In this intimate interview, Emily Nagoski shares her insights from authoring her new book Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. We dive into the common misconceptions about long term erotic relationships, and what really works when it comes to creating a sex life worth wanting. For a bonus interview and […]

When we Touch To Feel, we unlock boundless potential for depth of sensual, emotional and relational pleasures. Touching To Feel is a lifetime practice of waking up our bodies to FEEL more, feeling the true depth and range of our own emotions, expressing ourselves through touch and touching with purpose and intention to create a […]

Tend The Tender is a phrase that invites us all to bring more loving attention to our most tender places, and to allow others to care for us when we are feeling a bit raw. To be tender is to be human, and yet many of us struggle to ask for care when we need […]

What happens after your lover discloses their fetish- or you discover a fetish or kink and need to talk about it? In this episode we discuss how to bring more compassion and curiosity to conversations about newly disclosed kinks and fetishes. Want more guidance into kink? Join us here. This call was inspired by a […]

Get Equipped With These Generous Offers From Our Podcast Sponsors: Did you get all the information, support and kindness you deserved as a teenager emerging into your sexuality? Far from it, right? So many of us missed out on years of pleasurable exploration because we didn’t have accurate information about our bodies. So many of […]

Erotic Touch Mastery, Stroke by Stroke. Get started tonight. Our bodies are sensitive, but not delicate. This phrase is something Chris has been teaching for twenty years, since the early days of the Sexological Bodywork training, in response to a pattern they noticed after teaching erotic touch for hundreds of hours. Many people are hesitant […]

Dr. Alexandra Solomon joins us to explore the power of daily incremental practice in the realms of love, connection and pleasure. In this free podcast episode we explore how we can all practice Love Every Day, while being patient with change, working with even the most reluctant of partners, and respecting the process of incremental […]

Here’s how to create more sensation and arousal with the pleasure of vibrations! In this podcast episode, we explore how you can create exquisite sensations of vibrations for yourself or a lover, and enjoy the wide range of feeling that vibrations can evoke for us – using just your hands and mouth! We also explore […]

Why do we humans enjoy being afraid? Why does it feel so good to be just the right kind of scared? This spook season, we explore the erotics of fear – what it means to want to be afraid, how we all have different appetites and preferences for fear, and how we can choose to […]

Relaxing into pleasurable touch is one of the most nourishing erotic experiences – but how do we stay relaxed while also being present with our partner, communicating our needs and expressing our pleasure to create a positive feedback loop that you’ll both enjoy? This episode was inspired by a recent personal coaching session. If you […]

Vanilla can be so delicious on it’s own, but with permission to enjoy a wide range of toppings, the possibilities for pleasure become boundless. Maybe it is the whipped cream of extra romance, the sprinkles of sensation play or the spicy popcorn of adding in new toys, you can add so many toppings to your […]

Vanilla is absolutely delicious, but only if we choose to savor it. Vanilla sex is not “plain” or boring in any way – vanilla can be luxurious, decadent and indulgent. In this episode we sing the praises of vanilla sex, and share strategies and tools for deepening our enjoyment of the many pleasures of vanilla. […]

How worried do I need to be about STIs? How often should I get tested? What does a complete STI panel mean? Do I need to get tested every time I have a new partner? I have erectile struggles but only sometimes, and especially on new dates, why? Should I try ED medication? What is […]

Superfreaks Unite! What would happen if we all let our inner Superfreak flag fly? What joy and bliss awaits us on the other side of courageous kinky exploration? Join us in conversation with Arielle Greenberg, author of Superfreaks: Kink, Pleasure & The Pursuit of Happiness (Beacon Press, 2023) We cover: Ready for more? Join our online […]

Mismatched Libido is one of the most common reasons couples seek therapy, but we don’t hear a lot about Mismatched Kink. It doesn’t have to be a dealbreaker if your kinks don’t align perfectly, if you have very different kinks or even if only one of you is kinky! Join us in this podcast episode […]

What awaits on YOUR erotic journey? What discoveries, adventures, lessons and transformations are just ahead on your path? Join us to sink into the idea that your erotic life can be a journey – rich with excitement, meaning and purpose. Unroll your map of possibilities and gaze at the expansive horizons with us, and get […]

The Golden Rule is a recipe for erotic disaster – doing unto others what you would have them do unto you is NOT good advice, it turns out, in or out of the bedroom. It’s time we started breaking the golden rule – and started exploring the true meaning of reciprocity, mutuality and generosity. Thanks […]

Touch is not a luxury nor a pleasure to be earned at the end of a work day. Touch is an essential human need, at all stages of human life. Most of us experience some level of touch hunger or touch starvation, and the impact on our lives can be dire. The good news? Touch […]

What would it feel like to Make Love As Art? What would it look like to bring more artistry, playfulness and creativity to your love life? If eroticism is a creative expression, what wants to be expressed through you? What kind of erotic artist are you ready to become? In this episode we bask in […]

What are your deepest yearnings? What horizons do you achingly long for? What do you want to experience in this one precious life? Recently inspired by Ariel in the new The Little Mermaid, this episode is an anthem to the power of desire. We all have deep desires that we hide away from those we […]

We all experience seasons within our sexuality. At times seasons stack together to create sexual eras within our lives. We explore how embracing erotic eras can be a useful and liberatory framework to use as we reflect on our erotic lives. This podcast is a continuation of the ideas we shared in podcast #297: Surviving […]

If you are ready to start exploring kink but feel overwhelmed by where to begin, we invite you to try MiniKink! And if you are already kinky and expanding into new dynamics or activities, MiniKink gives us the chance to efficiently and safely explore what more is possible. MiniKink invites you to create very short, […]

Riding the red wave, surfing the red tide, earning your red beard… there are as many euphemisms for period sex as there are opinions about it, and in this episode we dive right into the charged and tender conversation of getting intimate while bleeding. Thanks to our episode sponsors for being part of our global […]

JoEllen Notte, author of In It Together : Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family joins us to discuss how we can all show up more fully for the people in our lives who are living with depression. We ALL know someone who struggles with depression, and in this podcast episode we explore how we […]

Cockwarming, Docking & Engulfment are all names for different applications of a similar erotic move, where we hold an intimate part of the body inside our holes, bodies or crevices. This warm, wet, intimate embrace is an erotic technique that we can all explore in our own way, and this episode explores this move in […]

On the other side of curiosity there is a boundless playground of pleasure, intimacy and connection. When we listen to what other people find pleasurable about their kinks and turn-ons, we can start noticing the responsive desire that stirs within, and find our own Responsive Kinks! In this episode we invite you into the practice […]

What would it feel like to stretch a little more? How much release, relaxation, relief and pleasure are just a stretch away? In this episode we invite you into stretching into more pleasure – with both the physical practice of stretching whenever and however it feels good to you and the emotional practice of stretching […]

Getting naked brings up emotions for all of us – from fear and shame to bliss and exultation and just about every emotional experience in between, getting naked exposes us and reveals so much about our cultural and personal histories. How do we find more comfort, safety and freedom in our skins? How do we […]

Since 2006, we’ve been The Pleasure Mechanics, dedicated full time to exploring the power of pleasure, intimacy, joy and connection. It’s been our mission to remember the role of pleasure in our human experience and the creative, generative, healing force of eroticism. One of our anthems since the very early days has been : Prioritize […]

Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from all of our podcast sponsors here There are so many reasons why receiving sexual pleasure can be challenging for so many of us.  Receiving sexual pleasure is a specific skill set that is necessary to complete the circuit of pleasure when we are making love.  We can […]

Penetration of all kinds can be an intimate and orgasmic part of the erotic experience – but only if everyone involved is ripe and ready for this physical, emotional and relational event. Far too often, lovers rush towards penetration and end up under-stimulated and unsatisfied. In this episode, we explore how to prioritize readiness when […]

The Netflix series How To Build A Sex Room has a lot of us asking questions about how we can create a more conducive space for our sex life, yet few of us have the time, budget and square footage for a dedicated sex room. But we ALL can cultivate our erotic context with small […]

Dr. Nan Wise joins us to discuss the emerging neuroscience of pleasure, orgasm and emotions. Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from all of our podcast sponsors here Nan Wise, Ph.D. is the author of Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding the Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier and More Purpose Filled Life. She […]

It makes sense that many of us have fear, suspicion and doubt around our deepest desires – there are generations of erotic mistrust that we have inherited! So how can you begin to Trust Your Yes, affirm your desires, and go after what you want, in and out of the bedroom? Get discounts on pleasure […]

If you crave rougher sex, but don’t know how to ask for it or suggest it to your partner, this is the podcast episode for you. And if you already love rough play as part of your erotic life, tune in to gather strategies to take your rough sex to the next level. Explore sensation […]

Electrify your erotic life by exploring sensation play, intentionally intensifying sensations that you already enjoy and boldly exploring new ranges of sensations. From soft and silky to rough and scratchy, there is a huge range of sensations to explore and experiment with. In this free podcast episode we guide you in getting specific about the […]

Tune into this episode to discover how we ALL can tap into the energies and pleasures of erotic roleplaying – even if you never want to put on a sexy costume. Get discounts on LoveHoney, Uberlube and our other sponsors here When many people think about kinky sex, one of the first images to come […]

Curious about butt stuff but don’t know how to get started? Love butt stuff and want to level up your knowledge and know-how? Tune in for a wholesome, friendly conversation on butt stuff for all bodies – and how to keep it pleasurable, pain-free and safe. Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from our […]

Get discounts on Uberlube and pleasure tools and toys from our sponsors here Getting the touch you want doesn’t have to be a matter of luck – we can all learn how to ask for the touch that we want, give feedback that gets us more of the specific kind of touch we most like, […]

Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from our sponsors here Asking great questions is an essential skill for better sex, deeper intimacy and embracing growth in all arenas of life. But there aren’t a lot of places we learn to ask great questions for better sex – so tune in to discover how to […]

Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from our sponsors here Erotic Dominance and submission can be a potent source of arousal, thrill and connection for us all, if we dare to explore with curiosity and honesty. In this episode we discuss how we can all tap into the fuel of erotic dominance and submission, […]

Tune in to hear Pleasure Mechanics Chris and Charlotte share intimate details about opening up their marriage to new erotic connections. This episode is shared from our friends at The Open Nesters Podcast – tune in for more great conversations about opening up long term relationships. Check out all of the generous offers from our […]

An invitation into a more complex and compassionate conversation about pregnancy – wanted and unwanted, viable and unviable, aborted and miscarried, carried to term and lost mid way – and the tremendous emotional charge and disenfranchised grief so many of us carry. We are ALL connected in this conversation and can begin tending to one […]

Erotic Pride is about coming home to our inherent dignity and worth as human erotic beings. Erotic Pride is for us ALL and is a powerful antidote to shame. On this podcast episode, Pleasure Mechanics Chris Maxwell Rose and Charlotte Mia Rose discuss how taking pride in your erotic life can be a portal to […]

Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from our sponsors here We all have many sexual orientations – overlapping and dynamic expressions of who we are as erotic creatures, what kind of relationships we want to have and with whom, and what kind of sexual connection we want and how often! On this podcast episode, […]

Coming out is a process of allowing yourself to be seen more fully, and to experience more belonging and celebration for who you are as a unique erotic being. Coming out is for ALL of us – and is a process we can all engage with again and again, as an act of personal and […]

If you are concerned about the state of sexual freedom, reproductive rights, access to health care and wondering how you can still get horny when the world is on fire, you are not alone! Join us in conversation with the Woodhull Freedom Foundation about how we can all step up and take action to generate […]

Practicing non-judgment is at the core of mindfulness and our approach to Mindful Sex. Learning how to recognize and release judgment serves to bring us deeper into our present reality, align us with our values and create connection with others. But like so many essential skills, developing the attitude of non-judgment takes time and practice. […]

Join us in conversation with the ever wise somatic psychotherapist Dr. Holly Richmond, author of Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life. We all can practice reclaiming pleasure, in big and small ways, throughout our daily lives. In this interview, Dr. Holly Richmond guides us in understanding the […]

Mindful Sex invites us to practice paying attention, on purpose, with empathy, during states of high arousal. But “paying attention” isn’t always so easy, especially in the charged realm of sexuality. There is plenty to pay attention to during sexual encounters – how you feel, how it feels to be with your partner, on the […]

Think about the excitement and curiosity you brought to your first consensual sexual experiences – those first kisses, first times seeing people naked, first sexual encounters. The awe and wonder of these moments might be palpable in your memories.  Now think about seeing a long-term partner naked. Doesn’t quite have the same charge, right?  To […]

Discover how to use your hands, mouth, toys and full body to create dual zones of erotic stimulation to amp up the pleasure, erotic interest and arousal. Ready to master erotic touch? Join our Erotic Touch Mastery online course and let us guide you, stroke by stroke, in leveling up your sex life. Thanks to […]

Discover the powerful pleasure potential of the perineum in this podcast episode, where Speaking of Sex hosts Chris and Charlotte Rose share all about the perineum, why it is so important in pelvic anatomy, and how to stimulate the perineum for more pleasure, arousal and relaxation. Thanks to our episode sponsors for being part of […]

Sexual confidence is a feeling state that so many of us want more of, but it can feel elusive or out of reach to attain. How do we build sexual confidence? What does sexual confidence look and feel like – for you specifically? In this podcast episode we tackle the elusive question of gaining sexual […]

Erotic Grief includes a vast range of experiences of erotic loss, longing and loss of belonging. Erotic grief includes the grief of sexual assault and abuse, but also medical loss and trauma, infertility and reproductive health, and not only the loss of belonging due to shame and fear of coming out as our true selves, […]

In this episode we explore how to navigate consensual non-monogamy in relationships. We talk with Kate Loree, sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamy and author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships.  We cover what the differences are between the terms Consensual Non Monogamy, Ethical Non […]

Erotic spanking is an erotic experience like no other: a sweet spot between erotic massage and foreplay, between sex and kink, between tender and rough. In this episode we explore the sweet spot of a great erotic spanking, and how to find that “just right” feeling and give your lover the specific kind of erotic […]

From gentle affectionate pats to deep impact play, percussive touch is a category of touch and sensation play that is often underexplored and underused. Tap into the power of percussive touch with this free podcast episode from The Pleasure Mechanics. For sponsor links and discount codes on pleasure toys and tools, click here! Percussion includes […]

MicroMassage are moments of touch, offered with full presence, care and skill, to create a powerful experience of pleasure and intimate connection. MicroMassage can be offered in tiny moments throughout the day, weaving little moments of pleasure and relaxation, communication and connection into everyday life. MicroMassage can take be offered in simple moments like while […]

Understanding Sexual Shame, an interview with Rahim Thawer In this episode we dive into the complex terrain of sexual shame, and explore coming into a more compassionate relationship with shame. In conversation with therapist, social worker and thought leader Rahim Thawer, we talk about the social experience of shame, the ways we protect and defend […]

Sometimes instead of heating it up and throwing more gas on the fires of arousal, we need to chill out and cool it down. Cool down is an essential part of the pleasure cycle that we don’t often pay attention to or develop skills around – so sometimes cooling down can feel more like throwing […]

Just hold me! Sometimes, just being held in full loving presence is exactly what is needed. In this episode we explore the erotic power of holding and being held, holding still, self-holds, a pause during arousal, holding one another in a long hug, and even holding one another in compassionate conversation or quiet presence! Being […]

“I want more romance” and “I want more romantic sex” are themes in many of the emails we receive from our listeners, and while the yearning for “more romance” is so common, what each individual means by this phrase and what it would look like to experience “more romance” is wildly and wonderfully unique to […]

Are you or your partner too ticklish to touch? When you try to relax into massage, do you instead feel jittery, anxious, nervous or ticklish? Do you tend to get overwhelmed when trying to get aroused? If any of this feels familiar, this episode is for you! No one is “too ticklish to touch” no […]

In this episode we are in conversation with Shango Los, host of the Shaping Fire podcast, about the connections between cannabis, pleasure and erotic intimacy. Thanks to Beducated for sponsoring this episode. To explore their full library of erotic education, visit http://beducate.me/pleasure or use the code PLEASURE for 65% off the yearly pass. We explore the […]

In this interview with sex therapist and podcast host Nicoletta Heidegger, we explore the terrain of troublesome turn-ons – when what we desire also causes us distress, worry or is perhaps illegal or even impossible to fulfill. Troublesome Turn-Ons are the desires that not only excite us, but cause anxiety, fear, shame, guilt or concern […]

Ignite your erotic touch skills, activate your hands during sex and uplevel every aspect of your sex life! Every erotic experience can be made more pleasurable by the simple act of bringing in more touch – using your hands to touch every inch of your lover’s body, especially during high arousal acts like oral sex […]

If you want more sensation, arousal and pleasure, activate and sensitize your erogenous zones! In this free podcast episode we dive deep into where the erogenous zones are, how you can awaken and activate them and specific steps to develop sexual responsiveness in any area you choose. The body is rich with nerve endings ready […]

On this tender and compassionate episode, we talk about claiming an erotic life beyond intercourse, if penetration is not available for any number of reasons, for any length of time – how can we explore, connect and enjoy a fulfilling sex life without intercourse or penetrative sex? We hear from listeners all the time with […]

Many people crave big penetration, fisting, double penetration and other forms of being “filled up” and yet often these desires go unexplored due to shame, fear or lack of knowledge and know-how. In this podcast episode we dive deeper into our Playing With Penetration Series and discuss big penetration, fisting and other forms of maximum […]

There is so much more to penetration than the in and out stroke we all know all too well. In this rousing episode we explore all the ways to pleasure and play internally during penetration. From techniques to create all new ranges of sensation to the emotional experience of deep penetration, this episode opens up […]

Penetration is amongst many people’s favorite erotic acts, but also one that has been severely limited and disrespected by the historical scripts of intercourse. There is SO much more possible beyond repetitive in-and-out intercourse. Many people long for more passionate, playful and orgasmic penetration, both solo and partnered. Many people want to feel more emotional […]

The Masturbatory Assist is a game changing strategy that unlocks way more pleasure, intimacy and shared joy in relationships. In this free podcast episode we explore how you can use the Masturbatory Assist to create more closeness in long term relationships, long distance relationships, and relationships with “mismatched libidos” or when one partner is not […]

If you are bored with sex, stuck in a rut or ready to explore beyond traditional sex scripts, this episode is for you. We explore how to start expanding your erotic horizons, explore your desires, initiate vulnerable conversations and grant yourself permission to try new things, in and out of the bedroom. Be sure to […]

This podcast episode is an invitation into the lifelong process of curating your erotic expression and exploring your creativity. In this episode we look at erotic expression specifically through the lens of the toys, tools, accessories and costumes we bring into our erotic realms. This includes everything from lingerie and clothing to toys and kink […]

Getting off script means confronting the social scripts, expectations and norms that have shaped who we understand ourselves to be, in and out of the bedroom. Getting off script requires us to examine our social identities, both assigned and chosen, and determine where we have more agency to express more of who we are and […]

What is a Power Bottom? What does it mean to Power Bottom? Can anyone be a Power Bottom? Does power bottoming mean you have to also be a size queen? We explore all these questions and more in this free podcast episode, the Power Bottom Playbook. Being a power bottom is all about receiving with […]

If triggers are the cues that send our body into stress and survival mode, glimmers are the antidote. Glimmers are our invitations back home into a state of calm, safe social belonging. Glimmers are moments that remind us to return to pleasure, rest, calm and connection – no matter how big the storm around us. […]

In this episode we speak with Jamila Dawson, LMFT and August McLaughlin, authors of the new book With Pleasure: Managing Trauma Triggers for More Vibrant Sex and Relationships. We cover the basics of what trauma is, the lifelong impact of trauma, how trauma disrupts our safety and social belonging, what triggers are (and are not!) […]

