Jessica Baum, LMHC, is the founder of the Relationship Institute of Palm Beach, providing couples therapy, family counseling, and addiction therapy in South Florida for over 10 years. Her book Anxiously Attached helps people understand their attachment style and build an inner strength that will lead them to more secure and satisfying relationships. It is an empowering road map for those who struggle with anxiety in their romantic connections   She has helped thousands of clients with her unique approach to healing, the Self-full® Method. Through her sister company, Be Self-full®, Jessica offers transformational courses and online coaching services that support individuals and couples to form healthy, long-term relationships. Born and raised in Manhattan, she now lives in West Palm Beach, Florida. 

This coaching call is about why we play out childish patterns even though we are adults. Today’s caller, Caitlyn, lost her father as a teenager and still shames herself for the decisions she made shortly after. Christine walks her through the empty chair process so she can talk with her father about her feelings and actions.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode440].   Many of us can relate to doing things in our adult lives without understanding why we are doing them. We are often aware of what we are doing and we know better, but we can’t seem to change our behavior. That is our inner child repeating a pattern from when a trauma was formed. Plus, when we feel shame about something, it can make us want to isolate and not ask for help.   When we have a big trauma like losing our primary parent, or someone we are extremely close to, a part of our psyche gets frozen at that age. And, oftentimes, when we go through any type of loss we go into survival and we don’t give ourselves the time to grieve. If there is a loss you haven’t fully processed, you are encouraged to create a ceremony or set up an environment to help you fully grieve.   Are you ready to heal your inner child, set intentions, and reclaim your peace, purpose, and joy? If so, begin your 10-week journey on February 29th. Go to ChristineHassler.com/reconnect.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you find yourself doing things that are immature and you are not proud of yet you can't seem to stop? Did you have a trauma in your teenage years that is still impacting you on some level? Do you have regret, judgment, and shame about how you acted or reacted to things? Have you lost someone you love and would like to reconnect with them?   Caitlyn’s Question: Caitlyn struggles with telling untruths to the people who love and care about her. She asks for guidance on how to change her behavior.   Caitlyn’s Key Insights and Ahas: She stretches the truth and is embarrassed by it. She is 6-years clean from alcohol and drugs. She recently joined a fellowship. She feels shame and avoids people. She thinks people won’t like her if she is her true self. Her father passed away when she was in high school. She believes her father would be ashamed of her actions. She is scared that she has ruined her life. She may be frozen in time emotionally. She hasn’t fully grieved her father.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Do the empty chair process and have a conversation with her father. Realize she did the best she could given the circumstances. Grieve the loss of her father. Forgive herself for the decisions she made when she was 15.   Sponsor: Aquatru — purifies water using a four-stage reverse osmosis process. The countertop purifiers remove 15 times more contaminants than ordinary pitcher filters plus the water tastes fantastic. Their long-lasting and affordable filters are independently tested and certified to NSF standards to remove over 80% of the most harmful contaminants. Go to Aquatru.com and enter OVERIT at checkout to get 20% off any water purifier.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In this quickie episode Christine talks about the distinction between being strong and enduring. Often we are praised (and even praise ourselves) for being strong when in actuality we've just endured really hard stuff but suppressing and pushing through. True strength comes from allowing ourselves to completely fall apart.  Listen in for more!

This coaching call is about why we stay in relationships that are not for our highest good and how to have the courage to get out of them. Today’s caller, Em, has been married for four years. Both she and her partner have faltered in their commitments during that time. She asks Christine for guidance on whether or not to stay in the relationship.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode439].   As adults, we are attracted to different versions of our parents because the inner child is always seeking out resolution from our childhood wounding. Until we work on understanding where our subconscious programming comes from and why we choose what we choose, we continue the patterning until we can heal our inner child and give ourselves what we didn’t get in childhood.   When we eventually get to forgiveness, we are able to stop harboring guilt and shame. So when we do make mistakes, we can make clear agreements with ourselves to move forward in making better decisions for ourselves from a healed place.   And, when it comes to leaving any relationship, there is going to be a mixture of grief and relief. It’s totally natural. Grief passes when we are making decisions based on our highest good.   Are you ready to heal your inner child, set intentions, and reclaim your peace, purpose, and joy? If so, take advantage of early bird pricing and join Christine for a bonus call to begin your 10-week journey. Go to ChristineHassler.com/reconnect.   Em’s Question: Em is having issues in her relationship and would like to regain the stability to feel love again.   Em’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has been married for four years. Her relationship has lost its spark and intimacy. She is lonely. There is infidelity on both sides of the relationship. She is self-sabotaging. She is out of alignment with her values. She wants stability in her relationship. Her father cheated on her mother. She is attracted to partners that remind her of her father. Her mother was controlling and critical during her childhood. Her partner is not willing to make changes. Making clear decisions can be difficult for her.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Decide how much longer she is going to fight for her father’s love. Trust herself and choose herself. Be clear with her wife about where she is and what she needs to see if she is willing to show up for her.   Sponsor: Organifi— is the product of choice for those who want to feel healthy without much effort. Their gold blend helps the nervous system and the green and red juices are daily treats for people on the go. Visit organifi.com/Overit for 20% off or use the promo code OVERIT at checkout.   Caraway Cookware — Caraway products are toxicity-free, beautiful, and easy to clean and use. The cookware and bakeware sets have a chemical-free slick coating. The new stainless steel cookware set is a must-have. To upgrade your kitchenware in style and design, go to CarawayHome.com/Overit for 10% off and use the promo code OVERIT at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

I have a special treat for you this week...a guided visualization to connect or reconnect to your inner child. I also share about the 3 life changing results that happen when you do inner child work.   You can access the replays from the workshop here: https://christinehassler.com/joy/#signup

This coaching call is about believing you can have what you want. Today’s caller, Rebecca, grew up wondering if her mother’s love was conditional. She asks for guidance on how to believe she can get what she wants without her life always being one way or the other. This episode will resonate with you if you fear being disappointed and believe you are limited in what you can have in your life.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode438].   It is important that we challenge our thinking and realize when we are in either/or, then eliminate it. There are often many more options than we think there are. A lot of it comes from growing up in fear-based environments. When we grow up when there is dysregulation, very little reassurance, or when adults are not leading the family, and inconsistent messaging, there is a desire for certainty and we have a limited view of our possibilities. It also happens when we grow up in a strict household, or highly intellectual household where there isn’t a lot of room for creativity and imagination.   Do you engage in either/or thinking? Do you settle for something because you don’t believe you can have what you want?   When we believe we can have what we want and we settle into those places, we don’t have the fears that come with the limiting belief that we don’t deserve it or are not capable of it in some way.   We don’t need to be afraid of disappointment. Regret is way worse than risk. When we play it safe and we settle, we end up with regret.   Journey to Joy is a free three-day inner child workshop with Christine and Stefanos on February 6th ‒ 8th, 2024. Send an email to jill@christinehassler.com to get more information or go to ChristineHassler.com/joy to sign up.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Were you parentified as a child? Were there mixed messages in your home? Maybe, you felt loved but if you made a mistake, you doubted the love. Do you believe you can have what you want? Do you fear disappointment that you end up settling for things?   Rebecca’s Question: Rebecca is bouncing between states of being when making life decisions.   Rebecca’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is in survival mode when trying to make decisions. She feels low when she finally makes a decision. She is an emotionally sensitive person. She had to make sure her mother was doing well. Her mother was inconsistent about giving her love. She is in a relationship with someone who isn’t clear about how he feels about her. She doesn’t believe she can get what she wants. She dreads sharing her joy with her family. She has unprocessed anger and guilt. She wants to punish her family. She doesn’t fully apply herself to any one thing. She puts herself last. She tries to avoid disappointment. She believes she is unlovable.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Take action while believing she can have everything she wants. Check in with herself several times a day to see what she wants. Being disappointed is okay. Challenge her either/or thinking. Join the Inner Child Journey to Joy workshop.   Sponsor: Organifi— is the product of choice for those who want to feel healthy without much effort. Their gold blend helps the nervous system and the green and red juices are daily treats for people on the go. Visit organifi.com/Overit for 20% off and use the promo code OVERIT at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Today I unpack how your childhood imprinted your nervous system and mind which informs how you experience stress, anxiety and overwhelm. If you ever feel frustrated that you experience these feelings so often and/or so intensely, don't miss this episode!

This coaching call is about getting out of our heads and into our bodies. Today’s caller, Ivy, had to suppress her natural inclinations as a child and she doesn’t feel safe in her body. She asks Christine for guidance around releasing the blocks to get what she wants from life. This session is extremely helpful if you relate to being in your head, or cognitive, or thinking more than feeling your way through things.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode437].   As children, we internalize and amplify the voice and the messages of our parents and that is what becomes our inner voice, or inner critic. And, often, why we don’t feel safe in our bodies because we left our bodies at a very young age due to not feeling safe. We didn’t feel safe to be ourselves, and we didn’t feel safe mentally or emotionally.   There are so many things we do to protect ourselves. And what often happens is we hurt ourselves more. But until we realize so much of what we’re doing is protective patterning and until we find another way to “protect” ourselves, we keep doing the things that make us feel safe even if they aren’t the healthiest things for us. It is so deeply healing to get into our body and communicate with our inner child.   Remember, working with a coach or therapist is great, but it can be helpful if the person you are working with has struggled with similar things you are struggling with.   Journey to Joy is a free three-day inner child workshop with Christine and Stefanos on February 6th ‒ 8th, 2024. Send an email to jill@christinehassler.com to get more information or go to ChristineHassler.com/joy to sign up.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have trouble getting out of your head into your body? Have you been told to do somatic work or body-based practices but you just can’t seem to do it? Do you have a fierce inner critic? Do you carry a lot of shame?   Ivy’s Question: Ivy would like guidance on how to remove the blocks that are keeping her from taking action to get where she wants to be.   Ivy’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is in therapy. She thinks she may have a block due to body shaming. She is unable to identify how she feels. She thinks she is emotionally unavailable. She finds it difficult to express her anger. She feels she is not worthy. She struggles with using her internal compass. She criticizes herself. She has inner child wounding. She would like to get out of her head. She was shamed for being emotionally expressive as a child. She doesn’t feel safe in her body. She fears people will see her as messy and unlovable. She had to suppress herself as a child. She is committed to her healing.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Find her passionate parental voice. Know that she is worthy. Do inner child work. Possibly Journey to Joy. Find things that work for her, not just what she is told to do. Commit to loving herself and giving herself the childhood she didn’t have.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

We got a lot of feedback and questions from our last episode where we shared about some big inner child triggers that were coming up for us. In this episode we break down what exactly was being triggered, how we knew it was our inner child and how we handled it.  We also give YOU tips on how to know when your little one is triggered and how to love them through it.    Please join us for our three day FREE workshop on connecting more deeply to your inner child called JOURNEY TO JOY 

This coaching call is about grief and guilt about past choices. Today’s caller, Michelle, is doing her best to navigate through the guilt and shame she feels about a decision she made. This is a beautiful conversation that can be triggering for a lot of reasons. Please listen with an open heart, open mind, and compassion. We all can relate on some level to making decisions we regret, or are not proud of, or that we feel shame or guilt around.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode436].   With any choice, it is easier to look into the past from where we are now and evaluate the choice and wish we had done something differently. We have an amazing ability to judge and punish ourselves for a decision we made in the past. When truly we were making the best decision we could at the time.   If you have shame, guilt, or regret over a choice you made, how is that serving you? What is the guilt doing? How much longer do you want to punish yourself?  Eventually, we have to let the guilt go and get to forgiveness because unless you have a time machine there is no way to change it. The only thing we can do is move forward.   When a person, especially a mother, is taking care of their health and making decisions that are most in alignment with their truth, it benefits their child.   Journey to Joy is a free three-day inner child workshop with Christine and Stefanos on February 6th ‒ 8th, 2024. Send an email to jill@christinehassler.com to get more information or go to ChristineHassler.com/joy to sign up.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you made a choice that you have shame or guilt about? Are you trying to justify a decision you have made? Is there a part of you that doesn’t feel safe and secure?  Can you get out of your head, your beliefs, or your judgments and allow your heart to open to feel what you need to feel?   Michelle’s Question: Michelle is asking for guidance on how to release the grief she feels about terminating her pregnancy.   Michelle’s Key Insights and Ahas: Michelle terminated her unexpected pregnancy last year. She felt she was abandoning her inner child. Her young-woman energy was not ready to have a child. She feels unworthy, unsafe, and insecure. She wants one day to step into motherhood but wants to release her grief first. She knows the pregnancy came into her life for a reason. She knows she made the best decision for her. She’s been trying to connect with the soul because she didn’t during her pregnancy. She was not ready to be a mother. She knows she is worthy but finds it difficult to embody it. She wants to let go of things that don’t serve her.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Know that taking care of ourselves is the best thing for our children. It is time to deal with her inner child wound. Grieve without the story and the justification. Ask the child what it was there to teach her. Create safety and security for herself. Check out Byron Katie’s “The Work.” She is worthy of love. Trust her decisions. Join the Journey to Joy inner child workshop. Prepare to consciously conceive with love.   Takeaways: Where are you not making self-honoring choices in the name of love?   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — Caraway products are toxicity-free, beautiful, and easy to clean and use. The cookware and bakeware sets have a chemical-free slick coating. The new stainless steel cookware set is a must-have. To upgrade your kitchenware in style and design, go to CarawayHome.com/Overit for 10% off and use the promo code OVERIT at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This is a juicy one! Stef and I talk about how our daughter Athena is taking us to the next level of inner child work...for ourselves and others.  We discuss what inner child healing is and why it's so important - and what can happen (or not happen) in your life if you "keep the past in the past" and continue to neglect your own inner child.  Inner child work is not woo-woo or airy-fairy...it is perhaps the most important and pivotal work you can do for yourself, your family, your community and the world.   To join us for our FREE 3 day inner child workshop, go to christinehassler.com/joy

This coaching call is about removing blocks. Today’s caller, Matt, has fears related to starting a new entrepreneurial business based on childhood wounding. Christine offers guidance about how he can release his self-protective mechanisms and fears of not being worthy of success.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode435].   There are life-changing repercussions from significant childhood events where we felt shame, were not seen, or were not loved for who we are. Those events can create conscious and subconscious blocks because deep down our inner child believes something is wrong with them.   Many of us don’t get to where we want to go in life because we haven’t healed the origin wound that is holding us back.   We can get critical of the ways we believe we are sabotaging ourselves. But in reality, we are not sabotaging ourselves, we are protecting ourselves. The next time you notice yourself procrastinating or making excuses, put your hand on your heart and remember that it is just a form of self-protection and that you are safe to express yourself because you are an adult now and you’ve got this.   Did you set goals for 2024? Being personally matched with a coach may be the support you need to make your intentions a reality. Commit to six highly-curated sessions and get a transformational experience for a low price. Apply at ElementumCoachingInstitute.com/CIT.   Journey to Joy is a free three-day inner child workshop with Christine and Stefanos in February. Send an email to jill@christinehassler.com to get more information.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Was there an event in your life that has dramatically impacted how you see yourself and how you see the world? Is there something you want to do, maybe a career you want to step into or a relationship you want to take to the next level but you’re terrified? Do you fear rejection? Do you fear getting your heart broken, so much so that you don’t go after the things you want?   Matt’s Question: Matt has blocks around starting a video production business.   Matt’s Key Insights and Ahas: He has a day job. He had an HIV diagnosis that changed his trajectory. He runs a support group for others with HIV. He fears that something will go wrong when he tries something new. He is in a two-year relationship. He has a block around planning for the future. He has childhood wounds around being who he is. He has a lot of awareness about his blocks. He’s been incorporating inner child work into his life. He wants to get his website up and running but he is stalling and making excuses. He has time management concerns around starting a new business. He loves video editing and being creative. He acknowledges it is OK to have fears. He is ready to make a change.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Change his language when talking about his fears and protective patterns. Don’t get frustrated with the protective part of his psyche. Completely accept himself for who he is. Know he is lovable. Get a picture of himself as a teen and use it as a tool to follow his “why.”   Sponsor: Air Doctor — is an air filter and air purifier that creates the healthiest environment in your home. It filters out dangerous contaminants and allergens with an ultra HEPA filter that removes 99.99% of tested bacteria and viruses. To get peace of mind, order an Air Doctor today with a 30-day money-back guarantee, go to AirDoctorPro.com, and use promo code “Overit” and get up to 39% off filters and $300 off on selected models. Podcast listeners get a free three-year warranty!   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Josh is an ex-paramedic, and Holistic Nutritionist, specializing inIK8VB gut health. It was the successes his clients have had with complex digestive diseases, previously thought to be impossible, that got him connected to some of the world's most renowned doctors.                        Since then, he’s been recruited to the Priority HealthAcademy as a medical lecturer, helping educate doctors on the holistic approach to gut health, and complex digestive issues.  

This coaching call is about doing the work and not expecting a partner to bring the romance to you. Today’s caller, Joey, is yearning for more romance and intimacy in her marriage but her fear of abandonment may be holding her back from deeper intimacy. Christine offers guidance on how Joey can accept her partner for who he is and create more romance in her relationship.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode434].   We all can relate to that initial stage of a relationship where it’s hot and heavy and you can’t get enough of each other, and then it’s ten years later. How do you sustain that? You can’t. You cannot sustain the initial hormonal rush that happens when you first get together with someone. But, what you can do is grow your passion.   When you initially meet someone, even if it’s your soulmate and fireworks go off, the kind of intimacy you have with someone after you have known them for five, ten, or twenty years is much deeper. And, unfortunately, it cannot be so HOT sometimes because you know someone a little too well. However, if you can reframe how you see it, it can be a turn-on.   Connect to your partner in a way that lights them up instead of expecting them to romance you and seduce you the way you think they should do it. Let that build the passion. Because when you are constantly on someone to be more romantic, passionate, and emotionally available, it is not a turn-on for them.   When you take an interest in what your partner loves, it pays emotional and sensual dividends.   Did you set goals for 2024? Being personally matched with a coach may be the support you need to make your intentions a reality. Commit to six highly-curated sessions and get a transformational experience for a low price. Apply at ElementumCoachingInstitute.com/CIT.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you someone who wants more romance and passion in your relationship? Do you want more emotional intimacy in your relationship? Have abandonment wounds made you more avoidant in relationships? Are you willing to accept your partner for who they are and see that as the most romantic thing you could ever do?   Joey’s Question: Joey would like guidance on how to create emotional availability and intimacy in her marriage.   Joey’s Key Insights and Ahas: She and her husband do conscious healing work. She has abandonment wounds from childhood. She left her corporate work and is becoming a coach. She is not sure if it is her emotional unavailability, or her husband’s, creating intimacy issues. She wants romance and passion from her husband. She has been married for ten years. She sets the bar for romance high because of her abandonment wounds. She may be overlooking when her husband sends intimate signals. She finds fault and resentment in her husband when he doesn’t meet her expectations. She creates fantasy relationships with other men in her head. She is vague when asking for what she wants.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Accept her partner for who he is and stop projecting on him. Reframe how she looks at passion, romance, and intimacy. Acknowledge, nourish, and encourage her husband when he does romantic or sensual things. Make space outside of her relationship to ensure intimacy lines don’t get blurred. Remind herself that what she truly craves is consistency and stability. Be clear about what she wants.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This is the second part of my annual ritual to complete this year and step forward into 2024 with intention! In this episode, I guide you through a receiving process and meditation to start 2024 with steps to get clear about what you want to call in. Be sure to listen to the 2023 release episode to prepare you to receive freely. We are $30 off on our breathwork and meditation series. Go to ChristineHassler.com/breathwork and use the promo code 2024.

This coaching call is about letting go of wanting to be right and healing a sister wound. As a teenager, today’s caller, Mariella, idealized her older sister but didn’t agree with her relationship choices. She feels her concern fell on deaf ears. She is asking for guidance on how to let go of her need to be right and to be happy with her sister.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode433].   In communications with others, we need to be honest with ourselves about whether we are sharing our feelings or just sharing our opinions. If we want vulnerable, healthy, authentic connections with people, use “I” language and share feelings rather than opinions. Because other people’s lives are none of our business. We can have multiple opinions about the lives of others but they don’t matter.   Also, be honest with yourself about how often you want to be right. What do you get from being right? We can have a difference of opinion with others and not push the point without letting people walk all over us. An argument just to prove we are right is not worth the energetic real estate it takes to wait for our position to be validated.   We can take 100% responsibility for our lives without being in other people’s business. We can either let go of our past by processing and accepting it, or we continue to live with it in our present.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there something that happened and you are waiting for someone to tell you that you are right? Have you been hurt or have you had an expectation hangover regarding your sister or a female friend? Are you someone who feels that you give more in relationships than you receive?   Mariella’s Question: Mariella would like to feel validated by her sister and let down the wall she has up when it comes to her sister’s happiness.   Mariella’s Key Insights and Ahas: She felt her sister’s ex wasn’t good for her sister when she was young. She felt her sister chose her ex over her. She felt her sister didn’t listen to her or take her views seriously. She was 13. Her sister was 18. She is waiting for her sister to tell her she was right. She finds it difficult to be happy for her sister. Her sister is going to remarry. She wants what is best for her sister. She feels a responsibility to keep the family in order. She is happily married. She feels that her feelings don’t matter. She is disappointed that her sister doesn’t fit into her idea of who she should be. She has difficulty coming to terms with who her sister is.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Tell her inner child what she needs to hear without expecting her sister to do it. Realize her sister’s life is not her business. Accept her sister for who she is. Be happy with her sister, not for her. Grieve and accept that she will never receive validation from her sister.   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — Caraway products are toxicity-free, beautiful, and easy to clean and use. The cookware and bakeware sets have a chemical-free slick coating. To take advantage of a limited-time offer for listeners of this podcast, go to CarawayHome.com/Overit. Get a 10% discount when you upgrade your kitchen experience.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Welcome to my annual two-part ritual to complete this year and step forward into the next with intention!  In this episode, I guide you through a step-by-step process to complete 2023 with awareness and intention and let it go! And stay tuned for next week’s episode where I offer you a process to receive 2024. I record these fresh every year so be sure to tune in even if you are familiar with the process.

Dr. Julia DiGangi is a neuropsychologist. She has nearly two decades of experience studying the connection between our brains and our behavior. Dr. DiGangi has worked with leaders at The White House Press Office, global companies,international NGOs, and the US Special Forces. Her understanding of stress, trauma, and resilience is also informed by her work in international development and humanitarian aid, where she served some of the world's most vulnerable communities. The founder of NeuroHealth Partners, a neuropsychology-based consultancy, DiGangi shows people—at work and athome—how to harness the power of the brain to lead more satisfying and emotionally intelligent lives. Connect with Julia DiGangi at drjuliadigangi.com.

This coaching call is about learning to trust others. Today’s caller, Samantha, was bullied as a child and finds it difficult to trust others enough to make new friends. She asks for guidance on expanding her circle of friends and allowing herself to be truly seen by others.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode432].   We can get a thousand compliments, and a thousand great things can happen but we always seem to remember the one yucky thing someone said or did. And, often, it can be much stronger than yucky. It can be downright traumatic. Being bullied, not feeling like you fit in, and not feeling that you can trust people are very traumatic because they push against our need for belonging, which is a safety and survival need.   If you have a hard time trusting people, really the person you don’t trust is yourself.   If you are looking at something in your life that feels like a big problem or block, look to where the beliefs or behaviors have served you. Consider how you can reframe it. Choose wisely or pay attention to your intuition if something comes up. Or, if someone betrays you, stand up for yourself. Stand up to a bully. Get honest with yourself, and stop playing the victim.   The CIT coaching opportunity is to be coached by Elementum Coaching Institute’s coach-in-training program. Commit to six sessions and get a transformational experience for a low price. Apply at ElementumCoachingInstitute.com/CIT.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Would you like to have more people in your life but you just don’t trust people? Are you expecting people to hurt you and find it hard to trust others? Was there an early-life event that shaped the way you make friendships and let people in?   Samantha’s Question: Samantha struggles to trust people and would like guidance on how to be more open to expanding her inner circle.   Samantha’s Key Insights and Ahas: She was bullied as a young girl. She doesn’t trust people immediately. She wants to be open to additional friendships. People don’t seem safe to her. She feels people are out to get her. She feels blocked from making new friends. She wants to protect herself and be free.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Learn to trust herself. Reframe what she tells herself. Challenge her existing beliefs.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.  

Manisha Thakor has worked in financial services for more than thirty years, with an emphasis on women’s economic empowerment and financial wellbeing. A nationally recognized thought-leader in this space, Thakor has been featured in a wide range of publications including the Wall Street Journal, the New York Times, NPR, PBS, CNN, Real Simple, and Women’s Health. Prior to writing MoneyZen, Thakor co-authored two personal finance books for women in their twenties and thirties. Today her work focuses on helping people of all ages to balance financial health and emotional wealth. Thakor earned her MBA from Harvard Business School, her BA from Wellesley College and is both a Chartered Financial Analyst (CFA) and a Certified Financial Planner (CFP). She splits her time between Portland, Oregon and rural Maine. Her website is MoneyZen.com. Manisha's Media Reel

This coaching call is about being curious about body parts and sexuality with other children as a child and then feeling shame and guilt about it as an adult. Today’s caller, Michelle, was a curious child who did not have a good representation of what sex was. She asks for guidance on how to forgive herself and release her guilt and shame.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode431].   How do we raise children not to be ashamed of their bodies, to feel comfortable with their sexuality, and to have boundaries? It comes down to present parenting and having an open dialogue about sexuality and boundaries. Oftentimes, when we are raised with the programming that sex is saved until marriage, there’s a curiosity that isn’t quenched.   When parents don’t have conversations about human sexuality, children do not get their questions answered. Children are naturally curious and will find out on their own if a parent does not make them aware that sexual curiosity is a very natural thing that children have.   If this conversation resonates with you it is time to forgive those places inside that hold guilt and shame. It doesn’t do us any good. Healing, learning, and re-parenting our inner child is what helps us grow.   Christine is accepting new private one-on-one coaching clients and small groups of 2‒4 people for coaching sessions. To apply go to ChristineHassler.com/VIP. An additional coaching opportunity is to be coached by Elementum Coaching Institute’s coach-in-training program. Commit to six sessions and get a transformational experience for a low price. Apply at ElementumCoachingInstitute.com/CIT.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you carrying around shame and guilt from your childhood or the past? Did you sexually explore with other children and have shame about it as an adult? As a parent, are you thinking about how to address or handle sexuality with your child? Are you willing to finally forgive yourself and stop punishing yourself to live the life you want?   Michelle’s Question: Michelle asks for guidance on releasing the shame and guilt she has carried since childhood.   Michelle’s Key Insights and Ahas: As a child, she sexually explored with a family member. She believes it is limiting her sexual pleasure as an adult. The exploration happened 30 years ago. She has had a conversation about it with her husband. She was raised in a religious home. She has a curious nature. Her mother spoke about sex in a way that made her uncomfortable. She doesn’t feel she pressured anyone into sexual exploration. She was parentified too soon. She carries the shame deeply in her body. She punishes herself and makes herself a villain.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Understand she was not a predator. Forgive herself for a situation she cannot go back and change. Forgive herself for buying into the misunderstanding that she was responsible at eight to ten years old. Complete the Inner Child Workshop. Write down her beliefs and judgments about her situation and forgive herself for each one.   Sponsor: Air Doctor — is an air filter and air purifier that creates the healthiest environment in your home. It filters out dangerous contaminants and allergens with an ultra HEPA filter that removes 99.99% of tested bacteria and viruses. To get peace of mind, order an Air Doctor today with a 30-day money-back guarantee, go to AirDoctorPro.com, and use promo code “Overit” and get up to 39% off filters and $300 off on selected models. Podcast listeners get a free three-year warranty!   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This coaching call is about feeling out of control when being in control is how we have compensated for not getting what we needed as children. Today’s caller, Cato, is pregnant and her lack of control is creating panic. She asks Christine for guidance on how to be okay with the changes in her life and her fear of feeling insignificant.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode430].   As children, we need to belong. We need love. And we need to feel safe. So, whatever we need to do and whoever we need to become to get those things, we do. The need for significance comes from not feeling enough as a child, not feeling significant just for who we are. So as an adult, we are constantly looking for people to see us, love us, and tell us how wonderful we are because that need was not fulfilled in childhood. Either we weren’t told we were good or we only were told we were good when we did something “good.”   Something important for people to talk about is that — Yes, having a baby is blissful and magical AND it can be really hard at times. There are times when the hard times are more than the amazing times and that’s okay. It is an identity death like no other and there’s no way around that.   The more we resist it and try to hang on to who we were or to keep that version of us, the more we are going to bump up against resistance. Because when we get pregnant and when we give birth, the old version of us dies and the maiden becomes the mother. We have to find our new identity at the same time that we are learning to care for another human being. It’s a lot.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you like control? Does it make you feel calm and safe? Do you consider yourself a capable, on-top-of-it person but something has completely thrown you off your game? Do you fear not being relevant or not being significant? Do you know how to receive, or do you believe that you must do to receive and be relevant?   Cato’s Question: Cato fears that her pregnancy will make her irrelevant and insignificant. She is asking for guidance on how to be okay with herself and what is happening.   Cato’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is excited about her pregnancy. Her pregnancy is forcing her to slow down. She signed up for Elementum Coaching Institute. Her pregnancy is bringing up depression and feelings of a lack of control. She is experiencing intense emotions and is unsure of herself for the first time. She realizes she has been using control to create safety. She fears slowing down and not being relevant or significant. Her inner child carries sadness and anger toward her father. She is unsure if she is worthy of raising her child. She is embodying receptivity. She feels closer to her womb and her heart. She has always kept busy to distract herself from her feelings. When she slows down, she feels restless. She finds purpose and meaning in her work.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Welcome the new feelings she is having. Listen to this episode when it airs. Embody what it feels like to be in her feminine. Be curious about her restlessness. Savor her pregnancy.   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — Caraway products are toxicity-free, beautiful, and easy to clean and use. The cookware and bakeware sets have a chemical-free slick coating. The new stainless steel cookware set is a must-have. To take advantage of a limited-time offer for listeners of this podcast, go to CarawayHome.com/Overit. Get a 20% discount on a stylish gift for your home or friends and family for the holidays.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Dr. Florence Comite is a clinician-scientist and innovator in the field of precision medicine. She is world-renowned for her expertise in predicting, preventing, and reversing chronic disease and the disorders associated with aging. She is a true disruptor of the status quo, a “doctorpreneur” with a bold mission--to eliminate chronic disease in the world. She has begun by helping her clients lengthen their healthspans to match their lifespans at the Center, which has not expanded to offices in Palo Alto and Miami Beach. And now she is applying her research to a virtual medicine app called Groq Health , which is bringing access to the transformative power of personal precision medicine and AI to everyone’s smartphone.

This coaching call is about breaking the cycle of being in unhealthy relationships, specifically with emotionally unavailable or narcissistic people. Today’s caller, Behnaz, feels guilty, exhausted, and angry when dealing with her family and longs for deeper connections. She asks Christine for guidance on how to break the cycle and release her anger.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode429].   We all have encountered someone with either narcissism or at least narcissistic tendencies, emotional unavailability, and gaslighting. It can be a frustrating and maddening place to be. It almost makes us feel crazy because we feel we are not being heard, we are not being seen, and it is frustrating.   Why empaths are so attracted to narcissists is because, on a subconscious level, we see that they don't have access to love. We can feel it. We think our love will somehow awaken the love in them but it just doesn’t work that way. We just end up giving away our power, and our heart, and we end up collapsing our boundaries.   It can be hard when we are a loving person, and we have a pattern of engaging with people who are not in touch with the love inside themselves. It’s exhausting.   If you know you have been gaslit before, be aware that you may either shut down completely and not talk at all or go into over-talking and over-explaining. It’s not bad or wrong. It’s just a natural reaction to being gaslit. Part of healing from being gaslit is finding our authentic self-expression, not coming from justification or defending, knowing exactly what we need to say and how much we need to say.   On some level, some of us do sign up to be generational pattern breakers. It’s the only way the consciousness of the planet evolves.   Spring 2024 will bring a new 10-week, Live, Inner Child Program from Christine and Stefanos. More information is coming soon.   Christine wants to hear from you! She is considering making some changes to the show, and she wants your feedback. Go to ChristineHassler.com/survey to answer a few questions about the podcast, and if you include your name and email, you will be entered into a raffle to win a 30-minute coaching session with Christine.   Behnaz’s Question: Behnaz’s self-esteem is not where she wants it to be and she struggles to find her voice around narcissists. She wants guidance on how to release her anger and break the pattern.   Behnaz’s Key Insights and Ahas: Adults gaslit her when she was a child. She holds back her thoughts around narcissists. She feels she has boundaries. She has internalized anger she is unable to express. She is exhausted. She speaks up for herself but is resentful when nothing changes. She tries to connect with emotionally unavailable people. She wanted a deeper connection with her parents. She yearns to love and connect with people. Her soul signed up to be a generational pattern breaker. She feels guilty about cutting off a relationship with her aunt. She is a joyful person. She is creating a family of friends. She feels alone.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Grieve the relationship she didn’t have with her family. Accept that she chose her family to learn through contrast. Get in touch with her anger. Accept that she cannot change anyone. Know it is OK to step away from unhealthy relationships. Honor who she is and come into alignment with it.   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — Caraway products are toxicity-free, beautiful, and easy to clean and use. The cookware and bakeware sets have a chemical-free slick coating. The new stainless steel cookware set is a must-have. To take advantage of a limited-time offer for listeners of this podcast, go to CarawayHome.com/Overit. Get a 20% discount on a stylish gift for your home or friends and family for the holidays.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This is the perfect episode to listen to as the holidays are upon us - my guest, Talia Fox, and I talk about how to have healthier, more conscious relationships with ourselves and others.  Talia Fox is the CEO of KUSI Global, Inc. She holds an M.Ed. in counseling psychology from Howard University and she is a Harvard University Fellow. An inspirational leader in every sense of the word, Talia is often referred to as the Jedi of Inspiration by her clients. With over two decades of experience in transforming thousands of executives from all sectors, she has become a visionary for leadership and legacy building. Her extensive background in psychology and education has given her the tools she needs to assist leaders in developing successful strategies for complex missions, ranging from defense systems to healthcare initiatives.  As CEO of KUSI Global, Inc., Talia helps organizations like the U.S. Securities and Exchange Commission, Harvard University, Transunion, the National Institutes of Health, Howard University, and the U.S. Departments of Defense and Veterans Affairs maximize human potential by leveraging strategic intelligence and helps individuals and organizations foster connected cultures and promote conscious equity.

This coaching call is about getting out of the loop of needing reassurance. Today’s caller, Michele, does not feel safe in relationships and asks her partner for constant reassurance. If you have jealousy, worry, or anxiety in relationships or situations, you will find value in today’s episode.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode428].   There are times when we have insecurity or concerns in relationships. During those times, it is reasonable to go to our partner and ask for reassurance. That is within the range of a healthy relationship. But when we find ourselves in a perpetual loop of needing reassurance constantly in order to feel relief and love, it is because we don’t feel safe.   When we really feel love, it is beautiful and amazing and it is also terrifying. We have to acknowledge that it is risky and there will be things about it that will scare us. But when we recognize the risk and fear, if we greet the scared part of us with compassion and love, we can stop the fear from running the show. When we see the loop for what it is and take self-honoring actions, we take ourselves off the hamster wheel and stop abandoning ourselves.   Breaking the loop is a huge act of self-love and self-care. It’s never our partner’s job to heal us, but they can have an active role in understanding our wounding and being compassionate and patient with us as we heal.   Christine wants to hear from you! She is considering making some changes to the show, and she wants your feedback. Go to ChristineHassler.com/survey to answer a few questions about the podcast, and if you include your name and email, you will be entered into a raffle to win a 30-minute coaching session with Christine.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in a safe situation, relationship, or career but you’re afraid you’re going to lose it? As a child, were marriage and relationships not modeled to you in a great way? Do you need constant reassurance or otherwise, you feel unsettled? Do you judge that part of you that needs constant reassurance?   Michele’s Question: Michele asks for guidance on how to stop needing reassurance in her new relationship.   Michele’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has a compulsive need for reassurance. She doesn’t feel safe in relationships. She fears abandonment. She was blindsided by her ex’s infidelity. She’s been jealous in her relationships. As a child, she didn’t have good models of relationship. Her brother left home at a young age. She feels a deep connection with her new partner. Her partner reassures her often. She gets frustrated with herself about her need for reassurance.  She fears she will manifest the ending of a relationship. She believes she should have outgrown her fear by now.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Have compassion when the part of her that needs control comes up. Ask herself if her fear is substantiated. Recognizing when she is in a loop will help break the cycle. Draw a diagram of her cycle of fear with exit routes. Be gentle with the scared parts of herself. Enjoy her relationship.   Takeaway: Draw out a diagram of what perpetuates your cycle of fear and give yourself exit routes.   Sponsor: Air Doctor — is an air filter and air purifier that creates the healthiest environment in your home. It filters out dangerous contaminants and allergens with an ultra HEPA filter that removes 99.99% of tested bacteria and viruses. To get peace of mind, order an Air Doctor today with a 30-day money-back guarantee, go to AirDoctorPro.com, and use promo code “Overit23” and get up to 20% off filters and $350 off on selected models. This Black Friday special also includes a free 3-year warranty on any unit.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

I talk quite a bit on the show about how important it is to release our anger in a healthy way. In today's episode I walk you through how to do one of my favorite and most empowering exercises - an anger burn!    If you aren't quite ready for an anger burn, then starting by writing f*** you letters is a great way to process anger. You can listen to the episode I did about that here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/over-it-and-on-with-it/id1050321415?i=1000620283017

This coaching call is about giving ourselves the time to be where we are, even if we don’t like it. Today’s caller, Maria, has suffered recent losses. It is causing past grief to surface. She asks Christine for guidance on how to tone down her hyper-vigilance and move through the grief she is experiencing.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode427].   Many of us get our idea of what a mother is based on our mother, the media, or other things that are so far off from what a mother actually is. A mother is not a martyr, not someone who sacrifices everything, has no life, or no sense of herself. It is also not abandoning a child, either physically or emotionally, because she’s so caught up in her own trauma.   A mother is being a loving, nurturing model of what a healthy nervous system looks like, what nurturing looks like, what unconditional love looks like, what acceptance looks like, what boundaries look like, and what soothing looks like.   When we are in a phase in life where we are still working out subconscious patterns and wounding, it is impossible to see red flags. If you are beating yourself up for red flags you didn’t see in situations, especially partnerships, please forgive yourself. You had to be in those relationships to wake up! Remember, we are naturally attracted to our dysfunction. We are naturally attracted to people who remind us of the parents who didn’t give us what we wanted.   Please forgive yourself. You can see the red flags now because you have done work. You couldn’t see them before. Give yourself a break. Self-beat has no place in healing. Give yourself that mothering or parental nurturing love that you so deserve. Sometimes it is not time to do the “work.” The work is nurturing, regulating, and resourcing ourselves.   Christine wants to hear from you! She is considering making some changes to the show, and she wants your feedback. Go to ChristineHassler.com/survey to answer a few questions about the podcast, and if you include your name and email, you will be entered into a raffle to win a 30-minute coaching session with Christine.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you recently gone through loss and grief that have triggered other loss or grief? Are you in a phase of overwhelm by how much you feel you have to process? Did you not have the childhood or the parent you deeply desired? Have you ignored red flags in relationships only now, in hindsight, they are clear as day?   Maria’s Question: Maria has experienced a lot of loss recently and is looking for guidance on how to move through the grief.   Maria’s Key Insights and Ahas: She feels emotionally malnourished. Her recent pregnancy and relationship losses are bringing up past grief. She feels unsafe and hyper-vigilant. She feels challenged to express herself or to be joyful. Her mother passed away three years ago. Her mother was emotionally unavailable and detached. She feels overwhelmed, and her sense of self is out of balance. Memories of her childhood feelings are surfacing and mixing with her grief. She wanted intimacy from her mother and her relationships. She longs for connection. She did not have the ability to discern red flags. She is consciously single now. She is a doula who has a deep connection to motherhood.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Have compassion and awareness for the season of life she is in now. Know that her soul baby is holding space for her to be ready for a beautiful, healthy relationship. Give herself the love and the nurturing she wanted from her parents. Allow herself to be resourced.   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — Caraway products are toxicity-free, beautiful, and easy to clean and use. The cookware and bakeware sets have a chemical-free slick coating. The new stainless steel cookware set is a must-have. To take advantage of a limited-time offer for listeners of this podcast, go to CarawayHome.com/Overit or use the promo code OVERIT at checkout. Get a discount on a stylish gift for your home or friends and family for the holidays.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Known as The Enlightened Entrepreneur, Elizabeth Canon champions a new approach to entrepreneurship for women—out of the pressure cooker and onto a path that is more sustainable, life-giving and prosperous. Many years ago, Elizabeth became an entrepreneur for freedom, but a few years into running her company realized she felt trapped in the business she had created. On the outside, she was successful, but inside she was lacking a sense of deeper satisfaction. This launched her on a self-directed journey where she invested the equivalent of a Harvard MBA in her own growth and personal discovery. Along the way she learned how to apply what she was finding to her business. Now, as a Master Coach, Elizabeth helps other women step onto their own paths of enlightened entrepreneurship, so they can grow their businesses without sacrificing what matters most in their lives. Because when you do this, you create a level of success, a business—and a life, that is all your own.

This coaching call is about breaking the childhood patterns that show up in relationships. Today’s caller, Oliver, struggles to embody his power and set boundaries when he is triggered in relationships. He asks for guidance on how to break and grow beyond survival patterns.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode426].   Many of us can relate to being our current age but in certain situations, we act in a way that is sabotaging, embarrassing, or doesn’t get us what we want. Why do we act like this? Because there is often inner child wounding and programming at play.   Survival patterns are tricky to change and they can hang on for a long time because a large portion of them are subconscious. Often, we have to duplicate our parental family of origin situation to wake up and transform our survival patterns. It is a necessary part of evolution. It doesn’t matter how much awareness we have, we have to walk through a situation to heal it.   It is hard work and often thankless work when we are the pattern breakers in our family. If we don’t have role models at home, we have to add in new programming. Watching movies, reading books, writing it out, or spending time with others to gain examples of what healthy relationships look like is important.   There are things we heal, and then there are some things that take a bit more time. The evolution, the moving out of fear, judgment, beliefs, and pain into love, is ongoing. The next time you feel that you have dealt with something before, or have awareness about something, get more curious about it.   The work is never done. We are always learning and growing.   Christine wants to hear from you! She is considering making some changes to the show, and she wants your feedback. Go to ChristineHassler.com/survey to answer a few questions about the podcast, and if you include your name and email you will be entered in a raffle to win a 30 min. coaching session with Christine.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you notice you have patterns in relationships that you don’t like and want to change? When you were growing up, did you have healthy relationships modeled for you? When you were growing up, did you have healthy parents or a healthy parent that raised you? Are you someone that has done a lot of work and you know a lot of things, but you wish things were changing a little more?   Oliver’s Question: Oliver struggles with a recurring pattern of sabotaging his relationships.   Oliver’s Key Insights and Ahas: He is a recently divorced, single parent of two small children. He is aware his pattern came from his mother. His ex triggers his pattern and he freezes when confronted. He gives his power away when confronted. A portion of his development was stunted. His mother was diagnosed as borderline and unpredictable. He has done some inner child work but still has blind spots. He is a therapist. His feelings and emotions have been surfacing since his divorce. He feels he holds power and has clear boundaries in other areas of his life. His father is a public figure in his home country. His mother physically beat the children. He wanted his father to protect him against his mother. It is difficult for him to show anger. He can get stuck in self-analysis. He is a generational pattern breaker.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Drop any expectation that this pattern is simple to change. Center himself and reassure his inner child that he has matured and can take care of himself now. Discover and write out what masculinity means to him and what healthy masculinity looks like in a relationship. Get between his inner child and women with tendencies like his mother and separate himself from his inner child. Tap into his protective “papa bear” energy and unleash his anger. Listen to the Coaches Corner: Internal Family Systems podcast with Dr. Richard Schwartz.   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — Caraway products are toxicity-free, beautiful, and easy to clean and use. The cookware and bakeware sets have a chemical-free slick coating. The new stainless steel cookware set is a must-have. To take advantage of a limited-time offer for listeners of this podcast, go to CarawayHome.com/Overit or use the promo code OVERIT at checkout. Get a discount on a stylish gift for your home or friends and family for the holidays.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

We are all leaders, no matter what our job is. And we all have leadership styles that may or may not be the most aligned or effective. Dr. Kirstin Ferguson joins to discuss how we can lead others and ourselves from a place of love.  She is a prominent leadership expert and a highly experienced business leader in her own right. Beginning her career as an officer in the Royal Australian Air Force, Kirstin has held roles that have included CEO of an International consulting firm and was appointed acting chair and deputy chair of the Australia Broadcasting Corporation by the Australian Prime Minister. She holds a PhD in Leadership and is an adjunct professor at QUT business school. 

This coaching call is about understanding the reason we may be doubting a relationship. Today’s caller, Sammie, has doubts about her relationship and is wondering if she should stay in it. Christine guides her to change her perception and look at the situation differently.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode425].   There are many people who would be better off by leaving relationships or situations, but they decide to stay. They only stick around because the devil they know is often better than the devil they don’t. They feel there is no risk in staying in the relationship because it is familiar.   Then, there are those who probably “should” hang in there a while longer, or stick it out to see what happens, but they run sooner.   We need to work on switching those things around so that when we know something is toxic or not for us, we can make a conscious decision to leave. Or, when we are not totally sure, we see some great things about a relationship, but there is also a part of us that wants to run because the intimacy feels scary. But that is the point in a relationship when it could offer us great learning and healing if we could just stick it out.   Is your pattern to stick it out too long or to run too soon? If you are sticking it out too long, maybe it is time to go. If you are running too soon, maybe it is time to stay. Be honest with yourself when you are looking for a reason to get out of a relationship.   Christine is considering making some changes to the show and she wants your feedback. Go to ChristineHassler.com/survey to answer questions about the podcast and if you include your name and email you will be entered in a raffle to win a 30 min. coaching session with Christine!   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in a situation, relationship, or friendship, and you are questioning whether you are in it for the “right” reasons? Are you in a friendship or relationship and think you should end it because you don’t want to lead the person on or you don’t want to hurt feelings? Do you relate to having an avoidant attachment style? Are you the person in a relationship that when it gets too intimate or too close, you start to pull back? Do you have a deep insecurity about something in your life and think you have to settle because of it?   Sammie’s Question: Sammie questions if her current relationship is right for her based on her boyfriend’s physical disability.   Sammie’s Key Insights and Ahas: She feels safe in her current relationship and believes it is a healthy one. She questions how her boyfriend’s spinal cord injury will impact their future together. She is unsure if the relationship will lead her into a caretaker role. She does not have prior experience to guide her through her uncertainty. She is hopeful about the future of the relationship. She admires the relationship her boyfriend has with his ex. She joined a support group for people in relationships with people who have spinal cord injuries. She is asking legitimate questions. She becomes critical in relationships. She has never had a relationship with this level of stability. She doesn’t believe she could have attracted someone so healthy. She has a fearful-avoidant attachment style. She is insecure about where she is in her life.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Be 100% honest with her boyfriend. Practice self-acceptance. Lean into the invitation to love and intimacy.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Sarah Jenks is an ordained Priestess in the 13 Moon Mystery School. Sarah thought she was destined to have an “in the box” life after going to a top college, working in advertising, and then creating a successful emotional eating company. One day she walked into her therapist’s office where the remnants of a sacred circle from the night before were strewn on the living room floor. She had a full body “Remembering” of being in ceremony. Since that day she’s been devoted to her own sacred practice and Temple skills and has devoted her life to creating spaces for women to have their own remembering. Sarah’s work is centered around integrating Sacred Feminine wisdom and ceremony into our everyday lives, so that we can create the most rich, sexy, fun and meaningful existence. She offers mentorship programs and sacred council around the body, marriage, motherhood, and work, and runs an incredible monthly membership community where women and non-binary people come together for moonly ceremonies, astrology oracles, and lessons on the nuts and bolts of what it means to have a Sacred Feminine life.  Links discussed in this episode:  Three day re-birth event: www.christinehassler.com/Sarah  Holy Woman: https://sarahjenks.com/holywoman?orid=169926&opid=46 Sacred Start guide Marriage Reset Priestess Presence- https://priestesspresence.com/trainings/?oprid=13245&ref=13531

This coaching call is about reframing a situation to help make a change. Today’s caller, Lori, is settling and staying in a situation that isn’t what she wants, deserves, or values, out of fear of making a change. Christine offers guidance about how she can raise the bar, work through old patterns, and have the life she deserves.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode424].   Part of breaking a pattern and stepping into worthiness is not perceiving something as uprooting, or upheaval but as raising the bar of what we will tolerate in life.   As children, we didn’t have the choice to choose for ourselves. So, trauma sits in our nervous system because we were never allowed to feel our feelings in a safe and compassionate way. The trauma is never expressed so it gets locked in and begins to form a pattern. We can’t heal something till it’s in our face and we can give ourselves the love, compassion, patience, and support that we didn’t have as a child.   Breaking a pattern isn’t just about making a change, it is about how we are with ourselves while we are making the change. The best way to learn and change a pattern is when we are smack dab in the middle of it but with a coach, or someone to help us break the pattern.   If you are in a situation where you are settling and you want to make a change and it seems daunting, reframe how you are looking at the situation. If you see the situation as Mt. Everest, it will seem like it is hard to overcome. But, look at the issue as a way to increase your life satisfaction, rather than settling for a life that is based on your patterning. It may be difficult to make the change, but perceptions and beliefs about anything dramatically influence how we experience it.   Are you ready to be coached by Christine? If you are, there are three one-on-one coaching opportunities available now. Go to ChristineHassler.com and click on the coaching tab or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in a situation that isn’t ideal, maybe even unhealthy, but the devil you know is worse than the one you don’t? When it comes to relationships, do you have trouble speaking your voice? When it comes to making a change do you generally feel that it’s going to be hard and have trouble getting motivated or inspired to make the change? Do you see yourself as a failure and shame yourself because things haven’t worked out and you compare yourself to other people who you deem or judge as successful?   Lori’s Question: Lori recently discovered her partner was sending flirty messages to another woman and is unsure what to do about it.   Lori’s Key Insights and Ahas: She recently bought a house with her partner of two years. She found flirty text messages on her partner’s phone to another woman. Her intuition is sending her messages. She has trouble finding her voice to confront him about the texts. Her partner was defensive and didn’t really acknowledge her pain. It drains her to think about dismantling the relationship. She feels like a failure. She compares herself to others. She doesn’t want to be in the relationship any longer. She fears uprooting her life. She doesn’t feel safe communicating in her relationship. She doesn’t have compassion for her inner child when she sees herself as a failure. She has an abandonment wound.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Know she doesn’t have to do it alone. Speak with a coach or therapist. Be gentle and compassionate with herself while she goes through the process of changing her patterns. Recognize she is healing a deep father wound. Raise the bar on what she is able to accept for herself.   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — Caraway products are toxicity-free, beautiful, and easy to clean and use. The cookware and bakeware sets have a chemical-free slick coating. The new stainless steel cookware set is a must-have. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the limited-time offer of 10% off on your next purchase or by using the promo code OVERIT at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.  

My longtime friend and the #1 resource I recommend when it comes to shifting your relationship with money, Kate Northrup, joins me today for an insightful and inspiring conversation about money. As an entrepreneur, bestselling author, and mother, Kate Northrup has built a multimedia digital platform called The Origin Company that reaches hundreds of thousands globally. She’s committed to supporting ambitious women to light up the world without burning themselves out. Kate teaches data and soul-driven time and energy management practices that result in saving time, making more money, and experiencing less stress. She’s the author of Money: A Love Story and Do Less and the creator of the Do Less Planner System. Kate’s work has been featured by Oprah Daily, The Today Show, Yahoo! Finance, Women’s Health, Glamour, The NY Times, Harvard Business Review, and more. She lives with her husband and their daughters in Miami. You can access her FREE workshop “Plenty” which will help you Clear Your Money Blocks and Discover True Prosperity While Positively Impacting the World here: Christinehassler.com/relaxedmoney

This coaching call is about old triggers in new situations. Today’s caller, Manpreet, is dating someone new and would like guidance on how to keep old triggers out of her new relationship. She has done healing work and is drawing what she wants into her life, but is frustrated when old patterns reemerge.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode423].   When women suffer abuse at the hands of, for this example, men, we can project on all men that they’re scary. Women can feel scared to trust men because one man or several men hurt them. So, we want to separate the behavior from the gender, from the person, from the way they look, and know that it was someone else’s behavior and not all men behave like that.   Because there has to be a disconnection, or disassociation from our sexuality in order for us to survive abuse, we often open up physically or emotionally to people before we are ready as a way to get power over the situation.   As adults, we have the gift of being able to ask ourselves what we couldn’t do or say when we were little that we can do or say now. We can speak up. We can get out of a situation, we can fight back. We can take our power back.   Also, when we share vulnerability too soon we may get hurt and it might not be received in the way that we want because there hasn’t been enough rapport, trust, or time there. So in new relationships, or friendships especially intimate relationships, a lot can be triggered. That’s why it is so helpful to have a professional or trusted friend to bounce things off of and get some perspective. Then we can come into new relationships with honesty and the knowing that vulnerability comes later. It gives a relationship more of a chance.   Consider/Ask Yourself: When something new comes into your life, do you sabotage it because old stuff comes up? Did you grow up not feeling safe, specifically if you are female do you not feel safe around men? Have you done the vulnerability vomit thing too early in a friendship or romantic relationship and it has backfired? Do you feel that you can truly ask for what you need and that you are lovable?   Manpreet’s Question: Manpreet would like to be more in her goddess energy and learn to be more open to receiving more in relationships.   Manpreet’s Key Insights and Ahas: Men often show physical interest in her immediately. She has drawn in someone who treats her with respect. She overshares her insecurities with new people quickly. The man she is interested in says he will walk away if she continues to worry about where the relationship is headed. She panics in fear when thinking about whether he will accept her. She finds it easier to use physical manipulation to get what she wants. She attended the Be the Queen program. She feels that masculine, or men have the power and she has no control over situations. She was abused by male family members. She projects her abusive uncle’s behavior onto other men. She can speak up for what she wants now. Deep down her fear is about whether she is lovable. She is scared because someone wants to see her for who she really is. She wonders if she is good enough. The healing work she is doing is drawing in things she wants for herself. She wants to have conversations from an empowered place, not a wounded place. She knows her worth isn’t tied to anyone but herself.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Bring herself into the present moment to separate behaviors from gender. Ask herself what she couldn’t say, be, or do when she was a little girl that she can be, say, or do now. Talk with her coach about her feelings and how to process them. Send voicemails or texts to herself, or a trusted friend first to get some perspective.   Sponsor: Air Doctor — is an air filter and air purifier that creates the healthiest environment in your home. It filters out dangerous contaminants and allergens with an ultra HEPA filter that removes 99.99% of tested bacteria and viruses. If you want to order an Air Doctor today with a 30-day money-back guarantee, go to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code “Overit” and get up to 39% or $300 off on selected models. My podcast listeners get a free 3-year warranty on any unit.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Shawn Stevenson is the author of the USA Today National bestseller Eat Smarter and the international bestselling book Sleep Smarter. He’s also creator of The Model Health Show, featured as the number #1 health podcast in the U.S. with millions of listener downloads each month. A graduate of the University of Missouri–St. Louis, Shawn studied business, biology, and nutritional science and became the cofounder of Advanced Integrative Health Alliance. Shawn has been featured in Forbes, Fast Company, The New York Times, Muscle & Fitness, ABC News, ESPN, and many other major media outlets.

This coaching call is about making sense of our intuition. Today’s caller, Michaela, wants to drop fully into what she is feeling but is unsure whether her intuition is just a fear-based response to her past. She asks Christine for guidance on how to decipher her feelings and how to trust her intuition.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode422].   We all have the gift of intuition to varying degrees. Some people, who have more gifts, we might refer to as psychics or mediums. But we all have the gift and the ability to connect to our intuition. And often, when we open up our connection to our intuition, it can be confusing. We may get intuitive messages and not know exactly what to do with them.   The beautiful thing about surrender or letting go is that it does allow for what actually needs to come forward to happen. Surrendering and receiving can feel scary because we have to be still. When we’re not in motion, either mentally or physically, and stillness comes, it often can trigger a fear response. Because if you grew up with any kind of abuse or chaos you know that when things got quiet, or still it wasn’t always a good sign; the calm before the storm.   So, we keep ourselves moving to both avoid chaos and to avoid the feelings. Many of us have wounds and trauma that we’ve been carrying around for decades and if we keep ourselves busy and distracted enough then we don’t have to feel the pain. If we do surrender and allow ourselves to receive, then there’s an invitation to feel. And, often it isn’t the party we want to attend.   The beautiful thing about inner child work is that we have all these beautiful parts of us that come alive again and they become a great source of love.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like your intuition is telling you something and you’re not exactly sure what it means or what to do with it? Have you had a life of lots of doing and you feel this huge desire to just be, but at the same time it terrifies you? Are you someone that is good at receiving or are you better at giving? Are you willing to carve the time out for yourself and change behaviors to connect more deeply with your inner child so that you can feel safe in your body?   Michaela’s Question: Michaela is being pulled to listen to her intuition but is confused about whether the message is coming from her intuition or is a fear-based response.   Michaela’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is an imposter syndrome and transformational coach. She left the corporate world after 25 years. She is feeling pulled to stop doing and to listen to her intuition. She is strongly spiritual. She has a global network of people as clients. She invests money in personal development work. She suffered from imposter syndrome in the past. Her family pretended everything was okay, no matter what was happening. She feels coaching is her calling. She’s been married for 25 years. She has a hidden life and doesn’t feel safe. She had traumatic experiences in her childhood. She sometimes wants to disappear. She recently uncoupled from an intimate connection. She is searching for parental safety. She wants to feel supported and loved. She finds it difficult to receive. She doesn’t understand how people love her.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Delve deeply into healing inner child work. Let go of her distractions to integrate the fragmented pieces of herself. Trust her intuition and be curious about the messages. Be curious and allow people’s love for her to model how to love her inner child. Take action in response to her internal messaging rather than taking action to avoid her feelings.   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — Caraway products are toxicity-free, beautiful, and easy to clean and use. The cookware and bakeware sets have a chemical-free slick coating. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the limited-time offer of 10% off on your next purchase or by using the promo code OVERIT at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.  

 Kimberlee's book and podcast, THE FISCAL FEMINIST, is a financial wake-up call for women in which she shares her personal and professional expertise to help women improve their financial health, money-proof their relationships and learn how to be intentional and strategic with their finances and careers.  Kimberlee has more than 25 years of finance, legal and corporate experience. She is currently a managing director and partner at the private wealth management firm The Bahnsen Group and a certified divorce financial analyst. But Kimberlee hasn't always been so confident with money. After a long and contentious divorce that completely upended her life, Kimberlee found herself in the trenches where many of her clients and listeners currently are today. She wasn't prepared financially and was afraid for her and her children's future. Her mission is to ensure no other woman has to feel afraid like she did.  While many women feel overwhelmed today in a post-pandemic world, juggling careers, motherhood and a looming recession, Kimberlee believes every woman can improve her financial health no matter her age, economic or marital status.

This coaching call is about overcoming the fear of stepping out of our comfort zones. Today’s caller, Alana, has always played it safe by never stepping out of her comfort zone. She asks Christine for guidance about how to overcome the fear of taking the risks necessary to move into the life she wants.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode421].   It can be scary to move out of what is familiar. Our risk tolerance in our early 20s is much different than when we are older. When we have lived a little more life, we have seen enough to know that regret is far worse than risk. We can’t get time back and regret is very painful to live with.   We can recover from most risks, especially social media posts, going after clients, and putting ourselves “out there.” Some people may judge, or some people may not like it but we can recover from that. To be coming to the end of life and wondering why we didn’t go after what we wanted is far more painful than taking a risk and maybe having a few people say something not so nice. We’re not living our lives if we’re only doing things that we think will not be judged by other people.   When we move into a different career, especially the personal growth industry, there may be people who judge us. Let them. It’s okay. When we start looking at our own stuff, start speaking our truth, and start healing generational trauma, a lot of people judge us because their subconscious doesn’t want to look at their stuff. Instead of them taking personal responsibility and dealing with their stuff they choose to judge others. It is their defense strategy. The biggest thing to remember is not to take it personally. Allow your inner voice and the voices of the people who love and support you to be the voices you pay attention to.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you a coach who wants to start a coaching practice but you’re playing it safe despite your training, skills, and passion? Have you had challenges in life that reinforce your desire to stay in your safety zone? Are you willing to start making some bigger changes and start taking some risks? Do you deal with imposter syndrome and would you like to let it go for good?   Alana’s Question: Alana fears uncharted territory and would like guidance on how to transition from a structured career path into a less structured entrepreneurial coaching business.   Alana’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has worked in a structured career. She is a certified life coach. She finds it difficult to put herself out there. She suffers from imposter syndrome. She fears asking for payment for her services. She believes she can get clients. She fears she will change as a person. Her mother passed away unexpectedly. She lost a pregnancy. She is comfortable with playing it safe. She is hesitant to move forward into unfamiliar territory. She has relied on external validation. She wants to move into curiosity. She is committed to reaching out to clients.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Shift the way she looks at safety. Reassure herself that safety is internally resourced. Honor her inner voice. Remind herself that just because something is unfamiliar doesn’t mean it is unsafe.   Takeaway: Stop letting the fear of what other people think stop you from going after what you want. Push out of what is safe. If you only live in what is safe, you will never really live.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This is a conversation I loved having because it is SO relevant for me right now as a new mom.  We cover mom guilt, parenting shaming, attachment theory, forgiving ourselves orver what what we "should have done" and SO much more.    My guest, Ellen Boeder, MA, LPC has been a licensed psychotherapist since 2003. After getting married and becoming a mother to two children (now 12 and 14 years old), Ellen began to focus primarily on couples in her private psychotherapy and coaching practice.  Ellen is now a certified practitioner of PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy)., Ellen enjoys teaching and consulting on relationship topics, writing her blog on motherhood and relationships, is fascinated by nature, spirituality, human development, and studies a range of topics from yoga and meditation to evolutionary sociobiology.  Ellen is also on faculty for the Relationship School—a business founded by her husband, Jayson Gaddis, that provides in depth relationship education and coaching training.  www.ellenboeder.com

This coaching call is about being in a similar pattern when it comes to dating and relationships. Today’s caller, Trish, longs for a committed relationship but doesn’t understand why she has a pattern of choosing emotionally unavailable people. She asks for guidance on how to choose the right person.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode420].   So many of our relationship challenges come from our parental issues from our childhood. Not all of them, but a lot of them. As children, we want to be loved, feel safe, and validated by our parents.   When we have a parent whom we don’t get everything we want, or need from, we settle for the best they can do, even though it’s not fully what we want. We often end up not being empowered in relationships. Because there’s still that little inner child part of us who believes that we should just take what we can get. But, every soul seeks to evolve.   Evolution is moving away from judgment, away from limiting beliefs, and into love. The only way we can move away from judgment and limiting beliefs is to have them right in our face so that they’re painful enough for us to look at. Isn’t life wonderful the way it works? So often the relationships we draw in are triggers and activators to look at the stuff from our childhood that we haven’t fully healed.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you someone who maybe has been married or has been in many relationships and you find yourself with the same outcome? Did you grow up feeling like you wanted more from both or one of your parents and you never really got everything you wanted? Are you grieving a recent breakup and blaming yourself or wondering what you did wrong? Are you constantly working on yourself to try to attract a better relationship?   Trish’s Question: Trish is frustrated that she chooses men who are emotionally unavailable or incapable of choosing or loving her.   Trish’s Key Insights and Ahas: She’s done personal development work. Her parents divorced when she was one year old. She didn’t feel her father’s love. She didn’t spend time with her father. She knows she has a lot to offer a partner. The men she chooses don’t recognize her value. She can be guarded in relationships. She longs for a committed relationship. She doesn’t date a lot. She doesn’t want to be alone. She doesn’t show up empowered in the early stages of intimate relationships. She doesn’t want to get hurt. She ignores red or yellow flags early in relationships. In her last relationship, she believed their core values were aligned. She knows it is not her job to be a man’s savior.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Drop the belief that she has a bad picker. Have clear conversations about what she wants early in a relationship. Empower herself by not being a victim of her circumstances. Give herself the time and space to heal.   Takeaway: What choices and what states of being can you embody to step into empowerment?   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — Caraway products are toxicity-free, beautiful, and easy to clean and use. The cookware and bakeware sets have a chemical-free slick coating. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the limited-time offer of 10% off on your next purchase or by using the promo code OVERIT at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.  

This coaching call is about the motherhood transition and finding your identity. Today’s caller, Julia, has children leaving the nest. She is unsure what comes next for her. She asks Christine for guidance about what she can do to discover who she is.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode419].   The earlier in life we have children the less time we have to work on our own inner child. Part of why we hang on to moments with our kids is because our inner child may not have had it. The more we have a connection to our own inner child and our sense of play and magic the less we need children around us to give us that. So much of what mothers miss from children is the sense of unconditional love and joy.   One of the things our culture is not great with is grief and letting it be okay that we are grieving. And, when we don’t complete a cycle with ritual and intention it still lingers. A part of us is always in the past. We always have nostalgia and it makes it harder to step into our next phase.   Often, we try to redo our childhood through parenthood. We’re trying to give our children the life that we didn’t have and it is beautiful that we want to do better. But what can happen is we become so involved in our child’s life and become so immersed in parenthood, particularly motherhood, that we neglect our own inner child.   It’s a delicate balance to mother others while mothering ourselves. Remember not to neglect your inner child by putting everything you have into your children. It is important we parent our inner child as well.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you at an age in life where you are trying to get excited about the next chapter but are having a hard time doing it? Are you going through any kind of transition and you find it bittersweet? Have you questioned your identity, not just from moving from motherhood to being an empty-nester? Have you avoided dealing with your childhood by being a great parent or having a great life as an adult and you know it’s time to deal with your childhood?   Julia’s Question: Julia feels she is in a phase in life where she doesn’t know what comes next for her. She asks for guidance about how to rediscover herself.   Julia’s Key Insights and Ahas: She just sent her oldest off to college. She has one child still at home. She doesn’t want this motherhood phase to be over. She worked and traveled before she had children. She may not know herself as an adult woman. She feels that possibly her best years have passed. She is considering joining the Signature Retreat. She wishes more people spoke about this motherhood transition. She teaches Pilates. She feels like she needs to get busy doing something. She is grieving her childhood. Her childhood was chaotic.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Recognize the things about motherhood that she won’t miss. Find ways to enjoy today. Join the Signature Retreat. Take the opportunity to relax into her feminine energy. Consider who she wants to be and what she wants to leave behind. Take the space to nurture and heal her inner child.   Sponsor: Aquatru — purifies water using a four-stage reverse osmosis process. The countertop purifiers remove 15 times more contaminants than ordinary pitcher filters plus the water tastes fantastic. Their long-lasting and affordable filters are independently tested and certified to NSF standards to remove over 80% of the most harmful contaminants. Go to Aquatru.com and enter OVERIT at checkout to get 20% off any water purifier.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

For the past 20 years, Lindsey Meehleis has worked in healthcare but found herself often in the shadows. In the shadows of the night helping women discover their own strength through psychedelic, transcendent experiences while they birth their babies in power at home. As well in the shadows of death as a Midwife who helps people cross the rainbow bridge. Her hands have touched the lives of many as they take their first and last breath. She has woven the stories of thousands of births throughout these 20 years. Trained traditionally and licensed through the Medical Board, she quickly learned that what is needed in the magic and mystery of birth and death can't be found in a book. She serves families from womb to tomb, like many medicine women have done throughout time, with a deep remembering that many of these witches were burned at the stake for their threat to the standard industrialized medical complex. She has witnessed a drastic shift in healthcare since 2020 and looks forward to co- creating a new future of what true medicine always was. She gets down to the nitty-gritty of LIFE and everything it brings and illustrates the power that we have within, showing that birth, life and death are pivotal rites of passage that deserve to be held in sacred deep reverence.

The essence of this coaching call is about healing a relationship with adult children. Today’s caller, Gail, is dealing with estrangement by her children since her marriage to their father broke up and her ex-husband passed away. She asks for guidance on how to find joy during a new chapter in her life and how she can reconnect with her children.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode418].   If you walk on eggshells, tiptoe around, or try to protect everyone else’s feelings, ask yourself if that is the most loving thing to do. Sometimes love can be messy and truth can be messy but walking on eggshells, pretending, and being a chameleon is not love.   Children need to know that their parents will fight for them and risk them being mad or pushing them away to have a relationship with them.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have any children that you’re estranged from or that you have a rocky relationship with and would like to repair it? “Should” you be excited about things in your life but you’re having a hard time accessing joy?  Do you ever feel like you want to tell the truth about something but you can’t because you’re protecting someone else?   Gail’s Question: Gail asks for guidance in getting back to joy while suffering from grief.   Gail’s Key Insights and Ahas: Her husband died after three months of them separating. It’s been five years since her husband’s death. She believes her adult children are suffering. She feels numb. She completed the Over It and On With It online course. She is engaged to be married. She is slowly rebuilding her relationship with her four children. She fears her new relationship could jeopardize her relationship with her children. She wants to respect her children’s wants but it feels unjust to her. There is a religious component to the family disruption. She takes intentional steps to rekindle her family relationship. She has an internal dilemma about being a mother and a woman. She doesn’t trust her intuition.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Write each of her children a letter sharing her feelings. Become the leader of her family and tell her children the truth. Get guidance from a family therapist. She deserves joy and happiness.   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — Caraway products are toxicity-free, beautiful, and easy to clean and use. The cookware and bakeware sets have a chemical-free slick coating. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the limited-time offer of 10% off on your next purchase or by using the promo code OVERIT at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Ryan Mayer, certified ADDCA and ICF coach, is on a mission to empower others with ADHD toward their greatness. He has coached clients from 19 different countries and has nearly half a million followers on social media. His Performance and Mindset Coaching helps others navigate through the storms in their lives caused by ADHD, making measurable progress on their most important goals. Having ADHD himself, Ryan calls on personal experience to equip his clients - who may feel like they are constantly falling short at work and at home - with the strategies to step into the happier life that they deserve. Ryan is happily married to his (amazing neurotypical) wife Andrea. They have three adorable children and live in Cleveland, OH (USA). To get Ryan's 10 day course that is all text message based for 30% off go to https://market.authoritive.com/workthatworksforyouradhdand use "OnWithIt30" at checkout

The essence of this coaching call is about our protective patterns manifesting as nervous habits. Today’s caller, Jessica, picks her skin. She would like guidance about understanding her nervous habit and how to stop it. Christine sheds some light on why these kinds of habits exist and why wanting to get rid of them or making them wrong is exactly what not to do.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode417].   The origin of our nervous habits is a tender, scared, powerless part of us. When pain is inflicted upon us, either emotional, physical, sexual, or mental pain, and everything feels out of control, our ability to cause ourselves pain and being the one controlling the pain gives us a sense of power.   When we are in overwhelm of any kind, we can use our nervous habit as a soothing strategy. It sort of shuts down everything else and brings our focus to the habit so we don’t have to feel other things. We use it as a sense of control, as well as a soothing strategy. It is a useful strategy our subconscious creates to help us manage our pain.   Remember, our inner protector is protecting a very scared child who felt powerless and had pain inflicted on them. When we feel the urge to apply our protective strategies, AKA act out our nervous habits, the last thing we want to do is try to force them to go away because they will just try to do their job even stronger. We need to make a conscious effort to be aware of our habits and not judge or shame ourselves for them.   My upcoming Signature Retreat is almost upon us. To get a unique sneak peek of what to expect during the retreat, I am having a Grad Panel on September 6th. To attend or for a recording of the panel go to Christine.Hassler.com/panel or assist@christinehassler.com. For a nurturing self-care experience, join like-minded women from October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. And, to apply for a partial scholarship go to ChristineHassler.com/scholarship. The course is almost full.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have any nervous habits like skin-picking, nail-biting, pulling apart split ends, etc.? Did you have pain inflicted upon you as a child and you felt you had no control? Do you notice nervous habits emerge even in situations where you should feel safe? Do you try to stop a habit by shaming yourself or making it wrong and you aren’t getting anywhere?   Jessica’s Question: Jessica asks for guidance on how to break her nervous habit of skin-picking.   Jessica’s Key Insights and Ahas: Her skin picking interferes with her being fully present. She feels anxious when she picks her skin. She is a high achiever. She finds it difficult to break her habit. Her habit soothes her. Pain was inflicted upon her which left her feeling powerless. She is in the early stages of pregnancy. She wished she had an emotionally present, nurturing mother. Her grandfather caused her distress as a child. She feels she has to put everyone else first.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Let go of the shame and judgment she has about her nervous habit. Have compassion for herself. Sign up for the Inner Child Workshop. Get herself into the present moment as much as possible. If she has the urge to pick, go ahead and pick but do it consciously. Take care not to go into the martyr-mother role.   Takeaways: If you have a nervous habit let go of your shame and judgment around it. Be patient and gentle with yourself and nourish your inner child.   Sponsor: Air Doctor — is an air filter and air purifier that creates the healthiest environment in your home. It filters out dangerous contaminants and allergens with an ultra HEPA filter that removes 99.99% of tested bacteria and viruses. If you want to order an Air Doctor today with a 30-day money-back guarantee, go to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code “Overit” and get up to 39% or $300 off on selected models.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

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The essence of this coaching call is what causes inspirational blocks and the unhealthy ways we try to motivate ourselves. Today’s caller, Jo, is asking for guidance about how to tap into her inspiration. The pandemic impacted her nervous system and left her lacking the motivation to live into her purpose.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode416].   Often, what inspires us is the stuff that makes us mad. It doesn’t mean we need to come out with anger at people. We need to move through the anger to find the fire and the passion that lies underneath. Then, we can step into the feminine power of discernment and discover our Warrior Woman. Which is a beautiful place to be. When we do this we allow ourselves to be pulled forward by a calling and a mission, versus looking for something external to motivate us.   Women, in general, are not great with our anger. It leaks out in certain ways but we are not great at tapping into our rage and anger and letting it out in a healthy way. This blocks us from our passion. And if we keep suppressing our emotions, rage, and anger we will feel depressed.   Plus, we tend to motivate ourselves by being hard on ourselves and looking at what we think is wrong and the changes we need to make. We believe if we make ourselves miserable enough then maybe we will be motivated to make a change. That is a strategy that doesn’t work or only works for the short term. It allows our inner critic to run the show and we burn ourselves out.   When we realize we are not doing anything wrong and that we are living our purpose because we are learning, growing, healing, and raising our consciousness, it releases the feeling of failure.   If you resonate with this podcast and Christine’s style of coaching, Elementum Coaching Institute is the coaching certification program for you. Even if you are not a coach, and want a personal transformation program to give you coaching skills you can use with your employees or peers, in relationships, or with children, you are encouraged to apply at ElementumCoachingInstitute.com. Enrollment closes September 1, 2023, and the course begins September 14th. This is the final course for 2023‒2024.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you feeling a lack of inspiration? Do you feel you had a setback during the pandemic and you haven’t been able to come back from it? Do you want to feel like you’re making an impact, that you matter, and what you’re doing in the world matters? Are you someone who benefits from connection with other people? Are you an extrovert who isn’t connecting with people enough?   Jo’s Question: Jo is asking about how to find inspiration and motivation for herself and her business in the here and now.   Jo’s Key Insights and Ahas: She gave up her teaching job to write a novel and build a coaching business. She moved in with her parents. The pandemic impacted her nervous system. She has difficulty spending a lot of time by herself. She wants to do something meaningful. She gets overwhelmed with business tasks. She is trying to motivate herself by being hard on herself. She wants to be inspired by life. She has finished her novel. She signed a lease on an office. She is an extrovert. She lived with depression for a long time. She longs for freedom, transparency, and truth. She sees her anger as a negative. She started her business after she found self-compassion. She is joining Elementum Coaching.   How to Get Over It and On With It: When she feels trapped in the moment, consider what choices are available to her. Put herself out there to get connection and support. Tap into the fire beneath her anger and be motivated by her deep desire. Start using her voice again. Join the upcoming Signature Retreat, read Expectation Hangover, or visit ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease.   Takeaways: Consider — Is there a part of you that wants to be free and believes that if you do what you want bad things will happen? Get to know your anger, feel it, and understand it.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Elisha Tichelle is an alchemist of the nervous system for visionary leaders and heart-centered entrepreneurs. Following a 20-year career as a somatic researcher and professor, Elisha now supports her clients to expand their nervous systems so their work can make a greater impact in the world - without burning out. Elisha’s facilitation guides an expansion of nervous system regulation, moving people out of operating from positions of stress and overwhelm into embodied states of flow, connection, and mastery. Elisha is the ‘behind the scenes’ priestess to some of the world's most successful and well-known coaches. Through her training program ‘Evolution,’ she guides space holders, facilitators, and coaches into integrating nervous system work in their business and life.

This coaching call is about the difference between masculine energy and hypervigilance. Today’s caller, Jo, has been caring for her husband after a debilitating accident. She believes she is functioning only in her masculine energy and would like some balance, but her actions may be coming from a response to trauma she hasn’t fully processed. Christine offers guidance.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode415].   There is an unconscious, and sometimes conscious, expectation that masculine energy is supposed to be strong and be able to hold us. But, what masculine energy truly is, is taking initiative, moving in a linear way, being present, and holding for things. It is making quick decisions about things and being productive in certain ways.   Healthy masculine energy is NOT about being so busy and doing everything for everyone that we are depleted completely — That's being hyper-vigilant. Hypervigilance is a response to trauma that makes us feel out of control. Because no one chooses trauma. It is completely out of our control. When we are hypervigilant, we are looking for a way to feel in control again. We think if we do and control everything, we can prevent expectation hangovers or more trauma.   If you’re trying to shift more into your feminine energy when you’re in hypervigilance, good luck because in order for you to shift into your feminine energy, you have to feel safe and if you are in hypervigilance, you do not feel safe.   My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who are ready to let go of their limiting beliefs. For a nurturing self-care experience, join like-minded women from October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. To apply for a partial scholarship go to ChristineHassler.com/scholarship.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Has there been a drastic change in your life you haven’t had time to process because you have had to go right into action? Do you often think you’re in your masculine when you are truly in hypervigilance? Are you someone that is so used to doing, you often don’t even know how to be? When it comes to surrender and accepting things, how are you with it? Can you let go or do you like to fight with reality?   Jo’s Question: Jo is asking for guidance on how to prolong being in her feminine energy and relinquish her feelings of needing to be in control.   Jo’s Key Insights and Ahas: Her husband was in a debilitating accident. She feels she shifted into her masculine after her husband’s accident. She likes being in her feminine but feels pulled out of it too often. She wants to relieve her husband’s pain. She does inner child work and meditation. She has a tendency to be a people pleaser. She has been a control freak in the past but wants to let go of it. She hasn’t done trauma-release work. Her father was strict and unpredictable. She does everything for others. She questions her self-worth. She wants to cure her husband’s pain. Her husband has accepted his physical condition. She is grieving and hasn’t fully processed the incident.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Realize she is being hypervigilant, not in her masculine. Find a somatic and trauma-release-work therapist. Have compassion for herself. Release her anger and trauma. Recalibrate her nervous system. Have conversations with her husband about creating polarity in their relationship. Accept where her husband is in his healing process.   Takeaways: Are you in your masculine energy or being hypervigilant?   Sponsor: Milkify.me — is a concierge breast milk freeze-drying service for mothers who are breastfeeding or planning to breastfeed that transforms frozen milk into convenient pouches of powder that last for 3 years. To get $40 off your first order message @Milkify.me on Instagram or at Milkify.me and mention the code Christine.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In your personal development journey, you may be asking "what's the point?" You are doing all this "work" and you are not seeing the changes in your life that you desire. In this CC I answer this question and give you reassurance to keep going.

  This coaching call is about how patience and compassion without clarity can lead to resentment. Today’s caller, Lucy, doesn’t feel like a priority in her partner’s life. She asks for guidance on whether the relationship is right for her or if there are too many red flags. Christine shares some skills that can help Lucy get what she wants from her relationship.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode414].   Consciousness isn’t just about talking about our wounding or holding space for someone when they cry. It’s about taking action that’s in integrity and alignment with who we say we are.   When we have a lot of emotional vulnerability or sexual intimacy and vulnerability with a man, we can mistake it for being in a conscious relationship. If you are in a dynamic where you’re having a lot of emotional intimacy, but you don’t have the consistency or the feeling of safety, it’s not as conscious as you may think. What do you need to do to make a relationship more conscious? Bring accountability, responsibility, and agreements into it.   Consciousness is an aspect of sacred union, and in sacred union, there’s a masculine and feminine. There is the being and the doing. We can’t just swim around in the feminine being of vulnerability, processing, and emotional intimacy without the masculine of doing, showing up, and having structure. We need both, otherwise, our inner child doesn’t feel safe.   My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who are ready to let go of their limiting beliefs. For a nurturing self-care experience, join like-minded women from October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. To apply for a partial scholarship go to ChristineHassler.com/scholarship.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in a relationship, whether it will be romantic or otherwise, that you’re doubting or you don’t have clarity about? Are you someone who has trouble asking for what you need so you ask for it in a vague, safe way? Do you not feel like a priority in a relationship, or as a child? Are you doubting yourself? Are you feeling some nudges and doubts about something but you’re doubting your doubts?   Lucy’s Question: Lucy feels stuck when trying to discern the difference between what is a red flag and what is her intuition in a new relationship.   Lucy’s Key Insights and Ahas: She feels that this new relationship is her first adult relationship. She has a hard time trusting herself. Her mother didn’t trust her. She and her partner are in the process of defining their relationship. She wants to know if the relationship is right for her. She doesn’t feel like a priority to her partner. She appreciates certainty and consistency. Her partner has full custody of his two children. Her partner doesn’t make plans with her but asks for dates with little notice. As a child, she longed for her mother’s attention. She is still learning about herself and her patterns in relationship.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Propose a schedule to her partner and re-negotiate if needed. Get specific about what she needs from the relationship.   Takeaways: Where do you need to have more masculine energy in your relationships? Where do you need to make clear agreements so you can feel safe?   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

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This coaching call is about surrender and keeping hope. Today’s caller, Eva, is ready to give up hope and accept that she may never get pregnant. But her intuition is telling her that one day she will be a mother. She asks Christine for guidance and clarity about how to shift into acceptance and let go of her desire to have a baby.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode413].   Our drive and yearning to have a child can be due to our wanting to make our own childhood different. It is a reason why the desire to have a child can be so strong. There is an attachment to wanting to have a biological child that causes a degree of stress inside our system and it can make it harder for the body to get pregnant.   The body will relax when we surrender. But how do we surrender but not give up hope? Resignation is giving up and feeling that you don’t care about what happens. Surrender is more of a letting-go energy. Just handing it over to a higher power, handing it over to a source, handing it over to God, and keeping that longing and desire in your heart.   Oftentimes, our “soul babies” want a certain kind of clearing of generational patterns before they come in. And, our bodies strive to be healthy before they carry a baby.   My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who are ready to let go of their limiting beliefs. For a nurturing self-care experience join like-minded women from October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. To apply for a partial scholarship go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you been wanting something for a long time and you keep trying but it’s not happening? Have you decided to surrender, but still have some hope and it leads to an expectation hangover? Were you able to fully relax and surrender as a child? As a coping strategy, are you a planner? Does controlling and planning everything help you to feel safe?   Eva’s Question: Eva has been trying to have a child and has not yet gotten pregnant. Her intuition tells her she will one day have a child. She is looking for guidance about how to reduce her monthly expectation hangovers.   Eva’s Key Insights and Ahas: She used fertility drugs to try to get pregnant. She grieved the idea of being childless. Her gut tells her that one day she will become pregnant and be a mother. She doesn’t want to have an expectation hangover every month when she menstruates. Her planning and control is a trauma response. She believes she needs to mother herself better. Her mother was emotionally volatile. Her mood as a child was based on the mood of her mother. Her nervous system is dysregulated. Her inner child wants to be held.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Surrender and let go of the attachment to having a biological child but stay open to the idea. Rediscover her true essence. Know that it is not her fault for not getting pregnant. Give herself the childhood, and love she deserves, but never had. Begin the Inner Child Workshop.   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — Caraway products are toxicity-free, beautiful, easy to clean and use. The cookware and bakeware sets have a naturally slick ceramic surface. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the limited-time offer of 10% off on your next purchase by using the promo code OVERIT at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Ladies, do you lean more toward being a bitch or a doormat? I know that’s not a very nice question to ask, but it’s an important one! We all have the capacity to have bitchy moments when we are impatient, snappy, cold or just a bit rude.  And we all have the capacity to have moments where we people please or let someone else walk over our boundaries. In this episode I talk about why we act this way and what we can do to change it.   Also, here is a link to the article I reference in the show: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/doormat-diva-alpha-female-bitch-from-hell-which-one-jodie-salt

This coaching call is about embracing our mother energy. Today’s caller, Davina, is a life coach struggling to attract her ideal clients. She was told that she may fear being seen, but it didn’t entirely resonate with her. During the session, she discovers that it is an inner-child wound impacting her efforts.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode412].   When we have blocks, when imposter syndrome comes up, or we are not attracting what we want, we can believe it is a fear of being seen. And while that may be true in many ways — many of us do have a fear of being seen and being vulnerable, but that is not always what it is. There may be something deeper that is more accurate.   There are inner-child, super-subconscious wounds and operating systems we develop when we are young impact our lives in various ways that we are not aware of. Whenever our reaction to something doesn’t match the circumstance in terms of severity, our inner child is triggered.   For anyone, especially coaches, sometimes we think we need to have great answers all the time, but if we can just hold a space of love and compassion for people in our life, that is often more powerful than any piece of advice or aha moment we can create. Often, someone feeling not-judged is the biggest aha moment they can possibly have.   At Elementum Coaching Institute, we train epic coaches. If you resonate with this podcast and Christine’s style of coaching, this is the coaching certification program for you. Even if you are not a coach, and want a personal transformation program to give you coaching skills you can use with your employees or peers, in relationships, or with children you are encouraged to apply at ElementumCoachingInstitute.com. Enrollment closes September 1, 2023, and the course begins September 14th.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you believe you have a fear of being seen or is it hard to put yourself out there? Are you a coach and you are having difficulty attracting the exact kind of clients you want? Do you have a childhood that involves some kind of abandonment or not a feeling really chosen by a parent? Do you get angry, frustrated, or annoyed when people copy you?   Davina’s Question: Davina is struggling to attract her ideal clients and is asking for guidance about her messaging efforts.   Davina’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is a life coach. She is annoyed by people who copy her. A coach told her she is afraid of being seen. Her mother abandoned her and started a different family. She had to share her mother’s attention. She felt she has always had to do things on her own. She feels sad and angry. She grieves the loss of the relationship she had with her mother. Being vulnerable is uncomfortable for her. Her father wasn’t emotionally available. She is vulnerable when she feels safe and supported. She takes a long time to open up to people.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Know that her anger and sadness are valid and that it needs to be expressed. Work with her inner child about her mother’s leaving. Take the opportunity to be open and honest. Give herself as much time as she needs. Write down how she would coach others in a similar situation.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This coaching call is about honoring yourself and another person by completing an unhealthy dynamic. Jade & Matthew both join this couple’s session to ask Christine for guidance about where to go in their current relationship. If you are going through a relationship breakup or if it is time to end a relationship, this episode is valuable especially if there is wounding playing out in your relationship.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode411].   One of the ways that we suffer most in relationship is thinking that our love will change someone. But, the opportunity to truly heal and step into their greatest potential is up to that person.   Oftentimes, coming together in relationship does help someone step into their fullest potential, but there’s a caveat: they have to do it. They have to want it and it has to happen quickly. If you’re in a relationship where it has been years of the other person going back to their old patterns, then you are in the cycle of them apologizing and feeling awful and you taking them back thinking things will be different. They are going to do their work and then something else happens but you see their little boy or little girl, and you love them, and this time was different and they’re really doing the work, and they’re seeing the counselor, but then they do it again. It’s just a loop. I encourage you to choose you, to love you. They need to do their healing on their own.   Making the choice to end, or complete, an unhealthy dynamic to heal individually is a gift we give to the other person. When we trust love and truth it always gets us to where we want to go.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you an enabler or are you addicted to someone else enabling you? Do you tend to be a little codependent or a lot codependent in relationships? Do you know that you love someone so much but no matter how much you love them it’s up to them to change? Are you feeling that it is time for a conscious uncoupling in your relationship?   Jade & Matthew’s Question: Jade & Matthew ask for guidance about how best to heal themselves.   Jade & Matthew’s Key Insights and Ahas: Matthew feels relieved. They separated after he returned from his travels. Matthew shared his shadows with Jade. Matthew became aware that he seeks validation from other women. Matthew will do inner child work via therapy. Jade believes it is best for them to not have contact while they are healing. Jade needs to see Matthew needs to love himself. Matthew wants Jade to be in his life because he feels a soul-level connection to her.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Have no contact with each other for one year so they can heal themselves. Use the sentence starters Christine gave them to journal about their feelings. Jade needs time alone and for Matthew to respect that. Take the opportunity to learn what healthy, mature love is.   Sponsor: Sensate — is an infrared resonance, calming device that when synchronized with sessions in the companion app works towards reducing stress, and improving well-being. It provides deep relaxation in 10‒30 minute sessions to tone the vagus nerve. For $30 off your purchase, go to GetSensate.com and use the promo code OVERIT.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

I'm answering another question from a listener this week! She asked me to expand upon a phrase I've used in the show: leaky sexual energy. In this episode I'll describe what leaky sexual energy is, where it comes from, how to recognize it, how it impacts

This coaching call is about when our childhood wounding is triggered by a child. Lorena feels she has a parenting blind spot when it comes to her relationship with one of her stepchildren. She would like guidance on how to be a better stepmom and how to respond rather than react when she is triggered.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode410]   There are different blessings that go along with being a stepparent. But, in general, parenting can be hard. You can love a child so much but still get frustrated and triggered and then feel guilty about it. Understanding that we are human and we get triggered goes a long way.   Parenting is a spiritual practice. For these little beings that choose us, either as parents or step-parents, we have a soul contract. And, relationships and parenting are some of the biggest ways we evolve as humans.   With that said, we tend to reject people and behavior that reminds us of our wounded parts. We can have an ick factor towards it or them because we carry internal judgment and have self-protection mechanisms in place. It is much easier to love someone who doesn’t share the same wounding.   When we are triggered, pausing and taking the time to regulate our nervous system allows us to be in the moment and respond to children, not from the viewpoint of our inner child, but as the adults we’ve become.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you ever feel rejected or neglected as a child? Did you want more nurturing and love? Do you have a child or a stepchild that you just don’t connect to and it bothers you, and you feel guilty because you don’t like being around that child as much as you do your other children? Are you committed to being a better parent both to yourself and your inner child and your child or children?   Lorena’s Question: Lorena feels she has a blind spot in her relationship with her stepchild and is asking for guidance about building a better relationship.   Lorena’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has been a stepmother since 2016. Her stepchild struggles with emotional regulation. She has a baby and two stepchildren. There may not have been an original mother/child bond in her stepchild’s life. She doesn’t want to be around her stepchild. She feels invaded and resents the extra effort it takes to nurture her stepchild. Her father was an alcoholic and made inappropriate requests of her. Her stepchildren are there 50% of the time. Her husband looks to her to be a mature stepparent. She beats herself up for her feelings toward her stepchild. She didn’t get loving attention from her mother.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Tell her inner child that her father’s care wasn’t her responsibility. Accept that her stepchild is a trigger for her. Try seeing herself in her stepchild. Pause, take a deep breath, and say — I love you, and I got you — when triggered to regulate her nervous system. Do not underestimate what a nine-year-old can talk about. Get in alignment with her husband about her stepparenting.   Sponsor: Sensate — is an infrared resonance device that when synchronized with sessions in the companion app works towards reducing stress, and improving well-being. It provides deep relaxation in 10‒30 minute sessions to tone the vagus nerve. For $30 off your purchase, go to GetSensate.com and use the promo code OVERIT.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Let's talk about sex and shame and desire and pleasure! Emily Morse joins me to dive into why our sex life is so important and how to up our Sex IQ. Emily is the host of Sex with Emily, the #1 podcast on sex and relationships. She received a Doctorate in Human Sexuality from the Institutefor the Advancement of Human Sexuality. She is a regular guest on The Today Show and The Doctors and a go-tosource on sexuality for Cosmopolitan, Bustle, and Harper’sBazaar.  She has been profiled in The New York Times, Forbes,and Men’s Health.   You can learn more here: https://sexwithemily.com/

This call is about deciding whether or not to rekindle a relationship after experiencing infidelity or betrayal. Today’s call was originally intended to be a couples session with Jade and Matthew. But, Jade has decided to exclude Matthew from the call. She describes why she made the decision. Some people can work through infidelity and have it strengthen their relationship. Other people need a clean break.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode409]   What can happen when we are working through trust issues and articulating our needs is that when we get to a point where we are triggered, we throw up a barrier rather than a boundary. When we are a person who hasn’t been great at boundaries in life, what can happen when we’re pushed to an edge is we can just throw up a wall.   Anytime we cheat, there’s a part of us that’s scared of intimacy with the person that we’re with. There are a lot of other reasons but it’s like we’re afraid to go deep with the person we’re with. There can be a pattern of not being able to be fully intimate and fully vulnerable in relationships.   Most things that happen to us that aren’t necessarily what we want to happen are on some level due to our soul calling in a situation to help us heal something that isn’t optimal inside of us.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you often not hold boundaries to the extent of when you’re pushed to an edge a wall and barrier comes up? Have you tried to forgive someone and tried to heal through relationships but you just keep getting hurt? Do you have a hard time trusting? Do you beat yourself up when you’ve been hurt because you think you should have seen it coming?   Jade’s Key Insights and Ahas: She found it difficult to trust Matthew as he traveled. She felt like he was hiding information from her. She has decided that she can’t be in the relationship any longer. She felt energetically that things were off. She wants a healthy relationship in the future. She has questioned her truth when it comes to Matthew. She needs transparency in her relationships. She has a pattern of not being fully vulnerable and intimate in relationships. She thought she would feel enough if someone changed for her. She felt this relationship will help her heal from her previous relationship. She wishes her mom was emotionally supportive and less reactive.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Examine her trust issues and why she continues to be in relationships with people she doesn’t trust. Forgive Matthew without continuing the relationship with him. Create emotional safety for herself. Don’t waste her time thinking she “should” have known sooner. Trust herself and give herself time to grieve without beating herself up. Get clear about her boundaries in a relationship and write them out.   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — Caraway products are toxicity-free, beautiful, easy to clean and use. The cookware and bakeware sets have a naturally slick ceramic surface. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the limited-time offer of 10% off on their full suite of products by using the promo code OVERIT at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Anger. We all feel it at some point or another. It's a natural human emotion and expression. However the way we deal with our anger often is very unnatural. We suppress it, numb it, try to escape it or let it consume us so much so that it can make us sick and/or ruin our relationships. In this episode I talk about how to release anger in a healthy way and walk you through the process of writing an f*** you letter.

This call is about deciding whether or not to rekindle a relationship after experiencing infidelity or betrayal. Today’s caller, Matthew, has childhood trauma that is affecting his adult behaviors. He wants to continue his relationship with Jade but struggles with self-worth and trust. This is the second of three conversations. In next week’s call, Christine speaks with Matthew and Jade during the couple’s session. Listen to Part One with Jade.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode408]   Most of the time people don’t act out intentionally to hurt other people, they’re acting out because they’re asking for help, even if it doesn’t seem like it. When we have chronic trauma it is very hard for us to be aware of how it is affecting our behavior.   When we look at behavior, especially something like unfaithfulness or cheating, if we just look at the behavior we can get angry. Angry at ourselves and angry at the person. We may call it unforgivable, and maybe it is. But when we look at what is underneath the behavior, what’s really driving the behavior, it can give us a different perspective and move us into compassion and ultimately forgiveness.   Compassion and forgiveness offer hope that a relationship can be healed.   My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who are ready to let go of their limiting beliefs. For a nurturing self-care experience join like-minded women from October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. To apply go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat. Apply by July 10th to get the early bird discount.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you struggle with self-worth issues? Have you ever been unfaithful or have you been in a relationship where someone has betrayed you, lied to you, or been unfaithful to you? Did you grow up in a home where there was abuse and chaos and you never really felt worthy or loved or safe? Are you on a personal discovery journey and you’re clear that you’re changing things but the people around you may not believe you and that can be frustrating?   Matthew’s Question: Matthew struggles with self-worth and trust issues. He would like guidance on how to find internal validation and create a safe space for Jade.   Matthew’s Key Insights and Ahas: He lied, manipulated, and cheated during the relationship but, that’s not who he wants to be. He feels Jade is having trouble trusting him again. He has trouble trusting Jade. He wants to heal his past traumas. He wants to feel loved, cared for, trusted, and secure in his relationship. He feels his needs can be met. He is on a self-discovery journey. He has always felt he was insignificant and had to fight for love. He has witnessed infidelity and abuse in his life. He is working on forgiving himself. He seeks external validation, mostly from women. He is seeking out ways to bring joy into his life. He is becoming aware of the energy he shares with women. He has an anxious attachment style in his relationships. He is in awe of who Jade is and sees potential in their relationship. He loves Jade but he feels he is under attack.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Find ways to feel expressed, worthy, and validated. Discover what being a man means to him. Talk to an outside resource about his childhood wounding. Breathe deeply to calm himself when he feels defensive. Have compassion for himself and the things he feels shame about.   Assignment: Write out the agreements he needs to make in the new version of this relationship. Write down the needs he would like to have met in a relationship.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.  

Dr. Will Cole, health advisor to Gwyneth Paltrow, top functional medicine practitioner, and New York Times bestselling author has dedicated his career to teaching people to apply skepticism to nutritional trends and instead, pay closer attention to their own intuition. His new book, GUT FEELINGS, demystifies the gut-brain connection and provides a framework to repair the relationship between what you eat and how you feel. After over a decade as a functional medicine expert, Dr. Cole discerned that shame can cause gut inflammation and sabotage wellness through what he’s named “Shameflammation.” When you send signals to your brain that you are overwhelmed, overworked, or overtired, your body reacts. Shameflammation can be the cause of chronic health conditions such as autoimmune disorders, depression, IBS, and more.

This call is about deciding whether or not to rekindle a relationship after experiencing infidelity or betrayal. Today’s caller, Jade, has recently been brought back together with someone she loves but whom she left because he betrayed her. This session is the first of three conversations. In next week’s call, Christine speaks with Jade’s partner.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode407]   When we are betrayed and we are cheated on, of course, we feel anger and hurt, it was an awful thing to have happened, and we get to be mad and angry at the other person. But if we hold on to those things for too long then we’re the ones who continue to hurt ourselves.   For many people, infidelity or any kind of betrayal is a deal breaker and sometimes it’s not. Sometimes there are so many other things leading up to the betrayal or infidelity that, of course, do not excuse it, but also contribute to why there might be an opening for forgiveness and an opportunity to rebuild the relationship from a fresh start. When it comes to infidelity or betrayal, it’s not a black-and-white topic.   Forgiveness is a process; it doesn’t happen overnight and it is not something we can do just with our mind. We need to do it with our hearts and our somatic body. We need to move through those emotions of anger, sadness, hurt, and shame to get to a place of — “How do I really feel about this situation, and is my heart open to repair?”   Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you ever been unfaithful in a relationship or have you been cheated on? What do you define as betrayal? Have you gotten clear inside your mind, inside your heart, and with your partner on what is a betrayal and what the agreements are in your relationship? If you have let someone back into your life after betrayal, have you been able to trust again or have you always been looking over your shoulder? Have you always lived with a sense of really not getting your needs met?   Jade’s Question: Jade is having trouble navigating trust in a rekindled relationship that ended through betrayal and infidelity. She would like guidance on how to move past the betrayal to build a new relationship.   Jade’s Key Insights and Ahas: After one year, her relationship ended with betrayal. Both she and her partner are doing work to rekindle the relationship. She is doing inner work to recognize when she is triggered. She loves her partner and recognizes the humanness in the betrayal. She fears self-betrayal by letting him back into her life. She knows letting him back into her life will be challenging. She doesn’t know if she can ever trust him again. There was dishonesty in her past relationships. She felt not enough in her childhood home and didn’t feel safe. Her mother did not validate or reassure her. She hasn’t felt safe in her relationships. She is hyper-vigilant. She is leaning into the discomfort of the situation.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Put prevention plans and agreements in place to start with a blank slate to create safety for herself in the relationship. Know that whatever happens, she is going to be okay. Find a place to process her feelings with someone else besides her partner. Do not worry about other people’s guilt and shame. Release her fear and regulate her nervous system.   Assignment: Write about trust and what it means to her. Write out the agreements that need to be made to move forward in the relationship.   Sponsor: Sensate — is an infrasound resonance device that when paired with sessions in the companion app works towards reducing stress, and improving well-being. It provides deep relaxation in 10‒30 minute sessions to tone the vagus nerve. For $30 off your purchase, go to GetSensate.com and use the promo code OVERIT.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Jenny Eversole is the founder of Stylespace.com a virtual styling platform to elevate your style with expert stylists. After nearly a decade running her own fashion label, she learned how personal style can make a big difference in one's confidence, happiness and overall success. Jenny founded Style Space for people to discover their best style and to look, feel, and BE their best.

This call is about setting boundaries and taking care of your own needs. Today’s caller, Caitlyn, has an expectation hangover about her engagement planning process. She is excited about her wedding, but her family and friends don’t seem to be. We cover a lot of ground and we go really deep in this episode.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode406]   Being a caretaker can be a survival skill. Survival needs can be the need to feel loved, valued, and like we belong. When one of our patterns is tied to those needs, it can be hard to release. Consciously, we may know it’s not healthy for us to be a caretaker and that we should set boundaries but unconsciously, there may be a part of us that wonders who will love us and how we will fit into your family if we stop caretaking others.   When our bodies are working hard to hold all of our suppressed emotions together it needs another outlet for release. Our third chakra, our energy center, is tied to personal empowerment. If we don’t have boundaries and allow other people to suck our energy, things will shift within the body to compensate. We can manifest a physical ailment when keeping emotional issues bottled up or by not feeling empowered.   Join in for the live group coaching call on June 22, 2003, at 5 pm PST / 8 pm EST on self-love. It’s only $20 and you will get live access or if you can’t make it live, it will be recorded and mailed to you so you can listen at any time. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group to save your seat.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there a current expectation hangover upsetting you and reminding you of something that happened in the past? Do you relate to being a caretaker in your life? Are you afraid to stop taking care of others because you fear losing love or validation? Is it challenging for you to set boundaries? Do you say yes to things when you really mean no? Do you over-compromise and sacrifice your own needs because it is easier than upsetting people? Is there a prolonged physical condition you are dealing with that cannot be resolved?   Caitlyn’s Question: Caitlyn wants to know why she is having so many expectation hangovers while she is planning her wedding.   Caitlyn’s Key Insights and Ahas: She wants more support from friends and family about her wedding. She is trying to get out of the caretaker role in her family. She has always been a planner. She feels tired, disappointed, and hurt during the wedding planning process. She stepped into the caretaker role in her family as a teenager. She was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis at thirteen. She taught people how to treat her. She is manifesting her physical condition. She gives away her power by always taking care of others. She puts herself last. Emotions were not expressed in her family. Her sister is also planning a wedding.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Put herself first and not worry about other people’s upset. Allow herself to feel her emotions. Connect and talk to her younger self. Say thank you to her illness for sending her a message. Start writing from her heart with release writing. Have self-compassion and know it is okay to be seen. Talk to her sister about the things that matter to her. Forgive herself for buying into the understanding that being a caretaker is a way to get love.   Takeaways: If you are dealing with any type of expectation hangover, go back in time and ask yourself, “What does this remind me of?” Do the “empty chair” process at home. Let things go through journaling and release writing. Set and stand by your boundaries with people and let them be upset.   Sponsor: Aquatru — purifies water using a four-stage reverse osmosis process. The countertop purifiers remove 15 times more contaminants than ordinary pitcher filters plus the water tastes fantastic. Their long-lasting and affordable filters are independently tested and certified to NSF standards to remove over 80% of the most harmful contaminants. Go to Aquatru.com and enter OVERIT at checkout to get 20% off any purifier.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Meet Mark Groves: Human Connection Specialist, founder of Create the Love and Mine’d and host of the Mark Groves Podcast. In other words, he’s a speaker, writer, motivator, creator and collaborator. Mark’s work bridges the academic and the human, inviting people to explore the good, the bad, the downright ugly, and the beautiful sides of connection.His purpose? To empower individuals to step into their power, transform the way they relate to themselves and others, and create authentic change for a life + love they’ll look back on with a resounding “f*ck yes!   Learn more: https://createthelove.com/

This episode is about leaning into femininity and recognizing self-worth. Today’s caller, Lana, has childhood wounding that makes her wish she looked a different way. She would like guidance on how to be more feminine, have a healthier body image, and stop feeling jealous.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode405]   Many women have mothers who did not have a healthy body image. And, often as children, we take that on. But, there is so much more than how we look. If we focus on how we look and compare ourselves to other people, we miss out on the incredible gifts that we are here to enjoy in this lifetime.   We are constantly being programmed with what is “beautiful.” We all have different ways in which the feminine expresses through us. It is essential for us to change the way society frames beauty for the future, for women, and for little girls. It is changing, but we have a long way to go.   And, jealousy is a waste of energy. It is often a positive projection. When we look at someone who is “attractive,” what we are really seeing is their confidence or the way they feel comfortable in their body. The next time you feel jealous, think about how you would rather be using that valuable, precious energy. Because jealousy kills our self-worth, sense of spirit, femininity, and relationships. It is no one else’s job to make us feel secure in a relationship.   My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who want to go deeper into their consciousness, expand their femininity, get clear about their purpose, and heal wounds. Get exquisite self-care from October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. To apply go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat. There is still time to get the early bird discount. Listen to this Coaches Corner episode to find out what happens during the retreat ChristineHassler.com/2022/08/coaches-corner-346.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you deal with jealousy? Do you think that if you looked differently that your life would be better? Did you grow up with a mother or a parent who didn’t have a good body image and they passed that on to you? Do you know what being in your feminine and femininity means?   Lana’s Question: Lana would like tools to boost her body image and overcome jealous feelings in her relationship.   Lana’s Key Insights and Ahas: She deals with extreme jealousy but trusts her boyfriend. She has been in her current relationship for five years. She has low self-confidence. She doesn’t feel feminine. She compares herself with other people. She’s been hurt by relationships from her youth. Her mother didn’t have a healthy body image. She is focused on looking a certain way. She is creative, loving, and has a big heart. Her soul wants acceptance for who she is. She puts a lot of energy into thinking she should look different. She wants to enjoy her life.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Be compassionate with her feelings when she is triggered. Begin studying what it means to be in her feminine power. Instead of using her energy on jealousy and comparison, use it to enhance her creativity and joy.   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — Caraway products are beautiful, easy to clean and use, and non-toxic. The cookware and bakeware sets have a naturally slick ceramic surface. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the limited-time offer of 10% off on their full suite of products by using the promo code OVERIT at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

My friend and co-founder of Elementum Coaching Institute Alexi Panos joins me to talk all about the coaching industry. We cover why it's a GREAT time to be a coach, how to get over imposter syndrome, what makes an impactful and profitable coach, the "dark side" of the coaching industry and so much more. We also dive into why we founded Elementum and what makes this program so unique. Learn more here: https://elementumcoachinginstitute.com/

This episode is about embracing our gifts and making a living. Today’s caller, Janelle, has lost the motivation to make a living by expressing her gifts. She would like guidance on how to reignite her drive. Christine offers her practical tips about shifting her limiting beliefs about money, and separating her survival needs from what brings her joy.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode404]   Our gifts do not have to translate into a career. Our gifts are there for us to enjoy them. They don’t necessarily have to be the thing that makes us money. It is completely possible to have a job you like that isn’t your passion. We all have gifts and some of them translate into a lucrative career and sometimes they don’t. Give yourself permission to explore your gifts without the pressure of needing to make money at it. Many people feel like a failure if they can not make a sustainable income doing what they love but as long as they are expressing what they love there is no failure.   It’s important not to marry gifts and purpose with survival.   At some point in our lives, we are asked to look at what we have done to meet our survival needs and consider what we have to do to be more strategic. When we have a “Watch, I’ll show you” energy, it can push us but it doesn’t generate a lot of safety and abundance because we are constantly pulled back by our old beliefs.  A caterpillar works hard to become a butterfly. It’s a metamorphosis that needs to happen. It completely transforms and transmutes things. When we are in the chrysalis moments, we need to ask ourselves what needs to transform.   My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who want to go deeper into their consciousness, release layers that need to go, expand their femininity, get clear about their purpose, and heal wounds. Get exquisite self-care from October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. To apply go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat. There is still time to get the early bird discount. Listen to this Coaches Corner episode to find out what happens during the retreat ChristineHassler.com/2022/08/coaches-corner-346.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you doing something you love but not making the kind of money you love? Do you think you can make money and have enough to live doing what you love? Were your creativity, expression, and natural gifts encouraged as a child? Or, were you told you could never make a living at it? Do you have a good relationship with money?   Janelle’s Question: Janelle has lost her motivation to continue her dancing career and is looking for guidance on how to make a living following her passion.   Janelle’s Key Insights and Ahas: She knows her spiritual purpose. She is at a crossroads. She no longer feels excited about her career or art form. She is a professional dancer and actor. She expected to be more financially secure by now. The pandemic shifted her momentum. She is adaptable and independent. She was told being an artist would be a struggle. She was driven to succeed to prove to others that she could. She has completed the personal mastery course. She feels called back to her passion and desire. She has the tools but doesn’t know how to use them.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Shift her limiting beliefs about money. Do the “temper tantrum” technique and give her little girl a voice. Strategically consider her next steps and where she wants to go.   Takeaways: Check out these Coaches Corner episodes with Jade Luna & Kate Northrup. Consider where you are. Is it time to take some risks and share your gifts with the world?   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Get ready for a great conversation about where we have been and where we are headed collectively with Jade Luna. Jade is the first Westerner ever to reconstruct Jyotish (Hindu Astrology) into a Greco-Roman format. Jade has traveled extensively around the planet, lecturing and conducting workshops on Astrology and Ancient Roman-Greco mysticism. He has traveled to India more than 30 times and spent a great deal of time with various teachers, Saints and Sadhu’s in Asia. Jade also consults with people privately. He usually presents a few seminars each year at various locations world wide. He is the author of Asterian Astrology and has been one of the most successful Astrologers in the world and has maintained a high level practice for over 18 years.

This episode is about taking risks or making changes when you don’t feel safe or secure on some level. Today’s caller, Julie, feels stressed about making money because she is not doing something she is passionate about. Christine offers her guidance on how to shift her perspective into making an intentional transition.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode403]   One of my pet peeves of the personal development industry is the implied pressure to just make changes, take leaps, or have courage. And, while it is important to be able to make changes and to be able to take leaps, when you feel not safe on some level, it is going to be challenging.   It’s always a blend of not staying in something that is familiar and “safe” but not what you want to be doing for so long that you get accustomed to feeling safe but not feeling alive, Not really feeling like you’re doing what you’re passionate about. Because the years will go by and your dream will quickly fade.   However, you don’t want to just drop everything and make a drastic change when you don’t feel safe. When it comes to safety, we are humans who have basic needs. We have the need for love. We have the need for feeling that our physical needs are met also.   There is a part of us that if we’re not doing what we love or what we really desire, it can be difficult to make money at it because if we’re really being called to something else, and we’re not listening to it, often we’ll have a sabotaging part that will come up.   My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who want to go deeper into their consciousness, release layers that need to go, expand their femininity, get clear about their purpose, and heal wounds. Get exquisite self-care from October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. To apply go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat. There is still time to get the early bird discount. Listen to this Coaches Corner episode to find out what happens during the retreat ChristineHassler.com/2022/08/coaches-corner-346.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you a people-pleaser and make decisions based on what you think other people want from you versus what you truly want from yourself? Are you making choices or doing things that are breeding resentment, maybe in your marriage, a friendship, in business, or with your parents? Do you feel unsafe and unstable in some way and you are doing something just for the money? Do you want to make a change but you feel like you just can’t because you’re not financially “stable” enough?   Julie’s Question: Julie is looking for guidance about personal finances.   Julie’s Key Insights and Ahas: She and her husband feel stressed about money. She is self-employed in her small business. She started working with an IFS therapist. She consumes a lot of information about her small business. She is a people-pleaser. She feels pressure from her husband to make more money. She likes helping people. She tires of doing what other people think she should do. She felt love from her parents was conditional. She judges herself for not doing what she wants to do. She has a love/hate relationship with money.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Create a self-love-healing plan and an action plan. Approach her work from a different perspective. Identify where her triggers originate. Create safety in her system. Love herself through it. Check out the upcoming Women’s Retreat.   Takeaways: What are the steps, both internally and externally, you need to take to make an intentional transition? Get your applications in to join Christine at her Signature Retreat.   Sponsor: Sensate — is an infrared resonance device that when paired with sessions in the companion app works towards reducing stress, and improving well-being. It provides deep relaxation in 10‒30 minute sessions to tone the vagus nerve. For $30 off your purchase, go to GetSensate.com and use the promo code OVERIT.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Aviva Romm MD is both a midwife and a Yale trained MD and Board Certified Family Physician with specialties in Integrative Gynecology, Obstetric and Pediatrics, with a focus on women’s endocrinology. She’s also a world renown herbalist, and author of the textbook, Botanical Medicines for Women’s Health, as well as 8 other books, including The Adrenal Thyroid Revolution and her new book, Hormone Intelligence, an instant New York Times Bestseller, which explores the impact of the world we live in on women’s hormones and health, and brings us a new medicine for women that is at once holistic and natural, while being grounded in the best science and medicine have to offer. A practitioner, teacher, activist and advocate of both environmental health and women’s reproductive rights and health, she has been bridging the best of traditional medicine, total health ecology, and good science for over three decades. Her podcast, articles, books, and online programs are wildly popular and successful, helping women take back their health, She practices medicine in both NY and MA, and lives in the Berkshires of Western MA.   Learn more at: https://avivaromm.com/

This episode is about feeling safe in our bodies by regulating the nervous system. Today’s caller, Nicole, struggles to change her body weight and feels she lacks motivation and follow-through to do so. She asks for practical tips on how to shift it and create peace and love within herself.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode402]   Nervous system regulation is bringing awareness to our state of being. Meaning, are we in a state of hyperarousal or hypoarousal? Both states can be a trauma response. Trauma, simply defined, is too much, too fast, too soon, or too little for too long.   Hyperarousal means we are anxious, constantly bracing ourselves, staying busy and distracted to avoid pain, or we are nervous, vigilant, and possibly aggressive. Hypoarousal means we can be depressed, or we may lack motivation. We can even go into apathy or indifference.   Whether it is hyper or hypo, it means we are functioning with an unregulated nervous system. It is hard for people in an unregulated state to be present. A regulated nervous system is when we feel safe inside our body. Yet, it doesn’t mean we’re in a meditative state and doesn’t mean we are a Zen master.   For those who grew up in an unsafe or chaotic house, your baseline is not going to be regulated. You can do all the emotional processing in the world to move the trauma and do inner child work but you have to practice a nervous system reset multiple times a day.   Elementum Coaching Institute is beginning its 3rd year with a comprehensive 7-month program starting in September 2023. This program is for coaches of all skill levels. Apply to become a certified coach and get a 3-month business bonus at https://elementumcoachinginstitute.com.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel busy all the time and there don’t seem to be enough hours in a day? Have you been wanting to release weight but you just can’t seem to let it go? Do you know the benefits of self-love and self-care but you can’t seem to do them? Did you grow up in a chaotic household and you long for peace and calm in your life?   Nicole’s Question: She struggles with prioritizing herself, practicing self-love, and having self-worth issues. She wants to lose weight but doesn’t understand why she cannot stay motivated to do so.   Nicole’s Key Insights and Ahas: She attended the Be the Queen program. Her father didn’t value overweight people. Her mother was self-critical. She tries to eat healthily and has a gym membership. She loves being outside, dancing, and being with her dog. She is finishing her Master’s degree. She finds little time to do the things she loves. Her nervous system baseline is hyper-aroused. She longed for peace and calm in her chaotic childhood home. She focuses on losing weight. She tells herself she will do the things she loves when she loses weight. She is a people-pleaser.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Break the pattern of being in a hyper-aroused state. Recalibrate her nervous system with hourly breaks and resets. Check out Style Space and use the promo code Christine10. Create peace and calm in her home and body. Practice transitions and be conscious about her next move. Practice saying no to create space for herself.   Takeaways: Find online content about nervous system regulation.   Sponsor: StoryWorth — Looking for a meaningful Father’s Day gift? Storyworth helps your loved ones feel special, unique, and connected by sharing and preserving their precious memories. For a limited time, get $10 off your first purchase at StoryWorth.com/overit.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Anna Lozano is a Coach and Mentor who supports people in changing their mindset and frequency to create their deepest desires. In her coaching and advocacy work, she emphasizes the importance of leading with feminine energy in entrepreneurship. She works with female founders and CEO's, product and service based entrepreneurs, who are looking to launch and scale their businesses.   Get the FREE gift of a 3 day program of "Quantum Wealth" she is offering my audience here: https://anna-lozano.mykajabi.com/offers/LhwAzZUv?coupon_code=CHRISTINEH

This episode is about getting over someone we can’t seem to get over. Today’s caller, Matthais, is hung up on someone he can’t seem to get over but, as usual, it has to do with something much deeper. Often, it is the relationships that don’t work out that teach us the most.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode401]   As children, we are naturally intimate, but if our parents can’t be intimate back we start to shut down. Because intimacy feels scary and unfamiliar. And, even though everyone wants to be loved, they push love away because love has hurt them in the past. So, when love comes to us we push it away because it is unfamiliar.   An avoidant attachment relationship pattern is when someone loves us and we push them away. It’s because love feels unfamiliar and scary. Love feels like it hurts because as children, we naturally love our parents. When we don’t feel that love back from our parents in the way we as children give love, it’s very disorienting and it can make us not trust love. So, when someone wants to love us, it feels unfamiliar and unsafe.   Whereas, when there is someone distant and aloof with us and maybe love bombs us, it feels great in the beginning but then the great feeling fades. Or, the person will give us ultimatums we have to fulfill and make us chase them. It makes us yearn for something familiar to us, and we often confuse the feeling with love because it is familiar.   When we are hung up on someone, we think we are missing them but what we are missing is something we need to embody within ourselves. When we heal our inner child, we begin to choose the love we truly desire, not a feeling that triggers us.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there someone that you’ve broken up with or that broke up with you but you just can’t seem to let them go? Did you have a parent that wasn’t there for you in the way that you truly desired? Do you relate to having an avoidant attachment style? Did you have a parent that parentified you or even made you their spouse and you didn’t get to be a kid?   Matthais’s Question: He had a painful breakup that he can’t seem to get over. He would like guidance on how to get over it and move forward.   Matthais’s Key Insights and Ahas: He hasn’t felt emotional pain in his life before like he did with this breakup. He is having difficulty connecting with new people. He was very much in love. The breakup was abrupt. His ex triggered something deep inside of him. He has some wounding in his past about his looks. His ex said he triggered her childhood wounding. He has an avoidant attachment style. His parents divorced when he was 15 and has struggled with it for 25 years. His mother was caring but he has been the only man in his mother’s life. He may be choosing partners who mirror his relationship with his father. He hasn’t experienced true intimacy. He felt his dad didn’t want him and his mother parentified him. He is attracted to controlling women.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Discontinue any communication with his ex. Let her go. When he thinks of his ex, tell himself that it wasn’t a healthy love and that real love is safe. Work on his inner child by exploring the self-guided Inner Child Workshop. Feel into self-love.   Takeaways: Read the book Attached or dive into the Coaches Corner episodes on attachment styles.   Sponsor: Aquatru — purifies water using a four-stage reverse osmosis process. The countertop purifiers remove 15 times more contaminants than ordinary pitcher filters. Their long-lasting and affordable filters are independently tested and certified to NSF standards to remove over 80% of the most harmful contaminants. Go to Aquatru.com and enter OVERIT at checkout to get 20% off any purifier.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.  

Emily is the founder of Ziva and has taught the Ziva Technique to over 40,000 people. Her best-selling book, Stress Less, Accomplish More, debuted at #7 out of all books on Amazon and has been translated into 12 languages. In 2021, she launched zivaKIDS, the first meditation course of its kind for kids ages 4-14. A formerly stressed Broadway performer who was going gray at 27, Emily discovered a powerful practice that cured her insomnia and improved her health on the first day. The Ziva Technique is a powerful combination of mindfulness, meditation and manifesting designed to help you get better at life, not meditation. You can join her for a FREE embodiment and manifestation event on May 17th at christinehassler.com/emily

This episode is about pausing and not deciding. Today’s caller, Lydia, has been experiencing massive changes in her life over the past year. She is questioning whether or not to get married. She wants guidance about how she can relieve the pressure of making a choice and how to know what is right for her. She finds that sometimes not making a choice is the best choice.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode400]   There’s nothing wrong with questioning. There is always a purpose in it. When we’re in a place of doubt or questioning, it’s good to explore it. When there’s so much change happening, it can put us in more of a fight-or-flight survival-based response and we come from the emotionally reactive part of our brain. Or it can put our priorities and our values front and center to make us question anything that is not aligned.   When we are experiencing a lot of change or grief, it takes a while to find our footing. In times of transition and change, major decisions can be tricky. The part of us that likes to control and to know things, can have a hard time when we go back and forth about big decisions.   If your life is steady right now; if you’re not going through grief or a big change, but you are finding it difficult to make a choice, you might just be scared of change. You might just need to make a choice. But, if your life has a lot of chaos in it or there are a lot of changes and uncertainty about making another big choice, that’s when you can take time to pause and let what is in alignment with you rise to the surface.   My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who want to go deeper into their consciousness, release layers that need to go, expand their femininity, get clear about their purpose, and heal wounds. Get exquisite self-care from October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. To sign up go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat . There is still time to get the early bird discount.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there something you’re trying to decide, or choose about, like a relationship, or whether to leave a job and you just can’t get clarity or, you could talk yourself into either direction? Are you grieving? Did you just lose someone that was important to you and it’s clouding your ability to choose? Did you go through a breakup or a job loss where you felt a sense of rejection and your self-confidence took a hit? Do you like to control? Do you like to have answers and being in that in-between of not making a choice can be a little wobbly for you?   Lydia’s Question: Many things in her life are changing. She is grieving the loss of her mother and having doubts about getting married. She would like guidance on how to move forward with confidence.   Lydia’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is grieving the loss of her mother. She is going through a job transition. She is planning her wedding and a move. She is questioning her decision to get married. She is judging her fiance and feels guilty about it. As an adult, she had to distance herself from her mother. Her job transition left her feeling rejected. She feels resistance when she tries to make a choice. She doesn’t have safety in her nervous system. She is concerned about disappointing people.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Pause, give herself some grace, and wait to make a choice about her relationship. Allow herself to be in the unknown as much as possible. Work on establishing safety in her nervous system. Surrender and take off the pressure to make a choice.   Sponsor: Air Doctor — is an air filter and air purifier that creates the healthiest environment in your home. It filters out dangerous contaminants and allergens with an ultra HEPA filter that removes 99.99% of tested bacteria and viruses. If you want to order an Air Doctor today with a 30-day money-back guarantee, go to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code “Overit” and get up to 35% off on selected models.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.  

If you feel like you have a lot of awareness but things in your life are not changing…it may be time for some “experiential” work. In this episode Christine and Jill about what happens at Christine’s Signature Retreat to help you discern if it’s right for you. More info about the retreat here: https://christinehassler.com/signatureretreat/

This episode is about going back to move forward. Today’s caller, Samm, missed out on some developmental learnings in childhood. She wants to empower others but is still not sure she can fully empower herself. If you feel that you don’t have clarity about something, or feel you can’t take the next step forward, it might be because of past trauma.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode399]   We all need to have compassion and be easier on ourselves when we miss out on things in our childhood that make parts of adulthood harder. Remember, compassion is different than scapegoating. If we blame everything on our childhood and everything is our parent’s fault, that is being the victim. That is scapegoating. It’s very different from compassion.   Compassion is understanding that we never got to that developmental stage as a child. So, it is harder for us to do it as adults. We need to have patience and compassion with ourselves. We all need to have compassion and be easier on ourselves when we miss out on things in our childhood that make parts of adulthood harder. It’s necessary for us to go back and give our inner child what they didn’t have and then move forward.   To expect ourselves to feel safe, to put ourselves out there, as a coach for example, when we didn’t have safety as a child is like expecting a one-year-old to do algebra. It's just completely unrealistic. It is not developmentally possible.   Please be kind to yourself. Look at what you did not get in childhood that may have impacted you and not from the perspective of being damaged or broken. We have the parents we have to learn what we need to learn in this lifetime.   Elementum Coaching Institute is beginning its 3rd year in September 2023. Christine co-founded Elementum Coaching to assist coaches and would-be coaches with the skills needed to build their businesses. Attend the free webinar for more information on May 15, 2023. To take advantage of early bird pricing and get more information about the upcoming Coach on Fire workshop go to https://elementumcoachinginstitute.com/coach-on-fire-workshop.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you’re unclear about something or do you lack clarity in some way? Did you have a childhood where you did not feel safe? Do you often feel disconnected from your own inner child? Is there something you want to do but you keep telling yourself that you’re just stuck and you can’t move forward?   Samm’s Question: Samm seeks clarity and would like guidance on how to create a safe place without feeling paralyzed to act on it.   Samm’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is a coach. She holds herself back when expressing herself. When she feels like putting her heart into something, she gets paralyzed and scared. Her parents were addicts. She chose a different path. She didn’t feel safe as a child. She doubts she can fully support herself or others. She has been in survival mode for most of her life. She has a freeze response as part of her nervous system wiring. She feels she is not enough. As a child, she yearned to feel like she was important and that she mattered. She wanted to be held and know everything would be OK. She would like to build a group container with her clients. She wants to help empower others. She internalizes her sadness and has difficulty getting mad.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Have compassion for where she’s come from. Work with herself with patience and love. Connect with the motherly part of her. Allow herself to get angry. Recognize when she is in a trauma response and make her inner child feel safe.   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — is good-looking clean cooking. Caraway products are beautiful, easy to clean and use, and non-toxic. The cookware and bakeware sets have a naturally slick ceramic surface. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the exclusive 10% off on their full suite of products, including their new food storage sets. Be sure to use OVERIT at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.  

Natalie Lue is a writer, speaker, podcaster, artist, and founder of one of the longest running self-help blogs in the world, Baggage Reclaim and The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast. She just released a new book, The Joy of Saying No, which highlights her six-step plan to help readers find their “no” so they can create healthier boundaries and reconnect with their values and authentic self.

This episode is about healing past trauma without reliving it. Today’s caller, Suzy, knows there is trauma in her past but fears she must relive it to heal it. This conversation is helpful if you know there are things in your past you haven’t dealt with and don’t know where to start or have fears about addressing them.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode398]   When we experience trauma, we disassociate. We have to do it. It doesn’t make us weak. It doesn’t make us not vulnerable. And, it doesn’t make us not emotionally intelligent. It is what we do to survive. We need to have compassion for our disassociation because it is a coping strategy and it’s the only way we can survive trauma.   There comes a time when all the dissociation starts to add up, and it may make us feel dead inside. It is important that we do not go back and relive our trauma. We can use current-day triggers to ask — What is this triggering inside me? What is this reminding me of? Then, give ourselves the permission to feel and express all the feelings we didn’t get to express, state our needs, and make our requests. That is how we heal. That’s how we repair not by reliving the trauma.   Riding a current trigger or feeling back in time to see where we end up is one of the most useful ways to heal. It’s about giving ourselves a voice, giving ourselves the freedom to express ourselves, giving ourselves compassion, and nurturing ourselves to meet the needs that didn’t get met at that time. It’s not about reliving our experiences.   My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who want to go deeper into their consciousness, release layers that need to go, expand their femininity, get clear about their purpose, and heal wounds. It is October 13‒15 in San Diego, CA. To sign up go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have trouble accessing feelings from your past? You can talk about your past but there’s no emotion there. Are you finding you do have emotion in your current day situations and you don’t quite know what to do with those triggers? Were you emotionally abandoned by your parents? Maybe they were physically there but they didn’t really meet your emotional needs. Do you have trouble accessing your inner child?   Suzy’s Question: Suzy knows there are things in her past she has not dealt with but she doesn’t know where to start or how to address them.   Suzy’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is seeing a therapist. Her past is affecting her current relationships. She feels abandoned by her husband. She feels sad and lonely. She fears reliving her past trauma. As a child, her physical needs were met but not her emotional needs. She has tried to share her feelings with her mother. She feels hopeless. She has never felt safe. She is surprised by the wise words from her inner child. She is capable of holding herself through her feelings.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Commit to continue to talk with her inner child. Recognize her triggers as an opportunity to check in with her inner child. Write or send herself a message starting with “I learned…, I feel…, what I am going to do moving forward is…”. Get pictures of herself from different ages and see which she connects more deeply with. Be gentle with herself as she maneuvers the healing process.   Takeaways: If you are afraid to deal with your past, find a qualified practitioner. Check in with your inner child whenever you feel triggered. Come to the Signature Retreat in October. Listen to the previously recorded 3-day Inner Child Workshop. Be gentle and patient with yourself.   Sponsor: Air Doctor — is an air filter and air purifier that creates the healthiest environment in your home. It filters out dangerous contaminants and allergens with an ultra HEPA filter that removes 99.99% of tested bacteria and viruses. If you want to order an Air Doctor today with a 30-day money-back guarantee, go to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code “Overit” and get up to 35% off on selected models.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.  

My longtime friend and the #1 resource I recommend when it comes to shifting your relationship with money, Kate Northrup, joins me today for an insightful and inspiring conversation about money.   As an entrepreneur, bestselling author, and mother, Kate Northrup has built a multimedia digital platform called The Origin Company that reaches hundreds of thousands globally. She’s committed to supporting ambitious women to light up the world without burning themselves out. Kate teaches data and soul-driven time and energy management practices that result in saving time, making more money, and experiencing less stress. She’s the author of Money: A Love Story and Do Less and the creator of the Do Less Planner System. Kate’s work has been featured by Oprah Daily, The Today Show, Yahoo! Finance, Women’s Health, Glamour, The NY Times, Harvard Business Review, and more. She lives with her husband and their daughters in Miami.   You can access her FREE workshop "Plenty" which will help you Clear Your Money Blocks and Discover True Prosperity While Positively Impacting the World here: christinehassler.com/relaxedmoney

This episode is about a conflict between what our inner child wants and what our adult self needs. Today’s caller, Cindy, is in a relationship that she knows she needs to leave but she feels frozen. She is looking for guidance on how to move forward and take action. This can be applied to anything whether it is a relationship, a job, or a pattern. There are some great tidbits about why we don't shift.    [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode397]   When we know there is an action we need to take but we just can't seem to do it we can analyze it, process it, and have awareness about it but we may still feel frozen and unable to take action.   Freeze is a trauma response. It doesn't matter how much we know what we “should” do when we are in a trauma response it all gets overridden with survival patterns. Our inner child believes that we will heal a wound by being with someone similar to the person who prompted our trauma.    One of the best ways that you can make a change in your life is to do something different to get out of your comfort zone but to do it with a lot of love.     For empathetic or people with co-dependent threads, love bombing is like a drug. Whether someone's a diagnosed narcissist or they have narcissistic tendencies, love bombing is not about the person receiving the love bomb. It's about control. It's not love.     So, choose yourself. Legitimately and authentically love yourself out of the situation.    My upcoming Signature Retreat is for women who want to go deeper into their own consciousness, release layers that need to go, expand their femininity, get clear about their purpose, and heal wounds. It is October 13-15 in San Diego, CA. Early bird pricing ends soon so to sign up go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat.    Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in a situation, relationship, friendship, or work situation where you know you need to make a change but you just can't seem to do it? Do you know that some of your choices are coming from your inner child but can't seem to make different choices? Do you often let fear stop you from doing something you need to do?  Are you frustrated with yourself because you know better but you just keep wondering why you're not doing better?   Cindy’s Question: Cindy is in a toxic marriage. She wants to end the relationship and get a divorce but she feels stuck and is not sure how to move forward. Cindy’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is finding it difficult to make a decision. She struggles with shame and anger about not leaving. She feels frozen. She feels her partner and her father are similar. Her father had an undiagnosed mental problem. Her partner love bombed her at the beginning of her relationship. She knows the relationship is not good for her. She feels her partner destroyed her life. She knows she has choices to make.  She is a people pleaser. She feels financially tied to the relationship. Her partner plays on her core wounds. She found it easier to get out of her first marriage. She will keep herself away from men that come with red flags.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Talk to her inner child about what love truly is. Assure her inner child that she will take care of her. Attend Christine’s Signature Retreat. Make a decision by May 1, 2023.   Sponsor: Aquatru — purifies water using a four-stage reverse osmosis process. The countertop purifiers remove 15 times more contaminants than ordinary pitcher filters. Their long-lasting and affordable filters are independently tested and certified to NSF standards to remove over 80% of the most harmful contaminants. Go to Aquatru.com and enter OVERIT at checkout to get 20% off any filter.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.  

My friend Brooke Nichol joins me to talk about how to build a business by being great at relationships with people. Brooke is a registered nurse and the owner of Saving Face in Austin, TX. Her specialty is relationships and keeping clients looking natural and the best version of themselves. She has organically grown to two locations, becoming the most sought out feel good destination in Austin.  She has an extensive background and training from world renowned plastic surgeons and experts in the field of aesthetics.  She was named top 100 injector in the US in 2018. She is a national trainer for Allergan and was named top 10 lip expert in 2020. Brooke serves on Advisory Boards for Allergan and Revance.   Brooke is a true entrepreneur who wears many hats. She is mama to two beautiful children, Knox (5), Miller (8). She created Post Love Skincare and will soon launch Saving Face Academy. There is much growth for Saving Face in the future and Brooke is quite certain that goodness will bring about more goodness.

This episode is about healing anxiety, unworthiness, and shame. Today’s caller, Matt, recently came clean about some secrets about his past with his partner. He sabotaged his relationship but would like to date again, fully able to love and commit. Any listeners who felt instability in their childhood will benefit from this conversation.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode396]   Often, the people who are most free-spirited are the adults who as children wanted stability and didn’t have it. They’ve never known stability so they have to fall in love with freedom or fall in love with not having accountability.   If you were adopted, didn’t have time with your mother, or something happened, it doesn’t mean you are doomed for life. Give yourself the dignity of your process. Give yourself the compassion, TLC, mothering, and nurturing you didn’t receive. Having compassion for yourself and an understanding of why you are the way you are is important.   Adoption is a beautiful thing. There are so many people who have had much better lives because they’ve been adopted versus if they had stayed with their biological parents. And people who choose to give their child up for adoption because they know another family could give them a better life are angels in so many ways. Adoption can create a beautiful life for someone.   And if you do meditation, or a personal practice with the intention of fixing something, remember nothing heals in judgment. Go into modalities to feel, to heal, and to allow what is there, not try to get rid of it. Because nothing heals when we think we are broken.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you grow up feeling a sense of not belonging? Perhaps you were adopted, you were a different race or culture and you had that feeling of where do I fit? Do you deal with a sense of anxiety? Do you ever feel a sense of unworthiness? Have you shown up in relationships, friendships, or any aspects of your life that you haven’t been proud of or that you have shame about? Have you held secrets and told lies?   Matt’s Question: Matt wants to start dating again but would like guidance on how to heal from his deep childhood wounding.   Matt’s Key Insights and Ahas: He moved into a van to pursue a new life. He felt isolated after three months. He kept his trauma a secret. He was sexually abused. He was adopted by parents of a different race. He used drugs and alcohol to cope with his trauma. He is on a self-awareness journey. He opened up to his partner and they broke up. He cheated on his partner during their time together. He joined a 12-step program. He is struggling with rejection and failure. He doesn’t truly trust himself. He has always felt like an outcast in many ways. He hasn’t been able to love and commit in past relationships. He knows he is loved and wanted but often forgets.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Use meditation and breathwork to rebirth himself and remove judgmental thoughts. Have compassion for his journey. Know that he deserves to be loved and accepted. Find a practitioner to help him love his inner child.   Sponsor: Air Doctor — is an air filter and air purifier that creates the healthiest environment in your home. It filters out dangerous contaminants and allergens with an ultra HEPA filter that removes 99.99% of tested bacteria and viruses. If you want to order an Air Doctor today with a 30-day money-back guarantee, go to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code “Overit” and get up to 35% off on selected models.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.  

If you want to truly understand the power of surrender and acceptance, don't miss this episode! KUTE BLACKSON is a beloved inspirational speaker and transformational teacher. He speaks at countless events he organizes around the world as well as at outside events including A-Fest, YPO (Young Presidents’ Organization), and EO (Entrepreneurs’ Organization). He is a member of the Transformational Leadership Council, a select group of one hundred of the world’s foremost authorities in the personal development industry. Winner of the 2019 Unity New Thought Walden Award, Blackson is widely considered a next generation leader in the field of personal development. His mission is simple: To awaken and inspire people across the planet to access inner freedom, live authentically and fulfill their true life’s purpose. www.kuteblackson.com

This episode is about love and relationships. Today’s caller, Rocio, is in a pattern that is blocking her from calling in love. She would like guidance on how much of her dating is based on divine timing or if there are things she can do to date from a more empowered, emotionally available space.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode395]   A lot of times we think we are emotionally available because we want love and connection and we’ve done the work to make ourselves vulnerable. But, often, there is a hurt part of us that is a protective mechanism that makes us put a guard up so we are not completely emotionally available.   We are co-creators in our life. The spirit of the divine meets us at the point of action and intention. If we are not actively participating in getting what we desire, then we are not fully meeting the divine at the point of action and intention. If we have fear, it can block us. A lot of the time we spend avoiding love because we are afraid of rejection more than we are into opening ourselves up and putting ourselves out there.   When we have a parent that created an anxious attachment style, we draw in people who trigger that feeling inside of us because we are attempting to heal it. As children, we can’t advocate for ourselves as we can as adults.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you frustrated with dating and want to know how you can shift it? Did you think everything was going well with the last person you dated and then it just didn’t work out? If you look back at it, did you miss some red flags? Did you have a parent you craved more from and you can see how that wound impacts how you date? Are you willing to be vulnerable, emotionally available, and honest about what works for you and what doesn’t?   Rocio’s Question: Rocio would like guidance about how much she should trust timing and intuition to call in love.   Rocio’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has been meeting emotionally unavailable guys. She fears rejection and being vulnerable. Recently she thought she met someone and their energies aligned but there were inconsistencies. She feels that she is putting herself out there and trusting her intuition. There were inconsistencies in her relationship with her father. She is not fully healed from an unmet need from her childhood. She wants to call in a relationship.   How to Get Over It and On With It: If triggered, call it out and stand up for herself right away. Normalize being emotionally available and asking for what she wants. Don’t let her fear of rejection stop her from speaking her truth. Trust herself to express her needs. Remember the guys she dates are not her father.   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — is good-looking clean cooking. Caraway products are beautiful, easy to clean and use, and it is non-toxic. The cookware and bakeware sets have a naturally slick ceramic surface. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the exclusive 10% off on their full suite of products, including their new food storage sets. Be sure to use OVERIT at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

McCall McPherson is a Physician Assistant, a thyroid-patient gone expert after suffering for years due to mismanagement of her own thyroid disorder. She is the founder of Modern Thyroid Clinic, a functional medicine practice in Austin, Texas specializing in complex thyroid disorders and a believer that with proper care and treatment there is no reason to still have thyroid symptoms. Learn more about her practice here: https://www.modernthyroidclinic.com/ And her course for optimal thyroid function here: http://www.mccallmcpherson.com/#/courses/

This episode is about relationships. Today’s caller, Anthony, feels ready to call in love and fulfill his purpose but is unsure why he feels blocked. He would like guidance about how to move past the blocks and step into the life he desires.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode394]   If you are in your 20s, remember you have time. Be patient with yourself and be patient with the way life is going to unfold. Especially, those of you who are on a personal development path. There is a co-creation aspect to growth and there is a part of you, a higher-self part of you, that may keep you from some of the things your ego and mind want right now because how you are meant to evolve is more important.   Trust the unfolding of your life. Trust divine timing. And, try not to put pressure on yourself to get something by a certain age. Put intention into yourself to know yourself, love, accept, and be a good partner to yourself.   We all have places inside where we might feel a little insecure and it’s normal to feel like that. When we have had challenges we can wonder who will want us in that state. Our unmet needs come up when we are dating until we really work on it.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you wanting to call in a relationship but you don’t exactly know how? Is there a part of you that is confident about what you have to offer but then a part of you wonders if someone will really love that one thing? Did you have a super present parent, or did you have one or maybe both parents that weren’t so available and you may be looking for a relationship to fulfill that void?   Anthony’s Question: Anthony wants to know how to find a committed relationship as well as walk fully into his purpose.   Anthony’s Key Insights and Ahas: He is looking for someone to grow with. He feels that something is missing. He helps people take control of their health. He’s never been in a relationship and feels like it is time. He wants to be more emotionally secure. He has trouble sleeping due to physical pain. He had Lyme disease. His father was emotionally unavailable. He feels he can’t fully access love and compassion for himself. He didn’t have a role model of emotional acceptance. He has an unfulfilled childhood need.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Have compassion, love, and acceptance for himself. Begin a meditation practice to get more in tune with his emotional self. Do the things he loves to do. Make it a priority to be the best father and partner to himself.   Sponsor: Cured Nutrition — What a difference a good night’s sleep makes. And, CBN Nighttime Oil with sleep support properties makes a good night’s sleep possible. Other Cured products include RISE, and ZEN to balance out well-being. Go to CuredNutrition.com/OVERIT to get 20% off your entire order.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.  

Steven Chandler is one of my coaching mentors. Being his client over 10 years ago dramatically improved my success. The  “MindShift” he offers frees people from unnecessary pessimism and puts them back in touch with the source of their enthusiasm for work and life.   Although Steve Chandler graduated from the University of Arizona with a degree in Creative Writing and Political Science, and spent four years in the military studying language and psychological warfare; he credits his own life experiences with failure as the most valuable tools for helping others. Steve’s audiences are inspired by stories of his “low points” – it gives them hope, because they realize that they are not nearly as bad off as he was – they figure if Steve can transform his life, so can they!   Steve Chandler is now the author of 30 books that have been translated into over 25 languages. His personal success coaching, public speaking and business consulting have been used by CEOs, top professionals, major universities, and over 30 Fortune 500 companies. He has twice won the national Audio of the Year award from King Features Syndicate. A popular guest on TV and radio talk shows, Steve Chandler has recently been called "the most powerful public speaker in America today."     Steve is also a master coach that has helped train hundreds of coaches to transform many lives and businesses. He created the Coaching Prosperity School to assist coaches to build a strong practice and create great clients www.CoachingProsperitySchool.com   You can learn more at https://www.stevechandler.com/index.html

This episode is about when we just can’t seem to get back to feeling ourselves. Today’s caller, Monica, has been injured by trauma over the last several years. She feels stuck and can’t seem to recharge. She asks for guidance on how to get over it and on with it.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode393]   When we are not feeling like ourselves. It can be frightening. We need to remind ourselves that even though we don't feel like ourselves at the moment, we know who we are. When we have been through a lot of trauma, just because it’s over doesn’t mean it’s over.   Time does not heal all wounds when it comes to trauma. Our nervous system gets unregulated. We get depleted. Our brain gets all scrambled. We get put into survival mode, and it is hard to connect to creativity, to other people, and sometimes to spirituality. When we are completely depleted and in survival mode, there are things that happen in our brains that make it impossible to do it. But, at the same time, we have conditioning that tells us we should be able to get over things.   But, whether it is trauma or transition, there is an in-between state when we want to get back to how we used to be but oftentimes there is a newer version of ourselves post-trauma, post-transition, that we don’t know yet. That is a beautiful new version of ourselves. We need to give ourselves the grace, compassion, passion, support, and time to get there.   Christine is hosting her Signature Women’s Retreat on October 10‒13, 2023 in San Diego, CA. To take advantage of the early bird special and reserve your spot, go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you had a rough couple of years and even though the storms are over you still feel that you can’t get over it? Are you in a place in life where you’re not really depressed but you’re just not yourself? Have you been through a lot of trauma, or difficult times and you can’t seem to shake it? Have you ever considered that you may have PTSD?    Monica's Question: Monica has had a difficult few years. She feels she has nothing left to give and wants to get over it and on with it.   Monica’s Key Insights and Ahas: Several people in her life took their own lives. She was in a motorcycle accident. She owns her own business. She goes from crisis mode to crisis mode. She has been in survival mode for a long time. She judges herself for not being able to move on. She may have PTSD. She self-isolates at times and needs to recharge. She doesn’t understand why she feels the way she does. She feels stuck.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Realize there is nothing wrong with her. Look for a trauma-trained practitioner that can help with nervous system trauma, such as EMDR. Do things that nourish her, like a massage, and replenish herself.   Takeaways: If you are suffering from PTSD or PTSI, reach out for help. Recovery is not something you should do alone.   Sponsor: Cured Nutrition — What a difference a good night’s sleep makes. And, CBN Nighttime Oil with sleep support properties makes a good night’s sleep possible. Other Cured products include RISE, and ZEN to balance out well-being. Go to CuredNutrition.com/OVERIT to get 20% off your entire order.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.  

We cover a lot of ground about mental health, emotional processing and feeling comfortable with ALL our emotions.  Alex Wills, MD, is a board-certified psychiatrist. He is a graduate of the Sackler School of Medicine and completed his residency and fellowship training in Hawaii with additional training from Columbia University. He is the owner of Perma Mental Health, a private psychiatric practice with offices across Idaho. Alex’s clinical days are spent using the   Radical Emotional Acceptance method to help patients heal from issues ranging from past traumas to interpersonal struggles in their marriages. Give a F*ck, Actually is based on that experience. Learn more at www.RadicalEmotionalAcceptance.com   The breathing website mentioned is: https://xhalr.com/

This episode is about busting through limiting beliefs to get down to love and truth. Today’s caller, Andrew, finds himself at a challenging crossroads in his marriage. He would like to know how to be supportive of his wife after her recent cancer diagnosis without becoming a doormat.   There are many common, limiting beliefs when it comes to love and romance. One belief is the success of a relationship is based on the time it lasts. So, if there is a breakup or divorce, the relationship was considered a failure. Or, if you love someone, you must love them unconditionally and stay with them, for better or for worse, no matter what. Another limiting belief is, the purpose of a romantic relationship is to find THE one who completes you.   Diagnoses can be an opportunity for deep healing and transformation. Sometimes, what is for the highest good is not always the easiest or most obvious choice. It basically comes down to love and truth. People in a relationship can be growing at different speeds, but still along the same path.   Remember, spirituality is not tolerating people treating us the way they want to treat us. Love and truth go together. Self-honoring choices are often for the highest good of all, and that is the ultimate high road. We can love, encourage, support, and be an example for people, but we cannot save anyone else, that is up to them.   Would you like to raise your wealth consciousness? Another Group Coaching Call is coming. In it, we talk about money and prosperity. It is only $20 to join in on Tues. March 21st, 2023 at 7:30 pm CST. Don’t worry if you cannot make it live, it will be recorded. I will include a guided meditation and group coaching questions. Go to christinehassler.com/group to sign up.   Consider/Ask Yourself: What soul lessons are you currently learning from your relationship or relationship status? Are you making your relationship with yourself or your higher power a priority? Are any of your relationships at a point where you are growing in a different direction from each other? Do you wonder if being there for someone else in a supportive way is putting your own needs at risk? What is the difference between having a spiritual orientation to your relationship, and doing a spiritual bypass and becoming a bit of a doormat?   Andrew's Question: Andrew’s relationship is experiencing trials and tribulations. He would like to know how to spiritually cope with his wife’s recent thyroid cancer diagnosis.   Andrew's Key Insights and Ahas: His wife’s hormones have been elevated due to a thyroid problem. He feels spirituality calling him. It’s not his responsibility to save his wife. He has recently started a spiritual practice. He doesn’t believe his wife is a willing participant in the relationship. His current lesson may not yet be resolved. It is now up to him to re-parent himself.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Write his wife a letter to share what feels about her and how the diagnosis may be a wake-up call to stay committed to working on their relationship. Also, let her know he cannot do it alone. Hug his wife every day. Take 100% responsibility for his 50%.   Takeaways: Look back at your romantic relationships to see what lessons you have learned. Write down how each partner has been a soul mate. Nurture a relationship with a higher power. Do something intentional and devotional every day for someone you care about. If there is a difficult conversation you need to have, write a letter and either read the letter to the person or give it to them.   Sponsor: Cured Nutrition — What a difference a good night’s sleep makes. And, CBN Nighttime Oil with sleep support properties makes a good night’s sleep possible. Other Cured products include RISE, and ZEN to balance out well-being. Go to CuredNutrition.com/OVERIT to get 20% off your entire order.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.  

This is a very important conversation about how all of our devices both help and hinder our lives. Gloria Mark studies the impact of digital media on people's lives: their attention spans, multitasking, distraction, mood and behavior when they use their computers and smartphones. She also studies the future of work, and how remote work impacts how we use our devices. Dr Mark is Chancellor’s Professor ofInformatics at the University of California, Irvine and has been a visiting senior researcher at Microsoft Research since 2012.  She received her PhD from Columbia University in psychology. She regularly publishes in the top conferences and journals in her field. She was inducted into the ACM SIGCHI Academy in 2017 recognizing leaders in the field of human-computer interaction. She has presented her work at SXSW and the AspenIdeas Festival, and her work has appeared in The New York Times, Wall StreetJournal, NPR, The Atlantic, the BBC, and many others.

This episode is about shifting your external world while making internal changes. Today’s caller, Jenn, has been through transformational changes and believes she is confused about her work as a relationship coach. Anyone who is on the growth path will relate to this call in some way.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode391]   As we uncover and heal our issues, either in relationships or in the physical, we shift our vibration. Our energetic selves change, which creates a shift in what we’re attracted to and what we attract. Dis-ease and/or toxic relationships are heavy in energetic weight. As we heal, clear, and forgive, it shifts our vibration and creates changes in our outside world. Some changes happen naturally and some just give us an unsettling feeling about something not being right.   As we shift consciousness, our identity shifts and as it does it can feel confusing because our external life is not congruent with our internal life.   Just because you don’t have clarity about something or something doesn’t feel as fulfilling as it used to, doesn’t mean you are confused. You are in a time of change and transformation. For something to transform, it must go through a period of chaos and uncertainty. Don’t rush to figure it out — allow it to be revealed.   Are you a single lady who is looking for a gentleman? Are you ready to call in epic love? Find out more about the Be the Queen program, which began on February 28, 2023. It includes an in-person one-day retreat in San Diego on October 12, 2023, and the self-paced evergreen course at christinehassler.com/bethequeen or email Jill@christinehassler.com.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there some aspect of your life that doesn’t feel right, or just feels off? Have you healed a relationship or physical issue that has catalyzed wanting to make changes in other aspects of your life? Can you relate to being a chameleon to stay safe? Are you a people pleaser? Are you scared of being vulnerable or being seen?   Jenn’s Question: Jenn feels she has lost her inspiration and passion for her business. She wants to gain clarity about her coaching business.   Jenn’s Key Insights and Ahas: She had a falling out with her mother. She was physically ill. She internalizes her mother’s issues. She was a people pleaser and chameleon around her mother. She has always been there for others. Her relationship coaching feels shallow to her now. She’s committed to getting out of her head.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Bring more of her own voice into her business. Don’t underestimate the value she brings to her clients. Consider the way the people she appreciates share their stories. Share more of her emotional depths.   Takeaways: Get Expectation Hangover if you don’t have it already, and in the spiritual section do the lesson quest exercise under the role of the seeker. Take an inventory of your external life. Does it match your internal life? How can you be more vulnerable and honest? Think of the ways you are a people pleaser or play small. How can you step into a deeper level of authenticity? Where are you telling yourself you are confused when you are not? Can you allow yourself to be in uncertainty?   Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Inner Circle Membership Community @ChristinHassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Jill@ChristineHassler.com Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life, by Christine Hassler  

CC: Loving (and leaving) an addict with Dana Killion Dana Killion debut memoir, Where the Shadows Dance: He Got Sober. I Got Broken, explores her struggle as she became collateral damage in her husband’s self-destruction. After saving him, she realized she also needed to save herself. She is the author of the Andrea Kellner Mystery series.   You can pre-order her new book here

This episode is about why we may feel blah like nothing's wrong but it is not right either. Today’s caller, Judith, keeps herself busy to avoid things in her life and would like guidance on how to find a sense of purpose. If you have ever had a sense that nothing feels terribly wrong but nothing feels really right either, or you are not depressed and just feel blah, you will enjoy this episode.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode390]   So many people are operating with the sense that nothing is really wrong but nothing feels quite right either. Some may not even know that it’s not ideal to have a sense of malaise.   If you have a pattern or a way you’ve gotten love, fulfillment, attention, acknowledgment, recognition, etc., and you feel a sense of malaise, or that nothing’s wrong but nothing feels right either, it is usually an indicator that you are using some kind of behavior to give you a sense of fulfillment.   Try making a choice not to do something that gives yourself a sense of fulfillment because it’s a pattern or a reaction. Instead, consciously and intentionally choose to go in a direction that will enhance internal fulfillment. Because we cannot get true lasting internal fulfillment from external sources or external behavior.   Are you a single lady who is looking for a gentleman? Are you ready to call in epic love? Find out more about the Be the Queen program, which began on February 28, 2023. It includes an in-person one-day retreat in San Diego on October 12, 2023, and the self-paced evergreen course at christinehassler.com/bethequeen or email Jill@christinehassler.com.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you had a good life? Nothing bad has happened but you don’t feel a sense of fulfillment? Are you the kind of person that gets fulfilled from doing and if you’re not doing anything then you’re looking for that sense of fulfillment? Did you have to grow up early and even though you didn't have a “bad” childhood you had a childhood that was interrupted a little too soon? Do you have an inward sense of purpose? Do you feel connected to something bigger than you, a sense of spirituality that can hold you in those times when nothing outside of you is bringing you fulfillment?   Judith’s Question: Judith is at a crossroads and would like guidance on how to overcome a feeling of general malaise.   Judith’s Key Insights and Ahas: She feels a sense of general malaise. She didn’t have any major traumas in her life. Nothing feels wrong but nothing feels right either. She feels her purpose is to give energy to people and events. She makes herself busy when she is avoiding something. She felt she was the glue that held her family together in childhood. She often would like someone to take care of her. She is a recovering codependent. She didn’t have catastrophic events in her life. She is always curious to learn. She is a therapist. She appreciates the journey aspect of life.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Learn how to have a sense of purpose without “doing” anything. Start a spiritual journey to find a sense of purpose and meaning deep within. Join the Inner Child Workshop. Make a list of 3‒5 songs that change her state of being and listen to it when she feels blah.   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — is good-looking clean cooking. Caraway products are beautiful, easy to clean and use, and it is non-toxic. The cookware and bakeware sets have a naturally slick ceramic surface. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the exclusive 10% off on their full suite of products, including their new food storage sets. Be sure to use OVERIT at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Melody Wilding is the best-selling author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work. Named one of Business Insider’s Most Innovative Coaches for her groundbreaking work on “Sensitive Strivers”, her clients include CEOs, C-level executives, and managers at top Fortune 500 companies such as Google, Amazon, and JP Morgan, among others. Melody has been featured in The New York Times and Wall Street Journal and is a contributor to Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and Forbes. Melody is a licensed social worker with a masters from Columbia University and a professor of Human Behavior at Hunter College. Learn more at melodywilding.com

This episode is about how to find a sense of home, safety, and security without being codependent. Today’s caller, Stephania, gets low when going through rough patches and would like some tools to find safety and security within herself. Christine offers ways she can regulate her nervous system to find peace.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode389]   Wanting to feel like home translates into how to feel more regulated inside. How to not be in the fight-or-flight part of our nervous system and settle into rest-and-digest. When we think of the metaphor of home, the feeling of home is safe, nourishing, relaxing, and fulfilling. At home, we know we are always going to have a full belly and a warm heart. That happens inside when we are in that more rested part of our nervous system.   Finding our sense of home is doing the work and asking ourselves questions, but it is also about a consistent practice of knowing when we are dysregulated, aka triggered. So, when we’re in our heads, our heart is beating fast, our stomach is in knots, and we are reactive and time-traveling. Something in the present is triggering us more than it needs to and reminds us of something in the past. When we are in a dysregulated state it’s the practice of finding tools to bring us back into our body to regulate our nervous system.   If a person changes because they have shame or judgment about a behavior versus if a person changes because they have compassion for their wounding and they want to feel peace; the latter change lasts.   Are you a single lady who is looking for a gentleman? Are you ready to call in epic love? Find out more about the Be the Queen program, which begins on February 28, 2023. It includes an in-person one-day retreat in San Diego on October 12, 2023, and the self-paced evergreen course at christinehassler.com/bethequeen or email Jill@christinehassler.com.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a history of having an anxious attachment style? Do you feel like you put everyone else’s needs before yours? Do you feel dysregulated or triggered often, perhaps even jealous? Did you lack a parent who nurtured and loved you? Did you know that at least one of your parents, particularly your mother, loved you unconditionally?   Stephania’s Question: Stephania asks for tools to help her find safety within herself.   Stephania’s Key Insights and Ahas: She searches outside herself for safety and security. She is a people pleaser. She creates safety within her relationships with other people. She is aware of her codependent tendencies. Messages on her partner’s phone triggered her. She and her partner are going to couples therapy. She doesn’t know how to be compassionate with herself. She is sad because her mother didn’t give her compassion. She didn’t feel love from her mother and has been trying to fill the void.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Regulate her nervous system. Take ownership of her tendencies and patterns without shame or judgment. She doesn’t need to fix anything to make her lovable. Speak the language of love to herself. Tap into the mother archetype to embody what being a mother truly means.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

My husband joins me today as we talk about my journey to calling him in after nearly a decade of being VERY single after my divorce. We offer both insight and some practical advice on how women can attract healthy men who are worthy of their hearts.    Stef and I also share about one of our favorite programs, "Be the Queen" which starts this month.  You can learn more and join us at https://christinehassler.com/bethequeen/

This episode is about reclaiming lost aspects of ourselves. Today’s caller, Michael, feels lost. He keeps checking things off his list and achieving his goals but lacks purpose and satisfaction in life. Christine offers guidance about how he can reclaim the childhood parts of himself that were buried long ago.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode388]   It doesn’t matter whether we are gay or we are too tall, too thin, or we have the wrong skin color, whatever it is, as children, most of us fundamentally decide there is something wrong with us. It is at that point where our freedom, childish curiosity, wonderment, innocence, creativity, and radical self-acceptance dies. The second we are shamed for a part of who we are, it's like a part of us dies inside.   When our childlike parts that are full of life and authenticity get cut off, we feel dead inside and lost because those parts were huge parts of our life. It’s like a car with no steering wheel. Good luck getting around anywhere. You can sit in it, rev the engine, and play a radio but you can’t go anywhere.   We are not always consciously aware that we carry around the grief of the childhood parts of us that were not fully expressed. And, we will always feel lost if there is a part of us that is missing. As adults, we search for something to make that part of us feel alive again. We crave reclamation.   Sometimes we desperately fight for what we want without knowing that we are fighting for it. We are always looking for safety. Whatever we are looking for outside of us has to be found inside.   Are you a single lady who is looking for a gentleman? Are you ready to call in epic love? If so, Christine and Stefanos held a free masterclass on Valentine’s Day. Get the recording at christinehassler.com/lovemasterclass. And, find out more about the Be the Queen program, which includes an in-person one-day retreat and a self-paced recorded option at christinehassler.com/bethequeen or e-mail Jill@christinehassler.com.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you have to morph yourself as a child in order to be accepted or to feel not so different? Did people say they accepted you but inside you always felt different? Have you climbed a lot of mountains, gone to the summit, looked around, and said “wait a second, this is it?” and now you’re looking for your next mountain to climb? Have you ever dealt with depression, feeling low in the deep dark nights of the soul, or considered ending your life?   Michael’s Question: Michael feels lost and would like guidance about how to reclaim freedom and purpose.   Michael’s Key Insights and Ahas: He has completed the Personal Mastery program. He has been through ups and downs in his life. He used to have vision and purpose but doesn’t feel them any longer. He has experienced bouts of severe depression. He didn’t feel like he belonged with boys or girls as a child. His coping strategy is suppression. He searches out role models. He overshares with people he trusts. He is looking for something outside of himself. He felt ashamed of being gay. He yearns to be seen for who he truly is. He sabotaged himself in order to force change. He numbed himself for most of his adult life. He reads tarot cards.   How to Get Over It and On With It: He needs to liberate and fully express himself. Stop looking for something to do and commit to reclaiming his lost self to give himself the childhood he didn’t have. Learn to channel his creativity, energy, and sensitivity.   Takeaways: Join the Personal Mastery program. What parts of yourself do you need to reclaim? It is time for them to come alive again, so you can come alive again. Sponsor: Sensate — is an infrared resonance device that when paired with sessions in the companion app works towards reducing stress, and to improve well-being. It provides deep relaxation in 10‒30 minute sessions. It tones the vagus nerve. For $30 off your purchase, go to GetSensate.com and use the promo code OVERIT.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.  

Devin Burke is an international and TEDx speaker, the bestselling author of “The Sleep Advantage,” the founder of Sleep Science Academy, and one of the top health and sleeps coaches in the world. His books, keynotes, programs, and videos have inspired thousands of people to improve their sleep, energy, and life.   His mission is to give the 40+ million people who suffer from poor sleep the tools and support they need to stop suffering and start sleeping as quickly as possible.

This episode is about how to respond with curiosity to people who are not respecting you. Today’s caller, Mica, is looking for guidance on how they can change their response to become more empowered when it comes to people not using the preferred pronouns they have asked them to use. This call opens our awareness to non-binary individuals who like to be called they and them and not the traditional pronouns we may be used to and about how growing up in a restrictive environment impacts us as adults.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode387]   Identity, be it race, gender, or age, when we take it all out of the equation, all we are is love. Every single one of us is love. Often, it takes people who don’t fit into a mold to teach those who do fit in more of a mold that nothing matters but who someone’s essence is. Who we are as humans on this planet is just love and that’s it. That is what we all are here to learn.   What scares most of us about conflict is that we think we have to be confrontational. If we don’t attack we think our only other option is to retreat or we feel we either have to charge ahead or collapse. That is a very common dynamic. The goal is to respond to people that aren’t respecting you with curiosity versus confrontation.   Curiosity is powerful. It is one of the most underused responses and ways to be. When we approach people with curiosity, they are able to hear. It allows us to make direct requests of them from a place of vulnerability and authenticity.   The more we accept ourselves for who we are, the less oppression we face. It’s not that there isn’t oppression or people who don’t respect who we are. But, when we can really come into full self-acceptance, we can teach people how to treat us and respect us. We also aren’t letting our own nervous system get dysregulated due to someone else’s ignorance or stubbornness.   Are you a single lady who is looking for a gentleman? Are you ready to call in epic love? If so, join Christine and Stefanos for a free masterclass on Valentine’s Day, Feb. 14th, 2023 at 7:30 CST. Join live or get the recording at christinehassler.com/lovemasterclass.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you made requests of other individuals and they’re just not listening or they are not honoring your requests? When you are in times of conflict, do you have the tendency to either attack or retreat? Do you want to find a more empowered way to respond? Did you grow up in an oppressive household and you did anything you could to try to fit in? Do you want to feel a sense of freedom to be yourself and not care what anybody else thinks and move into a place of radical self-acceptance and be free?   Mica’s Question: Mica has felt friction when establishing the pronouns they prefer and would like guidance on how to deal with conflict.   Mica’s Key Insights and Ahas: They came out as non-binary. They find it stressful when people push back on them. They read tarot cards. They are an aspiring life coach. Their biological father was a tyrant in their life. They had to have a defensive posture. They feel unseen and unheard. They have been non-binary since childhood but tried to identify as female. They have had to prove who they are throughout their life. They know they are here to teach people how to love.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Approach conflicts with curiosity. Allow their nervous system to feel that people are safe. Know that they are allowed to ask for what they want and need. Feel confident in who they are, no matter what pronouns others use. Recognize when they are triggered and navigate their way through it differently. Radically accept themselves as love. Apologize to their younger self and free the part of them that felt stifled.   Takeaways: Move into self-acceptance and work with your rebel part and tell it that it is free. Tell it there is nothing to prove and it doesn’t have to fight.   Sponsor: Sensate — is an infrared resonance device that when paired with sessions in the companion app works towards reducing stress, and to improve well-being. It provides deep relaxation in 10‒30 minute sessions. It tones the vagus nerve. For $30 off your purchase, go to GetSensate.com and use the promo code OVERIT.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

One of my dear friends who is also an epic coach, speaker and author joins me to have a very intimate conversation about birth, death and so much more.    A little more about Dr Neeta....She is the founder of Global GRIT Institute, a wellness education platform for optimizing wellbeing, and cofounder of Dharma Coaching Institute, a coaching organization training coaches to become the highest versions of themselves. That Sucked, Now What? is a real-talk guide to personal growth that draws on embracing the suck while breaking through to lasting, audacious resilience.   You can access her free gifts at https://neetabhushan.com/book/

This episode is about breaking bad dating patterns. Today’s caller, Amber, is aware that she has a pattern of dating men with issues, but she is unsure how to shift it. She asks for guidance about why she continually calls in the same type of person and how she can change it. No matter what your relationship status, this call will help you to closely connect to your inner child to shift current-day issues.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode386]   Very few people in their childhood experience pure unconditional love. Most people have to come up with strategies to feel loved and they often never do feel love unconditionally. As a child, if our parents aren’t okay, we are not okay.   We all speak a language of love that often is not love. As children, it was the only way we knew to survive because we all need love and we all need to feel connected to our caretaker. We may think it is love but it is the only way we know how to relate.   We can drive ourselves crazy trying to deal with present-day issues, or trying to change something in the present but unless we find the root cause it is really hard to shift things. It is akin to having a chronic health problem. We try to find a functional medicine doctor to help us get to the root cause of our issue. If we don’t, we are just throwing medication and treatments at the symptoms. We never just want to treat the symptoms. We want to treat the root cause of our issues.   If you are in a relationship you know is not working or is not healthy. Get out of it and look for the root cause. Focus on being a partner and parent to yourself. Until we re-parent ourselves, we play out the patterns of our unmet needs. Until we become a great partner to ourselves we are not going to have the conscious partnership we truly desire.   Are you ready to find love and call in your person? If so, join the next Group Coaching Call on February 7th, 2023 at 7:30 pm CST. For only $20, Christine and Stefanos are providing live coaching. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group to sign up.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you have a parent that you had to parent or a parent that did not meet your needs? Do you have a pattern of rescuing people in relationships or do you call in partners that have a lot of issues? Do you want a conscious healthy relationship but you just don’t know how to shift the pattern that you are in? Do you know how to mother or father your inner child?   Amber’s Question: Amber has a pattern of dating partners with issues. She would like guidance on how to shift it to have a healthy, conscious relationship.   Amber’s Key Insights and Ahas: Her mother was emotionally unavailable. As a child, she felt she had to take on a parental role. She has been seeing a therapist. She is drawn to men she can nurture and protect. She dates men for a few months and then breaks up with them. She finds it hard to nurture her inner child. She feels that she does not deserve love.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Realize her dating patterns stem from her unmet childhood needs. Create a list of red flags and when those flags emerge in a new relationship, break up with the person. Mother herself so she does not feel the need to mother others. Understand that her mother was hurt and didn’t have the opportunity to heal herself. Connect with her inner child to help her feel love. Take a year off from dating.   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — offers fabulous looking clean cooking. Caraway cookware is beautiful, easy to clean and use and it is non-toxic. The cookware and bakeware sets have a naturally slick ceramic surface. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the exclusive 10% off limited-time offer and use OVERIT at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Robert Waldinger joins me to talk about happiness - what it is, how we can be happy, myths about happiness and so much more. As a psychiatrist and the 4th director of the longest study on happiness, he is full of both wisdom and heart. He also invites you to a wonderful happiness challenge that I encourage you to take.   More about Robert... he is a professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development at Massachusetts General Hospital, and cofounder of the Lifespan Research Foundation. Dr. Waldinger received his AB from Harvard College and his MD from Harvard Medical School. He is a practicing psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, and he directs a psychotherapy teaching program for Harvard psychiatry residents. He is also a Zen master (Roshi) and teaches meditation in New England and around the world. Robert is the co-author of the book The Good Life: Lessons From the World’s Longest Scientific Study on Happiness)

This episode is about getting over an unwanted breakup and so much more. Today’s caller, Nicole, was surprised when her husband of two years asked for a divorce citing different communication styles. She would like guidance on how to get over the breakup and how to use what she is learning about herself to heal her triggers.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode385]   When we grow up with the feeling of struggle, or we feel our parents struggle, we can’t just be kids. We can’t completely relax. So, in our adult relationships, we look for relief.   Other people can help us heal and can be amazing sources of support but no one can save us from ourselves. We can rely on people to hold space for us and they can be amazing support systems. But if we are always looking to someone else to fill a void, save us, help us, or end our struggles, then we never really embody the knowing that we can fill that void, or deal with that struggle ourselves. It is super empowering to know we can do that ourselves and know we don’t need to rely on someone else for love, stability, or safety.   The answers are never outside of ourselves. They are always found within.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you going through a change that you didn’t want and you’re having a hard time with it? Did you grow up struggling or was your family struggling, particularly your parents, and you find yourself struggling in life? Are you afraid you manifested “bad” things in life? Do you ever become someone that you’re not in order to get love?   Nicole’s Question: Nicole feels she manifested her divorce and would like guidance on how to get over it.   Nicole’s Key Insights and Ahas: She was shocked when her ex-husband of two years asked for a divorce. She feels she may have manifested the situation. She fears she may have sabotaged her relationship. Her childhood was filled with struggle and strife. She suppressed her true nature in the relationship. She feels that her ex is perfect and met every item on her checklist. She projected children into their future. She truly enjoyed the relationship. She feels the need to be her fiery self in a relationship. She has had to conform at other times in her life. She did everything she could to save her marriage. She doubts her abilities and doesn’t feel deserving. She feels that struggling has value and is a normal part of life. She put her ex-husband on a pedestal. She will go into learning mode, not victim mode.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Manage her reactivity and how she communicates her feelings. Feel joy, stability, and comfort within herself. Work with a coach, or counselor, to keep her on the healing path. Use her experience as a lesson to heal her triggers.   Sponsor: Sensate — is an infrared resonance device that when paired with sessions in the companion app works towards reducing stress, and to improve well-being. It provides deep relaxation in 10‒30 minute sessions. It tones the vagus nerve. For $30 off your purchase, go to GetSensate.com and use the promo code OVERIT.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

I'm delighted to have Erika back on the show to give all of you an energetic clearing (make sure to stay until the end of the podcast for that!)   Erika is an intuitive healer and channel that helps release beliefs and programs that keep us stuck. If you have done tons of personal development but still feel like things aren't shifting the way you desire, don't miss this episode!   You can book a session with Erika and learn more about her work and events here: https://www.erikaalaura.com/

This episode is about navigating a different path than your family. Today’s caller, George, grew up in a healthy family environment but always felt he was on a different spiritual path than the rest of his family. He asks for guidance about accepting differences and for practices to heal his inner child. If you are a generational pattern breaker, or if you are choosing a different path than the one your family is on, this episode offers guidance for you too.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode384]   For many generational pattern breakers, we are conflicted between our soul path and our family lineage. We are born knowing we are on a different path. We all come into life with our level of consciousness, the beliefs we adhere to, and our soul path. It may be difficult to understand when all the other members of a family are committed to something we may not be committed to. We have the family we are born into and then we find our soul family.   When we choose something different, it can feel terrifying to break out of the family norm. One of our survival needs is wired to our nervous system and the part of our nervous system that is connected to fight, flight, freeze, or fawn is belonging. When we sever any type of tie to family, even if we can logically understand it, it still wakes up our need for belonging. It can bring up feelings of guilt or shame.   We believe that our family should be the ones who know us best but sometimes they are not. And, that is okay. It doesn’t mean we can’t love them or have a relationship with them, it just means that we find our soul family in other places.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like the outsider in your family or the generational pattern breaker? Have you made a choice your family doesn’t approve of? Is your family trying to fix you, trying to convince you to come back to their religion, business, or hometown? Do you feel like your own flesh and blood doesn’t really understand you?   George’s Question: George wants to know how to navigate and set boundaries within the relationship he has with his family.   George’s Key Insights and Ahas: He was raised in a Christian household yet his current spiritual path differs. He feels distant from his family. He wants his family to accept him for who he is. He asked his family to respect his spiritual journey. He had a healthy upbringing but felt misunderstood. He feels like an outsider for leaving the rural community that his family lives and worships in. He realizes he is living his life for himself and not his family. He is having a difficult time accepting that there are issues they will not be able to connect on. For a long time, he associated spirituality with the Christian religion. He is currently experiencing a higher level of spiritual growth. In some ways, he has always felt different and unique in his family. His inner child is reluctant to let his feelings go.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Know that the connection he wants with his family may not be possible. Understand no spiritual path is better, they are just different. Have a conversation with his inner child who didn’t feel understood and have compassion and love for himself. Enjoy his relationship with his family without talking about religion or spirituality. Practice dominant handwriting, the empty chair process, or journaling when talking with his inner child. Allow his spiritual practice to lead him through his experience.   Sponsor: Sensate — is an infrared resonance device that when paired with sessions in the companion app works towards reducing stress, improving well-being, and increasing high-quality sleep. It provides deep relaxation in 10‒30 minute sessions. It tones the vagus nerve. For $30 off your purchase, go to GetSensate.com and use the promo code OVERIT.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Dr. Cabral, a functional and naturopathic doctor, joins me again to talk about what truly keeps us healthy and how important is it to measure certain things in our body so we can PREVENT disease, aging and just feeling not great.   Listen to him analyze my results from a minerals and metals test and be one of the first to receive a FREE minerals and metals test plus analysis here: https://shop.stephencabral.com/over-it-on-with-it-free-lp003   More about Dr Cabral:   Dr. Cabral has more than 20 years in the natural health field, worldwide internships, dozens of certifications, and a doctoral degree in Naturopathy. He is the host of his top rated podcast, “The Cabral Concept” where he’s gotten over 30 million downloads. He has appeared in every type of media outlet as a national health & wellness consultant, as well as a contributor to MTV, Men’s Health, Women’s Day, Maxim, SELF, Diet.com, NutritionData, Conde Nast, and many others. He has also authored and co-authored 4 books including his #1 International Best Selling book, the Rain Barrel Effect, and has published over 1,100 articles. Dr. Cabral is the Founder & CEO of Equi.Life, a health & wellness company that offers At-Home Lab Testing, Coaching Calls with an IHP Certified Health Coach and over 125+ Supplements & Protocols. In addition, Dr. Cabral is the Founder & CEO of the Integrative Health Practitioner Institute where he has certified thousands of people all over the world as Integrative Health Practitioners so that they can heal themselves and heal others. 

This episode is about a pattern of withdrawal and doing deep work when you are not resourced. Today’s caller, Linet, is a sleep-deprived new mother who finds it difficult to express her emotions with her partner. When her partner expresses his feelings she feels judged. Christine guides Linet through ways she can use her current situation to heal the pains of the past and lean into love.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode383]   Oftentimes, when we are dealing with lower hormones, we can’t rely on biology. We need psychology and we need to use our heart. It is not the time to do deep work and bring up painful experiences from our past when we are sleep-deprived, hormonally challenged, or adjusting to major life changes.   If you are currently under-resourced it is not the time to dig deep into core wounding. Doing so can reactivate the trauma because you don’t have enough resources to hold you through the process. But, it could be the time to break patterns and choose more into experiences you wish you had as a child.   When it comes to pattern breaks it takes a commitment. Whether you are finding a way for your child or your inner child we have got to find a way to break a pattern. Patterns are patterns for a reason and breaking a pattern is a choice.   If we keep doing the same thing we keep getting the same results.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a pattern of withdrawing or related to the avoidant attachment style? Do you get angry at yourself or others but underneath you are just sad? When your partner comes to you being vulnerable, do you feel as if you have done something wrong? When they make a request of you, do you judge them or judge yourself? Do you want to break a pattern in your parenting? Would you like to be a different parent than the way you were parented?   Linet’s Question: Linet would like to express her concerns without sounding critical or judgmental and learn how to eliminate roadblocks in her relationships.   Linet’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has problems expressing her emotions. She feels angry, frustrated, and distant often. When her husband shares his emotions, she feels judged. Her relationship is 1.5 years old. She is a new mother and recently lost her libido during postpartum. She is hard on herself and has expectation hangovers. She isn’t sleeping well. She has had to hold it all together throughout her life. Intimacy frightens her. Her mother didn’t make her feel safe to share her emotions. She finds it easy to connect and nurture her daughter. When she withdraws, she wants to be loved. She is ready to break patterns. This is her first relationship that has lasted more than three months.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Have compassion for herself during major changes in her life. Practice leaning into love when she wants to withdraw. Avoid doing deep work until she is fully resourced. When she wants to withdraw, ask for a hug instead. Give little Linet the hugs she needs.   Sponsor: Air Doctor — is an air filter and air purifier that creates the healthiest environment in your home. It filters out dangerous contaminants and allergens with an ultra HEPA filter that removes 99.99% of tested bacteria and viruses. If you want to order an Air Doctor today with a 30-day money-back guarantee, go to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code “Overit” and get up to 35% off on selected models.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

  Layla Martin is a thought leader in the ever-emerging worlds of sexual wellness, Tantra, erotic empowerment, and personal development. As founder of the VITA™ Method, she’s been certifying professionals in a Tantric approach to Love, Sex, and Relationships for over 7 years and has taught over 12,000 paid clients. For 20 years, Layla traveled the world as a devoted student of Tantra, training with the most high-level teachers of this powerful tradition. She studied human sexuality, neuroscience, and biology at Stanford University, and immersed herself in the energetic traditions of Taoism and early witchcraft. Along the way, she personally curated a dynamic, holistic system from over 10,000 hours of practice that blends ancient traditions with modern techniques. The VITA™ Method is proven to help heal trauma, release limiting beliefs, and awaken life-changing levels of pleasure. You can learn more about her VITA certification program at christinehassler.com/layla

This is the second part of my annual ritual to complete this year and step forward into 2023 with intention! In this episode, I guide you through a receiving process and meditation to start 2023 with steps to get clear about what you want to call in. Be sure to listen to the 2022 release episode to prepare you to receive freely.   We are $30 off on our breathwork and meditation series. Go to ChristineHassler.com/breathwork and use the promo code HOLIDAY.   And, January 10th is the first virtual group coaching night of 2023! Go to ChristineHassler.com/group.   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — is good looking, clean cooking. Caraway cookware is beautiful, easy to clean and use and it is non-toxic. It has a naturally slick ceramic surface and comes in cookware and bakeware sets. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the exclusive 10% off limited-time offer and use Overit at checkout.   Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Welcome to my annual two-part ritual to complete this year and step forward into the next with intention! In this episode, I guide you through a step-by-step process to complete 2022 with awareness and intention and let it go! And stay tuned for next week.

This episode is about getting past the fear and pain of rejection. Today’s caller, Lisa, is triggered when she feels not chosen or rejected by others and would like to know why. Christine connects some powerful dots that may help you connect some dots in your life.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode381]   Sometimes we adopt the behavior of a parent we empathize with or a parent we felt sad for. So, when we realize we are tender about something, first, we need to take 100% responsibility for it. Then look at what we need to heal and recognize we need to have self-love and self-care to work with our wounding.   Repetitive triggers or sets of feelings that keep coming up over and over again are pointing us toward healing. Like our bodies letting us know we are sick by getting a fever or runny nose. Our repetitive triggers let us know there is an unresolved wound that needs healing.   Two important things to remember:   When our pain, experience, or our trigger feeling doesn’t really match the reality of what is going on, it always means we are time traveling. It means we always are being reminded of people — usually from our childhood — when our current reaction really doesn’t match the circumstances. Rejection is painful but a lot of times we are not being rejected.   And, we can’t just do our inner work and then tolerate behavior that isn’t great. A lot of people fall into the trap of believing it is their wounding and not letting others take responsibility for their actions. As we heal, we learn to ask for what we need, speak our truth, and authentically self-express.   Check out Christine’s Reflect and Release 2022 podcast and the Call in the New Year podcast being released the first week of January.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you notice that you almost overreact when you feel rejected or your experience often doesn’t match the reality of what’s going on? When you feel left out or when you feel not chosen, does it just bring up terrible sadness for you? Do you constantly need reassurance that you are chosen, you are loved, and liked? Did your parents go through a divorce when you were a child and it is still impacting you today, and possibly impacting your fear of rejection?   Lisa’s Question: Lisa would like guidance on how to overcome her fear of rejection.   Lisa’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is triggered when she feels not chosen or left out. Her reactions aren’t in-line with what is happening. Previous relationships may be triggering her. Her parents divorced when she was six. She told her dad she wanted to live with her mom. Her sense of belonging was rattled. She has a sensitivity to rejection. She is never sure what is her fear or what is an infraction. She tests her partner. She modeled her father after not being chosen.   How to Get Over It and On With It: When she feels triggered, ask herself what her inner child needs, then provide it. Ask her partner and friends to support her. Have a conversation with her partner about the things she would like. Do the Inner Child Workshop.   Takeaways: Look at where your pain around rejection may link to a sense of not belonging and how you can give your inner child now what it needed then.   Consider how you can help heal your fear of rejection by making clear requests of others.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Ramit Sethi is the NYT best selling author of I Will Teach You To Be Rich and host of the I Will Teach You To Be Rich Podcast where he speaks directly with couples about how to build a better relationship with money and with each other.

This episode is about honoring lost loved ones and loving our way through grief. Today’s caller, Kate, is a young woman who is grieving the loss of her mother. Christine offers comfort and ways she can feel joy alongside the tears by doing things in a way that honors the beautiful memories of her mother.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode380]   In this crazy ride of a life, there are times of unbelievable joy, heart-bursting gratitude, and sometimes heart-wrenching grief. These are all aspects of love. Yet, none of us live forever, and we are all going to lose people we love.   Loss is one of the hardest things we encounter in the human experience. We don’t get out of this world without suffering. But, if we see grief and loss as part of love and we can see our grief as an expression of love, then it helps us have the courage to actually feel our way through it.   It is helpful to be honest about our feelings and not worry about drowning in them but rather be intentional about welcoming our feelings and know that we have a life preserver and will not drown. We are more likely to drown in feelings we suppress than in feelings we allow.   The beautiful and difficult thing about the human experience is that we feel deeply, especially if we’ve shifted ourselves out of patterns of suppression, distraction, repression, and numbing.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you lost someone or something recently and you are afraid to dive into your grief because you don’t know how deep it will go? Do you have a parent that is on the other side and you’d like to cultivate a relationship with them or do things in their honor? Are you saving things or not doing things in your life and grief could be an inspiration to do them? Are you willing to open your heart fully to love even if that means losing?   Kate’s Question: As the holidays approach, Kate is grieving over the loss of her mother. She is searching for guidance on how to handle her grief.   Kate’s Key Insights and Ahas: Her mother passed away after a battle with cancer. She is in her early 20s. She and her mother bonded over gardening. People are offering condolences and advice on how to get over her grief. She is an only child. Her mother wants her to be happy. She finds solace in her partner and her puppy. She finds it beneficial to talk with her therapist. Her mother taught her about kindness and love. She finds it difficult to reach out for support from her family.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Know that her mother will forever be in her heart. Live and do things in a way that will honor her mother, like making her favorite tea. Find joy in her memories and find joy alongside the tears and the loss. She is doing a great job of taking care of herself. Reach out to family members for support.   Sponsor: Air Doctor — is an air filter and air purifier that creates the healthiest environment in your home. It filters out dangerous contaminants and allergens with an ultra HEPA filter that removes 99.99% of tested bacteria and viruses. If you want to order an Air Doctor today with a 30-day money-back guarantee, go to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code “Overit” and get up to 35% off on selected models.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

John Kim, LMFT, also known as the Angry Therapist pioneered the online life coaching movement seven years ago, after going through a divorce which led to his total re-birth. He quickly built a devoted following of fans who loved the frank and authentic insights that he freely shared on social media. Kim became known as an unconventional therapist who worked out of the box by seeing clients at coffee shops, on hikes, in a CrossFit box. John and his partner, Vanessa, live together in Los Angeles with their daughter. Together, they co-authored the book IT’S NOT ME, IT’S YOU: Break the Blame Cycle, Relationship Better .  

This episode is about making the changes we know we need to make. Today’s caller, Toni, has done personal development work but still feels stuck in her relationship. Christine explores the possibility that Toni knows the changes she needs to make but is letting the fear of change hold her back from taking action.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode379]   Remember not to judge progress by external shifts. While external shifts are important it takes time for things to shift. Often, the season we are in is the awareness or the processing. We need to work our way up to making a change. But, eventually, we do have to make the change. Because awareness isn’t enough.   Integration and true transformation only happen when we change behavior. It doesn’t matter how much processing we do or how much information we have. The process of true transformation requires making big changes.   In life, if we could just connect the dots and things would change, life would be easy. It doesn’t work that way, for things to change we often have to take bold action.   Often, we know the changes we need to make but we don’t want to make them.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in a situation you know needs to change but you just are terrified of making the change? Have you done all the work but still feel stuck? Do you relate to being a people pleaser and a caregiver and you feel great in the role of taking care of others but no one’s taking care of you?   Toni’s Question: Toni is feeling stuck in her relationship and is looking for guidance on how to make a change.   Toni’s Key Insights and Ahas: She does personal development work but something isn’t shifting. Her five-year relationship is issue-based. Her partner may be emotionally unavailable. She feels her relationship may not go the distance. She had instability in her childhood. She wanted safety and security from her father but didn’t receive them. She cared for her father during his alcoholism until his passing. She is a caretaker in all of her relationships. Awareness has become her safety and security. The only way she has gotten love is by taking care of others. When she gets overwhelmed she shuts down. She is afraid to leave her relationship.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Acknowledge and celebrate shifts she has experienced. Make some big, scary changes. Leave the relationship. Stop using fear to not make a change. Get support through a coach, therapist, accountability partner, or friend.   Takeaways: Where are you stuck because you aren’t taking a step forward?   Sponsor: Organifi — is ready to help you stay healthy and to get the nutrients you need during the holidays! The body needs both macro and micronutrients for optimal health. Organifi’s Gold includes a turmeric blend. To get 20% off orders for yourself or as gifts use the promo code 'OVERIT’ at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

It's the holiday season which means you may be around some people that push your buttons. One of the best ways to avoid getting too many buttons pushed is setting healthy boundaries. But what exactly are healthy boundaries? When do we set them? And how do we do it in a way that is loving? These are the questions I answer in today's episode.

This episode is about healing our traumas while raising children. Today’s caller, Nicole, says her children and home responsibilities are triggering her trauma. She is constantly in survival mode. She asks for guidance on how to relieve her anxiety and overwhelm. Christine offers tips for how to set healthy boundaries and regulate her nervous system.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode378]   Often, there are places inside of us that are still unhealed and that are still tender. We have managed those tender parts but haven’t ever transformed. It’s a huge distinction between what brings peace and contentment in life and what just gets us through the day. So many of us have had a painful past that we have learned to manage or sweep under the rug, or we’ve distracted ourselves with work or taking care of others and haven’t really, truly taken care of ourselves.   Our past trauma, past issues, and challenges are not forefront every day but we aren’t living to our fullest potential. The deepest level of contentment that we can access is limited because so much of our energy is spent on managing what we’ve never truly transformed. To get to where we want to go in life, we have to transform and that requires healing on deeper levels. There is nothing that can catalyze that like having children.   Children often bring forward the things that we have swept under the rug. They force us to look at ourselves. They trigger us. They are the perfect teachers because we love them so much and we don’t want to pass on our pain and trauma to them. We want to transform. but we don’t know how because our inner child is still wounded; we haven’t healed our traumas from our childhoods.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you a parent and do you sometimes question your parenting? Do you have unresolved trauma from your childhood and has being a parent activated it, or if you’re not a parent, do you know you have unresolved trauma from your childhood and you’re not sure what to do with it? Do you just feel too busy, or that there is too much going on in your life to deal with any of your trauma or do any healing?   Nicole’s Question: Nicole is triggered by her child and would like guidance navigating her parenting journey while healing her trauma.   Nicole’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has food insecurity issues. She has child abuse, neglect, and abandonment traumas from her childhood. She isn’t in contact with her family. She feels she has to run the family and home by herself. She feels stuck in her relationship. Her nervous system is deregulated and in survival mode. She feels anxious and overwhelmed. She is unpredictable and inconsistent based on her trauma. She feels she doesn’t deserve her daughter. Her daughter was abused by someone close.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Make time for herself to heal her trauma. Regulate her nervous system daily by humming and taking deep breaths. Make a place for her daughter to have a temper tantrum. Be present with her daughter.   Takeaways: What are the things you can do daily to regulate your nervous system?   Sponsor: STORYWORTH — During the holidays you are bound to hear lots of stories from loved ones. Documenting those stories can be challenging. Storyworth helps your family share stories through thought-provoking questions about their memories and personal thoughts. After a year, Storyworth compiles your family’s stories in an exquisite hardbound keepsake book that ships for free. Give the important people in your life a meaningful gift Storyworth.com/overit and get $10 off your first purchase.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Athena Grace is now nearly nine months old and I'm finally ready to share the story of her birth. It was the most empowering and intense experience of my life and I'm deeply grateful to have delivered her at home. Stef joins me for the episode as he was o

This episode is about being open to opportunities by eliminating the walls we have up. Today’s caller, Rich, feels blocked in building his coaching practice but the session is not so much about building his coaching practice but about him becoming his own best client because his biggest blocks are his own beliefs and unresolved hurts.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode377]   We are told many things in our lives. Some of those things are not always positive. We tend to take on criticism much more than the compliments and acknowledgments we were given. Especially if that criticism came from a parent or any authority figure. Those criticisms from our past repeat like a broken record in our heads and impact our future. So, instead of living the life we want, we keep listening to the old story.   Whose voice is in your head that you have adopted as your own? It is time to give that voice back and not allow it to define you.   How we do anything is how we do everything. Many times we try to change our external circumstances thinking that a new job or new relationship will change the patterns and programming of things we don’t like. But, if how we do anything is how we do everything, then we just apply the same patterning and programming to the next thing.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you suffering because you cannot identify your purpose? Is there a person in your life who is struggling to find their purpose? Do you push them to find their purpose or try to find it for them? Do you feel worthy and deserving inside? And, how does your self-confidence, or lack thereof, impact your results? Is someone else’s voice inside your head? Do you need to banish it?   Rich’s Question: Rich would like to know how to get over his fear and anxiety to follow through with his goal of becoming a coach. He wants to overcome his limiting beliefs from his past, which may be blocking his future success.   Rich’s Key Insights and Ahas: He was providing his coaching services for free. He feels friends and family are expecting more of him. He is getting married soon. He suffers from social anxiety and has a hard time focusing. He meditates and exercises to deal with his anxiety. He has a mission to make an emotional impact on people’s lives. He was criticized as a child by his stepfather. He struggles with self-worth and fears failure. He is a sensitive creative. He has done work around self-compassion. He is not sure of the source of his resistance.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Do emotional healing and forgive himself for buying into the misunderstanding that he is not worthy. Realize the way he is treating himself is how his stepfather treated him. Treat himself like he treats his clients. Work through the emotional section of Expectation Hangover to release his anger. Consider what makes him authentic and worthy. Design a program for himself and become his best client.   Takeaways: Write down your limiting beliefs and figure out who owns the voice. Move into compassion for anyone who programmed your thoughts. Write a letter to give an unwelcome belief back to the person who gave it to you. Be honest about the emotional walls you have put up and be committed to taking them down. Set up two chairs and carry out your own therapy session.   Sponsor: Air Doctor — is an air filter and air purifier that creates the healthiest environment in your home. It filters out dangerous contaminants and allergens with an ultra HEPA filter that removes 99.99% of tested bacteria and viruses. If you want to get an Air Doctor today go to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code “Overit” and get up to 35% off on selected models.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This is the final episode of a three-part couples coaching series with Claire and Jimmy together. In today’s call, Christine asks both Claire and Jimmy how they can acknowledge and appreciate each other more while empowering them to take responsibility for their childhood wounds and how they are playing out in their relationship.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode376]   If you are in a relationship and you find yourself continuing to loop on the same argument over and over again, dig a little deeper to discover what is underneath it. Figure out where you may not be taking responsibility for your stuff and whether you are expecting your partner to heal it. Also, ask yourself where you may not be compassionate for their stuff and where you may be missing the ways they show up for you, and how you can appreciate it more.   It is not our job in a relationship to heal our partner’s wounds but it is our responsibility as a loving, conscious partner to understand and empathize with them. It’s not to tolerate toxic behavior but to adjust our behavior and our request to show we are empathetic and understanding of who our partner is.   The process of relationship is to continue to work on ourselves, work out our own triggers, and move toward our partner. Every relationship takes comprise. Love is a verb, not just the words.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in a relationship and you keep looping on the same argument over and over again? Do you have a sense that the argument, the disagreement, or the trigger you’re having could be linked to a deeper issue? Are you willing to compromise in your relationship or do you just want it your way? Are you ignoring the ways your partner does love you and does show up for you because it is not exactly the way you want it?   Claire & Jimmy’s Question: Claire & Jimmy together.   Claire & Jimmy’s Key Insights and Ahas: Claire triggers Jimmy to put his walls up and he shuts down. Jimmy’s version of being committed doesn’t match up with Claire’s. Claire is yearning to have Jimmy all-in, in the relationship. Intimacy is scary for Jimmy. They are helping each other heal. Claire is scared she can’t get her needs met in their relationship. They both realize they need to make some changes. Jimmy is sensitive to disappointing people and timid about the level of commitment Claire wants. They have a coffee date, meditate together, and relax in the hot tub at night.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Claire can acknowledge all the things Jimmy is doing right. Every night, Jimmy can tell Claire why he loves her. Claire can give Jimmy time to feel safer in the relationship. Show a greater level of empathy and understanding to each other. Jimmy can talk to Claire with the kindness and compassion he shows his daughters. Claire can have compassion for Jimmy as he is trying to figure things out.   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — is good looking, clean cooking. Caraway cookware is beautiful, easy to clean and use and it is non-toxic. It has a naturally slick ceramic surface and comes in cookware and bakeware sets. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the exclusive 10% off limited-time offer and use Overit at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, Post-Traumatic Growth and grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista’s life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her uncurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too. 

This episode is the second of a three-part couples coaching series. Christine coaches Claire and Jimmy separately, and then together in Part 3. In today’s call, with Jimmy, she explores the things from his childhood that may make commitment a bit hard for him.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode375]   It is okay if we have conflict. It is okay if plans need to be rearranged. It is okay if you unintentionally disappoint someone. There is a difference between promising someone you will be somewhere and not showing up versus having to renegotiate an agreement.   It is reframing conflict into clarification. Because not every situation, conversation, or engagement with someone that we think is going to be stressful is. If we go in thinking something is going to be confrontational, that the other person is going to be upset, or that it is not going to go well, we limit the possibilities. But if we go in seeking clarification, or as a renegotiation of a commitment, then it becomes an entirely different conversation.   When we find a safe space on our own, we don’t necessarily default to an avoidant attachment style, although it can happen. What we default to is that it is safer on our own. Intimacy or really committing to making plans is challenging. If we add in that we don’t want to disappoint anyone as a sort of reason or even a subconscious excuse not to make plans, not to get closer, then we have a great wall of protection built around us. It can prevent us from going to deeper levels of intimacy with others.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you sometimes commitment-phobic? Do you love the idea of plans but when it comes to making them, it’s hard, or wish your partner would make plans and you don’t understand why they don’t? Do you relate to being a lone wolf and find it hard to be in relationship because you sometimes do better on your own? And, although you want love, commitment, and relationship, at the same time you don’t want to disappoint anyone? Do you not do things for fear of disappointing people but then you end up disappointing them anyway?   Jimmy’s Question: Jimmy wonders if there isn’t more at play when he and Claire struggle with planning things together.   Jimmy’s Key Insights and Ahas: When he gets pressed or pushed he feels blocked and withdraws. He is worried his responsibilities hinder him from showing up responsibly. He fears letting Claire down. He is taking steps to adjust his work calendar. His schedule to see his children is fluid. It is important that he shows up responsibly for work. His father wasn’t present for him in childhood. He wants to show up for his daughters. He has a pattern of avoiding conflict. He wants harmony in his life. At 14, he helped parent his siblings and worked outside of the home. He didn’t have anyone looking out for him growing up. He enjoys being committed but not committed. He likes to be spontaneous. He can see why Claire feels the way she does. He is scared of intimacy. His identity, confidence, and worth are tied to his work. He has an opportunity for intimacy.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Reframe how he thinks about conflict. Think about renegotiating plans as clarifying conversations. Ask 14-year-old Jimmy what he is scared of. Consider what kind of relationship he desires.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

An enlightening psychologist and national speaker, Dr. Marisa G Franco is known for digesting and communicating science in ways that resonate deeply enough with people to change their lives. She works as a professor at The University of Maryland and her forthcoming book Platonic: How The Science of AttachmentCan Help You Make—and Keep—Friends debuts with Penguin Random House in September 2022. She writes about friendship for Psychology Today and has been a featured connection expert for major publications like The New York Times, The Telegraph, and Vice. She speaks on belonging across the country.

This episode is the first of a three-part couples coaching series. Christine coaches Claire and Jimmy separately, and then together in Part 3. In today’s call, Claire reveals she would like Jimmy to make plans with her and make her a priority in his life. Christine uncovers some childhood patterns that may be at play in Claire’s current relationship.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode374]   When there is something that is bothering us and we are unable to shift it, we need to dig deeper. It is normal for us to be able to identify what is going on with someone else yet still to be blind to our own blocks. When we finally see it we realize how obvious it was but it is hard to see. We often just want to notice the current problem and fix our relationship, versus going back to see what it reminds us of in our past.   Things in our lives will continue to be frustrating until we unpack the message they are illuminating.   When we take the time to work on ourselves first, often it offers more clarity about issues in our relationships. We can’t work on issues in our relationships without working on ourselves.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there a constant pattern in your relationship you can’t seem to shift? Do you and your partner argue about the same issues over and over? Do you have an unmet need from a parent that is showing up in your relationship? Are you willing to see your partner in a different light? Are you willing to see your partner for who they are, right here, right now?   Claire’s Question: Claire would like guidance about how she can feel like a priority in her partner’s life.   Claire’s Key Insights and Ahas: Her childhood wound is abandonment. She doesn’t feel like a priority in Jimmy’s life. When she feels seen by Jimmy she feels empowered in the relationship. She has different patterns than Jimmy. She has been married before. Her father wasn’t present every day in her childhood. She is attached to planning and doing things.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Practice connection and intimacy with Jimmy in everyday life. Remind her inner child that Jimmy isn’t her Dad and she can get love whenever she wants. Let go of planning for a while to accept love in the here and now.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Christine's husband Stef who is a breathwork facilitator joins her to talk about the incredibly powerful modality of breathwork. Learn more about what breathwork is and how it may help you to tap into deeper levels of healing and freedom.   If you want to join Stef and Christine for their next breathwork event, go here: https://stefanossifandos.com/feminine/   And if you are interested in their breathwork and meditation program, go here: https://christinehassler.com/breathwork

This episode is about trusting our intuition and keeping others’ voices out of our heads. Today’s caller, Hannah, has made a clear decision to do something for herself. Yet, doubts are creeping in due to the opinions of others. If you have a gut feeling about something and other people are doubting you or you want to get to the place where you can trust your own inner knowing, this call will be extremely helpful.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode373]   You do not owe anyone an explanation for your decisions. If your decisions directly impact others, then a discussion is necessary. But, when you make personal decisions that only impact you, it is nobody else’s business but yours.   And on the flip side, we need to respect other people’s choices even if we wouldn’t make the same ones.   When people are not respecting our boundaries, it is imperative we create a distance from them. And, just because someone is a family member, doesn’t give them the right to have unlimited opinions about our lives and to know everything about us. Other people’s voices should not be louder than our own intuition.   Join Stefanos live for Breathwork for the Feminine. It is designed for women only. Stefanos leads the breathwork and then he and Christine both do coaching and processing afterward. Join them live in Austin on November 7th, 2022, from 6‒9 CST, or join virtually — Go to Stefanossifandos.com/feminine to register.    Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you recently made a decision that others are doubting and you wonder if you should be doubting it yourself? Do you have a habit of people-pleasing, being a chameleon, or going against what you want? Do you doubt that you have intuition and don’t know how to connect to it? Do you need to have stronger boundaries with certain people in your life?   Hannah’s Question: Hannah is on the brink of a scheduled surgery. She knows this is the right choice for her but would like clarity about the pressure she feels.   Hannah’s Key Insights and Ahas: She’s never wanted children. She has a tubal ligation procedure scheduled. Her inner voice is telling her she is broken. She’s done personal development work for some time. She is the only child in her family who isn’t married or doesn’t want children. Having the procedure feels self-honoring. Others around her question her judgment. She struggles when making decisions for herself. She feels pressure about not having rights over her body. She felt a sense of relief after making a decision. This may be the first decision she has made based on what she wants. She is a people-pleaser.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Make choices without checking in with others. Stop putting her needs aside in favor of the needs of others. Practice making quicker decisions and go with her gut.   Takeaways: Stay out of other people’s business. Keep others out of your business. Listen to your gut. Don’t let people’s voices be louder than your own voice.   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — is good looking, clean cooking. Caraway cookware is beautiful, easy to clean and use and it is non-toxic. It has a naturally slick ceramic surface and comes in cookware and bakeware sets. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the exclusive 10% off limited-time offer and use Overit at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Have you forgotten who you truly are? Are you caught up in some self-doubt, guilt, loneliness, sadness or disappointment? Could you use a reminder of how lovable you are? Then don't miss this episode where Christine speaks straight to your heart.

This episode is about how loving actions help us heal. Today’s caller, Jada, was never shown love in childhood and wants to know how she can learn to love herself. When we don’t have loving stable parenting, we are at a disadvantage. But, people who have had a disadvantaged childhood and have done the work to heal it, find a force, love, and momentum that is unstoppable.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode372]   Growing up without a role model for what love feels like is akin to growing up in a house with only one language. Would you expect yourself to speak another language naturally? Would it just appear in your brain? No. When we don’t have models for what love is, it is hard to access love; it is hard to know what true healthy love is without other people. It makes it hard to access self-love as well.   When something bad happens, many people say that the experience has made them stronger and more resilient. But what that translates to is the experiences they endured created walls to protect their heart so they never really let love in because they are scared to death of being hurt again. For many people who had difficult childhoods, there is a lot of anger and grief they never got to feel.   When we are healing trauma it is not about going back and reliving the experience. It’s about giving ourselves the voice we never had. When looking at self-love, we have to take actions that signify self-care and actions that signify that we are being good to ourselves. That is the first step in learning how to love ourselves.   Love is a feeling that we can access through actions.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you want to love yourself but you are not sure how? Did you have a traumatic childhood full of chaos and without a role model of love? Do you question if you will get over your past? Could it be possible that you are doing loving things but you don't even know it?   Jada’s Question: Jada grew up without a role model of what love is and would like guidance on how to find genuine self-love.   Jada’s Key Insights and Ahas: She feels anxiety when telling her story. She was abused and didn’t have love in her childhood. She feels unworthy and undeserving of love. She wants to turn her memories into something else. She has done self-work for three years. She is repressing anger. She wants love and support. Her inner child craves unconditional love. She recognizes how her lack of self-love shows up in her life. She is tired of how her childhood has affected her. She does not go into victim.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Discontinue trying to find beauty in the trauma. Take the time to process her emotions. Recognize that love; she may not know how to feel self-love but she knows what loving actions are. Give herself credit for how far she’s come. Know that as she continues on this healing path she will propel forward. Find a seasoned therapist so she doesn’t have to do healing alone.   Sponsor: Organifi — is a healthy and easy way to get the nutrients you need. The body needs both macro and micronutrients for optimal health. Organifi’s Green Juice includes Moringa which is known as nature’s most powerful multivitamin. For 20% off your order use the code 'OVERIT’ to receive 20% off your order.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This episode is about accepting where we are in life and enjoying it to the fullest. Today’s caller, Lindsey, has wanted to find a partner to share her life with for a long time. She has done personal development work but still believes she needs to fix herself before calling in a partner. We work through ways she can trust life, trust divine timing, and enjoy her life.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode371]   When we have hindsight, it is easy to move into acceptance. We look back and consider that something happened for a reason it makes it easier to accept. When we have to accept something, or we choose to accept something that isn’t what we want, that is when the real spiritual ninja work comes in.   The constant trying to figure out why — which is something we all do to some degree — we don’t have something we want or something in our life isn’t working. We pick ourselves apart with a fine-toothed comb trying to find the reason. Because if we find the reason, it gives us control and then we can do something to solve it. It is a pattern of constantly looking.   Acceptance is when we move into the peace of what is. It is when we stop wishing for something to be different or when we have feelings about circumstances not being what we want, we don’t bypass them. Resignation is when we give up. Acceptance has relief energy. When we surrender we can be open to something shifting.   When we move into full acceptance of who we are and where we are in our lives, the acceptance keeps us in the energetic of love and shifts what we are broadcasting.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there something you want badly and think you will be happier when you get it? Are you single and don’t want to be single but you can’t move into acceptance of it? Have you done work to change an issue or circumstance but it isn’t shifting and you keep trying? Do you believe your life would be better if you had something you don’t?   Lindsey’s Question: Lindsey has been single for most of her life and would like guidance on how to call in a partner.   Lindsey’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has been single for 10+ years but wants to call in a partner. She is an adventurous woman in life and work. She has a belief that men find her good enough to sleep with but not good enough to date. She believes she would be better in a relationship. She is sad because she doesn’t have a partner. She feels she has no control over finding a partner and pities herself. She feels looked over by the people in her life. She has limiting beliefs about herself. She is constantly doing to not think about the uncertainty of life. She believes that if she doesn’t work hard to get something she won’t get it. She is incorporating practices to keep herself present. She surrenders in water and with music.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Accept where she is right now. Move toward acceptance and let go of wanting something else. Make a playlist of songs that make her love her life in the now. Stop herself from going down a spiral. Stop trying to fix something that isn’t broken. Trust life and trust divine timing.   Takeaways: You can’t always get what you want but you can get what you need. If we can move into acceptance of wherever we are or are not, we have more enjoyment and freedom in our life.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you feel like you have done lots of personal development work yet certain patterns or issues keep coming back, then don't miss this episode! Christine explains why you must plant flowers after you weed your consciousness and break circuits that are currently running your mental programming.

This episode is about the protective patterns we create when we don’t feel safe. Today’s caller, Amanda, says she wants guidance on how to access her sensuality but the core issue is truly about how she can feel safe and be vulnerable. We can’t feel safe in our sexuality or sensuality unless we feel safe in our vulnerability.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode370]   When women don’t feel safe in their bodies we tend to go into our heads. We talk, talk, talk, and don’t notice what is going on in our bodies. As human beings, we are a combination of doing and being, flowing and going, masculine and feminine, sensual and productive, right and left. So, one of our biggest turn-ons is safety. If we feel safe, we can let go. If we don’t feel safe, forget about it. We need to learn that it is safe to feel and to be emotionally vulnerable.   When we attempt to make changes while in frustration, it is important to shift into vulnerability and full self-expression. We need to accept all aspects of ourselves. Sensuality can feel scary because it feels out of control when we keep our safe place in our heads.   When we don’t feel safe, we have protective patterns that frustrate us. We judge the patterns and try to change them. But, nothing heals judgment. The first step of healing is to love, accept, and thank the pattern for protecting us.   If you don’t feel safe expressing yourself emotionally, you won’t feel safe expressing yourself sensually and sexually. When an expression is muted, all expressions are muted.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel blocked from your sensuality? Would you like to be more expressed in your life, especially sexually? Did you have the space to be expressed as a child? Was vulnerability encouraged in your house or did you have to hide or numb your feelings or deal with them on your own? Are you in a relationship and feel inhibited with your own partner? Do people in your life give you feedback that they would like to be closer to you? Do you feel your relationships could be deeper but you are scared to go there?   Amanda’s Question: Amanda feels shame and guilt when it comes to sensuality and would like guidance on how to embody her sexuality without guilt and to feel good.   Amanda’s Key Insights and Ahas: She will be 40 this year. She is in a loving, committed relationship. As a child, she was raised Christian and was taught to believe that “good girls don’t” do certain things. She wants to let go of things that don’t serve her. She feels awkward when expressing her sensual self. Feeling uncomfortable and numb stems from her childhood. She doesn’t feel safe being vulnerable. People care about her and want to be honest with her. She wants to break the pattern. She commits to being in her body and creating opportunities to be emotionally vulnerable.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Remind herself that it is safe to feel. Feel her discomfort but also feel she is safe. Practice vulnerability. Write three questions to evoke emotional vulnerability. Recreate an opportunity to be fully expressed. Forgive herself for judging herself and being hard on herself.   Takeaways: If you want to be more sensually or sexually expressed, look at how emotionally expressed you are. Do you make safe spaces for your sensuality?   Sponsors: Organifi — is an organic superfood supplement line that makes quality, trusted nutrition convenient and acceptable. I love Organifi’s Gold and Gold Chocolate, which include relaxing mushrooms and root spices. It doesn’t spike your blood sugar like other hot chocolates. For 20% off your order use the code 'OVERIT’ to receive 20% off your order.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This episode is about upper limiting and discerning deal breakers versus growth opportunities in relationships. Everything seems to be finally working out for today’s caller, Daria, but she is having difficulty accepting it and her fiance. She asks for guidance on how to break existing patterns to make sure she doesn’t self-sabotage herself or her relationship.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode369]   It is very common that once we start to get the things we want, we start to wonder if we deserve them and if they are fleeting. We often have unexpected feelings when things start to go well.   When the hormones and infatuation of a new relationship wear off, in the realness of a relationship, there may be things about our partner that we don’t like. In most relationships, there are things about our partners we just don’t like and that we want to change. These things fall into several categories but more definitive would be to think of them as deal breakers or growth opportunities.   There are some things about our partner that we need to decide if it is truly annoying or not. Focusing on what we love about our partners and accepting them for who they are can go a long way. We can choose to focus on the great things about our partners.   When we want to request a change of behavior from our partner, they must feel safe in the relationship.   My Women’s Retreat is this weekend, October 7‒9, 2022 in Austin. Go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat to get more information about this gentle and nourishing life-changing opportunity. Whatever your issue or concern there is a place for you.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you sure about your relationship? You don’t have doubts but there are some things about your partner you wish they would change. Do you tend to have high standards and wonder if you are settling? Are you good at communicating what you need in a relationship? Or, maybe you are not as good at it as you think you are? Are you willing to be the change you want to see in the relationship?   Daria’s Question: Daria is feeling a sudden change of feelings toward her fiance and would like guidance to ensure she doesn’t self-sabotage.   Daria’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is upper limiting herself. She discovered her ex-husband deceived her. Her upbringing drastically changed when her mother got sick. She loves her fiance. She feels herself pulling away from her partner. She wishes he could be more of a grownup with her. She feels comfortable asking for things from him but feels she has to do it constantly. She loves his sense of playfulness and is a good friend to people. She is not sure when she is trying to change her partner or change the things he does. She is trying to learn how to deal with him and her feelings. Her relationship feels lopsided. She wants to make the relationship work.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Read The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level by Gay Hendricks. Get turned on by the things she loves about her partner. Realize her fiance feels her come-and-go energy and it can make him feel unsafe. To break her pattern, consider when and how she can lean into how much she loves him. Trust life and know that it is safe to be happy.   Takeaways: Experiment with a person who annoys you. For one week, choose to only recognize the amazing things you like about them.   Sponsors: Caraway Cookware — Now that I am cooking for my baby I want to make sure I have the least amount of toxins in my house. Caraway cookware is beautiful, easy to clean and use and it is non-toxic. It has a naturally slick ceramic surface and comes in cookware and bakeware sets. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of the exclusive 10% off limited-time offer and use Overit at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Author, speaker, teacher and force of love Danielle LaPorte joins Christine to dive deep into inner child work, forgiveness, radiance, choosing higher quality thoughts and so much more. Make sure to get her new book  How To Be Loving: As Your Heart is Breaking Open and Our World is Waking Up which is a nuanced perspective on the life-changing power of Self Compassion, shadow work and being more receptive to Higher Guidance. This is a guide on how to use the genius of your heart to create conditions for healing.   Learn more at https://daniellelaporte.com/

This episode is about being the parent you always wanted and wanted to be. Today’s caller, Carrie, wants to repair a strained relationship with her children. She feels shame about her past behaviors and wants guidance on how to build a connection with them and their children. There is a lot of vulnerability and courage in this honest conversation.   It can be scary to be a generational pattern breaker and it takes a lot of courage to follow through but it can transform our relationships.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode368]   Many parents carry around a silent shame about some of the choices they made as parents. Parenting is hard. It doesn’t come with a manual. Creating a healthy environment for our children is challenging when we don’t have good parenting ourselves. We are still impacted by our trauma and our hurt; it can feel impossible not to pass it on.   The hard part about trauma, or behavior we categorize as hurtful or bad, is that it is not due to anyone setting out to hurt another person. People who have unprocessed trauma and don’t know how to deal with it. People who are hurt and sad all the time haven’t gotten to their anger. People who are angry and explosive haven’t gotten to their hurt and sadness.   What happens with parent-child relationships is the hurt parent wants a two-way street. Meaning, the hurt parent wants the child to make it okay for them as well, but that is not the child’s job. It is the parent’s job to make it okay for the child.   Give your children the opportunity to hear the things they always wanted to hear.   Register for my upcoming Women’s Retreat which will be held in Austin from October 7‒9, 2022. Go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat to get more information about this gentle and nourishing life-changing opportunity. Whatever your issue or concern there is a place for you.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you a parent that has guilt or shame about how you parented or how you treated your child or children? Do you know that you are passing on generational patterns and trauma? Have you told yourself you would never do it yet you find yourself doing it? Do you have a strained or strange relationship with one of your children that you want to remedy? You want to have a connection with them but you are not sure how. Do you trust yourself enough to parent yourself in a way that can help you parent your child better, and your adult children who still need parenting?   Carrie’s Question: Carrie was a parent who inflicted trauma on her children. She would like guidance on how to repair their relationship.   Carrie’s Key Insights and Ahas: She was a single mother. Her children were teenagers when she made regrettable decisions. She acted in ways that made her children feel unsafe. Inconsistent behaviors were common while she was raising her children. She is a full-time traveler. Her children don’t acknowledge her as family. Her children’s father isn’t accessible. She feels shame about repeating the actions of her parents. She fears triggering her daughter when around her grandchildren. Her daughter doesn’t reach out to her. She doesn’t want to hear what her daughter may say to her. She fears confronting her anger.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Trust that it is time to remove her shame. Step into her mama bear and expect more from herself as a mother. Have a heart-to-heart conversation, apologize to her daughter, and listen and love her. Allow herself to feel her sadness. Do the Anger Release process.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This episode is about navigating a relationship with a new baby coming. Today’s caller, Cassie, is about to have a child but is uncertain about staying with the baby’s father. She would like guidance about how to feel supported emotionally and financially during this trying time.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode367]   It is difficult enough for women who are becoming new mothers but for them to not have support can be really challenging. But, on the other hand, couples who stay together for the children who are not in a healthy relationship don’t have kids that turn out any better than the kids whose parents got divorced. Kids pick up on unhealthy relationships when they are not aligned and may model their future relationships on them.   When a baby comes, it transforms and changes a relationship. The focus of attention is on the baby and not as much on the partners. That is why it is important to have clear agreements in place about parenting responsibilities before a child is born.   I’m excited about my upcoming Women’s Retreat which will be held in Austin from October 7‒9, 2022. Go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat to get more information about this life-changing opportunity. Whatever your issue or concern there is a place for you.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in a relationship and you don’t know whether to stay or go? Do you have children and you are concerned the relationship isn’t a fit and you don’t know if you should stay in it for the children? Do you feel your partner isn’t holding up their end of the agreement? financially, personal development, or any other way? Do you have clear agreements with your partner so each of you knows what you can expect and count on from each other to prevent expectation hangovers?   Cassie’s Question: Cassie is pregnant with her partner of 2-plus years. She is having some difficulty in her relationship and would like guidance on whether or not to leave the relationship.   Cassie’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is seven months pregnant. Her pregnancy has highlighted some of her fears about her relationship. She is unsure if her intuition is telling her to step away from the relationship. She is excited about becoming a mother. She and her partner have different values around money. She is confused about her next steps. Her partner wants to be in the relationship. Her partner recently left his career. She feels emotionally distressed from their disagreements. She wants her partner to monetarily provide for the family. She is not yet sure about what agreements she will need to clarify.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Get clear agreements from her partner about the upcoming parenting responsibilities. Consider how she can respond to his requests without anger or resentment. Recognize that she is a co-parent with her partner. Appeal to her partner’s heart about the parenting and healing opportunity. Pay attention to the things she appreciates and loves about her partner.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Christine shares five reminders that may come at the perfect time for you. If you are disappointed with something in your life, judging yourself, lacking in self-care,  don't feel like all the "work" you are doing is paying off, or just need some inspiration today - don't miss this episode!

This episode is a couple’s coaching session with the partners currently experiencing struggles in their relationship. Rory & Tyler have listened to their partner’s individual sessions and spoken with each other about what they heard. Christine discusses strategies and opportunities the couple can use to move their relationship forward.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode366]   Relationships are challenging. It is generally easy in the first year when there is infatuation and hormones but afterward comes the depth, transformation, and healing. In any relationship, struggles and doubts are normal and natural. It is important to uncover where the doubt is coming from. Does it come from red flags or deep intuition?   There is a difference between a relationship that has potential versus a relationship that has the key ingredients to go the difference. Love isn’t always enough for a relationship to go the distance and to be healthy. However, love plus a commitment to do the work independently and together can be the game-changer in a relationship.   Making loving requests is a great way to not build resentment in relationships. Requests from a loving place are much different than demands from a defensive or pissed-off place. People who come from a defensive or pissed-off place have difficulty getting their needs met.   Consider/Ask Yourself: When you hear your partner give feedback about you, can you hear it or do you get triggered immediately? Are you playing out little boy or girl behavior in your relationship that is a turn-off for your partner? Are you respecting and tending to the little boy or girl inside your partner? Are you willing to go the distance in your partnership by doing the work? Is your partner willing? Are you willing to be in a relationship where your partner isn’t doing the work? Can you make powerful, loving requests of your partner to get your needs met?   Rory & Tyler’s Question: After their separate coaching sessions, Rory & Tyler come together to work through their issues and discuss ways to move their relationship forward.   Rory & Tyler’s Key Insights and Ahas: Tyler wants to hold space for Rory to really see her. Rory wants to be her whole self and allow Tyler to be his whole self in the relationship. They both would like unclouded, infinite, real love. Tyler would like words of confirmation from Rory. Tyler finds it hard to release anger. Tyler feels triggered when Rory acts a certain way. Tyler needs to be inspired romantically. Rory loves Tyler for his support. Tyler loves Rory for her joviality.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Tyler, do emotional release work. Rory, explore her sensuality and sexuality. Get specific with each other about what they want. Work with a therapist together and separately. Tyler, when he is triggered to remind himself that Rory is not his mother. Use a simple codeword to help their partner recognize their triggers. Rory, inspire Tyler romantically.   Sponsor: Mind Doc App is an easy way to bolster your mental health and get constructive suggestions. Whether you are generally fine or struggling with something, you can answer a few questions in the Mind Doc app a few times a day and the app’s algorithm provides you with an overview of your mental wellbeing. Get 50% off a 6-month subscription to the app at https://minddoc.onelink.me/D1u6/qryj27lw, and use the code CHRISTINE50   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

After Nanci died on March 14, 1994, she returned to Nanci's life from the most extensive afterlife experience survived and recorded in order to tell anyone who would listen about what happened to her in the afterlife and what she remembers learning there about life, death, and the afterlife. Her afterlife experience gave her knowledge of spiritual tools we souls inside humans can access and she shares that knowledge with us.   Her new book, Create a New Reality—Move Beyond Law of Attraction Theory, introduces you to the incredible spiritual power of manifesting that we souls possess, and leads you step-by-step through how to create more opportunities to better your life, to replace old beliefs that hold you back from creating a happier life, and to heal yourself of physical and emotional wounds.   Learn more at http://nancidanison.com/

This episode is a couple’s coaching session with the female partner in the relationship. Today’s caller, Rory, finds herself at a crossroads after being in a three-year relationship with Tyler. She would like guidance on whether or not she can get her needs met in this relationship. During this session, Christine questions whether there are enough shared values for both of them to go the distance in a side-by-side partnership.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode365]   The length of a relationship does not determine its success. If a relationship doesn’t last, it is not a failure. Some of the most successful relationships have ended. Relationships are successful when you learn a lot or heal from them. Unfortunately, love isn’t enough in a relationship.   Physically, for men, attraction is very important. They like to feel attracted to their partner consistently over the long term. For a female to feel sexual and safe, she needs to feel like there is a commitment to consciousness, emotional vulnerability, and intimacy.   A couple needs shared values, vision, the right polarity, and an equal amount of willingness and commitment. A couple must want the same things in life to make a relationship work.   I’m happy to announce that my next Women’s Retreat will be held in Austin from October 7‒9, 2022. Go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat to get more information about this life-changing opportunity. There is still time to register!   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in any kind of relationship, be it friendship, romantic, or work where you feel you are giving more than you are getting? Did you grow up in a family where love was confused with validation? Did you only feel loved and seen when you accomplished something? Are you a female who has been accused of being too much in your masculine energy? Do you feel you have done a lot of work but your romantic partner isn’t doing their work? Do you think you will be willing and able to grow together as a couple?   Rory’s Question: Rory is at a crossroads with her partner and trying to figure out if the relationship has run its course.   Rory’s Key Insights and Ahas: She believes she operates in the masculine and her partner in the feminine. She believes things need structure and that a relationship needs work. She feels she does more than she receives. As a child, she only felt love when she accomplished something. Her relationship feels safe to her. She doesn’t feel taken care of in the relationship. She knows, logically, that Tyler loves her but her emotional needs aren’t being met. She has been a victim of sexual assault. She feels less than when she is being herself. She feels she is not supported when she makes decisions. They took a short break from the relationship. She would like Tyler to dive deep into the work needed in their relationship.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Look into the protective patterns that show up in her relationship. Be completely herself in the relationship. Ask for what she needs in a vulnerable way.   Sponsor: Caraway Cookware — I am a stickler for healthy food. I worked long and hard to make sure I have the least amount of toxins in my house. Caraway cookware is beautiful, easy to clean and use and it is non-toxic. Its naturally slick ceramic surface needs minimum oil or butter for the slide-off-the-pan eggs we all love. Go to CarawayHome.com/Overit to take advantage of a 10% off limited-time offer and use Overit at checkout.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In this episode I share my fertility and pregnancy journey.  My intention is to share information that may be helpful and inspiring. I've received a lot of questions about getting pregnant in my 40s and I've been hesitant to share since fertility is such a tender topic and I have deep compassion for anyone going through fertility or pregnancy challenges. Please know you are not doing anything wrong and there is nothing wrong with you. I hope this episode is helpful.

This episode is a couple’s coaching session with the male partner in the relationship. Today’s caller, Tyler, is in a relationship with an amazing woman. He says they are at a crossroads and would like guidance on whether or not to make her his life partner or if they are better served to let each other go. Christine uncovers a childhood wound that may be keeping him from experiencing true intimacy with his partner.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode364]   In a relationship, over time the attraction changes. It becomes more about intimacy and about exploring sexuality together. The initial infatuation attraction is easy. That is the low-hanging fruit attraction. Next-level relationships take intimacy, sexuality, and affection to another level. In a relationship, it is about exploring and going deeper with each other and not relying on the quick high.   The beginning of a relationship is almost always the easiest. We have hormones attracting us to each other and things are new and shiny. It is when we go deeper that intimacy blocks reveal themselves.   Remember, more often than not, things that come up in our relationships stem from things that we did not get in our childhood.   I’m happy to announce that my next Women’s Retreat will be held in Austin from October 7‒9, 2022. Go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat to get more information about this life-changing opportunity. The early-bird promo ends on Sept. 1, 2022. So register ASAP!   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you someone who loves romance, and the infatuation period in a relationship but after it wears off you find it gets hard? Do you feel that your needs are not being met or do you have a hard time communicating your needs? Do you have a mother or father wound and you think it may be impacting how you are showing up in a relationship? Are you questioning whether the relationship you are in is the one you should be in or whether it has an expiration date and it is time for you to move forward?   Tyler’s Question: Tyler is in a relationship and is looking for guidance on how to make strides toward making her a life partner or if they are better served to let each other go.   Tyler’s Key Insights and Ahas: His partner has some core traits he wants in a partner. He feels they are at a crossroads with some important decisions to make. Emotionally, he may be half-in and half-out. He is an overthinker. He may push her away because he senses her masculinity. His partner reminds him of his mother. They have been together for three years. He feels guilty about not showing up as the man he is capable of being. He doesn’t lead the relationship the way he feels he should. He is still trying to decide how to show up in the relationship. He loves his partner, Rory. He attracts “masculine” women. He has a mother wound because he feels resentful for feeling as if he was her caregiver in his childhood. A part of him may not know how to have intimacy with a woman. He fears being let down by a woman. He is tired of it being so hard to feel loved, desired, and cared for. He is craving deep intimacy with a woman. He wants to be more expressive in a relationship. He feels he needs to initiate sexual relations within the relationship.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Do emotional release work and grieve the relationship he never had with his mother, at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease. Don’t make a relationship decision right now. Be open and appreciate how his partner desires him. Find passion and purpose in other areas of his life besides romance. Practice intimacy with his partner.   Sponsor: Mind Doc App is an easy way to bolster your mental health and get constructive suggestions. Whether you are generally fine or struggling with something, you can answer a few questions in the Mind Doc app a few times a day and the app’s algorithm provides you with an overview of your mental wellbeing. Get 50% off a 6-month subscription to the app at https://minddoc.onelink.me/D1u6/qryj27lw, and use the code CHRISTINE50 Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

The human experience is a beautiful thing, even when it’s challenging. It is sacred when someone is vulnerable. Today’s caller, Toni, shares her vulnerability as she asks for guidance. She reveals that many of the decisions of her life come from a place of fear. Toni is confused about what security and love really are.    We talk about having a relationship with a higher power especially after she has gone through times in her life when she didn’t feel there was any kind of God. There IS some kind of higher power. There are so many names for it, so many ways people interpret it, but to me, it is infinite unconditional love. It may be hard to believe in any kind of God, when there is so much suffering in the world.    The best way I can attempt to understand all the horrible things that happen, is that they happen as a result of human choice and free will. While many human choices are still made from a place of pain and fear, we are in a time of awakening. We are in a massive shift in consciousness. What is available to us all, is to make the choice to see the world through spiritual eyes. See ourselves through more spiritual eyes, without judgment; to see through the eyes of infinite and unconditional love. To heal our own pain that is preventing us from feeling connected to a higher power.    We are moving into more acceptance, forgiveness and gratitude. If you are craving a deeper spiritual connection, please don’t wait for God to prove itself to you -- instead, open your heart, and pray to be shown the way. You are a spiritual being having a human experience. You are one. You are love. You are connected.      Consider/Ask Yourself:  ● Do you feel you are operating more out of fear than faith?  ● Are you making a lot of decisions with fear or self-doubt?  ● Are you a people pleaser, who is afraid of disappointing people?  ● Is connecting to a higher power challenging to you? If you do have a connection, would you like to deepen it?  ● Are there situations in your life that make you doubt whether a God exists?      Toni's Question: Toni feels all aspects of her life are affected by her making decisions from a place of fear. She would like to find a way to think more productively.    x Toni's Key Insights and Aha’s:  ● She fears failing and disappointing people.  ● Her self-worth is based on her people pleasing.  ● She’s confused about what security and love really are.  ● She hasn’t felt protected, or connected to her spirituality, since her father passed.  ● She feels like she would be clearer, if she had a spiritual connection.  ● She has been operating in survival mode.  ● She should know she is not broken.  ● She can change her relationship with herself, today.  ● She can focus on her blessings, not on her fears.      How to Get Over It and On With It:  ● She should realize she can access her spirituality.  ● She should start processing her pain, and remove judgment, to arrive at forgiveness and love.  ● She should put herself in an environment where she can heal.  ● She can start cultivating her relationship with God, by talking to him/her.     Assignments and Takeaways:    ● What is in your way of a connection to a higher power?  ● What is keeping you in patterns of people pleasing and indecision?  ● Do you have old trauma that needs to be processed?  ● What beliefs may be keeping you from having beliefs?  ● What religious upbringing did you have, which no longer resonates with you?  ● You need to find which truth resonates with you.  ● Look for a spiritual community of people who are committed to awakening, and who know we are all connected to source.  ● Start to develop a relationship with your higher power.  ● Pray. Pray for experiences, feelings, and pray to be shown the way.       Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book    Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler  @christinhassler on Twitter@christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Over It and On With It Initial Podcast

This episode is about speaking our needs in relationships and clearing out relationships that no longer serve us. Today’s caller, Josie, recently broke up with a long-term friend. She is feeling guilt around her decision. Christine reveals how friendships can be a beautiful teacher for us. We attract and draw in people in all different capacities and often friends that trigger us and reveal our issues. Yet, some friendships have expiration dates just like romantic relationships.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode363]   We don’t always think of friendships as a way to learn about our unresolved issues, particularly with our parents. Yet, we are always seeking to evolve and grow. Our subconscious is always at work trying to meet our needs. When we have unmet needs we look to people who seem familiar to the people who didn’t meet our needs in the first place.   If you have a friendship that is not working and draining you and you keep trying but it feels overwhelming, it is okay to end the friendship. It is better to end it and have a clearing and completion conversation than to make excuses and dread the person’s phone call or see them when you just don’t want to be their friend.   It takes up a lot of energetic space and it is not kind to the other person to pretend to be their friend. Complete any friendships that are not serving you or that you have grown out of. It is OK to move on.   I’m happy to announce that my next Women’s Retreat will be held in Austin from October 7‒9, 2022. Go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat or listen to my Coaches Corner with Jill to get more information about this life-changing opportunity. The early-bird registration promo ends on Sept. 1, 2022.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you recently have a breakup with a friend or are you in a friendship that may need a breakup? Do you have a friendship where you feel you can’t fully be yourself or maybe the friendship feels one-sided? Have you ever thought the friends you attract are based on childhood issues? Do you feel you audition in relationships?   Josie’s Question: Josie recently had a breakup with a life-long friend and she is doubting her decision.   Josie’s Key Insights and Ahas: She recently broke up with her life-long friend. She feels guilty about her decision to break up. But she feels a sense of relief. She let others drive relationships. She feels she auditions in her relationships. She feels she needs to put her needs aside to be noticed. She feels nervous telling others how she feels. She fears abandonment in her current relationship. She feels that if she is her true self she will lose her boyfriend. In many ways, she parented her father.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Do work around her father wound. Speak her needs in relationships. Let go of any relationships that no longer serve her.   Takeaways: Move on from friendships that you have grown out of or that no longer serve you.   Sponsor: Mind Doc App is an easy way to bolster your mental health and get constructive suggestions. Whether you are generally fine or struggling with something, you can answer a few questions in the Mind Doc app a few times a day and the app’s algorithm provides you with an overview of your mental wellbeing. Get 50% off a 6-month subscription to the app at https://minddoc.onelink.me/D1u6/qryj27lw, and use the code Christine50.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Collectively we are all going through a rebalancing of masculine and feminine energies, not only in what it means to be a man or a woman, but what it means to be human. We are just moving into rebalancing this energy so masculine and feminine energies can be in flow together. While women struggle to find their place in the masculine energy, men struggle to fit into more feminine things, such as being vulnerable or pursuing more creative endeavors that may feel less manly. This is not a time to be discouraged. We are all longing for belonging and connection. This episode is about questioning the old paradigms and rules. Today’s caller, Jake, thinks he is stuck, but from my point of view he is at a crossroads. Will he continue to let old programming and belief systems drive him, or will he make a commitment to move past the fear of old paradigms, and step into his full potential? During the call, I didn’t want to take Jake down the road of investigating his past, because he had already spent too much time analyzing the past and worrying about the future. Jake said he had an easy-going upbringing without a lot of drama or trauma. Often, feeling that degree of comfort as a child makes it harder to take risks as an adult, because we don’t have enough experiential evidence to recover from failure, risks, and things that scare us. We have to stop asking ourselves why, why, why. We don’t have to self-analyze ourselves to death. We need to be aware of the patterns and self-limiting beliefs, so we can shift them. We all need to step up into our full potential, and not allow outdated paradigms hold us back. Men, it is ok to be vulnerable, to talk about your doubts, and to admit to confusion about who you are, and how to find your purpose.   Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Are you a man, or with a man, who is questioning his career path or purpose? ● Is fear something that is stopping you? ● Do you relate to sabotaging yourself?   Jake 's Question: Jake feels drawn toward another career change. He wants to know how to get out of his own head to move forward.   Jake 's Key Insights and Aha’s: ● He is sabotaging himself. ● He has competing intentions. ● He has a propensity to not follow through. ● He battles with fear and low self-worth. ● He has time management issues. ● He has created motion toward what he wants by putting himself out there. ● He is afraid he won’t live up to his full potential.   How to Get Over It and On With It: ● He should invest in a coach. ● He should read The Way of the Superior Man, by David Deida, and other personal development books. ● He should work on shifting his belief system and get clear about what his vision is. ● Over the next 40 days, he should do 10 things that get him out of his comfort zone. ● He should make a schedule for himself and stick to it.   Assignments and Takeaways: ● Go out and engage in behavior which pulls you out of your comfort zone, to develop trust in yourself. ● Commit to rewiring your brain. Visit NeuroGym to learn more. ● Stop obsessing about what you think is a liability. ● Show up fully for yourself, be your own word. Make commitments and don’t break them. If you do break them, re-negotiate and start again.   Resources: Christine Hassler - Book a session to be on the show! Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com NeuroGym

This episode is about getting the love we deserve. Today’s caller, Rachel, is in an issue-based relationship with a partner who doesn’t make her a priority. An issue-based relationship is when unresolved issues bring two people together. These relationships tend to be stressful, on-again-off-again, and come with anxiety, but the physical attraction is often very strong. Whether or not you are in a relationship you will get some gems from this episode.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode362]   Do you want the love of your life to be someone who causes you anxiety, who doesn’t make compromises for you, or who doesn’t make you a priority? Don’t you want better? We all deserve better than that. The problem is we get the love we think we deserve, not the love we actually deserve.   Many of us find ourselves in a position where we know something isn’t good for us. We know we want, and deserve better, but we just can’t let it go. It’s a form of addiction. It’s codependency. It is having our unmet needs tickled just enough that we go back for more. But, it’s not love. It’s not a true connection or partnership.   Something that can trip us up and make us suffer way more than we need to is when we have a rose-colored glasses tint on the way we see things. Because, when we do, we are more in love with an ideal than we are with the reality of things.   When we experience a love that is not based on unresolved issues, it makes us glad we left the relationships that were based on our issues. Love that comes from a healthy place is amazing!   If someone isn’t going out of their way to make you a priority, it is a red flag.   I’m happy to announce that my next Women’s Retreat will be held in Austin from October 7‒9, 2022. Go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat or listen to my Coaches Corner with Jill to get more information about this life-changing opportunity. The early-bird registration promo ends on Sept. 1, 2022.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you with someone you call the love of your life but they are more of a teacher or trigger in your life? Are you aware your unresolved childhood issues and unmet needs could be influencing your relationship choices or the people you are attracted to? Are you good at speaking up for your needs in relationships? Do you feel you always fight to get your needs met but it never happens? Do you know you are in a relationship that isn’t good for you but you can’t seem to get out of it?   Rachel’s Question: Rachel has an on-again-off-again relationship with someone she considers the love of her life and would like guidance on.   Rachel’s Key Insights and Ahas: She looks outside of herself to find fulfillment. She believes her partner is the love of her life. Her partner doesn’t meet her needs. She and her partner have great chemistry. Her partner reminds her of her father. She lost her family and fears losing her partner. Her partner says he can’t handle her emotions. She is in an intense issue-based relationship. There are a lot of highs and lows in the relationship. Her threshold for love is based on her relationship with her father. She feels she is missing out on having a good life. She feels anxious and exhausted.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Let the relationship go to break her pattern. Grieve the relationship with her partner and her father wound. Work with a coach and get an accountability partner and ask for what she needs. Pull her inner mother forward. Remind herself that this is her inner child is trying to heal her father wound. Be compassionate with herself while she finds authentic self-love. Go to the ocean and perform an emotional release ritual. Refrain from calling her current partner the love of her life.   Takeaways: Awareness is not enough. Start making the changes necessary to transform.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

You are going to learn so much from this episode!! And get to listen to a live demo of Dr Schwartz doing parts work with me.  Richard Schwartz began his career as a family therapist and an academic at the University of Illinois at Chicago. There he discovered that family therapy alone did not achieve full symptom relief and in asking patients why, he learned that they were plagued by what they called “parts.” From these explorations with parts work, the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model was born in the early 1980s.   IFS is now evidence-based and has become a widely-used form of psychotherapy, particularly with trauma. It provides a non-pathologizing, optimistic, and empowering perspective and a practical and effective set of techniques for working with individuals, couples, families, and more recently, corporations and classrooms.   In 2013 Schwartz left the Chicago area and now lives in Brookline, MA where he is on the faculty of the Department of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School.

This episode is about releasing grief and confusion and allowing ourselves the time and space to heal. Today’s caller, Amy, is 25-plus years past when she decided to have an abortion and is triggered by everything going on with Roe vs. Wade. We talk about it as an example of how grief never really goes away. She would like guidance about how to move past her shame, guilt, and lingering grief. If you are someone who has chosen to have an abortion or had to, I hope you find comfort in this episode.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode361]   Sometimes we have to slow down to speed up as we may be triggering our trauma with too much personal development work. Too much good work can trigger trauma and we may be doing too much of a good thing. When we grow up in chaos, our nervous systems become overloaded and personal development work can trigger it.   Trauma is too much, too soon, too fast. When we work on ourselves too much it can trigger our trauma bell. Even though personal development is good, to our nervous system it feels like an overload and too much to process.   One of the biggest tips for healing trauma is when we are in any kind of overload, we take a pause and ask ourselves what we need at the moment. It can take practice. The better we get at it the more we start to be able to get out of the trigger. When we are conditioned at operating with a hyper-aroused nervous system, pausing and pacing ourselves is the key to healing.   I’m happy to announce that my next Women’s Retreat will be held in Austin from October 7‒9, 2022. Go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat or listen to my Coaches Corner with Jill to get more information about this life-changing opportunity.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you have an abortion at some point in your life and still carry around guilt and shame but are ready to let it go? Do you judge other women who have made a similar choice? Are you willing to let go of the judgment? Do you suffer from confusion and lack of clarity? Could you be doing too much personal development work? Is it working against you?   Amy’s Question: Amy would like some deep healing for her 16-year-old inner child who made a decision that she continues to guilt and shame herself for.   Amy’s Key Insights and Ahas: She completed the Inner Child Workshops 1 and 2. She had an abortion at 16. The recent Roe vs. Wade conversations trigger her. She was brought up in the Catholic religion. She wants to heal her inner child. The father of the child didn’t take responsibility. She feels as if she sinned and that God will punish her. She has never fully grieved her loss. She feels she has released the soul of the baby back to the universe. She has three children. She would like clarity about her journey.  She is passionate about life and confidence coaching. She feels unworthy of being a coach. She has integrity. She has beautiful things to offer people.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Make a date to do the empty chair process with herself and the soul of the baby then invite her 16-year-old self into the joys of motherhood. Take a pause when she feels overwhelmed or triggered. Give herself some space and not feel as if she has to process everything at once. Keep doing the work but not in a way that overwhelms her.   Takeaways: Slow down to speed up. Are you triggering your trauma with too much personal development work? Do you need to slow down and give yourself some space?   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you feel like you have a lot of awareness but things in your life are not changing…it may be time for some “experiential” work. In this episode Christine and Jill about what happens at Christine’s Signature Retreat to help you discern if it’s right for you. More info about the retreat here:  https://christinehassler.com/signatureretreat/

This episode is about standing up for yourself in a relationship. Today’s caller, Marc, feels a shift in his 20-year marriage. He is willing to work on the relationship but his wife is avoiding it. This episode is relatable to many people because we discuss why he doesn’t take a stand for himself and how it takes two people to make a relationship work.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode360]   Many midlife crises happen because people find themselves in a place where they can’t suppress anymore. Often, their kids are older, they are set in their careers, and their life is a bit more predictable, then all of a sudden they find it difficult to suppress what they feel they have missed out on.   When an individual feels they’ve sacrificed a lot of their life in parenthood or the like, a sense of selfishness or entitlement bubbles up and they go in the opposite direction of where they have been. And, a person who is more reactive and triggered shouldn’t be leading a relationship because they will lead the relationship to a dead end.   Sometimes our less obvious wounds are more impactful. A lot of time the person who holds the more feminine pole in a relationship often wants the masculine pole to lead, to come to us and let us know when things are off.   I’m happy to announce that my next Women’s Retreat will be held in Austin from October 7‒9, 2022. Go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat to get more information about this life-changing opportunity.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in a relationship and you feel you are pulling more of the weight and are doing more of the work but your partner isn’t? Are you unclear about where you stand in a relationship? Are you in limbo waiting for someone to tell you if the relationship is moving forward? Do you avoid standing up for yourself and what you want? Did you have a parent you couldn’t afford to lose so you tiptoed around them and the wound is impacting your adult relationships?    Marc’s Question: Marc noticed a shift in his 20-year marriage. He feels as if he is in limbo. He is asking for guidance on what his next steps should be.   Marc’s Key Insights and Ahas: He has been married for 20 years and has two teenage kids. He feels a shift in attitude from his wife. He is going to therapy but his wife isn’t. He is putting a lot of work into what steps to take next. He is not sure he wants to stay in the marriage. His wife may be premenopausal. He and his wife put the kids first over each other. His father abandoned his family when he was young. He doesn’t want to continue being in limbo. He has questions to ask his wife but is afraid of what the answers may be. His wife hasn’t been there for him during some difficult times. He recognizes he has some blind spots but thinks he has been a good husband. He feels unappreciated. His mother wound is affecting his relationship with his wife.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Realize he is a constant reminder of the things his wife isn’t facing. He deserves clarity from his wife. Stand up for himself and the marriage. Work with his inner child and let him know that he will be okay, no matter what happens.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Control is something we all struggle with. We think we have 100% control over life, but we don’t. We do have choices and dominion but we don’t have total control. Our egos like to have certainty and to have a plan, which is rooted in fear. It is scary not to know what is coming next. If we try to control every aspect of our lives, we often miss out on all the beautiful opportunities the universe has for us. Sometimes the opportunities come in the form of challenges, which are not to punish or test us but to help us grow. During these times it is important that we do not go into victim mode. It is also important that when we go through uncertainty we don’t try to immediately fill up that space with something new. Sometimes we just have to sit in the discomfort of uncertainty to see what it is there for to teach us. If we don’t deal with our Expectation Hangovers they will keep repeating and the same types of disappointments will keep coming up. It’s OK if you don’t have it all figured out. A quarter-life crisis is normal. It is the time when many of us step into our personal life journey. Challenges are what build our grit and character. I invite you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which includes meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. There are only 3 reservations left. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join any of my events or business programs. Subscribe in iTunes | Stitcher | SoundCloud | Android | Google Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you having a quarter-life crisis or an Expectation Hangover? Are things not going according to plan? Do you relate to living off a checklist? If things don’t get checked off are you hard on yourself? Is external achievement and validation important to you? Are there things you say you are surrendered about but you’re not? Are you still trying to make things happen or have you just resigned? Frankie’s Question: Frankie would like to know how to move into a place of acceptance about where she is in her life. Frankie’s Key Insights and Aha’s: She has a should list and a checklist in her head She has a deep strength within her Her identity comes from what she can achieve She is hard on herself more than she is compassionate Love for her is connected to validation and praise How to get over it and on with it: She should consider who she would be at 49 if her life had no struggles She can pray without asking for something Her self-talk needs to move towards love and acceptance She can delve deeper in her spiritual practice She should update her story about who she is supposed to be Assignments and Takeaways: Listen to my story in my very first Over It and On With It Process your emotions through release writing and the temper tantrum technique in Expectation Hangover. Do not pray for things but pray to be shown the way. Be nice to yourself. Ditch your checklist. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E–book Expectation Hangover 20 Something 20 Everything @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com

This episode is about making a big decision. Today’s caller, Catherine, is considering moving in with her boyfriend but isn’t sure whether or not she is ready. She would like guidance on how to make a big decision. We discuss how she can use the intuitive decision-making process to become clear about what she wants and the learning opportunities of relationships.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode359]   When we feel that we have to make every decision on our own, it can keep us from speaking our needs in relationships. To break the pattern of feeling like you have to do everything on your own requires speaking your needs and asking for help and support. In the masculine-feminine dynamic when we are doing things on our own, not in collaboration, we can lean a bit too much into our masculine energy.   It is important to stretch ourselves, but not stretch ourselves so much that we snap. If we want continued progress in our life we stretch ourselves just enough where we feel the stretch but we don’t snap.   An issue-based relationship is where the chemistry is really hot and heavy early on but what is really attracting the partners is unresolved issues. You may find yourself attracted to someone who is like your mother or father or who triggers your insecurities or biggest wounds. We tend to draw in relationships that have tons of red flags but the passion and chemistry keep us going back for more.   The learning opportunity of issue-based relationships is to heal the wound that attracts us to a person in the first place.   I’m happy to announce that my next Women’s Retreat will be held in Austin from October 7‒9, 2022. Go to ChristineHassler.com/signatureretreat to get more information about this life-changing opportunity.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there a big decision you are considering making? Do you want to make a change but you don’t know if it’s too extreme or a great challenge? Are you someone who likes to have certainty in your life? In a relationship, have you tried to change the other person rather than taking full responsibility for how you are showing up?   Catherine’s Question: Catherine would like guidance about her relationship and about whether or not she should move in with her partner.   Catherine’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has been dating her partner for five months. She is concerned about the stability of the relationship. Her intuition is nudging her to take an adventure. She and her partner live hours apart. The relationship has been a bit rocky. She changed her expectations of men after research. She is unsure about how to lean into her femininity. She is afraid to trust. There is a lot of change presenting itself to her. She is learning things during her decision-making process. She tends to make all-or-nothing decisions. She is looking to take responsibility for her part in the relationship. She is ready to receive love.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Do the intuitive decision-making process and listen to her body. Make agreements with her partner about how they will live together. Clean up her end of the relationship.   Sponsor: Cured — Would you like to feel plugged in without an extra cup of coffee or two? RISE is formulated by an in-house herbalist and is all about getting an extra boost of energy. To help you stay laser-focused on your goals and reduce your caffeine intake, RISE includes Lion’s Mane & Cordyceps mushrooms, ginseng, broad-spectrum CBD, and more. Go to Curednutrition.com/OVERIT and use the promo code OVERIT at check out for 20% off.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Do you exhibit a type of behavior or personality trait you don’t necessarily love about yourself? It could be moodiness or it could be being extremely judgmental or it could be an emotional state you have a tendency to default to like sadness, worry, anger or fear. Women often have a difficult time dealing with anger because we have not been encouraged to express it. We may default to sadness which limits us from reaching our passion and our fire. We suppress our emotions and any big emotion we suppress will eventually leak. Anger becomes irritability, sadness becomes depression and shame comes out as insecurity. Suppressed emotions can also lead to physical ailments. It is not healthy to suppress our emotions.    Today’s caller Monica acknowledges her own moodiness and is wondering if it is something she can change or if it’s a fixed personality trait. She suppresses her anger and doesn’t speak her truth. If there is something about you that does not feel good to you, like moodiness, you can change it. You just need to uncover why it’s there in the first place. Moodiness can be a messenger that you may be suppressing pent up anger and frustration. It is liberating to express your anger and be free of the moodiness. I invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities or to join me in Los Angeles in July for my signature retreat.      Consider/Ask Yourself:    ● Is there something about you that you would like to change? Is it an inherent part of your personality or do you believe you can change it? Are you willing to do the work to change it?    ● Do you experience times when you are irritable or snap at someone? How do you express your anger?    ● Do you feel self-expressed? Do you fully feel your feelings?      Monica’s Question:  Monica recognizes she is a moody person and would like to know if she is able to shift out of it or if it is part of her personality.      Monica’s Key Insights and Aha’s: ● Her moodiness stems from suppressing her anger     ● When she speaks her truth she feels shut down    ● She has trouble expressing herself     ● She doesn’t like conflict    ● She becomes the victim, as a coping strategy      How to get over it and on with it:  ● Realize her irritability and bluntness are actually inner anger leaking out  ● She should do the Temper Tantrum technique and 32 days of the Release Writing technique, which are in her copy of Expectation Hangover  ● She should step away from the conversation and get her anger out, on her own      Tools and Takeaways:  ● Identify the ways you may be leaking. Know where you are suppressing and how you may be expressing it in other ways.       ● If you sense you may have anger you have yet to acknowledge, start Release Writing.    ● Work through the emotional section of Expectation Hangover, in particular, the Adult Temper Tantrum and Release Writing techniques.    ● Speak your truth and process your raw feelings to eliminate suppression.       Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter@christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com

This episode is about understanding why we do the things we do and how to heal. Today’s caller, Donna, endured traumatic experiences as a child. She eats for comfort because she was not nurtured or prioritized as a child. People don’t start emotionally eating if they grew up in a family where they felt safe to express their emotions. We talk about two great actionable tools you can use if you struggle with emotional or binge eating, or not feeling like you have worth.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode358]   Every little child needs to feel nurtured and soothed when they have feelings. When we have a super-traumatized part of ourselves we need to figure out a way to flood the system with a sensory experience. Some people choose drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, and some choose food. Food offers a flood of sensory experiences so it helps to keep the trauma hidden.   It is amazing how much we judge ourselves for the challenges we have. We often don’t understand why it is not easy to change or do things differently when what we are doing is completely reasonable based on our trauma. It’s not that it is okay to use trauma as a scapegoat for the rest of our lives, however, we must acknowledge our story and understand that, of course, we are dealing with things the way we do.   We must have compassion for ourselves before we can change. No one has ever healed in the energy of judgment. No one has ever healed by beating the crap out of themselves. No one has ever healed believing they are still broken. We want to honor and acknowledge our past and understand that it makes sense that it is difficult or harder for us to change.   The only way to break out of the pattern of not feeling like we are a priority is to find the source, then perform the daily practice of looking in the mirror, being present with ourselves, and saying I love you.   The Inner Child workshop is a tool that helps us reconnect with our little one and facilitates healing. Find the recorded version of the Inner Child workshop here.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you grow up in a household where you could express your feelings or did you have to swallow your feelings? Do you struggle with binge or emotional eating? Do you use food to comfort or soothe? Is it hard for you to make yourself a priority? Are you there for everyone else but not there for yourself? Were you truly mothered?   Donna’s Question: Donna would like guidance on how to make herself a priority.   Donna’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has difficulty prioritizing herself because she never felt she was a priority. She uses food to manage her emotions. Her mother attempted suicide when she was young. She was physically abused at a daycare facility. She lost her brother when she was thirteen. She has very few conscious memories of her youth. Her memories have manifested as nightmares. She leaned on her sister to make her feel safe. She is searching for comfort. Food has been her mother in many ways. Her mother passed away last year. She missed out on nurture. She is a people-pleaser. She mothers herself by giving herself pep talks. She doesn’t nurture herself. Her mother never told her she loved her. She has everything she needs within. She is not broken.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Rephrase how she describes her eating for comfort. When she becomes aware she is eating for comfort, grab her cuddle bear and imagine herself as a child. Tell herself every day that she is loved.   Sponsor: Cured — Would you like to feel plugged in without an extra cup of coffee, or two? RISE is formulated by an in-house herbalist and is all about getting an extra boost of energy. To help you stay laser-focused on your goals and reduce your caffeine intake, RISE includes Lion’s Mane & Cordyceps mushrooms, ginseng, broad-spectrum CBD, and more. Go to Curednutrition.com/OVERIT and use the promo code OVERIT at check out for 20% off.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This episode is about asking for what you need in relationships. Today’s caller, Megan, feels overwhelmed when faced with too many choices and is afraid to be truly seen. She doesn’t want her pattern of uncertainty to sabotage her new relationship. Like in many coaching sessions, her initial question isn’t exactly what we focus on. This is for anyone who has trouble making decisions, doubts themselves, or is in sabotaging patterns. For empaths, love can feel overwhelming because we love so deeply. When we are in a relationship it can feel smothering and overwhelming. Instead of communicating that we need boundaries and space with love we are often afraid of confrontation or don’t want to make the other person upset. So, we unconsciously push them away by either judging them internally, nitpicking, or acting out in other ways. Empaths need to know what they need — especially at the beginning of the relationship. When you are first dating someone you need to be vocal and ask for what you need. Boundaries in a relationship and asking for what you need is important. That way you don’t have to build walls. You can have a door and that door can be open most of the time but sometimes you need to shut it and put on the do not disturb sign. The people in your life that love you will understand. It will allow them to spend time with themselves. When our heart is broken either through a breakup or the death of someone, we want to love again but we are scared because it feels risky. Fear of making the wrong decision will keep you from making the decision. Basically, fear complicates everything in your life. The more you can drop into love and your inner knowing and move out of the energy of fear the more clarity you will have in all aspects of your life. I am a proud sponsor of B-school which is an online training program for modern entrepreneurs taught by Marie Forleo. When you register through my link you will receive special bonuses from me. I include four group coaching calls of 90 min each, four custom meditations for entrepreneurs, access to my Facebook group, a one day retreat, plus free access to my master class for coaches. Go to ChristineHassler.com/bschool or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information. For free training videos from Marie go to ChristineHassler.com/training.  

This episode is about taking the action steps to get out of a toxic relationship. Today’s caller, Sara, grew up in a traumatic home and recently broke up from a severely toxic relationship. She has such a high tolerance for trauma and toxicity, she hesitates to take the logistical action steps needed to remove herself and her daughter from the toxic environment. It may be difficult to listen to but you will also hear her strength, heart, and resilience.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode357]   It can be hard to see how unhealthy a relationship is when we have a high tolerance for abusive behavior. When we are in situations that trigger trauma, it is tricky because oftentimes, there are action steps we need to take to change the real-world reality of things. We have to put our deeper healing aside for the moment and take immediate action.   It is hard to make rational decisions when we are emotionally triggered.   Allowing other people to tell us we are damaged or to tell us what our issues are is toxic behavior. We don’t need someone else to tell us that we are not healed or are broken. Whatever someone projects onto us is a reflection of their issues. This behavior is abusive and gaslighting. It is a massive red flag! Don't let them take your power away. No one has the authority to evaluate your wholeness or issues. If there is someone in your life who is doing that to you, RUN!   Coaches — When someone is in a breakup situation that involves legal stuff and needs protection, it is not the time to do deep somatic trauma work on their childhood. When someone doesn’t feel safe in their immediate situation their nervous system isn’t regulated, there is a fine line between guiding people towards their own answers and getting a strong feeling to give direct feedback. A coach’s job is to do a little bit of both.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you shoulda/coulda/woulding all over yourself? Is there something that happened in your past you wish could be different now? Are you beating yourself up with “What Ifs”? Did you have a traumatic childhood and are you repeating it in your adult life? Do you think you may be in a toxic or unhealthy relationship? Do you see yourself as broken or allow yourself to be told who you are?   Sara’s Question: Sara is going through a brutal breakup after three years together with an unhealthy, controlling person. She would like guidance on how to move forward in her life.   Sara’s Key Insights and Ahas: This is her first serious relationship. She believed her ex to be her forever relationship. They have a child together. She feels she brought toxicity into the relationship based on her past. Her ex is 20 years older than she is. Her ex is very controlling and expects perfection. She had mental breakdowns during the relationship. She doesn’t have much support because maintains distance from her family. She doesn’t have a history of mental breakdowns. She had postpartum depression. There is gaslighting and narcissism in the relationship. She has lost herself in this relationship. She feels stuck and doesn’t have many resources at her disposal. She has wounds that create low-self worth. She allows other people to degrade her. She had spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical abuse in her childhood. She has PTSD when it comes to transitions. She feels like a hopeless prisoner in her relationship. She has an opportunity to live with a friend.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Change the way she sees the breakup to consider it a relief that she is getting out of a toxic relationship. Acknowledge her strength and know she is not broken. Realize there is nothing she could have done to change the situation. Stop wasting time ruminating over what could be and start thinking about what she will do for herself and her baby. Reach out to her friend for logistical support. Play offensively, take charge, and have her boundaries up. Continue to work with a therapist and advocates who can help her make sound decisions when she is emotionally triggered.   Sponsor: Cured — Would you like to feel plugged in without an extra cup of coffee, or two? RISE is formulated by an in-house herbalist and is all about getting an extra boost of energy. To help you stay laser-focused on your goals and reduce your caffeine intake, RISE includes Lion’s Mane & Cordyceps mushrooms, ginseng, broad-spectrum CBD, and more. Go to Curednutrition.com/OVERIT and use the promo code OVERIT at check out for 20% off.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This episode is about never feeling good enough and always looking for what could go wrong. Today’s caller, Dana, didn’t have her needs met as a child and built a protective pattern to help her cope with her abandonment wound. We work through ways to calm her nervous system and feel safe when asking for what she needs.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode356]   Whether or not you grew up in a house where you felt like your needs were not met, all of us can relate to feeling not good enough, or the feeling that things in our lives are not good enough. Or, we can be either incredibly critical of ourselves or other people. We get ourselves into a vicious cycle.   When we have unmet needs, especially if we were raised in a way where we couldn’t have an outburst, had to be the good kid, or had to keep it together, it caused us to keep stuff inside. Those of us who had to withhold a lot as children can be mean to people internally but when it comes to saying something externally, we cower.   When we have awareness about one of our protective patterns, we don’t want to expect that we are immediately going to change it. That would just set us up for an Expectation Hangover and offer us more opportunities to beat ourselves up.   The purpose of personal development is not an overnight transformation. As evolving human beings, personal transformation is more about gaining awareness. We can spot the patterns we fall into and then work with ourselves while we are in the pattern.   True transformation comes when we find ourselves in the trigger, habit, or reaction and we become aware we are in it then, we choose differently.   My next Women’s Retreat will be held in Austin on October 7‒9, 2022. I will post the website and open enrollment soon!   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have the feeling of never feeling good enough? Do you constantly look for what is wrong in a situation, or what could go wrong, and have a hard time finding peace and joy in what is? Did you grow up in a house where your needs were not met and you have a hard time communicating your needs now? Do you have a hard time being present and slowing down? Are you always thinking of what you have to do next?   Dana’s Question: Dana would like to understand why no matter what she does or achieves it never feels enough.   Dana’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is an achiever and is viewed as blessed. She finds fault with her husband in almost everything he does. She is always thinking about what comes next. She has an abandonment wound from her alcoholic father. Her mother was very young and always working. She over-achieves as a protective pattern. As a child, she always wanted to be accepted, heard, and understood. She looks for what is wrong so she can prepare for it. She has never had her needs met and is a bit angry because of it. She is afraid to trust the good things in her life. She is waiting for her partner to disappoint her. There is an intimacy-affection need that is not being met in her relationship. She needs a strong circle of friends around her. She doesn’t feel worthy of friendship and connectedness. She craves intimacy. She doesn’t know how to celebrate success. She holds a lot of tension and is often on edge.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Work with her protective pattern and know it is safe to trust the good in her life. Practice opening her heart and being less judgmental of herself. Focus on contentment and allow herself a moment to relax and feel relief in the moment. Breathe love into her heart and belly and tell herself she is safe. Bring conscious awareness to what she needs.   Sponsor: Cured — If you feel anxiety or that it is hard to go to sleep, you may want to give Zen a try. Zen is formulated by an in-house herbalist and is all about being calm and relaxed. To help you sleep and regulate your nervous system, Zen includes Reishi mushrooms, magnesium, CBD, and more. Go to Curednutrition.com/OVERIT and use the promo code OVERIT at check out for 20% off.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

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This episode is about opening our hearts by diving deep into our grief. Today’s caller, Sarah, lost her father unexpectedly. It was not the way she planned to go through the transition. She is moving through grief and feels resistance to grief. We talk about how she can receive more support and know that she doesn’t have to do it on her own.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode355]   The reality that our parents will die is something we all know. But, as it gets closer it is difficult to deal with. Whenever we have a looming feeling that something is close, we grasp onto anything that makes us feel like we have some sense of control.   We all have our coping strategies to bypass our feelings. Going into our feelings can make us feel out of control. How do we feel more in control? We control. This is a strategy that is rewarded because when we control things we are seen as productive, and efficient. But we don’t give ourselves the grace to fall apart and we need to fall apart sometimes. Often, it is in the falling apart that we crack our heart open to fully grieve and truly feel what we need to feel so we are not suppressing, which causes disease within our body and spirit.   The more we don’t allow ourselves to fall into the sea of grief, the more we are treading water, it seems like we are functioning; there is always a low-level suppression so, over time, it does impact us.   When we have a way to swim through the sea of grief and we have markers, it doesn’t feel as daunting.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Did something happen that didn’t go the way you planned and you’re having a hard time accepting it? Have you recently lost a parent or someone close to you or are you anticipating the loss of a parent soon? Do you attempt to control, plan, and strategize things when you feel helpless or that you don't know what to do? Are you afraid of grief because you think it is a pit you will fall into and never be able to get out?   Sarah’s Question: Sarah is experiencing grief because her father passed somewhat unexpectedly but is not allowing herself to fully feel it.   Sarah’s Key Insights and Ahas: She prepared for her father’s passing for years. She feels he was ripped away from her. Control is a coping strategy for her. Her father never wanted to be a burden. She didn’t want her father to suffer. She blames herself when she doesn’t get the results she wants.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Release her need for control. Honor the love she felt for her father by fully allowing herself to grieve. Tell people she needs time to grieve and be open to their support. When she drops into grief, play the song she and her father connected with.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Dr. Judith Orloff is a New York Times bestselling author, psychiatrist and is on the UCLA psychiatric clinical faculty. Dr. Orloff specializes in treating empaths and sensitive people in her Los Angeles based private practice. Judith Orloff MD asserts that we are keepers of an innate intuitive intelligence so perceptive that it can tell us how to heal — and prevent — illness. Yet intuition and spirituality are the very aspects of our wisdom usually disenfranchised from traditional health care. Dr. Orloff’s latest book “The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People” (Sounds True, 2017) is an invaluable resource to help sensitive people of all kinds develop healthy coping mechanisms in our high-stimulus world without experiencing compassion fatigue or burnout. Empaths can then fully embody their gifts of intuition, creativity, and compassion. Dr. Orloff’s work has been featured all over the world in various media outlets.  You can learn more about at www.drjudithorloff.com.

This episode is about how to get over heartbreak and open ourselves up to love again. Today’s caller, Gabriella, went through a recent breakup and wants guidance on how she can trust herself to not have her heart broken again. We never want to enter any situation hoping that what happened in the past doesn’t happen again. We discuss ways she can release her fears and open up to love to have a tender experience.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode354]   When we have a heartbreak, we tend to look at how we can prevent it in the future, but that is a limiting way to look at it. Instead, we can consider how we can leverage the heartbreak and heartache to open our hearts up even more.   After a breakup, ask yourself proactive questions such as:   What did you learn from the relationship? Who do you want to be, in a relationship? What do you need in a relationship? What are the red flags you may have overlooked?  How did you show up in the relationship that you don't want to duplicate?  What values do you have?   We learn to trust ourselves by taking care of ourselves. If you feel you need an extra layer of support so you don’t fall into the same hole twice, allow yourself a misstep or two. If trusting yourself is hard, take steps to make it easier. Take baby steps.   If you are nervous about making the same mistake twice or opening your heart again, think about the action steps you need to put in place so that you feel safer. When it comes to love, it is risky sometimes. We cannot prevent getting hurt. Love is tender but the risk is worth it. The reward of opening your heart and finding an aligned partnership or friendship is worth any risk.   If you feel that something is missing in your life you may be focusing too much on what’s missing and not paying enough attention or gratitude to what you have.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you going through a breakup or maybe haven’t gotten over one from your past? Do you not trust yourself when it comes to making the right decision when it comes to your next relationship? Are you romanticizing your past relationship or are you a hopeless romantic? What do you believe the purpose of a romantic relationship is?   Gabriella’s Question: Gabriella would like guidance on how to listen to her intuition, trust herself, and keep her heart open to a new relationship.   Gabriella’s Key Insights and Ahas: She was in an intense relationship that ended recently. She believed her past partner was THE one. She is afraid of future heartbreak. She was blindsided and deeply hurt. She is in the beginning stages of her life. She became more self-aware and grew because of the breakup. She is a bit of a hopeless romantic. She had an inner child abandonment wound. She does inner child work and it helps. She is aware of her anxious attachment style. She doesn’t trust herself completely. She fears leaving people behind as she grows. She took some months away from dating. She loves being in love and partnership. She is in the middle of a career change. The ending of the relationship has been a catalyst for her breakthroughs. She understands that she is not in control and to go into new things with an open heart and open eyes.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Write a letter, something tangible, to herself about her red flags and share it with someone she trusts and ask them to hold her accountable. Make dating a discovery process about herself and the other person. Be grateful for the experience, do the healing, and move forward.   Takeaways: If you are going through a breakup or transition, consider the questions you are asking yourself and challenge yourself. Are they productive questions? Are they getting you anywhere? If you relate to being a hopeless romantic, take off your rose-colored glasses. Redefine what your definition of romance is. Remember, we may outgrow certain people. But it opens us up to meet people who are more aligned and more in the right vibration. Write out a plan of all the things you learned and the red flags you ignored.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

The heart of this coaching session is about self-compassion. Steve has been in his masculine and repressing his pain for much of his life. Another level of his pain is surfacing and that’s because his unconscious knows he is ready to deal with it. If you are at a point in your life where you feel like you have done a lot of personal growth work but pain is resurfacing in your life you do not want to miss this episode. It takes a lot of energy to repress pain. And, that’s why it feels hard to move forward in our lives, it feels hard to get a career off the ground, or to connect in relationships because we are unconsciously suppressing a lot of pain. Pain wants to come up and out. Our bodies don’t want to hold terrible memories or trauma inside. Our unconscious mind wants to let it go. So, it continues to make us feel uncomfortable until we deal with it. Not just mentally, but emotionally as well. It may be difficult to go back and to feel the pain of your childhood but you are feeling it anyway, 24/7 — it is just repressed. It is healthier to go into it and feel it fully with self-compassion so it can come up and out. When pain doesn’t have a way to express with compassion, it sits inside you dormant and continues to drive your choices and behaviors. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you have hit a point where things were going well but old stuff started to come up? If you are a man, do you have difficulty feeling vulnerable? Do you judge it as weakness? Is vulnerability awkward for you? Maybe, it’s OK for others to be vulnerable but it’s hard for you? Do you trust yourself? Do you trust your decisions? Do you feel safe with your pain? Do you find yourself jumping to forgiveness too quickly? Are you able to mentally understand and justify things that have happened in your life but you notice the pain is still there? Steve’s Question: Steve is struggling with worrying about what other people think of him for what he believes to be the first time in his life. Steve’s Key Insights and Ahas: He’s always had to prove himself. He has tried to be different his entire life. He joined a gang as a teenager. He hasn’t forgiven himself for betraying himself. His experience built loyalty. He is able to relate to many different types of people. He has a warrior spirit. His girlfriend was murdered. He didn’t have a relationship with his father. He is in the process of up-leveling. He wants to eliminate his pain completely. How to Get Over It and On With It: He needs to quit judging himself and create a space to be vulnerable. He needs to trust himself more. He needs to spend time feeling his feelings. He needs to do the emotional section of Expectation Hangover. He should write down what being a loving father to himself looks like. Sponsors: Express — No time for an outfit change after work? Express rewrites the rules of dressing for a job, with style by delivering fashion-forward essentials to your door. Express has pants, work tops, dresses, and more. Listeners to Over It and On With It will receive $25 off when you spend $100 by using the code ‘Christine’ at checkout. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Watch Christine Hassler on YouTube — Hit Subscribe! Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.

This episode is about understanding why we have uncertainty when making decisions. Today’s caller, Kathy, wants to know how to make a decision about something important to her. She is hesitating and feels that it has been a pattern throughout her life. We discuss what in her past may have caused her hesitancy and how to clear the blocks she has around making decisions.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode353]   When we feel we don't know what to do, or we don’t feel like making a decision at the moment, it actually is a decision. Oftentimes, we beat ourselves up when we feel we should decide something and we become frustrated that we can’t decide. Our pause, and the not knowing, is the window of time we need to get clarity.   Many of us agonize over making a decision about whether it will be right or wrong. We may feel panic when a certain subject comes up. And, when panic comes up, it is often because of that unspoken fear.   But, whenever we have trouble making decisions it usually means we don’t trust our inner wisdom. If we trusted ourselves fully, we wouldn’t agonize over the decision-making process. Everyone to some degree agonizes over decisions from time to time, especially big decisions.   It may be that we resist making a decision about marriage and/or children because our family of origin wounds are still raw. Our inner child may not be ready to get into that trauma again. We may think it is our present-day self that is feeling the resistance or lack of excitement, but it is our inner child that is feeling it.   If your head is making your decisions, you will make decisions from a place of fear. If you make decisions from the heart, it is the heart’s job to make decisions from love. The head keeps us safe. But when we play it too safe, we block love and we don’t get to see what is possible.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there a conversation, question, or thought that brings up panic or anxiety for you? Do you want something in your life but are scared of it? As a child, did you have a lot of opportunities to make decisions, or were your decisions made for you? Were you sheltered or protected? Do you trust yourself to make a choice and to deal with the consequences?   Kathy’s Question: Kathy feels she may be making some decisions out of fear and would like guidance about how to trust in her decision-making process.   Kathy’s Key Insights and Ahas: When conversations concerning marriage and children come about she is resisting talking about them.  She doesn’t trust her decision-making process. She was sheltered as a child. She didn’t have to work through big issues. She may have a rigid personality pattern. She has made decisions on a whim. She has a fierce inner critic. She is worried about making the wrong decision. Her parents respected and loved each other. She is clear that she wants a family. She and her partner come from different backgrounds. She worries about the compromises she may have to make in the future. She fears her partner is not being honest about where he wants to live. She may be withholding information from her partner about how she feels.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Listen to the Coaches Corner with Steven Kessler about the Five Personality Patterns. Turn her concerns into curiosity. Be okay with not knowing what to do. Speak with her partner about her true feelings. Don’t focus on what may go wrong when she makes a decision. Let her head and heart work together. Open your heart to possibilities.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This episode is about being your authentic self and speaking your truth. I coach today’s caller, Judy, through her feelings of isolation, and empower her to have an honest conversation with her husband, and herself, about her needs. Loneliness is an epidemic, especially in this day and age when so many of us live alone. We are not close to our family geographically, or we don’t have a soul family or community to be a part of. We need a healing connection. We need to feel part of something, part of a tribe. We need to feel connected to ourselves. What often perpetuates a feeling of loneliness is a disconnection to ourselves that comes from judging ourselves and being hard on ourselves. If you suffer from loneliness or a lack of self-esteem you are not alone. Let the fact that you are not alone motivate you to gain confidence and to connect with a community. Speaking your truth is when you say what’s true for you, and you are able to communicate your needs. When are you not speaking your truth? Many of us think people pleasing is a way to get love and find validation. We think if people see the real us, they may not like us. The more you show the real you, and the more authentic you are, your relationship with yourself will improve, your self-esteem will improve, and the intimacy and connection you have with other people will also improve. It’s great to make other people happy but it’s more important to please ourselves first, by making self-honoring choices. People pleasing could be the reason you are feeling isolated. On some level, people pleasing is draining. Drop the people pleasing, up your self-esteem by making self-honoring choices and get out there and find your tribe!   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel isolated? Are you craving more connection? Are you in a marriage or relationship where you feel isolated? Do you feel like you are dependent on your partner or you are living according to their dreams and desires more than your own? Are you a people pleaser? Do you have a hard time making your needs a priority? Do you find it challenging to speak your truth? Judy’s Question: Judy wants to know how to find herself and how to raise her self-esteem. Judy’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has been continuously moving for a year. Her husband tries to support her but he doesn’t really get it. Her husband has a stronger personality than she does. She’s dependent on her husband and doesn’t go places on her own. She always puts other people first. She has a hard time saying no. She takes care of people, hoping it will help to build intimacy. How to Get Over It and On With It: She should be honest and vulnerable with her husband about her feelings. She should speak up when she feels she wants to say something. She should lean more into authenticity and less into people pleasing. She should spend some time on her own engaging with other people. Takeaways: If you are in a relationship with the opposite sex, and would like to improve your masculine/feminine communication dynamics, consider studying the subject more. If you are feeling isolated, start with a goal of talking to five new people every day, and then build on that number. Start getting yourself out there and finding your tribe. Speak your truth authentically. If you have trouble doing it, join the Inner Circle community. Authenticity is this month’s area of focus. Communicate your needs to the most important people in your life. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Inner Circle Membership Community @ChristinHassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Jill@ChristineHassler.com Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love, and Life, by Christine Hassler The Queen’s Code, by Alison A. Armstrong Understand Men PAX Program by Alison Armstrong David Deida

This episode is about embodying the personal development work we do. Today’s caller, Dominique, would like to have a relationship with her sister. There is a lot of family history and many things have happened between them. She wants a closer relationship but her sister is not doing the work. We discuss ways she can not take things personally and how she can be the change she wants to see.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode352]   When we are learning about ourselves and digging up old wounds, going back to the source is intense. Everything can feel amplified and we tend to be more sensitive to triggers, especially around our family. Personal development is not an overnight process and we need to look at triggers as opportunities for growth.   When we constantly want people to be different, we are constantly disappointed and triggered. We waste time and energy that we could be spending doing our own work. We create the possibility of people being different when we are different. When we are the change we want to see. It is the best advertisement for anyone to want a different relationship with us.   When we say yes to being any kind of facilitator, coach, or therapist any time we work with people’s emotions and their past, all of our stuff comes forward. We have to show up in a way that is embodied to help others. You can read all the books and read all the theories but until you do the work and embody it, how are you going to help people?   Mark October 7‒9, 2022 on your calendar as I am called to facilitate another Women’s Signature Retreat! It will be in Austin, Texas. More details to follow.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in a dynamic where you want a more vulnerable, deeper connection but the other person isn’t? Do you continue to be triggered in certain family situations or a relationship dynamic? Does someone make you feel rejected, judged, or dismissed? Are you doing the work and feel as if you had made progress but then, when with your family, you get triggered?   Dominique’s Question: Dominique gets triggered by her sister. She would like to share a deeper connection with her but is not sure how to get there.   Dominique’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is in grad school to become a therapist. She has faced her childhood trauma and the toxic dynamic within her family. She has been a people-pleaser. She had a psychological and spiritual awakening. She is the middle child in an immigrant family. Her younger sister patronizes her and disrespects her. She craves attention and love from her sister. She has more awareness than her sister. Her inner child gets defensive and she retreats inside herself.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Accept that her sister’s soul may not be ready to do the deep work. Do not take her sister’s actions personally and honor her boundaries. Ask her sister for clarity about the things she says while maintaining a high vibration. Set an intention to find her soul sisters. Let her sister see her be loving and embodying the change she would like to see. Be gentle with herself during this process. Perform a ritual to ground herself before meeting with her family. Remove expectations of herself and others and accept where everyone is.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

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This episode is about taking the pressure off of a decision. Today’s callers, Demi and James, have different religions but both value faith. They have both drawn in someone who challenges their rigidity in their belief systems. They would like guidance on whether or not their differences can be overcome. We work through that it is possible to understand another person’s belief system without making it wrong and that we can believe different things and still love each other.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode351]   The purpose of a relationship isn’t to get married at a certain time or to have a certain number of kids. Remember, everything in life is for our growth and evolution and to move us out of judgment and fear and more into love.   In relationships, we are not always going to agree. It’s important that we have differences in relationships because we don’t want to marry ourselves. But, our differences can’t be extreme. We can differ in personality and preferences. For example, we don't have to be compatible in terms of liking the same music but we do need to have the same values.   We can believe different things but we can still love each other. If you zoom out of all the guidelines and beliefs of all religions, what it all comes down to is love. Whatever God or religion you believe in, it is about love.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you ever been or are you in a situation where you may have to compromise about a value that is important to you? Have you ever broken up or not dated someone because they don’t subscribe to the same political ideology or they are not of the same religion? Or, have you written someone off because you consider those things a dealbreaker? Are you in a relationship where you had potential deal breakers but you’ve found your way through or are you in a relationship now where you wonder if something is a dealbreaker?   Demi and James’s Question: Demi and James have different religious beliefs and would like to know if it will become an issue that cannot be overcome.   Demi and James’s Key Insights and Ahas: They are taking a break from their relationship. They are willing to do whatever it takes to overcome the differences. James questions his beliefs. James is finding it difficult to overcome the religious differences. They get stuck when it comes to how to raise their children. Demi believes being Jewish is not something you can walk away from. There are some aspects of Christianity that seem unhealthy to Demi. Demi admires James for his faith. James is hurt because he feels as if his Christian identity is the enemy. This is the best relationship Demi has ever been in. They have a hard time defining boundaries. They have mutual respect. Demi is afraid to wait for a year because of her age.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Look at the relationship through the eyes of love. Date for a year to figure out how they work as a couple without deciding whether or not the relationship is long-term. If they do work after a year, seek out a counselor who specializes in blended faiths. Talk about their values and dreams they can get excited about together.   Takeaway: If you are trying to make a big decision about something, where are you putting too much pressure on yourself? Maybe it’s not time to make a decision.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you ever struggle with anxiety, worry or even depression, do NOT miss this episode.  One of the leading voices in personal development and transformation and an international bestselling author Mel Robbins joins Christine and gives a TON of soothing and practical advice for creating more calm in your life. Mel's work includes the global phenomenon The 5 Second Rule, the upcoming The High 5 Habit, four #1 bestselling audiobooks, the #1 podcast on Audible, as well as signature online courses that have changed the lives of more than half a million students worldwide.  Her groundbreaking work on behavior change has been translated into 36 languages and is used by healthcare professionals, veterans’ organizations, and the world’s leading brands to inspire people to be more confident, effective, and fulfilled. As one of the most widely booked and followed public speakers in the world, Mel coaches more than 60 million people online every month and videos featuring her work have more than a billion views online, including her TEDx talk, which is one of the most popular of all time. There’s nothing Mel loves more than making a real difference in people’s lives by teaching them to believe in themselves and inspiring them to take the actions that will change their lives. Mel lives in New England with her husband of 25 years and their three kids, but she is and will always be a Midwesterner at heart.

This episode is about step-parenting from a healed place. Today’s caller, Kendra, has two step-children who are triggering her anxiety. She then feels guilt and shame about being angry. We work through her past issues that are coming up to be healed and how she can navigate the situation in a way that is beneficial to her and her step-children.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode350]   Anxiety is not bad. It is an alarm system that is alerting us to something we are not paying attention to. There is something we are repressing or that needs our awareness. The energy of anxiety is frenetic energy. It is when the nervous system is hyper-aroused due to a trauma, a past memory is being activated or, we are repressing such big emotions our nervous system is overloaded. When that happens we likely go into fight, flight, or freeze.   When we are in survival brain, all the personal development tools we've learned aren't accessible. So, don't beat yourself up if you have done a lot of work but still get triggered in the moment or your nervous system is dysregulated; you are in a part of your brain that doesn't have access to those tools.   And, just like our children choose us or we have soul contracts with certain people when we are a step-parent, those children choose us on some level as well. There are so many challenges that can come with blended families. In a divorce, there is often so much guilt that a parent may collapse some of their parental boundaries and let the kids get away with more than they would normally.   Would you like to work to heal your inner child? Our Inner Child workshop was taught live but now you can get access to the recording. It includes coaching and experiential meditations. Go through it at your own pace, at any time. Go to ChristineHassler.com/innerchild at checkout and use the promo code 'OVERIT' for $50 off.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you notice yourself being triggered by your children or step-children and then feel guilt or shame about it? Do you have anxiety that has gotten worse due to a situation? When you were growing up, what were your tween and early teenage years like? Was it a difficult time? Do you think you have dealt with it? Do you often have anger or frustration at your spouse because of the way they are parenting?   Kendra’s Question: Kendra would like guidance on how to have connection and a relationship with her step-children while paying attention to the anxiety that triggers her.   Kendra’s Key Insights and Ahas: Her partner has two children from a previous marriage. They have 50% custody of the children. The situation affects her life and has always caused her anxiety. She has struggled with anxiety in other areas of her life. Her step-children bring high energy into their house. Her adolescence was confusing for her. She was raised in a traditional Christian home. She was made to feel as a female she should dim her light. She realizes the universe brought male step-children into her life for a reason. She lost her example of unconditional love when she was starting puberty. During adolescence, she didn’t have the same freedoms that boys in her life had. She feels anger and resentment toward her step-children and then feels guilty for it. She is angry at her husband for letting his kids treat him like they do. She has trust issues around men.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Express her thoughts and feelings. Regulate her breath and bring herself into the present moment. Call her husband forward to enforce parental boundaries. Teach the kids to release their emotions and to have an anger burn. Know it is OK to get away from the house, or situation if she needs to.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Let’s talk about finding the “one”. You know the magical person who is your soulmate, your other half, the one who completes you. I say these things with a tinge of sarcasm but I don’t inject the sarcasm because I am jaded or don’t believe in love, it’s there because of the misunderstandings regarding soulmates and the pain many of us go through when it comes to romantic relationships. I believe there are lots of “ones” out there for us. My definition of a soulmate is someone who helps our soul to grow. Sometimes it’s through a gut-wrenching break-up, sometimes it’s through dating someone who triggers us and sometimes it’s through someone who just comes in, loves us and holds up a beautiful mirror to  remind us of who we truly are.  Soulmates can be romantic partners, friends, colleagues and even someone you share a plane ride with once and never see again.   So, why are many romantic relationships so painful? 1. The relationships are mirrors which can trigger unresolved issues from our childhood. 2. We often look to a romantic partner to fill our needs that our parents did not meet. This doesn’t attract the best people to us. 3. We may want a relationship so badly to fill our voids or make us feel less alone that we move into a fantasy-based relationship.   Today’s call with Michael is a beautiful example of masculine vulnerability and strength. He finds himself dating from a place of pain rather than from love. He wants to move past the feeling that he needs to prove himself to women. Michael’s mother wasn’t really there for him and so he ends up with women who don’t treat him well and who are not really there for him. This is the problem with trying to fill a void left by a parent through dating. We long so badly for the love of a parent that we attract someone just like them, which re-opens our unhealed wounds. We have to bring love and forgiveness to those places inside and fill ourselves with our own loving acceptance. It’s time to let go of our fears about rejection, abandonment and getting hurt.  I have a free gift for all of my podcast listeners. Here is how to receive my free ebook and meditation downloads. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you longing for a soulmate so much that it is causing you to suffer? Do you keep dating the same person but they have a different face? Could issues from your childhood influence who and how you are dating? Are you in a fantasy based relationship? Could it be time to remove your rose-colored glasses?   Michael's Question: Michael wants to know how to move past the pain of a previous relationship and how to know when the person he is dating is the right one.   Michael's Key Insights and Aha’s: He is trying to heal a core wound from his childhood through a romantic relationship He is putting a lot of pressure on the women he dates He realizes he keeps running back to fix past relationships He carries fear and his unanswered questions around with him He feels unworthy and feels he needs to prove himself to women His strength is in his vulnerability, his honesty and his courage   How to get over it and on with it: He should forgive the misunderstanding that he is unlovable or anything in his past was his fault He needs to re-parent his younger self in a way he always longed for  He needs to take a dating hiatus  Assignments and Takeaways: Is there a little boy or girl inside of you that has some misunderstandings which really need to be healed? Could it be time to end or transform your fantasy-based or issue-based relationship? Perhaps it’s time for a dating hiatus and taking some time to date yourself.    Fall back in love with yourself and realize just how lovable you are.    Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com

This emotional episode is a great example of getting stuck in our story. Today’s caller, Aurora, has had to overcome an incredible past. She has been through many challenges, and feels enough is enough. She wants her life to change. But as you will hear, she is still committed to the story. We discuss ways she can take her power back and shift out of victim.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode349]   Our minds have a way of not allowing new information or tools in so we can integrate them. There is resistance to change because we all have a comfort zone with our suffering. As much as we think we want to change, do we truly want to? Holding on to trauma comforts us because it is familiar.   And, if we try to tackle all of our trauma at once or solve everything that ails us at once, it will feel overwhelming. When we sit up in an open body position it tells our subconscious mind and our nervous system we are safe. Anytime we are hunched over, crossed-legged, or protecting our heart, solar plexus, or root chakra, it communicates to our subconscious mind that we may not be safe. Sitting up straight is how we step into our power. Because when we say step into our power, we are really saying step into our truth.   Taking responsibility is huge when it comes to healing. Responsibility is not the same as blaming ourselves. Take responsibility for things you wish you would have done differently without blaming yourself.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you had a toxic, or unhealthy relationship with your past that you have trouble breaking free from? Do you get stuck in the same story over and over again? Do you feel not enough? Do you have trouble stepping into your power?   Aurora’s Question: Aurora would like guidance on how to free herself from feeling not enough, to be able to express herself freely, and to get her power back.   Aurora’s Key Insights and Ahas: She told her ex-husband she needed some space. She got violent with her ex even though she didn’t want to. She doesn’t condone violence. Her ex believes that once she got what she wanted from the relationship she ended it. She has been judged and traumatized by her older sister. A teacher body-shamed her and created toxic competitiveness. Her parents exhibit narcissistic attributes. She goes through a cycle of making progress and then starting over. She recently went through an intensive therapy treatment. She feels more at peace. She is proud of herself for doing the generational trauma healing work. She has suppressed herself for a long time. She has a habit of being emotionally collapsed. She is not so great at meeting her own needs.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Sit in an open body position to let her subconscious mind know she is safe. Think about what her needs are and then give that thing to herself. Love and accept where she is, have compassion for herself, and work with what she has. Take her power back by forgiving herself for buying into any misunderstandings. Listen to this podcast, take responsibility, move out of victim, and believe she is able to shift out of this.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This episode is about moving into acceptance and forgiveness. Today’s caller, Jen, is having a hard time getting to forgiveness because she doesn't believe her parents did the best they could. Her grudge may be costing her the very thing she longs for the most. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode94] One of the ways we get to forgiveness is knowing people did the best they could, even if we believe they could have done better. Knowing they did the best they could with the tools they had is one of the ways we can get to forgiveness. It can be difficult, especially when it was a parent or a loved one. Holding on to anger, blame, and resentment is toxic. It will eat you up inside and keep you from what you want. Continuing to use the past as a scapegoat for why you don’t have want you want gives your past power. Until you move into acceptance and forgiveness, your past will infiltrate every aspect of your present and your future. Look at the places where you are not letting love into your life. Are you focusing too much on the people that didn’t love you in the way you wanted, and missing out on all the love around you? Would you like to connect more with me and receive a resource to help you transform into owning your purpose? Use this link, ChristineHassler.com/SpiritJunkie to enroll in Gabby Bernstein’s Spirit Junkie Masterclass by June 29th and receive access to the class, a one-hour one-on-one coaching session with me, a one-month membership to my Inner Circle Community, a download of my guided meditation CD and more.   Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Is there someone you have not been able to forgive because you truly feel what they did is unforgivable? ● Is there someone you are blaming for your not having what you want in your life? ● Do you tend to imagine worst-case scenarios and feel that things just don’t go your way in life? ● Did you grow up around addicts or as the child of addicts? Jen’s Question: Jen would like to forgive her mother and accept that her parents did the best they could. Jen’s Key Insights and Ahas: ● She didn’t get the love and attention she wanted as a child. ● She wants closure with her mother who recently passed. ● She feels broken. ● She’s created the healthy family she always wanted. ● She is keeping herself from fully appreciating and accepting the love of her current family. ● She is using her past as a scapegoat. ● As a child, she had low expectations so she wouldn’t be disappointed. ● It wasn’t her job to save her parents. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She shouldn’t identify with the victim role, and understand she received what she needed. ● She should stop mimicking her mother’s behaviors. ● She should do projection work and let the love that exists in her current life in. ● She should have appreciation and have life-affirming and positive thoughts. Takeaways: ● If there is someone you want to hear something from, some kind of forgiveness, write a letter to you from them. Write down all the things you wanted to hear from them and read it to yourself. ● Do projection work. Look at judgments you have towards others and see how you may be doing it in your own life, externally or internally. ● Be honest about the cost of holding onto a grudge and write down what it is keeping you from. Write down all the blessings you have in life and how you may be blinded to them because of the grudge. ● Have positive expectations and use your imagination to consider the best-case scenario. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Coaches Corner with Gabby Bernstein — Turn Your Pain Into Purpose Inner Circle Membership Community  @ChristinHassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Jill@ChristineHassler.com

This emotional episode is about getting to the root of anger to be able to release it. Today’s caller, Rose, has a deep-seated rage she directs toward her sister. But as we work through in the coaching call, she chose her sister, who poses less of a threat, to release her rage upon instead of the real person she is enraged with, her father.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode348]   Whenever our reaction doesn’t match with the circumstance, it means there is something else going on. Oftentimes, we have rage or anger just by being a human being on the planet, and we direct it at certain people or we become obsessive about certain people.   The thing about anger is that it needs an exit route. It is a huge energetic wave and it needs a way to get out. Anger can leak out as irritability, addiction, aggression at other people or just being angry at ourselves. We spend so much energy keeping anger inside that we can get depressed or we might just direct it at someone who is an easy scapegoat but isn’t actually the person we are enraged about.   Go to ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease to get my Anger Release Program.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a sibling or family member you are mad at and you can’t shake it no matter how much work you do? Do you struggle with jealousy, envy, or wish you could have had someone else’s life? Did you have a parent you were loyal to but as an adult, you question why you were so loyal? Do you have a hard time expressing your rage?   Rose’s Question: Rose struggles with her anger toward her sister and would like guidance on how to shift her feelings.   Rose’s Key Insights and Ahas: She formed an unhealthy alliance against her younger sister with her father. She loves her sister but feels deep rage toward her. She has done a lot of work around the issue. She has always felt mad at her sister and has taken her frustrations out on her. She didn’t feel seen or appreciated as a child. She feels her sister takes her oxygen when they are in the same room. She feels her mom blames her for how she treats her sister. Her father was explosive. She swallows her rage. She gets enraged by her sister’s bigness and how strong she is. Her anger makes her feel darkly powerful, righteous, and justified. She feels it is not OK to be herself. She is really mad at her father for making her feel small as a child. Her father was fragile and was inappropriate toward her. Her father made her feel ashamed for growing into her womanhood. Her father took his life. She realizes she transferred her anger toward her dad onto her sister.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Get the rage and anger out through an Anger Release exercise or by writing F-U letters she doesn’t send. Fully accept herself for who she is. Not be afraid of her rage because it is where her passion lives. Stay focused on who she is mad at to get to grief and then forgiveness.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Inner Child

This episode is about patience and becoming a loving partner to ourselves so we are ready to call in our soul match. Today’s caller, Asma, is ready to call in a partner but may have some work to do around building faith and trust based on her inner child’s wounding. Even if you are not looking for your person, you will get value from the conversations about patience, trust, and relationships.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode347]   It’s easy to believe in the magic of the universe when everything is going our way. It’s harder when we are scared or things aren’t going along with our plan. So many of our core trust issues come from our childhood. They come from the survival skills we adopted. That is where trust wounds begin.   Surrender invites the masculine in because it is fiercely brave. It is a deep level of trust in our intuition, a higher power, and in life because we relinquish control. It creates receptivity and an entry point for the masculine. Most healthy masculine men don’t like being told what to do.   Those of us who are more on the spectrum of controlling have less faith and trust. Part of the way we deal with our spiritual crisis and our fear of trust and surrender is to over plan, over control, and be overly self-sufficient.   When it comes to relationships we don’t have as much control because another person is involved. When it comes to love, the other person is on their own timeline, even when we may feel ready. Our soul-match people are harder to find because we are growing with them, not growing from them. Soul match people share our visions and values and match more where we want to go instead of where we have been. It requires a person who has done their work.   To all the single women who want to call in their person, I encourage you to take the Be the Queen course. Be empowered and intentional about calling in the relationship you desire. Experience a complete transformation. Get $200 off at ChristineHassler.com/bethequeen with the promo code “OVERIT”.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you have done the work but wondering where your prize is? Are you divorced or broken up and back in the dating scene and find yourself being impatient? Do you have a pattern of dating emotionally unavailable people or people who are not ready for a relationship? Are you patient with yourself or do you have a harsh inner critic?   Asma’s Question: Asma has wounding from a previous relationship but has done the work. She feels ready to receive her new partner but grows impatient with the lack of candidates.   Asma’s Key Insights and Ahas: She married young and is now divorced. She has done a lot of personal development work. She has created the home life she wants. She is ready to attract a partner with whom she feels a deep alignment. She is impatient and hard on herself. She wants a masculine man. She would like to develop trust. She didn’t feel seen or heard by her father but she has abandonment wounding. Some men she dates are not ready to be in a relationship.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Work on being patient. Look at how she can become a good partner and lover to herself. Be upfront at the beginning of a relationship about where she is and where she wants to go. Be clear about what she wants and where she wants to go.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Nicole Sachs, LCSW is a speaker, writer, podcaster and psychotherapist who has dedicated her work and her practice to the treatment of chronic pain, symptoms, syndromes and conditions. She is the author of the book The Meaning of Truth, and the online course FREEDOM FROM CHRONIC PAIN. Her brand, The Cure for Chronic Pain, includes a Website, Podcast and YouTube Channel. Her personal experience as well as work with thousands of people around the world have shaped and evolved Nicole’s theories, which serve to teach those suffering how to heal themselves completely with no medication or surgery.

This episode is breaking familiar generational patterns. Today’s caller, Angel, grew up in a chaotic home. As an adult, he seeks out chaos and uses numbing strategies when he feels triggered. We work through ways he can recognize the triggers and how he can make them an opportunity for healing without self-blame or shame.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode346]   Unraveling and healing from trauma in our childhoods take time. It is hard to deal with our past when we distract ourselves by things happening in the present or with numbing strategies.   Because we are often drawn to what is familiar, not what is healthy, that gets a lot of us stuck. We keep going back to things we know are not healthy, then we get stuck in the cycle of self-blame and shame without being compassionate with ourselves.   A trigger is a gateway to healing, but if we go to a distraction or a quick fix we miss the opportunity for deeper healing. It’s about making the decision at the time of the trigger to go inside and that is when we do the work.   A disorganized attachment style is formed when we have had a chaotic childhood. A disorganized attachment style is like a “come here, now go away” pattern. It is the wanting of attention and affection, wanting to be seen but also wanting to withdraw. When real intimacy and real love get too close, the person with a disorganized attachment style wants to push it away.   If you want to learn more about attachment styles you can download a great group coaching call for only $20 at ChristineHassler.com/group-coaching-replays.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have trouble being alone? Did you grow up in a chaotic environment where you didn’t feel seen and safe? Did you witness violence? Do you find yourself in a cycle of going into dysfunctional relationships or abusing a substance and you feel shame about it? Do you have a lot of awareness but feel you are not changing?   Angel’s Question: Angel seeks chaos and conflict and would like guidance on how to feel a sense of safety and be in his body.   Angel’s Key Insights and Ahas: His childhood home was chaotic. He is social around other people. He finds it difficult to be alone with his thoughts. He feels empty. He seeks out chaos in his life. He uses substances in excess. His cycle of shame repeats. He shut down as a child to cope with the domestic violence he witnessed. He feels not-enough and has a disorganized attachment style. He has never felt loved or safe. He is always looking to find what he didn’t get as a child. He feels he has awareness. He feels comforted when other people are around. His intuition tells him he should wait to enter a romantic relationship. He was in a trauma-bond relationship that blew up. He finds it hard to forget the trauma he experienced as a child. He still lives with his mom, and he feels anger toward her when she tries to parent him.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Have compassion for himself. Acknowledge himself and tell himself he is not alone. Have patience with his process and acknowledge his progress. Resist the urge to go to the quick fix when he feels triggered. Leverage triggers when they come up. Write a letter to his mother he does not intend to give to her. Make the intention to make relationships with male mentors or build up more healthy male relationships.   Takeaway: Use the moments when you feel triggered to reach for a distraction or a numbing strategy, to instead leverage the triggering opportunity to use your healing tools. Find healthy male groups to be a part of such as Mpowered Brotherhood on Instagram.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This episode is about overcoming the pain our inner bullies create. Today’s caller, Ravi, was bullied as a child, and uses his inner critic as a protective measure. He became isolated and disconnected from his intuition, and he cut off listening to his heart because he didn’t want to feel.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode82] When we cut off our feelings we not only cut off the pain, but we cut off the love and inspiration as well. What happened in the past does not have to create your future. You can get over it and on with it, but you must be consciously committed to letting it go.   To transform, you need love, wisdom, and compassion from your heart, and alchemy. I guided Ravi through a heart meditation, like this one from a Coaches Corner episode. Ravi experienced clarity after the meditation. His heart said it wanted expression through art.   The next step was to transform his trauma and pain, but Ravi said he didn’t want to go there. Remember, the fear of feeling pain is what keeps you from transforming it. It is possible to alchemize passion, or suffering, into something you love. It takes a lot of energy to suppress pain. If you have had trauma, it can be scary to go there on your own. You should find someone to work with, someone who can go there with you to hold a space for you.   The more you listen to your heart, the more it speaks to you!   Join me this September at my retreat in Bali. Visiting a magical place with like-minded people will transform your mind, body, and spirit. It’s a unique experience where you can experience significant healing that will last the rest of your life. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to sign up.   Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Are you trying to figure out your issues or challenges in your head? ● Were you bullied, teased or criticized as a child or a teenager, and it still haunts you today? ● Do you have a past trauma you are terrified to address and feel? ● Would you say you live more in your head than in your heart?   Ravi's Question: Ravi wants to know how to find purpose in his life.   Ravi's Key Insights and Ahas: ● He disconnected from his conscious mind to cope with the trauma. ● He internalizes the external bullying. ● He’s scared of failure and being made fun of. ● He has managed his pain, but has not yet transformed it. ● He is in an avoidance pattern and protective mode. ● He’s been in the midst of self-loathing.   How to Get Over It and On With It: ● He should tap into the passion he experienced to create art. ● He could help other people who have been bullied. ● He needs to listen to his heart. ● He needs to start alchemizing his pain. ● He should practice release writing when he feels sadness.   Assignments: ● Read The Lesson Quest and Your Life’s Purpose in Chapter 9, The Spiritual Level in Expectation Hangover. ● Be honest about what you are attempting to figure out, and alchemize it. ● Listen to my Coaches Corner with Jim Kwik. ● Volunteer and be of service to someone else to help you with your inner critic.   Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Over It and On With It Listener Survey Expectation Hangover Inner Circle Membership Community Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Jill@Christinehassler.com for Bali Retreat Information Bali Retreat Enrollment Page

This episode is about communicating with someone who has more of a controlling and rigid personality structure. Today’s caller, Danielle, would like to reduce the friction between her and her husband when it comes to their parenting priorities. I coach Danielle on how to work with her husband to be a little less rigid and less controlling when it comes to her sons and when it comes to herself. And, how to get her sons to express themselves emotionally.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode345]   When we are butting heads with someone, trying to get them to see our side of something will never work. Having curiosity and compassion for the other person’s model of the world and the way they see things is the way forward.   A lot of men, boys, and those who identify as masculine have been conditioned to suppress, to be less emotional, and that their value is the security and legacy they can provide or the money they can provide. Oftentimes emotional connection, the ability to be in their heart, the ability to trust, or to have more of a connection with their feminine side is difficult because there has been so much attention on the other.   Remember, when someone says that something made them stronger it generally doesn’t mean they now have the courage to be vulnerable and to seek help, to think deep into their wounds, to dig into their generational patterns to transform their experience.   When children are not raised with the ability to have autonomy, sovereignty, and speak up for themselves, it can go one of two ways. Either they become overly compliant and get pushed around or they become overly aggressive because they are trying to get their power back.   A lot of us can relate to us having differences in the way we see the world and what we think is right. Anytime we can heal a division in our home or within our families, it has a ripple effect elsewhere. So, at a time when it seems there is a lot of division, finger-pointing, and judgment in the world, shifting this in the home helps to collectively shift it.   Are you in a relationship right now and you would like the relationship to be better? Or, your relationship is at a point where it is falling apart and you want to save it? Would you like to know what makes a relationship work? You can at any time by going to christinehassler.com/relationshipcourse. Listeners of this podcast get $50 off with promo code ‘OVERIT’. Learn how to bring the zest back into your relationship.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you find there is someone in your life who is controlling and you wish they would be more intuitive and more emotionally available? Do you find it is hard to set boundaries with someone who is structured and set in their ways? Is it hard for you to have compassion for your partner or children because you are frustrated by what they are doing? Are you willing to see the little child inside of the adults you love and have compassion for the way they act the way they do?   Danielle’s Question: Danielle would like to know how she can enforce boundaries with her children while respecting her husband’s role in the family.   Danielle’s Key Insights and Ahas: She set boundaries to keep burnout at bay. She and her husband lead a busy lifestyle. She and her husband are both active military. Her husband is high-energy and she is more passive. She values her parenting skills. She wants her boys to grow up with sovereignty. Her boys are diagnosed with ADHD/ADD. Her husband may have wounds around his relationship with his father. She is triggered by her husband’s actions.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Carve some time out with her husband to ask him what he wished would have been different between him and his father. Realize her husband has a father wound and she may be dealing with a tender little boy inside. Acknowledge her husband when he does emotional work. Approach her husband in a way that doesn’t make him feel judged. Lean into her vulnerability and speak her needs in an empowered way. Create a fun way to empower her boys to express themselves.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Do you know the value of positive thinking but just can’t seem to shift out of negative thinking? This coaching session is about expectations and shifting negative patterns. During this call, we examine Danielle’s past to understand what formed her current expectations and get to the root of why she is sabotaging herself in relationships.

This episode is about releasing the judgment of our past decisions. Today’s caller, MJ, was betrayed by her ex-husband and when she divorced, became a single mother of two. As she focused on raising her children, she neglected her sensual side and has not been on a date. She would like guidance on how to reclaim her life and get more out of her interpersonal relationships. We talk a lot about betrayal and holding on to judgment of our past selves.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode344]   Hindsight is 20/20. Many people can relate to making a choice in the past they probably wouldn’t make today that they are still beating themselves up for. When we do that to ourselves we are in the past and we completely block all the amazing things that can come into our present and future.   Sometimes we don’t forgive ourselves because we think that holding on to the judgment of ourselves will keep us from making the same mistake.   In order to have a life and a future, we must forgive our past. Not just the people in the past but the former versions of ourselves in the past. As long as we are beating ourselves up for our past decisions we are fractured. We are at odds with a part of ourselves.   Good luck having a rich, full, amazing life, being connected to our sensuality, having friendships, or having the relationship of our dreams if we are at war with a part of ourselves. We have to be at peace with all parts of ourselves.   Have compassion for yourself and know that you did the best you could in your past. We don’t have to stay at war with ourselves. We can invite all parts of ourselves into our hearts and deeply, truly, and fully forgive ourselves.   If you want to do deeper work and you resonate with my coaching, I encourage you to join Personal Mastery. It is the foundational training of my work. I take you through how to transform and heal on the emotional, mental, behavioral, and spiritual levels. There are so many tips and tools. Personal Mastery is also a community. There are monthly calls and a Facebook group. Get coached by me without being on the show. Go to ChristineHassler.com/mastery. Get $100 off the course by typing in 'OVERIT' as the promo code when ordering.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Was there a choice you made in your past you are still beating yourself up for? Have you been betrayed by someone or multiple people and you judge yourself for it? Do you have a difficult time connecting to your sensuality or sexuality? Have you been focused on raising your kids or your career, or both, and you want to get back out in the dating world but are not sure where to start?   MJ’s Question: MJ would like guidance on how to break down the emotional wall she put up after a divorce and flourish in her interpersonal relationships.   MJ’s Key Insights and Ahas: She divorced and became a single mother 10 years ago when her ex betrayed her by having a secret life. She has neglected her sensuality. She hasn’t been on a date in seven years. She has put up an emotional wall when it comes to friendships and romantic relationships. She felt ashamed of who she chose to marry. She holds a belief that you cannot completely rely on men. She was naive when she was younger. She hasn’t forgiven herself for marrying her first husband. She believed she needed to be punished.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Forgive herself and reclaim the lost part of herself by releasing the shame and judgment. Integrate her younger self back into her life.   Takeaway: Think about past parts of you that you hold judgment toward and forgive yourself to make yourself whole.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

When Luke Storey hosted me on his podcast, we went on a deep dive into everything from revealing personal insecurities to ego pitfalls to relationship attachment style.   This episode has tools to cultivate self-love, set boundaries, and maintain healthier relations with yourself and those you invite into your life.   You can learn more about Luke or reach out to him about working with him at https://www.lukestorey.com/ Inner Child Workshop 

This episode is about giving yourself permission to have fun. Today’s caller, Vicky, hasn’t had fun in over a decade. She wants to but fears others will judge her for it. We work through what created the fear and how she can give herself a permission slip to express herself in joy without worrying about what others will think.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode343]   Often, what we are projecting when we feel people are judging us is that we are judging ourselves. We need to challenge ourselves and say —  so what? —  if we are judged. What is the worst thing that can happen?   As a child, it can be scary. We can feel ostracized from school, we can feel like we are not getting our parents’ love but as adults, if someone judges us we can let it be OK. It is one of the great things about being an adult. We can handle judgment differently. We choose how we react.   If we do get devastated by someone else’s judgment, it means our inner child is being triggered. If that happens we have to parent our inner child and give them permission to have fun.   If it has been a week since you have had fun, it’s time to have some. We can’t be serious all the time, especially when there is so much stress, uncertainty, and heaviness. Fun, joy, and play are important. No matter how old we get, we cannot forget to play.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you just been working on yourself but haven’t had fun in a long time? Are you afraid to be expressive or fun because you are concerned you might be judged? Do you fall into the trap of not wanting to pursue things because you feel you must be perfect before you can do it? How often do you let your inner child come out and play?   Vicky’s Question: Vicky has done a ton of personal development work but still doesn’t authentically feel as if she has connected to joy.   Vicky’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is frustrated that she still doesn’t feel connected. She hasn’t had a lot of fun since her 20s. She wants to experience joy. She feels she has to work hard. She fantasizes about being goofy. She is afraid of judgment. She is a life coach but doesn’t feel she deserves the title. Her parents fought a lot in front of her. She felt pressured to keep the peace in her childhood family home. She doesn’t feel safe or seen. She didn’t get to have enough fun as a child. She gets caught up in “should be.”   How to Get Over It and On With It: Be present, curious, and explorative in the moment. Ask herself what she could do to make herself feel safe and seen. Lean into being goofy and having fun. Choose how she wants to respond when she feels not enough.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Michael Gay who is a therapist joins Christine to discuss how we deal and heal from trauma.  He has his M.A. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling with a focus in Transpersonal Psychology. Michael has worked in the field of counseling for the last 14 years as a guide, therapist, and trainer. He was a Wilderness Therapy guide for 6 years, leading and facilitating deep transformational work with teens, adults, and families in the mountains and high desert. He has also worked extensively in the field of addiction and recovery. He specializes in work with depression, groups, trauma, PTSD, grief, and families. In addition to his M.A., Michael completed a 3 year training at the Gestalt Institute of the Rockies, and continues to train at the Gestalt Equine Institute. As a therapist and facilitator, Michael uses experiential and body based methods. Many approaches to therapy and inner work stay at the intellectual and cognitive level, which rarely or slowly affect deep structural change. Engaging in more experiential and embodied work seems to bring the shifts people were unable to find in mainstream therapy.  You can learn more about Michael or reach out to him about working with him at https://www.michaelgaycounseling.com/

This episode is about the healing benefits of being heard and being reflective. Today’s caller, Jonathan, didn’t feel seen or heard as a child by his controlling parents. He has competing intentions and would like guidance on how to be more vulnerable and intimate in relationships.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode342]   When in any type of relationship, especially a romantic relationship, if it is hard for you to express yourself or get things out or you feel interrupted or judged, utilize the talking stick (any object). Go to your partner and tell them you wish to communicate something and that you want to use the talking stick. When you are holding the talking stick you are the only one talking. When you feel complete you hand it to your partner. It is a great practice if you have a hard time getting things out. It offers a sense of permission for those who wish to be heard.   Oftentimes, we interrupt each other a lot. There may be one partner who is more assertive and the other partner may retract more. The talking stick is a great remedy for relationships with communication issues.   Another effective communication tool is reflective listening or perception checking. When we slow down communication it builds trust and safety with other people.   When you have the avoidant attachment style one of the best ways to heal it is in relationship, practicing intimacy.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you feel seen and heard as a child? Did you spend a lot of time alone as a child? Do you still spend a lot of time alone today? Do you trust love? When things get too intimate, too vulnerable, or too close do you want to bail but you long for love at the same time?   Jonathan’s Question: Jonathan would like guidance on being intimate in close relationships with others and with himself.   Jonathan’s Key Insights and Ahas: His dad was controlling. He didn’t have friends over to play with as a child. He knew at age seven that he couldn’t trust love. He keeps intimate relationships at an arm’s length. He wants to be seen without judgment in relationships. He spent a lot of time alone in life. His father offered transactional love. He attracts women who are not in their healthy feminine who have similar traits to his mother. He took a self-discovery journey. He wants to be authentic but doesn’t find others who are authentic. He has competing intentions. People talk over him and interrupt him all the time. He tried structured environments but they were not for him. He feels unsafe and untethered. He is enrolled in the Elementum Coaching Institute.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Lean more into his masculine energy. Find people he can be authentic with and who listen to him. Anchor himself into who he is, what he believes, and what he desires. Write it out until it becomes clear. Embody his awareness. Ground himself.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This episode is about self-honoring choices, ultimatums, and jealousy in mother-daughter relationships. Today’s caller, Kristin, is looking for guidance in how to proceed after her mother gave her an ultimatum. We also look at the compensatory strategies Kristin has adopted in an effort to deal with things from her childhood.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode118]   What is a self-honoring choice? A self-honoring choice is an honest choice rooted in truth that comes from love. Kristin felt she was always in competition with her mother. She became a perfectionist as a compensatory strategy because she felt that she could only receive love if she was perfect. Through her growth work, she is starting to make self-honoring choices for herself.   What are you passionate about? What you are passionate about is often a tie into our spiritual curriculum and our parents are part of that curriculum. Remember, we choose our parents as our teachers. When our parents don’t see us for who we truly are, it can seem cruel. But, part of our soul journey is to heal from past cruelty.   What do you long for from your parents?   Be sure to check out Coaches Corner. Last week I talked about ghosting and flaky behavior, the week before I interviewed Jill about selling skills and I even answer questions. So, if you have a question for me, email assist@ChristineHassler.com.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there someone in your life you are not speaking to or have a strained relationship with? If you grew up with two parents, was one more challenging for you to get along with or close to? Do you tend to be attracted, date or marry people you feel you must earn their love? Do you know what self-honoring choices are? If so, do you make them regularly?   Kristin’s Question: Kristin would like to know how to approach her mother about a recent ultimatum.   Kristin’s Key Insights and Ahas: She was in an abusive relationship. She made a self-honoring choice. She was always in competition with her mother. Her mother was passive aggressive. She yearned for attention from her mother. Her parents had a horrible relationship. Her existence triggers her mother. She chose her mother.   How to Get Over It and On With It:   She should keep working on herself and stay strong to break the pattern of contorting herself to make her mother feel better. She should realize her mom may not be able to face her issues. She should continue making self-honoring choices.     Takeaways: Where are you not making self-honoring choices because you are trying too much to please people? And, where are you not making self-honoring choices because you are trying to be the bigger person vs. speaking your truth? Why did you pick your parents and what are they here to teach you? Let go of who you want your parents to be. Accept the fact that if your mother or father truly saw what they needed to see about themselves in order to give you the apology you crave, it might break them. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com

This episode is about reducing a trauma response when communicating with people who matter to us. Today’s caller, Amanda, feels scared and goes into a trauma response when communicating with her partner. In her past, she felt disempowered in other relationships. She would like guidance on how to feel less afraid when communicating her needs.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode341]   When we have been through a challenging situation or trauma that goes deep into our subconscious mind, body, and nervous system, we feel we have no power or control. That is why it is so traumatic. The more we empower ourselves to have control, speak our needs, and make a request the more we tell our body and nervous system that we are safe.   Anytime we are in a trauma response we are time-traveling. Our physical body is in the present moment but our nervous system is in the past. Our brain has a hard time distinguishing whether we are in a safe place or are we in trauma. Maybe we had no voice, no power, and no dominion over our experience when the trauma occurred. But, the more we can set ourselves up at the beginning, the less likely we are to time-travel into the trauma response.   In a relationship, as much as we are sovereign beings and know that no one can heal us, it is also reasonable and healing in a relationship to know each other's wounds. We can be sensitive to other people’s wounds and do our part to help the other person grow. We are entitled to make requests when we are taking responsibility. We cannot ask someone else to change until we own our end and are doing the work. Only then can we make a request of someone else.   My Personal Mastery course takes you through how to transform and heal on an emotional, mental, behavioral, and spiritual level. It is also a community with monthly group coaching calls and an interactive Facebook page. ChristineHassler.com/mastery. Get $100 off the course with the promo code OVERIT.   Consider/Ask Yourself:   Do you have trouble speaking up for yourself or communicating your needs? Do you often get angry and lash out because your needs aren’t being met and you are not communicating? Do you have difficulty calming yourself down when you are in a trauma response? Do you know what it means to regulate your nervous system when you are in a trauma response?   Amanda’s Question: Amanda would like guidance on how to feel less afraid when it comes to communicating her needs to her partner.   Amanda’s Key Insights and Ahas: She gets triggered when communicating with her partner. She sometimes abruptly leaves confrontation. When standing her ground, she can feel angry. She has done EMDR with her therapist. Her partner has big energy. She fears communicating her needs. She felt powerless when her dad remarried. She wants someone to stand up for her. She has been in an abusive relationship. She is committed to being vulnerable.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Move her energy by regulating her nervous system and getting herself into the present moment. Name her feelings when she wants to communicate. Remind herself she is a grown woman and her partner is not her stepmother. Have a conversation with her partner about a flinch response. Release the rage she feels toward her stepmother and ex through release writing and the temper tantrum technique.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

People pleasing will not get you the kind of love you long for. Why? Well, when you are putting other people’s needs before your own, you are not being honest. You are not showing up authentically. People pleasing can range in severity from caring about what people think to being a doormat. In my view, no degree of people pleasing is a good thing and being a complete doormat is dangerous. Think of a doormat after being used over and over. This is what happens to your spirit and your spark if you allow people to walk all over you. Your light starts to dim. You start to fade and you start to wear down.    The Importance of Connection When Going Through a Loss We are not meant to grieve alone.  One of the most healthy aspects of grieving is having support. You may find it hard to ask for help but you are giving another person a gift when you are vulnerable with them. Do not suffer in silence and solitude. The things that help the most are often the hardest to do. During difficult times, we need to do the hard things to get to the healing place we long for.  Today’s caller Shaun called in for some guidance while going through his divorce. He may be putting himself last and has a habit of people pleasing which is making his divorce harder. Don’t lose sight of yourself during a loss. I encourage you to be honest with yourself about your people pleasing patterns. Coaches take note - I try to stay as clear and neutral as I possibly can, but during some calls, like this one, I slip from empathy to sympathy. I found myself being protective of Shaun and judgmental of the situation. I then moved back to neutrality which allowed me to guide Shaun appropriately. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Are you going through a loss right now and feel disconnected? ● Do you relate to being a people pleaser or a doormat?  ● Are you concerned about what people think of you and often put others’ needs and opinions in front of your own? ● Is there someone in your life you need to draw some boundaries with? ● Do you have a solid support system of people or just one person you can turn to who will listen when you are going through something challenging?   Shaun’s Question: Shaun would like to know how to get un-stuck after being blindsided by a breakup from a 15-year marriage. He wants advice on how to move past the situation.   Shaun’s Key Insights and Aha’s: ● He has a pattern of taking care of others at his own expense. ● He may be losing his identity. ● He doesn’t have a social circle for support. ● He should reach out to new people and ask for help.      How to get over it and on with it: ● He should step into his power and his strength and put himself first. ● He should meet new people and join new groups. ● He has the opportunity to gain healthy friendships.   Tools and Takeaways: ● Be honest and look at the ways your people pleasing could be depleting you, blocking intimacy and potentially building resentment. ● Listen to this week’s Coaches Corner for additional tips. ● Reach out to people, ask for support or just ask them to listen. ● Write down one thing which will help you the most but may be hard for you to do.   Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com

This episode is about having anxiety about relationships. Today’s caller, Gabby, has a pattern of getting into relationships, but something always happens and they don’t work out. She would like guidance about how to reduce the amount of anxiety she feels about relationships. We work through her childhood wounding and discuss ways for her to meet her own needs and heal her inner child.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode340]   Oftentimes, the relationships we draw in reflect our primary wounding from our primary caregivers and our relationship with ourselves. When the people who are our everything can’t be everything to us in the ways we need it is devastating. It becomes an open wound that we carry around and identify in others. That is why it is so important to do family of origin healing and grieve our parents. It helps to bring our little one into the present day. It helps us to stop picking people who are like them.   We have relationships that trigger our childhood, but they are relationships for healing. They are not the relationships that go the distance. If they do last a long-time, they can be difficult because our wounds are constantly coming up. And, unless you and a partner are willing to work through those together the relationship will be frustrating.   When we heal our childhood wounds we can pick from our present-day self, our adult self, and we can choose someone who is more in alignment with where we want to go.   Know that every relationship challenge moves us closer to a healthy relationship.   Want to learn more about attachment styles? For just $20 you can hear a previous group call where I provide answers to questions at Group Coaching Replays.   Consider/Ask Yourself:   Do you have an avoidant attachment style? Do you have anxiety when it comes to being in a relationship? Is there a part of you who thinks you are too broken or don’t know how to be in a relationship? Do you have unrealistic expectations of what you think a relationship should or could be? Do you feel you have done enough inner work to attract a healthy relationship based on your vision or values versus your past wounds?   Gabby’s Question: Gabby has been going through long-term relationship anxiety and would like guidance on how to reduce it.   Gabby’s Key Insights and Ahas: She cycles through romantic relationships. She believes issues in her family are still at play in her relationships. She feels she is going backward in this area of her life. She is proud of her independence and her accomplishments. She values love, family, and kindness. She has a lot to give and deserves a lot. She has done personal development work and therapy. Her relationships have been growth opportunities. Physical touch and words of affirmation are important to her. Her father was very loving but also very closed off. She worries about making the wrong decisions in relationships. She is exhausted. Her childhood was filled with confusion.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Have compassion for herself as she moves through this. Consider how she can meet her own needs. Hold off on dating until she grieves and heals her father-wound. Check-in with herself daily with her hand on her heart and belly to see what she needs. Remember she is not broken.   Takeaways: Have massive compassion for yourself, your process, and your growth. Look at where you are still hanging on to something from your past that makes you draw in people or experiences that are similar.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

I thought it would be fun to re-air the VERY first episode I recorded in October of 2022. We have ALL come so far since then. Thank you for being part of this community as we learn and grow together.

This episode is about shifting our protective patterns and taking risks. Today’s caller, Christine, lost her husband five years into their marriage. She wants to date again but is blocked by the fear of losing love again. We take a deep dive into the foundation of her fear and how she can choose to love again.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode339]   Love is risky. Loving is easily the riskiest thing we do, whether it is loving our partners, animals, friends, or children. Love is risky because if we lose it is devastating. Our hearts want to close because the risk is difficult but when we close our hearts we miss out on the opportunity to love more. There is no quota on how much we can love in our lifetime. Or, how many loves we can have. Love is infinite. To deprive ourselves of ever-expanding love is riskier than losing again.   Shame grows on the things we keep in the dark but when we speak and bring things into the light it allows us to be held with love and compassion. That is how we soften judgment and allow intimacy in again.   Diving deep is valuable. Anyone who says they are too damaged but is actively working on themselves isn’t damaged. We are only “damaged” if we go into victim and never do anything to pull ourselves out. The only way to get protective parts to shift is to let them know that you are going to work with them to protect yourself in a different way.   Consider/Ask Yourself:   Have you had a loss in your life and you are hesitant to give something another try because you are afraid of another loss? Do you judge yourself for having baggage, especially if you are single, and feel no one will want you? Are you scared of losing a person, a dream, or does the fear of loss prevent you from going after your dreams? Is there a judgment you hold against yourself that is blocking you that you haven’t forgiven yourself for?   Christine’s Question: Christine would like to start dating and would like guidance on how to move past the resistance she feels towards it.   Christine’s Key Insights and Ahas: Her husband died seven years ago. He was her only significant romantic relationship. She is ready to start dating again but finds excuses why not to. She feels stuck. She doesn’t think someone will want her because of her baggage. She is still grieving her husband. She judges herself for things out of her control. She has been through a lot at a young age. Her desire to protect herself from loss is stronger than her desire to let someone new in. She feels paralyzed by grief and fear. She is actively working on opening up and loving again.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Get clear about her willingness to take a risk on love. Forgive herself for her self-judgments. Honor her past relationship in a way that doesn’t include blame or shame. Acknowledge her fear, thank it for protecting her, and tell it she will be protecting herself in a different way. Create a bigger fear.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

My dear friend, Rebecca Tait, joins me for the second time on the show. Last year she gave us incredible insight about what was ahead for us in 2022. This year she drops some big time wisdom on why we may feel stuck or like things aren't changing even though we are doing the healing "work."   Bec is an intuitive coach who provides guidance to people who feel stuck or uncertain in various aspects of their life.   Learn more here: https://www.justaskbec.com/

This episode is about how to heal self-worth issues. Today’s caller, Samantha, was dismissed by her father and never feels worthy of anything in her life. She asks for guidance on how to heal, and to connect more deeply with her children. We discuss how she can release her self-judgment, replace it with compassion, and make it an opportunity to heal her inner child.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode338]   For the most part, anything that happens before the age of 12, makes us into the adults we are. If we don’t feel wanted by our parents, the people who are supposed to want us and love us, it creates a big core wound. When we have low self-worth we think we are a burden and we deprive people in our lives of showing up and giving to us.   If we commit to personal development, we have to let go of self-judgment. We will not transform and heal if we judge ourselves. Love and judgment can not be in the same place. We can love the part of ourselves that judges us because we know it is just trying to protect us, but if we are frustrated with ourselves, transformation won’t happen.   When judgment and frustration come up, know that it is our inner child calling out to us to meet their needs.   Enrollment for the 2022 Elementum Coaching Institute closes on March 2, 2022. It is a nine-month comprehensive coaching certification program. It is a mix of learning the best coaching tools and skills but also doing your own inner work.   Consider/Ask Yourself:   Do you struggle with self-worth? Did you have a dismissive parent and felt you were in their way? Do you have a lot of awareness but things are not changing? As a parent, do you have trouble connecting to your children or your inner child?   Samantha’s Question: Samantha has a core wound of not feeling worthy. She would like guidance on how to shift it and connect more intimately with her children.   Samantha’s Key Insights and Ahas: She received answers from the people closest to her she didn’t expect to hear. She has never felt worthy of anything. She has done personal development work from a young age. Her father was angry and dismissed her. She wants to be unapologetically herself. She is frustrated to have awareness but is unable to shift. She judges herself for how she feels. She feels like a robot and sensitive, yet she compartmentalizes her feelings. She feels she puts a target on her back for someone to attack her negatively. She suppresses her feelings. She is being her dad to herself. She finds it hard to connect with her daughter. She didn’t feel protected by her mother.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Replace her judgment and frustration with compassion. Connect with her inner child and ask her what she needs. Make a self-honoring choice to not see her father anymore. Use her judgments as opportunities to parent her inner child.   Takeaways: The last live inner child workshop is an evergreen program. Go to ChristineHassler.com/innerchild to get the entire workshop. It is just like attending the live event and you can go through it at your own pace. If you have a self-worth issue, ask people for what you need and let them show up for you.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Whitney Goodman is the radically honest psychotherapist behind the popular Instagram account @sitwithwhit and owner of the Collaborative Counseling Center, a private therapy practice in Miami. She helps individuals and couples heal past wounds and create the life they’ve always wanted. In TOXIC POSITIVITY, Whitney offers a powerful guide to owning our emotions—even the difficult ones—in order to show up authentically in the world. Learn more about Whitney and her book here: https://sitwithwhit.com/

This episode is about letting go. Today’s caller, Hannah, went into shock after the loss of her mother and is feeling panic and anxiety. We talk through how she has never really allowed herself to grieve. Letting go is one of those things that sound good, right? But when it comes to doing, it can be difficult, especially when it comes to letting go of a dream, person, relationship, or chapter of our lives.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode337]   It is a big deal to lose anyone we love, especially when we lose a parent before we thought we would. Many of us know that once our parents age into their 80s and 90s, and their health starts to deteriorate, it can be an easier transition for us because we see them suffering and we want them to be in a better place. But when we lose someone suddenly, it can be shocking.   There are a lot of traumatic emotions around an unexpected death. It is physiological energy that needs an outlet. Often, the energy manifests itself as panic and anxiety. Panic and sadness serve a purpose and many times extreme emotions are a cry for help. The person who needs to answer the cry out is us. It is an alert that we need to learn to parent ourselves.   Grief sometimes gets a bad rap. Sometimes we feel we need to go through it quickly or do it in a certain order, or we worry we could get stuck in it. But, grief is more than sadness. It is about honoring the love, reminiscing, and appreciating how much we loved the person or thing we grieve.   If you haven't already done my Calling in 2022, Stepping Into the New Year Ritual, and Release 2021 Ritual. They are available as Coaches corner episodes.   Consider/Ask Yourself:   Did you have a loss of some kind that you haven’t fully processed or grieved? Do you know what healthy grieving looks like? Do you find yourself dealing with panic and anxiety and would like to shift it? If you did have a loss, are you holding some anger toward God or the universe and are having a hard time reconnecting to your spirituality?   Hannah’s Question: Hannah has been dealing with panic and anxiety since her mother’s death last year. She would like guidance on how to handle what may be a traumatic experience in the future.   Hannah’s Key Insights and Ahas: Her mother died due to COVID-19. She has developed PTSD over her mother’s death. Her husband is deploying to the military this year. She feels as if she is on auto-pilot. She felt solely responsible for the planning of her mother’s funeral. She is afraid to grieve because she doesn’t know how it will affect her. She is going to therapy. She experienced family trauma during her youth. She felt sad but people didn’t notice. She and her mother shared a mutual passion for spirituality. She feels anger toward the universe for taking her mother from her.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Read The Smell of Rain on Dust: Grief and Praise. Allow herself to fully experience grief by considering it as honoring how much she loved her mother. Trust herself to feel to heal. Share her vulnerability with her husband. Express her anger with God and lean into her spirituality. When she is triggered, regulate her nervous system by using techniques to bring her into the present.   Takeaways: Are there any areas in your life where you have moved through a loss or transition and you didn’t allow yourself to grieve? Let your emotions out when you feel angry toward God or the universe.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Today I am joined by one of my dearest friends and someone who inspires me on the regular with her integrity, creativity, and depth of love. Danielle LaPorte is a member of Oprah’s Super Soul 100, and former director of a future studies think tank in Washington, DC. She’s the author of The Fire Starter Sessions, White Hot Truth and The Desire Map, which has sold over 300,000 copies.   She’s the creator of the Heart Centered Facilitator Program and Membership with 400+ leaders doing Heart Centered conversation circles and workshops in over 30 countries. Her podcast, With Love, Danielle often ranks in iTunes’ Wellness Top 10 with over 1 million downloads. DanielleLaPorte.com was named “Top 100 Websites for Women” by Forbes, and has over 5 million visitors per month. Her charity of choice is Ally Global: helping survivors of human trafficking to rebuild their lives. She lives in Vancouver, BC. Find her on Facebook or Instagram @daniellelaporte.

This episode is transforming nervous habits and meeting unmet needs. Today’s caller, Morgan, has a big part of herself that she wants to change. Her needs in childhood were unmet by her mother and she created a nervous behavior as a coping strategy. If you bite your nails, pick your skin around your fingers, pull apart split ends, or any other nervous habit you would like to transform, this episode will help.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode336]   Understanding the why behind a behavior doesn’t make it go away. We need to remember that a nervous behavior is a physiological manifestation of an emotion. It is an alarm system that alerts us that a need that wasn’t met in childhood is still not being met. When we have a nervous habit, it is telling us that we are trying to calm or suppress something.   Needs, especially in childhood, are real and important. If certain needs aren’t met at certain stages in life, it hinders who we are as adults. It doesn’t break us but it does impact us. There is a strong developmental need to feel nurtured, nourished, and to feel a calming presence. When we are children our nervous system is developing or imprinting.   Needs that are not met in childhood haunt us as adults. Any primary need we didn’t get met in childhood will continue into adulthood. Over time, we develop coping strategies to try to handle the anxiety around that unmet need. If we don’t get our needs met, our coping strategies come with little alarm systems that alert us that we need attention.   Anything is healable. The first step of any transformation is acceptance.   Consider/Ask Yourself:   Do you have a nervous habit you would like to break free from? Do you have shame around that habit? Did you grow up in a house with a parent or parents who had a lot of anxiety? Do you believe you can shift something or do you want to continue carrying around the story that you can’t?   Morgan’s Question: Since childhood, Morgan has had a nervous habit of picking at her skin. She would like guidance on how to manage her anxiety in a healthy way.   Morgan’s Key Insights and Ahas: She’s had a spiritual awakening recently. She grew up in a stable home. Her mother has an anxious personality and body image issues. She worried about her mother’s anxiety. She started picking at her skin because she wasn’t having her needs met. Her mother had conditions around giving love. She felt she had to earn love from her mother. She didn’t feel nurtured as a child. She doesn’t fully understand why she picks her skin. She feels shame around her habit. She doesn’t know what she needs for herself or who she is.   How to Get Over It and On With It: When she begins picking her skin, stop and ask herself how she can nurture and nourish herself at the moment. Read Discovering the Inner Mother: A Guide to Healing the Mother Wound and Claiming Your Personal Power and Mother Hunger: How Adult Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance. Acknowledge that she loves her mother but there were needs her mother didn’t meet. Look at her skin and scars and have compassion for herself. Believe she can shift her behavior. Grieve her mother wound, do anger release, and let the resentment out.   Takeaways: Think about the needs you did not have met as a child and consider how you can give them to yourself now.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Dr. Thema Bryantis a clinical psychologist and president-elect of the American Psychological Association. She is also a professor of psychology at Pepperdine University and an ordained minister in the African Methodist Episcopal Church. With more than twenty years of experience in trauma recovery, she has appeared as a mental health expert on television, radio, and print media. Dr. Thema raises awareness about mental health issues on The Homecoming Podcast and her social media platforms.   Her new book  HOMECOMING: Overcome Fear and Trauma to Reclaim Your Whole, Authentic Self is road map for dismantling the fear and shame that keep you from living a free and authentic life.   Learn more here: https://drthema.com/

This episode is about loving and accepting all parts of ourselves, even the ones that challenge us. Today’s caller, Odeta, struggles with her attachment to wanting to change a critical part of herself. The judgment and attachment are what is preventing her from being able to shift it. Any part of ourselves we judge or shame or anything we attach ourselves to shifting just holds on stronger.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode335]   Self-love is not a state of being where we are in complete unconditional love with ourselves all the time or we love all parts of ourselves all the time or we never get triggered. Maybe there are some people on the planet who live that way, but they are few and far between. No matter how much work we do, we are still human. We still have parts that maybe we don’t like very much; maybe our inner critic comes up. Self-love is the same to me as self-assurance. It is radical self-acceptance. It is accepting all parts of us, even the ones we want to change.   For all coaches or anyone in the helping field, it is important for us to be honest about where we are. Walking the talk isn’t about being perfect. Walking the talk isn’t about having it all together, that is more about wearing a mask. Walking the talk is about owning that we have areas where we are doing well and the areas where we recognize that we are still human and that we are still learning. To be an effective coach, therapist, or practitioner, you don’t have to arrive at some magic place. It is more about having the training, the experience, the intention, and the skills to hold space for people as they go through things you have been walking through too.   Take the expectation off of yourself that you have to be perfect. Stay human.   Enrollment for the 2022 Elementum Coaching Institute closes on March 10, 2022. It begins mid-March. It is a nine-month comprehensive coaching certification program. It is a mix of learning the best coaching materials compiled into one curriculum.   Consider/Ask Yourself:   Do you intend and strive for self-love but you can’t seem to get there? Do you have a nasty inner critic or inner judge that gets in your way? Is it hard for you to love and accept certain parts of yourself but are dead set on getting them to change?   Odeta’s Question: Odeta has done a lot of personal development work but fear and judgment of her ability to self-love are holding her back from being her best self.   Odeta’s Key Insights and Ahas: She can be paralyzed by anxiety. She is a coach, yoga instructor, and breathwork facilitator. She is an inspiration to her clients but is critical of herself. She feels she is learning the same lessons over and over. She is an overachiever and then burns herself out. She has done a lot of personal development work. She feels like an imposter and wants to show up differently. She feels like her inner critic is an enemy. She was bullied and body shamed as a teenager and didn’t understand why. She grew up in an immigrant family. She tried to be perfect at everything to better belong. Part of her is stuck in her adolescence. She feels resistant to shifting.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Accept that she wants to shift certain parts of herself without being attached to it. Listen to the Coaches Corner interview with Dr. Richard Schwartz about Internal Family Systems. Begin a dialogue with her 12-year-old self and remind her that she is safe. Realize her inner child is trying to protect her and is not her enemy.   Takeaways: Any aspect of you that you don’t like, that you want to change, has a positive intention. Until you can fulfill that positive intention in another way it is going to hang on. The essence of self-love is loving and accepting all parts of ourselves.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Do you want to learn more about that voice in your head? Then you'll love this episode.  Ethan Kross, PhD, is one of the world's leading experts on controlling the conscious mind. An award-winning professor at the University of Michigan and the Ross School of Business, he is the director of the Emotion & Self Control Laboratory. He has participated in policy discussion at the White House and has been interviewed on CBS EveningNews, Good Morning America, Anderson Cooper Full Circle,and NPR's Morning Edition. He is the bestselling author of CHATTER: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It

This episode is about shared values and looking at the part we play in the relationship. Today’s caller, Sarah, feels she is at the end of her rope in her relationship and is not sure if she should stay in it or go. The discussion revolves around the different circumstances in her relationship and what we get to is that there is just not enough information yet. If you find yourself at a choice point in your life and are struggling with what to do, either you need more time, or you know the right path and you are resisting taking it.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode334]   Many people ask if they should stay or go. Whether it is a relationship, job, or city it can be very difficult to make a decision. If the answer isn’t clear, it means one of two things, either the answer is clear but we don’t like it so we try to make it work. Or, we just don’t have enough clarity about it. In which case, it may not be the right time to make a yes-or-no decision.   For a relationship to be successful, there needs to be a level of growth and connection, a level of satisfaction, and the freedom to be ourselves in what we create together. Those are just a fraction of the things that define success in relationships.   In a relationship, we must have shared values. At least three or four of our values must be mirrored by our partner. If you don’t have shared values, what is the compass? What is your North Star?   What truly brings two people together if not their shared values?   Enrollment for the 2022 Elementum Coaching Institute is open. It begins mid-March. It is a 9-month comprehensive coaching certification program. It is a mix of learning the best coaching materials compiled into one curriculum. On Feb. 10, 2022, there is a free webinar; to sign up visit ElementumCoachingInstitute.com/go-pro-masterclass.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in a situation where you are doubting whether you should end it or keep going? Do you feel like you are in a relationship where you feel you are focused on growth and you want your partner to be but they don’t value it as much as you do? Do you show up more controlling in a relationship? Do you have communication breakdowns and issues in your relationships?   Sarah’s Question: Sarah is having communication issues in her relationship and feels that she is at the end of her rope when it comes to the conflict. She wants guidance on whether or not she should stay or go.   Sarah’s Key Insights and Ahas: She thinks her partner is a great guy. She has communication issues in her relationship. The couple had been in counseling but had to quit. She gave her partner an ultimatum about getting counseling. She has learned to express her needs. She values growth and personal development. She could be in a Journeymate relationship. When she wants to talk things out he gets triggered. They have been together for six years. She is intentional about her life. She feels as if she has to take care of everything and is doing all the work on the relationship. She perceived women to be weak when she was younger. She feels at the end of her rope. She wants to find balance in her life and get out of her head.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Acknowledge her partner and thank him for his efforts toward therapy. Ask her partner if he wants similar things from their relationship. If she does end the relationship, she needs to own 50% of what is happening and see what lessons can be gleaned from it. Listen to the Coaches Corner interview with Dr. Richard Schwartz about Internal Family Systems. Start focusing on the family dynamics she grew up with.   Takeaways: If you are in a relationship, consider what values you and your partner share.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

You are going to love this episode with Britt Frank who is a therapist, teacher, speaker, and trauma specialist who is committed to dismantling the mental health myths that keep us feeling STUCK and SICK. We talk about how to heal trauma, myths the wellness industry perpetuates, why you are NOT broken and so many other juicy topics! Brit's work focuses on empowering people to understand the inner mechanisms of their brains and bodies. When we know how things work, the capacity for CHOICE is restored and life can and does change. Whether she’s leading a workshop, teaching a class, or working individually with private clients, Britt’s goal is to educate, empower, and equip people to transform even their most persistent and long-standing patterns of thinking and doing. Britt is also the author of the upcoming book The Science of Stuck—available March 15th wherever books are sold. It’s a research-based tool kit for moving past what's holding you back—in life, in love, and in work. Learn more here: www.thegreenhousekc.com

This episode is about the dangers of sweeping things under the rug in relationships. Today’s caller, Angela, is looking for clarity about why she is frustrated and triggered in her family relationships. We discuss ways she can speak her truth with love, use her voice, and stand in her power in her relationships and her life. She brushes things under the rug. If you identify with being a people pleaser, someone who prefers to avoid conflict, or shrug things off when they happen but internalize it later this is a great session for you.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode333]   When we don’t stand in our power in our lives, we can’t stand in our power in relationships. Standing in our power can also be said as standing in our empowerment. Sometimes the word power can sound oppressive as if we are not being compassionate, or being selfish. But that is not really what standing in our empowerment means. It’s about being in our truth.   If your truth upsets someone, it is not your responsibility as long as you are not blaming them and are taking responsibility for your part, and communicating your thoughts in the most loving way you possibly can. Sometimes speaking our truth can hurt others but if it is done with honesty and love it can lead to growth or growth of a relationship. There is a way to deliver truth and love together. If you are delivering something that may be hard for someone to hear, do it with love.   Standing in our empowerment also means not time traveling and being able to regulate our nervous system. There were times as children when we were disempowered or when we didn’t have a voice that led to a pattern of disempowerment in our adulthood. When we are in our power, we are in the present, we are taking care of our inner child. Our nervous system isn’t activated. We aren’t in fight, flight, freeze, or fawn.   And, for HSPs or internalizers, big feelings and big reactivity can be scary. When big feelings come at us, they rattle our nervous system. HSPs often have intuitive gifts growing up but internalizing stuff and repressing relationship issues as adults can suppress intuitive gifts. The nervous system doesn’t feel safe. We can’t choose what we want to suppress and expect our intuitive gifts to open up and be expressed.   When you suppress anything you suppress everything.   Enrollment for the 2022 Elementum Coaching Institute is open. It begins mid-March. It is a 9-month comprehensive coaching certification program. It is a mix of learning the best coaching materials compiled into one curriculum. On Feb. 10, 2022, I will have a webinar, so be on the lookout for an email from me.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you consistently triggered in your relationships and wonder why you are having the same argument over and over? Did you grow up in a home where your needs were not met? Maybe you couldn’t speak up for yourself or didn’t feel empowered. Are you someone who is great at confrontation or do you avoid conflict? When you are in a situation of reactivity or frustration comes at you, do you fight, flight, freeze, or fawn or do you respond in a regulated way?   Angela’s Question: Angela is triggered by situations in her family and struggling in her relationships. She would like guidance on how to build harmony in her home.   Angela’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is in a 10-year relationship with her partner. She has a blended family. She is doing personal development work around what in her past may be triggering her. She wants to build harmony in her home. She was invalidated when she was younger. She had to care for her younger brother when her step-father passed. She gets triggered quickly. Her family has had to leave three different houses. Her partner is quick to anger. She believes a lot of the issues are about power dynamics. She believes men can’t handle their anger. There is a power struggle in her relationship.   How to Get Over It and On With It: To stand in her healthy feminine and learn how to not personalize what confronts her. Don’t time travel, stay in her adult self, and stay calm while her partner is reacting or explosive. Allow little Angela to stand up for herself and have a voice. Tell her partner how his actions affect her and maybe listen to this episode together. Bring things out into the open. No more sweeping stuff under the rug.   Takeaways: Get out of the fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. Don’t time travel in highly reactive situations so you can respond as an adult and be in your power. Try to have a conversation with your partner in a calm place to remind them that you agreed not to talk to each other in that way.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

So many of us are trapped in a never-ending to-do list, looking for the next solution to make us more efficient. But often what we’re left with is feeling inadequate, overwhelmed, burnt out and alone. Madeleine Dore is a writer and interviewer who explores how we can broaden the definition of a day well spent, through regular life experiments and events to examine how creativity isn’t just something we do, but how we approach our lives. Madeleine spent five years looking for the secret to productivity, only to find there isn’t one. Instead, she reveals, we’re being set up to fail. Her new book, I Didn’t Do The Thing Today, encourages us to say no to more time management techniques and yes to the joyful messiness and unpredictability of life  Dore has been asking creative thinkers how they navigate their days on her popular blog Extraordinary Routines and podcast Routines & Ruts. She regularly conducts life experiments and hosts events to examine how creativity isn’t just something we do, but how we approach our lives.

This episode is about making self-honoring choices that empower us. Today’s caller, Jade, wants to break the cycle of being in broken and toxic relationships. We work through helping her connect the dots of needing validation from her current relationships to being disempowered by her mother when she was a child and guidance on how she can break the cycle.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode332]   On-and-off-again relationships are a huge red flag. Some relationships need a break where both people can take time apart and work on themselves individually. When they come back together they decide to work through future conflicts together or that the relationship is not working and dissolve it. But, an on-again-off-again relationship demonstrates that the issues in the relationship are not being dealt with. It is a ping-ponging cycle of neither partner changing. If you are in an on-again-off-again cycle I invite you to turn it off for good.   If you are in a toxic or on-again-off-again relationship, think about the consistent feelings that come up, ride those feelings back in time, ask those feelings what they are reminding you of, and then deal with it.   When we think about connecting the dots of our current challenges to our past it is not always obvious. Often, when we have a “decent” upbringing we overlook the challenges because there isn’t a major trauma that sticks out. Not feeling good enough for a parent and constantly feeling like you need to do what they need you to do, or become some version of yourself they approve of, is a big hurt.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a pattern of being in on-again-off-again relationships? Did you grow up with a parent who was hard on you? Did you hear the phrase “I’m really disappointed in you” a lot? When you do try to end toxic relationships, do you feel so guilty and worried about upsetting the other person that you don’t break up or maintain your boundaries? Do you feel empowered in your life and specifically in relationships? Do you find yourself consumed by the fear of rejection?   Jade’s Question: Jade feels anxiety about her pattern of entering toxic relationships. She wants to know how it connects to her past and guidance on how to heal her inner child.   Jade’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has been in a cycle of broken/toxic relationships. She tries to adjust herself to the other person. She feels anxious, ashamed, and angry with unpredictable people. Her mother made her feel not good enough and ashamed if she didn’t meet her mother’s standards. She is seeking validation and acceptance in a relationship. She didn’t have a chance to build a relationship with her mother until she was an adult. Her mother disempowered her by not allowing her to make her own decisions. She attracts people who make her feel that she is not enough. Her mother forced dancing on her and she wasn’t able to make her own decisions. She is afraid to lose love and validation. She takes on responsibilities that are not hers.   How to Get Over It and On With It: End her relationship without any guilt. Explain to her partner’s daughter why she is breaking up. Tell herself she is not responsible for making sure everyone else is okay. Hold off on dating for a while. Investigate healing her mother wound. Acknowledge herself for stepping into self-honoring choices and empowerment.   Takeaways: You are not responsible for how other people feel.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This episode is about healing wounds, feminine or masculine. Today’s caller, Emily, wants to heal her sister wound. She has struggled with feeling judged or rejected by other women and fears being vulnerable with them. She would like guidance on how to make new female connections without being anxious. Anyone who may have wounds from their past when it comes to belonging will benefit from listening to this session.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode331]   When we are teased, bullied, or have a strict, oppressive, or critical parent we develop an inner critic. Our inner critic can be much worse to us than the original offender was. Because we think if we are harder on ourselves than they were to us we will be more equipped to handle the adversity and pain. We believe it will hurt less when others do it. But, when we have a fierce inner critic it is impossible to be authentically ourselves.   When it comes to making friends and being vulnerable we have to dim down the voice of our inner critic. Because our inner critic creates fear and doubt within ourselves and puts up walls, masks, and facades. But, when we show up authentic and honest we are lovable. We fit right in.   Remember, childhood wounds are not something we heal in a few days. Part of the healing is to become aware of our patterns and practice transforming them.   We heal the sister wound by getting honest and vulnerable with our sisters.   Listeners of this show are invited to attend a free training session from Steven Kessler. His The Secret to Better Relationships: Let the Insight of 5 Personality Patterns will show you how to create thriving relationships. To register for the Wednesday, January 19th session at 11 am PST or 2 pm EST, go to ChristineHassler.com/Steven.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a wound when it comes to belonging and making friends? If you identify as a woman, do you have a sister wound and find it hard to make friends with other women? Did you grow up in a family with a parent or step-parent that was super critical of you and now you have a worse inner critic? Is it often hard for you to be vulnerable and to feel seen? Do you second guess yourself when it comes to interactions with other people?   Emily’s Question: Emily struggles with vulnerability, judgment, and rejection and would like guidance on how to heal her sister wound.   Emily’s Key Insights and Ahas: She feels anxiety when making new connections or strengthening existing connections. She gets stuck in her head a lot. She fears being judged, rejected, and vulnerable. She attended the Inner Child workshop. She wants authentic relationships. Her inner critic keeps her from being authentic. At age 7, her parents divorced. Her mom had a 15-year relationship with someone who was critical of her. She felt her mom didn’t protect her. She feels anger toward women. She does not feel a sense of belonging with other women but she wants to be part of the group. She has competing intentions.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Journal about what she learned about women and what she thinks relationships with women could be. When interacting with women, keep herself present. When with a woman, or a group of women, internally remind herself that the past is the past. She is in the present and no one is judging her. Console her inner child and provide her with the protection she didn’t get from her mother. Initiate a friendship with a woman she can be vulnerable with. Talk to her inner critic in compassionate ways.   Takeaways: Practice working with your inner critic to come across more authentically. Explore the inner feminine wound by completing these sentences in a journal: “My beliefs about women are …”            “What I learned about female relationships as an adolescent is …”             “Female friendships are …”                        “When I think about being friends with women …” It is time to find your soul sisters and brothers. Find friends that are family.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Teri Cochrane is the founder of the Global Sustainable Health Institute® and an international thought leader in longevity. Through her decades of clinical work, Teri has developed The Cochrane Method®, a future-facing, multisystem health and longevity model. This model examines the intersection of genetic expression due to pathogenic and environmental causes, energy, and her clients’ unique personal blueprint. Teri specializes in solutions to complex health conditions and serves world class athletes. She is the author of the Amazon best-selling new release book, The Wildatarian Diet: Living As Nature Intended. Visit: https://tericochrane.com/discount/Christine10 and you can use the code “Christine10” and get 10% all supplements   

This episode is about having a pattern of needing to be in a relationship and feeling like something is missing if you don’t have a person. Today’s caller, Lee, has a lot of awareness, but something is missing, and that is being able to access and release his anger. We work through how to release his anger, grieve his childhood, and step into his power.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode330]   If we grow up in a household with a lot of anger, we think all anger is that way. Yet, anger itself is not bad. It is what we do with anger that can be harmful to ourselves or others. Anger projected onto others through words, yelling, abuse, or violation is unhealthy and dark. Anger directed inward such as being hard on yourself, having a bad inner critic, or self-harming is also unhealthy anger. Yet, anger itself is a natural human emotion.   If we get our anger out in a safe way we show up more grounded and more present. We become calmer. Remember, we never want to direct our anger at someone and never inward onto ourselves. We want to get a pillow and let our anger out to allow the parts of us that are angry a chance to heal.   Releasing anger is an important way we become empowered. Often, what makes us needy is that we haven’t found our fierceness or our voice and we are always looking for somebody else to make us feel a certain way. But, when we can get our anger out and step into our power we stop looking to others to fill a void.   If you missed my Release 2021 Ritual Coaches Corner make sure to do it before doing the Calling in 2022, Stepping Into the New Year Ritual.   Enrollment for the Elementum Coaching Institute is open. Become a master coach upon graduation from the 2022 program.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like something is missing if you are not in a relationship? Do you tend to attract people with an avoidant attachment style? Did you grow up with one or both parents that were either neglectful or abusive? Did you feel unwanted as a child and are consistently trying to love yourself but you can’t seem to let the unloved feelings go?   Lee’s Question: Lee always feels that something is missing in his life. He feels he is drawn to people too quickly.   Lee’s Key Insights and Ahas: He strives to work on his physical and mental health. He feels something is missing in his life. Being with another person makes him feel safe. He uses relationships to fill a void. He has an anxious attachment style. He was neglected and abused in childhood. His father tore the family apart. He felt unwanted and not good enough as a child. He does things to self-soothe. He represses his anger and turns it inward. He outsources his self-worth to other people. He is needy in relationships.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Have compassion for himself. Allow his inner child to fully grieve. Let his anger out to release his emotions. Examine the conscious and subconscious vows he made to not be like his father. Step into his masculinity and power.   Takeaways: Do the Anger Release exercise to move the energy of anger out. Are there any conscious or unconscious vows or oaths you made to never be like someone? If so, you may be denying a part of your expression and it is likely holding you back from authenticity.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Christine leads you through part two of her annual new year’s ritual and guides you through a meditation / visualization to consciously call in 2022. You can access the breathwork and meditation series Stef and Christine created and get a holiday discount using code HOLIDAY at https://christinehassler.com/breathwork/

This episode is about discerning intuition from fear-based thoughts. Today’s caller, Tamy, doubts herself and uses constant learning as a compensatory strategy when she may not have fully integrated the information she has already gathered. If you have ever wondered if your feelings are fear-based or truly your intuition, or struggle with self-doubt, this is a great session to tune into.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode329]   We often try to compensate for our self-doubts by people-pleasing, caretaking, obsessing about how we look, or being on a constant train of achieving or learning. Too much learning can be compensation for where we feel self-doubt.   You can be in radical self-acceptance or confidence, and still know there are things you are practicing and integrating.   When we truly listen to our intuition and when we are on track with our personal development work, we stay aligned. We won’t get on an ego-driven path. Ego-based success and compensatory success are houses of cards. And, that is what we fear because we can start to feel like a fraud. We feel as if we could lose everything. If you listen to your intuition, you will stay on a path of success that is sustainable.   Start paying more attention to how your intuition works. Start with little things. Intuition comes in more clearly when we are not distracted. The less we distract ourselves with thoughts of self-worth, validation, and acceptance the more space our intuition has to present itself.   If you missed my Release 2021 Ritual Coaches Corner make sure to do it before doing the Calling in 2022, Stepping Into the New Year Ritual available this week.   We have a holiday gift for you this January. Get $30 off of our Breathwork and Guided Meditation series. Use promo code ‘holiday’ at christinehassler.com/breathwork.   The Early Bird discount for the Elementum Coaching Institute ends December 31, 2021, so get your application in.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you sometimes wonder if the information you’re getting or if the thoughts you are having are your intuition or fear? Are you addicted to learning, always believing there is more you need to learn? Do you doubt yourself or struggle with self-acceptance? Do you have a fear of success; not just failure, but a bit of fear of success?   Tamy’s Question: Tamy wants to know how to recognize and trust her intuition and get rid of self-doubt.   Tamy’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is an intuitive person. She fears taking action. She has developed ways to rely on herself. She judges herself and doubts her abilities. She feels she doesn’t know enough. She has higher standards for herself than she does for others. She has been chronically learning without leaving time for integration. She fears success.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Listen to her intuition and consider where she is being guided next. Consider how her thoughts make her feel. If it makes her feel fear it is not her intuition. Respond to the guidance she gets.   Takeaways: Journal about what would happen if you are successful. Start with ‘If I am successful then…’ and see what comes up for you.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Welcome to my annual two-part ritual to complete this year and step forward into the next with intention!  In this episode, I guide you through a step-by-step process to complete 2021 with awareness and intention and let it go! And stay tuned for next week's episode where I offer you a process to receive 2022. I record these fresh every year so be sure to tune in even if you are familiar with the process :)

This episode is about prioritizing ourselves and our children. Today’s caller, Aprisa, is a single mother who looks to others to get her needs met. She had a traumatic childhood and has not yet healed her inner child wounding. We also discuss depression and how highly-sensitive people have more proclivity to depression because feeling big emotions can feel scary.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode328]   With single parents, the rightful roles of parent and child can get a little murky. It is important not to hide our emotions from our children. It is okay for them to see us sad or angry but we want to make sure they know it is not their responsibility. Sadness doesn't last forever but it is important to feel it because when we hold down our emotions they get stuck.    What often happens with people who are depressed is that they don't know what to do with their big feelings. They end up being distant, irritable, or sad. When what they need to get at is their anger, rage, grief, shame, and other big feelings. Oftentimes, when someone is diagnosed with depression it is important to look at the root cause and what else could be going on. And, many times the diagnosis of depression can be limiting.    When we suppress our feelings and are not connected with our inner child we can collapse into the subconscious programming, patterning, and time travel when we are triggered.   Be on the lookout for my soon-to-be-released Year in Review episode and join me in releasing 2021 and calling in 2022.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you an introvert or a highly sensitive person who has a proclivity to depression, especially when you suppress emotions? Have you found yourself parentifying a spouse or partner? Or, are you spousifying your child?    Aprisa’s Question: Aprisa is triggered by her traumatic past and doesn’t feel her needs are being met in her current relationship.   Aprisa’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is a single mother. She has abandonment trauma from her past. She just moved to a new continent with her son. She is currently in a relationship and puts her boyfriend before herself and her son. She has been clinically diagnosed with depression. She feels her needs are not being met. She wants to feel peace and not be triggered. She has big emotions and doesn't know how to explain them. She looks to her partner to heal her inner child. She gets triggered and emotionally falls back on her subconscious programming.  She is passing on her anxious attachment style to her son.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Reduce the burden on her son by reframing how she explains her depression to him. Create a secure attachment to her son to bring her closer to her inner child. Acknowledge her big feelings and realize she is not doing anything wrong. Connect to her inner child and love and parent herself with love and compassion. Resist the addiction to codependency. Prioritize herself and her son.   Takeaways: Listen to my Coaches Corner #286 — Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess with Dr. Caroline Leaf. Remember, you have the power to transform and heal, no one else can do it for you.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Another dear friend of mine joins me on the podcast today to discuss how to tap into and trust your intuition, the importance of leaving unhealthy relationships and the magic and power of animals. Alyson Charles is a shaman and spiritual teacher who is devoted to living by the calls of inner wisdom, mysticism, energy medicine, and shamanic practices she has mastered through her studies with spiritual teachers, both of and beyond this world. She leads global courses, events, and talks to reconnect people to their fullest power and confidence through sacred practices and rituals. Alyson's power animal shamanic journey was named a top meditation to try by O, The Oprah Magazine, and she has collaborated with a range of media outlets and brands, including the New York Times, HBO, National Geographic, Well + Good, mindbodygreen, Forbes, Elle, and Self.   You can pre-order her beautiful new book here: https://www.alysoncharles.com/animalpower

This episode is about making self-honoring choices without feeling selfish. Today’s caller, Pooja, has a beautiful relationship with her parents but is torn between pursuing her dream of being a life coach and staying in the U.S. or moving home to be closer to her aging parents who miss her. This episode will help you to get out of limbo and make decisions that feel selfish.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode327]   We want to make choices that are aligned with us versus a “should.” Choices made from “should” create a higher likelihood of resentment. We either end up resenting the people who pulled us to make the choice or we resent ourselves for making the choice because we feel like we betrayed and abandoned ourselves, which is never a good situation.   Whenever you feel the pull of both duty and desire, ask yourself what the most self-honoring choice is, because when we make the most self-honoring choice we are less likely to feel resentment later. We show up more authentically in our relationships when we make choices that are self-honoring.   Choose something, start to take steps forward, and then if you need to choose something else, you can.   If you are considering becoming a great coach, the $2,500 early bird discount for enrollment in ElementumCoachingInstitute.com ends on December 31, 2021. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com if you have specific questions.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you struggling with a decision or choice, or have you been in limbo and it is causing you a lot of anxiety? Are you often torn between what you want to do and duty, obligation, or love you feel for your family that is pulling you in a different direction? Do you live far away from your parents or your family and feel a pull to be closer to them but also pull to stay where you are because you love it? When you make a choice that feels self-honoring does it feel selfish to you?   Pooja’s Question: Pooja is transitioning careers and is not yet ready to return to India to be with her aging parents. She would like guidance on whether to return or to follow her dream.   Pooja’s Key Insights and Ahas: She moved to the U.S. with the intention of returning home after a work assignment. She and her husband have been in the U.S. since 2013. She is going through a career transition. Her parents may expect her and her husband to return to India. Her dream is to be a life coach. She is torn between duty, obligation, and love. She hasn’t had a heart-to-heart conversation with her parents about her dream. Her values are aligned with her parents’ values. Her parents have given her freedom in her life and have never asked her for anything. Her parents are aging but healthy.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Make a decision without expectations or “shoulds.” Have a conversation with her parents about her dreams and goals. Commit to a decision and know that she can change it if she feels a nudge from her intuition. Keep in contact with her parents via video.   Takeaways: If you are struggling with a decision/choice, remember you are not locked in. Empower yourself by getting out of limbo.   Sponsor: STORYWORTH — Do you have your gifts ready for the holidays? A thoughtful and meaningful gift you can give a family member is Storyworth. Storyworth helps your family share stories through thought-provoking questions about their memories and personal thoughts. Storyworth has helped numerous families learn about each other in profound and special ways. After a year, Storyworth compiles the stories and pictures in a keepsake book that ships for free. Give the important people in your life a meaningful gift Storyworth.com/overit and get $10 off your first purchase.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This episode is incredibly educational when it comes to our attachment styles.  I talk with licensed psychotherapist Ellen Boeder about how attachment styles are formed, how they impact our adult relationships, and what we can do to heal them so we can have more secure attachments. A little more about Ellen . . . She has been a therapist since 2003.  She has a strong background in yoga and meditation, and her graduate training in Transpersonal Psychology also deeply inform her work.  Since getting married 12 years ago, and becoming a mother to two children, Ellen transitioned from working primarily with women to focusing on couples.  Ellen is trained in PACT, a therapeutic modality for couples founded by Stan Tatkin, PsyD., that synthesizes attachment theory, neuroscience, and affect regulation models to support couples in creating an enduring and nourishing relationship through secure functioning. In addition to maintaining a part time private practice, Ellen is on faculty for the Relationship School—a business founded by her husband Jayson Gaddis that provides in depth relationship education for anyone who wants to learn, as well as training for relationship coaches. 

This episode is about setting healthy boundaries and speaking our truth. Today’s caller, Nicole, grew up in an unhealthy family dynamic. Her grandmother didn’t accept her family and tried to split them up. She wants to be at peace with the situation but has not yet dealt with her anger. During the holidays, if you are the one who is breaking generational patterns, you may be called selfish or righteous. It can be a difficult place to be put in. But, I encourage you to stand in your truth.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode326]   So many families use guilt and obligation to get people to do things. If you don’t play into it then you may be told you are uncaring or disappointing. But, remember, guilt and obligation are not love. Just because you say no or have a boundary does not mean you do not love your family; it just means you are not playing into the unhealthy family dynamic.   Love itself is unconditional. You can love your family and have compassion for them but relationships are not unconditional. You wouldn’t stay in a relationship if the person lied, cheated, or took your money. And, just because someone is a blood relative doesn’t give them the right to have a relationship with you if they are violating certain boundaries. We can all have loving boundaries and have compassion for people but not tolerate their behavior. I don’t believe that just because someone has had a hard life and has been hurt, that they should have a get-out-of-jail-free card to mistreat other people.   We don’t have to let that into our lives. Just because someone has had a hard life it doesn’t give them the right to make our life hard.   Considering becoming a coach? Take a moment to listen to my Coaches Corner episode #312 with Alexi Parnos, co-founder of ElementumCoachingInstitute.com.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel guilty if you shut certain people, especially family members, out of your life? Are you carrying around anger or resentment about how you’ve been treated by your family? Are you mad at your parents for not sticking up for you inside of their family? If you are a parent, what do you want to teach your child about family dynamics?   Nicole’s Question: Nicole is considering cutting her father’s family out of her life and would like guidance on how to navigate through an unhealthy family dynamic.   Nicole’s Key Insights and Ahas: Her father’s family tried to split her parents up. She wants to cut her father’s family out of her life. Her grandmother wants to form a relationship with her daughter. She is holding onto hurt and anger. She wants to be at peace with the situation. She hasn’t recognized the impact the situation has had on her. She played a therapist for her mother as a child. Her father was afraid to stand up for his own family. Her grandmother sends passive-aggressive notes. She gets triggered by her grandmother.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Process her emotions to move into forgiveness. Do the Empty Chair process and have a conversation with little Nicole about what she needs and give her a voice. Mother her inner child. Let herself release her anger or write an FU letter. Set boundaries and open her heart.   Takeaways: Get honest with yourself about unhealthy family dynamics. Will this be the year you speak your truth? Will you have a care-frontation conversation about what is going on? Or will this be another year of people-pleasing, swallowing your feelings, and having guilt and obligation, or just avoiding your family altogether?   Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — Delivers life-changing comfort for your body with high-quality underwear, sleep, and loungewear. Thirdlove obsesses over every stitch. Visit the Fitting Room and take the quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect bra size and style. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes, and great-fitting, comfy loungewear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your new favorite Seamless wireless bra or loungewear. They have a 100% fit guarantee.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you are interested in becoming a coach or already are a coach and want to be even more impactful, don't miss this episode.  You've heard me talk about the coaching certification program I co-founded with Stef, Preston Smiles and Alexi Panos.  Today, my dear friend and partner, Alexi, joins me as we take a deep dive into describing the Elementum Coaching Institute.   We cover: why and how it's different from other certification programs, how it's structured, what you learn, what you receive, and SO much more.  If you've been considering enrolling in Elementum, this episode will answer so many of your questions.   A little more about Alexi . . .   A leader in the Emergent Wisdom movement,  Alexi Panos was named as one of FORBES Top 11 Women Entrepreneurs, INC's magazines TOP 10 ENTREPRENEUR'S CHANGING THE WORLD, one of Origin Magazines TOP 100 CREATIVES CHANGING THE WORLD, and is a featured expert in the films THE ABUNDANCE FACTOR, RISEUP and AGE OF THE ENTREPRENEUR.  Alexi is a  Master Leadership and Embodiment trainer  and co-founder in The Bridge Method workshops and The Elementum Coaching Institute, host of the Top 10 Self Improvement Podcast UNLEASHED, business strategist, filmmaker and humanitarian (through her organizations E.P.I.C. and The Sisters Society); and as a bestseller, Alexi has authored the books 50 WAYS TO YAY! and NOW OR NEVER, both by Simon & Schuster. Alexi is a proud mama to 4 kids and currently lives in Austin, TX.  Follow her on Instagram and Youtube @alexipanos. www.alexipanos.com @alexipanos

This episode is about healing sexual blocks in relationships. Today’s callers, Adam & Reanna, want to heal past trauma and have a healthy sex life together. I guide them through an exploration process. This session is useful even if there is no trauma in your past; It is an intimate process that brings couples closer together. And, because in many ways sex is something still taboo to talk about, and often shamed, I want to normalize the conversation.    [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode325]   Many times, we think men are the ones who want more sex but it's not gender, sexual identity, or sexual orientation specific. It is life-experience specific. Our experiences impact our sex life. There isn’t a childhood trauma that doesn't impact our sex life, even if there is no sexual abuse. Any kind of childhood trauma impacts our emotional, mental, financial, and sex life.   We often forget about intimacy and what a turn-on intimacy can be, even when we are dating. Our bodies talk to us. Especially as women, if we do not feel safe in our emotional body, our physical body will give us signs. And, many of the blocks in couples’ sex lives arise because they aren't reaching the levels of deeper emotional intimacy.   Having healthy sexuality is more than just having a good sex life. It is about feeling comfortable in your body, enjoying the sensual experiences of life, and knowing what your turn-ons are. When it comes to sex many of us consider the performance and pleasing the other person versus what feels good.    Healthy sex is about feeling alive and vital and creative. We don't need a partner to have great sexuality and a great sex life. Sexuality and sex is about more than the physical act. It is an energetic experience.    Get my free 2-part Sacred Union process at ChristineHassler.com/SacredUnion. If you are in a relationship or you are your own beloved this is a great process to increase intimate connection in your life.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have sexual trauma or any other type of trauma that shows up in relationships? Is sex hard for you? Do you mentally want to be able to do it but when it comes to the physical act your body just shuts down and you experience trauma triggers? Are you someone who may have an overactive sex drive, sexual compulsion, sexual addiction, or do you look to sex to fill a void? Does your sex life in your relationship feel stagnant or that it needs some improvement or do you feel stuck?   Adam & Reanna’s Question: Adam & Reanna have sexual issues affecting their relationship. They would like guidance on how to have a healthy emotional and physical relationship together.   Reanna’s Key Insights and Ahas: Her mother didn’t talk with her about sex. She had a teacher be physically inappropriate with her. She was in a long-term relationship with a controlling person. She has trauma, shame, domestic violence, and PTSD in her life. She wants to do the work to have a healthy relationship with Adam.   Adam’s Key Insights and Ahas: He is frustrated because he wants to help Reanna heal. He wants Reanna to want to have sex with him. He sometimes thinks he is addicted to sex. He does not always feel worthy. He relies on physical intimacy to replace emotional intimacy.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Continue counseling and somatic therapy. Slowly and gently explore each other. Take baby steps to intimacy. Practice communicating their needs during the exploration process.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

We cover so much ground in this episode about diet, metabolism, hormones and overall health. Dr. Jade Teta is an integrative physician, author and expert in the realm of natural health, fitness, metabolism and self-development. He spent the last 25 years immersed in the study of strength and conditioning, hormonal metabolism and the psychology of change and success. He has written five books on metabolism, and coauthored the exercise and sports nutrition chapters, of The Textbook Of Natural Medicine. Dr. Teta runs both, Jade Teta,LLC and Next Level Human Inc., that combine his medical and fitness knowledge with his expertise in self-development and mindset change.  He writes and lectures extensively on the subjects of lifestyle medicine, natural health, and mindset change to both healthcare professionals and the public. His latest book is a daily meditation on making life changes and based on his 6 Powers.  Human 365 is available on Amazon.

This episode is about breaking a pattern. Today’s caller, Aimee, wants to end a relationship but keeps going back for more. She has a lot of awareness about why it isn’t healthy but she hasn’t taken the action to end it for good. We work through how she can find clarity and commit to her truth.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode324]   When we don’t feel integrated, when all of our parts are not working in harmony, or we have parts of ourselves we have abandoned, we can feel fragmented, off-balance, and lost. If you ever feel lost, ask yourself — what parts of me have I lost versus why am I lost or why do I feel lost? — then, think about what parts of yourself you need to bring back in and integrate.   We can get caught in a bind and judgmental of ourselves when our adult brain, our conscious mind is like — this is a terrible situation. Why am I here? We can’t seem to get out of it or we get out of the situation and we go back for more. It is because the subconscious is looking for an unmet need.   Healing comes when we give ourselves what we need, take action, and keep our promises to ourselves. Remember, feeling relief is an indicator that we are on our way to the truth.   Do you want to call in a healthy relationship and break patterns when it comes to dating and men? To start your journey and create an epic relationship, on November 30th, Stefanos and I will facilitate our last Be the Queen program for a while. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen to apply.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there a situation you are in, a behavior you repeat, or a relationship you know needs to end but you just can’t seem to get out of it? Do you find yourself calling something love or calling a relationship healthy or calling a situation okay but it isn’t? It is just familiar. Are you confusing true love and safety with familiarity and certainty? Are you abandoning your inner child by continuing to put yourself in situations that aren’t for your highest good?   Aimee’s Question: Aimee doesn’t know how to end her relationship of 11 years. She keeps going back and putting her needs aside.   Aimee’s Key Insights and Ahas: Her relationship is not loving, it is familiar. Her relationship doesn’t meet her needs. She feels disconnected and lost. As a child, she felt she had to earn her mother’s love. She has chronic trauma and doesn’t feel safe. She is ready to break her pattern of going back but feels guilty. She knows she will never be loved by her mother the way she wants. She doesn’t want to be in this relationship. She cannot tend to her inner child if she goes back to the unhealthy relationship. She finds it hard to get out of her head. She is scared to show her true self. It is time for her to receive.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Let her inner child grieve the pain for the love she didn’t get from her mother. Connect and commit to her inner child. Leave the relationship and get professional support. Stay committed and strong when she feels guilty. Write a letter or record the promises she is making to herself.   Takeaways: If you have a pattern you can’t seem to quit, ask yourself if it is what you think it is. If you need help connecting to your inner child, listen to the Inner Child Workshop at ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild.   Sponsor: STORYWORTH — is an online service that offers a unique gift. Storyworth helps your family share stories through thought-provoking questions about their memories and personal thoughts. Storyworth has helped numerous families learn about each other in profound and special ways. After a year, Storyworth compiles stories and pictures in a keepsake book that ships for free. Give the important people in your life a meaningful gift Storyworth.com/overit and get $10 off your first purchase.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Nate Klemp joins me to talk about "The 80/80 Marriage," a new model for balancing career, family, and love. The 80/80 Marriage pushes couples beyond the limited idea of “fairness” toward a new model grounded on radical generosity and shared success, one that calls for each partner to contribute 80 percent to build the strongest possible relationship. Drawing from more than one hundred interviews with couples from all walks of life, stories from business and pop culture, scientific studies, and ancient philosophical insights, husband-and-wife team Nate and Kaley Klemp pinpoint exactly what’s not working in modern marriage. Their 80/80 model of marriage provides practical, powerful solutions to transform your relationship and open up space for greater love and connection.   Learn more here: https://www.8080marriage.com/

This episode is about opening ourselves up to opportunity by courageously embracing change. Today’s caller, Marilyn, just turned 50 and feels lost in life and with no clear direction for her future. She has been playing it safe and fears making changes in her life. We discuss how she can listen to her intuition to be open to the opportunities that may come from shaking up her life.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode323]   Many of us have put up a wall to protect ourselves and as long as we are more invested in protecting ourselves from getting hurt, we are not going to be open to living into our full potential and achieving our heart’s desire. Because that protective wall keeps us from being hurt and blocks out the amazing possibilities that can come from having an open heart.   And, often, the older we get, the harder it can be to make changes in our lives. Because we become comfortable and complacent. Some people are happy with complacency. They are content in a rinse-and-repeat life, comfort zones, and doing the same things. It is totally fine that they find meaning in other things. But we grow when we put ourselves through challenges and in new situations. So, no matter what your age, instead of settling and giving up on new experiences, make some changes.   Are you a woman looking to call in your beloved? Do you put pressure on yourself to be in a relationship? To start your journey, on November 30th, Stefanos and I will facilitate our last Be the Queen program for a while. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen to apply.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you more comfortable playing it safe even if it means you don’t love your life? Do you consider yourself risk-averse unless you weigh all the options and it seems like a smart thing to do? Do you feel disconnected from the way you were as a child? Maybe you were brave,  creative, or outgoing as a child and as you’ve gotten older you’ve wondered where that person went? When you think about making a change do you focus too much on all things that could go wrong versus what could go right?   Marilyn’s Question: Marilyn feels lost and doesn’t have a clear path of what she wants for her future.   Marilyn’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is single and finds it easy to be alone. She thought she would meet someone more quickly. She feels lost and has a wall up. She is conservative in her actions to protect herself. She has done the inner child workshop. She has been with the same company for 20 years. She is considering relocating and finding a new position. She was a brave child. She is focusing on what could go wrong instead of opportunity.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Make a change. Shake her life up a little bit. Tap into her warrior woman. Consider what could be great about making a change. Do the empty chair process with her inner child.   Takeaways: Choose change or let life bring change to you. Take some risks. Start paying attention to things that could go right instead of what could go wrong.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

A friend and former yoga buddy of mine, Todd McCullough, joins me to dispel some myths about what it takes to transform your body and live healthy!  He's a fitness and mindset expert and takes us through a wonderful meditation at the end of the interview.   Todd attended University of Florida, where he was a starting football player. Like many athletes, he suffered numerous injuries. He had a career in finance at Merrill Lynch, and was laid off during the financial crisis of 2008. Todd knew it was time for a new direction. His football injuries led him to a yoga studio, where he discovered a way to move with his physical restrictions. This led Todd to merge his new passion for yoga with athletic training — and TMAC FITNESS was born. It began as a personal training business, where Todd trained thousands of clients, including Olympic athletes and celebrity artists. Eventually, it was time to scale. Now, TMAC FITNESS is an online membership-based company that provides short, fast, and effective workouts — with a strong emphasis on mindfulness. Todd's signature online program, TMAC 20, has helped more than 20,000 people get in shape and get their mind right from home.   Learn more here: https://www.tmacfitness.com/

This episode is about realizing control is just a protective behavior. Today’s caller, Beck, wants to feel safe and worthy of love without feeling the need to calculate and devise a plan to control the outcome of a situation. We work through ways she can express her emotions and voice her truth to meet her needs.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode322]   We all have, at some level, an addiction to control. We have different relationships with it and it is hard for us to completely be in uncertainty, non-attachment, and surrender. The more personal development work we do, the more we are able to step into those things but it is naturally human to have those kinds of controlling pieces come up.   Often, what we consider as controlling is a part of us that doesn’t feel safe. And, that part is trying to protect us. I also believe semantics and words are very important. No one wants to be called controlling.   It is hard to get leverage and to do the work we need to do on ourselves when we use a word that has a lot of judgment on top of it. Instead of thinking of your behaviors as controlling, think of them as protective behaviors. It feels better and makes it easier to understand, accept, and shift them.   Are you a woman looking to call in a man? Do you put pressure on yourself to be in a relationship? To start your journey, join our free live call on November 11th, and then on November 30th Stefanos and I will facilitate our last Be the Queen program for a while. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen to apply.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you find yourself fighting for control or manipulating situations to make yourself feel safe? Are you someone who holds your thoughts and emotions in for a long time? How are you asking for what you need? Think about your childhood and the times you got in trouble, or the times you were told you were naughty, or when you did something wrong, did you collapse the “I did something wrong” to mean “I am wrong”? Do you have an old childhood belief that because you did something bad or wrong it means you were wrong or unlovable?   Beck’s Question: Beck wants to explore her relationship with control and guidance on how to work through it to support herself in her relationship.   Beck’s Key Insights and Ahas: She’s been doing inner work. She fears being perceived as a controlling person. She manipulates situations to get what she wants. She experiences expectation hangovers. She controls things to protect herself. Her parents loved her, but it felt conditional when she did something wrong. She is afraid of losing love. She is sensitive and has big feelings. As a child, she couldn’t separate her actions being wrong from her being wrong. She creates distance in her partnership when she doesn’t show her true emotion. She doesn’t always know what she needs. Her partner struggles to handle her emotions. She tests people to see if they love her. She outsources getting her needs met.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Communicate her truth when she feels it. Ask for what she needs, consistently. Know she can make mistakes and still be worthy of love. Sprinkle the release of her emotions out when they arise, not to let the floodgates open after keeping them inside.   Takeaways: Realize that you can make mistakes and still be worthy of love. Look at where you are not speaking your truth. Emotions are better let out than kept in.   Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — Delivers life-changing comfort for your body with high-quality underwear, sleep, and loungewear. Thirdlove obsesses over every stitch. Visit the Fitting Room and take the quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect bra size and style. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes, and great-fitting, comfy loungewear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your new favorite Seamless wireless bra or loungewear. They have a 100% fit guarantee.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This is such a rich conversation about relationships, sex and sexuality, monogamy and love. Alexandra H. Solomon, PhD, is a clinical assistant professor in theDepartment of Psychology at Northwestern University, a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University,  and the author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own YourSexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (February 2, 2020; NewHarbinger) and Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the LoveYou Want (2017; New Harbinger), which was featured on the TODAY show. She is an international speaker and teacher whose work has been featured on six continents.  She is also a strong,positive resource on Instagram, where she has earned more than 160K followers to date.   Her website: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/

This episode is about mothering the inner child and connecting to the little one inside. Today’s caller, Nyikia, is working to give herself the love and compassion she didn’t get as a child but is having difficulty connecting with her inner child. We work through that connection and a daily practice she can use to nurture herself and her little one.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode321]   We are often good at giving others what we need to give ourselves the most. This is where we can fall into traps in relationships. Whether it’s romantic relationships, work relationships, or friendships, we can be loving, compassionate, loyal, and show up for others but the person we need to do that for is our inner child and ourselves.   We can’t go back in a time machine and change our parents or live a different childhood. But, remember, the mind doesn’t know the difference between a well-imagined thought and current reality. So, we can give ourselves the childhood we never had by being a mother or father to our inner child.   Join Us for a Special Master Class, “Calling Him In Masterclass”. Learn How to Attract a Man Who Is Your True Match So You Can Experience the Epic Soul Mate Love You Desire Nov. 4th at 5:00 PM PST. Sign up here:  https://christinehassler.com/lovemasterclass.     Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you have a mother or father who didn’t fall into the traditional role? Maybe, your mom wasn’t nurturing or your father was absent or not protective and you have a hard time connecting with that inner parent? Are you good at loving others and taking care of others but not so great at taking care of yourself? Have you done a lot of self-work in the last several years or months, but feel in some areas, especially with the inner child, you don’t know what to do or you are not making progress?   Nyikia’s Question: Nyikia is looking to heal and move past childhood issues but is finding it difficult to connect to her inner child.   Nyikia’s Key Insights and Ahas: She grew up with only her mother as a caregiver. Her mother was emotionally and verbally abusive. Her father was absent, for the most part. She has an adopted brother. She is doing personal development work to connect with her inner child. She has avoidant strategies and distracts herself. She wants to acknowledge her inner child. She longed for feeling safe when she was a child. Her IQ has been rewarded more than her EQ. She often shuts down her emotional releases. It is easy for her to find compassion for others but not for herself. Her inner child doesn’t feel worthy of nurturing.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Check-in with a picture of her as a child once a day. Tell her inner child how worthy she is of nurturing and love.    Takeaways: Check-in daily with your inner child and have a conversation. Re-visit the recording of the Inner Child Workshop at ChristineHassler.com/innerchild. Consider what you didn’t get as a child and how you can give it to yourself.   Sponsor: STORYWORTH — is an online service that helps your family share stories through thought-provoking questions about their memories and personal thoughts. Storyworth has helped numerous families learn about each other in profound and special ways. After a year, Storyworth compiles stories and pictures in a keepsake book that ships for free. Give the important people in your life a meaningful gift Storyworth.com/overit and get $10 off your first purchase.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

I am so thrilled to have one of my best - and also most powerful - friends back on the show.  Kate Reardon gives those in need of healing guidance the inspiration and tools for growth so they can achieve the unthinkable and conquer the impossible.  Kate is a qualified practitioner of Naturopathy and Nutritional Medicine, an Intuitive Metaphysical Healer, best-selling author, keynote speaker, facilitator, yoga teacher, devoted mother and host of the ever-popular, Lean In podcast.  Kate is the co-founder and managing director of Natural Instinct Healing, the internationally acclaimed and award-winning private Detox, Health and Wellness retreat centre in Bali - which now offers virtual cleansing retreats! Kate also mentors clients from all walks of life across the globe, including high profile celebrities, public figures, doctors, psychologists, business leaders and even royalty, treating and guiding each individual on a mind, body and soul level. Her best-selling book, “The Essential Cleanse” is the ultimate guide to unlocking the potential to drastically heal from the inside out.  When she’s not in the consulting room or preparing for a workshop, Kate can be found either being Mama bear to three beautiful girls, immersed in nature, soaking up a book or dancing her heart out! Register for her 7 day immersion here: https://go.naturalinstincthealing.com/free-vital-wellbeing-immersion Learn more about Kate here: http://katereardon.com.au/  

This episode is about obsessive thinking and anxiety. Today’s caller, Megan, wants to know why she obsesses over things such as decisions, relationships, and her body image. She would like guidance on how to shift her patterns but feels she may always have anxiety. We dial back the clock to discover why she adopted it as a coping strategy and work through how she can empower herself so her anxiety can be an alarm instead of a constraint.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode320]   One of the best things the mind does to deal with anxiety in the body is to obsess because it is a distraction and keeps us from feeling the physiological discomfort in the body. Anxiety is energy that is fast buzzing energy. This frenetic energy is in our minds and our nervous systems. It can be really overwhelming so we develop ways to do something with it or to turn it into something. When we obsess over things and think about things over and over and over again, it’s the way the mind is trying to deal with all that frenetic energy.   Obsessive thinking is a coping strategy. If we look at those patterns as alarm systems, have compassion for ourselves, and understand there is nothing wrong with us, it is easier to shift patterns like anxiety and obsessive thinking that are not serving us.   The hardest things to change about ourselves are the things that are protecting us. The patterns cling to us because they believe they are helping us like they had in our childhood.   If you are a woman looking for a man and put pressure on yourself to be in a relationship, the holidays can be challenging. In late November, join Stefanos and me for our Be the Queen program. This upcoming event is the last live event until at least next year. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen for more information. Sign up early and get access to the Bonus Call on 11/11/21.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are there things in your life you obsess about or just can’t stop thinking about? Do you obsess about your body, what people are thinking about you, or your dating experiences? Did you grow up with an anxious parent? Do you doubt your self-worth? Do you fear you will never be able to change the patterns you don’t like or judge yourself over?   Megan’s Question: Megan has a pattern of obsessing over things in her life and would like guidance on how to shift her obsessive thinking and to become more empowered.   Megan’s Key Insights and Ahas: She obsesses over body image issues, men, and romantic relationships. She feels her anxiety is robbing her sense of inner peace. She has done personal development work. She believes she has always had anxiety. Her mother was hard to predict and inconsistent. She gets frustrated trying to shift her patterns. She fears she will always have anxiety. She doesn’t speak up for herself or set self-honoring boundaries.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Be compassionate and make friends with her obsessions. Make a list of the things she is certain of and has control over in her life. Surrender and accept that her anxiety is trying to protect her from getting hurt. Focus on meeting her needs and speaking her truth by empowering herself. Listen to the Coaches Corner How to Navigate, Resolve, and Prevent Conflict with Jayson Gaddis.   Takeaways: When you feel anxiety, consider the highest purpose of your obsessiveness. How is it serving you? Do not put a label on yourself. Empower yourself to react to things differently.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

My guest today talks to us about what attention really is, how to focus it (and stop a wandering mind), and leverage our minds to not only bring us success, but peace. Dr. Amishi Jha is a professor of psychology at the University of Miami. She serves as the Director of Contemplative Neuroscience for the Mindfulness Research and Practice Initiative, which she co-founded in 2010. She received her Ph.D. from the University of California–Davis and postdoctoral training at the Brain Imaging and Analysis Center at Duke University. Dr. Jha’s work has been featured at NATO, the World Economic Forum, and The Pentagon. She has received coverage in The New York Times, NPR, TIME, Forbes and more. She is the author of the new book Peak Mind which we talk about in this episode.

This episode is about overcoming not-enoughness and meeting our own needs to be secure in relationships. Today’s caller, Boston, has a protective pattern from his childhood that shows up as jealousy. It is blocking him from feeling secure in his relationship. He is working to shift his jealous feelings and is asking for guidance to understand the origin of his feelings and heal his anxious attachment style.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode319]   We are human. We are going to have patterns and we are going to have programming. There will be feelings that come up. There may be anxiety, OCD, insecurities, jealousy, co-dependence, people-pleasing, etc. It is not who you are. I say it again, it is not who you are.   Just because you have jealousy doesn’t mean you are a jealous person. Just because a pattern comes up for you, jealousy, or anything else you want to shift, it doesn’t mean you are that pattern. It is so important that whenever we are working to shift something, we accept it. The more we judge and shame ourselves, the more it sticks and the harder it is to change. So, if you are trying hard to change things about yourself, do not make yourself miserable. Being aware and accepting your patterns is the path forward.   Often, we make things more complicated than they need to be. Our primary desire is to feel safe, seen, heard, and loved. The more we get it from within ourselves the more we get it from others. The more we can acknowledge the tender parts inside of us the less we need external validation.   If you are a woman looking for a man and put pressure on yourself to be in a relationship, the holidays can be challenging. So, starting late November or early December, join Stefanos and me for our Be the Queen program. This upcoming event is the last event until next year. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen for more information.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you struggle with jealousy in your relationship even if there is no reason for it? Do you judge yourself for getting jealous? Did you grow up feeling like you fit into society, your family, or your peer group? Did you look or feel different, like you were not good enough? How are you at meeting your own needs?   Boston’s Question: Boston has a pattern of exhibiting jealousy in his relationships. He would like guidance on how to heal his triggers.   Boston’s Key Insights and Ahas: He recently started his personal development journey. He puts his jealous behavior on to his partner. He judges himself for his jealous tendencies. He is mentally working through his patterns to interrupt them. He has an anxious attachment style. He is looking for reassurance in his relationship. He grew up in an area where people were discriminatory. He had very little emotional connection with his parents. His parents argued a lot in his childhood. He didn’t feel good enough as a child. He was jealous of other families and the love he thought they shared. He moved to a new country at a very young age. He developed tough skin to protect himself. His partner is patient and understanding. He has old hurts and insecurity. His fear of losing his family is preventing him from enjoying it.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Understand his jealousy is trying to protect him. Be compassionate with himself when he is triggered. Remind himself he is enough. Talk to his younger self about what he needs and reassure himself. Ask his partner to work with him on his inner child work. Embrace and enjoy the life he has created.   Takeaways: For a refresher on healing your inner child, listen to the Inner Child Workshop.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you avoid or dread conflict or find you have too much of it in your life, you will find this episode so helpful! Jayson Gaddis is here to talk about his new book Getting To Zero: How to Work through Conflicts in your High-Stake Relationships and teach us SO much about how to have healthier relationships.  He is a relationship expert and sought-after coach, as well as the Founder of The Relationship School and host of the successful Relationship School podcast. Jayson leads the most comprehensive relationship training in the world of intimate relationships and partnership, as well as trains and certifies relationship coaches. He has a master’s in psychology and lives with his wife and two children in Boulder, Colorado.   Get the book and free goodies here:  https://www.gettingtozerobook.com/

This episode is about taking the pressure off of self-imposed timelines. Today’s caller, Elizabeth, has a sense of urgency. She feels she needs to get into a relationship and have children. But, at the same time, she is experiencing rejection, ghosting, and men leaving. She thinks she is doing something wrong.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode318]   For whatever reason, we put ridiculous timelines on ourselves. Who knows where they come from society, parents, or our inner critic. We also put unnecessary pressure on ourselves to be or to achieve certain things. And, all the while we’re not really paying attention to what we truly need to be learning. We miss out on the magic that can come from being present and in the moment.   And, enmeshment or co-dependence means that we are a little bit too reliant or dependent on another person to make us feel a certain way. We all want a mother to be the constant source of love and nurturing but we also want a mother to let us go on our way or let us suffer and find our own way.   If we have someone who always rescues us, how do we ever learn to rescue ourselves?   If you are a woman looking for a man and put pressure on yourself to be in a relationship, the holidays can be challenging. So, starting late November or early December, join Stefanos and me for our Be the Queen program. This upcoming event is the last event until next year. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen for more information.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you unconsciously put pressure on yourself or others and it is sabotaging you from getting the things you truly want? Did you have too close of a relationship with your mother or a parent? Do you feel a timeline or sense of urgency to get married, have babies, or accomplish something at a certain time? Would you say that you were an exceptional partner to yourself?   Elizabeth’s Question: Elizabeth feels she is the reason her relationships don’t work out.   Elizabeth’s Key Insights and Ahas: She feels she can’t get relationships right. She feels she has been called to have children. She was very close to her mother, maybe too close. She is trying to source her love through other people to fill the void. She clings on to men. She misses being in a close relationship. She didn’t develop her own sense of self. She is scared to voice her feelings in relationships.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Prioritize loving herself and individuating. Find her wise inner mother and untangle her enmeshment with her mother. Look back at past relationships and consider how she could do things differently. Write a reassuring letter to her future self that everything is going to be alright and then have her future self write back. Realize it wasn’t her fault that guys take off but she can take responsibility for her part in the relationship.   Takeaways: Listen to the Coaches Corner interview with Bethany Webster, The Mother Wound. If you feel pressured to get somewhere, write a letter to your future self and then have your future self write back to you about how everything works out. If you are in a pattern, ask yourself what wound is it bringing attention to that could be healed. Join the Be the Queen program.   Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — Delivers life-changing comfort for your body with high-quality underwear, sleep, and loungewear. They do comfort, so you can do you. Visit the Fitting Room and take the quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect bra size and style. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes, and great-fitting, comfy loungewear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your new favorite Seamless wireless bra or loungewear. They have a 100% fit guarantee.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Sex and sexuality. These are part of the human experience.  Yet for so many, sex and sexualty brings up shame, insecurity and even painful memories.  It is possible to enjoy your sexual expression no matter what you have been through while empowering yourself by learning about your preferences and consent.   There is no one better to discuss these topics with me than. Dr. Betty Martin. She has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years, first as a Chiropractor and upon retiring from that practice,  as a certified Surrogate Partner, Sacred Intimate, and Somatic Sex Educator.  Her explorations in somatic-based therapy and practices informed her creation of the framework, The Wheel of Consent®. As part of her work with the School of Consent, Betty travels around the world teaching practitioners how to create empowered agreements in their client sessions, in her highly sought-after training “Like A Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners.”  Wheel of consent videos: short: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7x2jAm3HxHM long; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=auokDp_EA80

This episode is about doing inner child work to heal the mother wound. Today’s caller, Abigail, feels she is struggling to connect with her feminine energy but we discover that she is being triggered by her circumstances and it is revealing a coping strategy she relied on in her childhood. We discuss ways she can make the most of this healing opportunity.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode317]   You can’t really tap into true masculine and feminine until you do inner child work. Because we can confuse being in our feminine or masculine energy with protective behaviors and coping strategies. It is important for us to find our divine mother and father energy but healing our childhood wounds is the starting point.   When past trauma in her child wounding is triggered, it is an invitation for us to deal with it by speaking to our little one and giving them a voice. It makes it much easier to trust because our inner child isn’t tugging at us telling us they are not okay.   What keeps some people from doing inner child work is that they think they have to relive their trauma or relive memories of their childhoods. It is possible to heal your childhood and connect with your inner child even if you have no memories or traumatic memories.   When we are given pauses in life, or when we feel we are in limbo, they are opportunities for us to focus on our inner work.   Join us for our LIVE Inner Child Workshop on October 8–10th. It will be the last live inner child workshop taught by Christine and Stefanos for a while. Get live coaching or attend the workshop online ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild. If you can’t make it live you can get the recording. If you need help financially go to ChristineHassler.com/Scholarship.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you struggling with identifying what is masculine and feminine energy? Or, you are not sure how to be in your masculine or feminine? Have you worked on the mother wound and know intuitively there is still more to do? Do you identify with being a caretaker? Someone who takes care of other people’s needs as a way to try and get your own needs met? As a child, were you more in the parent role than you were in the child role? Did a parent count on you for emotional support? Did they confide in you? Were you more of a friend to them and not allowed to truly be a kid?   Abigail’s Question: Abigail struggles with staying in her feminine energy.   Abigail’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has had a lot of uncertainty in her life. She has difficulty adjusting and trusting changes. She holds fear about changes in her life. She frequently changes her residence. She left her nursing career to be a doula. Her parents dealt with uncertainty differently. She didn’t have a good role model for embracing uncertainty. She didn’t feel safe as a child. Caretaking became a coping strategy for her. She beats herself up emotionally. She felt responsible for everyone else’s happiness. She wants to be free to express her needs. Her mom treated her like a friend and not a child. She feels worthless if she isn’t caring for others. Her partner feels safe to her.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Check-in with little Abigail to see how she is. Accept and have compassion for herself. Give her rage a voice and write an F-U letter to her mother. This is a healing opportunity for her. She is exactly where she needs to be. Join the Inner Child Workshop. Check out the Mother Wound Coaches Corner and the work of Bethany Webster.   Takeaways: Use the pauses in your life to give your inner child a voice and to heal unhealed wounding.   Sponsor: SOUL CBD — is a daily supplement to calm the nervous system and re-calibrate homeostasis. Soul CBD gummies, liquids, oils, topicals, and bath bombs are all 3rd-party-tested for toxins. Bring balance into your life and get 15% off AND free shipping in the U.S. at MySoulCBD.com/OVERIT.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Don't miss this episode with Bethany Webster where we discuss a wound we ALL have: the mother wound.  Bethany Webster is a writer, international speaker and transformational coach. She started blogging in 2013 about the Mother Wound and quickly experienced worldwide demand for her work. Through blending research on intergenerational trauma, feminist theory, and psychology with her own personal story, Bethany's work is the result of decades of research and her own journey of healing. Bethany speaks, consults and mentors around the world sharing her growing body of work that is raising the standard of women’s leadership and personal development. Learn more at www.bethanywebster.com Bethany's book: https://www.indiebound.org/book/9780062884442 Bethany's online course: https://www.bethanywebster.com/inner-mother-course/ Bethany's Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/innermother

This episode is about finding your passion by releasing repressed anger. Today’s caller, Illarion, feels lost. He is in his twenties and is struggling to find his purpose. Emotions from his childhood are bubbling to the surface of his unconscious. If you relate to this call and feel blocked, anxious, or lost, this episode will help you tap into your fire and find your voice.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode316]   So many of us that may be dealing with anxiety, depression, or feeling lost have a bit of indifference, hopelessness, and apathy we can slip into. That is a dangerous place because there is numbness. Whereas anger, if understood and expressed in a healthy way, is a very useful emotion. Anger is often the gateway to reaching our deeper hurts and it’s the thing that unleashes our passion. Repressed anger takes up a lot of energy. It is a fiery emotion that just sits inside of us. Passion is fire too. If we have a lot of anger that we haven’t processed, it can be a block to our creativity and passion.   A lot of creative and artistic people have trouble accessing their anger. It ends up manifesting as anxiety. When we have the creative archetype, there is also gentleness. We want to be the peacekeeper and avoid conflict. We don’t feel the warrior spirit because we are more on the creative side. However, when we don’t access our anger and our rage, it can hold our passion back.   It is often anger and resentment that keep us from getting to the true energy of forgiveness.   Join us for our LIVE Inner Child Workshop on October 8–10th. It will be the last live inner child workshop taught by Christine and Stefanos for a while. Get live coaching or attend the workshop online ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel stuck or lost in your life? Did you have parents that supported who you are but not 100% of the time? Have you analyzed and talked about your issues and have been in therapy but things are not changing? Is anger something that turns you off?   Illarion’s Question: Illarion feels lost and is struggling to find his purpose. He goes through bouts of loneliness, anxiety, and low self-worth.   Illarion’s Key Insights and Ahas: He moved to New York City. He is going through imposter syndrome. He doubts every choice he makes. His feelings go up and down. He may have unresolved issues from childhood. He has been in therapy for three years. He looks at what he should be instead of what he is meant to be. He didn’t feel he was able to be himself as a child. What he is going through is normal for his age. He is not sure he is lovable and enough for his parents. He doesn’t speak with his father. He hasn’t dealt with the anger he feels at his parents. He seeks approval from other people. He wanted someone to stick up for him as a child.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Tap into his anger and be pissed. Do the temper-tantrum technique at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease Write an F-U letter to his mom and dad without sending it to them. Go to a quiet place and expel rage while he punches a pillow. Find his fiery passion.   Sponsor: SOUL CBD — is a daily supplement to calm the nervous system and re-calibrate homeostasis. Soul CBD gummies, liquids, oils, topicals, and bath bombs are all 3rd-party-tested for toxins. Bring balance into your life and get 15% off AND free shipping in the U.S. at MySoulCBD.com/OVERIT   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This is an episode NOT to miss. My husband and I get so raw and vulnerable as we talk through something that upset Stef and triggered his inner child.  If you want an intimate look at how we work though triggers and comfort our own (and each other's) inner child, be sure to listen. You will learn so much about your relationship with your own inner child as well.  We all have a tender, sensitive little one inside who needs us to parent them with love, safety, acceptance and consistency.   If you want to learn more about the virtual retreat we are teaching on healing your inner child, please go here: https://christinehassler.com/innerchild/

This episode is about taking a stand for what we value. Today’s caller, Sebastian, is not getting his needs met in his relationship. He is attempting to talk through his issues, but the results are not changing. We discuss ways to get clarification from his partner about what she needs and how he can have his needs met by taking a stand for his values.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode315]   If communication solved every issue in a relationship, we could all just read communication books and have the most amazing relationships, friendships, and parental relationships. Everything would be easy. But, it is not. We need to do the inner work. We play out our childhood stuff in our adult life, especially in relationships.   When a child has emotionally unavailable parents, they learn to tolerate a lot more hurt. When they grow into adults, they may have a pattern of thinking things are better than they truly are in their intimate relationships.   In relationships, friendships, or any kind of intimate relationship, we often love and give in the way we want to be given to and loved, not necessarily the way that person needs or wants it.   We have to be bold when it comes to things like love, our families, our health, our well-being, and what is important to us. We must take a stand for our values.   Join us for our LIVE Inner Child Workshop on October 8–10th. It will be the last live inner child workshop taught by Christine and Stefanos for a while. Get live coaching or attend the workshop online ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you find yourself not being a firm stand for what you want in your life? Do you ever tiptoe around people afraid of upsetting them? Do you often feel disrespected in conversations or just not heard? Do you have some codependent patterns and let people walk all over you? Do you often find yourself with emotionally unavailable or avoidant-type people?   Sebastian’s Question: Sebastian feels he doesn’t get his needs met in his relationship and would like guidance on how to have a healthier relationship.   Sebastian’s Key Insights and Ahas: His relationship has ups and downs. Hurtful things are said between him and his partner. He and his partner have done couple counseling. He has a 10-year-old son with his partner. He feels disrespected by his partner. He loves his family. His partner finds it is overwhelming to deal with his emotions. He is trying to uncover and overcome the relationship issues. He is codependent.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Get curious about what his partner needs. Have a conversation about what each other needs emotionally. Stand in his strong, healthy masculine and ask his partner if she wants the relationship to work. Step into his power and take a stand for himself and the relationship.   Takeaways: Take a stand for your values. Be very clear about what you want and where you are going.   Sponsor: SOUL CBD — is a daily supplement to calm the nervous system and re-calibrate homeostasis. Soul CBD gummies, liquids, oils, topicals, and bath bombs are all 3rd-party-tested for toxins. Bring balance into your life and get 15% off AND free shipping in the U.S. at MySoulCBD.com/OVERIT   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you ever struggle with anxiety, worry or even depression, do NOT miss this episode.  One of the leading voices in personal development and transformation and an international bestselling author Mel Robbins joins Christine and gives a TON of soothing and practical advice for creating more calm in your life. Mel's work includes the global phenomenon The 5 Second Rule, the upcoming The High 5 Habit, four #1 bestselling audiobooks, the #1 podcast on Audible, as well as signature online courses that have changed the lives of more than half a million students worldwide.  Her groundbreaking work on behavior change has been translated into 36 languages and is used by healthcare professionals, veterans’ organizations, and the world’s leading brands to inspire people to be more confident, effective, and fulfilled. As one of the most widely booked and followed public speakers in the world, Mel coaches more than 60 million people online every month and videos featuring her work have more than a billion views online, including her TEDx talk, which is one of the most popular of all time. There’s nothing Mel loves more than making a real difference in people’s lives by teaching them to believe in themselves and inspiring them to take the actions that will change their lives. Mel lives in New England with her husband of 25 years and their three kids, but she is and will always be a Midwesterner at heart.

This episode will support you in getting through and to the other side of any kind of loss. Today’s caller, Regina, is a widow who is grieving over the loss of her husband. She says she regrets not being the best mother in the world and not living the life she wanted to live. She is questioning her purpose and experiencing quite a bit of apathy in her life.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode314]   Loss is an incredibly painful but inevitable part of our life. When it happens it is important we give ourselves time to grieve and not try to be strong and move on right away. But there comes a point in our life when life has to go on.   Whether it is the death of a loved one, a pet, a relationship, or a job, we can’t allow loss to suck the life out of us. Otherwise, we end up existing, not truly living. We honor those who transition by continuing to live.   People who deal with expectation hangovers often feel guilty to admit it but they tend to be apathetic to life. The reason for the apathy is the opposite of love is not hate. It is indifference or apathy. When we go through something challenging, especially if we are lonely through it, we allow our self-love tank to get so low that we slip into indifference. Without love there is apathy. Getting out of it requires choosing to live, not just to go through the motions; we need something we want to live for.   Give yourself permission to live for and find something that reconnects you back to love.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you recently been through a loss and can’t seem to move on? Have you been through a loss and are aware you need time to grieve? Do you tend to look back on your life and wish you could have done things differently? Are you at a point in your life where you are just existing and need to start living again?   Regina’s Question: Regina would like to move past her sadness and regret of not living the life she wanted.   Regina’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is approaching retirement. She is not in the place she thought she would be in her life. She lives alone. There is a part of her that doesn’t want to be anymore. She has regrets about how she raised her children. She doesn’t believe we get more than one love in our lives. Her husband was her best friend. She beats herself up a lot. She knows if she can create a negative story for herself, she is capable of creating a positive story, too.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Choose to create a future that is enlivening. Give herself permission to live and allow love in. Have a loving relationship with herself. Speak to herself as a loving mother would to a child. Forgive herself for being mean to herself. Write out some promises to herself.   Takeaways: Practice self-love. Consider that loved ones who have transitioned are angels and guides in your life. Accept that you did the best you could with the tools you had at the time. Content that focuses on overcoming regret.   Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — Delivers life-changing comfort for your body with high-quality underwear, sleep, and loungewear. Check out their new seamless Form line. Visit the Fitting Room and take the quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect bra size and style. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes, and great-fitting, comfy loungewear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your new favorite Seamless wireless bra or loungewear. They have a 100% fit guarantee.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Gay Hendricks has been a leader in the fields of relationship transformation and body mind transformation for more than 45 years. After earning his Ph.D. fromStanford in 1974, Gay served as Professor of Counseling Psychology at the University of Colorado for 21 years. He has written more than 40 books, including bestsellers such as Five Wishes, The Big Leap, Conscious Loving and Conscious Loving Ever After, (the last two co-authored with his co-author and mate for more than 35 years, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks). He is also a mystery novelist, with a series of five books featuring the Tibetan-Buddhist private detective, Tenzing Norbu, as well as a new mystery series featuring a Victorian-era London detective, Sir ErrolHyde. His latest book, Conscious Luck, reveals eight ways to change your fortune through the power of intention. Gay has appeared on more than 500 radio andtelevision shows, including Oprah, CNN, CNBC, 48 HOURS and others. His new book, The Genius Zone, was published in June, 2021.

This episode is about learning the tools to deal with triggers and the avoidant attachment style. This week’s caller, Mike, would like guidance on how to be more open-hearted and vulnerable in his intimate relationships. This session will be of service to those who have an avoidant style and for those who attract Avoidants. We discuss how to understand them and how not to take their actions personally.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode313]   Anything is healable. It doesn’t matter what is in your background, childhood, or past. I’ve seen it over and over again. Does it happen overnight? No. Is it always easy? No. Is it going to change overnight? Healable doesn’t mean we go from having an avoidant attachment style to being totally open-hearted, totally secure, and never having triggers.   Healing is not being perfect, not being free of any triggers but really learning how to work with those triggers, manage those triggers, so that they don’t become roadblocks in our life. Triggers can be alarm systems for growth and not a dead end. Awareness is not enough to heal.   People with an avoidant attachment style are not trying to avoid being close or being in love. They are trying to avoid rejection, hurt, and pain. When we are with an Avoidant, and they pull away or put walls up, it can make us feel as if we have done something wrong. But, we cannot take it personally. If you are with an Avoidant, the best thing you can do when they are triggered is don’t attack them, don’t tell them they are doing anything wrong, then reassure them that you are there and you love them.   On September 14th, Christine and Stefanos will teach a virtual group call at 5 pm PST.   Join us for our LIVE Inner Child Workshop on October 8‒10th. It will be the last live inner child workshop taught by Christine and Stefanos for a while. Get live coaching or attend the workshop online ChristineHassler.com/InnerChild.   Mike’s Question: Mike would like guidance on how to be more open-minded and open-hearted when approaching his relationships.   Mike’s Key Insights and Ahas: His marriage of 12 years recently ended. He emotionally shut down in his relationships. He has an insecure attachment style. Fear of rejection keeps him from being vulnerable. He was not loved for being himself as a child. He is self-aware. He feels as if his personal development work has stalled. He does not want to repeat the mistakes of his past. He is ready to date again. He has high standards. He puts walls up to protect himself. He struggles to be vulnerable. He feels he can apply the practical guidance.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Acknowledge himself for the personal development work he is doing. Start dating again. Lean into vulnerability. Accept himself for who he is. Have compassion for himself and his fear. It is okay to be scared.   Takeaways: On the field is the best way to get good at a game. We cannot run from hurt. We have to expose ourselves to triggers so we can integrate and deal with hurt and fear.   Sponsor: SOUL CBD — is a daily supplement to calm the nervous system and re-calibrate homeostasis. Soul CBD gummies, liquids, oils, topicals, and bath bombs are all 3rd-party-tested for toxins. Bring balance into your life and get 15% off AND free shipping in the U.S. at MySoulCBD.com/OVERIT   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

The feeling of being in love is the best. Not to mention the blissful feeling of certainty when we feel like you’ve met “the one” (finally!). You start fantasizing about the future and are convinced that the other person is on the same page you are. And then it ends. And you are not only heartbroken, but shocked because it seemed so right and you don’t understand what went wrong. I know that is not comforting if you are in the pain of a break-up, but understanding why the one you thought was going to be forever ended may offer you some relief. This Coaches Corner will help!

This episode is about stepping into your purpose and fulfilling your dreams. This week’s caller, Mike, thinks his problem is complex, but it’s not. His constant search of products and materials leads him to believe his next steps need to come from outside of himself. We discuss how he may be stalling by continuing to do research instead of listening to his internal inspiration and moving forward.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode312]   Dreams or anything we long for; the dreams we feel in our heart are different from the kinds of dreams we hope will make us feel better about ourselves, or fill a void. Those are ego-based desires. But, listening inside to hear our heartfelt dreams is part of our psychic ability. And, we are all a little psychic or intuitive.   We don’t long for something if we don’t feel that it is coming. If we have a premonition, on some level our dreams are already coming to fruition. We cannot control the exact timing of it. If we feel it and we want it, it may take a week or ten years because it takes time for dreams to evolve.   What stalls a lot of people from really stepping into sharing their gift, or serving people in a greater way, is they think they have to be perfect. To achieve our dreams, we just need to be honest, vulnerable, and committed, not perfect.   We have all the answers inside; we just need to take time to question ourselves and answer.   Consider/Ask Yourself What heartfelt dreams are calling you forward? Do you have a sense of what you want to do but are not taking action? Do you start a lot of projects but do not follow them through to completion? Are you waiting for some kind of answer or sign from the universe to make a decision?   Mike’s Question: Mike has a dream of becoming an entrepreneur but he lacks confidence in his decision-making process. He would like to break the cycle of never moving forward.   Mike’s Key Insights and Ahas: He wants to be an entrepreneur. He put his dream on hold when his daughter was born. He is always looking for the next big thing. He gets easily redirected. He lacks confidence in his decision-making process. He is a Preacher and motivator. He is good at inspiring others. He wants to make a difference in other people’s lives. He is in a cycle of frustration.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Let his inspiration drive his next steps. Let God use him as an instrument. Write his life experience resume. Meditate and recognize his unique gifts. Start with his big vision and work backward.   Takeaways: Write a life experience resume. Re-orient towards an internal direction. Listen to your own inner wisdom. Try it for thirty days. Answer these questions: Who am I here to serve? What can I offer? How can I deliver it?   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you ever compare yourself to anyone else, this episode is for you! Learn the difference between healthy and toxic comparison and how to form closer connections when comparison is gone. Melissa Ambrosini is the bestselling author of Comparisonitis, Mastering Your Mean Girl, Open Wide, and the Audible Original PurposeFULL as well as the winner of ‘The Best eBooks Of All Time’ as voted by Book Depository.    Melissa is the host of #1 rated podcast The Melissa Ambrosini Show, where she shares her wisdom and interviews with the biggest thought leaders and experts in the world to help her audience unlock their full potential and live their dream life.    When Melissa isn’t writing books and recording her podcast she is speaking on stages, teaching and creating online programs, meditations and life changing live events.   With a deep commitment to empowering others to become the best version of themselves, Melissa believes that awakening is possible for everyone. She strives to inspire others to reclaim their power, step into their truth, live with intention, and move in the direction of their dreams.

This episode is about making empowered decisions and changes with integrity. Today’s caller, Anne, is questioning whether or not she should leave her 25-year marriage. She feels she has tried to communicate her needs. We work through how she is communicating and whether or not she is being vulnerable enough to make an empowered decision.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode311]   Often, in masculine-feminine dynamics, it requires the feminine dropping into a deep vulnerability with no victim, no blame, no anger, no reason, just an open, heart-baring, soul truth that ignites the masculine to look within so it can open up.   When we are too much in hopelessness-helpless, when we are too much in victim, the only answer seems to be to get out of a situation because we don’t feel empowered.   One of the ways we get empowered is to look at our side of things and then we communicate vulnerably, because we are not empowered when we communicate emotionally, reactively, or with blame or neediness.   And remember, vulnerability is different than a victimy emotional reaction. It has a different frequency and people can hear us when we are vulnerable. They can’t hear us when we are emotional or blaming them. It puts their defenses up. They can’t hear the truth and intimacy of what we are saying when they are defensive.   Consider/Ask Yourself Are you torn about what to do in a relationship? Do you want to stay? Do you want to go? Do you tend to look at what someone else is doing wrong and all the ways that they’re not meeting your needs and maybe don’t look quite enough at how you’re perpetuating it? Are you aware of what your needs are? Are you good at communicating your needs? Do you feel in your gut that you just want to do something but you just can’t take the action?   Anne’s Question: Anne is struggling with the decision to stay in her marriage.   Anne’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has been married for 25 years and has four children with her husband. She feels she and her husband have grown apart. Her husband says he wants to make the marriage work. Her husband’s job and commitments took a lot of his time. She asked him to take more time with her and the children. She collected evidence of the ways he wasn’t showing up for the marriage. She doesn’t know if she still loves him. Fear may be driving her choice. There is some part of her that may be shut down. She wants to be loved by him.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Continue to have vulnerable conversations with her husband. Drop into her feminine vulnerability. Consider where she may have walls up around her heart. Use “I” language, not “you” language. Write out her fears, desires, and insecurities and read them to her husband.   Takeaways: If there is something you are looking at that you think is wrong and you just need to get out, consider where the decision is coming from. Are you empowered? Have you been vulnerable? Have you looked inside yourself to see if you are mad or blaming? Do you feel like a victim and feel like the only decision is to leave?   Sponsor: Organifi — has organic superfood blends that offer trusted plant-based nutrition. They are convenient and delicious. Many of us have the time or means to get the natural, fresh, organic vegetables we need. Upgrade your nutrition every single day with Organifi Gold, Organifi Vitamin C packs, or Green or Red Juice. For 20% off your order, go to Organifi.com/overit and use the code “OVERIT” at checkout to receive 20% off all products.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Brandy Gillmore, PhD in natural medicine, is a world-renowned mind/body energy expert who is well known for her discoveries in self-healing and working with the power of the mind to get tangible results. Her breakthrough work has been featured in an award-winning documentary and various docuseries. Brandy speaks on stages around the world and has also given a mind-expanding TEDx talk. Brandy’s expertise in self-healing originated from her own devastating accident that left her disabled and living in excruciating pain despite being on multiple medications, including morphine.  When doctors told Brandy there was nothing they could do, she became determined to find a solution. After  years of trial and error, she was able to make incredible discoveries with the mind that ultimately enabled her to heal herself. Today she uses these same discoveries to help others also get radical life-changing results. Today, Brandy works with top celebrities, Olympic athletes, CEOs, entrepreneurs, and groups worldwide sharing her leading-edge discoveries. Her goal is to help advance traditional research to bridge the gap between science and spirituality.   You can register for her free video event "Reprogram Your Subconscious Mind for Positivity, Healing & Successful Manifestation" here: https://christinehassler.com/reprogram

This episode is about taking the time to explore life and relationships. Today’s caller, Marley, is putting a lot of pressure on her current relationship. She future-forecasts instead of considering what the relationship may be able to teach her. We delve into how she can be curious, explore, and take the pressure off.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode310]   Often, we go into relationships wondering if the other person is the one, so much so that we miss out on what we can learn from the other person. It is important to let your early relationships be a discovery process and explore instead of collecting evidence about what may be wrong with the other person if they are THE one, or how to make every relationship the relationship of your dreams.   Every relationship is a growth opportunity. It is a misstep to base relationships on their longevity potential. Many times, we get into a relationship, and right out of the gate, we put pressure on it by wondering if the other person could be the one to marry or have children with instead of considering what the other person can teach us, what mirror they may be holding up, what parental patterns, wounds, or issues are they triggering? What could you be attracted to that is also a healing opportunity?   Enjoy where you are. Be curious, explore, and take the pressure off.   Have you listened to my Coaches Corner episodes recently? Check out Byron Katie on  — Loving What Is.   Consider/Ask Yourself When you are in a new relationship do you jump to — Is this the one? — and start to analyze it all out? Did you grow up in a home where there wasn’t a lot of emotional availability and you panic when you don’t have that in a partnership or friendship? Do you spend a lot of time trying to figure things out and not enough time creating and exploring and allowing things just to be? Are you more caught up in judging and changing someone else than looking at how you can meet your own needs?   Marley’s Question: Marley is struggling with her ability to let little things go and accept her partner for where he is.   Marley’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is aware and open with her emotions. Her boyfriend may not understand himself emotionally. She is an old soul and emotionally mature. She is putting a lot of pressure on the relationship. She and her boyfriend had an intense connection immediately. There was inconsistency in her childhood. She believed she had to fix her family. She feels pressure to be in a relationship. Her boyfriend is committed to her. She feels intimidated by his commitment. She feels she is one-foot-in and one-foot-out of the relationship at all times. She is collecting evidence against her boyfriend. She doesn’t feel heard or seen by her boyfriend at times.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Explore herself within her relationship. Stop overthinking, or overanalyzing her relationship. Be curious about her relationship instead of managing it. Communicate her needs in an empowered way. Approach her boyfriend from a vulnerable place.   Takeaways: Read or reread 20 Something, 20 Everything, and 20 Something Manifesto.   Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — Delivers life-changing comfort for your body with high-quality underwear, sleep, and loungewear. Visit the Fitting Room and take the quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect bra size and style. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes, and great-fitting, comfy loungewear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your new favorite Seamless wireless bra or loungewear. They have a 100% fit guarantee.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

I am thrilled to Byron Katie whom I respect and adore so much on the show this week!  In 1986, at the bottom of a ten-year spiral into depression and self-loathing, Byron Katie woke up one morning in a state of joy. She realized that when she believed her stressful thoughts, she suffered, but that when she questioned them, she didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Her simple yet powerful process of self-inquiry, which she calls The Work, consists of four questions and the turnaround, which is a way of experiencing the opposite of what you believe. Katie has been bringing The Work to millions of people for more than thirty years. Her public events, weekend workshops, intensives, and nine-day School for The Work have brought freedom to people all over the world. Her books include the bestselling Loving What Is, I Need Your Love—Is That True?, A Thousand Names for Joy, and A Mind at Home with Itself. For more information, visit thework.com. Here is a to the worksheets we discussed: https://thework.com/instruction-the-work-byron-katie/  

This episode is about discerning between the patterns we can change and which are a part of us. Today’s caller, Bree, has patterns coming up when it comes to dating and finding a partner. We discuss how she can bring forth different, more feminine, parts of herself in place of her patterns. When it comes to dating, we get far more accurate information from our bodies, heart, and intuition than we do from evaluation.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode309]   At the beginning of dating, there is so much uncertainty. We don’t really know the person and we don’t know where the relationship will go. There is a lot of excitement, but there is also a lot of uncertainty. Uncertainty can be triggering for some, especially if they had instability in their childhood. Part of how the mind and psyche try to get certainty or control is through evaluation, analysis, and by trying to see into the future.   We all have an operating system. A lot of it gets programmed by our childhood, our life, our beliefs, and everything that happens in our environment and society. Then, there is just how we’re wired, our personality, our soul journey, etc. It is more important to learn to live with our wiring and find the gift within it than it is to change it.   Some things about ourselves are appropriate to change and heal but there are some things that it is best to just accept. Learning to inspire a different part of ourselves in certain situations may be the key to getting what we need.   Join me August 18, 2021, at 5 p.m. Pacific for another group coaching call. This call will focus on all things inner child. The cost is only $20 and if you cannot make it live, it will be recorded. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group to sign up.   Have you listened to my Coaches Corner episodes recently? Check out Dr. Richard Schwatrz doing parts work with me here — Internal Family Systems.   Consider/Ask Yourself Do you notice that sometimes when you’re in an unfamiliar situation you do things like ask a question to go to places in your head to try to get some kind of control? Did you grow up feeling safe in a stable household? If you are female and you orientate to being a heterosexual female when it comes to dating do you feel like you can really slip into your feminine energy? Or, if you’re in a job that requires you to be in your masculine energy is it difficult for you to make the transition? Are you trying to change things about yourself that are part of your wiring?   Bree’s Question: Bree feels she is ready for a long-term relationship and would like the tools to assist her in minimizing her projections when dating.   Bree’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is ready to find a long-term partner. She is looking for someone who appreciates a rural lifestyle. She had a volatile and unstable childhood. Her parents were emotionally unavailable. Her little girl is looking for the stability she never had. She sees the pattern of her previous relationships. She felt judged and would like the freedom to be herself. She uses evaluation as a skill in her job. She is a professional photographer and previously a dance instructor.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Get out of her head and into her heart. Help her little girl feel safe. Limit her evaluations and increase her curiosity and magnetism in dating. Create a physical anchor and write a letter to celebrate her evaluator self. Be aware her masculine part is hyper-developed. Discover things that drop her into her feminine energy. Move her body in a feminine way daily.   Takeaways: Look at the patterns in your life without making them wrong or bad and determine how much of them are how you are wired. Learn what parts of yourself that need to step back and which need to come forward.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

You are going to learn so much from this episode!! And get to listen to a live demo of Dr Schwartz doing parts work with me.  Richard Schwartz began his career as a family therapist and an academic at the University of Illinois at Chicago. There he discovered that family therapy alone did not achieve full symptom relief and in asking patients why, he learned that they were plagued by what they called “parts.” From these explorations with parts work, the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model was born in the early 1980s.   IFS is now evidence-based and has become a widely-used form of psychotherapy, particularly with trauma. It provides a non-pathologizing, optimistic, and empowering perspective and a practical and effective set of techniques for working with individuals, couples, families, and more recently, corporations and classrooms.   In 2013 Schwartz left the Chicago area and now lives in Brookline, MA where he is on the faculty of the Department of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School.

This episode is about grieving parents and moving through loss. Today’s caller, Tania, is a new mom who is caring for her aging father. She is struggling with making decisions that are best for everyone involved. We talk through the guilt that is influencing her decisions and how she can make self-honoring choices that are the best for everyone involved.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode308]   When it comes to making choices for someone we love it can feel hard not to let guilt or obligation be involved. When we allow guilt and obligation into our decision-making we aren’t making the choices that are truly in the highest good for everyone concerned.   Guilt and shame prevent us from being able to honor our feelings and from navigating the many different emotions, perspectives, and thoughts of being human and going through life-changing experiences, and dealing with family members and people who are sick or difficult. It is OK to choose something that may feel selfish but is self-honoring and in the best interest of everyone involved.   There is no one-size-fits-all approach when making big decisions like what to do with an aging parent. You have to tune in and make a decision from love, not guilt about what is best for everyone involved.   When we hang on to someone, it can create an energetic obligation for them to stay longer. There are two deaths we have to grieve for our parents. The physical death and the death of the ideal. When we allow ourselves to grieve, our heart breaks open so healing can begin.   Would you like to win a free 30-minute (unaired) session with me? To add your name to the drawing, leave a rating and review in your podcast listening app. When the review posts take a screenshot and upload it to ChristineHassler.com/review. I’ll choose the winner in the first week of August.   We are opening up enrollment for the March 2022 session of our Elementum Coaching Institute. This early-bird pricing opportunity gives your $2,500 off tuition. Our first class sold out in two weeks, so secure your spot today.   Consider/Ask Yourself Do you like to have control? Would you rather have control than massive uncertainty? Do you do better in the known rather than the unknown? Do you deal with guilt if you’re not doing what you think you’re supposed to be doing or taking care of people in the way that you’re supposed to? Have you lost a parent or are you on the brink of losing a parent? Do you struggle with what’s the right thing to do when it comes to you caring for your parents?   Tania’s Question: Tania is feeling anxious about how she will manage caring for her father and managing her life.   Tania’s Key Insights and Ahas: After an accident, her 80-year-old father can no longer take care of himself. Her mother passed 13 years ago. She and her brother are caring for their father. She has a baby and a full-time job. She had to take medical time off from work. She feels guilty and is starting to grieve for her father. She is frightened when she thinks of her father’s passing. She holds on to an image of what she thought her future would be. She is finding the role reversal difficult.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Realize it is okay to be feeling what she is feeling. Allow herself to start letting go and grieve her father. Release her attachment to what she thinks “should” be. Find a way to get outside help for her father. Give energetic permission to her father to transition when it is his time. Her body and nervous system have been in overdrive.   Takeaways: Don’t wait to grieve until someone dies. Allow yourself to have the feelings and start the process before a loved one transitions.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Jess Bell, D.O. is an Osteopathic Physician – board-certified in both Physical Medicine and Rehabilitation and Neuromusculoskeletal Medicine – and Energy Healer. Dr. Jess is the founder of Energetic Osteopathy™, which is a powerful modality that bridges traditional osteopathic treatment and energy medicine. What makes Energetic Osteopathy™ unique from other energy healing modalities such as Reiki, is that the treatment takes place with great specificity within the tissues of the body. As an osteopathic physician with over twenty years of hands-on treatment experience, Dr. Jess “sees” into the body with great clarity. This inner sight allows for the transformational release of even the most difficult to locate energetic densities out of the physical body, returning the body to health and wholeness. It is essential that we recover the often forgotten truth that healing comes from within, and it is Dr. Jess's greatest intention to offer this healing and guidance with easy-to-apply information, treatment, and self-healing practices.  

This episode is about looking inside and healing unresolved issues. Today’s caller, Sarah, went through a breakup and is having a hard time letting it go. We work through how when we don’t have our needs met as children we may fumble with our needs as an adult. If you are not going through a breakup right now you will relate to this conversation if you have ever tried to fix something in your life that was not working.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode307]   Often, we attempt to work out our childhood wounds through dating and relationships. Unconsciously, we look for someone like mom or dad and think — oh this feels familiar. And, we confuse familiarity for love. But they are not the same thing. That is why we sometimes feel scared to do unfamiliar things. Because we confuse unfamiliarity with not being safe.   We try to heal our childhood by drawing in people who remind us of it. This creates issue-based relationships that become addictive. We are looking for a relationship to fix the issue rather than doing self-honoring, internal work. When we do the work we avoid attracting those kinds of relationships in the first place.   Sometimes we have the expectation that we have to have a certain personality or be a certain way. When we are in our pain, we do not like the pain and we don’t like ourselves in the pain. And, judgment of ourselves and our process only slows us down. It makes things worse. Healing happens when we accept the phase we are in.   In a relationship, we all need total honesty, trust, loyalty, intimacy, and someone to hear us and see us without gas-lighting us.   Would you like to win a free 30-minute (unaired) session with me? To add your name to the drawing, leave a rating and review in your podcast listening app. When the review posts take a screenshot and upload it to ChristineHassler.com/review. I’ll choose the winner in the first week of August.   Consider/Ask Yourself Do you have a hard time letting go of things even when you know you’re supposed to but you just can’t seem to let go? Did you grow up in a house where you didn’t feel securely attached? Maybe your parents were emotionally unavailable, unpredictable, or there was chaos in your house? Have you ever been in a situation where you feel like the situation itself makes you needier? You look at a relationship, career, or friendship and don’t even recognize yourself because of some of your behaviors. Do you feel like you have done a lot of work and you have a lot of awareness but you find yourself in the same position over and over?   Sarah’s Question: Sarah is having difficulty letting go of a relationship and feels like she should be doing better.   Sarah’s Key Insights and Ahas: Her breakup happened three weeks ago. She is setting unrealistic expectations. She felt insecure in the relationship. She is grasping for the relationship. Her parents did not meet her needs as a child. She didn’t feel emotionally safe in the relationship. She did not feel enough as a child. She’s done a lot of work and is aware of her parents’ shortcomings. She continues to repeat past patterns. She is holding anger and resentment toward her parents.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Grieve the death of what she wanted her parents to be. Allow little Sarah to express her hurt and anger. Ask the universe for the resources to help her heal. Realize the relationship came in because she is ready to go deeper.   Takeaways: Go back to the little girl, little boy, or little one inside and allow yourself to get super clear about what you wanted from your parents that you never got and that you are more than likely never ever going to get and allow yourself to grieve it. Let go of trying to fix a relationship, the way you look, a job, or a friendship. Stop looking out and look in. That is always where the healing is.   Sponsor: ShipStation — Do you have an online business and want to reliably ship things without micromanaging the process. ShipStation software tracks all of your shipments in one easy-to-use interface. Over and On With It listeners can try ShipStation for free for 60-days by using the offer code 'OVERIT'. Go to ShipStation.com and click on the microphone at the top of the page to let Shipstation help your business grow and thrive.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Internationally bestselling author Michelle Masters has been a Personal Development Trainer and Coach since 1995. Michelle’s work is an innovative use of Neuro-Science based change techniques, Family Constellation work, and quantum healing modalities combined with profound understandings of what creates transformation and lasting change for people. Her hugely popular Money Magic workshop has helped people all over the world to transform their lives and money. Learn more here: https://michellemastersnlp.com/

This episode is about rejection. Today’s caller, Claudia, experiences sadness when she feels rejected. We talk through her feelings of rejection and uncover them to be something she did not connect until this session. If you have a pattern of feeling rejected you will benefit from listening to this episode.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode306]   Many times sweet people, or big feelers, people who are more comfortable in sadness than in anger, hold stuff inside rather than confronting others.   Anytime we feel rejected, even as a child, there is a part of us that is really pissed off. We get angry when we are rejected but, many times because the hurt is so big we want to figure it out. The mind can’t figure out why a parent would ever reject us. No child can figure it out. A child can’t work through the understanding that a parent has their own issues. So we end up resenting the people who reject us.   Energetically if you walk around as a wounded child who was rejected it will be hard to pull in a person or match who fully sees you. But, by taking your power back, it will open up space in your life. When you have resentments in your heart it is hard for people to get in. They don’t want to be someone else you resent. Carrying around resentments can push people away.   As long as there is a part of you who hasn’t forgiven your family of origin, for being rejected, you will feel resentment. Forgiveness is not condoning, it is letting go of the judgment.   Would you like to win a free 30-minute (unaired) session with me? To add your name to the drawing, leave a rating and review in your podcast listening app. When the review posts take a screenshot and upload it to ChristineHassler.com/review. I’ll choose the winner in the first week of August.   Consider/Ask Yourself Do you ever feel rejected? And, no matter what you do you can’t seem to get over the pattern of rejection? How are you with anger? Are you someone who can handle sadness but when it comes to anger, that’s a different story? Do you ever feel people don’t choose you because of who you are and you constantly try to be someone you are not?  Do you ever feel like you’re rejected because other people feel jealous of you?   Claudia’s Question: Claudia feels rejected when people are afraid to get close to her and jealous of her.   Claudia’s Key Insights and Ahas: She recently went through a breakup. She says men are attracted to her energy but afraid of her leadership. She feels women are jealous of her. She feels rejected. She repeats patterns of not being enough and not feeling seen. She retreats rather than confronting others. A family member rejected her. She feels sadness more than anger. She tried very hard to be seen as a child.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Find people who are in alignment with her. Deal with the anger she feels about being rejected. Forgive herself for the beliefs that perpetuate the lens of rejection and resentment. Do not make herself wrong or dim her light. Give little Claudia a voice and allow her to be mad or angry.   Takeaways: If you deal with resentment, look at where you feel sad and rejected. If you deal with a lot of rejection, look at where you may feel resentful.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Steven Kessler has been a psychotherapist in the San Francisco Bay Area for almost 30 years, teaching both locally and internationally. He is a certified EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) Expert and Trainer, and is the bestselling author of The 5 Personality Patterns, a simple, clear, true-to-life map of personality that gives you the key to understanding people and communicating with them effectively. More information and descriptions of the patterns are available at www.The5PersonalityPatterns.com. Steven loves teaching and helping people grow. He can be reached at Steven@The5PersonalityPatterns.com

This episode is about acquiring a healthy relationship between giving and receiving. Today’s caller, Carrisa, gives to everyone except herself. We talk through ways she can fill her cup before helping others, how to shed the imposter syndrome, and the importance of committing to her inner child.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode305]   We cannot give and give and then expect to feel great. It is beautiful to help people but from a full cup. Otherwise, we deplete ourselves and try to make ourselves feel better through others. It does not work. Anyone who gives and gives and gives to others but does not give to themselves will not feel worthy. People-pleasers, over-givers, and martyrs never feel worthy because they give so much.   You have to be able to receive from yourself and others to feel worthy. You can help and give but you need to be supported as well.   When you have healthy boundaries, a lot of support, and are checking in with your inner child you can help and serve others from a full cup. You won’t feel like an imposter because you will be practicing what you preach.   Would you like to win a free 30-minute (unaired) session with me? To add your name to the drawing, leave a rating and review in your podcast listening app. When the review posts take a screenshot and upload it to ChristineHassler.com/review. I’ll choose the winner in the first week of August.   Consider/Ask Yourself Do you have resistance or laziness that comes out when it comes to doing things that are just for you or doing things that are outside the realm of your normal day-to-day activities? Did you grow up in a house where you didn't feel seen? Do you often dread doing something because you’re afraid you’re going to disappoint other people? When it comes to serving others, are you doing it because it makes you feel good or because that’s the way you love yourself?   Carrisa’s Question: Carrisa is uncertain of whether her feelings are intuition or conditioning and why she feels resistance.   Carrisa’s Key Insights and Ahas: She worries about affecting the people around her. She is a people-pleaser with hints of a savior complex. Her childhood home was chaotic and she felt invisible as the 6th child of 7 children. She judges herself for being lazy and being resistant. She tends to go with the flow. She understands herself but puts herself last. She feels complacent in her marriage. She hasn’t taken a lot of time for herself. She wants to integrate her passion into her massage therapy work. She feels like an imposter when it comes to coaching. She is imbalanced when it comes to giving and receiving.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Be her own client and keep an observation journal about her boundaries and her decisions. Listen to her alarm systems and check in with little Carrisa. Color with little Carissa 15-minutes a day. Have conscious conversations with her husband about co-parenting. Stop trying to heal herself by helping others.   Takeaways: Become your own client. Instead of judging and analyzing yourself, observe yourself neutrally. Connect with your inner child and make them a commitment in your life. Stop people-pleasing and make yourself a priority.   Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — When was the last time you treated yourself to a perfectly fitted new bra or sleepwear? Visit the Fitting Room and take the quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect bra size. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes, and great-fitting, comfy loungewear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your new favorite bra from the limited edition summer style collection or sleepwear. They have a 100% fit guarantee.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you have struggled this past year (or really ever), you are going to love this episode. Speaker, life coach, and author Andrea Owen joins Christine for a vulnerable and inspiring conversation on mental health and healing trauma.  Andrea is creating a global impact in women’s empowerment with her books being translated into 18 languages and available in 22 countries. She helps high-achieving women maximize unshakeable confidence, and master resilience. Her latest book, Make Some Noise: Speak Your Mind and Own Your Strength is coming in August 2021. You can learn more at andreaowen.com.

This episode is about cutting ties with a toxic family member. Today’s caller, Alison, continues to relive the cycle of abuse she received from her mother. There is a part of her that believes her mother will one day change and give her the love she desires. If you have someone you are considering ending a relationship with, you will get great value from this session. If this particular circumstance doesn’t apply to you, you can probably relate to a situation where you want to do something but guilt and obligation are keeping you from making a self-honoring decision.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode304]   Just because someone is related to you, even a parent, doesn’t give them the right to be in your life.   When we are the parentified child it is confusing in the psyche and that is why there is a lot of guilt and obligation. Because as a parent, you can’t imagine abandoning your child. You would still love your child no matter what happened. That is the appropriate order of things. We are not supposed to be a parent to our parents.   So, when it comes to cutting ties with a family member it is tricky. It is difficult because we are in role reversal. Much of the guilt comes from being the parental figure to our parents which makes it hard to cut them off. This is not a healthy dynamic.   What I have learned about boundaries, family, and having a healthy life is that continuing to be in a relationship with someone, even our mother, who is abusive, volatile, or who cannot respect boundaries, just because they are a family member out of guilt and obligation is not love. Sometimes it is cutting ties with someone that may be the catalyst for them to wake up and do their own work.   Would you like to win a free 30-minute (unaired) session with me? To add your name to the drawing, leave a rating and review in your podcast listening app. When the review posts take a screenshot and upload it to ChristineHassler.com/review. I’ll choose the winner in the first week of August.   I have a great course for those who want to be coaches or those who want to learn more about personal development. Unleashed is a program I did in collaboration with Ever Coach from Mindvalley. I teach you the 4 Levels of Coaching Mastery for Maximum Client Impact. Go to ChristineHassler.com/unleashed for more information.   Consider/Ask Yourself Is there someone in your life who does not deserve it and it is not healthy to have them in your life anymore? Are you often the peacemaker in the family or other relationships? Are you still living in a fantasy of what you wish your parents or someone in your life could be when you need to grieve what they are? Do you love yourself and your family enough to put firm, healthy boundaries around you so you can break generational patterns and trauma?   Alison’s Question: Alison wants guidance about how to have an adult relationship with her abusive mother.   Alison’s Key Insights and Ahas: She had a traumatic childhood. She has difficulty setting healthy boundaries. She was the caregiver in the relationship with her mother. She has a seven-year-old son. Her grandmother was an important part of her life. Her mother’s boyfriend was verbally abusive. Her mother never stood up for her. Her son has very little contact with her mother. Her son triggers her childhood memories. She worries that she will lose other family relationships if she cuts ties with her mother. She is betraying her needs and her inner child. Her mother doesn’t want her to change. Her inner child thinks her mother will one day change. She is the peacemaker in the family.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Have a clarifying conversation with her brother and grandfather about her decision to break ties. Stop justifying her mother’s behavior. Find peace within herself.   Takeaways: Ask yourself where you may be in a relationship out of guilt and obligation? Where are you the peacemaker when you don’t have peace? What ties do you need to cut? Why do you protect someone else’s feelings more than the energy of your inner child? You deserve healthy boundaries.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Dr. Shefali is an expert in family dynamics and personal development, teaching courses around the globe. She has a doctorate in clinical psychology and specializes in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy, bringing together the best of both worlds for her clients. She has written five books, three of which are New York Times best-sellers, including her two landmark books The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family. Her newest book is Radical Awakening   Oprah has endorsed her work as revolutionary and life-changing. Dr. Shefali’s ground-breaking approach to mindful living sets her apart as a leader in the field of mindfulness psychology. As an international speaker, she speaks at events around the globe, spreading her message of conscious parenting and mindful living. She also has a private practice where she consults with families and couples.   You can learn more here:  https://www.drshefali.com/

This episode is about speaking our needs in relationships. Today’s caller, Shelly, is great about articulating her needs in some aspects of her life but when it comes to matters of the heart, she suffocates herself. We discuss how clarifying questions can be self-honoring and relieve her anxiety.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode303]   Not knowing where we stand in a relationship is like pulling off the Band-Aid slowly. A slow painful rip off the heart. Whereas articulating our needs and having a clarifying conversation may be like ripping the Band-Aid off fast but it is better than the slow burn of hurt.   Put yourself in a place of empowerment. When we give our power away and just wait for someone else to tell us where we stand. It produces anxiety. It is like sitting in the back seat of a car while someone else is driving. You don’t know where you are going. You can’t control the speed limit. You are just sitting there hoping it turns out okay. It feels terrible to experience so much anxiety. When we clarify our needs to someone, even if it doesn’t turn out the way we want it to, at least, we can start the healing process.   Needs are not a weak thing to have. It is natural and normal for human beings to have needs. Our needs extend beyond things like survival. We need human connection and we need things in relationships. It is not needy to speak your needs. It doesn’t make you weak and it doesn’t make you codependent.   We get fooled into believing that someone not rejecting us, or someone not judging us is better than not making self-honoring choices for ourselves.   Consider/Ask Yourself Are you silencing yourself in relationships? Are you getting your needs met? Do you even know what your needs are? Are you afraid to articulate your needs for fear of judgment, loss, or rejection? Are you good at speaking up in some aspects of your life, but not so great at speaking up in others?   Shelly’s Question: Shelly has been dating online and would like guidance on how to handle ghosting and being disrespected.   Shelly’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has cerebral palsy and uses a walker. Her past dating experiences include being ghosted. She feels abandoned and doesn’t get closure in relationships. She wants to be an advocate for others with disabilities who are dating. She gets anxious when someone doesn’t respond to messages. She is able to articulate her needs except for when it comes to relationships. She would rather have the truth than uncertainty. She overthinks situations. She gets nervous about meeting people for the first time.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Have a clarifying conversation with her current boyfriend to fully articulate her needs. Write a letter to the guy from college she doesn’t intend to send. Go out do something she loves and meet someone who sees her and her walker. Lean into her gift of speaking her needs and stand in her power.   Takeaways: Make a list of all the relationships in your life. Look at where certain needs aren’t being met and make yourself accountable for having a clarifying conversation.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

You are probably someone who has done a lot of work on yourself. You've read the "self-help" books, you listen to podcasts like this one, maybe you have a therapist or coach or have attended workshops.  You have a LOT of awareness and have grown so much which is AWESOME.  And . . . there may be some ways that the industry of personal development is not supporting you and this episode addresses some of those ways.

This episode is about the parts of ourselves we develop to meet our needs and protect ourselves. Today’s caller, Emily, didn’t have her needs met as a child and her protective strategies are still active in her life. We work through the understanding that even things we may not like about ourselves, or get frustrated by, are things that have positive intentions and are trying to help us.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode302]   We all can be hard on ourselves, especially those of us who have a lot of awareness and have been doing personal development and healing work. Sometimes we get frustrated with ourselves and find ourselves doing things we think we should know better than to do. Or, we know the reason we are doing something but we can’t seem to change it and we judge ourselves.   We have different parts of ourselves that develop over time to protect us and meet our needs. It’s important to be compassionate with these parts, welcome them, and seek to understand them, rather than shame them. That’s when we start making progress.   Compassion and acceptance are absolutely necessary if we want change. So often we go after change by being hard on ourselves, by being judgmental, by being critical or too analytical and we don’t love the parts that are hard to change. But, when we love, accept, and seek to understand them we release their influence over us.   I have a great course for those who want to be coaches or those who want to learn more about personal development. Unleashed is a program I did in collaboration with Ever Coach from Mindvalley. I teach you the 4 Levels of Coaching Mastery for Maximum Client Impact. Go to  ChristineHassler.com/unleashed for more information.   Consider/Ask Yourself Are there habits you have or ways you act that frustrate you? You don’t like them, you judge them, and you want to change them. Did you grow up feeling wanted and really seen? Does it matter to you to matter in the world? Do you want to be relevant and sometimes question if you are relevant? Even if you logically know you are worthy, do you sometimes deep down, or maybe not even that deep down question your worth?   Emily’s Question: Emily is looking for guidance on how to break the habit of feeling unworthy.   Emily’s Key Insights and Ahas: She keeps a mood log. She is defensive, even over small things. She expects people to treat her poorly. She feels irrelevant and unworthy. As a child, she didn’t feel wanted or seen by her parents. She felt she was taking up space with all of her emotions. Her sensitivities are a gift. She’s a people pleaser. It calms her to ask for help and support.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Learn how to nurture and care for her needs. Promise herself to ask for more of what she needs. Become aware of when she is defensive and thank it for helping her be seen.   Takeaways: Be curious about your “parts” and behaviors that have positive intentions. Consider how you can get the positive intentions in a different way. Compassion and curiosity are your superpowers.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Sometimes the experience of loneliness can feel so painful that connection seems almost impossible.  If that feels true for you, here is a four-step process you can use to support yourself in relieving feeling lonely.

This episode is about changing your role in a chaotic family. Today’s caller, Julia, is a highly sensitive person with amazing gifts. She is at a choice point about how she wants to use them. She is looking for permission to pursue her life through authentic expression. Many relate to the feeling of conflict between familial obligations and pursuing your soul’s journey.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode301]   Ultimately, we do not know why our souls choose our families. But, we often come into families and family systems to break generational patterns. And, many of us experience family conflict if we are here to break generational patterns. Part of our soul’s journey is to not repeat the patterns. But, it is tricky because there’s an inner child piece that still wants to be loved and accepted by the family. It can be hard because we love the family and it feels like a betrayal to go and do our own thing.   One of the biggest gifts we can give our families is to embody and demonstrate what healthy looks like or what breaking patterns looks like. Not playing a role in the family can give other members a chance to get out of their roles. From the outside, breaking generational patterns can appear as mean or selfish. But, what we do allows everyone else the freedom to change their roles. We teach the most through our actions.   If you have been wanting to join my Personal Mastery Course but just haven’t done it yet, now is a great time to sign up. On July 8, 2021, there will be a one-day event including personal coaching from me. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Mastery to join. The call will be recorded if you cannot make it live and you will have this course for life.   Interested in a Breathwork and Meditation Course, including anger release? Go to ChristineHassler.com/breathwork.   Consider/Ask Yourself Are you a highly sensitive person or empath? Did you grow up in a house where you didn’t feel understood? Did you grow up around a lot of chaos? Is there a lot of family, social, or work drama where you tend to be the anchor? Do you calm everyone down but then feel drained? Is there something you want to pursue but you feel you would be betraying people if you follow your soul’s calling?   Julia’s Question: Julia feels she can’t escape her family’s chaos and would like guidance on how to grow in life without allowing her family drama to hold her back.   Julia’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is a highly sensitive person who is part of a chaotic family. Her father was physically abusive. Her mother suffered from panic attacks. Her older sister has bipolar disorder. She feels caught up in her family’s drama. She is pursuing acting opportunities. She is in a relationship and considering having a family but doesn’t want to pass on a generational pattern. She has a desire to be creative. She feels like a crutch for her sister. Taking care of her family is not her calling. She is resilient. She dishonors herself when she gets caught up in the family drama. She wants to channel her energy in more productive ways.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Prioritize herself. Process her feelings. Pursue her life through creativity. Tell little Julia her family is not her responsibility. Set boundaries to protect her energy.   Takeaways: Do you relate to being a highly sensitive person and the gifts that come with it? Are you allowing your energy to be depleted or do you use your gift in a generative way? Are you in a situation where you take over responsibility for your family and you are in a conflict between what the inner child and soul want? Consider the generational patterns you are breaking in your family. Do not come from guilt and obligation when interacting with your family.   Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — When was the last time you treated yourself to a perfectly fitted new bra or sleepwear? Visit the Fitting Room and take the quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect bra size. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes, and great-fitting, comfy loungewear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your new favorite bra from the limited edition summer style collection and vacation-ready designs. They have a 100% fit guarantee.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

I got so much incredible feedback on the last CC we did on boundaries that I wanted to bring on another amazing, super informative expert.  Nedra Glover Tawwab joins me today who is a licensed therapist and sought-after relationship expert, has practiced relationship therapy for twelve years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice Kaleidoscope Counseling. She has been recently featured in TheNew York Times, The Guardian, Psychology Today, Self, and Vice, and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including Don't Keep Your Day Job, Do theThing, and Therapy for Black Girls. Tawwab runs a popular Instagram account where she shares practices, tools, and reflections for mental health and hosts weekly Q&As about boundaries and relationships. She lives in Charlotte,North Carolina, with her family.   Her new book is Set Boundaries, Find Peace.

This episode is about releasing addictive patterns by remembering the love within us. Today’s caller, Linda, recently ended an on-again-off-again two-year relationship. She questions which wounds are causing her patterns. We discuss her soul’s journey, how she is not broken, and how she can help herself feel safe, seen, and loved.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode300]   It is often unresolved issues from our past hurts, wounds, and things that were hard to go through that impacted our beliefs, attachment style, trauma response, and psyche. However, it is important not to see ourselves as wounded or broken. Personal development is best addressed as a learning opportunity, not from a fix-it mindset.   When we don’t have a great model for love and when we feel worthless, relationships, even unhealthy ones, are going to be addictive. Because, often, we confuse love for something familiar.   Even if you are an addict or have been in the past it doesn’t mean you haven’t made progress. Just the fact you’re listening to this show and this kind of information, means you are a seeker. You want out of the addiction, patterns, bad relationships, and the scarcity mentality. It can be frustrating if you feel you have a long way to go but acknowledge the wisdom of your soul for at least getting you to where you are now.   You will get farther if you continue to be proud of yourself for where you are.   If you have been wanting to join my Personal Mastery Course but just haven’t done it yet, now is a great time to sign up. On July 8, 2021, there will be a one-day event including personal coaching from me. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Mastery to join. The call will be recorded if you cannot make it live.   Consider/Ask Yourself Are you still in a relationship or not quite over a relationship you were in and out of, that on some level you know wasn’t good for you but you just can't seem to let go? Did you have an absentee parent or parents or caregivers who didn’t give you the security and safety every child truly deserves? Are you learning how to love yourself and think that maybe you have forgotten? Are you trying to figure out what wound in your life is creating some of the undesirable events?   Linda’s Question: Linda has been in an on-and-off relationship and would like to know which childhood wound is creating this pattern.   Linda’s Key Insights and Ahas: She recently ended an on-and-off two-year relationship. She feels she lost herself in the relationship but is attached and addicted to it. She was critical of herself as a child. Her parents divorced when she was three and she lived with her grandparents. She was bullied for many years as a child. She feels safe hiding and not being seen. She would like to feel loved. She goes back to the relationship because of shared interests. She wants to spend time on her own and remember how to love herself. She has feelings of abandonment and rejection. She needs to feel seen and that someone is there for her.   How to Get Over It and On With It: She needs to remember how much she loves herself. Write a list of all the things that did not work in the relationship and read it when she feels like reaching out to him. Write a list of the amazing things about herself and read it every day. Turn up the voice of her inner parent to feel safe, seen, and loved.   Takeaways: If you are in a relationship you feel attached or addicted to and you continually justify it in your head, take off your rose-colored glasses and ask yourself if you have a high tolerance for putting up with crap. Focus on falling back in love with yourself.   Sponsor: STORYWORTH — is an online service that helps your Dad, Grandfather, father-in-law, and every father figure in your life share stories through thought-provoking questions about their memories and personal thoughts. Storyworth has helped numerous families learn about each other in profound and special ways. After a year, Storyworth compiles stories and pictures in a keepsake book that ships for free. Give your Dad a meaningful gift Storyworth.com/overit and get $10 off your first purchase.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Want to learn how to reduce (even eliminate) things like anxiety, depression, obsessive thinking and stress? Then you are going to love my conversation with Dr. Carolline Leaf. She is a communication pathologist and cognitive neuroscientist, specializing in cognitive and metacognitive neuropsychology. Since the early 1980s, she has researched the mind-brain connection, the nature of mental health and the formation of memory. She was one of the first in her field to study how the brain can change (neuroplasticity) with directed mind input. During her years in clinical practice and her work with thousands of underprivileged teachers and students in her home country of South Africa and in the USA, she developed her theory of how we think, build memory and learn, creating practical guides and tools that have transformed the lives of hundreds of thousands of individuals with Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI), chronic traumatic encephalopathy (CTE), learning disabilities (ADD, ADHD), autism, dementias, and mental ill-health issues like anxiety and depression.   You can learn more and get her book at: https://drleaf.com/

This episode is about radical self-acceptance. Today’s caller, Sylvie, has had therapy, done tons of personal development work, and speaks with her inner child but still feels blocked. We discuss ways she can reframe her perception of what her awareness is bringing up and how she can fully accept and love herself and her human experience.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode299]   When we have something we criticize, don’t like, or want to change and the way we relate to it is with judgment and shame and guilt, it amplifies it because all of our fears are seeking to be loved. We have the need to be seen and to be loved.   When it comes to the parts of ourselves that we judge and shame just pushing through our response to it, our freeze pattern, can re-traumatize us and reinforce wounds. So, instead of pushing through it, bring love to it.   We continue to get “negative” or undesirable experiences, not because we are being tested or the universe wants to punish us, but because our soul is always seeking to evolve. It is looking for a new way to respond to the circumstances. Circumstances don’t just stop when we have an awareness about something. When we have an awareness and we know why we are drawing certain things into our lives, we work through it, and then the same thing comes to us again because we need to practice integrating it.   If you missed our juicy group call on love, sex, and intimacy last week go to Christinehassler.com/group-coaching-replays to download it and check out all previous calls for only $20.   Join us for our Relationship Course on June 11‒13, 2021. It will be recorded if you can’t make it live. But if you make it live you have an opportunity for live coaching. Go to ChristineHassler.com/relationshipcourse. We will discuss aligning values, getting better at fulfilling each other’s needs, and communication tools. Couples and singles are welcome.   Check out my new audio course on the Himalaya Learning App. Himalaya is an audio learning platform that provides an extensive library of courses from great minds such as Malcolm Gladwell, Tim Ferriss, Seth Godin, and me. In my program, “Your Heart, Your Life,” I teach about love and relationships. Go to himalaya.com/heart  and use the promo code “heart” for a 14-day free trial.   Consider/Ask Yourself Have you done all the work but feel like things just are not changing? Do you freeze or just feel bolted down when it comes to putting yourself out there and making a request when selling your business? Did you grow up in a home where you weren’t nurtured and loved, especially when you made mistakes? Do you have a very critical judgmental voice inside your head? When you fail or make a mistake do you experience shame and guilt?   Sylvie’s Question: Sylvie fears rejection. She has done personal development work but still feels blocked.   Sylvie’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has been working to heal her traumatic childhood. She has a critical inner judgment. She is proud of her personal transformation. She talks with her inner child. She feels she is on the cusp of a breakthrough. She feels she is not reaching her potential. She is an empath and sees the world differently. She puts a lot of pressure on herself. She is starting her personal chef business but is hesitant to talk about it to others. She didn’t feel safe and nurtured as a child. She needs to feed herself the love she feeds to others.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Move into acceptance and move out of “fix and heal.” Ask what her triggers want her to know. Consider the worst-case scenario and play it out in her mind. Connect and tap into the big “why” of what she is doing. Regulate herself when she feels the “freeze.”   Takeaways: When you are in a trauma response such as worry or freeze think about the worst-case scenario and play it out. Bring unconditional love and acceptance to your undesirable feelings. Take an inventory of the personal growth information you are consuming. If something makes you feel shame or somehow inadequate, stop ingesting it. Listen to Episode 297 where I describe how to regulate the nervous system.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

My longtime friend Kute Blackson joins me this week to discuss the magic of surrender. Surrender is one of those sexy spiritual words that we often do not truly understand or experience.  Kute shares with us how we can actually surrender and the magic it brings to our lives when we do.   Kute Blackson is a beloved inspirational speaker and transformational teacher. He speaks at countless events he organizes around the world as well as at outside events. He is a member of the Transformational Leadership Council, a select group of one hundred of the world’s foremost authorities in the personal development industry. Winner of the 2019 Unity New Thought Walden Award, Blackson is widely considered a next generation leader in the field of personal development. His mission is simple: To awaken and inspire people across the planet to access inner freedom, live authentically and fulfill their true life’s purpose.

This episode is about how to get your needs met in an intimate relationship. Today’s caller, Shaun, is looking for guidance on how to re-open his heart and rekindle the warmth for his partner whom he loves. We discuss strategies for getting beyond the hurts and moving toward understanding and compassion. We often love the way we need to be loved instead of loving a person the way they need to be loved.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode298]   As much as we want love and connection in a relationship, the thing we want even more is not to get hurt or lose our power. Often, we put more energy into avoiding what we don’t want than creating the relationship we do want because that’s what we need to do to survive.   Our intimate relationships are often the very fertile ground where we work out any issues from childhood we haven’t quite resolved. If we were criticized a lot in childhood, it can come up in a relationship. If we were anxious or didn’t feel safe, that is going to come up. If there was cheating within our parent’s relationship, that is going to come up. Jealousy, abandonment, all the things we felt as children tend to come up in romantic relationships because romantic relationships are our adult family.   Remember, our relationship with our primary family is the intimate relationship that forms the foundation for all future intimate relationships.   Whenever we are in an argument, or rut, or tension with our partner, the most important thing that we can do is get to a level of understanding and compassion with ourselves and our partner to understand what the need is that is not being met inside of ourselves. We discover the unmet need that is triggering us and making the situation hard. Then, we look at our needs and then at our partner’s needs and take responsibility for communicating the needs in a clear, specific, non-blaming way.   It is important to be clear with our partners about how we need to be loved.   Join us for our virtual Relationship Retreat on June 11‒13, 2021. It will be recorded if you can’t make it live. But if you make it live you have an opportunity for live coaching. Go to ChristineHassler.com/relationshipretreat. We will discuss aligning values, getting better at fulfilling each other’s needs, and communication tools. Couples and singles are welcome.   I’ve partnered with Hiitide, which is an online book club and micro-course to help you apply principles from my book, Expectation Hangover, to your daily life. Turn the book into action. Get 28-days of easily digestible prompts and exercises delivered to your phone. A live Q&A session with me is included. The project launches July 1, 2021. Go to ChristineHassler.com/bookclub to learn more. Podcast listeners get 25% off by using the code 'Hangover25' at checkout.   Consider/Ask Yourself Do you feel like your heart is not open to your partner? Do you feel like there are things that happen in your relationship you can’t forgive, can’t shift, or can’t get over? Are there issues from your childhood that may be playing out in your relationship? Are you in a dynamic of being avoidant and it produces anxiety in your partner, or vice-a-versa?   Shaun’s Question: Shaun would like guidance on how to re-open his heart to his partner.   Shaun’s Key Insights and Ahas: He has been in his relationship for nearly five years. He doesn’t feel the closeness he once felt. He loves his partner. Both partners get triggered during arguments. He was bullied as a child and felt attacked. His dad wasn’t around as much as he would have liked. His parent’s marriage was passionless. The dynamic in his partner’s family was competitive. He tends to dissociate during arguments.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Ask his partner what she needs. Set his partner up to win. Attend our upcoming relationship retreat. Have a ‘needs’ conversation with his partner. Get specific about how he wants his needs met. Make his relationship his top priority.   Takeaways: When triggered in a relationship, consider what needs are not being met.  Make your current or future relationship a priority. Join us for our relationship retreat June 11-13, 2021.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Today Asterian Astrologer Jade Luna joins me again to discuss how the stars predicted this time we are in, what we can learn from it and how we can move forward. Jade and I speak about what life is really about and what the most important things that each and every one of us can do right now to live our most aligned and true lives.   Jade S. Luna is the first Westerner ever to reconstruct Jyotish (Hindu Astrology) into a Greco-Roman format. Jade has traveled extensively around the planet, lecturing and conducting workshops on Astrology and Ancient Roman-Greco mysticism. He has traveled to India more than 30 times and spent a great deal of time with various teachers, Saints and Sadhu’s in Asia. Jade also consults with people privately. He usually presents a few seminars each year at various locations world wide. He is the author of Asterian Astrology and has been one of the most successful Astrologers in the world and has maintained a high level practice for over 18 years. You can learn more or book a session with him here: http://www.asterianastrology.com

This episode is about regulating the nervous system and dealing with past pains. Today’s caller, Lara, is looking for guidance on how to cultivate a sense of safety and security. We work through a body practice to regulate her nervous system and bring her into calm.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode297]   Feeling safety and security isn’t a mental thing. They have to be felt in the body. When we feel safe and secure, the nervous system relaxes, the body gets out of our survival brain and it comes into a rest-and-digest stage where the nervous system can regulate.   With a dysregulated nervous system you cannot shift it by talking, analyzing, or awareness. It becomes frustrating because you can see your anxiety and you understand why it is there and explain your reasons for having anxiety. But, just being able to explain something doesn’t change it. The healing or the fixing of it becomes another obsession. What it comes down to is the creation of safety and security. We are always trying to get back to feeling safe and secure.   The human body and the nervous system are very resilient, as is the human spirit, but we cannot shift and change when we think we are broken. We need to have compassion for ourselves and one of our most valuable inner resources is our ability to ask for help.   Join us for our virtual Relationship Retreat on June 11‒13, 2021. It will be recorded if you can’t make it live. Go to ChristineHassler.com/relationshipretreat. We will discuss masculine and feminine energy, polarity, and the duality of all things. Couples and singles are welcome.   Tuesday, June 1 at 5 pm (PT) I will host another group coaching call for only $20. To sign up go to ChristineHassler.com/group.   Check out my new audio course on the Himalaya Learning App. Himalaya is an audio learning platform that provides an extensive library of courses from great minds such as Malcolm Gladwell, Tim Ferriss, Seth Godin, and me. In my program, “Your Heart, Your Life,” I teach about love and relationships. Go to himalaya.com/heart  and use the promo code “heart” for a 14-day free trial.   Consider/Ask Yourself Do you constantly feel anxious or deal with obsessive thoughts? Have you outsourced your worth or your sense of safety? Are you looking for it in your achievements, a relationship, or even your appearance? Do you crave to be in a relationship, then when you get in them, they’re not healthy? Do you have trouble regulating your nervous system and bringing yourself into a calm?   Lara’s Question: Lara would like to know how she can cultivate a sense of trust and safety and guidance on how to stop filling her void with external things or men.   Lara’s Key Insights and Ahas: She does not feel worthy or good enough. She struggles with binge eating. She tries to outsource her worth through her appearance, men, or achievements. She has had manic episodes. She craves being in relationships and wants to be saved. She over-analyzes everything she does. She feels stuck. She has a sharp mind and a lot of self-awareness. She grew up with inconsistency and chaos in her childhood. Her mother was not there for her as a child.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Recognize when her nervous system is dysregulated and greet it with compassion. Put her hands on her belly and chest and then breathe deep and make a “VUUU” sound. Hold a stuffed animal and rock back and forth to soothe herself. Give herself the parenting and the developmental stages she didn’t get. Go to the people and sources that give her motherly love.   Takeaways: Consider the indicators when you go into survival mode then recognize and accept them. Have compassion for yourself. Move into a source of regulation such as breathing, holding a stuffed animal, rocking, etc. Stop trying to shift a dysregulated nervous system with your mind. Remember, nothing is broken or wrong about you.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This episode is about having difficult conversations with our parents. Today’s caller, Max, is trying to avoid being triggered when he speaks to his father. We discuss how Max can ease the impact on his inner child and not experience an expectation hangover.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode296]   If a parent or someone we love opens the door to have a conversation we want to run right through and share everything we have been wanting to say for the last 20 years. The other person may feel bombarded and not be ready to hear everything we have to say in one conversation.   If you are offered an open door with someone who has been closed for a very long time, do not rush through it thinking it is a green light to speak about everything you have been holding in for decades. Sometimes we need triggering events to create momentum and shifts in a relationship. It is better to approach the situation slowly.   *Coaches — this is where you want to be mindful with your clients. For someone who has a triggering relationship, if they have an opportunity like that you want to support them and guide them through walking through the door slowly. Coach them toward taking baby steps so they don’t end up with a massive expectation hangover.   Join us for our virtual Relationship Retreat on June 11‒13, 2021. It will be recorded if you can’t make it live. Go to ChristineHassler.com/relationshipretreat. We will discuss masculine and feminine energy, polarity, and the duality of all things. Couples and singles are welcome.   Consider/Ask Yourself Do you have patterns of escapism? Is there a parent whose love you are seeking? Do you seek out their love in unhealthy ways? Have you always felt like one or both of your parents don’t understand you? Do you feel so different from your family you don’t know if you will ever fit in?   Max’s Question: Max would like advice on how to keep himself grounded when he speaks with his father.   Max’s Key Insights and Ahas: He was disloyal in his relationship. He knew avoidance issues were a pattern throughout his life. Love and sex are separate for him. He is the oldest of six children. His childhood family was emotionally suppressive. His father struggled with alcohol abuse and infidelity. His biological mother abandoned him. He then escaped to Mother’s house later in life. He does a lot of personal growth work. He has opposing views from his family about current events. He wants a compassionate embrace from his father. He wants to escape when he feels overwhelmed. He is learning to set boundaries.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Set an intention of having his father get to know him better. Figure out what little Max needs. Approach his relationships slowly, in a way that does not shock his inner child.   Takeaways: If you are going to have a conversation with someone who has opened a door, write out some questions or comments. Go into those kinds of conversations prepared so your nervous system doesn’t go into overdrive.  When making a big decision, check in with your inner child and do not push yourself. Taking baby steps can be powerful.   Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — Ladies, when was the last time you treated yourself to a perfectly fitted new bra or loungewear? Visit the Fitting Room and take the quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect bra size. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes, and great-fitting, comfy loungewear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your favorite bra. They have a 100% fit guarantee.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you are someone who prides themselves on "being strong" and not great at asking for support, this episode is for you!. Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book, Get Over "I Got It" (HarperCollins Leadership) -- is the host of the Support is Sexy podcast featuring interviews with more than 500 diverse women entrepreneurs, and founder of SiS.Academy -- an online learning platform for Black Women entrepreneurs.

This episode is about healing trauma. Today’s caller, Anne, is a musician who wants to expand her creative expression but feels blocked due to the sexual abuse she experienced. She has done a lot of personal development work but still has difficulty fully expressing herself. She wants guidance on how to navigate through her trauma to heal it.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode295]   Trauma impacts and/or injures the nervous system. When a person experiences extreme trauma the brain goes into survival, which means fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. The brain is always on the lookout for danger and it is exhausting. That is why we experience fear and anxiety.   I can’t label what “extreme” is because two people can have the same situation happen to them and one person may register in their nervous system as not that big of a deal, but another person with the same circumstances can register it as a really big deal.   When we are healing trauma it is not about reliving it. It is about providing space for somatic emotional release and working with a person to regulate their nervous system. It is about coming out of the survival brain and moving back into the “rest and digest” part of the nervous system, moving from the sympathetic nervous system which is on alert, and into the parasympathetic nervous system.   The personal development/self-help world can be misleading, perhaps even damaging, for people that have experienced extensive trauma like rape, sexual abuse, physical abuse, racial trauma, etc. Often, there’s an expectation or ethos in the personal development industry that you just need to shift your mindset about something and find the lesson of it. Or, that challenging experiences make you stronger or you can meditate your way through anything. It leaves a lot of people feeling like they are failing at personal development.   Join us for our virtual Relationship Retreat on June 11‒13, 2021. It will be recorded if you can’t make it live. Go to ChristineHassler.com/relationshipretreat. We will discuss masculine and feminine energy, polarity, and the duality of all things. Couples and singles are welcome.   Check out my new audio course on the Himalaya Learning App. Himalaya is an audio learning platform that provides an extensive library of courses from great minds such as Malcolm Gladwell, Tim Ferriss, Seth Godin, and me. In my program, "Your Heart, Your Life" I teach about love and relationships. Go to himalaya.com/heart  and use promo code “heart” for a 14-day free trial.   Anne’s Question: Anne has been trying to heal trauma from sexual abuse and rape and would like guidance on how to navigate through it to shift it.   Anne’s Key Insights and Ahas: She experienced sexual abuse. She is a musician. She has depression and feels blocked. She feels she cannot fully express herself. She has done energy work and spoken to counselors. She has done the temper tantrum technique. She is having a biologically correct response to what is happening. She has had bad experiences with the medical system. She trusts her intuition but not her decision-making process.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Give herself grace and understanding. Trust that she still has her innocence, expression, femininity, and sexuality. Acknowledge the progress she has made. Work with a trauma-trained therapist to help her regulate her nervous system. Nurture her creativeness and passion. Do not push through her fear. Have faith and trust her intuition to align with the right person to help. Realize she has been through a high level of trauma and she deserves a high level of support.   Takeaways: Look at the things you have bought into in the personal development world. Are there things that feel more motivational? Could they be hurting more than helping? Is it time to normalize the biologically correct behavior you're experiencing to find the right specialist to help you with it? Consider where you have trust issues. Find something to put your trust into even if it is your intuition. Be open to receiving support. Put it out there verbally and energetically.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Julie Bjelland is a Psychotherapist specializing in high sensitivity, host of The HSP Podcast, and Founder of the Sensitive Empowerment Community, whose mission is to create a paradigm shift where sensitivity is embraced, valued, and honored. Julie offers essential resources for educating, inspiring, and empowering HSPs. Register for her free Masterclasses, take the Sensitivity Quiz and profoundly transform your life in her courses and community. Her HSPs in Business Group is designed to support and empower sensitive people to grow heart-centered businesses, share their voices, and be part of the change the world needs.JulieBjelland.com

This episode is about holding space for our partners. Today’s caller, Brandon, would like guidance on how to be in the healthy space of masculine and feminine presence. It is a lovely conversation about integration and holding space when you get to a place where you feel wonderful, but your partner isn’t quite there.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode294]   When someone comes to us and vents, there is a desire to want to fix whatever it is. The masculine tends to want to fix. The feminine tends to want to take it on and over-empathize into sympathy or go into a caretaker role. We all have masculine and feminine energetics inside of us.   Underneath any upset is an unmet need. When we can find the need in an argument or a trigger inside ourselves, we can begin to deal with the true trigger. When we are trying to ease the trigger with talk or action, it usually doesn’t work because we are not reaching the unmet need.   Remember, everyone is on their own path. When one person gets to a place of feeling evolved like they’ve “got it” in some ways they want the other person to join them. And, wanting someone you care about to grow and evolve is great. However, judgment can creep in. When we grow and we have awareness we can get on a spiritual or personal growth soapbox. It can be unconscious, or subtle, but the other person can feel judged. The other person can feel pressure.   When you get triggered, ask yourself if your masculine comes out or your feminine. Or, can you be in the healthy space of masculine and feminine presence, where the masculine part of you welcomes it, holds space, and asks it what it needs and the feminine part has massive compassion and nurtures you?   Join us for our virtual Relationship Retreat on June 11‒13, 2021. It will be recorded if you can’t make it live. Go to ChristineHassler.com/relationshipretreat. We will discuss masculine and feminine energy, polarity, and the duality of all things. Couples and singles are welcome.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in a phase of your relationship where it’s time to integrate some of the things you’ve learned? Do you feel like you or your partner may be a little “ahead” in your personal development and integration? Does one partner get frustrated because the other is not as far along? Do you feel polarity in your relationship? As in, one of you holds a strong feminine pull and one of you holds a strong masculine pull. Are you possibly in your unhealthy masculine or feminine expressions?   Brandon’s Question: Brandon would like assistance with integrating some learnings into his relationship.   Brandon’s Key Insights and Ahas: He has been married for five years. He has a daughter. His relationship has been through some “speedbumps.” He was abandoned at 13. He has done personal development work. He feels supported, loved, and compassion from his wife. He is learning more about the feminine dynamic. He is new to setting boundaries. They tried having a polyamorous relationship. He feels oneness with God. He is growing into feminine, within his masculine role. He is in a beautiful place emotionally and spiritually.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Focus on how to make his wife feel safe. Be a masculine container without attachment to a shift or change. Don’t judge his wife for being at a different vibration. Ask his wife what she needs when she vents. He needs to be consistent in his actions. Do the Sacred Union process together with his wife.   Takeaways: Look at the masculine/feminine relationship inside of yourself. Pay attention to whether you want to fix others or yourself and see if you can back off the fixing and be in a place of unconditional love and acceptance. Join us for our powerful virtual Relationship Retreat, June 11‒13, 2021.    Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — Males who want to be on the show  Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

What are boundaries? How do we set them and keep them? How do we know if our boundaries have been crossed? These are just some of the juicy questions that Terri Cole, author of the book, Boundary Boss, answers. You will get so much value out of this conversation and it will improve all of your relationships!   Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert. For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 250,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. To get your copy of the book and the free gifts from Terri, go to https://boundarybossbook.com/

This episode is about loving your big feelings and emotions. Today’s caller, Beth, wants to feel comfortable in her skin. In her childhood home, her gift of being an empath became a liability. Whoever is the most open, the most sensitive one in a family often absorbs everyone else's feelings. Beth would like guidance on how to keep her heart open but not feel overwhelmed by her feelings.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode293]   In today's world, it's often hard to keep our hearts open. So many people are numb, or shut down from feeling, or are scared to feel the “negative” feelings like sadness and anger, or have built walls and around their hearts and wear masks every day. When we are empathic and live among people who suppress, we feel it all.   Oftentimes, what makes an empath’s heart hurt is feeling sympathy or sorry. It is feeling someone else's pain and suffering so much so that we feel bad for them. It is a judgment. When we are in sympathy we are judging.   The truth is none of us want to be blissfully ignorant. Ignorance really isn’t bliss. We may think it is and think back to a time when maybe we weren’t so awake and aware and romanticize it, thinking maybe it was better, but it really isn’t. We are here to evolve. We are here to awaken. And although it comes with many challenges, going back into being asleep is not an option.   Feelings are part of our life force and tears are not bad. Celebrate yourself.   Join us for our Love and Relationship Group Coaching Call on April 22 at 5 pm Central. It will be recorded if you can’t make it. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group. It’s $20. We will discuss masculine and feminine energy, polarity, and the duality of all things.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you a soft-hearted person or do you tend to cry about a lot of things? Have you ever been told you're “too sensitive”? Do you downplay challenges or trauma from childhood and think your childhood wasn’t that bad?   Beth’s Question: Beth would like guidance on how to be more self-aware.   Beth’s Key Insights and Ahas: She’s become more aware from doing personal development work. She thinks peace might be unattainable for her. She is not comfortable in her skin and feels like a sham. She is a single mom. She is very emotional and sometimes wishes she was not. She carries shame about being soft-hearted. She cries easily. She was a middle child who felt alone. People tell her she is too emotional. She has the gift of being an empath. She attended the Inner Child Workshop. No one encouraged her emotional intelligence. She was teased as a kid. She had temper tantrums at home.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Stop judging herself for how she feels. Welcome her feelings when they arise. Do not hold other people’s feelings. Do not feel sympathy for others. Meditate and ask for spiritual assistance.   Takeaways: Release, rather than recycle your feelings. Parent your sensitive, beautiful inner child. Get the anger out. Download the anger release process at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease. Join in on this week's Group Coaching Call.   Sponsor: Organifi — is an organic superfood powdered tea that makes quality, trusted nutrition convenient and delicious. Shift your nutritional intake in a simple way. For 20% off your order, go to Organifi.com/overit and use the code “OVERIT” at checkout to receive 20% off all products.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Stefanos joins Christine again to share tips for how to manage challenging conversations and moments in a relationship.  Any relationship, not just romantic ones, hit periods of growth where the relationship needs to get to the next level. This can be confronting for one or both people. In this episode we give you advice on when to pause and allow integration to happen (rather than keep processing) as well as a tool called "pendulating."   To join us for our group coaching call on relationships, go to www.christinehassler.com/group

This episode is about calming an anxious or hypervigilant mind. Today’s caller, Demi, has a pattern of obsessive-compulsive thinking, anxiety, and a worst-case scenario mindset. She would like guidance on how to calm her mind and be more compassionate with herself. It is a very human trait to worry and have anxiety, especially for people who grew up in a chaotic home.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode292]   One of the ways we can deal with hypervigilance or anxiety is by witnessing it. It is important we do our best not to make it wrong and accept it. The moment we realize it is not us, the moment we recognize it as OCD, our inner critic, or when we can name it, it gives us a sense of control. It makes it feel as if it is not a runaway train. That’s how we begin to calm down.   The pattern of not being able to relax but also feeling like you are not doing enough is caused by the emotion underneath the hypervigilance we don’t want to feel. And, with hypervigilance comes increased sensitivity. Increased sensitivity usually means more connection to intuition, compassion, and empathy.   People who grew up in a chaotic home may have a hard time relaxing because often, that was the calm before the storm. Having an emotional release with no judgment is an important part of working with this.   If you know someone who isn’t able to calm down or “just not think” about something it is important to have sensitivity and compassion for them because it can be maddening for the person dealing with anxiety or OCD to be told to calm down when the pattern is playing out.   Join us for our Love and Relationship Group Coaching Call on April 22 at 5 pm Central. It will be recorded if you can’t make it. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group. It’s $20. We will discuss masculine and feminine energy, polarity, and the duality of all things.   Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to get on the early bird list for our upcoming Relationship Retreat.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you tend to have an overactive brain? Do you struggle with indecision and a pattern of you feel like you can never do enough? Do you deal with FOMO or “shoulding” all over yourself? Do you have a strong intuition but either don’t listen to it or question yourself?   Demi’s Question: Demi has struggled with overthinking and FOMO since her teen years and would like guidance on how to calm herself.   Demi’s Key Insights and Ahas: She feels like she is not doing enough. Her mind gets loud, and she overanalyzes everything. She suffers from anxiety. There was instability in her childhood home. Her parents had a chaotic relationship. She recently started therapy. She has studied Somatic therapy. She loves herself.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Become aware of her inner critic and accept it with compassion. Forgive herself for being hard on herself. Practice release writing. Realize she is not her thoughts. Get out of her mind by shaking her body or breathing to move her energy around.   Takeaways: If you have people in your life who tell you to calm down or to not think about something, do your best to have boundaries about it. The moment you notice a pattern starting, separate yourself from it. Don’t judge it. Notice it, then love it and accept it. Use physical calming techniques to move the energy around in the body.   Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — What if you could remove the hassle of bra shopping and find the most comfortable, perfect fitting bra or loungewear in minutes? Visit the Fitting Room and take the quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect bra size. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes and great-fitting, comfy loungewear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your favorite bra. They have a 100% fit guarantee.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

I have looked long and hard for a fertility expert that has both heart and correct, research backed, up to date expertise...and I found it all in Dr. Cleopatra.  If you have any questions or concerns about your reproductive health and longevity, you will love this reassuring and informative episode.   Dr. Cleopatra is The Fertility Strategist and Executive Director of the Fertility & Pregnancy Institute. The mission of the Fertility & Pregnancy Institute is to see what others can’t using the best of love, science, and commitment to help ensure that your fertility keeps up with your high-achieving life so that you get to have as many superbabies as your heart desires. Dr. Cleopatra is a scientist and university professor specializing in fertility, pregnancy, and how health is transmitted from one generation to the next. To date, she has received nearly $3 million in grant funding from the National Institutes of Health, the National Science Foundation, the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation, and others. Dr. Cleopatra has been cited over 1,000 times in the past 5 years alone. Dr. Cleopatra teaches women about the primemester—the magical and powerful window of opportunity before pregnancy—when we literally have the power to change the quality and expression of the genes that we pass down to our babies and grandbabies. Using the science-based, big-hearted PrimemesterTM Protocol developed and refined by Dr. Cleopatra over the past 24 years, the Fertility & Pregnancy Institute helps women all over the world reverse reproductive aging; get pregnant quickly and easily; reduce miscarriage risk; and finally have the superbaby™ they have been dreaming of for as long as they can remember. Dr. Cleopatra is the author of the forthcoming book, “Primemester to Your Superbaby™.” Learn more at christinehassler.com/drcleo

This episode is about letting go of patterns and relationships that no longer serve you. Today’s caller, Barbara, has a pattern of staying in things long after they are dead, long after the signs say something is no longer in alignment with her life, or it is depleting her life in some way. The pattern of trying to breathe new life into something already dead is a waste of a precious life force. If you can relate to holding on to things for too long or staying in relationships after their expiration date has expired, this episode is for you.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode291]   Being able to nurture and be empathetic and feel what others are going through is a gift. Gifts usually come with a learning opportunity. The gift of being incredibly caring and empathic comes with the learning opportunity of boundaries, of not loving or caring for another so much that we lose sight of ourselves.   If you want to step into your gifts as a healer, empath, teacher, or true caregiver without depleting yourself, for your gifts to flourish you have to break the pattern of giving to dead ends. Break the pattern of giving so much you deplete yourself of your energy, self-care, self-worth, and self-love. Break the cycle of giving to dead ends, nourish your gifts, and use them in a way they can be fully received.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you a natural nurturer, or caretaker so much so that it often depletes your self-care? Is it hard for you to leave situations or relationships or let go of expectations for your life? Do you keep trying to make something work when you know deep down it probably will not? Do you feel like a doormat and as if your needs come last? When you set boundaries to take care of yourself, does it cause you guilt and concern about how the other person is doing more than how you are doing?   Barbara’s Question: Barbara is questioning staying in her current relationship.   Barbara’s Key Insights and Ahas: Her boyfriend is in the hospital after threatening to kill her. She doesn’t know the mental status of her boyfriend. She doesn’t feel it is in her highest good to stay in her relationship. She is in therapy. Her boyfriend’s family is giving her the cold shoulder. She hasn’t had her needs met in her relationships. She is a natural empath. She works in a nursing home. She has a good friend she can heal with. She doesn’t want to get into another relationship.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Take care of herself as she cares for others. Step away from this relationship. Be aware that her self-worth is not based on how she takes care of others. No more sacrificing herself. Self-care is her number one priority. Join the next Inner Child workshop with her friend. Make a list of all of the reasons this relationship is not a fit for her.   Takeaways: What are the warning signs you have gotten in your life about a person or situation that wasn’t truly aligned and you ignored them? Look at your patterns of people-pleasing and overgiving and know your self-worth and value do not come from helping others. If you are in a helping profession, make sure you take quality time to take care of yourself and fill your own cup.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Stef (Christine's husband) is back on the podcast to talk with me about the common challenges we see couples face and how to overcome them.  We will also be hosting a virtual relationship retreat in June, go to www.christinehassler.com/relationshipsupport to get on the early bird list for discounts and details. 

This episode is about loving our inner child and making them feel safe. Today’s caller, Mikaela, has a tremendous amount of fear and anxiety stemming from the chaos that surrounded her in her childhood home. She wants to feel safe and be seen. This call is great support for any of you who feel fear even if it isn’t reasonable for a situation. Or, those of you who are confused about how to connect to your inner child.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode290]   For parents or anybody who wants to be a parent, it is very important you continue to parent, or start to parent your inner child when you have children. When someone who had a difficult childhood has a child, they become a great parent to their child. Much better than the parents they had. But it can activate their inner child because their inner child wants to know why they are not receiving the same love and attention from them. Our inner children can act up and act out.   Parenting our inner child does not take anything away from our children. It actually gives to them because our children are unconsciously learning from us all the time. When we are parenting ourselves well, they feel that. And, in return, we are a better parent to them. We are not triggered as much by our children when we are parenting our inner child.   Remember, we do not want to be anxious about our anxiety. We do not want to be scared about our fear. Because when we are anxious about our fear and anxiety it becomes worse.   If you would like to move unconscious stuff and move it into a vibration where you can attract different things into your life, listen to our special breathwork and meditation series. Save $30 on the eight guided sessions when you use the code “breathe” at ChristineHassler.com/breathwork.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you ever have a big fear that comes up but it does not quite match the situation? When fear overcomes you, is it hard to calm down and break free from it? Did you grow up in a house full of chaos where you didn’t feel safe? Did you or do you ever just want to hide and be invisible?   Mikaela’s Question: Mikaela has feelings of inadequacy and fear. She would like guidance on how to become calm and free herself of those feelings.   Mikaela’s Key Insights and Ahas: There was a lot of chaos in her childhood home. Her father was an abusive alcoholic. She tried to make herself invisible. She has tremendous fear. No one ever recognized how scared she was. She wanted someone to comfort her and make her feel safe. She feels grief for herself as a child. She compares herself to others. She feels robbed of her childhood. She is self-conscious.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Connect to her inner child to make her feel seen and safe. Visualize her adult self removing her inner child from the chaos. Acknowledge and honor her grief. Forgive herself for any misunderstandings.   Takeaways: If you have consistent levels of fear or anxiety that don’t match a situation, it is an alarm bell being activated or triggered. Instead of trying to calm yourself, experiment with following the feeling in a soft, loving way. Doing inner child work doesn’t mean we re-experience and relive traumatic events. It means we grieve with the little one who is activated and let them express while being compassionate with them. Invite your inner child to live in the present with you, not the past. Get access to Inner Child Workshop recordings by emailing Jill@christinehassler.com.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Christine answers two listener questions. The first is around the fear of abandonment....what causes is, how it shows up in life, and how to heal it. The second question is regarding how to be with friends going through a hard time without being "life coachy" with them.   Also you can take the love block quiz Christine mentioned to find out what fear hold you back here: https://stefanossifandos.com/love-block-quiz/

This episode is about how to shift personality patterns. Today’s caller, Nikhi, is looking for guidance on how to speak up for herself and how to ask for what she wants. She has completed two Inner Child Workshops and is ready to work through the resistance she feels as she begins to shift her patterns.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode289]   Doing personal growth work, especially inner child work, doesn’t mean that boom, all of a sudden you’re healed. It takes time. The patterns we develop, the coping strategies, the results from our wounding have been there for many years. It takes time for something to move from awareness to integration.   The enduring pattern develops around age three because our need at that age is expression, to be able to express our feelings, to be able to express who we are, and to feel like it’s safe to be ourselves. If we lived in a family where emotional expression wasn’t encouraged, or we were to be seen, not heard, or we were told what to do, we had to figure out what to do just to not piss anybody off, we end up often with something called the enduring pattern. The enduring pattern is when we think we will just hold it all together or hold it all inside because it’s not safe to express or speak our truth.   There are two parts to speaking up for yourself. Part one is speaking your needs and part two, continuing to speak up when you are met with criticism, gas-lighting, or feeling squashed.   Get on the interest list for our next couple’s Relationship Retreat. It is a live, 3-day virtual retreat coming up in June. Christinehassler.com/relationshipsupport    Listen to past group coaching calls, ChristineHassler.com/group-coaching-replays, and listen to Coaches Corner with Erica Alaura for important energy cleansing work.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you get overwhelmed easily but yet have trouble asking for help? Does your reaction to something, like your level of a reaction, sometimes not match the reality of the situation? Are you hard on yourself? Do you have a fierce inner critic? Do you internalize your feelings? Is it difficult for you to ask for support?   Nikhi’s Question: Nikhi is looking for guidance on how to speak up for herself and ask for what she needs from an empowered place.   Nikhi’s Key Insights and Ahas: She feels disempowered. She doesn’t ask for what she needs and then feels shame about it. She feels triggered and angry when her husband reminds her of things. She is an empath. She didn’t feel seen or heard as a child. She internalizes things that happen to her. She has completed two Inner Child Workshops. She has an anxious attachment style and an enduring personality pattern. She gets overwhelmed easily. She was not allowed to express anger as a child. She struggles with structure. Her subtle inner critic comes out as a sinking feeling. She wants to find an accountability partner.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Speak up and share her emotions. Practice feeling and expressing her feelings. Do 10-minutes of Release Writing or record thoughts on her phone daily. Write a letter to her inner parent to re-read when she feels resistance.   Takeaways: Discipline yourself with love and gentleness. Don’t put too much on your plate.   Sponsor: ShipStation — Do you have an online business and want to ship things without micromanaging the process. ShipStation software tracks all of your shipments in one easy-to-use interface. Over and On With It listeners can try ShipStation for free for 60-days by using the offer code 'OVERIT'. Go to ShipStation.com and click on the microphone at the top of the page to let Shipstation help your business grow and thrive.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Erika Aluara is a friend and personal healer of Christine's. She is an intuitive, channel and a transcendence coach partnering people to experience not only unrecognizable transformation but true transcendence. In this interview, she also clears YOU the listener which is not to miss!! Erika draws on her extensive training and experience to incorporate multiple modalities, including Psychic Channeling, Spiritual Response Therapy, Past Life Clearing and ThetaHealing®. Erika is deeply passionate about holding the space and sifting through the elements her clients reject, repress or fear about themselves — discreetly, confidentially and without judgment — transmuting that negative emotion into peace, understanding and ultimately, acceptance.  If you are interested in an integrative approach with sustainability as its core feel free to book in for a consultation session, the experience is beyond priceless!   You can learn more about: https://www.erikaalaura.com/

This episode is about honoring emotions with compassion and acceptance. Today’s caller, Olivia, is going through a unique situation. She is feeling confused by her emotions and would like guidance on how to feel her feelings without going into “victim” and how to grieve after a loss.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode288]   It is normal for emotions to be confusing. We live in a mental, logical, linear-based world where we want certainty. We want things to make sense. But life isn’t linear, there aren’t five steps to make every sense of everything. Life is messy. It’s complicated. It’s a journey. Especially when it comes to emotions, we don’t want to try to manage them, understand them, or know why. We just need to learn how to feel and move through them. But, often, our mind gets in the way. This is the biggest reason so many people deal with repression, suppression, depression and then have to distract themselves or develop addictions. It’s because we don’t know how to be with our emotions.   Most of the time, when we are crying or feeling we are analyzing it. Maybe not allowing ourselves to be in the emotion and ride the waves. One wave could have twenty different feelings in it. It is about letting yourself go with compassion.   If you want to evolve and be free of some of the stuff that is weighing you down, you have to feel. We only get lost in our feelings when we judge them or when we go into “victim.”   Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It’s about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. ChristineHassler.com/innerchild — March 19–21, 2021. Listen to past group coaching calls at ChristineHassler.com/group-coaching-replays.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you often feel confused about your feelings? Do you feel guilty about feeling the way you feel? Do you put other people’s needs above yours, making their feelings and tending to their feelings and their concerns more of a priority? Do you feel overwhelmed with a current emotion? Are you scared if you go into it you will lose yourself? Are you going through a loss of any kind? A loss of a person you love, a pet, job, a dream?   Olivia’s Question: Olivia has had major heartbreak and loss and is confused about how to feel.   Olivia’s Key Insights and Ahas: She ended a long-term relationship and then her ex married quickly after. Her ex passed away tragically within a year of their breakup. She feels stuck in her emotions. She feels confused and guilty about being upset. She looks to other people about how to feel. She didn’t attend his funeral. She is a people pleaser and puts others first. She can fall into “victim” and judge herself. She buries her anger.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Give herself permission to feel all of her feelings. Allow herself to grieve. Honor what she is feeling with compassion. Realize she may never get an apology. Perform a personal memorial service for her ex. Dig up her anger to release it with the Anger Release technique. Practice the Empty Chair process from Personal Mastery.   Takeaways: Practice riding the waves with compassion for yourself and others. Allow emotions to be confusing. You don’t need to understand them mentally. The body and heart understand emotions, not your mind. Consider joining us for the Inner Child workshop on March 19–21.   Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — What if you could remove the hassle of bra shopping and find the most comfortable, perfect fitting bra or loungewear in minutes? Take the fit finder quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect size. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes and great-fitting, comfy loungewear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your favorite bra. They have a 100% fit guarantee.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

We all know self-love is incredibly important but what does it mean and how do you do it? Listen in for a Coaches Corner where Christine discusses a way to practice and understand self-love. 

This episode is about honoring your needs and speaking your truth. I coach today’s caller, Judy, through her feelings of isolation and empower her to have an honest conversation with her husband and herself about her needs.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode287]   Loneliness is an epidemic, especially in this day and age when so many of us live alone. We are not close to our family geographically or we don’t have a soul family or community to be a part of. We need a healing connection. We need to feel part of something, part of a tribe. We need to feel connected to ourselves. What often perpetuates a feeling of loneliness is a disconnection from ourselves that comes from judging ourselves and being hard on ourselves. If you suffer from loneliness or a lack of self-esteem, you are not alone. Let the fact that you are not alone motivate you to gain confidence and to connect with a community.   Speaking your truth is when you say what’s true for you and you are able to communicate your needs. When are you not speaking your truth?   Many of us think people-pleasing is a way to get love and find validation. We think if people see the real us, they may not like us. The more you show the real you and the more authentic you are, your relationship with yourself will improve, your self-esteem will improve, and the intimacy and connection you have with other people will also improve.   It’s great to make other people happy but it’s more important to please ourselves first by making self-honoring choices. People-pleasing could be the reason you are feeling isolated. On some level, people-pleasing is draining.   Drop the people-pleasing, up your self-esteem by making self-honoring choices, and get out there and find your tribe!   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel isolated? Are you craving more connection? Are you in a marriage or relationship where you feel isolated? Do you feel like you are dependent on your partner or you are living according to their dreams and desires more than your own? Are you a people-pleaser? Do you have a hard time making your needs a priority? Do you find it challenging to speak your truth?   Judy’s Question: Judy wants to know how to find herself and how to raise her self-esteem.   Judy’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has been continuously moving for a year. Her husband tries to support her but he doesn’t really get it. Her husband has a stronger personality than she does. She’s dependent on her husband and doesn’t go places on her own. She always puts other people first. She has a hard time saying no. She takes care of people, hoping it will help to build intimacy.   How to Get Over It and On With It: She should be honest and vulnerable with her husband about her feelings. She should speak up when she feels she wants to say something. She should lean more into authenticity and less into people-pleasing. She should spend some time on her own engaging with other people.   Takeaways: If you are in a relationship with the opposite sex and would like to improve your masculine/feminine communication dynamics, consider studying the subject more. If you are feeling isolated, start with a goal of talking to five new people every day and then build on that number. Start getting yourself out there and finding your tribe. Speak your truth authentically. If you have trouble doing it, join the Inner Circle community. Authenticity is this month’s area of focus. Communicate your needs to the most important people in your life.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Christine answers the question: How do we truly move into acceptance of something turning out differently than we want and truly let go?"  Acceptance is one of the most powerful things we can do for our healing and growth, yet it is often so difficult because what we have to accept is a reality we don't want.  Christine teaches what acceptance actually is and the importance of moving out of regret, shoulda coulda woulda thinking, and how to move through our disappointments rather than get stuck.

This call is about breaking patterns with self-compassion. Today’s caller, Maria, has been unfaithful in her relationships since the age of fifteen. She carries shame and judgment around it. Romantic relationships are so greatly influenced by our childhood wounds. In this call, you will see how Maria’s childhood is impacting how she shows up in relationships today and why she’s cheating.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode286]   Shame and judgment are heavy and toxic. They are the things that keep us from shifting and changing. Yet, they make us want to change even more because the more shame we feel and the more we judge ourselves the more committed we are to changing. We may go to therapy, take courses, or listen to podcasts but it doesn’t change things. Shame and judgment can be the catalyst for something we need to shift but we must move into compassion and acceptance in order to get to the healing that creates the shift.   Sometimes, we have to face our worst fears in order to not have them be the monster in the closet. We have to open the closet door and deal with the monster because we can’t stand lying in my bed and worrying that the monster will get us. We have to get up and deal with it so we can get some sleep.   Loneliness can become dangerous because we crave connection. We all need to feel loved and we will do extreme things to get love. Even repeat patterns that are no longer serving us.   How wounding affects our romantic relationships is the topic of the Virtual Group Coaching Call on March 11, 2021. $20 is all it costs to connect with your inner child and other like-minded people.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you carry a lot of shame about something you’ve done or that you’re doing or a pattern you have? Have you ever been unfaithful in a relationship or cheated on? Is there something in your life that you are having a hard time shifting and you know you want to take a big step but you can’t seem to make it happen? If you have children, what are you teaching them through your actions? Are you being an example of what you’d want them to be in life and relationships?   Maria’s Question: Maria wants to know why she continues the pattern of cheating on her partners.   Maria’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has cheated on her partners since she was 15. She needs validation from men to feel worthy. She feels unlovable. Her father died when she was eight. She was one of six children. Her mother wasn’t loving. She felt alone growing up. She likes being protected by older men. She became addicted to having a boyfriend. She would like to shift her pattern now. She has two daughters. Her ex-husband spoke to her children about her cheating. She distracts herself through relationships. She is scared of making a shift. She started therapy this week. She hasn’t fully grieved her father.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Forgive herself for judging and shaming herself. Move into the energy of self-compassion. Breakup with her boyfriend and be single for a while. Get a coach or therapist to work with her.   Takeaways For You: Are you trying to shift yourself through shame and judgment? Can you bring self-compassion in? Are you the bartender trying to get sober all the while serving alcohol all day? Are you in an environment that is not conducive to your healing and what can you do to get out of that environment? Join our Group Coaching Call on March 11th about how inner child work impacts relationships.   Sponsor: Rothy’s — Give yourself stylish, comfortable, versatile shoes made from eco-friendly material, including repurposed plastic water bottles and marine plastics from Rothy’s. They are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Check out the latest shoes, handbags, and masks from Rothy’s by using this link Rothys.com/over. With free returns and exchanges on eligible products.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Listen in as Christine discusses why growth can be so painful, why the pain is not “bad”, ways to decrease the pain, and why the pain is NOT necessary for growth.    Link to blog/podcast she mentions: https://christinehassler.com/2018/03/do-you-have-enough-

This call is about letting go of worry and anxiety. Today’s caller, Lara, has a lot of worry and anxiety when it comes to her kids. She would like guidance on how to tame it and not have it impact her children. When we let worry get the best of us, not only are we raising cortisol levels in our bodies, which is bad for our health, but we are moving out of our resourced state where we have access to intellect and intuition.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode285]   When we have a lot of worry and anxiety, it doesn’t do us any good. We become good at imagining worst-case scenarios but the heightened sense of anxiety puts us in the amygdala part of our brain — the fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. When we are in that part of our brain, we are not thinking clearly; we are not well resourced. When it comes to keeping ourselves safe and protecting ourselves, being prepared allows us to relax because we have a plan in place.   We need to learn to channel the worry into something else — into being productive, being prepared, or deepening our spiritual practice.   There is a certainty we get from physical world reality, control, and from seeing things. And, there is a certainty we get from faith. Unfortunately, for most of us, our certainty muscle is based on control. That muscle is much stronger than our faith muscle. Having faith in the universe, higher power, God, or whatever resonates with you, is key in letting go of anxiety and letting go of attachment. Because if there is not something bigger than you that you trust, you will always be addicted to control. You will feel like you have to have your hands on the steering wheel of life at all times. It will be hard to let go. This is why surrender is important.   Surrender isn’t about giving up. It is about letting go. It’s about relaxing into the knowing that there is a higher power taking care of you and taking care of the people you love.   Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It’s about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com — March 19–21, 2021   We are creating a Relationship Retreat. It will be a 3-day virtual event. Get on the interest list to find out more and receive the early bird discount at ChristineHassler.com/relationshipsupport.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you love people so much you just want to hang on to them tightly and often control what they’re doing? Do you worry about the people in your life and you feel better when they’re in your sight? Do you have a hard time letting them go? Are you a parent who is struggling with the balance of giving your kids freedom, not wanting to project your anxiety on them, but also worrying if you don’t, something bad is going to happen?  As a child did you feel safe? Did you feel like all your needs were met? Did you feel like you had a parent that made you feel calm and resourced or do you have more of an anxious-attachment style?   Lara’s Question: Lara feels stuck in a cycle of anxiety and does not want it to negatively impact her children.   Lara’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has anxiety. She tends to control situations. Her children are becoming independent. She had chaos in her childhood. Her mother was the nervous type. She worries and does not trust that things will be OK. She has an anxious attachment style with her children.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Trust and have faith that her children are protected. Join the Inner Child Workshop. Allow her mother’s intuition to guide her actions. Greet her anxiety with love and remember it is just her inner child. Start a meditation and mindfulness practice.   Takeaways For You: Make your inner child feel safe. Let them know you are there for them. Trust your intuition.   Sponsor: ShipStation — The solution for online businesses and individuals who want to ship things without leaving home. ShipStation software tracks all of your shipments in one easy-to-use interface. Over and On With It listeners can try ShipStation for free for 60-days by using the offer code 'OVERIT'. Go to ShipStation.com and click on the microphone at the top of the page to let Shipstation help your business grow and thrive.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Luke Storey is a motivational speaker, kundalini yoga and meditation teacher, world-class biohacker, host of The Life Stylist Podcast, and founder of the world’s premier online fashion school for stylists, School of Style which he founded in 2008. Luke’s spent the past twenty-three years developing and refining the ultimate wellness lifestyle, based on the most transformative principles of primal health and ancient spiritual practices, while at the same time embracing the most cutting-edge natural healing and consciousness expanding technologies. He has tenaciously applied the results of his field research and used them to not only completely transform his own life but also the lives of thousands of fans and followers through his various media channels and speaking engagements. As a transformational speaker and entrepreneur, Luke continues to share his strategies for healing and happiness through his innovative and highly effective Lifestyle Design teachings, his Youtube channel, and his wildly popular podcast. You can learn more about Luke here www.lukestorey.com. 

This call is about making self-honoring choices. Today’s caller, Elena, has separated from her husband after being co-dependent for many years. She is uncertain how to move forward because she isn’t clear about who she is. She asks for guidance about what to do next. This is an important call for those who feel they have lost themselves in a relationship or job.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode284]   When you are trying to make an important decision, from getting a divorce to having a child, to moving to a new city or quitting your job, you need to start on the inside first. Look at where you are in the situation. Ask yourself if you want the job? Do you want the marriage to work? Are you scared to speak your feelings? What is underneath the surface feelings?   For most people, limbo feels safe because you don’t have to make a choice. But, what is safe for most of us is what is familiar. Usually what is familiar doesn’t leave any opportunity for change or breakthrough. When you are in limbo, not moving in any direction, there are no possibilities. There is only more of the same.   When we know who we are and we practice honoring choices, not selfish choices, clarity becomes a lot easier. Because we can say, “This is a yes. This is in alignment with my most authentic self. I’m not coming from a place of hurt or from my childhood wounding. I’m not looking for love or validation outside of me.” It becomes much easier to make decisions.   Everyone has the tools to love themselves and figure out who they are. If you are in a human body with a mind, a soul, and a heart you have the tools. You may need someone to help you use the tools but you have the tools.   Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It’s about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com — March 19–21, 2021   We are creating a Relationship Retreat. It will be a 3-day virtual event. Get on the interest list to find out more and receive the early bird discount at ChristineHassler.com/relationshipsupport.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel you have forgotten who you are or lost who you are? Do you feel like within a marriage, being a parent, in a job, or friendship you have sacrificed your own identity? Are you in limbo about a big decision and terrified to make the change? Do you feel lost when it comes to getting support or asking for help?   Elena’s Question: Elena would like to find herself after losing herself in a co-dependent, long-term relationship.   Elena’s Key Insights and Ahas: She had been with her husband since the age of 14 until separating three years ago. She was co-dependent during her marriage. He had an emotional affair with someone else. The couple tried therapy. She is afraid to make a move. She lacks the confidence to make a change. She needs to put herself first. She grew up with old-school Italian values. Her mother divorced her father at her same age. Her temper goes quickly from one to 100. She likes to make people happy. She feels she needs to earn love. She doesn't know how to be. She is in Personal Mastery.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Create some space to find out who she is. Be self-honoring and choose self-love. Realize she does not have to please people for them to love her. Journal to help process her feelings. Focus on the relationship she has with herself.   Takeaways For You: Get support. Reach out for help. Form clear boundaries about what is not working for you, get clear about who you are and step into self-love. Join Personal Mastery. Be gentle with yourself. Stop telling yourself all the reasons you cannot do something and collect evidence for how you can.   Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — Comfortable, perfectly-fitting bras that feel good to wear. What if you could remove the hassle of bra shopping and find the most comfortable, perfect-fitting bra in minutes? Take the fit finder quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect size. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes and great fitting underwear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your favorite bra. They have a 100% fit guarantee.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Sahara Rose is an ancient soul in a modern body. She has been called “a leading voice for the millennial generation into the new paradigm shift” by Deepak Chopra, who wrote the foreword of her books. She is the best-selling author of Eat Feel Fresh, Idiot's Guide to Ayurveda, A Yogic Path, her new book Discover Your Dharma. She also hosts the Highest Self Podcast, the #1 spirituality podcast on iTunes, and founder of Rose Gold Goddesses, the sacred sisterhood collective.

This call is about worst-case scenario thinking. Today’s caller, Kate, is always waiting for the other shoe to drop because of chaos in her childhood. She has never felt safe. If you find yourself at a point where life is smooth and good but you keep waiting for something to happen and then judge yourself for having negative thoughts, this show will offer you solid guidance.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode283]   Often, when people are in personal development, they learn from their suffering. There is an unconscious belief that they learn and grow from challenge or loss. But, while those things can be awakenings to growth, we must choose to learn and grow. We don’t need loss and hardship to motivate us, inspire us to grow, or evolve our souls.   Often, when we are worried the other shoe is going to drop, the fears coming up are our inner child trying to communicate with us. The body and emotions are often the language of the inner child, of our subconscious mind. So, pay attention to those, and instead of trying to get rid of them, ask them what they need.   It is not our thoughts that attract things to us. It is our feelings and our frequency. Gratitude is a great frequency to move us out of anxiety or obsessive thinking. Moving into gratitude and truly feeling it is so much better than distraction.   If you have fears of manifesting your bad thoughts, remember that the percentage of time you spend in the present and in gratitude is probably greater than the percentage of time you spend worrying. Worrying just feels more intense because it is intense and uncomfortable when you do it. Take comfort that it will be okay.   Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It’s about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! Christinehassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@christinehassler.com — March 19–21, 2021   Do you want to make coaching your career or enhance your current practice? Join our 6-month coach training program. You will be mentored by me and three other master-level coaches. If you are interested in applying, go to Elementum Coaching Institute to apply before the first class fills up.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you have a childhood where you couldn’t really relax, there was a lot of uncertainty, or everything was going fine and then a shoe dropped and you find yourself constantly waiting for the other one to drop? Have you done a lot of work on yourself? Are things going really well but you feel you can’t trust it? Do you fear that your fear about things going badly will manifest bad things? Do you feel you have a deep connection to your inner child and they feel safe?   Kate’s Question: Kate would like guidance around why, when things are going well, she fears something is going to go wrong.   Kate’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is at a great place in her life. She often expects the worst. She fears she is going to sabotage herself. She has done personal development work. She spends more time in fear than joy. Her father was unpredictable and angry. Her sister was often sick. She didn’t feel safe as a child. She wants to be more spontaneous. She uses distraction as a coping strategy. She believed challenges were a path to growth. She does not need to suffer to learn and grow. She will pay attention to the voice of her inner child.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Reassure her inner child and put one hand on her belly and one on her heart and say “I am safe” when she has fear about something going wrong. Journal about how learning through challenge is over. Move into acceptance, soothe her inner child, and make a conscious decision to choose gratitude.   Takeaways For You: Sign up for the Inner Child Workshop. Practice the 3-step process. Acceptance, reassurance of safety, and gratitude. Vow that you can evolve through choice, not challenge.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Hayden Dawes is a licensed social worker whose practice experience includes hospital social work, mental health, and addiction treatment, in addition to people involved in the legal system. Although grounded in relational-experiential approaches to mental health treatment, Hayden has been trained in advanced trauma modalities and remains curious about all forms of mental health treatments. Hayden is currently a Ph.D. student at the University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill’s School of Social Work.  His research is in examining the psychosocial challenges impacting people of color and LGBTQIA+ individuals. He is also interested in seeking advanced methods to intervene on providers’ implicit and explicit biases. In response to racial injustice within the mental health practitioner community, Hayden wrote an article that was featured on Medium titled “An Invitation to White Therapists” it has since been widely used in direct practice education, consultation, and supervision. Hayden currently resides in Greensboro NC with his partner of 10 years. Hayden is an avid crossfitter, traveler, dance partner, and reality-tv specialist. During the COVID pandemic, Hayden expanded his personal “radical permission”practice to create a #radicalpermission project for the greater community across social media platforms, to encourage people to set intentions with grace.  

This call is about feeling safe and feeling enough. Today’s caller, Jessie, has been struggling with childhood trauma and is self-soothing by buying things she doesn’t need. Any of you who struggle with not-enoughness, or have been labeled as having ADD, or are not sure if you have dealt with your childhood trauma, this is a great episode for you.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode282]   The unconscious drives about 90-95% of our behavior. We come from our past trauma or our limiting beliefs until we reach a point where we are aware of it and choose and attract something differently.   Often, people who struggle with low self-worth or of not-enoughness are constantly trying to compensate by doing, talking, and proving. They are not great at reaching out for support because there is a level of trauma that still is running the show. There comes a point when trauma becomes part of our learning and part of the things that helped us grow and part of the things that have evolved our soul but before it gets there it becomes the thing to create our reality until we shift it.   For coaches and therapists, when you have a client who seems to dart around and doesn’t land on one thing for very long, it indicates that they just don’t feel safe, and feeling safe is everything.   Remember, we attract at the level of our issues until we heal those and move into a different frequency.   Connecting to your inner child is February’s topic for the Virtual Group Coaching Call on February 11, 2021. $20 is all it costs to connect with your inner child and other like-minded people.   Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It’s about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! Christinehassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@christinehassler.com — March 19–21, 2021   Do you want to make coaching your career? Join our 6-month coach training program. You will be mentored by me and three other master-level coaches. Plus you will have the opportunity to be a coach in the program moving forward. Go to Christinehassler.com/coachtraining   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you shop too much or have some kind of behavior you know is not healthy but you just can’t stop yourself from doing it? Do you struggle with feeling not enough? Do you have a lot of childhood trauma or chaos you have done your best to cope with but don’t know if you are totally free? Have you and do you accept all parts of yourself?   Jessie’s Question: Jesse struggles with childhood trauma and not-enoughness. She wants to feel safe and enough.   Jessie’s Key Insights and Ahas: She buys things she feels will make her look a certain way. Her mother is overly critical. She self-soothes with shopping. She doesn’t feel safe. She lost her brother and her dad early in life. She has been labeled as having ADD. She lived in fear as a child due to her dad’s abusiveness. She has done talk therapy. She is overwhelmed when she has to do adult things. She feels alone. There was chaos in her childhood. Her nervous system is delicate. She is trying to handle too much at once.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Grieve the relationship she hasn’t had. Invoke the loving mother inside herself. Stop judging herself for doing something she is trying to transform. Stop dating for a while. Find a source for trauma or somatic therapy with whom she feels safe. Understand there is nothing wrong with her.   Takeaways For You: Ask your body, which is connected to your inner child, what it needs? If you are a parent, one of the best things you can do is do your own work. Invest in yourself. If you are a great parent to your inner child, you will be a better parent to your own child. Join the inner child workshop. Seek out support and get help. Sign up for the group call or join the Inner Child Workshop.   Sponsor: Rothy’s — Give yourself stylish, comfortable, versatile shoes made from eco-friendly material, including repurposed plastic water bottles and marine plastics from Rothy’s. They are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Check out the latest shoes, handbags, and masks from Rothy’s by using this link Rothys.com/over. With free returns and exchanges on eligible products.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you are feeling confused, frustrated or stuck regarding your career, this is the interview for you.  Ashley Stahl joins Christine to talk about the ways you can get clarity on your next career move, learn the 10 core skill sets that exist in the workforce and more!  Ashley is counter-terrorism professional turned career coach and author of the book You Turn: Get Unstuck, Discover Your Direction, Design Your Dream Career, and she's on a mission to help you step into a career you’re excited about and aligned with. She supports clients in 31 countries in discovering their best career path, upgrading their confidence and landing more job offers. Her book-- along with $2,000 worth of free courses on money mindset, getting clarity on your career, and starting your side hustle -- is available now at YouTurnBook.com.

This call is about being the change you want to see in a relationship. Today’s caller, Jasmine, would like more intimacy and connection in her marriage. We work through how the relationship dynamics have changed and the childhood wounding that may be affecting her and her husband. Whether you are in a relationship or not, if you are someone who wishes someone else would change or wish someone would be different, this is an episode you should listen to.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode281]   Both men and women have masculine and feminine energy in us. It is like the Yin and Yang. They go together in balance. Most of us have one energetic that sits in front of the other. The feminine yearns for presence, affection, and intimacy. The masculine energy is focused. It is responsible, but it can be in the shadow masculine if it is focused to the point that it is ignoring emotional availability.   I am making a massive generalization here, but I see women, for a while, putting more work into a relationship. Then, after learning to drop into their feminine they often expect something to change in the other person. If you decide to be more into your feminine energy, be sure to do it freely, without expectation.   When we are the invitation; when we are the change that we want to see... that is truly the only way change is created. Are you the invitation without expectation? Or, are you being the invitation because you want something to happen?   Connecting to your inner child is February’s topic for the Virtual Group Coaching Call. $20 is all it cost to connect with your inner child and other like-minded people.   Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It’s not about working on yourself. It's about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! Christinehassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@christinehassler.com — March 19-21, 2021   Do you want to make coaching your career? Join our 6-month coach training program. You will be mentored by me and three other master-level coaches. Plus you will have the opportunity to be a coach in the program moving forward. Go to Christinehassler.com/coachtraining   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you in a bit of a relationship rut? Has a relationship, marriage, or even a friendship been going along for years and it’s good but there’s something you would like to change? Have responsibilities in your life made you grow apart from your partner? Are you the more conscious one in a relationship and feel like you are constantly wanting your partner to grow or be conscious with you and they just seem to stay where they are? Are you aware that the most intimate relationships in your life often trigger your childhood issues?   Jasmine’s Question: Jasmine wants more connection and intimacy from her husband of 11 years.   Jasmine’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has been married for 11 years. She and her husband lead a busy life. She would like more emotional intimacy from her husband. She is doing consciousness work. She has shifted the relationship dynamic. She has tried initiating physical contact. She has childhood wounding with regard to her father. She loves small quiet moments.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Create what she wants in the relationship. Acknowledge her husband more. Be vulnerable to create intimacy. Step into her feminine energy and be the invitation. Do not try to get Dad’s love from her husband. Be inspired to move toward love. Download the Sacred Union process and possibly share it with her husband.   Takeaways For You: Are there patterns in your relationship where you may be breeding resentment based on old stories that need to be updated? Would a little bit of relationship detoxing shift your relationship to the next level? If you want something to change be the invitation for it. Consider joining us for our Inner Child Workshop. Download our free guided Sacred Union process.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In this episode you'll learn why everyone (even you!!) is wired for peak performance. Steven Kotler New York Times bestselling author and peak performance expert—on a science-based approach to unleash our full potential and succeed against all odds. During a time when it’s easy to give up, Kotler teaches us how to exceed our limitations with his newest book, The Art of the Impossible.  Kotler decodes the secrets of elite performers, including top CEOs, Olympic athletes, and respected artists—many of whom his organization Flow Research Collective trains. Listen and learn the role of flow in pulling off the impossible, how to become exponentially more productive, and how to innovate in mind and matter.   Grab Steven's book here: https://www.stevenkotler.com/ Learn more about him here: https://www.harpercollins.com/products/the-art-of-impossible-steven-kotler?variant=32126584881186

This call is about self-acceptance and leading a fully-expressed life. Dani calls in looking for guidance on how to get out of the funk she is in. She feels unmotivated and burned out. But, as we discuss, the beautiful thing about burnout is that it is a wake-up call to tell us we are living in an unsustainable way. It is in the unknown that magical opportunities present themselves. When we plan and control everything there is little room for the universe to surprise us.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode280]   A lot of us are committed to personal growth. But, we must be aware of when we are working on ourselves a little too much and sometimes just let it be. Be in radical self-acceptance. Be in a place of just accepting where we are and shifting our energy into one of love and gratitude. It is the balance between not brushing stuff under the rug and living in denial but not overworking ourselves so we are always a personal growth project.   When we grew up in a house where there was a lot of uncertainty or chaos there is a frenetic energy that happens. It is constantly looking for safety and certainty. It can keep us very busy. If you relate to that, I encourage you just to stop and slow down. Because our soul, or the universe, does not give us much momentum on something when it comes from a place of lack. Sometimes we just need to stop and be with ourselves.   Join Stefanos and me for our 3-day virtual Inner Child Workshop. It's not about working on yourself. It's about connecting to your little one and letting go of some things you have been carrying around. We can help you bring your little one into their future, which is your present, and help them feel loved and safe. Don’t let money be an issue, we have scholarships! Christinehassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@christinehassler.com — March 19-21, 2021   Do you want to make coaching your career? Join our 6-month coach training program. You will be mentored by me and three other master-level coaches. Plus you will have the opportunity to be a coach in the program moving forward. Go to Christinehassler.com/coachtraining   Dani’s Question: Dani feels a loss of identity, burned out, and unmotivated and would like guidance on how to break free of her funk.   Dani’s Key Insights and Ahas: She was a full-time musician who started a life coaching business last year. She feels she has a block around her career. Her focus on her career is a coping strategy. She puts a lot of pressure on herself. She wants to live a balanced life. She’s done a lot of personal development work. She is always searching for something and pushing herself. She hasn’t felt safe in her life. She has no anticipation for the future. She feels uncertain. She has taken many risks in her life.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Resist the habit of trying to figure everything out. Embrace uncertainty. Give herself the gift of feeling safe in the present moment. Permit herself to just be. Move out of distraction and into stillness and safety.   Takeaways For You: Sit in the safety of uncertainty. Sign up for the Inner Child Workshop.   Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — Comfortable, perfectly-fitting bras that feel good to wear. What if you could remove the hassle of bra shopping and find the most comfortable, perfect fitting bra in minutes? Take the fit finder quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect size. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes and great fitting underwear! Use the link to get 20% off the first purchase of your favorite bra. They have a 100% fit guarantee.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This episode is a hug for your mind and your heart.  Well-respected physician and educator, Dr. Nzing Harrison joins Christine to speak about how to cope with all the stress of this year, why compassion is a requirement for your brain and health, how to identify and deal with addiction or unhealthy coping strategies and SO much more.  Dr. Harrison is the Chief Medical Officer and Co-Founder of Eleanor Health, a value-based provider of compassionate, comprehensive, outpatient addiction treatment. Approachable and energetic, she has been known to explain medical concepts with an ease and humor that results in her audiences developing understanding of difficult material while having a good time doing it! She has written and presented several articles and workshops on the medical aspects of addiction and other psychiatric disorders, and has consulted on the same topics both nationally and internationally. Despite the credentials, she prides herself on being a  regular ol’ person who loves regular ol’ people.  She will tell you the most important accomplishment of her life is her husband and two teenage sons. Nzinga (yes, first name basis!) is excited to embark on this podcast journey, and can’t wait to answer any and all questions you may have about addictive or other psychiatric disorders.   Learn more here: https://www.eleanorhealth.com/team

This call is about breaking out of patterns and unhealthy relationships. Elizabeth calls in asking for daily mantras, actions, and tools to help her feel worthy of a loving relationship. She is struggling with enoughness. She wants to get over a “toxic” relationship from her past and truly embrace, rather than sabotage, the healthy relationship she is in now. We get to the fundamental ouch or significant life event that created the misunderstanding that perpetuates her feelings of not being enough.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode279]   The feeling of not-enoughness is a major human problem. Eventually, we will evolve out of this not-enoughness thinking and raise children differently so we all don’t have to have this major human epidemic. Know that by listening to this show, doing inner work, and feeding yourself the truth, you are doing your part to evolve human consciousness.   Nothing outside of you can fulfill you and nothing external comes to you until you truly know that you are worthy and enough. That being said, we live in an interdependent world. And, although we cannot look to the outside world to make us happy, it is important to feel connected to others and attract and nurture healthy relationships, no matter where we are in our journey.   The brain may confuse familiarity with love because it was wired from an early age to make love an equation. Many learn that if they act a certain way they will get love. Conditional love can feel familiar. But, worthiness is not conditional.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you struggle with not feeling enough? Have you ever had a “toxic” relationship? Do you doubt that the people in your life really love you and see you? Do you fear that you will not measure up in some way? Is there a fierce inner critic that lives inside your head? And, even though you know you should be nicer to yourself, you can’t seem to change your self-talk?   Elizabeth’s Question: Elizabeth is searching for some daily mantras or actions that will make her feel enough and worthy.   Elizabeth’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is having difficulty connecting her intellect with her heart. She feels not enough and that her life is pointless. She verbalizes the chaos she feels in her mind. She was in an eight-year “toxic” relationship. She has “love” attached to feeling a certain way. She has trouble quieting her inner critic.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Be in the present moment and feel her feelings. Stop and breathe when her mind starts racing. Realize nothing is wrong with her. Forgive herself for confusing familiarity with love. Give her inner critic a new job description. Practice release writing when her inner critic is bratty.   Takeaways For You: If you struggle with not-enoughness, when you feel it coming on, stop and think that you are hungry for the truth. And then, feed yourself some truth. Watch your language and watch what you are affirming. Slow down! Drop in and breathe. Give things you want to shift a new job description and a new role. If you want some additional help join my Personal Mastery Course.  Join us for the Be the Queen program.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Christine's guest today is A'magine, a sex educator and author who guides people into sexual empowerment.  A'magine has been teaching and speaking about sexuality for over two decades, including her TEDx talk “Owning Your Sexual Power.” She is author of Woman on Fire: Nine Elements to Wake up Your Erotic Energy, Personal Power and Sexual Intelligence and co-author of the best-selling classic Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men.    Often conversations about sexuality can push a lot of buttons - this conversation is the opposite of that! You will feel reassured, seen, and empowered with steps to have a more fulfilling sex life!   Learn more about A'magine and her programs here: https://www.amyjogoddard.com/

Do you know the value of positive thinking but just can’t seem to shift out of negative thinking? This coaching session is about expectations and shifting negative patterns. During this call, we examine Danielle’s past to understand what formed her current expectations and get to the root of why she is sabotaging herself in relationships.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode278]   Any habituated response, feeling, or pattern of behavior you are currently engaged in was created a long time ago and you created it for a reason. If you really want to shift something you must get curious about the origin of it.   Your expectations about what could or could not happen in your present or future life are based on what has happened in your past until you consciously choose to update them. Significant life events and/or repetitive events trigger us to form beliefs. These beliefs cause us to form expectations about life, others, and ourselves which impact our present and create our future.   And, any “negative” pattern we want to change has a payoff and usually can’t be changed overnight. That’s why it is important that we learn what the payoff is and learn how to get it in a more positive way.   While it’s important not to become a victim in your life or be stuck in your story so much so that your past becomes an excuse or scapegoat for why you don’t have what you want, it is important to acknowledge it and understand how it is impacting you.   Stefanos and I created a series of eight prescriptive breathwork and meditation tracks you can use anytime. If you order by January 15, 2021, get $30 off your purchase at ChristineHassler.com/breathwork when you enter code “HOLIDAY”.   Your beloved exists. Start cultivating the relationship now by signing up for the upcoming Be the Queen program. It includes live sessions and one-on-one support. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen and read the testimonials. Starting January 24, 2021. Sign up now to get access to the bonus session on January 14th.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you a negative thinker? Do you tend to sabotage things before they even get started? Is anxiety something you would like to feel less of? Do you desire a healthy, loving relationship? Are you the child of immigrants?   Danielle’s Question: Danielle would like to know how to relieve herself of self-imposed anxiety and negative thinking in relationships and dating.   Danielle’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has become comfortable with her negative thinking. She creates a frenzy inside of her. Her parents got divorced. She has fun memories of her childhood. She saw her parents fighting. She feels she needs to protect herself from being caught off guard. She used her negative thinking as a shield to feel safe but it also keeps love out. She is always in fight-or-flight mode. She is a first-generation Cuban American. She found her life coach through prayer and intention. She will change her inner dialogue.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Identify her negative thinking, thank it for protecting her and ask her mind to help her to determine a true statement for what is happening. Consider attending the upcoming Personal Mastery Course and the Signature Retreat. Work with a healer to do some energetic bodywork. Cut some cords energetically.   Takeaways: Be aware of what you affirm with your thoughts. Get curious about your past. What were the repetitive events or significant life events in your past that cause your expectations and how are they affecting your life now? Anything you would label as negative or a pattern you want to change, identify the payoff, and find a way to get that payoff in a more positive way. Always approach your growth, development, and healing with love and curiosity. Don’t be afraid to reach out for support. If you resonated with a lot of what came up in this coaching session, my Personal Mastery Course would be a great next step for you.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This is a special, loving and timely episode. One of my dearest friends and someone I turn to frequently for intuitive guidance and reassurance, Rebecca Tait, joins me to discuss how we can process 2020 and prepare for 2021.  Bec is a gifted psychic who provides intuitive guidance to people who feel stuck or uncertain in various aspects of their personal and professional life.   You can set your own personal session with Bec here: https://www.justaskbec.com/   To get Christine's 40 day journal and to-do list, go here:  https://christinehassler.com/40-day-journal/   To grab your download of our Breathwork and Meditation series and get $30 off using the promo code HOLIDAY go here: https://christinehassler.com/breathwork/

This call is about moving out of victim and regret to fast-track healing. Today’s caller, Leah, is still getting over a breakup and is starting to feel hopeless about the marriage and family she wants to call in. Even if you haven’t had a breakup, this call is for anyone who is not where they want to be in life. It is a great example of what happens when we stay in the victim-perpetrator pattern.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode277]   If you have been in a relationship or a situation you felt was a waste of time and wish you wouldn't have done it, understand that it had happened to get you into the fast lane for healing. Issue-based relationships, even though they are difficult to go through, they jolt us into recognizing childhood wounds that need to be healed for us to have healthy adult relationships.   If we want a healthy, authentic relationship that is not a repeat of our childhood issues, we need to do the inner work. There are no “blocks” to what we want, there are just unresolved issues to what we haven’t healed. We have to do the healing work before we can attract healthy things.   Your beloved exists. Start cultivating the relationship now by signing up for the upcoming Be the Queen program. It includes live sessions and one-on-one support. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen and read the testimonials. Starting January 24, 2021. Sign up now to get access to the bonus session on January 14th.   Let’s transition into 2021 together. In the latest Coaches Corner, I add a ritual to wrap up 2020.   As a Holiday gift for you, Stefanos and I created a series of eight prescriptive breathwork and meditation tracks you can use anytime. If you order by January 13, 2021, get $30 off your purchase at ChristineHassler.com/breathwork when you enter code “HOLIDAY”.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have something in your life; a breakup or something else from your past you can’t seem to get over and you’re stuck in regret? Do you beat yourself up for choices you made in the past that you have no control over changing now? Do you find yourself craving a family or a partner because you didn’t have a loving family? Do you have anger toward someone it is time to let go of?   Leah’s Question: Leah would like guidance on how to get over a bad breakup and begin to manifest a healthy, long-term relationship.   Leah’s Key Insights and Ahas: She was traumatized by a bad breakup two years ago. She is disappointed by the lack of progress in her personal development and healing work. Her parents divorced when she was young and there were no strong bonds formed with either of them. She resents her mother and feels neglected. She feels betrayed and used by her ex. She does not feel a deep connection to anyone since her ex. She is giving him a lot of power over her. She wants to work on trusting herself. She has done therapy but has difficulty sticking with it. She moves in between the victim and perpetrator archetypes.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Do not take the situation personally. Realize her worthiness and value. Stop beating herself up. Release her anger by doing the Temper-tantrum and release writing practice from Expectation Hangover. Join the Be the Queen program. Be grateful for the lesson and give herself what she needs. Stay in compassion when she feels helpless or hopeless. Work with someone who will follow her divine timing.   Takeaways: Consider doing the anger release or the release writing practice and look at where you are in a victim and perpetrator pattern. Remember, if you are healing an aspect of yourself, you are not healing all of you.   Sponsor: Rothy’s — Give yourself stylish, comfortable, versatile shoes made from eco-friendly material, including repurposed plastic water bottles and marine plastics from Rothy’s. They are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Check out the latest shoes, handbags, and masks from Rothy’s by using this link Rothys.com/over. With free returns and exchanges on eligible products.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Christine leads you through part two of her annual new year's ritual and guides you through a meditation/visualization to consciously call in 2021.   You can access the breathwork and meditation series Stef and Christine created and get a holiday discount using code HOLIDAY at https://christinehassler.com/breathwork/

This call is about healing shame by sharing your truth with the people you love. Today’s caller, Scott, is concerned about how his parents will react when he shares a childhood secret with them. He is asking for guidance on how to approach the subject without upsetting them. If you relate to holding in a secret, or things you do not want to say or do not know how to bring forward you will find this conversation helpful.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode276]   Revealing secrets is difficult for many of us. Sometimes it is easier to keep things brushed under the rug when we do not want to deal with a particular conversation.   But, secrets can be toxic and carry shame. Do I believe that we should tell the people we love everything? I don't know. Not always. But, when it is something we allow to perpetuate a pattern that protects others, especially our parents, above speaking our truth, often the truth will prevail. When we speak our truth we must do it with love.   Protecting our children is one thing, but protecting our parents is a different conversation. If we are trying to protect our parents, we are taking on the parental role. I’m not saying that we should not consider their emotions. However, if we have a pattern of being the parent, and worrying about our parents while sacrificing our truth and our vulnerability, it is different.   Your beloved exists. Start cultivating the relationship now by signing up for the upcoming Be the Queen program. It includes live sessions and one-on-one support. Go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen and read the testimonials. Starting January 24, 2021. Sign up now to get access to the bonus session on January 14th.   Let’s transition into 2021 together. In the latest Coaches Corner, I add a ritual to wrap up 2020.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a secret from a family member or friend and you want to share it but you are afraid of upsetting them so you keep it inside? Did you grow up feeling alone? Were you the person who had to protect family members or parent your parents? Are you ready to break patterns that don’t serve you anymore?   Scott’s Question: Scott is looking for guidance about sharing a secret with his family he has had since childhood but does not want to upset them.   Scott’s Key Insights and Ahas: He fears the shame and blame associated with sharing his secret. His story will soon be widely shared. He wants to protect his family. He is speaking with a professional therapist. He feels it is an important part of his story. He felt he had to be brave for his family. He stays away from his family and feels alone. He felt he had to parent his parents. He finally feels seen. He does not want to hide any longer.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Be aware he can not control someone else’s feelings. Deliver his secret from a loving place. Tell his parents about his loneliness. Be authentic, loving, and vulnerable when he speaks with his parents.   Ask Yourself: Where are you not being authentic? Where are you not being vulnerable? Where are you not speaking your truth because you are too afraid of someone else’s reaction? In what ways were you not able to be a child in your relationship with your parents? How can you take your rightful place, as a child, within your family?   Sponsor: Natural Shilajit Resin is collected high in the mountains and contains a powerful mineral used in ayurvedic medicine that naturally detoxes your body, increases stamina and energy, and protects your cells against aging. To receive your 10% discount, go to ChristineHassler.com/resin and use the promo code ‘overit’ at check out.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Can you believe we are approaching the end of 2020? In this episode, Christine speaks about ascension symptoms you may be experiencing as we uplevel and upgrade.  She also guides you through a process to complete 2020 with awareness and intention and let it go! This is part one of a ritual that Christine leads you through each year. 

This call is about finding our nurturing, loving feminine inner voice. Today’s caller, Lex, would like guidance with her patterns of inconsistency and quieting the harsh, critical voice of her mother in her head. This call will resonate with anyone who had a challenging, traumatic, dysfunctional, or abusive relationship with their mother.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode275]   When we do not process our anger, it creates a rebel or saboteur within us. It is difficult to be consistent if we never had a model of a loving or consistent parent. We create a rebel to protect ourselves from emotional abuse and the rebel energy is often tied to anger. If you have a rebel or a self-sabotager, think about how it is anger in disguise.   The more we deal with our anger and deal with the ways we have been abused, betrayed, or neglected, the less we rely on the rebel to protect us.   If a child has a parent with a narcissistic personality disorder or is mentally abusive in some way, the child knows kindness can’t be trusted. They have to walk on eggshells all the time. So, when kind loving energy does come it is difficult to be open to it and trust it. Even though deep down we all trust feminine energy, deeply-ingrained patterns can confuse it with past experiences with females in our past.   Your beloved exists. Start cultivating the relationship now by signing up for the upcoming Be the Queen program. It includes live sessions and one-on-one support. Go to christinehassler.com/BetheQueen and read the testimonials. Starting January 24, 2021.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a mother wound or a wound with the feminine that is disconnecting you from your femininity, your love of your body, or your ability to care and nurture yourself? Do you have an inner rebel and every time you get consistent about something that rebel comes in and just throws you off track? Did you have a parent that stood by when your other parent abused you or didn’t treat you well and it made you feel like you just weren’t protected? Do you struggle with trusting yourself or other people?   Lex’s Question: Lex is looking for guidance on how to be consistent with her health routine.   Lex’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is concerned about her health and weight. She suffers from Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS). She wants people to think about her positively. She is inconsistent and self-sabotages herself. People treat her differently because of her physical appearance. Her mother had narcissistic tendencies. Her father didn’t offer her safety from her mother. She is passionate about justice and human rights. She wasn’t nurtured in her childhood. She has perfectionistic tendencies. She doesn’t feel enough and doesn’t trust. She was triggered by meditation. Her inner rebel helps her to survive and protects her. She gets stuck in a cycle of pushing, rebelling, and hopelessness.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Call in nurturing, mothering energy. Look for guides to help her find her voice, her sovereignty. Listen to and surround herself with feminine voices. Deal with the anger she feels toward her mother through emotional release writing. Do the temper-tantrum technique from Expectation Hangover or Personal Mastery. Find a therapist who works with somatic, trauma, or behavioral therapy. When she hears her inner critic speak up, recognize it, and comfort herself.   Ask Yourself: If you resonate with wanting to draw in more of the feminine voice and you want to find your loving, nurturing feminine side, surround yourself with loving, nurturing feminine energy voices. Have a conversation with your rebel, ask it what it is protecting you from. Do anger release work to see if you are rebelling because you are angry. Download my temper tantrum technique at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease. Forgive yourself for your past actions. Celebrate all the ways you have shifted and your growth.   Sponsor: Organifi — is an organic superfood powdered tea that makes quality, trusted nutrition convenient and delicious. Not all of us have the time or means to get the natural, fresh, organic vegetables we need. I upgrade my nutrition every single day with Organifi Harmony, Organifi Gold Chocolate, or Red Juice. For 20% off your order, go to Organifi.com/overit and use the code ‘OVERIT’ at checkout to receive 20% off all products.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

To wrap up the love and relationship series, Christine and Stef have a special gift for you. They recorded an experiential process to support you on your journey to Sacred Union.  In this episode, they define what Sacred Union is and explain the process. To download the experiential exercise for free, go to https://christinehassler.com/sacredunion/

This call is about seeing a partner’s inner child wounding in an issue-based relationship. Today’s couple, Lorena and Jonathon, are looking for guidance on how to connect more intimately with each other and manage their masculine and feminine energies in their relationship. We uncover that inner child wounding is more at play in the relationship than masculine/feminine dynamics. Couples and singles will find value in today’s episode.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode274]   In a relationship, we cannot hope the other person heals us or completes us. That is codependency. However, we can set the intention for the relationship to be a safe space to heal. That is the beauty of a relationship. We always want to be doing our own work and healing our own stuff. Then, we can use the relationship, which is often a triggering event, as a place to heal our inner child wounding.   It is key in your intimate relationship to see his little boy, or see her little girl and understand the wounding. Know that what you need might be different than what your partner needs. Often, we love based on how we want to be loved and how our inner child needs to be loved versus how the other person in our life needs to be loved.   A conscious couple/sacred union doesn’t mean everything’s okay all the time and we are living in awesome ecstasy, having total non-violent communication, and having amazing sex all the time. We are human; it doesn’t always work like that. Being a conscious couple/sacred union means you are willing to do the work.   If you are a single lady who wants to be in a relationship, to share your life with someone, and want to call in your match, your person, sign up for the upcoming Be the Queen program. It includes live sessions and one-on-one support. Go to christinehassler.com/BetheQueen and read the testimonials. Get early-bird bonuses if you sign up by December 14, 2020.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you’re showing up too masculine or too feminine in your relationship? Is your relationship going through challenges, maybe you have separated, and you want to restart and get a fresh take on an old relationship? Do you understand how your inner child experiences and your inner child wounding is impacting your intimacy and relationship? Are you willing to see your current or future partner through the eyes of love? Are you willing to see that little boy or a little girl inside of them and truly seek to understand your partner rather than judge them or have expectations of them?   Lorena & Jonathon’s Question: Lorena and Jonathon are looking for guidance on how to connect intimately and manage their masculine and feminine energies within the relationship.   Lorena & Jonathon’s Key Insights and Ahas: They have been together for 12 years. They separated for a time. He is cautious about being in his masculine. She is in her masculine a lot. They both come from dysfunctional families. They are in an issue-based relationship. She lived in fear as a child and couldn’t trust people in her life. He spent a lot of time trying to fit in. She has high expectations of herself and others. He gets angry and frustrated when he hears negative feedback. She wants to feel more emotionally connected to him.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Jonathon — Find his inner parent who responds to the critical voice that tells him he is enough. Jonathon — Listen to Episode #273 with Ron. Jonathon — Find his fire and tap into his repressed anger. Lorena — Tell her little girl she is safe and know she can relax now. Lorena — Acknowledge her husband for what he does. Understand each other’s inner child wounding. Find three questions to ask each other as a nighttime ritual. Give each other more hugs throughout the day.   Ask Yourself: Are you seeing and understanding your partner’s wounding? Are you loving your partner and treating them the way you need to be treated and expecting them to do the same. Or, are you loving them based on what they need? Do you clearly communicate what you need from your partner? What is your biggest hurt from childhood and how does it show up in your relationship? What is your deepest desire and how can you ask for what you need in your relationship?   Sponsor: Rothy’s — Get or give stylish, comfortable, versatile shoes made from eco-friendly material, including repurposed plastic water bottles and marine plastics from Rothy’s. They are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Check out the newest colors and latest winter styles from Rothy’s by using this link Rothys.com/over. With free returns and exchanges on eligible products.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Couples get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Christine and Stef sit down with an awesome couple who also both happen to be coaches and therapists. Listen in to a very honest conversation about what it takes to have a healthy, fulfilling relationship.   A little more about our guests:   Jayson Gaddis, author, podcaster, speaker, and entrepreneur, is the founder of The Relationship School, an impact-based company dedicated to helping people work out their differences and have fulfilling long-term partnerships. Jayson is considered a world leader in relationships. He founded The Relationship School®, is the creator of Interpersonal Intelligence® and Present Centered Relationship Coaching®. He trains people from around the world how to be effective relational leaders and coaches. He’s been married to his amazing wife since 2007 and has two beautiful kids. They live in Boulder, Colorado. When he doesn’t live and breathe this relationship stuff with his family, he pretty much gets his ass handed to him. Ellen Boeder Bio Ellen Boeder, MA, LPC is a psychotherapist and coach for couples in Boulder, Colorado, who has been interested in how relationships actually work for as long as she can remember.  Studying with innovative researchers and cutting edge practitioners in the field of psychology, relationships, and also yoga, for over 20 years has helped her integrate her approach to working with people in a sensitive, straightforward, deeply informed, and embodied way.  The most high-level training she does is usually at home with her husband and two young children, as she finds her way through the real, raw, and beautiful experience of being deeply intertwined with others.  Ellen is also a faculty member for The Relationship School, is a long time yoga practitioner, and writes a blog that incorporates her studies in psychology with her life experience as a mother, called Rearranged by Motherhood.

This call is about overcoming apathy and releasing anger. Today’s caller, Ron, was constantly shamed by a volatile father. As an adult, he feels detached and numb. He uses apathy as a coping mechanism. We work through how he can release his feelings and do inner child work. I offer some techniques and strategies to help him regain a healthy masculine identity.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode273]   When men have a volatile father, they become passive or hyper-aggressive. They go to extremes. They can become the alpha-dog and lash out or they become passive with emotional eating. It is a common father wound for men to have a degree of shame that goes in either direction.   Shame is toxic and the way it impacts us all as humans is similar and different. How it impacts men is particularly detrimental, for women as well, but I've seen it impact men in a way where they lose touch with their masculine energy and become more passive in life.   It is nearly impossible to come out of being raised in a fear-based home, having a volatile parent, and never feeling like you got the love, affection, and approval you needed and grow up having no issues with it. As you might intellectually want yourself to be different, until you go back and do the healing work and dive deep, you are going to find yourself in the pantry sneak eating or whatever your version of that is.   If you are not living the life you want to be living, it is just feedback that there is more work to do. Inner child wounding is sometimes tough to get at because we bury it so deep. There is no shame and being willing to forgive the person is the first step.   If you are a single lady who wants to be in a relationship, to share your life with someone, and want to call in your match, your person, sign up for the upcoming Be the Queen program. It includes live sessions and one-on-one support. Go to christinehassler.com/BetheQueen and read the testimonials. Get early-bird bonuses if you sign up by December 14, 2020.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you ever feel uncomfortable in your own skin? Are you chronologically an adult and keep up with your grown-up responsibilities, but inside you don’t feel like one? Are you mostly passive except for those occasional moments you lose your temper? Did you get the love, attention, and affection you truly need and deserve from your parents, especially your father?   Ron’s Question: Ron does not feel comfortable in his skin and he feels he does not belong. He would like guidance on how to break through the patterns.   Ron’s Key Insights and Ahas: He practices negative self-talk. He doesn’t feel like an adult, even though he is responsible. He is afraid he will get in trouble for what he does. He hides his eating habits. His father was quick to anger and volatile. He feels detached from his family. He has numbed himself and feels apathy toward his parents. He craves feeling and pleasure. He does try to get his anger out.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Connect to his aggression, rage, and anger to get to the hurt. Do the Temper Tantrum Technique from Expectation Hangover. Write an ‘F-U’ letter to his parents he doesn’t send. Tap into his masculine energy to find his fire, his warrior to allow him to feel again. Find his inner coach voice, not his inner critic.   Takeaways: If you aren't feeling like an adult, think about where you got frozen in childhood. Many people freeze at a certain age even though we can do adult things. Do emotional processing. Use this free anger release download, ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease. If you find yourself sneak eating or the kind of behavior you do in the shadows to soothe yourself or give you momentary pleasure and escapism when you feel the urge to do it, put your hand on your heart and one hand on your belly and ask your little one what they need. If eating is a coping mechanism for you, listen to my “Coaches Corner with Samantha Skelly, Hungry for Happiness” Reconnect to your little one and give them a chance to express their feelings. Be the parent to yourself you never had.   Sponsor: Rothy’s — Get your new favorite stylish, comfortable, versatile shoes made from eco-friendly material, including repurposed plastic water bottles and marine plastics from Rothy’s. They are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Check out the newest colors and latest styles from Rothy’s by using this link Rothys.com/over.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Christine answers questions from single women and covers topics such as dating apps, healing sexual trauma, getting over ex's, removing intimacy blocks, and much more.   You can apply for Be the Queen here: www.christinehassler.com/bethequeen   You can download Christine's free Gratitude meditation here: https://christinehassler.com/gratitude

This call is about recognizing competing intentions and forgiveness. Today’s caller, Michelle, is facing challenges when calling in a partner, her person, someone to share her life with. A childhood wound regarding trust keeps repeating because she has not healed it yet. Even if you are not single, this call has something in it for you. We work through blocks when it comes to trusting people, and competing intentions.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode272]   When we have competing intentions, we have a longing and a desire. Yet, we also have protective strategies of “I may get hurt.” It is the intention that is keeping you protected that will win. This is why we feel like we are sabotaging ourselves. We keep repeating the same pattern over and over again.   The angrier we are, the better we are at protecting ourselves. The more we keep the wall up. Remember, when we forgive, it’s not about condoning actions or forgiving the actions that hurt us. It is about forgiving the misunderstandings and misperceptions and misbeliefs we bought into, based on what happened.   The power of your desire, the power of what you want IS powerful. Don't think it cannot bring you what you want. You have to look at what is blocking it. One of the best ways we can protect ourselves from future hurts is to heal our past hurts.   In December, I am offering the next round of personal development grant money. The grant money can be used for mental or emotional therapy, coaching, or anything that enhances your emotional wellbeing. To sign up to receive $500 go to ChristineHassler.com/grant.   If you are a single lady who wants to be in a relationship, to share your life with someone, and want to call in your match, your person, sign up for the upcoming Be the Queen program. It includes live sessions and one-on-one support. Go to christinehassler.com/BetheQueen and read the testimonials. Get early-bird bonuses if you sign up by December 14, 2020.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a similar expectation hangover happening repeatedly? Are you aware of a childhood wound and know it impacts your life, but you can’t seem to shift it? Are you single and want to be with a partner, your person, especially, after this challenging year? Do you have trouble trusting people, especially when it comes to the opposite sex?   Michelle’s Question: Michelle wants to find someone to share her life with, her person.   Michelle’s Key Insights and Ahas: Her brother passed away unexpectedly. She is the youngest of five children from a big family. She’s never been married but wants to find someone to share life with. She has a broken heart about her family breaking up. Her father left her mother for another woman. She believes she can’t trust people and attracts men she can’t trust. She has put up a wall around her heart. She may have low self-worth and a rough inner critic. She has been in therapy. She has competing intentions. She is angry and feels she needs to protect herself. Her feminine desire is being blocked by masculine anger.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Find a way to protect herself in a healthy way. Speak with her younger self about releasing her anger. Realize she doesn’t have to trust every person, just one who is worthy. Forgive herself for what she made her father’s actions mean. Reparent herself by acknowledging her father isn’t representative of all men. Start trusting herself. Believe she can have a healthy, happy relationship.   Takeaways: Consider what your competing intentions are. Is there something you want in your life but what is the protective block you have that is keeping you from getting it? Get to the source of your issue. Remember, with forgiveness, you are not forgiving the actions, you are forgiving the misunderstandings and limiting beliefs you bought into, based on the action. If today's episode resonated with you, re-listen to it. If you want to apply to the Be the Queen program in January, go to ChristineHassler.com/BetheQueen.   Sponsor: Organifi — is an organic superfood powdered tea that makes quality, trusted nutrition convenient and delicious. Not all of us have the time or means to get the natural, fresh, organic vegetables we need. I upgrade my nutrition every single day with Organifi Gold, Organifi Gold Chocolate, or Green Juice. For 20% off your order, go to Organifi.com/overit and use the code ‘OVERIT’ at checkout to receive 20% off your order.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Stef joins Christine to answer more listener questions on libido, ghosting, loving an empath, masculine/feminine dynamics and much more!    To access the recording of the group call go here: https://christinehassler.com/group-coaching-replays/ To apply for Be the Queen go here: https://christinehassler.com/bethequeen/

This call is about restoration and compassion. Today’s caller, Yaira, keeps going, going, going until she burns herself out. She is committed to believing that it is just who she is but the crux of this call is when she says she was trying to escape her circumstances. If you relate to being uncomfortable in stillness you will find this call useful.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode271]   For any of you who have grown up in a chaotic home, it is common for you to want to go, go, go because stillness brought up feelings of how long is it going to be before the other shoe drops? Stillness can feel traumatic because you are bracing yourself for something bad to come. If you relate to feeling like this, you have to reorient your body, your inner child, and your subconscious mind to stillness. Reinforce the idea that just because you are still it doesn't mean you are trapped or in danger.   If you feel you have already done a lot of personal development work, know that you are not done. You are never done. Just accept it. The hard work is at the beginning. What phase are you in on your personal growth journey?    There are some of you who are very aware and who have lived in a “house” that has been constructed for a while and continue doing maintenance. But, others of you are still in the personal development building stage where there is a lot of work yet to do. It’s OK. Please don’t discredit the work you have done just because you have more work to do. Don’t minimize what you have done because there is something else you discovered that needs healing.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you passionate and committed to things, but sometimes you burn yourself out and don’t know how to stop? Do you trust yourself? Do you have issues with not pacing yourself? Do you ever feel like you are out of control? You want to do a lot of things but feel like you have no stop button? Is there something in your life, your past perhaps, you are trying to escape from?   Yaira's Question: Yaira wants to push projects forward but experiences burn out and would like guidance on how to break her “negative” habits.   Yaira's Key Insights and Ahas: She gets excited about starting new projects. She experiences burnout when she pushes herself too hard. She feels safe and grounded in some aspects but fearful in others. She can be overindulgent. She does not trust herself to set limitations or boundaries. She does not have strong family bonds. She grew up in a chaotic household and had to figure things out by herself. She has not realized how much her past has impacted her. She has done a lot of personal development work. She wants to be in full control of her life.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Find a way to work with her energy in a way that conserves her energy. Tell her younger self that she is free and has dominion over her life. Call forward her inner parent. Do a body scan or yoga practice to restore her body. Speak to herself with compassion.   Takeaways: If you are passionate, make sure to balance yourself out by being compassionate. Passion is fire energy, and it will burn you out if you do not balance it out. Find the voice of your inner parents and explain things to yourself. Find your “pull” motivation. Consider how much of what you are doing is motivated by “push or away from” energy versus the “toward energy” that pulls you toward your vision.   Sponsor: Rothy’s — Get your new favorite stylish, comfortable, versatile shoes made from eco-friendly material, including repurposed plastic water bottles and marine plastics from Rothy’s. They are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Check out the newest colors and latest styles from Rothy’s by using this link Rothys.com/over.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

This is a juicy one! Christine answers questions from our last group coaching call about love, sex, and relationships.   To access the recording of the group call go here: https://christinehassler.com/group-coaching-replays/   To get your amazing Organifi products, go here:  www.organifi.com/overit

This call is about bringing more harmony into your life. Today’s caller, Brian, loves his work but is searching for more work-life balance. He enjoys being the person who is always available to others but takes little time for himself. This episode is enlightening for those who get validation from being the reliable, go-to person.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode270]   There is no such thing as work-life balance. They are not two separate things. Work is part of life. It’s about putting more harmony in your life by doing things to balance out the huge time suckers. If you work a lot or are with your kids a lot, what are you doing to balance it out? Have you created boundaries to make time for yourself? Do you have a self-care practice? Is it your once-a-week therapy session? What things are you doing to balance out the things in your life that are time-consuming?   The ego generally gets a bad wrap in the personal development space. But, we all have an ego. We all need to feel like we matter. Every human needs to feel important. The ego is how we get validation. We just need to be careful that validation doesn’t become linked to our identity.   Every pattern we are involved in has costs and payoffs. Does the imbalance in your life cost you more than it pays out?   This is an intense time so be mindful of what you allow into your mind. Choose what you want your individual experience to be. In November, I am launching the next round of personal development grant money. The grant money can be used for therapy, coaching, or anything that enhances your emotional wellbeing. To sign up to receive $500 go to ChristineHassler.com/grant.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you need more work-life balance? Do you often feel like you can’t get away from your responsibilities? Do you believe that if you set boundaries or are not available or responsible all the time, things will fall apart? Do you relate to being the go-to person? Do you get validation for being the go-to-person? Does it make you feel needed?   Brian’s Question: Brian would like guidance on how to bring more work-life balance into his world.   Brian’s Key Insights and Ahas: He works a lot of hours. He loves his job and likes to make things work. He enjoys being a reliable person. He feels pressured to always be available. He values being a good resource at work. He would like to move toward being a leader. His life is mostly about other people.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Expand his purpose with self-reflection. Pay attention to his self-talk. Be kind and gentle with himself. Create a schedule of when he is available. Adopt a five-minute morning meditation or breathwork practice.   Takeaways: Think about what you are doing; does it give you a sense of identity and purpose? What is it costing you? Is it time to evolve out of being the people pleaser or the go-to person? Think about the boundaries you need to put in place to break some patterns. What are the simple, non-time-consuming things you can set up that weigh a lot and will make a big difference?   Sponsor: ShipStation — The solution for online businesses and individuals who want to ship things without leaving home. ShipStation software tracks all of your shipments in one easy-to-use interface. Over and On With It listeners can try ShipStation for free for 60-days by using the offer code 'OVERIT'. Go to ShipStation.com and click on the microphone at the top of the page to let Shipstation help your business grow and thrive.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Samantha Skelly is a 7-figure entrepreneur, sought after international speaker, best-selling author, and wellness coaching expert. She founded both Hungry for Happiness, a movement that helps people experience true transformation and happiness through trained certified coaches who utilize emotional and energetic coaching techniques, and PAUSE Breathwork, which has a mission to unite humanity by helping people breathe, feel, and thrive. Samantha has revolutionized the weight loss and self-help industries by examining the individual and underlying causes of food, body, and self-love issues. You can check her out on  the popular Hungry for Happiness podcast and her best-selling HayHouse book, Hungry For Happiness which you can learn more about here: https://www.hungryforhappiness.com/hungry-for-happiness-book/

This call is about moving past programmed beliefs to uncover your authentic beliefs. Today’s caller, Meagan, is feeling unfulfilled and directionless. After her father’s passing, she had to take on a lot of responsibility quickly but did not receive support from her family. What we discover is that she has competing intentions or programmed beliefs that are bumping up against her authentic beliefs.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode269]   Life during our late 20s and early 30s can be difficult because it is at a time in life when it’s a weird combination of trying to figure out our future while also trying to clean up our past. We don’t want to repeat our past but it’s hard to get clarity on the future when we have not cleaned up our past first.   Often, our programmed beliefs and conditioning bump up against who we authentically are and it creates conflict.   Whenever we are doing clearing work or processing work of our past, at the same time we must reprogram our brain with the beliefs we want to believe, or the beliefs that we authentically believe. Sometimes we just need a little reminder of what those are.   And, as we start to clear things out we want to make sure we put new programs in, otherwise, the brain tends to hang on to the old stuff.   Secure your spot for the next live group coaching call about sex, intimacy, love, and relationships. The live call starts at 5 pm PST on 11/11/20. Go to ChristineHassler.com.group for more information or to access the library of past and future group calls. Become part of my community for only $20.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you ever feel like you are not on the “right path” or don’t have the direction in your life that you want? Do you feel like you “should” have a more secure career path? Growing up, did you feel free to express yourself creatively, and emotionally? Have you ever experienced a loss you have yet to fully grieve?   Meagan’s Question: Meagan would like guidance on finding direction and fulfillment in her life.   Meagan’s Key Insights and Ahas: She feels she lacks direction. She was jolted into adulthood much sooner than she expected after her father’s passing. She has not fully grieved her father. She felt a lack of support in her family. She tried to be perfect to get love from her parents. She never felt fully expressed. She would like to be a Human Design Reader. She recently spoke with a counselor about her grief. She wants to move and create a community for herself.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Invest in her wellness. Surround herself with people who have an explorer spirit. Confirm her authentic beliefs through books, podcasts, or other personal development media. Break the pattern of overthinking everything. Express herself creatively and emotionally.   Takeaways: Reflect on what are your programmed beliefs and your authentic beliefs. If you live in your head a lot, give your emotions an exit route by releasing them. Consider looking into Human Design. Listen to my podcast with Erin Claire Jones.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches. Coaches Corner #241 with Erin Claire Jones on Human Design

A must-listen for both men and women! Traver Boehm joins Christine to talk about why so many men are emotionally unavailable or displaying unhealthy masculinity and how to shift it. Traver is inspiring millions of men to shift their experience of masculinity by combining the Primal Masculine with the Divine Masculine.  He is an author, speaker, and founder of the ManUncivilized Movement, as well as a former Strength & Conditioning coach, a CrossFit gym owner, an MMA fighter, a bodyguard, an acupuncturist, and a surfer.  (Check out his amazing TEDx talk by clicking here.) Website: www.manuncivilized.com Instagram: @traverboehm

This call is about developing authentic relationships by being authentic. Today’s caller, Kylie, is individuating and is trying to figure out how to have a grown-up relationship with her mother. This call is useful for those of you who are wondering how to have an adult relationship with your parents and break free of the patterns that were set up in childhood.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode268]   When we become an adult, we start to step into sovereignty. Our parents, or caregivers, raised us and they were our authority figure. We were dependent on them. As children, we couldn’t care for ourselves and were not supposed to. We were subjected to whatever patterns our parents imprinted upon us. Since as children we are sponges, we absorbed many of the way they did things, the way they feel their emotions, and the way they relate.  We learned as children to adapt to those behaviors and be whoever we think we need to be, to be safe, to be loved, and protected.   Then, as adults, as we step into sovereignty and we are not dependent on our parents, and we are dependent on ourselves, we have to consider the relational dynamic that was set up when we were dependent and had no sovereignty, no power.   The patterns that were set up your parental dynamic, either with one or both of your parents when they were set up, you had no choice in the matter. Today, you do. Do you still want to keep playing out the patterns that were imposed and imprinted on you as a child, now that you are an adult? Or, do you want to individuate and have a healthy adult relationship with your parents?   If so, it may involve upsetting them. The other person being upset is often a side effect of setting boundaries. You cannot wait until you are sure the other person will not be upset to do it.   To create a vision for a relationship that requires another person who is not doing their work can leave you with a massive expectation hangover. I have a guided talk in the Calm app.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you walk on eggshells or have anxiety when it comes to one or both of your parents or anyone in your life? Do you often feel yourself contorting into what you think someone wants you to be so you avoid upsetting them? Do you feel like you are growing at a faster rate than your parents? Or, have outgrown your parents and you’re not sure how to have a relationship with them? Are you authentic and sovereign in your relationships or do you tend to give your power away?   Kylie’s Question: Kylie wants guidance on how to develop a more authentic relationship with her mother.   Kylie’s Key Insights and Ahas: She rarely speaks with her mother even though they live close. Her parents divorced when she was six. She decided she does not want to follow her mother’s path. There is some co-dependent patterning. She is careful about how she communicates with her mother. She does not want to disappoint her mother. She is in tune with her body and working on her personal development. She embraces intimacy with others. She gives her mom a lot of power while disempowering herself.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Be careful not to take the caretaking role with her mother. Be unapologetically herself. Let it be OK that her mother gets upset. Ask her boyfriend to call her out when she rolls back into her previous patterns.   Takeaways: Stop editing yourself in relationships, especially the ones closest to you. It is okay to rock the boat. No hiding, no avoiding. Embrace “carefrontations” and speak your truth. Do not parent your parents. Ask yourself why you chose your parents. Look at the ways you are not sovereign. Where are you giving your power away?   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

If you listen to this show, you are most likely an older soul and you are going to love this episode with Ainslie MacLeod. He is an internationally acclaimed past-life psychic, spiritual teacher, and award-winning author of The Instruction, The Transformation, and most recently, The Old Soul’s Guidebook. Ainslie specializes in exploring past lives to reveal your life’s purpose and has been a featured guest on Oprah’s SuperSoul Conversations Series. He lives on a tranquil island in the Pacific Northwest.   Learn more about Ainslie, sign up for his membership community, and take your soul type quiz at: ainsliemacleod.com

This call is about seeking an external change to fill an internal void. Today’s caller, Leigh, wants to make a career change because she is not fulfilled by her current career. But her career switch is not the priority, it is about healing and breaking patterns. This call is important for any of you who feel stuck, who want to make a change, especially a career change, but are not doing it.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode267]   Practical decisions are often fear-influenced decisions. Fear-influenced decisions are not wrong. We feel we have to make decisions that give us more certainty. But, we sacrifice a lot of our beliefs, our magic, and our dreams when we do. As human beings, we learn through contrast, so it is OK to make fear-influenced decisions.   There are a lot of reasons why we do not make the changes we want to make. It can come back to childhood wounding and it can also be because we don’t have the right foundation.   We often seek out relationships or careers to give us what we didn’t get in childhood. For example, you might be seeking out someone in a relationship who makes you feel safe. Or, you may be seeking out a career to make you feel self-expressed and free. Many of our quests for fulfillment are a call for healing. But, remember, we never want to use something external to fill an internal void.   Empaths are sponges. We soak up a lot of information. One of the tendencies of empaths is that we take too much of other people’s guidance. We take on people’s feelings and accept what people tell us we should do. If you are an empath, think about that, feel into that. Do you allow other people to tell you who you are and what you should do, versus trusting your own discernment?   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel a call to do something different but can’t seem to make the change? Did you grow up feeling like you had the attention you desired and deserved or are you starved for attention and emotional expression? Are you in a relationship where you feel fully supported? Are you afraid to speak your needs and go after your dream?   Leigh’s Question: Leigh wants to make a career change and would like guidance about how to follow her dreams.   Leigh’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is interested in a career in personal development or healing arts. She is currently a lawyer but not passionate about her work. She has two children under five. She loves deep conversations. She needs financial security. People always question what her heart desires. She felt alone and not heard as a child. She wants to follow her heart. She is an empathetic, feelings-based person. Her husband doesn’t understand why she needs a change.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Prioritize herself and her marriage. Talk with a coach or therapist where she can feel heard and supported. Get into the habit of expressing her emotions. Express herself in her marriage.   Takeaways: Get a consistent, habitual form of support in a therapeutic environment. Remember, there is divine timing for everything. If you feel you are not moving forward in the direction you want, it doesn't mean you’re not moving forward. You may have to re-route your path.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In this quickie episode Christine shares tips for how to get out of limbo and make a choice so that you can move forward. If you are struggling over a decision, don't miss this one!

This call is about eliminating the imprints put on us by other people. Today’s caller, Rory, has childhood wounding from her father’s verbal abuse and her mother’s lack of support. She feels stuck in her life but she is just in a loop of patterns she created to cope with not getting what she needed as a child.    [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode266]   Whatever parent’s love we crave most or whichever parent we felt the most distant from is usually who we tend to find a relationship with or we model ourselves after. And, that is what we are always chasing as an adult.   We want our parents to be proud of us but especially our fathers. Knowing your dad is proud of you is massive. We want to know our mom loves us unconditionally and dad is really proud of us. It helps our self-esteem.   If you are someone who feels stuck, realize you are not stuck. You are just caught in a loop based on your imprints and your patterns and your wounding. You have to find an exit route. And, often the exit route is what you did not get as a child that you need to give yourself.   People are often good at giving others what they are horrible about giving to themselves. You may be nurturing and compassionate towards others but hard on yourself. Or, patient with others but completely impatient with yourself. Anything we give in overflow to others is what we need to give ourselves.   What are you giving that you’re not receiving?   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel stuck in your life? Do you keep trying but things just aren’t happening? Do you consistently start things but don’t finish them? Did you grow up in a household where both parents were really hard on you? Did you feel like nothing you ever did was right? Are you excellent at giving others compassion, acceptance, and understanding but not so great about giving it to yourself?   Rory’s Question: Rory feels she has hit a wall and doesn’t understand why she doesn’t finish things she starts.   Rory’s Key Insights and Ahas: She grew up with a lack of love. As a child, she was told she was different, sensitive, and that she would fail. She wonders what the point of her life is. She has a pattern of quitting. She has recurring disturbing dreams about her father and sister. She didn’t get any completion energy from her father. She internalized her father’s voice. She attaches negative connotations to journaling. She feels pressure to do a lot of things. She doesn’t speak to herself with compassion. She has a fierce inner critic.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Nourish herself with the things she didn’t get. Bring more healthy masculine energy into life. Reduce the amount of doing and be compassionate with herself. Realize external things won’t take the place of her passions. Write out and record what she wishes her mother would have said and listen to it several times a day. Listen to this episode again to reflect on how she is talking to herself.   Takeaways: What loop are you in and what are the imprints and patterns that have you in a loop? How can you find an exit route? What did you always want from your father or mother but didn’t get and start giving it to yourself? Listen to the voices in your head and to the ones that are mean, the ones that push you, the ones that don’t accept you say, "Who is this, who is this?" and separate yourself from those voices.   Sponsor: ShipStation — The solution for online businesses and individuals who want to ship things without leaving home. ShipStation software tracks all of your shipments in one easy-to-use interface. Try ShipStation for free for 60-days by using the offer code 'OVERIT'. ShipStation helps your business grow and thrive.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Omar is a gifted Storyteller, Public Speaker, and Life Coach specializing in Addiction Recovery and Emotional Healing work. He’s the host of the incredibly popular SHAIR Recovery podcast. He delivers a powerful message of overcoming drug addiction and an inspirational 16-year journey of recovery.  Omar is a successful self-made entrepreneur, is married to his soul mate, and lives in one of the most beautiful places in the world, Costa Rica. He has transformed his life through recovery, personal development, and coaching and now he helps people all over the world transform their lives. Listen and learn more: https://theshairpodcast.com/ https://omarpinto.com/

This call is about treating ourselves with compassion, encouragement, and unconditional love when we have a mother wound. Today’s caller, Megan, believes people avoid her because she has too many problems. What we uncover during our session is that she has created a false independence because it is how she copes with having a neglectful mother.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode265]   When we don’t have anyone holding us, we hold things inside.   The difference between being a victim with friends and being vulnerable is being a victim is always complaining about the same thing, never empowering yourself, and never doing anything differently. Being vulnerable is sharing what’s in your heart, and taking responsibility. It’s when you are not looking for a solution, not always complaining about the same thing but just having an open heart and being intentional about how you choose to shift it, even if it’s just being more compassionate with yourself. Victims don’t make too many friends unless they just hang out with other victims and they can all throw pity parties together. This doesn’t mean to not be vulnerable. You can be vulnerable without going into victim consciousness.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you are too much for people? Do you feel you lose friendships or people avoid you because your life is hard and you think that you are just too much? What events in your childhood are keeping you stuck? Do you have an attitude that nothing works out and things are hard? Did you have a mother who was not there for you or who neglected you, or who you were not enough for?   Megan’s Question: Megan feels she is too intense or too much for other people and would like guidance on how to break free of the pattern.   Megan’s Key Insights and Ahas: People pull away or avoid her. She had three near-death experiences as a child. Her parents divorced. She feels isolated. She struggles with low self-worth. Her mother was neglectful in many forms. She is mothering herself the way she was mothered. She attracts emotionally unavailable people.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Nourish her relationship with herself. Separate from her struggles to connect more deeply with herself. Communicate with an advisor or good friend.   Takeaways: Do the hand exercise and give it a voice. Consider what you think of when you think of a “mother” and write out a list of the qualities that make an amazing, loving mother and integrate those qualities into your life. Work on being vulnerable and intimate with your friends.   Sponsor: Jenni Kayne — If you love clothes that are both stylish and super comfortable with a dash of refined simplicity, you will love Jenni Kayne. Having comfortable cozy items is essential at any time of year. Use the code ‘OVERIT’ for 20% off at checkout!   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Emily Pereira joins Christine to talk about getting over heartbreak, leaving a "safe/successful" life and finding love and happiness in unexpected places.   She is an international retreat leader, yoga teacher, and women’s coach specializing in helping women call in intimate, heart-thumping, passionate, I got-your-back-no-matter-what love. Her raw vulnerable storytelling laced with mind-blowing ahas about women’s empowerment have reached over 5 million people worldwide. She has written for some of the biggest media outlets of our generation and her first book, a memoir, The Quest: from the Hollywood Hills to the Amazon Jungle, one woman’s search for enough will be released Nov. 10th 2020.   She is also the host of "The Quest for Love Summit" - a 7-Day Virtual Experience curated to help you discover the secrets to wild attraction, cosmic connection and committed devotion.  You can join for free at: https://thequestforlovesummit.com/   Emily lives in Santa Teresa, a seaside village along Costa Rica’s Pacific coast, with her husband, Manex and two small children, Saïa Moon & Teotihuacán where together they founded the Sunrise Mountain Retreat and Wellness Center.

This call is about how fear of commitment may truly be fear of loss. Today’s caller, Rachel, is collecting evidence about why she doesn’t want to be in a relationship because it will be too much work even though she says she would like to have a relationship. We talk about how the losses she experienced as a child may be coloring her perception of what a relationship will be like and how interdependent relationships can help us heal.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode264]   People who felt very alone as children will lead a solitary life and think that it’s what they want because they want to avoid a wound about being lonely as a child. They stay in that energetic and continue living a lonely, solitary life because they don’t know any different. It keeps the old wound from coming up. It may not make a lot of logical sense but if you are someone who lives a solitary or lonely life, and you believe that you are an introvert and you like it better, is it really true? Or, is loneliness a wound from your childhood you are perpetuating in your adulthood?   When we don’t have stability or structure in our life or childhood, things become overwhelming as an adult. It’s because there is still a traumatized child running the show. This is why having a lot going on, for someone who moved around a lot, had a parent that died, or didn’t have someone there to provide structure and stability, is hard. Just a few things can seem overwhelming.   Until we do healing work, our perception is influenced by past wounding because we expect to see what we have seen in the past.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you not getting into a relationship because you don’t want one or because you are scared? Do you have a history of loss? Has loss been a major teacher for you? Are you afraid that if anyone gets too close, you will lose them? Do you spend a lot of time alone and think that you like that better? Do you believe your inner child wounding could actually be healed in a relationship? Do you avoid relationships because you’re afraid you’re going to get hurt?   Rachel’s Question: Rachel has experienced multiple losses and would like guidance on how to approach relationships in her life.   Rachel’s Key Insights and Ahas: She believes a relationship would be a lot of work. Her mother passed when she was seven. She was separated from her family members when her mother passed. She was adopted at 14 by a family friend. She may be looking for a caretaker in a relationship. She wants a relationship but is not sure it will fit her life. She would like a relationship with someone she can count on. She is craving a nurturing partner. She leads a solitary life and feels safer hiding herself. She has a lot of love to give.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Stop letting the loss she experienced define her. Open her heart to herself, other people, or an animal. Consider if she makes decisions from her heart or fear. Watch or read things that model a nurturing love.   Takeaways: Know that the thing that has been the primary teacher in your life does not have to be a consistent lesson. For any decision you are dealing with, ask yourself if you are making the choice from fear or from your heart. Connect to your mothering, nurturing energy, whether you are male or female. If you are someone who deals with loneliness, give love to yourself and others.   Sponsor: Rothy’s — Get your new favorite stylish, versatile, sustainable shoes and bags made from eco-friendly material, including repurposed plastic water bottles and marine plastics from Rothy’s. They are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet and are machine washable. Check out the newest colors and latest styles from Rothy’s by using this link Rothys.com/over and get free shipping and free returns.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Meera Lee Patel is a self-taught artist and the author of Start Where You Are, Made Out of Stars, and My Friend Fear, and—most recently—Create Your Own Calm. She creates work to inspire and encourage others to connect with themselves, each other, and the world around them. In this episode we talk about how you can incorporate art and creativity into your wellness routine and meditation practice. Learn more about Meera here: https://meeralee.com/

This call is about effectively communicating your needs to break unhealthy patterns in relationships. Today’s caller, Julie, is aware of the unhealthy patterns in her relationships but is uncertain why the patterns aren’t shifting. The amazing thing about relationships, romantic or friendship, is that they can provide healing ground for inner child wounding if we feel safe enough to do it.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode263]   We all have masculine and feminine energy within us, no matter how we identify. Often, the way we present in life is not our core essence. Masculine energy likes to feel respected. It’s on the top of the priority list for men. And, for the female-identifying people that doesn’t mean that you don’t want to be respected but for the feminine essence it is a lot more about feeling safe and respect is part of that. It is about feeling safe physically, feeling safe emotionally, and feeling safe sexually.   Masculine and feminine energy is something Stefanos and I teach a lot. It’s another avenue of personal development we can learn about and in relationships, especially intimate relationships, it’s really important to have polarity, otherwise, you either kind of go into roommate mode or you have a lot of arguments.   When healing a romantic relationship there are two key aspects. The inner child piece and the polarity piece. It is hard to get the polarity piece in place when the inner child piece isn’t in place. So how the inner child piece helps with the polarity piece is as children we are more in touch with our core essence, either feminine or masculine, and it’s because of inner child wounding that those masks get put on. The more we give ourselves what we need inside ourselves the more we give the little one inside of us what we didn’t get as children.   Remember inner child work in a relationship is meeting our needs, parenting ourselves in the way that we didn’t get, and then communicating our needs in a non-attacking, non-passive-aggressive, non-manipulative way to our partners.   It’s a lot to be human, be a parent, and be in a relationship, but when we understand our inner child, understand how to parent, and understand polarity it becomes a little less overwhelming and a little easier.   Level 2 of the Virtual Inner Child Workshop will be held on Sept. 25-27. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Level2 to sign up or visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchildbundle to purchase both Level 1 and Level 2. Recordings of both workshops will be available until October 26, 2020.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have patterns that keep showing up in your life, or your relationships, and no matter what you do you just can’t seem to shake them? Were you raised in a home where you had to parent your parents and you had to be both the mother and the father? Do you tend to parent your children in a way that is opposite to how you were parented but when it comes to your own relationship with your inner child you’re still parenting yourself the way you were parented? Do you relate to feeling like things are going well but you are just waiting for the other shoe to drop so you can’t really enjoy the good happening in your life?   Julie’s Question: Julie has grown a lot with personal development work but she can’t seem to shake the patterns of waiting for something to go wrong.   Julie’s Key Insights and Ahas: She separated herself from an abusive marriage. She looks for things to go wrong. Her mother is bi-polar. She is currently in a romantic relationship. Her partner speaks another language. She didn’t have a close relationship with her father. She adopted a protective strategy. She is in Personal Mastery. Her mother criticized her. She fears being disappointed and hurt.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Use her relationship as a healing container. Work with her inner child, little Julie. Give love and encouragement in place of self-judgment. Step into her feminine. Talk with her partner about getting her needs met. Be gentle with herself.   Takeaways: Ask yourself, ‘what did I need most in childhood that I didn’t get?’ and give it to yourself. Make it a priority to give yourself whatever it is. If you want to learn more about the masculine-feminine dynamic, I like the book, Intimate Communion by David Deida. If you want to try it on Audible you can go to Audibletrial.com/overitandonwithit to get a discount. If you’re in a relationship, think of how you can meet the needs of your inner child and then communicate those needs to your partner in a non-passive-aggressive, non-attacking, or non-manipulative way. Do the inner child work. Join us for the Inner Child Workshop, Level 1, and Level 2.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

On this episode one of Christine's friends and trusted advisors, Stephanie Roman joins her on the show to talk about being an empath and tapping into your psychic gifts.  You will be so incredibly inspired by her story and love her insight on how to live a healthy, empowered life as an empath.   Stephanie channels the Divine to give you messages that resonate in helping you remember your most authentic self and path. She lovingly holds a magic mirror up to you so you can see how wonderful and beautiful you are in the eyes of God. This seemingly simple process helps you feel that connection to something bigger that sometimes becomes lost by our society valuing external direction over your own.   She believes that EVERY person is psychic and that each person experiences multiple different types of abilities over a lifetime. One of her huge missions is helping you recognize and experiment with how to stop doubting your gift in order to integrate them into whatever your big dreams are. She proudly calls herself a “Psychic Trainer” and helps her clients take bigger and bigger leaps of faith in their life by empowering them to know that THEY have all the answers.   You can learn more about here here: https://www.psychictrainerstephanie.com/ If you are interested in her six-week program for empaths, you can call or text her at (469) 332-7228‬

This call is about coming to terms with leaving an abusive past behind. Today’s caller, Julie, grew up in an abusive home and struggles with how much responsibility she has to stay involved in the family dynamic of her family of origin. We discuss body memories and what she is experiencing at a soul level. Until we parent our inner child the way it needs to be parented, that part of us continues to hook into the past to try to get our needs met.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode262]   Whatever your story is, there’s no reason to carry around shame or judgment of it and there is no reason to over-identify with it. If you think because of your past you have to have an awful life, or you will never become what you want to become, or use it as a scapegoat or excuse, you don’t. Your story is part of your life. It is something that has formed you but it doesn’t have to limit you. And, there’s no need to be embarrassed or ashamed about it. Your story is your story, that’s it.   The body is often the language of the subconscious mind. And, with emotions, our body can be stuck in time because it remembers a trauma that happened. Many of our emotions are coming from the subconscious level, especially the programmed emotions. Those are the ones we have been feeling since we were a child, based on things that happened or things we were told. Emotions that we feel over and over again that are pervasive and repetitive are emotional addictions. Oftentimes, right before we break an addiction, cravings for the experience get stronger.   It’s hard to break karma and step into massive soul lessons because we know we are breaking free of something major we have been hanging on to for lifetimes.   Level 2 of the Virtual Inner Child Workshop will be held on Sept. 25-27. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Level2 to sign up or visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchildbundle to purchase both Level 1 and Level 2. Recordings of both workshops will be available until October 26, 2020.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you know the difference between your actual feelings or feelings that have just been a programmed response? Are you estranged from a family member or do you feel it may be healthy not to be in contact with a certain family member or a friend? Do you feel guilty or ashamed by your parents and do things out of obligation? Do you want to break free of the wounding of childhood and create a new kind of healthy family moving forward?   Julie’s Question: Julie would like guidance on how to discern her programmed feelings from her actual feelings.   Julie’s Key Insights and Ahas: She grew up in an abusive home. She could never do anything right. She will be adopting a baby and doesn’t want to repeat the cycle. She feels as if she can’t escape her past. She doesn’t speak with her mother. She feels debilitated but is ready to purge the feelings. She feels ready to be a mother.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Reach out to a somatic therapist who is trauma-informed. Look at how far she has come and acknowledge herself for it. Forgive herself for the self-imposed blame. Emancipate herself from being controlled and betrayed.   Takeaways: Do the inner child work. Join us for the Inner Child Workshop, Level 1, and Level 2.   Sponsor: ShipStation — The solution for online businesses and individuals who want to ship things without leaving home. ShipStation software tracks all of your shipments in one easy-to-use interface. Try ShipStation for free for 60-days by using the offer code 'OVERIT'. ShipStation helps your business grow and thrive.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In this episode, Kate Northrup joins me to talk about how we can adapt to these challenging times by actually doing less.  We also discuss how to get over being an "achievement addict" and drop into more self-trust and receptivity. As an entrepreneur, bestselling author, speaker, and mother, Kate Northrup has built a multimedia digital empire that reaches hundreds of thousands globally. She's committed to supporting ambitious women to light up the world without burning themselves out in the process. Kate teaches data-driven and soul-driven time and energy management practices that result in saving time, making more money, and experiencing less stress.   Kate is also the author of two books: Money: A Love Story and Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Ambitious Women.  You can learn more about Kate at: https://katenorthrup.com/   And more about her membership community here: https://origincollective.com/   Also, join me this weekend Sept 10th-14th for the Integrated Feminine Online Symposium. Go to www.theintegratedfeminine.com, use coupon code CHRISTINE10 for 10% off.

This call is about being able to meet your own needs. Today’s caller, Melissa, had a challenging childhood and is being triggered in her current relationship. She would like guidance on how to communicate her needs to her partner. We work through how her triggers are serving her and the expression of a need versus the expectation of a need to be filled by someone else.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode261]   We often choose spouses and relationship partners who help us heal unmet needs and wounds from our parents.   As humans, on a metaphysical, even spiritual level, we need other people. And, we need people to meet certain needs. And, when we learn how to meet our needs ourselves we get better at communicating healthy needs to others.   We live in an interdependent world, yet we are sovereign beings. This means we must take an inside-out approach. First, we have to be independent in fulfilling our own needs internally and not project them on others. When we understand how to communicate our needs, not from a needy place but a place of bonding in our relationships, we can then connect and express with others toward interdependence.   There is the difference between being needy, or trying to get someone else to fill a need, and clearly expressing our needs to another person in a way that we can teach them how to meet it.   If you missed the Virtual Inner Child Workshop Level 1, you can still listen to it. It is necessary if you want to join in for Level 2, on Sept. 25-27. Go to ChristineHassler.com/innerchildbundle to purchase both Level 1 and Level 2. Recordings of both workshops will be available until October 26, 2020.   Consider/Ask Yourself: As a child, did you ever feel abandoned or neglected? Do you get triggered in your relationships when you feel someone else is not meeting your needs or showing up the way you like them to? Do you have a pattern of reaching out to others to get your needs met? Can you say without a shadow of a doubt you know how to meet your own needs?   Melissa’s Question: Melissa doesn't completely understand her needs and feelings. She wants guidance on how to recognize her boundaries and give herself what she needs when she is triggered.   Melissa’s Key Insights and Ahas: She wants to understand her feelings and needs. She projects her abandonment wounds on to her husband. She is aware of her abandonment wounding. She was left alone while her parents comforted her younger brother. She never felt supported by her parents. She is triggered by her husband’s attention to his work. She attended the Inner Child Workshop, Level 1. She reached out to her mother but was disappointed by her response. She wants to establish a connection with her mother. She feels overburdened with managing her emotions.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Do the empty chair process from Expectation Hangover. Write her mother a letter she does not intend to send. Use her triggers to discover how she can meet her own needs.   Takeaways: Think about the things you want from other people and make a list of your unmet needs and see how you may not be doing those things for yourself. Learn how to communicate your needs to people in your life. Join us for the Inner Child Workshop, Level 1, and Level 2.   Sponsor: Jenni Kayne — If you love clothes that are both stylish and super comfortable with a dash of refined simplicity, you will love Jenni Kayne. Make getting dressed the easiest part of your routine with Jenni Kayne’s modern essentials. Use the code ‘OVERIT’ for 20% off at checkout!   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Christine gives you ten very do-able tips for how to increase your mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health during these intense times. When there is so much division and uncertainty in the external world, it is critically important to create calm in your internal world. To join us for the Inner Child Workshops, go to www.christinehassler.com/innerchildbundle

This call is about maintaining boundaries when dealing with anger or rage. Today’s caller, Dana, is in a difficult situation. Her husband rages out at her and her children, but she loves him and wants the relationship to work. We work through ways she can maintain her boundaries and ways she can show up in the relationship to create a cohesive healing environment.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode260]   First, if you are in a situation where there is a cycle of abuse get clear about whether you need to leave or if you need to reach out for support for assistance.   Anyone who has been abused and then becomes abusive has a great deal of shame. One thing we know to be true is that love is incredibly healing. And, often when someone is in an environment where they do not feel judged, their protective behaviors begin to fade. Creating a loving, non-judgmental, feminine space for the person may help them heal.   Remember, feminine energy is not weak or submissive. We don’t just tolerate whatever happens to keep the peace and love everything. Feminine energy is fiercely loving and compassionate. It’s the combination of compassion and nurturing that holds space and is non-judgmental but also the protective mama bear.   If you missed the Inner Child workshop, you can still listen to it. It is necessary if you want to join in for Level 2, which begins Sept. 25th. Go to ChristineHassler.com/innerchild.   This is a trying time emotionally, mentally, and financially, so in October, I am giving away $5,000 in personal development grant money. Ten people will receive $500 to invest in themselves. We are also enrolling angels who would like to make a financial contribution to someone else’s personal development, go to ChristineHassler.com/grant to get more information. I will announce the grant recipients on an Instagram Live.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you living with, or have you ever lived with someone who had rages, or explosive bouts of anger? How are you at expressing your anger? Are you honest about it to do it in a healthy way, or do you internalize it, then it leaks out through judgment to criticism or irritability either at yourself or others? Do you feel you have worked on yourself but can’t believe you are still dealing with an issue you’ve been working on in therapy for years? Do you allow yourself to be vulnerable when it comes to expressing your needs? How do you do it?   Dana’s Question: Dana would like guidance on how to hold boundaries when it comes to dealing with her husband’s anger.   Dana’s Key Insights and Ahas: Her husband rages out. She has tried different ways to keep peace in the house. She feels overburdened with responsibility. She has empathy for her husband. Her husband had a traumatic childhood. She has done a lot of therapy around her relationship with her mother. She loves her husband and wants to make their relationship work. She has difficulty holding her boundaries. She has a high tolerance for being treated poorly.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Create a feminine, loving, non-judgmental, shame-free space for her husband. Make an agreement with her closest friend to assist her in leaving if things get worse. Consult with a professional together with her husband. Maintain firm boundaries when it comes to rage.   Takeaways: If you are in a situation where there is a cycle of abuse, get clear about whether you need to leave or if you need to reach out for support for assistance. If you are in any type of relationship and you know you want to stay in it, look at your end of it. How can you show up to create a more cohesive, healing environment for the other person? Be aware of your self-abuser, especially if you have had abuse in your life, a lot of times we internalize it. Consider listening to the Inner Child workshop. Allow yourself to feel your feelings and allow yourself to communicate with vulnerability.   Sponsor: Rothy’s — Get your new favorite stylish, comfortable, versatile shoes made from eco-friendly material, including repurposed plastic water bottles and marine plastics from Rothy’s. They are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Check out the newest colors and latest styles from Rothy’s by using this link Rothys.com/over.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Michael Gay who is a therapist joins Christine to discuss how we deal and heal from trauma.  He has his M.A. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling with a focus in Transpersonal Psychology. Michael has worked in the field of counseling for the last 14 years as a guide, therapist, and trainer. He was a Wilderness Therapy guide for 6 years, leading and facilitating deep transformational work with teens, adults, and families in the mountains and high desert. He has also worked extensively in the field of addiction and recovery. He specializes in work with depression, groups, trauma, PTSD, grief, and families. In addition to his M.A., Michael completed a 3 year training at the Gestalt Institute of the Rockies, and continues to train at the Gestalt Equine Institute. As a therapist and facilitator, Michael uses experiential and body based methods. Many approaches to therapy and inner work stay at the intellectual and cognitive level, which rarely or slowly affect deep structural change. Engaging in more experiential and embodied work seems to bring the shifts people were unable to find in mainstream therapy.  You can learn more about Michael or reach out to him about working with him at https://www.michaelgaycounseling.com/

This call is about transforming shame, celebrating your gifts, and sharing them with others. Today’s caller, Melissa, is building a health coaching business and wants to embrace her purpose whole-heartedly but is holding back her light because of self-judgment and shame. We discuss things she can do to focus her energy on getting the things she wants from life as she serves others with her personal experience.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode259]   Many people feel physical shame in some way. It can cause us to wear masks and deprive us of joy and self-expression. And, usually the thing we are most self-conscious about people don't even notice or think about as much as we do. If they do notice, they often don’t evaluate us because of it. I’ve never formed an opinion on someone because of their physical characteristics, and honestly, if someone does form an opinion about you because of something completely superficial, do you really want that person in your life?   Why are you fighting for approval from people you don’t really like? We give our power away when we seek the approval of others.   We can be too judgmental of other people, mostly because we are too judgmental of ourselves. If you want to put yourself out there in whatever way you feel called to do it, please do. You are needed. We need more people who have the consciousness of light and love being loud in the world. Too many people have loud voices that shouldn’t have a microphone. So, get your voice out there.   Stop letting fear of rejection and fear of judgment hold you back. Not everyone is going to like you and it is okay. You’re depriving the people who do resonate with you the connection and service you have to offer. Think about the magic you can create by not avoiding the people that may not like you or reject you and focus on compassionately serving others.   Stop falling into the avoidance trap and step into your love and light.   Are you ready to take your personal development to the next level and invest in yourself? Would an ally and a guide be helpful to you during this time? If so, I have two one-on-one coaching spots available. This type of deep work has incredible ripple effects in all areas of your life. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information.   This is a trying time emotionally, mentally, and financially, so in August, I am giving away $5,000 in personal development grant money. Ten people will receive $500 to invest in themselves. Go to ChristineHassler.com/grant to fill out the application. I will announce the grant recipients on an Instagram Live.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you think that you have to be perfect or at a certain point before you really go after your dreams and what you want? Do you carry around shame? Do you feel a calling to do something, be it starting a business, applying for a new job, or dating again but are scared to do it because you’re afraid of judgment? Has shame robbed you of feeling a sense of belonging? Are you tired of letting shame rob you of what you deeply desire?   Melissa’s Question: Melissa has a hard time speaking up and would like guidance on how to heal the shame she feels to gain the confidence to put herself out there.   Melissa’s Key Insights and Ahas: She lacks self-confidence. She attended the inner child workshop. She is building a coaching business. She lacked confidence because of a physical trait. She feels people may judge her. Shame disempowers her. She outsources her self-worth. She has a limiting belief that she isn’t enough. She numbed herself because she felt different from her peers.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Allow herself to be seen without the expectation of perfection. Do things that promote living into her purpose and her mission. Inspire others with her personal journey. Accept herself fully for who she is.   Takeaways: Take actions every day that move you into the vibration of who you want to be and what you want to do. Turn your shame into compassion and service. Use it to feel compassion for others who are feeling shame. Stop giving others power over you. Step into your love and light and make your voice heard. Live into your highest truth.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

In this episode, Christine follows up on some of the topics from last week's show as well as offers suggestions for some actions you can take.  You'll also be guided through a calming and empowering meditation at the end of the show.   Resources mentioned:   Free Awakened Leadership series: https://speaker.spiritualtechnologytoawaken.com/christine   Podcast Interview with Robert F Kennedy Jr: https://www.lukestorey.com/lifestylistpodcast/shot-in-the-dark-blowing-the-whistle-on-the-vaccne-industry-covd-w/-robert-f-kennedy-jr-299   Human Trafficking Resources: https://bit.ly/antihumantraffickingresources   Shawn Stevenson IG: https://www.instagram.com/shawnmodel/ Podcast: https://themodelhealthshow.com/podcasts/

This call is about recognizing the value of your unique gifts. Today’s caller, Tracy, believes she has difficulty being vulnerable and thinks it is holding her business back. But, as we explore her childhood experience, we discover that she is playing out old programming, feeling like she didn’t matter as the youngest sibling in her family. Her fear of rejection may be keeping her from getting what she wants.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode258]   There are parts of us that are just us or the things that make us unique. We may not be as vulnerable as the next person, as funny as the next person, or as creative or outspoken or extroverted as other people are. When we measure ourselves against others it can make us feel like something is wrong with us.    It can create blind spots or judgments of things we have taken on from society. And one of the things so many of us, especially in this world of personal development, have taken on is the expectation that we need to be vulnerable to be fully seen.   Vulnerability needs to be earned. Vulnerability is incredible and necessary, however, it’s not something we just give away. It’s OK that it has to be earned. It makes it more authentic.   August 28–30, we are offering a Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. If you can’t attend the workshop in its entirety, you will have online access to it for 30 days. A portion of the proceeds from this event will be donated to rescue organizations.   This is a trying time emotionally, mentally, and financially, so in August, I am giving away $5,000 in personal development grant money. Ten people will receive $500 to invest in themselves. Go to ChristineHassler.com/grant to fill out the application. I will announce the grant recipients on an Instagram Live.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a hard time putting yourself out there when it comes to business, dating, or making friends? Do you have a hard time being vulnerable? Are you slow to warm to people or does it take a while for people to get in? As a child, did you grow up feeling like you were in the shadow of someone else? Were you a younger sibling who always felt behind in some way or just something that made you feel not enough? Are you trying to change something in your present but you can’t make the change?   Tracy’s Question: Tracy feels stuck and would like guidance on tapping into her vulnerability to take more risks.   Tracy’s Key Insights and Ahas: She keeps people at a distance. She would like the confidence to take more risks. She fears rejection. She felt disregarded by her family. Her family is critical and envious of her decisions. Her negative self-talk comes from not feeling good enough. She is triggered more often as an adult than she was as a child. She perpetuates the idea that she doesn’t matter. She doesn’t take compliments well.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Change the programming that creates her self-talk. Know that she matters. Reassure her little girl of her value. Reach out and offer to share her gifts with people.   Takeaways: Join the Inner Child Workshop. Know you have the ability to reparent yourself. Write down your limiting beliefs and question why you believe them. If you are a coach who wants to build their business, hire a coach, or participate in a program.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show. Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches.

Where are the leaders during this intense time? Look in the mirror.  It's time for YOU to step up.  In this episode, Christine talks about why you are needed as a leader. She also shares about COVID, vaccines, human trafficking and more . . . and asks you to think for yourself. Seeking truth and not believing everything we are told is crucial right now. Christine shares thoughts and resources and asks you to use both critical and esoteric thinking to form your beliefs and motivate your actions.   Resources mentioned: Dr. Sherri Tenpenny's interview on London Real: https://www.globalplayer.com/podcasts/episodes/7DrbmW4/   Christina Hildabrant's video on vaccines: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OSVLChgt330&feature=youtu.be   John Paul Rice on IGTV: https://www.instagram.com/tv/CDpLP3IlaXy/ His film: A Chid’s Voice

This call is about healing trauma that comes from being sexualized as a child. Recent events have triggered today’s caller, Bianca, who was traumatized by her parents as a child. And, even though she was subjected to pitiful parenting, she still wants to love and protect them. We discuss the importance of making her healing a priority and how nothing that happened was her fault.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode257]   People who have been abused, especially by people they love and trust, are usually not quick to jump to anger. They may minimize the evilness of the actions.   So, when we are working with people who have been victims in any way, we have to have compassion for the side of them that loves and wants to protect their abusers. It often takes some time for them to get to anger and to take action because it is a deep and confusing entanglement for the victim.   We have to put ourselves in the victim’s shoes and realize they love these people. We cannot expect them to have the same reaction as we do. They cannot get to the anger and disgust right away because they don’t see their abusers as awful people. If the abusers are their parents, they may still be trying to get love from them.   If you have endured trauma and are ready to heal, know that it is not something you can navigate alone just by listening to a podcast, doing an online workshop, or reading some books about it. It is important to find a trauma-informed therapist.   August 28–30, we are offering another Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. If you can’t attend the workshop in its entirety you will have online access to it for 30 days. A portion of the proceeds from this event will be donated to rescue organizations.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Were you raised in what you know or think was an abusive environment but since you have no to very little memories you doubt it or even minimize it? Do you have sexual anxiety? Is it hard for you to feel relaxed when it comes to sex or even someone being affectionate, touching you? Do you dissociate from your body? Do you wonder if it’s because something not so right happened to you when you were a kid? Has there been someone in your life you love a lot, like a parent who’s also hurt you, and so it’s hard for you to face the pain because you love the person that hurt you and you want to protect them? Did what I shared about human trafficking rattle you? Are you feeling called to be involved to save the children from these horrific acts?   Bianca’s Question: Bianca feels sexual anxiety and would like guidance on how to start healing.   Bianca’s Key Insights and Ahas: Her parents groomed and sexualized her. Her father physically abused her. She has very few memories of her childhood. A recent event triggered her memories. She has a high tolerance for hurt. She wants to help her parents, not hurt them. She hasn’t found a compassionate therapist who makes her feel safe. She has a gentle side and a warrior side. She still loves her parents but may not be able to forgive them. She feels uncomfortable when her significant other is physically affectionate. Her body doesn’t know the difference between pain and pleasure.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Find a professional therapist to work with. Understand that nothing that happened was her fault. Make herself a priority, not her parents. Know that there is a way to heal. Follow the stories of other survivors. Find allies to help her heal.   Takeaways: If you are a victim in any way of mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, or sexual abuse, get help. Trauma is not something that heals on its own. It’s not like a cut on your hand that just scabs over. Professional help is a requirement. If you were activated by this episode and you want to get involved here are three resources, OurRescue.org, SharedHope.org, and DestinyRescue.org.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Cory Allen is an author, podcast host, meditation teacher, and audio engineer.  He is passionate about how to live better using principles of mindfulness, neuroscience, and philosophy. We discuss Cory’s journey to meditation and how it is an effective tool for adding coherence, awareness, and compassion to life. You can learn more from Cory through his book, Now is the Way, and his online meditation course called Release Into Now. He is excellent at teaching people how to meditate with clear and concise methods.   Connect with Cory here: http://www.cory-allen.com/

This call is about how to move feelings, especially if those feelings get stuck as energy in your body. Today’s caller, Luanna, is having difficulty expressing her feelings and vulnerability. This episode demonstrates what it looks like when you actualize recommendations or therapies perfectly but the tension and tightness in your body don’t shift.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode256]   We all give our parents too much power. We make what they said and what they did matter way too much. Remember, our parents are humans, and more importantly, they are wounded inner children who probably didn’t get the parenting they needed. So, if you’re holding on to something your parents did, said, or just their voices in your head, I encourage you to get it out and find your own inner parent.   Anger is not useful when it is in our heads because there is no release for it. If it is hard for you to get angry and use or write angry words, you may be resistant to doing it because you feel like you are betraying the person. If this feels true for you, start by moving energy through sound, movement, and breathwork.   This is a trying time emotionally, mentally, and financially so in August, I am giving away $5,000 in personal development grant money. Ten people will receive $500 to invest in themselves. Go to ChristineHassler.com/grant to fill out the application. I will announce the grant recipients on an Instagram Live.   August 28–30, we are offering another Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. If you can’t attend the workshop in its entirety you will have online access to it for 30-days.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you ever feel like your feelings get stuck or maybe you do, with tension in your belly, tightness in your chest, and no matter what you do just can’t seem to move it? Did you grow up thinking or being told that vulnerability was weak, that you had to be strong and you felt like your emotions couldn’t be expressed? Do you get in your head a lot? Can you psychoanalyze yourself but when it comes to feeling your feelings you get a little lost? Are you someone that can endure a lot but when it comes to letting it go, it isn’t easy?   Luanna’s Question: Luanna struggles to express her vulnerability. She would like guidance on how to release her emotions and live free of her mother’s control.   Luanna’s Key Insights and Ahas: She feels her energy is stuck in her belly. She is starting a business. She hears her mother’s voice telling her she is not capable of attaining her dreams. As a child, she wanted her mother to let her express her feelings. She adopts her mother’s limiting beliefs as her own. She isn’t going after what she wants because she doesn’t want to hurt her family. It is hard for her to feel anger.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Give herself permission to be angry and feel her feelings. Stop giving her mother power over her life. Practice release writing, dancing, or physical exertion to release the energy. Find a therapist who practices Somatic Therapy. Make a guttural sound with deep breaths to release her anger and sadness. Create a safe space for healing.   Takeaways: Empower yourself. Stop giving something your parents said or did more energy than it deserves. If you have a hard time getting angry because it feels like a betrayal, use movement or sound or do letter writing instead. If feelings feel stuck, try a somatic, body-based approach.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

If you’ve been searching for a place to help you simplify your life, declutter your mind, and connect with your heart then you are going to love this conversation. Courtney Carver joins Christine to talk about minimalism. She created Be More with Less and minimalist fashion challenge Project 333 after spending much of her adult life tired, stressed, sick and doing work she didn’t care about to make ends meet. After years of decluttering and letting go, she realized that happiness isn’t waiting for us, it’s within us.   Learn more here: https://bemorewithless.com/

This call is a deep dive into what causes anger and what lies beneath the surface of anger. As a child, today’s caller, Sean, experienced emotional abuse from his parents. He would like to move past managing his anger and start healing it. Oftentimes, men put on a mask and reject the scared little boy who experienced wounding. And in many ways, little boys are more sensitive and tender than little girls but they are told to hide their feelings.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode255]   Men deal with anger in aggressive or passive ways. If anger isn’t dealt with in a healthy way, men either become aggressive and have outbursts such as yelling and throwing things, putting those they love through emotional turmoil. Or, they are super-passive and withdraw. They allow other people, especially women to push them around and emasculate them. Passive anger gets turned inward because they become incredibly self-critical. Anger left unprocessed or anger left unhealed creates incredible self-criticism. We are hard on ourselves when we have unprocessed anger.   When we communicate from a wounded place we can be lethal. People can’t hear us because they have to defend themselves.   A lot of times when we attempt to avoid sadness, we laugh. We default to humor because our pain is so big that it is hard to feel it. I encourage people to go into the pain on a regular basis and own the anger to break out of the cycle.   When we tap into anger it can feel scary. It is important to have someone who can hold a safe space for us.   On the last weekend of August, we are offering another Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. The early bird discount of $100 off is available until July 31st. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. If you can’t attend the workshop in its entirety you will have access to it for 30-days.   Consider/Ask Yourself: How is your temper? Do you tend to hold things inside and then, once you reach your breaking point, you snap? Do you often react in an angry or impatient way and you feel scared or hurt people in your life? As a child, did you truly feel like someone held space for your emotions? Are there people in your life, perhaps even your parents, that you cannot forgive, even though intellectually, you know you should?   Sean’s Question: Sean has a sizable amount of anger and would like guidance on how to release it.   Sean’s Key Insights and Ahas: He is married with children. He’s grown tired of causing chaos in his home. There was mental and emotional abuse in his childhood home. He had an eating disorder. He judges himself for being angry. He has tried to express his feelings. He has done personal and grief work. He gets triggered when he feels criticized. His current family dynamic reminds him of his childhood. He uses humor as a coping mechanism. He judges his parents.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Acknowledge that it is healthy to have anger. Find a healthy physical release for the anger. Be mindful of using humor as a deflection. Connect with his inner child when he is triggered to anger. Release his feelings with writing. Stop blaming his parents and own his feelings. Give himself unconditional love and acceptance. Discontinue managing his wounds and start healing them.   Takeaways: Look at your relationship with anger. Do you relate to being the more outburst aggressive or are you more passive and internalize it? Create a space for you to do the temper tantrum technique. Go to ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease for a free download. Join us in August for the Inner Child Workshop. Own those parts of yourself you may not like so much. If you continue to shame, judge, and blame them, they are not going to heal.   Sponsor: Rothy’s — Rothy’s makes everyday flats for women and girls on the go. They are stylish, classic, and comfortable with new colors launching all the time. These cute and versatile shoes made from repurposed plastic water bottles are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Get your Rothy’s by using this link Rothys.com/over.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Charlene Izere is a multi-passionate entrepreneur. She is the founder of 3 brands: Melanin & Money, Wellness Delivered, and Soulful Systems. Through her platforms, she empowers women to live life on their own terms through systems, self-care, and entrepreneurship.  As a Black woman, carving out her empire out here in these entrepreneurial streets, she knows first hand how disheartening it can be to feel underrepresented, longing for community, and support by women who get it. Her mission? To put money and opportunity in the hands of Black women.  When Charlene isn’t strategizing with her clients or hosting an event, she enjoys playing video games, collaging, and self-caring.  

This call is about reconnecting with an inner child. Today’s caller, Tanya, grew up in an unstable environment and, as a result, second-guesses the choices she makes. She invites people into her life in an effort to get the love she never received as a child but the relationships play out much like her childhood, chaotic and uncertain. We discuss the ways she can reconnect with herself through vulnerability and gratitude.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode254]   When you are dating, making friends, or when you are just out in the world, you want authenticity. You don’t want to go on a date with someone or be in a business meeting with someone who is inauthentic. Who wants that? We can expect authenticity. We want someone to be real and we want them to tell us the truth but we have to earn a person’s vulnerability.   When someone is vulnerable with us it should feel like actual true intimacy, not like we are special or we are getting an inside look. Be mindful of that. Don’t get seduced by faux vulnerability. There is a lot of seductive vulnerability and fake vulnerability in the world. We can expect and should expect authenticity from people but we must earn their vulnerability.   Seductive vulnerability is if you are new in meeting someone or dating someone and they start being super vulnerable, like telling you their deepest darkest secrets and opening up without a lot of trust built between you. It may make you feel special but it is more seductive vulnerability than true vulnerability. True vulnerability comes when you feel safe with another person and you feel seen.   The last weekend of August, we are offering another Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. The early bird discount of $100 off is available until July 31st. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. If you can’t attend the workshop in its entirety you will have access to it for 30-days.   Consider/Ask Yourself: What happens when you feel out of control? Do you blame others then blame yourself? What do you do to try to get control back? Do you have a feeling like you’re always doing it wrong, constantly questioning yourself, or constantly feeling like when something goes wrong it’s your fault? Did you grow up in a home where you had a lot of uncertainty? How do you feel about intimacy and true vulnerability? Are you vulnerable in your relationships and have true intimacy with others? Or, are there still some patterns that prevent you from true vulnerability and intimacy? Have you ever been seduced by someone else’s faux vulnerability?   Tanya’s Question: Tanya questions herself and her choices and is asking for guidance about being vulnerable.   Tanya’s Key Insights and Ahas: She blames herself and always feels wrong. There was a lot of uncertainty in her home growing up. She has done a lot of inner child work. She has a history of dating the wrong people. Her mother’s moods controlled her young life. She evaluates other people as above or below her. She evaluates herself through a systematic approach. She constantly tried to figure out how to get her mother’s love. She put up a wall to protect herself. She is seeking connection.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Realize she is not wrong. Learn how to be in a relationship with feelings and vulnerability. Give up dating for a while and work on being in friendships. Be mindful of the difference between authentic vulnerability and charm. Do deep inner child work and reconnect with herself. Recognize the full-body yeses in her life.   Takeaways: Join us in August for the Inner Child Workshop. Look at, especially if you're dating and have relationships, at how you are playing out unresolved wounding with either mom or dad in those relationships. Research vulnerability. Brené Brown is a great resource for vulnerability. If you are blaming yourself for something because it’s giving you a false sense of control, be aware of what you are doing and make a list of all the things you are certain of, and then follow that up with a list of all the things you’re grateful for.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Want to learn more about how you are individually designed as a human? Then you're going to love this episode with Erin Claire Jones.  Erin uses Human Design to help thousands of individuals and companies step into their work and their lives as their truest selves and to their highest potential. Human Design is a synthesis of ancient wisdom and modern science that sheds light on a person’s energetic makeup, as well as specific tools they can use to live at their happiest, healthiest, highest potential. It doesn’t change who they are; it teaches them who they are. It offers insight into what’s possible, and highlights the significance of understanding and living as the fullest expression of themselves. Her work as a guide, coach, and speaker has attracted a growing community of over 50,000 people who turn to her teachings for practical tools, digestible tips, and deeper self-knowledge they can access to live with greater ease and authenticity every single day.   To get your Blueprint, a personalized guide to your unique design: erinclairejones.com/blueprint   The code CHRISTINE will get you 10% off your Blueprint.

This call is about going all in. Today’s caller, Trevi, is uncomfortable taking risks because she fears she will not live up to her high expectations. I offer her tips about how to remove the obstacles that are getting in the way of her going all-in and stepping fully into her dreams.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode253]   Children need their parents and other people to feel proud of them. It isn’t an ego thing. We all need validation. We need the feeling of pride. And, as children, we needed it from mostly our caretakers but if we didn’t get it, it is imperative that we give it to ourselves.   You will be amazed when your little one inside, or that part of you that feels insecure, feels pride. Hope and possibility will fill you up. If you want to feel inspired, feel proud first. When you give your inner child what you need they will feel satiated and not hold you back.   It’s okay to take risks and it’s okay if you need reinforcement and reassurance before you take the risk. Some of us don’t like risk and a lot of that has to do with our natural tendencies and our childhood. But if we don’t take risks, if we don’t keep trying, then we may never have awesome experiences. Don’t be afraid to try or to be afraid of your future self and your high-expectations.   The last weekend of August, we are offering another Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. The early bird discount of $100 off is available until July 31st. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. If you can’t attend the workshop in its entirety you will have access to it for 30-days.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you have something you want such as a career, relationship, or a move but you’re scared to go all-in? Are you afraid of your high-expectations because you don’t want to fail? What is your relationship to risk? Do you prefer to play it safe? Do you feel proud of yourself, not just for your accomplishments but for who you are?   Trevi’s Question: Trevi would like guidance on how to transform her career from a corporate job to her dream job of being a yoga teacher and coach.   Trevi’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is scared of not being able to meet her expectations. She is worried about what other people think. She has high expectations for herself. She feels disappointed when she doesn’t meet her high standards. She chased validation from her parents. She still chases validation from external sources. She talks herself out of things she wants. She is proud of herself for who she is. When she gives her little girl what she needs she feels satiated.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Reparent the part of herself that needs validation. Reassure the little girl inside of her and feel that she is seen and loved.   Takeaways: It’s okay to take some risks and it’s okay if you need reinforcement and reassurance before you take the risk. Feel proud of yourself. Write down or say out loud to the mirror ten reasons you are proud of yourself. Join us in August for the Inner Child Workshop.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

This is MUST listen episode. I've been wanting to bring on an expert to talk about the psychological and emotional issues surrounding racism as well as give guidance to overcome the guilt, shame, and trauma so many people are experiencing. I am thrilled that I found April Dawn Harter who joins me to break down what actually causes and perpetuates racism and how to heal it. April is a former medical social worker, where she provided counseling to her patients and their family members to help them cope with the trauma of medical emergencies in the state of Texas. She later moved to Colorado and started her private practice to serve QTPOC patients with a history of racial trauma. After having worked with QTPOC, she decided to help prevent racism in society by working with white clients as a coach using the Racist Signature Theory. Finally, she opened up the Racism Recovery Center to provide psychotherapy for the treatment of racism. You can learn more here: https://www.racismrecoverycenter.com/

This call is about doing deep inner child work. Today’s caller, Anna, is being blocked by a defense mechanism and doesn’t feel she is making progress in her personal development work. We talk about how she can come back to love and remove judgment. It is useful to reach out externally for support, however, we have to be our own internal support as well. The help she needs will come from within.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode252]   When you feel you are backtracking in your personal development, know that what is really happening is that a trigger is exposing a deeper layer so you can go to a deeper level of healing and love.   Our behaviors, coping strategies, and our defense mechanisms are all there to protect us from hurt and confirm our biases. People who have low self-worth and think their value comes from doing will be very critical of themselves and will constantly try to do and create a result.   When our ‘come from’ is “I’m broken,” “I hope this fixes me,” or “something is wrong with me,” it slows down our healing because the energy that our personal development is riding on is judgment rather than love.   As we learn to meet our own needs and tend to the little one inside of us and make the place inside of us that feels not enough, or not worthy, make it known that our needs ARE valuable and worthy. And, as we realize our needs are valuable and worthy, we then unconsciously train other people about how to meet our needs better and we are able to consciously ask people to meet our needs better.   Are you being called to lead, love, or make a difference? Join me and Stefanos for our Love Amplified Live retreat in Austin, Sept 24–27. This retreat is all about the love of self, love of others, and love of your higher power. There will be workshops, breathwork, and partner breakouts. Come, share, and grow. Get more information at ChristineHassler.com/retreat.   The last weekend of August, we are offering a Virtual Inner Child Workshop. This event is for those ready to do deep, internal work. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. If you can’t attend the workshop in its entirety you will have access to it for 30-days.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you're backtracking or not making progress in terms of your personal development? Do you experience great frustration with your life, work, relationships, or where you live? Growing up, did you feel like your needs were met? Did you feel like your parents understood you, saw you, and knew how to meet your needs? When it comes to yourself and your path, do you approach it with love, compassion, and acceptance, or with judgment and frustration?   Anna’s Question: Anna feels that time is passing in her life but she isn’t making any progress; she would like guidance on how to move forward.   Anna’s Key Insights and Ahas: She feels she is not making progress in life. She feels other people judge her. She is unhappy in her work, community, and relationships. Her parents were emotionally unavailable. She gets depressed when she is not accomplishing things. She felt her needs didn’t matter and couldn’t be met. She has consistently searched externally to get her needs met. She helped raise a family member. She feels angry and hurt that her parents weren’t there for her. She has built a wall around her heart. She adopted self-criticism as a defense mechanism. She is not broken.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Realize she is the only one that can meet her needs. Deeply connect with her little girl and feel her feelings. Reflect internally without judgment and support and trust herself.   Takeaways: Look at your ‘come from’ in your personal development. Up your self-compassion and talk to that little one inside. Join us in August for the Inner Child Workshop. Think of how you’d be with a child or animal. How would you meet their needs? How would you anticipate their needs? Use this to access how to meet your own needs. Acknowledge your progress.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Remit Sethi is the author of the NYT bestseller “I Will Teach You How to Be Rich” and is known as a financial guru to millions.  He is an expert on teaching how to break through psychological money blocks so you can live a rich life. In this episode Ramit shares some incredible tips for how to get out of panic around money during this stressful time as well as advice for how to lead a “rich” life (and you get to define what “rich” means to you!). Learn more about Ramit at: https://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/

This call is about personal growth and the effect it may have on a long-term relationship. Today’s caller, Sara, is working through her past trauma and childhood wounds and making a connection with her inner child. But, her relationship with her husband is not shifting. She is wondering if it is a relationship dynamic that will adjust.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode251]   Even though the person who is doing more growth work and has more consciousness in a relationship has more responsibility, we can never change anyone through our love. However, if we break the issue-based dynamic we are in with someone then it presents an opportunity for them to break free of their patterns and maybe deal with some of their stuff. Our love cannot save anyone, change anyone, or heal anyone. That is a job we have to do ourselves. We are all 100% responsible for changing, healing, and inspiring ourselves.   If we try to get someone to change, we are continuing to involve ourselves in the relational dynamic which perpetuates the unhealthy patterns and childhood wounding. Healing doesn’t come from trying to change another person. It comes from doing your own work within the context of a relationship.   Most of our wounding happens in a relationship and most of our wounding can be healed in a relationship.   If you are in a relationship and would like a couples coaching call on this podcast go to ChristineHassler.com/couples.   Are you being called to lead, love, or make a difference? Join me and Stefanos for our Love Amplified Live retreat in Austin, Sept 24–27. This retreat is all about the love of self, love of others, and love of your higher power. There will be workshops, breathwork, and partner breakouts. Come, share, and grow. Get more information at ChristineHassler.com/retreat.   At the end of August, we are offering a Virtual Inner Child Workshop. Visit ChristineHassler.com/innerchild. If you can’t tune in for the workshop in its entirety you will have access to it for 30-days.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you still dealing with the pain of a chaotic or traumatic childhood? Have you been doing a lot of personal growth work and now you’re concerned that you may have outgrown your partner? Do you feel your relationship has an expiration date? Do you really want your partner to change and you’re doing everything you can to get him or her to change?   Sara’s Question: Sara is making significant changes in her life and is looking for more intimacy and connection in her relationship.   Sara’s Key Insights and Ahas: She has been making personal development breakthroughs. She is open to change and doing new things. She is looking for connection and intimacy from her relationship. Her husband has a different love language. She needs to feel safe in a relationship. There has been gaslighting in her childhood and marriage. She is in an issue-based relationship. She has an anxious attachment style. She has an emotional addiction of going into Hopeless/Helpless. She is in a soul contract.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Couples coaching is helpful. Take care of little Sara, reassure her,  and give herself what she needs. Love her husband for exactly who he is. Lead her relationship with love. Try interrupting rigid patterns with humor and lightness.   Takeaways: If you are in a partnership where you are growing but you don’t think your partner is, instead of thinking you need to leave, give it your all unless the relationship is toxic. Talk to the little boy or girl inside of you, ask them what they need, and give it to them.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

You'll love Christine's discussion with energy reader, medium, empath and energy coach Alea Lovely.  Alea uses her empathic and intuitive gifts to help people discover and move past their blocks. She also hosts an amazing podcast "Spiritual Sh*t" where she interviews guests and shares her compassion and wisdom.  You can learn more about Alea and her services here: https://thelovelyalea.com/bio

This call is about realizing the freedom of being your authentic self and setting boundaries. Today’s caller, Rhonda, is used to putting other people first but she wants deeper, more authentic relationships. She feels stuck in the limiting beliefs and fears of her childhood. We work through her gift of discernment and how she can give her authentic self an outlet. It’s a perfect conversation for what is going on collectively right now.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode250]   To some degree, I think we are people pleasers or at least invested in making sure other people like us a large percentage of the time. But, more and more, we’re living in a world where that simply doesn’t work. It doesn’t work because it stifles our authentic expression and it also doesn’t work because we have too many people pleasers and not enough changemakers. How can we create a better world if we are afraid of upsetting other people?   A great leader cares more about the truth then people's feelings. It’s not a permission slip to be a jerk, however sometimes the truth does hurt, and that’s okay. We have to be willing to receive the truth, allow it to sting a little bit but then go, all right what can I learn. And, we have to be willing to give the truth and be okay if people are upset with us. It’s okay, their upset is their responsibility. Your responsibility is to speak the truth with love. We need people who see injustices and call them out.   If you are feeling stuck, reframe it. You are not stuck. You are waking up. You may be in a bit of uncertainty because you are breaking free of old patterns but you are not stuck!   Are you being called to lead, love, or make a difference? Join me and Stefanos for our Love Amplified retreat in Austin, Sept 24-27. This retreat is all about the love of self, love of others, and love of your higher power. There will be workshops, breathwork, and partner breakouts. Come, share, and grow. Get more information at ChristineHassler.com/retreat.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you a people pleaser? Are you often more concerned with being liked and having people be okay than you are with actually speaking your truth? Did you grow up in a home where you had to take care of your parents and parent them so they were happy and your own needs weren’t met? If you are a parent, are you able to be Mama or Papa Bear to your child but often have trouble giving yourself that same fierce love? Do you have the gift of discernment but you often don’t speak up and use your gift to be able to see the truth? And, are you willing to make the truth more important than the need to be liked?   Rhonda’s Question: Rhonda feels stuck in people-pleasing mode. She wants deeper relationships where she can truly be seen.   Rhonda’s Key Insights and Ahas: She doesn’t feel lovable or let people love her. She is driven to please other people. She feels tired and wants to regain her energy. In her childhood, she felt the need to make peace between her parents. She is waking up from a limiting belief about her worthiness. She wants to be her authentic self. She is passionate about her children. She supported her son through his cancer treatments. She feels powerful and strong. She is going through marriage therapy. She is aware when other people take advantage. She doesn’t want to hurt people. She has the gift of discernment.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Let go of the belief that she is stuck. Connect with her inner child and provide the unconditional love, trust, and validation she is seeking through people-pleasing. Use her gift of discernment and access the part of herself that is committed to love, life, and connection. Discover things she is passionate about. Speak up for her wants and needs with truth and love. Give her authentic self an outlet. Speak with her husband about her love for him.   Takeaways: Speak the truth. Look at your relationships — where do you need to set boundaries or reinforce them? Find the fierce warrior inside of you and give support to the little boy or a little girl inside of you. For help finding your voice, check out my Love Amplified retreat.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Christine chats with longtime friend and colleague, Mike Robbins about how to learn, grow, and just be an overall better human.  His new book WE’RE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER: Creating a Team Culture of High Performance, Trust, and Belonging is incredibly timely.  For the past 20 years, he’s been a sought-after speaker and consultant who delivers keynotes and seminars for some of the top organizations in the world.  He and his work have been featured in the New York Times and the Harvard Business Review, as well as on NPR and ABC News.  He’s a regular contributor to Forbes, hosts his own podcast (called We’re All in This Together), and his books have been translated into 15 different languages.  

This incredibly touching call is about forgiveness and letting go of guilt. Today’s caller, Lynn, feels she was partially responsible for her son’s death and wants to be free of the guilt so she can mourn his passing. Lynn is very brave to be vulnerable and share her story. In this session, we work through a tough topic, especially for mothers. Be prepared.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode249]   When something happens, we can blame ourselves so much that we become the judge and the jury that crucifies us. We can get stuck in a thick soup of guilt.   And, when we have a big trauma, like the passing of someone, we can think that we’re only upset about that event especially when it is something big like losing a child. However, most traumas, massive expectation hangovers, or losses trigger past things that made us feel in similar ways. We can get stuck in a loop that we can’t get out of in terms of the guilt cycle. It’s difficult to process grief when you are stuck in guilt.   Grief is hard and when we add guilt to it, it can feel unsurmountable. When you lose someone, especially a child, I don’t know that the pain ever goes away. However, going through the grief process helps to heal it enough for you to be able to move forward.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you suffer from guilt? Have you done something and you think that you did something terribly wrong and you just can’t forgive yourself, even if it’s years later? Are you a parent, especially a mother, who thinks no matter what you do you are never doing enough? Have you had a break up that you never really got over? Specifically a break up where you were left for another person? Do you know things spiritually but have a hard time accepting them on a human level?   Lynn’s Question: Lynn has been grieving over her son’s death but hasn’t been able to forgive herself for his suffering.   Lynn’s Key Insights and Ahas: She feels divided between her emotional and spiritual self. She is stuck in feelings of grief, guilt, and regret. She sought help from grief groups and through multiple healing techniques. Her son was the victim of a violent crime. She feels she should have done more to help her son. Her ex-husband left her and their three children for another woman. She may be keeping her son’s memory alive through her guilt and shame. She has a limiting belief that she could have done better as a mom. She wants to be free of the guilt so she can mourn her son. She doesn’t feel supported in her current marriage.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Do deep forgiveness work and process anger from her past. Give herself permission to open her heart and to be happy again. Resist punishing herself.   Takeaways: If you are feeling guilty about something, do some journaling. Ask yourself, ‘What is this bringing up from my past that I need to forgive myself for?’ Forgive yourself for buying into any judgments you have made against yourself. Mothers, it’s OK to have boundaries with your children.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Mindset coach and clinical therapist Topsie Vandenbosch joins Christine to talk about how to have a healthier mindset. We talk about getting out of unhealthy situations, getting over imposter syndrome and Topsie works with female entrepreneurs who are str

This call is about identifying what is blocking you from stepping into your power. Today’s caller, Ram, has something to say but fears the judgment of others. He is repressing anger about never being seen for who he truly is. How many of us identify with that?   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode248]   When we have stuck emotions we feel stuck in life because it takes a lot of energy to suppress repressed emotions. Repressing our emotions robs us of our creative expression and our creative energy. So, unless we deal with our anger and rage it’s going to leak out in other ways and it’s going to sabotage us.   When men, in particular, don’t deal with their anger and hurt in healthy ways or they don’t step into their power in a healthy way, they try to overpower others. Men who don’t take the more aggressive route generally become passive and neither help us because we need strong men to fight this fight with us. I acknowledge men who are willing to learn to process anger in a healthy way.   Sometimes we give too much power to people who can’t see us and that is what is beautiful about the awakening happening right now. So much is coming up and out in our world as more and more people are speaking their truth. We need awake people and lightworkers in all fields to bring consciousness and love into the world. No one else can give us permission to be ourselves.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you’re in limbo — like you know what to do and feel called to do it but just can’t seem to make it happen? Do you feel disconnected from either your masculine or feminine energy? Are you scared, even terrified, of judgment from others, which keeps you from moving forward? Do you feel like a fish out of water in your culture, country, or family?   Ram’s Question: Ram thinks he is in healing limbo. He feels disconnected from his masculine energy and is scared to show his true self to the world.   Ram’s Key Insights and Ahas: He is sensitive and empathic. His previous career/identity was frantic and Madmen like. He is afraid to share his true nature. He feels disconnected from his culture. He doesn’t feel he can be his true self. He becomes deeply invested in his work. He is tapping into the collective frustration. He lives vicariously through other people. He feels the way to survive is to mute himself. There is anger in his body and it wants attention. He feels wronged, suppressed, and disempowered. He is breaking a paradigm. Managing his anger is taking all his energy.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Work to change external circumstances to shift internally. Find the anger within and release it to become empowered. Work with anger in a healthy way. Go to ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease for my Temper Tantrum technique from Expectation Hangover or join the Personal Mastery course. Move into self-forgiveness.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

In this episode, Christine speaks about how to navigate this challenging time with love. She also shares her insight on how and why this is the "Great Awakening" we have all been preparing for. Christine shares how we can all heal racism and how being anti-racist is truly about being a loving and awakening human being along with action steps you can take. Learn how you can step into your unique role in this changing ecosystem. Receive a prayer you can use to help shift mass consciousness.

This call is about self-compassion and empowerment. Today’s caller, Alex, judges herself for not being where she feels she ‘should’ be in life and for not breaking free from a toxic relationship. She wants guidance on how to move forward but must first work through her unresolved wounding. No one makes significant changes by beating themselves up. True transformation and true change come from love.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode247]   When we judge ourselves as a failure we continue to feel like a failure because adding judgment only creates more self-loathing and it lowers our self-worth. It’s important to know that at any given moment we are doing the best we can at the time.    It’s not an excuse not to do better. It is like Maya Angelou says ‘the first time you didn’t know any better, the second time you know better, so do better.’ We always have the opportunity. There is always another time. The amazing thing about life is that as time keeps going on we are consistently presented with additional opportunities to do better. But, if you look back and only see yourself as a failure you’re not going to have the confidence and self-love you need to actually do better the next time you will just keep repeating the same ‘failure.’   It is important that we feel empowered so we don’t give our power away to others or exert our power over others.   Take a deep dive into how to understand your attachment style and heal your inner child in our three-day virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Stefanos and I will hold space for both the healthy masculine and feminine. If you can’t join us live, it will be recorded. ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you’re failing at life and not where you should be? Do you have an alcoholic or addict parent and maybe did you have another parent that you were close to — maybe even a little too close? Is it hard for you to break free of toxic relationships or situations even though you know that they are not healthy for you?   Alex’s Question: Alex is tired of feeling like a victim and would like clarity on how to move forward in her life.   Alex’s Key Insights and Ahas: She walked away from a toxic relationship but keeps in contact with him. She is looking for a new job. She feels like a failure and has hit rock bottom. Her father is an alcoholic and a workaholic. Her father didn’t pay much attention to her. She lost touch with herself at a young age. She feels alone. She didn’t find value in therapy. She is very close to her mother and doesn’t want to disappoint her. She carries around shame. She wants to learn to love herself. She is love-starved.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Research codependence and work to break free of her codependent patterns. Focus on self-compassion and empowerment. Remind herself daily that she is enough and she doesn’t need anyone else’s approval. Believe that she can take care of herself and meet her own needs. Consider getting a coach or therapist to guide her. Reparent herself and speak to herself in a more loving way. Investigate her spiritual life more.   Takeaways: Join us for the virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild. Look where you might have codependent patterns. Do some online research or check out Codependent No More, by Melody Beattie. Make a list of all your perceived failures or mistakes and reframe them. For every single one, I want you to write down at least three things you learn from them to start to see your failures and mistakes from a different perspective. Do something that fills your cup. Do something that makes you feel safe and nurtured, something that calms that inner child.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Enjoy this information rich episode where Christine speaks with one of the thought-leaders in women's brain health. Learn how you can protect your memory and avoid Alzheimer's disease. Dr. Lisa Mosconi, PhD, is the director of the Women's Brain Initiative and associate director of the Alzheimer's Prevention Clinic at Weill Cornell Medical College, where she serves as an associate professor of neuroscience in neurology and radiology. In addition, she is an adjunct faculty member at the NYU Department of Psychiatry and the author of Brain Food and The XX Brain.

This call is about overcoming a desire for control to feel safe. Today’s caller, Jasmine, is wondering why she has a strange relationship with her boyfriend and her sister and why she sabotages her work experience. What it comes down to is an issue with control and fear of intimacy created to protect herself due to her early experiences with an emotionally unavailable parent.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode246]   During a time when we feel out of control or too controlled we develop a compensatory strategy of ‘I have to be in control of everything to protect myself to avoid intimacy.’   Attachment styles are developed based on our early experiences in relationships. In the avoidant attachment style, we avoid or fear emotional intimacy because usually had a parent who was aloof, emotionally removed, unaffectionate, rejecting, or not attuned to our childhood emotional needs.   Maybe the parent provided food and shelter but children need affection and nurturing as well. When a child doesn’t have emotional availability or affection they can develop an avoidant attachment style. In adulthood, this can show up as being extremely independent and self-directed, controlling, and often uncomfortable with intimacy.   Those with an avoidant attachment style often get the rap of being commitment-phobes but it’s more that they have difficulty with commitment. They either rationalize themselves out of deep intimacy or they have certain complaints when in a relationship.   Grounding ourselves in the present moment and breathwork are great for people who have an avoidant attachment style.   Take a deep dive into how to understand your attachment style and heal your inner child in our three-day virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Stefanos and I will hold space for both the healthy masculine and feminine. If you can’t join us live, it will be recorded. ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com to discuss what may be blocking you from joining in.   To learn more about compensatory strategies get a free download from my book, Expectation Hangover at ChristineHassler.com/CS.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a habit of pushing people away? Do you give too much advice to certain people? Do you remember, as a child, having a lot of affection being hugged and feeling safe and nurtured in your home or do you remember feeling kind of alone? Do you often sabotage an opportunity or relationship professional or personal even if it’s something you really want?   Jasmine’s Question: Jasmine has a difficult time connecting in her relationships and pulls away before she gets what she wants.   Jasmine’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is trying to change the role she plays in her sister’s life. She shrugs off affection when her boyfriend reaches out. She wants things done a certain way. She has adopted a protective pattern of control. She has had very little intimacy in her life. Her mother was emotionally unavailable. As a child, she learned that loving other people meant telling them what to do. Her father wasn’t around. She doesn’t recognize the progress she has made. She may have a deep fear of rejection. She has a body memory of being rejected when giving love.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Research the avoidant attachment style. Check-in with herself, with love, to see how she is doing. Be more compassionate with herself. Release self-judgment and add unconditional love. Ground herself in the present because intimacy happens in the present moment. Adopt the mantra of ‘I am safe. That was then. This is now.’ and ‘It is safe to let love in.’   Takeaways: Join us for the virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild. To learn more about compensatory strategies get a free download from my book, Expectation Hangover at ChristineHassler.com/CS. Be patient with yourself and your growth. Practice by naming your feelings and saying to yourself ‘I am safe. That was then. This is now.’ Listen to my Coaches Corner episode #217 on attachment styles.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

You are in for a treat a very talented and inspirational guest joins Christine on the podcast.  IN-Q is a National Poetry Slam champion, award-winning poet, and multi-platinum songwriter.  He is on Oprah's SuperSoul 100 list of the world's most influential thought leaders. He inspires audiences around the world through his live performances and storytelling workshops.
 IN-Q brings his words to paper in his heartfelt and entertaining debut book Inquire Within. His poetry contemplates themes of love, life, presence, forgiveness, and social issues including climate change, gun violence, racism and more. After hearing IN-Q and reading his poetry, you’ll never look at poetry the same way again.    Learn more and grab a copy here: https://in-q.com/

This is a call about knowing that you matter without constantly proving yourself. Today’s caller, Britney, is putting a lot of pressure on herself. She wants guidance on building her career but until she heals her inner child she will keep running into roadblocks. If you are career-driven you may relate to this.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode245]   What we all need the most is for someone to really see us and understand us.   If we are addicted to anything, be it success or alcohol, it is an attempt to cure pain or heal a wound. Any addiction is an attempt to numb something. We can be addicted to success or making something out of ourselves but that is not the purpose of our life. The purpose of the human experience is to come to the awareness that we are whole, complete, and loved no matter what we do. And, we are someone no matter what we do. We are one with everyone. That is why we are here.   When we do inner child work and we do the work of the spirit we realize there is nothing external that solves our internal tasks. There is nothing external that completes us. Inner child work can lead us to more aligned and greater success because we’re not hitting as many roadblocks.   I don’t want you to think that accepting ourselves and loving ourselves makes us complacent. Accepting and loving ourselves provides us with inspiration and success because it comes from a more aligned place.   Tap into your inner knowing and intuition with this gift from me. It offers help with intuitive decision making and how to navigate the unknown with 6 Steps to Bypass Your Practical Mind. Text ‘Christine’ to 444999.   Take a deep dive into how to heal your inner child in our 3-day virtual Inner Child workshop on June 5th-7th. Stefanos and I will hold space for both the healthy masculine and feminine. If you can’t join us live it will be recorded. Take advantage of the early bird discount if you sign up by May 25th at ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel like you are not living into your purpose or potential or like you should be doing more? Did you have parents that were very success-oriented and expected a lot from you? As a child, did you have a passion for something artistic or outside of the conventional box or what your parents maybe wanted you to do but you were discouraged from pursuing it because you were told you could never make money at it? Do you feel blocked in the area of your life and it seems like no matter what you do you just can’t shift it?   Britney’s Question: Britney would like to know more about stepping into her purpose.   Britney’s Key Insights and Ahas: She disassociates and has self-worth issues. She feels she is a strong hustler but is tired of it. She is having trouble taking her career to the next level. She feels she is not where she is supposed to be. She pushes away love because she feels she doesn’t deserve it. She was told she wouldn’t succeed in the arts. She craved support and validation from her parents. She feels like she doesn’t matter and has to prove herself. Her parents believe the way out of suffering is money and success. She is breaking a generational pattern. She wants to play more. She consistently looks for something external to heal internally.   How to Get Over It and On With It: Learn to release the expectations she puts on herself. Perform the Empty Chair Process. Look inside herself and not to external sources for healing.   Takeaways:  Join us for the virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild and get a $100 early bird discount if you register before May 25th. Write a letter to that little boy or little girl inside of you about how worthy they are, what you love about them, and start validating yourself, not for what you do but for who you are. If you are carrying anger or resentment write a couple a few letters that you never mail. Stop hustling and do the internal work. Tap more into your intuition and inner child.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Influential thought-leader, lifelong martial-artist, dedicated Yoga and meditation practitioner, retired Navy SEAL commander, successful serial entrepreneur, best-selling author, selfless mentor and teacher—Mark Divine joins Christine on the podcast today.   We discuss how to be courageous during this challenging time.  Mark teaches us the 7 Commitments essential to building elite teams (and just being a great leader of yourself!) that are part of his new book, Staring down the Wolf. Learn more here: staringdownthewolf.com

This is a call about discovering your purpose by healing past wounds. Today’s caller, Mark, is feeling confused about his purpose after his divorce. He is struggling with his identity as he obsesses about his ex. After discussing his childhood, his wounding may have come from a family member long before he got married. Moving forward is clearer when you clean up the past.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode244]   There are so many ways we can be disconnected from our purpose. One of the main ways we become disconnected is when we play the role of peacekeeper. Our unconscious mind starts to become more concerned with being a peacekeeper than fulfilling our soul’s destiny. We believe that being a peacekeeper keeps us safe and gets us validation. But being a peacekeeper or being what other people want us to be, drains a lot of our energy.   And, it’s important when finding our purpose that we deal with our anger, resentment, sadness, and shame because often our purpose is underneath those things. Once we see through the unconscious programming, we understand better who we really are.   When you clean up the past, the future becomes clear. And in the clarity, you know what your next steps are. You know what to do about your job or relationships because old wounding and unconscious programming are no longer blinding you from seeing your path.   All human beings have both feminine and masculine energies they need to nurture. Our masculine energy thrives on the muse-like energy that is feminine. Feminine energy is inspiring, evocative, innovative, encouraging, and temptress.   We are in an unprecedented time of uncertainty and worry and overwhelm are running rampant. Do you have the tools to rise to your full strength, wisdom, and power? Please join me on May 13–16 for the Resilience Summit hosted by Ashley Turner. There are 24 interviews, including mine, about the science, spirituality, and psychology of resilience and best practices to build your inner strength. Visit ChristineHassler.com/ResilienceSummit.   Join Stefanos and me twice per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you ever feel depressed, frustrated, or lack motivation? Do you question what your purpose is and often feel like you’re destined to do great things but you just don’t know what they are? Growing up, did you feel you had a good balance of masculine and feminine behavior modeled to you? Do you have an ex or any person in your life that is not in your life anymore that you just keep obsessing about or can’t quite seem to let them go?   Mark’s Question: Mark recently got divorced but is still obsessing about his ex and would like guidance on how to move forward and find purpose in his life.   Mark’s Key Insights and Ahas: He is critical of himself. He says he is depressed. He is searching for his purpose. He married his ‘mom.’ He has never felt accepted by the women in his life. He considers his mother and ex strong women. His mother emasculated him when he was younger. He spent his life trying to please and appease the feminine. His father is his best friend. He feels he was destined to lead. He had to be the peacekeeper in his family. He is afraid of his anger. He craves love and acceptance. He wants permission to be himself.   How to Get Over It and On With It: He needs to find a healthy release for his anger and resentment. He needs to find a healthy model of feminine energy. He needs to write letters to his ex and his mother he doesn’t intend to send. He needs to tap into his feminine energy and find the muse inside himself. He has to stop making getting a woman’s approval his purpose. He should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course.   Takeaways: Journal about what your parents modeled for you around masculine and feminine energy. Are there any F-U letters you need to write to release some anger? Go to ChristineHassler.com/AngerRelease to get the Temper Tantrum technique from my book, Expectation Hangover. Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code ‘HEALTH’ at checkout and take advantage of the 12-month payment plan.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

This is a MUST listen for all women and men who want to understand women better. Functional medicine and woman's hormone expert Alisa Vitti joins Christine to discuss how our "infradian rhythm" which is tied to our menstrual cycle impacts all aspects of your life.  You'll learn what to eat, how to exercise, and how to work depending on what phase of your cycle you are in. By tapping into your biological rhythm, you'll get more done with less effort, fuel your body with the nutrients it needs and enjoy the freedom that comes from living in FLO.   Alissa Vitta is also the author of Woman Code and In the Flo.  The is the creator of MyFLO, the #1 paid period app and the first and only period tracking and cycle syncing app.  Learn more at floliving.com

This is a call about imposter syndrome and feeling worthy. Today’s caller, Odysseus, feels that time is running out for him to have a deep, loving relationship or to have the career he desires. He would like guidance on how to ‘fix’ his pattern of stopping and starting things. We work through his limiting beliefs and discuss ways he can begin accepting himself.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode243]   A lot of times imposter syndrome comes from having competing intentions. We have our grown-up conscious self who wants to go out and help people, be a visionary, and have a big business but then we’ve got this younger part of us, our inner child or adolescent, who feels like they’re going to get rejected and doesn’t feel safe. It holds us back and that’s why we often feel like we’re taking one step forward and one step back.   And, for all of you that use words like quitter, lazy, self-sabotage — all those kinds of things — please don’t call yourself those names anymore. Those patterns are protective patterns that think that they’re doing you good so you need to understand them rather than hate on them and judge them and think to change them.   In many ways, it can be harder for men to connect with their inner child. But both men and women have a little child inside of them and he or she doesn’t want the shutdown, old-school masculine or the overwhelmed, unsupported feminine parent. It wants a loving present parent. So, give yourself that gift.   Secure your spot for our live group coaching call on navigating uncertainty and dealing with expectation hangovers on May 6th and the upcoming call on imposter syndrome. Go to ChristineHassler.com.group for more information or to access the library of past and future group calls. Become part of my community for only $20.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a habit of what feels like quitting? Would you say you are a bit of the black sheep of your family? Do you want to do something but you just keep getting in your own way? Do you have a fix-it approach to personal development?   Odysseus’s Question: Odysseus would like guidance about a relationship and his finances and career.   Odysseus’s Key Insights and Ahas: He feels he quits things too soon and he doesn’t put forth much effort. He is a personal growth junkie. He has cheated on his ex-girlfriends. He battles with his limiting beliefs. He has a pattern of low self-worth. He doesn’t feel worthy of having a good relationship. He didn’t feel wanted by his brothers as a child. He was bullied when he was young. He has Crohn’s disease. He has a distant connection with his father. His parents didn’t know how to parent his energy. He aspires to be a coach but doubts he will follow through. He feels like his time is running out.   How to Get Over It and On With It: He needs to be kinder and gentler to himself. He needs to search inside for who he really is. He needs to create another pattern that protects him without limiting himself through reparenting. He needs to start listening to his inner child and journal about what he says. He needs to move into acceptance of himself and stop the judgments. He should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course.   Takeaways: Journal with your inner child. Choose different ages and write down both sides of your conversation. Look at where imposter syndrome comes up for you and find the competing intention. There is a part of you that wants to move forward and be seen but the scared part of you that wants to protect yourself. Celebrate your progress even if it’s just a small step in the direction you want to go. Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code ‘HEALTH’ at checkout and take advantage of the 12-month payment plan.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

In this special coaches corner, Christine guides you through a beautiful meditation that will bring you both calm and clarity during this time.

This is a call about overcoming codependent and anxious patterns. Today’s caller, Carson, is looking outside of himself for his worth. He would like to know how he can begin to heal and learn to trust himself. This call is a classic case of looking for what we didn't get as a child in other people, as an adult.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode242]   Anything that made you feel unsafe, small, or unimportant as a child or adolescent can create codependent behaviors. The need to attach to someone else develops as a way to counteract the feelings of being small or unimportant. You try to grab on to someone to feel needed or to feel important in their eyes. Codependence can work in two ways. You could be the person that another person needs such as becoming a caretaker or rescuer. Or, you can be super needy.   The behavior of grasping onto others and being needy is not sustainable.  No one outside of us can make these wounds go away. We have to fill the voids ourselves. You have to learn to trust yourself so you can stop grabbing or clinging onto other people or allowing others to cling onto you to feel worthy. If you have any codependent patterns running, you must learn to get your needs met inside yourself.   If you resonate with having similar feelings know that you can heal. Nothing is insurmountable.   Stefanos and I will be hosting our second ‘Be the Queen’ virtual teaching and coaching on May 5th. The program for women seeking to call in an amazing, conscious relationship includes nine calls, a Facebook group, Facebook Lives, and a bonus live event in September. Christinehassler.com/bethequeen.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Did you have your needs met as a child? If not, has that made you needy as an adult? Have you ever thought that you have codependent behaviors? Do people consistently disappoint, misunderstand, or abandon you? Have you ever felt truly seen or understood by someone?   Carson’s Question: Carson would like guidance on how to release his fear of abandonment and begin to trust again.   Carson’s Key Insights and Ahas: He has been struggling with his fear of abandonment. He is in a long-distance relationship. He doesn’t feel supported or accepted by his family. He is codependent and has an anxious attachment style. He has felt misunderstood his entire life. He doesn’t trust himself. He has a creative outlet. He is outsourcing his relief and happiness. He replays past situations in his head. He is seeking the things he didn’t get as a child.   How to Get Over It and On With It: He should do the release writing practice. He should do the temper tantrum technique. He should become an observer of his needs. He needs to say ‘I am safe and I am loved’ when he feels anxious.   Takeaways: To break free of an anxious pattern, identify it, name it, acknowledge it, and accept it. Don’t slap labels on yourself. You may have a part of you that is codependent but that is not who you are. Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code ‘HEALTH’ at checkout and take advantage of the 12-month payment plan.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

Today Asterian Astrologer Jade Luna joins me to discuss how the stars predicted this pandemic, what we can learn from it, and how we can move forward.  Jade and I speak about the "new normal" emerging and this time as a beginning of a massive change of consciousness. Jade S. Luna is the first Westerner ever to reconstruct Jyotish (Hindu Astrology) into a Greco-Roman format.  Jade has traveled extensively around the planet, lecturing and conducting workshops on Astrology and Ancient Roman-Greco mysticism. He has traveled to India more than 30 times and spent a great deal of time with various teachers, Saints and Sadhu's in Asia. Jade also consults with people privately. He usually presents a few seminars each year at various locations worldwide. He is the author of Asterian Astrology and has been one of the most successful Astrologers in the world and has maintained a high-level practice for over 18 years. You can learn more or book a session with him here: http://www.asterianastrology.com/

This is a call about how to heal anger and discover the passion and creativity that lie underneath. Today’s caller, Keira, feels she got the short end of the stick in life. She has done a lot of personal growth work and introspection but she is still angry and sad and wants guidance on how to find her way through her feelings. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode241] As children or adolescents, we make unconscious vows of ‘I will never be like mom,’ or ‘I’ll never be like dad,’ or ‘I will never be like that person who teased me,’ but just making that vow or that promise is not enough. If you don’t heal the wounds that perpetuated making that vow, either you become like them or you go so far in the opposite direction that it becomes a shadow side. If we’re angry all the time or angry at the world it breeds a deep sense of low self-worth. People who are angry generally have low self-worth because unprocessed anger creates an intense sense of separation. Which is another reason I’m so passionate about helping people process anger in a healthy way. Anger misdirected is dangerous but anger directed in a healthy way can be deeply healing. Underneath that anger is where we often find our passion and our purpose. If you feel shut down or you don’t know what your purpose is or what you are supposed to do, do anger release work to see what is underneath your anger. You will become a clearer channel for ideas and innovation.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you ever feel like life just doesn’t work out for you to matter how hard you try? Do you feel angry and/or sad and no matter how much personal development work you do? When it comes to emotions in your home growing up what did you observe? Have you been told you’re too emotional or too reactive or too irrational or *fill in the blank* and you're questioning whether or not it is true? Keira’s Question: Keira would like guidance on how to let go of her anger so she can enjoy life. Keira’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is emotionally addicted to being angry. She judges herself for not being able to change. She wants to enjoy life. Her father let her down. She judges her mother for not being strong for her. She feels her older brother let her down. She gets triggered easily. She believes her soul is a passionate one. She is yearning to uncover her creativity. How to Get Over It and On With It: She needs to be grateful for how her anger has served her. She needs to learn how to channel and use her anger. She needs to join my Personal Mastery course and read Expectation Hangover. She needs to dive deeper into her wounding to free herself of it. She needs to share her feelings with her mother by writing letters she doesn’t intend to send. Takeaways: Get an excerpt of the temper tantrum technique from my book, Expectation Hangover as a free gift at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease. Join Stef and me twice per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall. Find your voice during this time, whatever that means to you. Don’t be too passive or too reactive. Find your middle ground. Channel your feelings into writing, speaking, dancing, cooking, creating; something non-result-based that is just fun. Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code ‘HEALTH’ at checkout and take advantage of the monthly payment plan. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services. Get on the Waitlist to be coached on the show.

This is an incredibly informative and compassionate discussion about trauma.  Trauma is something this is often misunderstood and mistreated which is why I'm so grateful to have had Elaine, who has been on the front lines of trauma, shed some light on this subject.   Elaine Miller-Karas is the Director of Innovation, Vision and Creativity and co-founder of the Trauma Resource Institute and author of the book, Building Resiliency to Trauma, the Trauma and Community Resiliency Models® (2015).   She has worked internationally to bring healing to the world’s community.  Her models to date have been brought to 102 countries in Asia, Africa, North America, the Mid-East, South America and Europe.  She is a recognized international speaker and author. Elaine’s book was recently selected by the United Nations curated on-line library as one of the innovations that can help meet the United Nations Sustainable Development Goals. Elaine is a founding member of the International Transformational Resilience Coalition and a leading advocate with regard to the impact of climate change on the human condition.

This is a call about releasing your anger to find your worth. Today’s caller, Eliza, desires a relationship but doesn’t feel worthy. As with many people who struggle with not-enoughness, unworthiness, or with people who are stuck, she has confused acceptance with resignation and her passion, fire, and worth lies beneath her anger.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode240]   Emotional release work is like a workout. You may not feel like doing it if you didn’t sleep well the night before or you had one too many glasses of wine but after you do it you feel so much better. During this time, emotional release work is very important. This isn't just a time to chill or to just clean out your closet. It’s time to bring your shadow out into the light of awareness and be willing to feel your emotions. That’s when things will start to move and shift.   Please don’t lie to yourself or brush things under the rug. Don’t harbor resentment and call it acceptance. Acceptance is not avoiding confrontation; that’s complacency, resignation, and emotional repression. You might say that you’ve accepted so-and-so for who they are but deep down you probably still have anger and pain.   I believe that acceptance and forgiveness are beautiful places for all of us to be in but good luck being a human being and trying to bypass your emotions and get right to acceptance and forgiveness. That is a spiritual bypass. I hope that in this global Expectation Hangover we’re having more people will do emotional release writing, emotional release work, and the temper tantrum technique to look at the ways that they’re no longer able to sustain their behavior.   Join Stef and me twice per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall.   Stefan and I will be hosting our second ‘Be the Queen’ virtual teaching and coaching in April. The program for women seeking to call in an amazing, conscious relationship includes nine calls, a Facebook group, Facebook Lives, and a bonus live event in September. Christinehassler.com/bethequeen.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you struggle with feeling not enough or unworthiness? Did you have a parent you felt shut you down? Maybe you felt they were disappointed in you or they never looked at you with love or adoration? Do you feel stuck? Do you have trouble motivating yourself? Do you have a hard time speaking your truth to people? Do you prefer to stay in the status quo?   Eliza’s Question: Eliza wants to be in a relationship but feels unworthy of love.   Eliza’s Key Insights and Ahas: She believes she is unlikeable. She doesn’t feel good enough, especially at work. She blames and judges herself. She is fluent in the ‘I am not enough’ language. She believes that blaming herself will help her heal. She would like to forgive her parents freely. She didn’t feel seen by her father. She believes if she accepts her father then she will feel worthy. She doesn’t feel loved by her family. She swallows resentment to try and keep the peace. She wants to feel loved and accepted.   How to Get Over It and On With It: She should join our Be the Queen program. She needs to change her self-talk and re-parent herself. She needs to join my Personal Mastery course and read Expectation Hangover.   Takeaways: Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code ‘HEALTH’ at checkout and take advantage of the monthly payment plan. Get an excerpt of the temper tantrum technique from my book, Expectation Hangover as a free gift at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease.    Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Jessica Ortner joins Christine to speak about how the Emotional Freedom Technique, which is also called "Tapping," can help bring relief from difficult emotions and thoughts. Jess is a producer of The Tapping Solution, the breakthrough documentary film on EFT/meridian tapping. She guides you through a tapping process to help release worry and tension in this episode.  You can also more free EFT resources at www.christinehassler.com/tapping.

This is a call about accessing faith when your logical mind has doubts. Today’s caller, Emma, is feeling anxious about not being able to access her faith. She says the mental understanding of God has her optimistic about the future but she wasn’t experientially getting it. And, an uncertain future is exacerbating her anxiety.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode239]   A relationship with a higher power can be complicated just like a relationship with people. We can go through ebbs and flows where we are totally into it and we feel it and then there are times when we are questioning everything.   Part of the reason many of us feel anger toward God is that we see a lot of suffering. We even see something like the pandemic and wonder if there really is a God. Remember that we are made from the image and likeness of God. The reason there is suffering in the world isn’t necessarily because God or the universe did it, it is our free will that has created what we live with on a day-to-day basis.   The universe, I believe, is always helping us move more and more toward evolution. It points out the contrast of when we are out of alignment with harmony, balance, and love. And as a collective, we have been out of alignment for a long time which is just one of the reasons we are experiencing this difficult time.   If we project human behavior onto God or onto the universe it will never make sense to us. We have to see our higher power, without judgment. God/Universe is an all-knowing, all-loving thing. All it wants is for us to know ourselves as it, to know ourselves as unconditional love, untapped possibility, and oneness.   We forget that God exists inside of each of us and we live in a world where we are still evolving. You don’t have to earn God. The more we shift into the energy of love, the energy of gratitude, and the energy of worthiness, there will be less suffering.   How can you experience the unconditional love of the universe if you don’t feel worthy to receive it?   Join Stef and me three to five times per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall and download the call from 4/4/20 about anger.   Stefan and I will be hosting our second ‘Be the Queen’ virtual teaching and coaching in April. The program for women seeking to call in an amazing, conscious relationship includes nine calls, a Facebook group, Facebook Lives, and a bonus live event in September. Christinehassler.com/bethequeen.   Consider/Ask Yourself: What does faith mean to you? Do you feel like you have it? Do you want to have faith but you just don’t feel it? Do you think you are worthy of being loved and supported by God or a higher power? Are you a bit angry at God and the universe and you are not sure what to do about it?   Emma’s Question: Emma doesn’t understand why she can’t access feelings of faith; she would like guidance about how to find meaning and connection.   Emma’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is feeling anxious about the future. She believes she doesn’t have faith. She doesn’t connect with any particular religion. She has had bouts of extreme uncertainty. She doesn’t believe things are fair. She has a pattern of being unable to express her feelings. She believes she is not enough and unworthy. She was bullied when she was a child. She has been repressing anger for a long time. Deep down she remembers what it is like to be connected.   How to Get Over It and On With It: She should join me in my Personal Mastery course. Get $200 off by using the promo code ‘HEALTH’ and take advantage of the monthly payment plan. She needs a good emotional release. She needs to work through the anger by doing the empty chair practice putting God in the opposite chair.   Takeaways: Download my free meditation to help you slip into your sense of faith and sense of spirituality. Download it at ChristineHassler.com/Faith. Tap into your worthiness by using a picture of yourself as a child and feel into love and worthiness.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Join Christine as Stef as they offer tips for both couples and singles to keep love alive.  If you're in a relationship, your partner can either be your greatest asset or the greatest source of irritation . . . we support you in making him or her your asset and share specific ways you can do that. And if you are single, you're going to love what we have to say about why this is a fantastic time to call in love.  We also discuss our program for women who are calling in their man: www.christinehassler.com/bethequeen

This is a call about releasing anger to find passion and calm. Today’s caller, Kirsten, is feeling anxious about what comes next for her. She is a stay-at-home mom who has fallen into the trap of looking for something external to relieve something internal. But as you know, something external never fixes or resolves what’s going on internally. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode238] For many of us, we are so busy being ‘human doings’ that we forget about being human beings. And during this time when we are staying at home, we have an opportunity to come face-to-face with who we really are because we are less distracted. I encourage you, during this time, to go within and delve into nothingness and see what comes up. That's why my Mastery course is such a good investment at this time. This is the perfect time to do your inner work. Our passion and our true calling often reside underneath our anger. If we haven’t addressed our anger, especially as women who tend not to let it out, it is hard to find our passion. And, passion and purpose is a juicy, fiery energy. What we think we want to do often comes from a place of conditioning. But when we release the energy of compassion, we open up the second chakra of our body and when we pull the anger out all of the passion opens up. Releasing anger in a healthy way, as in Expectation Hangover, basically it is finding a safe space. It is important that we voice our feelings at our parents in particular, not at them directly but in a therapeutic way. They don’t need to know about it. In our effort to protect them, we suppress our feelings. When we get the anger out, let it go and eventually get to forgiveness, real forgiveness, then we can have healthier relationships with our parents. It is important to release our anger, release our sadness and to get our energy up and moving so it doesn’t turn into anxiety, fear, pain, or disease. Would you like to work directly with me? I have two Private Client spots open. Email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information. Join Stef and me three to five times per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall and allow us to support you. Stefan and I will be hosting our second ‘Be the Queen’ virtual teaching and coaching in April. The program for women seeking to call in an amazing, conscious relationship includes nine calls, a Facebook group, Facebook Lives, and a bonus live event in September. Christinehassler.com/bethequeen/   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you wondering what’s next? Are you returning to the work environment or reevaluating what you want to be doing? Did you have a parent who had a temper but maybe it wasn’t directed at you so you could see their loving side so you don’t think it impacted you? Do you have a hard time feeling and expressing anger in a healthy way? Or, do you feel guilty about acknowledging your anger at someone you love because you feel protective of that person? How do you deal in calm when there is nothing to do? Does anxiety get triggered when you don’t know what is next?   Kirsten’s Question: Kirsten feels lost and is trying to find herself now that her kids are getting older.   Kirsten’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is married with two children. She worries about where her worth and value will come from in the future. Her identity is based on her being a wife and mother. She was financially self-reliant from a very young age. She is not fond of relying on her husband for money. Her father had a temper and was aggressive with other family members. She feels anger toward her parents but is very protective of her father. She felt unsettled as a child.   How to Get Over It and On With It: She should read 20-Something, 20-Everything: A Quarter-life Woman's Guide to Balance and Direction, by Christine Hassler. She needs to work toward true forgiveness toward her father. She needs to practice release writing and start the sentences with “I am angry because…” She should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course.   Assignments and Takeaways: Go back and listen to Coaches Corner with Nicole Sachs on how emotions create chronic pain in our body.  If you are in your twenties or early thirties, grab a copy of 20-Something, 20-Everything for women or 20-Something Manifesto: Quarter-Lifers Speak Out About Who They Are, What They Want, and How to Get It, by Christine Hassler. Re-read Expectation Hangover or join me in my Personal Mastery course. Get $200 off by using the promo code ‘HEALTH’ and take advantage of the monthly payment plan. Don’t be afraid to follow any feelings of nervousness or anxiety into bigger feelings that reside underneath them. You will find your passion and calm.    Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Nicole Sachs, LCSW is a speaker, writer, podcaster and psychotherapist who has dedicated her work and her practice to the treatment of chronic pain, symptoms, syndromes and conditions. She is the author of the book The Meaning of Truth, and the online course FREEDOM FROM CHRONIC PAIN. Her brand, The Cure for Chronic Pain, includes a Website, Podcast and YouTube Channel. Her personal experience as well as work with thousands of people around the world have shaped and evolved Nicole’s theories, which serve to teach those suffering how to heal themselves completely with no medication or surgery.

This is a call about feeling worthy, trusting yourself, and knowing you are enough. Today’s caller, Lisa, mistakenly believes she is defective in some way, but it’s not true. She initially questions her career path but we unpack her question to get to the root of what is blocking her. There are some powerful ‘ahas’ in this call. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode237] When our desires and our wants are not congruent with our beliefs about ourselves, we can fall into the trap of looking outside ourselves to make us feel a certain way. The universe will keep blocking that from happening because it wants us to learn that we can generate those feelings from inside ourselves and we don’t need anyone or anything else to make us feel confident or believe in ourselves. Our life lessons, our parents, the things that impact our personality and behavioral patterns; all of it is changeable. All of that is healable, I promise you. What is not shiftable is your soul and your spirit. Your soul essence, who you are, your spirit can never be defective or deflated. Join Stef and I three to five times per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall and allow us to support you. Listen to my last Coaches Corner where Emily Fletcher shares a meditation designed to help us stress less. After listening go to Zivameditation.com/online/ to get 50% off one of her mediation training. Stefan and I will be hosting our second ‘Be the Queen’ virtual teaching and coaching in April. The program for women seeking to call in an amazing, conscious relationship includes nine calls, a Facebook group, Facebook Lives, and a bonus live event in September. Christinehassler.com/bethequeen/   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel defective because you can’t seem to get to where you want to be in your life? Are you trying a lot of things, hoping to find something you are passionate about or love doing? Did you have too much responsibility as a child? Do you have contradicting desires and beliefs?   Lisa’s Question: Lisa has spent years in a job she doesn’t like and feels stuck but can’t pinpoint what she really wants to do.   Lisa’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is in a career she doesn’t like. She feels like she is a procrastinator and lazy. She took the first job she was offered. She wants to be in a more strategic position. She feels stressed. She started pursuing fashion as a hobby. She believes that she is unworthy. She has never felt connected to anything. She didn’t have the opportunity to play and be herself as a child. She is a generational pattern breaker. She lived in a state of survival as a child. Her spirit wants more. She is doing EMDR therapy. Her desires and her wants are not congruent with her beliefs about herself.   How to Get Over It and On With It: She should be proud of herself for getting out there and trying new things. She needs to reparent and heal herself. She needs to tap into her shadow self and express herself. She should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course.   Assignments and Takeaways: Think about things that you were shamed for as a child and have compassion for yourself, take back your power, and give yourself permission to start enjoying the things you love. Commit to feeling again. It’s not about discipline, it’s about being attuned to what is going on in the moment.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For men interested in being on the show

Emily Fletcher is the founder of Ziva Meditation and the leading expert in meditation for extraordinary performance. In this very timely interview, she speaks to why mediation is so imperative for our wellbeing - particularly for our immune system.  Emily guides you through a powerful meditation and offers you 50% off her Ziza meditation training which you can access at https://zivameditation.com/online/ The Ziva Technique is a powerful trifecta of mindfulness, meditation and manifesting designed to unlock your full potential. Also check out her book, Stress Less, Accomplish More, debuted at #7 out of all books on Amazon.

This is a call about issue-based relationships. Today’s caller, Megan, is curious about whether she should go back to a relationship that is on a break. She wants to know if an issue-based relationship can turn into a healthy relationship. I explain what an issue-based relationship is and give her some guidance about how to listen to her inner knowing. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode236] The five relationships are issue-based, journey mate, compatibility, fantasy, and side-by-side partnership. Not every relationship is made to last forever or should last forever. Different relationships come for different reasons and teach us different things. When we understand what type of relationship we have then it is a little bit easier to deal with. An issue-based relationship is when our childhood wounds attract us to each other. We tend to date our unresolved issues from our childhood. Normally one person dumps feelings all over the other and the other person either dumps feelings back or tries to clean up the mess. They keep triggering each other and playing out patterns. When couples go to couple’s counseling it doesn’t really work because they keep trying to work on the relationship but they should be working on their own issues. It’s like two people who speak totally different languages and you are trying to teach them how to speak a third language. For people in issue-based relationships, I recommend taking a break and separating, working on themselves, and then re-evaluating the relationship. By then they may decide the relationship is not what they want or they get back together.   March 18, 2020, Stefanos and I are co-hosting a group call about relationships. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group. If you missed my live group coaching call about how to care for your energetic and spiritual hygiene and cope during times of stress download it for free at Christinehassler.com/group-coaching-replays/   Consider/Ask Yourself: Is there someone from your past that you are considering bringing back into your life? Are you in an issue-based relationship? Have you been in a relationship that has felt like great chemistry but it was actually codependence? Are you willing to be on your own, or not in a relationship, for as long as it takes to see clearly what you need from a relationship? Megan’s Question: Megan would like to know if an issue-based relationship can turn into a healthy relationship. Megan’s Key Insights and Ahas: She attended my Spring Retreat. She is in an issue-based relationship. She entered into the relationship from an unhealthy space. She has an opportunity to reconnect with her boyfriend who she has strong feelings for. She has a pattern of giving men multiple chances. Her father wasn’t emotionally available. She feels an extremely strong connection to her boyfriend. She has a pattern of asking external sources for answers to her internal questions. She wants to get more into her healthy masculine. How to Get Over It and On With It: She may want to let her boyfriend complete his coaching before reconnecting. She needs to trust herself and her inner knowing. She should reaffirm advice from others by writing it down and considering how it feels to her. She should pray for the highest good of all parties. Assignments and Takeaways: Relationships are always learning opportunities. Look at your triggering relationships and consider what they are reflecting back to you. If you are in an issue-based relationship and are not getting anywhere, take a break and work separately for a year and then see where you stand. Evaluate the kind of partner you are being to yourself and work on your self-care and self-love. Sponsor: LOLA — offers a modern approach to feminine care that is for women by women. It is the best way to get 100% organic cotton tampons, pads, and cleansing wipes you can feel good about delivered to your home. Lola products are free of chemicals, fragrances, or dyes. Go to MyLola.com to customize your subscription and use the code ‘OVERIT30’ to get 30% off your first month’s subscription. Get a starter pack subscription for just $5. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For men interested in being on the show

This call is about reclaiming your sexuality and getting over body issues. Today’s caller, Heidi, has felt shame about her sexuality since she was a child. During our conversation, I coach her through how to reclaim her sexuality and how she can feel safe in her body to experience pleasure.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode235]   Being connected to our bodies and experiencing pleasure is important. There are a lot of therapies that help people move past eating disorders and fall back in love with their bodies. But, sexuality is a part of the therapy that is often left out.   When we don’t experience sensual or sexual pleasure or we disconnect from our body and are not satisfied we attempt to fill the void with food for satiation. For some, the only way to feel safe is to enforce some kind of control over their bodies which may create a body image issue or an eating disorder. We can store emotional pain in our reproductive organs just like we store tension in our shoulders. And it is common for many women to experience pain during sex or sex doesn’t feel good to them. It is natural for human beings to want to experience pleasure. So, start introducing pleasure in ways that feel safe with you. We don’t need to know the specifics behind our fears to heal ourselves and move on.   Secure your spot for our live group coaching call on love and relationships on March 18th. Be part of my community for only $20. Go to ChristineHassler.com.group for more information or to access the recorded version of the call. Join Stefanos and me in Austin for our ‘Love Amplified: Amplifying Your Relationship with Yourself, with Others, and with Your Higher Power.’ To sign up for the event on September 24–27th go to ChristineHassler.com/austin.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have any body image issues? Have you had an eating disorder in the past or are struggling with it now? Were you raised in a very strict, religious, or repressed home? Were you shamed as a child or teenager? Do you experience pleasure in your current life? Do you enjoy sex? Could it be better?   Heidi’s Question: Heidi would like guidance on how to heal her body from an eating disorder.   Heidi’s Key Insights and Ahas: She sabotages herself and reverts to old patterns. She battles anorexia. She rarely felt safe as a child. She always tried to please her father. She felt shame around how she looked. Her family is very religious. She has disconnected from her sexuality.   How to get over it and on with it: She needs to unlock her sacred sexuality. She should look for healers to help her. She needs to put more intention into her sex life with her husband. She needs to indulge in self-pleasure to feel safe in her body.   Assignments and Takeaways: If you have been dealing with an eating disorder or body image issue, take an inventory of how much pleasure you have in your life. You don’t need a partner to experience pleasure. Create pleasure dates with yourself. Somatic therapy, Pelvic Floor Therapy, Dancing, Tantra are all ways you can heal and help yourself to enjoy being in your body. Put more intention into your sex life. Enjoy being in your body. Don’t disconnect from your physical experience.   Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — What if you could take away the hassle of bra shopping and find the perfect fitting bra that is made for comfort in minutes? Take the fit finder quiz to find your perfect size, even if it’s a half size. Third Love has donated over 15 million gently-used bras to women in need in the San Francisco Bay area. Use the link to get 15% off the first purchase of your favorite bra.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — For men interested in being on the show

This week Christine shares about her experience at Dr. Joe Dispenza's week-long advanced retreat - learn a little about who Dr. Joe is, what he teaches, and how to move through resistance when you are breaking out of your comfort zone.  Christine also announces more about the retreat she is teaching in September: www.christinehassler.com/austin

This episode is about how to break addictive behaviors. Today’s caller, Dee, had a chaotic childhood and is unconsciously creating chaos in her adult life because it feels familiar and safe. We work through the process of identifying her emotional addiction and unpack why it’s hard to shift and then how to shift it. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode234] How we know that an unresolved issue from our past or an old emotional addiction has created a pattern of acting that is so unconscious that we have a hard time ‘controlling’ it is at play is that we do something that doesn’t match our current life. If you are doing something that doesn’t match up to what your current life represents, you have some work to do in terms of going back and cleaning up the past. When we have a lot of chaos or are used to feeling it, we become addicted to negative or lower vibrational feelings, like anxiety. Sometimes the revved up, anxious, addicted behavior creates a feeling of peace because it is familiar. With any addiction, you are never after the substance. You are after the feeling the substance gives you. When we understand that the human psyche feels safety with certainty the brain continually hunts for what it knows to be familiar. It’s way more than sabotage. It’s a part of the brain that is so familiar with chaos that when everything is good and peaceful, it feels wrong or off. If you are in a behavior that feels incongruent with your current state, be aware that it is an emotional addiction. Drop into compassion and then feed your emotional addiction a different way. Secure your spot for our live group coaching call on love and relationships on March 18th. Be part of my community for only $20. Go to ChristineHassler.com.group for more information. Join Stefanos and me in Austin in the Fall for our Love Amplified: Amplifying Your Relationship with Yourself, with Others, and with Your Higher Power. To get on the ‘interested’ list go to ChristineHassler.com/austin.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you have a habit of overspending and/or overeating? Do you have a behavior where you see yourself doing it and you know you shouldn’t but you just can't seem to stop? Did you grow up with a lot of chaos? Is the chaos gone but you continue to bring chaos into your life? How are you about going with the flow and letting go of control? Do you have a deep connection with a higher power? Dee’s Question: Dee has a habit of overspending and overeating and would like guidance on how to break her past programming. Dee’s Key Insights and Ahas: She’s read Expectation Hangover. She continues to accrue debt. She overeats unhealthy foods. She’s never been taught about money. She grew up with scarcity and chaos. There is addiction in her family. She is unconsciously creating chaos. She’s always been a seeker. She doesn’t feel worthy. She works in the spiritual arts. She feels positive about what to do next. How to Get Over It and On With It: If she can change where she focuses her energy, from spending to spiritual things will open up for her. She needs to stop herself in the moment and generate feelings of love. She needs to stir up the chemicals in her body and brain. When she feels an urge to spend or eat, she should put one hand on her heart and one on her head and give herself love. She needs to be gentle with herself while she breaks the cycle. Takeaways: If you are in a behavior that feels incongruent with your current state, be aware that it is an emotional addiction. Drop into compassion and then feed your emotional addiction in a different way.   Sponsor: Rothy’s — Rothy’s makes everyday flats for women and girls on the go. They are stylish, classic, and comfortable with new colors launching all the time. These cute and versatile shoes made from repurposed plastic water bottles are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Get your Rothy’s by using this link Rothys.com/over.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Get on the Waitlist to Be Coached on this Podcast

Amber Lilyestrom is a transformational branding strategist and business coach, author and speaker. She is the host of The Amber Lilyestrom Show podcast, which has over 100,000 monthly downloads . She is the creator of the Ignite Your Soul Summit, an annual live event in Portsmouth, NH and multiple life-changing online programs.  Amber's mission is to empower women to position themselves as sought-after experts and thought leaders through the creation of an online brand presence. Her transformational mindset work sets her apart in an industry focused on a strategy-first, inner work later approach. She’s worked with thousands of women worldwide building a seven-figure business from home, while also homeschooling her daughter and retiring her husband from his 11-year police career. Amber spent 10 years working in collegiate athletics marketing before launching her business. She managed the University of New Hampshire Wildcats brand, where she taught sports marketing and mentored student interns. She was recognized as one of the top sports marketing professionals in the nation and left her corporate career after a life-altering near-death experience that served as the catalyst for her to launch her business. You can learn more and connect with Amber at www.amberlilyestrom.com

This episode is about how to get over a breakup but we go much deeper than that. Today’s caller, Miranda, had a profound spiritual experience during her previous relationship. She thought the feeling came from an external source when it actually came from her internal divine source because her mind was quiet enough to feel unconditional love for herself. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode233] We are all headed towards breaking old personality patterns and emotional addictions that have kept us in a certain frequency to elevate ourselves into a different energetic field. This is why journey mates come into our lives. There is a specific reason a journey mate comes into our lives. A journey mate relationship is a contract but it’s a short-term contract. We come together with a person to have an important experience or to help us get through a difficult time we can’t get through on our own. The other person acts as a mirror to show us the aspect inside of us we need to transform. Usually, once the experience or realization happens the relationship has to end. Often, I find these relationships end abruptly or under random circumstances. The reason the universe pulls two people apart is that a journey mate is only in our lives to show us something about ourselves or to help us discover inner qualities that we may not be able to access on our own. How do you access a deeper connection with the divine? I am a proud sponsor of B-school which is an online training program for modern entrepreneurs taught by Marie Forleo. When you register through my link you will receive special bonuses from me. I include four group coaching calls of 90 min each, four custom meditations for entrepreneurs, access to my Facebook group, a one day retreat, plus free access to my master class for coaches. Go to ChristineHassler.com/bschool or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information. For free training videos from Marie go to ChristineHassler.com/training. Join Stefan and me in Austin in the Fall for our Love Amplified: Amplifying Your Relationship with Yourself, with Others, and with Your Higher Power. To get on the ‘interested’ list go to ChristineHassler.com/austin. Or join us on a live group coaching call on love and relationships on March 18th or 19th. Go to ChristineHassler.com.group for more information.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you struggling with getting over a breakup? Have you been in a deeply connected relationship but it ended abruptly or under shocking circumstances? Have you had a spiritual experience but are unable to have it again? Do you want to feel unconditional love, peace, and a deeper connection? Do you tend to be hard on yourself or have a fierce inner critic?   Miranda’s Question: Miranda had a spiritual experience in a relationship but since the relationship ended she hasn’t been able to recreate the feeling and would like guidance on how to regain the feeling. Miranda’s Key Insights and Ahas: She had a positive spiritual experience in which she felt unconditional love. She has a fierce inner critic. Her previous relationship ended abruptly. She realizes she sacrificed some of herself in the relationship. She overanalyzed what the relationship meant. She realizes she felt the love from an internal source, not an external one. She feels encouraged by her progress. She wants to capitalize on this chapter of her life. How to Get Over It and On With It: She needs to realize that what she experienced was a spiritual moment she allowed herself to have. She should look at the relationship as a gift but not put her ex on a pedestal. She shouldn’t believe that she was rejected. She needs to fall more in love with herself every day.  She needs to generate the elated feelings on her own. Takeaways: If you feel you have a Journey Mate relationship or had one, accept it. Write a letter you don’t intend to send to thank the other person for the relationship and declaring it done. Get serious about your meditation practice. You should be feeling elevated when you finish.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Get on the Waitlist to Be Coached on this Podcast

Antonio Neves is an internationally recognized leadership speaker, author and award-winning journalist. He's the author of three books including, '50 Ways To Excel In Your First Job (and in Life) and he’s currently working on his next book. On his podcast The Best Thing, he talks with fascinating people about the “best thing” to happen to them that would never appear on a resume, bio or come up in conversation. For nearly 10 years, Antonio has helped organizations increase workplace engagement, create strong cultures of accountability, and tell stories that make people lean in Antonio's clients and audiences are some of the largest brands in the world including. An award-winning journalist, Antonio worked as a correspondent, host and producer for over 10 years in New York City with top networks including NBC, PBS, BET Networks, Advertising Age and Nickelodeon.

This episode is about asking for what you need in relationships. Today’s caller, Megan, feels overwhelmed when faced with too many choices and is afraid to be truly seen. She doesn’t want her pattern of uncertainty to sabotage her new relationship. Like in many coaching sessions, her initial question isn’t exactly what we focus on. This is for anyone who has trouble making decisions, doubts themselves, or is in sabotaging patterns.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode232]   For empaths, love can feel overwhelming because we love so deeply. When we are in a relationship it can feel smothering and overwhelming. Instead of communicating that we need boundaries and space with love we are often afraid of confrontation or don’t want to make the other person upset. So, we unconsciously push them away by either judging them internally, nitpicking, or acting out in other ways. Empaths need to know what they need — especially at the beginning of the relationship. When you are first dating someone you need to be vocal and ask for what you need.   Boundaries in a relationship and asking for what you need is important. That way you don’t have to build walls. You can have a door and that door can be open most of the time but sometimes you need to shut it and put on the do not disturb sign. The people in your life that love you will understand. It will allow them to spend time with themselves.   When our heart is broken either through a breakup or the death of someone, we want to love again but we are scared because it feels risky.   Fear of making the wrong decision will keep you from making the decision. Basically, fear complicates everything in your life. The more you can drop into love and your inner knowing and move out of the energy of fear the more clarity you will have in all aspects of your life.   I am a proud sponsor of B-school which is an online training program for modern entrepreneurs taught by Marie Forleo. When you register through my link you will receive special bonuses from me. I include four group coaching calls of 90 min each, four custom meditations for entrepreneurs, access to my Facebook group, a one day retreat, plus free access to my master class for coaches. Go to ChristineHassler.com/bschool or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information. For free training videos from Marie go to ChristineHassler.com/training.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you notice you have sabotaging behaviors? You can get close to what you want but then sabotaging thoughts or behaviors show up. When it comes to making decisions do you struggle and wonder if you made the right choice? Or, that you should be “doing something different.”  Have you lost someone you love either through the ending of a relationship or a death and you are scared to open your heart again? Do you make time regularly to connect to your inner wisdom and get answers from there?   Megan’s Question: Megan has a recurring pattern of feeling as if she isn’t doing the right thing or feels she should be doing something else and would like guidance on how to change it.   Megan’s Key Insights and Ahas: She is an empath. She is in a new relationship. She is aware of her patterns. Her mother tried to control what she was eating. She is overwhelmed with too many choices. She is afraid of another heartbreak. She feels safer when she is alone. She has created a fortress around her heart. She is afraid to be seen. She is filled with doubt about her ability to write a book.   How to Get Over It and On With It: She needs to establish healthy boundaries in her new relationship. She needs to ask for what she needs. She needs to recognize her gift of feeling deeply. She needs to connect more deeply to the divine inside of her.   Takeaways: Make sure you have boundaries, not barriers. Don’t build a fortress around yourself. Just put up the ‘do not disturb’ sign for a while. Risk big when it comes to loving! When fear comes up, remind yourself that with fear you are already in loss. If you are afraid of letting someone in, journal about what you don’t want someone else to see. Often, we don’t know what we are hiding. My 6-step Process to Making Intuitive Decisions is my gift to you. Send a text to 444999 and put ‘Christine’ in the subject line. If you are outside of the U.S. email assist@christinehassler.com and request the free gift.   Sponsor: LOLA — offers a modern approach to feminine care that is for women by women. It is the best way to get 100% organic cotton tampons, pads, and cleansing wipes you can feel good about delivered to your home. Lola products are free of chemicals, fragrances, or dyes. Go to MyLola.com to customize your subscription and use the code ‘OVERIT30’ to get 30% off your first month’s subscription. Get a starter pack subscription for just $5.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Get on the Waitlist to Be Coached on this Podcast

This is a must listen, especially for aspiring or current entrepreneurs. Marie joins Christine for the 3rd time to inspire you with stories around her mantra, "Everything is figureoutable."  We also talk about her signature program, B-School, for teaching modern, heart-centered entrepreneurs how to build a successful business.  I also reveal my EPIC B-School bonuses for this year which you can access here: www.christinehassler.com/bschool

This episode is about self-soothing strategies for empaths. Today’s caller, Alexis, wants guidance about how to find self-worth after getting out of an abusive relationship. But, we go deeper and discover that self-worth is just part of the issue. She realizes that moving toward self-soothing will be more beneficial to her at this time. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode231] We can’t amp up our self-worth if we keep judging and shaming ourselves. If you are trying to increase your self-worth, I want you to consistently think of things you are proud of. Not just accomplishments but choices and characteristics and all courageous actions you have taken. Increase your feelings of pride and it will increase your self-worth. Narcissists are very attractive to empaths because empaths have huge hearts and can see what’s behind narcissism. While narcissists are self-absorbed, empaths are often selfless and are more concerned with other people’s happiness. If you are an empath who is with a narcissist, my encouragement to you is to get out of the relationship. No matter how much you love them they are unable to feel empathy and they can’t give you the love and attention you deserve. It’s a tough relationship to be in. And, trying to get out of triggers or uncomfortable feelings by thinking positive is a dead-end for a lot of people, especially empaths. One of your gifts is that you feel deeply so trying to escape your feelings through positive psychology or a pep talk may lead you astray because you are negating the very essence of who you are. If you are a feeling person, you have to honor your feelings. I am a proud sponsor of B-school which is an online training program for modern entrepreneurs taught by Marie Forleo. When you register through my link you will receive special bonuses from me. I include four group coaching calls of 90 min each, four custom meditations for entrepreneurs, access to my Facebook group, a one day retreat, plus free access to my master class for coaches. Go to ChristineHassler.com/bschool or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com for more information. For free training videos from Marie go to ChristineHassler.com/training. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are you getting over a breakup? Do you ever fear you may be codependent or have codependent patterns? As a child, did you ever feel like you were walking on eggshells? How are you at self-soothing? When you get triggered, do you try to distract yourself to avoid dealing with the feelings? Alexis’s Question: Alexis recently got out of an abusive relationship and would like guidance on how to boost her self-worth. Alexis’s Key Insights and Ahas: She was in an abusive relationship for two years. She is working on being proud of herself. She would shut down when she tried to stand up for herself. Her ex would make her feel crazy. She is an empath. She feels blocked when trying to get to the core of her trauma. She is stuck in the awareness phase of personal development. There was a lot of tension in her childhood home. She felt abandoned and alone in the past. She doesn’t follow through in many things in her life. She struggles with letting her feelings out. She is part of my Personal Mastery community. How to Get Over It and On With It: She should listen to the Coaches Corner with Dr. Judith Orloff. She needs to realize she is not alone because many empaths are attracted to narcissists. She needs to learn self-soothing techniques and strategies. She should journal in the form of release writing. Takeaways: Be proud of yourself. Listen to the Coaches Corner with Dr. Judith Orloff. Make a date to meet with your feelings when they come up if you are unable to process them in the moment. Use my release writing technique from Expectation Hangover when journaling. Place one hand on your heart and one hand on your belly and say “I am loved and I am safe.” Sponsor: THIRDLOVE — Comfortable, perfectly-fitting bras that boost confidence. What if you could remove the hassle of bra shopping and find the most comfortable, perfect fitting bra in minutes? Take the fit finder quiz at Thirdlove.com/overit to find your perfect size. They have over 80 bra sizes, including half-cup sizes! Use the link to get 15% off the first purchase of your favorite bra. They have a 100% fit guarantee. Thirdlove donates returned bras to women in need. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Get on the Waitlist to Be Coached on this Podcast

Dr. Judith Orloff is a New York Times bestselling author, psychiatrist and is on the UCLA psychiatric clinical faculty. Dr. Orloff specializes in treating empaths and sensitive people in her Los Angeles based private practice. Judith Orloff MD asserts that we are keepers of an innate intuitive intelligence so perceptive that it can tell us how to heal — and prevent — illness. Yet intuition and spirituality are the very aspects of our wisdom usually disenfranchised from traditional health care. Dr. Orloff’s latest book “The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People” (Sounds True, 2017) is an invaluable resource to help sensitive people of all kinds develop healthy coping mechanisms in our high-stimulus world without experiencing compassion fatigue or burnout. Empaths can then fully embody their gifts of intuition, creativity, and compassion. Dr. Orloff’s work has been featured all over the world in various media outlets.  You can learn more about at www.drjudithorloff.com.

This episode is about our money story. Today’s caller, Emily, calls in asking about gaining clarity and her purpose but what we reveal is her relationship with money impacts many things for her. Her unconscious programming holds beliefs that are directly at odds with what she wants for herself. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode230] If you grew up not having a lot of money or being told money was evil then there you may have some trauma around having money. And just like going back and healing emotional wounds, we have to go back and heal our financial wounds as well. Our careers, being parents, or what we do in the world gets confused with what we think we are here on the earth to do. Your purpose in life isn’t your career. We mistakenly think that it is our purpose. What I feel is true, is that our purpose is to evolve our soul as much as possible. Our purpose is to elevate our consciousness, move out of fear and judgment, and come back into knowing we are whole and we are love. Doing the work is the purpose. Our profession is just an expression of what we do. But, just because your purpose is not your career it doesn’t mean you need to be in a soul-sucking career. Your purpose in life is also not to suffer. So, if you want to move out of something where you feel like you are suffering and your soul is being sucked out of your body while you are sitting in your cubicle, know that part of your purpose is joy. You deserve to do something that brings you more joy.   Consider/Ask Yourself: When you think about money, what comes up for you? Do you feel abundant, neutral, excited, or stressed? Growing up, what were you told about money? Do you live paycheck-to-paycheck? Do you know what your purpose is and do you believe you can make money doing it? Emily’s Question: Emily wants help in getting clear about her purpose and help with goal setting for the future. Emily’s Key Insights and Ahas: She finds it difficult to plan for the future. She wants the burden and fear about money to be lifted to attain financial freedom. She wants to feel calm, free and living with purpose. Her mother had a scarcity mindset. As a child, she was told she was wise beyond her years and stubborn. Her adopted identity is in direct conflict with having money. Her unconscious programming tells her having money is bad. She is passionate about helping people. She is enrolled in my Personal Mastery Course. How to Get Over It and On With It: She needs to shift from a scarcity mindset to an abundant mindset. She should read Money: A Love Story, by Kate Northrup and listen to podcasts about money. She needs to believe she is abundant. She needs to drop into her intuition. Takeaways: Look at your money story and check out the resources I mentioned in the podcast. Get some new belief systems in place. Work those belief systems. Tell yourself a different story and collect evidence for why the new story is true. Look at how you are making money in your life and if you feel you are “on purpose.” Join me for my Spring Retreat in San Diego March 6th-8th. Sponsor: Rothy’s — Rothy’s makes everyday flats for women and girls on the go. They are stylish, classic, and comfortable with new colors launching all the time. These cute and versatile shoes made from repurposed plastic water bottles are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Get your Rothy’s by using this link Rothys.com/over. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Get on the Waitlist to Be Coached on this Podcast

This episode is incredibly educational when it comes to our attachment styles.  I talk with licensed psychotherapist Ellen Boeder about how attachment styles are formed, how they impact our adult relationships, and what we can do to heal them so we can have more secure attachments. A little more about Ellen . . . She has been a therapist since 2003.  She has a strong background in yoga and meditation, and her graduate training in Transpersonal Psychology also deeply inform her work.  Since getting married 12 years ago, and becoming a mother to two children, Ellen transitioned from working primarily with women to focusing on couples.  Ellen is trained in PACT, a therapeutic modality for couples founded by Stan Tatkin, PsyD., that synthesizes attachment theory, neuroscience, and affect regulation models to support couples in creating an enduring and nourishing relationship through secure functioning. In addition to maintaining a part time private practice, Ellen is on faculty for the Relationship School—a business founded by her husband Jayson Gaddis that provides in depth relationship education for anyone who wants to learn, as well as training for relationship coaches. 

This episode is about finding the tools to help you better deal with trauma and breaking the cycle of numbing. Today’s caller, Charmaine, has had multiple traumas in her life and uses marijuana as a coping strategy. But this isn’t a call about stopping marijuana use. When discussing any type of addiction or numbing device, you have to uncover the deeper issue.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode229]   From my point of view, we can’t deal with addiction effectively unless we deal with the core issue that is creating the addiction or coping strategy. Most addictions are coping strategies for when we didn’t have the tools to deal with the drama and trauma that’s happened in our life. Addiction to anything is a symptom of a deeper issue.   When we speak of addiction, we often just think of drugs and alcohol but there are so many other things we use as coping and numbing strategies that become addictions. Sex, gaming, gambling, food, and even things like work, falling in love, and caretaking. Basically, anything we use to get us out of feeling our pain and feeling our big feelings is a coping strategy that can turn into an addiction.   Because the way coping strategies work, is you have to keep upping the ante. The feelings get bigger and bigger and then it takes more energy to suppress them. And, there is not much of a difference between emotional, mental, and physical addiction. Because mental and emotional pain is most likely the cause of physical addiction.   If you feel like you are addicted to something worse than marijuana, know that you can get to the other side of it and that judging yourself will not get you anywhere. It won’t get you to stop being mean to yourself. The part of you that is reaching out for the coping strategy needs love and compassion. It needs to be healed. You probably developed your coping strategy because you had no better tools.   Remember, there is not one style of therapy or coaching that is better than others. It’s about what feels right to you. When it comes to working with any therapist or coach it’s either a ‘hell yeah’ or ‘hell no’! Better tools are available but know that it requires facing your feelings and some of the demons you buried a long time ago.   To release self-protective behaviors, heal past pain, and reclaim your confidence, peace, power, and purpose, attend my Spring Retreat in San Diego, March 6th–8th. To accelerate your growth and invest in yourself visit ChristineHassler.com/spring-retreat or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com.   Consider/Ask Yourself: When it comes to feeling your pain, do you actually feel it or do you numb or distract yourself? Did you have parents who were super present and attentive? Have you done things you are ashamed of? Are you addicted to a substance or numbing technique like pot, alcohol, caretaking, overworking, or food?   Charmaine’s Question: Charmaine used marijuana to help her cope during a difficult time but would like to stop but doesn’t know how.   Charmaine’s Key Insights and Ahas: She was in the military for 13 years and in an unhealthy marriage. She was kicked out of the military for drug use. She uses pot to numb herself from the trauma she experienced in her past. She feels shame and judges herself. Her parents neglected her. She was sexually molested when she was a child. She has seen a therapist who recommended Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. She has employed numbing mechanisms for her whole life. She has remarried a wonderful human being.   How to Get Over It and On With It: She needs to find a long-term, quality therapist that resonates with her. She needs a safe space to feel her feelings. She shouldn’t quit pot until she has the techniques to deal with her emotions.   Takeaways: Be honest and compassionate with yourself if you are using a coping strategy that may border on addiction or is a full-blown addiction. If you feel as if you want a guide or therapist, pray about it. Set the intention to manifest the best healer for you. You have a divine appointment with the people in your life who are supposed to guide you. Trust that they are there. Join my Personal Mastery Course or my Spring Retreat.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Get on the Waitlist to Be Coached on this Podcast

Don't miss this episode! One of my soul sisters, Kate Reardon, drops some serious wisdom and compassion bombs in this episode.  Kate is a naturopath, intuitive metaphysical healer, author, host of the podcast "Lean In" and co-founder of Natural Instincts Healing's Transformational Retreats.  She is one of the most powerful and magical people I know. Enjoy this episode!   Learn more about Kate's healing centers here: https://naturalinstincthealing.com/

This episode is about getting out of your head and in touch with spirit. Today’s caller, Michelle, is intelligent and has a lot of awareness but her awareness and her thinking are blocking her from a deeper connection to spirit and to the essence of who she truly is. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode228] We can’t answer spiritual questions with the mind. That is just the nature of spiritual questions. They can’t be answered through the intellect. I have found that sometimes the smarter you are, or the more you are in your head, the harder it is to meditate, to find a connection to spirit, and to drop into your heart. It doesn’t mean it’s not possible. It just means when we have a strong mind it likes to hold on to thinking and control with a tighter grip. We think and think and think about how to figure something out but how do we figure out a truth? You can figure out a puzzle, you can figure out a math problem or how to build something but you can’t figure out enoughness. There is no mathematical equation to figure out love. You just feel it. There is no structured formula to tell you that you feel love for somebody. It’s a feeling and so is enoughness and oneness. When we have a strong thinking mind it’s hard to access true unconditional love. It isn’t until we have an experience of God that we really know we are whole and complete and knowing, no matter what. There are only a few spots left for my Signature Spring Retreat. To release self-protective behaviors, heal past pain, and reclaim your confidence, peace, power, and purpose, attend my Spring Retreat in San Diego, March 6th–8th. To accelerate your growth and invest in yourself visit ChristineHassler.com/spring-retreat or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com.   Consider/Ask Yourself:  Are you someone who really likes to know things?  Do you struggle with worthiness or feeling enough?  Does some part of you believe that worthiness is based on what you can do or accomplish? Or, that someone else’s worthiness is based on what they can do?  Do you feel connected to God?  Does satisfaction or fulfillment feel fleeting to you?   Michelle’s Question: Michelle believes that worthiness is directly tied to actions and would like guidance on how to reframe the idea and feel worthy from a spiritual perspective. Michelle’s Key Insights and Ahas:  She feels unworthy spiritually.  She never feels satisfied.  She was raised in a religious household but doesn’t subscribe to all the beliefs.  She enjoys rules and structure in her life.  She teaches yoga.  She is mind-dominant.  She associates her thoughts with who she is.  She is ready to surrender.   How to Get Over It and On With It:  She needs to figure out who she is, if not her thinking mind.  She should consider getting a dog.  She needs to give God and the universe permission to send her clear messages or invitations.  She needs to adopt a spiritual practice.  She needs to see herself through the lens of self-compassion.  She needs to consider joining other like-minded people at my Spring Retreat.   Takeaways:  Listen to last week’s episode, Breaking Up with a Religion.  Sign up for my Personal Mastery Course.  Put out the call to have a spiritual experience for your highest good to bring in a workshop, the teacher, the ceremony to help you have an experience of God.   Sponsor: LOLA — offers a modern approach to feminine care that is for women by women. It is the best way to get 100% organic cotton tampons, pads, and other products you can feel good about delivered to your home. Lola products are free of chemicals, fragrances, or dyes. Go to MyLola.com to customize your subscription and use the code ‘OVERIT30’ to get 30% off your first month’s subscription. Get a starter pack subscription for just $5.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Get on the Waitlist to Be Coached on this Podcast

My husband, Stef Sifandos, is back on the show.  We talk about how to disagree in any relationship in a healthy way and share our seven-step process for navigating an argument. This is great info for any relationship and imperative for romantic ones.

This episode is about consciously and completely leaving a religion someone else chose for you. Today’s caller, Christina, has recently discovered what her core wounding is and she is in spiritual crisis. She would like guidance on how to protect herself during her vulnerable self-discovery process.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode227]   When we leave a religion, whether we drift away from it or there is a point where we cut the cord, it is like a breakup. And, on some level, we are changing the course of our religious beliefs especially if we are baptized into a certain religion. Our soul, for whatever reason, decided to come through those parents who baptized us in a religion so when we leave it, it is important to have a healthy breakup with it. Not just leave in anger or run away. There are soul contracts. This makes it important to make peace when you leave it.   Just like you would want to leave a relationship with looking at “What are the lessons I’ve learned,” “What are the things that I really want to take with me,” “What were the things I loved about the person,” and “What are the gifts that came from the relationship?”   We want to ask ourselves similar questions when we leave a religion. It’s even a deeper spiritual process because then we have to find God, whatever God means to us, in a new way.   And, dark energies can be a scary subject to speak of, especially when we grow up hearing about things like the Devil, Satan, or dark entities. Sometimes our own unprocessed, unconscious stuff can create some crazy visuals to get our attention about certain things. Instead of considering what the darkness means, try thinking about how you can increase your connection to the highest source of light and love. The most important thing is to surrender to unconditional love and light.   There are only a few spots left for my Signature Spring Retreat. To release self-protective behaviors, heal past pain, and reclaim your confidence, peace, power, and purpose, attend my Spring Retreat in San Diego, March 6th–8th. To accelerate your growth and invest in yourself visit ChristineHassler.com/spring-retreat or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com.   If you live in Austin, Texas, keep your calendar open for the last two weeks of September for a retreat for both men and women hosted by me and Stefan.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Were you baptized or raised in a particular religion but you left it or do not practice those traditions anymore? Do you feel not enough? Are you having trouble finding your tribe or the people you really connect with? Do you have experiences with dense or unexplained energies that you can’t explain?   Christina’s Question: Christina recently discovered her core wounding and would like guidance on how to protect herself as she treads along the vulnerable path to self-discovery.   Christina’s Key Insights and Ahas: She yearns for the approval of others. She is a people pleaser. She is leaning into being an empath. She sometimes feels a dark masculine energy. She was raised as a Mormon but left the religion when she was 19. She has always been a sensitive person. She feels alone in her spirituality. There was sexual abuse within her family. She is searching for her tribe. She is in a spiritual crisis.   How to Get Over It and On With It: She needs to take back her power and deepen her spiritual practice. She needs to stay out of judgment.  She needs to practice chanting the sound ‘hu.’ She needs to ask for a spiritual teacher who can support her emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. She needs to embrace a conscious breakup plan from the Mormon religion. She needs to consider joining other empaths for my Spring Retreat.   Takeaways: Practice the meditation from this podcast. If you have unresolved issues from a religion you don’t practice anymore, consider how you can bring completion and healthy closure to it. Explore how you can make an intention to deepen your spiritual practice and connection to your higher power this year.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Get on the Waitlist to Be Coached on this Podcast

In this last episode to support you in feeling supported as you walk into this next decade, Christine offers a more feminine approach and guided meditation for clarifying goals.  This is a must listen if you are feeling a call to be more repetitive and inspired. 

This episode is about finding your voice when you have low self-worth. Today’s caller, Sarah, calls in asking about a breakup but as usual, we dive deeper into core issues she has been carrying around since before her birth. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode226] Not being able to see things from a self-honoring perspective is one of the many side effects of low self-worth. People who have zero self-worth give up on themselves completely and don’t call in or listen to podcasts like this. If you believe you have low self-worth I want you to recognize the ways in which you act that demonstrate your self-worth. I promise they are there. You can’t just focus on how you have no or low self-worth because it’s not true. You wouldn’t be listening to this if you didn’t. Acknowledge the ways you take care of yourself. Even if you are an introvert you need to take up space and be seen. Especially in your most intimate relationships. Low self-worth can make it challenging to attract a healthy relationship. If something in this call resonates with you, you may have a leaving pattern. A leaving pattern is a coping mechanism or a personality pattern we often develop if we have an in-the-womb trauma or birth trauma. It’s when we don’t feel safe to come into the world. The coping mechanism makes us good at checking out. It’s also common for people who have a leaving pattern to avoid confrontation and often not speak up for themselves. A big part of healing the leaving pattern is to not tolerate shitty situations, to not settle. Don’t miss out on tonight’s group coaching call. It’s about setting your intentions for the year and how to be an empath in 2020. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group to join in and to access group coaching call archives visit ChristineHassler.com/group-coaching-replays To release self-protective behaviors, heal past pain, and reclaim your confidence, peace, power, and purpose, attend my Spring Retreat in San Diego, March 6th–8th. To accelerate your growth and invest in yourself visit ChristineHassler.com/spring-retreat or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com. Listen to this Coaches Corner episode for more information. Consider/Ask Yourself: Have you gone through a heartbreak that you still haven’t gotten over? Do you often do things because you feel obligated or forced? Is it hard for you to speak up? Do you feel invisible?  Is there a calling you want to pursue but self-doubt gets in the way? Sarah’s Question: Sarah recently experienced a break-up from a relationship that she thought was “the one” and would like guidance on how to move forward.   Sarah’s Key Insights and Ahas: She says she hasn’t had a broken heart before. She found herself changing during her relationship. She wouldn’t speak up for herself. She didn’t feel an intimate connection with her ex. Her parents divorced when she was 16. Her parents didn’t know they were having twins. She is emotionally intimate with her twin sister. She has abandonment issues. She doesn’t know how to handle the emotions she is feeling. She feels uncomfortable when she is given attention. She has low self-worth.   How to Get Over It and On With It: She needs to release the judgment she places on herself. She needs to work with a therapist or coach using regressive therapy. Takeaways: Think about your birth and early childhood. Was there any trauma? Did you feel safe and wanted? Explore it and cover it in your personal development work. If you do relate to the leaving pattern, if you are good at checking out of your body and going into the spiritual world, I encourage you to do things to get you more into your body. Consider your own self-worth. If you resonate with it being low, commit to doing some work around it. Investing in yourself is a great way. Come to my Spring Retreat or Personal Mastery course. Make a list of all the people you’ve held back your words to and make a commitment to get them out. If you have a dream you want to pursue tell more people about it, own it.   Sponsor: DR Vitamin Solutions is well known among nutritionists and vitamin junkies for sourcing quality brands from every niche of the supplement industry. DR Vitamin Solutions is offering 5% off all purchases to Over and On With It listeners if they use the discount code ‘Hassler5’ during check out at DRVitaminSolutions.com. Orders of $49 and over include free shipping.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Get on the Waitlist to Be Coached on this Podcast

With this New Year upon us, setting goals and intentions is in the air. In this follow-up episode to creating your 2020 vision, Christine guides you through her favorite ways to make changes that last! Also, join Christine for our next live virtual group coaching call which will be an intention setting workshop www.christinehassler.com/group.   If you are interested in the journal Christine mentions in this episode, you can get it here: https://christinehassler.com/40-day-journal/

This episode is about overcoming people-pleasing patterns and getting into alignment with who you truly are. Today’s caller, Emily, recognizes she has people-pleasing patterns but finds herself withdrawing from others. She is exhausted by the effort it takes to socialize and doing what other people expect of her. If you are a people pleaser and an introvert, this is an important call for you to listen to. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode225] Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show

This is part two of the New Year's Ritual I designed for you. In this episode I guide you through a meditation to release the past decade and clearly see your vision for 2020 and beyond. You can also view the entire process in written form at URL HERE

This episode is about being yourself, loving yourself, and allowing yourself not to push through fear. Today’s caller, Bianca wants to date but when an opportunity arises she gets scared. She developed a way to become a chameleon which gave her a false sense of confidence but after personal development work she is removing the masks she used to wear and now feels fear about others seeing her for who she really is. What we uncover is that what is driving her patterns around dating stems from her childhood.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode224]   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show    

It's almost a new DECADE!!! Christine guides you through a process and ritual to acknowledge, honor and review the past ten years and get clarity on what to let go of before you step into 2020. Be sure to sign up at christinehassler.com to receive the letting go and manifestation process that will air next week in written form.    And AUSSIES! Join us for a special one-day workshop in Brisbane on Jan 11th. Register here:  https://christinehassler.com/australia

This episode is about releasing things that are in the way of going for your dreams. Today’s caller,  Jessica feels trapped and unable to take risks or make decisions about her future. She wants to find her purpose but isn’t giving herself permission to dream. We work through how she can find a balance, be curious, and learn by way of experience. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode223] Sponsor: Better Help — allows you to connect with a professional, licensed counselor or therapist in a safe and private online environment. You can change counselors anytime with no additional charge. Over It and On With It listeners receive 10% off their first month by using discount code ‘Overit’. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show

If you feel like you have a lot of awareness but things in your life are not changing…it may be time for some “experiential” work. In this episode Christine defines what experiential work is and why it’s important. Jill joins her and they talk about what happens at Christine’s signature retreat to help you discern if it’s right for you.   More info about the retreat here: www.christinehassler.com/spring-retreat

This episode with Brooke is about taking things personally. We tend to allow ourselves to be impacted by what other people say or don’t say or how they respond to us. Part of growing into becoming an emotionally healthy person is not taking things personally. And, being able to receive feedback without spiraling out into self-doubt, upset, and giving your power away by letting other people impact what you think of you. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode222] Sponsor: AWAY — makes the perfect luggage and now they offer a range of travel essentials designed to last a lifetime. They use high-quality materials and they are super stylish. Their approach is simple. They create special objects that are designed to be resilient, resourceful, and essential to the way you travel today. Their luggage is inspired by true travel stories. And, Away products make perfect gifts. To receive free ground shipping and guaranteed delivery by December 20th, go to awaytravel.com/overit to place your order by December 15th. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show

You probably know vulnerability is important for your well-being and for healthy relationships, but what does vulnerability actually mean and why is it so hard sometimes? In this CC, Christine explains why we avoid vulnerability and offers you 5 tips for creating more vulnerability and intimacy in your life.

This episode is about releasing your inner overachiever and fully feeling your emotions. Today’s caller, Quigley, has a pattern of overachieving and being a bit of a perfectionist. This pattern has served her and made her successful in many ways but deep down she feels unfulfilled and guilty. It is amazing how patterns and personality structures can take control of our lives. In this call, I share tools and techniques you can use if you relate to having similar traits. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode221] Sponsor: LOLA — offers a modern approach to feminine care that is for women by women. It is the best way to get 100% organic cotton tampons, pads, and other products you can feel good about delivered to your home. Lola products are free of chemicals, fragrances, or dyes. Go to MyLola.com to customize your subscription and use the code ‘OVERIT30’ to get 30% off your first month’s subscription. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show

Listen in as Christine answers questions on money and prosperity. Learn how to shift from scarcity to abundance thinking. If you want even more on this topic, you can get the full 90 min coaching on prosperity here: https://christinehassler.com/group-coaching-replays/ And remember, the early bird discount for Christine's Spring Retreat ends TODAY. To apply go to https://christinehassler.com/spring-retreat/...

This episode is about releasing self-judgment and embracing self-acceptance. Today’s caller, Mattie, has a pattern of feeling jealous of other women, even friends. It’s not because she is a jealous person, it is because she has childhood wounding. A lot of us beat ourselves up when we are feeling jealous. Because we judge it as an unenlightened emotion we judge it as selfish and petty and it feels crappy. There is a way out. Jealousy isn’t bad. So if you are beating yourself up, listen to this episode for the way through it. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode220] Sponsor: Better Help — allows you to connect with a professional, licensed counselor or therapist in a safe and private online environment. You can start communicating with your counselor in less than 24-hours. Over It and On With It listeners receive 10% off their first month by using discount code ‘Overit’. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show

Listen in as Christine answers questions on money and prosperity. Learn how your self worth impacts your net worth and much more! Remember the early bird discount for Christine's Spring Retreat ends Nov 30. To apply go to https://christinehassler.com/spring-retreat/ And attention health coaches!! Register for a free Masterclass training for current or aspiring health coaches here: https://christinehassler.com/primalhealthcoach

This episode is about releasing someone who is only supposed to be in your life for a season. Today’s caller, Onalee, has a pattern of going for emotionally unavailable men. If you have a pattern of going for emotionally unavailable people, it could be in friendships or romantic relationships or you could still be chasing the love of a parent who has always been emotionally unavailable. This episode provides you with guidance on how to shift out of behavioral patterns you may have had since childhood. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode219] Sponsor: Rothy’s — Rothy’s makes everyday flats for women and girls on the go. They are stylish, classic, and comfortable with new colors launching all the time. These cute and versatile shoes made from repurposed plastic water bottles are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Get your Rothy’s by using this link Rothys.com/over to order in time for the holidays. They are a great gift your friends will love. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show

This is a unique episode as I am sharing an interview I did on another podcast called THE SHIFT PODCAST. The Shift was born out of the desire to help people to make their shift. It is an audio-documentary style seasonal podcast that will take you on a journey of insight, inspiration and aha moments that are curated to help you to shift. Season one of The Shift is focused on gut health and will explore all things around digestion, gut health, the microbiome and its link in disease. In this episode I talk about how emotions impact our gut.You can listen to the first season here https://www.theshiftclinic.com/gut/

This episode is about replacing self-judgment with compassion and seeing yourself for who you really are. Today’s caller, Jennifer, felt like she was unwanted and a burden as a child. As an adult, she judges herself for judging herself. We work through her childhood wounds and conditioning with compassion and understanding. If you relate to being hard yourself,  your criticism is a reflex and a habit. It is not who you are. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode218] Sponsor: BIOCLARITY — Do you want beautiful, naturally glowing skin? Bioclarity’s plant-based, green skincare line is straight from the garden. Clear up and calm skin with naturally-derived ingredients that nourish and hydrate. Take your first step to healthier, more radiant skin — go to Bioclarity.com. Get 15% off all products when you use the code ‘OVERIT’ at checkout. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show

In this episode I talk mindset, overcoming fear of change and making empowering transitions with Kacia Fitzgeral. Kacia is an ex-corporate professional turned online health coach, business mentor & podcaster OBSESSED with helping women take PURPOSE driven ACTION toward building lives they really freaking LOVE. Her mission is to be a LIGHT to others, to give others the space to be their most AUTHENTIC selves and build their dream life on THEIR terms. She lives by the "airplane" mentality that you can't help or assist others until you work on YOU first.

This episode is about working through the unconscious resistance that is keeping you from fully integrating healing work. Today’s caller, Sara, wants to bring love into her life and feels that she has done so much work. She is wondering why the work isn’t working. If you can relate to doing a lot of work but not seeing the impact or you have a lot of awareness but are not seeing the results, this call will help you to understand it and move forward. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode217] Sponsor: LOLA — offers a modern approach to feminine care that is for women by women. It is the best way to get 100% natural tampons, pads, and other products you can feel good about delivered to your home. Lola products are organic and free of chemicals, fragrances, or dyes. Go to MyLola.com to customize your subscription and use the code ‘OVERIT30’ to get 30% off your subscription. You can change, skip, or cancel at any time. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show

Meet one of my dear friends who was there when I met Stef for the first time. Sarah is an incredible advocate of female friendships and empowerment and is hosting an AWESOME festival Jan 24-26th in Newport Beach which Stef and I will be speaking at. Join us here: https://www.girltalknetwork.org/festival A little more about Sarah:   Sarah Pendrick is a leader in the women empowerment space, an international speaker, serial entrepreneur and TV show host. Sarah has been named one of Forbes' top inspiring Female Entrepreneurs and was recently awarded the Iconic Woman of the Year – creating a better world for all award from the Women Economic Forum. She is the founder of the GirlTalk Network, one of the largest and fastest growing online and offline communities for female empowerment and transformation around the world. In her work, Sarah showcases how being a female entrepreneur and tech founder doesn’t have to look just one way.

This episode is about making your own decisions without seeking approval. Today’s caller, Gabby, is in a codependent relationship with her mom. Regardless of your own relationship with your mother, or if you deal with codependency, you will get a lot out of today’s episode. Mother-daughter relationships are one of the toughest relationships to navigate. But, if you can do so with love and success it can be one of the most beautiful relationships. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode216] Sponsor: Birchbox — Beauty and grooming products delivered to your door every month. Make the best use of your limited time and get an efficient and enjoyable way to test drive new products. Consider Birchbox your monthly box of ‘you’ time. The revolutionary subscription box and e-shop subscription model make it easy to discover products you might never have tried with a monthly subscription of personalized samples and an online shop where you can buy a full-sized sample of the products you love. Go to Birchbox.com/overit and use promo code ‘overit’ to get $5 off your first Birchbox. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show Terri Cole

Cathy Heller is a fire hose of inspiration. She’s the host of the popular podcast Don’t Keep Your Day Job, which was given the #1 spot on iTunes recommend list of shows for the New Year in 2018 and 2019. She is a phenomenal coach for creative entrepreneurs and she’s helping people everywhere find a deeper sense of purpose and add their gifts to the world. Her new book "Don't Keep Your Day Job" comes out in a few weeks and she offers you an incredible bonus during the episode if you pre-order your copy now! https://www.amazon.com/Dont-Keep-Your-Day-Job/dp/1250193605

This episode is about why things may not be changing even after you’ve done a lot of self-awareness work. Today’s caller, Kelsey, is in a new relationship but is still being triggered even though she is aware it is happening. We work through how she can get out of her head and release her self-protective behaviors. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode215] Sponsor: Rothy’s — Rothy’s makes everyday flats for women and girls on the go. They are stylish, classic, and comfortable with new colors launching all the time. These cute and versatile shoes made from recycled plastic water bottles are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Get your Rothy’s by using this link Rothys.com/over to order. You will love them! Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show

Tune in for a great conversation with Dr. Jesse and Marni the co-hosts of the ultimate health podcast. We discuss everything from living a more simple life, top things we have learned from other health experts, and making BIG transitions in life. You can learn more about this amazing couple and check out their incredible podcast at www.ultimatehealthpodcast.com Also if you are interested in my signature retreat or the Event Luv event that I mentioned here are those links: https://christinehassler.com/spring-retreat/   https://christinehassler.com/eventluv

This episode is about self-acceptance. Today’s caller, Jessica, is longing for a relationship but doubting it will ever happen. She is having a hard time accepting herself and her current relationship status. This is a great call to listen to no matter what your relationship status because so much of what we talk about is about self-acceptance and self-compassion. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode214] Partners: Better Help — allows you to connect with a professional, licensed counselor or therapist in a safe and private online environment. You can change counselors anytime with no additional charge. Over It and On With It listeners receive 10% off their first month by using discount code ‘Overit’. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show

Dr. Will Cole is a leading functional-medicine expert who consults people around the world and locally in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. He specializes in clinically investigating the underlying factors in chronic disease and then customizing health programs. Dr. Cole was named one of the top 50 functional-medicine and integrative doctors in the nation and is the co-host of The Goop Fellas Podcast. His previous book is the international bestseller Ketotarian, and his new book, The Inflammation Spectrum, goes on sale October 15th. You can get your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0735220085/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i1

This episode is about moving past your fears to take a risk, make a change, or pursue something you love.  I coach today’s caller, Lindsey, on how to move from awareness to implementation. She knows the next steps to take but cannot figure out why she isn’t taking them. She thinks her problem is about time management, productivity, and balance but, as you will hear in the call, it’s not about that at all. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode213] Sponsor: LOLA — offers a modern approach to feminine care that is for women by women. It is the best way to get 100% natural tampons, pads, and other products you can feel good about delivered to your home. Lola products are organic and free of chemicals, fragrances or dyes. Go to MyLola.com to customize your subscription and use the code ‘OVERIT30’ to get 30% off your subscription. You can change, skip, or cancel at any time. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show

This episode is the last in a series of three where Stefanos and I answer questions about love and relationships.  We cover everything from getting over an ex to what to write in an online profile in this episode.  For more info on our program for women calling in their life partner, visit www.christinehassler.com/bethequeen

This episode is about getting over what you didn’t get from a parent (or parents). Today’s caller, Samantha, uses self-criticism to protect herself from her pain. She is still holding on to her childhood anger over not feeling loved and acknowledged by her father. We work through her responsibility to re-parent herself, free herself through spiritual practice, and look at her father with compassionate eyes. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode212] Sponsor: Better Help— allows you to connect with a professional, licensed counselor or therapist in a safe and private online environment. You can change counselors anytime with no additional charge. Over It and On With It listeners receive 10% off their first month by using discount code ‘Overit’. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show

We are married!! In this episode we share some of our favorite moments from our wedding and answer listener questions about love and relationships.

This episode is about breaking the cycle of generational patterns. Today’s caller, Cathy, experienced corporal punishment as a child and finds herself doing the same thing to her daughter. As you listen to the call, I hope you are able to separate her character from her behavior. Her behavior is a reaction to her past. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode211] Sponsor: Rothy’s — Do you use and abuse your feet by walking around in heels, flip-flops, or uncomfortable shoes? Your feet are one of your most important body parts. So much of what happens in our bodies can be impacted by our feet. Rothy’s makes everyday flats for women and girls on the go. They are stylish, classic, and comfortable with new colors launching all the time. These cute and sexy shoes made from recycled plastic water bottles are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Rothy’s is offering Over It and On With It listeners free shipping with no minimum purchase by using the link above, or Rothys.com/over to order. You will love them! Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show

I have been hearing a lot of people complaining about being single lately and approaching their relationship status as some kind of disorder that needs to be treated. I observe so many single people, especially the ladies out there, consistently working on themselves to find their “soulmate.” In today’s Coaches Corner I encourage you to be grateful for whatever your relationship status is – single, dating, divorced, engaged, married or it’s complicated – and embrace it because there is tremendous growth, love and even FUN that comes with each one. I also share some of the perks I have found from being single. I also share about a new program my husband, Stefanos, and I are facilitating for single women who are ready to call in a relationship.  It is called “Be the Queen” and you can learn more about it www.christinehassler.com/bethequeen.

This episode is about releasing shame about health issues and accepting ourselves without judgment. Today’s caller, Amber, was not nurtured as a child when she had an illness or injury. She has carried shame and unworthiness into her adult life. We discover that healing opportunities are available to her if she stops fighting and accepts them. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode210] Sponsor: Better Help— allows you to connect with a professional, licensed counselor or therapist in a safe and private online environment.  You can change counselors anytime with no additional charge. Over It and On With It listeners receive 10% off their first month by using discount code ‘Overit’. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show

In this episode Christine shares about her journey with the EBV virus and interviews Dr. Kasia Kines - one of the leading specialists on EBV.  This episode is so full of information and reassurance for anyone dealing with chronic illness. You can access the links and programs Dr. Kines and Chrstine discuss here: I invite you to join Dr. Kines for breakthrough information on Epstein-Barr Virus in her FREE live webinars: “Three Secrets to Healing from EBV and Going from Feeling beyond Broken to Reclaiming your Life”Reserve your spot for Monday, September 16, 5pm PT.  Cannot attend? Dr. Kines will send you a recording!  Sign up here: https://hksdf382.tapptrk.com/7BZ2W/2CTPL

This episode is about feeling shut off and struggling with vulnerability. Today’s caller, Daisy, has created a behavioral pattern based on losing her faith in the universe at age 14. She thinks she is too much in her masculine ego, she is too judgmental and too cynical. But we discover she isn’t any of those things. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode209] Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show

Stefanos joins me as we answer a variety of questions on love, dating, relationships and more!  

This episode is about breaking the cycle of abuse. Today’s caller, Joe, just got out of a relationship where he abused his ex-girlfriend mentally, emotionally, and physically and she wasn’t the first. Compassion is key as you listen to this call. Being a human being is tricky. We never know someone’s backstory when we judge them. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode208] Sponsor: LOLA — offers a modern approach to feminine care that is for women by women. It is the best way to get 100% natural tampons, pads, and other products you can feel good about delivered to your home. Lola products are organic and free of chemicals, fragrances or dyes. Go to MyLola.com to customize your subscription and use the code ‘OVERIT’ to get 40% off your first month’s subscription. You can change, skip, or cancel at any time. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show

Dr. Beth Westie joins me on coaches corner and we dive in to all things female! (this is a great episode for me to listen to as well and learn more about what women go through). We talk hormones, PMS, pre menopause, menopause and so much more Dr. Beth Westie is Doctor of Chiropractic, Author, Speaker, Women's Health & Nutrition Expert She is the author of the Best Selling book, The Female Fat Solution, the creator of the 12 Week Female Fat Solution Challenge, and the host of The Female Health Solution Podcast. She has made it her mission to change the way women view their health. Traveling the country to educate and empower women to take their health into their own hands. Using nutrition to help women work with the natural cycle of their bodies to achieve lasting weight loss results. Learn more and check out her NEW book “The Female Menopause Solution” at http://www.drbethwestie.com/

This episode is about a fear of being seen and a deep longing to be seen and have more intimate relationships. Today’s caller, Teema, is looking for guidance on how she can get over her fear of loss. But like many sessions, the call takes a different direction when we peel back what is at the true root of Teema’s question. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode207] Sponsor: Rothy’s— Your feet are one of your most important body parts. So much of what happens in our bodies can be impacted by our feet. Rothy’s makes everyday flats for women and girls on the go. They are stylish, classic, and ultra-comfortable with new colors launching all the time. These cute and sexy shoes made from recycled plastic water bottles are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Check out the shoes Buzzfeed calls their forever shoes! Visit Rothys.com/over to order. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show

Elizabeth Benton was depressed, deeply in debt, and obese. As a nutrition expert and educator who binged on junk food every time she put gas in her car, she felt like a fraud and a failure. Desperate to start truly living her life, she decided to believe in her potential rather than her past. She lost 150 pounds, paid off $130,000, and remains debt-free as a successful entrepreneur. Today, Elizabeth is the owner of Primal Potential. Through her platform of podcasts, coaching, and live events, she has fueled her deepest struggles into a burning passion to help people create transformations and live more fulfilled lives.

This episode is about how to share your feelings in an empowered way. Today’s caller, Amy, is conflicted about trying to decide if she wants to get out of a work relationship she has with her dad. I coached her through how to have a tough conversation and offered her options on how she can get support on setting boundaries and empowering herself. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode206] Sponsor: Better Help— allows you to connect with a professional, licensed counselor or therapist in a safe and private online environment.  You can change counselors anytime with no additional charge. Over It and On With It listeners receive 10% off their first month by using discount code ‘Overit’. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show

In this episode Christine answers a diverse group of questions on dealing with anxiety. She covers getting through your day even with anxiety, navigating anxiety in relationships, getting over crippling anxiety and more!! These were questions from listeners on the Aug 5th virtual group coaching event. 

This episode is about how to disempower your inner critic and use acknowledgment to motivate yourself forward. Today’s caller, Katrina, has a lot of old stories from her past about having to do it all on her own. She is in a place where she wants to move forward but she is also feeling a lot of overwhelm. There were a lot of different directions I could have focused on but I honed in on two key areas, acknowledging herself and asking for help from others. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode205] Sponsor: Amour Vert— is a sustainable clothing brand committed to making versatile and thoughtfully designed clothing that’s good for you and the planet. They produce clothing in limited quantities to eliminate excess waste and ensure the highest quality standards. Over it and On With It listeners will receive 15% off their first order by visiting shopgreenlove.com/overit. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback Waitlist@ChristineHassler.com — Get on the waitlist for this show

Michael and Christine talk about sleep - why it matters and how to get more (good quality) sleep.  Dr Breus is a Clinical Psychologist and both a Diplomate of the American Board of Sleep Medicine and a Fellow of The American Academy of Sleep Medicine. He was one of the youngest people to have passed the Board at age 31 and, with a specialty in Sleep Disorders, is one of only 168 psychologists in the world with his credentials and distinction. Dr. Breus is on the clinical advisory board of The Dr. Oz Show and appears regularly on the show (39 times in 8 seasons). You can learn more at https://thesleepdoctor.com and access his free jet lag guide at https://www.timeshifter.com/offer/the-sleep-doctor

This episode is about not having all the answers and being OK with it. Today’s caller, Rachael, has always been a planner and likes to be in control. She brings forward great questions and is beautifully coachable. If you are a planner who likes knowing things, overthinks things, and likes to have things figured out, this call may help you to know and trust that the universe has your back. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode204] Sponsor: Skillshare — is an online learning community for creators. They have more than 25,000 classes in design, business, and more. You’ll discover countless ways to fuel your curiosity, creativity, and career. Listeners of my podcast get two months of unlimited access for free at skillshare.com/overit. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback or to get on the waitlist for this show.

Today I’m joined by my dear friend Josh Trent who is is the Founder of Wellness Force Media and host of the Wellness Force Radio Podcast. Josh has spent the past 16 years as a trainer, researcher, and facilitator discovering the physical and emotional intelligence for humans to thrive in our modern world. This is an incredibly open, vulnerable and informative conversation - don’t miss it! And grab the free gift from Josh here:  https://wellnessforce.com/morning-21-system/

This episode is about breaking old patterns of running, rebelling, or shutting down. Today’s caller, Jaz, grew up in a chaotic household with no soothing or comfort. Growing up in a non-comforting environment can lead us toward unhealthy coping strategies when we get triggered. We discuss ways she can bring calm and consistency into her life. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode203] Sponsor: LOLA — offers a modern approach to feminine care that is for women by women. It is the best way to get 100% natural tampons, pads, and other products you can feel good about delivered to your home. Lola products are organic and free of chemicals, fragrances or dyes. Go to MyLola.com to customize your subscription and use the code ‘OVERIT’ to get 40% off your first month’s subscription. You can change, skip, or cancel at any time. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback or to get on the waitlist for this show.

What if Tony Robbins and Ellen Degeneres had a baby…well she’d probably be a lot like this week’s guest Angie Lee. Angie is podcaster, speaker, entrepreneur, marketing and sales ninja. Her genius is helping women master their marketing & sales, so they can make money doing what they love. What began as a "silly idea" in her dorm room 9 years ago, turned into a wellness brand that helped thousands of women.  1000's of videos, blogs and podcasts later (+ saying cya to corporate!), she became a wellness influencer, serial entrepreneur, 7 figure digital & physical product creator, top 100 ranked podcaster, speaker & 7-figure marketing guru. She also has a line of CBD products that will help you tame anxiety. 

This episode is about becoming free from pursuing external things to make us feel happy, validated, or loved. Today’s caller, Kristen, grew up in a household where her accomplishments were perceived as her value. During the call, we identify what is keeping her from moving forward to pursue her calling. And, work through ways she can overcome her fear of uncertainty. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode202] Sponsor: Amour Vert— is a sustainable clothing brand committed to making versatile and thoughtfully designed clothing that’s good for you and the planet. They produce clothing in limited quantities to eliminate excess waste and ensure the highest quality standards. Over it and On With It listeners will receive 15% off their first order by visiting shopgreenlove.com/overit. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback or to get on the waitlist for this show.

It’s been a bit chaotic and challenging for many of you during this month, know you are not alone!! So many people are suffering from anxiety right now.  Listen to this guided meditation to help release anxiety so you can feel calm and centered

This episode is about acknowledging and working through anxiety and panic attacks. Today’s caller, Veruschka, grew up in a fear-based household and for the last 20 years has experienced massive anxiety on both a physical and a mental level. We talk about the physical and emotional, psychological aspects that are causing her anxiety. And, the ways she can holistically manage the stress hormones released by her body with acceptance and compassion. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode201] Sponsor: Function of Beauty — offers customized shampoos and conditioners individually filled just for you. Choose up to five hair goals to be included in your special formulation. They only use safe, natural ingredients and are 100% vegan and cruelty-free. Receive 20% off of your first order by taking the hair profile quiz at FunctionofBeauty.com/overit. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback or to get on the waitlist for this show.

Christine answers questions from listeners on unhealthy romantic patterns, dysfunctional friendships and dating consciously.  

This episode is about learning to meet your own needs to find fulfillment. Today’s caller, Sara, is not where she wants to be in life. Old programming makes her feel judged and unworthy. Sara, maybe like you, has a soul contract that she is here to learn how to parent herself. She chose parents who didn’t know how to meet her needs and didn’t know how to love her in the way she needed to be loved. We discuss ways she can empower herself to get everything she needs from within. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode200] Sponsor: LOLA — offers a modern approach to feminine care that is for women by women. It is the best way to get 100% natural tampons, pads, and other products you can feel good about delivered to your home. Lola products are organic and free of chemicals, fragrances or dyes. Go to MyLola.com to customize your subscription and use the code ‘OVERIT’ to get 40% off. You can change, skip, or cancel at any time. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehasslerChristine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback or to get on the waitlist for this show.

Stefanos joins Christine again to talk about men…what drives them? What issues are they facing? What do they need? Why is men’s work trending now? And so much more.  Whether you are a man or a woman, you’ll find great value in this conversation.  To access the free video training series for me go here:  www.reclaimyourkingdom.com/mastering-masculinityAnd to check out Stefanos’s incredible course for men go here: https://reclaimyourkingdom.com

This episode is about follow-through and commitment. Today’s caller, Jill, has a pattern of giving up on everything she begins. She recently quit her job, but she fears she won’t follow through with her new endeavor, based on her past patterns. Coaches, this episode includes valuable insights to use with your clients who are challenged in the area of accountability and building momentum. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode199] Sponsor: Rothy’s — Your feet are one of your most important body parts. So much of what happens in our bodies can be impacted by our feet. Rothy’s makes everyday flats for women and girls on the go. They are stylish, classic, and ultra-comfortable with new colors launching all the time. These cute and sexy shoes made from recycled plastic water bottles are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Check out the shoes Buzzfeed calls their forever shoes! Visit Rothys.com/over to order. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To get on the waiting list for this show.

This is a MUST LISTEN!! So real, raw and FULL of wisdom.  Christine speaks with Ali Golden, the author of “A Good Soldier.” When Ally Golden heads off to college, she breathes a sigh of relief; she is ready to discover herself, independent of her mother. However, this newfound freedom and several failed attempts at intimacy soon leave Golden feeling adrift. But even as she withdraws from the world, Golden feels an all-powerful emotional connection to the woman who raised her. Moving into adulthood, Golden tries to envision a future in which she can begin her own family—as the mental decline of her mother reaches its lowest point. Will Golden be able to heal her relationship with her mother before it’s too late? Golden’s raw honesty and stunning emotional insights will comfort anyone who has been on the chaotic and unpredictable journey with a mentally ill friend or family member. Check out A Good Soldier on Amazon in trade paperback or ebook

This episode is about reassurance. Laura is a people pleaser. She goes above and beyond for people and doesn’t get it back in return. She then feels disappointed. People pleasing is dangerous; we can become resentful and we are not being our authentic selves. I work with her on understanding why she people-pleases, why it’s selfish to be a people pleaser, and how to shift out of the pattern. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode198] Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To get on the waiting list for this show.

Melissa Monte is a speaker, mindset mentor and host of the popular podcast Mind Love. Melissa is obsessed with learning what makes us humans tick. After spending too long as a guinea pig for bad decisions, she learned first hand how to undo a downward spiral. She’s now spent the last 10 years exploring methods of improving the human condition. Through raw stories, personal experience, and inspiring interviews, her podcast Mind Love highlights the incredible role of the mind in happiness, health and success. Where do our self-destructive tendencies come from? • What are the less severe ways we are self-destructing we may not realize?  • Why is self-love so hard for most people? • What do we get wrong about self-love? • How do we start loving ourselves more?  • What are the consequences if we keep neglecting ourselves? • Can we radically reinvent ourselves? And how?

This episode is about becoming a loving parent to ourselves. My coaching session is with Joanne whose self-nurturing practices and self-care have gone out the window. She thinks maybe it’s because she is a new mom but it goes much deeper than that. This call is a beautiful example of how important it is to give ourselves the love or attention we did not receive from our parents. Even if you had super loving and attentive parents, you should still be giving yourself the same kind of love. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode197] Resources:Christine HasslerChristine Hassler PodcastsExpectation HangoverInner Circle Membership CommunityFind me on Snapchat @chrishassler@christinhassler on Twitter@christinehassler on InstagramJill@Christinehassler.comLove: Practice Makes the Master RetreatUniversity of Santa Monica

CC: Holistic Health with Dr. Stephen Cabral Christine chats with Naturopathic Doctor, Ayurvedic & Functional Medicine Practitioner Stephen Cabral about how to take better care of your health.  We talk hormones, weight loss, toxins, aging and so much more. Stephen Cabral developed his passion for health & wellness after going through severe health complications at the age of 17. He saw over 50 different doctors, tried over 100 different treatment protocols, but still saw no hope of recovery. It wasn’t until he met an “alternative” health doctor whom explained to him how he got here and how he could become well again, that he began his recovery process. It was at this young age that he knew his life would be dedicated to helping others rebalance their bodies and renew their health. After almost 20 years and over 600,000 pages of research study completed, dozens of certifications in the natural health field, over 16,000 health & fitness client sessions, and a doctoral degree in Naturopathy, you can rest assured that Dr. Cabral’s knowledge, experience, and compassion are at the top of his field.

This call is for you if you relate to feeling stuck in any area of your life. Usually, when we feel stuck it is because we feel conflicted inside. In this episode, as I coach Sara, you will learn how to work with both parts of you so you no longer feel stuck. Sara wants to pursue her dreams, but there is a part of her that is protecting her from taking the risk. She is living a “safer existence” by sticking with the job she dislikes, but by protecting herself she is preventing herself from really going after what she desires. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode196] Sponsors: LOLA — offers a modern approach to feminine care that is for women by women. It is the best way to get 100% natural tampons, pads, and other products you can feel good about delivered to your home. Lola products are organic and free of chemicals, fragrances or dyes. Go to MyLola.com to customize your subscription and use the code ‘OVERIT’ to get 40% off. You can change, skip, or cancel at any time. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To get on the waiting list for this show.

Christine talks to Ken Honda about what it means to have “happy money” so that your financial life can not only be healthy, but happy as well.  Ken is a best-selling self-development author in Japan, with book sales surpassing seven million copies since 2001. Now, he is sharing his work with English-speaking readers in the United States and beyond. His latest book is called “Happy Money: The Japanese Art of Making Peace with Your Money”  Ken asserts that it is possible for anyone, no matter their current financial status, to live with more ease in their relationship to money.

This call is about being an empath, the type of people empaths attract, and about why empaths (or highly-sensitive people) attract narcissists. Today’s caller, Sara, is having trouble getting over her ex and would like guidance about whether her decision to break up with him was right for her and if she could consider going back. During our conversation, we discovered some qualities about him that make it a little easier for her to get over him. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode195] Sponsors:Rothy’s — Do you use and abuse your feet by walking around in heels, flip-flops, or uncomfortable shoes? Your feet are one of your most important body parts. So much of what happens in our bodies can be impacted by our feet. Rothy’s makes everyday flats for women and girls on the go. They are stylish, classic, and comfortable with new colors launching all the time. These cute and sexy shoes made from recycled plastic water bottles are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Rothy’s is offering Over It and On With It listeners free shipping with no minimum purchase by using the link above, or Rothys.com/over  to order. You will love them! Resources:Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehasslerChristine’s Personal Mastery CourseChristine’s Signature RetreatChristine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches CornerChristine on FacebookChristine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover@ChristinHassler on Twitter@ChristineHassler on InstagramAssist@ChristineHassler.com — To get on the waiting list for this show.

This is a beautiful conversation around love and what it takes to call in and experience extraordinary love with a dear soul sister of mine. Gabriella Taylor is a huge stand for creating a new model for conscious relationship where women are empowered and men are deeply appreciated. As a Relationship Specialist and Professional Coach, Gabriella spends her time serving a handful of highly committed private clients, creates personalized retreats in Hawaii, and leads people through The Journey of Extraordinary Love™, which is a sacred developmental educational process that a person moves through in order to grow up, and show up, for love.  To learn more about her 8 week transformational online program for a small group of conscious women, whether single or in a relationship, visit www.FoundationsOfExtraordinaryLove.com Or email her at Gabriella@gabriellataylor.com

This call is about speaking your truth by creating a safe container for it first. Today’s caller, Amber, is triggered by uncomfortable conversations and ignores or flees from them. This call is much more than just encouraging Amber to start speaking up. We explore why she is afraid of speaking up. You will relate to this call if it is hard for you to speak your truth, stand up for what you need, or to have difficult or confronting conversations. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode194] Sponsors:AWAY — makes the perfect luggage. They use high-quality materials while offering a much lower price by cutting out the middleman and selling directly to you. Their approach is simple. They create special objects that are designed to be resilient, resourceful, and essential to the way you travel today. Their luggage is inspired by true travel stories. They have 9 colors and 4 sizes, premium materials, a special compression system, and both sizes of carry-on are able to charge any electronics that can be charged with a USB cord. For $20 off the suitcase of your choice awaytravel.com/overit promo code ‘OVERIT’. Resources:Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehasslerChristine’s Personal Mastery CourseChristine’s Signature RetreatChristine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches CornerChristine on FacebookChristine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover@ChristinHassler on Twitter@ChristineHassler on InstagramAssist@ChristineHassler.com — To get on the waiting list for this show.

Anxiety has been up for a LOT of people lately. So if you're feeling it, you're not alone. Listen in for my top tips on handling your anxiety. 

The essence of this call is helping caller, Kathryn, see that empowerment and having a vision for her life comes from feeling vulnerable and safe. She is looking for others to see her and for external validation. During the call, we dive into the root of why she has so much trouble getting over relationships that have ended. Most of our time is spent on how she can find safety inside of herself instead of how to get over someone. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode193] If you would like to receive coaching from me sign up for my monthly group coaching calls for only $20. The next call is May 28th. And, there are a few spots available for my intimate and exclusive Retreat in Maui at Lumeria. This is the first retreat for Men, Women, and Couples. Come and experience the profound shift of balancing your masculine and feminine energies. It is part of evolving and becoming a healthier human being. Take advantage of the Three Free Training videos I just completed at ChristineHassler.com/videoworkshop. Sponsors:Organifi— is an organic superfood supplement line that makes quality, trusted nutrition convenient and accessible. Their Green Juice and Turmeric Glow is something I use consistently. If you want a day’s worth of nutrition all in one easy to drink portion, even on the go, the Green Juice and Turmeric Glow are perfect for you. It is an investment in your health! Use the code ‘OVERIT’ to receive 20% off your order. Resources:Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehasslerChristine’s Personal Mastery CourseChristine’s Signature RetreatChristine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches CornerChristine on FacebookChristine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover@ChristinHassler on Twitter@ChristineHassler on InstagramAssist@ChristineHassler.com — To get on the waiting list for this show.

Christine guides you through a step-by-step process get over betrayal and on with your life!! Betrayal, such as infidelity, is one of the human experiences that can be so painful and hard to understand. It hurts when you feel lied to or when someone you thought you could trust shows you something different. When we feel betrayed or like our trust is broken, it’s natural to want to hang on to the anger, resentment, blame and “how could she” or “I can’t believe he” thoughts. But this keeps us in victim consciousness and only perpetuates our suffering. Listen to learn how to get over it and on with it

This episode is about balancing and integrating our feminine and masculine energies. Today’s caller, Amanda, is an empath who has done a lot of personal development work but she still feels triggered by the actions of others. She is unsure whether she is being triggered because she has unresolved childhood wounds or if it’s her intuition telling her to get out of her current relationship. If you would like to receive coaching from me sign up for my monthly group coaching calls for only $20. The next call is May 28th. And, there are a few spots available for my intimate and exclusive Retreat in Maui. This is the first retreat for Men, Women, and Couples. Come and experience the profound shift of balancing your masculine and feminine energies. It is part of evolving and becoming a healthier human being. Sponsors:LOLA — offers a modern approach to feminine care that is for women by women. It is the best way to get 100% natural tampons, pads, and other products you can feel good about delivered to your home. Lola products are organic and free of chemicals, fragrances or dyes. Go to MyLola.com to customize your subscription and use the code ‘OVERIT’ to get 40% off. You can change, skip, or cancel at any time. Organifi— is an organic superfood supplement line that makes quality, trusted nutrition convenient and accessible. Their Greens Mix is something I use consistently. If you want a day’s worth of nutrition all in one easy to drink portion, even on the go, the Greens Mix is perfect for you. It is an investment in your health! Use the code ‘OVERIT’ to receive 20% off your order. Resources:Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehasslerChristine’s Personal Mastery CourseChristine’s Signature RetreatChristine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches CornerChristine on FacebookChristine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover@ChristinHassler on Twitter@ChristineHassler on InstagramAssist@ChristineHassler.com — To get on the waiting list for this show.

One of the most common questions I get from women is, “How do I get my man to do the work?” or “How do I attract a guy who has done the work?” I know so many of you value your spiritual and personal development path so much and you want to be met by your partner.  In this episode, Stefanos joins me and we dive into how to enroll your current partner in work you value, how to attract a relationship in which both people value growth, and practices you can put into your relationship to bring you closer. 

This episode is about up-leveling and learning to meet our own needs. Today’s caller, Priscilla, wants to feel ‘happy’ again because she feels like she has lost herself and is experiencing depression. But what we discover is she wasn’t really authentically happy. She was in a pattern of attending and people-pleasing. She’s closer to who she really is than she’s ever been but because she is going through the process of up-leveling she is stuck in anxiety and fear. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode191] If you would like to receive coaching from me sign up for my monthly group coaching calls for only $20. The next call is May 28th. And, there are a few spots available for my intimate and exclusive Retreat in Maui. This is the first retreat for Men, Women, and Couples. Come and experience the profound shift of balancing your masculine and feminine energies. It is part of evolving and becoming a healthier human being. Consider/Ask Yourself:Do you feel a bit lost and don’t know what your purpose is or are you trying to get back to an old familiar identity? Is that part of you really you in the first place? Priscilla’s Question:Priscilla feels lost and would like guidance on how to find herself again. Priscilla’s Key Insights and Ahas:She has been in a codependent relationship.She is triggered by her ex.She feels she is missing something. How to Get Over It and On With It:She needs to stop judging herself.She needs to take off her mask to let other people see her.She needs to understand that she doesn’t have to go through this alone. Sponsors:Rothy’s— Everyday flats for women and girls on the go. They are stylish, classic, and comfortable in four fashionable styles. These cute and sexy shoes made from recycled plastic water bottles are the softest shoes you will ever put on your feet. Rothy’s is offering Over It and On With It listeners free shipping with no minimum purchase with the code ‘OVER’ at checkout. You will love them! Organifi— is an organic superfood supplement line that makes quality, trusted nutrition convenient and accessible. Their Greens Mix is something I use consistently. If you want a day’s worth of nutrition all in one easy to drink portion, even on the go, the Greens Mix is perfect for you. It is an investment in your health! Use the code ‘OVERIT’ to receive 20% off your order. Resources:Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehasslerChristine’s Personal Mastery CourseChristine’s Signature RetreatChristine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches CornerChristine on FacebookChristine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover@ChristinHassler on Twitter@ChristineHassler on InstagramAssist@ChristineHassler.com — To get on the waiting list for this show.

In this episode, I share about a free video workshop series I made for you that dives deeper into some of the questions I have been getting from listeners over the last year.  Jill Esplin also joins me to talk about my Personal Mastery Course and how you can get ongoing teaching, support, and coaching from me.  Lots of great info in this episode!! If you have wanted to learn more from me, make sure to listen  http://www.christinehassler.com/videoworkshop

This episode is about feeling worthy and looking for love in other people when you didn’t receive it from a parent or primary caregiver. Today’s caller, Jane, is confused about what to do in her relationship. Her question leads us into a much deeper conversation about why she is experiencing confusion in the first place. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode190] Every person is worthy of love and attention. But insecurities and limiting beliefs can make us feel that receiving love and attention without giving anything in return can be challenging. If you would like to receive coaching from me sign up for my monthly group coaching calls for only $20. And, if you are interested in a comprehensive health and life coaching program, and how to build a business around it, the Primal Health Coach Institute is a great place to start. Consider/Ask Yourself:Are you struggling with making a decision about something like work, or relationship and just can’t seem to get clarity?Have you ever looked for love in the arms, or the bed, of another person?Have you ever had sex with someone you really didn’t want to have sex with but you were longing for love and attention? Or, did you think it was the only way you could keep that person?Jane’s Question: Jane would like guidance on how to move forward in her current romantic relationship. Jane’s Key Insights and Ahas:Her partner treats her well.She’s had her heart broken a few times in the past.She’s used physical attention to try and gain love.She doesn’t feel worthy of love.Her older sister stopped speaking with her.She doesn’t feel comfortable around her father. How to Get Over It and On With It:She needs to forgive herself and release any shame for being physical with men to attract love.She needs to get some help working through her wounding.She needs to put a pause on her relationship.She needs to be more committed to herself and her healing.Takeaways:Consider joining my Personal Mastery course for monthly group coaching and live one-day event.Sponsors:Organifi— is an organic superfood supplement line that makes quality, trusted nutrition convenient and accessible. Their Complete Protein meal replacement. If you routinely skip breakfast or are too busy to eat something healthy, Complete Protein is perfect for you. It tastes good and is an investment in your health! Use the code ‘OVERIT’ to receive 20% off your order. Resources:Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehasslerChristine’s Personal Mastery CourseChristine’s Signature RetreatChristine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches CornerChristine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover@ChristinHassler on Twitter@ChristineHassler on InstagramAssist@ChristineHassler.com — To get on the waiting list for this show.

Cayla Craft is a wife and mother to 3 beautiful children whose passion is to help women BE SHAMELESS about pursuing their ambitions! She believes women can be great in business while being a great mommy. Whether it be through her Mommy Millionaire Podcast, annual Mommy Millionaire Live event, yearly Mastermind, Courses and Business Freebies or her Health and Wellness business… Cayla is committed to helping any woman find a way to grow in their confidence and entrepreneurship!   Learn more at www.caylacraft.com

This episode is about how to feel happier but the real question is what to do with sadness, sorrow, or melancholy when it comes up, especially if it comes up for you on a regular basis. Today’s caller, Patrick, is a vocal artist who is committed to his personal development work but is finding happiness elusive. We work through why being “happy” all the time may not be what he should be striving for and how much of his sorrow may not be his own. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode189] As we continue to evolve as humans, those of us who have said yes to waking up and healing will have moments when we face challenges and have difficulty sitting in uncomfortable emotions. Consider/Ask Yourself:Do you have a certain emotion you hate and are trying to make it go away?Do you relate to being an artist? Are you a performer, musician, or creator of some kind?Are you a highly sensitive person?How did your parents express emotions? Patrick’s Question:Patrick would like guidance on how to stop feeling sadness and start feeling happier. Patrick’s Key Insights and Ahas:He is struggling with developing a sustainable singing careerHis identity is attached to successHe is committed to his personal developmentHe is afraid of staying in his emotionsHis mother took a lot of emotional spaceHe may be a personal growth junkieHe has a lot of self-love How to Get Over It and On With It:He needs to learn to relate to his sorrow in a different wayHe needs to greet his sorrow, talk with it, and release itHe should listen to Over it and On With It episode #186 with MeganHe needs to increase his self-compassion Takeaways:Is there an emotion you are avoiding?Could you be taking on other people’s emotions?Embrace the emotional side of you and honor yourself with self-compassionConsider joining my Mastery course for monthly group coaching and the one-day retreat Sponsors:Organifi— is an organic superfood supplement line that makes quality, trusted nutrition convenient and acceptable. Their Green Juice is delicious. I buy the travel packs and add them to my water on the plane. It tastes good and is an investment in your health! Use the code ‘OVERIT’ to receive 20% off your order. Resources:Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehasslerChristine’s Personal Mastery CourseChristine’s Signature RetreatChristine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches CornerChristine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover@ChristinHassler on Twitter@ChristineHassler on InstagramAssist@ChristineHassler.com — To reach out to this week’s guest.

If you want to have a better relationship with money and more of it, this is a must listen.  Christine’s guest Patrice Washington shares her inspiring story and coaches you through redefining the “Six Pillars of Wealth.” A little more about Patrice: She is an award-winning author, transformational speaker, hope-restoringcoach, and media personality. Patrice got her start as your favorite personal finance expert, “America’s Money Maven”, having tremendous success with her “mindset approach” to personal finance. She has since expanded her brand and mission, encouraging women to chase purpose, not money. Patrice is committed to redefining the term “wealth”, using its original meaning, “well-being”. She encourages women to have “wealth” in all aspects of their lives by pursuing their purpose, being fulfilled, and earning more without ever chasing money. Through her teachings, Patrice empowers women to look at life through the lens of abundance and opportunity, instead of lack and scarcity. As the founder of Redefining Wealth and The Earn More Money Movement for Women, Patrice has built a thriving community of high-achieving women committed to creating a powerful life vision--in their careers, home, health, and personal finances.  Learn more at http://www.patricewashington.com/

This episode is about breaking childhood patterns. Today’s caller, Jasmine, feels trapped in her current situation. She feels she has to stick it out at her job because it is her only option. But, as you will hear in this call, it is not her only option. In fact, what she thinks is her only option is only keeping her in a lifetime of an enduring pattern that isn’t giving her what she wants and isn’t opening her up to all the amazing opportunities that could come her way when she becomes untrapped. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode188] A trapped feeling is comfortable and familiar but it also can put you into overwhelm. And when we are in overwhelm all of our childhood survival strategies, the things we had to do to adapt to our environment in order to feel safe, come into effect. As a child, if you had to endure neglect, chaos, and lack of love and support in order to get any crumbs of love from your parents, you may be playing out the same situation as an adult. ● Do you ever stick things out or suffer because you think you have to? ● Did you have parents who didn’t parent you? ● When it comes to uncertainty, do you stay in comfortable or familiar situations even if you are not happy or fulfilled rather than take a risk that has unknown consequences? Jasmine’s Question: Jasmine is in a job that is wrong for her. She feels trapped and overwhelmed and would like guidance on setting boundaries and how to find joy. Jasmine’s Key Insights and Ahas: ● She feels she isn’t worthy of having it all. ● She found her soul family in her adopted country. ● One of her parents had an addiction and the other, mental health issues. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She needs to move past the energetic pattern of feeling trapped and not feeling worthy. ● She needs to lean into her faith and spiritual belief. ● She needs support and love and to find a therapist. Takeaways: ● Think about what your pattern is when you are in overwhelm or when you feel trapped; try to evolve the pattern and dance with uncertainty. ● If there is a situation you feel trapped in, get creative. ● Consider joining my Mastery course for monthly group coaching Sponsors: Organifi— is an organic superfood supplement line that makes quality, trusted nutrition convenient and acceptable. Their Turmeric Gold is delicious. It’s a warm drink with turmeric, coconut milk, cinnamon, ginger, lemon balm, and mushrooms blended together.  It helps me relax and sleep better. For 20% off your order use the code ‘OVERIT’ to receive 20% off your order. Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To reach out to this week’s guest.

In this quickie episode, Christine shares some simple tips to support you in either starting, returning or deepening your meditation practice. Announcement: I am coming to the East Coast!! Join me in June for my workshop at the Omega Institute https://www.eomega.org/workshops/overcome-expectation-hangovers

This episode is about turning your challenges into your calling. Today’s caller, Dale, is looking for guidance on how to reach out to clients to support a new coaching business. Dale’s unique gift is that he has schizophrenia. He wants to help families of people with schizophrenia to help them see their family member’s illness in a different light. Mental health disorders still have a stigma to them and Dale is an incredible example of someone who chooses to thrive in the face of both adversity and sh

This week I am doing something different and airing an interview I did on “A Brave New Man” podcast on my podcast.  Listen in as I discuss with my friend, Greg Woodhill, what men are getting right, getting wrong and advice for how to have better relationships and communication.

This episode is about how to individualize and feel safe if you grew up in a chaotic environment and are always waiting for the worst-case scenario. Today’s caller, Megan, is stuck in grief after the loss of her mother. As we discover, what is really holding her back is a lifetime pattern of not connecting to her own inner wisdom and sense of self and living with an inconsistent parent which keeps her in the ‘preparing for the other shoe to drop’ mental and emotional cycle.

Christine and her fiancé Stefanos discuss what “conscious dating” is and give you tips to date with more peace and authenticity. They break dating down into three phases: preparing to date conscious, exploring (swiping) conscious, and entering into dating dynamics consciously.

This episode is about redefining personal freedom, stepping out of one’s comfort zone, and opening up to intimate relationships. Today’s caller, Scott, has met someone who is different from the women he usually attracts. He finds himself distancing himself from her and would like some guidance on whether he is doing it as part of an unhealthy pattern or if it is because he fears losing his freedom.

Christine explains how your inner critic was formed and why it exists.  She also shares why getting rid of your inner critic is not a good idea (and attempting to do so doesn’t really work anyway).  Instead, learn how to “promote” your inner critic through a six-step process Christine walks you through.

This episode is about self-judgment and overwhelm and how to nourish yourself through it. Today’s caller, Luca, is on a mission to make wellness accessible to others but has a pattern of starting a project and then stopping. As soon as he gains momentum he feels unworthy of his progress so he judges and criticizes himself, stopping him in his tracks. How do we stop sabotaging behavior?

One of my besties, Alexi and I sit down to talk about how to create healthy friendships.  We share our stories and advice for healing your past wounds regarding friendship and tips for how to create and maintain really nourishing friendships.  We also discuss why friendship is SO important and the value it adds to your health, business, and relationships.

This episode is about feeling worthy of love. Today’s caller, Melissa, is being triggered by her divorce and is seeking ways to have spiritual altitude during the process. We discover what she really needs right now is more of a human perspective. We also work through how she can express her warrior woman.

Several years ago I wrote a powerful passage after a pretty deep meditation. I wrote it to myself but really it is to all of us. To this day, it is one of my most favorite things I have ever written and I read it to you on this episode. I suggest using it as a meditation. I hope you enjoy it.

This episode is about surrendering to the divine and raising your vibrations. Today’s caller, Vanessa, has done the personal development and feels she is ready to call in a life partner but still struggles with her worthiness and in trusting that her partner is coming. If you have the awareness that the universe supports you but you don’t find trusting and letting go of control easy you will find value in this call whether you are calling in a partner or not.

In this episode, Christine answers questions from listeners on matters of the heart. She discusses addictive love, getting over someone, vulnerability hangovers and calling in your partner.

This episode is about knowing when a relationship has reached its expiration date. Today’s caller, Bretton, is looking for guidance about what his next steps are in a marriage that needs work. He has committed himself to do personal development work but his partner has not. Some relationships do have an end or an expiration date when it’s not for the highest good of everyone involved to stay in it. But, how do we know when it reaches that point?

Get inspired as you listen to Amanda share how she has built an incredibly successful and impactful business…all by the age of 25! This episode will encourage you to break free of trying to look a certain way and step into full authentic expression!

This episode is about getting a toxic person out of your life and taking action to set and enforce healthy boundaries. Today’s caller, Ashley, wasn’t loved the way she wanted to be loved as a child and her mother is still criticizing her. She wants guidance on how to coexist with her mother in a toxic relationship. Even if you don’t have someone toxic in your life, you will still get a ton of value out of this coaching session.

Jen Sincero is a bestselling author, success coach, and motivational speaker who spent more than a decade traveling the world helping people transform their lives and their bank accounts via her public appearances, private sessions, coaching seminars, and books, including the New York Times bestseller You Are a Badass

This episode is about how to stop parenting your parents. If you are a parent it is a great listen to make sure you are not falling into codependent patterns with your child. Today’s caller, Gina, is a people pleaser who is at the beginning of her journey of connecting all the dots. She is searching for guidance on how to become her own person, free of the guilt she imparts on herself about what she should or should not be doing for her mother.

Get ready for an incredible conversation with one of the most heart-centered, boss lady, bad-asses I know: Marie Forleo! Marie runs an online business school for modern entrepreneurs, called B School  In this interview we cover a lot of ground from what you really do need to do in your business, what you should NOT do, how to balance masculine and feminine energies, and how to stop giving a crap about what people think of you.

This episode really isn’t about sex, it’s secondary. What this call is really about is letting go of your past so you can enjoy your present and future and letting go of judgment, especially of other people. Today’s caller, Michaela, feels guilty about judging her partner about something she perceives as a problem. And, whenever we are judgmental of another person it’s usually an indicator that there is something inside of us we need to look at.

Alexia Vernon is the author of the book, Step into Your Moxie: Amplify Your Voice, Visibility, and Influence in the World. Branded a “Moxie Maven” by President Obama’s White House Office of Public Engagement for her unique and effective approach to women’s empowerment, Alexia Vernon is a sought-after speaking and leadership coach to female (and male) executives, entrepreneurs, media personalities, and change makers

This call is about trust, belonging, and establishing connections in relationships. Today’s caller, Jesse, has a lot of awareness about what is holding her back but can’t seem to change her behavior specifically when it comes to having close connections, intimate relationships, and trusting others. If you feel you don’t belong, know you are not alone. We all have felt that way at one time or another.

My dear friend Lissa Rankin, best selling author, physician, speaker, mystic and founder of the Whole Health Medicine Institute joins me for a heartwarming conversation about how to connect more deeply to our inner voice and only take action when it is aligned with our deepest truth. We also discuss why self-help is not (and really cannot be) something we do all by ourselves.  Lissa also guides you through a beautiful and powerful process to connect with what she calls, “Your Inner Pilot Light”

This call is about breaking patterns, shifting identities, and looking at life from a spiritual perspective. Today’s caller, Betsy, has done some therapy but can’t seem to shift her story. During our discussion, we uncover that Betsy is basing too much of her identity on her past and with people who weren’t meant to play such a big role in her life.

In this quickie episode, Christine discusses why asking for help is key to your success and well being. She gives you tips for getting over the common obstacles that arise when asking for help (like feeling like we are a bother or being afraid of a getting a no). You’ll also learn a very simple, practical process for asking for help from your inner guidance and the Universe.

This call is about changing your story and how to thrive, not just survive. Today’s caller, Chris, is dealing with shame and frustration around the story she has about money. Oppression and scarcity have been major themes in her life and she is looking for guidance about how to shift it. We work through how she can be open to giving and receiving love and moving out of ‘victim’ and into acceptance in order to shift her energy.

Join Christine and Rob as they talk about leaving a “safe, secure, good enough” career to pursue what you are really passionate about, lessons learned from taking a massive leap of faith, the importance of intentional experiences and connections with like-minded people, and forgiveness.

his call is about sticking to a routine. Today’s caller, Megan, wants to stick to a routine that allows her to accomplish her goals but is instead modeling her life around other people in her life. This is a great episode to kick off the new year as we delve into how to narrow down what is really important, becoming aware of how you respond to stress and how to focus on high-value priorities.

Christine guides you through a new seven-step transformational goal-setting process that will make manifesting your dreams A LOT easier. Going through this process will support you in identifying what is blocking you and then taking action toward your goals.  Use this process in combination with last week’s guided meditation to release 2018 and call in 2019 and you will be kicking off the year feelings so clear and inspired!

This call is about moving out of indecision, making a choice, and taking action. Today’s caller, Cecilia, wants permission to make a decision. She has allowed logistics to block any action she is considering and she is overwhelmed with the ‘hows’ and hasn’t fully examined the ‘what ifs.’ During the call, we uncover what her intuition is telling her and why she should listen to it.

Listen in as Christine summarizes the main lessons and blessings we all gained from 2018 and forecasts what is up for us in 2019. She then guides you through a beautiful meditation to gracefully let go of 2018 and begin co-creating 2019.

This call is about using a creative process to create vibrations high enough to reshape your story. Tiffany feels blocked by her past. She has done the mental work but still feels blocked emotionally. Remember, it’s never too late to reshape your story. Don’t think just because Tiffany is a young woman, as an older man or woman you can’t reshape your story. It’s not too late for you.

Natalie Jill is a Fat Loss Expert turned high performance coach. She helps people across the globe reach their health, business and life goals BY empowering them to level up and create everything from nothing. 

This call is about the importance of soothing and nurturing ourselves so we feel safe. Caller, Sally, doesn’t feel motivated and wants guidance on how to break the pattern of feeling down. When we feel safe, we automatically feel more creative and relaxed. We have the opportunity to restore and replenish ourselves and when we feel safe, we are also able to process and heal wounds and traumas.

Ajit was born to a middle-income family in Jaipur and grew up in an extended family of 23 other people under one roof. Space and money were scarce, and so as a little boy, he dreamt of abundance.

This call is about sorting through emotional traffic and protecting yourself energetically. If you feel like an empath or a sensitive person, chances are you are someone who has emotional intelligence and is impacted by the energy and emotions of others. If family members or friends call you sensitive or over-dramatic, this episode with Tiffany provides guidance on how to deal with your empathic gift. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode170] When empaths or highly-sensitive people are flooded with other people’s emotions, it’s like traffic that slows us down. It can make us more triggerable, and it takes us longer to see clearly what is truly triggering us. We have to get out of traffic emotionally. We do that by processing our own feelings and by setting emotional boundaries. So, we can be compassionate with people but not sympathetic. The more we can be in compassion, not sympathy, the more we can keep our emotional immune system up and be emotionally healthy. If highly-sensitive people don’t process their own emotions or discern what are their emotions or someone else’s, they can be highly-reactive, a.k.a. dramatic. When we keep ourselves emotionally healthy, we are less likely to be drained by other people’s emotions. It’s important not to isolate yourself to protect yourself. Being alone is replenishing but we all need other people. Don’t fear people or connections. It is super important to let go of the limiting belief that you think something is wrong with you. You need to update your beliefs and know that nothing is wrong with you. You need to find your tribe. Connect with like-minded people on January 3rd. For just $20 you can be part of my virtual group coaching session. It includes a guided meditation and will help you to reflect, renew and replenish yourself this season. Go to ChristineHassler.com/group to sign up. And, as you may know, I am a Master Coach for the Primal Health Coach Certification Program, which teaches coaches how to thrive as a health and life coach. Early bird pricing for the special live event ends December 15th. Visit PrimalHealthCoach.com/austin-masterclass for everything you need to be a part of this transformational experience.   Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Are you often called out for being over-sensitive or being dramatic or reactive? ● Do you find yourself drained or triggered by people who are making choices you are not aligned with? ● Do you feel like the black sheep of your family or that no one really gets you? ● Do you tend to attract emotionally unavailable people into your life? ● Do you find solace in isolation and feel safer being alone? ● When it comes to feeling, do you have intense feelings and overwhelm and unbearable sadness?   Tiffany’s Question: Tiffany is feeling lost and overwhelmed and feels like something is wrong with her. She asks for guidance on how she can embrace her empathy.   Tiffany’s Key Insights and Ahas: ● People tell her she is too sensitive. ● She feels she is different from her other family members. ● She is affected by other people’s actions. ● She feels things very deeply. ● She navigates through everyone else’s feelings. ● She is drawn to people who are ‘shut down.’ ● She feels isolated and lonely at times. ● She is triggered by certain experiences. ● She doubts her thoughts and feelings. ● She is a people pleaser.   How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She needs to protect her energy and learn how to reduce the amount of traffic on her emotional freeway. ● She needs to upgrade her spiritual hygiene and read books about being an empath. ● She needs to clean up her own unprocessed feelings. ● She should sign up for my Personal Mastery Course and attend my Spring Retreat. ● She should do the emotional release work in Expectation Hangover. ● She needs to listen to her inner voice. ● She needs to let go the belief that something is wrong with her and own her gifts.   Takeaways For You: ● Read books written for empaths. ● Find out what the best spiritual hygiene practices for you are. ● Don’t people-please or think you get your value from making other people feel better. ● Process and clear your emotional traffic. ● Join my Personal Mastery Course to meet like-minded people and to start meeting your tribe.   Resources: Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community. To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler Christine’s Personal Mastery Course Christine’s Signature Retreat Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner Christine on Facebook Christine’s Books, including Expectation Hangover @ChristinHassler on Twitter @ChristineHassler on Instagram Assist@ChristineHassler.com — If you want to be a guest on this show.

Listen in as Christine and her partner, Stefanos, answer listener questions about dating and relationships. Topics discussed are: what to do when someone cheats in the relationship, how to get over the pain of being single and dating advice for introverts.

This call is about friendship and making friends as an adult. Today’s caller, Nicole, wants to move past a break up with a childhood friend and make trusting, intimate connections and friendships in her adult life. As adults, we have more communications strategies but we also have longer stories about what we judge as not good enough. This episode highlights the opportunities that present themselves when we feel, deal, and heal with imprints from our past.

In this episode, Christine explains why we feel lonely and gives you three different pathways to deal with (and overcome) loneliness this holiday season.

This call is about finding the motivation to be consistent and committed to working on important projects and self-care. Today’s caller, Jenna, would like to follow through with her passion project but limiting beliefs created in during her childhood and her fear of disappointment keep her from taking action. If you can relate to a lack of motivation or self-sabotaging behavior, then you will receive a lot from this episode.

Christine shares her personal gratitude ritual and leads you through a gratitude affirmation process.  You can download her guided gratitude meditation at: https://christinehassler.com/gratitude

This call is about overcoming roadblocks to motivation. Desiree calls in concerned about her ability to follow through, and commit to her goals. But, in this as in most coaching sessions, we delve deeper into why she is holding herself back and suppressing her feelings. If you relate to not feeling motivated and are ready to shine your light, this episode will help you discover how to take risks and go after your dreams.

Christine speaks with author and workplace expert Dan Schawbel about how technology has led to increased feelings of loneliness and isolation. Listen in to surprising stats about our how our addiction to devices is de-humanizing us and get tips on how to be more connected to actual human beings!

This call is about feeling worthy and transforming the inner critic. Elizabeth calls in asking for daily mantras, actions, and tools to help her feel worthy of a loving relationship. She is struggling with enoughness. She wants to get over a ‘toxic’ relationship from her past and truly embrace, rather than sabotage, the healthy relationship she is in now. We get to the fundamental ouch or significant life event that created the misunderstanding that perpetuates her feelings of not being enough.

In this episode, Christine talks through why vulnerability is so important to healthy relationships and how to do it in a safe way.  Vulnerability creates more authenticity in our lives which leads to deeper connections and greater intimacy.  

This call is about being willing and committed to truly healing past trauma. The caller, Cory, asks how to process her trauma in a way that doesn’t make her feel more traumatized. If any of you are feeling this way and want to understand how to process your past without fear and crying all the time, I think you will appreciate this episode. And, if trauma has been part of your past listen to this episode in a calm space where you can really take it in.

Sadie Lincoln is the co-founder and CEO of barre3, a fitness company focused on teaching people to be balanced in body and empowered from within. Starting in 2008 with the flagship studio in Portland, Oregon, barre3 has grown to include more than 140 franchise studios powered by female entrepreneurs, plus an online-workout streaming-subscriber base in 98+ countries.

This call is about releasing pain and leaning into spirituality. The caller, Mel, is asking the existential questions about the purpose of life and why we are here. Many people ask themselves these same questions and it is important for us all to discover our own spiritual path and beliefs. If we believe that our soul traverses multiple lifetimes, part of the reason we come back is to evolve out of pain.

Dr. Matt Kreinheder joins me today on coaches corner to answer these questions.  He is is a transformational healer, speaker, coach, and author of the book: Awakening the Mystic. Dr. Matt has a doctorate in chiropractic, a master's degree in acupuncture and has professionally written for publications all over the globe.

This call is about self-love and overcoming self-induced judgments. Anneke calls in for guidance about how she can start being her true self. She vulnerably opens up about the fear that comes up when she compares herself to others and her feelings of loneliness. We cover a lot of ground in this session including how she can make a transition into full, authentic self-expression. This is the very first coaching episode of this podcast that originally aired on Oct 22, 2015.

This is a deeply personal episode for me . . . I get personal, I am sharing someone with you who means a great deal to me personally and we are talking about a topic I am deeply passionate about: sexual healing. 

If you have a passion, a calling, or a gift you want to share with the world but you can’t seem to get it started or make a living at it, then you will love this episode. Today’s caller, Layla, has a passion for music and would like guidance on how to share her gift fully with the world. We decode the major block that commonly gets in the way of sharing one’s gifts with the world.

As she rose up the ranks to star status in the fitness industry, Patricia Moreno found herself trapped in a vicious cycle of body consciousness, resorting to extreme exercise and dieting to maintain her appearance. She thought, “Here I am, doing all of these crazy things behind the scenes and preaching exercise and diet—and it's not working for me.” 

This coaching session is about the need for love and connection. Whether or not you struggle in your relationship with food like Christina does, what we really end up talking about is how loneliness and a lack of love can lead us to fill ourselves up with other things. I also explain how stress can increase the appetite making it harder to have a healthy relationship with food.

Inspired by many listener questions and national mental health day on Oct 10th, Christine shares her personal journey with overcoming depression and managing anxiety in this episode. She offers insight on what causes depression and/or anxiety as well as tips for better mental health.

Do you know the value of positive thinking but just can’t seem to shift out of negative thinking? This coaching session is about expectations and shifting negative patterns. During this call, we examine Danielle’s past to understand what formed her current expectations and get to the root of why she is sabotaging herself in relationships.

Christine welcomes CEO, Entrepreneur, Advisor, and Speaker Jennifer Love to the show to discuss changing your story around wealth and taking action to become even more successful. Jennifer Love is the CEO of One More Woman – a fast-track, high-performance educational and advisory community helping women entrepreneurs take the stress out of the money equation so they can effectively raise, make, manage, and give money. She is a nationally-acclaimed mentor, international business strategist, speaker, and

The heart of this coaching session is about feeling safe and speaking your truth. Sara’s mother is trying hard to mend a relationship damaged by alcoholism but is striking out when it comes to giving Sara what she needs. We work through the steps Sara can take to release the resentment and educate her mother about what she really needs because we cannot shift our relationships until we shift something inside ourselves.

This is a fantastic episode that offers you practical tools for how to FEEL and DEAL with your emotions. Amber Rae is called a “Millennial Motivator” by Fortune and "The Brené Brown of Wonder” by Mind Body Green, Amber Rae is an author, artist, and speaker whose work invites you to live your truth, befriend your emotions, and express your gifts. Amber and Christine dive into how feelings are a messenger and will guide you through processes to make them your friends. To learn more about the Person

The core issue in this coaching session is abandonment. Chrystal’s limiting beliefs around trust began when her father left the family to return to his home country. She took on her father’s issues by personalizing the event and she is still triggered by the event, even as an adult. She has a breakthrough when she realizes her father’s decisions had nothing to do with her and she is worthy of abundance and love. If you feel you are broken or

If you feel like you have a lot of awareness but things in your life are not changing…it may be time for some “experiential” work. In this episode Christine defines what experiential work is and why it’s important. Jill joins her and they talk about what happens at Christine’s signature retreat to help you discern if it’s right for you. More info about the retreat here: www.christinehassler.com/spring-retreat

The heart of this coaching session is about self-compassion. Steve has been in his masculine and repressing his pain for much of his life. Another level of his pain is surfacing and that’s because his unconscious knows he is ready to deal with it. If you are at a point in your life where you feel like you have done a lot of personal growth work but pain is resurfacing in your life you do not want to miss this episode. It takes a lot of energy to

Since a lot of you were asking, I brought Stef back on the show to share the story of how we met and what we did to call each other in. We talk about listening to intuition, what being “whole and complete” really means, how to do the inner work to prepare for a partnership where you feel truly met, and much more!

This coaching session is about a man who wants to foster a deeper emotional connection with his father. Nicholas and his father have a good surface relationship but he wants it to become more intimate. This session is a great example of how men (especially the younger generation of men) are really looking to break some old patterns of men not having to be emotionally connected. If you are doing personal growth work you may be craving a deeper relat

It is never good to feel bad about things that make you feel good! In this Coaches Corner Christine talks about six key things that are not only healthy to do - but healthy to feel really good about doing. For more info about Christine’s upcoming Spring retreat go to: https://belive.tv/broadcasts/face-to-face-e3hvjmotw8_m/face_guest

This coaching session is about sexuality and freedom of sexual expression. Frankie feels shame about who he truly is and who he is attracted to. Shame is one of the most painful feelings we experience as humans because it reinforces the illusion of separation, makes us feel like we don’t belong and can’t be who we truly are. It reinforces doubts about self-worth because we think there is something wrong with us that we need to hide or keep secret. So, if shame is something you deal with in any aspect of

Marisa Peer shares my passion for helping people make lasting changes that don’t require years and years of therapy. That said, Marissa is a therapist, in fact one of the best in the world. She has spent over three decades treating a client list that includes international superstars, CEOs, Royalty, and Olympic athletes. Marisa teaches “simple steps that produce dramatic and life-changing results”. When she reveals her fundamental rule – that all our emotional and personal problems come from us

This coaching session is about shifting limiting beliefs. Nohemi is aware she has beliefs that are not serving her and she is aware of where these limiting beliefs came from yet they continue to drive her behavior and choices. She is having difficulty shifting the way she feels inside This session is a beautiful, courageous example of how we can go into our pain. Having awareness just isn’t enough We may have a lot of awareness about what our lim

In today’s episode Christine dives into two questions from listeners. The first question about getting over feeling stuck despite doing soooooo much work. The second question is regarding sexual desire and satisfying oneself when not in a relationship.

This call is about asking for what you want in a relationship and if you don’t get it how to leave without feeling guilty. Today’s caller, Brooke, is deciding whether or not to leave her marriage. She is struggling with guilt and obligation due to a major expectation hangover that came up after they were married. The big picture in ending a relationship with someone who is going through a difficult time like an expectation hangover, a physical

A lot of listeners have been reaching out for support around breakups so in this episode I share my five top tips for navigating the completion of a relationship. Learn how to get from breakup to breakthrough with grace!

This call is about changing your perception of what fear is. Today’s caller, Roman, is a mission-driven entrepreneur who becomes paralyzed by fear. During this call, you will learn that fear is an internal alarm system and how to get it working in your favor and the assets and liabilities of being an entrepreneur. Being a mission-driven entrepreneur sounds good and you can make a difference but at the same time, it can be a trigger. As we help th

Listen in as Christine tackles questions from listeners. The first one is from a woman who is considering ending her marriage because she feels she and her husband are on different paths. The second question is from a gentleman who wants to be free of his “gold-plating” behavior (and if you don’t know what that is, Christine defines it!)

This call is about setting boundaries and taking care of your own needs. Today’s caller, Caitlyn, is having an expectation hangover about her engagement planning process. She is excited about her wedding but her family and friends don't seem to be. This episode covers a lot of ground and we go really deep in this episode. Being a caretaker can be a survival skill. Survival needs can be the need to feel loved, to feel valued and to feel like we be

n this episode, Christine breaks down what forgiveness really means. Listen in as she explains the misunderstands and misuse of forgiveness. If you want to experience true freedom, forgiveness is a must! Catch Christine as a guest speaker at Unplug Meditation Friday Aug 3. Details here: https://bit.ly/2KTqh3t

This call is about the importance of self-trust and acceptance in a relationship. Today’s caller, Don, recently reunited with his partner after a seven-month break from their long-distance relationship and would like guidance on how to make sure he gets what he needs from the relationship during the ‘do-over.’ So many of us go into the compensatory strategy of over-achieving whenever we feel ‘less than’ in any way. Whenever we feel less t

This is a juicy one! Meet the man in my life and listen in as we talk about what being a “conscious man” means and requires. Learn about his new program which begins August 8th that I HIGHLY endorse: Reclaim Your Kingdom. http://reclaimyourkingdom.com/ A little more about Stef Sifandos. He is a Relational Alchemist, Community Builder and Change Maker who facilitates transformational growth through neuro-empowerment practices, mindfulness, an integration of Eastern wisdom, diverse spiritual praxis and

This call is about setting a balance between caretaking and nurturing, loving and empowering children. Today’s caller, Alexis, is feeling overwhelmed and guilty about how she deals with her daughter’s physical and emotional state. We talk through the tools that will help her navigate through the natural overwhelm. Whenever we are faced with something that feels overwhelming or confusing, we may feel helpless. When it’s our stuff it’s hard,

Listen in as Christine talks about why when things start going really well in your life or you make a positive change, anxiety, doubt or sabotaging behaviors emerge. It is called an "Upper Limits" issue and Christine explains how to deal with it in a way that keeps you moving onward and upward.

This call demonstrates how strong vulnerability can be. Today’s caller, Nicholas, wants to know how he can be more connected in his life. During our conversation, we uncover a core wound from when, as an infant, he was separated from his mother. Whenever we have core wounding with our mother or father we have to find the divine parent inside of us. We need to find our innate nurturing, soothing and compassionate qualities. Feelings of abandonmen

Lauren Handel Zander is the Co-Founder and Chairwoman of Handel Group, an international corporate consulting and life coaching company dedicated to teaching people how to realize their personal and professional visions. She has spent over 20 years coaching thousands of private and corporate clients and hasbeen a featured expert in The New York Times, BBC, Forbes, Women’s Health, Dr. Oz, and Marie Claire and she is a regular contributor to Businessweek and the Huffington Post. In this episode we talk abo

This call is about changing your perception of a difficult memory from the past. Today’s caller, Sam, has a perception of a past event that is clouding the way she sees herself and her life. She doesn’t feel comfortable in her own skin and doesn’t want to truly be seen. This session is a beautiful demonstration of a miracle. The spiritual definition of a miracle is a change in perception. And often it’s a change in perception from fear to l

Listen to a fun an informative conversation with “The Goddess of Skin” and my personal Esthetician as we talk skin care, advise on anti-aging treatments, products and DIY treatments. Dayle is a certified “Skin Geek” and have lived, breathed, and cared for her client’s skin for almost thirty years as an Esthetician. Her philosophy goes beyond skin deep; she believes we need to have a greater appreciation for our skin, more of a spiritual connection. Her skin care practice evolved into a product l

This call is about clearing up the past to see the future more clearly. Today’s caller, Summer, wants to gain clarity about her future but we focus on things in her past that are blocking her view and keeping her stuck. When we engage in unhealthy patterns it’s like being in quicksand. It’s a slow sinking process that makes us feel stuck. It’s not like falling into a big hole where it is obvious that we need to get out quick. It’s the pat

Listen in to this healing and uplifting conversation about loss, transition, and love with Christine’s dear friend Kristine Carlson. Kristine Carlson is a New York Times bestselling author, speaker, and leader in the field of transformation. After collaborating with her late husband Dr. Richard Carlson to create a publishing industry phenomenon with the Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff series—selling more than 25 million copies worldwide—today, Kris is emerging as a profound teacher in the areas that ma

This call is about depression and suicidal thoughts. Today’s caller, Natasha, has gone to a very dark place and is searching for the point of her life. One of the reasons so many people feel depressed is because they feel alone — like they don't belong and that they don't matter. It's not true. You are not alone, you do belong and you do matter. When you are in a dark place, you feel hopeless, that you are a burden, or like people won't underst

This call is about depression and suicidal thoughts. Today’s caller, Natasha, has gone to a very dark place and is searching for the point of her life. One of the reasons so many people feel depressed is because they feel alone — like they don't belong and that they don't matter. It's not true. You are not alone, you do belong and you do matter. When you are in a dark place, you feel hopeless, that you are a burden, or like people won't underst

In this timely and important episode, Christine talks to Dr. Gail Saltz, a leading psychiatrist and mental health advocate, about a myriad of mental health challenges and how we can treat them and help those we love who may be suffering. Dr. Saltz is best known for her work as a relationship, family, emotional wellbeing, and mental health/wellness contributor in the media and frequently shares her expertise and advice in print, online, on television and radio.  Her newest book, The Power of Differe

This call is about creating your future instead of reliving your past. Today’s caller, Rachel, has a deep fear of loss. When her husband cheated on her, she felt as though she forgave him but she is having trouble getting over it and on with the life she wants. Usually when there is cheating the person who has been cheated on blames themselves or wonders what they did wrong. Anyone who has been cheated on has done nothing wrong. Choose to let go,

Listen in as Christine discusses why growth can be so painful, why the pain is not “bad”, ways to decrease the pain, and why the pain is NOT necessary for growth. Link to blog/podcast she mentions: https://christinehassler.com/2018/03/do-you-have-enough-pleasure-in-your-life/ Please help this show by taking the podcast one survey: www.Podcastone.com/mysurvey

This call is about struggling with a decision and breaking free of unhealthy patterns. Today’s caller, Sandie, knows what she should do but needs validation that the choice is the right one for her. My coaching to her covers codependency, overcoming addictions and breaking generational patterns. Until we heal what has hurt us in our childhoods we look for people who remind us of the parent that hurt us the most. We keep going to the same well, wi

Listen in as Christine chats with fellow entrepreneur Joel Brown about how to achieve lasting and fulfilling success. Joel drops lots of tips in this Coaches Corner and takes you through a very powerful visioning process so grab your pen and journal for this episode! More about Joel . . . With heart and hunger, Joel Brown built addicted2success.com from scratch to be the #1 motivation site in the world. With over 100 million views and over 50 Million Unique website views from his world wide audience, Joel

This call is about is about shifting your perspective and living the life you want to live. Today’s caller, Mickey, feels she can never quite reach success. She has done a bit of self-development work but is still bumping up against low self-worth issues and the belief that she is not good enough. Sometimes, the bigger the consumer of personal growth the bigger the critic of one’s progress. It helps to get some altitude on our past and on our l

Listen in as Christine talks to her friend and fellow podcast host Jordan Harbinger about overcoming career expectation hangover and the power of your network. Jordan shares his system for how to build and nurture the kind of relationships that are key to your successs Jordan is referred to as “The Larry King of podcasting,” is a Wall Street lawyer turned talk show host, social dynamics expert, and entrepreneur. After hosting a top 50 iTunes podcast for over a decade that enjoyed nearly four million d

This call is about is about how to use your anxiety as an alarm system. Today’s caller, Lorin, asks how she can start thriving instead of surviving at work but what we discover together is that her ability to thrive has more to do with her ability to trust and listen to herself. If you suffer from any type of anxiety this call will be helpful because I teach Lorin not to minimize her feelings and to use them as her personal alarm system. We all

Christine chats with the incredible Danette May who is a motivational speaker, best-selling author of seven health and women empowerment books, celebrity trainer, and mother. Listen in as they talk about how to RISE above the challenges we face in life with authenticity, courage, grace and faith. Danette is the founder of Mindful Health, LLC and The Rise Movement. A platform that reaches millions of women around the world. Danette stars in some of the top-selling fitness DVDs sold worldwide, is a top m

This call is about is about stepping into the truth of who you are. Today’s caller, Tom, is juggling many things in his life and wants to know how to balance his relationship with his family with his obligations. But as in many of my coaching sessions, we focus on a core wound from his past that is having a big impact on all aspects of his life. Don’t minimize the important moments in your life so much that you never process them. It can contin

The benefits of a having a tribe are undeniable. Those with strong social circles are living longer, happier, and healthier lives compared to those who lack connections. But how do we find and maintain those circles? That’s what my dear friend Lori Harder and I dive into in this episode. Listen in as we talk about easing old wounds from painful friendships, becoming a better friend to ourselves and creating soul enriching friendships. Get your copy of Lori’s new book “A Tribe Called Bliss” here:

This call is about is about self-trust and overcoming imposter syndrome. Today’s caller, Frantzces, wants guidance around starting her coaching business but we dive deeper into her limiting beliefs and the fear that keeps her from trusting others. This call offers insights even for those who do not want to be a coach or entrepreneur. It is hard to attract the right kind of people into our lives if we are skeptical of people in general. If you gre

Are you ready to unlock more creativity, build stronger relationships, and improve your performance at work? My friend, Mike Robbins, has spent 17+ years helping people, leaders, and teams enhance their results and thrive in today’s complex business world. In this episode, we discuss his latest book, BRING YOUR WHOLE SELF TO WORK, to help you expand your emotional intelligence, deepen your growth mindset, and bring more authenticity to the way you communicate, lead and work. It’s available now and w

This call is about is about how beliefs we form at a young age, after a tragic event, can significantly impact our lives even decades later. Today’s caller, Staci feels lost in her career and wants more out of life. This coaching session is an example of how detrimental it can be to suck our feelings inside and how it leads to limiting beliefs and the feeling of being lost. Beliefs that we form at a young age can significantly impact our lives ev

This is a great conversation that blends the mystical with the practical. Christine talks with Energy Muse founder, Heather Askinosie, about how to clear, protect and fill your energy. Listen in and learn about crystals, everyday rituals you can use to tune into the real you, and much more! Energy Muse is a conscious lifestyle brand providing tools of empowerment, inspiration and hope. Each piece combines energy and intention to help you achieve a desired outcome. Learn more here: https://www.energymuse.co

This call is about is about getting over body image issues and having a healthy relationship with food. Today’s caller, Jen, has come a long way in healing body related issues but still feels unhinged when it comes to food. She realizes she is making unhealthy choices when it comes to food. Many times, people who are doing self-love and body image work people do, they try to jump right to loving their body without acknowledging that maybe they ar

Amir Zoghi is a longtime friend who continues to inspire me to live freely and be the fullest expression of who I truly am. He is an international speaker, author, teacher, entrepreneur and now pilot and aviation business owner. In this Coaches Corner, we talk about how to deal with negativity, following your feelings (or intuition), what intuition really is and what it is not, and mindset. This is an incredibly rich conversation that I encourage you to feel, not just hear. Learn more about Amir and his

This call is about is about getting out of your head and listening to your heart, especially after an Expectation Hangover like a divorce. This call with Emma is a great example of the struggles of someone who is stuck in their head and emotionally stressed. Her question is about gaining clarity and her next steps but she can’t get clarity as long as she stays suppressed. It takes a lot of strength to stuff away our feelings but if we really want

In this episode of Coaches Corner Christine teaches you how to truly let go of what you want. She explains why to get what you want, you have to not want it. Learn how attachment to results happens and why it actually sabotages what we truly desire.

This call is about is about procrastination and self-sabotage. Today’s caller, Angela, believes she puts things off and sabotages herself but as you will hear in the call it is really about her feeling safe and her fear of being seen. We don’t sabotage ourselves or procrastinate because we are weak or unmotivated. There is some payoff that keeps us safe. No matter how much we want something in our present-day self and no matter how much we are

Shawn Stevenson is a bestselling author and creator of The Model Health Show, featured as the #1 Health podcast on iTunes with millions of listener downloads each year. A graduate of The University of Missouri – St. Louis, Shawn studied business, biology, and kinesiology, and went on to be the founder of Advanced Integrative Health Alliance, a company that provides wellness services for individuals and organizations worldwide. Shawn has been featured in Entrepreneur magazine, Men’s Health magazine, ESPN

This call is about is about reconnecting with our younger self and practicing real self-love. Today’s caller, Andrea, can’t get a guy out of her head. Is she following a pattern that started in her childhood? If an ex is still taking up real estate within your head it’s probably not the person. There is something deeper within you that is begging for your attention and love. In a relationship, we have to use discernment to know what is reall

Rick Hanson (New York Times bestselling author of Hardwiring Happiness and Buddha’s Brain) is known for a trademark blend of neuroscience, positive psychology, and mindfulness. Listen in as Christine talks to him about hacking our brain, healing trauma, and beneficial experiences that are essential for our mental health. Check out Rick’s new book RESILIENT to learn how to overcome the brain’s built-in negativity bias and tap the hidden power of everyday experiences to weave calm, contentment, and

This call is about is about reclaiming your sexuality and getting over body issues. Today’s caller, Heidi, has felt shame about her sexuality since she was a child. During our conversation, I coach her through how she can feel safe in her body and how she can experience pleasure. Being connected to our bodies and experiencing pleasure is important. There are a lot of therapies that help people move past eating disorders and to fall back in love

In this episode of Coaches Corner, Christine is the one who is interviewed. Listen in as she answers all kinds of questions about her life, intuition, relationships, and lots more. Attend one of Christine’s upcoming trainings either in Sydney, Australia or San Diego, CA Sydney event: https://www.primalhealthcoach.com/sydney-masterclass-2/ San Diego event: http://christinehassler.com/coachtraining/

This call is about identifying and overcoming the blocks to help you step fully into your business. Today’s caller, Katie, wants to know how to overcome the fear and perfectionism that is blocking her from building her new life coaching business. We discuss the root of the fear that is holding her back because it doesn’t matter how big our vision is. We can’t bypass our fears until we heal the root of the fear. Coaches and people on a persona

We all know self-love is incredibly important but what does it mean and how do you do it? Listen in for a Coaches Corner where Christine discusses a way to practice and understand self-love. Attend one of Christine’s upcoming trainings either in Sydney, Australia or San Diego, CA Sydney event: https://www.primalhealthcoach.com/sydney-masterclass-2/ San Diego event: http://christinehassler.com/coachtraining/