For our first Hot Topic episode of 2024, we wanted to shake things up a bit! We often bring on therapists to discuss matters of the mind, but since so many of us struggle with overthinking and analysis paralysis, Sharleen felt it was time for a different conversation. What if we weren't haunted by the choices not chosen, the pros and cons lists, the indecision that keeps us from feeling truly confident in our decisions? What if, instead of attempting to "logic" our way through life, we listened to—gasp!—our *intuition*? Our guest today is Natalie Miles, acclaimed channel, psychic medium, writer and author of the best selling book “You Are Intuitive. Trust Your Truth. Take Back Your Power.” But whether or not you believe in psychic abilities, this conversation is still for you. Natalie is not here to change your beliefs, but rather to help you tap into your OWN intuitive gifts, the "higher power energy" inside you that is there to guide you towards your truest self and most fulfilled life. Today, with Natalie's help, we discuss intuition vs instinct, intuition vs hopes/goals, and how to distinguish between intuition and anxious thoughts. She gives us tips on getting out of our head and into our body, explains why Google isn't your friend, and inspires you to notice the part of yourself so many of us have lost touch with. That's right, Shandies, today we're going a bit woo-woo (or as Andy puts it, wee-woo), and we hope you're as inspired by this conversation as we were! More Natalie Miles: - The Book, "You Are Intuitive": https://youareintuitive.com - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamnataliemiles - "Things That Die" Podcast: https://natalie-miles.com/things-that-die - Natalie's upcoming series, "Everyday Intuition" begins Feb 18: https://natalie-miles.com/everyday-intuition (use code SHANDY11 for 11% off) Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Natalie Miles! 4:21 - What Is ∞, this “Higher Power” intuitive energy? 6:30 - Is Everyone Intuitive? 7:33 - Intuition Vs Instinct & Andy On The Woo-Woo Scale 15:29 - How Did Natalie Find Conviction And Come To Trust In Her Own Intuitive Gifts? 20:57 - Are There People With Bad Intuition? 21:53 - How To Distinguish Between Intuition And Anxious Thoughts 29:13 - Where’s The Line Between Trusting Our Intuition And Being “Realistic”? 33:00 - Where’s The Line Between Our Intuition And Our Hopes And Goals? 36:34 - Getting Out Of The Head And Into The Body 39:18 - Googling 43:17 - Dreams 46:00 - Bravery 49:03 - Noticing And Believing 52:14 - Death And Endings 54:20 - Mourning The “Death” Of Paths Not Chosen 56:33 - What Natalie Wants You To Take Away From This Conversation 58:01 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 28 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 3. Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://oakessentials.com and use promo code SHANDY for 15% off your first order! - Go to https://www.drinkAG1.com/DEARSHANDY to get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 Free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! Thanks to our Word Watch sponsors... - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save up to 35%! - Go to https://www.oneskin.co and use code SHANDY for 15% off your first order! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 3:43 - Episode 3 Kick Off 5:18 - Group Date #1 10:10 - Evening 20:05 - The Next Day 22:17 - Jenn’s 1-On-1 23:42 - Evening 26:58 - Group Date #2 28:23 - Evening 31:20 - Sharleen’s Best Dressed 37:47 - The Next Day/The Pool Party 52:12 - Preview 52:18 - Credits 53:03 - Andy’s A-Game 54:22 - Shandy Word Watch 57:08 - Shandy’s Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! What are Shandy's thoughts on giving it another go with an ex who used to give you The Ick—Is it "Once Ick, Always Ick"? If your generosity with friends feels under appreciated, is it worth bringing up? And if your bestie plans an elaborate Bachelorette party getaway, as a bridesmaid, does not wanting to go make you the A-hole? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off your first box and 2 free wellness shots per box while subscription is active! - Go to https://prose.com/DEARSHANDY for 50% off your first subscription order today! - Go to https://www.skims.com and get free shipping on orders over $75! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Q1: I’m Interested In Trying Again With My Newly Single Ex-Turned-Friend Who Used To Give Me The Ick—Shandy’s Advice? 11:08 - Q2: How Should I Handle My Toxic Ex-Coworker And Her Gossip Mill? 23:36 - Q3: I Was Generous With My Friends But Was Shown Little Appreciation—Who’s The A-Hole Here? 38:04 - Q4: AITA For Not Wanting To Attend An Entire 8-Day Bachelorette Getaway? 46:04 - Q5: I’m Furious My Mother-In-Law Is Backing Out Of A Very Costly Agreement—Help! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 28 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 2. Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://magicspoon.com/SHANDY to grab a variety pack and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save five dollars off your order! - Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY at checkout to save 20%! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off! Thanks to our Word Watch sponsors... - Go to https://www.oneskin.co and use code SHANDY for 15% off your first order! - Go to https://www.skims.com and get free shipping on orders over $75! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 2:02 - Episode 2 Kick Off 3:56 - Group Date #1 13:09 - Evening 19:49 - Daisy’s 1-On-1 22:08 - Evening 24:20 - Group Date #2 27:17 - Evening 32:15 - The Next Day 34:02 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 45:14 - Rose Ceremony 45:51 - Andy’s A-Game 46:50 - Shandy Word Watch 49:03 - Shandy’s Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Lauren. She's found herself in a longterm, on-and-off yet surprisingly comfortable FWB situation with a "friend". It's time for this to end.... or is it? Is there actually any harm in enjoying the comforts of familiarity? Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://HelloFresh.com/SHANDYFREE and use code SHANDYFREE for FREE breakfast for life! - Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save 55% off your subscription! - Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY to save money and cancel unwanted subscriptions the easy way! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller Lauren! 20:14 - The Question 22:10 - Shandy Sleuthing 41:13 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 28 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 1, aka the big premiere! Thank you to our sponsors... - Go to https://quince.com/SHANDY for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! - Go to https://prose.com/DEARSHANDY for 50% off your first subscription order today! - Go to https://www.drinkAG1.com/DEARSHANDY to get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 Free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase! Thanks to our Word Watch sponsor... - Go to https://www.skims.com and get free shipping on orders over $75! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:09 - Joey 4:06 - Premiere Kick Off 5:57 - Night One 7:40 - Limo Exit Wins/Fails 13:19 - Joey’s Toast 15:38 - Notable 1-On-1 Time 32:42 - Lea & Her “Special Card” 37:27 - Notable 1-On-1 Time, Cont’d 40:17 - First Impression Rose 41:22 - Rose Ceremony 42:29 - Andy’s A-Game 43:38 - Shandy Word Watch 45:05 - Shandy’s Predictions 49:19 - Shandy’s Wild Cards If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! In Episode 10, Shandy told a caller not to put "doesn't drink" in her dating profile—3 years and a sober social movement later, have they changed their tune? If your mother-in-law calls just to chat on the phone too often for comfort, how to ease phone-talking anxiety or to lessen the pressure without hurting anyone's feelings? And what if your husband wants to give your baby daughter a middle name you hate? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://jennikayne.com and use code DEARSHANDY to get 15% off your first order! - Go to https://HelloFresh.com/SHANDYFREE and use code SHANDYFREE for FREE breakfast for life! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save up to 35%! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:27 - Q1: You Once Told A Shandy Not To Put “Doesn’t Drink” In Their Dating Profile—3 Years Later, Do You Still Feel This Way? 8:51 - Q2: My Mother-In-Law Calls Too Often And It Gives Me Anxiety—Help! 27:14 - Q3: My Friend Is Now Married To My Narcissist Ex And I Feel Guilty She’s Ended Up With Him—Help! 38:04 - Q4: My Husband Wants To Honor His Grandmother Using Our Daughter’s Middle Name But I Don’t Like The Name—Help! 49:19 - Q5: My Husband Won’t Watch Rom-Coms With Me! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy 2024, Shandies!!! We're back from our vacation and so excited to be reunited with you! In keeping with tradition, we're kicking off this new year with something special. That's right... today is our 3rd installment of UPDATES! When listening to our caller episodes and Q&As, if you find yourself wondering "where are they now?", today is all about filling in those blanks! We called out for updates from our question-asking Shandies and many were kind enough to provide their subsequent chapters, the good and the bad! Come join us in the living room where we're on the edge of our seats! Thanks to our sponsors! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:07 - Episode 42: Caller Maya - https://youtu.be/gwJyzdS8NgM?si=pS0LVXjKgqE091IT 7:40 - Episode 154: Q6, from S - https://youtu.be/qyYKy-XiJ1A?si=NFZjCWlELmF_TU5u 12:00 - Episode 170: Q5, from Scared of Falling: https://youtu.be/7kVFN__wbAU?si=-uthJ85Sod6YgX64 14:41 - Episode 183: Caller Rosemary - https://youtu.be/pJdsPIfB3es?si=miKOsexlois7Oet4 20:28 - Episode 193: Caller 2, Siobhan - https://youtu.be/4DPlS4HCDLc?si=Qfgi7lzIZCdDeq-7 25:23 - Episode 197: Q3, from Pickle - https://youtu.be/dtHws_MFWho?si=rwsAq2x_UwIWh6zX 35:47 - Episode 218: Q7 from C - https://youtu.be/W0GWXzZwU0c?si=uZ0NTC7aXui3vNmU 39:55 - Episode 239: Q2 from K - https://youtu.be/YvOMD4zBo7A?si=gr2yXkFZ_GKgfuqb 43:47 - Episode 239: Q4 from A - https://youtu.be/YvOMD4zBo7A?si=gr2yXkFZ_GKgfuqb 46:57 - Episode 239: Q5 from A - https://youtu.be/YvOMD4zBo7A?si=gr2yXkFZ_GKgfuqb 51:56 - Episode 263: Q3 from N - https://youtu.be/Ofw1rNoMDiw?si=EjX_gcIlbYVpLaWo 55:15 - Episode 270: Q4 from Anonymous - https://youtu.be/ga4wgRlzIjE?si=WatAdVjOraPqTWaO 1:02:20 - Not An Update But A Shandy Letter The referenced article written by the Shandy from the final letter: https://www.today.com/life/essay-life/sign-universe-right-guy-rcna43973https://www.today.com/life/essay-life/sign-universe-right-guy-rcna43973 If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's our last episode of 2023 and today's all about reflecting on past year! We're blending 2 ideas today: keeping with tradition in highlighting our Best Q&As of the year, as well as answering YOUR questions about our personal favorites/bests of 2023. After this, we'll be taking a 2 week break, so we'll see you back here on Jan 11! THANK YOU, Shandies, for another fantastic year of kinship and laughs. We wish you the happiest holiday season and will see you soon! XOXO Thanks to our sponsors! - Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off! - Go to https://HelloFresh.com/SHANDYFREE and use code SHANDYFREE for FREE breakfast for life! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order! 0:00 - Introduction 1:31 - Favorite Book of 2023 3:56 - Favorite Escape Room of 2023 4:52 - Favorite Animal Interaction of 2023 7:07 - BEST OF 2023: Ep 270, Q5: My Boyfriend Sucks At Driving And Wants To Borrow My New Car 18:20 - Favorite Socks of 2023 18:51 - Favorite Beauty Finds of 2023 20:54 - Favorite City Visited in 2023 21:18 - BEST OF 2023: Ep 214, Q2: My Friend Group Imploded Over Pickleball—Help! 37:03 - Favorite Restaurant of 2023 39:33 - Favorite Way We Grew As People in 2023 42:31 - Favorite Outfit of 2023 43:04 - BEST OF 2023: Ep 206, Q7: The Ethics Of Tickling 52:41 - Favorite Green Thumb Tip of 2023 54:10 - Favorite Video Game of 2023 54:23 - Favorite Ad Jingle of 2023 56:32 - BEST OF 2023: Ep 245, Q2: My Boyfriend Wants A Private, Locked Room In Our Shared Home—Thoughts? 1:10:20 - Favorite Movie of 2023 1:12:23 - Favorite Deep Conversation of 2023 1:14:55 - BEST OF 2023: Ep 214, Q5: I’ve Been In An Arranged Marriage For 13 Years & Missed Out On Romance—Help! 1:28:04 - Favorite Moment of Self-Insight of 2023 1:33:21 - Favorite Song We Performed in 2023 1:34:21 - Thank You Shandies! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is it acceptable for your best friend to give her boyfriend a key to your shared apartment? For guys wanting to approach women outside the apps, but don't know where to start, Andy gives his 101 tips. Are we all addicted to our phones, and what's an otherwise happily married couple to do when screen time routinely becomes fight time? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save up to 40%! - Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY to save money and cancel unwanted subscriptions the easy way! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 3:34 - Q1: My Roommate Gave Her Boyfriend A Key To Our Shared Apartment—Am I The Asshole For Being Upset? 11:05 - Q2: My Partner Goes Out Partying Late Every Weekend—Am I Being Disrespected? 24:25 - Q3: Shandy’s Advice To Men On How To Approach Women IRL 42:39 - Q4: Our Marriage Is Good But Our Phone Addiction Isn’t—Any Advice? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor in Paradise, Season 9 recaps. Today we're breaking down the grand finale! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save up to 40%! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY at checkout to save 20%! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:45 - Finale Kick Off 5:17 - Kat & John Henry’s Date 11:40 - Back On The Beach 12:57 - Eliza & Aaron B’s Date 14:45 - Back On The Bach 26:24 - The Next Day 28:35 - Kenny & Mari 29:24 - Wedding 32:28 - Rave Wedding Reception 41:16 - The Next Day 41:29 - “Take Time & Think” 43:19 - The Couples Make Or Break 50:21 - Overnights 55:04 - Proposal Day 59:35 - Where Are They Now Montage 1:03:02 - Credits 1:05:00 - Andy’s A-Game 1:06:02 - Who We Would Go For If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Golden Bachelor recaps! Today we're breaking down the grand FINALE! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.marinelayer.com/SHANDY15 to get 15% off your entire order! - Go to https://prose.com/DEARSHANDY for 50% off your first subscription order today! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! - Go to https://www.drinkAG1.com/DEARSHANDY to get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3K2 AND 5 Free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase! Our Word Watch sponsors! - Go to https://www.jennikayne.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 15% off your first order! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:05 - Finale Kick Off 1:32 - Theresa Meets Gerry’s Family 2:34 - Evening 3:35 - Leslie Meets Gerry’s Family 10:35 - Evening 25:40 - Live: Leslie 33:05 - Back In Costa Rica  36:06 - Proposal 37:34 - Shandy’s Bet 40:16 - After The Final Rose 42:05 - Joey 44:32 - Special Announcement 47:50 - Overall Thoughts 50:23 - Shandy Word Watch 52:08 - Reviewing Night One Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor in Paradise, Season 9 recaps. Today we're breaking down episode 9! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.StoryWorth.com/DEARSHANDY today and save $10 on your first purchase! - Go to https://prose.com/DEARSHANDY for 50% off your first subscription order today! - Go to https://www.jennikayne.com/DEARSHANDY to get 25% off your first order! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:37 - Episode 9 Kick Off/Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 34:55 - Rose Ceremony 40:59 - Credits 42:22 - Andy’s A-Game 45:00 - Who We Would Go For If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Are we ALL pre-date sleuthing one another online, and should you mention what you found to your date? If you're dating someone "perfect", what does it mean when you keep thinking about your ex? And if someone who routinely got in car accidents asked to borrow your new car, what would you say? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY to save money and cancel unwanted subscriptions the easy way! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://www.skims.com and get free shipping on orders over $75! - Go to https://hellofresh.com/SHANDYFREE and use code SHANDYFREE for free breakfast for life! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Q1: My Pre-Date Googling Revealed Something About My Date—Should I Bring It Up With Him? 12:33 - Q2: My Grandmother Has Passed But Wanted Me To Have Her Wedding Ring—How Do I Bring This Up With Family? 24:23 - Q3: My Boyfriend Is Perfect But I Keep Thinking About My Ex—Help! 39:50 - Q4: We’ve Gone From Friends To Dating To Friends Again—Shandy’s Take? 56:30 - Q5: My Boyfriend Sucks At Driving And Wants To Borrow My New Car 1:06:55 - Announcements If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by two lovely callers. It may be very early in their relationship but "C" and her boyfriend are madly in love—would moving in this early on ruin a good thing? Our next caller, Hannah, is childfree by choice, yet her boyfriends never seem to believe her when she says this. Are they all jerks who don't believe a woman when she tells them who she is, or is she the common denominator in the types she's attracting? Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save up to 40%! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller C! 20:53 - Shandy Debrief 22:59 - Welcome To Caller Hannah! 48:42 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Golden Bachelor recaps! Today we're breaking down Fantasy Suite Week! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.StoryWorth.com/DEARSHANDY today and save $10 on your first purchase! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save 40% off the Cuddle Blanket now! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! Our Word Watch sponsors! - Go to https://www.jennikayne.com/DEARSHANDY to get 25% off your first order! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY for 40% off the new Cuddle Blanket! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:00 - Episode 8 Kick Off 4:11 - Leslie’s Overnight 5:31 - Evening 15:31 - The Next Morning 18:02 - Theresa’s Overnight 20:02 - Evening 23:48 - The Next Morning 25:22 - Credits 30:07 - Andy’s A-Game 35:15 - Shandy Word Watch 37:49 - Shandy’s Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor in Paradise, Season 9 recaps. Today we're breaking down episode 8! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://jennikayne.com/DEARSHANDY to get 25% off your first order! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://www.skims.com and get free shipping on orders over $75! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 2:08 - Episode 8 Kick Off 4:03 - Michael’s Date 4:45 - Back On The Beach 8:38 - Back On The Date 10:24 - Jordan & Tayler 14:13 - Jordan’s Date 16:57 - Evening 36:18 - The Next Day 36:53 - Double Date 38:58 - Katie Thurston 44:49 - Paradise Roast 51:17 - The Next Day 51:22 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 52:54 - Andy’s A-Game 53:18 - Who We Would Go For If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's a BIG day, Shandies! We've been wanting to pick the lovely Katie Thurston's brain since we first recapped her Bachelorette season 2.5 years ago, and at long last, that day is here. Plus, it's been awhile since we've had a Confessions episode and we're thrilled this former Bachelorette and current star of F-Boy Island could make the time to join us! Katie's had a very busy and very public last 3 years, so today we talk the ins and outs of watching yourself back on TV, whether contestants behave differently IRL versus on TV, what she's learned about human nature after being on the receiving end of MILLIONS of opinions. What has been the key difference between dating "civilians" versus celebrities, has her notoriety helped or hurt her love life, and has her time on TV changed her personal relationships? And for our longtime Shandies, don't worry, Andy also brings up THOMAS! Multiple times. (See time stamps!) Don't miss Katie on Season 3 of F-Boy Island, currently airing on Hulu and the CW! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY for a free Gentle Body Scrub with your razor kit subscription! - Go to https://www.shopbeam.com/SHANDY for up to 50% off! More Katie: - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thekatiethurston - Comedy: https://beacons.ai/katiethurston Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Katie Thurston! 2:47 - How Has She Navigated Honoring Her Needs While Accommodating Production? 4:49 - The Most Common Misconception About Being The Lead Of A Dating Show 7:06 - Backlash That Has Surprised Her 7:45 - Thomas 8:31 - Have People She Met On TV Been Totally Different IRL? 9:52 - Has She Ever Felt Her Choices Were Misrepresented? 12:51 - What Have The Last 3 Years Taught Her About Herself? 15:00 - What Has She Learned About Human Nature? 17:34 - Resilience 19::49 - Parasocial Relationships 21:45 - Is IRL Dating Easier Or Harder Now? 23:54 - Dating “Civilians” Vs Celebrities 27:03 - Is Dating On TV A Microcosm For Dating IRL? 28:20 - Thomas 29:21 - Would She Always Pick Someone On TV That She Would Have Picked IRL? 30:34 - How Has What She’s Looking For In A Partner Changed? 33:21 - How Notoriety Affects Personal Relationships  38:30 - Does She Consider Herself A Private Person? 39:18 - In What Ways Is Her Personality Suited To This And In What Ways Is It Not? 43:35 - Would She Have Had The Courage To Pursue Comedy Without All This? 48:53 - One Regret & One Choice She’s Proud Of 51:30 - Blake Moynes 53:22 - Her Social Media Habits 54:26 - True Or False 55:17 - Thomas 56:20 - True Or False, Cont’d 59:02 - Shandy Debrief 1:04:02 - Thomas If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Golden Bachelor recaps! Today we're breaking down Women Tell All. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off! - Go to https://www.quince.com/shandy for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY for 40% off the new Cuddle Blanket! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 0:47 - Overall Thoughts 3:56 - Women Tell All Kick Off 7:30 - Unseen Footage 11:32 - Joan’s Hot Seat 18:19 - Ellen’s Hot Seat 23:20 - Gerry 30:25 - Rose Ceremony 34:46 - Faith Hot Seat 39:04 - Bloopers 41:55 - Previews 42:23 - Andy’s A-Game 43:01 - Shandy Word Watch 44:37 - Shandy’s Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor in Paradise, Season 9 recaps. Today we're breaking down episode 7! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 25% off your first order! - Go to https://www.moshlife.com/SHANDY to save 20% off plus FREE shipping on your first 6-count Trial Pack! - Go to https://www.hellotushy.com /SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY for 10% off your first order! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://www.shopbeam.com/SHANDY for up to 50% off! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:03 - Episode 7 Kick Off 11:27 - The Next Day 11:45 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 34:36 - Rose Ceremony 39:51 - The Next Day 48:43 - Previews 49:27 - Credits 49:42 - Andy’s A-Game 52:19 - Who We Would Go For If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Does it make you the A-hole to crush on someone you know is unavailable? When your guy is a winner but his kissing is terrible, can you teach an old dog new tricks? And in a romantic relationship, where's the line between the "no eggshells" rule and shared humor? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! - Go to https://prose.com/DEARSHANDY for 50% off your first subscription order today! - Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save 55% off your subscription! - Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY to save money and cancel unwanted subscriptions the easy way! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Q1: Am I The A-Hole For Crushing On An Unavailable Co-Worker? 6:24 - Q2: My Wonderful Husband Is A Terrible Kisser—Are My Hot Make Out Days Over? 15:33 - Q3: I Have Fallen For My Best Friend—Help! 34:06 - Q4: In A Relationship, How Does The “No Eggshells” Rule Apply To Humor? 47:18 - Q5: A Guy At My Gym Makes Me Uncomfortable—Shandy’s Take? 1:01:32 - Q6: My In-Laws Make Comments About My Hot Dad—Help! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Golden Bachelor recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 6. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://drinkAG1.com/SHANDY for a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D + 5 travel packs with your order! - Go to https://jennikayne.com and use code SHANDY for 15% off your first order! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://furanostudio.etsy.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:00 - Episode 6 Kick Off 1:49 - Theresa’s Hometown 16:00 - Faith’s Hometown 24:34 - Flashpoint 27:27 - Leslie’s Hometown 33:53 - Los Angeles 38:49 - Rose Ceremony 40:38 - Previews 41:19 - Credits 41:43 - Andy’s A-Game 42:29 - Shandy Word Watch 43:24 - Shandy’s Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor in Paradise, Season 9 recaps. Today we're breaking down episode 6! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 25% off your first order! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 2:44 - Episode 6 Kick Off 12:56 - Genevie 23:02 - Becca 30:33 - Genevie’s Date 32:24 - Back At The Beach 35:10 - Becca’s Date 36:31 - Evening 42:10 - Charity 46:28 - Credits 47:01 - Andy’s A-Game 48:27 - Who We Would Go For If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Golden Bachelor recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 5. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save up to 40%! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/50Shandy and use code 50Shandy for 50% plus free shipping! Our Word Watch sponsors! - Go to https://drinkAG1.com/SHANDY for a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D + 5 travel packs with your order! - Go to https://furanostudio.etsy.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:06 - Episode 5 Kick Off 4:10 - Faith’s 1-On-1 15:18 - Evening 18:10 - Group Date 32:08 - Rose Ceremony 37:33 - Credits 37:57 - Andy’s A-Game 38:33 - Shandy Word Watch 40:19 - Shandy’s Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor in Paradise, Season 9 recaps. Today we're breaking down episode 5! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.skims.com and get free shipping on orders over $75! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save up to 40%! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/50SHANDY and use code 50SHANDY for 50% plus free shipping! - Go to https://prose.com/DEARSHANDY for 15% off your first order today! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 3:16 - Episode 5 Kick Off 6:10 - Rose Ceremony 9:19 - The Next Day, Aka Kat’s Birthday 12:32 - Rachel’s Date 16:43 - Davia 26:08 - Evening 26:25 - Davia’s Date 27:30 - Back On The Beach 36:53 - The Next Day 41:04 - Credits 41:42 - Andy’s A-Game 42:11 - Who We Would Go For If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's the day, Shandies! We've been wanting to cover the topic of childlessness for quite some time, and when Sharleen read Ruby Warrington's newest book, Women Without Kids, she wouldn't take no for an answer in getting Ruby on the podcast! This conversation is for every person, with or without kids. Few books have impacted Sharleen the way Ruby's did, and today we dive deep into the world of Womanhood WITHOUT Motherhood. How often have you heard terms like "maternal instinct" and "labor of love", or phrases like "You don't know true love until you have children" and "But who will look after you when you're old?" Today, with Ruby Warrington's expertise, we examine The Motherhood Spectrum, the truth behind "having it all", and whether or not we can argue with "nature". We discuss the (very real) fear of regret, finding meaning and legacy as a non-parent, the guilt in not bestowing our parents with grandchildren, how to age as a woman in our youth-obsessed society, and of course, Climate Change. This conversation will hopefully guide your heart and help you hear to something inside yourself, versus listening to what so many of us have been conditioned to believe for a lifetime. If you experience grief over the path not traveled or have felt your dearest friendships wither as you and/or your friends have started making babies, this episode is very much for you. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save up to 40%! More Ruby Warrington: - "Women Without Kids", The Book: https://amzn.to/3MfLT7T - Women Without Kids Podcast: https://www.rubywarrington.com/women-without-kids-podcasts - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rubywarrington - Website: https://www.rubywarrington.com Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Ruby Warrington! 2:58 - What Inspired Her To Write ‘Women Without Kids’ And How Is The Result Different Than Anticipated? 8:59 - How Many Tears Did She Shed Writing This Book? 10:00 - The Motherhood Spectrum 14:46 - The Mommy Binary 19:19 - Who Are We To Argue With “Nature”? 25:41 - Labor Of Love 29:54 - “Having It All” 33:19 - Climate Change 35:29 - Regret 41:54 - Purpose 44:54 - Legacy 46:42 - Guilt Over Not Bestowing “Grandparenthood” To Our Parents 53:03 - Finding Positivity In Aging As A Woman In Society 55:10 - Female Friendships 1:00:17 - Fear-Based Decisions 1:03:16 - Grieving The Path Not Traveled 1:06:36 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Golden Bachelor recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 4. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order! - Go to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off! Our Word Watch sponsors! - Go to https://furanostudio.etsy.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off! - Go to https://drinkAG1.com/SHANDY for a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D + 5 travel packs with your order! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:03 - Episode 4 Kick Off 1:47 - Trista Sutter 3:39 - Group Date 11:54 - Group Date Cocktail Party 22:35 - Leslie’s 1-On-1 28:18 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 36:45 - Rose Ceremony 37:29 - Credits 37:46 - Andy’s A-Game 39:45 - Shandy Word Watch 42:03 - Shandy’s Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor in Paradise, Season 9 recaps. Today we're breaking down episode 4! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.shopbeam.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for up to 40% off! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:05 - Episode 4 Kick Off 3:59 - John Henry 6:51 - John Henry’s Date 9:06 - John B 12:16 - Evening 14:03 - John B’s Date 15:08 - A Lot Happens At The Beach 31:22 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 39:29 - Credits 39:42 - Andy’s A-Game 40:26 - Who We Would Go For If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Golden Bachelor recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 3. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! Our Word Watch sponsors! - Go to https://www.franklyapparel.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off your first purchase! - Go to https://furanostudio.etsy.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 0:58 - Episode 3 Kick Off 3:53 - Group Date 8:10 - Evening 10:41 - The Next Day 16:39 - Ellen’s 1-On-1 26:14 - At The Mansion 26:47 - Cocktail Party 35:06 - Rose Ceremony 36:12 - Post-Rose Ceremony 39:11 - Credits 39:37 - Andy’s A-Game 39:58 - Shandy Word Watch 41:53 - Shandy’s Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor in Paradise, Season 9 recaps. Today we're breaking down episode 3! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.hellotushy.com /SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY for 10% off your first order! - Go to https://www.drinkAG1.com/SHANDY to get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 Free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! - Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $10 off your first month's subscription plus free shipping! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:45 - Episode 3 Kick Off 11:48 - Tanner’s Date 15:26 - Tyler 24:11 - Evening 30:54 - Tyler’s Date 33:10 - Back On The Beach 36:25 - Credits 37:25 - Andy’s A-Game 38:24 - Who We Would Go For If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions, and today is an Am-I-The-Asshole BONANZA! If you're invited to a birthday gathering by the birthday boy, who's paying? Is it wrong to want a new ring when being proposed to for a second time? And is asking a woman to shave her legs akin to a woman asking a man to shave his balls? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off! - Go to https://prose.com/DEARSHANDY for 15% off your first order today! - Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 25% off your first order! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Q1: My Boyfriend Won’t Let Me Go On A Mixed-Gender Climbing Trip—Help! 8:24 - Q2: I Was Invited To A Birthday Gathering And Sent A Venmo Request By The Host The Next Day—Who's In The Wrong? 18:38 - Q3: My Boyfriend Wants To Re-Propose But I Want A Different Ring—Help! 31:29 - Q4: My Boyfriend Hates My Friend And Wants Me To End The Friendship—Help! 38:26 - Q5: Was He Just Not That Into Me? 47:36 - Q6: Asking A Woman To Shave Her Legs Vs Asking A Man To Shave His Balls 1:02:12 - Q7: Bad Breath Vs Frizzy Hair If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Golden Bachelor recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 2. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://quince.com/SHANDY for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns! - Go to https://www.moshlife.com/SHANDY to save 20% off plus FREE shipping on your first 6-count Trial Pack! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! Our Word Watch sponsors! - Go to https://furanostudio.etsy.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off! - Go to https://www.franklyapparel.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off your first purchase! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Overall Thoughts 1:48 - Episode 2 Kick Off 5:51 - Theresa’s 1-On-1 16:24 - Group Date 27:09 - Gerry’s Birthday Party 32:51 - Rose Ceremony 35:24 - Credits 35:57 - Andy’s A-Game 37:38 - Shandy Word Watch 39:39 - Shandy’s Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor in Paradise, Season 9 recaps. Today we're breaking down episode 2! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.shopbeam.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for up to 40% off! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save 55% off your subscription! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:24 - Episode 2 Kick Off 3:02 - Aven 6:59 - Aven’s Date 17:32 - Hannah Brown 24:10 - Bonfire 28:03 - Evening 30:00 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 37:25 - Rose Ceremony 39:00 - Previews 39:25 - Credits  40:56 - Andy’s A-Game 41:37 - Who We Would Go For If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Buckle up, Bros and Hoes. Join Wells Adams & Brandi Cyrus every Wednesday as they share their favorite, and sometimes least favorite, things: movies, TV shows, books, conspiracy theories, influencer faux pas, you name it. No streaming platform or viewer discretion notice holds them back; they cover everything from Christmas classics to erotica and everything in between. If you don’t like it, we’ve only got one thing to say to you, ah f**k you very much. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Golden Bachelor recaps! Today we're breaking down the hotly-anticipated series premiere. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $10 off your first month's subscription plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save up to 40%! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://furanostudio.etsy.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:03 - Overall Thoughts 2:50 - Getting To Know Gerry 5:14 - Limo Exit Wins/Fails 13:33 - Jesse And Gerry 14:06 - Night One 24:44 - First Impression Rose 26:09 - Rose Ceremony 31:16 - Previews 32:11 - Credits 33:53 - Andy’s A-Game 34:31 - Shandy Word Watch 36:22- Shandy’s Predictions 42:25 - Closing Thoughts If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor in Paradise, Season 9 recaps. Today we're breaking down episode 1, aka the Season Premiere! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 25% off your first order! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Head to https://www.skims.com and get free shipping on orders over $75! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 2:20 - Episode 1 Kick Off 4:27 - Meet The Cast 10:42 - Arrivals 24:27 - Paradise Begins 25:43 - Evening 28:42 - Kylee’s Date 35:16 - The Next Day 43:16 - Credits 44:13 - Andy’s A-Game 45:29 - Shandy Word Watch 46:16 - Who We Would Go For If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today Shandy is joined by overwhelmingly beautiful power couple for a Love Fest that has been nearly a year in the making! In what has been your top-requested Love Fest to date, celebrated pop sensation Hayley Kiyoko and Becca Tilley (Bachelor S19 and S20) join Shandy from their Los Angeles home to share the ins and outs of their partnership! Today Hayley and Becca share their first impressions of one another and how those have changed, how they complement each other, how they handle the distance when Hayley's on tour, and of course, how they fight! Finally, a particularly exciting Newlyweds Game filled with laughs and a few surprises to boot ! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY to save money and cancel unwanted subscriptions the easy way! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://www.drinkAG1.com/SHANDY to get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 Free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/50Shandy and use code 50Shandy for 50% off plus 15% off the next 2 months! More Becca: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/beccatilley/ TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@beccatilley5 Scubbing In Podcast - https://app.mykeylive.com/keychain/profile/scrubbingin More Hayley: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/hayleykiyoko/ TikTok - https://www.instagram.com/hayleykiyoko/ Latest Album, "Panorama" - https://open.spotify.com/album/2TJlASpVb5tgcEY0RMyZjQ Book - https://static.macmillan.com/static/wednesday-books/girls-like-girls/ Fragrance - https://www.huebyhayley.com/ Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Becca & Hayley! 3:16 - How They Met 7:57 - Did Hayley Know Of Becca When They Met? 10:32 - Their First “Date” 14:45 - First Impressions & How Those Have Changed 21:11 - How They Complement Each Other 24:28 - Love Languages 26:30 - Early Hurdle 29:24 - Did Becca Have Reservations About Hayley’s Fame? 35:15 - How They Fight 38:48 - Common Misconceptions  44:00 - Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed 47:09 - The Newlyweds Game 1:02:56 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Elizabeth. Elizabeth and her boyfriend have a great relationship but there's one issue, and it's an elephant in the room: his jealousy. An event occurs where she's invited out by a colleague, sending her boyfriend into a jealous frenzy. Was Elizabeth the "A-hole" in how she handled that situation, or is her boyfriend's mistrust a red flag? Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save up to 40%! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! Referenced Q&A: - https://youtu.be/FgJZYlWYlos Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller Elizabeth! 34:23 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's that time of year again... Dear Shandy is officially 3 years old! And what better way to celebrate than to answer YOUR questions! We polled you over on Instagram and received quite the selection of Qs about us, our relationship, the podcast, and of course, the random stuff in between! Thank you, Shandies, for another year of laughs, rabbit holes, and analogies. We deeply appreciate you and the community we've built. Come join us in our living room to chat! Thanks to our sponsors! - Head to https://www.moshlife.com/SHANDY to save 20% off plus FREE shipping on your first 6-count Trial Pack! - Go to https://prose.com/SHANDY for 15% off your first order today! - Go to https://www.hellotushy.com /SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY for 10% off your first order! - Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off! 1 Year Anniversary Q&A: https://pdst.fm/e/chrt.fm/track/38G817/traffic.megaphone.fm/BOOJE9711623600.mp3?updated=1694617411 2 Year Anniversary Q&A: https://pdst.fm/e/chrt.fm/track/38G817/traffic.megaphone.fm/BOOJE8112889855.mp3?updated=1694627652 Time Stamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:15 - What Is Your Favorite Feature On Each Other’s Bodies? 5:39 - Did Sharleen Always See Herself Moving To The US? 6:35 - Does Shandy Have Plans To Move To A Bigger Apartment? 8:50 - Are You More Or Less Goofy In Real Life? 9:42 - How Many White V-Necks Does Andy Own? 11:00 - Is Sharleen Embarrassed By Andy’s White V-Necks? 11:12 - How Does Shandy Fight? 15:57 - Why Can’t We Know What Andy Does For A Living? 17:11 - Do You Think Your Relationship Would Be What It Is If You’d Met Younger? 19:32 - What Are The Hardest And Easiest Parts Of Being A Public Figure Couple?  24:45 - Do You Ever Get Annoyed When Recording With Each Other?  28:26 - How Many Couples Have Declined Or Ignored Love Fest Requests? 29:16 - How Do You Feel When Love Fest Couples Break Up? 30:28 - Has There Been A Reaction To An Episode That Has Been Challenging To Reckon With? 39:09 - If You Knew Then What You Know Now, Would You Still Have Started Dear Shandy?  40:31 - Who Would Be Dream Moderators For Your Own Love Fest?  41:28 - Can We Get A Refresher On The Correct/Incorrect Use Of “You’re Welcome”? 46:12 - If You Could Monologue About One Topic Of Your Choice For 30 Minutes, What Would It Be?  46:31 - Based On Your Experience, What Advice Do You Have On Things To Look For In A Partner? 51:47 - If You Were A Cat, What Kind, Color, And Personality Of A Cat Would You Be?  53:29 - Power Rank (Least Favorite To Favorite): Chicken, Beef, Pork, Tofu, Fish  57:23 - Why Doesn’t Shandy Eat Meat? 57:45 - Would You Rather a) Every Night For The Rest Of Your Life Have To Watch Your Parents Have Sex, Or b) You Can Avoid That By Joining In One Time  58:30 - No Wine Ever Again, Or No Charcuterie Boards Ever Again? 58:57 - Power Rank: Amelia Earhart, Massages, Soup Dumplings, MLK, Contact Lenses, The Color Green If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is it weird if your partner wants a private, locked room in your shared home? What are Shandy's thoughts on "Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater"? Is there a "right" way to break up with someone? And let's help a Shandy find friends in her new city! Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY to save money and cancel unwanted subscriptions the easy way! - Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save 55% off your subscription! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Q1: Are My Boyfriend’s Friendships Weird? 7:30 - Q2: My Boyfriend Wants A Private, Locked Room In Our Shared Home—Thoughts? 20:14 - Q3: I’ve Moved Cities And Am Having A Hard Time Making Friends—Help! 28:28 - Q4: I’ve Been The Cheater—What Are Shandy’s Thoughts On “Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater”? 41:27 - Q5: I Just Learned About My Boyfriend’s Cheating History—Is This A Dealbreaker? 1:05:38 - Q6: I Know I Need To End It But Am Dreading It—Tips On Breaking Up? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today Shandy is joined AT HOME for their third ever in-person Love Fest, by a couple whose relationship Shandy got to witness firsthand when Sharleen hosted Bachelor In Paradise Canada! Last Summer Chelsea Vaughn (Bachelor S25 & BIP S7) and Austin Tinsley (Bachelorette S17) met on Canadian soil and left as a couple in love. Because the season didn't air until a near year later, Chelsea and Austin had to keep their relationship under wraps for a whopping 13 MONTHS! Needless to say, they've learned a thing or two about each other in the interim! Today Chelsea and Austin join Shandy to share fun Paradise Canada #BTS, how they complement each other, what it felt like learning to text each other (yes, really!), and of course, how they fight! Finally, a kooky Newlyweds Game with answers you will not see coming! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $10 off your first month's subscription plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 25% off your first order! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/50SHANDY and use code 50SHANDY for 50% off plus free shipping! More Chelsea: https://www.instagram.com/chelseavaughn https://linktr.ee/vaughnerable More Austin: https://www.instagram.com/austinsley Shandy on Vaughnerable: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/vaughnerable-with-chelsea-vaughn/id1654415005?i=1000612139370 Austin on Vaughnerable, P1: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/vaughnerable-with-chelsea-vaughn/id1654415005?i=1000621364510 Auston on Vaughnerable, P2: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/vaughnerable-with-chelsea-vaughn/id1654415005?i=1000622115759 Referenced Hot Cheetos Reel: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CsXB9Q5NnoP Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Chelsea & Austin! 6:50 - Shandy’s Appearance On Chelsea’s Podcast, Vaughnerable 7:41 - Did They Feel A Cultural Difference In Canada? 9:29 - First Impressions 21:40 - Being “In Hiding” For 13 Months (!) 26:21 - How They Complement Each Other 30:33 - How They’re Different Than Expected 34:26 - How Austin’s Different Than What Chelsea Imagined For Herself 36:44 - Early Hurdle 42:47 - How They Fight 48:15 - Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed 51:53 - The Newlyweds Game 1:06:48 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Kelly. Kelly's cousin's choices in her relationship have had a ripple effect in their shared friend circle and Kelly has wound up more involved than she ever intended to be or would have liked. When is someone else's infidelity your information to share, and in Kelly's case, should she have done anything differently? Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.fabfitfun.com/DEARSHANDY and get 20% off your new membership! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off plus free shipping! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller Kelly! 36:48 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps. Today we're breaking down the grand finale! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.drinkAG1.com/SHANDY to get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 Free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase! - Go to https://www.FastGrowingTrees.com/SHANDY NOW to get FIFTEEN PERCENT OFF your entire order! - Head to https://www.skims.com and get free shipping on orders over $75! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! Our Word Watch sponsor! - https://www.alianaroseeyewear.com - use code SHANDY15 for 15% off! (expires Sept 5) Time Stamps: 1:04 - Finale Kick Off 2:10 - Aaron B’s Return 3:45 - Rose Ceremony 9:43 - Live: Aaron B 10:44 - Charity With Her Family 12:43 - Joey Meets Charity’s Family 13:49 - Live 14:29 - Dotun Meets Charity’s Family 19:18 - Charity Seeks Clarity 22:45 - Joey’s Final Date 24:58 - Live 26:00 - Dotun’s Final Date 28:47 - Neil Lane 31:34 - Proposal Day 33:17 - Joey 36:23 - Live: Joey  37:30 - Live: Charity Joins 39:19 - Dotun 41:32 - Live 42:27 - Live: Charity & Dotun 45:34 - Bachelor Reveal 48:42 - Overall Thoughts On Charity’s Season 49:45 - Shandy Word Watch 50:37 - Reviewing Night One Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's the day, Shandies! We've been wanting to tackle the ever-relevant topic of NARCISSISM since Dear Shandy's inception, however, we insisted on waiting until we could get the best of the best to join us. Our patience paid off as today we're joined by the acclaimed, unparalleled expert on narcissism, the one and only Dr. Ramani. Trust us, she does NOT disappoint! Today Dr. Ramani sets the record straight on the definition on narcissism, how social media has changed the narcissist landscape, and how many of us fall on the narcissism spectrum. She gives us insight on how aware of their own narcissism narcissists are, whether or not they have a moral compass or can improve, and whether or not you can "win" in your battle against a narcissist. We wrap with actionable tips for those healing from their relationship with narcissists, those who have no choice but to live or work with narcissists, and what "red flags" to look out for. Our minds were blown multiple times during this conversation and this is easily one of our all-time favorite Hot Topics to date. We promise you will learn something new (and useful) to apply to your most challenging relationships. Thanks to our sponsors! - Head to https://www.moshlife.com/SHANDY to save 20% off plus FREE shipping on your first 6-count Trial Pack! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save up to 40%! More Dr. Ramani: - Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@DoctorRamani - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorramani - Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/navigatingnarcissismpod - Website & Healing Program: https://doctor-ramani.com Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Dr. Ramani! 2:59 - The Clinical Definition of Narcissism (So We’re All On The Same Page) 4:35 - Is There A Point On The Spectrum Where A Personality Style Becomes A Personality Disorder? 8:27 - Nature And Nurture 13:09 - How Wrong Is It To Throw The Term “Narcissist” Around? 15:41 - What Percentage Of People Fall On The Narcissism Spectrum? 17:40 - Social Media 22:56 - Can A Person Be Narcissistic In Some Ways But Not In Others? 23:58 - Can They Help It? 27:52 - When Narcissists Are Acting Out, Are They Drinking Their Own Kool-Aid? 30:25 - Do Narcissists Have A Moral Compass? 32:31 - Shame 33:54 - Can Narcissists Know They’re Narcissists? 35:06 - Has She Ever Seen Narcissists Improve? 38:59 - Is There A Correlation Between Narcissism And Enormous Wealth? 39:50 - Is There A Way To “Win” With Narcissists? 42:39 - When Dating Someone New, What Are Red Flags To Look Out For? 47:46 - Are People Raised By Narcissists More Likely To End Up In A Relationship With One? 48:47 - For People Who Have Fallen For Narcissists, What Questions Should They Ask Themselves? 51:45 - What Do Narcissists Truly Want In A Partner? 54:53 - Navigating Narcissism In The Workplace 58:04 - When Your Colleagues Are Drinking The Narcisisst’s Kool-Aid, Can You Make Them See The Light? 1:01:52 - The Basic Rules For Handling A Narcissist 1:04:51 - How Can One Tell If *They* Are A Narcissist?  1:06:21 - Are There Benevolent Narcisissts? 1:09:22 - First Steps Victims Of Narcissists Should Take Towards Healing 1:12:34 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps. Today we're breaking down Men Tell All! Thanks to our sponsors! - Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save up to 40%! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! Our Word Watch sponsor! - https://www.alianaroseeyewear.com - use code SHANDY15 for 15% off! (expires Sept 5) Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:35 - Men Tell All Kickoff 7:35 - A Guy Named Peter 10:43 - Brayden’s Hot Seat 17:02 - Xavier 20:28 - Charity Arrives 27:16 - Xavier’s Hot Seat 37:13 - Unseen Footage 40:04 - Captain Tom 40:45 - Former Bachelorettes 41:22 - Gerry, Our Golden Bachelor 45:18 - Credits 45:44 - Andy’s A-Game 46:37 - Shandy Word Watch 49:37 - Overall Thoughts If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is it a red flag if your date leads with compliments about your physical appearance? If your mother's wedding gift is a check that seems to be missing a "0", is it worth bringing up? And if your brother has created a web of lies so big you're forced to play a part in the charade, when is enough enough? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off! - Go to https://prose.com/SHANDY for 15% off your first order today! - Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:48 - Q1: Don’t Tell Me I’m Pretty… Yet 13:57 - Q2: My Boyfriend Lacks Initiative—Should I Be Concerned? 26:04 - Q3: My Mother Gifted Us A Surprisingly Low Amount Of Money For Our Wedding—Can I Say Something? 44:34 - Q4: My LDR Is Rocky But We’re So In Love—When Is It Too Much To Overcome? 54:14 - Q5: My Boyfriend Didn't Do Anything For My Birthday :( 1:07:39 - Q6: My Brother Can’t Keep It In His Pants—Help! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps. Today we're breaking down episode 7, aka Fantasy Suite Week! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $10 off your first month's subscription plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save 55% off your subscription! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! - Go to https://www.FastGrowingTrees.com/SHANDY NOW to get FIFTEEN PERCENT OFF your entire order! Our Word Watch sponsor! - https://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first purchase! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 0:44 - Episode 7 Kick Off 3:34 - Xavier’s Overnight 35:31 - Joey’s Overnight 40:55 - Flashpoint 46:21 - Dotun’s Overnight 55:11 - Aaron B 58:40 - Credits 1:01:16 - Andy’s A-Game 1:02:12 - Shandy Word Watch 1:05:59 - Shandy’s Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Bachelor Nation's favorite "dolphin", Alexis Waters (Bachelor S21) and her fiancé, Tyler Fernandez! We knew going into this Love Fest that the "fun meter" would not be a concern, but we did not expect our cheeks to hurt as much as they did from laughing so hard! Today Alexis and Tyler join Shandy to share how they were introduced by former Bachelorette Rachel Lindsay, how they went from party acquaintances to lovebirds, what it feels like to receive pressure to get engaged, and of course, how they fight! Finally, an absolutely hilarious Newlyweds Game that we promise will have you in stitches. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! More Alexis: https://www.instagram.com/alexiswaters_ https://www.tiktok.com/@alexiswaters244 https://www.instagram.com/girlsnighthangout https://www.instagram.com/hoopnationbyalexis More Tyler: https://www.instagram.com/tylerfernandez Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Alexis & Tyler! 2:54 - True Or False: Rachel Lindsay Introduced Them 6:03 - Did Tyler Watch Alexis On The Bachelor? 9:08 - How Did They Go From Party Acquaintances To Serious Couple? 10:06 - First Impressions 14:57 - How They Complement Each Other 17:52 - Early Hurdle 20:47 - How They Fight 24:46 - The Pressure To Get Engaged 28:02 - Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed 32:00 - True Or False 32:55 - The Newlyweds Game 49:29 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps. Today we're breaking down episode 6! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off plus free shipping! Our Word Watch sponsors! - https://www.cozy.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for up to 40% off Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:24 - Aaron’s Hometown 9:55 - Joey’s Hometown 19:20 - Xavier’s Hometown 27:11 - Dotun’s Hometown 30:41 - Los Angeles 32:14 - Rose Ceremony 36:13 - Credits 36:36 - Andy’s A-Game 37:11 - Shandy Word Watch 39:14 - Shandy’s Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Cierrah. Cierrah lives in the basement suite of her parents' house but they haven't been displaying the most role model-esque behavior of late. Is she within her right to pick a side and get involved, or is her parents' dynamic their business and no one else's? Should what happens between our parents STAY between our parents?Listen on for the Shandy take! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller Cierrah! 31:27 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps. Today we're breaking down episode 5! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.fabfitfun.com/DEARSHANDY and get 20% off your new membership! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.skims.com and get free shipping on orders over $75! - Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 25% off your first order! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.skims.com Andy’s Official Bachelor Instagram Repost: https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cu3LiITOncv Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:29 - Episode 5 Kick Off 3:51 - Joey’s 1-On-1 7:28 - Evening 15:48 - 2-On-1 Date 20:04 - Evening 27:12 - Dotun’s 1-On-1 29:54 - Evening 36:24 - Sean  38:51 - Group Date 47:06 - Evening 51:26 - Credits 53:07 - Andy’s A-Game 53:46 - Shandy Word Watch 56:10 - Shandy’s Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever found yourself wondering "where are they now?" when listening to our caller episodes and Q&As? Well... drumroll, please... UPDATES ARE BACK, BABY! This is our second ever installment of what we hope to make a biannual tradition. We called out for updates from our question-asking Shandies and many were kind enough to provide their subsequent chapters, good or bad! Come join us in the living room where we're on the edge of our seats! Thanks to our sponsors! - Head to https://www.moshlife.com/SHANDY to save 20% off plus FREE shipping on your first 6-count Trial Pack! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Introduction 0:55 - Episode 32: Q3, from Gabby - https://youtu.be/GvYfIlViSnk 5:40 - Episode 40: Q1, from Claire - https://youtu.be/GLK2kbK78j4 11:05 - Episode 80: Q5, from Aria - https://youtu.be/550ahd6ZtF4 24:42 - Episode 95: Q3, from Christina - https://youtu.be/JjSsIJaFGzI 28:28 - Episode 107: Caller 2, Danielle - https://youtu.be/pFIEaZXDV50 31:03 - Episode 125: Q2, from H - https://youtu.be/Y0GLNYRq2qo 33:27 - Episode 125: Q5, from S - https://youtu.be/Y0GLNYRq2qo 35:20 - Episode 129: Q5, from Lisa - https://youtu.be/0HD8P34ITQI 38:54 - Episode 140: Q1, from Danielle - https://youtu.be/Et2s0pt-7lI 42:25 - Episode 146: Q3, from C - https://youtu.be/ygmeFYPyYMk 47:04 - Episode 166: Caller 1, Ray - https://youtu.be/JWaxbrWEwMw 48:24 - Episode 182: Q1, from Roni - https://youtu.be/FgJZYlWYlos 54:07 - Episode 182: Q4, from Anonymous - https://youtu.be/FgJZYlWYlos 1:00:56 - Episode 184: Q3, from Bass - https://youtu.be/5G1JlNLmwLE 1:04:48 - Episode 197: Q4, from Snooty - https://youtu.be/dtHws_MFWho 1:09:47 - Episode 197: Q5, from The Mistress - https://youtu.be/dtHws_MFWho 1:14:37 - Episode 214: Q5, from Mrs Missus - https://youtu.be/LDTzewx3uQU If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 4! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $10 off your first month's subscription! - Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off your first box! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 40%! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping  1:32 - Episode 4 Kick Off 3:38 - Dotun’s 1-On-1 11:33 - Evening 25:11 - Group Date 34:30 - Evening 48:16 - Xavier’s 1-On-1 50:30 - Evening 1:00:32 - The Next Day/Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 1:02:36 - Brayden Returns 1:17:32 - Rose Ceremony 1:21:08 - Credits 1:21:24 - Andy’s A-Game 1:23:05 - Shandy Word Watch 1:25:15 - Shandy’s Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your boyfriend still has "favorited" photos of his ex on his phone, is that cause for concern? Are you shallow if you'd like your partner to make a cosmetic change? If your mother-in-law's perfume stays in the house long after she's gone, is it worth saying something? And whatever happened to taking things slow? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 40%! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping (Sort Of?) 1:39 - Q1: My Boyfriend Still Has Photos Of His Ex On His Phone—Is This A Red Flag? 6:09 - Q2: My Brother’s Girlfriend Is Sensitive That He Used To Date My Friend—Should I Distance Myself In The Friendship To Support My Future Sister-In-Law? 9:45 - Q3: Is “Taking Things Slowly” A Lost Art? 21:38 - Q4: I Love My Husband Except For One Cosmetic “Flaw”—Should I Bring It Up Or Am I Just Shallow? 36:47 - Q5: A Friend Called Me By The Wrong Name—Should I Correct Him Or Is This A Fluke? 41:03 - Q6: At What Point Do You Weigh Stability Against Happiness? 59:35 - Q7: My Mother-In-Law’s Perfume Is Stinking Up Our House—Help! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 3! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 40%! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! - Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.drinkLMNT.com Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:29 - Episode 3 Kick Off 5:41 - Brayden’s 1-On-1 13:42 - Evening 21:54 - Group Date 34:09 - Evening 41:53 - Warwick’s 1-On-1 46:50 - The Next Day 47:12 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 1:10:28 - Rose Ceremony 1:11:13 - Credits 1:12:01 - Andy’s A-Game 1:11:25 - Shandy Word Watch 1:15:43 - Shandy’s Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Riley who is calling about her 6 year relationship. Riley made some poor financial decisions in the past which has caused her boyfriend to pull back and distrust her. Can he get over this, what does this mean for their partnership, and how long is too long to be punished for past mistakes? Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller Riley! 50:33 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 2! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.hellotushy.com /SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY for 10% off your first order! - Head to https://www.manukora.com/SHANDY or use code SHANDY to get a free pack of honey sticks with your order - a $15 value! - Head to https://www.skims.com and get free shipping on orders over $75! - Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 55% off your subscription! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 25% off your first order! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:20 - Episode 2 Kick Off 4:36 - Aaron B’s 1-On-1 9:50 - Evening 19:02 - 1st Group Date 26:40 - Evening 41:03 - 2nd Group Date 43:56 - Evening 51:18 - Joey’s Hard Earned 1-On-1  52:57 - BBQ 1:03:12 - Rose Ceremony 1:07:07 - Credits 1:07:14 - Andy’s A-Game 1:09:23 - Shandy Word Watch 1:12:30 - Shandy’s Predictions Charity’s 2 piece set from the Group Date: https://bit.ly/44tVpe1 Charity’s leather double breasted blazer: https://bit.ly/44vYNW2 // look for less: https://bit.ly/3rawb6a If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today is our second ever in-person Love Fest and an absolutely epic one! You watched them meet and get engaged on Paradise S7, and now 2 years later, Bachelor Power Couple® Joe Amabile and Serena Pitt join us in the living room to dissect the ins and outs of their relationship. Today Joe and Serena share their honest first impressions of each other—in Serena's eyes, was Joe in fact the "George Clooney" of Bachelor Nation we described him to be? They get specific with adjectives about each other (yay!), discuss how and when the 11 year age difference rears its head, unpack the early hurdle that took time to overcome, and of course, describe how they fight! This episode is loaded with goodies including Serena and Sharleen's biggest City Hall regret and the surprising ways in which the native Chicagoan and native New Yorker are similar. Finally, a Newlyweds Game that is heavy on "OR"s but not remotely lacking on fun! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! Thanks To Our Sponsors! - Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY16 and use code SHANDY16 for 16 free meals plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 55% off your subscription! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 40%! More Joe & Serena: https://www.youtube.com/@JoeandSerena More Joe: https://www.instagram.com/joeamabile1 https://www.instagram.com/sundaywithjoe https://www.tiktok.com/@joe_amabile1 More Serena: https://www.instagram.com/serena_pitt https://www.tiktok.com/@serenapitt Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Joe & Serena! 3:03 - Their City Hall Wedding 8:47 - Serena & Sharleen’s City Hall Regret 10:53 - How Familiar Were They With Each Other? (Was Joe “George Clooney” As Shandy Described In Their Recaps?) 17:09 - First Impressions 27:47 - Specificity! 38:22 - The 11 Year Gap 40:08 - How They Complement Each Other 43:07 - Early Hurdle 53:45 - How They Fight 59:56 - Why New York + How We All Feel About East Vs West Coasts 1:07:26 - Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed 1:12:15 - The Newlyweds Game 1:28:20 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelorette, Season 20 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 1, aka the big Premiere! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.FastGrowingTrees.com/SHANDY NOW to get FIFTEEN PERCENT OFF your entire order! - Head to https://www.moshlife.com/SHANDY to save 20% off plus FREE shipping on your first 6-count Trial Pack! - Try 5 pairs of glasses at home for free at https://www.warbyparker.com/shandy!  - Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://furanostudio.etsy.com/shop/furanostudio and use code SHANDY for 20% off! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 2:01 - Overall Thoughts On The Premiere 2:17 - Episode 1 Kick Off 4:03 - Charity’s Dress 5:45 - Limo Exit Wins/Fails 12:43 - Charity’s Speech 13:06 - Notable 1-On-1 Time 20:45 - Nehemiah 22:02 - Notable 1-On-1 Time, Continued 32:46 - Nehemiah’s Reveal/Nehemiah Reports To Charity 42:40 - Brayden 46:13 - Rose Ceremony 47:38 - Credits 49:48 - Andy’s A-Game 50:34 - Shandy Word Watch 53:01 - Shandy’s Predictions 56:34 - Wild Cards If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's Hot Topic conversation is great for just about anybody, but *especially* those who have considered therapy but haven't pulled the trigger for whatever reason (accessibility, cost, finding the right match...)! Our guest, Owen O'Kane, is an acclaimed London-based psychotherapist and the best selling author of Ten Times Happier, Ten to Zen, and most recently, How To Be Your Own Therapist. But that's not all! Before pursuing psychotherapy, Owen spent a decade working with the dying as a Clinical Nurse Specialist in Palliative Care, which we think adds a unique dimension to his perspective. Needless to say, he is abundantly qualified to help us tackle the journey of self-therapy today! Today, beyond sharing his own personal story of self acceptance, Owen discusses what drives us, victim mentality, gratitude, tips for handling our anxious episodes, what 10 minutes of self therapy a day looks like, and what "The Goal" of therapy even is (happiness? meaning??). Last but not least, Andy picks Owen's brain after his experience working in Palliative Care—what did caring for the dying on a daily basis teach him? This episode has a little something for everyone and even includes a peek into Andy's own thoughts and fears. Whether you consider "therapy" a dirty word or part of your regular vernacular, you won't want to miss this chat! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 55% off your subscription! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $10 off your first month's subscription! - Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 25% off your first order! More Owen O'Kane: - The Book "How To Be Your Own Therapist": https://amzn.to/3NnIpzS - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/owenokaneten - TEDX Talk: https://youtu.be/SenbZnxn_N8 - Website: https://www.owenokane.com Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Owen O’Kane! 1:54 - Is The UK Behind The US In Terms Of Therapy “Taboo”? 4:32 - Owen’s Story, Part 1 7:10 - What’s “The Goal”? Happiness? 8:49 - What Drives Us? 11:09 - Owen's Story, Part 2 16:24 - Our Thought Process 25:35 - Where Does One Begin With Self Therapy? 28:35 - Do Some Personality Types Struggle More With Self Therapy Than Others? 31:23 - Victim Mentality 33:42 - What Does 10 Minutes A Day Of Self Therapy Look Like? 36:51 - Gratitude And Fear Of Loss 43:18 - Advice For Anyone Who’s Been in Therapy For A Long Time And Isn’t Seeing A Difference 49:05 - Tips For Those Who Experience Anxious Episodes 55:50 - Our Phones 1:00:07 - Andy Asks Owen For His Takeaways After A Decade Spent In Palliative Care 1:07:09 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your long distance relationship is at a standstill because he doesn't have a passport, how long is too long to wait? If you and a friend are each passionate about vastly different beliefs, has the friendship run its course? What to do when "Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind" isn't an option? And finally, Shandy gives a backup plan for a particularly amusing fetish. Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off your first box! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Q1: How Can “Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind” Work When We WORK Together?? 10:10 - Q2: He’s My First And The Sex Is Uncomfortable—Any Guidance? 27:31 - Q3: My Long Distance Relationship Is At A Standstill Because He Doesn’t Have A Passport—How Long Is Too Long To Wait? 37:03 - Q4: My Friend And I Have Differing Beliefs—Is It Against My Values To Stay Friends With Her? 46:27 - Q5: My Friend Keeps Sending Unwelcome Messages To My Wife—Should I Say Something? 1:01:00 - Q6: Do I Have A Right To Be Annoyed That My Friends Don’t Attend My Performances? 1:10:14 - Q7: My Husband Is Perfect But His Fetish Makes Me Squirm—Help! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Bennett Jordan (Bachelorette S16) and his lovely fiancée, renowned yoga instructor Emily Chen. This Love Fest came about rather unexpectedly; Bennett and Emily were kind enough to jump in last minute when our previously planned couple cancelled. We're so happy we spontaneously got to meet and hang out with these two! Today Bennett and Emily join Shandy to share how persistence paid off, how they're the yin to the other's yang, and of course, how they fight! (Do yogis fight??) Finally, a Newlyweds Game with a twist ending that Shandy decides perfectly sums up this couple. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! Thanks To Our Sponsors! - Go to https://www.jennikayne.com/DEARSHANDY and use code DEARSHANDY at checkout to get 15% off your first order! - Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%! - Go to https://prose.com/SHANDY for 15% off your first order today! More Bennett: https://www.instagram.com/bennettandrewjordan https://www.instagram.com/litneypartners https://www.tiktok.com/@bennettandrewjordan More Emily: https://www.instagram.com/emilykchen https://www.instagram.com/joinlila/ https://www.tiktok.com/@emilykchen Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Bennett & Emily! 4:38 - How They Met 9:59 - Had Emily Seen Bennett’s Season? 11:44 - First Impressions 16:54 - Defining The Relationship 23:51 - How They Complement Each Other 26:56 - How They Fight 34:52 - Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed 40:30 - True Or False 41:19 - The Newlyweds Game 1:03:41 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day and today we're joined by not one but TWO lovely callers! First we're joined by Megan, who has been wrestling with her dating requirements and being labeled a "gold digger" by friends. Are professional and fiscal success too superficial to put in the "needs" column? Next we're joined by Sarah, who's been scratching her head over pre-first-date etiquette. Is it a bad chess move to send a check-in text before the first date, and if so, where's the line between being pursued and simply getting logistical information? Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Head to https://www.manukora.com/SHANDY or use code SHANDY to get a free pack of honey sticks with your order - a $15 value! - For Hello Tushy, the sale is actually 40% OFF ALL BIDETS through 6/9! (It was just updated after recorded this!) Go to https://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for a whopping 40% off your purchase! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller Megan! 18:31 - Shandy Speaks 30:08 - Shandy Debrief 36:47 - Welcome To Caller Sarah! 44:19 - Shandy Speaks 54:13 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you know you have no future with a person, is it still worth a potentially great hookup? Is it wrong to feel envious when your friends are all getting engaged? And is secretly chatting with an ex on the regular emotional cheating? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $10 off your first month's subscription! - Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 55% off your subscription! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Q1: Without A Future, Is It Still Worth The Hookup? 16:22 - Q2: I’m Green With Engagement Envy! 27:48 - Q3: Two Weddings, One Weekend—Help Us Decide! 36:45 - Q4: I’m Secretly Chatting With My Ex Every Day—Am I Emotionally Cheating? 52:30 - Q5: My Husband’s Friend’s Wife Is Coming Onto Him—What Should He Do? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day and today we're joined by two lovely callers! We're joined by our first ever caller COUPLE (!), Barbie and Ken. They plan to secretly elope even though Ken's mother has explicitly asked them not to. Should they alter their plans to avoid future friction, or do what feels true to them and let the chips fall where they may? Caller Elana a very relatable Am-I-The-Asshole question involving her best friend. Where's the middle ground when you both think you're in the right? Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 25% off your first order! - Try 5 pairs of glasses at home for free at https://www.warbyparker.com/SHANDY - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY16 and use code SHANDY16 for 16 free meals plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Callers Barbie & Ken! 12:09 - Shandy Speaks 31:27 - Shandy Debrief 40:21 - Welcome To Caller Elana! 59:51 - Shandy Speaks 1:09:41- Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Hot Topic episode has been one of THE! MOST! hotly requested conversations to date! Ask and you shall receive, Shandies, because today we are joined by professor and therapist Dr. Kirk Honda, aka @PsychologyInSeattle, famed for his reaction videos and analyses of reality TV relationship dynamics. Today Dr. Honda has answers to our personal musings about the psychological aspects of falling in love on TV. We also cover the manipulation, the aftermath, the audience, and last but not least, the ethics. Sharleen shares several experiences from her Bachelor days and Dr. Honda helps break them down. Frankly, this conversation is overdue and probably one of the most quintessential "Shandy" conversations to date. Come and listen to why we call this the elusive and final collector's card of Dear Shandy Hot Topic episodes! Thanks to our sponsors! - Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY40 and use code SHANDY40 to get 40% off your first box! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! - Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order! More Dr Honda: - Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@PsychologyInSeattle - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle - Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/psychology-in-seattle-podcast/id767626637 - Website: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Dr. Kirk Honda! 1:19 - What’s His Favorite & Least Favorite Aspects Of Watching Reality Dating Shows? 4:41 - Does Feeling “Chosen” On These Shows Amplify Romantic Feelings? 8:45 - Can A Desire For Money And/Or Fame Result In Chemical Love? 20:56 - Sensory Deprivation And Behavioral Shaping 27:43 - Contestant Autonomy And Learned Helplessness 32:14 - Can Trauma Expedite A Relationship? 35:07 - If He Had Met His Wife On A Reality Show, Would Their Relationship Have Progressed In The Same Way? 36:46 - The Ethics Of Producing Reality TV 46:04 - What Has He Learned About The Reality TV Audience? 53:58 - Do Reality TV And Social Media Reward Narcissism? 58:48 - His Favorite Shows 1:04:13 - Shandy Debrief  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is there an age where never having been married or engaged is a red flag? If your car is towed while your first date is making a move on you, who pays? And if you don't particularly like your coworker but she's a hugger, to hug or not to hug? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.FastGrowingTrees.com/SHANDY to get 15% off your entire order! - Go to https://www.prose.com/SHANDY for 15% off your first order today! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Q1: When is Never Having Been Married a Red Flag? 10:06 - Q2: My Car Was Towed At His Place—Should He Have Paid For It? 27:39 - Q3: My Fiancé’s Friends Are Taking Advantage Of His Generosity—Help! 41:32 - Q4: Can I Expect A Partner To Move With Me? 47:29- Q5: When Single And Dating, Is It Ok To Keep Photos Of My Late Spouse On Social Media? 56:54 - Q6: My Coworker Keeps Forcing Me To Hug Her—Help! 1:10:18 - Q7: I’m 4 Years In And The Thrill Is Gone—Is It Over? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with another Love Is Blind, Season 4 recap! Today we're breaking down the Finale and Reunion! Thanks to our sponsors! - Head to https://www.manukora.com/SHANDY or use code SHANDY to get a free pack of honey sticks with your order - a $15 value! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%! - Head to https://www.skims.com and get free shipping on orders over $75! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:02 - Finale 27:44 - Reunion 1:05:18 - Best Dressed 1:07:13 - Overall Thoughts If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's Hot Topic tackles a recurring theme among our Shandies' questions: MONEY, BABY!! 💵💵💵 We're joined by superstar Ramit Sethi, who not only wrote 2009's megahit and NYT bestseller "I Will Teach You To Be Rich", but whose very own Netflix show, "How To Get Rich" just premiered on April 18th! Today Ramit begins by helping us define what our own individual "Rich Life" looks like. But he goes even further with the clearest, most concise, direct answers to your most burning relationship-meets-money questions: When one partner has a significantly higher income, should that be reflected in the bills? When and how should you bring up your debt with your partner? Is there a "gold standard" when it comes to shared and separate bank accounts? And what about PRENUPS?? What bank accounts and credit cards does Ramit himself use? (Oh yeah, we go there!) Listen on for your lesson in getting RICH. Thanks to our sponsor! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off plus free shipping! More Ramit: - The Book, 'I Will Teach You To Be Rich', 2nd edition (2019): https://amzn.to/3NhoRi1 - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ramit - Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-will-teach-you-to-be-rich/id1577864998 - Website: https://ramitsethi.com - Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ramitsethi Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Ramit Sethi! 2:22 - What Is A “Rich Life”? 3:38 - How Can One Change From Being A Spender To A Saver? 9:38 - Join Sharleen In An Exercise: Define Your “Rich Life” 18:42 - How Can You Design Your Rich Life When You Feel Like You’re Struggling To Get By? 22:30 - Investing And Saving 101 27:49 - Ramit’s Picks For Bank Accounts & Credits Cards (WITH ACTUAL ANSWERS) 31:02 - How Should You Divvy Up Finances When One Partner Makes More $$$? 37:31 - Is The A Certain Number You Should Have In The Bank Before Starting A Family? 39:24 - Prenups 44:59 - When Should One Broach The Topic Of Money And/Or Debt In A New Relationship? 49:50 - Have Debt Or Bad Credit? These Are Your First Steps 53:38 - Andy’s Selfish Question 56:55 - What Would Ramit Like Your Takeaway To Be? 1:01:22 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with another Love Is Blind, Season 4 recap! Today we're breaking down episodes 9-11, aka Seattle Part 2. Thanks to our sponsors! - Head to https://bumpinblends.com and use the promo code SHANDY to get 25% off your first order! - Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $10 off your first month's subscription! - Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 55% off your subscription! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:55 - Episode 9 29:04 - Episode 10 55:21 - Episode 11 1:08:02 - Predictions 1:10:45 - Who We Would Go For If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you have a history of staying in relationships longer than you should, what are Shandy's tips on knowing it's time to break up? (Don't miss Andy's tips on the post-breakup withdrawal!) Is it a red flag if your boyfriend of 6 months didn't get you a birthday gift? And when it comes to adult friendships, where's the line between blind loyalty and pursuing the relationships that might fulfill us? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsor! - Go to https://prose.com/SHANDY for 15% off your first order today! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Q1: How Do I Know It’s Really Over & We Shouldn’t Get Back Together? 17:12 - Q2: My Friend Group Imploded Over Pickleball—Help! 31:37 - Q3: My Long Distance Boyfriend Didn’t Get Me A Birthday Gift—Is This A Red Flag? 42:22 - Q4: I’d Like To Befriend My Friend’s Ex-Husband’s New Girlfriend—Would This Make Me Disloyal? 49:46 - Q5: I’ve Been In An Arranged Marriage For 13 Years & Missed Out On Romance—Help! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with another Love Is Blind, Season 4 recap! Today we're breaking down episodes 6-8, aka Seattle Part 1. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 3:50 - Episode 6 30:14 - Episode 7 43:48 - Episode 8 1:11:33 - Predictions 1:13:33 - Who We Would Go For 1:13:56 - A Request From Shandy If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by engineer Ivan Hall (Bachelorette S16 & Bachelor in Paradise S7) and his fiancée, anesthesiologist Tailour Robison. These two *just* got engaged and Tailour has never done a public interview to date, so we're thrilled to get the exclusive on this legit power couple. Today Ivan and Tailour share how young love can be mature love as well, how they complement each other, how they fight, and they even prove Shandy wrong on the adage "you break up because it's broken"! Finally, a hilariously academic Newlyweds Game that has Andy on the edge of his seat even more than usual. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! Thanks To Our Sponsors! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! More Ivan: https://www.instagram.com/ivanbhall https://www.tiktok.com/@ivanbhall More Tailour: Nice try! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Ivan And Tailour! 3:50 - How They Met 8:49 - Did Tailour Watch Ivan On TV? 11:18 - Considering Their History, What Are Their Thoughts On “You Broke Up Because It was Broken” 13:25 - First Impressions 20:43 - How They Complement Each Other 25:10 - Did Going On The Show Bring Ivan Out Of His Shell? 27:15 - Early Hurdle 29:53 - How They Fight 36:18 - Was There A Moment When They “Knew”? Do They Believe In “The One”? 41:06 - Any Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed 44:42 - Is The Plane Ivan Is Working On The Plane From ‘Top Gun: Maverick’? 49:50 - The Newlyweds Game 1:07:20 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with another Love Is Blind, Season 4 recap! Today we're breaking down episodes 4 and 5, aka MEXICO. Thanks to our sponsors! - Head to https://www.skims.com and get free shipping on orders over $75! - Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY50 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off your first box! - Try 5 pairs of glasses at home for free at https://www.warbyparker.com/SHANDY - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Intro 0:46 - Episode 4 39:34 - Episode 5 1:14:53 - Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's Hot Topic will likely resonate with many a Shandy. If you struggle with perfectionism, your inner critic, feeling the need to prove yourself, and/or analysis paralysis, this conversation is a must. We're joined by Homaira Kabir, author of ‘Goodbye Perfect: How To Stop Pleasing, Proving and Pushing For Others… and Live For Yourself’, whose career is built on the research of how you (yes, you!) can flourish. Today we cover everything from the difference between being a perfectionist and just having high standards, how to not grow resentful when others can't live up to your "perfect" ideals, whether or not perfectionism equates to competitiveness, how not to raise perfectionist children, and how our purpose ties into all of the above. This one really tugged on Sharleen's heart strings and she thinks it will speak to you, too. Listen on for a lesson in letting go... Thanks to our sponsor! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%! More Homaira: - The Book, 'Goodbye Perfect: How To Stop Pleasing, Proving and Pushing For Others… and Live For Yourself’: https://amzn.to/3KcGcpq - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/homaira.kabir - Website: https://homairakabir.com - Podcast: Life Is A Highway Podcast: https://homairakabir.com/podcast/ Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Homaira Kabir! 3:48 - What Are Optimal Confidence and Fragile Confidence? 6:42 - Can We Have Fragile Confidence In Some Parts Of Our Lives And Optimal Confidence In Others? 9:30 - Since So Much Is Programmed Into Us As Infants, How Much Free Will Do We Even Have? 13:35 - What Are We Looking For When We Put So Much Out There And Are Disappointed By The Response? 16:05 - Is To Desire Perfection To Live In The Past? 19:30 - Is Perfectionism a Result Of Nature Or Nurture? 21:42 - How To Avoid Passing On This Trait To Children 22:58 - Are Perfectionists Trapped In The Wrong Gear? 26:53 - Is To Be A Perfectionist To Either Competitive Or Envious? 28:23 - Is It Possible To Keep The Benefits Of Perfectionism While Letting Go Of The Rest Or Is It All Or Nothing? 31:07 - What’s The Difference Between Perfectionism And High Standards? 33:22 - How Can One a) Not Put Their Perfect Ideals On Their Partner, and b) Not Resent Them For It 38:43 - What’s The Driving Force Behind Perfectionism? (Including Another Discussion About Shame!)  44:20 - Advice For Those Who Logically Know Perfectionism Isn’t Their Friend But Still Feel It’s Part Of Their Identity  48:33 - Tips For Those Who Suffer From Analysis Paralysis 55:07 - How Does One’s “Purpose” Play Into All This? 1:00:03 - What Would She Like Your Takeaway From This Conversation To Be? 1:02:27 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with something new! By very popular demand, Shandy is testing the waters with recapping the 4th season of the hit show Love Is Blind. Today, in addition to a recap, we're also sharing our first impressions of the show. Listen on for episodes 1-3 (+ a few minutes), aka THE PODS. Thanks to our sponsors! - Head to https://www.moshlife.com/SHANDY to save 20% off plus FREE shipping on your first 6-count Trial Pack! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%! - Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 25% off your first order! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:44 - Episode 1 33:04 - Episode 2 1:00:15 - Episode 3 If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by caller Sarah, whose ex broke things off around 6 months ago. While things ended with a lot of question marks on Sarah's end, he did tell her he'd like to remain friends. Should Sarah take his recent text as a sign to embark on a platonic friendship? Listen on for the Shandy take! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller Sarah! 11:32 - Shandy Sleuthing 37:06 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down the grand finale! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://prose.com/SHANDY for 15% off your first order today! - Go to https://www.dailyharvest.com/SHANDY to get up to $40 off your first box! - Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 2:09 - Finale Kick Off 2:59 - Live: Ariel 5:42 - Back In Thailand 7:26 - Gabi Meets Zach’s Family 11:31 - Kaity Meets Zach’s Family 13:57 - Kaity’s Last Chance Date 21:10 - Evening 24:08 - Gabi’s Last Chance Date 27:23 - Evening 29:53 - Live: It’s Sean Lowe Time 32:24 - Back In Thailand 33:06 - Proposal Day: Gabi 40:54 - Live: Gabi 44:29 - Zach Joins 49:58 - Proposal Day: Kaity 50:49 - Live: Zach & Kaity 56:29 - Reviewing Night One Predictions 57:56 - Charity’s Season Preview 59:23 - Shandy Word Watch 1:00:13 - Special Announcement 1:01:15 - Special Surprise If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you've had a missed connection with someone who no longer seems to check the dating app, is it creepy to reach out on an outside platform? Is it ever OK to ask a single friend to be their plus-one to a mutual friend's wedding? And is tickling your partner a form of endearment or a form of torture? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 55% off your subscription! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY60 and use code SHANDY60 for 60% off plus free shipping! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Q1: My Match Isn’t Checking The Dating App—What’s The Least Creepy Way to Reach Out? 5:38 - Q2: Is It OK To Ask A Single Friend To Be Their Plus-One To A Mutual Friend’s Wedding? 19:16 - Q3: His List Of Wants In The First 1.5 Months Of Dating Have Me Wondering: Is He A Risk? 26:39 - Q4: Did We Accidentally Schedule An Orgy?  34:30 - Q5: I Love My Boyfriend But Not His Male Pattern Baldness—How Can I Get Him To Shave His Head? 45:18 - Q6: My Ex-Husband Is My Best Friend—Is This Holding Me Back From Finding A New Romantic Connection? 53:18 - Q7: Shandy Weighs In On The Ethics Of Tickling If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 9, aka Fantasy Suite Week! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.hellotushy.com /SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY for 10% off your first order! - Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY60 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off your first box! - Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $15 off your first month's subscription! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.etsy.com/shop/furanostudio and use code SHANDY for 20% off! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:20 - Episode 9 Kick Off 4:36 - Ariel’s Overnight 7:37 - Evening 12:26 - The Next Day 12:42 - Gabi’s Overnight 20:37 - Evening 25:02 - The Next Day 26:53 - Zach Is Honest 36:52 - Kaity’s Overnight 52:06 - Evening 54:13 - Rose Ceremony 59:43 - Credits 1:00:37 - Andy’s A Game 1:01:46 - Shandy Word Watch 1:05:43 - Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Bachelor Franchise power couple Danielle Maltby (Bachelor S21) and Michael Allio (Bachelorette S17), whom you watched meet on Bachelor In Paradise S8! We're happy to report that not only is this a Love Fest of legend, but our producer Gabby even called it one of her ALL TIME favorites (and trust us, she's picky!) Today Danielle and Michael join Shandy to share how and why their relationship has blossomed post-show, how they complement each other, and of course, how they fight! There are also countless tangent gems covering everything from imposter syndrome to thoughts on what *really* matters in life. Finally, a Newlyweds Game that is flagrantly disrespected by its players to the point where Shandy has no choice but to show them who's boss. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! Thanks To Our Sponsors! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! More Danielle: https://www.instagram.com/dmmaltby https://www.instagram.com/nursedaesthetics https://www.womedpodcast.com More Michael: https://www.instagram.com/michael_alliol4 Reference WoMed episodes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-womed/id1464767919?i=1000592844163 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-womed/id1464767919?i=1000594247788 Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Danielle & Michael! 14:54 - Was There Anything They Think Viewers Missed Out On With Their Love Story 20:37 - Traits They’ve Learned About One Another Post-Show 25:26 - How Their First Impressions Have Changed 30:17 - How They Complement Each Other 40:03 - When Did Michael “Know” 46:15 - Early Hurdle 53:14 - How They Fight 1:06:53 - The Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game 1:22:22 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down Women Tell All! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 0:42 - Women Tell All Kick Off 4:19 - Christina Mandrell 7:53 - Anastasia vs Everyone 10:57 - Katherine vs Brooklyn 14:33 - Jess’ Hot Seat 18:04 - Greer’s Hot Seat 22:24 - Katherine’s Hot Seat 24:37 - Charity’s Hot Seat 27:05 - Unseen Footage 29:34 - Zach 32:09 - Bloopers 34:36 - Bachelorette Announcement If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 8, aka Hometown Week! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order! - Try 5 pairs of glasses at home for free at https://www.warbyparker.com/shandy! - Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.etsy.com/shop/furanostudio and use code SHANDY for 20% off! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:05 - Episode 8 Kick Off 2:14 - Gabi’s Hometown 5:11 - Evening 9:23 - Ariel’s Hometown 20:30 - Evening 25:07 - Charity’s Hometown 30:00 - Evening 30:57 - Katie’s Hometown 35:51 - Evening 44:26 - Sean Lowe 47:17 - Rose Ceremony 50:40 - Credits 52:29 - Andy’s A-Game 53:12 - Shandy Word Watch 56:24 - Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by caller Nina who has found herself in the early stages of a situationship and wants to "suss out" her next move. Is there a potential future here or is she just wearing a pretty pair of rose-colored glasses? Listen on for the Shandy take! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller Nina! 15:12 - Shandy Sleuthing 38:45 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 7. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.athenaclub.com and use code DEARSHANDY for 25% off your first order! - Go to https://www.dailyharvest.com/SHANDY to get up to $40 off your first box! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.etsy.com/shop/furanostudio and use code SHANDY for 20% off! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 2:58 - Episode 7 Kick Off 4:27 - Kaity’s 1-On-1 7:35 - Evening 11:26 - Group Date 22:00 - Evening 29:57 - Greer Time 39:13 - Brooklyn’s 1-On-1 46:58 - Evening 50:36 - Rose Ceremony 1:02:26 - Credits 1:02:33 - Andy’s A-Game 1:03:10 - Shandy Word Watch 1:05:13 - Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's Hot Topic dives deep into the world of open relationships! We're joined by author and ghostwriter Emily Gindlesparger, who not only opened her own relationship years ago but discovered her own bisexuality throughout the process. Her new memoir, "Please Make Me Love Me", describes her journey from traditional, straight monogamist to becoming polyamorous with multiple serious girlfriends. Today she shares how she shed her jealousy once and for all, the impact an open relationship had on her primary partnership, the challenges of logistics, and her advice to couples interested in non-monogamy. Emily manages to answer a TON of questions thoughtfully and succinctly, so if you've ever been curious about exploring polyamory—or are just curious how others manage it!—this conversation is for you. More Emily: - The Book, "Please Make Me Love Me": https://amzn.to/3Zwrhfz - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/emilygindle - Website: https://www.emilygindlesparger.com Referenced Links And Books: More Than Two - https://www.morethantwo.com Esther Perel’s “The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity” - https://amzn.to/3SDhO43 Jessica Fern’s “Polysecure” - https://amzn.to/3ZuwKU5 Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Emily Gindlesparger! 1:47 - What Do People Most Commonly Ask When They Learn She’s Written A Memoir About Open Relationships And Discovering She’s Queer 3:27 - Was There A Moment Where She Went From Jealous To Non-Jealous 7:06 - Would She Say The More She Leaned Into What Was Making Her Jealous, The Less Jealous She Became 8:16 - Did Jealous Get Flipped On Its Head To Where She Found It Enjoyable 10:43 - What Made Her And Her Partner Decide To Disclose Everything To Each Other (Versus “I Don’t Want To Know”) 14:02 - Did They Ever Fight About This 15:06 - How Much Of Her Decision To Open The Relationship Stemmed From A Desire To Live Life To The Fullest Versus Wanting To Explore Her Sexuality 19:42 - What Does She Think Is The Most Common Misconception About Open Relationships 22:41 - Is It Worth Bringing Up That You Want An Open Relationship If You Know Your Partner Is Deeply Monogamous 24:33 - Does She Believe One-Way Open Relationships Can Work 26:59 - What Advice Would She Give To Someone Whose Partner Wants To Open The Relationship 28:27 - Would She Have Ever Opened Her Relationship Had She Been In A Different Community 30:47 - Is A “Logistical Toll” Part And Parcel With Maintaining Open Relationships 33:06 - What’s Easier: Monogamy Or Polyamory 34:54 - Let’s Say A Couple Wants To Open Things Up—Where To Start 39:43 - When Did She Realize She Wasn’t 100% Straight 43:31 - What Advice Would She Give Her Younger Self On The Topic Of Her Sexuality 45:31 - Does She Consider It A Shame To *Not* Explore One’s Bisexuality 48:32 - Would She And Her Partner Even Open Things Up Again 51:17 - Did She Tell Her Family And If So, Why 54:41 - What Self Work Does She Recommend For Those Contemplating Opening Their Relationship 58:05 - Shandy Debrief  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 6. Thanks to our sponsors! - Head to https://www.moshlife.com/SHANDY to save 20% off plus FREE shipping on your first 6-count Trial Pack! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://prose.com/SHANDY for 15% off your first order today! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.etsy.com/shop/furanostudio and use code SHANDY for 20% off! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 2:23 - Episode 6 Kick Off 7:45 - Charity’s 1-On-1 19:10 - Evening 22:54 - Group Date Card 24:05 - The Next Day 24:17 - Group Date 27:19 - Evening 40:19 - Flashpoint 46:37 - Ariel’s 1-On-1 51:58 - Afternoon 54:56 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 1:00:34 - Rose Ceremony 1:01:36 - Credits 1:02:30 - Andy’s A-Game 1:02:49 - Shandy Word Watch 1:04:29 - Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your romantic proposal was underwhelming at best, is there any way to fix it? Is what feels like a Hallmark Love Story to good to be true? And, as The Mistress, just how long is too long to wait for him? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!  Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 55% off your subscription! - Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY60 and use code SHANDY50 to get 50% off your first box! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Q1: I Never Got My Romantic Proposal—How Can I Fix This? 9:11 - Q2: Am I The (Oblivious) Asshole? 19:36 - Q3: Am I Crazy To Consider Moving For This Hallmark Christmas Love Story? 32:40 - Q4: I’m Seeking Advice On How To End A Friendship 42:43 - Q5: I’m The Mistress—How Long Should I Wait For Him? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 5. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY65 and use code SHANDY65 for 65% off plus free shipping! - Head to https://www.moshlife.com/SHANDY to save 20% off plus FREE shipping on your first 6-count Trial Pack! - Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $15 off your first month's subscription! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 2:44 - Episode 5 Kick Off 4:50 - Gabi’s 1-On-1 7:36 - Evening At The Hotel 11:38 - Evening On The Date 21:12 - Group Date 26:13 - Evening 27:11 - The Next Day 28:42 - Evening 30:03 - Virtual Cocktail Party 48:27 - Virtual Rose Ceremony 52:29 - Credits 55:05 - Andy’s A-Game 55:33 - Shandy Word Watch 57:57 - Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Bachelor icon Chris Bukowski (Bachelorette S8; Bachelor Pad S3; BIP S1, S2, S6) and Anna Redman (Bachelor S25; BIP S7), who join us from their shared home in Chicago. Shandy has known Chris for years and are delighted to catch up with him and meet lovely Anna in today's double date. Today Chris and Anna join Shandy to share how fellow Bachelor alums set them up, how they complement one another, whether or not "villain-y" has helped them connect, what they play on game nights (and who wins), and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a particularly entertaining nail biter of a Newlyweds Game. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! Thanks To Our Sponsor! - Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order! More Chris: https://www.instagram.com/chrisjbukowski https://kcmcreate.com More Anna: https://www.instagram.com/anna_redman https://www.tiktok.com/@annaredman https://annathecreative.com Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Anna And Chris! 2:14 - How They Met 4:21 - How Familiar With Each Other Were They? 9:35 - First Impressions 15:12 - How They Complement Each Other 18:36 - The Biggest Misconception About Their Relationship 21:00 - Does Being Former “Villains” Help Them Relate To Each Other? 24:20 - How They Fight 28:14 - What’s Different About This Partnership Versus Past Ones That Makes It Successful? 29:46 - Early Hurdle 34:43 - Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed 37:46 - Rapid Fire True/False 38:47 - The Newlyweds Game 1:00:37 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today, for the first time ever, we're joined by guests for a recap: Claire and Emma of the Love To See It podcast help us break down episode 3. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Head to https://www.moshlife.com/SHANDY to save 20% off plus FREE shipping on your first 6-count Trial Pack! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! More Love To See It: - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id995039015 - https://www.instagram.com/claireandemmapod Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Claire & Emma 1:45 - Episode 4 Kick Off 7:00 - Kat’s 1-On-1 9:00 - Evening At The Mansion 16:40 - Evening On The Date 25:52 - Group Date 34:02 - Evening 51:40 - Brooklyn’s 1-On-1 52:50 - Evening 56:03 - The Next Day 56:32 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 1:06:05 - Rose Ceremony 1:08:27 - Credits 1:09:57 - Andy’s A-Game 1:11:50 - Shandy Word Watch 1:14:18 - Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by two lovely callers! Our first caller, Michelle, is frustrated with members of her core friend group routinely bringing their significant others to Girls Night. Is this something she can actually address without causing a rift, and if so, how? Caller Siobhan was with her ex for 6 months but is left scratching her head over what even happened. How can two people see the same relationship so differently, and what should she have done differently? Brutal Andy honesty ensues. Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller Michelle! 23:16 - Shandy Debrief 33:02 - Welcome To Caller Siobhan! 40:22 - Shandy Sleuthing 1:06:54 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 3. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.dailyharvest.com/SHANDY to get up to $40 off your first box! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:38 - Episode 3 Kick Off 4:50 - Kaity’s 1-On-1 6:04 - Evening 12:30 - The Next Day 13:11 - Group Date 19:54 - Evening 34:36 - Aly’s 1-On-1 36:34 - Evening 39:29 - The Next Day/Pool Party 53:03 - Rose Ceremony 59:47 - Credits 1:00:54 - Andy’s A-Game 1:01:28 - Shandy Word Watch 1:04:18 - Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's Hot Topic delves into the fascinating world of professional matchmaking! We're joined by 4th generation matchmaker Maria Avgitidis—aka the famed "Matchmaker Maria". Maria is the founder and CEO of award-winning Agape Match, the exclusive NYC-based matchmaking service with a whopping 93% success rate. Ever wonder what a matchmaker would give you as "homework", what demographic makes the hardest client to match, what it costs to hire a matchmaker, or what tops men's and women's lists of desires? Maria pulls back the curtain on this generations-old industry and we promise you'll leave, as Shandy puts it, "enlightened"! More Maria: - Agape Match: https://agapematch.com - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matchmakermaria - Ask A Matchmaker Podcast: https://plinkhq.com/i/1521530338?to=page Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Maria Avgitidis Pyrgiotakis! 1:52 - Why Matchmaking? 4:42 - Are We Searching For Functionality & How To Branch Out 7:10 - Is There A Higher Likelihood Of Any Particular Religions/Cultures That Seek Matchmaking? 9:55 - Can People From Very Different Religions Or Cultures Be A Good Match? 14:28 - Does She Work With More Men Vs Women & How Do Clients Come Her Way? 16:48 - In General, Which Demographic Is The Hardest To Work With? 23:03 - Matchmaking Costs Money—How Is This Reflected In Her Clientele? 25:22 - Is She Ever Tempted To Take On Clients For Free? 35:18 - Top 3 Things Men Are Looking For 40:55 - Top 3 Things Women Are Looking For 46:28 - How Swipe Culture Has Affected Dating And Has It Affected Her Business 50:02 - Standy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 2. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.TryFirstleaf.com/SHANDY to get your first 6 bottles for $39.95 plus free shipping! - Go to https://prose.com/SHANDY for 15% off your first order today! - Go to https://www.earthbreeze.com/SHANDY for 40% off! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.franklyapparel.com/SHANDY for $20 off! Info on Sharleen's current opera (Edmonton): https://www.edmontonopera.com/2023/orphee Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:23 - Episode 2 Kick Off 3:34 - Group Date #1 7:32 - Evening 14:48 - The Next Day 15:40 - Christina Mandrell’s 1-On-1 30:56 - Group Date #2 40:38 - The Next Day 41:35 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 1:00:50 - Rose Ceremony 1:01:14 - Credits 1:01:53 - Andy’s A-Game 1:05:03 - Shandy Word Watch 1:06:42 - Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If a guy won't commit until after sex, is that a red flag? When someone cancels a date, what's the statistical likelihood that their excuse is a lie? And if your brother and best friend showed up at Christmas, hand in hand and without warning, what would you do? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!  Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 55% off your subscription! - Head to https://www.factormeals.com/SHANDY60 and use code SHANDY60 to get 60% off your first box! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%! 0:00 - Q1: The Guy I’m Interested In Won’t Commit Until We Sleep Together—Is This Normal? 14:16 - Q2: When A Date Cancels, What’s The Statistical Likelihood That Their Excuse Is A Lie? 26:57 - Q3: My Brother Showed Up To Family Christmas With My Best Friend On His Arm—Help! 37:44 - Q4: I’m In Love With A Man 28 Years Older—Am I Wasting My Youth?  1:08:42 - Q5: My Ex And I Have Remained Friends But His New Relationship Is Affecting Me—Does This Mean I Still Have Feelings And Should Cut Ties? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with The Bachelor, Season 27 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 1, aka the big premiere. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and use code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY21 and use code SHANDY21 for 21 free meals plus free shipping! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.etsy.com/shop/furanostudio and use code SHANDY for 20% off! Info on Sharleen's current opera (Edmonton): https://www.edmontonopera.com/2023/orphee Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:32 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 1 1:41 - Episode 1 Kick Off 6:46 - Intro Videos 11:30 - Limo Exit Wins/Fails 21:06 - Zach’s Toast 26:03 - Notable 1-On-1 Time 37:14 - Madison 38:18 - 1-On-1 Time, Cont’d 40:12 - First Impression Rose 45:51 - Madison, Cont’d 49:22 - Rose Ceremony 50:08 - Credits 50:18 - Andy’s A-Game 51:49 - Shandy Word Watch 52:47 - Predictions 57:29 - Wild Cards If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Emily, who has found herself in a platonic friendship with her ex for whom she still harbors romantic feelings. His ED also played a part in their relationship and breakup. Should she believe there's a future for them? Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $15 off your first month's subscription! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller Rosemary! 47:55 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask and you shall receive! For literal YEARS you've been asking "where are they now?" when it comes to our Shandies' quandaries, and today's the day we find out! This episode includes all updates that have not already been shared on Instagram Reels, and in typical Shandy fashion, updated commentary and analogies. Come join us in the living room where we're on the edge of our seats! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 55% off your subscription! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.dailyharvest.com/SHANDY to get up to $40 off your first box! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Introduction 3:03 - Episode 6: Caller Gabby - https://youtu.be/j19BAzjMGZ8 7:21 - Episode 28: Q2, From Danielle - https://youtu.be/z75XlTPG9XI 10:44 - Episode 28: Q3, From Cassandra - https://youtu.be/z75XlTPG9XI 14:11 - Episode 45: Q3, From Urszula - https://youtu.be/JeX3_ZPUQfM 22:56 - Episode 57: Caller Dayna - https://youtu.be/77fO41yQO6Q 30:15 - Episode 114: Caller Anna - https://youtu.be/EIuFdyyB2dc 35:01 - Episode 130: Caller Kelsey - https://youtu.be/eFFakWC0zgU 41:06 - Episode 133: Q2, From Anonymous - https://youtu.be/H8ul2qEWrOQ 56:18 - Episode 137: Q3, From Tina - https://youtu.be/ANzS4y7vTGI 1:00:54 - Episode 146: Q2, From P - https://youtu.be/ygmeFYPyYMk 1:09:04 - Episode 154: Q4, From An Embarrassed Shandy - https://youtu.be/qyYKy-XiJ1A 1:12:57 - Episode 158: Caller Hanna - https://youtu.be/f5zKwVHMvLw If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Due to an unexpected change in Sharleen's singing schedule, today's episode contains two Dear Shandy firsts: 1) we're recording remotely, and 2) we're breaking down our personal "greatest hits" Q&As of 2022! We recap and air our favorite Q&As of the year and explain why they stood out to us (and whether or not we'd answer differently). This will be our last episode of 2022 and we'll be taking a 2 week break, so we'll see you back here on Jan 12! THANK YOU, Shandies, for another great year of kindness, analogies, weirdness, specificity, and laughs. We adore you and hope you have the happiest of holidays! xoxo Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY to save money and cancel unwanted subscriptions with one tap! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! 0:00 - Intro 2:55 - Ep 133, Q2 - Anonymous 18:57 - Ep 125, Q5 - from S 38:51 - Ep 137, Q3 - from Tina 53:04 - Ep 154, Q4 - from An Embarrassed Shandy 1:07:44 - Ep 170, Q3 - from H 1:41:26 - Ep 146, Q3 - from C If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! How much should you consider an ex's feelings when dating within the same circles? Is the opposite of hate truly indifference, and if so, does my partner "hating" his ex mean he isn't over her? And one Shandy requests that Shandy "snaps her out of" her 1.5 situationship—will they oblige? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!  Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $15 off your first month's subscription! - Go to https://www.fahertybrand.com/DEARSHANDY and use code DEARSHANDY to get 20% off your order! - Go to https://www.warbyparker.com/SHANDY to try 5 pairs of glasses at home for free! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY18 and use code SHANDY18 for 18 free meals plus free shipping! 0:00 - Q1: I Have A Crush On My Tour Guide—Should I Make A Move? 7:20 - Q2: My Guy Feels Hatred For His Ex—Will He Ever Get Over Her? 21:04 - Q3: How Much Should I Consider My Ex’s Feelings When Considering Dating In His Circle? 33:22 - Q4: My Normally Gentle Boyfriend Showed A Flare Of Anger Towards Me—Is This A Red Flag? 53:31 - Q5: The Guy I’ve Been Seeing For 1.5 Years Won’t Commit—Snap Me Out Of It? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Rosemary who has been with her partner for 2.5 years. The two always thought they might be open to non-monogamy one day, but she's suddenly faced with the reality of that idea and isn't sure what to do. Should she lay down the law and wait for circumstances to be just right, or is there never a "just right" circumstance and should she take the plunge? Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.feals.com/SHANDY to become a member and get 50% off your first order with free shipping! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and enter code SHANDY at checkout to save 40% - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller Rosemary! 52:17 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! When timing doesn't feel like your friend, should you send a "If you're single in the future" message? Is it wrong to be turned off that your boyfriend lives with his mom? If your partner's dying to dance with you but you're uncomfortable on the dance floor, who's got to give? And don't pretend it hasn't happened to you: when you send the wrong text to the wrong person... 😱 Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 40%! - Go to https://www.TryFirstleaf.com/SHANDY to get your first 6 bottles for $39.95 plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! 0:00 - Q1: Is It Ever A Good Idea To Send A “If You’re Single In The Future” Message? 8:39 - Q2: This Guy Keeps Ghosting, Then Explaining—Am I Being Too Forgiving? 23:18 - Q3: I Dislike That My Boyfriend Still Lives With His Mother—Am I Being Judgy? 35:58 - Q4: I Accidentally Sent A Venting Text To The Person I Was Venting About—Help! 1:01:10 - Q5: My Boyfriend Loves To Dance But I Do NOT—Help! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's Hot Topic is one that has been a loooong time coming. We're joined by bestselling author, professor, and psychologist Dr. Marisa G Franco. Having written "Platonic: How The Science Of Attachment Can Help You Make—And Keep—Friends", Marisa is particularly well equipped to help us tackle the complicated world of platonic friendships. If you struggle when it comes to friendships, or you'd like more friends but don't know how to get started, or feel like you're doing all the work in your friendships, OR perhaps you'd like to end a toxic friendship.... let's just say this conversation is for you. More Marisa: Book: Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and—Keep Friends Instagram: DrMarisaGFranco Website: www.DrMarisaGFranco.com (take a quiz to assess your strengths and weaknesses as a friend!) Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Dr. Marisa G Franco! 1:25 - What Inspired Her To Write A Book On Platonic Friendship 3:15 - Biggest Thing She Learned About Herself In Writing “Platonic” 7:25 - The Most Surprising Fact About Platonic Relationships 9:48 - Attachment Styles 12:35 - How To Make New Friends 24:55 - Is She An Introvert Or Extrovert? 26:01 - How To Maintain Long Distance Friendships 27:24 - Does Our Easy Access Culture Affect Our Friendships? 31:18 - What If It Feels Like You’re Doing All The Work? 35:02 - Vice Versa 36:49 - When You’re The Connector But End Up Feeling Left Out 40:45 - Can You Be Friends With Someone You’re Attracted To? 45:22 - The Proper Way To End A Toxic Friendship 49:29 - Is It Ever OK To Power Fade A Friendship? 52:23 - How To Maintain Friendships When Your Lives Are Heading In Different Directions 55:25 - Script For How To Turn An Acquaintance Into A Friend 56:06 - How To Deal With A Friend Who Constantly Copies You 58:38 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 16, aka the finale part 2! Thanks to our sponsors! -Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY to save money and cancel unwanted subscriptions with one tap! -Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.etsy.com/shop/furanostudio and use code SHANDY for 20% off! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:28 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 16 3:27 - Reunion 23:45 - Tyler & Brittany 29:32 - Michael & Danielle 34:57 - Johnny & Victoria 1:03:40 - Brandon & Serene 1:09:27 - Credits 1:10:02 - Andy’s A-Game 1:10:40 - Shandy Word Watch 1:11:56 - Who We Would Go For If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 15, aka the finale part 1! Thanks to our sponsors! Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $15 off your first month's subscription! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.etsy.com/shop/furanostudio and use code SHANDY for 20% off! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:32 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 15 2:22 - Episode 15 Kick Off 3:36 - Evening 6:03 - Rose Ceremony 15:40 - The Next Day 37:33 - The Final Couples 41:32 - Overnight Dates 46:19 - Credits 46:36 - Andy’s A-Game 48:24 - Shandy Word Watch If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Ben Zorn (The Bachelorette Season 11, Bachelor In Paradise Season 4) and his lovely wife Stacy Santilena. To say Shandy enjoyed getting to know these two is a massive understatement (in the words of Sharleen afterwards: "I want to be friends with them.") Today Ben and Stacy join Shandy to share how they went from "just friends" to married with a baby, how they overcame a very relatable early hurdle, Stacy's journey from believing she didn't want kids to wholeheartedly loving their son Logan, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, an unprecedented Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game that will BLOW YOU AWAY. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! More Ben: https://www.instagram.com/benzornlife https://www.zornfitness.com More Stacy: https://www.instagram.com/ssantilena Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Ben & Stacey! 0:46 - How They Met 7:32 - First Impressions 19:24 - How They Began Dating (After Friendship) 30:18 - Stacey’s Thoughts On Ben On The Show 32:00 - How They Complement Each Other 33:31 - Early Hurdle 40:04 - How They Fight 44:21 - How Parenthood Has Changed Their Relationship 54:16 - Relationship Beliefs That Have Changed 1:02:15 - The Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game 1:21:21 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 13 & 14! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY65 and use code SHANDY65 for 65% off plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and enter code SHANDY at checkout to save 40% Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.etsy.com/shop/furanostudio and use code SHANDY for 20% off! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 0:46 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 13 & 14 0:54 - Word Watch Disclaimer 1:30 - Episode 13 Kick Off 4:44 - Baltimore 9:33 - Back On The Beach 14:20 - Evening 15:07 - Mara’s Date With Justin 15:29 - Back On The Beach 28:10 - The Next Day 36:53 - Ency’s Date With Andrew 37:45 - Back On The Beach 38:58 - Credits 39:05 - Episode 14 Kick Off 43:50 - Evening 45:40 - The Mic Room 55:22 - Tyler’s Date With Brittany 57:14 - The Next Day 1:01:08 - Sadie Hawkins Dance 1:16:09 - Credits 1:16:38 - Andy’s A-Game 1:18:24 - Shandy Word Watch 1:20:29 - Who We Would Go For If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is it wrong to vent to others about your partner? Is it worth revisiting things with an old flame? And a sticky "Am I The Asshole?" question! Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!  Thanks to our sponsor! - Head to https://www.go.factor75.com/SHANDY60 and use code SHANDY60 to get 60% off your first box! 0:00 - Q1: Is It Wrong To Vent To Others About My Partner? 14:21 - Q2: I Ran Into An Old Flame And There Was Chemistry—Worth Revisiting? 24:58 - Q3: Am I The Asshole? 33:42 - Q4: I Know She’s Not The One But Logistics Are Complicated—Should I End It? 40:35 - Q5: My Partner And I Can’t Agree On TV—Who Should Give? 48:13 - Q6: I Want To Rename My 6-Year Old Cat—Yay Or Nay? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 12! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.lomi.com/SHANDY and use promo code SHANDY at checkout to save $50! - Go to https://www.feals.com/SHANDY to become a member and get 50% off your first order with free shipping! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and enter code SHANDY at checkout to save 40%! - Go to https://www.warbyparker.com/SHANDY to try 5 pairs of glasses at home for free! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.etsy.com/shop/furanostudio and use code SHANDY for 20% off! Info on Sharleen's opera: https://www.operacolorado.org/event/verdis-rigoletto/ Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:52 - Episode 12 Kick Off/Evening 6:51 - The Next Day 13:33 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 26:07 - Rose Ceremony 34:52 - The Next Day 37:19 - Michael’s Date With Danielle 44:01 - Back At The Beach 52:04 - Eliza Heads To Baltimore 53:39 - Credits 53:50 - Andy’s A-Game 54:46 - Shandy Word Watch 56:05 - Who We Would Go For If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by lovely caller Elizabeth who has quite the complicated high school sweetheart story that ended in her breaking the guy's heart. Fast forward to 5+ years later and he's still on her mind—but is she on his? And if so, is it worth closing the distance and potentially becoming the "other woman" to pursue, or are some things better left in the past? Listen on for the Shandy take! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller Elizabeth! 48:00 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 10 and 11! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.tryfirstleaf.com/SHANDY to get your first 6 bottles for $39.95 plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use our code SHANDY to get your first visit for only five dollars! - Go to https://www.fahertybrand.com/DEARSHANDY and use code DEARSHANDY to get 20% off your order! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.etsy.com/shop/furanostudio and use code SHANDY for 20% off! Info on Sharleen's opera: https://www.operacolorado.org/event/verdis-rigoletto/ Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 0:59 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 10 & 11 1:56 - Episode 10 Kick Off 3:50 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 8:33 - Rose Ceremony 9:39 - The Next Day 10:43 - Victoria’s Date With Johnny 12:55 - Justin 24:06 - Shandy Roleplay 33:30 - Justin’s Date With Eliza 35:32 - Credits 36:46 - Episode 11 Kick Off 36:54 - Hayden 43:20 - The Next Day 43:56 - Hayden’s Date With Kate 46:36 - Back On The Beach 54:22 - Joey And Justin 55:35 - Double Date 59:44 - Aaron & Genevieve 1:13:12 - Credits 1:14:49 - Shandy Word Watch 1:16:53 - Who We Would Go For If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's Hot Topic theme addresses the relationship you have with yourself—your deepest desires, your beliefs, and what might be getting in the way of your own goals and happiness. Our guest, Roxie Nafousi, wrote THE book on manifesting and has been hailed “the manifesting queen” by Forbes and “the face of manifesting” by The Times. While the idea of manifesting might seem surprising for longtime Shandies, we were truly blown away by the ideas and perspectives Roxie shared in this delightful conversation. If you've ever felt your dreams were too lofty or have struggled with fear and imposter syndrome, trust us, this episode's for you. Thanks to our sponsor! - Go to https://dailyharvest.com/SHANDY to get up to $40 off your first box! More Roxie: Book "Manifest: 7 Steps To Living Your Best Life" - https://amzn.to/3Fgu5GV Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/roxienafousi/ Website - https://www.roxienafousi.com Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Roxie Nafousi! 1:13 - What Motivated Her To Write A Book About Manifesting 4:52 - What Is Manifesting And How Is It Scientific? 8:31 - What Are The Top Misconceptions About Manifesting? 11:22 - Is The Term “Manifesting” Overused? 12:53 - How Should One Get Started? 19:38 - Sharleen’s Q: What If You Don’t Even Know What You Want? 25:33 - Andy’s Q: What About Misdirected Talent? 30:59 - Are There Certain Areas Of Life That Are “Easier” To Manifest? 33:40 - How Does She Reconcile Manifesting And The Adage “You’ll Find It When You Stop Looking”? 37:59 - Thoughts On Realism, Entitlement, And Toxic Positivity 44:28 - What About True Skeptics? 45:56 - Tips For Recovering When What You Manifested Didn’t Come To Be? 51:31 - How Do You Know What You *Think* You Want Will Actually Make You Happy? 54:00 - If There’s One Takeaway She Wishes The Shandies Would Have From This Conversation, What Would It Be? 56:09 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 8 and 9! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY65 and use code SHANDY65 for 65% off plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and download the ZocDoc app for FREE! - Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $15 off your first month's subscription! - Download the FREE Upside App and use promo code SHANDY to get $5 or more cash back on your first purchase of $10 or more! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.feals.com/SHANDY to become a member and get 40% off your first three months with free shipping! Info on Sharleen's opera: https://www.operacolorado.org/event/verdis-rigoletto/ Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:12 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 8 & 9 1:42 - Episode 8 Kick Off 8:03 - The Next Day 11:48 - Andy’s Question For The Shandies 27:38 - Kate’s Date With Logan 34:13 - Victoria’s Date With Alex 40:40 - Brittany And Tyler 45:22 - Shanae 46:32 - Credits 46:54 - Episode 9 Kick Off 50:23 - Genevieve Returns To The Beach 51:49 - Shanae And Logan 1:00:47 - Kate Versus Shanae 1:02:49 - Jill And Jacob 1:06:50 - Brittany 1:07:35 - Serene And Brandon 1:08:14 - Victoria And Johnny 1:19:13 - Evening 1:22:10 - Credits 1:22:19 - Andy’s A-Game 1:22:46 - Shandy Word Watch 1:24:24 - Who We Would Go For If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! What should you do if you've always dreamed of living elsewhere but your partner has no interest in moving? If your baby name is stolen by someone close to you, is it cause for confrontation? And is refusing to put down the toilet seat a simple act of laziness or a sign of something more? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!  0:00 - Q1: I’m Secretly Dating My Brother’s Friend After He Explicitly Told Me Not To—How Should I Proceed? 7:52 - Q2: I've Long Dreamed Of Moving But My Partner Has No Interest—Help! 21:25 - Q3: My Brother-In-Law Used Our Baby Name For His Dog—Should I Just Get Over It?  51:59 - Q4: My Husband’s Vocal Fry Drives Me Up The Wall—Should I Mention It? 1:02:04 - Q5: My New Guy Actively Refuses To Put Down The Toilet Seat—Should I Be Concerned?  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 6 and 7! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.TryFirstleaf.com/SHANDY to get your first 6 bottles for $39.95 plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY to save money and cancel unwanted subscriptions with one tap! - Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and enter code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! Our Word Watch sponsors! - Go to https://www.franklyapparel.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for $20 off your first purchase! - Go to https://www.feals.com/SHANDY to become a member and get 40% off your first three months with free shipping! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 0:47 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 6 & 7 1:48 - Episode 6 Kick Off 2:23 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 27:23 - Danielle 29:47 - Rose Ceremony 31:46 - The Next Day 32:03 - Danielle’s Date With Michael 41:49 - Jesse Addresses The Group 52:20 - Credits 53:17 - Episode 7 Kick Off 54:29 - Evening 1:02:48 - Jesse Addresses The OG Ladies 1:05:53 - The Next Day 1:07:20 - Shanae’s Date With Tyler 1:16:22 - Sarah’s Date With Logan 1:17:42 - Evening 1:19:49 - The Next Day 1:20:37 - Rodney’s Date With Eliza 1:25:34 - Credits 1:26:05 - Andy’s A-Game 1:26:39 - Shandy Word Watch 1:28:39 - Who We Would Go For If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

*** TRIGGER WARNING: this post mentions pregnancy loss. Please listen with care. *** It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by our friends, longtime Bachelor franchise icon Ashley Spivey (Season 15, aka Brad Womack's second season) and her delightful husband Steve Hunsberger. These two have been married for over 6 years, have been dating for 10, and they're also our NYC neighbors! :) Today they join Shandy to share whether or not they would have met sans The Bachelor, what it's like to endure tremendous loss together, how they "pass the baton" between them, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game that Andy describes as "very married". 😂 Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%! More Ashley: https://www.instagram.com/ashleyspivey https://www.instagram.com/spiveysbookclub More Steve: https://www.instagram.com/shunsy14 Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Ashley and Steve! 2:50 - How They Met 8:44 - Do They Think They Would Have Ended Up Together Without The Bachelor? 14:59 - First Impressions 21:01 - How They Complement Each Other 24:23 - How Suffering Miscarriage Affected Their Relationship 34:07 - Early Hurdle 40:11 - How They Fight 45:55 - Any Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed 49:26 - The Newlyweds Game 1:05:58 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 4 and 5! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY65 and use code SHANDY65 for 65% off and free shipping - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%! Our Word Watch sponsor! - Go to https://www.feals.com/SHANDY to become a member and get 40% off your first three months with free shipping! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 0:47 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 4 & 5 1:28 - Episode 4 Kick Off/Evening 13:10 - The Next Day 24:02 - Ashley And Jared’s Date 27:05 - Back At The Beach 28:52 - Evening 29:37 - Brandon And Serene’s Date 30:39 - Back At The Beach 36:21 - Credits 36:37 - Episode 5 Kick Off 38:35 - Salley 51:40 - The Next Day 54:42 - Peter And Brittany’s Date 58:22 - Back On The Beach 1:11:00 - Jacob And Jill’s Date/Evening 1:13:18 - Back On The Beach 1:16:17 - Kira 1:25:44 - Credits 1:26:54 - Andy’s A-Game 1:27:47 - Shandy Word Watch 1:29:25 - Who We Would Go For If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by not one, but TWO delightful callers. Our first caller, Ray, has been texting with a guy daily for 6 whopping months. The catch? They live in different countries and have never even kissed. How can she take things to the next level? Our second caller, James, had his "number" used against him towards the end of his last relationship. When, if ever, should one share The Number, and is honesty really always best? Listen on for the Shandy take! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller Ray! 27:03 - Shandy Debrief 29:21 - Welcome To Caller James! 51:48 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 2 and 3! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.franklyapparel.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for $20 off your first purchase! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! - Go to https://www.feals.com/SHANDY to become a member and get 40% off your first three months with free shipping! - Go to https://www.fahertybrand.com/DEARSHANDY and use code DEARSHANDY for 15% off every order! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 2 & 3 1:40 - Episode 2 Kick Off 17:52 - Evening 49:56 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 59:12 - Credits 59:50 - Episode 3 Kick Off 1:06:56 - Rose Ceremony 1:12:05 - The Next Day 1:22:57 - Evening 1:27:08 - Andy’s A-Game 1:27:32 - Shandy Word Watch 1:29:07 - Who We Would Go For If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's Hot Topic conversation finally tackles a common theme among our Shandies' relationship questions over the last 2 years: What to do when one partner wants to get frisky way more than the other? Shan Boodram, our esteemed expert joining us today, could not be more qualified to take on this subject: Shan is a certified sexologist and sex and intimacy educator, among her many other qualifications, and she helps us navigate how to broach the topic of wanting more sex, how to work towards raising one's own libido, how to communicate likes/dislikes in the bedroom (without killing the mood), and how to get back into sexy time postpartum. Shan is as fun as she is knowledgeable and we guarantee you'll both laugh and learn something new throughout this conversation! More Shan: Book "The Game Of Desire" - https://www.thegameofdesire.com/buy Lovers And Friends Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1586679298 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/shanboody/ Website - https://www.shanboodram.com Shan's Turn-On Trigger Quiz - https://www.thegameofdesire.com/quiz Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Sexologist And Intimacy Educator Shan Boodram! 3:16 - What Is Sexology And Why Did She Get Into It? 8:36 - Tips For Couples Navigating Mismatched Libidos 13:55 - Does Bringing It Up More Scare It Away? 20:14 - For The Partner Who Wishes They Wanted Sex More 27:56 - Comfort and Familiarity 29:29 - Turn-On Triggers 31:12 - Where’s The Line Between Maintaining A Sex Life With A Low Libido Versus Agreeing To Have Sex When You Don’t Want To?  35:44 - Does More Beget More? 37:55 - Advice For Sex And Intimacy Postpartum  40:53 - Tips For Orgasming 43:44 - Tips On How To Get A Partner To Change What They’re Doing Without Killing The Mood? 46:12 - True Or False: Ejaculation Is Good For Men’s Health 50:32 - Thoughts On Today’s Swipe Culture And Dating Climate  57:42 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise Season 8 recaps! Today we're breaking down the premiere! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to HelloFresh.com/shandy65 and use code shandy65 for 65% off plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and sign up for free to book a top-rated doctor! - Download the Flip app for FREE today and save thirty percent on your first order with code shandy! - Go to https://www.dailyharvest.com/SHANDY to get up to $40 off your first box! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 2:38 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 1 3:56 - Episode 1 Kick Off 9:57 - Paradise Is Open 32:18 - Jesse Threatens The Group 36:17 - Evening 36:40 - Andrew And Teddi 42:29 - Genevieve And Justin 44:23 - Andrew And Teddi, Continued 45:47 - Johnny And Hunter 46:23 - Lace 51:29 - Lace And Logan 1:02:35 - Sierra And Michael 1:04:09 - Jill 1:04:29 - Jill And Romeo 1:05:53 - Kira 1:07:43 - Kira And Romeo 1:11:07 - Kira Versus Jill 1:13:46 - The Next Day 1:14:26- Victoria F 1:14:39 - Credits 1:15:08 - Andy’s A-Game 1:16:42 - Shandy Word Watch 1:19:09 - Who We Would Go For If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you like a guy but not his pet name for you, is it worth saying something? If reconnecting with a former flame via LinkedIn has reached a roadblock, when is it OK to up the ante? Plus a classic Andy-I-Need-Your-Male-Perspective-On-This-Guy's-Intentions question! Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!  0:00 - Q1: I Like The Guy But Hate His Pet Name For Me 6:29 - Q2: What Are His Intentions? 13:45 - Q3: I’m Finding Myself Attracted To Someone I Should NOT Be Attracted To—Am I Normal? 23:04 - Q4: My Partner Keeps Making Jokes About What’s Obviously An Insecurity—Thoughts? 37:03 - Q5: Our Libidos Don’t Line Up—Thoughts? 50:37 - Q6: Rekindling With A Former Flame Via LinkedIn—Should I Try Again?  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 12, aka the GRAND FINALE! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 60% off your subscription! - Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $15 off your first month's subscription! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! - Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY to save money and cancel unwanted subscriptions with one tap! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:35 - Finale Kick Off 3:43 - Last Week, Continued 7:14 - Rachel’s Last Date With Tino 10:32 - The Ladies Chat In Mexico 12:29 - Rachel’s Proposal 17:37 - The Breakup House: Gabby And Rachel 24:57 - The Breakup House: Tino And Rachel 48:11 - Live: Rachel  49:27 - Live: Rachel And Tino 53:20 - Aven 57:21 - Gabby’s Proposal 1:04:03 - Live: Rachel And Erich 1:12:09 - Wrapping The Season 1:12:27 - Next Bachelor 1:16:54 - BUT WAIT THERE’S MORE 1:21:14 - Shandy Word Watch 1:21:40 - Reviewing Premiere Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by lovebirds Kenny Braasch (The Bachelorette, Season 16) and Mari Pepin (The Bachelor, Season 25), who you watched meet and get engaged on Bachelor In Paradise Season 7! They're now over a year into their relationship (just ask Andy about his famous bet!) and they live together in Chicago. Today they join Shandy to share their first impressions, how their 15 year age gap works for—not against—them, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game that will have you on the edge of your seat! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and enter code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order! - Go to https://go.factor.com/SHANDY130 and use code SHANDY130 at checkout to save $130 across 6 boxes! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%! More Kenny: https://www.instagram.com/kennybraasch10/ https://www.instagram.com/theboybandnightchicago/ https://www.instagram.com/115bourbonstreet/ More Mari: https://www.instagram.com/mari_pepin/ https://www.tiktok.com/@mari_pepin https://www.instagram.com/innovessa.co/ Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Kenny And Mari! 2:24 - How Familiar Were They With Each Other Before Meeting On Paradise? 5:16 - First Impressions 8:41 - How They Complement Each Other 11:29 - The Most Common Misconception About Their Relationship 16:00 - What About This Partnership Makes It Successful Versus Past Ones? 22:27 - Early Hurdle 23:14 - How They Fight 21:05 - How Do They Actively Work On Their Relationship? 32:03 - Shandy’s Bet 33:08 - Getting To Know Mari And Kenny 38:48 - Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed 41:41 - The Newlyweds Game 1:04:45 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 11, aka the Finale, Part 1! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to www.franklyapparel.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for $20 off your first purchase! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY16 and use code SHANDY16 to get up to 16 free meals across 7 boxes, plus 3 free gifts! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:37 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 11 4:17 - Episode 11 Kick Off 4:54 - Zach Speaks With Rachel 11:16 - Rose Ceremony 12:39 - Live: Zach And Rachel 18:46 - Aven Meets Rachel’s Family 32:21 - Rachel Chats With Her Friends 37:02 - Rachel Chats With Aven 47:34 - Erich Meets Gabby’s Family 51:15 - Tino Meets Rachel’s Family 56:46 - Aven’s “Last Shot” 1:06:04 - Rachel 1:11:54 - Live: Aven And Rachel 1:14:00 - Gabby’s Final Date With Erich 1:22:24 - Shandy Word Watch 1:24:13 - Shandy's Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today's lovely caller, Hanna, is happily married with 3 young children. Everything's as it should be in their very small town, but she feels drawn to nurture her personal and social lives with a move elsewhere. Sounds simple enough, but when she considers one option, she can't help but weigh the pros of the other. At what point does a fear of a choice not taken become a fear of making any choice at all? Listen on for the Shandy take! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller Hanna! 50:43 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episodes 9 and 10, aka Fantasy Suites Part 1 and 2! Thanks to our sponsors! -Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! -Go to https://www.feals.com/SHANDY to become a member and get 40% off your first three months with free shipping! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:24 - Overall Thoughts On Episodes 9 & 10 2:45 - Episode 9 Kick Off 5:45 - Erich’s Overnight 10:13 - Evening 13:36 - The Next Morning 16:35 - Meanwhile, Tino 16:53 - Aven’s Overnight 18:06 - Meanwhile, Jesse Chats With Tino 22:44 - Evening 26:50 - The Next Morning 27:59 - Tino’s Overnight 29:30 - Evening 33:39 - Johnny’s Overnight 39:30 - Jesse Chats With Jason 40:43 - Erich 55:11 - Episode 10 Kick Off 59:44 - Gabby Chats With Jesse 1:02:09 - Jason’s Overnight 1:05:20 - Evening 1:17:49 - The Next Morning 1:19:00 - Gabby Chats With Jason 1:24:19 - Zach’s Overnight 1:25:47 - Evening 1:26:27 - The Next Morning 1:29:29 - Zach Chats With Jesse 1:32:35 - Rose Ceremony 1:33:49 - Gabby Visits Erich 1:35:16 - Cliffhanger 1:36:35 - Andy’s A-Game 1:37:30 - Shandy Word Watch 1:39:43 - Shandy’s Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's that time of year again... Dear Shandy is officially 2 years old! And what better way to celebrate than to answer YOUR questions! We polled you over on Instagram and you sure delivered with quite the variety of Qs about this podcast, our relationship, and in general, our thoughts on a ALL THE THINGS. Thank you, Shandies, for another year of making us feel so seen, understood, and appreciated. Come join us in our living room to chat! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Introduction 2:24 - Who Is On Each Of Your Celebrity Hall Pass Lists? 5:59 - Do You Have An All-Time Favorite Podcast Episode? 8:19 - Would You Ever Do A Live Show? 9:28 - What’s Something Your Partner Does That Instantly Calms You? 11:09 - What Have Been Your Favorite Places To Travel To Together? 12:17 - Will You Always Live In New York? 14:38 - Does Traveling Together Test Your Relationship? 15:48 - What Were Your Top 3 Dating Dealbreakers? 20:44 - Didn’t You Guys Have A Cat At One Time? 24:05 - If You Could Have Any Animal As A Pet, What Would It Be? 25:00 - What’s The Most Annoying Thing About Having A Podcast? 33:30 - Do You Follow The News? How Do You Deal With All The Bad Things Happening In The World? 35:50 - What Has Been Your Weirdest Fan Encounter? 40:48 - I Can’t Imagine Andy Living In San Francisco. Why Did He Move There? 46:06 - How Did Sharleen Come To Be An Opera Singer And If She Could Do Anything Else, What Would It Be? 55:55 - What Are Your Favorite Quirks About Each Other? 1:02:20 - Could We Hear Your Thoughts On Your Age Difference? 1:05:35 - What Are Your Thoughts On Aliens, Ghosts, And The Supernatural? 1:18:06 - Thank You If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 8, aka Aven's Hometown and Men Tell All. Thanks to our sponsor! -Go to https://www.Nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $15 off your first month's subscription! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 0:57 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 8/Men Tell All 1:57 - Episode 8 Kick Off 3:52 - Aven’s Hometown 10:53 - Evening 14:15 - “Rose Ceremony” 14:45 - Men Tell All Kick Off 22:28 - Chris 24:46 - Hayden 26:20 - Logan 34:14 - Nate 38:50 - Paradise 39:44 - Jesse 41:56 - Gabby And Rachel Arrive 42:07 - Mario 44:18 - Jordan V 44:45 - Jacob 45:19 - Tyler 46:19 - Shameless Movie Plug 49:11 - Shandy Word Watch 50:55 - Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your boyfriend accidentally sees your fetish in your search history, should you address it or leave it be? Is it worth it to explore a crush on your tutor? And is a relationship with a man 25 years older doomed to fail? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!  Thanks to our sponsor! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and sign up for free to book a top-rated doctor! 0:00 - Q1: How Should I Break Up With Him If I’d Have To Travel To Do It In Person? 11:18 - Q2: Does He Only Want What He Can’t Have? 24:37 - Q3: I Exchanged A Gift My Boyfriend’s Mother Gave Me And Now She Won’t Drop It—What Should I Do? 40:12 - Q4: My Boyfriend Saw My Fetish In My Search History And Now I Want To Hide Forever  51:21 - Q5: I’ve Had A Longtime Crush On My Tutor—Should I Make Move? 1:04:44 - Q6: I’m Dating A Man 25 Years Older—Are We Doomed To Fail? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 7. Thanks to our sponsors! -Go to https://www.dailyharvest.com/SHANDY to get up to $40 off your first box! -Go to https://www.babbel.com/DEARSHANDY to save up to 60% off your subscription!  Referenced Today.com article: https://www.today.com/popculture/tv/bachelor-podcasts-rcna43186 Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping (And Other Tangents) 3:25 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 7 4:13 - Episode 7 Kick Off 5:53 - Jason’s Hometown 10:24 - Evening 14:12 - Zach’s Hometown 15:21 - Evening 23:00 - Johnny’s Hometown 25:26 - Evening 29:06 - Tyler’s Hometown 42:53 - Erich’s Hometown 50:36 - Evening 53:09 - Tino’s Hometown 1:10:05 - Credits 1:10:36 - Andy’s A-Game 1:10:55 - Shandy Word Watch 1:13:06 - Predictions: Gabby 1:14:53 - Predictions: Rachel If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by lovebirds Blake Horstmann (The Bachelorette, Season 16) and Giannina Gibelli (Love Is Blind, Season 1), who met filming Paramount Plus' All-Star Shore! They share how familiar they were with each other prior, some early hurdles post-filming, how they complement each other, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a questionable Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game but all's well that ends well! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save 35%! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! More Blake: https://www.instagram.com/balockaye.h/ https://www.tiktok.com/@balockaye.h https://www.instagram.com/officialroadhouse/ More Giannina: https://www.instagram.com/gianninagibelli/ https://www.tiktok.com/@gianninagibelli More All Star Shore: https://www.instagram.com/allstarshoreofficial/ https://www.tiktok.com/@allstarshore Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome Blake And Giannina! 4:19 - Were They Familiar With Each Other Before Meeting On All-Star Shore? 6:13 - First Impressions 12:07 - Do They Think The Powers That Be Intended For Them To Meet? 14:13 - How They Complement Each Other 22:19 - What’s The Most Common Misconception About Their Relationship? 24:21 - How They Fight 27:01 - What Was An Early Hurdle In Their Relationship? 29:44 - What Has It Been Like Being Exposed To The Other’s Dating Show Culture? 33:25 - What Makes This Relationship Successful Versus Past Relationships? 42:32 - The Newlyweds Game 59:29 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 6. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to save $15 off your first dermatology visit! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY at checkout to save thirty-five percent! - Go to https://www.rocketmoney.com/SHANDY to save money and cancel unwanted subscriptions with one tap! Gabby's Group Date blouse: https://bit.ly/3C6UghC Our Episode On Kaitlyn Bristowe's Off The Vine podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grape-therapy-bachelorette-s-analogies-with-sharleen/id1240420549?i=1000575742834 Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:24 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 6 2:24 - Episode 6 Kick Off 4:00 - 1-On-1 Date Cards 7:20 - Jesse Chats With The Bachelorettes 10:03 - Nate’s 1-On-1 With Gabby 15:46 - Zach’s 1-On-1 With Rachel 25:57 - Evening 33:37 - Gabby Visits Her Guys 35:24 - Gabby’s Group Date 40:21 - Evening (aka Logan) 44:58 - Rachel’s Group Date 46:52 - Evening 58:47 - The Next Day 1:02:22 - Rose Ceremony 1:06:57 - Andy’s A-Game 1:07:45 - Shandy Word Watch 1:10:56 - Predictions: Gabby 1:13:09 - Predictions: Rachel If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today's lovely caller, Abby, has a family dynamic she has been navigating her entire adult life. While her parents divorced well over a decade ago, her father continues to badmouth Abby's mother and stepfather while deflecting his responsibility in the marriage's demise. Should Abby just "keep the peace" by continuing to bite her tongue, or is it time for a confrontation? Listen on for the Shandy take! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller Abby! 40:55 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 5. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.TakeCareOf.com and enter code SHANDY50 for 50% off your first Care/Of order! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY16 and use code SHANDY16 to get up to 16 free meals across 7 boxes, plus 3 free gifts! Time Stamps: 00:41 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 5 01:41 - Episode 5 Kick Off 2:30 - Logan Visits Rachel 7:47 - Rachel’s Group Date 9:15 - Jesse Visits Rachel 13:42 - Logan Visits Gabby 17:36 - Gabby Visits Rachel 28:00 - Evening 31:24 - Gabby’s Group Date 34:50 - Evening 44:15 - Aven’s 1-On-1 With Rachel 45:29- Evening 50:07 - Johnny’s 1-On-1 With Gabby 51:30 - Evening 55:16 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 56:51 - Rose Ceremony 58:29 - Andy’s A-Game 59:50 - Shandy Word Watch 1:02:13 - Predictions: Gabby 1:05:58 - Predictions: Rachel If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's conversation has been a loooong time coming! So many of your questions over the last 2 years have swirled around whether or not to become a parent, or seeking #parenthoodclarity. Since Shandy is far from qualified to give you advice on the matter, we're thrilled to be joined by clarity coach Keltie Maguire who also happens to be #ChildfreeByChoice. Obviously none of us can answer this deeply personal question for you, but what we can do is have a conversation. We chat about everything from how Keltie came to make her decision, the shades of grey of uncertainty, "but who will look after you when you're old", and our thoughts on regret. Just as this is personal for you, it's personal for Shandy, too, so please respect us and each other when discussing. More Keltie: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/keltiemaguire Website - https://www.keltiemaguire.com Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Clarity Coach Keltie Maguire! 3:07 - Getting To Know Keltie 5:03 - When And How Did She Decide To Be Childfree? 14:07 - Does She Get This Question As A Clarity Coach? 17:30 - How Much Does She Think Her Lifestyle Has Informed Her Decision? 20:30 - Her Thoughts On The Following: "Having a baby is like getting a tattoo on your face. You really need to be certain it’s what you want before you commit.” 24:44 - Does She Find People Get Defensive When They Hear Her Choice? 26:01 - Advice For Dealing With Friends And Family Who Judge Or Don't Accept Your Choice? 29:03 - How Did Her Parents/In-Laws Handle Her Choice? 31:24 - "But You Would Make Such Great Parents" 33:36 - "But Who Will Look After You When You're Old?" 36:23 - Freedom 39:28 - The Happiness Quotient 43:27 - Why Is It Such An Emotional Topic? 45:06 - Regret 51:45 - What Are Her Husband's Feelings? 55:06 - The State Of The World 1:01:54 - Are We Overthinking This? 1:04:52 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 4. Thanks to our sponsors! -Go to https://www.fahertybrand.com/DEARSHANDY and use code DEARSHANDY for 20% off your Spring staples! - Go to https://www.feals.com/SHANDY to get 50% off your first month of premium CBD delivered directly to your door! Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:27 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 4 2:36 - Episode 4 Kick-Off 8:13 - France!!! 11:37 - 1-On-1 Dates 27:12 - Gabby's Group Date 35:22 - Rachel Confronts Her Guys 38:57 - Rachel's Group Date 49:36 - Logan 50:00 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 1:00:24 - Rose Ceremony 1:02:19 - Andy's A-Game 1:03:42 - Shandy Word Watch 1:05:02 - Predictions: Gabby 1:07:08 - Predictions: Rachel If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If a woman is open to dating older, what should that actual bracket be on the apps? If a guy won't let you see his place, is that a red flag? And how does Sharleen *really* feel about Andy's white V-neck uniform? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!  Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and sign up for free to book a top-rated doctor! 0:00 - Q1: What Should Be My "Max" Age When Dating Online? 12:08 - Q2: My Boyfriend Won't Let Me Visit His Apartment—Is He Hiding Something? 26:35 - Q3: "Can Flatulence Portend The Waning Of Sexual Attraction?" 45:37 - Q4: Shandy's Thoughts On A Woman Accompanying Her Boyfriend Engagement Ring Shopping? 56:20 - Q5: How Does Sharleen Feel About Andy's White V-Neck Uniform? And Does Andy's Age Beliefs Apply To Women In Their 70s? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 3. Thanks to our sponsors! - Download the free Upside app and use code SHANDY to get up to $5 cash back off your first purchase of $10 or more! - Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $15 off your first month! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 2:42 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 3 4:31 - Episode 3 Kick-Off 6:32 - Zach's 1-On-1 With Rachel 15:06 - Matt White (Platinum Package) 16:10 - Zach's Date, Resumed 22:29 - Erich's 1-On-1 With Gabby 34:35 - Group Date 51:08 - The Next Day 56:23 - Rose Ceremony 1:04:36 - Credits 1:05:02 - Andy's A-Game...? 1:05:54 - Shandy Word Watch 1:07:11 - Predictions: Gabby 1:08:31 - Predictions: Rachel If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by lovebirds Abigail Heringer (The Bachelor, Season 25) and Noah Erb (The Bachelorette, Season 16), who you saw meet and date on Bachelor In Paradise, Season 7! They share the behind-the-scenes we didn't see on Paradise, when and how Noah reached back out to Abigail post-filming, how they complement each other today, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! Thanks to our sponsor! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! More Abigail & Noah: https://www.instagram.com/abigail_heringer/ https://www.instagram.com/noah_erb/ Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Abigail And Noah! 1:57 - Did They Watch Each Other's Seasons and First Impressions 6:31 - How First Impressions Have Changed 9:41 - How They Complement Each Other 14:01 - The Biggest Misconceptions About Their Relationship 18:27 - Had They Not Broken Up On Camera, Would Their Edit Have Played Out Differently? 22:38 - Early Hurdle 25:15 - How Long After The Show Did They Get Back Together? 30:12 - How They Fight 39:36 - Beliefs About Relationships That Have Changed 45:21 - The Newlyweds Game 1:04:50 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 2. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! - Go to https://www.truebill.com/SHANDY to cancel unwanted subscriptions with one tap! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 4:00 - Episode 2 Kick-Off 5:39 - Group Date/"Pageant Of Sorts" 9:15 - Evening 14:12 - Jordan V's 1-On-1 With Rachel 20:27 - Evening 25:46 - Nate's 1-On-1 With Gabby 28:12 - Evening 32:12 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 34:29 - Chris 42:43 - Rose Ceremony 45:21 - Andy's A-Game 46:04 - Shandy Word Watch 48:56 - Predictions: Gabby 52:20 - Andy's A-Game Revisited 54:05 - Predictions: Rachel If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's a 2-for-1 Caller Day! Today's first caller, Nicki, is in the thick of wedding planning, and while she and her fiancé agree on just about everything, they don't see eye to eye on wedding vows. He wants to opt out of writing them at all. Should she insist or prioritize his comfort zone? Our second caller, Kate, finds herself involved in a confusing "friendship", years after extricating herself from the emotionally manipulative ex they have in common. How should she handle this relationship, and should she be concerned by the old emotions that still seem to linger? Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsor! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY for 35% off all bedding and loungewear! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller Nicki! 23:35 - Shandy Debrief 32:00 - Welcome To Caller Kate! 1:04:06 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelorette(s) Season 19 recaps! Today we're breaking down the premiere. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.feals.com/SHANDY to get 50% off your first month of premium CBD delivered directly to your door! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY for 35% off all bedding and loungewear! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY16 and use code SHANDY16 to get up to 16 free meals, plus 3 free gifts! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Housekeeping 2:42 - Overall Thoughts 9:08 - Intro Videos (Or Lack Therof) 9:58 - Opening 13:46 - Night One 19:36 - Limo Exit Wins/Fails 26:13 - Notable 1-On-1 Time 41:10 - First Impression Roses 42:25 - Eliminations 50:39 - Rose Ceremony 52:33 - Credits 53:04 - Andy's A-Game (New Segment!) 55:23 - Shandy Word Watch 57:49 - Predictions: Gabby 1:06:02 - Wild Cards: Gabby 1:07:21 - Predictions: Rachel 1:12:50 - Wild Cards: Rachel If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is it a dealbreaker if a guy asks you to Venmo him for your first date together? Is it reasonable to expect your date to be as invested in safe sex as you are? Where's the line between sharing the laughs and respecting your partner? Finally, a beautiful letter written by a Shandy. Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!  Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.prose.com/SHANDY for your free in-depth hair consultation and use code SHANDY for 15% off your first order of custom hair care! - Go to https://www.fahertybrand.com/DEARSHANDY and use code DEARSHANDY for 20% off your Spring staples! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! 0:00 - Q1: My Date Asked Me To Venmo Him Back For Our First Date—Is This Weird? 11:40 - Q2: How Can I Make Sure HIs Parents Like Me? 24:50 - Q3: I'm East Asian And My New Guy Has A History Of Mainly Dating East Asians—Am I Being Fetishized?  38:18 - Q4: Is It Reasonable In A New Relationship To Expect Both Partners To Make An Equal Effort In Protection? 56:37 - Q5: My Boyfriend's Upset I Shared His "Personal Medical Information" With Our Friends—Am I The Asshole? 1:09:49 - A Shandy's Letter If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today's lovely caller, Emily, is at her wit's end. Her boyfriend still lives with his ex, and while he has his reasons, she's wondering how patient she should be. At what point is having empathy detrimental to our own selves, and is this relationship automatically doomed by its rocky start? Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and sign up for free to book a top-rated doctor! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome To Caller Emily! 49:06 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is Sharleen's all-time favorite Hot Topic conversation. You will probably also learn more about Andy's mind and thought process here than in any other episode Shandy's ever done. Are you deeply moved by sad music? Do you find comfort in a rainy day? Does the word "poignant" resonate with you? If you answered "yes" to these, you just may be the Bittersweet type. (Spoiler alert: so are both Sharleen and Andy!) According to our esteemed guest, author Susan Cain: "Bittersweetness is a tendency to states of long­ing, poignancy, and sorrow; an acute aware­ness of passing time; and a curiously piercing joy at the beauty of the world." She argues there's great power in the bittersweet outlook on life and why our society has been so blind to its value. We discuss everything from being inherently melancholic in a happiness-obsessed culture, to navigating being a Bittersweet type's partner, to several existential questions of Andy's.To say this episode was a highlight of Shandy's near two years of podcasting is an understatement. And be sure to listen to the Shandy Debrief to understand why speaking with Susan meant so much to Sharleen! Thanks to our sponsors! - Download the free Upside app and use code SHANDY to get up to $5 cash back off your first purchase of $10 or more! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! More Susan: - Buy "Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole": https://amzn.to/3OxeUdN - Buy "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking": https://amzn.to/3QFXeyv - Instagram: http://instagram.com/susancainauthor - Website: https://susancain.net 0:00 - Welcome To Our Esteemed Guest, Author Susan Cain! 3:21 - What Does “Bittersweet” Mean? 4:35 - What Strengths And Weaknesses Do Bittersweets Have And How Do Those Play Out In Relationships? 6:56 - Advice For Non-Bittersweets In Relationships With Bittersweets? 9:50 - Is There A Correlation Between Bittersweetness And Introversion? 11:24 - Sad Songs And Lullabies And Fragility And Mortality 21:35 - Are Some People More Predisposed To Melancholy And Is It Cultural? 26:41 - Is Sadness More Potent An Emotion Than Happiness Or Contentment? 29:27 - Is There A Correlation Between Bittersweetness And Intelligence? 31:37 - Is It Possible To Be Truly Happy And A Great Artist? 33:55 - Are We Sadder Than We Would Be If We Weren’t In A Happiness-Obsessed Society? 35:53 - What Might Bittersweetness Or Melancholy Actually Be Depression? 38:14 - How Can One Overcome The Fear Of Joy When Joy Is Fleeting And The Loss Of Joy Hurts More Than Joy Itself? 40:22 - Is It Possible To Let Go Of All Of Life’s What-Ifs? 42:00 - Is Ignorance Of The Bittersweet Bliss, Or Is Bliss Discovered Through The Bittersweet? 43:57 - Without Death, Would There Be Human Motivation To Do Anything Ambitious? 45:29 - Andy’s Dark “Would You Rather” Question 52:14 - Awareness Versus Acceptance Of Importance 54:13 - Is One Of The Reasons For Today’s Prevalence Of Mental Health Issues Because Parents Are Not Giving Children A Proper Version Of Reality? 57:46 - Her Advice For Finding Purpose And Motivation After A Long Period Of Sadness 1:00:05- From A Shandy: “I Feel The Most Sadness After I Make A Big Life Decision, Even When I know It’s The Right Choice. Why Is This?” 1:03:49 - Tips For How To Not Absorb Others’ Grief 1:05:14 - Another Existential Question Of Andy’s 1:08:50 - Shandy’s Final And Self-Indulgent Question 1:13:10 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If you like the guy but not his style, is it superficial to want to change it? Andy has long said the "maturity threshold" for men is age 36—does he have an age equivalent for women? And is refusing to go down on your partner a potential dealbreaker in the world of dating? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!  Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY16 and use code SHANDY16 to get up to 16 free meals, plus 3 free gifts! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.truebill.com/SHANDY to cancel unwanted subscriptions with one tap! - Go to https://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off plus free shipping! 0:00 - Q1: What Is The Straight Woman's Equivalent To Andy's "You're Not A Mature Man Until Age 36"? 11:12 - Q2: When Can I Tell My Friend She Sucks At Dating? 26:44 - Q3: I Have Zero Interest In Giving A Blowjob—Shandy's Thoughts? 39:59 - Q4: I Was A Covid Bride And Can't Decide If We Should Have A Wedding Do-Over—Shandy's Thoughts? 54:51 - Q5: I Like My New Guy But I Hate His Style—Am I Superficial For Wanting To Change It? 1:01:16 - Q6: My Husband And I Squabble Over The Fact That I Don't Like Hanging With His Friend—Thoughts? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by a true ambassador for body positivity, Sarah Nicole Landry, and her partner in crime, her husband Shane Landry. You already know Sarah from her massive The Birds Papaya empire, spanning her Instagram, blog, app, and podcast, and we're thrilled Shane agreed to join so we could talk the dynamics of their partnership in true Shandy fashion! We learn about their "high school"-like courtship, how parenting four (yes, FOUR!) children affects their relationship, how their prior divorces influenced their mindset in dating, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a Newlyweds Game outcome we were not expecting! Who knows who better? Listen on to find out! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY and use code SIXNINE to get the Hello Tushy bidet for only $69 (30% off) when you buy 2 or more! - Go to https://www.feals.com/SHANDY to get 50% off your first month of premium CBD delivered directly to your door! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY for 35% off all bedding and loungewear! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! More Sarah: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/thebirdspapaya The Papaya Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-papaya-podcast/id1469615517 The Birds Papaya Blog - https://thebirdspapaya.com The Pink Papaya App - https://www.instagram.com/pinkpapayaapp More Shane: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/i_m_fury 0:00 - Welcome To Sarah And Shane! 3:12 - How They Met 6:01 - First Impressions 20:30 - How They Complement Each Other 25:57 - Early Hurdle 31:42 - Jealousy 36:37 - Divorce 46:35 - How They Fight 59:40 - How Parenthood Plays Into Their Partnership & How Shane Grew Into Being A Father Figure To Sarah's First 3 Children 1:06:11 - The Newlyweds Game 1:16:36 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

And just like that... it's Caller Day again! Today's lovely caller, Taylor, was in a passionate romance that felt like The One. But when she confronted her partner about something that made her uncomfortable, things unraveled pretty quickly. Who was in the right, and did she overreact or execute poorly? And looking bigger picture, was this relationship always doomed? Listen on for the Shandy take! 0:00 - Welcome to Caller Taylor! 45:50 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we have the pleasure of speaking with Blair, the “exvangelical” brains behind @TalkPurityToMe, a humorous account dedicated to unlearning the shame taught by purity culture, both on Instagram and TikTok. Purity culture, based on the belief that sex should be had only within heterosexual marriage and that all lustful thoughts before marriage are sinful, has been a theme among our Shandies' questions, so we're excited to finally have a conversation on the topic.  With Blair's help, we unpack everything from how to go from sex being bad to suddenly a beautiful part of marriage, navigating judgment from friends and family, and the ways in which purity culture resembles abuse. If you're currently struggling to shed the shame "purity" has cursed you with, or if you experience shame but aren't exactly sure where it comes from, today's conversation just might be for you. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.talkspace.com and use code SHANDY to get $100 off your first month of therapy! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and sign up for free to book a top-rated doctor! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! More Blair: - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/talkpuritytome - TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@talkpuritytome Time stamps: 0:00 - Welcome to Talk Purity To Me's Blair! 2:52 - Defining Purity Culture 4:54 - Blair's History With Purity Culture 10:10 - How Far Into Her Own "Deconstruction Process" Is She And Does She Still Struggle? 13:12 - Her First Sexual Experience 14:04 - What Inspired Her To Start An Account Dedicated To Unlearning Purity Culture? 15:35 - How Have Her Family And Friends Reacted? 20:39 - What Are The Most Common Themes She's Seen In Terms Of The Damage Purity Culture Can Cause? 23:52 - Has She Found A Stronger Response From A Particular Age Range? 24:14 - Have Any Responses She's Gotten Taken Her By Surprise? 25:48 - Are There Any Less Obvious Ways She Thinks Purity Culture Manifests? 27:05 - Tips For Shedding The Deeply Ingrained Mindset That Sex = Shame 29:17 - Do People Who Leave Purity Culture Tend To Swing In The Opposite Direction? 32:21 - Tips For Being More Open-Minded Sexually 35:53 - What Advice Would She Give To Someone Staying With Their First Sexual Partner Solely Due To Their History With Purity Culture? 40:28 - Tips For Trusting Your Intuition/Hearing That Inner Voice 42:06 - Was There A Pivotal Moment That Changed Her Mindset? 49:03 - Her Advice To Anyone Wanting To Go On Their Own "Deconstruction" Journey While Maintaining Meaningful Relationships With Loved Ones 51:30 - What Is Her Relationship With Christianity Like Today? 56:24 - Does She Think There's A Correlation Between Being Raised In Purity Culture And Difficulty Orgasming? 57:24 - Does She Consider Purity Culture A Form Of Abuse? 59:02 - Does It Ever Get Better? 1:01:07 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Does "The Ick" speak to good instincts or just being overly picky? Should we trust that if a man wants to make a move, he will? Is sending an ex a letter always a bad call or are there exceptions? Finally, a great "Am I An Asshole?" question. (Turns out we like those!) Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!  Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.fahertybrand.com/DEARSHANDY and use code DEARSHANDY for 20% off your Spring staples! - Go to https://www.truebill.com/SHANDY to cancel unwanted subscriptions with one tap! - Go to https://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! 0:00 - Q1: I Always Seem To Catch The "Ick" From My Dates—Am I Being Too Picky? 18:31 - Q2: Is "If He Wanted To, He Would?" Always True? 33:08 - Q3: My Engagement Ended Recently And I Want To Send My Ex A Letter—Yay or Nay? 57:32 - Q4: I'm Dating A Guy My Girlfriend Introduced Me To And She Doesn't Speak To Me Anymore—What's Shandy's Take?  1:18:25 - Q5: To Kill Or Not To Kill? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by a Bachelor Nation icon, Courtney Robertson Preciado, and her husband, Humberto Preciado! You certainly know Courtney as the winner of season 16 of The Bachelor (and the New York Times Bestselling Author of her subsequent tell-all, "I Didn't Come Here To Make Friends") and we're thrilled Humberto agreed to join for his first ever pod appearance! These lovely parents struggled finding a sitter for their 5 month old daughter, Paloma, so we get a very cute cameo partway through. :) Today we learn how meeting in your 30s just may be reflected in a relationship, how Courtney and Humberto feel parenthood has affected their bond, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a tight race of a Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? Listen on to find out! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.feals.com/SHANDY to get 50% off your first month of premium CBD delivered directly to your door! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY16 and use code SHANDY16 to get up to 14 free meals, plus 3 free gifts! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.prose.com/SHANDY for your free in-depth hair consultation and use code SHANDY for 15% off your first order of custom hair care! More Courtney: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bugrobertson Book - https://amzn.to/3M6FoSL Website - https://courtneyrobertson.com More Humberto: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/_humberto_preciado/ Preciado Real Estate: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/preciadorealestateaz/ Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome to Courtney and Humberto! 2:06 - How They Met 10:23 - First Impressions 15:56 - How They Complement Each Other 21:53 - Early Hurdles 26:13 - Andy Has Some Questions 27:28 - How They Fight 31:27 - How Parenthood Has Affected Their Partnership 36:57 - What's Different About This Relationship Versus Past Ones? 40:20 - Has Humberto Seen Courtney's Bachelor Season? 49:29 - Relationship Beliefs That Have Changed 54:05 - The Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game 1:08:49 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's guest, Allison Raskin, is a New York Times best selling author and mental health advocate. Her 3rd and latest book, “Overthinking About You: Navigating Romantic Relationships When You Have Anxiety, OCD, and/or Depression” just came out on Tuesday (May 3). When we polled you, our Shandies, over on Instagram about this topic, the floodgates of messages and emails opened, so we do our best to cover the most common themes today, including when to reveal your mental health struggles in a new relationship, how to communicate your needs (and what to leave out), and how to tell the difference between your anxiety and your gut instincts. If you've ever found yourself obsessively agonizing over whether or not someone's right for you, today's conversation just might be for you. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! - Go to https://go.factor75.com/SHANDY120 and use code SHANDY120 to save $120! More Allison Buy Her Book - https://amzn.to/3MRMPNy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/allisonraskin Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/emotionalsupportlady Podcast - https://foreverdogpodcasts.com/podcasts/just-between-us 0:00 - Welcome To Allison Raskin! 5:19 - When Should One Share Their Mental Health Struggles With Someone They're Dating? 9:32 - The Difference Between Process And Content—How Much Should You Share? 15:43 - Where's The Line Between Unnecessary Anxiety And Listening To Your Gut? 17:28 - Attraction 21:24 - How To Combat A Lifetime Of Being Told What A "Right" Relationship Looks Like 25:21 - What If Your Partner Doesn't Know How To Help Or Understand? 28:35 - Thoughts On If One's Partner (Or Partner-To-Be) Expresses Hesitation Because Of Their OCD? 36:01 - How To Prevent Your Partner From Eventually Taking Things Personally? 39:58 - Must One Have Their Mental Health Struggles Under Control Before Dating? 41:40 - Tips For Navigating Dating When It's A Cause Of Anxiety 48:16 - What To Do If Your Partner Refuses To Help Themself? 51:43 - Advice For Couples Where Both Parties Are Struggling Individually 53:34 - Medication 57:31 - What's The Gold Star Response To Give When Your Partner Opens Up About Their Struggles To You? 58:49 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today's lovely caller, Kelsey, introduces us to a popular new term (Platonic Life Partner, or "PLP"), redefining what one's "soulmate" might look like. But Kelsey also has quite the conundrum: she has developed romantic feelings for her PLP. Are these feelings real and should she act on them, even at the risk of the special platonic bond and partnership they've developed? Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.talkspace.com and use code SHANDY to get $100 off your first month of therapy! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY for 35% off all bedding and loungewear! 0:00 - Welcome to Caller Kelsey! 52:06 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is it wrong to fantasize about other people if you're in a committed and happy partnership? If you find someone great but just can't come to find them attractive, is that worth ending things over? And just how important does Shandy find sleep compatibility? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!  Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.fahertybrand.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off your Spring staples! - Go to https://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.truebill.com/SHANDY to cancel unwanted subscriptions with one tap! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 35% off all bedding and loungewear! 0:00 - Q1: I'm Happily Married But Fantasize About Someone From The Gym—Help! 6:45 - Q2: Should I Tell My Friend That I Slept With Our Mutual Friend? 23:08 - Q3: My Boyfriend Talks In His Sleep And It's Affecting My Ability To Function By Day—Help! 33:12 - Q4: My Crush Is In A Relationship With A Clear Expiration Date And He's Already Emotionally Cheated With Me—Thoughts On Possibly Being The Other Woman? 56:03 - Q5: I've Been Seeing An Amazing Guy But Just Can't Find Him Attractive—Should I End It? 1:08:28 - Q6: My Boyfriend Won't Sell The Ring From His Former Engagement—Thoughts? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today's couple has been hotly requested for so many months, it's about time we brought them into the Shandy fold for a double date! Dave Neal, standup comedian and host of the wildly popular Bachelor Nation News Youtube channel, and his fiancée, blogger Tasha Courtney, join us to chat. We learn about the long journey that led to their courtship (complete with a grand gesture or two), how their first impressions have changed, how they navigate working together, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game with the most shocking score to date. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY16 and use code SHANDY16 to get up to 14 free meals, plus 3 free gifts! - Go to https://www.prose.com/SHANDY for your free in-depth hair consultation and use code SHANDY for 15% off your first order of custom hair care! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! More Dave: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dnealz Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/DaveNealActor More Tasha: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tashacourtney Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/tashamcourtney More TaDa: Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-sap-comedians-talk-motivation-dating/id744156889 Blog: https://www.wearetadatravels.com 0:00 - Welcome to Dave and Tasha! 5:17 - How They Met 23:33 - First Impressions And If/How Those Have Changed 28:00 - What Is Different About This Relationship Versus Previous Ones? 30:13 - How Do They Fight? 34:38 - How Do They Navigate Working Together? 36:42 - How Involved Is Tasha In Dave's Bachelor Empire? 41:31 - Is Tasha Surprised By Dave's Youtube Success? 49:16 - Any Beliefs About Relationships That Have Been Changed By This One? 56:04 - The Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game 1:09:13 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's lovely guest, Nicole Sodoma, is a seasoned divorce attorney of over two decades and the managing principal at Sodoma Law, based in Charlotte NC. Her debut book, "Please Don't Say You're Sorry: An Empowering Perspective on Marriage, Separation, and Divorce from a Marriage-Loving Divorce Attorney" will be released on May 24. She has also been through a divorce of her own, so needless to say, she's beyond qualified for today's "Confessions" episode! Nicole answers all of YOUR burning questions, and our conversation covers everything from her personal observations to (oftentimes surprising) divorce stats to invaluable life advice. Thanks to our sponsors: - Go to https://go.factor75.com/SHANDY120 and use code SHANDY120 to save $120! - Go to https://www.feals.com/SHANDY to get 50% off your first month of premium CBD delivered directly to your door! - Go to https://www.magicspoon.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for $5 off! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY for 35% off all bedding and loungewear! More Nicole Book - https://amzn.to/3K8j8Xv Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/nicolesodoma/ Website - https://nicolesodoma.com Articles For HuffPost - https://www.huffpost.com/author/nicole-h-sodoma Time Stamps 3:57 - Did She Always Want To Be A Divorce Attorney? 5:41 - If She Could Go Back In Time And Do Something Else, What Would It Be? 8:54 - Is Divorce One Of The Most Expensive Things In The World? 13:40 - What's The Average Time A Divorce Takes From Beginning To End? 16:32 - If You Get Married In One State But Reside In Another, Which State's Divorce Laws Apply? 17:22 - What Percentage Of The Divorces She's Dealt With Had Prenups? (Are Prenups In And Of Themselves An Indicator For Separation?) 23:50 - What Are The Top 3 Reasons She Sees For Divorce? 26:16 - What Percentage Of Divorces Are Amicable Versus Contentious? 29:53 - What's The Most Common Thing Couples Fight Over, And What's The Most Shocking Thing She's Seen A Couple Fight Over? 32:46 - Do Couples Ever *Not* Fight Over Custody? 36:35 - What Percentage Of Couples Who Make It To Her Office End Up Not Going Through With It? 38:10 - What's The Most Romantic Thing She's Ever Seen During A Divorce? 39:14 - How Is Debt Calculated? 42:32 - What Are Her General Thoughts On Prenups? 52:50 - How Many Years Into Marriage Are The Most Common For Divorce? 54:39 - What Are The Most Common Ages She Sees? 56:04 - What Are Some Things She Wishes Couples Would Consider Before Marriage? 59:08 - Did She Represent Herself In Her Own Divorce? 59:59 - What Are Some Red Flags She Wishes People Would Look Out For? 1:01:34 - Let's Say You Know It's Over—What Are The Best First Steps? 1:04:17 - What Advice Would You Give To Someone Going Through A Divorce Right Now? 1:06:02 - Is Marriage Worth The Risk? 1:07:42 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today's call will likely be very relatable for those dating out there. Today we're joined by Lauren, a young single mom who knows what she wants and has been crystal clear in what she's looking for. However, the guy in question says one thing and does another. Is this a dealbreaker? And how much does "double dipping" affect things? Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY for 35% off all bedding and loungewear! - Go to https://www.talkspace.com and use code SHANDY to get $100 off your first month of therapy! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! 0:00 - Welcome to Caller Lauren! 52:06 - Shandy Debrief If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! How should you proceed if you love your partner but not his very frequent, very loud hobby? Why do guys stop trying when they get the girl? And what are Shandy's thoughts on the woman proposing to the man? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!  Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.magicspoon.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for $5 off! - Go to https://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.truebill.com/SHANDY to cancel unwanted subscriptions with one tap! 0:00 - Q1: Why Do Men Stop Trying When They Get The Girl? 13:42 - Q2: I Want To Ask A Semi-Celebrity Out Via DM—Any Tips? 27:23 - Q3: I'm A Woman And Am Considering Being The One To Propose To My Boyfriend—Thoughts? 39:09 - Q4: I Have A Crush On My Manager—How Should I Make A Move Or Is It Too Risky? 50:27 - Q5: I Love My Fiancé But Can't Stand His Constant Singing—What Should I Do? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor Season 26 recaps! Today we're breaking down the grand finale. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! - Go to https://www.fahertybrand.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off your Spring staples! - Go to https://www.magicspoon.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for $5 off! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! 0:00 - Housekeeping 04:09 - Overall Thoughts On The Finale 04:26 - Finale Part 1 Kick Off 7:41 - The Rose Ceremony From Hell 33:37 - Clayton's Family 35:35 - Gabby Meets Clayton's Family 36:23 - Rachel Meets Clayton's Family 47:41 - Finale Part 2 Kick Off 52:06 - Susie 56:15 - The Breakup 1:05:21 - Live: Gabby 1:10:46 - The Breakup, Continued 1:13:45 - Live: Rachel 1:20:28 - The Show Resumes 1:21:41 - In The Countryside 1:25:29 - After The Final Rose 1:27:56 - Next Bachelorette 1:29:44 - Overall Thoughts 1:32:59 - Recapping Our Original Predictions 1:34:54 - Shandy Word Watch If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Parasocial relationships are defined as one-sided relationships, where one person extends emotional energy, interest and time, and the other party, the persona, is completely unaware of the other’s existence. Have you ever wondered how the celebrity in this situation, or the "persona", feels about this dynamic? Today we're joined by accomplished actor, writer, and Youtuber Josh Peck, to chat how it feels to be on the other side. With 3.5 million Youtube subscribers, 7 million TikTok followers, 12.6 million Instagram followers, and having been on TV since age 10, it's safe to say Josh is on the receiving end of millions of parasocial relationships. Can he even process that so many people caring about him or feeling like they know him? How does it feel to know he could be shaping the identities of so many? And does he ever feel a reverse dynamic, where he feels attached to his fans or even betrayed by them? Listen on for a fascinating discussion about human nature, our relationship with ourselves, and the strange dynamic that is parasocial relationships. Thanks to our sponsor: - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY16 and use code SHANDY16 to get up to 14 free meals, plus 3 free gifts! More Josh His Book "Happy People Are Annoying" - https://amzn.to/3tdttvd Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/shuapeck TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@joshpeck Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/c/joshpeck Curious Podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/curious-with-josh-peck/id1378163166 If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today's is Andy's all-time favorite call. We're joined by Fiona, who is in a one year old relationship. As things have become long distance she finds herself and her partner fighting more than usual. However, the more questions we asked, the more we learned there's more to her story and her reservations. Listen on for the Shandy take! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor Season 26 recaps! Today we're breaking down Overnights. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.feals.com/SHANDY to get 40% off your first 3 months of premium CBD delivered directly to your door! 0:00 - Housekeeping 2:53 - Women Tell All 4:31 - Cassidy 6:54 - Shanae 14:27 - Sarah 17:30 - Teddi 20:40 - Serene 22:33 - Clayton 29:39 - Bloopers 30:00 - Jesse's Season Recap 34:34 - Episode 9 Kick Off 37:51 - Rachel's Overnight 48:12 - Gabby's Overnight 57:27 - Susie 1:34:26 - Credits 1:35:29 - Shandy Word Watch 1:36:47 - Shandy's Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

After Our Wedding Story episode, we were overwhelmed by follow-up questions. We asked if you wanted a Part 2 and you said yes! So, combining your emails, comments, DMs, and Instagram poll questions, here are our answers! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY for 35% off all bedding and loungewear! - Go to https://www.talkspace.com and use code SHANDY to get $100 off your first month of therapy! 0:00 - Introduction 1:58 - Who Was At Our City Hall Wedding? 6:47 - What Was The City Hall Process Like? 8:38 - Did Anyone Give Us a Hard Time For Doing City Hall Initially? 9:16 - Thoughts On First Look Versus Waiting Until The Aisle? 10:54 - Did Either Of Us Have Last Minute Jitters/Cold Feet? 17:59 - Advice On Plus-Ones? And What About Kids? 23:25 - Did You Take It Personally If Someone Did Not Come? 27:05 - What Was Our First Dance Song?  29:14 - Did We Do A Choreographed Dance? 32:03 - Did We Drink? 35:19 - Thoughts On Guests Who Only Attend The Reception? 41:13 - How Did You Pick Your Photographer? 50:28 - How Did You Pick Your Wedding Party? 58:06 - How Can We Have Energy For The Bedroom That Night? 59:43 - Did Either Of Us Experience Guilt Trips From Our Families During Planning? 1:02:16 - What Did We Do For A Gift Registry? 1:03:37 - Did We Have A Honeymoon? 1:04:11 - What Did Guests Compliment The Most? 1:04:21 - What's Something You Wish You'd Had On Hand? 1:04:39 - If You Could Have A Do Over, Would You Do Anything Differently? 1:05:35 - Which Anniversary Do You Celebrate? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor Season 26 recaps! Today we're breaking down Hometown week. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! - Go to https://www.talkspace.com and use code SHANDY to get $100 off your first month of therapy! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY for 35% off all bedding and loungewear! 0:00 - Housekeeping 0:34 - Overall Thoughts on Episode 8 2:13 - Susie's Hometown  11:34 - Gabby's Hometown 32:43 - Serene's Hometown 52:46 - Rachel's Hometown 1:07:56 - Back In Los Angeles 1:08:52 - Rose Ceremony 1:09:57 - Shandy Word Watch 1:12:30 - Shandy's Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is there *ever* a case to be made for keeping the engagement ring after the relationship ends? Is a DWI an absolute dealbreaker, or should one focus instead on the honesty in revealing it? And is it cause for concern if your new boyfriend reveals he misses his ex's family? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! 0:00 - Q1: After A Broken Engagement, Should The Woman *Always* Return The Ring, Regardless Of Circumstance? 6:40 - Q2: Is A Recent DWI A Dealbreaker? 18:01 - Q3: Should I Still Make The Guy Chase If The First "Date" Was Virtual? 39:10 - Q4: I've Been With My Partner For 11 Years But Still Wonder About Our Mutual Friend With Whom I've Had An Emotional Affair 56:42 - Q5: My New Boyfriend Is 6 Months Out Of A 6-Year Relationship And Has Expressed Missing Parts Of That Life—Should I Be Concerned? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor Season 26 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode7. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.stance.com and use code SHANDY for 15% off your first purchase! - Go to https://www.thefab.co/shandy for 25% off Fabulous Premium! - Go to https://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.truebill.com/SHANDY to cancel unwanted subscriptions and save $$$ with one tap! 0:00 - Housekeeping 2:24 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 7 3:12 - Episode 7 Kick Off 6:08 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 12:54 - Rose Ceremony 15:45 - Vienna, Austria 20:52 - Susie's 1-On-1 27:02 - Group Date 56:58 - Serene's 1-On-1 1:01:44 - Rose Ceremony 1:04:43 - Shandy Word Watch 1:06:30 - Shandy's Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by one of Bachelor Nation's most iconic women, Krystal Nielson and her partner, Miles Bowles! You may remember Krystal from Arie's season of The Bachelor and season 5 of Bachelor In Paradise. We learn how Krystal and Miles balance each other out, how parenthood has changed their lifestyle, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game with questionable scoring but sufficient entertainment to make it A-OK. Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! More Krystal: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachkrystal_ Website: https://www.krystalnielson.com More Miles: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/milesbowles Pül Smartcap: https://www.instagram.com/pulhydration If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor Season 26 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 6. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY16 and use code SHANDY16 to get up to 14 free meals, plus 3 free gifts! 0:00 - Housekeeping 2:29 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 6 5:29 - Episode 6 Kick Off (2-On-1 Date Resumes) 25:02 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 30:19 - Rose Ceremony 32:39 - Hvar, Croatia 35:42 - Teddi's 1-On-1 42:40 - Group Date 55:43 - The Clocktower "Date Card" 57:51 - The Next Day 59:46 - Sarah's "1-On-1" 1:06:38 - Credits 1:07:23 - Shandy Word Watch 1:09:24 - Shandy's Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by caller Anna, newly single and looking to mingle. Her casual fling was great while it lasted, but things have taken a turn. Does this guy think he played a role in her career-driven move? Watch on for the Shandy take! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor Season 26 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 5. Thanks to our sponsors: - Go to https://www.feals.com/SHANDY to get 40% off your first 3 months of premium CBD delivered directly to your door! - Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $15 off your first month! 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:25 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 5 2:18 - Episode 5 Kick Off 5:10 - Serene's 1-On-1 15:37 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 34:44 - Rose Ceremony 36:04 - They're Going To Toronto! 36:51 - Toronto 39:46 - Gabby's 1-On-1 48:19 - Group Date 1:04:07 - 2-On-1 Date 1:05:15 - Shandy Word Watch 1:06:47 - Shandy's Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you waiting for The One to finally begin living your life? Or are you in a partnership so comfy you've lost sight of your own individuality? Today we're joined by John Kim, aka The Angry Therapist, to discuss how singledom is more opportunity than pitfall. John Kim is a licensed marriage and family therapist, life coach, best-selling author, and host of The Angry Therapist podcast. His latest book, Single. On Purpose. helps you prioritize your relationship with yourself, with or without a partner, and is available now. Thanks to our sponsor: - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY for 35% off all bedding and loungewear! More John Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/theangrytherapist Blog - https://angrytherapist.medium.com Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/user/theangrytherapist If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor Season 26 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 4. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY for 35% off all bedding and loungewear! - Go to https://shop.analuisa.com/SHANDY for up to 40% off your jewelry purchase! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! 0:00 - Housekeeping 0:53 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 4 2:28 - Episode 4 Kick-Off 3:18 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 21:43 - Rose Ceremony 34:09 - Rachel’s 1-On-1 47:39 - The Next Day  50:14 - Group Date  1:02:06 - Credits 1:04:33 - Shandy Word Watch 1:07:01 - Shandy’s Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If the guy you're into goes radio silent, is is possible to salvage things? Is it possible a few years of experience could turn an ex from a bad lover into a good one? And what are Shandy's thoughts on a sexless marriage of 8 years? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsor! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY16 and use code SHANDY16 to get up to 16 free meals, plus 3 free gifts! 0:00 - Q1: I'm 23 And Stuck In A Cycle Of Situationships—Should I Take Myself Off The Market For Now? 12:21 - Q2: My Crush Has Gone Radio Silent—What's My Next Move? 25:36 - Q3: I Have Anxiety Over Interacting With My Ex-Best Friend At An Upcoming Wedding—Am I Overreacting? 33:14 - Q4: I Have Been In A Sexless Marriage For 8 Years—Give Me Guidance! 55:01 - Q5: My Longtime Friend And Ex Was Bad In Bed Then But It's Been Years—Is It Worth Risking The Friendship To Pursue Romance Again? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor Season 26 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 3. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.truebill.com/SHANDY to cancel unwanted subscriptions and save $$$ with one tap! - Go to https://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off plus free shipping! - Go to https://shop.analuisa.com/SHANDY for 10% off your jewelry purchase! - Go to https://www.thefab.co/shandy for 25% off Fabulous Premium! 0:00 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 3 1:18 - Cassidy's FWB-Gate, Continued 15:59 - Rose Ceremony 26:06 - Group Date #1 35:52 - Sarah's 1-On-1 58:21 - Group Date #2 1:13:53 - Shandy Word Watch 1:16:29 - Shandy's Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by one of Sharleen's closest Bachelor Nation friends, Jacqueline Trumbull, and her fiancé Paul Seli! You may remember Jacqueline from Arie's season, where she, like Sharleen, withdrew in Week 7. She and Paul are both in psychology (Jacqueline is a PhD student at Duke University, where Paul is a professor of Psychology and Neuroscience), so needless to say, there's fun analysis of relationship dynamics in today's conversation. We learn how Paul overcame jealousy in the early stages, how their psychology backgrounds play a role in their relationship, and their thoughts on The One. Finally, a real nail-biter of a Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://shop.analuisa.com/SHANDY for 10% off your jewelry purchase! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! - Go to https://www.squarespace.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for 10% off your first website or domain! More Jacqueline: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/trumbullina A Little Help For Our Friends Podcast: https://www.alittlehelpforourfriends.com/episodes.html More Paul: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paul.seli.art If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by TWO lovely callers. Our first caller, Lisa, is in the very early stages of dating a guy who seems accompanied by red flags. Should she end things before she gets invested, or is it too soon to throw away the first "butterflies" she's felt in awhile? Our second caller, Danielle, is an introvert in a relationship with a full-blown extrovert, and she feels their differences in this regard could be causing a red flag. Should she attempt change her ways or does this speak to a deeper problem? Watch on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsor! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY to get 35% off all bedding and loungewear! 0:00 - Welcome to caller Lisa! 34:42 - Shandy Takeaways 42:56 - Welcome to caller Danielle! 1:09:20 - Shandy Takeaways If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor Season 26 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 2. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY to get 35% off all bedding and loungewear! - Go to https://www.nutrafol.com and use code SHANDY for $15 off your first month's subscription, plus free shipping! - Go to https://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY14 and use code SHANDY14 to get up to 14 free meals, plus 3 free gifts! 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:20 - Overall Thoughts On Episode 2 2:34 - Episode 2 Kick Off 5:50 - Group Date #1 31:15 - Susie's 1-On-1 37:08 - Group Date #2 54:24 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 1:07:53 - Shandy Word Watch 1:10:10 - Shandy's Predictions If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Is there such a thing as the "right" number of dates in the early stages? What does it mean when a coworker flirts but never makes a move? And how can we protect a new relationship from growing annoyances? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!  Q1: In The Early Stages, How Many Dates A Week Is "Normal"? Q2: I'm Interested In The Housemate Of A Guy Friend I Used To Date—How Should I Proceed? Q3: My Coworker Is Very Flirty But Never Asks Me Out! How Do I Get Him To Make An Actual Move? Q4: My Ex-Fiancée Broke My Heart But Is Still Keeping Tabs On Me Online—Can I Reopen The Lines Of Communication? Q5: My Partner Has A Very Annoying Habit—Help! Referenced book: Breakup Bootcamp by Amy Chan - https://amzn.to/3xiCCDf If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelor Season 26 recaps! Today we're breaking down the premiere. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.truebill.com/SHANDY to cancel unwanted subscriptions and save $$$ with one tap! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY to get your first dermatology visit for only $5! - Go to https://www.feals.com/SHANDY to get 40% off your first 3 months of membership, plus free shipping! 0:00 - Housekeeping 1:55 - Overall Thoughts On Clayton's Season Premiere 2:42 - Clayton Surprises His Mom 7:14 - Jesse Palmer 8:13 - Getting To Know Clayton 11:46 - Intro Videos 20:34 - Salley 26:39 - Andy's Burning Question 28:53 - Shandy's Limo Exit Wins And Fails 36:11 - Clayton's Toast 36:54 - Notable 1-On-1 Time 53:05 - First Impression Rose 53:57 - Rose Ceremony 56:37 - Shandy Word Watch 58:53 - Shandy's Predictions 1:04:42 - Wild Cards If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In keeping with tradition, we're doing something a little different to ring in the New Year. This topic has been requested for awhile now, so today, inspired by Episode 1 (How We Met) and Episode 21 (Our Proposal Story), we're doing another throwback! We're going back in time to January 2015 thru September 2017, to what happened after Andy proposed. Listen on to hear why we waited 2.5 years for a wedding, what expenses got out of hand, how "influencer"-dom played a role, "The Moment" that made it all worthwhile, and in retrospect, what we would have done differently! 0:00 - Introduction 2:35 - City Hall 5:33 - Considering A Wedding 10:23 - Choosing A Venue 14:15 - Postponing 14:54 - Deciding To Hire A Planner 15:38 - The "Influencer Wedding" 20:49 - Thoughts On Having A Planner 21:43 - The Dress 34:10 - Tasting 35:23 - The Cake 35:33 - Our Cake Topper 36:31 - The Dress, Continued 38:06 - Wedding Day 41:02 - The Big Reveal 42:37 - Our City Hall Officiant 43:57 - "The Most Important Day In Your Life" 46:03 - Wedding Day, Continued 46:47 - The Ceremony 50:11 - Cocktail Hour/Reception 50:38 - The Moment 53:50 - Wedding Favors 54:06 - Jewish Traditions 54:30 - In Retrospect: Regrets, Surprises, Things We're Happy About 1:08:48 - Overall Takeaways If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelorette Season 18 recaps! Today we're breaking down the finale. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.magicspoon.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for $5 off! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're thrilled to be joined by the power couple behind The East Family Youtube and media empire, Shawn Johnson East and Andrew East! Shawn and Andrew share the behind-the-scenes of how they met, how they complement each other, their early relationship hurdles, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! More Shawn: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shawnjohnson TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shawnjohnson More Andrew: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andrewdeast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@andrewdeast Redirected Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redirected/id1366095841 More Shawn & Andrew: The East Family Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ15Zl-v8-ghTgEOTpxHdGw Couple Things Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/couple-things-with-shawn-and-andrew/id1485740243 Uniqorn Coffee: https://uniqorncoffee.com Teddy & Bear Toy Shop: https://www.instagram.com/teddyandbearkids If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelorette Season 18 recaps! Today we're breaking down Men Tell All. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.magicspoon.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for $5 off! - Go to https://www.rothys.com/SHANDY for $20 off your first purchase! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY to get 35% off all bedding and loungewear! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today's caller, Anna, was broken up with exactly one week before this call. However, instead of being able to sever ties with her ex, she has a complicated hurdle to overcome: custody of their dog, Zeke. Should Anna honor her ex's wishes for shared custody, even if it means hindering her healing from this fresh breakup? Watch on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://franklyapparel.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for $20 off your first order! - Go to https://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off plus free shipping! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelorette Season 18 recaps! Today we're breaking down Men Tell All. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/SHANDY and sign up for free to book a top-rated doctor! - Go to https://www.truebill.com/SHANDY to cancel unwanted subscriptions and save $$$ with one tap! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're diving deep into a topic you've been requesting since Dear Shandy's earliest days: Enmeshment. We're joined by psychotherapist Alyssa Mancao to define this dynamic, how to navigate it, and when and how to set boundaries. This conversation also spawns a lot of interesting tangents on subtopics ranging from culture norms to differentiating between irritation and impairment. Alyssa Mancao is a psychotherapist and the founder of Alyssa Marie Wellness, a therapy practice in Los Angeles. She is a writer, speaker, and educator focused on Social Justice & Mental Health. Her writing has been featured in Huffington Post, Elle, Women’s Health, Oprah Magazine, and Re-Spin, among many others. More Alyssa Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/alyssamariewellness Thanks to our sponsor! - Go to https://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off plus free shipping! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelorette Season 18 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 7. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY to get 35% off all bedding and loungewear! - Go to https://www.betterhelp.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first month of therapy! - Go to https://www.manscaped.com and use code SHANDY to get 20% off + free shipping! Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, never saw a full season before becoming a recapper here on Dear Shandy. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds. If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! If your FWB relationship is firmly in the past, should you still tell your current partner about it? How important is it to have a social life outside of one's relationship? And how reasonable an excuse is "bad timing"? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Q1: My Partner Wants To Replace Our Planned Couple Getaway With Yet Another Annual Family Visit—Am I Being Difficult? Q2: My Boyfriend And I Are In A Healthy Long-term Relationship But We Both Don't Have Any Close Friends—Is This Normal? Q3: Should I Tell My New Partner About My Former Friend Group FWB? Q4: My Boyfriend Insists That I Should Change My Name If We Get Married But I Love My Name—Thoughts? Q5: My Ex And I Ended On Bad Terms And I Want To Tell My Story But It Involves Sharing A Secret Of His—Right Or Wrong? Q6: The Guy I've Been Hooking Up With Blames "Timing" For Us Not Making It Official—Is This BS? Referenced book (with the pie chart): Breakup Bootcamp by Amy Chan - https://amzn.to/3xiCCDf Sharleen's blog post about not changing her name: http://www.alltheprettypandas.com/blog/2016/to-change-or-not-to-change If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelorette Season 18 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 6. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.magicspoon.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for $5 off! - Go to https://www.postmates.com (or use the app!) and use code SHANDY to get 50% off your first 5 orders of $50 or more! - Go to https://franklyapparel.com/SHANDY for $20 off your first order! Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, never saw a full season before becoming a recapper here on Dear Shandy. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds. If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Sarah Herron (who you may remember from Sean Lowe's season of The Bachelor, as well as the 1st and 3rds seasons of Bachelor In Paradise) and her fiancé, award-winning photographer and videographer Dylan Brown. These two join us from Colorado to share how first impressions may not be what they seem, how they complement each other, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a neck-and-neck Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! Thanks to our sponsor - HELLO TUSHY! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet! More Sarah and Dylan Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahherron Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dylan.h.brown If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelorette Season 18 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 5. Thanks to our sponsor! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY to get 35% off all bedding and loungewear! Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, never saw a full season before becoming a recapper here on Dear Shandy. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds. If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today's caller, Claire, is in a happy relationship. However, her boyfriend's sister is rude in small ways. Are these slights a matter of obliviousness, dominance, or maturity? And is confronting her the right path? Can we *ever* hope for genuine harmony with our partner's family? Watch on for the Shandy take! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelorette Season 18 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 4. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.postmates.com (or use the app!) and use code SHANDY to get 50% off your first 5 orders of $50 or more! - Go to https://www.betterhelp.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first month of therapy! Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, never saw a full season before becoming a recapper here on Dear Shandy. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds. If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's topic came hotly requested and we're thrilled to be joined by a familiar face: Whitney Bischoff Angel, winner of The Bachelor Season 19! As an experienced fertility nurse, as well as a woman who has gone through the egg freezing process herself, Whitney is more than qualified to answer the Shandies' burning fertility questions! Whitney shares the leading contributing factors to infertility, whether or not the age 35 is overblown as being THE age when fertility begins to drop, the step-by-step process of egg freezing (as well as the cost!), and her thoughts on the media's messaging around fertility in general. Whitney really is a wealth of knowledge and this conversation was both so enjoyable AND informative for us. We hope you think so, too! More Whitney Bischoff Angel Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/whitb624 Ova Clinic - https://ovaeggfreezing.com/ Thanks to our sponsor! - Go to https://www.manscaped.com and use code SHANDY to get 20% off + free shipping! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelorette Season 18 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 3. Please note this episode contains spoilers about the next Bachelor—refer to time stamps below. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.cozyearth.com and use code SHANDY to get 35% off all bedding and loungewear! - Go to https://www.manscaped.com and use code SHANDY to get 20% off + free shipping! 0:00 - Episode 3 Kick-Off 1:44 - Group Date #1 27:35 - Bachelor Spoiler Warning - Skip To Next Section 28:12 - Resume Here 30:36 - Rodney's 1-on-1 45:01 - Group Date #2 49:55 - Bachelor Spoiler Warning - Skip To Next Section 50:00 - Resume Here 1:03:43 - Rose Ceremony Cocktail Party 1:16:17 - Rose Ceremony 1:18:31 - Shandy Word Watch 1:20:43 - Shandy's Predictions Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, never saw a full season before becoming a recapper here on Dear Shandy. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds. If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Why might a guy disappear after sex? If you want to rekindle with an ex, or "double dip", where's the line between following your heart and being cavalier with someone's feelings? And "number ratings": uncomfortable truth or unnecessarily cruel? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Q1: Did He Hit It And Quit It? Q2: The Guy I'm Seeing Rated Me A "7 Or 8"—Is He For Real? Q3: Living Together Led To Our Breakup, But Now That He's Moved Out, I Want Him Back. Do I Have A Chance? Q4: My Longtime Gym Crush Hasn't Made A Move—How Should I Proceed? Q5: My Ex From Several Years Back Is Single And I Feel I've Made It Clear I'm Interested Again—Thoughts? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelorette Season 18 recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 2. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.rothys.com/SHANDY for $20 off your first purchase! - Go to https://www.postmates.com and use code SHANDY for 50% off your first 5 orders of $50 or more! Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, never saw a full season before becoming a recapper here on Dear Shandy. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds. - Sharleen's Bachelor recap archives: http://www.alltheprettypandas.com/bachelor - Sharleen's Bachelor glossary: http://www.alltheprettypandas.com/glossary If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 You may notice today's Love Fest is a little bit different! In honor of Andy's obsession with big waves, we're welcoming the stars of HBO's hit docuseries, 100-Foot Wave! This episode is where you'll catch Andy in a very rare state of being starstruck. Garrett McNamara, 8-time Guinness World Record holder for largest wave ever surfed, is one of the biggest names in surfing. His wife, Nicole, is not only his manager but also a passionate environmentalist and teacher. They've been together for over 11 years and have two children with a third on the way. Garrett and Nicole share the unique story of how they met (for context, we circle back to this topic towards the end), how they complement each other, how they "knew", and how parenthood changed their relationship. Finally, a record-shattering Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! More Garrett & Nicole Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mcnamara_s/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mamaunearthed/ Thanks to our sponsor! - Go to https://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off plus free shipping! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with Bachelorette Season 18 recaps! Today we're breaking down the premiere. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.betterhelp.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first month of therapy! - Go to https://www.manscaped.com and use code SHANDY to get 20% off + free shipping! Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, never saw a full season before becoming a recapper here on Dear Shandy. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds. - Sharleen's Bachelor recap archives: http://www.alltheprettypandas.com/bachelor - Sharleen's Bachelor glossary: http://www.alltheprettypandas.com/glossary If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by caller Marcela. Marcela struggles between waiting for the light at the end of the long distance relationship tunnel, versus wanting to live life to the fullest as a single and unattached woman. Where's the line between holding out for something good and heeding FOMO's siren song? Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.betterhelp.com/SHANDY for 10% off your first month of therapy! - Go to https://www.franklyapparel.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for $15 off your first purchase! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For anyone going through a breakup, or just anyone whose patterns around love and dating need rewiring, this episode is for you. Today's guest is the founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a retreat that takes a scientific and spiritual approach to healing the heart. She is also the author of the instant bestseller Breakup Bootcamp: The Science of Rewiring Your Heart. Needless to say, she knows a thing or two about breakups and how to recover from them! Amy shares the top 3 mistakes people make when going through a breakup, the chemical reason why reaching out to an ex for "closure" will only impede your healing, her thoughts on "The One", and why we're attracted to the wrong people in the first place. She provides great tips for healing and discovery, and we promise you'll leave this episode feeling more in control of your emotions (and actions!) than when you started listening. PS—Don't miss her "breakup" with Andy! Amy has been writing about relationships, dating and love for over a decade. She's the Editor-in-Chief of Heart Hackers Club – an online magazine that focuses on the psychology behind love, lust and desire. Her work has been featured on Good Morning America, in Vogue, Glamour, Nightline and the front page of The New York Times. Her instant bestseller, Breakup Bootcamp – The Science of Rewiring Your Heart, has been translated in five languages. More Amy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/missamychan Buy Breakup Bootcamp – The Science of Rewiring Your Heart - https://amzn.to/3lfE30G Her next Renew Breakup Bootcamp Retreat - https://renewbreakupbootcamp.com/retreat/ If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

By popular request, Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise recaps! Today we're breaking down the finale of season 7. Thanks to our sponsors! Go to https://www.grove.com/SHANDY to choose a FREE starter set with your first order! Go to https://www.manscaped.com and use code SHANDY to get 20% off + free shipping! Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast - https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! How soon is too soon to doubt a relationship you just entered into? If your longtime friend has been neglected you for some time, should or shouldn't you attend her wedding? Are "white lies" just a matter of convenience or do they amount to red flags? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Q1: Are Everyday Annoyances Simply A Part Of Marriage? Q2: For Feminism Reasons, My Sister Refuses To Let Our Father Walk Her Down The Aisle On Her Wedding Day—Shandy's Thoughts? Q3: I'm Newly Into My First Relationship But Am Already Having Doubts—Should I Stick It Out? Q4: My Longtime Friend Has Been Distant And Unavailable And Has Now Invited Me To Her Wedding—Should I Still Go? Q5: I've Caught My Fiancé In Multiple White Lies—How Concerned Should I Be About This? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

By popular request, Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 10 of season 7. Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast - https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by one of Sharleen's best friends from the franchise, Jasmine Lorimer, the one and only Bachelorette Canada! She and her boyfriend of nearly 2 years, Eric, join Shandy to talk first impressions, how they complement each other, how they navigate different love languages, and of course, how they FIGHT! This one's a real treat for our Canuck Shandies (especially those born in the 80s!) as the Canadian references never stop. 🇨🇦 Finally, one of the funniest Dear Shandy Newlyweds Games to date! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! More Jasmine Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jasmine.lorimer Dream On Shop: https://www.dream-on-shop.com More Eric Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/e.s.r.j If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

By popular request, Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 9 of season 7. Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.getquip.com/SHANDY and get $10 off your smart electric toothbrush! - Go to https://www.apostrophe.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for $15 off your dermatology visit! Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast - https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by caller Vivian, who is in a happy relationship but with one caveat: she doesn't feel understood when it comes to their exchange of gifts. Does this speak to a greater issue? Just how important is the effort behind gift giving, and what if that effort is barely there at all? Listen on for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsors! - Go to https://www.franklyapparel.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for $15 off your first purchase! - Go to https://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off plus free shipping! 0:00 - Welcome to Caller Vivian! 14:25 - Shandy Sleuthing 53:18 - The Shandy Take If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

By popular request, Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 8 of season 7. Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy  More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com  More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dear Shandy is officially 1 year old! We wanted to do something a little different to celebrate this milestone, so we asked you over on Instagram to submit your questions. Shandies, THANK YOU for a truly rewarding and enriching year of podcasting. Listen on to hear us reflect on this journey! Sharleen's "Starting A Podcast" blog post: https://www.alltheprettypandas.com/blog/dear-shandy-podcast Q1: A Toast To Our Shandies! Q2: Why Did You Start A Podcast? Q3: Who Are Your Dream Guests? Q4: Which Are Our Favorite Episodes To Record? Q5: What Does Andy Do? More Andy! Q6: How Do You Two Navigate Apartment Decor? Q7: What Have Been The Biggest Challenges In Podcasting? Q8: Have You Ever Disagreed On An Answer And Had To Discuss Later? Q9: Do You Prepare Your Answers To Relationship Questions? Q10: Have You Learned Anything About Each Other Thanks To The Podcast? Q11: How Did Sharleen Convince Andy To Do This? Q12: Which Bachelor Couples, If Any, Have Refused To Do Love Fests? Q13: Why Do Questions NOT Get Chosen For The Pod? Q14: Which Caller Question Has Been The Hardest To Answer? Q15: How Many Hujus Have You Done In Your Relationship? (Shout out to Game Of Roses!) Q16: What Equipment Do You Use? Q17: Have Any Questions/Calls Ever Gotten Cut And Not Aired? If So, Why? Q18: How Much Work Is A Podcast? Doable With A Day Job? Q19: Sharleen, Do You Miss Writing Your Recaps? Q20: Do You Think The Pod Has Changed Your Marriage And/Or Brought You Closer? Q21: How Do You *Really* Feel About Doing Ads? Q22: Favorite And Least Favorite Episodes? Which Has Been The Most Challenging? Q23: Do You Get Jealous Hearing About Each Other's Exes? Q24: What Are Your Top 5 NYC Restaurants? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy  More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com  More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

By popular request, Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 7 of season 7. Thanks to our sponsors! Go to https://www.grove.com/SHANDY to choose a FREE starter set with your first order! Go to https://www.manscaped.com and use code SHANDY to get 20% off + free shipping! Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy  More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com  More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

By popular request, Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 6 of season 7. Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds. If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Support Dear Shandy: https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Subscribe - https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Listen on iTunes - https://bit.ly/DearShandyiTunes More Dear Shandy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Facebook - https://fb.me/dearshandy More Sharleen Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Blog - http://www.alltheprettypandas.com More Andy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Produced by Gabrielle Galon - https://www.instagram.com/gabsamillion Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! How much should you hold out for your fairytale? How many friendships with exes is TOO many? And is it worth it to re-pursue a former high-paying career, even if it's at the cost of your partner's? This episode also features Andy's kissing tips (you do NOT want to miss these). Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

By popular request, Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 5 of season 7. Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast - https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

By popular request, Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 4 of season 7. Thanks to our sponsor! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet! Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast - https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 We have YOU, dear Shandies, to thank for this Love Fest as you passionately requested this wonderful couple. Today we are joined by Jess Ambrose, stylist and co-host of the Chatty Broads podcast, and her husband Evan Ambrose, musician, producer, and co-host of Chatty Bros! This couple may not be directly from the Bachelor world, but they are more than qualified thanks to their famed podcast and commentary, so this marks our first foray into non-Bachelor coupledom! Jess and Evan share the fascinating story of how they met, how a break from their relationship is what saved it, and how religion played a role in their partnership. They also talk parenthood, the ways in which they complement each other, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! Thanks to our sponsor: Visit www.franklyapparel.com/SHANDY and use code SHANDY for $15 off your first purchase! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

By popular request, Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 3, season 7. Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast - https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

By popular request, Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise recaps! Today we're breaking down episode 2, season 7. Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast - https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Today we're joined by TWO callers, both of whom have meet-cute stories with guys at friends' weddings. With Nicole, we decipher a text thread, and with Leila, we discuss the importance of a meeting story. Where's the line between serendipity and forcing a square peg into a round hole? Listen on for the Shandy take! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

By popular request, Shandy is back with Bachelor In Paradise recaps! Today we're breaking down the premiere of season 7. Thanks to our sponsors! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet! Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you been seeking marriage or a longterm relationship but find it eludes you? Have you ever wished someone would just give you the honest truth about what's up? Today's guest is the famed straight-shooting relationship author, Tracy McMillan. Tracy shares what she believes the single biggest mistake people make when it comes to dating, why she thinks FWB arrangements aren't a good idea, and her thoughts on masculine/feminine energy in a dating climate which, unlike a mere decade ago, forces women to pursue. Whether you're in a happy relationship (in which case I promise this will have you nodding in agreement) or you're single and looking (or not!), Tracy's perspectives on human behavior and relationships are as satisfying as they are insightful. Tracy McMillan is a television writer, relationship author, and was a matchmaker on NBC's Ready For Love. Her viral Huffington Post article, "Why You're Not Married" is Huffington Post's most-viewed article ever (!!) and it inspired her subsequent best-selling self-help book, "Why You're Not Married... Yet". She has appeared on Oprah and Dr. Phil among many others, and her Ted Talk titled "The Person You Really Need To Marry" has over 16 million views. More Tracy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/tracymcmillan Buy Her Book, "Why You're Not Married... Yet" - https://amzn.to/3jLhrTN Her Viral HuffPost Article - https://www.huffpost.com/entry/why-youre-not-married_b_822088 Her Ted Talk - https://youtu.be/P3fIZuW9P_M If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with your recap of the finale of Katie Thurston’s season of The Bachelorette! Thanks to our sponsor! Visit http://www.manscaped.com and use code SHANDY for 20% off and free shipping! Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions! Should you tell your partner if you find yourself reminiscing about a past relationship? Does not wanting to date someone with kids mean you're just too picky? And when is it acceptable to tell a friend you think her boyfriend sucks? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with your recap of Episode 9 of Katie Thurston’s season of The Bachelorette! Thanks to our sponsors! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet! Visit http://www.grove.com/SHANDY for a free natural product starter set with your first order! Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today's is a particularly momentous Love Fest and a Dear Shandy exclusive! Fittingly for our 1-year anniversary month and our 12th Love Fest, we are joined in person by our dear friend Nick Viall and his lovely girlfriend Natalie. For the first time ever, Nick and Natalie share the detailed story of how they met, as well as how Natalie was a "Jedi Master" in their coming together. They also talk early stage hesitations, the ways in which they complement each other, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! Thanks to our sponsor: Visit www.warbyparker.com/SHANDY to try 5 pairs of glasses/sunglasses at home for free, plus free shipping!  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with your recap of Episode 8 of Katie Thurston’s season of The Bachelorette! Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Have you ever dated someone whose platonic friend(s) didn't exactly welcome you with open arms? Today's caller, Dayna, has a predicament which inadvertently touches on social dynamics when it comes to dating: jealousy, social hierarchy, a partner's say in who we spend our time with, and how friendships can change when someone in the friend group finds their Happily Ever After. Not all questions have clear answers, and while this one falls squarely into that category, we guarantee you'll relate to some part of today's conversation. If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with your recap of Episode 7 of Katie Thurston’s season of The Bachelorette!  Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.  Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You have asked for months for us to bring on an Astrologer and Tarot card reader, and the day has finally come! We're admittedly not big on Astrology, so to compensate for our lack of knowledge, we've brought the big guns: Expert Tarot Reader & Astrologer, Maisy Bristol! Maisy dishes her tips for couples when Mercury is in retrograde, she reads our birth charts and corresponding compatibility, and does a tarot reading on our relationship. And though we may not be in our element with this episode, you'll definitely learn a thing or two about Shandy! More Maisy Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/tarotbymaisy Website - https://www.tarotbymaisy.com If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with your recap of Episode 6 of Katie Thurston’s season of The Bachelorette! Come join us to chat about Hunter, "Operation WOWO", and Connor B!  Thanks to our sponsors! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet! Visit http://www.hellofresh.com/SHANDY14 and use code SHANDY14 for up to 14 free meals, plus free shipping! Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions. In a straight yet platonic male-female friendship, how much stock should one put in flirtatiousness? How much flakiness is *too* much to put up with in a friend? How should one navigate dating a "fabulously wealthy" person when they are accustomed to holding their own financially? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with your recap of Episode 5 of Katie Thurston’s season of The Bachelorette! Come join us to chat about newcomer Blake, Andrew S' long-awaited 1-on-1, Hunter versus everyone, and a whole lot of frankenbiting.  Thanks to our sponsor - MANSCAPED! Visit http://www.Manscaped.com and use code SHANDY! Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Katie Morton (who you may remember from Colton's season of The Bachelor, as well as the 6th season of Bachelor In Paradise) and her handsome boyfriend (and pro footballer!) James Rowe. These two are the poster children for long distance and pandemic dating, and the story of how they met just might renew your faith in the elusive Meet Cute. Katie and James share how apps and Facetime have played a role in their relationship, how they complement each other, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a surprising Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? More Katie & James https://www.instagram.com/katieemo https://www.instagram.com/jamesrowe8 If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with your recap of Episode 4 of Katie Thurston’s season of The Bachelorette! Come join us to dissect Tre vs Andrew S, new arrival Blake Moynes, and of course, THOMAS. Thanks to our sponsors! Visit http://www.FranklyApparel.com/SHANDY for $15 off your first purchase! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet! Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Just how many unchecked boxes are *too* many? Today's conversation is a doozy and covers just about everything: different religions and cultures, socioeconomic class, a parent's approval, the pandemic, self-esteem, and coming of age. Our lovely caller, Jamie, is in a happy relationship but it isn't what she'd envisioned for herself. If you've ever been in a relationship you valued but knew deep down things weren't quite right, we guarantee you will relate to the crossroads at which Jamie finds herself. If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with your recap of Episode 3 of Katie Thurston’s season of The Bachelorette! Come join us to dissect Karl's behavior, the least fun Group Date of all time, Michael's 1-on-1, and of course, THOMAS.  Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds.  Check out a free chapter of Desiree Hartsock Siegfried's new book - The Road To Roses! https://bit.ly/3gR1awF If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's Hot Topic episode is one of Sharleen's personal favorites. We're joined by the brilliant Dr. Uchenna Ossai, one of a handful of pelvic floor physical therapists in the world to also be certified in sexuality counseling. We polled you over on Instagram for your questions, and boy, you DELIVERED. Today's conversation covers everything from pain during sex, to post-natal issues, to incontinence, to orgasms (including Dr. UC's orgasm hacks!) There's something for everyone in this episode, even those with no pelvic concerns. Needless to say, the pelvic floor plays a serious role in all your down-there activity, and Dr. UC is a bottomless pit of wisdom, delivered in the most non-judgmental and positive way. Prepare to learn a lot, to have fun doing it, and to do lots and lots of kegels... Thanks to our sponsor - HELLOFRESH! Go to http://www.HelloFresh.com/SHANDY12 and use code SHANDY12 for 12 free meals, including free shipping! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shandy is back with your recap of Episode 2 of Katie Thurston’s season of The Bachelorette! Come join us to dissect Mike’s poem, Aaron versus Cody, the many kisses (good and bad), and of course, KARL. Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog, All The Pretty Pandas, and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down Season 17 of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds. Thanks to our sponsors! Visit http://www.FranklyApparel.com/SHANDY for $15 off your first purchase! Go to http://www.ManCrates.com/DEARSHANDY to get 20% off when you spend $149 or more! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 Does texting style affect our perception of a person, and how good an indicator is texting compatibility for real-life compatibility? If your current flame ended an engagement a mere 3 months before you met, and won't commit for that reason, is he just not into you or does he really just need more time? (And on that note, had Andy met Sharleen only 3 months after his ended engagement, does he think they still would have worked?) How dirty is TOO dirty for a date's home, and is an unkempt home a dealbreaker? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!" Thanks to our sponsors! - Visit http://www.ManCrates.com/DEARSHANDY to get 20% off when you spend $149 or more! - Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ask and you shall receive! You've asked us for ages to recap The Bachelor and its spinoffs, and we're finally obliging. Sharleen is a veteran Bachelor recapper, having recapped for 7 years (!) on her blog and for Flare magazine, since her own appearance on Season 18. Andy, meanwhile, has never watched a full season (this is no joke—he even fast-forwarded through most of Sharleen's own season). But, being married to the "Recap Queen", even he has gleaned a thing or two. Hear Shandy break down the premiere of Katie Thurston's season of The Bachelorette with Sharleen's insider perspective, Andy's unfiltered male perspective, and Shandy's combined analytical minds. If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today's happy couple is bonafide Bachelor royalty: Ben Higgins and his stunning fiancée, Jess Clarke! These two join us from their house in Denver, which they are currently renovating, to talk the ins and outs of their sweet relationship. We learn their first impressions of one another, the ways they complement each other, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! Thanks to our sponsor - HELLO TUSHY! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet!  More Ben & Jess Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/higgins.ben Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessclarke_ Generous Coffee: https://generouscoffee.com Order Ben's Book: https://www.thomasnelson.com/p/alone-in-plain-sight/#preorder Hope Still Wins Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hope-still-wins/id1568735974 If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Our caller, Maya, may be in a happy, healthy relationship, but she's at a crossroads. If you've ever been in a longterm relationship and felt marriage should be a given, you just may relate to Maya's (all too common) situation. Just how long is *too* long to wait for a partner's certainty? This just might be our most heated caller conversation to date. Thanks to our sponsor - MANSCAPED! Visit http://www.Manscaped.com with code SHANDY to get 20% off plus free shipping! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever wondered what dating and relationships are like when you're a celebrity? How do famous folks meet these days, and when they do, what's different? Do they behave differently in dating than the rest of us, and do "civilians" stand a real chance with them? Our resident celeb is comedian, famed roaster, and podcast host Nikki Glaser! She is brutally honest in her assessment of dating at her (self-assessed) "B-list" level of fame, her own celebrity crushes (including some of Bachelor Nation's finest), and the do's and don'ts of sliding into the DMs of the rich and famous. In addition to being simply hilarious and her trademark unfiltered self, Nikki has poignant takes on love and "The One"—do NOT miss this one! Thanks to our sponsors! Visit http://www.Grove.co/SHANDY to get a FREE gift with your first order of $30 or more! Go to http://www.HelloFresh.com/SHANDY12 and use code SHANDY12 for 12 free meals, including free shipping! More Nikki Glaser Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nikkiglaser Twitter: https://twitter.com/NikkiGlaser The Nikki Glaser Podcast: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1119-the-nikki-glaser-podcast-79573913/ If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 If you have a crush on someone in their workplace, is it OK to ask them out? And if so, what are Andy's tried-and-true tips for making a move? Should you put off dating until you have your ducks in a row professionally? Just how much do straight men really care about a woman's occupation and professional success? And if you've been friend-zoned, is there any hope for rekindling that romantic spark? There are some STRONG opinions shared in this Q&A sesh—come join us in our living room for the Shandy take!" If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by Sydney Lotuaco (who you may remember from Colton's season of The Bachelor) and her sweet boyfriend, Nick Wehby. These two have a particularly unique meeting story that just might renew your faith in pandemic dating. Sydney and Nick share how the pandemic played a role in getting to truly know one another, how they complement each other, and of course, how they FIGHT! Nick also graciously shares a powerful story that transformed his view on life. Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Does being one of our "younger" couples work for or against these two? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Our caller, Kate, has a unique predicament that veers into discussions about mismatched Love Languages and our cultural expectations surrounding proposals. How much does a formal "Will you marry me" *really* matter, and does a man's reticence to deliver on this gender role tradition speak to a deeper problem? Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever watched a reality TV dating show and wondered what that poker-faced host is REALLY thinking? As Temptation Island fans and general admirers of its host Mark L Walberg's piercing commentary, we're thrilled he agreed to join us for a Confessions episode! Temptation Island brings on four straight real-life couples who are at crossroads in their relationships, separates them for a month, and has them live with (very forward) straight singles of the opposite sex. It originally debuted in 2001, at the start of the reality TV boom, and was rebooted in 2019. As the host of a show with an obviously controversial concept, how does Mark navigate the usual trappings of reality TV "trash"? Does he make his own personal predictions about the couples and their outcomes? Does he pick favorites among them? How much does he really know when heading into a "bonfire"? How has Mark's own marriage informed his ability to spot and call out destructive relationship behavior? Mark is a very open and endearingly honest guest, and whether or not you're a fan of Temptation Island, his perspectives on relationships, love, and life are worth listening to. In case you're interested in dipping your toe into Temptation Island, Sharleen's favorite season is Season 4 (or Season 1 of the reboot), and Andy's is Season 5 (or Season 2 of the reboot).   Thanks to our sponsors! Go to http://www.Grove.co/SHANDY and get a FREE gift with your first order of $30 or more! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet! More Mark https://www.instagram.com/markwalberg https://twitter.com/marklwalberg Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 How normal are growing pains when you and your partner first live together, and is it too harsh to deem your partner's living habits unattractive? If you think you're falling for your soon-to-be-roommate—who also happens to be 6 years younger than you—should you explore this or let it go? If you're "cloaked" by someone on a dating app, even after making plans, should you call out their rude behavior? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today's happy couple is downright iconic in Bachelor Nation: Desiree and Chris Siegfried! We recorded this after they were able to put their boys to bed on the West Coast, which resulted in a very late night and thus very delirious/loopy/giggly chat. Truthfully, this couple exceeded every (already high) expectation: they're refreshingly real and down-to-earth, and simply fun to hang out with. They share how they complement each other, how kids have transformed their relationship, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, a particularly amusing Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? Thanks to our sponsor - HELLO TUSHY! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet! More Desiree & Chris https://www.instagram.com/desireesiegfried https://www.instagram.com/desireehartsock https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/heart-of-purpose/id1511865029 https://www.chrissiegfried.com/ If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Our caller, Elise, has a predicament that might resonate if you've ever lusted after a close friend. If you found yourself in love with your close friend-turned-roommate, what would you do? What if said roommate had a longterm girlfriend, yet simultaneously seemed to reciprocate your affections? Today's call went in a different direction than originally expected, which really shows the difference between a written email and a true conversation.  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today we're joined by licensed family and marriage therapist, Elizabeth Earnshaw! There's something for everyone in this episode: If you're either single or in a happy relationship, but you're simply curious what a LFMT encounters in her office, the first half (our "Confessions" segment) is for you! If you have concerns about your own partnership (or your in-laws!) and want to hear a professional's take on our listeners' most frequently asked questions, the second half is for you. There are many helpful lessons in this episode, some of which might catch you by surprise... Thanks to our sponsor - HELLO TUSHY! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet!  More Elizabeth Earnshaw https://www.instagram.com/lizlistens https://lovelessons.mykajabi.com/instagram-links https://www.huffpost.com/entry/after-an-affair-staying-t_b_11044340 If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 Is it really a MUST that you and your partner live together before getting married? Just how important is a shared sense of humor in a forever relationship? Which famed statement is more true: "Absence makes the heart grow fonder", or "Out of sight, out of mind"? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today's happy couple requires no introduction: Kaitlyn Bristowe and Jason Tartick! We had high expectations for this "double date" and Jaitlyn did not disappoint. They share their first impressions of each other (and how those have changed), how they complement each other, what early hurdles they overcame, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? Thanks to our sponsor - HELLO TUSHY! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet! More Kaitlyn & Jason https://www.instagram.com/kaitlynbristowe https://www.instagram.com/jason_tartick If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! Our first caller, Mel, was dumped for not being vulnerable enough. Is there a "vulnerability" timeline? Our second caller, Kate, is in a happy relationship but is perturbed by how little she misses for her partner when they're apart. Could this be a clue to a deeper relationship concern?  Thanks to our sponsor - POSTMATES! Download the Postmates App and use the code: DEARSHANDY for $5 off your first 5 orders! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We brought the big guns to tackle your sex and intimacy questions: Sex Therapist Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy! There's something for everyone in this episode: If your sex life is great but you've always been curious about the things a sex therapist has heard and seen, the first half is for you. If your sex life is something of a work in progress, the second half is for you. This episode also includes one of Shandy's own most mind-blowing discoveries... can you guess what it is?  Thanks to our sponsor - HELLO TUSHY! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet! More Dr. Lauren Forgel Mersy https://www.instagram.com/drlaurenfogelmersy Dr. Mersy's recommended reading: "Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski - https://amzn.to/39pWx97 If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 Is it wise to stay connected with your ex via Instagram? Is it a dealbreaker if a guy flakes on your first date at the last minute? Is opening up a 10-year relationship too risky to consider? And if you and your ex broke up due to his lack of relationship experience, is it acceptable to circle back one day, to see if he's changed/matured? Come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! Thanks to our sponsor - POSTMATES! Download the Postmates App and use the code: DEARSHANDY for $5 off your first 5 orders! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by one of Bachelor Nation's happiest (and most iconic!) couples, Ashley Iaconetti and Jared Haibon! These two got married in 2019 and have been very generous with sharing their relationship with the world, but we promise you'll still learn ins and outs about their marriage you didn't know before. Today they share how they think they defied the odds in ending up together, how they complement each other, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game!  Thanks to our sponsor - HELLO TUSHY! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet! More Ashley & Jared https://www.instagram.com/ashley_iaconetti https://www.instagram.com/jaredhaibon If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! If you've been in a relationship throughout this pandemic, our first caller's predicament just might resonate: How do you reason with a partner who just doesn't see eye to eye with you on COVID safety? Is this potential dealbreaker material? Our second caller's issue is on the other end of the spectrum: If you were dating someone exclusively (to your knowledge), what would you do if you found their dating profile actively being updated? Is it what it looks like? Watch on for the Shandy take! PS—Our first caller, Rebecca, attended an Ivy League school but wanted to keep the school name private, so that's what the bleeps are. (We know this from our previous interaction with her, not because she brought it up!) If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jealousy is a beast of a topic, so we thought long and hard about who to help us tackle it. Shandy brought the big guns: who better to talk jealousy than the woman who quite literally WROTE THE BOOK on open relationships? We're thrilled to welcome Janet W. Hardy, the co-author of The Ethical Slut, the iconic guide to polyamory that was first published in 1997 and is now on its 3rd edition. As someone experienced in both monogamy and non-monogamy, Janet is no stranger to the jealousy trap. We ask Janet: Why do we feel jealous, what do those feelings often represent, and how can we navigate them? Can jealousy be a good thing for a relationship, and is there such a thing as not being jealous enough? Finally, we pick Janet's brain about open relationships and her personal experiences with polyamory. Can non-monogamy work if it's only one-sided, and do open relationships reflect an inability to commit? Janet is an incredibly frank and honest guest, so Shandy invites you to listen with an open mind and enjoy. "The Ethical Slut" by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton - https://amzn.to/39pWx97 The referenced Rolling Stone article - https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-features/the-ethical-slut-inside-americas-growing-acceptance-of-polyamory-112319/ More Janet on Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/jhardyauthor/ Thanks to our sponsor - HELLO TUSHY! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Show Less Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back in the living room, ready to answer more of YOUR burning questions. 🔥 What are Shandy's tips to help to keep the spark alive in long term relationships? How soon should you know if the person you're with is "The One", and how much do age and experience play a role in "Knowing"? If you're unhappily married, and if divorce is Door #1 and a life of unhappiness is Door #2, is there such a thing as Door #3? Finally, if you have a massive secret that many would judge you for, should you bury it or tell your new partner? You asked for our honest opinions on your tough situations, so come join us in our living room for the Shandy take! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us! Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandy Sharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoynt Andy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by newly engaged lovebirds Derek Peth and Saffron Vadher! These two are on the private side, so we're thrilled they agreed to come on and share their relationship with us in true double date fashion. Derek and Saff can usually be found in NYC, but today, they join us from their house in Iowa. They share the serendipitous story of how they met (spoiler alert: Shandy plays a key role!), how they complement each other, what early hurdles they overcame, and of course, how they FIGHT! Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? Thanks to our sponsor - HELLO TUSHY! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet! More Derek & Saffhttps://www.instagram.com/pethderekhttps://www.instagram.com/saffron/ If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Caller Day! If you were at dinner and your date left abruptly, claiming illness, would you read into it? At what point is showing concern too generous? And, is there such a thing as being too young to consider marriage? Does wanting a big wedding—one you'd need to save up for—mean your marital priorities are all wrong? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We wanted to do something a little different to celebrate New Year's Eve (and the end of 2020!). So today, inspired by Episode 1 (How We Met), we're doing another throwback: we're going back in time to 2014, to what happened after Shandy met, and how (and when) Andy eventually proposed. Watch on to hear his thought process, how he chose the ring (and whether or not Sharleen liked it!), and Andy's "stroke of genius" idea in ensuring the proposal would be a true surprise!  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back in the living room, ready to answer more of YOUR burning questions. 🔥 How necessary is compromise in relationships, and where's the line between loving yourself and being too set in your ways? Is it a dealbreaker if your partner doesn't seem to take your biological clock seriously? And is it possible to salvage a new relationship if you had sex "too soon", and at what point is this concern unto itself concerning? Your questions continue to deliver, so come join us in our living room for our unbiased (and brutally honest) answers.  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by married lovebirds Rachel Lindsay and Bryan Abasolo! These two met and got engaged on Rachel's season of The Bachelorette (Season 13) and married in 2019. They are currently bicoastal as Rachel has recently moved to LA for her job as an Extra correspondent, while Bryan remains in their home in Miami, where he maintains his chiropractic practice. They join us from their respective locations to take a walk down memory lane, sharing their first impressions of one another and how those have changed (if at all). We learn how they complement each other, how they "Knew", and of course, the all-important question, how they FIGHT! We also cover every topic in between, from navigating the public eye to useless skills to cat plates (you'll understand when you get there). Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better?  More Rachel & Bryanhttps://www.instagram.com/therachlindsayhttps://www.instagram.com/thebryanabasolohttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RkaXD4zyR5Q If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Thanks to our sponsor - HELLO TUSHY! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet! Today's call is a bit of an anomaly in that the question asked is not the question answered. What starts out as an innocent relationship gripe turns out to be a red herring or sorts, and as Shandy overturns each stone, a greater concern is exposed. When do you know it's over? And how long is too long to hold out for what could be, versus what is? We thought this would be a quick and lighthearted call, but as we learn, not everything is as it seems.  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Thanks to our sponsor - HELLO TUSHY! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet! Ask and you shall receive! You've been requesting that we talk MONEY for awhile now, and we brought in the very best to help us do it: Bola Sokunbi of Clever Girl Finance! You guys asked great questions and we grilled Bola: Which is better, joint or separate bank accounts? What are the “must” financial conversations you should have before moving in together? Should expenses be split proportionately based on income? And of course... PRENUPS! 😱 Money and finances are treacherous and are one of the leading pitfalls for couples, so hopefully today's conversation sheds some light on this minefield!  More Bolahttps://www.instagram.com/clevergirlfinancehttps://www.instagram.com/bolasokunbihttps://www.clevergirlfinance.com If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back in the living room, ready to answer a whole slew of YOUR burning questions. 🔥 Is it a bad sign if a guy isn't "obsessed" with you? How do you know your "league", and has online dating rigged the system against women? Is there such a thing as having sex too early, and if so, how soon is too soon? Your questions are wonderfully honest, so gear up for a healthy dose of honesty in return. If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by the hotly requested Lesley Ann Murphy and her fiancé Alex Kavanagh! Lesley is a travel blogger and yoga instructor (who you may remember from Sean Lowe's season of The Bachelor, as well as 2018's Bachelor Winter Games), while Alex is a drone pilot and creative director. This dynamic duo works and travels together constantly, but today they join us (on their original wedding date, postponed due to COVID) from Lesley's parents' house in Little Rock, AR, where they have just moved to from LA. They are also pregnant! We learn the serendipitous story of their meeting, whether or not there were cultural differences to overcome (Alex is Australian!), and what kind of impact working together has on their relationship. (Of course, Sharleen asks if they believe in The One, while Andy asks how they fight!) Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better?  More Lesley & Alexhttps://www.instagram.com/lesleyannemurphyhttps://www.instagram.com/drone.pilothttps://theroadlestraveled.com/ If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's call touches on an interesting moral dilemma that many have likely considered, but far fewer have acted on. As "the other woman", which is more ethical: To tell your ex-lover's girlfriend about his cheating ways, or to stay out of their relationship and let her learn those tough lessons on her own? How far does "Do Unto Others" extend, or is it better to trust in karma? And in playing a role in the indiscretion, does one surrender the right to moral high ground? Shandy definitely wants your take on this one! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today's episode is the first in our new "Confessions" series! If you could ask a recently divorced man ANYTHING, what would it be? We polled you over on Instagram and you delivered with fantastic questions. Our guest, Dov Davidoff, is a talented comedian, actor, and real estate developer. But most importantly, he's one of Andy's closest friends and was a groomsman in our wedding! He so graciously joins us today to talk the personal struggles of divorce, whether or not he saw it coming, and what he has learned. Open your mind and prepare yourself for brutally honest life lessons...  More DovDov's book, Road Dog: https://bit.ly/3jUoJ5Hhttps://www.instagram.com/dovdavidoff https://twitter.com/dovdavidoffhttps://www.dovdavidoff.netIf you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Q&A time! We're back in the living room, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 Is it sketchy if your boyfriend follows his ex's erotic accounts, and how much does it matter whether or not he tells you about it? Do longterm friends-with-benefits relationships ever lead to actual relationships, and what should you do if you find yourself developing real feelings? And how important is sexual exploration before settling down? Your questions are getting REAL and we're here for it! 🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♂️ Watch on for the Shandy take... If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by engaged lovebirds Astrid Loch and Kevin Wendt! These two met on Bachelor in Paradise (Season 5) and got engaged a year later, in 2019. They join us from their new house (which is currently undergoing renovations!) to share their first impressions of each other and whether or not TV played a role. We discuss their thoughts on The One, what their (hilarious) peeves are about each other, as well as housework, handbags, and Dominos. (Unrelated: We also learn what happens to Andy's retired V-neck tees.) Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out! More Astrid & Kevinhttps://www.instagram.com/astridlochhttps://www.instagram.com/kevin.c.wendthttps://www.instagram.com/thewendtgang If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Just how honest should you be in your dating profile? If you never drink, would it hurt your dating chances to share that? And if you're in your mid-20s and have never been in a romantic relationship of any kind, how can you take control of your love life? Today's episode is all about hard truths and tough love. Watch on for the Shandy Take! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How familiar are you with the Enneagram? Have you ever considered how your type plays into your relationships? Today we are joined by certified Enneagram coach Stephanie Barron Hall. The Enneagram of Personality, rooted in psychology, is a typology of nine interconnected personality types. With Stephanie's guidance, we learn more about our own types (Sharleen's a 4; Andy's a 5) and how they play a role in our compatibility, how we feel loved, how we communicate, and yes, how we fight. Reflections and confessions lie ahead!  More Steph Buy Her Book - https://bit.ly/TheEnnegraminLove InstagramInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/ninetypescoWebsite - https://ninetypes.co/  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're back to answering YOUR questions! You guys came at us with some tough topics this time around: Should you and your partner talk about your pasts? What should you do if you and your ex are in the same friend group? Do you only seem to want what you can't have? And after having been on The Bachelor, what was dating in the real world like for Sharleen? Our answers to your burning question lie ahead... Can you handle the truth?  If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Love Fest time! Today we're joined by Vanessa Grimaldi and her then-boyfriend (but now-fiancé!) Josh Wolfe. (Josh proposed 3 days after we recorded this!!) We learn the unique way in which these two got to know each other, how they complement each other, and the hilarious hurdle Josh had to overcome. We also talk housework, Canadian snacks, and Squatty Pottys (#notsponsored.... we wish). Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better?? Watch on to find out... If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com More Vanessa & Joshhttps://www.instagram.com/vanessagrimaldi30https://www.instagram.com/jbrwolfehttps://www.instagram.com/nobetteryou Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You've definitely been there: On a date, and the onus feels like it's on you to ask questions and keep the conversation moving. Is your date self-absorbed, or is there more to this? Could you be accidentally contributing to this dynamic? This caller conversation went in a very different direction than expected, but we loved how it brought us (sooner than intended!) to Nervous Energy. We then segue into a couple of our big first date Dos and Don'ts. Do YOU commit any of these early dating crimes?? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Join us every Thursday for a new episode of Dear Shandy! Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can you REALLY be friends with an ex? We're joined by Margie, Andy's ex-fiancée, who conveniently happens to have a PhD in clinical psychology. We go for a stroll down memory lane to learn about their history together. Then we discuss how they came to be friends today and what the key components are to true friendship post-romance. Finally, we get Margie's professional input: What are the biggest mistakes people make when it comes to dating and relationships? Warning: You WILL see yourself in these! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Join us every Thursday for a new episode of Dear Shandy! Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today is all about YOUR questions... the broader ones, that is. What are our thoughts on prenups, and do we have one? How should a woman deal with a man who doesn't satisfy her? After our meeting, did Andy go on dates with anyone else, or did he immediately close down the shop? And did Sharleen play it cool? Find out the answers to your burning questions in our first ever Q&A sesh! If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com Join us every Thursday for a new episode of Dear Shandy! Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For our inaugural Love Fest episode, it's only fitting to be joined by dear friends (and engaged couple!) Caila Quinn and Nick Burrello. We dive deep on first impressions (and how those might have changed!), specific traits they value in each other, and relationship hurdles. Andy and Nick also bond over Instagram-husbandry. 😉 PLUS, we have our first ever Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better?? If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com More Caila & Nickhttps://www.instagram.com/cailaquinnhttps://www.instagram.com/nickburrellohttps://withlovecaila.com/ Join us every Thursday for a new episode of Dear Shandy! Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can you have a genuine connection but still get played? Is age a factor in the likelihood of a guy being a player? And how old was Andy at his most "player-y"? Our caller's story has a magical start but a confusing end that left her wondering what she could have done differently. Listen on to hear the Shandy take!   If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com   Join us every Thursday for a new episode of Dear Shandy! Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy   Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We recorded this on a whim, not sure if it'd ever see the light of day. We weren't sure how best to introduce ourselves and kick off a podcast, but since it's our most frequently asked question, we ultimately decided to recap (and reminisce!) about how we met. Watch on to hear how two diehard skeptics who don't believe in fate, serendipity, or The One, somehow found themselves believing in something (almost).   If you have a relationship question, write us at: dearshandy@gmail.com   Join us every Thursday for a new episode of Dear Shandy! Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy   Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevine Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices