In the final episode of the podcast, Natalie is joined by her husband Em where they chat, answer listener questions, and say goodbye to this show which has been such a huge part of her life.  Natalie's Substack The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want is out now. Purchase it from your favourite bookseller. Shownotes

Natalie shares some of the realisations she's made after making a big decision. The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want 

In the final episode of 2022, Natalie shares a deleted chapter from her forthcoming book, The Joy of Saying No. She breaks down how, to escape the chains of the roles we play and trying to keep up with our and other people's often unrealistic expectations and projections, we might act out behind the scenes, go rogue on the version of ourselves that people have come to expect from us, lash out, or experience the toll of the chronic stress of our people-pleasing habit. Pre-order The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want in audiobook, hardback, and ebook formats. https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/joy-of-saying-no-book/ Not sure what "pre-order" means and why it matters? Check out my handy video.

Natalie explains why our biggest imperative post-breakup isn't to be bosom buddies with our ex and how we don't need to force ourselves to be friends if we're not ready yet or we don't *want* to.

Natalie shares an exclusive excerpt from her forthcoming book The Joy of Saying No.  Pre-order your copy in audiobook, hardback and ebook formats. 

Natalie breaks down why saying we're harsh/hasty/hypervigilant/picky leads to us ignoring, dismissing and overriding ourselves.

Natalie talks about the importance of distinguishing between anger and disappointment to take better care of ourselves and start moving forward. Pre-Order The Joy of Saying No.  Bookshop.org | Amazon  

Some of what we force ourselves to do, silence and tolerate are forms of insane politeness and toxic professionalism. Natalie breaks down what these are, why we do it, and why we've got to stop harming ourselves in the name of these social masks.

In the first episode following Natalie's summer break, she talks about knowing when it's time to fold on a relationship that isn't truly right for us. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

In this replay episode, Natalie explains why those habits that leave you doubting and disliking yourself and breaching your boundaries are a sign that you're over-responsible.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

In this replay episode, Natalie breaks down why repeat frustrations and challenges occur and shares three key questions we can ask ourselves to break the cycle.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

In this replay episode, Natalie delves into what it means to outgrow a friendship, why it happens, and also why we need to be careful of assumptions and judgements that might cause us to end a friendship unnecessarily.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

In this replay episode, Natalie examines our relationship with rest because so many of us have internal debates about taking time off, whether for a break, pleasure, or to allow ourselves to recover from illness and burnout.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie shares her thoughts on love, loving yourself, and why we don't need to have good thoughts and feelings *all the time* or be 'healed' to experience more loving relationships. This episode was recorded at The International Women's Podcast Festival in partnership with Pinterest on June 18th, 2022. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

A big part of being more boundaried is knowing the difference between doing things from a place of desire versus doing them from a place of obligation. Natalie shares the insights she learned from a recent decision where she's deviated from her own and other people's expectations. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie shares what she's learned from a recent 27-day rollercoaster ride of anxiety and worry about a family member's health. 

Natalie talks about the importance of representing yourself--showing up, speaking up and stepping up for who you are. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie explains why our need to be perceived as 'good' and even beyond reproach creates problems for some of the people around us.   Book your tickets for the live show of the podcast on Saturday, 18th June.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

After receiving a lot of requests for her to talk about the topic, Natalie delves into why affairs happen and the importance of challenging some of the misconceptions about affairs that tend to assume that a person only cheats because their partner and relationship aren't 'good enough'.

Natalie talks about how dropping hints about our discontent with someone by making a statement with our behaviour tends to lead to that person not picking up on our message and creates more problems than it solves.

In this week's episode, Natalie talks about why it's important to accept and respect it when somebody says that they can't be in a relationship with us. No matter how we feel or them behaving in what we perceive to be relationship-y ways, if actions and words don't match, we've got a problem.

Prompted by messages from people claiming that they seem to only feel confident dating or being in relationships with those who are 'below' their level, Natalie explores what this actually means (and what it doesn't!!) and why we do it in the first place.   

It can be bloody infuriating when someone makes a mistake or does us wrong and they refuse to acknowledge or take responsibility. But plenty of us don't even know what the hell taking responsibility means, so Natalie breaks it down in this week's episode.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie talks about how when we give too much--yes, there is such a thing!--we're really not 'giving' at all.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie talks about the comments parents make that suggest that we're not meeting their expectations and that they're disappointed with our life choices.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie talks about why we surprise ourselves and others by losing our temper and behaving uncharacteristically and how we can navigate ourselves away from being tipped over the edge.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

It's been five years since Natalie's father died, and she's got some things to share about grief and anger, including why we don't have to perform our feelings for people or withhold our grief to pussyfoot around others. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop  

Natalie delves into the topic of core 'directional' values and why they matter for compatibility in our relationships and our overall sense of well-being.   

Natalie talks about how when keep going back on ourselves about something that causes us pain and discomfort, a part of us is afraid of what being successful at getting out of that relationship or situation would mean.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Sometimes we blame our intuition and don't feel as if we can trust it or ourselves. Natalie explains why our intuition isn't wrong, including how sometimes we weren't listening to our intuition in the first place. Get 30% of The Intuition Sessions short course with the code 'podcast'. Instagram | Blog | Shop

Natalie talks about why it can be problematic when we question or belittle another person's fear of something and why focusing on how 'good' we think we are or the 'good things' we think we've done stops us from respecting why the person is afraid.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

The Tinder Swindler, Sweet Bobby, Love Fraud, and more. After watching and listening to a host of scam-related shows, Natalie shares what she's observed about the pattern of scammers, including what can make us more receptive to being drawn in. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

It's the 250th episode! Natalie shares what she's learned about change and evolving--intentionally and through the 'imposition' of necessity.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie delves into why accepting just the bare minimum (or less!!) in our relationships is problematic and explains why that person who appeared to make so much effort 'in the beginning' doesn't anymore.   Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

In the first episode of 2022, Natalie shares her ideas about what self-esteem is and why we don't need to overcomplicate things when we decide to 'improve' our relationship with ourselves.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

In the final episode of 2021, Natalie shares a little on surprising herself by going to therapy this year and how 2021 pushed her to new, deeper places.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie delves into what's going on when we try to find out whether someone we've just met (or have only just started a relationship with) is emotionally available.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Why might we be able to debate and have disagreements at work or in certain situations but panic and shut down or become defensive with loved ones? Natalie delves into why we feel threatened by disagreement and difference and how to start breaking the habit.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

With the 20:20 vision of hindsight, we often recognise our blessings in disguise. But at the time, whatever we're going through can suck, and Natalie talks about the importance of allowing ourselves to feel instead of bypassing our feelings and forcing ourselves to be 'grateful' or look on the bright side.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie shares how she learned to stop taking responsibility for other people's baggage and how this inspired the show's central question: What's the baggage behind it?   Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie explains why learning to be unconditionally obedient skewed our perception of negative consequences and why it's time to update our thinking so that we stop scaring ourselves out of taking care of us.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop    

Natalie talks about how our resistance and discomfort about asking for help or support reveals our reliance on being The Strong or Supportive One.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

We've texted or hung out with someone several times, why do we think know them already? Natalie shares why intensity causes us to mistakenly extend trust.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie talks about the thoughts and feelings we default to when certain people disappoint, annoy or upset us and how these can help us have a more honest relationship, both with ourselves and this person.     Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Being able to get things off our chest is crucial to our wellbeing and part of our intimate relationships, but sometimes we chat out our business to the wrong people! Natalie shares some of the reasons people respond unfairly or unkindly when we share our problems with them.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie dives into the importance of approaching our interactions and relationships with a 'mutual mentality' so that we don't devalue, exploit and short-change ourselves.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie explains why downplaying the truth or significance of something—minimising—whether it’s who we are and what we need or other people’s asks, expectations or behaviour, leads to big problems.     Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Plenty of us are a little bit too used to blaming ourselves for other people's feelings and behaviour and determining that we're not 'good enough'. But not everything is about us, and in this week's episode, Natalie breaks down the trouble with inverted narcissism.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Sometimes our habit of trying to control the uncontrollable creeps into our relationships. Natalie delves into this tricky subject, sharing some surprising examples as well as advice for how to become more aware of the habit.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie talks about how and why we put ourselves under pressure about taking care of ourselves and shares tips for breaking this perfectionism habit so that we don't have unrealistic expectations of self-care that cause us more harm than good. This is the last episode of the summer, and Natalie will be back on September 10th 2021.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

When we've just started talking to, dating or going out with somebody and feel anxious about something, it's not uncommon to do a spot of columboing, snooping around their profile to see if they're following 'hot' or 'sexy' people or even their ex. Natalie talks about how we can wind up putting ourselves between a rock and a hard place with our columboing and what we can do when we don't like our discoveries.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie talks about why being drawn to one particular thing in romantic partners can prove to be a major blind spot. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop    

It's easy to assume that the reason you're still thinking about someone (or something) because it means you're still crazy about them, mad with them, or that you're still invested in the situation. Actually, there's another reason why, and Natalie breaks this down in this week's episode.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie talks about why we don’t have to become drained, resentful or burnt out from supporting others.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

As humans, we don't like having problems, especially when we feel it's unwarranted and that we've done all the right things. But what if this is part of the problem in the first place? Natalie shares insights on how we can learn (and move on from) problems with more love, care, trust and respect.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie talks about when somebody attempts to erase the past by acting as if it didn't happen and trying to pick up where they [decided they] left off. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

So many of us fear that we are 'needy' and so settle for less than what we need, desire and deserve. We also may have been called it by someone else, and it's left a mark. Natalie dives into the truth about 'neediness'.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie talks about why our attempt to be giving or to make amends can backfire if our actions cross boundaries.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

It can be super frustrating when you have a negative experience of someone, and everyone else thinks the sun shines out of them. Natalie talks about why our experience of a person can differ due to context.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop  

When somebody fakes a future to get what they want in the present, the disappointment, confusion, self-doubt and sense of rejection can leave us reeling and distrusting. Natalie revisits Future Faking and why we must, ultimately, be careful of deceiving ourselves.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop    

Natalie talks about why the infamous piece of advice, 'He's just not that into you' from the 2004 book of the same name, can easily be misinterpreted as 'You're not enough' or 'They behaved as they did because they didn't feel enough'.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie talks about why we resist blocking, unfriending or deleting even when continuing to engage harms our emotional, mental, physical and spiritual wellbeing.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Boundaries are widely misunderstood, so it's no surprise that so many of us struggle to have that at work. Natalie dives into what it means to have work boundaries and why they matter.    Instagram | Reclaim Your Work Boundaries | Blog | Shop

Natalie delves into our messy relationship with rest, including acting as if we owe everyone our 'free time' to others and our fear of appearing 'lazy'. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie talks about the three vulnerability habits we all need to embrace: admitting what we don't know, admitting when we've made a mistake, and admitting when we're in the wrong. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie talks about shifting our relationship with trust to a healthy place, including recognising where some of the things we do to foster trust or 'make' someone prove that they are trustworthy are precisely the source of us feeling unsafe in the first place.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie talks about why we need to shift our perception of what a breakup is and what it means about us so that we can let go of old stories and painful feelings that still affect us today.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie talks about why we need to change our relationship with criticism so that we stop investing so much of ourselves into trying to control the uncontrollable and being self-critical.   Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie talks about how we've been socialised to keep up appearances and why this pretence, whether it's about nothing being wrong or that who we are is not OK, is damaging to our wellbeing and relationships.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Sometimes we try to 'manage ourselves' too much instead of articulating a need or a boundary. Natalie shares her insights from a recent experience of this and how it's revolutionised her attitude towards her needs and what sets off anxiety.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie explains why it's time to recognise that people can be more than one thing and stop denying, rationalising, minimising, excusing, assuming and generalising ourselves into feeling stuck because we can't reconcile who we think someone is with other things that don't fit that image.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie explores the unease we experience when we believe that things seem a little or a lot too perfect and what we can learn from it Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

Natalie shares how we can use our awareness of certain habits as a notification that we are anxious about *something* so that we can take better care of ourselves.  The Anxiety Sessions | Instagram | Blog | Shop

In the first episode of 2021, Natalie breaks down compatibility, our ability co-exist harmoniously with someone or something.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

What does a project shifting dramatically, increased work responsibilities or hours beyond what was originally agreed, an overbearing and critical partner who always 'knows best', and someone in a casual relationship thinking and behaving as if they're in an actual relationship have in common? They're all examples of scope creep.    Download The Emotional Baggage Sessions for free.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Shop

So many of us have been conditioned to feel shame about loneliness and to misunderstand what it is and why we and others experience it. Natalie talks about shifting our perception of loneliness and how to understand our own loneliness experiences so that we can break out of any habits that fuel it but also be more supportive of others.  Download The Emotional Baggage Sessions for free.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog 

Some of us are waiting to have sex. It might be until marriage, it might be until the relationship has reached a certain point, it might be that we haven't had it yet and so we're waiting to trust someone enough to. Natalie talks about what we need to be mindful of if we are waiting and some of the issues we can come up against.   Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog 

The trap that so many of us fall into when we recognise our discomfort or that we don't want to do something is having a passive response. Natalie shares four steps for having a more assertive response that allows you to feel good about yourself and evolve your boundaries.  How To Say No: The Scripts Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog 

Natalie talks about a subject that many people grapple with but often feel ashamed. Even if estrangement isn't something you've dealt with, this episode is also about how we need to update our perceptions of family and be empathetic and supportive of people who have a less than 'great' family experience.  The Intuition Sessions Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog 

Natalie does a deep dive into a subject that creates a level of discomfort in a lot of humans to answer a question that befuddles so many of us even though we put so much effort into trying to enjoy the benefits of intimacy or avoiding it: What is intimacy?   Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

It's 2020, and yet, so many of us have a confusing, complicated and even shameful relationship with sex that causes us to be and do things that don't reflect who we really are or what we really want. In what will be the first of several episodes over the coming weeks and months about sex, Natalie talks about why we need to evolve our relationship with sex.   Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

While it isn't a new issue, disappointment about online interactions not blossoming into something bigger and better in real life seems to have been heightened by the pandemic, thanks to it limiting our social interactions. Natalie talks about the importance of managing our imagination and expectations so that we don't end up falling for a hologram or setting ourselves up for a fall.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

To celebrate the 200th episode of the podcast (yay!), Natalie sits down for a chat with her very first guest (and the one who came up with the idea for the show!), her husband, Em. Using questions from listeners, they give a little insight into their relationship, including how they met, how they knew they were each other's 'one', and overcoming conflict.  **Please note**: This episode was recorded differently to other episodes due to needing to record another person. Thanks to the t'internet, there's a few times where the sound dips, but it's otherwise good! Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

Natalie talks about why no isn't a dirty word and how it leads to saying yes to more of the people, things and opportunities that reflect who you really are.  How To Say No: The Scripts Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

We all have an idealised version of ourselves, an image that reflects perfection or that's certainly 'better' than reality. Natalie talks about how being disconnected from and not appreciating our actual real self in the pursuit of the idealised version can lead to problems and pain.  The Perfectionism Sessions Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

Ignoring or dismissing warning signs about a person or situation means that we ignore and dismiss ourselves. Natalie explains how categorising 'red flags' as code amber and red alerts help us to get grounded and acknowledge whether we're going against ourselves, ignoring incompatibility, or are in danger.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

Sometimes we take things so personally that it derails us. We feel stuck in shame, rejection, rumination and resentment, and we might behave in ways that don't reflect who we are in the main. Natalie talks about why this happens and how to break the habit.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

Sometimes, how we feel on the inside doesn't match what we're doing on the outside. We act what we think is 'nice' as a way to suppress and repress ourselves. In other instances, we encounter someone who seems 'nice' but they cross our boundaries or we feel what we think is 'irrationally' annoyed, resentful or frustrated with them and can't put our finger on why. Natalie talks about why 'nice' can sometimes be a means of covering up anger and control.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

Natalie explains why over-giving, over-responsibility, people-pleasing, perfectionism and overthinking are forms of self-sabotage.  **Please note! The podcast will go on hiatus until 11th September.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

Am I doing boundaries right? Is this an OK boundary for me to have?  Natalie explains how we can use the landmarks of boundaried communication--compassion, congruency, clarity, ownership and grace--to help us see the wood for the trees and build our confidence with communicating who we are through healthier boundaries.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

So many of us don't realise how we spend our lives doing things from a place of guilt. We think we're being noble and loving, but near-constantly feeling bad about ourselves and avoiding healthy boundaries and self-care leads to resentment and unhealthy relationships. Natalie talks about what's really going on with our perpetual guilt.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

Defining the relationship is something that so many people struggle with even though they want to know where they stand and hate ambiguity and the anxiety that comes with it. Natalie talks about why defining the relationship conversations don't have to be so awkward and scary.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

Weeks, months or even years have gone by, and we're still seething or angsting over that foot we think we put wrong or what we imagine our oh-so-powerful influence caused someone or a situation to become. Natalie delves into why we languish on the notion that we scared something or someone away.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

Chemistry, that hard-to-put-your-finger-on feeling that we experience (or think we do) with certain people is a relationship pothole that so many of us walk into time and again. Natalie breaks down why we mistake 'chemistry' for emotional disturbance and shares tips for breaking the habit to forge healthier relationships.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

How do we distinguish a healthy relationship from an unhealthy one? Natalie explains the landmarks of healthy relationships: balance, commitment, consistency, intimacy and progression. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

When promising chats and dates don't lead to the relationship we want and anticipated, we can feel stuck in a frustrating dating cycle. But what if what's causing the lather, rinse, repeat is a couple of particular blind spots that keep setting us up for disappointment?  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

Natalie expands on a video she shared on Instagram to explain how to match your actions with your intentions and words during this time of increased awareness and conversations about racism. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

There was a time when people thought that gaslighting was something that occurred purely within the context of abusive relationships, but it's far more prevalent than we realise. Natalie shares examples and how to recognise it, plus she explains why we mustn't normalise gaslighting and let it go unchecked.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

Natalie explores four common responses to the pandemic that people are grappling with: Why am I feeling OK?, Why am I not OK?, Why am I so angry?, and Why aren't I doing more?  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

When Natalie mentioned on Instagram Stories that she was loving the TV adaption of Sally Rooney's novel, Normal People, she received a flurry of replies about this portrayal of a casual (sometimes secret) relationship mixed with a complicated friendship. Natalie talks about some of the sources of hurt and misunderstanding in casual relationships and what we can learn from our participation.    Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

What if having your needs and wants met has absolutely nothing to do with how worthy you are and whether you 'deserve' it? Natalie shares a recent light-bulb moment and talks about why we have to stop telling ourselves the lie that our worthiness is to blame.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

Humans don't like unsatisfactory endings, hence why we feel as if we're left hanging by the sudden cancellation of a TV series or a dodgy ending. Natalie talks about how our desire to close loops can cause us to do things like seek validation, wait for a call we didn't want or to feel as if the 'bad guy' won.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

When someone shows us who they are, they're showing us their values. If that's different to who we are and where we want to go, we have to acknowledge this. But sometimes, despite what we know, we look to give a second (or umpteenth) chance. Natalie breaks down what's really going on in these situations so that when we do give (or receive) chances, we do so with more awareness and truth.  Instagram | Break The Cycle | Blog | Membership

When an ex who didn't treat us with love, care, trust and respect starts saying 'all the right things', it's all-too-easy to be nostalgic. Before we plot our fairy-tale ending or abandon opportunities, our current relationship or even ourselves and the growth we've experienced since the relationship ended, let's check ourselves.  Instagram | Courses | Blog | Membership

So many of us struggle with giving ourselves permission to feel our feelings, especially when it comes to anger. Natalie talks about why allowing ourselves to feel angry is critical to our emotional, mental, physical and spiritual wellbeing, and why acknowledging our 'silent rage' helps us to be more aware of our people-pleasing. Instagram | Classes | Blog | Membership

What's your tolerance for discomfort, boredom or time out from your typical routine? Natalie talks about our discomfort with having time and space, especially when it means that we might feel and think more than our typical way of life allows for.  Instagram | Classes | Blog | Membership

Natalie revisits the topic of improving communication in our intimate relationships. When we recognise that we're experiencing an issue or that we need to express difficult emotions or thoughts, we sometimes decide to keep it to ourselves so that we don't hurt the other party's feelings or ourselves. But the moment we do this, we're blocking intimacy. It creates more problems than if we'd spoken up in the first place. Instagram | Classes | Blog | Membership

What do you do when you feel as if your whole world has been turned upside down? Well, that's something that a lot of us are feeling right now. Natalie shares some thoughts on navigating anxiety and uncertainty. She also digs into some questions/situations that have cropped up thanks to Coronavirus: Do I have to check up on people/family? My ex reached out to me. What does it mean? What do I do? I'm thinking about contacting my ex. Also, what am I going to do about dating??? How do I deal with other people's anxiety about the Coronavirus? I feel bad about needing to run my business and selling my products/services? Instagram | Classes | Blog | Membership

Sometimes we find ourselves in a situation where it becomes apparent that we're not taking the best care of ourselves, but also, that the other party is benefitting from it. Natalie talks about why even though we can do something, like keep messing with someone who is way more into us than we are, it doesn't mean that we should.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Have you ever experienced stonewalling in a relationship (or possibly engaged in it yourself)? In another episode about understanding and improving communication in our intimate relationships, Natalie breaks down stonewalling including delving into three common scenarios: Shutting down expressing of feelings, thoughts and concerns. Using stonewalling and silent treatment to communicate displeasure or be punitive.  Stonewalling and then blindsiding with a breakup. Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Natalie talks about why not knowing what you want doesn't have to mean something terrible and why it's going to be tricky to listen to what you want if you're not listening to and meeting your needs.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Meeting someone new sometimes causes us to become preoccupied with answering the question 'Are you trustworthy?' When things are going well in an area of our life, this sometimes also causes us to wonder 'When are things going to go wrong?' Natalie talks about the anxiety of waiting for the other shoe to drop. Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Something that makes so many of us nervous is navigating conflict within romantic relationships. Natalie revisits her five stages of relationship framework to explain conflict and how it's part of deepening intimacy in relationships and becoming more self-aware.  *Please note*: The correct date for the New York workshop mentioned in the episode is May 24th not 23rd. Doh! Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Some people feel confused, angry and hurt when their relationship doesn't work out because they believed that the person 'should' have delivered because of self-care practices they engaged in. Natalie explains why just because someone journals, meditates, goes to yoga or therapy, it doesn't mean that they're super emotionally intelligent, really good at relationships or, yes, 'better' than you.    Instagram | Events | Blog| Membership

Have you ever freaked out about something, noticed that you are, continued to freak out somewhat, but then calmed down? That's what happened to Natalie recently when her daughter had to prepare for five exams in one day. She shares lessons from that experience, including why we panic about "failing" at a decision and this notion that our younger self had to get everything "right" for us to have a good life today. Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Texting anxiety has become increasingly prevalent over the years. Between read receipts, being able to see if they're online or when they were last online, seeing someone type and then pause, and seeing their likes on social media while you await a reply, it's pretty easy to destroy our inner peace. But what about when you're experiencing this while dating? Natalie explains why we drive ourselves crazy over strangers and why we have to use the recognition of our anxiety to change our relationship with texts and dating.  Instagram | Events | Blog| Membership | How To Say No ebook

Trying to get something or someone to live up to the picture we painted in our mind can be a great source of hurt for us humans. It's something we have to strive to do less of to heal, grow and learn. What Natalie highlights in the first episode of 2020, though, is how part of what keeps us stuck in this disappointment cycle is that, sometimes, the very people who can't or don't want to meet those expectations *still* want us to continue expecting. Why? Because they benefit from it.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Natalie gets ready for her Christmas break and the new year and decade ahead by sharing her thoughts on the gift of acceptance.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

So many people wonder if they're in the right relationship, but plenty wonder if they're in the right job. Given how much time we spend at work, it's understandable that disillusionment or uncertainty about it can significantly impact our sense of wellbeing. Natalie takes a deep dive into the subject of work, including what causes us to question whether we're in the right job in the first place and the signs that suggest that we're not.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

In the second of this two-part episode (part one), Natalie shares ideas for breaking the cycle of comparison. Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Do you feel inadequate around certain people or suddenly feel as if your life that you're normally happy with is like poop beside theirs? Do you come away from using social media feeling really low without realising it? Is there a persistent feeling and belief that you're not 'good enough'? These are all signs of comparison, something that all humans do but that we're often unaware of how much and how damaging it can be. In the first of this two-part episode, Natalie breaks down comparison, including sharing her own recent experiences of it.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

All humans desire acceptance the most, but a hell of a lot of us are scared of the real us being rejected and so we struggle to be ourselves. But this always leads to problems. Natalie shares lessons she's learned from spending the last few months conducting an experiment on being even more herself in a particular area of her life.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Have you given you a hard time about interested in something or someone that turned out to be wrong for you? Or, has someone's change of interest in you or a relationship left you baffled and hurt? In this week's episode, Natalie explains why it's time to rethink our attitude to interest and recognise that interest is a hypothesis that we can learn from so that we can be more us and choose the relationships and things that reflect this.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

If you've ever been self-critical because you're stressed or feeling overwhelmed or low-energy, it's time to pay attention to these messages from your life. Natalie talks about the importance of recognising that we're stressed and over our bandwidth without having to burn out or melt down. Instagram | Events | Blog| Membership You Tube episode about mental health and black women

Tend to be hard on you and, for example, struggle to ask for help, feel like a burden, feel guilty for saying no, being you or having boundaries, or feel as if you parented your parents, raised your siblings or brought yourself up? There's a reason for that!  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

When we think that we (or others) are 'damaged goods' because of what might be a lack of relationship experience or time spent in unhealthy or unfulfilling relationships, this dents our confidence, limits our options, but also creates unnecessary judgement. Natalie offers up a different perspective on what the experience on our proverbial relationship resume means (and doesn't).  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

What's the similarity between engaging with an ex who didn't treat us very well, feeling burnt out and resentful after taking on extra work, and deliberating about or regretting something that we know isn't/wasn't a fit? They're all things that we've done or are contemplating doing *because* we perceive them to be "opportunities". Natalie breaks down why we need to be more discerning about opportunities, including sharing some tips on recognising when something *isn't* the opportunity we think it might be.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Do you hoard, clamp, shoot, get chatty, deny/mask or cry when you need to deal with uncomfortable feelings. Natalie follows up on the previous episode about why we don’t talk about our feelings by sharing six key ways we express (or don’t express) our feelings and how to evolve our habits.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Expressing our feelings, not just to others, but also to ourselves, is crucial to our emotional, mental, physical and spiritual wellbeing as well as to the health and wealth of our interpersonal relationships. So, why then, do so many of us have a pattern of not expressing our feelings? Natalie explores these reasons and more in this episode, plus in the follow-up episode next week, she'll get into the practicalities of talking about our feelings and evolving our relationship with our emotions.  Instagram | Email | Events | Blog| Membership

When people ask or expect you to do something, or you're wondering whether there's a boundary issue, do you question whether you are being fair and reasonable in wanting or needing to say/show no? Or do you struggle to work out whether *they're* being unfair and unreasonable? If so, help is at hand. Natalie breaks down how to figure this out by acknowledging the context including your bandwidth, feelings, what's being asked/expected, and how they're going about things.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

If you've ever played matchmaker and had it backfire, or you've felt confused after being set up or recommending somebody, today's episode is for you. Natalie delves into some of the assumptions, biases and judgements that impair our judgement and shares tips for removing blind spots and enjoying more successful outcomes.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

How do you feel when you realise or sense that someone doesn't like you? If intrusive thoughts about this have popped up more than you would like and even kept you awake at night, you are far from being alone. Natalie shares some of the reasons why humans dislike each other. She also talks about why not being liked bothers us so much, how we are often most bothered when it's someone we don't like or when we don't feel that we've 'earned' their feelings, and she also shares some questions for self-exploration and moving forward.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Natalie does a quick catch-up before going on her summer break until September.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

If you hardly knew somebody and something felt off, would you dismiss what you were sensing, seeing or hearing, or would you pay attention? Well, if like so many of us do, you ignored you, you're not alone. If you get niggling messages from within but dismiss them because they don't make sense or are 'inconvenient', you're definitely not alone. Natalie talks about how turning 42 and leaning into her forties has caused her to double down on listening to herself and shares ideas for tuning in.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

So many people experience shame around having needs, which is like being ashamed of breathing! Natalie delves into emotional needs and the importance of being our primary caregiver.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Ever had somebody say something to you that *seems* like it’s supposed to be taken as a compliment, but it’s totally not? Or, have you been in a situation where someone’s making sly digs under the veneer of a smile or being helpful? In this week’s episode, Natalie delves into put-downs and how to handle them from an assertive place instead of putting you down in response.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Many of us have some level of fear of being alone, and when this drives us, it leads to some pretty painful and dubious choices. Is being with ourselves really that bad? Natalie delves into alone versus lonely, why alone doesn't equal 'unloved', and more.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

When things don't go according to plan and we feel baffled by someone's behaviour or the outcome, retracing our steps will inevitably reveal the slippery slope that we were on with our boundaries.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership 

There are 5 stages of relationships, and stages 0-1 set the foundation for what lies ahead (or doesn't). Natalie talks about the parallels between dating and job searches and how adopting a recruiter mindset keeps us grounded during these crucial stages so that we can be more discerning and set ourselves up for being available for the type of relationship we say that we need and want. Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Natalie explores why so many of us don't realise that the pressure we feel to be or do certain things isn't always about what we actually want. Often it's about what we think we're supposed to want because we're, for example, approaching or in our forties, are a woman of a certain age, or because it's what our parents told us was the way life works.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

When Natalie had to train for the 2018 London Marathon in less than four months, it didn't take long before she realised that she was employing lessons she'd learned from doing No Contact and her initial struggle to create healthy boundaries. If you battle an inner critic that encourages you to do stuff only to switch things up and scare the bejaysus out of you about those same choices, or you wrestle with perfectionism or backtrack on changes you've decided to make because of the discomfort you experience, this episode is for you.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

How good do you feel about yourself and a relationship if it feels like you had to campaign or even hound your partner into committing? Yeah... exactly. Natalie talks about commitment-resistance and why it's time to stop trying to drag commitment out of people.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Do you know the difference between empathy and overempathy? Well, if you feel as if you've been burned by rescuing or helping, or you've stayed in situations long past their sell-by-date, it's time to discover the difference.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Have someone's lies baffled you because you thought that it was so ridiculous or unnecessary or that it was undeserved given how much effort you've put in? Has discovering a white lie caused you to question your future with someone because of how honest you believe you to be? Do you find it really triggering to be lied to, or to try to be honest with others? In this week's episode, Natalie delves into the topic of lies, including what motivates us to lie and why we sometimes need to check ourselves when we're insisting that we "never, ever lie". Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Do you know where you learned your break-up habits? It's safe to say that it wasn't on the curriculum at school. Old memories and associations, especially ones we may have long forgotten, along with underlying concerns about avoiding things we fear or dislike, contribute to how we respond to being broken up with or us ending a relationship.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

For many of us, the idea of willfully crossing somebody's boundaries sends a shiver through us. In fact, we'll often cross our own boundaries to accommodate those of others! But some people just don't give a fiddle about other people's boundaries, something we'll often blame ourselves for. Natalie explains the reasons behind their boundary aversion.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

A key factor in people feeling stuck in a painful situation or stuck obsessing about what went down is an extended period prior to the events of being starved of, for example, attention, affection, connection or intimacy. In this episode, Natalie explains The Lean Period and how being activated and then eventually hurt and disappointed leads to the loop of entitlement that creates stuckness.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Many of us find it difficult to let go of past situations whether it's about our actions or those of others. It's not that we don't want to per se, but our confusing relationship with forgiveness, including believing that it presses the reset button, actually gets in the way of us moving forward. Natalie talks about what letting go truly means.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Natalie talks about blind spots and why we’ve got to stop clinging to assumptions about what a relationship-worthy person looks like (hint: it’s more than “charming, good-looking, smart”) or them claiming that they’re in therapy, meditators or working in a particular profession. Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Ever felt as if you did wrong by asserting a boundary because the other party didn't respond positively or you didn't get what you wanted? Well, having healthy boundaries isn't the problem, and in this episode, Natalie explains what's really going on in this situation.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

It's been two years since Natalie's father passed away. In this week's episode, she talks about how grief, something that we go through when we experience any form of loss, not just bereavement, grows you... whether you want it to or not.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

So many people who have a frustrating pattern are unaware that they’re driven by negative and contradictory associations with love, relationships, success and being more of who they really are. In this episode, Natalie talks about why fear of sacrifice, loss and being trapped are so prevalent in our experiences.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Did you know that three days before Natalie met Em, she broke it off with a guy that she’d been dating for three weeks? She would have finished it sooner had she not doubted herself and listened to well-meaning friends who told her that she was being “hasty” and “picky”. In this episode, Natalie talks about why loved ones give bad advice and why we don’t have to go along with it to spare their feelings.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

A challenge that often presents itself while dating is the struggle to stay hopeful and grounded while pursuing our need or desire for a relationship. Natalie talks about the key sources of anxiety and why, ultimately, 'efforting' isn't going to control (or change) the time frame or what prospective partners do so we might as well get on with the business of being us and living. Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Does someone really need to do the equivalent of giving us a one-star review by going out of their way to make us aware of their dislike of us? Do we need to let our ex know that we’re “over” them? Why did they put themselves on Tinder right after they made plans to move or be away for some time? What’s the craic with people doing us wrong and then saying “It hurts me more than (or as much as) it hurts you”? And why are we saying that it’s wrong that the relationship with the person who didn’t treat us very well has ended? These are just some of the things that make Natalie (and others) go hmmm.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Are you feeling typecast by your experiences and pattern? A role is a job or function that we take on within our interpersonal relationships in order to ‘be good’ and ‘help out’… even if what we’re doing is harmful instead of helpful. In this episode, Natalie breaks down why we play particular roles including sharing 60+ examples and why roles, ultimately, sabotage intimacy as well as our potential and purpose.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

When you go on dates or are in a relationship, who is it that shows up? Is it you, the whole you and nothing but you? Or, is it your representative, the persona you send out that’s a glossier or more watered-down version of you that you think does the best job of selling you as future partner or spouse material? Natalie talks about the perils of letting your 'dating and relationship self' overshadow the real you.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

What do you do when you feel as if you’ve failed at something? Shame you? Shrink into yourself and isolate? Pick you apart in an attempt to figure out what’s wrong with you? Turn your failure into a secret that you need to cart around in your emotional baggage? Natalie shares why she won't be doing any of these things and uses a recent experience and its parallels with dating and relationships to reframe disappointment, rejection and loss.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Natalie explores our reluctance to so much as tidy our emotional baggage and shares a quick exercise that highlights where we can make space for more of the things we want to be, do and have.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Is it something you said? Is it something you did? Is it because you weren't patient/perfect/sexy/whatever enough? Nope! They're unavailable. In this week's episode, Natalie delves into the ten key signs that someone is emotionally unavailable including blowing hot and cold, excuses about timing, actions and words not matching, and it being on their terms.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

In this week's episode, Natalie explains the 5 stages of relationships and how you can use these to recognise whether you are experiencing the intimacy you need in order to take the relationship in the direction you want to go.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Following on from last week’s episode about try-ing, Natalie explains why you deserve to feel secure while dating or in a relationship, and why you don’t have to burn up your energies trying to convince or convert them into giving you that security of knowing that you’re liked, loved, cared for, trusted and respected.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

I just try so hard. I just keep trying. No matter what I do… No matter what I try… Sound familiar? In the first episode of 2019, Natalie shares a recent experience that flagged up to her that we just don't have to try THAT hard. You know, the kind of hard where we're only 'trying' because we feel as if we're "not good enough" or are aware of the other person's bottomless pit ways.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

In another episode from the friendship series, Natalie tackles the painful subject of when a friend distances or cuts off.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

It's that time of the year when there can be a temptation to text/Facebook message/call/gift your ex or someone you fell out with. In this episode, Natalie explains why reaching out has the potential to cause more harm than good if you're unaware of your intentions.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

People often get in touch with Natalie feeling as if they've been rejected for being the real them, but a bit of digging often reveals that they were pretending to be something they're not. This week, Natalie tackles faking it, blending in and trying to be perfect.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Natalie revisits the topic of needs, delving into why we all give and feel love differently and so we can't assume that people will know what we need or that they'll be "just like us". She also shares what she learned from finally getting around to reading The 5 Love Languages, as well as why it's essential to be mindful of a need that drives us far more than any others.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

How confident do you feel about raising an issue with a friend? If you avoid talking about what’s on your mind for fear that the friendship will end or you do speak up, but feel as if it always backfires, you’re not alone. Natalie delves into the topic of conflict in friendships. Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Starting to feel a niggling anxiety about family, your social life, how much money you have to spend or whether you’re a “success”? It’s that time of year where thanks to a succession of celebrations and hallmark days, many of us fall prey to what Natalie refers to as the 10-12 Weeks of Self-Esteem Torment. Find out why we feel like this and how to avoid getting sucked in.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Whether it’s life stage, personal growth or the friendship stagnating, sometimes we feel as if we’ve outgrown a bond (or that our friend has outgrown us). Natalie explores the subject including why assumptions and judgement cloud our, well, judgement and cause us to distance ourselves unnecessarily, and why our friends being “different” doesn’t mean they’re not our friend.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Ever found yourself feeling trapped in a conversation or drama that you don't want to be a part of? Turns out, you don't have to hold yourself hostage to it. Yes, even with family! Natalie shares how to recent experiences with family helped her to be aware of her anger as well as the need to create a clear boundary that opted her out of an issue.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie delves into the tricky topic of emotional blackmail. What is it, which of our feelings alert us to its presence, how it manifests, and how to recognise it so that we can begin nipping it in the bud.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about getting on board with the need for self-care so that we can protect and nurture our emotional and psychological well-being.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Natalie delves into the topic of jealousy and envy in friendships, including recognising the difference, some of the reasons why they show up, why they're not 'bad' emotions, and what we can do to move forward from a place of love, care, trust and respect.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explains how if we desire a mutually fulfilling relationship where our emotional needs can and will be met, we need to be, recognise and seek out four qualities.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

In the second in a series of episodes this autumn on friendship, Natalie explores how and why some of the expectations we have lead to pain. It turns out, we often expect a friend to be, say or do something, not because it's who *they* are but because of who we think we are or what we think we've done to earn it. Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

In this week's episode, Natalie talks anxiety and intuition, and why we're bound to feel anxious in any situations where we've routinely ignored our intuition and pretended to be something we're not.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

They say our friends are the family we'd choose for ourselves, but so many people who struggle with friendship tolerate unsatisfying relationships the way they suffer through family they can't escape. This autumn, there will be several episodes on the topic of friendship. In this episode, Natalie looks at what friendship means and why tension, rules, imbalances, lack of genuine mutual affection and more, contribute to some of our angst about friendship.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explores why so many people experience pain over receiving (or not receiving) an apology. From feeling unworthy due to how someone has responded to their wrongdoing, to feeling guilty that someone needs to apologise to us, to backing down in an attempt to provoke the other party into doing so and more, we have a complicated relationship with apologies.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Chatted with somebody online or been on a first date that seemed so promising, only to experience crickets or hear that they don't feel the same way? Natalie explains why we find these situations so perplexing and the common assumptions and misconceptions that cause dating blind spots.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Ever kicked yourself for missing out on something, convinced that it was the perfect person/job/house/opportunity only to discover later that you dodged a bullet? Recently, Natalie found out that the 'dream house' they missed out on 5 years ago turned out to be a money pit. In this episode, she explains why hindsight allows us to see how wrong some things would have been for us, but how we still have to move forward and let go even when we haven't had the gift of hindsight yet.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about confronting her fear of failure, fear of success.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

This week, Natalie explores the tricky subject of distinguishing between help and support so that we can maintain the healthy boundaries we need to enjoy mutually fulfilling relationships and take of ourselves. Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

In this week's episode, Natalie explains the concept of recognising your bandwidth so that you can take care of your emotional, mental, physical and spiritual well-being.  Instagram | Events | Blog | Membership

Natalie is back with The Baggage Reclaim Sessions. What do you do when you have a grand plan? Discover that life might have other ideas in store for you. In this episode, Natalie gives the cliff notes version of what's been going on during the almost ten-month break -- letting go, book proposal challenges that echo life, a marathon, hitting a low point and getting back up again. She also offers some insight into what she'll be exploring in upcoming episodes.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this final episode, Natalie talks about big decisions, why we get stuck, and why we can't see what lies up ahead but we've still got to take the leap anyway. She also shares why she's decided to end the show--such a tough decision!  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

Warning: This episode includes references to incidences that some listeners may prefer not to hear about or they may find triggering if they’ve experienced it themselves. In this episode, Natalie shares why she feels that she needs to speak out about speaking out. Sharing personal experiences of having spoken out about very difficult issues including harassment and assault, as well as anecdotes from readers, listeners and friends, Natalie created this episode because she hears all too often from people who don’t speak up or speak out because they ‘don’t want to make a scene/fuss’ or they fear being perceived as ‘dramatic’, ‘needy’, ‘a psycho’, ‘lying’ etc., who are struggle to grapple with the emotional, mental and even physical consequences. We forget when we ‘play nice’ and keep silent, we very often struggle to live with ourselves.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this week's episode, Natalie talks about why focusing is about being discerning and committing, and why we allow ourselves to get busied up in all manner of distractions because we are afraid of putting our stake in the sand and saying, ‘This is who I am, this is what I’m about, and this is what I need’. She also talks about why a lot of our painful relationships and problems are about avoiding our potential and purpose, along with delaying on reaching a resolution about outstanding decisions.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this week's episode, Natalie shares what she's learned from ten months of being on a social media diet. What started off as temporarily deleting Facebook from her phone so that she could finish her book last November, became an experiment in discovering whether her life, both personal and business, would fall apart and be that much worse off without being on social media. In short, the answer was.... no.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about what ambiguity is, the types of situation that can result, and how we can use our participation in an ambiguous situation to get more clear about ourselves and to become more assertive.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about how despite exceeding our own or other people's expectations for us, it's as if we don't dare to believe it, instead grappling with Imposter Syndrome and waiting for the other shoe to drop because, in truth, we wonder who we are to dare not to be that kid, that portrayal or perception, anymore.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about how to recognise when we're not exactly being truthful with ourselves, what causes us to do things like denying, rationalising, minimising, excusing and justifying, and how to move beyond our own untruths so that we get grounded in who we really are.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie shares a story about a relatively new relationship to illustrate why we mustn't ignore code amber/red warnings.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie delves into the topic of trust and being discerning about who we let into our Circle of Trust.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie delves deeper into this season's topic of 'closing the gap' by explaining roles, including why we adopt them, how they play out within families, and in turn how they keep us small and hold us back in adulthood. Roles affect all of our interpersonal relationships and block us from being more of who we really are, so becoming more aware of where we play a role is critical to our well-being as well as the health of our relationships.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie reflects on why she’s felt a little wobbly about turning 40 and why she’s approaching life with an attitude of adventure. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this week's episode, Natalie talks about how we can inadvertently find ourselves turning people and things such as romantic partners, co-workers, bosses, friends, money, our job or business, into surrogate parents that keep us in a pattern of feeling inadequate due to feeling that we haven't pleased enough.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this week's episode, Natalie explains why life keeps serving up the same lessons until we're ready to heed them and move on.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about rejection, namely five scenarios where we have this sense of indignation that someone is saying no to us and what we want.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about how a pattern of neglect causes us to settle for far less than what we need, desire and deserve.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about why we sometimes struggle to recognise that we're interested in somebody because we're primed to feel attracted in the way that we have before, even though it hasn't previously led to the results we desire. She also explores some of the key factors that we need to remember when it comes to interest and attraction.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about the difference between someone who just wants to know that they can get your attention versus someone who wants to love you and be loved by you.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about what to expect from season 3 of the podcast and touches on some of the core Baggage Reclaim philosophies.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

After six weeks of taking time to grieve, Natalie gives an update on where she's at and what's been going on.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie gives some insight into where she's at after losing her father.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie asks whether we really need space in the form of a casual relationship or something else altogether, draws the line on being too nice for our own bloody good, and talks about two types of texts that prompt delayed replies: short but loaded and super long. This week’s listener question is, How do I deal with my imposing co-worker?, plus Natalie shares what she’s learned this week.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about why books can be an important part of our emotional journey, explains some of the reasons why we don't seem to recognise that we're maxed out with stress, and talks about why we don't need to lay all of our emotional baggage out on the table for a new partner. This week's listener question is, Should I end my enforced No Contact now that I recognise my part?, and Natalie shares what she's learned this week.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about why we get put in the Friend Zone and how to dodge it, plus explains why some people don’t do apologies, and why breaking up with someone also means breaking up with the ideals that we had for ourselves in the relationship. This week’s listener question is ‘How do I set boundaries with my patronising and overbearing co-worker?’, plus Natalie shares what she’s learned this week. #relationshipgoals  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about why we can be fearful of allowing ourselves to be ‘too happy’, the over-apologising, and shares a couple of questions we can ask ourselves about whether love is transforming us into more or less of who we are. This week’s listener question is, Should I contact him and try to tell him that he is worthy of love and avoidant?, plus Natalie shares what she’s learned this week. The Breakthrough course mentioned: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-breakthrough  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about #relationshipgoals, what it means when we acknowledge that we're the common denominator, and why whether we want to be in a relationship or not, we must choose it from a positive place. This week's listener question is, 'How do I stop feeling guilty over my breakup that I didn't even instigate?', plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about the importance of considering how your future self would respond to a situation that you're in right now, plus talks about how to have better boundaries with loved ones who tend to ruin birthdays and other big occasions in your life, and explains why it's totally unnecessary for someone to point out that you're both 'grown-ups' when they're trying to get you to do something that you don't want to. This week's listener question is: Why did the universe send me another unavailable man after all of my hard work?, and Natalie shares what she's learned this week.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about the importance of acknowledging your progress by acknowledging personal anniversaries of big decisions, 3 key areas where you can make big strides in changing your responses to conflict, and why it's best to take a bigger picture view with Valentine's Day. This week's listener question is, Is it a red flag that my boyfriend doesn't ask me questions about myself?, plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks through ten key reasons that more than justify breaking up, shares how she navigated her way out of negative feelings, and why it's important to hug yourself. This week's listener question is, Is anyone honest online? plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about what we can learn from our stuckness with our career, shares questions and ideas to help you get your self-care routine up and running, and talks about her intention to bring some minimalism into her life. This week’s listener question is about how to overcome irrational jealousy and Natalie shares what she’s learned this week about slowing down.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie shares the key lessons she learned in 2016, sharing stories and anecdotes on subjects including how she had her first drama-free Christmas and New Year for the first time in a very long time, how she learned that life really is a funny albeit at times, twisted teacher, and why everything comes in useful so even if we don’t get why we’re doing something, it’s often prepping us for being able to cope with something in the future. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about what interdependence means, the factors that affect our bounce-back rate, and how family’s attitude towards ‘borrowing’ money is a lesson about remembering to walk around the trap. This week’s listener question is, Why haven't I moved on when I’m the one who walked away?, plus Natalie shares what she’s learned this week.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

Abbie thought that her heart was healing when a few months after her devastating breakup, a guy at work was devoting himself to her and telling anyone who would listen that she was 'The One'. One year later it was all over, with him claiming he'd pretended to be someone he's not, while also telling her what an awful person she is. Love, Care, Trust & Respect book www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/lctrbook Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

This week, Natalie talks about why romance isn’t the same as intimacy, why we don’t have to get stressed over our uncomfortable dreams, and shares tips for avoiding being catfished. This week’s listener question is about how to come to terms with widowhood, plus Natalie shares what she’s learned this week.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

Taylor and Greg’s 18-month relationship ended when she boiled over with resentment about his lack of effort and his unwillingness to address anything while at the same time insisting that he didn’t want to end the relationship. Love, Care, Trust & Respect book www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/lctrbook Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

This week, Natalie talks about what to do about having more ideas than time, shares tips to ensure that you don't get drawn into the same drama with a family member, and explains why having too much expectation of our judgment with a stranger damages our confidence and ability to trust. This week's listener question is about how to figure out whether the girlfriend is lying about the soon-to-be ex-wife, and Natalie shares what she's learned this week.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

Natalie talks about the benefits of a social media diet, how to use a Stop, Start, Continue to inspire change when we’re self-critical, and why we don’t need to turn simple decisions into life decisions. This week’s listener question is about whether to give up online dating, plus Natalie shares what she’s learned this week. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

When Tim told Stéphane during their first deep conversation that he has a condition that causes him to disassociate from his feelings and yet he kept feeling compelled to be around her and act differently with her, she couldn’t help but think that they had something special. Unfortunately, once they did get together, it was over before it even really began.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

Natalie talks about why we’ve got to stop making snap judgements about who’s ‘nice’, how to respond to loved ones whose opinions differ from ours from a place of love, care trust and respect, and why it might not be a good idea to send the card/text to your ex. This week’s listener question is, Why would an ex want to connect on LinkedIn rather than any other media? and Natalie shares what she learned this week.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this 'Why Did We Break Up?' episode, Joanne is still wounded after her brief involvement with her longtime crush ended after they slept together. She thinks that it was her having the STD that he said he was OK with because he was so sure their relationship was going to work out but he said that it's because she's not "geeky enough" due to not playing board games or reading comic books.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

