Counselors Tim Tedder and Sharon Tedder talk about gaslighting. What is it? How does it show up during infidelity? During affair recovery? What should you do if someone is gaslighting you? * Episode Resouces: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcast503.html

Counselors Tim Tedder and Jenn Gingras discuss unique issues to consider when dealing with someone who has had multiple affairs. Is there hope for recovery? What difference does it make to the betrayed partner? What does it mean to the involved partner? * Episode Resouces: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcast502.html

Tim Tedder talks about what influences the choices and changes we make, with particular focus on decisions made in the aftermath of an affair. In the introduction, Tim and Sharon discuss life shifts resulting from COVID-19. * Episode notes and resources available at https://AffairHealing.com/podcast501

Counselors Tim Tedder and Sharon Tedder interview a neuroscientist to learn more about the limerence experience. What's going on in the brain of someone who is caught up in the powerful emotions often experienced in an affair (a condition sometimes called "Affair Fog")? * Episode notes and resources available at https://AffairHealing.com/podcast408 * See also https://livingwithlimerence.com

Three counselors discuss affair choices as they result in compromises (crossing the line into infidelity), indecision, and recovery. * Episode notes and resources available at AffairHealing.com/podcast407

Three counselors discuss affair responses related to anger, children, and forgiveness as they review their earlier conversations about these topics. * Episode notes and resources available at AffairHealing.com/podcast406

Three counselors respond to a callers question about the veracity of her husband's claims that he doesn't remember any of the details about his recent affair. * Episode notes and resources available at AffairHealing.com/podcast405

Tim Tedder and others discuss the various issues related to why someone has an affair in order to gain insight into the past and define changes necessary for rebuilding trust. The entire "Understanding Why" course is available at AffairHealing.com. * Episode notes and resources available at AffairHealing.com/podcast404

Counselor Tim Tedder respond to the question: "Is it normal to have sex struggles in your marriage after an affair?" * Episode notes and resources available at AffairHealing.com/podcast403

Three counselors respond to the question: "What can I do to help my husband heal after my affair? He's stuck." * Episode notes and resources available at AffairHealing.com/podcast402

Tim Tedder interviews Debi Silber to find out more about the five stages of Post Betrayal Transformation. Debi is the founder of PBT Institute (pbtinstitute.com), focussed on helping women move from betrayal to breakthrough. * Episode notes and resources available at AffairHealing.com/podcast401

Counselors Tim Tedder & Sharon Tedder address the trauma of betrayal in two podcasts. In Part 2, they focus on "Recovering From Trauma." This episode includes a consideration of the unique challenges of betrayal trauma, therapeutic approaches that help in recovery, and 3 thought exercises. * Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast306 * Music used in this podcast: "Ever Mindful" and "Sunshine" by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)licensed under Creative Commons: by Attribution 3.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0

Counselors Tim Tedder & Sharon Tedder address the trauma of betrayal in two podcasts. In Part 1, they focus on "Understanding Trauma" especially as it is experienced by those who have been injured by a partner's affair. * Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast305 * Music used in this podcast: "Low Horizon" by Kai Engel and "Movie Rhythm 1" by Sunsearcher, both under license from Creative Commons Music - http://ccmusic.org

Tim Tedder, Sharon Tedder and Jennifer Gingras answer callers' questions regarding healing from infidelity: What can I do to help my husband who is struggling since finding out about my affair? My wife's affair revealed new things about her. How do I love her when I'm not sure I understand her anymore? How do my husband and I support each other while we're both so wounded from his affair? My wife and I are having trouble reconnecting sexually since her affair; what can I do? I am working to heal our marriage after our affair, but what can I do if my husband is stuck in anger? Once we got to a stable place after my wife's emotional affair, she seems less willing to address the infidelity. What should I do? * Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast304

Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras, affair recovery counselors, discuss Esther Perel's book, The State of Affairs. In part 2, they talk about whether or not to tell about an affair and what issues need to be explored by couples who want to grow on the other side of infidelity. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast303

Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras, affair recovery counselors, discuss Esther Perel's book, The State of Affairs. In part 1, they talk about understanding the meaning behind an affair and the role of each partner in the recovery process. * Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast302

In this first episode of a new season, counselors Tim Tedder and Sharon Tedder give their responses to four questions asked by callers: (1) What should I do to save my marriage when my husband seems minimally involved in the healing from his affair? (2) How do I deal with my husband's lack of details about his affair? (3) How can I know if I've truly forgiven my spouse? (4) How should I feel about getting angry when something triggers the pain of his affair? * Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast301

Counselors Tim Tedder and Sharon Tedder discuss various issues to consider when healing from an affair means leaving the marriage as they consider the choices of both the injured partner and involved partner. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast214

Counselor Tim Tedder considers the line between fidelity and infidelity and examines two affair stories to gain insight into when and how the lines are crossed. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast213

Counselors Tim and Sharon Tedder talk about common affair recovery myths including: affairs are evidence of a bad marriage; the first step in affair recovery should be marriage counseling; hiding painful information is better than causing more hurt; forgiveness requires trusting; an affair is too personal to talk about; the betrayed spouse will feel relieved once they get an answer to WHY the affair happened. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast212

Counselors Tim Tedder, Sharon Tedder, and Jennifer Gingras talk about affair healing issues of worthiness, shame, and grace in their discussion of the book Loveable by Kelly Flanagan. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast211

Three counselors, Tim Tedder, Sharon Tedder, and Jennifer Gingras, discuss eight truths about affair recovery that betrayed partners wish their partners understood. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast210

Affair recovery counselor Tim Tedder explains the steps necessary for couples who, after an affair, want to experience intimacy and trust in their marriage again. He interviews Ryan and Jen who talk about their satisfying marriage seven years after Ryan confessed having multiple affairs. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast209

Continuing in the Relationship Renewal strategy for couples building a new marriage after infidelity, Tim Tedder explains the fourth stage of Cooperation in which couples form a cooperating partnership to work toward agreed goals. (Relationship Renewal Stage. For earlier stages of Exposure, Reaction, and Clarity, listen to podcasts #118 and #120.) Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast207

Counseling is often an important part of affair recovery, but not every counseling choice or experience is a good one. Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras, counselors who specialize in affair recovery issues, discuss eight important issues to consider when seeking therapy after infidelity. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast205

After an affair, betrayed spouses often find themselves wanting to ask countless questions about the affair while the unfaithful spouse responds with resistance or anger. Counselors Tim and Sharon Tedder talk about each partner's role in affair recovery when it comes to questions and answers, offering specific strategies for couples to help them through this period of healing. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast204

Counselors Tim Tedder and SharonTedder discuss the potential benefits of prescription medication in helping in the affair healing process and consider reasons some people are hesitant to consider using them. This episode includes comments from listeners who share their experience with taking meds. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast203

Counselors Tim Tedder and Jennifer Gingras talk about forgiveness following an affair. What is forgiveness? What is it not? What gets in the way of forgiving infidelity? What are steps to help you move toward forgiving an unfaithful partner? Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast202 [This episode also includes comments from listeners and a reading from The Hiding Place written by Corrie ten Boom. The following songs, available at ccMixter.org, were used in this recording: “ Virtutes Instrumenti” and "Reaching" by Kevin MacLeod, used with permission under Creative Commons License]

Discussion of a recent survey asking people who'd experienced an affair in their marriage to describe the past year and their hope for the next. Counselors Tim Tedder, Sharon Tedder, and Jennifer Gingras give their perspective and talk about how they moved toward hope. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast201

Counselors Tim Tedder, Sharon Tedder, and Jennifer Gingras discuss the difficulties often experienced when trying to navigate holiday celebrations while recovering from the trauma of an affair. They also share advice from members of our Community forum. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast123 [Music used in intro: Josh Woodward, "Under the Stairs" (instrumental), ccmusic.co, used with permission under the Creative Commons license, creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0]

Tim Tedder interviews Linda MacDonald, author of the book, How To Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair. They discuss affair counseling and her advice for both partners after an affair. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast122 [The following song, available at ccMixter.org, was used in this recording: “Intuition” by Quarkstar (c)copyright 2016]

Counselors Tim & Sharon Tedder answer a caller's question about how his wife describes her feelings for the affair partner, and recommend a recovery resource for betrayed spouses. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast121

Originally written under the pseudonym of Mark, Tim Tedder wrote a detailed account of his affair experience. It became the most popular resource on AffairHealing.com. This story, now presented in audio format, includes these chapters: Unexpected Unfaithfulness (2:00), A Vulnerable Marriage (3:27), The Right Conditions (4:55), The Other Woman (7:26), Crossing the Line (10:26), Sex (13:15), Taking Risks (16:23), Lies (17:55), Getting Caught (19:41), Telling My Wife (23:00), No Contact Rule (25:48), The Wife’s Pain (27:40), Back To the Other Woman (28:51), Pulled In Two Directions (32:09), My Children My Brokenness (36:19), Children: Unintended Victims (39:47), Authenticity and Grace (42:19). Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast114 [Songs included in this program were used with permission and are available from ccMixter.org: “Marcos Theme” by Loveshadow; “Abandonware” by Javolenus featuring audiotechnica; and “Improvisation On Friday” by Alex Beroza]

Counselor Tim Tedder interviews Robin, whose husband announced one day that he wanted a divorce. As she tells her story, we discuss finding out about an affair, Trickle Truth, snooping, forgiving, trusting, and change. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast112

Counselors Tim & Sharon Tedder discuss whether an affair reveals a deep brokenness or a temporary crack and recommend an online resource for growth and recovery. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast111

Counselor Tim Tedder discusses the evidences to look for in determining whether healthy recovery is happening in a marriage after an affair and talks to a betrayed husband about his part in their marriage healing. [Note: This is a combined re-recording of two earlier podcasts due to the high level of microphone static present in the original recordings.] Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast110

Counselors Tim & Sharon Tedder discuss one betrayed spouse's desire for her husband to send a final message to the affair partner nine months after the affair ended and consider the pros and cons of doing so. They also recommend a good book on boundaries along with talking about powdered donuts and Sharon's favorite restaurant. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast109

A conversation between husband-and-wife counselors Tim & Sharon Tedder as they discuss a recent forum post about the euphoric feelings in an affair and recommend a good book to read. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast108

A unique conversation between a father and his children in which they about their experience of being in a family torn apart by his affair. A frank discussion about pain, consequences, healing, and forgiveness. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast107

Tim Tedder interviews Tim & Lori about their current journey of recovery from Lori's affair. Each shares a unique perspective of marriage on the other side of infidelity. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast105

Tim Tedder discusses the pattern of indecision often experienced by a partner who has been unfaithful, swinging back and forth between choosing their spouse or the affair partner. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast104

Tim Tedder, counselor and founder of AffairHealing.com, talks about ways destructive anger can be changed to lead toward healing and connection instead. Episode Info & Resources at: AffairHealing.com/podcast103