Welcome to (some of) the best of Lovers and Friends the podcast. Hear from JESSIE REYES, MELISSA AND KEV OnSTAGE, ABBY DE LA ROSA, SHANOLA HAMPTON, TIM Chantrangsu aka DE LA GHETTO, DREW LOVE from THEY, RACHEL LINDSAY and GLO ATANMO during this special recap episode. THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR ONSEKIN Go to http://oneskin.co and 15% off with code LOVERS15 GLO ATANMO https://youtu.be/lbIaM09t0ZU?si=GtWZkCBspPlmUA8f https://open.spotify.com/episode/1W4xrpdCh0V3OwXZCYt1bO?si=mJNj1rxcQ7a333AUmgsqMA JESSIE REYES https://youtu.be/7IbgI3-s7Ps?si=j0CL3b8gYqsNbqFe https://open.spotify.com/episode/2w3jYgkVIgg2eQoYWuALhp?si=8q3ptyfKQbWn9FrrY3bZTA MELISSA AND KEV https://youtu.be/hrMVcujhg1A?si=idb7xnDq8TX1aBh_ https://open.spotify.com/episode/4NjXUyZ5suDL3ytxUALFV8?si=gg3B7zvfQnm5nS9XUpkyZA ABBY DE LA ROSA https://youtu.be/aq8290G52_I?si=oaI5d_ALvuj82z9V https://open.spotify.com/episode/5AM2X8zNwmgV3koVtgemPC?si=pzqGDEw3QMCe8Awx9eFK7Q SHANOLA HAMPTON https://youtu.be/J7PZakvvdCo?si=LDSbtyjNTKuNmZ1u https://open.spotify.com/episode/2pHr7jrSj7iQTZlsbIUoYV?si=-pk8WovdSbqLLyrXDrRpRg TIM DE LA GHETTO https://youtu.be/G6WYaHFOjEU?si=uDvI7cap3yCs0srq https://open.spotify.com/episode/0VuY52Ct9XS9Wua4dtupO6?si=ZFMbJEQOQ56IuBADlxm8og DREW LOVE https://youtu.be/bdooXjRGprY?si=AG3KL1r-wAfeb8Gm https://open.spotify.com/episode/39lGd7mxW9jvpGpOPYMKaj?si=ou8FILHeSGG7P21hCZwMog RACHEL LINDSAY https://youtu.be/bnEORZJD2pQ?si=LiHiZKFU1-_Cv8l6 https://open.spotify.com/episode/1kN3P1KoHI3LcnLNRgzY76?si=faUIGN4ATUaLvewVQ3AjCQ HELP WHY CAN’T I ORGASM https://open.spotify.com/episode/2X8oEJMQ8JNSu6Psa53r7O?si=wJMEWu6vTmGpia1waTZ0Sw

FUCK the fairytale! How does that land on you? Does it make you go FUCK YES we need to be realistic about love OR does it make you go FUCK NO I desire the fairytale and that’s what I’ll get. Well when dating coach Damona Hoffman suggests you F the Fairytale, she kinda wants you to feel both. Tired of the same old dating game and ready to find real, lasting love? Join us in this episode of FUCK the Fairytale as we explore what a true fairytale relationship looks like with expert dating coach Damona Hoffman. We’ll challenge outdated ideas of the ideal partner and redefine what happiness looks like in modern relationships. Don’t miss your chance to discover true love - watch now! FOLLOW DAMONA HOFFMAN https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/ https://damonahoffman.com/  Ritual Visit http://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today. Ritual is offering Lovers and Friends 30% off during your first month.  BetterHelp Visit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month.  HelloFresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life!  Quince  Go to http://Quince.com/lovers for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns! Damona Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodram http://tiktok.com/shanboody

Are you ready to break free from outdated social norms and discover the real power of being true to yourself? Mal Wright from Netflix's The Ultimatum is here to share her story of why she chose to end her engagement, why gender has no place in sex, and the one thing her next partner must have. Don't miss this inspiring story and get ready to experience the liberating effects of embracing your true self!  Follow Mal  https://www.instagram.com/igobymal/ https://malwright.komi.io/ Thanks to Our Sponsors Dipsea Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS SKIMS SKIMS Holiday Gift Shop is now open at http://SKIMS.com. Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars. BABBEL Get 55% off at http://Babbel.com/LOVERS BetterHelp Visit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month.  Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodram http://tiktok.com/shanboody

Are you curious why Vanessa and Xander, a happily married couple, chose not to have children? Find out by joining therapist Vanessa and her husband Xander as they share their personal story about why they chose to remain childfree. Tune in to learn more about their unconventional decision and how it has impacted their lives! Follow Vanessa and Xander Marin https://sextalksbook.com/ https://vmtherapy.com/ HelloFresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life!  StoryWorth Go to http://StoryWorth.com/lovers and save $10 on your first purchase!  Zoc Doc Go to Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodram http://tiktok.com/shanboody

Becoming a Pro: Master These Kama Sutra Sex Moves and Take Things to the Next Level. Spend some quality time with Seema Anand as she guides you through the Kama Sutra to discover the perfect positions for your pleasure even if the penis is too big, too small, or not experienced enough. From beginner-friendly poses to more advanced options, you'll learn something new no matter your level. So if you haven't found your go-to position yet, tune in now and explore with Seema! Seema Anand is a London-based story-teller, mythologist, and narrative practitioner, known for her expertise in the field of ancient Asian narratives and their relevance in contemporary times. She is particularly well-recognized for her works in bringing to light the narratives surrounding female sexuality and empowerment that are deeply embedded in ancient texts, including the Kama Sutra. She has also authored several books where she delves into narratives of love, desire, and female beauty from an Asian perspective, enabling a deeper understanding and appreciation of these age-old philosophies. Seema holds a PhD in Narrative practices, positioning her as an authority in her field, which allows her to skillfully weave the ancient wisdom with modern narratives to foster understanding and empathy in today's society. Follow Seema https://www.instagram.com/seemaanandstorytelling/?hl=en https://linktr.ee/seemaanandstorytelling Thanks to our Sponsors SKIMS SKIMS Holiday Gift Shop is now open at http://SKIMS.com. Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars. BetterHelp Visit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month.  This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp http://betterhelp.com/lovers Get a break from your thoughts, with BetterHelp. today to get 10% off your first month.  UNCOMMON GOODS http://UNCOMMONGOODS.com/Lovers, for 15% off your first gift  OneSkin Get 15% off with the code Lovers15 at http://oneskin.co.  Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodram Tiktok.com/shanboody

Today, we're joined by renowned guests from the popular podcast "Tonight's Conversation Podcast" – Ace Metaphor, Kita Rose, and Just Mike The Poet. This podcast is renowned for bringing together social media personalities, relationship experts, and therapists to explore themes related to love, dating, and relationships. Our discussion today centers on the dynamics of relationships, specifically focusing on the contrasting preferences of men and women in intimate settings. Additionally, we'll delve into a provocative topic: the impact of masturbation on one's sexual desire towards their partner. FOLLOW Tonight's Conversation https://www.instagram.com/tonightsconversation/ https://linktr.ee/tonightsconversationcards ACE: https://www.instagram.com/acemetaphor/ KITA: https://www.instagram.com/kitarose_/?hl=en MIKE: https://tonightsconversation.vhx.tv/videos/tc-date-night-s1-e8 Thanks to our sponsors Dipsea Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS Ritual Ritual is offering my listeners 30% off during your first month. Visit http://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today Lume As a special offer for listeners of Lovers and Friends, new customers get $5 off Lume’s Starter Pack with our exclusive code and link. And for a limited time, returning customers can get $5 off their next purchase of $30 or more, too! Use code LOVERS at http://LumeDeodorant.com HelloFresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life! That means one breakfast item per box while your subscription is active. 

This episode is where raw opinions and humor collide! In this series, I sit down with James and Fuhad, the dynamic duo behind the top 5 Spotify podcast, ShxtsNGigs. Known for their unapologetically honest and often hilarious takes, these best friends have become a sensation among Gen Z audiences in the UK. Today we talk about what makes them different in a world of podcast about Sex/Relationships.  Follow  ShxtsNGigs   : https://www.instagram.com/shxtsngigs/ Follow ShxtNGigs: https://www.youtube.com/@ShtsNGigsPodcast Follow James Duncan : https://www.instagram.com/jamesduncan/ Follow Fuhad : https://www.instagram.com/fuhad_/ Babbel  Http://Babbel.com/LOVERS to Get 55% off at Babbel. Rules and restrictions may apply Skims Holiday Gift Shop is now open at http://SKIMS.com. Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars. OneSkin get 15% off OneSkin with our code LOVERS15 at http://oneskin.co this show is sponsored by BetterHelp Visit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month Follow Shan @shanboodram - IG @shanboody - Tik Tok @loversandfriends - YouTube

Are you young and attracted to mature men? Many younger women are dating older men, but is it really worth it? Anna Akana was in her twenties when she had a public relationship with Ray Williams Johnson, and she's here to tell us why it was a huge mistake. Hear her story plus the joys of dating older men today. Learn why Anna thinks women younger than 25 should be warned about the possible repercussions before taking the plunge. Plus, find out why she's so happy now that she's dating a man in his sixties, another in his fifties, and even one woman in her forties! Dive into this episode now if you're interested in learning more about what it's like to date an older partner. Follow Anna Akana  https://www.instagram.com/annaakana https://www.youtube.com/annaakana https://www.squadup.com/events/it-gets-darker-anna-akana-friends-1 Thanks to our sponsors First Leaf Go to http://TryFirstleaf.com/LOVERS to sign up and you’ll get your first SIX hand-curated bottles for just $44.95.  UNCOMMON GOODS To get 15% off your next gift, go to http://UNCOMMONGOODS.com/LOVERS HelloFresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/loversfree and use code loversfree for FREE breakfast for life!  Zocdoc Go to http://Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE Follow Shan @shanboodram - IG @shanboody - Tik Tok @loversandfriends - YouTube

Do you want to understand hormones better? Dr. Jolene Brighten is here to demystify the power of hormones and how they can affect fertility, sex drive, ADHD, how long it takes to orgasm, and period pain. Tune in as she explains what hormones are, their function and role in our bodies, plus how they can be managed for improved health and wellness. Learn from the experts! Don't miss out on this insightful educational experience with Dr. Jolene Brighten. Thanks to our sponsors One Skin http://oneskin.co and use code LOVERS15 at checkout for 15% off Dipsea Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS Quince http://Quince.com/lovers for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. UNCOMMON GOODS http://UNCOMMONGOODS.com/LOVERS for 15% off Thanks to Our Guest https://drbrighten.com/ https://www.instagram.com/drjolenebrighten Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboodram http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng

Are you struggling to understand what real self love looks like? Do you find yourself getting hurt or blinded by pain and not being able to move forward? In this special video, Shan Boodram will answer your questions on how to heal from hurt and cultivate a deeper sense of self love. Get ready for some never before heard revelations with some timeless gems - it’s time to discover the key to unlocking true peace and freedom. Tune in now and learn how real self love can free you from pain and hurt by embracing the nature of those very things. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode BetterHelp is sponsoring this episode Visit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month Ritual http://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today and get 30% off your first month Skims Go to http://SKIMS.com and get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars Factor Head to http://FACTOR MEALS.com/lovers50 and use code lovers50 to get 50% off Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng

Get an in-depth and candid look into the fascinating 40-year marriage of my parents, and see how their dynamic can shed light on the relationship of Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith. I'm interviewing my parents to ask the questions we all want answered when it comes to a long-term relationship going through myriad ups and downs inclduing breakups, dating others, and going through social shame for staying through it all. Why is it still worth fighting for? Jada Pinkett Smith talks about this question in her new memoir, Worthy. Thanks to my parents for being apart of this episode follow my mom https://www.instagram.com/yourtravelwitholivia https://www.youtube.com/c/YourTravelWithOlivia Thanks to the sponsors of this episode HelloFresh http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus free shipping! One Skin http://oneskin.co and use code LOVERS at checkout for 15% off First Leaf Try http://Firstleaf.com/LOVERS to sign up and you’ll get your first SIX hand-curated bottles for just $44.95  Books I suggested in this episode https://www.amazon.com/shop/shanboody/list/3IM9P9FGJOL9J?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_aipsflist_aipsfshanboody_TFZ9F6EQ6YY0ZZYBYT2J Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng

Are you struggling with the fear of commitment? Feeling like there’s something wrong with you because all of your relationships have ended shortly after the honeymoon phase? You're not alone! Join Brenden Durell as he talks about his own experiences with the fear of commitment and how he learned to address it. In this video, Brenden will be opening up about why he never stayed past the honeymoon phase and how to combat the fear of commitment. It's time to give love another chance! Thanks to the Sponsors of this Episode Jenni Kayne http://jennikayne.com use the code LOVERS at checkout to get 15% off This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp http://betterhelp.com/lovers to get 10% off your first month Dipsea Stories  http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS for 30 days of full access for free  Babbel http://babbel.com/lovers to Get 55% off  Rules and restrictions may apply. Follow Brenden  https://www.instagram.com/brendendurell/?hl=en https://mylinks.brendendurell.com/ Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng

How do we fix our desire for relationships with people that will inevitably become broken. And how do we stop ourselves from aligning healthy with boring? That’s what we’re talking about on this episode of Lovers and Friends.  Attraction, whether emotional, physical, or psychological, is a complex process. It can be influenced by numerous factors, from biology to personal history. If someone finds themselves repeatedly attracted to individuals with certain undesirable characteristics (like the makeup of a fuckboy: charismatic but not reliable, fun to be around but not fun to be apart from because communication is not stable or when out of sight they’re unpredictable, they make big plans but don’t consistently make the small actions to move towards that goal especially when it comes to you, etc…), understanding the underlying causes and taking conscious steps to modify patterns of attraction can be beneficial. Here's a scientific, step-by-step approach: Self-awareness and reflection  Next, Examine past patterns Understand the biology Cognitive-behavioral techniques  Increase self-worth Expand your social circle Educate yourself Avoid idealization practice mindfulness Follow Leah Lamarr https://www.instagram.com/leahlamarr https://sociatap.com/leahlamarr/  Show Love to Our Sponsors Zoc Doc Go to Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE Hello Fresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus free shipping Skims Try The Cotton collection and more are available now at http://SKIMS.com Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars!  Extras in this episode The Art of Manipulation: Influence Human Behavior, Understand the Psychology of Manipulation, Effectively Manage People, and Get What You (Really) Want!  Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng

Have you ever been told that relationships require hard work? Well, it's time for a reality check with therapist Nina Westbrook who is married to NBA All Star Russel Westbrook! Nina shares their experiences and insights on relationships and even addresses people who say that Russel could do better than her- her response will inspire you. Follow Nina Westbrook https://www.instagram.com/ninawestbrook https://www.youtube.com/@TheRelationshipChronicles https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-chronicles-with-nina-westbrook/id1696624137 Thanks to our sponsors Factor Meals http://FACTORMEALS.com/lovers50 use code lovers50 to get 50% This video is sponsored by BetterHelp BetterHelp.com/lovers to get 10% off your first month Acorns http://acorns.com/lovers to download Acorns to start saving and investing for your future today! Ritual http://ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today. EXTRAS in this episode I reference Naval Ravikant And used a clip from Esther Perel’s videos https://youtu.be/ejTBjX4Cu6Y?si=uy7tyOEeYAZnxs5Q Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng

Here’s what men don't tell you about how to be a better intimate partner…How do you get your man to go from bland to blazing in bed? Why should men stop watching porn? How do you encourage your man to ask for what he wants in bed? Are you missing out on pleasure by not using breathwork? Alex Grendi is a certified men’s sex coach who specializes in performance anxiety and erectile dysfunction. He’s here to talk about the importance of asking for what you want in the bedroom AND the struggle (especially for men) of figuring out what that REALLY is. Some of you have mentioned that you like the longer solo interview episodes and that’s what this is.  Follow Alex Grendi http://Alex.Grendi  www.superiorlovers.com Thanks to our Sponsors Liquid IV http://LIQUIDIV.COM using the promo code LOVERS at checkout for a 20% Skims http://skims.com Dipsea http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS Get an extended 30 day free trial  Hello Fresh http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus 15% off the next 2 months! Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng

The Kama Sutra, a renowned ancient Indian Sanskrit text, often perceived as a guide to sexual positions and techniques, is in fact a comprehensive guide to virtuous and gracious living. Written between 400 BCE and 200 CE by a sage named Vatsyayana, this text covers various aspects of life, including family, relationships, and personal conduct, amongst others. The Kama Sutra is a profound ancient text that offers wisdom not only on intimacy but on many facets of life. Its holistic approach to love and relationships makes it a rich resource for understanding ancient Indian society's perspectives on love, life, and morality. By exploring it in depth, you may find a plethora of wisdom that goes beyond the bedroom and offers insights into a virtuous and gracious life. On this episode we have Seema Anand guides us through what we missed while looking at the pictures of sex positions in the kama Sutra. Seema Anand is a London-based story-teller, mythologist, and narrative practitioner, known for her expertise in the field of ancient Asian narratives and their relevance in contemporary times. She is particularly well-recognized for her works in bringing to light the narratives surrounding female sexuality and empowerment that are deeply embedded in ancient texts, including the Kama Sutra. She has also authored several books where she delves into narratives of love, desire, and female beauty from an Asian perspective, enabling a deeper understanding and appreciation of these age-old philosophies. Seema holds a PhD in Narrative practices, positioning her as an authority in her field, which allows her to skilfully weave the ancient wisdom with modern narratives to foster understanding and empathy in today's society. Follow Seema https://www.instagram.com/seemaanandstorytelling/?hl=en https://linktr.ee/seemaanandstorytelling Thanks to our Sponsors This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp http://betterhelp.com/lovers Get a break from your thoughts, with BetterHelp. today to get 10% off your first month.  Babbel http://Babbel.com/lovers Get 55% off your Babbel subscription Zocdoc http://Zocdoc.com/LOVERS and download the Zocdoc app for FREE Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboodram

This week I needed some breathing room so I brought in my ventilator aka husband Jared Brady. Listen to Pick a Side  https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4sasTfLuqSzV6hxtYKWSPu?si=12a9d1fbf6434ebe Thanks to Our Sponsor Hello Fresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for 50% off plus 15% off the next 2 months!

What does it take to get you in the mood? Maybe like some it’s strawberries and silk. Or maybe like many others, it’s a little more … nuanced than that. Jonathan Singletary and my husband Jared Brady teamed up to make a sexy song devoted to the women who do a lot and consequently, need a little more to get…there. When it comes to being horny aka getting in the mood, this conversation is often about what you can do to get there, but in this episode we go into what has to first be done, OR in some cases undone for it to become feasible for all parties. Getting horny seems simple when we look at it through a Super Bad lens, but when we insert real people with real lives we can appreciate this complex process that relies on an interplay of neurological, hormonal, emotional, and physiological cooperation. Thanks to Our Sponsors Ritual http://Ritual.com/LOVERS Ritual is offering my listeners 20% off during your first month FabFitFun http://FabFitFun.com/LOVERS Sign up at, customize your box, and get access to discounts up to 70% off on brands like Fenty, Free People, and Our Place - to name a few.  Dipsea http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS Dipsea is offering an extended 30 day FREE trial  MOOD: https://linktr.ee/jsingletary Follow our guests Jonathan Singletary https://www.instagram.com/jonathansingletary https://linktr.ee/jsingletary Elaine Welteroth https://www.instagram.com/elainewelteroth https://www.washingtonpost.com/advice/2023/02/14/ask-elaine-husband-new-mom-less-attracted/ Jared Brady http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng

Finding the one is a life quest, one that many people never complete. Some people don’t pick anyone, some people pick the wrong one, and some give up hope looking for the one and start considering the two, three, four or five… There’s no shame in this, especially when you both acknowledge this choice not to settle, but to secure the future you want by selecting a partner who may not tick all of your boxes, but you know that in time and when you’re both ready to make a mutual commitment - you just might be able make it work with them. This acknowledgement that I’m talking about often comes in the form of a marriage pact. A marriage pact is an agreement made by two people that states that if we are both still single by a certain due date, we will marry each other. People make these pacts for a number of reasons: fear of commitment or because the connection is right, but the timing isn’t. However in most cases, it’s an all-else fails backup plan. But, what happens when that fails to? Or perhaps even scarier - when the plan actually succeeds? Now what? That is what we are exploring on this episode of Lovers and Friends with the cast of The Marriage Pact streaming now on The Roku Channel. You can stream #TheMarriagePact FREE on a Roku, the Roku mobile app and http://therokuchannel.com. It’s also available on Samsung Smart TVs and Amazon Fire Sticks. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode  SKIMS Checkout the Cotton Collection and more at http://SKIMS.com they offer free shipping on orders over seventy-five bucks! Hello Fresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/50lovers and use code 50lovers for an amazing 50% off plus free shipping! Liquid IV Get 20% off when you go to http://LIQUIDIV.com and use code LOVERS at checkout BetterHelp Visit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month.

Do you marry the person that you have the best sex with? Ashley Cobb opens up about being the best every man has ever had and also struggling to find a man who’s capable of having her. Plus the men previously known as Enjoy the Podcast link up to share their insights on the Madonna Whore complex. So, this complex describes a psychological phenomenon in which a man's perception of women is divided into two distinct categories: the Madonna and the whore. The Madonna is perfect, pure, and really caring. She's the nurturing type and has qualities like innocence and morality. This side of the complex is associated with safety, comfort, and connection. The whore, on the other hand, is associated with sexual desire, sensuality, and eroticism. This side of the complex involves fantasies or desires for more adventurous or taboo experiences and whores are seen as mysterious and unpredictable.  If men have this complex and subscribe to its ideologies that a woman is either pure innocence or pure erroticism, it makes it tough for him to see one woman as both a sexual partner and someone he could have a real, serious relationship with. Watch full videos of Lovers and Friends podcast https://www.youtube.com/@loversandfriendspodcast Thanks to the sponsors of this episode HoneyLove Get 20% Off your entire order (including the best bra you’ll own) with our exclusive link  http://honeylove.com/LOVERS. Babbel Ready to learn another language? Get up to 55% off at http://Babbel.com/LOVERS Rules and restrictions may apply FabFitFun Sign up at http://FabFitFun.com/LOVERS to get access to discounts up to 70% off on brands like Fenty, Free People, and Our Place - to name a few.  BetterHelp Visit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers today to get 10% off your first month Follow our guest Ashley Cobb https://www.instagram.com/sexwithashley/

Would you consider yourself a freak? Being freaky means you are open and willing to experiment and experience a variety of sexual activities.  That's what we are getting into this episode. Where do you scale on the levels of freaky? I’m joined by Andrea Lewis whom you may recognize from Degrassi or if you are a 90s baby then you may remember her for role in Cadet Kelly on the Disney Channel. Andrea’s latest starring role is “Three Ways”  which you can watch now on Hulu.  I am also joined by Tyomi,  a sexologist and sex therapist with over 12 years of experience.  She specializes in unlocking pleasure for clients and has over 140 million views on her youtube channel and she’s here to tell us about her definition of a freak. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! Hello Fresh! Try out America’s #1 meal kit for yourself! Get 50% off plus free shipping! https://www.hellofresh.com/50lovers Zocdoc Download the app for free and find yourself a top-rated doctor! https://www.zocdoc.com/lovers Follow Shan: https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Andrea:  https://www.instagram.com/andrealewis https://www.instagram.com/blackbeautyeffect/ Watch Three Ways on Hulu:  https://www.hulu.com/movie/three-ways-7afd18f4-5b2c-4097-b532-bd956aa21bd4 Follow Tyomi:  https://www.instagram.com/realglamazontyomi/ https://www.youtube.com/glamerotica101

What if I told you that the biggest turn off for partners can be your own self deprecating comments? The times you’ve said “oh no I haven’t shaved”   Have you ever wondered how your insecurities can affect your relationships? Self deprecating comments and insecurities play a vital role in how we interact with others, especially when it comes to intimacy. Remember that one time you excused yourself with your partner because you hadn’t shaved? Chances are you pointed out the elephant in the room that was only existent to you.  In this week’s episode, I am joined by Jessie Paege, a YouTube personality, actress, author, and entrepreneur. Through her comedic and relatable content, she has built an audience of over 2 million followers across her social channels. Jessie uses her platform to crush stereotypes and raise awareness of mental health issues and LGBTQ+ issues. Her debut book is called, Hey, It's Okay to Be You, which fits perfectly with our conversation about how insecurities play a role in our relationships.  Thanks to the sponsors of this episode!  OneSkin:  Get 15% off OneSkin with the code LOVERS at https://www.oneskin.co/ #oneskinpod #ad Ritual: There’s no more shame in your gut game. Get 20% off your first month.  Visit: https://www.ritual.com/lovers Factor: Try Factor meals and get 50%off by visiting:  https://www.factormeals.com/lovers50 Follow Shan https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Jessie:  https://www.youtube.com/@jessiepaege https://www.instagram.com/jessiepaege/ https://www.tiktok.com/@jessiepaege

Sex that doesn’t lead to orgasm.. Sound familiar? What if I said that sex that doesn’t lead to the big O can actually be very fulfilling and a lot more common than you think? Sexual experiences can encompass a wide variety of activities, such as kissing, touching, oral sex, manual stimulation, and penetration, among others. The experience and enjoyment of sex can vary greatly from person to person, and not everyone will achieve orgasm during sexual encounters. Some individuals may not experience orgasm at all, while others may experience it infrequently or under certain circumstances. The important aspect to remember is that sex should always be consensual, safe, and respectful of all parties involved. Communication and understanding between partners are essential to ensure that both individuals are comfortable and satisfied with their sexual experiences, regardless of whether orgasm occurs. That is exactly what I am talking about with my guests this week, Drea and Lex whom you may know from Pour Minds.  Thanks to the sponsors of this episode.  Rizos Curls Get 10% off your Rizos Curls order with promo code LOVERS at checkout  https://bit.ly/3XOE8tZ) Liquid IV Get 20% off ANYTHING you order when you use promo code LOVERS http://LIQUID IV DOT COM. Skims Get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars - all at  http://SKIMS.com Better Help  get 10% off your first month of therapy by visiting http://BetterHelp.com/lovers  Follow Pour Minds Listen to the podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/too-much-pressure-ft-dess-dior/id1438182646?i=1000580429867 Watch the YouTube videos: https://www.youtube.com/@DreaAndLex/videos Follow Shan https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

This episode felt like a poon and the peen throwback.. If you know, you know! In this episode I sat down with my friend Ricky Shucks and we answered some of your best sex questions.  Am I ruining sex by overthinking? Is squirting actually pee?  Are we monogamous if I am still engaging in threesomes? Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! Fab Fit Fun If you join FabFitFun as a NEW seasonal member right now you’ll also get 20% off your membership so your 1st box is only $47.99 - for up to a $300 value box each season. Join today: http://www.fabfitfun.com/lovers Zoc Doc Find a top rated doctor for your needs today:  http://www.zocdoc.com/lovers Honey Love  Treat yourself to the best shapewear and supportwear on the market plus save 20% off by visiting:  http://www.honeylove.com/lovers Hello Fresh  Try America’s # 1 meal kit for yourself:  http://www.hellofresh.com/lovers50  Follow Shan https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Ricky https://www.instagram.com/rickyshucks/?hl=en https://www.goodiebrand.com/ https://www.instagram.com/nochasergang/?hl=en

