so they can have REAL intimacy with men.  CONNECT WITH MICHELLE: http://www.instagram.com/michellepanning http://www.michellepanning.com