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Oversharing

English, Social, 1 season, 110 episodes, 5 days, 5 hours, 15 minutes
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Oversharing from Betches Media is all about the challenges we face in all kinds of relationships; from friendships to family, long term partnerships or even dealing with the customer service rep that makes you want to scream into a pillow. Betches co-founder and relationship enthusiast Jordana Abraham has teamed up with her big sister, licensed clinical therapist Dr. Naomi Bernstein, to answer your questions and try to get to the bottom of the things that bother us most. Think of Jordana and Dr. Naomi as your BFF and your therapist, sitting side-by-side at the brunch table trying to help you get through your problems. Each week they’re responding to listener emails, tackling difficult ethical questions, playing games, and so much more. Because sometimes we really need advice from people with no skin in the game. And let’s face it, your friends can’t stand to hear that story one more time.
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How To Get Your Partner To Connect On A Deeper Level

Today on Oversharing Dr. Naomi shares her experience with the mind/body connection during her ski trip with Jordana. Our Overshare question comes from a Betch trying to get her husband to open up and start having difficult conversations. How do you get your partner to slow down and connect on a deeper level? Today’s Betchicist goes out to a mom wondering when the right time is to discuss plastic surgery with her children. Dr. Naomi writes an intention for a scorned fiancé impatiently awaiting couples therapy. And we’re feeling triggered by baby pictures and exes on the phone plan. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/6/202456 minutes, 29 seconds
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How Much Should I Spend To Get To A Friend’s Wedding Events?

Today on Oversharing Dr. Naomi shares a deep, existential epiphany. Our Overshare email comes from a bridesmaid Betch who wants to skip a friend’s destination wedding after learning she’s not even invited to the ceremony. Today’s Betchicist goes out to a listener feeling major tension with her controlling sister-in-law. Dr. Naomi writes an intention for a regretful bride who can’t let go of her imperfect wedding pictures. And we’re feeling triggered by plastic surgery and surprise party guests. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/30/20241 hour, 3 minutes, 30 seconds
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Do Long Distance Relationships Really Work?

To start this week’s Oversharing, Dr. Naomi and Jordana conduct a dream analysis for a listener who seems ready to cut the brakes. Our Overshare comes from a Betch in recovery from her judgy family. Today’s Betchicist goes out to a concerned daughter in debt. Should she be offended that her parents didn’t pay off her student loans the way they did for her siblings? Dr. Naomi writes an intention for a long distance will they-won’t they relationship. And we’re feeling triggered by fake purses and potentially haunted houses. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/23/20241 hour, 3 minutes, 24 seconds
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Should I Be Offended When My Boyfriend Compliments Other Women?

Today on Oversharing, Dr. Naomi and Jordana conduct their first write-in dream analysis. Our Overshare email comes from a listener whose boyfriend has been a bit too complimentary of other Betches. Today’s Betchicist goes out to a step mother struggling to maintain holiday spirit in a cross-faith family. Dr. Naomi writes an intention for a new mom trying to move past her journey with cancer. And we’re feeling triggered by looking a gift horse in the mouth and dentists insulting our appearance. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/16/20241 hour, 10 minutes, 3 seconds
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My Mother-In-Law Won’t Respect My Boundaries

Today on Oversharing, Jordana vents to Dr. Naomi about something her therapist did in her last session. Our Overshare email comes from a Betch dealing with the relationship between her brother and her bestie. Today’s Betchicist goes out to a new mom who wants her gifting boundaries respected. Dr. Naomi writes an intention for a listener to help her stay on track with her healthcare journey and not let up when she hits her goals. And we’re feeling triggered by stolen last names and even more boundary-pushing therapists. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/9/20241 hour, 19 minutes
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Should I Convert to Appease My Fiance's Family?

Today, on Oversharing, Jordana and Dr. Naomi do a deep dive into New Year's Resolutions. Our Overshare comes from a Betch who gets sloppy when single. Today’s Betchicist goes out to soon-to-be married listener who is feeling pressure to convert. Dr. Naomi writes an intention for a new homeowner who hears too many bumps in the night. And we’re feeling triggered by forgotten birthdays and boyfriends with notes on the decor. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/2/20241 hour, 10 minutes, 58 seconds
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I Don’t Want To Lose My Friend To Her Relationship

Today on Oversharing, Dr. Naomi dishes major Spelling Bee drama. Our Overshare comes from a listener whose mom just can’t accept her career change. Today’s Betchicist goes out to a little sister with a long-held grudge. Dr. Naomi writes an intention for a Betch who fears she might lose her roommate to a new man. And we’re feeling triggered by sh%t talking from literally everyone. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/26/20231 hour, 11 minutes, 28 seconds
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Baby Steps: Dealing with Secondary Infertility Ft. Gaby Dalkin

Jordana returns for another episode of Baby Steps, presented by BetterHelp, and this week she’s joined by food & lifestyle writer Gaby Dalkin to talk about overcoming five miscarriages before finally becoming a mother. She tells us about her experience with infertility, including a chemical pregnancy and a septum surgery, and what it took to finally have a daughter. They talk about maintaining a positive mindset, and swap stories about why unsolicited advice isn’t always helpful. Plus, they discuss secondary infertility, including what comes next if you’re hoping to have more than one child. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, BetterHelp! Visit BetterHelp.com/BABYSTEPS today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/22/202344 minutes, 56 seconds
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Are My Emotions Too Much For My Partner?

Today on Oversharing, Dr. Naomi conducts a dream analysis on one of Jordana’s recent nightmares. New segment alert? Our Overshare comes from a post-breakup Betch who does not want you messing with her corn cobs. The Betchicist goes out to a friend feeling overwhelmed by the burden of a destination wedding. Dr. Naomi writes an intention for a new mom grappling with her daughter’s unfortunate diagnosis. And we’re feeling triggered by stolen baby clothes and stolen baby names. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/19/20231 hour, 15 minutes, 22 seconds
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Baby Steps: Which Wife Carries The Baby? Ft. Taylor Strecker

This week’s episode of Baby Steps, presented by BetterHelp, is all about having a baby in a lesbian relationship. To help guide us through the process, Jordana is joined by podcast host and radio personality Taylor Strecker. She tells us how she and her wife decided to finally initiate the process of having a baby together, starting with finding the right sperm donor. How much does the sperm bank tell you about the guys you’re choosing from? They also talk about fertility testing, and how you decide which person will carry the baby. Finally, she tells us about the true cost of having a baby, and what’s holding up the process as they get closer to parenthood. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, BetterHelp! Visit BetterHelp.com/BABYSTEPS today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/15/202352 minutes, 59 seconds
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The Psychology Of Money

Today on Oversharing, Jordana and Dr. Naomi discuss the pitfalls of the “Frugalista” lifestyle, and why you need to learn to take the loss sometimes. Plus, they tap into the psychology of money with a story about chasing down a refund. Our Overshare email comes from a Betch trying to stay strictly professional. Is it okay to keep a work friendship from spilling over into real life? Today’s Betchicist goes out to a listener grappling with sharing her eggs… not the breakfast kind. Would you donate your eggs to your sister if they asked? Dr. Naomi writes an intention for a newly settled Texan who can’t take the heat. And we’re feeling triggered by hot mess therapists and dedicated dog moms. Tune in to find out what “active listening” means, and learn whether or not your own therapist is getting it right. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/12/20231 hour, 8 minutes, 37 seconds
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Baby Steps: The Real Mental Toll Of Infertility Ft. Dr. Georgia Witkin

Jordana returns for another Baby Steps, presented by BetterHelp, and this week she’s joined by clinical psychologist Dr. Georgia Witkin to talk all about the mental toll of infertility, and how stress and therapy play a vital role in the process of trying to get pregnant. Dr. Witkin tells us how she got involved in the field of stress research, including why so little attention was paid to the role of stress on women before she started her program at the Mount Sinai School of Medicine. She also helps clarify some of the biggest medical myths around pregnancy and infertility. Is there really any evidence to support the claim that “the minute you stop trying” you’ll get pregnant? And what’s the deal with the five stages of grief anyway? Plus, she gives tips for navigating the process of egg freezing, egg donation, IVF, miscarriages, and more. If you’re curious about stress and pregnancy, Dr. Witkin has the answers. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, BetterHelp! Visit BetterHelp.com/BABYSTEPS today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/8/202354 minutes, 5 seconds
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How To Move On From Your Therapist

Today on Oversharing, Jordana and Dr. Naomi reflect on their visit together and spoiler alert… they miss each other already. Our Overshare email comes from a listener trying to make holiday plans despite a manipulative mother. Today’s Betchicist goes out to a Betch trying to ease the tension between her husband and brother. Dr. Naomi writes an intention for an acne-ridden Betch in need of help. And we’re feeling triggered by online dating etiquette and getting ghosted by therapists. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/5/20231 hour, 4 minutes, 54 seconds
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Baby Steps: Overcoming Major Fertility Obstacles Ft. Erin Andrews

Jordana is back for Baby Steps, presented by BetterHelp, and is joined by sportscaster and TV personality Erin Andrews to talk all about having a baby via surrogate following her 9-year-long fertility journey. Erin opens up about how she was able to overcome a cervical cancer diagnosis, and managed to have her first child at the age of 45. They talk about the egg-extraction process, when it’s time to consider IVF and freezing embryos, and how she finally decided to start searching for a surrogate. Finally, they offer tips for people looking to go down a similar path to parenthood, and what it really takes to overcome major obstacles along the way. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, BetterHelp! Visit BetterHelp.com/BABYSTEPS today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/1/202344 minutes, 40 seconds
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How To Deal With A Job That I Hate

Today on Oversharing, Jordana and Dr. Naomi discuss the moving target of choosing a healthy diet for your kids. Our Overshare comes from a newly pregnant Betch with reservations about telling her in-laws. Today’s Betchicist goes out to a listener who prefers to sleep in but struggles with her husband’s early morning tendencies. Dr. Naomi writes an intention for a teacher-at-heart working a tech job to make ends meet. And we’re feeling triggered by preachy besties and stingy in-laws. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/28/202354 minutes, 30 seconds
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How To Deal With A Job I Hate

Today on Oversharing, Jordana and Dr. Naomi discuss the moving target of choosing a healthy diet for your kids. Our Overshare comes from a newly pregnant Betch with reservations about telling her in-laws. Today’s Betchicist goes out to a listener who prefers to sleep in but struggles with her husband’s early morning tendencies. Dr. Naomi writes an intention for a teacher-at-heart working a tech job to make ends meet. And we’re feeling triggered by preachy besties and stingy in-laws. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/28/202354 minutes, 30 seconds
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Baby Steps: Deciding to Become a Mother On Your Own Ft. Amanda Freeman