Hello lovers and friends. This week’s episode is a little different and it’s because I had a lot to say on some trending pop culture news.  To start things off, Keke Palmer‘s partner Darius Jackson was trending for all the wrong reasons. In this episode we talk about the tweet seen across the globe. “It's the outfit tho.. you a mom.”  Next, we break down if Jonah Hill was out of line with his boundaries. A year after his split with ex girlfriend, Sarah Brady, Brady alleges that Hill emotionally abused her and she had the receipts to back up her claim. SHe posted screenshots of their exchange to her Instagram story that prompted widespread internet discourse about boundaries and whether Hill misused “therapy speak.” Lastly, to catch you up on the Adam22 and the Lena the Plug “drama”, the OnlyFans creator did her first scene with a male performer other than her husband. Lena’s husband, No Jumper founder Adam “Adam 22” Grandmaison, has said he was fine and encouraging of the scene. Thanks to the sponsor of this episode Better Help! Try therapy yourself and get 10% off your first month by going to: https://www.betterhelp.com/lovers Follow Shan https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Articles: https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/leylamohammed/keke-palmer-shamed-boyfriend-darius-jackson-outfit-mom https://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-moms/news/keke-palmer-feels-powerful-as-a-mom-amid-darius-jackson-drama/ https://www.forbes.com/sites/conormurray/2023/07/10/what-to-know-about-jonah-hills-emotional-abuse-allegatio https://www.msnbc.com/opinion/msnbc-opinion/jonah-hill-texts-ex-sarah-brady-expose-therapy-speak-dangers-rcna93748 https://www.hotnewhiphop.com/693883-lena-the-plug-adam22-simp-claims-response https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-12283131/Adam22s-wife-says-theyve-sex-filmed-porn-scene-man.html

According to the PEW research center about 41% of people between the ages of 18 to 29 are single. For people aged 30 to 49 that number drops dramatically to 23% and then it raises back up a scotch to 28% for those between 50 to 64, before increasing again to 36% for the 65+ crowd. So what does this tell us? My interpretation? On one hand, it tells the story of millennials' decline in divorce rates and on the other the fact that  it showcases our increase in being consciously single for a lot longer than previous generations and in some cases, for the long haul. So can you still enjoy dating even if none of the dates go anywhere? In this episode, I sit down with Qimmah Russo, an influencer, model and athlete and she shares her perspective on this.  Thanks to the sponsors of this episode.  Get 55% off your Babbel subscription- by going to:  https://www.babbel.com/lovers Try America’s #1 Meal Kit and get 50% off plus free shipping by going to: https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers50 Try Ritual for yourself and get 20% off your first month by going to:  https://ritual.com/lovers Follow the guests on this episode: https://www.instagram.com/qimmahrusso https://www.instagram.com/workoutsbyqimmah/ Follow Shan https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

According to the Singles in America study 55% of people reported that they’ve had a friends with benefits, which is a relationship where two people agree to have a sexual relationship based on convenience and a social relationship without a romantic commitment. And of the people in the study who said they’d had a friend with benefits, about 40% them said that their casual connection eventually turned into a longterm love affair. So is that number along with the guests of this episode and my personal experience enough to convince you that frequent fucking first and figuring the rest out later is the way to go?  In this episode, we are joined by Siffat Haider  and Nish Samantray the founders of Arrae- a natural supplement company, who’s passion is to help people optimize their health and wellness.  Thanks to the sponsors of this episode.  HoneyLove  Get 20% OFF @honeylove by going to  https://www.honeylove.com/lovers  #honeylovepod BetterHelp  Find more balance with BetterHelp today and get 10% off your first month.  Go to https://www.betterhelp.com/lovers  Follow the guests on this episode:  Follow Shan https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Siffat: https://www.instagram.com/siffhaider Nish: https://www.instagram.com/plentyofnish_ Check out Arrae: https://www.arrae.com Krista: https://www.instagram.com/itskrista Krizia: https://www.instagram.com/kriziacruz_

In 2021, Harvard Health did a giant gratitude study and found that couple who show gratitude for their partner, and who express that gratitude regularly, are more satisfied with their relationship. University of California Berkeley's research team referred to gratitude as the quiet difference maker in relationship formation.  The journal of social and personal relationships reported that individuals who feel appreciated by their partners have better-functioning relationships that are less likely to be impacted by ineffective arguing and even financial stress.  All that to say, a little gratitude goes a long way.  In this episode, I talk to Dante Jones, (one half of the duo THEY) all about gratitude.  Thanks to the sponsors of this episode.  Zocdoc https://www.zocdoc.com/lovers Hello Fresh: https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers16 Blissy  https://www.blissy.com/lovers Caraway Home https://www.carawayhome.com/lovers Article sited: https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/giving-thanks-can-make-you-happier Follow Shan https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Dante  https://www.instagram.com/tefromthey https://www.unofficialthey.com/tour Follow Dr. Sophia Godkin https://www.thehappinessdoctor.com/

Dr. Emily Morse is the host of the hit podcast Sex with Emily.  Emily has been dubbed “the Dr. Ruth of a new generation” and has helped millions of people navigate the world of sex and relationships. In her new book Smart Sex, she condenses all she’s learned as a doctor of human sexuality and offers a groundbreaking framework that will change the way you think about sex and pleasure. In her new book you’ll uncover.  ·  A new sexual intelligence that will allow you to connect deeply with your body, your desires, and the psychological and physical blocks that are keeping you from experiencing the pleasure that is your birthright. ·  Communication hacks to talk to your partner about topics ranging from oral sex to open relationships and everything in between. ·  The truth about orgasms and how to start having more plentiful, powerful, and satisfying orgasms. · Everything you need to know to be a good lover, from collaboration to technique. (Hint: it's not what you think.) ·   And so much more FIVE PILLARS OF YOUR SEXUALITY: Pillar #1: Embodiment Pillar #2: Health  Pillar #3: Collaboration Pillar #4: Self- knowledge  Pillar #5:  Self acceptance  Thanks to the sponsors of this episode.  Babbel: www.babbel.com/Lovers for 55% off your subscription.  Betterhelp:  www.betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month   Hungryroot:   www.hungryroot.com/lovers for 30% off your first delivery and free  veggies.  Follow Shan: https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Emily:  https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily Get Emily's new book: https://www.amazon.com/Smart-Sex-Boost-Your-Pleasure/dp/0778387100/ref=sr_1_1?qid=1686695143&refinements=p_27%3AEmily+Morse&s=books&sr=1-1

If you’re a podcast listener, you already know that there’s a whole lot of discussions about what people don’t do in relationships, what they need to be doing, and insight on what romantic partners want from others. And I guess it’s all well and good to have standards, but it’s even better to: Be aware of which standards are based on what we actually need to have a quality romantic partnership vs which standards are based on discriminatory, outdated values that hurt others AND our chances at forming healthy partnerships. Be clear about what standards people can hold you to. In short, what exactly are you bringing to the romantic relationship table and furthermore what are you admitting that you won’t be carrying?  In this episode, I am discussing this in a hilarious and honest conversation with the ladies of Cocktales.  We also have THE Matchmaking Duo here to share the secret to finding a compatible long term  partner. Here is your conversation starter pack: What are you enthusiastically bringing to a romantic relationship today? What are you interested in getting better at bringing? What do you know you can’t and probably won’t carry? How do you want your romantic partner to respond to you when you’re not meeting their standards? How do you plan to respond when they inevitably, don’t meet all of yours? Which are your deal breakers and where considering your answers to the top questions can you stand to do a lil bending? Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! Ritual:  Visit ritual.com/LOVERS to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today and get 10$ off your first 3 months.  HelloFresh:  Go to Hellofresh.com/lovers16 for 16 free meals plus free shipping!  Follow Shan: https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow the ladies of Cocktales:  https://www.instagram.com/kikisaidso/ https://www.instagram.com/cocktalespodcast/ https://www.instagram.com/coffeebeandean/ Follow the Matchmaking Duo: https://www.instagram.com/thematchmakingduo/ Follow Krizia:  https://www.instagram.com/kriziacruz_/

What Is Your Love Story?  Not the one that you’re in per se, but the one that subconsciously, you’ll move mountains or reality, to live inside? Psychologists have identified 26 kinds of stories that people commit to BEFORE committing to their romantic partner so, which one is yours? Our starring guest Raven Ross who you can recall from Netlfix’s reality series, Love is Blind Season 3. She is also a pilates instructor nearly a 2 million followers on social media. Raven went through one of the messiest Tik Tok cheating scandals last year with her ex-fiancee. Now, she’s ready to love out loud again plus wants to share with you how, why, and maybe even who..  A love story is a frame of reference for how you believe love works or should work. Kind of like how your political beliefs describe how you think a group of people should be governed. Now, as I mentioned off the top, in my fav book, the new psychology of love, there are 26 different common stories that people can subscribe to.  Addiction - we have an intense first connection and from then on we need each other and create a dynamic based around the fear of parting ways Audition - you gotta win the part and keep proving you love me and if you forget the lines or go too far off script Art - my partner looks good and they make me look good because I own something beautiful Business - our union is designed to give us more money, power and respect from others Cookbook - love has a recipe and instruction list, if we forget ingredients or steps our love won’t be as good Fantasy - save me, marry me, and happily ever after me.  Game - love is a sport with a winner and a loser or if we’re on the same team there’s still a captain and a bench player Gardening - love is something that has to grow and it takes time, awareness of the environment, plus continuous tending to in order to flourish. For more on this, see my episode where I explain the difference between a fruit and a fruit tree History - in our relationship you are who you were, there’s only past you and future you. Think of it like the difference between “I’ll believe it when I see it” and “let’s just see!” Horror - relationships are scary and the scarier it is, the more real it is Humor - love is a joke, some people get the joke early, some later, but sooner or later everyone gets humbled Mystery - you don’t need to know everything about each other because maintaining the mystery is more important than discovering yourselves through uncovering one another Police - you gotta place rules and boundaries on your partner because people are only as good as you’ll allow them to be Religion - love is in service of the Lord Sacrifice - love is just as much about what you give as what you’re willing to give up to demonstrate devotion to the other Science - love can be studied and explained through scientific theory just like anything else War - love is a power struggle ruled by  The other ones are: recover, science fiction, sewing, theater, travel, war, student-teacher, and a few more. Conversation starter pack What story of love are you currently subscribing to? Which ones are you aspiring to? What narratives are you trying to stay clear of and why? What love story was modeled for you growing up? Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! www.hungryroot.com/LOVERS for 30% off your first delivery and your free veggies.  http://www.carawayhome.com/lovers for 10% off www.betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month  www.zocdoc.com to download the free app Follow Shan: https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Raven:  https://www.instagram.com/pilatesbodyraven www.pilatesbodyraven.com https://www.tiktok.com/@pilatesbodyraven

We often talk about how men have an easier life, but I think at this point we can also agree that maintaining the identity of “a real man” is extremely hard. Masculinity is what I would call a wet fish identity - because like catching a fish with your bear hands - It’s hard to do, even harder to hold onto and incredibly easy to lose a grip on. And one of the fastest ways to call your capability of holding onto a wet fish into question, is to add more slick to the situation by crying. It’s one thing for a man to reveal his hurt, pain and insecurities - which you might recall we already discussed in episod 4 of Lovers and Friends, do we really want vulnerable men starring Aba n Preach. So what comes up for us when we see a man cry? And how do we deconstruct those feelings without tearing down the man or his masculinity in the process? These are all questions I wanted to pontificate with, with the man himself, Dominic Gabriel- a personality and mental health advocate best known from his appearances on Netflix's Perfect Match and The Mole. You may also recognize him from his viral Tik Toks OR from his brand new podcast Dom Meets World.  Conversation starter pack from this episode: What is masculinity? Is it something you have? Or something you have to earn and maintain? Is it a turnoff to see a man cry? Is it a turnon? Aren’t both of those responses equally as strange? What’s the healthier alternative? Is crying a useful expression regardless of gender? Should we all attempt to control it because it can be likened to losing your temper? How do we create an environment where people tasked with proving their masculinity, don’t feel like they have to keep up the audition in front of us? Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! Storyworth  https://www.storyworth.com/lovers to save $10 on your first purchase! Blissy  https://www.blissy.com/lovers Get better sleep now with Blissy and use LOVERS to get an additional 30% off at blissy.com/LOVERS Better Help  https://www.betterhelp.com/LOVERS for 10%off your first order  Hello Fresh  https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers16 Use code Lovers16 for 16 free meals  Follow Shan: https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Dom:  https://www.instagram.com/dontcalldom Follow the guys of ENJOY:  https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady https://www.instagram.com/mrjustdavis https://www.instagram.com/datboykray https://www.instagra.com/blamelos

Did you know that every 7 seconds, a man thinks about sex? That's more than 500 times an hour and more than 12,000 times a day… And even though that sounds crazy, I’m sure it sounds familiar because this stat has circulated for decades. Now, myth-buster there is no scientific evidence to back this up, and studies that HAVE been done site that men think about sex an average of 19 times a day with the highest number of the study being around 380 thoughts a day and the lowest being once per day (which of course if you’re told to record how much you think about sex you’re gonna think about sex more and at the very least ONCE to note that your only thought about having sex that day was that you never thought about having sex…  Point being, in a society that’s conditioned us to believe that all day men dream about sex, what do we do when the man we’re with doesn’t want to have sex with us? That’s where we’re going on this episode featuring Drew Love. the lead singer of the popular R&B group THEY who just released their album Nu Moon, which is streaming everywhere now.  Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! Hello Fresh: https://www.hellofresh.com/lovers16 use code lovers16 for your free meals and free shipping! Dame: https://www.dameproducts.com/Lovers Enter code Lovers for 15% off  Lomi: Turn your food waste into dirt with the press of a button with Lomi. Use the code LOVERS to save $50  https://www.lomi.com/lovers Skims: Get free shipping on all orders over $75 https://www.skims.com Follow Shan: https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow THEY:  https://www.instagram.com/they Follow Drew Love: https://www.instagram.com/drewlove

In this episode, I want to break down what I know about “knowing” someone is the one, before you know their true character. This isn’t meant to knock anyone who chooses to mate this way, because culturally a lot of us subscribe to the importance of instant attraction even if we don’t think we do - but instead to provide you with some knowledge that I wish I had before letting love at first sight lead me astray. Love at first sight is a global phenomenon - meaning no matter where you go, there it is in different languages, stories and beliefs. In this episode I define what love at first sight is, explain why the brain likes to do it, provide insight into how love at first sight might just be another brand of discrimination, explain how it can be used wisely and also share the dangers of placing a lot of emphasis on how couples met. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! BLISSY http://blissy.com/LOVERS and get an additional 30% off!  BABBEL http://Babbel.com/LOVERS for up to 55% off your subscription. Babbel—Language for life. HELLO FRESH http://hellofresh.com/LOVERS50 for 50% off plus free shipping! Follow Shan: https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