What does it take to design the ultimate handjob machine? Can a device really deliver smooth satisfying strokes? How can we keep the Sex in SexTech? In this special episode of Speaking of Sex, we speak to Jens Petter Wilhelmsen, founder of the company behind The Handy, the world’s most innovative and satisfying stroking device. […]

Sex toys and pleasure tools range from simple devices to elaborate machines, from mild to wild, from tools to assist in comfort and reduce pain to toys that create extraordinary sensations – the world of pleasure tools is boundless! In this episode we invite you to explore the wide world of pleasure tools, clear up […]

Want a hotter sex life? Then keep it warm, so it is easier to get hot! In this episode, we explore how to “warm up” to eroticism in your daily life, so you can experience more warmth and vitality, enjoy more pleasure and connection – and, when the time is right, get hot and experience […]

Afterglow is one of the most enjoyable parts of pleasure – but we often rush through or skip over this phase entirely. In this episode we explore how to bask in the afterglow, extend the afterglow and even how to mine the erotic wisdom that is only available in the precious state of afterglow. Afterglow […]

It’s National Orgasm Day! We always like an excuse to celebrate pleasure, but orgasm is one of the most misunderstood parts of the sexual experience, and stands in as a measure of sexual success instead of an experience to be savored. In this episode, co-hosted by therapist and author Lucie Fielding, we break down orgasm, […]

We’ve been in Pleasure Mechanics uniforms for 15 years and this is our 400th episode! We’re celebrating by featuring calls from our global community of 11,000 pleasure seekers. New to Pleasure Mechanics? Enroll in our free online course and get started with our most essential frameworks for more pleasure: Free Pleasure Mechanics Online Course Ready […]

In this conclusion to our Thrilling Sex Series, we explore the difference between Intense and Extreme when it comes to erotic experiences. Click here for the complete Thrill series and curated resources. Intense is a matter of degree, force or volume. Any experience can be made more intense through deeper engagement with our attention and […]

Thrill and Delight are both experiences of Peak Pleasures – but what separates thrill from delight? What can we learn from Thrill to allow us more Delight in our lives? In this episode of Speaking of Sex, we continue our conversation about Cultivating Erotic Thrills. For the full series and complete resources, check out PleasureMechanics.com/thrill […]

Want more erotic thrill in your life? In this free podcast episode, we discover how to cultivate more thrill in your sex life – without risking it all! The experience of thrill is all about experiencing peak pleasure with the full-bodied attention that is sparked by real or perceived risk. Most humans crave some level […]

Psychogenic Arousal is a human superpower that many of us forget we have! Just like we can make ourselves quake with fear by thinking about scary things, we can create full bodied experiences of pleasure, excitement and arousal through thoughts alone! Pscyhogenic stimulation is all about turning yourself on by with our minds, and it […]

Play is an essential part of the human experience – yet many of us adults have lost touch with how to play, in and out of the bedroom. In this episode, we explore how and why humans play, and how we can all get more playful with ourselves, each other and the world around us. […]

“How free are we to determine how we experience and express our sexuality? How much is this determined by the structures around us?” These are just two of the very big questions and ideas we encounter as part of the adventure in Meg-John Barker and illustrator Jules Scheer’s Sexuality: A Graphic Guide In this episode […]

Bored of masturbation? Stuck in a rut? Uninspired? Here’s how to uplevel your solo sex life and become a better lover for yourself! This episode explores everything from unpacking your attitudes and beliefs about masturbation to getting out of childhood patterns, from exploring new positions and toys to how to bring more intention and emotion […]

Quick Links: $50 off our Mindful Sex Online Course Roundup of Speaking of Sex episodes about masturbation and practicing self love! Mindful Masturbation : A Practice Of Pleasure & Self-Compassion The primary erotic relationship of your life is with yourself! Accepting this simple truth can be both confronting and liberating, allowing us to develop a […]

Shame is one of the most common sexual struggles. Almost all of us struggle with some form of sexual shame – from body shame to faith-based shame, from kink shame to genital shame, almost everyone holds some shame. Shame tells us we are broken, sinful, gross or otherwise unworthy of love. Shame tells us if […]

A Sexplanation is a new documentary, hitting the film festival circuit now, that offers a joyful exploration of what’s happening with sex education in North America, and the very personal impact of the past 40 years of abstinence only sex education in schools. Going far beyond the classroom, Alex embarks on an epic journey into […]

Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life by Emily Nagoski is a must-read for anyone interested in human sexuality – and since you are here, we bet that is you! This book introduces you to research-backed frameworks that help you understand your own experience of sex. You’ll get […]

Intimacy, pleasure and erotic arousal all require a sense of safety to emerge. In this episode we explore why the human body needs to feel safe before pleasurable play, creative joy and erotic connection can authentically emerge. We look at the anatomy of social safety, fear vs. excitement, and the autonomic nervous system. Then we […]

A crucial step in understanding your erotic imagination is making a clear distinction between FANTASY and DESIRE.  Many people try to start talking about sex by saying something like “Tell me about your fantasies. . .”  While this is a great question to ask, you can run into trouble if you mix up Fantasy with […]

Since 2006, we’ve been The Pleasure Mechanics, dedicated full time to exploring the power of pleasure, intimacy, joy and connection. It’s been our mission to remember the role of pleasure in our human experience and the creative, generative, healing force of eroticism. Here’s just some of what we believe about pleasure. Ready to explore with […]

Love it or hate it, Valentine’s Day rolls around every year – as some version has for over 2500 years! With it’s roots in pagan fertility festivals and it’s future as a multi-day festival celebrating all kinds of love, Valentine’s Day is here to stay. So it is time to rethink Valentine’s Day, again! In […]

Our friend and teacher Dr. Alexandra Solomon has spent over 20 years working with couples as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and teaching the popular Marriage 101 course at Northwestern University, and is the author of two bestselling books on love and erotic intimacy. Dr. Solomon is one of the teachers we most love […]

Big thanks to Marie Jenicek from This Thing Called Movement Podcast for allowing us to share this beautiful interview. In this interview between Charlotte Mia Rose and Marie Jenicek, discover: how Charlotte got into this work originally why Chris and Charlotte started Pleasure Mechanics why touch is an underestimated essential for our wellbeing how shame gets […]

Here’s how to set erotic intentions – for the New Year or any time you want an erotic reboot. Intentions are how we align our daily actions with our values and desires. Intentions help us live with integrity and be active creators in our own lives. This episode is a must-listen if you want to […]

Do you long for the days when you loved sex? Miss the lusty new relationship energy that made you never want to get out of bed? Do you worry you will never enjoy sex again? If so, you are not alone – we hear every day from people with versions of this question: is great […]

If you are wondering how to practice gratitude, even in tough times, this episode is for you. This encore episode offers guidance on how to practice gratitude all year round to create more pleasure, joy and connection in your life. We’ve gathered more tools on how to practice gratitude for our Pleasure Pod members, including […]

In this encore episode (first shared back in 2013!) we share our framework of Erotic Game Play and invite you to start creating playful baby steps towards the kinds of erotic experiences you crave. Humans love playing games. From puzzles and word games to ball sports and races, humans love the thrill, challenge and emotional […]

How do power dynamics play out in your marriage? What are the hidden power struggles getting in the way of your happiness and fulfillment within your marriage? How can we reclaim marriage from it’s history as a system of ownership and transform it into a container to create the kinship, belonging and security we all […]

Sexual Empowerment is a term that gets used a lot, but what does it really mean? In this episode, we explore empowerment, Power Over vs. Power With, and more! Here is a great introduction to how power operates in society:

How can we create deeply satisfying, fulfilling erotic experiences when what the body wants is so changeable and context-dependent? In this episode we explore how to find “just right” over and over again by paying exquisite attention to yourself AND your partner, creating a positive feedback loop of verbal and non-verbal communication so you can […]

In this encore episode we share the ten ways learning massage can make you a better lover. From learning how to use your hands to touch your lover’s most sensitive parts to communicating specific requests, learning massage together will not only bring the luxury of massage home, it will also transform the way you make […]

Interoception is known as the “eighth sensory nervous system” of humans – and is perhaps the most important sense that you’ve never heard of! Interoception is our human ability to feel the insides of our own bodies, thanks to the vast network of internal nerve receptors found throughout our internal body but especially concentrated around […]

What is the master key to more pleasure, joy and connection? What if there was one skill you could learn to unlock way more relaxation, arousal & orgasmic bliss – not to mention loving connection with every human you love? After over 370 Speaking of Sex Podcast episodes, we are returning to our roots, the […]

Illness, injury, accidents and other sudden health changes disrupt our lives on all levels – including our sexuality, relationships and even our sense of identity. When our bodies experience massive changes, or are facing chronic pain or terminal illness, how do we begin to find a new normal in our sex lives? How can we […]

Context is perhaps the most important factor in how you experience your sexuality. Context is all of the factors in the external environment AND in your internal landscape that create the story of each moment. Human sexuality is incredibly context dependent – meaning even small changes in the context of an erotic encounter can create […]

We humans are pleasure and rewards seeking animals – we must actively seek out the food, hydration and human connection that sustain us. The Zuckerman Sensation Seeking Scale is one framework that looks at the range of the ways we relate to adventure, novelty, risk and boredom. Developed by psychologist Marvin Zuckerman, Ph.D. in the […]

Social distancing has quickly changed all of our lives – but in very different ways. Some of us are alone, some of us are together with family and no respite in sight. How is social distancing impacting our erotic connections? What parts of social connection – or aloneness – are you missing and yearning for? […]

Mutual Aid is an ethos of care that has risen out of multiple communities – including the disability rights movement & immigrant communities- that invites us to consider our interconnected webs of strengths and vulnerabilities, needs and assets. Rather than relying on “charity” models of giving that maintain power imbalances and systems of harm, we […]

A quick dispatch amidst all of the disruption and overwhelm of the global coronavirus pandemic. Our home ground during this global emergency will be https://www.pleasuremechanics.com/care During this time of global emergency, Pleasure Mechanics online courses are open to all. We can support you with tools & strategies to nourish one another with touch, connect with those […]

Please visit PleasureMechanics.com/care for updated resources on this global emergency – we love you – stay safe, stay connected. This podcast was recorded on March 11, 2020, after we were recovering from family illness during the first few weeks of the global coronavirus outbreaks. As we watch this global situation unfold, this episode is a […]

In this encore of Speaking of Sex episode #178, we discuss the difference in the experience of “making love” vs. “fucking” – which of course is not a simple binary and yet resonates for so many of us. Sometimes, we want tender, emotional and deeply personal sex – “making love.” And sometimes, many of us […]

In this interview, Alexandra Solomon PhD joins us to discuss her new book Taking Sexy Back : How To Own Your Sexuality & Create The Relationships You Want (New Harbinger, 2020) Ready for a masterclass in intimate relationships? Join us in Dr. Solomon’s new online course Intimate Relationships 101 It’s time to flip the script […]

Want more romance? Want your partner to be more romantic? Want to be more romantic and be able to express your love? Let’s start with thinking about what being romantic even means! Beyond the package deal scripts of Valentine’s Day style romance, what does it mean to be more romantic? How can we approach romance […]

We all develop pleasure ruts – our most reliable pathways to pleasure, arousal and orgasm. How do we break out of ruts and find new pleasure pathways? How can we encourage exploration in our relationships – without losing any of the reliable standbys that we might depend on for accessing pleasure? This is an encore […]

We stopped by the Sex Talk With My Mom studios in Los Angeles to talk with our old friends about opening up to pleasure, mindful sex, erection and ejaculation issues, and so much more. We hold nothing back in this candid conversation! This episode originally aired as episode 264 of Sex Talk With My Mom. […]

Savoring is the art of slowing down a moment enough to be fully in it, while it is happening, with presence and gratitude. Fully savoring pleasures of all kinds – from small sensual pleasures to the deepest joys of intimacy and connection – is a skill set that we humans can develop, on purpose, over […]

Feeling disconnected from your partner, and maybe even from yourself? Here is a powerful framework from an award winning couples therapist to help you cultivate more moments of micropleasures into your daily life and loving relationships. Micropleasures are those experiences that bring you pleasure, joy and connection in 60 seconds or less. Love the show? […]

What do you want? This is such a simple question, yet one that can be so hard to answer, especially in the erotic realm. What do you want? This question emerges in all arenas of our life – from the biggest picture questions about family, career and lifestyle to the micro moments of everyday life. […]

As we accept our nomination as finalist for a Sexual Freedom Award, we had the chance to reflect on the really big question: What Is Sexual Freedom? In this episode, we invite you to reflect on sexual freedom – both as an individual and what it means as a global project of social justice. Big […]

The hymen myth tells us that the vagina is sealed off by a freshness seal that is only broken upon first penetration. Upon this myth rests the entire idea of female virginity, sexual purity and many other harmful ideas about sexuality that cause endless shame, fear and suffering. The truth is, the hymen is a […]

If you want to show up for more pleasure, love and connection in life, one of the skills to work on is recalibrating towards pleasure. This means noticing both what you desire AND noticing what you are enduring silently. Do Not Endure. Enduring is all about suffering patiently, and often silently. You do not ever […]

Taking turns in bed is one of the most powerful reframes you can make to gain access to way more pleasure and connection. Taking turns is yet another gift from our erotic massage lineage – on a massage table it is clear how we can take turns giving and receiving touch, centering the needs and […]

How many types of orgasms are there? Are some orgasms more powerful than other orgasms? Do different types of orgasms feel different? How do I have all the different kinds of orgasms? What’s the deal with the g-spot? the a-spot? the p-spot? Do all people have all the spots? Help! We get emails with these […]

Curious about backdoor play? Want to explore the thrilling potential of this highly sensitive area – but don’t want to get hurt? Our approach to anal touch offers 100% pleasure, 100% pain-free stimulation. With a deep respect and understanding of the body, we can access way more erotic pleasure, emotional intimacy and connection. Ready for […]

We are all in constant states of change, growth and transition – so how can we learn to embrace change with a spirit of curiosity and perhaps even passion? On this episode, Lucie Fielding joins us to share her brilliant frameworks about coming into passionate relationship with our embodied sexual selves. Lucie joins us to […]

Sexually frustrated? You are SO not alone. Sexual frustration can be a deeply painful experience, especially when you feel like there is no end in sight! If you feel like you are pent up, shut down, or itching with unmet sexual needs and desires, this episode is for you. Where does sexual frustration come from? […]

If there is no such thing as a sex drive, what is that unmistakable and potent force that moves us, motivates us and pulls us towards the pleasures of erotic exchange? It’s not a drive, it’s desire – the powerful force of wanting, the complex motivational system that allows us to imagine into future states […]

Lost Libidos, Mismatched Libidos, Out Of Control Libidos: Libido problems are the most frequently reported sexual struggle. If you struggle with your libido or sex drive, join us for an intimate conversation with renowned sex therapist Vanessa Marin. We explore a new framework of understanding libido, desire and passion: one that puts each of us […]

Low libido? Loss of libido? Crazy high libido? Mismatched Libido? There are 99 libido problems out there, and many people report struggling with their libido. Libido troubles are one of the leading reasons people seek out the advice of a sex therapist or tune into sex podcasts like this one. But it is time to […]

Did becoming a parent change your erotic life? Of course it did! Kids change everything – your experience of your body, time, freedom, personal space and mental load will never be the same! As parents, our priorities change, and that keeps our species going. But kids don’t have to mean the end of your erotic […]

Erotic massage is one of the most exquisite erotic experiences we have ever known – and it is how we fell in love with one another! Ready to unlock the power of your erotic touch skills? Click here for the Erotic Touch Mastery bundle (with a secret podcast only discount!) In this episode, we share […]

In part 1 of our interview with Joseph Kramer, we learned about how he grew up as a masturbation loving gay boy in the Catholic church and left the Jesuits after receiving his first massage. We discovered the origins of the erotic embodiment practices he gathered as he explored a new way of sharing sexuality […]

Meet our great erotic mentor, Joseph Kramer, Ph.D. and hear the story of how a gay boy born into a Catholic family followed his path to become an erotic pioneer and visionary. In this intimate interview between student and mentor, Joseph Kramer shares his life story about discovering masturbation as a devout Catholic boy, leaving […]

Does your pleasure ever feel stuck at “good enough” – and you can’t quite kick up the intensity when you want to? In this encore episode, we share a ton of techniques for amping up intensity while receiving stimulation. Here we are discussing the specific case of getting enough intensity during oral sex to reach […]

Sex moves! From wild rides to subtle shudders, moving your body during sex is key to unlocking a wide range of erotic experiences. Do you give yourself permission to move freely, or do you sometimes feel stuck in place? In this episode, we explore the importance of movement during sex and give you ideas on […]

What are you hungry for? What do you crave? What do you want so much you can taste it? The fabulous Dawn Serra joins us for a conversation about recovering a joyful relationship to pleasure, desire and hunger. We explore what food and sexuality have in common as arenas of experiencing and realms of both […]

Have you ever talked about the boundaries of your relationship? What does monogamy mean to you? What commitments do you need in a relationship to feel safe and supported? Here’s how to open up the vital conversations about monogamy, relationship boundaries and commitment. We guide you in engaging in thought experiments about non-monogamy as a […]

The queer liberation movement has impacted ALL of our lives in both obvious and subtle ways. We are celebrating the 50 year anniversary of the Stonewall Riots by looking at how the queer liberation movement has generated waves of social change in just one generation. We look at the historical roots of homophobia and how […]

In this episode, Canadian sex therapist and researcher Sarah Hunter Murray joins us to dismantle the myths about male sexuality that are at the root of so much sexual struggle. Her book Not Always In The Mood: The New Science of Men, Sex & Relationships draws from in depth interviews with men to expose the […]

What attitudes do you bring to your sex life? What are your attitudes about gender roles, power dynamics, desire, body parts, hygiene, physical acts, desire, love, pleasure and all of the other factors that influence your sexuality? All of us need some serious attitude adjustments when it comes to sexuality- to move away from the […]

Sex Therapist Vanessa Marin joins us to continue our conversation about female orgasm. This episode continues our conversation about female orgasm with Vanessa Marin, started on Episode 303, The Path To Female Orgasm. The struggle for female orgasm is a cultural issue, not a personal failure. It is essential to locate the conversation about female […]

If you want to have kinkier sex, you are going to want to build some foundational skills long before you ever pick up a toy. The skills of mindful sex – noticing your thoughts without judgment, staying present during the heights of arousal, paying attention to both the internal landscape and to another human’s subtle […]

Mindful Sex May continues with an exploration of what mindful sex practices can offer men struggling with performance anxiety. This is one of the most common sexual struggles for men – you finally have the opportunity to be sexual with a partner, you start to get aroused, and then… worry, anxiety, fear and/or panic start […]

How much attention do you bring to your masturbation? How much creativity do you allow yourself in the time you spend with solo touch? Join us in exploring Mindful Sex – enroll in the Mindful Sex Online Course In this episode we explore Mindful Masturbation – or as our mentor Annie Sprinkle calls it “medibation!” […]

Your body is good enough, sexy enough and you are worthy of limitless pleasure. How easy is it for you to believe that simple statement? For many of us, body shame, insecurities and judgment create a tremendous amount of stress and struggle. We are taught that our bodies will never be good enough, and that […]

You spend a third of your life in bed. Two of the most important activities for your wellbeing – sleep and sex – happen there. So when is the last time you thought about your bedroom and if it is meeting your needs? In this episode, we explore ideas to make your bedroom into a […]

If you find yourself too stressed out for sex, or know that sex gets in the way of your sex life, this episode is for you. Part of our podcast mini series inspired by the book Burnout, this episode explores the crucial step of completing the stress cycle so it doesn’t interfere with your life […]

Do you ever feel like the daily grind is grinding you down? Burnout – the feeling of never enoughness, of being locked in a non-feeling state of perpetual motion, of feeling like there is no candle left to burn from either end – is the lived experience of so many of us. Burnout is real […]

Are you ready? Wet and ready? In this podcast episode we debunk the myths about vaginal wetness, arousal and female engorgement. Get ready to pull apart wetness, arousal, sexual excitation and other important facets of female sexuality (and other vulva owners and those who love them!) Want to get started implementing our proven strategies for […]

We all know communication is essential for healthy relationships and great sex – but how do we begin to level up our erotic communication skills? How do we break through the fear and shame to start talking openly about what we want in bed? Sex coach and author Stella Harris joins us to explore the […]

Your erotic desires may be far more vast than can ever be met in your lifetime. What do we do with desires unfulfilled – so that we can be free to pursue more erotic fulfillment? In this paradox there is a rich terrain of both personal and relational exploration – so you can figure out […]

You have a unique constellation of pleasures, desires and interests that make you who you are. How well do you know your own pleasure constellations? What are the brightest stars that are easy to go after and express, and what pleasures might be dimmed by shame or fear? This episode was inspired by the responses […]

What is attachment theory? How do different attachment styles show up in our most intimate relationships and in our sex lives? Therapist and social justice consultant Aida Manduley joins us to discuss attachment theory and how we can learn about ourselves and our relationships with this powerful tool. Resources Mentioned In This Episode: Wired for […]

If you love when we dive into big ideas about pleasure, sexuality and love, join us for a magical 10 day experience: the Explore More Summit. Enrollment is FREE and we will be right there with you, basking in the brilliance of the 26 other amazing speakers and sharing thoughts on the private Facebook group. […]

The sounds of sex range from the sweetest of moans to the cacophony of bestial bodies banging the bed into the wall. Making noise during sex is one of the primary ways we communicate with our partner, and one of the most essential embodied skills for more sexual pleasure. Making noise is as important to […]

What if we could all be a little kinder to our bodies? Rebecca Scritchfield believes in the power of self kindness and self compassion to change our lived experience in and with our bodies. Check out Rebecca Scritchfield’s book Body Kindness: Transform Your Health from the Inside Out–And Never Say Diet Again and online resources! […]

After our recent conversations on the emotions of erectile dysfunction, we wanted to continue into what is often uncharted territory: the erotic pleasures of the soft penis. The penis is not only sexy or worthy of pleasure when it is fully erect, and pleasure can be found in all states of erection. Going beyond the […]

Erectile dysfunction is more than a physical experience – it is an emotional and psychological experience with far reaching impact. On past episodes, we covered Performance Anxiety and performance pressure. Performance based erectile dysfunction is a very common sexual experience – but often leads to emotional responses that can slip into downward spirals, sometimes even […]

Movement can be a great source of pleasure, joy – and even wisdom. But most of us think about movement only in terms of exercise – at best a chore to complete, at worst a punishment for not being in the “right” kind of body. Jane Clapp is a powerful teacher who guides us in […]

Love is a verb – an action we must practice in an ongoing way. But “love” is also kind of vague, and the daily act of loving another human being is really a symphony of verbs that is constantly changing. So how do we get more specific about HOW we love and what actions are […]

As we all head towards the end of 2018, we sign off for a holiday break, announce our end of the year sale and reflect on our recent time at the Zen monastery.  Get started with our FREE online course: PleasureMechanics.com/Free All of our online courses are 33% with the code JOY until the end […]

Cannabis, in and out of the bedroom: here’s what you need to know! Now that cannabis is legal in many states for both medicinal and recreational use, and legal in Canada as well as other countries around the world, it’s time to refresh your knowledge about cannabis and all the ways you can use it […]

The Resilient Edge of Resistance is a concept that guides how we approach massage, erotic touch and even relationships! The Resilient Edge of Resistance is all about finding that magical place of “just right” – in touch, in sex, in love. It means using not too much force and not too little, offering full support […]

Arousal is not something that happens TO you – it is something that YOU generate. Your arousal is your own – so OWN IT! In this episode we explore the nature of sexual arousal, and why we all need to stop waiting around hoping to get turned on! Arousal is an internal process that we […]

What would it mean to bring more reverence, awe and wonder to the bedroom? What does it mean to worship the genitals rather than degrade them? What are the implications of bringing more reverence to sexuality? We explore all this and more in this heartful episode. First, we explore the standard definitions of cock worship, […]

What happens when you are ready to explore sexually, and your partner doesn’t want to play along? How do you move forward as a couple when only one of you wants to get kinky? If you have ever felt like you were ready to explore new sexual thrills or go on new erotic adventures, but […]

We ALL get erections – it is not just a guy thing! All human bodies have about the same amount of erectile tissue in their genitals – it is just situated differently! People with vulvas get erections too – and in this podcast episode we cover everything you need to know about female erections for […]

Butt plugs are one of the most versatile types of sex toys, but not many people know about them. Here is everything you’ve ever wanted to know (and more!) about butt plugs. In this free podcast episode, we cover all the basics and more. This is a Who, What, Where, When, Why and How Episode […]

When many people think about kinky sex, one of the first images to come to mind is erotic role playing. From the classic boss and secretary scenario to Prince Charming and Sleeping Beauty, role playing captures our collective erotic imagination. Yet many people find it hard to get into, leaving these erotic roles to fantasy […]

Imagine a lover gasping for air, begging for it, begging for YOU, begging for the release of your touch – is this a fantasy alone? Or is there a way to make begging for it something we can all do a bit more of, each in our own way? In this episode we explore the […]

Joey Soloway, creator of the award winning shows Transparent and I Love Dick, joins us to talk about creating art that matters, art that is helping to change global culture and liberate the narratives of the marginalized. In this interview, Joey Soloway talks about how the forces of desire, empathy, freedom and play shape their […]

We are at a cultural crossroads – where the old models of social power structures are falling away and being replaced with new models to create more equity, freedom and opportunity for us all. But at this crossroads, many of us are confused, lonely and desperate for answers. Mark Greene is a brilliant thinker about […]

  Never had an orgasm? Struggle to reach orgasm with a partner? Vanessa Marin joins us to talk about stepping onto the path to female orgasm. If you are a woman and want to learn how to have your first orgasm, or how to orgasm more consistently with a partner, enrollment for Finishing School is […]

Full body orgasms are not a myth, nor are they particularly difficult to experience. Full body orgasms are possible for all bodies to experience, and as you explore the skills needed to experience full body orgasm you’ll unlock more pleasure, connection and intimacy with yourself and your partner(s). Support the show and unlock bonus episodes, […]

Slow Down! That’s some of the best sex advice we can give you. But of course – it is simple but not always easy. Slowing down in the erotic realm is an essential step to have better sex and enjoy your authentic sexuality. Our sex culture is FAST – fast hookups, fast arousal, fast intercourse, […]

What happens when you realize that you are bisexual – after you are already happily married? In this episode we explore the complex emotional terrain of coming out to yourself as bisexual – when you are already married. Thanks to GetMaude.com for sponsoring this episode and making independent sex podcasting possible. Build your own kit […]

Hear how one woman broke through her sexual repression and began discovering her authentic sexual expression. Ev’yan Whitney, sexuality coach and founder of SexLoveLiberation.com, generously shares her journey into sexual freedom on her beautiful website and podcast. In this episode, Ev’yan talks about what she learned growing up in a strict religious upbringing and how […]

Quick update on what’s happening behind the scenes at Pleasure Mechanics, and what’s coming next!

Do you get maximum enjoyment out of your porn habit, or is it compromised by not-so-great porn, feelings of shame and guilt or distaste at what pops up during your porn sessions? Most adults use porn – some rarely and others daily – but far too many of us settle for free “tube” sites that […]

Multiple orgasms, squirting orgasms, clitoral orgasms, oh my! We break down the complexity of orgasms and demystify all the hype about different types of orgasms. A listener wrote in wanting to know more about female multiple orgasms. After listening to our podcast and deepening their sexual intimacy, he and his wife were experiencing new levels […]

All relationships have sexless seasons – periods of time where there is little or no sexual connection –  here’s how to survive them so a sexless season doesn’t turn into a sexless marriage or breakup! Sexless seasons happen for any number of reasons – injury, illness, work stress, family commitments, global events – and these […]

What do your sexual fantasies reveal about who you are and what you want? Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D. joins us to discuss his new book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life In this conversation about the role and meaning of sexual fantasies, we […]

  What happens when you are ready to explore kinky sex – but are already in a long term relationship? How do you begin to explore erotic power play – with your beloved spouse? What does it take to explore kinky sex while keeping your marriage intact? In this podcast we share some advice for […]

One of the most important sexual skills to develop is the ability to get specific.  Sexuality is a highly personal creation – the nuances of what lights you up is yours alone to discover, explore and communicate. How do you expect to get what you want in your sex life if you don’t even know […]

Sexual rejection hurts – here is how to soften the blow when your partner initiates sex and you are not into it. Rejection hurts. Medical research shows that of all human emotions, rejection is the one that registers as physical pain. So it is no wonder that when it comes to initiating sex, most people […]

This episode covers one of the most important frameworks for understanding the human sexual experience: the dual control model of arousal. Get ready to rethink everything you know about getting turned on – and what is really holding you back from enjoying more sex. Developed in the 1990’s at the Kinsey Institute by Erick Janssen […]

Emily Nagoski is one of the most important thinkers in the field of sexuality. She does a remarkable job translating scientific and social knowledge into deeply personal stories and actionable strategies. This interview originally aired in two parts as two episodes: Episode #079: The Surprising Science of Sex With Emily Nagoski, Part 1 Episode #080: The […]

  Twenty years after Viagra was approved to treat erectile issues in men, we still don’t have any quick fixes for the primary sexual struggle of women: low sexual desire. In this podcast interview, Dr. Lori Brotto shares what has been the most promising treatment for women who struggle with sexual desire – mindfulness. Mindfulness […]

Sexual performance anxiety is the most common sexual struggle for men. Almost all men experience sexual performance anxiety at one time or another, and many men suffer with it for years on end. So what exactly is sexual performance anxiety, and why does it impact so many men? In this episode we open up the […]

Performance Anxiety is the primary sexual struggle of far too many men. What does performance anxiety even mean? What causes performance anxiety? How can guys overcome performance anxiety? What can partners do to help? In this episode we speak with Vanessa Marin, leading sex therapist and creator of an amazing online course, The Modern Man’s Guide […]

Why do so many people struggle with masturbation? Why do so many of us feel a little bit ashamed of solo sex, treating it like a dirty chore rather than a self-love practice that can bring tremendous pleasure and health benefits? How you masturbate – how much pleasure you give yourself, how creative you are […]

Can writing be a tool to unlock more erotic freedom and possibility? How does reading erotica help us discover what is possible for our own sex lives? In this interview, writer and writing workshop facilitator Jen Cross shares what she has learned from over 20 years guiding others in tapping into the power of writing […]

Sometimes, sexuality can go into a deep slumber – here is how to start emerging out of sexual hibernation. In this episode, we share from our current experience of emerging out of sexual hibernation. Three years of being young parents and overcoming a major health crisis has left us both feeling disconnected from our sexual […]

How do you ask for what you want in bed? Do you wait around hoping your partner will know what you want? Do you send out subtle signals of sexual willingness- only to feel rejected when your partner doesn’t get the message? We ALL need to develop the skills of naming authentic desires and inviting […]

  Karen Lee Poter and Cameron Poter are the mother/son team behind the irreverent podcast Sex Talk With My Mom. When we were in Los Angeles recently, we got together and recorded episodes for BOTH of our shows! In this episode, we talk about their unlikely journey to recording a mother-son sex podcast and what they […]

There is one question that can be a total mood killer in bed. When women hear this question, they suddenly feel like they need to switch into caretaker mode and protect his fragile ego. This question can drain all the eroticism out of the experience. Guys, eliminate this question: Does that feel ok? While you […]

Are you ready for a Sex Lab? The sex lab is a playful space where you can try new sexual activities, build new sexual skills, dip into new kinks or try on new erotic personas – without all the pressure of creating a full sexual experience. When athletes train, they do drills. They practice without […]

Sexual jealousy has a big impact on arousal and erection. For some people, sexual jealousy can be a huge turn-on, and these people can harness jealousy and turn it into arousal. Other people feel jealousy as anger and can get dangerously violent when they feel jealous. Some people get anxious and ashamed when they experience […]

Intimacy is one of those words that has lost it’s meaning – and it is time to excavate the meaning of intimacy and see where it fits in the complicated reality of human sexuality. In this episode, we investigate the meaning of “intimacy” and propose a more deliberate and meaningful use of the word. What […]

What does it mean to be a sex positive parent? How can you be a better role model for the kids and youth in your community? As adults, we are the highest influencers for the next generation. It is up to us to show kids what it means to be sex-positive – and that is […]

We have a new course available! Mindful Sex invites you to harness the power of mindfulness in your sex life. Discover how to minimize distractions, stay present during arousal, expand your capacity for pleasure and go deeper with your partner. In this podcast, we share three different perspectives on the benefits of mindful sex. The […]

What is Mindful Sex? What are the benefits of Mindful Sex? How do you practice Mindful Sex? To celebrate the release of our brand new course on (you guessed it!) Mindful Sex, here is a lively conversation all about the pleasures and practices of bringing mindfulness to your sex life. When you are ready to […]