When your parents divorce, you almost always lose one or both parents physically or emotionally. But as our guest today says, we’re not meant to go through life without the mentorship of a father and a mother. In this episode, Nicole Rodriguez shares the immense healing she’s experienced through parents who were not her own. We also discuss:How her parents’ divorce started with infidelity and led her to feeling abandoned and lonelyThe emotional numbness and skepticism toward emotion that she experiencedHow she felt doomed to repeat the cycle of dysfunction and divorce, but thankfully overcame thatBuy the Book: Undone: Freeing Your Feminine Heart from the Knots of Fear and ShameAttend the Undone Women’s ConferenceShare Your StoryShownotes

Trauma, such as your parents’ divorce or extreme family dysfunction, doesn’t only affect your emotions. It affects your body too. It quite literally has physical effects. In this episode, Dr. Christopher Genn, a physical therapist and expert in applied kinesiology, explains how our bodies respond to trauma and how we can heal. Plus, we discuss:A new therapy to treat pain, trauma, and even rewire bad habitsThe story of a girl enduring her parents’ divorce who became physically debilitated How we often lie to ourselves about our families, parents, and past - and why that’s a barrier to healingSchedule a Consult with Dr. GennGet the Course: Broken to WholeVisit Dr. Genn’s WebsiteShownotes

In this episode, you'll hear highlight clips from the podcast in 2023. This episode, and the entire podcast, will help you heal from the trauma of your parents’ divorce, separation, or broken marriage, so you can break the cycle. If you’re new to the podcast, this is the perfect way to sample our content and learn how it will help you. If you’re a longtime listener, this is the perfect episode to share with someone you know who needs to hear it.Restored’s WebsiteShownotes

There’s an extremely popular lie about how divorce affects the children. In this episode, we discuss that lie with my guest who is an only child from a divorced family, plus:The loneliness, addiction, and social problems that stemmed from his family’s breakdownThe anger and even hatred he felt toward his parents and how he feels nowA unique thing he and his wife did before they were married to strengthen their relationshipGet the Book or First Chapters: It’s Not Your FaultGet the FREE Guide: 5 Tips to Navigate the Holidays in a Broken FamilyShownotes

If there were 10 things you can do to make therapy succeed (or fail), would you want to know them? I know I would. In this episode, a therapist joins us to share those tips, plus: The goal of therapy and the temptation to idealize healingA tool for dealing with troubling thoughtsThe struggle to put words to your own emotions and experiences of brokennessIf you’ve ever been to therapy and it hasn’t gone well or you’re considering therapy but you’re unsure how to make it successful, this episode is for you.Schedule a Free Consult at St. Raphael CounselingFind a Restored CoachHow Restored Has Helped You?Shownotes

If you’re from a broken family, the holidays often bring more stress and challenges than joy. After my parents separated, I faced these challenges:A sad, pit-in-the-stomach reminder of my parents’ split and my family’s brokennessPressure to choose between parents and balance time amid many eventsA misled desire to make everyone happy, especially my parents, often at my expenseMy emotions or other people being in control instead of meFeeling alone and uncertain of how to deal with it allIf that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. In it, you’ll get 5 tips to navigate the challenges and hopefully, even begin enjoying the holidays again. Using them won’t make your holidays look like a Hallmark movie, but they will improve the experience by putting you in the driver’s seat.Get the FREE Guide: 5 Tips to Navigate the Holidays in a Broken FamilyShownotes

If you’re from a broken family and you’ve struggled with OCD, relationships, overthinking, and filling a parent role for your siblings or parents, this episode is for you.In it, Ashton shares how her parents’ divorce has affected her and her relationships. She also talks about what’s helped her heal and even offers some advice for you. Take the podcast surveyShownotes

When trauma occurs, it causes you to ask big questions. That’s where my guest found himself after being brutally attacked, almost to the point of death, by people he was trying to help. In this episode, you’ll hear the story of the attack, plus he answers:Has forgiveness been difficult for you?Why forgive? What are the benefits? What happens if we don’t forgive?How do you forgive someone who has hurt you?Take the podcast surveyShownotes

When you’re struggling with unwanted sexual behavior, asking for help is terrifying. The struggle feels so shameful and admitting your weakness feels humiliating. As a result, most men stay stuck for years and years. Thankfully, there’s a way out. Asking for help from the right people is the key to overcoming shame, humiliation, and unwanted behavior. Today, a coach specializing in helping men break free from unwanted sexual behavior joins the show to discuss: Is freedom even possible? Why do men deserve that freedom?A valuable for you or men you know strugglingStories of transformation in the lives of the men he’s coachedAdvice and encouragement for any man struggling right nowApply for Freedom CoachingGet FREE Mini-Course: Why You Feel BrokenShownotes

If you’re a woman that struggles with unwanted sexual behavior, you are not alone. The myth of porn, or even lust, being a male problem is just that - a myth. More importantly, healing and freedom are within reach for you. In this episode, brave author and speaker Rachael Killackey shares her struggles with unwanted sexual behavior and a valuable resource for women struggling, plus:The emotions that sexual struggles brought into her lifeHow she found freedom and helps other women now, tooHow you should respond if you have a relapseBuy Rachael’s Book: Love in Recovery: One Woman's Story of Breaking Free from Shame and Healing from Pornography AddictionJoin a Magdala groupListen to the Magdala PodcastGet FREE Mini-Course: Why You Feel BrokenShownotes

Our world is very sexually broken. The examples are endless: Pornography use, sexual compulsions, addictions, hookup culture, paying for sex, infidelity, sex trafficking, and much more.But how did our world become so sexually broken? That’s the topic we tackle today with famous author and speaker Christopher West. If you’ve wrestled with sexual brokenness or noticed an ache inside that you that nothing seems to fill, this episode is for you.Image 1: Three ChoicesImage 2: Wall Unity CrucifixBuy Christopher West’s BooksListen to the Ask Christopher West podcastGet FREE Mini-Course: Why You Feel BrokenShownotes

What happens inside your brain and your body when you endure trauma?Surprisingly, there’s actually a predictable way that your body and mind responds to trauma. In this episode, we break down each response with a trauma therapist. We also discuss:How her parents’ divorce impacted herIs healing trauma even possible? If so, what does it take to heal?How to apologize the right wayShare your storyFind a therapistShownotes

What if I told you that your sexual struggles could be predicted by your untreated trauma?Today, we’re joined by author Jay Stringer who studied ~4,000 men and women who struggle with sexual compulsion or addiction, such porn, masturbation, affairs, buying sex, and much more. In this episode, we breakdown his NEW study and more:How the sexual fantasies and porn searches of the study participants could be predicted by their untreated traumaWhy we often repeat behavior that harmed us, such as sexual abuse or affairs, and how to avoid thatHow anger actually drives unwanted sexual behaviorWhy people from rigid or disengaged families are much more likely to struggle with sexual compulsion or addictionHow in order to break free, you have to listen to your lust and understand why you struggle in the particular ways that you doWhy typical lust management strategies like accountability software are not enoughWhether you struggle with sexual brokenness or know someone who does, this episode will help anyone find healing and lasting freedom from sexual brokenness.Buy Jay’s Book: Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to HealingGet FREE Unwanted ChaptersGet FREE Mini-Course: Why You Feel BrokenShownotes

When it comes to pornography, there are basically two types of people:Those who believe that porn is wrong and harmful. And those who do not.But beyond the arguments, millions of people struggle with a pornography compulsion or addiction. They want to break free, but they feel stuck and hopeless. No matter what they try, it doesn’t work.In this episode, popular speakers and authors Matt Fradd and Jason Evert join me to answer these tough questions: Is porn harmful and wrong? If so, why? What does it do your brain and your relationships?How do you actually break free from porn?What resources are out there to help you or someone you care about?Buy the Book: Forged: 33 Days Toward Freedom by Jason Evert and Matt FraddBuy the Book: The Porn Myth: Exposing the Reality Behind the Fantasy of Pornography by Matt FraddGet the FREE Mini-Course: Why You Feel BrokenShownotes

