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This episode is Part 3 of the series on the new BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop.Part 1: Brand New Meditations for Victims of Betrayal & AbusePart 2: Find Peace & Calm With Our New BTR.ORG MeditationsPart 3: New Meditations: Are You Ready to Start Healing? (this episode) BTR.ORG Meditations: A Healing Modality for All Sammy, like many members of the BTR.ORG community, is a woman of faith. She shares: "I have typically shied away from meditation because I'm coming from a Christian base and I was afraid of new age-type meditations that I had only briefly heard about. So I kept scripture reading, prayer, and just my own meditation in communing with God, so to speak." Sammy, Member of the BTR.ORG Community All Belief Paradigms Are Welcome & Respected at BTR.ORG Sammy decided to try The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop despite her reservations - and found immense healing and peace. Regardless of your ideology, please know that BTR.ORG resources, included the new Meditation Workshop, are designed with all belief paradigms in mind. BTR.ORG Is Here For You Listen to Sammy's experiences with the new BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop for more, and consider enrolling today. Full Transcript: Anne (00:01):Welcome to BTR.ORG. This is Anne. The last two episodes have been members of our community who are sharing their experience with The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop.I wrote, recorded, and edited it specifically for women in this situation. It includes 13 meditations and they are all really amazing. They cover different topics, even though the beginning of all of the meditations is similar, it uses different words and has a different topic, and then it has a topic specific visualization about halfway through, and women are finding it to be really, really helpful. So I've invited Sammy, another member of our community to share her experience with the meditations today. Before you even listened to it one time, what were your expectations before and then the first time you listened to it, what was your experience? Being open to new healing modalities Sammy (02:21):My experience with meditation, I have typically shied away from it because I'm coming from a Christian base and I was afraid of, I don't know, new age for lack of a better definition type meditations that I had only briefly heard about, so I kept scripture reading, prayer, and just my own meditation in communing with God, so to speak. But I thought, well, no, I'm really open to this. I'll see what I think. Anne (02:52):Just out of curiosity, what made you open to it in the first place? Just that you trusted BTR or - Sammy (02:58):Oh, yes, yes. It was going to be safe and fine, and I always know that, say I started it and it was too triggering, for lack of a better word for me, I can just stop it, knowing that it was coming from a safe source. Using the Workbook with the Meditations Anne (03:14):Before you tried it, did you print out the workbook? Sammy (03:17):Yes, the whole deal. Anne (03:19):How did you feel about like, wait, this is a meditation. I didn't know it was a workbook. Or did it just seem like normal to you? Sammy (03:26):A little of both. I hadn't imagined meditations where you would stop and kind of journal at the same time. I thought I'm going to go with what they say to do and see where it leads. Anne (03:37):So you were just like, I'm all in. I'm just going to go for it. Alright, so this is an experiment for you. Talk about that first time you went through it. What did you think? "I wanted to get started right away." Sammy (03:46):It was in the middle of a day, which is unlike me. I normally would save this for either first thing in the morning or in a little less likely, but evening or bedtime. But I wanted to get started right away and I knew I had a limited amount of time, so I think it the BTR Group Sessions. It's been a lifesaver, and I went into a room where I kind of have a home alta...

This episode is Part 3 of The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop Series. Part 1: Brand New Meditations for Victims of Betrayal & AbusePart 2: Find Peace & Calm With Our New BTR Meditations (this episode)Part 3: New Meditations: Are You Ready to Start Healing? If you, like many victims of betrayal and abuse, are desperate for stillness and peace, there is a new resource available to you. Lily, a member of the BTR.ORG community, found peace in the tumult of trauma by utilizing the new BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop. Tune in and read the full transcript below for more. Chaos on the Outside, Peace on the Inside "With the chaos on the outside, I was able to find some peace and calm on the inside. And the meditations made that possible." Lily, Member of the BTR.ORG Community We understand how exhausting it is to face the trauma of betrayal and abuse. You deserve peace - and some victims find it in the stillness of trauma-informed meditation. Anne Blythe, founder of BTR.ORG, developed The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop to offer you peace and healing regardless of what your circumstances may be. BTR.ORG Is Here For You Enroll in The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop today - and experience the peace and calm that you have always deserved. Full Transcript: Anne (00:01):Welcome to BTR.ORG. This is Anne. Last week I interviewed Pat about her experience with the meditations that I've written. This week, I'm interviewing another member of our community, I'm gonna call her Lily. So she enrolled in The BTR.ORG Living Free Workshop and then she enrolled in The Meditation Workshop and she's gonna share her experience. Talk to me about how you felt progressively as you did the meditation the first time, the second time, the third time. Do you think that it benefited you to do the same meditation three times? "I was able to find some peace and calm on the inside" Lily (02:03):Yes. I do believe it was beneficial to do it more than once. When I was listening to it, I was also going through a rough week in my divorce process. I found it very grounding to review and do the visualization and then actually to have the same visualization. So while I was going through all the turmoil on the outside, in my circumstances, the meditation and the visualization and the process being the same actually provided some grounding for me to be able to kind of stay steady through it. With the chaos on the outside, I was able to find some peace and calm on the inside. And the meditations made that possible. "I was surprised at just how grounded I felt" I was surprised at just how grounded I felt when I came into this process. And I didn't know that I could get away because my situation is difficult. My husband, he, he went after my son when I got away. He's very destructive. This meditation, it helped me go, okay, no, I deserve this. I can do this, I can get through this. Anne (03:05):It helps you feel more calm? Lily (03:08):Yeah. 'cause my son has an anxiety disorder at this point, and so he feeds off of my anxiety. So what happened was when I was able to be calmer, I felt more grounded. He's less anxious. So that was really helpful. "I'm able to be far more present and more attentive" Anne (03:22):Did you find that after the meditations you were acting any different or thinking any different in ways that were like new to you that you didn't have to work to do or think about doing? That just came naturally? Lily (03:35):Yes, I'm able to be far more present and more attentive to my son and stay in the moment. After the meditation, my thoughts were a lot calmer. The rumination was much less. And as I did the meditation more than once, the ruminating got less and less. So it was a cumulative benefit of repeating the meditation. Using The Meditation Workbook Anne (04:01):A lot of women when they know there's a workbook, it's like, what? That's not meditation.

This episode is Part 1 of The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop series.Part 1: Brand New Meditations For Victims of Abuse & Betrayal (this episode)Part 2: Find Peace & Calm With Our New BTR MeditationsPart 3: New Meditations: Are You Ready to Start Healing? If you've experienced abuse and betrayal, you know chaos and despair. You also know deep yearning for peace and healing - and that's why Anne Blythe, Founder of BTR.ORG created The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop. Pat, a member of the BTR.ORG community, shares her insights after taking this workshop - tune in and read the full transcript below for more. Empowerment. Release. Safety. Pat uses powerful words to describe her experiences with The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop. She was able to process her own trauma in new ways - while also developing a determination to teach her children how to identify and establish safety for themselves. BTR.ORG Is Here For You As you work toward safety and healing, know that we are here for you. Navigating betrayal trauma and emotional abuse is extremely difficult - even more so without a supportive community. BTR.ORG exists to support you on your healing journey. Enroll in The BTR.ORG Meditation Workshop today and begin to feel the peace and empowerment that you deserve. Full Transcript: Welcome to BTR.ORG. This is Anne. So over the years, I found that for me, meditation was the most healing activity that I could do. I found meditations on YouTube and other places, and I would meditate. In my head, I'd always have to change it up a little bit for my own specific situation because they've been so healing to me. I decided to write meditations for you, for us women in our situation. (01:58):So the meditations that I wrote and recorded and edited, they are for women who are currently experiencing or who have experienced emotional or psychological abuse. Whether you're married or divorced or separated, they're for you and I'm so excited to get these into your hands so that you can start using them to heal. If the meditations sound like something that you want to try for your healing, enroll in The Meditation Workshop. I've invited a member of our community, I'm going to call her Pat, and she has been through the meditations and she's going to share her experience. So Pat, what was your favorite thing about the meditations? Processing Safety Through Meditations Pat (02:44):I love the focus on safety, and I don't think quite honestly, we talk about safety enough in our culture with women. Also, I appreciated the process of walking the idea of safety in all aspects of my life and then having the opportunity to release it. I found myself during the time that I was listening to the meditations contemplating safety in my life. It really opened the door for me to process. I realized that I have not felt safe in my environment ever. especially with my ex-husband. but I see how it was a really slippery slope with being numb to safety in my immediate environment during my marriage because in my culture, safety wasn't the norm. It was very helpful. "I am feeling more empowered to help [my daughters] process safety in their own lives." Pat, Member of the BTR.ORG Community I have four daughters, three adult daughters, and I still have one minor at home. Because I didn't feel safe in my marriage, I protected them subconsciously from my ex-husband, and now I know why. Now I feel more empowered to really help them process safety in their own lives because they've been conditioned as well in the environment that they grew up in to not really process their safety. I noticed that they also are numb to experiences that risk their safety because they don't process it. Anne (04:38):So the meditation helped you be aware of how you weren't safe? Pat (04:43):Absolutely. Anne (04:45):The interesting thing about the meditation is it is not very specific. It's kind of general because we wanted women to...

Rachel Moran is back taking a deep dive into male entitlement to women's bodies - and its severe ramifications, including homicide.

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Simona studied post-traumatic growth in victims of betrayal trauma - her findings may surprise and inspire you on your journey to healing.

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Anne uses the Bible to share her feelings regarding how people in positions of authority should help ease the suffering victims of betrayal and abuse.

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Jane Gilmore is back, explaining how the media is doing a major disservice to abuse victims by misrepresenting what abuse often looks like.

Jane Gilmore is back, explaining with logic and powerful stories & examples, why your husband's feelings and behavior are NOT your responsibility or your fault.

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Anne's crush on Indiana Jones may be revealing that trauma has affected her sexuality. She tells all in this short episode.

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Anna M. Jonathan sought safety from her abusive husband without familial support - if you're in a similar situation, learn more.

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Is your husband or boyfriend love bombing you? Laurel is on the podcast, discussing love bombing, also known as "grooming". Tune in!

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Covert narcissistic abuse is difficult to identify and even harder to escape - learn from Claire's journey and take steps to get yourself to safety.

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Is your daughter a victim of betrayal and abuse? Please be the parent that she deserves - learn more on the BTR.ORG podcast.

Trying to discern if you're being manipulated by your husband? An abuser emailed Anne - an her response may help you identify manipulation.

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When women are treated as "less than," no matter how subtle the treatment may be, abuse thrives. Fundamentalist religious groups are notoriously misogynistic.

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Ayla and Anne on the BTR.ORG podcast discussing the subtle (and not-so-subtle) red flags of abuse that you need to know TODAY.

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Your faith community should be a place of respite and support. But too many victims find clergy ignorant, harmful, and tragically, abusive. Learn more.

The decision to separate can be daunting for victims of abuse. Lorelai joins Anne on the BTR podcast to discuss her own separation

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If you're like other victims of abuse, then you may feel like you've lost your self-confidence. Learn how to begin finding it again.

Parenting is hard enough, but when your ex is abusive? Navigating the world of parenting can feel downright overwhelming. Michelle Donnelly on the BTR podcast.

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Gary Thomas book and Debra Fileta's book, Married Sex, is traumatizing victims of sexual coercion and marital rape. Learn more.

Laila MIckelwait exposes PornHub for what it really is - a cesspool of abuse videos. Learn how you can help take it down today.

Face your fears about divorce and find the support you need from the BTR.ORG community. Anne discusses common fears and available support.

Women of faith communities may feel abandoned by God when they experience abuse and betrayal. Support is necessary and BTR is here for you.

You deserve safety - become fearless, free, and uncontrollable as you seek support here in the BTR.ORG community. We love you. We believe you.

Finding safety from abuse takes courage, determination, and incredible strength. You can choose now to stop complying with abuse.

Anne Basham, human rights activist, joins Anne on the BTR podcast to teach listeners how to prevent human trafficking. Go to BTR.org for more.

A deep dive into the correlations between human trafficking, pornography, and domestic abuse. Anne Basham joins Anne on the BTR podcast.

Victims can seek deliverance from the family court system, abusive clergy, and abusive partners even when these systems and individuals continue to harm them.

What is "The Manufactured Emotional Tether"? It's a tool abusers use to keep you stuck in an abusive situation, believing that there is no way out. Learn more.

Have you felt uncomfortable, exploited, or abused by your therapist? Dee joins Anne to share her story of finding safety from her abusive therapist.

Kristen Jensen empowers children and teens to protect themselves from the dangers of the internet, including pornography, with the new curriculum: Brain Defense.

Leslie Vernick joins Anne to shed light on how victims of betrayal and abuse can seek safety and peace from abusive relationships. 3 steps you can take today.

Leslie Vernick shares the Biblical Christian view of abuse, betrayal, and healing.

To family and friends of the victims of betrayal and emotional abuse: learn how to support and validate them as they process their trauma. BTR can help.

Are you feeling isolated and alone in your feelings of fear, shame, anxiety, and depression? Betrayal Trauma Recovery is here for you. Don't suffer in silence.

No matter where you are on your journey to healing, BTR is here for you. Read on to know how BTR can support you as you work toward the life that you deserve.

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Experiencing abuse, lies, and betrayal can leave you feeling in a fog. It can feel overwhelming. May be you are thinking: Can I stay? Am I going to take the step toward separation? What about divorce? What is going to happen? Regardless of what ends up happening, you can takes steps to ensure safety, preparation, and peace in the process as much as possible. Emotional Abuse Can Escalate During Separation Wendy Hernandez, creator of Command the Courtroom, says that women in situations of emotional abuse can and should begin to prepare early for various possibilities that can happen along the journey. "Often times the emotional abuse is in the form of legal abuse, once the divorce has gotten started. It can turn into a scorched earth type of litigation that goes on not only for months, but years. It can be destructive. Whoever is going through this, must do what makes sense for them. It can be a balance." -Wendy Hernandez, Command the Courtroom What is Post-Separation Abuse? It is important to focus on safety in the midst of the trauma and chaos of litigation. It can be hard to heal when safety is not secured. Post-separation abuse can and does occur, as the abuse just changes forms. Legal draining, constant litigation, and using the kids as pawns as some of the ways post-separation abuse can manifest. Here are some helpful hints for preparing for Post-Separation Abuse: Documentation is KEY!Communicate only in writing. Keep communication centered on children.Consider using an app or program like Our Family Wizard or Custody X Change.Be sure to respond appropriately to communication regarding children. BTR Can Be There For You The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group is here for you. Join today and find a community of women who understand. You are not alone, no matter what.

Abused and betrayed women wonder if they will ever recover their desire and ability to have trusting relationships. Dr. Deb Silber offers insight and advice.

How can betrayal victims begin thriving and finding themselves after betrayal? Dr. Debi Silber shares the five stages from betrayal to breakthrough.

When your husband participates in a secret sexual life, whether it's over the internet, with another person, or in his own thoughts, he is abusing you.

Knowing the truth about betrayal trauma is the first step to finding healing, peace, and hope. Betrayal trauma is the result of abuse. BTR can help. Read more.

You are not powerless against pornography. Clean Browsing empowers mothers to protect their children from the harms of pornography. Learn more.

You just found porn on your husband's device. Now what?

Sheila Gregoire, author of The Great Sex Rescue, deconstructs toxic sex myths to empower women in their journeys to safety.

Abusive men condition women to view sexuality through a lens of pain, confusion, and fear. Sheila Gregoire guides victims to understand the truth about sex.

Wondering how to fight for your children as you divorce your narcissistic abuser? Tina Swithin shares powerful insights.

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Grounding yourself in truth and safety when your husband calls you abusive.

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You can't cause, control, or cure the abuser: you can't fix your abuser. You can only set boundaries and seek safety for yourself. BTR can help.

Have you been ignored, dismissed, minimized, vilified, and torn down by those who should have helped you? BTR.ORG Group Sessions are for YOU!

