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Were You Raised By Wolves?

English, Social, 1 season, 234 episodes, 5 days, 17 hours, 27 minutes
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Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos. When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.” Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.” --- Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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Eating Soft Boiled Eggs, Getting A Professional Massage, Being Judgy at Airports, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating soft boiled eggs, getting a professional massage, being judgy at airports, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Soft boiled eggs A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Getting a professional massage QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do you respond to "I appreciate you"? What do I do about a 1960s-themed birthday party that my husband doesn't want to dress up for? VENT OR REPENT: Being judgy at the airport, A loud woman at the theatre CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to our listeners, Thanks to the mahjong club THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Pocillovy (collecting egg cups) "Volcano" at St. Anne's Warehouse (YouTube) Intro to mahjong (YouTube) YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 216 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/26/202442 minutes, 14 seconds
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President's Day Break: Commandeering Televisions, RSVPing to Facebook Events, Returning Shopping Carts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about commandeering televisions, RSVPing to Facebook events, returning shopping carts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I do about guests who were rude and disrespectful to me in my home? How do I handle a neighbor who drops by unannounced and invites herself to events? Is it rude to change your Facebook Event RSVP the day of the event? Should I send a thank you note to my host after being their house guest? What's the correct procedure for needing to spit something out and you only have a cloth napkin? Vent: Returning shopping carts THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW The Shopping Cart Theory (YouTube) YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 97 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/19/202431 minutes, 20 seconds
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Dressing Your Personality at Weddings, Helping People Who Trip, Giving Money to Cashiers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about "dressing your personality" at weddings, helping people who trip, giving money to cashiers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What does "Dress Your Personality" mean as a dress code on a wedding invitation? What should you do if you see a stranger trip and fall in public? When paying at a counter with cash, should you place your money on the counter or put it into the cashier's hand? How do you respond when someone says "I work, but I don't have to"? Bonkers: Abandoning your colleagues at a restaurant THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Chateau Marmont and Neptune's Net on Wikipedia Bumpits commercial on YouTube YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 215 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/12/202425 minutes, 21 seconds
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Thanking Emperors for Tea, Traveling With Pets, Stealing Wipes at the Gym, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle thanking emperors for tea, traveling with pets, stealing wipes at the gym, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Finger Kowtow A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Traveling with pets QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What direction should you face in an elevator with two opposite doors? What should I do about a no-show guest at my pizza party? VENT OR REPENT: Stealing wipes at the gym, Personal space issues on an airplane CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to a neighbor, Thanks for the $20 THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Our PO Box address: Nick Leighton, PO Box 20401, New York, NY, 10011-0004 YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 214 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/5/202443 minutes, 42 seconds
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Using Squeegees in Showers, Stopping Judgy Comments, Asking Strangers for Wedding Cash, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about using squeegees in guest showers, stopping judgy comments about travel plans, asking strangers for wedding cash, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: If a host provides a squeegee in their shower, is a guest obliged to use it? What can I do to stop negative, judgy comments about my travel plans? Do newlyweds have a year after their wedding to send thank you notes for gifts? What's the best way to handle organizing plans in a large group text thread? I skipped morning breakfast with my boyfriend's family when visiting for the weekend...was this rude? Bonkers: Asking strangers for money to pay for their dream wedding THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Squeegee on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 213 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/29/202427 minutes, 36 seconds
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Numbering Floors, Making Others Uncomfortable, Picking Teeth in Public, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle floor numbering around the world, making other people uncomfortable, picking teeth while in public, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Floor numbering A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Making other people uncomfortable QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I say when people think being a stay-at-home mom isn't real work? What should we do about dear friends who insist on picking their teeth at the table? VENT OR REPENT: Forgetting who gave cupcakes, Getting a flu shot CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the cupcakes, A nice email THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Abbot & Costello's "Who's On First" Mithridatism on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 212 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/22/202446 minutes, 2 seconds
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Objecting to Marriages, Watching Strangers' Luggage, Asking for More Chairs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about objecting to marriages, watching strangers' luggage, asking for more chairs, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How should I handle my sister-in law who doesn't think I should be married to her brother? How should we respond to strangers asking us to watch their belongings? How do you send invitations or thank you notes when you don't know the recipient's address? Is there a polite way to suggest to my brother that he should have enough dining chairs for everyone? Bonkers: An undisclosed dress code for a wedding rehearsal dinner THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Trailer for "Freaky Friday" movie Zafu and Zazen on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 211 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/15/202427 minutes, 51 seconds
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Eating Napoleons, Using Annoying Email Phrases, Looking Nice on Subways, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating napoleons, using annoying email phrases, looking nice on subways, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Napoleons A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Problematic email phrases QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to eat in a hair salon? Should we offer to pay for college football tickets when offered? VENT OR REPENT: Looking nice on the subway, Not paying open invoices CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the housing, Thanks for the baked goods THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Britannica: Was Napoleon short? Pierre Hermé YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 210 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/8/202449 minutes, 48 seconds
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Holiday Break: Following Dress Codes, Copying Roommates' Décor, Clearing Plates, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle following dress codes on invitations, copying roommates' décor, clearing plates in restaurants, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Dress codes A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Unsolicited advice QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about a roommate who is copying my décor? What do you do if someone accidentally drinks out of your wine or water glass? VENT OR REPENT: Speakerphones in the bathroom, Clearing plates in restaurants CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the New Year's cheer, Thanks for the flowers THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Dwight Yoakam on Wikipedia Johnny Cash at Folsom Prison on Wikipedia "Single White Female" trailer Otohime episode YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 122 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/1/202438 minutes, 39 seconds
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Holiday Break: Grabbing Fresher Milk, Escaping Unwanted Reunions, Returning Bad Sangria, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about grabbing fresher milk in supermarkets, escaping unwanted reunions, returning bad sangria, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: In a supermarket, it OK to take the fresher milk from the back of the shelf? Is it now common place for people to ask for RSVPs before the invitation is sent? How do I get a host to take the hint that I'm not interested in attending their reunion event? What do I do about bad sangria purchased for me in a bar? Collective nouns for rude people THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW List of collective nouns for rude people YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 187 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/25/202326 minutes, 24 seconds
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Inviting Dogs Into Your Home, Lowering Gift-Giving Anxiety, Crashing Birthday Parties, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about inviting dogs into your home, lowering gift-giving anxiety, crashing birthday parties, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: The holiday office party is at my boss' home...should I bring a gift? How should I react to someone wanting to bring their dog to my home? What sort of holiday greeting should I send former coworkers who were let go this year? How can I let my relatives know that all this gift-giving is causing me anxiety? For online invitations, is it OK to hide the guest list? Bonkers: A dad dropping off his son at a birthday party THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Peach Melba on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 209 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/18/202338 minutes, 53 seconds
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Watching Kalle Anka, Receiving Compliments, Bringing Empty Containers to Restaurants, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle watching Kalle Anka in Sweden, receiving compliments, bringing your own empty food containers to restaurants, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Kalle Anka A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Receiving compliments QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to bring your own empty food container to a restaurant for leftovers? Bonkers: Abandoned by hosts at cocktail hour VENT OR REPENT: Confused by airplane seat assignments, Being asked your weight CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to a fan, Thanks for attending our live show THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "From All of Us to All of You" on Wikipedia "The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo" official trailer Marshalls YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 208 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/11/202341 minutes, 51 seconds
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Licking Yogurt Lids, Calling Stores for Help, Running Out of Dining Chairs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about licking yogurt lids in public, calling stores for help, running out of dining chairs, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it ever appropriate to lick a yogurt lid? Was it rude to call a store from inside the store to ask for assistance? Do some people not understand that working from home is actually working? Was it rude to decline to attend my friend's flower making class? Etiquette Crime Report: Not enough chairs to invite husband to dinner party THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Farrow & Ball Paint YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 207 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/4/202331 minutes, 47 seconds
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Sending Holiday Cards, Finding Bear Sculls, Dropping Umbrellas, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle sending holiday cards, finding bear sculls, dropping umbrellas, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Iced Tea A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Holiday Cards QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I handle being seated in a restaurant next to diners having an unpleasant conversation? Etiquette Crime Report: Finding a bear scull VENT OR REPENT: Dropping umbrellas, Throwing up your hands CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for walking me to my car, A nice email THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Unicef holiday cards EtiquetteCrime.com YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 206 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/27/202350 minutes, 14 seconds
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Holding Subway Doors, Sending Preprinted Cards, Using Recycled Vases, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about holding open subway doors, sending preprinted thank you cards, bringing your own vases to flower shops, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the etiquette for holding open subway doors? Is it tacky to give a thank you card that has "Thank You" preprinted on it? Can a couple just decide to not send thank you notes after their wedding shower? Is it OK to bring your own vase to a flower shop? Bonkers: Tickling toes at an airport THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "What Is Glitter?" - Caity Weaver, New York Times YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 205 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/20/202329 minutes, 59 seconds
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HOLIDAY BREAK: Obeying Little Signs, Coordinating Pot Lucks, Buying Concert Tickets, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle obeying little signs, coordinating pot luck dinners, buying concert tickets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: The origins of "Etiquette" A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Hosting Thanksgiving dinner QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should I tell someone their new boyfriend reminds me of Christian Bale in "American Psycho"? If you're bringing dessert to a pot luck, are you also responsible for bringing the dessert plates? Do I need to give up my better concert tickets in order for my daughter to be able to sit with a friend? VENT OR REPENT: Bad customer service, Ordering sandwiches CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Nice neighbors, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Cindy Post Senning's story about Louis XIV Business card scene from "American Pyscho" The Wiggles Mummenchanz YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 112 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/13/202346 minutes, 1 second
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Eating Raw Oysters, Behaving at Concerts, Tipping With Lottery Tickets, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating raw oysters, behaving at concerts, tipping with lottery tickets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Raw oysters A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Concerts QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to leave winning lottery tickets in addition to a tip at a restaurant? Etiquette Crime Report: Are you pregnant? VENT OR REPENT: Finding seats at a concert, Filming while running CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for being a listener, Thanks for the NLAD wishes THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Oyster fork inside spoon Maura Graber's Etiquipedia Ariana Grande starts song again because fan wasn't ready to record "Pure Imagination" from "Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory" EtiquetteCrime.com YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 204 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/6/202350 minutes, 34 seconds
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Requiring Marriage Certificates, Reimbursing Acquaintances, Taking New York Taxis, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about requiring marriage certificates, reimbursing acquaintances, taking taxis in New York, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I say to my friend who doesn't think a partner of seven years warrants a wedding invitation? What is the proper etiquette for repaying an acquaintance who picked something up for you? How can I keep my cool in the face of tourists rudely asking for directions all day long? What are the rules for taking a taxi in New York City like a local? Bonkers: Rudeness at the gym THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Qi Gong on Wikipedia Labyrinth (1986): "You Have No Power Over Me" scene YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 203 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/30/202331 minutes, 39 seconds
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Using the Correct Fork, Passing on Invitations, Traveling With Dogs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using the correct fork, passing on invitations, traveling with dogs, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Using the correct fork A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Scams QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about a friend who didn't recognize me in a restaurant? Is it rude to "pass" on an invitation and include a reason? VENT OR REPENT: Spilling coffee on an airplane, Oversharing at breakfast CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for finding a phone, A nice email THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW The Cut Biscuitville William Hanson's website, Instagram, and podcast EtiquetteCrime.com YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 202 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/23/202345 minutes, 53 seconds
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Breaking Apart Bananas in Supermarkets, Sending Wedding Invitations Via Text, Bailing on Dinners in Paris, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about breaking apart bananas in supermarkets, sending wedding invitations via text, bailing on dinners in Paris, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is telling someone "I hope you have the day you deserve" rude? Are you allowed to break apart bananas at the supermarket and only buy the number that you want? Is it OK to just leave a package on a neighbor's doorstep if you aren't in the mood to chat? What should I do about a wedding invitation text I ignored because I thought it was spam? Bonkers: Insisting and then bailing on dinner in Paris THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Erin Jackson on buying bananas (Instagram, X, Facebook, Official Website) YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 201 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/16/202325 minutes, 34 seconds
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HOLIDAY BREAK: Eating Croissants, Pretending Not to Notice, Missing Plumbers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle eating croissants, pretending not to notice, missing plumbers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Croissants A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Pretending not to notice QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: When eating ice cream cake, do you have to wait for everyone to be served before you can start eating? How do I tell a former coworker I don't want to see them socially? Should I bring a gift to my new neighbors? VENT OR REPENT: An unflattering photo, A no-show plumber CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to chauffeurs, Thanks for the pecans THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW The Guardian: "In a twist: Tesco's decision to stop selling curved croissants sparks debate" Margaret Visser's "The Rituals of Dinner" Fudgie the Whale on Wikipedia Previous episode that included a deep dive on ghosting YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 102 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/9/202347 minutes, 45 seconds
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Very Special 200th Episode Extravaganza

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this very special 200th episode extravaganza, Nick and Leah revisit their favorite moments from the past hundred episodes and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Ice Cream Sodas A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Boats QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How soon is too soon to ask someone if they're going to eat their pickle? There have been two LaCroix sodas sitting in the work fridge for more than a year…can I take them? What is the correct utensil for eating macaroni and cheese? VENT OR REPENT: Ventriloquists, Using Doors, Blocking the airplane boarding process, Garnishes CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Special thanks THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Who invented the ice cream soda? How to produce LaCroix soda Lacroix on "Absolutely Fabulous" Kraft Mac & Cheese Spork on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 200 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/2/20231 hour, 6 minutes, 47 seconds
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Keeping Hot Sauce for Guests, Decanting White Wines, Hanging Coats on Airplanes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about keeping hot sauce for guests, decanting white wines, hanging coats on airplanes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do I have to keep hot sauces on hand for guests that I will not personally use? If I see a colleague at a coffee shop, should I wait to walk back to the office with them? Can you put Riesling in a wine decanter? What should I do if a restaurant gave me someone else's doggie bag? What should I do about airline passengers' coats? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Pierre Hermé in Paris YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 199 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/25/202332 minutes, 44 seconds
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Buttering Bread Properly, Going on First Dates, Ringing Bells for Service, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle buttering bread properly, going on first dates, ringing bells for service, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Bread and Butter A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: First Dates QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I let friends and family back home know I'll be vacationing nearby but won't be making a specific trip home? Should you ring a bell for service if there's a sign directing you to? VENT OR REPENT: Pumping water at the dog park, Eating at the theatre in London CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to a fan, Thanks for breakfast THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "Cabaret" in London William Hanson's website, Instagram, and podcast YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 198 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/18/202346 minutes, 34 seconds
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Replacing Lost Gloves, Arriving at Parties Too Early, Commandeering Other People’s Dates, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about replacing lost gloves, arriving at parties too early, commandeering other people's dates, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about my future mother-in-law who wants to crash my fiancé's bachelor party? Who is responsible for replacing lost gloves? What do I do about a relative who always arrives at parties too early? Is it OK to charge friends for expensive whisky? Bonkers: Waitress date takeover THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Hibiki Whisky YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 197 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/11/202333 minutes, 43 seconds
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HOLIDAY BREAK: Celebrating Bidet Day, Living in Dorm Rooms, Withholding Pony Rides, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle using bidets properly, living with others in dorm rooms, withholding pony rides from guests, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Bidets A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Dorm Rooms QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Are you obligated to talk to fellow passengers on an airplane? Should I let my guests know there won't be pony rides at my child's birthday party? VENT OR REPENT: Matthew McConaughey t-shirts, Riding Amtrak CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to great Lyft drivers, Thanks for brunch THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Dinner scene from "When Harry Met Sally..." Matthew McConaughey in "Dazed and Confused" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 156 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/4/202339 minutes, 53 seconds
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Dining Late in Spain, Taking Care of Pets, Using Toilet Bowl Brushes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle dining late in Spain, taking care of pets, using toilet bowl brushes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Dinner Time in Spain A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Pet Sitting QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Why are toilet bowl brushes so common in European bathrooms? Is it rude to cancel someone's event when you're not the host? VENT OR REPENT: Demanding payment when ordering, Making friends in Taipei CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the waffle cones, Thanks to our monthly supporters THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW NPR: Spain Has Been In The 'Wrong' Time Zone For 7 Decades YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 196 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/28/202343 minutes, 19 seconds
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Throwing Surprise Parties, Using Revolving Doors, Responding to Rude Texts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about throwing surprise parties, using revolving doors, responding to rude texts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to throw a surprise party for someone in their own home? What's the etiquette for entering oversized revolving doors? As an introvert, how do I decline an invitation to hang out with someone? How do we respond to a text message about not being able to attend our party? Bonkers: You're the babysitter THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Sarah Sze's artwork at Laguardia Airport (CBS Sunday Morning) YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 195 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/21/202323 minutes, 44 seconds
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Crashing White House Weddings, Stealing Flowers From Neighbors, Charging Phones In Public, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle crashing White House weddings, stealing flowers from neighbors, charging phones in public, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Judith Martin and the Nixon Administration A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Repetition QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK for my neighbor to take flowers from my yard without my permission? Is it rude for a woman to keep eating after her partner has finished? VENT OR REPENT: Blocking traffic, Charging phones CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: A custom t-shirt, A nice email THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Judith Martin: In defense of ‘women’s pages’ A fan's FSR t-shirt YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 194 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/14/202347 minutes, 15 seconds
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Saving Café Seats, Overstuffing Shared Fridges, Rescheduling Marathons, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about saving café seats, overstuffing shared fridges, rescheduling marathons, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to save a seat in a café before going up to the counter to order? What do I do about my roommates who stuff the fridge too full? How do I tell a friend her driving is unsafe? Should I reimburse my houseguests for a broken sink they fixed? Bonkers: Rescheduling a marathon THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW P-Touch Label Makers YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 193 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/7/202329 minutes, 22 seconds
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Eating Green Beans, Handling Group Texts, Fibbing on Busses, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating green beans, handling group texts, fibbing on busses, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Green Beans A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Group Texts QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: When we stay overnight at our son's house, should we just bring our own groceries for breakfast? What do you do if a thank you note gets returned in the mail as undeliverable? VENT OR REPENT: A rude jaywalker, Lying on a bus CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: New dog friends, A nice email THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Fingernails on a chalkboard: Why this sound gives you the shivers How to leave a group text message thread on your iPhone or iPad YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 192 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/31/202342 minutes, 7 seconds
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Demanding Birthday Cake, Putting Time Limits on Meals, Getting Nosy at the Pharmacy, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about demanding birthday cake, putting time limits on meals, getting nosy at the pharmacy, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to ask for birthday cake before the guest of honor blows out the candles? Is it OK to be salty for not receiving any thank you for helping at my friend's wedding? What is the time limit for someone to finish their meal? How do I get people to not send an RSVP to my BBQ invitation? Bonkers: Nosy at the pharmacy THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW New York Times: "On Language: Have Your Cake and Eat It Too" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 191 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/24/202329 minutes, 35 seconds
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Suspending Coffee, Being A Good Customer, Eating on Camera, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle suspending coffee in Naples, being a good customer, eating on camera, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Caffè sospeso (suspended coffee) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Being a good customer QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do I have to use a food gift certificate and eat on camera with my boss? Should I plunge my french press coffee myself at a fancy restaurant? VENT OR REPENT: Rude at the rowing machine, Talking at the theatre CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the picnic, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW French Press on Wikipedia Madonna's "4 Minutes" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 190 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/17/202346 minutes, 12 seconds
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SUMMER BREAK: Going Camping, Being Uninvited to Weddings, Giving Gift Cards, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle going camping, being uninvited to weddings, giving gift cards, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: V/r in emails A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Camping QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should I still go to the rehearsal dinner after being uninvited to a wedding? Should you write the dollar amount on a gift card? Should drivers announce to passengers that there's going to be an unscheduled stop? VENT OR REPENT: Blocking cars, Billy Joel CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Nice neighbors, Garbage-free trails THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW The Gritti Palace Hotel in Venice Billy Joel's "Piano Man" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 152 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/10/202343 minutes, 57 seconds
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SUMMER BREAK: Gaslighting Bosses, Addressing Postcards, Trashing Swag, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about showing up for parties that aren't happening, addressing postcards to households, trashing promotional swag, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we had your address.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about my boss who invited me to a BBQ and then was surprised I showed up? When sending postcards, do you have to address them to everyone in a household? What is the polite way to decline beverages? What do we do about unwanted promotional merchandise we were given? How long before a Zoom meeting should I log in? And how long should I wait if someone doesn't show up? Vent: Guests who call your apartment an "unacceptable standard of living." THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Dorothy Parker quote about martinis Cynar Campari The Dakota Apartment Building YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 109 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/3/202335 minutes, 11 seconds
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Sharing Casino Winnings, Taking Photos at Landmarks, Honking at Friends, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sharing casino winnings, taking photos at landmarks, honking at friends, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Are there any etiquette rules for splitting casino winnings? What is the etiquette for taking photos at popular attractions and landmarks? Is there a polite way to inquire if someone is a resident of my building? Can I ask my friends not to honk when they pull up in my driveway? Bonkers: A bad houseguest in London THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Chair scene from "Whatever Happened to Baby Jane?" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 189 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/26/202323 minutes, 38 seconds
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Wording Wedding Invitations, Behaving on Trains, Picking Strangers' Figs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle wording wedding invitations, behaving on trains, picking strangers' figs, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Wedding invitation wording A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Trains QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to pick someone's figs if the branches are overhanging a public sidewalk? Is it unreasonable to expect people to text or call to say thank you for a party? VENT OR REPENT: Fundraising for back tattoos, How the menu works CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the marzipan, Thanks for the theatre tickets THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "Once Upon A One More Time" musical YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 188 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/19/202343 minutes, 31 seconds
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Grabbing Fresher Milk, Escaping Unwanted Reunions, Returning Bad Sangria, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about grabbing fresher milk in supermarkets, escaping unwanted reunions, returning bad sangria, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: In a supermarket, it OK to take the fresher milk from the back of the shelf? Is it now common place for people to ask for RSVPs before the invitation is sent? How do I get a host to take the hint that I'm not interested in attending their reunion event? What do I do about bad sangria purchased for me in a bar? Collective nouns for rude people THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW List of collective nouns for rude people YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 187 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/12/202326 minutes, 41 seconds
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Handling Chronic Complainers, Paying Bar Tabs, Choosing Garnishes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle handling chronic complainers, paying bar tabs, choosing the right garnishes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Sushi 2.0 A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Chronic complainers QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I only pay what I owe for a friend's bar birthday party? What should I do about being shunned by another couple on vacation? VENT OR REPENT: The wrong coffee hour, Garnishes CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the Santa Monica walk, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "White Lotus" Season 2 theme song YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 186 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/5/202346 minutes, 43 seconds
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HOLIDAY BREAK: Flying the Flag at Half-Staff, Being the Perfect House Sitter, Using Charity Return Address Stickers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle flying the flag at half-staff on Memorial Day, being the perfect house sitter, using the free return address stickers from charities, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Flying the flag at half-staff on Memorial Day A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: House sitting QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do if you can't afford a friend's bachelor party? Is it OK to use address labels from a charity if you haven't donated? How can I remember the hard-to-pronounce names of my new neighbors? VENT OR REPENT: Rethinking past answers, Missing a Zoom meeting CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to the parents, A nice letter THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW How to use a mourning ribbon and bow video YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 88 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/29/202336 minutes, 35 seconds
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Insulting People's Talent, Ignoring Polite Signs, Flying Without Headphones, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about insulting people's talent, ignoring polite signs, flying without headphones, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do you respond when someone insults your talent? Should you turn off your engine at a bank drive-thru if a sign requests it? If you hear the doorbell at a loud party, should you open it or tell the host? What can be said to fellow airplane passengers who are playing videos on their phones without headphones? What can be done about people who leave their cars at gas station pumps and go inside to shop when there are other people waiting for gas? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "O Fortuna" (Carl Orff's "Carmina Burana") on YouTube "Goodie Two Shoes" on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 185 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/22/202332 minutes, 14 seconds
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Giving Anniversary Gifts, Enjoying Theme Parks, Sharing Hotel Rooms, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle giving anniversary gifts, enjoying theme parks, sharing hotel rooms, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Traditional wedding anniversary gifts A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Theme parks QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Was I disinvited to my colleague's wedding because I'm going through a divorce? How do I get my mom to be more quiet when we're sharing a hotel room? VENT OR REPENT: Airport pick-ups, Interrupting meals CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Airport employees, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW List of traditional wedding anniversary gifts from Wikipedia New York Times (1937): "Wedding Gift Proposal Deferred by Jewelers" Plastics scene from "The Graduate" (1967) Tivoli Gardens in Copenhagen YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 184 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/15/202347 minutes, 23 seconds
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Skipping Sit-Down Dinners, Using Too Many Towels, Upgrading Friends on Flights, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about skipping sit-down dinners at weddings, using too many towels, upgrading friends on flights, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do people expect a sit-down dinner at a wedding in exchange for their attendance and gift? What do I do about someone in my home who uses too many towels? If you're flying with a friend and upgrading yourself, do you have to upgrade your friend, too? What do I do about a friend who is always copying my style? I hired my boss' daughter to babysit at a party...should I now invite my boss and his wife as guests? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Shopping montage in "Pretty Woman" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 183 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/8/202328 minutes, 50 seconds
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Eating Artichokes, Enjoying Airport Lounges, Tucking In Chairs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating artichokes, enjoying airport lounges, tucking in chairs, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Artichokes A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Airport lounges QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's a "wedding gift opening party"? Should you ask fellow patrons at a bar to slide down? VENT OR REPENT: A missing email, Tucking in chairs CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the spa day, Remember your training THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Artichoke ban in New York City Wedding scene from "Goodfellas" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 182 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/1/202335 minutes, 54 seconds
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Escaping Charity Solicitations, Writing Wedding Invitations, Ghosting Hair Dressers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about escaping charity solicitations, writing wedding invitations properly, ghosting hair dressers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Does it matter in what order people are addressed in a business email or on a conference call? How do we get out of a dinner that's intended to solicit our help for a charity? How do you get someone to stop eating in your car? Should "District of Columbia" be spelled out on wedding invitations? Do I need to tell my hairdresser, who moved to a new salon that's farther away and more expensive, why I'm not returning? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Gerund on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 181 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/24/202327 minutes, 35 seconds
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Enjoying a Fika in Sweden, Staying at Bed & Breakfasts, Telling Guests What Not To Bring, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle enjoying a fika in Sweden, staying at bed and breakfasts, telling guests what not to bring to your party, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Fika A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Bed & Breakfasts QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should both my partner and I sign a wedding card if only one of us was invited? How do we get guests to not bring wine to our wine party? VENT OR REPENT: Cookie Dough Dreams, A used brush CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Waiving in cars, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Gustav III’s risk assessment on coffee consumption; A medical history report YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 180 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/17/202341 minutes, 7 seconds
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SPRING BREAK: Eating Like Europeans, Signing Business Emails, Giving Repeat Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle eating like Europeans, signing business emails, giving repeat gifts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: American versus European fork usage A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Email closings QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Can I tell my boss I don't want the same Christmas gift as last year? What do you do if someone doesn't apologize for hitting you with a ball? Can I tell a friend I'm never going to read the book they gave me? VENT OR REPENT: Nearby carpentry, A big thumb's up CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Mah Jong, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Margaret Atwood's "The Handmaid's Tale" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 54 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/10/202337 minutes, 5 seconds
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Invoicing Guests for Parties, Spitting in Public, Ruining Spa Days, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about invoicing guests for parties, spitting in public, ruining spa days, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What reasons should I give my mother-in-law for why I'm not using the wallet she gave me? Can we ask guests to chip in for a murder mystery party after we've already sent the invitations? What can I do about people who spit in public while they walk or run? Is it appropriate to buy a round of drinks or send dessert to someone having a restaurant birthday meal when you're not in attendance? Vent: My spa day was ruined by a woman on speakerphone THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Fanny packs YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 179 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/3/202325 minutes, 19 seconds
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Sending Wedding Cards to Exes, Being Polite to Smart Speakers, Asking People for Favors, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle sending wedding cards to exes, being polite to Siri and Alexa, asking people for favors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: "Il Galateo" by Giovanni della Cassa A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Riding in cars QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should I send a card to my ex who is getting remarried? Should you say "please" and "thank you" to Alexa and Siri? VENT OR REPENT: Asking for favors, Texting before a party CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to Canyon friends, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "Il Galateo" by Giovanni della Cassa Yacht Rock YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 178 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/27/202339 minutes, 47 seconds
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Tossing Food at Hotels, Sharing Discount Tips, Entering Without Knocking, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about tossing unopened food at hotels, sharing discount tips with friends, entering rooms without knocking, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should we toss our unopened food when we're leaving a hotel? Is it rude to ask people to take time off to attend a birthday party? What should I do about a personal development coach who missed our scheduled appointment? Is it rude to tell people about things I bought on sale and give them the info in case they might be interested? Should I be annoyed that my boyfriend's friend came into our bedroom without knocking? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Dilly Beans on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 177 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/20/202322 minutes, 43 seconds
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Passing Salt and Pepper, Asking for Pickles, Running Into Acquaintances, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle passing salt and pepper, asking people if they're going to eat their pickles, running into acquaintances at bars, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Passing salt and pepper A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Menu substitutions and secret menus QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How soon is too soon to ask someone if they're going to eat their pickle? What do I do about an acquaintance who is mad at me for not including them in a night out? VENT OR REPENT: A noisy neighbor update, Unsupportive comics CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: A musical voicemail, A middle school party THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Dining scene from Batman (1989) YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 176 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/13/202348 minutes, 43 seconds
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Correcting People's Grammar, Declining Expensive Invitations, Sharing EV Charging Stations, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about correcting people's grammar, declining expensive invitations, sharing electric vehicle charging stations, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: When is it OK to correct someone's grammar or punctuation? Are you obligated to share a taxi with someone when offered? How do I decline expensive invitations because I don't have any income right now? Is it OK to unplug someone else's electric vehicle and plug in my own if they're done charging? How do I avoid side conversations at a group dinner? Are you a manufacturer or distributor of smart toilets? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Toto NX1 Toilet YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 175 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/6/202322 minutes, 57 seconds
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Throwing Bridal Showers, Losing Lasagna Privileges, Contacting Noisy Neighbors, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle throwing bridal parties, losing lasagna privileges, contacting noisy neighbors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Bridal Showers A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Co-working Spaces QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How should I handle a late cancellation for a lasagna dinner party? Does the dress I've selected match my daughter-in-law's wedding color palate? VENT OR REPENT: Traffic in Hollywood, A noisy neighbor CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: A lovely new building manager, Polite jury duty THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "Everyone's Upstairs Neighbor" on YouTube YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 174 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/27/202344 minutes, 2 seconds
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Holiday Break: Cutting Lines, Answering Phones, Picking Berries, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle answering phones, cutting lines, telling restaurants it's your birthday, selling items online, responding to rude customer service, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Answering the telephone A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Cutting in line QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to tell restaurants it's your birthday? What's the best way to handle selling items online? How do you respond to rude customer service? VENT OR REPENT: Unsafe drivers, Selling things online CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Berry picking, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Who invented the telephone? The Simpsons: Mr. Burns answering the telephone "Line Cutters, the Scourge of Humanity" by Jesse Mechanic YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 50 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/20/202341 minutes, 47 seconds
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Taking Calls on Treadmills, Discarding Broken Freezers, Surviving Middle School, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about taking phone calls on treadmills, discarding broken freezers, surviving middle school, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: At the gym, is it considered rude to be on a phone call while on a treadmill? We were gifted a broken freezer...how do we politely get rid of it? How do I get people to call me "Mrs." instead of using my first name? Is it OK to say you don't want to sit with someone during lunchtime in a middle school cafeteria? What should I do if I pass gas in class and nobody knows it's me? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Punky Brewster "Cherri Lifesaver" episode YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 173 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/13/202324 minutes, 41 seconds
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Eating Cake With Ice Cream, Behaving in Movie Theaters, Cutting Nails in Public, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating cake with ice cream, behaving in movie theaters, cutting nails in public, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Eating cake with ice cream A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Movie Theatres QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to send a gift with "signature required"? In a silverware drawer, should the handles go towards you or away from you? VENT OR REPENT: Being insufficiently annoyed, Cutting nails in public CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the pilates, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW NY Times: "90,000 Packages Are Stolen in N.Y.C. Every Day. How One Building Fought Back." YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 172 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/6/202339 minutes, 26 seconds
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Returning Dirty Handkerchiefs, Reading Office Emails Aloud, Getting Permission from References, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about returning dirty handkerchiefs, reading office emails aloud, getting permission from professional references, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's proper handkerchief etiquette? What should I do about a coworker who reads all his emails out loud? Should I thank my neighbor for doing unwanted yard work on my property without my permission? Should you ask references for permission before listing them on a job application? Vent: People who don't RSVP to parties THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "Love Is Blind" trailer on YouTube YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 171 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/30/202326 minutes, 19 seconds
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Eating Rambutans, Using QR Code Menus, Paying For Free Theatre, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating rambutans, using QR Code menus in restaurants, paying for free theatre tickets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Rambutans A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: QR code menus in restaurants QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I do about a friend who promised to take me to the theatre but then had me pay? What should I do about employees in big box stores that don't wash their hands in the restroom? VENT OR REPENT: Nosy people in Laurel Canyon, Reality TV spoilers CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the book, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW QR codes on Wikipedia Per Se restaurant in New York "Levitated Mass" documentary trailer YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 170 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/23/202339 minutes, 51 seconds
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Sharing French Fries Fairly, Doing Dishes Incorrectly, Inviting Enemies to Parties, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sharing french fries fairly, doing dishes incorrectly, inviting enemies to parties, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: If one person asks another for a bite of food, who gets to pick the bite? What do I do about my father-in-law who does not wash dishes properly? Is it OK to send someone a second note using the same stationery as the first? Should I invite two friends who don't like each other to my party? Aftermath: What happened after that South American trip? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Sissy Spacek breaking a dish YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 169 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/16/202321 minutes
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Eating Off Trenchers, Butting Into Conversations, Serving Instant Coffee, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating off of trenchers, butting into conversations, serving instant coffee to guests, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Trenchers A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Butting into conversations QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: I'm not a coffee drinker, but should I offer coffee to my houseguests? Should I eat the British way when in the UK? VENT OR REPENT: Cutting in line, Using doors CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the dog sitting, Thanks for taking our survey THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Tiger's Nest in Bhutan Margaret Visser's "Rituals of Dinner" Tournedos Rossini Single-serve Coffee YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 168 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/9/202342 minutes, 9 seconds
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Holiday Break: Giving Red Envelopes, Reseating in Theaters, Cancelling on Friends, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle giving red envelopes in China, reseating people in metaphorical theaters, cancelling on friends, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Red Envelopes - (Hóngbāo - 紅包) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: The theatre metaphor QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Was it rude for friends to cancel on us and then go and host a party of their own on the same night? What do I do about people who keep giving me clothing donations for a charity I no longer volunteer for? VENT OR REPENT: An uncomfortable car ride, A dinner nobody wanted CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to the parents, A happy baby THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW One possible red envelope origin story YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 124 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/2/202342 minutes, 53 seconds
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Holiday Break: Tipping at the Holidays, Ordering Too Much at Drive-Thrus, Begging for Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle tipping at the holidays, ordering too much at drive-thru windows, begging people to buy you presents, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Circumambulation at a Buddhist temple A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Christmas Tipping QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How to respond to unsolicited requests for presents? Should my children have done more to acknowledge our big wedding anniversary? Is there such thing as "too large" an order for a drive-thru? VENT OR REPENT: Intentionally splashed, Interrupting numbers CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Birthday presents, Best wishes from China THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Circumambulating Mt. Tam Loaf of bread emoji YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 64 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/26/202242 minutes, 51 seconds
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Blasting Holiday Lights, Announcing Weddings in Holiday Cards, Reciprocating Expensive Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about blasting holiday lights, announcing weddings in holiday cards, reciprocating expensive gifts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I do about my neighbor's too-bright holiday display? Is it OK to announce our wedding engagement in our annual holiday card? Should I feel guilty about not being able to reciprocate my wealthy brother's expensive gifts? Should I tell my mother-in-law that she sent a repeat gift? Is there a way to tell my in-laws that we contributed more to a group gift than the others? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Holiday display with FM radio music YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 167 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/19/202230 minutes, 5 seconds
