We live in a society that separates you based on your sexual orientation. We have formed different languages, dress codes, conducts and even formed different neighborhoods. While being gay in the world has become more accepted in the last three decades, we still live in a prejudiced world. What would happen if a gay and a straight man sat at the table, lowered their guards, and spoke the raw truth to each other? Well, in this podcast, we’ll find out. It’s an interesting paradox. We all really want to know how we show in the world but we do everything we can to avoid it. Its like an itch we want to scratch but also tend to ignore. We create secret covert alliances with our friends, families, workmates and enemies for them to withhold the truth, to make things safe rather than real. In doing so, we never truly know what people think about us. For some, this is okay. Maybe not for you. Every week, coach, entrepreneur and teacher Rob Kandell will leading a group experience where he will speak his heart-filled, intense, tuff love. He will (a) answer questions posted to this event and via chat, (b) speak his mind plainly on topics of interest, and (c) coach brave enthusiastic volunteers in a group setting. Honestly, we don’t know what’s going to happen.
3.6: What We Want You To Know
In the final show of Season Three of Six Vulnerable Conversations between a gay and a straight man entitled What We Want You to Know, we will be discussing our messages to each other and the world on how we can better relate to each other. We’ll be taking off the gloves and speaking the raw truth, the Tuff Love, and more so we can live together in this chaotic world. It’s the last bit of pieces and ideas and concepts to communicate about our ideas about laws and workforces to the youth of America and other countries, and those final little pieces of advice that we each want the other person and you, our audience, to know.
6/8/2018 • 43 minutes, 35 seconds
3.5: Living in Today’s World
Jeff lives as a gay man in Los Angeles. Rob lives as a straight man. Both of us have partners, have jobs, go grocery shopping, pay our taxes, and have very common experiences. However, underneath that, what are the differences of our lives in today’s society with our different sexual orientations. We will be discussing our relationship to fear, violence, our families, and more.
6/1/2018 • 58 minutes, 31 seconds
3.4: Stereotypes
As a man born of this society, my mind is filled with thousands of misconstrued gay stereotypes, having absorbed this from mainstream media portrayal of gay culture since the day I first started watching TV. Upon closer inspection, 95% of these stereotypes are probably incorrect. But what if they are correct? Are there stereotypes that gay men have of their straight counterparts? In show four of Six Conversations Season 3, Robert and Jeff discuss the numerous stereotypes linked to each other’s sexual orientation. Heterosexuality is so normative in our society that straight men get a free pass. They’re not prejudged while gay individuals are significantly judged solely based on their sexual orientation. Then there’s internalized homophobia, which is a gay man’s hatred of himself for simply existing – like a queer person reacting to queer exposure. It’s terrifying, but it’s the truth. Let’s take a look into the hilarious, honest, and sometimes heartbreaking stereotypes about America’s hetero and homosexual bubble.
5/25/2018 • 54 minutes, 7 seconds
3.2: Talking about Sex
So many raw truths have gone unspoken in Six Vulnerable Conversations with Jeff Jacobson, a gay man. What really happened in the One Taste Warehouse? Will monogamy be replaced by polygamy? Six Vulnerable Conversations between a Gay Man (Jeff) and a straight man (Robert) gets down to basics and talk about sex. There are so many questions that arise when talk about the differences of our desires, orientation and experiences, and that juicy Death Trap kissing scene between Christopher Reeves and Michael Caine. Listen to the raw truth as we get real about our views on sexuality.
5/11/2018 • 58 minutes, 9 seconds
3.1: The Social Chasms Between Being Straight And Being Gay
On the Kinsey Scale, there’s the hetero, gay, and something in the middle called bi-curious. The Kinsey Scale is used in research to describe a person’s sexual orientation based on their experience or response at a given time. Jeff Jacobson, a coach, educator, and author, happily identifies himself as gay. He tackles issues such as societal chasms that exist between the two sexual orientations and the subtle misconceptions on being straight and being gay as he lays down the raw basics of the differences of views.
