This episode originally aired on Dec. 8th, 2022 - You already know Abby, Lexi, and Coworker Justin are already a bit messed up...so we decided to make a whole episode talking about their attachment issues! LCSW Kat Schneider joins the podcast as well to give a professional take on attachment styles and even relates them to 'The Office' characters! - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (02:26): Episode break down/our personal attachment problems - (16:15): Conversation with LCSW Kat Schneider Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This reply episode originally aired on Dec. 6th, 2022 - This week we're raising awareness for The Hubbard House in Jacksonville, FL: https://www.hubbardhouse.org/neededmost - Follow the podcast!  - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9  - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (05:28): This week's submission - (7:03): How they met - (10:39): Introducing her best friend - (12:01): When her boyfriend confessed their betrayal - (15:05): Why she stayed with her boyfriend - (18:27): How the relationship developed after the infidelity - (23:48): The final straw for her - (32:14): Healing after the breakup - (36:26): Advice for "starting over" after a long-term relationship - (37:52): Teaser Clip Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

[SCROLL FOR CW] - Ex-Mormon therapist Jenny Morrow reacts to S2E4 and let's us in on what people leaving the LDS church struggle with after leaving. She talks about rules for dating, complications when one spouse wants to leave the church, divorce, and sexuality. Check out more from her at www.JennyMorrow.com. - This is a replay episode that originally aired on August 25th, 2022 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00-00:14): Episode Break Down - (00:14-02:22): Meet Jenny! - (02:22-05:08): Dating as a young Mormon - (05:08-06:19): The Mormon temple - (06:19-07:40): Dealing with religious shame - (07:40-10:32): Sexuality in the church - (10:32-12:17): Divorce in Mormonism - (12:17-13:17): What if one spouse wants to leave the church? - (13:17-14:24): Sexism in the church - (14:24-16:15): What do ex-Mormons struggle with after leaving? - (16:15-18:03): Advice for "finding yourself" after a big life change - (18:03-18:29): Follow Jenny! - CW: Suicide, Sexism Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week we're raising awareness for Jessie's Place in Birmingham, AL: https://jimmiehalemission.com/donate/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (04:08): How they met - (08:16): The cracks in the relationship - (12:29): When he broke things off - (17:22): How people reacted - (19:01): The aftermath - (24:00): When he tried to get her back - (26:32): Her healing process - (29:24): How her dating life is now - (33:09): Advice - (34:56): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do they REALLY like me...or am I being love bombed? How do I identify it in my relationship? Is an age-gap relationship a bad idea? Like...how many years a part is too much?? We're breaking down this week's episode and covering all the hot topics in this quick break down bonus with Lexi. - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Lily Womble (The Date Brazen Podcast) Bonus Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/777HQvFseDMXe0YKF9dxqt?si=31iSSSg1SPSHfyV8rMoWUw - Are Age Gaps Actually Toxic?  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T3zC7YCVR28 - 5 Signs of Love bombing https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UlXoI_XJGAg&t=348s -  Follow the podcast - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Has someone ever said "I love you" and you weren't 100% sure if they meant it? Coworker Justin and Abby react to S3E12 and talk about where they felt like there was manipulation in this weeks episode. They also talk about choosing the right time to say I love you and what saying those fateful words mean to both of them! - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Drink Testers: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0001ZNZYC?psc=1&ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_product_details *Disclaimer: this is not an endorsement, but I have used these to test my drinks. -  Follow the podcast - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Science might be able to explain why you got cheated on. Scientist Macken Murphy joins Abby and Lexi to explain through research studies and data what influences people to cheat. He explains why your genetics may make someone more likely to cheat, why you're always dating serial cheaters, and how you can set yourself up (statistically) for a committed relationship. - Check out Macken Murphy! - Website: www.mackenmurphy.org - TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mackenmurphy - Macken's Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5hhlSiS1hFW1pRWh8wfRy5 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Meet Macken - (02:08): What factors make someone more likely to cheat - (05:07): Once a cheater always a cheater? - (07:27): Factors that make you more likely to get cheated on - (16:05): Can a relationship continue after infidelity? - (18:19): Why do men statistically cheat more than women? - (21:58): Are humans built for monogamy?  - (23:13): Things you can do to statistically reduce your risk of getting cheated on - (29:32): How studying infidelity affects his relationships - (33:22): PTSD after infidelity - (36:36): How Lexi felt about this convo, having been cheated on Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS): I love an open-shut case. You know, the people that are more than happy to come on and unload all the juicy details of their break ups. But most the time, people are (understandably) not interested at all. I'm reading some of my favorite submissions I've been DYING to share...but unfortunately got no answers to. Tentative Season 2 Premiere (may come earlier yoohhoooo): August 2nd.FEEDBACK FORM: https://forms.gle/PNVzYgjCgRsa1rdX8BREAK UPS/FRIENDSHIP SPLITS FORM: https://forms.gle/AZyEA8npd6XxbbpX6FOLLOW ME???TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy?lang=enIG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/?hl=enSPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/user/22nnbzo6iuxetz4f6dtczrabaTimestamps(01:01) - Abby and Kennedy open the episode(02:05) - When they broke up after moving to Costa Rica...(04:54) - When she got married like four times....(07:07) - When an influencer went MIA after having her baby....(10:34) - When she converted for him....(12:26) - When their photographer chose sides....(14:05) - When she left him after her cancer diagnosis....(15:08) - When he dated her best friend after she passed away....(16:35) - When she came out right before the wedding....(18:30) - When she threw the promise ring out the car window....(21:02) - Closing remarks Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS): What's it like to date multiple pro athletes and have it go TERRIBLY wrong? Abby's friend from this week's main episode hopped on a Zoom call to talk about an unfortunate break up that ended up with both of her exes on the same team (literally).FEEDBACK FORM: https://forms.gle/U9ANq5P9S58Ug2PHABREAK UP STORY FORM: https://forms.gle/b1xoCZMFLrJBcoVf6Timestamps(00:50) - Interview Begins(02:10) - How she met "Troy"(03:35) - Getting interrogated about her intentions(05:04) - His red flags(06:04) - "Was I just with him for his job?" (10:09) - "Did he put hot sauce in his condoms after?"(13:49) - "This is when I started thinking I had daddy issues."(14:24) - She meets her second pro-athlete ex (16:11) - Her ex and her other ex become teammates(17:56) - The most difficult part of the break up(s)/the aftermath(23:11) - Struggles with moving on(26:15) - The best part of a break up(27:53) - Closing announcements Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) When your perfect boyfriend turns into your perfect fiancé, you expect him to turn into the perfect husband. Well, if you're reading this, you'll know somethings going to go wrong here. This woman's husband was involved in a deception that didn't just pull out the rug from under her, it pulled out the whole damn floor. Tune in to hear about a break up that kicked off a wild healing journey and inspired an entire book!SUBMIT A BREAK UP STORY (YOURS, SOMEONE ELSES, OR ONE YOU WANT ME TO LOOK INTO): https://forms.gle/MMwGezrMHvL3D6XB6EAT PRAY FML (The Book): https://www.amazon.com/Eat-Pray-FML-Gabrielle-Stone/dp/1733963707Timestamps(01:10) - Abby explains how she found this break up(02:20) - Interview Begins/How the relationship started(06:52) - "Dating an actor isn't easy"/Problems start to show(10:28) - The problems that started once they got married(14:24) - Her ex's relationship with a 19 y/o girl(17:11) - The info that came out affair the book's success(20:22) - How she discovered he was cheating(22:44) - Why did he want to be in two relationships at once?(27:28) - The relationship she started 2 weeks after leaving her ex(30:03) - Lessons from her healing trip to Europe(33:03) - Tips for solo travel(38:53) - Tips for staying in hostels (40:55) - Advice for people going through rough heartbreaksFollow Abby on IG (@abbymariemurphy) or TikTok (@theabbymurphy)Follow Gabrielle Stone on IG (@gabriellestone) or TikTok (@gabrielle_stone) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) - This week's main episode tackled ~religious manipulation~ in the Christian Church. Abby brought on some of her Christian friends to hash out what it's like dating in the Christian Church. *spoiler alert* it do be kinda weird.Eavesdrop on this conversation between three single believers who are just tryna get that ring by spring...ya know??Timestamps(01:25) - Random banter (03:04) - Guest intros(03:35) - What's something non-Christians should know about dating in the church?(05:16) - Best/Worst Advice the Church Says about Dating(006:58) - "The Bachelor" and Sex (aka Clayton v. Susie) (07:35) - What does "guard your heart" even mean?(10:14) - Something that should change about dating in the Christian Church(15:02) - HOW DID MICHAELA'S DATE GO?!!? (and closing announcements)Submit a couple for us to investigate/your own story: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1JhayC6xUgMldTWgiQRa2mfzSXfac7kY0yOSaOAu5p8M/editFollow Abby on IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/Follow Abby on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy?lang=en (Kennedy's ex bf reported me AGAIN and I'm low key banned rip me)IYKYK Dating Mixers for single Christians: https://www.instagram.com/iykyk.dating/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

(Scroll for timestamps) - When the 'seemingly perfect Christian couple' breaks up out of nowhere...you gotta wonder what went wrong. I mean, one week you're picking out engagement rings and celebrating three years together...the next...you're breaking up. This episode unpacks how faith impacts relationships, religious manipulation...and do you need to be attracted to your significant other?!?! Timestamps(00:47) - Abby reads the submission(02:33) - Interview Begins(03:18) - How they met(04:59) - Why she decided to date him(05:36) - How he manipulated her with religion (07:07) - A common problem in Christian circles(09:12) - "Pray the problem away"(10:40) - Gender Role manipulation in the church(13:51) - Why she finally decided to break up with him(16:27) - The tough break up conversation(18:34) - "Love is not about feeling in love it's about being in love"(19:26) - Advice for people with persistent exes(21:37) - Advice for people in manipulative relationships(25:46) - Closing announcements/mini episode/trailerAbby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphyAbby's Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/user/22nnbzo6iuxetz4f6dtczraba Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) - Your friends are going to take sides if your relationship doesn't end well- but what if your story isn't the one they believe? Next week we're talking about what happens when you become the villain in someone else's story. Our interviewee got kicked out of her friend group after her friend's got half the story from her ex. Now they (and the rest of the internet) are going to hear her side. Timestamps - (01:08) - Abby and CoWorker Justin read the submission - (02:58) - Interview Begins(03:53)  -  How being closeted affected their relationship(04:52)  -  How moving to Nashville/moving in together affected their relationship(05:37)  -  The demise of the relationship(07:10)  -  She breaks up with her GF(07:29)  -  "Why do I want to break up with my girlfriend?"(08:34)  -  The mistake that made their relationship blow up(10:11)  -  Her ex confronts her about her private journal entries(14:21)  -  Her ex confronts her and her wife at a Pride event(17:13)  -  The aftermath of the relationship(20:01)  -  Advice for people who aren't 100% sold on their relationships(22:37)  -  Closing announcements - SUBMIT A BREAK UP STORY: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1JhayC6xUgMldTWgiQRa2mfzSXfac7kY0yOSaOAu5p8M/edit Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

(SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS/TIMESTAMPS) - Being in a "secret" engagement should probably be the first sign you're in a toxic relationship, but when you're crazy in love...crazy just seems like love. Next week's episode has something everyone can relate to. Whether you were in a toxic relationship or just had to hear about one from a friend, we dive into the reasons why people stay in relationships that just aren't good for them.I'm verified on Spotify!!!  - Check out my Break Up Playlists Here: https://open.spotify.com/user/22nnbzo6iuxetz4f6dtczrabaTimestamps(01:38)  -  Abby and Coworker Justin Read the Submission(04:56)  -  Interview Begins/How they met(06:02)  -  The "proposal" story no one knows about(08:37)  -  When things started to go south....(10:46)  -  "I've never cheated on you but...."(11:59)  -  The texts that tipped her off that something was up(15:03)  -  When the relationship (almost) ended completely(16:13)  -  The humiliating public argument(17:31)  -  The couple tries to work things out(19:14)  -  Why she chose to stay in the relationship(22:22)  -  If she could go back and do things differently....(24:43)  -  The hardest thing about ending this relationship(28:23)  -  Closing announcements - Resources:The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) www.ndvh.orgNational Dating Abuse Helpline 1-866-331-9474 www.loveisrespect.orgThe Love and Abuse Podcast: https://loveandabuse.com/the-podcast/How To Recognize Emotional Abuse: https://www.healthline.com/health/signs-of-mental-abuse - Steps to help you leave an abusive relationship: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/getting-out-of-an-abusive-relationship.htm - SUBMIT A BREAK UP STORY: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1JhayC6xUgMldTWgiQRa2mfzSXfac7kY0yOSaOAu5p8M/editCW: abuse Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There's two sides to every story - and this is the side exposes the harsh truth. When an influencer popped on social media to share how she met her boyfriend, she didn't share the other half of the story. Yeah, The cheating half. Find out how our interviewee discovered her boyfriend was cheating on her from his new girlfriend's social media videos. - 01:14 - Abby and Co-Worker Justin Read the Submission - 03:57- How she and her ex got together.05:27 -  The actual break up 07:08 -  When social media creeping shows the truth....11:03 -  When things (probably) went south for him.17:25 -  The hard thing about moving on from High School Relationships 19:52 -  The first step forward after her break up - 20:51 -  The second break up that only made things worse. 20:04 - Lingering effects of cheating 26:43 -  What she would tell her younger self during her break up. - Follow Abby on TikTok (@theabbymurphy) and IG (@abbymariemurphy) for episode updates and ~relatable girl~ content. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join Abby and Ilinca (@InkyToks) for relationship book club! Ilinca has read all the hottest dating advice books like "Why Men Love B*tches", "Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man", Get The Guy, and more! Join them for a quick convo about the advice they loved and hated from these books (and which are actually worth reading!) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"I just don't see a future with us," is the worst thing your new spouse could say to you only weeks after you get married. Seriously- when you're crying at the altar, visibly in love, a couple months before ending your marriage- what changed? Listen to: The break up submission from a listener (01:49)How she met her ex-wife (02:51)When the relationship started to get hard (04:45)Some of their major issues (05:45)The moment that changed their entire relationship (07:48)When the divorce got petty (12:48)Why she thinks the relationship went south (16:00)The hardest part about divorce (21:19)Announcements for upcoming episodes (21:44) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TikTok’s So My Moms A Therapist Joins Abby for this week’s “mini” episode! Look, I love this time of year as much as the next person, but you're lying if you don't think that the holidays bring out the worst in us sometimes. Lisa, @SoMyMomsATherapist from TikTok, came on to answer questions sent in by you!Listen to:The most common problems people face during the holidays (00:58)How do I handle the holidays as an introvert? (02:09)My family keeps joking about my singleness. I keep telling them to stop, but they don't. What do I do? (06:21)I feel extra lonely this time of year. How do I keep myself from running back to an ex or an old hookup? (10:20)All my siblings/cousins are in relationships and I'm not. How do I handle being around them at gatherings? (13:36)I'm meeting my partner's parents for the first time-and I already know their mom doesn't like me. How do I prepare for this tense situation? (17:01)Is it a bad idea to break off a relationship during the holidays? (20:22)Podcast Announcements (20:54)Follow Abby on TikTok (@theabbymurphy) or IG (@abbymariemurphy) to keep up with her and the podcast!Also check out Lisa on socials (@somymomsatherapist) and listen to her new podcast for more therapy from her perspective. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all know that couple that has been together for YEARS. It's a given they're going to get married, right? Well, when the bride-to-be gets a surprising text message from her best guy friend, she starts to doubt her current relationship. On this week's episode, Abby and Lexi read a submission from a listener (00:46) who wants to know what went down. They do a little shameless social media stalking (02:03) and finally get to the bottom of the break up (03:40) before closing out the episode (20:19).Follow Abby on TikTok (@theabbymurphy) and IG (@abbymariemurphy) to keep up with podcast updates! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Imagine scrolling through Facebook and seeing your friend post her elopement photos. Then, barely a week has passed, and they announce their separation. UHH what went wrong?  - Hear from the person who submitted the story (01:48), listen in on Abby and Lexi's speculation (02:13), tune in to the full break up break down with 1/2 of the couple (03:28), and hear about upcoming episodes (21:25).Follow Abby on TikTok (@theabbymurphy) and on IG (@abbymariemurphy) for updates! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When True Love feels more like a True Crime Story….Abby Murphy is ready to investigate! Breaking Up is hard to do (obviously) but it’s even harder when social media is involved. If your relationship is on display, people are noticing…especially when it ends. We talk to couples and individuals about their break ups. What went wrong? What things did they work through to try and make it work? We’ll learn from them and take valuable lessons from their experience while sharing a laugh (or cry) along the way. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices