A Love Language Minute draws from Dr. Gary Chapman's years of counseling experience, excerpts from his live events, and his answers to listeners' questions to give encouragement and practical help and hope for the relationships in your life.
Filed for Divorce
What do you do when your spouse has filed for divorce? If your desire is to restore your relationship, listen to them. Ask them what lead them to this place.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
2/6/2024 • 1 minute
Filling Their Love Tank
Sometimes it seems it's impossible to fill your spouse's love tank, even when you speak their love language. Ask your spouse what you could do to better express your love for them.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
2/5/2024 • 1 minute
Resolving conflicts in our marriage.
It's vitally important that we resolve conflicts in our marriage because it will produce barriers to marital unity if the issues are not addressed.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
2/2/2024 • 1 minute
Accepting your spouse, even when you can't change them.
Love in a marriage is the attitude that says "I'm committed to enhancing your life for the rest of our lives". That means loving your spouse, even if there are things you can never change about them.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
2/1/2024 • 1 minute
Arguing
What's so bad about arguing? Arguments are always charged with emotion. Arguments can turn spouses into enemies.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
1/31/2024 • 1 minute
Past Addictions
Not dealing with past addictions will hurt your relationship with your future spouse.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
1/30/2024 • 1 minute
Spending More Time With Your Spouse
Learn how to get your spouse to want to spend more time with you.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
1/29/2024 • 1 minute
Requesting Forgiveness
It's always appropriate to request forgiveness.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
1/26/2024 • 1 minute
Can't Change Your Spouse
It's often difficult to accept things about our spouse that we can't change.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
1/25/2024 • 1 minute
Saying "Please Forgive Me"
Why is it so hard for some people to say, "Please forgive me"? It might be because of fear - fear that the offended person might reject your apology.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
1/24/2024 • 1 minute
Discovering You Own Love Language
In order to understand yourself and relate well to others, it's important to know your own love language. Dr. Gary Chapman's book The 5 Love Languages is a great tool to discover your own love language.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
1/23/2024 • 1 minute
Trust After Cheating
How is it possible to forgive your fiancé if they've cheated on you? You might be able to forgive in the moment, but trust can only be rebuilt over time. You can only trust if a person proves to be trustworthy.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
1/22/2024 • 1 minute
When "I'm Sorry" Isn't Enough
Saying "I'm sorry" might not be enough. Apologizing in a way that's genuine might not be enough for the offended party. Each person has a unique language of apology - a language in which they can offer forgiveness.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
1/19/2024 • 1 minute
Digital-free Zones
The challenge today is for parents to raise their children to be social in a screen-driven world.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
1/18/2024 • 1 minute
Please Forgive Me
Is saying "I'm sorry" enough? Not necessarily. It's vital that when we ask for forgiveness, we ask forgiveness in the offended person's primary language of forgiveness.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
1/17/2024 • 1 minute
Intimacy Before Marriage
All research show that those who are sexually active before marriage have a higher divorce rate than those who wait until marriage.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
1/16/2024 • 1 minute
Military Deployment
How can you show love during military deployments? Dr. Gary Chapman provides creative ideas on how to speak your spouse's love language while deployed.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
1/15/2024 • 1 minute
Apologies
Many relationships die for lack of a sincere apology.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
1/12/2024 • 1 minute
Children and Screens
Do you know how screens are affecting your child?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
1/11/2024 • 1 minute
Frequent Gift Giving
If your spouse's love language is gift-giving, it's time to step up and show your love by giving them gifts frequently.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
1/10/2024 • 1 minute
Dating Web Sites
In today's technical age, many couples have met using various web sites. This can be a very positive way of finding God's direction for the person you should marry.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
1/9/2024 • 1 minute
Occupation and Love Language
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1/8/2024 • 1 minute
Loud Expression of Love
For some, the loudest expression of love is giving a gift.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
1/5/2024 • 1 minute
Social Skills
What social skills are you seeking to develop in your children?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
1/4/2024 • 1 minute
Meaning of Rings
Most marriage ceremonies include the giving and receiving of rings. Your rings are a visible sign of your love and commitment that has no end.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
1/3/2024 • 1 minute
God's Primary Love Language
God doesn't have a primary love language. He speaks all 5 Love Languages. When He speaks to you, He speaks in your love language.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
1/2/2024 • 1 minute
Reflection
New Years should be a time of reflection. Are you pleased with the way you invested your time and energy last year? A new year presents the opportunity to make changes in your lifestyle and priorities.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
1/1/2024 • 1 minute
A Fresh Look at Money
Many people suffer from the pain of financial stress. Jesus taught that "a man's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions". Real satisfaction is found in loving relationships with God and other. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
12/29/2023 • 1 minute
Changing Body Language
Does your body language convey disinterest to your boyfriend? If so, ask him what message he's receiving from your body language. If you're willing, commit to changing that.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
12/28/2023 • 1 minute
Forgiving
Do you know how to forgive and love again? You can, when you realize that God taught us how to forgive and love.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
12/27/2023 • 1 minute
What are Your Children Watching?
Do you know what your children are watching? Remember, you are the gatekeeper of your child's mind.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
12/26/2023 • 1 minute
Giving Gifts
Children wait in anticipation of their Christmas gifts. Likewise, the prophets of old waited in anticipation of the Messiah's arrival.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
12/25/2023 • 1 minute
Gift Giving
When is the last time you gave your spouse a gift? In every culture, gift-giving is part of the love-marriage process.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
12/22/2023 • 1 minute
Gift Giving
When is the last time you gave your spouse a gift? In every culture, gift-giving is part of the love-marriage process.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
12/22/2023 • 1 minute
Another woman
What do you do when your husband frequently emails a woman from a past relationship? Counseling may help, but hurt can still remain.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
12/21/2023 • 1 minute
Changing Someone's Love Language?
Is it possible to change a person's love language? Attempting to change your spouse's love language to one that's compatible with yours is selfish - not sacrificial.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
12/20/2023 • 1 minute
Broken Covenants
What do you do when your spouse has broken your covenant of marriage?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
12/19/2023 • 1 minute
Emotional Foundation
The Christmas season can often be characterized by stress, and stress can lead to harsh words. Romans 14:19 says "Let us make every effort to do what leads to peace". See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
12/18/2023 • 1 minute
Screen Time
How do you raise your kids to be social in a screen-driven world?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
12/15/2023 • 1 minute
Contracts and Leases
Many people get married in the same way they lease a car. On average, contract marriages end in divorce within three years.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
12/14/2023 • 1 minute
Love in my Love Language
How do you get your spouse to show love in your love language?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
12/13/2023 • 1 minute
Physical Touch
Many couples enjoy expressing their love in public. But is there such a thing as too much?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
12/12/2023 • 1 minute
Let's See How it Works Out
In covenants, people make unconditional promises. Many people get married with the idea that "Let's see how it works out". If that's your attitude, your marriage won't work out very well.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
12/11/2023 • 1 minute
Technology
Is technology bring families together or drifting them apart?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
12/8/2023 • 1 minute
Contract Marriages
Contract marriages can be worse than being single.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
12/7/2023 • 1 minute
Birth Control
Do birth control pills go against the will of God?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
12/6/2023 • 1 minute
Love Languages While Separated
How do you apply the 5 love languages while separated?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
12/5/2023 • 1 minute
Covenant or Contract
Is your marriage a covenant or a contract?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
12/4/2023 • 1 minute
Restoring Relationships
If you think you can sin yet still believe you can have a relationship with God, you grossly misunderstand God. When we sin, our fellowship with God is broken. Sin must be rebuked in order to restore your relationship with God.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
12/1/2023 • 1 minute
Conflict with Young Adult Children
Conflict can arise when your young adult children choose to leave their faith and become involved in a different religion. It's important to understand that the greatest influence you have on your children regarding religious beliefs happens in the first 18 years of their lives.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
11/30/2023 • 1 minute
Giving your Anger to God
The first step in conflict resolution is to follow Scripture's mandate to confront that person in hopes of reconciliation. If that doesn't work, turn your anger over to God.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
11/29/2023 • 1 minute
Lots of Baggage
You're dating someone with a lot of baggage from past relationships. What should you do? If that baggage is something you feel you can't deal with, end the relationship.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
11/28/2023 • 1 minute
Poor moral choices
Young adults often make poor moral choices. Some of these choices lead to unplanned pregnancies, STDs and emotional distress. Today, we'll learn what role parents play in this.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
11/27/2023 • 1 minute
Inconsiderate
Your wife says you're inconsiderate, but you don't know what she means. Find out what she means by asking her questions. She'll be more than happy to give you examples. Your relationship will improve if you listen to what she says and choose to change those things.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
11/24/2023 • 1 minute
Love Relationship with God
What does a love relationship with God look like in daily life? We're drawn to Christ when He speaks our love language. Then, we reciprocate by expressing our love to Him in our love language. Love is always a two-way street.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
11/23/2023 • 1 minute
Pursuing a relationship with an Unbeliever
Having a social relationship with a non Christian is appropriate because there's a chance that you might lead them to the Lord. But to have a dating relationship with them when there's no response to God is unwise.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
11/22/2023 • 1 minute
How did you come to Christ?
Jesus said, "No one comes to the Father unless the Spirit draws him." God's method of drawing us is love, and He speaks to you in your own love language.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
11/21/2023 • 1 minute
Love Languages differences and Culture
Do the 5 love languages change or have different meanings depending on one's culture? Cultures are different, but we're all human beings. The love languages transcend culture.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
11/20/2023 • 1 minute
Dating a Man who's been Married Multiple Times
Would it be foolish to date a man who's been in multiple marriages? The answer - yes! It wouldn't be wise unless you first found out what went wrong in each of those marriages.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
11/17/2023 • 1 minute
The Least of These
Jesus said, "As often as you do it to the least of these, you do it unto Me." We're loving God when we love others in their own love language.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
11/16/2023 • 1 minute
Believer and Unbeliever Relationships
Can a believer and an unbeliever have a healthy relationship? The Bible asks the question: "Can two walk together if they're not in agreement?" The answer is, not very long and not very well.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
11/15/2023 • 1 minute
The Greatest Commandment
Jesus said we should love God with all our heart, soul and mind. The reason we love God is because He first loved us. God is fluent in all 5 love languages, and He chooses to speak to you in YOUR love language.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
11/14/2023 • 1 minute
Opposite Love Languages
Is it harder for couples with different love languages to get along? Not necessarily. It all depends on whether the couple is willing to learn each other's love language.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
11/13/2023 • 1 minute
Public School vs. Private Christian School
The choice between sending your child to a public school vs. a private Christian school is difficult. Children need to be in an educational setting where they not only learn academics, but also a Biblical perspective on life.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
11/10/2023 • 1 minute
Impatience
Becoming agitated when things don't go as planned doesn't fix anything. Focus on the solution rather than the problem.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
11/9/2023 • 1 minute
Affirmation before Requests
Affirming the positive in another person changes the climate of the relationship. It'll then be easier to make requests of that person.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
11/8/2023 • 1 minute
The Marshmallow Test
The earlier you learn the discipline of waiting, the better off you'll be later on in life. Patience is indeed a virtue.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
11/7/2023 • 1 minute
Unequally Yoked
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11/6/2023 • 1 minute
Social skills
In our culture, we have exalted academics. Too much emphasis has been placed on excelling academically; but developing social skills is just as important as academic skills.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
11/3/2023 • 1 minute
Impatience
When you become impatient with your spouse and lash out verbally, you have become an enemy - not a friend.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
11/2/2023 • 1 minute
Mental Issues
A spouse suffering from mental issues needs help. The best way to find help is through a counselor and a psychiatrist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
11/1/2023 • 1 minute
Patience
Patience is caring enough to listen empathetically with a view to understanding what's going on inside your spouse.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
10/31/2023 • 1 minute
Too costly to have children?
What do you do when your wife says she doesn't want children because they're too expensive to raise? It's important to remember that the Scriptures say we are to be fruitful and multiply.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
10/27/2023 • 1 minute
Patience
In our western culture, we're not trained to be patient. But patience is one of the traits of love.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
10/26/2023 • 1 minute
Reversing a Regressing Marriage
If your marriage seems to be regressing, you might consider attending a marriage enrichment seminar.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
10/25/2023 • 1 minute
From Anger to Resolution
When you're angry with your spouse, it's not enough to just squelch your anger. You must find a resolution to the situation that stimulated the anger.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
10/24/2023 • 1 minute
Seeking to find a spouse
How do you go about seeking a spouse? Pray, pray, pray!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
10/23/2023 • 1 minute
Can a baby divide spouses?
When your child is born, it's not unusual for you and your spouse to drift apart. Yes, it's important to focus on your child; but it's even more important to focus on your relationship with your spouse.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
10/23/2023 • 1 minute
Future Family Problems
What do you do when you're engaged, but your fiancé doesn't like your family members? This should raise a red flag. Your fiancé may very well be obsessive.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
10/20/2023 • 1 minute
Handling Anger
How you handle anger can make or break your marriage. Before responding in anger, ask your spouse for some clarification. There might have been just a misunderstanding.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
10/19/2023 • 1 minute
Going it Alone in a Struggling Marriage
We are social creatures, and God designed marriage to be the most intimate of all relationships. Trying to go it alone breaks the oneness we should have in our marriage.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
10/18/2023 • 1 minute
They Have Wronged You
When someone has wronged you, the emotion of anger pushes you to fight back. But fighting back will just make matters worse.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
10/17/2023 • 1 minute
Losing Interest
What can you do if your fiancé has lost interest in you?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
10/16/2023 • 1 minute
Depression
How do you handle depression in your marriage?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
10/13/2023 • 1 minute
Handling Anger
Do you have a plan for handling anger in your marriage?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
10/12/2023 • 1 minute
Listening to Others
It's vital that you listen to others regarding the person you're dating. They may see things you're oblivious to.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
10/11/2023 • 1 minute
Who Told You That?!