Do you suspect that your partner is using porn? Have you discovered pornographic material on his phone or computer? These 4 tell-tale behaviors of pornography users will validate you and help you understand how his behavior is harming you. Tiffany Barnes join Anne Blythe on the free BTR podcast to share her insights and experience regarding the ways pornography users abuse women. Read the full transcript below and listen to the free BTR podcast for more. Pornography Users Gaslight Victims Gaslighting is a universal tool of abusers. By distorting the victim's reality, porn users can avoid accountability and shift blame onto the victim. Gaslighting is also known as crazy-making. When Tiffany would confront her abusive ex-partner about his pornography use, she was gaslit: He just tried to make me feel like I was being crazy, and I did. I questioned it a few times; am Icrazy? Is this just me being ultra-paranoid or something? Pornography Users Attempt To Normalize Their Porn Use Often, pornography users employ tactics to make their sexually depraved behaviors appear normal to avoid accountability and make the victim feel "prude", boring, or immature. Some of the ways that pornography users attempt to normalize porn are: "Hiding" pornographic material in plain sightCalling pornographic material "art"Saying things like, "Everyone does this"; "I'm a guy, that's what guys do"; or "No other woman would have issues about my porn use."Saying that they use pornography to help the marriage/relationship become strongerBlaming the victim by saying things like, "If you would have sex with me more, I wouldn't do this." Pornography is NOT a healthy and natural piece of human sexuality: it is abuse and exploitation. When victims can ground themselves in this truth, their partner's manipulation won't work any more. Pornography Users Dehumanize Their Partners Many women report being photographed, videotaped, or even live-streamed by their abusive partners. Women are sexually coerced, degraded, and physically harmed when phonography users demand sexual contact. Pornography itself is objectification: selling women's bodies for money. When men choose to view pornographic material, they are by default objectifying other human beings. This rarely stays compartmentalized. Pornography users dehumanize their partners by:Fantasizing about themAsking them to perform sexual acts that the victims are not comfortable withAsking victims to view pornography with themDemanding or guilting partners into having sexual contactFilming, photographing, or otherwise sharing sexual photos of victims, with or without consent Pornography Users Sexually Coerce Partners Any time a man has sexual contact with his partner without fully disclosing his sexual history, including pornography use, he is guilty of sexual coercion. Healthy sex is consensual. Women cannot give informed consent when men withhold key information about their own sexual behaviors. This is sexual coercion, a serious form of sexual abuse. If you think you are being sexually coerced by your partner, ask yourself: Have we ever had sexual contact when he had used phonography but hadn't told me? If the answer is yes, then you are a victim of sexual abuse. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xkPH4zkxJYw Betrayal Trauma Recovery Supports Victims of Pornography Users At BTR, we understand the confusion, fear, and devastation that women experience when their partner is using porn. That is why we created the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group: so that women can have access to multiple, live sessions every day. The BTRG gives women the opportunity to process trauma, ask questions, and share difficult feelings in a safe place. Join today. Full Transcript: Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery, this is Anne. I have some amazing news! We just surpassed 1 million downloads to the podcast, which I never everimagined would happen,

You deserve safety, authentic love, and healing. Emancipate yourself from abuse today.

Art can help victims of emotional abuse and betrayal process their trauma.

Does your abuser make big promises but refuse or "forget" to follow through? Learn about "meatloafing".

Narcissistic abusers & their flying monkeys (enablers) accuse victims of being overly sensitive, cruel, and crazy. BTR can help you find safety and peace.

Does he say he's changing, but you still feel unheard and confused? Learn how your abuser is grooming you and how to find safety.

When men sexually abuse their wives, they are causing immeasurable harm. Women can seek healing and justice.

Why victims of abuse and sexual coercion are afraid to leave their abusers and resources to help them leave.

Are you a victim of in-law abuse? Learn more here.

You CAN implement a no contact boundary, even if it feels impossible. Learn more here.

Ready to leave your abusive partner? 3 must-know steps as you prepare to seek safety.

When victims of betrayal and abuse embrace healthy womanhood, they can begin the journey to healing.

When victims of betrayal and abuse understand their worth as human beings, they can begin their journey to healing.

Victims of abuse and betrayal CAN heal and experience post-traumatic growth with safety and support.

Victims of betrayal and abuse can learn to identify and reject New Age Bypass tactics as they begin healing. BTR can help.

No woman deserves to be victimized by the clergy she trusts. Dave Gemmel provides 3 tips to protect you today.

When clergy use their position of authority to take advantage of trust, they may be committing clergy sexual misconduct. Learn more.

Victims of betrayal and emotional abuse may be concerned about dating after an abusive relationship. Jessica Skybar offers empowering tips.

What to do when your husband lies to you about his pornography use.

Lundy Bancroft shares how victims of abuse are betrayed by faith communities, court systems, and others. Women can triumph over trauma and regain their sense of self. BTR can help.

Children are always affected by an abuser's behavior, even if they never see it. Victims are not powerless. Lundy Bancroft explains how mothers can protect and help their children process and heal from abuse.

Victims of emotional abuse are stronger, smarter, and more capable than their abusers want them to think. These 5 truths help women find strength and safety.

Myths about emotional abuse enable abusers to keep abusing victims. The 7 Powerful Truths About Emotional Abuse help victims find safety.

Sexual abuse causes pelvic and sexual pain. Learn how to identify sexual abuse in your marriage and begin healing today.

When victims can identify abuse, they can make informed decisions about their safety and health. Learn 3 tactics abusers use, and why they are so powerful.

Victims of abusive pornography users may wonder if they are overreacting, but they aren't: pornography use is abusive. Support, safety, and self-care can help women find healing.

Pornography is a human rights issue, an abuse issue, and a public health crisis.

Victims of emotional abuse deserve safety: a guide to victims on seeking safety from an abusive relationship.

Victims of emotional abuse say that lies and manipulation are one of the most damaging pieces of the abuse they endure.

It's not "just emotional abuse": it's also domestic abuse and must be treated seriously.

He may not hit you, yell at you, or seem like a mean, angry bully - but covert abuse is just as dangerous and harmful as physical battery. Learn more.

Many women have a difficult time finding the right support for betrayal trauma and emotional & psychological abuse. Nikki shares how BTR Group supports her when there's no support where she lives.

Anne Blythe and Marni Bown, Shero and public speaker, talk about why so many women have difficulty recognizing the emotional and psychological abuse in their own relationships.

Betrayed women have a hard time learning to take care of themselves again. Trish White shares the 4 Essential Components of Great Self-Care for beginners.

When a woman has been betrayed, self-care is the last thing on her mind, but it's the most important thing she can do for her own healing. Trish White explains why.

Finally learning that you aren't alone in your struggles is validating. Finding a support group and a coach that really gets your unique situation is priceless.

Explaining the effects of emotional and psychological abuse to someone else is nearly impossible, especially when you're still trying to figure it out yourself! Anne Blythe presents Trauma Mama Husband Drama! Anne and Virginia talk about the process of writing the book and how it can help women get the help they need and heal.

Deep cuts, broken bones, broken hearts or hidden bruises, any of these can hurt again years after they've healed. Shannon Thomas talks about resurfacing trauma and what to do with it.

There are no physical bruises, scars, or blood, but the pain is real. Shannon Thomas talks about hidden abuses and the 6 Stages to Heal From Hidden Abuse.

Combined with beautiful illustrations by Cristalwolf Lobazul, Anne Blythe uses simple words and pictures to help explain the emotional and psychological abuse women experience as a result of their husband's pornography use.

Emotional abuse is abuse. Period. You can find safety and peace again after emotional abuse - learn more here.

Betrayal and abuse make preparing for divorce a necessity for victims. Even when you are hoping that he decides to change, educating yourself is key.

Feeling safe isn't just being free from physical harm, so what is it? Once you understand safety, you can set boundaries. What are boundaries?

Is a healthy marriage possible after emotional abuse? BTR believes it is. James is back with Anne to continue talking about how Center for Peace has given him hope and started him down the path.

3 important steps an abuser must take to change his ways and become safe.

3 helpful boundaries for women ready to find safety and healing after emotional abuse.

Abuse doesn't stop during a crisis, in fact, it escalates. BTR can help.

When emotional abuse leaves you feeling lost in the darkness, where do you turn for comfort and peace?

During a crisis, domestic abuse escalates. Women can minimize the effects of the abuse; BTR can help.

What to expect when you are divorcing a narcissist.

When clergy turns on victims of narcissistic abuse, the secondary trauma can feel overwhelming. Hear June's story.

Post-divorce abuse is real and devastating. BTR can help.

You may never receive an apology, the whole truth, or restitution. But you CAN find healing, no matter what your abuser chooses to do.

Disclosures do not give victims the safety they deserve - even though it may seem like a good idea, usually victims are just more harmed. Learn why.

Victims of abuse and betrayal ask, "will I ever be myself again?" BTR can help women find safety and healing.

Three ways women are traumatized by a partner's lies and betrayal.

The pornography/sex trafficking industry is an insidious and dangerous reality for women.

Can abusers permanently change and make amends, becoming beacons of safety in their families?

Can abusive men change? BTR believes they can.

Victims of betrayal and abuse can teach their children the truth about pornography.

Is he really in recovery? When abusers use spiritual bypass to circumvent true change.

Victims of betrayal and abuse can choose 'healing' instead of 'coping'.

Narcissistic fathers harm children, but victims can rise up and guide their children to safety and healing.

3 must-know tips for victims preparing to divorce their narcissistic partner.

Victims of marital rape deserve safety and support.

When victims choose to stay with their narcissistic partner, how can they survive and thrive? BTR can help.

5 Tips for victims of betrayal and abuse during the holiday season.

Victims of abuse and betrayal begin their journey to healing when they find their voice.

Learning about narcissistic abuse can help victims find safety and begin healing.

Important lessons about abuse and safety from Susan Powell's story.

Victims of abuse and betrayal deserve to be validated, supported, and guided to safety. Call it abuse and you may save her life.

Institutional abuse re-traumatizes victims; when victims find their voices and share their stories, healing can begin.

Self-care tips for victims of betrayal and abuse.

Pornography users commit three major sins: lust, greed, and dishonesty. Learn more.

When victims become empowered through trauma and abuse education, they can find safety and begin healing.

Pornography is abusive: here's why.

Can abusive men change?

Victims can learn to identify and protect themselves from abuse. BTR can help.

Boundaries are YOUR job, benchmarks are HIS job.

What does an in-home separation entail, and does it actually work? BTR can help.

3 essential resources for victims of betrayal and abuse.

12 Step programs may be beneficial to victims of abuse and betrayal AFTER safety has been established.

Codependency language is a dangerous weapon in the hands of an abusive/unfaithful man.

Grooming is a universal tool of abusers. Learn what it is, how to spot it, and how to find safety.

Pornography is a human rights issue. Learn more.

Pornography is anti-woman and anti-feminist. Learn more.

Empower teens to set boundaries to protect themselves from sexual coercion and abuse.

Pornography is sexual exploitation. Learn how you can join the fight for a porn-free world.

What are your next steps to find safety and support after discovering betrayal? BTR can help.

Sexual coercion takes on many forms, including the non-disclosure of secret sexual behaviors.

Domestic abuse isn't only physical battering. Learn more.

Victims are often re-traumatized by religious leaders when they seek help for abuse and betrayal.

Every victim of betrayal and abuse deserves support: especially mothers of special needs children. BTR can help.

12 Step programs teach self-improvement to women who actually need safety and validation.

Betrayed women are not codependent, they are victims of abuse. BTR can help.

When victims of betrayal and abuse practice simple forms of self-care, they can begin to find healing and peace. BTR can help.

Victim-blaming is harmful and hurtful. BTR can help.

Betrayal and abuse can cause severe body image issues in victims. Hope and healing are possible. BTR can help.

After betrayal trauma, many women still feel unsafe, traumatized, and misunderstood. Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group can help empower women to heal and find hope. Our amazing clients share their testimonials of Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group and the services BTR provides.

Triggers are a natural result of betrayal trauma. Learn how to use them to your benefit.

Four necessary statements from your husband's therapist.

Porn use is adultery and abuse. BTR can help.

Anger helps victims of betrayal and abuse identify abusive behavior and set boundaries.

Saying "Me Too" can help victims begin the journey to healing. BTR can help.

Join Anne as she interviews Wendy, survivor of marital rape. Listen to how this experience has impacted Wendy's life. Gain valuable information about wife rape and sexual assault within marriage. Learn why this is so damaging and harmful to victims.

Victims of betrayal and abuse CAN find healing, hope, and peace. BTR can help.

Betrayed women are not co-addicts: they are victims of trauma.

Betrayal trauma is devastating. Women CAN find healing and peace. BTR can help.

Family and friends can help or harm victims. Learn how to support victims of abuse.

Betrayal trauma is overwhelming. Small steps can help mothers re-connect with their children.

Betrayal trauma doesn't have to ruin your life - you CAN heal and experience Post-Betrayal Transformation.

Creating a porn-free environment is an absolute necessity for every family.

Victims of betrayal trauma want porn-free homes. Here's how.

Alone? Afraid? Join the Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group today.

It is a topic that is shrouded in controversy. Do porn users have abusive tendencies within relationships? Is there a link between porn use and abuse? What is the link between porn and aggression?

Pornography use and affairs are abusive. Learn why.

Narcissistic abuse is devastating. Learn to identify and heal from narcissistic abuse.

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Victims of betrayal and abuse deserve support from clergy: not further traumatization when clergy enable abuse.

Couple's therapy can be harmful to victims of betrayal and emotional abuse.

Intimate betrayal IS domestic abuse. BTR can help.

Wondering if your husband is in recovery? This will help.

Myths About The "Shame" Is Craze - How Actually To Stop The Harm Caused By Lies, Porn Use, Infidelity & Abuse. Why shame and attachment aren't the issues you need to concern yourself with.

Narcissistic abuse is real and it is damaging. Read more about what narcissistic abuse is and why it so harmful to victims who experience it.

When you've been betrayed, it hurts. But how does it feel when he betrays you with a man? One woman shares her story.

Teaching children online safety is essential in today's world.

Victims of abuse and betrayal are strong, valuable, and important. Finding your voice can help you heal.

Institutional sexual abuse is real and it's essential that individuals, organizations, and communities take steps to protect children.

Healing the trauma from sexual abuse can be a difficult road, but it IS possible. Acceptance and self-compassion are key.

Ways to develop and cultivate inner peace during and after betrayal trauma and emotional abuse.

Find out how you can grow stronger, progress in healing, and find hope after betrayal trauma with specialized recovery groups.

Self-Empowerment is essential is recovery from abuse. Learn about why and how to develop this as part of recovery.

Learn why intimate deception is so hurtful and how to heal from the pain.

Your husband is gay and you are devastated and blindsided. What do you do when you find out about your husband's secret gay life? Does watching gay porn mean your husband is gay? How to move forward after finding out your husband is gay?

Feeling discouraged? Remember to have faith, feel hope, and be proud of how far you have come.

Setting and holding healthy boundaries with your ex-husband can be difficult. Here are some ideas to help keep you safe.

Forgiveness is a personal decision that victims deserve to make on their own, without being pressured by others.

Victims of abuse and betrayal can use these tips to teach children about pornography and healthy sexuality.

You are not crazy, you are suffering from betrayal trauma. BTR can help.

Processing and expressing trauma from betrayal and abuse is difficult for victims. Art therapy can help.

Betrayal Trauma can lead to uncharacteristic behaviors in victims: including fantasizing, pornography use, and emotional affairs. BTR can help.

Are you numbing out the pain of betrayal and abuse? It's okay to take a mental break sometimes! Anne talks about healthy ways to "numb out".

Has BTR helped you? Help more women find BTR and begin their journeys to healing.

Helpful tips for victims choosing to leave their abuser.

When women choose to stay in a marriage after emotional abuse and betrayal, support, self-care, and boundaries are essential for her safety.

Victims of abuse and betrayal seek safety in many ways: focusing on her own boundaries is the best way to find safety and healing.

Many victims of emotional abuse and betrayal find themselves entering or re-entering the workforce. With support and empowerment, women can enjoy the process. BTR can help.

Abuse and betrayal trauma can leave you feeling powerless, but you are not. Learn three things you can do today to begin finding safety.

Recovery from trauma and abuse can feel debilitating and hopeless at times. But you CAN do it. BTR can help.

Speaking with your children about the dangers of pornography is essential. Learn how to teach your kids about healthy boundaries and overall well-being when it comes to important matters of sexuality. This is an important topic for every parent.

Victims of betrayal and emotional abuse wonder how to begin healing. Self-care is a great first step. BTR can help.

Finding empowering, empathetic, and knowledgable resources can be difficult for victims of betrayal and emotional abuse. BTR can help.

Victims of emotional abuse and betrayal trauma can trust their intuition and begin healing from trauma. BTR can help.

Is it possible to find hope and freedom when you have been betrayed and emotionally abused? Absolutely. BTR can help.

Women want to protect their children from the damaging effects of pornography. BTR can help.

When women of faith experience the effects of emotional abuse and betrayal trauma, they will often question their beliefs. This is normal, but difficult to process. BTR can help.

Learn what emotional abuse looks like and how to find safety.

Women in betrayal trauma wonder why addiction treatment programs aren't working for their sexually addicted partners. BTR explains why.

Victims of betrayal trauma and emotional abuse wonder if they will ever enjoy sex again. Healing is possible; BTR can help.

Victims of betrayal trauma and emotional abuse wonder how to navigate sexual intimacy after betrayal. BTR can help.

Victims of emotional abuse can be effective parents in teaching their children how to set boundaries that will protect them from sexual abuse. BTR can help.

Dr. Barbara Steffens is on the podcast explaining what treatment-induced trauma is, and how to equip ourselves to choose safe treatment for trauma.

Gaslighting is hard to spot - Anne discusses her thoughts on gaslighting and shares an informative article on how to identify gaslighting in your marriage.

New to BTR.ORG? Hearing unfamiliar terms? Here are 50 terms that will help you navigate our podcast and website as you begin your journey to healing.

Does your husband's anger scare you? Anne asks important questions to help you determine if your husband's anger is actually an abuse issue.

A child exposed to pornography is a victim of sexual abuse. Learn how to protect children from exposure, and support traumatized children.