Jordana sits down for another episode of Baby Steps, presented by BetterHelp, and this week she’s joined by the founder and CEO of SLT fitness, Amanda Freeman, to talk all about finding a sperm donor to get pregnant on your own. They dive into Amanda’s path to motherhood, including how and when she decided to go the solo route and visit a sperm bank. She also gives tips for what you should be looking for in a donor, how much information the bank will actually provide, and just how many vials you need to purchase. Plus, she tells the story of subsequently having a second child with her longtime partner, and shares the biggest lessons she’s learned about balancing work and family life.  Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, BetterHelp! Visit BetterHelp.com/BABYSTEPS today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/24/202353 minutes, 31 seconds
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Baby Steps: Deciding To Become A Mother On Your Own Ft Amanda Freeman

Jordana sits down for another episode of Baby Steps, presented by BetterHelp, and this week she’s joined by the founder and CEO of SLT fitness, Amanda Freeman, to talk all about finding a sperm donor to get pregnant on your own. They dive into Amanda’s path to motherhood, including how and when she decided to go the solo route and visit a sperm bank. She also gives tips for what you should be looking for in a donor, how much information the bank will actually provide, and just how many vials you need to purchase. Plus, she tells the story of subsequently having a second child with her longtime partner, and shares the biggest lessons she’s learned about balancing work and family life.  Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, BetterHelp! Visit BetterHelp.com/BABYSTEPS today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/24/202353 minutes, 31 seconds
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Can You Ever Get Over Political Differences?

Today on Oversharing, Naomi humblebrags about the success of her 5th-grade volleyball team, and Jordana looks forward to a drama-free Thanksgiving. Our Overshare email comes from a concerned listener who finds herself politically opposed to her partner. How do you reconcile differing political views? Today’s Betchicist goes out to a mom who made an impossibly tough decision and needs support through the aftermath. Dr. Naomi writes an intention for a Betch dealing with messy roommates. And to close things out, we’re feeling triggered by body-shaming boyfriends and being forced into the fifth wheel. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/21/20231 hour, 6 minutes, 17 seconds
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Baby Steps: Unpacking The Biggest Fertility Myths Ft. Dr. Lucky Sekhon

On this week’s Baby Steps, presented by BetterHelp, Jordana is joined by her own fertility doctor, reproductive endocrinologist and infertility specialist Dr. Lucky Sekhon. They talk about the value of sharing your own experience, and why it’s so powerful for celebrities like Jennifer Aniston to discuss their infertility treatments. Dr. Lucky tells us why and how the egg freezing process has changed over time, where the technology has improved, and why it’s important to look into your healthcare options. They also share the biggest scams and myths to avoid when you’re doing research about your own fertility. Do you really need to avoid scented laundry detergent when you’re trying to get pregnant, or is that simply a misconception? Plus, they tell us what you should be asking on your first consultation with a fertility specialist, how to find the right doctor for you, and the secret to avoiding emotional burnout. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, BetterHelp! Visit BetterHelp.com/BABYSTEPS today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/17/20231 hour, 5 minutes, 38 seconds
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How To Respond When a Friend Violates Your Privacy

Today on Oversharing, Dr. Naomi tells tales from the 5th grade field trip and Jordana preps for her first house guest. Our Overshare comes from a red-handed Betch caught trash-talking by her prying bestie. The Betchicist goes out to a listener wondering if her partner should have a say in her journey with medication. Dr. Naomi writes an intention to help fight the fear of failure. And we’re feeling triggered by oinking mothers-in-law and getting laid off via Zoom. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/14/202359 minutes, 13 seconds
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Baby Steps: The True Cost of Surrogacy Ft. Brian Kelly (The Points Guy)

Jordana returns for another episode of Baby Steps, and this week she’s joined by The Points Guy himself, Brian Kelly, to talk all about becoming a single father through surrogacy. Brian walks us through the entire process of having a child of your own as a single gay man in America, starting with picking the right fertility doctor and surrogacy service – you might be surprised which one he thinks you should find first. He also shares some of the pitfalls of the process, including why he ended up choosing a different surrogate than the one he was first paired with. They talk all about the options for picking an egg donor, how much control you really have, and what it was like to help deliver his own child. Plus, Brian gets real about what it actually costs to go the surrogacy route when you add everything up. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, BetterHelp! Visit BetterHelp.com/BABYSTEPS today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/10/202351 minutes, 28 seconds
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How To Quit Your Job In A Healthy Way

Today on Oversharing, we begin with Naomi’s family Halloween recap and Jordana’s recap of the big news at Betches this week. The Overshare email comes from an overworked Betch who’s struggling with guilt. How do you reconcile putting your own needs above those of your coworkers? Our Betchicist answer goes out to Dr. Betch, who feels uncomfortable diagnosing family members. In response to a listener voicemail, Dr. Naomi offers some intentions to a new mom struggling with her in-laws. And we’re feeling triggered by DINKS and pregnant belly shaming. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/7/20231 hour, 5 minutes, 5 seconds
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Baby Steps: Am I Making The Right Fertility Decisions? Ft. Emily Oster

On this episode of Baby Steps, presented by BetterHelp, Jordana is joined by one of her favorite authors, economist Emily Oster. They talk about how Jordana’s friends ended up giving her several copies of Emily’s books the moment she started trying to have a baby, and why Emily’s data-driven approach is so helpful to hopeful moms. Emily shares some of the best lessons she’s learned, both from her own experience conceiving, as well as in the years researching the effectiveness of different strategies and decision-making processes. She also shares some fascinating info on how the uncertainty of pregnancy often leads to suboptimal decision making, and why you may want to take bold steps sooner than you’d expect. This is a conversation you’re going to want to hear. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, BetterHelp! Visit BetterHelp.com/BABYSTEPS today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/3/202341 minutes, 10 seconds
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How Should Daters Digest A Mental Illness Disclosure?

Happy Halloween! On this spooky episode of Oversharing, Dr. Naomi schools Jordana on how to be the “cool house” in the neighborhood. Our Overshare email comes from a boy Betch who has concerns about his new girlfriend’s mental health journey. How should you digest and respond to a disclosure about someone’s mental illness? The Betchicist question comes from a devoted friend who wonders just how far she has to go to support her entrepreneurial bestie. Dr. Naomi offers up an intention for a Betch on the brink of divorce. And to close things out, we’re feeling triggered by nosey cashiers and road-raging neighbors. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/31/202358 minutes, 40 seconds
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Baby Steps: How Long Does IVF Really Take? Ft. Jessel Taank (RHONY)

Jordana is back with another episode of Baby Steps, presented by BetterHelp. This week, she’s joined by star of The Real Housewives of New York, Jessel Taank, to talk all about her experience using IVF to have twin boys at the age of 39. She walks us through the multi-year process, including when she realized it was time to try IVF and why it took much longer than she ever expected. They talk about what it’s like to go to baby shower after baby shower, as pressure mounts to get pregnant yourself. Plus, Jessel shares some useful tips, including breathing exercises and health routines that she found helpful during her own pregnancy. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, BetterHelp! Visit BetterHelp dot com slash BABYSTEPS today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/27/202340 minutes, 43 seconds
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Introducing: Baby Steps

Since high school we’ve been led to believe that having a baby was as inevitable as a Sunday morning hangover in your twenties. So what happens when your fertility “journey” takes a massive detour? In this limited series from Betches Media and the Oversharing podcast, host Jordana Abraham explores the various paths to parenthood that lay ahead when starting a family doesn’t come easy. In the first episode of Baby Steps, presented by BetterHelp, Jordana is joined by her big sister and co-host of the Oversharing podcast, Dr. Naomi Bernstein. Together, they walk us through the ups and downs of Jordana’s own efforts to have a child, including what it’s like to experience multiple miscarriages, exploring treatment options to help with the process, and how to respond emotionally when things don’t go as planned. Plus, she tells us what her options are going forward and what she plans to do next. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, BetterHelp! Visit BetterHelp dot com slash BABYSTEPS today to get 10% off your first month. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/27/202353 minutes, 40 seconds
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Why Won’t My Husband Wear His Wedding Ring?

Today on Oversharing, Jordana and Dr. Naomi discuss navigating life while in survival mode, and how to cope when you come down with a case of the “f%ck its”. They answer a voicemail from a Betch in need of some sister-to-sister advice, especially when it comes to family drama with your mom. Our Betchicist reply goes out to a new mom who is having major Sunday Scaries at the prospect of going back to work. Dr. Naomi writes an intention for a hardworking Betch with a sugar-baby boyfriend. Finally, they rate some Triggered submissions about boyfriends’ past flings and forgotten wedding rings. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/24/20231 hour, 11 minutes, 18 seconds
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How To Stop Hating Your Ex

Today on Oversharing, Dr. Naomi and Jordana discuss the heaviness we’ve all been feeling this week, including how they’re each coping with the daily news coming out of the Middle East. A “Mr. Betch” writes in for advice on how to fight fair in his relationship. How do you stop yourself from letting things escalate with a significant other? The Betchicist question comes from a long-distance bestie who fears puppy love (aka an unexpected gift) may not be the answer. Dr. Naomi offers an intention for a scorned Betch to keep her off the voodoo doll. How do you get past your hatred for an ex? Finally, we are truly triggered by moms this week. Can we all just get along? Listen in to find out. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/17/20231 hour, 23 minutes, 4 seconds
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Am I Addicted To Online Shopping?

Today on Oversharing, Jordana and Dr. Naomi face the music as listeners let them know how they really feel about the Taylor Swift concert ticket debate. Our Overshare email comes from a listener who just can’t resist the “Add to Cart” button. The Betchicist of the week goes out to an expectant mother in need as her husband prepares for a European getaway…with his mother?! A male listener writes in for advice about staying present with his more mature girlfriend. They wrap up with the Triggered scenarios of one Betch getting left out of the game, while the other gets left out of the will. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/10/20231 hour, 4 minutes, 19 seconds
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Are My In-Laws Too Involved?

Today on Oversharing, Dr. Naomi proves she’s a REAL Olivia Rodrigo fan. Plus, Jordana loves/hates to say “I told you so” in response to a very juicy listener update. Two new moms look for support today. What’s the best way to calm that protective lizard brain to avoid making your partner feel inadequate around the baby? And how can you find peace when it comes to an unclear diagnosis given to your child? Our Betchicist question comes from a concerned friend who wonders if she should intervene in a relationship that may not have marriage potential. We close with some Triggered scenarios that cover meddling in-laws and wedding vendors offering some VERY unsolicited advice. Does anyone stay in their lane anymore? Listen in to find out. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/3/202359 minutes, 19 seconds
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How To Set Healthy Boundaries Ft. Terri Cole

Jordana and Dr. Naomi are joined by licensed psychotherapist Terri Cole to talk all about learning to set proper boundaries in your life. They discuss how Terri learned to set boundaries for herself, what it means to set your own standards, and why you don’t always have to jump straight to cutting people off from your life. They also share some tips for how to approach difficult conversations around boundaries with loved ones so that they are open to accepting your preferences. They answer an email from a listener whose relationship with her family improved when she moved further away from home, but is now feeling like they don’t respect her choices when she’s close by. Then Jordana and Dr. Naomi answer a Betchicist question about whether or not you should feel obligated to give your friends a good deal on Taylor Swift tickets. Where do you draw the line between profit and friendship? Finally, they weigh in on a pair of Triggered submissions about a missing dinner invitation and a Starbucks barista mishap. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/26/20231 hour, 27 minutes, 13 seconds
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How To Avoid Single Bitterness

Dr. Naomi shares a story about feeling heavy emotions after hearing news from old friends. Plus, Jordana tells us how she prioritized her own needs on her birthday this year. An emailer writes in with a dilemma about feeling burned out and bitter after going on one-too-many dates. How do you navigate the disappointment that comes with a string of unsuccessful dating encounters? The Betchicist question comes from a listener who got a saved-the-date for an upcoming wedding but never got invited. What are the rules of wedding invitations? They answer a voicemail from a caller who needs help setting intentions for not correcting her boyfriend’s behavior all the time. Is it possible to learn to let go and live in the discomfort of someone else’s mistakes? They close things with some Triggered scenarios about a redheaded baby and some daunting dating advice. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/19/20231 hour, 8 minutes, 6 seconds
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Why Won’t He Share Our Relationship Online?

It’s almost Jordana’s birthday and Dr. Naomi helps her reflect on the pressure of meeting timelines and milestones as you get older. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not you should expect your significant other to post about you on social media. What does it say about your relationship if your boyfriend won’t share your relationship online, and does it imply he has something to hide? The Betchicist question comes from an emailer whose husband suddenly decided to cut his father out of his life. Are you obligated to support your partner’s life decisions, even if they require you to make a sacrifice? This week’s Intentions email, presented by The Knot Vendor Marketplace, involves a listener who feels an unshakable sense of urgency to get engaged, and Dr. Naomi gives her some tips to stop overthinking timelines. They close things with some Triggered scenarios about relationship judgment, and curly hair-shaming. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor! Find vendors for every wedding on The Knot Vendor Marketplace by visiting theknot.com/oversharing  Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our series of guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com  Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/12/20231 hour, 15 minutes, 28 seconds
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Should Your Therapist Offer Unsolicited Advice?

Jordana is back from vacation and Dr. Naomi tells her about an eye-opening form of therapy (called neurodynamic breathwork) that she was excited to try. They offer advice to a listener who is feeling confused now that the person she’s seeing suddenly became distant over text. Is it okay to demand a phone call from a guy to see where your relationship stands? The Betchicist question comes from an emailer who was invited to the wedding of a not-so-close friend. How obligated should you feel to attend a costly wedding, and when are you required to send a gift? The Intentions email of the week, presented by The Knot Vendor Marketplace, comes from a recently engaged bride-to-be that has no desire to plan an actual wedding. Finally, they end the show by rating some Triggered scenarios about a height-based slight, and an unsolicited piece of advice from a therapist. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor! Find vendors for every wedding on The Knot Vendor Marketplace by visiting theknot.com/oversharing Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our series of guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/5/20231 hour, 18 minutes, 21 seconds
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Is It Okay To Sleep Separately From My Partner? Ft. Dr. Wendy Troxel

We’re all tired… thankfully this week’s episode features sleep expert and clinical psychologist Dr. Wendy Troxel, who shares some real-world tips for better sleep. Jordana and Dr. Naomi tell us about their own experience with lack-of-sleep, and how their quality of sleep is impacted by sharing a bed with a partner. Dr. Troxel explains why some couples are turning to the concept of ‘sleep divorce’ and what her research has taught her about how couples can improve their co-sleeping. They respond to an email from a listener who is experiencing anxiety at the thought of all the sleep she’ll lose out on after her boyfriend moves in. What’s the secret to not letting sleep frustrations affect your relationship? Then Jordana and Naomi tackle this week’s Intentions email, presented by The Knot Vendor Marketplace, regarding an overbearing mother during the pre-wedding process. How do you keep the pressure of planning a wedding from ruining the experience altogether? They close things with some Triggered scenarios about splitting wedding gifts and a toilet mishap.  Thanks again to our presenting sponsor! Find vendors for every wedding on The Knot Vendor Marketplace by visiting theknot.com/oversharing Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our first four guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/29/20231 hour, 19 minutes, 31 seconds
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Why Do I Feel Like The Grass Is Always Greener?

Jordana just moved into a new house and tells Dr. Naomi all about the lessons she learned from the experience – is decorating your home actually a skill? The Overshare email comes from a listener who is experiencing a quarter-life crisis and wants to know if she’s missing out on a fuller life by not moving to a big city. The Betchicist question is all about continuing to have your location tracked by your parents on your phone even when you’re living independently as an adult. What does it say about your boundaries with your parents if they’re still tracking you? They offer some intentions to a listener who constantly feels medical anxiety throughout the week. Is there a secret to letting go of health fears? They close things with some Triggered scenarios about a fizzle text that arrived two weeks after the date took place, and a pair of in-laws who stop by unannounced. Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our first four guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/22/20231 hour, 1 minute, 39 seconds
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How To Silence Unwanted Commentary Ft. Jared Freid

Dr. Naomi is about to embark on a challenging new phase of life – the family is getting a second dog – so she tells Jordana about her plan to avoid taking care of a puppy all by herself. They offer advice to an emailer who says she is ready to settle down, but she can’t shake the feeling that her relationship could end in divorce. The Betchicist submission comes from a listener who moved in next door to her in-laws and now wants a bit more space. Next, they offer some intentions to a listener whose brother eloped and chose to invite his friends instead of his own family. Then Jordana and Naomi are joined by friend-of-the-pod Jared Freid to talk about his brand new Netflix comedy special 37 & Single (out now) and to help rate some Triggered submissions. Jared asks for some tips for staying grounded on what may be the biggest day of his life. He also shares a Triggered scenario from his recent red-eye flight, before weighing in a pair of submissions about obnoxious break room commentary, and an ex’s beach towel. Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our first four guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/15/20231 hour, 23 minutes, 58 seconds
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Should I Always Take My Family’s Side?

Dr. Naomi is back from her recent outdoors-y vacation and tells Jordana all about the sense of awe she experienced. Then they respond to a voicemail from a listener who has a pattern of freezing up when someone yells at her. What are the best strategies to deal with a tense situation, and how can you learn to respond differently? The Betchicist question comes from a listener who is caught in between her sister and a friend after they had a falling out over a guy. Are you obligated to hold a grudge on behalf of your sister even if you think she’s taking it too far? They give their honest take on an intentions email from a listener who often finds herself developing a crush on men who aren’t her husband. Is it okay to let yourself fantasize about others even if you’re in a committed relationship? They close things out with a pair of Triggered scenarios about annoying grief memes, and a suburban snob. Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our first four guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/8/20231 hour, 16 minutes, 8 seconds
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Can A Relationship Survive Infidelity?

We need a nap. Jordana and Dr. Naomi start with a chat about the misery of losing sleep when and how frustrating it can be when you can’t figure out why. They also talk about the new Golden Bachelor and share why they’re so excited to see this version of the show. Then a listener writes in to ask if she’ll ever be able to move forward with her partner after he admitted to having an affair (and told her on vacation, of all places). Dr. Naomi gives some insights into how couples can heal after cheating takes place, and why it can sometimes be a turning point in a lasting relationship. The “Betch-assist” question comes from a listener whose partner chooses to offer financial support for his sister. Is it okay to ask him to stop giving her money after the couple gets married and their finances merge? They respond to a request for intentions from an emailer who doesn’t like giving her boyfriend space when he’s in a bad mood. Finally, they rate some Triggered scenarios about stolen leftover pizza and a MIL’s unwanted home design comments. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/1/20231 hour, 9 minutes, 26 seconds
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Why Can’t I Stop Stalking My Ex On Social Media?

Jordana and Dr. Naomi start the week with a conversation about the recent heat waves sweeping the country, and why learning to be uncomfortable can actually help you live longer. Plus, Jordana tells us which online distraction she’s giving up for the sake of her own mental health. Next, a listener writes in to ask how to get out of a sh*t-talking loop she fell into with her mother-in-law. How do you break a cycle of negativity when it’s the source of your strongest bond with someone? Then they answer a Betchicist question about rumors circulating regarding a close friend’s boyfriend and his drunk behavior. Are you obligated to address the situation, and is it considered disloyal to the friend if you don’t bring it to her attention immediately? The intentions for the week are all about resisting the urge to stalk your ex’s social media after a recent breakup. Been there. Finally, they rate a Triggered scenario about calling your brief relationship “a something” and weigh in on a voicemail from a listener whose therapist canceled at the last minute. Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our first four guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/25/20231 hour, 21 minutes, 55 seconds
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Introducing: Calm TF Down from Oversharing

We get it, you want to start meditating. But everything you’ve tried is too serious, too boring, and totally unrelatable. If lavender candles, an Enya playlist, and endless sun salutations simply aren’t doing the trick, this podcast from Betches Media might finally be the thing to help you breathe. (Literally.) In a series of guided meditations, sisters Jordana Abraham and Dr. Naomi Bernstein will support you through many of life's biggest challenges with some much-needed serenity — and, of course, a bit of laughter. Calm TF Down is the same Oversharing podcast you love listening to every week, but with an added dose of zen to help you get through life’s challenges. Become a subscriber to receive ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only guided meditations every month. To sign up and calm TF down today, subscribe in the Apple Podcast app or head to: subscribe.betches.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/18/20234 minutes, 23 seconds
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Do You Have The Right To Monitor Who Your Partner Follows?

Jordana and Dr. Naomi are excited to tell us all about the brand new premium version of the podcast: Calm TF Down is available now wherever you’re listening. Naomi tells us how she uses guided meditations in her own practice, and they give us a peek behind the scenes of recording Calm TF Down together. Then a listener writes in to ask what she should do now that her traditional Indian parents announced that they disapprove of her moving in with her white boyfriend. The Betchicist question comes from a listener who is struggling with insecurity about her boyfriend viewing her cousin’s IG stories, even after she went on his phone and muted her account. Was it an honest mistake or a betrayal of trust? And more importantly, do you have the right to monitor what your partner looks at on the internet? The intentions for this week are all about finding new ways to feel good about your body after an injury prevents you from working out. Finally, they score some Triggered submissions about an unexpected birthday trip cancellation, and a hairdresser heavily editing a client’s facial features for an Instagram post. Oversharing: Calm TF Down is available now, featuring our first four guided meditations! Become a subscriber in the Apple Podcasts app or go to subscribe.betches.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/18/20231 hour, 18 minutes, 55 seconds
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Why Do I Feel A Sense Of Doom Even When Things Are Good?

Jordana starts the show with an account of the unconventional massage therapist she visited, and Dr. Naomi helps her break down what her response really means. Then a listener calls into the Oversharing hotline with a voicemail about how to deal with guys who don’t text back. The Betchicist submission comes from an emailer who knows her coworker had an affair and doesn’t know how to broach the subject. Should you come clean or keep the secret to yourself and pretend you don’t know? The intention-setting exercise is for someone whose life is going well for a change, but she can’t seem to let herself enjoy it. Finally, they weigh in on a pair of Triggered submissions about a pricey bridesmaid’s dress, and a combative grandfather. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/11/20231 hour, 10 minutes, 24 seconds
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How to Reconcile Childhood Issues With Your Parents In Adulthood

On this Fourth Of July holiday, Jordana and Dr. Naomi start with a chat about how holidays help us reflect on our career choices. Plus, Naomi joined a gym and shares the valuable lessons she learned about the nature of jealousy. Then a listener calls in with a voicemail about growing up without a close relationship to your father, and how we come to terms with this in adulthood. The Betchicist question comes from a listener whose mom started dating a younger man and is making her uncomfortable. Is it okay to ask your mom not to have her new guy sleep over even though you’re living in her house? The intentions for this week are all about fertility struggles and changing your mindset about the all-too-relatable “fertility window” stress. Finally, they score some Triggered submissions about a reclaimed gift, and a snide comment about someone’s religion. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/4/20231 hour, 21 minutes, 11 seconds
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Does Getting Botox Make Me A Bad Feminist?

Why are our most ambivalent relationships often the ones that cause us the most agitation? Jordana and Dr. Naomi analyze a recent article on the topic of frenemies and why they take up so much more headspace than our real adversaries. Then a listener (and fellow therapist) writes in to ask whether or not she should feel bad for making an offhand remark about her supervisor. Why do we spend so much time focusing on the smallest of comments? The Betchicist question comes from an emailer who feels like a bad feminist for wanting to get botox and other injectables to fight the signs of aging. This week’s intention setting exercise is all about finding a way to bounce back after getting a series of disappointing replies to your destination-wedding invites. Finally, they score some Triggered submissions involving a forgotten name and a surprise marriage announcement. Link to the Op-Ed discussed on today’s episode: Your Most Ambivalent Relationships Are the Most Toxic Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/27/20231 hour, 8 minutes, 11 seconds
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How To Deliver a Genuine Apology

What makes for a good apology? Jordana shares a story about offering an insincere apology, leading to some practical tips from Dr. Naomi for how to craft an apology that counts. An emailer writes in to ask if she should confront a coworker after feeling humiliated by his thoughtless gift-exchange present. Hot off the heels of the Vanderpump Rules three-part reunion, they answer a Betchicist question about the level of vitriol directed at the perpetrators of the Scandoval affair. Why do we react so passionately after someone cheats? And to what degree can you speak up on behalf of a friend who was cheated on? A listener asks for help with setting intentions to deal with a neighbor who is constantly playing music. Finally, they rate a pair of Triggered submissions involving an annoying texter, and a group chat gone-rogue. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/20/20231 hour, 22 minutes, 54 seconds
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How Much Should I Share About My Ex?

Dr. Naomi had second thoughts about last week’s Triggered scenario, so she and Jordana revisit their positions on “the moaning yogi.” A listener writes in with an Overshare email about how she feels after her husband stopped engaging in sex during her recent pregnancy. Should you be offended if your partner’s attraction ebbs and flows? Next, the Betchicist question comes from a listener who is planning to meet up with her ex’s new girlfriend. Is it ethical to compare notes about an ex, and how much can you disclose about what it was like to date them? They respond to a request for intentions from an emailer who often finds herself looking to “jump ship” even when things are going well. Finally, this week’s Triggered scenarios include a technical-difficulties dig, and a copycat MIL. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/13/20231 hour, 7 minutes, 40 seconds
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Why Does It Feel So Good To Be Negative?

Guests, like fish, begin to smell after three days… Jordana is back from visiting Dr. Naomi, and while she may not have overstayed her welcome, her trip brought up some questions about hosting others. Then a listener writes in with an update on her previous email, explaining why she never got closure after her breakup – and that’s okay. Another listener writes in with an Overshare email regarding her overwhelming desire to complain about workplace stuff with the most negative person in the office. Why does it feel so good to vent negativity even when you know you shouldn’t? Next, a listener calls in with a Betchicist voicemail about maintaining contact with her ex’s mom, and whether or not it’s better to go cold turkey. They offer some intentions to an emailer who is struggling on their fertility journey. Finally, this week’s Triggered scenarios include a non-existent invite to a funeral, and a sex-noise-filled yoga class. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/6/20231 hour, 10 minutes
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Maintaining Positive Self-Image Ft. Remi Bader

Jordana and Dr. Naomi are back together to debrief on a graduation-time crisis and an upcoming family gathering. They tackle an Overshare voicemail from a lister who is having trouble finding the right words to say to her cousin after a recent diagnosis. How do you show support for someone without saying the wrong thing? Then Jordana and Dr. Naomi are joined once again by Remi Bader, brand ambassador and size consultant for Victoria’s Secret PINK, to share intentions for maintaining a positive self image. They answer a listener email from someone whose friend can’t help but make negative comments about her own body. Finally, they close with some Triggered scenarios involving an “awkward” invitation, and a tricky MIL situation. Thanks again to our sponsor PINK! Refresh your whole routine this summer with the new PINK Beauty, available online now at pink.com or in stores starting this July. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/30/20231 hour, 19 minutes
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Setting Intentions For Self Confidence Ft. Remi Bader

Dr. Naomi is back from her trip to NYC and tells Jordana all about the profound moment she had… at the airport. How do we get back in touch with our childhood sense of awe? Then a listener writes in to ask if giving her boyfriend an ultimatum was the right way to get the commitment she’s looking for. This week’s Betchicist voicemail comes from a listener whose husband expects the dog to get walked at exactly the same time each morning. What does it mean to be “on time” and how do you reconcile conflicting standards in a relationship? Then Jordana and Dr. Naomi are joined by Remi Bader, brand ambassador and size consultant for Victoria’s Secret PINK, to offer some intentions for finding self confidence. They talk all about how Remi went viral for her realistic hauls, before diving into an email from a listener who needs help silencing negative self-talk. Finally, they close with some Triggered scenarios involving a friend bringing up an ex, and a forgotten birthday. Thanks again to our sponsor PINK! Refresh your whole routine this summer with the new PINK Beauty, available online now at pink.com or in stores starting this July. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/23/20231 hour, 19 minutes, 35 seconds
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Will His Commitment Issues Ever Disappear?

Jordana and Dr. Naomi are reunited in NYC via the Betches HQ studio and talk about the value of physical contact with the people you care about. Plus, they dive deeper into love languages and why we crave certain kinds of connection. Then a listener writes in to ask for help with dating a dismissive avoidant. Can a non-committal relationship turn into something deep and long lasting? In this week’s Betchicist, they dive into the dynamics of a birthday dilemma, where a friend demanded to be the center of attention by asking everyone to “dress down.” Another listener writes in to ask for help with setting intentions during down moments in the newborn phase of motherhood. Finally, this week’s Triggered scenarios involve a napping vacationer and a fee-chasing friend. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/16/20231 hour, 4 minutes, 28 seconds
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How To Effectively Sh*t Talk In A Healthy Way

Sometimes you just have to cry… on your own podcast. Jordana shares a moment of vulnerability and Dr. Naomi gives her some guidance for channeling that emotion in a positive way. Then a listener writes in to ask if she vents too much about work and family. How do you find a compromise when your decompression style differs from your partner’s? The Betchicist scenario involves talking sh*t about your MIL to your own mother. Why does it feel so good to gossip sometimes, and what should we do when it crosses a line? This week’s intentions are all about trying to establish stronger connections and resolving a fear of abandonment. Finally, they rate some Triggered submissions about a family deception, and stolen decorating tips. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/9/20231 hour, 9 minutes, 34 seconds
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Am I Just Dating Not To Be Alone?

Happy Overshare-aversary! The show turns one year old, and Jordana is being more mindful than ever, so Dr. Naomi gives her some tips for overcoming discomfort in the moment. Then a listener calls in with a question about how to stop cycling through the same three guys she’s been dating. How do you break a cycle of dating people just to avoid being alone? The Betchicist question comes from a listener who was planning to break up with her boyfriend… right before he had a heart attack. Are you obligated to stay with someone during a crisis? This week’s intentions are all about moving on from the thrill of casual dating to find something more meaningful. Finally, they tackle some triggered submissions about grad school regrets and an overly competitive friend. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/2/20231 hour, 10 minutes, 15 seconds
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The Secret To Not Comparing Your Relationship

Dr. Naomi helps Jordana through a moral conundrum: how involved should you get when a romantic set-up goes wrong? Jordana tells us all about the recent U Up? podcast episode featuring a Betches colleague who got set up with Jordana’s friend, and how Jordana had to get involved when things went awry. Then they hear a listener-submitted voicemail about what to do when you’re the go-to friend for emotional support, especially when it becomes draining. Naomi offers some tips and tricks for breaking an emotional pattern. The Betchicist email comes from a listener who is low on funds, but still getting invited to expensive outings with friends. How do you handle the difficult task of asking not to split the bill evenly when you can’t afford it? This week’s intentions are all about feeling more secure in your relationship when your partner says they’re not ready for marriage. Finally, the triggered submissions include a door-holding slight, and a career-choice insult. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/25/20231 hour, 14 minutes, 16 seconds
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Tips For Standing Up For Yourself

Jordana is still surrounded by boxes after her recent move, so she debriefs with Dr. Naomi about the catharsis of throwing things out. Is moving to a new home the perfect opportunity to practice letting go? The first email comes from a listener who has been a people-pleaser since childhood and wants help with her conflict avoidance, especially when it comes to her situation-ship. How do our childhood experiences affect our conflict style when we become adults? Then they read a Betchicist question about whether or not it’s okay to put a friendship on hold if it’s become too emotionally draining. Are you a bad friend if you decide you’re not willing to hear about someone’s problems anymore? The intentions for this week are about being present for your own wedding and not having regrets about only having “once chance” at it. Finally, the triggered submissions include an unwanted baby shower, and an abrupt end to a relationship. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/18/20231 hour, 16 minutes, 25 seconds
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Do I Need To Stop Checking His Phone?

T-Swift Update: Dr. Naomi’s Taylor Swift tickets were in fact NOT fake, but that didn’t stop security from removing her family from the spot they reserved. Jordana talks about the pros and cons of preparing for the worst outcome, and why it can affect your overall satisfaction. Then they respond to an emailer whose boyfriend lost her trust after a case of infidelity, and now his mom is getting involved. Is this rooted in her decision to check his phone, or a deeper issue in the relationship? The Betchicist question comes from a listener who is dating someone with kids, and wants to know how to broach the subject of actually meeting the kids for the first time. This week’s intentions session features a voicemail from a listener who is proactively preparing for motherhood while also single and dating. How do you stop fixating on the timeline you’ve set for motherhood? Finally, the triggered submissions include unwanted pregnancy comments and a tricky family dynamic. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/11/20231 hour, 14 minutes, 26 seconds
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When “Being Supportive” Turns Emotionally Draining

Did Dr. Naomi just get scammed into buying fake Taylor Swift tickets? Probably not, but Jordana has her second guessing anyway (what else are sisters for??). They kick things off with an email from a listener whose therapist isn’t giving her enough guidance for how to go through with a breakup. Naomi gives some practical exercises for preparing yourself to break the news. Then they read a Betchicist email from a listener who wants to know if it’s insensitive to drink alcohol around a sober family member. This week’s intention-setting exercise involves emotionally draining phone calls with a family member who has taken on the role of caregiver. Can you still serve as a support system without taking on too much emotional burden? Finally, the triggered submissions include an unwanted baby shower, and an abrupt end to a relationship. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/4/20231 hour, 19 minutes, 22 seconds
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How To Deal With A Jealous Family Member

What are you supposed to do when a family member gets jealous of quality time spent without them? Jordana and Dr. Naomi start the show with an email from a listener whose mom inevitably gets jealous whenever she spends time with the in-laws. Then another listener writes in with a Betchicist story about her husband hiding a major health issue from her for over fourteen months. What does it say about your relationship if you can’t be honest with your partner about something as important as your health? This week’s intention-setting exercise is all about trying to find consistency and establish good habits in your daily life. Is it possible to “skip” your goals and still make progress? Finally, the triggered submissions include a couple’s fight over splitting the bill, and a new friend who doesn’t include you in other plans. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/28/20231 hour, 14 minutes, 46 seconds
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Dealing with Fundamental Differences in a Relationship

Can you prevent resentment from forming in your relationship? Jordana and Naomi start off with this week’s Oversharing email from a listener who is firm in her decision to not have children, but she is worried her boyfriend might resent her in the future if they stay together. They move on to the Betchicist submission from a “Betch Craving Quality Friend Time’’. Should you try and keep your friend group and partner separate? Or is there a way to blend the two together? Then, Naomi offers an Intention to a listener who is preparing for the loss of her beloved pet, Darcy. When you know there will be a grieving period ahead, how do you best prepare? To end, they rate some Triggered submissions about a hungry papa bear and the expiration date on privacy. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/21/20231 hour, 12 minutes, 24 seconds
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How To Get Over Making A Bad Decision

Jordana and Naomi are back with an Oversharing email from a listener who is feeling lost after her therapist terminated their session. Jordana then asks Naomi if she’s ever had to break up with a client. The Betchicist topic this week is from “One Regretful Betch’’. Can she ask her ex-situationship to delete her nudes without feeling remorseful? Then, they move on to Naomi’s intention segment, where she offers some advice to a pre-med student who is contemplating leaving her friend group. Can she “consciously uncouple” with her friend group? Or should she wait for them to break up with her? To close, they rate some Triggered scenarios about two dates, a cheap one and a sneaky one. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/14/20231 hour, 16 minutes, 42 seconds
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How To Deal With A Friend Who Is More Invested Than You

Does the chase feel better than the actual relationship? Naomi and Jordana start off with an Oversharing email from a listener who seems to “always fall for unavailable men’’. Then, for this week’s Betchicist a new mom is struggling to decide how soon is too soon to drop a new friendship. Should she feel guilty about de-friending a fellow mom? Another (soon to be) mom reached out for an Intention to help her feel more comfortable in her changing body. Naomi offers her the advice of finding your body’s meaningful purpose. They close out with a pair of triggered submissions about an old work bestie and a worried work dad. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/7/20231 hour, 11 minutes, 51 seconds
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Is It “Limerence” Or True Love?

Does love at first sight really exist? And what’s the difference between love and limerence? Jordana and Dr. Naomi start the show with a conversation about the concept of limerence and why romantic obsession doesn’t always lead to lasting love. Then an emailer writes in to ask how to address changing your pronouns when you’re in a committed relationship. How do you deal with a partner who isn’t comfortable with the idea of change? This week’s Betchicist question comes from a listener whose fiancé comments on other women’s bodies, despite requests to stop. Is it okay to regulate someone’s commentary, even if it’s a reflection of their own disordered thoughts? The intention-setting moment of the week is all about dwelling on everything you say and do at work, for fear of how you’re perceived. Is there a good way to let go of these anxious feelings? Finally, they answer a pair of Triggered submissions about a noisy cat and a poorly-timed pregnancy announcement. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/28/20231 hour, 14 minutes, 55 seconds
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Will I Ever Get Over Losing A Friend?

When a loved one is upset, what’s the best way to help them feel better? Jordana and Naomi start by discussing an article about the best ways to provide emotional support and how to start a conversation when you’re at a loss for words. They move on to this week’s Overhearing email from a listener who is grieving the end of a friendship. Next, they read a Betchicist about trying to get the most out of a family vacation. Naomi, provides an intention to a self-sabotaging listener and they end by rating some Triggered submissions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/21/20231 hour, 25 minutes, 43 seconds
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Valentine’s Day: How To Avoid A Single Spiral

Does Valentine’s Day exist just to make single people feel lonely? Jordana and Dr. Naomi starts the show with a conversation about how Valentine’s day actually feels when you’re in a relationship (hint: it’s not a big deal) and why you shouldn’t fixate on being single this time around. Then an emailer writes in to ask how she should address her roommate’s casual relationship with an older man. Is it okay to judge someone else’s relationship even though they insist it’s not a problem for them? The Betchicist question comes from a listener who is forced to attend her sister’s wedding while single. Is it unethical to bring up your feelings of insecurity even though it may taint the bride’s big day? The intention-setting moment of the week is all about addressing your fears during pregnancy. Finally, they tackle some Triggered scenarios about non-apologies and lies of omission. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/14/20231 hour, 10 minutes, 51 seconds
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How To Move On After Getting Laid Off

When is it appropriate to air your dirty laundry on social media, and when is it best to keep your grievances offline? Jordana and Dr. Naomi start the week with a story about cheating, Facebook posts, and why you may come to regret putting someone on blast. Then a listener writes in to ask for advice on how to bounce back after losing their job. How do you keep your mental health in check and avoid spiraling when you have so much time on your hands? Next, they answer a Betchicist question from a listener whose husband is insecure about gaining weight. Is there any way to kindly encourage someone to make different health choices without coming off as judgmental or unsupportive? This week’s intentions involve a text-breakup and finding closure after a long term relationship ends. Finally, they answer a pair of Triggered scenarios about going to dinner without your partner and dealing with a “momzilla” trying to plan your wedding. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/7/20231 hour, 16 minutes, 44 seconds
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How To Shut Down An Oversharer

Jordana and Dr. Naomi start the week with a question about the best way to maintain positivity with daily affirmations. Is it better to list the “good moments” you experience each day or to focus on a list of things you’re thankful for? Then a listener emails in to ask about a neighbor’s unreasonable noise complaints. How do you navigate a tense relationship with a neighbor without letting it ruin your peace of mind? Then another emailer asks how to tell her sister that she overshares too many details about her sex life. Is there a tactful way to dial back someone’s sex convos without hurting their feelings? The intention-setting exercise for the week is all about a serial-cheating ex and putting things behind you. Finally, they tackle some Triggered scenarios about a catty cousin and an overbearing couple-friends. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/31/20231 hour, 12 minutes, 36 seconds
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Why Can't I Commit To A Fifth Date? Ft. Jared Freid

In an Oversharing first, Jordana invites her U Up? co-host Jared Freid for a dating therapy session with Dr. Naomi. They walk through Jared’s dating challenges, including why it’s so hard to get past the first few dates, and where his mind goes to when it’s time to end things. They talk about his dating habits and history, how his role as a podcast host affects his decision-making, and whether or not people are as upset about ending things after 3 dates as they are after 3 months. Plus, Naomi tells us how the trauma of past relationships inform our decision making with new people. Finally, they rate a pair of Triggered submissions about an inconsiderate mom and people who refuse to pronounce your name right. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/24/20231 hour, 29 minutes, 10 seconds
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Is Honesty More Important Than Friendship?

Jordana and Naomi start the week with an article about how creating time to call your loved ones can lead to happiness. But what if you have the opposite problem? The Oversharing email of the week comes from a listener whose in laws call and text multiples times a week without fail. Is there a way to make yourself less accessible to family without hurting any feelings? Then, this week’s Betchicist submission is all about weighing the consequences of placing the truth over trying to remain nice to a friend. Next, they discuss a recent TikTok trend called the “Lucky Girl Syndrome”. Is it possible for a positive affirmation trend to become toxic? To close things out, they rate some Triggered submissions about copycats and miscommunications. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/17/20231 hour, 13 minutes
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Why Is “Fairness” So Important To Us?