What’s brought the most pain and problems into your life? If your answer (or a top answer) is your parents’ divorce or the breakdown of your family, this podcast is for you.In this episode, we talk about the specific pain and problems your parents’ divorce or family breakdown bring into your life. We also highlight resources to help you heal and build virtue, so you can feel whole again and break the cycle of dysfunction and divorce in your own life.Take podcast survey (5-10 min)View Restored resources via shownotesSchedule donor pitch with Joey

Millions of people right now are struggling with sexual compulsion and addiction. It’s a massive problem that doesn’t get the attention or resources it deserves.Thankfully, in this episode, psychologist Dr. Bob Schuchts offers steps and a resource to heal your sexual brokenness. We also discuss:A story of profound healing and transformationDr. Bob’s own past struggles in this areaHow sexual brokenness is often passed down in families through generationsBuy Dr. Bob’s Book: Be RestoredGet the FREE Mini-Course: Why You Feel BrokenShownotes

If you’re a woman that struggles with unwanted sexual behavior, have you felt like you’re the only female that struggles? If so, that’s an absolute lie. In fact, one study found that ~75% of women 18-30 reported viewing porn at least once a month. With more and more women struggling with porn and masturbation, speaker and author Kelsey Skoch joins the show to share steps you can take as a woman to find freedom. We also discuss:Kelsey’s past struggles, what helped her find freedom, and what her life is like nowHow unhealed trauma can contribute to unwanted sexual behavior, including the trauma of your parents’ divorce or broken familyHow some people claim these behaviors are good for women, but Kelsey shares how she’s only seen it damage womenBuy Kelsey’s book, Uncompromising Purity (Buy on Amazon)Take the My Broken Family AssessmentShownotes

Are you worried about someone you love or lead from a divorced or broken family? Do you want to help them, but feel unequipped and somewhat helpless?In this episode, you’ll learn 3 tips to help them and a NEW resource on how to help someone from a divorced or broken family, so you can do and say the right things, avoid the wrong ones, and offer real help. Get Real Help courseShownotes

If you come from a broken family, did your parents’ divorce or family dysfunction bring emotional problems, bad habits, and relationship struggles into your life? As a result, do you feel unsure how to heal and afraid that you’ll repeat the cycle?In this episode, we unveil a NEW and FREE resource to help you heal from the trauma of your parents’ divorce or broken family, so you can break the cycle and build a better life. In doing so, we discuss:What is trauma and how does it affect you?Why is your parents’ divorce or family dysfunction the most impactful type of trauma?How do you heal from it?Get Broken to Whole CourseShownotes

You feel broken. You want to heal. But you’re unwilling to ask for help.If that describes you, your ability to heal will be stifled. Nobody ever healed their broken leg without the help, knowledge, or experience of others. Healing only happens with the love and help of other people. In this episode, we discuss that and more as my guest shares :How it took 20 years for her to pursue counseling, but how she found healing thereWhy is it so difficult to talk about our parents’ divorce or broken family and what can we do about that?Why taking risks feels extra scary for people like us and what to do if you feel that fearBuy Tanya’s Book, Come Home LaughingJoin the Course WaitlistTake the My Broken Family AssessmentShownotes

How have you dealt with the trauma of your parents’ divorce or broken family? After enduring her parents’ divorce, her mom’s alcoholism, her dad’s absence, and her stepmom’s abuse, today’s guest tried to outrun her trauma through busyness, accomplishments, and perfectionism. Before long, she went from repressing her emotions and saying “I’m fine” to “I need help.” That began her healing, which we discuss, plus:How she doubted her ability to be a good wife and motherHow she grew up faster than her peers from intact families, making it difficult to relate to themWhen are anxiety or depression drugs necessary and when are they used inappropriately?Join the Course WaitlistTake the My Broken Family AssessmentShare Your StoryShownotes

Two things we’ve learned about divorce from scientific studies and stories of people like us:Almost always, divorce is traumatic and damaging for the childrenThe effects are typically serious and long lastingIn this episode, you’ll hear a radio interview I did that elaborates on each point:How divorce is traumatic for the childrenThe specific pain and problems it brings into our livesA resource that you can use to navigate through the pain and problems and even find healingGet Free Chapters or Buy: It’s Not Your FaultJoin the Courses WaitlistShownotes

Is divorce good or bad for children? There’s tons of confusion around that question. In this episode, speaker and author Katy Faust offers answers with clarity and tons of research. She also touches on:How does divorce affect the children?Is divorce really worse than the death of a parent? What do children need that marriage provides?How do you navigate speaking about your parents in a respectful yet honest way?What’s your advice to parents considering divorce?Buy Katy’s book: Them Before Us: Why We Need a Global Children's Rights MovementTake the assessmentShownotes 

Feeling hopeless, our guest prayed for her husband to die. Earlier in their marriage, she cheated on him. Thankfully, they turned things around and they now have a beautiful marriage. In this episode, Dr. Christine Bacon vulnerably shares about her affair but especially about the restoration of her marriage. She even shares the formula she’s discovered for a happy marriage. She also offers advice and answers questions, such as:Why do people have affairs?Should parents tell their kids about the infidelity? What can a young person do to heal from their parent’s unfaithfulness?Buy Dr. Bacon’s book, Super Couples: A Formula for Extreme Happiness in MarriageTake the assessmentShownotes

How is your parents’ divorce or your broken family affecting you today? If your answer is “I don’t really know” or you don’t understand the depth of it, you’re not alone. That’s actually very common. But in the words of one therapist, “When it comes to experiencing healing, naming how you’ve been harmed is about 70% of the battle.”In this episode, we unveil a new tool that will help you name and diagnose your brokenness, so you can heal it and build the life and relationships you desire. Take the assessmentShownotes

According to research, people like us from divorced or broken families are typically less physically healthy. If that describes you, or you simply want to become healthier, this episode will help. Fitness and nutrition coach Dakota Lane shares how the abuse and dysfunction in his family impacted his relationships and how he’s found healing. He also offers advice on how to become fit and healthy by answering questions such as:How much water should you drink every day?How much should you sleep?Is exercise or nutrition more important?If you have very little time to work out, what can you do? How do you stay motivated and disciplined?Hire Dakota or view his servicesFind a coach, counselor, or spiritual directorShownotes

When William was in high school, his home was riddled with emotional pain and conflict. Eventually, his parents got divorced. That led to struggles in his relationships, especially with handling conflict and breaking up prematurely because he didn’t want to get hurt. But the pain didn’t end there. After suffering from neglect and severe bullying, William was involved in a horrible accident that left him severely injured. In this episode, he shares what happened and how his pain now has purpose. He offers advice to anyone suffering too.Visit William’s website or YouTube channelShownotes

If there was a technique used by Special Operators (Navy SEALs, Rangers, Special Forces, etc), firefighters, paramedics, and high performing athletes to stay calm during stressful situations, think clearly, make the right decisions, and avoid overwhelm, would you want to know it? That’s what you’re going to learn in this episode from a firefighter and paramedic.Find a counselor, coach, or spiritual directorShownotes

In this episode, you'll hear six short highlight clips from the podcast in 2022. This episode, and the podcast as a whole, will help you heal and grow from the trauma of your parents’ divorce, separation, or broken marriage, so you can feel whole again and break the cycle of dysfunction and divorce in your own life. If you’re new to the podcast, this is the perfect way to sample our content and learn how it will help you. If you’re a longtime listener, this is the perfect episode to share with someone you know who needs to hear it.Thanks for listening! We do it for you.Restored’s WebsiteShownotes

If you’re a woman with divorced or separated parents, have you struggled a lot in your relationships? If you’re married, has marriage felt extra difficult for you? If so, you’re not alone. That’s actually common as our guest today shares.In this episode, we discuss the struggles that daughters of divorce face in marriage that daughters of intact families typically never have to deal with and more: How you’re not doomed to repeat your parents’ mistakes Stories of marriages in crisis that turned things aroundTips for women from broken families on building a good and beautiful marriageAdvice for any parents in really difficult marriagesWomen Made New, a new book on healing for women that features a chapter on marriage for daughters of divorce Buy Women Made NewGet Free Chapters or Buy It’s Not Your FaultGet the Free Guide: 7 Tips to Build a Thriving & Divorce-Proof MarriageShownotes

Have you rejected God? Do you really struggle in your relationship with him? If you’re from a broken family and that’s true, you’re not strange. In fact, it’s really common.Why? From a young age, our parents represent God to us. If their example wasn’t good, it leaves us with a distorted image of God. As a result, we reject him or struggle extra in our relationship with him. We discuss that and more:How Sr. Miriam began drinking at age 12 and became an alcoholic as a D1 athlete3 common barriers that prevent you from healingTough questions like, “Why would God allow our families to fall apart?” and “Why doesn’t God make his love more obvious?”Buy Sr. Miriam’s Book: Behold: A Guided Advent Journal for Prayer and MeditationBuy Joey’s Book: It’s Not Your Fault: A Practical Guide to Navigating the Pain and Problems from Your Parents’ DivorceShownotes

If you’re from a broken family, you don’t need anyone to tell you how stressful, depressing, or just plain difficult the holidays can be. If you can relate, this episode is for you.In it, we offer:3 steps to plan the holidays, so you can reduce the drama and actually enjoy themAdvice from a former trauma therapist on how to deal with your difficult emotions this time of the year, so they don’t control you and you don’t act out in unhealthy waysResources to help you cope, heal, and grow from the trauma of your broken familyApply for coaching with Margaret Join Restored’s communityShownotes10 QuestionsWhen will you spend time with each parent, if possible?Who can you ask to be your swim buddy?What three things should you do to take care of yourself?What healthy distractions can you use in intense situations?What predictable circumstances will come up and what can you say or do in them?What expectations and boundaries need to be set?If you can’t be with your family, what can you do to experience some sort of community instead of your family? When and how will you communicate the plan?What can you say to lead with your intention?What’s your plan to respond if mom or dad gets upset?

Imagine you have all the success, pleasure, money, and excitement you could want. But instead of being happy, you feel unhappy and empty. What would you do?That was the story of our guest today. The wounds from his broken family were at the core of his need to live a life of extreme pleasure, excitement, and ultimately, unhappiness. But that all began to change when the 2016 US presidential election caused him to question everything. In time, he went from partying with billionaire Silicon Valley entrepreneurs to living a very different life.In this episode, you’ll hear his story and also:How he didn’t even recognize that he was trying to fill an endless holeHow the lack of an example in how to form healthy relationships inhibited is ability to do so and caused a lot of turmoil in his relationshipsHow transforming himself led him to his beautiful soon-to-be bride and authentic happinessGet the free chapters or buy the book: It’s Not Your Fault: A Practical Guide to Navigating the Pain and Problems from Your Parents’ DivorceShownotes

If you’re from a broken family, you’ve likely dealt with a lot of fear. For so many of us, that holds us back in life and relationships. At the core of that fear is usually the fact that we don’t feel safe. In this episode, a psychologist joins us to discuss why so many people struggle to feel safe and how that affects their life and relationships. We also touch on:What exactly is healing? Dr. Showalter explains 3 aspects of healing.Is healing actually possible, or are we doomed to merely manage symptoms? What to do if you feel afraid or embarrassed about seeing a therapistA healing tool called the Safe and Sound ProtocolSign up for Therapy or the Safe and Sound Protocol with Dr. ShowalterShare How Restored Has Helped YouShownotes

For so many of us, our parents’ divorce causes us to question everything — especially if it came out of the blue. We ask ourselves: What won’t fall apart? We may even go through life feeling like there’s a disaster around every corner and as a result, so often we play it safe in life. We discuss that and more in this episode as my guest shares:How she blamed herself for the breakdown of her parents’ marriageHow nobody was there for herHow she struggled with low self-esteem, self-harm, and acting out sexuallyHow she never had children because she feared she couldn’t be a good momShare your storyShownotes

Art is healing. If you’re not an artistic person, that might seem odd. But it’s true. In this episode, we discuss why and how art can be healing and more:What type of art has been healing for our guestsHow art can help people from broken familiesA piece of religious art specifically for Catholic/Christian adult children of divorceDr. Daniel: Buy the artwork or sign up for the retreatMike: View his artworkShownotes

If you’re ashamed of your past because of mistakes or abuse, it’s natural to feel stuck. But you don’t have to stay stuck. Healing and freedom are possible for you.Author and speaker Crystalina Evert vulnerably shares how her broken family and sexual abuse caused her to cope with drugs, drinking, and sleeping around. We also discuss:Tactics that have helped her healA new book to help any woman, especially women who have suffered abuseAdvice and encouragement to women who’ve suffered abus e or feel brokenBuy Crystalina’s Book or Get First Chapter FreeGet a CoachShownotes

A myth about children of divorce is that the impact of our parents’ divorce is temporary. That’s simply not true, which research proves. Sadly, the effects last long after the divorce itself. Our guest today shares how his parents divorce has impacted him, even 20 years later in his own marriage. We discuss:How he felt lost when it came to dating and relationships, how breakups felt like a repeat of his parents’ divorce, and how he irrationally fears that his spouse is going to leave one dayWhat it’s like to go through a divorce in a Mexican familyWhat to do when you’re unsure how to articulate a feeling or experience you’ve endured, especially related to your broken familyA story on having a difficult conversation with his mom, which offers good lessons for having a difficult conversation with your parentsGet the Book or Free Chapters: It’s Not Your FaultMeet with Joey for the Investor’s PitchShownotes

Marriage isn’t easy. There are good times and challenging times. According to research, people like us from broken families typically struggle more in relationships and marriage. As a result, we’re more likely to need help.In this episode, a couple that offers marriage coaching offers advice and shares the one thing missing most in marriages today. We also discuss:The most common struggles faced by the couples they coachCommunication tips to help your relationship survive and thriveTactics for handling conflict well Advice to couples in crisis, even on the brink of divorceA resource to help your marriage or another marriage that’s strugglingGet the Free Guide: 7 Tips to Build a Thriving and Divorce-Proof MarriageShownotes

In this episode, we answer questions from listeners like you. Each question reveals a real life challenge faced by someone from a broken family. We offer answers and practical guidance.The questions include:How do you deal with your parents divorce when it isn’t a clearly justifiable split?As divorced parents, how do we make up for all the mistakes we’ve made and help our kids heal?How do I openly talk about my parents divorce without hurting them in the way I view it?How do I build a better relationship with my dad when he isn’t emotionally there and has never talked to me about my parents separating/divorcing?How do I deal with my anger toward my parents?Get your question answered on the podcastShownotes

Often, people from broken families become very attuned to the needs of others, especially our parents and siblings. We become skilled at being what people want us to be. In the end, we often lose ourselves and our ability to articulate what we need and want.In this episode, we discuss that problem as well as:How normal was strange and strange was normal for our guest growing upWhy he became motivated to break the generational cycle of divorce in his familyHow he felt like burden in his relationships, which made him feel the need to earn love and constantly prevent it from ending any momentShare your storyShownotes

Whether you’re single, dating, or engaged, your wedding day will be a beautiful experience. However, planning it is very consuming. As a result, it’s easy to prepare more for the wedding day than for a lifetime of marriage. Marriage preparation is meant to refocus you and prepare you not only for your wedding day, but for your marriage. In this episode, we discuss marriage prep and:The main cause of dysfunction and divorce, according to my guestsWhat can be done to better help people from broken families to build great marriagesA sneaky thing that can sabotage anyone’s marriageAn assessment to help you understand the reality of your relationship heading toward marriageAdvice and encouragement for leaders of marriage prepIf you hope to be married one day or you lead marriage prep, this episode is for you. Get the Marriage Guide and TalkShownotes

