Hey Living African Fam! 🎙️ Join me on an exhilarating episode of the Living African Podcast as we delve into the incredible journey of Bayonle Arashi. We explore his visionary efforts in empowering the next generation through soccer and education, igniting change and nurturing dreams. 🌍 Bayonle Arashi is the Founder of Scoutballers LLC, revolutionizing sports recruitment globally, and the visionary behind Midas Football Academy, a space where soccer meets education to unlock potential in young athletes. In this captivating episode, we uncover Bayonle's insights, his challenges, and the incredible success stories that have emerged. 📞 Connect with Bayonle Arashi:  Email: midassoccer@gmail.com Instagram: @bayonlearashi Twitter: @bayonlearashi Facebook: Bayonle Arashi Website: www.midasfa.org Join the conversation and let's empower the next generation together! Don't miss out—hit that subscribe button and turn on notifications for more inspiring episodes! 🎧✨ Stay connected with us: Instagram: @LivingAfricanPodcast @AnyohFombad Facebook/ LinkedIn : Living African Podcast Website: www.livingafricanpodcast.com Email: hello@livingafricanpodcast.com #LivingAfricanPodcast #EmpowerTheNextGen #SoccerAndEducation #InspiringStories #BayonleArashi #PodcastEpisode #FieldsOfChange #LivingAfrican #YouthEmpowerment #Scoutballers #MidasFootballAcademy

🎙️ Join me on this transformative journey with the incredible Kirby R. Gibbs in the latest episode of the Living African Podcast, S3E15! 🌍 We're delving deep into the theme of "Adapting Parenting Strategies for Modern Challenges and Generational Healing." 🌈 Kirby, a dual-degree holder in Communications and Psychology, brings a wealth of experience as a former ABC-TV News Reporter, Gulf Coast Chamber Exec, and Texas State Caseworker. 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Discover actionable insights on breaking generational curses and fostering growth as parents. Kirby's passion for community development shines through her work in Texas and Ghana, Africa, addressing issues like domestic/sexual violence and creating stronger families through her non-profit, Fortress of Faith Coalition. 💼 As a Certified Life Coach and Public Speaker, Kirby shares practical strategies through her company, Flowrich LLC, guiding individuals and teams to "flow into the richness of their purpose and flourish." 🚀 Don't miss this empowering conversation filled with wisdom beyond years, down-to-earth perspectives, and a commitment to the success and growth of the communities she serves. 📞 Connect with Kirby: Phone: 832-770-8550 Email: fortcoalition@gmail.com Instagram: @fortcoalition 🌟 Tune in to the Living African Podcast for a riveting discussion that explores breaking free from the past and building a brighter future for parenting. 🎧✨ Subscribe now for inspiration and actionable tips! 🌐 Our Info: Website: www.livingafricanpodcast.com Instagram: @LivingAfricanPodcast @AnyohFombad Email: hello@livingafricanpodcast.com Facebook/LinkedIn: Living African Podcast #LivingAfricanPodcast #KirbyGibbs #GenerationalHealing #BreakTheCycle #ParentingJourney #EmpowerFamilies #PositiveParenting #CommunityEmpowerment #InspireChange #TransformativeTalks #PodcastLife #FamilyLegacy #EmpowermentPodcast #AdaptAndGrow #ParentingTips #SubscribeNow

🌍 Welcome to Episode 14 of the Living African Podcast: "Preserving our Culture in Modern Times" with Reuben Ndjerareou! 🎙️ In this episode, we explore the intricate tapestry of African culture through the eyes of Reuben Ndjerareou. Born in N'djamena, Chad, and having lived as a Third Culture Kid, Reuben shares his profound insights into the challenges and beauty of preserving our rich heritage in today’s global landscape.   🎓 From the oil fields of Chad to educational initiatives in the USA, Reuben's journey of learning and leadership sheds light on the diverse experiences of African individuals across the world. As a passionate educator and the mind behind the SPEAK AFRICAN series, he is a voice for change and a beacon for cultural education.   Tune in as we discuss: The life of a Third Culture Child The impact of education on cultural preservation The importance of storytelling in African communities Navigating the complexities of identity and belonging   🔗 Links to the Living African Podcast community: Website: www.livingafricanpodcast.com Instagram: @LivingAfricanPodcast Facebook/LinkedIn: Living African Podcast   Connect with Reuben Ndjerareou: LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/reouhidi77ndjerareou/   Don’t forget to subscribe, share your thoughts in the comments, and join us on our social platforms for more enriching discussions.   👉 If you enjoyed this episode, please consider liking and sharing it with your network to help spread the wisdom and joy of African culture and community!   #LivingAfricanPodcast #AfricanCulture #EducationalLeadership #ReubenNdjerareou #Storytelling #ThirdCultureKid #AfricanDiaspora #CulturalPreservation #Subscribe

Welcome to a very special episode of the Living African Podcast. Dive deep into the world of our inseparable friendship of mine and Kimberly, we talk about the intricacies of life, friendship, and everything in between. 🌍💫 Questions: 00:01:13 - How did we first meet. 00:04:10 - What were our first impressions of each other. 00:06:58 - Most memorable adventure that we've shared together. 00:14:13 - Inside jokes that only the two of you understand? 00:15:04 - One thing that we both mutually love? 00:16:00 - One of the things that I just could not stand 00:17:30 - A time when you disagreed or had a big argument? 00:24:30 - Describe a tough time in your lives when you felt the other support the most. 00:27:45 - If we both could go on a trip together, where will he be? 00:28:30 - How we hope our friendship evolves in the next ten years. 00:30:15 -  If we would had to collaborate or start a business project together. 00:30:40 - If there was one thing you could change about me. 00:31:05 - What's the most valuable lesson we've learned from each other? Throughout this episode, we aim to delve deep into the raw, unfiltered heart-to-heart conversations that have solidified our bond over the years. Discover the magic of friendship, the conversations that heal, and the power of genuine connection. Links & Resources: Explore more heartwarming episodes on our website: https://www.livingafricanpodcast.com Subscribe to our YouTube channel for visual content and more deep dives: https://www.youtube.com/@LivingAfricanPodcast Connect with Us: Engage with us on Instagram: @LivingAfricanPodcast Become part of our Facebook family: @LivingAfricanPodcast Please LIKE, SHARE, and SUBSCRIBE for heartfelt conversations and authentic tales that celebrate life, friendship, and deep connections! #LivingAfricanPodcast #KimberlyAndAnyoh #HeartToHeart #DeepConversations #EpisodeXX #YouTubePodcast #BestFriendsTalk #GenuineConnection #FromTheHeart #RawAndReal

Disclaimer: Viewer discretion is advised. This episode discusses topics related to suicide.  🎙️On this week's episode of the Living African Podcast, we are thrilled to be joined by the exceptional Danielle Fortingo, FNP, PMHNP! As the CEO and Founder of Kameron Health PLLC, and board-certified in both Family and Psychiatric Mental Health, Fortingo has dedicated over 14 years to pioneering medical spaces ranging from Emergency Medicine to Mental Health. 🚑💚 Danielle Fortingo, FNP, PMHNP offers a deep dive into the intricacies of mental health, especially within the African-American community. Touching on historical traumas, pressures, and the legacy of slavery, Fortingo provides insights into why mental illness is prevalent and underscores the need for understanding, compassion, and action.  "People with mental health issues often fear seeking help. They're labeled as 'crazy' or 'unfit,' leading many to suffer in silence." Today, let's challenge these misconceptions and amplify the voices that advocate for mental health understanding and support. Connect with Danielle Fortingo, FNP, PMHNP: Instagram: @kameronhealth @marvise1 Schedule a session: www.kameronhealth.com Email: Provider@Kameronhealth.com  Stay Updated with Living African Podcast: Website: www.livingafricanpodcast.com Instagram: @LivingAfricanPodcast

Welcome to a very special episode of the Living African Podcast. Dive deep into the world of our inseparable friendship of mine and Kimberly, we talk about the intricacies of life, friendship, and everything in between. 🌍💫 Questions that we go over: 00:01:13 - How did we first meet. 00:04:10 - What were our first impressions of each other. 00:06:58 - Most memorable adventure that we've shared together. 00:14:13 - Inside jokes that only the two of you understand? 00:15:04 - One thing that we both mutually love? 00:16:00 - One of the things that I just could not stand 00:17:30 - A time when you disagreed or had a big argument? 00:24:30 - Describe a tough time in your lives when you felt the other support the most. 00:27:45 - If we both could go on a trip together, where will he be? 00:28:30 - How we hope our friendship evolves in the next ten years. 00:30:15 -  If we would had to collaborate or start a business project together. 00:30:40 - If there was one thing you could change about me. 00:31:05 - What's the most valuable lesson we've learned from each other? Throughout this episode, we aim to delve deep into the raw, unfiltered heart-to-heart conversations that have solidified our bond over the years. Discover the magic of friendship, the conversations that heal, and the power of genuine connection.   Links & Resources: Explore more heartwarming episodes on our website: https://www.livingafricanpodcast.com Subscribe to our YouTube channel for visual content and more deep dives: https://www.youtube.com/@LivingAfricanPodcast Connect with Us: Engage with us on Instagram: @LivingAfricanPodcast Become part of our Facebook family: @LivingAfricanPodcast   Please LIKE, SHARE, and SUBSCRIBE for heartfelt conversations and authentic tales that celebrate life, friendship, and deep connections!   #LivingAfricanPodcast #KimberlyAndAnyoh #HeartToHeart #DeepConversations #EpisodeXX #YouTubePodcast #BestFriendsTalk #GenuineConnection #FromTheHeart #RawAndReal

Traditional medical practices have long existed way before the emergence of “modern medicine” in Africa and are still being practiced. Most of us know at least one person who still goes to a “medicine house” aka traditional doctor. Also, most of us may have always had these questions and doubts about the relevance or even the significance of traditional medicine practices in our continent. We have Professor Awah Paschal who is a medical anthropologist and gives us a holistic overview of traditional medical practices in Africa. We had one of those non-ending debates and shared our outlook on this topic and I hope that you can learn a thing or two from our conversation.    Get to meet our guest: Paschal Kum Awah is Chair of Anthropology at the Faculty of Arts, Letters and Social Sciences, University of Yaounde I. He has previously held the position of Senior Research Advisor for Ipas in Chapel Hill, North Carolina, USA. A resourceful and dedicated professor with an outstanding academic background holding a Ph.D. in Medical Anthropology from the Faculty of Medical Sciences, Newcastle University, Newcastle upon Tyne, UK, and a Postdoctoral Certificate in Bioethics from the Western Institutional Review Board (WIRB) Olympia and the University of Washington in Seattle, WA, USA. He has an excellent publication record with 78 peer-reviewed papers, three book chapters, and significant teaching experiences in the fields of Anthropology, Epidemiology, Public Health, and Bioethics. He possesses worldwide excellent interpersonal and liaison skills with the ability to build and maintain positive working relationships. Enjoys worldwide collaborating in a productive and successful team and thrives in challenging environments. In 2020, he was nominated as a member of the African Union Taskforce for the African Scientific Research and Innovation Council and serves as a board member in the WCG-WIRB in the United States of America and in the Central Hospital Yaounde Institutional Review Board, Cameroon. Besides academic engagements, he is the President and CEO of the Centre for Population Studies and Health Promotion, Yaounde-Cameroon, and provides consultancy to some African, European, and US-based organizations.   CONTACT: Phone Number:+237690595948 Email: awahpaschal@yahoo.fr   Things You Will Learn in This Episode:  [00:01 – 03:00] Introduction Introducing our guests - Prof. Paschal Kum Awah [03:00 – 25:00] Understanding Traditional Medicine What is African Traditional Medicine Questioning the science behind the practice Understanding African herbal medicine  Anyoh shares her experience with traditional healers [25:00 – 40:00] The Use Cases of Traditional Medicine The impact of traditional medicine in Africa during the pandemic Advancement and research into traditional medicine How to identity quack traditional healers [45:00 – 50:10] Final Discussions Final words from Paschal Kum Awah Final words from Anyoh Tweetable Quotes: Every culture has its own form of medicine. Within that culture, we call it medicine grounded in their tradition. For example, medicine in the western context will be the traditional medicine of the people of the west. Medicine practiced in the Chinese tradition will be Chinese medicine. Medicine practiced in the African context will be African traditional medicine. - Prof Awah Paschal LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! Connect with Living African Podcast You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

Multiple sclerosis (MS) is a disease of the brain and spinal cord (central nervous system), which can cause a disability. In MS , a person’s immune system attacks the protective nerve fiber covering and causes communication problems between your brain and the rest of your body to stop. Though this disease has been around for a long time, it doesn’t seem to be as diagnosed or even acknowledged in our African community when compared to the common infectious diseases. Such diseases, though rare, are slowly plaquing our community and it is about time we talk about them. Today, our guests speak extensively on MS from living with it to the course of therapy. We hope this episode is as resourceful as it was for us.   Get to meet our guests:   Dr. Leonard Ngarka is a Neurologist who works at Yaounde Central Hospital, Cameroon. He is also a Lecturer at the Faculty of Medicine and Biomedical Sciences, The University of Yaoundé, Cameroon. He will be further educating us on MS and Neuromyelitis Optica.   Contact: Email -  lngarka@yahoo.com   Fuen Beri is the second of four children who live in the United Kingdom (UK). She has been living in the UK since 2005, shortly after high school. She now works for a global consultancy based in the heart of London and her favorite quote is - "no two days are the same." She will be sharing with us her diagnosis with Multiple Sclerosis(MS).   Contact: Email - Fuen.beri@gmail.com Things You Will Learn in This Episode:  [00:01 – 03:00] Introduction Introducing our guests - Dr. Leonard Ngarka & Fuen Beri [03:00 – 17:00] Understanding Multiple sclerosis (MS) The lack of data on multiple sclerosis in Africa Understanding the causes and symptoms of MS The under-reporting of multiple sclerosis in Africa The importance of early detection [17:00 – 43:00] Fuen Ngwa Shares Her Story With MS Early symptoms of MS in childhood Getting misdiagnosed in Cameroon The lack of proper diagnosis in Africa Fuen shares her struggles with MS How she keeps her head up and motivated  [43:00 - 1:06:00] Risks Factors, Prevention & Stigmatization The genetic causing factors Preventive measures we can take How the lack of some important minerals can cause MS The cost of treating MS in Africa Stigmatization of people living with MS [1:06:00 - 1::] Medications, Advice, Mindset & Motivation Dr. Ngarka educates us on some medication used in treating MS Fuen educates us on the mindset and motivation needed General advice with patients living with multiple sclerosis The importance of listening & knowing your body Government need to make drugs accessible and subsidize How to contact Dr. Leonard Ngarka & Fuen Beri [55:00 – 1:00:004] Final Discussions Final words from Dr. Leonard Ngarka Final words from Fuen Beri Final words from Anyoh LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! Connect with Living African Podcast You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

