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ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show

English, Personal/Lifestyle/Family, 1 season, 797 episodes, 5 days, 8 hours, 18 minutes
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Is your marriage everything that you want it to be? Are you ready to make a change? Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo to create a strong marriage so you can have mind blowing intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. Marriage is not always easy but it's so worth it. Come and make your marriage EXTRAORDINARY!
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795: MARITAL CONFLICT

Learn about breaking the marital conflict cycles that the two of you seem to keep repeating again and again. | "In any conflict, be sure you know what you really want and whether what you are doing is actually helping you get there." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: The Conflict Cycle Workshop Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/20/202432 minutes, 30 seconds
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794: SPECIAL VALENTINE'S DAY IDEAS

Learn about special Valentine’s Day ideas that you can do to strengthen your pillars of intimacy on February 14th or any time of the year. | "Love is when two hearts find their happy place right beside each other." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 287: The Impact of Tone and Timing 290: Groundhog Day Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/13/202430 minutes, 55 seconds
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793: SEDUCTIVE BEGINNINGS

Learn about how the two of you can strengthen your sexual intimacy with a bit of knowledge around seductive beginnings. | "Seduction is not about overpowering. It’s about understanding and captivating." —Esther Perel Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 790: The Greatest Threat to Our Marriage Is Apathy Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/6/202430 minutes, 5 seconds
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792: MONEY FIGHTS

Learn about the many different money fights that can happen in marriage and the damage they can have on the two of you. | "There is never a reason to fight about money. Money can always be made but hurtful words can never be taken back." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Playdrop Mats — Use Promo Code: OEM Profit First: Transform Your Business from a Cash-Eating Monster to a Money-Making Machine The 6 Pillars of Intimacy Conflict Resolution: The Secret to Breaking the Conflict Cycle in Your Marriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/30/202428 minutes, 15 seconds
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791: WHEN YOU FEEL STUCK

Learn about what you can do when you feel stuck in recurring patterns in life and in your marriage that are not changing. | "When you feel stuck in life, remember that every obstacle is an opportunity to grow and learn." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: The Strangest Secret by Earl Nightingale The Connection Codes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/23/202431 minutes, 40 seconds
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790: THE GREATEST THREAT TO OUR MARRIAGE IS APATHY

Apathy in your marriage can get you so locked up in your own world that you become oblivious to what’s going on around you. | "Indifference and neglect often do much more damage than outright dislike." —JK Rowling Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Romance Uncensored -- January 26 & 27, 2024 699: Break the Roommate Cycle One Line a Day: A Five-Year Memory Book Date Night Done Right Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/16/202439 minutes, 55 seconds
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789: HORMONAL IMBALANCES

Learn about the what can happen to your 6 Pillars of Intimacy® when there are hormonal imbalances happening to you and your spouse. | "If you restore balance in your own self, you will be contributing immensely to the healing of the world." —Deepak Chopra Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: America's Top New Year's Resolutions for 2024 Katalyst Wellness Simple Hormones Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/9/202431 minutes, 5 seconds
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788: WHEN SEX BRINGS YOU CLOSER EMOTIONALLY

When you unpack the idea that sexual intimacy is more than just intercourse you will strengthen the connection you have with your spouse. | "Building relationships is not about transactions—it’s about connections." —Michelle Tillis Lederman Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Upcoming Speaking Events ONE Family Private Facebook Group She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman BOLD Wives Club 30 Day Sex Challenge Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/2/202432 minutes, 50 seconds
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787: COUNTDOWN TO CONNECTION BY EMBRACING YOUR 6 PILLARS OF INTIMACY®

In this episode we're taking a page from the New Year’s Countdown to build connection using the 6 Pillars of Intimacy®. | "Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step." —Martin Luther King Jr. Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: The 6 Pillars of Intimacy Monthly Planner 338: Beautiful Wife Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/26/202336 minutes, 10 seconds
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786: YOU ARE MY FAVORITE PRESENT

Learn about cherishing moments together and creating interactions that become your spouse’s favorite present. | "The greatest gifts are not wrapped in paper, rather they are wrapped in love." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Apply for Marriage Coaching Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/19/202331 minutes, 23 seconds
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785: CHRISTMAS DATES TO KEEP THE SPARKLE ALIVE

Learn about fun Christmas dates you can enjoy with one another this season to strengthen your recreational intimacy. | "Love is a precious gift worth making time for." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Our Vacation Planner “Date nights” strengthen marriages Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/12/202325 minutes, 20 seconds
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784: THE RIGHT QUESTIONS FOR DEEPER SEXUAL INTIMACY

Learn about what you can do to be open, honest, and transparent to foster deeper sexual intimacy with your spouse. | "You have to be willing to ask questions that almost no one else would ask." —Samantha Bee Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: FREE 19 Questions to Amazing Sex Marriage Guide Liberator: Furniture & Toys Sexy Board Games Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/5/202339 minutes, 45 seconds
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783: SPENDING MONEY AT CHRISTMAS

Christmas shows up on the calendar every year. Learn about how couples navigate spending money during this festive season. | "Probably the reason we all go so haywire at Christmas with the endless, unrestrained and often silly buying of gifts is that we don’t know how to put our love into words." —Harlan Miller Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Free Holiday Spending Planner Marriage Guide Elfster: Online Secret Santa Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/28/202328 minutes, 55 seconds
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782: BLESSINGS UPON BLESSINGS

Learn about a simple way that you can share those blessings upon blessings that you have experienced this year with your spouse. | "When I started counting my blessings my whole life turned around." —Willie Nelson Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Free Gratitude Planner Marriage Guide One Line a Day: A Five-Year Memory Book The 6 Pillars of Intimacy Monthly Planner Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/21/202334 minutes, 10 seconds
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781: VACATION SEX CHALLENGE

Learn about what you can do to strengthen your sexual and emotional intimacy when you set up your own vacation sex challenge. | "The bigger the challenge the bigger the opportunity for growth." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: The 6 Pillars in Paradise Marriage Getaway Our Vacation Planner 30 Day Sex Challenge Katalyst Wellness Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/14/202332 minutes, 30 seconds
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780: GET YOUR MARRIAGE ON THE CALENDAR

Learn about how the two of you can get your marriage on the calendar during one of the busiest seasons of the year. | "The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities." —Stephen Covey Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: The 6 Pillars of Intimacy Monthly Planner Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/7/202334 minutes, 5 seconds
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779: WIVES NEED COMMUNITY

Learn about how wives benefit from a supportive community for shared experiences, advice, and friendship while strengthening their marriage. | "We are more powerful when we empower one another." —Anonymous  Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: BOLD Wives Club 369: Men Need Friends I Don’t Know What To Do In The Bedroom Free Training Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/31/202334 minutes, 40 seconds
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778: INTENTIONAL GRATITUDE

Learn about the power of intentional gratitude by appreciating and acknowledging the many blessings you have. | "Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance." —Eckhart Tolle Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: One Line a Day: A Five-Year Memory Book FREE Gratitude Planner Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/24/202331 minutes, 10 seconds
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777: THERE ARE A VARIETY OF POSITIONS

Learn about how the two of you can bring a variety of positions to strengthen your sexual intimacy as you engage with one another. | "Variety is the spice of LOVE." —Helen Rowland Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Position Post Magazine Liberator: Furniture & Toys Position Pack (10 Position Paper Guides) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/17/202331 minutes, 25 seconds
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776: CELEBRATE YOUR ANNIVERSARY

Learn about what you can do to celebrate your anniversary and the many ways you can give meaning to that very special day. | "Life should not only be lived, it should be celebrated." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 7 Benefits to Celebrating & Why You Need to Start Today 81 Unconventional, But Amazing Anniversary Gift Ideas Liberator Loveblind 19 Questions to Amazing Sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/10/202334 minutes, 20 seconds
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775: WHAT ARE YOU SAYING ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE

What you say about your spouse, the negative things, to others can have a ripple effect that impacts them and you. | "Never talk bad about your spouse to other people. It minimizes your spouse’s integrity and takes away from your character." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: US: Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 UK: call Women’s Aid at 0808 2000 247. Australia: Call 1800RESPECT at 1800 737 732. Worldwide: Visit International Directory of Domestic Violence Agencies for a global list of helplines and crisis centers. The Power of Words to Make or Break Your Marriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/3/202332 minutes, 40 seconds
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774: I DON'T FEEL LIKE HAVING SEX

Learn about what you can do in those moments and seasons when you aren’t feeling it when it comes to having sex. | "You can never expect to succeed if you only put in work on the days you feel like it." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: The 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to An Extraordinary Marriage 30 Day Sex Challenge: The Ultimate Guide to Reboot Your Sex Life Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/26/202332 minutes, 50 seconds
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773: SHOWERING TOGETHER IS A FORM OF INTIMACY

For every reason not to shower together there’s a reason to start showering together. Learn about the special things you can do when you shower together. | "The shower is where we get to wash away the day’s worries and embrace each other." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Good Clean Love All Natural Personal Lubricant The 6 Pillars in Paradise Marriage Getaway Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/19/202333 minutes, 24 seconds
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772: SOLO MASTURBATION IN MARRIAGE

Learn about the impact solo masturbation has on your sexual and emotional intimacy when one of you engages in this activity without the other one knowing about it. | "Keeping secrets from someone is no different than lying to them. It’s still dishonest." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 003: Rejection — Our McDonald's Story The Trust Factor: How To Rebuild Trust In Your Marriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/12/202332 minutes, 30 seconds
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771: THE CHECK ENGINE LIGHT IS ON

When a check engine light comes on it doesn’t mean your marriage is going to blow up, but it might—especially if you ignore things. | "If you ignore the warning signs, a tragedy awaits you ahead." —Cory Herndon Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: The 6 Pillars of Intimacy Conflict Resolution: The Secret to Breaking the Conflict Cycle in Your Marriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/5/202331 minutes
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770: DO YOU STRUGGLE WITH INITIATING SEX

Learn about the struggles you can face when it comes to initiating sex and what you can do to change it up. | "The battles that count aren’t the ones for gold medals. The struggles within yourself – the invisible, inevitable battles inside all of us – that’s where it’s at." —Jesse Owens Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Katalyst Wellness FREE Marriage Guide: Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex ONE Extraordinary Marriage Amazon Shop How to Write a Romantic Love Letter That Will Make Your Spouse's Heart Sing Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/29/202338 minutes, 30 seconds
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769: YOU DON'T LOVE ME

Learn about rebuilding the connection when it feels like your spouse doesn’t love you because they don’t know what you want. | "Great relationships are built on clarity not mind reading." —Steve Arterburn Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: The 6 Pillars In Paradise Marriage Getaway 633: The Words You Speak Emotions Wheel Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/22/202328 minutes, 15 seconds
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768: MICRO-DATING FOR DEEPER INTIMACY

Learn about micro-dating to make the most of the limited opportunities you have to date your spouse during busy seasons. | "There’s only one thing more precious than our time and that’s who we spend it on." —Leo Christopher Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: The 6 Pillars of Intimacy Conflict Resolution: These Secret to Breaking the Conflict Cycle in Your Marriage Monopoly Deal 88 Great Conversation Starters for Husbands and Wives Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/15/202332 minutes, 30 seconds
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767: WHEN YOUR IMAGINATION RUNS WILD

Learn about what happens when your imagination runs wild due to an absence of communication in your marriage. | "In the absence of information the imagination runs wild." —Alisa DiLorenzo Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: The 6 Pillars of Intimacy Conflict Resolution: The Secret to Breaking the Conflict Cycle in Your Marriage 319: ESP (Extrasensory Perception) Take A Break...A Coffee Break Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/8/202331 minutes, 10 seconds
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766: WHAT TIME OF DAY DO YOU HAVE SEX

Learn about your favorite time of day to have sex and why during this season it makes sense for your marriage. | "It’s not about having time, it’s about making time." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Intimacy Lifestyle Planner Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/1/202331 minutes, 10 seconds
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765: BIRTHDAY BUST

Learn about what happens to you when your birthday expectations aren't met. What was suppose to be an amazing day turns into a birthday bust. | "Disappointment is unmet expectations. The more significant the expectations the more significant the disappointment." —Brene Brown s it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: The 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to an Extraordinary Marriage 319: ESP (Extrasensory Perception) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/25/202332 minutes, 5 seconds
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764: FIRST DATE MEMORIES

Learn about the power of those first date memories to build emotional and recreational intimacy in your marriage. | "I remember our first date, first kiss and the first time you said I love you." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Date Night Done Right Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/18/202329 minutes, 45 seconds
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763: BEDROOM BLOOPERS

Learn about what the two of you can do to recover after you experience those sexual bedroom bloopers that can happen from time to time. | "Bloopers are not mistakes to worry about, they are memories to cherish." —Anithu Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 737: Sex Pillows and Wedges to Support Fun Positions Liberator Furniture & Toys Überlube 422: What Is The Intimacy Lifestyle Position Post Magazine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/11/202330 minutes, 23 seconds
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762: SUMMER VACATION AND SEXUAL INTIMACY

Summer vacations and sexual intimacy are no joke and it doesn’t just happen. It's time to have a plan for your time away. | "Every summer has a story." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 7 Days of Sex Challenge: Rock Your Sex Life and Your Marriage Bedroom Adventure Bundle Our Vacation Planner Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/4/202330 minutes, 4 seconds
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761: YOU'RE NOT WEARING YOUR WEDDING RING

Learn about what the conversation between you and your spouse can look like when one of you isn’t wearing your wedding ring. | "With this ring, I thee wed…" Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Silicone Wedding Bands for Him & for Her Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/27/202328 minutes, 40 seconds
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760: TAKE A LOOK AT YOUR UNDERWEAR DRAWER

It's time to take a good look at what’s in your underwear drawer and making some adjustments to it if needed. | "Life is too short to wear boring underwear." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 166: Holey Underwear Sexy Underwear For Him & For Her Shinesty Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/20/202330 minutes, 10 seconds
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759: WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU FEEL EMOTIONALLY EXHAUSTED

Learn about what happens to your relationship when you’re emotionally exhausted and what you can do about it. | "You can do anything but not everything." —David Allen Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: The 6 Pillars of Intimacy Workbook Atomic Habits: an Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits Apply for Marriage Coaching Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/13/202330 minutes
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758: EYES WIDE OPEN DURING SEX

Learn about the perks that having your eyes wide open has on how the two of you connect during your sexual encounters. | "I would like to say to people, open your eyes and find beauty where you normally don’t expect it." —Jean Paul Gaultier  Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: ONE Family Private Facebook Group Position Pack (10 Position Paper Guides) 008: Eyes Wide Open 11 Must Have Items You Need In Your Bedroom Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/6/202328 minutes, 10 seconds
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757: THE IMPACT OF HORMONE THERAPY ON SEXUAL INTIMACY

Learn about the impact of hormone therapy, a safe effective way to get your body back on track, when it comes to your sexual intimacy. | "It’s always the little decisions that have the biggest impact." —Mark Cuban Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 743: What’s Up With The Hormones Katalyst Wellness Take A Break... A Coffee Break Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/30/202330 minutes, 15 seconds
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756: IF I ONLY HAD A MARRIAGE MANUAL

Learn about what would change if you had a marriage manual on how to experience an extraordinary marriage. | "Life doesn’t come with an instruction manual." —Scott Westerfield Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: The Journal of Best Practices by David Finch The 6 Pillars of Intimacy Conflict Resolution: The Secret to Breaking the Conflict Cycle in Your Marriage He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Liberator Wedge Ramp Combo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/23/202328 minutes
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755: YOUR CONFLICT CYCLE

It’s time for you to have a healthy way of tackling conflict when it arises. Learn about the conflict cycle in your marriage. | "You repeat what you don’t repair." —Alisa DiLorenzo Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: The 6 Pillars of Intimacy Conflict Resolution: The Secret to Breaking the Conflict Cycle in Your Marriage Emotion Wheel Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/16/202330 minutes, 40 seconds
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754: IS SEXUAL INTIMACY MORE THAN INTERCOURSE

Learn ways to be sexually close and connected by redefining sexual intimacy to be more than just intercourse. | "Don’t let others define you, you define yourself." —Ginni Rometty Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 710: Summer Sex Challenge Romance One Another Stress and Sex Masterclass Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/9/202330 minutes, 30 seconds
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753: DO THE LITTLE THINGS THAT MATTER

Extraordinary marriages focus on finding the little things that can be done consistently. Learn about different little things you can do. | "It’s the little details that are vital. Little things make big things happen." —John Wooden Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 751: Let's Getaway 658: What You Should Know About Giving Flowers Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/2/202329 minutes, 40 seconds
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752: MORE THAN JUST "LET'S HAVE SEX"

Learn about what you can do to initiate beyond telling your spouse, "let’s have sex” when you're ready to go. | "Good things come to those who initiate." —Susan Roane Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 21 Ways to Initiate Sex With Your Spouse Intimacy Lifestyle Planner 140: Scheduling Sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/25/202329 minutes, 23 seconds
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751: LET'S GETAWAY

Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 6 Pillars Marriage Getaway 2024 ONE Family Private Facebook Group Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/18/202330 minutes, 25 seconds
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750: PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE FROM INFIDELITY

Learn about being proactive and engaging in the actions that will protect you and your marriage from infidelity. | "When you love someone you protect them from pain, you don’t become the cause of it." —Anonymous  Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Join the Private ONE Family Facebook Group Apply for Marriage Coaching The Trust Factor: How to Rebuild Trust In Your Marriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/11/202330 minutes, 5 seconds
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749: SEX CHALLENGE DERAILED

Learn about what happens when a sex challenge, that your excited about, gets derailed and how you can navigate this as a couple. | "Circumstances may cause interruptions and delays but never lose sight of your goal." —Mario Andretti Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 7 Days Of Sex Challenge: How to Rock Your Sex Life and Your Marriage Überlube (Our favorite lube) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/4/202331 minutes, 45 seconds
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748: SMART DEVICES ARE DESTROYING YOUR INTIMATE MOMENTS

Learn about specific smart devices that are stealing those intimate moments you should have with your spouse. | "The most dangerous distractions are the ones you love, that don’t love you back." —Warren Buffet Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: ONE Extraordinary Marriage Newsletter 576: Make Your Bedroom a Sanctuary Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/28/202334 minutes, 35 seconds
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747: NAP TIME IS PRIME TIME

Napping impacts how you and your spouse get along. Learn how nap time can be prime time for the connection in your marriage. | "It’s not a nap. It’s a much needed life pause, preferably with a warm blanket." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Sound+Sleep Machine Stress and Sex Masterclass Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/21/202330 minutes, 40 seconds
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746: FOREPLAY IS NOT AN AFTERTHOUGHT

Learn about the importance of making foreplay more than an afterthought when it comes to your sexual intimacy. | "We make time for what’s important to us. If you haven’t made time for it, it’s because you haven’t convinced yourself that it’s important." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: The Position Post Magazine ONE Family Private Facebook Group 19 Questions to Amazing Sex She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/14/202332 minutes
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745: SEXY GAMES TO PLAY IN THE BEDROOM

Learn about building your sexual and emotional intimacy when you pick up and play some fun and sexy games in the bedroom. | "Life is more fun if you play games." —Roald Dahl Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Tic-Tac-To The Bedroom Love Battleship Adult Sex Dice Set Sexy Games (Amazon) 737: Sex Pillows and Wedges to Support Fun Positions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/7/202333 minutes
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744: MASSAGE ME

Massage can boost your physical and sexual intimacy. It's a tool you can add to your marriage toolbox to strengthen your pillars of intimacy. | "Massage touches the body, heals the mind, and calms the spirit." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Massage Oils (Amazon) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/28/202332 minutes
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743: WHAT'S UP WITH THE HORMONES

Learn about your hormones, hormonal changes that happen as you age, and the impact this can have on you and your marriage. | "Our bodies are finely tuned machines and if our hormone mixtures aren’t “just right” everything goes into disrepair." —Suzanne Somers Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Katalyst Wellness Younger Next Year: Live Strong, Fit, Sexy, and Smart Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/21/202333 minutes, 12 seconds
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742: I LOVE YOU IN MANY WAYS

Learn about the different ways that you can say, “I Love You”, and do so using the 6 Pillars of Intimacy® as a framework. | "I love you. After all of this time. I still love you. It’s always been you. It was you yesterday. It was you today. It will be you tomorrow. And for the rest of my life. It will be you. I love you." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 21 Little Love Notes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/14/202329 minutes, 15 seconds
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741: THE SNORING IS IMPACTING US

That moment when you can’t sleep because of the noise coming from your spouse. Learn about the impact that snoring has on your marriage. | "A marriage is always made up of two people prepared to swear that only the other one snores." —Terry Pratchett Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Tic-Tac-To the Bedroom Game (Premium Edition) The Trust Factor: How to Rebuild Trust in Your Marriage Liberator Wedge Ramp Combo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/7/202327 minutes, 15 seconds
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740: WHAT ARE YOU FIGHTING AGAINST

Learn about what you are fighting against in your marriage and creating a strategy to get your breakthrough. | "Resistance is the first step to change." —Louise Hay Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Take A Break... A Coffee Break Emotions Wheel Intimacy Lifestyle Planner Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/31/202334 minutes, 20 seconds
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739: ROMANCE ISN'T DEAD

Romance is in the air! Learn about all the different ways that you and your spouse can romance one another. | "There is no shame in being romantic. I think people want to feel that sense of romance which is rarely even attempted anymore." —Colin Treverrow Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Our Bucket List of Dates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/24/202332 minutes, 20 seconds
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738: SEASONAL AFFECTIVE DISORDER

Learn about the impact that Seasonal Affective Disorder can have on each of your 6 Pillars of Intimacy® and your marriage. | "No winter lasts forever. No spring skips its turn." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Light Therapy Lamp Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/17/202331 minutes, 45 seconds
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737: SEX PILLOWS AND WEDGES TO SUPPORT FUN POSITIONS

Learn about using sex pillows and wedges to change your sexual experience as well as strengthen your sexual intimacy pillar. | "Changing your perspective changes your experience." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Liberator Pillows and Wedges Sex Furniture - Ramps and Cushions (Amazon) Position Post Magazine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/10/202333 minutes, 15 seconds
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736: EDGING FOR INCREASED SEXUAL AROUSAL

Learn about using a technique called edging to increase sexual arousal and to strengthen your sexual intimacy pillar. | "I’ve always wanted to be able to let myself go over the edge." —Robin Wright Penn Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: The Vagina Bible: The Vulva and the Vagina She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman Bedroom Adventure Bundle Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/3/202333 minutes, 50 seconds
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735: FORGET THE RESOLUTION: GET FOCUSED AND DO SOMETHING

Learn about what you can do to get focused, laser focused, on your pillars of intimacy so that you can have an amazing year ahead. | "You get what you focus on, so focus on what you want." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Apply for Marriage Coaching 6-Day Intimacy Breakthrough Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/27/202233 minutes, 5 seconds
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734: CHOOSING BETWEEN GIFTS AND EXPERIENCES

Learn about what you can do to choose between gifts and experiences when it comes to spoiling your spouse. | "The best gift that you can give someone is your time because you are giving them something you can never get back." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 88 Great Conversation Starters Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/20/202229 minutes, 35 seconds
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733: OH, IT'S COLD OUTSIDE

Learn about how your and your spouse can navigate your physical and sexual intimacy when it’s cold outside. | "If the world seems cold to you, kindle fires to warm it." —Lucy Larcom Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Electric Ceramic Space Heater Electric Fireplace Electric Heating Pad Kama Sutra Massage Candle Warm Flannel Sheets Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/13/202230 minutes, 45 seconds
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732: FINDING JOY IN TRADITIONS

Learn about how you can find joy in the traditions you have set up or the new ones you want to set this time of year. | "Traditions touch us, connect us, expand us." —Barreto Craig Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: The Adventure Challenge Couples Edition Elf (The Movie) Position Post Magazine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/6/202231 minutes, 5 seconds
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731: ‘TIS THE SEASON WHEN SEX DOESN'T HAPPEN

'Tis the season to learn about what to do when your sexual intimacy pillar has cracks and you aren’t having sex. | "Whatever is not happening, make it happen." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 457: 12 Sexy Days of Christmas Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/29/202231 minutes, 50 seconds
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730: EXPRESS THANKFULNESS AND GRATITUDE

Learn how to strengthen your emotional intimacy through the expression of thankfulness and gratitude throughout the year. | "Thankfulness is the quickest path to joy." —Jefferson Bethke Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Grab the FREE Gratitude Planner Monopoly Deal Card Game Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/22/202238 minutes, 15 seconds
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729: I THOUGHT WE WERE GOING TO HAVE SEX

Learn about what you can do to navigate the sexual tension when you thought you were going to have sex and ended up not. | "When things change, make sure those changes are a part of the plan. " —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Our Vacation Planner 422: What Is The Intimacy Lifestyle Emotion Wheel Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/15/202232 minutes, 10 seconds
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728: IT'S ME OR THE DOG

Learn about the impact (good and bad) that dogs, cats, and other pets have on each of your 6 Pillars of Intimacy®. | "Dogs have a way of finding the people who need them and filling a void they didn’t know they had." —Thom Jones Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: ONE Family Private Facebook Group Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/8/202229 minutes, 35 seconds
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727: LACK OF CONFIDENCE

Learn about how to strengthen your marriage when you are struggling with a lack of confidence or capability. | "Nothing holds you back more than your own insecurities." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: The Power of Positive Thinking Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/1/202230 minutes, 30 seconds
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726: DUTY SEX

Duty sex is an indicator that there are cracks in your pillars of intimacy. Learn about the challenges you face when sex becomes a duty. | "A sense of duty is useful in work but not in personal relations. People wish to be liked not endured with patient resignation." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 9 Ways to Stay Connected When You Are Long Distance 001: 60 Days of Sex The Trust Factor: How To Rebuild Trust In Your Marriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/25/202231 minutes, 45 seconds
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725: THOSE CONTROLLING BEHAVIORS

Learn about the impact that those controlling behaviors are having on your marriage and your 6 Pillars of Intimacy. | "You cannot control other people. You can only control your reactions to them." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: ONE Family Private Facebook Group 334: The Emasculated Man 335: She's Not Your Mother Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/18/202231 minutes, 25 seconds
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724: I WANNA QUIT

When helplessness and hopelessness collide it can lead to statements like I wanna quit. Learn what you can do to turn things around. | "Quitting because you don’t want to be uncomfortable will prevent you from growing." —Amy Morin Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Learn More About Marriage Coaching Bo's Cafe: A Novel Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/11/202234 minutes, 25 seconds
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723: WHO ARE YOU FLIRTING WITH

Learn about what happens to your emotional, physical and even sexual intimacies when you or your spouse is flirting with someone else. | "Flirting while married is highly disrespectful. While it may seem harmless it can be very hurtful to the person that loves you." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Join the ONE Family Private Facebook Group The Trust Factor: How to Rebuild Trust in Your Marriage 719: Alcohol and Intimacy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/4/202233 minutes, 30 seconds
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722: EROGENOUS ZONES

Learn about erogenous zones those areas that product sexual excitement and their impact on your sexual intimacy. | "Too often we underestimate the power of touch. Especially when it comes to creating arousal." —Leo Buscaglia Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 235: Speak Up…Vocalize You Satisfaction  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/27/202230 minutes
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721: INFORMATION OVERLOAD

Learn about the impact that TOO much information and information overload can have on your pillars of intimacy. | "The result of information overload is usually distraction. It dilutes your focus and takes you off your game." —Zig Ziglar  Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode:  Do You Need Personal Help To Improve Your Marriage? Apply for Coaching Now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/20/202232 minutes, 25 seconds
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720: DOUBLE STANDARDS

Learn about the double standards in marriage and the impact that they can have on your marriage, specifically your pillars of intimacy. | "Don’t tell your spouse they can’t do something and then turn around and do it yourself. Double standards aren’t fair to anyone." —Emily Smith Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: ONE Family Private Facebook Group Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/13/202232 minutes, 43 seconds
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719: ALCOHOL AND INTIMACY

Problematic alcohol use does impact your pillars of intimacy. And if it’s not addressed it will lead to the destruction of a marriage. | "Alcohol is a perfect solvent. It destroys marriages, families and careers." —Anonymous  Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Alcohol Ruins Relationships and Marriages, Evan Brad Pitt's Alcohol, Tobacco, and Other Drugs Alcohol Consumption Held Steady as Pandemic Dragged On Substance and Mental Health Services Administration 800-662-4357 (HELP) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/6/202232 minutes, 45 seconds
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718: TOO BUSY OR TOO TIRED FOR SEX

In this episode we’re discussing the statements “I’m too busy” or “I’m too tired” and the impact that they have on your sexual intimacy. | "When someone tells you they are too busy…it’s not a reflection of their schedule. It’s a reflection of your spot on their schedule." —Steve Maraboli  Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Learn More About Marriage Coaching The Penis Book The Vagina Bible Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/30/202231 minutes, 50 seconds
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717: WHAT IF YOU COULD CHANGE THE FUTURE

In this special episode we invite you to dream about what your life would look like if you chose to change the future. | "Nothing we do can change the past but everything we do can change the future." —Ashleigh Brillant  Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: The Power of Positive Thinking 662: Walk and Talk Intimacy Lifestyle Planner Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/23/202230 minutes, 27 seconds
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716: SOLVING THE PROBLEM OF UNVOICED EXPECTATIONS

Learn about expectations and their impact on The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® as unvoiced expectations continue to be a source of tension. | "People cannot live up to expectations they don’t know have been set for them." —Rory Vaden Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today!  Links from today’s episode:  Emotion Wheel The Power of Positive Thinking ONE Family Private Facebook Group 511: Chore Wars Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/16/202231 minutes, 55 seconds
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715: WHAT ARE WE FOCUSED ON

Learn what can happen when you get focused on the pillar of intimacy that needs the most attention in your marriage. | "You don’t get results by focusing on the results. You get results by focusing on the actions that produce the results." —Mike Hawkins Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode:  The 6 Pillars in Paradise Marriage Getaway  Emotions Wheel 710: Summer Sex Challenge Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/9/202231 minutes, 17 seconds
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714: TAKE ME ON A DATE

Break out of those date routines when it comes to your recreational intimacy so you have a solution when your spouse says take me on a date. | "Dates got you to a place where you wanted to marry each other. If you want to stay married, keep dating your spouse." —Anonymous  Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode:  The 6 Pillars in Paradise Marriage Getaway This Is What Happens In Your Brain When You Try Something New Date Night Done Right 561: Dating Your Spouse: Part 4 — How To Date At Home 559: Dating Your Spouse: Part 3 — Low Cost Date Ideas Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/2/202229 minutes, 35 seconds
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713: WHAT'S THE ISSUE WITH SOLO MASTURBATION

Learn about the impact that solo masturbation can possibly have on your sexual, emotional and physical intimacies. | "What’s done in the dark will come to light." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman 508: Mutual Masturbation ONE Extraordinary Marriage Premium Subscriber Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/26/202231 minutes, 55 seconds
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712: WHEN WORDS HURT

Learn about what happens to both you, your spouse, and your 6 Pillars of Intimacy® when spoken words hurt. | "We’ve all been hurt by words before so before you speak think about how your words might affect your spouse." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode:  169: Is This Abuse? Words Can Change Your Brain You Have 6,200 Thoughts a Day... Don't Make Yours Negative The Power of Positive Thinking Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/19/202232 minutes, 55 seconds
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711: REKINDLE THE ROMANCE

Learn how you can use The 6 Pillars of Intimacy to rekindle the romance, both a feeling and an action, in your marriage. | "A great marriage doesn’t just happen because of the love you had in the beginning, but rather how well you continue to love." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 15 Ways to Romance Your Spouse Over the Next 30 Days Romance Your Spouse with These Sexy Text Messages Feelings Wheel 708: They’re Playing Our Song 658: What You Should Know About Giving Flowers Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/12/202234 minutes, 25 seconds
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710: SUMMER SEX CHALLENGE

Learn what you can do to strengthen your your sexual, emotional and physical intimacy with a summer sex challenge. | "The bigger the challenge, the bigger the opportunity." —Anonymous  Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode:  001: 60 Days of Sex The 6 Pillars of Intimacy Black Box 30 Day Sex Challenge Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/5/202231 minutes, 35 seconds
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709: INFLATION IS CREATING FINANCIAL STRESS

Learn about the financial stress that inflation is having on marriages, especially your financial, emotional and recreational intimacies. | "Money problems destroy marriages. Get on the same page with your spouse and work together towards a common goal." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: The 6 Pillars of Intimacy Black Box The Power of Positive Thinking Fighting with your spouse? It’s probably about this 555: Dating Your Spouse: Part 1 — What You Expect Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/28/202231 minutes, 40 seconds
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708: THEY'RE PLAYING OUR SONG

Learn about what happens when someone is playing our song and how it builds your emotional, physical, and even recreational intimacy. | "Humming our song reminds me of when we fell in love." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today!  Links from today’s episode: Music, Memory, and Emotion The Power of Moments Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/21/202228 minutes, 5 seconds
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707: LET'S GO TO BED NAKED

Learn about what you can do to strengthen your physical intimacy when you make the decision to go to bed naked. | "I always sleep better with your warm naked body next to me." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: ONE Family Private Facebook Group Sleeping Naked Will Do Wonders For Your Marriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/14/202230 minutes, 25 seconds
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706: ARE YOU MAKING EXCUSES TO AVOID HAVING SEX?

Learn about the most common excuses used by married couples and the impact that making excuses has on your sexual intimacy. | "You can have results or excuses, not both." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today!  Links from today’s episode: 620: Let Go Of Past Relationships Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/7/202228 minutes, 5 seconds
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705: WILL YOU FORGIVE ME

Learn about how the phrase, "will you forgive me", affects your marriage as it's the start of the restoration process. | "Asking for and receiving forgiveness from another person takes courage." —Jan Dargatz Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today!  Links from today’s episode: The Trust Factor: How to Rebuild Trust in Your Marriage Called to Love: Experiencing Your Best Marriage Through the Words of Jesus Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/31/202235 minutes, 45 seconds
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704: SECRET SPENDING

No one will know. Learn about the impact that secret spending has on your financial intimacy and emotional intimacy. | "There are no secrets that time does not reveal." —Jean Racine Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode:  There's Science Behind the Secrets We Humans Keep Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/24/202231 minutes, 10 seconds
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703: IDENTIFY AND COMMUNICATE YOUR EXPECTATIONS

Learn about the challenges that happen in your marriage when you don’t identify and communicate your expectations. | "The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place." —Bernard Shaw Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode:  ONE Family Private Facebook Group Take A Break... A Coffee Break 287: The Impact of Tone and Timing Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/17/202234 minutes, 30 seconds
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702: STRUGGLING TO GET AN ERECTION

Learn about the impact that erectile dysfunction has on your sexual, emotional and physical intimacy when he struggles to get an erection. | "Living in denial won’t change your situation. Be real with yourself so you can fix your problems. Time is too precious to waste." —Tony Gaskins Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today!  Links from today’s episode:  The Penis Book: A Doctor's Complete Guide to the Penis The 21st Century Man Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/10/202238 minutes, 15 seconds
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701: ACTIVELY REBUILDING BROKEN TRUST

Learn about how the two of you can actively rebuild the broken trust in your marriage using the 6 Pillars of Intimacy. | "Trust is earned when actions meet words." —Chris Butler Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today!  Links from today’s episode:  The Trust Factor: How To Rebuild Trust In Your Marriage 693: Praying Out Loud Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/3/202232 minutes, 50 seconds
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700: BELIEVING FOR A BREAKTHROUGH

Learn about the breakthroughs others have had and those that you can experience when you get intentional and take action. | "In order for you to have your breakthrough you must first go through." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Take A Break... A Coffee Break 7 Days of Sex Challenge: How To Rock Your Sex Life and Your Marriage Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/26/202233 minutes, 48 seconds
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699: BREAK THE ROOMMATE CYCLE

Learn about what you can do to break the roommate cycle by infusing some freshness back into your marriage. | "It’s time to break the cycle. It’s time to heal. It’s time to grow." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today!  Links from today’s episode: Free Quiz: What's Your Strongest Pillar? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/19/202232 minutes, 55 seconds
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698: WHEN THE INTIMACY LIFESTYLE GOES OFF THE RAILS

Learn about how to address your sexual and emotional intimacy when your intimacy lifestyle isn’t working the way you planned. | "Sex is like exercise; it is always available to us, but it is easier to set time aside for it than to do it spontaneously." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 140: Scheduling Sex 001: 60 Days of Sex Take A Break... A Coffee Break Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/12/202233 minutes, 10 seconds
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697: STUCK IN A DATE NIGHT RUT

Learn what you can do to get out of the date night rut of doing the same thing over and over again and have fun the next time you go out. | "The greatest gift you can give your spouse is your time. Because when you dedicate your time, you are offering a part of your life that you will never get back. " —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 10 Date Ideas You Should Do With Your Spouse Date Night Done Right Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/5/202229 minutes, 55 seconds
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696: SEXUAL TUG-OF-WAR

Learn about the sexual tug-of-war that can happen with your spouse and what you can do to get on the same team. | "I will not play at tug o' war. I'd rather play at hug o' war, Where everyone hugs Instead of tugs, Where everyone giggles And rolls on the rug, Where everyone kisses, And everyone grins, And everyone cuddles, And everyone wins." —Shel Silverstein Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/29/202229 minutes
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695: DO YOU COMPLAIN OR DO YOU CELEBRATE

Learn about the impact that complaining has on how you see your spouse and your marriage. Make a choice to not complain for seven days. | "Complaining about a problem without posing a solution is called whining." —Theodore Roosevelt Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Emotional Feelings Wheel 287: The Impact of Tone and Timing Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/22/202229 minutes, 20 seconds
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694: 6 PILLARS OF INTIMACY AND PARENTING

Learn how the 6 Pillars of Intimacy can be a tool in your marriage toolbox when it comes to parenting your children. | "It’s not what you do for your child, but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them successful human beings." —Ann Landers Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Emotional Feelings Wheel On Becoming Babywise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/15/202233 minutes, 10 seconds
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693: PRAYING OUT LOUD

Learn about what you can do to strengthen your spiritual intimacy as the two of you develop and grow the skill of praying out loud. | "Nothing tends more to cement the hearts of Christians than praying out loud together. Never do they love each other so well as when they witness the outpouring of each other’s hearts in prayer." —Charles Finney Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 001: 60 Days of Sex Celebration Cup - Prefilled Communion Cups & Wafer Set The Prayer of Jabez: Breaking Through to the Blessed Life Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/8/202228 minutes, 40 seconds
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692: A QUICKIE IS ABOUT MORE THAN JUST SEX

Learn about how the quickie is about more than just sex—it deals with your emotional, physical and sexual intimacy pillars. | "It is essential to have good tools, but it is also essential that the tools should be used in the right way." —Wallace Wattles Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Sex Stack 422: What is the Intimacy Lifestyle Intimacy Lifestyle Planner 618: Anatomy of a Female Orgasm She Comes First Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/1/202230 minutes, 15 seconds
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691: TAKING CARE OF YOUR FINANCIAL FUTURE

Learn about putting together your estate plan as you strengthen your financial intimacy and your financial future. | "Planning is bringing the future into the present so that you can do something about it now." —Alan Lakein Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Überlube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/22/202230 minutes, 40 seconds
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690: ALWAYS OR NEVER STATEMENTS

Learn about the words always and never and the impact that they have on your marriage and your 6 Pillars of Intimacy. | "Always and never are two words that you should always remember never to use." —Wendell Johnson Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: 659: Sex Ed For Married Couples Emotional Feelings Wheel Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/15/202229 minutes, 45 seconds
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689: TRAVELING WITH MORE THAN JUST YOUR CLOTHES

Learn about packing more than just your clothes when the two of you travel for the purpose of prioritizing your sexual intimacy. | "Going on a trip. Need 4 outfits. I’ve packed 35 just to be safe." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Links from today’s episode: Uberlube Liberator Jaz Motion Bedroom Adventure Bundle Sexy Adult Items Our Vacation Planner Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/8/202229 minutes, 50 seconds
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688: MAKING MARRIAGE SIMPLE AGAIN

Learn about making marriage simple again in your marriage as you focus on what matters most in every pillar of intimacy. | "Never overlook the power of simplicity." —Robin Sharma Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/1/202230 minutes, 10 seconds
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687: LOW DESIRE, HIGH DESIRE TUG OF WAR

Learn about navigating both low desire and high desire when it comes to your sexual intimacy and your emotional intimacy. | "Strength lies in differences not in similarities." —Stephen Covey Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/25/202228 minutes, 55 seconds
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686: STOP THE NAME CALLING

Learn about the breakdown in emotional intimacy and trust that comes from name calling out of anger or frustration and what to do about it. | "Don’t mix bad words with your bad mood. You’ll have plenty of opportunities to change your mood but you’ll never get the opportunity to change the words you spoke." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/18/202229 minutes, 5 seconds
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685: WHEN SEX DOESN'T GO AS PLANNED

Learn about what can happen to your sexual and emotional intimacy when sex doesn’t go as planned or expected. | "If the plan doesn’t work, change the plan but never change the goal." —Anonymous Is it really possible to rekindle the spark and restore the “like-new” connection in your marriage? Yes it is! In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo's proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse – starting today. Click HERE to get your copy today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/11/202229 minutes, 15 seconds
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684: CAST VISION TO MAKE THIS YOUR BEST YEAR YET

Learn about what you can do to cast vision in each of the 6 pillars of intimacy to make this your best year yet! | "A vision is not just a picture of what could be; it’s an appeal to our better selves, a call to become something more." —Rosabeth Kanter Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/4/202230 minutes, 20 seconds
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683: BELIEVING FOR BREAKTHROUGH

Learn about not just believing in a breakthrough in each of your six pillars of intimacy but also taking action in this new year! | "What the new year brings to you depends a great deal on what you bring to the new year." —Vern McLellan Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/28/202128 minutes
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682: HAVE YOURSELF A SEXY LITTLE CHRISTMAS

Learn about having a sexy little Christmas this year as you keep the sexy in your sexual intimacy pillar this time of year. | "The greatest gifts are not wrapped in paper but in love. Plus maybe something silky or sexy." —Anonymous Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/21/202123 minutes, 40 seconds
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681: CHRISTMAS TRADITIONS

Learn about the Christmas traditions that the two of you can create to strengthen your pillars of intimacy this holiday season. | "Christmas gives us a special opportunity to pause and reflect on the important things around us." —David Cameron Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/14/202128 minutes
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680: SECURITY FEATURES

Learn about the security features that need to be set up around your marriage so that you can have the extraordinary marriage you desire. | "One single vulnerability is all an attacker needs." —Window Snyder Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/7/202127 minutes, 10 seconds
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679: SEX DOESN'T HAVE TO TAKE A CHRISTMAS BREAK

This Christmas break, learn what the two of you can do to strengthen your sexual intimacy no matter where you are celebrating. | "I already have what I want for Christmas and it’s you." —Anonymous Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/30/202129 minutes, 9 seconds
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678: GRATEFUL FOR US

Learn about being grateful for each other, for your marriage, and for all that you’ve walked through together. | "Gratitude is the best medicine. It heals your mind, your body and your spirit. And it attracts more things to be grateful for. " —Anonymous Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/23/202129 minutes, 30 seconds
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677: WHAT'S IN YOUR TOOLBOX

What's in your toolbox? Learn about the many different tools that you need to have in your marriage toolbox. | "Do not wait. The time will never be “just right”. Start where you stand, and use whatever tools you have at your command and better tools will be found as you go along." —George Herbert Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/16/202129 minutes, 20 seconds
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676: THE 6 PILLARS OF INTIMACY

Learn about the 6 Pillars of Intimacy and the power this framework has to transform you, your spouse, and your marriage. | "When you are tempted to give up, your breakthrough is probably just around the corner." —Joyce Meyer Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/9/202127 minutes, 50 seconds
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675: BABY STEPS

In this episode, we’re discussing the baby steps that you can take no matter what season you’re in to strengthen your pillars of intimacy. | "You don’t have to get it perfect. You just have to get it going. Babies don’t walk the first time that they try but eventually they get it right." —Anonymous Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/2/202130 minutes, 45 seconds
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674: EMOTIONALLY DRAINED

Learn what happens when you are emotionally drained and feel like you have no control over what’s happening in your life or marriage. | "Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful." —Joshua J. Marine Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/26/202132 minutes, 48 seconds
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673: SIZING UP THE PENIS

Learn about the true size of a penis and the impact that perceived size can have when you’re between the sheets. | "Women don’t suffer from penis envy. Men do." —Joseph Heller  Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/19/202128 minutes, 30 seconds
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672: WHAT'S THE DEAL WITH MULTIPLE ORGASMS

Learn about how both men and women can have multiple orgasms by taking breaks during sex, practicing kegel exercises, and more. | "Unconditional love really does exist. And so do multiple orgasms." —Anonymous Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/12/202130 minutes, 53 seconds
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671: SILVER ANNIVERSARY (REFLECTING ON 25 YEARS)

Join us as we reflect on our silver anniversary and what we have learned over the last 25 years of marriage. | "It takes just a moment for me to tell you I love you but I will spend a lifetime trying to prove it. " —Anonymous Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/5/202131 minutes, 25 seconds
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670: MAKE MARRIAGE FUN AGAIN

Learn about what you can do to laugh, giggle, smile and most of all make marriage fun again. Let's strengthen your recreational intimacy. | "People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing." —Dale Carnegie Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/28/202131 minutes, 40 seconds
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669: THE SIZE OF YOUR BED

Learn about something a little bit more lighthearted and yet important to each one of you, the size of your bed. | "Happiness is not size specific." —Anonymous Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/21/202126 minutes, 12 seconds
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668: THE PAIN OF REJECTION

Often it’s thought that rejection is about what happens in the bedroom, but that’s not the only pillar of intimacy that can be impacted by rejection. | "Rejection is like a blade to the heart. It’s the worst kind of pain." —Toni Sorenson Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/14/202129 minutes, 20 seconds
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667: IT'S SO GOOD TO MOAN DURING SEX

Learn about vocalizing your pleasure during sex when you moan or make other noises to signal your pleasure. | "Hearing you moan is the sexiest sound ever." —Anonymous Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/7/202126 minutes, 44 seconds
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666: NOT TODAY DEVIL, WE PRAY TOGETHER

Learn about the importance of praying with your spouse so that when you pray together you can say, not today devil. | "Forget 'You had me at hello.' You had me at 'Let’s pray together'" —Anonymous Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/31/202128 minutes, 55 seconds
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665: START YOUR MORNING WITH A BANG

Learn what you can do to start your morning with a bang to change up your sexual intimacy from only night time sex. | "Every morning starts a new page in your story. Make it a great one today." —Anonymous Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/24/202131 minutes, 30 seconds
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664: I CHOOSE TO BE IN LOVE WITH YOU

Are you choosing to be in love with your spouse? Learn about the power of saying I’m in love with you and the impact it has on your marriage. | "It’s not being in love that makes me happy. It’s being in love with you that makes me happy." —Anonymous Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/17/202126 minutes, 30 seconds
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663: ORAL SEX — CUNNILINGUS AND FELLATIO

Learn about the importance of oral sex, both cunnilingus and fellatio, and the role it plays in your sexual intimacy. | "Oral sex can be foreplay, the main course or the dessert!" —Anonymous Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/10/202130 minutes, 50 seconds
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662: WALK AND TALK

Learn about the walk and talk, a simple activity that can make a world of difference in shifting all 6 Pillars of Intimacy in your marriage. | "If you want to walk fast, walk alone. If you want to walk far, walk together." —Anonymous Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/3/202129 minutes, 40 seconds
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661: STOP KEEPING SCORE

Learn about what happens when you're keeping score in your marriage with this recurring statement in your mind, “I do more than you”. | "The minute you start keeping score you’re destroying the relationship." —Tony Robbins Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/27/202130 minutes, 55 seconds
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660: INVEST IN YOUR MARRIAGE

When you invest in your marriage you devote time, money, energy and/or emotion with the expectation of achieving a specific result. | "Investing in yourself is the best investment you will ever make. It will not only improve your life, it will improve the lives of all those around you." —Robin Sharma Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/20/202128 minutes, 35 seconds
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659: SEX ED FOR MARRIED COUPLES

Learn why sex ed is important as you explore your sexual intimacy as a couple and the impact it has on your relationship dynamics. | "We live in a wonderful world that is full of beauty, charm and adventure. There is no end to the adventures that we can have if only we seek them with our eyes wide open." —Jawaharlal Nehru Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/13/202131 minutes, 47 seconds
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658: WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT GIVING FLOWERS

"I don’t want flowers on Valentine’s Day because that is what you are supposed to do. I want flowers on Tuesday because you thought of me on your way home. " —Anonymous | Focus on the little things. Learn about the simple messages conveyed to your love in the act of giving flowers.. Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/6/202128 minutes
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657: TIGHTY WHITIES AND GRANNY PANTIES

"Underwear is everything because we all know that if we have on the wrong pair of underwear it ruins our day." —Veronica Webb | Tighty whities and granny panties can be bland. Learn about why the color of your underwear has an influence on you and your marriage. Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/29/202132 minutes
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656: CHANGING SEASONS

"Every success story is a tale of constant adaptation, revision, and change." —Richard Branson | Marriage is full of seasons. Learn how changing seasons in marriage need your attention so that the two of you can navigate them as a team. Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/22/202128 minutes, 45 seconds
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655: LUBE… IT’S NOT A DIRTY WORD

"If you truly want to change your life, you must first change your mind." —Anonymous | There will be times when lube is needed during sex. Learn about lube, the importance it can play during sex, and why it’s not a dirty word. Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/15/202129 minutes, 40 seconds
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654: QUALITY TIME

"Time is the currency of relationships. If you want to invest into your relationships, start by investing your time." —Dave Willis | There are 168 hours in every week. Learn how to cultivate the quality time between you and your spouse to strengthen your marriage. Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/8/202127 minutes, 35 seconds
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653: THE MOST EPIC VACATION

"Traveling in the company of those we love is home in motion." —Leigh Hunt | Learn about what the two of you can do to have the most epic vacation whether you are taking a staycation or traveling around the world. Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/1/202129 minutes, 35 seconds
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652: WHEN LIFE DOESN'T GO AS PLANNED

Learn about how the two of you handle things when life doesn’t go as planned, especially when you are attempting a 7 Day Sex Challenge. | "Just because something isn’t happening right now doesn’t mean that it will never happen." —Anonymous Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/25/202129 minutes, 10 seconds
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651: STUCK IN A NEGATIVE SEXUAL MINDSET

Learn what can happen when you get stuck in a negative sexual mindset and the impact it has on your sex life. | "Watch your thoughts, they become words. Watch your words, they become actions. Watch your actions they become habits. Watch your habits, they become character. Watch your character, it becomes your destiny. " —Anonymous Do You Need Personal Help to Improve Your Marriage? Talking about your marriage can be a sensitive topic. Words can be taken the wrong way and suddenly you have an argument on your hands. You want to help your marriage yet you find yourself hurting it (and each other). It's amazing how the little things can hurt your marriage...Or big things that you don't even realize are happening. Problems are swept under the rug and ignored until someone asks for a divorce. Apply for Coaching with Alisa Today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/18/202128 minutes, 55 seconds
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650: MIDLIFE CRISIS

Learn about what it means to go through a midlife crisis, how it can impact a marriage and what to do about it. | "As we approach midlife in our middle 30s or early 40s we are not prepared for the idea that time can run out on us, or for the startling truth that if we don’t hurry to pursue our own definition of a meaningful existence, life can become a repetition of trivial maintenance activities." —Gail Sheehy FREE eBook '6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secrets to Intimacy That Lasts' In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/11/202130 minutes, 55 seconds
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649: CONTINUOUSLY INVEST IN YOUR MARRIAGE

Learn why it’s important to continuously invest in your marriage long after you said “I do” to one another. | "The capacity to learn is a gift. The ability to learn is a skill. The willingness to learn is a choice." —Brian Herbert FREE eBook '6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secrets to Intimacy That Lasts' In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/4/202128 minutes, 5 seconds
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648: ERECTION KILLERS

Learn about what erection killers are, how they challenge you as a man, your marriage, and what the two of you can do to overcome them. | "The penis -- if you think about it -- is the most enterprising engineering feat imaginable -- a cantilevered structure, hydraulics, propulsion, pistons, compression, inflation, heat sensitive -- practically every engineering characteristic -- towers, draw-bridges, rocket-ships -- no man-made engineering structure to match it." —Peter Greenaway FREE eBook 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secrets to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/27/202129 minutes, 50 seconds
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647: I NEED YOU TO TOUCH ME

