Welcome to episode 374 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh. In today's episode, Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh discusses her book and her new model of emerging love. The model focuses on six main ingredients for a successful relationship: attraction, trust, shared vision, respect, compassion, and acts of being loving towards one another. She expands on the role of attraction and the concept of building on physical chemistry to create sexual harmony.  Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, a distinguished expert in Sexuality, Relationships, and Intercultural Fluency, is recognized for her global contributions as a speaker, author, and consultant. Dr. Nasserzadeh's media presence is notable, having created and hosted "The Whispers" for BBC World Service, a pioneering program on sexuality in the Middle East, and featured in major outlets like CNN, NPR, and Harper’s Bazaar.  She is also an accomplished author, with her latest book, "Love By Design," based on extensive research. Her involvement extends to various professional organizations, including AASECT and ISSWSH, contributing significantly to the field.   Currently based in Los Angeles, California, Dr. Nasserzadeh maintains an active international profile, engaging in speaking engagements and cultural research. She serves on the United Nations Population Fund's task force on Religion and Sexual & Reproductive Health Rights. Her work primarily focuses on coaching and consultancy, emphasizing future-oriented strategies and personal development, distinct from psychotherapy or mental health counseling.  In this episode you will hear:  The Importance of Chemistry in Relationships Exploring the Concept of Sexual Harmony Media Impact on Our Perception of Relationships Importance of Self-Knowledge in Building Relationships The Role of Chemistry in Long-Term Relationships Six Ingredients for a Thriving Relationship Understanding the Role and Meaning of Sex in Relationships The Importance of Touch in Relationships  Stress Reduction Toolkithttps://nazanin-moali.mykajabi.com/opt-in Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 373 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Rena Martine. In today's episode, Rena discusses her personal journey that led her from a conventional career as a Deputy District Attorney specializing in hard crimes to her current path as an intimacy coach and sexual wellness advocate. She discusses the importance of self-compassion, body adoration, media awareness, and perspective in cultivating a healthier self-image and deeper intimacy in sexual relationships.  Rena Martine, a native Los Angeleno, now resides in Echo Park, near her partner. Passionate about smelly cheese, dramatic cinema, and 60’s music, she enjoys dancing and spending time with her Siamese cat, Lucha ("Chooch"). Rena often connects with loved ones, radiating happiness and occasionally enjoying a cocktail.   Holding a Juris Doctor from Loyola Law School and a Bachelor of Arts in Sociology from California State University Los Angeles, Rena excelled as a law review editor and author. She also earned a certificate in Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania. As a Certified Life Coach with Lumia Coaching and a Master Coach recognized by High Impact Coaching, she is committed to her career, continually enhancing her knowledge and skills through ongoing research and client interactions.   In this episode you will hear:  Rena Martine's Journey into Sex Coaching The Gap in Sexual Self-Help Books Unveiling Rena's New Book The Impact of Self-Image on Sexuality How to Have Sensitive Conversations Transitioning from Prosecution to Pleasure Advocacy The CAMP Method for Body Love The Influence of Media on Body Image  Iroha Sponsor https://collabs.shopify.com/collab/2225176 101 Ways To Spice Up Your Relationship https://sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 372 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Amanda Pasciucco. In today's episode, Amanda emphasizes the importance of trust, communication, and thorough knowledge of knot tying for both the rigger and the receiver. The conversation touches on the history of Shibari, its cultural relevance, and its sensual, alluring nature. She also warns of potential risks and mistakes, suggesting that the art should be learned from a master or an experienced practitioner.  Dr. Amanda Pasciucco, known as "The Sex Healer," is a renowned catalyst for reigniting passion in romantic and sexual relationships. With over 15 years of experience, she has helped thousands of individuals and couples transform their sexual lives. As a Latina international clinician and speaker, Dr. Pasciucco has been featured in prestigious publications such as Psychology Today, Good Therapy, and PsychCentral, as well as prominent media outlets like CNN, TLC, and Playboy.   Her expertise extends to working with high-profile clients, including musicians, celebrities, reality TV stars, public figures, and Olympic athletes. Through online therapy, she provides discreet care to all those in need, ensuring confidentiality and privacy in accordance with the ethical code of licensed professionals.   Dr. Pasciucco's success is evident in the consistent 5-star reviews she and her team receive from clients. Her charismatic and straightforward approach, combined with the integration of tantra techniques, sex therapy, and somatic experience, serves as a powerful motivator for individuals seeking personal growth and fulfillment in their intimate lives.   In this episode you will hear:  Understanding Shibari: The Art of Japanese Rope Bondage The History and Popularity of Shibari Setting Up a Shibari Scene: Precautions and Preparations Understanding the Attraction and Benefits of Bondage Setting Up a Shibari Scene: Precautions and Preparations The Artistry and Complexity of Shibari Why Communication and Trust is key in Shibari The Importance of Aftercare in Shibari  Afternoon Delight: A Live Podcast Experience https://adlive.eventbrite.com  Couply Sponsor https://couply.page.link/afternoondelight  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 371 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Erika Lust. In today's episode, Erika discusses her journey and perspective on creating ethical adult films.  A political science student interested in gender studies and sexuality; Erika was dissatisfied with the male-centric portrayal of women in conventional pornography. She believes ethical porn production caters to the woman's gaze, portrays relatable pleasure, and presents a broader scope of sexual experiences.  Erika Lust, an acclaimed independent erotic filmmaker, is renowned for her sex-positive adult cinema that challenges gender stereotypes and rejects harmful fetishizations. With a focus on relatable characters and realistic intimate scenes, she offers a groundbreaking alternative to mainstream porn. Over the past two decades, the Lust brand has flourished, with Erika directing six feature films and series, as well as over 130 short films and producing approximately 150 more.   In 2015, Erika delivered a compelling TEDx talk titled 'It's Time for Porn to Change', emphasizing the need for transformation within the industry. Her story was showcased in the Netflix documentary series 'Hot Girls Wanted: Turned On ("Women on Top")', directed by Rashida Jones, and 'Principles of Pleasure', directed by Niharika Desai. Recognized for her influence, Erika was named one of the BBC 100 Women's most influential women of the year in 2019. Her alternative approach to pornography gained further recognition in 2022, as it was featured in The New York Times and the BBC Three & HULU series 'Planet Sex with Cara Delevingne'. Additionally, she delivered a TEDx Talk in Athens, urging adults to engage in 'The Porn Conversation' with younger generations.   In this episode you will hear:  Erika's Journey to Becoming a Porn Director The Problem with Mainstream Porn Creating a New Perspective in Porn The Evolution of Porn Industry Understanding the Importance of Storytelling in Porn Overcoming Stigma Around Working in the Porn Industry The Impact of Commercialization on Porn Analyzing The Future of the Porn Industry  Beducate https://beducate.me/pd2406-sexology   Use code – sexology  Free Erotica https://oasis2care.com/free-erotica/  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 370 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Natasha Helfer. In today's episode, we discuss the negative impact of sexual shame often fostered in religious societies, touching on topics such as: religious trauma, community expectations on sexual behavior and the shunning of self-determination.  Natasha Helfer is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist with over 20 years of experience in treating individuals, couples, and families. She creates an approachable and safe space, often using humor, for discussing sensitive topics. Helfer specializes in assisting clients with interpersonal relationships, sexual development, and navigating religious or spiritual journeys. She is adept at supporting individuals whether they choose to remain in or leave their faith communities, respecting all religious choices.   Helfer is a seasoned speaker, presenting at national and professional conferences, universities, and hosting retreats, training, and workshops. She has a broad experience working with thousands of clients in both private practice and agency settings and is open to speaking engagements. She advocates for sexual health in marginalized populations, including LGBTQ+, religious minorities, and women, and works to de-stigmatize sexual lifestyle choices influenced by cultural, personal, or religious biases.   She offers both in-office and online therapy, coaching, and consultation services to a diverse clientele, including national and international clients. Helfer is also available for training and consultation with ecclesiastical leaders and mental health professionals on specific cases.   Additionally, Helfer serves as a supervisor for AASECT, guiding professionals seeking AASECT certification.   In this episode you will hear:  The Role of Fear and Guilt in Sexual Behavior Understanding the Impact of Cultural and Religious Messages on Sexuality Exploring the Spectrum of Religion and Sexuality The Misconceptions and Myths Surrounding Sexuality Creativity in Sexual Pleasure The Role of Fantasy in Sexuality How Fear and Guilt impact Sexual Behavior Understanding the Impact of Sexual Shame on Mental Health The importance of Education in Sexual Safety  Afternoon Delight: A Live Podcast Experience https://adlive.eventbrite.com    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 369 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Stephanie Bathurst. In today's episode, we discuss various aspects of pelvic floor function, emphasizing how aging and factors like obesity, constipation, and physical trauma can weaken it, consequently affecting sexual health and leading to issues like erectile dysfunction and chronic pelvic pain.  Dr. Stephanie Bathurst is a dedicated clinician and coach, celebrated for her role as the founder of Bathurst Family Therapy™. She thrives in her role as a support system and guide for healing, aspiring to assist others through the information and advice shared on her site, fostering self-discovery.   Dr. Bathurst specializes in working with couples and relationships, focusing on identifying and eliminating destructive communication patterns. She develops personalized plans to assist her clients in shaping their ideal-self within their partnerships. Her expertise extends to working with various relationship dynamics, including ethical non-monogamy, multi-amorous, kink, BDSM, swinging, and open relationships, and she embraces clients of all races, gender expressions, and sexual orientations.   Excitingly, Dr. Bathurst offers Couples Retreats in Oahu, HI, which present a unique integrative and holistic approach to relationship and sexual re-attachment. These retreats combine structured therapeutic techniques with the relaxing ambiance of a vacation, as seen in the sample itinerary and video available through a provided link, specifically tailored for married couples.   In this episode you will hear:  The importance of pelvic floor health and its impact on sexual health How pelvic floor consists of muscles and ligaments supporting reproductive organs Why a weak pelvic floor can lead to sexual challenges like erectile dysfunction How decline in collagen production from mid-twenties impacts pelvic floor function Understanding Peyronie's Disease, a condition causing painful curvature in the penis How obesity, constipation and prolonged pelvic pain can weaken the pelvic floor Why incorrect Kegel exercises can lead to problems How floor exercises can help with prostate health & recovery post-prostate surgery Looking at "Philates" a program combining Pilates with pelvic floor exercises  Optimal Performance https://nazanin-moali.mykajabi.com/optimal-performance     Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 368 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Katherine Bejanyan. In today's episode, we discuss how cultural and religious backgrounds shape individual expectations in relationships, the impact of early family dynamics, societal norms on intimacy, and the importance of effective communication.  Katherine Bejanyan is deeply passionate about relationships and is dedicated to helping others in this realm. Her professional activities include providing relationship counseling for both couples and singles.   In her role as a relationship expert and consultant for an exclusive dating agency, Bejanyan offers specialized guidance and insights. Additionally, she contributes her knowledge and perspectives on relationships through her writings for the Huffington Post.   Her primary objective is to continuously deepen her understanding of relationships and enhance her skills in assisting others with their relationship challenges.  Understanding more about relationships in cross-cultural contexts How cultural backgrounds significantly shape our expectations The way early family dynamics and societal norms deeply influence personal beliefs Common relationship challenges; handling family expectations and finances How misunderstandings in intimacy and sexual expectations are common The importance of effective communication, particularly in addressing differences  Key strategies for repairing relationship ruptures  Stress Management Toolkit https://nazanin-moali.mykajabi.com/opt-in   Afternoon Delight Event https://www.eventbrite.com/e/afternoon-delight-a-live-podcast-experience-tickets-767718646137?aff=oddtdtcreator&fbclid=PAAaa4MHRYpHP__3FcrH5G8G1qoLafa6qm3FjHyTUo7y4YM1gb52iTz8Kezwg_aem_AY0LrKeHQTwVeCxZyS0OsxFNMf_Os87_jee5qNlmIVMC6-IEgyPrcWsQRm59i6iilH8    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 367 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Ricky Arenson. In today's episode, Dr. Arenson will be sharing his expertise on his recently published book titled "Women are Superior to Men." We will delve into the motivations and revelations that inspired his work, as well as delve into the complexities of relationships and the significance of comprehending dynamic interactions.  Dr. Ricky Arenson, raised under the shadow of Table Mountain in Cape Town, was deeply influenced by the societal divisions of Apartheid, fueling his commitment to bridging gaps in today's "identity politics." Diagnosed with ADHD in childhood, he channeled his energy into creative pursuits like drawing and poetry, developing a unique perspective that later enriched his personal and professional life.   Meeting his wife in medical school, Dr. Arenson's relationship blossomed from her initial academic encouragement into a deep admiration for her roles as a wife and mother. This experience shaped his views on gender roles, inspiring him to advocate for the joys and magic of enduring love and marriage.   An award-winning teacher and dual specialist in Endocrinology and Geriatric Medicine, Dr. Arenson is passionate about teaching relationship management as a key to happiness. His career, marked by significant roles in medical leadership, has been a journey in learning about humility, humanity, and the pursuit of happiness.   In his free time, Dr. Arenson enjoys family time, tennis, fitness, stand-up comedy, and finding creative ways to balance work and leisure.  Dr. Arenson discusses his book "Women are Superior to Men." Being inspired by observing common relationship conflicts The importance of understanding relationship dynamics  Why partners need to give each other attention to maintain intimacy  The challenges modern parents face in balancing children's needs  How hormones play a lesser role in libido than factors like relationship quality  Understanding biological and emotional differences between men and women   Stress Management Toolkit https://nazanin-moali.mykajabi.com/opt-in  Afternoon Delight Event https://www.eventbrite.com/e/afternoon-delight-a-live-podcast-experience-tickets-767718646137?aff=oddtdtcreator&fbclid=PAAaa4MHRYpHP__3FcrH5G8G1qoLafa6qm3FjHyTUo7y4YM1gb52iTz8Kezwg_aem_AY0LrKeHQTwVeCxZyS0OsxFNMf_Os87_jee5qNlmIVMC6-IEgyPrcWsQRm59i6iilH8    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 366 of Sexology Podcast! Today we're delving into New Year's resolutions and their impact on relationships. Our expert guests share tips to revitalize your connection, making 2024 a year of passion.  In this episode you will hear from Dr. Laurie Petito, Dr. Jess O'Reilly, David Khalili, Ken Page, Dr. Lonnie Barback, Dr. Laurie Mintz, Diane Gleim and Gigi Engle who share their insightful thoughts on new year's tips and resolutions for 2024 that include:  New Year's resolution tips on sexual health and advocacy Tips to simplify complex sexual health and relationship subjects Key skills for overall life satisfaction and improved relationships Effective communication tips for partners The importance of conversations in a relationship Understanding porn literacy Crucial skills often overlooked in relationships Stress management techniques  Stress Management Toolkit https://nazanin-moali.mykajabi.com/opt-in   Afternoon Delight Event https://www.eventbrite.com/e/afternoon-delight-a-live-podcast-experience-tickets-767718646137?aff=oddtdtcreator&fbclid=PAAaa4MHRYpHP__3FcrH5G8G1qoLafa6qm3FjHyTUo7y4YM1gb52iTz8Kezwg_aem_AY0LrKeHQTwVeCxZyS0OsxFNMf_Os87_jee5qNlmIVMC6-IEgyPrcWsQRm59i6iilH8    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 365 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Amy Baldwin and April Lampert of the Shameless Sex Podcast. In this episode, we delve into the significance of embracing shifts in our sexual identity, suggestions for discovering trustworthy adult toys, and confidently expressing our desires without any sense of shame.  Amy is an expert in the field of Sex and Relationship Coaching and Sex Education. She is dedicated to spreading the message of embracing pleasure-focused sexuality education without any shame.  On the other hand, April is not only a motivational speaker but also a prominent figure in the sex-toy industry, having established herself as a sex toy mogul. Together, April and Amy have joined forces to create the Shameless Sex Podcast.  This podcast aims to inspire individuals to love themselves unconditionally, embrace their sexual empowerment, and foster shame-free intimacy. With a playful twist, they share real-life experiences and divulge all the details.    In this episode, you will hear:  The importance of embracing changes in one's sexual identity. How April worked with Amy worked together in an adult store. The way Shameless Sex aims to reduce shame and help people live a freer sex life. Looking at the issues that long-term relationships often face.  The significance of introducing sex toys in long-term relationships.  Recommendations for finding reliable sex toys.  The importance of communication especially when discussing desires.  Why you should give a sex toy at least three tries before deciding on one. Exploring different ways to orgasm and creating new neuropathways in the brain. Owning one's desires and communicating them without shame.  Discussed in this episode:Lelo Nea 2 Stress Management Toolkit https://nazanin-moali.mykajabi.com/opt-in  Afternoon Delight Event https://www.eventbrite.com/e/afternoon-delight-a-live-podcast-experience-tickets-767718646137?aff=oddtdtcreator&fbclid=PAAaa4MHRYpHP__3FcrH5G8G1qoLafa6qm3FjHyTUo7y4YM1gb52iTz8Kezwg_aem_AY0LrKeHQTwVeCxZyS0OsxFNMf_Os87_jee5qNlmIVMC6-IEgyPrcWsQRm59i6iilH8    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 364 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Emily Jamea. In this episode, we discuss the special nature of vacation sex, emphasizing the benefits of breaking routine, reducing stress, and fostering emotional connection.   With over fifteen years of experience in sex and relationship therapy, Dr. Emily Jamea, a licensed marriage and family therapist, LPC, and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, has earned recognition for her expertise, featured in esteemed publications such as Oprah Magazine, CNN, USA Today, NBC, CBS, Men’s Fitness, SELF, and Women’s Health. Actively contributing to Psychology Today and HealthyWomen.org, Dr. Jamea explores the correlation between flow and sexual satisfaction in her academic research.  As the host of the popular Love & Libido podcast, she shares insights and regularly writes columns for Healthy Women and Psychology Today. Engaging with her audience on social media (@dremilyjamea), she is set to release her upcoming book, "Anatomy of Desire" (Flatiron), in 2024. A sought-after speaker nationally and internationally, Dr. Jamea delivers impactful presentations to diverse audiences, including the general public, educators, and health professionals.  In line with her mission to make her expertise accessible, she offers online workshops. Dr. Jamea, an honors graduate from The University of Texas at Austin, holds a Master’s in counseling and a PhD in Clinical Sexology. Alongside her thriving private practice, she leads a fulfilling personal life as a happily married individual with two children. Embracing opportunities to travel, she nurtures her passions for painting and salsa dancing whenever time allows.     In this episode, you will hear:  How vacation sex is often special due to a break from the routine. The way reduced stress on vacation contributes to higher sexual desire. How emotional positively affects sexual experiences. Learning to communicate expectations about sex on vacation. Why it’s important to start small with sexual novelty. Analyzing flow state science and deep embodiment. The importance of discussing desired emotions and experiences How you can maintain the vacation sex energy at home.  Stress Management Toolkit https://nazanin-moali.mykajabi.com/opt-in   Afternoon Delight Event https://www.eventbrite.com/e/afternoon-delight-a-live-podcast-experience-tickets-767718646137?aff=oddtdtcreator&fbclid=PAAaa4MHRYpHP__3FcrH5G8G1qoLafa6qm3FjHyTUo7y4YM1gb52iTz8Kezwg_aem_AY0LrKeHQTwVeCxZyS0OsxFNMf_Os87_jee5qNlmIVMC6-IEgyPrcWsQRm59i6iilH8    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 363 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Heidi Gee. In this episode, we discuss overcoming discomfort with oral sex, how to approach the 69 position and learning to gently approach to clitoris.  Heidi Gee is a dedicated Sexologist and Relationship Therapist, who brings over 15 years of experience to her passionate mission. In her unwavering belief, EVERYONE, irrespective of background, gender, religion, sexual preference, or pizza topping choice, deserves a fulfilling relationship and sex life.   Driven by personal growth, navigating heartbreaks, and overcoming challenges, Heidi found her calling – supporting others in their journeys towards healthy relationships with themselves, others, and sex. Beyond her professional expertise, Heidi is also a qualified reiki master, adding a holistic touch to her approach.   During her downtime, Heidi immerses herself in music, theatre, and art. Her love for travel and a fondness for Italian, Indian, and Mexican cuisine are complemented by Café Sydney, her preferred local restaurant. Leading by example, Heidi embraces a healthy lifestyle, incorporating daily meditation, mindfulness practices, and pole dancing for fitness.   As she signs off, Heidi emphasizes the importance of prioritizing self-care for a healthy mind, heightened self-awareness, and an enhanced sex life, encouraging others not to wait until New Year's for resolutions.    In this episode, you will hear:  Discomfort with oral sex: Heidi mentions insecurities related to genital appearance Encouragement to focus on the present moment The impact of porn and media on people’s sexual expectations  Communication in relationships: Emphasis about preferences Hygiene tips: Caution against using harsh soaps, emphasis on a healthy diet Approaching 69 position: Suggestion to ease into the position gradually Gentle approach to clitoris: Emphasis on being gentle, exploring different areas Tips for improving oral sex skills Exploring the entire body for a holistic experience  Stress Management Toolkithttps://nazanin-moali.mykajabi.com/opt-inHoliday Gift Guide Check out these fantastic gift recommendations! https://sexologypodcast.com/holiday-gift-guide/  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 362 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn. In this episode, we discuss Yoni Massage, how it enables women to relinquish control and gain a profound understanding of their bodies, redirecting the emphasis towards exploration instead of climaxing and the crucial importance of sexual communication in attaining sexual liberation.  Dr. Tara is a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton (recieved her tenure at the age of 33), an award-winning researcher, a sex and relationship coach, and the host of Luvbites by Dr. Tara Podcast that focuses on sexual wellness and sexploration.  Her work has been featured in KTLA News, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health Magazine, Insider, and other media outlets. She's also on the advisory board for the MŌN app and Superstars app.   In 2022, Dr. Tara gave a TEDx Talk titled Become Sexually Powerful that highlights her 5,000-participant study examining predictors of sexual satisfaction, and her journey from an anxious immigrant to a confident Sexpert. Her life's goal is to normalize sex talks, and help people live a more passionate life and feel more sexually fulfilled through confidence and communication coaching.     In this episode, you will hear:  Analyzing and understanding Yoni Massage How Yoni massage is associated with Hinduism and Buddhism The beauty of tantric massage, both the original or more westernized versions How Yoni massages allow women to surrender and understand their bodies Building confidence and the empowerment of receiving pleasure without reciprocity Shifting the focus on exploration rather than climaxing Massaging techniques for the pubic area, vulva, clitoris, and optional penetration Understanding the potential hesitations around Yoni Massage The importance of advocating for pleasure and fostering honest communication The vital role of sexual communication in achieving sexual liberation  YouTube Explore the Sexology Podcast YouTube channel for our latest videos! Subscribe to stay updated: https://www.youtube.com/@Sexologypodcast   Holiday Gift Guide Check out these fantastic gift recommendations! https://sexologypodcast.com/holiday-gift-guide/  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 361 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Michelle Renee. In this episode, we discuss Michelle’s journey going through an unhealthy relationship and problematic childhood, addressing trauma and building communication skills and learning to transition to a sexual environment you can be comfortable in and confident with.  Michelle Renee, a West Michigan native, delves into the personal nature of her work, shaped by generational experiences. Raised in a household with communication challenges, she reflects on her parents' tumultuous relationship and her own journey through an 18-year marriage that led to self-discovery.   After her mother's death in 2002 and a complicated relationship with her father, Michelle found a turning point in a sex education workshop in 2014. This marked the beginning of her transformative journey toward self-love, body acceptance, and courageous life choices.   Michelle's career shift into professional cuddling became a catalyst for healing from past wounds. She later expanded her expertise through Surrogate Partner Therapy training, becoming a leader in the field. Michelle founded local Sex Geekdom hubs, contributed to professional groups, and in 2023, became the San Diego Section Leader for AASECT.   As an intimacy guide, Michelle supports clients across the spectrum of human connection, emphasizing the importance of platonic to erotic relationships. Her passion lies in assisting individuals with trauma history, a commitment that echoes her mother's self-work.     In this episode, you will hear:  How surrogate partner therapy involves collaboration with a talk therapist How she discovered sexuality exploration through Betty Dodson's work Why Michelle engaged in professional cuddling to learn about boundaries The importance of advocating for one's needs and understanding mutual touch Asexuality spectrum: Enjoying sex without experiencing sexual attraction How learning sexual skills can be challenging in high-pressure environments The need for choices and understanding oneself in the context of erotic energy Addressing trauma and building communication skills Learning to engage on a basic human level for physical contact  YouTube Explore the Sexology Podcast YouTube channel for our latest videos! Subscribe to stay updated: https://www.youtube.com/@Sexologypodcast    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 360 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Laura Copley. In this episode, we discuss Dr. Laura Copley's book, "Loving You is Hurting Me”, how Trauma bonding is about deep emotional connections and why solo relationship effort can yield positive results.  Trauma, heartache, betrayal, and abandonment can leave lasting scars that break the heart, clouds the mind, and shatter the soul. Dr. Laura Copley understands how painful and damaging your trauma wounds are and is trained to guide you toward healing.   Dr. Laura brings life transformation and Post-Traumatic Growth to your fingertips by offering one-on-one guidance, small group mentoring, powerful courses, online workshops, in-person conferences, live Q&A, and community support for those to connect who are on similar self-healing journey.   A globe-trotter at her core, Laura’s mission has taken her all over the world where she has made profound healing impacts in the lives of her clients and students. After her adventures speaking, advocating, and healing around the world, Laura returns to the heart of the Shenandoah Valley, where she is creating her dream lifestyle with her baby girl and golden retriever on her riverfront farmette overlooking the Blue Ridge Mountains.     In this episode, you will hear:  The need to view individuals as whole beings, not just oppressors or victims How Trauma bonding is about deep emotional connections  The ways safety and trust play a significant role in sexual connection How the embodiment of emotions can enhance sexual experiences Strategies for breaking the toxic hook pattern include mapping the cycle How solo relationship effort can yield positive results Openly discussing trauma and vulnerabilities strengthens emotional bonds Details on Dr. Laura Copley's book, "Loving You is Hurting Me”  Cozy Earth This week’s episode was sponsored by Cozy Earth. Use the code SEXOLOGY to get 40% off all products: https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 359 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Alexandra Solomon. In this episode, we discuss how sexual self-awareness involves understanding societal messages, the evolving nature of sexuality in long-term relationships and the need to break free from narrow sexual scripts.  Over the last two decades, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon has become one of today’s most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her work on Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the world.  Dr. Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, and she is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University where she teaches the internationally renowned course, Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101.  In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely and Taking Sexy Back. Dr. Solomon regularly presents to diverse groups that include the United States Military Academy at West Point and Microsoft, and she is frequently asked to talk about relationships with media outlets like The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American.    In this episode, you will hear:  The importance of relational self-awareness in a healthy relationship Relational self-awareness involves looking at one's own behavior in a relationship How sexual self-awareness involves understanding societal messages  The importance of unlearning and relearning about one's sexuality How different sexual scripts can affect relationships The evolving nature of sexuality in long-term relationships Reminiscing can be a way to connect and maintain desire in a relationship Encouraging men to move away from performance-based sex  The need to break free from narrow sexual scripts  Cozy Earth This week’s episode was sponsored by Cozy Earth. Use the code SEXOLOGY to get 40% off all products: https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 358 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Victoria Hartmann. In this episode, we discuss Victoria's background in studying necrophilia to aid criminologists, understanding the ethics and consent in the fantasies and experiences of necrophiliacs and the need for more research and understanding of paraphilias and their origins.  Dr. Hartmann holds two doctorate degrees, including a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality with an emphasis on Clinical Sexology, as well as a Master’s in Public Health. Her primary focus is forensic sexology, and the preservation of erotic artifacts, including the archiving of sexually explicit films. Her Doctoral work centered on the effects of dark web violent and explicit films.   She authored the book “I Love Dead People – Inside the Mind of Death Fetishists” based on her doctoral thesis and has proposed a new theoretical framework for classifying paraphilias.    She is an expert explicit material valuator; she is the current Director of the Erotic Heritage Museum in Las Vegas and serves on the ASRI (AstroSexological Research Institute) Advisory Board.     In this episode, you will hear:  Victoria's background in studying necrophilia to aid criminologists Differentiating necrophilia from related criminal acts, such as sexual murder Ethics and consent in the fantasies and experiences of necrophiliacs Challenges in classifying and assessing necrophilia and paraphilias clinically The complexities of necrophilia and difficulty in designing a classification tool The need for more research and understanding of paraphilias and their origins Therapist recommendations for addressing fetishes like necrophilia Information on Victoria Hartmann's podcast, "Sex Nerd Podcast," her book "I Love Dead People Inside the Minds of Death Fetishists,"  Cozy Earth This week’s episode was sponsored by Cozy Earth. Use the code SEXOLOGY to get 40% off all products: https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 357 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Darshana Avila. In this episode, we discuss the importance of touch in human connection and intimacy, why we need healthy and attuned touch in relationships and the importance of relaxed arousal for a satisfying sexual experience.  Darshana Avila believes that the foundation of her work in Sex and Intimacy is based on mutual trust. She practices transparency about her identities, recognizing that this disclosure empowers potential clients to make informed decisions about their comfort level and compatibility with her values. Darshana offers a wealth of articles and training resources aimed at dismantling oppression on her Resources page.   Darshana Avila is a cisgender woman of Eastern European Jewish heritage with white skin, able-bodied, and straight-passing. She identifies as bisexual and queer and uses she/her or they/them pronouns. Her life journey has spanned various chapters, including living in liberal pockets of the United States, South America, and Southeast Asia.   She holds a college education and typically enjoys relatively easy access to spaces, resources, and opportunities, despite some of her identities also facing marginalization and persecution. Presently, she resides on land belonging to the Ohlone people, acknowledges this, and pays Shuumi land tax accordingly. Additionally, Darshana allocates a portion of her income to support various socially just and antiracist organizations.     In this episode, you will hear:  The importance of touch in human connection and intimacy Introducing gentle verbal redirection for better touch Normalize asking for consent and use words to ensure safety Expand vocabulary for talking about what feels good The need for healthy and attuned touch in relationships Feedback in heterosexual relationships can be challenging due to social conditioning Consider factors like pressure, speed, and direction for sensation The importance of relaxed arousal for a satisfying sexual experience Explore sex toys as tools for increased pleasure  Cozy Earth This week’s episode was sponsored by Cozy Earth. Use the code SEXOLOGY to get 35% off all products: https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 356 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Cory Torgerson. In this episode, we discuss how erectile dysfunction is on the rise, affecting both older and younger men, the way porn addiction can contribute to this issue and how unrealistic expectations about sex can also impact erectile function.  Dr. Torgerson has been frequently invited to teach and lecture on these topics across North America. His entire medical education and surgical training was completed at the prestigious University of Toronto, within their Toronto hospitals and the University Health Network. Dr. Torgerson has received national recognition from his patients and colleagues for his incredible surgical skills. He is certified by the Royal College of Physicians and Surgeons of Canada in head, neck, facial surgery. In order to obtain this certification, Dr. Torgerson was required to complete additional years of training. Dr. Torgerson’s skills have been showcased on Global News, 16×9, The Marilyn Denis Show, The Morning Show, City News, and E! Beauty Channel Beauty News.   We invite you to experience the rewards of a welcoming environment where you can expect to be listened to, understood, and delighted with the outcome. Dr. Torgerson is here to help empower you to make the changes you desire to lead a truly beautiful life.   Considered a leading facial plastic surgeon in Toronto, Canada, Dr. Torgerson is able to provide his patients with a completely fresh and artistic approach to plastic surgery. With a finely honed gift for pinpointing specific areas that need to be treated, Dr. Torgerson is able to creatively and successfully provide the highest level of facial and nasal plastic surgery.     In this episode, you will hear:  How Erectile dysfunction is on the rise, affecting both older and younger men Understanding vascular issues are a common cause of erectile dysfunction The way porn addiction can contribute to erectile dysfunction How unrealistic expectations about sex can also impact erectile function The way lifestyle choices like diet and exercise can help prevent erectile dysfunction Looking at supplements available for erectile dysfunction and their effectiveness How testosterone replacement therapy can help improve erectile function Understanding the The Big Shot non-surgical male enhancement procedure   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   YouTube https://www.youtube.com/sexologypodcast  Hard Penis Check List https://oasis2care.com/hard-penis-checklist/  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 355 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Matthias Rose. In this episode, we discuss ejaculatory control and its benefits, the challenges in redefining the concept of orgasm and the initial challenges people may face when learning ejaculatory control.  Since 2012, Matthias Rose has been a prominent figure in neo-tantric sacred sexuality and classical tantric spirituality, serving as a teacher, guide, healer, and practitioner. His transformative journey with Tantra has taken him beyond traditional teachings, leading him to provide guidance primarily focused on relationships, sexuality, masculinity, and spirituality through a tantric lens.   As a Relationship Coach, Matthias Rose collaborates with individuals seeking to revamp their relational lives, including finding new partners, healing existing relationships, or exploring fresh possibilities. His expertise spans ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, trust repair, deepening emotional and sexual intimacy, and aligning with one's authentic self while embracing masculine or feminine aspects. He draws wisdom from his life's experiences, marked by mistakes and personal growth, offering insights with a genuine presence and loving non-attachment, emphasizing the essence of loving with an open heart.   In his role as a Sexuality Guide, Matthias Rose underscores the pivotal role of sexuality in personal development. He has gained expertise in various areas of human sexuality, attracting individuals seeking guidance in these specific realms.     In this episode, you will hear:  Understanding ejaculatory control and its benefits Separating ejaculation from orgasm is possible through techniques like Tantra Emotional connection and pleasure in cultivating non-ejaculatory orgasms How ejaculatory choice involves delaying or choosing whether to ejaculate The challenges in redefining the concept of orgasm How ejaculatory orgasms and non-ejaculatory orgasms are distinct experiences Evolving definition of masculinity and the value of open heartedness The initial challenges people may face when learning ejaculatory control Matthias’s personal journey and how he rediscovered this practice through Tantra  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Sexual Health Alliance Program https://sexualhealthalliance.com  Sexual Bucket List https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-sex-bucket-list59798469   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 354 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with David Chambers. In this episode, we discuss the challenges faced by individuals in their pursuit of enhanced sexual experiences. We explore a myriad of factors, ranging from psychological challenges such as performance anxiety and body image concerns to physical issues like cardiovascular health and the impact of medications.  David Chambers embarked on his journey into the world of relationship coaching driven by a sincere desire to escape the anguish of failed relationships, conquer commitment fears, and infuse his life with genuine joy.   Growing up in a single-parent, female-dominated household, he grappled with understanding masculinity and healthy romantic partnerships. His twenties were characterized by empty encounters aimed at gaining validation and confidence, alongside an aversion to commitment rooted in the dread of rejection or making the wrong choice. Consequently, his relationships were marred by toxicity, conflict, stress, and infidelity.   In 2007, David initially entered the realm of relationship and dating coaching, only to realize that merely teaching men superficial confidence and conversation skills fell short of creating lasting change. Recognizing the need for inner transformation, he embarked on a transformative global journey, learning from expert coaches, collaborating with best-selling authors, and undergoing profound personal growth.   David's mission is to share the wealth of dating and relationship insights he's gained, guiding men on their path to self-healing and self-mastery. "The Authentic Man" seeks to unearth the root causes hindering men from forging profound relationships, dismantling these barriers, and leading them toward lasting, fulfilling relationships and fulfilling, intimate, and passionate lives.     In this episode, you will hear:  Challenges faced by penis owners in lasting longer during partner sex How relationships and partner interactions can affect sexual performance Discussion on the significance and non- significance of penis size Understanding psychological challenges: performance anxiety, worries about size The potential negative effects of steroid use on sexual performance  How distraction is a common problem in sexual experiences Suggestions to improve presence during sex include breath practices How masturbation can lead to quick arousal leading to premature ejaculation The ways meditation, deep breathing and yoga can enhance sexual experiences How being present doesn't necessarily exclude fantasies   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Sexual Health Alliance Program https://sexualhealthalliance.com   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 353 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Eric FitzMedrud. In this episode, we discuss Dr. FitzMedrud's book The Better Man, exploring the intricacies of consent, emotional processes and emotional skills and addressing low interest in sex through open communication and cooperation.  Dr. Eric FitzMedrud hails from Minneapolis, where his formative years were enriched by the diversity that sparked his passion for issues of inclusivity. Following his high school years, he embarked on a transformative journey to India as part of the Rotary International Youth Exchange Program. In Colorado, where he pursued his college education, he encountered the love of his life, his future wife. His horizons expanded further during his college years when he embarked on a Semester at Sea, offering him a broader perspective on the world.   Dr. FitzMedrud's path to becoming a licensed psychologist (PSY23669) evolved from a scholarly interest in spirituality and human development during his undergraduate Religious Studies studies. He later shifted his focus to one-on-one work, completing prerequisite courses at Loyola University in Chicago for a year and ultimately earning his Clinical Psychology Ph.D. in 2008.   Passionate about his profession, Dr. FitzMedrud derives immense satisfaction from the meaningful and impactful work he does, helping others lead more purposeful and connected lives. Below, you will find a concise overview of various positions he has held throughout his career, as well as a brief insight into his therapeutic approach.     In this episode, you will hear:  Dr. Eric FitzMedrud discusses his book The Better Man and shares therapy experiences Exploring the intricacies of consent, emotional processes and emotional skills Examining the concept of sexual desire as a basic need  Debunking common misconceptions surrounding love and intimacy A closer look at prevalent myths about romance and sexuality Understanding deliberate approaches to maintaining intimacy The significance of embracing novelty and navigating through awkwardness Emphasizing the importance of emotional communication Addressing low interest in sex through open communication and cooperation  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Sexual Health Alliance Program https://sexualhealthalliance.com   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 352 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Keira Barr. In this episode, we discuss ways in which couples can approach skinny dipping, analyzing the things that may hold you back from new experiences and how you can transition more holistic view of sex and sexuality.  Dr. Keira Barr is a prominent leader in women’s medicine – creating a bridge between hormones, skin and mind-body medicine to optimize women’s mid-life experience. A fierce patient advocate and completely dedicated to uncovering the root cause of hormonal imbalances, Dr. Barr empowers women worldwide to take control of their health and their hormones in menopause.    She is an international speaker, best selling author, clinical educator, and considered a leading authority on women’s health. As a former Assistant Clinical Professor at UC Davis in the departments of dermatology and pathology, editorial reviewer of multiple leading medical journals, medical advisor within the personal care and tech communities, and researcher in clinical trials.   Dr Barr is dedicated to providing the most-cutting edge and innovative solutions for women. Her work has been featured in the MindBodyGreen, Bustle, Reader’s Digest, Glamour, SELF, Oprah Magazine, and more.     In this episode, you will hear:  Ways in which couples can approach skinny dipping Advice for people wanting to get comfortable in their own skin How skinny dipping can potentially enhance intimacy The importance of engaging in skinny dipping as a couple Enjoying the novelty of skinny dipping to enhance arousal Analyzing the things that may hold you back from skinny dipping Understanding the window of tolerance How you can work towards being more open to new ideas Transitioning to a more holistic view of sex and sexuality  Further recommendations and tips  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Sexual Health Alliance Program https://sexualhealthalliance.com   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 351 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Douglas Weiss. In this episode, we discuss betrayal in relationships, how therapeutic polygraphs can help in rebuilding trust and the value of intentional rituals and emotional intimacy to create a strong relationship.  Dr. Douglas Weiss is a psychologist and the founder of Heart to Heart Counseling Center, which specializes in the treatment of sexual addicts, intimacy anorexics and their spouses. He has counseled with sex addicts and their partners for almost three decades. Heart to Heart Counseling Center maintains weekly 3 and 5 Day Intensives that couples fly in from all over the world to attend, dozens of weekly groups, hundreds of weekly appointments with 16 counselors on staff. Dr. Weiss personally continues to provide 5 Day Intensives at the Center. Dr. Weiss has been in recovery for over 34 years, he and all of the counselors at Heart to Heart verify their sobriety with regular polygraphs.   Dr. Weiss has authored more than 40 books and offers 30 therapeutic DVDs for men, women and marriages. He is proud to be the first author to write a book for the partners of sex addicts. Dr. Weiss was the first to coin the term Intimacy Anorexia which is the withholding of emotional, physical and spiritual intimacy in marriage.   He’s been the expert guest on numerous national shows including Oprah, Dr. Phil and Good Morning America. He has had two documentaries, Lifetime TV Network and a British documentary produced about his practice. He is also the President of the American Association for Sex Addiction Therapy (AASAT) which is a certification training program for sex addiction, partners of sex addicts, and intimacy anorexia.    In this episode, you will hear:  Understanding more about betrayal in relationships How infidelity can cause intense trauma and various reactions from individuals Why therapeutic polygraphs can help in rebuilding trust and establishing boundaries The need for reassurance and commitment in moving forward The role of self-care and not taking on new responsibilities during healing  Looking at anger as a work exercise Why we need intimacy-building practices and disciplines in relationships The value of intentional rituals and emotional intimacy   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Sexual Health Alliance Program https://sexualhealthalliance.com    Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 350 of the Sexology Podcast! I am absolutely delighted to have Sophie Saint Thomas as our guest today. In this episode, we will delve into the fascinating topic of multiple orgasms, explore the rich tapestry of sexual experiences beyond the realm of orgasms, and uncover the crucial role that psychological arousal plays in enhancing overall pleasure.  Sophie Saint Thomas is a New York City-based journalist and author originally from the U.S. Virgin Islands. She is published in GQ, Playboy, VICE, Cosmopolitan, Forbes, Allure, Glamour, Marie Claire, High Times, Nylon, Refinery29, Complex, Harper’s Bazaar, PRIDE Magazine, SELF, and more. Her writing focuses on sex, drugs, and rock ‘n’ roll as well as the occult and other subcultures.   Saint Thomas is the author of multiple books, including Finding Your Higher Self: Your Guide to Cannabis for Self-Care, The Little Book of CBD for Self-Care, and Sex Witch: Magickal Spells for Love, Lust, and Self-Protection.      In this episode, you will hear:  Understanding what constitutes a multiple orgasm Different interpretations: blending of orgasms or having multiple orgasms in one sexual encounter Looking at the diversity of sexual experiences beyond just orgasms The pressure some individuals feel to have explosive orgasms during sex Emphasis on the importance of focusing on pleasure beyond just achieving orgasms The role of psychological arousal in enhancing pleasure Understanding that men may also fake orgasms The concept of women having secrets in different historical contexts Challenges in communication with partners who may not understand a partner's needs Sophie's advice to relax and not put too much pressure on oneself regarding orgasms  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Sexual Health Alliance Program https://sexualhealthalliance.com   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 349 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Ruth Ramsay about strip teasing, ways to create a contrasting story or role to spice things up, how you can experiment with personas for excitement and the importance of prior communication to prevent discomfort.  In 2001, Ruth Ramsay began her journey at the London School of Striptease, forsaking journalism for the empowering allure of the art. Over 12 eventful years, she danced, performed globally, taught, modeled, and advocated for adult entertainment workers' rights. She also championed erotic rights for people with disabilities, earning an Erotic Award.   During this time, Ruth learned unexpected lessons in sexual empowerment. As a striptease teacher, she saw students bloom and audiences embrace their sexuality. This journey boosted confidence and joy across life's facets.   After meeting her soulmate, Ruth left the erotic industry, prioritizing her stepfamily and fitness training. When her stepchildren left for university, she turned to transformational life coaching, lighting the way for others on matters of sexual happiness and identity.   Ruth seamlessly merges her experiences with coaching, providing a safe space for clients to explore desires. Her journey amplifies her non-judgmental approach. Her dance background nurtured unflappability and compassion. Guiding individuals toward sexual and overall empowerment now brings her the fulfillment dance once did.     In this episode, you will hear:  Crafting a narrative breaks routine which can be exciting for a long-term relationship. Ways to create a contrasting story or role to spice things up. How Ruth shifted from strip tease artist to sex educator and coach The challenges in teasing relationships, emphasizing timing and communication. Looking at teasing and seduction adds playfulness and depth. How you can experiment with personas, and scenarios for excitement. Make sure to prioritize your pleasure and excitement too. How the narrative approach engages both partners and builds anticipation. Embrace creativity, communication, and vulnerability for reconnection. The importance of prior communication to prevent discomfort. Why you should keep learning and experimenting in teasing to deepen understanding.    Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Competition Winners Eric Kenneth Barry Sutton Brendan McDonnell Jim Kamp Sexual Health Alliance Program https://sexualhealthalliance.com  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 348 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Pamela Madsen about the concept of the erotic equation, practicing arousal, expanding pleasure and insights on erotic learning and the ongoing nature of exploration.  At the age of 43, Pamela Madsen's life seemed fulfilling: a devoted marriage that had its roots in young love, two cherished sons, and a thriving career as a prominent advocate addressing fertility challenges. However, beneath the surface, a persistent and restless yearning for something more, something profoundly personal, stirred within her. Despite her deep affection for her husband and a firm stance against infidelity, Pamela recognized an undeniable truth – the need for a significant and transformative change.   In her captivating autobiography titled "Shameless," Pamela Madsen shifts the spotlight onto her own journey. Within its pages, she candidly shares the path she navigated towards a newfound sense of completeness encompassing her sexuality, personal identity, and spiritual being. The memoir delves into intricate and intimate experiences, recounting her encounters with sexual healers – individuals who not only imparted intense pleasure but also became her confidants and allies on this quest for self-discovery.    The essence of this narrative lies in the tale of a woman who, in the process of embracing her true self, encountered profound self-love. "Shameless" not only encapsulates Pamela Madsen's evolution but also extends a compelling invitation to women everywhere to embark on their own voyage of self-discovery and self-love.     In this episode, you will hear:  Understanding the concept of the "erotic equation" The importance of creating excitement and novelty in relationships Using games with partners to explore an eroticism  Looking at touch as a foundation of the erotic experience Exploring massages, breathing, sound, and movement for heightened arousal Paying attention to direction of touch (for self or partner). The significance of open communication, intentionality, and feedback in touch Practicing arousal, creating new normal's, and expanding pleasure Insights on erotic learning and the ongoing nature of exploration.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list  Sexual Health Alliance Program https://sexualhealthalliance.com Listeners Surveyhttps://help373205.typeform.com/listener-survey Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 347 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey about sex in public, ways to incorporate novelty in relationships, understanding a culture's role in shaping attitudes towards public sex and balancing the thrill of exhibitionism with ethical and legal considerations.  Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is an Advanced GSRD (gender, sex, relationship diversity) therapist, sex & intimacy coach and psychologist whose expertise lies in working with individuals, couples, and groups to explore their sexuality, gender and relationship styles, discover a deeper level of sexual congruence, heal from past trauma, as well as create more meaningful, pleasurable, exciting, and authentic intimate relationships.   On a mission to create an open dialogue about sex, relationships, and self-expression, Dr Lori Beth is the specialist relationship therapist guiding couples on Open House: The Great Sex Experiment (Firecracker Films, Channel 4) and the host of the popular podcast The A To Z Of Sex®. She’s also a passionate speaker, dynamic workshop/retreat facilitator, and sought-after expert in the media on the topics of sex, relationship style, intimacy, and trauma.   Dr Lori Beth Bisbey has been working with people since 1987 to help them resolve trauma and PTSD and create and maintain superb relationships that contain sizzling sex and without the shame. She grew up in the US and did all over her work for her PhD except her dissertation research there. She emigrated to the United Kingdom in 1990 to marry her first husband, lived in the southeast for 32 years until moving to Scotland in November 2022.     In this episode, you will hear:  Ways to incorporate novelty in relationships Understanding a culture's role in shaping attitudes towards sex in public How the desire to have sex in front of others can be exhibitionism Knowing the distinction between exhibitionism as a fetish and non-consensual acts The importance of consent in public sexual activities Understanding the risks of public sex, including legal consequences Balancing the thrill of exhibitionism with ethical and legal considerations The importance of open communication with partners about fantasies Recommendations for erotica authors and series Enhance fantasies by engaging in erotic talk with your partner  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list  Sexual Health Alliance Program https://sexualhealthalliance.com/Listeners Surveyhttps://help373205.typeform.com/listener-survey Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 346 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Andrea Balboni. In this episode, we discuss how tantric practices involve a mindful approach to intimacy and sex, emphasizing presence and deep connection with your partner.  Andrea Balboni, is a certified Sex, Love & Couples Coach at Zoë Clews & Associates.She specializes in helping couples create a thriving connected relationship and deeply satisfying intimacy. She also works with single individuals to build their confidence in dating and help them create new healthy relationships.Andrea believes that modern relationships offer us an opportunity to experience pleasure, love and connection as well as an opportunity to heal and to grow. Conflict and challenge can transform into deep connection, understanding and love of another – and also offer valuable insights for a richer self-knowing and awareness within.Andrea looks forward to supporting you in creating a healthy partnership that feels both nourishing and exciting and is pleasure-filled so that it nourishes you body, heart, mind and soul.    In this episode, you will hear:  How tantric practices involve a mindful way of practicing sex and intimacy The way tantric sex focuses on bringing presence to sexual experiences Why eye gazing is a powerful but challenging practice in tantra Understanding tantric practices require an open mind and willingness to learn How you can foster greater intimacy and connection with your partner The way tantric practices involve slowing down and extending foreplay How tantric practices can lead to deeper relaxation and heightened pleasure Why tantric massage is a way to explore sensuality and connection   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list Listeners Surveyhttps://help373205.typeform.com/listener-survey Sexual Health Alliance Program  https://sexualhealthalliance.com/ Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 345 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Leigh Cowart. In this episode, we discuss the fascinating world of temperature play and its role in enhancing sensation and pleasure during erotic encounters. Temperature play involves using heat and cold as sensory and emotional intensifiers, ranging from ice cubes, hot wax, fire play, to getting in and out of a hot tub or experiencing cold rain.  Leigh Cowart is a researcher and journalist with more than ten years of experience. They have been writing for Popular Science since 2021. They cover bodies, brains, and what science can teach us about our inner lives.    Cowart’s work has appeared in The Washington Post, New York Magazine, Buzzfeed News, Hazlitt, Wired, and other outlets. Their book, Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose, has been featured in The New York Times, NPR, The Wall Street Journal, The New Yorker, and others. Before becoming a journalist, Cowart was immersed academia, doing research on subjects like sexual dimorphism in leaf-nosed bats and resource allocation in flowers.   Currently, their principal area of interest involves the intersection of inner life and the practical existence of being a body. Cowart’s recent book is an exploration of all the ways humans engage in pain on purpose, why we do it, and what we get out of it. According to The Wall Street Journal, “[t]here’s possibly no one alive more qualified to write about pain than Leigh Cowart.”     In this episode, you will hear:  How temperature play involves using heat and cold as a sensory intensifier It can include using ice cubes, hot wax, fire play Entry-level practices for temperature play  Why safety and trust with a partner are important for exploring temperature play Looking at various products and materials can be used for temperature play Why communication and consent are crucial in temperature play How Ice play, in particular, can be intense and erotic Why education is essential for safe and enjoyable temperature play Looking at Leigh’s book "Hurt So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose"  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list  Listeners Survey https://help373205.typeform.com/listener-survey  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 344 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Melanie Curtin. In this episode, we discuss her study on sex problems and experiences with 3000 participants, highlighted the top issues faced by both men and women in their sex lives. For women, pain and difficulty in reaching orgasm were common concerns, while premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction were prominent issues for men. The study also revealed how communication about these challenges played a crucial role in sexual relationships.  Melanie is a sex researcher and men’s coach with a Master’s in Communication from Stanford University.  She is a columnist at Inc. magazine, and has been published or seen on TODAY, Huffington Post, Forbes, Business Insider, The New York Observer, and more.  She has been coaching men for over six years, and specializes in bringing a woman’s perspective to men, so they can connect and succeed with women in fun, inviting, and meaningful ways that lead to fulfilling sex and relationships.     In this episode, you will hear:  A look at Melanie’s Curtin study on sex problems and experiences The issues the study looked at and how people faced in their sex lives How women's top sex problems were pain and trouble orgasming Why men faced insecurities about their performance Understanding sexual intimacy and challenges faced by men in relationships How the fear of not getting an erection can lead to erectile dysfunction Why men may avoid physical intimacy if they fear performance issues How delayed ejaculation can be related to emotional safety How men can reclaim their power and address the "nice guy" syndrome The need for healthy boundaries and personal growth  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list  Listeners Survey https://help373205.typeform.com/listener-survey Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 343 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Suzannah Weiss. In this episode, we discuss the growing popularity of ASMR in the realm of sex and sexuality, ways to incorporate ASMR into your sex life and additional resources for further exploration.  Suzannah Weiss's writing on gender, sexuality, love, and social justice has been widely published across various platforms. With over 8,700 articles to her name, her work has appeared in notable publications such as The New York Times wedding section, Glamour, Teen Vogue, Vice, Complex, Refinery29, Bustle, The Washington Post, and New York Magazine.   Aside from her writing career, Suzannah is also a sexologist and AASECT-certified sex educator. She offers private coaching and courses to help individuals enhance their sex lives and relationships. Additionally, she provides mentorship for writers, consulting for PR professionals, and works as a birth doula.   Suzannah holds a Bachelor of Science in Cognitive Neuroscience and a Bachelor of Arts in Gender and Sexuality Studies, Modern Culture and Media from Brown University. Her diverse background includes experience in tech marketing, scientific research, and academic publishing. In her spare time, she enjoys writing poetry, erotica, and memoirs, and has multiple books in progress, with the first set to be released in 2024.    In this episode, you will hear:  Understanding more about ASMR (Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response) How it’s associated with sleep and relaxation but is gaining popularity in sexuality Ways to incorporate ASMR into sex life such as whispering in each other's ears Looking at the potential benefits of using ASMR during sex such as relaxation How you can determine if you enjoy ASMR or not Suggestions for introducing ASMR to a partner Recommendations for using specific toys and vibrators with low settings How there is no specific gender differences found in ASMR preferences Why experimentation, communication, and consent are key for ASMR  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 342 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome back Alicia Davon to the podcast. In this thought-provoking conversation we focus on the significance of sexual tension within long-term relationships, the conscious scheduling of pleasurable moments, and a willingness to embrace novelty in all its forms.  Alicia Davon is a highly accomplished individual, possessing a Master's degree in Integral Psychology with a specialized focus on exploring and understanding women's romantic and sensual expression. Her academic journey and professional background led her to become a trained therapist, equipping her with the necessary skills to make a positive impact on people's lives.   Before encountering her partner Erwan, Alicia was already making a significant difference by leading numerous women's groups. These groups were entirely dedicated to empowering women to embrace and enhance their pleasure and find fulfillment in various aspects of life, be it in their careers or relationships.   It was around 15 years ago that Alicia's path crossed with Erwan's, and this encounter proved to be a transformative one. They soon joined forces, combining their knowledge and expertise to create something truly remarkable - The Pleasure Course. This unique course has had a profound influence on the lives of thousands of individuals, guiding them towards achieving their ideal and fulfilling love lives.   In this episode, you will hear:  The importance of sexual tension building in long-term relationships. How Sexual tension is the presence of desire, turn-on, and romantic interest Why many couples face challenges due to getting stuck in routine Alicia advises acknowledging the issue and discussing it openly with the partner Prioritizing fun and connection without distractions for better pleasure Try new and different things to bring novelty and excitement to the relationship How novelty doesn't always mean extreme acts; it can be romantic gestures Cultivating desire is possible through open communication, scheduling pleasurable time, and embracing novelty.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Bucket List https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-sex-bucket-listbtac1eu8 Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 341 of Sexology Podcast! Today we start our summer series on enhancing intimacy and exploring novelty in your sexual life.   In this episode, we look back on previous episodes and embark on a journey to ensure you have the most exciting and sexiest summer ever, emphasizing the often-overlooked importance of novelty in long-term relationships and discussing the benefits it can bring to your connection with your partner.   Throughout this series, we'll be rubbing shoulders with experts who have unlocked the secrets to a fulfilling and passionate connection. They will impart their invaluable advice and share practical tips to guide you on this enthralling path of self-discovery and rekindling the spark with your beloved.   But wait, there's more! As a token of gratitude for you, our cherished listeners, we've prepared an exclusive PDF packed with tantalizing information. This gem, which would typically be reserved for our premium programs, is now yours to download for free! So be sure not to miss this golden opportunity to elevate your sensual experiences to a whole new level.  So, get ready for a thrilling exploration of enhanced intimacy and sexual discovery as we break free from sexual stagnation and embrace new experiences together.   In this episode, you will hear:  Why Novelty is important in long-term relationships  How trying new activities outside the bedroom can improve sexual experiences Learning to communicate openly about new sexual desires  Why safety is important for advanced activities like wax play and anal sex The ways role-playing can bring novelty and excitement to relationships Considerations for threesomes: Being comfortable and enjoying the experience How ex toys in intimate moments can enhance sexual satisfaction The best positions for clitoral stimulation and engorgement   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Download the free Sex Bucket List https://sexologypodcast.com/bucket-list/  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 340 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Amy Marsh to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the topic of erotic AI, companionship tools and how Amy became interested in the topic after reading about the experiences of chatbot users of a program called Replica who were being shamed in the media for enjoying erotic roleplay.  Dr. Marsh is a clinical sexologist, AASECT-certified sexuality counselor, certified hypnotist and hypnosis instructor who has worked in the field of human sexuality since 2008. Personally, Dr. Marsh prefers to be known as “Avnas,” zir chosen name. Ze identifies as a nonbinary femme.   Dr. Marsh’s private practice is eclectic: combining sexuality counseling with hypnosis, guided imagery, adult sex education, sand tray play, and attention to social justice activism and community wellness. Though online only, Dr. Marsh’s “office” is a “no-shame zone.” You are invited to share in an atmosphere of warmth, humor, and “unconditional postitive regard” (quote from Carl Rogers).    As a sexologist, Dr. Marsh has special interests in erotic hypnosis, spectro-sexuality, objectum sexuality, LGBTQIA++ rights, “sacred sexualities,” and more. Ze teaches online professional courses in Hypnosis for Sex Problems at zir Intimate Hypnosis Training Center.    In this episode, you will hear:  How chatbots are used to develop a relationship, have sex through sexting or voice. The misconceptions about AI companionships How chatbots sometimes make things up to keep the conversation going The way agency arises in the chatbot's choice of response  Understanding the downsides of using companion bots How Amy’s book "How to Make Love to a Chatbot" is a good starting place Engaging with chatbots requires intentionality to avoid creating a relationship How erotic role play is often behind a paywall in chatbots Why it can be easy to become attached to a chatbot   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Foreplay Checklist https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 339 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Stephanie Ganowski the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how to have conversations about boundaries and communicating sexual desires in a relationship.   Stephanie Ganowski is a Clinical Sexologist & Sex Coach for men, living in NYC. Her mission is to help men replace their sex pressures with sex pleasures.   Growing up, Steph was severely introverted and shy. She felt very challenged when it came to making friends and feeling confident in herself. She constantly questioned herself and her actions, while remaining hyper curious about those around her. Due to her low self-esteem, she allowed people into her life who “matched” the way she treated herself. Afterall, it felt “right” and comfortable. This included the men she attracted romantically.   Eventually, the prolonged mistreatment from men (and herself) was jolted by 5 incredibly caring, supportive, hilarious guys, she randomly befriended on Instagram, during a hard time. This was a huge wakeup call for Steph. It made her realize that not all men were “assholes” like she had thought. It was her mindset and lack of social skills that put her in the place she had been in.   “But what about these “asshole” guys from her past experiences? What’s going on with them? They must have pain too…” This curiosity led her to want to understand her relationship with men more closely and understand men in general. Step one for Steph, was to start working with men, 1:1, gain their trust, reach their vulnerable side and find a way to help them. Through understanding men and helping them heal and see progress in their lives, Steph would also learn to how to heal and bring people together. Her goal is to eventually get to the place where she can also help women who feel the same way about men, as she once did.    In this episode, you will hear:   How communicating about sex and intimacy can lead to trust, passion, and desire. The best time to bring up a fetish or kink to a new partner How to prepare for communicating about vulnerable topics Why communication with a partner should focus on emotions and understanding Open-ended questions should provide a space for exploration without immediate implementation. How anal sex requires warming up with foreplay, lube, and a slow progression Why it's important to take care of partners' emotions and not take things personally How going to a dominatrix with a partner can be a helpful alternative to hands-on participation   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Foreplay Checklist https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 338 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Avgi Saketopoulou to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss Avgi’s book, Sexuality Beyond Consent, and look at the complexity of eroticism and sexuality.  In her office situated in Union Square, Avgi Saketopoulou treats a diverse range of clients, including children as young as age 3, adults, couples, and polycules. She specializes in addressing various issues such as trauma, anxiety, depression, and relationship difficulties. With extensive experience in working with variant genders and queer sexualities, she provides comprehensive care for individuals across different age groups. Her practice embraces individuals from racially and ethnically diverse backgrounds.   Avgi Saketopoulou received her clinical psychology training in New York after moving to the United States from Greece and Cyprus. She subsequently completed training as a psychoanalyst at the New York University Postdoctoral Program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis.   In addition to her clinical practice, Avgi Saketopoulou is actively involved in academia. She teaches at the NYU PostDoctoral Program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis and holds positions in various psychoanalytic institutes, including the William Alanson White Institute, the Stephen Mitchell Relational Center, and the National Institute for Psychotherapies. She offers courses that incorporate an intersectional perspective on psychosexuality and gender.   Contributing to the field, Avgi Saketopoulou publishes her own research, serves on the editorial boards of academic journals, leads study groups, and provides supervision for colleagues' clinical work. In October 2021, she co-chaired the inaugural conference "Laplanche in the States: the Sexual and the Cultural," the first US-based event dedicated to the work of Jean Laplanche. She is also a co-executor of the Muriel Dimen Literary Estate, which administers Dr. Dimen's archive, as well as manages the Muriel Dimen Prize (through Div 39) and the Muriel Dimen Grant through NYU Postdoc.    In this episode, you will hear:   How Avgi's book was inspired by Jeremy O. Harris' play "Slave Play." Why transformational experiences stem from pushing limits, not safety. The way “Limit Consent" acknowledges trauma's impact on boundaries. Avgi Saketopoulou explores art's risk-taking potential for new experiences. Why consent is important in exploring the limits of desires and identities How race and sexuality intertwine historically, shaping desire and limit consent. The way limit consent enables transformative overwhelm in erotic encounters.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Job Posting https://www.indeed.com/job/licensed-mental-health-therapist-private-practice-025459e5bb2c89fe   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 337 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Katie Runyan to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss role play and its benefits for enhancing sexual intimacy in relationships, using role play on date nights and the best way to introduce roleplay to your partner.  Katie Runyan is a co-founder of FaithfulFling and lives in KCMO with her husband Jon and four teenage children. She loves donuts, napping, writing and helping relationships all around the world create a spark in the bedroom by having a healthy, passionate and thriving sex life!  The idea for Faithful Fling came as a result of their own role-playing over the years. They recognized that it had increased their connection, improved their sex life, and brought back some novelty to their relationship. It gave them an avenue to improve sensitive and intimate communication as well. They figured if it worked for them, it could work for any committed relationship that was willing to give it a try. They envisioned a scenario where they would do all of the work and their customers would have all of the fun.   They could add to the value by building in lots of fun and surprises that would keep everyone interested and excited to see what would happen next. They loved the idea and nothing else on the market provided the same level of excitement, surprises, and level of detail as what they wanted to provide, so they finally took the leap and launched FaithfulFling.com in February of 2022. They are so proud to help other marriages improve their sex life, put a spark back between the sheets, and put some effort into their marriage again.   They hope you’ll join and see what role-playing with Faithful Fling can do for your marriage!   In this episode, you will hear:   How role play and its benefits can enhance sexual intimacy in relationships. Using the erotic mind with a partner to allow for vulnerability and communication. Looking at popular role play scenarios include naughty nurse and patient. How role play adds novelty and playfulness to date nights. Why curiosity instead of defensiveness can lead to better results. Committing to the role to make roleplay more immersive and realistic. The best way to introduce roleplay to your partner.  Faithful Fling Click here to start your free trial with Faithful Fling and explore role playing with your partner! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Job Posting https://www.indeed.com/job/licensed-mental-health-therapist-private-practice-025459e5bb2c89fe   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 336 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Lola Jean to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the topic of quickies, how they can bring couples closer together, understanding communication is key in navigating the core of the quickie and how you can add novelty to the excitement.  Lola Jean is a sex educator, mental health professional, fetish wrestler, Domme, writer, and world record holder for volume squirting. She has been actively involved in the field of sex education for over a decade.   Lola Jean's journey to becoming a sex educator began when she was in college. After completing her degree in psychology and gender studies, she started working as a mental health professional and soon realized that there was an immense need for more comprehensive sex education. She decided to fill this gap by offering her own workshops and courses on the subject.   Lola Jean's most popular workshop is called "No Frills Sex Education", which covers topics such as anatomy, consent, communication skills, pleasure-based learning, sexual health and safety tips, and much more. She also offers other courses such as "Quick 'N' Dirty" and "Free Courses". Her workshops have had a positive impact on many people's lives by providing them with the knowledge they need to make informed decisions about their sexual health.   In addition to her work as a sex educator, Lola Jean is also an accomplished fetich wrestler and world record holder for volume squirting (solo). She has been featured in several publications such as The New York Times Magazine and VICE Magazine.    In this episode, you will hear:   How quickies can have benefits for busy couples looking to carve out time for intimacy without pressure and with the added feeling of being desired. The buildup of tension and anticipation through sexting and touching can enhance the experience of a quickie.  Suggestions for physical touching during a quickie include possessive touch, bated breath, and the "skin to skin" position.  Communication and negotiation are important for initiating a quickie to ensure both partners get what they want and to avoid coercive behavior.  Use of language and words during a quickie should be discussed ahead of time to avoid landmine words that could turn off a partner.  The novelty of discreet locations outside of the bedroom can also add excitement to quickies.  Foreplay Checklist Discover 9 tantalizing ways to ignite your foreplay!  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Job Posting https://www.indeed.com/job/licensed-mental-health-therapist-private-practice-025459e5bb2c89fe   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 335 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Ness Cooper to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss shower sex experiences, benefits, drawbacks, techniques, and accommodating diverse preferences and situations.  Ness Cooper is a Sex and Relationship Expert with over ten years of experience. She has helped individuals, couples, and those in polyamorous relationships find fluidity in intimacy and pleasure. She has a background in counselling with a focus on sex and relationships and has trained in the UK as well as internationally.   Ness has trained in youth sex education and is part of the esteem network by acet. Her favorite study has been studying with the Kinsey Institute of Human Sexuality, and therapy courses run by TASHRA. Ness is kink positive and has trained in kink education and has a paper on BDSM and disabilities coming out in 2022.   She runs a popular Sex Toy review blog. Ness is regularly quoted in the press and has been mentioned in a book about female sexual fantasies "Garden of Desire". Not only does Ness coach people in human sexuality, but she also teaches other professionals on various subjects around sexual wellbeing.   Wanting to learn as much as possible, she has also trained in Pelvic Floor Biomechanics, sea sponges, pessaries, and mental health safeguarding.   In this episode, you will hear:   How most people prefer shower sex over beach sex based on a recent poll.  The benefits of shower sex including different sensations, temperature variations, privacy, and different positions. Establishing boundaries in shower sex, consider order of entry, temperature preferences, lubricant choice, and sex toy integration. Recommended sex toys for shower use include heated vibrators, glass and metal toys, suction handrails, and specialized furniture. Health concerns during shower sex may include proper cleaning of the shower head How positions such as spooning while standing can be a good introduction to shower sex. The importance of aftercare for vulva owners and neurodivergent individuals.  Foreplay Checklist Discover 9 tantalizing ways to ignite your foreplay!  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Job Posting https://www.indeed.com/job/licensed-mental-health-therapist-private-practice-025459e5bb2c89fe   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioOur Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 334 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome David Khalili to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the challenges men face due to traditional ideas of masculinity and how this impacts their relationships and communication with partners.  David F. Khalili, MA, LMFT is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist whose practice is focused on working with men, adolescents, couples therapy, and multi-ethnic individuals. He received his master's degree in counseling psychology from Golden Gate University and a master's degree in Sexuality Studies from San Francisco State University.   During his graduate studies, David completed his practicum internship at UCSF AIDS Health Project and followed up with a post-graduate psychodynamic intensive program at The Psychotherapy Institute. Additionally, he has extensive experience working with teenagers, as well as with those experiencing grief, trauma and substance abuse issues. His expertise also lies in working with multi-ethnic individuals and those who have recently immigrated or are first-generation American born.    David specializes in issues ranging from sex and sexuality, sexual disorders and anxiety, to trauma and PTSD, and men's groups. His approach focuses on helping his clients improve their self-awareness - guiding them to understand how they relate to themselves and their life experiences, and how to reach the goals they desire.    In this episode, you will hear:   The limitations traditional masculinity imposes on men in terms of emotional expression.  How traditional masculinity encourages men to only rely on themselves  How men often experience a narrow spectrum of emotions and struggle to communicate their feelings with their partner  The impacts David had growing up in a multicultural household, witnessing the impact of cultural expectations on the expression of emotions.  The way toxic positivity and uncommunicated expectations can cause resentment and psychological distress in relationships.  Understanding the concept of "soul murder" where individuals kill off parts of themselves to conform to societal norms.  How sexual response cycles can help individuals better accept and manage their emotions and reactions in relationships. Anxiously Intimate Save 30% on the Anxiously Intimate course bundle using code MOALI30  https://www.rouseacademy.com/offers/o8mcR6jr   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Job Posting https://www.indeed.com/job/licensed-mental-health-therapist-private-practice-025459e5bb2c89fe   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 333 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome back Zachary Zane. In this episode, we discuss his new book Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto, the importance of including men in the sex positivity movement and increasing bisexual male visibility in media and society.  Zachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based columnist, speaker, activist, and sex expert whose work focuses on sexuality, lifestyle, and culture.    He has a weekly sex advice column at Men’s Health titled “Sexplain It,” where he answers a diverse range of questions pertaining to masculinity, ethical non-monogamy, sexual insecurities, and the LGBTQ community. He answers questions with actionable advice that isn’t just “communicate with your partner,” because let’s be real, we all know that already.    He also has a monthly column at Queer Majority called “Zach and the City,” which explores romance and sexuality through Zane’s fabulous life. Set against the backdrop of New York City, Zane uses his personal experiences as a young and adventurous queer socialite to unpack the current state of cosmopolitan sex, love, and dating.     He currently writes for The Washington Post, Rolling Stone, and Prevention. He was formerly a digital associate editor at OUT Magazine and a contributing editor at Pride.com, Plus Magazine, and The Advocate Magazine. He’s been featured in numerous other publications as well, including Playboy, NBC, SELF, Allure, Dazed, AskMen, Slate, Into, Them, Cosmopolitan, Hornet, NewNowNext, LGBTQ Nation, MerryJane, and Bustle.   In this episode, you will hear:   Why Zachary wrote his memoir focusing on bisexual men overcoming sexual shame.  How even growing up in a sex-positive and queer-affirming household, he still experienced sexual shame.  The importance of including men in the sex positivity movement, as they are often left out due to societal expectations and stereotypes.  The challenges bisexual men face when dating, such as disbelief, condescension, or assumptions that they will later come out as gay.  The importance of bisexual representation in media to help normalize the identity and combat stereotypes.  Advice for individuals exploring their sexuality, suggesting not focusing on a label initially and focusing on understanding their feelings and attractions instead.   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Job Posting https://www.indeed.com/job/licensed-mental-health-therapist-private-practice-025459e5bb2c89fe   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 332 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome back Dr. Greg Matos. In this episode, we discuss monogamy in the 21st century, ways in which you can manage temptation and the impact platforms like OnlyFans are having on relationships.  Dr. Greg Matos is a board-certified Couple and Family Psychologist who served over a decade in the U.S. Marine Corps and Navy, becoming a Lieutenant Commander. Greg was awarded the Bronze Star with Combat Valor and the Department of State’s Award for Heroism. He’s the author of Shattered Glass: The Story of a Marine Embassy Guard.   After the military, Dr. Greg began specializing in systems work and Gottman-Method Couples Therapy. He founded a charity on TikTok @abetterloveproject to share science-based advice on love and life with his 40,000 audience members. You can join him for a casual chat and mindful breathing every day on TikTok.  In this episode, you will hear:   A look into the Better Love Project and why Dr. Greg started it  Analyzing monogamy in the 21st century  The way in which social media has affected relationships Looking at the impacts of opening your relationship Understanding how micro-cheating works  Balancing your desire whilst in a monogamous relationship Ways in which you can manage temptation The importance of knowing your core values Keeping communication open with your partner for the long haul The impact platforms like OnlyFans are having on relationships Building trust and commitment for a healthy relationship  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Job Posting https://www.indeed.com/job/licensed-mental-health-therapist-private-practice-025459e5bb2c89fe   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 331 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Morgan. In this episode, we discuss attachment theory, the way different attachment styles affect sexual dynamics and ways in which you can communicate your insecurities.  Meet the relationship coach who's changing the game. With deep expertise in attachment theory and a proven track record of success, she's dedicated to helping women raise their self-worth and find the healthy relationship they deserve.   Her Empowered.Secure.Loved Program is the ultimate guide to secure attachment and long-lasting love. By combining science, data, and her own insights, she's created a transformative experience that takes you from lonely to loved in no time. Ready to take your love life to the next level? She's your secret weapon.  In this episode, you will hear:   Looking at the definition of attachment theory How attachment theory can be the missing piece to the dating puzzle What is insecure attachment style? The way different attachment styles affect sexual dynamics  The importance of communication and emotional connection  Recommendations on what you can do daily with secure attachment  Ways in which you can communicate your insecurities  Knowing what is useful to share with your partner Understanding what it is you need to feel better and more comfortable  Green Chef Thank you to our sponsor Green Chef! Use the promo code Sexology60 to get 60% off at https://greenchef.com/sexology60   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 330 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Niki Davis-Fainbloom. In this episode, we discuss the common misconceptions around fetishes, dealing with internalized shame and understanding that not all fetishes are sexually connected.  Niki Davis-Fainbloom is a Canadian-born, New York-based sex educator, writer, and coach. Since receiving her Master’s degree studying the psychology of sexual dysfunction from NYU, she has facilitated hundreds of sexual education workshops at locations including Planned Parenthood, New York University, and The United Nations.   Her writing has also been featured in publications such as Mind Body Green, Cosmopolitan, Refinery 29, and Pornhub Sexual Wellness Center.  Her work uses up-to-date research, humor, and practical advice to help people develop the skills to have healthier and more satisfying romantic and sexual relationships.   She is an expert in fetishes, and much of her coaching involves working with folks with unique desires as well as navigating ethical non-monogamy and pleasure.  In this episode, you will hear:   What inspired Niki to delve into this line of work Looking at the common fetishes people may desire Understanding the misconceptions around fetishes Analyzing uncommon fetishes such as sneeze fetishes The importance of knowing you’re not alone if you do have a fetish How you can communicate to your partner you have a fetish Why there can be a lot of internalized shame around fetishes Communities you can seek out to bond with others around this  How not all fetishes are sexually connected The importance of consent around fetishes  Green Chef Thank you to our sponsor Green Chef! Use the promo code Sexology60 to get 60% off at https://greenchef.com/sexology60   Foreplay Checklist Want to spice things up a little? Sign up below to invigorate your foreplay tonight. https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 329 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Eric Sprankle. In this episode, we discuss Eric’s upcoming book on masturbation, the misconceptions about masturbation, and how masturbation positively and negatively affects relationships.  Dr. Eric Sprankle is an Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology and Co-Director of the Sexuality Studies program at Minnesota State University, Mankato. He is a licensed clinical psychologist and an AASECT-certified sex therapist affiliated with the Minnesota Sexual Health Institute. He is also the Director of the Secular Therapy Project, a subsidiary of Recovering from Religion.  Dr. Sprankle received his doctorate in clinical psychology from Xavier University in 2009, completed a postdoctoral fellowship in sexual health at the University of Minnesota Medical School in 2011, and was awarded tenure in the Department of Psychology at Minnesota State University in 2017.  He currently leads the Sexual Health Research Team at Minnesota State examining sexuality, stigma, and secularism, and has published articles on the effects of sexually explicit material, older adult sexuality, and sex worker affirmative therapy.  In this episode, you will hear:   Looking at the content of Eric’s upcoming book around masturbation  How Eric became interested in this subject area The misconceptions around masturbation  Analyzing the differences between low, moderate and excessive masturbation  Is masturbation beneficial for your wellness? Understanding the context of masturbation  Masturbating healthily while in a relationship  Making sure your value systems around masturbation align with your partners value system Communicating to your partner about masturbation  How masturbation can positively and negatively affect relationships   Green Chef Thank you to our sponsor Green Chef! Use the promo code Sexology60 to get 60% off at https://greenchef.com/sexology60   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor: http://factor75.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 328 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Veronica Cisneros. In this episode, we discuss the weaponization of sex, the need for mutual pleasure in a healthy relationship and learning to step out of your comfort zone for excitement.   Veronica Cisneros is a force to be reckoned with. With a sparkling personality and a passion for helping couples feel heard, loved, and respected, she's transformed countless marriages from feeling like they're on life-support to thriving in a place of deep understanding and connection.  As a licensed marriage and family therapist, marriage coach, course creator, retreat host, and podcast host, she's leaving her mark on the world – and inspiring her listeners to live their best lives.  But it wasn't always this way. For years, Veronica found herself losing herself in an effort to meet the needs of her family. She was on the brink of losing her marriage – until she took the reins and fought back. Today, she's a true inspiration – and proof that with hard work and dedication, anything is possible.  In this episode, you will hear:   What does it mean to weaponize sex? How many women don’t feel seen in their relationship Understanding what sex represents to your partner Ways of not letting day to day life get in the way of sex The need for mutual pleasure in a healthy sexual relationship Knowing the best place to start to improve sex in a relationship The importance of communication and improving communication Learning to step out of your comfort zone for excitement  What you will experience at Veronica’s retreat   Thank you to our sponsor Green Chef! Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 327 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Alexandra Solomon. In this episode, we discuss maintaining great sex in a long-term relationship, boosting your sexual confidence and learning to step into your erotic self.  Over the last two decades, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon has become one of today’s most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her work on Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the world.   Dr. Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, and she is on faculty in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University where she teaches the internationally renowned course, Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101. In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely and Taking Sexy Back.   Dr. Solomon regularly presents to diverse groups that include the United States Military Academy at West Point and Microsoft, and she is frequently asked to talk about relationships with media outlets like The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American.  In this episode, you will hear:   Maintaining great sex in a long-term relationship Understanding the dynamics of sex and intimacy  Cultivating self-awareness and relational safety  How you can repair damaged parts of your sex life Ways in which you can boost your sexual confidence Tools you can use to better communicate with your partner Cultivating the positive aspects of your relationship inside and outside the bedroom Learning to step into your erotic self   Thank you to our sponsor FirmTech. Use the promo code Moali20 to get 20% at myfirmtech.com.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 326 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Shemeka Thorpe. In this episode, we discuss sexual self-consciousness, incorporating your spirituality into your sex life and recommendations to improve your sexual confidence.  Dr. Shemeka Thorpe is an alum of Florida State and UNCG, a North Carolina native, and a proud Ravenclaw with first-generation college student status.   A lover of the beach who also loves to read books, her passion for research began during her undergraduate studies. Earning her PhD in Community Health Education has enabled this public health professional's goal facilitating positive sexology narratives about Black people rather than deficit-based ones; she strives to create representative teams that consider community needs when disseminating important information from academic journals into meaningful impacts on population health outcomes.  With over 10 years of research under her belt, she is a wheelhouse of knowledge when it comes to sexuality education. As someone deeply embedded in the community and highly active on social media, not only has she been able gather insights from conversations with Black women - but all these experiences also inform her ongoing studies.   Furthermore, this expertise also sees her playing an important role by sitting on editorial review boards for two well-respected journals dedicated to comprehensive sexology counsels and sexual wellness as a whole.  In this episode, you will hear:   What sexual self-consciousness means  Recommendations to improve your sexual confidence Overcoming the shame spiral that can happen around sex Looking at studies of black women’s sexual experiences How many black women defined pleasure as liberating  Analyzing the different sexual experiences of queer and straight people Understanding the difference between pleasure and orgasm Incorporating your spirituality into your sex life The importance of sexual mindfulness   Thank you to our sponsor FirmTech. Use the promo code Moali20 to get 20% at myfirmtech.com.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 325 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Elliot Justin, M.D., FACEP. In this episode, we discuss the benefits of using a cock ring, readjusting your erectile expectations as you get older and how toys such as vibrators have become more normalized to use for men and women.  Elliot Justin, M.D., FACEP, is an Emergency Medicine Specialist and enthusiastic cock ring user for more than 10 years. In his extensive career as a medical professional, he’s seen inadequate resources dedicated to evaluating men’s sexual health issues.    He believes that before there’s erectile dysfunction, there’s erectile fitness. His interest in regenerative medicine and his passion for regular playful lovemaking and its health benefits inspired him to start FirmTech Inc., the world’s first smart male underwearables company.   FirmTech focuses on developing products that encourage fun, enjoyable sex for men of all ages, while empowering them to better understand their health and the impact of medications, supplements, personal habits, vices and exercise on their sexual wellness. We want to give you the data to make the best decisions for your sex health.  In this episode, you will hear:   How Elliot became interested in this line of work  The benefits of using a cock ring  Pros and cons of using medication such as Viagra  The relationship between erectile dysfunction and anxiety  Readjusting your erectile expectations as you get older Looking at other sex tech products available to improve erections How toys such as vibrators have become more normalized to use for men and women Why you shouldn’t compare your sex life to pornography  The way in which sex toys for men are slowly becoming more mainstream Changes you can make such as exercise or better diet to further improve your sex life  Thank you to our sponsor FirmTech. Use the promo code Moali20 to get 20% at myfirmtech.com.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 324 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Amir Yassai. In this episode, we discuss Amir’s journey of coming out as a queer Muslim, understanding how sexual shame develops, and recommendations on how you can feel more sexually empowered.  Amir Yassai is a queer Muslim unicorn who won’t shy away from any conversation. Comedy is at the center of everything he does.  Chatting with Amir will be like chatting with an old friend with a lot more sass. He actively battles against racism, transphobia, and body shaming in the queer community.  His courage in speaking out against discrimination and prejudice makes him one of the most engaging people you could talk to: like catching up with your best friend, but spicier!  In this episode, you will hear:   Looking at Amir’s journey as a queer Muslim  Overcoming the challenges of coming out as a queer Muslim How Amir’s relationship with his parents has evolved over the years Understanding how sexual shame develops  How Amir found a community to help with the challenges of being a queer Muslim Knowing that it’s ok to have a variety of sexual attractions  The importance of having open communication with your sexual partners Steps you can take to heal from sexual shame Why it’s healthy to have sexual fantasies  Recommendations on how you can feel more sexually empowered   Thank you to our sponsor FirmTech. Use the promo code Moali20 to get 20% off at myfirmtech.com.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 323 of Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Amanda Louder. In this episode, we discuss ways you can start to engage with roleplay, learning to better communicate with your partner, and how small things like props can make a big difference.  Amanda Louder is a Certified Life Coach who empowers women to embrace their sexuality while maintaining strong relationships with themselves and God.    In addition to being a coach, Amanda is also a wife to Kevin, and mom and stepmom to 5 kids, ranging in ages from 13-22. Amanda knows just how challenging it can be for modern Christian families to find a balance between traditional values and leading an enjoyable life filled with meaningful connections.   When she's not coaching or catering to her family, you'll likely find Amanda at home enjoying one of her favorite hobbies: reading books, watching sports games involving loved ones; fishing by the lake; or camping under open skies surrounded by nature.    Learn more about what motivates this inspiring woman through @AmandaLouderCoaching on Instagram, her 'Sex For Saints' podcast series dedicated to talking about sex and marriage topics or visit her website.  In this episode, you will hear:   How Amanda became involved in this line of work  Learning to better communicate with your partner The importance of building and expanding on trust in a relationship Tips for ways you can start to engage with roleplay  How small things like props can make a big difference Making sure that consent is working both ways The benefits of the stop light system for engaging in new sexual activities  Maintaining Christian values while having a good sex life 101 Ways To Keep Your Relationship Hot https://sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 322 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Dr. Stefan Buntrock. In this episode, we discuss prostate orgasms and stimulation, the sex toys available to reach a prostate orgasm, and we also analyze the g-spot and female ejaculation.  Dr. Stefan Buntrock is a board-certified urologist in Göttingen, Germany. He is a Fellow of the European Board of Urology (FEBU) and received European certification as a sexologist and Fellow of the European Committee of Sexual Medicine (FECSM).  For many years as chief physician at the Klinik am Kurpark, one of the largest German rehabilitation clinics for urology, he treated many patients after radical surgical interventions on the prostate and bladder.   In this episode, you will hear:   How Dr. Stefan became interested in this line of work Looking at the research for men reaching orgasm through prostate stimulation  Analyzing sex toys and vibrators for men  Understanding the g spot; Does it exist? How does it work? Is the g spot linked to female ejaculation? Understanding what a prostate massage is  Looking at the the types of stimulation that can cause a prostate orgasm  How this area is very mis-understood by the wider public  9 Foreplay Ideas https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 321 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Anya Laeta. In this episode, we discuss the different ways people can experience an orgasm, understanding orgasmic breathing and we also hear a sample of a breathing exercise from Anya.Given that sex was a shameful and taboo topic in her culture, it is miraculous that her attitude toward sex was always one of curiosity and experimentation. Despite being open-minded and comfortable with sex, all her relationships would start lacking passion and excitement after about a year or so. Anya would conclude that she “fell out of love” and looked for a new relationship. Only to repeat this pattern all over 6-12 months later. Not being able to have a sustainable, fulfilling sex life made her feel like a failure in relationships. It is this challenge that ultimately led her to study human sexuality, Tantra, and relationship psychology. Understanding how her erotic mind, desire, arousal, sexual polarity, and anatomy work empowers Anya to create and re-create excitement, passion, and sexual satisfaction every day. She would be lying if she said it’s easy. Yet, having a roadmap to do it made it possible for Anya to have a happy and sexy long-term relationship that she was dreaming about. Today Anya is honored to help you meet your erotic potential and relationship needs.In this episode, you will hear: ·      Looking at the different ways people can experience an orgasm·      Analyzing emotional v genital-based orgasms·      Looking at the way your brain wires your thinking of orgasms·      Understanding the concept of embodiment·      What is orgasmic breathing?·      Can anyone practice orgasmic breathing?·      How you can learn to deepen your breath to enhance your sexual experience·      A sample of a breathing exercise from Anya·      Using music to enrich your breathing exercises·      The different ways vulva and penis owners can benefit from these exercises 9 Foreplay Ideashttps://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 320 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Miranda (@PleasureBhabie). In this episode, we discuss how Miranda became involved in Sex Education, looking at the best techniques for thrusting, using lube to your advantage and cultivating your sexual energy for great sex.  In this episode, you will hear:   How Miranda became involved in Sex Education  Looking at the best techniques for thrusting  Common mistakes men make with thrusting  Why don’t need to “Jackhammer” your partner for them to orgasm  Using lube to your advantage Looking at some of Miranda’s favorite choice of lubes  Understanding the importance of consent and communication How to use sexual positions to their best effect  Cultivating your sexual energy for great sex  Why women shouldn’t have to fake an orgasm  Cozy Earth This week's episode was sponsored by Cozy Earth. Use the code SEXOLOGY to get 40% off all products: https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY  9 Foreplay Ideas https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 319 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Kevin Anthony. In this episode, we discuss pussy worship, how you can use pussy worship to please your partner, analysing the scent of a pussy and taking the pressure off women to have an orgasm. Kevin Anthony 'The Truth Warrior' is a former tech guy who turned Men's Relationship Coach and Certified Tantra Counselor. Kevin is truly a modern-day warrior who brings both his heart and sword of truth to everything he does. Kevin has spent over 20 years on a personal quest to redefine and discover what it means to be a man and a warrior. In an era of social programming and mass confusion of what it means to be a man and a warrior in life, relationships, and sex - he is consistently challenging his edge and searching for the truth so that he can help others. He is the co-creator of the course Sexual Power and Mastery with his lover and wife Céline, "The Intimacy Angel," which is the complete training to develop man's stamina, boost his confidence, and enhance his sexual abilities. He and his wife also co-host "The Love Lab Podcast." His passion is helping other men find and discover their hero's journey of being a warrior; to learn how to be deeply connected to their partner and allow intimacy to show up in all areas of their life while still feeling balanced as a man.   In this episode, you will hear: ·      How many women haven’t properly looked at their own pussy·      Analyzing the scent of a pussy·      Why it’s important to embrace the natural smell of pussy·      The importance of present with your partner·      Why you need to show your partner your invested in pussy worship ·      Taking the pressure off women to have an orgasm ·      Ways in which to make your partner comfortable and more relaxed·      Understanding pussy worship doesn’t need to lead to orgasm ·      How you can immerse yourself in experiencing pleasure through pussy worship Cozy EarthThis week's episode was sponsored by Cozy Earth. Use the code SEXOLOGY to get 40% off all products: https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 318 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Hayley Quinn. In this episode, we discuss how couples in long term relationships can take advantage of sexting, the importance of consent when sexting, and how you can learn to develop your erotic vocabulary.  Dating coach Hayley Quinn’s original content, active social media presence, and unique delivery style helps global brands connect to a new audience and drive engagement.   Hayley has worked with numerous premium brands from Neutrogena, to Match, to Glamour, Logitech G, Ogilvy and Hotels.com. Hayley’s skills as a broadcast presenter, mean she can act as an experienced “safe pair of hands” to represent your brand on radio days, TV segments or social media content. She is a skilled copywriter and regularly works with brands to hone their press releases and provides expertise on how to utilize dating content to get your brand into the media. She is also a highly experienced public speaker who can engage on live events, and panels.   As well as being an internationally recognized dating coach and founder of the UK’s largest dating coaching company, Hayley is a published author. Her debut fiction book “The Last First Date” (Harper Collins) and non-fiction “Do This, Not That: Dating” (Simon & Schuster) are due for publication in January 2023.   Hayley has appeared on TV and radio shows across the UK, USA and beyond: providing lively debate and content on love and dating. She’s appeared on shows ranging from BBC News, to Celebs Go Dating, to The Apprentice and is a safe pair of hands for live TV and broadcast. She is also experienced helping behind the scenes with show content.     In this episode, you will hear:   How couples in long term relationships can take advantage of sexting Seducing your partner via sexting  The way in which sexting can help recapture desire Why audio and voice notes might be the best tool for you to use Security measures you can take if sending sexy pictures The importance of consent when sexting Context is key! Take things one step at a time  Learning to develop your erotic vocabulary  Bridging the gap if one partner is more confident than the other sexting  The need and importance of positive reinforcement   Cozy Earth This week's episode was sponsored by Cozy Earth. Use the code SEXOLOGY to get 40% off all products: https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 317 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be speaking with Sebastian Harris. In this episode, we discuss how you can keep a long term relationship hot, the importance of seduction, tips on how you can get better at seducing your partner and how to create more space in your relationship to allow for sexy time!  Sebastian Harris is a dating coach and sex coach who is on a mission to help men to live more fulfilling dating and sex lives.     In this episode, you will hear:   What inspired Sebastian to write his book Rise of the Phoenix: How to Get the Hottest Girls in a World That Wants You to Fail Keeping a long-term relationship hot  Why it’s important for you to seduce your partner Mistakes men often make when it comes to seduction  How it’s easy to get lazy in a long-term relationship  Tips on ways to break out of the laziness  Steps you can take to really turn your partner on Keeping communication open so you can be honest about what is and isn’t working Creating space in your relationship to allow for sexy time  Looking at the pillars of seductive touch   Cozy Earth This week's episode was sponsored by Cozy Earth. Use the code SEXOLOGY to get 40% off all products: https://cozyearth.com/discount/SEXOLOGY   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 316 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. David J. Ley to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss cuckolding, analyzing the misconceptions, the role that cuckold porn plays and, tips and suggestions on how you can explore cuckolding.  David Ley is a clinical psychologist, sex therapist and author, based in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He's the author of several books and research articles on sexuality, including his first book, Insatiable Wives, Women who Stray and the Men Who Love Them, which was the first book to examine the cuckolding and hotwife phenomenon.  With Justin Lehmiller and Dan Savage, he published the first psychological study of the cuckold fantasy. Dr. Ley is a frequent guest in media around the world, with appearances in the New York Times, CNN and Time Magazine, as well as Hustler and Playboy magazines.      In this episode, you will hear:   How David became interested in Cuckolding How is Cuckolding defined? The difference between Cuckolding and Hotwifing  Analyzing the misconceptions around Cuckolding  Looking at what makes up healthy sexuality  The role that masturbation plays in this issue Who initiates Cuckolding? How Cuckold porn is one of the most popular categories  Ways in which people are now rejecting shame How Cuckolding is losing its stigma  Tips and suggestions on how you can explore Cuckolding   Survey https://help373205.typeform.com/to/JaOWt8CM  Please take a few minutes to complete this survey to help us curate content that is relevant to your needs.  Emjoy  https://links.letsemjoy.com/ref/DRMOALI  Emjoy is a wellbeing audio app empowering women on their journey to sexual happiness with content that has been designed with licensed sex therapists, sex coaches and experts from various fields, such as mindfulness. Sexology listeners can use the app for 14 days free by using the link above.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 315 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a special solo episode where we discuss the issue of if your parent's sexual trauma be passed down to you, understanding how sexual trauma works, the role that epigenetics plays in this issue and the importance of having time to breath and regroup following trauma.  We also discuss ways you can make sexy new year's resolutions for 2023, how you can communicate with your partner about things you would like to improve or explore in your relationship and understanding what a real sexy win for yourself would be in 2023.      In this episode, you will hear:   A look back at the last six years of Sexology Podcast Plans for 2023 and future episodes Answering a question from a listener about sexual trauma  Understanding how sexual trauma can be passed on from parent to child The role that epigenetics plays in this issue  Looking at studies from other people affected by trauma and traumatic events The importance of having time to breath and regroup following trauma How the book “The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma” is a great resource on this subject matter Ways you can make sexy new year's resolutions for 2023 How you can communicate with your partner about things you would like to improve or explore in your relationship Ways you can be successful in following through on a resolution  Understanding what a real sexy win for yourself would be in 2023 Knowing when the right time is to see a Sex Therapist or Sex Coach Understanding the differences between a Sex Therapist and Sex Coach Forging the road ahead to your sexy new goals  Survey Please take a few minutes to complete this survey to help us curate content that is relevant to your needs. https://help373205.typeform.com/to/JaOWt8CM  Emjoy  https://links.letsemjoy.com/ref/DRMOALI   Emjoy is a wellbeing audio app empowering women on their journey to sexual happiness with content that has been designed with licensed sex therapists, sex coaches and experts from various fields, such as mindfulness. Sexology listeners can use the app for 14 days free by using the link above.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 314 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Jason Julius to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss oral sex, the common mistakes men make when giving oral sex, analyzing tongue movements, and the best positions to take for oral sex.  Jason Julius is a sex coach with over 15 years of experience teaching couples all over the world how to have incredible experiences in the bedroom. Surprised with how little information there is in the mainstream world around sex, female orgasms, and sexual performance Jason sought out uncommon techniques and practices that would help the average man or woman elevate their intimate experiences.  Jason is known for creating a clean, respectful, mature, intelligent conversation around having great sex. Jason wanted to create a place for people to discover a deeper level of understanding, especially when it comes to the mental aspects of female orgasms.  Jason began posting intimate details of his experiences and has since amassed a loyal following on YouTube of others seeking a deeper understanding of what it takes to be an amazing lover. Frustrated by the negative beliefs that are perpetuated by the adult film industry, Jason separates what he teaches by creating content without nudity, done in a tasteful way that reaches people who are genuinely looking to please their partner and have more confidence in themselves when it comes to sex.      In this episode, you will hear:   How Jason became involved in this line of work The importance of being present with your partner during oral sex Should you use breath as teasing? The common mistakes men make when giving oral sex What gets in the way of men experiencing enthusiasm  Understanding the more you give the more you get back Analyzing tongue movements  How sexy language can amplify the experience further  Do men care about the shape of vulvas?  Looking at squirting  The best positions to take for oral sex What’s a reasonable amount of time for a man to give oral sex? Is face sitting enjoyable?  OMGyes  https://omgyes.com/doctors  OMGyes - Special Discount! https://omgyes.com/sexology  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 313 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Kathryn LaRoche to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the misconceptions around contraception, taking care of yourself if you think you’re pregnant and ways in which men can support their partners.  Dr. Kathryn J. LaRoche, PhD, MSc is an Assistant Professor of Public Health at Purdue University. She is a public health social scientist and applied anthropologist who carries out community-engaged, action- and intervention-oriented research about sexual and reproductive health with a focus on abortion and pregnancy.   She has published her work extensively in journals like Contraception and Women’s Health Issues, and she has led and contributed to projects in Canada, Australia, and the United States.   In 2022, she received the Carole Joffe and Stanley Henshaw Early Achievement in Social Science Research Award from the National Abortion Federation for her contribution to generating abortion-related knowledge.      In this episode, you will hear:   Looking at the misconceptions around contraception  How there isn’t a one size fits all solution  The educational issues around contraception Ways you can take care of yourself if you think you’re pregnant  Navigating abortion in areas of the world where it’s not legal  Understanding there are professional organizations who can help you How to properly deal with an unplanned pregnancy  Making sure you communicate effectively with your partner Ways in which young men can support their partners  OMGyes  https://omgyes.com/doctors   OMGyes - Special Discount! https://omgyes.com/sexology  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 312 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Ashley Townes to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss virginity, the social construct and values around virginity, the importance of safety and prevention, and how you can create a better construct and narrative around virginity.  Dr. Ashley Townes (she/her/hers) is a sexuality educator and researcher. As a native of Cincinnati, Ohio, she attended the University of Cincinnati, where she earned both her Bachelor of Science and Master of Public Health degrees. She later earned a PhD in Health Behavior and Epidemiology from Indiana University-Bloomington.   Dr. Townes has over 15 years of experience providing sexuality education across a variety of academic and public health entities. Dr. Townes currently works in a postdoctoral research role in Atlanta, GA. Ashley’s research focuses on the sexual experiences of Black women, including partnered experiences, accessing health information, and utilizing sexual health services.   As a young investigator, she has been a part of at least 15 peer-reviewed publications, serves on the Editorial Board for the American Journal of Sexuality Education, contributes to the Live Alive Wellness Blog created by Pure Romance, and has been featured in a variety of media, including Mind Body Green, Woman’s Day, Cosmopolitan, and MTV News). Her career interests are aimed at providing quality sexuality information and working towards health equity.      In this episode, you will hear:   How is virginity defined? Looking at the issue of “repairing virginity”  Understanding the social construct and values around virginity  Analyzing the female hymen  Creating a better construct and narrative around virginity  Improving your sexual experiences as you encounter them for the first time How communication is key to unlocking better sexual experiences Safety first! Make sure your fully up to speed with condoms and prevention   OMGyes  https://omgyes.com/doctors   OMGyes - Special Discount! https://omgyes.com/sexology  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 311 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons to the podcast. In this episode, we look at racial trauma, how it impacts men and women differently, and how our cultural scripts can affect our sexual pleasure.  Dr. Candice Hargons (she/her) is an award-winning associate professor in the counseling psychology program at the University of Kentucky, where she studies sexual wellness and healing racial trauma – all with a love ethic. She is the PI of the SAMHSA funded Neighborhood Healers Project, which seeks to advance mental health literacy and utilization among Black Lexingtonians.  She is also a co-I on projects funded by NIDA, HRSA, and NIMHD examining substance use outcomes, treatment, and sexual health disparities. Additionally, she leads the Big Sex Study, a mixed methods, community-based participatory action research project investigating Black sexual wellness.  She is the founding director of the Center for Healing Racial Trauma, and the host of the How to Love a Human Podcast. Her new sexual liberation podcast, F*ck the System, launches January 2023.        In this episode, you will hear:   Looking at racial trauma  The different impacts of racial trauma between men and women Understanding sexual liberation  How our cultural scripts can affect our sexual pleasure  Analyzing the orgasm gap  How is pleasure defined? Practice makes perfect! How you can continue to improve your sex life over time Discovering your sexual identity  Looking at sex in deep and intimate relationships  Exploring and cultivating fantasies  Recommendations for parents improving their sex lives  OMGyes  Thank you to our sponsor OMGYES! OMGYES.com is a website devoted to sexual pleasure for people with vulvas and their partners. OMGYES conducts and publishes the first-ever nationally representative large-scale studies about specific pleasure strategies, in partnership with Indiana University and Kinsey Institute researchers. See for yourself and get a discount at – https://OMGyes.com/sexology  Clinicians, therapists and nurses get free personal access to OMGYES. Just email therapists@omgyes.com from your work email address with a link to your professional profile. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 310 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Ali Mushtaq to the podcast. In this episode, look at the underlying reasons why Americans are having less sex, analyse the differences between genders on this issue and differentiating sexuality v eroticism.  Ali Mushtaq has his PhD from University of California: San Francisco in Sociology. Ali has over 10-years' experience in both qualitative and quantitative research methods and taught numerous college-level courses to hundreds of students.    As a former leather title holder, Ali has used his platform to speak on multiple social issues and address social inequality.  Through his written work, press engagements, modeling, and his courses, he continues to address diversity, inclusion, and equity in hopes of creating a better world.    Through his teachings, his main goal is to help professionals in media, market research, business, and others learn techniques to be inclusive as well as help others empower themselves.      In this episode, you will hear:   Are Americans having less sex? Is celibacy on the rise? Looking at the underlying reasons why Americans are having less sex How issues such as depression can affect sexual activity  Is this a global trend or just an American issue? Analyzing the differences between genders on this issue  Understanding the pros and cons of having less sex Differentiating sexuality v eroticism Looking at issues such as consent and the Me-Too movement  How we have more people identifying as non-binary than in previous years    Arya https://link.arya.fyi/play   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 309 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Yana Tallon-Hicks to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how you can bring back passion in a relationship, overcoming low desire and recommendations for ways to explore new sexual interests. Yana Tallon-Hicks, MA is a couples & relationships therapist and a consent, sex & sexuality writer and educator living in Western Massachusetts. Her work centers around the belief that pleasure-positive & consent-based sex education can positively impact our lives and the world.   Yana’s workshops for youth & workshops for adults work to create a welcoming & comfortable space to explore crucial aspects of our holistic, sexual selves such as pleasure, communication, consent & the body. Her workshops such as Consent & Cookies, Polyamory & Open Relationships, Hitting the Spot: Pleasure-Based Sex Education, and Pleasure-Based Consent have taken place at Duke University, Marlboro College, Oh My Sensuality Shop, Hampshire College, Smith College, Bennington College, Brandeis University, and Simmons University, along with a growing list of other colleges & universities across New England and the U.S.   Her popular workshop Consent Cookies: A confidence-building workshop for teens has been taught at various high schools & teen youth groups. Though much of her published sex advice is written for an adult audience, Yana also has years of experience working with teens. Her workshops for youth are tailored to be approachable & age-appropriate and focus on essential components of healthy sexuality and relationships for young people including consent, communication, safer sex & body-ownership.      In this episode, you will hear:   How Yana became interested in writing her book: Hot and Unbothered: How to think about, talk about, and have the sex you really want.  Recommendations for people wanting to explore their sexual interests  Looking at kink and the safest way to explore it  The importance of community when exploring kink  Ways you can overcome low desire Maintaining excitement in a long-term relationship Understanding how you and your partners needs will change over time  Overcoming sexual dissatisfaction in a relationship  How you can re-energize yourself to become interested in sex again  Having a great sex life if you’re both parents   Workshop  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/7-tactics  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 308 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Amir Marashi to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the best sexual positions for orgasms, how can we intensify orgasms, and how sex toys can improve orgasms.  Dr. Marashi is a board-certified OB/GYN, author, and founder of Cerē. Dr. Marashi has over twenty years of experience in the medical field, and was the first doctor in the U.S. to host an official cosmetic gynecology rotation for OB/GYN residency training.   In 2020, Dr. Marashi published A Woman’s Right to Pleasure, a distinctive collection of over 200 works and original texts from over 60 of the world’s most important and well-recognized female-identifying artists, writers and creative thinkers from around the globe.      In this episode, you will hear:   Why sex is important in a relationship  Do we experience orgasms differently when masturbating? The common barriers that get in the way of women having great orgasms Looking at the best sexual positions for orgasms  Why cowgirl and women on top is great for orgasms How can we intensify orgasms? What can you do outside the bedroom to improve your sex life How sex toys can improve orgasms Looking at the toys Dr. Marashi has worked on  20% Discount Code – Sexology20 https://getcere.com  Workshop  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/7-tactics  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 307 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Keeley Rankin to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss what happens at sex clubs, what you can expect from the experience, setting expectations and the importance of setting boundaries.  As a leading sex and relationship coach based in San Francisco, Keeley Rankin has been successful in helping men, women and couples overcome intimacy issues and enjoy the best sex of their lives since 2010. She received a master’s degree in Counseling Psychology with a focus on marriage and family therapy from John F. Kennedy University. Keeley is a co-founder of BetterSexEd.org and Co-Creator of the innovative group workshop series, Sex as Meditation, which integrates mindfulness and sex.   Keeley is also a Certified Somatica Method Practitioner (a relational and experiential body-based therapy), Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Certified Queer Conscious Educator, trained in Hakomi Therapy (somatic and mindfulness-based method), and Recreation of the Self, a system for re-empowering our ability to live from an undivided state of selfhood in relationship with others.   Since 2009, she has assisted world-renowned psychotherapist, John Welwood in bridging the gap between the psychological and spiritual. She lead educational workshops on male sexual difficulties for therapists and coaches and created engaging video series courses that help people overcome sexual dysfunction from the convenience of their own homes.       In this episode, you will hear:   How Keeley became interested in this line of work  What can you expect if you attend a sex club? Looking at the differences between sex clubs and swinging The importance of setting expectations when going to sex clubs Making sure you set boundaries How your female partner will likely get most of the attention at a sex club Analyzing the risk of STI’s and how you can protect yourself Why Keeley became disconnected from sex clubs   Workshop  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/7-tactics   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 306 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Susie Gronski to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss male sexual health, the common challenges men face with penile issues, understanding erectile dysfunction and looking at the factors that cause low desire in men.  Specializing in men’s pelvic and sexual health, Susie Gronski, PT, DPT is a licensed doctor of physical therapy, certified pelvic rehabilitation practitioner, international teacher, author and creator of one-to-one and self-paced health programs that help men with pelvic pain become experts in treating themselves.   Her passion is making you feel comfortable about taboo subjects like sex and private parts. Social stigmas aren’t her thing and neither is medical fluff. She provides real advice, just like a friend who knows the lowdown down below. She’s determined to make sure you know you can get help for painful ejaculation, problems with the joystick, discomfort or pain during sex and controlling your pee... without being embarrassed…    So, if you’re having some trouble ‘down there’, she’s the person to get to know.     In this episode, you will hear:   How Dr. Susie became interested in this field  Learning to spice things up and try different sexual experiences How many women need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm  The common challenges men face with penile issues  Is it true you can break your penis? Looking at the factors that cause low desire in men How is erectile dysfunction defined? Understanding Kegel exercises Why men should become more acquainted with their soft penis   Find Dr. Susie Gronski Online https://drsusieg.com  Workshop  https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/7-tactics  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 305 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Stephen Foster to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how Stephen become interested in this area of research, looking at the internalized concept of masculinity and understanding honor culture among men.  Dr. Stephen Foster is a social psychologist at Penn State York. His academic work is primarily centered around the intersection of culture, stigma, and health behaviors, including vaccine attendance, screening attendance, and various forms of help-seeking.  Other research interests include conflict resolution in relationships, sexual function, and subjective socioeconomic status.     In this episode, you will hear:   How did Stephen become interested in this area of research? How erectile dysfunction is defined  Understanding why people do things against their best interest  Looking at the internalized concept of masculinity  Ways we can motivate people to ask for help  Are people more comfortable asking for help from same or different gender? Understanding the importance of communication to help address these issues  Looking at other findings in Stephen’s study  Is opening up to your partner about this well received?  Understanding honor culture among men   Workshop: 7 Tactics for Achieving Optimal Performance Without Medicationhttps://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/7-tacticsFind Dr. Stephen Foster Online sfoster@psu.edu  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 304 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Rachel Needle to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the impact erectile dysfunction can have on a woman in a relationship, helpful tips for what you can do as a partner to help and looking at the variety of factors that can cause erectile dysfunction.   Dr. Rachel Needle is a Licensed Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist in private practice and the founder and executive director of the Whole Health Psychological Center. She is also the owner and Co-Director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes which provides continuing education to Mental Health and Medical professionals and Sex Therapists around the world. MSTI provides certifications in Sex Therapy, Couples & Sex Therapy, LGBTQIA Affirmative Therapy, Alternative Relationships, Medical Sexology, and Transgender Affirmative Mental Health Care, Sexual Trauma, Problematic Sexual Behavior, Sex Counseling, and Sex Educator, and a Ph.D. in Clinical Sexology.   Dr. Needle is often interviewed by and quoted in national media outlets. She has been featured in a number of popular magazines such as Details, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Men’s Health, Details, and Shape, and papers including the Washington Post and the Palm Beach Post. She has written several articles for Glamour Magazine’s online Blog: Smitten.   Dr. Needle is a business coach and consultant and helps therapists build and thrive in private practice both in person and online! She is the co-owner of My Private Practice Collective which has a facebook group and offers a course on how to start, grow, and thrive in private practice. The course helps therapists successfully start and build either an in person, online, or combination therapy practice!     In this episode, you will hear:   How erectile dysfunction can affect a woman in a relationship  Other sexual activities you can explore if struggling with erectile dysfunction Experimenting with sex toys  Helpful tips for what you can do as a partner to help Looking at the variety of factors that can cause erectile dysfunction How you can improve your communication during this process The importance of giving our partners direction   Find Dr. Rachel Needle Online https://drrachel.com   Tips for Lifelong Erectile Health https://oasis2care.com/hard-penis-checklist/   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 303 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Debby Herbenick to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss choking during sex, analyzing the resources available in this area, and why communication is vital when engaging in choking.  Debby Herbenick is a tenured professor at the Indiana University School of Public Health and director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion.   For more than 20 years, she has dedicated her efforts to understanding how people experience their bodies and sexual lives.   Among her 190+ scientific publications, she has developed and validated measurement scales to assess genital self-image (which can be thought of as how people feel about their genitals), the quality of sexual experiences, and measures related to sexual pleasure.  #Mahsaamini  We stand in solidarity with every single Iranian protesting against the repression of women in Iran. No woman should be persecuted for choosing what to wear or standing up for her rights.    Mahsa Amini, 22, died on September 16, three days after falling into a coma following her arrest in Tehran by the morality police. Her death erupted protests across Iran and the World.  While many people lost their lives in the demonstrations, thousands of people were detained. The Iranian government wants to shut down the voice of these women by shutting down the internet.   Please be their voice by reposting the news using #Mahsaamini     In this episode, you will hear:   How Debby became interested in the topic of choking during sex Analyzing the research and resources available on choking  Understanding what it means to be safe How you can weigh your own safety against any risks  The way in which meme culture has affected choking  Why communication is vital when engaging in choking Looking out for things like skin color changes when choking  What Debby’s students think about choking   Find Debby Herbenick Online https://www.debbyherbenick.com  Foreplay Checklist https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 302 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Terry Cralle, MS, RN, to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how sleep affects sex, knowing when it’s poor sleep that’s affecting your sex life and how regular sex can help with better sleep.  Terry Cralle, MS, RN, is a Registered Nurse based in Washington, DC. She is certified in clinical sleep health and has co-authored two books on sleep; Snoozby and the Great Big Bedtime Battle (Rowe Publishing, 2015), the first nonfiction book directly messaging the benefits of sufficient sleep to young children and Sleeping Your Way to the Top (Sterling Publishing, 2016), the ultimate guide to success through sufficient sleep.    As the cofounder of a four-bed sleep disorders center and a nationally recognized sleep health and wellness consultant, educator, advisor and advocate, Terry’s work in the field of sleep medicine has spanned over 25 years. Terry is a certified professional in healthcare quality and holds bachelor’s degrees in Sociology and Nursing as well as a master’s degree in Healthcare Management.   She serves on the Start School Later Board of Directors and is a spokesperson for the Better Sleep Council. Terry works with a variety of organizations throughout the U.S. and Europe to promote sleep health and wellness.     In this episode, you will hear:   How does sleep affect sex? Knowing when it’s poor sleep that’s affecting our sex lives Overcoming being in survival mode through lack of sleep How regular sex can help with sleep The importance of investing in a good bed / mattress for sleep Understanding that sleeping apart doesn’t mean your relationship is in a bad place When is it appropriate to go for a sleep study? Recommendations for couples to improve sleep together How you can make sleep your me time   Find Terry Cralle Online https://www.terrycrallern.com   Sex Quiz For Women https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 301 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Albert Wong back to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the common mistakes couples in long term relationships make around sex, how you can listen to your body to know your needs and ways in which you can give compassionate feedback.  Dr. Albert Wong is the Director of the Trauma Certificate Program at Somatopia and and the former Director of Somatic Psychology at John F. Kennedy University.   A leading educator in the field of somatics, he trains students in somatic psychology, healing trauma, and the mind-body connection through his online platform, Somatopia, and maintains an online private practice centered around somatic psychology.     In this episode, you will hear:   What do people mean when they say, “my partner is bad in bed”? Common mistakes couples in long term relationships make around sex  The ingredients needed to improve a relationship  Recommendations for rituals you can incorporate into your relationship  How you can listen to your body to know your needs Understanding the importance of communication  The importance of being selfull Ways in which you can give compassionate feedback Analyzing the practicalities of feedback   We stand in solidarity with every single Iranian protesting against repression of women in Iran. No woman should be persecuted for choosing what to wear or standing up for her rights. To our Iranian sisters in Iran, we feel your courage, we hear your voices, I marvel at your fearlessness. You are not alone, we will amplify your voices. If you want to learn more about what is happening in Iran watch our IG live here.Find Dr. Albert Wong Online http://www.dralbertwong.com   Foreplay Checklist https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558  Amazon Gift Card Win a $100 Amazon Gift Card! Send a screenshot of your review to - drmoali@sexologypodcast.com or DM via Instagram.  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 300 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a special episode where Dr Nazanin Moali answers your questions around desire discrepancy, improving an unhealthy open relationship, overcoming performance challenges and how pornography can cause erectile dysfunction.   Dr. Moali also reflects hosting Sexology Podcast for five years and how the podcast has changed Dr. Moali as a clinician.     In this episode, you will hear:   Analyzing a desire discrepancy between a couple  Ways to manage differences in sexual drive between partners Understanding your baseline desire  Overcoming challenges of remaining present during sex The importance of mindfulness for better sex How you can use sensate focus touch  Create rituals before having sex  How you can seduce your partner in a way they like  Overcoming the challenges of open relationships Identifying the red flags of an unhealthy open relationship  The importance of creating co-consent for an open relationship  Understanding the need for your own privacy & boundaries  Looking at how pornography can cause erectile dysfunction  Does porn only affect erectile dysfunction when watched or can audio only porn do the same thing? Understanding that porn is not real life and is an unrealistic expectation of how your actual sex life will be  Managing your sexual fantasies alongside porn through masturbation  Reflecting on hosting Sexology Podcast for five years How the podcast has changed Dr. Moali as a clinician   Find Sexology Podcast Online https://sexologypodcast.com   Transformative Power of Sensate Focus https://sexologypodcast.com/2019/01/08/sensate-focus/   Amazon Gift Card Win a $100 Amazon Gift Card! Send a screenshot of your review to - drmoali@sexologypodcast.com or DM via Instagram.   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 299 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Stefani Goerlich back to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss how Stefani became interested in writing her book Praise for The Leather Couch, the misconceptions around dominance in the bedroom and how people get more turned on when there is consent.  Stefani holds a Masters in Social Work from Wayne State University, where she specialized in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. She has over fifteen years’ experience in working with poly/kinky individuals, swingers, commercial sex workers, and child and adult survivors of sexual trauma including human trafficking.  Stefani has served as a guest lecturer on minority sexual communities at Northwestern University and is a frequent conference presenter on topics related to Kink Aware Practice and consent. An award winning author, she currently working on her second book entitled The Leather Couch: Clinical Practice with Kinky Clients.     In this episode, you will hear:   How Stefani became interested in writing her book Praise for The Leather Couch The misconceptions around dominance in the bedroom  Looking at dominance v domestic violence  Analyzing the consent issues in Fifty Shades of Grey  Looking at the different types of dominance, sadism, topping, BDSM, etc.  How do people discover what kind of dominance they like and don’t like  Understanding the importance of consent  How people get more turned on when there is consent  The importance of communication and clear understanding Find Stefani Goerlich Online https://www.stefanigoerlich.com  Foreplay Checklist https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 298 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Nicoletta Heidegger to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss dealing with erotic conflict, exploring other relationship types such as polyamorous and figuring out when’s the right time to end a relationship.  Nicoletta Heidegger is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (#110256) and sexologist practicing in Los Angeles, California.   Nicoletta received her BA in Psychology from Stanford University, her MA in Clinical Psychology from Pepperdine University, and her Masters of Education in Human Sexuality from Widener University.    She sees therapy clients virtually and at her unique ranch office in Los Angeles, where she offers sex therapy, outdoor sessions, and Equine Facilitated (also called Equine Assisted) Psychotherapy and Learning. Nicoletta also creates weekly content via her growing hit show Sluts and Scholars: a sex positive, shame-free educational podcast.     In this episode, you will hear:   Dealing with erotic conflict  Discovering your partner likes something sexual you’re not interested in What to do when your partner reveals they have a fetish to you How to communicate if your partner revels a different sexual side to you Exploring other relationship types such as polyamorous  The different types of modality people can explore Looking at equine assisted therapy  What we can learn from equine assisted therapy Figuring out when’s the right time to end a relationship Find Nicoletta Heidegger Online https://www.slutsandscholars.com   101 Ways To Keep Your Relationship Hot https://sexologypodcast.com/subscribe/   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audioAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 297 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Tom Murray to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the way in which over control gets in the way of great sex, understanding the issue of forced celibacy and exercises you can do to improve your sex life.  Dr. Tom Murray, author, international trainer, educator, and couples and sex therapist-supervisor, is a widely sought-after expert in sexuality and intimate relationships. For 20+ years, Murray has worked with everyday folks to embrace their weirdness, shed labels and shame, lean into anxiety, and build better and stronger relationships.   Murray has appeared in numerous venues, including the Huffington Post and The Daily Mail, as well as radio, television and podcasts, including the Practice of Being Seen and Shrink Rap Radio.   Murray directs A Path to Wellness Integrative Psychiatry. He authored Making Nice with Naughty: An intimacy guide for the rule-following, organized, perfectionist, practical, and color within the line types.     In this episode, you will hear:   How Tom became interested in this subject area The way in which over control gets in the way of great sex Why sex needs mystery The pressure we put on ourselves to be “Sexually perfect” Recommendations for dealing with an over developed desire to control things Analyzing the monogamous agreement Understanding the issue of forced celibacy The pleasures of mutual masturbation Looking the issues around the “Neutral Face” How you can learn to better show your emotions Exercises you can do to improve your sex life  Find Dr. Tom Murray Online https://drtommurray.com  Foreplay Checklist https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 296 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Mary Jo Rapini to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the difference between intimacy and sex, analyzing intellectual intimacy and how you can gain better access to your emotions.  Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist specializing in intimacy, sex and relationships. She lives in Houston, Texas and maintains a private practice as a relationship, intimacy/sex psychotherapist.   Rapini is a renowned lecturer, author and television personality. Currently, you can find Mary Jo on Fox 26 Houston with her segment on healthy relationships on Mondays and “Ask Mary Jo” on Thursdays. She has been a contributor on air for CNN’s Prime News and has been on CBS Up to the Minute, Fox National Morning News, Montel, Steve Harvey, the Today Show and Dateline.    Rapini contributes and writes a love/relationship expert page for Your Tango. She also contributes to magazines including Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Playboy, First, Seventeen, Teen, Redbook and Self. She has written for Huffington Post and the New York Times.   Rapini is the author of Is God Pink? Dying to Heal, and a co-author of Start Talking: A Girl's Guide for You and Your Mom about Health, Sex or Whatever and Re-Coupling; a Couple’s 4 Step Guide to Greater Intimacy and Better Sex.     In this episode, you will hear:   Looking at the difference between intimacy and sex Understanding the different types of intimacy  How you can gain better access to your emotions The importance of not rushing to find solutions if you’ve been emotionally hurt  Analyzing intellectual intimacy  How you can manage different religious and political beliefs in a relationship  The difference between physical and sexual intimacy  How men and women engage differently with intimacy Thank you to our Sponsor: Cozy Earth! Use code ‘Sexology’ for 40% off. https://cozyearth.com  Find Mary Jo Rapini Online https://www.maryjorapini.com  Foreplay Checklist https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/free-foreplay-checklist51618558   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 295 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Jenny McGrath to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss her study Transnationalizing Purity, understanding purity culture and how purity shows up in the bedroom for adult women.  Jenny McGrath (She/Her) MA, LMHC, is a somatic psychotherapist, movement educator, and researcher based out of Seattle. She works primarily with white, cisgender women who grew up in fundamentalist Christianity who are healing from religious sexual shame and sexual abuse. She researches purity culture and its impact on individual and collective bodies.    Her current study, Transnationalizing Purity, looks at the intersections of those socialized within purity culture and their decisions to do development or ministry work internationally.     She recently released an online course, Embodied Sexuality, that offers comprehensive teachings about the impact of purity culture as well as sex education that most folks who grew up in abstinence only education never learned.      In this episode, you will hear:   Insights into Jenny’s recent study  Understanding Transnationalizing Purity  Looking at Jenny’s story of purity and the impact it had on her  The common themes that emerged from the study  Looking at the experience of going on purity missions  Understanding purity culture  The role that shame plays around purity culture The consequences women face for breaking their purity  How purity shows up in the bedroom for adult women  Looking at sexual embodiment Learning to tune into your body and be curious    Thank you to our Sponsor: Cozy Earth! Use code ‘Sexology’ for 40% off. https://cozyearth.com  Find Jenny McGrath Online www.indwellmovement.com  A Woman’s Guide to Reviving Sex Drivehttps://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 294 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Sheila Wray Gregoire to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the inspiration behind her book, The Great Sex Rescue, how you can honor religion with a great sex life, and how men can empower women to say no.  Sheila Wray Gregoire is the face behind ToLoveHonorandVacuum.com, the largest single-blogger marriage blog. A sought-after speaker, she’s also an award-winning author of nine books, including The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex and The Great Sex Rescue. Sheila has a Master's in Public Administration and Master of Arts in Sociology both from Queen’s University.  Sheila built the successful blog, To Love, Honor, and Vacuum, with traffic of one million page views a month. Her email list is 45,000 strong and her social media reach is over 100,000. Her podcast, Bare Marriage, has more than 5,000 downloads each week. She is an award-winning author with seven royalty published books. A sought-after speaker, Sheila has spoken at churches and conferences around the globe. She is a frequent contributor at Family Life Canada events.  Her latest book, “The Great Sex Rescue” was featured in the New York Times Book Review, Publishers Weekly, and the Washington Post. She has bylines at Religion News Service, Relevant Magazine, and other news sources. Sheila and her husband Keith, a pediatrician, live in Belleville Ontario.  They have two grown daughters and one very adorable grandson and granddaughter who live down the road. She enjoys hiking, birdwatching, RV camping trips, and board games. And she knits - even in line at the grocery store.     In this episode, you will hear:   The inspiration behind the book, The Great Sex Rescue Looking at the common beliefs that hurt sex  Understanding sex isn’t just vaginal penetration  The difference between sex and intimacy  The dynamic between sexual and relational satisfaction  Ways in which couples can find good resources to educate themselves  How you can honor religion with a great sex life Overcoming orgasm anxiety  Tips for women on how to better communicate with male partners How men can empower women to say no  Thank you to our Sponsor: Cozy Earth! Use code ‘Sexology’ for 40% off. https://cozyearth.com  Find Sheila Wray Gregoire Online https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com  A Woman's Guide to Reviving Sex Drive https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 293 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr Kristian Leisegang to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the issues around erectile dysfunction, analyzing the studies conducted around this issue and looking at the ways in which lifestyle changes such as a better diet can help with erectile dysfunction.  Dr Kristian Leisegang is currently the Director of the School of Natural Medicine (SoNM), University of the Western Cape (UWC), Cape Town, South Africa, with over 12 years academic and clinical experience. He is a clinically trained and registered homeopathic Doctor in South Africa, and further obtained a PhD in Medical Science.    His learning and teaching focus in on clinical science modules and diagnostic training to natural medicine students, as well as research supervision for post-graduate students in Masters and PhD programs.   Kristian is actively involved in medical research, with a broad focus on obesity and underlying phenomenon such as insulin resistance, chronic inflammation and oxidative stress within the context of male reproductive function. This includes hypogonadism (low testosterone in males), sexual function and fertility potential. He also actively researching natural medicines within this context.    Kristian has published more than 38 peer-reviewed scientific papers in international journals, alongside 10 invited academic book chapters. He has presented his research at international scientific meetings.     In this episode, you will hear:   How Dr Kristian became involved with natural medicine  What is erectile dysfunction and how is it defined? Looking at studies conducted around this issue The ways in which lifestyle changes such as a better diet can help with erectile dysfunction How things like smoking, drugs and alcohol can impact erectile dysfunction Is acupuncture effective in treating erectile dysfunction? The importance of relaxation and reducing stress  Thank you to our Sponsor: Cozy Earth! Use code ‘Sexology’ for 40% off. https://cozyearth.com  Find Dr Kristian Leisegang Online https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristian-leisegang-34101626/?originalSubdomain=za   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 290 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Gavin Vance to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss erectile dysfunction, how he became interested in this area of work, and the roles jealousy and infidelity play around this issue.  Gavin Vance is a Ph. D candidate studying evolutionary psychology under the supervision of Dr Todd K. Shackelford. Gavin received his Bachelor of Science in Psychology from The University of Michigan – Flint in the Fall semester of 2017, and his Master of Science in Psychology from Oakland University during the Summer semester of 2020 after defending his master’s thesis.   Gavin's research interests, broadly, focus on human evolved psychology, patterns of romantic relationships, and human mate preferences. In particular, he is interested in studying men’s evolved sexual psychology and the consequences of these psychological adaptations on men’s behavior in romantic relationships.    Gavin has published two manuscripts investigating the relationship between ED and men’s abusive, partner-directed behaviors, with several additional manuscripts currently submitted to various research journals. He has also published a manuscript investigating mate preferences in older men and women. Gavin's dissertation work focuses on women’s physiological adaptations to prevent pregnancy during rape and assesses vaginal acidity and lubrication in response to sexually coercive audio stimuli. Gavin hopes to eventually become employed as a tenure-track faculty member at a research university.     In this episode, you will hear:   How Gavin became interested in erectile dysfunction  How do you define erectile dysfunction? Looking at the hypothesis of what causes erectile dysfunction  Analyzing the recruitment process for getting people involved in the study  How they made sure respondents answered honestly   The way relationship dynamics can affect erectile dysfunction Looking at the connection between infidelity and erectile dysfunction The ways in which jealousy can show up around erectile dysfunction Analyzing personality traits that may lean toward erectile dysfunction  Find Gavin Vance Online gvance@oakland.edu   Live Workshop https://drmoali.clickfunnels.com/7-tactics  Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 289 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Melissa Dumaz to the podcast. In this episode, we discuss the common issues for parents and intimacy, being creative with your ideas for having sex and how you can adapt your sex life around your kids.  Melissa Dumaz is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, best selling author, and podcaster. She specializes in guiding clients through the complexities of overcoming trauma, grief & loss, improve their relationship satisfaction, and supportive therapy for moms in all stages of motherhood.   Melissa passionately supports high-achievers that hide their pain and neglect themselves with the everyday stressors of their personal and/or professional lives. As a big advocate for self-care she weaves that component into her work with all of her clients. Melissa sees clients through her Practice, U Help You, where she offers EMDR therapy; and believes that a healthy you starts with you making new (healthier) choices to live your best life!     In this episode, you will hear:   What are the common issues for parents and intimacy? How parents may unconsciously weaponize sex Why communication is so important to keep your sex life healthy  Ways parents can find time for sex Being creative with your ideas for having sex  Understanding that successful sex doesn’t always have to mean penetration How you can adapt your sex life around your kids Tips to maintain your sex life in your kid shares your bed with you Ways in which to overcome issues of sexual frustration How you can keep your sex life great whilst not going out much     Find Melissa Dumaz Online https://www.uhelpyou.com  Thank you to our Sponsor: Cozy Earth! Use code ‘Sexology’ for 40% off.https://cozyearth.com Sex Quiz for Women https://oasis2care.com/sexquiz   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexologypodcast   Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 225 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm delighted to welcome Chris Germer, PhD to the podcast. In this episode, Dr. Germer talks to me about self-compassion, the power of kindness and how you can learn to let go of your expectations.    Chris Germer, PhD is a clinical psychologist and lecturer on psychiatry (part-time) at Harvard Medical School.  He co-developed the Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) program with Kristin Neff in 2010 and MSC has since been taught to over 150,000 people worldwide.  They co-authored two books on MSC, The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook and Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program.     Chris spends most of his time lecturing and leading workshops around the world on mindfulness and self-compassion.  He is also the author of The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion; he co-edited two influential volumes on therapy, Mindfulness and Psychotherapy, and Wisdom and Compassion in Psychotherapy; and he maintains a small private practice in Arlington, Massachusetts, USA.    In this episode, you will hear:     What is self-compassion?   How most people are compassionate to others than themselves  How self-compassion is a skill anyone can learn   The importance of asking yourself – What do I need?  Looking at the shame spiral   How self-compassion is the antidote to shame   Why people who are self-compassionate experience better sexual satisfaction   How you can break your cycle and become self-compassionate   The power of kindness and how it empowers you   Why quick fixes “3 Steps to fix your sex life etc” are not congruent with self-compassion   Learning to let go of your expectations         Find Chris Germer, PhD Online  http://www.chrisgermer.com      Free Checklist - 25 Ways to Increase Desire  https://oasis2care.com/opt-in    If you are interested in booking a video counselling session with Dr. Moali  https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 172 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am thrilled to welcome Marla Renee Stewart, MA to the podcast. In this episode Marla speaks to me about pervertables, how you can use them to improve your sex life and tips and techniques for improving virtual sex.      Marla Renee Stewart, MA is a professional sex, intimacy and relationship coach, sexologist, and sex educator. Not only is she a Lecturer at Clayton State University, she is also the Co-Founder of the Sex Down South Conference and the Sexual Liberation Collective.     She also created the sexual education company, Velvet Lips, 9 years ago to empower people of all ages to embrace, educate and enjoy their sexuality and their sexual lives. She has studied human sexuality for more than 18 years at San Francisco State University and Georgia State University, respectively, and has expert knowledge in a wide variety of subjects. She has published academic articles and continues to do sexuality research.     She has conducted workshops at conferences, not-for-profit and private organizations, and has been featured on many radio shows, television shows, documentaries, books, magazines and has been invited to speak at Universities around the world. She also sits on the board for the SPARK Reproductive Justice Now! and Diverse Sexualities Research and Education Institute.     In This Episode You Will Hear:     What is a pervertable?   Incorporating everyday items into your sex life   Which items work and don’t work for anal pleasure  Being more creative sexually whilst on lockdown   Using music to enhance your sexual pleasure   Learning to bring the sense of adventure to your home   Cultivating sexual confidence   Overcoming layers of shame and guilt that might be getting in the way   How you can up level your sexual pleasure even if it’s a good level  Tips & techniques for improving virtual sex         Find Marla here:   http://velvetlipsllc.com/   Pre-order Marla's book: https://www.velvetlipssexed.com/shop  Find me online:   http://www.sexologypodcast.com    Find me on social media:   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care     Download my new ebook for free here:   https://oasis2care.com/how-to-increase-your-libido/     101 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Hot: http://www.sexologypodcast.com/subscribe    If you are interested in booking a video counseling session with Dr. Moali: https://oasis2care.com/contact-nazanin-moali-psychologist     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 108 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome back Dr. Patti Britton who speaks to me this time about toxic shame; why are there so many people struggling with this issue? The methods she uses to help overcome toxic shame and working towards sexual self-realization.     Dr. Patti Britton is a Clinical Sexologist, Sexuality Educator and the Pioneer of Sex Coaching with top level credentials.  As a well-respected world leader in sexology, she is an academic, author of 5 books, popular speaker, trainer and workshop leader, and host of over 40 DVDs for couples’ sexual enhancement.     She is a frequent guest on expert summits, national television shows, documentaries, live talk and news radio, and is quoted in magazines, such as Cosmopolitan, Men’s Health, Women’s Health.  She has a private practice in Los Angeles area and via Skype globally.     Dr. Patti is the Co-Founder of SexCoachU - the world’s premier credentialing and training organization for sex coaching with students in 65 countries and live training events in Europe and USA. With her late partner, Robert Dunlap, she hosted ground-breaking weekly radio podcasts on happy aging, which are archived at https://theboomdoctors.com    In this episode, you will hear:     Why are so many people struggling with sexual shame?  How many people have leftover issues from childhood around this issue   Methods and ways Dr. Patti uses to help remove toxic shame   The importance of focusing on both the psychological and physiological aspects of sexual shame   How toxic shame is systemic and endemic   The benefits of SAR training - Sexual Attitude Reassessment and Restructuring  The stigma and shame that still surrounds alternative sexualities   Working towards sexual self-realization       Resources  https://sexcoachu.com   https://dppattibritton.com     Episode 14 with Dr. Patti - http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/04/11/sexual-empowerment-with-dr-patti-britton/     https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal     Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 98 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Beth Luwandi Lofstrom who speaks to me about surviving infidelity as the offender, the process of disclosure and how that impacts the partner and recommendations for offenders to get themselves unstuck.     Beth Luwandi Lofstrom is a Licensed Professional Counselor in private practice in Cincinnati, Ohio where her specialty areas are love and loss. She treats couples and individuals healing from infidelity and other relationship wounds. Her Whole Human Theory(TM), an approach based on brain science and methods research, also includes personality assessment to effectively confront variations in individual motivation, processing, communication, and inner world. In this way, Whole Human Theory presents an approach that gets to the core of issues in a highly efficient manner and moves people forward as quickly as possible.    Her book, After the Affair, Healing for the Offender uses this unique perspective to treat infidelity from the inside out with a focus on the offender's healing. While most texts unapologetically side with the betrayed partner or give minimal empathy or time to the offender, Ms. Luwandi acknowledges and presents a road map for anyone who has ever strayed and is feeling the effects of their choices.    In this episode, you will hear:     Why Beth decided to focus on the experience of the offender   The unhelpful patterns that get offenders stuck   The process of disclosure and how that impacts the partner   Why Beth doesn’t ask clients to break off their affairs whilst working with them   How some people use affairs to get out of a relationship   How much disclosure is useful around the information of sex?  Recommendations for offenders to get themselves unstuck      Resources  http://bethluwandi.com  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal   http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/09/26/rebuilding-sexual-intimacy-after-sexual-betrayal/  Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 93 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m delighted to be joined by Eva Smidova, M.A., PhDr., LMFT who speaks to me about common themes around coming out as transgender, the difference between gender identity and sexual identity and when is a good time to come out to your partner as transgender?     Eva Smidova, M.A., PhDr., LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Florida, Transgender Care Certified Therapist, Board Certified Hypnotherapist, Florida Department of Children and Family approved Parenting Care Provider. She holds EU earned degrees M.A. in Psychology and Law, and PhDr. in Clinical Psychology. She recently finished her PhD. in Family Therapy at Nova Southeastern University, Fort Lauderdale.    Eva was born in former Czechoslovakia so rebelling and craving for diversity and freedom are in her DNA. Eva worked in international business and got the opportunity to become familiar with many countries around the world. Before she moved to Florida, she became a resident in Austria.  Eva has been single all her life, yet lived with one partner for almost 20 years. She has a 12-year-old daughter and 32-year-old kind of step-son. She considers herself for gender and sexually; fluid.    She is an expert on couples, marriage, intimacy, family systems, communication strategies and conflict resolutions, life guidance, gender, and sexual issues. She is a professional member of several national and international Family Therapy Associations, also organizations supporting and caring for LGBTQ population – PFLAG, GLSEN, World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH), and a professional member of American Association of Sexual Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT). She also regularly presents and publishes topics related to the field of family therapy and transgender care nationally and internationally.    In this episode, you will hear:     Common themes around coming out as transgender   The impact fear can have on the process of coming out   Do many couples continue their relationship after one comes out as transgender?   The difference between gender identity and sexual identity   Dealing with the dynamic changes that happen through this process  How couples have improved intimacy and sex through this process  When is a good time to come out to your partner as transgender?     Resources  http://www.psychotherapyswflorida.com  +123 924 742 31   dr.eva.smid@gmail.com    Survey - https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/MCM62XY    https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care      Podcast Produced by Pete Bailey - http://petebailey.net/audio  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 85 of the Sexology Podcast! Today, we are joined by Midori who talks to us about how she began her journey into sex education, learning to add new elements to your sex life gradually and recommendations to express power exchanges in the bedroom.    Midori is a renowned sexuality educator, author, and artist based in San Francisco. She emerged from the Sex Positive Movement in San Francisco in the early 1990’s, soon becoming a much sought-after international presenter on sexuality, personal fulfilment, and kinky adventures.    Her reputation as an authority and leading expert on alternative pleasures stem not only from her unique and entertaining process of teaching concrete skills but in her ability to deconstruct and distil complex matters of desire into surprisingly accessible lessons with eloquence and humanity. She’s known for tackling challenging topics with fresh and relevant insights. She calls this her “head-heart-hands” method to create a space where people are allowed individual self-exploration. Fundamentally she is motivated by helping people to create authentic and intimate relationships while emphasizing self-actualization, shame reduction, acceptance, and justice. Native of Tokyo, Japan, she brings a unique perspective to creative self-expression, pleasure and authentic living.    Her writing is extensive, ranging from numerous articles, columns, works of fiction, to instructional books. She is the author of " The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage", the first English language book on Shibari. She also wrote hot instructional essays in "Wild Side Sex", and the darkly erotic science fiction, "Master Han's Daughter".     She leads transformative small group intensives, including Rope Dojo ®, ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Weekend Intensive and Passionate Bonds: Creating Effective D/s Protocol. When she's not traveling and teaching, she's creating provocative and haunting art and performances.    In this episode, you will hear:     How Madori began her journey into sex education   Why bondage isn’t necessarily a form of art   The need to enjoy your sex life and live in the moment of it   The way in which movies, books and other forms of media can warp our view of the reality of sex   Learning to add new elements to your sex life gradually   Stripping away the stigma and falsehood that the majority of people don’t practice BDSM   Understanding the pain aspect of BDSM   Recommendations to express power exchanges in the bedroom       Resources  https://fhp-inc.com   Ted X Talk - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jXiekEoMrvI   Survey - https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/MCM62XY  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 81 of the Sexology Podcast, today is a solo episode where I’m going to share some personal and revealing stories about my own experience with sex therapists.     In this episode, you will hear:     How difficulties with sex affected a previous relationship   The ways in which this led to seeking out sex therapy   The difference between sex therapy, sex educator, sex surrogate and sex coaches   How our educational systems lack good information on sex   The need for patients to understand what it is they want to work on   Understanding what can get in the way psychologically to stop you experiencing pleasure   How it’s ok to receive sex therapy as a couple or on your own   Knowing how to choose the right sex therapist for you     Resources  https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal   https://oasis2care.com/torrance/find-right-therapist-los-angeles-ca/  https://www.facebook.com/oasis2care   https://www.instagram.com/oasis2care   https://twitter.com/oasis2care    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 63 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Liz Dube who talks to us about painful sex during intercourse, potential causes that might lead women experience painful intercourse and the link between sex and power in sexual harassment.  Liz Dube – Is a Sex and Relationship Therapist, Speaker, and Blogger who is passionate about helping others increase intimacy and sexual satisfaction in their relationships. She loves speaking on any topic related to sex and intimacy and she has a private practice in Long Beach & Huntington Beach, CA where she helps men, women, and couples get empowered about sex. Men and women often have unrealistic expectations about sex that make them feel inadequate and create a performance focus to sex that leaves them bored, frustrated, and unsatisfied. Liz works with her clients to move past negative, destructive sexual messages, to stop tolerating mediocre sex, and get empowered and excited about having fun in the bedroom and achieving their full sexual potential. In this episode, you will hear: How common is it for women to experience pain during sexual intercourse? What are some potential causes that might lead women experience painful intercourse? Is that something treatable? What are some of the common treatment? Does this condition get better with aging or childbirth? What are some of the contradictory messages women are receiving about their sexuality from their environments? How these messages impact women's sex drive? What is the link between sex and power in sexual harassment? How does sexual violence against women impact women's and men's sexual functioning? Dr. Moali offers limited time reduced fee online counseling appointment to the Sexology Podcast listeners. Follow the link below if you are interested to book your appointment with Dr. Moali: https://oasis2care.clientsecure.me/client_portal   Resources www.talksexwithliz.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 61 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Amy Marsh who speaks to us about using hypnosis for management of sexual concerns, the types of people who are a good fit for hypnosis being used around sexuality and five ways erotic hypnosis can help couples.   Amy Marsh, EdD, DHS, CH, CI is an AASECT-certified sexuality counselor and clinical sexologist and a certified hypnotist and hypnosis instructor. She holds Doctor of Education (EdD) and Doctor of Human Sexuality (DHS) degrees from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She is on the advisory board of the World Association of Sex Coaches and teaches two courses for SexCoach U. Her interest in sexuality and reproductive health dates from her teens, when she worked as a pregnancy counselor in a feminist free clinic.    As a hypnosis instructor, Dr. Marsh teaches a 150-hour, online course in Hypnosis for Sexual Concerns. She also teaches workshops to people who want to learn the gentle arts of romantic and erotic hypnosis for their own enjoyment and pleasure.    Dr. Marsh is published in the Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality, Carnal Nation, and several blogs. Her essay, “Kid Chrysalis,” was included in Rachel Pepper’s anthology, Transitions of the Heart - Stories of Love, Struggle and Acceptance by Mothers of Transgender and Gender Variant Children, published in 2012. She is also a contributor to the Cultural Encyclopedia of the Penis. A collection of some of her Carnal Nation columns, Sex Squicks, was published by Renaissance eBooks in 2013.    Dr. Marsh has presented workshops at several conferences, including AASECT, CatalystCon West, American Counseling Association pre-conference Learning Institutes, the Pacific Rim International Conference on Disability and Diversity, Gender Odyssey, and Gender Spectrum.    Her national television appearances include Good Morning America, The Tyra Banks Show, and two National Geographic Taboo episodes, “Forbidden Love” and “Private Passions.” The topics of most of these programs was Objectum Sexuality.    Dr. Marsh currently has a private practice as a sex counselor and hypnotist in Lake County, CA. Previously she worked in Hawai'i and the SF Bay Area.   In this episode, you will hear:   How Amy defines sexual enrichment Using hypnosis for management of sexual concerns The types of people who are a good fit for hypnosis being used around sexuality The difference between using hypnosis for sexual concerns and erotic hypnosis Five ways erotic hypnosis can help couples Common themes Amy found during her research survey in this area   Resources https://amymarshsexologist.com https://intimate-hypnosis-training.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 47 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Jeanette Tolson who talks to us about what constitutes consent, what might stop someone from reporting sexual assault and how can we create a culture of consent. Jeanette Tolson is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Credentialed Alcoholism and Substance Abuse Counselor in New York.  She earned her Master’s in Social Work at SUNY Albany and completed a Postgraduate Certificate in Sex Therapy and Sexuality Education at the University of Michigan.   Prior to opening her private practice in 2015, she was the Executive Director for a not for profit community recovery organization.  Ms. Tolson currently has an academic appointment at SUNY Delhi and been teaching there continuously since 2009. Ms. Tolson has worked in a variety of outpatient settings. Her clinical interests include working with relationships from an attachment perspective, LGBTQ issues, recovery from infidelity, and substance use disorders. For more great content please check out Sexology Podcast Website   In this episode, you will hear:   What constitutes consent? How yes doesn’t mean yes all the time What is sexualized hostility? Why perpetrators find it arousing to terrorize their victim What might stop someone from reporting sexual assault The ways in which alcohol can affect these situations during and after the assault How can we create a culture of consent?   Resources https://jeanettetolsonlcsw.com https://youtu.be/oQbei5JGiT8  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 45 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to be joined by Sara Sweetly. Sara shares her story of how she became interested and involved in this work, misconceptions that exist around fetishes and tips on how to have great phone sex.   Sara is a professional Dominatrix and phone sex operator who works primarily with clients in the fetish and kink community. Sara’s goal is to help her clients find a way to express their sexuality without restrictions or the unpleasant feeling of judgment. To Sara, helping her clients means helping them to find the sexual answers that could lead to a path of greater self-discovery and overall healthier relationships for them.   Sara believes that it is possible to uncover your true sexual capabilities and to experience the sex life that you are truly worthy of. She is the founder of the Must Love Fetish podcast, an educational sexuality podcast dedicated to exploring and finding ways to bridge the vanilla and kinky worlds. This interview-style podcast features a new fetish and guest every week – and explores the psychology behind fetishes in order to help people better understand what it is like to live with one.   Sara has been featured on numerous podcasts, including consensually speaking, sex + love with sexologist Randi Levinson, and now sexology podcast. She has been the guest on several live radio talk shows, including the Rob & Slim show – where she often busts the misconceptions about phone sex and sex work in a light-hearted manner. With a background in psychology, Sara is currently working towards her sex coaching certification and eventual Doctorate in Human Sexuality.   During her free time, she produces audiobooks and her voice can be heard on both Amazon Audible and iTunes. Sara likes to think of herself as a producer of aural pornography, and hopes to create a workshop in which she can teach couples the art of dirty talk in order to enhance their relationships. Sara is currently working on her first book “Aural Sex: The Art Of Dirty Talk as Foreplay.” (working title)    In this episode, you will hear:   How Sara became interested and involved in this work The common and uncommon fetishes Sara hears on the phone Misconceptions that exist around fetishes How this line of work has created a good business for Sara The types of role play Sara will participate in on the phone How many people like to be submissive in their phone calls Tips on how to have great phone sex   Resources https://mustlovefetish.com https://twitter.com/SaraSweetly  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 43 of the Sexology Podcast, today I am delighted to welcome back Dr. Lisa Wade. In this episode, we talk about the difference between sex and gender, external and internal factors that may influence gender identity and the double standards that exist in society when dealing with gender identity issues.   Lisa Wade is an associate professor of sociology at Occidental College. Her newest book, American Hookup, is about the emergence and character of the culture of sex that dominates college campuses today.   Before receiving her PhD in sociology at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, Lisa earned an MA in human sexuality from NYU and a BA in philosophy from the University of California-Santa Barbara.   Lisa has authored over a dozen academic research articles and a textbook on the sociology of gender. She also actively contributes to media, writing extensively for non-academic audiences and appearing on television and radio.   In this episode, you will hear:   The difference between sex and gender Gender identity and sexual orientation – is there a relationship between them? External and internal factors that can influence gender identity What it means to identify as gender non-confirming The relationship between biological and societal factors that can affect our gender identity How societal intuitions of power try to keep the status quo to protect their own power Parenting and gender identity The double standards that exist in society when dealing with gender identity issues   Resources https://lisa-wade.com http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/30231781-american-hookup email: lwade@oxy.edu  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 40 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Gigi Engle! In this episode, Gigi discusses why some sexual fantasies are common, and whether they should stay as fantasies or manifest into a reality!   Gigi Engle is a writer and sex educator. She was the head sex and dating writer for Elite Daily and Thrillist Media Group before launching a career in freelance writing and sex education. She's written and reported for a variety of magazines and websites including Cosmopolitan, Elle, Teen Vogue, Marie Claire, Glamour, Brides and many more.   Gigi teaches classes and workshops focused on sex ed basics like Vibrator 101 to Buttplugs for Beginners to feminist topics like Vulva Confidence and The Orgasm Gap. She is currently working on her first book, a feminist sex guidebook, with St. Martin's Press, an imprint of MacMillen. In this episode, you will hear: Where our sexual fantasies come from How you can learn more about your sexual template from fantasies Rape fantasies: why people have them Recommendations on what to share or not share with your partner when it comes to fantasies Why just because you have a fantasy, doesn’t mean you want it to happen Having good communication with your partner to avoid shame Making compromises with your partner for sexual fantasies How the media and pornography can form some of our fantasies For more great content please check out www.sexologypodcast.com   Resources http://missgigiengle.com http://www.jsm.jsexmed.org/article/S1743-6095(15)30944-9/fulltextAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 33 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dr. Elizabeth Bonet who speaks to me about sexual jealously, the impact mistrust can have on a relationship and the differences between men and women when it comes to feeling jealous. Shortly after earning her PhD in 1998, Dr. Bonet left the field of psychology to pursue a technical career. She worked in tech for many years doing project management and launching the first website to do online trading of international securities. She then left that field to be a stay at home mom and entrepreneur, growing her prenatal yoga business into an award winning company.  She has been a yoga teacher for over 15 years and was the founder of the award winning Yogafairy Prenatal Yoga. She won The 2014 Top 100 Leading Moms in Business award, grew an international community of mothers, and ran the company for close to 15 years before selling the company in May of 2016 to focus on her private practice. Dr. Bonet returned to the field of psychology in 2008. She opened her own private practice located in the Ft. Lauderdale/Broward County area in Hollywood, Florida in 2010. As a certified Hypnotherapist with a PhD in Clinical Psychology, Dr. Bonet helps people feel more emotionally stable, happier and more connected to their partner, friends, and loved ones of their choosing. Specialties are hypnosis for anxiety reduction and chronic conditions, couples counseling (Gottman Level 1 certified) and Perinatal MoodDisorders (PSI certified). Dr. Bonet also recently launched her podcast, Hypnotize Me, in December 2016 which has over 20,000 downloads and is listened to in over 70 countries. Hypnotize Me is about hypnosis, transformation, and healing. In this episode, you will hear: How sexual jealously is natural The evolutionary purpose of jealousy How jealously can manifest itself in relationships The way jealously affects polyamorous and monogamous relationships differently The impact mistrust can have on a relationship Why jealously and competiveness can be similar but are distinctly different The differences between men and women when it comes to feeling jealous Is it possibly to get rid of these feelings of jealousy? How hypnosis can be used around this issue Being comfortable with yourself and your own feelings   Resources http://drlizhypnosis.com http://www.drlizhypnosis.com/hypnotize-meAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 29 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Deborah Tolman who speaks to me about her research on adolescent sexuality, the double standards that exist between boys and girls around sexuality and recommendations for parents to help their teenage girls through these challenges.   Deborah L. Tolman is a developmental psychologist and the co-founder of SPARK: Sexualization Protest: Action, Resistance, Knowledge. She is the author of Dilemmas of Desire: Teenage Girls Talk about Sexuality, which was awarded the 2003 Distinguished Book Award from the Association for Women in Psychology. Deborah received her Ed.D from Harvard University in 1992. She is also the former director of the Center for Research on Gender and Sexuality, and professor of human sexuality studies at San Francisco State University. Before relocating to San Francisco, she was a senior research scientist and the director of the Gender and Sexuality Project at the Center for Research on Women at Wellesley College.   Deborah is currently a professor of social welfare and psychology at the Hunter College School of Social Work and the Graduate Center of CUNY. Her research on adolescent sexuality, gender development, gender equity and research methods has been funded by grants from the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development, the Department of Health and Human Services, the Ford Foundation, and the Spencer Foundation.   In October 2010, Deborah co-founded SPARK (Sexualization Protest: Action, Resistance, Knowledge), an intergenerational "girl-fueled" movement building organization (with Lyn Mikel Brown) dedicated to challenging the sexualization of girls by engaging girls to be activists and working with partner organizations around the country. SPARK links academia to activism and demonstrates an alternative to the divisive "wave metaphor" regarding feminism.   In this episode, you will hear:   Details on her research on adolescent sexuality The importance of differentiating teens and young adults in the research How the results and language terminology differ between teens and young adults The pressures teen girls and young women face around slut shaming The double standards that exist between boys and girls around sexuality How young women and teens are pressuring themselves to achieve “the perfect image”   The negative connotations that exist when trying to open up feelings around sexuality The implications eating disorders can have on self-image and sexuality Recommendations for parents to help their teenage girls through these challenges   Resources http://sexgenlab.org https://www.facebook.com/sexgenlab http://www.sparkmovement.orgAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 28 of the Sexology Podcast, my guest today is Dana Nelson who is an American psychologist and counselor living and practicing in Lyon, France (Rhône-Alpes region). In this episode Dana talks about how she became involved in working with inter-cultural relationships, how a person’s cultural background can play into their expectation around sex and the underlying reasons we’re attracted to people from different cultures.   Dana Nelson is an American psychologist and psychotherapist, originally from Northern Virginia, who now lives and practices in Lyon, France. She completed her masters degree and PhD in Clinical Psychology from Penn State University, and worked for a number of years in community mental health as well as university counselling center settings prior to moving to France in 2014. While in graduate school in rural central Pennsylvania (one of the least likely place to meet a Frenchman, you would think!), Dana met her current partner, a French international student working on his PhD in engineering at that time. After 3 years together in the US, they both graduated, and he moved back to France for a job. Then, after 2 years of being in a super long-distance relationship from Pennsylvania to France, Dana decided to embark on her first-ever experience of living abroad and moved to France to join him. They now live together in Lyon, and Dana opened her private practice there last year, where she works with English-speaking expats, intercultural couples, international students, and others living abroad. Dana's most recent adventure has been starting a podcast of her own, called Mindful Expat, which focuses on issues of emotional wellbeing and resilience for expats, intercultural couples, and others living abroad.      In this episode, you will hear:   How Dana became involved in working with inter-cultural relationships The underlying reasons we’re attracted to people from different cultures How modern technology has allowed us to have relationships with people all over the world Sexual experiences; how inter-cultural couples rate their experiences compared to couples of the same culture The need for honest and open communication when in an inter-cultural relationship How a person’s cultural background can play into their expectation around sex Learning to be respectful and understanding of a person’s cultural background when in an inter-cultural relationship The importance of seeing things from your partners perspective Seeing and understanding your partner as their true authentic selves   Resources http://www.dananelsoncounseling.com/mindful-expat-podcast/Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 27 of the Sexology Podcast, in the run up to the release of season 7 of Game of Thrones, my guest today is Tamara Powell, LMHC who speaks to me about why as sex therapist she thinks Game of Thrones stands out from other TV shows, the attraction we have to the powerful roles women have in the show and why we are fascinated with sexual war.   Tamara is the owner of Arya Therapy Services, the now global phenomenon in holistic health and healing. She is also the founder Tales from a Trapezoid dedicated to the more raw and edgier side of life, working with those who may often feel like a trapezoid in a world full of circles.   Most recently, she launched her own podcast Undressing The Spirit, where through stories and interviews, she takes listeners behind the veil of counseling into erotic, relational, and spiritual diversity, uncovering how to accomplish mankind’s greatest challenge – finding purpose and passion no matter the worldview or proclivity.  In this episode, you will hear: Why Tamara thinks Game of Thrones stands out from other TV shows How it reminds her of Nancy Friday’s seminal work in the 70’s & 80’s The attraction we have to the powerful roles women have in Game of Thrones Why we are fascinated with sexual war How the show can give you ideas for your own fantasies with your partner Misconceptions about why Game of Thrones is sexually appealing Why the forbidden is attracting and exciting How people are too quick to relate the show to pornography The way women’s sexual desires are represented through characters such as Daenerys Targaryen The sexual power dynamics that exist in the show For more great content please check out https://oasis2care.com   Resources https://aryatherapy.com https://aryatherapy.com/about-the-podcast (Undressing The Spirit Podcast) https://talesfromatrapezoid.com https://www.facebook.com/talesfromatrapezoid http://www.hbo.com/game-of-thrones https://www.amazon.co.uk/Books-Nancy-Friday/s?ie=UTF8&page=1&rh=n%3A266239%2Cp_27%3ANancy%20FridayAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 26 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is , who speaks to me about the psychological effects that BDSM behaviours can have, the similarities between BDSM and Tantra and the roles that submissive and dominant play in BDSM.  Amanda Pasciucco, LMFT is a marriage & family therapy provider who practices in West Hartford, CT. She is also the author of "Playtime: Not Just for Children" and she is known as "The Sex Doctor." In addition to her expertise in the field of sexuality, her specialties include couples counseling, eating disorders, alternative relationship styles, anxiety, depression, and ADHD. By mutually establishing goals with clients, Amanda uses coaching and therapy to overcoming current struggles and barriers. Amanda believes that everyone out there has the potential to have an amazing life: personally, socially, relationally, and sexually. She will help make you healthier and happier by assessing your emotional, physical, spiritual, and intellectual life experiences and equip you with the tools to accomplish your goals! In this episode, you will hear: The definition of BDSM – bondage & discipline, dominance & submission and sadism & masochism The psychological effects that BDSM behaviours can have How there is a lot of trust within BDSM The deep level of communication that exists within BDSM Common behaviours that Amanda see’s The similarities between BDSM and Tantra The misconceptions created by Fifty Shades of Grey Ways in which our culture can create feelings of shame in this area Recommendations for the first ways you can start to get involved in BDSM The roles that submissive and dominant play in BDSM The need for negotiation, compromise and understanding when engaging with BDSM How to bring up your interest in BDSM with your partner Why Amanda wrote her book “Playtime: A Guide To Sexual Conquests For Women” Resources https://sexandmagic.com https://www.amazon.com/Playtime-Children-Guide-Sexual-Conquests-ebook/dp/B06X9WM66S/Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 25 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Jessa Zimmerman, who outlines some of the most common mistakes couples make in the bedroom! Jessa Zimmerman is a licensed mental health counselor and a nationally certified sex therapist. She works in private in downtown Seattle and specializes in working with couples struggling with issues of sex and intimacy. Jessa earned a Masters in Psychology from LIOS Graduate College of Saybrook University, working through a program that emphasized family systems theory and experiential learning. Upon completion of that degree, she earned a Certificate in Sex Therapy from the University of Michigan. Combining those credentials with many hours of supervision and client work, she earned her certification as a sex therapist through the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). She has pursued advanced training in approaches to couples therapy, including Crucible™ Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT). Jessa has developed an online quiz that helps couples get a sense of the health of their relationship across several parameters. One of those measures is sexual avoidance. She is currently writing a book on the topic of the avoidance cycle and how couples can address the issues that cause them to avoid sex so that they can share a fulfilling sex life.     In this episode, you will hear:   Why she created her quiz; how healthy is your sex life? Healthy aspects of sexuality Jess see’s in couples How couples can slowly lose interest in sex and need new fantasies The pressure of running out of new ideas for sex Deepening your relationship to help increase intimacy The need to be open and able to communicate with your partner about these issues Overcoming unresolved sexual issues that can spill into a relationship Contributing factors that lead to sexual avoidance How porn is sexual entertainment, not education   The need to keep educated about sexual issues Ways in which you can begin to overcome sexual avoidance Developing healthy habits for your sex life   Resources http://www.jesszimmerman.com http://seattlecouplescounselor.com/sex-quiz/ https://www.amazon.com/Guide-Getting-Paul-Joannides-Psy-D/dp/1885535457Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 24 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Carmen Roman, who speaks to me about she got into the line of work of celibacy, how people live without sex and the unintended consequences of not being sexual.  Dr Roman is a psychotherapist with 25 years of experience working in both Mexico and 5+ years in California. She is known for her ability to create a safe place to help you to explore your deepest feelings and tap into your inner wisdom or get resources to cope with emotional trauma. Using Gestalt Therapy and transpersonal psychology, she will support you to live with awareness and responsibility to create the transformation you are longing for. Her clients are psychologists, counselors, religious leaders, and people in the entertainment industry. Based on Gestalt therapy she helps clients to live with awareness, responsibility and in the here-and-now. Aided by the transpersonal psychology she addresses issues of spirituality, the use of meditation and paranormal experiences. She is a specialist in creative expression in therapy at master’s and PhD levels. All those credentials are a toolbox to her as she tailors them to your needs. She uses the science of psychology as needed in every case. Her focus is your transformation and the improvement in your relationships. In this episode, you will hear:   How Dr. Roman became involved in this work Details on her workshop on celibacy which she has ran for the last 15 years The relation between sexual abuse and celibacy Issues surrounding male values over female values How celibacy means only to be unmarried and not to withdraw from sex How religious interpretations of celibacy have changed over the centuries Ways in which in priests or people of faith deal with celibacy Her thoughts on sexual abuse that has happened within religious organisations The need to not put priests or other religious people outside of scrutiny when dealing with sexual abuse The unintended consequences of not being sexual   Resources http://www.carmenroman.net http://www.carmenroman.net/emotions-in-harmony-podcast.htmlAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 23 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Katherine M. Hertlein, Ph.D., who speaks to me about how the internet has impacted our sex lives, defining compulsivity in relation to pornography and how social media can hinder our real life social skills.  Katherine M. Hertlein, Ph.D., is a Professor and Program Director of the Marriage and Family Therapy Program at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas. She received her master’s in marriage and family therapy from Purdue University Calumet and her doctorate in human development with a specialization in marriage and family therapy from Virginia Tech. She is a globally recognized researcher studying sexuality, technology, and its effects on couples. As she examines the role of technology in couple and family life, Hertlein has developed the first multi-theoretical model on this issue. In addition to technology and relationships, Hertlein’s other areas of expertise include infidelity, sexuality, high-risk sexual behavior, child and adolescent therapy, and cyber issues in couple and family therapy. She is a licensed marriage and family therapist, an American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy Approved Supervisor, and a PREPARE/ENRICH Certified Counselor. Hertlein has co-authored 8 books, including Handbook for the Clinical Treatment of Infidelity, The Therapist’s Notebook for Family Healthcare, Handbook for the Treatment of Infidelity, Systemic Sex Therapy, and A Clinician’s Guide to Systemic Sex Therapy, the last revision of which won the 2017 AASECT Book Award. She has published more than 60 articles in the notable journals in her field, contributed over 40 chapters to books, and serves on the editorial boards for several academic journals. She was recently appointed as the Editor-in-Chief of the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy. Hertlein has also won several awards for her teaching, mentorship, and work in the field of sexuality research, including the Integrated Approaches to Sex Therapy Award through AASECT.  In this episode, you will hear:   How the internet has impacted our sex lives The impact of pornography on self-esteem How too much consumption of pornography can lead to a higher and higher need for stimulative images / videos The side effects of watching too much porn; erectile dysfunction Defining compulsivity in relation to pornography How the internet has impacted people’s sexual behaviour and infidelity The need for more people to show their vulnerability How we have our “edited versions” of ourselves on social media Sexting; what it is and the benefits and risks that come with it How social media can hinder our real life social skills   Resources https://www.unlv.edu/news/expert/katherine-m-hertlein http://oasis2care.com/ katherine.hertlein@unlv.edu https://www.amazon.com/Systemic-Sex-Therapy-Katherine-Hertlein/dp/0415738245  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 22 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Joe Zarate-Sanderlin. In this episode, we talk about the psychology behind sexual fetishes.  Joe ZaRAte-SANderlin is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist seeing clients in private practice in San Francisco, California. He has been active in the open relationship and BDSM communities in New York, Boston, and San Francisco for nearly 20 years.  He earned his Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology at Pacifica Graduate Institute in Montecito, California. Pacifica highlights the need for therapists to do their own inner work. As a part of this, Joe has examined the role of the unconscious dark side of the personality, often called The Shadow, in his own life and in the lives of his clients. As a part of his training as a therapist, he worked under the supervision of Dossie Easton, co-author of The Ethical Slut, The Topping Book, and The Bottoming Book. For two and half years, he primarily saw clients in open relationships and BDSM relationships under Dossie’s guidance. In addition to working with Dossie, Joe was a counselor in a Catholic elementary school for three years and he volunteered at a low-few non-profit therapy clinic in San Francisco for four years. His interest in alternative sexuality includes helping normalize some activities that can carry a stigma while recognizing that those activities can sometimes become disordered and cause stress. He has focused on unpacking the shame that many people feel regarding their sexuality. He is also interested in the historical and cultural aspects of relationships and sexuality and he is passionate about challenging the bias toward hetero- and mono- normative relationships and toward binary views of gender. Since he became licensed in 2013, he has continues his focus on working with clients in the LGBT, open relationship, and BDSM communities. He is a member of both Gaylesta and Bay Area Open Minds, two San Francisco Bay Area based organizations that promote and support therapists working with LGBT, open relationship, BDSM, and alternative sexuality communities. He was recently named to the Bay Area Open Minds board as social coordinator. Joe has conducted trainings for other therapists on couples therapy, BDSM, open relationships, and talking to clients about about sex as well as guest lectured about couples therapy on the master’s level. He is in the early stages of writing a book about the role of attachment in open relationships.   In this episode, you will hear:   What sexual fetishes are How sexual fetishes can be healthy for people The more common fetishes Joe see’s in his practice How there could be many more people with fetishes than we realize The role society plays around this issue How people with fetishes can still be aroused without fetishes Ways in which people develop fetishes How shame and guilt plays a big role in fetishes Creating safe spaces for people to be able to talk about fetishes Ways in which to support someone in y our life who has a fetish The need for good communication and engagement   Resources http://www.jzsmft.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 21 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Renelle E. Nelson who is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. She has been providing therapy for over 11 years. In this episode, she talks about what it means to have a low libido, how it’s not a one-person problem but a couple’s problem and recommendations for couples dealing with this issue.  Renelle hails from the state of Milwaukee, Wisconsin and got indulged in the profession of Marriage and Family Therapy in Grad School. Renelle was able to attain the first-hand knowledge of the silenced suffering and agony of women specifically due to lack of education and self-awareness, while working at A Woman’s Touch Sexuality Resource Center. These experiences led her to transition her passion of working for the betterment of women and others into a profession as an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist.   Over the years, Renelle has worked exclusively with a large number of men and women and families who are in need of assistance, guidance, and counseling. Renelle has been able to work in tandem with a great number of her clients and has been able to successfully find the plausible solutions of their problems related family and sex life. Renelle is a self-proclaimed self-pleasuring advocate who is always on the lookout for opportunities to spread the knowledge regarding the many benefits and advantages of self-pleasuring, and self- love with the world. Renelle has spoken at a numerous renowned speaking events on topics regarding self-pleasuring and depression concerned to oppressed sexual life and problems. Renelle is also an owner of Kaleidoscope Services LLC which is a platform specifically made for the purpose of enhancing common individual knowledge regarding these sexual aspects of life and their connection with the issues related to anxiety and depression. Renelle primary objective is to use her remarkable skills and natural talents to enhance, educate, and excite the people life in and out of the bedroom.   In this episode, you will hear:   What it means to have a low libido The definitions of a low libido and what is defined as normal Why you shouldn’t compare your sex drive to what it was like when you were younger Struggles with desire How it’s not a one-person problem but a couple’s problem The need for good communication around this issue Unresolved issues around anger How high levels of stress can affect your sex life The controlling power dynamic How the ideas of being defective can produce feelings of shame The effects of getting sexual information from pornography The difference from having a low libido and being a-sexual Utilizing sexual novelties Recommendations for couples dealing with this issue   Resources https://kaleidoscopeservicesllc.org https://www.facebook.com/kaleidoscopeservicesAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 20 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Deborah Sundahl, who speaks to me about female ejaculation, the misconceptions, how all women have the capability to ejaculate, ways in which to learn how to ejaculate and the psychological and physiological benefits from ejaculating. Deborah Sundahl is the foremost pioneer, popular expert on female ejaculation and the G-spot. She is the author of the seminal book, Female Ejaculation and the G-spot (Hunter House, 2003/2014). Her 30 years of groundbreaking contributions to this field include a line of videos titled the Female Ejaculation Sex Education Series (Isis Media, Inc.), which Deborah produced and hosts. She lectures and gives workshops in North America and Europe, and has taught thousands of men and women how to integrate the G-spot and female ejaculation into their erotic lives. She continues to be a spokesperson for female sexuality and an advocate for sex education.  In this episode, you will hear: The definition of female ejaculation Scientific studies that show what female ejaculation is How ancient cultures knew about female ejaculation How all women have the capability to ejaculate Misconceptions around this issue The need for more educational material on this topic Psychological and physiological benefits The role Tantra has played over the years for female ejaculation The empowerment that comes with honouring your body and sex life Ways in which to learn how to ejaculate The need to stimulate the g spot to ejaculate The need to let go and not confuse urine with ejaculate How spirituality can play an important role around this issue    Resources http://deborahsundahl.com https://www.amazon.com/Female-Ejaculation-G-Spot-Deborah-Sundahl-ebook/dp/B013KT9X1E/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1495550489&sr=8-1&keywords=female+ejaculation+deborah+sundahl Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 19 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Laurie Watson, LMFT. In this episode we talk about how you can get the spark back, and the importance of understanding different sex drives and ways to address them. Laurie is a certified sex therapist who has twenty-five years of experience working with couples and individuals about love and sex. Laurie says, “I’ve never seen a couple who I didn’t feel hope about their healing and happiness. The difficulty is convincing them to give up the idea that only their partner will have to change!” She authored her first book Wanting Sex Again – How to Rediscover Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage (Penguin) in December 2012. A popular blogger for the general public with over 1.6 million reads on Psychology Today Online in Married and Still Doing It, Laurie also lectures professionals at Duke’s and UNC Chapel Hill’s medical schools on sexual function and dysfunction. Featured in her hometown in the N&O, Laurie has also been published or quoted in most every nationally popular magazine like Glamour, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, etc. A popular media figure, she has appeared on the Katie Couric Show and is regularly on radio and television in Raleigh and Greensboro. Director/owner of Awakenings, Center for Intimacy and Sexuality, Laurie supervises 6 clinicians in both Raleigh and Greensboro. She’s a member of St. Michael’s Episcopal Church, has been married for 30 years and has three grown sons. In this episode, you will hear: How important sex is, in a marriage What are some of the causes of a sexless marriage How couples can develop a power struggle in a relationship through a sexless marriage Ways in which in couples can reconnect The different sexual dynamics between a man and a woman that can lead to a sexless marriage Understanding each other’s sex drives, what works and doesn’t work in the bedroom The need for women to have clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, only 15% of women reach orgasm without clitoral stimulation How couples can get stuck in a loop of not having sex Overcoming the stresses of modern life, work, kids etc to have a healthy sex life The different reasons why men and women will withdraw from sex   Resources http://awakeningscenter.org http://awakeningscenter.org/test-sign-upAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 18 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Debra Mollen. In this show she discusses women’s reproductive rights, the myths and misconceptions around abortion and the consequences of limiting reproductive rights; e.g. DIY abortions. Debra Mollen is a psychologist, Professor, and Director of the Counseling Psychology Master’s Program at Texas Woman's University in Denton, Texas. She has published scholarship on women’s sexuality, multiculturalism, reproductive justice, and professional development in various academic journals. Debra is a recognized as a Certified Sexuality Educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists and was the 2016 recipient of the Distinguished Graduate Faculty Award from her university. She is a Co-Chair for the Revision of the American Psychological Association Guidelines for the Psychological Practice with Girls and Women and past-Chairperson of the Division 17 (Counseling Psychology) Section for the Advancement of Women Her specialties include: Multicultural awareness and diversity training, training and professional identity, sexuality education, childfree women, feminist theory and therapy In this episode, you will hear:   The rights women have when it comes to reproduction The myths and misconceptions around abortion How women can feel a sense of alienation and hopelessness when confronted with abortion How there isn’t any recognizable science or data for “Post Traumatic Abortion Syndrome” The ways in which our culture can pressure women into motherhood How our modern society can romanticize having children How limiting women’s reproductive rights could influence their sexuality Consequences of limiting reproductive rights; DIY abortions. Knock on effects: trauma, anxiety, and depression How legislators are chipping away at women’s reproductive rights Ways in which to counteract the legislators The need for good quality education and information on this issue  For more great content check out www.sexologypodcast.com   Resources http://www.worldsexology.org/resources dmollen@mail.twu.edu http://www.worldsexology.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/08/declaration_of_sexual_rights_sep03_2014.pdf https://www.prochoiceamerica.org/ https://www.guttmacher.org/ http://www.siecus.org/ https://www.aasect.org/Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 17 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Lisa Firestone. In this episode, Dr. Firestone talks about the definition of a “Fantasy Bond”, childhood experiences that can affect your sexuality and the need for self-compassion around these issues.  Dr. Lisa Firestone is the Director of Research and Education at The Glendon Association. An accomplished and much requested lecturer, Dr. Firestone speaks at national and international conferences in the areas of couple relations, parenting, and suicide and violence prevention. Dr. Firestone has published numerous professional articles, and most recently was the co-author of Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships (APA Books, 2006), Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice (New Harbinger, 2002), Creating a Life of Meaning and Compassion: The Wisdom of Psychotherapy (APA Books, 2003) and The Self Under Siege (Routledge, 2012). In this episode, you will hear:   The definition of a “Fantasy Bond” How common it is for people to experience the Fantasy Bond Repeating destructive behaviours throughout different relationships Being able to experience healthy sexuality without acting out from your past Childhood experiences that can affect your sexuality Identifying if you’re reacting in a fantasy bond as opposed to reacting authentically The need for some people to have certain fantasies to be aroused The importance of being vulnerable with your partner in a relationship Overcoming the shame that not being vulnerable can create Why both partners in a relationship need to be authentic with each other Voice Therapy – How it works and its similarities to Narrative Therapy The need for self-compassion and not be too self-critical  Resources https://www.psychalive.org https://www.sexologypodcast.com lfirestone@glendon.org http://drlisafirestone.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 16 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is the creator of Talk Sex with Me, Tara Spears, LMFT, LMHC. In this episode, Tara talks about ways in which parents can support their children through the journey of sexual discovery, how to navigate the situation of your children discovering pornography and clarifying and communicating your own sexual values to your child. Talk Sex with Me was created by Tara Spears. Ms. Spears graduated with a Master’s Degree in Counselor Education from the University of Central Florida in 2005. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Sex Therapist. She has over ten years of experience working with individuals, children, families and couples encountering a variety of hardships in life. After spending, most of her career responding reactively to situations or intervening after a crisis (i.e. a child’s removal from the home, failed adoption, and the aftermath of abuse), Ms. Spears decided to take a more proactive approach. In this episode, you will hear: How Tara became involved in this line of work The appropriate age for parents to start talking about sex with their children Why parents shouldn’t over-react if they find their children masturbating Ways in which parents can support their children through the journey of sexual discovery Clarifying your own sexual values Communicating those values to your child Knowing the distinction between sexual education and “putting sexual ideas” into your child’s mind How to navigate the situation of your children discovering pornography Making sure pornography doesn’t set their expectation for sex Communicating to younger children if they walk in on their parents having sex The best ways to react if your child becomes pregnant or impregnates someone else Negative connotations in school sex education and how to navigate around this issue For more great content please check out www.sexologypodcast.com   Resources https://talksexwithme.com talksexwme@gmail.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 15 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is sociologist and sexologist Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus. In this episode, you will hear Dr. Gunsaullus talk about the normality of masturbation and how often people engage in it, positive effects from masturbation and ways in which parents can positively communicate with their children about masturbation. Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus, sociologist and sexologist, is a frequent speaker about sexual empowerment, healthy relationships, body image, erotic play, sexual consent, sexual health, and mindfulness. She has presented two TEDx Talks, is a writer on sex and relationships, and a recurring intimacy expert on the San Diego morning news. Her In the Den with Dr. Jenn educational video series has over 1.3 million hits on YouTube and she is an expert in the new documentary on masturbation, called Sticky: A (Self) Love Story. In addition, as a martial arts practitioner, she was recently promoted to black belt in Korean karate -- so watch out for this badass doctor! In this episode, you will hear:   The normality of masturbation and how often people do it How it’s normal for children to discover masturbation General concerns people have, is it harmful? How cultural and religious beliefs have negatively impacted people’s views on masturbation Misinformation – No, you can’t go blind from masturbation Positive effects from masturbation, mentally and physically Overcoming shame and embarrassment with meditative masturbation Masturbating in a relationship, does it hurt the relationship? Having open communication with your partner on this issue The psychological effects using toys and vibrators can have Ways in which parents can positively communicate with their children about masturbation How many of our currently held cultural views of masturbation were created in the 19th and 20th century For more great content check out www.sexologypodcast.com  Resources http://www.drjennsden.com http://www.drjennsden.com/meditative-masturbationAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Sexology Podcast EP14 - Sexual Empowerment with Dr. Patti Britton   Welcome to episode 14 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Clinical Sexologist and Sexuality Educator, Dr. Patti Britton. In this episode, Dr. Britton talks about what sexual empowerment entails, how shaming yourself is one of the biggest blocks to sexual pleasure and becoming more authentic and cultivating erotic authenticity.   With over 35 years of experience and pedigreed credentials as a Clinical Sexologist and Sexuality Educator, Dr. Patti Britton has built a reputation as a pioneer of sex coaching. Her methodologies for helping individuals and couples achieve their desired sexual potential are well known among professionals in her industry. As co-founder of SexCoachU, she has trained hundreds of sex coaches throughout the world, spreading her groundbreaking approach to sexual healing. Dr. Patti’s work has been featured on national TV programs, such as The Montel Show, Hard Copy, CNBC, and CBS News. She raised the bar in her field when she published the first book on Sex Coaching, entitled ‘The Art of Sex Coaching: Expanding Your Practice’.   While her methods and unique approach have developed into training other sex coaches, Dr. Patti’s true passion lies in working with individuals and couples to achieve their sexual goals. Whether it’s a desire to heal sexual dysfunction, overcome shame, or deepen an intimate connection, Dr. Patti is at right at home with finding the solution.   In this episode, you will hear:   What sexual empowerment usually entails Sexual actualisation and realisation and the right to feel pleasure Some of the factors that lead to people losing their sexual power and desire How shaming yourself is one of the biggest blocks to sexual pleasure Ways in which to refresh your sex life Clarifying your views around sexuality SAR – Sexual Attitude Reassessment and Restructuring Allowing yourself to enjoy sexual pleasure and masturbation Navigating your value system with your sexual desires Becoming more authentic and cultivating erotic authenticity How things have changed since the release of Fifty Shades of Grey   Resources http://drpattibritton.com http://drpattibritton.com/free-gift-for-her-pleasure/   For more great content please check out www.sexologyposcast.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 13 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is sex and relationship coach; Pam Costa. In this episode, Pam talks about how she began her journey into educating people about sexuality, the ways in which shame can shape our sexuality and how you can build shame resiliency. After a decade and a half at Apple and Facebook, Pam left her career in high tech to found Down To There to share her real-life stories of challenges and successes around sexuality in her marriage. She hopes that her journey from struggling with sexual desire to a now rich and rewarding sex life can provide an example of how normal issues with desire can be, and how these issues can provide unexpected pathways for increased intimacy and connection. As a Somatica® sex and relationship coach, she enjoys working with individuals and couples of all configurations to explore what is possible emotionally and erotically in their relationships. She is currently accepting and seeing clients over Skype and in-person in her office in Cupertino, CA. She also provides content and guidance for Down To There Circles: free, peer-led discussion groups, where friends can support and inspire each other around sex and relationships. Her ongoing studies include training with San Francisco Sex Information (SFSI), American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT), California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT), JFK University's holistic counseling program and the Somatica® Institute. Her writing has been featured on Huffington Post, Mindful and Psyched and she has also spoken at the Wisdom 2.0 and Inman conferences. In this episode, you will hear: How Pam began her journey into educating people about sexuality The ways in which shame can shape our sexuality Body shaming; and how it can affect sex The difficulties in communicating what you want sexually, leading to vulnerability How poor sex education can lead to shaming Not having enough information on sex from our parents The affects religion can have on sex and correct information around sex Mixed messages that children can pick up from their parents about sex Identifying your own shame and figuring out where it came from Being scared to share your shame with your partner Building shame resiliency How shame can affect other things outside of sex; eating disorders, addictions etc. Communicating with your close friends about shame   Resources https://www.downtothere.com For more great content please check out www.sexologypodcast.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 12 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m speaking to Natalie Finegood Goldberg, LMFT, CST about the issues surrounding erectile dysfunction. In this episode, Natalie talks about the causes of erectile dysfunction, its physiological and psychological factors contributing to this struggles and steps that can be taken to overcome this issue. Natalie Finegood Goldberg is an AASECT Certified Los Angeles Sex Therapist and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (MFC #53017) specializing in sex therapy and psychotherapy. Working with individuals and couples, Natalie offers therapy services at her private practice in Beverly Hills. Previous work experience includes being a staff clinical associate at Center for Healthy Sex in West Los Angeles, as well as having previously worked at Cliffside Malibu, a dual diagnosis inpatient drug and alcohol rehab. Natalie was born and raised in Los Angeles and is familiar with the variety of pressures that come with living in LA.  In addition to her degrees, Natalie has participated in a variety of trainings including a Clinical Sexology training with Dr. Patti Britton, Bridging the Couple Chasm: A Research Based Approach by Drs John and Julie Gottman, and the Sex Addiction Treatment Training Program with Alexandra Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST-S. Natalie completed the rigorous requirements to become a sex therapist through the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) under the supervision of Alexandra Katehakis, MFT, CSAT-S, CST-S and Dr Tammy Nelson, CST-S. Natalie is trained in EMDR Therapy with advanced training in AF-EMDR (Attachment Focused EMDR) with Dr Laurel Parnell.  In this episode, you will hear: The physical and psychological reasons why erections occur How as men get older they need a mixture of physical and psychological stimulation to get an erection The criteria that needs to be met to be diagnosed with erectile dysfunction How erectile dysfunction is related to all sexual activity, not just for example masturbation The physiological and psychological causes of erectile dysfunction Why men prefer the problem to be physiological How taking Viagra can make things worse if the problem is psychological The effects anxiety can have in relation to erectile dysfunction The impact erectile dysfunction can have on couples / relationships How masturbation and pornography can affect erectile dysfunction Available treatments both medically and psychologically The average time treatments can take The additional benefits mindfulness can bring The importance of communication to help overcome this issue Ways you can regain your sexual energy Understanding that erectile dysfunction is a multi-layered issue that needs ongoing support     Resources http://www.creatingchangela.com natalie@creatingchangela.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 11 of the Sexology Podcast, today I’m going to talk about 4 myths around sex that I see are very common in my practice. Originally, I wanted to do 13 myths to tie in with the Persian new year but that might have taken a little while to record… So the myths I have chosen are the ones I hear most frequently in my practice, and I hope this episode will shed some light and truth on these myths.   In this episode, you will hear:   Myth 1 – Penis size dictates a woman’s sexual pleasure   The average penis size when erect is around 13cm or anywhere between 9 – 16cm In inches, the average size is from 4.7 to 5.1 inches How the medias idea of 7 inches being the average size is wrong How shame and anxiety come into play because of this myth Research shows that the size of a penis has no true physiological effect on female sexual satisfaction The importance around the perceived size of a man’s penis How men who perceive their penis to be small suffer from sexual confidence Feeling comfortable and confident with your body and penis size to have a good sex life   Myth 2 – How masturbation has destructive consequences physiologically and mentally   Research shows that 60 – 94% of men have masturbated at least once, with 40 – 60% having done it in the last month 43 – 85% of women have masturbated at least once, with 20 – 43% having done it in the last month There’s no known negative consequences physiologically or mentally from masturbation Studies have shown it helps in knowing one’s own needs for sexual pleasure, increased autonomy and body integrity improving self-esteem How the myths of masturbation date back to the 17th century How the majority of people continue masturbating when in a committed relationship   Myth 3 – Men are obsessed with sex and women don’t think about it   There’s no data to support the idea that men think about sex every 7 seconds How this myth puts pressure on men to be overly sexual   Myth 4 – Vaginal sex is the best way for women to reach orgasm   How Freud invented the term “Vaginal Orgasm” without scientific basis Most women can’t reach orgasm through vaginal penetration alone, they need clitoris stimulation and other kinds of stimulation to reach orgasm How men can get frustrated because they can’t make women reach orgasm through vaginal penetration alone     Resources http://oasis2care.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 10 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Emily Nagoski. In this episode, Emily talks about the dual control model and how sex works in the brain, how attachment with our partners affects our sex life and the societal factors that affect women’s sexuality. Emily is the author of the New York Times bestseller, COME AS YOU ARE: The surprising new science that will transform your sex life (Simon & Schuster, 2015). She has a Ph.D. in Health Behavior with a doctoral concentration in human sexuality from Indiana University (IU), and a Master’s degree (also from IU) in Counseling, with a clinical internship at the Kinsey Institute Sexual Health Clinic. She also has a B.A. in Psychology, with minors in cognitive science and philosophy, from the University of Delaware. While at IU, Emily worked as an educator and docent at the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex Gender and Reproduction. She also taught graduate and undergraduate classes in human sexuality, relationships and communication, stress management, and sex education.  Emily is also the author of three guides for Ian Kerner’s GoodInBed.com: The Good in Bed Guide to Orally Pleasuring a Man, The Good in Bed Guide to Female Orgasms, and A Scientific Guide to Successful Relationships, as well as both author and narrator of Come as You Are. A sex nerd among sex nerds, Emily has the lowest Erdős number of any sex educator in the world. She lives in western Massachusetts with two dogs, two cats, and a cartoonist. She’s funnier in real life (and hardly ever speaks in the third person). In this episode, you will hear:   The dual control model and how sex works in the brain The concept of break and accelerators Sexual relevancy and the importance of context How it’s easier to change our external environments rather than internal Figuring out how to turn of the things that are hitting our sexual brakes Eating disorders; the struggle with self-image How the shame around body shape and size is more harmful than the fat itself Learning to love your partner as their body naturally changes How attachment with our partners affects our sex life Why your brain thinks sex is more exciting at the start of a new relationship Learning to be close with your partner whilst still sexually attracted Societal factors that affect women’s sexuality The taboo of women who love sex, e.g being called a slut Why we shouldn’t live up societies standards for our sexual accelerators and brakes Resources http://www.thedirtynormal.com http://emilynagoski.com/come-as-you-are https://twitter.com/emilynagoskiAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 09 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Sandra LaMorgese. In this episode, Sandra speaks about how she made her journey into BDSM at the age of 55, misconceptions around the BDSM community and turning openness and vulnerability into a source of empowerment. Sandra is an author, speaker, and CEO of Attainment Studios, a sex positive business directory website designed to bring together members of the sex-positive community, and for finding solutions for your professional and personal needs. She is an expert in communications, life transformation, authentic living, health, wellness, and intimacy. Sandra is also an internationally featured Huffington Post blogger, a regular writer for Arianna Huffington’s new health and wellness platform Thrive Global, and among the top 10% of writer on Medium in 2016. She was listed as having the “Coolest Job in NYC” by Thrillist NYC, and her interview and photo shoot with Huffington Post ‘15 Unbelievable Photos of A 60-Year-Old Dominatrix with Her Client‘ article made the ‘MOST SHARED’, WHAT’S HOT and ‘TRENDING’ lists on The Huffington Post in the United States and Australia.  Her recent book Switch: Time for a Change, is a memoir about how her later profession as a dominatrix ultimately allowed her to change her previously blind adherence to “the rules,” and to enter into a whole different kind of contract with a truer version of herself. Sandra was able to change her thoughts, feelings, and beliefs in order to embrace a passionate and fulfilled life. In this episode, you will hear: Sandra’s background and the different roles she’s had in her career How she made her journey into being a dominatrix at 55 years of age The relationship between vulnerability and authenticity How the internal changes we make to ourselves can impact our surroundings Exploring the unconscious through sexual play How Sandra becomes present and mindful in her BDSM sessions The importance of really connecting when being intimate Misconceptions around the BDSM community The dynamic of dominance and submission How people of power like to be a submissive in BDSM The connection between sexual energy and creativity The importance of trusting the process with BDSM Turning openness and vulnerability into a source of empowerment Giving a voice to our true self Overcoming boredom through excitement and curiosity   Resources http://sandralamorgese.com https://www.amazon.com/Sandra-Lamorgese-Ph-D/e/B01MCWCQZL https://twitter.com/SandraLaMorgeseAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 08 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Duane Osterlind. In this episode, Duane talks about the issues around sex addiction, how to recognize it, stages of recovery and what a healthy sexuality looks like afterwards.  As co-founder of NOVUS Mindful Life Institute, Duane Osterlind’s vision is to provide comprehensive care for individuals struggling with process addictions in the utmost confidential, comprehensive and caring environment to ensure clients feel safe and accepted with anticipation that recovery is possible. Duane has over eight years of experience as a therapist helping individuals find hope and healing. He received his Master’s Degree in Marriage and Family Therapy from California State University, Long Beach. He has also trained with Patrick Carnes, P.hD., a leading expert in the treatment of sexual addiction issues and author of “Out of the Shadows”. He is a member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (CAMFT), and the Society of Sexual Health (SASH). MFT#44567 Duane’s clinical focus is on treating individuals and couples struggling with process addictions using a mindfulness and task centered approach. He facilitates the Men’s Sexual Addiction Process Group and well as a DBT group for individuals struggling with anxiety and depression. In this episode, you will hear:   If people should identify hyper sexual disorder as an addiction Recognizing and distinguishing someone with a diverse sexuality to sex addiction Looking at the compulsive nature of sex addiction The three main domains which identify people struggling with sex addiction Changes in the frequency of acting out behaviour Gender differences Distinguishing the difference between love and sex addiction Links between chemical and sexual addiction Difficulty in forming deep relationships The different stages of recovery The need to have more than just a couple of therapy sessions The process of healing through other group members Going through abstinence and becoming ready for a relationship What healthy sexuality looks like after addiction   The three circle plan and its use in therapy     Resources https://novusmindfullife.com https://theaddictedmind.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 07 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Stacy. In this episode, she speaks to me about how she became involved in the work of sexual inhibition, the issues around boredom and losing interest in sex and the importance of communication. Dr. Stacy got into the field of Clinical Sexology because of her passion for helping people better connect and experience the best sexual intimacy with themselves or with their partner(s). She holds a Doctorate degree in Human Sexuality in addition to a Masters in Clinical Sexology and is a Certified Sex Coach. She is a member of WASC (World Association of Sex Coaching), including ACS (The American College of Sexologists) which shows that she has the earned top credentials in my field. She also has a BA in Psychology and is a Registered Diagnostic Medical Sonographer and Vascular Sonographer. She has been a consultant selling adult novelties since 2006 and has had the experience of reaching many men and women to educate them in a fun, positive approach to love, romance and all aspects of sexuality. Her education and own sexual journey and life experience enable her to help you move forward in a positive direction to face the challenges that may lie ahead and to achieve your goals. Coaching is designed to help women, men, of any sexual orientation or gender, address their concerns about sexuality, sexual function, and sexual expression. In this episode, you will hear: How Dr. Stacey became involved in the work of sexual inhibition The definition of sex inhibition Boredom and the issue of losing interest in sex The factors that lead to people developing sex inhibition How there is two kinds of inhibitive sex, primary and secondary Recommendations for women to overcome negative emotions Losing and re-kindling sexual desire in long-term relationships The importance of foreplay Navigating different levels of desire in a relationship How education through pornography can make things worse Gender differences around the issue of inhibition Communicating with your partner openly and positively about these issues   Resources http://www.drstacy.org https://www.facebook.com/DrStacySexCoach  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 06 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Lonnie Barbach. In this episode, Lonnie speaks to me about the issues surrounding female sexuality such as faking orgasms, the need for good communication and overcoming boredom to improve sex in a relationship.   Dr Barbach's work as a couple’s therapist for more than three decades and the publication of Going the Distance: Finding and Keeping Lifelong Love crafted with David Geisinger, Ph.D., her partner of 32 years, has defined her as an acknowledged expert on intimate relationships. She is skilled in a variety of treatment modalities in treating individuals and couples with problems ranging from anxiety and depression to parenting and communication issues.   Considered a pioneer in her field, her dozen books, translated into an equal number of languages, have sold over 4 million copies in the U.S. alone. She is a life member of the American Psychological Association and is currently Director of Content for Happy Couple, a quiz-style game that takes you from dating to building a healthy and sustainable relationship.   In this episode, you will hear:   The physiological aspects of a woman reaching an orgasm The need for a slow build up and feeling safe in the relationship Faking orgasms and teaching your partner that the wrong things are right Difficulties in finding good information and believing external standards Good starting points for couples exploring what they like to do sexually Studies which highlight what makes for a great relationship / marriage Issues around boredom, overworking and not prioritizing the relationship Importance of communication Things that hinder women to experience arousal How differences in amount of desire needed can affect a relationship How not being so goal oriented can improve the experience for most people Reading resources together to improve sex Why Lonnie created “Happy Couple” (A couple’s game app)   Resources http://www.happycouple.co http://www.lonniebarbach.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 05 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Abigail Weissman. In this interview with Abi, she speaks to me about the difference between sexual orientation and gender identity, how she began her work on gender identity and the importance of language and pronouns in this area.   Abigail "Abi" Weissman, Psy.D. (PSY 27497) is a feminist and lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans*, and queer, intersex, and questioning (LGBTQIQ)- affirming, polyamory - affirming, BDSM/kink - friendly, multiculturally competent, clinical psychologist who is warm, welcoming, and empowering with a wealth of clinical experience. She has a Master of Arts in Human Sexuality studies and a Doctorate and Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology. She hails from the East Coast by way of the Bay Area, CA. When not providing psychotherapy, training, or consultation, she can be found reading the latest research on queer sexuality, gender identity, and spending time with her family and friends. pronouns: she, her, hers In this episode, you will hear:   The difference between sexual orientation and gender identity How one’s internal sense of self is how you determine gender identity Association of politics in gender identity Working with teens, dealing with exploration What it means to have a gender that is neither male or female When people first notice their gender identity How gender identity can be discovered as young as two and half years of age Support parents can offer to children issues around gender identity; bullying etc Misconceptions around transgender women and men Barriers around surgery for transgender people The importance of use of language and pronouns in these issues     Resources http://www.doctorabi.com http://www.glsen.org Call - (619) 403-5578 Email - info@doctorabi.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 04 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr. Lisa Wade. Lisa is an associate professor of sociology at Occidental College. In this conversation, Lisa talks in-depth about the history of hook up culture, its impact on sexual attitudes and relationships, motivations behind the culture and its long-term effects.   She is currently on leave and living in New Orleans, the place she calls home. Her newest book, American Hookup, is about the emergence and character of the culture of sex that dominates college campuses today. Before receiving her PhD in sociology at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, Lisa earned an MA in human sexuality from NYU and a BA in philosophy from the University of California-Santa Barbara.  Lisa has authored over a dozen academic research articles and a textbook on the sociology of gender. She also actively contributes to media, writing extensively for non-academic audiences and appearing on television and radio.   In this episode, you will hear:   How hook up culture is not an option but an imperative on college campuses The hierarchical structure, motivations being related to status How the structure is related more to heterosexual sex Differences between the genders around hook up culture How hook up culture satisfies male needs more than females needs The evolution that’s happening around the culture in the USA The history of college rioting, resulting in the first social fraternity being founded in Schenectady, New York in 1825. The cultural impact of the movie “Animal House” How raising the drinking age from 18 to 21 gave more power to fraternity’s The development of cities and their impact on a changing culture around sex The dynamical differences of hook up culture for young people not in college Long-term effects of hook up culture on attitudes towards sex and relationships   Resources http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/30231781-american-hookup https://lisa-wade.com email: lwade@oxy.edu        Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

  Sexology Podcast EP03 – Tamara Powell   Welcome to episode 03 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Tamara Powell, LMHC. Tamara is the owner of Arya Therapy Services, the now global phenomenon in holistic health and healing. More recently, she founded Tales from a Trapezoid dedicated to the more raw and edgier side of life, working with those who may often feel like a trapezoid in a world full of circles.   Tamara tends not to believe in limitations or pathology, only what she calls the “nearsightedness of that comes from either not knowing better OR creative, yet maladaptive attempts to get one’s needs met.” Her goal is to assist individuals and couples in tackling all of life’s challenges, whether mentally, emotionally, or spiritually.     In this episode, you will hear:   Tamara’s experience working with sexually diverse clients The definition of a polyamorous relationship Who chooses polyamory and why The misconceptions behind polyamorous relationships How people transition from monogamist relationships Working against the taboo and how people are concerned to ask questions The religious and cultural connections to polyamory The difference between polyamory, polygamy and swinging Raising children in polyamorous relationships How children can benefit because they have more resources The strengths of polyamory How to deal with jealousy   Resources Tamara's websites:   https://aryatherapy.com https://aryatherapy.com/about-the-podcast (Undressing The Spirit Podcast) https://talesfromatrapezoid.com Love in Abundance : A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships (Book) - https://www.amazon.com/Love-Abundance-Counselors-Relationships-Paperback/dp/B01FYKSULG/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1485030260&sr=8-1&keywords=love+in+abundanceAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Welcome to episode 02 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Heather Seguin, who is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Rancho Cucamonga, CA. She help couples and individuals create lives that reflect their deepest values and priorities. We all need someone to talk to now and then, especially when life gets messy. She often meets with people who feel stuck in life. Maybe you want to communicate better with your significant other, but you find yourself repeating the same old argument. Perhaps you struggle with self-confidence and it's keeping you from advancing at work. She will help you work through the things that are getting in your way so that you can have the life and relationships you want.   In this episode, you will hear:   Different patterns that show how affairs can start The difference between affairs and sex addictions Similarities between sex additions and other addictions, E.G; Gambling, Drinking Feeling shame and not having control on behaviour How not all affairs are sexual Coping with the trauma of discovering an affair or sex addiction Digging deeper into a partners 3rd party sexual relationships Rebuilding trust if you stay in the relationship The impact on sexual confidence and reclaiming your sexual life Working with a sex therapist to overcome the issues Deepening the relationship after overcoming an affair or sex addiction     Resources   http://clearchoicecounseling.com https://www.amazon.com/Erotic-Intelligence-Addiction-Katehakis-Alexandra/dp/B0157JJFY0/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1484591699&sr=1-2&keywords=erotic+intelligence  Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Welcome to episode 01 of the Sexology Podcast, today my guest is Dr Albert Wong. Dr Albert Wong is Marshall Scholar educated at Princeton and Oxford and has received extensive training in couple’s therapy from some of the nation’s leading relationship experts. In the 1990s, he served as residential staff at the Esalen Institute for five years and has been featured on PBS, in Time Magazine, and the book The American Soul Rush. His work has been published in titles ranging from the scientific journal Biological Cybernetics to the book anthology Radical Spirit. One of his film projects, Step One Breathe, was named Best Drama at the Maryville Film Festival. He recently presented a workshop at the International Conference of the Association for the Advancement of Gestalt Therapy entitled Many Dances, One Rhythm: A Somatic Exploration of Gestalt-Based Movement Practices.   In this episode, you will hear: Listening with “the full being” and “the full body” The effects of mindfulness training and body awareness Living in the present moment Creating a safety net with a partner by learning to accept situations How the goal of mindfulness is to let go of goals Being more mindful whilst intimate Creating awareness with your partner, eye gazing Creating open minded communication Planning sex with your partner Dealing with shame and negative emotions Viewing shame as part of the experience How sex is a whole-body experience Reaching out to people we feel safe with when dealing with shame   Resources   http://www.dralbertwong.com Phone - 415.545.8899    Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy