Hi! We’re Lacey & Flynn and we f**cking love having sex together. But it wasn’t always this way. A few years ago, we were barely having sex at all. Lacey didn’t want to anymore and Flynn wasn’t happy about it. Instead of breaking up though, we decided to dig into exactly what was going on. How was it possible we’d gone from loads of sex in that honeymoon phase to completely cold between the sheets? We began a mission to explore all the reasons sex dries up in longterm relationships and that’s what we’re bringing you in this show. From resistance to rejection, non-existent sex drives to constant arguments, we’re going to give you the ins and outs of why your sex life isn’t working then show you what to do about it. After years of healing our own relationship by committing to our sex lives like it was our business, we made helping other people with their sex lives our actual business. Since then, we’ve taught thousands of singles and couples around the world via our online course Sex Elevated, how to talk about sex, how to ask for what they want, how to heal their baggage and ultimately, have epic, soulful and satisfying sex lives. On this Podcast, we’ll be teaching you (and showing you!) everything we’ve learned through our private lives, our studies and our experience helping thousands of people in the same boat. Sometimes we’ll even have sex and break it down for you so you can actually see (well, hear) the work in action. We’ll also invite special guests into the conversation and even answer your personal questions live on the show to help you transform your relationship and sex life. Hilarious, emotional, spiritual and 100% real, we’re leaving no stone unturned as we share the intimate workings of our sex life with you. This might make you uncomfortable. It might make you excited. If you tune in and really dig deep, this podcast will totally change not only your sex life, but how you relate to pleasure, healing, and who you are as a person. Whether you’re in a rut, an epic relationship, looking to spice things up, or wanting to develop a more soulful intimate life, we’re going to show you what it looks like to actually do the work to make your relationship and sex life amazing. Tune in then find all the juicy details from each episode at laceyandflynn.com/podcast
70. Farewell: our last episode
The only thing we know how to share is the truth. And that truth is, dear listeners, that this is very likely our last episode. And needless to say, we’re feeling quite emotional about it. But we’re also basking in celebration over what we've created together. We have reached so many people (over half a million downloads) and have poured so much of our truth into this work and our mission to show people the truth of intimacy, love, communication, and integrity. And we are very proud of that. So in today’s emotional episode, we’re sharing what led to this moment, saying goodbye to you, our amazing listeners, and welcoming all the amazing things yet to come. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to say goodbye. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/70-farewell Interested in unlocking your sexual energy and co-creating your life through pleasure instead of struggle? Get Lacey’s Manifesturbation™ Activations at manifesturbation.com. Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on, and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires, and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings, like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
12/5/2022 • 53 minutes, 45 seconds
69. Polyamory, masturbation, challenge and resistance
What are our views on polyamory and open relationships? How to overcome shame around masturbation? Do we work with couples? These are just some of your questions that we’re answering in today’s episode. And though we‘re not having sex, we are riding your questions straight into a full-blown answer climax. And, of course, we go really deep on each of these questions to help you find the answers you’re looking for so that you can grow and learn on this amazing journey with us. We’re diving into polyamory and open relationships (the difference between them, our views, and whether we would ever consider either), greeting shame head-on, and surrendering to challenge and resistance. So grab your headset, tune in, and find out the answers to your questions! (And if you’d like to hear your questions answered in a future episode, the best place is to send them to us on Instagram @laceyandflynn.) Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/69-polyamory Interested in unlocking your sexual energy and co-creating your life through pleasure instead of struggle? Get Lacey’s Manifesturbation™ Activations at manifesturbation.com. Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on, and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires, and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings, like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
11/28/2022 • 31 minutes, 59 seconds
68. The Yeti story and Lacey's vulnerability hangover
A rare silver Yeti lived in the deepest part of the forest. She was magical and creative, but she was very big, and all of the other creatures were scared of her and couldn't reconcile how tender she was with her brutish appearance… Not knowing that this would turn into the episode that it did, we start today with a very special and magical bedtime story that turned out to be so much more. We explore the true meaning behind Lacey’s bedtime story, her recent experience that has left her with a vulnerability hangover, and feeling misunderstood (and how to handle it). Because though we both feel truly called to do this work, the truth is that it takes a lot of strength to hold the unknown and do what feels right. But it is also true that we never know with certainty what’s going to happen, and that can stir up a lot of emotions and raise many fear-based questions. So in today’s episode, we dive into all of this and more. Grab your headset, tune in, and find out if, in reality, Lacey is the true silver Yeti. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/68-yeti Interested in unlocking your sexual energy and co-creating your life through pleasure instead of struggle? Get Lacey’s Manifesturbation™ Activations at manifesturbation.com. Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on, and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires, and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings, like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
11/21/2022 • 47 minutes, 45 seconds
67. Sex Fun is the best fun
Let’s play a sex game! After all, sex fun is the best fun. So today, we’re bringing you a (mostly) silly episode with Lacey’s completely made-up sex game. (And yes, you can play along too!) And though today’s episode is light and jovial, it’s also educational and insightful. We do get a bit serious at times as we discuss disrupting the energy of how you approach sex and relationships. We also explore dropping below judgment in order to learn about your sexuality, who you are, what you like, and how you want to live your life. So grab your headset, tune in, and play along with our sex game (with your partner or by yourself)! Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/67-sexfun Interested in unlocking your sexual energy and co-creating your life through pleasure instead of struggle? Get Lacey’s Manifesturbation™ Activations at manifesturbation.com. Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on, and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires, and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings, like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
11/14/2022 • 40 minutes, 39 seconds
66. How to give a blow job
Aaand we’re back after an unintentional hiatus! We’re sorry to leave you hanging, so stay tuned for more details on what we’ve been up to. In the meantime, in today’s episode, we’re doing something that we don’t usually do: coming at you with a how-to. As in, how to give a blow job (we kinda gave it away in the title). This isn't your typical how-to, though, because we always want to come at things from an embodied landscape, doing things from within first. So, today we want to take you on a journey of mutual understanding and pleasure, letting go of power dynamic issues, and tuning into your partner. We also share some practical tips and Lacey’s Queen of Pressure and Turkish Dancer techniques. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to learn all you need to know when it comes to blow jobbing! Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/66-blowjob Interested in unlocking your sexual energy and co-creating your life through pleasure instead of struggle? Get Lacey’s Manifesturbation™ Activations at manifesturbation.com. Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on, and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires, and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings, like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
11/7/2022 • 29 minutes, 43 seconds
65. Fuck yourself rich
It’s Manifesturbation™ week! If you want more pleasure and wealth in your life, then you’re in the right place. We are so excited and giddy this week to be launching Lacey’s Manifesturbation™ Activations. So today’s episode is all about Manifesturbation™, what it is (and what it isn’t), who it’s for (and who it isn’t for), and how this practice has been changing the lives of women everywhere (and men too!). And it’s time for you to start co-creating your life, unlocking your sexual energy, and connecting with specific visions of what you want to happen in your life and the exact sums of money you want to bring in. You might ask yourself, “How can that be possible?” But the truth is, we do it all the time. So grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to hear how you can fuck yourself rich and get everything you’ve ever wanted. This is your moment. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/65-fuckyourselfrich Interested in unlocking your sexual energy and co-creating your life through pleasure instead of struggle? Get Lacey’s Manifesturbation™ Activations at manifesturbation.com. Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on, and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires, and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings, like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
10/10/2022 • 52 minutes, 14 seconds
64. The top 5 things Lacey manifested this year
Ready to see manifesting in action and become the co-creator of your own life? In today’s epic episode, Lacey shares the top 5 hottest and most potent things she’s called into her life and our lives this year (there’ve been so many, she had to narrow it down). From articles and TV shows to 40k profits and sold-out retreats, this year has been incredible. And it’s not that we’re not special or different, but we’ve manifested the life of our dreams and want you to know that you can too. By sharing Lacey’s incredible manifestations, we hope everyone listening sees themselves in this and lets go of any feeling of competition or “I could never do that.” Where you are on your path is perfect, and you get to choose how you proceed and the energy with which you unfold that next action for the rest of your juicy beautiful epic life. So grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to hear all about the true power of manifestation. P.S. If this is tickling you and you want to unlock your sexual energy and create your life through pleasure instead of struggle, make sure to get on the waitlist for Lacey’s Manifesturbation™ Activations at laceyhaynes.com/manifest. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/64-manifested Interested in unlocking your sexual energy and creating your life through pleasure instead of struggle? Get on the waitlist for Lacey’s Manifesturbation™ Activations at laceyhaynes.com/manifest. Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on, and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires, and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings, like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
10/3/2022 • 49 minutes, 49 seconds
63. Manifesturbation™ [Listener Favourite]
Want to explore what it means to create your life through pleasure? Enter Manifesturbation™. We are all about manifesturbating right now, which is why we decided to bring our Manifesturbation™ episode back! Manifesturbation™, the act of using your sexual energy to create the life you desire, helps you to stop thinking, attune to yourself, become more clear on what you truly want, and align to a bigger vision. You connect to yourself and your pleasure and then have it all arrive in your body. It's just a totally joyous process of making the life you desire. And isn't that the ultimate way to create the life that you want? When this episode originally came out in June of 2021, our podcast had gone live only a few months prior. And this was before we manifested our way to huge press and two projects we’d been dreaming about. So here we are 50+ episodes later, having co-created our own dreams through this practice (and continuing to do so), and have already helped hundreds of other people do the same, just in the last few months! Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to go back in time and hear our first big share around Manifesturbation™ and how you, too, can create the life you desire through pleasure. P.S. If this is tickling you and you want to unlock your sexual energy and create your life through pleasure instead of struggle, make sure to get on the waitlist for Lacey’s Manifesturbation™ Activations at laceyhaynes.com/manifest. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/63-manifesturbation Interested in unlocking your sexual energy and creating your life through pleasure instead of struggle? Get on the waitlist for Lacey’s Manifesturbation™ Activations at laceyhaynes.com/manifest. Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on, and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires, and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings, like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
9/26/2022 • 1 hour, 21 minutes, 13 seconds
62. Rag-doll sex
Trigger Warning: There is a brief mention of rape in this episode in the context of trying to find the correct language around giving your partner full permission to dominate you. What happens when you surrender fully and be dominated by your partner? Rag-doll sex. And that’s what this episode is all about. If you’ve listened to our previous episode, you know how much Lacey wants Flynn to lead. And this episode is about precisely that, Lacey feeling safe enough to fully surrender and Flynn taking what he wants and owning his masculinity. In today’s episode, we’re starting off hot and heavy, and Lacey gets dominated by love. We discuss the importance of setting the proper foundation and how being able to let go allows you to experience new levels of pleasure. Flynn shares his perspective on how being dominant and restoring the polarity in the relationship enables him to remember more about who he truly is and embrace his masculinity. So, grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to hear how sometimes you just want your partner to treat you like a rag doll. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/62-ragdoll Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
9/19/2022 • 49 minutes, 56 seconds
61. The big argument: Lacey wants Flynn to lead
Today’s episode is a big one. It’s not what we had planned, but we’re sharing this process, this big emotional release and open communication, to help bring you to the point of your own discovery. This is us working through one of the biggest pains in our lives and something that needed to happen. Hopefully, there'll be moments in this episode that you really relate to and give you insight into what's happening in your own life and your own relationships. In this episode, we talk about why Lacey feels like she’s in charge of almost everything and how she doesn’t feel fully understood, how Flynn has been feeling uninspired and partially checked out, and some textbook masculine-feminine polarity. We also come to some realizations about this period of transition that we’re in and new ways to support each other. It's powerful. It's emotional. It's intense. And it's also full of love (and sealed with a kiss). So, grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to hear a conversation that’s been a long time coming. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/61-argument Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
9/12/2022 • 1 hour, 2 minutes, 13 seconds
60. Life-changing anal and why we're no longer working together
Welcome back, everybody! We're back in your earholes with a bang, and we’ve got lots of news, including our recent deep cosmic anal experience. And we want to tell you about it not just to pat ourselves on the back but because it was actually life-changing. We’ve also had some recent breakthroughs in terms of how we work together (don’t worry, this podcast and our course, Sex Elevated, aren’t going anywhere). So today, we’re sharing how exactly these two things are related and how they’ve brought us closer than ever. In this episode, you’ll hear about our life-changing anal experience and everything it’s brought us, how Lacey was able to let go of control and resentment, and how Flynn found his strength again to support her. You’ll also hear some challenges of working together as a couple and how to create support for yourself as a woman. So, grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to hear about our magical, life-changing anal and how changing our working relationship has allowed us to step into our zones of genius more fully. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/60-life-changing-anal Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
9/5/2022 • 52 minutes, 8 seconds
59. Greek mountain sex & Flynn's tantric cock massage
We’ve missed you, dear listeners! We are back with a brand new episode about where we've been, everything that's going on at the moment, and what to expect from us in the future. We just came back from a life-changing holiday to Greece. And even though our original plan for this holiday was to have some sensational anal sex, that didn’t happen. But we did have very profound, hot, outdoor Greek sex on a mountain that we want to tell you about! We're also sharing our collective struggle of coming down with Covid as a family as soon as we got back home and Flynn's life-changing experience of getting a tantric penis massage. Join us to hear all the juicy updates, including our summer plans, as we may or may not take a break from the podcast until September, but nothing is decided yet, so stay tuned! So, grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to hear all about what's been happening, what's on the horizon, and Flynn's epic cock massage (tantra style). P.S. Make sure you read our fantastic article in The Sun! Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/59-greeksex Ready to heal your relationship with money? Join Lacey (and 10 other extraordinary women) on Friday, July 15th, 2022 (replays available) to learn how to sell anything (with integrity), master collaborative partnerships (affiliate-style) & finally understand the feminine energetics of money to create the life of your dreams. Get your ticket to The Confessions Money Bootcamp at laceyandflynn.com/moneybootcamp. Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
7/11/2022 • 44 minutes, 11 seconds
58. Have sex (even when you don't feel like it) [Listener Favourite]
Hello darling listeners. Today we’re sending you another powerful listener favourite in the final week of our Greek holiday rendezvous: Have sex (even when you don’t feel like it). Because the idea of having sex when you don’t feel like it is one of our most simple but controversial concepts. So in today’s episode, which is still one of our all-time favourite episodes and as rated by you all, we’re revisiting this concept as an important reminder that “the mood” isn’t something you need to rely on for your sexual relationship. There’s a whole other way of approaching sex, and we believe that sex can be like yoga, piano lessons, or going to the gym. So join us as we show you how sex as a practice expands beyond “the mood” and deepens into truth, communication, and authenticity to move into and heal with the physical experience. If you've listened to this before, buckle up and listen again because you will certainly take away some new nuggets. And if this is the first time for you… Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to have your mind blown and learn a new framework for having successful sex. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/58-havesex Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
6/13/2022 • 57 minutes, 37 seconds
57. We just had sex [Listener Favourite]
Today, we’re bringing back the first-ever (and the most popular by far) episode of Lacey & Flynn Have Sex: We just had sex. So many people have listened to and responded to this episode so well; how could we not share it again? When we made this episode, we had basically just decided to create a podcast. We were going to have sex, then talk about it on air and blow people’s minds. But that didn’t feel right because it wouldn't actually be showing the truth and the rawness of the whole experience. So, we decided to record ourselves having sex and being really honest and vocal about the entire process. We've since reached millions of people worldwide and showed them that once you feel free and confident in your sexuality, that impacts all parts of your life. And in this episode, we’re showing you what real sex is like as a married couple, how to reconnect with your partner when sex is interrupted, and how to receive love and soften into receiving when you’re feeling agitated by life or in a busy headspace. Now, if you've listened to this episode before, you should listen again, especially if you've been on this journey with us, because we are totally different people in terms of how we show up. And if you've just arrived, welcome! Listen to this. If you feel uncomfortable, that's completely normal. Go and listen to another episode. And another one. Keep showing up. Try them on. And see what you learn. So, grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to learn how to heal, thrive and elevate the hell out of your sex! Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/57-episode1 Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
6/6/2022 • 1 hour, 12 minutes, 34 seconds
56. Holiday Sex
Have you ever noticed that the sex you have on holiday is different? Better? When we’re on holiday and in that state of complete relaxation and flow, we're more open to surprises and having the kind of sex we wouldn't typically have. We find ourselves stepping outside of our schedule and entering into a state of receptivity. This makes us feel more present and allows us to live in the now, which is ultimately how most of us want to live, but we're too stuck in our heads, either carrying the past or thinking about the future. In today’s episode, we’re getting ready for our first substantial holiday in years, and we’re inviting more of this holiday mentality and energy into our everyday lives. Like having doggy-style anal on a Tuesday or using our fine china every day and not reserving it for the Queen's Jubilee or whatever. We’re sharing our plans and intentions for the kind of sex we want to have on our holiday and how and why holiday sex differs so much from our day-to-day sex life (and how you can change that!). So, grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to learn how to allow yourself to enjoy life more fully, and stop waiting for that “next thing”! PS. And don’t forget to check out our latest article in The Sun! Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/56-holidaysex Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
5/30/2022 • 31 minutes, 40 seconds
55. Fuck the fear away
Have you ever used sex to process your fear? We’ve been going through a chronic dry spell (well, chronic for us). The only time we’ve had sex in the last month was when we drove to another country, got a hotel room and had sex. And in a way, we left ourselves there, and it’s time to go back and get “us.” Recently, we’ve been vacillating between moments of pure joy and gratitude and the other extreme of scarcity and conversations around the projection of our future - how do we get there, how do we solve all of our problems - and it’s had an effect on our sex life (and not getting enough sleep as parents of two certainly hasn’t helped). In today’s episode, we’re processing these fears through sex. We discuss the reasons behind our recent dry spell, our intentions for today’s episode, and explore some of our own limiting beliefs as we try to find the right balance between aggressive and gentle in order to open our hearts and crack the armours that we’ve put up. So, grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to learn how to remedy your fear and have a profound embodied experience by fucking the fear away. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/55-fear Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
5/23/2022 • 42 minutes, 44 seconds
54. 3 ways to unlock your voice for men
We use our voice constantly, but are we using it fully? Our voice is a part of who we are, and it is a part that can teach us so much more about ourselves if we only pay more attention to it. The way we use our voice to express ourselves is determined by so many different things, both physiological and psychological, and setting our voice free can help us become our true, authentic selves and live our lives to the fullest. In today’s episode, we’re taking you on a journey of Flynn’s voice and the huge experience that inspired this episode. Join us as we explore different ways to use your voice both in and out of the bedroom, the limiting beliefs and unhealed wounds you may have when it comes to your voice, and how to free your voice and, ultimately, express yourself more fully. So, grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to learn 3 ways to unlock your voice as a man (or a woman, or anyone in between). PS. We want your reviews! Using your iPhone, click this link and scroll down to “Ratings & Reviews,” then click “Write a Review,” and let us know what has resonated the most with you from our podcast. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/54-unlock Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
5/16/2022 • 48 minutes, 38 seconds
53. Pussy Gazing: from shame to power [Listener Favourite]
Hello, hello, Lacey & Flynn Have Sex podcast family. It’s Lacey here, flying solo today to bring back one of your favourite episodes (and one that is really dear to me): Pussy Gazing: from shame to power. Because this practice, Pussy Gazing (yes, the act of taking a mirror to gaze at and connect with the space between my legs), transformed my sex life, births, career, everything. And I wanted to bring this episode back to you today because not only does it have so much wisdom in it about my own journey and how it's affected other people, but it also feels especially topical for me at the moment. Since this episode first aired, my women's program, School of Whole, has been reborn like a phoenix rising from the ashes to help even more women around the world. Whether you’ve listened previously or it’s your first listen, this episode is for you. Because by listening again, you’ll gain new insight and catch things you missed the first time around. So, buckle up, grab your headset (and perhaps a mirror), tune in, and get ready to have your relationship with your anatomy challenged and expanded so you can be your whole magnificent self. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/53-pussygazing Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
5/9/2022 • 57 minutes, 12 seconds
52. Sex robots, real dolls and the future of sex
***Trigger warning: There is a joke in this episode about sexual violence.*** People are having sex with robots. And the sex technology market is booming and showing no signs of slowing down. We have vibrators, real dolls, sex toys, and now we have sex robots (AKA sexbots). So, where do we draw the line? In today’s episode, we’re discussing the different ideas, feelings, and questions that came up for us after watching a BuzzFeed series episode around sex robots, real dolls, and the future of sex. When it comes to sex toys, what’s appropriate and what’s not? When do we cross a line from sexual satisfaction to replicating human contact and connection? What effects do sexbots have on our mental health? What are the worst possible outcomes? Join us as we explore and answer these questions and talk about the problems that can emerge when we intersect sex with technology. So, grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to learn about sexbots and what the (scary) future of sex could look like. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/52-sexbots Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
5/2/2022 • 38 minutes, 41 seconds
51. Lacey's 3-hour pussy massage
Have you ever considered getting a 3-hour pussy massage? Well, if you haven’t, you might after this episode. Another word used for this energetic, spiritual, physical space is the Sanskrit word, yoni. And a yoni massage is a sensual massage that is all about releasing tension in and around your vagina, allowing you to heal and connect more deeply with your body. In today’s episode, Lacey walks us through her experience of driving to a beautiful cabin in the woods to spend over 3 hours getting her very first yoni/pussy massage. Join us to hear her share her intentions for the session, the juicy details of the massage itself, some of the feelings and images that surfaced throughout, and the overall effect this experience had on both her mind and body. We also talk about the importance of professional boundaries, holding space with empathy, and the challenging beliefs behind what’s considered appropriate touching. So, grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to learn the true power of a 3-hour pussy massage. Because, to quote Flynn, “This is a fucking great episode” and will blow your mind on so many levels. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/51-pussymassage Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
4/25/2022 • 45 minutes, 56 seconds
50. Quickies, Doggy Style & Learning from Discomfort
When things get uncomfortable during sex, do you keep going or change up positions? We’re still very much in a celebratory mood and are continuing the celebrations of Lacey & Flynn Have Sex (and Flynn’s birthday) with a mid-day office quickie for our 50th episode. And in light of having so much to celebrate and be thankful for, we went into this episode with a quickie play mentality, jumping straight into it - no foreplay and no build-up. Because sometimes, all you have time for is a quickie. This session is an excellent example of how you can use sex as a punctuation point in your day and demarcate special times in your life to celebrate things that are happening. But today’s episode isn’t just about having a quickie. Despite our intentions for this episode, we soon start to drop into new layers of depth and connection, and Lacey uncovers some discomfort along the way. But instead of turning away from it, she decides to explore it and let it unfold. So, grab your headset (and a bowl of cauliflower), tune in, and get ready to learn why discomfort isn’t always a bad thing. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/50-quickies Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
4/18/2022 • 38 minutes, 5 seconds
49. Celebrating one year of Lacey & Flynn Have Sex
Can you believe that it’s been a year since our first episode aired? We have so much to celebrate this month: the one-year anniversary of our podcast, 11 years of our togetherness, and Flynn’s upcoming birthday. But today, we’re celebrating the fact that our podcast is officially turning one! When we recorded our first episode, wide-eyed and in our living room, even before it aired, we knew that something had changed in the universe and that things could never be the same. Over the last year, we’ve had over 340 thousand downloads and have been heard in 191 countries, which is approximately 98% of the world, according to Flynn. This just goes to show that there's one universal love that transcends countries, religions and politics. This podcast has expanded our limits for our personal development and sexual expression, our communication, and how we show up. Join us in today’s celebratory episode as we reflect on the last year, share some of our favourite moments on the podcast, and how we’ve grown along the way. We’re also answering a listener’s question about belly button play, and Flynn shares the story of his most recent self-pleasure practice (with a six-inch dildo). So, grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to celebrate with us. (And if you’ve listened to at least three episodes and have gotten value from our podcast, we would love it if you could take a moment to leave us a review on Apple Podcasts.) Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/49-oneyear Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
4/11/2022 • 55 minutes, 27 seconds
48. How to kiss (& a nostalgic prelude)
What makes a great kiss? Can you learn how to be a great kisser? Kissing is so much more than putting your mouth on your partner’s mouth. It’s about meeting your partner’s energy with your energy and understanding the sensuality of your own body while simultaneously having an awareness of your partner’s experience. In today’s episode, we get a bit silly and nostalgic as we take a trip down memory lane and explore the joy of kissing. From pole dancing and Pamela Anderson to the importance of confidence and picking up on your partner’s energy, join us as we share some of our earliest memories, our most memorable kisses, and some of our least (and most) favourite kissing techniques. So, whether you call it kissing, making out, snogging, or pashing, grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to learn all about the joy of kissing. PS. This is the last episode before our one year anniversary of this podcast, and we have some special things planned to celebrate! Stay tuned. PPS. Don’t forget to laugh, because laughing is good and everybody should laugh. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/48-kissing Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
4/4/2022 • 54 minutes, 30 seconds
47. Why is she so mean to him?
How many times have you witnessed a woman being mean to her partner? How often have you heard a man respond with, "Yes, Dear"? Or maybe you are the woman or man in these scenarios? We've received a lot of feedback from our episode about porn, self-pleasure, and soft men, and today's episode is an extension of that episode. Because a common dynamic we're seeing in many relationships is one where the woman becomes quite mean, aggressive, and volatile. And unfortunately, the man is on the receiving end, continually bearing the brunt of her aggression and volatility. So in today’s powerful episode, we’re setting blame and judgment aside and exploring what happens when the man loses his connection to his power, masculinity, and leadership and how this is then received in the relationship. But there are two sides to every story. We're also talking about the feminine's experience and what may have led her to act in this way, the dynamic that leads to creating the “Yes, Dear” man, and the importance of trusting your partner's leadership and asserting your own boundaries. So, grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to better understand the dynamics you might be perpetuating so you and your partner can start to heal yourself and your relationship. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/47-meanwomen Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
3/28/2022 • 30 minutes, 36 seconds
46. Orgasm edition: How to make him cum
We are so excited to share part two of our special edition orgasm episode: How to make him cum. In our last episode, we talked about what the feminine requires to step into her orgasmic potential. And today, we are focusing on the masculine and why this is such an uncomfortable space for so many men right now. Because as a man, you have to walk a fine line between your inbuilt animal instinct to procreate and your desire to connect with your partner on a deeper level, all while steering their pleasure in the right way. We’ve also joked before about how most dudes are always ready to blow, but how sometimes it’s not so easy. And today’s episode is the perfect example of that because we go from having performative superficial marshmallow sex (it’ll make more sense when you listen) to having a fully primal, soulful, and satisfying session of pleasure. We’re also exploring the resistance that men feel when it comes to their sexuality, how to stay authentic when dealing with pressure and performance anxiety, and how to open up and truly immerse yourself in pleasure. So, grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to learn how to make him cum. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/46-his-orgasm Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex, where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
3/21/2022 • 55 minutes, 44 seconds
45. Orgasm edition: How to make her cum
Have you lost your direct path to orgasm? Maybe you've been with your partner for a while, and though they've made you cum in the past, life has gotten in the way. And sure, you can still make yourself cum, but it just doesn’t leave you feeling as satisfied or connected. Thanks to a wonderful listener request, we are so excited to share part one of our special edition orgasm episode with you today: How to make her cum. (Because we believe that the feminine has to come first.) We don't usually treat orgasm as the goal, but in this episode, we're focusing on pleasure (and the clit) and unlocking full female orgasmic potential. We’re also exploring pussy consciousness, fully dropping into your body, softening into orgasm, and so much more. So, to all the clits, tongues, lickers, and fingerers out there, grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to take notes and gain more wisdom on your exploration of making her cum. And stay tuned for part two: How to make him cum. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/45-her-orgasm Find out more about School of Whole, Lacey’s 12-month coaching and channelling collective to help transform you from an Uninitiated Woman lacking confidence, turn-on and self-worth into a Sexually Liberated Woman who’s healed from the past, aligned to her truest desires and living a wildly satisfying life on her terms. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
3/14/2022 • 52 minutes, 14 seconds
44. Porn, Self Pleasure and Soft Men
Men, it's time you check out of porn and check back into your body so you can have epic sex that satisfies you both. In today's society, many men have lost their compass, confidence, and ability to ravage a woman from a place of integrity beyond the political correctness of the standards determined by porn. And because it's been a constant in our lives for so long, many men have also become addicted to porn, not even recognizing how this is impacting their lives and relationships. In today's episode, we're exploring and understanding the space of being a man and why so many men today have gone soft (we know this might be triggering, but stay with us – we've got you). We're also walking you through the process of checking out of porn, being your own stimulation (visually, energetically, and in every way), and tapping into your primal sexuality. So, men, grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to feel empowered by your own sexuality. Because in the end, that's all you need. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/44-porn If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
3/7/2022 • 38 minutes, 13 seconds
43. That time we had a threesome with our bestie
Have you ever had a threesome? If not, have you ever wanted to have a threesome? In this really special episode, we’re having our very first interview on the podcast with a very special guest. Our dear friend, Amanda Noga, is joining us today to talk about that time we had a threesome (though we like to think of it as a romantic adventure). And things get quite graphic. We’re bringing you behind the scenes to tell you the whole story of how this romantic adventure came about. From the unexpected start of said adventure (and how we knew it had to be with Amanda) to the more intimate moments of the experience, we’re not sparing any of the juicy details. We’re also breaking down the word threesome, the expectations and charged nature of the word, and how communication and openness are key to a successful threesome (whatever it may look like for you). So grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to not only learn about our extraordinary encounter but maybe even feel inspired to have your own threesome. P.S. Don’t forget to share your threesome stories with us! Send us an email at hi@laceyandflynn.com to let us know all about it. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/43-threesome If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
2/28/2022 • 53 minutes, 12 seconds
42. Sauna sex and the art of letting go
We didn't know we’d end up slamming on the brakes (both in the car and during penetration) or our own brand of jungle sauna sex, but that's what happened when we went on a date night. And you're about to go behind the scenes. In this sex recap episode, we’re sharing our recent sauna sex experience and how we came to see so much about letting go. (Pun not intended.) Letting go of expectations. Letting go of the need to make things happen a certain way. Letting go to be free. We’re also exploring female and masculine communication, talking about conflict even when things are going well, and finding your own pressure valve to release whatever it is you’re holding onto. And we even have a guest appearance by our son plus a new (to the podcast) Lacey & Flynnism. So grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to learn the art of letting go across all facets of your life so you can be free. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/42-sauna If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
2/21/2022 • 56 minutes, 40 seconds
41. Flynn's (penis's) journey with trauma & healing
We don’t often talk about penis trauma or the things men go through. In this episode, we dive into Flynn’s three testicle and groin surgeries (due to a varicocele), the impacts of circumcision on newborn baby boys, and the problems with normalising these traumatic events. The changes we make to our bodies are just that, our own. But what happens when changes are made to our bodies when we’re too young even to realise what’s happening? How can we seek the support we need to heal from these traumas when we live in a society that doesn’t even classify them as such? That’s why we’re bringing this discussion to you today. Because your body knows everything you’ve been through, even if you haven't integrated it yet. So grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to get vulnerable in order to heal. It's worth it. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/41-trauma If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
2/14/2022 • 56 minutes, 19 seconds
40. We tried period sex (again)
And we almost didn’t release this episode. Given the stigma and epic amount of shame and trauma around periods, it’s no wonder that this can lead to insecurities and awkwardness when it comes to having sex on your (or your partner’s) period. In this episode, we attempt period sex for the first time in a long time (because last time didn’t go as planned) and discuss why people have period sex, what the issues are, and how we can help people with this part of life. And yes, things get messy. But since there’s no sexual blueprint that dictates what makes sex successful or right or good, we continue to show up for each other despite the awkwardness, energetic disconnect, and “womb robbery.” So, whether you or your partner are a bleeding human, grab your headset, tune in, and get ready for some learning moments when it comes to having sex on your period (or knowing when not to). Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/40-again If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
2/7/2022 • 55 minutes, 47 seconds
39. Lacey heals her rejection wound + listener questions
Do you ever feel like there’s something that wants to come out during sex? Frustration? Confusion? Sadness? Have you ever felt shy or even shame when referring to your own body parts? And what about this; have you ever had an unhealed wound from childhood come out of absolute fucking nowhere in the form of pure rage? If you’re reading this (and being honest with yourself), you’re likely nodding your head and saying YES to at least one of those. In this episode, we’re answering a couple of listener questions about crying after orgasm, leaning into the emotions that may come up during sex, and taking back ownership of words like “pussy” and “cock.” We’re also having quite the deep and meaningful conversation exploring a very recent event in our lives that resulted in Lacey throwing Flynn’s pillow off the bed (yup, he’s back in the big bed!) and eventually healing her childhood rejection wound. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to learn how to reclaim ownership of stereotypical porn words and the importance of noticing and fully stepping into your emotions. Oh, and in case you missed it, we were recently featured in an article in The Guardian, and you should definitely go and check it out! And keep the questions coming! Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/39-rejectionwound If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
1/31/2022 • 55 minutes, 38 seconds
38. Pussy pain, cock attunement and deep penetration
Are you often having sex that just feels contracted? Do you feel your painful sex might be caused by a shallow vagina? Several of you have messaged us about this very topic so in this episode, we’re exploring our genitals! Join us in our curious journey to see if the pussy and cock are capable of being in sync with each other’s sensitivities, utilizing the full sensory experience to acknowledge one another’s discomfort, and what connection is essential for your pussy to really allow for a deeper thrust of penetration and pleasure. We’re also recounting the wild ride we’ve been on since our feature in The Guardian, the astronomical changes in our show’s audience (hey new listeners!), and even sharing some of our favorite not-so-loving comments from other representations of our story. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to see what you can do to choose your level of pleasure during sex and just how deep the rabbit hole can go. P.S. We were recently featured in The Guardian and you should check out our article! To all our new followers, welcome and be sure to subscribe and follow the show where you love to listen to podcasts. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/38-attunement If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
1/24/2022 • 54 minutes, 13 seconds
37. Flynn's "premature" ejaculation situation
Premature. Ejaculation. You’ve heard it. Maybe you’ve experienced it. You may have even ended a relationship because of it. But we’re here to flip the script on this stigma. Is it really ‘premature’ ejaculation or is it simply cumming earlier than expected? There are tons and tons of stories, expectations, and stigmas we bring into our daily lives and especially into sex. So, in this sex ‘sode, we’re exploring how these show up in our lives (such as Lacey’s experience of the kids moving into their own room or her journey to acceptance of her differently sized breasts), what we do to reconnect with our true selves and the present moment, and you’ll get to experience Flynn’s fast track orgasm during our fully present and fulfilling sex session as we discuss why there’s even shame around men cumming quickly. If you’re ready to break down the fucking walls of stereotypes, tune in and get ready to let the truth of who you are outweigh the facade of expectations, stories, and stigmas. P.S. We were recently featured in The Guardian and you should check out our article! To all our new followers, welcome and be sure to subscribe and follow the show where you love to listen to podcasts. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/37-premature If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
1/17/2022 • 1 hour, 21 minutes, 32 seconds
36. 11 reasons why they don't want to have sex with you
Has your partner constantly been rejecting you? Have you just not been “in the mood” lately? Or do you believe you’re just not interested in sex? Well, this is the episode for you. Listen, we have been there before. After more than 10 years together plus coaching students and clients, we’ve compiled 11 reasons why you or your partner just… don’t want to have sex. And we want you to know, you’re not alone. In this episode, we’re walking you through each reason and giving you tips on what to do to really experience the kind of sex we’re talking about - the kind that will blow your whole fucking life wide open. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to kick each of these reasons right to the curb. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/36-11reasons If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Interested in Flynn’s coaching program for men? Send him a personal message on Instagram (@flynntalbot) or at hi@laceyandflynn.com to learn more about The Elevated Man. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
1/10/2022 • 1 hour, 3 minutes, 44 seconds
35. 2022: Age of the power couple
What can happen when you move deeper into your relationship? What is waiting for you when you purposefully choose to work with your partner? Welcome to 2022: the year, the era, the age of the power couple. We’re ready to support you in stepping beyond the common view of relationships and into electrified unions that are deeply connected on a soul level. In this episode, we explore the common misconceptions around relationships as the “ball and chain” and something you “have to do” in the cycle of life and completely flip it. In actuality, relationships can be exciting, exhilarating, sexy, and alive! They can radicalize you, pull you up, and liberate you throughout your entire lives. This is what we know your relationship can do and we want to show you how. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to choose your path: to continue simply moving through life or to stand out and align powerfully with your partner creating change in yourself, your space, your relationships, and everything around you. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/35-2022 If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Ready to work with us to elevate your relationship? Email us at hi@laceyandflynn.com or head to laceyandflynn.com/coaching to get started. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode.
1/3/2022 • 58 minutes, 55 seconds
34. Sex Guinea Pig [Listener Favourites]
With the holidays fast upon us, we’re rewinding and giving you one of our listener favourites to revisit: Sex Guinea Pig. This episode received a ton of love and responses from you, our listeners. It’s a raw and genuine expression of vulnerability, emotion, and realness which also led to us being nominated for the Skylark Collective’s International Women’s Podcast Awards in Raw Emotion. We hope that this episode helps to illuminate your own emotional experiences and where you feel vulnerable or blocked in your life. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to revisit one of our most vulnerable episodes. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/34-sexguineapig If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
12/27/2021 • 56 minutes, 20 seconds
33. Why we have sex on a podcast
When this year started, we had no idea we would find ourselves having sex on a chart-topping podcast for the world to hear. Yet, here we are, 7+ months in continuing to spread our work of progressive sex education. In this episode, we’re sharing the story behind our journey of creating this podcast, how we chose to have sex for all of you to hear, and some of our biggest fears stepping into this concept. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to hear our story through censorship and creating a podcast about sex that’s both innovative and far from pornographic. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/33-sexonapodcast Explore our podcasting journey even deeper by listening to episode 01. We just had sex and episode 28. The joy of simple sex. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
12/20/2021 • 48 minutes, 8 seconds
32. Expectations, guilt, & holidays
It’s the holiday season! A time for fun, festivities, checking out, expectations, and blowups, if we’re being honest (which you know we are). This is a time where you may want to simply check out now that you have time away from work, but instead, it’s the best time to truly check in with yourself, your partner, and your relationship. In this episode, we explore the realities of the holidays and the people we spend them with, how expectations lead to most holiday disappointments and blowups, and how to use this time of year to jumpstart your sexual energy. We’re even giving you a live role play example of responding vs reacting when Aunt Esmerelda makes snarky comments about your sex coaching career (you know, as an example). Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to intentionally choose your partner and turn into the love that you share this holiday season. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/32-holidays PLUS: Tune in to episode 24. Communicating with clarity and truth for more tips on communicating in the full expression of yourself If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
12/13/2021 • 58 minutes, 8 seconds
31. Touching with intention
Has touching your partner become just another routine part of your day? Have you ever found yourself going to kiss your partner goodnight and… there’s really nothing there? When we are disconnected from ourselves, touch can feel empty. Words can feel empty. We can end up just going through the motions in our day-to-day actions and even in our gestures towards our partner. This gives us interactions that are fleeting and shallow and leaves us craving true satisfactory intimacy. So, in this episode, we explore what it means to touch your partner with intention. We’re giving you a live example of checking in with yourselves, dropping into full embodiment, and exploring non-sexual touch that’s full of intention. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to enter deep into presence when offering your love to another being. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/31-touching Be sure to check out these episodes for additional support on this topic: 13. Sexual fantasies & intimacy without sex, 16. The joy of eating pussy, and 24. Communicating with clarity. Are you yearning to elevate into a fucking powerful, mature, sexual, sustainable relationship? Apply to work with us at laceyandflynn.com/coaching. If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
12/6/2021 • 1 hour, 45 seconds
30. Ass trance: Into the wormhole (Part 2)
If the idea of diving right into bum oral makes you uncomfortable, you need to pause and head over to episode 29. Ass trance: Into the wormhole (Part 1) to get warmed up for this one. We’re continuing our anal exploration from part 1 and it’s honestly taken a different turn than we expected. In this episode, we actually end up giving you a front row seat to a real, authentic experience of feeling disconnected during sex and resisting your full expression along with an example of what to do when you or your partner start to experience shut down during sex (trust us, it happens pretty often and most people aren’t even aware of it). If you’ve ever found yourself coming into anxiety during sex, finding it hard to participate, and not being able to say anything to your partner, this is the episode for you. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to experience a real life example of shut down during sex and learn how to help your partner feel safe and come into presence. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/30-asstrance If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
11/29/2021 • 44 minutes, 26 seconds
29. Ass trance: Into the wormhole (Part 1)
Today, we’re eating ass and de-shaming our lives (and this one’s a 2-part special)! Checking in with ourselves, we find that Lacey’s at a place in her life where she is completely done with not being her fullest, truest self. She has zero space to pretend she’s anyone other than the Viking Lacey! De-shaming her life is of the utmost importance right now and it’s what’s led us to today’s topic: anal. Join us on our anal exploration journey as we dive deep into the social constructs around our bums, our individual perceptions of reality, meeting our resistance with curiosity, and how anal sex allows us to have some of our biggest breakthroughs. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to become entranced as we enter into the wormhole. *Here’s a bonus from our anal treasure trove: listen to episode 08. Anal gave me COVID where Lacey explores Flynn’s bum, does a butthole meditation, and shares just how she got COVID after anal sex. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/29-asstrance If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
11/22/2021 • 51 minutes, 51 seconds
28. The joy of simple sex
Have you ever found yourself in the infamous “I’ll be happy when…” mentality? You know, the thoughts that say once you reach the destination or achieve that goal that you’ll be so much happier. Here’s the truth: focusing solely on the destination can very easily leave you feeling underwhelmed, unsatisfied, and far from happier. It is so imperative that you treat the journey just as important as the destination whether it’s in your career, your personal goals, or your sex life. Often, we mindlessly push ourselves through the journey of sex to reach orgasm which may never come and can leave us more unsatisfied than before we started. In this episode, we’re simply having sex. A straight up sex session. We’re just going to see what happens and we’re bringing you along for the ride (all the puns intended). We also share some updates in our personal lives around truth and balance, how to allow more ease into letting go of what no longer fits, and just how sexual we all naturally are. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to explore the simplicity of sex. Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/28-simplesex If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
11/15/2021 • 51 minutes, 32 seconds
27. Dry spells & the yoga of sucking cock
Have you ever found yourself right in the middle of a dry spell? Maybe you’re even wondering, “How the heck do I initiate sex at this point?” Well, we recently broke our own dry spell (woo hoo!) and, in this episode, we’re sharing our 5 key takeaways from this experience to help you break through your dry spell and rekindle your connection with your partner. We’re also exploring the real reason you’re irritated with your partner (we promise it’s not because they leave the tea towel lying on the counter), how living in the “I’ve just got to get this done” mentality is hindering you from truly being present, and why we as humans are so resistant to change. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to increase your awareness, release expectation, and break your dry spell. To dive deeper into this topic, we suggest listening to these past episodes that will greatly support what you’re learning here: 02. Have sex (even when you don’t feel like it) 17. The epic return to unicorn sex (Part 1) Get all the juicy episode notes at laceyandflynn.com/podcast/27-dry-spells If you’re ready for some hot tips on how to truly connect with your partner, then grab a seat at our FREE class: 5 Steps to Connected Sex where you’ll dig deeper into some of our best teachings like sex beyond the mood and pleasure over orgasm. Join us today at laceyandflynn.com/freeclass! Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
11/8/2021 • 58 minutes, 31 seconds
26. 5 tips for more satisfying & connected sex
How can I have a deeper connection with my partner? What is soulful sex and how can I have that in my relationship? We’ve worked with thousands of couples and have found that most of them are doing the same things that just simply aren’t working in their relationships. Some of these include coming together to have sex only if they’re “in the mood” (which - spoiler alert: does not work!), only allowing themselves to experience pleasure through their pussies and cocks, and focusing solely on the orgasm as the end goal. These are just a few of the things we’re helping you to reshape today. In this episode, we’re taking you through 5 key things that you need to transform to move your current relationship into deeper connection & more soulful sex (or whatever word best describes the type of sex you’re dreaming of having!). By the way, we’ve got a super secret guest (who we’re calling Esmeralda) joining us behind the scenes working on a piece, so you may hear some notes on our amazing episode being taken in the background. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to learn how to feel pleasure throughout your entire body, explore the importance of equilibrium in your relationship, and move from the sex you’re currently having into the more connected, more spiritual sex you’ve been dreaming of. To dive deeper into this episode, we suggest listening to these past episodes that will greatly support what you’re learning here: 3. Have sex (even when you don’t feel like it) 11. How to create space & presence for soulful sex 18. The key to maintaining a fulfilling relationship 22. Leave the clit alone: an orgasmic journey 24. Communicating with clarity and truth Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/25-voice Stay tuned for news on an exciting free class we’re releasing soon! Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
11/1/2021 • 49 minutes, 33 seconds
25. Free your voice & be your true self
