What slowly poisons your relationship and the way you feel about your partner? Criticism, that's what. In this episode, we will explore where criticism comes from, how to stop being so critical, how to manage criticism from a partner and how to move from criticism into feedback and goal setting. I hope you find this episode helpful. With love, Lucille  About your host… Hi, I'm Lucille and I'm a Behavioural Scientist and Counsellor based in Sydney, Australia. I specialise in relationships and work with clients to improve their relationships with themselves, their partners and their families. I love to share what I know through my daily psychoeducation posts and various online courses and aim to give you the skills and tools to create the relationships you desire. Does my content resonate with you? Want to learn more? Here’s how I can help you:  I offer individual and couples therapy worldwide, on-demand workshops and courses, a monthly newsletter, the Relationship Realities podcast and daily posts at @centredselftherapy on Instagram. To access counselling head over to my website www.centredselftherapy.com.  Disclaimer: This podcast shares general psychoeducation information and may not suit your situation, or resonate with you. Take what connects and leave the rest.  Please see my full disclaimer on my website for more information. 

It might be difficult to understand and accept but your brains work differently and you think differently... and that's actually okay. Learning about each other's internal world is an opportunity for closeness, a way to avoid many pointless arguments and will help you better navigate the road ahead. With love, Lucille  About your host… Hi, I'm Lucille and I'm a Behavioural Scientist and Counsellor based in Sydney, Australia. I specialise in relationships and work with clients to improve their relationships with themselves, their partners and their families. I love to share what I know through my daily psychoeducation posts and various online courses and aim to give you the skills and tools to create the relationships you desire. Does my content resonate with you? Want to learn more? Here’s how I can help you:  I offer individual and couples therapy worldwide, on-demand workshops and courses, a monthly newsletter, the Relationship Realities podcast and daily posts at @centredselftherapy on Instagram. To access counselling head over to my website www.centredselftherapy.com.  Disclaimer: This podcast shares general psychoeducation information and may not suit your situation, or resonate with you. Take what connects and leave the rest.  Please see my full disclaimer on my website for more information. 

This episode explores the lessons I learned about having a 'good enough' sex life from the 'Good Enough Sex' model. “The ‘Good Enough Sex’ model for couple satisfaction developed by Michael Metz and Barry McCarthy is a realistic and positive way of looking at sexual satisfaction in relationships.  Reference: Metz, Michael & McCarthy, Barry. (2007). The Good Enough S-x Model for couple sexual satisfaction. Sexual and Relationship Therapy. 22. 351-362.  About your host… Hi, I'm Lucille and I'm a Behavioural Scientist and Counsellor based in Sydney, Australia. I specialise in relationships and work with clients to improve their relationships with themselves, their partners and their families. I love to share what I know through my daily psychoeducation posts and various online courses and aim to give you the skills and tools to create the relationships you desire. Does my content resonate with you? Want to learn more? Here’s how I can help you:  I offer individual and couples therapy worldwide, on-demand workshops and courses, a monthly newsletter, the Relationship Realities podcast and daily posts at @centredselftherapy on Instagram.  Disclaimer: This podcast shares general psychoeducation information and may not suit your situation, or resonate with you. Take what connects and leave the rest.  Please see my full disclaimer on my website for more information. 

This is a big one! This episode digs into the guiding principals of my upcoming book 'Heal Your Attraction'. We will be exploring how to break dating and relationship patterns and heal from the inside out. I hope this episode gives you the validation and confidence you need to start shifting old patterns and creating the relationships you truly desire. About your host… Hi, I'm Lucille and I'm a Behavioural Scientist and Counsellor based in Sydney, Australia. I specialise in relationships and work with clients to improve their relationships with themselves, their partners and their families. I love to share what I know through my daily psychoeducation posts and various online courses and aim to give you the skills and tools to create the relationships you desire. Does my content resonate with you? Want to learn more? Here’s how I can help you:  I offer individual and couples therapy worldwide, on-demand workshops and courses, a monthly newsletter, the Relationship Realities podcast and daily posts at @centredselftherapy on Instagram.  Disclaimer: This podcast shares general psychoeducation information and may not suit your situation, or resonate with you. Take what connects and leave the rest.  Please see my full disclaimer on my website for more information. 

This episode is a reflection on the things that make dating hard. It's a little validation for those of you who have been dating for a while and are feeling overwhelmed or burnt out. It's not you... dating is hard. About your host… Hi, I'm Lucille and I'm a Behavioural Scientist and Counsellor based in Sydney, Australia. I specialise in relationships and work with clients to improve their relationships with themselves, their partners and their families. I love to share what I know through my daily psychoeducation posts and various online courses and aim to give you the skills and tools to create the relationships you desire. Does my content resonate with you? Want to learn more? Here’s how I can help you:  I offer individual and couples therapy worldwide, on-demand workshops and courses, a monthly newsletter, the Relationship Realities podcast and daily posts at @centredselftherapy on Instagram. Disclaimer: This podcast shares general psychoeducation information and may not suit your situation, or resonate with you. Take what connects and leave the rest.  Please see my full disclaimer on my website for more information.  To learn more about me please visit my website https://www.centredselftherapy.com/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/centredselftherapy/?hl=en 

In this episode I am joined by Mens Sex Coach, Alex Grendi to have an uncensored conversation about men, sex and relationships. While we cover many universal themes in this episode, we will be mostly discussing relationships between men and women and the common challenges that arise in long term committed relationships including reduced libido, performance anxiety and the differences in how we try to connect. I hope you enjoy it! About your hosts… Alex Alex Grendi is a sex coach who specializes in helping Men overcome Premature Ejaculation and Erectile Dysfunction so they can expand their pleasure for themselves and their partners, deepen their connection to their partners, and experience more love.  His philosophy of coaching combines ancient methods, practical exercises, a simple step by step process, and the support of a community of men who are on the exact same journey.  Are you looking for coaching / mentorship for PE or ED?  Visit the links below: Website - http://superiorlovers.com/ Youtube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/@alex.grendi Lucille Hi, I'm Lucille and I'm a Behavioural Scientist and Counsellor based in Sydney, Australia. I specialise in relationships and work with clients to improve their relationships with themselves, their partners and their families. I love to share what I know through my daily psychoeducation posts and various online courses and aim to give you the skills and tools to create the relationships you desire. To learn more about me please visit my website https://www.centredselftherapy.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/centredselftherapy/?hl=en

How does your past influence how you show up for yourself, relate to others and engage in relationship? This episode will attempt to answer these questions by drawing on the knowledge and experience of the incredible, Johanna, of The Family Imprint Institute. We will explore how the dynamics in your family of origin influence what you want and need in relationship as an adult, and aim to give you some activities to take away which will help you better understand yourself and how you show up in relationships. Are you ready? Let's dive in! About your hosts… Lucille Hi, I'm Lucille and I'm a Behavioural Scientist and Counsellor who works with clients around the world and leads psychoeducation groups in Sydney, Australia. I specialise in relationships and work with clients to improve their relationships with themselves, their partners and their families.  To learn more about me please visit my website https://www.centredselftherapy.com/ IG - https://www.instagram.com/centredselftherapy/?hl=en Johanna Johanna is the founder of The Family Imprint Institute with an international private practice. She is a highly trained systemic therapist that offers resolutions from long standing issues with a focus on dismantling family patterns, restoring relationships and cultivating resilient boundaries. www.johannalynn.ca FB - https://www.facebook.com/johanna.lynn.54/ IG - https://www.instagram.com/thefamilyimprint_institute/ Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.ca/family_imprint/ Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC98HkGzauNSSHYfmIA4fVuA LinkedIN - https://www.linkedin.com/in/johannalynn/

How can you express your needs in relationship? What can you do if your partner isn’t responding to your needs? In this episode myself and fellow therapist, Carly will be exploring where our needs come from, how we can express wants and needs to a partner and how to navigate unmet needs in relationship. Join us for this insightful conversation. About your hosts… Lucille Hi, I'm Lucille and I'm a Behavioural Scientist and Counsellor who works with clients around the world and leads psychoeducation groups in Sydney, Australia. I specialise in relationships and work with clients to improve their relationships with themselves, their partners and their families.  To learn more about me please visit my website https://www.centredselftherapy.com/ Carly Hello, I'm Carly, a psychologist and therapist working and living in beautiful Hobart, Tasmania, as well as working online with clients from Australia and SE Asia.  I specialise in trauma, and work with individuals and couples to support them in improving their mental health, wellbeing, and relationships. I also provide online coaching support for business leaders. For more information about my professional services, please go to www.eclipsecoaching.com.au If you think you might need some extra support please reach out to a therapist near you or to access services with Lucille or Carly, please check out our websites. Resources discussed in the podcast: Book - 'Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay' by Mira Kirshenbaum. Website - The Gottman Institute - https://www.gottman.com/

All relationships have their ups and downs. In order to get though them, it's important to know how to repair the relationship after there's been an issue. In this episode we’re going to talk about how to repair with you partner and discuss practical strategies you can make your own. 

Would you like to know how we develop self esteem? In this episode we'll explore the three sources of self esteem and how our self esteem influences how we engage in relationships and the world. I will give you some questions to reflect on and things to think about if you're someone who wants to build your self esteem. 

Do you find yourself stuck in unhelpful patterns of communication? Do you want to know what some of the major barriers to communication are and find out whether you engage in them? If the answer is yes then this episode is for you! In this episode we will look at the most common barriers to communication, styles of communication and how to reflect on and improve your communication.

In this episode we'll explore attachment styles and how they influence our adult relationships. You'll be given a crash course in attachment theory so you can identify your attachment style and how it shows up for you. 

Why do we engage in relationship the way we do? Why do we set relationship goals and milestones? In this episode we explore the impact of social conditioning on relationships and how you can free yourself from the 'shoulds' and actively engaging in creating the relationship that's right for you.  

This episode is all about red and green flags in the early stages of relationships. We discuss how to identify red flags, why we sometimes ignore them, and what to do if you notice them. Then we cover the green flags you'll want to keep an eye out for if you're wanting to build a long term, committed relationship. Have a listen and why not try noting down the flags you can identify in your current or past relationships. Enjoy! 

What can you do when you're not feeling heard or understood by your partner? How can you communicate assertively and listen in a way that promotes connection? And, if all else fails how do you argue productively? These are the questions that will be answered in this episode. I will give you practical strategies and tools to improve the communication in your relationship. 

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