What would you do if your girlfriend said "God told me you are to be my husband"?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
10/9/2023 • 1 minute
Stinginess
What do you do when your husband is stingy with the money?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
10/6/2023 • 1 minute
Forgiveness
Forgiveness is always the Christian response.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
10/5/2023 • 1 minute
More Involved
How to get your spouse to be more involved in your family life.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
10/4/2023 • 1 minute
Who Your Spouse Deserves
You can become the person your spouse deserves.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
10/3/2023 • 1 minute
Dating
How long should you date before marriage?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
10/2/2023 • 1 minute
Before Getting Married
There are things we should have known before getting married.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
9/29/2023 • 1 minute
Putting the Past Behind
Would you like to put the past behind you?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
9/28/2023 • 1 minute
Living Together
Is living together before marriage a good idea?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
9/27/2023 • 1 minute
Recognition and Appreciation
It's important to know the difference between recognition and appreciation.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
9/26/2023 • 1 minute
Tingly Love
How to move out of the tingly in-love phase.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
9/25/2023 • 1 minute
Sexual Temptation
How can you avoid sexual temptation while engaged?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
9/22/2023 • 1 minute
Feeling Appreciated
How to help people feel appreciated.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
9/21/2023 • 1 minute
Verbal Affirmation
When was the last time you verbally affirmed a coworker?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
9/20/2023 • 1 minute
One Size?
One size does not fit all.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
9/19/2023 • 1 minute
Addictions
How do you deal with alcohol addiction in your family?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
9/18/2023 • 1 minute
Trust
How can you trust that a change in a person has really taken place? Earning your trust may take some time. In the meantime, hope for the best.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
9/15/2023 • 1 minute
Feeling Appreciated
What makes a person feel appreciated?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
9/14/2023 • 1 minute
Positive Emotional Climate
It's important that you help to create a positive emotional climate in the workplace.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
9/13/2023 • 1 minute
Emotional Climate
What is the emotional climate of your workplace?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
9/12/2023 • 1 minute
Strong Marriage
A strong marriage is possible even if you didn't have a good role model.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
9/11/2023 • 1 minute
Getting Angry
Are you a person who can never remember getting angry until you got married? Maybe it's because you're now living with a person who doesn't always live up to your expectations.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
9/10/2023 • 1 minute
Restoring emotional intimacy.
Understanding the 5 Love Languages has helped many couples restore emotional intimacy in their marriage. It's also important to feel the emotional need of being appreciated. Dr. Gary Chapman's book The 5 Languages of Appreciation can help.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
9/8/2023 • 1 minute
Feeling appreciated.
How appreciated do you feel at work? Most people feel unappreciated. You can change the emotional climate at work if you learn to speak the unique love languages of your supervisor and coworkers.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
9/7/2023 • 1 minute
Lost interest.
What do you do when your fiancé has lost interest in you? Understand that their "in love" feelings will eventually go away. Maturity in a relationship requires that you learn to express your love for them in their own love language. It will rekindle their love for you.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
9/6/2023 • 1 minute
Keeping love alive.
How can we keep love alive in our marriage when our focus is on our children or work? It's a matter of priority. Your children are important, but your relationship with your spouse is most important.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
9/5/2023 • 1 minute
Past failures.
Past failures grow into walls of separation. To remove past failures, you must first identify them.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
9/4/2023 • 1 minute
Breakthrough in marriage.
Dr. Gary Chapman talks about a breakthrough early on in his marriage. God showed him that love for his wife was best expressed with an attitude of servanthood.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
9/1/2023 • 1 minute
Dealing with past failures.
A spouse might say, "why can't we just forget the past and focus on the present and the future"? We must deal with past failures. If we don't, those failures will keep popping up.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
8/31/2023 • 1 minute
Should pornography be a stopgap?
Does pornography make up for when you're not together? Absolutely not. Pornography never enhances a marriage because it takes the focus off your spouse and on to someone else.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
8/30/2023 • 1 minute
Is he the one?
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8/29/2023 • 1 minute
Addicted to romantic love.
Our society is addicted to romantic love. Romantic love is obsessive in nature. It's important that we move from the "in love" stage of marriage to the covenant love of marriage.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
8/28/2023 • 1 minute
Learning to show love.
Inside each one of us is the potential to love; but often times we don't show that love for a variety of reason. It's going to require someone to take the initiative to love first. Why don't you become that person?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
8/25/2023 • 1 minute
Christians criticizing one another.
Christians sometimes criticize one another for the way they serve in the church? Realize that each person has a unique love language. If they express their love for God in their love language while serving in the church, don't criticize them for it.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
8/24/2023 • 1 minute
Committed, but not in love.
What do you do when your spouse stays in the marriage because of his commitment, but not for love? The "in love" feeling doesn't last forever. But be grateful for his commitment! The book The 5 Love Languages can help build your love for each other.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
8/23/2023 • 1 minute
Different sexual pasts.
When considering marriage, it's particularly difficult when you've kept your self pure, but your fiancé hasn't. Dr. Gary Chapman recommends counseling for him. If he acknowledges his wrong doing and seeks God's forgiveness, you, too must forgive him.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
8/22/2023 • 1 minute
Previous sexual experience.
In today's society, many couples come to marriage with previous sexual experience. It's a myth that sex before marriage better prepares you for sex in marriage. All legitimate research says otherwise.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
8/21/2023 • 1 minute
The Holy Spirit loving through you.
The Bible says, "The love of God is poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit". So even if you don't feel loved by your wife, love her anyway - the way God loves you.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
8/18/2023 • 1 minute
Work is not a curse.
God put man in the garden to work it, even before sin entered the world. Work is not a curse - it's a blessing.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
8/17/2023 • 1 minute
Loving yourself and others.
If you can't love yourself, are you able to love others? You must first learn to yourself, especially when you realize how much God loves you. If you've experienced God's love, you'll be able to love others.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
8/16/2023 • 1 minute
Apologizing.
Is it necessary to apologize to those from past relationships? The basic pattern is always to apologize when you've wronged someone, even in the past. It will help you have a clear conscience.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
8/15/2023 • 1 minute
Breakup Recovery
Are you finding it difficult to recover from a broken relationship? Don't try to force the issue. Give yourself time. You will get over it.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
8/14/2023 • 1 minute
Older wives' responsibility.
The one Biblical command given to older wives is to teach the younger wives to love their husbands and their children.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
8/11/2023 • 1 minute
Disconnect in the workplace.
Why is there a disconnect in the workplace? It could be because the employees don't feel appreciated. Dr. Gary Chapman's book The 5 Love Languages of Appreciation will provide some new insights.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
8/10/2023 • 1 minute
Hope for the divorced.
Is there hope for couples who've divorced but are still in touch? Absolutely, but it might require beginning with an apology. Learning to speak their love language is a good start in rebuilding the relationship. Dr. Gary Chapman's book The 5 Love Languages is a great resource.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
8/9/2023 • 1 minute
When your husband doesn't want to talk.
You're newly married and your husband doesn't want to talk, but he would rather spend time with his friends. It might mean that he feels put down by you when you talk to him. On the other hand, there may be something else going on that raises red flags.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
8/8/2023 • 1 minute
Men and possessions.
A man's life doesn't consist in the abundance of his possessions.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
8/7/2023 • 1 minute
The need for intimacy in marriage.
God designed marriage to be the most intimate of all human relationships.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
8/4/2023 • 1 minute
We are human.
Conflicts are always going to arise because of one simple reality - we are human. Conflicts are not the problem. Selfishness is the problem.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
8/3/2023 • 1 minute
Marrying 3rd cousin.
Biblically, there's no prohibitions against marrying a relative three times removed. However, it's worth checking with a medical doctor for his/her input.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
8/2/2023 • 1 minute
The fading "in love" phase.
Don't be surprise when the "in love" feelings fade, because they always will. That's when The 5 Love Languages can help you stay emotionally connected with each other.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
8/1/2023 • 1 minute
Arguments.
Arguments seldom lead to a mutually satisfying solution.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
7/31/2023 • 1 minute
Being an effective pastor.
Being an effective pastor begins with being an effective husband. Pastors and ministry leaders won't have a powerful and effective ministry if they neglect the calling God has given them to be a Christian husband.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
7/28/2023 • 1 minute
Learn to Listen.
If you want a healthy marriage, you must learn to listen. Listening leads to understanding. Once you understand what your spouse is thinking and feeling, you can have a meaningful response. Don't speak before you listen.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
7/27/2023 • 1 minute
Having quality time while apart.
It's very difficult for a couple to spend quality time together if one of them is away for extended periods of time (i.e. military deployment). But in today's world of technology, it's much easier to spend quality time together through avenues such as Face Time.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
7/26/2023 • 1 minute
Men's and women's love languages.
Dr. Gary Chapman's book The 5 Love Languages was written for men and women; but the special men's edition provides additional insights on how a husband should love is wife.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
7/25/2023 • 1 minute
There's no communication without listening.
When two people are talking at the same time, nobody's listening. For conversation to be meaningful, it requires talking and listening.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
7/24/2023 • 1 minute
Learning about your wife.
We must be gleaning knowledge about our wife day by day. The best way to do that is to ask questions, then listen.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
7/21/2023 • 1 minute
Do you know how to apologize?
The way we apologize in our younger years is based on the way our parents apologized; but that might not be enough. If we don't speak the right Language of Apology to someone we've offended, we're not likely to have a favorable response.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
7/20/2023 • 1 minute
Appropriate age for marriage.
When it comes to marriage, the age differences in our younger years is colossal. A wide age span between a younger and older person presents a host of problems. But as we get older, the age differences are less important.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
7/19/2023 • 1 minute
Loving the unlovely.
How can we expect to love the unlovely as God does when we are sinful and imperfect? Scripture says the love of God is poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit. That's the only way we are able to love the unlovely.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
7/18/2023 • 1 minute
Necessity for Apology and Forgiveness.
Apologizing and Forgiving are essential for a healthy marriage relationship.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
7/17/2023 • 1 minute
Focusing on our wives.
As husbands, we should focus our love and attention on our wives as Christ loves and focuses His attention on the Church.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
7/14/2023 • 1 minute
Understanding the value of apology.
There are no successful marriages without apologies and forgiveness.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
7/13/2023 • 1 minute
Refusing to take the Love Language test.
What do you do when your boyfriend refuses to take the Love Language test? If he refuses to take a positive step in growing the relationship, that should raise a red flag for you.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
7/12/2023 • 1 minute
Forgiveness.
Is it possible to always forgive? The Biblical model is to always forgive, but forgiveness can't be demanded of us.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
7/11/2023 • 1 minute
Genuine apology.
What do you consider to be a genuine apology? What does the person need to say or do that will make it possible for you to forgive them? Dr. Gary Chapman's book, The 5 Languages of Apology will help you learn what your language of apology is.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
7/10/2023 • 1 minute
Leading like Christ.
A husband that leads his wife like Christ leads the Church leads through servanthood.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
7/7/2023 • 1 minute
When was the last time you apologized?
The last time you apologized, did your spouse accept your apology? It's probably because you didn't apologize in their primary Language of Apology.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
7/6/2023 • 1 minute
Fulfilling Gift-Giving every day.
If your spouse's love language is gift-giving, it's not possible or practical to give them gifts ever day. Neither is it necessary to always give expensive gifts. A small simple gift still communicates your love for them.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
7/5/2023 • 1 minute
Understanding anger issues.
The mismanagement of anger (anger that's held inside) isn't going to go away simply by the passage of time. Managing anger is something that has to be learned.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
7/4/2023 • 1 minute
Learning to speak her Love Language.
Her husband learned to speak her love language when she and her husband attended a Gary Chapman Love Language seminar.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
7/3/2023 • 1 minute
The model of servanthood.
The role of a husband involves headship in the home. But the Biblical model of headship involves servanthood.
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6/30/2023 • 1 minute
Doormat or Lover?
If your treat your spouse as a doormat, you preclude the possibility of love.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
6/29/2023 • 1 minute
When and how are the Love Languages determined?
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6/28/2023 • 1 minute
Undependable fiancé.
If your spouse is undependable, how can you trust him with the big things if he isn't dependable in doing the little things?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
6/27/2023 • 1 minute
Valuable information.
If your wife is criticizing you for not helping her, she's giving you valuable information that says her love language is Acts of Service.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
6/26/2023 • 1 minute
Husband's role in marriage.
What is the husband's role in marriage? God wants to use the husband in the life of his wife to minister to her needs sacrificially.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
6/23/2023 • 1 minute
Coerced love?
You cannot demand that your spouse speak your love language. True love is a choice and should not be coerced.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
6/22/2023 • 1 minute
Boyfriend's "love language".
Your boyfriend says his love language is sex. How can you show him love while honoring your commitment to wait until marriage? Understand that sex is not one of the love languages.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
6/21/2023 • 1 minute
Change Love Language?
Can you change your Love Language in order to accommodate your spouse? No, but you can learn to appreciate the other love languages - especially your spouse's.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
6/20/2023 • 1 minute
Blinded to the Truth.
Don't let the in-love experience blind you to the truth. After the in-love feelings wear off, you will revert back to who you were before you fell in love.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
6/19/2023 • 1 minute
Pastors, who are you giving your life to?
Pastors, who are you giving your life to? Pastors should be serving God through serving people. And serving your family first is fundamental to your service to God.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
6/16/2023 • 1 minute
Marriage is a covenant, not a contract.
Many people view marriage as a contract. The Bible views it as a covenant. Commit yourself to faithfulness, and conduct yourself in a sacrificial manner.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
6/15/2023 • 1 minute
Confronting a cheating spouse.
What's the proper way of confronting your spouse when you suspect them of cheating on you? Confront them in an honest and positive way. If they deny it, accept their word. But if your suspicions persist, it'll eventually become obvious what's going on.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
6/14/2023 • 1 minute
A secretive teenager.
How can a parent monitor their teen's activities without violating their trust? If your teen's secretive behavior is seriously detrimental to them, it's worthwhile to enter their space and confront them.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
6/13/2023 • 1 minute
Husbands, love your wives.
"Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself up for her". We are by nature self-centered. Apart from the work of Christ and the ministry of the Holy Spirit, we are not likely to be that kind of husband.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
6/12/2023 • 1 minute
Learning the 5 Love Languages in the teenage years.
If you had learned the 5 love languages in your teen years, it would have helped you better understand your parents and siblings.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
6/9/2023 • 1 minute
I don't know if I can ever love my spouse again.
What if your spouse has hurt you so deeply that you don't think you could ever love them again? It's understandable when the hurt is fresh; but we must realize that God loved us, even while we were yet sinners.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
6/8/2023 • 1 minute
Appropriate age for teens to start dating.
What is the appropriate age for teens to start dating? Every child is unique in their level of maturity. Dr. Gary Chapman recommends the age of 16.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
6/7/2023 • 1 minute
Music and your teenager.
What is the kind of music your teenager should or shouldn't be listening to? Realize that teenagers have always had their own kind of music. If the lyrics go against Biblical principles, express your concerns. However, realize that your teen is in a stage of breaking away from you. Ultimately, they have to make their own decisions and are accountable to God.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
6/6/2023 • 1 minute
The Biblical concept of marriage.
The Biblical concept of marriage is a covenant between a man and a woman to live together in mutual respect for the glory of God.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
6/5/2023 • 1 minute
Teens learning the 5 Love Languages.
What would happen if your teen learned the 5 love languages and applied them to your family? You would see your family experience a new level of emotional bonding.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
6/2/2023 • 1 minute
Principles and Power to build a healthy marriage.
God give us the principles and power to build a healthy marriage. Many of God's principles go against our nature. For instance, do good to those who do evil. This applies to marriage. A spouse is more likely to repent of you're willing to forgive.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
6/1/2023 • 1 minute
The best way to discipline your teenager.
What is the best way to discipline your teenager? When you make a rule, explain the specific consequences. That way, you're less likely to overreact when your teen breaks the rule. Stay within the boundaries of the consequences.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/31/2023 • 1 minute
Positive influence on your teen.
How can you have a positive influence on your teen when they think you're old fashioned and out of touch? Let them know that you have to do what you think is best for them - even if they think you're old fashioned.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/30/2023 • 1 minute
When your child becomes a teenager, you must stop preaching and start teaching. Learn the art of asking questions as you teach your teen.
When your child becomes a teenager, you must stop preaching and start teaching. Learn the art of asking questions as you teach your teen.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/29/2023 • 1 minute
When a teenager doesn't feel loved by their parents.
What can a teenager do when they don't feel loved by their parents? Surprisingly, a teen should learn and speak their parent's love language.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/26/2023 • 1 minute
Quality time with your teenager.
In order to spend quality time with your teenager, you must develop the art of listening.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/25/2023 • 1 minute
Does your wife respect you?
Does your wife respect you? Maybe not; but the one thing you don't want to do is demand respect. Respect has to be won. A good starting place is to make sure you're speaking her love language.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/24/2023 • 1 minute
Is there ever a "right time" to get a divorce?
Is there ever a "right time" to get a divorce? Dr. Gary Chapman says there's certainly a time to separate. But every effort should be made to reconcile before considering divorce on Biblical grounds.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/23/2023 • 1 minute
Loving your teenager with the right focus.
It's often challenging to show love to your teenager, even if you know and speak their love language. If your teen's love language is quality time, make sure your teen is the focus of your attention.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/22/2023 • 1 minute
Teens loving their parents.
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you". Many teenagers have never applied this verse to their parents. If you're a teen, trying loving your parents the way you would want them to love you.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/19/2023 • 1 minute
Quality time with your teen in a busy world.
How can you spend quality time with your teen in a busy world? Without focused attention on your child, they'll become impaired in their emotional and psychological growth. Busy parents who want their children to feel loved must MAKE time to give them focused attention.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/18/2023 • 1 minute
A childish boyfriend.
How can you help your childish boyfriend to grow up and ace like an adult? First, understand that the time doesn't take foolishness out of the heart of a man. If he's childish at age 20, he'll most likely be childish at age 30 and beyond. You might consider moving on.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/17/2023 • 1 minute
Compatible in marriage.
Don't rush into marriage. A helpful resource to knowing if you and your prospective spouse are compatible is Dr. Gary Chapman's book, "Things I wish I'd known before we got married".See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/16/2023 • 1 minute
Love your wife as Christ loves the Church.
What does it mean to love your spouse as Christ loves the Church? It begins with taking the initiative in loving your spouse, even if they aren't loving you. Love is costly but essential.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/15/2023 • 1 minute
Teenagers loving their parents.
"Honor your mother and father" seems to be a command many teens have not discovered. When teens learn and speak their parent's love language, it can change the emotional climate of the family.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/12/2023 • 1 minute
Discipline is an expression of love.
In Hebrews 12 we read that we shouldn't lose heart when God rebukes us. Why does God discipline us? It's because He love us! His discipline is always for our good. As parents we, too, must discipline our children for their good.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/11/2023 • 1 minute
Showing love while away from your spouse.
How can you show love to your spouse while they're away from you? Dr. Gary Chapman recommends that you study his book "The 5 Love Languages - military edition". It will prove helpful in non-military separation as well.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/10/2023 • 1 minute
A husband with an abusive temper.
How do you deal with a husband with an abusive temper? Uncontrolled anger is one of the most destructive forces in a marriage. Be sure you're speaking his love language, them ask him to go for counseling.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/9/2023 • 1 minute
Service is a way of life.
If your love language is Acts of Service, you know that serving others can take a toll on you physically and emotionally. Taking time to care for yourself is often the best thing you can do for your family.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/8/2023 • 1 minute
A teenage guide to the 5 Love Languages.
Dr. Gary Chapman has written a book called A teenage guide to the 5 Love Languages. It will help your teen understand that each member of the family has a primary love language.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/5/2023 • 1 minute
Do you have a silent spouse?
Have you ever wondered why you have a silent spouse? One reason might be that you shoot down his ideas. This strikes at his self esteem. Instead, present your ideas in the form of a question and let him express his opinions.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/4/2023 • 1 minute
Advice on your wedding day.
The best advice Dr. Gary Chapman gives you on your wedding day is to not let all the details detract from the occasion. Relax, celebrate, and enjoy being with friends and family.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/3/2023 • 1 minute
Showing love to your young son.
You have a problem child and you're exasperated with him. What do you do? You love your child, but it's important that he feels loved. Begin by speaking your child's love language.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/2/2023 • 1 minute
Can trust be reborn?
Can trust be reborn in a marriage? Yes, if integrity is reborn.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
5/1/2023 • 1 minute
How to overcome communication barriers.
Ask your husband to join you in reading a good book on marriage. Then, encourage him to sit down and discuss what he's learned. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
4/28/2023 • 1 minute
Love in the midst of hurt.
When a couple comes to the point of separation, it's usually with many negative emotions. Instead of uttering angry and hurtful words, respond to to your spouse as a friend. Our example is Jesus. He loved us even when we were his enemy.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
4/27/2023 • 1 minute
Husband comments on other women.
It's not appropriate for a husband to make comments about beautiful women in front of you. Remind him that he's married and his attention should be focused on you.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
4/26/2023 • 1 minute
Sexual intimacy while dating.
Sex before marriage does not enhance a relationship. Waiting to have sex after marriage will save you a lot of pain and give you a better foundation for a successful marriage.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
4/25/2023 • 1 minute
The first step toward love.
If your marriage is falling apart, the counter intuitive thing to do is love your spouse. Scripture teaches that love is patient. Your marriage didn't fall apart over night, so reconciliation probably won't take place over night either. Be patient.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
4/24/2023 • 1 minute
Overcoming barriers to healthy communication.
A common barrier to good communication in your marriage is when one spouse talks so much that the other never gets a chance to talk. Instead of talking excessively, ask your spouse good questions, then listen!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.