If you or someone you know has struggled with an eating disorder, you know how painful that experience can be. It’s often an overlooked struggle that really deserves more attention and resources. But thankfully, some resources do exist to heal an eating disorder. Today, a psychologist who specializes in treating eating disorders joins us. We discuss:The types, symptoms, and root causes of eating disordersSurprising statistics on the prevalence of eating disorders and how they can be lethalHow genetics play a role in developing an eating disorder and why you can’t simply think your way out of itWhat a healthy relationship with food looks likeResources and advice you can use today to begin overcoming this struggleIf you struggle with an eating disorder or know someone who does, don’t miss this episode.Buy Dr. Julia’s BooksFind a counselorShownotes

Growing up too fast is a common experience for children of divorce. You’re often called upon to take on responsibilities that should never be yours. As a result, you may become a serious, mature person — even if you’re still a kid.That’s what happened to our guest today, which he explains in this episode. In addition, we discuss:A surprising thing that helped him heal and begin to break the cycle of dysfunction and divorce in his own lifeHow his parents are also children of divorce, which naturally played a role in how they repeat that cycle in their own marriageWhat marriage is meant to be and why a false idea of freedom greatly hinders your ability to build lasting love

After his parents’ divorced, Joey feared repeating the same mistakes in his own marriage. He wanted to know, “How do I not repeat my parents’ mistakes?” He wanted authentic love but had no idea how to build it. It set him on a quest for answers and a roadmap for love. In this episode, you’ll hear a talk which offers a roadmap based on research, time tested couples, and the wisdom of Christianity. You’ll also learn:4 signs that your relationship or marriage is headed off a cliff, according to researchersThe biggest area of conflict in marriage and what to do about itPractical tips to make conflict healthyThe one thing that makes conflict less scary and more manageableA resource for handling conflict betterIf you want a build a healthy relationship and great marriage, this episode is for you.Listen to the whole talk: 7 Tips to Build a Thriving & Divorce-Proof MarriageShownotes

After his parents’ divorced, Joey feared repeating the same mistakes in his own marriage. He wanted to know, “How do I not repeat my parents’ mistakes?” He wanted authentic love but had no idea how to build it. It set him on a quest for answers and a roadmap for love. In this episode, you’ll hear a talk that offers a roadmap for love based on research, time-tested couples, and the wisdom of Christianity. You’ll also learn:An ingredient that research shows is essential to build a healthy relationship and great marriageAnswers to the questions:Can love actually last?When feelings fade in your relationship, does that mean the end is near?Is love worth the risk and possible hurt?A challenge to build love that lastsIf you want a build a healthy relationship and great marriage, this episode is for you.Listen to the whole talk: 7 Tips to Build a Thriving & Divorce-Proof MarriageShownotes

If you’re from a broken family, did your parents’ separation or divorce drag out for years? That was the story of our guest today. In this episode, you’ll hear what happened in his family and how it affected him. We also discuss:How he learned from an early age that his needs weren’t going to be met, so he had to figure out things for himselfHow our parents seem to have grown during the separation and divorce, but as their kids, we can’t help but ask the question: Why couldn’t you grow together?An underrated healing tactic that will help you heal, grow, set better boundaries, have healthier relationships, and feel at peaceAn important skill you have to learn if you want to heal, grow, and feel whole againBuy Joey’s book: It’s Not Your Fault: A Practical Guide to Navigating the Pain & Problems from Your Parents’ Divorce (affiliate link)Share your storyShownotes

If you’re from a broken family, becoming independent and breaking the cycle can be extremely attractive. It certainly was for my guests, a married couple where both spouses from a broken family.They share what happened in their families, how it’s affected them, their marriage, and even their kids. We also discuss:Why one of their mentors encouraged them to begin counseling as a dating coupleThe questions their kids have about their divorced grandparentsHow our parents often compete for our loyaltyWhy beating a victim mentality is so freeingOne thing that helped them deal with the dysfunction in their familiesIf you come from a broken family and you’re headed toward marriage, this episode is for you.Tell us how Restored has helped youShownotes

When you’re 7 years old and your parents divorce out of the blue, it causes confusion and lots of questions. Unfortunately, the struggles for my guest didn’t stop there. In this episode, we discuss:How her parents divorce has impacted her, even years laterWhat to do when your divorced parents become ill and near the end of their lives, especially if you have a tense relationship with themAn organization that exists to help families in crisisGet help from the St. Raymond Nonnatus FoundationBuy Joey’s book: It’s Not Your Fault: A Practical Guide to Navigating the Pain & Problems from Your Parents’ Divorce (affiliate link)Shownotes

If you’re from a broken family, you’ve likely experienced extra barriers in your relationship with God. In fact, you might not even believe in God because of what happened in your family. Wherever you’re at, we’re glad you’re here.In this episode, you’ll hear how spiritual direction is a tool you can use to overcome those barriers, heal from the trauma you’ve endured, and become spiritually strong. We also discuss:Feeling guilty for wanting your parents to get divorcedSpecific challenges when relating to God, such as rejecting God as a way to protect yourself and the question “God, is this how you really treat people who love you?Temptation to suicidePersonal fears, such as “Am I going to be like my abusive dad? Will my marriage end up like my parents’ marriage?How deepening your relationship with God helps you heal and feel whole againIf you’ve struggled in your relationship with God and felt far from him, this conversation is for you. Join the coaching waitlist for a counselor or spiritual directorCheck out Franciscan University’s School of Spiritual DirectionShownotes

One night, Maggie’s mother left her family without any explanation. Naturally, Maggie felt extremely abandoned. Following that night and her parents’ divorce, she hated her mom. All the pain led her to cope by using drugs, drinking, and sex.Thankfully, her story transformed. In this episode, you’ll hear:How all that trauma led her to attempt killing herselfHow she opened up to her mom and dad about the way their broken marriage and divorce affected herWhy she feared marriage, but after overcoming that fear, she now has a beautiful marriage and four awesome kidsBook a Restored speaking engagementBuy Blessed Is She’s beautiful productsShare your storyShownotes

When your parents’ marriage and family break apart, it’s traumatic for you as their son or daughter. That trauma is not only painful, but also has devastating effects on you that last for a long time. As a result, you need to heal. But how? Our guest today, a trauma therapist, shares the antidote or opposite of trauma. We discuss:The 4 principles you need to live out to prevent and heal from traumaOne thing you can today, right away, to heal and growWhy feeling worthless is a major problem that you need to address in order to feel whole againIf you want peace, freedom, and great relationships, this episode is for you. Buy Margaret’s book: FEARLESS: Abundant Life through Infinite Love (affiliate link)Buy Joey’s book: It’s Not Your Fault: A Practical Guide to Navigating the Pain & Problems from Your Parents’ Divorce (affiliate link)Shownotes

In this episode, you'll hear 7 short clips from the podcast in 2021. This episode, and the podcast as a whole, will help you heal and grow from the trauma of your parents’ divorce, separation, or broken marriage, so you can feel whole again and thrive. If you’re new to the podcast, this is the perfect way to sample our content and learn how it will help you. If you’re a veteran listener, this is the perfect episode to share with someone you know who needs to hear it.Thanks for listening! We do it for you.Book a Restored talkShownotes

When Alexandra was in 7th grade, her parents divorced. Almost immediately, she went to counseling, which led her to believe that the effects of her parents’ divorce were in her past. She thought she was healed.But in college, poor decisions and failed relationships showed her that perhaps it wasn’t resolved like she thought. She woke up on her birthday feeling sad and stuck, asking the question: Am I going to be in this same spot for the rest of my life? In this episode, she shares the rest of her story and more:How working on herself has now led her to a really beautiful, healthy relationshipHow a memento from her past made her realize how much her parents’ divorce was still affecting herThe answer to “Do you hate your parents?”Book a Restored talkShownotes