How has life led you to hide your voice and shield who you are from the world? What can your voice reveal to you about your true self? It’s not often that we think of our voices as a part of ourselves that can be changed. We see it as something set in stone, but really it reflects so much and can very easily be changed by our conditionings, our trauma, and our lifestyles. In this episode, we explore our personal connections to our voices, dive into the ways they’ve been shaped over the years, and share the ways we’re empowering our voices today. We’re also diving into self-confidence and the importance of spending downtime with yourself, confronting who you really are, and the ways we all try to avoid doing so. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to let yourself be curious, let yourself learn, and understand yourself and the way you’re living through the lens of your voice. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/25-voice Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
10/25/2021 • 41 minutes, 58 seconds
24. Communicating with clarity and truth
What does it mean to speak the truth? Why is it important to speak the truth and how do you allow your partner the space to do so, as well? We’ve witnessed that so many people in life will do anything to dodge speaking the truth. They’ll go far and wide to sugarcoat it, to soften it, and to turn it into something other than the truth. We’ve all become disillusioned with speaking simple truths in our relationships, at work, with our families, everywhere. In this episode, we’re exploring communication in relationships and sharing the ways that we hold space for each other to speak truth exactly when we need to. We’re also showing you how these moments play out in our personal lives. We’re also checking in with Flynn to see where he is on his journey with his new coaching program for men. If you’ve been with us for a while, you’ve gotten a front row seat to this journey since episode 10. Manifesturbation™ (manifesting through sex & pleasure) and now, he’s really seeing the culmination and embodiment of everything he’s been learning coming together. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to listen without judgment, learn how to feel more comfortable asking for what you need, and to simply speak the truth. After listening, we challenge you to be bold and deliver the truth to someone in your life. Lead with your heart, speak very simply, and then share your experience with us on Instagram at @laceyandflynn or through email at hi@laceyandflynn.com. Connect with Lacey's coach, Africa Brooke, on Instagram at @africabrooke or on her website, www.africabrooke.com. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/24-communicating-truth Ready to to amplify your intimacy & supercharge your sex? Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course that will slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
10/18/2021 • 44 minutes, 19 seconds
23. Rage fucking & turning yourself on
Have you ever found yourself unleashing your anger unintentionally onto someone you love? Your partner, your kids? What if we told you there’s a much healthier way to release your rage and that it’s through sex? Between your legs is an untapped world of power and pleasure. This sacred, amazing place is capable of helping you dig deeper into every single emotion you could ever experience and release it in a much more positive and energetic way. In this episode, we’re showing you how to use it to unleash anger and rage consensually through self-pleasure and sex with your partner. We’re also exploring the higher level of intimacy found in turning yourself on as Flynn shares his experience of letting go of porn and moving into the full experience of his own body. This is self-love, self-awareness, and self-acceptance like you’ve never heard before. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to learn how to healthily release your anger through sex, quit porn, and begin turning yourself on. Be sure to DM us on Instagram and let us know your thoughts on moving into a deeper, fuller expression of all your emotions through self-pleasure and sex. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/23-rage Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
10/11/2021 • 44 minutes, 26 seconds
22. Leave the clit alone: an orgasmic journey
Do you always need clitoral stimulation to orgasm? Have you ever felt like a victim to your own body thinking you can only receive pleasure and reach orgasm by rubbing your clit? Normally, we don’t use orgasm as the goal during sex, but in this episode, we’re doing a complete 180! Thanks to one of our listener questions we received on Instagram, we are going on a different sexual exploration than we’ve done in years: the pleasure journey without intentional external clitoral stimulation to achieve an orgasm. Join us as we explore different ways of touching, communicating with one another, releasing stress and contraction from the body, dropping fully and deeply into a more spacious energy, developing a deeper pussy intelligence, what’s happening when you disconnect during the experience, and so much more. Grab your headset, tune in, get your tongue out, leave the clit alone, and dive deep into an extended fingering practice to achieve orgasm without external clitoral stimulation. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/22-orgasmic-journey Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
9/27/2021 • 58 minutes, 5 seconds
21. 5 tips to be in fun & flow with your partner
What can happen when love and ease flow through your relationship? Dreams can come true. Goals can be accomplished. Overwhelm can be diminished by laughter. We just returned from possibly the best holiday we’ve had in a long time as parents. During those potent 5 days of freedom, we disconnected from technology, lived spontaneously, and, as a result, realized something so important: when you’re living in fun and flow with your partner - the nucleus of your life - everything is just so much easier. But, if it’s so simple, why is it that so many relationships fail? In a recent article we wrote, we explored the thing that ultimately is the root cause -- us, the individual. You are the common denominator in all of your relationships. So, whatever is happening within your relationships is often a reflection of your relationship with yourself and the stories you carry. In this episode, we’re exploring the importance of being aware of the things within ourselves that need to heal and how healing them is key to maintaining your relationship with your partner. You’re going to walk away with 5 fun-filled tips that will help you connect with yourself, gain a new clarity and self-confidence, and become a more elevated version of yourself that can return to your relationship more turned on and confident. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to have your own epic breakthrough and be in more fun and flow with your partner. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/21-fun-flow Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Follow us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experiences in sex, relationships, and listening to this episode. Want your sex questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
9/20/2021 • 47 minutes, 56 seconds
20. Self pleasure: letting go of shame
Why do we feel shame when exploring self pleasure? Why is hearing your parents have sex the worst thing in the world? Why is porn so damn addictive? In this episode, we’re diving deep into the two words that just don’t belong together: shame and sex. When we allow the two to coexist, it simply fosters an inner message that screams “I don’t own my body” and “Pleasure is gross!” Each of us has experienced some shame around sex, whether it was from hearing your parents have sex or discovering your body at a young age. Some of you may still feel this way when touching yourself now and we’re going to tell you why. We’re breaking boundaries here, discussing the sexual nature of children and what it looks like to create a nurturing environment that eradicates shame and discomfort around sex, our genitals, and the natural exploration of pleasure. In order to allow our children to be naturally explorative, we have to do the work of holding our younger selves and removing the shame and guilt we’ve carried for years. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to dig deep into your own discomforts around your body, sex, and self pleasure. Be sure to DM us on Instagram to let us know if we should remove the “no parents” part of our intro and let Mom and Dad listen to the show. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/20-self-pleasure-shame Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
9/6/2021 • 55 minutes, 7 seconds
19. The epic return of unicorn sex (Part 2)
We’re back for part 2! Before diving in, be sure to tune in to 17. The epic return of unicorn sex (Part 1) to catch up and know what's going on in this epic return to unicorn sex. If it’s your first time hearing that, it’s the phenomenal, orgasmic, hydraulic sex we have on our adjustable height barstool. In this episode, you’re going to experience our longest sex session on the podcast so far! We promise you, it’s absolutely worth it (and not because we could’ve easily made another baby). After Lacey’s transformative experience in part 1, you’re going to see how much that opened her up for deeper penetration, connection, and pleasure. You’ll also learn how to shift your sexual energy to come out of pelvic sex or to prolong the sexual experience. If you haven’t yet, tune into episode 17 for part 1 to catch up and experience Lacey’s literal purging of trauma, resistance, and blockages. Sometimes sex doesn’t always go the way you plan, and sometimes - it goes far beyond. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to see how high we can go and how deep we have to go to get there. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/19-epic-return-unicorn-sex Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
8/30/2021 • 37 minutes, 30 seconds
18. The key to maintaining a fulfilling relationship
Have you ever wondered if your sex life can be better? Can your relationship be greater? And if relationships are supposed to be easy, what should you be doing in yours? Well, your sexy mom & dad are here to tell you all you need to know. When it comes to connecting deeper with your partner, developing a better sex life, manifesting your wants, dreams, and desires into reality, it all comes down to one thing: a deeper level of knowing yourself. Let’s call it confidence! Which, from the Latin root word ‘confidere’, means to “have full trust” in one’s self. When Lacey was first called to teach Pussy Gazing - her renowned program to help women access their femininity, creativity, and sexuality - she said no and wondered, “Who would want this?!” But, that spark of creativity just would not let go of her. So, she did it. And Pussy Gazing SOLD. OUT. 5 times! And the key behind its success? Confidence. A full on surrender to integrity, authenticity, and personal willingness to jump in and simply see what happens. Whether it’s a wild & out there idea that doesn’t quite make sense yet or a desire to better communicate with your partner without an argument ensuing, you are always pushing through your limits. And once you do go through with the thing that you’ve never done, it’s the most liberating experience. Nothing’s more freeing than being the fullest expression of yourself and THAT is what people are drawn to. That’s what drives success to your dreams. In this episode, we share with you all the ways in which being ourselves, committing wholly to radicalization of one another, and an openness like no other has birthed so many of our successful projects & programs (and upcoming super secret projects we’re dying to share with you!). So, tune in & get ready to learn exactly what you need to do to give birth to your dream sex life, your dream partnership, and your wild & out there dreams and how we can help you get there. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/18-fulfilling-relationship Attention UK family! Join us for a Lacey & Flynn live event & sexy overnight stay for couples at the Selina hotel in Camden on August 27th. Space is limited to just 15 couples, so don’t wait! Click here for more info. To the brothers, if you’re sick of living in a dissatisfied space & aren’t sure how to break out into a thriving career, feel like you’re making a difference, have a supportive relationship, & feel on purpose, start a conversation with Flynn at hi@laceyandflynn.com and let’s see if his new program, Elevated Man, is for you. Are you a woman interested in upleveling your business? Lacey’s new program, Pussy Powered Business, is kicking off in September. DM her on Instagram @verylacey to apply! Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Are you the Cosmic Creationista, Soulful Sensualista, Pussy Powerhouse or Womb Warrior? Take the quiz to discover your unique feminine archetype plus get an action plan to connect you deeper into your power. https://www.laceyhaynes.com/quiz Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
8/23/2021 • 59 minutes, 33 seconds
17. The epic return to unicorn sex (Part 1)
This just might be the episode that makes you go, “Lacey & Flynn do some weird shit.” **CONTENT WARNING: To our lovely listeners, this episode may contain audio & references that may be triggering for some. More information is shared at the end of this description. We love you.** We’re revisiting one of our favorites: unicorn sex (a callback to episode 09. Sex Guinea Pig). For any newbies, this is our coined term for sex on our adjustable bar stool and it. is. phenomenal. But, sometimes sex doesn’t always go the way you plan. In this episode, we’re connecting deeply with the energy flowing through our bodies and allowing for a purging process you’ve never experienced before to help Lacey release trauma stored in her body. This episode isn’t for the faint of heart & we’re sharing our most vulnerable moments with you because we are truth seekers. We believe you’re continuously uncovering your truths & what happens here is a great example of how to do so through connection with your partner, connection with yourself, pushing through your resistance, and allowing yourself to purge & release the traumas that are holding you back from your full soulful expression. If you’re ready for a raw, real, and powerful experience, grab your headset and get ready to let go of pain, discomfort, and embrace a new level of healing & self empowerment. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/17-releasing-trauma-empowering-self Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here. Connect with Ashleigh, a Menstrual Cycle Awareness Coach: @wombpower_ Connect with Amelia for conscious conception & holistic motherhood: @meta.mother **CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains the following content that might be triggering for some listeners: Sexual trauma as a teen Retching Vomiting
8/16/2021 • 1 hour, 13 minutes
16. The joy of eating pussy
Do you cringe at the thought of oral sex? How do you feel when we say, “licking pussy”? In this episode, we’re jumping into an impromptu cunnilingus session and diving deep into the different thoughts, feelings, & resistance around going down on a woman. There’s so much stigma and social construct around our genitals - how they should look, how they should smell - and it can keep us from finding anything to do with them unappealing. But what you may not have realized is the same experiences that push you to suppress your “too much-ness” in your daily life will shape your experience during sex. We want to show you how to acknowledge your very own feelings & stories around eating pussy/having your pussy licked, step out of your safe zone, and use that awareness to allow yourself to move deeper into pleasure as the receiver and the giver. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to explore all things surrounding having your pussy licked, loved, adored, & glorified. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/16-joy-eating-pussy Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
8/9/2021 • 46 minutes, 35 seconds
15. Reading your reviews & Flynn’s big realisation
Sweet 15!! What a milestone. In this very special celebration episode, we’re flipping the script. It’s your turn to show the love, so we’re reading some of your phenomenal 5-star reviews. *cue Lacey & Flynn signature sing off* We love you all so much & because of your love for this show, we’ve reached thousands of people & charted in so many countries all across the globe. So, this felt like a perfect time to share what you’re loving about the show & what exactly keeps you coming back. Along with that love, we’re still giving you that good ole Lacey & Flynn insight. We have an exercise to help you connect with your energy & wake up from a dead body. Lacey explores dread & gratefulness when thinking of doing the same work for the rest of her life, and guess who got super vulnerable and shed some tears? (Plot twist: it’s NOT Lacey.) Now, it’s time for you to grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to celebrate & share in the love with our 15th episode. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/15-reading-reviews. Attention UK family! Join us for a Lacey & Flynn live event & sexy overnight stay with your partner at the Selina hotel on August 27th. There are 5 early bird tickets & space is limited to just 15 couples, so what are you waiting for? Click here for more info. Are you a pussy-haver interested in upleveling your business? Lacey’s new program, Pussy Powered Business, is kicking off in September. DM her on Instagram @verylacey to apply! Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
8/2/2021 • 1 hour, 1 minute, 19 seconds
14. It started as period sex…
It’s been ages since we last had sex during Lacey’s period. We’re very period conscious and make it a point to operate around the phases of Lacey’s menstrual cycle, respecting the winter state of rest. But today, Lacey’s up for period sex. We’ve both felt sexually disconnected lately, so we’re approaching this as a great opportunity for us to reconnect with each other. In this session, we’re taking the opportunity to show you what it looks like to show up for sex during menstruation, to make space for & allow a change of direction to happen, and to use sex to further yours & your partner’s healing. By the end, our goal is to show you what can happen when you release the expectation of what something should look like and simply allow space for what is. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to talk about periods, homemade pads, & experience communicating your truth to elevate your sex session. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/14-period-sex Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. To the brothers, if you’re wanting to have a thriving career, feel like you’re making a difference, have a supportive relationship, & feel on purpose, start a conversation with Flynn at hi@laceyandflynn.com and let’s see if his new program is for you. If you’re interested in trying period underwear, Lacey’s gifting you $10 off your first purchase of Thinx underwear so you can experience letting the period blood fall and not have something placed in your vagina: https://thinx.club/laceyhaynes2 Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
7/19/2021 • 1 hour, 6 minutes, 53 seconds
13. Sexual fantasies & intimacy without sex
How can you be intimate without having sex? What sexual fantasies can you imagine to get in the mood for sex? In this episode, we’re answering some of our favorite questions from you about exciting sexual stories to think of during sex, bringing another person into the bedroom, & expressing intimacy without being sexual. We had so much fun & got very creative brainstorming tons of off the cuff sexual fantasies for you to try in the bedroom (or wherever you like - don’t limit yourselves). We also dig deep into one of the key elements of connecting with yourself, with your partner, and with others in your life. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to bring more presence into your daily life & explore sexual fantasies that’ll blow your mind. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/13-sexual-fantasies-intimacy-without-sex Send us a DM on Instagram (@laceyandflynn) and tell us your “If you were.., would you be…” sex scenarios so we can add them to our list! Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
7/12/2021 • 52 minutes, 15 seconds
12. Self love, confidence & showing up for sex
Just when you thought sex on a podcast was as far as we could take it… In this episode, we’re getting down & dirty in front of a live film crew! (Ok, it’s really one guy, but it’s a very talented, multitasking fella.) We’re giving you a sneak peek at an interview from a film project (that we can’t quite tell you about just yet), but what started as an interview for the podcast turned into sharing what led us to starting this revolutionary show, how we actually started teaching together, and the ways in which we live & exemplify this work daily. There were just too many gold nuggets for us not to share this with you. After the sneak peek, join us for a discussion about self love, pleasure practices, the disconnection from words that are said so often, the reconnection practices we use during sex, and an exciting update from Flynn on his Manifersturbation™ exercise from episode 10. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to come even further behind the scenes with your favorite innovative sex education podcast hosts. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/12-self-love-confidence-showing-up Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Interested in Flynn’s latest program? Watch his video here on Instagram. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
7/5/2021 • 54 minutes, 3 seconds
11. How to create space & presence for soulful sex
Have you ever looked at your partner and saw them just for who they are? When was the last time you saw their soul? After some beautiful surrendered love making, Lacey sees Flynn simply for who he is and we dig deep into a conversation around soulful love, what leads us to disconnect from our partner, resensitization, and the many subtleties in sex.. In this episode, we explore cosmic, orgasmic energies and challenge you to transcend your normal day-to-day routine and invite space, connection, & intimacy into your daily interactions with your partner. We’re showing you what it looks like and how to do it in your own lives. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to learn what it’s like to make love & connect on a soulful level. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/11-create-space-presence-soulful-sex Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
6/21/2021 • 40 minutes, 59 seconds
10. Manifesturbation™ (manifesting through sex & pleasure)
It’s our 10th episode! To celebrate, we’re chatting all about manifestation & abundance, and showing you the process we use to create each of our new offerings. We were once skeptics of the concept of abundance, but now we’ve integrated this thinking into our teachings to create a manifestation process that allows us to create every part of our business. We really believe that if you can make love & make a baby, you can also use the same energy to make anything you want. This may come as a surprise to you, but we are very private people. We really are! Especially when it comes to sharing our dreams, our visions, and the things that we are truly looking to manifest. We’d much rather share the final creation with you, But, in this episode, we’re allowing ourselves to get even more vulnerable than having sex on the podcast by showing you just how we manifest and practice abundance through sex & pleasure. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to learn all about manifesturbation™, sensual abundance, and see the process we go through to bring about our biggest dreams and create each of our new offerings. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/10-manifesting-through-sex-pleasure Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
6/14/2021 • 1 hour, 16 minutes, 5 seconds
09. Sex Guinea Pig
We envision a world, a much better world, where talking about sex is normal. Where people gather around the water cooler and share the ways they practiced sex manifestations and explored new areas with their partners. It’s a world we see and believe is possible. And being committed to this work, no matter how difficult, challenging, & vulnerable it may be, is how we get there. Remember when we told you this isn’t pretty? There just isn’t a better example than this session right here. In this episode, we work to recreate a phenomenal sex session from the night before (one we’re happily calling Unicorn Sex) and it stirs up the real, honest truth of what Lacey’s deeply feeling when recording these sex episodes - such as battling with the narrative of being the woman falling apart, being messy, and not being able to hold it together, while the guy is not. There’s shame. There’s frustration. Lacey leaves. Like we said, it’s not pretty. But it’s real and it’s why we’re here. And Bob & Timothy, we know you’re out there and we’re so proud of you for revolutionizing your sex lives and the talks around the water cooler! Reach out to us and let us know where you are. (You’ve just got to tune in to get it.) Grab your headset and get ready to get super vulnerable with us. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/09-sex-guinea-pig Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
6/7/2021 • 49 minutes, 32 seconds
08. Anal gave me Covid
Let’s talk about anal sex. If you’re thinking eww, gross, poop, bleh… trust us, we’ve been there. Sometimes, we can still go there, too. But, what you may not realize is just how much healing and connective power lies within your willingness to explore and become acquainted with yours and your partner’s anus. In this episode, we’re removing the stigmas, bending over, and getting a good look all up in there (there being Flynn’s bum hole). There is a lot of shame around our bodies, especially our bum holes. We don’t want anyone to see them. No one can smell our poop. No one can know that we shit. (Spoiler alert: everybody shits.) But, this shame causes a disconnect within us. A disconnect from nature. From our humanity. And we truly believe that by allowing yourself to tune in and do what we’re doing in this episode, you’re taking one step closer to expanding in all dimensions, to being the full expression of your soul. And you’re probably wondering how anal sex gave Lacey Covid. You’re going to have to tune in and hear for yourself. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to bend over and look into the glorious sphincter. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/08-anal-gave-me-covid Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
5/31/2021 • 1 hour, 1 minute, 14 seconds
07. Wetness, Rage, Surrender, & Pleasure
After a much needed holiday, we are back feeling full of life, possibility, & joy! In that joy, we’re exploring so many topics starting with the innate self-expression we possess as children and how shame from society can easily & harmfully change that. If it feels like a step away from our topic of sex, you’re going to want to tune in and listen up. As we get down to it, you’ll learn about the effects you may experience from diving right into penetrative sex, how this experience is different for everyone and every situation, and what you can do if it’s just not working. Deeper in, we invite you onto our journey through the different waves of connection you can experience during sex. We promise you this is truly a fun one. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready to laugh your protective curtain off (you’ve got to listen to get it!). Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/07-wetness-rage-surrender-pleasure Join us *in person* at the exclusive retreat Summer of Love hosted by Secret Yoga Club in Norfolk, UK 19th - 22nd July. Visit https://laceyandflynn.com/summeroflove to learn more & sign up! Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
5/24/2021 • 1 hour, 18 minutes, 19 seconds
06. Empowered birth is a choice
It’s been one year since the empowered birth of our second child right in the bathroom of our London home. In celebration, we’re talking all about birth, the sexual nature of birth, and the truth of the choices we’ve made to bring both our children into the world through free birth. The way we live is the way we birth and we want you to know what it’s like to be at the center of your birth, to call the shots, and to trust your body. This is our story. This is our journey through bringing our two children into this world. This conversation may bring up shame, disappointment, and a slurry of emotions for you and that’s a good entry point for you to explore further. In this space, we want to share our truth, (uncensored) radicalize womanhood and inspire you to own your journey, too. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready for a birth story that inspires you to believe that you know what is best for you. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/06-empowered-birth-choice Leave a review of the show, then enter our giveaway to win some free shit! https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
5/3/2021 • 1 hour, 2 minutes, 39 seconds
05. Using sex to process emotions
Avoiding emotions. We’ve all been there before, right? You’re managing a career & a family. You’re running a successful business. You’re carrying so much and, honestly, you’d just rather do something lighthearted instead of addressing what’s actually going on. But really, it’s just masking what we’re truly feeling. In this episode, you get to come deep into Lacey’s flow through her emotions and how the act of lovemaking, connecting with, and checking in with Flynn allows her to ground with the energy of her truth and release the weight she’s been carrying around. We uncover the reason why she’s crying during sex and demonstrate how you too can take steps towards this breakthrough during your sex. We’re talking about “the mood” we all really want to feel and just how it can allow you to accept love at the drop of a dime. Grab your headset, tune in, and get ready for this. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/05-using-sex-to-process-emotions Leave a review of the show, then enter our giveaway to win some free shit! https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast Learn more about Sex Elevated, our online course to amplify your intimacy, supercharge your sex, and slingshot you into a new dimension of pleasure, connection, and love in your relationship. Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
4/26/2021 • 1 hour, 2 minutes, 19 seconds
04. Pussy Gazing: from shame to power
Vagina. Vulva. Pussy. What do you call the space between your legs? How deeply have you connected with it? Do you know what it looks like and all the power it holds? Or does the thought of this bring up shame & you’re finding yourself cringing at the thought of this? In this episode, Lacey & Flynn take you deep into Lacey’s discovery of her pussy & her experience with fully claiming this part of her body. From years of painful periods, penetration, and resistance to sex, hear how a commitment to reconnecting with her pussy brought Lacey into her wholeness, healed the emotional pain around penetration, and allowed her to have some really epic sex with Flynn and two amazing free births. If you’re tingling with curiosity to get better acquainted with that sacred triangle and learn how you too can open up and welcome in a mind blowing transformation, grab your headset, tune in, and get ready for this. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/04-pussy-gazing-from-shame-to-power Sign up for Lacey’s free masterclass & learn about School of Whole open April 19 - 26 at https://laceyhaynes.com/masterclass Leave a review of the show, then enter our giveaway to win some free shit! https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
4/19/2021 • 57 minutes, 34 seconds
03. Have sex (even when you don't feel like it)
In this episode, we’re demonstrating how to show up for the practice of having sex even when you’re not “in the mood.” While Lacey would rather do anything else, she fully unveils her resistance as Flynn holds space for her allowing her to soften, to take in the intensity, to bring levity to it, and to be everything she is in this moment. Lacey encourages Flynn to explore being vocal during oral sex and he begins to uncover the stories placed upon men and those of the masculine essence to not be vocally expressive during sex. Join us as we show you how sex as a practice expands beyond “the mood” and deepens into truth, communication, and authenticity to really move into & heal with the physical experience. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/03-have-sex-even-when-you-dont-feel-like-it Sign up for Lacey’s free masterclass & learn about School of Whole opening April 19 - 26 at https://laceyhaynes.com/masterclass Leave a review of the show, then enter our giveaway to win some free shit! https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
4/12/2021 • 1 hour, 1 minute, 7 seconds
02. Is sex really important in a relationship?
It’s our 10 year anniversary! It is so enriching to be where we are in this satisfying, long term relationship, to sit across from one another, look into each other's eyes, and have these conversations on this podcast. We’re so excited to share with you all the things we’ve learned so far on this journey. In this episode, we’re doing our own Q&A with some of your biggest questions around sex & relationships, like if sex is actually important in a relationship. (Spoiler alert: read the title of our show.) Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/02-is-sex-important-in-a-relationship Sign up for Lacey’s free masterclass & learn about School of Whole opening April 19 - 26 at https://laceyhaynes.com/masterclass Leave a review of the show, then enter our giveaway to win some free shit! https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.
4/12/2021 • 56 minutes, 1 second
01. We just had sex
In our first episode, we’re coming in hot and bringing you deep into our lovemaking. After 3 weeks (which felt like 6 months), we’re having sex for the first time after battling a spiritual UTI and processing rage brought on by a gut rehabilitation diet. What does this have to do with sex? Everything! We’re showing you what real sex is like as a married couple (who’d really rather watch Netflix after putting the kids to bed), how to reconnect with your partner when sex is interrupted, and how to receive love and soften into receiving when you’re feeling agitated by life or in a busy headspace. Get all the juicy episode notes at https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast/01-we-just-had-sex Sign up for Lacey’s free masterclass & learn about School of Whole opening April 19 - 26 at https://laceyhaynes.com/masterclass Leave a review of the show, then enter our giveaway to win some free shit! https://laceyandflynn.com/podcast Chat with us on Instagram. Send us a DM and tell us your experience in sex and listening to the episode. Want your questions answered on the show? Submit them here.