Let’s talk about submission! My fav definition of this comes from Hafeez who simply said to submit is to sub (be underneath) another person’s mission. Now, one of the main purposes of romantic relationships is to be stronger together - a concept we’ve gone into before when we discussed self expansion theory on episode 4 featuring Jeannie Mai. The Self expansion theory states that the best way to expand, together, is to take stock of each other’s strengths, then create a dynamic that aligns with that reality. But what happens when in the end of this audit, you realize that your strengths fall outside of traditional gender roles? And furthermore you realize that the man’s strengths are perfectly suited to aid in the woman’s success? How does it work and furthermore CAN it work when a man realizes his partner’s potential and then makes her mission, his main mission? That’s what we are going to be talking about on this episode featuring Jade Novah and Devin Johnson. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Hungryroot Go to http://www.hungryroot.com/LOVERS Use code LOVERS for 30% off your first order! That’s Hungryroot.com/LOVERS. Don’t forget to use our link, so they know we sent you. Betterhelp Discover your potential with BetterHelp Visit http://www.betterhlp.com/lovers That's www.betterhlp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month. Follow Jade: https://www.instagram.com/jadenovah/ Follow Devin: https://www.instagram.com/mrdevinaire/?hl=en Follow Shan: https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

For women in their 30s, 1 in 5 will experience problems conceiving their first child. Deja Riley, our starring guest gives firsthand advice of what it's like to go through over two years of fertility treatments. A grueling experience that's cost her over $20,000 and almost her marriage. In this episode Deja tells all: her experience with IUI, IVF, miscarriage, a chemical pregnancy, eastern medicine, and finally surrender. To keep up with Deja's journey follow her Deja: http://instagram.com/Dejariley  @Doseofduality- her podcast http://Dejariley.com Follow our other special guests Krizia:  http://instagram.com/kriziacruz_ Krystal http://instagram.com/krystalfranklintv Thanks so much to the sponsors of this episode.  SKIMS Fits Everybody Collection https://www.skims.com LOMI Get $50 off your electric countertop composter by visiting https://www.lomi.com/LOVERS  Then using promocode LOVERS RITUAL and Synbiotic+ Get 10% off your first 3 months by visiting https://www.ritual.com/LOVERS  Follow Shan: https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram https://www.tiktok.com/@shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

In this episode, I sit down with my mom and sister to talk about our sex ed growing up and now as parents ourselves, what we believe is the most important lesson to teach our kids when it comes to sex and love... You'll also hear a good bit of a past episode that you can listen to in its entirety here. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/lovers-and-friends-with-shan-boodram/id1586679298 I also explain how I plan to bring up conversations about sex to my daughters and what I hope they take away from those.  Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! Lume  New customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code LOVERS at http://www.LumeDeodorant.com Intimissimi  Go to http://www.intimissimi.com/jlo ZocDoc:  http://www.ZOCDOC.com/LOVERS Betterhelp! Go to betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month! http://www.betterhelp.com/lovers Follow Lauren: https://www.maketheshiftcoach.com/ https://www.instagram.com/maketheshiftwithlauren/ Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

Up to 1 in 4 known pregnancies may end in miscarriage. For many of us, this stat is old news - but as we continue to have this conversation aloud after generations of keeping this pain private - what I do think is new is considering how the father feels about the loss. It seems like a no-brainer, but speaking from personal experience, it hadn’t really crossed my mind until recently. So, let’s talk about it with our special guest Mike Johnson on this episode of Lovers and Friends. According to a study conducted by School of Sciences fathers displayed less “active grief” than their female partners, BUT they were more vulnerable to feelings of despair and difficulty in coping 8 weeks following the loss.  The National Library of Medicine found that of 40 men who’s partner had a miscarriage, 59% said they had a deepened awareness of the fragility of life, 45% mourned the loss of their family’s hopes and dreams, 40% reported a strong sense of vulnerability and powerlessness to help their wife and half did not share feelings with their partner at all. These are numbers that I believe our starring guest can bring a face too, and this is a face you might recognize. Mike Johnson has already been a guest on Lovers and Friends in one of our biggest episodes “Tall, Dark, Handsome and Sexually Insecure.” Follow Mike Johnson  http://instagram.com/mike_johnson https://www.feelingseen.com/ Thanks to the sponsors of this episode.  Hungryroot! Just go to Hungryroot.com/LOVERS, to get 30% off your first delivery and get your free veggies.  Intimissimi  Go to intimissimi.com/jlo again thats intimissimi.com/jlo Betterhelp! Go to betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month! Follow Shan: Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Sources: https://time.com/3982471/men-are-the-forgotten-grievers-in-miscarriage/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8064426/ https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/02646839908404587#.Vb9xQc4qefQ

Open relationships. Now, you can clutch them pearls and raise those eyebrows all you want to, but this conversation is not going away - especially not in America.  Using two separate samples based on the U.S. Census, researchers found that one-fifth of the population in the United States has engaged in consensual non-monogamy at some point in their lives and if the trend continues, the only place this number is going is up. So… are open relationships the bandaid, the cure or the curse of our generation? And furthermore, how do you actually start one? Like for real? Let’s talk about it on this episode of Lovers and Friends. We have a loaded conversation between our starring guests on this episode, Swaggy C and Bayleigh. A married couple with a new baby, but an old, inactive desire to explore consensual non-monogamy within their marriage. There are a lot of themes to pull from this interview like: what happens when non-monogamy is one person’s yum and the other’s yea I guess if that will make you happy… OR the dangers of using non-monogamy as a punishment for unfulfillment… OR the joys/ struggles of having a partner who is supportive of your desires, but not all the way cooperative. However what stood out to me in this episode is how to go from being curious to actually being actively open...for real. FOLLOW THE GUESTS ON THIS EPISODE Follow Bayleigh: https://www.instagram.com/bayydayy https://www.youtube.com/c/SwayleighGang https://www.tiktok.com/@bayydayyy Follow Chris “Swaggy C”: https://www.instagram.com/swaggyctv https://www.youtube.com/@KingSwaggy Follow Dr. Monica:  https://www.therapyforqpoc.com therapyforqpoc@gmail.com THANKS TO THE SPONSOR OF THIS EPISODE BET Watch Zatima starring Crystal Renee Hayslett and Devale Ellis by joining the millions who stream Black culture at http://www.bet.plus Better Help Discover your potential with BetterHelp.  http://www.betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month.  Hello Fresh Try America’s #1 Meal Kit for yourself. Get 60% off plus free shipping.  Http://www.hellofresh.com/lovers60 Dipsea Explore your fantasies or get inspired with a 30 day free trial now.  http://www.dipsea.com/lovers Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Open relationship reading list From Dr. Monica:  IG Educational Pages  ·      Evita Sawyers | @lavitaloca34 ·      Chanee Jackson Kendall | @chaneespeaks ·      Jhen | @monogamishpod ·      Kevin Patterson | @polyrolemodels ·      @polyamouraousblackgirl ·      Leanne Yau | @polyphiliablog   Books  ·      Pre-Order | A Polyamory Devotional: 365 Daily Reflections for the Consensually Non-monogamous | Evita Sawyers ·      Love is Not Colorblind | Kevin Patterson ·      Polysecure | Jessica Fern ·      The Ethical Slut | Hardy & Easton  ·      More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory | Ricket & Veaux ·      Polyamory & Jealousy | Ricket & Veaux

Becky G is an award-winning, chart topping, international superstar who has always been grateful for her life, but at one point, hated herself and the experience of being alive. In order to get out of that dark place and to get the clarity she needed to heal she knew she needed a superhero, but what she didn’t know is “that hero” would ultimately need to be herself. In this episode Becky G candidly shares how learning to love herself, advocate for her needs and set boundaries has opened up a world of abundance, power, and arguably most importantly, self compassion.  Follow Becky G https://www.instagram.com/iambeckyg/ https://www.tiktok.com/@iambeckyg https://www.youtube.com/@beckyg You can still watch old episodes of Becky’s Facebook Watch Show: Face to Face with Becky G  https://www.facebook.com/watch/iambeckyg/1684197931784162/ AND OF COURSE WATCH THESE INTERNETS FOR BECKY’S COACHELLA PERFORMANCES THIS APRIL! And if you came here looking for quick links to the incredible sponsors of this episode, we got you!  EveryPlate  http://www.everyplate.com/podcast  Use Code: Lovers149 Lomi:  http://www.lomi.com/lovers Use Code: Lovers BET Watch Zatima starring Crystal Renee Hayslett and Devale Ellis by joining the millions who stream Black culture at http://www.bet.plus Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

Does making friends get harder as you get older?  How the hell do I make friends? According to the American Perspective Survey, May 2021,  a lot of people are not  satisfied with the size of their friendship group. About half of Americans (51 percent) report they are very satisfied or completely satisfied with the number of friends they have. 30 percent say they are only somewhat satisfied, and 17 percent say they are not too or not at all satisfied with the number of friends they have. If you fall in that range of little to no satisfaction in friendships, here’s what you need to know about creating a bond.  So how long does it take to make a new friend? -50 hours of time before you consider them a casual friend  - 90 hours before becoming real friends  - 200hours- before becoming close friends  - source: 'Journal of Social and Personal Relationships'  As the New York Times reported in 2012, there are “three conditions that sociologists since the 1950s have considered crucial to making close friends: proximity; repeated, unplanned interactions; and a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other.” Cultivating emotionally intimate relationships, in other words, takes more work than just compliments. In this episode I sit down with my friends Krista and Tabia and we talk about our friendships, the ups, downs and the work it takes to make them work.  A special thank you to Kamil Lewis, LMFT and Danielle Byard-Jacskon, Bumble Friendship Expert for lending their expertise on forming friendships.  Thanks to the sponsors of this episode.  ZocDoc:  https://www.zocdoc.com/ Ritual https://ritual.com/lovers for 10% off your first 3 months  Follow the guests on this episode: Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Krista:  https://www.instagram.com/itskrista/ https://www.instagram.com/almost30podcast/ https://www.instagram.com/morningmicrodose/ https://www.instagram.com/moderntarot/ Follow Tabia: https://www.instagram.com/tabiacharles/ Follow Danielle Bayard-Jackson https://www.instagram.com/daniellebayardjackson/ https://www.instagram.com/friendforward/ Follow Kamil Lewis, LMFT https://www.instagram.com/kamil.lewis/?hl=en https://www.instagram.com/theexpansivegroup/?hl=en https://www.instagram.com/safewordpod/

In this episode, I am answering 10 questions submitted by YOU, allll about sex!  I am looking forward to making more Q+A episodes, so feel free to submit your questions around sex, love and dating.  Huge thank you to the sponsors of this episode Ritual  Use code Lovers for 10% your order for 3 months.  Http://ritual.com/lovers Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Jared:  Http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady

Lauren Jauregui talks about breaking things off with Ty Dolla Sign, writing Always Love, holistically healing and then finding real love again with another woman. Lauren Jauregui rose to prominence as a member of the girl group Fifth Harmony, which became one of the best- selling girl groups of all time. Since then, she has gone on to release her solo projects “Expectations” and “Prelude.” Lauren has also collaborated with Steve Aoiki, Halsey, Tainy (Tiny), and Ty-Dolla Sign whom she publicly dated for about 2 years.  Her hit, Always Love, pays homage to the end of her relationship with Ty and in this episode we get under the covers of that song to discuss the reason for the split, the lessons from that love lost and the discoveries she's made about who she is and what she needs since. Follow @Laurenjauregui on all social media platforms If you are an international listener, catch her on tour starting in March https://www.laurenjauregui.com/ Listen to “Always Love” the single and her project “Prelude” which are out now Thank you to the sponsors of this episode MAGIC SPOON Go to http://magicspoon.com/lovers to grab a variety pack and try it today! And be sure to use our promo code LOVERS at checkout to save five dollars off your order! DIPSEA For listeners of Lovers and Friends, Dipsea is offering an extended 30-day free trial when you go to http://DipseaStories.com/lovers BETTER HELP Visit http://BetterHelp.com/lovers to get 10% off your first month BUMBLE Download Bumble in your App Store and put yourself first when you look for love. Also, learn how Bumble can help make your search simpler and more satisfying at http://Bumble.com by clicking on "The Buzz"

In this episode, I talk about the 10 soulmates we may encounter over the span of our lives. Thanks for being patient with me this week on this episode. Promise to do better! Here are the 10 types of soulmates. The Stranger Soul Mate - unrequited love is still love. We needed them, we loved them, we were certain we were destined to marry them and they barely remember our last name. The black hole Soul Mate -  the person that we lost ourselves and our sensibilities to (usually our first requited soul mate experience) The Almost doesn’t count Soul Mate - the person who checked all the boxes but couldn’t light your fire (or vice versa) The Only If They… Soul Mate The Stay with you Forever but Stay Away From Me Forever Soul Mate - the person you’ll never truly be over even though it’s definitely over The one that got away - the good guy/ girl who you blew it with and now they’re happy with someone else The Rip Tide Soulmate - the relationship that preys on your needs, insecurities, weakness’ and fears. The prototype Soulmate - the person you are so sure is your one but upon further inspection you realize is just a beautiful imposter who taught you what you really needed to know about what you need out of love The Muse Soulmate - the person who’s meant to teach you about love/ connection, but not give it to you (usually a crush you never get a shot with) The Love of my Life soulmate- the relationship that allows you to be your best self and love at a higher frequency. A love marked by self insight, happiness, individual growth and true mutuality. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! Babbel! Http://www.babbel.com/lovers Bumble: Download the Bumble app today for free! Hello Fresh! Http://www.hellofresh.com/lovers Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

Have you ever found yourself attracted to someone of the same sex? How do you navigate re-orienting or re-navigating your sexual orientation after a queer experience?  That is exactly what we are breaking down in this episode. Our starring guest is singer, songwriter Kiana Lede.  Kiana is an Arizona born actress, singer and songwriter who burst into the scene with her Youtube series dubbed “Soulfood Sessions”. Her cover of Hotline bling went viral in 2016.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=77MenaZJrNw Since then Kiana has released 2 Studio EPs, over a dozen singles, and a 17 track debut album which debuted at #30 on the Billboard 200 in 2020. Her music has featured artists like Offset, Ari Lennox and BLACK.  Her music has a way of laying out sexual exploration and liberation,  Her latest project, a mixtape titled “unfinished” pays tribute to her late friend Azuma. Thanks to the sponsors of this episode.  http://www.Bumble.com or Download the Bumble App Http://www.BetterHelp.com/Lovers Http://www.zocdoc.com Follow Shan:  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Kiana:  https://www.youtube.com/@KianaLede https://www.instagram.com/kianalede/?hl=en

Celibacy, abstinence, sex strike, sexlessness, dry spell ….call it what you may but we can all agree is challenging.  This week we are joined by Stephan Speaks- one of the most popular voices in the relationship education space. Stephan has devoted himself to a life of celibacy on more than one occasion: first run with the intention to connect with God, second to connect with his God-given purpose and now he finds himself conflicted between looking for the clarity that celibacy seemed to give him before and longing for the intimacy he desires as a healthy, single, eligible bachelor.  Thanks to the sponsors of this episode. Dipsea! Whether you want to energize your sex life for yourself, a lover or so you can channel that energy elsewhere, try tuning into Dipsea because listeners of Lovers and Friends, get a 30 day free trial! Go to http://DipseaStories.com/LOVERS Links to episode clips that were featured in this episode. Glo Atanmo: https://youtu.be/lbIaM09t0ZU Tanarelle: https://youtu.be/FcKrnF2OpS4 Rachel Lindsay: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bnEORZJD2pQ&t=354s Sex Strike: http://youtu.be/71ZgcVtMq84 Follow Shan:  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Stephan Speaks: http://instagram.com/stephanspeaks https://www.stephanspeaks.com/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPBO9gLGy8ujsJ7xjARI7ow

On your journey to find and keep love (if this is your wish) have you ever felt like maybe you are meant to stay single forever? That is how this week’s guest, Glo Atanmo aka Glo Graphics on IG felt throughout most of her life. She was used to not being any man's first choice only to later date 12 quality men at once. Then in 2022, she embarked on her pursuit of finding her forever love.  She is now openly sharing her love story with her millions of followers online.  In this episode, she breaks down what the journey looked like and how she pursued an intentional dating season that led her to her lover. Research article by Lachlan Brown for HackSpirit called “I can’t find love”. - 20 things to remember if you feel this is you”.  You’re not really looking You’re list of wants in a partner is too long You’re in the wrong place You believe too much in soul mates and destiny You’re still not over your ex (intimate idealization) You don’t know what people want from you/ you don’t want to give it You have unresolved childhood issues You feel like you unconditionally deserve love You try way too hard You’re not being your true self You don’t know how to play the game You take dating for granted (entitlement issues) You sabotage relationships Thanks to the sponsors of this episode.  ZocDOC:  Go to https://zocdoc.com/lovers and download the  Zocdoc app for FREE.  Babbel:  Get up to 55% off your subscription by going to https://babbel.com/LOVERS Magic Spoon:  Get 5$ off your order by going to https://magicspoon.com/LOVERS Follow Shan:  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Glo:  http://instagram.com/glographics

Are drinking games for lovers or losers? Does alcohol make sex better and wetter or dryer and dimmer?  A study by Kathryn Lakeland of Femfresh found that 75 per cent of women said they liked to drink before getting into bed with their husband or boyfriend. In this episode we ask those in the 75 per cent to examine if this is a powerful or limiting decision. Many share that alcohol makes them feel confident, flirty and powerful, but also less aware, less excited and more prone to regrettable decisions.  My guest on this episode, ‘Drinking Games’ Author,  Sarah Levy once described being drunk on dates as a mandatory activity that made her feel like she had warm honey in her veins. Now, she is 5 years sober and ready to tell the world why.  In this episode, I am also joined by licensed therapist Erica Lubetkin who specializes in anxiety and addiction. Erica breaks down how alcohol can momentarily spike dopamine in your system, but the lasting effects are not so good.  This podcast is intended to spark hard-to-have conversations in your romantic and sexual life that lead to powerful shifts. I genuinely believe this episode delivers on that promise because we are talking about some powerful shit - alcohol.  Thanks to the sponsor of this episode, Better Help!  Visit http://Betterhelp.com/lovers for 10% off your first month.  http://Betterhelp.com/LOVERS Follow Shan:  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Sarah:  https://www.instagram.com/sarahllevy https://www.tiktok.com/@sarahllevy https://www.sarahllevy.com/ Follow Erica:  https://ericalubetkin.com/ https://www.instagram.com/erica.lubetkin

This week's question is : What does it mean to be safe in a relationship? Safety in a relationship looks different for everyone.  Our starring guest this week Nick Viall and I talked about a lot, but underneath it, I think this is the core of it… 1) How love hasn’t been safe in the past and 2) how he’s redefining safety within in his new relationship: one that has external threats in the form of public opinion because that’s what fortunately unfortunately happens when two people attempt to share one life" And now Nick is redefining what safety in a relationship means to him. Which leads to asking you “What does romantic safety mean to you?” “Any aha moments after listening to this episode?” Follow Shan:  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Nick:  https://www.instagram.com/nickviall/reels/?hl=en https://www.youtube.com/@viallfiles/videos Please help us in showing love to our incredible sponsors by clicking these links to learn more.  Download the ZocDoc app for free.  https://www.zocdoc.com/LOVERS For 10% off during your first 3 months with Ritual, go to  https://www.ritual.com/LOVERS For 55% off your Babble subscription. https://www.babble.com/lovers

Who did you become last year? What is something you could not do last year that you want to be able to do by year's end? Shan Boodram shares how 2022 - the most transformative, miserable, lucrative and full year of her life - is grounding her 2023 with these twenty questions in mind. Who did you become? What was the single best thing that happened this past year? What was the single most challenging thing that happened? What is one change you made that improved the quality of your life? What was an unexpected obstacle? What  can you give yourself credit for this year? Were you dishonest with yourself or others last year? What’s your most memorable story What were the best books you read this year? Who poured into you this year, who do you want to thank? What’s something you couldn’t do a year ago that you can do today? What’s something you want to be able to say you can do a year from now that you can’t do yet? What promise do you keep breaking to yourself? What promise will you make to yourself this year? What was the most enjoyable part of your work? What was the most challenging part of your work (both professionally and at home)? What was the best way you used your time this past year? What was your single biggest time waster in your life this past year?  What one word or intention do you hope will define your 2023? What was biggest thing you learned this past year?  What would you do this next year if you knew you could not fail? Thank you to our sponsor Hello Fresh! There is a reason why Hello Fresh is America’s #1 Meal Kit and you can find out for yourself with this incredible offer!  Go to http://HelloFresh.com/lovers21 and use code lovers21 for 21 free meals plus free shipping!  One more time, incase you need that to sink in...  That is http://HelloFresh.com/lovers21 use code lovers21 for 21 free meals plus free shipping.

What happens when you combine love, sex, magic and best friends? In this episode Shan sits down with Erica and Milah, hosts of Good Moms, Bad Choices and together they unravel the goddess experience. What does that look like? How did it happen and most of all…. did it bring them closer as best friends? This episode touches on the importance of platonic intimacy and how through bearing it all with your bestie: the real, the rare, the repulsive and the riveting - can actually make for a natural progression to experiencing and enhancing each other sexually in a VERY explicit, but still VERY plutonic way. This is an episode about how our friends can play an incredibly enriching role in our sex lives and moreover in other creative facets of our being.  Follow Our Guests Erica and Milah:  http://instagram.com/goodmoms_badchoices https://www.goodmomsbadchoices.com/ Follow Matilda Carrol: https://www.instagram.com/iammatildacarroll Follow Shan:  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Please help us in showing love to our incredible sponsors by clicking these links to learn more.  Gerber Life Guaranteed Life Insurance No medical exams and no health questionnaire required.  Just go to the website for a free quote. http://GerberLifeFamily.com StoryWorth: Get $10 off of your first purchase at StoryWorth and give the gift they’ll be talking about for years Http://Storyworth.com/lovers Lumi Labs: Microdose http://Microdose.com Use code: LOVERS  Microdose is available nationwide. To learn more about microdosing THC go to Microdose.com and use code LOVERS to get free shipping & 30% off your first order.  Manscaped: http://www.manscaped.com Use code: LOVERS Get free shipping and 20% off by going to manscaped.com and using LOVERS at checkout .

Singer, songwriter Jessie Reyes candidly opens up about how on her quest for love, she recently played the role of the “bad guy”. For many, especially women, this is something that can be very hard to admit.  Jessie Reyez reflects on how she f***** up, how she tried to right her wrong, how she coped when her apology to her ex wasn’t enough, and what insight she gained from this experience.  Jessie Reyez is a Toronto born singer and songwriter who burst into the scene in 2016 with her platinum single Figures. In 2020, Jessie received her first Grammy nomination for Urban Contemporary Album.  She is admired internationally and has amassed millions of followers and is currently embarking on a national sold out tour. Jessie has collaborated with artists like Eminem, 6lack, and Kehlani. She has also written songs for Calvin Harris, Dua Lipa and Normani. Her new album Yessie, is out NOW. Follow Jessie:  http://instgram.com/jessiereyez/ https://www.youtube.com/@JessieReyez https://jessiereyez.com/ https://open.spotify.com/artist/3KedxarmBCyFBevnqQHy3P Follow Shan:  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Please help us in showing love to our incredible sponsors by clicking these links to learn more.  Gerber Life Guaranteed Life Insurance No medical exams and no health questionnaire required.  Just go to the website for a free quote. http://GerberLifeFamily.com Hello Fresh  http://www/hellofresh.com/ Use code LOVERS18 at checkout! Go to http://HelloFresh.com/lovers18 and use code lovers18 for 18 free meals plus free shipping! There is reason why it is America’s #1 Meal Kit so give it a try for yourself.  Lumi Labs: Microdose http://Microdose.com Use code: LOVERS  Microdose is available nationwide. To learn more about microdosing THC go to Microdose.com and use code LOVERS to get free shipping & 30% off your first order.  Manscaped: http://www.manscaped.com Use code: LOVERS Get free shipping and 20% off by going to manscaped.com and using LOVERS at checkout .

Steelo Brim shares how the culture of toxic masculinity where men are encouraged not to go deep with themselves, almost destroyed his chances at real love both with himself and with women. He also talks about how he and his longtime girlfriend alahna jade chose to break out of the monogamy-one-size-fits-all box in order to create a healthy relationship on their terms and Steelo shares why his last relationship with fiance Conna Walker did not work.  Sterling Brim better known as Steelo is a comedian, podcast host, actor, TV host, producer and musician. You may recognize him from hosting MTV’s show titled Ridiculousness.  Steelo is a host on his weekly podcast called “Wine and Weed” where he and his co host- unpack current events and pop culture. Steelo unpacks what he needed to let go of and lean into in order to create the love he needed in his life. Follow Steelo http://instagram.com/SteeloBrim  http://youtube.com/@wineandweed Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Please help us in showing love to our incredible sponsors by clicking these links to learn more.  Gerber Life Guaranteed Life Insurance No medical exams and no health questionnaire required.  Just go to the website for a free quote. http://GerberLifeFamily.com BetterHelp As the world’s largest therapy service, BetterHelp has matched 3 million people with professionally licensed and vetted therapists available 100% online.  Save 10% off your first month at  http://BetterHelp.com/lovers. 

 In this episode, I sit down with my lover, my partner, my baby daddy, my everything,  Jared. This conversation gets really real. We love our kids but do we still like our life? Do we still like each other? This time in Colombia with my family has sprung up a lot of 'aha' moments: some good and others not so good.  Life after kids is unpredictable and it can sometimes feel like that spark is lost. Which takes me to asking him an important question that to be honest made me nervous.  "Are you happy?" It gets raw, real and made me realize what I need to do more of.. HUGE thank you to the sponsor of this episode, Hello Fresh. There’s a reason why it’s America’s #1 Meal Kit. Fresh and delicious food delivered right to your door with perfectly proportioned ingredients.  Go to http://www.hellofresh.com/lovers65  Use code LOVERS65 for 65% off!  Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Jared: Jared: https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady/ 

When was the last time your significant other gave you an ultimatum? When was the last time you gave them an ultimatum? In this episode, Shan sits down with Comedian, Actor, and Filmmaker, David So. He breaks down what led him to this breaking point and ultimately how this ultimatum impacted their relationship.... for better or worse? Thanks to the sponsor of this episode ZocDoc. ZocDoc is a FREE app that shows you doctors who are patient-reviewed, take your insurance and are available when you need them. With ZocDoc, you can see real, verified patient reviews to help you find the right doctor in your network and your neighborhood. Go to http://Zocdoc.com/com/Lovers to try it out for yourself! It is as easy as search, find and book an appointment, in person or remotely, that works for your schedule. Again, go to http://Zocdoc.com/com/Lovers to try it out for yourself! Thanks to the sponsor of this episode, Apostrophe. Post pregnancy, my melasma was a real struggle. A few weeks ago it was visible in the middle of my forehead, above my eyebrows and my fav, above my lip but last week my MUA was getting me ready, he actually said the melasma was fading. Thanks to the Apostrophe team, I  found a safe treatment for me plus a sunscreen for prevention. It came in a cute box with easy instructions and bonus, some funky stickers. Try it out! http://Apostrophe.com/Lovers First visit for only $5.00 at http://Apostrophe.com/Lovers Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/c/shannontboodram https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng Follow David:  https://www.instagram.com/davidsocomedy/?hl=en https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCt8OnQ7ztuLrPrehlj8ZuuQ

How many times have you romanticized your life and where you THOUGHT you’d be by a certain age. For many of us, by 30 we imagine ourselves to be wifed up and thriving in a career.  In this episode, I sit down with Kamie Crawford, the host of MTV’s Catfish and former Miss Teen USA. Kamie is also the host of her very own Podcast called Relationshit. Kamie is the epitome of 30, flirty and thriving!  Last time Kamie was on the podcast, we broke down the lows and hell nos that led to her breakup and now, we are breaking down what she is leaving behind in her 20s and what she is welcoming in her 30s, including... a new love.  Thanks to the sponsors of this episode Better Help! For 10% off go to http://betterhelp.com/lovers  Thanks to the sponsors of this episode Gerber Life Guaranteed.  Just answer 4 easy questions to get your free personalized quote instantly, by visiting http://GerberLifeFamily.com  Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Kamie  http://instagram.com/kamiecrawford http://instagram.com/relationshit

Does sex HAVE to get less passionate as time goes on in a relationship? Is it possible to keep that “can’t keep your hands off each other” feeling in a marriage? In this episode we explore these questions and share the depressing/ hopeful truth about the secret to good sex in a long relationship.  DID YOU KNOW YOU CAN ALSO WATCH FULL EPISODES OF LOVERS AND FRIENDS? CLICK HERE TO SEE OUR YOUTUBE CHANNEL https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng Fun fact, falling in love is stressful on the body, but being in love is healthy for the body. When we are falling in love we experience an increase in cortisol, the stress hormone, but studies show that when we develop an attachment to someone oxytocin can actually work to inhibit cortisol production and stress response. That’s why researchers say that true love probably begins when the hormonal cocktail stops working.  So long story short maybe the loss of passion in our sex life as we know it, is not such a bad thing Meet the guests of this episode!!! Kevin Fredericks aka KevOn Stage is an actor, stand-up comedian, entrepreneur, podcast developer and host and filmmaker. Kevin is part of a generation of comedians who gained fame online and has accumulated hundreds of millions of views on social media. He is currently on his 3rd SOLD OUT national comedy tour and he is a New York Times bestselling author with his book Marriage Be Hard that he co-authored with his wife Melissa Fredericks who you might know on the internets as Mrs Kevon Stage. Melissa hosts The Love Hour podcast and is best known for her betterment campaigns and advocacy for self-love.  Together, Kevin and Melissa provide a hilarious and fresh master class on what it takes to build and maintain a healthy and lasting relationship. Follow KevOnStage: http://instagram.com/kevonstage http://youtube.com/kevonstage http://kevonstage.com Follow Kev’s streaming service:  Kevon Stage Studios Follow Melissa aka Mrs.KevOnStage http://instagram.com/mrskevonstage http://youtube.com/mrskevonstage https://www.mrskevonstage.com/ Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

Dating in your 20s is a lot like being given free range with paint as a toddler. Things can be fun but can get messy really quick. But the beauty is, you're young and have time to clean the mess up. In this episode, that is exactly what we are getting into.   Harry Jowsey and Georgia Hassarati - two on again off again, mid twenties, love birds in the midst of what we just described. Harry, Georgia and myself all met on the Netflix show that I’ve worked on as a sex expert for several seasons, Too Hot to Handle. Harry was a retreat attendee on season one and Georgia, on season three. They met because Harry asked Georgia to be a guest on his podcast, Tap in with Harry Jowsey. Harry and Georgia share a lot of the same things in common: background, career aspirations, sense of humor and the desire for real love in their 20s. They start hanging out, yada yada yada, they fall in love, have a few incredible rom-com-esque months together before things got a little TOO real… too heavy for Harry who then decides to call things off. But in classic-twenty-something-style our boy Harry made another big call a few weeks after that. And that’s where they are today… And if you’re not really clear where that “at” is, don’t worry, neither are they… and that’s kinda the beauty of trying to do the love thing in your twenties…right?  Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! ZocDoc Go to ZocDoc.com/LOVERS to start your search for a top rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.  That’z ZocDoc.com/LOVERS.  Gerber Life Family GerberLifeFamily.com Just answer 4 easy questions to get your free personalized quote instantly, by visiting GerberLifeFamily.com Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody http://shanboodram.com loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Harry- @HarryJowsey http://instagram.com/harryjowsey http://youtube.com/harryjowsey http://tiktok.com/harryjowsey Follow Georgia: @GeorgiaHassarati http://instagram.com/georgiahassarati http://youtube.com/GeorgiaHassarati1 http://tiktok.comGeorgiaHassarati

Shan sits down with artist Tanerelle to explore all about sacred sexuality and intimacy.  Sacred sexuality is an entirely different way to connect with your partner. It involves delicacy, hugs, caresses and even at times no touching while holding space for meditation.  All this deep work, leads to deep release which can include more powerful orgasms to longer-lasting, non-ejaculatory, and multiple orgasms for men and numerous types of orgasms for women. Thanks to our sponsor for this episode, Apostrophe! We have a special deal for our audience: Get your first visit for only five dollars at http://Apostrophe.com/LOVERS when you use our code:LOVERS. That’s a savings of fifteen dollars! This code is only available to our listeners.  To get started, just go to http://Apostrophe.com/LOVERSand click Begin Visit,  then use our code LOVERS at sign up and you’ll get your first visit for only five dollars!

Sincere Show, best known as Jason Derulo's DJ and a former castmate of Love and Hip Hop, came to this podcast to discuss non-monogamy and why his life of abundance has informed his decision to seek out an open relationship. However, the interview went much deeper and wider covering topics like fear of abandonment, sexual trauma, power dynamics and harmful tropes.  This episode poses thought starters such as: What does it look like to be healed? Can you know what you want without knowing yourself without the baggage of trauma? How much space should we make for hurt people who hurt people? When are boundaries unhelpful brick walls? Should we prioritize or drive for sex or safety? Thank you to the sponsor of this episode HelloFresh Go to http://HelloFresh.com/lovers65 and use code lovers65 for 65% off plus free shipping! Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody http://shanboodram.com loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow the guests on this episode  www.instagram.com/sincereshow tiktok.com/sincereshow www.twitter.com/sincereshow

Shan Boodram delves into the taboo and hot topic that is cheating: are there ways to predict if your partner will cheat? Are there early warning signs? Recently two huge celebrity cheating scandals broke out- Adam Levine’s alleged affair and Nia Long’s fiancee, Ime Udoka’s affair. Often when we think of someone being cheated on, we cast an archetype - But in this case the people who’ve been cheated on don’t fit the script at all! On this episode, Shan talks to Estefania Pessoa better know as Tefi on Tiktok, who provided an unexpected take on cheating. Tefi breaks down how  your code shapes your decisions, character, morals and therefore if you're likely going to be a cheater.  But there was another take on how to spot a cheater, that I found very fascinating. Estefania Pessoa better known as Tefi on TikTok spoke about code. Tefi explained how code is your character, your morals, and how this code will impact the decisions you make. Decisions that will not only affect you, but those that you love.  Shan also sits down with  Dr. Barry Goldstein, a clinical psychologist who enlightens us on what to look out for to get a leg up on those who can’t keep their legs closed.  Promo Codes: Better Help: Visit www.betterhelp.com/Lovers today to get 10% off your first month. Apostrophe: Visit Apostrophe.com/Lovers for your first visit for only 5$ Thank you Better Help and Apostrophe for sponsoring this episode.  Follow Shan:  http://instagram.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng Call in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow the guests on this episode:  Tefi  https://www.tiktok.com/@hellotefi https://www.instagram.com/hellotefi Dr. Barry Goldstein  http://realityshrink.net/

Is my dick too small? Do they notice my man boobs? Does she think I just want sex? Are my legs too skinny? Am I strong enough to do any position she desires? Is this a safe space for my trauma? These are things that the men in this episode have said and I really hope you take the time to listen. Mike Johnson, an Air Force Vet and certified sex coach,  best known for being on ABC's The Bachelorette and Bachelor in Paradise, opens up about his struggle with performance anxiety. Performance anxiety happens when you feel stress about your body image or your ability to please your partner. And sex coach Alex Grendi talks about what men really need to get and stay hard PLUS the importance of men being vulnerable.   What should someone say when their partner can’t get hard? What are men most insecure about? Let’s discuss Thank you Better Help for sponsoring this episode.    Promo Code:  Better Help: Visit www.betterhelp.com/Lovers today to get 10% off your first month. Follow Shan: http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow the guests on this episode:  Mike Johnson https://www.instagram.com/Mike_Johnson http://www.feelingseen.com Alex Grendi https://www.instagram.com/Alex.grendi https://www.superiorlovers.com https://www.youtube.com/c/AlexGrendiSL

Nick Canon's third baby mama Abby De La Rosa says she is happy with Nick as her primary partner in their very open relationship. Do you believe her? Let's examine why or why not..."Believe women" is an American political slogan arising out of the #MeToo movement that refers to accepting women's allegations of sexual harassment or sexual assault at face value. BUT does it have limitations? Do we also believe women when they say that they're happy in romantic relationships...even if they're involved in dynamics that we don't think would work for us? Abby challenges us to see beyond our biases AND hold both of her contrasting truths about her love life. Also in this episode LMFT Mayana Geathers shares her professional opinion on believing women claiming to be happy in unbelievable arrangements. Follow Shan:  http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow the guests on this episode:  Abby De La Rosa https://www.instagram.com/hiabbydelarosa http://onlyfans.com/hiabbydelarosa Mayana Geathers https://www.instagram.com/mayanageathers/ https://www.mayanageathers.com/ Kenya Alexander https://www.instagram.com/kenyaonhair/?hl=en https://www.kenyaonhair.com/

And despite my husband not being there, it was an incredible experience that taught me so much. In this episode I share my top three epiphanies, the reason why the father not being there was the best choice for our family and what this all means for this podcast going forward.   Follow Shan http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com    

In todays Episode Jared takes over the podcast because Shan is full term and needs a break. Jared opens up about the struggles of living with a pregnant woman. It gets raw, real and unfiltered. If you have been pregnant before or lived with a pregnant women before can you relate!  Note from Shan: This is a unique episode of Lovers and Friends and also apart of a small series I'm going to make surrounding preparing my life for our second blessing, our second (yet to be named) daughter. Regularly scheduled program will be back in late August!     Follow Shan    http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow the guests on this episode    Jared: https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady/  Mike: https://www.instagram.com/mikegdnss/ Byron: https://www.instagram.com/lordbyronb/

I'm 38 weeks pregnant and terrified that I still feel so negatively about my current life and the idea of life with two babies under two...so in this episode I unpack these very ugly feelings with some beautiful souls: actor Shanola Hampton (mother of two) and performance coach Lauren Morrison (mother of two). With them I ask the million dollar questions: what happens when the way you know you're supposed to feel, has little resemblance to your reality? And more frighteningly... What if that never changes?   This is a unique episode of Lovers and Friends and also apart of a small series I'm going to make surrounding preparing my life for our second blessing, our second (yet to be named) daughter. Regularly scheduled program will be back in late August!   Follow Shan    http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow the guests on this episode    Shanola Hampton http://instagram.com/shanolahampton   Lauren Morrison http://maketheshiftcoach.com http://instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth

Tee aka HiMyNamesTee Tee is in a 12-year on and off relationship with her first love and first sexual partner that she feels equal parts hope and despair towards. Should she stay in feeling as though she's with her soul mate and twin flame OR run in knowing that she's tried so hard for so long and still... Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow the guests on this episode    Tee Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/himynamestee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/himynamesteee/ Music: https://open.spotify.com/artist/5cdrxr9s52oZCf78xOLa4R   Here is the exercise Tee and I did together:   Section One Framing - tell the story of why you should stay and why you should go Section Two - tell me the things that make you love you. Things that make you a positive, motivating force within your own life: 1) Can you currently approach growth and your outlook on the future from a place of worthiness? 2) Who are you, at your current best?    3) What parts of yourself do you want to protect at all cost?   4) What is your vision for your future? 5) What do you need to be happy in order to give yourself the best shot at making this vision a reality?   Section Three - answering the hard questions 1) If you had to sum up your relationship in one word, it would be? 2) Is this a familiar pattern? 3) When I think about the future of my relationship, I typically feel?  4) Are you your optimal self when you’re with your partner?  5) Do you feel appreciated by your partner? 6) In a dream world scenario, what’s the ideal relationship that you’d like to have with your partner? 7) In the real world, given what you know so far, what kind of relationship is possible, today 8) Have you tried hard enough in this relationship? 9) Should it be this much work? 10) If you had a son or daughter you deeply loved, would you want them to be in a relationship with someone like the person you are with right now? 11) How will my life change without this person? 12) How could my life change for the better with this person in it? 13) What haven’t I learned from this relationship? 14) If I could get an email from myself ten years from now, what advice might it have? 15) If this is all there is, will it be enough?  16) How often do you fight with your partner? 18) Do you ever wish that you were in a relationship with someone else?   Section Four I pulled those prompts from this research article https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1948550617722834 You can also find a table of the prompts here in this article https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/experimentations/201708/how-do-we-decide-whether-or-not-break  

Can genuine friends truly transition into longterm romantic and sexual partners? Is it more ideal to gradually walk into love WITH someone who’s already your best friend OR fall in love and then become best friends?   According to a 2021 study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science finds that two thirds of romantic couples started out in a platonic relationship. Yes, 68% reported that their current romantic relationship began as a friendship! And the rate of friends to lovers was even higher among 20 somethings and within the LGBTQ+ communities with 85% reported that their relationship began as a friendship. And more interestingly I think, only 30% said they were sexually attracted to the partner from the very beginning.    You might be like, why is this so shocking to you and it’s because in essence our generation might be rewriting the traditionally understood blueprint for forming romantic bonds.   This is what we discuss with guests Ezee and Natalie, two comedic-content creators turned collaborators turned best friends turned lovers, who have shared every part of their journey online and thus have sparked a lot of conversations about whether plutonic friends really shift to romantic lovers in a way that is both equal and sustainable? And with Hotline Bling producer plus half of DVSN's Nineteen85 aka Paul Jefferies.     Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note   ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com       Follow the guests on this episode      Ezee    https://www.instagram.com/ezee   https://www.youtube.com/c/youngezee   https://www.youtube.com/c/ezeexnatalie     Natalie https://www.instagram.com/natalie.odell/   https://www.youtube.com/c/NatalieOdellXo   https://www.youtube.com/c/ezeexnatalie     Nineteen85   https://www.instagram.com/nineteen85_   https://www.instagram.com/dvsn   https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9xq-hVeC-OJHvWOxGydo9g    

Let’s get right into this week’s episode: do many straight men utilize sex education, outside of watching mainstream porn, in order to ensure they’re really putting it down? In my opinion…no… as both a sex educator and as someone who’s had sex with straight men, I gotta say The ego that I’ve been met with from straight men has been toxic at times and really sad at others. And to me ego is both the biggest turnoff and biggest, for lack of a better term, cock blocker to actual great sex.   In this episode I get a group of straight men, a male sex coach and Tim Chantarangsu to shed light on why men are often too proud to engage in sex education.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note   ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com   Follow the guests on this episode    Starring Guest Tim Chantarangsu:  http://instagram.com/timchantarangsu Podcast: No Chasers  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/no-chaser-with-timothy-chantarangsu/id1454272724   Male Sex Coach Alex Grendi is a male sex coach that specializes in helping men with premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction. He also helps men integrate what they've learned about becoming superior sexual lovers into all areas of their life. http://Superiorlovers.com https://www.youtube.com/c/AlexGrendiSL   Jared Brady http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady https://youtube.com/c/Enjoy248 Follow enjoy the podcast wherever you listen to podcasts     

To submit to someone else is defined as accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the authority or will of another. So, how does that play out in romantic partnerships? Actor, comedian and bestie in your head Jasmin Brown shares why she joyfully submits to her man unconditionally. Jasmin also sheds light on the power split, sexual dynamic, as well as the roles and responsibilities that often come with identifying as a submissive woman to an alpha partner.  Has the art of submission in love and dating been lost? At the end of the episode I discuss this with a panel of my lovers and friends: Jared Brady, Lauren Morrison and Chris Morrison    Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join Follow the guests on this episode Starring Guest Jasmin Brown:  http://instagram.com/watchjazzy http://twitter.com/watchjazzy Panel Lauren Morrison Maketheshiftcoach.com http://instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth Jared Brady http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady https://youtube.com/c/Enjoy248   Follow enjoy the podcast wherever you listen to podcasts  What I am committed to doing in a post Roe vs Wade America https://www.instagram.com/p/CfVAG1WJdo0/  

If you give head, blow jobs, top, and/or oral sex on a penis…why not be the best of it? I brought together research from top experts, a medical penis expert, a self-proclaimed grade A head giver and a group of men to weigh in on the do's, don’ts and maybes that will make you a master at sucking dick.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow the guests on this episode Rayna Greenberg: https://www.instagram.com/Rayna.Greenberg Rayna’s hit podcast: girlsgottaeatpodcast.com Support Rayna’s sex toy line Vibes Only:  https://vibesonly.com/   Dr Rena Malik (urologist)   https://instagram.com/renamalikmd https://youtube.com/c/RenaMalikMD   Follow Dr Kojo Acq https://instagram.com/jakademik_md   Follow enjoy the podcast Jared Brady, Los and Kray Brady Wherever you listen to podcasts AND on YouTube   https://youtube.com/c/Enjoy248   Resources for better oral sex on penis’ mentioned in this episode   https://beducated.com/f/couples/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=influencer&utm_campaign=bg2206-boody&coupon_code=boody   https://www.popsugar.com/love/how-to-give-an-amazing-blow-job-47239810

What's the relationship between toxic self-love and a toxic life? This is the question that Nina Parker was forced to answer when she turned 40. Her journey to discovering and then correcting what she found when she looked at her life honestly led her to the happiest time in her life!   In this episode of Lovers and Friends, Emmy nominated Television host and Fashion Designer Nina Parker shares how she got through her darkest time during the pandemic. Now, she’s gotten her life together in ways she never expected. As Nina put it, it's a rom-com … WITHOUT a partner. ENJOY!    THE NINA PARKER COLLECTION IS AVAILABLE NOW @macys. https://www.macys.com/shop/featured/nina-parker   You can also follow Nina on http://instagram.com/theninaparker   Follow Shan on Instagram: http://instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: http://shanboodram.com/join

Astrology … what has your experience been with it (especially) when it comes to dating? What if someone has a different perspective on it than you? Oftentimes, it can be a judgmental, mean, hot-ass mess when one person believes in the stars and astrological signs and the other does not. Personally, I think we can all collectively do better with it. In this episode, we dive into how believers and non-believers of astrology can come together and focus on what really matters.    This episode addresses and then attempts to bridge the divide. I am joined by famed astrologer Aliza Kelly as well as my astrology-loving friends Amber's Closet and Toni Romiti.   Follow Shan on Instagram: http://instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: http://shanboodram.com/join   ALIZA KELLY is a celebrity astrologer, columnist, bestselling author, and host. Aliza has been featured in The New York Times, The New Yorker, Vogue, InStyle, The Cut, and numerous other publications. She's the author of three books: Most recent being This Is Your Destiny: Using Astrology to Manifest Your Best Life Get Aliza's book here: https://www.amazon.com/This-Your-Destiny-Astrology-Manifest/dp/1250763142/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=You can also listen to Aliza's podcast "Stars Like Us" wherever you listen to podcasts   Amber Whittington is one of the leading voices fighting for equality for the LGBTQ+ community.  A content creator, activist, host and actress, Amber is changing the world by using her platform to educate global audiences on the black and queer experiences. Amber is an avid astrology enthusiast. Follow Amber: http://instagram.com/amberscloset   Toni Romiti is an athlete-turned-singer who parlayed viral fame into pop stardom. She has created music Alongside rapper Ty Dolla $ign, guested on DJ Carisma’s 2020 single “That’s Facts.” And is an avid astrology enthusiast. Follow Toni: http://instagram.com/toniromiti

How would you feel if your lover said to you, “thank you for the opportunities to improve and grow in this relationship, but sadly, I think in order to continue to evolve, I have to break up with you…”   You’ve probably heard this statement before, “some people are in our life for just a reason and a season.” If the reason and season length are mutual -- INCREDIBLE! But, what happens when it’s not? Let’s examine all sides of what happens when "can I spend my life with you" turns into "thank you, next!"   This episode is all about the harsh and beautiful realities of “relationship cocooning” (a phrase I think I may have invented). It stars Sorelle Amore who shocked the internet when she broke off her engagement, Makeba Lindsay whose marriage ended when they had different ideas of growth, and Eman who wants to put an end to men who “cocoon” through her. Follow Shan on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: http://www.shanboodram.com/join   Learn more about Sorelle Amore: https://www.instagram.com/sorelleamore/ Learn about obtaining financial freedom with Sorelle: https://www.abundantia.co   Follow Eman: http://instagram.com/eman Follow Makeba: http://instagram.com/ynotkeeb

 A lot of us learn how to love, but we don’t necessarily learn how to cope with not loving everything about the person we love. This episode is all about the difference between disliking some things about your partner and/or disliking your partner. How do you know if something small and annoying can turn into something big and unbearable down the road? What should you do when you get to the place where the two of you just can't seem to get along?   Jazzmyne Jay is back in this episode to share why she moved in with her partner and then moved out once she found that they just couldn’t get along. And guess what -- they are still together to this day despite that storm. I am also joined by my husband Jared Brady and we discuss why we've never liked each other less than we do right now. Plus, we go through an exercise to try and understand this phase we’re currently in. I also answer some of your questions!   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody   Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join     Follow Jazzmyne Jay: http://instagram.com/jazzmynejay OR http://instagram.com/plussizefriendly/   Follow Jared on his podcast Enjoy the Podcast OR on Instagram http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady

Kevin Samuels, an image consultant and a well-known relationship commentator (especially within the black community), died on May 5, 2022. I wish peace to his family and friends who are grieving the loss on a personal level. As for those who have been impacted by Kevin’s work and words within the last couple of years as he rose to notoriety, I hope we can find peace by addressing the harm and help that his work caused. As a community, I hope we can discuss where we want to go next. This is why the only guests on this episode are you all.   Together, we assess who benefited from Kevin Samuels’s work and who was deeply harmed by it. Furthermore, we evaluate what his death means for the future of relationship and dating advice. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join

When you search non-binary on YouTube, videos like “There Are Only Two Genders - Prove Me Wrong!” show up. In this episode, we bring the heated debate surrounding breaking the binary from a boil to something digestible and actionable. Here to help us unpack this topic is non-binary sexuality expert Ev'Yan Whitney and non-binary multi-dimensional artist Jordianna AKA Jordi.  In this episode we’re discussing: the difference between sex and gender, the goal of the non-binary movement, the dangers of ignorance, and why non-binary people want you to identify however the fuck you want to identify.  Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Ev'Yan Whitney: https://www.instagram.com/evyan.whitney Support Ev'Yan's book and podcast: https://www.evyanwhitney.com/ Support Jordianna's work: https://earthtojordi.com/ Learn more about Sorelle Amore: https://www.instagram.com/sorelleamore/

Does God really care about your sex life? And if so, does that also mean that God can help you have the best sex of your life? After more than a decade of Catholic school and Christain churches I was unclear about the Bible, God's actual will, sex, and the relationship between pleasure and sin. In an effort to gain clarity, I brought in some people to talk about it! This week's staring guest is Shameless Maya – A Christian YouTube star who was conflicted and confused while practicing celibacy. You'll also be hearing from theology expert Tara Teng, Christian influencer Brenda Marie Davies aka God is Grey, Jared Brady and his father Derrex Brady.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow Shameless Maya Instagram: www.instagram.com/mayasworld Follow Maya's Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/shamelessmaya Follow Maya and Max's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MaxMayaLiving   Follow Derrex Brady https://www.instagram.com/derrexbrady Watch JOHNSON on Bounce TV   Follow Tara Teng https://www.instagram.com/misstarateng/ Preorder Brenda's books "Your Body is a Revolution: Healing Our Relationships with Our Bodies, Each Other and the Earth".  Available everywhere Spring 2023.   Follow Brenda "God is Grey" YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/GodisGrey   Follow Jared: http://instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady

Does finding the kind of relationship you want mean conforming to an ideal of what a romantic partner is “supposed to be”? What if you don’t want to conform? Does this mean you’re not cut out for love? To explore further, Shan sits down with both Mandii, from the “See, The Thing Is” and “WHOREible Decisions” Podcasts and Khleo Thomas from Disney’s “Holes”; two successful and fascinating individuals who have come to believe that they are undateable. Not because of any toxic traits, but because their version of life-long happiness is not in line with what society feeds us. Listen in on this conversation as Shan helps these guests figure out what’s broken.   Follow Shan Boodram on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Buy Shan’s Book “The Game of Desire: 5 Surprising Secrets to Dating with Dominance and Getting What You Want” wherever you buy your books or audiobooks   Follow Mandii B on Instagram: www.instagram.com/fullcourtpumps Listen to Mandii’s podcasts “Whoreible Decisions” and “So The Thing Is” wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Khleo on Instagram: www.instagram.com/khleothomas Check out Khleo on Twitch: www.twitch.tv/khleothomas

Are you familiar with the term “gaslighting?” Shan’s guest, Melissa Rivers, was a victim of it in her previous relationship - and she didn’t hesitate to share her experiences. In this episode, we learn about Melissa and Shan’s gaslighting experiences and the toxic impact it has had on them. Shan also brings in Dr. Barry Goldstein, a clinical psychologist, therapist, and consultant to reality-based production shows such as “Make Up or Break Up.” Dr. Barry provides clinical knowledge about gaslighting and tools to not only identify it; but challenge it as well.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with Shan and Lovers and Friends Casting: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow Melissa Rivers on Instagram: www.instagram.com/melissariversofficial Buy Melissa’s Latest Book: “Lies My Mother Told Me: Tall Tales from a Short Woman” Listen to the #GroupText Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast Visit Dr. Barry Goldstein’s Website to learn more about his services: www.realityshrink.net

Let’s talk about dating and why so many people are lost in the gap between what they’re getting and what they want out of love. To get up close and personal about it, Shan welcomes Harry Jowsey to the podcast, who you might recognize as the Australian heartthrob from the 2020 season of Netflix's "Too Hot to Handle". So how is it that a 6'5", successful, wealthy, gorgeous, and emotionally available man is having trouble finding "the one"? The answer surprised him, and may even surprise you too.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody    Get your copy of Shan's Book "The Game of Desire" on Amazon   Follow Harry Jowsey on Instagram: www.instagram.com/harryjowsey    Listen to "Tap in with Harry Jowsey" wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Los on Instagram: www.instagram.com/blamelos    Listen to Los and his 2 co-hosts every week on "Enjoy the Podcast" wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Chelsea on Instagram: www.instagram.com/chealseaprobably

How important is humor in love and dating? In that same vein how harmful can humor in the wrong way at the wrong time be in a romantic connection? To explore this question, Shan sits with the hilarious Hannah Berner of Giggly Squad and Berning in Hell podcasts and Bravo’s Summer House, and Hannah reveals all the fun parts of being in love with a comedian…and what happens when the joke goes too far. Shan also gets some expert insight from Dr. Helen Fisher, PhD, and finally, find out why Shan’s husband Jared never laughs at her jokes. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Keep up to date with Shan and casting calls for Lovers and Friends:  www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Hannah Berner on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/beingbernz Listen to the “Giggly Squad” and “Berning in Hell” podcasts wherever you are listening to this podcast Follow Jared Brady on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady Listen to Jared and his co-hosts week on “Enjoy the Podcast” wherever you are listening to this podcast Follow Lauren Morrison on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth

In this very intimate and vulnerable episode, Shan sits down with her husband, Jared, to discuss the real fears they have about the future of their marriage and intimacy now that baby #2 is on the way. Being in new territory, Shan tries to learn as much as she can about how others have navigated similar challenges including her audience, her mother, her sister, and Erica Dickerson and Milah Mapp from the podcast Good Moms, Bad Choices.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Keep up to date with Shan and upcoming Lovers and Friends casting calls: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow “Good Moms, Bad Choices” on Instagram: www.instagram.com/goodmoms_badchoices Listen to their podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Lauren Morrison on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth Follow Olivia Boodram on Instagram: www.instagram.com/yourtravelwitholivia

Let’s talk about sex! Specifically why are so many straight men so closed-minded and unadventurous when it comes to sex? And why aren’t we talking about this more? To cover this, Shan collects a wide variety of male perspectives from legendary sex educator, Dan Savage, the hosts of the Hard or Soft Podcast, and as a special treat, Shan’s husband, Jared, gets together with the closest men in his life to get their honest reflections on why straight men are more concerned with dominance and masculinity than pleasure and self expression in the bedroom.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Stay up to date with casting and more from Shan: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow the Hard or Soft Podcast on Instagram: www.instagram.com/hardorsoftpod Listen to Hard or Soft Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Dan Savage on Instagram: www.instagram.com/dansavage Listen to the Savage Love Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast   Follow Jared Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady Follow Los on Instagram: www.instagram.com/blamelos Listen to Enjoy the Podcast wherever you are listening to this podcast Follow Kray Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/datboikray

When you've gone through a break-up, it's time for a pity party, right? But what if we celebrated the newly single instead? And maybe even aspired to be more like them? In this episode, Shan breaks down the highs and the lows of breakups with Kamie Crawford, host of the podcast Relationsh*t and MTV's Catfish. Kamie reveals what went on behind the scenes of her public break-up, and how she’s moving forward. Then, YouTuber and social activist Amber Lee Whittington reflects on how her heartbreaks have resulted in…well, you have to listen to find out. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody  Join Shan’s mailing list to stay up to date with casting calls and Shan Boody updates:  www.shanboodram.com/join  Follow Kami Crawford on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/kamiecrawford  Listen to Kami’s podcast Relationsh*t on the very same platform you are listening to this podcast Follow Amber on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/amberscloset  Subscribe to Amber’s YouTube Channel:  www.youtube.com/amberscloset

Does dating in your twenties have to be trash? Or are people in their twenties just trash? In this episode, Shan brings on Andrea Desiree Lewis, her ex-business partner from the early “Those Girls Are Wild” YouTube days. Shan and Andrea dish on their worst moments from dating in their 20s and how it actually made them better partners today. Then, find out why Shan finds talking to her 23-year-old brother-in-law therapeutic for her 20-year-old self. Don't forget to leave a rating and review for this podcast! Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody  Join Shan's mailing list:  www.shanboodram.com/join  Follow Andrea Lewis on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/andrealewis  Watch "Black Actress" and "Beyond Complicated" on YouTube:  www.youtube.com/andrealewischannel

Is letting others love you naked a prerequisite to loving your body? In this episode, Shan talks with Sarah Landry — who is notoriously naked online despite getting horrendous comments on her body — about how to choose and love your nakedness in your own everyday, all day. Shan then brings on Jazzmyne Jay to explore how body positivity shows up in same-sex relationships and how fat-phobia has it’s roots in racism?     Don’t forget to leave your rating on this podcast! Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Keep up with Shan by joining her mailing list:  www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Sarah Landry:  www.instagram.com/thebirdspapaya Listen to Sarah’s podcast “The Papaya Podcast” on the same platform you're listening to this podcast! Follow Jazzmyne Jay:  www.instagram.com/jazzmynejay

What do you do if you’re in a place where you’re madly in love with your partner, your career, your life...BUT you've also decided to put your sex life on the backburner…or maybe more accurately, in the fridge? Rachel Lindsey, the first African-American Bachelorette, sits down with Shan to unapologetically talk about her loving marriage and how it's far removed from the Fantasy Suite. Then, Shan gets Jared’s take on their current sex life...or lack thereof. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Join Shan’s mailing list: www.shanboodram.join Follow Rachel Lindsey on Instagram: www.instagram.com/therachlindsay Buy Rachel’s new book “Miss Me With That” wherever you buy your books or audio books Follow Jared Brady: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady Listen to Enjoy the Podcast on the same platform you are listening to this podcast

So let’s talk about dating with mental illness. In this episode, Shan sits down with Eileen Kelly from the "Going Mental" podcast about her recent experience with being diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, and how it impacted her dating/romantic life. Shan continues the conversation with author and therapist, Nedra Glover Tawwab, who has advice for how to talk about mental illness when you're in a relationship and how you can be a supportive partner.   Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Join Shan's Mailing List:  www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Eileen Kelly on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/eileen Listen to the "Going Mental" podcasts wherever you listen to podcasts Follow Nedra Glover Tawwab on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/nedratawwab

What do you do if you realize that monogamy isn’t for you, and that realization leads to another even more terrifying thought… Who? How? What the fuck, now? In this episode, Shan sits down with her personal friend Rome Green Jr. from Dormtainment who explains why he knows monogamy isn’t for him and why he also knows that he may not have the rest figured out just yet. Then Ken Melvoin-Berg & Sunny Megatron aka Sex Ed Superheroes join Shan and her husband, Jared, to break down how they've navigated openness in their marriage and what do's and don'ts they've all learned. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody  Join Shan's Mailing List:  www.shanboodram.com/join  Follow Rome Green Jr. on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/iromealot  Follow Sunny Megatron on TikTok:  www.tiktok.com/sunnymegatron  Visit Sunny's website:  www.sunnymegatron.com  Tune into Ken's weekly D&D live stream that raises for a sex worker mutual aid fund at  twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy  Follow Jared Brady on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady

Can you get exactly what you want sexually without taking away something from what your partner wants? And if you can't...should you really care? In this episode, Shan sits down with Weezy from the wildly popular podcast, Whoreible Decisions, to discuss how the feminine femmes play down their expertise in the bedroom in order to not threaten their partner's masculinity. Shan and Lauren then sit down to talk about how this shows up outside the bedroom and impacts a feminine's their money, career, and relationships.   Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Join Shan's Mailing List: www.shanboodram.com/join   Follow Weezy on Instagram: www.instagram.com/weezywtf Listen to the Whoreible Decisions Podcast on Youtube or wherever you get your podcasts   Follow Lauren on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth Join Lauren's mailing list: www.maketheshiftcoach.com/join

It's the last episode of 2021 and Shan brings together Jared and Lauren to share all that went on behind the scenes in making the podcast. Also, why doesn't Shan like the theme song? Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody  Join Shan's Mailing List:  www.shanboodram.com/join  Follow Jared Brady on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady  Listen to Enjoy the Podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enjoy-the-podcast/id1526698004  Follow Lauren on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth

Have you heard of a couple that's Living Apart Together? In this episode, Shan interviews Ev'Yan Whitney, a sensualist, and author of the book "Your Sensual Self" about how they and their husband decided to live in different states after being together for 19 years, while still continuing to be married. Shan also interviews her parents, who have been married for 40 years, to see there's anything they could learn from Ev'Yan's story to better their own marriage.   Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody  Join Shan's Mailing List:  www.shanboodram.com/join  Follow Ev'Yan Whitney on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/evyan.whitney  Follow Lauren on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth  Follow Olivia Boodram on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/yourtravelwitholivia  Follow Brian Boodram on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/briboo1958

In this episode, Shan interviews comedian Ashley Hesseltine from the "Girls Gotta Eat" Podcast. You could argue that this episode is about women getting off with men partners without giving anything sexual in return, you could also argue it’s about the validity of blue balls, or that we’re here to discuss dating in a post me-too era. But what it really boils down to is rewriting sexual and romantic scripts, especially for singles. How do you end an intimate encounter where you want to end it...and have it be okay? Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Join Shan's Mailing List:  www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Ashley Hesseltine:  www.instagram.com/ashhess Follow Los on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/blamelos Listen to Enjoy the Podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enjoy-the-podcast/id1526698004 Follow Lauren on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth

When people take that vow of forever, do they enter into that contract knowing that they don’t really mean it? In this episode, Shan sits down with Bart and Geo, who check all the boxes of #CoupleGoals: a marriage, a beautiful home, family, podcast and multiple thriving businesses, to find out how their recent divorce scare has reframed what #CoupleGoals means to them now. Then it gets personal when Shan, her husband, her sister and her brother-in-law admit to times when they almost called it quits. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Keep up to date with Shan by joining the mailing list:  www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Geo on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/geo_antoinette Follow Bart on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/bartkwan Tune into Bart & Geo’s new podcast on YouTube: Get Close Podcast - YouTube   Follow Jared Brady on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady Tune into Jared’s Podcast: ‎Enjoy the Podcast on Apple Podcasts Follow Lauren Morrison on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth  

For years, Shan has heard the rumors that A LOT of non-gay men are watching gay porn. In this episode we answer the question: What can gay men teach the non-gay community about how to have great sex? To find out Shan interviews Jade Fox, a queer lifestyle creator and social media influencer, Jade Fox, who admits to enjoying gay porn over lesbian porn. We also hear from Kevin Wade and Javonte Rose, two gay men, on what their secret sauce is when it comes to great sex. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody  Keep up to date with Shan by joining the mailing list:  www.shanboodram.com/join  Follow Jade Fox on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/iamjadefox  Follow Kevin Wade on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/iamkevinwade  Follow Javonte Rose on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/iamjavonterose

It’s storytime! Shan takes you down memory lane in order to answer the question she is asked most often throughout her career: When and how did you decide that you were going to be a sex expert? In this special edition episode and for the first time ever on the Podcast, Shan brings in the woman who witnessed it all. None other than Olivia Boodram, aka Mom. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Keep up to date with Shan by joining the mailing list:  www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Olivia Boodram on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/yourtravelwitholivia  

In one of Shan’s toughest interviews to date, she sits down with New York Times Best Selling Author, Ashley C. Ford, who talks about her unconventional path to healing from sexual assault and how it impacted how she thought about sex. Shan also has a conversation with "Trauma Queen" Jimanekia about how to start the trauma healing process with a professional. If you are seeking support/resources due to sexual violence, you can reach out to organizations such as RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) by visiting www.rain.org or call their National Sexual Assault Hotline by dialing 800.656.HOPE (4673). Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Keep up to date with Shan by joining the mailing list: www.shanboodram.com/join Follow Ashley C. Ford on Instagram: www.instagram.com/smashfizzle Buy Ashley’s Book: Somebody's Daughter: A Memoir https://www.amazon.com/Somebodys-Daughter-Ashley-C-Ford/dp/1250305977 Follow Jimanekia on Instagram: www.instagram.com/jimanekia

Why are women still having to pressure their partners into proposing? Shan interviews Krista Williams and Lindsay Simcik from the “Almost 30 Podcast” where Krista shares how her relationship evolved over the years and how she passively let him know that she was ready and waiting for his proposal to come. Shan shares her proposal story and how she was heartbroken when the proposal didn’t come on her original timeline. But that’s just one side of the discussion. To round out the conversation, Shan invites her husband and brother-in-law who share their experience with being pressured to propose. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Follow the Almost 30 Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/almost-30/id1148183612 Follow Krista: www.instagram.com/itskrista Follow Lindsey: www.instagram.com/lindseysimcik Follow Jared Brady: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady Follow Enjoy the Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/enjoy-the-podcast/id1526698004

Why are so many women immediately turned off when porn gets turned on? To find out, Shan interviews award-winning film maker and porn director, Erika Lust, about how her work addresses this common dilemma. Erika shares with us what kind of porn women should search for if they are looking to get off before getting turned off by less palatable options, and Shan sees if she can convince Lauren to give porn a chance. Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody Follow Erika Lust on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/erikalust Get your “Lovers and Friends” exclusive free 30 day trail to Lust Cinema:  www.lustcinema.com/sign-up/loversandfriends Follow Lauren Morrison on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth

Should you change who you are in order to keep the lover you wanna be with? If your first reaction is "Hell to the No!" well...you're not alone. In this episode Shan interviews Emmy award-winning producer and host Jeannie Mai, who talks about how her marriage to Young Jeezy transformed her in ways that just didn’t surprise her, it also shocked the world! We also explore whether or not Shan regrets the changes she made for love with a revealing dialogue between her husband Jared and her sister Lauren. Follow Shan on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shanboody Follow Jeannie Mai on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thejeanniemai Follow Jared Brady on Instagram: www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady Follow Lauren Morrison on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thisislaurenelizabeth

Women say they want a man who is open and willing to be vulnerable, but is this really true? Back in 2019, Shan participated in a YouTube discussion with Aba and Preach where they covered this very topic.The conversation amassed over 1.3M views and nearly 9000 comments. Two years later, Shan, Aba & Preach re-visit this under-represented dialogue about why some men don't yet feel safe to show their vulnerable side with their partners.

Herpes, or “The Scarlet H”, is a very common and yet widely misunderstood STD. Shan interviews Shira Lazar, who discusses how her diagnosis with herpes has impacted her sex life. Dr. Ina Park, Medical Consultant at the CDC's Division of STD Prevention and author of the book “Strange Bedfellows”, breaks down the facts and science around herpes in order to erase the attached sitgmas, enabling healthy and empowered sex lives for those with STDs. 

Can a needle of filler give you the ability to orgasm by penetration? Shan interviews Dr. Courtenay Poucher,  and gets the "O-shot" to find out. Dr. Poucher is a licensed and board certified expert cosmetic gynecologist who  practices in Southern California. She has dedicated her career to women’s sexual health returning functionality and confidence to her patients with labiaplasty. She has been featured on The Doctors, NBC Access Live, and in New Beauty, Hustle and Elle.com. 

There is so much great and life changing information about sex and love, but let’s say what you’re all thinking...it’s dry as f*ck! Sexologist and intimacy expert Shan Boodram will teach you what you really want to know about intimacy - from porn and orgasms to marriage and divorce - so you can be your own relationship expert.