Did somebody say White Elephant? Jordana and Dr. Naomi are back from the holidays and swap stories about the highlights of their own gift swaps. Speaking of lavish gifts, our first email of the day comes from a listener whose sister-in-law lives a lavish lifestyle funded by her wealthy parents, leading to feelings of resentment. Why do we feel the need to compare ourselves to others? And is our pursuit of “fairness” just keeping us focused on what we don’t have? Then another listener emails in with a Betchicist question about whether or not it’s worth holding her wedding at a family home even if it will inevitably lead to some serious drama. Should you consider choosing the perfect venue, even if it means that some people won’t be willing to attend? They dive into some intentions-setting for a new mother that’s about to return from maternity leave and struggling with the transition. How should you set intentions for creating a healthy work-family balance without feeling guilty? Finally, the triggered submissions come from a listener who found a list of her negative traits on her boyfriend’s phone, and another from a caller whose friend ripped off her wedding ring design. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/10/20231 hour, 8 minutes, 47 seconds
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Breaking An Anxious Attachment Style

Jordana starts off this episode by asking Naomi about how she feels now that her kids have cell phones. The Oversharing email of the week is from a listener struggling with anxious attachment. Jordana shares her own similar experiences and how anxiety creates the illusion that everything is personal. They answer a Betchicist about feeling bad for ghosting a situationship. Which leads to the bigger question of, how plugged in should we be? Then, they offer an intention for an “Unlikable Betch”. How do you overcome the feeling that no one likes you? Finally, they rate some Triggered scenarios about a gift withdrawal and a harsh critique from a supervisor. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/3/20231 hour, 19 minutes, 16 seconds
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Can I Set Boundaries Without Being Rude?

For the final episode of 2022, Jordana and Naomi start off by chatting about how the end of the year is a great time for reflection. They jump into an Overshare email about a mother who is anxious when spending time with family due to her and her SIL’s difference in parenting styles. Is there a way to change your mindset before family time? They move on to this week’s Betchicist from a listener who doesn’t want to be rude, but can’t stand staying at her boyfriend’s parent’s house due to its uncleanliness. Naomi reassures that it’s okay to want a physical space that you can go to and regroup. Then, they create an intention for a listener who feels guilty that they are far away from their loved ones. To close out the episode, they read some Triggered submissions about choosing your friends over your partner and a noisy mother. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/27/20221 hour, 2 minutes, 4 seconds
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Does “Manifesting” Actually Work?

Jordana starts the week by uncovering one of her ghosts of Christmas past, and Naomi explains why it may be relevant to all of us. The Oversharing email of the week comes from a listener who is curious about the difference between manifesting vs. reality. Naomi advises that what you pay attention to in your own mind is where your reality lives, so “don’t bullsh*t yourself”. Next, they read a Betchicist email from a listener who was given sensitive information from their mother-in-law. Should they ignore the elephant in the room when everyone is together for the holidays? They offer some intention-setting help to a “worried Betch” who believes something terrible will happen to their loved ones. To close, they rate a pair of triggered submissions about blind dates and pushed boundaries. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/20/20221 hour, 7 minutes, 36 seconds
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How To Detach Single-ness From Attractiveness

Resolution season is right around the corner, so Jordana and Naomi start the week with another intention-setting email from a listener who’s looking to find a more healthy narrative about why she’s single. They tell us why being single may not be as connected to attractiveness as you think, and why attraction is more subjective than any of us realize. Then another listener writes in to ask why her husband keeps asking her to do “Dry January” even though she’s made it clear that she doesn’t want to stop drinking for a whole month. Is this a veiled attempt to get her to curb her drinking, or is he simply unwilling to accept that she won’t go along with his every request? The Betchicist scenario involves a marital dispute over relocating to a warmer climate in the Winter, which necessitates lying about their dog being a service animal. Is this really about the animal, or an excuse from someone who doesn’t want to leave town in the first place? Finally, the Triggered scenarios involve a revelation about a friend who cheated, and another about not being allowed to ever be in a bad mood. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/13/20221 hour, 11 minutes, 38 seconds
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How Do I Avoid Becoming My Parents?

What’s more relatable than having to deal with difficult parents? Jordana and Naomi start the week by revisiting their deepest parental fears from childhood. Then a listener writes in to ask how to deal with a father who refuses to consider the feelings of others, and a mother who often flies off the handle. How do you avoid turning into your own parents, and what’s the best approach to dealing with a difficult parent? Another emailer writes in with a Betchicist question about feeling jealous of your own sister’s happy relationship. Is it okay to feel envious of someone close to you even though you know you should be happy for them? Then a listener calls into the Oversharing hotline with some intention-setting about silencing negative self-talk and finding contentment in life. Finally, they dive into some Triggered submissions about getting shamed for a workplace affair, and another about delaying your own honeymoon. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/6/20221 hour, 10 minutes, 43 seconds
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How To Move Past A Moment Of Rejection

Did you wait all day for Taylor Swift tickets, only to have your dreams dashed? Same. Jordana and Naomi talk about the Taylor Swift presale fiasco and tell us why it’s okay to feel frustration and disappointment about something as trivial as concert tickets. Then a previous emailer writes in with an update about clearing the air with her future sisters-in-law over feelings of exclusion. Communication is key, as they say. Another emailer writes in to ask how to deal with feelings of disappointment after getting rejected from a dream job. How do you move past rejection when everyone around you knows how much you wanted it? The Betchicist question comes from a listener who can’t help but overshare her story of growing up with an alcoholic father whenever the subject comes up. Is it better to let the floodgates of honesty stay open even though it may make people uncomfortable, or shut it down at the risk of returning to a place of secrecy? Next, they respond to an Intentions email from someone who is learning to trust their own decision-making. Finally, the Triggered scenarios involve the desire to “own” your anniversary weekend, and a brother-in-law who doesn’t even know your name. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/29/20221 hour, 23 minutes, 54 seconds
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Is It Okay That I Want My Partner To Make More Money?

Dr. Naomi is back from the top bunk at sleep-away camp and Jordana finds out how it went (the white noise machine in the moms cabin was working overtime). Then a listener calls into the Oversharing hotline with a voicemail about setting boundaries with her boyfriend’s mom now that they’re living in the same town. What should you do when you suddenly get stuck answering all the tough questions on behalf of your partner? An emailer asks what to do about her husband declaring his intent to quit his corporate job and become a teacher. How does she come to terms with the lifestyle change that will coincide with his pursuit of a fulfilling career? Next, it’s time for some intention-setting: a listener writes in asking for guidance on properly setting intentions, including how to let the little comments go and shift your thoughts when you start to think the worst is going to happen. Finally, they dig into some Triggered scenarios involving disparaging work-from-home comments and an insensitive roommate in your time of need. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/22/20221 hour, 18 minutes, 59 seconds
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Will I Ever Find My Happy Ending?

It’s only been a week and Jordana’s social media break is over, leading to a conversation about feeling triggered by other people’s IG posts. Then they dive into an email from a listener who regrets her life choices from the past decade and feels like her chance at happiness is already over by her mid-30’s. How do we rewrite our own story and take control of our destiny without getting discouraged? Next, the Betchicist email is all about reaching back out to someone you have wronged. When is it okay to be the ex who pops back in with an apology? Finally, they tackle some Triggered questions about an airline seat dispute, a mother who won’t listen, and a tardy engagement gift. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/15/20221 hour, 1 minute, 40 seconds
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Is Learning “How To Struggle” The Key To Success?

When is it time to take a break from social media? Jordana found herself deleting the Instagram app from her phone this weekend (just taking a break, don’t worry) and Naomi tells us why it’s okay to take a step away depending on your headspace. Then a listener calls into the Oversharing hotline with a question about fearing that she’ll become the “default parent” once she and her husband start having kids. How do you set expectations that you won’t end up shouldering too much of the parenting mental load? Plus, Naomi tells us why teaching someone “how to struggle” may be the secret to raising a successful child. Next, the Betchicist question is all about differing philosophies for how to throw a party. Is it okay to expect your guests to respect your traditions, even if they feel uncomfortable doing things your way? They finish things up with some Triggered scenarios including a forgotten birthday, an unsolicited plastic surgery offer, and getting called “sweetie” at work. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/8/20221 hour, 27 minutes, 4 seconds
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Help! I Don’t Have Any Friends

How do people actually find a therapist they like? Is everyone just sticking with the first therapist they find, or is it better to hunt around until someone sticks? Jordana and Naomi start with a convo about intention-setting and the challenge of searching for a good match in therapy. Then a listener writes in with an Overshare email all about flaky friends and the struggle to find meaningful friendships. What do you do if you’re feeling lonely and struggling to make friends you can rely on? Next, they answer a Betchicist email from a kosher bride whose in-laws insist on serving bacon at her after-wedding brunch. Do you have the right to dictate the menu at an event you’re not paying for? They close the show with a trio of Triggered scenarios including a forgotten birthday, an unsolicited plastic surgery offer, and getting called “sweetie” at work. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/1/20221 hour, 16 minutes, 7 seconds
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How To Change Your Attachment Style

How do you stop yourself from spiraling? This week, Jordana and Naomi start with an email from a listener who is convinced her boyfriend might break up with her. Jordana opens up about what helped her overcome her own struggles with attachment and change her attachment style. Is the key to strengthening relationships to remind yourself you’ll be able to take care of yourself no matter what? Next, they read a Betchicist email from a listener who is worried her friend might be in a toxic relationship. How do you provide space for others to share their true emotions without passing judgment? Finally, they answer a trio of Triggered submissions about a possible wedding crasher, a future Grandpa, and a boyfriend’s wandering eye. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/25/20221 hour, 11 minutes, 46 seconds
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Is The Division Of Parenting Labor Destined To Be Unequal?

Jordana Abraham and Dr. Naomi Bernstein are back for another special crossover episode of Betches Moms and the Oversharing podcast. This week they’re talking about parents who struggle to split the “mental load” equally and what to do when there’s an imbalance. They share examples of splitting duties with your partner, as well as examples of the unseen emotional weight that one parent often takes on. Plus, they offer some practical tips for finding balance in the division of labor and sharing the mental load. Finally, they read a listener-submitted No Mom Guilt all about taking a moment away from your kids to look out for yourself. Are children better off if they learn to spend time away from their parents? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/24/202239 minutes, 33 seconds
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Are Psychedelics Useful In Therapy?

What’s the deal with psychedelics and psychotherapy? Jordana and Naomi are joined by Dr. Michelle Weiner to talk all about cannabis and ketamine-assisted psychotherapy. They start with a convo about Naomi and Dr. Weiner’s close friendship as teenagers, and what it’s like to reconnect after so many years apart. Then Dr. Weiner walks us through the process of drug-assisted therapy, including why it’s helpful (gotta drop that ego somehow), how she administers treatment safely, and when it’s the right option for a patient. Plus, they talk about other psychedelic therapy treatments, and what people are looking to get out of these therapy sessions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/18/20221 hour, 14 minutes
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How Unhealthy Is Social Media For Kids?

In this special crossover episode with Betches Moms and Oversharing, hosts Jordana Abraham and Dr Naomi Bernstein talk all about parenthood, changing social dynamics, and how long we should wait before exposing kids to social media. From TikTok to Instagram (and everything in between) Naomi shares her experience with setting boundaries, and they explore whether or not it’s a losing battle for parents. They also talk about how things have changed since this generation of parents were kids, and what the equivalent of social media used to be. Finally, they read a listener’s No Mom Guilt email all about putting your kids in organized sports. Are we living vicariously through our kids, or just trying to give them a chance to have the same experiences we had? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/17/202231 minutes, 37 seconds
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Is It A Betrayal To Air Your Relationship Dirty Laundry?

Jordana is still on island time –sorry the Hawaii vacation is over– and Naomi welcomes her back with a debrief of the latest U Up? With Benefits episode she caught. Then a listener calls in to the Oversharing hotline with a question about venting to your friends and family about your relationship. How much can you air your dirty laundry before it becomes something you’ll regret? They debate the pros and cons of sharing your relationship frustrations when it may be difficult to walk back your comments later on. Plus, they discuss the danger of coming off as insincere if you fail to disclose enough about relationship struggles. Then they dive into a Betchicist question about trying to recover from an experience of emotional betrayal with a partner. A listener writes in with a story about her husband’s nicotine addiction having a traumatic impact on her birth experience, and why she can’t seem to get over it. Finally, they tackle a trio of Triggered scenarios about a boyfriend talking in his sleep, a bride-to-be’s mom making a rude joke, and a boyfriend who charges rent. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/11/20221 hour, 8 minutes, 8 seconds
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How to Maintain Friendships Without Gossiping

This week, both Naomi and Jordana share about their recent relaxing getaways. However, Jordana explains how she had a hard time sleeping over the weekend and how she became frustrated when implementing sleep meditation didn’t seem to help. Naomi explains that meditation isn’t a way to manipulate your reality, but a tool to embrace it. This week’s Oversharing email, comes from a listener who wants to know if her partner’s anger management issues should be a marriage deal breaker. Both Jordana and Naomi remind the listener that all “positive” qualities come with equally “negative” qualities. Which ones are you willing to tolerate forever? Next, they read a Betchicist email where a listener’s friend group can’t stop gossiping. Is there a way to resist the temptation to gossip? She worries that if the “exciting” parts of their chats are taken away, their conversations will become stale and boring. They close with a few Triggered scenarios about forgetful in-laws, unsupportive friends, and therapist deal breakers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/4/20221 hour, 9 minutes, 56 seconds
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A Good Compromise Is Where Both People Are Unhappy

This week, Naomi was inspired to stop covering her gray hair which sparks the conversation about accepting yourself for who you truly are. The Oversharing email of the week is from a listener who is weighing her options for how to juggle spending Christmas with her and her husband’s family. Both Naomi and Jordana agree that she will have to focus on finding the best compromise rather than fighting to keep her childhood traditions alive. They move on to a Betchicist submission where a listener asks - can you tell your boyfriend that it bothers you he doesn’t pay for more things? How can you go about it without sounding “old fashioned"? They end on some Triggered scenarios around others discouraging your weight-loss journey, feeling left out, and nosy geriatric patients. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/27/20221 hour, 9 minutes, 14 seconds
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Coming to Terms with Feelings of Jealousy

This week, Jordana gives updates on giving the cold shower assignment a shot. Naomi then explains that when you give yourself the option to resist something you will, so practicing an “Acceptance Mindset” is great protection against resistance. This week’s Oversharing Voicemail is from a listener who’s having fertility struggles. They help her break down the intrusive thoughts that can accompany infertility. Next, they read a Betchicist email from a listener who is figuring out how to tell her best friend she hates their partner. They end on some Triggered submissions about having an estranged father-daughter relationship, being called “old” by a Gen-Zer, and a father-of-the-bride speech gone wrong. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/20/20221 hour, 22 minutes, 16 seconds
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Can We Find Happiness In Being Single? Ft. Almost 30

Did Jordana complete her cold shower assignment from last week? Maybe not, but she did learn a valuable lesson from the experience anyway. Naomi explains how our ability to vocalize discomfort reflects our level of assertiveness. In this week’s Overshare, a listener is feeling obligated to maintain friendships and if she should be the fist one to “crack the pack”. They bring on the show’s very first guests, Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik of Almost 30. Naomi is eager to talk about finding a sacredness in being single. Can we as a society find happiness in our individual accomplishments? Or will we always think our happiness is weighted in our relationships? They end on Triggered submissions about a mom’s unnecessary facebook comment, a flakey friend, and a sh*t talking sister-in-law. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/13/20221 hour, 31 minutes, 34 seconds
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Friend Breakups: How To Find Closure

How do you strike the right balance between assertiveness and complacency? Jordana and Naomi start the show with a conversation about becoming more or less aggressive in daily interactions, along with some tips for getting outside your comfort zone. The essie Overshare email of the week comes from a listener whose close friend suddenly withdrew from the relationship back in college, leaving her feeling left out. Now that she’s back in close proximity, should she reach out and find closure, or leave things in the past? Next, they debate a challenging Betchicist question: is it okay to be disappointed by your partner’s plan for your milestone birthday, even if you hijacked their idea and paid for it yourself? How do we find satisfaction in our relationships and stop focusing on the negative? Finally, the Triggered scenarios involve a Tennis match betrayal, a disappointing breakup, and an overreach in couples therapy. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor essie. For more information, visit: essie.com/colors-and-connection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/6/20221 hour, 17 minutes, 50 seconds
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The Secret To Finding Meaningful Connections

Has the rise of social media left everyone feeling lonelier than ever? Jordana and Naomi tackle this challenging question and try to figure out why we often feel less connected, even when our online interactions are on the rise. Naomi offers some lessons from the group therapy sessions she leads, and they talk about the way the pandemic has affected introverts. They also discuss the way friends are made and maintained early in life compared to when you hit your 30’s and 40’s. Why is it so hard to make new friends as you get older, and how do you even meet new people anyway? Jordana shares her experience with traveling and breaking outside of her comfort zone. Finally, they offer some tips for spending quality time and finding your “friendship pickup line” at the salon. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor essie. For more information, visit: essie.com/colors-and-connection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/1/202235 minutes
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How To Stop Texting Your Ex

Naomi and Jordana begin the week with a conversation about the transition from relying on your childhood family to starting a family of your own. Then they read the essie Overshare email of the week from a listener who is still texting an ex more than a year after the breakup. Is she really missing the ex, or is the loneliness she’s feeling driving her to miss the attachment? Naomi walks us through a visualization exercise for comforting your child-self (and healing our childhood attachment issues) along with a strategy for enlisting a friend to help resist the urge to reach out. This week’s Betchicist email comes from a single 30-something year-old woman who’s fed up with the societal pressure to get married and have kids. Naomi and Jordana wish there was an equal focus on celebrating partnership and other life accomplishments like success at work. They close things with a trio of Triggered submissions about an embarrassing Facebook pic, wedding photo drama, and a ring shopping insult. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor essie. For more information, visit: essie.com/colors-and-connection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/30/20221 hour, 9 minutes, 46 seconds
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How To Fix A Fading Friendship

It’s back to school season so Jordana and Naomi start the show with a conversation about whether or not having kids really makes you happy (the answer: yes and no). The essie Overshare email of the week comes from a listener who needs help with a long term friendship that’s on the rocks because of distance. Is a simple phone call all it takes to repair tension in a meaningful relationship? And should we stop relying on a text to say all that we need to say? The Betchicist email involves a soon-to-be-married couple that wants to adopt three children… but can they afford the expense? Jordana and Naomi debate whether or not it’s your place as a sister to offer an opinion on the decision to adopt. Then they finish the week with some Triggered scenarios, including body comments at the gym, inconsiderate parents, and a thoughtless friend. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor essie. For more information, visit: essie.com/colors-and-connection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/23/20221 hour, 6 minutes, 22 seconds
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Why “I’m Never Speaking to You Again” Isn’t The Answer

On today’s Oversharing, Naomi tells Jordana a story about her recent massage experience with a masseuse who went MIA for a little too long. Turns out a therapist off duty is still a therapist—the masseuse was going through it. Then it’s time for the essie Overshare email of the week, which comes from a listener who is feeling lonely and disconnected from family members even when she’s visiting her childhood home. How do you reconnect with loved ones when you’ve begun to drift apart? In this week’s Betchicist, a listener asks what to do about her mother’s pattern of being the “other woman.” How do you navigate a relationship with a family member whose choices you don’t agree with? They close with a game of Triggered, including parents who won’t go the extra mile, a mother-in-law who wants to be called ‘mom,’ and a listener whose husband wants a framed photo of him and his ex-wife in her home. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor essie. For more information, visit: essie.com/colors-and-connection Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/16/20221 hour, 11 minutes, 11 seconds
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How To Deal With Post-Breakup Anger

In an Oversharing first, Jordana and Naomi record the show in-studio together. They start off with a conversation about being half-siblings and their complicated family tree. Next, they respond to an email from a listener who can’t help but feel like she wasted two years of her life in a relationship. Will she ever get over it? They talk about the therapeutic value of writing an angry letter to an ex—but never sending it—and why it helps you to reflect on what went wrong. For the Betchcist email, a writer asks if she can control who her kid is friends with. Naomi knows this feeling all too well—she suggests a psychological technique called “motivational interviewing” where the kid highlights the negatives of the relationship and comes to a realization about it themselves. Finally, this week’s triggered submissions include being called the wrong name, a vow renewal soon after a wedding, and judgements about how you raise your kids. Check out the Hung Up podcast here: Hung Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/9/20221 hour, 10 minutes, 11 seconds
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How Men And Women Argue Differently

Jordana and Naomi start the week with an email from a listener who feels like she can’t approach her partner with open communication because he gets too defensive. How do you navigate conflict with someone who escalates quickly and can’t deal with criticism? Plus, they talk about fights that arise from being on your phone too much, and how we often fight differently than our partner. For the Betchicist email, a listener writes in about a family feud and her complicated feelings about reconnecting with family members she hasn’t seen in years—would that be disloyal to her immediate family? Finally, the Triggered scenarios include an over-tired daughter, a friend who wants to call “dibs” on a guy she likes, and a couple who needs a new solution to a repeat argument. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/2/20221 hour, 15 minutes, 9 seconds
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Should I Stop Doomscrolling?

This week’s Oversharing starts with a listener email about an all-too-common source of anxiety these days: mass shootings and the safety of our loved ones. A listener writes in with a question about how to cope with a child going off to school for the first time during a time where shootings are constantly in the news, igniting feelings of fear and anxiety. How much caution do we need to exercise, and how much should we limit our exposure to anxiety-inducing information? Then Jordana and Naomi read this week’s Betchicist submission from a listener who got iced out by her sister after serving as her de facto nanny for years. How do you set new boundaries when a family member becomes too demanding? And how do you weigh your own needs for validation and autonomy against the needs of young children? Finally, they close with some Triggered scenarios about family members following an ex, animals after a breakup, and a lazy member of the group chat. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/26/20221 hour, 16 minutes, 37 seconds
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Signs You Need To Spice Things Up Vs Leave The Relationship

Naomi and Jordana respond to FAQs in their DMs with an in-depth conversation about getting into therapy. Jordana shares her personal experience with trying therapy for the first time in her 20’s, and makes some suggestions for how to get into it yourself. Pro-tip: your therapist should address it if you’re late. Naomi discusses the importance of chemistry between therapist and client, and provides insight about the importance of self-care as a therapist. Then Naomi and Jordana discuss their therapy guidelines—Is it okay for your friends or family to see the same therapist as you? What is and isn’t a conflict of interest? Next, they respond to a listener who worries she’s settling down too early with her long-term boyfriend. Anyone else love date night? Drawing from their personal lives, Naomi and Jordana share how they keep things exciting with their own partners. Then, the Betchicist email sparks a conversation about verbalizing boundaries in relationships and the definition of monogamy. Finally, the Triggered submissions include a discussion of how to react when someone makes a rude comment, sharing news of an engagement with an ex, and projecting insecurities onto a date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/19/20221 hour, 15 minutes, 3 seconds
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Your Guide To Guided Meditation

Jordana and Naomi are doing things a little differently today: instead of their usual convo, Naomi leads Jordana and listeners through a guided meditation (feel free to follow along). They discuss different kinds of meditation, and the best approach for listeners on the go. Naomi defines some key terms frequently thrown around (like ‘mindfulness’ and ‘mantra’) before sharing some tips and tricks for being mindful in your everyday life. Jordana uses her personal experience to provide insight into using meditation practices (yes, counting sheep is a thing) and relaxing her mind before bed. Then a listener writes in about getting fired from her job, and they give advice on how to move forward. Finally, this week’s Triggered covers the frustration of wanting to be invited to the events you don’t even want to go to. Stay tuned for next week where they’ll discuss tips for finding the right therapist. Check out the Hung Up podcast here: Hung Up Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/12/20221 hour, 11 minutes, 43 seconds
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How To Allow Yourself To Really Feel Your Feelings

Jordana and Naomi start the week with some tips for allowing yourself to feel your feelings and stop avoiding them with distractions. Naomi offers a great explanation of why it’s okay to lean into the physical feelings of emotion (painful as they may be). Then a listener writes in to ask how to cope with a recent failed relationship and find a sense of hope for the future. They examine a list of “qualities we want to find in a relationship” that she received from her therapist. Should we all examine our list of qualities that we’re looking for in a partner, or is it better to let things come naturally? Then another listener emails with a challenging Betchicist question: at what point is it okay to ask your future spouse to start therapy before getting married? In this case, is it fair to ask her boyfriend to confront his complicated feelings toward his mother? Finally, they close with a game of Triggered featuring a trio of tense situations resulting in anxiety, embarrassment, and a little jealousy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/5/20221 hour, 5 minutes, 46 seconds
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Can A Relationship Survive After Cheating?

Before getting into the heavy stuff, Jordana and Naomi begin the episode a convo about meditation. Naomi tells us about the importance of regular practice, while Jordana reflects on the difficulty of keeping it up. Then they dive into a discussion on cheating in relationships, and Naomi shares her thoughts on the age-old adage: “once a cheater, always a cheater.” They talk about reactions to cheating on both sides, and the importance of therapy in dealing with those emotions. This week’s Overshare comes from a listener who recently found out her serious boyfriend has cheated on all of his exes. About to enter a period of long-distance due to work, she questions whether her anxiety about his infidelity is valid, and how she can overcome it. The Betchicist email comes from a listener who is concerned her best friend’s boyfriend may be cheating. Should she bring it up, or let the situation unfold on its own? Finally, this week’s Triggered submissions address an airplane close encounter, nasty comments about an ex post-breakup, and being told you’re “punching above your looks.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/28/20221 hour, 8 minutes, 38 seconds
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How To Confront A Toxic Family Dynamic

Jordana starts the show with a story about having a positive customer service interaction (thanks to some great advice from the listeners). Then they dive into a conversation about setting the scene for a difficult conversation, and Naomi tells us what “doorknob comments” are in therapy. A listener calls in with an advice question about a toxic family dynamic involving her brother-in-law, and asks how to approach the relationship with her sister going forward. How do you share your true feelings without alienating a loved one? The Betchicist email of the week comes from a listener who has a family reunion planned but now feels pressured to miss it for a work obligation. Finally, the Triggered submissions include a know-it-all friend, a thoughtless boyfriend, and some relationship envy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/21/20221 hour, 16 minutes, 45 seconds
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How Obligated Should You Feel To Express Your Political Opinions On Social Media?

Jordana starts off this week by sharing about her recent work in becoming more grounded, and Naomi reveals how slowing down can actually help in preventing the urge to overshare. Then they respond to a listener voicemail all about how the urge to mention her relationship history too early has backfired. Why do we often feel the need to divulge too much, too early? Next they read a Betchicist email from a listener who is feeling pressure from her sister to express outraged on social media about social justice movements. Lastly, they end on a game of Triggered covering how to respond when someone else comments on your body image, being the “learning experience” child, and how to feel when you’re not invited to your own parent’s party. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/14/20221 hour, 23 minutes, 10 seconds
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Am I Trapped In A Social Media Trance?

Naomi starts the week with a confession about falling into a social media spiral after starting the podcast, and Jordana shares her own experience with seeking approval in the podcast review page. Then a listener writes in about a friendship that turned tense after becoming roommates. How do you go about repairing a damaged relationship, especially when you live together? Plus, they talk about the challenge of airing your dirty laundry to mutual friends when it could come back to bite you. Next, they debate the Betchicist email of the week from a listener who found out a friend cheated on an exam. Is it your duty to turn a friend in, or are you obligated to keep their transgression a secret? Finally, they close things with a game of Triggered featuring a jealous spouse, an ever-present sibling, and a slighted co-worker. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/7/20221 hour, 8 minutes, 11 seconds
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Am I Losing My Friend To Her Baby?

This week starts with an audience response to Naomi and Jordana’s previous conversation about customer service, including some practical tips for how to make sure the interaction goes smoothly. Then they dive into the difficult topic of trying to maintain a meaningful relationship with a friend when they begin to have kids (and you don’t). The Overshare email of the week comes from a listener who feels left behind by a friend who recently had her first baby. Is it okay to feel resentful of the change? Then a listener sends in a challenging Betchicist question: should you call out a friend who is the “other woman” in a relationship, especially if you’ve been cheated on in the past. To close the show, they play a round of Triggered about backhanded compliments and feeling drained after work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/31/20221 hour, 28 minutes, 32 seconds
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How to Stop Comparing Your Life To Others

Jordana and Naomi start today’s Oversharing with a convo about allowing a friendship to be the primary relationship in your life (and how to reconnect when you begin to grow apart). Then they dive into the Overshare email of the week, all about comparing yourself to others and questioning your life decisions. Is there a trick to not falling into a spiral of envy? Then another listener writes in with a difficult Betchicist question: should you call out a friend for verbally abusing their romantic partner, or is it always better to keep it to yourself. Finally, they tackle a Triggered scenario about dating someone who is constantly negging you in subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways. Send your emails to oversharing@betches.com or leave us a voicemail at: (646) 363-6294 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/24/20221 hour, 9 minutes, 35 seconds
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How To Get Better At Taking Feedback

This week, Jordana and Naomi start by telling us why it’s so hard to take feedback sometimes (and how to tell your therapist what they could be doing differently). Then the Overshare email of the week comes from a listener whose fiancé has a family that feels like she’s stealing him away. Should she discuss the conflict directly with his family or let him handle it himself? Another emailer asks how to respond when her husband comments negatively about her body during pregnancy. Finally, they finish things out with another game of Triggered, including a check-grabbing opportunist, a mid-wedding proposal, and some awkward doggy-talk. Send your emails to oversharing@betches.com or leave us a voicemail at: (646) 363-6294 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/17/20221 hour, 12 minutes, 43 seconds
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How To Stop Sabotaging Your Own Relationship Success

Jordana and Naomi are back for week two of the podcast and start things off with a convo about one of the most common sources of aggravation we all share: customer service. Why does the person on the other end of the phone get under our skin so often? Then they tackle the equally relatable topic of self sabotage. The (long af) Overshare email of the week involves a listener who ended things with a guy that was giving her f*ckboy vibes, but now she’s wondering if her past relationship problems caused her to sabotage the whole thing. When should you trust your gut, and when should you ignore your own misgivings? Next, they discuss a “Betchicist” ethical question about listening to a roommate’s therapy session through the walls (and what to do when they’re the ones you’re talking about). Finally, the show closes with another round of Triggered featuring bad kissers, backhanded compliments, and inconvenient truths. Send your emails to oversharing@betches.com or leave us a voicemail at: (646) 363-6294 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/10/20221 hour, 17 minutes, 34 seconds
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Sometimes You Should Go To Bed Angry

In the first ever episode of Oversharing, sisters Jordana Abraham and Dr. Naomi Bernstein kick things off with a conversation about why they wanted to host a podcast together, and where their shared love of therapy comes from. Plus, they tell us who gives the better advice. Then they dive into the Overshare email of the week, all about going through a difficult friend breakup. What’s the best way to approach a close friend about why you’ve lost touch? Next, they discuss a fascinating article from Esther Perel about the idea of “unconditional love” and why it’s not always practical. Is the conventional wisdom about going to be bed angry always useful? Finally, they play a round of Triggered, featuring a trio of touchy subjects to unpack. Send your emails to oversharing@betches.com or leave us a voicemail at: (646) 363-6294 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/3/20221 hour, 20 minutes, 40 seconds
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Oversharing (Trailer)

Oversharing with Jordana Abraham and Dr. Naomi Bernstein premiers Tuesday, May 3rd, 2022! Follow us now on Spotify or Apple Podcasts to be the first to hear it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/25/20221 minute, 39 seconds