The Season 4 Finale is here! Welcome to Episode 9 of Season 4 of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide. Seasons change as do situations. Life is a mixed bag of peaks and valleys. The thing about life is that it isn’t fair and doesn’t care about what you’re going through or whatever relationship issues you may be having when it decides that it isn’t going to be fair. In this episode, life moves in the direction of the real where being grown will truly be tested.This episode is dedicated to the memory of Jobe Leon Payne, my father. To learn more about his groundbreaking work in the medical and healthcare education and donate to the foundation named in his honor that will continue to advance his legacy of scholarship and servant leadership, please visit: jobepaynefoundation.orgIG: @datingafterdivorcesurvival & @ericlpayneGood things are in store. Stay in touch and visit the official website datingafterdivorce.guide to sign up for updates. -------------Thank you, for listening! If this is your first time:The best place to begin here is all the way that the beginning, Season One, Episode One. That way you won't feel the way I do when I get to a party a little late and everyone there is acting like they're best friends.Please subscribe and recommend this podcast to two people (2) who you think will enjoy it. Did I mention subscribing? Subscribe and never miss an episode. If you listen on Spotify, just hit the “Follow” button. Please, follow the Dating After Divorce music playlist to follow all the tunes that influenced my life while I was going through it: https://epayne.me/playlistRead my article, Dating In My Forties, over at Medium for free as a Friend of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide. Read the article here. You can read all my articles on Medium at: medium.com/@ericpayne

The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide is a serial podcast that thoughtfully and often hilariously narrates the journey of retired fatherhood blogger Eric Payne as he navigates the challenges of "starting over" after divorce.From one-night stands to ghosting to online dating, to mental anguish and heartbreak to the self-care that is required of a 40+, divorced Black man and father in America, Eric tackles it all with fearless transparency, vulnerability, and a refreshing sense of humor — especially when it comes to making fun of himself. The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide is available on your favorite podcast platform. Subscribe today!

2020 is officially behind us now (GTFOH). Although currently, the only difference between 2020 and 2021 is one day, that is in fact the gift. You have TODAY. Then tomorrow you will have TODAY. And so on. Decide today to BE different, to BE better, to LIVE a purpose-filled life, and to do so on your terms, which means not in accordance with what social media or anyone else says. Despite what your 2020 may or may not have been, MAKE the effort TODAY to be better and greater than you were yesterday. By doing this you will be like a stone thrown into a lake creating a ripple effect for good in the lives of everyone around you. In this bonus episode, I look back on a transformative year then turn the page, leaping forward with tools and tips to transform yourself moving forward, in love and life. This episode covers:Acting out of your pain.Assessing where you are, emotionally.Choices that make a difference in YOUR life.Happy New Year. Be great. Be safe. Stay safe.E————————————Links You'll Like My farewell to 2020: https://www.instagram.com/p/CJbTWYfB4_H/You are Beautiful, Inside & Out and You are NOT Your Past and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise: https://epayne.me/podmerchSign up for episode recaps from me, dating Q&As, access to exclusive merch, and more: http://patreon.com/ericpayneGet control of YOUR time. It’s your most precious asset: https://epayne.me/self-care————————————I have a favor to ask...If you like what you're hearing, please recommend this podcast to two people (2) who you think will enjoy it. Did I mention subscribing? Please do so you won't miss an episode. If you listen on Spotify, just hit the “Follow” button. And if you listen on Apple Podcasts and have a few extra moments, please, leave me a 5-star review. Why 5? The podcasts with the highest and largest amounts of reviews are showcased by Apple. This will give me the chance to share my content with people who will benefit from it.About The Dating After Divorce Survival GuideDatin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly, and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy.

Pimpin' ain't easy and neither is podcasting! It's been exactly one year and 37 episodes since I dropped the first trailer for The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide, and what a ride it has been!Listen in for a very special Happy Birthday bonus episode where I go behind the scenes of the podcast to share how it's produced, the music that drives it, and of course, talk about relationship stuff.Featuring music by Epik The Dawn.Thank you for listening! Please subscribe and share with a couple of your good friends.Now available on Vurbl at https://vurbl.com/station/7u0IdgUP3oW/About the PodcastDatin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger and divorced dad, Eric Payne, me, for the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide, arguably the best relationship podcast on the Internet, rated 5-Stars on Apple Podcasts a Black Podcasting Awards 2020 nominee for Best Relationship Podcast. I take you along for the ride over the hills and through the valleys of navigating dating life as a divorced man and living life brand new in my forties. I don't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly, and the messy, and I'm not afraid to call myself out when I'm the one being messy.For behind-the-scenes content, follow me on Instagram: @ericlpayneFor exclusive content subscribe to my Patreon page: http://patreon.com/ericpayne

