This week Stephanie and Travis discuss how hectic things have been in recent weeks. Are we as a culture addicted to the grind? It always feels like after we complete a task we will finally rest only to start a new unexpected task. Is being busy our norm even if we complain about it all the time? Cause if i ain't one thing it's another right? Stephanie discusses walking the line  between celebrating this pregnancy and doing too much influenced by others. Creating life is always worth celebrating, but how do we stop ourselves from celebrating in ways that aren't authentic to who we are? Stephanie and Travis share an amazing gift from a special friend that has allowed them to celebrate this pregnancy in a special way. Although everyone is sick of talking about Will and Jada, the latest revelation that they have been separated since 2016 was worth discussing. So much life happens in 8 years, keeping up false narratives during that amount of time must have been exhausting. Lastly, they talk a little more in depth about perfect attendance awards in childhood and how they impact our worklife in adulthood. What things do you consider before taking a sick day at work? Has our society’s increased awareness of mental health made it easier for working people to take time to take care of themselves or is it just a facade?Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis discuss how her views on gifts as a long language may have changed. How should we address our partner when a personal need is not being met in a relationship without discrediting all the other ways your partner shows up for the relationship. Travis actually has a fact based “Did You Know”. When did the color pink become exclusive to girls? F*ck them kids, we revisit this saying from Episode 006. How has our perspective changed on putting your relationship before your kids?Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Travis and Stephanie dive into a little love in the media and discuss Brittany Renner’s body count and the new season of Love is Blind. Is 35 “bodies” at the age of 31 a lot when you do the math? Lydia is easy to hate, but is Uchee the true villain? This week Travis brings back “Did You Know”, well sorta. Stephanie and him are sort of conflicted on this segment. However, it led to a great discussion on how we start to mimic our partners personality traits. What do you think Stephanie has picked up from Travis' personality and vice versa? Stephanie discusses how she was disappointed in herself for how she spoke about certain things last episode. She recently read “The Mastery of Self” by Don Miguel Ruiz Jr. and realized she totally forgot about a major lesson she learned from that book. Stephanie also discusses the chapter “The Role of Family and Friends in Shaping your Habits” from the book Atomic Habits by James Clear. Can our evolutionary habit of doing what our friends and family do hold us back from doing what we truly want? Lastly, their discussion about the negative comments they received about having a girl last week blew up on tiktok. It opened their eyes to other deeply rooted issues we have towards baby girls and baby boys. From commenting on weight, neglect, and reinforcing gender norms. If you are in the tri-state area we encourage you to book a mini-fall photo shoot session with Tab Fields who has openings on October 8th and 14th in the New York CIty area. Please inquire with her at Tabfieldsphotography.com/contact This is a great opportunity to get great family photos, couples photos, maternity photos, etc.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

We’re back! Did you suspect something was majorly wrong that we took such a long break? Well we break down exactly why we took a break and catch you up with what we’ve been up to. We reveal our baby girl's name. Stephanie gets a little heated talking about how we as a culture need to stop projecting our fears onto others. Why we decided to homeschool and how it's going. What are your thoughts on scheduling sex? We talk about our thoughts on this seemingly cringe tactic. Perhaps there’s something to it. Check out our website as we have added a video and audio option for submitting questions, stories, etc via the contact page.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis are once again joined by Author, Lorraine Avila. Lorraine was previously on WSLEO via zoom and it was absolutely crucial to have her on in person for a more intimate conversation. Lorraine was able to open up about her own romantic life while chit chatting about Love is Blind 4. Clearly we are all obsessed with the Netflix reality show. Tune in for their hot takes on Jackie & Chelsea. Is our love for Marshall causing us to hate Jackie too harshly? Is our hate for Kwame allowing us to ignore Chelsea's red flags?Stephanie and Lorraine discuss how the rules of the patriarchy and masculinity show up within them when in queer relationships. It is critical to be aware of how we innately repeat negative cycles when gender roles are blurred.Some men think a woman who works hard is undateable. These men have an urge to be needed by women. Has that impacted Lorraine's lifestyle? Do women have to make themselves small to be approachable? Or perhaps soften up?The Making of Yolanda La Bruja by Lorraine Avila, is a debut contemporary coming-of-age young adult (YA) novel. When 16-year-old Yolanda Alvarez is initiated into her family's traditional religion, she has a vision that the new kid in school is planning a shooting, but convincing people is harder than she thought: he's not just the only white kid there, he's the son of a powerful business man and upcoming politician. So it's up to Yolanda to get the new kid to see the beauty in her community before he harms it.Order your copy of The Making of Yolanda La Bruja wherever books are sold.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Travis and Stephanie had a little April fools fun, although they love Les Chat pod very much, they will all be staying in their lane. This week they discuss Jonathan Majors allegations and how our biggest mistakes do not define us. Stephanie is reading The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz and discusses how imposter syndrome is developed throughout our entire life, not just in some corporate office. We have limiting beliefs in so much of our day to day lives. Can a shift in mindset and intentional use of language allow us to be better versions of ourselves?On ‘Oh So Ya’ll Can Relate” a young mother and wife is torn as her husband wishes to live a polyamorous lifestyle while she wishes to be in a monogamous relationship. Can a man love two women and maintain two separate households successfully? People should avoid guilt as a tactic to convince someone of being poly. This whole conversation led Stephanie and Travis to discuss being open to dating. So slide in their DM’s.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis welcome back Jojo & Dayra of Les Chat Podcast. They all compare relationship norms and their ideal Sunday. These vary in queer vs. hetero relationships as well as for couples with and without kids. Yet there are also similarities.Have you heard of endocannabinoids ? Well they are actually proof that female orgasms actually do exist. Apparently some people feel they are a myth. Science has also proven women are more fluid in their sexual attraction than men.Would you be in a long distance relationship with some in prison? What if they were convicted of murder? Do we believe in the rehabilitation process of the criminal justice system?- Les Chat Podcast: https://linktr.ee/leschatBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Episode 080 was a complete derailment of the outline. Wow. They had every intention to focus on the topics, but their recent “discussions” took over. They spent a great chunk of time debating their roles in the relationship, if they should shift, and comparing their roles to “how everyone has always done it.” Travis is very flexible. But Stephanie wants him to be intentional with his child rearing, not just follow her beliefs. Is it because she needs help or is it because she doesn't  want to be the only one to blame if their children have something to say about their childhood? On “Oh So Y’all Can Relate” someone changes their EX’s contact name to make it seem it's just another friend. Would you allow your partner to communicate with their ex if they had a life threatening accident?  Oh and yeah those Drake ticket prices were very humbling to the Whiteman household. Stephanie and Travis are not okay.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

After celebrating 7 years of marriage last week and giving our minds and bodies rest, we are back. We jump right in discussing how we had a tense “discussion” yesterday. After 7 years of marriage we still like each other very much, but we still let each other down. We are human. Even when we have applied effective communication and have been explicit with our needs, our partners fall short. So what do we do? How do we get back to feeling connected? Someone once asked us, “How do we encourage our partners without sounding like their parents?”. We discuss how it's possible in our marriage and the recipe for making it work in any relationship. Lastly, we discuss how “therapy talk” and mental health plays a role in dating and “competitive advantages”. I LOVE bringing things back to evolutionary psych. Emotional maturity is starting to be just as, if not more important than one's financial status or physical attractiveness. Check out our brand new home studio on YouTube.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week we answer various listener submitted questions such as our opinion on dating apps, long distance relationships, and alone time while in a relationship. We also talk about the appropriate amount of making out. Some think making out is childish. Some consider making out foreplay. How do you feel about making out and has your stance changed while in a relationship? Talking about intimacy is becoming less and less taboo, but where do we draw the line? How do we choose which details we keep to ourselves?“Did You Know” women in Spain will now be granted 3-5 days of menstrual leave? Hopefully the rest of the world follows, but not everyone may agree with this accommodation. I feel there is a bigger conversation to be had surrounding flexibility at work and using personal days without an explanation.On “Oh So Yall Can Relate” a listener tells us about her 8-9 year situationship that is now coming to an end because she's pregnant by someone else. Guess who finally is ready to commit? -StephanieBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

We’re back! Despite being sick I refused to skip another week. I get on Travis for not buying “just because” flowers, but he disagrees. I also almost slept on the couch because of his snoring recently. A new study about married couples sleeping arrangements was conducted by the New York Times last month. Travis is still 100% against it, while my opinion has shifted.“Did You Know?” men escape in the bathroom? Well did you know water is wet? Lol. While this isn't a pressing issue in our marriage, I 100% know it happens more often than we think. Our phone addictions make taking a number 2 twice as long. We let our legs go numb scrolling on the toilet.On “Oh so Y’all Can Relate” a man wants to know if he’s in denial since he is trying to make it work with his wife who has cheated twice. I hope you can tune in. -StephanieBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

What are the boundaries of healthy co-parenting? Is it appropriate to go on dates without the child? When is forcing a relationship actually bad for the child? We got inspired by a tiktok of a woman asking her baby daddy to go out to celebrate their break up anniversary. Has gaslighting become a buzzword? Is it overly misused? Well on this episode we discuss five different types of gaslighting. Travis gets triggered by that word. Have we gaslighted each other? SPOILER ALERT: We discuss HBO’s “The Last of Us” and Netflix’s “Pamela: A Love Story”. We dive into the amazing same sex couple portrayed in episode 3 of The Last of Us that had me hysterically crying. Pamela Andersons story shows us how we desperately seek to recreate the comforts of our childhood, even when it's toxic and chaotic. -StephanieBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

It’s been a rough week in our parenting that is following the tough week I had with my gut health. So yeah, ya girl is tired. However, I am also so grateful. Gratitude and grace have kept me going the past couple of weeks. Travis and I have experienced extended moments of feeling disconnected this past week. Travis tried to use humor to reconnect, I was just not feeling it. Sometimes, the things we love about our partners are annoying during stressful times. How could we set boundaries in our romantic relationships? Specifically boundaries around when we can unload our mental stress on our partners? Is it strange to ask your partner if they have the capacity to hear us vent? We complete this very intimate conversation with 4 questions from “The And” Long Term Relationship Box set. Find out what Travis and I have learned about love, what keeps us going strong, what we envision our next chapter as, and what mistakes we constantly make. Best, Stephanie. Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

How do you know when it is time to end a relationship? In hindsight, what signals were you ignoring that prolonged a doomed relationship? I reflect on how low self esteem may have contributed to my cheating ways in high school. Travis reflects on how relationships can turn into a security blanket. So you keep it even when it's obviously time to get rid of it. The reasons to end a romantic relationship apply to ending platonic friendships and cutting family off as well. Boundaries should be honored by everyone in your life. TRIGGER WARNING: Domestic Violence. On ‘Oh So Y’all Can Relate’ we read an unfortunate story about a woman who feels helpless. Her brother is an abuser and she even witnessed him slap his partner. What do we do as friends or family members of people in abusive relationships? How do we support them or hold them accountable? We may be unintentionally enabling abusers by turning a blind eye to it. What boundaries should you set for yourself? -StephanieBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week we discuss an alternative definition of self love. Love isn't just grand gestures and admiration. It is the day to day work and acts of service that make living life easier and more enjoyable. What ways are we showing ourselves love? It is beyond “self care” and hobbies. Self love isn’t always pretty. To snip “it” or not? Why do humans want biological children? Why do parents decide to stop having more children? Are these reasons self-centered? We discuss our indecisiveness with going through with a vasectomy and the possibility of adoption. Tune in to hear how I have lessened the impact of my cycles of sadness. I have revealed my healing journey with you all, little by little, in an unstructured way. It has just felt natural to do so. Let me know if you want to keep hearing about it.-StephanieBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week we discuss Gabrielle Union's “controversial” statement that she felt “entitled” to cheating because she paid all the bills in her previous marriage. Are the blogs feeding the “battle of the sexes” we discussed in recent episodes? Or was she completely wrong for that statement? Has a song, movie, podcast ever made you break up with someone? This week's “Did You Know?” shows us it happens more often than you think. What does authenticity mean to you and how does it show up in your relationships? Does change impact authenticity? What is more authentic, your unfiltered reactive response or a thoughtful one? -StephanieBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Happy New Year from the WSLEO family to the world. This week we reflect on our year, the year ahead, and how our very different brains can use the same tools for personal growth. While setting the bar too high at the beginning of the year can be a recipe for disaster, there is nothing wrong with taking advantage of “new year new me” energy to set goals. There is something super attractive about vulnerability. If you haven't already, prioritize talking with your partner about how you envision 2023. What does filling your cup look like? Why does it matter that your cup is filled? I read from my personal reflection on this topic of cup filling. It is my reminder to prioritize me so that my family gets me at my best. We also talk about Johan Hill’s new movie about his therapist, Stutz. His tool “Life Force” really resonated with me mostly because it was reinforcing something I sort of already knew about my mental health. Spoiler alert, there is no surprise to why I feel better mentally and emotionally when I am taking care of my physical body. Lastly we reveal our most listened to episodes of 2022, which was your favorite episode of the year? What topic have you been dying for us to cover? - StephanieBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

They are back! COVID hit their home for the third time in the past 2 years, but they are fully recovered and ready to do all things WSLEO. They had a lot to cover and shared their thoughts and perspectives on the passing of Stephen tWitch Boss, the Tory Lanez and Meg Thee Stallion trial, the unfortunate yet predictable impact of men becoming an extra child in a marriage, and TWO “Oh So Y’all Can Relate” submissions. Yes this is a long one! 9-8-8 is the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline which is available 24/7 to anyone in the United States in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. Things that were unintentionally discussed: Stephanie opens up about her recent venture into therapy. Stephanie and Travis had a miscommunication in the bedroom, it includes a toy. Sponsor: Midnight Electrichttps://mec-ny.comBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie shares some gems she has encountered in Yung Pueblos new book Lighter. We have discussed extensively how our childhoods impact our perception and our behavior, but what about tough moments now? How can self awareness and great communication skills prevent us from falling into and staying in toxic patterns? As creatures of habit, we have to be intentional in our attempts to be better and do better. On ‘Oh So Ya’ll Can Relate’ Travis tells us about a young woman who put up with way more than she should, yet was still doubting if she was in fact abused and manipulated. Financial and emotional abuse are often harder to define. Getting out of a toxic situation does not feel good or euphoric. Just because it's hard doesn't mean it was the wrong call. This submission is heartbreaking with many valuable lessons. Hopefully it will help others realize they also need to leave similar situations.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Stephanie and Travis are back after a heavy couple of weeks. Stephanie has a PSA about how our emotions are all over the place right before that time of the month. “Did You Know” Men make up their minds about marriage pretty fast? Umm in what universe? Stephanie is reading another Terrence Real book: The New Rules of Marriage. She talks about what Real calls a losing strategy, withdrawal. Withdrawal can be easily confused with acceptance but one comes with resentment, the other is achieved through gratitude. What is the difference between stonewalling vs responsible distance or space taking? It’s that time of the year where the pressures of the world start to feel even heavier. The holidays can add multiple layers of stress even onto healthy relationships. From finances, family traditions, and social media influencers, they all can suck the joy out of the holiday season. Stephanie and Travis discuss how they are working on creating new traditions and reflect on their upbringing. They also get into the fact that maybe you don't always have to be the bigger person. It is okay to stay away from places and people that do not bring you joy.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Stephanie and Travis are back after taking a week off to recharge and recalibrate. What is the logic behind why we can be super productive while we are clocked in at work, but then lack productivity while working on personal projects? Is it just decades of conditioning? Are we burnt out? Whatever it may be, Stephanie and Travis are working on developing a new relationship with productivity. While on an interactive live recap last week, the topic of masculine vs. feminine energy was brought up. It is very complex but Stephanie was intrigued with the separation of masculine and feminine energy from male and female. Meaning gender expression is separate from how masculine and feminine energy impact our behavior.Lastly, they were inspired by an article in which Kiara Luna, LMHC was featured in discussing mistakes to avoid in the bedroom. They discuss suppressing your desires, fantasies and kinks. What are the top 10 kinks Americans fantasize about the most? They try their best not to kink shame, but there were a couple of kinks that just required an eyebrow raise.Sources:https://medium.com/sex-with-a-side-of-quirk/5-scary-sex-mistakes-to-avoid-34f1db3d737bhttps://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a33338854/kinks-fetish-list/Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis reflect on which love language they use to love their friends. Stephanie’s “friendship love language” may be outdated considering how her life has evolved. Travis unfortunately wasn’t able to identify his “friendship love language”. Maybe from a lack of friendships or a lack of expressing love. On “Did You Know?” Travis tells us about yet another unfortunate side effect of hormonal birth control. A reminder that men should pay up cause women pay way more in non-monetary ways. From menstruation to child birth to menopause. Stephanie is candid about how she disappointed herself this week by speaking to both Eli and Travis in a way that does not reflect her healing. Why is it that we try to justify our negative behavior? It is easy to blame others for triggering us, but what if we took responsibility for our own actions? Lastly, for almost everyone, infidelity is a deal breaker. The big relationship NO NO. But, that is easier said than done. What does a relational therapist say about the reasons people cheat? How do we decide when a second chance is warranted? Why are we more understanding of the person who is shamed into silence but not the person who was falsely entitled into narcissism? Sponsor: Cloud 9 Buttershttps://cloud9butters.com/https://twitter.com/cloud9buttershttps://www.instagram.com/cloud9butters/Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Did you know, “married women are more than twice as likely to use a vibrator than non-married women?” Great more rhetoric that implies your sex life dies when you get married. It’s honestly not surprising anymore. But what if we flipped that idea on its head? Team work makes the dream work, sometimes a vibrator is on the team.   This week Stephanie and Travis discuss wet dreams. Wait… aren’t wet dreams limited to teenage boys? Actually they are a lot more common than we think and happen to both men and women even in adulthood. Sex dreams can be tricky when in a committed relationship. What happens when your partner isn't the co-star in your dreamland fantasies? Are our dreams trying to tell us something or are they just a random combination of our memories?  “Oh So Y’all Can Relate” is back with an obvious case of trauma bonding. Unfortunately this one involves a love triangle of sorts, with one side leading to a healthy marriage, one side leading to the reunion of a trauma bond, and the other leading to giving up on love. Having recurring thoughts about our exes is normal, until it's not. Where do we draw the line? This story also serves as a reminder as to why we need to cut off all ties from our toxic exes. Including ending relationships with their friends and family.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

What in the world convinced two 21 year olds to get married while the rest of us were trying to figure out the right water to shots ratio to avoid a hangover? Tabitha and Pete Fields try to help Stephanie and Travis make sense of it. Six years, one baby, buying and selling a home, and moving to a different state later, they still like each other. We all know marriage comes with challenges, mostly because two people who have lived as individuals now have to learn how to live relationally. Doing this before their brains had fully developed into adult brains came with its unique but relatable challenges for the Field’s. From pathological lying to navigating and reducing erratic and intense emotions. They refused to model the broken homes they lived through, so they leaned into mentorship to save their marriage. They also speak very candidly about how intentional they were to deliberately change behaviors that they learned in childhood. They identify childhood trauma not to live in the victimhood, but to acknowledge and heal. Oh and we have a question for y’all, who is worse? The passive aggressive person or the person that is outwardly angry and direct? The answer may lie in perception.Sponsor: Cloud 9 Buttershttps://cloud9butters.com/https://twitter.com/cloud9buttershttps://www.instagram.com/cloud9butters/Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

It has been a hectic couple of weeks for the We Still Like Each Other family. Is mercury in the microwave to blame? Or is life just life-ing? This week Stephanie and Travis discuss our inner child vs. our adaptive child. One is curious, creative, and forgiving, the other is living out a trauma response. One can be nurtured and celebrated in our adulthood and intimate relationships, the other is a relationship killer. Is our intimate partner responsible for healing our childhood trauma? Or is it our job to reparent ourselves? Lastly, a listener posed a very important and scary question for us “breaking generational wounds” parents. “Are we prepared for our kids to talk about where we fucked up at? The same way we talk about where our parents fucked up at?” Honestly, we’re shook, but it would be grandiose of us to think that our children will think we are perfect. Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

It’S jUsT a PiEcE oF pApeR. Dig into the WHY you are opposed to marriage. Are you truly just holding onto a false sense of control? Are you believing the false narrative that sex suddenly stops? Whatever your reasoning, talking negatively about marriage in front of married people is wack. Stephanie and Travis discuss other people's problems when they give their two cents on the Nia Long and Ime Udoka scandal. After having a 20 minute argument mid episode, that had to be cut, yeah it was that bad, Stephanie and Travis share that they created a free resource available for couples on their website. Remember that marriage meeting that went mini-viral? They created a template for those wanting to give it a try. Become a Patron! - https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

In reflecting on their week, things got a bit heated between Travis and Stephanie. It was about food, again. They aren't immune to the recurring disagreements. Just like many of you, they struggle with eating the food at home. This issue is not made any easier by the fact that Travis finds no joy at all in preparing a meal. Stephanie sees it as a more serious issue, no one wants to eat food prepared by someone who didn't put love into it, and possibly made it while harboring negative feelings. Parenting isn’t for the weak! This week Stephanie and Travis reflect on how becoming parents of two have impacted them personally now that baby River is 9 months old. Travis tears up when reflecting on a recent milestone he reached with Eli which he feels was a bit overdue. Like in romantic relationships, our dynamics are ever evolving in our parenting relationships. We aren't going to be the best versions of ourselves and exactly who our children need on day one. Just like in our romantic relationships, we have to do the best we can with the knowledge and support we have each and every day. Stephanie also speaks extensively about the pressures she feels to take care of herself while simultaneously taking care of the home and the children and her spouse. Something or someone has to get the short end of the stick so what is she to do? Stephanie gives a review of the book, Raising Good Humans by Hunter Clarke-Fields. This book focuses on helping us reduce our reactivity to raise kind and confident children. It forces us to compare our voice and tone when we speak to our children to when we speak to our romantic partners and when we speak to our friends. We often have this ill informed mentality that we have to have complete control of our kids' actions for their own safety. When in reality we have to build mutual respect, not blind obedience.Become a Patron! - https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Would you look at that… they’re talking about sex AGAIN. But who's complaining? Y’all love it here! How long should good sex last? The answer might depend on what you define as sex. Depending on who you ask, it can be a whole experience. Stephanie and Travis discuss how they unlocked a new level in their sex life. Finding new ways to be sexual nearly 8 years later is pretty satisfying… see what we did there? We all have experienced wanting sex to last longer or even end faster, Stephanie and Travis give their tips on how to make both happen. Somehow a Viagra and Adderall story makes it into the convo. This week on “Oh So Y’all Can Relate” a listener needs some advice on how to improve her sex life without making her man feel objectified. Is once a week enough sex in a relationship? Honestly, there probably isn't a number to define the right amount, it comes down to compatibility. Basically, y'all both gonna want it equally or at least be willing to compromise. Stephanie and Travis discuss scheduling sex and identifying barriers to having sex.Become a Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Stephanie and Travis did one of their favorite things this past week, enjoy a king sized bed with hotel linens and the air conditioner on blast. The past almost 3 years have been pretty hectic for most of us. Let’s be intentional with getting back to doing the things we love with the people we love. Smartphones and relationships. We all like to think we can play it cool, but technology adds a new layer of complexity to how we maneuver in love. If you go through your partner's phone, and you find something… is it justified? What boundaries should we have when it comes to social media? Can Stephanie thirst in Drake's comments? What about regular dudes? How many IG models is too many to follow? Lastly, on this week's "Oh So Y’all Can Relate", they clarify the difference between intimacy and sensuality. They read a beautiful story about how intimacy thrives in an inter-abled relationship between a paraplegic and an able bodied nurse.Become a Patron! - https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Let’s focus on non-sexual intimacy, cause if we really think about it, if we get good at it, we might actually have more sex. Are we masking a desire for intimacy by blaming it on a “high sex drive”? Stephanie and Travis discuss how learning how to connect without sex can improve your sex life and can also come in handy when sex isn’t an option. Despite having a healthy sex life, Stephanie craves some improvement in the non-sexual touch department. Travis picked a VERY specific and personal did you know this week, he was trying to make a point. Stephanie reenacted Travis' dramatic plea for her to “let things go” and not be angry with him, not even for a second. So you tell us, who is toxic here? Finally, on this week's “Oh So Yall Can Relate” a young couple is on the verge of ending things. This submission includes infidelity, drugs, alcohol, and an STD from a couple that has been together since middle school. Did FOMO play a role in this mistake? How do Travis and Stephanie feel about only ever having one sexual partner your whole life? Become a Patron! - https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Travis and Stephanie speak very candidly about being each other's best friends, but is it toxic that they enjoy doing everything together? When does wanting to spend time together become a red flag? They reflect on Stephanie partaking in Travis' love for film and television, but struggle to identify Stephanie’s passions. Anyone else ever feel passionless or even envious of people who are obviously talented? What is the fourth trimester? Travis was obviously confused, but it is probably the toughest trimester of them all. How can we support parents during this transitional period? How can the non-birthing/chest-feeding parent support? Acts of service should extend past your romantic relationships. Oh So Y’all Can Relate: Love & Grief. Stephanie and Travis tapped into some help for this one. Kiara Luna of Knew You Psychotherapy shared her insight on the stages of grief, how they manifest in relationships, and how grieving a loss and grieving a breakup can have similar manifestations. Is breaking up to heal separately advised by a psychotherapist? Also, what is up with our need to keep our ex’s close, but not committed? This is an uncomfortable gray area we have to stop expecting people to live in.Become a Patron! - https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/// Stay In TouchKiara Luna, LMHC: https://www.instagram.com/mrskiaraluna/https://knewyoupsychotherapy.comBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis have three additional producers! They are now accepting topic submissions from their top tier Patrons! Tune in to discover what Travis and Stephanie miss about the city life, how they recover from setbacks and disappointments in their relationship, and their opinion on large age gaps in relationships. Contrary to popular belief, your partner may disappoint you from time to time, that doesn't mean the relationship is doomed, it means you are human. So how and why do we get past them? Travis shares his biggest mistake in his marriage, believe it or not, it tops the drama in episode 1. Stephanie shares how she envisioned throwing a can of WD40 at Travis computer. Shoutout to growth.Age gaps in relationships make evolutionary sense, but only to a certain extent. How big of a gap is too much of a gap? Does it make a difference if a 20 year gap is between a 20 and 40 year old versus a 30 and 50 year old? Travis and Stephanie give their opinion while leaving you all with a few tips on how to decide if a large age gap is good for you.Become a Patron! - https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachotherTo support Irene from Episode 014, please click the following link: http://panelpicker.sxsw.com/vote/127294Create an account and click the “up” arrow. Your support is greatly appreciated. Patreon Producers:Pete FieldsPink Hair DanielleBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Travis and Stephanie talk about the comfort that comes from having friends you can find common ground with. For them that includes parents, married couples, and now podcasters. They may not all follow the same scripts, but they can respect and understand each other’s journeys. They also discuss the qualities we seek in our partners that were displayed by our parents. Travis definitely has some similarities to Stephanie’s dad. Just as Stephanie displays some nurturing tendencies similar to his mother. We all understand that our partners won’t be perfect, but blasting their imperfections can be insensitive and manipulative. Tune in as they discuss a dedication post gone wrong. Lastly, we know the work is hard. What are the hardest things Stephanie and Travis have had to communicate about? Become a Patron! - https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachotherBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Has our romanticisation of “Ride or Die” culture enabled toxic patterns, specifically for Black and Brown women? This week Stephanie and Travis explore this with Author Lorraine Avila. In her recent article for Refinery29,  "It's Time to Retire Toxic Ride-or-Die Culture '' Lorraine shares her personal experience with toxic ride or die culture, how it appears in romantic relationships, friendships, and families. But can ride or die culture be reclaimed, decolonized, and perhaps actually romantic not just the illusion of romance?Now picture this, an adult graphic novel based in New York City. Not the Sex in the City type, but one with BIG BRONX ENERGY and Harlem grit. A graphic novel with odes to Black music, spiritually and protective saints. A provocative story that weaves the Black and Brown community together and forces you to engage in self reflection. A love story filled with psychedelic trips that lead you down a mental rabbit hole of sorts, leaving you to evaluate your ability to let love in, or perhaps, keep it out. This should give you a sense of what Lorraine's newest project, “Celestial Summer” is giving. Stephanie and Travis were able to read it ahead of this conversation with Lorraine, tune in to hear about her process and how COVID-19 birthed this fictional love story inspired by true events. #WeStillLikeEachOther #Podast #LorraineAvilaBecome a Patron! - https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/// Stay In TouchOur GuestLorraine Avila: https://www.instagram.com/lorraineavila_/Pre-Order Celestial Summer: https://www.lorraineavila.com/graphic-novelBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Stephanie starts this episode off HOT. Rest assured, Travis didn't do anything. She had to set the record straight out of respect. She may have done lots of healing, and is less reactive than she has been in the past. But she's still from the Bronx and she had to light up a “fan” today. Is We Still Like Each Other the antidote to “Bro-Podcast” culture?Travis and Stephanie get into masculinity, the role of a man in a relationship, dominance and control. Inspired by Angie Martinez’s conversation with Lauren London they discuss What is pure love? What is ego driven love? Wait… what is ego? How many times have Stephanie and Travis been in love? They tap into these questions and get a little side tracked talking about the meaning of life and reincarnation.Become a Patron! - https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

In celebrating 1 year of We Still Like Each Other Stephanie and Travis are joined by newlyweds Ashley and Shomari. After dating for 8 years, they tied the knot. They are literally in the “honeymoon phase”. They discuss why they got married after over 7 years of cohabitation. Shomari and Ashley are the “friend zone” success story that you all have to hear. From mixed signals, holding onto the single life, and ultimatums they found their forever. Ashley’s vulnerability about her inability to accept love, her relationship to sex, and her “hardcore negativity” is relatable and includes lessons for all of us. Shomari’s perspective of marriage and family has translated to the most tender and patient love we have ever seen. Travis reminds us of how valuable time together can be in a  marriage, but how that time is spent is also important. Just like many of us in this social media era, they discuss their struggles with screen time and quality time./// Stay In TouchWe Still Like Each OtherPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@westilllikeeachotherInstagram: https://instagram.com/westilllikeeachotherTwitter: https://twitter.com/WSLEOpodcastOur GuestsAshley: https://www.instagram.com/jadoreash/Shomari: https://www.instagram.com/shomarilinton/Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis clarified the “body count” conversation. Is talking about the amount of people you've slept with necessary? Why as a culture do be deem certain professionals as asexual? Teachers and politicians are also sexual beings like the rest of us. Since sex sells and Stephanie and Travis receive numerous inquires about how to communicate about sex, this episode focuses on just that. Similar to the five love languages, Stephanie discovered there are five sex initiation styles. What is spontaneous desire and what is responsive desire? How can understanding these in your relationship make initiating sex more successful. Lastly, does orgasm have to be the goal of every time you have sex? Podcast mentioned: ¿Quién Tú Eres? Podcast @plurawlSex Therapist mentioned: Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy @drlaurenfogelmersyBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Episode 50 needed to be special. Travis and Stephanie are joined by Roxie and the infamous and mysterious “Tee”. Listen to episode 003: if you have not done so already or need a refresher. Travis “Did You Know” completely shocked us *cough cough*. The gays and the theys discuss their earliest queer feelings. Travis asks about their feelings regarding trans children and parents' support of medical gender affirming treatment. They discuss pushing the binary, representation, and having the space to come into one's self identity. Episode 50 once seemed like an unreachable accomplishment. Thank you all for joining us on this ride. We are still learning, growing, evolving, we’ve been able to persevere because of y’all support. Seriously, thank you. Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Join Stephanie and Travis as they discuss their train of thought following the decision to overturn Roe v. Wade, the drop of Honestly, Nevermind by Drake, and learning that testosterone increases desire. Have you ever discussed your body count with your partner? Is it ever okay to kick your partner out of your home? How do you prevent over stepping with your partner's parenting style? How do you prevent crossing boundaries while raising step children? This episode is a perfect combination of keeping it real, yet keeping it fun. Let’s hold on to joy.Become a Patron of We Still Like Each Other for additional bonus episode and visual content: https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachotherBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis discuss some highs and an unfortunately low of the week. Stephanie got cursed out and intimidated by a stranger. Didn’t they leave the Bronx to feel safe? Road rage can be very scary so never let your guard down. On Media Love Stephanie and Travis discuss “Who is more valued in a love triangle? The one that knows about it, or the one that is lied to?” They also discuss what a “hall pass” is and the boundaries that should be in place with it. Lastly, adding a new baby to your family comes with many challenges, Stephanie and Travis are not immune to them. They share a recent struggle that ultimately, is still unresolved, let's call it a work in progress. https://westilllikeeachother.com/https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachotherhttps://www.pleasesavemankind.com/Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

We Still Like Each Other (WSLEO) isn’t ALWAYS being in the “honeymoon phase” it's about always finding your way back to it, no matter how many years you've been together. The phrase WSLEO started as a way to say fuck off to those pessimistic about marriage, but it’s meaning has evolved. Stephanie and Travis discuss fatphobia, Lizzo, and rap drug culture. Travis called out Stephanie for never being satisfied, not being present, and frankly being ungrateful. What does prioritizing sex look like? Why is it that we “can’t find the time” yet we spend hours on our phones? Check your screen time usage for a wake up call. Bottom line is, if you like sex, you can have more of it.https://westilllikeeachother.com/https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/https://www.pleasesavemankind.com/Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Did you know you can literally die from a broken heart? Stephanie and Travis have been avoiding trauma porn. However, the story of Irma and Joe Garcia of Uvalde, TX really struck a cord for them. We all mourn in different ways, you all come to We Still Like Each Other for laughs, but they also keep it real and raw. How do we celebrate accomplishments while such a horrific tragedy is being covered on all platforms? On on brighter note, (possibly bright red), Travis and Stephanie talk period sex. Travis thinks we need to grow up and just do it, Stephanie acknowledges how society has stigmatized menstruation which can make period sex, kinda awkward. They touch on other things that women are shamed for like pubic hair, hyperpigmentation, and stretch marks. Travis encourages Stephanie to share an embarrassing story about how she injured her vagina when they first started hooking up.https://westilllikeeachother.com/https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachotherBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Have you had that “ah ha” moment where you realize life is short? People wiser than you have been telling you for years, but there's a moment when you actually believe it. What are you doing to prioritize spending time with the people you love? NOT EVERYTHING IS A RED FLAG. Don’t let ‘yellow flags’ keep you away from your person. Red flags have been polarized in the media. This can lead to unrealistic expectations and some may be left feeling unlovable. We all participate in at least one behavior that social media will label as a red flag. Is it acceptable for a man to ask a woman he is courting… ”When are you taking me on a trip?” Well the answer to this changes depending on the context. Travis calls Stephanie out for not buying him a chain. Stephanie self-diagnosed herself with being allergic to spending money on men. Is it a double standard or is it a fair way to undo the impacts of a patriarchal history?Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie opens up about a recent phenomena she has been experiencing, Angel numbers, through Travis' eye rolls and judgment. Do you believe in coincidences or does everything happen for a reason? (This is episode 44, I'm just saying.) Travis’ “Did You Know?” this week tried to undermine our whole message, the honeymoon stage NEVER EVER has to end. Then they discuss how to decipher between healthy expectations in a relationship, versus asking for too much. At times Stephanie has felt she expected Travis to be her father. He’s “Daddy” but not THAT daddy. Travis’ go with the flow personality has been helpful in never really setting many expectations. Is this a good or bad thing? Lastly, on “Oh So Yall Can Relate”, Travis pleads with the writer to RUN. Stephanie is hopeful that therapy can work. Is your partner's support during a vulnerable moment negated when they use it against you? Stephanie discusses how in the past she thought some physical abuse was acceptable. She's vulnerable about how her childhood impacted how she dealt with disagreements in her early relationships.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week on the Mother’s Day Special, Travis and Stephanie are joined by the women that brought them into this world, Simone and Elizabeth. They discuss their thoughts on the supreme court leak, the potential implication on banning legal abortions and their personal opinions on a woman’s choice. Travis and Stephanie get to hear their mother’s talk about their experience with motherhood as daughters, mothers, and now grandmothers. The evolution of motherhood for them, the tough choices they had to make, things they wish they had done differently and things they are proud of.  Bring your tissues and enjoy. Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Travis and Stephanie are back after enduring Round 2 of COVID at their house. They are back asking the tough questions. Why do men cheat? How do you know your partner won't cheat? Is a break a break up? Or is it valuable space to bring couples together? Relationship clichés, are there any truths to them? Can you make them apply when it's convenient for you? Sometimes being good friends in your relationship prevents you from vocalizing your romantic needs. What has Stephanie been holding back? Or is she just tired of repeating the same thing over and over?Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis discuss the Netflix show “The Ultimatum” and a click bait article titled “ Why More Black Women Should Consider Marrying White Men”. Ultimatums can push people to do things they don't want to. They can also encourage personal growth and essential developments in relationships. How do we use ultimatums effectively? Why is it that Black women have a higher divorce rate than marriage rate? This topic was clearly not easy for Stephanie and Travis to discuss. Race plays a critical role in compatibility, but it isn't the only thing.https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachotherBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Travis and Stephanie bump heads when discussing child support, its intent, society's perception of it, and how misogyny plays a role in villainizing women for wanting financial assistance. Travis found “joy” in Blac Chyna’s baby daddy’s “exposing” her. Did you know we are narcissistically attracted to people that look like us? Have you ever been casually hooking up with 2 friends and they knew about it?  This week's Oh So Y’all Can Relate reminds us of the messiness that is threesomes. Stephanie discusses her thoughts on the structure of WSLEO. She wants a more specific structure that listeners can look forward to every week. Will there be a segment called “Just the Tip”? This week Travis and Stephanie see what it's like trying to record with a baby that just doesn't want to nap. As well as an 8 year old playing an intense video game in his room. They unexpectedly  celebrate episode 40 with cameos from their kids.https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachotherBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

We Still Like Each Other and beyond is here. Get cozy with Stephanie and Travis as they discuss the slap heard around the world, male birth control, cream pies, and their new Patreon.https://www.patreon.com/westilllikeeachotherBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis are joined by Yaretsy & Kevin co-owners of Casaroma Cafe that is coming to New Rochelle NY later this year. Yaretsty and Kevin are fellow podcasters and creatives whose love for community and collaboration have set them on a path to success. Tune in to see how they handle love and business. They started their then long distance relationship 8 years ago. They have grown from a toxic past to a fruitful present and a very bright future. Their unique story is inspiring. Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Welcome to Stephanie and Travis’ anniversary special.  Celebrating six years unexpectedly brought Stephanie a lot of stress. However, this podcast is a product of their love, a special episode to honor their union was necessary. Travis is back with his Did You Know segment. How does the quality of your marriage impact your productivity?Tune in to listen to their regrets, favorite moments, and expectations for the future. From their first concert, to Disney world, to a shitty apartment. The rollercoaster of their marriage has not lacked excitement or slopes, but the overall trajectory has been upward.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Stephanie and Travis are back! This week they are joined by Jojo and Dayra of Les Chat podcast. They prove that thirst trapping on the gram can lead to a serious relationship. Did you know Travis and Stephanie are an honorary lesbian couple? Without diving into trauma porn, Dayra, Jojo, and Stephanie discuss “coming out” and not coming out. Why do straight girls get drunk and want to kiss girls? It can be a challenge when you actually like women, and other women just want to have “fun” or are “curious”. Dayra says no thanks, I'm not a teacher. Stephanie and Jojo on the other hand, may have given a few women a push out of the closet. Kim Kardashian has been trending, again. Her relationship with Pete Davidson, and her telling women to get up and work. Are both equally awkward? Kim is seen as a sex symbol to the world, but Stephanie can’t picture her as a sexual person. Was Kim wrong in her statement about getting up and working? Or is she just the wrong messenger?Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Travis and Stephanie send out an SOS as Eli is 8 going on 16. Where do we draw the line when raising children that are confident and have a safe space to speak their mind? Eli has been pushing his limits haha. Have you ever had an idea, then thought.. “Nevermind, I should have started this years ago. I'm too late in the game. This field is over-saturated.” Truth is we all have. Did you know there are over 2,000,000 podcasts? But here we are, making our dreams come true anyway. SPOILER ALERT: We dive into the relationships of Nick and Danielle as well as Jarrette and Iyanna from Netflix latest season of Love is Blind. We acknowledge the importance of mental health yet we seem to trivialize it any chance we get, hence Danielle's experience on Love is Blind.  Does it bother you if your partner still owns things their ex gifted them? Does it depend on what the gift was? On Oh So Y'all Can Relate Stephanie and Travis are blown away by the self awareness of a young 22 year old listener. This submission touches on abuse, gaslighting, family trauma, therapy, and even white privilege.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis are joined by Corinna Vega aka Bronx Bonita and Lu aka It’s Him. Corinna is a model, salsa dancer, and content creator. Lu is a stand up comedian and good friend of Travis. Together they discuss friendships. What are the differences between male and female friendships? Do our platonic friendships impact our readiness for intimate relationships? Do we pour love into our friends? Corinna and Lu are the first guests to help in an ‘Oh So Y'all Can Relate’ segment. This submission touches on a seemingly perfect couple, yet one partner wants more. While diving into finances, drive, accomplishments, and values, Stephanie, Travis, and their guests get personal and keep it real. Where do we draw the line when our passion doesn't allow us to pour enough into our responsibilities?  How can identifying what influences our ideals help us check our expectations? How do we know what we truly value versus what society has led us to desire? Or are those the same things?Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Happy Valentine’s Day! This week Stephanie and Travis are joined by Mesha and David of Finance Fails and Cocktails podcast. Mesha is an active member of the debt free community and the face behind @RefillingMyWallet. Mesha and David are high school sweethearts, 14 years later they Still Like Each Other. During that time they racked up over $100,000 in debt and just recently decided to split their finances. Many of us struggle to keep our finances in order, when in a relationship, money talks can be daunting. However, avoiding talking about it can lead to huge problems, as Travis reveals in his “Did You Know” segment.Tune in to see how Stephanie and Travis’ poor money habits led to them almost being scammed while looking for an apartment.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Thank you to everyone that has reached out to Stephanie and checked in on her well being.  We often check in on the baby and forget to ask the mom if she's okay. For many women, their value is tied to their productivity. So when a baby is controlling every moment, it's easy to start feeling devalued. How can your partner help? Did you know that men really benefit from marriage? Stephanie says, duh and other things. Stephanie shares a tip on how to open lines of communication with your partner on not so easy to discuss topics. We all know Kanye has been firing off questionable and down right absurd remarks for a number of years, but does he have a point now in regards to his daughter's TikTok usage? On this weeks Oh So Y'all Can Relate, we touch on how much, if at all, should your partner intervene in family problems. We often confide in our partners and tell them our family trauma. This may unintentionally lead to your partner developing negative feelings for your family.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

We all know the company we keep, and the social media algorithm we've curated influence our day to day decisions. But did you know divorces are contagious? This week Travis is back with his segment “Did You Know?”We have become used to blaming “the algorithm” for what we have on our phones, but it is time we take responsibility. The algorithm is curated by our search history, our purchase history, the content we share via DM’s and stories. Have you ever called 911 and then realized the support on the other end of the phone isn't like they make it seem in the movies? Well Stephanie called 911 this week, thankfully everyone is okay, but she doesn't regret making the call.You don't want to miss this weeks “Oh So Y’all Can Relate” titled: I’m A Product Of An Affair. Children of affairs are often pushed to the background. Who is to blame? Who do we hold accountable? What are the children to do about their “family” in adulthood? The layers are piled up high on this one as Stephanie shares a personal experience related to her biological father.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Travis is starting a new segment this week called “Did You Know?”. The control freak in Stephanie is a little nervous. Travis will be searching the web for relationship facts and introducing them for discussion's sake. Today’s fact ended up putting both Stephanie and Travis in the hot seat regarding their exes and former hook-ups. How long does a woman have to wait before having penetrative sex after birthing a baby or having a a cesarean? What we all accept as fact may be a false tradition with a cringe worthy origin story. Travis feels betrayed, Stephanie is shocked, but not surprised. On this week's “Oh So Y’all Can Relate?”, titled: Your Cop Boyfriend Is Not Invited To Our Wedding, Stephanie issues an apology to the person who submitted the story. It was a layered conversation that included discussions about race, policing, family dynamics, using the N word, boundaries, acceptance, and so much more. When does defending yourself become disrespectful? When people disagree and it leads to an argument, someone wants to win. This leads to low blows and sharing of hurtful words that can't be taken back. It wasn't an easy conversation to say the least. Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

It’s that time of the year where your New Year's resolutions start to look like “maybe next year?” Stephanie and Travis are two weeks strong of not ordering take out, but they are already out of meal ideas. How are y’all holding up?Stay away from rhetoric that tells you, you and your partner can never make it work. We’ve all heard about Zodiac signs that are doomed and can never have a successful relationship. This week Travis and Stephanie learned that their attachment styles, which were diagnosed by TikTok psychologist’s, could never work together. Do you think they care? In this weeks ‘Oh So Y'all Can Relate’ submission we discuss the threesome rule book. Is there a rule book? Threesomes are not for the weak! Of course you need the stamina haha, but emotionally, you have to have thick skin and a solid foundation of trust in your relationship before allowing others into your bedroom. Without ground rules, things can go bad before anything even happens. Tune in to hear how just the idea of a threesome has negatively impacted this couple for the past two years!Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Stephanie is tired of people telling her man he looks tired! Life at home with a newborn and a 2nd grader that was home from school all week will do it to you. Anyone else having trouble keeping up with CDC guidelines? Who knows what's best anymore? These episodes are their mini therapy sessions, so let's just call it self-care. They will get done for the good of the relationship by any means necessary. You all will get the inside scoop on Stephanie and Travis weekly check-ins. They are only 2 weeks in with this new relationship initiative. However, they have already gained some valuable insights on their marriage. Lastly, we all love to hate the Kardashians, but you know they had to discuss Tristan Thompson’s new baby. We often discuss children raised in single parent households, with step parents, or  divorced parents, but we don't often hear about the children of affairs.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Stephanie and Travis were SO close to not completing this episode. First one planned, recorded, processed with a newborn. Honestly, River was great. Stephanie and Travis need to improve their time management skills. This week they give maybe TOO much information about Stephanie’s labor. Travis got carried away with some details. However, each episode is recorded in 1 take, so it is what it is. Travis also talks about the moment it finally dawned on him. That he is a father of 2, that River is here alive in the flesh, surprisingly it wasn't as he watched him squeeze out of a 10cm opening. Stephanie and Travis open up about a disagreement they have recently had. Is having your own money as a safety net pessimistic, or smart? They ultimately agree to disagree but compromise. But wait… was it a compromise or did someone just get their way? Sometimes one person gets their way because it does less harm. Lastly, on “Oh So Y’all Can Relate” a woman proposes to her man after waiting for a proposal for 7 years! Stephanie said she would rather rip all her fingernails out one by one before she bent down on one knee. What do y'all think? Is the tradition around wedding proposals outdated? Are we woke enough as a society that women proposing to men can become common practice? Stephanie is still very much asleep when it comes to this. Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

SURPRISE! We had this episode on stand by for when River arrived. We refused to skip a week. Couldn't leave y’all hanging during the holiday’s. This episode is a real eye opener and mind twister as we share a very detailed ‘Oh So Y’all Can Relate’ submission. This story is full of WTF moments, red flags, and heartbreak. So join us as we unfold the layers and mind other people's business in a non-toxic way haha.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Travis and Stephanie have the “Santa talk” with Eli! Of course it was funny and a little sad. Christmas is already at the end of this week! Where has the year gone? Baby River is ready to enter the world, but he seems to be comfortable in the womb. On a much deeper and unfortunate note, they discuss the circumstances of a double murder suicide that occurred in Baltimore recently. Why is it that people aren't protected from their potential physical abusers? If you haven't already been physically hurt by someone you are often left with no protection from the law. Lastly, on “Oh So Y’all Can Relate” they share a story of a college girl with a boyfriend back home. College and long distance relationships are tricky. But what happens when your insecurities lead to unhealthy obsessive behaviors?Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis are joined by Kiara Luna, LMHC (Licensed Mental Health Counselor) who is the owner of Knew You Psychotherapy. She has over 10 years of experience in this field. She is also a host, keynote speaker, and panelist who is extremely knowledgeable in various areas of mental health counseling including couples therapy. How does Kiara feel about the way Travis and Stephanie handle conflict on the show? With such a great resource, Stephanie and Travis ask Kiara questions such as how does generational trauma manifest in intimate relationships? What is culture specific trauma? Are we showing Eli too much love? Kiara also gives us very important information about varying forms of domestic violence including the red flags that signal a potential threat of violence. Did you know that neglect is a form of abuse in intimate partner relationships? Do we sometimes fall in love with who we want to believe someone is instead of who they are showing us they are?Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Oh So Y’all Can Relate is BACK with a story titled, “Married, Separated, But Living Together”. This story is so valuable as it relates to young married couples, couples who stay together because of family pressure, as well as staying together just because it has been “so long” why start over? Also, at times it is difficult to even believe you deserve happiness after a turbulent relationship or breakup. Before that, Stephanie and Travis dive into two parenting hot topics. Should parents purchase toy kitchen sets for their sons? Should we tell our children the truth about Santa Claus? If so, when? Tune in to listen to our take, it is clear that our perspectives are shifting and not all the way hashed out when it comes to one of these topics.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie & Travis are joined by Brittany and Leo Polanco. Brittany amassed a 10K following on Instagram by sharing her personal journey with debt freedom. Her and Leo’s journey inspired Stephanie and Travis back in 2018 which they discuss in Episode 002: This Is Uncharacteristic Of Me.  They also got a small taste of what recording a podcast with a baby at home might be like. It wasn't as bad as they expected. Travis is a master sound and video engineer and that's on that! The Polanco’s give us details on their decision to purchase a home. They discuss how their priorities shifted once becoming parents and how some ‘homeowner v. renter’ misconceptions can lead to financial hardships. Have y'all noticed a trend in which people prefer to see and read about our struggles? When people are constantly sharing positive things it is labeled, “Toxic Positivity”. How does this impact how we decide what to share on our social platforms? How has this ideology played a role in the shift in Britany’s Instagram which is no longer heavily finance based? A big thank you goes out to Feedspot who ranked us number 11 on their Top 45 Relationship Podcast list: https://blog.feedspot.com/relationship_podcasts/Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis recap their hectic couple of weeks. From getting their apartment “repainted”, seeing River at an ultrasound, and  the highlight of Eli's year, staying at a Holiday Inn Express. Anyone else’s child get super excited about something so simple? They weigh in on the DaniLeigh and Da Baby drama. What was his intention with going live? Can we simultaneously call people out on their BS (colorism & homophobia in this case) while also holding compassion for them? When does ignorance stop being an excuse? Finally, Stephanie is currently hashing out a new perspective when it comes to infidelity and sleeping with married men. Travis pushes her to choose her words wisely. Is she shifting accountability in this scenario? How does partaking in an affair as the ‘other person’ impact your own life?Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Travis and Stephanie are joined by Danyeli & Nick. Danyeli is a writer, spoken word poet, and community organizer that Stephanie has admired for several years. Her and Nick met at John Jay college where “everyone leaves there an activist or a cop”. They all chat about when Dominican women fall for Jamaican men and all the stigmas that follow. Colorism, misogyny, boundaries, and protecting one another at all cost. They dive into different ways codependency manifests itself in a relationship. How not all relationship advice is good advice. How many people have told you “never go to bed mad”? This conversation felt like free group couples therapy. It is always great when you get to share intimate details about your relationship and realize you're not alone.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Travis dabbles in the idea of finally enrolling in college. The reason is a tearjerker. We are that generation that wants to save for their child’s college expenses, but college is also becoming less and less necessary. So, what do you do?Research findings are circulating that 75% of people who cheat, say their cheating improved their marriage. Let’s be super critical of who conducted this research. Could we also be open to the nuances of relationships after affairs?Lastly, should mothers be full time caretakers? Are working moms to blame for “disrupting the balance” in the world? Well, that’s what Lil Duval thinks. See what Stephanie and Travis have to say about that. Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Happy Halloween from Stephanie & Travis! OMG “JaDA EmBaRaSsEd WiLi AgAin”, but did y’all actually listen to what she said? Travis and Stephanie did and y’all need to put away your pitch forks. Don’t believe everything you see online. ALWAYS be skeptical when the internet is attempting to bash women. This conversation leads to discussions about sex, communication, sexual affirmations, vulnerability, and sexual accountability. Stephanie admits to Travis for the first time that she was holding back in expressing a sexual desire. After gaining 1000+ new followers on TikTok within a couple of days, many of their comments were SPOOKY. So Stephanie and Travis dig a little deeper into the “1 in 4 couples sleep separately” statistics, cover more nuances with a focus on quality of sleep. Misogyny was also trending in their comments.  So you know Stephanie had a lot to say.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis discuss being honest about your intentions when initiating a relationship (sexual or romantic). We’ve all heard “just be honest at the beginning so no one gets hurt”. Yet there are people who rather get what they want and dash. Ouch. What’s the difference between directly paying for a sexual transaction and paying for dates and gifts with hopes of getting sex in return? We know one actually guarantees the sex. The other leads to disappointment, guilted/intimidated consent. Do you know anyone in an open relationship? Open marriage? Travis and Stephanie weigh in on this dynamic. Could you guess who has wanted to try it? Well sort of try it. Relationships have been evolving publicly in ways we wouldn’t have imagined just a few years ago. Polyamory works for some and sounds like torture for others.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Stephanie and Travis realize what they thought was an exception, is actually the norm. Most couples do not share equal levels of sex drives and most couples report this difference leads to arguments. This week they dive into ways people have found to make their relationship work despite that difference. Some may seem a little problematic, but making relationships work can be tricky. Why is talking about sex so weird? Even amongst couples! People who live together and have sex, are afraid to talk about sex. This can lead to unfulfilling sex and Travis and Stephanie want to help couples get over that. Did you know 25% of couples don’t sleep in the same bed? Majority of those couples keep it on the hush hush. So there’s a chance that 1 out of every 4 couples you know don’t share a bed. This was mind blowing information for Travis and Stephanie, who might as well be joined at the hip. However, it just makes sense for some people. Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Due to the various conversations had with listeners, Stephanie and Travis touch base on their “social media official” comments from last week. So many fears surrounding public perception dictate our posting habits. However, Travis has a slice of humble pie realizing that each situation is different. During an intense “Oh So Y'all Can Relate” segment, they dive into reigniting old flames, sex or lack there of, moving to different states for love, and so much more. Stephanie even unexpectedly gets emotional when discussing this weeks submission. One thing is for sure, this episode is layered. It shows how Stephanie and Travis each uniquely contribute their opinions to relationship dilemmas. It also highlights how although things may seem fine via social media, EVERYONE has their mess.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis discuss the feelings of welcoming a new month, dating your friends ex, changing your mind about having kids, and making relationships social media official. Is there a “bro/girl code” to dating your friends ex? Or does it depend on the nature of the relationship? How long they dated? Did they have sex? Do you not want kids? Or is it that you just don’t want kids with your partner?! Hmmmm. How important is it that your partner post you on their social media page? Does it depend on how often they use it? Is there a probationary period before you make it social media official?Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Alongside their first in person guest, Irene C. , Stephanie and Travis discuss “the patriarchy”, and make an argument for just throwing the whole phrase “submissive women” in the trash. There were so many comments about Stephanie misinterpreting the phrase, but in reality, it seems as if people are just redefining it, when they can just not use the term at all. Language is important! This weeks “Oh So Y’all Can Relate” has us exploring the friend zone and “finger penises”. Is he just not that into her? Or is he ashamed of his package? You help us decide. Finally, they all dig deep to discuss all the layers that are interconnected within their identity. They talk candidly about how blackness and anti-blackness has impacted their own self acceptance and their professional life. They acknowledge privileges tied to how they show up in the world. Privileges tied to skin color, being thin, speaking Spanish, and being a man.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis dive into listener submitted topics. Can your partner have friends of the opposite sex? Can your partner be friends with someone they had an intimate relationship with in the past? Can a relationship in which a woman makes more money work? Does it matter when the woman started to make more? What does it mean to be a submissive woman in a relationship? Does the definition match men’s expectations? Do women want to be submissive or do they feel they have to be, in order to be loved? If this episode was engaging and you’d like our take on other relationship topics, please shoot us a DM on Instagram.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis touch on the over consumption of clothing. Stephanie spent the week decluttering and thinking about how to shift her thinking and habits around fashion. They briefly reflect on what they remember from 9.11.01. Coincidentally they were both in gym class. (They were fated haha) This weeks Oh So Y’all Can Relate submission, weighs in on “should family come first? Before your partner?” Lastly, we answer 12 Q and A’s submitted to us via our Instagram. Travis learns what a pillow princess is, discusses Stephanie’s “blood lasagna”, and being there to hug Stephanie while she pee’s. Not weird at all.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

It’s been a long week at home for Stephanie and Travis. They had their first guest on the same night Hurricane Ida ripped through New York and New Jersey. Their talk with Cindy of Zero Based Budget led to a week of them reflecting on their financial goals. Rent was due, hey first of the month. This got us reaching out to our audience about how rent is split in their household. We discuss the 50/50 way, the percentage way, who takes up more space, and lastly when one partner pays for everything.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Stephanie and Travis finally talk about their “conversation” a couple of weeks ago that had Stephanie on edge during episode 008. They share hard to swallow truths about their financial struggles and the reality of becoming a one income household. At a time they desperately need a financial reset, they invite financial expert Cindy Zuniga-Sanchez, founder of Zero Based Budget Coaching LLC to discuss financial literacy. Cindy has created a financial literacy program that she calls The Blueprint to Financial Freedom AKA your money BFF. She goes into detail about the value of her program, her unique voice in the world of finance, as well as tips for anyone looking for ways to get their partner on board with creating a path to financial success.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Travis and Stephanie address Stephanie’s tense and spicy mood last episode. They also make a MAJOR life update/announcement. Do you know that couple that stays together only because they have already spent numerous years together? Are you in that situation? Listen to what Stephanie has to say about that. Do you have a guilty pleasure of watching cringe TV? Well we sorta do and are giving Bachelor in Paradise a try. Stephanie and Travis discuss it this episode and will be watching live Monday’s at 8pm and sharing their reactions on Instagram stories @WeStillLikeEachOtherBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Is Sex Work “real” work? Is there a level of jealousy that plays into the hate people give sex workers? What exactly did OnlyFans announce? Who does it impact the most? What implications will this have on sex workers? Travis and Stephanie get into a heated debate about sex work, morality, social expectations and shaming. Why is working a 9-5 with people you hate, making less than you deserve more acceptable than selling sex?Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

New episode on a Thursday, because why not? WE HAD TO dig deeper into how we manage our relationship and parenting. Our marriage takes priority, because our child benefits greatly when we are in tune. It’s a trickle down effect. Join us as we talk about parenting while maintaining healthy boundaries, establishing and maintaining respect, and not obsessing over being the best parents ever.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis take it back, way back to reflect on how their childhood and upbringing influenced their ideas on marriage, money, and sex. A real therapy session for real. Stephanie put that undergrad psych degree to work. On “Media Love” they pay homage to one of their favorite podcast Whoreible Decisions, and reflect on the relationship dynamic of their latest guest, a young married couple with a new born baby. Oh and what is an Inter-intimate relationship?Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis brought the heat: Sex and Relationships.When you aren’t communicating, you make false assumptions and shit can go bad quick! Stephanie and Travis battled with intimacy for a while. Now that they have overcome those challenges they are sharing their experience for those who can relate and learn from it. On “Oh So Y’all Can Relate” we dive into how important it is for your partner to share some of the same interest as you. As well as how at times, someone’s outside appearance does not match their at home appearance. These bad dates are memorable to say the least.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

This week Stephanie and Travis discuss internalized homophobia and sexism in the wake of DaBaby's remarks during Rolling Loud as well as mental health and Simone Biles. Of course a spicy "Oh So Ya'll Can Relate" segment, followed by Stephanie and Travis' past worst date experiences. We wanna know, do you like a little a extra Sazón?Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

Today we share what it’s like being in a heterosexual marriage with a bisexual person. Feels like we’re coming out. We also start 2 new segments “Oh So Y’all Can Relate?” Where we share anonymous submissions from our listeners regarding relatable relationship woes. And “Internet Love” which is a working title, in this segment we share relationship stories we find on the internet that are interesting and give our two cents.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

We understood the assignment. We gave a little more tea about the night of the "devious plan". Stephanie tells "why" she forgave Travis. The second half discusses our second biggest struggle, MONEY. Why is money so taboo? Why do so many of us live above our means to impress people we don't even like? Well both of these unanswered questions left us BROKE and STRESSED.Become A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/

"Oh ya'll just got married? No wonder. Give it a couple of years." ... "He's so thoughtful, ohhhh this is your first year married. No wonder, he will change."... "This is just the honeymoon stage"... Ugh the negativity around marriage is so annoying. Guess what, We Still Like Each Other. In this episode we reflect on our toughest year, Year 1, before the marriage. We are often wrongfully perceived as a "perfect couple".... you'd be shocked to hear how our relationship began. #infidelity #lies #trust #insecurityBecome A Patron! - https://patreon.com/westilllikeeachother/