If your sense of self is based around helping others and it's the only place where you get your self worth from. It might be worth checking that you don't make things worse.Support the show Social Media Links Threads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsreal Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthor

Is laughter the best medicine?Maybe not, but it's better than nothing!Support the show Social Media Links Threads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsreal Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthor

It’s a sad fact that grief touches us all at some point. Whether we’re supporting others or need support ourselves.But if you’re feeling particularly raw right now and you want to skip this episode then feel free of course.Support the show Social Media Links Threads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsreal Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthor

If you're soaking up all the negative stuff that goes on in the world it can be really hard to feel safe ourselves unless we work hard to.Ignorance is bliss sometimes and you have nothing to feel guilty about by looking the other way when you have to.Support the show Social Media Links Threads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsreal Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthor

When we notice our mistakes or our inconsistencies, it's easy to label ourselves as a failure. But becoming the best we can be is a continual process, not a destination. Support the show Social Media Links Threads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsreal Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthor

If you've ever set a goal for yourself and then found yourself deliberately sticking a spanner in the works knowing full well it'll cause you to fail then welcome to the human race. Because everyone does it.Support the show Social Media Links Threads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsreal Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthor

Being in control of our goal setting also means being responsible for achieving them, or not.Sometimes we need to shift our perspectives, focus on intentions and acknowledge the need for adjustments.Support the show Social Media Links Threads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsreal Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthor

The rules of toxic masculinity suggest that to be a real man you should never lose, have no needs, suffer in silence, show no emotions except bravado and anger, be independent, show no weakness.It’s an impossible code to live by and it hurts everyone.Support the show Social Media Links Threads https://www.threads.net/@richardnichollsreal Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@richardnichollsauthor

The world can feel quite stressful sometimes and it's really important to find ways of not making things worse for ourselves.One of those ways is to learn how to let go of some things and find the best ways to delegate.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Help! The supermarkets are pushing mince pies onto me and there's only so much willpower we have to resist.But sometimes it's all a matter of perspective.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

I might not the young man I once was, but there is a certain childishness to me that I'm hoping can keep me young.Looking at the studies into attitude and ageing the odds are in my favour!Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

People often use the word panic to mean the same as anxiety. But in my world the 2 are separated so as to ensure people get the right sort of therapy.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

It's no secret that stretching our comfort zone to include more situations is a good idea. But it's called a comfort zone for a reason isnt it? It's comfortable there.So if life is comfortable and the alternative is uncomfortable then we're not going to have a great deal of motivation to make a change.But do we even need to? And if so, how?Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Understanding a little bit about the effects of different parenting styles can really help us understand ourselves better. As well as help us to understand others.Let's have a peek into some of the basics shall we?Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

People sometimes make the mistake of thinking that accepting reality and moving on from the past makes them weak or naive in some way. So they hold onto their pain.It takes a lot of strength to be the bigger person and say "You know what, the only one this is hurting is me, I'm moving on from that." But it doesn't mean you have to forgive and forget. Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Mixing negative beliefs about self with the idea that we can mind read is not a good idea. It can easily lead us down the path of feeling like an imposter at the first hint of any success.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Having free will is generally thought of as a good thing but it also comes with responsibility.That's why decisions cause anxiety, whether it's about the little things or the big things.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Freud had some weird ideas back in the day. But this one really has stood the test of time.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Some specialists say we need 8 hours every night, some say we need more. In truth, there's only one person who knows how much sleep you need.You.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

According to multiple studies, fear of judgement is the number one biggest fear, above dying.The author Elbert Hubbard once wrote, "Do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing, and you'll never be criticised." And that's probably the only way to avoid criticism, isn't it?Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

I once heard someone say that if you're on your own and lonely then you obviously don't like the company you're in. And when listening to clients talk about their loneliness that really does ring true. Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Most people live their life based around making other people happy to some degree. It's just how far we take it that determines whether or not it becomes a problem.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Today is all about why having an optimistic and positive mindset can make a big difference in our life.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Most people think of boundaries as being like a physical thing as if there's a chalk outline on the ground everywhere you go and if someone steps into it it makes you upset.The thing is the only one that knows the boundary is there is you.Today is all about why boundaries are important, how to set them and how you know if someone's crossed the line.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

The idea of our thoughts influencing our emotions, which influence our behaviour is regularly talked about in therapy. But often misses out the important bit in-between. Emotions and behaviour, which is our world view, our beliefs. Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

What's the difference between someone who has all the motivation and enthusiasm you could wish for and someone that, even though they don't have depression, still can't feel motivated? Well in order to answer that I think it's worth looking at what motivation actually is.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Who's responsible if we fall flat on our face and nothing goes right?More importantly, who's responsible if we don't pick ourselves up again?Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and its counterpart Complex PTSD, are life-altering conditions.And although the symptoms may often resemble Anxiety and Depression, they need to be worked on in slightly different ways.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Carl Jung once said " those who look outside dream, those who look inside awaken." And if you've ever seen an analytical Psychotherapist you'll know what he meant.One way of learning what makes us tick is through a concept called Ego States.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Your brain has a remarkable ability to filter and remember important experiences while discarding the less significant ones. It does so by comparing new experiences with past ones and using emotional reactions to determine their importance.Let's look at how we can train it!Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

In short, re-enactment in response to trauma means repeating past events as a way of trying to resolve them. But until we are made aware of it we often compulsively and unconsciously make things worse for ourselves.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Prompted by a few emails over the years. Today is all about dealing with having an insecure attachment style and how to best cope in a relationship despite it. 36 questions that lead to love.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Today is all about biases.In particular the in-group and out-group bias that drives our emotions way more than it should in the modern world.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

It's often said that there are 3 types of perfectionism. Self-Oriented Perfectionism, Other-Oriented Perfectionism and Socially Prescribed Perfectionism. Let's take a peek into them shall we?Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

I have a couple of catchphrases, or if you ask my wife I repeat myself a lot and can be boring and predictable, either way you'll often hear me say one particular phrase."The brain can't separate fact from fiction."If you've got this far through my Podcast series and not heard me say that then I must boring after all because you clearly fell asleep, because I say it a lot. And for good reason.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Gratitude, even about the simpler things in life, helps to dilute down the frustrations about the annoying things. But it's not always easy to find reasons to be grateful is it?Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Seeing as it's Spring, not that you'd know it *shakes fist at the clouds* a time for having a good old clear out.I thought I'd revisit an old topic and talk about the psychology of stuff this week.In particular the way our brain can get very confused.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Someone asked me recently what the difference is between meditation, mindfulness and hypnosis. So I thought I'd go into it a little today and encourage you to take some mindful moments to train your brain.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Are we ALL entitled to an opinion?Am I really worth L'Oreal's products?All these questions and more on this weeks exciting instalment!Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

An increase in distress around the anniversary of a traumatic event is often called an anniversary reaction. It can range from feeling mildly upset for a day or two to more extreme reactions where someone experiences significant psychiatric or even medical symptoms.The good news is that we know when it's coming!Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

When the oceans are filling with plastic, the cost of living is high and everyone seems to hate each other it's not easy to be the optimist and promote happiness.So what can we do?https://www.positive.newshttps://www.dailygood.org/https://www.good.is/https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/https://happynews.com/https://www.huffpost.com/impact/topic/good-newsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

"Comparison is the thief of joy" said Theodore Roosevelt over a hundred years ago.He knew it then and we all still know it now. But do we actually remember that when the time comes?Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

The dictionary defines "to forgive" as this: Verb. To stop feeling angry or resentful towards someone for an offence, flaw, or mistake. But language evolves. And maybe, to you, forgive and forget doesn't mean letting go of something so as to feel better. It means forgive the abuser and forget the victim. And it shouldn't. Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Hello listeners I have a special bonus episode for you today!I was recently contacted by TV legend Andrea Mclean. Andrea has been working in the media for years but recently made the decision to take her life in a different direction and  created an online community called This Girl Is On Fire all about personal growth.This week is the launch of an App that accompanies it and so I thought it would be nice to get her on the podcast to talk a little bit about it.I hope you find what we say useful!https://andreamclean.com/Submit a question to the Therapy Natters Show https://richardnicholls.net/question/Listen to Therapy Natters - https://therapynatters.buzzsprout.comSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsSupport the showSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Worrying about what people think is a common issue.Almost everyone comes into therapy with some aspect of this. It's worth drilling down on who we actually mean though, when we say to ourselves that we worry what "other people" think.Who are these anonymous other people?Submit a question to the Therapy Natters Show https://richardnicholls.net/question/Listen to Therapy Natters - https://therapynatters.buzzsprout.comSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Because of what's called neurodiversity everyone's brain responds differently to stimulation.Whether that's environmental or chemical stimulation.Today's episode is about thriving in a stimulating world when our brain is sensitive to it.Submit a question to the Therapy Natters Show https://richardnicholls.net/question/Listen to Therapy Natters - https://therapynatters.buzzsprout.comSubscribe to Richard's newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Following up on the recent Therapy Natters episode about self-esteem I thought I'd scratch the surface on taking things personally this week.Submit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/Social Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Today is all about losing concentration, procrastinating and the reason why to be at your best you need to rest makes so much sense.Submit a question to the Therapy Natters Show https://richardnicholls.net/question/Listen to Therapy Natters - https://therapynatters.buzzsprout.comSubscribe to Richard's newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Situational anxiety is different to a generalised anxiety and needs working with in a slightly more "cognitive" way.Today I talk about how to deal with some specific events that may be coming up in your life.Therapy Natters - https://therapynatters.buzzsprout.comSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Did you know that after experiencing a negative stimulus in order to get your emotional state back to where it was before hand you need at least 4 experiences of something positive to erase the effects of that one experience of something negative?Therapy Natters - https://therapynatters.buzzsprout.comSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

When it feels as if the world is falling apart, our instincts can kick in to try and protect us by creating an urge to control as much as we can.The thing is many of life's challenges are outside of our control anyway. Today we explore how to handle things when life feels out of control.Submit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.net Social Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Emotions can overwhelm is to such a degree sometimes that we feel completely out of control. Complete rage or total panic.How we handle those sorts of situations is going to be different for everyone, but maybe there are a few ways that you can learn about today.Submit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/Social Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Plato, the ancient Greek philosopher is quoted as once saying "Everything changes and nothing remains still. You cannot step twice into the same stream" I think he probably got the idea from Heraclitus who said “The only constant in life is change”So even 2 and a half thousand years ago we knew what we were up against. That change is normal and needs to be accepted.But that doesn't make it any easier when big things happen does it?Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Love it or hate it, it's beginning to look a lot like Christmas isn't it?Unfortunately for a lot of folk, the people we might be expected to spend time with are not always the people whose company we enjoy.Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Although we often use it to also mean envious, jealousy is the feeling of losing something to someone else. Particularly when it comes to partners or close friends.Today's episode is all about exploring what's really going on when we feel jealous.Lily O'Farrell on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/p/CRhFKL_IagM/Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

What does a hypno-psychotherapy conference, The Rocky Horror Show and football shirts all have in common?These are all areas where we can feel a sense of belonging.Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

If you're not at your best or you think you have room for improvement, then this episode is about helping you to figure out what's stopping you.Maybe it's down to expectations, your beliefs, your self esteem, maybe fear.Whatever it is look into it, figure it out, work out what makes you tick so that you can see what's holding you back. Social Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

A lot of people think of affirmations as the key to their success. Either because they're tapping in to some collective unconscious or simply inspiring their own unconscious.Today we'll explore that a little.Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Do emotions actually exist? Or are they just a psychological construct based on past experiences?Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

It's been a lonely 18 months for a lot of us. But even before Covid there were plenty of people saying that they were lonely and didn't have many opportunities to connect with people.Recent research suggests that as many as a third of us have literally nobody that we would class as a close friend.It would be nice to do something about that!Social Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

It's July!We're exactly half way through the year and how are your New Years resolutions going?I ask because enough time has gone by for any resolutions you might have made in January to have fallen by the wayside.Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

When living in a society that's full of body shaming the pressure to lose weight can encourage some very bad habits and ideas.Let's explore them.Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnichollsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

In 1974 Herbert Freudenberger came up with a term that he defined as “the extinction of motivation or incentive, especially where one's devotion to a cause or relationship fails to produce the desired results.”He called it "Burnout" and is a different sort of stress to what we might normally think of.Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Imagine a therapy that had no known side effects, was readily available, and could improve your cognitive functioning at zero cost. Such a therapy has been known to philosophers, writers, and lay people alike: interacting with nature.Nick RayInstagram https://www.instagram.com/nick_lifeafloat/Twitter https://twitter.com/LifeAfloatAstrid TontsonInstagram  https://www.instagram.com/12mm_view/Twitter https://twitter.com/Astrid_TontsonBecome a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

I've talked a lot in the past about the need to control thoughts using distractions and deliberate, forced thinking in order to create a more positive mindset. But I think it's crucial to recognise the importance of accepting our thoughts too. Humans tend to gravitate towards the things we fear and if we fear our own thoughts then a part of us deep inside might even feel the need to focus more on them. It's as if the more we think about something the more we understand it. And the more we understand it the more control we have over it. Which is probably true if it's a tiger in the jungle but not when the thing we fear is internal, our own anxiety for example.Worrying about what makes us anxious rarely gives us any extra understanding of it. So sometimes we do need to accept our thoughts, just with a better perspective.Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

People often frown upon daydreaming as being unproductive yet at the same time many others suggest that it improves creativity. Why the dichotomy?Let's have dive into daydreaming and see what we can find!Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

I'm sure you've heard the phrase "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" but I wonder if there needs to be a bit more to that. Well, that's what I want to talk about today.Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Michelle Thomas is an author and podcaster. She's written for The Guardian, The Independent, Stylist, Standard Issue the list goes on.And on top of that she also wrote a book inspired by her experiences of depression called My Shit Therapist: & Other Mental Health Stories.I'm sure you'll both enjoy and appreciate what she has to share with you.My Shit Therapist Book https://amzn.to/3pNqipXMy Shit Therapist Podcast https://audioboom.com/channels/5028096Michelle on Twitter https://twitter.com/michelletomosMichelle on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/msmthomasBecome a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Whatever your goals are it's fair to say that reaching them won't happen by accident or through luck.Luck might have a small part to play. But what are the chances that it's the only part when compared to the effects of the deliberate action that you take yourself?Deliberate action wins any day I'd say.So to do that there are some basic principles that you might need to follow so as to help you on your way and they don't involve starting tomorrow. They involve the present moment, right now. Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Matt Elswood is a Chief Pharmacist specialising in mental health pharmaceuticals at Nottinghamshire Healthcare Trust.As well as being an Associate Professor at the University of Nottingham he's also a really nice guy with a lot of interesting things to share with us.EnjoyBecome a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Many self help and personal development books (my own included) will talk about the importance of gratitude as a way of boosting happiness and wellbeing.Today we explore it in a little more detail.Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Seeing as it's Christmas Day I thought I'd share this with you.This is a story I wrote in 2015 but you maybe missed it the first time round.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

I wrote this story back in 2014 but as my listeners have doubled since then it's likely that you missed this the first time round. So I thought I'd republish it.I hope you enjoy it.Merry Christmas folks!Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

It's another bonus guest episode and this time it's the turn of stand up comedian and author Robin Ince.We talk about intrusive thoughts, stage fright and why we all need therapy. https://robinince.com/https://twitter.com/robinincehttps://www.instagram.com/robinince1969/Read his books.https://amzn.to/34pRtywSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Today's bonus episode is with neuroscientist, stand up comedian and author Dean Burnett.We chat about toxic positivity, emotional processing, addiction and many other things besides.Have a listen and you can find more about Dean on his website https://www.deanburnett.com or follow him on social media at:-Twitter https://twitter.com/garwboy Facebook https://www.facebook.com/DeanBurnettAuthor Instagram https://www.instagram.com/garwboy Read his booksThe Idiot Brain https://amzn.to/33YzKxXThe Happy Brain https://amzn.to/3gugzktWhy Your Parents Are Driving You Up the Wall and What To Do About It https://amzn.to/2LajTFNPsycho-logical https://amzn.to/3oG95xPBecome a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Everyone needs something different when they're going through mental health difficulties. But there are definitely a few Do's and Don'ts.Samaritans UK116 123www.samaritans.orgSane UK0300 304 7000www.sane.org.ukMind0300 123 339386463www.mind.org.ukShoutText: 85258www.giveusashout.orgFind A TherapistUKCPBACPCounselling DirectoryBecome a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Matt Rudd is a senior writer at the Sunday Times, he's a published author of both fiction and non fiction. His latest book Man Down: Why Men Are Unhappy and What We Can Do About It, is out now. I read it the day it came out and thought he had some great things to share with you and so I invited him onto the show for a chat.Man Down: https://amzn.to/347nLxbFollow Matt on Twitter: https://twitter.com/MattRuddSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

There can be many reasons why we get blocked from achieving our goals. Today I'm going to explore a few of them.Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Continuing the trend of a bonus episode in the middle of the month. This month I chatted with Professor Sophie Scott CBE.Sophie is a neuroscientist working at University College London. She's a Fellow of the Academy of Medical Sciences, has presented the Royal Institutions Christmas Lectures and has been on multiple TV and Radio programs over the years talking about the neuroscience of laughter.I hope you enjoy what she has to say.Sophie on YouTubeSophie's InstagramSophie on TwitterThe Neuromantics PodcastSophie's Christmas Lectures at The Royal InstitutionSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Avoiding conflict can influence the big things in life as well as the small things. It's why people split up over text rather than actually deal with a relationship problem face to face. And if you've ever had a huge sense of relief if you ring someone about a problem and their phone goes to voicemail, you'll know what I mean.Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYoutube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Recently I had the pleasure of chatting with the broadcaster and author Radha Modgil.As well as being a familiar face and voice on various BBC TV and radio shows Radha is also a practising GP with a very special interest in emotional wellbeing.https://drradha.co.uk/https://twitter.com/drradhamodgilhttps://www.instagram.com/dr_radhaBecome a patron of the podcast to get episodes every Monday!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netBuy my book on AmazonListen for FREE on Audible Social Media LinksTwitterInstagramFacebookYoutube Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

With some enthusiasm we can go from dragging our feet and saying how tired we are to suddenly being alert and awake. But whether it's about scripting a podcast episode or going for a run, it's really easy to say to ourselves "I don't feel like it" and if your energy levels have dropped it's definitely worth looking into why. Become a patron of the podcast to get episodes every Monday!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netBuy my book on AmazonListen for FREE on Audible Social Media LinksTwitterInstagram Facebook Youtube Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Whether it's because of tempting treats in your cupboard, the opportunity to play at online roulette or trying to push away thoughts that we don't like. Sometimes our brain works against us rather than for us and leads us down paths we were deliberately trying to avoid. Become a patron of the podcast to get episodes every Monday!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netBuy my book on AmazonListen for FREE on Audible Social Media LinksTwitterInstagram Facebook Youtube Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Today's episode is a bit of a deep dive into racism, in response to the recent Black Lives Matter movement that has been gaining greater traction throughout the world this month.Become a patron of the podcast to get episodes every Monday!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netBuy my book on AmazonListen for FREE on Audible Social Media LinksTwitterInstagram FacebookYoutube Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Part 4 of a 4 part series taken from May's live stream  that will run through June. All about our inner dialogue. Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebookYouTube https://youtube.com/richardnichollsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Part 3 of a 4 part series taken from May's live stream  that will run through June. All about our inner dialogue. Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebookYouTube https://youtube.com/richardnichollsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Part 2 of a 4 part series taken from May's live stream  that will run through June. All about our inner dialogue.Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYouTube https://youtube.com/richardnichollsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Part 1 of a 4 part series taken from May's live stream  that will run through June. All about our inner dialogue.Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYouTube https://youtube.com/richardnichollsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Why can seemingly intelligent people believe myths that have no evidence to support them? Put on your tin foil hat and let's find out shall we.Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYouTube https://youtube.com/richardnichollsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Confidence can be a tricky subject to talk about because its so big and ambiguous. What is confidence to one person is arrogance to someone else. Also, someone can be confident but still be anxious in certain situations, so it's even hard to define it really.Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYouTube https://youtube.com/richardnichollsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

I've had a lot of messages from listeners asking for mental health advice during all this Coronavirus craziness. It's on every website, every news channel. Every conversation you overhear in a shop. It's on everyones minds and so it should be...to a degree.Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYouTube https://youtube.com/richardnichollsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Question: When is an Eagle not an Eagle? Answer: When it thinks it's a Chicken.Despite being an Eagle, if you think you're a Chicken can you really fly above everyone?Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYouTube https://youtube.com/richardnichollsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm. Or as Albert Einstein once said "He who can no longer pause to wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead; his eyes are closed."Today is all about my 5 tips on a more enthusiastic life! That and a massive rant at the end about mental health priorities in government policy making, sorry!Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYouTube https://youtube.com/richardnichollsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Despite New Year being a time associated with making changes, today I want to talk about what seems at first like the opposite of change. Although it might still be a change, and might even be the best one you could ever make. Because there are surprising benefits that come from accepting yourself as you are, in making the decision to not changing and instead enjoying being you in the first place. Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYouTube https://youtube.com/richardnichollsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Today is all about having meaning and purpose to your life, something that crops up a lot in emails from listeners and definitely comes up in the therapy room. Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYouTube https://youtube.com/richardnichollsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Over the last couple of years I've had a few messages from listeners about their fear of an uncertain future, and it's cropped up in the consulting room quite a lot too. One thing that has been a big cause of it has been Brexit. Not knowing whether something about your future is going to be easier, more difficult, or exactly the same isn't helpful. We like routines, our brain loves the idea that tomorrow is going to be the same as yesterday. If we're alive today then yesterday must have been safe and so our instincts want tomorrow to be the same. And life just isn't like that. Become a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYouTube https://youtube.com/richardnichollsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

October 10th is World Mental Health Day, and this years focus is on suicide prevention. Suicide is twice as common as Homicide and is the second biggest cause of death in people under 30. In todays episode I hope to provide some insight into how to spot suicidal ideation in friends and family, and hopefully open up some conversations so as to prevent the worst happening.Samaritans UK 116 123 www.samaritans.orgSane UK 0300 304 7000 www.sane.org.ukMind 0300 123 3393 86463 www.mind.org.ukBecome a patron of the podcast!https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads.https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media LinksTwitter https://twitter.com/richardnichollsInstagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsrealFacebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorYouTube https://youtube.com/richardnichollsSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

One question that I get asked quite often is "What's the difference between a fear and a phobia?" In short, a fear of something is fairly rational, even if we might think that there's no need for us to fear it, the fear still makes some sense. If someone has a fear of public speaking that makes sense, although what there probably fearing is rejection from their peers but it still makes sense. Whereas a phobia...Become a patron of the podcast! https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Ever heard of The looking-glass self? The looking-glass self is a concept created by sociologist Charles Horton Cooley back in 1902. It states that rather than a person's sense of self growing out of their own internal perceptions it instead grows out of the interactions with and the perceptions of other people. In a nutshell it can be summed up with the following phrase “I am not what I think I am and I am not what you think I am; I am what I think that you think I am.”Become a patron of the podcast! https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Nudging and avoiding a nudge is quite important. If you've never heard that phrase outside of a Monty Python sketch you will do now. Because to nudge, in psychology, means to subtly influence someones behaviour, often without them being aware of it, by altering the environment slightly and is surprisingly successful. Become a patron of the podcast! https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Introversion has been on my mind a lot lately as I've had quite a few clients who are introverts but don't fully understand it and think that there's something wrong with them. So today I want to go into a bit of detail about introversion to help you understand yourself better if you are one, and help you to understand others better if you're not.Become a patron of the podcast! https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

This week is Mental Health Awareness Week and because of that I have an extra episode this month for you! I met up with Bobby Temps today of The Mental Podcast to talk about what we can all do to begin the process of destigmatising mental health. He's a great guy, have a listen.Bobby's Links Podcast https://www.mentalpodcast.co.uk/ Petition https://www.change.org/p/make-mental-health-education-mandatory-in-all-schoolsRichard's Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

I've been thinking about this topic for a long time and I've been a bit wary of talking about it because what I mean by "it's the thought that counts" is that it's our own thinking that counts towards whether an experience is a good one a bad one or simply just is. And with some really quite extreme situations too. But I don't want it to come across as if it's our own fault if we feel bad because something happened to us. It belittles someones experiences to say "Oh you're traumatised are you? Try thinking differently about it!" Because that's not quite how the brain works. Dr Shan Hussain - Enduring Health Podcast https://apple.co/2FRt2AhBecome a patron of the podcast! https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Regularly clients will tell me that they've had frightening bizarre thoughts, sometimes about hurting, or even killing, someone that they care about. Odd as it may seem this is something that everyone experiences, but it doesn't really get talked about for fear of other people thinking we're strange or even dangerous. So I want to put your mind at rest that if you have thoughts like this, you need to remember that they're just thoughts, they're not reality. Become a patron of the podcast! https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

If you Google the words "how to be more productive" you get 187 million results. Interestingly that's the same number of results as "how to learn Romanian." And although everyone learns in different ways we all know the answer to both of those questions. If you want to learn a new language, you need to read it, listen to it and absorb it until you understand it. And the key to that is simply to practise. And the answer to how to get more things done is simply to "do more things."But is everything really that easy? Can it be so black and white? Become a patron of the podcast! https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

It's often said that optimism isn't all it's cracked up to be. That expecting the best only leads to disappointment, and I can understand why but I think it's important to see the difference between expectations and goals.Become a patron of the podcast! https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

It's a new year! And for a hypnotherapist who specialises in helping people to make changes in their life people will often say to me things like "I bet you'll be busy at work in January then, all the New Years resolutions." Yet, it's nothing like February, when all those that have tried to make some changes are a month in and can feel themselves giving up and need help. Which raises questions doesn't it? Because if the changes you make are something you actually want, then why would we feel like giving up?Become a patron of the podcast! https://www.patreon.com/richardnichollsSubscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. https://www.richardnicholls.netSocial Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Have you ever met someone with a wooden leg? Not a real wooden leg, but a metaphorical one? In the 60’s, a psychiatrist called Eric Berne, turned some common problematic psychological processes into what he called “Games People Play” One of which he called the wooden leg game.Imagine a man with a wooden leg who has used it as an explanation for why his life is unfulfilled all of his life, he would often say “If it wasn’t for this wooden leg, I could have been an athlete.” Or when he complains that he’s unemployed he says “What do you expect from a guy with one leg?”The wooden leg game can hold us back from enjoying life and feeling fulfilled, and there are many things that can be your wooden leg. People will say...Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. https://www.motivateyourself.co.uk/newsletterSocial Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Depression is a huge topic. It’s a big problem in the 21st Century and to try and understand it by listening to a single podcast episode probably isn’t going to be enough. Even 4 years at medical school wouldn’t do that. But I hope that with today’s episode I can help you to gain a bit of extra insight into it and I encourage you to read up on it if it’s something that you feel you need to understand more about.Subscribe to the newsletter for free extra episodes and hypnosis downloads. https://www.motivateyourself.co.uk/newsletterSocial Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Imagine you're invited to a friend’s house for a party and you find yourself chatting to a total stranger. If they were to say to you "So, what do you do?" What's the first thing that pops into your mind? Go on, what do you do? Do you swim? do you play cricket? Do you party? Of course, we all know that what they really mean is "What do you do for a living?" It may well be simply small talk just to get a conversation going but what someone does for a living is the usually the first place people tend to go when learning about someone else. And I think it's worth questioning whether that’s appropriate, because there's more to us than our job.Nominate the podcast in the 13th Annual Podcast Awards https://www.podcastawards.comSocial Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Many people feel a need to be unique, to be different from everyone else but that shouldn’t be at the expense of our sense of belonging. If we’re missing belongingness in our life then we can often feel as if we’re insignificant, unimportant and may as well crawl under a rock to die. Sure, be different, your life is your own, and any self esteem boost you get from your uniqueness can be used to help you recognise that actually, we’re all different, we’re all unique.Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Is there something you want to achieve that you know is going to take a while? Maybe something that has many steps, such as getting fitter or writing a dissertation? If so then you need to be aware that doing anything that brings you closer to the end result is better than doing nothing at all. That might seem obvious, but it’s not uncommon for people to be really hard on ourselves for not putting in maximum effort.Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Despite their setbacks and failures some people seem to have the ability to brush things off and bounce back almost stronger than before, they seem to have a grit and determination not to let bad experiences affect them. Is this something than can be learned?Nominate the podcast in the 13th Annual Podcast Awards https://www.podcastawards.comSocial Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthorSupport the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

If we’ve hurt someone then I think it’s probably healthy to feel bad about it, to wish that we’d behaved differently and to want to make amends. But what isn’t healthy is continually beating yourself up over it or to think of yourself as a bad person because of what happened. Feeling bad because you hurt someone is guilt. But feeling as if you’re a bad person is shame, and they’re a bit different. Guilt you can do something with, you can learn from it. You can apologise, make amends and move on. But shame? There’s not really anywhere to go with that, and I think it’s important that we recognise that good people can do bad things, just like bad people can do good things.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Did you know that if you're physically tired then you will estimate hills as steeper than they actually are? And that a place in the distance is further away? But did you also know that it's not just our physical resources that influence our perception of the world?Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

There’s an annoying quirk to our psychology that means we can easily be drawn towards the exact thing that we’re trying to avoid, as the old saying goes 'be careful what you look for, because you just might find it.' Because the alternative means that you might have made yourself part of the problem, rather than the solution.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Making decisions can be hard, and not just with the big things in life.Sometimes even things that should be insignificant in the grand scheme of things can paralyse us. So how do we get around it?Todays episode is about just that. Getting a better perspective on these things and even the bigger ones too.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Although I’m not a relationship coach or a couple therapist a lot of clients will come to one to one therapy and discuss their relationships, with many of them saying things such as “I don’t know what a real relationship is supposed to feel like!”I think that in a society that looks at so many things in life as disposable it can be very hard to think of something in your life as permanent, and may even be a bit scary for a lot of people. Which is why so many clients say to me that they feel trapped when they’re in a relationship yet they feel lonely and insignificant when they’re not.Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

I was asked in an interview recently that if I had to choose one thing, what would I say is the most effective way of boosting happiness?In order to answer it I needed to think about all the concepts and exercises that I wrote about in my book to see if there was a common ingredient or theme. What I found is that pretty much everything I wrote about needed a foundation of appreciation, of gratitude in order for them to be of any help.So what do I mean exactly by gratitude? Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

Have a think about the following question for a moment.“Please imagine a ladder with steps numbered from zero at the bottom to 10 at the top. Suppose we say that the top of the ladder represents the best possible life for you, and the bottom of the ladder represents the worst possible life for you. On which step of the ladder would you say you personally feel you stand at this time, assuming that the higher the step the better you feel about your life, and the lower the step the worse you feel about it? Which step comes closest to the way you feel?”Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls

When someone says Be a man, what do you think of?Act tough?Don't cry?Or do you think manning up means to take responsibility for your emotions or accept mistakes and move on?Support the showSubmit a question https://richardnicholls.net/question/ Social Media Links Twitter https://twitter.com/richardnicholls Instagram https://www.instagram.com/richardnichollsreal Facebook https://www.facebook.com/RichardNichollsAuthor Youtube https://www.youtube.com/richardnicholls Mastadon https://mastodon.social/@richardnicholls