Since she was 2 or 3, Sydney’s parents have been divorced. It’s all she’s ever known. As a result, she spent most of her childhood living out of a suitcase between Mom and Dad’s house.While Sydney has navigated her parents’ divorce fairly well, there have certainly been challenges. In this interview, we discuss those challenges and more:How Sydney has kept a good relationship with her parents and stepparentsAs someone from an intact home, her husband Dan talks about how the divorce has affected her and their relationshipReal and raw talk about love and marriage, especially feeling at times like it is “too hard”Email Joey@RestoredMinistry.com to schedule a meetingDonate to Restored | Your special gift is doubled and your monthly gift is tripled during Dec 2021Shownotes

Are you from a broken family? If so, you know how challenging the holidays can be. Not only is it difficult to balance time between mom and dad, but we also have to deal with any family drama. Instead of enjoying the holidays, many of us just can’t wait till they’re over.But there is good news: it doesn’t always have to be that way. In this episode, you’ll hear 9 tactics that you can use to navigate the holidays and hopefully, enjoy them again. It won’t make them perfect, but it will make them better.Buy Joey’s book: It’s Not Your Fault: A Practical Guide to Navigating the Pain & Problems from Your Parents’ Divorce (affiliate link)

Forgiving someone that wounded you is difficult. Not only is forgiveness difficult, it is often over simplified and misunderstood. That’s why we interviewed an expert on forgiveness, who happens to be a child of divorce. In this practical episode, we address:What exactly is forgiveness?How to forgive through the four stages of forgivenessWhy forgiveness is good for you and unforgiveness is bad for youHow does compensation or reparation factor into forgiveness?Practical advice to forgive someone who feels impossible to forgiveBuy Fr. John’s books: Adore: A Guided Advent Journal for Prayer and Meditation | Lift Up Your Heart: A 10-Day Personal Retreat with St. Francis de SalesBuy Joey’s book: It’s Not Your Fault: A Practical Guide to Navigating the Pain & Problems from Your Parents’ Divorce (affiliate link)Shownotes

Alcoholism is a major cause of dysfunction in so many families. That was certainly true for our guest’s family. In this episode, she shares how alcoholism played a pivotal role in the breakdown of her parents’ marriage and family. We also discuss:Why she kept a packed bag that was always ready to go under her bed at collegeWhat she’d say to her parents if they were listening to this episodeHow she truly desires a good relationship with her parents, especially her estranged fatherShare Your StoryBuy Joey’s book: It’s Not Your Fault: A Practical Guide to Navigating the Pain & Problems from Your Parents’ Divorce (affiliate link)Shownotes

Dr. Andrew Swafford came from a dysfunctional family, even though his parents never got divorced. As a result, he questioned: “Can I be a good husband and father? Or am I destined to repeat the cycle of dysfunction?”Thankfully, he overcame those doubts and built a beautiful marriage and family. In this conversation, he shares what helped him to do just that. Plus, we discuss:What is virtue and how do you build it?A three part framework to know if you’ve acquired a virtueThe ultimate measure of a virtuous personWhy virtue offers you happiness and freedomPractical tips you can use today to build virtueBuy Dr. Swafford’s book: Spiritual Survival in the Modern World: Insights from C. S. Lewis's Screwtape LettersBuy Joey’s book: It’s Not Your Fault: A Practical Guide to Navigating the Pain & Problems from Your Parents’ Divorce (affiliate link)Shownotes

If your family is broken, you’ve probably felt like our guest today who badly wanted her family to be normal. It’s such a natural desire which goes painfully unsatisfied. In this raw episode, we discuss:How an affair broke her family apart and how that’s impacted herHow we often use excessive drinking to cope with our pain and what to do insteadWhen moving away from your family could be the right thing for a timeBuy Joey’s book: It’s Not Your Fault: A Practical Guide to Navigating the Pain & Problems from Your Parents’ Divorce (affiliate link)Share Your StoryJoin Restored’s CommunityShownotes

If you spoke to your friends the way you spoke to yourself, would those relationships become abusive? The words you tell yourself are often filled with lies, but you might not even realize it.But those lies become your identity, which then dictates the quality and happiness of your life. Thankfully, our guest today can help you beat the lies and discover your real identity. In this episode, we discuss:Why it is so important to uncover the lies you believe about yourselfHow it’s simple yet difficult to replace those lies with the truthTwo tactics and resources you can use today to change the way you talk to yourself and renew your identityBuy Chris’s book: I AM: Rewrite Your Name—Reroute Your LifeBuy Joey’s book: It’s Not Your Fault: A Practical Guide to Navigating the Pain & Problems from Your Parents’ DivorceShownotesThe links above are Amazon affiliate links. Restored receives a commission for each purchase at no extra cost to you.

Many young people from broken families struggle to discern their relationships and calling in life because they feel so anxious and uncertain. The trauma of their broken family and the effects that stem from it often interfere with their ability to discern properly. In this episode, we dive into that and more:Why a lack of peace isn’t an automatic indicator that a relationship or vocation isn’t meant to beHow to discern if you feel anxious and uncertainHow our desire for 100% certainty prevents us from living the life we were meant to live.Plus, we offer a sneak preview of our brand new book, It’s Not Your Fault. Get the FREE chapters from our new book, It’s Not Your Fault.Shownotes

A popular question we receive from young people from broken families is “How do I help my parents and navigate my relationship with them?” In this episode, we offer advice and answer that question. We discuss:What to do when your parents try to enlist you in their war against each otherHow to respond if your parents are asking you to make or heavily influence big decisions for themWhy you shouldn’t have to pretend everything is okay when Mom or Dad start dating someone elsePlus, we offer a sneak preview of our brand new book, It’s Not Your Fault. Get the FREE chapters from our new book, It’s Not Your Fault.Shownotes

Music has always been a tool to cope with the pain and problems from my parents’ divorce. Two artists whose music helped me a lot are Jenny and Tyler, a married musical duo. Their music and marriage have especially convinced me that love can last. In this episode, they share:Lessons they’ve learned after years in marriage that would’ve been helpful to know before they got married. Encouragement to anyone from a broken home who’s afraid of love and marriage. Advice to anyone who’s afraid of taking risks - as artists, they know a thing or two about taking risksListen to Jenny & TylerShownotes

For 40 years, Holli searched for help to heal from the trauma of her parents’ divorce, including 30 years of counseling. But nothing worked. She had all but lost hope when she found Restored. She claims this podcast has been more healing than 30 years of counseling.Having struggled with depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts, she also shared how Restored has “literally saved my life.” If you’ve wondered how Restored can help you or someone you love or lead, this episode is for you. In it, we discuss:How her parents’ divorce came out of the blue, which research suggests may be most damagingHow her dad’s quick remarriage hurt her as much or almost more than the divorce itselfThe sense of loss she felt when she stopped seeing her siblings due to the divorcePlus, two huge announcements at the start of the show!Let us know how Restored has helped you here.Shownotes

What would you do if you were 12 years old and you accidentally found out that your mom is cheating on your dad? That’s the exact situation that today’s guest faced as a little girl.We discuss how she felt that her mom not only cheated on her dad, but on her and her siblings too. Plus, we get into:The ways in which her mom’s infidelity wounded herHow that wound was reopened when two boyfriends cheated on her in high school and collegeThe connection between her parents’ divorce and her desire for control in life and relationshipsHow on the external, everyone thought she was fine since she excelled in sports and school, but she was really hurting insideOne very common factor at the root of so many divorces and affairsShare your storyShownotes