It's when things are most challenging that we begin to wonder why we are here or for that matter, do we matter? In today's Monday Motivation I share (for a limited time only) a guided meditation that I originally created based on affirmations I used to tell myself when I was going through the worst of times — divorce, unemployment, loneliness, my father's illness, to name a few. It's especially applicable now in the Time of Coronavirus.Today's episode features You Are Worthy: A Guided Meditation for the Divorced, The Downtrodden and Those Who Are Down on Their Luck. Given our current collective experiences, nationally and globally, this meditation is for all as we cope with the COVID19 pandemic. I hope and pray that this 10 minute exercise will be a help to you or something you can pass along to someone in need.Additionally, download your Free 60 Minutes of Self-Care worksheet pack, please visit http://epayne.me/self-care It makes a great companion to today's meditation.-----------------------------Check out podcast merch at: https://epayne.me/podmerchTo learn more about the show visit https://datingafterdivorce.guide and follow me on Instagram @ericlpayne to see what I'm up to behind the scenes.Have a question for me? Click here and ask away or email me at info[at]datingafterdivorce[dot]guide. I may feature it as a topic in a future episode.

CORRECTION: The link mentioned at the end of the episode is incorrect see the corrected link below (before the dotted line).Today's Monday Motivation comes on a Tuesday. In this episode, I'm talking about creating quality time for ourselves now that we are in the Time of Coronavirus.Depending on where you are in the world, you may be days or weeks into self-isolating and quarantine due to the COVID-19 outbreak. Work-life and school life have moved home, you have more time on your hands than you did a month ago, and you're now sharing space with people who before now, you mostly saw only in the evenings and on the weekends. You're doing the dang thing keeping it together for all parties involved. I sincerely applaud you. But what are you doing for yourself beyond catching up on Netflix? Are you creating a structured time to help YOU get through this and be a better parent, spouse, helpmate, partner, and person in the process? Are you using the time productively? Are you exercising your mind as well as your body?In this video, I mention dedicating 90 minutes to self-care, but I realize this may sound like A LOT if you've never tried something like this before. Let's cut it down to 60 minutes and while you're at it you can download my Free 60 Minutes of Self-Care worksheets to help you get started. You can get them at https://epayne.me/self-care . We're all in this together. Let's come out of this better than we entered into it.-----------------------------Check out podcast merch at: https://epayne.me/podmerchTo learn more about the show visit https://datingafterdivorce.guideHave a question for me? Click here and ask away or email me at info[at]datingafterdivorce[dot]guide. I may feature it as a topic in a future episode.

"Never Settle" is Eric’s personal mantra and he shares why now especially, during the Time of Coronavirus (COVID-19) and #ClubQuarantine it’s more important than ever to never settle in the following areas:in life in workin loveIf it turns out you have been settling, Eric offers suggestions on how to change things up — for the better.Domestic Violence Hotline Help (US only):1-800-799-7233Text LOVEIS to 22533Chat at thehotline.org---------------------Check out podcast merch at: https://epayne.me/podmerchTo learn more about the show visit https://datingafterdivorce.guideHave a question for me? Click here and ask away or email me at info[at]datingafterdivorce[dot]guide. I may feature it as a topic in a future episode.

So here we are in the midst of a pandemic that has been months in the making, but took only a week's worth of media and peer pressure to turn life upside down here in the U.S. If you're home like I am take a listen and get your week started off right with some insights and tips on how to beat the COVID-19 aka Coronavirus Blues.Something I didn't mention in this episode: stay informed, but stay away from media, especially social media, that insights fear and panic. Wait until the end for the big reveal.If you like the show, please share it with a couple people who you think might like it too. 🙏🏾---------------------My Robinhood signup link. Sign up today and get free stock while you're at it: https://join.robinhood.com/ericp3704Check out podcast merch at: https://epayne.me/podmerchTo learn more about the show visit https://datingafterdivorce.guideHave a question for me? Click here and ask away or email me at info[at]datingafterdivorce[dot]guide. I may feature it as a topic in a future episode.

Welcome to Motivational Mondays 3.09.2020: Time does heal all wounds. This is probably the last thing you want to hear when you're at the start or in the middle of a thing that is challenging you, but if you ever want to get to finish it, or avoid repeating it, time is what you will have to trust in order to finish your race. Listen, subscribe and learn how I learned to trust time to accomplish and overcome.If you like what you're hearing please recommend this podcast to one person who you think will benefit from this message. Did I mention subscribing? Make sure you do so you don't miss the start of Season 2 of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide._____________________Get your very own "I Am NOT My Past" t-shirt at http://epayne.me/notmypastshirtTo learn more visit The Dating After Divorce Survival GuideTo look at my pictures and see me do Instagram stuff, follow me on Instagram: @ericlpayneHave a question for me? Click here and ask away! I may feature it as a topic in a future episode.

Here is your Monday Motivation, because it's Monday, somewhere. Welcome to a new segment, not to be confused with the new season of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide. This week let's take a look at telling the truth. Telling the truth, no matter what the situation, can often be a scary thing when your truth is not in agreement with what someone else wants. But why? Why do we keep our truths from others — others who need to hear it — especially when they stand to lose in the long run from a lie, a half-truth or an omission. This week I share a recent experience of my own when I opted to tell the truth and what I learned.If you like what you're hearing please recommend this podcast to one person who you think will benefit from this message. Did I mention subscribing? Make sure you do so you don't miss the start of Season 2 of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide.