Victoria Alario, Confidence Coach and Host of For The Girls podcast, joins the Seeing Other People family today. We discuss what safety looks and feels like in a relationship, how to stop falling for a version of someone you created in your head, and why you need to focus on how you feel about them instead of how they feel about you. Victoria shares her expertise on how to become more confident, why you shouldn’t let someone’s disinterest shake your confidence, and how to develop standards that stop you from settling for less than you deserve. Later, we answer listener questions about self sabotaging and what to do when an ex continues to go to all of your spots. Follow Victoria @victoria.alario and @forthegirls.podcast on Instagram and listen to For The Girls wherever you get your podcasts!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Linda Panda, a DC-based woman in her mid thirties who opens up about how being raised in Utah with Asian parents impacted her dating life. She shares that while she didn’t have her first kiss until she was 25, a series of whirlwind romance stories would follow. We hear about her mindset with dating, how she’s approached meeting people off of dating apps, and why she’s open to finding a sperm done if she doesn’t find a partner. Follow along with Linda's adventures at @wanderwithpandalove on Instagram!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Julie Menanno, MA, LMFT, LCPC, AKA @thesecurerelationship (1M+) joins the show today to share her expertise on the role that attachment theory plays in relationships. Julie shares advice on how to improve communication in relationships, how to stay connected during conflict, and how to approach difficult situations productively and lovingly. We hear why couples have the same fight over and over, the most common relationship issues she sees in her clients, what steps we can take to achieve secure love in our relationships, and the importance of learning how to self-regulate your emotions. Finally, Julie shares how she, as both a parent and a professional, has approached raising her six children.  Follow Julie on Instagram @thesecurerelationship and check out thesecurerelationship.com and juliemenanno.com for more Julie's book The Secure Love is out now wherever books are sold  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Unfiltered, I'm joined by Stephanie, a 32-year-old who opens up about being a late bloomer with little dating experience. We hear about what has held her back from dating, what it feels like trying to date now, how she has navigated friendships changing as people enter different life phases, and what she wishes people understood better about late bloomers. If you want to come on an Unfiltered episode, email me! Send your story to seeingotherpeoplepodcast@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tinah Ogalo, host of In Your Twentys Podcast, makes her return to the SOP stage after a long year and a half. We hear about how Tinah put dating on the back burner as she focused on her her career, what it was like navigating her FGirl phase, and how she now feels about reprioritizing dating and getting back on the apps. Tinah and I debate splitting the bill, if texting ruined dating, day vs night dates, if ghosting is ever okay, what decade we would most want to date in, and so much more.  Follow Tinah on Instagram @Tinah.Ogalo, on TikTok at @tinahx and follow @inyourtwentys on Instagram and listen to the podcast wherever you get your podcasts!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by a New Yorker named Maddie who opens up about never having been in a relationship before, and why she thinks it's her biggest green flag. We discuss why someone can still have relationship experience if they’ve never been in a relationship, how to navigate dating and relationship advice with friends, and why you shouldn’t feel like you’re falling behind. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by comedian Tess Tregellas to discuss whether being a hopeless romantic is a blessing or a curse. We chat about what makes a date epic, why you should always shoot your shot, meeting people IRL, and Tess’s best and worst dating stories. Finally, we hear about Tess’s upcoming 4th wedding and why we all need to be a part of it.  Get tickets to wedding crashers here  Follow Tess @tesstreg on Instagram and @tesstregellas on TikTok  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My cousin-in-law Angie joins the podcast to open up about a very serious medical issue she faced earlier this year. When Angie started experiencing lethargy, excess bleeding during her periods, hair loss, and frequent urination, her doctors chalked it up to stress and anxiety, and she chalked it up to "being 32." As her list of symptoms got longer and more intense, Angie found herself going to a series of doctors to figure out what was wrong. Angie learned there was a Fibroid growing in her uterus that needed to be surgically removed. All the while, she was helping her brother through a tragedy, taking over her law firm, and planning her wedding. Angie shares how she navigated this medical crisis, what she wished she knew before ever knowing what a Fibroid was, how it impacted her relationship, and what she wishes she knew. Uterine Fibroidsaffect up to 80% of women by age 50. 25-50% of those are symptomatic. Approximately 25% to 50% of women with fibroids are symptomatic, experiencing heavy menses, reproductive issues, pain, increased urinary frequency, and anemia. There is a general lack of awareness of fibroids among women and their potential health impact. One survey documented an average of 3.6 years to seek treatment, and 41% saw at least two healthcare providers before diagnosis. Advocate for yourself, ask your doctors questions, and reach out to me if you’d like to get connected with Angie! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Backed by incredibly popular demand, Sam Panitch and Joey Lane are back for the 4th episode of "Ask The Guys Anything." They answer your questions about whether or not guys are actually bad texters, how they would feel if their friend dated someone they used to date, if guys "know" in 1-2 months, and if guys put girls in boxes (hookup box vs girlfriend box). We disucss unmatching, assessing chemistry, ending on good terms, what would make a guy actually want to commit, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

UPDATE: Tyler proposed to Nikki while skiing in Colorado just days after recording this episode! I'm joined by Nikki, a 28-year-old woman who shares her story of reconnecting with her now-fiancé years after their first few dates. We hear how their relationship unfolded and led to a few years of long distance followed by moving in together. We discuss how things change when you move in with your partner, why it's important to keep learning about each other and growing together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by Damona Hoffman, host of Dates And Mates Podcast, contributor to the Drew Barrymore Show, NPR, and The Washington Post, and author of F The Fairytale, a brand new book that you should order right this minute. Damona shares the four biggest dating myths that we need to ditch to find and build healthy, lasting relationships. We debate if we believe in soulmates, what should and shouldn't be on your checklist, why we can't rely on – or ditch – the dating apps entirely, and so much more. Grab a copy of F The Fairytale at fthefairytalebook.com!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Bonus episode! I sit down with my fiancé Jake (and Barkley) for our first annual recap recording all of our dates from the year! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TW: This conversation may triggering for those with sensitivities around rape and sexual assault. be I’m joined by a 30-year-old anonymous guest who opens up about searching for closure for eight years after her five year relationship ended. She shares how she reconnected with him after not speaking for years, and hear how she learned that closure is something you can get from someone else. Finally, we have a serious and candid conversation about our experiences with sexual assault. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to the Third Annual End of Year Episode! I sit down with my Associate Producer, Camila Vola, to reflect on 2023 and look ahead to 2024. We discuss my highs and lows of the year, biggest wins and biggest challenges, accomplished goals, and more. We talk about wedding planning, favorite episodes and guests, New Year's resolutions, mindset shifts, how to best approach dating in the new year, and so much more. Thank you guys for the best 2023 ever. Cheers to a happy and healthy 2024! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by a 25-year-old male listener from South Africa, who shares the painful dating experience he recently went through and how he's navigating his healing era. Then he answers your questions about what guys want to see on a dating app profile, what to do if you're a bad texter, whether or not men put you in a hookup vs date box, what his dealbreakers are, if it matters which gender says ILY first, and more.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by Beth Gulotta, LMHC, Founder and Owner of NYC Therapeutic Wellness, and host of Quiet The Clock Podcast. Beth and I discuss the societal pressures that many women face to meet their person, settle down, and have children all by a certain age. We hear how Beth met her now-husband at 34 and why she's glad she didn't meet him any sooner. We discuss why we should challenge society's expectations and pave our paths, how to overcome the feeling that you're falling behind, what to do if you feel like you're in a different life stage than your friends, and what we wish we could tell our single selves.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this solo unfiltered, I'm answering your questions about fears I have for marriage, fighting in relationships, people having photos of their ex on their Instagram, friendships changing, how I knew Jake was the one, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by health and wellness creator, Jordanna Drazin AKA The Daily Schvitz! We hear how Jordanna met her long-term boyfriend on Birthright while she was dating someone else. We hear how they ended up reconnecting once she was single, and how she wasn't sure if their first date was actually a date or a catch-up as just friends. We discuss changing in your twenties, maintaining independence in relationships, dating in eating disorder recovery, and so much more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by a 66-year-old divorcee who opens up about looking for love a third time around. She opens up what she learned from her first two marriages, what she say if she could go back and give her younger self advice, and what she's looking for now. We hear about her dating app experiences including which apps she's using, what points she's experiencing, and how she makes the most of each date. Finally, she shares some hilarious date fails along with the best advice she has for all of us.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Dara Pollack and Kunal Arora, hosts of You Both Suck podcast, to decide once and for all what the best type of date is: dinner, drinks, or activities. We chat splitting the bill, whether or not there is such thing as too much therapy, and what red flags we missed in our last relationships. We answer listener questions about navigating a situation where you realize you don’t want something casual with someone you hooked up with, and how to find out if someone you met IRL is in a relationship or not.   Check out You Both Suck on Spotify! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Unfiltered, I'm joined by Jason, a 34-year-old from Cape Town living in London. He shares how men rarely open up about their dating lives and feelings to each other, which can lead to a feeling of loneliness when going through something. He takes us through situations with four women he met last year on dating apps that all ended in a similar way. We hear what he's learned from these experiences, how they've impacted him, and what he's hoping for moving forward in his dating life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Dani Kravette, a longtime friend and 27 year old navigating modern dating in NYC. We chat about being a “boyfriend girl,” feeling surrounded by friends in relationships, and debate if someone’s reason for ending things actually matters. We dissect her Hinge profile, chat about not drinking on dates, discuss her dealbreakers, and cackle over her hilarious dating stories. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Unfiltered, I'm joined by a 40-year-old woman who opens up about getting divorced after 15 years of marriage to her high school sweetheart. She shares how their relationship changed over time and how they were able to end things on positive terms. We hear what it was like to be independent for the first time ever in her mid-thirties and how she processed the divorce by moving to LA and taking time to heal. Finally, we hear what it was like dating for the first time and what's been going on with the relationship she has been in for the past year.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TikToker Scott Erickson joins the Seeing Other People family this week! He opens up about what led to his divorce, how he and his ex-wife have managed to stay friends, and the good, bad, and ugly about dating after divorce. We chat about the hardest part of dating apps and dating, traveling for first dates, when you should move in with your partner, how the death of a loved one impacts your dating life, and much more.  Follow Scott on Instagram @scotterickson13 and TikTok @thescotterickson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by an anonymous 25-year-old woman who lives in NYC and recently got out of a four-year long-distance relationship. We discuss the pros and cons of long-distance relationships, how we firmly believe that long-distance relationships need an end date, and how being long-distance helped her healing process once they broke up. She shares what has surprised her about dating in NYC, and at the very end of the episode, she tells us one of the most profound things any Unfiltered guest has ever said.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by Leeor Gal, LMFT, AKA The Therapy Gal, to discuss dating burnout and feeling anxious about never finding your person. We discuss mindset shifts for when you're feeling down about your relationship status, what to say to your annoying relatives during the holidays when they ask why you're still single, how to navigate the anxiety around approaching someone IRL, and more. Follow Leeor at @thetherapygal on tiktok and @the_therapy_gal on IG and check out thetherapygal.com to inquire about therapy!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by a woman who opens up about an emotionally abusive relationship she was in and how she was able to grow and learn from it, and break her unhealthy dating patterns. We hear how he "removed labels" from the relationship and the emotional impact it had on he, how he begged to stay friends after she learned he was cheating, and how he later came back and expressed how he wished he could have loved her. She shares what she's learned from dating podcasts and how she's applied them to her dating life to ultimately find a loving partner.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're celebrating your dating wins in this very special solo episode! I talk about the importance of staying positive and finding little wins every step of the way when dating. Then, I highlight your dating wins about firsts, vulnerability, prioritizing yourself, breaking bad habits, and more. No more boring dates! Take your dates (or your relationship, wine nights, family dinners & more) to the next level with Where Do You Draw The Line, the best icebreaker game of all time. Grab yours at wdydtl.com/buy and enter code ILANA at checkout for 20% off.  This episode is sponsored by Regain Couples Therapy by Betterhelp. Give online therapy a try at regain.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by a 29-year-old woman who recently divorced her husband of five years. She shares how she and her ex-husband grew apart throughout their marriage, to a point where their lives and futures were no longer aligning. She talks us through her decision to go to therapy hoping to fix her marriage, but how her therapist helped her realize that fixing it may not have been the answer. Finally, we discuss what she's looking for now and what her experience has been like dating and using dating apps for the first time as a 29-year-old divorcée.   No more boring dates! Take your dates (or your relationship, wine nights, family dinners & more) to the next level with Where Do You Draw The Line, the best icebreaker game of all time. Grab yours at wdydtl.com/buy and enter code ILANA at checkout for 20% off. This episode is sponsored by Regain Couples Therapy by Betterhelp. Give online therapy a try at regain.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and get on your way to being your best self. Take your glow to go with my favorite clean, vegan skincare and body care from OSEA. Get 10% off with code seeingotherpeople at oseamalibu.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by Rebecca Marcus, LCSW, to discuss why we find ourselves in unhealthy dating patterns and how to stop. We chat about the importance of putting in the work, taking accountability, and recognizing when something isn't working for you. We answer listener questions about what to do if someone isn't making time for you and keeps rescheduling, how much couples should challenge each other, and how to navigate a situation where someone ends things with you but still wants to be friends.  Check out rmpsychotherapy.com and follow Rebecca on Instagram @rm.psychotherapy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jake and I sit down for a dramatic game of Where Do You Draw The Line to figure out what our relationship dealbreakers are. We debate topics like sharing locations, talking about exes, cheating, finances, prenups and more. Play Where Do You Draw The Line on your next date, with your bffs, or during family dinner! Grab your box at wdydtl.com/buy and use code ILANA for 20% off! This episode is sponsored by Regain Couples Therapy by Betterhelp. Give online therapy a try at regain.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and get on your way to being your best self. Take your glow to go with my favorite clean, vegan skincare and body care from OSEA. Get 10% off with code seeingotherpeople at oseamalibu.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Morgan Anderson, relationship coach, attachment theory expert, and host of Let's Get Vulnerable joins us today to discuss going from an unhealthy or traumatic relationship to a healthy relationship. We discuss where our attachment styles can come from, what steps we need to take to heal them, and how the research around attachment theory has changed over time. We open up about our past traumatic relationships, how they impacted us, and how we were able to move past them and find loving, healthy relationships. Ways to support Israel No more boring dates! Take your dates (or your relationship, wine nights, family dinners & more) to the next level with Where Do You Draw The Line, the best icebreaker game of all time. Grab yours at wdydtl.com/buy and enter code ILANA at checkout for 20% off.  This episode is sponsored by Regain Couples Therapy by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at regain.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and get on your way to being your best self. Take your glow to go with my favorite clean, vegan skincare and body care from OSEA. Get 10% off with code seeingotherpeople at oseamalibu.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Unfiltered, I’m joined by a woman in her early-mid 30s who opens up about her therapy journey and how it transformed the way she approaches dating. We hear about what led to the breakup of her four year long relationship, how she approached her healing process, and what she did differently when she got back out there. Finally, we discuss dating as an expat, what it’s like being so far away from your family, and making new female friendships in your twenties and thirties. Ways to support Israel No more boring dates! Take your dates (or your relationship, wine nights, family dinners & more) to the next level with Where Do You Draw The Line, the best icebreaker game of all time. Grab yours at wdydtl.com/buy and enter code ILANA at checkout for 20% off.  This episode is sponsored by Regain Couples Therapy by Betterhelp. Give online therapy a try at regain.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and get on your way to being your best self. Take your glow to go with my favorite clean, vegan skincare and body care from OSEA. Get 10% off with code seeingotherpeople at oseamalibu.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by Natasha and Justine, cohosts of 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose, to hear what they've learned about modern dating, love and relationships from our favorite tv shows. We discuss which shows are most accurately portraying modern dating, what shows have started important conversations that we need to be having, and which shows we should be watching if we want to actually learn and grow. We voice our opinions on whether or not love is blind, if giving an ultimatum is ever a good idea, can you fall in love in six weeks, and more.  Check out 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose on Spotify and follow on Instagram at @2blackgirls1rose Ways to support Israel No more boring dates! Take your dates (or your relationship, wine nights, family dinners & more) to the next level with Where Do You Draw The Line, the best icebreaker game of all time. Grab yours at wdydtl.com/buy and enter code ILANA at checkout for 20% off.  This episode is sponsored by Regain Couples Therapy by Betterhelp. Give online therapy a try at regain.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and get on your way to being your best self. Take your glow to go with my favorite clean, vegan skincare and body care from OSEA. Get 10% off with code seeingotherpeople at oseamalibu.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Unfiltered, I'm joined by a woman who opens up about ending an eight-year relationship, during which, she felt like nothing was wrong but she wasn't truly happy. We discuss what finally led her to end the relationship and what it was like being single for the first time at 27. We discuss navigating career changes, solo traveling, and how she came to the realization that the traditional setup of relationships might not be suited for her. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by Stella Stephanopolous, host of Everyday Endorphins, to talk about embracing singlehood, developing an abundance mindset, and not needing someone else to complete you. We discuss how we spent years accepting less than we deserved, how we've learend to speak up for ourselves, why we no longer put up with the bare minimum, why the high highs are never worth the low lows, how to communicate with someone who has a different communication style, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by Keren Longo AKA @mama.in.the.burbs to hear about her fertility journey. She opens up about her struggles to get pregnant, her experiences with IVF and IUI, the complications that arose along the way, her recent miscarriage, and more. She shares how she overcame all of these challenges, what she wishes she knew when she started trying to get pregnant, and what has kept her going throughout all of the ups and downs. Follow her journey at @mama.in.the.burbs and don't hesitate to reach out to her on IG with any questions you have. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Carrie Berk, TikTok star, journalist, and author of My Real-Life Rom-Com to discuss how important it is to learn from each relationship and situationship (no matter how short-lived it is). We chat about how social media has impacted dating, why we need banish the phrase "moving on" from our vocabulary, how you can’t lose someone who was never there for you to begin with, and more. Follow Carrie on TikTok and Instagram at @carrieberkk and buy her book today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this solo episode, I open up about the biggest dating anxieties I faced when I was single, and more importantly, how I overcame them. I reflect on where they came from, how they impacted me, and what steps I had to take and lessons I had to learn in order to feel more comfortable and confident in my dating life.  Enter your chef era with me! Go to hellofresh.com/50sop and use code 50sop for 50% off PLUS free shipping.  Smell better naked and gain confidence with Lume’s whole-body deodorant! GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code SOP at LumeDeodorant.com. Upgrade your wardrobe and find your forever date night pieces at jennikayne.com/sop and get 15% off with code SOP at checkout  Take your glow to go with clean, vegan skincare and body care from OSEA and get 10% off your first order sitewide with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at OSEAMalibu.com Get free shipping on orders over $75 on my favorite pieces from the Skims Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. After you place your order, let them know I sent you! Select “podcast” in the survey and then click seeing other people in the dropdown menu that follows.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by Joe Feminella, Founder & CEO of First Rounds On Me. Joe and I chat about the biggest challenges our generation is facing on dating apps and what we can do to fix it. We discuss all things first dates including: how to take the pressure off, conversations you should and shouldn't have, how to make the most of a date when you know in the first five minutes that you're not interested, and more. Plus, we answer lister questions about confidence, how to tell if he's into you or if he just wants to hook up, and what it means if he says he doesn't want a relationship early on. Download First Round's On Me in the app store today!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Anonymous from the episode "It's Not Always Your Fault, Even If They Say It Is" is back on the podcast to talk about her experiences dating for the first time as a 30-year-old divorced single mom of three kids. We hear what she thought dating would be like vs. how it turned out, lessons the hard way, and what she wish she knew when getting out there for the first time. She opens up about the highs and lows of dating as a single parent, misconceptions about single moms, and what boundaries she sets surrounding her kids when it comes to her dating life. Enter your chef era with me! Go to hellofresh.com/50sop and use code 50sop for 50% off PLUS free shipping.  Smell better naked and gain confidence with Lume’s whole-body deodorant! GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code SOP at LumeDeodorant.com. Upgrade your wardrobe and find your forever date night pieces at jennikayne.com/sop and get 15% off with code SOP at checkout  Take your glow to go with clean, vegan skincare and body care from OSEA and get 10% off your first order sitewide with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at OSEAMalibu.com Get free shipping on orders over $75 on my favorite pieces from the Skims Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. After you place your order, let them know I sent you! Select “podcast” in the survey and then click seeing other people in the dropdown menu that follows.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by Tonya Carter, Marriage/Relationship Exit Strategist, host of Purposely Thriving, and author of Divorce Your Story, to talk about how to effectively heal from a breakup. We discuss why your ex is a non-factor in your healing, the importance of acknowledging that the "what ifs" did not happen, and how to make peace with the closure you received. We answer listener questions about whether or not someone's reason for wanting to end things is genuine or an excuse, getting over a situationship when they're in your friend group, and more. Enter your chef era with me! Go to hellofresh.com/50sop and use code 50sop for 50% off PLUS free shipping.  Smell better naked and gain confidence with Lume’s whole-body deodorant! GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code SOP at LumeDeodorant.com. Upgrade your wardrobe and find your forever date night pieces at jennikayne.com/sop and get 15% off with code SOP at checkout  Take your glow to go with clean, vegan skincare and body care from OSEA and get 10% off your first order sitewide with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at OSEAMalibu.com Get free shipping on orders over $75 on my favorite pieces from the Skims Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. After you place your order, let them know I sent you! Select “podcast” in the survey and then click seeing other people in the dropdown menu that follows.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this solo episode, I'm answering your questions about when to give someone another chance, how to save your friendship with your best friend of your desired sex who you hooked up with, what to do when someone keeps talking but never wants to meet up, how to navigate never having been in a relationship before, and more. Enter your chef era with me! Go to hellofresh.com/50sop and use code 50sop for 50% off PLUS free shipping.  Smell better naked and gain confidence with Lume’s whole-body deodorant! GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code SOP at LumeDeodorant.com. Take your glow to go with clean, vegan skincare and body care from OSEA and get 10% off your first order sitewide with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at OSEAMalibu.com Get free shipping on orders over $75 on my favorite pieces from the Skims Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. After you place your order, let them know I sent you! Select “podcast” in the survey and then click seeing other people in the dropdown menu that follows.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talia Bombola is a Psychoanalytic LMFT, Professor, Speaker, and the host of Heal Through Humor, and theco-host of The Couple’s Guide Podcast as well as Between Two Clinicians. Talia and I chat about where our own self-worth stems from and how important it is to learn about who you are in order to set yourself up for relationship success. We talk about how to notice and break unhealthy dating patterns, how Talia overcame her anxious attachment, and the importance of communicating your needs. Finally, we answer listener questions about dating someone who doesn't text you enough, getting dumped by someone who wasn't looking for something serious only to see them in a relationship a month later, and if you should be financially stable when actively dating.  Enter your chef era with me! Go to hellofresh.com/50sop and use code 50sop for 50% off PLUS free shipping.  Smell better naked and gain confidence with Lume’s whole-body deodorant! GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code SOP at LumeDeodorant.com. Take your glow to go with clean, vegan skincare and body care from OSEA and get 10% off your first order sitewide with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at OSEAMalibu.com Get free shipping on orders over $75 on my favorite pieces from the Skims Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. After you place your order, let them know I sent you! Select “podcast” in the survey and then click seeing other people in the dropdown menu that follows.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Erica Shea is back on the pod to catch up with us about taking time off from dating and finding the strength to end her most recent situationship. We talk about how it's normal (and sometimes beneficial) to be in a dating drought, how she knew it was time to end the situationship instead of continuing in discomfort, as many of us do. Later we discuss mindset shifts and laugh off some hilarious bad date stories.   Enter your chef era with me! Go to hellofresh.com/50sop and use code 50sop for 50% off PLUS free shipping.  Smell better naked and gain confidence with Lume’s whole-body deodorant! GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code SOP at LumeDeodorant.com. Take your glow to go with clean, vegan skincare and body care from OSEA and get 10% off your first order sitewide with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at OSEAMalibu.com Get free shipping on orders over $75 on my favorite pieces from the Skims Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. After you place your order, let them know I sent you! Select “podcast” in the survey and then click seeing other people in the dropdown menu that follows.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Iris Jardiel to chat about why she broke off her engagement to her longtime partner, Luke, who proposed on Temptation Island Season 4. We hear why they decided to go on the show, what it was like having their relationship tested, and how she felt when he proposed. She shares how she caught him cheating and wanted to believe he could change, but after repeatedly being proven wrong, she eventually found the courage to walk away. Finally, we hear how her life has changed for the better since leaving him.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by an anonymous 27-year-old woman who opens up about starting to date someone and suddenly not hearing from him for days. She shares how she thought she was getting ghosted and assumed he blocked her, only to find out via Instagram that he was hit by a car and was in a coma. We hear how she processed this news, how she was not in a position to get updates on his condition because of how recently they had met, and how what led them to getting back in touch, and how they navigated their new friendship turned relationship. Finally, we discuss inter-abled dating, and how we’re so quick to judge people and often have limitations in our mind about who we can and can’t date. Please consider donating to Cody’s GoFundMe or sharing it with your network. Anything helps! https://www.gofundme.com/f/donate-to-codys-recovery Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Evan Marc Katz, the world’s first dating coach (2003!), four-time author, and host of the Love U Podcast. Evan and I chat about where women are going wrong in dating when it comes to taking breaks from dating, going on dates, and getting into relationships. We learn which dealbreakers matter, ways to figure out if a relationship is right and how to know if it’s time to leave. Evan helps answer listener questions about getting over someone, whether or not you’re wasting your time, and more. Head to evanmarckatz.com/ilana to get gifted resources from Evan!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Liz Mina to talk about approaching dating from a place of security and curiosity rather than the fear of being alone. We chat about dating as an adult after never having romantic interests in high school, why society should stop putting pressure on people to find partners at a certain age, how being an only child has impacted her dating life, and the importance of having vulnerable conversations on early dates. Finally, Liz shares what it’s like dating as a Middle Eastern woman and how religion and family values have played a role in her relationships.  Follow Liz on TikTok @lizmina5 and on Instagram at @liz.mina Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In honor of my 29th birthday, I spent time reflecting on some of the most meaningful moments, the biggest turning points, and the hardest lessons learned in my 28 years. I put together a list and I'm so excited to share them with you in this special episode. We cover life, love, friendship, career, family, and everything in between. Thanks for being on this journey with me and cheers to 29!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by Rachel Schwab, AKA @justbecauseitspretty, to discuss what her dating life was like before meeting her person and how she ended up getting engaged to her first ever Hinge date. She shares how she felt going into her first date with her now-fiancé, whether or not she was anxious after it, why she's glad they talked about exes on their third date, and when/how they DTRd. We hear how they navigated long distances while he was also a full-time medical student and how they communicated their needs. Finally, we discuss Instagram vs. Reality of getting engaged! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TW: Eating disorders & body image struggles. Julie Griggs and Danielle Dietzek, my friends and the cofounders of Fourplay Social, are back on Seeing Other People. We discuss why the question "Why are you still single?" is so problematic and how society perpetuates the belief that we aren't complete until we find our partner. Danielle opens up about her struggle with body image and weight gain, sharing how it's held her back in her dating life along with ways she's worked to overcome her insecurities. We talk about do's and don'ts for getting your personality across on your profiles, why you should not write people off too soon, and what we've all learned from each other.   Follow Fourplay on Instagram and TikTok!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by a 36-year-old woman who opens up about the relationship she found herself in shortly after getting divorced from her ex-husband of 11 years (and the father of her two children). We hear how she and this man met, what their relationship started out like, and how they soon developed a dominant/submissive relationship. She shares how she later found out he was still married and that she was not the only "other woman." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by Laura Belgray, author of the book "Tough Titties: On Living Your Best Life When You’re the F-ing Worst" to discuss how to let go of what other people and society expect of you. We chat about embracing your flaws, owning your timeline, not comparing yourself to others, how your worth doesn't need to be attached to someone else liking you, and more. Laura shares her dating mishaps and adventures from when she was in her 20s, the pressure she felt to want to have children when she wasn't sure what she wanted, and the beautifully uncommon story of how she and her now-husband met.  Learn more about Laura at talkingshrimp.com, get the book at toughtittiesbook.com, and follow her on IG @laurabelgray Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by my friend Carly, aka @kicksbycarly, to talk about the most frustrating aspects of modern dating. We chat about matching with someone you're excited about and then the convo never going anywhere, multi-yearlong situationships, dating someone who lives too close to you, whether or not athletes are looking for something serious, seeing your friends get into relationships and feeling left behind, and more.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam Panitch and Joey Lane are back for another round of Ask The Guys Anything! We chat do's and don'ts for profile photos, prompts, and starting conversations. We debate whether or not you should send roses, slide into someone's DMs after seeing them on an app, whose responsibility it is to send the first message, and more.  Follow Sam @sam_p_Panitch and check out Elevation Nation Follow Joey @thejoeylane on IG and @Joeysmoke14 on Twitter and check out Drive The Lane Podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by a 31-year-old woman who shares a series of relatable dating sagas that she’s experienced over the last few years including a drawn out situationship, developing feelings for a best guy friend, dating someone who is always working, and more. We hear how she wished she cut things off sooner in many of these situations and how she’s finally learned to ask for what she needs and speak up when something isn’t right. Plus, we dive into her dating stats from the past few years as she’s kept track of how many dates she’s been on. Spoiler alert: 2022 included 70 dates with a breakdown of 26 guys, 2+ dates with 12 guys and 3+ dates with 5 guys. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Thanks for sending in your questions for today’s solo episode! We’re chatting: moving in before or after getting married, insecurities around dating someone a similar size, whether or not the relationship is doomed if he changed his mind about moving in together, how long I was on dating apps before I met Jake, when should you trust your gut vs. give someone the benefit of the doubt, how to navigate being single when your friends are all in relationships or getting married, and more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by a 29-year-old divorceé and mother of three who opens up about the emotionally and financially abusive realtionship. We hear what their relationship was like as high school sweethearts and how it evolved overtime and once kids were involved. She shares how he made her think she was always at fault, but how she stayed because she was so blindly in love with him and wanted to make it work. Finally, we hear what led them to ultimately call it quits, and how coparenting has been. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, I’m answering your questions about navigating the free versions of dating apps, what questions o ask when checking in with your partner, if it’s a good idea to reach out to someone who you regret hurting, what to do when you meet someone great who doesn’t want to take things further, getting over a breakup when you can’t avoid the person, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by a 28 year old woman from Miami, FL. We chat about how to not feel down on yourself for being the only single one in the friend group, and how to instead embrace it and use it as a time to learn from the relationships your friends are in. We discuss feeling confident going into first dates, whether or not it matters when you sleep with someone, and ways to stay positive when you’re feeling behind. Finally, we hear about how she met her now-boyfriend and how she knew they could build a healthy relationship together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, we're breaking down how to approach dating in a less anxiety-producing way. We discuss mindset shifts and reframes for dating app usage, going on first dates, texting, and assessing feelings. We end on a well-needed reminder that yes, dating is hard and no, you're not crazy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sarah Taplin, formelly known as Sarah Sasson, is making her comeback to Seeing Other People after a two-year hiatus. She last joined us on the episode "Learning to Love Your Single Self" shortly before meeting her now-husband, Ben. We hear how her self-discovery allowed her to grow into the preson she was when she and Ben met, and she shares what felt different this time around that indicated this was a healthy potential relationship. We discuss how her journey to explore her Judaism impacted her dating life, how she found someone who accepted her exactly where she was at, and the importance of discussing non-negotiables in the early stages of dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Brianne Helfrich, host of Welcome to the Collective and Founder/CEO of Helfrich Collective, is on the pod today! We chat about the definition of a relationship, how her breakup fueled her to start her own clothing brand, and how we've never "gone with grace" after being broken up with. We hear how she approached her phase of being single and going on a ton of dates, how she met her boyfriend of 2+ years right before making a big move, and how they created a strong foundation based on open communication and vulnerability. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My friend Jamie is here! Jamie recaps what the beginning stages of her now 4 1/2 year relationship were like. We hear how she navigated her fiancé's mixed messages and we discuss why it's important to give people the benefit of the doubt if it feels right in your gut. Jamie and I open up about a friendship breakup that we went through 4 years ago as a result of her new relationship, which was with my ex's best friend. We hash out what happened, why it happened, and how we both could have approached the situation differently. Finally, we reminisce on our single years and share hilarious dating stories and things we wish we knew when we were single. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Victoria Aron and Paulina Siegel, Licensed Therapists and hosts of Shit Talking Shrinks, join the show today. First, we hear about how Paulina went from planning her engagement to healing from a blindsided breakup. Then, we discuss the art or giving and getting advice. We chat about how who you get your advice from and what you do with it matters. Finally, we answer listener questions about texting cadence, porn consumption, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Unfiltered, I'm joined by an anonymous woman who lives in Dallas, Texas. She opens up about meeting someone on a dating app who she gets to know over the course of a few months. We discuss how he seemed smart, mature, trusting and put together, but she ended up finding herself in a dangerous and horrifying situation, drugged and left stranded in the middle of the street with no phone and nowhere to go in the middle of the night. We discuss dating safety tips, why it's important to have these conversations, and how she took a terrifying situaiton and used it to fuel a period of growth and self-love in her life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by Sierra Michelle Green, former cohost of Fingers Crossed Podcast and bride-to-be! We shoot the shit about her seemingly epic bachelorette party and my *breaking news* decision to not have one. Later, Sierra opens up about how she met her fiancé shortly after going through a traumatic, emotionally abusive relationship. We talk about healing, reclaiming who you are, expressing how you feel to someone early on, learning your worth, and so much more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by an anonymous woman who opens up about her 2+ year long, on and off, friends with benefits situationship with her coworker. We hear how things started, what boundaries and rules they laid down in order to make it work, and if they really set themselves up for success. She shares how feelings started to complicate things, how they prioritzed their friendship, and if they ended up turning things into a relationship or cutting it off completely. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by Lillian Rishty, LCSW and Therapist at NYC Therapy Group, to discuss how to navigate your dating anxiety at every step of the dating process. We talk about ways to self-sooth your anxiety on the apps, before the date, after the date, as feelings get involved, when facing rejection, and everything in between. Lillian and NYC Therapy Group are accepting new clients! Check out nyctherapygroup.com for more info.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by an anonymous 31 year old woman who opens up about her journey to find self acceptance in her single hood. She shares how she felt more pressure in her 20s to find her person, but as the years went on, her fierce independence and love for the life she’s built for herself became more apparent. We discuss the joys of singlehood, how she feels about the possibility of never finding a life-partner, her approach with going on dates, what led her to learn her worth and put herself first, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gabrielle stone, host of FML Talk podcast joins the show today. Gabrielle opens up about how getting cheated on by her ex husband and getting her heart broken shortly after led her to embark on a soul-searching, solo adventure to Europe, and then write her book, Eat, Pray, #FML about it. Gabrielle shares how she recovered from her trauma and heartbreak, why she had a fear of abandonment and how she worked to overcome it, what lessons she learned through her experiences, and how she embraced her past instead of hiding it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by Amanda, a New York City dater who has a myriad of dating horror stories to share. We commiserate about the good, the bad, the crazy, the hilarious, and even the scary things that Amanda has encountered while navigating modern dating and dating apps. Most importantly, Amanda opens up about how she maintains hope that her person is out there.  Amanda’s DMs are open! Slide in @amandalgerard Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Allana Blumberg, lifestyle and wellness creator and host of Morning Rae podcast, joins the show today. Allanna and I chat shifting your mindset from focusing on dating to focusing on yourself, getting stuck in situationships, masculine vs feminine energy and how it impacts your dating life, whether or not you should have a roster (and how to build one), if there’s a difference between being in a relationship vs being exclusive, and more. Follow Allana on instagram @allanablumberg and TikTok at @allanablumberg and listen to Morning Rae wherever you listen to podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by…myself! On this solo episode, I’m answering a bunch of questions that you guys sent in! We’re chatting life & wedding planning updates, how to feel if your partner doesn’t get included as a +1 on a wedding invite, how to prepare for and know when you are ready to move in with your partner, what to do when the person you’re seeing has a family bereavement or illness, if/when/how to tell the person you’re seeing that you’re a virgin, what to do if they want to be official but you’re not yet sure how you feel, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Carly Weinstein, content creator and host of Hot Girl Talks, to chat all about the biggest pain-points in modern dating. We discuss whether not having a sneaky link is holding you back from finding the real deal, being single in college for the first time, whether or not her social media presence impacts her dating life, how to navigate feeling rejected IRL when your friends are getting approached at bars, and more. Follow @carly_weinstein on Instagram and @carlyweinstein on TikTok and listen to Hot Girl Talks wherever you listen to podcasts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by Zoe Scurletis, host of Solace and the City, recent Sober queen, and soon-to-be therapist. Zoe opens up about making the decision to become sober, how it's impacted her mental health, and what it means for her dating life. We talk about situationships, what to do when someone says they're "not looking for something serious: or are working on themselves, closure, what we've learned in therapy, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our favorite guys, Sam Panitch and Joey Lane, are back for another round of “Ask the Guys Anything.” This time we’re talking about who should pay (and if he wants you to reach for your wallet), what guys want to see on your dating app profiles, the right moment for a first kiss, and how to tell if he’s ghosting you. We discuss repeat matching with someone but never getting into a conversation, how to feel if your friend starts seeing someone from your past, the one that got away, and more.  Follow Sam @sam_p_Panitch and check out Elevation Nation Follow Joey @thejoeylane on IG and @Joeysmoke14 on Twitter and check out Drive The Lane Podcast We’re celebrating Mental Health Month this May with Adobe Express. Click here to create your own mental health checklist or share a mental health reminder with a friend.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I can't believe I'm saying this...The Jonas Brothers are on today’s episode of Seeing Other People! I sit down with Nick, Joe, and Kevin Jonas to discuss their music, marriages, fatherhood, and brotherhood. They share the inspiration behind the lyrics and sound on The Album, their favorite memories as brothers and as a band, and which songs and venues they are most excited about performing on The Tour. We hear how becoming fathers has impacted them personally and professionally, how they overcame creative disagreements when working on The Album, what chapter of their personal growth journeys has had the biggest impact, and what relationship advice they would give us. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gigi Robinson, Chronic Illness Advocate, Creator Economy Speaker, and Author of A Kid’s Book About Chronic Illness, is back on the podcast a year and a half after her previous episode: “Chronically Single.” Gigi opens up about the inner work she did when she was single and for the spills the tea about her new relationship. We hear how she met her now boyfriend, what led her to feel comfortable with him, and what they’ve done to create a healthy foundation. We chat about building confidence, knowing your worth, balancing career and relationships, navigating insecurities, and more. Follow Gigi @itsgigirobinson on Instagram and TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by Bianca, a 31-year-old single mother, and career-focused psychiatric registered nurse. Bianca opens up about how her previous heartbreaks led her down a path of introspective work and healing. She shares how she’s worked through codependency and her anxious attachment styles, and how she’s shaped her now-positive and healthy mindset around dating. Follow Bianca at @biancakoko on Instagram. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Natalie Barbu, Youtuber, Founder of Rella, and Host of The Real Reel, joins the show today to talk all about ending a four-year-long relationship. We hear why things ended, her fears surrounding the breakup, and what it’s been like to get back out there. Natalie walks us through her healing process from day 1 through now, eight months later. She shares what helped her move on the most, moments where she had regrets about the breakup, and how she’s now having fun being single and enjoying her twenties without feeling pressure to find someone.  Follow Natalie on Instagram at @nataliebarbu and TikTok at @nataliebarbu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode my be triggering to those with sensitivities around domestic violence and acts of physical and verbal abuse. I’m joined by a woman who opens up about the abusive relationship that she was in. We hear how the relationship started, when things took a turn, whether or not she realized she was a victim of domestic violence, why she stayed with him for as long as she did, and what finally helped her leave. If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic violence, help is available. The National Domestic Hotline is here to listen with confidential support 24/7/365. Call 800-799-7233 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We have a solo episode this week! I’m sharing what has been upsetting me about modern dating and what I would do to change it if I had a magic wand. Later, I answer listener questions about whether or not we are limiting ourselves off by having specific things we’re looking for in a person, how to navigate having feelings for your best friend, and what to do when someone comes back two weeks after ending it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Taylor, a 24 year old woman living in Los Angeles who shares her experience dating with chronic health issues. Taylor’s life was turned upside down 2 years ago in a matter of 24 hours when she started experiencing what she now knows is long-COVID. Taylor opens up about dealing with her loss of identity, struggling to do certain physical activities on dates, having to reschedule dates because she’s not feeling well, and when/how to explain her diagnosis to someone new. Get in touch with Taylor @taylorrumm on Instagram! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sam Panitch and Joey Lane are here to provide the male perspective on your burning dating questions and confusing scenarios. Sam and Joey share what they wish they could change about modern dating along with misconceptions women have about men when it comes to finding love. We answer listener questions about liking thirst traps on Instagram, why he likes your stories but doesn’t text you back, how long it takes for a guy to know if he wants something serious with you, if guys and girls can just be friends, and the best and worst questions asked on dates. Sam and Joey share whether or not they want a girl to text them thank you after a date, if it’s okay for a girl to text a guy first, and what it means if they take a long time to text you back. We discuss reconnecting with exes, how to tell if you’re being strung along, what to do if they don’t know what they’re looking for, and more. Follow Sam @sam_p_Panitch and check out Elevation Nation Follow Joey @thejoeylane on IG and @Joeysmoke14 on Twitter and check out Drive The Lane Podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Unfiltered: Anonymous joins the podcast to share her healing process from being cheated on, including what steps she took to recover and what finally led her to getting back out there. We hear how she meets her next boyfriend, how he's the polar opposite from her ex, and what green flags he gave off. She share how the relationship unfolds, suspicions she has along the way that he may be cheating, how he reassures her that he isn't, and why she stays. We talk about going through someone's phone, how many times can you give someone the benefit of the doubt, and why being cheated on is not about you. Lastly, we discuss how she's come to terms with her past but doesn't believe that just because her two exes have cheated on her does not mean that every other person she dates will. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Seeing Other People and host Ilana Dunn are here to help you feel less alone in your dating struggles.   Real people, real stories, real life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We kick off the episode with some of this week's dating wins and an update on my wedding venue search! Then I'm joined by Carly Silverman to answer your questions about if it's still okay to ask someone to facetime before a date (and how to pop the q), when is the right time to move in with your partner, accepting a missed connection, what to do if you're talking to a bad texter, how to move on when you wish things hadn't ended, what to do if you're still thinking about your ex, and more. Follow Carly @carlyrsilverman on TikTok! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by a 28-year-old man who shares the story of a short-lived but very intense dating experience that lead him down a path of self-discovery and growth. We hear how their connection was off to a great start on the apps, how it felt like they've known each other forever on their first date, and how they each had a "second date curse" and "third date curse" that they wanted to overcome. He opens up about why she ended it, the feedback she gave, and what mistakes he made that he was able to see in hindsight. He shares his therapy journey, what he's learned, and how he plans to approach dating differently in the future. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Carly Silverman is back on the pod to help me answer listener questions! We talk about why we're so frustrated by influencers making grand statements about how much sex you should be having, why we always question “what’s wrong with me,” how we get so in our heads and make wrongful assumptions, accepting that not everyone is going to like you, how to stay positive when you keep losing hope from the dating world, and more. Follow Carly @carlyrsilverman on tiktok and @carlysilverman on Instagram! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

UNFILTERED: I'm joined by an anonymous woman who shares the story of a two year long situationship turned relationship filled with anxiety, manipulation, and infidelity. She opens up about why she gave him so many chances, why it was easier to stay in a broken relationship than it was to leave, and what finally pushed her to her breaking point. We hear about her healing process, how it impacted her mental health, and what advice she would give to anyone going through something similar. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My fiancé Jake (AH!) joins me to recap our proposal week! We answer your questions about when we knew we wanted to marry each other, if/when we talked about a timeline for getting engaged, and if he asked my parents’ permission. We dive into our ring-making process, what “ring shopping” was like, how far in advance he got the ring, and more. Finally, we talk about our proposal day, whether or not I knew, and how the proposal unfolded. Jake shares his thoughts going into popping the question, and I open up about how it felt in the moment when he got down on one knee. Thanks to everyone who has been a part of our love story and shoutout to our families for making this such a magical week. Shoutout to our amazing jeweler, Scott at Flawless Carat! Get in touch for the ring (or any jewelry) of your dreams https://flawlesscarat.com/ scott@flawlesscarat.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Ariella Azaraf, LCSW, to talk about expressing your needs, setting boundaries, and managing your dating anxiety. We discuss the language to use when you want to communicate about your needs (or your needs not being met) to someone new, when and how to trust your gut and intuition, coping with being blindsided, and what to do when you’re fresh out of a breakup and are afraid to go to the places that remind you of them. Ariella shares her expertise on where your anxiety comes from, what to do in moments of high anxiety, and how you can work towards healing your anxious attachment. Ariella’s practice is currently accepting new clients! Check out www.ariellaazaraflcsw.com for more info and to get in touch. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Sabrina Bendory, Author of “You’re Overthinking It” and “10 Things Every Woman Needs to Know About Men.” Sabrina shares insight into what men really want, red flags that you should never ignore, and how we can stop overthinking. We discuss how to stop obsessing over someone early on, whether or not you should date multiple people at a time, mistakes we made in our dating lives, and whether or not men marry the woman in front of them when they’re ready. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by Laurina Sachetti, host of Funny Girl Podcast to talk about her experience embracing her sexuality. We learned what led her to become pansexual (and what that means), what signs she saw and may have ignored, and how she began to experiment dating people of different genders and sexual orientations. Laurina shares how the queer community has embraced her, how she navigates telling someone she’s queer when on a date, and what differences she’s noticed between dating men and dating other genders.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Orly Israel, founder of Orly’s Listening Table, to discuss all things listening and communication. We hear about why he started Orly’s listening table, what he’s learned from it, and the impact it’s had. We discuss how to practice being a better listener, when should you just listen vs offer advice, what to do when you disagree with someone who is venting to you, tips for spicing up communication in your daily lives, the craziest stories he’s heard while doing Orly’s listening table, and more.  Check out @orlyslisteningtable for more!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by Julia Mazur, host of Pretty Much Done and former Tinder employee, to discuss her journey leaving a toxic relationship, learning to love herself, what she’s learned from her recent breakup, how she overcame the societal / internal pressure to get married and start a family, and more. We hear how her she ended her previous relationship on good terms, what it was like working at Tinder, and more.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

UNFILTERED: I'm joined by Kyla who shares her experiences dating people from all around the world during her solo travels. We hear what led her to start traveling on her own, how she went about meeting people, the differences in her dating experiences abroad vs in America, what she learned from dating in different countries, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Hilary Weinstein, LCSW, founder of HLW therapy to discuss what she has learned while going through the most difficult time of her life. Hilary opens up about getting engaged as her mother’s four year battle with ovarian cancer was coming to a devastating end. We discuss the lack of transparency on social media, how we compare ourselves and our lives to others based on what we see online, and how everyone’s high highs are on display while the low lows are kept behind closed doors. We chat about our fears surrounding being more transparent online, our individual struggles with social media, her advice to anyone going through a similar situation, and more.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Morgan Raum, Lox Club’s Head of Membership and creator of @tooomuchfoood. Morgan opens up about taking it slow at the start of a new relationship, the pressure of being their +1 at weddings in the early stages of dating, and the blindsided breakup she recently went through. We chat about the biggest mistakes people are making on dating apps and how to improve your profile. Finally, we discuss Morgan’s viral “I’m Single” series where she became known as the girl who walked around parks, concerts, and parties with a sign on her phone that said “I’m Single” as a method of meeting people IRL.  Shop Morgan's "I'm Single" hat collection here Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by Rudy A, TikToker and host of the Rude Advice podcast. We discuss how he went from being happily married to having an affair, why he and his ex-wife decided to finally call it quits, and what going through his divorce was like. Rudy shares his advice for healing after a breakup or divorce, rediscovering yourself / rebuilding your life, and getting back out there. We answer listener questions about dating someone who isn't on the same page about wanting to get married, why someone would be cuddly after sex if they aren't planning to see you again, what to do after hooking up with your coworker, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by a man who tells the story of how his 14-year marriage ended because his wife realized she was a lesbian. We hear how he reacted to the news, and how he and his ex-wife created a wonderful co-parenting situation filled with gratitude, empathy, and flexibility. He opens up about falling in love, with a woman we refer to as “A,” soon after he dipped his toe back in the dating pool. He shares how this relationship was the best six months of his life, while also being filled with anxiety, guilt, and pain because she wasn’t okay with him remaining friends with his ex-wife. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

UNFILTERED: I'm joined by a man who went through a painful breakup in Mid-August. We hear how the situation spawned a lot of self-discovery and growth in the past four months as he's been healing, learning, and reflecting. We discuss how to read mixed signals, what to do when someone isn't ready to commit but you are, and how to process the feedback that "you did everything right," but it didn't work out anyway. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Tatiana Fogt, sexuality educator and host of Bedside, a podcast series & activist platform, where she explores sexual health & wellness in the digital age. We discuss having non awkward dialogues surrounding sex, setting clear boundaries, and assessing someone’s intentions. Tatiana answers listener questions about porn consumption, whether you should discuss how you would handle an unplanned pregnancy before having sex with someone, what to do if your sex drive and your partner’s sex drive don’t match up, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by a 30 year old woman who shares the story of her two year long toxic relationship involving cheating, manipulation, and emotional abuse. She shares how the relationship started off like a fairytale, but then became an endless cycle of explosive fights, and silent treatments followed by outpours of affection and apologies for his behavior. We discuss if the bad times were worth the good times, the red flags she now sees in hindsight, and what advice she would give to anyone going through something similar. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode, I’m joined by Carly Silverman and Dani Katowitz, two of my good friends who I met via social media in 2022. We discuss all things navigating your twenties from career to friendship to dating to mental health and social media. We open up about getting let go from our “dream jobs,” the pressure we put on ourselves to find boyfriends, how we realized that some of our friendship weren’t serving us, why we feel like we need to people please, what advice we would give to our younger selves and more.  Follow Carly @carlyrsilverman on Tiktok and Instagram Follow Dani at @hold_the_fries on Instagram and @dani.katowitz on TikTok  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by my associate producer, Camila Vola, to reflect back on 2022 and look ahead to 2023. We discuss my highs and lows, what lessons I learned, who had the biggest impact on my year, challenges I overcame, and goals I accomplished (plus goals I did not). I open up about my fears, what I’m self-conscious about, and what my struggles are with this career path. We chat about favorite episodes, the best pieces of advice, what I want to accomplish in the new year, and more.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by South Asian Therapist Fatema Jivanjee-Shakir, LMSW, to discuss the nuances of South Asian dating culture and how much emphasis our society places on marriage. We discuss the shame and secrecy around dating in South Asian culture, how individuals are expected to not date in their teenage years and get married in their early twenties, the intersection of food and body image with dating and relationships, and more. Fatema shares advice on how to become more confident in your own skin and identify your own values so you can live the life that feels most right for you. Follow Fatema @yoursouthasiantherapist on Instagram. Head to Jackpocket.com to download Jackpocket and use code PEOPLE at checkout to get your first lottery ticket free. Must be 18 or older to play. Jackpocket is not affiliated with any State Lottery. If you or someone you know has a gambling problem and wants help, residents of NY call 1-877-8-HOPE-NY; residents of OR call 1-877-MYLIMIT; all others, call 1-800-GAMBLER. Please visit jackpocket.com/tos for full terms of service. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

UNFILTERED: An anonymous listener shares the story of the relationship she was in over the last year where she caught her boyfriend cheating on her. We hear how the relationship began, when and how she found out he was being unfaithful, if she confronted him about it, and why she decided to take him back. She shares if she was able to truly forgive him, if the relationship was able to progress forward, how her loved ones felt about the situation, and how it impacted her mental health and self worth. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by Zac Stern, Founder, and CEO of Official, the app for enhancing your relationships. We discuss why dating apps aren’t setting us up for relationship success, the biggest challenges that couples are facing right now, and why we’re so afraid to communicate with our crushes and partners. Zac walks us through what led him to start Official and why we’re more comfortable on our phones than IRL. We answer listener questions about date ideas, how to identify someone’s intentions, are they not interested if they didn’t ask for your number, can a girl change an fboy, are men honest when writing what they’re looking for on the apps, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by Kristen and Sam, my friends who are getting married in 2023 who – you guessed it – met at work. We hear how Kristen was crushing on Sam from afar and what steps she took to assess if there was mutual interest and make her move. They share Sam's initial hesitations, how they navigated the early stages of figuring out what was between them while keeping things professional, and if they told their colleagues that they were together. We discuss getting over your work crush who isn't interested in you, handling breakups in the workplace, differentiating between work spouse feelings vs. romantic feelings, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by narcissism expert and licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Jaime Zuckerman. We discuss the difference between a toxic relationship and a narcissistic relationship, early signs someone might be a narcissist, the difference between love bombing vs. someone being really interested in you, if a narcissist can ever change, and what causes someone to become a narcissist. We discuss how to spot narcissistic characteristics in friends and family members, what to do if your friend is dating a narcissist, why it takes on average 7 attempts to leave a narcissistic or abusive relationship, and what to do if you realize you're in a narcissistic relationship. Check out Dr. Z's work at https://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/ and follow along on Instagram at @dr.z_psychologist.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by Hannah, a 28-year-old woman who shares her experience living and dating with ADHD. We hear when and how she got her diagnosis and in what ways her ADHD impacts her day-to-day life and her dating life. Hannah helps answer listener ADHD-related questions including dealing with a lack of texts, how your non-ADHD partner can best support you, when to mention your ADHD to someone new, how to avoid overpowering the conversation and interrupting someone, what to do when someone tells you ADHD isn’t real, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Tripp Kramer, world-renowned dating men’s dating coach and host of the “How to Talk to Girls” podcast. Tripp and I discuss the biggest misconceptions that men and women have about each other and what men wish women did differently in dating. We answer listener questions from women about assessing interest, paying for dates, friend zoning, bringing up exclusivity, and nerves going into your first trip with a new significant other. We answer questions from guys about when to make a move, sending the post-date follow-up text, staying motivated when you’re having no luck, showing interest while still taking it slow, and relaxing through the process of finding love.  Check out Adobe Express here #AdobeExpressAmbassadors #Ad Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy Thanksgiving! In this episode I answer listener questions about how to enjoy the holidays when you're single, how to get over a situationship when you're in the same friend group, what to do if the idea of going on a date causes so much anxiety, tips for bonding with your significant other's family, advice for believing your healthy relatioship is real, what to do when things ended but you see them every time you go to the gym, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Eli Rallo, writer, content creator, host of the podcast Miss Congeniality, and Author of “I Didn’t Know I Needed This” coming out next Fall, 2023. Eli and I discuss how to create your own rules that work for you in dating, what to do if you get ghosted, and combatting loneliness and seasonal depression. Eli shares how she manifested her boyfriend and teaches us a Manifestation 101 lesson. We answer listener questions about making new friends in a new city, moving in with your partner, accepting that you went off on someone and said things you regret, and more.  Check out Adobe Express here #AdobeExpressAmbassadors #Ad Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by my college professor, Keith Giglio, and his wife, Juliet Giglio, a husband-wife screenwriting duo who met cute in an elevator while attending NYU Grad Film school (and have produced films including A Cinderella Story, Return to Halloweentown, Disney’s Tarzan & more). We chat about their first novel and my personal favorite book ever, THE SUMMER OF CHRISTMAS, a holiday romcom that so many love stories can relate to. We hear about how they got married while still in school, how they supported each other in their careers, what led them to team up, and how they’ve navigated working together and raising a family all while maintaining a healthy and loving relationship. Keith and Juliet share their secret to staying together, early signs they’ve noticed that someone’s relationship won’t work out, what’s led to some of their friends getting divorced, and more. Grab a signed copy of THE SUMMER OF CHRISTMAS at P&T Knitwear in the Lower East Side or order one on Amazon! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by my friend Jake Tuff who opens up about a breakup that he just went through. We hear what he’s learned from going through it, what his breakup recovery looks like, and if he has any regrets about how everything went down. He talks about moving to a new place and starting over when you don’t know many people, learning his love language, and how he navigates his many female friendships when he’s in a relationship. Jake answers listener questions about what guys think of the phrase “If he wanted to, he would,” if guys are generally bad at texting, for sure signs that a guy is interested in you, if sleeping with a guy too early on makes them less interested in dating longterm, what it means if he’s suddenly avoiding your stories, and more.  Check out Adobe Express here #AdobeExpressAmbassadors #AD Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by a 29 year old woman who opens up about her eight year relationship that ultimately ended because of her partner’s addiction to alcohol. She shares how his struggle with alcohol use went unnoticed during college as heavy drinking is common in greek life culture, but how it became more noticible post-grad, once they lived together, and when covid hit. She shares how she tried to support him and encourage him to be sober, how his alcohol use impacted her, and what it finally took took for him to get sober. If you know someone struggling with addiction, you don’t have to go through this alone. Resources and community are available through Al-Anon.org.  Schedule a 1:1 with me at direct.me/ilanadunn Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Leslie Grant, host of Interstates and Heartbreak, to discuss taking breaks & staying in touch with exes. We chat about whether or not taking a break can work, what situations would allow for it to work, and when a break is just a precursor to a breakup. We discuss giving someone a second chance, criteria for being friends with an ex, whether or not you should text your ex on their birthday, and tips for dating in LA. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My childhood best friend Cristina joins me to answer listener-submitted questions about my past dating experiences. We cover all of my firsts, from my first crush to my first date to my first time being cheated on and everything in between. We discuss mistakes I made in the past, times I put boys before my friendships, how I handle rejection, ways I've grown in my dating life, whether or not I take my own advice, if there is a guy from my past she was rooting for, and so much more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Erica Shea, San Diego radio star on The Geena the Latina And Frankie V. Morning Show, and host of the podcast “Oversharing with Erica Shea.” Erica and I chat about dating while moving to a new city, meeting people IRL, and accepting the bare minimum. Erica tells us the crazy story of how she met her current partner (IRL!), why her mindset was different when she met him, and how they’ve made their long-distance relationship work. We discuss asking for your needs and whether or not there’s a difference between being exclusive and being in a relationship.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TW: Suicidal thoughts UNFILTERED: I’m joined by a man who opens up about the longterm relationship he was in where his partner knew she wanted a child and he knew that he did not. We hear how they tried to work through this, how difficult it was to try and change their mind for the other, and how it ultimately lead to them breaking up. He shares what factors went into his decision to get a vasectomy, how his childfree lifestyle has impacted his friendships, and what navigating the dating world is like when you don’t want children.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Mariann Yip, host of the podcast The City Confessions and Author of “UN-HINGED what I Learned from Saying It’s You, It’s Not Me in the NYC Dating Scene.” Mariann and I discuss how therapy helped us navigate our dating challenges, why we should stop asking our friends to show us photos of their date/crush, the importance of looking for a growth-oriented relationship, and how much we have changed throughout our twenties. Mariann shares how she learned to set boundaries when dating, what kinds of boundaries she set, and how her boundaries have helped her filter through potential partners.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

*This episode may be triggering to those with sensitivities around eating disorders. UNFILTERED; I’m joined by Jackie Shames, a woman who opens up about her long-term struggle with her body image and an eating disorder. We hear how her ED impacted her dating life and made her feel like she wouldn’t find love if she didn’t look a certain way. She shares how she’s worked through it, how therapy has helped her, and why she no longer feels like she needs to lose weight to be loved. We discuss whether or not you should date with an ED, if, when and how you should communicate about it to someone you’re dating, tips for feeling confident when going on dates, and much more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My best friend Sara Curwin and I sit down to answer your questions! We discuss what to do when he invites you to his party but his other hookup is there and they are flirting, how to handle bad manners on a first date, whether or not there's a difference between being exclusive and being in a relationship, how to have conversations about longterm plans with your significant other, age gaps, breaking the ice when you match with someone you kind of know, when to let go of someone who seemed promising but can't commit, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I’m joined by world-renowned author, counselor, lecturer, and philosopher Rabbi Manis Friedman to discuss why people get married, what makes a marriage last, what intimacy really means, and what it means to be a husband or a wife. He explains why we shouldn’t date if we have no intentions of getting married within the next five years and why we need to be selfish when we date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get ready for the most jaw dropping, hilarious, and heartwarming Unfiltered episode yet! This week’s guest shares three wild dating scenarios she found herself in. No spoilers here! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Hilary Weinstein, LCSW and Founder of HLW Therapy, a therapy practice that is currently accepting new clients. We discuss the importance of taking time to reflect on your dating experiences, the most common mistakes women are making in dating, getting back out there after going through a traumatic relationship experience, and how to have a “Who do I want to pick?” mindset instead of a “Pick me!” mindset. We answer listener questions about early signs a relationship won’t work, if relationships should be easy for a certain amount of time, and what to do when you feel demoralized about dating because of your past experiences. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by Stella Stephanopolous, host of the Everyday Endorphins podcast to discuss dating intentionally. We chat about focusing on how the person makes you feel, staying present on the date, why it doesn’t matter if someone has never been in a relationship before, how to stop comparing your timeline to those around you, forgiving yourself for not being where you want to be, how to end a bad date, and whether to reject someone at the end of the date or wait until the next day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Maya and Hunter, high school sweethearts turned married couple who are breaking the internet by breaking gender norms. We discuss how Hunter became a “Stay-At-Home Husband” and why their reversal of gender roles is so important for our society to see. Maya and Hunter share how they navigated their most transformative years as they grew and changed both individually and as a couple. We chat about what goes into a successful partnership, the realities of taking a break, how social media portrays unrealistic standards of relationships, and the magical moment that recently happened as they were celebrating their first wedding anniversary.  Follow Maya and Hunter on Instagram (@mayaandhunter) and TikTok (@maya.and.hunter)!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by a 23-year-old man who shares his dating experiences over the past year. He opens up about putting too much pressure on himself to make potential relationships work out, misreading signs because of how much he wanted the connection to be there, and how overanalyzing and obsessing over someone fuels our anxiety. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick, PhD, LPC to discuss how our upbringing impacts our relationships. Elizabeth teaches us all about relational programming, how the way we grew up impacts who we choose as a partner, how we can move past our traumas to end up in healthy relationships, reprograming negative core beliefs, learning to differentiate what feels like a threat vs. what actually is a threat, understanding your triggers and more. Overcome your dating anxiety just like I did by taking Mindset Wellness CBD's Happy gummy before a date and Calm gummy after! Grab yours today at mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 20% off and free shipping. Jackpocket is the app that let’s you play official state lottery games right on your phone. Go to jackpocket.com and use code PEOPLE at checkout for your first lottery ticket free. Must be 18 or older to play. Jackpocket is not affiliated with any State Lottery. If you or someone you know has a gambling problem and wants help, residents of NY call 1-877-8-HOPE-NY; residents of OR call 1-877-MYLIMIT; all others, call 1-800-GAMBLER. Please visit jackpocket.com/tos for full terms of service. Schedule a 1:1 with me at direct.me/ilanadunn Support the show by buying me a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/ilana.dunn Get 25% off all Liquid IV products at liquidiv.com with code seeingotherpeople. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m joined by writer, producer, actress & model, Emily Ruhl. We discuss sharing your fears and anxieties with the people you’re dating, learning from each heartbreak, loving and hating someone at the same time, and how the length of a relationship does not equal the emotional impact of the relationship. Emily shares her experience dating after addiction, being friends with multiple exes, and how she prioritizes maintaining her independence when in relationships. Check out Emily’s short film Blue Moon here or at publicschoolpictures.com. Get your FREE 1-year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D AND 5 FREE travel packs with your first purchase of Atheltic Green's AG1. All you have to do is visit https://www.athleticgreens.com/sop– I know you'll love it as much as I do! Overcome your dating anxiety just like I did by taking Mindset Wellness CBD's Happy gummy before a date and Calm gummy after! Grab yours today at mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 20% off and free shipping. Schedule a 1:1 with me at direct.me/ilanadunn Support the show by buying me a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/ilana.dunn Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm joined by a 23 year old woman in NYC who shares her experience dating within the Jewish community. We discuss being raised Jewish, deciding to pursue relationships with other Jews, and filtering within the community for what we're looking for. She shares date fails and hilarious dating stories, which apps worked and didn't work for her, why she opted to go on shorter first dates, and how she met her current partner.  Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gigi Robinson, Gen Z thought leader, chronic illness and mental health advocate, and the host of Spotify Greenroom's "Everything You Need Is Within" joins the show today. We discuss how social media makes us feel more single and isolated than we are, what it feels to not have gone on a date since 2019, dating during covid when you are immune compromised, how quarantine impacted friendships, navigating dating when you are chronically ill, and why you shouldn’t making snap judgments about potential dates based on their social media. Follow Gigi on TikTok and Instagram.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Caitlin Kelley, host of What The Fuck’s Up podcast, joins us for a deep dive into all things cheating. We analyze your responses to a series of cheating-focused IG story question boxes and polls, and discuss why people cheat, if they get caught if they come clean, the long term impacts of cheating and being cheated on, and how cheaters feel in the moment.  Caitlin shares her own story of being cheated on, why she initially chose to give him the benefit of the doubt, and what finally pushed her over the edge and caused her to end it for good. Finally, we debate the age old question, “Once a cheater, always a cheater?” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

UNFILTERED: In this episode, I sit down with a woman who shares a story about being diagnosed with vaginismus. Vaginismus is a condition in which the vaginal muscles contract involuntarily during any form of vaginal penetration. Depending on the woman, the effects of vaginismus can vary from mild discomfort to severe pain. She shares what it was like to receive her diagnosis and how it’s impacted her dating life and daily life ever since. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Artist and songwriter Gayle joins the show today to talk about what it’s like transforming her dating experiences into music and lyrics. We talk about the breakup that led to her new single "abcdefu," what it’s like putting her raw emotions out there for the world to hear, turning heartbreak into music, dating within the industry, writing revenge songs, the fear of never being good enough, and more. Check out the song "abcdefu" here and follow Gayle on Instagram. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TW: the following content may be sensitive for those who have experienced any form of sexual assault. On today’s episode, I’m joined by a woman who had a nonconsensual sexual experience when she was a college student. We hear about the events leading up to this, what actually happened in the moment, and how it’s impacted her longterm. We discuss guilt, trust, consent, communication, safe dating and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tinah (with an H) Ogalo, host of the In Your Twentys podcast, joins us today for a deep dive into the most controversial and shocking poll results from the @seeingotherpeople Instagram Story that you’ve all been voting on. Get ready to hear about politics, cheating, family involvement, social media stalking, commitment issues, exclusivity and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TW: the following content may be sensitive for those with an eating disorder. On today’s episode, we hear from a 25 year old male who has struggled with body image issues and an eating disorder. He shares what it’s been like to date and use dating apps when you aren’t comfortable in your own skin. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we’re joined by Dr. Abby Medcalf, psychologist, best-selling author of "Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won't Do a Thing Kindle" and host of the "Relationships Made Easy" podcast. We’re sitting down to discuss everything that you need to know about moving on, leaving the past in the past and not letting previous dating and relationship experiences impact present and future ones. Abby walks us through getting closure with yourself, learning how to live in the moment and not in the past, having high standards and low expectations, learning to trust yourself, setting boundaries, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s Unfiltered episode, Ilana sits down with Daniela, a 27 year old female living in Toronto, Canada. Daniela shares the story of the breakup she went through due to her partner's parents not supporting their relationship because of factors including her ethnicity, immigration status, age, career, and appearance. We discuss how this impacted her relationship, her self worth, and her values when it comes to dating and searching for a life partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

LDR (Long Distance Relationship) survivors Jamie and Max walk us through the highs and lows of the four-year long distance span of their relationship. We discuss their decision to pursue a long-distance relationship during college, how they involved each other in their lives from afar, what visiting each other was like, how important it was to trust one another and practice straightforward communication, the shift that occurred when Max graduated and was starting his career in NYC during Jamie’s senior year of college, what aspects of their LDR made their now in-person relationship stronger, how their LDR helped shape them into the independent and self-sufficient people that they are today, and more.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ilana sits down with a 28 heterosexual woman who currently lives in New York. She opens up about her first dating app experiences in 2019, which included somebody who ghosted her out of nowhere followed by a situation that had a tremendous negative impact on her mental and physical health. We discuss how she overcame these traumatizing experiences in order to get back out there and end up in a healthy relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Damona Hoffman is the Host of the podcast Dates & Mates, the official Dating Coach for OkCupid, a Love Expert on The Drew Barrymore Show, an Advice Columnist and more. Damona joins us to discuss the way dating has changed overtime, how we give dating apps too much power, why having a phone call before a date can be a game changer, what exclusivity really means and how to know if you’re exclusive with someone, and what happens if you actually express what you want.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ilana sits down with a 32-year-old who called off her marriage just two months before the wedding. We hear what led to this decision, how she went about ending the engagement, what she’s learned from this experience, and what advice she has for anyone who is going through something similar or questioning whether or not their relationship is built to last. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Serena Kerrigan, the Queen of Confidence and the creator of the show and card game Let’s F*cking Date and the new card game Let’s F*cking F*ck, joins us today to give us the scoop on how we can be more confident in our dating lives. We chat about how to portray yourself on dating apps, why texting isn’t real and you should get to the date before stalking and talking too much, whether or not they always come back, how it’s tough to see an ex move on, prioritizing work and relationships at the same time, getting back out there after heartbreak, and why you need to talk to yourself the way you would talk to your best friend.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A 27-year-old woman takes over the Unfiltered mic to share her experience exploring her sexuality and coming out as bisexual. She explains what led to this exploration, what her first dating experience with a woman was like, and how she came out to the people in her life. Anonymous opens up about the ups and downs of dating each gender, why dating apps don’t make bisexual dating easy, common misconceptions of bisexuality, and advice she has for anyone else who is considering exploring their sexuality.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Backed by popular demand, Ilana’s boyfriend Jake is joining the show for a tell-all about their relationship. Ilana and Jake open up about how everything unfolded, starting with their Hinge meet-cute where Ilana didn’t respond, and followed by a “just fine” first date where the sparks were MIA. They share how things progressed, why Ilana wasn’t anxious for the first time, and when and how they became official. We also hear their first fight go down as they debate some of these details.  Ilana and Jake answer listener questions about pre-date nerves, timing, communication, what it’s like dating a "dating expert," how long it took to feel comfortable with each other, what Jake likes and doesn’t like about Ilana and more. Jake closes out the episode by begging you to please support his girlfriend by following @seeingotherpeople on IG, signing up for the Patreon, leaving 5-star reviews, and sending the podcast to your friends.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of Unfiltered I sit down with Austin (30M) who lives in Australia. When Austin was 15, he met someone who he ended up dating and marrying when he was 21. By the time he was 25, they got divorced, leaving him to enter the dating world for the first time as a single divorcee. He shares why his childhood experiences made him value love and relationships, and how his journey to really finding his person has been very difficult. We discuss what it was like for him to tell people that he was divorced, and we hear about the similarities and differences between dating in the US and dating in Australia. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Love, Communication and Intimacy Coach Shaun Galanos aka @thelovedrive joins us on Seeing Other People to share his expertise on how to be a better communicator, and all things DTR (defining the relationship). We discuss how to practice vulnerability and learn how to openly communicate, why you should explore the edges of your comfort zone, what to disclose and what not to disclose prior to meeting someone, how to navigate you or your date having a fear of commitment, what to do when someone says they’re not looking for something serious, when and how to have the DTR convo, what to do if they’re not on the same page, and more. We close out the episode by answering listener questions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ilana’s older brother Andrew (31) is joining us on the podcast today to reassure us that once a fckboy, not always a fckboy. After years of immersing himself in a fuckboy bro-y culture (including being his fraternity’s social chair, promoting parties, and working for a nightlife startup), he turned a corner and began to learn that human connection and vulnerability was more valuable and fulfilling than partying and sex. Andrew walks us through what sparked his transformation, including taking a break from alcohol and dating while spending time in India, his move to the San Francisco Bay Area which allowed him to explore the spectrums of sex, gender, identity, etc., studying attachment styles, spirituality, and researching how childhood and ancestral trauma prevent us from showing up fully in life, and are often present major challenges in relationships of all types. Check out a piece by Andrew on his womanizing past: https://link.medium.com/65gcweVc2hb Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Unfiltered episode, we’re joined by a 26-year-old straight male in the New York City area to hear about his recent relationship that led him to experience anxiety the first time in his life. He shares what caused the anxiety – including the red flags that he ignored, what it felt like, and how he seeks out help by communicating to friends and family and starting therapy.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kim Murstein and Grandma Gail from the Excuse My Grandma podcast join the show this week to discuss the generational differences of what dating is like now vs when Grandma Gail was searching for love. We talk about how dating has changed over time, when and how “dating” began, social media’s role in dating, the ability to stalk a potential date or an ex, having too many options, the most surprising things about dating in the 50s and dating now, and more. Follow along at @excusemygrandma, @seeingotherpeople and @ilana.dunn. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ilana sits down with Julie and Danielle, the founders of Fourplay Social, a double dating app where friends team up and match with other pairs. We hear about why the duo decided to create a new dating app, the benefits of double dating are, how you can be a good wing-person for your single friends, and how to make dating fun when you feel burnt out. We also discuss why first dates shouldn’t be longer than an hour, how important the little things in dating are. Follow @fourplaysocial, visit Fourplay Social’s website at https://www.fourplaysocial.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Twenty-seven year old NYC resident, listener and friend Helena joins the Unfiltered family today to discuss the challenges of dating when you’ve never been in a relationship before. She opens up about the pressure she feels from her family, society, and herself to find love. Helena shares what she feels like she’s missing out on, how she discusses her “relationship history” with potential partners, and what her fears are for the future. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Smiley Poswolsky, author of Friendship in the Age of Loneliness, joins Ilana on Seeing Other People to discuss human connection in today’s society and culture. Smiley shares his research and knowledge on opening your world up to new people, digging deeper with the people that you know, using technology to foster more meaningful connections, and more. He gives advice on maintaining friendships when you or a friend gets into a new relationship, what to do when your friend’s new significant other is bringing them down, and how to be a good friend to someone going through heartbreak or a difficult time.  Follow Smiley @whatsupsmiley, visit Smiley’s website at https://smileyposwolsky.com/ and head to Amazon to buy the book!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of Unfiltered, I’m joined by a 24-year-old female who has been grappling with religious sexual shame while trying to date. From a young age, she was taught that dating and sexual experiences were for marriage only. She has spent years reflecting on her religious upbringing and is now committed to starting over and dictating her own values as she beings to explore how she feels about casual dating, relationships, and the entire world of modern dating.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ilana sits down with Matthew Wurnig, the creator and dater behind 50 Dates in 50 States. Matthew shares how he got the idea to do a date in every state during the pandemic, first virtually, and then IRL. We discuss what it’s like meeting and dating people from all different backgrounds, how the place you grow up can impact your dating life, and how dating culture differs from state to state. We also learn what Matthew has learned about himself and about human connection throughout his journey.  Check out Matthew’s journey on tiktok @50datesin50states and on IG @matthewwurnig. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Real people. Real stories. Real life. Anonymous listeners join the show to have vulnerable and open conversations about what they’ve struggled with in their dating lives, what they wish they knew when going through their experience, and how they came out stronger. Topics to expect include dating after experiencing loss, STIs, eating disorders, abortions, mental health, trauma and more. No matter what you’re going through, you’re not alone. This is Seeing Other People UNFILTERED. Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD. On the first episode of UNFILTERED, Ilana is joined by Anonymous who is currently struggling to get over her ex after a difficult breakup. We hear about the events that unfolded leading to the breakup, how she feels addicted to checking his social media, and why we often stay in unhealthy relationships even when we know we deserve more.  7:18 How Ilana and our Anonymous guest met 10:36 A letter from Anonymous to her ex 20:08 The relationship – what went down? 36:30 Walking away isn't easy  38:56 Ilana shares her breakup story 44:53 Feeling unworthy of the person you’re with 48:02 How Ilana and Anonymous have been working together 54:01 What you’re mourning with heartbreak 1:00:09 Regrets  1:06:38 Listener questions Have a story you want to share on UNFILTERED? Email us at seeingotherpeoplepodcast@gmail.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of Seeing Other people, Ilana is joined by Sarah Sasson, her best friend and the co-host of the It’s Fine, I’m Fine podcast. Ilana and Sarah discuss overcoming the loneliness that comes with singlehood, how to make the most of being the only single one in the friend group, and why the more you know yourself the harder (but more rewarding) dating can be.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this special episode of Seeing Other People, we’re parting ways with one of our beloved hosts. We’re bad at goodbyes, but we did our best. Plus, it’s not goodbye, it’s see you later (worldwide…on a big screen…or a small screen…lots of screens…ok just listen). Tune in to hear the breaking news. Follow along and keep in touch www.instagram.com/jonahfeingold and make sure to check out Jonah’s new film Dating and New York! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re diving into the ins and outs of being vulnerable in your dating life. When do you start opening up and being vulnerable? How can you be vulnerable without putting yourself at risk of oversharing? If someone’s not opening up to you, how can you encourage them to? What do you do if you feel closed off and afraid to be vulnerable after a heartbreak? Later in the episode, we practice vulnerability by playing the We’re Not Really Strangers card game and learn more about each other and ourselves in the process.   Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD. Father’s Day is coming up on June 20th! Head to www.mindsetwellnesscbd.com to grab the perfect Father’s Day gift! Use code “SeeingOtherPeople” at checkout for 10% off and free shipping. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re back with another full Q&A episode! How can you close the door on someone once and for all? How many dates in should you delete your dating apps? How do you tell your ex you want to give it another chance? How should you handle a crush on a coworker? What if you don't feel physically attracted to someone? All of this and more. DM us your questions @seeingotherpeople on IG or email us seeingotherpeoplepodcast@gmail.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jeremy Jacobowitz aka Brunch Boys chats with Jonah and Ilana about all things going out on dates. Who should pay? Should it be drinks or dinner? What food is okay to order on a first date? How to maintain the same drinking speed as your partner - and more in this hilarious episode that pokes fun and brings awareness to the nuances of modern dating. The episode wraps with some listener questions p.s. Jonah apologizes that his mic was turned off and his sound is a bit reverb-y.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jenna Langbaum, author of “Me in Search of You,” joins us on this episode of Seeing Other People. Jenna’s writing beautifully dissects the nuances of modern dating, ghosting, and dating apps and helps to remind us that we’re not alone in what we’re facing, as we’re all connected by shared dating struggles. We discuss how the concept of ghosting is actually insane and how painful and confusing getting ghosted can really be. We explore how dating apps have led us to consider potential partners based on their basic credentials. We debate if dating is really just a numbers game. Finally, Jenna helps us answer listener questions about whether or not to text a guy after meeting at a party and spending the night, what to do when your friend’s SO is toxic, and how to navigate simply not liking your friend’s partner.   “Me in Search of You” is available everywhere books are sold. Follow Jenna @jennalangbaum for more!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Situationships? More like situationshits. We’re diving into the ins and outs of situationships with Ali and Roark of Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast. What exactly is a situationship and how do you know if you’re in one? Can you turn a situationship into a relationship? How do you know when it’s time to leave? We’re discussing all of this, answering listener questions, and so much more.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We go on a date with Alexis Wolfe AKA @nycdatenite to talk all about post-pandemic dating. From getting back out there and going on that first in-person date in over a year, to determining what the best and worst types of places to go on a first date are, we’re covering all of the bases for you to shoot your shot at love (after getting that #vax shot). -How to choose a first date spot -What not to talk about on your date -Why you shouldn’t have a regular “first date spot” -What to do if you’re not yet comfortable with indoor dining -How to tell someone you don’t want to go to the place they suggested -What to do if you think you’re getting ghosted -Bachelor & Bachelorette of the week Follow Alexis at @nycdatenite and check out her website www.nycdatenite.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We chat with Sandro D’Abruzzo, author of “So You Think You Can Date?” We hear what led Sandro to write about how to find success in dating and his experiences dating around the world. We discuss the importance of being yourself from the start in any dating situation, and get into the nitty gritty of how to actually practice being yourself. Sandro shares what the process of writing his book was like, and we dive into topics like spontaneity, self perception, and whether or not guys are complicated or overly simple. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We love when you ask us questions, so we're taking up a whole episode to answer as many of them as we can! We're answering questions including:   Do people deserve second chances? How soon is too soon to have sex? If we didn't kiss on the first date, is it doomed? How do I ask someone to put effort into planning dates?  Why do people lose interest? Do guys still ask to be official? Plus long distance, pandemicships, DTR, and more!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest is Noa Porten who hosts the Spooning with Spoonies podcast where she chats about dating and relationships with experts, singles, and couples from the chronic illness community. We learn how chronic illness can impact someone’s dating life and daily life, and how tools like setting boundaries and practicing open communication are crucial in the search for a lasting romantic partnership. For those who are chronically ill, Noa shares advice on how and when to comfortably communicate information about your chronic illness to someone you’re seeing. For listeners who do not have a chronic illness, we learn more about what it means to have chronic illness and how we can best support someone if and when they inform us of theirs.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The episode you probably knew you needed is finally here. Are your texting habits holding you back from finding what you’re looking for? Are they not into you if they don’t text you back right away? Can it work if you’re a “bad” texter? Are you rightfully stressing over your crush’s response time or are you expecting too much? Does lack of texting mean the relationship is doomed before it even started? We’re breaking down everything about texting when it comes to dating so you can have the tools to text for success. Towards the end of the episode, we shift gears and answer your questions about paying for dating apps, when is the right time to make things official, and how to ask friends and family to set you up with people without coming off as desperate.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nicole Pellegrino, cohost of the Betches Brides podcast joins us to prep you all for this year’s wedding season. Nicole spills the secrets to what has kept her eight-year relationship going strong, how we can work towards keeping that relationship (once we all find it). She shares the importance of enjoying your independence when you’re single and carrying that independence with you into a relationship. Nicole gives us the scoop on what brides and grooms are doing to help their single friends out at weddings, and we discuss how we can all turn weddings into opportunities to spark your own love story by putting yourself out there to meet someone new at a wedding. Finally, we debate how soon is too soon to start planning your wedding. Hear more from Nicole on @betchesbrides and @nicolepellegrin0!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Not having the best luck meeting people on dating apps? This episode is all about other ways you can put yourself out there and find love. Whether it be the comment section of a post on any platform, through TikTok (Jonah’s favorite dating app), sliding into the DMs, or finding love on Club Penguin (Ilana’s pick), it’s not all about dating apps. Our listeners chime in to tell us about their experiences meeting people via email, Instagram DM, and from a TikTok video. We discuss the right ways to approach people on all different platforms so you can set yourself up for success. Later, we change gears to meeting someone IRL– in an elevator to be specific, as we sit down with Ilana’s good friend and former FWB, Alex. Ilana and Alex share their story of their transition from friends, to friends with benefits, to a situationship that took them on a European "honeymoon," all the way to a potential relationship, and finally to a friendship-ruining spiral. We dive into the nuances of friends with benefits, whether or not it’s possible to go from FWB to a relationship, and if you can be FWB without ruining the friendship.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re kicking off our Thursday episode series by catching up with Bachelor Nation’s Ed Weisbrot. We hear about Ed’s dating life since his time on Clare/Tayshia’s season and he shares how being on the show reinforced the importance of authenticity, vulnerability and communication. Ed talks about why he has chosen to stay off of dating apps, how he’s been meeting people IRL, and why Whole Foods is the best spot to find your soulmate. We discuss whether or not all dates should end with a rose ceremony, what the audience saw vs. what really went down throughout, and what really happened on that infamous night when he knocked on Chris Harrison's door. Finally, Ilana shoots her shot with Ed.  Pesented by Mindset Wellness CBD. Use code "SeeingOtherPeople" to get 10% off and free shipping at www.mindsetwellnesscbd.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're joined by comedian Rishi Mather who kicks off the episode by sharing how he’s been navigating his parents’ disapproval of his engagement. We discuss how some couples stay together even while being unhappy because of what society would think of them if they split up, especially in Indian culture. Rishi tells us how he met his now fiancé on Tinder (we love a dating app success story!) and spent four days building up the courage to send that opening message. What started out as a booty call ended up slowly developing into a long-term situation ship, and after months of unpacking each other’s pasts and learning everything about each other, they finally made things official. We close the episode out with a few rounds of ‘Save The Date’ to determine how you can bounce back from date-ruining scenarios including screenshotting their text and accidentally sending it back to them, unexpectedly blurting out “I love you,” and the unfortunate but classic stomach-issues-at-their-place debacle.  Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD. Use code "SeeingOtherPeople" to get 10% off and free shipping at www.mindsetwellnesscbd.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

New Yorker and friend of the show, Derek Lindsey, joins us today to share his experience coming out in his late twenties. Derek opens up about his fears about coming out and shares what finally pushed him to do so. We dive into the differences between straight and gay dating on dating apps as well as specific nuances of gay vs straight relationships. Derek gives his advice for anyone who might be struggling with their sexuality or debating whether or not to come out. Later, we discuss how Derek’s family and friends reacted to the news, and Derek provides his insight on what he wishes people knew about how to navigate that conversation with a friend or loved one who is coming out. Finally, we answer listener questions about the spark disappearing, how long you should wait for someone to be ready to date after getting out of a relationship, and how to choose between wanting something fun and wanting something longterm. Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD. Use code "SeeingOtherPeople" to get 10% off and free shipping at www.mindsetwellnesscbd.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re hanging (socially distanced…of course) with Jared Freid on this episode of Seeing Other People! We kick things off with a friendly reminder that social media relationships aren’t what they seem. We chat about how communication is easier said than done, because we all have different definitions of what each step of the modern dating process means to us. Jared shares what he would do to fix modern dating if he was cupid. Later, we play a game of “Save The Date” where we dissect potential date fail scenarios and come up with game plans to help you save the date in the moment if this ever happens to you. Jared helps us answer listener questions including: what to do if you don’t like your friend’s girlfriend, why guys bring up future plans while on the first date, and how to slide into the DMs.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re sitting down (virtually) with Jon and Rene Shapiro, husband and wife and founders Mixology and Mindset Wellness CBD. The Shapiros open up about the highs and lows of building a life, a family and a business together. They share how Rene supported Jon through his battle with anxiety and depression, how they struggled to separate not bringing work home with them, and why they decided to leave the fashion industry behind to build a CBD company together. Finally, we answer listener questions about what to do if you know someone might be cheating, how to navigate being stuck in the penpal zone, and whether or not you should let your new significant other know which friend(s) you have history with.  Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD. Use code "SeeingOtherPeople" to get 10% off and free shipping at www.mindsetwellnesscbd.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're traveling back in time with Francesca Beauman, writer, historian, and the world’s leading expert in Personal Ads, to learn about how people “dated” throughout history. We discuss how we got to where we are in dating culture, and how society transitioned from arranged marriages and courting to the casual hookup culture of today’s modern dating world. We learn how advancements like transportation and technology impacted the way people date, and finally we chat about what dating might look like 100 years from now (and what people then think of how we dated in 2021.)  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Get an abortion" was not on her college bucket list. She never thought she would have to call her parents and say, "I'm pregnant." Our guest opens up about her experience getting an abortion her senior year of college. She shares everything from moment she found out, to the aftermath and trauma she's dealt with as a result. We learn how her friends and family helped her get through it, and we hear about what was going through her mind as she made important decisions including not telling the guy she had been sleeping with that she was pregnant. Whether or not this has or will happen to you or someone you know, we encourage you to listen and learn with an open mind and an open heart.  For more information about pregnancy, birth control, women's health, and more, please visit www.plannedparenthood.com.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re joined by Amy Chan, Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp and author of Breakup Bootcamp -The Science of Rewiring Your Heart. In this episode, we learn how to navigate what happens in your brain and your body when you go through a breakup. We discuss what steps you should take if you’re struggling to get over someone, how to identify when you’re ready to get back out there, and why you shouldn’t spend your time in bed with chocolate, ice cream, wine and rom-coms. Finally, we chat about the importance of friendship in getting over someone and how you can support a friend who is going through a breakup.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy almost February 14th! AKA, the day that comes after February 13th and before February 15th. If this day makes you anxious, nervous, or sad, have no fear. We are here to walk you through being single AND happy on V****tine's Day. We chat about our past Feb 14th experiences, what to do and what not to do on the day, and we treat you to some hilarious listener-submitted date fails. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re going head to head with Lindsey Metselaar, host of We Met at Acme, to debate some of the most common "rules" of dating, including girls shouldn't text first and whether or not you should send a "thank you" text after a date. We discuss what went down when we first met and went on a date back in 2019, and Lindsey gives us the low down on whether or not we're are astrologically compatible. Finally, Lindsey spills the tea on the time she crafted all of her friend's texts to a guy...for three months... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Repeat after us: being thirty and single is OKAY. We're joined by Zahra Sahebzada who is here to discuss her experiences dating in New York City as an Afghan Muslim. Zahra breaks down what it's like to be the first in her family to not have an arranged marriage, how to not feel like there's something wrong with you if you haven't found your person by the age you hoped to, how stalking someone on social media before you get the chance to know them IRL can be misguiding, and more. We close out the episode by answering listener-submitted questions about intentions, communication, and at what point to give up hope on a conversation progressing. Follow @zahrasahebzada and @seeingotherpeople for more!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why am I not getting any matches? Why are my conversations not turning into dates? What is the deal with all of the fish photos? If you've ever asked yourself any of these questions, we promise you're not alone. This episode is the ultimate guide to setting yourself up for success on dating apps starting with choosing the right photos and prompt answers, to having productive conversations, and getting out on dates.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week's episode, we're sharing our listener's responses to what they wish the people they were dating knew. It's the tell-all that you didn't know you desperately needed to hear.  Ladies, buckle up and get ready to find out what the guys out there are begging you to realize. Gentleman, tune in to hear what the ladies are really thinking and what "it's fine" actually means!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're breaking down what it really means to be a f**kperson with the help of @dfarella, everyone’s favorite internet boyfriend. What are a f******y's true intentions? What do you do if you start sending f******y behavior from someone you're interested in? Are f******y misunderstood? Is there a little f******y in all of us? We answer all of these questions, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

New year, new podcast! Hey guys, it’s Ilana and Jonah and we are back and better than ever! Today is Dating Sunday, the busiest online dating day of the year, and the perfect day to kick off Episode 1 of our brand new podcast, Seeing Other People. We’re catching up the status of our relationship, the current state of dating, what it’s been like to be single during quarantine, and SO MUCH MORE. Episodes will come out weekly on Tuesdays. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices