We all crave human connection, acceptance, and love but not all of us have learned how to relate to one another or even ourselves well. The Relational Intelligence Podcast (T.R.I.P.) is all about finding ways to develop happy, healthy, and fulfilling relationships, whether they be romantic, platonic, family, or work relationships. We'll have casual conversations about common relational obstacles and talk through ways that we can each individually do our part to present the best version of ourselves in our relationships. IG: @minjote
Ep. 44: Confidence
In this week's episode we review different ways our level of confidence in ourselves and our abilities has the potential to impact our experience in life. We discuss warning signs that indicate we're battling issues related to our confidence and strategies to slowly, but surely build it back up.
12/19/2023 • 40 minutes, 8 seconds
Ep. 43: A New Normal
In this week's episode we discuss how day to day changes can cause significant shifts in our perceptions of reality. As the way we see the world changes, so does the way we should move among the world. Join us as we discuss what it really means to find and create a new normal.
12/12/2023 • 30 minutes, 47 seconds
Ep. 42: Grief
In this week's episode we speak on the process of grief, how it presents itself across individuals, and how one could support someone experiencing grief. We dive into coping mechanisms such as denial, avoidance, dissociation, and more.
12/5/2023 • 39 minutes, 58 seconds
Ep. 41: Instant Gratification
In this week's episode we explore the concept of instant gratification versus delayed gratification, how it presents in our day-to-day lives, and how small choices influence major areas of our lives.
10/31/2023 • 28 minutes, 45 seconds
Ep. 40: I Dare You To Be You
In this week's episode we discuss some of the internal pressures we place on ourselves and how patterns of thinking tend to plague us more than we'd like to admit.
10/24/2023 • 30 minutes, 51 seconds
Ep. 39: The Aftermath of Conflict
Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but how often do we bring attention to the conflict within the conflict? In this week's episode we discuss the different factors that can worsen or alleviate conflict both during and after finding a resolve.
In this week's episode we discuss the early stages of the journey to becoming a spouse with two of my absolute favorite people. We speak on what the process has been, how they're grown, and how they knew they found "the one."
10/10/2023 • 34 minutes, 10 seconds
Ep. 37: What Freedom Means to Me
In this weeks conversation I speak on recent experiences that caused me to reflect on old ways of thinking that held me back from living a life of freedom. We all have access to living in freedom and it starts with are willingness to believe that it is for us.
10/3/2023 • 31 minutes, 2 seconds
Ep. 36: Compassion
9/26/2023 • 23 minutes, 52 seconds
Ep. 35: Perception vs. Reality
In this weeks conversation we speak on the differences between perception and reality, how perception becomes our reality, and how we must seek truth in our interpersonal relationships in order to shape our perceptions.
9/19/2023 • 29 minutes, 56 seconds
Ep. 34: Breakdowns In Communication
In this weeks episode we have a conversation about 3 key things that contribute to breakdowns in communication:1. A heightened emotional state2. Misinterpretations/Misunderstandings3. Communicating from a place of fear, insecurity, trauma, etc.
9/12/2023 • 30 minutes, 38 seconds
Ep. 33: Living In Lack
In this week's episode we discuss three reasons we may be living in a season of lack or at least think that we are.
9/5/2023 • 26 minutes, 22 seconds
Ep. 32: Code Switching
In this weeks conversation we discuss what code switching is, how we can use it as a tool that benefits our lives, and steps we can take use code switching to our benefit.
8/29/2023 • 27 minutes, 19 seconds
Ep. 31: Healthy Conflict
Join us for a conversation about why we should lean into conflict in healthy ways to deepen the connections in our lives.
8/22/2023 • 28 minutes, 18 seconds
Ep. 30: Navigating Stormy Seasons (w/ Francis Campos)
In this weeks episode we have a conversation with Francis Campos, a former student of mine, and unpack navigating through the uncertainties of life. She steps outside of her comfort zone to let us in on her process of developing a vision for her future, a stormy season that led her to attempt suicide, and a moment of clarity when she discovered just how much she valued the gift of life. Always remember, speaking on a platform like this can be debilitating. Each guest takes a risk by coming on this podcast and opening up about their personal experiences. Special shout out to all past and future guests. I truly appreciate you!
8/15/2023 • 34 minutes, 58 seconds
Ep. 29: I Have To Take Care Of Me
If you are one of those people that forgets to take care of themselves - whether that be because you're the strong friend, the caretaker, the protector, the safe space, etc. - it's time you start prioritizing YOU. Many of us struggle to put ourselves first. It feels selfish, unnatural, and simply... wrong. But the truth is, our greatest responsibility it to take care of ourselves. Join us for this week's conversation about how we can start taking better care of ourselves.
8/8/2023 • 31 minutes, 28 seconds
Ep. 28: Exploring What You Need (w/ Jamie Hickman)
Jamie Hickman, a licensed graduate counselor, joins us this week to help give some perspective on how we can better explore who we are and what we really need. She discusses various strategies such as brain dumps, milestone reflections, and much more that she carries in her therapy toolkit. I was fully prepared to change my life after this talk. Come get all these free gems!
8/1/2023 • 39 minutes, 11 seconds
Ep. 27: I Don't Like Me
In this week's episode we discuss the common phenomena of not liking oneself. Whether we want to admit it or not, many of us battle with an inner dialogue that rejects the individual we are. We discuss what this looks like, how it impacts our relationships, and the importance of building a new foundation.
7/25/2023 • 30 minutes, 27 seconds
Ep. 26: Family Ties (w/ Malorie Gibson)
In this week's conversation we're joined by Malorie Gibson, a mental health professional that has embarked on her own journey towards becoming the best version of herself. She's active worked on releasing the many weights from her past that have been slowing her down. We gain insight from her story to learn about ways our pasts may be dictating our futures, and how we can put that to an end. It's an ongoing process but it's never a bad time to start doing the work!
7/18/2023 • 41 minutes, 12 seconds
Ep. 25: Your Relationship With Your Body (w/ Joshua Day)
Joshua Day, a health and fitness enthusiast, joins us to speak on ways we can improve our relationships with our bodies and why it's so important for us to be mindful of how our physical health influences our emotional well-being. He is a strength and conditioning specialist, a massage therapist, and an amazing conversationalist. Tune in and collect all of his gems. Don't hesitate to follow him on IG - see below: Personal page: @dad_yosh Creator page: @yosh.wah
7/11/2023 • 32 minutes, 46 seconds
Ep. 24: Safe Spaces (w/ Adeola Ogunneye)
Adeola joins us for a conversation about safe spaces - what they are, why they're significant, and how we can be better equipped to play the role of a safe space for others.If you want your skin glowing and smelling immaculate, check out Adeola's body care brand, Arome: https://www.shoparome.com/
7/4/2023 • 33 minutes, 55 seconds
Ep. 23: How Badly Do You Want It?
In this week's episode we have a discussion about our innate wants vs. our true desires vs. our needs. We identify the differences between innate wants and true desires to help shape our lifestyle and relational decisions. We also take into consideration how our needs play a role in what sorts of things and people we should gravitate towards.
6/27/2023 • 31 minutes, 24 seconds
Ep. 22: How to Get to Know People (w/ Benedict Adjoyi)
In this week's episode we welcome a former student of mine, Benedict Adjoyi, as he steers us through a conversation on getting to know others. We discuss surface level versus intimate conversations, the significance of intent listening, and the difference between learning a person and learning things about a person.
During this week's episode we have a conversation about where we tend to fall short in relationships and how what we may consider normal can be harmful to those we're in relationship with. Join us as we unpack our own relational shortcomings and brainstorm ways to improve.
6/13/2023 • 36 minutes, 30 seconds
Ep. 20: Mental Health Hygiene
In our conversation this week we talk about mental health hygiene and why it's so important for us to carve out intentional time each day to focus on our psychological well-being.How to Practice Emotional First Aid TED Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F2hc2FLOdhIWhat Really Happens as You Start Exercising: https://youtu.be/KEhbYNmY3N4
6/6/2023 • 30 minutes, 36 seconds
Ep. 19: Why Do I Think Like This?
In this episode we reference the book What Happened to You by Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Bruce Perry as we dive into a conversation about the thought processes we've adopted and the significance of reflecting on them. From the moment we entered this world, we've been learning about it. Now it's time for us to sift through which thought processes have been benefitting our lives and which are weighing us down.
5/30/2023 • 30 minutes, 39 seconds
Ep 18: How To Pick The Right People
In this weeks episode we continue our conversation about community by discussing the process of picking the right people, what causes us to choose wrong, and how we can start making better interpersonal decisions.
5/23/2023 • 32 minutes, 26 seconds
Ep. 17: Building Community
In this weeks episode we speak to the concept of community by unpacking concerns related to hyper-independence, systemic issues, technological advances, and more. We are all in need of healthy community. Let's find the tools to help build and cultivate it.
5/16/2023 • 32 minutes, 29 seconds
Ep. 16: Learning How to Communicate (w/ Lauren Sanders)
On this weeks episode we welcome our very first guest to the show! One of my closest friends, Lauren Sanders, has joined us today to give some insight on her personal developments in the area of communication. None of us are perfect, and therefore we decided to have a conversation surrounding our progress with effective communication.
5/9/2023 • 39 minutes, 5 seconds
Ep 15: Powerful Questions
On today's episode we're having a conversation about what it means to ask powerful questions. I share 12 questions I find to be extremely powerful whether we ask them to ourselves or to our people. I hope they benefit you as much as they benefit me 😊What makes you feel at home?What have you always wanted to do but haven’t done yet? How do you prefer being supported?How do you best receive apologies?How do you like to be celebrated?What do you need in the midst of grief? What have you dreamed about lately?What is the most significant difference you see from where you were this time last year?What do you want to see change by this time next year?What’s your favorite thing about yourself?What do you battle with silently?What value does our relationship bring to your life?
5/2/2023 • 29 minutes, 40 seconds
Ep. 14: 10 Subtle Ways to Express Love
Showing your love is all about the little things you do consistently. In our conversation this week we discuss some very simple and subtle ways we can show our people that we love them and why they're meaningful.
4/25/2023 • 30 minutes, 14 seconds
Ep 13: Issues of Self Worth
If you find yourself struggling with not feeling like enough, not feeling valuable or worthy of much of anything then this episode may be helpful for you. In this episode we'll talk about where issues of self worth come from, what they may look like in our lives, and ways we can begin the healing process.Keep in mind the healing process takes time! Please do not set yourself up for failure thinking things will change overnight. You've got this!
4/18/2023 • 37 minutes, 4 seconds
Ep. 12: Trust
Trust is an important piece of the foundation of any healthy relationships. In this conversation we'll speak about what trust is, how we build trust, and ways to evaluate our own behaviors to ensure we're being what we want to see in our relationships.
4/11/2023 • 28 minutes, 54 seconds
Ep. 11: Accountability
This is a big topic because taking accountability and holding one another accountable can make or break relationships. In this episode we'll explore different things that make taking accountability difficult, things we need to remember when we're providing constructive feedback, and things that are important to consider when we're being held accountable.
4/4/2023 • 29 minutes
Ep. 10: Battling Negative Thoughts
I can guarantee you God is the only reason this became an episode because I would NEVER do this on my own. After being prompted to speak authentically about the current season I was in at the time of recording, God orchestrated a conversation about our internal battle with negative thoughts, navigating a season that seems to have no end, and finding ways to release pent-up emotions that are weighing us down. I pray this episode helps someone feel seen, connected, and encouraged. You're not alone.Shout out to the TRIP Tribeeee!!
3/28/2023 • 31 minutes, 22 seconds
Ep. 9: Identifying Shame & Finding Freedom
It didn't hit me until recently that shame has an interesting way of showing up in our lives. Even our attempts to avoid feeling a sense of shame causes us to fall into dysfunctional patterns of behavior. This conversation unpacks some manifestations of shame and ways that we can begin freeing ourselves from this mental bondage.
3/21/2023 • 31 minutes, 36 seconds
Ep. 8: The B Word (Part 2)
This is a continuation of our conversation from last week about the importance of boundaries and how to begin the process of setting them.
3/14/2023 • 32 minutes, 53 seconds
Ep. 7: The B Word
Yep, we're going to have a conversation about the B word... Boundaries! In this episode we'll speak to the significance of setting and respecting boundaries in preparation for next's episode that walks us through the process of doing so.
3/7/2023 • 31 minutes, 16 seconds
Ep. 6: What Love Is, What Love Isn't, & Love Languages
Let's talk about love babyyyyy! I'm a firm believer that God is love. In this context and conversation we're going to speak on the practicality of love in our interpersonal relationships. My hope is that we leave here feeling a little more confident about our ability to show love to our people and frame our personal perceptions of love.The 5 Love Languages Quiz: https://5lovelanguages.com/
2/28/2023 • 31 minutes, 18 seconds
Ep. 5: We're On The Same Team
What does it take to be a good partner? Relationships are hard and it's because we're bringing two completely different people together and somehow attempting to move in unison towards something. When problems hit and arguments begin we have to remind ourselves that we're on the same team. That's easier said than done but maybe it'll help to have a discussion about partnership and what we should focus on bringing to the table.
2/21/2023 • 29 minutes, 9 seconds
Ep. 4: Becoming A Whole Person
Are relationships meant to be 50/50 or 100/100? This episode showcases a discussion on what it means to become a whole person by evaluating different areas of your life and becoming the master of you. If we want to have happy, healthy, and fulfilling relationships, we're going to need to be willing to do some work. Let's get it!Skin Moisturizing Brand: Aromewww.shoparome.comYuka Food & Cosmetic Scanner App: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/yuka-food-cosmetic-scanner/id1092799236
2/14/2023 • 29 minutes, 9 seconds
Ep. 3: What Are You Looking For?
So many people skip the step of determining what they're looking for in a person and in a relationship BEFORE they get involved with someone. We're going to ask ourselves three important questions that can save us from ending up in the wrong relationship or with the wrong person. Let's take this rideeeeeIG: @minjote
2/7/2023 • 34 minutes, 25 seconds
Ep. 2: Understanding Emotions
For whatever reason emotional intelligence isn't taught in school. I'm not sure whose idea that was but I don't like it so let's unpack a little bit today. Let's take this rideeeeeIG: @minjote
1/31/2023 • 29 minutes, 35 seconds
Welcome to T.R.I.P.
Welcome to The Relational Intelligence Podcast! I'm so excited about this journey! It's only right that I introduce myself and let you know what T.R.I.P. is all about. Let's take this rideeeeIG: @minjote