According to the Center for Disease Control (CDC), Heart disease is very common and serious. It’s the leading cause of death for both men and women in the United States. If you have diabetes, you’re twice as likely to have heart disease or a stroke than someone who doesn’t have diabetes—and at a younger age. The longer you have diabetes, the more likely you are to have heart disease.  Diabetes and heart disease are both noncommunicable diseases, meaning that they can’t be transmitted from one person to another unlike other very common communicable diseases that are prevalent in Africa such as HIV/AIDS, tuberculosis, salmonella, etc. Also, the symptoms of diabetes and heart disease are not as obvious as most of the infectious diseases like malaria, typhoid, etc, which are common in Africa. The nature of these two diseases poses a huge problem as not much attention is given to them as normally should. Well, not until it is too late. So, in an effort to promote wellness in our community, we will be having a conversation with Dr. Nchang Taka, who is a cardiologist and very experienced in this field.  MEET OUR GUEST: Dr. Nchang Taka who's currently Interventional Cardiologist and Endovascular specialist Working in ATlanta GA, Board certified in Internal Medicine, General Cardiology and Interventional Cardiology. He studied medicine at Faculty of Medicine and Biomedical Sciences (CUSS). He did his residency at Morehouse School of Medicine, ATlanta GA, and did his Cardiology Fellowship at University Of Mississippi Medical Center. Things You Will Learn in This Episode:  [00:01 – 03:00] Introduction Introducing the guest - Dr. Nchang Taka [03:00 – 27:00] Understanding Noncommunicable Diseases Examples of noncommunicable diseases Understanding cardiovascular diseases Data & statistics of cardiovascular diseases Causes of cardiovascular diseases Preventive measures & treatments The importance of healthy dieting [27:00 – 43:00] Diabetes & Hypertension What is diabetes & hypertension Knowing the risks factors Preventive measures to take The foundation of a healthy life  [43:00 - 55:00] Sudden Death Syndrome Wellness checks and practices we need   Knowing your families history [55:00 – 1:00:004] Final Discussions Final words from Dr. Nchang Taka Final words from Anyoh Tweetable Quotes: “Cardiovascular diseases and their risk factors tend to be more frequent among Africans and African American as a whole compared to non-Africans.” - Dr. Nchang Taka “Hypertension is a risk factor for cardiovascular diseases and the biggest risk factor for hypertension is obesity, which is something that we overlook a lot. Obesity is a form of malnutrition.” - Dr. Nchang Taka “A lot of members of the African community don’t know their family history and some of them don’t even care to know, and also don’t care to share. There is this false ideology that if you are sick, you have to hide it from others because you don’t want your “haters” to pray for your demise or you don’t want to be a source of stress to anybody. That actually causes more harm than good.” - Anyoh Fombad LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! Connect with Living African Podcast You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

A New Year always signifies a new start. That usually means new year resolutions and promises to cultivate new habits. Being financially stable always falls amongst the most popular New Year resolutions and that shouldn’t be surprising. Financial freedom is typically the ultimate goal in everyone’s life but not many people know how to achieve this goal; especially not in our African community. You will be surprised at how much information is being made available to us to help sort out our finances, but we tend to not take advantage of that.   As a new parent, I have grown very fond of making sure that the finances of me and mine are set for life. They say knowledge is power, and that is why I have here with me Dr. Martin Kwende (featuring Mr. Mark Stewart) to provide us with helpful information on how to attain generational wealth and financial freedom.   GUEST BIO:   Dr. Martin Kwende, PhD, MBA is a visionary, business owner, entrepreneur and financial professional.  Dr. Kwende was a medical device industry executive, and spent over twenty years in the design and manufacturing of products that go into people.  Dr. Kwende has spent over 7 years in the financial services industry, and has built a fast-growing multi-million dollar business.  He is a God-fearing father and husband, and lives in Silicon Valley, CA. Things You Will Learn in This Episode:  [00:01 – 08:00] Introduction Introducing the guest - Dr. Martin Kwende & Mr. Mark Stewart [08:00 – 17:00] Our Guests History with Wealth Mr. Mark Stewart history with wealth  Dr. Martin Kwende's gives his history with wealth The definition of wealth and what it means [17:00 – 35:00] What is Financial Literacy Understanding financial literacy What we need to do to build wealth Having assets and multiple streams of income Dr. Martin Kwende shares a personal story [35:00 – 50:00] Talking about Generational Wealth Options to building generational wealth How to invest in assets you can transfer to the next generation How to prepare for a better retirement Understanding 4O1K and Retirement Plans [50:00 – 1:11:00] Let's Talk About Life Insurance Understanding life insurance The types of life insurance How much life insurance do you need? Life Insurance in Africa [1:11:00 – 1:23:00] The Importance of Writing a Will Understanding will & you need one Protecting your family and loved ones The popularity of GoFundMe's for funerals [1:23:00 – 1:29:00] Final Discussions Action steps to wealth creation Let's get involved in our finances Dr. Martin Kwende talks about the impact of the Living African Podcast Final words from Dr. Martin Kwende Final words from Anyoh   Tweetable Quotes: “The way I define wealth is by the “5 F’s” - Faith, Family, Finance, Fitness and Fun. If you are wealthy, then you have a good balance in those five key areas of life.” - Dr. Martin Kwende “Growing up in Africa, our ideology of “wealth” is if you have a nice car or a big house and I believe a lot of Africans bring that ideology to the diaspora and end up living above their means.” - Anyoh Fombad   LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! Connect with Dr. Martin Kwende, PhD, MBA: Chief Executive Officer (CEO) - World Financial Group 2221 Oakland Road, Suite 100 / San Jose, CA 95131 Cell: 707-235-6439 / eFax: 408-824-1440 Email: tino4k@gmail.com / Instagram: @DrMKwende Connect with Living African Podcast You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

What exactly is the fourth trimester?   This is basically the first three months of a mom and baby’s life after delivery; just like another "trimester" of pregnancy.    While new parents prepare for the baby to come, they often find themselves feeling surprised by how disorienting and overwhelming it is to care for a newborn baby.    For the baby, imagine being in a comfortable space for 9 months and then suddenly taken out of it to an entirely different environment where you have to fend for yourself. You will need time to adjust.    Meanwhile for the mother, imagine trying to recover from childbirth with your body and mind going through huge changes, while trying to accommodate your baby’s needs and take care of yourself. It could quickly get overwhelming.   So why are we talking about this?   From experience, it is pretty sad to say nobody truly openly talks about such experiences. I personally would’ve loved to know what to expect if someone sat me down to explain the reality of life in the fourth trimester. So, we decided to share our experiences to help someone out there, especially new parents to be.    Although there is certainly joy, the first few months can feel fragmented, unbearably exhausting—and the relentless needs of a newborn can make parents feel like they never get a break.   Things You Will Learn in This Episode:  [00:01 – 04:42] Introduction Introducing Eugene, my husband, and giving a little background to this episode [04:42 – 24:00] Our Labor & Delivery Story The sequence of events that led to delivery [24:00 – 51:00] The Aftermath of Delivery Spending our first two days at the hospital The sleepless nights and stressful days Breastfeeding and its complications Baby blues or postpartum depression? How we have managed to keep afloat [51:00 – 59:00] Advice to New Parents Seeking the education you need Having a strong relationship with your partner Asking for help when needed [59:00 – 1:06:00] Final Discussion Eugene & Anyoh share their last words Tweetable Quotes: “To all the women out there, always fend for yourself at the end of the day. Can you take a natural delivery without pain meds? If you can, then go for it but don’t do it because people are influencing you because at the end of the day, you gotta lookout for your comfort and that of the baby. It doesn’t make you a stronger woman to choose one method of delivery over the other.” - Anyoh Fombad   “I just want to encourage every woman who is trying to look for an OBGYN to now limit your options only to women (female OBGYNs) because you will be surprised to know that the men are actually as good, if not, even better than some of the female oBGYNs out there.” - Anyoh Fombad   “For the guys out there, I will really just say if there is one thing you can do, just make yourself available [to support your partner].” - Eugene Mbanya   “For new parents, do the best you can to educate yourself on what to expect. It is true that it will never match the actual experience, but seek out some trusted people in your community and ask them to be honest with you to give you feedback on what to expect.” - Eugene Mbanya   LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you!   Connect with Living African Podcast You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

Happy New Year fam! 2021 taught me so many lessons! I experienced so many twists and turns, and never in my wildest dreams did I ever think that my life will turn out the way it did by the end of the year! Whether it be a lesson learnt or an experience I had, my story can not be complete without acknowledging the strength of a woman; THE AFRICAN WOMAN! This week, I'd love to share my pregnancy story with you! Again, this is one of those moments where I have to brace myself to be vulnerable, which I must admit, I am still getting used to. Nonetheless, I have to remind myself about the power of vulnerability and owning my story. You see, it’s not that other women don’t deserve appreciation, but African/black women are more likely to encounter fertility-related issues than women of other races. So I know many of my sisters may relate to  my story and this will be the start of creating a safe space for us to empower and encourage each other to know that we are not alone!  MEET OUR GUESTS Dr. Temitope Ekwo is a board-certified OB/GYN who was born and raised in Providence, RI where she lived until moving to Washington D.C after high school. She frequently participates in activities within the community to increase patient awareness and education regarding woman’s health issues. Dr. Ekwo is a fellow of the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology, as well as a member of the Association of Nigerian Physicians and Texas Medical Association. Her clinical interests include adolescent and teen gynecology, high-risk obstetrics, minimally invasive procedures, outpatient surgeries, contraception, pelvic pain, menopause, health maintenance, and general gynecology. Dr. Ekwo and her staff take pride in providing extraordinary care to their patients during all stages of a woman’s life. Things You Will Learn in This Episode:  [00:01 – 04:42] Introduction Introducing the guest and sharing a brief background on my story [04:42 – 27:00] My First Pregnancy Story My first pregnancy and its complications Explaining terminologies associated with my story Extensive education on what happened to my pregnancy My horrific experience with miscarriage and hospitalization Signs & Symptoms of Miscarriages [27:00 – 44:00] My Second Pregnancy Story My fears of getting pregnant Meeting my OB/GYN - Dr. Temitope Getting Diagnosis of a possible infertility issue Explaining terminologies associated with my diagnosis The IVF procedure that never happened I got pregnant! [44:00 – 53:00] My Pregnancy Journey So Far The pain & random bleeding  Common symptoms of pregnancy Recommendations for pregnant women in Africa Methods of delivery and their Pros/Cons [53:00 – 56:00] Final Discussions Dr. Ekwo's advice to the community Anyoh shares her last words How to connect with the guest Tweetable Quotes: “To every woman out there - You may have a different story, but I hope we can relate somehow and be more open to sharing our experiences. Most importantly, I hope that we can learn to be more kind and show empathy to one another because we are all fighting battles that nobody knows about." - Anyoh Fombad   LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! Connect with Dr. Temitope Ekwo: Phone: (713) 799-9900 // Address: Specialists in Obstetrics and Gynecology // 7400 Fannin St Ste 1200 – Houston, TX 77054 – Physician locations Connect with Living African Podcast You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

Mental health has always been a topic of interest in our community and several strides have been made to have open conversations and address mental issues head-on. However, mental health amongst teens is not as discussed especially due to the stereotypes that come with being a teenager, especially in the African community. The mental health issues that teenagers encounter nowadays are very misrepresented by what our community considers “the teenage experience” and this makes it easy for their mental wellbeing to be ignored just because they are teenagers. Today, our focus on teenage mental health will give you insight into what goes on in a teenager’s mind as well as what they really think about the community’s outlook on them. In this very resourceful episode, our guest Jada Yudom, a teenager and author, will break down some aspects of teen mental health from her book #TeenMentalHealth. I would love to use this opportunity to call on all parents and teenagers to give this episode a listen and give her book a read, and I hope you get inspired as much as I was.    GUEST: Jada Atchu Yudom (she/her) is a sixteen-year-old Cameroonian American mental health advocate. She co-founded Revive, a youth-led organization focused on normalizing the conversation around mental health. With her business partner Sania Ahmad, she also co-authored a book around the same topic and more. One day, she hopes the future generations will be able to speak up about their feelings without the stigma holding them back. CONTACT: Instagram - @reviveorg; Her personal insta - @jadayudom; Sania Ahmad’s Instagram - @saniafahmad. Their podcast - @thrivewithrevive, and chronicles - @revivechronicles. Their book: #TeenMentalHealth  & Their website - www.revivementalhealth.org   Things You Will Learn in This Episode: [00:01 – 12:00] Introduction to Teen Mental Health What really is Teen Mental Health? Preface of Jada's Book [12:00 – 26:00] The Motivation Behind the #TeenMentalHealth Book Experiences  & stories  that motivated Jada The culture of silencing mental health issues Ways in which we misunderstand teenagers The importance of learning general skills [26:00 – 44:00] Teenagers & Mental Health Awareness Mental health challenges teenagers face The negative and positive sides of peer-pressure Summarizing some chapters in Jada's book The perception of teenagers as "hormonal" [44:00 – 56:00] Jada's Inspiration How Jada's sister autistic inspired her journey Anyoh shares her experience with her brother  Cancelling the subscription to Peer Pressure We need to listen to our children  Bullying and all that comes with it [56:00 – 1:10:00] More Chapters on Jada's Book Relationship experiences as teenagers Guiding your emotions and learning from your experiences Teenagers need to seek help and empower each other The need to create a safe space and listen to our teenagers [1:10:00 - 1:18:00]  Final Words How to support the mental health of teenagers How to reach Jada and support her charity Final words from Anyoh.   TWEETABLE QUOTES: “For sure, our African parents want to keep doing what they know based on their upbringing, but that isn't not working in these times. Times have changed and the issues we're facing as African teens in America is different and so we expect our community to change to meet our needs.”- Jada Yudom “As teenagers, the time we spent as teenagers is basically the trial. These are issues and complications we have to face in order to transition into adulthood so it is important to know about these issues and equip yourself with all the tools needed to overcome such issues when they come up.”- Jada Yudom “Sometimes, the best solution is to give teenagers some space, then sit them down, try to listen to them when they're ready, and make time for them. Don't force past solutions on them because it may not work.”- Jada Yudom   LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

A wise person once said - in life, everyone should have a mentor and a sponsor. Each one of us has been influenced by someone before with or without even knowing it. Most often than not, we get to every stage we find ourselves in life with the help of someone, or we have helped someone get to some stage in their lives as well. In our African community, the concept of mentorship is seldom discussed or practiced. The level of competition, expectation and sometimes hate, makes it somewhat difficult to support and uplift each other. But we fail to understand that it usually takes a village to reach higher heights in life. So, let me ask you - who is YOUR Village? This week, I will be speaking with two very vital members of my village - my mentors - to break down the importance of mentorship and why we all need mentors in our lives, and to mentor someone else. If you don’t know where to start when it comes to mentorship, or if you want clarity on the expectations of a mentor-mentee relationship, then this episode is for you. MEET OUR GUESTS:  Dr. Sidonie Niba is a Cameroonian who currently serves as the Director of US Field Medical Excellence at Pharmacosmos Therapeutics, Inc. and has worked in a variety of roles with progressive experiences across clinical, academia and pharmaceutical industry settings. As a career strategist and mentor for underrepresented Medical professionals, Sidonie has spent the last 5 years helping dozens of clients transition into life-changing career and growth opportunities. She is an avid advocate for mentorship and coaching within both the professional and personal domains.  Sidonie is a registered nurse, residency-trained Pharmacist and also holds a Master’s in Business Administration.  Sidonie is married and lives in the Dallas, TX area with her husband and two young kids. In her spare time, she enjoys engaging in positive and progressive discussions, investing, shopping and traveling. CONTACT: sidonie@thenurturedprofessional.com   Dr. Zera Hongla immigrated to the US from Cameroon at age 18 and completed her Bachelors in Science in Biochemistry at the University of Maryland. She then completed her Doctorate in Pharmacy at the Notre Dame of Maryland University in Baltimore. Upon graduation, she worked as a retail pharmacist but later moved to work on the Native American reservations in New Mexico as the Pharmacy Director.  Following that position, she now works with the Food and Drug Administration. She has been appointed a clinical adjunct faculty at her alma mater as she established practice sites for students at the reservation and frequently returns to school to talk to pharmacy students about various opportunities. As a commissioned officer in the United States Public Health Service, she is proud to serve and is grateful for the unique opportunities it offers. She credits her journey to the openness of her mentors and sponsors who provided direction and invaluable counsel at crucial stages. CONTACT: ​​zkwende1@gmail.com   Things You Will Learn in This Episode: [00:01 – 08:00] Introduction Introduction Guests introduce themselves [08:00 – 22:00] How I Met My Mentors Anyoh's connection with Zera Zera share's her story of connecting with Anyoh Anyoh's connection with Sidonie Sidonie shares her story of connection with Anyoh [22:00 – 40:00] How Mentorship Impacted The Guests Seeking mentorship from close relations The value of having a mentor and a sponsor Maintaining a healthy relationship with your mentors How to approach people you admire to mentor you [40:00 – 54:00] African's & Mentorship Factors that affect networking in the African community The culture barriers and imposter syndrome Replacing our fear with audacity [54:00 – 1:06:00] The Mentor-Mentee Relationships Having an abundance mentality in the community Good character traits that will encourage mentorship in our community The struggle older people have with asking for mentoring Having each one teach three mindset [1:06:00 - 1:33:00]  Mentor-Mentee Expectations Mentors don't owe mentee's anything Mentee's must put in all the work Keeping a healthy relationship Having measurable expectations [1:33:00 - 1:41:00]  What Mentorship Is Mentorship as an act of service Mentorship is a calling [1:41:00 - 1:49:00] Final Words Tips to finding a great mentor Dr. Sidonie & Dr. Zera share their last words Anyoh's summarization of the conversation   TWEETABLE QUOTES: “I see mentorship as someone that can pick you up when you are down and it is very different from a coach. I see mentorships as lifelong engagements. A mentor is someone that holds your hand and keeps you accountable and really bores into you when you are down and vice versa.” - Dr.  Sidonie Niba “When you put yourself out there with no expectations, it may be 1 out of 50 people you make an outreach to [who will get back to you], but all you need is one. You can’t handle 50 mentors, coaches or sponsors. You just need one.” - Dr. Sidonie Niba “If we think with a mind of abundance, that there are plenty of opportunities and enough space for everybody to grow and be the best in what they want to do, there is a benefit for everybody to do well as a community.” - Dr. Zera Hongla “There is more of an issue with age gaps. I think older people have an issue being mentored by younger people in our culture, which teaches that age is a huge deal. Why will a parent ask a child for advice? That is what I see in those generational gaps and older people thinking that the younger ones cannot bring value to them.” - Dr. Sidonie Niba “Sometimes we get into this position in a company and we do not put ourselves in a position to have a pull. Sometimes you need to get into a room for reasons beyond yourself because if you cannot make or influence a decision, then how can you help someone else or make an impact?” - Dr. Zera Hongla   LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

In honor of World AIDS Day (December 1st), we will talk about living with HIV. HIV/AIDS has always been one of those diseases that has drastically impacted our community and has been around for as long as I can remember. Growing up in Africa, this disease was synonymous to a death sentence and though there have been great strides and advances towards it, there’s still be a tremendous amount of stigma and stereotypical ideation towards it. With so many scientific developments, the prognosis of HIV/AIDS compared to 20+ years ago has drastically improved and there are lots of HIV+ patients who live their lives as normal as any other person who doesn’t have it. So, our purpose on this episode isn’t only to educate our African community about this disease, but to defy the stereotypes surrounding it. MEET OUR GUEST: Honorine Mbibe is a 23-year-old student, model, and an adolescent champion. Moreover, she is currently in a modeling competition where her project is to stand for adolescents and young people living with HIV, as well as fight against the stigma surrounding AIDS and discrimination against HIV/AIDS patients. CONTACT: Email: honorinembibeh@gmail.com Things You Will Learn in This Episode: [00:01 – 07:00] Introduction Some statistics on HIV/AIDS Introducing the guests [07:00 – 17:36] Honorine's Story How she found out she was HIV positive How she came to accept her status Trying to live a life of purpose with an HIV diagnosis The harsh reality of stigmatization Using her story to impact her community  [17:36 – 24:22] Advancements in The Fight Against HIV/AIDS Dr. Grace Fombad shares her thought on the advancements made through the years The importance of sensitization and creating awareness Fighting stigmatization against HIV patients How Sub-Saharan Africa is fighting HIV/AIDS [24:22 – 40:28] Honorine's Therapeutic Regimen and Accessibility of HIV/AIDS Medication Honorine talks about how important medication is The shortage and accessibility of medications Benevolence from international communities [40:28 – 50:26] The Stigma Associated with HIV The lack of empathy towards HIV patients The lack of education on the disease Dating with HIV [50:26 – End] Final Words The importance of Educating our Community on HIV/AIDS Dr. Grace & Anyoh's last words.   Tweetable Quotes: “It wasn’t easy growing up knowing that I was HIV positive because I experienced stigma from the society. I was very pale and people around me will be like “you look like an AIDS patient”, even when I [or they] didn’t know my status. This made me go into my shell and just stay there” - Honorine Mbibe “When the HIV positive diagnosis was disclosed to me, it wasn’t easy, but I had to use it as a stepping stone in my life. I told myself that I would never let others have the wrong information about this disease. So in my domain, I try to educate others on the basics of HIV.” - Honorine Mbibe “When we stop labeling people and calling people names, then we show love. People commit suicide because they cannot bear the amount of stigma that exists in the community [towards HIV/AIDS]. Showing empathy [towards HIV patients] is very important in every situation and when you show empathy, you show love.” - Dr. Grace Fombad LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).  

In this episode, we have Dr. Sheila Enoh and Dr. Idris Yakubu back with us to continue the conversation on their road to success as international students with the focus on how they got into professional school in the US. Being African and an international student trying to get into Pharmacy or Med school definitely presents the case of a double minority as a foreigner and not eligible for financial aid. Most Pharmacy and Med school programs will not even look at your application if you are an international student and that obviously decreases your odds. Nonetheless, if you can dream it, you can STILL achieve it. And that is what we are here to speak about today.   Dr. Enoh and Dr. Yakubu will hopefully inspire and encourage you with their story of blood, sweat and tears, but what is most important is that they didn’t give up. You, too, can make it if you don’t give up. As a wise woman once said, your dreams are valid. We hope this episode encourages anyone who has hopes of achieving their dreams even when all odds seem to be against them.   MEET OUR GUESTS: Dr. Sheila Enoh, MD MPH was born and raised in Yaounde, Cameroon. She moved to the US at the age of 18 to attend college as an international student at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill for her undergraduate studies. She majored in Biology and Psychology with a minor in Chemistry. She then completed a Masters of Science in Public Health with a focus on International Health at the Johns Hopkins School of Public Health. She is a graduate of the University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine and currently pursuing a residency in Internal Medicine at the Johns Hopkins Hospital. She is passionate about all things medicine and global health. Contact:  Website: www.sheilaenohmd.com Email: info@sheilaenohmd.com   Dr. Idris Yakubu, PharmD is a solid organ transplant pharmacist specialist at Virginia Commonwealth University Health System and a clinical assistant professor at Virginia Commonwealth University School of Pharmacy. He earned both his Bachelor of Science in Pharmaceutical Sciences and Doctor of Pharmacy degrees from the University of Toledo College of Pharmacy and Pharmaceutical Sciences. He completed a PGY-1 pharmacy practice residency at the University of Toledo Medical Center and a PGY-2 solid organ transplant pharmacy residency at the University of Maryland Medical Center. Dr. Yakubu was born and raised in Nigeria and passionate about assisting international students in navigating and overcoming barriers in the United States  educational system.  Contact: Email: idrisyakubu90@gmail.com   Things You Will Learn in This Episode: [00:01 – 04:42] Introduction Introducing the guests [04:42 – 24:36] The Journeys, Challenges & Successes Dr. Enoh and Dr. Yakubu share their unique journeys  The habits and tools you need to succeed The Importance of having mentors Why you need to put networking first Having multiple plans & being resilient [24:36 – 39:22] The Application Process Dr. Enoh and Dr. Yakubu share their experience with the application process [35:40 – 53:28] The Stress of Being a Med/Pharmacy Student The financial challenges and expansiveness of Med/Pharmacy School Time management & Scheduling The importance of family in our journey [53:28 – 1:09:26] The Residency Stories Dr. Enoh and Dr. Yakubu share their residency stories  The H1B visa complications  Finding employment in America after graduation [1:06:20 – 1:15:30] Final Words Build networks and have mentors You need mentorships as you need air Being honest with yourself and the people around you Guests shared advice and wisdom prospective students   Tweetable Quotes: “Your international experience [from coming into a new country at a young age] helps you mature significantly and you need to speak to that. That level of maturity is going to help you as your classmates will benefit from that, and you also need to take it further to show how the institution will benefit from that.” -  Dr. Idris Yakubu   “You are a student first. Regardless of how strong you may be in other areas, if your grades aren’t good enough, you are not making yourself competitive enough. At the bare minimum, make your grades competitive and that may increase your chance of someone looking at your application.”  - Dr. Idris Yakubu LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).  