As a boy, Bart Schuchts thought his family was normal. But in reality, it was very broken. When he was five years old, his dad left after cheating on his mom. He remembers his mom crying herself to sleep at night. Seeing the devastation his dad left, he swore to never be like him. But in college, his worst fear came true. Sleeping around and using women, he realized: “I am just like my father.” Thankfully, his story didn’t end there. In this episode, he shares:How he overcame his anger, lust, depression, despair, and self-hateThe hurt he felt from opening up to the wrong people about his strugglesHow he learned to have compassion for his father and even forgive himJoin Restored’s communityShownotes

When your parents’ marriage breaks apart, it feels like an earthquake. The most basic foundation, your family, is shaken and shattered. It’s disorienting. It’s traumatic. As a result, we tend to go through life doubting anything can last. But thankfully, we’re not doomed to skepticism our entire lives. We can heal and feel whole again, like our guest Sandy. In this episode, she shares:How she beat chronic depressionHow her choice to forgive her parents led to feeling free instead of stuckThe sexual mistakes she made and the healing she’s foundShare your storyShownotes

What did you learn about parenting from your parents that you want to repeat with your kids? What do you not want to repeat?The answers to those questions are extremely valuable in helping you become the best parent you can be. But sadly, most of us don’t dig deep enough. Today, we do by talking about:Our experiences as new parents with babies who haven’t been born yetOur fears about becoming parentsAnswer: Do we feel more confident about marriage or parenting?6 things kids need from their parents and how to fill those needsReflect on lessons learned from our parents, good and bad, and how we want to parentHas Restored helped you? Let us know how.Shownotes

It’s no secret that we’re facing a huge crisis of fatherlessness. So many fathers have physically or emotionally abandoned their children, largely because nobody ever showed them how to be a great dad. This problem is at the root of so many issues in our world. So, what’s the solution?In this episode, Justin Batt from Daddy Saturday offers advice and encouragement to current or future dads on how to raise good kids who become great adults. We discuss:How do we fix the fatherlessness crisis?Practical advice on how to become a great dad from a father who’s spent 14,000 hours and 500 intentional Saturdays with his kidsEncouragement for any men out there who feel like they don’t have what it takes to be a great father, especially because you didn’t receive it from your dad growing upBuy the Book: Daddy SaturdayAsk Joey

For most people, becoming a parent is beautiful but also scary and intimidating. But that is especially true for people from broken families. Often, we didn’t see a great example of parenthood, so we feel lost and unsure how to do it ourselves.In this episode, we talk parenting with Mike and Alicia Hernon, the parents of 10 kids and leaders of a ministry for parents called The Messy Family Project. We discuss:How his parents’ divorce affected Mike as a husband and fatherFears he had about becoming a father, how he overcame them, and how you can tooShould you put your marriage first or your children first and why is that important?Lots of practical parenting tips, especially for new parentsEncouragement if you feel like you don’t have what it takes to be a good parent because you never experienced it in your family Listen to The Messy Family PodcastShownotes

If you’re from a broken family, you likely struggle extra in your relationship with God. There are so many barriers people like us have to overcome. One barrier is feeling abandoned by God.In this episode, a Catholic priest who is a child of divorce joins us to discuss:How to overcome common barriers people like us face in our spiritual livesWhat to do if you feel abandoned by GodHow father and mother wounds impact our relationship with GodWhat to do if you feel far from God and want nothing to do with himFind a spiritual directorShownotes

As people from broken homes, we fear repeating the dysfunction we experienced in our families. But sometimes, we end up going down that path. Our guest today dealt with that in a very real way. Years after her parents divorced, she found herself in the exact place she never wanted to be: Going through her own divorce, feeling so broken and empty. But thankfully, her story and her marriage’s story doesn’t end there. In this episode, you’ll hear how her marriage was rescued and more:What was happening in her head and heart as her marriage fell apartHow she wrestled with depression, suicidal thoughts, and a bad relationship with her fatherHow she felt like she was inadequate and didn’t deserve loveShare your storyShownotes

Statistically, children of divorce are less likely to attend college. Further, they’re less likely to receive financial support from their parents for college. To pay for college, most young people apply for government aid by filling out the FAFSA. But if your parents are separated, divorced, or remarried, the process can seem confusing. Today, we speak with two experts to offer guidance on:How to answer certain FAFSA questions depending on your parents’ marriageMyths to watch out for Practical tips that are difficult to find on GoogleA video and infographic that’ll make the process simple for youWatch FAFSA videoView infographicBuy the Book: Degree Free Degree [affiliate link]Shownotes

You want to go to counseling, but a massive barrier stands in the way: The price. Therapy is not cheap. So, how are you going to pay for it? We tackle that question and more in this episode:9 practical tips on how to pay for counselingHow much does counseling actually cost?The info and next steps you need to pay for counseling, so you can heal and feel whole againFind a counselorShownotes

As a psychologist, author, and speaker, Dr. Bob Schuchts has dedicated his life to helping people heal their brokenness. In this episode, he offers his expertise on healing, but he doesn’t stop there. He also shares how his parents’ broken marriage deeply affected him. It took years, but he did find healing - for himself and even his family. We delve into that and more:The anatomy of a woundHow the healing process works1 tip you can do today to healRegister: Dr. Bob’s Healing RetreatBuy the Book: Be Healed [affiliate link]

When our families break apart, most of us feel homeless. We lose our sense of safety and belonging. As a result, we go through life looking for the family we never had. In this episode, Malcolm touches on those points while sharing his story. We also discuss:His struggles in his relationship with his parentsHow he’s healed his relationship with his dadThe undeniable truth that hurt people hurt peopleWhat he did to cope with the pain and problems in his life in unhealthy waysShare your storyShownotes

What is trauma? How does it affect a person? Today, licensed trauma therapist Margaret Vasquez answers those questions and more:Why your parents' divorce, separation, or broken marriage can be so traumaticThe antidote to trauma, which will surprise youHow trauma therapy works, why it is so effective, and the incredible result she's seenBuy the book: More Than Words: The Freedom to Thrive after Trauma [affiliate link]Shownotes 

Most people from broken homes struggle with boundaries. Usually, we were never taught how to set and enforce proper boundaries within our families. We’ve seen this again and again. Why is that damaging? Because you can’t have healthy relationships without proper boundaries. Period.In this episode, we cover:What are boundaries?The four types of boundary problemsSix of the ten laws of boundariesBuy the Book: Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life [affiliate link]Shownotes

Emily knew her parents might divorce, but nothing could’ve prepared her for it. It made her feel alone. It made her feel like nobody understood. Feeling insecure, she sought security by trying to control things, especially her relationships.In this episode, Emily shares her story and more:How she kicked healing down the road since she knew it would be painfulThe #1 thing that has helped her heal her broken idea of love and marriageHow to handle anger toward your parents in a healthy way while honoring themJoin Restored's CommunityShare Your StoryShownotes

We know. “Best” and “2020” don’t belong in the same sentence… what a year. To celebrate the good, here are 10 of the best highlights from the Restored Podcast in 2020.Donate to Restored: https://restoredministry.com/donateShownotes | RestoredMinistry.com/34

Is divorce damaging for the children? There’s a lot of misinformation around that question. In this episode, we dispel the myths by breaking down a study. That study summarizes the results of 67 studies about children of divorce. Don’t worry, we make it simple. By listening, you’ll hear:The insane number of children of divorce in the world (hint: It is mindblowing)Statistics and talking points to use in conversations about divorceUnderstand the negative effects that most children of divorce sufferDonate to RestoredShownotes: RestoredMinistry.com/33

The holidays are especially challenging for anyone with separated or divorced parents. So many of us dread this time of the year. We often feel alone and uncertain of how to deal with it all.To offer practical guidance, some of our audience submitted voice memos to answer this question: What’s one tip you’d give to teens or young adults from divorced or separated families on navigating the holidays?This episode contains that advice. By listening and implementing the tips, our hope is that you’ll reduce the drama and enjoy the holidays again.Join Restored’s online communityGo hereFill out the formWe’ll add you to the groupShownotes: RestoredMinistry.com/32

Seeing her parents divorce, Carlie wrestled with this question: If it didn’t work out for my parents, how can I make someone stay with me? That led her to crave the approval of others and became whoever she needed to be to make them stay. But deep down, she desired more. She wanted to belong in an authentic way.By listening, you’ll hear:How Carlie fills that desire for belongingHow children of divorce typically ignore their own needsWhat happened when Carlie hit rock bottom in college - and how she’s so thankful she didAdvice to any woman in an unhealthy relationshipShownotes: RestoredMinistry.com/31

How do you heal a broken marriage? We tackle that topic with two experts, Greg and Julie Alexander.They’ve helped over 5,000 seriously struggling couples in the past 20 years. Their success rate? 98%. By listening, you’ll hear:How Greg & Julie healed their marriage after both cheated on each otherWhat they offer struggling couplesSpecific advice, such as: What’s the first step to rescue a broken marriage? How can a couple heal from infidelity? What should you say to help a friend who is struggling in their marriage?Buy the book: Marriage 911: How God Saved Our Marriage (and Can Save Yours, Too!) [affiliate link]Shownotes: RestoredMinistry.com/30

Struggling spouses often feel like they have two options: Stay married and be miserable or get divorced and be happy. Thankfully, there’s a third option: Healing your marriage. Leila Miller shares stories of hope from her new book, “Impossible” Marriages Redeemed: They Didn’t End the Story in the Middle. It features 50 stories of broken marriages that have been healed and more.By listening, here’s what you’ll walk away with:Common things that breakdown a marriage and common things that heal a marriageWhat to do with suffering in your marriageExtreme cases where separation may be necessaryWhat’s at stake in a culture where divorce becomes rampantResources and practical advice to heal a broken marriage for struggling spouses or anyone who loves or leads themAsk Joey: Get your question answered on the Restored Podcast!Buy the book: "Impossible" Marriages Redeemed: They Didn't End the Story in the Middle [affiliate link]Shownotes: RestoredMinistry.com/29

If you want to build a great marriage, follow the advice of couples who’ve done it. Learn from them. Like last episode, that's exactly what we do in this episode with the most beautiful married couple Joey knows, Joe and Maria Keller. They offer a roadmap for marriage and hope for those of us from broken families who often feel lost in building love that lasts. By listening, you’ll also hear:What destroys a marriage and how to avoid those thingsHabits and advice on money, faith, and communicationHow Joe and Maria handled the pain of losing a childWatch the video of Baby James Keller's storyLife-Giving Wounds virtual retreat: Sign up by Oct 6!Shownotes: RestoredMinistry.com/28

If you want to build a great marriage, follow the advice of couples who’ve done it. Spend time with them and learn from their example and wisdom.That's exactly what we do in this episode with the most beautiful married couple Joey knows, Joe and Maria Keller. They offer a roadmap and inspiration for those of us from broken families who often feel lost in building love that lasts:How to handle personality differences and conflictThe #1 thing you can do for your kids and friends as a married coupleThe most important ingredients to build a great marriageFREE: Sign up for the Restore Culture Virtual Workshops [affiliate link].Shownotes: RestoredMinistry.com/27

One day, Sarah got really discouraged and frustrated. Why? Because of people saying bad things about their spouses and bashing marriage itself. So she wrote her thoughts and feelings on a Facebook post. She was surprised even 20 people shared it. But before she knew it, it went viral. In no time, it had over 40,000 shares. She was blown away. Soon, the post reached over 80,000 shares, more than 30,000 likes, and over 7,000 comments. Obviously, it struck a chord. In this episode, you’ll hear Sarah and Joey discuss the viral post, why there’s so much negativity around marriage, and what we can do instead - despite the overwhelming popularity of divorce. Sarah also responds to those of us who say, “with so many marriages ending in divorce, it simply isn’t worth the effort.Shownotes: RestoredMinistry.com/26

It’s easy to feel discouraged or lost in searching for love. Perhaps you’ve even given up on love altogether, thinking it’s not possible for you. If that’s you - or you just want to know how to build real love and avoid divorce - listen to this episode.Here’s what you’ll get:Practical advice on finding and building authentic love - whether you’re single, dating, engaged or marriedThe two ways that men and women are attracted to each other and where each can leadSigns to watch out for to know if your love is authentic or a counterfeitThe answer to the question “What role do emotions play in love, especially in choosing a spouse?”One of the most important ingredients to build authentic love in marriageBuy the book: Men, Women, and the Mystery of Love [affiliate link]Shownotes: RestoredMinistry.com/25

If you come from a broken home, planning a wedding and getting married throws some unique challenges at you. Joey shares what he and his wife, Brigid, wish someone told them about engagement, the wedding, and the first year of marriage. By listening, you’ll hear this and more:Challenges you’ll face planning your wedding if you’re from a broken family or you’re marrying someone who is - and how to deal with themWedding day anxiety and what to do about itThings to keep in mind about your parents for your wedding dayHow to handle disappointments, frustrations, and conflict in your first year of marriageOne of the major pitfalls most newlyweds fall intoShownotes | RestoredMinistry.com/24

Getting engaged and married is exciting! But it can also be overwhelming, especially if you come from a broken home. Joey and his wife, Brigid, share their story and what they wish someone told them about engagement, the wedding, and the first year of marriage. By listening, you’ll hear this and more:Brigid talks about dating and marrying someone from a broken home - plus advice for people like herHow to keep building your friendship in a romantic relationshipA tactic to avoid allowing the wedding to dominant your relationshipHow to handle money - one of the top reasons for divorceCommon money traps couples fall intoShownotes | RestoredMinistry.com/23

If you could go back in time and have a conversation with the younger version of you, what would you say? So often, those of us from broken homes are never asked how we feel about it all. Nobody asks how it has affected us. Never having a chance to speak, we bottle it up inside.In this episode, you’ll learn a powerful yet simple exercise that’ll give you the chance to speak to the little version of yourself. If you give it a shot:It may bring up a lot of raw emotionsIt’ll bring healing and reliefIt may even open parts of your heart that you’ve closed for yearsBest of all, it’s simple and doesn’t take long at allShownotes | RestoredMinistry.com/22

Most couples experience love fading at some point, usually after the wedding. They long for love that lasts, but they doubt it is possible. And even if it were, they don't know how to build it.The 5 Love Languages are a simple and effective tool for building real love. They're so simple, they're often overlooked. In this episode, you'll hear how the 5 Love Languages help you:Make your significant other feel lovedBuild deeper intimacyCreate a more satisfying relationshipStart using the 5 Love Languages todayBuy the book: The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts [affiliate link]Take 5 Love Languages quiz (Free!)Shownotes | RestoredMinistry.com/21

Navigating the single years can be challenging and lonely. In this episode, we hit on some of the unique struggles we face during a season of singleness. Our guest, Sarah Swafford, offers advice on dealing with those struggles and preparing for the love we all long for.By listening, you'll walk away with:How to deal with the loneliness of singleness How to overcome the fear and shame of not being chosenWe even go beyond singleness into identity, self-worth, and the reality of marriageHow Sarah’s husband didn’t let his broken home dictate his futureAnswer questions from Restored’s communityBuy Sarah's book here: Emotional VirtueShownotes | RestoredMinistry.com/20

Ladies, if you've ever felt discouraged and alone in your search for love, this episode is for you. Jason Evert offers advice from the book he and his wife wrote titled How to Find Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul. By listening, you'll get:The type of guys to avoidHow the "Love Test" helps you figure out if a man really loves youOne thing you can do to reduce the chance of divorce in your own marriageHow to break up with a guy, even if you're afraidEncouragement if you've made mistakes and how to heal from themBuy here: How to Find Your Soulmate Without Losing Your SoulmateShownotes | RestoredMinistry.com/19