Natalie talks about why we need to stop criticising ourselves for not being more self-disciplined in areas where we’ve had to give up something or make a big change, plus she talks about some of the causes of gifting stress and why the commitment-dodging ex is being intense with the new flame. This week’s listener question is about feeling rejected because their partner doesn’t want to cuddle all night and Natalie talks about what she’s learned this week. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this 'Why Did We Break Up?' episode, Zoe was devastated after her partner of six years went to visit family for a few weeks, cut contact and secretly started a relationship with an old girlfriend from his school days. During their six years, Zoe sunk her entire inheritance into clearing gambling debt after gambling debt and grappled with anxiety and insecurity due to the instability and his constant lies. After trying to move on but finding it too painful to trust again, she is ready to find out why their relationship broke down.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about why so many people feel so triggered during these fraught times, shares tips for calming anxiety about family arrangements during the holiday season, and explains why we have to be careful of being over-committed to goals. This week’s listener question is, How do I forgive myself for being the rebound and the booty call? and Natalie shares what she learned this week.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

Why Did We Break Up? is back! In this episode, Hannah felt guilty about having fallen for her engaged co-worker and living a lie, so she broke it off with her boyfriend of four years. Her co-worker, Joe, didn't follow suit and so began four months of deep pain, lies and confusion which culminated in her ending it when she found out that he was going on holiday with the fiancé he claimed to no longer love. Feeling strung along, lied to and betrayed, she wants to know, Why did we break up? Links mentioned in the show About activation http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/activation-when-someone-or-something-activates-old-issues/  and http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/intensity-isnt-the-same-as-intimacy/ About being over-responsible Episode 33  and http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/giving-up-the-role-of-being-over-responsible plus http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/advice-wednesday-i-tried-to-rescue-him-from-his-unfair-open-relationship-he-went-back-to-her Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about why expecting people to be mind readers is damaging to our self-esteem and our relationships, why people being shady or not meeting our expectations is not about our inadequacies but teaching us lessons on how some people are, and the importance of giving up small satisfaction today for greater satisfaction in future. This week’s listener question is about whether they were wrong to be so honest about their past relationships with a partner who judged them for it, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. Have you heard about my monthly membership program for people who are committed to breaking patterns and being consistent with self-care so that they enjoy more love, care, trust and respect? Each month has a different topic focus and features a bumper deep dive video class along with audio, worksheets, mini ebooks and more. Find out more about joining at: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimer-membership  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about the things that we need to consider if we're going to sext with a stranger, plus she talks about the importance of distinguishing between the experiencing and remembering self, and what to do when someone ignores you and then makes out that it's you who's ignoring them. This week's listener question is about whether her boyfriend living with another woman and raising a family with her is normal and whether her discomfort is "stupid", and Natalie shares what she's learned this week.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about the things we need to consider when we opt to take a break from our relationship, what intimacy is and five key habits that are a block to it, and how we avoid answering a question by replacing it with something else. This week's listener question is about how do we deal with people who clearly feel superior, and Natalie shares what she's learned this week.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about preferences versus programming, why driving is a metaphor for life and the importance of noticing what's going on around you so that you can broaden your perspective. This week's listener question is about when to recognise that reflection after a breakup has become rumination, plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about being motivated to move in with a partner for financial or practical reasons or because you're trialling out whether you want to commit to that person. Plus, Nat talks about why it's not a good idea to seek admiration, approval and validation, and why we don't need to advertise our insecurities and old hurt. This week's listener question is about whether it's wrong to give up on falling in love again or whether loved ones are wrong for pressuring about being in a relationship in the future, and Natalie shares what she learned this week. If We Give Up On Love, We Give Up On Ourselves http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/if-we-give-up-on-love-we-give-up-on-ourselves/  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

The original episode that went live on 27/09/16 has been replaced. In this episode of Why Did We Break Up? Natalie shares some universal lessons that apply to all breakups.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie shares tips for ensuring that you don’t undervalue you when it comes to salary or charging the right rate/price with clients, knowing when to fold, and means ‘mean’ goals versus end goals. This week’s listener dilemma is about how to deal with shady friendships and Natalie shares what she’s learned this week. Links from the show The Vicious Cycle of Undervaluing Yourself http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-vicious-cycle-of-undervaluing-yourself/ Knowing When To Fold http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/knowing-when-to-fold The Justifying Zone http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-justifying-zone Betting On Potential—Are you gambling on a relationship capacity that doesn’t exist? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/betting-on-potential-are-you-gambling-on-a-relationship-capacity-that-doesnt-exist/ The Blinkest app (note, I am not affiliated with Blinkist in any way) A couple of posts about boundaries and friendship http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/we-have-to-let-our-friendships-evolve/ and http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/when-you-experience-conflict-in-your-friendships-because-of-new-boundaries/  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In the latest episode of Why Did We Break Up?, Sandy and Rick got off to a flying start after being introduced via a mutual friend. They saw each other a few times a week, seemed to thoroughly enjoy each other's company, and were making plans for future dates. Then Rick received some bad news one night and asked to hang out with Sandy. While there, he got way friskier than she was comfortable with, so she slowed things down only for him to leave rather abruptly. They spoke again a couple of days later and then poof, he was gone. Sensitive to the fact that he was going through a rough time, she called him a few more times but he never returned her calls. You might want to check out my posts on ghosting and u-turns: What’s the Craic With Ghosting? (And no, it’s NOT the same as No Contact!) http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/whats-the-craic-with-ghosting-and-no-its-not-the-same-as-no-contact/ We Need To Talk About: ‘Ghosting’ In The Early Stages of Dating http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/ghosting-in-the-early-stages-of-dating/ Recovering from somebody doing a U-turn on their feelings or proclaimed intentions http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/recovering-from-somebody-doing-a-u-turn-on-their-feelings-or-proclaimed-intentions/ I also talked about ghosting in episode 20 http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/20 Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about how to start building your self-esteem, why you shouldn’t get too hung up on your ex moving on before you or with someone you think is ‘better’, and why there’s no need to tell someone you don’t like them. This week’s listener question is about whether we have a right to feel heartbroken over a relationship that never happened, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. 100 Days of Baggage Reclaim book: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/100daysbook Articles on Baggage Reclaim related to ‘Why them and not me?’ When you’re afraid they’ll become a better person in a better relationship, without you http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/what-keeps-you-up-a-night-pondering-whether-theyre-a-better-person-in-a-better-relationship-without-you/ He’s with someone else – Why her and not me? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/hes-with-someone-else-why-her-and-not-me/ 'Why him/her and not me?' Not everything is about us! http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-himher-and-not-me-not-everything-is-about-us Do you have a Replacement Mentality? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/do-you-have-a-replacement-mentality The Replacement Mentality: But WHY did they go back to their toxic ex when they could have had me? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-replacement-mentality-but-why-did-they-go-back-to-their-toxic-ex-when-they-could-have-had-me Don’t Be The Bridge Between Someone’s Old & New Relationship http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/dont-be-the-bridge-between-someones-old-new-relationship Return On Investment in Relationships http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/return-on-investment-in-relationships ‘I Can Change Him’ Syndrome/Fixer-Uppers http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/i-can-change-himher-syndrome-dont-tie-your-worth-to-trying-to-control-the-uncontrollable Betting On Potential – Are You Gambling On a Relationship Capacity That Doesn’t Exist? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/betting-on-potential-are-you-gambling-on-a-relationship-capacity-that-doesnt-exist Betting On Potential in Relationships http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/betting-on-potential-in-relationships Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In the latest episode of Why Did We Break Up?, Molly and Steven met in their late teens at the start of their careers and 14 years, 2 kids, marriage and a business that they had to declare bankruptcy on, Steven has announced that he needs some time out to be on his own and figure out who he is, only to rent himself an apartment and begin a series of flings followed by two girlfriends. Feeling rejected, replaced, and rather confused about what is going on, Natalie helps Molly see what is really going so that she can grab her freedom and build her life on her own terms. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about finding making new friends daunting and shares tips for being more open to it, plus she shares 10 questions for discerning whether your partner is emotionally available, and shares a couple of comments from listeners about what they learned from holidaying on their own, something she talked about in episode 42. This week’s listener question is about how to broach the subject of taking things slowly with sex, and Natalie shares what she’s learned this week. You can download the, Is Your Partner Emotionally Available? questions at www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/46-download The episode about recognising your own availability is www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/28 Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In the latest episode of Why Did We Break Up?, Katie is still reeling after ending a 21-month affair with a married man who doesn’t seem to grasp why him not leaving his wife is a deal-breaker. Natalie helps Katie make the link between this affair, the breakdown of her marriage and earlier experiences in life so that she can use the pain of the fallout of this relationship as a vehicle for huge growth and healing. The blog post that Natalie refers to in the episode about being the favourite child (or wanting to be) influences our disposition to be involved in an affair http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/being-the-favourite-child-or-wanting-to-be-influences-our-disposition-to-involved-in-an-affair/ Also, the post on there’s no such thing as an honest cheat http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/theres-no-such-thing-as-an-honest-cheat-and-other-thoughts-on-cheating/ And another on why affairs are like being double-crossed in a heist http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-affairs-are-like-being-double-crossed-in-a-heist/  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about the unnecessary apologising and backtracking habit, how getting your stuff in order can help you to clear out mentally and emotionally, and the importance of feeling all your feelings. This week’s listener question is about what to do about somebody who hogs the conversation leaving you to be a ‘good listener’, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. The picture of stuff that I bagged up from the corner of my dining room and the comments https://www.instagram.com/p/BJH-LQVB909/?taken-by=natlue Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

It's the year 2000 and Steve and Danielle meet via mutual friends at a club in London. She's fresh out of a relationship with someone she calls "cold" and "emotionally abusive" and he feels as if he's over his ex who left him abruptly during a vulnerable time a few years back. He feels protective of and curious about this woman who he deems "out of his league". Sixteen years, two daughters and a marriage later and they're now divorced. Steve is taking the blame for why Danielle ended the relationship and has proceeded to date other men right under his nose. It's time to answer his question: Why Did We Break Up? Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about going on holiday/vacation on your own and shares stories and tips from her own adventure. Plus, she shares ten tips for conflict resolution when you’re in a relationship, and explains why it’s never the people who are actually bad at their job that have Imposter Syndrome. This week’s listener question is about how to break the cycle of casual relationships when you’re ready for something more serious, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. From the conflict resolution segment: What’s the baggage behind it? www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/2 Get Out of Stuck Guide (for working on beliefs) http://store.baggagereclaim.co.uk/product/get-out-of-stuck-ebook-and-worksheet-pack/ Be notified about when The Breakthrough is open for enrollment http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-breakthrough Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this special edition of the show, which also marks the one-year anniversary, Natalie introduces the new offshoot, Why Did We Break Up?, where she explores one breakup in depth and answers the question of why they broke up. This episode features Yasmine and Russell, two thirty-somethings who 'met' online and arranged to meet up really quickly, only for her to be very turned off by what she saw. Despite her awkwardness and making her excuses, she agreed to keep their arrangement to meet up the following day as she felt a mix of pity and curiosity. Two months of 'friendly' meetups and they slept together, and BOOM, it was the beginning of the end. The Instagram of me recording in the closet: https://instagram.com/p/BJSXemDhNfA  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about why a relationship needs to have purpose and direction if you want it to grow (or for you to feel happy), how to deal with narcissistic co-workers, family and partners, and the importance of redirecting the energy that you use to make you unworthy. This week's listener question is about what to do when you disapprove of your friend's choice in a partner and their impending hasty wedding plans and Natalie shared what she learned this week about dimming her light.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about resistance to taking time off and fear of using holiday allowance, trying to make every relationship fly by being in love or seeing a future with every date and partner, and why we shouldn’t get too carried away by ‘graduation goggles’. This week’s listener question is about distinguishing between ego and boundaries and Natalie shares what she learned this week about managing expectations. What’s the baggage behind it? is at www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/2   Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

Natalie shares some of the themes of her 38th year, talks about why being self-critical creates a vicious cycle where you end up being around people that validate and increase negative feelings, and why setting a time to worry can break a worry habit. This week's listener question is about whether to confront a friend that seems to be pulling back and Natalie shares what she learned this week. The 8 types of inner critic www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/20  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

This week, Natalie explains why being too passive can send the wrong message in a relationship, shares 5 questions to help you figure out your values, and talks about why passive-aggressive gifts really are not a gift at all. This week’s listener question is about how to overcome feelings of jealousy and revenge and Natalie shares what she learned from facing down the big challenge of driving on the motorway. Curbing Your Obsession guide - http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/my-books/curbing-your-obsession-quick-guide-pdf-epub/  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

This week, Natalie explains why decluttering exes and dates from your phone makes good relationship and emotional business, talks about the problem with family secrets, and revisits "You complete me". This week's listener question is about plus-one etiquette and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. The Huff Post piece by Jennifer Aniston http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/for-the-record_us_57855586e4b03fc3ee4e626f My post on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/baggagereclaim/posts/10154221634428950 Episode 2 where I talked about "You complete me" http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/2 Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about pretending to like something when we don't as a means of fitting in or to come across as more appealing to a potential mate. She also explains the 7 types of tricky family and why she's been getting a bit twitchy about turning 39 in a few weeks. Episode 25 about birthdays is http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/25 My cousin's B&B http://www.therunawayjamaica.com Soulful PR https://janetmurray.co.uk That time when I got very stressy at conference http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/lessons-from-a-short-lived-comparison-binge And the keynote that resulted https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LdKIUrAi9ao  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie follows up ep. 33 (baggagereclaim.co.uk/33) where she talked about personality and character not being the same by exploring one of the subjects within this--why someone being charming as their dominant trait can pose certain types of problem. In the second segment, she explains the importance of identifying your money story if you find that you get triggered about money or are experiencing a recurring theme. You can grab the Unsent Letter Guide at baggagereclaim.co.uk/downloads In the third segment, she explains why even when someone can do something, it doesn't mean that they have to. This week's listener question is about what to do when you're single and your loved ones keep prying into your love life.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 33, Natalie talks about the importance of distinguishing between personality and character, why some of us are over-responsible' and how we can start to address it, and why we don't need to keep trying to make somebody see something from our perspective or keep trying to make them explain or apologise. This week's listener question is about what to do when a one-night stand followed by some fun dates peters out but you've developed feelings, plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 32, Natalie talks about gratitude and why shifting the focus of what you think about can have a big impact on your day plus she explains deal-breakers and why we all need to have some things that no matter how much attraction or feelings that we have for someone, that would cause us to opt-out. She also talks about how to know what you're responsible for and helps Prue distinguish between expectations and boundaries in this week's listener question. She also shares what she learned this week. I made a mistake at the end of the episode and the link to the 30-day project, Embrace Healthy Boundaries course is http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/happyboundaries Use the code PODCAST to get 30% off the course. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 31 of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, Natalie explains why procrastinating isn't about laziness, talks about the myriad of emotions you experience when an absent/estranged parent is ill, and why some so-called mutual agreements really aren't mutual. This week's listener question is about reclaiming your dignity after sex on an early date doesn't turn into a relationship and Natalie shares what she's learned this week about fear of change. The book Get Things Done by Robert Kelsey http://amzn.to/1ZF7Qwl that I mention in the first segment about procrastination.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 30, Natalie dedicates the show to answering listener questions. Can I stand up to my disrespectful colleague? This listener was told to "shut up" by someone who she thought was a friend and they did it in front of everyone too. 
 Should I send a 'keep me in mind for the future' letter to my ex? Her widower workaholic long-distance boyfriend has broken it off to date a woman closer to home and her therapist has suggested that due to the circumstances, that she should send him a letter telling him to get in touch if his situation changes. 
  I can't get a job and I feel like a failure in comparison to my 'successful' siblings. This is one of those situations that really exemplifies the vicious cycle of a self-fulfilling prophecy. Living with her dysfunctional family who patronise and insult her plus going out with a 'successful' younger guy plus 'successful' siblings plus her friends having jobs is convincing her that she has every reason to think that she's a failure.  Do I think too much? A comment that she's heard too often from past partners, this listener is starting to question the aspects of her that she prides herself on. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 29, Natalie talks about finding the middle ground between expecting people to be 'perfect' and not having standards and boundaries in your relationship. She also shares on her recent experiences with hypnotherapy and how that influenced her taking a break, plus she talks about people who are judgmental and critical but it can be difficult to put your finger on because they're also so 'nice'. This week's listener question is, 'How do I stop being piggy in the middle with my parents and my sister?', and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. The New Year episode that I refer to in the second segment (re some of the reasons for going to hypnotherapy) is www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/17 Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 28, Natalie talks about life plans, emotional availability, and why it’s not fair when people shame us for not wanting to be friends or not being ready to move on just yet. This week’s listener question is about boundaries and ultimatums and Natalie shares what she’s learned this week about ‘overreacting’. In the first part of the show, Natalie builds on episode 27 where she shared what she learned about her need for a life plan and explores why we might not have one and includes suggestions for increasing awareness of our priorities. Download Creating Your Personal Life Plan by Michael Hyatt http://bit.ly/mhlifeplan The backstory to me thinking about life plans in episode 27 https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/27 More on ‘mise-en-place’http://n.pr/1ptmytV In the second part of the show, Natalie explains emotional unavailability and the key fears behind it as well as ten key questions for understanding your own availability. Download “10 Key Questions To Open Up Your Awareness About Your Emotional Availability” http://bit.ly/1pz2nv2 Check out this post: ‘Do you want to be with an emotionally available person? Be emotionally available YOURSELF’ http://bit.ly/1O2fHzy In the third part of the show, Natalie explains why it’s not fair when people shame us for not wanting to be friends [after a breakup] or for not being over something yet. This week’s listener wants to know where to draw the line with setting boundaries and issuing ultimatums. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 27 of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, Natalie talks about No Contact and Low Contact at work, fear of failure and why she’s glad she stopped looking for what she used to look for. This week’s listener wants to know if the guys she’s dating are “too emotional” and Natalie shares what she learned about drifting and the need for at least a little bit of life planning. In the first part of the show, Natalie gives a brief overview of No Contact and Low Contact and shares her own experience which was part of the inspiration for her book, The No Contact Rule. She offers up 7 tips for navigating low contact at work which you can also download: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/27download More about The No Contact Rule Book: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/NC You can also download 10 Irrational Fears About No Contact: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/27download In the second part of the show, Natalie explains how having a parent or key influencer who pushes you to the best and who tells you that failure isn’t an option, can instil a fear of failure that causes you to coast. Natalie includes questions for self-exploration and some perspective on ‘failing’. Download The Unsent Letter Guide: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/downloads/ In the third part of the show, Natalie shares why she’s glad she stopped looking for mommy and daddy figures in her romantic partners because next week, she will be celebrating 10 years together with Em (her husband). This week’s listener has gone from being with emotionally unavailable men to working on her availability, to feeling uncomfortable when she meets guys who seem “too emotional” because they talk and share their feelings. She keeps meeting guy after guy like this and wonders what’s ‘normal’. In What I Learned This Week, Natalie is thinking about life plans after she listened to Amy Porterfield’s business podcast (link: http://bit.ly/21mUmVs) and the interviewee Michael Hyatt’s sage advice on how we drift into chaos really resonated with her.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie questions whether we can really blame someone's inability to commit on whether they're just not that into us. Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl http://bit.ly/mrfbg In the second segment, where each week Natalie helps listeners to better understand their emotional baggage and grow in self-awareness, she explores our relationship with time, namely why some of us have a habit of being late and why some of us are so scared of it. Post on the blog about lateness: http://bit.ly/1fymR1H In the third segment, Natalie talks about the myth of 'overnight success' and why it's important not to discard other people's journeys. This week’s listener needs some tips on sticking to her boundaries and values. 30-Day Project: Embrace Healthy Boundaries http://bit.ly/EmbraceBoundaries Natalie also shares advice from her 6 and 8-year-old daughters on being clear on NO. The book I mention is the wonderful, The Little Girl Who Lost Her No by Amy M. Starkey http://amzn.to/1L7xeIT  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explains the key reasons for the breakdown of a relationship and how bottom line, they're all the same reason—incompatibility. Understanding Why Some Relationships Don’t Work Out http://bit.ly/18WdqFx In the second segment where each week Natalie helps listeners to better understand their emotional baggage and grow in self-awareness, she explains some of the reasons why we get being triggered by birthdays. I discuss how to uncover what the baggage is behind an issue in episode 2.  In the third segment, Natalie talks about how we can all be a bit more tolerant when it comes to our minor irritations with loved ones and how we sometimes forget that we have our irritating ways too! This week’s listener needs some tips for calming herself down where she gets into a state of thinking and feeling awful things about herself. Download  7 Steps For Calming Yourself Down When You’re In A Negative Self-Talk Spiral: http://bit.ly/7stepscalm Check out the How To Self-Soothe Quick Guide I mentioned: http://bit.ly/brselfsoothe Natalie also shares what she learned from her 8-year-old daughter wrongly believing that she’d been in trouble when she hadn’t. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie offers up some suggestions for dating as a single parent, explores the difference between help and support, and explains The Debit and Credit Trust System. This week’s listener wants to know how to cope with turning 30 when everyone else has gotten married etc, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. In the first segment I mentioned Episode 1, you can find it on iTunes or listen here: https://bit.ly/BRSessions1 I also talk about: No Contact Rule book: https://bit.ly/NoContactRule Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl: https://bit.ly/MrUnavailable The Debit and Credit Trust System: https://bit.ly/BRTrust  and http://bit.ly/BRCommit  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie delves into the tricky subject of name-calling and swearing at someone in an argument and whether this is really ‘OK’, plus she shares three key admissions - admitting where you’ve made a mistake, admitting what you don’t know, and admitting what you’re pretending not to know - that keep us human and humble, and she explains some of the benefits of affirmations including sharing some of her personal experiences of them transforming how she was feeling. This week’s listener wants to know how to deal with a partner that shuts down discussion and Natalie shares what she’s learned this week. Free resources referred to in this episode: Unsent Letter Guide: http://bit.ly/NatsULG Feelings Diary: http://bit.ly/FeelingsDiary Affirmations “I am safe. I am secure. All is well”, “I trust my higher self. I listen with love to my inner voice. I release all that is unlike the action of love”. “I always deserve love, care, trust and respect”. You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay http://amzn.to/240ROAw Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about why we get stressed out by Valentine’s Day and includes suggestions for putting things back into context plus she talks about why trying to get someone else to change won’t fix the problem, as well has how to keep a gossiping in check . This week’s listener question is about letting go after realising that even though a few years have gone by, you’re not over your divorce, plus Natalie shares what she learned about the need to take care of her inner child so that she isn’t always ‘serious’.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explains why you shouldn't write off the year if it hasn't started out as you envisioned, why some of us struggle with decision-making and what we need to make healthy decisions as well as why the early stages of dating is guesswork. This week's listener question is about how to recover from being told by two exes that they're not sexually attracted to her, plus Natalie shares what she's learned about her resistance to certain types of planning.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie questions whether a couple would really get divorced over leaving a glass out after reading a blog on the subject (http://bit.ly/MustBeThisTall), as well as explaining the 8 types of inner critic and their individual motivations and irrational fears, plus she offers up 6 magic words for that certain someone that wants to dump their responsibility on you. This week's listener question is about what to do when you want to confront an issue that needs confronting but the other person refuses and has 'ghosted' you, plus Natalie shares about what she learned about intuition when her daughter was ill recently.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explains why someone else’s partner isn’t the person for you, why change and happiness isn’t going to come from following rules that you’ve made based on guilt and fear, and why you can’t keep talking about intentions or how someone can’t help something, when they keep doing the same thing and they control themselves with others. This week’s listener question is from someone who wants to know why she hasn’t completely closed the door on a breakup from two years ago, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week when she got acknowledgment and an apology over 20 years after the original event.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explains why sarcasm backfires sometimes and why you need to be mindful of using it on dates, as well as talking about how to let go of ‘woundedness’, and why consistent actions of self-esteem will reap more rewards than sporadic efforts. This week’s listener question is about how to strive for an equal relationship after a divorce from unhealthy marriage plus Natalie shares what she’s learned this week.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this new year special, Natalie takes you through her 2015, sharing the lessons she learned from her bumpy but also joyful ride. In the second part of the show she talks about new year’s resolutions and why they need to matter in some way if they’re going to have any chance of sticking, and in the third and final part, she closes out with some final words about the year and looking ahead. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explains why people who treat others as a means to an end have a booty call mentality, talks through regret and why it’s connected to our inner critic, and explains Show Pony Parenting. This week’s listener question is about what to do when it appears that a friendship has fizzled out after a bust-up, plus, Natalie shares how faffing about what to do over Christmas has been a reminder about how we only commit by getting the ball rolling as a result of making decisions and taking steps.  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explains how indecision over our boundary lines can cause us to accept the unacceptable, why we don’t need to keep overspending to prove our worth, and explains the connection between a short-term mentality and commitment issues. This week’s listener question is about what to do when you’ve been on a date or few and are not that interested, plus, Natalie shares why she’s OK with taking her time to process stuff (even if others aren’t). Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks why some people find long-distance relationships attractive because it allows them to limit their vulnerability, why broaching a conversation with a parent where you paint a picture of what you went through in the past can be a springboard seeing and hearing each other more clearly and shares tips for dealing with a bullying coworker. This week’s listener question is about what to do when you’ve decided not to trust all women (or all men) after getting burnt in a relationship plus, Natalie shares what she’s learned from listening to her body. Download The Unsent Letter Guide mentioned in the second segment from baggagereclaim.co.uk/downloads Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks why it’s a bad idea to be an emotional airbag, the factors that influence how long it will take for you to get over a breakup, how the core theme from challenges can become a personal mantra for success. This week’s listener question is about what to do when you diverge on a core value in a good relationship plus, Natalie shares how her recent trip to San Francisco has reminded her of how thankful she is for the Baggage Reclaim community.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about the 12 weeks of self-esteem torment which runs from mid-November until just after Valentine’s day, why having a type causes you to have a blind spot, and a key reason why some people struggle to reply to texts immediately. This week’s listener question is about whether it’s ever OK to fake it in bed plus, Natalie shares how standing up for herself and resigning from her position of class rep for one of her daughter’s classes has been a reminder about knowing when to fold and staying true to your values. You can read more about the 12 weeks of self-esteem torment here: http://bit.ly/setorment Read more about toxic type here http://bit.ly/YMo0p9 plus if you have a long-established pattern of unhealthy relationships, check out The Pattern Breaker: http://bit.ly/thepatternbreaker Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about the difference between confronting issues and confrontation, why we sometimes need to get mad before we can feel grateful and recognise the lessons, and why it’s OK to feel protective of your space and not quite ready to date, when you first start getting to know and like you. This week’s listener question is about helping a listener understand if the difference between being vulnerable and having walls plus, Natalie shares what she’s learned after being offered money by a family member and wondering if she was supposed to decline it. Download the Feelings Diary Guide and Unsent Letter Guide from baggagereclaim.com/downloads The Three Good Things Notebooks mentioned in the second segment are available: store.baggagereclaim.co.uk Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about when somebody fakes a future with you and whether they’re doing it deliberately, why we close off our options when we encounter issues with a family member, and what to do when somebody keeps asking you for favours. This week’s listener question is about understanding jealousy plus Natalie shares what she’s learned from helping her daughters to not feel so stressed out by making mistakes. You can find out more about Future Faking at baggagereclaim.co.uk/tag/future-faking/  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie asks, Why do we want to be break up ’nicely’?, talks about why we don’t listen to our inner voices and digs into the topic of figuring out the “right” time to be exclusive. This week’s listener question is about what “being yourself” means and Natalie shares how this week she’s learned that she’s more of a creature of habit than she’d realised. You can find out more about my courses at baggagereclaim.co.uk/courses  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about those inappropriate and insensitive comments and questions that singles contend with, whether we ‘get over’ abandonment and abuse that we experienced in childhood, and how we sometimes use claiming to feel guilty as a substitute for actually doing something about the situation. This week's listener question is about what to do when one when a close friend is complaining about another not-so-close friend and whether you should say something and Natalie shares what she’s learned after over-scheduling herself one too many times.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about why keeping score isn’t good for our relationships, why we need self-care practices and even a routine in order to survive and thrive, and how we often get annoyed and frustrated with others about stuff we ourselves are guilty of. She also tackles this week's listener question about whether men and women can be friends (this is after one made unwanted advances at the other) and shares what she learned after facing down her fear of confrontation with her family and told them that she wasn’t spending Christmas with them this year.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about why asking for help is good for our relationships, why too much worry impacts our well-being, and why it's important not to judge you or your friend when they go quiet due to going through a struggle. She also tackles this week's listener question about dating someone who is too busy to actually date and shares how she's learned that she needs to not be so scared of breaking certain 'rules'.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie delves into the pitfalls of trying to be liked by everyone and includes suggestions for detangling you from the habit. She also talks about why we get so stressed out by tricky co-workers and how to get some balance and tackles the minefield of who pays on the first few dates, plus she answers her weekly listener question and shares the lesson she learned this week. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie asks why we take Facebook so seriously and explains some of the ways that the social network has impacted on our psyche as well as the way that we engage with each other. She also covers the self-care practice of keeping a Feelings Diary, The Pretty Woman Complex aka the can I turn a booty call into a relationship fairy tale, and answers her weekly listener question plus shares the lesson she learned this week.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie discusses the role of the very critical parent and how it significantly influences our relationship with criticism and why boredom can be code for fear of having to spend time with our own thoughts and feelings. Here is the handy link to my post about dealing with criticism and conflict. http://bit.ly/18WVhY2 Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie explains what’s behind the baffling behaviour of somebody who tells you that they’re not interested yet they keep seeking attention from you, plus she talks about why “You complete me” grates on her and the importance of self-acceptance, what to do if you bump into your ex when you’re No Contact, as well as sharing what she’s learned this week. **Note** In the “You complete me” segment, Natalie slipped on the second reference to the film and said Jerry Springer instead!  Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership  

In this first podcast I cover: How do you know when you’re ready to date? The self-care practice of Unsent Letters.  How do you know if you’re doing something for the wrong reasons? Listener Question – How do you calm down negative chatter? What Nat learned this week: I got ‘hangry’ (hungry and angry) and it reminded me of some vital lessons about self-care.  Download the Unsent Letters Guide. Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership