In this episode, we welcome Julie Menanno, a renowned Marriage and Family Therapist and the voice behind the successful Instagram account, The Secure Relationship. With over a million followers and a groundbreaking book titled "Secure Love," Julie brings her extensive expertise in attachment theory and couples therapy to our listeners.Discover the transformative power of secure attachment in your marriage as Julie delves deep into the heart of relationship dynamics. We explore critical topics such as:Understanding Secure Love: Learn what it means to have a secure, loving relationship and why it's essential for marital harmony.Attachment Styles Unveiled: Julie sheds light on different attachment styles and their impact on your marriage. From the anxious-avoidant dynamic to the path towards secure attachment, gain insights into the patterns shaping your relationship.Communication as the Key: Uncover the core issue in most relationship problems – communication. Julie discusses how verbal and non-verbal communication can build or erode emotional safety, and how to transform this critical aspect of your relationship.The Journey to Secure Attachment: Julie provides practical advice for moving from anxious or avoidant attachment styles to a secure, mutually fulfilling relationship. Learn how to make essential internal changes and foster a nurturing environment for both partners.Healing and Growth: For couples affected by affairs, trust issues, or other challenges, Julie offers hope and strategies for healing. Learn how to rebuild trust and intimacy through understanding, empathy, and secure attachment practices.This episode is not just an exploration of theories; it's a guide to revolutionizing your marriage. Whether you're looking to heal from past hurts or enhance the emotional bond with your spouse, Julie's insights offer a pathway to a deeper, more secure love.Join us for an episode that could change the course of your marriage. Embrace the power of secure attachment and start your journey towards a more fulfilling, loving partnership.Today's Guest: Julie MenannoJulie Menanno (MA, LMFT, LCPC) is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. She also provides insight and advice for couples at @TheSecureRelationship on Instagram, with over one million followers. She founded and runs the Bozeman Therapy & Counseling clinic, and The Secure Relationship Coaching. She lives in Bozeman, Montana, with her husband and six children.Get her new book here!Visit her websiteYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

In this episode, we dive into the transformative journey of post-traumatic growth with the renowned Dr. Richard Tedeschi. A pioneer in the field, Dr. Tedeschi unveils how traumatic experiences can lead to profound personal growth and a renewed sense of purpose.Key Highlights:Understanding Post-Traumatic Growth: Dr. Tedeschi explains the process of turning adversity into advantage, challenging core beliefs, and emerging stronger.Trauma and Core Beliefs: An in-depth discussion on how trauma can shake the foundations of what we believe, leading to anxiety, confusion, and ultimately, growth.Expert Guidance: From his extensive experience as a clinician, researcher, and professor, Dr. Tedeschi shares valuable insights on navigating the complexities of trauma.Personal Transformation: Discover how traumatic events can reshape your view of the world, strengthen relationships, and open new life paths.Healing and Moving Forward: Practical advice on overcoming the overwhelming feelings of trauma and channeling them into positive life changes.This episode is a must-watch for anyone looking to understand the psychological impact of trauma and the potential for positive change in its aftermath. Whether you are navigating personal challenges, supporting a loved one, or simply interested in psychological resilience, Dr. Tedeschi's insights offer a beacon of hope and a roadmap to recovery.Today's Guest: Dr. Richard TedeschiDr. Richard Tedeschi is Executive Director of the Boulder Crest Institute for Posttraumatic Growth, in Bluemont, Virginia, where he has been one of the developers of  programs based on posttraumatic growth principles to help combat veterans and first responders. He is also Professor Emeritus in the Department of  Psychological Science at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte, where he served for 42 years.He has published nine books and numerous professional articles on posttraumatic growth, an area of research that he developed while at UNC Charlotte.Dr. Tedeschi serves as a consultant to the American Psychological Association on trauma and resilience, and is a Fellow of the Division of Trauma Psychology and the Division of Psychotherapy. He is also a member of the Division of Military Psychology and the Division of Independent Practice.  He is a Past President of the North Carolina Psychological Association. LINKS:https://bouldercrest.org/Read More About Post Traumatic GrowthYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes

Unlock the secrets to lasting habit transformation with Dr. Mel Davis, a brilliant mind in neurobiology and behavior, as we unravel the layers of willpower management and habit building. Dr. Davis guides us through the journey of self-improvement without overwhelming oneself, highlighting the significance of incremental changes and the patience required, similar to mastering an instrument or earning a degree. We delve into prioritizing habits that will most positively impact your life, offering actionable strategies to build momentum and bolster self-efficacy.Confessing my personal struggles with syncing my nutrition with my steadfast exercise regimen, this episode offers a candid look into why it's tougher to break old habits than to form new ones. Dr. Davis shares her expertise on the psychology behind habit formation, discussing the ins and outs of a balanced diet rich in vegetables and the necessity of focusing on behavior for sustainable health. Especially as the festive season brings its share of temptations, learn how to enjoy life's indulgences in moderation and maintain a consistent approach to wellness.Strength training myths get debunked regardless of gender, as we illuminate its benefits, from osteoporosis prevention to body composition enhancement. We discuss the right equipment for every level and the proper frequency for strength sessions to maximize benefits while managing hunger on a calorie deficit. Dr. Davis also imparts wisdom on protein and macronutrient balance tailored to individual needs, ensuring listeners leave armed with knowledge to navigate their fitness journeys with confidence. Join us for a robust conversation that marries exercise, nutrition, and the craft of developing habits that stick.Today's Guest: Dr. Mel DavisDr. Melissa Davis holds a PhD in Neurobiology and Behavior and has 10 years of research experience. She has earned awards for teaching, scholarship, and research. A Brazilian Jiu Jitsu black belt and a repeat IBJJF Master World Champion, she has represented the U.S. in the Abu Dhabi World Pro twice. She currently does contract work for Renaissance Periodization, where she writes books, coaches clients, and develops nutrition and training products. In her free time she hikes, backpacks, hunts, forages, gardens, and trains her horse and mule in Montana. Links:Instagram: @regressive_underload Habit Book: ebook: https://rpstrength.com/evidence-based-habit-buildingprint, kindle, audio: https://www.amazon.com/Evidence-Based-Habit-Building-Finally-Done/dp/B09HHM1NL4RP Coaching: https://rpstrength.com/rp-coaching?selected=diet-and-training-coaching-menu_coachingYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes

Unlock the mysteries of your heart as we traverse the captivating landscape of love with the guidance of Dr. Helen Fisher. This episode promises a profound understanding of the intricate dance between brain chemistry and romance, as we delve into why we fall for the partners we do, and whether that intense spark of new love can blossom into a lifelong flame.Join me in this heartfelt conversation with Dr. Fisher, where we dissect the essence of limerence and its metamorphosis into enduring love. Ever wondered if there's a science to staying happily in love? We've got you covered, sharing secrets on maintaining passion, the art of emotional regulation, and the magic of 'positive illusions'. Prepare to be enlightened by the anthropological undercurrents of relationship dynamics and practical strategies for rekindling romance, armed with wisdom from both Dr. Fisher and relationship expert, John Gottman.As we wrap up our journey with Dr. Fisher, we shed new light on how novelty, personality, and even the biological forces at play shape our romantic relationships. Explore the four personality styles that dictate our love lives, and understand the profound implications of love in our later years. We'll also unveil the biological patterns that often lead to divorce and why long-term commitment holds the key to a healthier, more fulfilling life. This episode is not just a treasure trove of insights—it's a roadmap for deepening the connections that mean the most to us. Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Helen Fisher, PhD Biological AnthropoligistHELEN FISHER, PhD BIOLOGICAL ANTHROPOLOGIST, is Senior Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute; and Chief Science Advisor to  Match.com .  She uses brain scanning (fMRI) to study the neural foundations of romantic love, attachment, rejection in love, love addiction and long-term partnership happiness. She has written six internationally best-selling books on mate choice, romantic love, marriage, gender differences in the brain and the evolution and future of the family in the digital age. Her books include: ANATOMY OF LOVE (2 ND  ed); WHY WE LOVE; and WHY HIM? WHY HER?.  Fisher is currently studying the biological basis of personality--using her fMRI data and data collected from her questionnaire, the Fisher Temperament Inventory, now taken by 15+ million people in 40 countries.  She is currently writing her 7th book, applying these data on four foundational temperament dimensions to business and personal living. Her personality questionnaire has been called “a disruptive technology” and “the next Myers-Briggs.”  Helen is the co-founder of a business consulting company, NEUROCOLOR.  She is in the media regularly. She is a TED All-Star with over 21 million views of her TED talks, a recipient of the American Anthropological Association’s Distinguished Service Award for her work at presenting anthropological data to the public; and chosen in 2015 by Business Insider as one of “The Fifteen Most Amazing Women in Science.”LINKS:Website: https://helenfisher.com/Personality TestBooks: https://helenfisher.com/books/Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlyb

As the confetti settles and the last echoes of "Happy New Year" fade away, I'm reminded of my New Year's Eve wedding and the profound sense of beginning anew it instilled in me. That's why this episode is dedicated to the art of self-reflection and goal setting, not just as a seasonal tradition, but as a transformative practice that can steer the course of our lives. I'll take you on a personal journey through the highs and lows of setting intentions, sharing the heartfelt story of how my own New Year's resolutions have evolved—from festive ambitions to a deeply rooted pursuit of personal growth.Goal setting can sometimes feel like a mountain that's insurmountable, especially if we're scaling it with the wrong equipment. That's where I challenge the one-size-fits-all mentality of popular programs like the 75 Hard challenge, and instead, advocate for a more individualized touch. I delve into the nuances of intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation, supported by the insights of psychological experts Sheldon, Elliot, and Deci, to reveal why some goals stick and others slip away. In this heartfelt discussion, I emphasize the power of aligning goals with our innermost values and passions, paving a path that's uniquely ours to tread.As we wrap up this episode, I invite you to contemplate self-concordant goals—those that not only resonate with who we are but also connect us to something greater. I'll share strategies for setting purposeful objectives that bolster our sense of autonomy, competence, and relatedness, creating a harmonious balance that elevates our wellbeing. You'll leave this conversation equipped with the knowledge to choose goals that not only promise a year of intention but also a lifetime of fulfillment—goals that are as unique and personal as the stories we write with each new chapter of our lives.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

2023 has FLOWN by! We thought we would put together an end of year recap of the most popular episodes of the year! We'll be back next week with an all new episode to kick off 2024 ❤️Episodes:Sherry GabaDave DelaneyToi SweeneyJulie BeckermanDallas JenkinsHow Attraction Leads To LoveJamie GagnonKarla McLarenDr. Laurie Watson3 Steps to Heal A Broken MarriageJefferson FisherAndrea BeachYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Are you feeling overwhelmed by dishonesty and half-truths in your life? Join us for an engaging and enlightening conversation about communication, truth, and trust. In this episode, we're joined by Andrea Beach, a renowned hypnotherapist, who explores why people sometimes choose to be untruthful and how we can detect these falsehoods. We'll look at the impact of deceit on relationships and the importance of honesty in strengthening our connections with others.Get ready for an insightful journey as we tackle how to confront deception in our lives. Drawing from our own experiences and offering practical advice, we'll discuss the importance of trusting your instincts when dealing with dishonesty. Plus, we'll introduce the unique TEAM framework - Touch, Education, Affirmation/Appreciation, and Metrics - a powerful tool for building trust in your relationships.This episode isn't just about improving communication and trust; it's a guide for personal development and success in both personal and professional realms. If you find this episode helpful, please share it with others who might benefit and consider leaving a review to support our show's growth. Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Andrea BeachAndrea Beach is an entrepreneur, investor, humanitarian, and a highly acclaimed life & business coach. She has empowered thousands of people from all around the world through her Master Classes, books, videos, and live events. A leading authority on human behavior, Ms. Beach is a certified hypnotherapist, and trained in NLP (Neuro- Linguistic Programming) and DHE (Design Human Engineering). She has worked with Fortune 500 companies, and people from all walks of life to create successful programs for transformation and success.Website:https://lifeunleashed.online Launch video:https://youtube.com/watch?v=sPtwBMDIkcI&feature=shareaYouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@the_andrea_beachFacebook:https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090920945177&mibextid=LQQJ4dInstagram:https://instagram.com/lifeunleashedonline?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Are you ready to transform your communication skills? Let us accompany you on this insightful journey with clinical psychologist and author, Dr. Diana Hill. Be prepared to reframe your approach to challenging conversations, armed with acceptance, compassion, and a respect for the delicate dance of human interaction. Dr. Hill generously imparts wisdom from her own recovery journey and research, expertly merging scientific insights with spiritual influences. She also introduces us to acceptance-based practices such as Aptide Awareness Training and dialectical behavior therapy, showing us how aligning our actions with our personal values can lead to a life of deeper meaning.Next, we delve deeper into the world of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) guided by a therapist who has co-authored a journal on this very topic. Find out how ACT stands apart from other therapeutic methods and how you can apply its principles in your daily life. We’ll navigate through the concept of creative hopelessness, acceptance, the importance of being present, and committed action, all crucial components of the ACT process. This is an enlightening exploration for anyone curious about ACT or those seeking tools to navigate changes and live a life of fulfillment. Our conversation doesn’t end there. We examine the challenge of aligning our efforts with our values, particularly for those with ambition and drive. Here we discuss the idea of wise effort, a guide for channeling our energy effectively. Learn about the importance of setting boundaries in relationships, embracing honest communication, and remaining steadfast in our values. This episode promises to be a compass guiding you towards a life that’s healthier, more productive, and ultimately, more fulfilled. Don’t miss this opportunity to turn your listening time into a masterclass on personal growth! Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Dr. Diana HillDiana Hill, PhD is a clinical psychologist and co-author of ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, the ACT Daily Card Deck, and the upcoming book The Self-Compassion Daily Journal (May 2024). A leader in the practical application of acceptance and commitment therapy, Dr. Hill trains mental health professionals in ACT, hosts the podcast Your Life in Process, blogs for Psychology Today and Mindfil.org and teaches on Insight Timer Meditation. Dr. Hill regularly leads workshops and retreats at InsightLA, Blue Spirit Costa Rica, Mindful Heart Programs, Yoga Soup and PESI Conintuing Education. InstagramYouTubePodcastWebsiteYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Get ready for a transformative journey into the world of relationships with Dr. Stan Tatkin, a renowned expert in human behavior and relationships. In our discussion, we explore the critical role of attachment styles and their significant influence on relationships. We delve into the challenges commonly faced in relationships, focusing on how stress-induced reactions, rather than the issues themselves, escalate conflicts.Our conversation with Dr. Tatkin also covers the complex dynamics of differing relationship structures, examining the principles of honesty and mutual agreement essential for relationship success. We discuss the biological aspects of attachment and how they can be misconstrued as love, as well as the impact of children on a relationship.Further, Dr. Tatkin sheds light on the "fish bowl effect" and its effect on relationships, revealing how our childhood experiences shape our attachment styles and influence our behavior as adults. We critically analyze the behaviors of people who tend to either cling or distance themselves in relationships, emphasizing the importance of self-reflection and resilience in developing secure, healthy relationships.In a vital part of our discussion, Dr. Tatkin introduces the concept of secure functioning in relationships. This involves establishing social contracts and agreements to reduce stress and foster harmony and safety between spouses. We delve into the significance of shared principles, mutual respect, joint decision-making, and embracing each other's differences. This enlightening conversation offers valuable insights and practical advice for anyone seeking to understand their attachment style and build stronger, more fulfilling relationships. Join us for these invaluable insights from Dr. Tatkin, and don't miss the chance to enhance your understanding and connection in your relationship. Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Dr. Stan TatkinDr. Tatkin is an expert on human behavior and relationships and can speak on all topics related to relationships, dating, marriage, love, intimacy, and mental well-being. He speaks and teaches around the world on how to understand, create, and support secure-functioning relationships, along with authoring six bestselling books, and training thousands of therapists around the world.Dr. Tatkin's TEDx TalkGet Dr. Tatkin's book!The PACT InstituteYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Do you ever feel like you're blind to your own actions? Or maybe you're caught in a pattern of self-blame and denial in your relationships. I had the privilege of sitting down with Dr. Jane Greer, renowned author of "Am I Lying to Myself? How to Overcome Denial and See the Truth," to discuss these very issues. Together, we shed light on denial as a defense mechanism, how it can distort our reality and ultimately lead to betrayal in relationships. Dr. Greer's expertise helped us explore the intricate dynamics of setting boundaries, dealing with demanders, and navigating the challenging path of overcoming betrayal.We offered insights on navigating these difficult issues and moving towards a healing path. So, take a seat, open your mind, and join us on this journey of overcoming denial and betrayal in relationships. Let's dive in!Dr. Jane Greer's bio:"I am a Marriage and Family Therapist, Psychotherapist, Author, and Radio Host of the Doctor On Call Show at healthylife.net featuring Shrink Wrap, Pop Psych, and Let’s Talk Sex: conversations about love, work and life. My Shrink Wrap brand focuses on the trials and triumphs of relationships, with a spotlight on what we can learn from the celebrities.I have been a prominent national authority appearing on numerous television shows including Oprah, The Today Show, The Early Show, CBS News, Dateline, The View, Good Day New York, CNN News, Anderson Cooper 360, and Fox News.  I have contributed to newspapers and magazines such as The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, USA Today, The Chicago Tribune, and I have been featured in People, US Weekly, In Touch, Cosmopolitan, Self, and Life & Style.I was a contributing editor writing the  "Let's Talk Sex Column" for Redbook Magazine and am a blogger for Psychologytoday.com and Brides.com.My newest book, “AM I LYING TO MYSELF? How To Overcome Denial and See The Truth” is now available."LINKS:FacebookInstagramWebsiteYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Ever wondered how to turn a heated argument into a productive discussion? This episode promises to decode the art of communication with our special guest, Jefferson Fisher, a lawyer, acclaimed for his practical advice on effective communication. From his journey transitioning from law to social media, we uncover the power of dialogue, insightful phrases, and strategies to navigate conversations with not just colleagues, but also children and spouses. Dive into the world of conflict management, guided by the experiences of our guest, raised amidst a family of attorneys. Discover how a calm demeanor and a lower voice can de-escalate tense situations. The emphasis here is on how communication positively impacts relationships and conflict resolution. As we shift gears, we plunge into the realms of AI, the responsibility of voicing opinions in the social media space, and the art of parenting with effective communication principles. Each chapter of this conversation is a treasure trove of communication wisdom, from understanding others' perspectives to setting clear goals and boundaries. The episode culminates with three key takeaways for having productive arguments and conversations, and Jefferson Fisher's enlightening inputs on these strategies. This episode isn't just a podcast, it's a masterclass in communication. So, lend us your ears, take notes, and transform your conversations. Remember to share this episode and leave a review to help us grow. Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Jefferson FisherJefferson's mission is to revolutionize the legal landscape by creating a transparent and technologically advanced law firm that prioritizes client advocacy. With an unwavering commitment to client-centered approaches, he emphasizes the value of teaching clients to argue less and communicate more effectively.Today, we'll explore Jefferson's insights on teaching clients to engage in productive conversations, especially with loved ones. We'll also delve into the profound impact of finding one's purpose, drawing from Jefferson's own journey. Join us as we uncover the secrets to better communication, personal growth, and purpose-driven living.Website: https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Do you ever wonder how much our mindset influences our health goals? We’ve been doing some thinking about it too, and today, we bring you an enlightening chat with Nate Palmer, a renowned coach, best-selling author, and speaker. Sharing his remarkable journey from overcoming childhood trauma to becoming an authority in the health and wellness world, Nate highlights the transformative power of shifting from a fear-based mentality to a positive-based one. We promise you a deep dive into the world of goal setting and language's powerful role in our approach to achieving these goals. Nate shares golden nuggets from his book, "The Million Dollar Body Method," and gives us a peek into the seven daily investments pivotal in reaching your health goals. But that's not all, we also have a candid conversation about nutrition, the pros and cons of intermittent fasting, and the significance of a high-protein, fat breakfast to maintain steady blood sugar levels throughout the day.Taking it a step further, Nate guides us on understanding our body's energy levels and how to optimize nutrition around glycogen for sustained energy. We also unravel the enigma of parasympathetic and sympathetic nervous system dominance and how it impacts our energy level and performance. Listen closely as we touch upon the importance of movement and finding the right balance of calories. To top it all, we reveal the benefits of a simple 90-second morning routine, the power of fasting for 24 hours, and the transformative power of positive self-talk. Remember, Nate is giving away a free copy of his book — you don't want to miss out on this offer!Get Nate's book! Click hereToday's Guest: Nate PalmerNate helps entrepreneurs and busy parents get into the best shape of their lives using simple training & nutrition frameworks and without tracking a single calorie.Being in amazing shape gives a massive advantage in business, focus, and family time, and that’s why Nate is so passionate about helping leaders maximize their impact and legacy using fitness and nutrition as force multipliers for their personal mission. He also happens to be a dad, husband, the author of bestseller The Million Dollar Body Method,  and he’s been told that he makes a mean taco. Find out how to get back in the best shape of your life here:. http://milliondollarbodymethod.comYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Ready to power up your waking hours? I've got you covered. This episode is an exploration of morning routines and their transformative effect on productivity and creativity. I'll share my personal journey and how this simple yet powerful habit has drastically reduced stress levels. I'll guide you on how to carve out a routine that fits your lifestyle, emphasizing the need to pre-decide morning activities. Plus, discover the profound benefits of keystone habits and why hitting the pause button on email, Instagram, and the news first thing in the morning can be a game-changer.Stepping into the spiritual realm, I discuss the invaluable practice of decision-making in advance and adherence to it. I'll touch upon how it can skyrocket your success rate. Drawing inspiration from the tale of King David, I underline the perils of depending too heavily on personal strength and neglecting faith. Trust me, this can be a real eye-opener!Transitioning into the calming world of meditation and mindfulness, I get to grips with how a mere five minutes of 'me' time can reset your amygdala and enhance resilience. Picture the tranquility of a serene place, focus on your breath, and let the magic happen. Learn how the four-by-four breathing technique and harnessing your five senses can ramp up your mindfulness experience. Get ready to start your day from a place of presence, gratitude, self-awareness by blending gratitude with meditation. Give this episode a listen, and I promise you'll welcome your mornings like never before! Don't forget to spread the word and leave us a review! Let's dive in!Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a comment!

Wondering how to break free from your financial struggles and take control of your money? Join me as I sit down with Dan Ockey, co-founder of Centsei, a financial coaching company that helps people escape bad money habits and build wealth. In our candid conversation, we draw from his personal journey from a debt-ridden past to financial freedom, revealing strategies that could help you face your own financial challenges no matter your current situation.From discussing the financial challenges faced by different types of individuals and couples, to unraveling the concept of free cash flow and its role in financial advancement, this episode is a treasure trove of wisdom. We also explore the power of identifying and questioning your money scripts, a crucial step in realigning your beliefs about money and self-worth. Whether you're a single parent striving for financial stability, a big earner struggling to save, or a couple aiming at joint financial goals, you'll gain valuable insights to fuel your journey towards financial freedom.But we don't stop at just discussing. Prepare to learn about practical tools like Mint.com that can give you a clear view of your spending habits, and how Dan's coaching service, Centsei, can help you make wiser money decisions. This episode isn't just about managing your money; it's about creating a healthy mindset and relationship with it. So, are you ready to reframe your financial narrative and set achievable financial goals? Tune in and start your journey towards financial freedom today! Let's dive in!Visit CentseiToday's Guest: Dan OckeyDan Ockey, the Co-Founder of Centsei, a financial coaching company. Dan and his wife, Kay, founded Centsei after facing their own personal finance struggles, which nearly led to the end of their marriage. They now lead a team of financial coaches and have helped over 1400 individuals and couples regain control of their finances and find financial peace.Dan and Kay live in Charlotte NC, with their 3 children, and spend as much time together outside as a family as possible.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Picture this: You're standing at the crossroads of your marriage, feeling all alone because your spouse seems uninterested in making things work. How do you navigate these turbulent times to rescue your marriage? It's a question many of us have had to grapple with. This week, on It Starts With Attraction, we delve into the misconceptions surrounding marriage counseling, emphasizing the importance of early intervention and looking beyond the symptoms of marital discord to address the root cause.Kimberly graciously shares her personal journey through a rough patch in her own marriage, offering invaluable advice based on her experience and professional expertise. Through the course of the episode, we unveil the first three steps to save a marriage - calming down, getting clarity, and stop pushes and start pulls. We also explore real-life scenarios where understanding the true source of conflicts not only improved the marriage but also drew the reluctant spouse closer. Kimberly's approach is practical and heartfelt, making this conversation a must-listen for anyone seeking guidance in keeping their marriage afloat.However, the journey of saving a marriage is not a solitary one. As a community, we share our struggles, our hopes, and our experiences, creating a space of shared understanding and support. We discover how to become the person that people want to be around, and the importance of commitment in making a marriage last. So join us, as we navigate the maze of marital discord, and come out stronger on the other side. Remember - you are not alone in this journey, and there's always hope.If you're looking for a chance to get Kimberly to speak on your stage or at your event, click here! Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Feeling drained? Let's break down the surprising factors behind chronic fatigue and share rejuvenating strategies to get your energy back on track. Picture this: You're in the best shape of your life, at the peak of your health and fitness, but suddenly, you're feeling perpetually exhausted. Sounds absurd, right? But that’s precisely the perplexing predicament I found myself in due to my obsessive workout routine, dietary habits, and the relentless pressures of daily living. This episode unfolds my personal journey of grappling with fatigue and the road to recovery. I share intimate details of how my own lifestyle led to chronic exhaustion and how I gradually overcame it.Imagine your body releasing a hormone, cortisol, each time you experience stress, getting you ready for a fight or flight response. Did you know that these stressors can be anything from being chased by a bear to stress about your next promotion? I found myself in a similar situation where my body was constantly in a state of stress, leading to several imbalances. So, I learned about chronic stress, its physical and psychological implications, and the critical role our adrenal glands play. We delve into the world of adrenal glands and hormones and how they control our stress response. I also share how lifestyle changes can help you manage these stressors better.And finally, we discuss how to tame the stress beast and make health our priority. From sharing useful tips to manage food cravings to the importance of proper rest, I spill it all. We also focus on relaxation techniques like meditation, deep breathing, and journaling that have personally helped me. But wait, there's more! We talk about the power of positive self-talk, affirmations, and reflection to maintain a positive mindset amidst stress. So, join me on this personal journey, as we learn, grow, and navigate this labyrinth called life, one step at a time.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Do you know what the 3 fruits of a healthy relationship are? Have you ever heard that your relationships can only be as healthy as you are as an individual? Hear renowned psychologists and authors Drs Les and Leslie Parrott speak about what people hunger for when seeking healthy relationships and where to start to engage in a healthy, long-term relationship.  According to Dr. Parrott, “If you try to build intimacy with another person before you’ve done the difficult work of getting whole or healthy on your own, all your relationships become an attempt to complete yourself and they will fall flat”.  Moreover, when you’re searching for a person to be in relationship with, “it’s not about finding the right person, it’s about becoming the right person”. Learn how to begin a new relationship with awareness of positive and negative self talk, as well as the 3 major areas of any relationship to consider on today’s episode! Today’s Guests - Drs. Les and Leslie ParrottLes and Leslie are a husband-and-wife team who not only share the same name, but the same passion for helping others build healthy relationships. Les is a professor of psychology at Northwest University and they are founders of the Center for Healthy Relationships on the campus of Olivet University. Their professional training – Leslie as a marriage and family therapist, and Les as a clinical psychologist – ensures a presentation that is grounded, insightful and cutting-edge. The Parrotts have been featured in USA Today and the New York Times. Their television appearances include CNN, The View, The O’Reilly Factor, The Today Show and Oprah.  As #1 New York Times best-selling authors, their books have sold over two million copies in more than two dozen languages.Please check out their latest work and take the free assessment for the health of your self-talk (and relationships) by visiting HealthyMeHealthyUs.com.Website: LesandLeslie.com; HealthyMeHealthyUs.comBook: Healthy Me, Healthy UsYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

When was the last time you really paid attention to your body language? Chandra Jarrett, a seasoned executive coach, and former engineer, opens our eyes to the silent yet powerful messages we send through our gestures and postures. She challenges us to examine our daily interactions, urging us to set personal standards that reflect our values and positively influence our surroundings. This conversation is an invitation to embark on a journey of self-leadership, in a world desperate for genuine, value-based leadership.Life will often hit us with unexpected blows, and Chandra is no stranger to these. She unearths her personal journey of learning forgiveness, a road that has led her to find peace with her past and grow from these experiences. Chandra's account of caring for her mother and dealing with hurtful workplace comments, coupled with her perspective on offering grace and not letting negativity define our relationships, is an inspiring narrative that prompts us to consider our own paths to forgiveness and growth.What could you accomplish if you harnessed your tendencies instead of fighting against them? Chandra, an introvert and perfectionist, shares her experience of turning these tendencies into strengths that shaped her reality positively. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing patterns, seeking insights from those around us, and the balance between humility and assertiveness. Listen as Chandra encourages us to take a closer look at ourselves, and turn the mirror inward for personal growth and self-reflection. Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Chandra JarrettChandra Jarrett is an executive coach and consultant with a broad base of experience in leadership development, training and business development. Prior to becoming a coach, she worked as an engineer in the automotive manufacturing industry for fifteen years. She also has over 20 years experience working in the not-for-profit sector. With an engineering mind and as a champion of people, Chandra assists her clients in discovering their leadership voice while unlocking untapped potential to achieve their desired goals. She understands that each individual and organization is unique. Clients can expect a supportive, creative approach coupled with just enough challenge to experience strategic, collaborative learning and liberation as a leader.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

What does it mean to balance identity and parenthood? As a parent, we often find ourselves struggling to keep our individuality while catering to the never-ending demands of our tiny humans. In this enlightening episode, my chat with Catherine O'Brien, founder of happywithbaby.com, and a licensed marriage and family therapist, leads us down a path where we examine this challenge and more.The journey of parenthood is a rollercoaster ride - it's exciting, it's exhausting, and it's definitely transformative. Catherine walks us through her own journey from a family of two to four, and how that affected their relationship. We discuss the importance of self-care, sleep deprivation, and dealing with the added stress that comes with parenthood. Catherine also lays bare the obstacles that often prevent modern parents from reaching out for help. We talk about the pressure of being present with our children all the time and how it can lead to feeling isolated. With Catherine's valuable insights, we explore how to articulate a call for help, deal with rejection, and most importantly, make time for self-care.In the absence of nearby family, building a supportive community becomes essential. Catherine shares practical advice on finding and accessing support systems, the benefits of joining support groups, and how our hobbies and interests can be a medium of connection. Wrapping up our discussion, we delve into how we can change our perception of ourselves as parents. It’s okay to ask for help. It's okay to not be perfect. Remember, taking care of yourself is the first step towards being the best parent you can be. Join us for a refreshing perspective on parenthood and self-care! Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Catherine O'BrienCatherine O'Brien, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and the founder of HappyWithBaby.com.Catherine's mission is to provide new parents with valuable advice and support, drawing from her own experiences as a parent. She understands the challenges that come with parenting, and her insights have been a source of guidance for many. Catherine lives in Sacramento, California, and enjoys paddle boarding and rowing with her husband and two children.Links:www.happywithbaby.comwww.facebook.com/happywithbabywww.instagram.com/happywithbabywww.twitter.com/happywithbabyhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/catherineobrien/Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Ever wondered about the science behind addiction and how our brains are wired to seek pleasure? We promise you're in for an enlightening journey as we navigate the complexities of dopamine and its role in addictive behaviors. Joining us is none other than Dr. Anna Lembke, a distinguished psychiatrist, Stanford professor, and author of the bestselling book 'Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence.' Together with Dr. Lembke, we unravel the modern epidemic of excess dopamine-driven behaviors, scrutinizing everything from substance addictions to the impact of digital media on our mental health. We then shift our lens towards the often misunderstood realm of sex addiction, which according to Dr. Lembke, is less about sex and more about maladaptive coping strategies. The power of dopamine fasting, the benefits of mindfulness meditation, and the significant steps towards recovery are all explored in-depth.Lastly, we consider the importance of nurturing healthy coping mechanisms in children, given the extraordinary plasticity of their brains. We emphasize the need to detox from dopamine-inducing activities and discuss the power of dopamine cravings, the role of religious and spiritual practices in detox, and strategies for overcoming harmful habits. This episode is a must-listen for those seeking to understand addiction better, find balance in the age of indulgence, and harness the power of dopamine to their advantage. Tune in if you're ready to embark on this eye-opening journey. Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Dr. Anna LembkeDr. Anna Lembke, is a distinguished psychiatrist and professor of psychiatry at Stanford University School of Medicine.Dr. Lembke is the Chief of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Dual Diagnosis Clinic and an esteemed clinician scholar with a wealth of experience in addiction-focused research and practice. She has been a trailblazer in the field, having published numerous papers and commentaries on addiction and mental health.Today, we'll be delving into her latest book, "Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence," which sheds light on the modern-day epidemic of excessive dopamine-driven behaviors and offers insights on how to find balance and well-being in the midst of indulgence.Links:WebsiteBook purchase Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Are you ready to shed old habits and transform into a more attractive version of yourself? Join me as we embark on a journey of personal growth, focusing on physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual aspects. We'll talk about the power of intentional planning and how it can lead us to the finish line of our goals. Forget wishful thinking, it's time to roll up your sleeves and dive into the trenches of transformation. Over the next 12 weeks, let's break down monumental ambitions into manageable daily actions and weekly habits. We'll tackle the importance of realistic goal-setting, especially in physical terms - because self-care isn't just a trend, it's a necessity. Discover the impact of keystone habits like sleep, nutrition and movement can have on your day-to-day decision making. We’ll also share insights on how to align your plans with your personality and the value of regular progress checks. So gear up and get ready to revolutionize your life.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Are you ready to unlock your brain's full potential? Join us as we explore the fascinating intersection of learning and cognitive psychology with Dr. Dan Willingham, a distinguished professor at the University of Virginia and author of 'Outsmart Your Brain.' Our conversation isn't only for academics - it's for anyone with a thirst for knowledge and an eagerness to become the best version of themselves.We discuss how to navigate the significance of mentors, learning technologies, and high-quality feedback in shaping our learning experiences. With Dr. Willingham's guidance, we explore how to modify our daily routines to maximize learning potential, and the importance of staying motivated and focused. But it's not all work, we also touch on the psychological impacts of procrastination, planning, and distractions, offering practical advice on managing anxiety triggers and breaking the procrastination cycle.As we wrap up, our focus shifts to personal development and growth. Dr. Willingham emphasizes the necessity of intentional growth, learning, and obtaining constructive feedback. For those eager to become their best selves, we offer a deep dive into the detrimental effects of multitasking on learning and memory. Tune in for an enlightening conversation that promises to revolutionize your learning habits and strategies. Don't miss this unique opportunity to rewire your brain for success. Let's dive in!http://www.danielwillingham.com/Dr. Willingham's Book Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Are your connections feeling shallow or uninspiring? On today's episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins talks about the power of emotional attunement and how it can transform your relationships. Dr. Higgins, renowned for her work in the field, shares the secrets of truly understanding and communicating our real feelings, taking us beyond just surface-level complaints. Embrace the opportunity to delve into her fascinating journey and valuable findings from her PhD research on couples' therapy.Step inside the world of attachment theory and secure functioning in relationships. Together, we decode the complexities of these constructs, concentrating on the two main insecure attachment patterns - anxious and avoidant. Through the lens of Susan Johnson's research, we illuminate how deep-seated attachment needs, longings, and fears often trigger conflicts in relationships. You'll learn the art of setting boundaries that protect, rather than jeopardize, the security of attachment, backed by the power of empathy, understanding, and collaboration.Finally, we offer a wellspring of guidance on enhancing emotional responsiveness and communication in relationships. You'll gain insights on how to navigate around the blocks to secure attachment, and how to respond to your partner in times of conflict. With advice on everything from delivering an authentic apology to cultivating empathy, we provide tools for you to navigate the intricate dynamics of adult relationships. Be ready to awaken a new understanding of your relationships, and journey towards deeper, more fulfilling connections. Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Dr. Jessica HigginsDr. Jessica Higgins holds two graduate degrees in psychology, two coaching certifications, and over 20 years of experience helping clients achieve successful results. As the host of the Empowered Relationship Podcast, she helps people navigate the terrain of long-lasting intimacy more skillfully and mindfully. Through her coaching and online course, clients transform pain into love and connection.Website: http://drjessicahiggins.com/Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Ever felt stuck in a toxic cycle of pursuit and withdrawal with your partner, leaving you feeling unheard, unwanted, or disconnected? This stirring conversation with esteemed sex therapist and licensed marriage & family therapist, Dr Laurie Watson will offer a refreshing perspective and actionable advice to help you navigate these rough patches. We unpack this complex dynamic that many relationships fall prey to, and discuss how it impacts both emotional and sexual connection. We uncover how this pattern, often present in both romantic and sexual relationships, can lead to feelings of embarrassment, vulnerability, and shame. Our exploration into this cycle illuminates how it can affect women desiring more emotional connection while their partner tends to withdraw, leading to a disconnect that often seeps into their sexual relationship. We also shed light on the triggers that initiate this cycle and the profound impact it has on couples, making it difficult to identify and break.However, it’s not all doom and gloom. Dr Laurie shares strategies to improve communication and connection, offering a beacon of hope. We look at how understanding our own survival mechanisms can affect our partners and potentially perpetuate the cycle. We also explore how to manage fears of sexual dysfunction and ways to foster flexibility in a sexual relationship. Finally, we emphasize the shared responsibility of both the pursuer and the withdrawer in breaking this cycle and fostering a healthier relationship. Trust us, you won't want to miss this enlightening conversation with Dr Laurie Watson. Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Dr. Laurie WatsonLaurie Watson, Phd, MA, LMFT, LCMHC, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist & Supervisor in Training, Co-Host of FOREPLAY Radio Couples & Sex Therapy Podcast, LMFT, Author, Director of Awakenings Counseling, Training in EFT - Emotionally Focused Therapy (Externship and Core Skills; Completing Supervision).She’s the co-host together with global leader in couple's therapy, George Faller, LMFT, of the popular podcast – FOREPLAY RADIO – Couples and Sex Therapy which is ranked in the top 10 sexuality podcasts in Sexuality. Laurie says, "Sex is one of the greatest adventures in a relationship. It makes us feel alive. It connects our minds, bodies and hearts. In fact, sexual and emotional intimacy are intertwined; we need both to be happy. With too little eroticism - our relationship is dull and with too little emotional connection - sex is mechanical. Most of us don’t know how to find this balance. And talking about our sexual needs is so risky. We might cause a conflict; we might be judged; we might not even know what our needs are. Join us, as two expert therapists have a frank, fun and informative conversation to help you keep it hot! "Links:Book -  Wanting Sex Again (Berkley Imprints)Blog - Psychology Today Listen to the first episode with Dr. Laurie Watson Here!AppleSpotifyYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website:

Imagine shaping your future with better decision-making today. What would that look like? This captivating episode features Dr. Hal Hershfield, a professor of marketing, behavioral decision making and psychology at UCLA's Anderson School of Management, who takes us on a journey into the psychology of long-term decision-making. We dive deep into the intriguing concept of our 'future self', investigating how our perceptions of ourselves in the future impact the choices we make, particularly in finance, health, and ethics.Navigating the road to our future selves can be a balancing act between present satisfaction and future aspirations. We explore this delicate equilibrium, discussing the role of personality in shaping these decisions and the potential for personal growth and change. Are you prepared to embrace change in your journey? We delve into the aspects that can be navigated, and those that require a more reactionary approach, offering an enlightening perspective on our future selves.Lastly, we decode the mystery of decision-making for our future selves. Drawing from Dr. Hershfield's fascinating research on how time influences our lives, we discuss practical techniques to embrace personal change and overcome obstacles. We talk about embracing the unknown, making plans for our future selves that we won't regret, and using a 'longevity toolkit' to frame decisions. This episode is an intriguing mix of thought-provoking ideas that you won't want to miss—an enlightening conversation that just might inspire you to think differently about your future self. Tune in and let's shape a better future, together!Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Has there ever been a person or circumstance in your life that you have had difficulty moving on from? Has there been someone who hurt you? Has something happened that you can't seem to move past no matter how much you want to? No matter how much you have tried? If you feel stuck, then this episode is for you. A few years ago I was able to speak with Al and Lisa Robertson about this very topic. We've known the Robertsons for a long time and recently my dad, Dr. Joe Beam, was on an episode of the Unashamed Podcast with Phil, Al, and Jase which you can watch here: https://bit.ly/3DNiFbOIn today's episode, I'm speaking with Al and Lisa, who are sharing their story of desperate forgiveness. You will hear about how they have used forgiveness to free them, heal them, and restore their marriage. Today’s Guests - Al and Lisa RobertsonAlan Robertson is the oldest son of the Duck Commander, Phil Robertson and his wife, Miss Kay and Lisa calls herself “the original Robertson daughter-in-law”.  They appeared on the family’s hit television show, Duck Dynasty on A&E, with the rest of the family where Al was known as the beardless brother. They pastored for 22+ years at the White’s Ferry Road Church in West Monroe, LA before returning to the family business, Duck Commander, to appear on the TV show and speak around the country. They partnered with Miss Kay and opened Miss Kay’s Sweets and Eats in West Monroe in 2016.Al and Lisa have written and co-written devotional books, books about the Robertson family and also their own story, A New Season. They partnered with Focus on the Family for their latest book, Desperate Forgiveness. Al also started a production company with his cousin, Zach Dasher that produces shows on BlazeTV.com, including Phil’s show, In the Woods With Phil. He is also the host of Phil’s Podcast, Unashamed with Phil Robertson, also starring his brother Jase, Alan and Lisa have been married for 35 years, have two married daughters, four granddaughters and two grandsons.  Their passion is spending time with their family, traveling together, writing books, doing marriage retreats, speaking for pro-life causes and working hard to help strengthen and save marriages by sharing what God has done in their own marriage through brokenness, renewal, hope and forgiveness. Book: Desperate ForgivenessYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a comment!

Welcome to another episode of It Starts with Attraction. Today, we have a truly inspiring guest, Leila Hormozi. If you haven't heard of her before, you're in for a treat. Leila is an incredible woman who, seven years ago, took a leap of faith and started her first business with no prior experience. Fast forward to today, and she has scaled not just one but eight-figure businesses, including well-known ventures like GymLaunch and Acquisition.com.But Leila's journey is not just about money and success. In this captivating conversation, we explore how she managed to stay grounded despite amassing a net worth of $100 million with her husband, Alex Hormozi. We delve into the question of tying self-worth to wealth and how she has navigated this aspect of her life with grace and humility.What's truly remarkable is that Leila never focuses on the monetary achievements in our discussion. She embodies the essence of success without ever boasting about her net worth. We discuss the danger of equating financial success with personal worth, acknowledging that everyone's journey and value are unique and independent of the numbers in their bank accounts.Throughout the episode, you'll get a glimpse of Leila's immense passion for people and her unyielding desire to make a meaningful impact on the world. Her drive and dedication will leave you inspired to chase your dreams, knowing that success is defined not just by numbers, but by the fulfillment of a higher mission.Join us in this thought-provoking and heartwarming conversation with Leila Hormozi, a true powerhouse of a woman, as we uncover the keys to finding purpose, fulfillment, and lasting impact beyond financial success. You won't want to miss this incredible episode. Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Leila HormoziOnly a short 7 years ago Leila started her first business on a whim with zero experience. Over the last 7 years she has started and scaled four 8 figure businesses, most known are Gym Launch and Acquisition.com. Leila and her husband then started Acquisition.com a holding company, which currently exceeds $200M/year in revenue across the companies. Leila is known for her expertise in scaling companies through creating rock solid culture, leadership, talent acquisition & proper operations.Links: https://www.acquisition.com/bio-leila-2Leila's Podcast on iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/build-with-leila-hormozi/id1663834553Leila's Podcast on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5LMPzKk2ylmz0nccR2HNK5Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

I recently shared a story on my Instagram that sparked a ton of questions and feedback. It got me thinking, why not explore this topic further in today's bite-sized episode of It Starts with Attraction? So, in this episode, I'll be delving into the intriguing realm of self-esteem – from the highs to the lows – giving you more insights than you probably bargained for! Although I'll do my best to fit it all into the next 15 minutes, be prepared to learn all about self-esteem. Let's dive in!Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

It seems like every week now there's a new weight loss social media trend. Whether it's completely cutting out a food category or taking medication not intended for weight loss, these trends usually tend to be unhealthy for you. We talk about that and so much more on today's episode. Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Cristina CastagniniFrom a young age, Cristina Castagnini knew that she wanted to help people. In high school, she landed a gig as a teen advice columnist after a family friend suggested that she apply for the position. This early experience helped her to realize that she had a talent for helping people with their problems. In college, she initially planned on going to medical school to become a psychiatrist, but after taking a number of psychology courses, she realized that her true passion was clinical psychology. She earned her BA in Psychology from the University of California Santa Cruz, her MA in Clinical Psychology from Pepperdine University, and her PhD in Counseling Psychology from the University of Southern California. After graduate school, she worked as a staff psychologist in the adult psychiatry department at Kaiser Permanente, where she was the lead specialist in eating disorders. In 2019, she left Kaiser to open her own private practice. In addition to her private practice, she has started a podcast for those struggling with disordered eating, eating disorders, body image issues, and weight management. She believes that getting information and awareness out there is key to helping people make positive changes in their lives.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Recently I asked the It Starts With Attraction podcast audience what were some topics that you would like for me to cover in upcoming episodes. Well today we are going to be covering one of those topics and that is how to work on your PIES, and more specifically, the things that I do to work on my PIES. Let's dive in!Click here to listen to my episode with Amanda Nighbert:https://www.buzzsprout.com/979168/11223323Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Today we are talking about a topic that's become very popular over the past several years on social media and in pop psychology. We are talking all about narcissism in today's episode, but specifically what the research says and how researchers interpret it. Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Dr. Virgil Zeigler-HillDr. Virgil Zeigler-Hill is a Distinguished Professor and the Director of Graduate Training in the Department of Psychology at Oakland University. He is a social-personality psychologist with primary research interests in three interrelated areas: (1) personality structures and processes (e.g., narcissism, psychopathy, spitefulness), (2) self-esteem, and (3) interpersonal relationships. He has published more than 250 journal articles, book chapters, and books. His work has been covered by various media outlets including The New York Times and National Public Radio.Links:Website: http://zeigler-hill.comYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

We spend a lot of time on this podcast talking about different ways to be healthy, what foods to eat, how to get the best sleep, how to make connections with people... but today I want to talk about something a little different. This subject has been on my heart this week, and I want to spend some time today talking about an important part of attraction. Let's take an in depth look at spiritual attraction.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Today's episode is exciting and jam packed with info. I talked with author and expert Karla McLaren about emotions, boundaries, trauma, how people respond to trauma, and so much more. You will gain an insight on how emotions relate to yourself and your relationships. Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Karla McLarenKarla McLaren. Karla is an acclaimed author and expert on emotions, renowned for her groundbreaking book, "The Language of Emotions: What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You." In this best-selling work, she offers valuable insights into understanding and working with our emotions in a healthy and empowering way. Karla, thank you so much for joining us today.Website https://karlamclaren.com/Online learning site: https://empathyacademy.org/Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Is life overwhelming you right now? Do you feel drained? Well, me too... And in today's episode I'm going to be giving to be giving you the motivation that I need to hear right now. This episode is going to be packed full of tips so that we can develop a better mindset together. Let's dive in!Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Self honesty and self deception are not terms that we may use in every day life, but they are things that we will encounter from a day to day basis, even when we don't realize it. In my conversation with Dr. Courtney Warren, we break down what self deception is, how to recognize it, and how to be honest to ourselves about things we might not want to be honest about. Let's dive in!Article Referenced:https://apple.news/AIOTHgQNqSUus596O7slOqQConnect with Dr. Warren:https://drcortney.com/https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/naked-truthhttps://www.tiktok.com/@drcortneywarren?lang=enhttps://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLQGXD7Ms5oR3GzsPZl3Tjl_9qj71MezHjToday's Guest: Dr. Courtney WarrenDr. Cortney S. Warren is a Board Certified Clinical Psychologist and AdjunctClinical Professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Health at the Kirk Kerkorian School of Medicine at University of Nevada, Las Vegas (UNLV). Cortney has won some of the most prestigious awards in her field, including the 2015Early Career Achievement Award from the American Psychological Association MinorityFellowship Program; the 2011 Theodore H. Blau Early Career Award for DistinguishedProfessional Contributions to Clinical Psychology; and the 2010 Samuel M. Turner Early Career Award for Distinguished Contributions to Diversity in Clinical Psychology.In addition to publishing in academic circles, Dr. Warren is passionate about bringingtheoretically grounded, empirically supported psychological research to the general public. Dr. Warren works as a research consultant, keynote speaker, and writes a blog for PsychologyToday. In her TEDx talk Honest Liars and its associated book Lies We Tell Ourselves: The Psychology of Self-Deception, Dr. Warren argues that self-deception is our biggest obstacle to personal growth. Her latest work is a self-help book that explores romantic love and breakups through an addictive lens called, Letting Go of Your Ex: CBT Skills to Heal the Pain of a Breakup and Overcome Love Addiction (2023). Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

I'm joined again this week with Jamie Gagnon. Jamie has her expertise and experience in working with kids and adolescents in cognitive behavioral therapies. We started in the first episode of this of this two part series last week as she covered what it looks like to use cognitive behavioral therapies and techniques in depression and in anxiety. This week, we cover trauma. Let's dive in!Today's Guest: Jamie GagnonJamie Gagnon is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in Washington State. She obtained her Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology from Northwest University in 2007. She worked as a Child, Adolescent and Family Therapist in a Community Mental Health Setting and then as a Clinical Supervisor for a school based mental health program. She is CBT+ (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) certified through Harborview Abuse and Trauma Center. She has also had training in Substance Use Disorders, Trauma, and DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy). Jamie is currently a Marriage Helper Certified Coach and Workshop Breakout Leader.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a comment!

If you've ever struggled with your thoughts and feeling like your thoughts aren't super helpful to helping you become the kind of person you want to be or achieve the things that you want to achieve, then you don't want to miss this episode.Today's Guest: Jamie GagnonJamie Gagnon is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in Washington State. She obtained her Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology from Northwest University in 2007. She worked as a Child, Adolescent and Family Therapist in a Community Mental Health Setting and then as a Clinical Supervisor for a school based mental health program. She is CBT+ (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) certified through Harborview Abuse and Trauma Center. She has also had training in Substance Use Disorders, Trauma, and DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy). Jamie is currently a Marriage Helper Certified Coach and Workshop Breakout Leader.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a comment!

Whether you realize it or not, there is a reason that you fall in love with someone. It doesn't have anything to do with stars aligning or reading your horoscope, but it has EVERYTHING to do with a process we like to call the LovePath™. In this episode, I explain what the LovePath™ is, why it's important, and how it ALL starts with attraction.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

In this episode of it starts with attraction, we are going to be talking about a topic that I covered the opposite side of in a previous episode. And in this episode, we're going to cover the other side of it. And that is body image. So recently I did an episode where I talked about my personal struggle with body image. And a little bit alluded to how body image is something that many women struggle with. But in that episode, I also talked very vaguely about the fact that my husband has also recently been through a journey where he has changed the way that he views his body as well. And so in this episode, I wanted us to dive a little bit deeper into talking with my husband about his experience of how he took what he used to be looking at when he was looking at his body and the things that he would look out at to kind of see where his quote unquote worth was coming from. Through his journey that he's been through, and where he is now. Let's dive into today's episode.Rock House Counseling Center: https://www.rockhousecenter.com/#Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Does the number on the scale actually mean as much as we sometimes make it out to be? In all reality, no, and when we focus too much on the number itself, it can actually lead to some really unhealthy behaviors. In this episode, I am going to walk you through some more important things to focus on other than the number on the scale and how it can lead to a healthier image of yourself.Click here to watch listen to episode 117, Why Dieting Almost Always Fails with Amanda Nighberthttps://www.buzzsprout.com/979168/11223323Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Have you ever been in a conversation where you find yourself becoming more and more frustrated?There are a lot of conversations, or talking back and forth to each other, going on in the world right now. A lot of people are talking and responding, but is a conversation actually happening? This communication is ultimately leading to confusion, anger, and division in relationships-- even relationships we hold nearest and dearest.In today's episode, find out how to change the conversation to be meaningful. Learn how to talk so that others understand you and to listen so that others feel heard. After listening to this podcast, you will understand how to have a conversation that brings confidence, connection, and compassion.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

On today's episode, we're going to be talking about stress reduction techniques. I'm going to share with you the specific things that I've been doing over the past year that I believe has made a big difference in managing my own stress levels. I will talk with you about how I found out what my stress levels really were in my body, things that I've done to decrease those stress levels, evidence based techniques and tools is what I will be talking about. But specifically, I will be sharing the anecdotal data from my own experience with what it was like to implement these and how it has subjectively impacted me and my stress levels. I hope that you get some takeaways from this as well as things that you can do and implement in your own life that will help decrease your stress levels as well. Let's dive into today's episode.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

What do you do when your self worth is completely tied into what you do or how you perform? If you're struggling with this, then today's episode will hopefully be helpful and cathartic for you. Because you're in good company, I'm going to share with you a recent experience that I had with a very frustrating situation that actually led me to really question my worth my, my identity, and a lot of things, I'm gonna be pretty open and candid with you, hopefully, it'll bless you, hopefully, you'll find some hope, in your situation, based on some things that I learned from mine.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

In this episode, Dallas shares his personal experiences with success and the expectations that come with it. He talks about the difference between expectations and expectations of success, the duality between multiplication and multiplication, and the importance of focusing on the work at hand. Dallas emphasizes the support of loved ones during times of stress and pressure and the satisfaction he gets from doing what he loves. He reflects on personal growth and the challenges of portraying the supernatural. Finally, Dallas encourages viewers to reflect on their own passions and how they can use them to make a positive impact on the world. Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more content like this!WATCH SEASON 3 OF THE CHOSEN HERE: https://watch.thechosen.tv/Today's Guest: Dallas JenkinsDallas Jenkins is the son of celebrated Left Behind author Jerry Jenkins and is the creator, producer, director and writer of the international hit series The Chosen. He launched his career producing the independent feature HOMETOWN LEGEND at the age of 25 and shepherded it to distribution by Warner Brothers. In the nearly 20 years since then, he has directed and produced over a dozen feature and short films for companies such as Universal, Lionsgate, Pureflix, Hallmark Channel and Amazon.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Join Sonia, a certified coach, as she shares her journey to becoming a coach and her insights on managing the weight of other's burdens. In this episode, you'll learn about the process of falling in love, what God wants you to do about your marriage, and how to reframe questions and answers. Sonia also talks about the hardest part of being a coach, the common thread in goals, and how to identify and manage your emotional state. She also shares her tips on dealing with a funk with grace and why longevity is more important than comparing yourself to others.Today's Guest: Sonia ThalmanOur guest, Sonia, has an incredible story of personal growth and overcoming challenges in her marriage. She shares her journey of struggling with an emotional affair, depression, and wanting out of her marriage, but ultimately finding the strength and resources to reconcile and build a stronger relationship with her husband. Sonia is not only a resource for those struggling in their marriage, but also for individuals looking to improve their physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual well-being. She provides a holistic approach to personal growth, guiding individuals to fight for the person they were created to be while also working on their relationships.Book her as a coach here: http://bit.ly/3FFiVe2Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: https://kimberlybeamholmes.com/Thanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes

Do you struggle with emotional eating? You're not alone. In this episode, we dive deep into the personality types that struggle the most with disordered eating and how to work with emotional eating. We also explore the difference between binge eating and compulsive eating and how shame plays into binge eating.Our guest expert shares the four energies of emotional eating and how Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) can help break the cycle. Learn how long it typically takes to work with clients and the definition of trigger hunger.Most importantly, we discuss the importance of forgiving yourself quickly and how to break the cycle of shame around food. Whether you're looking for ways to manage your own emotional eating or to help others, this episode is a must-listen. Join us and let's start breaking the cycle together.Today's Guest: Emma MurphyEmma is a highly experienced Eating Disorders Specialist who has spent over 11 years working in private practice in Dublin and Cork. She has a great deal of experience working with both individuals and groups dealing with various forms of disordered eating. Additionally, Emma has expertise in brain injury rehabilitation and brings her knowledge of neuroscience to her work and training programs.Emma is an internationally recognized expert in disordered eating, and she has spoken at numerous conferences and summits on this topic. She is a specialist trainer recognized by the Irish Association of Counselors and Psychotherapists and was recently accredited as a Global Thought Leader in Trauma Informed Healthcare by the All Ireland Business Foundation. One of the key areas Emma focuses on is Binge Eating Disorder (BED), one of the most prevalent but least well-recognized eating disorders. Emma's mission is to raise awareness of the spectrum of emotional eating and BED among professionals and the public to help people access the specialist support they need to overcome this challenging issue.Links : https://eatingfreely.com/Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Welcome to this episode of It Starts With Attraction where we’ll be discussing the process of picking up the pieces after a divorce. Our guest, Julie Beckerman, will share her personal journey through the pain and struggles of divorce and how she found the courage to take matters into her own hands.We’ll dive deep into the impact of divorce on children, specifically her daughter, and how she navigated the challenging terrain of setting boundaries and co-parenting. Our guest will offer valuable insights into the biggest pain points that people have during and after a divorce and share tools for setting boundaries and creating a support system to help you through the tough times.We’ll explore the nuances of co-parenting and when it’s the right time to discuss it. Our guest will share her experiences with navigating this process and offer advice on how to make it as smooth as possible.We’ll also discuss the importance of putting children first during a divorce and how to make sure their needs are being met. Our guest will share her thoughts on what parents should and shouldn't do to ensure their children's well-being.If you or someone you know is going through a divorce, this episode is a must-listen. Our guest’s story is a powerful reminder that no matter how hard things get, there is always hope for a better tomorrow. So tune in, take notes, and learn from our Julie's experiences on how to pick up the pieces and move forward after a divorce.Today’s Speaker: Julie Beckerman, High Conflict Relationship CoachDivorce isn’t easy, hers was certainly no exception. In 2014, after 10 years of marriage, with the decision to get divorced, she began the most difficult, scary, confusing, angering, and liberating journeys of her  life:She navigated the waters of co-parenting, being a stay-at-home-mom, changing friendships, lawyers and courtrooms, living in the same house with her ex, relationships with ex-in-laws, dating, her ex getting remarried, going back to work, moving to a new home, new school for her daughter, new job, starting a new career, a new life…With the help of a solid support system, she began to see this as not just a challenge to get through, which it certainly was, but also an opportunity that had only just begun.She’s a Certified Professional Coach from the Institute of Professional Excellence in Coaching, as well as a certified career counselor from New York University.She has experience and training in Dialectic Behavior Therapy, Effective Communication, and Mindfulness techniques with a background working in business and Human Resources.She has experience navigating the transitions of divorce and dealing with the loss of a loved one, addiction, and health & fitness.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Take the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesFor more information about PIES, visit www.kimberlybeamholmes.com

When you get married, all of your attention is on your spouse. Then, once you have kids, all of that attention goes to your children. Often times this leads to a loss of intimacy with your spouse, but in this episode, we talk about how to keep that from happening as well as bringing intimacy back into the marriage.Today's Guest: Heather MacFaydenHeather MacFadyen wrote online before Facebook existed. After years of blog entries, in 2013 she launched a trailblazing podcast called God Centered Mom. In 2018, the show rebranded to the Don’t Mom Alone podcast. With over eighteen million downloads, Heather’s weekly interviews have been listened to at least once in every country on the planet. When she’s not recording conversations in her messy closet, she’s driving in Dallas traffic, feeding four growing boy-men, or walking around the “hood” with her entrepreneurial husband, Bruce. Her first book, Don’t Mom Alone was released nationwide October 12, 2021.Links: Website: https://dontmomalone.com/Book: Don’t mom Alone Amazon  Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Physical attraction is not just about working out and being healthy. Although that is a big part of it, one of the more underutilized aspects of physical attraction is the way that your physical appearance is perceived and how it evokes different emotions in those around you. That is what we talk about on today's episode with Toi Sweeney.Today's Guest: Toi SweeneyThe Well Dressed Brand is the brainchild of Founder and Chief Style Officer Toi Sweeney, an award-winning fashion stylist,  brand image strategist, TEDX speaker, entrepreneur,  host of The Well Dressed Brand TV Show ,  certified Fascination Advantage™ coach, and best-selling  author of Secrets of a Well Dressed Brand.From founding her own design firm, Her Majesty the Queen, to managing the image of almost 30 TV personalities at the leading home shopping network, she uses her background to tell original stories through fashion.Toi’s passion and talent has earned her a variety of honors and accomplishments. Presented with a prestigious Telly Award, as well as  The Icon Of The Year Award . Toi  has been  featured on over 30 podcasts, Other features include Fordbes.com, BBC News.com and Where Women Work magazine. Toi  lends her style and branding  expertise with an  innovative approach to high-performers as well as high-profile corporations. LinksWebsite : https://www.toisweeney.com/Amazon : https://www.amazon.com.mx/Secrets-Well-Dressed-Brand-Increasing/dp/B0B2TY6MCPYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

On this episode, Kimberly is joined by Dave Delaney to discuss some of best workplace communication strategies and how they can also help build better communication in your marriage.Today's Guest: Dave DelaneyDave Delaney is the founder of Futureforth.com. He is an author, corporate trainer, executive consultant, host of the Nice Podcast, and keynote speaker known as a communication connoisseur.Dave is the creator of the NICE Method. He helps companies reach their people through comprehensive communication workshops and presentations. Delaney works with brands like Google, FedEx, LinkedIn, and UPS.Delaney is an American Marketing Association award winner in Nashville. He has appeared in USA Today, Entrepreneur, Inc, Fortune, and Billboard Magazine. He has also been mentioned in multiple business communication books.His acclaimed book, New Business Networking, explores online and offline tools, tips, and techniques to grow and nurture your professional network for your business and career by communicating - the nice way. Dave was born and raised in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. He took a trip to Ireland and ended up living with Irish twins in Nashville, Tennessee. It’s a long story he will happily share. Links : Website DaveDelaneySpeaks.comnicemethod.us - Use code "ISWA"Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

On today's episode, Kimberly sits down with Dr. Wiebke Bleidorn to discuss what personality is, where they originate from, and "The Big Five." You don't want to miss this informative discussion.Today's Guest: Dr. Wiebke BleidornWiebke Bleidorn is a personality psychologist. She is a professor at the University of Zurich.[1] in the department of psychology.[2] She is the president of Association for Research in Personality (ARP) until 2023.[3] She received the American Psychological Association's Award for Distinguished Scientific Early Career Contributions to Psychology in 2019Links:Twitter: @WiebkeBleidornTAKE THE QUIZ!!Article on Changing Personalities Over Time.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

What do you do when you find yourself in the midst of regret, hurt, and fear? That's what we talk about on today's episode with Pastor Scott Sauls.Today's Guest: Pastor Scott SaulsScott Sauls is senior pastor of Christ Presbyterian Church in Nashville, Tennessee, and author of Jesus Outside the Lines, Befriend, From Weakness to Strength, Irresistible Faith, and A Gentle Answer. Scott also served at New York City's Redeemer Presbyterian Church as a lead and preaching pastor and planted two churches in the Midwest. His work has been featured in publications including Christianity Today, Relevant, Qideas, Propel Women, He Reads Truth, Leadership Magazine, The Gospel Coalition, Table Talk, and Made to Flourish. Links:Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/scott.sauls.7Twitter : https://twitter.com/scottsauls Instagram : @scottsaulsYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Learn how to set goals that will help you avoid going through the motions. This podcast will explore the importance of setting meaningful goals and how it can lead you to a more fulfilling life with our guest, Roald Gerber.Today's Guest: Roald GerberRoald comes from a background of coaching, counseling, physical training, and church planting. Both he and his wife had been divorced when they were younger and brought a lot of their past into their future. Throw in life struggles, kids, jobs that kept them busy, and loss, including the death of his wife’s brother, and they found themselves on a slippery slope. When they found Marriage Helper, Roald and his wife learned principles that changed their marriage and every other relationship around them. Roald hopes to bring you the same hope that he and his wife received, no matter what situation you find yourself in.Book a Marriage Helper coaching session with Roald!Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

What is the story you're telling yourself that isn't serving you? That's the question Kimberly challenges us this week as we talk about love addictions with Sherry Gaba.Today's Guest: Sherry GabaSherry Gaba, LCSW, is a licensed psychotherapist and life coach who helps people cope with codependency, love addiction, toxic relationships, and mental health issues. Sherry is a single mother and once her daughter was old enough, Sherry returned to school to receive her Master of Social Work from the University of Southern California. As a leading expert on addiction and recovery, Sherry’s TV appearances include: VH1’s Celebrity Rehab, CNN, Inside Edition, the Robert Irvine Show and Access Live, E! News, among others. She has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Women’s World, the LA Times, Thrive Global, the New York Post, Marriage.com, and Psychology Today. She has also guested many times on SiriusXM radio shows and now hosts her own podcast, The Love Fix.Sherry is the author of Love Smacked, in which Sherry addresses relationship addiction and codependency, and is a contributing writer to the book Chicken Soup for the Soul: Tough Times Tough People. Sherry maintains a private practice and is the founder of Wake-Up Recovery, an online group coaching program that applies the principles of positive psychology, law of attraction, and mindfulness for codependents, love addicts, and toxic relationships.  For more information, go to www.SherryGaba.com  Books :Love Smacked: How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love https://www.amazon.com/dp/1628657405?tag=psychologytod-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1Infinite Recovery: 6 Steps of Mindfulness, Positive Thinking, and the Law of Attraction to Break Free from Addiction https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07T4GLDFX?tag=psychologytod-20&linkCode=ogi&th=1&psc=1Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Have you ever related your actions to your worth? You might be combatting imposter syndrome, a term that has recently been found all over TikTok and the rest of the internet. Today we talk about what imposter syndrome is and how to truly combat your inner critic.Today's Guest: Dr. Tara HallidayDr. Tara Halliday is an expert on imposter Syndrome, who helps executives break through the core limiting belief that causes imposter syndrome. She has coached leaders across a range of different fields over 22 years and she is the author of the Amazon #1 best-selling book “Unmasking: The Coach's Guide To Imposter Syndrome.”Imposter Syndrome is an incredibly common phenomenon in high-pressure workplaces and among high-achievers. Tara shares her knowledge and experience on the topic: what the imposter syndrome is, how it starts, symptoms and the steps to overcome overwhelming feelings.Links: Amazon for her complete works.Website:  https://www.completesuccess.co.ukImposter syndrome quiz: https://www.completesuccess.co.uk/quizYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

If you don't manage your time... then your time will manage you.In today's episode we're talking all about routines. How do you create them? How do you sustain them? We will tell you how!Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

"You won't get to where you want to go if you stay where you are."Do you feel like you make resolutions each year but never achieve your goals?In today's episode, I share how you can begin to look forward make your plans and goals, make a change in your daily habits and daily schedule, and know exactly where to focus in order to grow and become the best you that you can be.Whether you are making goals for the next month, year, or decade, this implementable framework will provide a way for you to visualize your goals and create a path to get there.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

We've had an incredible year on It Starts With Attraction and we have loved every second of it! Because this year has flown by, we wanted to give you a recap of some of our favorite moments of the year.Thank you for coming on this journey with us in 2022, we can't wait for another year filled with great guests! Until then, stay strong. Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

On today's episode of It Starts With Attraction, Kimberly chats with Marriage Helper Certified Coach Priscilla Gray about how working on her PIES transformed her life and the people around her as well.Today's Guest: Priscilla GrayPriscilla’s husband found Marriage Helper after she confessed to him that she was in a limerent affair in 2017. After they attended the workshop, there wasn’t an immediate turnaround. They actually continued with a divorce. However, after putting Marriage Helper principles into action, they were drawn back together. They have been married since 2004, but now enjoy a more authentic, secure, and fun relationship than ever before. Priscilla will be able to help you find hope, no matter what situation you are in. She will guide you to positive thought processes and forming healthier habits so that you can be a better you. She says, “Even as the former wayward spouse, I know that the principles we teach will be life-changing!” Priscilla Gray is a follower of Jesus, wife of a minister, mother of 6, marriage coach and more! She is a recovered people pleaser that has personally had to discover and implement PIES and boundaries in her own life.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

It's important to know how to speak confidently, because when you speak confidently, people listen. That's what we talk about on today's episode of It Starts With Attraction with Karen Laos.Today's Guest: Karen LaosMany women miss opportunities because they don’t speak up. Karen Laos, Communication Expert and Confidence Cultivator, is on a mission to change that. She’s fiercely committed to eradicating self-doubt in 10 million women by giving them practical strategies to ask for what they want in the boardroom and beyond. Coached by her father, Karen first recognized the power of confident communication when she successfully negotiated her first flea market purchase at just six years old.  She now guides women to transform self-doubt into self-confidence resulting in more clients, job promotions, and negotiation wins.With 25 years serving as C-Suite advisor and commanding the most coveted stages around the world such as Google, Starbucks and NASA, Karen leads the frontline of best practices for creating results through confident communication. She guides corporations and individuals with a proven model and is known for her actionable tips and ability to build trust and credibility quickly. During her corporate career, she led a team of facilitators while traveling the globe consulting industry leaders and teams on the seemingly soft skills that ultimately impact the bottom line. Karen is the author of Trust Your Own Voice: Growing Your Influence Through Confident Communication, as well as the host of her highly ranked podcast Ignite Your Confidence, equipping women to stop holding back and start taking their seat at the table. Following her lifelong dream to live in Manhattan, she rented an apartment there for the month of her 50th birthday.Links :Website : https://karenlaos.com/Podcast: Ignite Your Confidence Books: Trust Your Own Voice: Growing Your Influence Through Confident Communication Kindle EditionFree gift : https://karenlaos.lpages.co/words-to-avoid/Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Did you know 771 million people around the world don't have access to clean drinking water? On today's episode, Kimberly sits down with CEO of Charity Water, Scott Harrison, to discuss his story, the goal of Charity Water, and how you can help make a difference.CLICK HERE TO DONATEToday's Guest: Scott Harrison, CEO of Charity WaterScott Harrison was born in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania and grew up in Hunterdon County, New Jersey. Harrison began working as a nightclub and party promoter in Manhattan. He spent the next 10 years organizing parties for the likes of MTV, VH1, Bacardi and Elle. In August 2004, after a mysterious illness, he declared spiritual, moral and emotional bankruptcy.  He quit his job and volunteered as a photojournalist for the Christian charity Mercy Ships, which operates a fleet of hospital ships offering free healthcare, being inspired by his father’s gift of A.W. Tozer’s book, “The Pursuit of God”.During his two years with Mercy Ships, Harrison was exposed to the conditions of the impoverished in Liberia, and he witnessed the effects of dirty water firsthand. As a response, Harrison founded Charity Water in 2006. The charity is a non profit organization that works to bring clean water to people in developing nations through its use of public donations, which directly fund water projects such as building wells and sanitation facilities.Website: https://www.charitywater.org/Book: Thirst Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

In this episode we talk with Dr. Rex Jung about the differences in creativity and intelligence and how you can work your brain to be more creative!Today's Guest: Dr. Rex JungRex Jung is an adjunct professor of psychology at the University of New Mexico, a research scientist at the Mind Research Network, and a practicing clinical neuropsychologist in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He studies both brain disease and what the brain does well—a field of research known as "positive neuroscience."His research is designed to relate behavioral measures, including intelligence, personality, and creativity, to brain function and structure in healthy, neurological, and psychiatric subjects. He has published research articles across a wide range of disciplines, including traumatic brain injury, lupus, schizophrenia, intelligence, and creativity.Rex was the President (2019-2021) of the International Society for Intelligence Research (ISIR).Visit Dr. Jung's website here: https://www.rexjung.com/Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Today's episode is all about how to live an alcohol free life and all of the benefits that come along with it!Today's Guest: Karolina RzadkowolskaKarolina Rzadkowolska is a certified alcohol-free life coach who helps intuitive women ditch alcohol and discover their greater purpose. She’s worked with thousands of clients through her online courses and coaching to change their drinking habit and unleash a new level of health, happiness, and potential to go after their biggest dreams. Her book Euphoric: Ditch Alcohol and Gain a Happier, More Confident You (HarperCollins) came out on bookshelves on January 4th. She’s the host of Euphoric the Podcast, founder of Euphoric AF, and her work has been featured in the Huffington Post, The Sunday Post, Popsugar, Real Simple, Elite Daily and multiple TV shows. Karolina’s passionate about helping you discover what really makes you happy outside of a beverage and designing a life you love. She would love to hear from you at www.euphoricaf.com.Book and Free Gift For ListenersEuphoric: Ditch Alcohol and Gain a Happier, More Confident Youwww.euphoricbook.com/giftFollow Karolina on Instagram!Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

What do you do when you say yes to God and then He stops speaking? In today's episode, Kimberly talks in depth about what it was like for her and her husband to go through the adoption process.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

What are the 6 components of Wisdom? Why is wisdom important for relationships? We answer all these and more on today's episode of It Starts With Attraction!Today's Guest: Dilip Jeste, M.D.Dilip V. Jeste, M.D. is Former Senior Associate Dean for Healthy Aging and Senior Care and Distinguished Professor of Psychiatry and Neurosciences at University of California San Diego. He obtained his medical education in Pune, and psychiatry training in Mumbai, India. In the US, he completed psychiatry residency at Cornell, and Neurology residency at George Washington University. He was a research fellow, and later, Chief of the Units on Movement Disorders and Dementias at the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) before joining UC San Diego where he retired in July 2022.He started a Geriatric Psychiatry program from scratch at UC San Diego; it became one of the largest Geriatric Psychiatry Divisions in the world. Dr. Jeste has been Principal Investigator on a number of research and training grants. His main areas of research include schizophrenia, neuropsychiatric interventions, and successful aging. He has published 14 books, including his most recent book entitled “Wiser”, over 750+ articles in peer-reviewed journals, and 160+ invited book chapters. He was listed in “The Best Doctors in America” and in the Institute of Scientific Information list of the “world's most cited authors” comprising fewer than 0.5% percent of all publishing researchers of the previous two decades. Dr. Jeste has received many awards including NIMH’s MERIT Award; Commendation for Dedicated Service from the Veterans Affairs; and awards from Society of Biological Psychiatry; APA; Institute of Living; American College of International Physicians; National Alliance on Mental Illness; National Alliance for Research in Schizophrenia and Affective Disorders; American College of Psychiatrists; International Psychogeriatric Association; Universities of Pennsylvania, Pittsburgh, Cincinnati, and Maryland, and Cornell. He has also received Honorary Fellowship, the highest honor it bestows, from UK’s Royal College of Psychiatrists; and Honorary Professorship from Universidad Peruana Cayetano Heredia, Lima, Peru.Links Mentioned:Book: amazon.com/Wiser-Scientific-Roots-Wisdom-Compassion/dp/1683644638Website: dilipjestemd.comWebsite: aging.ucsd.eduTedMed: tedmed.com/speakers/show?id=526374Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Sleep, spirituality, nutrition, breath-work and movement; These are the five pillars of self-care, but which one is the most important? Find out on today's episode of It Starts With Attraction!Today's Guest: Dr. Gregory Scott BrownDr. Gregory Scott Brown, M.D., is a board-certified psychiatrist, mental health writer, and author. He is an affiliate faculty member at the University of Texas Dell Medical School. He believes we can work together to fight mental health stigma by having open and honest conversations about mental health. Dr. Brown is an advocate for evidence-based integrative care that includes incorporating exercise, mindfulness, meditation, and nutrition with standard of care treatments for mental illness.Dr. Brown is a diplomate of the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology. He completed a fellowship in integrative medicine at the Academy of Integrative Health and Medicine, specialty training in general psychiatry at the University of Texas Dell Medical School, and received an M.D. from the McGovern Medical School in Houston. Dr. Brown is an alumnus of Rice University, where he received a bachelor's degree in anthropology, and Johns Hopkins University, where he completed a post-baccalaureate premedical program. Prior to his transition to medicine, Dr. Brown studied music at The Juilliard School in New York.During his time in residency, Dr. Brown was awarded a SAMHSA Minority Fellowship by the American Psychiatric Association (APA) and he was later appointment to and currently serves on the APA's Council on Communications .Dr. Brown believes in the therapeutic value of yoga, and he often writes and speaks about its benefits for mental health prevention and treatment. Dr. Brown resides in the Houston area with his wife and their rescue dog, Kai.Dr. Browns Website: gregoryscottbrown.comThe Self-Healing MindYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

In today's episode of It Starts With Attraction, we talk all about how important sexual mindfulness is, how to practice it, and how it can increase intimacy between you and your spouse.Today's Guest: Dr. Chelom LeavittDr. Chelom Eastwood Leavitt grew up in Yakima, Washington with seven sisters and one brother. She attended BYU as an undergraduate in Economics and then went to J. Reuben Clark Law School. One the first day of law school Chelom met David Leavitt and they married after their first year of law school. Chelom practiced family and estate law for years and then returned to get her Master’s degree in Marriage, Family, and Human Development. In 2010 Chelom was invited to be a Fulbright Fellow in Ukraine and teach in Schevshenko University in Kyiv. She also ran a research study in Ukraine on how religious and secular traditions were associated with couple and parent-child relationship well-being.Chelom Leavitt received her PhD from Penn State. She is an Assistant Professor at Brigham Young University. She studies healthy sexuality in committed relationships and focuses on how mindfulness during sex may be associated with positive outcomes for both men and women. Dr. Leavitt’s work on sexual mindfulness included an intervention to teach couples how to be mindful during sexual experiences. This research taps into how the sexual experience is full of meaning, emotions, as well as physical sensations.Additionally, Dr. Leavitt’s examines how women experience and contribute to sex differently than men–and that’s great for both women and men! Dr. Leavitt’s recent publications include cross-cultural work on sexual mindfulness, women’s sexual response cycles, and a study examining the role of orgasm in sexual and relational satisfaction for men and women.Chelom and David Leavitt have been married for 31 years and they have eight children ranging from 29 to 4 years old. Four of their eight children are married and these wonderful couples have brought Chelom and David four granddaughters.Link to Dr. Leavitt's website: chelomleavitt.comYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

"You are not powerless against anxiety. And you are not alone."This is what we talk about in today's episode of It Starts With Attraction with our guest Jon Seidl. For the last decade, Jonathon M. Seidl (Jon) has been telling stories. In fact he’s written over 6,000 of them, first after helping start a top-50 news site, then as the editor-in-chief of the popular non-profit I Am Second, and most recently as the head of a special digital media product for actor Kirk Cameron. He now runs his own digital media consulting and content creation firm called The Veritas Creative. Jon has seen how the power of storytelling can transform people, businesses, and culture, especially after sharing his own story of battling anxiety and OCD. His passion is to help people with mental health struggles, while also sharing what he’s learned telling stories for — and working with — some of media’s biggest names and organizations, including Glenn Beck, Kirk Cameron, and Chip and Joanna Gaines.His book on anxiety, “Finding Rest,” released on September 28, 2021 and instantly became a #1 Amazon bestseller, toping the charts in several categories like anxieties and phobias, mood disorders, and obsessive compulsive disorder. In fact, it shot up to become the #17 new release on all of Amazon and became a top 100 bestseller on all of Amazon as well.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmesBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Being in a waiting season can be difficult. But what if it’s not your turn for breakthrough?On today’s episode of It Starts With Attraction, Dr. Heather Thompson Day answers that question and explains the importance of knowing that even if your breakthrough doesn’t come soon, YOU are enough.GET DR. HEATHER THOMPSON DAY'S NEW BOOK!I'll See You Tomorrow - AVAILABLE NOW! Today's Guest: Dr. Heather Thompson DayDr. Heather Thompson Day is an interdenominational speaker, an ECPA bestseller, and has been a contributor for Religion News Service, Christianity Today, Newsweek and the Barna Group. She is also the host of Viral Jesus, a new podcast with Christianity Today that already has over 100k downloads. Heather is an Associate Professor of Communication at Andrews University. She is passionate about supporting women, and runs an online community called I’m That Wife which has over 260k followers. Heather’s writing has been featured on outlets like the Today Show, and the National Communication Association. She has been interviewed by BBC Radio Live and has been featured in an article by Forbes.She resides in Michigan, with her husband, Seth Day, and their three children, London, Hudson, and Sawyer Day.Resources Mentioned In This Episode:The Work Is The Platform - Viral Jesus PodcastI'll See You TomorrowIt's Not Your Turn Connect with Dr. Heather Thompson Day on Instagram Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.kimberlybeamholmes.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!

Why is spiritual attraction so important? Because it is the CORE of who we are. In this week's episode, Kimberly answers YOUR questions about all things spiritual attraction, and why working on yourself is so important.PIES stands for physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual attraction, and this week is the last week of the four week PIES webinar series.Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review, we love hearing from you!Click here to join the Your Best Self Collection!Click here to join The Foundations Course!

In this week's episode, Kimberly answers YOUR questions about all things emotional attraction, and why working on yourself is so important.PIES stands for physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual attraction, and this week is week two of the four week PIES webinar series.Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review, we love hearing from you!Click here to join the Your Best Self Collection!Click here to join The Foundations Course!

In this week's episode, Kimberly answers YOUR questions about setting goals, building habits, and intellectual attraction. PIES stands for physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual attraction, and this week is week two of the four week PIES webinar series.Be sure to subscribe to the podcast and leave a review, we love hearing from you!Click here to join the Your Best Self Collection!Click here to join The Foundations Course!

Have you ever heard us use the term "PIES?" PIES stands for physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual attraction, and in this week's episode, Kimberly goes in depth on what physical attraction is all about and even answers some of your questions!This episode is taken directly from a webinar series on the PIES, and for the next 4 weeks, Kimberly will be breaking down each area of attraction, as well as answering questions.Be sure to subscribe to the It Starts With Attraction podcast and leave a review!Click here to join the Your Best Self Collection!Visit marriagehelper.com to learn more about The Foundations Course

Do your diets and lifestyle choices almost always fail? Between work, relationships, and parenting, it becomes more difficult to reach your healthy eating goals.In today's episode of It Starts With Attraction, Amanda Nighbert joins Kimberly Beam Holmes to share how to achieve long-term success and increase your physical attraction with the 80/20 approach.Learn how to ditch the "all or nothing" mindset, maintain consistency, and feel better overall.Join the LEAN Program and use code "PIES" at checkout for $10 off!Visit Amanda's website for all the resources mentioned in this episode!Today's Speaker: Amanda Nighbert, R.D.Amanda Nighbert is a registered dietitian specializing in weight loss nutrition. Her passion and purpose is to empower others to break the all or nothing mindset and find sustainable change for long term weight loss success. She presented this powerful message on the Ted X stage March of 2021. With 20 years of knowledge and experience under her belt, she provides upper level nutrition education and support to everyone she works with. With her custom LEAN Program, range of coaching services, and multiple shop offerings, she has cultivated a brand that focuses on giving participants the leading tools and resources to help reach the best versions of themselves. Amanda’s goal is to provide the most current, cutting edge nutritional techniques that not only provide results but are also sustainable for life.  Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!Episode 117 - Why Dieting Almost Always Fails with Amanda Nighbert

"If eternal water is real, I want a keg of it."In today's episode of It Starts With Attraction, Kimberly Beam Holmes has an authentic conversation with Katie Bulmer about how we do not have to have everything together in order to approach Jesus and ask for him to meet our needs.Whether you are newly-married, parenting teens, or trying to become the best version of yourself, there are some key insights in this episode you do not want to miss.Today's Speaker: Katie BulmerKatie, her husband and two daughters live in Chattanooga, TN. Katie is the host of the Truth for Your Twenties Podcast with the mission behind everything she does to be who she needed when she was younger. She is an author and keynote speaker to over 60 colleges nationwide, TikTok creator, and a big fan of guacamole. Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!Episode 116 - Dating Culture, Cultivating Community, And Approaching Jesus with Katie Bulmer

Do you feel like your life is not what you want it to be?While we can't always change our circumstances, we CAN change the way we think about ourselves and the decisions we make moving forward.In today's episode of It Starts With Attraction, Amber Joy Daniel joins Kimberly Beam Holmes to discuss a four pillar framework to take the first steps to achieving your destiny.Today's Speaker: Amber Joy DanielAmber Joy Daniel is a Destiny Strategist. She is passionate about people seizing their destiny rather than accepting the fate life has handed to them. In 2020, she started on a journey to serve professionals who wanted more but felt stuck. These were achievers with accolades to their names but knew they weren’t living up to their fullest potential. They excelled in one or two areas but struggled in their personal lives, not knowing how to get from where they were to where they knew they were meant to be. Working on internal congruence, my clients flourished. They become entrepreneurs or got promoted with raises. They got healed. They got married. They began to lead in ways they never dared to before. She continues to hone this craft and serve these people. The mission is 1 million Kingdom homes by 2035. Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!Episode 115 - Destiny, Kingdom Assignments, And First Steps with Amber Joy Daniel

Becoming the best version of ourselves requires opening ourselves up to learn and understand different perspectives.In today's episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes sits down with Windy Shotlow Hatchell to unpack diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging & how it should impact our day to day lives.Tune in to gain insight about becoming a better listener, showing others they are valued, and cultivating a growth mindset.Today's Speaker: Windy Shotlow HatchellWindy Shotlow-Hatchell is a personal and executive coach along with her husband who founded Over The Top Coaching. Windy’s coaching focuses on mental transition, overcoming limiting beliefs and on helping individuals break through barriers to achieve more. Through facilitating and training along with her husband she has helped individuals and organizations gain clarity on what’s often right before them. Her coaching allows others to see and achieve what’s on the inside of them. The company also focuses on leadership development through executive coaching; team building workshops and motivational speaking.This CEFTP graduate has more than 15 years of experience working at Fortune 500 organizations in management and leadership roles. She’s responsible for providing customer white glove treatment to enhance their experience and is the liaison with key client contacts. She creates and designs training curriculum, proposals and marketing of events.Her captivating personality and authentic style gets rave reviews from clients and workshop participants. Windy enjoys spending time with her husband and 4 children. She runs in the Oakland hills and likes playing tennis and reading inspirational books. Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!Episode 114 - Understanding Different Perspectives with Windy Shotlow Hatchell

Every person longs for purpose.If you're seeking fulfillment and contentment in your life, this episode is for you.Tune in to learn how to set goals to move you forward towards your calling while enhancing your self-esteem and overall well-being.Stop letting fear tell you you're not capable. Let motivation set you on the path to follow your purpose.Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comGet the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up. Episode 113: Getting Motivated - Setting Goals and Purpose in Life with Kimberly Beam Holmes

Do you have trouble connecting with your children? Like every day is a battle you can’t win?In today’s episode of It Starts With Attraction, Kimberly speaks with Renaye Thornborrow to provide you with the best tips for developing connection and supporting your children through their own struggles.Learn how to train your mindset and increase your children’s self-esteem, confidence, and happiness.Today's Speaker: Renaye ThornborrowRenaye Thornborrow is leading a worldwide movement to bring life coaching, personal development, and mindset skills to children through her certified WISDOM Coaches and parent resources. Renaye is the founder and CEO of Adventures in Wisdom and author of The Adventures in Wisdom Life Coaching Program for Kids Curriculum™ - a powerful curriculum that uses coaching stories and activities to help children develop mindset skills for resilience, self-esteem, confidence, self-leadership, achievement, happiness and so much more. Renaye is a personal development expert, member of the International Coaches Federation, and former 3-year board member for the Association of Coach Training Organizations (ACTO). Renaye is a retired corporate marketing executive and holds a Bachelor of Science from Texas A&M University and an MBA from the University of Texas. She and her husband of 30 years are the proud parents of 20-year-old twins – a son and a daughter.adventuresinwisdom.com Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!Episode 112 - Powerful Ways To Connect With Your Children with Renaye Thornborrow

Do you feel like you're never good enough?Everywhere you look, you're  bombarded by messages that tell you, "If you only have this, then you'll be lovable" to the point where you begin question why you even try.If you've begun to resent physical attraction, this episode is for you.Tune in for my tips about ditching the comparison game, shifting your physical attraction motives, increasing your self-esteem, and knowing that you ARE enough.Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comGet the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up. Episode 111: The Spiritual Side Of Physical Attraction with Kimberly Beam Holmes

A huge part of becoming the most attractive you can be has to do with how you show up in your relationships. When life's obstacles get in the way, it gets challenging to be your best self.In this episode, Casey O'Roarty shares her tips for how to show up and be present for those who mean the most to you. If you're ready to learn how to be joyfully courageous through whatever you're facing, tune into today's episode.Today's Speaker: Casey O'RoartyCasey O’Roarty, Med, is a facilitator of personal growth and development.  Her work encourages parents to discover the purpose of their journey, while also providing them with tools and a shift of mindset that allows them to deepen their relationships with themselves and their families. As a Positive Discipline Trainer since 2007 and certified coach, Casey has led countless groups through workshops and classes that have left them feeling empowered and excited about parenting. She also offers an engaging podcast, Joyful Courage - which has been downloaded over a million times - live and online classes, and individual coaching at www.besproutable.com/teens. Her first book, Joyful Courage: Calming the Drama and Taking Control of YOUR Parenting Journey launched on May 20th, 2019. Casey lives in the Pacific Northwest with her greatest teachers – her husband, and two teenage kids.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!Episode 110 - How to Live Joyfully Courageous with Casey O'Roarty

Kimberly Beam Holmes walks you through her morning routine and discusses why it’s essential to plan your day in this episode of It Starts With Attraction. Failing to plan for your day allows for interruptions that control your day. When your day starts more frantic and hectic, it's harder to get it back on track throughout the rest of the day. Beginning your day with fulfilling activities specific to your needs like reading, Bible time, or working out allows you to start the day on track and energized. Having a morning routine is one less decision you have to make during the day because you already have it set. Read about Kimberly’s entire morning routine, along with some other routines from people at  Marriage Helper, and then make a list to determine what best fulfills you in the mornings.Follow Marriage Helper on Instagram!Marriage Helper on Instagram

David Mathews, the founder of Spark of Life, joins Kimberly Beam Holmes on this week’s episode of It Stars With Attraction. At Spark of Life, David helps people who have been through divorce deal with their grief. People have a sense of regret when they feel they could have done something different to save their marriage and tend to let self-doubt creep in. The other feeling they might have is resentment if they feel the situation was their spouse’s fault.If you go to marriagehelper.com/livingforward, you can get information about a free class where we dive into how you can start living forward after divorce. You’ll also find information there about the divorce recovery workshop that Marriage Helper is partnering with Spark of Life to offer. The first step to living forward is to start small and focus on the good things. Find one good thing that has happened in the past 24 hours that you’re thankful for, and email or text a friend to show your appreciation. This one step can begin to change your outlook and even change how your mind is wired.

Zach Brittle is a couples therapist from Seattle and the author of The Relationship Alphabet and The Marriage Therapy Journal. He joins Kimberly Beam Holmes to discuss his work, his training at the Gottman Institute, and how game theory works in a relationship. Gottman believes that every relationship that is struggling is struggling because of betrayal. And while affairs might be the obvious betrayal, every time you lie to your spouse or don’t do something you promised, it’s also a betrayal.They also discuss negative sentiment override, which happens when you no longer remember the positive parts of your relationship but always see the negative in everything. So how can you work to bring those feelings back to neutral before making them positive again? Find out these answers and more in this episode of It Starts With Attraction.Consider sharing this episode with a friend, leaving a review, and until next week, stay strong.Episode Mentions:https://zachbrittle.com/The Relationship AlphabetMarriage Therapy JournalMarriage Therapy Radio Podcast

Plenty of research talks about how a parent's interaction with their child will affect that child's future. It's called attachment theory, which boils down to the consistency and the quality of a parent's interaction with their child. The research shows there are four primary outcomes in attachment theory, but the only positive one is secure attachment. Secure attachment means that the child will believe that mom and dad will always be there when they need them.There are seven characteristics of strong families, the most important being quantity of time, not quality. The question is, what is most important to you? Financial stability is vital for any family, but is there a way to balance your work and family life? 

Yasmine Williams Woods became a mother at the age of 14. After being a single mother for years, it was a difficult adjustment to blend her life with another’s when she got married. Now a mother of four, she is on a mission to help women lead lives that prove that love conquers all. She talks about the importance of intentionally making time for God in her busy life. It’s not always feasible to start your day by spending time reading scripture but prioritize beginning your day with Him and worshiping when you can. How can we be doing more courageous acts of love for the people we have in our lives?How are you making it intentional to spend time with Jesus?What does it look like to live in total submission to God's way, His will, and His purpose for your life?Mentions:Yasmine's website: https://yasminewilliamswoods.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/yasminewilliamswoodsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/yasmine_williamswoods/Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@yasmine_williamswoods

How can you stay calm when everything around you honestly just sucks?Does it feel like all hell is breaking loose around you? In this episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes shares tips for how to stay calm during chaos.Until next week, stay strong.

Sex is one of the ways we stay attracted to each other in a marriage. Dr. Corey Allan found in a study that the higher your level of religious dogma, the less sexually satisfied you are because of the shame and guilt associated with it. This early discovery led him to be a voice that helps couples discuss and frame conversations around sex and marriage. He believes if you can't talk about what you want to do or about sex with the person you wish to have it with, you're not ready to have it yet.Dr. Allan joins Kimberly Beam Holmes to discuss how you can walk beside your child, helping them create their own informed decision about sex based on your family’s morality. They talk about the effects of porn on a relationship, the introduction of sex robots, and how social media and tech have led to a digitized life to protect oneself from rejection in this week’s episode of It Starts With Attraction.PIES Takeaways:Ask yourself "Would I want to have sex with me?"Great sex is about being your full self and staying yourself throughout.Communication is key!Mentions:Dr. Allan's site - https://smrnation.com/Naked Marriage book - https://amzn.to/3G9mpVmSubscribe to the Sexy Marriage Radio podcast: https://smrnation.com/subscribe/

Did you know that I was once ADDICTED to Crossfit?It's true. And I ran myself into the ground. I hurt myself physically, to the point that I still have lasting effects from that time in my life. There are great, impactful, and life-changing ways to work on your PIES but they also have to be mindful, careful, and life-giving ways. Today I'm offering some advice on some different ways you can work on your PIES without overdoing it or sacrificing the long-term goal of a lifetime of attractiveness for short-term gain.

This week I was joined by Christa Hardin. Christa is the host of the Enneagram + Marriage podcast, and I am so happy to talk to her when I have the chance.Christa gives us a brief rundown of each of the enneagram types and then we got into a discussion about how interactions play out with different groupings. It's SO fascinating to think about all the ways we interact with each other in these archetypal ways.It's important to remember that, while they aren't the final word, we can use tools like the enneagram to have a better understanding of ourselves and our spouse.PIES Takeaways:It's important to understand ourselvesEvery pairing has its strengthsYou are who you are today because someone has lifted you up and formed youEnneagram institute - https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/rheti?gclid=CjwKCAjw9-KTBhBcEiwAr19ig-K0GFTzPnET9G83GhFt28dy2Y7r3rySj8UnKTV7llOvOJZZ1CGnRhoCzBgQAvD_BwEHer website - https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/Truity Test: https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-testKatherine Fauvre Tests: https://www.katherinefauvre.com/Free Resources: https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/general-4

Ben Higgins, of The Bachelorette and The Bachelor fame, joins us on our 100th episode of It Starts With Attraction! Ben discusses why he joined the reality TV shows and how he was looking to shake up what he felt was a boring and uninteresting life. He talks about his battles with addiction, feeling lonely and unseen, and how difficult it is to stand for your values when questioned about why you believe them. Finally, Ben reminds us that we've all experienced pain and have a story worth sharing.What can you do to surround yourself with a community of people who will support and encourage you to do what you should do with your life?In what ways do you work on physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual attraction?When you have a belief and value that is different from the world, society, and the people you're with, are you going to stand firm on it?Mentions:Generous CoffeeBen's InstagramAlone in Plain Sight BookHope Still Wins PodcastDr. John Gottman Episode

Couples don't have great conversations about sex. We all know we want to do it but very few of us know how to talk about it. Adam and Karissa from the Young Married Couples podcast lets us know how to begin talking about it and some pitfalls we might see along the way.Website: www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.comSocial links:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYivgxbFI_VKkA4milNsr5A/featuredFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/dearyoungmarriedcoupleInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dearyoungmarriedcouple/?hl=enLink to Sexpectations card deck on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3MtcDiSFree PDF "10 Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life"www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/sexpectations

This week Kimberly chats with Laura Heck from Marriage Therapy Radio. Laura is a Gottman Certified therapist in Washington State. Of course, they talk about communication but also self-care, the top issues Laura sees as a marriage and family therapist, how to work on yourself, conflict...all the things!Laura sees a lot of couples living as "roommates" and having a lack of intimacy, and how to add more to your marriage. Intimacy fades with time because it's the assumption that you know your spouse already.They also talk about the Gottman 5-1 ratio. For every 1 negative thing, there should be 5 positive things to counteract them. Having emotional intelligence and understanding when your spouse took what you may have said or done negatively, and correcting it, is vital to a healthy marriage.Everyone has blind spots and Laura suggests asking the people closest to you that aren't your spouse to help you find them. And because you want to be your best self, be ready for the hard truths and tell them "thank you." when you're done.PIES TakeawaysBe an interesting person/work on your PIES - https://www.buzzsprout.com/979168/3468169There is always hope, even in difficult situationsWatch your body language and tone with your spouse - https://www.buzzsprout.com/979168/4938500

This week I sat down with my husband Rob to talk about spiritual attraction.We get into how we met, what attracted us to each other, and how to have discourse with friends and family that may not agree with you 100%. We believe people who model what they say and it's up to us to make sure that we're living in line with our beliefs and values.Don't weaponize your beliefs and valuesDon't judge othersLean into your curiosityAssess your own valuesFind people to hold you accountable

In today's episode of It Starts With Attraction, I'm just going to share some things from my life with you. What spiritual attraction means to me, how it has helped me, and continues to shape me into the person I'm becoming.Spiritual attraction, at its core, is all about living in line with the beliefs and value system that you have. We find it attractive when there are people who have strong beliefs and values and stand up for them. Spiritual attraction is important. I would say it's more important than physical attraction for a long-term relationship. And it's right up there with emotional attraction because it is the core of who we are — our spiritual attraction, beliefs, and values form our character, integrity, and purpose. Until next week, stay strong.

What does it mean to be on the same page spiritually as a couple? How can you work towards becoming and staying spiritually attracted to each other as you move through your marriage?For couples who share a christian faith, how can you work together to stay spiritually connected to each other and God?Even if you’re not a Christian, this episode is still valuable and has important truth that you can apply to your own life to see amazing change. Join Kimberly and Dr. Kimberling as they discuss spiritual attraction and specific ways you can use it to strengthen your marriage to make it the best it can be.Today’s Speaker: Dr. Kim KimberlingDr. Kim Kimberling is a Christian counselor that’s been working with couples for over 35 years. He holds a Ph.D. and a Doctor of Ministry in Christian Counseling. Dr. Kim is President and co-founder of Awesome Marriage. Awesome Marriage helps thousands of couples build an awesome marriage. Awesome Marriage WebsiteAwesome Marriage PodcastYour Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!What you’ll learn:What a spiritually healthy marriage looks likeHow prayer can impact your marriageWays to spiritually strengthen your relationshipHow to focus on your spiritual attraction in a chaotic worldEpisode 95 - 3 Ways to Grow Spiritually in Your Relationship with Dr. Kim Kimberling

Grief is defined as the conflicting feelings caused by the change or end of a pattern of behavior.  The past 2 years have left a lot of us in a state of languishing. We're stuck in a middle place between grief and normalcy. The pandemic in many ways remains a grief situation and we need to treat it as such. There are so many areas of grief that sometimes we don't label it grief. And we need to be aware of the myth of closure and ambiguous loss in times of change. Join Kimberly and David Mathews as they talk about how to work out the grief we all share and climb out of the pits most of us have been in.

Although we wish every marriage could be saved, we know that it's not the reality for some people. Divorce is hard and no one should go through it alone. Today's episode is with Julie Beckerman,  a High Conflict Relationship Coach. She chats about how hard divorce can be difficult, especially with children involved. Julie provides insight on how we can communicate better with our spouse when conflict is high and emotions are strong when going through a divorce.  Please share this episode with anyone struggling with communication with their ex-spouse or, anyone that has kids going through a difficult divorce. Today's Speaker: Julie Beckerman, High Conflict Relationship CoachDivorce isn’t easy, and mine was certainly no exception. In 2014, after 10 years of marriage, with the decision to get divorced, I began the most difficult, scary, confusing, angering, and liberating journeys of my life:I navigated the waters of co-parenting, being a stay-at-home-mom, changing friendships, lawyers and courtrooms, living in the same house with my ex, relationships with ex-in-laws, dating, my ex getting remarried, going back to work, moving to a new home, new school for my daughter, new job, starting a new career, a new life…With the help of a solid support system, I began to see this as not just a challenge to get through, which it certainly was, but also an opportunity that had only just begun.I’m a Certified Professional Coach from the Institute of Professional Excellence in Coaching, as well as a certified career counselor from New York University.I have experience and training in Dialectic Behavior Therapy, Effective Communication, and Mindfulness techniques with a background working in business and Human Resources.I have experience navigating the transitions of divorce and dealing with the loss of a loved one, addiction, and health & fitness.Julie's Website: https://aspiretogrowth.com/ Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!You’ll Learnhow to have a great co-parenting relationship how to evoke emotions within your kids and your ex to lean into curiosity with your kids that you need to speak positively about your ex-spouse when speaking to your kidsEpisode 93 - How To Coparent With Someone That Is Making You Crazy, with Julie Beckerman

Mindfulness is the ability to be fully present and aware of where you are and what you are doing. It's so easy to get distracted and overwhelmed with the chaos around us but practicing mindfulness may just be the hidden gem to happiness!In this podcast, you will learn the research behind mindfulness and gain an understanding of how mindfulness can benefit you in four key areas- Mind, Brain, Body, and Behaviors.Listen to today's episode to learn ways to apply mindfulness to your everyday life, start dealing with your emotions, be present, and disconnect from distractions.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!Mentioned: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/1533210108329862You’ll LearnWhat mindfulness isA quick mindfulness practice5 Ways to integrate mindfulness into your everyday lifeHow mindfulness affects your mind, body, brain, and behaviorsHow mindfulness helps with PIESEpisode 92 - Learn How to Cultivate A Mindfulness Practice in Your Life with Kimberly Beam Holmes

What does it mean to live a life of gratitude?  Gratitude is a state of being.  It isn't more money, fame, or success. It's not a perfect body, the best Instagram pictures, or the most followers on any social platform. It's none of the things that we go crazy trying to achieve on a day-to-day basis.  What really can make us happier in our lives, is how grateful we are for what we have. To bring it a little closer to home, it's how grateful you are in your life with the things that you have that can ultimately make you happier. Gratitude is one of the best things that people can begin to focus on in order to become unshackled from toxic emotions.In today's episode, we are going to talk about how to be grateful and express gratitude.Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!You'll LearnHow being grateful can make you more attractiveActivities to help you create an attitude of gratitudeHow to be joy-filled NOW, not later.Episode 91 - How To Rewire Your Brain Using Gratitude, with Kimberly Beam Holmes

Relationships are so important—especially the relationship we have with ourselves. In this episode, Kimberly speaks with Veronica Grant, a Love and Life Coach specializing in helping people do deep work to create deep love in relationships. Veronica shares her story of struggling with self-image and feeling like her worth was within other people rather than herself. We can all relate to this episode, especially in the current social-media-obsessed culture we live in. Veronica shares tips on showing up in relationships and ensuring you don't go backward with finding validation within your partner, spouse, or friends. If you lack confidence or struggle with self-worth, you are going to love this episode. Veronica dives in deeper to help you understand where certain feelings or thoughts are coming from and things you can do to uncover the emotions. Today's Speaker: Veronica Grant, Love and Life CoachVeronica is a Love + Life Coach, host of the popular Love Life Connection podcast, and author of the forthcoming book You Are Meant for Love. She helps successful women who feel like they have it all except love, find it.Veronica's work has been featured in O the Oprah Magazine, Bustle, Your Tango, and countless podcasts, including Let It Out and Mind Body Musings.As someone who struggled in love herself and was tired of unsolicited and usually patronizing dating advice (even if well-meaning), she created the resources she wished were available before she met her husband. Through her binge-worthy podcast, free challenges, and coaching, she's here to shake up how you find love, even in our swipe right, swipe left world.A few of her guilty pleasures include: psychoanalyzing TV + real-life famous couples, hiking with her husband and pup, and sushi everything.Find the book and assessment here: https://veronicagrant.com/Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!You'll Learnhow to have self-worth and feel validated by yourself and not otherswhat you need to do to feel loved, safe, and belonging how to treat yourself the way you want others to treat you Episode 90 - Feeling Whole, Valued, and Having Self-Worth with Veronica Grant

What is social media doing to our brains? It may be affecting your life more than you realize. In this episode, Kimberly talks with Chris Martin about social media, how it started, where it's going, and what you can expect about the Metaverse. Chris Martin is the author of Terms Of Service: The Real Cost of Social Media. What problem does Instagram, Facebook, TikTok solve in our lives? Chris shares how social media is affecting our brains and everyday life. You'll learn why social media is taking us further apart instead of closer together and why you might have an unhealthy relationship with the social internet. This episode is packed with a lot of information and one that you'll want to save and listen to again. So please share this episode with your family and friends and talk to your kids about it. Today's Speaker: Chris Martin, Author of Terms of Service: The Cost of Social Media Chris Martin is a content marketing editor at Moody Publishers and a social media, marketing, and communications consultant. He has led social media strategy at Lifeway Christian Resources and advised some of the foremost Christian leaders and authors on digital content strategy. He writes regularly at www.TermsOfService.social. Chris lives outside Nashville, TN, with his wife, Susie, their daughter, Magnolia, and their dog, Rizzo.Terms of Service BookFollow Chris on Twitter Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!You'll LearnLearn what role social media plays in your lifeLearn how social media affects you in ways you may not realizeHow to push back against the hold the internet has on your mind and your heartEpisode 89 - The Real Cost of Social Media with Chris Martin

Kimberly is joined by a very special guest, her husband, Rob! This is the second time Rob has joined the podcast so if you missed the first episode, make sure you go back and listen to the episode about Introverts vs. Extroverts. In this episode, they both discuss what intellectually attracted them to each other when they first met. You will hear Rob and Kimberly answer questions from the listeners about working on intellectual attraction with your spouse when you have no interest in the same hobbies or likes. This is a fun episode with lots of laughs and great perspectives from both spouses on being more intellectually attractive. Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentListen to the episode with Rob Holmes about Introverts vs. ExtrovertsThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!You'll Learnhow to become more intellectually attractive to your spousewhat you can do to have some common interestswhat you can do to gain self-confidence Episode 87 - Staying Attracted (Intellectually) To Each Other 

We are continuing with our PIES series, and this month we are talking all about Intellectual Attraction. In this episode, Kimberly shares what intellectual attraction is and provides ideas of what you can do to become more intellectually attractive. You are going to learn: - how to become a fascinating person- how to focus your curiosity on bettering yourself- why you should continue to be curious about your spouse and genuinely interested in the things that they enjoy - what kind of things you can do to help you learn and grow as a personPlease don't forget to rate the podcast and leave a review. Also, please share this with your friends! Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentListen to the episode with Dr. John Gottman Thanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!You'll Learnhow to become a fascinating personhow to focus your curiosity on bettering yourselfwhy you should continue to be curious about your spouse and genuinely interested in the things that they enjoyEpisode 87 - Becoming More Intellectually Attractive

*Note - this episode is all about sex so pop in your headphones especially if you have small children around.  In this final episode of our physical attraction series, we talk about sexual intimacy with your spouse and how to strengthen your relationship inside and outside the bedroom. Kimberly speaks with Victoria Sotelo, a marriage and family therapist specializing in sex therapy. Victoria talks about experiencing the senses to have pleasures and connecting with the essence of who you are. You will learn what you can do to shift the mindset and carve out a space for curiosity, newness, and intrigue to show up in your life in a place where you don't think it can exist. This is an important episode if you feel disconnected from your spouse and feel like you want to get that spark back. You'll want to take notes and save this episode for later. Today's Speaker: Victoria Sotelo, Marriage and Family TherapistVictoria Sotelo brings a heart of compassion and passionate energy for cultivating healthy Marriages and Sexual Intimacy to her clients. She practices from an integrative model, incorporating the Biological-Psychological-Social-& Spiritual aspects of her client’s lives. Her excellent listening skills and problem-solving methods, along with her clinical experience, position her as a therapist with a balanced approach.   Victoria has lectured to groups and professionals on ways to deepen sexual intimacy, and improve the quality of life, both in marriage, family, and personal growth potential.  Victoria has a private practice in both Midtown East & Inwood area, and she serves as a Board Member of the New York State Division for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT). Website:  https://www.sotelotherapy.com/ PIES Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!You'll Learnthe importance of giving your spouse verbal affirmationswhy you need to stay curious in your marriage and ask questionshow to approach your spouse to be more sexualEpisode 86 - Cultivating Healthy Marriages and Sexual Intimacy with Victoria Sotelo 

This episode is the third episode in our physical attraction series. It's an insightful and powerful show that you'll want to save and listen to again. You are going to learn about adverse childhood experiences, how you may have been affected before the age of 17, and how it relates to your health and physical well-being. Our guest today is Dani Williamson, a family nurse practitioner specializing in functional medicine. You are going to learn so much about childhood trauma, food sensitivity, and how the gut affects everything that is going on in your life. Share this episode with your family and friends and don't forget to take notes. Check the show notes at the bottom of this page for links to Dani's book as well as the ACE questionnaire.Today's Speaker: Dani Williamson, MSN, FNP Integrative Healthcare Nurse PractitionerA graduate of Vanderbilt University School of Nursing Nurse-Midwifery and Family Nurse Practitioner program. Dani incorporates the art of medicine by balancing traditional and integrative therapies. Dani encourages her patients to step out of the realm of “normal” and reach “optimal” health.Dani owns Integrative Family Medicine in Franklin, TN. She focuses on gut, thyroid (Hashimoto’s Thyroiditis is her passion), hormone, and adrenal health with her patients. Her approach embodies a physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual process to healing. She believes that God designed our bodies to heal themselves, we simply must give our bodies what they need. She teaches her patients that we are not designed to break down in our 40’s, 50’s, 60’s or even 70’s. She stresses the importance of eating real food, as well as cleaning up the environment around us one step at a time. She is a sought-after speaker at various conferences and workshops where she leads discussions on the gut, adrenal, thyroid, hormone, and brain health.Website: https://daniwilliamson.com/ Dani's Book: Wild & Well Dani’s Six Commonsense Steps to Radical HealingACE Questionnaire PIES Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!You'll Learnadverse childhood experienceshow your health is affected by your pasthow your past is affecting your gut health and so much more! Episode 85 - How Childhood Experiences Affect Your Health with Dani Williamson

This is part two of the sleep series in this month's topic of physical attraction. If you missed part one, go back and listen to last week's episode to catch the first six sleep tips. In part two, Kimberly shares the last four tips to help you get better sleep. If you are looking to feel rested, have better nighttime and morning routines, and feel better overall, you will want to listen to this episode and take notes. You will learn why sleep is so important and what you need to do to prepare your body for excellent rest. Please make sure to hit the share button, so your friends can start the new year off with great sleep too.Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!You'll Learnwhy you need to destress before going to bedhow to make your room dark for better sleepwhy you want to set the temperature for better sleepEpisode 84 - Physical Attraction: Top 10 Tips for Great Sleep (Part 2)

We're kicking off the new year with all things PIES. We'll be doing a PIES series in the next four months where we bring you topics that help you focus on physical, intellectual, and emotional attraction. In this first episode of 2022, we start with physical attraction and provide you with tips on why sleep is so important. This is a 2 part episode, so make sure you tune in for the remaining tips next week. You will learn why sleep is so important and things you can start implementing into your nightly routine to wake up refreshed and renewed. Grab a notepad and get ready to take notes. Please make sure to hit the share button, so your friends can start the new year off with great sleep too. Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect with me on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!You'll LearnWhy sleep is important and why you need to have a healthy routineThings you can start doing today to get better sleepWhat to cut out of your diet for better sleepEpisode 83 - Physical Attraction: Top 10 Tips for Great Sleep (Part 1)

In the last episode of 2021 and our personality series, Kimberly talks with Dr. Joe Beam about the DiSC profile. Dr. Beam explains each quadrant of DiSC and how you can use your profile to understand others better and have better relationships.You will learn the importance of understanding your spouse's DiSC personality so you can speak their language and vice versa. When you know about your spouse and know how they are wired, it helps make the marriage or relationship stronger.Dr. Beam says it doesn't mean you give up who you are. It just means if you want success in a relationship, whether it's romantic, parental work, anything, you learn how to speak people's language. Share this episode with your friends and family and stay tuned to what's coming for 2022! Today's Speaker: Dr. Joe Beam Dr. Beam is an internationally known and respected sexologist and authority on love, marriage, and sex. He received his Ph.D. from the University of Sydney. He is the founder and chair of Marriage Helper based in Tennessee, just south of Nashville.He has designed and developed courses, workshops, and seminars to help troubled marriages for over two decades. He has been seen on national media and spoken to countless couples through live seminars, dedicated radio programs, and books. Website: www.MarriageHelper.comYouTube: Marriage HelperPodcast: Marriage Helper LiveBooks: The Art of Falling in LoveYou'll LearnWhat the DiSC assessment is and how it is used at Marriage HelperAbout the four quadrants of the DiSC profile and how to read people. How to have better relationships using your DiSC and understanding others. Episode 82: Dr. Joe Beam, Ph.D. 

The Importance of Focusing on Your Strengths with Austin SuellentropThis week we are back with another exciting episode about personality styles. Today, Kimberly talks with Austin Suellentrop, CliftonStrengths Portfolio Manager for Gallup. (Also known as StrengthsFinder)You will learn why people learn differently and how to have conversations about each other's strengths to create better relationships. You'll also gain insight into when people are aware of their strengths, how it helps them identify and stick to their values.After you hear this episode, you will want to find out where you land with the StrengthsFinder assessment and share this episode with your friends and your spouse. Today's Speaker: Austin Suellentrop, CliftonStrengths Portfolio ManagerAustin Suellentrop, CliftonStrengths Portfolio Manager, leads Gallup’s organizational strategy for growing CliftonStrengths worldwide. Through close partnership with our learning, technology, research, and client teams, he helps ensure we are staying true to the mission of CliftonStrengths while providing the tools needed to further the strengths-based approach to human development. He specializes in helping Gallup clients to bridge the gap between Gallup research and practical application in the workplace, particularly when leading through times of extraordinary change. His mission is to inspire others to action by telling stories with passion and excitement about what individuals and teams can accomplish when they have the opportunity to do what they do best.Before joining Gallup, Austin served in a variety of roles for a major regional bank, most recently as a member of its organizational and leadership development team. He supported associate engagement programs across the company, providing data analysis and reporting and coaching teams and leaders on how to use employee engagement as a strategy to drive performance.Austin has a passion for public speaking and that dates back as far as he can remember and has been featured as a keynote speaker for organizations across the country including TedxBirmingham. Austin is an Associate Certified Coach through the International Coach Federation and has been a guest speaker on the Gallup Called to Coach Webcast as well as an author on the Gallup Coaching Blog.Austin received a bachelor’s degree in finance from Auburn University and a master’s degree in family financial planning and counseling from The University of Alabama. Austin spends his free time entertaining friends and family with his wife, Janna, and three daughters, Noelle, Elise, and Audrey. If you don’t find him in front of the smoker preparing BBQ for a crowd, he is likely at the softball field where he coaches a competitive youth team.Website: https://www.gallup.com/cliftonstrengths/en/253868/popular-cliftonstrengths-assessment-products.aspxAustin's TED TalkGet the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.comYou'll LearnThe importance of finding your strengthsHow to have better relationships knowing each other's strengthsUnderstanding your strengths to help live out your valuesEpisode 81: Austin Suellentrop, CliftonStrengths Portfolio Manager

We are all wired a bit differently, and this week we are continuing our series of personality test types. Last week Kimberly covered the Enneagram with Michael Norton, and today, she speaks with Dr. Tim Atkinson, a Myers-Briggs expert. Personality tests are ways to understand yourself and others better. Dr. Tim Atkinson covers Myers-Briggs and the dichotomy of the four letters. Dr. Tim describes the personality test as a great conversation starter that provides a window into who and how each person operates. The Myers-Briggs assessment allows people to explore further their personalities, including their likes, dislikes, strengths, weaknesses, possible career preferences, and compatibility with other people. Grab your headphones, go on a walk and enjoy the episode!  Today's Speaker: Dr. Tim Atkinson, Myers-Briggs ExpertDr. Tim Atkinson is Director, Research and Sponsored Programs at Austin Peay State University.  He currently leads the research development process for faculty at an emerging research culture in a primarily undergraduate teaching university. Website: https://www.timatkinson.net/Get the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.comYou'll LearnWhat the Myers-Briggs assessment is The dichotomy of the four typesHow Myers-Briggs differs from other assessmentsEpisode 80: Dr. Tim Atkinson, Myers-Briggs Expert

There is so much more to the Enneagram than you may think. Or, maybe you've never heard of it and want to learn what all the hype is about.  In today's episode, Kimberly talks with Micheal Norton, an Enneagram teacher, and coach.  Michael shares so much insight and goes deeper into the origin of the Enneagram, each of the nine types, and the passion each number represents. You will learn so much about the Enneagram and yourself in this episode. Grab your headphones, go for a walk and enjoy the enneagram journey! Today's Speaker: Michael Norton, Enneagram Teacher and Coach at Enneagram. is Michael Burditt Norton is an Enneagram teacher, artist, and coach based in London. He has been working in the arts and creative industries for over 15 years. He works with individuals and teams, accessing the Enneagram as a tool for creativity and collaboration. Through his teaching and coaching, he focuses on supporting people as they bring awareness to their unique attention patterns. With the Enneagram as a map, Michael offers tools and guidance to people and organizations who are willing to step into more conscious ways of living and working. He is a certified Enneagram teacher by The Narrative Enneagram, founded by Dr. David Daniels and Helen Palmer, and participates in Enneagram networks in the UK and the US.Website: www.enneagram.isGet the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.comYou'll LearnWhat the Enneagram is How to use your Enneagram number to make changes to your lifeHow you can use the Enneagram to help you understand others Episode 79: Michael Norton, Enneagram Teacher and Coach at Enneagram. is 

Have you ever been stopped in your tracks and been forced to rest? In this episode, you will hear Kimberly's story of perseverance and how an injury forced her to sit with God, listen, and rest. We are all wired to do and be what God has called us to do, and that is perfectly awesome. But sometimes, we need time to reflect to focus on our strengths rather than our weaknesses. You'll hear Kimberly's confession on how she struggled with her PIES and how she surrendered to rest. You are going to want to share this episode with a friend. So make sure you hit the share button, and please leave a review. Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect with me on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review! 

In this episode, Kimberly speaks at a MUMLife event and shares how to fix a relationship with SMART Communication. There are two things you can do today to change your relationship. The first one is knowing that the only person you can control is yourself. The second thing you can do is improve relationships is change the way you communicate. Stop fighting and start listening.  SMART Communication is an acronym for:Stop PushingManaging ExpectationsApproach KindlyRemember to ListenTackle as a TeamA great marriage occurs when you start doing things to build love and stop doing things that destroy love. This episode covers a lot of great tips that you can begin implementing immediately to help fix your relationships. Don't forget to click the links below to get your free resources!  Free Resources: https://marriagehelper.com/hello/Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comTake the Attraction AssessmentThanks for listening!Connect with me on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_universityBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review! 

In today's episode, Kimberly speaks with world-renowned marriage and divorce researcher Dr. John Gottman! Kimberly and Dr. Gottman pack a lot into this exciting episode. They discuss various topics like commitment, what makes sex great in a relationship, how to be more intentional with your spouse, constructive conflict, dating your spouse, and so much more! Kimberly and Dr. Gottman cover ALL THE THINGS we contemplate most in our relationships, so grab a notebook and a pen to discover more about commitment, what makes a great marriage, and how to make a marriage last.You are going to want to share this episode with your friends and family. So make sure you hit the share button in your podcast player and text it to everyone you think would find value from this fantastic conversation with Dr. John Gottman.Today’s Speaker: Dr. John Gottman, Ph.D. World-renowned marriage and divorce researcher.World-renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, John Gottman has conducted 40 years of breakthrough research with thousands of couples. Dr. Gottman was one of the Top 10 Most Influential Therapists of the past quarter-century by the Psychotherapy Networker. He is the author or co-author of over 200 published academic articles and more than 40 books, including the bestselling The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work; What Makes Love Last; Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love; The Relationship Cure; Why Marriages Succeed or Fail, and Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child — among many others. Dr. Gottman’s media appearances include Good Morning America, Today, CBS Morning News, and Oprah, as well articles in The New York Times, Ladies Home Journal, Redbook, Glamour, Woman’s Day, People, Self, Reader’s Digest, and Psychology Today.Co-founder of The Gottman Institute and co-founder of Affective Software, Inc. with his wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, John was also the Executive Director of the Relationship Research Institute. He is Professor Emeritus of Psychology at the University of Washington, where he founded “The Love Lab” at which much of his research on couples’ interactions was conducted. To read more about Dr. Gottman’s research, check out this page for interesting questions and citations to his work.John co-presents with wife Julie Schwartz Gottman The Art and Science of Love workshops five times a year in Seattle. He also co-presents the Level 1, Level 2, and Level 3 Clinical Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy. His style of presentation is clear, informative, and filled with humor, and he is beloved by his audiences everywhere.Website: www.gottman.comBooks: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Eight DatesGet the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up. You’ll LearnThe secret to a happy marriageWhat makes sex great and why you should cuddle moreHow to date your spouseSeason 2, Episode 76: Dr. John Gottman: World-Renowned Marriage and Divorce Researcher Reveals All the Top Secrets for Great Relationships

Creating habits on top of your existing habits can sound overwhelming, but in today's episode, Kimberly shares practical tips on how to increase productivity with PIES Stacking. Think about your good daily habits that already exist and consider something that you can add to it. For example, if you are a coffee drinker and it's part of your morning routine, rather than doom scrolling, read or journal while you enjoy your cup of caffeine. Say affirmations to yourself while you brush your teeth to help set the tone and mood for the day. Grab your headphones and dive into this quick and practical episode to help create habits that stick. Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comGet the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up. You’ll LearnWhat PIES Stacking is How to implement habits that stick How to add new habits to your existing onesEp 75: PIES Stacking - Do Less in More Time with Kimberly Beam Holmes

Are you ready to Make Some Noise? In this episode, Kimberly chats with personal development coach, author, and speaker, Andrea Owen. Andrea talks about her new book Make Some Noise and shares how to navigate challenging conversations, set boundaries (and when it's appropriate), communicate better, and set expectations when speaking with loved ones. This episode is filled with vulnerability, transparency, and powerful tools you can use to show up as your best self! You'll leave this episode feeling empowered to show up for yourself so you can create your best life! Today’s Speaker: Andrea Owen, Global Speak, Author, and Certified Life CoachAndrea Owen is an author, global speaker, and professional certified life coach who helps high-achieving women maximize unshakeable confidence, and master resilience. She has taught hundreds of thousands of women tools and strategies to be able to empower themselves to live their most kick-ass life through speaking, her books, coaching, and her wildly popular podcast with over 3 million downloads.She is the proud author of How To Stop Feeling Like Shit: 14 Habits That Are Holding You Back From Happiness (Seal Press/Hachette Books) which has been translated into 18 languages and is available in 22 countries, as well as her inaugural book, 52 Ways to Live a Kick-Ass Life: BS Free Wisdom to Ignite Your Inner Badass and Live the Life You Deserve, (Adams Media/Simon & Schuster). Her latest book, Make Some Noise: Speak Your Mind and Own Your Strength came out in August 2021, published by TarcherPerigee/Penguin Random-House.Andrea is a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC) from The Coaches Training Institute, a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) with the International Coaching Federation, a SHE RECOVERS® coach, as well as a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator; a modality based on the research of Dr. Brené Brown.When she’s not juggling her full coaching practice or writing books, Andrea is busy riding her Peloton bike, chasing her two school-aged children or making out with her husband, Jason. She is also a retired roller derby player having skated under the name “Veronica Vain”.Learn more about Andrea at andreaowen.com and join the fun and wisdom at facebook.com/heyandreaowen and instagram.com/heyandreaowen.Get the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up. You’ll LearnHow to navigate hard conversationsAsking for what you want Setting expectations and boundariesSeason 2, Ep 74: Showing Up As Your Best Self with Andrea Owen

Are you getting enough rest, and are you getting the right kind of rest? In this week's episode, Pastor Ian Simkins talks about the importance of rest and how rest is much more than sitting on the couch after a long day at work; it's about how you spend your time when you aren't resting. You'll learn what God says about rest and why you need time for Sabbath. This episode aligns so well with the PIES of Attraction and becoming the best version of you that you can be. What you do in life is important but who you are becoming is more important. Ian provides a great perspective on rest and how it resets the posture of who we are and understanding our identity, especially our identity in Christ.Pop in your headphones, go for a walk, breathe in the fresh air and enjoy the episode! Today’s Speaker: Ian Simkins, Lead Pastor of Teaching at The Bridge Church in Spring Hill, TNIan is the Lead Pastor of Teaching and Vision at The Bridge Church in Spring Hill, TN. He and his wife Katie have two amazing young boys, Owen and Redmond.Prior to coming on as Lead Pastor of Teaching in TN, he was the Teaching Pastor at Community Christian Church in Chicagoland and was also the host of a radio show called The Common Good.Website: bridge.tvhttps://iansimkins.com/Get the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up.You’ll LearnWhat rest is and why it's importantWhat God says about SabbathHow to implement a mindset of restSeason 2, Ep 73: Stop Doing and Start Resting with Ian Simkins

Do you practice mental wellness and self-love?In this episode, Kimberly chats with Dr. Shainna Ali about mental wellness and how we talk to ourselves. You are going to learn what you can start doing to take better care of your mental well-being. Dr. Shainna also shares what self-love is and how we can intentionally love ourselves with the seven components of self-love. Dr. Shainna created the Self-Love workbook that helps boost self-esteem, so you can recognize your worth and find genuine happiness. So grab your headphones, go for a walk and enjoy the episode! Today’s Speaker: Dr. Shainna Ali, Mental health clinician, educator, & advocateDr. Shainna is dedicated to helping others understand the important role of mental health in fostering happiness, fulfillment, and overall wellness. She is a licensed mental health counselor (MH15290), a nationally certified counselor (717226), and an approved clinical supervisor (ACS 3047). Beyond credentials, she is a wife, daughter, sister, friend, and dog mom who actively strives for mental health growth and balance.Presently, as the owner of Integrated Counseling Solutions, She enjoys utilizing a strengths-based tailored approach that focuses on growth, optimism, and the unique identity factors of each client. In addition to mental health therapy, she believes in the essentiality of mental health education. She is passionate about crafting research-informed, interactive presentations and workshops pertaining to mental health education.Website: https://www.shainnaali.com/Workbook: https://www.shainnaali.com/the-self-love-workbookWebsite: www.PIESUniversity.comGet the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up. You’ll LearnHow to practice self-loveHow to be aware of mental wellnessThe seven components of self-loveEp 72: The Seven Components of Self-Love with Dr. Shainna Ali

Are you a leader? If you answered no, you may be surprised to learn that you are wrong. In this episode, Kimberly chats with her friend, Alex Judd. Alex is the founder of Path for Growth and he believes that everybody wins when a leader DECIDES to intentionally grow every single day. You'll learn the difference between self-improvement vs. selfish improvement and how to release the baggage that you carry around for yourself and everyone else. You'll also hear Alex coach Kimberly as he puts her in the hot seat about prioritizing expectations rather than priorities. Grab a pen and paper, and get ready to take a lot of notes. If you're listening to this in the car, save the episode because it's so good that you'll want to listen to it again! Today’s Speaker: Alex Judd, Founder of Path For GrowthAlex Judd founded Path for Growth out of the belief that everybody wins when a leader DECIDES to intentionally grow every single day. Through teaching, intensives, and coaching, the Path for Growth team empowers impact-driven leaders to define vision and take meaningful action. Prior to starting Path for Growth, Alex served as the Host of Dave Ramsey's nationally recognized EntreLeadership podcast. Outside of work, Alex loves endurance sports. He has finished 22 marathons and two Ironman Triathlons. More than anything, Alex loves people. He is stubbornly committed to seeing as many people as possible engage in a healthy, life-giving, sustainable path for growth.Social media is @juddontherun and @PathForGrowth Path For Growth PodcastWebsite: www.PIESUniversity.comGet the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up. You’ll Learnwhat leadership is How to release all the baggage you carryThe difference between self-improvement vs. selfish-improvementEp 70: Everyone is a Leader with Alex Judd

Do you ever feel like you need to slow down? How aware are you of your body, your mind, and your emotions?  In today's episode, Kimberly shares techniques that you can do to help you become more grounded and centered. If you are new to mindfulness and meditation, we encourage you to go back and listen to episode 10, where Kimberly talks about the science and research behind it. You will learn breathing techniques and the importance of being intentional with your breath and what it does to your body. You'll also know what it means to be centered and grounded with your body. If you have never practiced mindfulness or meditation, this episode is perfect for you. Kimberly ends with a 10 minute guided meditation that you can do at your desk, on a walk, or lying down.Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, find a comfortable spot and enjoy the episode!  Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comGet the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up. You’ll LearnTechniques on practicing mindfulnessThe importance of deep breathsHow to meditateEp 70: Practicing Mindfulness + 10 Minute Guided Meditation with Kimberly Beam Holmes

Do you have a relationship that is struggling over a disagreement? With everything going on in the world and our society, there is a lot of fighting and division happening all around us.In this episode, Kimberly shares five things you can do when a disagreement challenges you. Many of us have encountered conversations about politics, and we're quick to stand our ground, believe what we believe, and disagree with the other side. But, you'll learn how to have a respectful conversation when you disagree and come out of it with more love and appreciation for the other person once you seek to understand.Our psychological default is to fight to get our way and not be wrong. But we have to fight against that if we want to have a better society, if we're going to have better relationships and want to be the best version of ourselves. Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comGet the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up. You’ll LearnHow to have respectful conversations, so you seek to understandFive key points to remember when you disagree with someoneNo matter what the disagreement is, we are all on the same teamSeason 2, Ep 69: How to Disagree Without Losing Friends or Family with Kimberly Beam Holmes

There are two things in life that we are never taught to do, parenting and marriage.In this episode, Kimberly speaks with parenting expert Kimball Lewis. You are going to learn how not to take your child’s disrespectful behavior personally and how to find common ground between you and your spouse when it comes to parenting. If you want your child to behave a certain way, you have to model those behaviors you want them to exhibit.Parenting is hard, and this episode provides so much information and tips you can implement immediately. So grab a pen and get ready to take notes!Today’s Speaker: Kimball Lewis, CEO, Empowering ParentsKimball Lewis is the CEO of EmpoweringParents.com. In addition to his leadership and management roles, he contributes as an editor, a homeschooling expert, and a parent coach. He resides in Orlando, Florida, with his wife and two teenage sons. Managing child behavior problems is a skill that can be learned. And the tools and resources available through EmpoweringParent.com and The Total Transformation® child behavior program ensure that you don’t have to learn through trial and error. Instead, you can learn from parents and professionals who know how to effectively manage disrespect, defiance, backtalk, lying, laziness, motivation, and other behaviors.Website: empoweringparents.comGet the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up. You’ll LearnWhy short-term consequences are more effective than long-termLearn the difference between consequence and punishmentHow to find common ground with your spouse when you disagree about parentingSeason 2, Ep 68: Helping Parents Navigate Challenges with Kimball Lewis

For us to be individuals who are more emotionally attractive, it's essential to understand our emotions. In this episode, Kimberly talks with Dr. Laurel Mellin about Emotional Brain Training. You will learn how to understand your emotions and what to do with your emotions to help you move towards a state of happiness and joy. You don’t want to miss the exercise Dr. Mellin walks Kimberly through. Kimberly gets real and raw about feelings and thoughts she has about herself, and she learns how those emotions don’t have to hold you back or dictate your future. Pop in your headphones, grab a notepad to take notes, and get ready to dive into this very insightful episode!Today’s Speaker: Dr. Laurel Mellin, Ph.D., Founder of Emotional Brain TrainingDr. Mellin is a health psychologist who founded and developed emotional brain training. She is an associate clinical professor of family and community medicine and pediatrics at the University of California San Francisco. Dr. Mellin has authored papers on the science and efficacy of EBT and is a New York Times bestselling author of four books on the method.Website: www.ebt.orgGet the App and use code HAPPY at checkoutYou’ll Learn:The #1 gateway to transformation is angerThere are 5 levels of stress, all of which are healthy (as long as we don’t stay in them)Everything that is important for us to survive and thrive, is also extremely sensitive to stressGet the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up. Season 2, Ep 67: Training Your Brain to Be Happy with Emotional Brain Training with Dr. Laurel Mellin

How well are you taking care of your skin? Skin health is essential for everyone, and good skincare should start early. Today, Kimberly is speaking with Lauren Vance, Lead Medical Aesthetician at a premier medical spa. Lauren shares the importance of diet, hydration, good SPF, vitamin C, and why you shouldn’t use towels to dry your face! You don’t want to miss this episode because you may think you are doing everything right in skincare, but you’ll be surprised! Men and women, this episode is for you!Today’s Speaker: Lauren Vance, Lead Medical AestheticianLauren Vance is the lead medical aesthetician at a brand new premier medical spa in Franklin,TN called Face It. Lauren has a background in early childhood education but decided to follow her passion in the beauty industry. Lauren has been an aesthetician for several years and continues to enhance her practice by pursuing additional classes to learn everything there is to learn about skincare. Lauren is certified in dermaplaning, light therapy, acne care, skin cancer care, chemical and enzyme peels, corrective skincare, and Lauren is a partner with many medical-grade skincare lines. She has a huge passion for helping her clients feel their most beautiful selves and finding their confidence.Social: Find Lauren on Facebook and Instagram. To purchase products, contact Lauren at lauren@faceitfranklin.comGet the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up. You’ll LearnHow your diet can affect your skinThe importance of drinking water Why you shouldn't use a washcloth or towel to dry your faceEpisode: 66, Improve Your Skin Health with Medical Aesthetician, Lauren Vance

Do you have a relationship in your life that is troubled? In today’s episode, you are going to hear from Stanford Professor Dr. David Bradford. David is well known for his course on Interpersonal Dynamics, or what the students call the “touchy-feely” class. David has his students build relationships by sharing personal feelings and creating interactions that help them grow and learn from each other.  You will learn how to improve your troubled relationships by applying Dr. Bradford’s techniques and tools. He shares when it’s good to be defensive vs. when it’s not and shares how to have respectful, honest, and trustworthy conversations that will strengthen your relationship. There is so much to unpack in this episode so grab your headphones and paper to takes notes. Enjoy the show!Today’s Speaker: Dr. David Bradford Ph.D., Senior Lecturer at Stanford Graduate School of BusinessDavid is the Eugene O’Kelly II Senior Lecturer Emeritus in Leadership at Stanford Graduate School of Business, where he helped develop Interpersonal Dynamics (“Touchy Feely”) and much of the School’s leadership curriculum. He is the author of numerous books, including Managing for Excellence, Influence Without Authority, and Power Up. He lives in Berkeley, California, with his wife of more than fifty years.Website: https://connectandrelate.com/Buy the book: Connect: Building Exceptional Relationships with Family, Friends, and Colleagues. Take the Connect AssessmentYou’ll LearnWhen being defensive is good vs. bad How your relationship obstacles can be good opportunities for growthHow to set boundaries without blame Season 2, Ep 03: Creating Exceptional Relationships from Stanford's Top Class Professor

Are you interested in learning how to become more aware of yourself and your surroundings? In this episode, Scott shares how he became the VP of Mindfulness and Compassion at LinkedIn and why he took a chance to advocate and create the position. You will learn how mindfulness allows you to be more aware and therefore have more compassion for others. When we focus on small things to show compassion, you let others know that you care about them. Scott talks about micro compassions and what you can start doing today to take positive actions to be more compassionate. There is so much to learn in this episode that falls in line with the PIES. Pop in your headphones, go for a walk, and enjoy the episode! Today’s Speaker: Scott Shute, LinkedIn VP Head of Mindfulness & CompassionScott Shute is at the heart of LinkedIn‘s quest to create a culture of compassionate leadership, serving as VP of Global Customer Operations and Head of Mindfulness Programs. In both of his roles, Scott is working every day to align himself, his coworkers, and the company with a deeper understanding of member needs—and human needs in general—through data analysis, intentional listening, and swift action, in order to elevate LinkedIn’s collective wisdom and impact in the world. As a mindful leader, he has cultivated his mastery of meditation and awareness from his early days farming with his family in rural Kansas to leading thousands in meditation in Silicon Valley and beyond. Here we learn about the secret driver of his work and creative pursuits, including art photography and yoga, which is also the key to our happiness—with beautiful depth and a simple application that we can all put into practice.Website: www.scottshute.com/Order the book: The Full Body Yes Get the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up. You’ll LearnThe difference between mindfulness and meditationHow to start a mindfulness practice How to use mindfulness to be more compassionate Season 2, Ep 02: Tips for Mindfulness and Self-Care from  LinkedIn VP, Scott Shute

We're kicking off the season with a wonderful testimonial from Adele Bester. You are going to love her story, and you'll leave the podcast feeling inspired and informed on how to start working on your PIES. Adele shares how she learned to let go and trust God. This story is a continuation of an incredible journey and the importance of hard work and self-love. You can hear more of Adele and Ren's story on the Relationship Radio podcast. Pop in your headphones, go for a walk, and enjoy the episode! Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement & RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comGet the Attraction Assessment by visiting www.PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up. You’ll LearnTips on prioritizing your PIESThe importance of sleepWhy you may want to "Let go and let God."Season 2, Ep 01: Motivation, Dedication, and Having a Why with Adele Bester

Season 2 is back! We've got a new look and a super exciting second season for you!  We are delighted to give you amazing interviews, new topics, and a theme for each month!We are kicking off August, covering various topics on relationships, from workplace relationships to parenting. In addition, you'll hear from a LinkedIn VP share tips on mindfulness and self-care in the workplace, and you'll also hear how Dr. Mellin works through emotional brain training with Kimberly.Get ready for an all-new season next Tuesday, August 10th.    

We’re wrapping up the first season of It Starts With Attraction! It’s been a wonderful first season with great guests, researched-based topics, and awesome questions from our listeners. Be sure to go back and listen to previous episodes to get tips to help you work on your PIES.A few of our favorites:  The Most Important Part of Attraction with Dr. Joe BeamWhy You Should Stop Focusing On Your RelationshipSMART Communication in Your Relationships: Part 1Overcoming Trauma with Dr. Karol DarsaWe would love to hear from you so if there is a topic that you would like us to cover, please let us know by clicking here to take our podcast survey.  Until then, stay tuned for season 2 of It Starts With Attraction!Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.com

Do you ever feel like you just aren't in the mood and want to sleep? Today's Ask Me Anything questions comes from Muna and she says "I often have no interest in sex and just want to sleep. How can I change to be in the mood more often?" In this episode, Kimberly helps answer this question by uncovering what could be the root cause. Has something in your life recently changed that is causing you stress? Are you not getting enough sleep because you are overwhelmed throughout the day? Pop your headphones in and get ready to learn how to get in the mood! Always consult with a medical professional first to get help. Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comReferenced in the episode: Spark your Marriage CourseYou’ll Learnwhat you can do so you can get in the mood againhow to speak with your significant other about ways to help when feeling overwhelmedquestions to ask yourself and evaluate other parts of your life that may need to changeEp 060: AMA: Help! I've Lost Interest in Having Sex, with Kimberly Beam HolmesThanks for listening!Connect with me on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @it_Starts_With_AttractionBe sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review! 

In today's episode of our Ask Me Anything series, Ann asks " How can I become more physically attractive for my husband? He says he was never physically attracted to me. Can attraction change over time? Kimberly shares the most important areas of the PIES and the parts of physical attraction that can be changed, and the ones that can't. You are going to learn a few tips to becoming physically attractive and how to appreciate the body God gave you. Pop in your headphones and settle into this episode to learn how to focus on the areas of attraction so you can grow and become the best version of yourself that you can be. Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll LearnThe importance of loving the body God gave youThat physical attraction may be one of the least important areas of the PIESWhat you can do to work on Physical Attraction so you feel your bestEp 059: AMA: Can I become more physically attractive over time?  with Kimberly Beam Holmes

Do you often feel anxious or have fears that seem to take over your life? Did you know that 40 million people in the United States experience anxiety? In today's episode, Kimberly is sharing her own personal experience with anxiety and, ways to overcome it based on research. Today's Ask Me Anything question comes from Emily. And she says, "How do I work to get past my general fears and anxieties, I have health anxiety because many of the people closest to me have or have had cancer. And I'm realizing that my husband feels drained as a result of me dragging him into this fear-based world of mine, I feel it makes him not want to be around me at all."You'll want to dive into this episode to understand the neuroscience behind anxiety and what you can do to help overcome emotions. Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and RelationshipsKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll LearnAbout the neurosensory perceptions in our brains and what happens when we have anxious feelings and emotionsThings you can do to rewire your brain and learn to deal with the source of the anxietyHow to sit with the feelings and let them pass throughEp 058: AMA: Overcoming Fear and Anxiety, with Kimberly Beam Holmes.

Are you feeling unmotivated? Do you feel like there is so much to do in a day that you don't have time to work on yourself? In this episode of Ask Me Anything, we hear from Sheetal who says  "I don't have time to work on my PIES with everything I have going on in my life. Where do I start?" The first thing to know is that it's okay to feel this way. What's important is that you recognize it. It's normal to have stages in our lives where you might feel stuck and totally unmotivated. You may be dealing with depression which is also normal.  In today's episode, Kimberly shares tips on how to get back on track by taking small steps to get you motivated again. Our Ask Me Anything series will continue for several weeks. We would love to hear from you! Please submit your question by clicking the link below. Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comSubmit Your Question HereYou’ll LearnSigns and behaviors to watch for if you are feeling depressedTips to find the time to accomplish your goalsThe importance of exercise and good nutritionEp 057: AMA: Secrets to Getting Motivated, with Kimberly Beam Holmes.

Are you the type of person that wants to hide in a corner instead of facing conflict? Or, are you the person that is ready to face conflict head-on? In this episode, you'll learn how to resolve conflict without getting defensive, yelling, or criticizing the other person. Conflict and disagreements are actually healthy if handled properly. When people have a conflict or disagree about something, and they can talk about it and resolve it without attacking, that means that they are secure enough in the relationship to voice their opinions. Tune in to gain insight on how to have healthy disagreements, address conflict by listening, and by getting to the core issue. Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll LearnHow to handle conflict in a respectable and healthy wayThe best way to respond to criticismHow to provide feedback without attacking Ep 056: AMA: Having Healthy Conflict & Handling Criticism, with Kimberly Beam Holmes.

Are you wondering how to know if you are healthy?Over the next few weeks, I'll be answering questions from the podcast listeners and subscribers in my Ask Me Anything series.  This week's question comes from Josh.  Josh asks: "How do I know that I am a healthy single dad raising two daughters successfully?"In this episode, Kimberly shares the areas of your life to focus on so you are striving to be the healthiest you can be. She talks about the importance of sleep and why you need more than you think you do. Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comAsk Me Anything!  Submit Your Question HereYou’ll LearnHow sleep affects your physical and mental well-beingThe importance of eating whole foodsThe importance of moving your bodyHow to work on all your PIES to become the healthiest you can beEp 055: AMA: How Do I Know if I am Healthy, with Kimberly Beam Holmes

Wondering how to stay attracted to your significant other? Over the next few weeks, I'll be answering questions from the podcast listeners and subscribers in my Ask Me Anything series.  This week's question comes from Sheila.  Sheila asks: “How can I maintain or sustain the attraction that I have to my partner?"In this episode, Kimberly unpacks how attraction really works and how attraction changes over time. Tune into this episode to hear how to keep that attraction alive and what you can do to stay attractive and stay attracted to your spouse. Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comSubmit Your Question HereEpisode 50: Encouraging Others to Work on Their PIESYou’ll LearnHow to encourage your spouse to work on their PIESThe difference between gain versus gap The importance of communicationHow to not compare your relationship as it started to nowEp 054: AMA: Staying Attracted to Significant Other, with Kimberly Beam Holmes

In the next few episodes, we will be switching things up! Starting today, I will be answering your questions about attraction. In this episode, I share my answers to Phil's question about physical attraction:"I've always been very active, and my wife and I used to run together and work out together quite a bit. I'm currently in a season of life where I feel I honestly have zero time I can spend working out without either completely neglecting my family or never getting enough sleep. There are so many get fit quick schemes out there that I don't know what to believe. What would be the least number of days I can work out that would still provide physical benefit. And what would you recommend as a good full body but short on time required workout?"If you also feel like time has slipped away and you don't have time to work on physical attraction, tune into this episode to hear key tips to working out when you're short on time. Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comSubmit Your Question HereYou’ll LearnHow stress impacts working outTips to find the time to accomplish your goalsThe importance of sleepHow to choose the right workout for youHow to increase your joyEp 053: AMA: Working Out When Short on Time, with Kimberly Beam Holmes.

Have you ever struggled with not feeling good enough?Most times when we're doing something of importance - pursuing a dream, starting a new job, becoming a parent - we feel so unqualified at the outset. Rather than trying to fight off the feeling, Ella Lucas-Averett shares how to embrace that feeling and use it to accomplish the most daunting of tasks.If you're feeling fearful about starting something, this episode is for you. Learn how to lean into those feelings of not being good enough and the key to overcoming it. Today’s Speaker - Ella Lucas-AverettElla is a professional speaker and host of the On Air with Ella podcast. She is Managing Partner of a strategic consulting firm she co-founded in 2003, entrepreneur, part-time triathlete, and a caffeine enthusiast.Her true passion, though, lies in helping people build their best lives as they define it. Ella wants to live better every day, and to help others do the same through her global platform.Ella creates podcasts and events for people who want more out of life - now. There's no magic pill, no specific morning routine or diet that's going to help manifest the confidence, motivation, personal development, mindset, lifestyle or relationships that we want. It's 100% up to us. But, can't we do it together and have some fun along the way? Ella says YES, THANK YOU, MORE PLEASE, and invites you to join her on the journey. See what happens "behind the scenes" by following Ella on Instagram.Website: onairella.comYou’ll LearnThe reason we feel less than enoughHow to overcome fearfulnessThe importance of accountabilityIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 052: Unqualified: What to Do When You Don't Feel Good Enough with Ella Lucas-Averett

When times get difficult, have you found it challenging to have courage?In this episode, Margie Warrell shares what to do when things are difficult and you're scared. Tune in to hear practical things to do to move forward and have courage in your lives even when life is feeling uncertain.Learn how to start changing your mental state to increase your courage to  live a courageous life. Gain insight on how to tell yourself you ARE capable of achieving the things you wish for yourself. Don't let another day pass by being scared of pursuing your dreams. Start today.Today’s Speaker - Margie WarrellMargie Warrel is an author – keynote speaker – media commentator – certified coach – podcast host – Forbes columnist – board member – women’s advocate – leadership facilitator – adventure traveller – amateur barista – ball juggling/dropping mother of four… you get the drift.Twenty-five years of living around the world coupled with her passion for personal development has taught her a thing or two about rising above the fears that dim our lights and hold our potential dormant. Of all the lessons she's learned since leaving her parent’s small farm in rural Australia, the most important are that courage is required for every worthwhile endeavor and that the human spirit is greater than any challenge we face. Individually and collectively.In today’s culture of fear, living bravely is indispensable for living well.Website: https://margiewarrell.comYou’ll LearnMargie's definition of courageHow to build courage to have hard conversations Tips to change your mindset to be courageous instead of fearfulKey practices to build courage in your daily lifeIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 051: Finding Courage in Your Situation  with Margie Warrell

Have you ever tried to encourage those in your life to work on becoming the best they can be only to come across like you don't accept them for exactly who they are right now? In this episode, I share how to motivate those you love without seeming pushy or forceful. I'll share what I have found most helpful in getting the people in your life to work on themselves. Learn how to ultimately get to a place where you and those around you are becoming the most attractive and best that you can be. Learn how to connect with those around you through working on PIES.Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll LearnIdeas for creating positive connections with those around youHow to encourage others to become the best version of themselves The best approach to take when motivating othersEp 050: Encouraging Others to Work on Their PIES, with Kimberly Beam Holmes.

Has something ever caused you to feel triggered into a fearful or angry state? Do you feel like you have a hard time understanding what emotions you feel or how to respond to them?In this episode, we are continuing our discussion of polyvagal theory - which is essentially the science of how people connect and respond to danger. Polyvagal theory affects us every moment of every day. It helps us understand why we feel the way we feel and react the way we react.If you are wanting to have a better understanding of how to self regulate and co-regulate with your family members, this episode is for you. Learn simple ways to reach a safe and social state for yourself and your loved ones. Today’s Speaker - Justin Sunseri, LMFTJustin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who teaches about trauma and mental health. From East Side San Jose to the Mission District of San Francisco.  In Stockton or even the more affluent Palo Alto. Trauma has been a constant underlying factor with nearly everyone he's worked with since 2008 - in the public schools, county outpatient clinics, group homes, foster care, juvenile halls and online private practice. It's become the core focus of his professional development, especially the Polyvagal Theory. His Stuck Not Broken podcast is just another way he educates and assists people in their journey of becoming unstuck, in a way that is easy to understand and utilize.Website: https://www.justinlmft.comYou’ll LearnSteps to take to return to a safe and social stateHow to show up for those that need usHow to inwardly assess your stateIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 049: Being in a Safe and Social State Part Two with Justin Sunseri, LMFT

Has something ever caused you to feel triggered into a fearful or angry state? Do you feel like you have a hard time understanding what emotions you feel or how to respond to them?In this episode, we are taking a deep dive into polyvagal theory - which is essentially the science of how people connect and respond to danger. Polyvagal theory affects us every moment of every day. It helps us understand why we feel the way we feel and react the way we react.If you are wanting to have a better understanding of how to self regulate and co-regulate with your family members, this episode is for you. Learn simple ways to reach a safe and social state for yourself and your loved ones. Today’s Speaker - Justin Sunseri, LMFTJustin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who teaches about trauma and mental health. From East Side San Jose to the Mission District of San Francisco.  In Stockton or even the more affluent Palo Alto. Trauma has been a constant underlying factor with nearly everyone he's worked with since 2008 - in the public schools, county outpatient clinics, group homes, foster care, juvenile halls and online private practice. It's become the core focus of his professional development, especially the Polyvagal Theory. His Stuck Not Broken podcast is just another way he educates and assists people in their journey of becoming unstuck, in a way that is easy to understand and utilize.Website: https://www.justinlmft.comYou’ll LearnWhat polyvagal theory isHow to self regulateHow to get in a safe and social stateTips for co-regulating with your familyIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 048: Being in a Safe and Social State Part One with Justin Sunseri, LMFT

What is trauma? How can you overcome it?Trauma comes in many different forms such as relational, emotional, societal, environmental, and more. Whether you have experienced trauma or not, it is important for all of us to understand. In this episode, Dr. Karol Darsa shares how to interact and show empathy with those who are struggling with traumatic experiences.If you  are trying to overcome trauma in your life or if you would like to understand trauma more, this episode is for you. Dr. Karol Darsa explains what trauma is, how to identify it, and how to heal from it. You do not want to miss today's episode. Today’s Speaker - Dr. Karol DarsaDr. Darsa is a licensed psychologist, an author and founder of Reconnect. She has more than 20 years of clinical and administrative experience in trauma and mental health disorders. Dr. Darsa began her career in 1998 as a foster care social worker and continued her work with abused children and their families and adults abused as children.  In 2002, Dr. Darsa began studying with Christine Schenk, founder of the CHRIS-Technique, a unique energy work focused on teaching clients how to ground themselves in their bodies. Dr. Darsa has completed numerous evidence-based trainings in the treatment of trauma and mental health disorders, including Level III in Brainspotting, Level I and II trainings in EMDR, and Somatic Experiencing and Sensorimotor Psychotherapy. With each advanced training, Dr. Darsa developed a deeper understanding of trauma processes and healing, and developed Reconnect Integrative Trauma Treatment Model which is an integration of evidence-based, cutting-edge trauma treatment models.  In 2012 Dr. Darsa became the co-creator of Invisible War Recovery, a program designed to treat military sexual trauma survivors. She has been interviewed by Katie Couric, Susan Ortolano, and Lisa Tahir, and was featured on the Voice of America. She lectures about trauma treatment at various universities such as the University of Southern California, UCLA and Cal Lutheran. She also speaks at treatment centers and conferences.  Dr. Darsa realized that what is often missing in trauma treatment is a finely attuned, gentle, body based process to help heal and reconnect mind and body when clients become disregulated due to traumatic events, developmental trauma, or emotional disorders. Reconnect Center embodies that philosophy in offering intensive one on one work to help truly heal each individual that comes through her doors. A native of Turkey, Dr. Darsa has been living in the United States for 25 years. She has also lived in Spain, France and Brazil. Dr. Darsa’s exposure to numerous ethnic and social groups allows her to understand the cultural differences in human thought and behavior. She can provide therapy in English, Spanish, French and Turkish and is able to converse in Italian and Portuguese as well.Website: www.reconnectcenter.comYou’ll LearnThe difference between stress and traumaTips to identify personal traumasKey actionable items to heal from traumaHow to be a safe place for those dealing with traumaIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 047: Overcoming Trauma with Dr. Karol Darsa

Today we are talking all about relationships and mental health. Being successful, having successful relationships, and loving relationships all begins with being seen. In this episode, Jadell Lee and I discuss key ways to be seen and improve your mental health.Jadell Lee shares his struggles with mental health, how he overcame those struggle, and key tips to where leadership begins. If you are yearning to feel seen and find a fulfilled purpose in life, this episode is for you.Today’s Speaker - Jadell LeePreparing dancers for the center stage of life, Mental Health Advocate Jadell Lee is a professional dance educator, touring adjudicator, published author, and speaker who brings a fresh perspective of life to audiences across the country.  He is represented by Go 2 Talent Agency, Assistant Director of CRU Dance Competition, touring faculty with Thrive Dance Experience, and guest master instructor for Abby Lee Dance Company. He is the author of Your First Position: A Simple Guide to Self-Discovery, Activation & Breakthrough, a book written to help his readers shine a light on their own journey through social-emotional learning.Website: http://www.jadelllee.comYou’ll LearnTips for those going through mental health strugglesHow to find your inspiration and passionHow to overcome the fear of getting helpHow mental health and relationships impact leadershipIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 046: The Need to Be Seen - Mental Health & Healthy Relationships with Jadell Lee

Today, I am talking with Christa Biegler about fasting. It seems everyone is talking about fasting recently - intermittent fasting, multiple day fasting, bone broth fasting, etc. Today we are going back to the basics about fasting. Tune in to learn why people should fast, if everybody should fast, and how to fast in a healthy way. *The NEW PIES University Course is finally here, Your Best Self: A 30 Day Guide To Becoming The Most Attractive You Can Be. In this course, I go through a day-to-day regimen, teaching you the best things you can do to work on your PIES, and sharing implementable takeaways based on what you learn. This course not only tells you how to get started on your PIES, but also how to dig deep and get crystal-clear clarity on what you should be doing, what to do, how to do it, and how to implement it in your daily life. You can join this course by going to www.piesuniveristy.com and clicking "Join" in the top right corner. Today’s Speaker - Christa Biegler, RDN, CLTChrista Biegler is an award-winning dietitian nutritionist, online educator, and host of The Less Stressed Life podcast. She specializes in helping health-conscious high-performance women overcome bloating, fatigue and food reactions. She is also the owner of Eczemanutritionist.com and author of The Eczema Relief Diet & Cookbook. She helps listeners and clients with unique ways to improve the inflammation causing stressors we inevitably have in life by sharing science that enlightens and inspires. Website: https://www.christabiegler.com/You’ll LearnHow to fast in a healthy wayWhen fasting IS for youHow fasting can help instead of hurtWhen fasting is NOT for youIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 045: The Truth About Fasting with Christa Biegler

More songs, movies, and books have been written about this one thing more than anything else in the world... and that thing is love. Love is what drives us. However, when you ask people, "What is love?" most people wouldn't know how to describe it. We all know there are different types of love. How can you actually quantify it? In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam and I are getting into the real data of what love actually is and how to show it to the people who matter most to you.Today’s Speaker - Dr. Joe BeamAn internationally known and respected sexologist and authority on love, marriage and sex. He received his PhD from the University of Sydney. He is the founder and chair of Marriage Helper based in Tennessee, just south of Nashville.He has designed and developed courses, workshops and seminars to help troubled marriages for over two decades. He has been seen on nationwide media and spoken to countless couples through live seminars, dedicated radio programs and books. Today he dedicates most of his time to researching and developing new ways to help couples in crisis. Old ways don’t always work in today’s human environment. You’ll agree that times have changed since your parents were married and your issues are not the same. Our approach to bringing back the passion and energy in a marriage is dynamic and effective.Saving marriages is not an occupation for Dr. Beam. It is a mission – a mission that has consumed his heart for decades. “My original goal was to reduce divorce in this country by ten percent over a ten year period,” explains Beam. “I came to realize that we couldn’t do this by only helping marriages in trouble. We had to educate couples to change the way they live so their marriage could be all it could be.” This type of broader thinking and the methodology used to deliver the message is having a huge impact on families today. By reaching beyond the mind and into the heart and soul of men and women, love finds new ways to allow couples to communicate and create a relationship that is aware but not conducive to divorce.Seeing the results of his mission in multiplied thousands has not only strengthened Joe’s resolve but added even more momentum to the mission. Today, the popular idea that divorce is a fact of life is being challenged vigorously. Saving marriages is not a job, it’s an all-consuming passion and every marriage saved is a testimony that the mission can be accomplished.Website: https://marriagehelper.comYou’ll LearnWhat love actually isHow to teach your children how to loveHow to set boundaries with those you loveWhat to do when passion fadesHow to find & sustain loveIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 044: What Is Love with Dr. Joe Beam

If you don't manage your time... then your time will manage you.Now more than ever, it is important for us  to have routines that help us set our intentions of what we want to be focused on every day in our life. That might sound overwhelming, but I'm going to break down my routine to serve as a blueprint for how routine setting works. Listen to today's episode to gain insight to what routines can look like and how you can use them to most benefit you in creating the life that you will love to live.Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll LearnThe difference between goals and routinesThe most important thing to guide routineHow to set priorities How to integrate your values into your routineEp 043: Creating Routines, with Kimberly Beam Holmes.

Today, we are talking all about women's health. If you are a woman or someone who has a woman in your life, this podcast will give you insight into better understanding women's hormonal cycles. It is really important for men and women to understand what goes on in women's bodies when their cycle is occurring.Dr. Beth Westie has spent years working with women helping them to better understand their hormones, how to eat, how to sleep, and how to be more in line with their bodies' needs.In this episode, Dr. Beth Westie shares how to become more empowered as a woman through understanding your hormones and tips for feeling better during your cycle.Today’s Speaker - Dr. Beth WestieAfter struggling to find a solution to ovarian cysts and bouncing from doctor to doctor, being told she would need to go on birth control to fix the issue, Dr. Beth Westie leaned into her eastern medicine training and started researching ways to fix this issue on her own with Nutrition for your Hormones. Once she started seeing results she started sharing this info with women in my practice. Now she helps women all over the world naturally manage their hormones and gain back their life by teaching them how to Eat for your Cycle.Dr. Beth is the author of the Best Selling book, The Female Fat Solution, the creator of the 12 Week Female Fat Solution Challenge, the Eat for Your Cycle Method, and the host of The Female Health Solution Podcast. She has made it her mission to change the way women view their health. Traveling the country to educate and empower women to take their health into their own hands, she uses nutrition to help women work with the natural cycle of their bodies to achieve lasting weight loss results.Website: https://drbethwestie.comYou’ll LearnHow to feel your bestTips to track your cycleHow to better understand the women in your life during their cycleHow hormones change during menopauseIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 042: What Men & Women Need to Know about Female Hormones with Dr. Beth Westie

Have you ever felt like our culture's view of health can actually lead people to be the most sick they have ever been?In today's episode, hear Brad Davidson share his personal story about rethinking the way we view metabolism and health.We are going to break down health and fitness in a way that is different than you have heard from industry professionals. Learn how health and fitness should matter to us in our day to day lives.Today’s Speaker - Brad DavidsonA born-and-raised small town guy from McMinnville, Oregon, Brad Davidson first moved to California in 1998 to pursue my passion for health and fitness.His humble beginnings were nothing more than a gym he based out of his garage and a desire to help people become the best athletes they could possibly be.That small garage gym quickly turned into an 8,000 sqft facility – a complete health and training business that focused on efficiency, complete health audits, accountability, and measurable results.Throughout his career he's worked with high-achieving CEOs, professional athletes, tactical teams, and extremely motivated individuals. He's become a leading authority on optimizing insatiable inner drives and offsetting damaging habits for real results.He developed actionable protocols through the study of stress resiliency, cellular physiology, performance nutrition, recovery methodology, behavioral sciences, brain optimization, and hormonal regulation. Website: https://www.braddavidson.comYou’ll LearnTips to get back on trackHow to check your "shmec": Sleep, hunger, mood, energy, & cravingsHow to evaluate your feelingsIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 041: Resetting Your Metabolism with Brad Davidson

Introverts versus extroverts... Which one is better? We all know there is not one that is better or worse. Although, most of the time in relationships, we act like one is. In today's episode, Kimberly Holmes and her husband Rob Holmes discuss how personality types affect relationships. Listen to this episode to learn different tools to better understand people in relationships.Today's Speakers: Kimberly and Rob HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll LearnHow personality types affect relationshipsTips to use personality types as tools to better understand your significant otherHow to be attentive to other people's needsEp 040: Introverts vs. Extroverts, with Rob Holmes.

Long gone are the days where getting less sleep was seen as a badge of honor. Research has shown us that sleep is vital for recovering and rejuvenating us. In this episode, Mollie McGlocklin is going to break down how you can get a better night's sleep, some of the key things you need to do, and why you don't need to wait. Now is the time to begin sleeping better. Today’s Speaker - Mollie McGlocklinMollie is the creator of Sleep Is A Skill, a company that optimizes people’s sleep through a unique blend of technology, accountability, and behavioral change. The company was born from “scratching her own itch” after a lifetime of poor sleep habits culminated into a mega-challenging bout of insomnia for months without end. With a background in psychology & human behavior, she went down the rabbit hole to solve her sleep disturbances without sleeping aids. She became fascinated with chronobiology, and by extension, its practical applications to restore a state of homeostasis not only to her sleep but also to her life as a whole. Knowing the difference between a life with sleep and without, she’s now dedicated her life to sharing the forgotten skill set of sleep.Website: https://www.sleepisaskill.comYou’ll LearnWhat to do in a day to get the best sleep at nightSunlight's impact on sleepHow food and eating patterns affect your sleepTips to overcome jetlagIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 039: How Sleep Impacts Your Physical and Emotional Attraction & Why You Need More Sleep Tonight  with Mollie McGlocklin

"You won't get to where you want to go if you stay where you are."Do you feel like you make resolutions each year but never achieve your goals? In today's episode, I share how you can begin to look forward make your plans and goals, make a change in your daily habits and daily schedule, and know exactly where to focus in order to grow and become the best you that you can be. Whether you are making goals for the next month, year, or decade, this implementable framework will provide a way for you to visualize your goals and create a path to get there. Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll LearnA framework for creating achievable goalsHow to succeed & reach your goals in 2021How to set goals to become the best version of yourself physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spirituallyEp 038: Setting & Reaching Your Personal Goals: The MUST-DO Process to Follow Every Year, with Kimberly Beam Holmes.

2020 is finally coming to a close, and you know what?... We made it! What a year it has been. In today's episode, we are looking back at the five best podcast moments of 2020 from It Starts With Attraction. I'm also going to be sharing some behind the scenes takes with you. Listen to this episode to hear the top tips offered from this year's podcast. Let's dive in!Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll LearnMy top 5 favorite tips from 2020How to change your thoughtsHow to decrease stressHow to become more attractive Ep 037: Best of 2020: Emotional Attraction, Changing Your Thoughts, and Decreasing Stress, with Kimberly Beam Holmes.

What can make you happier in life? It isn't more money, fame, or success. It's not a perfect body, the best Instagram pictures, or the most followers on any social platform. It's none of the things that we go crazy trying to achieve on a day to day basis. What really can make us happier in our lives, is how grateful we are for what we have. To bring it a little closer to home, it's how grateful you are in your life with the things that you have that can ultimately make you happier. In today's episode, we are going to talk about how to be grateful and express gratitude.Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll LearnHow being grateful can make you more attractiveActivities to help you create an attitude of gratitudeHow to be joy-filled NOW, not later.Ep 036: The Science of Gratitude, with Kimberly Beam Holmes.

Stress isn't just a feeling you feel like you might feel sad or happy. Stress is actually the result of a hormonal change that occurs in your body, especially from cortisol. In today's episode, I am speaking with Christa Biegler, an award-winning dietitian nutritionist. Tune into this episode to gain insight into things you need to start changing immediately in order to decrease your stress, decrease the cortisol in your body, and decrease your inflammation in order to better your health.Today’s Speaker - Christa Biegler, RDN, CLTChrista Biegler is an award-winning dietitian nutritionist, online educator, and host of The Less Stressed Life podcast. She specializes in helping health-conscious high-performance women overcome bloating, fatigue and food reactions. She is also the owner of Eczemanutritionist.com and author of The Eczema Relief Diet & Cookbook. She helps listeners and clients with unique ways to improve the inflammation causing stressors we inevitably have in life by sharing science that enlightens and inspires. Website: https://www.christabiegler.com/You’ll LearnThe definition of stressHow to implement breath-work into your daily lifeThings that build stress resilienceFoods that help manage symptoms of stressIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 035: How to Live a Less-Stressed Life with Christa Biegler

How do you actually take the concept of working on your PIES into stride and start doing it? Today, I am interviewing Kelly, a member of one of my PIES University classes. Kelly has had a year and a half journey of working on her PIES. In this episode, Kelly shares with us what finding out about PIES meant to her, how she started working on her pies, and the difference it has made in her life to actually implement the PIES principles. Listen to hear what "working on your PIES" looked like for Kelly, how she has done it, and the amazing changes she has seen in herself and the changes others have seen in her.Today’s Speaker - Kelly FlintI am 48 years old from upstate New York (Western upstate actually to be more specific). I am a wife, a mom, an aunt, and the oldest of two brothers and a sister. I have raised two children that my husband and I adopted in 2005 they are now 19 and 21. I have been married for 28 years. I also love dogs they are my or have been my identity for many years. I raised for guiding eyes for the blind out of Yorktown heights New York for guide dogs and other service dogs they partner with. I currently have 5 working Labradors as either guide or other service. I have worked as a teaching assistant for 24 years at a local career and technical school. My focus has been working with 10th through 12th graders to learn a skill in order to enroll into the career and technical program. My current position is working more closely with academics teachers within our alternative education high school program on the campus. Some things about me: I am a ChristianEnjoy campingEnjoy watching moviesMotorcycle rider (yes I own my own bike)Belong to a Christian Motorcyclist Association Chapter Solid Rock Riders (secretary and Run for the Son NYS Lead)Love being with my familyHave been involved with many committees throughout the years as Secretary or ChairpersonEarrings are my downfallGot my first tattoo at age 46Have 2 yellow labradors that brighten my days, Eliza Mae and Parker JonYou’ll LearnHow to start working on your PIESHow to make changes within yourselfThat it is okay to take the time to work on youHow to be there for othersIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 034: PIES Success Story  with Kelly Flint

I used to think rest was for the lazy. What I ended up experiencing was burnout, adrenal fatigue, complete demotivation, and depression because I had overworked myself.Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith has identified 7 different types of rest of which we should be aware. In this PIEScast, she shares how rest in each of those areas works. As I was having this conversation with Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith, I had many "Aha" moments and started immediately making changes to how I was interacting with things in my daily life. Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith shares her new book Sacred Rest and her key tips to recover your life, renew your energy, and restore your sanity. Take a listen to today's episode as I uncover some amazing things for you to know about rest in this conversation with Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith.Today’s Speaker - Dr. Saundra Dalton-SmithDr. Saundra Dalton-Smith is a Board-Certified internal medicine physician, speaker, and author. She is an international wellness expert featured in numerous media outlets including Prevention, MSNBC, Women’s Day, FOX, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and as a guest on Dr. Oz show. She is the author of numerous books including her new book Sacred Rest: Recover Your Life, Renew Your Energy, Restore Your Sanity, including ground-breaking insight on the seven types of rest needed to optimize your productivity, increase your overall happiness, overcome burnout, and live your best life. Over 100,000 people have discovered their personal rest deficits using her free assessment at RestQuiz.com. Learn more about Dr. Saundra at IChooseMyBestLife.com and DrDaltonSmith.com.You’ll LearnThe 7 types of restHow to rest and rejuvenateHow to end burnoutIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 033: The 7 Types of Rest with Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith

How would you describe a perfect day?What you think is a perfect day now and a perfect day 20 years from now probably have a lot of similarities. Both of them probably come down to the fact that you want more free time, more joy, less stress, and you want to be doing more of what you love doing and less of what you really don't enjoy doing.Right now you may be sacrificing your ideal day in order to obtain your ideal day 20 years from now. But what if you could have both now? In this episode, I am going to be talking about work-life balance, and how to get the life that you want 20 years from now today. Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll Learn3 Keys to having work-life balanceHow to prioritize time in your dayHow to identify what mattersThe importance of disconnectingEp 032: 3 Keys to Actual Work Life Balance, with Kimberly Beam Holmes.

Are you feeling unhappy with your life? If you feel unmotivated or disheartened, this episode is for you. In today's podcast, learn the four key elements to creating a happier and healthier life.  Learn how to shape your actions and perspectives to align with your goals. Sometimes all that is needed is a change of perspective. Listen to this podcast to hear Dr. Pamela Hays share wisdom about cultivating a happy life.Today’s Speaker - Dr. Pamela HaysPamela Hays holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the University of Hawaii, and served as a National Institute of Mental Health fellow at the University of Rochester School of Medicine, followed by 11 years on the graduate faculty of Antioch University Seattle. Her research has included work with Muslim women in North Africa, and Vietnamese, Lao, and Cambodian people in the U.S.  In 2000, she returned to her home community on the Kenai Peninsula of Alaska, where she lives in a town of 4,000 humans and several thousand moose. She has since worked with the local health center, for the Kenaitze Tribe’s Wellness Center, and in private practice. She conducts trainings for therapists and organizations nationally, and the American Psychological Association has produced videos of her work conducting therapy with clients. She is the author of several books including Connecting across Cultures: The Helper’s Toolkit, and Addressing Cultural Complexities in Practice. Her most recent book is Creating Well-Being: Four Steps to a Happier, Healthier Life.  Website:  www.DrPamelaHays.comYou’ll LearnThe four steps to a better well-beingHow to change your perspective to reach goalsHow to reframe what self-care means1 BONUS key to happinessIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 031: Four Steps To A Happier, Healthier Life with Dr. Pamela Hays

How do you sleep the night before you are about to meet your children for the first time?The answer is... You don't.  We couldn't sleep because we knew our lives were about to fundamentally change. When we started our process of adoption, we had no idea the trials and tribulations we would face and the patience we would learn. It literally changed my life. Going through something your heart desperately wants and you have no control over is something that changed who I am now as a person. If you are in a season of waiting for something to happen that your heart is yearning for, and you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, then this podcast is for you.I'm going to share my story of adoption, what my season of waiting looked like,  how I saw answers to my prayers, and how I grew into a better person through the grueling and treacherous process of waiting.Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll LearnHow to keep trials from stopping youHow to be sensitive to your callingHow to grow in seasons of waitingEp 030: In The Waiting (Our Story of Adoption), with Kimberly Beam Holmes.

Lust kills love. Porn and sex addiction can wreak havoc in an intimate relationship and it can affect someone personally when they are entrenched in the addiction. In our culture, it can be easier to chase after lust than to find real love. In this podcast, Nate Larkin shares how he overcame his twenty-year struggle with sexual addiction. Even if you are not struggling with sex addiction, this podcast can help you know how to run free from feelings of guilt and shame.Today’s Speaker – Nate LarkinNate Larkin knows the pressure to live up to a public persona. He knows what it's like to have a secret that can destroy a career. He knows what it's like to quit. And He knows what it's like to find healing, deep friendships, and hope. Nate has a story that unfortunately too many people can relate with. He was the perfect role model growing up. Everything looked great on the outside. But inside Nate, a battle was raging. He married Allie on his graduation day and soon enrolled in Princeton Theological Seminary. He graduated from Princeton with a major in Preaching and was awarded the Preaching Prize. Within two years, Nate was the senior pastor for a new non-denominational church in South Florida. Observers saw a wise and godly man of God, dedicated to church and home. But Nate’s religious persona was crumbling from the inside out. After just five years in the ministry, Nate made the choice to quit. An obsession had developed into a virulent addiction to pornography and commercial sex. His decision to abandon vocational ministry was driven primarily by private despair about his moral failures and the fear of public exposure.Eventually, Nate and Allie moved to Franklin, TN. After years of praying, fasting, pleading, and repenting in private, Nate finally found help for his sex addiction—in the form of authentic friendship and the safety of a 12-step recovery group.  As he worked through the 12 steps, Nate began to see life differently. Nate finally understood why a 12-step group had accomplished what solitary prayer and fasting could not. God designed the Christian life as a team sport! As he began to live in this new model of Christianity, Nate’s circle of friends expanded to include a large group of men with different weaknesses, addicts and potential addicts of every description, united by a common faith and a need for real companionship.So in 2004, several of these friends formed a mutual aid society for Christian men called the Samson Society. Within the safety of the Samson Society, honest friendships have taken root and men are finding new power in their faith. Nate, who drafted the Society’s charter and designed its first meeting format, has written a book about his experiences entitled Samson and the Pirate Monks: Calling Men to Authentic Brotherhood, which was published by Thomas Nelson in February 2007. (He is also the author, with Darrell Waltrip, of Sundays Will Never Be the Same).As of 2012, more than 250 local Samson Society groups are functioning in the United States, and others have started in other countries. A social networking website has been established to connect men who do not have access to a local meeting. Nate loves talking to men about their need for community and how they can overcome struggles together. Website: www.SamsonSociety.orgYou’ll Learn How to know if you have a sex addictionThe key to overcoming sex addictionHow to help a spouse struggling with sex addictionIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 029:  Overcoming Sex Addiction  with Nate Larkin 

There are smart and not so smart ways that you can communicate with the people in your life. Unfortunately, the majority of us end up defaulting to a type of communication style that only causes frustration, anger in relationships, and disillusion. These types of communication do not seek to clearly communicate and listen to identify core issues and move forward in the best way possible.Instead, learn how to communicate with people in your lives in a smart way. The principles of SMART Communication should be implemented in the important relationships in our lives in order for the best, most efficient communication possible. With SMART Communication, learn how to communicate clearly and effectively while strengthening your relationships. Join me today to learn about part 2 of smart communication.Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll LearnWhat SMART Communication isHow to have healthy communication in your relationshipsHow to move past feelings of contemptFind ways to connect better with people in your lifeEp 028: SMART Communication in Your Relationships: Part 2, with Kimberly Beam Holmes. 

You have probably seen many people communicate with others in a way that you thought, "Oh my goodness. This is a disaster."There are smart and not so smart ways that you can communicate with the people in your life. Unfortunately, the majority of us end up defaulting to a type of communication style that only causes frustration, anger in relationships, and disillusion. These types of communication do not seek to clearly communicate and listen to identify core issues and move forward in the best way possible.Instead, learn how to communicate with people in your lives in a smart way. The principles of SMART Communication should be implemented in the important relationships in our lives in order for the best, most efficient communication possible. With SMART Communication, learn how to communicate clearly and effectively while strengthening your relationships.Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll LearnWhat SMART Communication isHow to have healthy communication in your relationshipsHow to move past feelings of contemptFind ways to connect better with people in your lifeEp 027: SMART Communication in Your Relationships: Part 1, with Kimberly Beam Holmes. 

Have you ever been frustrated in your life? Maybe you have felt frustrated on a monthly, weekly, or even daily basis. If you are wondering where these feelings of frustration come from and how to lower your frustration, then this podcast is for you! In today's episode, you will gain an understanding of how to deal with a situation rather than reacting to it.Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll LearnWhere frustration comes fromHow to lower your frustrationThe importance of self-awareness with frustrationHow to stop reacting to situations with frustrationEp 026: How to Deal with Frustration, with Kimberly Beam Holmes. 

Do you need help dealing with addiction either for yourself or a loved one?  If your loved one loved you back, would he or she be able to stop the hurtful behavior? Today’s guest, David Mathews, explains the definition of addiction and talks about several ways addiction affects the brain, explaining how “natural dopamine production in the body is like whispering in your ear. When you have artificial drugs coming in, it’s like someone shouting with a megaphone in your ear.”David Mathews goes into detail about how some personalities are more susceptible to addiction, how an addict’s brain gets reprogrammed, and what to do when supporting a loved one who suffers from addiction.  Mathew’s greatest advice is “There’s always, always, always hope. Until there is no hope”. Don’t miss today’s informative show!Today’s Speaker – David MathewsIn 2008, David and Debbie Mathews founded Spark of Life, a non-profit organization, following the loss of their grandson.  Since then, Spark of Life has conducted over 60 weekend Grief Recovery Workshops, with over 7,000 attending. The organization continues to grow, offering a Grief Recovery Online Course, Grief Coaching with certified Grief Recovery Coaches, and Virtual Grief Recovery Retreats. David Mathews has been leading the Marriage Helper workshop for over 10 years. He has his Master’s in Addiction Counseling and has worked with people for decades in that area.  David is the author of Why Do You Hurt Me, God?, a book that comes out of working with thousands of people who have asked that question following both death and non-death losses. Website: sparkoflife.org; Marriage HelperInstagram: @sparkoflife.orgFacebook: Spark of LifeYou’ll Learn The definition of addictionWhether an addict can simply stop hurtful behavior without helpThe difference between having a problem versus having an addictionHow to support an addictHow an addict’s brain worksIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 025:  Signs of Addiction with David Mathews 

Are you wanting to know how to get past the guilt you are feeling? If you are feeling guilty or know someone who is overwhelmed with guilt, this podcast is for you. In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam breaks down his own story of getting past guilt and shares how to accept forgiveness. Dr. Joe Beam shares why initially feeling guilt is a good thing. After listening to this podcast, you will understand what to do about guilt, how to move past it, accept forgiveness, and talk to someone who is overwhelmed with guilt. Today’s Speaker - Dr. Joe BeamAn internationally known and respected sexologist and authority on love, marriage and sex. He received his PhD from the University of Sydney. He is the founder and chair of Marriage Helper based in Tennessee, just south of Nashville.He has designed and developed courses, workshops and seminars to help troubled marriages for over two decades. He has been seen on nationwide media and spoken to countless couples through live seminars, dedicated radio programs and books. Today he dedicates most of his time to researching and developing new ways to help couples in crisis. Old ways don’t always work in today’s human environment. You’ll agree that times have changed since your parents were married and your issues are not the same. Our approach to bringing back the passion and energy in a marriage is dynamic and effective.Saving marriages is not an occupation for Dr. Beam. It is a mission – a mission that has consumed his heart for decades. “My original goal was to reduce divorce in this country by ten percent over a ten year period,” explains Beam. “I came to realize that we couldn’t do this by only helping marriages in trouble. We had to educate couples to change the way they live so their marriage could be all it could be.” This type of broader thinking and the methodology used to deliver the message is having a huge impact on families today. By reaching beyond the mind and into the heart and soul of men and women, love finds new ways to allow couples to communicate and create a relationship that is aware but not conducive to divorce.Seeing the results of his mission in multiplied thousands has not only strengthened Joe’s resolve but added even more momentum to the mission. Today, the popular idea that divorce is a fact of life is being challenged vigorously. Saving marriages is not a job, it’s an all-consuming passion and every marriage saved is a testimony that the mission can be accomplished.Website: https://marriagehelper.comBook: Getting Past GuiltYou’ll LearnThe good purpose of guiltWhat to do about guiltHow to move past guiltHow to accept forgivenessHow to talk to someone who is overwhelmed with guiltIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 024: Getting Past Guilt with Dr. Joe Beam

If you have ever heard the term Macro Dieting and thought, "That's WAY too much math" then this episode is for you. Today, I am talking to Registered Dietitian, Emily Field who has been working in the field of macro dieting. In today's episode, we will be sharing what macros are, how to eat for your macros, and how macros affect your body.*Be sure to download the attraction assessment by opting in to emails at itstartswithattraction.com.Today’s Speaker - Emily Field, RDEmily Field is not your average Dietitian.She uses her expertise to empower her clients to embrace a macro-based, balanced eating pattern that protects their metabolism, supports lean muscle gains, and leads to stress-free, fat loss.She eats the yolks, adds heavy cream to her coffee and tops with guacamole whenever possible. Straight talk and tough love is what you’ll get from her.She believes that strong is beautiful. Calories are not to be feared, but neither are potatoes or poptarts. Your worth is not wrapped up in the size of your pants or the number on the scale. Everywhere we turn, we are bombarded with messages about our health. Often the messages are complicated, confusing and contradictory. If you’re ready to mute that noise and learn what really works for your body, contact Emily Field RD.Website: https://emilyfieldrd.comYou’ll LearnWhat macros areDifference between calorie-tracking and macro-dietingHow to eat for your macrosHow macros affect your bodyHow different diets (vegan, paleo, etc.) compare to macrosIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 023: Eating for Your Macros with Emily Field RD

How many times do you say things about yourself or to yourself (mentally or even out loud!) that are hurtful to you, degrading to you, and tearing down your own self-esteem?This negative self-talk can come up so sneakily in ways that you don't even realize it's happening unless you are aware and conscious about it. In today's episode, you will learn all about identifying and stopping negative self-talk. I'm going to give you 5 things you can do to help you switch the way you are speaking to yourself. You can go from negative to being conscious of being more positive in the things that you say and the ways that you think about yourself.I'm the first to say that I clearly do not have this nailed down. I am struggling through this just like you, but these are things I have been using and implementing over the past several months. While I haven't conquered my negative self-talk yet, these things have helped me identify it, stop it, and flip the script more times than not. Today’s Speaker - Kimberly Beam Holmes Kimberly Holmes is passionate about saving marriages and strengthening families while helping people become the best versions of themselves.During her five-year tenure as CEO of Marriage Helper, she has led the company to quadruple financially and grow to more than 200,000 followers per month across multiple platforms. Because of their unique process, Marriage Helper has a 77 percent success rate in saving marriages.A frequent speaker at women’s conferences and alongside Dr. Joe Beam at marriage events, Holmes holds a master’s degree in psychology from Northcentral University. She lives in Tennessee with her husband of 9 years and her two children adopted from India.Website: http://www.PIESUniversity.comInstagram: @kimberlybeamholmesYou’ll LearnMy personal struggles with negative self-talk5 things to do to switch the way you are speaking to yourselfHow to identify and stop your negative self-talkHow to raise your self-esteemIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 022: Stop the Negative Self-Talk with Kimberly Beam Holmes

Are you struggling to understand what another person might be thinking or feeling?Did you know there are seven UNIVERSAL emotions? Hear Dr. David Matsumoto, a psychologist who has studied micro-expressions and human behaviors, explain what the seven universal emotions are and what drives them. If you are wanting to know how to combat the negative emotions in your relationships, this PIEScast is for you!This PIEScast is not only about noticing facial expressions and having better conversations with others. We are going to take a deep dive into the driving forces behind each of the seven universal emotions. Listen to this PIEScast to hear Dr. David Matsumoto share what matters MORE than science and research.Today’s Speaker - Dr. David MatsumotoDr. David Matsumoto, Director of Humintell, is a renowned expert in the field of microexpressions, facial expression, gesture, nonverbal behavior, emotion and culture. He has published over 400+ articles, manuscripts, book chapters and books on these subjects.Since 1989 Matsumoto has been a Professor of Psychology at San Francisco State University. He is also the founder and director of SFSU’s Culture and Emotion Research Laboratory. The laboratory focuses on studies involving culture, emotion, social interaction and communication.  In 2009, Matsumoto was one of the select few to receive the prestigious Minerva Grant; a $1.9 million grant from the US Department of Defense to examine the role of emotions in ideologically-based groups. In addition to his work at Humintell and San Francisco State University, Matsumoto is the author of numerous books and articles. He also served as the Editor-in-Chief for the Journal of Cross-Cultural Psychology and is an Editor of the Culture and Diversity Section for the Social and Personality Psychology Compass. Matsumoto is also an Editorial Board Member for Personality and Social Psychology Review, Asian Journal of Social Psychology, Asian Psychologist, Journal of Nonverbal Behavior, Motivation and Emotion, Cognition and Emotion, Human Communication, Journal of Comparative Family Studies and Archives of Budo.Matsumoto is also the founder and program director of the East Bay Judo Institute in El Cerrito, California.  He holds a 7th degree black belt and well as class A Coaching and Referee Licenses. He has won countless awards, including the US Olympic Committee’s Coach of the Year Award in 2003. In addition to holding various positions within the United States Judo Federation and USA Judo, Matsumoto served as the head coach of the 1996 Atlanta Olympic Judo Team and was the Team Leader for the 2000 Sydney Olympic Judo Team. Matsumoto first began studying psychology at the University of Michigan at Ann Arbor, where he received his Bachelors Degree. He obtained his Masters and Doctorate Degrees in Psychology from the University of California at Berkeley.Website:https://www.humintell.comYou’ll LearnThe 7 universal emotions / how to understand themHow to combat negative emotionsThe importance of wisdom versus knowledgeHow to build empathyIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 021: The 7 Universal Emotions & What Drives Them with Dr. David Matsumoto

Do you struggle with your own body image, your relationship with food so much that you suffer from disordered eating habits? If so, you are not alone. Hear Kimberly Beam Holmes share her story and how she broke free from the prison of her eating habits.  If you are constantly worried about what you are about to eat while secretly feeling guilty about what you just ate, this PIEScast is for you!Sometimes we don’t even realize how obsessive we’ve become in our habits, perceptions, negative thoughts about ourselves. Often, these perceptions are developed in childhood or early adolescence. So how can we change the lies we tell ourselves? When does the shame stop? What does the healing process look like from a real and honest perspective? Listen to a real story and a way THROUGH the struggle with Kimberly Beam Holmes in today’s episode!Today’s Speaker - Kimberly Beam Holmes Kimberly Holmes is passionate about saving marriages and strengthening families while helping people become the best versions of themselves.During her five-year tenure as CEO of Marriage Helper, she has led the company to quadruple financially and grow to more than 200,000 followers per month across multiple platforms. Because of their unique process, Marriage Helper has a 77 percent success rate in saving marriages.A frequent speaker at women’s conferences and alongside Dr. Joe Beam at marriage events, Holmes holds a master’s degree in psychology from Northcentral University. She lives in Tennessee with her husband of 9 years and her two children adopted from India.Website: http://www.PIESUniversity.comInstagram: @kimberlybeamholmesYou’ll LearnTo examine your true feelings about food Understanding of where these food and body perceptions originateWhat habits and mindsets need to change around foodHow to balance out food and exercise How to change negative perceptions to positive affirmationsTo be encouraged in your journey for a healthier relationship with food and eating habitsIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 020: My Struggle with Body Image, Food, and Disordered Eating with Kimberly Beam Holmes

When is the last time you focused on how you are breathing? Our breath is connected to life. Learn the importance of breath-- not just from a physiological standpoint-- but also on an emotional and spiritual level. In today's episode, Keleah Anderson is going to share with you all about breath, burnout, and going deeper with Jesus. Today’s Speaker- Keleah AndersonKeleah came to Yoga through two passions ~ cheerleading and gymnastics. The rhythm and movement of yoga was a beautiful extension of her two greatest childhood loves that had led her to a career in health & fitness.   With an education background in physical therapy/anatomy and over 25 years of experience teaching and training, yoga quickly became another class she could offer her clients.   It was not until her personal journey with depression found new depths of healing through her practice that yoga became something completely different.  Keleah found movement that was sacred, union that was restful and postures that were powerful.  She found home - a place of Being, not doing! A lifetime of cheering included a collegiate cheer career at The University of Tennessee, Knoxville from 1991-1994.  Keleah began her yoga practice in 1999 and took her first teacher training in November of 2001.   She followed that with a 200-hour training in Ashtanga in 2004.   She spent 2 years in Austin, Texas studying Ashtanga, Vinyasa and Anusara Yoga extensively. In addition, in 2011 she completed Holy Yoga training. In May of 2016, Keleah opened Abundant Yoga Studio.  Founded on following the Holy Spirit (goose-symbol) and circling in prayer (the circle) this unique yoga system honors God first and offers a biblically-based practice.  Keleah’s passion today is to help develop and inspire yoga teachers to offer something Abundantly beyond a physical yoga practice – to facilitate worship through message and movement.After 20 years guiding students on the mat in the group setting, today Keleah sees her calling to the mission of Abundant Yoga as one of God’s greatest gifts.  Keleah resides in Franklin, Tennessee with her husband of 24 years, 3 children and their dog, Rosie.  When not on her yoga mat, her favorite place to be is on the lake or the beach in the sunshine with her family.Website: https://www.abundantyoga.comYou’ll LearnHow to practice breathing and decrease anxietyHow to find balance in your lifeThe importance of self-care in avoiding burnout It Starts With Attraction Ep. 019: The Importance of Breath with Keleah Anderson

Have you ever been in a conversation where you find yourself becoming more and more frustrated?There are a lot of conversations, or talking back and forth to each other, going on in the world right now. A lot of people are talking and responding, but is a conversation actually happening? This communication is ultimately leading to confusion, anger, and division in relationships-- even relationships we hold nearest and dearest.In today's episode, find out how to change the conversation to be meaningful. Learn how to talk so that others understand you and to listen so that others feel heard. After listening to this podcast, you will understand how to have a conversation that brings confidence, connection, and compassion.Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll LearnThe difference between talking and having a conversation5 things to do now to change your conversationsHow to listen so that others feel heardHow to talk so that others understand youEp 018: Changing The Conversation, with Kimberly Beam Holmes. 

Is there a relationship in your life that you are hyperfocused on? Is your relationship with your spouse not going well? Is your relationship with your child not as strong as you want it to be? Is your relationship with your family member or friend fractured because of a disagreement? In this episode, gain insight into why you need to stop focusing on your relationship, what you need to do instead to restore the relationship and give you the best possible future going forward.Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll LearnWhy you need to stop focusing on your relationship How to replace and change worrisome thoughtsWhat to do to restore a broken relationshipHow to restore yourselfEp 017: Why You Should Stop Focusing On Your Relationship, with Kimberly Beam Holmes. 

How do you forgive even when you don't want to, don't feel like it, or have no idea how to? If you missed part one, be sure to go back and listen to that first! Today we are doing even deeper into forgiveness. We will be sharing why to forgive, the freedom on the other side of it, and how to move forward in forgiveness.In today's episode, Kimberly Holmes continues the conversation with Al and Lisa Robertson of Duck Dynasty, who are sharing their story of desperate forgiveness. You will hear about how they have used forgiveness to free them, heal them, and restore their marriage. Today’s Speakers - Al and Lisa RobertsonAlan Robertson is the oldest son of the Duck Commander, Phil Robertson and his wife, Miss Kay and Lisa calls herself “the original Robertson daughter-in-law”.  They appeared on the family’s hit television show, Duck Dynasty on A&E, with the rest of the family where Al was known as the beardless brother. They pastored for 22+ years at the White’s Ferry Road Church in West Monroe, LA before returning to the family business, Duck Commander, to appear on the TV show and speak around the country. They partnered with Miss Kay and opened Miss Kay’s Sweets and Eats in West Monroe in 2016.Al and Lisa have written and co-written devotional books, books about the Robertson family and also their own story, A New Season. They partnered with Focus on the Family for their latest book, Desperate Forgiveness. Al also started a production company with his cousin, Zach Dasher that produces shows on BlazeTV.com, including Phil’s show, In the Woods With Phil. He is also the host of Phil’s Podcast, Unashamed with Phil Robertson, also starring his brother Jase, Alan and Lisa have been married for 35 years, have two married daughters, four granddaughters and two grandsons.  Their passion is spending time with their family, traveling together, writing books, doing marriage retreats, speaking for pro-life causes and working hard to help strengthen and save marriages by sharing what God has done in their own marriage through brokenness, renewal, hope and forgiveness. Book: Desperate ForgivenessYou’ll LearnHow to forgiveWhy to forgiveThe freedom on the other side of forgivenessHow freedom heals youThe best thing to start doing NOW to move forward in forgiveness It Starts With Attraction Ep. 016: Desperate Forgiveness: Part 2 with Al and Lisa Robertson

Has there ever been a person or circumstance in your life that you have had difficulty moving on from? Has there been someone who hurt you? Has something happened that you can't seem to move past no matter how much you want to? No matter how much you have tried? If you feel stuck, then this podcast episode is for you. In today's episode, Kimberly Holmes speaks with Al and Lisa Robertson of Duck Dynasty, who are sharing their story of desperate forgiveness. You will hear about how they have used forgiveness to free them, heal them, and restore their marriage. Today’s Speakers - Al and Lisa RobertsonAlan Robertson is the oldest son of the Duck Commander, Phil Robertson and his wife, Miss Kay and Lisa calls herself “the original Robertson daughter-in-law”.  They appeared on the family’s hit television show, Duck Dynasty on A&E, with the rest of the family where Al was known as the beardless brother. They pastored for 22+ years at the White’s Ferry Road Church in West Monroe, LA before returning to the family business, Duck Commander, to appear on the TV show and speak around the country. They partnered with Miss Kay and opened Miss Kay’s Sweets and Eats in West Monroe in 2016.Al and Lisa have written and co-written devotional books, books about the Robertson family and also their own story, A New Season. They partnered with Focus on the Family for their latest book, Desperate Forgiveness. Al also started a production company with his cousin, Zach Dasher that produces shows on BlazeTV.com, including Phil’s show, In the Woods With Phil. He is also the host of Phil’s Podcast, Unashamed with Phil Robertson, also starring his brother Jase, Alan and Lisa have been married for 35 years, have two married daughters, four granddaughters and two grandsons.  Their passion is spending time with their family, traveling together, writing books, doing marriage retreats, speaking for pro-life causes and working hard to help strengthen and save marriages by sharing what God has done in their own marriage through brokenness, renewal, hope and forgiveness. Book: Desperate ForgivenessYou’ll LearnHow and why to forgive yourself and othersHow to know if forgiveness has happenedHow to view forgiveness from a different perspectiveHow to quit being a victim and become a victor It Starts With Attraction Ep. 015: Desperate Forgiveness: Part 1 with Al and Lisa Robertson

Do you have the keys to health, nutrition, and finding a provider you trust? What difference can finding the RIGHT doctor for your family truly make? Dr. Theron Hutton is a well-traveled, experienced, compassionate, humble physician who is highly trained in diagnosing illnesses and conditions based on his finely tuned patient listening skills and medical training. He does not always prescribe the most expensive tests or treatments, but he strives to get to the bottom of whatever ailment his patients experience.  Dr. Hutton explains his philosophy on what to look for in a physician in today’s world, as well as how to use the plethora of information available on the internet to everyone.  In Dr. Hutton’s opinion, “ill health comes from broken relationships. These relationships can be with self, with nature, God, and others.”  Listen to his advice on how to repair your health – one relationship at a time.Today’s Speaker - Dr Theron Hutton As a Board Certified Family Physician in practice for 17 years, Dr. Hutton has special interest in preventative and nutritional and integrative medicine. He is certified in functional medicine from the Institute of Functional Medicine and is a member of the Medical Association of Pediatric Special Needs and ILADS International Lyme disease institute.  After his residency training he and his family moved to Uganda for 5 years where they served as medical missionaries.  He moved back to the US in 2013 and opened a small private practice. He enjoys fitness, farming and spending time with his wife and 8 children.Website: MulberryClinics.comBlog: DocHutton.com You’ll Learn·      How practicing medicine is different in Africa·      Some of the biggest myths either in print, media, or that clients believe·      The most important things to focus on to gain ideal health·      What are some of the biggest issues that clients experience today·      What to look for in a doctorIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 014: The Keys to Health, Nutrition and Finding A Provider You Trust with Dr. Theron Hutton

What are the signs of a quarter or mid life crisis?  David Mathews, renowned grief counselor, addresses this common question and what to do if you find yourself in the midst of a crisis.  Mathews defines a mid life crisis as becoming aware of your own mortality.  He describes some signs or steps that may show that you are in a crisis or have been in one. Mathews notes that usually a mid life crisis is associated with some loss, so people need to grieve. Mathews shares his philosophy of grief: “To give voice to my pain; give voice to my feelings; I’m not crazy. I’m not weak. I’m not weak in faith.”  After sharing about loss and grief, Mathews goes on to teach ways to move forward in these feelings, “no matter what you’re feeling—it’s normal. Give yourself permission to have those feelings.” If you have been wondering about a loss you may have suffered, don’t miss today’s episode to learn how to recognize a crisis, deal with your loss, and move forward with your life.Today’s Speaker – David MatthewsIn 2008, David and Debbie Mathews founded Spark of Life, a non-profit organization, following the loss of their grandson.  Since then, Spark of Life has conducted over 60 weekend Grief Recovery Workshops, with over 7,000 attending. The organization continues to grow, offering a Grief Recovery Online Course, Grief Coaching with certified Grief Recovery Coaches, and Virtual Grief Recovery Retreats.David Mathews has been leading the Marriage Helper workshop for over 10 years. He has his Master’s in Addiction Counseling and has worked with people for decades in that area. David is the author of Why Do You Hurt Me, God?, a book that comes out of working with thousands of people who have asked that question following both death and non-death losses. Website: sparkoflife.org; Marriage HelperInstagram: @sparkoflife.orgFacebook: Spark of Life You’ll LearnWhat a mid-life crisis isWhether quarter life crises is realMain losses that people experience when they are in their 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s…How to prepare for a loss before it happens Ways to move forward from loss It Starts With Attraction Ep. 013:  Signs of a Quarter/Mid Life Crisis with David Mathews 

What exactly is so powerful about prayer? Have you wondered how or why you should build a healthy prayer life and what steps you should take to pray effectively and grow in your faith? Today’s guest, Leighann McCoy, provides wisdom about talking to God and letting Him meet you where you are in your faith. She offers reassurance about our current habits, tips on how to grow in our daily practice of faith, and resources on why we should pray at all.  When asked if we should even pray if God already knows the answers, she offers: “God is all about the BIG. But He will also be about all the minute details of our personal lives.” McCoy is often asked the greater purpose in prayer.  McCoy states, “The main purpose of prayer is for God to answer us." She goes on to discuss how we should discern the voice of God from the voice of our enemy, and how we can grow our prayers with others or alone just by following a few simple steps. You don’t want to miss this enlightening and encouraging episode!Today’s Speaker - LeighAnn McCoyLeighann McCoy is the founder of The Prayer Clinic and a teacher and motivational speaker. She’s written 16 books and taught thousands of people to pray. She uses humor joined with deep spiritual insight to encourage others to embrace an intimate personal relationship with God that leads them to partner with Him in His kingdom work.  She serves as the prayer minister at Thompson Station Church in Thompson Station, TN where her husband, Tom is the senior pastor.Leighann graduated from Samford University with a Bachelor of Arts degree, then completed her Masters of Arts in Religious Education from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary (Ft. Worth, TX).  Website: https://prayer.clinicYou'll LearnThe purpose of prayerWhy we pray if God already knows what needs toHow scripture teaches us to prayWhat steps to take to begin a prayer lifeWhy we should journal our prayersIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 012: The Power of Prayer with LeighAnn McCoy

Do you ever wonder how to design an attractive environment? Do colors, smells, sounds, and shapes around us truly affect our moods? Do they control our behaviors? According to today’s guest, Dr. Sally Augustin, the answer is overwhelmingly yes! Dr. Augustin has spent years doing environmental psychology research, and she shares today how our moods and behavior are very much influenced by what we perceive in our surroundings. You won’t want to miss today’s fascinating discoveries about how to design each room in your home, office, or at the gym according to the purpose and desired outcomes in the space.  Dr. Augustin also shares which of the senses is most powerful and how to set up your space for success! Find out how in today’s episode!Today’s Speaker - Dr. Sally AugustinSally Augustin, PhD, is a practicing environmental/design psychologist and the principal at Design With Science. She has extensive experience integrating science-based insights to develop recommendations for the design of places, objects, and services that support desired cognitive, emotional, and physical experiences.Dr. Augustin began her research in retail design projects many years ago. Her experience led her to pursue a PhD in Environmental Psychology. She holds leadership positions in professional organizations such as the American Psychological Association and the Environmental Design Research Association.   Dr. Augustin is the author of Place Advantage:  Applied Psychology for Interior Architecture (Wiley, 2009) and, with Cindy Coleman, The Designer’s Guide to Doing Research:  Applying Knowledge to Inform Design (Wiley, 2012). She has also written a new book called Designology.Website: www.DesignWithScience.comBook: DesignologyYou’ll LearnWhich colors work best in certain rooms and why How sounds can help with concentrationWhich sense is most likely to be nostalgicDo introverts and extroverts process our surroundings differentlyWhich colors evoke emotional and cognitive responsesWhat shapes promote productivityIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 011: Designing an Attractive Environment, with Dr. Sally Augustin

Could mindfulness be the hidden gem to being happy?What is mindfulness? In this podcast, you will learn the research behind mindfulness and gain an understanding of how mindfulness can benefit you in four key areas- Mind, Brain, Body, and Behaviors. Listen to today's episode to learn ways to apply mindfulness to your everyday life, start dealing with your emotions, be present, and disconnect from distractions.Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comMentioned: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/1533210108329862You’ll LearnWhat mindfulness isA quick mindfulness practice5 Ways to integrate mindfulness into your everyday lifeHow mindfulness affects your mind, body, brain, and behaviorsHow mindfulness helps with PIESEp 010: Mindfulness: The Hidden Gem of Being Happy, with Kimberly Beam Holmes. 

Do you know what the 3 fruits of a healthy relationship are? Have you ever heard that your relationships can only be as healthy as you are as an individual? Hear renowned psychologists and authors Drs Les and Leslie Parrott speak about what people hunger for when seeking healthy relationships and where to start to engage in a healthy, long-term relationship.  According to Dr. Parrott, “If you try to build intimacy with another person before you’ve done the difficult work of getting whole or healthy on your own, all your relationships become an attempt to complete yourself and they will fall flat”.  Moreover, when you’re searching for a person to be in relationship with, “it’s not about finding the right person, it’s about becoming the right person”. Learn how to begin a new relationship with awareness of positive and negative self talk, as well as the 3 major areas of any relationship to consider on today’s episode! Today’s Speakers - Drs. Les and Leslie ParrottLes and Leslie are a husband-and-wife team who not only share the same name, but the same passion for helping others build healthy relationships. Les is a professor of psychology at Northwest University and they are founders of the Center for Healthy Relationships on the campus of Olivet University. Their professional training – Leslie as a marriage and family therapist, and Les as a clinical psychologist – ensures a presentation that is grounded, insightful and cutting-edge. The Parrotts have been featured in USA Today and the New York Times. Their television appearances include CNN, The View, The O’Reilly Factor, The Today Show and Oprah.  As #1 New York Times best-selling authors, their books have sold over two million copies in more than two dozen languages. Please check out their latest work and take the free assessment for the health of your self-talk (and relationships) by visiting HealthyMeHealthyUs.com.Website: LesandLeslie.com; HealthyMeHealthyUs.comBook: Healthy Me, Healthy Us You’ll LearnWhy it is important to identify toxic self-talkWhere toxic self-talk stems fromThe 3 fruits of a healthy relationshipWhere positive self talk should stem fromWhether technology is harming your relationships It Starts With Attraction Ep. 014: 3 Fruits of a Healthy Relationship with Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott 

Do you know how to think about what you're thinking about? Do you struggle with controlling the direction of your thoughts? So many people want to have a positive attitude and form great habits, but we often ignore the most important part of developing any good habit: planning to maintain a positive mindset first.  Today’s speaker, Jim Pourteau, talks through ways to treat ourselves as we would a friend. He suggests we look for opportunities to release negative and overwhelming thoughts bouncing around in our heads, and break these patterns into a manageable process.  “The way we think sets up our reality. Be intentional. Give it time.” Listen to today’s episode to learn how to create positive thought patterns to direct your life! Today’s Speaker - Jim Pourteau Jim Pourteau has been developing leaders for almost 30 years.  He has served as the leader and culture creator in a number of major companies, a mentor in the world's largest coaching organization and as a member of the President's Advisory Council of the John Maxwell Team.  As a speaker and culture development expert, Jim's clients include both local and national brands such as the NCAA, Chick-Fil-A, Columbia University and many more.  As an executive coach, Jim is called upon to walk alongside organizations and individuals in developing strong vision and culture creation.  Jim and his wife Shannon have been married for 32 years and live just outside of Nashville, TN.Website: www.marriagehelper.comSocial: @jwpourteau  You’ll Learn How to develop a conscious competenceWhat steps YOUR brain needs you to take to properly breakdown thoughtsWhere to get started on a more positive mental statusHow to create opportunities to control your thoughtsHow to create the habit of PAUSE  It Starts With Attraction Ep. 009: How to Think About What You’re Thinking About with Jim Pourteau

Doing a Whole30 is about so much more than food...it's about creating boundaries and finding food freedom. But most of the time, we turn to food to help us overcome or hide uncomfortable feelings. So many of us use food as a coping mechanism that food-related illnesses hit at an all time high. Recognizing this weakness, Melissa Urban created a Whole30 program that is designed to give its participants freedom from the bad habits and poor choices our diets have created, “I was looking for something and I was never going to find it in these foods”. The program is about much more than food! “It’s uncomfortable to deal with feelings.  Realizing that that discomfort is not going to kill you is really profoundly impactful”. Hear Melissa share in depth about the program, what it can teach you about yourself, and how you can learn to accept your feelings in today’s episode!Today’s Speaker: Melissa UrbanMelissa Urban is the co-founder and CEO of the Whole30 program, and a six-time New York Times bestselling author. She has been featured by Dr. Oz, Good Morning America, the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, People, and Forbes; and ranks #19 on Greatists Top 100 Most Influential People in Health and Fitness. Melissa is the host of the Do the Thing podcast, and is a prominent keynote speaker on social media and branding, health trends, and entrepreneurship. She lives in Salt Lake City, UT. Website: ​ Whole30.comSocial:  Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, Pinterest: @whole30Facebook: facebook.com/whole30 Melissa's personal social:​Instagram: @melissauPodcast: Do The Thing You’ll LearnWhat led to the creation of the Whole30What the Whole30 program is truly aboutHow the Whole30 changes lives How the Whole30 can continue to change your life after you’ve completed the first oneWhat to do if you feel progress gets slowed to a stop with your healthTips to successfully completing a Whole30How the mission of the Whole30 has changed over the yearsIt Starts With Attraction Ep. 007 Whole30, Boundaries & Finding Food Freedom with Melissa Urban

Here is the best exercise for you to do to see the biggest results in the least amount of time. When you know you need to get in shape but you’re not sure where to begin, the task can seem overwhelming. Fitness expert Jerred Moon breaks things down on an individual level based on a mental “sticking power” assessment he provides to all of his clients. Moon suggests only one new habit at a time is necessary to begin an effective fitness routine, and often this habit revolves around improving nutrition. Often, we strive to change too many aspects in our lives at once and end up injured or burned out, so we don’t continue to improve our fitness. Moon’s garage gym programs, developed inside his company, EO3, meet individuals who want to get in shape where they are currently and develop a program around their individual goals, equipment they have at home, and their exercise interests.  Pick an exercise routine that you enjoy, and work your training goals around that. Learn more about how to begin an individualized, manageable, sustainable exercise routine in today’s podcast!Today’s Speaker: Jerred MoonJerred Moon is the visionary behind End of Three Fitness as he aims to build better humans and redefine fitness and help put it in the terms of his athlete’s life.  Jerred completed his undergraduate degree at Texas Tech University; with two years of study in Food & Nutrition Science. He's a Certified Strength & Conditioning Coach and also obtained a Certificate of Achievement with Harvard Medical School in the Fundamentals of Physiology. Jerred specializes in simple, effective fitness for the other guy, or fitness athlete. With his team, Jerred and EO3 have now helped over 10,000 athletes see results. Jerred spends most of his time coaching and programming for athletes and working with other coaches to help develop their skills to be the most well-rounded coaches possible. Website: GarageGymAthlete.comPodcast: Garage Gym AthleteBook: Killing Comfort You’ll LearnWhich workout is best for me?What are the worst ways to workout? What is the best method to follow when working out? What should people look for in a program? Should women workout differently than men? Why did you create GGA? What do your users experience? What all do you need for a garage gym? It Starts With Attraction Ep. 006: Best Exercise To Do To Get the BIGGEST Results in the LEAST Amount of Time with Jerred Moon 

Do you want to know the real myths and truths about fat loss? This episode will reveal the secrets of healthy and sustainable fat loss...in a way that honors your body.Are you absolutely positive that you’re getting enough nutrition to sustain your body? If your recent attempts at fat loss have resulted in negative physical results, you may not understand exactly what your body truly needs. Over the past several decades, so much information about health has been short-sided and generalized to the point that our current common knowledge base on nutrition may actually be harming our bodies’ systems and prohibiting weight loss or healthy lifestyles.  According to today’s guest, Laura Schoenfeld, “one of the biggest challenges women face in any area of their life that they’re struggling [with] is mindset blocks that are preventing them from taking action in a way that would allow them to see results”.  Schoenfeld further explains that we have false beliefs about behavior, which can be objective mindsets, but we also have subjective beliefs about who we are. To get healthier, BOTH areas of our lives must be addressed.   Today’s episode goes into so much detail on how to get healthier from an entire mindset perspective first and then the specific details of your individual health needs second.  Today’s Speaker: Laura Schoenfeld, RD ​Laura Schoenfeld (SHOW-IN-FELD) is a Registered Dietitian, coach, and women’s health expert trained in Functional Medical nutrition therapy. Her passion is empowering women to nourish their bodies, develop true strength, and ultimately pursue their purpose. Laura guides her clients in identifying and implementing diet and lifestyle changes that allow them to live a healthy, fit, symptom-free life without being consumed by thoughts of food and exercise. She draws from a variety of sources to form her philosophy on nutrition, including ancestral diets, principles of biochemistry, current research, and clinical experience. Recognizing that health goes way beyond diet and exercise, she teaches her clients how to focus on and implement life-changing mental and spiritual health habits as well. Her greatest mission is to help women realize they are more than a body, so they can move past health obsession, and focus on pursuing the purpose they were created for. When she’s not educating and serving her coaching clients and community, Laura loves traveling with her husband, Sundays with her church family, hikes with her dog, beach trips, live music, and heavy weight training. Website:  LauraSchoenfeldRD.comPodcast: The Fed and Fearless PodcastSocial: Instagram: @lauraschoenfeldrd; Facebook: Fed and Fearless Society  You’ll LearnWhere to start when you focus on how to have a healthy body image and healthy fat loss?What are the biggest myths that people believe about fat loss? What are the truths about fat loss?Which truths are the hardest for people to believe? How to get help with a healthy body and mind It Starts With Attraction Ep. 005: The Myths and Truths about Fat Loss, with Laura Schoenfeld 

Want to know the most important part of attraction for a long-lasting relationship? It's simple...but it's not necessarily easy. In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam breaks down what he has seen work in thousands of couples to build emotional attraction and create strong, healthy relationships.When we examine emotional attraction in any established relationship, we think of this attraction in two types of actions: through things we stop doing, and by things we start doing.  Since we can’t build a relationship on what we’re not doing, it becomes more urgent to look at what we’re doing; how we’re providing for another person’s emotional needs. The golden rule, “Do to others as you’d like them to do to you” doesn’t always hold true in emotional attraction. We’re not made to need or want the same things. We are made to build others up according to their needs.It Starts With Attraction Ep. 003: Keys to Emotional Attraction with Dr. Joe BeamToday’s Speaker: Dr. Joe Beam Dr. Beam is an internationally known and respected sexologist and authority on love, marriage and sex. He received his PhD from the University of Sydney. He is the founder and chair of Marriage Helper based in Tennessee, just south of Nashville.He has designed and developed courses, workshops, and seminars to help troubled marriages for over two decades. He has been seen on nationwide media and spoken to countless couples through live seminars, dedicated radio programs and books. Website: www.MarriageHelper.comYouTube: Marriage HelperPodcast: Marriage Helper LiveBooks: The Art of Falling in LoveYou’ll LearnAm I getting what I need emotionallyHow can I identify what my emotional needs areHow can I change my feelings of resentment When to put up a stop or C.O.R.E.Is my significant other demanding too much of meAre my emotional demands too much

Who doesn't want to feel sexier and have a better sex life?! I'm sure everyone does...but it can be difficult to actually know how to go about doing that. We uncover how in today's episode with special guest and certified sex therapist Dr. Laurie Watson.Can you say you’re always honest with your sexual partner about the connection you share? According to Dr. Watson, something like “95% of couples having sex aren’t talking about their experiences in ways that add to their experiences in a meaningful way.” In this podcast episode, understand what you may be missing out in connecting with your spouse on a physical and emotional level.  Explore what physical and emotional intervention looks like. Couples can learn how to talk about what they like and don’t like both from an emotional and physical standpoint. Are you a pursuer or do you withdraw either sexually or emotionally? Understanding your needs and your reactions in situations is the first key to feeling sexier in a healthy, loving relationship. Today’s SpeakerDr. Laurie WatsonLaurie Watson, LMFT, LPC, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, is the author of Wanting Sex Again – How to Rediscover Your Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage. She blogs for Psychology Today Online in Married and Still Doing It. A warm and witty media favorite, she is frequently sought after for television and radio interviews about a variety of sexual topics. Laurie guest lectures at the medical schools for Duke and UNC Chapel Hill on sexual function/dysfunction. Director of Awakenings – Center for Intimacy and Sexuality in Raleigh, she maintains a full-time clinical practice.Website: www.awakeningscenter.orgPodcast: Foreplay Radio: Sex TherapyYou’ll Learn How to Feel Sexy in Your Own Body and Have a Great Sex LifeWhat are the biggest issues for women when it comes to feeling sexy in their own bodies?Do men have the same issues as women? Does great sex happen from the start of a relationship or can it be built?What should women and men do in order feel sexier?Ep. 003: How to Feel Sexier & Have a Better Love Life, with Dr. Laurie Watson

Want to know what causes inflammation and how you can fix it? 77% of inflammatory reactions are things that we have control over.  So why aren’t we able to easily control what causes our bodies to be unhealthy? Explore how Dr. Will Cole, functional medicine doctor, suggests how our bodies need to be healed using evidence-based alternative medicine techniques. His approach examines 7 systems of our bodies and holistically heals our bodies. As Dr. Cole says, “we can’t heal a body that we don’t love.” Our minds and emotions are so connected to our physical healing that we must first examine the ways that we treat ourselves, including the thoughts that we tell ourselves as our truth. Learn so many ways to heal in today’s episode!Dr. Will Cole Dr. Will Cole, leading functional-medicine expert, consults people around the world via webcam at www.drwillcole.com and locally in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. He specializes in clinically investigating underlying factors of chronic disease and customizing health programs for thyroid issues, autoimmune conditions, hormonal dysfunctions, digestive disorders, and brain problems. Dr. Cole was named one of the top fifty functional-medicine and integrative doctors in the nation and is a health expert for mindbodygreen and goop. Dr. Cole is the author of the book, The Inflammation Spectrum in which he explores how inflammation exists on a spectrum within the body, the various systems it can affect, and how you can discover your individual food triggers to overcome chronic inflammation. He is also the author of Ketotarian in which he melds the powerful benefits of a ketogenic diet with a plant-based one.   Website: www.drwillcole.comPodcast: The GoopFellasYou’ll LearnWhy do we need to be mindful about inflammation? What symptoms does inflammation cause in our bodies?What are the key things that lead to inflammation?How do we decrease the inflammation?What foods do you believe lead to the most inflammation? Where can people start without it feeling so overwhelming?Ep. 002: The Truth About Inflammation & How to Heal It(It's More Than You Think!) ​with Dr. Will Cole

Want to know the secret to becoming your most attractive self? It's called the PIES.What is true attraction? You may be surprised by the true definition of attraction. You’ll learn the basic definition of attraction through the four key pillars of attraction – Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual. Gain an understanding of what healthy, strong, stable relationships all have in common: learning how to be the best version of yourself. All relationships in your life benefit from this understanding and practice, not just the romantic ones.Kimberly Beam HolmesKimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.  Website: www.PIESUniversity.comYou’ll LearnWhy people fall in loveHow falling in love begins with attractionAttraction is not what you think it isWhy Physical attraction is not enoughWhy Intellectual attraction doesn't mean you need to go to Havard The secret about Emotional attractionHow Spiritual attraction has less to do with "religion" and more to do with beliefs, drive, and purposeEp 001: Become Your Most Attractive Self: The PIES, with Kimberly Beam Holmes.