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Surviving the Holidays, Running in Cemeteries, Using Enormous Napkins, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle surviving the holidays, running in cemeteries, using enormous napkins, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: George Washington's etiquette book A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Surviving the holidays QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I handle a dinner out with people I don't like and I can't decline? Is it rude or inappropriate to run in a cemetery? VENT OR REPENT: Large napkins, Being a lot to handle CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the car help, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW George Washington's "Rules of Civility and Decent Behavior" Labyrinth: "You have no power over me" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 166 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/12/202239 minutes, 49 seconds
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Picking the Correct Utensil for Mac and Cheese, Spelling Like an Australian, Lingering Past Closing Time, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about picking the correct utensil for mac and cheese, spelling like an Australian, lingering in stores after they're closed, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the correct utensil for eating macaroni and cheese? Should we let our best friends know in advance that we plan on giving them a Christmas gift? I'm an American living in Australia...should I use Australian spelling rules? When driving down a busy street, is it proper to slow down to allow cars to exit parking spaces? Is it rude for customers to stay in a small store past closing time? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Kraft Mac & Cheese Spork on Wikipedia Commodore 64 YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 165 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/5/202227 minutes, 59 seconds
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Double-Dipping in Fondue, Ignoring Grandchildren, Squeaking at the Theatre, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating fondue, ignoring grandchildren, making squeaky noises at the theatre, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Fondue A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Secret Santa QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I get people to stop giving me peach-themed items? What is to be done about grandparents who are addicted to their cell phones? VENT OR REPENT: Locking bathroom doors, Theatre noises CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the book help, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "The Holiday Breakdown" by Leah Bonnema YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 164 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/28/202242 minutes, 6 seconds
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Enjoying Fancy Hotel Baths, Waking Snoring People, Returning Caning Jars, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about enjoying fancy baths in hotels, waking people who are snoring, returning canning jars, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the etiquette around "bath menus" in fancy hotels? Is a "thank you" text enough for a shopping trip with relatives? What should I wear to a funeral that specifies "beach attire" on the invitation? Is it socially acceptable to send holiday cards with a significant other when you're not married? How do you deal with a snoring friend at a weekend house? Should you return the jar when you receive a homemade canned good as a gift? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW WalkUpArts YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 163 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/21/202226 minutes, 34 seconds
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Toasting in Hungary, Dining Alone, Regifting Host Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle toasting with beer in Hungary, dining alone, regifting host gifts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Toasting with beer in Hungary A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Dining alone QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to regift wine back to the original giver? Should I wait to eat on an airplane until all passengers are served? VENT OR REPENT: Turning planes around, Splashing peasants CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to friends in New York, Thanks for the NLAD wishes THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Pálinka on Wikipedia Unicum on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 162 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/14/202235 minutes, 52 seconds
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Asking for Doggie Bags, Sharing Train Outlets, Bringing Your Own Water, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about asking for doggie bags in restaurants, sharing the power outlets on trains, bringing your own water when you're a houseguest, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to ask for a to-go box at a restaurant? Is it rude for a friend to invite me over for dinner and then charge me for the groceries? What are the rules about sharing outlets on the Acela train? What do you do if you're a guest in someone's home and don't like the taste of their tap water? Aftermath: Birthday activities that are "cold, wet, and in the middle of the night" THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Acela on Wikipedia Nozomi Shinkansen on Wikipedia Bioluminescent Kayaking on YouTube YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 161 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/7/202229 minutes, 51 seconds
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Enjoying Tuscan Bread, Handling Difficult Bridesmaids, Avoiding Gate Lice, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle enjoying Tuscan bread, handling difficult bridesmaids, blocking the boarding process at airports, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Pane Toscano (Tuscan bread) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Book clubs QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I handle a friend who doesn't take care of the things she borrows from me? What do I do about an out-of-control bridesmaid? VENT OR REPENT: A restaurant mystery, Blocking the airplane boarding process CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the hospitality in San Francisco, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW San Gimignano on Wikipedia Dante talking about salted bread in Paradiso 17 Donkey Talk Magazine Macondray Restaurant in San Francisco YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 160 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/31/202241 minutes, 36 seconds
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Verifying Wedding RSVPs, Hogging Restaurant Gift Certificates, Using Hosts' Expensive Bath Products, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about verifying wedding RSVPs, hogging restaurant gift certificates, using hosts' expensive bath products, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I do if I'm not sure if I actually RSVP'd to a wedding? Am I responsible if someone else paid too much for postage to mail something back to me? Should the tip be included when determining the cost of office donuts? Is it rude to use a restaurant gift certificate for only your portion of the meal? What should I do about houseguests who use my expensive bath products? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Jain vegetarianism on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 159 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/24/202229 minutes, 30 seconds
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Eating Sushi Properly, Donating Items to Charity, Arguing During Zumba Class, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating sushi the right way, donating items to charity, arguing during Zumba class, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Sushi A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Donating items to charity QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should my daughter bring a gift to a last-minute birthday party? VENT OR REPENT: An argument during Zumba class, Using the squat rack CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: A keepsake for Lacey, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Previous episode about chopsticks in a Japanese restaurant Previous episode about towels in a Japanese restaurant "Jiro Dreams of Sushi" movie trailer Jiro's guide to eating sushi T-shirts in our online shop Teddy Ruxpin on Wikipedia "Why is no one ready?" clip from "Devil Wears Prada" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 158 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/17/202239 minutes, 49 seconds
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Holiday Break: Being Late for Surprise Parties, Sending Provocative Selfies, Lighting Candles, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle being late for surprise parties, sending provocative selfies, lighting candles, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Blackening candle wicks A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Using Uber and Lyft QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the best way to handle being late for a surprise party? What do I do about a neighbor who assumes I will always take care of her dog? How can I get my friend to stop sending me provocative selfies? VENT OR REPENT: Long-distance moving companies, Holding up the line at supermarkets CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: A very helpful neighbor, Adorable children THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Charleston School of Protocol "Nosedive" episode of "Black Mirror" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 84 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/10/202245 minutes, 40 seconds
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Escaping Excessive Birthday Plans, Updating Professional References, Sharing Phone Chargers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about escaping excessive birthday plans, updating professional references, sharing phone chargers with guests, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I just celebrate a friend's birthday instead of their birth month? How can I let a professional reference know I didn't get the job? How do I tell my friend I don't want to be her personal photographer on our vacation? Do I have to share my phone charger with my guests if they forgot their own? Aftermath: The Sinister Cilantro Stealer THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Spelunking on Wikipedia "The Descent" movie trailer Previous episode about the cilantro stealer Photo of the gopher YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 157 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/3/202223 minutes, 32 seconds
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Celebrating Bidet Day, Living in Dorm Rooms, Withholding Pony Rides, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using bidets properly, living with others in dorm rooms, withholding pony rides from guests, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Bidets A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Dorm Rooms QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Are you obligated to talk to fellow passengers on an airplane? Should I let my guests know there won't be pony rides at my child's birthday party? VENT OR REPENT: Matthew McConaughey t-shirts, Riding Amtrak CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to great Lyft drivers, Thanks for brunch THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Dinner scene from "When Harry Met Sally..." Matthew McConaughey in "Dazed and Confused" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 156 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/26/202239 minutes, 8 seconds
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Sending Electronic Birthday Cards, Telling People You're Moving, Making Voice Calls on Airplanes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sending electronic birthday cards, telling people you're moving out of state, making voice calls on airplanes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do if I've overheard an unkind conversation about me? How do I stop a friend from sending me electronic birthday cards? How do I break the news to friends and colleagues that I'm moving out of state? What can I do about another passenger making phone calls during my flight? Aftermath: Art from an unknown sender THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Airfone YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 155 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/19/202223 minutes, 44 seconds
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Enjoying High Tea, Overcoming Terrible Handwriting, Tipping for Gas in New Jersey, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle enjoying high tea, overcoming terrible handwriting, tipping for gas in New Jersey, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: High tea versus afternoon tea A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Driving QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do you overcome terrible handwriting? I forgot a family member's birthday...what should I do? Do you tip gas station attendants in New Jersey? VENT OR REPENT: Spilled salsa, Watching TV alone CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to a listener, Thanks to weekend house hosts THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW National Lampoon's "European Vacation" roundabout scene YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 154 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/12/202243 minutes, 39 seconds
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Holiday Break: Enjoying Peking Duck, Borrowing DVDs Without Returning Them, Flaunting Office Ice Cube Rules, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle eating Peking Duck, borrowing DVDs without returning them, flaunting office ice cube rules, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Peking Duck (Běijīng Kǎoyā - 北京烤鸭) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Staying at hotels QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What to do about friends who borrow but don't return my DVDs? What do we do about a friend who cancels at the last minute for dinner parties when she doesn't like what's on the menu? Is it rude for someone to eschew the office's ice cube rules? VENT OR REPENT: An unfortunate bathroom incident, Sending "you're welcome" emails CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Incandescent candy THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Peking Duck on Wikipedia "Troop Beverly Hills" movie trailer YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 90 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/5/202247 minutes, 17 seconds
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Wearing Hotel Robes, RSVPing with Explanations, Waving on Rural Roads, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about wearing hotel robes outside hotel rooms, giving explanations for RSVPs, waving on rural roads, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to wear a hotel robe from your room to the hotel pool? Should I give an explanation on the RSVP card for why I am declining to attend someone's wedding? How do you politely change the subject when the conversation is on a topic you know nothing about? Can a guest say anything to their host about who else can be invited to their weekend house? Survey: Waving on rural roads THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Previous episode about Sandra Bullock pivots YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 153 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/29/202228 minutes, 13 seconds
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Going Camping, Being Uninvited to Weddings, Giving Gift Cards, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle going camping, being uninvited to weddings, giving gift cards, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: V/r in emails A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Camping QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should I still go to the rehearsal dinner after being uninvited to a wedding? Should you write the dollar amount on a gift card? Should drivers announce to passengers that there's going to be an unscheduled stop? VENT OR REPENT: Blocking cars, Billy Joel CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Nice neighbors, Garbage-free trails THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW The Gritti Palace Hotel in Venice Billy Joel's "Piano Man" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 152 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/22/202243 minutes, 34 seconds
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Harvesting Office Cilantro, Returning Dirty Aprons, Painting Nails on Airplanes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about harvesting cilantro at the office, returning dirty aprons, painting nails on airplanes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about a coworker who picked all the cilantro in our office garden? How do I decline to say hello on speakerphone to one of my parents' guests? Should borrowed aprons be washed before returning? How do you get rid of a neighbor who overstayed their visit? Is it OK to paint your nails on an airplane? What do I do about married coworkers who speak to each other as if they were at home? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Why does cilantro taste like soap to some people? Edward Albee's "Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf?" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian ADVERTISE ON OUR SHOW Click here for details TRANSCRIPT Episode 151 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/15/202229 minutes, 43 seconds
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Slurping Ice Cream Sodas, Shopping at Farmers Markets, Finding Silver Linings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle slurping ice cream sodas, shopping at farmers markets, finding silver linings, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Ice cream sodas A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Farmers markets QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it weird to ask guests to make their beds with hospital corners? Is it OK to have a beard at a black tie event? VENT OR REPENT: Finding silver linings, Picking the wrong dryer CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Fostering pets, A nice note THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Who invented the ice cream soda? "Christmas with the Kranks" ham scene How to fold a bed with hospital corners YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 150 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/8/202245 minutes, 23 seconds
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Giving People Shopping Lists, Receiving Mysterious Gifts, Ruining People's Weddings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about giving people shopping lists, receiving gifts from mysterious senders, ruining people's weddings, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I tell people I don't want to shop for them on my vacation in Milan? What do I do about a gift from an unknown sender? What do I do about someone who keeps following-up about the status of holiday and thank you cards? How do I handle a friend who makes me split the bill for her dinner parties? How do I prevent my relatives from ruining my wedding? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Rinascente department store in Milan Ikebana on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 149 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/1/202231 minutes, 21 seconds
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Behaving In Group Fitness Classes, Being Nosy About Engagement Rings, Littering in Rome, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle behaving properly in group fitness class, being nosy about people's engagement rings, littering in Rome, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Holding glasses at cocktail parties A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Group Fitness Classes QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I say to people who mistakenly think I'm an intern? Is it normal for houseguests who have their own guest bathroom to ask to use yours? Is it OK to ask how big someone's engagement ring is? VENT OR REPENT: A vivid nightmare, Littering in Rome CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to a listener, A nice DM THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Home Depot proposal "The Proposal" movie trailer "Miss Congeniality" movie trailer Trash in Rome YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 148 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/25/202239 minutes, 47 seconds
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Leaving Items Behind, Using Postcards for Wedding Thank You Notes, Talking Loudly on Airplanes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about houseguests leaving items behind, using postcards for wedding thank you notes, talking loudly on airplanes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to do a house sweep for forgotten items before a houseguest departs? Do I have to offer champagne to all the guests on my boat? Did I choose the correct bathroom stall? Is it OK to use postcards for my wedding thank you notes? Vent: Talking loudly across the aisle on a morning flight THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Where's Waldo? "The Giving Tree" by Shel Silverstein The Pierre Hotel YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 147 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/18/202226 minutes, 18 seconds
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Eating Soup Dumplings, Navigating Airport Security, Waving While Driving, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating soup dumplings, navigating airport security, waving while driving, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Xiao Long Bao (小籠包) (Soup dumplings) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Airport security QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do you have to put your fork down between bites? Do you have to bring a gift to a going away party for someone you've never met? Is it impolite to not make conversation with your hair stylist? VENT OR REPENT: Waving while driving, A strange phrase over tapas CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Lovely new neighbors, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Din Tai Feng on Wikipedia Patatas Bravas on Wikipedia "Lord of the Rings" Potatoes remix YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 146 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/11/202244 minutes, 38 seconds
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Summer Break: Attending Polo Matches, Inquiring About Missing Invitations, Receiving Outrageous Emails, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite summer episodes from the archives in which they tackle attending polo matches, inquiring about missing invitations, receiving outrageous emails, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Polo A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Beach etiquette QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do if I received a text save-the-date but no follow-up? When is it appropriate to Google someone? Can I refuse to allow someone I dislike onto my property? VENT OR REPENT: Outrageous emails, Maddening phrases CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: A helpful Lyft driver, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Polo scene in "Pretty Woman" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 92 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/4/202239 minutes, 1 second
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Sharing Combs at Gyms, Hijacking Hiking Plans, Starting Toilet Paper Rolls, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sharing disposable combs at the gym, hijacking hiking plans, starting toilet paper rolls, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about someone at the gym putting used combs back into a communal jar? What do I say when someone asks if I sent any money with a graduation congratulations card? How can I tell a friend that I don't want to move a previously planned hike to accommodate their birthday? After installing a new roll of toilet paper, should you remove the adhesive and start the roll, too? Vent: People who flip their hair over the back of airplane seats. THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Previous episode about orienting toilet paper rolls YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 145 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/27/202233 minutes, 29 seconds
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Eating Pizza, Singing Karaoke, Criticizing Cultures, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating pizza the right way, singing karaoke in groups, criticizing other cultures, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Pizza A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Karaoke QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I clarify whether or not I'll be paid to paint at a friend's wedding? Is it rude for my mother-in-law to regularly criticize my culture? What should I do if I need to sneeze or blow my nose while on a Zoom call? VENT OR REPENT: Early-ending breakfast buffets, Hogging the middle seat on an airplane CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the hospitality, Thanks for the book THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Chuck E. Cheese on Wikipedia "Shoop" by Salt-N-Pepa "Locomotive Breath" by Jethro Tull "You Don't Own Me" by Lesley Gore "Torn" by Natalie Imbruglia "Nothing" from "A Chorus Line" "Stairway to Heaven" by Led Zeppelin "Paradise by the Dashboard Light" by Meat Loaf "D-I-V-O-R-C-E" by Tammy Wynette "Say My Name" by Destiny's Child "Don't" etiquette book YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 144 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/20/202240 minutes, 52 seconds
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Removing Shoes at Weddings, Opening Neighbors' Mail, Being Empty-Handed at Potlucks, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about removing your shoes at wedding receptions, accidentally opening neighbors' mail, showing up empty handed to potlucks, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's the time limit for letting a friend know it wasn't appreciated that she showed up empty-handed to a potluck picnic? What's the etiquette for telling someone they look like someone else? I accidentally opened a piece of my neighbor's mail...what should I do? At a wedding, is it OK to take your heels off on the dance floor? Am I wrong to be upset at a houseguest who ruined some of my clothing and then called me fat? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Rescue Flats for Wedding Receptions YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 143 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/13/202223 minutes, 15 seconds
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Throwing Parties for Disliked Bosses, Taking Responsibility for Dryer Lint, Cleaning Rugs Late at Night, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle throwing parties for disliked bosses, taking responsibility for dryer lint, cleaning rugs late at night, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Where to keep your hands while eating in France A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Walking tours QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do we have to throw a going away party for a boss we don't like? Who's responsible for cleaning the lint trap in a dryer? How do I avoid having my friend's husband join our shopping trips? VENT OR REPENT: Late nite rug cleaning, Lice at the art fair CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to our listeners, A coffee card from a neighbor THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Affair of the Poisons on Wikipedia Venice Biennale on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 142 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/6/202242 minutes, 2 seconds
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Going to Drive-Thrus Near Closing Time, Asking for Drink Refills, Throwing Parties During Weddings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about going to drive-thrus near closing time, asking for drink refills, throwing parties during weddings, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the etiquette for ordering from a drive-thru that's about to close? How do I stop my friends from criticizing my dining choices? How do I tell people I don't have an Instagram account while still being flirty? What's the polite way to ask a server if drink refills are free? Was it rude for a lifelong friend to throw a housewarming party during my wedding? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Party Density YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 141 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/30/202225 minutes, 17 seconds
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Drinking Tea with Milk, Wearing Bright Colors At Funerals, Parking In Someone Else's Spot, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle drinking tea with milk, wearing bright nail polish to funerals, parking in someone else's reserved spot, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Drinking tea with milk A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Dressing rooms QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about a friend who wants us to pay for her birthday party and get her a gift? What do I do about someone who thinks we never sent them a thank you note for their wedding present? Is it OK to wear bright nail polish to a funeral? VENT OR REPENT: Finding a car in your spot, Drag racing in New York CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Dog communities, A thoughtful gift THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Evelyn Waugh and "Milk in First" Tatami Lladro Figurines YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 140 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/23/202240 minutes, 1 second
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Taking House Tours, Backing Out of Dinners, Attending Surprise Weddings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about taking tours of peoples homes, backing out of dinners you don't want to go to, attending surprise weddings, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do you have to take a tour of someone's home if invited? What's the appropriate reaction when someone accidentally spits on your face? Is there a polite way to back out of a dinner after you've already agreed to go? How do I let a couple know that my name was misspelled at their long-ago wedding? What's the protocol for returning Tupperware after two weeks? Any etiquette tips when attending a surprise wedding? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW CBS Sunday Morning: "Surprise! You're attending a wedding!" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 139 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/16/202224 minutes, 58 seconds
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Enjoying Escargot, Traveling with Co-workers, Sharing Hot Tubs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating escargot, traveling with co-workers, sharing hot tubs, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Escargot A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Traveling with co-workers QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Are there rules about getting into a hot tub that's already occupied? How do you handle friends who leave you hanging with their RSVP until the last minute? Who has the right-of-way with a cart at a grocery store? VENT OR REPENT: Disruptive audience members, A loud cell phone call CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to a trucker, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Escargot scene from "Pretty Woman" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 138 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/9/202238 minutes, 1 second
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Singing Along During Musicals, Flipping Over Wine Bottles, Using Dirty Bathrooms, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about singing along during musicals, flipping wine bottles over in buckets, using dirty bathrooms, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: When is it appropriate to sing along with a musical performance? What do I do about my mother who would prefer numerous short phone conversations rather than a deeper once-a-week catch-up? Is customized stationery OK to use for all occasions? Is it OK to flip a wine or champagne bottle upside down in an ice bucket? What do I do about my in-laws' dirty bathroom? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW New York Times: "Hold the Phone, It’s Patti LuPone" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 137 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/2/202227 minutes, 16 seconds
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Passing People in Theaters, Removing Shoes in Homes, Using Coasters Properly, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle passing people in theater aisles, removing shoes in people's homes, using coasters properly, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Passing people in theaters A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Taking off shoes in people's homes QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do if there aren't enough coasters? What do I do about a new friend who's contacting me too much? What do I say to people who say "I'm confused" when they're not? VENT OR REPENT: Being friendly in small towns, Things that don't go together CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: A free meal, A thoughtful gift THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Gravitron on Wikipedia Glenn Close in "Fatal Attraction" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 136 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/25/202237 minutes, 45 seconds
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Eating Chocolate Truffles, Breaking Up With Gym Partners, Giving Up Your Window Seat, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about eating chocolate truffles, breaking up with gym partners, giving up airplane window seats, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's the proper way to eat a chocolate truffle? Do I have to invite someone to my birthday party if I was invited to theirs? How can I break up with my long-term gym partner? At a college canteen, do I have to stay until everyone's finished their meal? On an airplane, what do I do about someone who wants my window seat? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Bavarian Chocolate Haus in North Conway, New Hampshire Reber Mozart-Kugeln chocolates YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 135 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/18/202224 minutes, 37 seconds
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Enjoying Aperitivi, Behaving at Dog Parks, Gifting Towel Racks, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle enjoying an aperitivo in Italy, behaving at dog parks, buying towel racks, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Enjoying an Aperitivo A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Dog parks QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should I buy my friends a towel rack? Should I say something in elevators when I'm only taking it two floors? What do I do about a friend who calls me but then is too busy to talk? VENT OR REPENT: Watching TV shows alone, Talking aloud CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Southern hospitality, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Soho House YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 134 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/11/202236 minutes, 4 seconds
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Crashing Open Houses, Demanding Wedding Photos, Stealing Hand Lotion, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about going to neighbors' open houses, asking newlyweds for their entire wedding photo album, using hand lotion without asking, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: I'm selling my house...is it rude for my neighbors to come to my open house without telling me? Is it rude to ask to see all 6000 of our wedding photos when we've already shared 1400? How do we avoid having an additional couple join our weekly dinner parties? What do I do about a friend who doesn't want to contribute to a charity walk-a-thon? Was it rude to use someone's hand lotion without asking? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW 10 Ways to Save Bees YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 133 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/4/202224 minutes, 28 seconds
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Pressing the Flight Attendant Call Button, Eating Drippy Sandwiches, Throwing Bags in Cafes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using the flight attendant call button, eating drippy sandwiches in public, throwing bags in cafes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Furoshiki (風呂敷) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Using the flight attendant call button QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is there a proper way to eat au jus in public? How do I decline a book from a co-worker? What do you do if everything on an event registry has already been purchased? VENT OR REPENT: Pedestrians in crosswalks, Throwing bags in cafes CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to a long-time listener, Feeding your "good" wolf  THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW 14 Ways to Wrap Furoshiki (Japanese Ministry of the Environment) Marie Kondo's furoshiki technique Tenugui on Wikipedia Philippe French Dip Sandwiches YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 132 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/28/202236 minutes, 39 seconds
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Ordering Appetizers Without Asking, Buffering in Restrooms, Borrowing Bathing Suits, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about ordering appetizers for people without asking, buffering stalls in restrooms, asking to borrow bathing suits, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude that my father-in-law orders appetizers for everyone at the table without asking anyone? At a birthday dinner in a restaurant, when should I open my presents? In a public restroom, is a buffer stall needed? Is it rude to ask a host to borrow a bathing suit at a beach or pool party? What can be done about a very loud diner in a restaurant? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Potato Skins on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 131 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/21/202221 minutes, 15 seconds
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Meeting Royalty, Calling Out Lazy People, Malfunctioning Umbrellas, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle meeting Queen Elizabeth II, calling out lazy people, handling malfunctioning umbrellas, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Meeting the Queen A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Being a Plus One QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: The person who gifted us a wall calendar is coming over and we threw the calendar out...what should we do? Do I have to save cards I receive in the mail? What can I do about my son's girlfriend who doesn't help out around the house? VENT OR REPENT: More group fitness, Umbrella malfunctions CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to Los Angeles comics, 3D Printed French Onion Soup Spoons  THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Previous Episode: Fancy Ranch Previous Episode: Sending Things with Glitter YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 130 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/14/202238 minutes, 35 seconds
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Turning People Orange, Ordering Extra Courses, Clipping Nails in Public, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about turning people orange with bath bombs, ordering extra courses at meals, clipping nails in public, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should we let my mother-in-law know that her gift turned my husband orange? How do I thank my mother-in-law who explicitly does not wish to receive thank you notes? Is it rude to order an extra course when dining out with others? What do we do about a new acquaintance who clipped their nails in public? How do we decline to attend game night without it affecting our friendship? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Bath Bomb on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 129 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/7/202225 minutes, 56 seconds
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Drinking Turkish Coffee, Behaving at the Gym, Returning Holiday Cards, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle drinking Turkish coffee, behaving at the gym, returning holiday cards, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Turkish coffee A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Going to the gym QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How should I handle someone rudely returning our annual holiday card? Should you use your hands or your feet to flush a public bathroom flush paddle? Should I give back a necklace someone gave me while drunk? VENT OR REPENT: Forgotten favors, Email signatures CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: A six-month anniversary, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW UNESCO List of Intangible Cultural Heritage Turkish coffee made in sand YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 128 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/28/202239 minutes, 55 seconds
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Declining Double Dates, Gifting Unwanted Jams, Bailing on Weddings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about declining to go on double dates, gifting unwanted jams, bailing on weddings with no warning, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: My husband would rather not socialize with my friend's husband...what do I do when asked to go on a double date? How do I stop my sister from gifting jam to my parents that they don't like? What's the etiquette around belated condolence notes? Is it rude to RSVP "yes" to a wedding and then bail the day before without informing the hosts? Vent: Buying treats for children that are not yours THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Yuzu on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 127 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/21/202220 minutes, 55 seconds
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Using Mourning Stationery, Talking While Chewing, Fixing Flat Tires, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using mourning stationery, talking while chewing, fixing flat tires, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Mourning Stationery A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Bragging QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: A friend is hosting a party in my home...what's my role during this event? How do I decline to write a letter of recommendation for a former employee who wasn't good? How can I tell my best friend that they shouldn't talk with their mouth full? VENT OR REPENT: Texting at the theatre, Parking outside the lines CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: A flat tire, A nice email THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "The Letter Edged in Black" by Johnny Cash Queen Elizabeth II's mourning stationery New York Times: "Stationery Speaks Louder Than Words" New York Times: "Hold the Phone, It's Patti LuPone" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 126 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/14/202239 minutes, 12 seconds
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Mistaking Customers for Employees, Forgetting Previous Introductions, Washing Dishes Before Returning, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about mistaking customers for store employees, forgetting you've been introduced before, washing dishes before returning them, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about strangers in stores mistakenly thinking I'm an employee and asking for help? What do I do about a parent who asked me to sign a pre-written recommendation letter for her daughter? What's the best way to follow-up with non-responders to an electronic dinner party invitation? Do I have to accommodate a vegan guest who is not always vegan? How do I deal with someone who always forgets we've been introduced before? Should you wash a dish before returning it? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Best Buy Uniform Prank (Improv Everywhere) YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 125 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/7/202223 minutes, 36 seconds
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Giving Red Envelopes, Reseating in Theaters, Cancelling on Friends, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle giving red envelopes in China, reseating people in metaphorical theaters, cancelling on friends, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Red Envelopes - (Hóngbāo - 紅包) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: The theatre metaphor QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Was it rude for friends to cancel on us and then go and host a party of their own on the same night? What do I do about people who keep giving me clothing donations for a charity I no longer volunteer for? VENT OR REPENT: An uncomfortable car ride, A dinner nobody wanted CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to the parents, A happy baby THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW One possible red envelope origin story YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 124 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/31/202241 minutes, 20 seconds
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Feeling Obligated to Babysit, Serving Sliced Lemons, Fixing Friends' Typos, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about feeling obligated to babysit for a neighbor, serving sliced lemons at a buffet, fixing friends' social media typos, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: A neighbor is upset I'm not always available to volunteer to babysit on short notice...what do I do? At a buffet lunch, should sliced lemons for water be served with a spoon or a fork? Should I say something to a family member who isn't washing their hands after using the bathroom? Is it OK to cash a check before sending a thank you note? Should I say something to a friend who has typos in her online advertisements? Listener Feedback: Asking to buy all the groceries THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Episode with question about buying the entire shopping list YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 123 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/24/202227 minutes, 39 seconds
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Following Dress Codes, Copying Roommates' Décor, Clearing Plates, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle following dress codes on invitations, copying roommates' décor, clearing plates in restaurants, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Dress codes A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Unsolicited advice QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about a roommate who is copying my décor? What do you do if someone accidentally drinks out of your wine or water glass? VENT OR REPENT: Speakerphones in the bathroom, Clearing plates in restaurants CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the New Year's cheer, Thanks for the flowers THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Dwight Yoakam on Wikipedia Johnny Cash at Folsom Prison on Wikipedia "Single White Female" trailer Otohime episode YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 122 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/17/202239 minutes, 56 seconds
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Glaring at Others, Hanging up Coats, Picking Up Trash, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about glaring at others, hanging up guests' coats, picking up neighbors' trash, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is a glare ever within the bounds of etiquette? How can I get guests to hang up their coats when they come over? Is it OK to send one thank you note for multiple gifts? Should I attend a family wedding if my husband was pointedly not invited? My neighbor is picking up trash in our carport and leaving it for us...what should I do? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Longaberger Baskets Defenestrations of Prague YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 121 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/10/202226 minutes, 20 seconds
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Holding Teacups, Tying Up Boats, Telling People They Look Tired, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle holding teacups properly, tying up boats, telling people they "look tired," and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Holding teacups A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: You look tired QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to watch me tie up a boat and then go and retie it the exact same way? Do I need to bring a gift to a wedding reception if I already gave a gift at the ceremony? What do I do about a coworker who keeps asking to borrow money? VENT OR REPENT: An encounter at a dog park, Holding doors open at Starbucks CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to our listeners, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Leah holding a teacup Queen Elizabeth II holding a teacup YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 120 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/3/202239 minutes, 51 seconds
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Holiday Break: A few of our favorite things

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here are some of their favorite moments from the entire series so far. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Otohime (音姫) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: House sitting QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do if you're asked to chaperone a children's birthday party but your own child isn't invited? Is there a polite way to eat Cheetos? Do you have to share your famous cake recipe? When do "dibs" expire after you call them? How do you deal with dinner party guests who won't follow the invitation instructions? How do I decline old lentil soup from a friend? Are you allowed to bring your own bell to a restaurant? VENT OR REPENT: Walking slowly up stairs, Choosing the correct fork CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Special thanks THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Video of an Otohime (音姫) Toto NX1 Toilet Chuck E. Cheese Museum of Science in Boston Saint Barthélemy Strawberry Cheetos Riding Shotgun Bringing your own bell to a restaurant Neck-mounted iPhone holder YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 100 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/27/20211 hour, 12 minutes, 59 seconds
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Gifting Pajamas, Expecting Cards With Money, Tipping at the Holidays, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about giving people pajamas, expecting cards to contain money, tipping people at the holidays, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Are pajamas an "intimate" gift that should only be given between spouses or between parents and children? What can I do about my mother who bought me patio furniture that I don't want? We were expecting a holiday card to contain money...should we tell the sender that it wasn't included in the envelope? Should we tell our best friends that we're planning on getting them a gift this year? What do I do about holiday tipping for a new cleaning person I only met for the first time today? I'm a teacher and have received more than a hundred gifts...do I have to send a thank you note to everyone? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Grandparents in bed scene in "Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 119 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/20/202121 minutes, 59 seconds
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Eating French Fries, Misspelling Names, Littering at Disneyland, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating french fries politely, misspelling people's names, littering at Disneyland, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: French fries A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Nail salons QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: An old co-worker turned a casual cocktail party into an intimate sit-down dinner without telling me...what should I do? What can I do about people who keep misspelling my name in emails? Is there a polite way to ask for someone's name after chatting with them at the gym regularly for the past four years? VENT OR REPENT: Littering at Disneyland, Holding up the line at the gym CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thank you for the birthday card, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Poutine OPI Nail Lacquer in Bubble Bath color YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 118 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/13/202146 minutes, 4 seconds
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Choosing Cake Flavors, Embarrassing Teenagers, Showing Up with Wet Hair, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about choosing cake flavors for birthdays, embarrassing teenagers with table settings, showing up to work with wet hair, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do I have to consider my guests' tastes when selecting a cake flavor for my birthday? What do I do about roommates who are using too much toilet paper? What should I do about headphones I was gifted but don't want? I'm hosting teens for my daughter's sweet sixteen party and I'm not sure if they'll be familiar with my table setting...what should I do? Is it OK to show up to work with wet hair? Vent: Returning dirty containers THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Ispahan by Pierre Hermé Gateway 2000 computers Dining etiquette scene in "Pretty Woman" Vent: Being told what fork to use Finger bowls YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 117 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/6/202125 minutes, 12 seconds
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Devastating People With a Glance, Interviewing for Colleges, Discouraging Office Interruptions, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle devastating people with a glance, going on college interviews, discouraging interruptions at the office, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: The Cut A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: College admission interviews QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: I just found out that a wedding I'm a groomsman for took place without me...what should I do? How do I decline invitations for events that are months away and I'm not sure if I want to commit yet? How do I get people to stop interrupting me in my glass-walled office? VENT OR REPENT: Abandoning conversations, The butterfly effect CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: An invitation to Arizona, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "Dictionary of the Vulgar Tongue" by Francis Grose (1811) Chaos Theory scene from "Jurassic Park" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 116 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/29/202146 minutes, 50 seconds
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Spending Other People's Money, Tipping Sanitation Workers, Going Rogue at Weddings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about spending other people's money, tipping sanitation workers at the holidays, ignoring wedding dress codes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: I offered to "bring something" to a dinner party and then was given the entire shopping list...what do I do? How do I get my neighbor to not leave their boat in their yard? What is most polite way to thank people for condolence cards that were received six months ago and not yet acknowledged? How much and where do I I tip my sanitation workers for the holidays? What do I do about my wedding officiant who isn't following the dress code? YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 115 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/22/202128 minutes, 45 seconds
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Squeezing Grapefruits, Paying for Damaged Pans, Photographing Great Danes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating grapefruits, paying for damaged pans, photographing Great Danes in public, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Grapefruits A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Supermarkets QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: My friend cooked dinner in my home and damaged my pan...who's responsible for replacing it? In an office, is it OK to fix my hair at my desk? What do I do about people who take photos of my dog without permission? VENT OR REPENT: Absent Zoom audience members, Airplane bathrooms CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: The Pasadena DMV, Good houseguests THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Grapefruit on Wikipedia Recipe for grapefruit stuffed with dulce de leche "Christmas with the Kranks" ham scene Marsha Brady combing her hair YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 114 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/15/202141 minutes, 47 seconds
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Leaving Dirty Diapers, Chatting in Supermarkets, Dining Left-Handed, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about leaving dirty diapers in restaurants, chatting with cashiers in supermarkets, dining when left-handed, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I shut down polite conversations with cashiers in supermarkets? What do I do about a friend who is upset I don't attend everything she invites me to? As a left-handed person, is it OK to rearrange my table setting in a restaurant? How should I handle the dedication page in my upcoming book? What do I do about fellow restaurant diners who leave dirty diapers on their table? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Are left-handed people smarter? YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 113 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/8/202126 minutes, 5 seconds
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Obeying Little Signs, Coordinating Pot Lucks, Buying Concert Tickets, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle obeying little signs, coordinating pot luck dinners, buying concert tickets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: The origins of "Etiquette" A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Hosting Thanksgiving dinner QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should I tell someone their new boyfriend reminds me of Christian Bale in "American Psycho"? If you're bringing dessert to a pot luck, are you also responsible for bringing the dessert plates? Do I need to give up my better concert tickets in order for my daughter to be able to sit with a friend? VENT OR REPENT: Bad customer service, Ordering sandwiches CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Nice neighbors, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Cindy Post Senning's story about Louis XIV Business card scene from "American Pyscho" The Wiggles Mummenchanz YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 112 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/1/202145 minutes, 24 seconds
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Sending Unimpressive Flowers, Running Other People's AirBNBs, Abandoning Friends in Airports, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sending unimpressive flowers, running other people's AirBNBs, abandoning friends in airports, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to keep a food container if I'm not 100% certain it's mine? What should I do about flowers I sent someone that were less impressive than I was expecting? How do I tell my friend I'm no longer able to run her AirBNB business? How does one properly address an envelope to a couple when you're not sure what last names to use? What do I do about a friend who left me at the airport and went on our vacation without me? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Leah knows the words to Toto's "Africa" Tagine on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 111 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/25/202132 minutes, 1 second
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Playing Games, Gifting Soap, Petting Dogs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle playing games, giving soap as gifts, petting dogs without permission, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: French onion soup A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Game night QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to charge your friends for your birthday party? What are your thoughts on gifting soap? How can I shut down condescending comments at the gym? VENT OR REPENT: Touching dogs without permission, Life imitating art CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the shoes, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Julia Child introducing French onion soup WhatNerd.com: "The 10 Golden Rules of Board Game Etiquette for Game Night Success" Original Chex Party Mix recipe Michael Douglas in "Falling Down" Photo of Lacey Intersect by Lexus Cutlery infographic episode Telling people their fly is down episode YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 110 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/18/202143 minutes, 36 seconds
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Gaslighting Bosses, Addressing Postcards, Trashing Swag, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about showing up for parties that aren't happening, addressing postcards to households, trashing promotional swag, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we had your address.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about my boss who invited me to a BBQ and then was surprised I showed up? When sending postcards, do you have to address them to everyone in a household? What is the polite way to decline beverages? What do we do about unwanted promotional merchandise we were given? How long before a Zoom meeting should I log in? And how long should I wait if someone doesn't show up? Vent: Guests who call your apartment an "unacceptable standard of living." THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Dorothy Parker quote about martinis Cynar Campari The Dakota Apartment Building YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 109 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/11/202134 minutes, 19 seconds
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Sending Signals With Cutlery, Partying in Art Galleries, Flushing Without Permission, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle sending signals in restaurants with cutlery, going to art gallery openings, flushing dog poop down toilets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Signals you can send with your cutlery A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Art galleries QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I break the news to my sister and best friend that I can't attend their weddings? What do I do about a group gift that's going over budget? How do I stop my friend who is flushing dog poop down my toilet? VENT OR REPENT: Unexpected houseguests, Asking for receipts CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Happy anniversary, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Incorrect Table Etiquette Infographic Breakfast TV (Toronto): "Can you read this cutlery etiquette language?" Naoshima, Japan Mona (Museum of Old and New Art) in Hobart Venice Biennale NY Times: "How Not To Look Like A Dope In an Art Gallery" (1997) EPA "Pick Up After Your Pet" Brochure (PDF) NYC Department of Sanitation Dog Laws YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 108 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/4/202142 minutes, 15 seconds
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Slipping Out of Parties, Preventing Excess RSVPs, Stopping Coworker Texts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about slipping out of parties without saying goodbye to the host, preventing excess wedding RSVPs, stopping coworkers who text too often, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we had your address.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do you have to say goodbye to hosts when leaving a party? How accommodating do I have to be to my vegan house guests? Is it OK to pre-fill in the wedding RSVP card for my guests? What do I do about my coworker who texts too much? What’s the best way to leave a professional networking group? Vent: Putting wine on my tab THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "Great Gatsby" Party Scene Finding Queen Bees "Minority Report" Trailer YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 107 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/27/202129 minutes, 41 seconds
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Wearing Hats, Behaving on Boats, Remembering Song Lyrics, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle wearing hats, behaving on boats, remembering song lyrics, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we had your address.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Hats A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Boats QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to wear flip-flops in public? I forgot to close out my open tab at a bar...what should I do? Is it OK to loudly broadcast someone's private garage keypad code? VENT OR REPENT: Toto's "Africa", Penciling things in CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thank you for the pecans, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Company: "The Ladies Who Lunch" Hats in the Catholic church Ascot Horse Race from "My Fair Lady" GQ Magazine: "Here's Exactly Where You Can and Can't Wear Flip-Flops" Voir Dire LandShark Bar & Grill in Jacksonville Beach, Florida Toto's "Africa" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 106 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/20/202144 minutes, 10 seconds
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Telling Cooks They're Terrible, Leaving Cash on Tables, Handling Wet Laundry, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about telling cooks they're terrible, leaving cash on tables in restaurants, handling strangers' wet laundry, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do you tell a friend they’re a terrible cook and they shouldn't bother? At a restaurant, is it OK to leave cash on the table and then leave? What do I do about my family who jumps on FaceTime with other relatives whenever they're over at my house? Is it OK to offer to meet someone “halfway” when I live outside of the city? Should you put wet laundry that isn't yours in a dryer? Aftermath: An awkward Zoom date turns into a marriage THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "Aedh Wishes for the Clothes of Heaven" by W.B. Yeats L'Effervescence Restaurant in Tokyo Geocaching Previous episode that included question about taking things out of the dryer YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 105 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/13/202133 minutes, 49 seconds
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Wearing Name Tags, Shopping Yard Sales, Fat-Shaming Pets, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle wearing name tags, shopping yard sales, fat-shaming pets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Name Tags A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Yard Sales QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude for people to make comments about how fat my pet is? Do I have to sell my car to my in-laws if I don't want to? How do we feel about pre-printed thank you notes at a party? VENT OR REPENT: Criticizing towns, Littering in cemeteries CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to dentists, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Name tags on "Schitt's Creek" "Hello my name is" stickers on Wikipedia Star Trek Combadge Vulan Salute on Wikipedia Deaccessioning on Wikipedia Marie Kondo on Wikipedia Swedish Death Cleaning Gum wrapper rocket on YouTube YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 104 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/6/202140 minutes, 27 seconds
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Breaking Up With Hairdressers, Crashing Bachelor Parties, Cracking Eggs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about breaking up with hairdressers, crashing bachelor parties, cracking eggs, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: I have a relative who sticks her personal utensils in communal dishes...can I just never invite her again? People we didn't invite are coming to our bachelor party weekend...do we now have to invite them to the wedding? How do I get out of a bad hair relationship? What do I do about a rude volunteer at a food pantry? At a restaurant, where do you put a fancy handbag? Vent: Rude experience with a dental hygienist THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Brené Brown: The Call to Courage (Trailer) Purse hook for tables YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 103 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/30/202134 minutes, 4 seconds
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Eating Croissants, Pretending Not to Notice, Missing Plumbers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating croissants, pretending not to notice, missing plumbers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Croissants A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Pretending not to notice QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: When eating ice cream cake, do you have to wait for everyone to be served before you can start eating? How do I tell a former coworker I don't want to see them socially? Should I bring a gift to my new neighbors? VENT OR REPENT: An unflattering photo, A no-show plumber CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to chauffeurs, Thanks for the pecans THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW The Guardian: "In a twist: Tesco's decision to stop selling curved croissants sparks debate" Margaret Visser's "The Rituals of Dinner" Fudgie the Whale on Wikipedia Previous episode that included a deep dive on ghosting YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 102 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/23/202146 minutes, 25 seconds
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Drinking Abandoned Sodas, Skipping Destination Weddings, Squeezing into Revolving Doors, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about drinking abandoned sodas, skipping destination weddings, squeezing into revolving doors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: There have been two LaCroix sodas sitting in the work fridge for more than a year…can I take them? Is it rude that my friend booked a vacation house for our trip without checking with me first? Is it OK to drink wine at a dinner with members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints? I’ve decided to skip a destination wedding in Europe I’m invited to…does this mean I should buy a more expensive gift than I normally would? I invited some parents over to my house for a party, but other parents who weren’t invited are now upset. Was I wrong? Vent: Squeezing into the same wedge in a revolving door THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW How to produce LaCroix soda Lacroix on "Absolutely Fabulous" The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Satins: Style Guide The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints: The Word of Wisdom Eisenhower's Farewell Address Erin Jackson on being stuck in a revolving door with someone YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 101 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/16/202127 minutes, 56 seconds
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Very Special 100th Episode Extravaganza

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this very special 100th episode extravaganza, Nick and Leah revisit their favorite moments from the series and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Otohime (音姫) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: House sitting QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do if you're asked to chaperone a children's birthday party but your own child isn't invited? Is there a polite way to eat Cheetos? Do you have to share your famous cake recipe? When do "dibs" expire after you call them? How do you deal with dinner party guests who won't follow the invitation instructions? How do I decline old lentil soup from a friend? Are you allowed to bring your own bell to a restaurant? VENT OR REPENT: Walking slowly up stairs, Choosing the correct fork CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Special thanks THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Video of an Otohime (音姫) Toto NX1 Toilet Chuck E. Cheese Museum of Science in Boston Saint Barthélemy Strawberry Cheetos Riding Shotgun Bringing your own bell to a restaurant Neck-mounted iPhone holder YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 100 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/9/20211 hour, 10 minutes, 29 seconds
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Telling People to Smile, Judging People’s Homes, Keeping Quiet in Gazebos, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about telling people to smile, judging people's homes, keeping quiet in gazebos, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I say when I'm told to smile? Should people respect my need for quiet in a public park? After a divorce, how much responsibility does an ex have in maintaining ties with former in-laws? I'm an architect...what can I say to friends who think I'm judging their home when I'm only a guest? I'm housesitting...should I tell the owner the bed wasn't made when I arrived? Vent: Nurses putting patients in dirty cars THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Swim-Up Bar YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 99 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/2/202129 minutes, 37 seconds
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Eating Bananas Properly, Sipping With Straws, Spraying Colognes on Buses, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating bananas properly, getting that last sip of a drink with a straw, spraying colognes on buses, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Bananas A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Getting a massage QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's the correct way to imbibe the last sip of a drink with a straw? What should I do about paying my hairstylist who won't tell me how much I owe? How do I determine the correct spelling when someone's written their own name two different ways? VENT OR REPENT: A revision of a previous vent, Cologne on a bus CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to nature, A nice note THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW How bananas grow "Sliding Doors" movie Monkey's don't eat bananas in the wild Yacht Rock The Doobie Brothers "What A Fool Believes" (YouTube) Kenny Loggins "Heart to Heart" (YouTube) Eleven Madison Park restaurant Leah's previous washroom vent Two Dots game Dior Fahrenheit Lutèce restaurant YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 98 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/26/202142 minutes, 10 seconds
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Commandeering Televisions, RSVPing to Facebook Events, Returning Shopping Carts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about commandeering televisions, RSVPing to Facebook events, returning shopping carts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I do about guests who were rude and disrespectful to me in my home? How do I handle a neighbor who drops by unannounced and invites herself to events? Is it rude to change your Facebook Event RSVP the day of the event? Should I send a thank you note to my host after being their house guest? What's the correct procedure for needing to spit something out and you only have a cloth napkin? Vent: Returning shopping carts THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW The Shopping Cart Theory (YouTube) YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 97 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/19/202131 minutes, 21 seconds
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Giving Business Cards in Japan, Behaving in Locker Rooms, Ignoring Ventriloquists, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle giving business cards in Japan, behaving in locker rooms, ignoring ventriloquists, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Business cards in Japan (Meishi kōkan - 名刺交換) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Locker room etiquette QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do I have to tip in an Uber I didn't order for myself? Do I have to send hand-written thank you notes to guests of my Zoom baby shower? My son's invited to a pizza party and doesn't eat pizza...what should I do? VENT OR REPENT: Ventriloquists, The NATO phonetic alphabet CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: In-flight bridal shower, Thank you for the book THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Japanese business manners video NATO phonetic alphabet on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 96 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/12/202143 minutes, 36 seconds
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Interrupting Excessive Talkers, Proposing to Bridesmaids, Criticizing Soups, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about interrupting people who won't stop talking, proposing to bridesmaids, criticizing soups, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: When is it OK to interrupt? What do I do about a package I'm holding for my non-responsive neighbor? Should my friend formally ask me to be her bridesmaid? What do I bring to a fancy dinner party and what do I do if I'm served something I don't eat? Do I have to respond to people who email questions that were already answered on my website? Vent: Don't criticize a restaurant's specials THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Champagne Mini Piñatas on Etsy Aesop Hand Wash Long Dining Table Scene in Batman Food & Wine: Everything You Need to Know About Uni YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 95 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/5/202127 minutes, 4 seconds
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Reusing Napkins, Attending Movie Premiers, Hanging up on People, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle reusing napkins, attending movie premiers, hanging up on people, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Napkin rings A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Going to a movie premier QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I handle game nights when I keep winning and other players get discouraged? How do I tell a friend I can't do her makeup for her wedding because I was just offered a big job opportunity out of state? Is it rude to hang up a phone without saying goodbye? VENT OR REPENT: Unsolicited cautionary tales, Banks breaking promises CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to Angelenos, Thanks for the birthday video THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Mahjong on Wikipedia Dutch Blitz on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 94 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/28/202142 minutes, 26 seconds
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Building Fences, Following-up on Gifts, Running Out of Hot Water, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about building fences, following-up on gifts, running out of hot water, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about my neighbor who won't stop talking negatively about our new fence? How can I ask if someone likes the Amazon Echo Dot I gave them as a gift? How do you feel about saying "go!" when asking a question in a Facebook group? How long should I wait before following up on an email if I don't get a response? Was bringing a bottle of wine an acceptable gift when invited over for dinner by new neighbors? And do we have to return the favor? Repent: Running out of hot water THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "'Just' Say No" by Ellen Petry Leanse YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 93 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/21/202130 minutes, 51 seconds
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Attending Polo Matches, Inquiring About Missing Invitations, Receiving Outrageous Emails, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle attending polo matches, inquiring about missing invitations, receiving outrageous emails, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Polo A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Beach etiquette QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do if I received a text save-the-date but no follow-up? When is it appropriate to Google someone? Can I refuse to allow someone I dislike onto my property? VENT OR REPENT: Outrageous emails, Maddening phrases CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: A helpful Lyft driver, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Polo scene in "Pretty Woman" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 92 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/14/202137 minutes, 21 seconds
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Commandeering Gym Saunas, Demanding Money From Grandchildren, Dressing Like Identical Twins, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about commandeering gym saunas, demanding money from grandchildren, dressing like identical twins, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude for someone to be doing yoga in my gym's sauna? What do I say to my grandma who is demanding money for a gift? Someone overheard me complaining about them...what do I do? At what age is it no longer appropriate for identical twins to dress alike? What's the polite thing to do if a friend insists on paying for dinner but we're worried he can't afford it? Local etiquette: Iowa Nice THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Identical twins on "Love Island" Identical twins on "90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 91 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/7/202125 minutes, 1 second
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Enjoying Peking Duck, Borrowing DVDs Without Returning Them, Flaunting Office Ice Cube Rules, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating Peking Duck, borrowing DVDs without returning them, flaunting office ice cube rules, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Peking Duck (Běijīng Kǎoyā - 北京烤鸭) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Staying at hotels QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What to do about friends who borrow but don't return my DVDs? What do we do about a friend who cancels at the last minute for dinner parties when she doesn't like what's on the menu? Is it rude for someone to eschew the office's ice cube rules? VENT OR REPENT: An unfortunate bathroom incident, Sending "you're welcome" emails CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Incandescent candy THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Peking Duck on Wikipedia "Troop Beverly Hills" movie trailer YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 90 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/31/202146 minutes
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Eating Pop-Tarts, Boarding Airplanes, Returning Overdue Library Books, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about eating Pop-Tarts, boarding airplanes, returning overdue library books, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the correct way to eat Pop-Tarts? How do I let my bridal party know I'm not expecting any gifts? What do I do about my mother-in-law who needs special tissues? What do I do about someone who doesn't respect the airplane boarding procedure? What's the most polite way to correct someone who misunderstood a bilingual conversation? What do you think about returning a library book about manners after 32 years? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Listener photo of Pop-Tarts Buttering Pop-Tarts video Bistec a Caballo video Overdue library book returned to high school after 32 years YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 89 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/24/202130 minutes, 55 seconds
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Flying the Flag at Half-Staff, Being the Perfect House Sitter, Using Charity Return Address Stickers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle flying the flag at half-staff on Memorial Day, being the perfect house sitter, using the free return address stickers from charities, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Flying the flag at half-staff on Memorial Day A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: House sitting QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do if you can't afford a friend's bachelor party? Is it OK to use address labels from a charity if you haven't donated? How can I remember the hard-to-pronounce names of my new neighbors? VENT OR REPENT: Rethinking past answers, Missing a Zoom meeting CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to the parents, A nice letter THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW How to use a mourning ribbon and bow video YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 88 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/17/202135 minutes, 53 seconds
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Inviting Yourself To Other People's Vacations, Handling Unwanted Art, Wearing White to Weddings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about inviting yourself to other people's vacations, handling unwanted art, wearing white to weddings, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude for my husband's ex-wife to invite herself to our family vacation? What do we do about a friend's art we no longer want to hang in our home? What's a good hostess gift for a girls' weekend to Florida? Is it rude to chew on ice? Do I need to return a voicemail just to say "thank you"? Repent: Telling someone not to wear white to a wedding Vent: Dog-earing books from the library THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW White wedding dress history YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 87 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/10/202124 minutes, 53 seconds
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Vacuuming in Germany, Turning Friends Into Third Wheels, Giving Gift Receipts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle vacuuming on Sundays in Germany, turning friends into third wheels without warning, including gift receipts with presents, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Sundays in Germany A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Buying a car QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about always being the "third wheel"? Is it rude to not include a gift receipt with a gift? What do I do about friends who are terrible hosts? VENT OR REPENT: Annoying phrases, Riding the bus CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to a dentist, A nice letter THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Haribo Goldbears YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 86 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/3/202135 minutes, 33 seconds
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Adding Ice Cubes to Wine, Wiping Down Gym Equipment, Shouting in Supermarkets, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about adding ice cubes to wine, wiping down equipment at the gym, shouting at employees in supermarkets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to ask people to buy me housewarming gifts even if there's no party? Is it rude to add ice cubes to your wine? At the gym, should you wipe down equipment before or after use? What would be a good gift for someone who wrote me a reference letter? Vent: A host makes guests do all the work PSA: Shouting at people in the supermarket THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Nick Leighton Appreciation Day How to pronounce Champagne names Soho House New York YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Become a member on Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 85 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/26/202128 minutes, 28 seconds
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Being Late for Surprise Parties, Sending Provocative Selfies, Lighting Candles, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle being late for surprise parties, sending provocative selfies, lighting candles, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Blackening candle wicks A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Using Uber and Lyft QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the best way to handle being late for a surprise party? What do I do about a neighbor who assumes I will always take care of her dog? How can I get my friend to stop sending me provocative selfies? VENT OR REPENT: Long-distance moving companies, Holding up the line at supermarkets CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: A very helpful neighbor, Adorable children THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Charleston School of Protocol "Nosedive" episode of "Black Mirror" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 84 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/19/202144 minutes, 36 seconds
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Buying Engagement Rings, Eating Lunches on Zoom, Snapping at Waiters, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about spending three months' salary on engagement rings, eating lunches during Zoom meetings, snapping at waiters to get their attention, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about a friend that doesn't want me to bring guacamole to a potluck? Is it rude for my mother-in-law to snap and clap to get waiters' attention? Does someone really need to spend three months' salary on an engagement ring? My friend is getting divorced...should I hide a photo taken at her wedding when she comes over? Is it rude to eat lunch on Zoom? Repent: Talking loudly in a waiting room THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Jeroboam on Wikipedia How much should you really spend on an engagement ring? DeBeers Commercial Goofus and Gallant YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 83 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/12/202124 minutes, 45 seconds
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Asking About Botox, Reaching for the Right Glass, Stealing Packages, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle asking people if they've had Botox, reaching for the right glassware at dinner parties, stealing packages from mailboxes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Which water glass is yours A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Moving QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What to do about a friend who is sharing a scarf? Is it OK for couples to site side-by-side in a restaurant? Is it rude to ask someone if they've had Botox? VENT OR REPENT: Stolen packages, Email experiences CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to Zoom, Thanks to a listener THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Buzzfeed Etiquette Quiz "Lady and the Tramp" spaghetti moment Things to say when asked if you've had botox Horse head in the bed scene from "The Godfather" Clubhouse App YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 82 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/5/202140 minutes, 34 seconds
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Strip Mining Tarte Tatins, Paying What You Think Is Fair, Eating Quail With Your Hands, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about strip mining Tarte Tatins, paying "whatever you think is fair," eating quail with your hands, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is rude about my step-daughter eating just the apples out of my Tarte Tatin? How do I handle situations where someone asks me to pay "whatever I think is fair"? Is it rude to take a food sample if you don't make a purchase? What do I do about people who don't respect the fact I am the owner of my business? When is it OK to eat quail with your hands? PSA: Keeping blackberry brambles secret THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Tarte Tatin on Wikipedia Ruth Wakefield on Wikipedia Lazy Humans in Wall-E Chocolate covered potato chips from Royce ROI and ROAS Le Bernardin restaurant in New York Father Brown on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 81 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/29/202136 minutes, 18 seconds
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Eating Kit Kat Bars, Wearing Perfumes, Forcing Cake Forks, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating Kit Kat bars, wearing perfumes and colognes, forcing guests to use cake forks, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Asparagus A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Wearing perfumes and colognes QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: I'm left handed...what should I do about a host who is forcing me to use a cake fork? How would you address a teacher who is mispronouncing my child's name? Is there a right way to eat a Kit Kat bar? VENT OR REPENT: Late Christmas cards, Being run over by bikes CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to the cable company, A nice voicemail THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Marcel Proust on asparagus Angela's rant about Bath & Body Works Cake Forks on Wikipedia Left-handed cake forks Kourtney Kardashian's 6-step method for eating Kit Kat bars Green Tea Kit Kats YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 80 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/22/202141 minutes, 13 seconds
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Burdening Friends with Cake, Ousting Toxic Club Members, Tidying Up Messy Schools, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about burdening friends with chocolate cake, dealing with toxic club members, tidying up messy piano schools, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I tell my son's piano school they need to clean up? How do I avoid sending the Zillow link of my new home to friends? Is it rude to leave leftovers for a friend since they'll have to wash the dish before returning it? How do we get rid of a new club member whom we dislike? What should I do about a misdirected thank you note? Repent: Allowing a date to make a mess with rice THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Trailer for "Valley of the Dolls" (1967) "Just a Touch of Love" scene in "Sister Act" Brenda Dickson's "Welcome to my Home" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 79 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/15/202124 minutes, 40 seconds
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Enjoying Pho, Harassing Celebrities, Profiting Off Friends, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating Vietnamese soups, spotting celebrities in public, profiting off friends, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Phở A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Seeing celebrities in public QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I do about a friend who is profiting off of her friends? Is it rude for my mother to do laundry in our house without permission? Is there a polite way to tell someone to wear a bra? VENT OR REPENT: Too many pastries, An inappropriate joke CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to the neighbors, Making folding tolerable THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Phở on Wikipedia How to pronounce "Phở" on YouTube "Respect the broth" on YouTube Trailer for "Dirty Dancing" Ice fishing with Willem Dafoe Semmelbun Lagom Gift wrapping scene in "Love Actually" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 78 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/8/202134 minutes, 50 seconds
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Trespassing Nomads, Getting Loud in Hot Tubs, Receiving Unwanted Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sleeping in friends' houses without permission, enjoying hot tubs at night, thanking people for unwanted gifts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about a friend who stayed in my apartment without my permission? How to I handle my neighbor who thinks I'm being too loud in my hot tub? Do I have to send a thank you note for an unwanted "gift"? What is the proper etiquette for sending a gift when someone does pro bono work for you? PSA: Please don't use your phone in waiting rooms THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Video of the hot tub in question one George H.W. Bush apologizes to Marin County Pro Bono on Wikipedia K1 Visa Lladró Figurines on Wikipedia Toto NX1 Toilet Teuscher Champagne Truffles YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Become a member on Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 77 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/1/202129 minutes, 22 seconds
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Saving Water in Japan, Smoking on Gondolas, Using Treadmill Desks, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle saving water in Japanese bathrooms, behaving properly on the ski slopes, using treadmill desks while on Zoom, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Otohime (音姫) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Skiing QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to be using a treadmill desk while on a video call? My boss is making me feel bad for eating sushi and not sharing...what should I do? Why are people thanking me when calling balls "in" during a tennis game? VENT OR REPENT: Filling out paperwork, Not having voicemail CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to mom, A nice Patreon note THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Video of an Otohime (音姫) Toto NX1 Toilet Video of people dancing on tables in ski boots Orangina Cambridge Tennis Club Rules YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 76 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/22/202144 minutes, 28 seconds
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Screaming Out of Limousines, Loading Dishwashers Properly, Keeping Unwanted Photos, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about screaming out of limousine sunroofs, loading dishwashers the right way, keeping unwanted photos from friends, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to leave a note on a dishwasher about how to load it? What do I say to people who ask why I'm vegetarian? Is it rude to scream your head off out of a limousine sunroof? Should you say something if a friend was undercharged when making a purchase? How long do I have to keep friends' photos? Vent: Things our mother-in-law does THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Whirlpool Guide to Loading Dishwashers YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 75 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/15/202125 minutes, 32 seconds
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Eating King Cakes, Hijacking Vacations, Finding Surprises in the Trash, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating king cakes, hijacking vacation plans, finding surprises left in the trash, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: King Cake A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Using other people's trashcans when cleaning up after your dog QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to be on speakerphone in bathroom? Should you break down your cardboard boxes when you live in an apartment building? Is it OK to hijack a friend's weekend getaway plans? VENT OR REPENT: Dirty bathrooms, Narrow aisles CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: A young artist, Help with silver THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW King Cake on Wikipedia How to pronounce "pecan"? Diagram of listener's driveway and trash cans Transponder 7500 Butt Brush Effect Granny Cart Late Qing Dynasty Metal Incense Box YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 74 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/8/202139 minutes, 48 seconds
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Eating Spaghetti, Avoiding Chatty Neighbors, Starving at Dinner Parties, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about eating spaghetti properly, avoiding chatty neighbors, attending dinner parties without enough food, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's the proper way to eat spaghetti? What should I do about coworkers who said rude things during a video conference? What's a polite way to tell someone they don't make enough food for their dinner parties? How should I ask someone whether or not they received my gift? How can I stop my neighbor from making unwanted overtures for conversation? Vent: Making a mess at all-you-can-eat sushi restaurants THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW New York Times (1982): "The Spoon Question, Or How To Eat Pasta Like An Expert" New York Times: "90,000 Packages Disappear Daily in N.Y.C. Is Help on the Way?" VentOrRepent.com YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 73 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/1/202127 minutes, 24 seconds
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Showing Up Empty-Handed, Riding French Elevators, Having Nice Weekends, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle showing up at dinner parties empty-handed, riding elevators in France, being unapologetic about having nice weekends, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: What to say in a French elevator A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: What to bring to a dinner party QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How to respond when someone says, "must be nice"? In a walk-up building, can you buzz people in or do you have to personally greet them at the building's front door? VENT OR REPENT: A not-important email, TV Spoilers CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Supporting others, Bagging groceries at the supermarket THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW French elevator etiquette on YouTube Belle says "Bonjour" in "Beauty and the Beast" Andrew Wyeth's "Christina's World" "Out of this World" Episode 1 MC Escher's Relativity YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 72 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/25/202139 minutes, 15 seconds
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Wearing Sequins, Flirting Politely, Thanking Good Samaritans, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about wearing sequins during the day, commenting on appearances when flirting, thanking good Samaritans for their help, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to invite people to a party when you're not the host? Is it rude to wear sequins during the day? Is commenting on appearance still rude if you're intending to flirt? What do I do about a coworker who says mean things and then says "just joking"? How do I properly thank good samaritans who helped me get back into my car when I locked my keys inside? Vent: People who don't make an effort to be helpful in their email responses THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Baby Jessica on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 71 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/18/202131 minutes, 57 seconds
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Paying for Party Crashers, Sharing Pregnancy News, Drinking Cappuccinos in Italy, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle paying for people who crash your dinner parties, congratulating friends who are pregnant, drinking cappuccinos in Italy after 11am, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Drinking cappuccinos in Italy after 11am A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Reacting to news a friend is pregnant QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Where should couples sit in a car? What do I do about my overly friendly roommate? Was it rude for one of my guests to invite more people to my dinner party without asking? VENT OR REPENT: Christmas card advice, A missed appointment CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: The Mandalorian, A nice email THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Survey of Italian coffee drinkers Episode with original Christmas card question The Mandalorian on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 70 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/11/202143 minutes, 22 seconds
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Stealing People's Spotlights, Tipping While Bartering, Leaving Negative Reviews, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about making major life announcements at other people's parties, tipping while bartering, leaving negative reviews, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to make a life announcement about yourself at someone else's party? In Sydney, how does one signify they're done with their meal if eating with chopsticks? How should I let my sister-in-law know that I've just made a contribution to their child's 529 Savings Account? Should you tip if you're bartering services? How should you listen to your podcast in a group setting? Aftermath: Should I leave a review for my wedding photographer who was late with the photos? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Episode with original wedding photo question YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 69 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/4/202126 minutes, 12 seconds
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Eating Caviar, Imagining Etiquette of the Future, Hiding During Video Conferences, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating caviar, imaging what etiquette might look like in 300 years, turning your camera off during video conferences, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: How to eat caviar A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Etiquette in the future QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should you have your camera on during Zoom meetings? How do I tell my friend I don't want to hang out at my house? How do I stop a colleague from using two periods to end sentences? VENT OR REPENT: A crosswalk altercation, A brief update CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Leah's new book, A nice email THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Thomas Keller eats caviar off of his hand Mummenschanz on Wikipedia "The Holiday Breakdown" by Leah Bonnema YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 68 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/28/202043 minutes, 9 seconds
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Sharing Sonograms, Sending Company-wide Emails, Cleaning AirBNBs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about declining to see people's sonograms, sending company-wide emails, cleaning AirBNBs before departure, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do if you don't want to see someone's ultrasound photos? How do you stop people from wanting to share too many YouTube videos with you? What greeting is best for company-wide emails? At an AirBNB, is it rude to ask guests to clean up in addition to charging a substantial cleaning fee? Is it rude to share your podcast with people specifically to get them to stop doing the rude things you talk about? Vent: Asking for your name at the drive-thru. PSA: Don't go to weddings you don't want to go to. THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Previous Wedding Episode YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 67 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/21/202025 minutes, 34 seconds
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Flying on Private Planes, Forgetting To Take Gum Out, Blowing Leaves Blindly, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle traveling with VIPs on private planes, forgetting to take gum out at dinner parties, blowing leaves into neighbors' yards, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Flying on a private plane with a VIP person from the government A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: How to disagree QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I do about my neighbor's leaves? Was my massage therapist wrong for scolding me? What should I do with dirty sheets when a houseguest? VENT OR REPENT: Gum at a business dinner, Giving enough space in line CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to Nick, Thanks for winter flowers THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "Service Etiquette" by Cherlynn Conetsco and Anna Hart YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 66 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/14/202041 minutes, 54 seconds
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Napping Without Permission, Removing Price Tags, Positioning Toilet Lids, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about napping guests, removing price tags on gifts, leaving toilet lids up, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude for guests to nap in the living room? How do I navigate my office's holiday gift giving culture? Is it rude to write personal messages in some holiday cards but not others? Should the toilet seat lid be left up or down after use? Should you remove price tags from gifts? More on the French cheese course THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW How to remove sticker residue Florence Villminot on YouTube YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Become a member on Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 65 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/7/202028 minutes, 52 seconds
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Tipping at the Holidays, Ordering Too Much at Drive-Thrus, Begging for Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle tipping at the holidays, ordering too much at drive-thru windows, begging people to buy you presents, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Circumambulation at a Buddhist temple A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Christmas Tipping QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How to respond to unsolicited requests for presents? Should my children have done more to acknowledge our big wedding anniversary? Is there such thing as "too large" an order for a drive-thru? VENT OR REPENT: Intentionally splashed, Interrupting numbers CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Birthday presents, Best wishes from China THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Circumambulating Mt. Tam Loaf of bread emoji YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 64 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/30/202041 minutes, 18 seconds
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Hanging Wind Chimes, Questioning People's Choices, Being Overly Competitive, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about hanging wind chimes in your back yard, questioning people's life choices, being overly competitive about a dog costume contest, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to have wind chimes in your yard? What do you say to people who question your choice to take a "gap year"? What to do about someone who's being overly competitive about a dog costume contest? Should you tell someone that they're on speakerphone if there are other people in the room? Is it OK to not hand-write the addresses on my holiday cards? PSA: Show up for your job interview on time THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Previous episode about dreamcatchers "Election" Movie Trailer Dot Matrix Printing on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Become a member on Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 63 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/23/202031 minutes, 12 seconds
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Eating French Cheeses, Going Home for the Holidays, Blowing Up Other People's Credit Cards, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating cheeses at French dinner parties, going home for the holidays, blowing up other people's credit cards, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: The cheese course at a French dinner party A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Being a good houseguest when home for the holidays QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I stop my mother-in-law from blowing up our credit card when dining out with her? How can I tell a friend she texts too much? Is it OK for a passenger to touch a car radio without permission? VENT OR REPENT: Not taking "no thanks" for an answer, A quick coffee turns into a long Thai meal CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Friends supporting a show, Thank you for a book THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW How to cut cheese properly French Countess on putting your elbows on the table Jackie Chan touches Chris Tucker's Radio "Service Etiquette" by Cherlynn Conetsco and Anna Hart YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 62 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/16/202041 minutes, 30 seconds
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Flipping through Wall Calendars, Enduring Boring Relatives, Waiting to be Noticed, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about flipping through people's wall calendars, enduring boring conversations with relatives, waiting for people to notice you when you walk into a room, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to flip through someone's wall calendar? How do I make conversations with my mother-in-law more interesting? Is it rude to ask you to text something and then not acknowledge receipt? How do I shut down nosy questions about my late husband? When walking into a room, is it better to interrupt or should I wait to be noticed? Vent: Driving in Philadelphia THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Philadelphia Traffic Diagram YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 61 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/9/202030 minutes, 25 seconds
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Asking for Favors, Borrowing Spices, Using Service Plates, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle asking people for favors, letting people know their spices have expired, using service plates the right way, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Chargers A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Asking for favors QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should I tell my neighbor her spices have expired? What do we do about a wedding photographer who is late with our photos? Do we have to serve the bottle of wine our dinner guests brought? VENT OR REPENT: Daylight Saving Time, A loud person on a train CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: People who listen, CordialsOfKindness.com THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion" by Robert B. Cialdini NLAD (Nick Leighton Appreciation Day) Calendar Event How long do spices last? History of Daylight Saving Time Amtrak Acela Nozomi Shinkansen YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 60 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/2/202043 minutes, 16 seconds
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Gifting Peacocks, Paying with Benjamins, Ignoring DMs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sending thank you notes for peacocks, asking to be seated away from other diners in restaurants, ignoring people's DMs on social media, paying with $100 bills, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do you write a thank you note for a peacock? Is it OK to ask to be seated away from other diners in a restaurant? Is it rude to create a new post on a social media platform if you have unread DMs? Is it rude to pay with $100 bills? Is it OK to have a wedding website if we eloped? And should we send announcements? Aftermath: Summer home being overrun with uninvited guests THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Freddie the Peacock YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 59 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/26/202026 minutes, 1 second
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Touching Fruit in Italy, Flossing in Public, Answering the Door in a Robe, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle buying produce in Italy, going on a job interview, flossing in public, opening your door in a robe, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Buying produce in Italy A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Going on a job interview QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to ask someone to help you bake a cake for a party you're not invited to? When did it become normal to floss in public? When someone shows up at your door unannounced, is it more rude to make them wait while you put on clothes or more rude to open the door in a robe? VENT OR REPENT: Recommending cancelled shows, Voicemail system options that haven't actually changed CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: People who listen, CordialsOfKindness.com THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW National Survey Reveals Rising Acceptance of Flossing in Public "Cherie Lifesaver" episode of "Punky Brewster" ITV's "White Chapel" is cancelled CordialsOfKindness.com YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 58 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/19/202039 minutes, 35 seconds
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Asking Doctors to Wash Their Hands, Waiting for Bosses to Show Up, Yawning Too Much, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about asking doctors to wash their hands before an exam, waiting for bosses who are never on time to meetings, telling therapists that they are yawning too much, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How can I tell my doctor to wash his hands before examining me? How can I stop people who invite themselves to my goat farm? Is it rude that my boss is always late to our meetings? What can I do about my yawning therapist? How can I tell colleagues that I can't offer instant responses to every email? Audience Repent: A late birthday card THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Gavin de Becker's "Gift of Fear" Karen Robards Official Website Leah Bonnema's "Hard Read" of Karen Robards Romulus and Remus YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 57 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/12/202026 minutes, 38 seconds
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Poaching Friends, Putting Elbows on Tables, Refusing Old Soup, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle putting elbows on tables, poaching friends, refusing old soup, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Elbows on the table A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Friend poaching QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I decline old lentil soup from a friend? Is it OK to send thank you notes with a mailing service? Is it rude to text "are you home" with no additional information? VENT OR REPENT: An encounter at Starbucks, Companies that waste your time CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Lost and found items, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Elbows in Book of Ecclesiastes "Rituals of Dinner" by Margaret Visser Assorted All-Occasion Blank Note Cards on Amazon USPS Stamps YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 56 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/5/202040 minutes, 39 seconds
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Hosting Against Your Will, Reheating Leftovers at the Office, Inviting Yourself to Events, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about being forced to host against your will, inviting yourself to events, reheating leftovers at the office, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK that my husband doesn't want to take my leftovers to reheat at the office? What do I do about a party guest who wants to take their dip home early? Is it rude to jump when startled? What do you do about a coworker who invites themselves to a non-work dinner? Do I have to let my family cook a Thanksgiving turkey in my house if I'm a vegetarian? Aftermath: We don't want to carpool with our colleague. (Original Question) THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Weary Face Emoji YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 55 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/28/202027 minutes, 26 seconds
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Eating Like Europeans, Signing Business Emails, Giving Repeat Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating like Europeans, signing business emails, giving repeat gifts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: American versus European fork usage A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Email closings QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Can I tell my boss I don't want the same Christmas gift as last year? What do you do if someone doesn't apologize for hitting you with a ball? Can I tell a friend I'm never going to read the book they gave me? VENT OR REPENT: Nearby carpentry, A big thumb's up CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Mah Jong, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Margaret Atwood's "The Handmaid's Tale" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 54 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/21/202036 minutes, 6 seconds
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Ranking Wedding Guests, Refusing Requests for Money, Prodding Slow Charities, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about ranking wedding guests, refusing requests for money, prodding slow charities, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to put your wedding guests in priority groups and tell them which group they're in? Is it OK to ghost if someone you don't know very well asks you for money? How do you deal with someone who leaves inappropriate comments on your Instagram posts? What do you do if a charity isn't giving you the information you need to write thank you notes? How could things have been handled better during an episode at the theatre when texting was involved? What's a polite way to tell someone they tell boring stories? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "You are in Group A" wedding notification YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Become a member on Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 53 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/14/202031 minutes, 55 seconds
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Wearing White After Labor Day, Apologizing Correctly, Sending Glitter, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle wearing white after labor day, apologizing the right way, sending things with glitter, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Wearing white after Labor Day A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Apologizing QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do you tell someone not to answer their door in their underwear? Can you confront a friend who smudges glassware? Is it rude to ask for your pan back? VENT OR REPENT: Mask-wearing in stores, Sending things with glitter CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: To parents, to listeners THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW John Waters' "Serial Mom" Time Magazine: "Why We Can't Wear White After Labor Day" Psychology Today: "The 9 Rules for True Apologies" Wikipedia: Yarra Valley wine New York Times: "What is glitter?" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 52 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/7/202040 minutes, 8 seconds
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Hiking on Trails, Criticizing Your In-laws, Writing in Cursive, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about hiking on trails, criticizing your in-laws, writing in cursive, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: When there's a meal train for a new mom, is it OK for her to make last-minute changes? Is it OK to write in cursive if people have trouble reading it? How can I get more people to learn hiking trail etiquette? Is it OK to include your business card or Instagram handle in correspondence? Should we teach our nieces and nephews about thank you notes? Is it rude to invite someone as "and guest" to your wedding? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW D'Nealian Handwriting Method Hiking Etiquette (National Parks Service) YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 51 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/31/202030 minutes, 34 seconds
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Cutting Lines, Answering Phones, Picking Berries, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle answering phones, cutting lines, telling restaurants it's your birthday, selling items online, responding to rude customer service, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Answering the telephone A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Cutting in line QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to tell restaurants it's your birthday? What's the best way to handle selling items online? How do you respond to rude customer service? VENT OR REPENT: Unsafe drivers, Selling things online CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Berry picking, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Who invented the telephone? The Simpsons: Mr. Burns answering the telephone "Line Cutters, the Scourge of Humanity" by Jesse Mechanic YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 50 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/24/202040 minutes, 5 seconds
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Meeting New Neighbors, Going Overboard with Gifts, Avoiding Carpools, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about moving into a new neighborhood, going overboard with giving gifts, avoiding carpooling with people you don't like, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do if you don't want to carpool with someone? How to handle a friend who goes overboard with gifts? When buying a home, do you have to give closing gifts to your real estate agent or the seller? How should you go about meeting the new neighbors? What's the best way to follow-up with someone who is ignoring your email? Is it OK to redecorate a temporary office? How should you handle rude people on public transit? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW The 5 types of gift-givers YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 49 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/17/202030 minutes, 44 seconds
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Slamming Car Doors, Eating Cocktail Garnishes, Borrowing from Friends, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle borrowing things from friends, eating olives in martinis, slamming car doors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: How to insert a card into an envelope A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Borrowing things from friends QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Are you allowed to bring your own bell to a restaurant? At what point can you eat the olive in your martini? How to handle sharing internet with a neighbor? VENT OR REPENT: Scratching CDs, Slamming car doors CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Pollination gardens, Candy care packages THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Savage Garden's "Truly Madly Deeply" Bringing your own bell to a restaurant What is a VPN? Guten Morgen Deutschland YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 48 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/10/202038 minutes, 27 seconds
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Handling Mothers-In-Law, Disobeying Gift Instructions, Exiting Gracefully, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about replying to voicemails with text messages, handling mother-in-laws who don't respect your wishes, making graceful exits, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Can you reply to a voicemail with a text message? What do you do about a mother-in-law who refuses to accept you haven't taken your husband's last name? What snacks do you have to offer your guests? Are you allowed to ignore a host's instructions about what gifts to buy for a baby shower? How do you make a graceful exit when your host won't stop talking? Vent: A Christmas dinner gone horribly wrong THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "Tatterhood: Feminist Folktales from Around the World" "Goodnight Moon" and the New York Public Library YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 47 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/3/202031 minutes, 50 seconds
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Eating Corn on the Cob, Asking Someone's Age, Ignoring RSVPs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating corn on the cob, asking people how old they are, handling people who never RSVP, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Eating corn on the cob A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Asking people how old they are QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Can you stop inviting someone who never responds to RSVPs? What to do about a relative who doesn't want to fix something they broke? Should you stop someone who is about to repeat a story you've heard before? VENT OR REPENT: Sending emails, sending thank you notes CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Zoom Zumba, Borrowing a car THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW How to avoid illegal job interview questions YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 46 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/27/202044 minutes, 27 seconds
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Sliding Into a Stranger’s DMs, Leaving Dirty Dishes at the Office, Using Wedding Gifts Before the Wedding, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sliding into people's DMs, dealing with a coworker's dirty dishes, following up on whether gifts were received, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to slide into someone's DMs? Is it OK to ask about the cost of a "market price" or a daily special item at a restaurant? Would it be rude to leave a coworker's dirty dishes on their desk if they don't wash them? How can I make sure a gift I sent was actually received? At the gate of my gated community, is it OK to drive ahead of guests waiting to be buzzed in? Can you use a wedding gift card before the wedding? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "Sliding into the DM" on Urban Dictionary YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 45 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/20/202028 minutes, 30 seconds
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Giving Toasts, Blowing Bubbles, Leaving Out Cash, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle giving toasts, blowing bubbles, holding photos hostage, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Topping Trees A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Giving Toasts QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to leave cash out for someone without a note? What do you do if a friend is holding photos hostage? How to handle someone who over-anticipates the arrival of an Uber? VENT OR REPENT: Loud music in parks, blowing bubbles CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Pharmacy workers, a nice voicemail THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Topping Out on Wikipedia "The Significance of Pine Trees Atop Construction Buildings" Bad Wedding Toasts on YouTube YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 44 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/13/202035 minutes, 28 seconds
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Texting During Therapy, Cutting in Lines, Uninviting Guests, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about cutting in lines, scraping teeth on forks, sending thank you notes for checks, handling a therapist who texts during sessions, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: If I'm first into a parking lot, does this mean I should also be first in line? Is it rude to scrape your teeth on a fork? What should you do if you feel unwelcome on a conference call? When should you send a thank you note for a gift check? What should I say to my therapist who is texting during my sessions? How should I decline an invitation when I already have company? What do I do about my husband inviting guests to our home without my permission? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW History of the check on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 43 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/6/202031 minutes, 22 seconds
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Meddling Neighbors, Pre-approving Gifts, Flying the American Flag, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle flying the flag, pre-approving children's gifts, dealing with nosy neighbors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Etiquette for the American Flag A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Etiquette with very close friends QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it normal to have parents require pre-approval for children's birthday gifts? I received a gift addressed to both me and my now ex-husband...should I tell the gift-giver that I'm now divorced? What should I do about my nosy neighbors? VENT OR REPENT: Impolite emails, a shot across the bow CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Healthcare workers, borrowing gym equipment THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW United States Flag Code YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 42 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/29/202037 minutes, 35 seconds
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Wedding Bonus: Bringing Your Own Food, Skipping Thank You Notes, Inviting Yourself, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus wedding-themed episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about paying for weddings, scheduling mid-week ceremonies, skipping thank you notes, bringing your own food, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Who pays for a wedding? Is it rude to have your wedding on a holiday or on a day other than Saturday? I'm a bridesmaid and am feeling under-appreciated by the bride...what should do I do? What do I do about people who are inviting themselves to my daughter's wedding? Is it OK to donate to charity in lieu of sending written thank you notes for wedding gifts? Do you have to give a gift for someone's fifth wedding? Is it OK to bring your own food to a wedding reception? If a reception takes place a year after the wedding, when should you send the gift? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Average cost of weddings Style Guide: The name of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints Vegan wedding guest shamed for being 'rude,' bringing her own food AirCal YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 41 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/22/202034 minutes, 2 seconds
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Eating Lobsters, Leaving Group Texts, Bashing Hometowns, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle serving guests, eating lobsters, bashing hometowns, cutting birthday cakes without permission, leaving group texts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: French, Russian, and American service A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: How to eat Lobster QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you say to someone who criticizes your home town? Should a birthday person wait until friends are gathered before cutting the cake? What do you do about a group text you no longer want to be on? VENT OR REPENT: Standing in doorways without a mask, repeating voicemail messages CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: An encouraging audience member, hand-delivered lemon bars THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Andy Warhol's lobster illustration Tomalley on Wikipedia Ina Garten lemon bar recipe YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 40 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/15/202043 minutes, 42 seconds
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Wedding Bonus: Asking for Cash, Declining Invitations, Giving Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus wedding-themed episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about creating guest lists, declining invitations, asking for cash gifts, forgetting to send thank you notes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Who do you have to invite to your wedding? Do you have to go to a wedding if you're invited? What do you do if you can't afford to go to the bachelor or bachelorette party or to the wedding itself? Is it OK to ask for cash instead of gifts at a wedding? Do you have to bring a gift if you're a plus-one to a wedding? Is it OK to not bring a gift to a wedding? I haven't sent thank you notes for my wedding gifts yet...what do I do? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Cost of Bachelor Parties versus Bachelorette Parties (PDF) YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 39 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/8/202036 minutes, 9 seconds
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Attending Zoom Parties, Wearing Cummerbunds, Giving Babies "Weird" Names, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle wearing cummerbunds, attending Zoom parties, giving babies "weird" names, addressing letters to couples, handling complicated coffee orders, commenting on innocuous social media posts, taking out the garbage, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Cummerbunds A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Zoom parties QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to name your baby a weird name? When using first names in a letter, does the man or woman's name come first? How to handle complicated coffee orders? VENT OR REPENT: Commenting on innocuous social media posts, taking out the garbage CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Care packages, #bringbackthehowl THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Army Regulations for Cummerbunds French court stops child from being named Nutella Banned baby names in New Zealand YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 38 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/1/202042 minutes, 59 seconds
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Orienting Toilet Paper Rolls, Sending Insincere Invitations, FOMOing on Venmo, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about installing toilet paper rolls, responding to insincere invitations, changing RSVPs, declining photos at tourist attractions, making inside jokes on Venmo, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the correct way to install a toilet paper roll? A friend invited me to an expensive destination birthday knowing I couldn't afford it...was I really invited? If you RSVP "no" and then later discover you can make it after all, should you ask to be re-invited? How do you politely decline to have your photo taken at tourist attractions? Is it rude to have inside jokes on Venmo? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Toilet Paper Orientation on Wikipedia Toilet-paper roll patent from 1891 Trailer for "Over the Top" with Sylvester Stallone The view from the outdoor observation deck at Hudson Yards YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 37 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/25/202030 minutes, 56 seconds
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Ordering at Drive-Thrus, Offering Tap Water, Passing Ports, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle passing decanters of port, ordering at drive-thru windows, offering guests tap water, taking advantage of tea enthusiasts, talking in elevators, using smart watches at the theatre, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Do you know the Bishop of Norwich? A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Drive-thru Window Etiquette QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to offer my guests tap water? What do you do about people who sat themselves in a restaurant? Should you be annoyed that someone took more than one tea bag? VENT OR REPENT: Talking in elevators, smart watches at the theatre CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: A nice review, a thank you for our transcripts THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Bishop of Norwich Man allegedly pulls AK47 on driver who cut in line at McDonald's drive thru YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 36 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/18/202043 minutes, 25 seconds
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Using Knives on Salads, Holding Doors for Others, Tipping on Discounts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about holding doors open for others, liking your own social media posts, cutting salads with knives, getting colleagues to respect your desk space, tipping when there's a discount, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the appropriate time or distance to hold a door open for others? Is it rude to like your own posts on social media? Are you allowed to cut salad with a knife? How do you get colleagues to respect your personal space? Do you tip on the pre- or post-discount amount? Vent: People who stop by your table to say hello at a restaurant THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Awkward Door Holding Blue Bayou Restaurant at Disneyland YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 35 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/11/202026 minutes, 26 seconds
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Ghosting, Visiting Renaissance Fairs, Using Hot Towels, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using towels at a Japanese restaurant, ghosting, dressing appropriately for Renaissance fairs, speaking to flight attendants while wearing headphones, correcting people who get your name wrong, asking about a partner's opinion, visiting crowded museums, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Oshibori (おしぼり) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Ghosting QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to wear a superman costume at a Renaissance fair? Is it OK to keep your headphones on when talking to a flight attendant? Am I allowed to correct people who assume I took my husband's last name? VENT OR REPENT: Getting a man's permission, crowded museums CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Small gifts, a nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Oshibori on Wikipedia New York Renaissance Faire YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 34 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/4/202033 minutes, 21 seconds
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Receiving Tacky Gifts, Cracking Knuckles, Knocking Before Entering, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about accommodating dietary restrictions, knocking before entering public restrooms, receiving tacky gifts, cracking knuckles in public, tipping on credit cards, asking inappropriate questions in groups, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: At a dinner party, do I have to accommodate everyone's dietary restrictions? Should you knock first to check if a public restroom is occupied? What do you do about relatives who always give tacky gifts? What do you do about people who crack their knuckles in public? Shouldn't I be allowed to tip using my credit card at a salon? PSA: Asking inappropriate questions in group settings THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Teff flour is naturally gluten-free Wine purse What really happens when you crack your knuckles? YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 33 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/27/202025 minutes, 34 seconds
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Making Small Talk, Eating Pistachios, Recognizing Celebrities, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating pistachios, making small talk, telling people they have toilet paper stuck to them, returning dropped calls, correcting incorrect terminology, recognizing celebrities, handling annoying phone calls, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Eating pistachios A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Making small talk QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should you tell someone they have toilet paper stuck to them? When a call drops, who should call back? Is it OK to correct people who use the terms "bug" and "insect" incorrectly? VENT OR REPENT: Not recognizing a celebrity, dialing while talking CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Excited fans, new Patreon members THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Judith Martin's "Miss Manners' Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior" Bugs versus Insects Our new Patreon account YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 32 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/20/202035 minutes, 31 seconds
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Invoicing Party Guests, Keeping Scent Secrets, Walking Around Barefoot, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about invoicing party guests for food, walking around apartment buildings without shoes, asking friends to keep quiet at lunch, getting rowdy at musicals, handling inconsiderate dog owners, snooping on other people's phones, keeping scent secrets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Can you charge guests for food at a party? Is it OK to walk around your apartment building barefoot? How do we tell a friend to not talk during lunch? Is it OK to get rowdy at a musical? What do we do about an inconsiderate dog owner in our home? Is it OK to not want other people looking at my phone or computer screen? Can I keep my perfume's identity a secret? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Six: The Musical YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 31 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/13/202033 minutes, 28 seconds
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Raiding Strangers' Fridges, Wearing Backpacks on Subways, Declining Multi-Level Marketers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle riding escalators in Osaka, being around people who don't like you, declining multi-level marketing solicitations, going through a stranger's pantry, buying gifts for real estate agents, wearing backpacks on subways, breaking rules on airplanes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Riding escalators in Osaka, Japan A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: How to handle being around people you don't like or who don't like you QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do decline multi-level marketing (MLM) invitations? Is it OK to go through someone's pantry? Should you buy a closing gift for your real estate agent? VENT OR REPENT: Backpacks on the subway, breaking rules on an airplane CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Gracious hosts, Listener feedback THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Japan Elevator Association Standing versus walking on an escalator #bringbackthehowl IATA Carry On Baggage Size YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 30 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/6/202043 minutes, 6 seconds
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Eating Cheetos, Knitting in Public, Calling Dibs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about eating Cheetos, calling dibs, handling supermarket line cutters and slow baggers, behaving at a funeral, shutting down resentful relatives, going barefoot in a no-shoe household, emailing professors, knitting in public, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is there a polite way to eat Cheetos? When do "dibs" expire after you call them? How do you handle line cutters and slow baggers at the supermarket? What are the etiquette rules for talking to mourners at a funeral or viewing? How to deal with relatives who are resentful of your inheritance? If you're not wearing socks, do you still remove your shoes in a no-shoe home? How formal should you be when emailing a professor? Is it rude to knit in public? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Strawberry Cheetos Ukraine versus The Ukraine "The Spy Who Dumped Me" Riding Shotgun Joan Crawford knitting Joan Crawford and Norma Shearer confrontation scene from "The Women" Our new Patreon page YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 29 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/30/202034 minutes, 58 seconds
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Borrowing Money, Forgetting Invitations, Saving Forks, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating mukhwas, asking friends to repay you, forgetting to invite important relatives to parties, handling people with big hair, getting attention at a bar, sharing fears, saving forks, getting rides, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Mukhwas A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Asking friends to pay you back QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What to do if you forget to invite important people to a party? How to handle people with big hair? How to get attention at a bar? VENT OR REPENT: Sharing fears, Saving forks CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Getting a ride, A nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Mukhwas YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 28 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/23/202038 minutes, 35 seconds
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Unfollowing Exes, Standing on Escalators, Vaping in Offices, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about cleaning a roommate's dishes, hovering over people in restaurants, seating in taxis, avoiding conversations with drivers, unfollowing exes on social media, handling a coworker's after-hours messages, vaping in offices, splitting restaurant bills, telling provocative stories, standing on escalators, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Am I expected to clean my roommate's dishes? What are your thoughts on hovering over people in restaurants? Where should you sit in a taxi? What do you do if you don't want to talk to your driver? Should I explain to an ex why I'm unfollowing them on social media? What do I do about a coworker who is contacting me after-hours? How do you handle a coworker who is vaping at the office? Is it OK to ask for separate checks if only one person has ordered alcohol? PSA: Telling tragic stories PSA: Standing on the left on escalators THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Roommate Agreement Passive-aggressive office signs YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 27 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/16/202033 minutes, 18 seconds
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Scolding in Elevators, Tipping Bathroom Attendants, Worrying for Others, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle slashing names on social stationery, worrying for other people, conflicting information on invitations, scolding people in elevators, tipping bathroom attendants, handling impolite parents, FaceTiming in public, overcrowding in vestibules, holding packages for neighbors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Slashing your name on social stationery A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Worrying for other people QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How to deal with conflicting information on an invitation? Is it OK to scold people in an elevator? What's the deal with bathroom attendants? What do you do if you were raised by wolves? VENT OR REPENT: Face-timing in public, crowding vestibules CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Holding packages, a nice review THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Town & Country Magazine: Why Do People Cross Out Their Names on Stationery? YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 26 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/9/202041 minutes, 43 seconds
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Eating Oreos Properly, Dumping Your Hair Stylist, Seating Incomplete Parties, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about eating Oreos properly, dumping your hair stylist, toasting grammar, duplicating housewarming gifts, seating incomplete parties at restaurants, dealing with gassy coworkers, lowering the volume on loud people, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the proper way to eat an Oreo cookie? How do I dump my hair stylist? What is the proper grammar for the word "Cheers"? How many times do you need to bring a housewarming gift? Is it rude for restaurants to refuse to seat incomplete parties? How do you deal with gassy coworkers? How do you lower the volume on people who talk too loud? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Using a fork to dunk Oreo cookies Rollneck sweaters YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 25 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/2/202036 minutes, 19 seconds
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Eco-shaming Friends, Giving Gifts in China, Visiting a Hospital, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle giving gifts in China, visiting people in a hospital, eco-shaming friends, falling asleep on the subway, using "san" in Japanese correspondence, getting people sick, choosing the right fork, sending us calligraphy, leaving out cookies, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Gift giving in China A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Hospital Etiquette QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How to respond when you've been eco-shamed? What do you do if someone falls asleep on you on the subway? What does "san" mean when it's attached to someone's name in Japanese? VENT OR REPENT: Getting people sick, choosing the correct fork CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Calligraphers, cookie plates THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Green Hats in China How to say "thank you" in Mandarin The problem with plastic straws Adding "san" to a name in Japanese Artist falls asleep on people on the subway YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 24 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/24/202040 minutes, 42 seconds
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Criticizing Wedding Dresses, Spreading Rumors, Splitting Cupcakes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about criticizing someone's wedding dress, drying your hands without towels, dealing with nasty rumors, handling someone who always criticizes their own body, feeling obligated to make someone a bridesmaid, missing cutlery at a dinner party, handling in-laws who arrive hours early, taking just half a cupcake, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is there a nice way to tell someone you don't like their wedding dress? What do you do if there's no hand towel in a bathroom? Should you meet up with an ex-colleague to discuss a nasty rumor? What do you say to someone who always criticizes their own body? Are you obligated to make certain people bridesmaids? What do you do if your place setting is missing cutlery? How do you handle in-laws who insist on always coming over 2 hours too early? PSA: Take the whole cupcake. THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Skorts Miss Manners on proper spork placement YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 23 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/17/202030 minutes, 6 seconds
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Stealing Baby Names, Ignoring Emails, Garnishing Without Consent, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using unlucky numbers, handling conversations with people who don't ask questions, stealing baby names, being asked to chaperone a children's party when your own child isn't invited, garnishing dishes without consent, ignoring emails, buttering dinner rolls, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Unlucky numbers A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: People who don't ask any questions QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to steal someone's baby name? What do you do if you're asked to chaperone a children's birthday party but your own child isn't invited? PSA: Garnishing food without consent. VENT OR REPENT: Ignoring emails, buttering dinner rolls CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Mutual admiration THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Alitalia Seat Maps Brega Funk Afghan Star Nick in North Korea Chuck E. Cheese Museum of Science in Boston Saint Barthélemy YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 22 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/10/202043 minutes, 18 seconds
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Snuggling Aggressively, Giving Damaged Gifts, Tipping Only 1%, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about dealing with damaged gifts, giving Starbucks a fake name, splitting an AirBNB fairly, handling PDAs on a school trip, leaving low tips, tipping on expensive spa procedures, explaining to a friend why they're not invited to your home, powering your phone all the way off, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the etiquette for unknowingly giving someone a damaged gift? Is it rude to give Starbucks a fake name when you order? Should the AirBNB bill be split by the number of families or the number of bedrooms? What do you do about too many PDAs on a school trip? Should people not attending a birthday party be invited to participate in a group gift? On a $100 dinner, is leaving a $1 tip better than nothing? Should you tip 15% on an expensive spa procedure? What do you say to a friend who wonders why they haven't been invited over in a while? PSA: Power your phone completely down at the theatre. THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Fake Starbucks names Supper Club on Wikipedia Public displays of affection on Wikipedia Vampire Facial (Allure Magazine) Snow Squall in New York YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 21 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/3/202030 minutes, 45 seconds
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Sabotaging Recipes, Tossing Napkins, Blocking Stairs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using napkins, behaving at a live performance, redeeming gift cards, sharing cake recipes, departing earlier than expected, being distracted on stairs, leaning into other diners, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Napkin etiquette A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: How to behave at a live performance QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What to do when someone gives you a used gift card? Do you have to share your famous cake recipe? Is it OK to "check out" early when you're an unhappy houseguest? VENT OR REPENT: Walking slowly up stairs, leaning into other diners CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Something nice from a listener, something nice about Nick THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Gum in a cloth napkin "Showgirls" Trailer (NSFW) Neck-mounted iPhone holder "Idiocracy" Trailer YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 20 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/27/202041 minutes, 28 seconds
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Returning Wedding Gifts, Paying for Birthday Parties, Locking Out Relatives, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about paying for your own birthday party, picking the right urinal, bumping into passengers on an airplane, distracting relatives, trying to exit a crowded bus, choosing between the banquette and the chair, sending wedding gifts back after a wedding is called off, refusing to eat at a dinner party, bringing opened food to a dinner party, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to not pay for your birthday party? What should you keep in mind when using a urinal? Is it rude to bump into people when boarding a plane? What do you do if an older relative is distracting you at work? How do you get off a crowded bus if you're far away from the doors? Who should get the banquette and who should get the chair? The wedding was called off and I already sent a gift...should they send it back? What do you do if you simply cannot eat something at a dinner party? Is it OK to bring something that's opened to a dinner party? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW The Nobel Prize and the Urinal Fly "Rest Stop" by Stephen King Stroopwafels Best Noise Cancelling Headphones "90 Day Fiancé" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 19 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/20/202033 minutes, 32 seconds
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Reclining on an Airplane, Using Finger Bowls, Hitting Reply All, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using finger bowls, emailing the right way, reclining on an airplane, remembering birthdays, using business' bathrooms when you're not a customer, speaking Spanish around non-Spanish speakers, declining free samples, clearing plates at restaurants, losing keys, singing our theme song, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Finger bowls A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Thoughts on emails QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to recline your seat on an airplane? Should you remind someone it's your birthday? Is it OK to use a bathroom at a business if you're not a customer? Is it rude to speak Spanish around non-Spanish speakers?? VENT OR REPENT: Declining free samples at the grocery store, clearing plates before everyone's done CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Lost keys, singing our theme song THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Finger Bowls on Wikipedia YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 18 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/13/202040 minutes, 28 seconds
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Unloading Emotional Baggage, Planting Cherry Trees, Humming Aggressively, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about unloading emotional baggage on your friends, removing offensive taxidermy, texting at the theatre, commenting on people's body size, getting out of conversations at Whole Foods, eating loudly at the office, taking up too much space at a café, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to unload emotional baggage onto your friends? What do I do about a friend who is offended by my taxidermy? How should I handle someone who is texting at the theatre? What can I do when people comment on my body size? How do I get out of a conversation at Whole Foods? What can be done about a colleague who eats loudly at the office? Is it OK to take a booth at a busy cafe if you're only one person? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW "I am at my emotional capacity" meme Hanami (Flower Viewing) YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 17 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/6/202037 minutes, 39 seconds
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Clinking Glasses, Making Eye Contact on the Subway, Tipping Tow Truck Drivers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle giving and receiving toasts, behaving properly in New York City, offering guests tours of your home, tipping tow truck drivers, giving aspirational presents to friends trying to lose weight, arriving at exercise classes late, being surprised by unlisted ingredients at a restaurant, buying new luggage, being delighted by a surprise treat, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Toasting Etiquette A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: New York City etiquette, including walking, umbrellas, subways, delis, and taxis QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should you give guests tours of your home? Should you tip your tow truck driver? I have a friend trying to lose weight and I gave him a shirt that's in the size of his goal...was this OK? VENT OR REPENT: Arriving at an exercise class late, a restaurant doesn't disclose ingredients CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Buying new luggage, an unexpected meal THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Shakespeare's "Merry Wives of Windsor" Bell method of clinking glasses It's Showtime on the NYC Subway International Towing and Recovery Museum James Beard House YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 16 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/30/201939 minutes, 29 seconds
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Regifting Fruitcakes, Partying at the Office, Taking Down Your Tree, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this holiday-theme bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about behaving at your office holiday party, sending Amazon Wish Lists to your Secret Santa, dealing with a Secret Santa who's no longer with the company, responding to work emails the day before and after Christmas, regifting, giving people fruitcakes, making handmade gifts for friends, tipping parking garage attendants, hiding from family and friends when going home for the holidays, taking down your Christmas tree, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Office holiday party dos and don'ts Is it OK to send my Amazon Wish List to my Secret Santa? What do we do if someone in our office Secret Santa group quit the company? Do you have to respond to work emails on December 24th or 26th? Is it rude to regift? Is it rude to give someone a fruitcake? If you're feeling stressed about money, is it rude to give handmade gifts to your friends? I keep my car in a garage and tip every time I take my car out...do I have to tip again at Christmas? Is it rude to not see all my friends and extended family when I go home for the holidays? When should you take down your Christmas tree? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW NY Post: "Iconic NYC costume and beauty store Ricky’s is on its last legs" Fruitcake on Wikipedia Queen Victoria's Fruitcake Nick's fruitcake recipe (email us for it!) When is Twelfth Night? YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 15 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/23/201923 minutes, 27 seconds
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Using Chopsticks in a Thai Restaurant, Being Prompt, Giving People Personal Space, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using chopsticks in a Thai restaurant, being prompt, asking people to "watch your stuff" at a café or airport, queuing properly at a supermarket, asking for more bread at a restaurant, honking at cars as soon as the light turns green, giving people personal space when dining, asking people to remember your name, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Using chopsticks in a Thai restaurant A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: The importance of being on time QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you say when people ask you to watch their stuff at a café or airport? What is the etiquette when a new queue opens up at supermarket? Is it OK to ask for more bread at a restaurant? When a light turns green and the person in front of you doesn't go, how long should you wait before you honk? VENT OR REPENT: Personal space when dining out, asking people if they remember your name CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Nice fan mail, civilized behavior on an airplane THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW King Rama V Airport Announcements: The Most Captivating Voice in the World Supermarket Sweep New York Times: Our Nightly Bread Traffic Lights Leah Bonnema on "The Late Show with Steven Colbert" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 14 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/16/201935 minutes, 24 seconds
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Greeting with a Kiss, Going Rogue at a Dinner Party, Getting Catfished, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this extended bonus segment, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about greeting people with kisses, dealing with rogue dinner party guests, deciding who should go first in a buffet line, removing fish bones from your mouth, giving gifts that need to be displayed, leaving your phone number in a voicemail, stripping sheets when you're a houseguest, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do if you accidentally went in for a kiss when they went in for a handshake? How do you deal with dinner party guests who won't follow the invitation instructions? What is the appropriate response when a friend tells you they're getting a divorce? Who should go first when there's a buffet line? How do you remove a fish bone from your mouth? Don't give gifts that have to be displayed. Say your number slowly when leaving a voicemail. When you're a houseguest, should you strip the bed on your last day? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW George Michael's "Freedom" How to fold a fitted sheet YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 13 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/9/201927 minutes, 36 seconds
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Eating Soup, Giving Compliments, Entering Without Knocking, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating soup, giving and receiving compliments, doing business with rude people, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: How to eat soup A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Giving and receiving compliments QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How to do business with people who have bad manners? Is it OK to enter without knocking at your boyfriend's house? VENT OR REPENT: Using your phone in a spin class, squeezing limes CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: At the gym, at the coffee shop THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Soup etiquette videos on YouTube GQ: "How to Compliment a Woman without Making it Weird" (March 2018) Num Pang at Chelsea Market YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 12 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/2/201928 minutes, 52 seconds
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Talking Politics, Being Vegan, Saying Grace, Bringing Tupperware, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this Thanksgiving-themed bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about talking politics at the dinner table, bringing flowers without a vase, arriving and departing at appropriate times, selecting good gifts for the host, being gluten-free and vegan, saying "grace" if you're atheist, hating turkey, bringing your own Tupperware for leftovers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is there a polite way to talk about politics at Thanksgiving? Should you bring cut flowers in a vase? When should you arrive and when should you leave? What's a good gift for your host? Asking hosts "how can I help"? I'm gluten-free and vegan...what do I do? Do I have to say "grace" if I'm not religious? I hate eating turkey...do I have to eat it? Am I allowed to take leftovers? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Tupperware® Brand Containers Leah loves Christmas YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 11 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/25/201927 minutes, 44 seconds
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Ordering Wine in a Restaurant, Writing Condolence Letters, Talking in Elevators, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle ordering wine in a restaurant, writing condolence letters, saying farewell to colleagues when leaving a job, correcting people who spell your name wrong, getting dragged into other people's problems, talking in elevators, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: How to order wine in a restaurant A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Writing condolence letters QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do you say farewell to colleagues when leaving a job? Can you correct someone who keeps spelling your name wrong? VENT OR REPENT: Getting dragged into other people's problems, talking in elevators THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW You should smell the wine cork at a restaurant You should not smell the wine cork at a restaurant Sharing in your sadness as you remember Dan Little Shop of Horrors Stuck in an elevator ASMR YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 10 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/18/201935 minutes, 38 seconds
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Texting Late at Night, Escaping Dinner Parties, Regifting Dreamcatchers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sending texts late at night, escaping long dinner parties, telling people their fly is down, receiving unusually large gifts, waiting for people to retrieve their finished laundry so you can use the machine, abandoning a friend without Global Entry, returning missed calls when there's no message, regifting dreamcatchers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How late is too late to text? Is there a polite way to excuse myself from a dinner party that drags on? How do you tell someone their fly is down? Is it rude to give someone a large surprise gift that would require you to rearrange your house? How long should you wait before taking out someone else's clothing from a machine at a laundromat? If you have Global Entry, do you have to wait in line with a friend you're traveling with who doesn't have it? Do you have to return missed calls when someone doesn't leave a message? What do you do if you receive an unwanted dreamcatcher? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Oprah: Never go to a secondary location House Beautiful: What is a Lanai? HAL sings "Daisy" How to apply for Global Entry Dreamcatcher on Wikipedia Oscar Wilde on being talked about YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 9 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/11/201925 minutes, 17 seconds
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Eating Grapes the Wrong Way, Exercising in the Airplane Bulkhead, Texting Thank You Notes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating grapes correctly, using foreign words in conversation, bringing wedding gifts to the ceremony, following up with someone who doesn't send a thank you note, sending thank you notes via text, stretching your legs in the bulkhead on an airplane, wearing earphones when not listening to anything, criticizing live performances while you're still in the venue, taking too long to fill up your water bottle at the gym, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: The correct way to eat grapes A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Using foreign words in conversation QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should you bring a wedding gift to the ceremony? What do you do when someone doesn't send a thank you note? Is it OK to send a thank you note via text? Is it OK to stretch your legs in the bulk head on an airplane if you're not seated there? What's good earphone etiquette? VENT OR REPENT: Criticizing a live performance while you're still in the venue, taking too long to fill up a water bottle at the gym THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Grape Shears Kyiv versus Kiev Agnès Varda on Wikipedia How to pronounce "Agnès" Filling water bottles at the gym YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 8 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/4/201932 minutes, 29 seconds
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Halloween Helpings: Dealing with Greedy Children, Choosing Appropriate Costumes, Being Too Old for Trick-or-Treating, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions how to choose appropriate costumes, whether gore is OK at the office, cultural appreciation versus appropriation, how old is too old for trick-or-treating, what to do about greedy children at your door, and more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's considered "appropriate" for halloween costumes? If I'm invited to a costume party, do I have to dress up? How old is too old for trick-or-treating? What do you do about trick-or-treaters who take more than one piece out of the bowl? What do you say to trick-or-treaters who don't like your candy? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW How the History of Blackface Is Rooted in Racism Cultural appreciation versus appropriation YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 7 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/28/201912 minutes, 42 seconds
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Removing Socks on Airplanes, Splitting Bills at Brunch, Hosting Weddings on Grass, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using wooden Japanese chopsticks, asking people "What do you do?", cleaning your host's filthy home in the middle of the night, removing your socks on an airplane, splitting the bill at brunch, disclosing environmental hazards to your wedding guests, being too folksy in a restaurant, giving bad directions to strangers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: The correct way to use wooden chopsticks A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Asking people "What do you do?" QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Can I clean my host's filthy home in the middle of the night? Is it OK to remove your socks on an airplane? What's the right way to split the bill at brunch? Should you disclose environmental hazards to your wedding guests? VENT OR REPENT: Being too folksy in a restaurant, Giving bad directions to strangers THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Japanese Chopstick Etiquette McGill University, the Harvard of Canada Columbia University, where there's always one admission mistake every year YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 6 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/21/201931 minutes, 58 seconds
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Leaving Your Spouse in Coach, Confronting Celebrity Neighbors, Avoiding Obnoxious Colleagues, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about whether you have to upgrade your spouse if you're flying in business class, how to avoid inviting an obnoxious colleague to a party, when it's appropriate to burp in public, what to do about a celebrity neighbor who won't take a hint, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do I have to upgrade my spouse if I'm flying business class? How do you not invite someone to a party who's a bad guest? Is it OK to burp in public? What to do about neighbor won't take a hint about their obnoxious leaf blower? What do you say to people who comment on your food choices? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Daily Mail: "The economy class wives: Their husbands fly first class while they are forced to slum it in the cheap seats" Helping a loved one with a drinking problem Leah Bonnema on the "Late Show with Stephen Colbert" Buy WYRBW mugs World Burping Championship Los Angeles Times: "L.A. banned gas-powered leaf blowers, but the sound of failure is still loud and clear" Report Illegal Leaf Blowers in Los Angeles: (213) 473-4486 YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 5 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/14/201920 minutes, 24 seconds
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Congratulating Brides, Sending Food Back, Leaving Voicemails, Remembering Names, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle proper greetings for brides, sending food back at restaurants, charging guests at weddings, remembering names at parties, leaving voicemails, standing too close on the subway, and more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: What not to say to a bride A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Remembering people's names QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Can you have a cash bar at a wedding? Do you send a thank you note for a thank you gift? If you send food back, should other people wait for you? VENT OR REPENT: Leaving voicemails, standing too close on the subway THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Lisa Vanderpump's Guide to British Etiquette Mystery chicken dish (no link because Leah still can't remember what it is) Millennials feel awkward about sending back restaurant food Dictionary definition of "split" Judgement of Solomon YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 4 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/7/201927 minutes, 43 seconds
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Wearing Windsuits, Ghosting Colleagues, Seasoning Food, Flagging Waiters, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this bonus episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about being forced to wear a windsuit at work, what to do if you're being professionally ghosted, whether or not it's rude to salt your food before tasting it, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it ok to listen to music on your phone on speaker in public? What do you do when you're being professionally ghosted? Do I have to participate in my school's "Windsuit Wednesdays"? How do you tell someone they have something on their face? Is it rude to put salt and pepper on your food without tasting it first? In a restaurant, is it OK to flag down someone who isn't your waiter? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Acute Accent on Wikipedia Women's Comedy Film Festival Atlanta 2019 Leah Bonnema in a windsuit YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 3 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/30/201925 minutes, 39 seconds
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Popping Champagne, Cancelling Plans, Double-Dipping, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle popping champagne bottles, cancelling plans the right way, double-dipping when you're dining alone, giving up your seat to the elderly, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: How to open a champagne bottle A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Cancelling plans on others QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Can you double-dip when dining alone? When to give up your seat on the subway? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW German scientist logs Champagne cork speed Muselet on Wikipedia Video of opening champagne Margot Robbie Explores ASMR with Champagne YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 2 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/23/201920 minutes, 27 seconds
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Snooping in Medicine Cabinets, Tipping on Take-out, Going to the Opera, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle passing dishes at a dinner party, behaving at the opera, posting photos of others on social media, tipping on take-out, snooping in medicine cabinets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Passing platters at a dinner party BE OUR GUEST: Sam Neuman, Opera Expert A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Posting photos of people on social media without their permission QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do you tip on take-out? Is it OK to look in someone's medicine cabinet? THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW Nick Leighton & Latrice Royal at the Met Opera Renée Fleming being booed at La Scala Patti LuPone yelling at an audience member That horrible photo of Leah (she won't let us post a link!) Emily Post Institute: "General Tipping Guide" Priceonomics: "Should you tip on takeout?" Scientific American: "What drives us to peek into someone's medicine cabinet?" Bernice Kanner: "Are you Normal?" YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Episode 1 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/9/201930 minutes, 38 seconds
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Sneak Peek: Were you raised by wolves?

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and stand-up comic Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate us 5 stars on Apple Podcasts Call, text, or email us your questions Follow us on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter Visit our official website Sign up for our newsletter Buy some fabulous official merchandise CREDITS Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton Theme Music: Rob Paravonian TRANSCRIPT Trailer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/27/20192 minutes, 2 seconds