If your spouse is saying I need you to touch me, then it’s important to address this in your marriage. You can’t ignore it. It won’t go away. | "Touch me when I ask. Touch me when I am afraid to ask. Touch me with your lips, your hands, your heart. Your presence in the room." —Anonymous FREE eBook 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/20/202130 minutes, 39 seconds
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646: IT'S IMPORTANT TO SAY "I'M SORRY"

It's important to say "I’m sorry". These two words are super simple and powerful and yet they don’t always get said. | "“I’m sorry” is a statement. “I won’t do it again” is a promise. “How do I make it up to you?” is a responsibility." —Anonymous FREE eBook 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/13/202130 minutes, 30 seconds
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645: THAT WAS UNEXPECTED

Learn about the impact that unexpected health challenges can have on you, your spouse, and on your marriage. | "It’s the unexpected that changes our lives." —Anonymous FREE eBook 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/6/202133 minutes, 50 seconds
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644: IT'S HARD TO TALK ABOUT SEX

Learn why it can be difficult to talk about sex with your spouse and what you can do to open up with one another. | "Difficult conversations about taboo topics aren’t easy, but in marriage, they are worth it." —Anonymous FREE eBook 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/30/202130 minutes, 40 seconds
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643: WHY FOREPLAY MATTERS

Learn about why foreplay matters to you and your spouse and how you can incorporate more of this in your marriage. | "Sex is always better when you build up the sexual tension with foreplay." —Anonymous FREE eBook 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/23/202132 minutes
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642: UNPACK YOUR BAGGAGE

Whether it’s baggage from past relationships, words spoken, or hurts from your spouse it's time to unpack the baggage in your marriage. | "Future successes can be diminished by carrying the baggage of the past. Let go of the excess baggage." —Reed Markham FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/16/202132 minutes, 50 seconds
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641: FALL IN LOVE AGAIN

What can you do to fall in love with your spouse again if you’ve fallen out of love. It's time to take action to create those feelings again. | "A successful marriage requires you to fall in love multiple times but always with the same person." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/9/202134 minutes
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640: AM I DOING ENOUGH SEXUALLY

Learn what it looks like to be enough. Let's dive into the question “Am I doing enough sexually” when it comes to the sexual intimacy pillar. | "I am not perfect. Nor will I ever be. I am a work in progress." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/2/202133 minutes, 35 seconds
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639: YOU SEXY BEARDED MAN

Learn about the conversations that you need to have around facial hair and sex with your sexy bearded man. | "Everyone has a story on their beard. It’s a way of finding common ground with people you might not otherwise know." —Chris Stapleton FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/23/202129 minutes, 45 seconds
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638: TAKE TIME TO GRIEVE

Learn about navigating unexpected losses as a couple so the two of you can be there for each other as you grieve. | "Grief is not a disorder, a disease or a sign of weakness. It is an emotional, physical and spiritual necessity, the price you pay for love. The only cure for grief is to grieve." —Earl Grollman FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/16/202134 minutes, 40 seconds
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637: EXPRESS YOUR LOVE

Create a culture of expressing your love consistently in your marriage. Learn how you can express your love no matter what day it may be. | "Love is not what you say. Love is what you do." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/9/202130 minutes, 10 seconds
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636: COMPARISON IS DANGEROUS

Learn about the danger of comparison when it comes to your marriage and comparing your spouse to others who you do and do not know. | "Every minute you spend wishing you had someone else’s life is a minute spent wasting yours." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/2/202131 minutes, 50 seconds
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635: SEX OUTSIDE THE BEDROOM

There is no shortage of ideas on where to have sex outside of the bedroom. Learn about the hows and whys it's important to give it a try. | "There’s no rule that says that you can only have sex in your bedroom. It’s your house, it’s OK to use other rooms and have sex outside of your bedroom." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/26/202132 minutes, 50 seconds
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634: SCHEDULING SEX ISN'T WORKING FOR ME

Learn about what to do when you hear the words this isn’t working for me in regard to scheduling sex or your intimacy lifestyle. | "If what you are doing isn’t working, change it." —Phil McGraw FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/19/202132 minutes
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633: THE WORDS YOU SPEAK

Are you aware of the words that you are speaking? Learn about the impact that the words you speak can have on your spouse. | "Words are free. It’s how you use them that can cost you." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/12/202132 minutes, 10 seconds
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632: KEEP IT EXCITING... TRY NEW THINGS

Learn about what you can do to keep it exciting in your marriage when you are willing to try new things in your recreational intimacy. | "You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new." —Brian Tracy FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/5/202135 minutes
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631: KICK-START YOUR NEW YEAR

Learn about how you and your spouse can kick-start the new year and plan actionable goals around the 6 Pillars of Intimacy. | "No one can go back in time and change what has happened so work on your present to make yourself a wonderful future." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/29/202035 minutes, 25 seconds
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630: END THE YEAR WITH A 7 DAY SEX CHALLENGE

Want to do a sex challenge but haven't done one. Learn what can happen when you end the year with a 7 Day Sex Challenge. | "You’re not meant to do what is easy. You’re meant to challenge yourself." —Justin Timberlake FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/22/202033 minutes, 55 seconds
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629: HAVE YOURSELF A SEXY CHRISTMAS

The joyous time of year is here. Learn about how you and your spouse can have a sexy Christmas that will blow your minds. | "Too busy is a myth. People make time for the things that are really important to them." —Mandy Hale FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/15/202027 minutes, 22 seconds
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628: NAVIGATE THOSE HOLIDAY CONVERSATIONS

Learn what you can do to navigate your emotional intimacy and have those holiday conversations during this busy time of year. | "Sharing your feelings is NOT a sign of weakness. It shows that you have the STRENGTH to trust someone completely." —Sanjeev Bantra FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/8/202032 minutes, 15 seconds
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627: CHRISTMAS SHOPPING

Learn about the dynamic you have with your spouse when it comes to Christmas shopping and the impact it has on your financial intimacy. | "Christmas is about giving. Be outrageously generous. Have fun, enjoy the process… then keep it up all year." —Dave Ramsey FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/1/202031 minutes, 40 seconds
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626: EXPRESS APPRECIATION

There’s an expression that says whatever you appreciate grows in value. Learn what you can do to express appreciation to your spouse. | "A person who feels appreciated will always do more than expected." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free eBook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/24/202032 minutes, 20 seconds
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625: BODY IMAGE ISSUES CAN BE A SERIOUS STRUGGLE

Your body image may make you feel uncomfortable. Learn about how the struggle with body image has an impact on your marriage. | "If we base our self worth on something as ever changing as our bodies we will forever be on an emotional roller coaster of body obsession and shame." —Chrissy King FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/17/202033 minutes, 45 seconds
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624: SEXUAL CONFIDENCE

Learn about discovering your sexual desires and building your sexual confidence for a deeper connection with your spouse. | "You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face." —Eleanor Roosevelt FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/10/202030 minutes, 55 seconds
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623: KEEPING SECRETS

Learn about what happens when you are keeping secrets from one another and why this has an adverse effect on your marriage. | "Keeping secrets from someone is no different than lying to them. It’s still dishonest." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/3/202027 minutes, 50 seconds
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622: BEST FRIEND, LOVER OR BOTH

Learn about what the differences between best friend and lover are when it comes to how you view your spouse. | "The best relationship is when your spouse is not only your lover but your best friend too." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/27/202026 minutes, 55 seconds
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621: STRENGTHEN YOUR CONNECTION AFTER SEX

You've made love, cleaned up after sex and now wondering what's next. Learn about what you can do to strengthen your connection after sex. | "The more connections you and your lover make, not just between your bodies, but between your minds, your hearts and your souls, the more you will strengthen the fabric of your relationship and the more real moments you will experience together." —Barbara De Angelis FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/20/202029 minutes, 20 seconds
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620: LET GO OF PAST RELATIONSHIPS

Learn about how past relationships can tie you to the past and make it difficult to move forward in your marriage. | "The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward."—Steve Maraboli FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/13/202030 minutes, 50 seconds
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619: PLEASE BE HONEST WITH ME

Learn what it means to be honest with yourself and your spouse through what you say and the actions you take. | "Honesty is the fastest way to prevent a mistake from turning into a failure."—James Altucher FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/6/202030 minutes, 25 seconds
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618: ANATOMY OF A FEMALE ORGASM

The female orgasm is not as straight forward as a mans. Learn about the physiological changes that occur as a woman experiences orgasm. | "A woman’s orgasm is such a fragile thing. Dependent as much upon her mind as her clitoris."—Megan Hart FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/29/202031 minutes, 25 seconds
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617: NOTHING TO SAY

Are there times the two of you find yourselves in a place where it feels like you have nothing to say to one another? | "Sometimes people have nothing to say because they are too empty and sometimes people have nothing to say because they are too full."—Yasmin Mogahed FREE E-BOOK 6 Pillars of Intimacy The Secret to Intimacy That Lasts In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/22/202030 minutes, 55 seconds
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616: A HEALTHY MARRIAGE TAKES WORK

Learn why being intentional and taking action in your own life and with your spouse will allow for you to have a healthy marriage. | "You either want it or you don’t. If you want it you have to work hard for it."—Anonymous FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/15/202029 minutes, 35 seconds
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615: SET THE MOOD

What’s the big deal about setting the mood? Who cares what the atmosphere is like in your bedroom? Learn why setting the mood is important. | "Create an atmosphere in which anything is possible."—Raymond Kelly FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/8/202028 minutes, 15 seconds
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614: WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE'S ORGASM

Today learn about the thoughts you have about orgasms that you just wish your spouse knew and you wish could speak out loud. | "There are things we don’t know we don’t know. "—Donald Rumsfeld FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/1/202030 minutes, 40 seconds
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613: INTENTIONAL INTIMACY

Learn about intentional intimacy and what it means for your marriage to have a clear understanding of each one. | "Intentional living means making your choices based on your greatest values, not the habits of others." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/25/202027 minutes, 15 seconds
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612: EXPRESS YOUR NEEDS

Learn why it’s important to express your needs in different area of life, in your marriage and with your spouse to feel fulfilled. | "The most important thing is to never stop asking." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/18/202028 minutes, 15 seconds
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611: I DON'T KNOW IF I LIKE YOU RIGHT NOW

Marriages go through seasons. Learn why it’s so important to work through the “I don’t know if I like you” season of marriage. | "Sometimes two people have to fall apart to realize how much they need to fall back together." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/11/202026 minutes, 35 seconds
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610: HONOR YOUR SPOUSE

When you choose to honor your spouse you change how you see them. You change how they see themselves. You change how others see them. | "If you think well of others, you will also speak well of others AND to others. From the abundance of your heart, the mouth speaks. If your heart is full of love you will speak of love." —Mother Theresa FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/4/202025 minutes, 40 seconds
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609: THE KISSING GAME: PART 4 — YOUR KISSING CHALLENGE

When you take on a kissing challenge it can make a huge impact on your physical intimacy. Learn what you can do to create your own kissing challenge. | "That moment when you kiss someone and everything around becomes hazy..." —Never Been Kissed FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/30/202029 minutes, 20 seconds
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608: STRUGGLING WITH DESIRE

Learn about what you can do when you are on a roller coaster ride of ups and downs in your sexual intimacy and struggling with sexual desire. | "Just because you are struggling doesn’t mean that you are failing." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/28/202029 minutes
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607: THE KISSING GAME: PART 3 — WHAT KEEPS US FROM KISSING

Learn about what keeps you from those kissing games and what to do so that the two of you can have those passionate kisses once again. | "That’s why no kissing. It’s too intimate." —Pretty Woman FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/23/202031 minutes, 10 seconds
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606: TAKE THE CEILING OFF YOUR MARRIAGE

When your ceiling becomes your floor you can soar. Learn what happens when you take the ceiling off your marriage and stop saying “That’s not me”. | "For true success ask yourself these questions: Why? Why not? Why not me? Why not now?" —James Allen FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/21/202029 minutes, 40 seconds
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605: THE KISSING GAME: PART 2 — THE SCIENCE OF A KISS

Learn about the science of a kiss because there is a whole lot more to it than his lips and her lips and maybe some tongue. | "I believe in long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days." —Bull Durham FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/16/202030 minutes, 40 seconds
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604: THAT'S SO IRRITATING

Raise your hand if you have ever gotten irritated at something that your spouse did. Learn about those things that you find irritating and find resolution. | "At times both words and actions are irritating." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/14/202030 minutes, 20 seconds
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603: THE KISSING GAME: PART 1 — OUR KISSING PATTERNS

Lips on lips also known as kissing is an intimate moment when your and your spouse connect. Learn about the kissing patterns that you experience. | "Hershey’s makes a million kisses a day. I’m just asking for one." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/9/202031 minutes, 20 seconds
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602: YOUR VIEW OF SEX

How do you and your spouse view sex? Can you take it or leave it? Learn how your view of sex impacts the two of you inside and outside the bedroom. | "Seeing things from a different point of view can help us understand why people act the way they do. We too often judge people without having all the facts." —Sean Covey FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/7/202032 minutes, 30 seconds
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601: OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE: PART 5 — THE DATING ROUTINE

Learn about the dating routine that has you going through the motions instead of really being present with your spouse when you go out on a date. | "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result." —Albert Einstein FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/2/202032 minutes, 10 seconds
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600: CELEBRATE THE WINS IN YOUR MARRIAGE

You need to be deliberate about celebrating your wins together. Learn why it's important to celebrate these in your marriage. | "Track your small wins to motivate big accomplishments." —Teresa Amabile FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/30/202034 minutes
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599: OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE: PART 4 — SPIRITUAL CONNECTION

Time to get out of the comfort zone when it comes to your spiritual intimacy. Learn about how you can create that spiritual connection in your marriage. | "The only time that you are growing is when you are uncomfortable." —T. Harv Eker Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/25/202033 minutes, 30 seconds
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598: COMING TOO SOON

Premature ejaculation is one of those topics that isn't talked about openly. Learn about the impact that coming too soon has on each of you. | "Instead of being a product of my circumstances, I am a product of my decisions." —Stephen Covey Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/23/202034 minutes, 30 seconds
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597: OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE: PART 3 — TALKING ABOUT SEX

Learn about what you can do today to start talking about sex with your spouse and why it's important that you do so with your spouse. | "Sex is perfectly natural? It’s something that is pleasurable. It’s something that is enjoyable and it enhances a relationship." —Sue Johanson Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/18/202031 minutes, 35 seconds
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596: HEADACHE BEFORE ORGASM

Learn about what you can do if you get a headache that comes right before or right after orgasm and how it can impact your marriage. | "Some pain you can distance yourself from but a headache sits right where you live." —Mark Lawarence Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/16/202031 minutes, 40 seconds
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595: OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE: PART 2 — HANDLING FINANCES

When you share the same vision, it’s easier to step out of your financial comfort zone. Learn about handling finances as it's part of every marriage. | "Sometimes it’s not about the money but rather the process of managing the money." —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/11/202029 minutes, 25 seconds
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594: BEYOND COLOR BLIND

Let's talk about what you are experiencing in your families, in your marriages, in your cities when it pertains to looking beyond being color blind. | Let's talk about what you are experiencing in your families, in your marriages, in your cities when it pertains to looking beyond being color blind. Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/9/202031 minutes, 35 seconds
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593: OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE: PART 1 — FEEDBACK LOOP

Learn what can happen to your emotional intimacy when the two of you create a feedback loop which allows for open, honest and transparent communication. | "Get a feedback loop and listen to it. When people give you feedback, cherish it and use it." —Randy Pausch Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/4/202030 minutes, 45 seconds
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592: CONVERSATIONS AROUND ORAL SEX

When it comes to oral sex this is an area where your emotional intimacy, the conversations, you have will impact your sexual connection. | "It’s amazing how one little conversation can change things forever." —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/2/202032 minutes, 10 seconds
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591: ROMANCE DEFINED: PART 3 — WHAT YOUR HUSBAND WANTS

Being romanced is not just something for the women. Men want to be romanced as well. Learn what your husband wants when it comes to romance. | "I vow to love you, and no matter what challenges might carry us apart we will always find our way back to one another." —The Vow Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/28/202030 minutes, 50 seconds
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590: CRYING DURING SEX OR AFTER ORGASM

Tears and sadness, especially unexplained can be hard to talk about. Learn about why wives are spontaneously crying during sex. | "Tears are words the heart cannot express." —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/26/202030 minutes, 20 seconds
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589: ROMANCE DEFINED: PART 2 — WHAT YOUR WIFE WANTS

Ladies your spouse can’t romance you if he doesn’t know what his wife wants and you can’t tell him what you like if you don’t know. | "I’m just a girl, standing in front of a boy asking him to love her." —Notting Hill Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/21/202033 minutes, 15 seconds
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588: THE UPS AND DOWNS OF HER CYCLE

A woman experiences hormonal and physical changes every month. Learn about the ups and downs of her cycle and its impact on your relationship. | "When a woman tells you she started her period the correct response is NEVER “well that explains it”." —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/19/202031 minutes, 30 seconds
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587: ROMANCE DEFINED: PART 1 — WHAT'S THE DEAL WITH THIS WORD

It's time to rediscover the romance and make it a strength in your marriage. Learn about this word and the impact it has on you and your spouse. | "So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s gonna be really hard. We’re gonna have to work at this every day, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, you and me, every day." —The Notebook Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/14/202031 minutes, 15 seconds
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586: I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD DO THAT

Oh the things you would do as a married couple. Learn about the random things that you never thought you would do after you got married. | "Your blessings may come in unexpected ways." —Neil Andersen Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/12/202028 minutes, 28 seconds
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585: NAVIGATE THE PANDEMIC TOGETHER: PART 5 — FIGURE OUT YOUR FINANCES

Finances are an area that can be a challenge. Learn about how the two of you can and will figure out your finances together. | "Stay on top of your finances. Don’t leave that to others." —Leif Garrett Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/7/202029 minutes, 45 seconds
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584: WATCH ME UNDRESS

Getting undressed in front of your spouse can be a stumbling block but it doesn't have to be. Learn about how your spouse feels when you watch them undress. | "What makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful." —Brene Brown Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/5/202028 minutes, 55 seconds
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583: NAVIGATE THE PANDEMIC TOGETHER: PART 4 — WORK DYNAMICS

Learn what you can do to not only survive, but thrive at home while you are working together. These work dynamics can be beneficial your marriage. | "We cannot accomplish all that we need to without working together." —Bill Richardson Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/30/202031 minutes, 55 seconds
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582: SLEEP NAKED

Learn about taking off your jammies before you head to bed to enjoy the many benefits when you sleep naked next to your spouse. | "Sleeping naked is good, to sleep naked with you is the best." —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/28/202033 minutes, 25 seconds
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581: NAVIGATE THE PANDEMIC TOGETHER: PART 3 — EXTROVERTS

An extrovert is someone who thrives off of connection with other people. Learn about how extroverts approach life and this season. | "The best part of being with a group is that you don’t have to do everything alone. You are with your friends." —Justin Timberlake Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/23/202032 minutes, 30 seconds
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580: ALL THE LITTLE THINGS

So much is made of the big things in marriage. The epic trip. The larger than life experiences. Learn about the importance of the little things. | "It’s the little details that are vital. The little things make the big things happen." —John Wooden Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/21/202031 minutes
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579: NAVIGATE THE PANDEMIC TOGETHER: PART 2 — INTROVERTS

Even though this could seem like the most perfect situation ever for introverts it’s not a perfect scenario and it’s hard for introverts. | "Solitude matters and for some people it is the air they breathe." —Susan Cain Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/16/202031 minutes, 45 seconds
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578: INTIMACY WITH EVERYONE HOME

Learn what you can do to work through the challenges you currently face so that you can maintain your intimacy with everyone home. | "When you are really in need you think of creative solutions to your problems" —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/14/202034 minutes, 5 seconds
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577: NAVIGATE THE PANDEMIC TOGETHER: PART 1 — OUR NEW NORMAL

There is a new normal happening right now. Learn how your marriage can come out stronger as you press in together during this season. | "As you move outside of your comfort zone what was once unknown and frightening becomes your new normal." —Robin Sharma Are You Ready to Try Something New? Life is stressful, but wen you are too busy (or tired) to find time for sexual intimacy, your marriage suffers. The 7 Days of Sex Challenge provides a fun game-plan for busy couples who would like to reboot their intimacy. It eliminates the stress of figuring out what you need to do for 7 days that will be new and creative to try. While you may try it to jump-start your sex life you'll enjoy it for the deeper connection it will foster. Grab You FREE Book Today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/9/202030 minutes, 5 seconds
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576: MAKE YOUR BEDROOM A SANCTUARY

Learn how you can take your bedroom from just OK to a romantic sanctuary where you and your spouse can focus on loving on each other. | "To be creative you must create a space for yourself where you can be undisturbed...separate from everyday concerns." —John Cleese Are You Ready to Try Something New? Life is stressful, but wen you are too busy (or tired) to find time for sexual intimacy, your marriage suffers. The 7 Days of Sex Challenge provides a fun game-plan for busy couples who would like to reboot their intimacy. It eliminates the stress of figuring out what you need to do for 7 days that will be new and creative to try. While you may try it to jump-start your sex life you'll enjoy it for the deeper connection it will foster. Grab You FREE Book Today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/7/202033 minutes, 20 seconds
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575: DEALING WITH CONFLICT: PART 4 — OUR CONFLICT PLAN

Conflict is an area of marriage that can be dramatically improved with having a plan on how you are going to navigate it with your spouse. | "Plan your work and work your plan." —Napoleon Hill Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/2/202030 minutes, 18 seconds
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574: EXCUSES TO AVOID HAVING SEX

The problem with excuses is that they often have an element of truth in them. Learn about facing the excuses when it comes to not having sex. | "Excuses will always be there for you, opportunity will not." —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/31/202029 minutes, 45 seconds
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573: DEALING WITH CONFLICT: PART 3 — HOW I HANDLE THINGS

The only person that you can change is yourself. Learn about how you handle things when it comes to conflict and what you can do to improve. | "Strive for continuous improvement instead of perfection." —Kim Collins Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/26/202031 minutes, 15 seconds
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572: MARRIAGE IN THE CORONAVIRUS PANDEMIC

Learn what you can do to make your marriage a priority when dealing with the coronavirus as well as during times of uncertainty. | "Hope and fear cannot occupy the same space. Invite one to stay." —Maya Angelou Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/24/202033 minutes, 20 seconds
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571: DEALING WITH CONFLICT: PART 2 — I WISH YOU WOULD JUST...

In times when you say "I wish you would just..." this often comes from observing how others in your world interact with each other in times of conflict. | "Sometimes I wish that you were able to read my mind so that I wouldn’t have to explain myself." —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/19/202032 minutes, 30 seconds
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570: WHY IS INITIATING SEX SO DIFFICULT

Sex is important to vibrant and healthy marriage. Learn about the difficulties you face when it comes to initiating sex with your spouse. | "The easiest thing to do is to react. The second easiest thing to do is to respond. The hardest thing to do is initiate." —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/17/202031 minutes, 5 seconds
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569: DEALING WITH CONFLICT: PART 1 — WHAT ARE WE FIGHTING ABOUT

Let's take a look at what you fight about, how you respond to conflict and how you can better deal with conflict in your marriages. | "You get in the biggest fights with the people you care the most about because those are the relationships you are willing to fight for." —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/12/202030 minutes, 30 seconds
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568: VIDEO GAMES

Video games, marriage and what’s going on behind the controllers. Learn how video games impact your marriage for better and for worse. | "I truly don’t mind my husband playing video games. It’s when he makes them a priority over me that I have a problem." —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/10/202032 minutes, 22 seconds
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567: STEP INTO A SEX CHALLENGE: PART 3 — PUTTING IT ALL TOGETHER

When you come together to learn about each other's body parts, how you romance, and your emotional intimacy you'll have success during a sex challenge. | "Love is about growing as a couple, learning about each other, and sticking together." —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/5/202031 minutes, 10 seconds
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566: POLITICAL DIFFERENCES

Learn about navigating the political minefield that you may encounter with your spouse, family and in-laws during an election season. | "I never considered a difference of opinion in politics, in religion, in philosophy, as cause for withdrawing from a friend." —Thomas Jefferson Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/3/202032 minutes, 15 seconds
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565: STEP INTO A SEX CHALLENGE: PART 2 — WHAT YOU NEED TO CONSIDER

A sex challenge doesn’t just happen. Learn about what you need to consider when it comes to having a successful sex challenge. | "I can give you a six word formula for success. Think things through - then follow through." —Eddie Rickenbacker Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/27/202029 minutes, 5 seconds
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564: REBUILDING TRUST WITH YOUR SPOUSE

Learn what the two of you can do to begin rebuilding trust after infidelity, an emotional affair, lying, financial infidelity or other breaches of trust. | "Rebuilding trust when it has been broken is not dependent only on the person who has broken the trust." —Doe Zantamanta Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/25/202031 minutes, 30 seconds
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563: STEP INTO A SEX CHALLENGE: PART 1 — MORE THAN JUST SEX

There is much more that happens around a sex challenge than sex. Emotional, physical and spiritual intimacy can all be grown during this time together. | "Challenges are what make life interesting, overcoming them is what makes life meaningful." —Joshua J. Marine Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/20/202029 minutes
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562: WHAT SHE WANTS YOU TO KNOW ABOUT HER ORGASM

Learn about what wives want their husband’s to know about her orgasm and how what husbands have to say about giving her an orgasm. | "Vulnerability is the only bridge to build connections." —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/18/202031 minutes, 30 seconds
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561: DATING YOUR SPOUSE: PART 4 — HOW TO DATE AT HOME

Enjoy a date at home experience as it may be what you need to get some time together and truly connect without having to blow the budget. | "There’s nothing like staying at home for real comfort." —Jane Austen Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/13/202031 minutes, 45 seconds
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560: GO BARE DOWN THERE?

Razor, wax or laser? Learn about the conversations that are happening or may need to happen when it comes to going bare down there. | Razor, wax or laser? Learn about the conversations that are happening or may need to happen when it comes to going bare down there. Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/11/202030 minutes, 50 seconds
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559: DATING YOUR SPOUSE: PART 3 — LOW COST DATE IDEAS

What if having low cost date ideas in your toolbox gave you the ability to make this happen on a more regular basis. Check out these low cost date ideas. | "Opportunities don’t happen, you create them." —Chris Grosser Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/6/202030 minutes, 25 seconds
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558: DON'T TAKE YOUR MARRIAGE FOR GRANTED

Learn about what can you do today so that you do not take your marriage for granted as none of us know how many days we have. | "Life can change in an instant, don’t take anyone or anything for granted." —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/4/202032 minutes, 40 seconds
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557: DATING YOUR SPOUSE: PART 2 — CREATIVE DATE IDEAS

Why go on the same date over and over again? Learn about creative date ideas the two of you can enjoy when you are on your next date together. | "Do something today that your marriage will thank you for." —Anonymous Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club Today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/30/202031 minutes, 40 seconds
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556: SPONTANEOUS VS SCHEDULED SEX

Learn what you need to know to best understand the difference between spontaneous and scheduled sex so that you have the sexual intimacy you desire. | "Spontaneity is an infinite number of rehearsed possibilities." —Peter Drucker Every marriage is unique and amazing! We’re here to see you experience the extraordinary. That’s why we have the Position of the Month Club! It is the #1 Community for Couples who want Better Sex in and out of the bedroom. The Position of the Month Club is a community of folks who uplift and encourage each other, who are willing to be vulnerable and take off the masks about all areas of their marriage in order to strengthen their connection and their relationship. Join the Position of the Month Club today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/28/202032 minutes, 20 seconds
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555: DATING YOUR SPOUSE: PART 1 — WHAT YOU EXPECT

Learn about the nitty gritty of what the expectations are around dating your spouse no matter what season you are in or your budget. | "Chase her. Chase her when she’s already yours. That’s the only way you’ll be assured to never lose her." —Anonymous Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! This year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/23/202033 minutes
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554: SEXUAL DESIRE DIFFERENCES

Learn about how the two of you can navigate differences in sexual desire no matter how long you have been married or what season you're going through. | "Our goal should be to understand our differences" —James D. Watson Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! This year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/21/202032 minutes, 30 seconds
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553: MORE THAN A RESOLUTION: PART 3 — YOUR GAME PLAN

There are obstacles that keep you from being able to honor your commitment to your resolutions and that’s why you need a game plan. | I no longer believe in New Year’s Resolutions. I believe in daily resolutions.” —Anonymous Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/16/202033 minutes, 20 seconds
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552: 10 YEAR ANNIVERSARY SHOW

An anniversary is a time of celebration. We share about what’s been accomplished in the last decade and what's to come in the next decade. | "Celebrations of your accomplishments raise your awareness of what you’ve done." —Palma Poscillico Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/14/202047 minutes, 45 seconds
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551: MORE THAN A RESOLUTION: PART 2 — WHAT KEEPS ME FROM HAVING SUCCESS

There’s a disconnect between what you want and the actions that you need to have the success that you desire for yourself and you marriage. | "Resolutions require only words. Results take action." —Tony Robbins Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/9/202032 minutes, 55 seconds
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550: POWER OF EXPECTATIONS

So many wants, so many expectations. Learn about how the power of your expectations can make what you desire for your marriage a reality. | The best way to predict the future is to create it. —Peter Drucker Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/7/202031 minutes, 35 seconds
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549: MORE THAN A RESOLUTION: PART 1 — WHERE DO I START

What is a resolution? Learn about what they are and how you can successfully implement them to create lasting change in your life and marriage. | "Tomorrow is the first blank page of 365 page book. Write a good one." —Brad Paisley Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/2/202031 minutes, 50 seconds
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548: LEAVE IT BEHIND

That's right leave it all behind. Learn about what you need to leave behind so that you can make this next year your best year yet. | "Leave the past behind it’s time to move on to bigger and better things." —Anonymous Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/31/201932 minutes, 15 seconds
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547: DREAM AGAIN: PART 4 — LET'S GET PHYSICAL

Being physical can be about the activities that you enjoy together and yet for most it’s all about the sexual connection between the two of you. | "Sex is more than an act of pleasure, it’s the ability to be able to feel so close to a person, so connected, so comfortable that it’s almost breathtaking to the point that you feel that you can’t take it and at that moment you are a part of them." —Thom York Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/26/201932 minutes, 25 seconds
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546: CHRISTMAS (EVE) MAGIC

Make this a night you'll both remember. Learn about what the two of you can do to make your own Christmas Eve magic to start your holiday of right. | "Christmas magic is silent. You don’t hear it... You feel it. You know it. You believe it." —Anonymous Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/24/201922 minutes, 40 seconds
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545: DREAM AGAIN: PART 3 — SPEND TIME TOGETHER

Time is the one thing that when given can never be returned. Learn what you can do to create opportunities to spend time together. | "The best gift you could ever give someone is your time because you are giving them something your can never get back." —Anonymous Join Tony and Alisa for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/19/201932 minutes, 1 second
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544: HOLIDAY SEX

It's the most wonderful time of the year! Learn about what the two of you can do to have better holiday sex no matter where you are celebrating. | "I already have what I want for Christmas and it’s you." —Anonymous Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/17/201931 minutes, 38 seconds
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543: DREAM AGAIN: PART 2 — BRIDGING THE EMOTIONAL GAP

Learn how the two of you can bridge the emotional gap that you are currently experiencing in your marriage and reconnect once again. | "It’s a shame when things that are on your mind or in your heart never reach your lips." —Anonymous Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today at http://oneliveevents.com! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/12/201930 minutes
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542: GIVE YOUR MARRIAGE AN UPGRADE

What if you chose to upgrade yourself? Learn about the mindset around what you choose to upgrade and how that mindset impacts your marriage. | "You’ve upgraded your technology but you’ve not upgraded yourself." —Eric Thomas Join Tony and Alisa for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today at http://OneLiveEvents.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/10/201933 minutes, 30 seconds
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541: DREAM AGAIN: PART 1 — THE POWER OF A DREAM

The dreams that you have for your marriage are so important. Learn what happens to you and your spouse when you come together and dream again. | "Man alone has the power to transform his thoughts into a physical reality; man, alone, can dream and make his dreams come true." —Napoleon Hill Join Tony and Alisa for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today at http://OneLiveEvents.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/5/201930 minutes, 30 seconds
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540: THE INTIMACY LIFESTYLE DURING TOUGH SEASONS

The unexpected does happen. Learn about what you have to do to keep the intimacy lifestyle going when tough seasons come your way. | "One cannot plan for the unexpected." —Anonymous Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today at http://oneliveevents.com! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/3/201930 minutes, 30 seconds
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539: LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX: PART 6 — WHEN HEALTH GETS IN THE WAY

What happens when health gets in the way of you being intimate with your spouse.An illness does not only impact you, it takes a toll on everything. | "When I is replaced with WE even Illness becomes Wellness. —Anonymous Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today at http://oneliveevents.com! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/28/201929 minutes
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538: A SIMPLE THANK YOU

Learn about the power that a simple thank you can have on your spouse and those around you. Sometimes it's the simple things that go a long way. | "Happiness isn’t getting what you want all the time. It’s about loving what you have and being grateful for it." —Anonymous Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today at http://OneLiveEvents.com! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/26/201927 minutes, 10 seconds
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537: LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX: PART 5 — TO OUR KIDS

Learn what you can do to have the sex talk with your kids in a healthy way. This is not a one and done conversation but one you can have as they grow. | "It would be irresponsible in this day and age not to talk to our kids about sex." —Katrina Farmer Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today at http://OneLiveEvents.com! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/21/201934 minutes, 50 seconds
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536: I DO MORE THAN YOU

Learn about what happens when you have this recurring statement in your mind, “I do more than you”. It's a form of score keeping in your marriage. | "The minute you start keeping score you’re destroying the relationship." —Tony Robbins Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today at http://oneliveevents.com! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/19/201930 minutes, 30 seconds
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535: LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX: PART 4 — AFTER HAVING KIDS

After having kids there are still two adults that need that physical connection to feel important, to feel loved and to feel valued. | "You’re not learning anything unless you are having the difficult conversations" —Gwyneth Paltrow Start your week off on the same page with your spouse. Take A Break... A Coffee Break this week. https://oneextraordinarymarriage.com/coffeebreak Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/14/201936 minutes
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534: SNIP SNIP IT'S TIME FOR A VASECTOMY

There are a lot of considerations for a couple to make when facing this big decision. Learn about what happens when you get the snip snip of a vasectomy. | "Life presents many choices, the choices we make determine our future." —Catherine Pulsifer Join Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo for a marriage conference unlike any other! Next year’s theme Dream Again will take you on a journey to experience your best marriage for years to come. Register today at http://oneliveevents.com! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/12/201932 minutes, 5 seconds
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533: LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX: PART 3 — WITH OUR FRIENDS

Let's talk about sex! Learn what’s OK to talk about and what’s not when it comes to sharing your sexual intimacy with your friends. | "Not every part of your personal life needs to be public." —Anonymous Grab Our Six Questions today. Six incredible questions to instantly break the silence with your spouse. http://oursixquestions.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/7/201929 minutes
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532: IF YOU LOVED ME

The statement “If you loved me” holds a lot of weight. Let's unpack this statement and the impact it has on both you and your spouse. | "Expectations can be premeditated resentments." —Anonymous Register for the Love Deeper Online Workshop. https//oneextraordinarymarriage.com/lovedeeper Learn about not just why you are the way that you are BUT how your two styles work together to create an extraordinary marriage. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/5/201932 minutes, 30 seconds
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531: LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX: PART 2 — AS NEWLYWEDS

Learning to talk about sex as a newly married couple is a skill. This week we are focusing on the sex conversations as newlyweds. | "Sex is... perfectly natural. It's something that's pleasurable. It's enjoyable and it enhances a relationship." —Sue Johnson Join the #1 Community for Couples That Want Better Sex... www.PositionOfTheMonthClub.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/31/201929 minutes
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530: SEX CHALLENGE

Get answers to your top sex challenge questions so that you and your spouse can reignite the connection inside your bedroom. | "Challenges (or a sex challenge) are what make life interesting. Overcoming them is what makes life meaningful." —Joshua J. Marine Start your own sex challenge today. Grab the Amazon best seller 7 Days of Sex Challenge: Rock Your Sex Life and You Marriage -- http://7DaysOfSex.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/29/201934 minutes, 10 seconds
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529: LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX: PART 1 — AN IMPORTANT CONVERSATION

Join in as this series will address the topic of talking about sex in different seasons of your marriage. It all starts with an important conversation. | "To make progress you have to learn to be comfortable being uncomfortable." —Anonymous Grab the 19 Questions to Amazing Sex to rekindle your sexual intimacy! http://oneextraordinarymarriage.com/19questions Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/24/201931 minutes, 10 seconds
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528: WHAT'S FOR DINNER

What's for dinner? Our delicious suggestions make it easy to answer this age-old question so that you and your family can sit down and eat. | "All great change in America (and the world) begins at the dinner table." —Ronald Reagan Join the #1 Community for Couples That What Better Sex... www.PositionOfTheMonthClub.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/22/201932 minutes, 55 seconds
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527: WALKING OUR FAITH: PART 3 — ACTS OF LOVE

Often times you speak of doing things in the name of love. Of caring for your spouses based on love and yet… What does it mean to demonstrate acts of love? | "Great achievement is usually born of great sacrifice and is never the result of selfishness." —Napoleon Hill Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/17/201930 minutes, 10 seconds
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526: INTIMACY REQUIRES VULNERABILITY

Vulnerability is not weakness, it's your greatest measure of courage. Learn the importance of vulnerability and its power to create a shift in you. | "Vulnerability is not winning or losing. It’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have NO control over the outcome." —Brene Brown Grab these 6 INCREDIBLE Questions To Instantly Break The Silence With Your Spouse -- http://oursixquestions.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/15/201930 minutes, 30 seconds
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525: WALKING OUR FAITH: PART 2 — BELIEFS ABOUT SPIRITUAL INTIMACY

Spiritual intimacy is just as important as the other intimacies and has the potential to be one of the most intimate of the intimacies. | "One difficult conversation is better than a bunch of conversations that avoid the truth." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/10/201930 minutes, 20 seconds
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524: WHEN REJECTION HAPPENS

Learn what happens when rejection becomes a source of pain leaving both you and your spouse feeling frustrated inside and outside the bedroom. | "Often when you are rejected you think that you are not good enough. The truth is that they weren’t ready for all you have to offer." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/8/201930 minutes, 45 seconds
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523: WALKING OUR FAITH: PART 1 — GETTING STARTED

Spiritual intimacy is the sharing of your faith beliefs whatever that may be for you and your spouse. Learn how you can share and grow your faith. | "Our faith becomes stronger as we express it." —Billy Graham Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/3/201931 minutes
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522: LOVE LANGUAGE

There are 5 love languages. Learn how you can speak your spouse’s love language, especially when it’s different from yours. | "We assume that others show love in the same way that we do and if they don’t we worry the love isn’t there." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/1/201931 minutes, 15 seconds
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521: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 8 — GOLDEN YEARS

The golden years is a time where folks are starting their second life, couples aren’t slowing down as a new adventure awaits them and their marriage. | "Getting older is an adventure not a problem." —Betty Friedan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/26/201931 minutes, 45 seconds
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520: SEX OUTSIDE YOUR BEDROOM

Learn about having sex outside of your bedroom by using the many different rooms and areas available to you in your home. | "A change of scenery can help everything" —Drew Pomeranz Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/24/201928 minutes, 30 seconds
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519: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 7 — SANDWICH GENERATION

When you have kids to look after and parents who need care you're part of the sandwich generation. How do you do both and have time for your marriage? | "Parenting is the easiest thing in the world to have an opinion about and the hardest thing in the world to do." —Matt Walsh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/19/201930 minutes
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518: THE BENEFITS OF CUDDLING

There are many benefits of cuddling. Learn what you can do to get more cuddle time between the sheets with your spouse as you enhance your marriage. | "When you are in a relationship (especially a marriage) you should cuddle and kiss. Often. And a lot." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/17/201930 minutes, 55 seconds
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517: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 6 — GETTING OLDER

You're getting older. No matter how long you've been married you know that your body is not the same as it was when you first got married. | "You can’t help getting older but you don’t have to get old." —George Burns Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/12/201931 minutes, 10 seconds
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516: SEX OUT OF OBLIGATION

Learn what you can do when sex becomes an obligation. Break free of this pity sex cycle so you can enjoy sex with your spouse again. | "Sex is an art form not a chore." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/10/201930 minutes, 15 seconds
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515: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 5 — MOVING DAY

It's moving day. In this series we are exploring different circumstances that couples can find themselves in through the years of their marriage. | "All great changes are preceded by chaos." —Deepak Chopra Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/5/201931 minutes
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514: IDENTITY CRISIS

You're having an identity crisis. What happens when you face this in your marriage? Learn how you and your spouse can work through this season together. | "Identity cannot be found or fabricated but emerges from within when one has the courage to let go." —Doug Cooper Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/3/201931 minutes, 30 seconds
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513: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 4 — WORK LIFE BALANCE

Work life balance can evoke emotions of what marriage should look like and yet does it truly exist or should it be something you strive for in your life. | "Work is a rubber ball, if you drop it, it will bounce back. The other four balls-family, health, friends, integrity-are made of glass. If you drop one of these it will be irrevocably scuffed, nicked, perhaps even shattered." —Gary Keller Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/29/201928 minutes, 30 seconds
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512: THE CHATTER IN MY HEAD

Learn about taking control of the chatter in your head during sex and those thoughts that keep you from taking action in your marriage. | "When eagles are silent, parrots begin to chatter." —Winston Churchill Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/27/201933 minutes, 40 seconds
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511: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 3 — CHORE WAR

Learn how to stop fighting about housework, the chore war, and get on the same page so that the cleaning gets done around your house. | "Marrying is easy it’s housework that’s hard." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/22/201931 minutes, 45 seconds
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510: BACK TO SCHOOL

Learn what you can do to stay connected with your spouse when the kids go back to school (no matter if it's traditional, year around or homeschool). | "You learn something every day IF you pay attention." —Ray LeBlond Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/20/201931 minutes, 45 seconds
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509: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 2 — CHILD REARING YEARS

The child rearing years don’t end in the infant stage, they change over time and is one of the longest seasons that a couple will experience. | "Our children are not going to be just “our children” - they are going to be other people’s husbands and wives and the parents of our grandchildren." —Mary Calderon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/15/201929 minutes, 10 seconds
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508: MUTUAL MASTURBATION

Learn about mutual masturbation and its role in your marriage. Stimulating each other’s genitals is not only normal but a healthy part of sexual intimacy | "Sometimes the most important conversations are the most difficult to engage in." —Jeanne Phillips Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/13/201929 minutes, 50 seconds
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507: MARRIAGE THROUGH THE YEARS: PART 1 — NEWLY WED

Marriage changes over the years and that’s not just about how old you are but also how long you’ve been married. It starts when you're a newly wed. | "A wedding is an event, a marriage is a lifetime. Invest more in your marriage than your wedding and success is inevitable." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/8/201930 minutes, 30 seconds
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506: MARRIAGE IS A TEAM SPORT

You could say that marriage is a team sport. Learn what you can do so that yours is a place where you and your spouse are working together on the same team. | "Coming together is a beginning. Staying together is progress. Working together is success." —Henry Ford Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/6/201928 minutes, 55 seconds
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505: MONEY AND MARRIAGE: PART 6 — ESTATE PLANNING

When you look at estate planner remember that this is an act of love for those who will be in mourning and addressing your estate. | "Love begins by taking care of the closest ones-the ones at home." —Mother Theresa Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/1/201932 minutes, 55 seconds
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504: LONELINESS IN MARRIAGE

Learn what you can do when you are faced with feelings of loneliness and the challenges you need to overcome within your marriage. | "The most terrible poverty is loneliness and the feeling of being unloved." —Mother Theresa Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/30/201934 minutes, 30 seconds
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503: MONEY AND MARRIAGE: PART 5 — PLANNING FOR THE FUTURE

Whether your newly married or making the decision to go from separate to joint accounts. There comes a time when you need to discuss your future. | "Planning is bringing the future into the present so that you can do something about it now." —Alan Lakein Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/25/201933 minutes, 30 seconds
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502: FEEL MORE COMFORTABLE WHEN YOU TALK ABOUT SEX

Learn what you can do to equip yourself to feel more comfortable when you talk about different aspects of sex with your spouse. | "Be brave enough to start a conversation that matters." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/23/201932 minutes, 50 seconds
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501: MONEY AND MARRIAGE: PART 4 — SIDE HUSTLE

If you're looking to make some extra money, a side hustle might be just what you need. Learn how to pick one that will benefit you and your family. | "I never dreamed about success. I worked for it." —Estee Lauder Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/18/201933 minutes
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500: THE POWER OF A HUG

It's time to celebrate the 500th episode of the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show. Learn how a hug can transform your marriage and others in the ONE family. | "A hug is like a boomerang, you get it back right away." —Bil Keane Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/16/201934 minutes, 10 seconds
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499: MONEY AND MARRIAGE: PART 3 — DEALING WITH DEBT

Whether your newly married or making the decision to go from separate to joint accounts. What are the conversations around bringing your debt? | "Just because you can afford the payments doesn’t mean that you can afford the item." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/11/201931 minutes, 30 seconds
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498: EXPRESS YOUR SEXUAL DESIRES

Learn about the need for and the power in expressing your sexual desire to one another for life long connection.You need o feel desired and to act on it. | "True desire is expressed by action. Only action brings results." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/9/201934 minutes, 30 seconds
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497: MONEY AND MARRIAGE: PART 2 — THOSE MONEY CONVERSATIONS

In this series we are digging deep into the role of money in marriage.This is Part 2 on Money and Marriage: Those Money Conversations. | "Almost everyone is uncomfortable talking about money." —Olivia Mellan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/4/201931 minutes
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496: ADULT TOYS IN THE BEDROOM

Learn about the different types and styles of adult toys you can use in your bedroom. These are great to enhance your sexual connection. | "Just Play. Have fun. Enjoy the game." —Michael Jordan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/2/201931 minutes, 30 seconds
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495: MONEY AND MARRIAGE: PART 1 — BRINGING FINANCES TOGETHER

Whether your newly married or making the decision to go from separate to joint accounts. What are the conversations around bringing your finances together? | "Money is an opportunity to reach unity in marriage. When couples work together they can do anything." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/27/201930 minutes
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494: SEX BEFORE DATE NIGHT

Date nights have a lot of expectations. Learn what you can do to set yourself up to have sex before you go out on your date night. | "Life is uncertain. Eat dessert first." —Ernestine Ulmer FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/25/201929 minutes
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493: MEDIA AND MARRIAGE: PART 3 — WHERE ARE YOU SCROLLING

The Media and Marriage series explores the impact different forms of media have on your thoughts and actions. This week it's about where are you scrolling. | "Spend more time with people who make you forget to look at your phone." —Jay Shetty Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/20/201934 minutes
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492: SEXLESS MARRIAGE

Sexless marriage is exactly what it sounds like, a marriage in which husband and wife are not having sex for an extended period of time. | "Are you lovers or just roommates?" —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/18/201931 minutes, 30 seconds
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491: MEDIA AND MARRIAGE: PART 2 — WHAT ARE YOU WATCHING

The Media and Marriage series explores the impact different forms of media have on your thoughts and actions. This week it's the shows you're watching. | "Your diet isn’t only what you eat. It is what you watch, what you listen to, what you read and the people you hang around. Be mindful of the things that you put into your body spiritually, physically and emotionally." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/13/201930 minutes, 55 seconds
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490: ALCOHOL AND YOUR MARRIAGE

Learn about the impact that alcohol can have when it becomes a crutch to facing what's going on in your life and strategies to shift that dynamic. | "Every action that we take impacts the lives of those around us. The question is are YOU aware of YOUR impact?" —Arthur Carmazzi Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/11/201934 minutes, 45 seconds
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489: MEDIA AND MARRIAGE: PART 1 — WHAT ARE YOU LISTENING TO?

The Media and Marriage series explores the impact different forms of media have on your thoughts and actions. This week learn about what's in your ears. | "You are what you listen to." —Alicia Keyes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/6/201924 minutes, 55 seconds
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488: KEGEL TO BETTER SEX

Yes, both men and women can kegel to better sex. Learn why it important for you to tighten your pelvic floor muscles from time to time. | "The hardest thing about exercise is to start doing it. Once are doing exercise regularly the hardest thing to do is stop." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/4/201931 minutes, 30 seconds
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487: OUR MARRIAGE VOWS PART 5 — AS LONG AS LIFE SHALL LAST

Our Marriage Vows series explores each phrase of the wedding vows. This week we're wrapping up with the final line in your vows, As Long As Life Shall Last. | "Most people fail not because of a lack of desire, but because of a lack of commitment." —Vince Lombardi Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/30/201931 minutes, 40 seconds
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486: YOU NEED TO FIX OUR MARRIAGE

So many times this phrase YOU need to fix this comes as a result of frustration. Learn what to do when you hear, “You need to fix our marriage!” | "Marriage is like home maintenance. When the smoke detector starts beeping you fix it. You don’t buy a new house." —Amy Miller Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/28/201933 minutes, 20 seconds
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485: OUR MARRIAGE VOWS PART 4 — FOR BETTER OR WORSE

Our Marriage Vows series explores each phrase of the wedding vows. This week we’re going to discuss what it means when you said "for better or worse". | "More marriages might survive if partners realized that sometimes the for better comes after the for worse." —Doug Larson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/23/201933 minutes, 20 seconds
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484: KISS ME LIKE YOU MEAN IT

Learn about one of the most intimate and sometimes overlooked aspects of marriage, a long, passionate kiss between you and your spouse. | "I like kissing, kissing a lot" —Audrey Hepburn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/21/201931 minutes, 30 seconds
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483: OUR MARRIAGE VOWS PART 3 — FOR RICHER, FOR POORER

Throughout the Our Marriage Vows series we'll explore each phrase of the wedding vows. Learn what you were in for when you said “for richer, for poorer”. | "There is no my money, his money or her money in a successful marriage." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/16/201931 minutes, 30 seconds
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482: PLAN THE PERFECT VACATION

Learn what you can do to plan for the perfect vacation and what you need to do before you go and while you are vacationing. | "Never go on trips with someone you do not love." —Ernest Hemingway Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/14/201931 minutes, 30 seconds
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481: OUR MARRIAGE VOWS PART 2 — TO HAVE AND TO HOLD

Throughout the Our Marriage Vows series we'll explore each phrase of the wedding vows. Learn more about what it means when you said “to have and to hold”. | "And it’s still true, no matter how old you are, when you go into the world it is best to hold hands and stick together." —Robert Fulghum Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/9/201931 minutes, 30 seconds
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480: LEAVING THE TOILET SEAT UP

Learn about the tension that happens between you and your spouse when it comes to hair, clothes, and leaving the toilet seat up in your bathroom. | "Marriage is two people in love standing in the same bathroom." —Austin Kleon Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/7/201931 minutes, 40 seconds
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479: OUR MARRIAGE VOWS PART 1 — I TAKE YOU

Throughout this series we'll explore each phrase of the wedding vows and equip you to take action on them in your marriage. | "People with good intentions make promises. People with good character keep them." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/2/201926 minutes, 10 seconds
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478: DEEPEN YOUR SEXUAL CONNECTION

Learn how to have the sex talk again and again, what the obstacles are and how you overcome them to have a deep sexual connection. | "When we avoid challenging conversations we trade short term discomfort for long term dysfunction." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/30/201932 minutes, 10 seconds
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477: EMOTIONAL EXHAUSTION

Learn what happens when you experience emotional exhaustion and begin to feel like you have no power or control over what’s happening in your life. | "Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful." —Joshua J. Marine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/23/201933 minutes, 30 seconds
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476: WHEN “OK” IS NOT OK

What happens in your marriage when you say “I’m OK” and yet you’re not really OK? Learn how to break the cycle of saying you're OK when you're not. | "Don’t fake being OK. You only hurt yourself. Be real with what you are going through but don’t let it consume you." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/16/201931 minutes, 30 seconds
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475: TAX TIME

Learn about the dynamic that happens in your marriage when it comes to tax time, filing, owing and maybe even getting a refund. | "Spend your tax return. Because, really...you earned it." —Dayana Yochim Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/9/201931 minutes, 20 seconds
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474: OVERCOMING THE NO

Marriages become extraordinary when you choose connection. Learn about overcoming the no that you say when you don’t want to put forth the effort. | "Explain your feelings instead of acting them out and you will find solutions instead of arguments." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/2/201931 minutes, 30 seconds
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473: ROOMMATE SYNDROME

There are a number of contributors that lead to roommate syndrome. Learn what causes it, how long it lasts and what your spouse needs in this season. | "Nobody is too busy, it’s just a matter of priorities." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/26/201933 minutes, 30 seconds
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472: MAKE UP SEX

Learn about the phenomenon of make up sex and how you can use this time to heal, grow, and connect with your spouse after a fight. | "Every couple fights. Just make sure that the makeup sex ALWAYS lasts longer than the fights." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/19/201931 minutes, 30 seconds
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471: THE DANGER OF ISOLATION

You need the support of community to do this thing called marriage. Learn about the danger of isolation and why your marriage needs community. | "Isolation is the enemy of improvement." —Tony Wagner Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/12/201931 minutes, 30 seconds
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470: WHAT COLOR IS YOUR UNDERWEAR

The color of your underwear can make a difference. Learn what the color of your underwear says about you and the influence it has on your marriage. | "The best color in the world is the one that looks good on you." —Coco Chanel Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/5/201931 minutes, 30 seconds
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469: THOSE SWEET BEDROOM SOUNDS

Learn about those bedroom sounds (music, TV, sound machine) that are used to enhance or mask the noises that come from having sex. | "Music can change the world because it can change people." —Bono Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/26/201931 minutes, 30 seconds
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468: ORAL SEX FOR HIM AND FOR HER

Learn about oral sex for him and for her. If this is an area that you want to explore it's time to start the conversation. | "Oral sex can be foreplay, the main course or the dessert!" —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/19/201931 minutes, 29 seconds
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467: TIME FOR BED

What does that time before bed look like for you and your spouse? It's important to create a bedtime routine that brings the two of you together. | "Going to bed at night saying WE’VE done something wonderful. That’s what matters to me." —Steve Jobs Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/12/201931 minutes, 30 seconds
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466: THE CHALLENGE WITH A SEX CHALLENGE

Learn how you can overcome the biggest challenges to starting any sex challenge. It's a way to re-ignite your emotional and sexual connection. | "Treat objections as requests for further information." —Brian Tracy FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/5/201936 minutes, 30 seconds
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465: DATE NIGHT

Learn how you can make your date night more than dinner and a movie by getting creative with your time together. | "Live less out of habit and more out of intention." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/29/201931 minutes, 30 seconds
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464: BEING PREGNANT AND MARRIED

Pregnancy changes your life, you body, and your relationship to one another. Learn how you can be intentional when you’re married and pregnant. | "Your priorities aren't what you SAY they are. They are revealed by how you live. What does your life say about the value of your family and marriage?" —Jimmy Evans Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/22/201935 minutes, 20 seconds
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463: TIME FOR THE MONEY CONVERSATION

In this show show we will equip you and your spouse with the tools that you need to have the money conversation that haven’t been happening. | "Money problems destroy marriage, get on the same page with your spouse and work together toward a common goal." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/15/201931 minutes, 40 seconds
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462: GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD AND INTO YOUR BED

Learn the importance of being in the moment by getting out of your head and into your bed to experience a heightened level of sexual intimacy. | "Overthinking ruins you, ruins the situation, twists things around, makes you worry and just makes everything much worse than it is." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/8/201932 minutes, 20 seconds
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461: IN THE MOMENT

Learn what it means to be in the moment and the best ways that the two of you can accomplish this in your emotional intimacy. | "Realize deeply that the present moment is all that you have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/1/201931 minutes, 30 seconds
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460: MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM AROUND THE WORLD

On this December 25th we wish you and your spouse a very Merry Christmas. We're truly honored and blessed to have you part of the ONE family. | The magic of Christmas never ends and it’s greatest of gifts are family and friends! —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/25/201821 minutes, 30 seconds
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459: TRADITIONS

What is it about traditions that makes them so important. Learn about those fun Christmas traditions that create connection and memories with your family. | "At the heart of every family tradition is a meaningful experience." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/18/201830 minutes, 59 seconds
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458: BETTER THAN YESTERDAY

Don't let perception and comparison can get in the way of action. Learn how your attitude and behavior can make today better than yesterday. | "You can’t have a better tomorrow if you are thinking about yesterday all the time." —Charles Kettering Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/11/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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457: 12 SEXY DAYS OF CHRISTMAS

Add your own little twist to the traditional 12 Days of Christmas by having the 12 Sexy Days of Christmas to build your intimacy and connection. | "Success is where preparation and opportunity meet." —Bobby Unser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/4/201831 minutes, 15 seconds
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456: BEING INTIMATE THIS HOLIDAY SEASON

Your marriage needs you to be intimate no matter what the season. Learn how the two of you can build deeper intimacy during this holiday season. | "It's the hap-happiest season of all. With those holiday greetings and gay happy meetings. When friends come to call. It's the hap-happiest season of all." —Andy Williams Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/27/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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455: EXPRESSING GRATITUDE

Learn what can happen when you’re focusing on the power of gratitude to change how you see your spouse and your marriage. | "The miracle of gratitude is that it shifts your perception in to such an extent that it changes the world you see." —Dr. Robert Holden Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/20/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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454: DEALING WITH THE IN-LAWS

Your in-laws can create a dynamic especially around the holidays leaving you frustrated with the impact they have on your marriage. | "No one should come between you and your spouse. They should come alongside you but not between you." —Ashley McIlwain Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/13/201833 minutes, 50 seconds
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453: FEAR IS CRIPPLING MARRIAGES

Learn about how fear can cripple your marriage and what you can do to recapture your joy and confidence to live the extraordinary marriage you desire. | "When we invite fear, doubt or worry to occupy seats in the boardroom of our heart, all kinds of things can wreck the joy of our marriages." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/6/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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452: MULTIPLE ORGASMS

Learn about multiple orgasms for both women and men, and how this information can change what happens in the bedroom. | "The only thing better than having an orgasm? Having another orgasm." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/30/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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451: QUANTITY AND QUALITY SEX LIFE

Learn the challenge of having both the quantity AND quality sex life your desire and what you can do to begin changing both of those. | "Quality is never the result of an accident. It is always the result of intelligent effort." —John Ruskin Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/23/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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450: THOSE BODILY FUNCTIONS

Learn the many different bodily functions that regularly occur in your body as well as those that happen with your spouse. | "Never trust a girl who doesn’t fart, you don’t know what else she’s holding back from you." — Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/16/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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449: WHAT DID YOU SAY?

Your words have power. The power to build up or the power to destroy. What you say and how you say it has the power to build up or tear down your marriage. | "Words are free, it’s how you use them that may cost you." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/9/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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448: WORKING OUT FORGIVENESS

Learn how forgiveness is the key to unlocking the joy you desire as you experience real growth and connection with your spouse. | "Don’t let the past limit the future." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/2/201835 minutes, 10 seconds
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447: MAKE INTIMACY A PRIORITY

Learn how to make intimacy a priority, what you need to consider and how to get started. | "Great things never come from inside the comfort zone." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/25/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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446: MORNING SEX

Learn the impact of morning sex on your marriage and how it can become a valuable resource in your relationship. | "Every morning starts a new page in your story. Make it a great one today." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/18/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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445: WE DIDN'T KNOW

We didn’t know that in order to go to the next level there was something very important that we need to do and that was to ask for help. | "When I first met you I honestly didn’t know how important you were going to be to me." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/11/201831 minutes, 45 seconds
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444: KEEP THE ROMANCE ALIVE

Learn about the state of romance in marriage and what you can do to keep the romance alive with your spouse. | "I fell in love with the way that you touched me without using your hands." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/4/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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443: HONEST TRUTH ABOUT THE FEMALE ORGASM

Learn the honest truth about the female orgasm and how the two of you can discuss this topic as well as experience joy in this area. | "It takes 237 muscles to fake an orgasm, but only 15 to say, "It's called a clitoris and it's right here."" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/28/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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442: NEVER TOO OLD FOR SEX

It doesn’t matter how old you are you can still enjoy sex! Learn how you and your spouse can have an amazing sex life well into your later years of life. | "You can’t help getting older but you don’t have to get OLD." —George Burns Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/21/201831 minutes, 20 seconds
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441: CRITICAL FEEDBACK

Feedback is not a bad thing...it’s all about how it’s delivered. Learn how the two of you handle critical feedback in your marriage. | "Giving honest and well intended feedback is often confused with being mean. It’s not mean. It’s nice." —Robert Kiyosaki Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/14/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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440: WHAT MEN GET FROM FOREPLAY

Learn what you can do to make foreplay a time when you are both heigtening the sexual arousal and the desire for sexual activity. | "Don’t rush through foreplay. Play with each other until you can’t take it anymore." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/7/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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439: STOP SERVING THOSE LEFTOVERS

Learn about the dangers of serving up the leftovers to your spouse over and over again and how to turn this around in your marriage. | "Most couples make the mistake of giving each other the remains of the day. The leftover time after every other relationship and task has been attended to. This is not only backwards, but destructive. Stellar partners give each other prime time, and make each other their top priority." — Dr. Rhoberta Shaler Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/31/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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438: DO THE OPPOSITE

Learn what happens to the two of you when you choose to do the opposite of what you feel like doing in difficult situations. | "In order to carry a positive action we must develop here a positive vision." —Dalai Lama Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/24/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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437: THE ART OF MANSCAPING

Manscaping is the removal or trimming of hair on a man's body for cosmetic effect. Learn the impact that it can have on you and your marriage. | "I think grooming is undervalued by men. We expect women to be fully groomed which they do. But I also think it’s just as important for a man to look clean and fresh." —Lewis Hamilton Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/17/201831 minutes, 50 seconds
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436: SEX DURING HER PERIOD

Learn about the possibilities of having sex while she’s on her period, how the two of you navigate that conversation and what factors you might need to consider. | "Do not be too timid or squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment." —Ralph Waldo Emerson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/10/201831 minutes, 40 seconds
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435: HE'S NOT YOUR CHILD

Learn the dynamic that occurs in a marriage when a wife refers to her husband as a child and what the two of you can do to change that. | "Handle them carefully, for words have more power than atom bombs." —Strachan Hurd Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/3/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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434: LESSONS FROM THE BEACH

Marriage is an adventure and it’s one of the most amazing journeys the two of you will ever be on. Learn the marriage lessons from time spent at the beach. | "Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/26/201831 minutes, 50 seconds
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433: SETTING UP GUARDRAILS

Guardrails are systems that YOU put in place that allow you to be proactive about your marriage rather than reactive after things go wrong. | "Guardrails: No one needs one until they do." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/19/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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432: THE END OF REJECTION

Learn about the impact rejection has on a spouse’s willingness to initiate again and what the two of you can do to turn this around. | "Being afraid of things going wrong isn’t the way to make things go right." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/12/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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431: MARRIAGE BUILDING HABITS

You have the power to create new habits around your sex life, with conversations or with anything you do in your marriage. | "A bad habit never disappears miraculously. It’s an un-do-it-yourself project." —Abigail Van Buren (Dear Abby) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/5/201832 minutes
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430: SEXUALLY SATISFIED

Learn what to do in your marriage when one of you is not sexually satisfied. It's important to have a healthy understanding of yourself and earnest pursuit of pleasing your spouse as you grow together. | "It’s hard to be satisfied with your life (or your marriage), if you are never satisfied with yourself." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/29/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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429: SUMMER LOVIN'

Learn how to keep your summer lovin’ going through those hot nights, vacations, kiddos running around the house and all that comes during this season. | "There is always that one summer that changes you." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/22/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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428: DOES THIS OUTFIT MAKE ME LOOK FAT

Learn how to break away from sabotaging your marriage with a question such as “Does this outfit make me look fat?” | "Never, ever underestimate the power of your words to build up or tear down the fabric of your marriage." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/15/201831 minutes, 20 seconds
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427: TALKING TO YOUR KIDS ABOUT SEX

Learn why it is important to make the most of every opportunity to talk about sex with your kids. | "The greatest enemy of sexual wholeness today, is silence." —Mark Lasser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/8/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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426: SEX IS GOOD FOR YOUR HEALTH

Learn how your bedroom and more specifically sex with your spouse could have an impact on your overall health. | "Most people have no idea how good their body is designed to feel." —Kevin Trudeau Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/1/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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425: OH BABY!

Learn the impact that having a baby can have on a marriage and how the two of you can maintain intimacy, in all areas after the baby comes. | "Remember that children, marriages and gardens reflect the kind of care they get." —H Jackson Brown Jr. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/24/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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424: ANATOMY OF AN ERECTION

Learn how and why a man’s penis becomes firmer, engorged and enlarged, or better known as an erection. | "The pursuit of knowledge is never ending. The day you stop seeking knowledge is the day you stop growing." —Travis Ciaccio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/17/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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423: PAYCHECK TO PAYCHECK

Learn about the challenges of living paycheck to paycheck and it’s impact on your marriage, especially in the bedroom. | "Money is an opportunity to reach unity in marriage. When couples work together they can do anything." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/10/201832 minutes, 30 seconds
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422: WHAT IS THE INTIMACY LIFESTYLE

Learn how the intimacy lifestyle can become a part of your marriage and we'll answer your questions on how to best set it up. | "The capacity to learn is a gift. The ability to learn is a skill. The willingness to learn is a choice." —Brian Herbert Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/3/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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421: TELLING YOUR SPOUSE YOU STRUGGLE WITH PORN

Learn about the harm that comes from lying about porn and how to handle the gift of truth when it’s brought into the light. | "The truth may hurt for a little while but a lie hurts forever." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/27/201831 minutes, 29 seconds
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420: CONFIDENCE IN THE BEDROOM

Learn how you can develop the confidence muscle if you are willing to stretch yourself and when you do you'll increase your confidence in the bedroom. | "Self confidence is the best outfit, rock it and own it." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/20/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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419: WE HAVE TROUBLE TALKING

There are many couples that have trouble talking. Learn what to do when the two of you have trouble talking in your marriage. | "Daring greatly means the courage to be vulnerable. It means to show up and be seen. To ask for what you need. Talk about how you are feeling. To have the hard conversations." —Brene Brown Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/13/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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418: CAUGHT IN THE COMPARISON TRAP

There are times when you can be so focused on other people’s lives that you have stopped living your own. Learn the destructive nature of comparison and how you can refocus on your marriage. | "Every minute you spend wishing you had someone else’s life is a minute spent wasting yours." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/6/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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417: CRYSTAL CLEAR

Learn about the challenges you face with your communication when words are not crystal clear and share seven words that will help you clear up the confusion. | "Clarity comes from action, not thought." —Marie Forleo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/27/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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416: A LONG HOT SHOWER

Learn what can happen when you take off your clothes as you step into the power of a long hot shower to create a connection in your marriage. | "Let’s go take a hot shower. It’s like a normal shower but with us in it." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/20/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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415: WHAT'S YOUR LOVE STORY

Learn about the ebb and flow of our love story and why sharing your love story can make an impact on both of you. | "Every love story is beautiful but ours is my favorite." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/13/201831 minutes, 50 seconds
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414: SEXPLORATION

Learn how your sexploration, choosing to explore your sexual intimacy as a couple, impacts both of you as well as your relationship dynamics. | "We live in a wonderful world that is full of beauty, charm and adventure. There is no end to the adventures that we can have if only we seek them with our eyes wide open." —Jawaharlal Nehru FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/6/201832 minutes, 10 seconds
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413: LIKE A BROKEN RECORD

Learn what happens when you feel like areas of your marriage are a broken record, playing the same negative scenes over and over again and what you can do to start to create change. | "You can’t change what’s going on around you until you change what’s going on within you." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/30/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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412: HOW ABOUT THESE POSITIONS

Learn how you can change the atmosphere inside and outside your bedroom when you have more than one sexual position. | "Variety is the spice of life. We all want surprises." —Tony Robbins FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/23/201831 minutes, 30 seconds
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411: FORGIVENESS WILL SET YOU FREE

It’s time to change how you view forgiveness. Learn about the destructive nature of unforgiveness and what happens when you let forgiveness into your heart. | "When you hold onto anger and unforgiveness you can’t move forward." —Mary J Blige FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/16/201831 minutes, 40 seconds
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410: FIND YOUR PRECIOUS MOMENTS EACH WEEK

Learn about making time for the two of you as a couple, why you need to do this and where you can find those precious moments. | "The greatest gift you can give someone is your time. Because when you are giving your time you are giving a portion of your life that you can never get back." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/9/201831 minutes, 39 seconds
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409: WHAT CAN I DO

If you want to create an extraordinary marriage, it starts with one question and only one question...What Can I Do? | "It’s easy to blame others when things are broken. The hard part is recognizing the part you played in it all." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/2/201833 minutes
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408: WRAPPING UP THIS SEASON

Learn about transitioning from one season to another and how you can make the next season the best ever in your marriage. | "There will come a time when you think everything is finished. That will be the beginning." —Louis L’Amour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/26/201731 minutes, 40 seconds
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407: SEXY GAMES TO HEAT THINGS UP

Learn how you can heat things up in your bedroom by playing some sexy games together. | "Just play, have fun, enjoy the game." —Michael Jordan FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/19/201732 minutes, 15 seconds
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406: FAKING IT

Learn what happens when you are faking your happiness during the holidays, in social situations and with your spouse in the bedroom. | "Saying you’re happy isn’t the same thing as being happy." —Anonymous FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/12/201731 minutes, 55 seconds
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405: WE DID IT! NOW WHAT?

Learn what comes after you complete the 7 Days of Sex Challenge and how you can continue to grow and strengthen the physical intimacy in your marriage. | "I didn’t come this far to only come this far." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/5/201731 minutes, 40 seconds
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404: ROCK YOUR SEX LIFE

Learn how you can rock your sex life and change the dynamics in your marriage in just seven days. | "A lot could happen in a week. Just look at the last one." —Julia Quinn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/28/201732 minutes
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403: A THANKFUL HEART

Learn about the impact being thankful has on your marriage and how you can increase your gratitude awareness any time of the year. | "When I started counting my blessings my whole life turned around." —Willie Nelson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/21/201731 minutes, 25 seconds
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402: HOLIDAY MARRIAGE HACKS

Learn about those special marriage hacks that you can do to make this the most amazing holidays you will celebrate with your spouse. | "It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way that you carry it. "—Lou Holtz Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/14/201731 minutes, 40 seconds
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401: MOAN OUT LOUD

Learn about the impact you have on yourself and your spouse when you moan and verbalize your pleasure during sexual intimacy. | "There’s nothing more exciting than hearing your spouse moan in pleasure and knowing you are responsible for it." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/7/201732 minutes
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400: HUGS FROM NEAR AND FAR

Over the last 399 shows you have meant a lot to the ONE Family. And this show is all about you as we share hugs from near and far! | “Remember to celebrate milestones as you prepare for the road ahead.” —Nelson Mandela Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/31/201735 minutes
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399: WORK SPOUSE DANGER

The slippery slope of having a work spouse is real. Learn what you need to do to put guardrails around yourself and marriage to protect yourself. | "Most people involved in emotional affairs will downplay the seriousness of the event by claiming that they are just friends or it’s not big deal, nothing happened." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/24/201731 minutes, 45 seconds
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398: THE HOLIDAYS ARE COMING

Thanksgiving and Christmas are almost here. Learn what you can do to get on the same page with your financial intimacy as the holidays approach. | "Planning for Thanksgiving and Christmas should take place months in advance. They are not a surprise." —Dave Ramsey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/17/201731 minutes, 30 seconds
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397: FEELING REJECTED

Learn what to do with those feelings you have when you are rejected or when you reject your spouse and what you can do to create change in your marriage. | "Rejection doesn’t mean that you aren’t good enough. It means the other person failed to notice what you have to offer." —Sam Keen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/10/201732 minutes, 10 seconds
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396: HONOR YOUR WORDS

You spoke your vows on your wedding now now learn what you can do to honor those words you spoke through tough times and good times. | "You come to love not by finding the perfect person BUT by learning to love an imperfect person perfectly." —Sam Keen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/3/201731 minutes, 45 seconds
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395: THAT TIME OF THE MONTH

A woman's period happens every month. Learn how you can stay connected physically and emotionally when it’s that time of the month in your home. | "A great marriage is made of two people who continuously put their vows ahead of their feelings." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/26/201731 minutes, 30 seconds
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394: TOTALLY EXHAUSTED

The truth is that we spend so much time being exhausted that often we don’t even realize that it’s impacting our marriages. | Survival mode is supposed to be a phase that helps save your life. It’s not meant to be how you live your life. —Michele Rosenthal Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/19/201731 minutes, 20 seconds
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393: IS YOUR VIBRATOR A CRUTCH?

Learn how the vibrator might be a crutch for your sexual intimacy and what it might look like to consider a different path. | "Don’t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great." —John D. Rockefeller Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/12/201731 minutes, 25 seconds
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392: CAN'T SEEM TO DO ANYTHING RIGHT

If you find yourself in a place where you can’t do anything right OR thinking that your spouse can’t do anything right your marriage has a big problem. | "Why can’t my spouse see just how much I am trying." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/5/201732 minutes, 30 seconds
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391: LUBE IT UP

Pull out the lubricant and get ready to enjoy some special one on one time together. | "...friction is likely to generate heat instead of progress." —George Eliot Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/29/201731 minutes, 35 seconds
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390: ENOUGH DRAMA ALREADY

Creating drama can hurt your marriage. Learn what you can do instead to build up, strengthen and support one another. | Don’t start drama and then say you hate drama. —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/22/201731 minutes, 37 seconds
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389: WE CAN HANDLE IT

The two of you can handle the storms in your marriage while becoming united in your commitment to one another like never before. | Relax. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You are living and learning. Forgive yourself and grow from the experience." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/15/201732 minutes, 20 seconds
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388: SHOULD AN ORGASM BE THE ULTIMATE GOAL

Should an orgasm be the ultimate goal for you and your spouse every time you have sex? | Once your learn to appreciate the small victories there is no need for a finish line. —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/8/201732 minutes, 55 seconds
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387: WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING AT?

Stop looking down at your phone. It's important to know where your eyes are looking and the message that they send to your spouse. | I love the look you give me when you really want me." —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/1/201731 minutes, 30 seconds
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386: RULES FOR A BETTER MARRIAGE

Learn what you can do now to make your marriage better tomorrow, next week and for years to come. | It’s not about being the best. It’s about being better than you were yesterday. —Anonymous | Subscribe to the show today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/25/201731 minutes, 40 seconds
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385: WHAT DO YOU WANT IN THE BEDROOM?

Learn the different ways to let your spouse know what you like about your sexual intimacy in the bedroom. It's worth every word. | We all need people who will give us feedback. That’s how we improve. —Bill Gates Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/18/201732 minutes, 50 seconds
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384: BEING SENSUAL

Learn what you can do to be sensual and how you can share these ideas with your spouse. | Being sensual in your marriage doesn’t end on the honeymoon, your marriage needs all 5 senses working throughout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/11/201731 minutes, 30 seconds
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383: CANCER CAN'T STOP THE ADVICE FROM A FATHER

Learn the responsibility and impact a father has to give sound advice to his children on living a marriage for years to come. | Son, don’t cheat. I’ve had plenty of opportunities over the years but it’s like this...why would I go out for a hamburger when I have a steak at home. —Carmen DiLorenzo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/4/201731 minutes, 40 seconds
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382: FOREPLAY FUN

Learn why foreplay is a powerful skill you need to know as you lead up to intercourse. | Go down a water-slide without any water and you will understand why foreplay is important. —Anonymous Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/27/201731 minutes, 30 seconds
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381: SUMMER FUN

Learn a number of different date ideas you can enjoy so your marriage doesn’t take a vacation during all your summer fun. | Remember the tans will fade but the memories will last forever. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/20/201732 minutes, 10 seconds
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380: THE ULTIMATE MARATHON

Learn how your commitment to marriage is the ultimate marathon with an unknown finish line. | Your marriage vows say for as long as life shall last NOT until you get tired or you don’t want to anymore. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/13/201731 minutes, 40 seconds
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379: WHEN HE CAN'T ORGASM

You are not just waiting in vain. There is a purpose behind every delay. —Mandy Hale | Learn about the reasons why he can’t orgasm and how the two of you can get through this together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/6/201731 minutes, 40 seconds
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378: LET'S HAVE MIND-BLOWING SEX

Your life does not get better by chance it gets better by change. —Jim Rohn | Learn how you can have mind-blowing sex and surprisingly it has very little to do with the act itself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/30/201732 minutes, 30 seconds
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377: I'M OFFENDED

If you take everything personally, you will remain offended for the rest of your life. What other people do is because of them, not you. —Vivian Benson | Learn what happens when you are offended and how to work through offense with your spouse. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/23/201731 minutes, 45 seconds
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376: THOSE PARENTING BEHAVIORS

Each generation will reap what the former generation has sown. —Chinese Proverb | Learn how to break free of those negative parenting behaviors that have held you back from having the extraordinary marriage you desire. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/16/201731 minutes, 30 seconds
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375: WHEN TRANSITIONS HAPPEN

"Honor the space between no longer and not yet." —Nancy Levin When you are married, transitions don’t only affect you, they also affect your spouse. Transitions can impact the different intimacies in your marriage. Marriage is full of transitions: First house First baby Moves Job changes Job losses Taking care of kids Taking care of your parents One income Two incomes Kids becoming adults And the list goes on You can seemingly be going along thinking... "Ah, life is good, we’ve got everything figured out", then BAM transition comes. Or, you’re planning for a natural transition, kids growing up, buying a house, moving and yet, no matter how much you plan for it, there are still situations in that transition that catch you off guard. Everyone handles transitions differently. Some people jump right in, put their blinders on and power through whatever that change is. Some people can become paralyzed with all of the decisions that have to be made, they can feel helpless in those seasons, not knowing which way is the right way to go and so they withdraw from doing anything. For some, transitions feel very uncertain, and there is a high level of fear. For others, the transitions may be unwelcome or unplanned and there is a high level of anger or sadness. All of these reactions will impact you and your spouse. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about how you can navigate life, work and other transitions you will face together as a team. EPISODE SPONSOR | HelloFresh HelloFresh is the meal kit delivery service that makes cooking fun, easy, and convenient! Each week HelloFresh creates new delicious recipes with step-by-step instructions designed to take around 30 minutes. For novices to seasoned home-cooks who are short on time HelloFresh sources the freshest ingredients, measured to the exact quantities needed so there’s no food waste.  Take $30 off your first week of deliveries when you enter promo code OEM30. Other Resources: 140 - Scheduling Sex Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/9/201731 minutes, 40 seconds
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374: YOU’VE LOST THOSE LOVING FEELINGS

"Never stop showing someone how much they mean to you." Over time you have lost the anticipation and excitement of your relationship. Your marriage has become something you have to tolerate, something you have to survive or make it through. For some it's like the song from the Righteous Brother’s “You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling”. You may have lost that loving feeling and you're wondering on what to do next. Do you remember when the two of you were courting one another? There was anticipation and excitement when you would spend time together. During your courtship both of you invested in the relationship by getting to know one another, spending time together and being intentional about your time together. You prepared and thought about the other’s needs. You planned for dates, conversations, and everything else. It wasn’t just “anything goes” rather it was a season of “let me put my best foot forward. After the honeymoon and many years together your lives fall into routines. You have a comfort level with one another and if you are really truthful with yourselves you've become lazy in your marriage. Time together has not been important, you don’t do the little things anymore, you've stopped having conversations that meant so much when you were courting one another. You're beginning to hear these phrases more and more: This is too much work. You’re too needy. Why won’t you spend time with me? It's time to get those loving feelings back by courting your spouse like you did when you first meet. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about how you can have those loving feelings of affection and connection with your spouse once again. EPISODE SPONSOR | StoryWorth StoryWorth is an amazing way to preserve memories and to learn about your spouse, mom, dad or any relative or friend with their responses. Each week StoryWorth will send your loved one an email with a question to be answered (you can either choose from the questions provided or come up with your own). At the end of the year, the stories will be printed into a hardcover book. Don’t miss out on this opportunity to capture life’s most treasured moments. Grab your subscription to StoryWorth today! Other Resources: 3 Marriage Tips From A Pageant Coach Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/2/201732 minutes, 10 seconds
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373: ARE YOU UP FOR A SEX CHALLENGE

"Never be afraid to try something new BECAUSE life gets boring when you stay within the limits of what you already know." The first sex challenge we completed happened 9 years ago in the fall of 2008. We had been married 11 years and these years were not the best years. Two kids ages 2 and 5 years old had taken up much of our times We lived as roommates with little to no intimacy. It was at this time that we decided to take on the 60 Days of Sex Challenge. A bit crazy... Yes. Worth it... Absolutely. We had no idea at the time what would happen in our life when one question was asked and the one answer was given. The same thing is true in your marriage. There are so many pivot points in a relationship. So many times when you could go left or right, working with each other or working against each other. We made one decision, 9 years ago, to make sex a priority in our marriage, to go from living like roommates to living like lovers, to being open about our sexual needs and to being transparent in the bedroom, and out of it Your marriage can experience the same. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about what can happen in your marriage when the two of you take on a sex challenge. EPISODE SPONSOR | CanvasPeople.com CanvasPeople.com has a very easy to use Photo-to-Canvas service that takes your favorite photo memories and turns them into beautiful artwork for you to enjoy every day.  Instead of snapping that beautiful photo and letting it rot on your cell phone – you can bring that photo to life on your walls at home, in your office, or to give as a great gift. Limited Time Offer: Order an 11x14 canvas for FREE. All you pay for is shipping. Use Promo Code: marriage at checkout. Grab your FREE canvas today! Other Resources: Intimacy Ignited 7 Days of Sex Challenge 19 Questions to Amazing Sex Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/25/201731 minutes, 45 seconds
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372: STOP THE NAGGING

"She's not nagging. She's trying to tell you something. The only reason she's being persistent is because she cares. When she stops nagging, you should be worried because at that point she no longer cares." Nagging usually doesn’t start out as a problem in marriage. As time goes on though you begin to share things with your spouse that are bothering you. You don't see any change in behavior so you repeat yourself, over and over again. Then you get demanding. Sometimes you get mean and angry. Other times you get loud because you want to make sure they hear you. And still no results. You continue to nag and to you it seems that your spouse just ignores your requests. Why? Because nagging isn’t solving your communication problems. In fact it could be making  your communication worse. When nagging is present in your marriage, it’s time for both of you to evaluate what’s going on. If you are repeatedly nagging your spouse you need to ask yourself... Why aren’t your requests being heard or acted upon? Are you treating your spouse like a partner or like a child? Do they hear encouragement from you or is it only criticism? If you are continuously feeling nagged you need to ask yourself... What is my spouse trying to tell me and what action(s) do I need to take? What is my spouse pointing out that I don’t want to change or acknowledge? Nagging is a symptom that there is disconnect in your marriage and when nagging is present it’s time to take action. Nagging over time is incredibly destructive as it literally chips away at the foundation of your marriage, one comment at a time. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the impact of nagging on your marriage and the strategies you can use to stop this style of communication. EPISODE SPONSOR | CanvasPeople.com CanvasPeople.com has a very easy to use Photo-to-Canvas service that takes your favorite photo memories and turns them into beautiful artwork for you to enjoy every day.  Instead of snapping that beautiful photo and letting it rot on your cell phone – you can bring that photo to life on your walls at home, in your office, or to give as a great gift. Limited Time Offer: Order an 11x14 canvas for FREE. All you pay for is shipping. Use Promo Code: marriage at checkout. Grab your FREE canvas today! Other Resources: 295: The No Rejection Zone 334: The Emasculated Man 335: She’s Not Your Mother Feelings List Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/18/201731 minutes, 55 seconds
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371: YOU CAN BE A SPONTANEOUS LOVER

"Success isn’t a result of spontaneous combustion. You must set yourself on fire." —Arnold Glasgow For the most part your day-to-day activities are ruled by your calendars, by schedules, and by alerts popping up on your phone. It doesn’t matter how you stay organized, the fact is that you have ways to keep your time organized and keep you moving to the next thing. And then... It comes to your sex life. You desire spontaneity and yet your life is ruled by schedules. Or you are waiting for the perfect moment, the perfect energy level, the perfect number of chores, obligations and to-dos to be done. Waiting for all of these things to line up will cause you to miss out on opportunities to connect with your spouse. Instead begin to look for those opportunities to be spontaneous within the structure of your marriage. You desire a quick encounter and be a spontaneous lover but then you are not on the same wavelength with your spouse. There is a yearning to have sex outside of your bedroom and yet you don’t always know how to make that happen so it doesn't. Many of us often fight against structure or planning because we feel like it’s going to take away from our freedom. In actuality the opposite is true. Why? Because if you know the framework, the starting line, then anything is possible. For example, many of you have heard us talk about The Intimacy Lifestyle. We have structure only in the way that the days of the week have been split up. That’s our starting line. The creativity comes in when we choose our own ways to initiate. So let the fun begin as you become a spontaneous lover. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about how you can have fun and excitement in your bedroom by being a spontaneous lover. EPISODE SPONSOR | Called to Love: Experiencing Your Best Marriage Through the Words of Jesus Marriage doesn't have to be so complicated. There is a manual on how to do this thing called "happily ever after."  In Called to Love you will be equipped to look at your spouse the way that Jesus does, take time to pray for your marriage instead of throwing up your hands and saying, "Heaven help me" and transform your relationship into what God intended for your marriage when the two of you became one. Grab your copy of Called to Love and the audio book bonus today. Other Resources: 21 Ways to Initiate Sex With Your Spouse 001: 60 Days of Sex Jinshi Bamboo Boxer Briefs Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/11/201731 minutes, 50 seconds
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370: CHANGE STARTS WITH ME

"Being vulnerable is not a sign of weakness rather it is a sign of strength. It takes courage to let others into your world." —Anonymous As a couple you may be stuck. You may be stuck in the same routines. Maybe you're stuck in the same fights. Or you've noticed that your marriage is stuck in the same cycles. It’s as if every day is groundhog day. You wake up and the same day is repeated over and over again. This repetition in your marriage leads to feelings of boredom, discontentment and a lack of interest. Recently you’ve been asking yourself, "Is this is as good as it gets?" Well... If you are not willing to make a change it might be time. With a few tweaks you'd be amazed what could happen in your marriage. Here's the thing, to get something different you have to do something different. What are you willing to do in your marriage to experience a shift like never before? Where can you begin to change the environment in your marriage? How will stepping into a new habit impact what you do with your spouse? To get to extraordinary you need to stop waiting for your spouse to grow or change first and take the lead. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of taking action to create change in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Called to Love: Experiencing Your Best Marriage Through the Words of Jesus Marriage doesn't have to be so complicated. There is a manual on how to do this thing called "happily ever after."  In Called to Love you will be equipped to look at your spouse the way that Jesus does, take time to pray for your marriage instead of throwing up your hands and saying, "Heaven help me" and transform your relationship into what God intended for your marriage when the two of you became one. Grab your copy of Called to Love and the audio book bonus today. Other Resources: The Intimacy Wheel 15 Ways to Romance Your Spouse Over the Next 30 Days Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/4/201732 minutes, 15 seconds
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369: MEN NEED FRIENDS

"Men who trust other men will make fewer mistakes than he who distrusts them." —Camillo de Cavour When you think about your friendships as a kid and as an adult a few things stand out and the research is supporting this. During childhood both boys and girls have friends and often make deep friendships. From roughhousing on the playground to building with Legos, from competing on the sports field to running to winning the debate, there is a connection that boys have that as children often looks similar to girls. And then somewhere in those middle teenage years research says that the friendships boys have start to change. They don’t necessarily have that emotional connection, it’s not a place to be vulnerable and yet men need this as much as women. Think about the friends that each of you have. Maybe your friends are couple friends. You both share and hang out together on the weekends. Or the friends that you hang with are the husbands of your wives friends or the dads of your kids friends. Men need their own friends. Wives you can’t be everything for your husband. It’s not healthy for either of you. Husbands you need to hang out with men. Without deep, vulnerable friendships men live in a facade. They keep up the image at work, at home, everywhere and become more and more isolated. Truth is that men have the same emotional needs that women do, granted it looks different. Wives, you need to be encouraging your husband to grow strong, positive friendships with men who will encourage him to be a strong man and husband. Guys you need mentors and peers who will elevate who you are, who will provide you with that sounding board and understanding. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about why you as a man and husband need friends that will encourage, lift you up and support you through all seasons of life. EPISODE SPONSOR | Called to Love: Experiencing Your Best Marriage Through the Words of Jesus Transform your relationship into what God intended for your marriage when the two of you became one. Mark your calendars for April 4th because you’re not going to want to miss the release of Alisa's upcoming book, Called to Love. ONE Family sign up now as you will be receiving an extra special opportunity during the launch of the book. The finishing touches are happening to help you experience your best marriage. Get signed up today! Other Resources: Emerge Conference Maximized Manhood Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/28/201732 minutes, 5 seconds
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368: LAST LONGER IN BED

"We don’t grow when things are easy, we grow when we face challenges." —Anonymous You want to last longer and yet most of the time you ejaculate quicker than you'd like. When you orgasm within 1-3 minutes of penetration this is general considered premature ejaculation. 20-30% of men (and their partners) are impacted by what is considered the most common type of male sexual dysfunction. Here’s the thing... you are not alone. 60% of US men feel that this is embarrassing which equate to roughly 77 million men who are feeling challenged in this area of sexual intimacy. 37% of women say that they are disappointed with their partner finishes before they do. Due to media messages of what’s normal 40% of men are feeling self conscious about their performance. That’s a lot of stress around one of the most intimate areas of your relationship. All of that stress is not making things any easier for either of you as the impact on marriage can be devastating. In many marriages the husband feels less than or inadequate. The wife is frustrated that there is so much focus on lasting longer and not so much focus on growing the relationship. He doesn’t know what to say. She doesn’t know what to say. Over time having sex become awkward and the two of you feel more disconnected. Without conversation around the topic it can truly become a wait and see place of nothingness in your marriage. Which often leads to nothing in the bedroom, also known as a sexless marriage. It doesn’t have to be like this. You don’t have to stop talking when things aren’t going well. You also don’t have to feel helpless, like there’s nothing that you can do. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about what both you and your spouse can do in the moment to help you last longer in bed. EPISODE SPONSOR | Called to Love: Experiencing Your Best Marriage Through the Words of Jesus Transform your relationship into what God intended for your marriage when the two of you became one. Mark your calendars for April 4th because you’re not going to want to miss the release of Alisa's upcoming book, Called to Love. ONE Family sign up now as you will be receiving an extra special opportunity during the launch of the book. The finishing touches are happening to help you experience your best marriage. Get signed up today! Other Resources: Essential Oil Diffuser Promescent Prolonging Delay Spray Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/21/201732 minutes, 40 seconds
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367: I CAN’T TALK ABOUT SEX

"When you can’t talk about your sex life there’s a connection that the two of you are missing out on." —Anonymous The world that you live in is hypersexualized and yet couples struggle with talking about their sex life with each other. How-to talk about sex is everywhere... it's on TV, on magazine covers, right here on the internet, with your friends but, when couples are asked if they are talking about sex the answer more often than not is "no". As a spouse in a committed relationship you may experience these thoughts: I don’t even know what I want. I’m not comfortable asking for what I want. What if my spouse says no. Our marriage already has enough rejection. My parents never talked about sex why should we. I don’t know how to start the conversation. These thoughts are swirling around your head as you think about having a deeper sexual experience. The thing is there is no way for your spouse to meet your needs sexually if you won’t tell them. Just because you don’t know how to do something doesn’t mean that silence or avoiding it is the best remedy. These emotions of fear, frustration and rejection can, over time create a huge amount of distance or disconnect in your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what you can do to overcome the challenge of not talking about your sex life so that you can try something new. EPISODE SPONSOR | HelloFresh HelloFresh is the meal kit delivery service that makes cooking fun, easy, and convenient! Each week HelloFresh creates new delicious recipes with step-by-step instructions designed to take around 30 minutes. For novices to seasoned home-cooks who are short on time HelloFresh sources the freshest ingredients, measured to the exact quantities needed so there’s no food waste.  Take $35 off your first week of deliveries when you enter promo code OEM. Other Resources: 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/14/201734 minutes, 40 seconds
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366: LET’S GO TO BED

"The moment when he rolls over, puts his arm around me and pulls me closer, in his sleep. I like that." —Country Thang Many marriages are suffering from some lack of connection. Often it’s due to our busy schedules and the commitments that keep us running around like crazy. Maybe it’s the kids or your parents who have you running around. Work, volunteering and keeping the house inside and out add a lot to your plate. Then the end of the day comes and all you want to do is veg out. Not just from the world but also from each other. And when couples stops going to bed with each other they miss out on that chance for connection. You miss out on: Cuddling before falling asleep. Conversations that happen in the quiet of your bedroom away from the kids. Random spooning in the middle of the night. Spontaneous sex because the two of you are in the same place at the same time and the door is already locked. Early morning snuggles when your hair is a mess and you have your sleepy face. You and your spouse are desperate for connection and yet you choosing to miss out on this time that you simply cannot get back. Being together in the same bed is all about non-verbal communication. It’s about being together. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the impact that going to bed together has on your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Days of Sex Challenge Total Package With so many couples struggling with how or when to make sexual intimacy happen it’s time to take the guess work out of wondering when you are going to get some. This package includes the 7 Days of Sex Challenge ebook, audiobook and kindle versions along with 4 bonuses. Get your 7 Days of Sex Challenge Total Package TODAY! Other Resources: 6 Benefits of Cuddling With Your Spouse Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/7/201732 minutes
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365: I HAVE A HEADACHE… LET’S HAVE SEX

"Sex solves most problems including headaches." —Anonymous You have a crazy headache, while on vacation, with plans to have sex, on the only night you have away from your kids. You take a nice nap to see if that would take care of it and it didn’t. You still have a headache. You're still in the hotel room you booked. And... you still have a spouse with the expectation that this is your opportunity for sex. What if having sex during this time will help your headache go away? Most of the times it's used as an excuse, an obstacle or a form of rejection. The next time you are about to say, "Not tonight, I have a headache", what if you said, "Yes, tonight! I want to get rid of this headache." What if an orgasm could relieve the pain of your headache? What if when you're not feeling well you could turn to your spouse for comfort instead of pushing them away? What if sex became the treatment to embrace instead of the action to avoid? In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about changing your mindset from “I can't have sex because I have a headache to let's have sexual because I have a headache.” EPISODE SPONSOR | 11 Must Have Items for Your Bedroom Discover a hit-list of all the top items we’ve used in the last 20 years of marriage to ignite intimacy, connection and comfort in the most important room of all — the bedroom! Use this list to take this show and the ideas in it to the next level as you build your toolbox with resources to make awake sex even more extraordinary. Get 11 Must Have Items for Your Bedroom NOW! Other Resources: Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/28/201732 minutes
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364: VACATION EXPECTATIONS

"In life it’s not where you go, it’s who you travel with.” —Charlie Schultz There are times when your vacations don’t always go as planned. You have your expectations for everything. From how relaxing it’s going to be to how often the two of you are going to have sex. You think about the adventures you are going to go on, the shows you will see, the relaxing you are going to do and the money you will spend during your trip. And then, you have instances like we have had on our last couple of vacations where we have discussed the sex part but no expectations about anything else. When you go on vacation with expectations that you don’t share with your spouses or you don't have a plan for high stress situations on vacation then the wheels can fall off of a good vacation. Been there, done that! You find yourself remembering the drama instead of the good times. That’s not why you go on vacation. You're not looking for more drama, you want to have an amazing time with your spouse and enjoy this time together. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about communicating to each other those vacation expectations you have so you experience the best travel possible. EPISODE SPONSOR | Connect Like You Did When You First Met — Free Softcover Book Hidden inside this book you’ll discover how to have fun, deep and meaningful conversations so you can connect with you spouse again. Get started on your emotional intimacy journey with your own softcover copy of Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couple PLUS 4 digital bonuses. Limited quantities available so get yours today. Other Resources: Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa 178: Sexpectations 334: The Emasculated Man 335: She’s Not Your Mother Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/21/201731 minutes, 40 seconds
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363: HEATING UP YOUR BEDROOM

"Let’s cuddle so that I can steal your body heat.” —Anonymous There are different reasons and times of the year when your bedroom is cold. It could be winter time, the air conditioning is on to beat the summer heat or your bedroom is in a cool part of your home. On the other hand one of you may run colder than the other. (We live this in our marriage.) When you are cold it makes heating things up in the bedroom a challenge. Let's face it... It’s tough to be naked when you are cold. It's difficult to be adventurous when you are freezing. There can be a serious disconnect in the bedroom when it comes to temperature. But how are going to heat up the bedroom so you can heat things up under the sheets? What can you do to create an environment where you want to be naked with one another, a place where you are comfortable being naked because you aren’t freezing? It's time to find different ways to heat up your bedroom. When you do you will begin to eliminate the excuses so that you can heat up your physically and sexually intimacy during those cold nights. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of heating things up in the bedroom when it’s cold outside for more enjoyment under the covers. EPISODE SPONSOR | 11 Must Have Items for Your Bedroom Discover a hit-list of all the top items we’ve used in the last 20 years of marriage to ignite intimacy, connection and comfort in the most important room of all -- the bedroom! Use this list to take this show and the ideas in it to the next level as you build your toolbox with resources to make awake sex even more extraordinary. Get 11 Must Have Items for Your Bedroom NOW! Other Resources: Top 10 Ways To Initiate Sex With Your Spouse TONIGHT 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Quilted Polyester Heated Mattress Pad Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/14/201731 minutes, 50 seconds
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362: ON YOUR KNEES

"Intimacy is not purely physical. It’s the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see into their soul.” —Anonymous Spiritual intimacy has a huge impact on you and your marriage. And yet it’s the one intimacy that often gets overlooked or minimized even though it’s just as important if not more so than the others. In our marriage there have been seasons when we are clicking in our spiritual intimacy and times when we experience a dryness. The same may happen in your marriage. It can be with your emotional intimacy, your physical intimacy as well as in your spiritual intimacy. At those times when there is a disconnect it's time to get on your knees in prayer. You gain a different perspective on your situation. The challenge of trying to figure everything out on your own gets unstuck. New ideas for growing spiritually begin to happen. Prayers that are seemingly unanswered are answered. Those questions about your faith get unlocked. Often it's the starting that keeps you from the spiritual intimacy you desire. You see other who are amazing prayer warriors so how could you be like them. This stops you dead in your tracks and yet you can become a prayer warrior. You and your spouse can experience the closeness that comes through prayer, but you have to put your knees on the floor. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about what can happen to you when you are on your knees praying for your marriage and your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Days of Sex Challenge Bundle Sometimes it can be hard to think of what to get your love... chocolates, lingerie, a night out. Each of these are great choices and yet what about something truly unique this year? What about something that extends Valentine’s Day beyond one day? Get the 7 Days of Sex Challenge Bundle NOW! Other Resources: Download The Intimacy Wheel Now C3 San Diego Emerge Conference Night Light: A Devotional for Couples Jesus Calling: Enjoying Peace in His Presence Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/7/201732 minutes, 10 seconds
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361: MONEY MATTERS

"Money is an opportunity to reach unity in marriage. When couples work together they can do anything." —Dave Ramsey You have probably heard the quote, "You should never talk about money, politics or religion." Now, this might be true if you are at a dinner party and yet... You are taking this stance when it comes to money in your marriage. There is no connection, discussion, or even a conversation about your money. If you are honest with yourselves there is no plan for your money. Without a plan or even conversations about money matters you feel stressed, have anxiety and live in a place of fear. No matter if you are: Newlyweds. New parents. Buying a house. In a job transition. College planning. Looking at retirement. Having to deal with medical needs. Your money matters and needs the two of you to have a plan for it. Right now you may be in crisis and need an immediate plan. Let's get started now so you can experience financial freedom. Maybe you are ready to go to the next level, now is the time for you to be thinking about those advisors and planners that you need to have in your life Hopefully you are doing great and are thinking about what's next? It's time to discuss how can we be a blessing to others with what we have received. At each level being intentional is a game changer. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the power that financial intimacy has to bring strength and unity to your marriage. Your money matters impact each area of intimacy. EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Days of Sex Challenge Bundle Sometimes it can be hard to think of what to get your love... chocolates, lingerie, a night out. Each of these are great choices and yet what about something truly unique this year? What about something that extends Valentine’s Day beyond one day? Get the 7 Days of Sex Challenge Bundle NOW! Other Resources: Download The Intimacy Wheel Now Oils and Intimacy Facebook Group Financial Peace University Our Family Emergency List Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/31/201732 minutes, 10 seconds
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360: TOUCH ME

"So many people hear the words physical intimacy and think about sex. There are so many layers to being physically intimate with your spouse, choosing just one aspect shortchanges both of you." —Anonymous Touch is so important and yet touch in any form may be absent or inconsequential in your marriage at this time. This absence of touch or in the quality of the touch, leads to a feeling of being unwanted, unseen, undesired. It’s interesting that touch is often one of the first ways that you begin to express your interest in your spouse when you first met. Then you  start your lives together and before you know it touch is one of the first things to go. The most obvious absence of physical intimacy is a lack of sex. But it’s more than that. Right now you may be struggling with little to no physical intimacy of any form (hugs, kisses, cuddling, holding hands, etc). Without touch, without physical intimacy your marriage can feel like a relationship of roommates. It can feel like you are just sharing the same house and the same responsibilities but really have nothing that would differentiate yourselves as a married couple. The two of you need touch. Your bodies were designed for it. You were designed to fit together. You have to create opportunities to connect and you have to be intentional about doing so. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about why physical touch is an important area of connection for you and your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Days of Sex Challenge Bundle Sometimes it can be hard to think of what to get your love... chocolates, lingerie, a night out. Each of these are great choices and yet what about something truly unique this year? What about something that extends Valentine’s Day beyond one day? Get the 7 Days of Sex Challenge Bundle NOW! Other Resources: Download The Intimacy Wheel Now Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/24/201731 minutes, 33 seconds
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359: WHAT DO WE DO TOGETHER

"You define what is important to you by who you spend your time with." —Anonymous When you were dating there was no shortage of things to do or ways that you wanted to spend your time together. No matter where you were or what time of day it was you got creative. You would pick up on the smallest comments and run with it, turning that comment into an incredible adventure you would do together. And then... You begin living together, jobs, bills, volunteering and kids take up time you once had together. Date nights were the same every time and you both lost the excitement and anticipation of a fun time together. It's time for you to stop asking "What do you want to do?" when you are heading out on a date. Your marriage needs connection. As you plan out your dates this year: It’s about spending time together building memories. Learning what the other likes as interests change over time. It’s about getting out of your comfort zone. It’s about trying new things. Put yourself in your spouse’s world. Laugh. Overcoming fear. It's time to build a vibrant marriage instead of tolerating a stale one. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about how to answer that timeless question of what do we do together. EPISODE SPONSOR | Connect Like You Did When You First Met — Free Softcover Book Hidden inside this book you’ll discover how to have fun, deep and meaningful conversations so you can connect with you spouse again. Get started on your emotional intimacy journey with your own softcover copy of Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couple PLUS 4 digital bonuses. Limited quantities available so get yours today. Other Resources: Download The Intimacy Wheel Now Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/17/201731 minutes, 45 seconds
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358: THE POWER OF AN APOLOGY

"When you forgive, you in no way change the past but you sure do change the future." —Bernard Meltzer The year started off with us discussing the importance of emotional intimacy in your marriage. This is how the two of you communicate and is the foundation for growth in the other five intimacies. How the two of you connect during both the good and tough times will make the difference. After last week's show we dealt with a tough time ourselves. There was a breakdown in emotional intimacy after the show that lead to distance and disconnect. What you do after the conflict can mean more than what happens during the conversation. Are you letting pride and ego stand in the way of you giving a sincere apology to your spouse? Is it an apology that you need to give? Or... Is it forgiveness that you need to ask for from your spouse. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the power an apology has on both of you when it comes to your emotional intimacy. EPISODE SPONSOR | HelloFresh HelloFresh is the meal kit delivery service that makes cooking fun, easy, and convenient! Each week HelloFresh creates new delicious recipes with step-by-step instructions designed to take around 30 minutes. For novices to seasoned home-cooks who are short on time HelloFresh sources the freshest ingredients, measured to the exact quantities needed so there’s no food waste.  Take $35 off your first week of deliveries when you enter promo code OEM. Other Resources: Download The Intimacy Wheel Now Connect Like You Did When You First Met -- Free Paperback Book Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/10/201731 minutes, 50 seconds
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357: HONEST, OPEN AND TWO WAY LISTENING

"Communication must be HOT...Honest, Open and Two Way." —Dan Oswald Do the two of you have time each week when you can connect with your thoughts and feelings?  We spent many years of our marriage, probably the first ten years with little to no emotional intimacy. We could talk about anything while we were dating and then after the ring and the wedding... crickets. It was easier to avoid confrontation. It was easier to stuff things inside. Why share your feeling to deal with deflection, tears and the silent treatment. Your emotional intimacy has become repetitive as you talk about the kids, groceries and sport schedules. You now look across the table at your spouse and wonder, what do we have in common? Why can’t we talk to each other? Why do we have to get in a fight over everything? The answer is that there is flat spot on your emotional wheel. If you have a flat tire on your car, you have to stop and take action. If you keep driving on a flat wheel you will destroy the tire and eventually ruin the alignment. The same thing is true of your marriage. If your emotional intimacy is running flat you are throwing the alignment of your marriage out of whack. It’s time to take action. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about taking the emotional intimacy in your marriage through honest, open and two way listening to the next level. EPISODE SPONSOR | Connect Like You Did When You First Met -- Free Softcover Book Hidden inside this book you'll discover how to have fun, deep and meaningful conversations so you can connect with you spouse again. Get started on your emotional intimacy journey with your own softcover copy of Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couple PLUS 4 digital bonuses. Limited quantities available so get yours today. Other Resources: Download The Intimacy Wheel Now Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/3/201731 minutes, 45 seconds
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356: GOING NEXT LEVEL

"Think as BIG as you possibly can and base what you do, how you do it and who you do it with on succeeding at that level." —Gary Keller & Jay Papasan If the two of you don’t have a vision for 2017, it’s going to look a lot like 2016. As you look ahead you need to know what areas of your marriage you want to focus on? These areas include: Financial intimacy Physical intimacy Spiritual intimacy Recreational intimacy Emotional intimacy What would it take to take each of these intimacies to the next level? Extraordinary doesn’t happen overnight and yet with many baby steps put together you can get there. In the fall of 2008 we had a vision to do the 60 Days of Sex Challenge. The vision for our marriage was that something had to change. We needed a new direction and the first baby step was taken. Look at what has happened in your life because of this vision. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about taking your marriage to the next level in this new year. EPISODE SPONSOR | ONE Extraordinary Marriage’s Strategic Marriage Coaching It’s that time of year when you are thinking about getting physically fit. You're checking out gym memberships, making plans to eat healthy and drafting their new year’s resolutions to make this your fittest year ever. Make this the year that you work on getting relationally fit! Having a coach who will hold you accountable and help you work through your challenges will make all of the difference between repeating the cycles of the past and creating an extraordinary marriage. Learn more about coaching today. Other Resources: The ONE Thing Minter & Richter Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/27/201631 minutes, 30 seconds
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355: TWAS THE NIGHT BEFORE CHRISTMAS

"Traditions remind us to stop the busy cycle of life long enough to reconnect and build bonds." —Sabrina Beasley McDonald It’s important for the two of you to have your own night before Christmas or Christmas Day traditions. Something that you do together, a gift or an adventure that is about you as a couple. This is about the two of you as your own separate entity, separate from the kids and from your extended families. It’s that reminder that you and your spouse are a team. When you begin to think about starting a new tradition make sure it's something that you can do year after year. Traditions don't usually “just happen". The first year may and yet after that you have to be intentional about it. You're setting this up because traditions give a sense of continuity. Doing the same thing (or something similar) allows the two of you to anticipate that experience, to remember how you have done this in the past and how you might do it in the future. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the excitement you both can have the night before Christmas or on Christmas with some fun traditions. EPISODE SPONSOR | 11 Must Have Items for Your Bedroom With this FREE resource you can get creative with the gifts that you are going to put under the Christmas tree this year. No more wondering about what to get. Discover a hit-list of all the top items we’ve used in the last 20 years of marriage to ignite intimacy, connection and comfort in the most important room of all -- the bedroom! Grab your 11 Must Have Items Now. Other Resources: Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/20/201631 minutes, 30 seconds
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354: AWAKE SEX

"Right NOW is the most important moment in your life." —Gail Lynne Goodwin Another day comes to an end and you and your spouse are tired. Earlier in the day you both were romancing each other and had every intention to enjoy one another. But it's another night of you falling asleep even before you start foreplay and leaving you both frustrated with your sexual intimacy. There is much on your plates and yet it's time to prioritize your marriage so that you both enjoy your sexual intimacy. It means making choices about when you are going to be sexually intimate. There is no rule, no law, that states that sex is ONLY at the end of the day. It's time to change things up in your marriage and enjoy awake sex! Sex when you both are fully engaged and ready to experience the orgasms you desire for one another. Sex that is a bit loud, in a different position and a room brightened by the sun. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about how powerful it is to have sex when you are fully awake, not just going through the motions at the end of the day. EPISODE SPONSOR | 11 Must Have Items for Your Bedroom With this FREE resource you can get creative with the gifts that you are going to put under the Christmas tree this year. No more wondering about what to get. Discover a hit-list of all the top items we’ve used in the last 20 years of marriage to ignite intimacy, connection and comfort in the most important room of all -- the bedroom! Grab your 11 Must Have Items Now. Other Resources: 140 - Scheduling Sex 21 Ways to Initiate Sex with Your Spouse Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/13/201631 minutes, 30 seconds
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353: I’M FINE

"Sometimes all you do is smile. Move on with your day, hold back the tears and pretend everything is OK." —Anonymous The holiday season is a busy time of year. You are are pulled in many directions and feel overwhelmed with the responsibilities of job, family, kids, volunteering, Christmas parties, and everything else that is on your plate. It's a time when you may feel like there is too much going on and you’re holding on by a thread. And then your spouse asks you something like… What’s wrong with you? How are you doing? What's going on? Since everything is at the tipping point, you lock the true answer inside and simply say, “I’m Fine”. More often than not when you say, "I’m FINE", it’s usually a code word for I’m feeling broken in some area of my life. When you say "I’m Fine" you put a wall, an obstacle in your marriage. Then one of you checks out. Either you or your spouse.  I’m FINE leads to disconnect because you aren’t sharing what’s going on with you I’m FINE leads to resentment because you won’t let this person, YOUR SPOUSE, into your world. It's time to eradicate I'm Fine from your vocabulary. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the impact two words, I’m Fine, have on your marriage and your intimacy. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path The ability to talk to each other is vital to all areas of your marriage. Here's the thing...if there is unease when talking, tension or bickering you know the stress that it places on you. You're drained. It’s time to take control of the communication in your marriage. There is so much that is happening in your life each and every day that if you do not take the time to learn how to best connect with your spouse you are going to struggle for years to come. Grab He Zigs, She Zags Now! Other Resources: Oils & Intimacy Facebook Group 287 - The Impact of Tone and Timing 332 - Releasing Resentment Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/6/201632 minutes, 20 seconds
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352: PERSONAL HYGIENE FOR A GREAT SEX LIFE

"What do brushing your teeth, taking a shower and making time to shave all have in common? They all improve your chances in the bedroom." —Alisa DiLorenzo Interestingly enough we have never tackled the topic of personal hygiene, even though it’s something that we frequently discuss in our marriage. Things like morning breath, unshaven legs, and manscaping is what we're talking about. When you are aware of what works for you and for your spouse it makes a difference in your sexual intimacy. We have experienced this in our own marriage and have recently made a change to our personal hygiene that has benefited our marriage. There are a number of personal hygiene options you have. Some of them are: Shaving  Waxing Sugaring Facials Haircut Shower Bath Oils Taking time to care for yourself has a number of physical and mental benefits. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the mental and physical benefits of personal hygiene for you and your spouse, especially in the bedroom. EPISODE SPONSOR | Engaged Marriage Intimacy Reignited Reigniting the spark in the bedroom doesn’t have to be difficult. In fact, there are simple techniques that work incredibly fast. And will continue to work (no matter how long you’ve been married). Plus they're proven to work... even if you're extremely busy. Having an amazing sex life with your spouse. One that your friends would be totally jealous of.And wonder how you keep the spark alive.All because you know the “secrets” to a loving and intimate marriage. Grab Intimacy Reignited Now! Other Resources: 7 *Merry* Days of Sex Challenge 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life Mangroomer Ultimate Pro Body Groomer Fresh Balls Lotion Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/29/201631 minutes, 50 seconds
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351: ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE

"Showing gratitude is one of the most simplest yet most powerful things that human beings can do for each other." —Randy Pausch Thanksgiving. It's a time dedicated to giving thanks and expressing gratitude to those you love. The act of expressing gratitude is important for your spouse who receives your gratitude as well as for you who is giving it. When you do this for and with each other it changes your perspective on your marriage. When you express your appreciation for what you have your world shifts. Your mind shifts. Life changes when you are thankful for things you have and can actually express that out loud. What you share doesn’t have to be anything earth shattering. It doesn’t have to be huge. But it has to be said. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s important to express gratitude in your marriage and how you can incorporate this idea into the holidays. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/22/201633 minutes
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350: YOUR SEXY UNDERWEAR MATTERS

"If her bra matches her panties when you take off her clothes, it wasn’t you who decided to have sex." —Anonymous When you are wearing sexy underwear it has a way of bringing you and your spouse together in a special way. A loose definition of sexy underwear is: underwear that has fun colors or patterns that hug you in all of the right places because they fit. Many folks dismiss the importance of underwear, seeing them as merely a functional piece of clothing and yet they have the potential to be so much more. Sexy underwear makes you feel sexy. It’s visually stimulating for both of you. You think about your partner throughout the day, knowing that they are going to be pleased with what they see. :) Your sexy underwear is another tool in your marriage tool box. Whatever constitutes sexy underwear for you the key is getting them and then wearing them often. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about your sexy underwear and why it’s not just a functional piece of clothing. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Sexy Lingerie Panties JINSHI Bamboo Underwear 051 - True Friendship 166 - Holey Underwear 7 Days of Sex Challenge Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/15/201632 minutes, 45 seconds
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349: LIES BECOME A CANCER

"Once you lie to me the first time, I’ll question everything else you say." —Anonymous When you lie to your spouse it's a cancer that multiplies over time. The lie starts off small and then grows with one lie after another. Eventually you have something so large and unrecognizable that the pain you are experiencing has to go. We are experiencing an epidemic in marriages, an epidemic of lying and it’s wreaking havoc on relationships. Lies can come in different forms such as... Not telling the truth. Leaving out bits and pieces. Not honoring your word. Little white lies. Big whopping lies. Research has shown that individuals will lie for different reasons. The most common are: Trying to protect yourself. Feeling shame over a decision. Wanting to avoid confrontation. The very things that you are trying to avoid are the things that you invite into the relationship by your lying. When you speak these lies you find yourself under attack as you constantly look over your shoulder wondering how or when your partner is going to find out about your secret. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about how lies become a cancer in your marriage and what you need to do to heal. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/8/201633 minutes, 5 seconds
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348: YOU’RE SNORING TOO LOUD

"Snoring is a good indication that one person is asleep and no one else is." —Linda Poindexter It's been another long day as you prepare yourself for a good night sleep. You slide into bed, turn on your Sound+Sleep Machine as you enjoy a quiet house. Your eyelids begin to close and you are just about to fall asleep when… The snoring starts. Oh no! Another night of sleep is going to be a challenge. AGAIN. Marriages are struggling when one or both spouse's are snoring. According to the National Sleep Foundation, snoring affects some 90 million adults, 37 million on a “regular basis”.   If this is you in your marriage... you are not alone. But this doesn’t make it any easier for you. Snoring can cause many problems in marriage. Such as: Frustration, more arguments, more disconnection. Sleeping in separate rooms.  Arguments about whether or not it’s happening. Making your relationship a he said/she said. Your health. Now, the two of you don’t have to keep on suffering... In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what happens in your marriage when one of you is snoring so loud that it interrupts a good night of sleep. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Sound+Sleep Machine Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Sleeping Wedges Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/1/201631 minutes, 45 seconds
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347: SOMEONE’S KNOCKING ON THE DOOR

"Circumstances may cause interruptions and delays but never lose sight of your goal." —Mario Andretti Has there ever been a time in your marriage when you and your spouse were about to enjoy sex and then you hear a knocking at your door? Maybe you can relate to this scenario… All of the kids are in bed (or so you think) The house is quiet You’re locked in your room Your Sound+Sleep Machine is on as you begin to make romantic eyes at one another You start foreplay And there’s a knocking on the door. Who is it? It’s one of your kids, who you thought was asleep, needing some cuddle time. You head out of bed, help them get settled and then head back to your bedroom. Your spouse is waiting as you climb back into bed. You begin to get in the mood when again you hear... Knocking at your door. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what happens when someone’s knocking on your bedroom door in the middle of your time together. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Sound+Sleep Machine 332 - Releasing Resentment Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/25/201631 minutes, 59 seconds
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346: UNMET EXPECTATIONS

"The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that is has taken place." —George Bernard Shaw When you have certain expectations, your spouse has expectations and yet neither of you communicate them to each other there will be unmet expectations. Each of you will have a level of frustration that you are experiencing. You may even be say things like: I don’t understand why he/she doesn’t know this by now. Isn’t the way we do __________ obvious? Why do I have to spell it out every time? These questions indicate that there are unmet expectations in the marriage. There are areas of your life and marriage that you want your spouse to know or do. And often there is this game played… I’ll wait to see what he/she does. Will my spouse get it right this time. I've said it before. With this attitude you are setting yourself up for frustration. Because... you are constantly growing and changing. your moods are not the same from one day to the next. life experiences have impacted the way that you see things in the relationship. Often your expectations are not being shared in a way that is beneficial to your relationship. You hint at them, voice them after the fact and even said when you are highly emotional. It doesn’t have to be that way. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why your unmet expectations aren’t so obvious to your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proved Questions for Couples 287 - The Impact of Tone and Timing Men’s Bamboo Boxer Briefs Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/18/201631 minutes, 6 seconds
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345: LACK OF SEXUAL DESIRE

"Desire creates havoc between two people when it is the ONLY thing between them or when it’s what’s missing." —Mignon McLaughlin Have you ever experienced: Lack of sexual desire Low libido No libido A take it or leave it attitude No expression of desire No sexual connection. A sexual connection with your spouse is a primary need. Unfortunately, a lack of sexual desire is impacting your marriage and the reasons for it are varied. It could be from: Stress or anxiety Health issues Resentment Rejection Kids in the bedroom Being over committed Unresolved forgiveness. Whatever the reason may be lack of sexual desire has always been addressed as "his problem" or "her problem" and yet how often do you stop to think that it’s really OUR problem. When there is a lack of sexual desire in your marriage this creates a divide, it builds a wall, it separates the two of you. When this happens you can begin to have feelings of: Anger Loneliness Doubt Fear Negativity Resentment. Instead of the two of you becoming more unified as a married couple a lack of sexual desire can have the two of you feeling more divided than ever. It can have you questioning your marriage and your role in it. It doesn’t have to be this way. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the impact that a lack of sexual desire has on you, your spouse and your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: 328 - The Intimacy Lifestyle 332 - Releasing Resentment Extra Strength Horny Goat Weed for Natural Libido Boost 7 Days of Sex Challenge: How to Rock Your Sex Life and Your Marriage Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/11/201631 minutes, 30 seconds
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344: CELEBRATION TIME (WEDDING ANNIVERSARY STYLE)

"A wedding anniversary is the celebration of love, trust, partnership, tolerance and tenacity. The order varies for any given year." —Anonymous When this show is first released on October 4, 2016, we will be 24 hours away from celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary. As with any milestone, we approached this anniversary with celebration. It also became a time to reflect on where we have been and where we are going. While 20 years married is a significant anniversary, it’s not the end of the road. We still have a lot of life left in this marriage and we want to keep doing what’s been working. So what have we learned in 20 years? What did we wish we knew at the beginning? For us it’s come down to 3 things that have played out time and again in our marriage and we’ve seen it in so many of the emails and voicemail messages from the ONE Family. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about 3 ways you can make sure that there is a celebration for your next anniversary and those to come. EPISODE SPONSOR | Christian Credit Counselors Christian Credit Counselors is a non-profit Credit Counseling and Debt Management organization. For the last 25+ years they have helped over 300 thousand clients, get out of debt. They lower high interest rates and consolidate payments into one affordable monthly payment. Average clients pay off their debt up to 80% faster on the Debt Management Program. Call them today at 1(800)557-1985 for a free no-obligation debt analysis or visit them at ChristianCreditCounselors.org today! Other Resources: Breaking Free: How to Improve Yourself to Improve Your Relationship 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP 193 - Divorce Is Off The Table Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/4/201631 minutes, 40 seconds
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343: WHAT YOU DON’T KNOW IN THE BEDROOM CAN HURT YOU AND YOUR MARRIAGE

"Knowing is not enough we must apply. Willing is not enough we must do." —J W Von Goethe When you don’t know what works in the bedroom (or what doesn’t) you may be paralyzed wondering... Does my spouse like this? Is this position OK? Are they initiating? Is this a good time? Think about this for a minute. If you don’t know what your spouse likes, it’s hard to be fully present in the act of making love. If you don’t know how your spouse initiates or if they are initiating, there may be a lot of hurt feelings. Doubt creeps in and Doubt is NEVER a good thing in your marriage. When both of you don't know what works for the two of you this can create a disconnect. Disconnect leads to questions swirling in your head which then leads to a breakdown in your confidence. When you lose your confidence you wonder if you two even know each other anymore.  At this point you may stop trying because of the uncertainty you are faced with each day. What does this mean? Less sex More frustration More arguments Unhappiness There are enough things in the world that can cause frustration in your life, let’s not have it be wondering what works for you and your spouse in the bedroom. This is something that the two of you can control and talk about. Now you may not always agree. But you will know your spouse. Because when you know what works you’re not just shooting blindly in your bedroom. You are making a conscious decision as to how you are going to approach your sexual intimacy.   In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why what you don’t know about your spouse in the bedroom can hurt you and your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Breaking Free: How to Improve Yourself to Improve Your Relationship Many of you have said to us: "I know that there are areas that I need to work on." "My spouse is not ready to work on the marriage but I need to take action." "I want things to be different but I don’t know what to do." During this 4-week online group coaching workshop we will be covering sessions on how to overcome fear, creatively voice your expectations, lose the negative thoughts and how to be bold in your relationship. ONLY 20 men and 20 women will be accepted for this workshop which begins October 4. Don’t miss out on your chance to have your relationship transformed before the craziness of the holidays. Get all the details for Breaking Free NOW! 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Strategic Coaching with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/27/201631 minutes, 37 seconds
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342: WHY KNOWING HER MENSTRUAL CYCLE IS IMPORTANT TO YOUR SEX LIFE

"In all things there is a law of cycles." —Tacitus (Roman Historian) It is absolutely critical that you understand the female menstrual cycle for your sex life and for your marriage. A woman’s body is absolutely amazing and it’s hard wired to ebb and flow as the hormones fluctuate each and every month. As a woman’s hormones change during the menstrual cycle so does her husband’s responsiveness to her. Pretty cool. Here's the thing though... You need to know what's going on. When hormonal forms of birth control are being used this may impact the menstrual cycles thus impacting your sex life. Men you need to understand your wife’s monthly rhythms as it will absolutely change your sex life. Choosing not to know about her menstrual cycle is choosing to not to be fully engaged in your marriage. Not knowing about the cycles of sex puts the two of you at a distinct disadvantage. Why you might ask... Because KNOWING will change how the two of you relate to one another. KNOWING allows the two of you to connect throughout the month in different ways based on biology as well as emotional connection. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why knowing her menstrual cycle is important to your sex life. EPISODE SPONSOR | Breaking Free: How to Improve Yourself to Improve Your Relationship Many of you have said to us: "I know that there are areas that I need to work on." "My spouse is not ready to work on the marriage but I need to take action." "I want things to be different but I don’t know what to do." During this 4-week online group coaching workshop we will be covering sessions on how to overcome fear, creatively voice your expectations, lose the negative thoughts and how to be bold in your relationship. ONLY 20 men and 20 women will be accepted for this workshop which begins October 4. Don’t miss out on your chance to have your relationship transformed before the craziness of the holidays. Get all the details for Breaking Free NOW! Taking Charge of Your Fertility 7 Days of Sex Challenge Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/20/201631 minutes, 29 seconds
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341: STOP THOSE OLD, COMFORTABLE AND INEFFECTIVE PATTERNS

"Marriage doesn’t have the power to bind-only the actions of two people can do that. Forever and happy endings aren’t a given." —Leah Mercer You can make changes to your marriage no matter how long you've been married. For us it was at the 11 year make that we got radical when we started and completed the 60 Days of Sex Challenge. What you'll began to realize is that it’s never too late to stop the ineffective patters and behaviors. Here's the thing though... ...you'll need to made a decision to get back to the basics in different areas of your marriage. Because if you don't: Life will get in the way and you fall into your old, comfortable and ineffective patterns. You don’t know how to do what you think you need to do so you don’t do it. Fear of the unknown will keep you from doing anything. Living in this place you experience an increased level of frustration for you and your spouse. You know things need to change. You know that you need to do something different. So let's do it! In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s important to stop those old, comfortable and ineffective patterns and instead take action in order to create transformation in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path He Zigs She Zags gives you the tools that you need to have the communication you desire. This is not just about looking into each other’s eyes and sharing your deepest feelings, this is about giving the two of you a map to better communication. Get He Zigs, She Zags today! Schedule a Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa 7 Days of Sex Challenge Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/13/201631 minutes, 43 seconds
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340: 5 STIMULATING SENSES

"When you start using senses you’ve neglected, your reward is to see the world [and your marriage] with completely fresh eyes." —Barbara Sher Your marriages may be experiencing some struggles due to the fact that you are loving each other with only one or two of the 5 senses you have. You may have fallen into what’s comfortable for you in your marriage and not necessarily what’s best for your marriages. Using each of your 5 senses can bring a heightened experience to your marriage that may have become dormant. The 5 Senses: Sight Hearing Touch Taste Smell Just as your marriage needs all 6 forms of intimacies firing, you marriage needs ALL of your 5 senses involved in the marriage. When you are only loving with one or two of the senses you BOTH are missing out on an incredible level of connection. It’s incomplete. It’s a fraction of what it could be. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about loving one another using each of your 5 senses to stimulate excitement in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Top 11 Must Haves Items for Your Bedroom Discover a hit-list of all the top items we’ve discovered in the last 19 years of marriage to ignite intimacy, connection and comfort in the most important room of all -- the bedroom! From fun toys, to those fabulous little items that set the mood, this is a list that you are going to want to have. Get your copy today! 338 - Beautiful Wife 287 - The Impact of Tone and Timing 56 Simple (But Super Effective) Compliments To Encourage Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/6/201633 minutes, 20 seconds
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339: SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE

"Never judge someone on their past because they are no longer in that stage of life." —Alisa DiLorenzo Sex before marriage can be a roadblock to deep sexual intimacy. If you had sex before marriage you may have feelings of guilt, shame, and resentment. On the other side your spouse may have had sex before marriage with other partners and now you question the level of their commitment, you compare yourself to theses previous partners or you grew up knowing you should not have had sex together, but you did. We get it. We’ve been there. We both had sex before marriage with other partners and each other. Because we had sex before marriage it impacted our relationship for many years. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about breaking free from the guilt and shame you may carry because you had sex before marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path He Zigs She Zags gives you the tools that you need to have the communication you desire. This is not just about looking into each other’s eyes and sharing your deepest feelings, this is about giving the two of you a map to better communication. Get He Zigs, She Zags today! Schedule a Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa 4 Cool Statistics About Abstinence in the USA 319 – ESP (Extrasensory Perception) The Bondage Breaker Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/30/201631 minutes, 55 seconds
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338: BEAUTIFUL WIFE

You've been sharing with your wife that she is beautiful to you inside and out. You see her as this amazing, incredible gift from God. A gift that honestly you cannot wait to unwrap. You want her to realize that it's not a sin to acknowledge her own beauty and sensuality without feeling dirty and yet your wife doesn't see herself as beautiful. Your wife doesn't feel the same way about herself as you see her. There is a struggle you both face with reconciling the expectations in the bedroom with the discouraging words that she has received through her life. Additionally when she looks in the mirror and at her life: she feels stuck unattractive no where near beautiful. Yet you see her as an amazing woman, wife and mother, but you know there is a  disconnect that is hurting your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why your marriage needs the phrase my beautiful wife. You'll be challenged to use this with your spouse and yet it’s important. EPISODE SPONSOR | One Question To Instantly Kickstart Your Communication Did you know that one question can change the entire dynamic of your marriage? One question when asked in an environment of love, one question where the answer is listened to and acted upon can transform the way that the two of you relate to one another. Want to know what the question is? Of course you do... Grab your One Question now! Schedule a Strategic Coaching Session with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/23/201632 minutes, 5 seconds
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337: FUN AND GAMES TO BREAK THE SEXUAL ROUTINE

"I want a boring sex life, said no one ever." —Alisa DiLorenzo What would happen to your marriage if you broke the sexual routine you've been in and brought back some fun into your bedroom? Many couples are experiencing a sex life that has become one more thing on the to-do list. Same sexual routine time and time again that leads both you and your spouse to wondering why you even have sex. Your sexual intimacy is the same way, at the same time and in the same position time after time. It’s great that you're having sex and yet you know there is more. The challenges your face is that there is nothing to look forward, no anticipation, no romance. Sex is routine and sometimes... Boring. You move this way. Your spouse moves that way.  You both know exactly how long it takes and you move on to the next thing on your list of to-d0's. No excitement. You're in a sexual routine. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why your marriage needs some fun and games to break the sexual routine you've been in. EPISODE SPONSOR | Win Your Very Own Sex Stack... One lucky winner will win their very own Sex Stack. This item is on our must have list for the bedroom and we’ve been talking about it for years. This is a great way to break out of your sexual routine. To try new things and explore one another. Enter now to win the Sex Stack. Fun Board Games to Spice up Your Sex Life Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/16/201633 minutes, 5 seconds
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336: YOUR SPOUSE ISN’T THE PROBLEM

It’s not your husband or your wife that’s the problem. The problem is the problem. Do you remember the part in your vows where it was spoken that the “two become one”?  That piece is talking about the two of you. The two of, now marriage, have became one. Newsflash: You are on the same team in your marriage and you need to start looking at life like you are on the same team not as rivals. You need to clearly identify your challenges / problems and know that these are not your spouse. Because when you are doing battle with each other, every interaction becomes another opportunity to win. Another chance to prove your point, to be right, to make your spouse see your point of view and take it. If your spouse is the problem then every challenge, argument, or interaction will have a winner and a loser. Someone who is right and someone who is wrong. Where is the love in that? There is no love and that’s why these conversations or arguments start to wear you out. You lose sight of what you're trying to accomplish in order to be right, to win. How many times have you been arguing (and it’s been going on for awhile) only to realize that you have no idea what the original problem was? Why is that? You are fighting each other instead of finding a solution to the problem. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why you need to recognize that the problem isn’t your spouse, the problem is the problem. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path He Zigs She Zags gives you the tools that you need to have the communication you desire. This is not just about looking into each other’s eyes and sharing your deepest feelings, this is about giving the two of you a map to better communication. Get He Zigs, She Zags today! 6 Forms of Intimacy to Build a Strong Marriage 128 - Playing on the Same TEAM Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 // Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/9/201632 minutes, 8 seconds
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335: SHE’S NOT YOUR MOTHER

Your wife does not want to be your mother! She is and desires to be your wife and your lover. Unfortunately, more often than not she is treat as your mother. She's the person in the house who picks up after you, makes sure your laundry is done for when you need it, and treated the same way you treated your mother when you were growing up. Here's the thing... She does not want to be your mothers. She doesn't want to consider you as another child in the house and yet when your behavior mirrors that of a child she is going to react and treat you as one. This is NOT good! Over the years we have had husbands share with us that they want their wife to be romantic, to be sexual, and to be interested in them. But they are not because there's a disconnect. You've been treating her as your mother and not as your lover and wife. If you want a wife and lover in your home it's time to show her. Do this by the words you use and the actions to show her that she is your wife and lover. You have to go beyond a quick grab of her breasts now and then? Yes, we did say a quick grab because that’s how kids treat their mothers.  Kids for the most part have no respect or awareness of their mother's body only their own needs. The longer your marriage stays in this vicious circle of emasculated man and wife as your mother, the harder it is for the two of you to relate as husband and wife and more importantly as lovers. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s important for husbands to treat their wife as their lover and not their mother. EPISODE SPONSOR | 4 Simple Strategies to Rebuild Trust Trust can seem like such a tough mountain to climb when you are in the process of rebuilding. It can feel like you just don’t know what to do first, who to talk to or where to turn. Don’t stay in that place of feeling overwhelmed. Don’t get paralyzed and do nothing. Get started on rebuilding the trust in your marriage. Grab your free report. Strategic Coaching with Alisa Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/2/201631 minutes, 45 seconds
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334: THE EMASCULATED MAN

Is there an emasculated man living in your home? For the purpose of this show emasculated means: Make a person weaker or less effective Deprive a man of his role or identity Wives, you have the opportunity to not have an emasculated man in your marriage by the thoughts and action you have toward your husband.  Husband's are being emasculated every day in their marriage, even ours has experienced this, and it happens in little ways. It’s not giving his suggestions equal billing in your marriage. It's not understanding and / or seeking to understand his role and the pressures he faces. It's putting him farther down on the priority list and as a result putting his needs behind everyone else’s. It’s assuming that because he used to be one way that he can never change, improve and grow. The thing is that you don't want another "child" to care for. You want a husband who is there for you emotionally, spiritually, physically and financially. You don't need an emasculated man anymore. You need a strong husband who... understands his value. feels your love, who knows that their home is a safe place, who knows that they will be encouraged and built up in that environment. feels that they are important for more than just bringing home a paycheck knows that they are a priority and will always be a priority in your life. understands that change is possible and that who they used to be or what they have done in the past does not define who they are forever. As the famous write Ralph Waldo Emerson stated, "A man’s wife has more power over him than the state has." You have the power right now to purposefully impact your husband. Take a step of faith and go do it! In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the problem of the emasculated man in marriage and how you as his wife can either build him up or tear him down. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don't Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don't Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Thursday July 28th at 6 PM PST. DURING THIS FREE WEBINAR YOU WILL LEARN: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register NOW! 332 - Releasing Resentment Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/26/201631 minutes, 45 seconds
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333: REDEFINING THE INTIMACY LIFESTYLE

The Intimacy Lifestyle was introduced to the ONE Family as a way for you and your spouse to not have to wonder if you were going to have sex or not. Unfortunately, over the years we have heard from couples who have started to only get derailed for one reason or another. Some of these reasons are... "We agreed to The Intimacy Lifestyle but it seems like I am always having to remind my spouse". "My spouse said that they were on board but it doesn’t really seem like they are into it". "We agreed to The Intimacy Lifestyle but it doesn’t seem to be working for us". A few weeks ago we did a podcast on The Intimacy Lifestyle and realized that there was a major piece missing from that show. A piece that might just change everything. We talked about what The Intimacy Lifestyle IS but we didn’t talk about what it is NOT. The Intimacy Lifestyle is NOT Something to half heartedly commit to. Something to just spring on your spouse. A band-aid for your marriage. Something to just pacify your spouse. Something you decide to do and then never talk about again. Something that is ONE size fits all. Something that is convenient, it’s truly a lifestyle choice. A sex tool, honestly it is a communication tool and a tool to enhance all areas of your marriage. A lifestyle choice is just that, it’s choosing a style of life. In this case The Intimacy Lifestyle is choosing a style of life that involves intimacy at all levels. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s important to know what the intimacy lifestyle is NOT so that you can fully embrace all that it has to offer. EPISODE SPONSOR | Strategic Relationship Coaching with Alisa Imagine waking up each morning next to the person you love more than anything in the world. Not just a “roommate” or a person you “get on with”. But having the fairy tale marriage you've always dreamed of. Because it really is possible if you’re willing to put in the time. Start coaching today with Alisa. 328 - The Intimacy Lifestyle Dominion Card Game Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/19/201631 minutes, 30 seconds
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332: RELEASING RESENTMENT

Resentment is a poison that builds slowly as it snowballs into extreme disconnect. What starts out as one disappointment becomes a laundry list of all of the ways that your spouse has hurt you, disappointed you, not been there for you, etc. The resentment that you harbor toward your partner can be masked as: Anger Boredom Indifference Withdrawal Disconnect What started out as something manageable now has become overwhelming for you and your partner. Right now, it’s feels virtually impossible to bridge that gap to reconnect. Both men and women experience resentment in different areas in the marriage. Some of these areas of resentment are... Staying home/working outside of the house Having to take care of the household Having to be the provider Always being the one to initiate Upside down priorities (kids, work, extended family, other friends) You now know why you are holding onto this resentment and yet do you know where it comes from? Resentment comes from... Ineffective communication Unvoiced expectations No clear vision direction Fear of rejection In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the negative consequences when resentment builds up in your marriage and what you can do to change that path. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags: Get You Communication on the Same Path Remember how you felt when you first met your partner? How close you were? Like you were soul mates? Why because you spent so much time connecting and communicating. Now imagine having that same level of connection and intimacy for the life of your marriage. Become one of those couples that celebrates your 20th, 30th or even 50th wedding anniversary while you both are still completely in love with each other. Grab He Zigs, She Zags today. 046 - Are You Keeping Score? Dear Couples, Rejection Is Crushing Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/12/201631 minutes, 40 seconds
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331: HAVING SEX OR MAKING LOVE

Married couples perform both sex and making love. Would you agree? Sometimes it is intentional and sometimes it's because of circumstances. Sex happens when you only have 10 minutes before dinner for a quickie. You only have 10 minutes so it’s not going to be a marathon love making session. But if you are on vacation by yourselves with no kids now there’s no need to just have sex. You plan on making love while away. Making love is probably the easier one of these to understand, the slow and go with the emotional connection. On the other hand issues can arise when you and your spouse are only having sex. Let's be clear before you start to think that this is only about husband's using their wive's... This goes both ways! You may have even experienced this in your own marriage. So, as we dive into what it means to have sex and making love there is a very unique question to be answered... What would selfish sex look or be like for a married couple? In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the difference between having sex and making love and why knowing the difference matters in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP 19 Quick Questions will allow you and your spouse to get the conversation started about all things related to your sex life. Using these 19 questions gives you an opportunity to have those conversations, to think about your sex life. Take just one or 2 questions a day and talk about them outside of your bedroom, then enjoy discovering each other. Cleaning Up After Sex 3 Reasons Why Sex Isn’t a Dirty Word Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/5/201631 minutes, 45 seconds
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330: DETOURS TO SUCCESS

Last week we returned from our 20th anniversary trip to Peru. Our travels took us from San Diego to Lima, Peru, Cusco and then on to Machu Picchu.  The international trip involved two red eye flights through Dallas on the way there and then Miami on our way home. Once in country... 2 flights from Lima to Cusco and back. 5 van rides from various points of our travel 4 tour buses including one that was hugging the switchbacks up and back from Machu Picchu 2 trains rides And lots of walking We probably logged somewhere around 9,000 miles in just over 8 days. Lots of delays (weather, traffic, celebrations). A few detours due to that same weather, traffic and celebrations and a whole lot of time to think about marriage. We spent almost every moment together for just over a week and still came away smiling (there were some discouraging times during our trip and sad faces when we were leaving Peru.) There was excitement, exhaustion, and frustration. When you are spending so much time together and placed in so many different environments together you... CANNOT hide behind your busyness CANNOT ignore your challenges or your attitudes Everything comes to the surface, everything that looks easy really takes a lot of effort, everything that looks like it goes in a straight line isn’t always straight. Marriage is a lot like traveling... There are a lot of different ways to get to where you want to go. What you think will be the fast way can hold you up. What you think is the most direct way will have you going in circles and doubling back. In other words there will be detours on this adventure we call marriage. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of detours and delays that can lead to success in your marriage journey. EPISODE SPONSOR | Summer of Love Ultimate Bundle Flash Sale (June 28 - 30, 2016) It’s summer and what better time to... Enjoy Great Sex, Enhance Your Communication, Rebuild Trust & Connect Again! The Summer of Love Ultimate Bundle includes our most popular programs so that you can have the extraordinary marriage you desire. Grab the Summer of Love Ultimate Bundle and get up to 75% off! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/28/201632 minutes
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329: RISK REWARD

What's the risk reward in your marriage? There's a risk in any relationship between two people. You risk being vulnerable. You risk being rejected. You risk being misunderstood. You risk hurt feelings. You risk anger. You risk silence. You risk the distance growing in your marriage. You risk losing your marriage. In many marriage the idea of risk reward is a recurring theme. Here's the thing about risk reward... IT'S ALL ABOUT FEAR! Fear will stop you in your tracks as you ask yourself statements similar to these: I never had the conversations I wanted to have. I never asked for what I wanted. I never did what I should have. Why? The RISK seemed too large and yet... what about the reward? The reward is... Deeper emotional connection. Living out your lives fully. You're loved more for who you truly are. Open and honest conversations. Long lasting marriage. Sex like never before. You get to choose each day what the risk reward is in your marriage. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about the risk reward that you face when making a change in your marriage and why you need to focus on the reward not the risk. EPISODE SPONSOR | Strategic Marriage Coaching with Alisa You get help for every other area of your life, why not your marriage. If you have been struggling with areas of your marriage and are tired of the struggle, tired of not knowing what to do or say, now is the time to take action. You’ve heard the results on the show of clients who have had transformation. What are you waiting for? Learn more about a Strategic Marriage Coaching with Alisa today! 3 Ways to Overcome Your Fears Bo's Cafe 7 Days of Sex Challenge Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/21/201631 minutes, 50 seconds
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328: THE INTIMACY LIFESTYLE

What would your marriage look like if you and your spouse were having sex on a consistent basis? Maybe for the two of you it would be one, two or even 4 times a week and yet your not quite sure how to make this happen. For this to happen it takes planning and a clear understanding of how it will benefit your marriage. It doesn't just happen. You will need to be intentional as you invest your time and efforts into your marriage. It’s time to get radical in your marriage and make a change as you commit to your spouse and implement The Intimacy Lifestyle. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about how you can begin to implement The Intimacy Lifestyle into your marriage as you experience a new level of closeness both emotionally and sexually. EPISODE SPONSOR | Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex Summertime is here! It’s time for relaxing and for fun. It’s so important that with all that you have going on this summer that initiating does NOT take a back seat to all of the other activities that the two of you have going on. Make sure that the two of you have a summer to remember. Grab you Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex today! He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Healthy Sex Drive, Healthy You: What Your Libido Reveals About Your Life by Diana Hoppe M.D. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/14/201652 minutes, 40 seconds
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327: I WANT OUT

The truth is that every couple goes through cycles of good times and tough times. The bigger issue is when those cycles last indefinitely and no one takes action. I want out. I don’t want to do this anymore. It’s too hard. You may have said these to your spouse or vise versa. Either way it's time to shift the tide in your marriage before it is to late. According to couples therapist, Carrie Cole: The average couple waits six years from the time they recognize relationship problems until the time they try therapy. By then, it's often too late—the problems in the marriage can corrode it to the point where it may be unsalvageable. So play it safe and schedule a coaching session if you're struggling. Why? Because by the time you hear I want out... Your spouse has been dealing with the situation for years. They have checked out. They have often stopped caring and have begun making plans to do life on their own. If you marriage has disconnect in it If you are too busy to spend time together If you are not talking If you are not having sex Then it is time to be intentional and take action in your marriage so you will never hear the words I want out again. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about what to do when one of you says to the other -- I want out, I’m done! EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Steps to Save Your Marriage In this free report you will receive The 7 simple steps to salvage even the most damaged and beyond repair marriage (these are the same steps that brought our own marriage back from the brink of divorce). Grab 7 Steps to Save Your Marriage today! 7 Signs You're In a Loveless Marriage How I Saved My Marriage Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/7/201631 minutes, 50 seconds
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326: SUMMERTIME SEX

It’s summertime and like a lot of things your sexual intimacy can take a back seat to vacations, family visitors and even the kids being home. Make sure you have a plan for summertime sex this year and for years to come. The areas that you need to be aware of when it comes to summertime sex are: Setting expectations BEFORE you travel on vacation. When family or friends are in town how do you make sure you're being sexually intimate. Kids are home for the summer and this can put a kink into your Intimacy Lifestyle. There are different schedules, more time hanging out with folks, it gets darker later... so now is the time to get creative as you make use of the time that you have. Whatever your plans are this summer be intentional about finding opportunities for when you'll be sexually intimate. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of having a clear plan for summertime sex and what you need to do to make it happen. EPISODE SPONSOR | Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex Summertime is here! It’s time for relaxing and for fun. It’s so important that with all that you have going on this summer that initiating does NOT take a back seat to all of the other activities that the two of you have going on. Make sure that the two of you have a summer to remember. Grab you Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex today! 178 - Sexpectations 7 Days of Sex Challenge: How-to Rock Your Sex Life and Your Marriage Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/31/201631 minutes, 50 seconds
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325: TEMPORARY WEDDING VOWS

Do either of these sound familiar… "I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded(husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part." OR "Will you have this woman/man to be your wife/husband, to live together in the covenant of marriage? Will you love her/him, comfort her/him, honor, and keep her/him in sickness and in health, and forsaking all others, be faithful to her/him as long as you both shall live?" Yep, these are wedding vows. Promises made for a permanent relationship and yet all too often these wedding vows are becoming temporary in our society. Marriage is not a temporary situation until something better comes along. Marriage is not just for as long as this “works” for you or as long as you feel like staying engaged. When did your wedding vows switch to a wedding contract? You’ll stay in the marriage, stay faithful, stay engaged, as long as you ___________(fill in the blank). WAKE UP!!! You need to make the shift back. Both husbands and wives, need to honor these permanent vows. Not just when things are easy, but especially when things are hard. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what happens to your marriage when you treat your wedding vows as temporary instead of permanent. EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Steps to Save Your Marriage  (Even if your spouse is unwilling) This report is going to give you the 7 steps that you need to take starting right now. It’s going to outline the costs of your decisions AND share with you the #1 mistake that almost all broken couples make when trying to get help. Don’t wait another day to take action to save your marriage. Grab 7 Steps to Save Your Marriage  (Even if your spouse is unwilling) today! 174 - Covenant or Contract 6 Forms of Intimacy to Build a Strong Marriage Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/24/201631 minutes, 50 seconds
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324: THE KEY TO YOUR HAPPINESS

"Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present." —Jim Rohn Have you ever said: My husband doesn’t make me happy anymore My wife doesn’t make me happy anymore I’m not happy in marriage This isn’t making me happy Don’t I deserve to be happy Where is my happiness Why can’t I be happy There is an epidemic... An epidemic of people who aren’t happy in their life, with their job and in their marriages. You have an expectation that your spouse and your marriage are supposed to make you happy all of the time. In our comparison happy culture (hello social media) you are constantly bombarded by images of people who you perceive as better, prettier, happier and who have more. What you see is their good parts version -- compared to -- your everyday reality and the two are not matching up. This quest for to reach a state of happiness is driving a wedge in your marriage. The expectation that your spouse is going to make you happy all the time, that your marriage is always going to be good, is unrealistic. You are dealing with another human being who is dealing with their own stuff. Besides... happiness is a feeling and feelings are fleeting. You can be happy because it’s a sunny day. You can be happy because your spouse left you a note. You can be happy because the kids didn’t fight (that much) today. In each of these situations happiness is dependent on another person, their actions or outside circumstances. What happens when they don’t do those things... when it’s rainy, what do you do? The days that you don’t get a note from your spouse, what do you do? The days that the kids fight, what do you do?   In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the keys to unlocking happiness in you so it flows throughout your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don't Trust You Live Training TRUST. Five letters that have so much power in your marriage. When trust is present, it feels like you can handle everything. When trust has been broken, you find yourself questioning everything. If you have ever said or thought, "I love you but I don’t trust you" the JOIN US for the "I Love You But I Don't Trust You Live Training" on May 19th, 2016. Contract of Reconciliation It’s Not All Good or All Bad Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/17/201631 minutes, 35 seconds
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323: SEX IS NOT ALWAYS THE ANSWER

Day after day we hear from couple after couple that their marriage is not what they wanted or expected. There is no romance. The sex is OK, at times. There is a struggle with communication. There are many disconnects. Digging deeper into each relationship, sex has been a part of most of these relationships from the very beginning. Before these couples truly knew each other, they were involved in one of the most intimate acts a couple can face, sex. As a couple who has been in this place we know all to well the struggles that happen for couples who have sex early in a relationship. When sex becomes an integral part of the relationship from the very beginning there are skills that don’t get developed. Because of this sexual connection the two of you have to work in your marriage to develop the skills that you did not develop from the beginning. Plain and simple sex feels good and yet it’s a distraction when the two of you are having challenges. Sex cannot be the only glue that holds your marriage together. Your marriage needs for the both of you to be emotionally, spiritually, and financially intimate as well as physically intimate. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why sex is not always the answer to the challenges your facing in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | FreshBooks FreshBooks is a super simple invoicing solution that lets you create and send professional looking invoices in seconds. It also makes managing your expenses, staying on top of who owes you what, and tracking your time the easiest part of your day. Try FreshBooks FREE for 30 days on us. Get your free trial today. Texting Is Not Talking Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/10/201632 minutes
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322: IT’S TIME TO INITIATE

Knowing how to initiate sex in your marriage can be a very real challenge. You're not sure what to do or when you do if your spouse even realizes that you're initiating. On the other side of this is a frustrated who doesn't understand why you can’t or decide not to initiate. For them it’s similar to living in a constant state of rejection. Think about it. If you rarely initiate then it is always up to your spouse to make a move. If you're not interested, too tired, not in the mood, then they get shot down. They express desire to you and yet there is no similar expression of desire in return. NEW FLASH... This is NOT something that only happens to men or only women. Both men and women struggle when it comes to know how to initiate sex. When only one of you is initiating or when neither of you is initiating sex it’s time to take a look at what is going on between the two of you. If you can’t initiate it’s often because you don’t know how or what you have tried in the past hasn’t worked so you don’t know what to do. Maybe you got the message growing up that “good girls don’t do that” or “you shouldn’t be so bold”. Maybe you were told that you should always be pursued. Maybe you’re afraid that you are going to hear no or some other excuse for why you spouse doesn’t want to be with you. Maybe you just don’t know what to do. OR Maybe your spouse doesn’t know when you are initiating... Check out our Top 10 Ways To Initiate Sex With Your Spouse TONIGHT to get some ideas on how you can begin to initiate. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why now is the time for you to share with your spouse on how you initiate in and outside the bedroom. EPISODE SPONSOR | FreshBooks FreshBooks is a super simple invoicing solution that lets you create and send professional looking invoices in seconds. It also makes managing your expenses, staying on top of who owes you what, and tracking your time the easiest part of your day. Try FreshBooks FREE for 30 days on us. Get your free trial today. Discover the Top 10 Ways To Initiate Sex With Your Spouse TONIGHT Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/3/201631 minutes, 40 seconds
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321: RENEWING YOUR MARRIAGE LICENSE

To get married you had to have a marriage licence. Here's the thing though... This is the only license that you are never required to renew. You are not required to go to class, spend time and money, or become more informed to grow. On the other hand you have to renew your driver’s license, retake the written test and sometimes take the driving test. There are many professions that require continuing education: the legal field, auto technicians, financial services, the medical field, educators, engineering and others. For many couples having their marriage license and saying "I Do" on their wedding day is it. You've arrived and your marriage is going to be great. Unfortunately, you haven’t arrived. We know from our own experiences as well as the many couples we've coached over the pat 6+ years. There is always room to grow in your marriage. There is always a way to improve your communication, your sexual intimacy, quality time spent together, your finances, and other areas of your marriage. When you stop growing in your marriage, when you stop learning your spouse, you open the door for disconnect. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s important to renew your marriage license even though you’re not required to do so. EPISODE SPONSOR | Connect Like You Did When You First Met It’s time to learn about your spouse all over again. No matter if you have been married a year or 30 years Connect Like You Did When You First Met will improve your communication. Inside Connect Like You Did When You First Met there are over 101 Questions covering areas of finances, sex, kids, dreams and more. Grab your copy today! The Journal of Best Practices by David Finch The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth by John C. Maxwell The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman, Ph. D. The Seven Laws of Love by Dave Willis Bo's Cafe by John Lynch Maximized Manhood by Edwin Louis Cole Intimacy Ignited by Dillow & Pintus Prayer That Brings Revival by David Yonggi Cho One Bed One Bank Account by Derek & Carrie Olsen He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Trust Me! Restore, Renew and Rebuild Your Foundation Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/26/201631 minutes, 50 seconds
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320: CHANGE OF SCENERY

When you move into a new house there are... New bedrooms, living areas, bathrooms and other place to explore to enjoy sex. And yet, you may find yourself night after night in the same spot. Your bedroom! What do you do as doing the same thing over and over again, in the exact same way is become to routine. And... Routines leads to boredom and boredom leads to disconnect. When anticipation and excitement stops being a part of your marriage in any area the drift starts to happen. This doesn’t mean that you have to have fireworks every time you have sex. What it does mean is that you have within your control to create an atmosphere of anticipation. One of the key ways to do this is through a change of scenery. There is no rule that says that married couples can only have sex in the bedroom in the dark, at night. You have been blessed with a home with many rooms. :) When the anticipation builds, excitement builds and the ordinary becomes extraordinary. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of changing it up and having a change of scenery for your sexual intimacy. EPISODE SPONSOR | 11 Must Have Items for Your Bedroom Discover a hit-list of all the top items we’ve discovered in the last 19 years of marriage to ignite intimacy, connection and comfort in the most important room of all -- the bedroom! From fun toys, to those fabulous little items that set the mood, this is a list that you are going to want to have. Grab your MUST HAVE Items today! Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking the Intimacy in Your Marriage | Take 20% OFF at checkout with coupon code: podcast Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proved Questions for Couples Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/19/201631 minutes, 30 seconds
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319: ESP (EXTRASENSORY PERCEPTION)

Having ESP (extrasensory perception) is something that many couples wish they had. The thing is that you don't and neither does your spouse. At times you may ask yourself... Why doesn’t he/she know that? How many times should I have to tell him/her? He/she should know that by know. The truth is that your spouse doesn't have ESP and cannot read your mind. And yet you have been asking yourself, "What’s wrong with expecting my spouse to know what I want? What I need?" The issue is that when you expect your spouse to have ESP or read your mind you are expecting another human to be able to process the circumstances that YOU are in. You're expecting them to know your mood, your physical condition and then come up with the exact same conclusion that you would do. The kicker is that this person is NOT you. Stop frustrating the two of you by Expecting Someone else to Perceive the world as you would. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what happens when you expect your spouse to have ESP also known as extrasensory perception. EPISODE SPONSOR | Discover the Top 10 Ways To Initiate Sex Would you love to know exactly when or how your spouse is initiating instead of trying to guess “Is he or she making a move?” Or “Does that touch or look mean we are having sex tonight? Take the guesswork out of wondering... grab The Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex and have a clear understanding of what it really looks like when your spouse is making a move. Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proved Questions for Couples Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/12/201631 minutes, 40 seconds
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318: YOUR MARRIAGE NEEDS YOU TO GROW UP

Unless you are a teenager it’s time to grow up in your marriage. When you partake in behaviors that are typical of a teenager you are chipping away at the foundation of your marriage. A marriage that does not have transparency in all areas is a marriage with secrets. Those secrets will destroy the best of marriages. Not allowing YOUR spouse to see the real you can allow for questioning the true nature of your relationship. You may ask... "Does my spouse love me or do they just love the me I pretend to be?" Risky behaviors, will catch up with you. Nothing that you do exists in a vacuum. You will get caught, discovered or found out. If you want a different marriage then your marriage needs you to stop engaging in risky behavior that sabotage it. ME is not WE. When the two of you became one, part of that agreement was the declaration of putting your own selfish desires behind the desires of your spouse. When the focus is on what you want and your own needs being satisfied, your marriage will wither and die because of the lack of attention to your spouse. Are you ready to grow up so your marriage can experience all that you and your spouse desire? In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why your marriage needs you to grow up and stop acting like a teenager so that you don't miss out on all that your marriage can be. EPISODE SPONSOR | Minter & Richter Titanium Rings Minter & Richter work from their studio housed in Boston’s Historic Rum Distillery, Scott, Owner, Ring Maker & Metalsmith Extraordinaire, meticulously crafts each ring custom to order. Combining titanium with everything from the exotic – water buffalo horn, to the everyday – concrete, and special found objects that customers send, Scott is continually reinventing the idea of what a ring should be. Get your customer ring today! LIVE TRAINING - More Love, Less Conflict: How To Use Open and Honest Communication For A Stronger Marriage Rescue My Marriage Today Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/5/201632 minutes, 35 seconds
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317: TEXTING IS NOT TALKING

When a “big” or  “important” conversation is being dealt with via texting it is causing more heartache and less connection for married couples around the world. Avoiding the face to face conversation may seem easier and yet, the end result is that more often then not you are more disconnected. You're questioning your spouse more. You're more frustrated. You're not able to get the context or nuance of what is being said. Time Magazine reported in October 2013  a study in the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy that... Men who texted more often in general reported lower relationship quality than those who didn’t ping their significant others as frequently. The researchers can only speculate about why, but suspect that as men disconnect from a relationship, or consider a break-up, they replace face-to-face interactions with less intimate communication in the form of increased texting. Women tended to take to their smartphone keyboards to apologize, work out their differences and make decisions — in other words, when their relationship was in trouble. As their connection with their loved one deteriorated, women attempted to make up or resolve their differences via text, which the scientists believe is the online version of the need to “talk things out.” It's time to put down the phones and schedule time to TALK to one another. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why texting is not a good idea when you need to discuss big or important issues with your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR | Minter & Richter Titanium Rings Minter & Richter work from their studio housed in Boston’s Historic Rum Distillery, Scott, Owner, Ring Maker & Metalsmith Extraordinaire, meticulously crafts each ring custom to order. Combining titanium with everything from the exotic – water buffalo horn, to the everyday – concrete, and special found objects that customers send, Scott is continually reinventing the idea of what a ring should be. Get your customer ring today! Rescue My Marriage Today Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/29/201632 minutes, 7 seconds
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316: NO KIDS ALLOWED

Kids are amazing from those cute little baby faces to the amazing young adults they become. However, when the kids become more important than your marriage that’s when problems arise. Some of these may be: The kids are still sleeping with you. Everything revolves around the kids activities (to the point that the two of you can’t remember the last time you went out and it was just the two of you). You find yourself drifting apart and using the kids as your buffer zone, your distraction, and your focus. All of those things that really should be on your spouse. Your children need to know that your marriage is strong. They need to see the example of mom and dad valuing each other and making each other a priority. Unfortunately... When your marriage becomes all about the kids, no matter what age they are, an unfair burden is placed upon them. One that they were never designed to have to bear. Kids are not a replacement for your marriage relationship. They are not to be your best friend, during the child rearing years. Your child is not to take on the responsibility of meeting your adult emotional needs or attention. It’s time to look at the relationship you both have with your kids, make changes that benefit your marriage and then put the energy back into your spouse. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s important to set up guardrails and have no kids allowed areas in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Minter & Richter Titanium Rings Minter & Richter work from their studio housed in Boston’s Historic Rum Distillery, Scott, Owner, Ring Maker & Metalsmith Extraordinaire, meticulously crafts each ring custom to order. Combining titanium with everything from the exotic – water buffalo horn, to the everyday – concrete, and special found objects that customers send, Scott is continually reinventing the idea of what a ring should be. Get your customer ring today! Rescue My Marriage Today Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/22/201632 minutes, 20 seconds
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315: CLEANING UP AFTER SEX

Have ever noticed that in movies you never see couples cleaning up after sex? Usually this romantic moment has no clean up afterwards. The couple cuddles together as they basks in the afterglow of an amazing sexual moment together. Seems odd... As long as we have been making love, cleaning up after sex has always been a part of the our sexual intimacy. Throughout your marriage cleaning up after sex can be impacted by your current form of birth control, are you trying to conceive a child, or even where you are making love.  Some factors may be: Are you using condoms? Are you trying to make a baby or not trying to make a baby? Are you in a hotel? One with two beds so that one is for sex and one for sleeping? Are your sheets clean? After you finish making love you want to cuddle and yet, in the back of your mind you're thinking about fluids going all over the place. The romance and intensity of what you have just experienced can be diminished by the time you finish cleaning up after sex. This can change what was such a powerful moment. We've been there ourselves many of times and have a few ways that you can get the most out of your time together after cleaning up. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about maintaining the delicate balance between romance and cleaning up after sex. EPISODE SPONSOR | Rescue My Marriage Today Waitlist You want change in your marriage because everything you have tried hasn’t worked to this point. You listen to the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show and think, I want what they and so many other couples have. Resuce My Marriage Today will turn your marriage around and get you back to feeling wanted, connected and intimate. Sign up for the waitlist now. 313 - Pack The Boxes, It’s Time to Move On 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP 6 Benefits of Cuddling With Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/15/201631 minutes, 30 seconds
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314: STOP HOPING, START DOING

Lack of action, apathy, laziness are marriage killers.  In this life you have two options, you are either growing or you’re not. When you wish or hope for change without doing what you need to be doing that’s not growth. That’s being outwardly focused. That’s expecting others to do the changing why you sit back and wait. We've both done this in our marriage over the years. At some point in time you've been frustrated with your marriage. Be it emotionally, financially, sexually, and/or spiritually.  When all you do is hope that the situation will change you put all of the responsibility on your spouse.  Marriage is a 100% / 100% commitment. That's 100% effort from each of you. It’s time for you to take your hope, for you to take your wishful thinking and give it some power. Give it some action as you start doing something to create growth and change. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the power of hope when it’s combined with action as you start doing something different in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Rescue My Marriage Today Waitlist You want change in your marriage because everything you have tried hasn’t worked to this point. You listen to the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show and think, I want what they and so many other couples have. Resuce My Marriage Today will turn your marriage around and get you back to feeling wanted, connected and intimate. Sign up for the waitlist now. 140 - Scheduling Sex QBQ! The Question Behind the Question Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/8/201631 minutes, 35 seconds
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313: PACK THE BOXES, IT’S TIME TO MOVE ON

Moving is truly one of those events that literally turns everything upside down. You go from being settled and knowing all of your routines to have everything boxed up (both before and after the move) and everything is different. This includes how the two of you act with one another as you prep, box your things, move in day, and afterwards. When it's time to move on for us we sort our things into 3 piles. Donate Get Rid Of (Trash) Take With You Let's look at your marriage from the perspective of moving. What do you need to donate to your spouse? What do you need to get rid of in terms of your behavior/resentments/conflict? What do you need to take with you, continue doing? In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what lessons you can learn about your marriage when it's time to move on to another home. EPISODE SPONSOR | Minter & Richter Titanium Rings Minter & Richter work from their studio housed in Boston’s Historic Rum Distillery, Scott, Owner, Ring Maker & Metalsmith Extraordinaire, meticulously crafts each ring custom to order. Combining titanium with everything from the exotic – water buffalo horn, to the everyday – concrete, and special found objects that customers send, Scott is continually reinventing the idea of what a ring should be. Get your customer ring today! Check out the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Signature Ring Set Sign up for a strategic coaching consultation 046 - Are You Keeping Score? 166 - Holey Underwear Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/1/201631 minutes, 20 seconds
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312: WHAT YOUR HUSBAND IS THINKING BEFORE AND DURING SEX

Have you ever wondered what your husband is thinking before and during sex? It may have crossed your mind from time to time or it's something you haven't even considered. Here's the thing though... Just like you and all you have going on he has thoughts that can hinder him from being fully present with you. We learned this first had as we were in the middle of completing our 8th 7 Days of Sex Challenge. By far one of the toughest we have done. One of the nights we began a conversation have sex that we have never had before. What do men think about before and during sex? Now, you would have thought that this would have come up in conversation before and yet it hasn't.  In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what your husband is thinking about before and during sex. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don't Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Wednesday December 2nd. During this free webinar you will learn: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register today for our I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar. 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/23/201632 minutes, 14 seconds
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311: JEALOUSY (THE GREEN EYED MONSTER)

Jealousy is destructive to both the one who is being jealous and the one who is receiving it. After 19 years of marriage we've experienced jealousy at different times and over different things. Jealousy  can take the form of: interrogations about where someone has been, what they have been doing or who they were with searching through your spouse's phone or through a computer questioning any time that your spouse happens to look at a member of the opposite sex rifling through their bags/suitcases/briefcases for “evidence” increasing anxiety over what your spouse does when you are not around them Where does jealousy come from? There is no easy answer but there are a number of ways that it can begin in one’s life. These include: Low Self Esteem - being told that you are not good enough, pretty enough, handsome enough, smart enough Feelings of insecurity or fear of abandonment - being hurt in the past can set you up to try and protect yourself in the future Fear of vulnerability or fear of rejection - the fear that if you reveal your true self you will be loved less, that by sharing who you truly are your spouse will not love you Jealousy is destructive in marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the impact jealousy has on your marriage and what you can do about it. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don't Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Wednesday December 2nd. During this free webinar you will learn: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register today for our I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar. Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples 4 Simple Tools to Improve Communication with Your Spouse via Wellness Mom Life Connecting Like We Did When We First Met via A Prioritized Marriage Communication in Our Marriage via Country Living and Penny Pinching Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/16/201631 minutes, 50 seconds
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310: VALENTINE’S DAY, MAKE IT MORE THAN JUST ONE DAY

Do you remember your first Valentine’s Day together? I do, I was living in the Delta Gamma house at DePauw University and Tony was at the University of Colorado at Boulder. I had sent him a poem I had written and waited all day for my “Valentine”. I couldn’t wait to see what would come. Would Tony surprise me by showing up? Would he come with a ring and a proposal (I can’t even believe I thought that after only 6 months of dating he would, but hey I was dreaming.) Would he even remember? He did... The thing is that it has been the love shown not on just one day, but day after day. It has been in the little things and big things over the years that has made a difference. This has been the glue that has kept us together through the good times and during the tough ones. What has changed our marriage and can change you is the decision to love on each other by demonstrating that love not on just one day each year. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about showing your love throughout the year, not just one day each year, Valentine’s Day. EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Days of Sex Challenge Life is stressful, but when you are too busy (or tired) to find some time for sexual intimacy, it can really seem unbearable. The 7 Days of Sex Challenge makes it easy for busy couples like you to find some fun time together because it ELIMINATES the stress of figuring out what you need to do for 7 days that will be new and creative to try. Grab your copy of the 7 Days of Sex Challenge today! Catch Us Live on Valentine’s Day at 5 PM PST, via C3 Livestream 14 Fun Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas for Married Couples 218 - Not All Good or All Bad Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/9/201631 minutes, 45 seconds
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309: SEX IS NOT A DUTY IT’S A GIFT

Sex is one of the biggest perks of being married and yet so often, relegated to an obligation instead of being the gift it truly should be. Have you ever said (or at least thought) any of the following in regard to sex in your marriage. It’s one more thing I have to do I’m so tired Don’t you ever get enough What about MY needs I could take it or leave it How does sex with your spouse get to this point? There is an anticipation to be sexually intimate at times, but more often than not it's not even on the radar for you or your spouse. This could be due to... Childhood messages about what sex should or shouldn’t be Busyness Lack of romance Lack of communication Sex is used as a weapon, treat me well and I’ll have sex with you, otherwise, no go Stopped learning or caring what works for the other Routine (same positions/same time) When sex has become a duty or an obligation, your marriage suffers. Sex is truly one the most intimate times with another person and not being fully involved in the process is placing a wedge between you and your spouse. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about changing your mindset so that sex is not a duty in your marriage but a gift that you give to one another. EPISODE SPONSOR | 19 Quick Questions That Will Rekindle Your Sex Life ASAP Talking about sex with your spouse is something you should do during different seasons of life. When you do you'll create a shift in your marriage around this sometimes “tricky” subject. Make sure to pick up this FREE resource that is going to give you 19 questions to change your sex life. Grab 19 Quick Questions now and don't miss an opportunity to learn about your sexual intimacy. 3 Ways to Overcome Your Fear 15 Ways to Romance Your Spouse Over the Next 30 Days Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions For Couples 140 - Scheduling Sex Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/2/201632 minutes, 5 seconds
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308: TWO BECOME ONE

Two become one. You may have heard this when you stood before your pastor as you were about to say "I Do". Since you got married though you feel that the two of you are not united in your marriage. This is showing up in areas ranging from: handling finances dealing with family what’s going on with the kids your sex life having a conversation creating a safe environment, free of judgment or harsh words spending time together and the list goes on You did not get married to do marriage by yourself. That’s a complete contradiction. Let’s be clear, we are not saying that you have to do everything together and spend all day, every day together. However, when there is no unity in your marriage it takes a heavy toll on you and your spouse. When there isn't unity in your marriage you feel: distant disconnected frustrated worthless invisible lonely angry This causes the distance between the two of you to grow. The silences get longer. The time spent away from one another grows. It’s time to go back to basics. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what it truly means when two become one and when you come together to be unified in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | 6 INCREDIBLE Questions To Instantly Break The Silence With Your Partner When you use these six questions they will help you connect at a deeper level, start the conversation when it feels like there is nothing to talk about, provide an opportunity to connect and bring the two of you closer and may bring a smile to you and your partners face upon sharing. Grab Our Six Questions now and don't miss an opportunity to connect with your spouse. 128 - Playing On The Same TEAM Financial Peace University by Dave Ramsey Total Transformation One-on-One Coaching  Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/26/201632 minutes, 5 seconds
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307: STRENGTH TRAINING YOUR MARRIAGE MUSCLES

Strength training your marriage isn't just about you as an individual. It's about strength training your marriage so that you and your spouse create a healthy, vibrant and growing marriage. The first 11 years of our marriage. we didn’t do much strength training in our marriage. We read a few devotionals, we had done a few small groups at church for married couples, occasionally we went out on date night or got a weekend by ourselves but that was about it. The foundation of our marriage was awful: distance, disconnected, and loneliness. When we decided to start strength training our marriage muscles a shift occurred. A shift that let’s us look at each day with excitement, with expectation that the best is yet to come. The same thing can happen in your marriage. Find your personal marriage trainer (hopefully us), so you can live your marriage with a plan, a purpose and excitement for what's to come. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why strength training isn’t just something for the gym but rather something that your marriage needs as well. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don't Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Wednesday December 2nd. During this free webinar you will learn: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register today for our I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar. Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Financial Peace University by Dave Ramsey One-on-One Coaching  Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/19/201632 minutes, 5 seconds
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306: A GOOD HUSBAND ISN’T SO HARD TO FIND

Husbands get a bum rap in media, books, movies, tv--out of touch, unfeeling, sexed up, jerks. And yet your husband your husband is a good husband. You may look at yourself and even say that you are a good husband and one that doesn't even compare to how the media portrays you. Your're a husband who does dishes, change diapers, makes dinner and much more. A Husband who rubs your wife's feet, starts a bath plus you join in and sends love letters to your wife throughout the year. Is every husband like this? No. But every husband has the potential. It’s a matter of unlocking this in your marriage and both a husband and a wife can do this. When this happens a husband understands his role as the rock for his wife, children and for those around. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of acknowledging and giving praise to your husband because a good husband isn’t so hard to find. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don't Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Wednesday December 2nd. During this free webinar you will learn: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register today for our I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar. Taking Charge of Your Fertility 56 Simple (But Super Effective) Compliments To Encourage Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/12/201631 minutes, 45 seconds
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305: TWICE IN ONE DAY (MAKING LOVE THAT IS)

Making love to your spouse is one of the most intimate times you two have together. It's a time when everything else falls away while you bask in each others arms. Now when you make love twice in one day that double the pleasure... Well is it? It sure is because it changes things up in your marriage and your sexual intimacy. This brings on a new and fresh perspective that you may have not seen. When you are making love multiple times in a day sexual intimacy becomes a priority as it puts the focus back on the two of you. You learn that sex can be quick and playful or lingering and romantic, there’s place for both in your marriage (you get to decide which one you want to do). Variety is good for both of you which can be a plus for new adventures down the road. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of stepping outside your sexual comfort zone as we share about making love twice in one day. EPISODE SPONSOR | Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex In this free resource learn the proven ways you can initiate that have worked for thousands of couples around the world. Even if you're not the one who usually initiates you can learn how to break the sexual tension and have your spouse responding in no time, have fun in the situation while LOVING and respecting each other, set yourself up for success in just 5 minutes or less and much more. Grab the Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex today! 7 Days of Sex Challenge: Rock Your Sex Life and Your Marriage Episode 140 - Scheduling Sex Romance Your Spouse With These Sexy Text Messages Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/5/201631 minutes, 40 seconds
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304: YOUR BEST YEAR EVER

It’s that time of year when you are thinking about the New Year and what's ahead for your marriage. You've thought about what happened over this past year and what you want this next year to look like. During this time you may be taking a serious look at your marriage and how you can strengthen each of the six intimacies. Your are counting down to the New Year and wondering how you can make it your best year ever. Starting this year or a new season of your life without a plan means that you are going to be at the mercy and whim of the world around you. When you are reactive you leave many aspects of your marriage floating around to "just happen". You couldn’t do your job if you didn’t have any idea of what was expected of you, why should our marriages be any less. In our marriage we are fortunate to be surrounded by couples who have been proactive about what's ahead for their marriage. What separates them and their marriage is that they are being intentional. Here’s a little secret... You can too. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what you can do right now so that you can create the best year ever in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | 15 Everyday Libido Boosting Habits Need to boost your libido? Simply use one of the 15 easy everyday habits we’ve put together for you… and never worry about a fizzling sex drive again! Get the #1 Tip we share with thousands of listeners on how to relax before sex, get this wrong and no tip we give can help! Plus, we share how to “schedule sex” so you can take the guess work out of when you’re going to “get some!” (this alone has hundreds of marriages saved marriages!) Sign up now for your FREE 15 Everyday Libido Boosting Habits Our Six Questions (Free Resource) He Zigs She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path  Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation  Core Values Workshop  One-on-One Coaching Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/29/201533 minutes, 10 seconds
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303: ARE YOU BEING PRESENT?

The presents are wrapped and under the tree, the stockings are hung, the cookies are baked and you’re exhausted. As a couple you find yourselves rushing through life, rushing through your marriage and missing out on being present with your spouse. Here's the thing... There will always be stuff to do in every season of your marriage. There will always be distractions in your life. In our 19 years of marriage we can attest to this. What sets your marriage apart is how you make each other a priority. This is so important! The two of you really need time together, just the two of you, and no one else. This means dates without the kids or a group of adults. Time alone walking, driving, playing a fun board game or cuddling on the couch listening to your favorite music. The two of you are so busy doing for others (your kids, your boss, your friends) that you need to make sure you are being present for one another. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about being present with your spouse during each season of life. EPISODE SPONSOR | Audible 30-Day Free Trial Here at ONE Extraordinary Marriage we already know that you like to listen to great content through your phone or your computer. We also know that you like to have your content available everywhere you go. With audible you can Choose from over 180,000 titles. One that we will be talking about on the show is David Finch’s The Journal of Best Practices. Get this or any other title with your Audible 30-day FREE trial. Four Fun Moments You Can Share With Your Spouse [VIDEO] Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/22/201530 minutes, 10 seconds
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302: WHEN DRIFT BEGINS TO HAPPEN

This time of year can be challenging for so many marriages. You are trying to hold it together for the family, for the kids, for the holidays and for yourself. Over the last weeks and months you have noticed that you and your spouse have begin to drift. You're living in survival mode, dealing with one thing after the next and yet you were designed to thrive. How did the drift begin in your marriage? For many of us we are TOO busy. There are his schedule, her schedule, the kids’ schedules, volunteering, getting together with friends. So much going on that there was little to no time to truly connect with one another. You and your spouse are not listening to each other. In the precious moments that you have together there is a rush to get through whatever you have to say OR you are so distracted that listening becomes secondary to whatever else you are doing. Also, opportunities to spend time with one another are eclipsed by whatever was on the to do list. This has to get done, we’ve got to do this, etc. etc. You are drifting apart right now from your spouse and there is no end in sight. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what happens when drift begins to happen in your marriage and what you can do to connect once again. EPISODE SPONSOR | Holiday Book Bundle Christmas is next week and you might be thinking, “What do I get my husband or wife?” We’ve got the perfect solution for you but you are going to have to act fast because there are only 30 of these available... It’s the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Holiday Book Bundle. Softcover copies of our two most popular titles: Connect Like You Did When You First Met 101 Proven Questions for Couples AND 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Improve your emotional intimacy and your physical intimacy this Christmas season. Get both of these titles for only $19 for the bundle, that’s a 56% savings. Grab your Holiday Book Bundle Today! Good or God by John Bevere Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/15/201532 minutes, 30 seconds
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301: THOSE COMPETING VOICES

What you choose to listen to does and will impact the decisions that you make. You have voices that are marriage enriching, which foster your relationship and are strong when the two of you are making time for each other, sharing your lives with each other both emotionally and physically. Then there are those voices encouraging you to be selfish. They begin to get louder when there is a disconnect in your emotional, physical, spiritual and financial intimacies. It gets harder to listen to those positive marriage enriching voices when the two of you have let everything else get in the way of your marriage. Don't let these competing voices distract you any longer. Make a choice, daily, sometimes minute by minute that you are going to stop and ask the question, is this choice, is this decision supporting my marriage? Am I choosing to be selfless or selfish in this moment... Selfless, go with it. Selfish, stop in your tracks and determine if this is the path you want to start down. Make sure that those situations, (business trips, electronics, friends, co-workers, etc) that continue to arise that you implement guardrails around. In doing so you will hear the voice that will enrich your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about those competing voices in your head, the ones that encourage you to build your marriage and the ones that justify taking dangerous actions. EPISODE SPONSOR | 101 Easy and Creative Gift Ideas Christmas is almost here and you might be scrambling, trying to figure out just what to give your spouse. Take a deep breath, our team here at ONE Extraordinary Marriage has done the hard work for you. We have compiled a list of 101 Easy and Creative Gift Ideas, everything from body scrub to a hot tub. Gifts for him, for her and for the two of you. It can be hard to find just that special something but this list makes it easy for you. Mind Mastery Cards Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/8/201531 minutes, 30 seconds
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300: WE NEVER THOUGHT WE WOULD BE HERE

"A journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step." —Laozi In your marriage there have been joyous times when you look around and think to yourself, " I never thought I would be here" and tough times when you never thought you would be here. Either way you are here right now. What you choose to do at this time will be instrumental in where you are heading in your marriage journey. What we have enjoyed doing over our 19 years of marriage is to celebrate and remember these times. They are a part of us and our testimony of faith, growth, and love. All in all we never thought we would be here! Six year after starting the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show our marriage journey has ebbed and flow and still continues. In this week's show Tony and Alisa share as their journey continues in their marriage, the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show and listener feedback from the ONE Family. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Wednesday December 2nd. During this free webinar you will learn: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register today for our I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/1/201540 minutes, 45 seconds
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299: YOUR SEXUAL INTIMACY DURING THE HOLIDAYS

Your to-do list is a mile long as the holidays and the end of the year approaches. You have meetings, parties, shopping, last minute errands, cleaning the house, end of the year reports, travel, kids out of school, and more that need to get done. There is so much to do and yet your sexual intimacy gets push aside for this "season", to another day, another week, or maybe you'll wait until next year. Yes you'll celebrate New Year’s together. Hugging, kissing and then starting the new year cuddled together under the sheets. Right? Hopefully, but usually not. This is NOT the season to put your marriage and your sexual intimacy on the back burner. When you are not intentional about your marriage during the holidays the smiley faces come out, but deep down there is hurt, anxiety and frustration. Both of you begin to push each other away, as other things become more important and you drift apart hoping it will be better on New Year's Eve. You may be thinking that you don’t want to start next year the way that this year is ending... Disconnected, lack of communication and not having sex. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about being intentional with all aspects of your marriage, especially your sexual intimacy during the holiday season. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Wednesday December 2nd. During this free webinar you will learn: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register today for our I Love You But I Don’t Trust You Webinar. 15 Ways to Romance Your Spouse Over the Next 30 Days Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/24/201532 minutes, 22 seconds
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298: TRULY THANKFUL

The word thankful means, "feeling or expressing gratitude; appreciative." As a married couple you should take time each day, week, and month to share with your spouse how truly thankful you are for them. For how they have had a positive impact in your life. With the end of the year and the holidays upon you it is a perfect time to share with your spouse why you are truly thankful for them over the past year. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about expressing gratitude to your spouse about why you are truly thankful for them over this past year. EPISODE SPONSOR | I Love You But I Don't Trust You Webinar Join us for the “I Love You But I Don't Trust You: 4 Simple Strategies To Build, Maintain, and Regain Trust In Your Relationship” webinar on Wednesday December 2nd. During this free webinar you will learn: A practical step-by-step process for rebuilding trust after porn, infidelity, suspicion and harmful mistakes (even if your partner is not on board). Register today for our I Love You But I Don't Trust You Webinar. 285 - Words of Encouragement Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/17/201531 minutes, 50 seconds
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297: DE-STESS THE HOLIDAYS

Surprise. Christmas is coming AGAIN this year, in fact it comes every year. Can you believe it? —Said with a little sarcasm. However this is often the sentiment that couples experience when the holidays roll around, every December. Here are a few things that happens during this time of year... lots of activities, parties, concerts, school programs gift exchanges holiday shopping All of these take time and money. From new outfits, a gift to share at a work gift exchange or buying presents for the family. Not only do they take time and money they can increase your stress level. When you get stressed one of the first things to go is your libido. So how can you bring down your stress level? Listen in now and set yourself up for success this holiday season. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about a few ways that you can de-stress the holidays so that you can be present and experience joy this Christmas. EPISODE SPONSOR | Audible 30-Day Free Trial Here at ONE Extraordinary Marriage we already know that you like to listen to great content through your phone or your computer. We also know that you like to have your content available everywhere you go. With audible you can Choose from over 180,000 titles. One that we will be talking about on the show is David Finch’s The Journal of Best Practices. Get this or any other title with your Audible 30-day FREE trial. 101 Easy and Creative Christmas Gift Ideas Awesome Under $20 Stocking Stuffers Elfster Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/10/201532 minutes, 10 seconds
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296: YOUR MARRIAGE MANUAL

Many items that you purchase come with a manual. Your car, your crockpot, the computer, TV, kid's toys and even your mascara has instructions. And yet you and your spouse despite all in all of their complexity do not. You marry someone who is completely unique, who has all kinds of quirks, some of which won’t even come out until you’ve been married for quite awhile. We know because after 19 years of marriage we are still learning about some of them. :) How do you figure out and learn your spouse? After much research on how to set up a marriage manual we discovered The Journal of Best Practices by David Finch. David was diagnosed with Asperger syndrome after he had gotten married and his best practices are a perfect way to create your own marriage manual. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it's important to create a marriage manual so you can have success no matter what you face on your marriage journey. EPISODE SPONSOR | Audible 30-Day Free Trial Here at ONE Extraordinary Marriage we already know that you like to listen to great content through your phone or your computer. We also know that you like to have your content available everywhere you go. With audible you can Choose from over 180,000 titles. One that we will be talking about on the show is David Finch’s The Journal of Best Practices. Get this or any other title with your Audible 30-day FREE trial. Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage The Journal of Best Practices Color Your Future: Using the Character Code to Enhance Your Life Wired That Way Personality Profile Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/3/201532 minutes, 27 seconds
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295: THE NO REJECTION ZONE

Creating a no rejection zone in your marriage is vital to creating an environment where both you and your spouse trust one another. Rejection is incredibly destructive. It eats away at a person’s sense of worth, it creates doubt, it destroys the foundation of your marriage. For the first 11 years of our marriage rejection was as common as breathing air. Over the past eight years we have decided that our bedroom is a no rejection zone. In doing so there has been a shift in us and in our marriage. What we learned is that sometimes you know when you are rejecting your spouse... That’s the bold NO. And other times it with more subtle statements, such as: Not tonight. Not right now. I’m really busy. I have one more thing I have to do. One more chapter to read. I’m going to (cuddle, hang out, watch a movie) with the kids. I have a volunteer meeting. I already made plans with friends. Each one of these things is not bad or destructive in and of themselves. It’s when they become the pattern of behavior in your marriage. It’s when this is all that your spouse hears. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s so important to have a no rejection zone in your bedroom. EPISODE SPONSOR | The Science of a Woman, the Art of Manhood In this fascinating read, author Eric Smith, digs into many topics dealing with the marriage relationship and how husbands and wives relate to one another sexually. He digs deep into grace based vs law based relationships and the forgotten art of manhood. This is a must read for couples everywhere. Learn more today when you grab your copy of The Science of a Woman, the Art of Manhood. 140 - Scheduling Sex Quick Intimacy Lifestyle Overview [VIDEO] Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation 56 Simple (But Super Effective) Compliments To Encourage Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/27/201533 minutes, 50 seconds
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294: YOU HAVE 168 HOURS EACH WEEK

You’re busy. There is a lot going on in your life. When you’re dating or even newly married it seems like you have the ability to make the time for one another no matter what. You’ll rearrange your schedule. You’ll say no to other people or activities that would take you away from your love. And then over time... well other things start to fill up that time. The less time you spend engaged in your relationship the more disconnect there is. No matter if you have been married, 3 months or 30 years you still have to get to know your spouse. When you stop giving that time to one another, when you stop learning about one another there is a natural drift apart that occurs. Without some type of  behavior change that gap can get wider and wider. You know when you are co-existing in the same house, but not really growing together. It's time to do a time makeover... In looking at your week you will begin to see the time that you do have together, is it really quality time? Or do you just happen to be home at the same time. Are you doing things together? Are you talking? Are you dating? Are you having sex? In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what you can do together to find those chunks of time in your 168 hours each week so you connect regularly. EPISODE SPONSOR | Audible 30-Day Free Trial Here at ONE Extraordinary Marriage we already know that you like to listen to great content through your phone or your computer. We also know that you like to have your content available everywhere you go. With audible you can Choose from over 180,000 titles. One that we have talked about on the show is ScreamFree Marriage: Calming Down, Growing Up, and Getting Closer. Get this or any other title with your Audible 30-day FREE trial. Get More Quality Time Workshop Scheduling Sex... A Quick Intimacy Lifestyle Overview [VIDEO] Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/20/201532 minutes
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293: HOLD ON TIGHT

On October 5th we celebrated our 19th wedding anniversary! For our anniversary day we choose to have a date day with a theme...we’ll share this date idea on an upcoming Periscope. Follow us there @oneextraordinary. One part of the date was to go to a local shooting range. It was one of those things that sounded like a good idea until we got there and started going over all of the safety features. There was one moment when Alisa almost said, "Nope, not gonna do it." Fear of the unknown almost stopped us from having an new learning experience together. So what happened once we got in the shooting range...We learned a lot about marriage in just 90 minutes. In this week's show Tony and Alisa share what you can learn about your marriage when you hold on tight to each other. EPISODE SPONSOR | The Science of a Woman, the Art of Manhood In this fascinating read, author Eric Smith, digs into many topics dealing with the marriage relationship and how husbands and wives relate to one another sexually. One of the most challenging for us, was his challenging of the idea of high desire and low desire. Smith asks the question why would God put us in conflict with one another with different levels of desire? Great question! Learn more today when you grab your copy of The Science of a Woman, the Art of Manhood. Core Values Workshop Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/13/201531 minutes, 45 seconds
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292: IT’S BEEN TOO LONG SINCE WE’VE HAD SEX

When you have said to yourself and/or to your spouse, "It's been too long since we've had sex", then it's time to sit down to figure out what is going on. The topic of sexless marriages is one a lot of people shy away from. Most of the time because if it is not talked about then the problem doesn't exist. Unfortunately, roughly 15% of marriage have not had sex with their spouse in the last six to twelve months, according to Denise A. Donnelly, associate professor of sociology at Georgia State University. Sexless marriages by definition are marriages in which a couple has sex less than 10-12 times per year. Why is this happening: too much rejection broken trust lack of communication medication What we cover in this show is NOT those seasons of marriage where you are unable to have sex due to medical conditions OR physical limitations, but areas that you can address in a physically healthy marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa dive into why there has been an increase in sexless marriages and the impact it has on you. EPISODE SPONSOR | Audible 30-Day Free Trial Here at ONE Extraordinary Marriage we already know that you like to listen to great content through your phone or your computer. We also know that you like to have your content available everywhere you go. With audible you can Choose from over 180,000 titles. One that we have talked about on the show is ScreamFree Marriage: Calming Down, Growing Up, and Getting Closer. Get this or any other title with your Audible 30-day FREE trial. The Rise of All-Purpose Antidepressants The Brutal Truth About Sexless Marriages When Sex Leaves the Marriage On Air with Ella - One (HOT!) Extraordinary Marriage Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/6/201534 minutes, 40 seconds
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291: THE MARRIED COUPLES GUIDE TO PMS

Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) is not just about the emotional toll it has, but also the physical impact it has on women. There are many symptoms that can be experienced. Some of these are: feeling tired food cravings trouble with memory joint or muscle pain tension, irritability, mood swings or crying spells PMS can create feelings of disconnect during the month. Leading her to... An unwillingness to be touched. A short "fuse". Roller coaster of emotions. And for him... Not knowing what to do or say. Struggles with how to comfort his wife. There is a lack of physical connection. And studies show that PMS can last 1-2 weeks BEFORE a woman gets her period which then averages 5 days. In this week's show Tony and Alisa bring you the married couples guide to PMS and how to talk about it together. EPISODE SPONSOR | The Science of a Woman, the Art of Manhood In this fascinating read, author Eric Smith, digs into many topics dealing with the marriage relationship and how husbands and wives relate to one another sexually. One of the most challenging for us, was his challenging of the idea of high desire and low desire. Smith asks the question why would God put us in conflict with one another with different levels of desire? Great question! Learn more today when you grab your copy of The Science of a Woman, the Art of Manhood. Taking Charge of Your Fertility How Did He Know? Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/29/201531 minutes, 56 seconds
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290: GROUNDHOG DAY

Routine... while is seems easy and comforting at first really and truly leads to boredom. Boredom in your marriage leads to looking for other people or things to break that sense of routine. This boredom if not address can lead to emotional affairs, to physical affairs, to erotica and pornography, to excessive spending, to countless hours lost on social media and most importantly a loss of connection with your spouse. For you this feels like Groundhog Day. The same thing is happening day in and day out in your marriages. Nothing changes except the date on the calendar. Your conversations are about the same things. Your dates all look the same. Your sex life hasn’t had any variety in what seems like forever. It’s a Groundhog Day season of marriage... Doing the same thing over and over. The definition of insanity is "doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result." It's time to break the routine, to stop living as if Groundhog Day is your life! In this week's show Tony and Alisa share what happens to your marriage when it seems as Groundhog Day is happening day after day and how you can break the cycle of routine so you can have abundance. EPISODE SPONSOR | Core Values Workshop - September 23, 2015 at 6:30 PM PST Here's what's happening. We've almost reached our registrations limit and are closing the doors to The Core Values Workshop LIVE training. Join us right now and register before you lose your chance. We have to close the offer so we can focus on all the new members. So NOW is the time to get off the fence and get in! We can't wait to connect with you live! Register today: www.CoreValuesWorkshop.com Trenchcoat And High Heels Discover the Top 10 Ways To Initiate Sex With Your Spouse TONIGHT Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/22/201531 minutes, 30 seconds
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289: WALK AROUND NAKED AT HOME

This show came out of a conversation we had as Tony walked from the master bathroom into our bedroom... naked. It occurred to us that those couples who walk around naked are couples who are vulnerable and comfortable with each other. We realized through this conversation that walking around naked in our own marriage has taken many different forms over the years. There have been different times in our lives when we would walk around naked and other times when we would not. These include: Newlywed years New parents stage Young kids around Teenagers and their schedules Empty nesters Through the years there has been changes to our bodies. We have gone from our early 20s, when we got marriage, to now in our 40s. This isn't only about how we look, it’s about how we think we look, and the messages that we give each other. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about being comfortable in your own skin as well as around your spouse as you walk around naked at home. EPISODE SPONSOR | The Science of a Woman, the Art of Manhood In this fascinating read, author Eric Smith, digs into many topics dealing with the marriage relationship and how husbands and wives relate to one another sexually. One of the most challenging for us, was his challenging of the idea of high desire and low desire. Smith asks the question why would God put us in conflict with one another with different levels of desire? Great question! Learn more today when you grab your copy of The Science of a Woman, the Art of Manhood. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/15/201531 minutes, 51 seconds
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288: DISCOVERING YOUR TRUE VALUES

People are lost. Marriages are lost. Families are lost. We have become a society, that for the most part, doesn’t plan who or what we stand for. Do you know what your marriage stands for? Every couple and family has their own unique set of characteristics. Whether it's something that they have sat down and consciously decided on OR it's something that they have just "fallen" into. This is their identity. Sometimes those things that you are known for, aren't necessarily positive... that family is always late that family never spends time together that family.... What would happen if you choose to create your identity? If you choose the positive words to speak over your marriage, over your spouse, over your children? Words matter. Values matter. What you stand for, what you speak to each other, what you value impacts every decision that you make. These are your true values. It's not enough to just "have this idea in your head" it has to be something that you participate in together and have a hand in forming. What values in our marriage is not going to be the same as what will ultimately be your core values. While the values aren't going to be the same, the fact that we take the time to create this and identify them for our families transforms us, and our communities. It becomes an identity, our foundation. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about your family legacy and the importance of discovering your true values as a person and as a couple. EPISODE SPONSOR | Core Values Workshop - September 23rd, 2015 What would it be like to have greater clarity and peace when making the choices that matter with your spouse? Marriage means tackling  "the big things" together, as true teammates. Whether you’re newlyweds, married 5, 10, 30 years or a couple at any stage you will have to navigate big decisions together. You can connect with your spouse in an incredible  new way. The Core Values Workshop is built around specific, clear, actionable steps that will help you connect with your better half in a judgment-free way. Some Nights by Fun (Video) Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/8/201531 minutes, 40 seconds
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287: THE IMPACT OF TONE AND TIMING

When you first meet your spouse you were most likely on your best behavior at all times. You would watch out for what you would say and how you would say it. Over time, as you became more familiar with each other that “best behavior started to slide”. You got more comfortable with the fact that your future spouse would be sticking around. As time passed you took the relationship for granted and AS A RESULT you would say things however you wanted, whenever the mood strikes. Unfortunately, this can be a disaster for your marriage. When you don’t care how you say something or what you say to your spouse, you open up each of you to a world of hurt. Both of you deserve the respect of the other. Both of you deserve to be treated in the same way that you wish to be treated. If you don’t want your spouse to raise their voice at you. Don’t raise your voice at them. If you don’t want your spouse to interrupt you. Don’t interrupt them. If you don’t want to be accused of ALWAYS OR NEVER. Don’t do it to them. If you want to be able to have fruitful conversations it’s not just about how you say something. It’s also about when you say something. It's about your tone and timing. There are times when stress levels are high. There are times when fatigue is a huge factor (or hunger). There are times when your spouse is naturally less talkative. These are not the times to bring up a serious conversation. No one is going to be productive. Choosing the time to talk is just as important if not more so then what you are talking about. Take the first step and listen now. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about how the tone of your voice and the timing of your conversations ultimately determine the success of your conversations. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path I got married 7 months ago and as a newlywed I can honestly say there is no play book or instruction manual to prepare you for this thing called marriage. He Zigs, She Zags has been our play book when it comes to our communication. I just wanted to message you guys and say THANK YOU. You are making a difference in our marriage! —Chris C., Indiana Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/1/201531 minutes, 30 seconds
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286: SEX IS A PART OF MARRIAGE

In your marriage there are six forms of intimacy that build your foundation. Each are vital to a successful marriage, a marriage based on safety and trust. And, sexual intimacy is one of them. When your needs or those of your spouse are not being met a few things start to happen… You wonder why you are married in the first place and start thinking about getting out. You begin to get resentful and withdraw from the marriage. You don’t see the harm in look toward other things to fulfill you (pornography, erotica, emotional affairs, physical affairs, etc.) since your spouse isn’t doing anything. This is not the marriage that you want to live in. It’s not healthy. It’s a relationship filled with... anger frustration sadness resentment disappointment withdrawal loneliness You can have an amazing sex life. You can learn how to please each other. Learning anything new takes time, patience, an open mind and a willingness to learn. On this week's show Tony and Alisa share why sex is a part of marriage (no matter if it's stagnant or vibrant) and how the two can make your sexual intimacy burn once again. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path I got married 7 months ago and as a newlywed I can honestly say there is no play book or instruction manual to prepare you for this thing called marriage. He Zigs, She Zags has been our play book when it comes to our communication. I just wanted to message you guys and say THANK YOU. You are making a difference in our marriage! —Chris C., Indiana 19 Questions to Amazing Sex with Your Spouse 140 - Scheduling Sex Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/25/201532 minutes
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285: WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT

There are a lot of distractions in the world… electronics, social media, daily tasks, other people, etc. Because of these distractions it’s easy to lose sight of the gift that you have right in front of your face. The gift of your spouse that God has given to you. You and your spouse spoke a covenant to each other to be together “as long as life shall last.” And yet time goes by and what you once did you no longer do anymore. Saying words of encouragement and complimenting your spouse is vital for them and for you. When you use words of encouragement for your spouse… It boosts their confidence. It lets them know that they are valued. It lets them know that your heart and mind are on them, not on other people or other things. As you speak these words of encouragement you… Keep you focus on what you already have. Show that you are their support. Push away the distractions that are around you. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa dive deep on ways that you can compliment and use words of encouragement that are easy, effective and powerful. These simple statements will powerfully impact your marriage (and spouse!) for many years to come.   EPISODE SPONSOR | One-On-One Coaching Are you struggling in your marriage? Are you at a point where you spouse has said we need help or else? Have you just woken up to the fact that you have drifted apart and don’t know how to find your way back to one another? It’s time to take the next step. It’s time to apply for coaching with Alisa and make the changes necessary in your marriage. 56 Simple (But Super Effective) Compliments To Encourage Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/18/201531 minutes, 40 seconds
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284: COCONUT OIL, VIBRATOR AND THE GAME OF LOVE

You desire to be sexually intimacy with your spouse and at the same time add some adventure and variety in your bedroom. Where do you start? What do you need? We struggled with this for years in our own marriage. You know how it goes, you do the same things over and over and it can be tough to jump out and try something new. To be honest we tried many ways to do this and have experienced many misses along the way. We weren't going to be stopped though. We desired to make our bedroom a sanctuary, a place of fun, a place of relaxation, a place of adventure. Through trial and error we have found a number of items that create romance, fun, adventure and pampering. You have to check these out... 11 MUST HAVE Items For Your Bedroom In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about some of these must have items, coconut oil, a vibrator and The Game of Love, that you can get to make your bedroom the most desirable room in your home. EPISODE SPONSOR | The Game of Love Put some fun & games back into your relationship!  The Game of Love is a bed sheet board game that you can customize to fit your relationship just right! Every game kit includes a fitted bed sheet with a blank game board on it. You’ll use the provided fabric markers to write in each space a physical activity, question, mini game, or another idea from the Game of Love’s online Idea Vault. Visit The Game of Love and use 1MARRIAGE to get $5.00 off any game kit! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/11/201531 minutes, 40 seconds
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283: THE HAPPINESS MYTH

Everyday there are conversations going on about marriage where someone says... My spouse doesn’t make me happy. I’m not happy in this marriage. Why isn’t my happiness important? The issue many marriages face right now is that of the ME focus. It is common place that there is an expectation that everyone and everything exist for your happiness. This is especially prevalent in the marriage relationship. A shift needs to happen in you for your marriage to thrive. As an individual and part of a marriage you need to learn what brings you happiness and then go create that in your life and your marriage. It’s is a myth that your spouse was put here on this planet to make you happy? In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why your spouse isn't the only place you should look for your happiness as we remove the masks on the happiness myth. EPISODE SPONSOR | OUR SIX QUESTIONS 6 INCREDIBLE questions to instantly break the silence with your spouse. Easy, awesome, lighthearted prompts to get your spouse to open up today. WARNING: these questions may bring a smile to you and your partners face upon sharing. Sacred Marriage: What if God Designed Marriage Not to Make You Happy But to Make You Holy The Five Love Languages Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/4/201531 minutes, 30 seconds
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282: LOOK UP

Are you living in your own little bubble with your head down, focused only on yourself, your needs, your wants... And yet your spouse may be there wondering if you even know what’s happening to them, what’s going on at work or at home, or how a recent event has impacted them. You haven't taken time to look up recently and in doing so you've forgotten that you are in a marriage with another person. Your community is being impacted. You have stopped seeing the needs of others are are ONLY focused on YOUR needs. Marriage was never designed to be a ME focused relationship. It was designed to bring two people together to be better and stronger than they would be on their own. The only way that you can be better together is if you shift your focus to look up and look at your spouse. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it’s time to turn your eyes skyward and look up to what’s ahead in your marriage. Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/28/201532 minutes, 5 seconds
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281: CAN’T DO ANYTHING RIGHT

Defeated. Worn out. Frustrated. Any of these and many more emotions can get you to a place where you have told yourself that you can't do anything right. Nope. Nothing. This is a lie and four words that will bankrupt you and your marriage. Before you say these words to yourself make sure you use the "3 P's". Pause. Pray. Proceed. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about getting past a place of disconnection especially when you say, "I can’t do anything right" to yourself and to your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs,She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Marriage counselling professionals agreed on the number one cause of divorce… “Poor Communication” but how do you get better communication skills and save your marriage? Your communication solution is He Zigs, She Zags! He Zigs, She Zags is amazing! There is no fluff, no unrealistic expectations, just down to earth, practical advice on having an incredible, Christ centered marriage. —Hannah W., Georgia Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/21/201531 minutes, 42 seconds
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280: THESE WILL FAN THE FLAMES OF YOUR SEXUAL INTIMACY

Have you lost the spark, emotional, physical, or sexual, in your marriage? Has the fire you once had burning strong is now a flicker and dimming more and more with every day that passes? If the fire isn’t as hot as you would like it’s time to fan the flames and get it going again. For a fire to burn you need to fan the flames with oxygen, heat and fuel. It's time for you to pour each of these into your marriage and if one of these is missing you will have a difficult time trying to fan the flames of your sexual intimacy. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the 3 things that every fire needs and how you can apply these to the fan the flames needed in your bedroom. EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Days of Sex Challenge The 7 Days of Sex Challenge makes it easy for busy couples like you to find some fun time together because it ELIMINATES the stress of figuring out what you need to do for 7 days that will be new and creative to try. You really HAVE to try new things in your sex life or you’ll both get bored. This boredom leads to your love life being no less stressful than the rest of your life. Start your challenge TODAY! [VIDEO] Look Into Each Other's Eyes Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/14/201531 minutes, 28 seconds
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279: LIVE THIS DECADE WITH PURPOSE

According to a 2014 article in The Economist, the average length of marriage in the USA is 8 years. When you factor in that many couples will wait 2-3 years after marriage to have kids you can see that there is a need to better understand the years and decade after having kids. The math from above if it plays out means that many divorces are happening midway through having kids introduced to the marriage. So... ...if this is the case then you need to be equipped and ready for the decade that follows your first child. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about making it through the first decade of parenting stronger than you started. EPISODE SPONSOR | 7 Days of Sex Challenge The 7 Days of Sex Challenge makes it easy for busy couples like you to find some fun time together because it ELIMINATES the stress of figuring out what you need to do for 7 days that will be new and creative to try. You really HAVE to try new things in your sex life or you’ll both get bored. This boredom leads to your love life being no less stressful than the rest of your life. Start your challenge TODAY! 193 - Divorce Is Off The Table Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/7/201531 minutes, 49 seconds
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278: THE SECRET VALUE OF THE QUICKIE

The quickie can be an amazing sexual experience in your marriage if you know the secret to enjoying it together. In our own marriage, our sex life can be a bit off during the summer months. Different schedules, kids are home, vacations, and just hanging out. This change in seasons can be challenging if you and your spouse don’t discuss what is happening. When expectations are kept to yourself it sets the two of you up for frustration and failure. Not something either of you want. In this week's Tony and Alisa talk about setting up your quickie expectations and the necessity for both of you to enjoy a quickie in different seasons of your marriage. Episode Sponsor - The Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex Have you been at a loss for new ways to initiate sex? Do you do the same thing every time? It’s time to spice things up and get creative. Pick up your FREE copy of the The Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex. Scheduling Sex and The Intimacy Lifestyle Sexpectations Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/30/201531 minutes, 40 seconds
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277: DRUG OF CHOICE

When you find yourself spending more and more time or being more and more distracted there is something going on. Maybe society wouldn’t call it a drug of choice. Maybe you even joke about “having a little problem”. The truth is that these choices can take you away from your spouse and pull you out of your marriage. You are “busy” and there are many demands on your time and yet you have a choice. Every relationship has it’s issues and there will be times and seasons where you will have to go through this with your spouse. In each time you get to determine how you choose to act. Numbing yourself with these other behaviors instead of dealing with them head on, doesn’t make the problem go away it only serves to postpone the inevitable that things are going to get worse. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the seemingly little things that can have an impact on your marriage also known as your drug of choice. EPISODE SPONSOR – ***Flash Sale*** Connect Like You Did When You First Met Kindle Edition Packed with questions to get the conversation started in any area of marriage this is a must have for every couple. No more just asking “how was your day” it’s time to dig deep and move past the surface talk. What better way to do this than have 101 questions to ask each other. Grab Connect Like You Did When You First Met for $2.99 during this flash sale. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/23/201532 minutes, 4 seconds
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276: MONEY IN THE BANK

Financial stress is an intimacy killer. Plain and simple. It can keep you up at night and it keeps you worrying during the day. It’s hard to let down your guard when you are worried about paying the bills or having food on the table. The fear keeps you and your spouse from living the life, the marriage you were meant to have. Today it's time to make the decision that you are going to tell your money what to do. You are going to live an extraordinary life and it’s starts with making a change to the little expenses. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about you, your money and how getting your financial intimacy on the same page is important for your marriage, your bottom line and will allow you to have money in the bank. EPISODE SPONSOR – Connect Like You Did When You First Met Learn the most relevant and critical questions most of our couple clients have had to deal with. We categorized these questions by topic and gave them a natural, orderly sequential flow. The result? An easy to use, handy reference tool. A tool that will dramatically change the course and tone of those most critical discussions you need to have with your spouse… forever. HD AMped Antennae Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/16/201532 minutes, 10 seconds
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275: COMMUNICATION DOESN’T END WITH FOREPLAY

It starts with the sweet talk. Then it leads to both of you romancing each other all through the day. And then other times you just want a quickie. In all truth there is some form of communication going on between the two of you to get to the point that you are deciding to have sex. Foreplay starts (however short or long) and then it stops... Once you're past that point all there is between the two of you are a few moans or groans and the sigh of "is this over yet". The thing is that communication doesn’t end with foreplay. Each of you have to be giving each other feedback as to what is really good and what needs to be done differently. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it is important for both you and your spouse to share what you like after foreplay is over. Episode Sponsor - The Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex Have you been at a loss for new ways to initiate sex? Do you do the same thing every time? It’s time to spice things up and get creative. Pick up your FREE copy of the The Top 10 Ways to Initiate Sex. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/9/201531 minutes, 40 seconds
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274: IT’S TIME TO TAKE THE LEAD

There may have been seasons in your marriage when neither one of you stood up to lead the family. You, your spouse and your marriage were like a boat with no rudder, just going around and around in circles trying to get somewhere but going nowhere. The definition of insanity is, doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. If you aren't sure when, why or how to lead your marriage then it's time to begin learning. Your marriage needs leadership. You both have different skills and abilities that contribute to the marriage. Your strengths matter, learn what they are and then use them to both of your advantage to lead your marriage. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about ways that you can lead and share the leadership in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Sex Without Sheets Online Marriage Conference When you sign up for Sex Without Sheets you and your spouse will join the leading marriage experts who will be sharing proven tips to help you communicate your sexual needs to your spouse, the must- do steps for reigniting your romance, the guaranteed method to ensure you’re having enough sex, and so much more! Sex Without Sheets is being held on June 6, 2015. Sign up Today! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/2/201531 minutes, 33 seconds
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273: TIME FOR AN OIL CHANGE

You spend time, effort and energy in maintaining your stuff and yet, you are not giving your marriage that same courtesy. Your expectations for your marriage is so much more. The problem is that you are not giving it the tools that you and your spouse need to be successful. In your life you may see the doctor once a year, go to the dentist for regular cleanings and get the oil changed on your vehicles every 3-5,000 miles. And then there’s your marriage... When was the last time you did some maintenance work, for example an oil change, on your marriage? This isn't about when the crisis hits, like when your engine seizes on the side of the road, but the regular maintenance to make sure that your marriage is going well. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the importance of regular maintenance, that oil change, in your marriage EPISODE SPONSOR | Sex Without Sheets Online Marriage Conference When you sign up for Sex Without Sheets you and your spouse will join the leading marriage experts who will be sharing proven tips to help you communicate your sexual needs to your spouse, the must- do steps for reigniting your romance, the guaranteed method to ensure you’re having enough sex, and so much more! Sex Without Sheets is being held on June 6, 2015. Sign up Today! 3 Tips to Read the Bible with Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/26/201531 minutes, 50 seconds
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272: WALKING IN THE DOOR

Throughout the day you are transitioning from waking up, heading to work, coming home, going to bed to doing it all over again. The heading out times always seem to be easier, except for you parents of little ones that are leaving for the first time and there is crying to no end. Walking in the door time can be a "witching hour" for you. Whether you’ve been away for a few hours, or a few months or even just locked in your office during the day. Transitioning from your work day and walking in the door has a huge impact on your marriage. It’s the difference between a screaming match and cuddling, the difference between the silent treatment and a goodnight kiss, the difference between strife and peace. Understanding  how you transition and how your spouse transitions is key for your marital growth. It allows the two of you to give each other space based on what works for the two of you, but the only way that you are able to learn this is if you TALK about it. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about walking in the door from the end of the work day back into your marriage and family life. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags  Your marriage can be better than ever. With effective communication you will… Stop feeling angry and frustrated with your spouse (and avoid this affecting other areas of your life), develop lasting solutions for your marriage so you can get through anything together, restore honesty, openness and transparency with each other so you can live together with love and trust, but most importantly... create the “happily ever after” that you both deserve. Grab He Zigs, She Zags today and get started! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/19/201531 minutes, 50 seconds
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271: RUNNING BELOW EMPTY

The idea of running below empty is nothing new. What is new is how running below empty is impacting marriages. Possible even having a negative affect on you right now. When you are below empty what suffers the most is not your job or your obligations to others... ...instead what often suffers are your personal relationships. Specifically the one with your spouse. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about when you are running below empty and the impact that doing too much has on your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR | Romance the Write Way Imagine your spouse finding your love letter placed under their pillow one night and the surprised look on their face. Imagine their eyes lighting up as they open it and read the perfectly crafted message from their caring wife or husband. Imagine knowing what to say and how to say it AND having the time to make it all happen. We know you are saying YES, show me how. Check out Romance the Write Way for all of the details. 3 Ways to Create a More Intimate Bedroom Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/12/201531 minutes, 31 seconds
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270: A TRENCHCOAT AND HIGH HEELS

It can be hard to step out of your comfort zone, to try something new, to be adventurous. This can be as simple as changing your hair color (Alisa went RED once), to eating at a new restaurant, to wearing new clothes, shoes, or trying a different wardrobe style, to experimenting with a new position sexually or even GASP a new way to initiate. Your mind might be racing with questions, such as: How will I be received? What will he or she think of me? Will I be able to pull this off? What if it doesn’t work? What if I am embarrassed? This time you are pushing past all of these questions and putting on the trenchcoat and high heels. Figuratively for some of you and literally for others. You're stepping out of your comfort zone. You challenge yourself to do something you’ve never done so that you can experience something you never have. You chose to be strong in a situation that may have caused you to feel week. Each time you experience a new level of sexual intimacy with your spouse because you stepped out of your comfort zone. Each step is a baby step that leads you to be courageous in your life and your marriage. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about stepping out of what you’ve always done to surprise your spouse when you initiate sex. EPISODE SPONSOR | Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation Discover How Small (And Large) Breaches Of Trust Damage Your Marriage And How To Handle Them In A Healthy Way. Trust is the foundation of every marriage. But over the years little things eat away at your relationship. Little things you might not even notice. So you have to ask yourself... is your Trust Tank at 100%? Learn how-to rebuild the trust in your marriage during the Trust Me! Online Workshop. 21 Ways to Initiate Sex with Your Spouse Connect Like You Did When You First Met Strategic Marriage Coaching Session Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/5/201531 minutes, 50 seconds
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269: ABSENCE DOESN’T MAKE THE HEART GROW FONDER

Distance in your marriage can be tough. This can happen in your home or it could be when you and your spouse are miles apart. This can be for work, family illness, deployment, moving to a new city, or any other reason. As much as the old saying goes, distance makes the heart grow fonder, this usually isn't the case. Distance can cause heartache, anxiety, frustration and loneliness. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about ways that you can strengthen your marriage no matter if you're together daily or living apart for a period of time. EPISODE SPONSOR | Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation Discover How Small (And Large) Breaches Of Trust Damage Your Marriage And How To Handle Them In A Healthy Way. Trust is the foundation of every marriage. But over the years little things eat away at your relationship. Little things you might not even notice. So you have to ask yourself... is your Trust Tank at 100%? Learn how-to rebuild the trust in your marriage during the Trust Me! Online Workshop. Romance the Write Way Qalo Rings Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/28/201532 minutes, 40 seconds
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268: WHY ARE YOU ACTING LIKE THIS?

You've decided that it's time. It's time to change because what's been happening isn't what you want to continue doing. You've decided to make some changes. Well... ...your spouse has just noticed that something is up and is asking, "Why are you acting like this?" You know why and yet it's a bit difficult to explain to your spouse. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what happens in your marriage dynamic when you start to work on yourself and your spouse starts wondering why you are acting differently. EPISODE SPONSOR | Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation Discover How Small (And Large) Breaches Of Trust Damage Your Marriage And How To Handle Them In A Healthy Way. Trust is the foundation of every marriage. But over the years little things eat away at your relationship. Little things you might not even notice. So you have to ask yourself... is your Trust Tank at 100%? Learn how-to rebuild the trust in your marriage during the Trust Me! Online Workshop. Question Behind the Question by John G. Miller Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/21/201531 minutes, 30 seconds
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267: BE PREPARED

Preparation is one of the biggest gifts that you and your spouse can give to each other and your family. And yet it’s hard to think about our own mortality. People often say that it’s the teenagers that think that they are invincible but in reality most of you think you have all the time in the world. Be prepared. When you have a document, Our Family Emergency List, you are setting yourself and your family up for a smoother transition. Not having this type of information prepared and easily accessible can leave those left behind not only grieving but frustrated, scared and lost as they try and piece things together. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what you need to do to be prepared in the event of a family emergency. EPISODE SPONSOR | Trust Me! Restore, Renew & Rebuild Your Foundation Discover How Small (And Large) Breaches Of Trust Damage Your Marriage And How To Handle Them In A Healthy Way. Trust is the foundation of every marriage. But over the years little things eat away at your relationship. Little things you might not even notice. So you have to ask yourself... is your Trust Tank at 100%? Learn how-to rebuild the trust in your marriage during the Trust Me! Online Workshop. Our Family Emergency List Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/14/201531 minutes, 35 seconds
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266: TAKE HOPE FROM A FANTASY TO A FORCE IN YOUR LIFE

Hope is in short supply in our world. From news reports talking about all of the ugliness to televisions shows that are completed scripted to bring you down. Here at ONE Extraordinary Marriage it has been our goal to bring you hope each and every week. Sharing with you how your marriage can not only survive but thrive after challenges as well as for the long haul. Every hug is a story of hope, every picture on the love you guys wall of fame, ALMOST every review on iTunes (there are a few that just come from the haters) but overall it's about hope and we love hearing about your stories. It's time to put legs on the hope you have. Hope without action is just a fantasy, it’s a wish, a want. Hope with action is a force. It’s time to take action in your life and your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the ray of hope you have in your marriage and using it as a force to create transformation. EPISODE SPONSOR | Contract of Reconciliation You’ve had enough of your spouse’s antics. The word “Separation” or “Divorce” have been said in hurtful ways and now you are really considering one or both. The Contract of Reconciliation is for when you feel you need to separate to gain clarity in your marriage with the goal of being together again. 170 - What's Wrong With My Marriage... I AM Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/7/201531 minutes, 30 seconds
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265: RUN THE RACE

Sprinters are amazing at short bursts of energy for a short period of time. However, if your vows were anything like ours they had something like “as long as life shall last” (until death do us part, forever, etc). That is not a short period of time, that’s not until the next commercial break, or until this gets too hard. Marathoners or distance runners know that they have to pace themselves. They're in it to run the race. For them to complete it they need know that... Nutrition matters Supporters are key Planning makes a difference Shoes and clothes will impact the results. The same thing plays out in your marriage... instead of all of the different facets of a race, it’s knowing what is important for you to run the race. These include your: Emotional Intimacy Physical Intimacy Spiritual Intimacy Recreational Intimacy Financial Intimacy In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what's you need to do to run the race as you view your marriage as a marathon not a sprint. EPISODE SPONSOR | Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking the Intimacy in Your Marriage Remember back to your wedding day.  We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt.  Your marriage was going to last forever.  You were sure of that.  And then…reality set in.  You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while.  You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same.  Is it just a part of life?  Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes?  You don’t have to! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/31/201532 minutes, 30 seconds
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264: MARRIAGE THROUGH YOUR SPOUSE’S EYES

Looking at the world, especially your marriage, from only your point of view is short sighted. By doing this... you are only taking your feelings, wants and desires into account. Over time this lack of perspective can lead to little consideration from the perspective of your spouse. What they may be going through, how the world looks to them, what they are struggling with. It's time to have some introspection time about being able to see what your marriage looks like from your spouse's eyes. Here’s the thing. Many of us are horrible at seeing things from another’s point of view. We are inherently selfish and use our perceptions, our point of view as the point of view that we focus on...this can lead to a short sighted view of your spouse. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about looking at your marriage through your spouse’s eyes, not just through your own narrow lens. EPISODE SPONSOR | He Zigs, She Zags  Your marriage can be better than ever... With effective communication you will… Stop feeling angry and frustrated with your spouse (and avoid this affecting other areas of your life), develop lasting solutions for your marriage so you can get through anything together, restore honesty, openness and transparency with each other so you can live together with love and trust, but most importantly... create the “happily ever after” that you both deserve. Grab He Zigs, She Zags today and get started! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/24/201531 minutes, 41 seconds
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263: LESSONS LEARNED FROM HAVING SEX (A LOT)

Having sex is a beautiful experience that you and your spouse get to enjoy together. Unfortunately, there are times when having sex goes by the way side. It's at this moment when you realize that it's time to change it up. The 7 Days of Sex Challenge is just the way to have a new experience and learn about yourself and your marriage. Here's a few things you can expect to learn during a challenge: It’s a way to put each other first, even for us there can be times where we take each other for granted. It requires that you focus on all aspects of intimacy for a concentrated amount of time. This allows you to see where you need to pay more attention and be more intentional in your marriage. It’s fun, challenging and a goal you complete together. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the three marriage lessons they have learned from completing their fifth 7 days of sex challenge over the last six years. EPISODE SPONSOR - 7 Days of Sex Challenge: Rock Your Sex Life and Your Marriage Life is stressful, but when you are too busy (or tired) to find some time for sexual intimacy, it can really seem unbearable. The 7 Days of Sex Challenge makes it easy for busy couples like you to find some fun time together because it ELIMINATES the stress of figuring out what you need to do for 7 days that will be new and creative to try. Meet Jeff & Mandy from Marriage More Meet Casey & Meygan from Marriage365 Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/17/201531 minutes, 42 seconds
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262: SAVE MY MARRIAGE

Your marriage isn't going the way that you expected when you said "I do" to your spouse. Actually... Your spouse has expressed that it's time for the two of you to either separate for a time or get a divorce. You need to know that you are not alone. We know this doesn't make things better and yet we get many emails each and every day from couples who are where you are. In all honesty our society, as a whole does not set you up for success. Most people come into marriage with no real idea on how to make a long term relationship work. In many cases you take a reactive stance instead of a proactive stance in your marriage. This means that you will react to circumstances as they come instead of actively creating the environment that you wish to have. Living in a disposable world has created an interesting dynamic in marriage. Everything from the clothes that you wear to the cars that you drive are made so that you can get a new one even before you need it. If this model isn’t making you happy anymore or seems to have lost its luster then get a new one. That’s great when your tires wear out, not so great when the two of you have drifted apart because you aren’t working on your marriage. The old isn't working for you and the drift has certainly started... It's time for you to save your marriage. In today’s show Tony and Alisa talk about what you can do to begin the process so that you can answer the question, "how do I save my marriage". EPISODE SPONSOR - Save My Marriage There can be many reasons why you find yourself needing to save your marriage an emotional or physical affair, continued fighting and conflict, being separated due to work, ailing parents, or personal choice, mental or behavioral issues and/or pornography, alcohol, or drug abuse. You now find yourselves creeping to the edge of divorce when there is little to no emotional intimacy, spiritual connectedness and physical/sexual intimacy A divorce brings change. This should not be taken lightly at any time. If this is you, now is the time to get help. Grab Save My Marriage today. Contract of Reconciliation Worksheets One-on-One Strategic Coaching Session Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/10/201532 minutes, 19 seconds
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261: BEFORE AND AFTER SEX

The time is right and you are ready to make love to your spouse. You've been romancing each other and it's your time to initiate sex. There are certain rituals that you both may have before you make love. These may include, but not limited to... Dimmed lights Light candles or turn them on Warm the bed (turn on electric blanket) Turn up the heat Turn on the sound machine Take a shower Essential oil diffuser On the other had what you do afterwards also plays a part in your sexual intimacy. You may... Hurry up to get the towel or the sheets are going to get dirty. Aren't the sheets already dirty? Jump up and out of bed to get cleaned up or you may bask in the joy as you cuddle. No matter what time it is or what may be coming up you take a shower to clean off. There's also the do we put clothes back on or sleep naked. Both the before and after sex rituals are an area that need to be looked at and discussed in your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the many rituals that can take place before and after sex because there's a lot more happening than just the physical act. EPISODE SPONSOR Discover How to FINALLY Reignite Your Passion and Truly Enjoy Your Marriage (and Your Sex Life) Again…Even if it’s Been Stale for YEARS! Just Minutes from Now, You and Your Spouse Can Feel Like Newlyweds Again! Grab Intimacy Reignited NOW! Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine Scheduling Sex & The Intimacy Lifestyle Where Are Your Priorities The Truth Shall Set You Free Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/3/201532 minutes, 11 seconds
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260: WHERE ARE YOUR PRIORITIES

When you first met your spouse there was this time when each of you were each others priority. You made sure that you spent time together and if something got in the way you'd reschedule that obligation. As time has past the priorities of life have now take over. Instead of making sure you and your spouse have time together it's everything else that takes priority. Is this the way you want to live your life and marriage? We don't think so because you are listening to this show. It's time to take action, pick one specific change, that you want in your marriage today. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the importance of choosing your priorities instead of letting your obligations dictate your life. EPISODE SPONSOR – Connect Like You Did When You First Met Learn the most relevant and critical questions most of our couple clients have had to deal with. We categorized these questions by topic and gave them a natural, orderly sequential flow. The result? An easy to use, handy reference tool. A tool that will dramatically change the course and tone of those most critical discussions you need to have with your spouse… forever. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Strategic Coaching with Alisa DiLorenzo Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/24/201531 minutes, 53 seconds
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259: BACK TO BASICS

There’s a reason that things are so good at the beginning of a relationship... Both you and your partner are putting forth effort into making the relationship work, into learning all about each other, and being on your best behavior. Then comes the ring, the wedding and life: kids, bills, obligations and the two of you... well you get relegated to the back burner. All those little things that were so important in the beginning don’t seem so important as the two of you have the stability and commitment of the marriage. The reality is a different story though. When you don't invest in your marriage and get back to basics this is a recipe for disaster. Why? Because your spouse's need to know that they are valued and desired. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about going back to basics and the importance of continuing to do what you did at the beginning of the relationship to your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR – Connect Like You Did When You First Met Learn the most relevant and critical questions most of our couple clients have had to deal with. We categorized these questions by topic and gave them a natural, orderly sequential flow. The result? An easy to use, handy reference tool. A tool that will dramatically change the course and tone of those most critical discussions you need to have with your spouse… forever. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/17/201532 minutes, 44 seconds
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258: THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE

To tell the truth or not to tell the truth? That is something you may ask yourself when talking to your spouse. It's something that seems so minimal and yet it can have a huge impact on your marriage foundation. There are topics that are not always easy to bring up to your spouse. Topics that can make you feel uncomfortable or “fudging” things a little bit. The reality is that you aren’t “fudging” things you are destroying your foundation. When you and your spouse are able to tell the truth and be open with each other that is when your marriage begins to grow. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about how and why it matters that you tell the truth when you are talking to your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR – The Perfect Love Letter Checklist When you grab The Perfect Love Letter Checklist you will receive 5 simple steps to never get stuck on what to write about, discover the secret ingredients to craft the perfect love letter, no matter how uncreative you think you are, exactly what to say to make your spouse melt every time, and how to deliver your romantic letter in a way that will WOW your spouse. Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Divorce Is Off The Table Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/10/201532 minutes, 18 seconds
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257: EROTICA… MY DIRTY LITTLE SECRET

the book 50 Shades of Grey has become the most successful erotica book ever to be written. It's a #1 Best Seller with over 100 million copies sold. In it's path it has left many who have read it yearning for more in their marriage. The problem is that you feel let down and unsatisfied with what you have. Erotica, the written form of pornography, impacts you as much as someone who is viewing naked pictures on the internet. The hold erotica has on you, your mind and how you view your spouse are as detrimental. It's time to realize that if you desire more in your marriage then it is time to ditch the erotica so that you and your spouse can experience true sexual intimacy. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about a women’s dirty little secret...also known as erotica. EPISODE SPONSOR – How to Argue Less (in 2 Minutes) Stop Bickering With One Simple Movement. It Really Is This Simple, Try It And Be Amazed... You'll instantly learn how this One Simple Movement can breaks the tension and changes your body language as it diffuses the situation in a LOVING and respectful manner. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/3/201531 minutes, 59 seconds
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256: SEX WHEN THE KIDS ARE HOME

When you choose to only have sex when your kids are away or when everyone is, can be limiting in terms of when the two of you can be sexually intimacy. Giving yourself permission to have sex when the kids are home can be liberating. Your kids are not going to die if they find out that their parents have sex. In fact, they might just feel a bit more secure about their family knowing that their parents are choosing to be sexually intimate. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about what you can do to become more comfortable having sex when the kids are home. EPISODE SPONSOR – Connect Like You Did When You First Met Learn the most relevant and critical questions most of our couple clients have had to deal with. We categorized these questions by topic and gave them a natural, orderly sequential flow. The result? An easy to use, handy reference tool. A tool that will dramatically change the course and tone of those most critical discussions you need to have with your spouse... forever. Ecotones Sound + Sleep Machine The Sex Talk Blueprint Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/27/201531 minutes, 21 seconds
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255: DELAYED EJACULATION

Delayed ejaculation is a condition in which it takes an extended period of sexual stimulation for a man to reach sexual climax and release semen from the penis. There are times when a man will not achieve climax as well. There are three causes to why you may be experiencing delayed ejaculation during sexual intercourse. These include physical, psychological or medicinal. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about delayed ejaculation and the physical as well as the emotional ramifications this can cause for a couple. ***Please note that Tony and Alisa are not medical doctors. Nothing in today’s show is medical advice. Should you have an ongoing issue please seek out help from your medical professional. EPISODE SPONSOR - Stop the Bickering in Your Marriage Learn a simple, easy strategy that will stop escalation in its tracks, spare your marriage of tons of unnecessary stress and drama. This strategy is proven to work with our coaching clients virtually every time. Download this free report. It's pure, no-fluff, actionable information. Once you read it, you can apply it within minutes! Includes an easy-to-use 6-point checklist to help you stay on track. Stop Premature Ejaculation with the Ejaculation Trainer He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/20/201531 minutes, 46 seconds
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254: PREMATURE EJACULATION

Premature ejaculation occurs when a man ejaculates sooner during sexual intercourse than he or his partner would like. It's a time when you can feel embarrassed and/or lacking as a man. The ability to extend sexual pleasure is directly related to your manhood and premature ejaculation doesn't make you feel this way. The moment after this happens is a critical time between you and your spouse. What the two of you do, how you react, and where you go from here are all important as you process the situation. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the physical as well as the emotional ramifications of premature ejaculation. ***Please note that Tony and Alisa are not medical doctors. Nothing in today’s show is medical advice. Should you have an ongoing issue please seek out help from your medical professional. EPISODE SPONSOR - Stop the Bickering in Your Marriage Learn a simple, easy strategy that will stop escalation in its tracks, spare your marriage of tons of unnecessary stress and drama. This strategy is proven to work with our coaching clients virtually every time. Download this free report. It's pure, no-fluff, actionable information. Once you read it, you can apply it within minutes! Includes an easy-to-use 6-point checklist to help you stay on track. Stop Premature Ejaculation with the Ejaculation Trainer He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/13/201532 minutes, 29 seconds
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253: GOOD TO GREAT

There are many things competing for your time, attention and energy and yet you want to have the best marriage you can possible have. Being over committed, busy and overwhelmed is not healthy for you or your marriage. When you have too many things to do or too many things vying for your attention (no matter how good they are) you tend to place less of a priority on your relationships. They are good for the most part, but you want a great marriage! In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why it can be important to say no to good things so that you can say yes to great relationships. EPISODE SPONSOR Give us 30 minutes and we will give you a sexy body you’ll love to share with your spouse. It’s time to take your life back, look and feel fantastic, and be the spouse and parent you and your family deserve. Thrive90 Fitness was designed specifically to take you by the hand and lead you to the best shape of your life while keeping your family first – guaranteed! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/6/201532 minutes, 37 seconds
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252: MORE THAN JUST AN ORGASM

An orgasm can enhance your sexual experience for yourself and your spouse. However, an orgasm shouldn’t be the ultimate goal of every sexual encounter. The experience of being together, of sharing that time and space in your marriage bed, that is the ultimate goal of your sexual intimacy. Your sexual encounters are about bringing the two of you together in a way that is only for you two. When it’s not all about achieving an orgasm you can find yourself with mind blowing sex. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about why having an orgasm is a special part of the sexual experience but not the ultimate goal. EPISODE SPONSOR Give us 30 minutes and we will give you a sexy body you’ll love to share with your spouse. It’s time to take your life back, look and feel fantastic, and be the spouse and parent you and your family deserve. Thrive90 Fitness was designed specifically to take you by the hand and lead you to the best shape of your life while keeping your family first – guaranteed! The Joy of Sex Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/30/201432 minutes, 11 seconds
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251: TRUST ME

Many marriages have experienced broken trust in some form or another. Everything from little white lies, financial wounds, infidelity and addiction impact the trust you have with your spouse. Hiding the truth and not owning up to your actions prevents trust from being experienced between the two of you. After many times of this happening it's difficult for your spouse to believe you when you say, "Trust me". It's natural to want to paint yourself in a pretty picture or to fudge what really happened so that your spouse won't be angry, sad, disappointed or frustrated. The problem is that this does not rebuild broken trust! In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about when trust is broken and the first steps needed to begin rebuilding that trust with your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR | Thrive90 Fitness Program Give us 30 minutes and we will give you a sexy body you’ll love to share with your spouse. It’s time to take your life back, look and feel fantastic, and be the spouse and parent you and your family deserve. Thrive90 Fitness was designed specifically to take you by the hand and lead you to the best shape of your life while keeping your family first – guaranteed! He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/23/201431 minutes, 51 seconds
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250: UNDER THE SHEETS AND NAKED

When you get under the sheets and sleep naked with your spouse there are a number of benefits that both of you will experience. There are three ways you will benefit from getting under the sheets and sleeping naked. You will experience health benefits (think hormones), better sleep as well as both physical and sexual benefits. Take on the challenge of sleeping naked and experience the connection you'll have with your spouse. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the benefits of sleeping naked for both you and your marriage. Join us on February 20-22, 2015 for the Refresh Retreat at the Courtyard by Marriott in Liberty Station for a marriage retreat that will enrich and strengthen your marriage and relationship with God. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/16/201431 minutes, 50 seconds
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249: SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE

We had sex before marriage. Probably like you or someone you know. It's really between a couple and yet there seems to be someone always pointing a finger at you for doing so. You cannot change what you did prior to getting married and yet you can learn from the past to better your current situation. Having sex before marriage can impact you and your spouse or maybe it hasn't. Either way there are lessons learned. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about why sex before marriage can leave you both emotionally and sexually unsatisfied. Join us on February 20-22, 2015 for the Refresh Retreat at the Courtyard by Marriott in Liberty Station for a marriage retreat that will enrich and strengthen your marriage and relationship with God. Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Intimacy Reignited: Bring Back the Spark in Your Sex Life Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/9/201432 minutes, 50 seconds
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248: FOOD COMA

You've been there before... whether after a large Thanksgiving meal or a meal where you ate too much and need to take a long rest after. It’s that time when the food coma sets in. That period of time when you check out and don’t do anything. When you have pushed yourself past the point of no return. Where you can’t really do anything because your resources are depleted. Food coma is one thing and yet similar to it is a marriage coma. Unlike a food coma where you knowingly eat more than you should a marriage coma is a bit different. It happens slowly where one or both of you starts to check out of the relationship. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about how often a food coma (think after Thanksgiving dinner) can also play out in your marriage. Join us on February 20-22, 2015 for the Refresh Retreat at the Courtyard by Marriott in Liberty Station for a marriage retreat that will enrich and strengthen your marriage and relationship with God. Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Intimacy Reignited: Bring Back the Spark in Your Sex Life Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/2/201432 minutes, 22 seconds
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247: THANKFUL FOR YOU

Being thankful for your spouse and your marriage is something that you may or may not think about often. Each year we love to share what we are thankful for in our marriage and lives. It's a way for you to listen in, get ideas and then do this with your spouse. Really this should be done monthly and yet if not this is a great time to start. Share why you are thankful for your spouse. Grab a notepad and write down the reason. Share them face-to-face, on a note, or text one reason a day until you are finished. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share why it is important to share what you are thankful for with your spouse. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/25/201431 minutes, 40 seconds
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246: THE FIRST TIMES: SEX IN DIFFERENT SITUATIONS

The different situations you will have sex for the "first times" as a married couple are important to acknowledge. The truth is that there are many firsts over the years as you may not have even recognized them. Each first is a time to connect with your spouse sexually at a new level. These times can deepen your desire for one another as you begin to fully enjoy your sexual experiences. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the "first times" you have sex in different situations that you may encounter during your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR - #TakeAction T-Shirts “Taking Action” is more than just two words out of the dictionary. Those words mean everything. #TakeAction has made all the difference in our lives as well as the lives of countless couples that we've helped over the past 5+ years. Now, it's time to take it to the next level, and that's what #TakeAction is all about! 21 Ways to Initiate Sex with Your Spouse Connect Like You Did When You First Met: 101 Proven Questions for Couples Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/18/201433 minutes, 42 seconds
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245: CREATE A FINANCIAL PEACE MARRIAGE

As a married couple the way you choose to combine your finances is going to play out in your relationship. How it is combined (or not), how it is spent, how it is saved, as well as other factors impacts the two of you. Finances do not and cannot exist in a vacuum in your marriage. This is an area of your marriage where the two of you need to become one so you can experience financial peace. This is one intimacy that should not be avoided, rather it is an area that you and your spouse need to be completely transparent. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about creating financial peace no matter where you are in your marriage. How to Write a Romantic Love Letter That Will Make Your Spouse's Heart Sing 25 Christmas Gift Ideas for That Special Married Couple Dealing with the Financial Friction in Our Marriage Financial Peace by Dave Ramsey EPISODE SPONSOR Discover How to FINALLY Reignite Your Passion and Truly Enjoy Your Marriage (and Your Sex Life) Again…Even if it’s Been Stale for YEARS! Just Minutes from Now, You and Your Spouse Can Feel Like Newlyweds Again! Grab Intimacy Reignited NOW! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/11/201431 minutes, 30 seconds
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244: INTENTIONAL INTERRUPTION

In the hustle and bustle of the holiday season it is so easy to lose sight of one another. Between holiday parties, buying gifts and making sure everything gets done you often find yourself putting your spouse at the bottom of the to-do list without even realizing that it has happened. Unfortunately, every day that goes by without connection, without investing in your relationship can make it harder on both of you to reconnect. On your wedding day when you both said, "I Do", you didn’t say those words to be the second or third or fourth priority in your spouse’s life. Choosing other activities or other people over your husband or wife, lead to feelings of alienation, despair, and lose. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the power of creating an intentional interruption in your life and marriage. An interruption that will change your marriage for the better for years to come. [FLASH SALE] The 7 Days of Sex Challenge Kindle Edition… The 7 Days of Sex Challenge is for busy couples like you to find some fun time together because it ELIMINATES the stress of figuring out what you need to do for 7 days that will be new and creative to try. Get yours now: http://www.7daysofsexchallenge.com Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/4/201431 minutes, 40 seconds
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243: STOP STUFFING IT DOWN

When tears are withheld and emotions are stuffed down inside of you this is a recipe for disaster over time. Stuffing it down again and again lead to frustrated people. Frustrated people lead to angry conversations and than more hurt. As a society and more specifically as married couples you need to make your marriage a safe places to cry. A place where you can release your emotions to be real with our spouses. It’s time to STOP living the lie that stuffing it down is the way to go. In this week’s show Tony & Alisa talk about the power of tears and how crying can help you be emotionally connect in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR Discover How to FINALLY Reignite Your Passion and Truly Enjoy Your Marriage (and Your Sex Life) Again…Even if it’s Been Stale for YEARS! Just Minutes from Now, You and Your Spouse Can Feel Like Newlyweds Again! Grab Intimacy Reignited NOW! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/28/201431 minutes, 46 seconds
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242: LET’S TOUCH EACH OTHER

There are many benefits to touch that have been studied over the years. They range from increased levels of oxytocin to lower blood pressure as well as an increase in overall connection. Physical touch that doesn't lead to sex is important. It's something that you should be doing in your marriage for your benefit and that of your spouse's. Three ways you can have non-sexual touch are when you hug, cuddle or even sleep naked with you spouse. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about making physical intimacy a priority because touch is important! EPISODE SPONSOR   Discover How to FINALLY Reignite Your Passion and Truly Enjoy Your Marriage (and Your Sex Life) Again…Even if it’s Been Stale for YEARS! Just Minutes from Now, You and Your Spouse Can Feel Like Newlyweds Again! Grab Intimacy Reignited NOW! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/21/201431 minutes, 34 seconds
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241: THIS WOMAN’S HEATH (MAMMOGRAM, ULTRASOUND & STERILIZATION)

Woman's health may have an impact on your marriage when the time comes for a mammogram, ultrasound or when sterilization is brought up. These are just a few of the health procedures your spouse can have. The emotional toll these may take can lead you both feeling drained and on an emotional roller coaster. Through effective communication you can get through these woman's health issues together. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the challenges of this woman's health and how you can support your wife during these times. EPISODE SPONSOR  Discover How to FINALLY Reignite Your Passion and Truly Enjoy Your Marriage (and Your Sex Life) Again…Even if it’s Been Stale for YEARS! Just Minutes from Now, You and Your Spouse Can Feel Like Newlyweds Again! Grab Intimacy Reignited NOW! Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/14/201431 minutes, 35 seconds
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240: BRING YOUR GOOD TIMES AND YOUR LAUGHTER TOO

Whether you are celebrating your first wedding anniversary or your fortieth, this is a time to celebrate the good times you've had together. It's a time to look back over the past year and then look forward to what's ahead. Make it a day where you celebrate one another and your marriage. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about celebrating those good times on that annual milestone in your marriage, your wedding anniversary. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path "Love You Guys" Wall of Fame EPISODE SPONSOR Date Nite Box is the FIRST and ONLY company to plan, book, box and send custom date nite boxes. Each box includes tickets/ vouchers for your event/activities/dinner along with directions, itinerary, a virtual date nite concierge and fun goodies to enhance each date. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/7/201431 minutes, 40 seconds
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239: IT’S NOT A PROBLEM, PORNOGRAPHY IS AN ADDICTION

Pornography is becoming the drug of choice for many individuals. It's easy to conceal, doesn't cost as much as alcohol or drugs, but gives them the same euphoric high that they enjoy. Unfortunately, pornography in marriage is destroying the sexual intimacy that you desire. The sex is not what it used to be, your spouse has become withdrawn, or you may not be getting straight answers from your spouse. These are just a few indications that pornography has permeated your life or of someone you love. It's time to realize that the pornography "problem" is a pornography addiction that needs to be addressed NOW! In this week’s show Tony & Alisa talk about when you or someone you love says that they have a “problem” with pornography when in reality it’s a pornography addiction. The Bondage Breaker The Porn Antidote: God's Secret Weapon for Crushing Porn's Grip, and Creating the Life and Marriage You Dream Of Project Know: Understanding Porn Addiction EPISODE SPONSOR Date Nite Box is the FIRST and ONLY company to plan, book, box and send custom date nite boxes. Each box includes tickets/ vouchers for your event/activities/dinner along with directions, itinerary, a virtual date nite concierge and fun goodies to enhance each date. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/30/201433 minutes, 8 seconds
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238: COMMON COURTESY

Common courtesy is something that you know you should extend to your spouse and yet it's not happening. It may be because you allow your spouse's actions to dictate if you will be courteous or not. The thing is that true common courtesy should not be a reaction but instead a heart attitude. This means that you say "please" and "thank you", you call to let your spouse know that you are running late, and even ask what can you can do for your spouse. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the impact you can have on your marriage when you use common courtesy with your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR Date Nite Box is the FIRST and ONLY company to plan, book, box and send custom date nite boxes. Each box includes tickets/ vouchers for your event/activities/dinner along with directions, itinerary, a virtual date nite concierge and fun goodies to enhance each date. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/23/201431 minutes, 59 seconds
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237: PUTTING THE KIDS FIRST

Your job as a parent is to have your children for a season in your house. While they are there you must equip them with the tools that they need to leave your house and live on their own. Being your child's savior, rescuing them and providing for all of their needs and wants impacts three generations. These three generations could be impacted for the positive or for the negative. You get to decide. In this week’s show Tony & Alisa talk about the impact of continuously putting your kids ahead of your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR    Date Nite Box is the FIRST and ONLY company to plan, book, box and send custom date nite boxes. Each box includes tickets/ vouchers for your event/activities/dinner along with directions, itinerary, a virtual date nite concierge and fun goodies to enhance each date. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/16/201431 minutes, 35 seconds
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236: LOVE IS GREATER THAN FEAR

Fear or worry can stop you in your tracks when it comes to moving forward in your marriage. Events in the past, words spoken or unspoken, or what may happen leave you feeling helpless. Fortunately for you love is great than fear. The love you have for your spouse can overcome the fear that is holding you back. It's time to push past the fear. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about the impact fear has on your marriage and your intimacy. EPISODE SPONSOR Melt: Massage for Couples will teach you how to massage your spouse and vise versa in the comfort of your own home. Since 2006 Denis & Emma have been teaching couples the best massage techniques for each other, Melt will show you how to do just this as you treat your spouse to a romantic massage. Join thousands of other couples who are learning to make each other Melt through massage. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/9/201431 minutes, 34 seconds
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235: SPEAK UP…VOCALIZE YOUR SATISFACTION

You and/or your spouse may struggle with how to be vocal and speak up during sex. There isn't a one-size fits all, but there are a few different ways that you can speak up. Vocalization during sex is one way to encourage your spouse during sex. Both of you share in the enjoyment and excitement. Incorporate any of these and you will transform your sex life as it brings another form of communication to your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa talk about the different ways you can speak up and vocalize your satisfaction to your spouse during sex. EPISODE SPONSOR      Melt: Massage for Couples will teach you how to massage your spouse and vise versa  in the comfort of your own home. Since 2006 Denis & Emma have been teaching couples the best massage techniques for each other,  Melt will show you how to do just this as you treat your spouse to a romantic massage. Join thousands of other couples who are learning to make each other Melt through massage. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/2/201431 minutes, 30 seconds
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234: MARRIAGE BONK

There will come a time when you will come to a point in your life when you feel depleted, whether it is because of circumstances at home, at work, with family or health. At some point you are going to run out of steam and hit the wall. Your marriage is great when all is running smooth and yet it is what you do in those times when you bonk. You will either push through and let your ego take over, you may freeze up to ask your spouse for help, or when help is offered you'll accept it so you can heal. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about what happens when you are doing great in your marriage and then it happens…you bonk. You are complete depleted of all energy to move forward in your marriage. EPISODE SPONSOR      Melt: Massage for Couples will teach you how to massage your spouse and vise versa  in the comfort of your own home. Since 2006 Denis & Emma have been teaching couples the best massage techniques for each other,  Melt will show you how to do just this as you treat your spouse to a romantic massage. Join thousands of other couples who are learning to make each other Melt through massage. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/26/201431 minutes, 32 seconds
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233: ADVICE GIVEN IN LOVE

When your spouse gives you advice that is unsolicited you may become defensive toward them. It's times like these that you need to check yourself and understand where they are coming from. Advice that is given in love without complaining or grumbling could very well be one of the most important things you can do. When you do this you show your spouse that you value them for seeing something you may not have seen. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about listening and taking advice given in love from your spouse. EPISODE SPONSOR      Melt: Massage for Couples will teach you how to massage your spouse and vise versa  in the comfort of your own home. Since 2006 Denis & Emma have been teaching couples the best massage techniques for each other,  Melt will show you how to do just this as you treat your spouse to a romantic massage. Join thousands of other couples who are learning to make each other Melt through massage. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/19/201431 minutes, 55 seconds
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232: YOUR PERSONALITY TYPE AND SEX

You are uniquely made as there is no one else on this earth that is like you. Even though this is true, you have a personality type that can be learned to better understand yourself and your spouse. The Ennegram with it's nine personality types is a tool that should be used by you so that you can grow in your life and marriage. In this week’s show Tony and Alisa talk about how personality types impact perception when it comes to the high desire spouse and low desire spouse. Wisdom of the Ennegram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types Understand Yourself, Understand Your Partner: The Essential Ennegram Guide to a Better Relationship Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/12/201432 minutes, 20 seconds
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231: IS IT MY DAYS OR YOUR DAYS TO INITIATE

The Intimacy Lifestyle at it's core is about being able to set specific days that you initiate sex and the days your spouse will initiate sex each week. It's also a fantastic way for the both of you to not put off sex to another time, but to make it a priority in your marriage. By having days where both of you initiate sex it ultimately brings you closer together. There will be times though when both of you or one of you is not tracking. We can totally relate because we have been there. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about what happens when there is a lack of clarity on which days you are to initiate sex. You don't dump all that you have accomplished, instead you communicate what can be done better moving forward. Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy In Your Marriage He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/5/201431 minutes, 48 seconds
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230: VULNERABILITY WHEN TRYING NEW SEXUAL POSITIONS

In your marriage the vulnerability you experience sexually with your spouse can be a challenge. Trying any position outside of the missionary position feels uncomfortable. For you it may be that the missionary position is efficient. Your spouse does this, you do that and wham bam it’s all done. You’re on your way and the next thing on your to-do list. Or maybe it’s routine. No need to think outside the box and complicate things. Your go-to position works so why rock the boat and change things up. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share why it's important to try new positions in your marriage. As they talk about the vulnerability you and your spouse face when trying new sexual positions you will gain insights on how you can add some to your marriage bed. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Taking Charge of Your Fertility 31 Days to Great Sex Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/29/201431 minutes, 51 seconds
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229: WHEN FACETIME MATTERS

There are many ways that you can connect with your spouse. The way that you do this depends on where you are and the time you have scheduled for each other. You may even FaceTime your spouse if you are traveling or away from each other. FaceTime is important in many ways as you get to experience more than just their tone of voice. The same goes for us here as our main way of connecting with you is through emails, phone calls or voice mail. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share why the FaceTime they had with couples at FlameFest as well as the Meetups in the Midwest were so important for them. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/22/201431 minutes, 37 seconds
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228: STRESS AND YOUR LIBIDO

Low libido due to stress can be frustrating to you and your spouse over time. You want to have a libido that is ready to go and yet the stress you endure has impacted you. This may be a phase or it may be going more prevalent due to work demands, family or other issues that you face. Stress has a direct impact on you libido because there is an increase in hormones such as cortisol and epinephrine (adrenaline). The increase of these in your body can also interfere with the hormones involved in your sexual libido. In this week's show Tony and Alisa share how stress has impacted their libido over the years. Even though this has been the case there are ways that they have continued to make their sexual intimacy a priority during these times. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/15/201431 minutes, 45 seconds
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227: BACK AGAINST THE WALL

The words you never thought you'd hear in your marriage, "I want a divorce", have been uttered by your spouse. They hit you as if you slammed into a brick wall and at that moment you're back against the wall. Your mind is flooded with all the reasons why this is happening to you right now. As you get your wits together you begin to recall all the times you've been asked to make a change. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share why you need to DO SOMETHING when you're back against the wall. It's time to take some serious action toward a better tomorrow. ONE Extraordinary Marriage Midwest Meetup Initial 30 Minute Consultation He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/8/201431 minutes, 48 seconds
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226: (WO) MAN IN THE MIRROR

You are constantly sending your spouse facial expressions. When things are going well you give a smile, bat those loving eyes, as well as radiate joy. When things aren’t going as well those facial expressions are not positive. From grunts, to the raised eyebrow, the looks of frustration and irritation. You send out these messages expecting that your spouse will make a change. Unfortunately, sending out those messages OVER and OVER and OVER again doesn't have the desired effect you expected. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share what happens when the man in the mirror, YOU, look at what you can do to make change in your life. The change that happen will leave a legacy for you and your family for years to come. ONE Extraordinary Marriage Instagram - Bizzaro Comics Michael Jackson - Man in the Mirror Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/1/201431 minutes, 44 seconds
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225: WHEN KIDS TAKE PRIORITY IN YOUR MARRIAGE

When your marriage is pushed to the bottom of your priority list you can sense a disconnect with your spouse. Our priorities have been messed up in our marriage as well. Kids are one of the biggest reasons that your marriage has a lack of priority. How do the two of you expect to grow your marriage and your relationship if you don't put yourselves at the top. In this week's show Tony & Alisa talk about what your priorities are when it comes to who should be at the top of the list in your life. ONE Extraordinary Marriage Midwest Meetup Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/24/201431 minutes, 36 seconds
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224: IMPROVE YOUR PHYSICAL INTIMACY

Summertime is here, the kids are out of school, and learning is the last thing on their mind. Unfortunately many of you have taken the same attitude in your marriage. School has been out for awhile now. You know what you know about your spouse and you don’t need to learn anything more. We can relate this to the high school senior that has stopped studying after receiving their college acceptance letter. No need to work hard now that the prize has been obtained. When it comes to your physical intimacy you got that acceptance letter long ago. And yet you may be frustrated, are experiencing a drift, or have stopped talking because you don’t know how to say what’s going on with you and your body. The arguments starts and the learning stops. On this week's show Tony & Alisa share the importance of continued learning when it comes to your physical intimacy. Each phase of life and your marriage is going to be a time for both of you to go "back to school". This is a time to learn what physical intimacy means. ONE Extraordinary Marriage Midwest Meetup 19 Questions to Amazing Sex with Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/17/201431 minutes, 43 seconds
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223: SUMMER DAZE (SEX WHEN THE KIDS ARE HOME)

Summer is a time when your sexual intimacy can take a back seat. There is no down time for you and your spouse with the kids home. The thought of having sex during the summer is the last thing you even think about. We’ve been there! The awkward moment when you hear the footsteps in the hallway. A knock on the door at an inopportune time. Or you're having a fantastic love making session and the kids hear you. Oh, sex during the summer has it's own challenges. In this week's show Tony and Alisa share ways that you and your spouse can make sure you are sexually intimate when the kids are home for the summer. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/10/201431 minutes, 44 seconds
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222: THE CHOICES YOU MAKE EVERY DAY

When you participate in activities that are going to impact you, your spouse and your marriage these are not good choices. These choices don't foster trust, nor do these choices bring the two of you together. In fact it’s just the opposite. Knowing what to do so you don't make these choices is half the battle. It's the actions you take daily that allow for growth in you and your marriage. In this week's show Tony and Alisa share how the choices you make can be detrimental for you and your marriage. These choices have not been forced upon you, these are decisions you have willingly made. ONE Extraordinary Marriage Midwest Tour | Columbus, Indianapolis & St. Louis - July 2014 He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/3/201431 minutes, 30 seconds
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221: IT’S NOT ABOUT THE NUMBER

How many times have you had a conversation with someone about their marriage and heard, “Well, we’ve been married (insert number of years) years", as if that’s all their marriage is about. The longevity of their relationship means so much more instead of the quality of their relationship. We've been there too. When it comes down to it you can be married 6 months or 50 years and yet it's about the quality of that time together that matters. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share that it's more than just about the number. You need to do SOMETHING if you want your marriage to be more than just a collection of numbers. It's time to get in the game and make it happen Bring Back the Spark: 5 Ways to Rekindle Your Sexual Intimacy Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/27/201433 minutes, 11 seconds
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220: FOREPLAY PLEASE

Foreplay is an opportunity for the two of you to mentally and physically get in the same place before intercourse. It's a time when you are brought into the present with your spouse as you enjoy one another without the distractions of your daily lives. During foreplay the two of you have time to love on each other in anticipation of what is coming up. And yes, both MEN and WOMEN need and desire foreplay. This week Tony & Alisa share why it is important for you to explore what foreplay looks like for you and your marriage. Bring Back the Spark Live Online Workshop The Joy of Sex Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/20/201434 minutes, 2 seconds
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219: I LOVE YOU, BUT I’M NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU

These nine words, "I Love You, But I'm Not In Love With You", when said in your marriage are a sucker punch to the stomach. They convey that you or your spouse are no longer willing to put forth any effort into the relationship. "In love" is really about the idea of being in love with the ideal spouse. Loving your spouse is love on a whole other level, it’s knowing what they look like when they don’t have any makeup on or when they have had a rough day at work. It’s honoring the vows that you took when things were good and also when times are challenging. This week Tony & Alisa share what you can do so "I Love You, But I'm Not In Love With You" will not be uttered in your marriage. If they have been don't worry because they have been there too. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/12/201431 minutes, 11 seconds
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218: IT’S NOT ALL GOOD OR ALL BAD

In your every day life you see the world and all that is around you in shades of grey. On the other hand you look at your marriage and there is only black and white, it's either all good or all bad. Your perception is that if your marriage isn't in one of these extremes then there is something wrong. Well, that place in the middle is where you want to be. This week Tony & Alisa share why it is important to live your marriage in the middle instead of living as if it is all good or all bad. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/6/201431 minutes, 28 seconds
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217: I WISH I WOULD HAVE KNOWN

When you get engaged and become newlyweds you get lots of advice from family and friends. They want you to start your marriage out on the right foot and yet the advice usually given is the same ole thing. After hearing, "don't sweat the little things", "hold hands all the time" and "be there for one another", for the hundredth time you want more. You're an engaged couple or married now and you know that marriage isn't going to be as easy as this. This week Tony & Alisa share the things they would share with an engaged couple or newlyweds about what they should know about being married. Listen in and learn what you should know to make your marriage extraordinary! Stop Living Your Marriage Like It's a 30-Minute Sitcom Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/29/201432 minutes, 21 seconds
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216: UGHH! INTERRUPTED AGAIN

At some point in time you have been interrupted while trying to have sex with your spouse. It’s not always the kids that interrupt you, but maybe a phone call, an alert on the phone or a knock at the front door. When interrupted there is a break in the connection you are experiencing with your spouse. It's the "Ughh! Interrupted Again" moment. What do you need to do to get back to being intimate after you've been interrupted. In this week's show Tony & Alisa share a recent time when they were interrupted. Learn what you can do to reengage with each other so that you can enjoy the love making session that got interrupted. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Live Online Workshop Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/22/201431 minutes, 32 seconds
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215: SEPARATE BEDS

When you leave your marriage bed and begin to sleep in separate beds it can be the beginning to the end to your physical as well as emotional intimacy. Separate beds lead to separate lives and an up hill fight to keep your marriage together. What is it that has happened to you and your spouse that you would sleep outside of your marriage bed? Both of you need to take time and look back at why you even started down this path. This week Tony & Alisa share why it is important to face your problems head on in your marriage. Stop running away to another room and sleeping in separate beds. Flame Fest Chicago: July 10-12, 2014 Gain Insights Into ONE Challenge You Face in Your Marriage X3Pure - End Your Addiction to Porn Today Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/15/201431 minutes, 38 seconds
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214: STRANGER DANGER

If you allow you marriage to be stagnant for any amount of time you become distant from your spouse. This leads to a disconnect between the two of you and ultimately you become strangers. Be aware of the signs of stranger danger. It's a point where you or both of you are no longer able to recognize the person you married. You can reconnect again! This week Tony & Alisa share how you can put protections into your marriage so that you will not have to worry about stranger danger. Flame Fest Chicago: July 10-12, 2014 Connect Like You Did When You First Met Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/8/201432 minutes
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213: SEX IS NOT A COMPLETE BAROMETER OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP

When your sex life has simple become a physical act that you and your spouse are doing it's time to evaluate what's going on. The quantity of sex you have each week or month is not a complete barometer of your relationship. Sexual intimacy is only one of the six forms of intimacy that the two of you should focus on to build a strong marriage. These six intimacies are vital to a marriage based on transparency, honesty & trust. This week Tony & Alisa share why you should make sure to not only look at how much sex you are getting each month. Instead begin to grow closer together where the quality of sex gets better and better over time. You, Your Spouse & Sex Audio Workshop He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/1/201431 minutes, 20 seconds
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212: I WANT SPONTANEOUS SEX

You want spontaneous sex and you want it often and yet do you even know what spontaneous means? Dictionary.com says that spontaneous is: coming or resulting from a natural impulse or tendency; without effort or premeditation; natural and unconstrained; unplanned. How often is this happening in your life? Expecting to have spontaneous sex seems a bit unrealistic as you have many activities in your day-to-day that are planned. What we have come to realize is that you are not looking for spontaneous sex, but rather CREATIVE SEX. Sex that is not the same every single time you slip into bed. In this weeks show Tony & Alisa share what you need to do to change your mindset from spontaneous sex to one where the creative juices flow freely in your marriage bed. You, Your Spouse and Sex Workshop 19 Questions to Amazing Sex with Your Spouse Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/25/201431 minutes, 12 seconds
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211: GET YOUR SEXY BACK

Recreational intimacy is being active together. Finding activities you both like to do and do them with each other. Take a walk, hike a mountain, go surf...whatever it is do something with your spouse that will bring the two of you together. When you spend time together you get your sexy back as you see each other excel and have a great time. Fitness doesn't have to be complicated. Get up and move your body. This week Tony & Alisa share how they make fitness and health part of their everyday life and marriage. It's by doing activities together that you will experience a deep connection with your spouse. FREE Core Blast Workout P90X3 Insanity Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/18/201432 minutes, 57 seconds
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210: PRAYING OR PROCRASTINATING

You've been praying for healing, peace, forgiveness and change in your marriage for a long time. There are times when you wonder if God hears you or if He even cares about your marriage. It's easy to pray and then procrastinate. You've prayed and yet it is what you do afterwards that can have a profound impact on your life and marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share the what it looks like to pray and procrastinate. You'll also learn why it is important to take action and move when you are praying. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/11/201431 minutes, 59 seconds
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209: YOU SAID VS I HEARD

Words that you hear and then say back to your spouse can have a serious impact on the issue you are discussing in your marriage. The walls go up, the conversation stops and then the aftermath occurs. Your perception and the filters you have about what your spouse is going to say can lead to ineffective behavior and communication. There are two words that can change the entire conversation. These two words are: I HEARD (fill in the blank). This week Tony & Alisa dive into why it is important to make the change from "You Said" to "I Heard" when you are discussing issues that impact your marriage. Not only for your spouse's benefit, but for yours as well. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/4/201431 minutes, 16 seconds
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208: FERTILITY AWARENESS METHOD (NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING)

Conceiving a child or not to conceive a child is something many married couples talk about. When it comes to knowing all the ins and outs of ovulation...well that is another story. When the two of you are educated on your (your wife's) menstrual cycle from month-to-month you are better able to understand your sexual intimacy. It's a way for each of you to connect because of the knowledge you now have. This week Tony & Alisa share how they have been using the Fertility Awareness Method so that they are able to make love without the use of contraception. 5 Secrets to Understanding You, Your Spouse & Your Marriage Live Webinar Taking Charge of Your Fertility (Amazon Link) Clearblue Easy Fertility Monitor (Amazon Link) Period Log (App Store) Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/25/201432 minutes, 34 seconds
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207: OUT OF WORK

You never plan to be out of work and yet there will probably come a time in your marriage when you or your spouse has lost their job. This can be a stressful time for you as you look for work again. The loss of a job can add financial stress, drive a wedge in your emotional intimacy and impact how you relate sexually with your spouse. It's during this time that you need to get out of the pity party and move. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can stay connected with your spouse even when you are out of work. 5 Secrets to Understanding You, Your Spouse & Your Marriage Live Webinar Alisa's Kenya Trip Highlight Video 48 Days to the Work You Love by Dan Miller Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/18/201431 minutes, 45 seconds
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206: INITIATING SEX

Sexual intimacy is an important part of your marriage. There is a connection only you have with your spouse and it's amazing when you have it. The problem is that you're always initiating sex. After awhile it would be refreshing if your spouse were to pursue you. What would happen in your marriage if this were to happen? This week Tony & Alisa speak frankly about what it means to initiate sex. Their insights in their own marriage will have you learning what you need to do in your marriage so that both of you are initiating sex. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/11/201432 minutes, 37 seconds
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205: WORK, KIDS, LAUNDRY, & DISHES

There is so many things going on in your marriage that more often than not the connection you and your spouse have has been placed on the back burner. You can't even remember the last time you two had uninterrupted moments together. It's time to get back to the two of you. It's making a choice right now that your marriage needs to be in the forefront of your lives. Not only so you can talk, but that you can be connected in all forms of intimacy. This week Tony & Alisa share what you can do together even when you have work, kids, laundry, and the dishes to do day in and day out. It’s what you do to connect even with all of this stuff happening in your marriage. 77 Day Marriage Challenge Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/4/201432 minutes, 10 seconds
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204: WE WILL FIGHT (FOR OUR MARRIAGE)

Every opportunity you have to fight for your marriage is one that you should take. There is so much out in your every day life that is trying to pull you away from each other. It is time for both of you to focus on each other and fight for your love. It may be for your spiritual intimacy, sexual intimacy, or for dates so you can be alone together. In this weeks show Tony & Alisa share that it is important to fight for the romance and passion in your marriage. You don't need to be at the brink of divorce to rise up and fight for an extraordinary marriage. Take Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler Love Always: The Ultimate Marriage Blueprint Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/28/201431 minutes, 49 seconds
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203: CONNECT EVEN WHEN YOU’RE APART

There may come a time in your marriage when you and your spouse are miles apart. This may be due to a deployment, work, caring for a family member, a mission trip or many other reasons. It is during these time that you and your spouse need to have a mindset of togetherness. You'll also need to have a few ideas that will keep the two of you connected. This  week Tony & Alisa share how they have stayed connected during times apart. Most recently when Alisa spent 12 days on a short term mission trip to Kenya. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/21/201431 minutes, 49 seconds
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202: TEMPTATION

Temptation has been around since the beginning of mankind. It happened in the Garden of Eden and temptation may impact you and your marriage at one time or another. Even though temptation is present and will put your marriage in jeopardy there are safeguards that you need to put in place. These safeguards are set for the sole purpose of keeping your attention on what is most important, your spouse. This week Tony & Alisa share how temptation if not communicated with your spouse can drive a wedge between the two of you. OpenDNS Start Email Coaching Today Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/14/201431 minutes, 41 seconds
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201: I’M SORRY

It is very easy after a confrontation with your spouse to say something like “Are we good?” and expect the issue to be resolved. In other situations you may not say anything and just go about your business with this unfinished issue hanging around you and your spouse. When you have many of these stacked one upon another there is going to be frustration and irritation in your marriage. In this weeks show Tony & Alisa are going to discuss the importance of saying "I'm sorry" so that your spouse knows that you have not minimized, failed to acknowledge or brushed the issue under the rug. Love Always: 90-Day Marriage Makeover Question Behind the Question (via Amazon) P90X3 Workout: Get Ripped In 30 Minutes a Day Alisa Interviewed on What Do You Do Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/7/201431 minutes, 2 seconds
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SPRECIAL EDITION: HAPPY NEW YEAR

It's a fresh start, a clean slate and the beginning of a New Year! As you start a new year give serious consideration to where you and your marriage will be over the course of the next 365 days. What intimacy do you and your spouse want to focus in on for 2014. This week Tony & Alisa share the 6 intimacies and ideas that you can use starting now to have an impact on your heart. Man Up Gods Way Facebook Page Lessons Learned While Pedaling a Cruiser Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/31/201322 minutes, 21 seconds
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SPECIAL EDITION: MERRY CHRISTMAS ONE FAMILY

We know that you are busy with last minute preparations, trimming the tree, wrapping the presents, traveling and setting out the cookies for Santa. So we just wanted to take a few minutes to reflect with you on this season. As you unwrap this holiday season remember that the biggest and best gift that you can give your spouse is the gift of you. Your attention, your intention, and your commitment to the marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can love in spite of life’s challenges. Loving your spouse is not always easy but recognizing that you have the choice to love in spite of these circumstances is what matters most to your spouse and your marriage. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/24/201312 minutes, 10 seconds
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200: WOOHOO!

Reaching a milestone in your marriage, your 5th, 10th, 25th, etc anniversary, is a time of celebration. A time when you get to look back at all the amazing things you have done with your spouse. It's a time to share stories of how your spouse impacted you and your marriage. The two of you are the stars on this day. This week Tony & Alisa are celebrating. Not because the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show has reached 200 episodes, but the impact the show has had on couples around the world. Don't miss these inspiring stories. Love Always: The Ultimate Marriage Blueprint WEIRD: Because Normal Isn't Working by Craig Groeschel The Married Virgin Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/17/201344 minutes, 23 seconds
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199: IT WON’T HAPPEN TO US

Your spouse is asking you to get involved in the marriage because there is a problem. Ignoring it will not make it go away. Apathy will not make it go away. Getting involved with someone else will not make it go away. When this is happening you need to take look at all aspects of your marriage. More importantly you need to get involved with your spouse quickly. This week Tony & Alisa unwrap how you can get involved in your marriage so that you change the future of your relationship. How to Write a Romantic Love Letter Write Me a Letter, Speak to My Heart He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/10/201332 minutes, 19 seconds
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198: WANT TO OR NEED TO

Words are interesting and the subtle differences in meaning can often go unnoticed. Except that these words can be played over and over in your head. The words that you choose to use when you have to do something have meaning. These words carry weight not just to you but also for your spouse. This week Tony & Alisa look at two words that can lead to a ho-hum marriage or one that is extraordinary. They share the difference between "Need To" or "Want To" in your marriage and in your life. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/3/201331 minutes, 17 seconds
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197: AROUND THE WORLD

As the years pass in your marriage it is very easy to settle where you are. Between work, kids, church and other activities you aren't living your life out loud. It's time to bust out of your comfort zone so that you can go after that adventure that inside of you. Both of you will experience a new level in your lives and your marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share how they are getting out of their comfort zone in different ways to experience life to the fullest. GoFundMe - Alisa's Mission Trip to Kenya Reignite the Love Telesummit Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/26/201328 minutes, 29 seconds
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196: SEX TOYS

Getting creative in your marriage and trying new things can definitely spice things up for the two of you. When sex toys become part of your marriage toolkit you need to keep your motives in check. When you are looking for a way to add something new that you both agree upon, that's OK. If you're looking for a way to replace your spouse because you don’t want to be sexual intimate then there is an issue at hand. This week Tony & Alisa share how they have used sex toys in their marriage over the years. Some have been well received while others have only interfered with their sexual intimacy. Fun Board Games You Can Play to Spice Up Your Sex Life Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com.  Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/19/201333 minutes, 47 seconds
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195: SHOW EMOTION

It's a choice to remove the masks and let down the walls in your life. These are holding you back from truly experiencing the joy in your marriage. Your choice to continue living like this is causing your spouse to wonder if you are truly engaged in the marriage. They are frustrated, confused, isolated and/or scared. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can begin to remove your masks and show your emotions to your spouse. When you take off your masks you are loved more not less for who you are. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path 169 - Is This Abuse? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/12/201331 minutes, 12 seconds
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194: TOUGH TO SWALLOW

The two of you have probably talked about being sexual intimate via a blow job. It's a topic that is brought up, but have you discussed what it would be like to have your spouse get to the point of ejaculation? Over the last couple of months many emails have come in asking this particular question. This week Tony & Alisa dive into a topic, blow jobs, that many in the marriage arena are not willing to discuss. They share 7 tips that could help you and your spouse enjoy blow jobs in your marriage. Support ONE Extraordinary Marriage by shopping at Amazon.com.  Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/5/201331 minutes, 10 seconds
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193: DIVORCE IS OFF THE TABLE

When you say "I Do", the furthest thing from your mind at that very moment is uttering the word "Divorce". As the months and years pass the "D" word begins to enter your vocabulary. The first time it stings and you can't believe it was even uttered. Slowly and over time it doesn't even mean anything to you or your spouse. It is used flippantly and yet it is undermining how you see your marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share how they have taken the word "Divorce" off the table in their marriage. They will share with you how you can do the same in your marriage. Email Coaching Special Are you ready to go deeper and breakthrough the walls that are holding you back? If so we now offer email coaching so you can get those big questions answered on your schedule. Go to Email Coaching and learn what email coaching is all about. Through October 31st Use code: DoItNow and receive 20% OFF any email coaching program. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/29/201331 minutes, 45 seconds
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192: GIVE ME A CHANCE

If you've been married for any length of time you may have hurt your spouse. This could be through the words you have said, by being silent, pulling away, not spending time with them, and more. Even though this has happened you can rebuild the trust in your marriage. You need to ask your spouse right now, "Give Me A Chance". This week Tony & Alisa share how you can begin to rebuild the trust in your marriage and be given another chance. Email Coaching Special Are you ready to go deeper and breakthrough the walls that are holding you back? If so we now offer email coaching so you can get those big questions answered on your schedule. Go to Email Coaching and learn what email coaching is all about. Through October 31st Use code: DoItNow and receive 20% OFF any email coaching program. Love Always: The Ultimate Marriage Blueprint Heaven's Door Feelings List Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/22/201332 minutes, 14 seconds
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191: MASTURBATION

Masturbation in marriage can have a profound impact on your sexual intimacy. When masturbating in private without your spouse you are diminishing the joy of sex with your spouse. If you are masturbating in your marriage and your spouse does not know you are doing this it’s time to have a state of our marriage conversation. You need to take off the masks and acknowledge what’s going on in your sex life. On the other hand masturbating together can add to your marriage bed. This is where you learn what pleases each other by showing your spouse. This week Tony & Alisa share how masturbation has negatively and positively impacted them in their marriage. Email Coaching Special Are you ready to go deeper and breakthrough the walls that are holding you back? If so we now offer email coaching so you can get those big questions answered on your schedule. Go to Email Coaching and learn what email coaching is all about. Through October 31st Use code: DoItNow and receive 20% OFF any email coaching program. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/15/201331 minutes, 21 seconds
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190: TO TEXT OR NOT TO TEXT

You live in a world ruled by your phone, you feel lost when you don’t have it. You send text messages when you don’t want to bother someone and yet you are a slave to those text alerts. Unfortunately, some of you are using your cell phone, specifically texting as a way to have the tough conversations in your marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share why using a text message is not the best way to communicate with your spouse. During this show you'll learn: What's the problem with using a text message? Why is this happening? What do you do? A big thank you to our sponsor, Redeeming Pleasure, a Christian sex toy boutique for marriage couples. For 20% OFF anything through October 2013 use offer code "ONE2013". Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/8/201331 minutes, 53 seconds
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189: ARE YOU DOING TOO MUCH?

You do everything for your spouse. The laundry, cooking, cleaning, kids, devotional, gardening, and on and on. You don’t understand why your spouse can’t help out around the house. Why are they not engaging with you? Has your marriage become one where you are treating your spouse more like a child than an adult. It's time to treat them like an adult so they can have a sense of value in your marriage. In this weeks show Tony & Alisa are going to share with you how you can take steps today so that you can begin to treat your spouse as an adult. Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/1/201331 minutes, 22 seconds
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188: MAKE A PROMISE

It is critical that you make the decision to honor the promise you made on your wedding day. It is by keeping this promise that you will experience the true meaning of love in your marriage. Take time to consider these three promises that you can make and keep in your marriage. You wedding vow Transparency Variety In this weeks show Tony & Alisa share how you can make a promise, keep it, and most importantly demonstrate it to each other. Cuddle Up Online Audio Program Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/24/201331 minutes, 21 seconds
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187: CHANGE IS GOOD

It's time to live the marriage you desire. For change to happen you are going to have to take action. Your marriage has changed over the years. Your priorities are so out of whack that you, your spouse, and your marriage is lost. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can make change happen in your life. Start today. 40 Romantic Ideas You Can Use Today to Spice Up Your Marriage Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/17/201331 minutes, 18 seconds
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186: DON’T WAIT

Fear. It stops you from taking off your masks. You sit there as you look at your spouse knowing you need to share where you are and yet FEAR is holding you back. Expressing yourself has become difficult. The kids, work, electronics, have made it easy to disengage in your marriage. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can begin to reengage each other so that you don't wait until your marriage is at the brink of ending. 3 Ways to Overcome Your Fear The Question Behind the Question Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/10/201331 minutes, 15 seconds
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185: LISTEN TO ME

One area that is often mishandled in marriage is the art of listening. It's the ability to keep your mouth shut and your ears open as your spouse shares what is happening in their life. During this time you get to learn about your spouse. Better yet, you now have the opportunity to show them that you heard what was spoken. This is not a time to get defensive or fight your position. Relax and open yourself up for a time of growth. You will see the transformation in your marriage as you listen up. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can listen and gain insights on your marriage that can take it to the next level. 19 Questions to Amazing Sex with Your Spouse Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/3/201330 minutes, 24 seconds
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184: BE A HALL OF FAMER

Remember back to those days when you played a sport, competed in a competition, or were launching a new business, product or service. You knew where you wanted to get and yet you didn't have the blueprint to help you get there. Well in your marriage there can come a point where you know that there is more, but you don't know how to work with your spouse to reach that point. Marriage coaching may be the answer for you. This week Tony & Alisa share why it's important to consider marriage coaching. They breakdown the myths associated with coaching and how you can start working with them today! Love Always: The Ultimate Marriage Blueprint Email Coaching - Starting at $10 Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/27/201329 minutes, 58 seconds
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183: THE IMPACT OF PORNOGRAPHY ON YOUR WIFE

You can believe what you are seeing. You're heart sinks as the shame and anger inside you begins to burst out. Right there in front of you on your husband's phone, tablet, and/or computer there are pictures of naked women. The shock has left you wondering why he's looking at it. You're heartbroken as the foundation of your marriage, trust, has been compromised. You're not alone. This week Tony & Alisa share how pornography impacted their marriage from the perspective of the wife. Overcoming Pornography with Marriage Coaching The Porn Antidote: God's Secret Weapon for Crushing Porn's Grip, and Creating the Life and Marriage You Dream Of OpenDNS - Internet Security Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/20/201331 minutes, 40 seconds
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182: KEEPING SECRETS ABOUT THE KIDS

There is marriage Before Kids (BK) and then there is marriage After Kids (AK). You know what we are talking about as these can be two extremes. It starts from little sleep, to low sex drive, on to school, sports, and many other good and tough issues as they grow up. One area where this can be most prevalent is in your emotional and intellectual intimacy with your spouse. Kids can be a wedge between the two of you. In this weeks show Tony & Alisa share how you can stay connected when your child wants you to keep a secret from your spouse. 30 Minute Initial Coaching Session He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication On the Same Path Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/13/201331 minutes, 17 seconds
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181: WARRIOR OR WALKOVER

You've been living long enough in a lack luster marriage. Today is the day that you are going to put on your armor and be a warrior for your marriage. To often you and your spouse get complacent in your marriage. Your expectations are that they will take the initiative and yet it's you who needs to stand tall. This week Tony & Alisa share what you can do today to be the warrior you need to be so that your marriage can thrive and grow. Coaching with Alisa Thrive90 Fitness Program He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/6/201331 minutes, 41 seconds
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180: EWWW, THAT’S GROSS

These words are uttered across the globe by kids who see their parents kiss, hug, or show some form of affection. You want to hear them say this. It's your responsibility in your marriage to show affection around your kids and their friends. Your ability to show them a healthy marriage is vital for you and for them. This week Tony & Alisa share the times when they have heard these words spoken by their kids. They also share with you what is appropriate affection and what you should leave for when you are alone. The Sex Talk Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/30/201331 minutes, 28 seconds
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179: WARNING SIGNS

You feel like something’s not quite right in your marriage right now. As you think about what is going on you wonder if you are making too much out of nothing. Your intuition or gut is telling you something. There are warning signs that something is not the way it should be in your marriage. These warning signs by themselves may not lead to separation and yet a few of them together can mean that things are in jeopardy in your relationship. All in all when your warning signs go off a serious conversation is required. This week Tony and Alisa go over a list of warning signs that you should be aware of in your marriage. 30-Minute Initial Coaching Consultation He Zigs, She Zags Bondage Breaker Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/23/201332 minutes, 37 seconds
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178: SEXPECTATIONS

You are all excited to take some time away, maybe a long weekend or a week long vacation, with your spouse. You know the two of you are going to have sex and yet have you discussed how many times you will have sex while away. Your sexpectations and those of your spouse may be drastically different for the trip. Taking time before you leave to clarify what each of your sexpectations are will allow for both of you to enjoy your time off. This week Tony & Alisa talk about how their sexpectations were drastically different on a recent vacation. They share the highs and the lows from before they left until the time they got home. He Zigs, She Zags: Getting You Communication on the Same Path Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/16/201332 minutes, 36 seconds
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177: BICYCLE BUILT FOR TWO (OR NOT)

Having your own activities and hobbies separately from your spouse is a healthy way for you to grow individually. At the same time it's also a way for you and your spouse to grow your marriage. Do something that makes your heart sing, brings joy, happiness, and a passion to your life. This joy then is brought into the marriage where you are able to discuss new interests. This week Tony & Alisa share what interests they have together and what interests they have separately. Both have been vital to their marriage over the years. Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/9/201332 minutes, 52 seconds
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176: HOLD MY HAND

So often you find yourself in making advances on your spouse with the sole purpose to have sex. You're touching your spouse for one thing only and it's not appreciated. What transpires is either you getting accepted after numerous advances or you get rejected. Either way you feel as if your spouse really isn't interested in having sex with you. What if you focused on building a connection without the expectation of having sex? Building this connection for the sake of being close to your spouse will lead to much more. This week Tony & Alisa share how you can connect with non-sexual touches so you can have the sexual intimacy you desire. They outline what you should be doing to connect and those special touches that will enhance your marriage. 20-Minute Consultation Call 111 - High Desire, Low Desire State of Our Marriage Conversation Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/2/201330 minutes, 42 seconds
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175: CONTRACT OF RECONCILIATION

You've had enough of your spouse's antics. The word "Separation" or "Divorce" have been said in hurtful ways and now you are really considering one or both. Before you step out of your home you both need a plan to be working on yourself as well as you marriage. If not, the likelihood of both of you working together diminishes. In this weeks podcast Tony and Alisa talk about what to do when you feel like you need to separate to gain clarity in your marriage with the goal of being together again. This isn't a we're separating to never get back together, but a time of distance to get back together. Contract of Reconciliation Worksheets The Bondage Breaker He Zigs, She Zags: Getting Your Communication on the Same Path ONE Marriage Coaching Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/25/201331 minutes, 58 seconds
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174: COVENANT OR CONTRACT

When you first got marriage you  may have thought of you marriage as a covenant and/or as a contract. To this day in your mind your marriage is either one of these or both and yet do you know which each of them mean in your marriage? If you view your marriage as a contract it is self-focused. In a covenant you are other-focused. This week Tony and Alisa discuss the major differences between the two to help you better understand which marriage you are in. Either a covenant or a contract you should know so that you can fully experience your marriage. The Bondage Breaker Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/18/201337 minutes, 33 seconds
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173: CRANK UP YOUR SEX DRIVE

You don't have the sex drive you once had within your marriage. It's waned over the years and really you're a bit frustrated that you don't have "IT" like you once did. Your physical well being may be an area that is having a big impact on your sex drive and libido. Being physically fit, eating the proper nutrition, getting the vitamins and minerals you need, as well as having the motivation is paramount to your sexual intimacy. This week Tony and Alisa go over where they are in their continued pursuit of having a healthy sex drive. It's something that they thrive for individually and together. Don't miss how you can make changes to your body to crank up your sex drive. Thrive90 Fitness Program Happy, Healthy, & Hot Les Mills Pump Fitness Program What Are Your 50 Reasons? Irwin Naturals Men's Living Green Liquid-Gel Multi Irwin Naturals Women's Living Green Liquid-Gel Multi Irwin Naturals High-Performance Ripped-Man Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/11/201344 minutes, 29 seconds
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172: THOSE WEIRD NOISES

You know those noises that come from your spouse. Either in the bathroom or right there in the kitchen they come out and boy is it getting a bit much. Never did you think about the burps, farts, throw up, diarrhea, or those weird noises in bed when you first got together. Now after years of marriage they are beginning to wan on you. This week Tony and Alisa share those noises in their marriage and how they have been able to understand why they occur and when. You don't want to miss this episode on Those Weird Noises. Mattress Warmer  Pain Free: A Revolutionary Method for Stopping Chronic Pain Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/4/201336 minutes, 1 second
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171: SEX HURTS

Ouch! My body hurts. Physical ailments can cause strife in your marriage when you are unable to be sexually intimate with your spouse. You are not doing this to hurt your spouse and yet there is frustration for both of you. Is the pain manageable? Can you make changes to your medication? Would non-vaginal sex satisfy both of you? This week Tony and Alisa share ideas that you may not have thought of so you can be physically intimate with your spouse. Take one action step this week toward healing your body. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/28/201345 minutes, 46 seconds
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170: WHAT’S WRONG WITH MY MARRIAGE…I AM

There are times in your marriage when everything seems to not be going as you planned. It's easy to point the finger at your spouse for all that is happening and yet the issues may be with YOU. Yes, you may be what's wrong with your marriage. Most times it is easier to lay the blame on your spouse. Why do you have to go through all the work to change yourself when your spouse can do it. This week Tony & Alisa share times in their marriage when one of them was the problem in their marriage. They share how they have looked at their issues and how they have been able to overcome them. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/21/201342 minutes, 46 seconds
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169: IS THIS ABUSE?

You feel alone, unworthy, spoken to like a child, or watched everywhere you go. Physically your spouse hasn't laid a hand on you and yet the verbal and emotional barrage that you get daily has you at wits end. Have you experienced: Humiliation, degradation, discounting, negating. judging, criticizing Domination, control, and shame Accusing and blaming, trivial and unreasonable demands or expectations, denies own shortcomings Emotional distancing and the “silent treatment,” isolation, emotional abandonment or neglect Codependence and enmeshment If so, then you are in an emotional and verbally abusive marriage. This week Tony & Alisa shine the light on what these may look like in your home. More importantly they share the 5 steps you need to take to free yourself and your spouse from continued abuse. If you need help don't wait. Call or contact the agencies below for assistance. Women call: US: Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 UK: call Women’s Aid at 0808 2000 247. Australia: Call 1800RESPECT at 1800 737 732. Worldwide: Visit International Directory of Domestic Violence Agencies for a global list of helplines and crisis centers. Men call: U.S. and Canada: Call the The Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men & Women at 1-888-7HELPLINE UK: Call the ManKind Initiative at 01823 334244 Australia: Visit One in Three Campaign Other links: Creating a Safety Plan Uberlube Luxury Lubricant Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/14/201347 minutes
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168: FLYING HIGH

Get out of your comfort zone and do something exhilarating with your spouse. When you do amazing changes can happen in your marriage. You're flying high as you face your fears and stay present in the moment. To often in your marriage there is so much going on, kids activities, electronics, church function, etc, that you put on the brakes before you ever get the chance to do something new. This week Tony & Alisa are flying high as they talk about how flying on the trapeze helped them overcome some fears, expand their level of trust, and grow together in their marriage. He Zigs, She Zags: Getting Your Communication on the Same Path Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/7/201337 minutes, 50 seconds
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167: PLAY BALL

Your marriage is a participation sport. There are no rewards for sitting on the sidelines watching as the weeks, months, and years pass by. It's time for the two of you to stand on the field together, playing together, and enjoying this game we call marriage together. When you do your emotional, spiritual, financial, and sexual intimacy are going to be in sync. This week Tony and Alisa share how you can stand together on the ball field and participate in your marriage together. It's time to Play Ball! 19 Questions to Amazing Sex with Your Spouse Fireproof (Movie) The Love Dare  Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/30/201345 minutes, 33 seconds
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166: HOLEY UNDERWEAR

Those underwear you are wearing are dragging you down. Nobody except your spouse sees them and yet when you are wearing them you don't feel sexy. Why would you want to have them around any longer if all they do is bring you down? Git rid of those hoely underwear! It's time for some spring cleaning so get those holey underwear out of your drawer and put them in the trash. In the process you'll lift your self-esteem and self-confidence. This week Tony and Alisa share their experiences with holey underwear, what they have done to rid themselves of them, and how it has impacted them as well as their marriage. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/23/201339 minutes, 13 seconds
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165: CUDDLE UP

Cuddling up with your spouse after a great love making session can do wonders for both of you. Your skin is the largest organ on your body and when it is in contact with your spouse's skin it can do wonders for your marriage. The act of cuddling with your spouse releases the hormone oxytocin, "the feel-good hormone", which can lead to overall happiness. Cuddling can also release endorphins, which are the same hormones that are released during a good workout. This week Tony & Alisa share how the act of cuddling, which was prevalent in their early years of marriage, has faded over time. They get to the root of why cuddling has faded over time and what they are going to do to get more cuddling in after sex. Cuddle Positions Intimacy Ignited Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/16/201341 minutes, 58 seconds
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164: IS YOUR SEX LIFE GETTING ENOUGH SLEEP?

The amount of sleep you get can directly impact your vibrancy as well as the quality of sex you have in your marriage. When you are tired and worn out sex is the last thing you may want to be doing. If anything, you would rather roll over and get more sleep. Well, a good night of sleep will benefit your sex life and many other areas of your life as well. This week Tony and Alisa share how you can feel better by getting more sleep. Not only will you learn the impact from lack of sleep, but tips on how to have a great night of sleep. Find Your Perfect At-Home Fitness Program Sleep Aids: Iso-Cool Memory Foam Pillow Sleep Master Sleep Mask Resources: Sleepless in America Sharing a Bed 9 Things That May Impact Your Sleeping Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/9/201344 minutes, 14 seconds
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163: WHEN THINGS GO WRONG AS THEY SOMETIMES WILL

You have waited to try something new in the bedroom for months. You purchased what you needed, set the ambiance of your room, and now it's go time. As the two of you begin having some fun you realize that this isn't going the way you had planned. The candles smell horrible. There are laughs when you turn on the vibrator. Your hotel room bed is bumpy. A long day traveling leaves you spent. Recently one of those planned situations didn't go as Tony and Alisa had expected. This week they share what happened, how each of them reacted to the same situation, and what they did to make sure that they wouldn't let this unforeseen situation disrupt them for the long haul. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/2/201342 minutes, 27 seconds
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162: WALK ON WATER

Fear can stop you in your tracks and hold you back from what God truly wants from you in your marriage. It's during these times of fear that you need to face what is holding you back and move forward. Peter walked on water, but it was only when he got out of the boat did this happen. (Matthew 14:29-30) It can be difficult to get out of the boat sometimes in your marriage. This week Tony and Alisa share times in their marriage when fear held them back and they didn't want to get out of the boat. Other times they jumped out of the boat to experience God's desires for them. They share both in this weeks show. CREATE Your Life Blueprint Mentorship Program Imagine having the confidence and the know-how to: State what you want out of your relationship. Balance your relationship while running your business or working your job. Take off your masks and being loved more, not less, for who you truly are. Say no to those commitments that are not in line with your personal mission statement. Recognize your dreams and desires and manifest those in your relationship. Develop a sense of gratitude for life’s experience and the journey you’re on. CREATE Your Life Blueprint will be opening soon. Sign up to be notified of the upcoming launch. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/26/201341 minutes, 43 seconds
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161: I DON’T CARE

Love starts out as that butterfly feeling in the pit of your stomach; a physical emotion that washed over you when you first met your soon-to-be spouse. During this get-to-know-you stage you were swept up with everything they did with you, such as holding your hand, rubbing close to you, and those kisses. Your emotions were cranked to the hilt and everything was great. You're happy. You're in love. You get engaged, then married and as time passed the feelings of love began to disappear. Those fun things your spouse did early on in your courtship now bug you. The physical reaction you once had isn't there any longer. Its great to have your spouse around and yet you have work, kids, and other activities that occupy you. Even more time passes and real world issues cant be ignored any longer. You're at a point where you don't care about your spouse or your marriage. Its at this moment that you need to realize that love is a verb. Love is not about that butterfly feeling, but in you showing your love through action. This week we share how you can take your marriage from an attitude of "I Don't Care" to one where you are taking action and showing your love. Total Transformation Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/19/201343 minutes, 34 seconds
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160: FLIP THE SWITCH TO GOOD SEX

You were raised in a family where talking about sex and your private parts was a bad. Sex was bad everywhere you went and then you got married. Now you needed to flip the switch to good sex. This has been tough for you and to this day you still have a bad sex view point even with your spouse. This week we are here to help you overcome the thoughts that are holding you back from have good sex if not great sex with your spouse. Listen in to the 3 steps to flipping the switch to good sex in your marriage. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/12/201341 minutes, 24 seconds
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159: SEX ON THE ROLLER COASTER

Hopefully you haven't actually had sex on a roller coaster. That would be very difficult to say the least and a bit dangerous too. No, this roller coaster is the parenting kind. The one that you a part of each and every day of your life if you have little ones to adult children living with you. The stress of raising, disciplining, educating, and being active with your kids can put the breaks on your sexual intimacy. You're unable to let go of the daily activities to be present with your spouse, you continue to replay the argument from 3 days ago, and/or you feel guilty because you missed the soccer game. This week we share how the roller coaster ride of parenting has impacted our marriage and how we are able to still have the sexual intimacy we desire in our marriage. It's doesn't happen with a snap of your finger and yet with consistent baby steps forward you will have the emotional, spiritual, and sexual connection with your spouse. 040 - Screw the Kids This is Our Marriage 140 - Scheduling Sex Total Transformation Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/5/201344 minutes, 46 seconds
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158: SEIZE THE DAY

Stop the Glorification of Busy! It's not uncommon for you to ask someone how their day is going and the response you get is, "I'm really busy". You may even answer the same way when someone asks how your day, week, or month is going. Unfortunately, if you and your spouse are "so busy" that you don't have margin in your life you are missing opportunities when the two of you can seize the day. Yes, you need margin in your lives so that you can experience the emotional, spiritual, and sexual intimacy you desire in your marriage. Don't miss the three tips on how you can find more time in your day so that the two of you can connect. Awesome Time Logger How-to Make a Daily Devotional Part of Your Marriage Fun Board Games You Can Play to Spice Up Your Sex Life Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/26/201342 minutes, 50 seconds
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157: HOW TO DEAL WITH YOUR PARENTS AND YOUR MARRIAGE

Consider yourself warned. Any time that you choose your parents over your spouse you are setting yourself up for heartbreak. Making sure that you have boundaries that will protect you, your spouse, and your marriage are needed. You love your parents, we love our too, and setting boundaries can be tough. Before we were married and after we were married we had to take time with both sets of parents to let them know our marriage came first. What happens is that once you set up these boundaries you are letting your spouse know that they come first.  This week you will learn how you can set up boundaries in your marriage so that you can experience the passion, romance, and intimacy you desire in your marriage. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/19/201340 minutes, 37 seconds
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156: VALENTINE’S DAY IS MORE THAN JUST ONE DAY

It’s the time of year when cupid is abuzz with love in your marriage. The cost of chocolates, roses, and jewelry double or triple and a night on the town will set you back a Benjamin or two. The card isle at Target is filled with pink, red, and purple for you to profess you love with a card in any shape, style and size. As marriage educators we are not head over heels excited about Valentine’s day. It is a day to share your love with your spouse that is for sure. Unfortunately, it’s can be like your wedding day where there is lots of effort put into that one day that there isn't much thought or plans for all of the other days. This week make Valentine's Day a launching point for what your marriage is going to be for the rest of the year. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/12/201338 minutes, 9 seconds
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155: HOW-TO MAKE A DAILY DEVOTIONAL PART OF YOUR MARRIAGE

Your desire to be closer and more  intimate with your spouse. Emotionally, financially, and sexually you are there and yet your spiritual intimacy is lagging behind. Maybe you've even tried a few times (or many times) without success. We get it! We've been spiritually empty in our marriage. One thing though is that when you come together and dive into your spiritual intimacy it will take your marriage to another level. Spending time together in God's word and in prayer allows the two of you to take off your masks, strip down, get naked, and truly bare your souls. You will do this with God your Father and with one another. You can start a daily devotional with your spouse in 4 simple steps. Get it started today so that you will reap the benefits of this most intimate act for years to come. Daily Devotional Top Ten List YouVersion App Bible Gateway Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/5/201343 minutes, 5 seconds
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154: WRITE ME A LETTER, SPEAK TO MY HEART

In this digital age that you live in how often do you write a hand written love letter or get a romantic love letter? There is something to be said about this lost art of letter writing to that connects you to your spouse. The few moments it takes to express your love on paper can last a lifetime. This week we share how you can write a quick romantic love letter to your spouse so that you can express your feelings on paper or in a card. Don't miss the one simple tip to start your letter that will make it easy for you to get started. List of Feelings Secret Message Writing Set President Ronald Reagan wrote many love letters to Nancy Reagan, starting when they first met and continued through their time in the White House and beyond. He wrote this love letter to her on Valentine's Day 1977. “Dear St. Valentine, I’m writing to you about a beautiful young lady who has been in this household for 25 years now—come March 4. I have a request to make of you but before doing so feel you should know more about her. For one thing she has 2 hearts—her own and mine. I’m not complaining. I gave her mine willingingly, and like it right where it is. Her name is Nancy but for some time now I’ve called her Mommie and don’t believe I could change. My request of you is—could you on this day whisper in her ear that someone loves her very much and more and more each day? Also tell her, this “Someone” would run down like a dollar clock without her so she must always stay where she is.” A romantic love letter doesn't have to be long to get your feeling across to your love one. Write that love letter and express your desires to your spouse. How do you feel when you receive a hand written love letter from your spouse? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/29/201340 minutes, 28 seconds
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153: CHEERING FOR THE HOME TEAM

Professional football is coming to a close with only one game left, the Super Bowl. The tryouts, practices, scrimmages, and the start of the season started long ago. The players began preparing themselves as well as the cheerleaders many months ago. It's the players on the field playing for that Super Bowl ring, but the cheerleaders on the sideline play an important roll on the field as well. Today we talk about the cheerleaders in your life and in your marriage. You need a cheerleader and you need to be a cheerleader in your marriage. This week we go over who a cheerleader is and how you can be the best cheerleader in your marriage. We also share how you can be the best cheerleader your spouse has. Make it a point to learn about how you can cheer on your spouse around the house, in the bedroom, in their personal development, and in any other way that they need. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/22/201342 minutes, 9 seconds
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152: RUB-A-DUB THERE’S A COUPLE IN THE TUB

Taking time away and enjoying a sensual shower or bath can do wonders for your marriage. It's a time where you and your spouse are showing everything to one another and yet it brings you closer together. This time in the shower or bath can enhance your emotional, physical, and sexual intimacy in ways other places can't. This week we share 9 reasons why you should be taking a shower/bath with your spouse on a regular basis. Relieves Stress It's Romantic Your Spouse Can Scrub Your Back Have Fun & Let Loose You Feel Sexy It's a Cheap Date There's Steam & Bubbles Water is Sensual Great Place to Communicate One of these or all of these may be why you enjoy taking a shower/bath with your beloved. What is it about showering with your spouse that you enjoy? Thrive90 Fitness Program 8 Skills to Revive Your Communication Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/15/201335 minutes, 56 seconds
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151: SLIPPERY SLOPE

It started out innocently. The conversation was fun, the walks were refreshing, you were losing weight together, and you were connecting. It wasn't that you were physically attracted and yet you became emotionally attached. Without you realizing it you are now in an emotional affair. This week we share a listeners experience with an emotional affair. She goes in depth on how it started, it's progression, and how it came to an end. As the emotional affair ended, but the ripples affected her marriage and her connection with her husband. There are clear steps and choices that lead to an emotional affair. Protect yourself and your marriage from an affair before it even begins. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/8/201343 minutes, 22 seconds
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150: READY, SET, GO!

Whether you are kicking off the New Year or looking to set goals that will impact your marriage you need to get Ready, Set, Go! Making time for the two of you to be on the same page and what you'd like to accomplish is the first step toward an extraordinary marriage. The two of you may want to connect emotionally, spiritually, sexually or this may be the year you tackle your finances together. What ever you choose to do being on the same page and having your goals written down will help you stay the course. If you desire to live, love, and grow you are going to have to take steps to get there. There is no better way to do this then to set actionable SMART goals. No more excuses! It's time to have the marriage filled with romance, passion, and intimacy. 5x5+5 Goal Sheet Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/1/201344 minutes, 1 second
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149: UNWRAPPING EACH OTHER

The excitement of Christmas or vacation can have an impact on when and if you are able to make love. Being somewhere other than your house, kids, relatives, friends, and the like make having sex on these occasions a little tougher. It doesn't mean you can make it happen though. Have you ever wanted to make love on Christmas or steal away for some alone time on vacation? You have the best intentions of finding the time to rendezvous and yet you don't plan to make it happen. Before you know it the time is gone and you're frustrated that you weren't able to have sex. You find yourselves looking at each other thinking, "Why didn't that work out for us?  What could we have done differently?" The key is planning so you can make sex something that happens on a holiday or vacation. The best part if you take the steps you are going to be unwrapping the best present of all-your spouse. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/24/201231 minutes, 1 second
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148: FROM MOURNING TO JOY

The events that unfolded at Sandy Hook Elementary School rocked us as we heard about what happened. We sat in our chairs after we recorded this podcast as tears filled our eyes. How is it that this week we would be talking about grief during the holidays and this tragic event happens? We do not know why, but we serve an awesome God.  Our prayers go to the families and marriages that have been impacted by loss. We look back over eight years as we celebrate the short life of our son Andrew. He never took a breath and yet his life has impacted our marriage in many ways. This week we talk about how time has healed our broken hearts and our broken marriage. In both dark times and joyous times it is amazing how God has worked in us. If you are hurting during the holidays and are trying to cope our prayer is that you'll implement the 5 tips From Mourning to Joy and put them to use in your life today. 5 Tips From Mourning to Joy Save your energy for the most important things. Be a delegator. Let others handle holiday preperations. Find quiet time for you. Scale down holiday activities. Watch you use of alcohol and medications. Pray For Kaia: She Is Such A Gift Mercy Me - The Hurt & The Healer Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/18/201241 minutes, 19 seconds
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147: THEN AND NOW

What was marriage like before we did our 60 Days of Sex Challenge? This was a question we were asked from a listener who is going through a tough time right now. When you are in the depths of those valleys it is sometimes hard to see what's ahead. Your ability to look down the path and see what's ahead is squelched. We know where you are! We've been there before. This week we go back 5+ years to share with you where we were before we started that fateful challenged that changed us and our marriage forever. It wasn't a great time for our marriage and yet when we pivoted and started the 60 Days of Sex Challenge everything changed for us. What pivot point in your marriage has brought you out of the valley to the mountain top? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/11/201240 minutes, 20 seconds
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146: MY MARRIAGE IS GREAT BUT…

Your brain can and does impact your marriage. Those negative thoughts and positive thoughts that play in your mind will determine the outcome of how you react to your spouse. These thoughts play like a broken record and can stop you from taking action to better your marriage. The power of your words come after the but. My Marriage is Great But... When you use a BUT in your sentence you only focus on what comes after the BUT.  This could be a positive or negative statement-unfortunately it's mostly negative. It's time to take control of what comes after the BUT in that sentence. It's time to rewrite your story.   Starting today you are going to make a conscious decision to focus on the positives and rewrite the future.  You will be amazed at what you can accomplish when you set out to change the ending of the story by changing what you say. Train Your Brain Dress Your Best Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/4/201242 minutes, 31 seconds
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145: MAKE TIME FOR A SEXY MARRIAGE

Your year is about to get even crazier. Thanksgiving started the season of busy for you and your spouse and it will not end until after Christmas if you are lucky. This is the time of year when you can feel completely overwhelmed! The obligations of the holidays on top of the busyness of your regular life has you grasping for some quality time with your spouse. Finding time for you and your spouse to connect leads to frustration on both of your parts and snippiness factor rises. Like you we have lots on our plate during this holiday season as well. We have to get creative when we can't get a babysitter or the kids don't want to go to bed in our time frame.  Even though this may happen we make the time for a sexy marriage. The time is now for you to spend 15 minutes a week spending quality time together and on your marriage so that the both of you can start 2013 off on the right foot. Use one or a few of the creative solutions we share in this show to help you find the time this holiday season to create your own sexy marriage. Food Passionista Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/27/201251 minutes, 2 seconds
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144: I’M THANKFUL FOR…

The key to thriving in your marriage each and every year is to take time to share what you are thankful for in your marriage. This is a time when the busyness of every day life is put aside so that you can  honor your spouse. Grab a piece of paper, write down 5-10 reasons why you are thankful for your marriage, and then sit down with your spouse and share. This week we go over our "I'm Thankful For..." list with each other and you. During this time we listen, acknowledge, and respond to what we say to each other. When you dig deeper into your emotional intimacy will pay dividends in your marriage for years to come. I'm Thankful For... is one time during the year when each of you can let loose and pour out all the goodness that has and is happening in your marriage. It's a time to celebrate all that you are thankful for in your life. Go on and get that list going so you can share it with your spouse. Jesus Calling Les Mills Pump How-to Jump Start Your Sex Drive with Libido Boosting Vitamins and Minerals Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/20/201256 minutes, 24 seconds
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143: ARE YOU LIVING A LIE

You're hiding something from your spouse and it is weighing you down. Maybe you have an addiction that your spouse doesn't know about. Perhaps you've spent more money than you shouldn't have and you haven't told them. Has that lunch partner become something more? Living with these burdens can stop you and your spouse from connecting emotionally, physically, spiritually, and sexually. You are constantly looking over your shoulder wondering if someone might let the secret out. You know you need to tell the truth and yet you don't know how to approach your spouse. In this episode we share a number of times in our past when we came forth and told the truth. Telling the truth has brought us closer to each other and one reason why our marriage has exploded over the past 5 years. It's time for you to start living your life without lies or deceit. Living a life of deception will wear you out. Create the extraordinary marriage that you desire by telling the truth. The 50% Divorce Rate Is a Myth (Faith Permeating Life) Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/13/201248 minutes, 31 seconds
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142: BLENDED FAMILIES

It can be tough to bring two families together and blend them into one family. Between exes, kids, alimony, child support, and ex-in laws it can be a real challenge for the two of you to find time to make intimacy a priority in your marriage. It is time to fight for your marriage and your blended family. Communication is the key to making this marriage work. Take off your masks, place all of your baggage on the table and decide that the two of you are committed to making this marriage work. It starts when you get your priorities in order: God, spouse, kids, work and finally other activities. Yours, Mine and Ours Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/6/201249 minutes, 15 seconds
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141: FLIRTING YOUR WAY BACK

You may have come to a point in your marriage where sexual intimacy isn't happening any longer. The thought of you and your spouse having sex brings up anxiety in you. This in turn is stopping the both of you from moving forward and having the sexual intimacy you desire. This week we answer in detail how you can get the sexual intimacy back in your marriage. It's simple and something the two of you have done many times before. The thing is that you may not be giving this as much attention as you should. Start from the beginning of when you first were physically intimate with each other and start kissing with passion. Text the Romance Back (aff link) Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/30/201246 minutes, 56 seconds
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140: SCHEDULING SEX

Sometimes it seems like life is just too busy. You are running around here, there, and everywhere. The thing is that you sense a distance from your spouse and you need to connect. You need to connect emotionally, spiritually, and sexually. It's time to get radical in your marriage and make a change! This week we share all about the Intimacy Lifestyle. That's right, scheduling sex so you can connect in all areas of your marriage. FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/23/201249 minutes, 54 seconds
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139: POSITION IT THIS WAY

Trying different positions while making love is something that we struggled with early on in our marriage. Since we learned little about the birds and the bees it is no wonder we had a difficult time when it came to different positions. Have you experienced a wall when it comes to trying new positions in your bed? We totally get it! In this episode we talk about the fears each of us face when it came to trying something new. Over the years we have experimented more and we've found our go to positions that we enjoy. We share them with you. It's now your turn to get out of your positions box and experience something new and exciting. What hinders you from experiencing a new position? Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/16/201242 minutes, 17 seconds
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138: WIND BENEATH MY WINGS

I sat in a conference room this weekend for Allison Maslan's Blast Off! Business Breakthrough. It started on my anniversary and I will have to say I was excited to be there. This was mine and Tony's way of celebrating. I know it's kinda weird, but heck we aren't normal anyway. Many of the attendees there thought we were a bit weird once they learned about the awesome ONE Community! Over the weekend Tony took the opportunity to put his money where his mouth is and showed me just how much he believes in me. It really lifted my spirits and put the wind beneath my wings. When was the last time that you showed your spouse just how much they mean to you? Our spouses need to hear and see just how important they are to us.  Verbally sharing and showing your spouse how you invest in your marriage will pay dividends. Sam the Cooking Guy 16 Reasons Why I Still Love My Wife After 16 Years of Marriage Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/9/201244 minutes, 24 seconds
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137: LOVE DOES MAKE A DIFFERENCE

Love is active and love impacts the world in very big ways. When you first meet your spouse love was active and running rampant in you. Love was active, making you do things that made an impact. This week we had the opportunity to experience Bob Goff, author of Love Does, share how he does love around the world. Bob is charismatic, animated, and in love with doing to make an impact in this world. Love is something you need to be doing in your marriage as well as your community at large. Love Does! You have been blessed with tremendous gifts and passions and it's time to put all that love into your spouse. Love Does by Bob Goff (Affiliate Link) Sleepless San Diego video Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/2/201244 minutes, 21 seconds
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136: AUTHENTICALLY YOU

Live from the inside out for lasting satisfaction in your life and marriage starts with you being authentic with yourself. This authenticity is the DNA that God has placed inside of you that makes your heart sing when you are YOU! You are an amazing creation that has the ability to be the same person no matter if you are at work, at church, with a group of friends, or in your bedroom with your spouse. Coming to realize who that person is across all of these groups is the tough part. Take time over the next week and take a step back to see how you act in different groups. Ask your spouse to give honest feedback of how you act in different surroundings. Are you being Authentically YOU? What is it about you that makes you Authentically YOU? Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/25/201236 minutes, 39 seconds
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135: THE POWER OF TOUCH

In your marriage the power of touch, non-sexual and sexual, are vitally important to your well being. Did you know that touch can ease your pains, lessen anxiety in your marriage, soften the blows of life that come your way, generate hope and has the power to heal you? Your hand upon your spouse can also slow their heart rate, give them a feeling of relaxation and the spiritual connection is long lasting. When words can't say everything you hope for touching your spouse can speak volumes. In this podcast we'll cover four forms of touch that you can have in your marriage. Connecting Touch Light Touch Companionship Touch Intimate Touch Which of the touches do you do most often in your marriage?  Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/18/201242 minutes, 52 seconds
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134: ROLE REVERSAL

Sexual rejection is tough on the spouse who is initiating sex. In our society the focus has been that of the husband getting rejected when initiating sex. Unfortunately, it's becoming more common for the husband to reject his wife. Long hours at work, gaming late into the night, pornography, emotional affairs, and other distractions are contributing to this behavior. In this show we look at the role reversal of when a wife initiates sex and continuously gets rejected. The impact this has on a marriage can cause insecurities that will effect both of you. Having been through sexual rejection in our marriage there are some questions you need to ask yourself so that you can break free of this cycle. How do I connect with my husband before we walk into the bedroom? Are there underlying issues that need to be addressed? Would an Intimacy Lifestyle benefit our marriage? We believe in both of you and your willingness to serve each other. What makes initiating sex with your husband difficult?  LIVE EVENT Oct. 13, 2012 - He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path 7 Days of Sex Challenge Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/11/201244 minutes, 11 seconds
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133: STATE OF THIS MARRIAGE

This week Tony and Alisa catch you up on all of the exciting developments that are being worked on at ONE Extraordinary Marriage. Over the last year the growth of listeners and readers has been amazing. All of your input via email, voice mail, or commenting on Facebook or Twitter have had us discussing how we can impact you and more marriage now and into the future. We need your help and prayers as we continue on this journey. He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path Live Event - Our 1st live event will be held October 13th, inSan Diego.  Who do you know that needs to work on their communication?  Who can you introduce us to that we might be able to help us promote this event? Live Talk Radio Show - It is our desire to connect with you in a live talk show format, where you can call in and get your questions answered on the air. This will be on internet radio so that no matter where you are you can still listen in. Right now our biggest needs are advertisers to launch the show. New Products - It's time to help you build your marriage toolbox and we are creating the tools to help you do just that.  Through step-by-step exercises we will get you moving toward that extraordinary marriage. Make sure you sign up for the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Newsletter. Right click to download | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/4/201248 minutes, 13 seconds
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132: BEING BRAVE

Facing those skeletons in your closet can be hard. This week Tony shares about getting his girlfriend pregnant in college and then paying for the abortion. This event still impacts him 21 years later. Bringing up the skeletons in you past might not be worth the anguish to you. Fear, anxiety, and judgement stop you from letting go and releasing the skeletons. Instead you are held hostage, afraid to become the spouse you desire. You probably hear those voices telling you that you can't bring up these events to your spouse. The voices tell you that you are not worthy and by sharing you are only going to do damage to your marriage. The reality is that you can do it! You are brave! Jesus is holding out his hand right there next to you. He has come along side you to be there when you go through this time.  He's there with a listening ear, not trying to solve the problem but a source of hope and love. Taking that step out of the boat and onto the crashing waves and toward Jesus can be life-changing.  Your marriage will grow and flourish because you are being your most authentic self. What's keeping you in your boat? He Zigs, She Zags: Get Your Communication on the Same Path (Live Event) Voice of Truth - Casting Crowns Right click to download the MP3 | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question or call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/28/201245 minutes, 14 seconds
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131: BIRDS AND THE BEES

Is sex a stigma in your marriage? Has the past held you back from completely enjoying the amazing bond you could be having with your spouse? Sex ed or learning about the birds and the bees are an integral part of how you view sex in your marriage. Parents or other respected individuals may not have talked to you about sex, told you it was bad, or mentioned very little that didn't help you prepare for sex in marriage. You may have even been called names or had labels put on you because you looked a certain way. The lack of sex education combined with being labeled growing up has left you frustrated. Friends, movies, porn, or experimenting played a big part in how you approach sex in your marriage, but you can't seem to let the past go. This week Tony & Alisa share what they learned or didn't learn about the birds and the bees growing up. They want to help you overcome the past so that you can fully enjoy sex with your spouse. Right click to download the MP3 | Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question or call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/21/201245 minutes, 13 seconds
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130: JESUS IN MY BEDROOM

The lights are dim in your bedroom and in the corner there is a blue chair. Jesus is sitting there. He is omnipresent in your life and right now he is waiting for you to allow Him into your sex life. Unfortunately, the reality is that you are to quick to compartmentalize Him out of your bedroom. You want to control this area as the thought of Him being there is a bit weird. Instead of developing a reliance on God to help flourish your marriage you are trying to control all aspects of it. You cannot do this thing called marriage by yourself.  We challenge you this week to invite Jesus into your marriage, into your bedroom. Jesus is sitting in a blue chair in your bedroom as you make love to your spouse. What’s running through your mind? See what others had to say on Facebook. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/14/201241 minutes, 44 seconds
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129: A NEW NORMAL

Illness, sickness, injuries, and other long term ailments can change the dynamics of your marriage. When this happens you have to adjust to having "A New Normal." In this episode we share how you have to re-learn all of your intimacies in light of changed circumstances. In your marriage that may mean figuring out new ways to be physically intimate, exploring different types of recreational intimacy or a renewed focus on spiritual intimacy. Look at these life changes as opportunities for growth rather than as obstacles blocking your path. What have you and your spouse done to connect during a extended sickness? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/7/201246 minutes, 21 seconds
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128: PLAYING ON THE SAME TEAM

The wedding bells ring, you say your "I do's", and the honeymoon is bliss. You're married, the two of you have become ONE and yet you're not on the same TEAM. Shortly after that blissful day you find yourselves on opposite sides working against each other. You didn't expect this to happen in your marriage, yet it has. In this episode, we introduce you to another way to focus on your TEAM. Looking at each of these will enable you to tackle issues in your marriage with a plan. T - Talk: He said to them, “For whatever is hidden is meant to be disclosed, and whatever is concealed is meant to be brought out into the open. If anyone has ears to hear, let them hear.” Mark 4:22-23 E - Effort: As the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without deeds is dead. James 2:26 A - Attitude: May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had... Romans 15:5 M - Motivation: Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not people... Ephesian 6:7 What will you do to be on the same TEAM with your spouse? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/31/201243 minutes, 30 seconds
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127: ASK AND YOU SHALL RECEIVE

This past week we received an email from a listener asking why her husband won't come right out and ask for sex. There is cuddling, kissing, and yet he won't come out and ask for sex. Join Tony and Alisa as they talk about the fear of rejection, the different love languages in marriage and why it's so important to have conversations about sex before they grow into something larger. The 5 Love Languages (affiliate link via Amazon) Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/24/201243 minutes, 49 seconds
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126: LAUGHTER FOR THE SOUL

As you sit in your living room laughing from the depth of your belly, tears rolling down your face, the world is left behind and all you see is your spouse smiling and laughing too. Both of you enjoying a moment that has pushed aside the emergencies of the day and allowed the two of you to enjoy one another. Laughter is beneficial in many ways. In your marriage laughter allows for you to let loose and have fun. Your endorphines, your body's natural feel good chemicals, are released and you never know where you might go from there. In this weeks show Tony and Alisa talk about how laughter hasn't been a big part of their marriage. They share their struggles with this and what they are doing to get some laughter back into their house. Heaven is for Real (Aff link) Things Not to Say to Your Wife by Tim Hawkins Sinbad Where You Been? (Marriage segment starts at 12:00 mark) Laughter is the Best Medicine What do you and your spouse do that makes both of you laugh? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/17/201241 minutes, 43 seconds
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125: FANTASIZE WITH ME

It's natural to fantasize, but are you fantasizing about your spouse or someone else? Fantasies can be a great way to spice things up in your marriage by changing things up. The opposite side is that they can also tear down the foundations of your marriage. In this episode we share the bad and good of fantasies in our marriage and how you can have mind blowing sex when you approach fantasies the right way. Do you and your spouse have fantasies that you play out in your marriage? 4 E's to Live Your Marriage By - Don't miss the special bonus Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/10/201240 minutes, 16 seconds
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124: JOINT OR SEPARATE CHECKING ACCOUNTS

What kind of checking account do you have? The truth is that finances are always going to be a part of your marriage and how you come to handle money will color many aspects of your married years. Each of us comes into marriage with financial baggage. Learning how to join that financial history together is one challenge that ALL married couples face. For us, the decision to have a joint account was indicative of our decision to be unified in all aspects of our marriage. For other, having separate accounts allows them to have more control over how money is spent. 15 Reasons Why You Should Have a Joint or Separate Checking Account Do you and your spouse have a joint account or choose to have separate accounts? Why? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/3/201244 minutes, 1 second
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123: THE BATTLEFIELD

Men it's time! It's time to show your wife how much you honor and cherish her. In this world where battles are raging against marriage every minute of the day your wife needs to know that the two of you are on the battle field together. She needs to know that there is nothing that you wouldn't do for her. Make a decision that after God she is next on your list of priorities. Do it today! Ephesians 6:10-18 Stripped Down Small Group Podcast Series Are you on the battlefield with your spouse? Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/19/201243 minutes, 58 seconds
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122: SAY ONE THING DO ANOTHER

Many of us don't like confrontation. To avoid a confrontation we'll us different strategies. One of the most damaging is by saying one thing to our spouses with the full intention of doing something else. Instead of being honest with our spouse, we sabotage our marriage with these deceptions. This behavior requires us to expend so much more energy in trying to keep up pretenses then if we had just said the truth in the first place. It's time to draw that line in the sand and decide whether or not you are going to be a person that you can spouse can always count on. Blow Up My Marriage (Affiliate Link) 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of sex.” After reading this book, you’ll be armed with the knowledge on what you need to do to have your own 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Every year our marriages need to be growing and it is important for you to accomplish something that will set it up for a lot of growth. Grab 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/12/201240 minutes, 11 seconds
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121: RESILIENCE

This week's podcast comes from our son and little league baseball. We're sure that many of you can relate to kids and their athletic endevours. Early in the season, his first season playing baseball, things were not going so well. He wanted to quit just like many of us want to do at times in our marriage. We asked his coach to talk to him about the problems he was facing on the ball field. His attitude changed, his playing changed and he was having a blast. Even though his game improved and that of his time they couldn't seem to get a win. In fact they only won 3 games out of 23 this season.  In every game, they continued to show up, continued to play hard and continued to believe that they could win. Why are we grown ups so quick to give up? Why are we so quick to throw in the towel? It's time we took a lesson from the kids and realized that if things aren't going well, if we desire a different outcome then we are going to have put forth some effort, we are going to have to work to overcome the challenges we are facing. Behind every happy couple lies to people... The Cure: What if God isn’t who you think He is and neither are you? 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of sex.” After reading this book, you’ll be armed with the knowledge on what you need to do to have your own 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Every year our marriages need to be growing and it is important for you to accomplish something that will set it up for a lot of growth. Grab 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/5/201240 minutes, 18 seconds
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120: OH THE PLACES YOU’LL GO

Summer is here and it's time to add some adventure into your physical intimacy. This is a lighthearted look at many different places that you can have sex. Get out of your "comfort zone" and have some fun this summer. What places have you or would you like to make love? Share with us below. The Adoption Key Emergency Kit (video) 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of sex.” After reading this book, you’ll be armed with the knowledge on what you need to do to have your own 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Every year our marriages need to be growing and it is important for you to accomplish something that will set it up for a lot of growth. Grab 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/29/201231 minutes, 31 seconds
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119: WHY CAN’T WE HAVE A BABY?

This weeks podcast is about finding your way back to intimacy after struggling for years with infertility. We share ideas that we have learned from friends of ours who have found intimacy in their marriage after years of struggling with infertility. When we started this episode our main goal is to give a voice to all of you who have struggled with infertility. The ONE community needs for you to share how you overcame your struggles with infertility. Speak up in the comments below. I Am Second - Scott Hamilton The Cure: What if God isn't who you think He is and neither are you? 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of sex.” After reading this book, you’ll be armed with the knowledge on what you need to do to have your own 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Every year our marriages need to be growing and it is important for you to accomplish something that will set it up for a lot of growth. Grab 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/22/201249 minutes, 36 seconds
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118: GREAT EXPECTATIONS

Great expectations... All of us have them. The way we want things done, the way we want those in our life to do what we want and yet, it doesn't always turn out the way we want. What do we do then? Sometimes we lash out, sometimes we shut down, but really there has got to be a better way. What would it look like if you changed the way you communicated with your spouse? What would happen if you expressed your expectations? Big Question to Ask:  What is it about our marriage that is important to you? The Cure: What if God isn't who you think He is and neither are you? 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of sex.” After reading this book, you’ll be armed with the knowledge on what you need to do to have your own 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Every year our marriages need to be growing and it is important for you to accomplish something that will set it up for a lot of growth. Grab 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/15/201241 minutes, 35 seconds
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117: WHERE IS GOD IN MY MARRIAGE

Who is at the center of your marriage? Have you thought about that. Really taken the time to sit down with your spouse and discuss who is at the center of your marriage. As we prepare for the 3rd annual 7 Days of Sex Challenge we are looking back at when we fully committed to letting Christ be the center of our marriage. It wasn't that long ago, but once we realized that neither one of us was the center lots of good things began to happen. This year we feel the gentle nudge from God to talk about spiritual intimacy as we enjoy the physical intimacy in our marriage. Commit to joining us for the 7 Days of Sex Challenge and be ready to bring God into your marriage and into your bedroom. 3rd Annual 7 Days of Sex Challenge I Am Second Lifetime 7 Days of Sex Episode 1 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of sex.” After reading this book, you’ll be armed with the knowledge on what you need to do to have your own 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Every year our marriages need to be growing and it is important for you to accomplish something that will set it up for a lot of growth. Grab 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/1/201245 minutes, 14 seconds
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116: MAD, PASSIONATE, LOVE

You have a choice everyday to either have Mad, Passionate, Extraordinary Love or Mediocrity love. No where is it said or written that you have to "settle" for anything in your marriage. Just because you've been married for (insert years married here) years doesn't mean that you can't be crazy in love. Go have Mad, Passionate, Extraordinary Love today! 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition As C.S. Lewis once said, “Sex that is too serious is deprived of the romp and fun that is essential to a healthy enjoyment of sex.” After reading this book, you’ll be armed with the knowledge on what you need to do to have your own 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Every year our marriages need to be growing and  it is important for you to accomplish something that will set it up for a lot of growth. Grab 7 Days of Sex Challenge Book Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/24/201241 minutes, 53 seconds
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115: THE GRASS ISN’T ALWAYS GREENER

Over this last week we have heard from many couples that are struggling with emotional affairs, separation or even divorce. It's been frustrating for us to hear the lines spouses are saying during these times such as: You don't make me happy anymore. I don't think I have ever loved you. This other person is so much more in tuned with me. When one spouse is trying to justify the decisions that they are making it wreaks havoc for the marriage. Stop making excuses, have the conversations that you need to build your marriage and fight for it. 7 Days of Sex Challenge book launch - Friday April 20th, 2012 from 9am-11am PST on Ustream 3rd Annual 7 Days of Sex Challenge - Sunday May 6th - Saturday May 12th, 2012 Winning the Clutter War Intimacy & Desire Stephen Fishwick (painter) **NEW** Stripped Down Kindle Version Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Kindle Edition today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/17/20121 hour, 1 minute, 25 seconds
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114: THE SIMPLE LIFE

Our house saga is finally coming to a close as we wrap up the short sale. Over the last 4 months we've had the opportunity to really think about those things that serve as a distraction to our marriage. Are you so wrapped up in work or with your friends that you forget to spend time with your spouse? Do the financial burdens cause worry and stress?  Are you holding back emotionally out of fear? It's time to simplify your life, to take stock of where you are and decide to make changes and grow. Winning the Clutter War **NEW** Stripped Down Kindle Version Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/10/201243 minutes, 46 seconds
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113: WANDERING EYES

We've all done it, somebody walks across your path and you look. Then maybe you take another one or two looks. Unfortunately, most of the time our spouse catches us looking. This leads to feelings of inadequacy and insecurity in our marriage. We've been there! So what do you do? It's time to have those conversations about what you are feeling and begin the process of healing. The biggest gift you can give your spouse is the gift of making them #1 in your life. Smart Passive Income on Stitcher Radio **NEW** Stripped Down Kindle Edition Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/3/201242 minutes, 32 seconds
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112: FLAMES BURING BRIGHT

Love is an overused word in our society. We love ice cream and we love our spouses, but how did God really desire for us to love our spouses? There are three different types of love used in the bible: raya, ahava and dod. When we think of these as flames burning in our marriages we realize that we need to have all 3 burning bright to have that extraordinary marriage.  Where are the flames burning bright in your relationship. Flame Intimacy & Desire ONE Show on Stitcher Radio **NEW** Stripped Down Kindle Version Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Kindle Version today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/27/201242 minutes, 54 seconds
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111: HIGH DESIRE, LOW DESIRE, WHAT ARE YOU

One of you wants sex all the time, one of you not so much-what's wrong with this picture? Nothing! You are just like the rest of us, dealing with differing levels of desire within your marriage. What's a couple to do? Spend some time today learning about high desire and low desire and it's impact on your marriage. Be aware that all couples face this and it impacts more than just what happens in the bedroom. There's nothing wrong with differing levels of desire, what can make or break your marriage is how you deal with this. Once you acknowledge the reality of differing desire you can learn to accept your spouse for who they are and create the marriage that you want with this information. Intimacy & Desire Not a Fan Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/20/201251 minutes, 40 seconds
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110: TRUST

It hurts when someone violates our trust, especially when that someone is the person that we are married to. Building trust is not easy and it's not automatic either. Building trust requires both a husband and a wife to be willing to draw the line in the sand, the line that says, "I chose this person and I am going to make my marriage work". When both of you decide to give 100% into your marriage, hurts can be healed and relationships can be repaired. Are you willing to rebuild the trust in your marriage? Bo's Cafe Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/6/201243 minutes, 26 seconds
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109: HONORING THE VOW

What do your vows mean to you? In our society when everything seems disposable The Vow made us stop and wonder how would we handle a catastrophic incident in our marriage. Do the words "as long as life shall last" really mean that? And what about how God feels about us, there are powerful parallels between God's love for us and Leo's love for Paige. Tony & Alisa's renewing their vows on their 15th Wedding Anniversary  The Vow Movie Trailer Simple Natural Health Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/28/201240 minutes, 3 seconds
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108: CAN YOU FOCUS NOW

When was the last time you sat with your spouse with nothing on. No TV, computer, phones, iPad or other electronics? In today's show Tony & Alisa discuss how turning all the electronics off is helping them to focus in on each other more. Their tips and ideas are to help you and your spouse connect on a deeper level while you engage in emotional intimacy. The problem is that when there are to many distractions around us we aren't focusing in on our spouse. This can lead to misunderstandings, confrontations, and a lack of "connection". It's time you turn everything off. Not a Fan Blow Up My Marriage Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/21/201247 minutes, 7 seconds
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107: SPICE UP THE BEDROOM

Happy Valentine’s Day! So often our sexual intimacy follows the same old patterns until it becomes a habit instead of an experience. This Valentine’s Day message will help spice things up in your bedroom. It can be as easy as turning the lights on, opening your eyes, or finding a new location. The two of you could even incorporate games or foods. The sky’s the limit for you and your spouse when you open up and challenge each other! Start talking and praying about your sex life and see the changes that can happen! Intentional Moments Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/14/201246 minutes, 1 second
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106: IMPACTING MARRIAGES

The ONE Extraordinary Marriage Conference was held in Okemos, MI. Tony and Alisa had a phenomenal time sharing their story and the importance of sexual intimacy in marriage. From singles to couples married 50+ years, there was something for everyone who wanted to make their marriage extraordinary. Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/7/201246 minutes, 44 seconds
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105: BOOM BOOM

A listener wrote in describing a week of sexual frustration. She shares that while she and her husband both verbalized their desire for sexual intimacy, it didn't happen for various reasons. So what do you do when you have a week or weeks when the connection isn't there? Tony &  Alisa have cycled through this same thing many times over the years. They share what you can do to make intimacy a priority each and every week. ONE Extraordinary Marriage Conference Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/31/201247 minutes, 17 seconds
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104: RIGHT NOW

The future is not promised to you so what are you doing right now to make a difference in your marriage? You need to live in the present with your spouses, loving on them and sharing your life with them. You cannot live so focused on the future that you stop living today. Make the time RIGHT NOW to build up your marriage. Text the Romance Back Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/25/201242 minutes, 24 seconds
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103: HOME IS WHERE THE HEART IS

Life throws us curve balls at times. Tony & Alisa are no exception. Based on circumstances Tony & Alisa are facing the start of 2012 with the realization that they need to short sale their home. In this episode they talk about the impact it is having on their marriage and their family. Through this they are relying on connecting in their financial, emotional, and physical intimacy. How do you work through hardships in your marriage? ONE Extraordinary Marriage Conference in Okemos, MI on Feb 3-4, 2012 Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/17/201243 minutes, 16 seconds
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102: WILL YOU GO OUT WITH ME

Do you long to spend time with your spouse on a date night? Many of you have shared with us that the one thing you want to do this year is to have date nights. This week Tony & Alisa share 3 ways you can make sure that date nights or date days happen in your marriage while having a lot of fun. 300 Creative Dates Josh Turner - Would You Go With Me (Intro music) Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/10/201244 minutes, 55 seconds
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101: OFF AND RUNNING

It's the start of a new year and now is the best time to take a good look at your marriage. Sit down with your spouse and examine all 6 forms of intimacy, evaluate where you are and where you want to go in 2012. Episode 101 Off and Running is a time of  reflection for us. We share where we have been over the last year, changes that have happened and a sneak peak of what we have planned for 2012. What intimacy or intimacies are you going to dive into this year? Family First Fitness Challenge Jesus Calling Not a Fan Bo's Cafe Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/3/201246 minutes, 9 seconds
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100: CELEBRATE GOOD TIMES

The ONE Extraordinary Marriage Podcast presents the 100th episode! This week Tony & Alisa share your stories. Your marriages have been impacted by the podcast, 7 Days of Sex Challenges, and other resources over the years that it was time to share your marriages. Thank you to all of you for your continues support. We look forward to many more shows. Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/20/20111 hour, 10 minutes, 28 seconds
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099: DO YOU REALLY HAVE THE TIME

In light of watching He's Just Not That Into You and recent conversations with friends going through divorce we find ourselves asking the question... Do you really have the time to invest in another relationship? Whether it's another person, work, volunteering or addiction there are so many places we can find ourselves investing our time when we should be investing in our marriage. Take a minute and think about where you are spending your time...do you really have the time? BarlowGirl - I Need You to Love Me Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/13/201140 minutes, 30 seconds
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098: COMING HOME

It's that time of year when we can get very wrapped up in all the "goings-on" and lose track of who we are. Now is the time to take stock of your marriage and make the changes necessary to make sure that you are coming home. Shop Amazon & support ONE Ready-to-go-Dates Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/6/201142 minutes, 45 seconds
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097: DO YOU HAVE A PLAN THIS CHRISTMAS

Christmas is right around the corner and this is a challenging time for couples in terms or finances. Last year, Alisa overspent shopping for everyone in the family. We are changing things up this year. In this episode we discuss working on your financial intimacy before you spend your money on gifts.  Give yourself the greatest gift this Christmas season, the gift of peace. Amazon.com 10-Life Changing Online Christmas Gifts for Married Couples Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/29/201140 minutes, 15 seconds
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096: THANKFUL

We've all had those weeks where absolutely nothing seems to go right, when it seems as if Murphy's Law is the only law in your house. That was our week and in the midst of all of that God's blessings continue to tumble forth. This week as you celebrate Thanksgiving take the time to let your spouse know what you are thankful for. Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/22/201139 minutes, 15 seconds
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095: ARE THOSE REAL?

In this episode we tackle another one of those taboo topics...plastic surgery. Two years ago Alisa had breast augmentation. So why share now? Because once again being transparent about this topic has given women the courage to talk about their own desires, to bring this out into the open. It was a long road from thinking about surgery to actually going through with it and the road definitely had a lot of curves in it. Part of what holds us back from sharing is our fear of being judged, once you've reconciled your decisions, you can live knowing that judgement is about the other person. Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/8/201144 minutes, 1 second
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094: GIVE ME EVERYTHING

"I want you tonight. C'mon, Let's do it tonight." These were words that would flow out of our mouths in those early years of our courtship. We couldn't get enough of each other then, but as the years have added on things change. The passion that we had for each night we were together isn't there as much, we take each other for granted at times, and overall we pretty much know we are going to be around. What if tomorrow doesn't come?  In this weeks show Tony and Alisa discuss the hardships that have rocked friends and family and the question those involved always asked. You need to listen to get the full scope. What are you going to do tonight? Give Me Everything by Pitbull & Ne-Yo The Daddy Difference Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/1/201145 minutes, 3 seconds
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093: NOW YOU’RE TELLING ME

Talking to our spouse about certain topics isn’t always easy but it can have such a positive impact on our marriage in terms of increasing our emotional intimacy. The events of our pasts color our future and by sharing with our spouses we can change the course of our history. In this episode Tony & Alisa share their years of experience when it comes to oral sex. They share from the early years of their marriage up to last week when they had some of the best oral sex in their 15 years of marriage. Taking Charge of Your Fertility Couple to Couple League - Natural Family Planning Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/25/201153 minutes, 46 seconds
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092: YOU’RE STILL THE ONE

There is a lot to be said for celebrating 15 years of marriage. First you lasted 15 years with your spouse, that's big, second you've had your ups and downs along the way, & third it's time to celebrate! In this weeks show Tony & Alisa share their renewal, getaway trip, and the fun they had all along the way. Don't miss the quick tips about how to make your next anniversary trip or any trip one that. Confessions of a Family-First Fitness Coach (Fit Marriage) The Jadedvisalian - Walk and Talk Shirley Valentine Stripped Down Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Audio Book today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/18/201145 minutes
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091: BACK WHEN THE WORLD MADE SENSE

As Tony & Alisa get ever closer to their 15th wedding anniversary, happening on Wednesday October 5th, the movie Shrek 4 made them think back to those days before life got crazy. What they discuss in this show is that even though life has become more complex, would you give it all back? It's a question many of us ask ourselves at some point in time in our married lives. Listen and make sure to leave your thoughts and comments below. Big thank you goes out to Evette and Mary for their contribution to ONE Extraordinary Marriage. We are so thankful for your support. If you would like to contribute to ONE Extraordinary Marriage pick your monthly contribution to the right and click "subscribe". PayPal will take it from there. Internet Business Mastery Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/4/201140 minutes, 25 seconds
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090: DO I LET YOU REALLY SEE ME?

In today's social internet world we live in everyone is looking for individuals that are transparent. Listeners, viewers, readers all want to know that they are like those that they are following. That's great, but are you transparent in your marriage with your spouse? This week Tony & Alisa share how you can become transparent with your spouse. It's vital for your marriage so that you can experience the love you desire. Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/27/201144 minutes, 18 seconds
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089: WHEN DARKNESS FALLS

There comes a time in all of our marriages when things just aren't going the way we think it should. Over the past couple of months Tony & Alisa have realized that the darkness has slowly fallen upon them and their marriage. In this episode both Tony & Alisa share why this occurred in their marriage and how YOU can make it through a dark time in your marriage. The Dip by Seth Godin (Not an affiliate since Amazon pulled out of California.) Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/13/201141 minutes, 8 seconds
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088: A FORK IN THE ROAD

There will come a time in all of our marriages when we will come upon a fork in the road. It's at this fork that our faith, our love, our marriages will be put to the test. Tony and Alisa have come upon one in their marriage. In this episode they talk about that fork as they stand in front of it deciding which path to take. What do you do when you come up to a fork in the road? Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/6/201132 minutes, 35 seconds
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087: WHEN DISASTER STRIKES

What happens when we don't have a topic to start the podcast? An emotional tidal wave of issues that have been building up over the week. In this weeks show we discussed a plethora of topics: 2 Family arguments Learning that Alisa isn't happy with our devotional time Tony being rejected in the bedroom Finding time during the week to talk Planning date night Feeling distant from God And much more. Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/30/201140 minutes, 12 seconds
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086: THE BEAUTIFUL BED

My bed is spread with beautiful blankets, with colored sheets of Egyptian linen. I've perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon. —Proverbs 7:16-17 It seemed a little question...What size bed did you start with and what size bed do you have now? Wow! We heard from so many of you and the answers were just as diverse. On today's show we reflect on our own journey from twin to king and how it often mirrored what was going on in our marriage. What does your bed say about your relationship? Is it a place to connect after a long day, a sanctuary from the hustle and bustle of life, or is it a place where you plop down and forget about everything around you? Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/23/201140 minutes, 57 seconds
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085: LIVING, LOVING & LEARNING

Back from vacation and we are ready to start a new school year. This time of year is a great time to reflect as a couple on what you have done over the past year as well as a great time to look forward to where you are heading. In this weeks show we take the time to evaluate some friendships that have become very dear to us. Alisa shares a book review, The Garter Brides. As our 15th wedding anniversary approaches we discuss why renewing our vows is important to us. Lots of planning and we need to get on it! Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/16/201140 minutes, 47 seconds
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084: AT WIT’S END

It had been a rough day. Tony lost his temper, grabbed Alex's arm and scared Abby. And on top of that we got into it ourselves. What do you when it seems like the world is crashing down around you? We made the decision to have a "conference" with our kids and talk through this with them and then with each other. It stinks when things feel out of control but you have a choice as to how you will resolve the situation. What do you do, work through it or push it under the rug? Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/2/201141 minutes, 24 seconds
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083: SOMETHING’S BUGGING ME

Are stressful situations good for your marriage? This week Tony and Alisa were hit with an unexpected case of lice (times 3). Tony and Alisa had to make decisions on how they were going to treat each other and how they were going to serve one another. There wasn't much time to think, but the decisions they made had an impact on their marriage. It turns out that having lice this week was really good for our marriage. Next time you are facing a stressful situation stop and think before reacting. Doing this will be the best way for you to serve your spouse during this time of difficulty. Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/26/201141 minutes, 28 seconds
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082: ART OF MANLINESS

Husbands, it's time to stand up! Take a hard look at yourself in the mirror. Are you taking a stand in your marriage and becoming the man your wife desires? Or are you pulling the "I don't like it card"? It's time that you start taking the lead on date nights, helping around the house, and being the spiritual leader. It's time to become a man. In this episode we rant and rave, but Tony & Alisa do it in love. You want the sexual intimacy in your marriage like you did when you first got married well take a listen to what you can do to make that happen. The Art of Manliness Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/19/201148 minutes, 16 seconds
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081: I WANNA LEAVE A LEGACY

One of these days we are no longer going to walk this earth. We'll be in heaven with our Father enjoying the good life. Those left behind though will live on with the teachings we showed them. It is while we are here on earth that we can leave a legacy, a marriage legacy that is. It's not about you leaving a legacy, but the legacy you and your spouse leave together. Sharing the good times, tough times, and the fun times about your marriage to your kids. Teaching the six forms of intimacy at certain times as they grow will help them to have a marriage that will be extraordinary. Mary James Intentional Moments Fundraiser Nicole Nordeman - Legacy Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/12/201147 minutes, 3 seconds
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080: IT’S NOT JUST ABOUT THE SEX

Is it just about sex? Is a question we get asked often. Is that the secret to our extraordinary marriage? You just have a lot of sex and then the marriage gets better? NO! It's not just about SEX. It's about growing in all 6 forms of intimacies in your marriage. It's realizing when you are off track and investing the time and energy in getting back on track. Yes, sex does matter in a marriage but it's not the most important thing...all forms of intimacy are. So, take some time this week and focus on the intimacy in your marriage. Make sure that you are both giving instead of having a give and take, you'll be amazed! 77 Questions to Get the Conversation Started The Go-Giver Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/5/201148 minutes, 6 seconds
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079: TAKING STOCK

Marriages ebb and flow over days, months, and years. This week Tony & Alisa discuss what to do when taking the lead is not happening during their Intimacy Lifestyle. It was time to bring this up and work through the why's this is happening. It's time to sit down with your spouse and take stock of where you are in your marriage. Stripped Down Podcast Small Group Intentional Moments Fundraiser Take the Challenge Stripped Down Book, eBook, or Audio Book Remember back to your wedding day. We’re not talking about just the ceremony and reception. We want you to remember how you felt. Your marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that. And then…reality set in. You think you can deal with it, and maybe you can – for a while. You still love your spouse, but it’s just not the same. Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! Grab Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage today! Leave a review on iTunes | Submit a question | Call (858)876-5663 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/28/201150 minutes, 41 seconds
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078 – What Did You Say?

In marriage there come times when our words wound the one we love the most. Many times we don’t realize the lasting effects these words have on our spouse, but in many cases they do. Days, months, and even years later the messages are being played over and over like a broken record. It’s difficult [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/21/201147 minutes
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077 – Check Engine

Are you paying attention to the warning signs in your marriage? This past weekend we attended the Church at Rancho Bernardo’s annual marriage retreat. This is the third year that we’ve attended and each year we learn something new about our marriage. One of the first questions that was asked of the group was: What [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/14/201149 minutes, 44 seconds
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076 – As Long as Life Shall Last

Nobody likes to talk about death and the impact it can have on our marriage. The reality is that we are all going to die one day. The question to ask yourselves since this will inevitable happen is, Are your affairs in order both spiritually and personally? In this episode we talk through the death [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/7/201148 minutes, 56 seconds
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075 – I’m Finished…I Want Out

It’s been a week where it feels like all we have heard about are marriages in trouble, conversations with friends who are making life-changing decisions, emails from listeners about to call it quits.  Separation and divorce have been something we’ve been hearing a lot about lately. While this is not a topic that is easy to talk [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/31/201147 minutes, 37 seconds
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074 – Don’t Stop

There are times in our marriages when we just don’t have the energy or stamina to go on. Between family obligations, kids, work, outside actives, and the like we have nothing left. It’s during these times that we need continue on with God as our guide. Two emails came in this week that prompted us [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/24/201146 minutes, 50 seconds
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073 – We Did It!

Over the years there have been times in our marriage when we completed a task or challenge and looked each other in the eyes and knew we did something special. This past week was one of those times. The thing is that you can have a We Did IT! moment and it doesn’t have to [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/17/201145 minutes, 59 seconds
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072 – Dollars and Sense

Have you ever been stressed by your finances? Stupid question, right?  In this episode Tony and Alisa talk about how having financial intimacy can bring peace to your marriage. Date night doesn’t have to cause tension.  You can go out, spend money and have fun…if you have a plan!   The reality is that financial peace or [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/10/201148 minutes, 36 seconds
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071 – When the Crap Hits the Fan

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if nothing bad ever happened in our marriages? No arguments, no infidelity, no pain, no money issues, & all the other things that come with living with someone.  Unfortunately, that isn’t the way marriage usually goes. In this podcast Tony & Alisa share a Crap Hits the Fan moment that has [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/3/201146 minutes, 26 seconds
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070 – Let The Good Times Roll

There is so much happening in our marriages that we need to enjoy those periods of time when all is going smooth.  Being content in our marriage is a great place to be and one we should enjoy.  We walk a little different, we have a smile on our face, and let’s face it the [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/26/201145 minutes
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069 – Are You Aware

Have you ever stopped to think about all the different ways that God shows up in your life Whether it’s a phone call from a friend saying, “I’m thinking about you” or an offer of a ride when you need to get somewhere, God is ever present in our lives. This week an email from [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/19/201146 minutes, 18 seconds
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068 – A Little Bit of Paradise

We’re back and it was a wonderful week in paradise.  Warm weather was very welcome as it gave us the opportunity to spend lots of relaxing moments on the beach doing a whole lot of nothing! We did unplug as promised and found that you can spend a week without facebook and twitter and survive [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/12/201150 minutes, 9 seconds
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067 – A Big Decision

We couldn’t go on vacation and not have a podcast ready for you.  So, we recorded this earlier in the week than usual to get it out. Tony scheduled the release date and time so that you could listen to this while we are on the beach in beautiful Puerto Rico! Here’s the thing though… [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/5/201131 minutes, 28 seconds
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066 – Did Not Finish

In life and in our marriage we aren’t able to accomplish everything, we sometimes fail.  This leaves us feeling down because we aren’t able to live up to our expectations or the perceived expectations of others. Do you start to engage in negative self talk that has the potential to destroy the relationships around you? It’s [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/29/201146 minutes, 3 seconds
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065 – What’s in Your Suitcase?

We come into our marriages with baggage from all of previous experiences both good and bad.  Our suitcase colors how we interact in our marital relationship and how we handle life. It’s time to start unpacking your suitcase so that you can be transparent with your spouse! By doing so you can move into that [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/22/201151 minutes, 29 seconds
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064 – O Yes, That’s the Spot!

In this episode of ONE Extraordinary Marriage Podcast Tony & Alisa dig deep into orgasming so that you can have one.  Alisa shares her experience of not having orgasm early in her marriage and faking orgasms to finish the deed.  Through communicating her desires to have one, self exploration with Tony, and showing Tony what [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/15/201147 minutes, 12 seconds
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063 – What’s For Dinner

Over the last 14 years of marriage we’ve spent a lot of time around food.  Something that has peaked our interest in the last couple of months is how food impacts intimacy in our marriage? We’ve gone from eating bean burritos, bad frozen pizza, fish sticks, and eating out often to having a home cooked [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/8/201149 minutes, 47 seconds
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062 – In Sickness & Health

When we take our vows we don’t necessarily think about the bad stuff that might happen, especially sickness.  The thing is that eventually you or your spouse will become sick. How do you handle life when sickness does happen? This week we were hit from a few different sides.  Both of our dads had some [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/1/201150 minutes, 10 seconds
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061 – There’s A White Elephant In The Room

Sometimes people don’t want to talk about what’s right under their noses in their marriages and so of course that makes it the right topic for us to talk about here.  We talked about pornography before from a personal standpoint, in this episode we branch out a bit and talk about the impact it is [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/22/20111 hour, 5 minutes, 51 seconds
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060 – Broken Hearts

Emotional distance can seem impossible  to overcome, we’ve stopped talking or if we are talking it just about the surface stuff.  It just seems easier to avoid the conversations than to face the challenges that come with him.   It’s time to mend those broken hearts, to have the courage to talk about those things that [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/15/20111 hour, 1 minute, 45 seconds
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059 – Excuse Me!

Last week’s episode really struck a chord with many of you and it wasn’t so much the topic as it was the behavior exhibited in the first 10 minutes of the podcast. Interrupting your spouse shows a lack of consideration and respect. This week we dig deep into this topic in our own marriage, thanks to [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/8/20111 hour, 2 minutes, 22 seconds
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058 – Are You Looking to Score? Shoot For the Goal!

We’ve heard that life is like a “box of chocolates” but after watching kids play soccer tonight I think I might have to change it to marriage is like a soccer game.   It’s interesting to see how much of what we learn and experience as children really does play out later in life. Watching kids [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/1/20111 hour, 4 minutes, 6 seconds
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057 – Coming Home Again

Sometimes we forget where we come from, why we married our spouse.  We allow the distractions of the world: other people, our finances, our jobs-to chip away at the foundation of this specific relationship.  As I (Alisa) travelled this past week I found myself having multiple conversations about marriage and relationships that reminded me that [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/25/20111 hour, 4 minutes, 30 seconds
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056 – The Strain of Change

Over the years we have attended large churches and very small churches and it’s never been an easy decision to change churches. Sometimes, though, it’s been necessary for the welfare of our marriage.  Listen in as we talk about the ups and downs of changing churches, how church attendance (or lack thereof) impacted our marriage [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/18/20111 hour, 4 minutes, 55 seconds
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055 – Happy Anniversary

Sponsored by: This episode marks one year of the ONE Extraordinary Marriage podcast.  It’s hard to imagine how far we have come in the last year, growing deeper in our marriage and helping you to grow deeper in yours. Listen in to emails and voicemails from listeners sharing their thoughts on how ONE has made [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/11/20111 hour, 2 minutes, 25 seconds
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054 – Hear Us Roar!

Welcome to 2011!  It’s the start of a new year and with it comes some big conversations dealing with financial and sexual intimacy.  Alisa reveals some financial dirty laundry and the ramifications, both good and bad, that come with that news.  Tony wants more vocalization during lovemaking, but Alisa’s not comfortable with that.  We’re digging [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/4/201156 minutes, 26 seconds
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053 – Great Expectations

This is the last podcast of 2010 and 2011 is right around the corner.  A new year brings new hopes and new expectations.  What are your expectations for this new year for yourself and for your marriage? Have you shared them with your spouse?  Make the time this week to sit down and write out [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/28/20101 hour, 10 seconds
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052 – The Christmas Story

Have you ever stopped to think about the couple behind the Christmas story?  Mary and Joseph faced incredible challenges in their young relationship, but they had God the Father and God the Son at the center of their marriage.  With this they were able to make their marriage work. As Christmas approaches remember that you [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/21/201059 minutes, 23 seconds
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051 – True Friendship

Lessons I learned from watching my kids (Alisa)…This weekend as I watched my son make decisions about his birthday cake based on the fact that one of his best friends was coming.  He sacrificed what he may have wanted for what a friend would prefer.  Funny thing was, he didn’t consider it sacrifice.  Are you [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/14/20101 hour, 2 minutes, 16 seconds
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050 – Shhh! I’ve Got a Secret

We had two “We Did IT!” this week! And an awesome number of listener emails that we talk through as they deal with family boundaries, make up sex, and your encouraging words. Secrets can destroy your marriage.  This week Tony & Alisa share how to talk about these secrets and how they have been able [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
12/7/20101 hour, 2 minutes, 25 seconds
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049 – Tis the Season to Have SEX!

Are you taking the steps necessary to maintain the intimacy in your marriage during this crazy time of year?  This is a time when we can find ourselves so busy with all that “needs to be done” that we neglect the relationships that matter the most.  One way to improve the intimacy in your marriage [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/30/201059 minutes, 16 seconds
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048 – Count Your Blessings

Thanksgiving is just a few days away and this is a fantastic time to reflect back on all of your blessings both large and small.  Sometimes in the midst of everyday life we lose sight of how much we have received. We challenge you during the next month to take the time to write down [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/23/201059 minutes, 9 seconds
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047 – Getting On the Same Page

We are almost to 2011 and it’s a great time to be thinking about your goals for next year.  So often we focus on our individual goals but it’s time to sit down and work through the goals the two of you have for your marriage.  Listen in as we talk through the Lukas Coaching [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/16/20101 hour, 1 minute, 25 seconds
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046 – Are You Keeping Score?

So often in our marriages we are playing this invisible game where we keep track of everything our spouse does, comparing it to what we are doing to see who is the winner and who is the loser.  You are in a marriage NOT a game.  There cannot be a winner and a loser if [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/9/201056 minutes, 4 seconds
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045 – Can You Face the Music?

So often in our marriages we fail to take responsibility for our actions.  Have you ever not apologized?  Just swept the issue “under the rug”?  Waited for everything to blow over?  STOP IT! It’s does not matter if you get the words right, what matters is that you say them.  Start taking responsibility for your [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
11/2/201058 minutes, 14 seconds
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044 – On the Road Again

Can the two of you maintain your intimacy while one is away and the other is at home?  You both want to make sure that intimacy stays a priority in your marriage, but how do you make that happen when there is so much to do! Grab your drink of choice, sit back, and enjoy [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/26/201054 minutes, 54 seconds
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043 – I Don’t Want the World, I Want YOU!

Have you stopped to think about what your spouse and family really want from you? Do you know that most of them would be willing to have less “stuff” if it meant more of you?  Part of making your marriage extraordinary is investing in the relationships that matter most.  This week we challenge you to really [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/19/20101 hour, 43 seconds
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042 – Do I Really Want to Make a Change?

Are you just talking about change or are you ready to step up to the plate and make things happen in your marriage? It’s time to stop trying and start doing! Whether it’s getting in shape or trying a new position make things happen today.  It’s easy to talk about what you are going to [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/12/201056 minutes, 54 seconds
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041 – Is Your Marriage an Adventure or a Burden?

Have you taken the time to think about how you view your marriage? Every relationship has highs and lows but the difference is all in your mindset. Do you choose to look at the future wondering what is around the corner or do you dread every day. This journey called marriage should be the most exciting adventure…what are [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
10/5/201059 minutes, 29 seconds
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040 – Screw the Kids…This is Our Marriage

Are you focusing more on your kids than on your spouse?  It’s time to teach yourselves and the kids that they are not the center of the universe. It is so easy to get wrapped up in what the kids need that we lose sight of what our marriage needs and our spouse needs. When [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/28/20101 hour, 1 minute, 35 seconds
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039 – Heaven Help Us!

Week 6 –  Stripped Down 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Small Group Podcast This week we wrap up our small group podcast on Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage. Over the past 6 weeks we dove into the other 11 Keys and this week is no different.  So, [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/21/20101 hour, 3 minutes, 11 seconds
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038 – Is Your Bedroom a Sanctuary?

Week 5 –  Stripped Down 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Small Group Podcast It’s time to take some action this week, starting with your bedroom.  Your bedroom needs to be a sanctuary, a place where the two of you can get away from it all.  Clean out the clutter, the electronics and [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/14/201057 minutes, 10 seconds
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037 – Looking Good and Feeling Good

Week 4 –  Stripped Down 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Small Group Podcast Have you thought about how being physically active impacts your marriage? Yes, you know the kind that makes your heart rate beat fast in your chest while the sweat pours off your brow. We’re talking physical activity not sex. [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
9/7/20101 hour, 4 minutes, 12 seconds
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036 – What If?

What if we had never done the 60 Days of Sex Challenge? Where would our own marriage be today? Where would the ONE Community be? We talk through the last two years and challenge you to stop asking the “what if” question and start doing something today to make your marriage what you want it to [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/31/201058 minutes, 26 seconds
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035 – Pencil Me In

This episode is sponsored by Blow Up My Marriage! Week 3 –  Stripped Down 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Small Group Podcast Challenge yourself this week to show your spouse just how much they matter by getting them on your calendar. Whether it’s taking a hike together, reading a devotional, or making love [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/24/201059 minutes, 17 seconds
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034 – Can We Talk?

Week 2 –  Stripped Down 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage Small Group Podcast Communication is vital to any marriage and it’s importance cannot be overstated. You need to work past the surface conversation and learn about what is really going on with them. Money matters builds on this as financial intimacy can [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/17/201054 minutes, 36 seconds
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033 – From the Top Down & More…

This is the first of our small group podcast on Stripped Down:  13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Marriage.  Each week we will be coving the different Keys that you can use in your marriage today, tomorrow, and into the future to build passion, romance, & intimacy. Join us as we talk about… Chapter 1 [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/10/201055 minutes, 35 seconds
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032 – Home Sweet Home

We spent last week in Morro Bay on our family vacation.  We had a lot of fun together and a few not so fun times.  Just goes to show that we are still a work in progress and that this thing called marriage takes on-going effort.  Come join us as we recount those ups and [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
8/3/201058 minutes, 39 seconds
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031 – Queen Size Bed

This week we are not in the studio aka the garage, but instead podcasting from a rock overlooking Morro Bay. We used our digital recorder and Tony’s portion is a bit crackly. Sorry about this and we’ll make sure to have this corrected the next time. Luckily this one is only 15 minutes. Enjoy! It’s [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/27/201016 minutes, 16 seconds
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030 – Sex In The Bedroom

Are you able to share your sexual passions and desires to your spouse? What’s keeping you from having meaningful conversation about this area of your life? There are so many distractions pulling us in so many directions that we forget that God has given us this beautiful thing called SEX. It’s time to sit down [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/20/201058 minutes, 32 seconds
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029 – But Nothing

Do you put a period or a comma after “I’m sorry”?  If you are putting a comma, then think about this. When you qualify your apology you minimize the apology and put the blame for your actions/reactions on the other person. What impact does this have on your marriage or your other relationships? It tears them down [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/13/201053 minutes, 20 seconds
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028 – Life Insurance, Is It Worth It?

It’s a tough conversation to have but one that is so worth it…what happens if one of us dies? Are we adequately prepared in terms of life insurance? After seeing a family member deal with the unexpected loss of her husband 4 years ago we both increased our policies to the point that if something [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
7/6/201059 minutes, 25 seconds
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027 – The Whole Enchilada

Are you loving your spouse with your whole self, serving them in all areas or are you just giving them a part of yourself? Intimacy involves more than just the physical intimacy we think of most the time. There is emotional, intellectual, recreational, financial, and spiritual as well. Stop focusing on just your physical intimacy [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/29/201052 minutes, 19 seconds
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026 – It’s Summertime

How do you make intimacy a priority when schedules are all over the place? With kids out of school, vacations, late nights and other unpredictability what are you doing to make your spouse #1? How are you being creative this summer? We are finding ways to connect…text messages, voicemails, love notes. It’s all about creating [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/22/201050 minutes, 19 seconds
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025 – Getting Away

It’s time to get away with your spouse and reconnect. Getting away gives you the opportunity to have those deep conversations, to sleep late and explore new places with your one and only.Getting away allows you to refocus your priorities and make your spouse #1. Where will you be going next? Leave a review on [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/15/201053 minutes, 40 seconds
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024 – When It’s Not On The Radar Screen

What does your marriage look like when intimacy is not on the radar screen? We had a personal case study last week and it wasn’t pretty. It is never too late to make intimacy a priority in your marriage, it just takes making a decision and making the effort. Leave a review on iTunes | Submit [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/8/201046 minutes, 52 seconds
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023 – Get Unplugged and Find Your Connection

We spent Memorial Day weekend unplugged out at Agua Caliente State Park…no phones, no computers, no video games. It was an amazing time of re-discovering the joys that we have in each other. It was a weekend of togetherness, laughter and conversations. Now that we are home the real challenge starts. What changes do we need to [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
6/1/201052 minutes, 45 seconds
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022 – Is It Safe To Share My Emotions

Have you created a marriage where it is safe to share your emotions-both the good and the bad? Are you willing to let the person, who is supposed to love you the most, in on what is truly going on with you? It’s a struggle for us and we share the ups and downs of [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/25/201053 minutes, 55 seconds
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021 – All is Fair in Love and Marriage…

Do you feel like things aren’t fair in your marriage? Are you busier keeping track of who did what than how you are serving your spouse? Listen as we respond to a twitter question about whether marriage is fair or can be fair. We talk through our own thoughts and come to some unexpected insights into marriage [...] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/18/201057 minutes
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020 – Shaking Things UP!

Has your marriage fallen into a rut? Do you want to break out of the routines both emotionally and sexually? Join us for the 1st Annual 7 Days of Sex Challenge. Today we talk about the details and how this can be transformational for your marriage.  FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/11/201055 minutes, 35 seconds
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019 – God Wants You to Make an Impact

Small acts done with great love can transform the world. -Jill Todd Do you realize the power that you have? Every day we are presented with opportunities to change someone’s life be it through a conversation, a situation, a prayer. FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/6/201053 minutes, 18 seconds
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018 – Interview: Facebook and Your Marriage

We are pleased to have had the chance to interview Jason & Kelli Krafsky authors of Facebook and Your Marriage. Jason & Kelli have been married since 1994 and been on Facebook since 2008. FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
5/4/201038 minutes, 31 seconds
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017 – Are You too Tired to Try?

Have you worn yourself down? Are there too many “things” demanding your attention? In this weeks podcast we tackle the issue of fatigue in our marriage and how it has the ability to wreak havoc on our marriage and your relationships. We don’t always get it right but we do keep trying. FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/29/201051 minutes, 36 seconds
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016 – An Attitude of Service

Do you have an attitude of service in your marriage? You can make a difference in your marriage, in your life, in the world. By choosing to serve, without expectation or requirement of a return, you free yourself to fully enjoy intimacy. FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/22/201055 minutes, 22 seconds
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015 – How Do You Like to be Touched

We crave physical touch both non-sexual and sexual. Are you able to communicate your desires to your spouse? Are you open to what your spouse might suggest? This week we challenge you to share your desires and make a commitment to deepen the intimacy in your marriage. FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/15/201051 minutes, 20 seconds
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014 – Family Gatherings

In California we drive. We drive a lot to tell you the truth so this week on our drive home from Easter with the DiLorenzo family we decided to make use of our drive time. FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/8/201036 minutes, 10 seconds
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013 – The Difference One Week Can Make in Your Marriage

Can 7 days really make a difference in your marriage? We are placing bets that it can. Decide that for one week your spouse is going to be your number one priority and see what happens. Celebrate as you rediscover the communication in your marriage. FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
4/1/201037 minutes, 4 seconds
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012 – Fireproof

“Never leave your partner, especially in a fire.” We are a little behind the times but better late than never. This is an amazing movie that will dramatically impact you wherever you are in your marriage. FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/28/201030 minutes, 24 seconds
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011 – Our Beginning…How the Romance Started

We step back in time to talk about how it all started for us. It was the summer of 1994 when Alisa came to the University of Colorado at Boulder on an internship program. I was a student, cook, and maintenance man around the fraternity house where she was staying. FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/25/201050 minutes, 10 seconds
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010 – Can You Admit When You Are Wrong?

Can you admit when you are wrong? Or are you quick to jump on the defensive when your spouse brings up an issue? FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/18/201033 minutes, 45 seconds
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009 – Are You Dating Your Spouse?

You’ve heard everyone talk about it…but are you doing it? Date night that is. Low budget or over the top, spending time with your spouse is critical to the life of your marriage. FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/11/201031 minutes, 20 seconds
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008 – Eyes Wide Open

Are you able to communicate your desires to your spouse? How do you react when he/she suggests trying something new.  FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
3/4/201035 minutes, 20 seconds
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007 – Pornography: A Secret That Can Destroy Your Marriage

Are you aware of the destructive force that pornography can have in your marriage? 28,358 individuals are viewing porn every second Internet porn generated $2.84 billion in 2006 70% of porn is viewed between the 9-5 eight-hour workday (LJ INdex, September 2007). Pornography not only distorts your perception of your spouse, but it also creates unrealistic expectations. FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/25/20101 hour, 35 seconds
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006 – Power of Prayer

The Power of Prayer…change is possible, are you willing to ask for what you want and wait for it to happen? In our microwave society we want what we want RIGHT NOW! The reality is this: we can’t change our spouse or their actions no matter how much we want to do so. FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/18/201031 minutes, 22 seconds
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005 – Sex: Quantity vs Quality

It’s the ultimate marriage chicken and egg scenario… Are you satisfied with less frequent mind blowing sex? OR Does more frequent sex lead to better sex because you learn how to better please your spouse? We weigh in on these options and discuss what has happened in our marriage. FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/11/201032 minutes, 53 seconds
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004 – Listener Feedback

In this episode we answer a number of questions from one of our listeners about ONE Extraordinary Marriage.  FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
2/4/201054 minutes, 50 seconds
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003 – Rejection: Our McDonald’s Theory

Have you ever given any thought to the power the word NO has on your marriage? What might be a minor decision for a wife/husband (do we or don’t we make love tonight) can have a larger impact on our marriages, especially if the rejection is repeated often. FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/28/201036 minutes, 36 seconds
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002 – Can We Talk?

Do your talks with your spouse go beyond the small talk about the weather and the kids? Is there a yearning to go deeper in your conversations? Are you wondering how to get the conversation started? Join us as we talk about how we use communicate in our marriage. FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/21/201030 minutes, 23 seconds
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001 – 60 Days of Sex

Eleven years and our marriage had gone through a lot and yet the pain we endured didn’t have to be there forever. So on a fateful day Tony & Alisa began an adventure that would forever change their lives forever. FREE E-BOOK: 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last In the 6 Pillars of Intimacy, you will discover secrets that have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical and powerful. You’ll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by its commonsense approach.  Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo’s proven approach to building intimacy in marriage will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your spouse—starting today. Click the link below to grab your free ebook. 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to Intimacy That Last Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
1/13/201034 minutes, 8 seconds