Last week’s episode was about giving a holistic experience on what it takes to be a successful international student in the US and diaspora as a whole. In this episode, we dive deeper into resources that are available to prospective students in Africa to use if planning to apply to schools in the US. Our guest Richard Ewane, founder of The Student Advisor, explains the entire process of applying to college as an international student successfully with an emphasis on making it through the complex process of the F-1 visa interview at the US Embassy. If you are a student or parent of a prospective student who is confused and/or overwhelmed by the complex process of applying to college in the diaspora, then this episode is for you. Meet Our Guest Born in Cameroon, Richard Ewane attended primary school in Yaoundé and secondary school at Sacred Heart College Mankon, Bamenda. He then went to college in America, studying International Business and Economics at Ohio Northern University (ONU). Upon graduation, Mr. Ewane was hired by his alma mater, ONU, as an Admissions Counselor. After working at ONU, Mr. Ewane decided to return to Cameroon. He worked at the S. T. Muna Foundation for a few years and then he was recruited by the U.S. Embassy in Yaoundé as the EducationUSA Advisor, working with prospective students, their families, and other stakeholders to gain admission to U.S. institutions. During his tenure at the U.S. Embassy, Mr. Ewane recorded a seventeen percent (17%) increase in the number of successful applications from the country, the largest increase in over a decade! Driven by his desire to improve the lives of his fellow Cameroonian youth, Richard left his position at the US Embassy and went to work as the Chief of Staff to the international lawyer and anti-corruption champion, Akere "Mr. Clean'' Muna, a candidate in Cameroon’s 2018 presidential election. Simultaneously, he launched The Student Advisor to continue the work he has been doing for a decade – effecting change by providing educational opportunities to Cameroonians. Today, he continues to work with the then-presidential candidate on matters of good governance and anti-corruption across the globe, as well as run The Student Advisor. All with the goal of bringing positive change to his community. Contact Richard:  Website: www.thestudentadvisor.com Phone [whatsapp]: +1 614 697 4455 Phone: +237 680 230 570 Social media platforms: The Student Advisor   Things you will learn in this episode: [00:01 – 07:54] Introduction Introducing the guests The guest summarize his journey [07:54 – 20:05] Coming to America to Study The application process Arriving in America Culture shock experiences Richard's first experience with American students Adapting to the America system [20:05 – 23:00] Working in America after Graduation Working as an Admissions Counselor Setting up orientation for foreign students [23:00 – 30:00] Coming back to Cameroon Finding a job I regretted my decision when things got difficult Working in an orphanage & starting a record label Working at the United States Embassy [54:35 – 46:26] How The Student Advisor helps Students Guiding students through the entire F-1 visa application process Advising students on how to select schools Launching a bootcamp to help students  How The Student Advisor was started The abundant scholarships available [46:36 – 48:04] Get in Touch with The Student Advisor Contact us through our website Getting in touch through Whatsapp & Social Media [48:04 – 55:13] Lessons & Final Words Two important things to note  Anyoh's  final words   Tweetable Quotes: “After doing this several times, I can today look at a kid’s document and ask them how the interview went and know exactly what happened. So what we do is consulting for students who have been denied visas or about to go for an interview and steer them in the right direction.” - Richard Ewane [Founder, The Student Advisor] “A lot of students will stand in their own way. This is because they work with- and receive advice from people who have no idea what they are talking about.” - Richard Ewane [Founder, The Student Advisor] “There could be way more [international students studying in America]. We have so many more qualified students who just fall through the cracks because they don’t have information. When I started working at the US Embassy, I did a full media bliss and we ended up having a 17% increase in the number of Cameroonian students studying in the US.” -  Richard Ewane [Founder, The Student Advisor] “Disseminating correct information is really important for our students because they don’t know. You have all these kids who got 5As in Advanced Level, they should be going to MIT and Stanford and Berkeley, but they don’t know they can. And even when they've seen other people do it, they don’t know how to go about it.” - Richard Ewane [Founder, The Student Advisor] “Life would have been way easier and better if I had this kind of opportunity [with The Student Advisor] prior to coming to the United States as an international student. It is really amazing how much we just try to figure it out by ourselves because we don’t have any guidance.” - Anyoh Fombad LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

This week’s episode is dedicated to all international students and any African who has hopes to migrate to the US (and the diaspora as a whole) for studies. We have two very knowledgeable guests Dr. Sheila Enoh, MD MPH and Dr. Idris Yakubu, PharmD who both started off as international students in the US. They share their experiences from applying to college, going to the US embassy for their F1 visa interview, migrating to the US, as well as valuable lessons they learned in college. If you or anybody you know plans on migrating to the US but doesn't know where to start, then this episode is for you! We hope that this episode is very resourceful to you and your loved ones. As former international students, these are definitely things that we wish we knew prior to migrating to the US and we hope that these experiences can help someone in the pursuit of their dreams in the US.  Meet Our Guests Dr. SHEILA ENOH, MD MPH was born and raised in Yaounde, Cameroon. She moved to the US at the age of 18 to attend college as an international student at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill for her undergraduate studies. She majored in Biology and Psychology with a minor in Chemistry. She then completed a Masters of Science in Public Health with a focus on International Health at the Johns Hopkins School of Public Health. She is a graduate of the University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine and currently pursuing a residency in Internal Medicine at the Johns Hopkins Hospital. She is passionate about all things medicine and global health. Contact:  Website: www.sheilaenohmd.com Email: info@sheilaenohmd.com   IDRIS YAKUBU, PHARMD is a Solid Organ Transplant Pharmacist Specialist at Virginia Commonwealth University Health System and a Clinical Assistant Professor at Virginia Commonwealth University School of Pharmacy. He earned both his Bachelor of Science in Pharmaceutical Sciences and Doctor of Pharmacy degrees from the University of Toledo College of Pharmacy and Pharmaceutical Sciences. He completed a PGY-1 pharmacy practice residency at the University of Toledo Medical Center and a PGY-2 solid organ transplant pharmacy residency at the University of Maryland Medical Center. Dr. Yakubu was born and raised in Nigeria and is passionate about assisting international students in navigating and overcoming barriers in the United States educational system.  Things you will learn in this episode: [00:01 – 04:42] Introduction Introducing the guests [04:42 – 21:32] The F1 Visa & College Application Process Dr. Enoh, Dr. Yakubu and Host, Anyoh share their stories Highlighting the importance of mentorship  Dealing with visa rejection  Advice on how to successfully get an F1 visa [21:32 – 35:40] Coming to America  Dr. Enoh, Dr. Yakubu and Host, Anyoh share their experiences Host, Anyoh shares her story of getting lost at the airport Experiencing the American educational system [35:40 – 54:35] Culture Shock  The guests and Anyoh share their culture shock experiences The importance of networking & having positive friends The importance of being an all-around person  The importance of taking opportunities & taking up leadership roles How to deal with being homesick Networking with other Africans Dr. Yakubu talks about getting to know the system [54:35 – 1:09:26] The Expenses of Studying in America Dr. Enoh, Dr. Yakubu and Host, Anyoh share their experiences The pressure to succeed that international students feel because of the humongous tuition expenses Taking up opportunities and working to manage expenses Getting a scholarship and taking advantage of your networks [1:09:36 – 1:23:04] Dealing With Negative People & Challenges Avoiding the noise and negativity Dr. Enoh talks about resilience Having a good support system is important Being careful of what advice you take [1:23:04 – 1:35:28] Lessons of Survival & Independence Lessons learned from being an international student The importance of getting mentors and sponsors Having the support from family Qualities you need to be successful as an international student in the US [1:35:28 – 1:35:28] Projects & Final Words Guests shared their personal projects Dr. Yakubu and Dr. Enoh give their final words of advice to prospective international students Host, Anyoh shares words of advice and action steps   Tweetable Quotes: “To me, the top 3 things that are very important when coming to the US as an international student: Prove that you have strong ties to your country by convincing them that you are going to return Show them that you can cover your [school and living] expenses throughout your stay in the US Know what you want to do/study - your immediate, midterm and long term goals.” - Anyoh Fombad “One thing that I had to learn coming here in addition to networking was doing extracurricular activities. You can study all you want - that’s great, but if you want to go to amazing places you will have to join organizations and have leadership opportunities so that they can see that you are an all-rounded student.” - Dr. Sheila Enoh  “Going to school abroad [the US] is not just for academics. You really should take advantage of the experience… be open-minded, take advantage of the campus activities, build networks with people from different countries as an international student, and be very intentional about building relationships with the Americans as well. Learn about the system because that is what will really allow you to thrive” - Dr. Idris Yakubu “Being an international student has pushed me beyond my limits. It has allowed me to mature quicker; I have had to put myself in very uncomfortable situations not knowing what to expect but just having faith and trusting that whatever it is, there is something in it for me to learn.” - Dr. Idris Yakubu “In order to be successful, you have to work really hard. You have to be ready to fail and get back up. You have to be really humble. You have to be open-minded. It is ok if you come to the US and you are like “hey I want to do this”, but it is ok if you realize that this is not your passion and you change your mind, as long as it is truly something you want to do.” - Dr. Sheila Enoh LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. 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I come from a family of 6, and you must have seen and heard from 4 of my family members - mom, dad, my older sister Leslie and younger brother Musaga. However, many of you have never heard about my other brother Bayong, who is the youngest sibling. Bayong was born just like any of us but had a seizure disorder, which changed the trajectory of his life, as well as the rest of our lives. Today, we sit down for the first time to share his story and also open up about our experience growing up with him and how that has impacted our lives. This is definitely a vulnerable moment like never before. If you think you knew me, well, you will get to really know me through this conversation. Heck, I also got to learn a lot about my family like never before. For the first time on this platform, I was the host and guest at the same time. It felt great to bare my emotions all out with my family and I hope that our story doesn’t only inspire families going through a similar experience, but encourages us all to be sensitive to what these families with special needs children are going through. In honor of National Epilepsy Awareness Month, here is to Bayong and every other special needs child who has been impacted by epilepsy! We love you! Things you will learn in this episode: [00:01 – 04:42] Introduction Introducing the guests and sharing a brief background on the topic. [04:42 – 24:32] Mom & Dad Share The Story of How it All Began The troubling pregnancy Childbirth and issues afterward Pressure to look for a solution to Bayong's health Finding hope and faith in God Going through depression Finding support and peace [24:32 – 36:40] Sharing Our Experiences as Siblings Anyoh shares her experience Leslie shares her experience Musaga shares his experience [36:40 – 50:30] Dealing with Societal Pressure & Questions People advised that we abandon Bayong Dealing with the social pressure and family Mom shares an emotional story of a childhood talk between Bayong & Musaga The support system that positively impacted the situation [50:30 – 1:02:31] Our Fears & Hope Anyoh shares her fears and worries Leslie talks about keeping hope when Bayong is going through seizure episodes Musaga shares his fears, hope, and gratitude Mom & Dad share their fears, finding inspiration and giving back to others [1:01:31] – 1:07:44] Lessons Learnt & Final Discussions Mom and Dad share words of wisdom to other families Anyoh urges the society to be kind and supportive Last words and final thoughts from Anyoh Tweetable Quotes: “One of the [traditional] doctors told us that he was a snake and that if we are tough enough, just gather all his things and go and keep him by the riverside and I am going to transform him back into the snake so that he can go. At that point, we made that decision that we have had enough!” - Dr. Grace Fombad “Growing up and to this day, with [Bayong] being my only brother, I always felt that void. There was always that hope that one day he will even be able to say a word back, or play with me or just me wondering what life would have been like if things were different for his health.” - Musaga Fombad “A lot of times as I have grown up, there is also that feeling of guilt because that could have been me. I feel like I get to experience all of these things that he never got the opportunity to. It is tough just thinking about it and being helpless.” - Musaga Fombad “Sometimes you can’t help but feel that he is just suffering too much and you mostly just pray but it has just been difficult and a bit rocky. One minute you think he is fine, and the next minute he is back to a stage where you really don’t know what is going to happen to him.” - Dr. Leslie Fombad “[Bayong’s story] changed our lives completely and we are better people as we can adjust to any condition in life. Most people will not accept that type of condition but we did and we are still going on strong, and we will encourage other families to emulate our example.” - Dr. Rudolf Fombad LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

In this month of October, we join the breast cancer awareness conversation. In this episode Gwendolyn Ngu, the founder and CEO of Royal Warrior Cancer Foundation shares her breast cancer survivor story. She speaks about how she got diagnosed, the treatment process and how it affected her professional, social, and family life. We also look are some myths and facts surrounding breast cancer especially in our African community and talk extensively on how we can all, as a community, be more supportive to people dealing with breast cancer and other diseases in general. [00:01 - 01: 50] Opening segment [01:51 - 05: 35] Introduction of Topic An overview of breast cancer Important facts and statistics [05:36 - 21:19]  Gwendolyn’s Story Getting diagnosed Getting the news of a cancer diagnosis Dealing with the knowledge of her new health status Preparing for treatment Her prior and general knowledge on breast cancer [21:20 - 23: 50] Breast Cancer in men [23: 51 - 32:52] The Treatment Process Preparing for treatment Going through chemotherapy Emotional, mental and physical effects of cancer treatment  on her Effects on her professional, family and social life [32:53 - 50:11] Life Besides Cancer Other things she had to deal with while dealing with cancer Losing her son to brain cancer after surviving Getting a divorce What she learned from the whole experience.  [50:12 - 56:42] Available resources for cancer patients Making the right decisions Other treatment options Looking back on what could be done prior to the diagnosis [56:43 - 1:10:56] Becoming cancer free Recovering Reconstruction surgery Life after cancer Reintegrating society Maintenance medication [1:10:57 - End]  About her foundation (Royal Warrior Cancer Foundation) Mission Services Contact information Quotable Tweets "A majority of women who have breast cancer have no risk factors or family history. That is why it is very important for us to really not take it for granted because breast cancer is the second most common type of cancer in women. We have to really make sure that we are being very vigilant and observant with our bodies in general." - Anyoh Fombad "There is this ideology especially in our  African community that only women can get breast cancer but everybody has breasts and men could also develop breast cancer. It is very important for men as well to also check for those lumps in the breast which are usually a sign of breast cancer." - Anyoh Fombad "The issue with breast cancer in men, even though it is not as common as in women, is that any the time they discover it, it could sometimes be too late because they don’t think that they can have it." - Anyoh Fombad "Here is the thing about cancer. I always say the people that really suffer when someone gets diagnosed with cancer is not only the patient. Emotionally, the people around you also suffer because they don’t know how to handle it. Most of the time, they don’t know how to help you." - Gwendolyn Ngu "I was reading this book and it that said, you only truly live life after you have mastered the art of dying.Yes.  After thinking that I had gotten to this place where I could die and I then did not die, that makes me want to live life on another level." - Gwendolyn Ngu "When it comes to family and friends; if you have somebody who is sick, keep your own emotions aside. Consider what that person is going through, it doesn’t matter how you feel about them, it could be you. Treat people how you would want to be treated. If you do not know how, ask for help. Ask somebody who had been through that route, or ask the person who is sick how you can help them." - Gwendolyn Ngu   PLEASE SHARE AND LEAVE A REVIEW You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. Gwendolyn Ngu can be reached through any of the following media: Facebook: Royal Worrior Instagram: royal warrior cancer support Web: www.royalwarrior.org Email: info@royalwarrior.org You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

Today, we start a new conversation on Fibroids & their impact on the lives of our African women. The goal of this conversation is to educate as well as inspire and empower women/couples facing this health complication. Most importantly, this conversation aims to sensitize our community on reasons why we need to be more sensitive and show empathy towards each other especially when it comes to fertility conversations.   Meet our guest - Mrs. Nehawa Ngundam Abam, An IT Consultant, Business Owner, and Founder of the movement FIBROIDS AWARENESS CAM. Nehawa is passionate, about IT, Customer Service Management and devotes her time reaching out to women by advocating for Fibroids, a condition that is very rampant amongst women; especially women of color.   Being a Fibroids survivor, Nehawa has used her own personal experiences and dedicated her time and resources to create a safe space for women with similar issues. The end goal is to encourage women to turn their pain into power. #GirlPower   Now, let's dive into Episode 31! [00:01 – 05:39] Introduction Introducing the guest and sharing a brief background on the topic. [05:40 – 18:16] Nehawa's Story The beginning of her foundation How her experience with fibroids inspired her to start the foundation Her journey to her fibroid diagnosis Going through miscarriage & being wrongly treated The doctor that broke the news  [18:16 – 29:18] The Surgery Process Going to surgery The mental burnout & need for support Going through recovery  [29:18 – 40:23] The Emotional & Mental Struggles Masking her emotions The huge support from family How the death of her Dad affected her Getting Professional Health [40:23 – 48:09] Effect of Surgery on Fertility Different surgeries and their effects Consultations before surgery Calling out superstitious & hurtful beliefs Being educated on every procedure the doctor proposes [48:09 – 57:18] How Fibroids affected Her Life in General Facing societal pressure on having kids Shattering dreams and marital challenges Anyoh talks about how society needs to become more sensitive [57:18 – 01:10:18] Nehawa's Philanthrophic Work Challenges faced in this line of work Overcoming stigmatization Organizing programs & Leveraging online conferences Connecting with the foundation [1:05:36 – 1:10:18] Final Discussions Anyoh talks about overcoming stress Nehawa shares Inspiration on how to overcome How to contact Nehawa Tweetable Quotes: “When going through such complications [like fibroids], you badly need a strong support system that will be there for you anytime, anywhere.” – Nehawa Abam "My catchphrase for fibroid awareness is; turn your pain into strength. Yes, because you have to find the inner strength to overcome." – Nehawa Abam "I may sound harsh but our community needs to mind their own business when it comes to pressuring people on marriage and having children." – Anyoh Fombad "I don't know why in our community; women's health and issues are always treated with so much stigmatization that women can't even freely speak about what they're going through."  – Nehawa Abam LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. Nehawa Abam can be reached through any of the following media: Instagram - @fibroidsawareness_cam Facebook - Fibroids Awareness Cam You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

Today, we continue our conversation on the outlook on Sex & Marriage in the African Community. The goal is to challenge some of the myths and ideologies that limit couples from experiencing the full sexual pleasures of marriage.   This episode has explicit content and listener's discretion is advised. This episode is for adults only - 18 years of age and older.   Our guest for today, Lola Bade-Aluko who is also known as “Lawler”, is a Nigerian Clinical Psychologist and Sexologist currently based in South Africa. Lawler is a wearer of many hats and has taken on a number of great opportunities in her lifetime.   She is a Talk Practitioner, a host at various radio talk programs in Nigeria, England, and Swaziland and also runs a Psychological Unit called Shoulders and a reach-out unit called "Real Issues with Lawler" where she volunteers, hosts talk shows and does counseling. She does all this also while working as the Executive Director of a Technology Firm.   On a more personal level, she is a proud mother to two young adults and a wifey. Lawler is very passionate about mindset transformation and believes in the use of media as well as various other forms of outreach techniques in Behavioral Modification.   Now, let's dive into Episode 30! [00:01 – 10:56] Sex Through The Years The progress that has been made over the years and generations when it comes to being open about our sex lives. [10:56 – 18:46] Sex and Religious Ideologies Lawler shares her thoughts on how religion affects our sex lives Being open-minded with our sexual experiences [18:46 – 33:05] The Use of Sex Toys The taboo of having/using sex toys The idea of having sex toys in your marriage The need to learn and unlearn facts about sex toys [33:05 – 43:33] Orgasms The common outlook on orgasms Lawler shares an experience she had with a couple on orgasm The need for couples to educate themselves on orgasms [43:33 – 53:45] Discussion on Aphrodisiac The buzz around Kayanmata Lawler educates us on aphrodisiacs [53:45 – 1:03:33] Final Discussions Lawler gives deep knowledge to couples on how to spice up their sex lives. Final words from Anyoh on the last episode of Sex & Marriage Tweetable Quotes: “When it comes to orgasms, most couples are not knowledgeable about them. They literally know nothing about orgasms and they need to begin with education on what an orgasm is and how to reach it.” – Lola Bade-Aluko "Your husband or wife can't be in the mood 24/7 and 365days a year so sometimes, you have to psych your partner's mindset towards sex and indulge in a bit of seduction in order to set them in the mood." – Lola Bade-Aluko "We hold unto some religious norms and myths which deny us the full experience of pleasure in sex." – Anyoh Fombad "Our women are now asking questions about their sex life, working on their bodies, and finding out more ways to enjoy sex and reach an orgasm."  – Lola Bade-Aluko LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. Lawler can be reached through any of the following media: Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter: @realissueswithlawler or Lola Bade-Aluko. Email: realissueswithlawler@gmail.com Contact Number: +27760123910 You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

Today, we will have a candid discussion on Sex & Marriage in the African Community. The goal of this uncomfortable but necessary conversation is to debunk the perspective and outlook on sex especially in marriage, which has been created in our African community and has led to the downfall of so many marriages.    Our guest for today, Lola Bade-Aluko who is also known as “Lawler”, is a Nigerian Clinical Psychologist and Sexologist currently based in South Africa. Lawler is a wearer of many hats and has taken on a number of great opportunities in her lifetime.   She is a Talk Practitioner, a host at various radio talk programs in Nigeria, England, and Swaziland and also runs a Psychological Unit called Shoulders and a reach-out unit called "Real Issues with Lawler" where she volunteers, hosts talk shows and does counseling. She does all this also while working as the Executive Director of a Technology Firm.   On a more personal level, she is a proud mother to two young adults and a wifey. Lawler is very passionate about mindset transformation and believes in the use of media as well as various other forms of outreach techniques in Behavioral Modification.   Now, let's dive into Episode 29! [00:01 – 03:56] Opening Segment I introduce the topic and guest for today’s episode [03:56 – 19:46] Defining Healthy Sex In Marriage Lawler shares the steps to having a healthy sex life in your marriage. [19:46 – 43:05] Spicing Your Sex Life In Marriage We talk more about how to spice your sex life in a marriage Why our people are typically conservative and not sexually innovative Addressing the idea of taking each other for granted, even sexually How to introduce new things into your marital sex life [43:05 – 57:33] Discussing Some Common Sex Problems Lawler shares some deep advice on certain points raised Marriage shouldn't be all about sex Building a strong emotional connection in marriage Lawler addresses the historical aspect of intimacy in marriage through the years - to be continued in Part 2. Tweetable Quotes: “What has worked for me is - I look at my marriage as a relationship so I put in the same energy I will put in a relationship into my marriage.” – Lola Bade-Aluko "I feel like most people are hiding behind Christianity to deny their partners and themselves the chance to explore sexually in their marriages." – Lola Bade-Aluko "We need to build a strong emotional connection with our partners where we can sit, hold hands and talk, cuddle, be silent, and play with our partners because it shouldn't be always about sex." – Lola Bade-Aluko LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. Lawler can be reached through any of the following media: Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter: @realissueswithlawler or Lola Bade-Aluko. Email: realissueswithlawler@gmail.com Contact Number: +27760123910 You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

Today, we continue our conversation to honor Sickle Cell Awareness month, which is September. We will further discuss the importance of donating blood in our community and how that is very useful especially for sickle cell patients. We will be sharing the story of an African mother who has had firsthand experience with caring for her children with sickle cell and why donating blood could not only help patients during an episode, but could go as far as saving lives.      Mrs. Charlotte Tcheudji is a mother of 5 children who were born and raised in Cameroon, West Africa. Two of these children had sickle cell but were fortunate enough to undergo a bone marrow transplant, which though a fortune, has brought a tremendously positive impact on their quality of life. Charlotte has had extensive experience dealing with sickle cell patients from taking care of her children and is so passionate about speaking about the sickle cell as well as helping the underprivileged patients are going through the pain of this disease in Africa through financial and medical device donations.      Mrs. Zita Fomafung, born and raised in Cameroon, West Africa, is a CPA (certified public accountant) by profession and an overall solutionner. I am a serial entrepreneur/hobby-preneur with her latest business Bojongo CPAs serving the Dallas Fort Worth area in the USA. She has several passion projects, one of which led her to create  LifeLine Africa, an NGO with a mission to save lives by making blood transfusion possible. LifeLine was created in 2018 and started operations in Cameroon in 2019. They recruit, retain, and manage benevolent blood donors for their partner hospitals/blood banks. They are the first step to ensuring a safe and quality blood supply for the population.     [00:01 – 02:37] Opening Segment Introduction   [02:37 – 18:27] A Mother's Sickle Cell Story Mrs. Charlotte path to having sickle cell children Sharing her kid's experience with sickle cell Life & raising kid's with sickle cell The children's experience with sickle cell The story of surgeries The path to healing for the kids   [18:27 – 35:30] Mrs. Zita's Experience with Blood Donation About her organization (Life Line) The Blood Donation challenges in Cameroon Recruitment for Blood Donation How her organization operates Challenges facing Her Organization   [35:30 – 46:58] Guests Shares More of their Challenges The operation of Mrs. Charlotte's organization Challenges facing the organization Society's mindset on blood donation Education & Sensitization How we can all contribute    [53:58 – 56:01] Final Words How the Diaspora can Help Guests share final words Anyoh shares final words   Tweetable Quotes: “Blood transfusion saved the lives of my children and without the kind donation of people, they won't be alive. Remember, you can save a lot of lives.” – Charlotte Tcheudji “Our mentality about blood donation and blood transfusion needs to change because without it, a lot of people are going to die.” – Charlotte Tcheudji "The most effective way to recruiting the majority of our community to donate blood is through education and sensitization by sharing true-life stories." - Zita Fomafung "We need to consider the fact that - one day, we're going to be on the other side of the road and we will need blood." – Anyoh Fombad Ms. Zita can be reached on: Email: Zita.fomafung@lifelineafrica.org Instagram and Facebook: LifeLine_africa Website: www.lifelineafrica.org LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

In honor of Sickle Cell Awareness month, which is September, we will be shedding more light on sickle cell based on the personal experience of a sickle cell survivor - Iris Mafor Fobanjong. Iris, 43 years old, was born in Cameroon and currently resides in the Tampa Bay area, Florida. She works as an Emergency Room Psychiatric Nurse and she is convinced that there is nothing better than giving to others what she has received from the healthcare industry.     Among her many blessings are her two girls, Georis (17 years old) and Makayla (10 years old), who have both been her topmost cheerleaders untiringly spurring her on. Everyone has a story to tell with an entirely unique theme associated with it. If you ask Iris, her story can never have an introduction nor a conclusion without delving into the question of how life has been, living with sickle cell.     Iris's parents had five children (2 boys and 3 girls) and two out of these five children were born with sickle cell. Her sister, Honorine, passed onto glory at the tender age of 8, from complications that stemmed from sickle cell disease and Iris is here to share the story of her life growing up with sickle cell.     [00:01 – 08:37] Opening Segment Introduction Explanation Of What Sickle Cell Is [08:37 – 18:27] Iris's Journey With Sickle Cell How she came to know she had sickle cell Getting to know your genotype A detailed explanation of what a genotype is Educating yourself about the sickle cell disease The timeline pressure from family [18:27 – 30:30] Implications of Having Sickle Cell Iris's experience with hip replacement surgery Her childhood experience with sickle cell in Cameroon Going to boarding school as a sickle cell patient Her difficult experience with healthcare back in Cameroon The stigma surrounding being black and having a sickle cell in America The tragic blood transfusion experience back in Cameroon [30:30 – 53:58] Adulthood & Sickle Cell Knowing your triggers People's opinion about being a sickle cell patient The insensitivity of some Africans Iris's dating & marriage journey Her experience with childbirth How her children are affected by her health issues [53:58 – 1:01:51] Final Words Our community needs to be more sensitive  Iris gives health advice for sickle cell patients Anyoh shares some words of advice to the African community Dealing with some of the stereotypes Mafor shares final words Tweetable Quotes: “Life will keep changing and as life changes, you have to go with the flow. I am not letting sickle cell define me and you must not allow your health status to define you.” – Iris Mafor Fobanjong “People go through a lot of pain in life and they deal with it differently so we need to be sensitive and empathetic towards people in our community.” – Anyoh Fombad "Don't let anyone label you because they can be labeled too." – Iris Mafor Fobanjong "There is a lot more to live for than your health struggles. You have life and loving people around you so enjoy every moment and don't let your health struggles stop you." – Iris Mafor Fobanjong Iris can be reached via email: irismafor@yahoo.com Find Specific Data & Some Information shared on this episode in this link with references: References LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

"When are you getting married? When are you having a baby?".....etc. Do any of these words sound familiar to you? Truth is that if you grew up in an African household, you most likely heard at least one of those words thrown at you. Somehow, we seem to have created this social timeline that has been instituted as a crucial part of being successful as an African. It feels like a degree, marriage, children, etc at an appointed time should be our ultimate goal and highest achievement in life. We tend to forget the essence of purpose and fulfillment, however that may come across to us, should be our ultimate goal in life.  Today, we will be challenging these superficial ideologies that put so much societal pressure on us Africans. We will defy such a doctrine that has pushed so many Africans to make horrible decisions because they are trying to fit into the status quo and please their loved ones and the community at large. I will be having a somewhat remote fireside chat with two of my very good friends -  Dr. Judwin Ndzo and Dr. Clarisse Wuttidma.  Dr. Judwin Ndzo is a Pediatric Registrar in East Midlands North, currently based in QMC Nottingham, England. Shortly after graduating with her MD degree, she worked at Solidarity Clinic in Buea, Cameroon, where she developed a passion for managing children. Her interest in nutrition led her to her job with MSF Swiss (Doctors without Borders) and later the French Red Cross in Garoua-boulaï, Eastern Cameroon where she worked in a refugee camp for almost 2 years, looking after malnourished kids. Following this, she won a Chevening Scholarship to study a Masters in Public Health (Nutrition pathway) at the University of Southampton, UK. That same year, she sat the Plab exams and obtained a license to practice in the UK, obtained a job as a pediatric junior doctor, then got into pediatric residency the following year.  She is keen to help other young Cameroonians/Africans pursue their career goals. When not working, she somehow manages to find time traveling, working out, hiking, cooking, socializing, and hanging out with friends! Dr. Clarisse Wuttidma was born in Cameroon and moved to the UK in 2006 right after high school. She studied economics and finance at Brunel University London. Upon completing her Ph.D. in Economics and Finance, she started working as an economics and market researcher. She currently works as a rail business consultant for a global company, actively working on the decarbonization of the rail industry and privatization of France’s Rail industry. She has a great interest in economics and environmental sustainability, educating, encouraging, and helping others attain their goals as much as she can. She loves spending time with friends and family, especially her nieces and nephews. She loves cooking, baking, and entertaining guests. [00:01 – 03:37] Opening Segment Introduction [03:37 – 18:27] Sharing Personal Experiences with The African Timeline Get to know the guests The timeline pressure from family Pressure from friends and work colleagues The Aunties who will be on your case Host, Anyoh talks about how the Community has made careless talking a norm [18:27 – 35:30] The Insensitivity in Our Community & Pressure on Men The gossip culture in our community Take into consideration people's personal struggles Guests share their thoughts on the social pressure men face The common outlook on marriage in our African Community We need to stop comparing our lives to other people's life. [35:30 – 46:58] Changing the Norm Being open-minded Being cautious about what we say Trusting your process and believing in your journey Being authentic to ourselves. Living your life and not someone's life. Tweetable Quotes: “Our community has painted a picture that says being married and having children is the ultimate goal of life. But there is soo much more to life than marriage and kids.” – Anyoh Fombad “In the end, it is somebody's life, and what they choose to do with it. If they get married, fine. If they don't get married, that's fine also. Don't go around pressuring people to take these decisions.” – Dr. Judwin Ndzo "Life is short and life is not a straight line. Live every day with purpose and only make decisions when you're ready." – Dr. Judwin Ndzo “It's wrong for us to think the qualification for men to get married is a house and car. What if they lose their job, the car, and the house? We have to change that mindset.” – Dr. Clarisse Wuttidma "Stay away from the noise and pressure so it doesn't lead you into making regrettable decisions." – Dr. Clarisse Wuttidma "There is so much careless talk in our community. People say hurtful words to you, they laugh over it and tell you they were joking. We can do better." – Anyoh Fombad LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

In this episode, we continued speaking with Lola Bade-Aluko who is also known as “Lawler”, a Proudly Nigerian  Clinical Psychologist and Sexologist currently based in South Africa. Lawler is a wearer of many hats and has taken on several great opportunities in her lifetime. She is a Talk Practitioner, a host at various radio talk programs in Nigeria, England, and Swaziland, and also runs a Psychological Unit called Shoulders and a reach-out unit, called Real Issues with Lawler where she volunteers, hosts talks and does counseling. She does all this also while working as the Executive Director of a Technology Firm. On a more personal level, she is a proud mother to two young adults and a wifey. Lawler is very passionate about mindset transformation and believes in the use of media as well as various other forms of outreach techniques in Behavioural Modification. [00:01 – 03:16] Opening Segment Introduction [03:16 – 13:54] Demystifying Sex The African Mentality on Sex Reasons why African Parents saw talking about sex as a taboo The need to have a positive view about sex Understanding that ypu\re the custodian of your body The Stages of Se Education according to age [13:54 – 29:03] How Sex Education helps to Prevent Sexual Abuse Teaching children about abuse How silencing children encourages abuse Lawler shares her experience with his child The Lack of Knowledge in our Community [30:54 – 44:30] Sex Education in African Schools Why Sex Education isn't Encouraged in African Schools How some African Countries are changing the narrative The Nigerian & South Africa examples Sharing a sleepover story Applying the stages of sex education [44:30 – 57:12] Final Suggestions & Remarks Steps we need to take in order to educate our teens on sex Creating a safe environment for children to press themselves We need to stop overreacting about sex How to reach out to Lawler The promise of having 18+ Episode on Sex Education Final words on this topic Tweetable Quotes: “Educating our youth about sex will help them understand what they feel, why they feel the way they feel, and what to do about it.” – Anyoh Fombad “Most African Parents are scared of sexual education because they think it will give the teens a wrong exposure. No, it will rather empower them to take control of their sexuality.” – Lola Bade-Aluko “If we educate our adolescents on sex accurately, there will be less sexual abuse in our community.” – Lola Bade-Aluko "We owe our children an obligation to create a safe space where they can talk about sex with us. And that obligation, we can fulfill if we want to.” – Anyoh Fombad LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).   Lawler can be reached through any of the following media: Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter: @realissueswithlawler or Lola Bade-Aluko                   Email: realissueswithlawler@gmail.com Contact Number: +27760123910

On this episode, we will be speaking to Lola Bade-Aluko who is also known as “Lawler”, is a proudly Nigerian  Clinical Psychologist and Sexologist currently based in South Africa. Lawler is a wearer of many hats and has taken on a number of great opportunities in her lifetime. She is a Talk Practitioner, a host at various radio talk programs in Nigeria, England, and Swaziland, and also runs a Psychological Unit called Shoulders and a reach-out unit, called Real Issues with Lawler where she volunteers, hosts talks and does counseling. She does all this also while working as the Executive Director of a Technology Firm. On a more personal level, she is a proud mother to two young adults and a wifey. Lawler is very passionate about mindset transformation and believes in the use of media as well as various other forms of outreach techniques in Behavioral Modification. [00:01 – 03:16] Opening Segment I Introduce our guest, Lawler [03:16 – 30:54] Defining Sex Lawler shares her outlook on sex. Lawler talks about the stages of sexual education. We share some African perspectives of sex and how it was taught to us growing up. Lawler talks about her approach to sex education with her children. [30:54 – 1:00:56] Host and Guest share Experiences Lawler shares her experience with her kids. Anyoh shares about her childhood experiences. Building a safe space for children to talk about sex. The Importance of sex education  Tweetable Quotes: “As Africans, we make talking about sex a taboo and that is not healthy.” – Anyoh Fombad “African Parents prevent their children from dating, parties, and socializing with the opposite sex but when they turn 24, we want them to marry. How?” – Lola Bade-Aluko LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).   Lawler can be reached through any of the following media: Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter: @realissueswithlawler or Lola Bade-Aluko                   Email: realissueswithlawler@gmail.com Contact Number: +27760123910

At the end of every episode, I always call on all the listeners to not let the conversation end with the episode; to take the conversation to various circles and have more meaningful conversations about the topics we discussed.   Today, I brought some of those conversations to light with my little circle - my dad - Dr. Rudolf Fombad, and mom - Dr. Grace Fombad. We got to discuss the general consensus about marriage in our African community, which is not based on facts by the way, that compared to our parent's generation (baby boomers and above), we (millennials and below) don’t value marriage as much because we get divorced easily.    Mom and dad also shared their own perspectives on marital values through the generations based on experience, and we collectively shared some very insightful ideas and observations on various factors that may have influenced the outlook on marriage in our community.    I would love to hear from you, about what you think of any of the episodes that have impacted you in one way or the other. Again, let's keep the conversation going and spark more uncomfortable but necessary conversations.   Source article mentioned in episode: https://www.goldbergjones-wa.com/divorce/divorce-by-generation/   [00:01 – 04:16] Opening Segment I Introduce our guests, Dad & Mom [04:16 – 34:46] The Generations & How They View Marriage The generations that came before us (GI Generation, Silent Generation, Baby Boomers, Gen X). The early marriage problem  The persistency of marriage in the times of our Parents How Laws made it difficult to divorce [34:46 – 59:35] More Discussions on Why Divorce was Uncommon Why younger generations are quick to call it quits on marriage The positive effects of women empowerment Learning to deal with each other weaknesses Tips on sustaining marriage [59:35 - 01:21:39] Final Words and Discussion Deeper tips on sustaining a marriage among Millennials and Gen Zs. The Impact of the extended family on African marriages Getting support from the family Final Words Tweetable Quotes: "Young people must learn how to react to the emotions of their partners in order to find solutions in their marriage." - Dr. Grace Fombad "In the older generation, divorce was a taboo and so most people rather stayed in marriage or faced discrimination after divorcing" - Dr. Radolf Fombad "We have to quickly learn how to help one another to manage the home and keep our marriage." - Anyoh Fombad "Some women feel they're failures for not having a successful marriage and that's wrong. You're valuable with or without marriage." - Anyoh Fombad LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

In this episode, we continue shedding more light on the story of divorce from a man’s perspective. But before that, I just want to make this clear - the purpose of this podcast is not to encourage divorce especially in situations that can be mended. The goal is to challenge the stigma of divorce, using lessons from real-life stories and to encourage anyone who is facing an unrepairable marriage to not feel trapped in the fear of judgment and know that there is life after divorce.  I will be talking to an old friend who has chosen to be anonymous and will go by the name Olufemi - Femi for short. He chose to become anonymous because there are children involved. If you want to catch up with Femi’s story and how it ended up in divorce, please refer to Episodes 20 and 21 in the podcast directory. [00:01 – 03:16] Opening Segment I Introduce our guest, Olufemi [03:16 - 17:54] The Divorce Decision Olufemi shares what was the deal breaker The internal and external pressures to stay marriage [17:54 – 31:12] The Divorce Process Going to numerous Court Sessions Producing countless documents The effect of divorce on the kids The cost of divorce  The constant twists and turns  [30:12 – 40:45 ] Life as A Single Man & Lessons Learnt The healing process Putting the kids first Transitioning to being a single father Lessons learnt about Self Control Other lessons learnt [40:45 – 54:06] What Olufemi Would Have Done Better & Conclusion Remarks Olufemi gives important keys we need for healthy relationships. Host Anyoh Shares some lessons she also took from the discussion Olufemi gives his final remarks. Tweetable Quotes: “I also learned that we need to find ourselves and be comfortable by being with ourselves before we go into relationships.” – Anonymous (Olufemi) "You can't give what you don't have - you can't love someone if you don't love yourself.” – Anyoh Fombad "Discernment can come through instincts or the guts and we need to pray for deeper discernment so we make better decisions.” – Anyoh Fombad "I learned that the highest form of control is self-control because without it - you'll mess everything up." - Anonymous (Olufemi) LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

Today we will be talking about intimate partner violence, which is a very important topic of discussion in the African community. Through the years, abuse has been somewhat normalized in relationships and in our community. There have been many examples of abuse that have led to a loss of life. Some 1.2 million women and 700,000 men experience domestic violence each year, according to the Office for National Statistics.  According to a study, Africa has some of the highest prevalence rates of intimate partner violence in the whole world. Today I will be talking to an old friend who has chosen to be anonymous and will go by the name Olufemi - Femi for short. He chose to become anonymous because there are children involved.  [00:01 – 09:45] After The Violence Femi is Hospitalized He goes to court for a protective order Looking back at events that took place [09:45 - 30:54] The Process of Divorce The court hearings for protection order What led to divorce Femi's then-wife abandons the kids They separate for one year Femi delays in filing for divorce [30:54 – 1:05:2] The Adultery Part & The Community Response Femi shares the story of adultery How the community reacted The advice from friends How the church reacted [1:05:2 – 1:15:55] Lessons & Closing Remarks Lessons He Learnt What men must know about intimate partner violence Closing Remarks  Tweetable Quotes: “If someone is not willing to change, no amount of good knowledge can help such a person.” – Olufemi “There is this ideology in Africa that men don't show emotions - that is WRONG! Men have emotions and they need to show it when they are hurt” – Anyoh Fombad "It is OK for men to be vulnerable. If you need to cry, then cry!" - Anonymous (Olufemi) “We always create this ideology of who we want people to be that we get blindsided and refuse to accept people for who they really are even when they're showing it to our face.” – Anyoh Fombad LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

Today we will be talking about intimate partner violence, which is a very important topic of discussion in the African community. Through the years, abuse has been somewhat normalized in relationships and in our community. There have been many examples of abuse that have led to a loss of life. Some 1.2 million women and 700,000 men experience domestic violence each year, according to the Office for National Statistics.  According to a study, Africa has some of the highest prevalence rates of intimate partner violence in the whole world. Today I will be talking to an old friend who has chosen to be anonymous and will go by the name Olufemi - Femi for short. He chose to become anonymous because there are children involved.  [00:01 – 03:36] Opening Segment Introduction of guest and topic [03:36 – 17:52] Meeting His Then-Girlfriend How Femi meets his then-girlfriend Starts with a long distance relationship The countless red flags The continuous manipulation [17:52 – 38:29] Knowing The Wife Getting to know where she came from How her past affected her present Femi thinks he can change her The marriage becomes toxic  [38:29 – 1:07:23] The Abusive Patterns The signs are being ignored She starts cheating openly She puts her hands on him He tries to help her She doesn't change  Tweetable Quotes: “If someone is not willing to change, no amount of good knowledge can help such a person.” – Olufemi “There is this ideology in Africa that men don't show emotions - that is WRONG! Men have emotions and they need to show it when they are hurt” – Anyoh Fombad "It is OK for men to be vulnerable. If you need to cry, then cry!" - Anonymous (Olufemi) “We always create this ideology of who we want people to be that we get blindsided and refuse to accept people for who they really are even when they're showing it to our face.” – Anyoh Fombad LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

Today, am talking with Susan Mancho who was born and raised in Bamenda Cameroon until the age of 10 when she later joined my mother in the USA Maryland in 1990. She obtained a master’s degree in Information Systems from Penn State University and worked in the IT field for over 20 years. She is a serial entrepreneur - Running a Financial Consulting Firm (CORE Financial Partners), A franchise gym (Anytime Fitness Jessup), and a Trucking Company (Faith Trucking). She is a divorcee and we will be talking about Divorce and Life Thereafter to educate our community about divorce, how to mitigate through such situations, and how to live your authentic self. [00:01 – 02:25] Opening Segment Introduction of Guest and Topic [02:25 – 10:31] Meeting Her Husband How she met her then-husband How the community influenced their marriage When everything went astray [10:31 – 20:30] The Divorce How they came to the agreement on a divorce The process of divorce  The difficulties of divorce How the children took it What she learned in the process [20:30 – 46:53] Outro Discussions How women should see marriage Picking your light Set higher standards The Lessons everyone needs to hear Tweetable Quotes: “We were thought to put everyone first as African women. That narrative must change." - Anyoh Fombad "For your marriage to work, you need two people willing to fight, and the minute one person is not willing to fight - there's nothing you can do." - Susan Mancho "I was thinking about the years I have invested into the marriage, the kids, and how the community will perceive me until I said enough is enough." - Susan Mancho "Sometimes, we just have to accept that we married the wrong people."- Susan Mancho LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

Going back to an older conversation about Domestic Violence with an anonymous guest we call Vanessa. Though we're in our #pridemonth series, we had to add these conversations since it also falls in how we relate to people in the family. Children really go through a lot when there is violence in the home but it's not talked about. We focus on the woman and men in those relationships but overlook the effects the violence has on the children. Let's listen to the full episode now. [00:01 – 02:25] Opening Segment Introduction of Guest and Topic [02:25 – 10:31] Our Guest (Vanessa) Shares Her Story How she came to realize her mom was being abused. How the family was broken The effects on the children [10:31 – 20:30] The Experiences How the mom was engaged into saving the marriage How the society contributed to the abuse  The effects of this experience on the mom How the brothers took it How the experience affected her view on relationships. [20:30 – 35:50] Outro Discussions How she started her healing process What lessons she has learned from the experience What the society can do better Anyoh shared things we can do stop Domestic Violence How the Mom is healing If you see something - you have to speak up Governments roles to play Tweetable Quotes: “If you see something, say something." - Anyoh Fombad "When some men say if you see an abusive man then he has a verbally abusive wife - I ask where are their discipline and restraining strength?" - Vanessa "She doesn't want to be called a divorcee so she tried to stay in the marriage." - Vanessa "Children who experience abuse easily pass it to their relationships and continues the cycle." - Anyoh Fombad "Most of these women are financially incapable so they contemplate how they're going to survive after divorce so they rather stay in the abusive marriage." - Anyoh Fombad LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

As we continue honoring #PrideMonth, we will be having Marshall Ngwa also known as BeBe Zahara Benet is a Cameroonian-American drag performer, television personality, and musician best known for winning the first season of the reality-television drag competition RuPaul's Drag Race in 2009.  Currently, he stars in the TLC transformational makeover television series Dragnificent, as the event planning expert. He recently released an EP called Broken English, which is having a lot of great reviews and has a documentary called Being Bebe: The Bebe Zahara Benet Documentary, which premiered at the Tribeca Film Festival from June 19, 2021 through June 23, 2021. Hope you enjoy this episode as much as we did. Please leave an honest review and get the resources you need in the information below. [00:01 – 02:25] Opening Segment Introduction of Guest and Topic [02:25 – 10:31] Our Guest (Marshall Ngwa) Shares His Journey The beginning of finding himself How the family supported The Experiences they (host&guest) had in the same school How the environment allowed him to be who be himself [10:31 – 20:30] The African Mindset & Ways We can Change Ignoring our gifts Finding his purpose in college Setting the record straight about the Art of Drag How art saved the world The talent in Africa  [20:30 – 42:00] Finding Bebe Zahara Benet Who is Bebe Zahara Benet? Marshall shares his current projects Final regards and laughs Discussions on myths & facts about the art of drag [42:20: – 1:10:00] Finding Bebe Zahara Benet More on Projects Where to find his work Advice and inspiration Premier of his documentary Tweetable Quotes: "We ignore the gifts of our children instead of allowing them to explore that gift and see what it has for them." - Marshall Ngwa "I am evidence that the arts can make you successful and more. Your gift can always make way for you." - Marshall Ngwa "You need to come across life with an open mind. Take out the stereotypes, prior knowledge and be ready to experience people and life, then it becomes easy." - Marshall Ngwa "Most of the time, it's not that the family doesn't want to be supportive to their LGBTQIA+ Community - but they don't understand and lack knowledge on what your authentic self is." - Marshall Ngwa "We did Drag art unintentionally in our African Community. People dress up as women or men to make us laugh." - Marshall Ngwa Contact Marshall Ngwa - Instagram: @bebezahara, Facebook: Marshall Ngwa; get updates about his documentary Being Bebe: The Bebe Zahara Benet Documentary here. LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out the best content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

In continuation of the uncomfortable but necessary discussions we are having in honor of #PrideMonth, we are having a discussion with an LGBT+ Activist called Kiki Bandy. She is a Cameroonian public figure, entrepreneur, and LGBT+ activist. She is the Founder of Kikum Consulting - a marketing and branding consultancy; Co-founder of Rem Clan - a gender-neutral online apparel clothing company inspired by everything LGBTQ. She is a Rainbow Migration Trustee, Black Beetle Health Trustee, Living Free UK Director, and above all, she is African. Hope you enjoy this episode as the earlier ones, leave an honest review and get the resources you need in the information below. [00:01 – 02:25] Opening Segment Introduction of Guest and Topic [02:25 – 10:31] Our Guest (Kiki Bandy) Shares her coming-out story. The situations that led to her coming-out How the family responded The African communities reaction Death threats and warning of rape [10:31 – 30:30] Kiki Bandy Shares her Experience in the LBGT+ Community The supportive community reception she had. The discrimination faced by Black Women in the LGBT+ Community How people denied her opportunities [30:30 – 42:00] Closing Remarks The host encourages the quest to keep fighting The guest shares her projects Final regards and laughs. Tweetable Quotes: "What I can tell young people in the LGBTQIA+ community is that - coming out is not for everyone. You have to come out to yourself first and accept who you're first, that's the most important thing." - Bandy Kiki Contact Kiki Bandy--- Mail:  info.bandykiki@gmail.com.   Instagram: @bandykiki LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out great content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

In continuation of honoring Pride Month, we examine the complex, yet longstanding relationship between the LGBTQIA+ community and the African church. In this Episode, our guest is Pastor Johnson Bong (one of the Pastors of Grace Community Church Outreach in Manchester, UK). He joined us as we spark uncomfortable, but very necessary, conversations that challenge how the Church treats the LGBTQIA+ in the African community. [00:01 – 02:30] Opening Segment Introduction of Guest and Topic [02:31 – 21:30] Pastor Johnson Talks About the Church's Perspective His Perspective and the Church's Perspective. How we're to treat the LGBTQIA+ Community. He explains Salvation in three Stages. [21:31 – 43:40] Pastor Johnson gives his opinion on some points He insists on not the importance of treating people well,  showing grace and having compassion just as Jesus will do. He shares his personal history and how the church originally receive him. He further gets into a debate with the host about the inclusion of the LGBTQIA+ in the church. [43:41 – 1:09:23] The debate continues The host questions some biblical terms and languages. The host suggests the book: Is God Anti-Gay by Sam Allberry.  The difficult but necessary questions and conversations continue. Tweetable Quotes: “People keep pointing figures to the wrong of other people when they also have similar wrongs in their lives.” – Pastor Johnson Bong “People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care.” – Pastor Johnson Bong Contact Pastor Johnson Bong: johnsonchubong@yahoo.com LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out great content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).  

In continuation to Part 1 of our discussion in honor of Pride Month, we discuss deeper issues faced by the extremely marginalized African LGBTQIA+ community, and how we as a community can treat everyone with kindness regardless of their sexual preference. The Solar Wilsons shared more stories about their experience as well as information on their charity, philanthropy, and current projects. Jump on this Part 2 and let us ride on to finish up where we left on Episode 13.  [00:01 – 06:40] The History of Homosexuality in Africa Sharing facts and knowledge on homosexuality in Africa How Governments treat the LGBTQIA+ community [06:40 – 26:40] Behind the Scene Struggles of the LGBTQI+ Community The Wilson’s share their mentorship programs The causes of the rise in Suicide in the LGBTQIA+ community  Share some inner struggles and fights face by the LGBTQIA+ community Effects of social media abuse and hate. [26:40 – 53:07] The African Village & The Wilson’s Current Projects How the African Village Started. Their current projects, achievements, and philanthropy work. Tweetable Quotes: “We [the LGBTQIA+] are in your families; we are your brothers, sisters, cousins, and parents. Someone in your family or even perhaps yourself is LGBTQIA+ so look into the mirror before you treat anyone unkindly because of their sexuality.” – The Wilsons “At the end of the day, the most important thing is coming out to yourself and knowing that nothing is wrong with you.” – The Wilsons Contact The Wilsons: The Solar-Wilson Village: https://www.solar-wilsonvillage.com/ The Wilsons Email - africanlgbtq@gmail.com Moji Solar-Wilson on Social Media: Instagram - @mojisworld1 Facebook - Moji Solar-Wilson You can reach out to Patience on Facebook or Instagram. Support the Free Minds Foundation, visit their Facebook page. LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out great content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).  

In honor of Pride Month, members of the LGBTQIA+ community dust off their rainbow flags and douse themselves in glitter with parades, festivals, and concerts across the globe but not in our African Countries and communities where the LGBTQIA+ community is extremely marginalized, criminalized, and discriminated against on the daily basis. In this Episode 13 {Part 1}, we had a very impactful conversion with The Solar Wilsons (the first Nigerian born-out legally married lesbian couple in the US) as we spark uncomfortable, but very necessary, conversations that challenge how we treat the LGBTQIA+ in the African community. [00:01 – 02:35] Opening Segment Introduction of guest and topic [02:36 – 21:30] The Wilsons’s Story The Wilson’s share their story – on discovering their sexuality as lesbians. How they came out to the world. The loss of friends and family relations. The support of some family members. The welcoming support of the LGBTQIA+ community. [21:30 – 43:40] The Love Story & Wedding How they met and fell in love  The Viral Wedding that took over the internet in Nigeria How they overcame the attacks, betrayals, and abuse. How the Church treats the LGBTQIA+ community. Tweetable Quotes: “What I found out is that 80% of the 10% of Africans who are LGBTQIA+ are actually in the closet and most of them are actually married to the opposite gender.” – The Wilsons “We’re Christian LGBQTIA+ people but when we came out, we were church shopping because every church you go to, you’re met with a different kind of hatred.” – The Wilsons Contact The Wilsons: The Solar-Wilson Village: https://www.solar-wilsonvillage.com/ The Wilsons Email - africanlgbtq@gmail.com Moji Solar-Wilson on Social Media: Instagram - @mojisworld1 Facebook - Moji Solar-Wilson You can reach out to Patience on Facebook or Instagram. Support the Free Minds Foundation, visit their Facebook page. LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out great content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).  

This is part two of our interview with Patience Abonge. Let’s continue to listen to her story of struggles from mental health illnesses and the various steps she took that helped her through those troubling times.    [00:01 – 18:58] Depression Patience talks about her fall back into depression in the year 2019 We talk about a girl that has bipolar disorder and psychosis Stop victim-blaming [18:59 – 29:57] Battling the Stigma I share some of my personal and our family’s struggles Abolishing the stigma around families that has members with disabilities What you can do to help and support people fighting against mental illnesses [29:58 – 42:33] Healing Patience’s advice to other people suffering from mental illnesses Final words of encouragement Connect with Patience. Links available below.   Tweetable Quotes: “People with mental illness are not attention seekers.” – Patience Abonge   You can reach out to Patience on Facebook or Instagram. Support the Free Minds Foundation, visit their Facebook page.   LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out great content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

In another addition to our Mental Health Awareness series, we are joined by Patience Abonge, and she is here to share her story. She has suffered from anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, and psychosis. Today she encourages us not to be afraid to tell our story. We don’t have to suffer in silence. Together we are stronger, and together we can conquer the challenges along our journey.   [00:01 – 02:35] Opening Segment Introduction of guest and topic [02:36 – 25:58] Patience’s Story Patience shares her story – from childhood to marriage. She talks about getting raped by one of their family members The trauma it caused and how it affected her life The worries she had for her son that had autism Fearing society’s judgeful nature [25:56 – 43:40] Punishment Getting disowned by her own family Landing herself in a mental institution Going deeper and deeper into depression Tweetable Quotes: “I think I’ve been through all kinds of challenges, [but now] I have to challenge myself.” – Patience Abonge “You have to be conscious of what you want to do.” – Patience Abonge   You can reach out to Patience on Facebook or Instagram. Support the Free Minds Foundation, visit their Facebook page.   LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out great content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more. You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, we continue our discussions around mental health, and today, we welcome back Anne Alobwede. Anne is one of the many victims of domestic abuse. She has suffered immense violence from her partner, and because of this, her life took a turn for the worse. Her experiences resulted in a long-running trauma that, up until today, she continues to battle. In this episode, she joins us to talk about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).   [00:01 – 06:54] Opening Segment I explain what PTSD is and the different ways it affects people I introduce our guest [06:55 – 15:28] Domestic Abuse Anne talks about her experience with domestic abuse and how it took her life to a drastic turn for the worse The only time that she stood up for herself resulted in her incarceration [15:29 – 30:38] PTSD How her trauma affected her day-to-day life Managing her PTSD while in prison Life after prison Avoiding the things that reminded her of her previous life Conquering the fear of talking about her experiences [30:39 – 36:00] Relationships Anne discusses how her PTSD has affected her ability to create relationships [36:01 – 49:02] Let’s Heal Together Anne’s advice to the people suffering from PTSD and in their journey to healing Words of encouragement from a fellow African with PTSD Final thoughts Reach out to Anne. Links available below.   Tweetable Quotes: “At the end of the day, mental health illnesses are not physical. Most of the times, when somebody doesn’t tell you that this is what they’re going through, you’ll never know.” – Anne Alobwede. “It’s okay to be different.” – Anne Alobwede   Resources Mentioned: Scars to Stars by Anne Alobwede Till Abuse Do Us Part (Part 1) - Anne Alobwede Till Abuse Do Us Part (Part 2) - Anne Alobwede   Learn more about Anne Alobwede: Website: https://annealobwede.com/  Instagram: @annealobwede Facebook: Anne Alobwede (/anne.alobwede.9) email: annemesame@outlook.com   LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out great content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more.   You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

This is part two of our conversations with Donald and Arnold Fosah. In part one, we talk about the realities of Schizophrenia from the perspectives of a patient, family member, and healthcare professional. In this episode, we continue talking about Donald’s struggles with his illness and how his family is helping him through his journey. We dig deeper into Schizophrenia - [00:01 – 10:46]  Donald and Arnold shares how Schizophrenia affects their daily lives Let’s support each other - [10:47 – 22:01] The importance of having a good support system How you can support someone dealing with mental illnesses What keeps you moving forward? - [22:02 – 28:56]  Donald talks about what keeps him going and fighting against his illness Advice about Schizophrenia - [28:57 - 42:16]  Donald and Arnold shares facts about Schizophrenia and advice on how you can help someone suffering from it Get in touch with them. Links available below.   Tweetable Quotes:  “Understanding yourself is very important. If you don’t understand yourself, you’ll not be able to forge ahead.” – Donald Fosah   You can contact the two of them through Arnold’s private practice at https://verdantbehavioralhealth.com/ or by sending him an email at fosahpmhnp@gmail.com    LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out great content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more.   You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

In celebration of Mental Health Awareness Month, we continue talking about things that affect our mental health and raise awareness about them. Today we focus on Schizophrenia with Arnold and Donald Fosah. Arnold and Donald's lives have been affected by Schizophrenia, and today they will help us see this illness through the perspectives of a patient, family, and healthcare professional.   How Schizophrenia affected Donald's life - [00:01 – 20:34] Donald shares his story as a patient with Schizophrenia. How it affected his personal and family's lives Bringing their family together and strengthening their bond - [20:35 – 27:14]  Arnold shares his perspective as a healthcare professional and as Donald's older brother Arnold talks about his journey to becoming a healthcare professional Stigma in the African community - [27:15 – 36:15] We talk about the stigma around mental health in the African community   Tweetable Quotes: "The fortunate thing that I can say about Wally and also kind of seeing the perseverance of my family is that it brought us together around him." – Arnold Fosah    You can contact the two of them through Arnold’s private practice at https://verdantbehavioralhealth.com/ or by sending him an email at fosahpmhnp@gmail.com   LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out great content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more.   You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

Today’s guest is Anyi Atabong. She joins us today to talk about anxiety, depression, and mental health.  Anyi is one of the most knowledgeable psychiatric nurses that I’ve met, and she is a huge advocate for mental health. She has worked for over 15 years in the healthcare industry. She is currently a practitioner for Talkspace and the Co-Founder & CEO of the Capital Multi Health Group Inc.   [00:01 – 06:27] Opening Segment What is mental health? I give a brief background about our guest Anyi Atabong. [06:28 – 17:40] Mental Health We discuss a story about a Cameroonian lady based in Dubai that committed suicide after she caught her husband being unfaithful. Mental health issues Debunking the myths and misconceptions about mental health [17:41 – 28:28] Dealing with Mental Health Anyi talks about the situations of some of the patients The biggest challenge when dealing with her patients Differences between different generations Anyi discusses “grieving” – it’s not just about a death of a loved one. [28:29 – 39:02] Journey to Healing Anyi explains her “holistic approach” to mental health Different forms of therapy and its value. Anyi’s advice on how to spot the red flags and how to manage your mental health. Final words of advice and call to action   Tweetable Quotes: “We definitely need to, as a community, as a sisterhood…to be able to open up and talk to people about our feelings.” – Anyi Atabong “Your brain is your powerhouse. It is your absolute powerhouse. It is what controls your thinking. It controls your behaviors, your emotions.” – Anyi Atabong   Resources Mentioned: Talkspace www.psychologytoday.com NAMI – National Alliance on Mental Illness Mental Health Crisis (including suicidal ideation) - TEXT Home or Brave to 741741. Available 24/7 for free Domestic Abuse Hotline: 800 799 7233. Available 24/7 for free   You can reach out to Anyi by sending her an email at aatabong@capitalmhg.com. Get in touch with Capital Multi Health Group. Give them a call at 667 307 4173 or follow them on Instagram (@capitalmhg).   LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out great content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more.   You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

Join us for today’s episode, where we continue our discussions with Manyi Anabor.  In part two of this series, we had further conversations about the impact of her experiences with child sexual and physical abuse in her life. We also talk about how she sought help through the form of therapy. Although there are still misconceptions about therapy, such as people thinking that it’s fake, it doesn’t work, or it just shows weakness. For people who have undergone therapy, it was their way out of the dark place that has been haunting them. [00:01 – 21:03] Overcoming PTSD Manyi discusses the value of seeking professional help and undergoing therapy How therapy helped her through overcoming her trauma Therapy isn’t just for the crazy, mad, or troubled people. Manyi talks about the other resources that helped her overcome her trauma Having a good support system Manyi’s advice on how to approach the topic around rape and how to support rape victims. [21:04 – 29:40] Dismantle Rape Culture It’s time to abolish rape culture Actionable steps on how to educate other people about the realities of rape culture Give victims a safe space to share and talk about their stories [29:41 – 35:18] The System has to be Changed We talk about how the African Law Enforcement System needs to be improved Men can be rape victims too! Parents, you must be the first line of defense for your children. [35:19 – 38:08] Closing Segment   Connect with Manyi. Links available below.   Final thoughts and call to action   Tweetable Quotes: “I’m always searching for information and learning and reading self-help books and trying to figure things out. That’s naturally how I am. So that really, really helped me.” – Manyi Anabor   Resources Mentioned: Cactus in a Calabash by Manyi Anabor  Storm not Strong Enough by Manyi Anabor   You can connect with Manyi on Twitter, Instagram, or Facebook. To learn more about her story, you can visit her website at www.manyianabor.com    LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out great content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more.   You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

One of many challenges that women face in society is the existence of Rape Culture, an environment where sexual violence is normalized and minimizes the seriousness of such acts. Some people even say that it’s the victim’s fault for getting raped. It’s time to take action against these social norms.Rape Culture is prevalent and must be stopped. Let’s end victim blaming and hold people accountable for their actions. And for the survivors, always remember that it’s never your fault. In this episode, Manyi Anabor joins us to share her experiences with child sexual and physical abuse. This is part one of a two-part episode. Tune in and look forward to part two. [00:01 – 06:04] Opening Segment I introduce our guest, Manyi Anabor [06:05 – 27:40] Sexual Abuse Victim Manyi talks about her experiences with child sexual and physical abuse Grew up in an extended household They hired a house helper that was actually a sexual predator Manyi shares how that experience has affected her day-to-day life She struggled to express herself freely and to speak up Study shows that sexual abuse victims are more likely to become victims again later in their life. She got abused again by her uncle, and later, a close friend after she moved to the UK She became distrustful of people – both men and women Relationships with men became a nightmare for her We talk about the need for Sex Education in the African community [27:41 – 32:32] PTSD With all the trauma from her experiences, Manyi shares how it has affected her outlook in life before and now Please look forward to part two. Thank you for listening!   Tweetable Quotes: “As a teenager growing up, even to my early 20s, I would never speak up for myself at all. Even if I was in a situation in which something happened openly, and it was obvious, it was clear that it wasn’t my fault. It had nothing to do with me, and someone jumped up and said it was my fault. I would literally say nothing, and it was a very scary place to be in.” – Manyi Anabor     Resources Mentioned: Cactus in a Calabash by Manyi Anabor Storm not Strong Enough by Manyi Anabor You can connect with Manyi on Twitter, Instagram, or Facebook. To learn more about her, you can visit her website at www.manyianabor.com LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out great content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more.   You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

In this episode, we continue our conversations from part one of “Communication in the African Home.”  As we continue discussing our lives living and growing up in an African household, we dive into our experiences and talk about the lessons and values that our parents instilled in us. Be sure to check out part one of this series.   [00:01 – 20:21] Prepare Your Children for the Future Training the kids to become well-rounded individuals and preparing them for whatever challenge life throws at them Teach them life skills that would be necessary where ever they are Values that you should instill in your children We talk about the lessons we learned from our parents that prepared us for the outside world [20:22 – 28:09] Be There for Your Children  Always be there for your children – we share why. We talk about how our parents were always there to support us through any situation. Annoying things that our parents do. Did your parents do the same? [28:10 – 35:29] Closing Segment We play the “who’s most likely to?” game. Final words of wisdom from our parents   LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out great content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more.   You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

In this episode of Living African, we discuss the need for communication in a household. In our case, an African household and my guests today are my lovely family to give you a perspective on the dynamics in an African home. As we know, communication within the family is important so that we can enable everyone to express their thoughts, needs, wants, and concerns. Open and honest communication creates an environment where the family members can be vulnerable—giving each other the chance to understand one another and embrace their differences.   [00:01 – 06:22] Opening Segment My family introduces themselves The purpose of this episode [06:23 – 24:47] Communication in the African Home We talk about what it’s like growing up in our home The importance of communication in the family Discussing the struggles of life – teaching the kids the necessary skills to survive and preparing them for the future. Instilling discipline the right way [24:48 – 32:59] Discipline by Beating  Our parents share their thoughts on disciplining children by beating We share funny stories from our childhood   Tweetable Quotes: “We believe that we have to make our kids be part of us. We have to make our kids know who we are.” – Grace Fombad   LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out great content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more.   You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

This is part two of the interview with Anne Alobwede. We continue our conversations around the topic of domestic abuse/violence. Domestic abuse and intimate partner violence have been rampant in the African community, and this issue needs immediate attention and action. With this sense of urgency, please help me spread the word and raise awareness of domestic abuse's reality. Extend a helping hand to the affected people by getting involved in the Non-profit organization, JustLikeYou(JLU)Global Foundation, or other organizations that supports the movement against domestic violence. In this episode, we discuss Anne's experiences during her incarceration and time at the Ice Detention Center and how that has changed her perspective about life as a whole.   [00:01 – 07:43] Time in Prison Anne talks about her time in prison. Let's all learn from her story. "Not all people labeled a 'felon' is a bad person." [07:44 – 18:15] Life After Prison Anne discusses her struggles after her incarceration Struggled to get accepted back to the community A time for healing Anne's advice for people that have finished serving their sentence and are struggling to fit back into society Anne talks about how she is doing now after all of her struggles Anne gives a quick plug to JustLikeYou(JLU) Global Foundation [19:58 – 21:56] Take Action Anne's advice for people experiencing abuse or are in an abusive relationship [21:57 – 28:22] Closing Segment Get a copy of Anne's book, Scars to Stars, on Amazon. Connect with Anne. Links available below. Final thoughts and call to action   Tweetable Quotes: "Life can take a different turn at any second and any minute. You never know." – Anne Alobwede "You have to focus on those that care about you. Don't worry about the people that are backlashing you or saying things, negative things about you." – Anne Alobwede "My mistake doesn't define me." – Anne Alobwede     Learn more about Anne Alobwede: Website: https://annealobwede.com/  Instagram: @annealobwede Facebook: Anne Alobwede (/anne.alobwede.9) email: annemesame@outlook.com   Support the JustLikeYou(JLU) Global Foundation, a non-profit organization that advocates for victims of domestic violence. Visit their website at www.justlikeyouglobal.com   LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out great content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more.   You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

The story we will be highlighting today is the issue of domestic abuse and intimate partner violence. This has been rampant in the African community and is also a topic of recent events that have garnered the attention of many.  Today, we brought in our guest, Anne Alobwede, and in part one of this two-part episode, we discuss the relationship dynamic between a domestic abuse survivor and her abuser and the consequences she faced, which took her life in a different turn for the worse. Please stay tuned and look forward to part two.   [00:01 – 07:06] Opening Segment I introduce the topic and guest for today’s episode [07:07 – 11:26] Who is Anne Alobwede? Anne talks about her background and experience with domestic abuse. [11:27 – 17:54] Domestic Abuse We talk about Anne’s book, Scars to Stars, a memoir that takes the reader through her journey of abuse, prison time, and immigration detention. Why people choose to stay in abusive relationships [17:55 – 23:16] The Breaking Point of Abuse Taking drastic measures to deal with their physical, emotional, and mental trauma Why people are pushed to a corner and end up making a decision that they will regret. [23:17 – 35:25] Support System The importance of having a good support system (from family, friends, or getting professional help)   Tweetable Quotes: “You know, life is a choice. If you’re hurting and you don’t want to hurt anymore, and you’re sure you’ve got enough of this hurt to the point where you either do what you have to do to get out of it, or you wait for the hurt to eat you up to the point where it kills you...like it breaks you completely.” – Anne Alobwede   Resources Mentioned: Scars to Stars Anne Alobwede   Learn more about Anne Alobwede: Website: https://annealobwede.com/  Instagram: @annealobwede Facebook: Anne Alobwede (/anne.alobwede.9) email: annemesame@outlook.com   Support the JustLikeYou(JLU) Global Foundation, a Non-profit organization that advocates for victims of domestic violence. Visit their website at www.justlikeyouglobal.com   LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out great content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more.   You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).

My name is Anyoh Fombad, and welcome to the Living African Podcast. Join me as I embark on this journey where we uncover my fellow Africans' stories, help empower our communities, and bring awareness to our culture that's being threatened by social norms. I hope that this platform can provide a safe space for misunderstood African individuals to open up conversations and share our message to the world. Tune in and look forward to our future episodes, and hear stories of what it feels like to be Living African in this modern society.       LEAVE A REVIEW and tell us what you think about the episode so we can continue putting out great content just for you! You can connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, Twitter, or send us an email at hello@livingafricanpodcast.com. Check out our website www.livingafricanpodcast.com for more resources and to learn more.   You can connect with Anyoh on Facebook (@anyohf), Instagram (@anyohfombad), and Twitter (@anyohfombad).