Men are rarely given advice on how to pursue a woman. In fact, they're usually just told what not to do. In this episode, author and speaker Jason Evert gives practical advice based on his new book The Dating Blueprint: Answers from 1,000 women about how they want to be pursuedThe #1 vice women want men to overcome before dating themHow to break up with a womanHow to know if "she's the one"How to guard your love and make it strongBuy The Dating Blueprint: What She Wants You to Know About Dating But Will Never Tell You- Buy on Chastity.com - Buy on Amazon.com [affiliate link]Shownotes | RestoredMinistry.com/18

I felt torn. On one hand, I craved love. On the other, I feared it. Why? Because I didn’t think love could last. I feared my relationship would end the way my parents’ marriage did.Thankfully, that fear no longer controls me. It took time and intentional effort to overcome it. But by doing so, I felt free to pursue my wife and begin building our marriage. In this episode, you’ll get:A better understanding of yourself and why you fear loveReal life relationship stories and lessons from Miranda and me6 tips to conquer your fear and find authentic loveContact Joey: Joey@RestoredMinistry.comShownotes | RestoredMinistry.com/17

Erin’s parents separated when she was 16 after a big fight. It was really painful for her. However, everyone acted like it wasn’t a big deal. And so, she felt like something was wrong with her for feeling so hurt.In the years that followed, she struggled with depression, loneliness, self-harm, and suicidal thoughts. In this episode, you’ll hear how she overcome those things and found healing. She also shares some practical wisdom for coping, healing, and thriving.Shownotes | RestoredMinistry.com/16

Who knows the most about staying calm during chaotic situations? A combat experienced Navy SEAL.In this episode, you'll get the advice of Navy SEAL Mike Sarraille on staying calm during a crisis like the Coronavirus.Shownotes | RestoredMinistry.com/15

The Coronavirus is causing a lot of panic. There's so much fear, anxiety, and uncertainty going around. So, how do we deal with all of that during a crisis? Dr. Julia Sadusky shows us how. Shownotes | RestoredMinistry.com/14

Most of us with separated or divorced parents are afraid of getting divorced or repeating our parents’ mistakes. We want to avoid the bad behavior we saw in our families and our parents’ marriages, but we don’t know how to do that.If you can relate, listen to this episode. Dr. Julia Sadusky answers to these questions and more:Why do we repeat the bad behavior we saw in our families growing up?Why does someone from a dysfunctional family often become bored with “normal” in life and relationships?How can we avoid repeating those bad behaviors and break the cycle of divorce?Also, a special note for any parents listening in this episode.Shownotes* | https://restoredministry.com/13*Joey made a mistake during the episode and said "12" instead of "13". Sorry!

Counseling is a tool for healing. But how does it work? And will it actually help me?We answer those questions and much more in this episode:How many sessions do you need to start feeling better?The #1 factor that determines whether counseling works or notHow to find the right counselor for youQuestions to ask a counselor before you commitHow to make the most of itShownotes | https://restoredministry.com/12

Jen thought her parents’ divorce didn’t affect her - until her brokenness surfaced at 26 on a medical mission in Honduras. Still, she didn’t make the connection between her struggles and her parents’ breakup right away.In this episode, you’ll hear her story, her struggles, and how she has healed. She also shares advice and words of encouragement for anyone in a similar situation - especially anyone who is single but wants to be married.Shownotes | https://restoredministry.com/11

Did you know that children of divorce are actually more prone to experience loneliness?If you or someone you know struggles with loneliness, this episode is for you. You'll hear 5 common sense tips that you can start today to overcome loneliness.Shownotes | https://restoredministry.com/10

How did you find out that your parents were divorcing? Today’s guest, Dr. Daniel Meola, actually found out before his mom. Then as an 11 year old boy, he called her to break the news.You’ll hear about the impact the divorce has had on him over the years and what he’s doing to help other adult children of divorce to heal.Shownotes | https://restoredministry.com/9

What’s been the hardest part of your life? For Miranda, it has been navigating her parents’ divorce. If you read her article “Dear Divorce” you already know how clearly and beautifully she articulates the pain and the struggles she’s faced. But this episode isn’t just about the pain and struggles. We talk about her #1 method of healing, the awareness she’s developed about herself, and the fact that nobody can heal alone. We all need help.Shownotes | RestoredMinistry.com/8

Part 3 of 3. When your parents separate or divorce, it hurts. It brings a lot of pain, problems, and struggles into your life. But what are some of those common struggles? That's the topic of today's show.We discuss 9 common struggles that children of divorce typically face based on a survey of 350 adult children of divorce.Throughout the conversation, we offer practical advice on how to deal with those struggles. In addition, this episode will help you understand yourself if your parents are separated or divorced. If you love or lead anyone from a broken family, it will also help you understand and love or lead them better.Shownotes | RestoredMinistry.com/7

Part 2 of 3. When your parents separate or divorce, it hurts. It brings a lot of pain, problems, and struggles into your life. But what are some of those common struggles? That's the topic of today's show.We discuss 9 common struggles that children of divorce typically face based on a survey of 350 adult children of divorce.Throughout the conversation, we offer practical advice on how to deal with those struggles. In addition, this episode will help you understand yourself if your parents are separated or divorced. If you love or lead anyone from a broken family, it will also help you understand and love or lead them better.Shownotes | RestoredMinistry.com/6

Part 1 of 3. When your parents separate or divorce, it hurts. It brings a lot of pain, problems, and struggles into your life. But what are some of those common struggles? That's the topic of today's show.We discuss 9 common struggles that children of divorce typically face based on a survey of 350 adult children of divorce. Throughout the conversation, we offer practical advice on how to deal with those struggles. In addition, this episode will help you understand yourself if your parents are separated or divorced. If you love or lead anyone from a broken family, it will also help you understand and love or lead them better.Shownotes | RestoredMinistry.com/5

The holidays are a challenging time for most children of divorced or separated parents. Most of us feel alone, lost, and uncertain of how to navigate the holidays with our broken families. Instead of experiencing the joy of the holidays, we often feel overwhelmed, frustrated, embarrassed, and sad.If you can relate, we made this episode for you. In it, we give 7 tips on how to navigate the holidays so you can enjoy them and hopefully, avoid all the drama.The advice is from a survey of older children of divorce combined with Joey's advice on the topic. If you love or lead someone with divorced or separated parents, share this episode with them.Shownotes | RestoredMinistry.com/4

#003 - Beth’s parents divorced when she was very young. However, she still remembers the cardboard boxes and feeling confused about her dad leaving. Over the years, she saw her parents’ divorce impact her in various ways. She recalls looking for external approval, feeling lost, and the challenge of constantly navigating between two homes. She also shares what she has done to heal and how her life is better now because of it.By listening to Beth’s story, you’ll find that no matter how broken you feel or messy life becomes, there’s always hope. She also shares some practical tips on how you can heal too.At the end of the show, we introduce a free online tool for you to use at RestoredMinistry.com/storyIf you love or lead someone with divorced or separated parents, this episode will help you to better understand them and how to help them.Shownotes | RestoredMinistry.com/3

#002 - When your parents separate or divorce, it hurts and you feel alone. You feel like nobody can understand what you are going through. At Restored, we know how that feels. But we want you to know this: You’re actually not alone.To prove that, we talk with speaker and author Leila Miller about her book Primal Loss, which features 70 stories from children of divorce. We uncover the shocking ways divorce has affected them, even years later as adults, and some practical advice to deal with it.If you love or lead someone with divorced or separated parents, Leila offers some practical advice for you too.To access the shownotes, go here:https://restoredministry.com/2

#001 - Are your parents divorced? Are they separated? Has that brought a lot of pain and problems into your life? Do you feel alone and unsure of how to deal with it all? If you answered yes, the Restored podcast is for you. In this intro episode, we'll talk about how your parents' divorce is affecting you, what you can do about it, and how the Restored podcast exists to help you cope, heal, and feel whole again. Also, if you love or lead someone with divorced or separated parents, the Restored podcast is also for you. We want to help you, help them.To access the shownotes, go here:https://restoredministry.com/1